Through a rapist's eyes (NO JOKE)

[Teresa]

Please pass it along and share it with your children.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and
here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman
with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can
easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's
clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching
through their purse, or doing other activities while walking
because they are off-guard and can be easily
overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early
morning, between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked
is grocery store parking lots. The number two:
office parking lots/garages. Number three: public
restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to
grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where
they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a
3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

* If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for
them to realize that going after you isn't worth it
because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used
from a distance, in their hands.  Keys are NOT a deterrent because
you have to get  really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So,
the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone
is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with
you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and
ask them a question, like what time is it?, or make
general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so
cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad
winter.' Now you've seen their face and
could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a
target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
front of you and yell STOP! Or STAY BACK! Most of the
rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman
alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid
to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes),
yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a
deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are
grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker
either under the Arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh
VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught
told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying
to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand
it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit,
always GO for the GROIN. I know
from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap
a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might
think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to
hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a
lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out
of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab
his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible
with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible.
The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and
I end ed up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.
Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone
with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,
don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon  Do: The
elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close
enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans: If a
robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO
HIM. Toss it away from you... chances are that he is more interested in
your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the
wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out
the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and
start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you,
but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after
shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their
checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be
watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to
get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and
tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO
YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO< br> NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF!
Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the
car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in
the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as
the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having
them find your body in a remote location.


5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the
passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car
from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their
victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are
attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your
vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone
in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into
the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better
paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator
instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be
alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at
NIGHT!)


7.  If the predator has a gun and you do not carry a firearm for your own protection,
do not worry. You are not under his
control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only
hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it
most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP! It may get you raped or
killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and
often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his
vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.


9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her
friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before
last, and she called the police because it was late and she
thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO
NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had
crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would
crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said,
We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do,

DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they
think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses
it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but
have had several calls by women saying that they hear
baby's cries outside their doors when they're home
alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying
baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying
Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most
Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial
killer in Louisiana.

[Varmit]

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are
grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker
either under the Arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh

VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught
told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying
to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand
it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit,
always GO for the GROIN. I know
from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap
a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might
think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to
hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a
lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out
of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab
his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible
with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible.
The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and
I end ed up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon  Do: The
elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close
enough to use it, do!

On point 13..you can also cause extereme pain by raking his shin with the heel or side of your shoe. 

on point 14...remember that the testicles are held on by loose skin and can easily be torn off.  With one hand grab hold and squeeze hard, using the other hand strike just above the penis while pulling back your handful.

On point 15...when your attacker reaches up to grab you, strike the INSIDE of his wrist and the OUTSIDE his elbow, if done properly should break the elbow.

Tae Kwon Do tip...using the elbow can be tricky, remember to NOT use the tip of the elbow, rather picture a one inch square either in front the elbow (on your forearm) or a one inch square on the back of the elbow and use this for your striking surface.

[Teresa]

you are exactly right Billy ..
These are excellent vises.
I was writing a few of these extras on a separate memo ( in between phone calls and interruptions)  to add later.. 
Now I can scrap it..
Thanks for doing it..
The shin thing really does work ....
Testicle tearing.. I'm sure it works... but can't say I've tried it.. hahahaha   

[Anmar]

great compendium of self defense tactics.  Thanks for posting this

[Varmit]

Teresa, one thing that I forgot to add, and is probably the most important, above all else...don't panic...and stay focused.  Remember that rape isn't about sex, its about power.  Rapists feed on fear, so show none.  Also, no matter where you are at always walk with an air of confidence, as if you own everything around you, constantly scanning the area (as if you are a queen surveying her kingdom), make eye contact with several people, not threatening but confident.  Think of a lioness, she is calm, confident, and alert.

Remember that in town, there are windows virtually everywhere, use these to check your backtrail, and around corners.

[pamsback]

If they've got you from the front use the heel of your hand and slam up under the nose as hard as you can.

[Roma Jean Turner]

One of things I am adamant about is always locking the car.  The first thing I do when I get in the car is lock the door.  I never leave my car unlocked even to go into a convenience store. I became very aware of this when I lived in Kansas City.  Two of my friends literally had men run out and grab their car doors to get in.  Thankfully both were locked.  One guy just looked at my friend through the window and shrugged his shoulders, like, well I tried to get you but you were lucky this time. Scarey.

[Varmit]

Just remember to have your car keys in your hand before you leave the store or whatever.  If you have to rummage around in a purse or pocket your attention is diverted.  So have your keys READY TO USE. 

[Teresa]

You know ..even though I CC on my body, everywhere I go.. I still have my pepper spray on my key ring.
I'm always aware but especially if it is evening and I'm in the city .
I stop at the dept store door leading outside.. get my eye on my vehicle.. check out the people etc around that area.. put my spray in my hand in a position where I have access to the flipper.. then I walk to my truck. I do not click my door opener on my ring until I am there and have scoped the area out  around my truck ( especially if I have items in a cart or bags in my hand that need to be loaded. ) When I see that I can load my items.. I then unlock and open my drivers side of the door and immediately flip the automatic lock again so that all the doors except the one I have open is locked. I load quickly never letting my attention leave the outside perimeter.  The get into  the truck and locking immediately my doors.. THEN I start my truck...  buckle up and do the other necessary things before  moving and leaving.

[Ms Bear]

If you are leaving a store at night it helps so stand at the door, in safety, long enough for your eyes to adjust to the dark after being inside with the bright lights.  As we get older it does take longer for our eyes to adjust to the change.