August 20, 2008
I found a nice site today and am going to start another thread, not just for the ladies, but that is the title and I will leave it as such. I will see just how much we like this.....let me know your feelings......Hugs and God bless, Judy
I Want, I Need, God Wants Me to Have
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But godliness with contentment is great gain," (1 Timothy 6:6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Mary Elizabeth was strolling down the cookie aisle at Wal-Mart with her three-year-old daughter, Sarah, who was riding comfortably in the "front seat" of the shopping buggy. Suddenly, Sarah spied a box of sugar cookies that were coated with pink icing and decorated with multi-colored sprinkles.
Her eyes brightened with enthusiasm as she put on her best cherub face. "Mommy, I want those cookies."
"Oh, Sarah," replied her mom, "we don't need any cookies today. We have plenty at home. Maybe another time."
Ten minutes later, as Mary Elizabeth passed through the checkout line, Sarah tried again. "Mommy, I need those cookies."
"No, Sarah, you don't need those cookies. We have plenty at home, and I'm not buying cookies today."
Finally, as they pulled out of the Wal-Mart parking lot, Sarah gave it one last try. "Mommy, I think God wants me to have those cookies."
I laughed as my friend told me her story. It was a nervous laugh because for just a moment, I saw myself riding through life in a shopping buggy, pointing at first one thing and then another whining, "I want...I need...God wants me to have."
Sarah had already learned our mechanism for justifying our whims. Whether it's sugar cookies with sprinkles on top or a new red convertible, given enough time we can justify our wants following that same progression. For Sarah, she went from I want to I need to God wants me to have in a matter of minutes. For us, it may take a little longer, but the tendency is still there.
However, God is very clear in His promise to supply everything we need which may be a far cry from everything we want.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me when I act like a child and want more. Forgive me when I go from "I want" to "God wants me to have" in the blink of an eye. I know You desire me to have a thankful heart - a contented heart that wants only one thing...more of You. I say with the Psalmist, "The Lord is my Shepherd. I have everything I need." In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever justified your wants by saying that God wants you to have them?
Ouch! That hurts, doesn't it?
Ponder these two verses today:
"And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19 NIV).
"His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (2 Peter 1:3 NIV).
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August 21, 2008
Check Your Heart
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 3:3-4 (NLT) "We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a tiny rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong."
Friend to friend
With just two words, "meat loaf", Dan will immediately suggest that it would be a great night to eat out. The kids run for the car, willing to eat anywhere without the usual argument. Words are powerful and affect how we live! In today's power verses, James compares the tongue to a bit in the mouth of a horse and to the rudder of a ship, two small things that exercise great power. A small bit enables the rider to control the whole horse as a small rudder enables the pilot to steer a large ship. With one word, a life can change direction because words lead to deeds.
In a small country church, an altar boy who was serving the priest at Sunday mass accidentally dropped the glass of wine. The priest struck the boy and shouted, "Get out and don't come back!" That boy became Tito, the Communist leader. In another cathedral, an altar boy who was serving the bishop at Sunday Mass, accidentally dropped the glass of wine. With a warm twinkle in his eyes, the bishop gently whispered, "Someday you will be a priest." That boy grew up to become Archbishop Fulton Sheen.
The power of the spoken word is great! The bit in a horse's mouth and the rudder of a ship must be under the control of a strong hand in order to accomplish what they were created to accomplish. So must the tongue. When God controls our tongue, He controls us! I once heard someone say that we should pray "Lord, keep your arm around my shoulders and your hand over my mouth." The guidance you give or the direction your life takes is strongly related to the words you speak or refuse to speak. Your tongue directs your life.
A minister was making a wooden trellis to support a climbing vine. As he was pounding away, he noticed a little boy watching him. The youngster didn't say a word, so the preacher kept on working, thinking the boy would leave -- but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admired, the pastor finally said, "Well, son, trying to pick up some pointers on gardening?" "No," the boy replied. "I'm just waiting to hear what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer."
What is inside our heart will eventually work its way out in our character. Matthew 12:34-35 simply and clearly states, "The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things." When Jesus Christ is the Lord of the heart, then He is Lord of the lips as well. Check your heart.
Every time I go to the doctor, the first thing he asks me to do is to stick out my tongue. The last time I went, he asked me that same question, but I was ready. "Why does every office visit begin with sticking out my tongue?" His answer surprised me! "The health of the tongue is a strong indicator of how healthy the whole body is!" The control of the tongue begins in the heart.
Proverbs 10:20 "The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value."
An obedient heart is under the control of Jesus Christ. In order to tame the tongue, we don't need to turn over a new leaf. We need a new life, and there is only one who has the power to give us a new life -- Jesus Christ. When Jesus Christ comes into our life, He makes everything new and He starts with the heart. A new heart produces a new mouth. Is it time to check your heart?
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for Your power to change a life. I praise You for the changes You have brought about in my own life. Please examine my heart for any contamination! Make me aware of how the words I speak and write come across to others. Help me learn how to use my words as a tool for encouragement and growth in the lives of those to whom I speak. Today, I choose to make a new commitment to speaking right words from a right heart. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your day. How would you rate the health of the words you have spoken today? Were they destructive or helpful?
Think back to a time when the harsh words of someone wounded you. How did those words make you feel?
Is there someone who has suffered at the hand of your words? Are you willing to make it right? Make a time this week to contact that person, asking for forgiveness.
More from the Girls
This one is tough for me because I seem to enjoy filling the empty air space with the sound of my own voice. How about you? I have seen so many circumstances in which the hurt and pain all started with one cruel word. Each word we speak to our children either builds them up or tears them down. A marriage can be saved or destroyed by the words that spill out of our heart. Time to check your heart! Mary's book, Sandpaper People, is a testimony of God's power to change a life by changing a heart that will produce words of health and strength. You may also be interested in Mary's free online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
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August 22, 2008
Adopted
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In love, he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will..." (Ephesians 1:5 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Debbie took her 13-year-old son to the dermatologist to have a few suspicious moles examined. The doctor asked her, "Is there anyone on your or your husband's side of the family who has had melanoma or any other types of skin cancer?"
"No, I can't think of any," she replied. Then he proceeded to ask a few other questions about their family history.
After the exam, her son, Jason, looked up at her and said, "Mom, when the doctor asked about your family history, it doesn't matter. I'm adopted!"
"You're right, Jason," she said. "I totally forgot."
Debbie went through five years of infertility treatment and two years of waiting to adopt a child. Eight months after she adopted Jason, she found out she was pregnant with Jordan. Amazingly, these boys have looked almost like twins for much of their lives. As the boys have grown into young men, I cannot even tell them apart.
It was an extraordinary moment for Jason as he realized that his mom had totally forgotten he was adopted. He was simply her son, period. Ephesians 1:5 says that we have been adopted as sons through Jesus Christ. God has chosen us to be His own, adopted into His family, co-heirs with Christ. I think that God, like Debbie, probably forgets we're adopted. He just sees us as His children.
Let's Pray
Dear Abba Father, how precious it is that we can call You "Daddy." Thank You for choosing me to be Your child. I am so grateful that I belong to a big loving family of believers and I can't wait until we have our family reunion in eternity with You. In Jesus' name, I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does it mean to you to know that you are adopted into God's family?
What does it mean to you to know that He chose you?
Read the following verses and note what else you learn about your adoption.
Romans 8:17
Galatians 4:7
Ephesians 1:11
Ephesians 2:19
1 John 3:1-2
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new devotional book, Extraordinary Moments with God. Come with Sharon as she dusts for God's fingerprints that change ordinary days into extraordinary moments. As you explore this treasury of stories highlighting "God moments" in the lives of fellow travelers, you too will begin to sense His presence in extraordinary ways. If you would like a handy laminated card with more verses like the ones in today's devotion, click on Sharon's resource page and look at the Identity in Christ prayer card.
I guess, I don't get a daily devotional from Girlfriends.....but in searching around I found these I thought you would like.
If not, don't read them.........LOL.....
Have a Great weekend and God bless you all.
Judy
TODAY'S LAUGH
Express Lane Payback
It was a Saturday afternoon, and Ray had rushed down to the local supermarket to hurriedly pick up some hamburger rolls, chips and a few condiments. The big college game was going to be on, so he was having a few friends over to watch it.
The store was loaded with shoppers and as he headed for the six item express lane, the only one that didn't have a long line, a woman completely ignoring the overhead sign slipped into the check-out line just in front of him pushing a cart piled high with groceries.
Ray was quietly fuming at the anticipated delay. But the elderly cashier beckoned the woman to come forward, looked into the cart and asked ever so sweetly, "So Dearie, which six items would you like to buy?"
(Don't you wish they would!)
The Homeschool Moms who Can't Do Everything
Joelle White and Maura Light
Sung to the tune of Veggie Tales "The Pirates who Don't Do Anything."
All 3 Moms:
We are the home school moms who can't do everything We just stay at
home and plan a lot And if you ask us to do everything We'll just tell
you We can't do everything
Mom2:
Well, I've never been to Boston and I've never shot a musket, and I've
never built a cabin using nothing but an axe, and I've never skinned a
possum, and I've never staged a battle, and I've never started home
school before fall!
All:
We are the home school moms who can't do everything We just stay at
home and plan a lot And if you ask us to do everything We'll just tell
you...
Mom3:
We can't do everything!
And I've never distilled water, and I've never banded birdies, and
I've never built an ant farm 'cuz I can't stand things that crawl, and
I've never dug a fossil, and I've never owned a test tube, and I've
never started home school before fall!
All:
We are the home school moms who can't do everything We just stay at
home and plan a lot And if you ask us to do everything We'll just tell
you We can't do everything
Mom1:
And I've never slaughtered chickens, and I've never milked a go-oat,
and I've never gone to 4-H or the local county fair, and I've never
sewn a jumper, and I don't look good in denim, and I've never started
home school before fall!
Mom2:
Huh? What are you talking about? What's a milk goat and denim
jumpers got to do with being a home school mom?
Mom3:
Hey, that's right! We're supposed to sing about academic-y
things!
Mom1:
Oh...
Mom2:
And who ever sews school uniforms? That's impossible! Why even
bring it up? Am I right? What do you think?
Mom3:
I think you should do your laundry.
Mom2:
Huh? Why do you think that?
Mom3:
You should...
Mom2:
Don't wanna!
Mom3:
You wore that shirt yesterday!
Mom2:
That's it, you're going to help me!
Mom3:
Says who?
Mom2:
Says ME, that's who!
Mom3:
Oh yeah? Well I'm not picking up your socks! (pinches her own
nose)
Mom2:
Argh!
Mom3:
Yike!
Mom1:
And I've never done gymnastics, and I've never danced the polka, and
I've never painted daisies 'cause I cannot paint at all, and I've
never made a schedule, and my house is never perfect...
Mom2:
It'll never happen!
All:
And we've never started home school before fall!
We are the home school moms who can't do everything We just stay at
home and plan a lot And if you ask us to do everything We'll just tell
you We can't do everything
Mom2:
Pass the pencils! Who's got the teacher's guide?
Mom1:
Here it is! (holds up shredded paper)
Mom3:
(groans, then smiles with sudden inspiration) Time for recess!
Mom2:
It's definitely time for Scotch tape.
Mom3:
Oh, I don't like that stuff...
Mom1:
Hey, look! I found a crayon!
(Unknown author)
August 24, 2008
Getting That New Apartment
A property manager of single-family residence was showing a unit to prospective tenants and asking the usual questions. "Professionally employed?" he asked.
"We're a military family," the wife answered.
"Children?"
"Oh, yes, ages nine and twelve," she answered proudly.
"Animals?"
"Oh, no," she said earnestly. "They're very well behaved."
The Top Ten Things Not To Say on Your Anniversary
10. I stopped caring about anniversaries when you stopped caring about cooking.
9. Today is our what?
8. Okay, let's celebrate, but do we have to celebrate together?
7. I thought we only celebrated important events?
6. You can celebrate anniversaries with your next husband.
5. You don't like what I pick out, so I thought why bother.
4. I got you a present worth a dollar for every time you were nice to me this year. Here's a $5 gift certificate for McDonald's.
3. If you want me to pretend like I care about our anniversary, I will.
2. You want to go out to dinner? Okay, okay, I'll take you to Pizza Hut if it'll shut ya up.
1. I thought you only had to celebrate anniversaries while you were still in love.
Thank You Dear
Tom was in his usual place in the morning sitting at the table, reading the paper after breakfast. He came across an article about a beautiful actress that was about to marry a football player who was known primarily for his lack of IQ and common knowledge.
He turned to his wife Linda, with a look of question on his face.
"I'll never understand why the biggest shmucks get the most attractive wives."
His wife replies, . . .
. . . . . "Why thank you, dear!"
August 24
The Pathway to Sin Is Short
For reading & meditation - Romans 8:1-17
"To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace." (v. 6, RSV)
Although it may be impossible to prevent evil thoughts from entering your mind, make a conscious decision not to entertain them. A well-worn phrase puts the same thought in this way: you can't stop the birds from flying into your hair, but you can prevent them from building nests. Burns, the famous poet, said that when he wished to compose a love song, his recipe was to put himself on "a regimen of admiring a beautiful woman." He deliberately filled his mind with pictures that were extremely dangerous to his passionate nature. Shairp, his biographer, said of him, "When the images came to be oft repeated, it cannot have tended to his peace of heart or his purity of life." Augustine, one of the great early Christians, also trod this dangerous path. He came to Carthage with its tinseled vice and began at once to coax his own carnal appetites. He said: "I loved not as yet, yet I loved to love; and with an hidden want I abhorred myself that I wanted not. I befouled, therefore, the spring of friendship with the filth of concupiscence, and I dimmed its lustre with the hell of lustfullness; and yet, foul and dishonorableas I was, I craved, through an excess of vanity to be thought elegant and vain. I fell; precipitately then." Augustine's experience, like that of many others, goes to show the folly of entertaining evil thoughts and desires. Make up your mind, then, that although you may not be able to stop evil thoughts crowding into your mind, you will not play host to them.
Prayer:
Father, although I know what I should do, it is often hard - though not impossible - to do it. I give my will to You again today. Take it and strengthen it, so that it will do Your bidding. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen.
For Further Study
Pss. 119:1-11; 139:23-24; Prov. 23:7; Matt. 22:37; Phil. 4:8
1. When do evil thoughts become sin?
2. How can we use our thought life productively?
August 25, 2008
Joseph Sees the Greater Purpose
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You intended to harm me," Joseph explained, "but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Joseph was a man who experienced many bad things in his life. His story is recorded in Genesis chapters 37-50. While he was his father's favorite son, he was his brothers' least favorite sibling. Because their dad, Jacob, showed relentless favoritism toward this child of his beloved wife, Rachel, his brothers were jealous, mocking, and spiteful toward him. Naïve Joseph didn't help matters. He flaunted a special ornamented coat that his father had tailor made just for him, tattled on his brothers for bad behavior, and shared a dream he should have kept to himself.
"Listen to this dream I had," Joseph said to his brothers. "We were binding sheaves of grain out in the field when suddenly my sheaf rose and stood upright, while your sheaves gathered around mine and bowed down to it" (Genesis 37:6-7).
After this revelation, his brothers hated him even more. However, the poor boy didn't catch on and told yet another dream.
"Listen to this other dream I had," he said. "The sun, moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me" (Genesis 37:9). This dream was the straw that broke the camel's back!
One day his brothers saw an opportunity to get rid of this dreamer once and for all. At first, they threw him in a cistern, bloodied his precious coat, and schemed to tell their dad Joseph had been killed by a wild animal. Just as they placed the youngest brother into the cistern, a slave caravan headed to Egypt was passed by. Seeing the opportunity to make a profit, the brothers decided to sell Joseph to the slave trader rather than leave him to die. Off Joseph went to a life of slavery.
However, the hard times didn't end there. He was falsely accused of attempted rape, thrown into prison by an angry husband, and betrayed and forgotten by his jail-mates. The first thirty years of Joseph's life were filled with more heartache and trouble than most of us will experience in a dozen lifetimes.
However, a few years later, Joseph's life took a different turn. The Pharaoh had a disturbing dream that no one could interpret. The cupbearer, one of Joseph's former inmates, remembered Joseph from his prison days and told the King about his ability to interpret dreams. Joseph interpreted the dream, saved Egypt from an impending famine, and became second in command to the Pharaoh himself.
Many years passed. During the years of abundance, the Egyptians gathered more grain than they could count. Then, when the seven years of famine hit, they had enough grain to sustain their country as well as the surrounding countries. Joseph's deceitful brothers were among those who came to purchase food. Joseph forged the path of forgiveness and set a standard unmatched until the cross. He was reunited with his family, including his elderly father and younger brother whom he had never met.
Joseph's brothers were terrified at the punishment they feared would be heaped on their heads. However, Joseph saw the hidden treasure in his painful circumstances. "You intended to harm me," Joseph explained, "but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20).
Joseph chose to see the good in the bad. He saw a greater purpose in his seemingly terrible circumstances. How about you? Are there some seemingly bad circumstances that might hold undiscovered treasures? Has a broken dream been restored to something more wonderful than you could have imagined? Have you gone to a deeper level with God because of a difficult situation? Are you a stronger person today because of pain from your past?
Today, let's look at the trials of our lives through the lenses of Joseph's words, "You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are people in my past who have hurt me. Maybe they don't even realize the pain they have caused and maybe they didn't do it intentionally. But I know that Satan wants to use that hurt to make me bitter. I refuse to allow the enemy to use my past to make me bitter! What Satan intends for evil, I know that You will use for good. Help me to see the good in each dark situation and use it for Your glory! In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you had times in your life similar to Joseph's where you were treated unjustly?
What can you learn from the way Joseph handled the offenses?
What was the outcome of those injustices in Joseph's life?
Can you believe that the hurts in your past can ultimately be used for your good and the good of others in your sphere of influence?
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Even thought Joseph had many bad things happen to him, he always seemed to find his purpose, whether he was in the pit, the prison or the palace. Wouldn't you like to have that perspective on life? If you would like to learn more about how to find peace and purpose in the hurts of your past, see Your Scars are Beautiful by Sharon Jaynes.
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August 26, 2008
Choose to Trust, Part One
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed."
(2 Corinthians 4:7-9, NIV)
Friend to Friend
The Old Testament book of Ruth is rich with examples of God's faithfulness. The story of Ruth, Naomi, and Boaz took place in a time when the people of Israel had strayed far from the Lord. Yet even in those dark days, some still chose to follow God. Naomi was one such woman. How do we know? We know that Naomi was a godly woman because there was something about her faith that attracted her daughter-in-law, Ruth, to God's heart.
Naomi was a woman who had to pack up her family and belongings and leave her home, her friends, and everything familiar to relocate to a foreign place. She moved due to a famine in her hometown of Bethlehem. Naomi and her family moved from Bethlehem to the country of Moab. But in Moab, things went from bad to worse.
"Now Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died, and she was left with her two sons. They married Moabite women, one named Orpah and the other Ruth. After they had lived there about ten years, both Mahlon and Kilion also died, and Naomi was left without her two sons and her husband" (Ruth 1:3-5).
Naomi was a God-fearing woman who endured some serious shattered matters. She had left her home in a desperate situation and experienced even greater loss in the deaths of her closest loved ones. Her circumstances were undesirable and her future looked bleak. So...she made plans to head back home: to Bethlehem.
As they prepped to leave for Bethlehem, Naomi displayed loving kindness to her daughters-in-law as she released them from any obligation to relocate with her. She encouraged them to return to their mothers' homes (v. 8) and nudged them toward new possibilities in their home country. She wanted them to have a fresh start, even though the prospects for her were grim.
Naomi knew that she was walking into uncertain territory as she headed home to Bethlehem. She had been gone for so long that she had no idea if there was any remaining family to care for her. Naomi was gracious and kind in not wanting Orpah and Ruth to endure the hardships she would probably face. What a selfless response! When shattered circumstances were all she could see, Naomi looked past her own need to the hopes, dreams, and needs of her loved ones. When you and I face complex circumstances, we have that same opportunity to bless others in spite of the pain.
Theirs was a goodbye filled with tears, hugs, and great pain.
Ruth refused to leave Naomi's side. Determined and loyal, Ruth held tightly to the woman she loved deeply. Not only did Ruth cling to Naomi, she held tight to Naomi's God, the One true God of Israel.
Though our natural tendency in hard times is often to try to go it alone, I've learned from Ruth, and from my own experience, that in turbulent times it's vital that we hold fast to the ones we love and that we choose to trust God regardless of the circumstances that surround us.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You know exactly where I am right now and You know the circumstance of my life. Please give me the courage to be gracious in my relationships, and help me to trust You today. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you dealing with a shattered matter?
Are there circumstances in your life that seem broken and irreparable?
Read the following Scripture verse out loud (over and over again until your heart hears it!), and commit it to memory: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
More from the Girlfriends
I've had a lot on my plate lately...you know the drill: "I regularly try to fit ten pounds into a five pound sack!" I'm learning over and over that when I pause to meditate on God's Word, and seek Him in prayer, rich blessings and better days follow. Don't just read this devotion...seek Him in His Word personally today. It fuels your soul's engine to trust!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from my new book, Broken Into Beautiful, which has just been released by Harvest House Publishers. To order the book, please CLICK HERE. To listen to some of Gwen's music, CLICK HERE!
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August 27, 2008
Choose to Trust, Part Two
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed."
(2 Corinthians 4:7-9, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Yesterday we learned that when the widow Naomi faced a very difficult season, she looked past her own need to the hopes, dreams, and needs of her loved ones. In spite of her dismal circumstances, she chose to trust God and bless others.
Do you ever feel like a victim of circumstance?
There are times when life isn't ideal. There are times when life doesn't seem fair. As she entered Bethlehem, Naomi lamented to friends and family. She told them not to call her by her name. "Call me Mara, because the Almighty has made my life very bitter" (v. 20). Naomi didn't try to sugarcoat or hide her pain. Her circumstances were choking the life out of her, and for a time she allowed her situation to overshadow her trust in God.
Oh, how I've been there. I bet you have too. Perhaps you are there now. Be encouraged. In time, God did a work of restoration in Naomi's life that took her from bitter to better, and in time, He can do the same for you.
Though she displayed bitterness when she returned to Israel, Naomi continued to trust her Lord. Healing didn't come to her overnight. Naomi waded through a great deal of emotional baggage and disappointment. But Scripture shows us that even in her sorrow; Naomi maintained her faith in God. She praised Him for the kindness that Boaz showed Ruth and spoke of God's goodness even in her uncertain times (Ruth 2:19-20). She praised God in the hard times, and He restored her broken heart.
God breathed hope into the souls of Naomi and Ruth through their kinsman-redeemer, Boaz. The book of Ruth goes on to tell a fascinating story of how God lovingly cared for and blessed Naomi as He used the faithful friendship and kindness of Ruth to "renew her life and sustain her" (4:15). She went back to Bethlehem as a broken, hopeless widow and was restored by the loving hand of God.
Just as God did for Naomi, He wants to transform the painful pieces of your life into beautiful blessings. He has not forgotten you. He is intimately familiar with your pain. Don't turn away from Him. Continue to trust God. He will never leave your side, and He can bring restoration to your situation just as he did for Naomi and Ruth.
Like Naomi, when I've experienced difficult times, I've had to choose to trust God. Some days I choose well. Some days I don't. My courage to trust is bolstered by playing praise music, meditating on God's goodness, reading Scripture, and praying. Those things collectively renew my mind and strengthen my faith.
Take comfort that He knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God's ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He is powerful, and He is able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior, you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle.
But in the darkest moments, I choose to trust and hang on to faith. When all else fails, all that's required of us is that we choose to trust and hang on to our faith.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your greatness is unsearchable and Your power is beyond what I can imagine. Please help me to honor You with my life -- in every circumstance -- and to trust in Your ability and desire to intervene in my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there something that has caused you to become bitter? Reflect on this and spend some time in prayer. Ask that God would reveal any hidden anger or bitterness in your life so He can deal with it and bring healing.
If you are in a difficult place right now, here's a promise from God's Word for you to memorize: "He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy" (Job 8:21).
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I recently heard it said that, "When we work, we work...but when we pray, God works." I pray that you will seek Him earnestly today in prayer!! If you'd like to be drawn into His presence through music, turn up your speakers and CLICK HERE!
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Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: http://www.gwensmith.net/
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August 28, 2008
Struggling with God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith, of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire, may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed" (1 Peter 1:6-7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
My son and I sat on the floor in his room playing Rummy. We had just a few minutes before rushing off to register for his summer swim class and wanted to get in one more round of play. This summer was proving to be the best ever. Our golden retriever, Ginger, had just delivered seven adorable puppies, Steven was enjoying his sixth summer of life, and after four years of the heartache of negative pregnancy tests, God had surprised us with a new life growing inside my womb.
However, as Steven and I sat on the floor, I felt a warm sticky sensation run down my leg. A trip to the bathroom confirmed my greatest fear. Later that afternoon, our baby died, and is now waiting for us in heaven.
What began as a summer full of life and joy, quickly turned into a season of great loss and sadness. I mourned for that child for which I had prayed and felt the ache of empty arms. Someone once said, "I never knew I could miss someone that I had never met." But, oh, how I missed her. We never knew for sure, but in my heart, I felt that the baby had been a little girl.
During those summer months, I went through the grieving process, step-by-step. I'll admit that I was angry at God for "taunting" me with this gift of a child and then taking her away, but through the months and years that followed, God taught me many lessons about myself, about Him, and about trusting in His unfailing love.
I believe that when we go through a trial which wounds us deeply, God can use it to teach us valuable lessons. Some of those lessons are a deeper understanding of who God is, who we are, and of what we truly believe. Our faith grows in the Petri dish of struggles in the laboratory of life. One of my most valuable lessons, through all my wounds and scars, was a decision to stop saying "why me" and to begin saying "what now." However, the lesson that continues reverberating like a gentle thunder is the truth of God's unfailing love.
During the months that followed the loss of our child, I struggled with God. Just as Jacob wrestled with God through his dark night of the soul, I wrestled with God as well. How could He love me and allow this to happen? Why would God withhold my dream? Is He able? Is He kind? Is He there?
It was a dry summer...in my heart and soul. No one could help me, comfort me, or lift me out of my despair, and while I didn't want to talk to God, He never left my side. Patiently, He waited for me to cry out to Him. to say, I will trust you even though I do not understand. It is easy to trust God when life is skipping happily along. It is a deeper faith that forms when the skipping halts to the slow crawl of despair. Honestly, I never enjoy the struggle, but I do revel in the deeper understanding of God that is forged.
As Peter wrote, "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith, of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire, may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed" (1 Peter 1:6-7 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes things happen in my life that I just don't understand, but I know You hold the box top to the puzzle pieces, and You know how the picture of my life is going to turn out. I trust You, Lord. Though Your ways may twist and turn as through a maze, I know that You make no mistakes, You are never lost. You are good...all the time. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What has been a time in your life when you did not understand God's ways?
Can you trust God as Job did when his life fell apart?
What was the outcome of Job's incredible trial? (Job 42:10, 12)
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Sometimes things happen in our lives that we just don't understand, but rather than saying "why me," God wants us to say, "now what." If you would like to find peace and purpose in the hurts of your past, see Your Scars are Beautiful by Sharon Jaynes.
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August 29, 2008
Change Happens!
Angela L. Craig
Today's Truth
Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Friend to Friend
Change happens. Right now as I am writing this devotional, the world is changing. My children are growing-up, I'm facing one of those birthdays with a zero at the end, and the price of gas has probably gone up five cents in the time it has taken me to write this first paragraph.
I am famous for holding on to the illusion that I have total control over my world, but the truth is - I don't. I have come to realize that whether it is by personal choice or by circumstance, change is inevitable in our lives. How about you? What changes are you facing in your life? I imagine that for many of us, the changes we are facing are not as trivial as growing children and wrinkles. Uninvited change brings with it a river of emotions, doesn't it? The fear of failure, heart wrenching feelings of loss, obsession with the "what if" questions, and emotional instability are just a few of the things we experience. My personal favorite is the fear that I will never get to the other side of change; that I will be stuck in transition forever.
Luckily for you and I, there is someone who is in control: God! The Bible teaches us that change is one thing in life that is guaranteed, but we don't have to fear because God is in control and He has plans to do good things! God just needs us to perceive it and believe it (Isaiah 43:18).
Although change is inevitable, there are four ways we can manage the transition with God's help.
1) Focus on today. Sometimes the big picture can be overwhelming and paralyzing. A very good friend of mine taught me that when I feel overwhelmed by the big picture, I should focus only on the very next thing and let God handle the rest. You will feel insurmountable peace when you practice this exercise.
2) Focus on others. When you serve others, it is impossible to think about yourself. And by the way, doing laundry and dishes does not count. Be the change in your community by volunteering one hour per week in an area of service you are passionate about. Doing good has been scientifically proven to heal, so go for it!
3) Incorporate exercise into your day. Add "sprint" (short duration) exercises to your day. For example, try doing 10 push-ups and 20 sit-ups before getting in the shower or pick up some weights during the commercials of your favorite T.V. show. Adding two or more sprint exercises to your day will increase your endorphin level and relieve stress.
4) Change the way you think about change. Instead of dreading change, embrace it. Instead of thinking, "This change is completely freaking me out. I feel frightened for my future. What if this or that happens?"
Speak these words to yourself instead: "God is my rock and my fortress (Psalm 1), He has a plan to prosper and not harm me (Jeremiah 29:11). I do not need to fear for God is with me (Isaiah 41:10). Nothing is too hard for my God (Jeremiah 32:17) I have great expectation for what God has in mind for my life and I can't wait to see His plan revealed!"
The secret: when you start matching your thoughts and words with God's thoughts and words you gain power and courage that you never thought existed!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need your strength and peace today as I face change. I pray Lord that you will help me keep my eyes on You. Lord, show me the steps I need to take towards the life You have designed for me. Help me to face change with courage and faith. I thank you Lord that Your plan is always for good! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What changes are you facing today? How are you managing them?
Pick from one of the four ways listed above to manage change. Write your goal down on your calendar and take action!
Grab your Bible and make a new statement of faith about the change that is happening in your life.
Pray that God will enable you to change the way you think about change.
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August 30
Truth - in the Inner Parts
For reading & meditation - Psalm 51:1-19
"Surely you desire truth in the inner parts ..." (v. 6)
What do we do when we find ourselves assailed by honest doubts? Firstly, we must learn to distinguish between honest doubts and defensive doubts. Many of the doubts that trouble Christians concerning aspects of the Christian faith are made half-consciously into a screen to hide some moral weakness or failure. I am not denying that some people experience acute intellectual problems in relation to their faith, and it would be arrogant to suggest, or even hint, that everyone troubled by doubts is consciously or unconsciously using them as a screen. But because experience has shown that some do, this issue has to be faced. Ask yourself now: am I using my doubts as a "defense mechanism" to cover up some weakness or personal defect? A "defense mechanism" is a device employed by our minds to prevent us from facing up to reality. Adam used a defense mechanism when he blamed Eve for his sin. It is called projection - refusing to face up to personal responsibility, and projecting the blame onto someone else. Could it be that some of your doubts may be due to this? I am not suggesting, of course, that they are, but they could be. If you are willing to look at this issue objectively, or perhaps with the help of a wise and responsible Christian friend, then, I assure you, God will not withstand your plea. One hymnwriter said: Jesus the hindrance show, Which I have feared to see Yet let me now consent to know What keeps me out of Thee.
Prayer:
Gracious Father, You know how difficult it is for me to see myself as I really am. Help me to be honest with myself - even ruthlessly honest. For I want to be as honest as You. Help me in this hour of challenge. For Jesus' sake. Amen.
For Further Study
Gen. 3; 2 Cor. 2:11; 10:1-6; 11:3, 14
1. What was Satan's approach to Eve?
2. How could Eve have overcome his strategy?
August 31
Dealing Positively with Doubt
For reading & meditation - Acts 17:1-15
"... they ... examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true." (v. 11)
What do we do when we find ourselves assailed by honest doubt? Well, first we must recognize that doubts can be valuable if they motivate us to search deep and long for the answers. Perhaps it was this thought that led Samuel Coleridge to say, "Never be afraid of doubt ... if you have the disposition to believe." Unfortunately, there is very little sympathy given to those who doubt in most evangelical churches. Doubters are about as welcome in some congregations as a ham sandwich in a synagogue! It was because of the lack of concern shown in many churches toward those with honest doubts that two American missionaries, Francis and Edith Schaeffer, set up their ministry in a remote Swiss village. They established a center for those with doubts about their faith and called it L'Abri, which is French for "The Shelter." Hundreds made their way there over the years, and came back with their doubts resolved. Have you ever heard of Frank Morrison? He was an agnostic who, many years ago, set out to demonstrate the validity of his doubts about the resurrection of Christ. The more he looked into the facts, however, the more convinced he became that Christ actually did rise from the dead. He finished up writing a book entitled Who Moved the Stone?, which is one of the greatest evidences for the resurrection I have ever read. There are clear answers to all the doubts you may have concerning the Christian faith. Search for these answers, and the more you struggle, the stronger will be your faith.
Prayer:
Father, help me today to understand that all things can contribute to my faith, including my doubts. When I realize this, then I will go far. Thank You, Father. Amen.
For Further Study
Luke 12:29; Heb. 11:6; James 1:6-8
1. What did Jesus teach about doubt?
2. What causes doubt, and how should it be dealt with?
September 1, 2008
Buddy Breathing
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"All Scripture is God-breathed..."2 Timothy 2:16 NIV
Friend to Friend
When I was in my teens, I went scuba diving with some friends. I had no training and probably shouldn't have been in deep waters, but like I said, I was in my teens and threw caution to the wind. The young man who took me below the surface of the deep strapped an oxygen tank on his back, a mask of his face and flippers on his feet. I only had a mask and flippers.
"Where's my oxygen?" I asked.
"I've got it," he answered as he patted the tank on his back.
So into the ocean we jumped. He put his arm around my waist like I was a sack of potatoes and down we went. John drew oxygen from the tank and then passed the breathing apparatus to me. We took turns breathing in the oxygen in what he called "buddy breathing." It then occurred to me that I was totally dependent on this young boy to keep me alive!
This was not a very smart idea, but it did leave me with a great life lesson..."Buddy Breathing." Throughout my life, the words of my friends have been like oxygen when I feel I'm drowning. Even today, I have a mental scrapbook of the life-giving words passed along to me in the ocean of despair. God has sent friends my way who have strapped on the Word of God and passed the life-giving words to me when I've needed them most. Buddy breathing. That's what we can do for each other when a girlfriend forgets how to draw in the air she needs. That's what God does for us each time we open the pages of His Word.
When I was in high school, I traveled abroad to study with a group of students. Before I left, my group of Christian girlfriends gave me a gift. They had taken a large medicine bottle and filled it with a homemade remedy. Inside the medicine bottle were 100 Bible verses written on small strips of paper and rolled up like tiny scrolls. These verses were my medicine for when I got homesick. That gift of the heart was given to me over 30 years ago, and yet, I've carried it with me through high school, college, marriage and many, many moves. I have kept that bottle of love with me at each crossroad and bend in the road. That's the power of a woman's words to her friends. We never know how a small act of kindness will touch someone's heart for many years to come.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank You for friends who help me breathe when I forget how. And please help me to be sensitive to my friends and recognize when they need a bit of encouragement along the way. Most of all, thank You for Your Word that breathes life into my soul everyday. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a friend that helped you during a very difficult time of life?
Today, consider writing her a note of thanks, telling her specifically how she helped you.
Be on the lookout today for someone who needs a word of encouragement, especially a word from God's Word that will help them along their journey. It might even be a friend who would enjoy Girlfriend in God devotions!
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We all need a bit of encouragement every now and then. Today, consider passing Girlfriends in God along to a few of your girlfriends who could use a daily dose of God's Word and some honest reflection from gals just like you! While you're at it, if you'd like to listen to a word of encouragement, log onto Sharon 's daily radio feature at www.extraordinarymomentswithgod.org.
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September 2, 2008
How Much Does a Miracle Cost?
Mary Southerland
Today's truth
Hebrews 11:6 Without faith no one can please God. Anyone who comes to God must believe that he is real and that he rewards those who truly want to find him. (NCV)
Friend to Friend
A little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured all the change out on the floor and carefully counted it three times, just to be sure. The total had to be exactly perfect. No chance here for mistakes. Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and walked the six blocks to the local drug store with the big Red Indian Chief sign above the door.
The little girl walked in, heading for the pharmacy. She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention but he was too busy talking with another man. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally, she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!
"And what do you want?" the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. "I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages," he said without waiting for a reply to his question.
"Well, I want to talk to you about my brother," Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. "He's really, really sick... and I want to buy a miracle." "I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist. The little girl replied, "His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?"
"We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you," the pharmacist said in a slightly softer voice. She persisted, "Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs."
The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, "What kind of a miracle does your brother need?" "I don't know," Tess replied with her eyes welling up. "I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money".
"How much money do you have?" asked the man from Chicago . "One dollar and eleven cents," Tess answered barely audibly. "And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to." "Well, what a coincidence," smiled the man. "One dollar and eleven cents is the exact price of a miracle for little brothers." He took her money in one hand and grasped the other mitten covered hand, saying, "Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the kind of miracle you need."
That well dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, surgeon, specializing in neurosurgery. The operation was completed without charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was home again and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place. The mother said, "That surgery was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost." Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle costs - one dollar and eleven cents - plus the faith of a little child.
My friend, do not be afraid to ask your miracle working God to work a miracle in your life today. Remember that in God's economy, a miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law.
Let's pray
Lord, I want to be a woman of faith who lives each day, expecting a miracle from Your hand. Give me an attitude of anticipation and an obedient heart that is willing to step out in faith, asking and believing that a miracle is on its way. Help me remember to measure every supernatural work against the truth of the Bible. Help me to celebrate the "small" miracles as well as the "big" ones. I praise You for Your presence and power in my life. In Jesus' name. Amen!
Now it's your turn
How would you define faith?
Read the following verse and adjust your definition accordingly:
Hebrews 11:1 What is faith? It is the confident assurance that what we hope for is going to happen. It is the evidence of things we cannot yet see. (NLT)
Are you willing to trust God completely and walk in faith? Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 as a new life verse.
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The thought of stepping into the unknown is a bit scary, isn't it? We may not know what tomorrow holds, but as the old song says, we "know Who holds tomorrow". What peace and joy are wrapped up in the truth that no matter where we have been, no matter where we are, no matter where we are headed...it is not a surprise to God and, in fact, He has already been there! Don't be afraid, my friend. Take that first step of faith and He will meet you there!
Need help? You need Mary's book, "Experiencing God's Power in Your Ministry". I know...you are not a minister or even married to one. Wait! This book is for every woman who serves God, whether it is on a church staff, in her home as a wife and mother or outside the home in a corporate office. Check it out!
September 3, 2008
The Stinky Sour Sippy
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life." (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I recently flew to Nashville to record vocals for an upcoming CD project. My girlfriend, Kerri, and I had spent the last day of my trip in a studio, recording background vocals. When we were finished, I had to high tail it to the airport in order to catch my flight home.
Kerri, a young mom, enthusiastically offered to take me to the airport, and I gladly accepted. I'm all about spending time with my friends and catching up on life!) As we made our way out to the car, Kerri apologetically mentioned that her daughter had dropped a milk sippy in her car the day before, and that she hadn't been able to locate it.
"I will be more than happy to take you to the airport, Gwen," she said, "but there's just no telling what my car is going to smell like!"
"No problem!" I said. "I'm a mom! I've dealt with many-a-missing milk sippy in my day. How bad can it be?"
Did I mention that it was one of those "you can fry an egg on the sidewalk," dog days of August? Yep. It was! You know where this is going, don't you?
As we opened the car doors, Kerri and I were smacked silly with the stinky smell of sour milk. Not just a subtle smell, mind you -- but a dominant, "been sitting in the 100 degree weather all day" smell. It reeked something fierce! We laughed until we almost cried at how horrible it smelled as we made our way down the expressway to the airport.
Sounds kind of funny, but smells matter. Some smells, like a stinky, sour milk sippy, are offensive. They make you want to escape their presence. While other smells, like fresh baked bread, or a lotioned-up baby, can be greatly pleasurable and inviting. Which type of smell best represents your presence and persona?
We need to remember that our attitudes and conversations give off a smell as well. The apostle Paul said, "But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, emphasis mine).
Does your attitude give off an aroma of Christ? Are those around you drawn to Him as a result of the love and peace you display? Do your conversations consistently honor God, embody the fruit of the Spirit, and expel the fragrance of life...or are they sometimes laced with bitterness, resentment, anger, complaining, and gossip? It's time to locate and throw away our stinky, sour sippy attitudes, and ask the Lord to renew our minds. Let's run the race before us as women of honor who, through the power of the Holy Spirit, give off an aroma of Christ.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, please forgive me for all of the times I've allowed sinful behavior to creep into my thoughts and conversations. I ask that you will now, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV)
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read, write down, and commit to memory the following verse: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV).
Spend some time in prayer right now. Ask God to reveal to you any areas in your life that might not "smell" as they should. Then talk to a trusted friend about what He brings to your heart, and ask her to pray for you and hold you accountable.
More from the Girlfriends
As I'm finishing up this devotion, I've got a pot of fresh coffee brewing. Oh how I love the smell of my dark roast! :-) It's important to understand that when we put love in, we will live love out. Spend some time in God's Word today. I have a GiG challenge for you: for the next 31 days, read one chapter of Proverbs per day and ask God to speak to your heart through His Word. And as you are in your home and about town in your car, play some worship music!! Why wait? Listen to some now!! Turn up your speakers and CLICK HERE to worship with me.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.GwenSmith.net.
September 4, 2008
An Incredible Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21 NIV
Friend to Friend
"In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth" (Genesis 1:1). When God created the world, stocked the seas with marine life and the skies with winged creatures -- when he caused the stars to ignite the night sky and placed the sun to light the day and the moon to illumine the darkness -- He did so with words. "And God said, 'Let there be light.'" "And God said, 'Let there be an expanse between the waters to separate water from water." "And God said, 'Let the water under the sky be gathered to one place, and let dry ground appear.'" "And God said, 'Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to separate the day from the night...'" "And God said, 'Let the water teem with living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the expanse of the sky.'" "And God said, 'Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds...'" "And God said, Let us make man in our own image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.'" .... "And it was so." God spoke and what was not - became what is. When God created the heavens and the earth, He used a mighty force -- words. "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth" (Psalm 33:6).
Amazingly, when God created mankind in His own image, He gave us that same powerful tool. He didn't entrust words to zebra's, birds, monkeys, elephants, lizards, or horses. He entrusted words to mere mortals. Our words also have creative potential. They can create a smile on a discouraged child's face, lighten the heart of a husband loaded down with burdens, fan into a flame the dying embers of a friend's smoldering dreams, cheer brothers and sisters in Christ to run the race with endurance, and bring the message of hope and healing of Jesus Christ to a wounded world. Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe and amazingly, God has entrusted them to you and me.
The question is, how will we use this incredible gift from God? Will we use them to bring life or death? Encouragement or discouragement? Today, let's pay particular attention to the words we speak and use our words to speak life into the people in our little part of the world today.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I am amazed that You have entrusted us with such a powerful tool...words. May we use our words to bless and not to curse, to build up and not to tear down, to heal and not to hurt. By the power of the Holy Spirit, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart by pleasing in Your sight. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and fill in the blanks:
Genesis 1:3 And _______ _______, "Let there be light," and there was light.
Hebrews 11:3 By faith we understand that the universe was formed ___ _________ ______________so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.
Psalm 33:6 By the ______________________ were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth.
What did you discover about the power of God's words?
Now, on a similar note, what can you surmise about the power of your own words?
Throughout the day, ask yourself this question: Did my words build up or tear down?
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion is taken from the introduction of Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to use your words to speak life into others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 5, 2008
Crumbs of Time
Pam Farrel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Pam Farrel.
Today's Truth
"Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil." Ephesians 5:15-16 (NASB)
Friend to Friend
The more you have to give, the more people will want from you: There will be new responsibilities and new relationships but no new time. At times, you may feel badly about the slivers of time you can give friends, old and new. You might feel pressed to give a short answer to a long problem. It's all right. Jesus knows exactly how you feel. But look at what was accomplished in a few brief moments with Jesus:
Matthew 8:5-13 "When Jesus had entered Capernaum, a centurion came to him, asking for help."Lord," he said, "my servant lies at home paralyzed and in terrible suffering." Jesus said to him, "I will go and heal him."
The centurion replied, "Lord, I do not deserve to have you come under my roof. But just say the word, and my servant will be healed ... When Jesus heard this, he was astonished and said, "I tell you the truth; I have not found anyone in Israel with such great faith. Then Jesus said to the centurion, "Go! It will be done just as you believed it would." And his servant was healed at that very hour.
Matthew 15:22-28 "A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, "Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is suffering terribly from demon-possession." He answered, "I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel."
The woman came and knelt before him. "Lord, help me!" she said.
He replied, "It is not right to take the children's bread and toss it to their dogs."
"Yes, Lord," she said, "but even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table."
Then Jesus answered, "Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted." And her daughter was healed from that very hour.
When you are pressed, pray your crumbs of time will be sanctified and empowered from on high--and they will make a difference.
I have been married to a very busy leader husband all my life. I used to complain about all the time he spent giving to others. Then one day, God reminded me of this story above and I realized that the crumbs of time I had with my husband were of such quality (because he was a quality man) that those minutes were maximized in God's hands. That day, I made a commitment to quit complaining and began to enjoy the time I had with him--and guess what? It did feel like I had plenty of time with my beloved husband because my attitude changed and that made the time we had much more enjoyable!
Let's Pray
Father, please multiply my time. Make every moment count for you and please let your power stretch the impact and influence of the time I give to others. Amen
Now It is Your Turn
I once heard that worry is a lot like a rocking chair, it is something to do while you are waiting but it doesn't get you anywhere. Instead of worrying about the time you do not have, try one of these activities below instead:
Are you spending your time worrying about how much time you are giving to your children, your husband, your family or friends? Today, instead of worrying about the quantity of time, pray about how to maximize the quality of time you have to give to those people. How can you build into their lives today? Send an encouraging email to text, leave a voicemail, or drop a card in the mail to prepare their heart for when you do have time with him or her.
Have you been nagging, fuming or complaining to your husband, or your children about how little time you are getting with them? Instead of complaining, try complimenting that person and see if it changes the atmosphere of the relationship so that person might then on their own create more time with you. If time with you is something to look forward to, people will eventually MAKE time to be with you. Instead of counting the minutes, count the blessings of having that person in your life. Then tell that person how much you love them--no strings attached.
More from the Girls
Sometimes it is hard to keep the need for time with your loved ones in perspective, or learn creative ways to maximize the time you have or make more time for those you love. Bill and Pam Farrel offer key relationship advice in their books, 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make, 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make, and 10 Best Decisions a Woman Can Make . More relationship tips are available at www.farrelcommunications.com.
September 8, 2008
Put a lid on It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark." (James 3:5 NIV)
Friend to Friend
From the time I could hold a crayon in my chubby little hand, I've enjoyed creating various "works of art." For my family and friends, my latest endeavors usually found their way under the Christmas tree and into their hands. One year it was woven macramé hanging plant holders. Another it was a menagerie of decoupage wooden boxes. Then there were the years of framed cross-stitch, ceramic nativity sets and quilted pig and chicken pillows.
When I was seventeen, it was the year of the candle. Everyone from Grandma Edwards to my best friends at school received praying hands candles. For weeks I slaved over a hot stove, stirring melted wax, meticulously centering ten inch wicks, then slowly pouring the red, green, or yellow molten material into inverted molds in the shape of praying hands. When the wax hardened, I burped the rubber mold and plopped out the candle. My kitchen looked like a prostheses laboratory with hands littering the counters.
I was cooking up a fresh batch of hands when the doorbell rang. "Oh, my word!" I cried as I glanced at the clock on the oven. "I've lost track of time. Jim's here!"
I was having so much fun waxing and wicking that I forgot the time. I had a date at 7:30 and here I was in pink hot curlers and a paraffin covered sweatshirt. I rushed through the kitchen, leapt over my dad who had fallen asleep on the den floor in front of the television, and threw open the door.
"Hi Jim," I huffed. "Come on in. I'm not ready."
"So I noticed," he said with a grin.
"I was cooking candles and lost track of time," I explained.
"You were what?" he questioned.
"Never mind," I continued. "Just come on in and have a seat on the couch. I'll be ready in a minute."
I dashed to the bedroom to run a brush through my hair, swipe mascara through my lashes, and apply a hint of gloss on my lips. Jim sat uncomfortably on the sofa, listening to my father snore to the bantering of Jackie Gleason and Ralph Cramden. After about fifteen minutes, Jim smelled something burning. He didn't want to yell for me for fear of waking up my dad, so he tiptoed into the kitchen and discovered a pot sitting on the stove with flames shooting up about eighteen inches in the air.
Sleeping dad or no sleeping dad, Jim called out. "Sharon! Whatever you were cooking is on fire!"
"Oh my goodness," I exclaimed. "I forgot to turn the stove off."
Just as I burst into the kitchen, Jim threw a cup of water into the flaming wax. Rather than extinguish the flames, the fire exploded upward. The flames shot up the wall, over the ceiling and down the wall on the other side of the room. Our screams woke my father to see his daughter standing in a room surrounded by flames. With the agility of Superman, Dad sprang to his feet, ran to the kitchen faster than a speeding bullet, grabbed the lid of the pot and clamped it down on the source of the flames. Just as quickly as the fire had erupted, it receded back into the pot like a Genie returning to his bottle.
This all happened in a matter of seconds. We stood in the middle of the room like three stunned deer. I never did tell my dad that it was Jim who threw the water on the burning wax. Teenage boys already have two strikes against them when they walk through the threshold to pick up a man's baby girl.
After the shock of the incident wore off, I had time to reflect on the incident: the speed at which the flames engulfed the room, the feeling of fire licking against my skin, the terrifying sound of the blaze. It made me think about my words and how easily they can explode and singe those around me. I saw and understood the destructive power of our words and the speed at which that destruction can spread. But you know what I also learned? I learned just how easy it is to stop the blaze: put a lid on it. As soon as my father placed a lid on the pot and removed the flame's source of oxygen, the flame abated. I think Job had the right idea when he said, "I will put my hand over my mouth" (Job 40:4). It is interesting to me that my hand fits perfectly over my mouth. Give it a try. How about you? Is your hand ample to cover that spark shooting orifice? Perhaps that was God's intentional design!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help my words be pleasing in Your sight today. Help me to use my words to build up rather than tear down, to encourage rather than discourage, and to help rather than hurt. And Lord, if I get ready to say something that is neither kind nor necessary, help me to put a lid on it. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you said something you wish you hadn't?
What effect did it have on the person to whom you said it?
What effect did it have on your own heart? Did you feel remorseful after you said it?
What would have been the outcome if you had just kept that thought to yourself?
Let's memorize Psalm 19:14 together: "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer."
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We have great power in the words that we speak. If you would like to learn more about how to control that mighty force - the tongue, and use your words to bless others, see Sharon's book The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study Guide.
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September 9, 2008
Accountability: A Hedge of Protection
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:5b "...and each member belongs to all the others."
Friend to Friend
A certain expert guide lived in the deserts of Arabia. He was known for his tracking skills and the fact that he never lost his way. The secret of his success could be found in the fact that he carried with him a homing pigeon that had a very fine cord attached to one of its legs. When he had doubts as to which path to take, he threw the bird into the air. The pigeon quickly strained at the cord to fly in the direction of home, leading the guide accurately to his goal. Because of this unique practice, he was known as "the dove man."
We always need connections to those who will point us in the right direction. We will take the wrong path or make a wrong turn and there will be times when we have no idea which way to go or how to get home. We must then turn to God and to those who hold us accountable.
Accountability is often seen as confining, a relationship straight jacket that limits freedom of expression and hinders those who "march to the beat of a different drummer". Actually, the opposite is true. Accountability frees us to grow and change and is an important part of every relationship.
When I married into the Southerland family, I didn't know that tent camping was part of the deal. I might have reconsidered (just kidding). I decided that I could learn to camp and maybe even enjoy it! My first trip to Lake Greason in the foothills of the Ozarks was quite an experience. It did not take me long to learn the daily routine. Each morning, Dan's mom would prepare a huge breakfast, after which, the kids did dishes while mom changed into her swim suit, donned her sun glasses, grabbed a towel and headed for the lake. On the shore, she would grab an inner tube, position her towel in just the right spot over the tube, turn around and sit down. She would then float blissfully for hours. There was a slight problem with this plan. Lake Greason had a current that would carry mom down the lake, around the bend and into the path of ski boats. Several times a day, someone would have to swim after her and pull her back to the safety of the shore, where she would profusely thank them and go right back to floating. Finally, one of the kids came up with a great idea! Get a rope! We grabbed a ski rope, tied one end to mom's inner tube and the other end to a wooden stake driven securely into the ground. She could then float until the rope ran out and someone "reeled her in". What a perfect picture of accountability -- giving someone who loves you the permission to "reel you in" when they see you headed in a dangerous direction. When we willingly make ourselves accountable to others, we are creating a hedge of protection that ultimately yields boundaries, parameters or behavioral lines that should not be crossed.
Honestly, most of us have experienced very little accountability in life because at the heart of being accountable to someone is the willingness to be submissive to them. We have abused the concept of submission. It was never intended to be demeaning and does not involve slavery in any form. Submission is protection and an intentional willingness to consider first the desires and wishes of another before our own. God places others in our lives to see things that we cannot see, to encourage and build up, to correct, love and protect, but still, we tend to view accountability as a crutch and submission as a weakness. Submission is harnessed strength, a controlled strength that is born out of obedience to God's command. "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." (Ephesians 5:21)
Jesus submitted Himself to the will of His father. He willingly laid down His desires and dreams, His plans and hopes in total submission. Out of that total surrender came the most powerful life ever lived. When we willingly submit ourselves to God and choose to make ourselves accountable to others, we will experience a freedom and power we have never known before.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, submitting myself to You. Thank You for the protection, direction and power that comes from that submission. Forgive me when I have stood silent while someone I loved made dangerous decisions. Give me the courage to confront in love. Give me the wisdom to receive correction and to be accountable to others. Thank You for Your love that never condemns but always stands ready to keep me from making mistakes. And when I do fall, thank You for being there to pick me up and walk with me. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 27:6 "Faithful are wounds of a friend." What does this verse mean to you? How does this verse relate to accountability?
Name two people in your life to whom you are accountable.
Are they willing to tell you the truth instead of what you want to hear?
Are they godly people who will constantly point you to Christ?
Who is accountable to you?
Are you willing to step between that person and the wrong choices?
Can you confront in love for the sole purpose of restoration?
More From the Girls
God did not create us to live alone. We were created to need each other -- for many reasons -- one of the most important being accountability. It is much easier to make the wrong choices and to take the wrong turns when no one is watching. I often wonder how many marriages have failed, how many friendships have been destroyed, or how many lives have been wasted because there was no accountability. I praise God every day for a husband and friends who are willing to be a safety net in my life by holding me accountable. If you don't have an accountability partner, don't wait another minute. Ask God to send you a friend who loves you enough to protect you by holding you accountable. Need help? Check out my Free Online Bible Study. We are looking at the lives of those "bad girls" in the Bible. Blessings!
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September 10, 2008
The Interview
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved," (Acts 16:31 (NKJV)
Friend to Friend
My palms were slightly sweaty, yet calm. My posture was poised, yet not stiff. My dress was conservative, yet fashionable. I waited in a small room lined with bookshelves, diplomas, and awards. A mammoth wooden desk dwarfed my small chair positioned in the center of the interrogation room.
It was my first job interview. After completing Dental Hygiene School and passing both State and National Boards, I was ready to cross over the bridge to the land of the employed. Even though Dr. Ford (the man who would decide my professional destiny) seemed somewhat intimidating, I felt fairly confident. My GPA was excellent and board scores commendable. I was ready for anything this guy had to throw at me. Let the games begin, I mused. And so they did.
"What was the last book you read?" he asked.
"Reviewing for National Boards and The Four Loves by C. S. Lewis." I replied.
"What did you eat for breakfast this morning?" he questioned.
"Coffee cake and milk," I answered.
"What's your least favorite household job?"
"Dusting."
"What would you do if you bought a set of living room furniture and it went on sale the next day?"
"Return it and buy it back again at the sale price."
This line of rapid fire questioning went on for forty-five minutes. For each question, I shot back an honest response. But all the while I was thinking, "What's this got to do with dentistry? Is this what I've studied so hard for?"
After a few more minutes of chit-chat, Dr. Ford leaned forward, and with a sincere smile said, "Sharon, we would like for you to join our team."
I was shocked! In my naiveté, I looked my prospective boss in the eye and asked, "Aren't you even going to ask me what kind of grades I made in school?"
With that, Dr. Ford threw back his head and filled the room with thunderous laughter. With a twinkle in his eye he answered, "I imagine they were pretty good."
I could feel the color start at the end of my toes and rise to the top of my head. How did that comment escape my practiced lips? How could I say such a thing!? I wanted to crawl under my chair and never come out.
Thus began my career in dentistry. I learned a lot over the next few years, but perhaps the most important lesson took place in the interview. What I discovered was that Dr. Ford was much more interested in my character than my credentials. He was more concerned with what was in my heart than my head. Even though the questions seemed pointless to me, they spoke volumes about my life choices in common everyday situations to him.
I imagine my final interview with The Boss of the Universe will have many similarities, because He also is more concerned with my character than my credentials, and with what's in my heart than in my head. For that last interview He will ask one question: "Do you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord and believe in your heart that I raised Him from the dead?"
"Yes, I do," I'll reply.
"Then come on in," He'll say with a smile. "That's all the credentials you need."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for Jesus. I am so glad that I don't have to try to earn my way to heaven, but that Jesus did it for me. I am so thankful that when you look at me, You see the righteousness of Christ. Amazing grace, how sweet the sound.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Do you ever fall into the trap of thinking that you have to earn God's love and acceptance?
If so, where do you think that faulty thinking comes from?
What does "saved by grace" mean to you?
If God were to ask you why He should let you into heaven, what would you say? If you're not sure, Click here to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
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Don't you just love seeing God's fingerprints on the pages of your life? If so, you'll love Sharon's new devotional book, Extraordinary Moments with God. This small padded hardback book is the perfect gift for someone you love -- or just for yourself!
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September 11, 2008
Service With a Smile
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12: 10 "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Friend to Friend
The last thing I usually want to do is serve someone who is hard to get along with and rubs me the wrong way. In fact, the way I figure it, they should be the one serving me in order to make up for all of the grief they have caused. Sandpaper people are hard to serve and hard to help because they rarely, if ever, think of themselves as someone in need. The needs of others are not high on their priority list. Control and power are at the top. To manipulate is to succeed. Sandpaper people honestly believe that the world does or should revolve around them. It doesn't seem to matter if the audience is applauding or jeering. Either way, they win.
When we dare to serve a sandpaper person, it rocks their world. They are so accustomed to scratching and clawing their way to a false and shallow acceptance and find it almost impossible to believe that anyone would ever be willing to serve them in any way. That kind of chosen love is foreign to them but it certainly grabs their attention. It is after we have loved and served the sandpaper people in our lives that we begin to see them with different eyes.
"Devotion" indicates commitment and duty and carries the idea of a constant faithfulness that deliberately chooses repeatedly to serve. To "honor" someone means to "prefer" him or her or regard them as more important than ourselves. Most sandpaper people are used to people preferring that they disappear. I am convinced if we learned to look past the irritating antics of sandpaper people and simply love them or "prefer" them, a transformation would begin.
In the book of Philippians, Paul explains that when we are serving others we are doing what Jesus did.
Philippians 2:1-5 "Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and sympathetic? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one heart and purpose. Don't be selfish; don't live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don't think only about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too and what they are doing. Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had."
Paul is telling us that when we choose to love and serve others, especially those who are unlovable and difficult, we choose to have the same attitude that Jesus had. I believe the greatest hindrance to serving others is pride.
Someone once told me, "He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals." I once heard a missionary tell how he was trying to do translation work in a particular tribe. He was finding it very difficult to translate the word "pride" or at least the concept. Finally, he came up with the idea to use their words for the ears being too far apart. In other words, he conveyed the idea of an "inflated head" which is probably hard to improve on when we talk about the problem of pride.
When our head is filled with thoughts of self, when our hearts are determined to love ourselves before others or when we serve only for the applause of men, we will become arrogant and our service becomes an offense to God. Micah 6:8 outlines the good things God wants to see in us, "The Lord has told you what is good. He has told you what he wants from you: Do what is right to other people. Love being kind to others and live humbly, trusting your God." Peter Marshall, the great bible teacher, once prayed, "Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change and when we are right, make us easy to live with.
Corrie Ten Boom, a dynamic Christian and survivor of German prison camps, loved to tell the story about a proud woodpecker who was tapping away at a dead tree when the sky unexpectedly turned black and the thunder began to roll. Undaunted, he went right on working. Suddenly a bolt of lightning struck the old tree, splintering it into hundreds of pieces. Startled but unhurt, the haughty bird flew off, screeching to his feathered friends, "Hey, everyone, look what I did! Look what I did!"
That old woodpecker reminds me of people who think more highly of themselves than they should. Usually they are so busy bragging about their achievements and their greatness that they fail to recognize God as the source of all their abilities or the needs of others. They are suffering from spiritual delusions of grandeur, and I am often right there with them. Without the Lord, no one amounts to anything, and in our own strength, we cannot please Him. "So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good time he will honor you." (1 Peter 5:6) We are never more like our Father than when we lay aside our pride to love the unlovable by serving them.
Let's Pray
Father, when I let pride take up residence in my heart, I can be so blind to the needs of others, especially those who are more difficult to love. I am so thankful that You did not feel that way toward me, one of the most difficult people of all to love. I praise You for the grace and love You have given me. Help me to be an instrument of that love and grace in the lives of those around me. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think about the people in your life -- family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.
List two people who are easy to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve them. Be specific.
List two people who are difficult to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve the. Be specific.
Compare the two experiences.
From which one did you learn the most?
Which one forced you to rely upon God's power the most?
What one truth did you gain through these two experiences?
More From the Girls
If I am not careful, I automatically gravitate to those who are easy to love and easy to serve. I have to remind myself that Jesus Christ came for broken people like me. I am not always easy to love and am prone to reject service because "I can do it myself." Sound familiar? Today, choose to love and serve those difficult people in your path. When someone loves and wants to serve you, accept that love and service in Jesus' name, as a gift from God's hand. Be blessed. I encourage you to get Sharon Jaynes' new book, Extraordinary Moments With God, and learn how to see God at work in and through you in extraordinary ways.
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September 12, 2008
Waiting
Angela L. Craig
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV) "But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint."
Friend to Friend
What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for a new job, financial security, healing, a baby, or a restored marriage? It seems that no matter where we are in life, we are waiting for something. Personally, I'm not a fan of the waiting game. I favor control over limbo because control produces a sense of security while limbo creates feelings of vulnerability and instability.
There are many stories of "waiting" in the Bible. In some of the stories, the waiting seemed to last forever while others only waited a few, intense moments. Think of Sarai and Abram who waited for a child for nearly twenty years. Or of Hezekiah who was healed from certain death by the power of prayer. Can you identify with any of these people? Have you been waiting so long for something that you have almost given-up hope in God's ability or desire to answer your request? Or are you like Hezekiah who received a miracle with his first prayer?
The Bible teaches us that we should "wait on the Lord." But what does that really mean? The verb "wait" is defined as the act of waiting or looking with confidence and great expectation towards the future. Why is it, that so many times I have asked God for something and then said, "Well, we will just wait and see what happens." Where is the confident expectation in that phrase?
Let me suggest three actions we can take to help us learn how to "wait on the Lord", knowing and believing that He wants to help.
Trust -- If we doubt God's willingness to hear and answer our prayer, we can begin to feel bitter when we think God has heard our prayer, but He is silent. Scripture teaches us that God is unchangeable and we can rely on Him to provide the best possible path for our lives!
Resist -- We must resist taking matters into our own hands. Patience is essential in many circumstances and the Holy Spirit is available to fill us with patience when we feel we cannot wait another minute.
Pray -- How many times have you given a request to God and felt He had earplugs in? This situation always leads me to insistently repeat my prayer until I either give up or lose my voice. After we have given our need to the Lord, we must turn our question into a "Thank you". Thanking God is an active display of faith that demonstrates to God and to the world a confident expectation of God's awesome answer and provision!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I have been waiting for ________________________ and I come before You today to ask for Your help. I pray that You will increase my faith today as I believe in You with confidence and eager expectation of Your answer! I believe that Your plan for my life is the best one possible and I thank You for Your answer.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever given up on God?
Which area do you struggle with the most when "waiting on the Lord": trust, resist, or prayer?
Depending on your answer to question two, choose a Bible verse that reflects your decision to grow in that area. For example: if you struggle with trust, you might choose Psalm 91:2 (NIV), "I will say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust."
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September 15, 2008
Refinished and Restored
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV)
Friend to Friend
When I was in my late teens, I had an unusual fetish for old, beat-up, antique furniture. While most of my friends were at the malls shopping for clothes, I was at estate sales, flea markets, yard sales, and auctions hunting for antiques. Often when I brought my purchases home, my family would roll their eyes in disgust and say, "I can't believe you paid money for that dirty piece of junk." But I never saw my purchases as junk. They just needed a little work ... OK, a lot of work.
At one estate sale, I spied a little drop-leaf kitchen table with three spindle-back chairs. I could just imagine a sweet little older lady spending many years sitting at that very table drinking her morning coffee or perhaps her afternoon tea. I could almost hear the faint whispers of thousands of conversations from generations past. The set was painted a hospital green, but I saw that it had great potential. Obviously the other bidders didn't see the table's great potential, because ten minutes and $35 later, the set was mine. I was sure I had saved the table and chairs from becoming kindling for someone's fire.
I brought the dinette set home, all excited about my great buy, but couldn't understand why no one else shared my enthusiasm.
"Sharon, do you realize how much time and energy it is going to take to make that old green rickety table look even slightly presentable?" they asked. At that point in my life, I had a lot more time than money, so the time wasn't a problem.
Refinishing furniture is a dirty, grueling task, and refinishing this table and chairs was no exception. First, I stripped off the paint with paint remover, which not only removes paint but eats through latex gloves and layers of skin. I discovered that not only had the table been green, it had also been blue, and before that white. But underneath it all, was pure walnut!
The paint remover raised the grain of the wood, so I had to go back and sand it smooth. If the sanding isn't done well, the finished product will always be a little rough. A few joints had come loose from wear and tear, and I had to glue them back together. Then I applied a warm walnut stain which deepened its color and made the beautiful pattern of the wood grain stand out. Finally, I applied polyurethane to seal and protect the piece.
As I worked, I began to think of the old broken table as a symbol of my own life. I was also on the auction block, and God paid a price for me with His precious blood. I was saved from someone's fire. I had layers and layers of old self that hid the beauty of what God had created me to be. These layers had to be stripped off by crucifying the flesh with its passions and desires . This raised my grain, but God sanded me with life experiences and trials. God glued my loose joints and mended my broken pieces, for He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds. Also, God put a sealer not only on me but in me, the Holy Spirit, which is given to me as a seal and a promise.
I sat in the garage looking at my finished work and thinking about all God had done for me. My mom opened the door, looked at the old table, and said, "I never thought something so ugly could turn out to be so beautiful."
I said, "Amen."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I am so amazed that You paid such a high price for me. While others thought of me as just a throw away person, You knew different. You saw what I could be if I trusted in You. Thank You for seeing past the dirt and transforming me into a spiritually beautiful creature of unique design.
Now It's Your Turn
I think attics are amazing places to visit. Is there something tucked away in your attic or other storage place that is a treasure to you, but trash to someone else?
What about that item makes it special?
Do you realize just how special you are to God? You are His priceless treasure. Walk in that assurance today!
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So many Christians are living in defeat because they don't understand the dramatic change that occurred the moment they believed in Jesus. If you would like to learn more about who you are in Christ, what you have in Christ, and where you are in Christ, see Sharon's book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover and begin the journey of discovering your beauty in Christ.
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September 16, 2008
Nailing Lies To The Cross
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow--not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below--indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 8:38-39, NLT)
Friend to Friend
One major blessing of being in women's ministry is the friendships I have with other women in ministry. We are our own little band of sisters. Sisters with a mission! We cheer for one another, cry with one another, laugh with one another, pray for one another, and rejoice with one another.
One sister I've had the opportunity to lock arms with for the journey is named Renee. Renee works for an international women's ministry and is a talented God-fearing, Bible-teaching speaker and writer. A few years back, Renee traveled across the country to speak at a women's retreat. When she got there, a few unexpected circumstances caused her to send out an "SOS, pray-for-me-now" email to her ministry sisters. I got the email and hit my knees.
Early the next week, Renee sent us an email thanking us for praying and telling us what God did in the hearts of women at that retreat. She told us that she spoke about the lies that we believe as women and told personal and biblical stories that illuminated God's truth. Then, at the final session, Renee asked the women to consider what they believed to be true about themselves. Her challenge went something like this: "When you settle your soul long enough to simply be still--when you pause to listen to your heart--what do you hear? Are there lies that linger in your heart knowingly or unknowingly?"
She encouraged them to write down on a note card the lies they had accepted as truth, whether lies spoken by a parent, kids in the schoolyard, a friend, a family member, a spouse, a child, a pastor, or a stranger. She told them that some of the lies might never have been spoken at all, just believed.
When they finished she invited them to bring the cards to a wooden cross at the front of the room. Next to the cross she had placed baskets filled with promises from God's Word, and after each woman nailed her card to the cross, she picked up a truth that would replace her lies.
Tears ran down almost every cheek as the women brought their lies to the cross and embraced God's life-changing Words. Guilt was forgiven, worthless became precious, and sorrows were traded for joy that day. Then a whoop-it-up celebration went down! God, through his Holy Spirit, revealed His heart to those sweet women and shattered the lies of the enemy.
After the retreat was over, Renee looked through the cards that had been nailed to the cross. One card jumped out at her. Written over and over was one word: Worthless!
The woman who wrote that word wasn't the only one at that retreat who felt that way. That same word--worthless--was penned on many of the cards that weekend. It represents a lie that has been believed by most every woman at some point in her life. There have been days, weeks, and months that I've believed it myself.
It's one of Satan's favorite words to throw at us, and it is a big, fat, ugly lie.
The Bible clearly shows us that we are valued in the sight of the Lord. When we allow God's Word to flood our lives with the truth we are changed by the height, the depth, and the width of His love for us. "Take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:18--19, MSG).
God loves you with a personal love. He knows your name. He knit you together in your mother's womb. He considers you highly valuable. No matter what you've believed in the past, choose by faith to believe this now: you are valued, priceless, and adored by God.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank you for holding me safely in Your arms of love. Please help me to recognize any lie that my heart may perceive as truth, and strengthen me to trade in my sorrow for your joy. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your heart hear when you are still?
What lies would you write on that card?
Meditate on the following Psalm (Read it silently; then out loud.)
"Praise the Lord, O my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits--who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's." (Psalm 103:1-5)
Now, spend a few moments prayerfully responding to God.
More from the Girlfriends
On a personal note, I recently had the honor of recording a LIVE worship album that is scheduled to be released in October! The CD is called "Unsearchable," and I have never been more excited about a project in my life! God led me to partner with a record label called Great Worship Songs. GreatWorshipSongs.com is a worship-centric imprint and division of Brentwood-Benson Music Publishing (a Universal Music Publishing Group Company) serving worship leaders and pastors with new worship songs for corporate and personal worship. Check them out and let your music pastor know about them too!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.GwenSmith.net.
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September 17, 2008
Mrs. Jaynes, You're Leading Again
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil." (Hebrews 5:14 NASB)
Friend to Friend
After ten years of marriage, I convinced my very masculine husband to take a few ballroom dance classes with me. Steve and I had been to a resort in Sea Island, Georgia, and had watched couples as they glided around the dance floor, moving as one to the fluid sounds of a professional orchestra playing music from the Big Band era. That's what I wanted to do! I wanted us to be Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire. So, I signed us up for ballroom dance classes with visions of grandeur.
The first order of business at our initial ballroom dance class was to learn the Fox Trot. "OK Dr. and Mrs. Jaynes," the instructor began, "today, we will learn a dance called the Fox Trot. Dr. Jaynes, you place your right hand on your wife's left shoulder blade. Cup it firmly in your hand." Then she turned to me. "Now Mrs. Jaynes, you gently rest your left hand on your husband's right shoulder." "So far so good," we all agreed.
She proceeded to teach us to make little boxes with our feet while counting 1-2-3-4, 1-2-3-4. (Floating around the room as one, this was not.) The instructor smiled at Steve and said, "Dr. Jaynes, you have the hardest part because the man has to learn how to lead. All the woman has to do is follow." More than once she tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Mrs. Jaynes, you're leading again." The problem was, when I led, Steve wouldn't follow and that train couldn't have two engines.
I quickly became bored with the little boxes and asked, "Can we learn to move around the room a little instead of making boxes in the same spot all the time?" We then learned how to modify our box so it looked like a box with a flap open. We took two steps sideways and two steps backwards. Actually, Steve got to move forwards and I had to move backwards, which seemed totally unfair to me. I understood that we both could not move forward, but why did it have to be the woman who moved backwards? The instructor assured me that this was the way God planned it, or at least that's what it sounded like to me.
I had wanted to feel like Ginger Rogers, gliding in graceful movements across the dance floor but instead I felt like a shopping buggy being pushed through the supermarket, and Steve looked more like Fred Rogers instead of Fred Astaire. All the while, I was being reprimanded, "Mrs. Jaynes, you're leading again."
Another thing we had to learn was not to look down at our feet, but at each other. "Concentrate on looking at each other's face," the instructor said. "Looking at your feet will not make them do the right steps. You just need to listen to the music and let your feet move you around the room."
"Yeah, right," I thought. I felt better looking down, as if my eyes could will my feet into the correct steps. Eventually however, I did learn to keep my eyes off of my feet and on my leader's handsome face.
After our first forty-five minute class was over, the instructor warned, "Now you must go home and practice. If you don't practice, it won't take long to forget everything you learned today." Let's just say, she was right.
So it goes. Sometimes it's not fun to learn those fundamental but necessary beginning steps in our Christian walk. We want to glide through our spiritual journey with the ease and beauty of Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers, moving as one, effortlessly across life's dance floor. But without learning those basic first steps and without practice, Fred and Ginger we will never be. Hebrews 5:14 states that "Solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil."
The truth is, our Leader, God, does have the hardest part. And guess what. He knows all the steps! We just need to learn how to follow His lead. As long as we keep trying to take over the lead, our feet will trip and stumble through life. But when we relinquish control and place our trust in Him, our lives will be a perfectly choreographed dance of beauty and grace.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, forgive me for trying to take control of my life. I want You to be the LORD of my life...all of it. I release control to You today. Thank You for the Holy Spirit that taps me on the shoulder and warns me, "You're leading again."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
This devotion has a twofold purpose. It shows the beauty of giving control over to God, but it is also a picture of the beauty of a marriage when the husband is the spiritual leader.
How are you doing in the "dance of life" with your husband?
Do you struggle allowing him to lead?
Did you know that a man who has a controlling wife will eventually give up trying to be the spiritual leader?
What are some ways that you can allow and encourage your husband to be the leader of your home?
If you are not married, what are some ways that you can relinquish control over to your spiritual husband, Jesus Christ?
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Our marriages are meant to be a reflection of Jesus Christ and His relationship with the church. How are you doing? Need a little help? We cannot change someone else, but we can certainly change ourselves. For more on how to have an amazing marriage, see Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams -- Seven qualities every man longs for.
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September 18, 2008
The Spiritual Cancer
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." James 4:6
Friend to Friend
I was born and raised in Texas, a proud native through and through. Texans are commonly known for their boisterous pride in their state, and I am no exception. I especially enjoy the constant barrage of jokes I receive because of my heritage and delight in their part truth and part lore humor at the expense of myself and every other Texan. One story goes something like this:
Two Texans were trying to impress each other with the size of their ranches. One asked the other, "What's the name of your ranch?" The rancher replied, "The Rocking R, ABC, Flying W Circle C, Bar U, Staple Four, Box D, Rolling M, Rainbow's End, and Silver Spur Ranch." Duly impressed, the questioner exclaimed, "Wow" That's sure some name! How many head of cattle do you run?" With a sad shake of his head, the rancher answered, "Not many. Very few survive the branding." Very few survive the deadly disease of pride, either.
C.S. Lewis called pride a "spiritual cancer" that devours love and contentment. Pride is a sign of our own insecurity and feelings of inferiority. Pride and inferiority are actually opposite sides of the same coin and are both sin, a preoccupation with self that leaves little room for God's spirit of humility. Spurgeon poetically warned us not to be proud of "race, face, or place".
We all struggle with pride and must constantly battle the tendency to measure every circumstance and relationship against the narcissistic viewpoint of "What's in it for me?" Pride has no place in the life of a Christian because pride steps between God and us. To think that God stands in opposition against prideful people is a strong and sobering statement that should send us all running to the place of humility. Because He is a loving Father, God opposes pride, in part, for what it does to His children. "Pride will destroy a person; a proud attitude leads to ruin. It is better to be humble and be with those who suffer than to share stolen property with the proud." (Proverbs 16:18-19) Learning to deal with pride is an important and essential part of spiritual growth.
Pride will prevent us from seeing others as God sees them. Pride will hold us back from laying down our expectations and rights in order to reach out to those who cross our path. Pride will slowly erode the humble spirit God so wants to see in His people and in their relationships. I suspect that a good dose of humility would cure many of our failing marriages, broken family relationships and struggling friendships. Then the question becomes, how can we rid our lives of pride and prevent it from carving out a destructive stronghold from which relationship problems arise. The answer is found in a passage of scripture written by the apostle Paul and directed to the church in Rome.
Romans 12:3 -6;10 "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Paul certainly understood what it meant to struggle with pride. Before his encounter with Christ, Paul had been a man of great arrogance. After all, he was a power broker in the Roman government as well as a highly regarded and chief persecutor of anyone following Jesus Christ. Little did Paul know what the road to Damascus held for him that day when God interrupted Paul's life with His blinding love and unparalleled power. Everything changed. Paul became a humble man, the walking definition of a servant, delighting in his new role of striving to be last among the least. Paul understood that he was a trophy of grace; that his heart had been captured by grace and his life completely transformed in the process. God's grace was Paul's starting place and finish line and the very reason Paul was so humble and so powerful. It is such a paradox in God's economy of life that in order to be strong we must choose weakness and in order to be first we must be content with last.
The amazing truth is that grace is ours for the asking. God stands ready to pour His priceless grace into every heart and soul while watching grace work to generate an unexplainable peace, eternal life, unending joy, and freedom from sin through unconditional love. Grace offers us the riches of God, at the expense of Jesus Christ and His death on the cross.
Pride's goal is to make us independent of God, duping us into believing that we are in control of our own fate and are able to call our own shots. What audacity we possess as humans to think we can live life on our own when, whether we admit it or not, we are totally dependent on God and even our very next breath is a gift from His hand. Pride convinces us that we can play God, worshipping ourselves while erecting false idols shrouded in rebellion and sin. Pride is the universal religion of hell and a deadly poison.
A friend recently told me about a new product she found listed online. "Disposable Guilt Bags" first appeared in a few select stores to test the market. I could have told the creator that guilt exists in abundance and that people will go to any lengths to assuage their guilt. My friend explained that you could buy a set of Disposable Guilt Bags, ten ordinary brown bags on which were printed the following instructions: "Place the bag securely over your mouth then take a deep breath and blow out all of your guilt. Close the bag and dispose of immediately." The amazing part of this story is that the Associated Press reported that over 2500 kits had sold immediately at $2.50 per kit.
Nothing on this earth is powerful enough to erase guilt. We try to "fix" ourselves but fail. The only power that makes it possible to be forgiven is God's grace. "In Christ we are set free by the blood of his death. And so we have forgiveness of sins because of God's rich grace." (Ephesians 1:7) When our lives are lived against the backdrop of grace, pride will die from a lack of attention.
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive my arrogant heart. I am so sorry for the pride I see in my life. Today, I ask You to search my heart and destroy the strongholds of pride and ego. Help me to recognize prideful thoughts and actions in my life. Give me the discernment to be honest and transparent before You and before others. I, too, am a trophy of grace. Help me to live like one. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and answer each question:
• Psalm 10:4 "In his pride the wicked does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God." (NIV) How does pride affect our relationship with God? Is this true in your life?
• Proverbs 16:5 "The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished." (NIV) What is God's attitude toward those who are proud?
• Psalm 40:4 "Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods." (NIV) How does pride encourage idolatry? Do you have any idols in your life? Name them and eliminate them.
What decision do you need to make today in order to choose grace over pride? What would that look like in your daily life?
More from the Girls
I have the honor and privilege of working with two precious friends who are godly women, seeking His heart and plan every step of the way. Gwen Smith's new book, "Broken Into Beautiful," is a beautiful illustration of God's grace at work in a woman's heart. Sharon Jaynes' book, "Your Scars Are Beautiful to God" will lead you to the place of discovering just how much God loves you. I encourage you to visit their online stores today and pick up these two life-changing resources. Why not pick up a copy for a special girlfriend?
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September 19, 2008
Letting Go
Leslie Nease
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Leslie Nease.
Today's Truth
3 John 1:4 "I could have no greater joy than to hear that my children are following the truth." (NLT)
Friend to Friend
As I type this, my oldest daughter, Stephanie, is preparing to go off to college. She leaves in a little over two weeks. It is so bitter-sweet I can hardly stand it! They say that once you have a child, you forever wear your heart on the outside of your body. I can relate to that statement.
She made a decision a few months ago to stay home and go to a college close by. I thought it was strange at the time because she had already picked out a great Christian University to attend that was about two hours away. Of course, this change in her plans excited me as I was thrilled she would be near us! However, she began to regret her decision after awhile and I saw her entire demeanor change.
She was honest with me about three weeks ago and said she made the decision because she didn't want me to be hurt if she left. I never asked her to stay, but somehow I must have left the impression that I was going to fall apart the day she walked out the door! I was devastated that I did that to her.
Now I was ready to let her go. She is going to her original University choice and I couldn't be happier for her. Sure, I will miss her deeply but seeing her so miserable out of the will of God made me realize that I'd rather let her go than keep her here and have her walking in disobedience and misery. Who am I to stand in the way of what God has for her?
I'm realizing as my children are all growing up that letting go is hard and exciting all at the same time. Honestly, I think I'm at the place where I'm more excited for her than I am sad for me, but it's been a tough year. She's not really my child anyway -- she belongs to God. He has plans for her that are so exciting and wonderful that I can't help but be excited for her! I'm so blessed to have her in my life and as long as I point her to Him, I've done my job well.
I still have three more children in the nest to nurture for now but it's time for my Stephanie to try out those beautiful wings now. Fly, baby! Fly!
I'm reminded today of these lyrics from Find Your Wings by Mark Harris:
I pray that God would fill your heart with dreams
And that faith gives you the courage
To dare to do great things
I'm here for you whatever this life brings
So let my love give you roots
And help you find your wings
It's not living if you don't reach for the sky
I'll have tears as you take off
But I'll cheer as you fly
Let's Pray
Oh, Father! You have given us such a gift in our precious children. Thank You for allowing us to be used by You to help them grow. Please give us grace as we raise them and inevitably, let them go. Thank You for the fact that they are Your children and You love them even more than we do and that even though our job is to let them go, Your job is to hold on to them for dear life! Please care for them, protect them and direct their steps. You are faithful! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you are in the process of letting go of a child, or maybe even if you have one coming up in the next couple of years, remember that they can tell when we are feeling sad about their departure. Why not ask God to give you the grace to let go joyfully? Our kids don't want to hurt us and they need to know we are supporting them at this time in their lives.
God knows how much your heart hurts as you let go. Take time to spend with Him and ask Him to show you scriptures that will encourage you and give you peace of mind.
Always remember that God loves your children even more than you do! Isn't that a comfort to know? Praise Him for that and continue to pray for them as they venture out into the plans He has for them.
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September 22, 2008
God's Speedometer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."(Romans 12:2 NKJV)
Friend to Friend
I met my husband at a Bible Study in college and quickly learned that he was a very frugal, industrious, and resourceful young man. On our first date, he came to pick me up in his ten-year-old Volkswagen Beetle, which he had purchased for $725. He says it was yellow. I say it was beige. Regardless of the color, this fine piece of machinery had several "remarkable" features.
I don't know if it was the weather or our excitement on our first date, but as soon as we got into the car, the windows fogged up. As we drove down Franklin Street in Chapel Hill, he asked, "Sharon, will you please get the defroster from the glove compartment and help me out so I can see?" I reached in the compartment to pull out the defroster: a small towel. Of course, I was impressed with his great wit and was delighted to ride around campus, wiping the front windshield as we went along. (Isn't it amazing the perspective we have of inconveniences when love is new?)
Another amazing feature of this "beige" car was its ability to plow through the snow like a miniature snowmobile. In the South, it's a big deal when we get more than a few flakes because we're not prepared for big snows. So over our first spring break, when it snowed 18", everyone was paralyzed, homebound, or on the streets sliding around the road and into each other. Everyone, that is, except Steve and his Little Engine That Could. We were the envy of all the other shiny new cars on campus.
But perhaps the most remarkable feature of the VW was the speedometer. It didn't work. The speedometer broke when the odometer hit 200,000 miles and never left zero again.
"Steve," I asked, "If your speedometer doesn't work, how do you know how fast you are going?"
"Well," he answered, "I never know for sure how fast I'm going. I just have to pay attention to how fast cars around me are traveling and pace myself according to their speed. Besides, I can tell when to change gears and about how fast I'm going by how much the car shakes!"
So Steve traveled around town and on highways, with no earthly idea of his exact speed. He was totally dependent on those around him in order to pace himself.
We were married ten months after our first date, on a hot August day, between the last session of summer school and fall semester. It was about 98 degrees the day Steve drove from Charlotte to Rocky Mount, N.C. for our wedding weekend. (Oh, did I mention that the VW had no air-conditioning?) He left Charlotte in the wee hours on a Friday morning to avoid the mid-day heat. Because it was so early, there was virtually no traffic. Now that may seem like a dream come true for most people, but remember, Steve needed traffic to judge his own speed. His points of reference were missing, and he began to sweat.
About two hours into the trip, Steve saw a blue light flashing in his rear-view mirror and his heart sank as he realized he was being pulled over by a state patrolman.
"Where you going in such a hurry, young man?" the officer asked.
"Actually, sir, I'm on my way to get married," Steve replied.
The patrolman just smiled as he handed Steve the ticket and said, "Well, don't let this ruin your day."
When Steve told me his story, I was really angry at that patrolman. But the truth is that cars are not intended to be driven without a speedometer, and neither are we. Our speedometer of course, is the Word of God. The Lord has written us this wonderful love letter to teach us how to drive safely through life. We aren't supposed to judge our pace or lifestyle by the lifestyle or pace of others. We aren't supposed to listen to the world's ideas for success, happiness, and fulfillment. We are to listen to God and allow His Word to be our guide.
Romans 12:2 says, "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." I'll admit, sometimes I have a tendency to listen to the world's wooing and pace myself according to what is going on around me. However, when we listen to the world's voices rather than to God's voice, when we pace ourselves according to the culture around us, we are headed for trouble.
But when we pattern our actions according to God's Word and depend on the Holy Spirit to fuel our lives, we'll be headed safely in the right direction.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you that we don't have to guess how to do this thing called life. You have given us the owner's manual -- the Bible. We don't need to pattern our lives by what we see going on around us, but we can look right in Your Word to learn how to have an abundant life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Would you say that you pattern your life more according to what the Bible has to say, or by what the world around you has to say?
Here are some hard questions to consider. What is your view on the following verses?
A man and woman living together who are not married?
Little white lies?
Cheating on taxes?
Gossip -- or reading about gossip?
Sex outside of marriage?
Today, think about some other areas where you might have formed opinions based on the world's ideas, rather than God's truth.
More from the Girlfriends
Wow, this devotion left us with a lot to think about. Sometimes it is difficult to know if our thoughts are Biblical or worldly. The only way to know the difference is to know God's Word. If you would like to learn more about what the Bible has to say, Sharon Jaynes has many wonderful Bible study guides. Most of the books on her resource page have a Bible study in the back or a separate Bible study guide. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com and discover the many treasures in the Bible just waiting to be discovered!
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September 23, 2008
Pride and Chiggers
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:3b "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." (NIV)
Friend to Friend
A famous explorer in South America was once forced to abandon his journey by an almost invisible enemy. He was equipped to meet leopards, serpents and crocodiles. They proved to be no threat, but what he had failed to consider were the tiny insects called chiggers. They are so tiny that in North America we call them the "no see-ums." Someone composed this poem about these tiny invaders:
Here's to the chigger, the bug that's no bigger
Than the end of a very small pin;
But the itch that he raises simply amazes,
And that's where the rub comes in!
Pride and chiggers have a lot in common. Pride comes in little ways, unseen actions, subtle thoughts or inconspicuous comments. Unguarded attitudes and random thoughts are prime breeding grounds for pride. We must take charge of those thoughts, discipline our attitudes, training our thinking processes to give up and obey God.
Pride loves to take up residence in an undisciplined thought life, changing the setting and dictating attitudes with little or no resistance. When Paul encouraged the believers in Rome to cultivate "sober judgment", he was warning them to take charge of the mind, refusing to allow the entrance of any thoughts that would entertain pride. A disciplined thought life is the very foundation of a victorious journey with God.
I have heard it said that the bigger a man's head gets, the easier it is to fill his shoes. It is not wrong for Christians to recognize and even applaud gifts in our own lives and in the lives of others as long as we remember that spiritual gifts are ours to manage, not to own. Pride draws attention to those God given gifts and tempts us to take credit for their existence and the way in which they are used.
Many of us attempt to find worth and identity in what we do -- not who we are. As a result, our actions are intended to draw the attention of anyone and everyone in a vain effort to establish self-worth. There may be people in your life who are difficult to love. Our responsibility is to love and accept these difficult people without insisting they change or counting on them to change. In order to do that, we must choose grace and humility over pride and censure. Pride vanishes beneath the loving gaze of our Father who simply longs for each one of us to see ourselves through His eyes -- no more and no less.
The frontline of battle against pride is the mind. We are in a war for the control of the mind. Paul recognized that truth and urges us on in the battle, "We are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ." (2 Corinthians 10:5 NASB) To take something captive is a military tactic that we would do well to employ because the harsh reality is that when it comes to our thought life we are in a great battle -- especially when dealing with pride. Sometimes it seems as if pride can actually crawl into my mind, grab hold of any undisciplined thoughts floating around. Pride then flings those random thoughts into my heart as an attitude laced with burning arrogance and prideful perception of who I am in comparison to others. We can change our lives by changing how we think. We can dictate the attitudes of our heart by fixing our thoughts on God and His truth. The result is peace, which stands against pride, electing humility instead. "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you." (Isaiah 26:3) What does it mean to "fix" our thoughts? Webster's Dictionary defines "fixed" as "rigid, solid or firm". We must learn to fix our thoughts on the truth of God's word. We need to be rigid in controlling our thought processes, holding firm to God's standard for the mind. The result will be a stable way of thinking and living. To prevent pride requires a choice to take charge of our mind.
I once dated a young man I thought was "the one". For some reason, my mother did not like him. Knowing her daughter very well, my mother said nothing but I am sure she was on her knees pleading with God to take that young man out of my life. He did. We eventually broke up and my mother finally spilled the beans, explaining why she had a problem with this young man. "If I could buy him for what he's worth and sell him for what he thinks he is worth, I would be a millionaire!" Mama did have a way with words. She was so right! Today, that man is out of ministry, divorced and living a life that is unpleasing to God. His pride robbed him of the best God had for him. Don't let that happen to you. Run from anyone or anything that promotes a prideful attitude. Eliminate the strongholds of pride in your life. Nail your ego to the cross and declare it powerless. Celebrate the trophy of grace you are in God.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the grace You give. Thank You that grace covers all my sin with unconditional love and forgiveness. Help me to walk in that grace, turning away from pride and arrogance. Give me a humble spirit that draws others to You. Help me to see myself through Your eyes and then live out what I see. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
One of my favorite quiet time exercises is to create an acrostic using one word from the passage of Scripture I have read that day, pinpointing and explaining the main truth in the Scripture. Try it! Let me help you get started.
P. Pompous mindset
R. rejected
I. I sentence my ego to
D. death
E. Eliminating pride
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Pride is an ugly thing, isn't it? It can easily creep into our thoughts, set up house and begin its destructive process. I have come to realize that I must daily nail my old self to the cross and count it dead if pride is to be eliminated. What does that mean? We must constantly choose others first, refusing to enthrone self in any circumstance. Ouch! It is so easy to promote me instead of others but I am determined to do so. How about you? Need help? Check out Sharon Jaynes' new book, Extraordinary Moments With God. It will shift your perspective to search for God's handprints of grace in every day life.
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September 24, 2008
Masterpiece in the Making
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you" (Philippians 1:6, AMP).
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It took four years of fresco painting for the Italian Renaissance sculptor, painter, architect, and poet Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, to finish the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Commonly known as Michelangelo, his time painting was mostly spent alone, on his back, lying on scaffolding. (How painful!) The painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is one of the most remarkable in the history of Western art. One thing is for sure: the process that altered a ceiling from plain to fabulous required a lot of time, great discipline, and the hand of a master artist. The same is true for us. The journey from broken into beautiful is a lifelong transformation that requires both discipline and a Master Artist.
As Michelangelo was working, I'm sure that lots of people came through the corridors of the chapel and stood in amazement. As they looked up at the beauty of his work, I bet they said things like, "That is the most fantastic work of art I have ever seen!" or "Extraordinary!" To which he might have said, "It's not done!" But did the unfinished state of the project negate that parts of the ceiling were beautiful? No! The parts that were complete were still extravagant and breathtaking.
Maybe this is the way God and others see our lives. It's common for people to notice the work God has done in us and comment on the beauty. And even though compliments are nice to hear, I've been known to resist them. (Admit it, you probably have too.) It's not so much a humility thing as it is an "I-don't-see-myself-as-beautiful" thing. From my limited perspective, I can see only the unfinished work. But in truth, my vantage point doesn't negate the beauty of the work God has done and is doing in my life.
Real beauty isn't about a finished or flawless product. It can't be. It's not possible on this side of eternity to have completed beauty. Our restoration will be complete in the presence of God when we see Him face to face.
Now, you might be saying, "But Gwen, I can't be beautiful! You don't know what I've done...or what I've been through...or what I'm going through!"
Friend, God knows where you have been, what you have been through, and where you are now. He knows what your flaws are and loves you in spite of your imperfections. His tender love is far-reaching and complete.
Your past sins do not define you.
Your painful scars do not define you.
Your present sufferings do not define you.
They are just shards of brokenness that God will use to lovingly refine your beauty. The transformation from broken into beautiful is neither easy nor instantaneous. It demands a yielded heart and can be quite painful, but it comes with great reward. God will need your broken pieces--your scars, shame, insecurities, disappointments, betrayals, and failures.
Do you have some of those?
Are they tucked away in a safe, do-not-enter part of your heart?
You might find it hard to hand over hurts. I get that. It's hard for me too. But difficult as it may be, it's time to hand them over and let our masterful Lord create a stunning work of beauty in you. And He's going to need all of your broken pieces to complete the restoration.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I am humbled by Your willingness to love and forgive someone like me. Please take the broken pieces of my life and don't allow me to have them back. I surrender to Your healing. Mold me and shape me into a beautiful reflection of Your glory. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 64:8, "Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."
Meditate on this verse. Read it again and personalize it in a prayerful response to God: "Yet, O LORD, you are MY Father. I AM the clay, you are the potter; I AM the work of your hand."
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Friends!! I'm so excited to announce that my new CD, Unsearchable, is just weeks away from its official release date!! Because my GiGs are so special to me, I've asked my record label, Great Worship Songs, to provide a few songs for early sale as mp3, lead sheet, and chord chart downloads! CLICK HERE to be the first to hear songs from UNSEARCHABLE!!!
Today's devotion is taken from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. God delights to transform lives ...even your own! In Broken into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and let you see the wonder of grace at work. To order, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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September 25, 2008
God's Healing Salve
Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3:14 (NIV)
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When I was a little girl, my grandmother kept a jar of mentholated salve at the ready. No matter what the nature of the ailment or the cause, grandma pulled out the salve and rubbed the slimy goop all over my injury. Not only was it slimy, but the smell alone was enough to scare off any germs or bacteria that dare pass the epithelial walls of my skin.
God has a salve as well. It is called forgiveness.
Forgiving those who have hurt or abused us is perhaps one of the most difficult aspects of healing, but without it, I do not believe we can ever be free to find the beauty and purpose in the scars of our past. Actually, without extending forgiveness, I believe the wound may not be able to heal at all. Each time we remember what was done to us or what was said and how it was said, or how we were wronged, we pick at the scab of offense and reopen the wound.
"Unforgiveness can be likened to a parasite; it feeds on the anger and hurt of its host, finding its most satisfying nourishment in human pain. It thrives on the cycle of replayed scenes, recalled anguish, and rehashed justification for holding fast to grudges. Essentially, unforgiveness grows plump on our desire for revenge."(Diane Dempsey Marr, Ph.D., The Reluctant Traveler (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 2002), p.113.)
While many of us don't exactly plan to exact revenge, we somehow think that holding on to the unforgiveness is revenge enough. Ironically, the person whom we refuse to forgive most likely doesn't even care or even know we're carrying the unforgiveness around. The only person being hurt when I choose not to forgive is...me. The only person being hurt when you choose not to forgive is...you. It is as if we are hitting our own heads against the wall in order to punish the other person.
The Greek word for forgiveness is aphieme. One meaning of the word is to "let go of from one's power, possession, to let go free, to let escape." It means to cut someone loose! The opposite of forgiveness -- unforgiveness - means to tie someone on. Just think about it. When we choose not to forgive, we tie the person to our backs, lugging around the heavy burden of hate, bitterness or revenge. No wonder some of us are not running the great race of life very well. It's difficult trying to run with all that baggage.
As we move along the journey of discovering peace and purpose in the pain of our past, this is where many decide the terrain grows a bit too rugged to traverse. "That is too hard for me," the weary traveler moans. "I don't like that road," the rebellious sojourner protests. "Isn't there another way?" the reluctant traveler begs.
Unfortunately, forgiveness is the only path to freedom. When you think about it, forgiveness is the only way to freedom for all of us. From the time we were born, each and every one of us is slaves to sin. We didn't become a sinner the first time we did something wrong. We were born in sin with a live body, but a dead spirit. Because of that sin, we were separated from God.
But God didn't leave us as aliens doomed to a life of slavery and eternity in hell. He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, who was born of a virgin, who lived a perfect life, died as a sacrifice for our sins, and rose again to reign forever. He didn't wait until we were "good enough," for that day would never come. "While we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). God took the biggest obstacle in our lives, our own sinful heritage, and actually changed our spiritual DNA. "If you confess with your mouth, "'Jesus is Lord,'" and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9).
"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death." Romans 8:1-2 (NIV) God sets us free the moment we believe.
But what does that have to do with forgiving the person who hurt us? Everything. The Bible says, "Forgive as the Lord forgave you." (Colossians 3:13) I'm going to stop right here today. We need to ponder how much we have been forgiven. Join me tomorrow as we continue to look at the power of forgiveness.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I cannot begin to express the joy and gratitude I feel for the way You extended grace to me. Thank You for forgiving me of my sin. Thank You for accepting me as Your child. I love You. Amazing grace, how sweet the sound.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 7:36-50 and ponder the following questions:
What did this woman do?
Why was the woman so grateful?
What blessing did Jesus give her as she left? "Go in __________."
Now, after this experience, how many grudges do you think she held against other people?
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God's forgiveness is an amazing thing to ponder. If you would like to learn more about God's forgiveness and about your identity as a child of God, see Sharon's book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover. His grace is the key to becoming spiritually beautiful in Christ!
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September 26, 2008
God's Healing Salve
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:14 NIV).
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Yesterday we looked at the amazing grace and forgiveness we have each received from God. Today, let's continue our time together thinking about forgiving those who have hurt us. As I mentioned yesterday, forgiveness is the only path to freedom. Whether it is our own freedom from the penalty of sin we are talking about, or freedom from the pain of our past, forgiveness is the only way.
But he doesn't deserve to be forgiven, I hear you say. Neither did I. Neither did you. Forgiveness has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not the person who hurt us deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is not saying that what the person did or didn't do was right. It is simply saying that we are taking the person off of our hook and placing them on God's hook. We are cutting them loose from our backs and giving the burden to God. We are no longer allowing them to hold us captive by holding a grudge.
As long as we do not forgive, we are held in Satan's vice grip. Satan's number one avenue to ensnare his prey is unforgiveness. Paul wrote, "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice" (Ephesians 4:31). Why? "In order that no advantage be taken of us by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his schemes" (2 Corinthians 2:11 NIV).
Forgiveness does not mean that we put ourselves in a position to be abused or mistreated again. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is very important to set up healthy boundaries or remove yourself from the situation. There are many great books to assist with how and when to set boundaries for healthy relationships.
Nothing will make us more bitter than an unforgiving spirit. And nothing will dissolve bitterness quicker than a decision to forgive and let go of the offense or disappointment. We cannot be bitter and get better at the same time.
Forgiveness is not:
Saying that what the person did was not wrong
Absolving the person from responsibility for their actions
Denying the wrong occurred
Pretending the abuse did not happen.
Forgiveness is:
Letting go of your need for revenge
Cutting the person loose
Refusing to let bitterness and hatred rule your life.
Are you ready to be free? Let's look at six steps to forgiveness. We'll wrap up our prayer time and "Now It's Your Turn" all in one today.
Six Steps to Forgiveness
Let me walk with you through six steps to forgiveness that might help you in the process:
On a piece of paper, write the name of the person who has hurt you.
Write down how the person hurt you (i.e. rape, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, neglect, betrayal, desertion, rejection, etc.)
Write down how you feel about that person. Be honest. God knows how you feel.
Decide to forgive. Forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision of the will. God will never tell us to do something without providing the power to obey. He has told us to forgive and will give us the power-- but it all begins with the decision to do so.
Take your list to God and confess your forgiveness to Him. "Lord, I come to You today and give up my unforgiveness. I forgive_____for __________. At this moment, I choose not to hold his/her offense against him/her, but put them into your hands. I pray that you will heal my emotional wounds and help me to be able to help someone else with the same comfort you have given me. I cut ______ loose."
Destroy the list. As a visual exercise, destroy the list. Some have taken the list to a safe place, such as a fireplace, and burned it. Others have actually nailed the paper to a wooden cross. Still others have written the person's name that they are forgiving on a helium balloon and released it to heaven. However you choose, give the name to God.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God. If you would like to learn more about being free from your past, you'll want to check out this resource. Also included is a Bible study guide to dig deeper into God's Word.
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September 29, 2008
Learning to Abide
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:4-5 "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me, and I in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do nothing." (NASB)
Friend to Friend
It's that time of year again. Schools are recruiting parents for classroom duties, sports teams are looking for team moms, and the women's ministry is begging for help ... and the list really does go on and on. How do you react when an opportunity for service presents itself? Do you feel guilty saying "no" and end up saying "yes"? Why do women feel as if they have to do it all? Oh, I am certain that a woman can do just about anything she sets her mind to do. I'm just not sure she can do it all at the same time.
For years, I tried to earn the love and approval of God by doing everything I could find to do. If a position needed filling, I filled it. If a job needed doing, I did it. If volunteers were called for, mine was the first hand raised. After all, if I was doing all of these important things then I must be important, too. Right? The result was two dark years spent at the bottom of a deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. It was as if God allowed me to run to the end of myself, then shut the door and turned out the lights. I heard him loud and clear, "That is enough! It is time for you to abide in me." I knew very little about "abiding" but a whole lot about "doing". I soon learned that to abide in God, to rest in Him requires a balanced life with right priorities.
One of the main factors in my battle with clinical depression was that I didn't understand how to live a balanced life. I found it difficult to set boundaries, failed to establish margins of time for the unplanned or unexpected, and unwittingly surrendered my God-ordained priorities to the empty, vain addiction of just "doing the next thing" or pleasing the loudest voice. Balance can easily become a casualty of this ongoing battle. While sitting in the darkness, waiting on God, I discovered that the pit of despair is a common destination for those who refuse to measure and balance the sometimes overwhelming demands of home, family, friends, work and personal growth. I had been running the race for the wrong audience and as a result, relied on my own power instead of God's power.
I wish I could tell you that I now lead a perfectly balanced life, but the truth is that I constantly have to re-evaluate my priorities and goals in order to find the holy balance God intends. Many of you tell me that you have the same struggle. Just like you, I constantly have to make difficult choices between the good things and the best things. When I make the wrong choices, I can sense myself sliding toward the dangerous edge of darkness. I don't want to go there again -- so the battle continues. The good news is that I don't have to fight alone and neither do you. God is with us, urging us toward the light and His restoration power that comes from a heart and life that rests and abides in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I desperately need Your guidance in setting the priorities and goals in my life. I want to please You and do what You alone have created me to do. Help me to see and do Your plan. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside 30 minutes this week to spend alone with God.
Examine your life for areas that are out of balance.
Record each area in your journal.
Surrender that imbalance to God and ask Him to show you how to abide in Him instead of relying upon yourself and your own strength.
Set aside one day this month for a silent retreat. Go to the beach -- a park -- your back yard! Just get alone with God and take a spiritual inventory of your priorities, time management and goals. The results may surprise you.
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I have decided that a perfectly balanced life was lived only once on this earth -- by Jesus Christ. My chances of doing so are slim. It would be so easy to just throw my hands in the air or dive back under the covers and pray that the world will just go away and leave me alone. Been there? You are not alone, girlfriend. Gwen, Sharon and I fight the same fight. We are all in different seasons of life, but the struggle is the same -- learning to put God first and then allowing Him to set the agenda for each day. Need help? Escaping the Stress Trap would be a great guide to learning how to abide in God. I also have a free online bible study you might find helpful. Know that we are with you and praying for you!
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September 30, 2008
Purified as Gold
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"My ears had heard of you, but now my eyes have seen you" (Job 42:5 NIV).
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When bad things happen in our lives, we tend to ask why. There are many purposes for the pain in our past. Our understanding of God's character is broadened, our faith is strengthened, our character is matured, our souls are purified, our vision is clarified, our passions are enflamed, and our hearts are softened. Of course with each of those positive qualities, a negative one could occur. For example, our understanding of God could be skewed, our character compromised, our souls sullied, our vision clouded, our passions extinguished, our hearts hardened. Just as the sun hardens clay and softens wax, we have the choice. We can't change our past, but we can determine the effect it will have on our future to make us bitter or better.
I think of all that Job went through: all but one of his servants were murdered, fire from the sky burned up his sheep, the Chaldeans stole his camels, and a mighty wind blew down a house where all his children were feasting...killing them all...and that happened all in one day!
What did Job do after such losses? He tore his clothes and shaved his head as a sign of mourning. That I can understand. But then in the next verse we learn..."Then he fell to the ground in worship..."
All through the book of Job, we read of more tragedy that befell this one single man. Did he question God? Yes. Did he curse God as his wife suggested? No. In the end, after God had spoken to Job, he replied, "My ears had heard of you, but now my eyes have seen you" (Job 42:5). The story of Job is a difficult journey, but what He learned about God was worth the trip! God made him prosperous again and gave him twice as much as he had before...The Lord blessed the latter part of Job's life more than the first."
Henry F. Lyte writes a poem that I have grown to love. I pray it blesses you as much as it blesses me.
When God wants to drill a man
and thrill a man
and skill a man,
to play the noblest part.
When He yearns with all His heart
to create so bold a man
that the entire world will be amazed.
Watch His methods,
watch His ways.
How He ruthlessly perfects
whom He royally elects.
How He hammers him
and hurts him
with mighty blows converts him
into trial shapes of clay
which only God understands.
How He bends but never breaks
those whose good He undertakes.
How He uses what He chooses
and with every purpose fuses him,
to act and by every act induces him
to try His splendor out.
God knows what he's about.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank You for the trials in my life that have drawn me closer to You. Thank You for the purifying process of fire that brings the dross of my soul to the surface to be skimmed away. Help me to see the trials of my life through Your eyes. Thank You for the hard times that have made me who I am today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Did you have trouble with today's prayer? Can you thank God for the hard times? Oh friend, that prayer did not come easy for me. Today, write your own prayer to God, but rather than blanketing your difficulties with the word "trials," list them specifically. Thank God for what He did to mature you through specific struggles in your life.
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Trials. We don't like it when we are in the middle of them, but some things can only be learned on God-ordained field trips. If you would like to learn more about how God can use your pain for purpose, your hurt for hope and your miseries for ministries, you'll want to see Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past. It will help you discover the hidden treasure in the midst of your trials.
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October 1, 2008
The Promises of Problems
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
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If you are like me, you prefer days when the sun is shining, the sky is blue, and not a cloud in sight. Problems tend to irritate me because they make me realize just how frail I am as a human. But I have come to realize that every problem points to a promise.
Promise of direction
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn't close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. We had it all worked out. He was a preacher and I played the piano and sang. What could be more perfect? I began to pray, "Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door!" The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland. I look back and thank God for that closed door.
"Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways." Proverbs 20:30
Promise of correction
God uses problems to correct us. I have come to realize that some lessons can only be learned in the darkness, through pain and failure. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her...until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. "Ouch!" she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.
"It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." Psalm 119:71-72
Promise of protection
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. It was so hard for me to take our children to the doctor to get immunization shots. I would take a healthy child into the doctor's office and come out with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, "Mary, just think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself.
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
Promise of perfection
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I recently spoke for a women's conference that used the theme of "Problems into Pearls". Strands of pearls were everywhere -- the center of each table, on the podium from which I spoke, draped across tables -- and many of the ladies wore pearls that day. When the worship leader welcomed me, she said, "We have to get you some pearls!" Digging in her purse, she produced the most beautiful pearl necklace and placed it around my neck. As the day went on, I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When everyone had left, the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace. I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, "Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster."
"We can rejoice when we run into problems... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady." Romans 5:3-4
God is at work in and around you. You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for each problem that points me to You. Help me to see trials as handles for Your promises and tools for growth in my life. I choose to accept the lessons You want to teach me in the dark times and celebrate their truth in the light. Give me the strength and power to trust You completely.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What problem are you facing right now? Put it into words and record it in your journal.
Pray, surrendering that problem to God and ask Him for the promise it holds.
What good can come out of the problem you are facing?
What scripture promise do you claim because of this problem?
Write that promise on a 3 x 5 card and tuck it in your purse. When the going gets tough, pull out that card and read the verse aloud as a statement of your faith in your Problem-Solving God!
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If I had to choose between problems and peace, I know what I would naturally choose. Don't you? But God's ways are higher than our ways, His thoughts higher than our thoughts and His purpose more complete than our plans. Trust Him, today, my friend. He is Lord of the mountain, Shepherd of the valley and He loves you! Need help avoiding that pit? Check out Mary's CD, How to Avoid the Pits and sign up for her free online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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October 2, 2008
Salt and Light
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You are the salt of the earth. You are the light of the world" (Matthew 5:13,14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
You are the salt of the earth.
Have you ever tasted potatoes without salt added? They are bland, blasé, and blah. Likewise, a world without Christians would be very unappealing.
Salt has three primary purposes. It preserves, heals, and gives flavor. As Christians, one of our privileges is to preserve what is right and good in the world in which we live. Satan is referred to as a roaring lion. He prowls around seeking to rip Judeo Christian values from the government, public schools, entertainment industry, and the very fabric of life. Christians, on the other hand, serve to preserve the values of our godly heritage.
Salt is also an effective healing agent. Gargling with salt water helps heal a sore throat, swimming in a salty sea helps heal a skinned knee, and fellowshipping with "salty" Christians helps heal wounded souls by introducing them to spiritual, mental and physical wellness afforded them through a relationship with Jehovah Rapha -- the One who heals.
The most common use of salt is to add flavor, and as Christians, we add flavor to our world. A gourmet cook once told me that salt not only gives food the salty flavor, but it also brings out the natural flavor of the food to which it is added. As Christians, we should bring out the best in other people
You are the light of the world.
For eighteen years, I worked as a Dental Hygienist. Fourteen of those years I worked with my husband, Steve, and four to six other Christian women. When I think back on those days, I see our team as a chandelier of light: individual yet united to shine the light of Christ to our patients. In the reception room, Newsweek, Southern Living, and Better Homes and Gardens were mixed in with Focus on the Family, Guidepost, and Decision magazines.
Steve and his assistant volleyed ideas about various aspects of the Christian faith back and forth like a tennis ball over a net while they worked on patients. Talk about a captive audience! We prayed with patients, sent them books, and listened to their family problems. Someone once asked, "Aren't you afraid you'll offend someone and lose patients?"
"Someone might leave," I answered. "But a person can get into heaven with a cavity, but they can't get to heaven without knowing Christ."
In our own simple way, we were being light in a very dark world.
Think for a moment about what light does. It drives out darkness. Even the smallest birthday candle in a darkened coliseum will push the darkness aside. Jesus encourages Christians not to hide their light under a bushel, but to put it on a stand to be seen by all. Jesus said He was the light of the world. He has put that same light in you. It is part of your new identity.
Robert Louis Stevenson said, "When a happy man comes into a room, it is as if another candle has been lighted." How much more does a Christian who has something to be truly happy about light up a room!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I look around and see what the world would be like if all the Christian influences were removed. Help me to make a difference in my sphere of influence, bring the healing of Jesus Christ to those I come in contact, and encourage the best in others to surface. Help me be salt and light in the world.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think this verse means? "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men." (Matthew 5:13)
What do you think this verse means? "You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house." (Matthew 5:14,15)
Think of one way that you and your family can be salt and light in the world today.
Try sprinkling a little salt by giving words of encouragement to at least five people today.
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I don't know about you, but I want to be a salty Christian! If you would like to learn more about you role as salt and light, see Experience the Ultimate Makeover by Sharon Jaynes. It's sure to make you thirsty for more of the only One who can quench your thirst!
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October 3, 2008
What's in Your Nordstrom Bag?
Cindi Wood
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Cindi Wood.
Today's Truth
"Therefore comfort each other and edify one another." 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Friend to Friend
I was out walking in our neighborhood earlier this week, when my friend Linda pulled up beside me as she drove to her house. After speaking, the first thing I saw was the NORDSROM bag on the passenger seat beside her. The first thought I had was, "Oh, what fun. She's been shopping!" Linda's initial body language and facial expression indeed, was one that spoke, I'm having a good day and doing fun things. As the conversation unraveled, however, I found that nothing could have been further from the truth!
During the next few minutes, I learned that Linda was consumed with hurt over her mother's move to the nursing home. The Nordstrom bag carried her mom's clothes and toiletries. As we continued to chat, it became evident that my friend needed someone to share her burden and offer encouragement. What appeared to be a fun day at Nordstrom's turned out to be a sad day at the nursing home!
Over the last couple of days, I've thought a lot about that encounter. During the busy days of my life, people and things are often viewed as a tag-on -- coming in second to the many things that make up my To-Do list. This is not Jesus-thinking! Our Lord viewed people as top-priority, coming in second only to His relationship with His Heavenly Father. He knew the joy of self-sacrifice because He had first surrendered every detail of daily living to the Father. If you learn to love Jesus, to grow in your knowledge of Him and to increase your worship times with Him, then you will view people as priority!
Is there a "Linda" in your life today? If you pay attention, you'll see her at work or hear her on the phone and maybe even catch a glimpse of her in the restaurant. I can tell you this; in paying attention to who matters to Jesus, you are saying "thank you" to Him for all He's done for you!
"Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these . . . you did it to Me." Matthew 25:40
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, open the eyes of my heart today. Help me look beneath the exterior into the heart. I ask You to place someone in my path today that needs Your love and encouragement. I want to make people -- Your people -- a priority in my life. It touches me deeply that You allow me to minister to others for You. Thank You. I love You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you spent time alone with God today? Your effectiveness in "ministering" to others is directly related to your love-relationship with Him!
Have you considered that in serving others you are truly serving Jesus?
Ask Him to deepen your compassion to serve and to give you a heart that is tender and ready to offer encouragement.
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I find it's so easy to become self-absorbed. When I determine to focus my heart on Jesus, He keeps me loving others instead of being so consumed with myself and my own needs. If you'd like to learn more about growing your love relationship with Jesus, I invite you to check out www.frazzledfemale.com. God bless you on your journey!
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October 6, 2008
The First Question
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But the LORD God called to the man, "Where are you?" (Genesis 3:9 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Sometimes it is easy to read about Adam and Eve's failure in the garden and wonder how they could disobey like that! But the reality is that this is not Adam and Eve's story alone. It is our story as well. We make decisions on a daily basis that dishonor God. We disobey, take charge of our own lives, and become Lord of our own ring. Then like Eve, we try to cover up our shame and even attempt to hide from God.
Do you know the first question God asked in the Bible? After Adam and Eve hid from God, He asked -- Where are you? God knew exactly where they were, what they had done, and what the enemy had stolen from them. However, He decided to remain in relationship with them and begin the process of restoration which was completed on the Cross of Calvary. He asks the same question of us today, "Where are you?"
I think "but God" are the two most beautiful words in Scripture. "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). When did we become a sinner? The first time we sinned? No, we were born sinners and that sin is what separated us from God. While we were yet sinners, He became the perfect sacrifice for us, not to cover our ugliness, but to cleanse us forever -- once and for all. Salvation Army Officer, John Allen once said, "I deserved to be damned in hell, but God interfered." God interfered, intervened, and intercepted our death sentence. He sent His son, who paid the penalty for our sin and all we have to do to receive the pardon is accept His wonderful gift.
How do we accept the gift? "If you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you shall be saved" (Romans 10:9). When you accept Jesus Christ as your own personal Savior, you are freed from the penalty of sin (spiritual death and eternal separation from God) and He gives you a new living spirit. "Salvation is moving from living death to deathless life."
Why did God do this for us? "For God so loved the world that He gave his only Son. And whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life" (John 3:16). When you become a Christian, your spirit is reborn and you experience a spiritual makeover at that very moment "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17). We were crucified with Christ and now we live in Him (Galatians 2:20).
Have you accepted God's incredible gift? If not, He's still asking, "Where are you?"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for your great love for me. Thank you that you called me by name -- asked "Where are you?" Thank you for sending your Son to pay the penalty for my sin and save me from separation from You.
In Jesus' Name.
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Is there ever a time when you felt as though you wanted to hide from God?
How did God draw you back to Himself?
Is there any particular sin that God has brought to your attention that you need to repent of (turn and go in the opposite direction?)
What is the assurance that you have that God will forgive you?
Write your own "but God" story today. I was............but God.............
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The Bible says that when we come to Christ, we are a new creation. Since that is true, then why do we struggle with the same old issues? If I am a new creation, then why don't I act like one? I think it is because we don't have a good understanding of who we are as a child of God and the incredible power that lies within us. If you would like to learn more about who you are, what you have and where you are as a child of God, see Sharon's book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover.
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October 7, 2008
Patience Pays Off
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:12 "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." (NIV)
Friend to Friend
Patience is not one of my greatest strengths. In fact, I tend to live each day with a schedule in mind, an agenda by which to live that day and several goals I need to meet before the day's end. God does have a sense of humor. I can't tell you how many times my schedule falls apart, the agenda is completely forgotten and I have to move today's goals to tomorrow. I am learning that when God wants to build a certain quality in my life, He puts me in the opposite circumstance. For example, if God wants me to be more patient, He arranges the hours and minutes of my day in ways that demand patience.
What is patience? To be patient is to have the ability to endure, but it doesn't stop there. Patience must also have the capacity to be wronged and not retaliate. In other words, patience is love persevering and love waiting. We are not only to be patient in the way we face difficult situations but in our relationships as well. That just about covers life, doesn't it?
One of the most powerful bible passages on patience and perseverance is found in the book of James. "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." Do you want to be blessed? Stand firm in your trial. Do you want to be rewarded? Stand firm in that tough circumstance. Be patient -- because patience really does pay off. God promises blessings and rewards to those who persevere and stand firm in hard times, but the reason we can stand firm is because He loves us unconditionally and promises to walk with us through every dark moment life will bring. Nothing touches our life that does not pass through God's hand, with His permission.
Remember the bible story of the man named Job? Job was a faithful servant of God, strong in his faith and unwavering in his obedience to God. Satan didn't like it. In fact, he went to God and asked permission to test Job. I love that truth! The devil had to go to God like an errand boy in order to get permission to touch His child, Job. Satan was convinced that if Job lost everything God had given him - his health, his family, his possessions - if Job lost everything, he would curse God and follow Satan. God told the serpent to give it his best shot, convinced that Job would persevere. Satan stripped Job of his health, his possessions, his wealth and his family -- everything Job held dear. Job stood firm.
Every trial must come through His love but every trial has a purpose. Every pain has a purpose, every ordeal contains a seed of victory and there is a promise for every problem you and I will ever face. The psalmist writes, "The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy." (Psalm 28:7)
Patience pays off in many ways, but one of the greatest rewards of patience is joy, a deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. Warren Wiersbe writes, "when God permits his children to go through the furnace, He keeps his eye on the clock and his hand on the thermostat!" God will never let us face more than we can handle with His help. Hebrews 12:12 says it so well, "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." I have been there, done that and can relate to a weary heart and shaky legs. Can't you?
Patsy Clairmont shares the true story about her son, Jason. When he was seven, she sent him off to school one day. After a little while, there was a knock at the door and when Patsy opened the door, it was Jason. "What are you doing here?" she asked. "I've quit school" he said. "Why have you quit school, Jason?" she demanded. Jason said, "Well, it was too long, it was too hard and it was too boring. And I didn't like a lot of it!" Patsy responded, "Jason, you have just described life. Get back on the bus!" When God sees patience at work in your life, He is pleased by your choice to "get back on the bus" in obedience and in faith.
An evangelist told the story of his friend who, during the depression, lost a job, a fortune, a wife and a home, but he held onto his faith because it was all he had left. One day, he stopped to watch some men building a stone church. One of the workers was chiseling a triangular piece of rock. "What are you going to do with that?" asked the friend. The workman said, "Do you see that little opening way up there near the spire? Well, I'm shaping this down here so that it will fit up there." Tears filled the eyes of the broken man as he walked away. It seemed that God had spoken through the workman to explain the trials of his life." God is using the trials here on earth to refine and purify us. In Colossians 1:11, the apostle Paul writes, "God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient!"
No matter where you are today, where you have been or what you are facing tomorrow, be patient, knowing your God will strengthen you to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am impatient. Help me to see You at work in the trial and choose to depend on Your strength instead of my own. Help me to see Your purpose and plan but even if I can't understand it all, help me to stand firm in faith. Lord, make me more patient so that others will see You in me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
Read Romans 12:12 "Be patient when trouble comes." What trouble in your life today requires patience? Are you willing to choose faith and obedience by trusting God with that trouble?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "Be patient with everyone." What relationship in your life demands patience from you? Evaluate how patient you have been in this relationship. What one thing do you need to change in order to choose obedience to God as you relate to this person?
Read Ephesians 4:2 "Always be humble, gentle and patient." Notice that patience is listed along with two other important qualities that God wants to see in us. How do you think patience relates to humility and gentleness?
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Sandpaper can be very useful or very painful...or both. When I think about patience, sandpaper always comes to mind. God uses the difficult people and painful trials in our life to teach us patience. We can choose to let those tough times painfully rub off the rough edges of our character or we can just choose to endure the pain time and time again. The only thing worse than learning from experience, is not learning from experience. I am right there with you, friend. I encourage you to check out my book, Sandpaper People, as a resource for those difficult relationships in your life. And something new! You can download an MP3 file of "Patience Pays Off" by visiting the online store of my website. Blessings!
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October 8, 2008
Grieving the Loss
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land." Song of Songs 2:11-12 (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Beth is one of my dearest friends. She had been married for 24 years when her husband walked away from their marriage. Beth is a very strong Christian and for five years put on a happy face telling everyone, including herself, "Jesus is enough." She has two absolutely incredible children who love the Lord and serve in some facet of ministry. And yet, I wondered if she had been the first person I had ever known who had skipped the grieving process that follows the devastation of divorce.
She was not.
Five years after the divorce, Beth and I were talking on the phone about the wonderful man that she had been dating for two years.
"Beth, what's wrong with Randy? Why is he dragging his heels?" I asked. "I'm ready to hear some wedding bells."
"Sharon," she replied, "I don't think the problem is Randy. I think it's me. I was married for twenty-four-years and honestly, I am having trouble trusting again. I know Randy is not anything like my first husband. He loved his wife and they had an incredibly Christ-centered marriage before she died of cancer. But there's just something wrong with me!"
"Beth, I don't think you ever allowed yourself to grieve over your loss. I know your first husband betrayed you at the very core of what a marriage is supposed to be, and there is loss. There is grieving the loss that your children do not have the father they deserve, the loss of investing twenty-four years with a man who betrayed you, and the loss of the dream of what marriage could and should be like -- what God intended from the beginning of time."
Beth is just now beginning to grieve the many losses that accompanied her divorce and she and her two grown children are in the process of breaking free.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book, On Death and Dying, notes five stages of grief:
Stage One: Denial and Isolation
Stage Two: Anger
Stage Three: Bargaining
Stage Four: Depression
Stage Five: Acceptance
(Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., On Death and Dying (New York: Macmillan Publishing Company, 1969).
But for us who have linked our lives with Jesus Christ, there is a Stage Six:
Resurrection.
Grief is part of the healing process. For me, I had to grieve the fact that I did not have the family I had always longed for. I grieved that I did not grow up being the apple of my daddy's eye, that I was not unconditionally loved, and that I did not get to hold my second child in my arms. Grieving the loss helped me to let it go, but after a time, I had to stop lamenting what was not, and rejoice in the blessings of what is. Remember, you can't change the past, but you can change what you choose to do with it. Perhaps you need to grieve the losses in your life. Here are a few to consider:
Loss of innocence
Loss of a nurturing family
Loss of unconditional love
Loss of acceptance
Loss of security
Loss of virginity
Loss of a close relationship with your mother
Loss of a healthy relationship with your father
Loss of trust
Loss of education
Loss of employment
Loss of a marriage
Loss of a spouse
Loss of a child
Loss of friendship
It is healthy to grieve a loss, but then there comes a time for the mourning to end and new life to begin.
"My lover spoke and said to me,
"Arise, my darling,
my beautiful one, and come with me.
See! The winter is past;
The rains are over and gone.
Flowers appear on the earth;
The season of singing has come,
The cooing of doves
Is heard in our land."
(Song of Songs 2:10-12)
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I have grieved the losses in my life, and I am so thankful You have brought me to a place of resurrection! Jesus came that we might have life, and have it to the full! Help me to always look to resurrection and never stop at simple acceptance of a broken dream.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the list of losses. Are any of those losses part of your story? If so, put a check by them.
Now ponder that loss for a moment. Are you stuck there? Or have you allowed God to take you to the next level ... to resurrection? If not, consider giving the broken pieces of your dream to God and allowing Him to make them into a beautiful mosaic - lovelier than anything you could have ever imagined. Resurrection! It is God's plan of redemption. We see it in the resurrection of Jesus and the resurrection of our broken dreams. He's amazing.
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Two of Sharon Jaynes' resources speak to how God wants to move us past mourning and onto fulfilling His amazing plans for our lives. To learn more, visit her resource page and read excerpts from Your Scars are Beautiful to God and Dreams of a Woman: God's plan for fulfilling your dreams.
Don't miss the next Girlfriends in God Conference, October 17-18, in Gloucester County, New Jersey. For more information, go to www.gcccpray.com.
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October 9, 2008
Making Your Heart Sit Down
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 90:12 Teach us to make the most of our time, so that we may grow in wisdom. (NLT)
Friend to Friend
Every minute of every day is either wasted or invested. Since the Bible contains over 400 verses about time, we can safely assume that time management is important to God. In fact, it is a spiritual discipline. We not only need to view time as an eternal investment, but as an immediate one as well. One of the most valuable investments we can make is to spend time in solitude.
I once read an African proverb, "Lord Jesus, make my heart sit down". Solitude is deliberately and diligently setting aside time to "sit down" at the feet of Jesus. It is in those still, quiet moments of solitude at his feet that we can more clearly hear God speak and gain strength and wisdom for the journey ahead. In order to practice solitude, we must learn how to budget time.
It's been said that women must balance their time more carefully than men because women don't have wives. The fact is we are all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Time is a precious gift! Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use. If we use it in the wrong way, that time is lost forever and cannot be reclaimed. Un-budgeted time gravitates to our weaknesses, is stolen by others or wasted on the unimportant. We must budget time, just as Jesus did.
Luke 2:52 "Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (NIV).
At the age of 12, Jesus traveled to Jerusalem with his parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When his parents began the long trip home, they did not miss their son at first and when they did, assumed he was traveling with friends. Jesus was found in the temple, teaching. My first reaction would probably have been pride in the fact that religious scholars and teachers were actually listening to my young son. I would most likely have encouraged Jesus to continue, basking in the looming recognition and acclaim. Instead, Jesus returned home where, for 18 to 20 years, he simply grew. Luke 2:52 tells us that Jesus grew mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. In Luke 3, Jesus begins his ministry, the most powerful ministry ever known. In other words, Jesus Christ budgeted his time wisely, resulting in a balanced life of fulfilled purpose. We can live the same kind of life if our priorities are right.
Set priorities: Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that "there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven" (NLT). We either set our life priorities or allow circumstances and other people to set them.
Schedule priorities: There is a right time and a right way to carry out right priorities. Ecclesiastes 8:5-6 warns, "For a wise heart knows the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every delight" (NASB). We must schedule time for solitude. We must set aside portions of each day to spend with God.
Stick to priorities: The apostle Paul teaches us to "make the most of every opportunity" (Ephesians 5:16 NIV). Every challenge will either wreck our priorities or affirm them. Right priorities stand firm in the face of change.
One day, we will all stand before the Father and give an account of how we invested our time. Today, examine your time management habits in light of eternity. Initiate schedule changes that honor God. Make a new commitment to invest your time wisely.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize my need for time alone with You. I lay down my schedule, my agenda and anything else in my life that would keep me from that time. Please forgive me for the way I often squander away the minutes, hours and days of my life. Give me the power to invest time wisely and wisdom to live a balanced life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose to practice solitude - today.
Select a place to spend time in solitude -- today.
Lay down your agenda.
Focus on Him and listen for His voice.
Memorize Psalm 37:7 "Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him." (NIV)
Ask yourself these questions and use the answers to shape a plan for regular solitude:
Why am I afraid of silence?
What is the greatest obstacle to solitude in my life?
What steps do I have to take in order to remove those obstacles?
What do I hope to gain from time spent in solitude?
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Learning to rest and be still before God is so important to our spiritual growth, strength and maturity. It won't just happen. We have to carve out time to spend alone with God in solitude. Time spent in solitude allows our heart to be still before God. Solitude filters through all of the voices in life and seeks out God's voice above the rest. I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day this month and find time each week for solitude. The book and/or CD, Escaping the Stress Trap, will be a helpful tool as you learn to make your heart sit down.
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October 10, 2008
Unsearchable
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I will extol You, my God, O King, and I will bless Your name forever and ever. Every day I will bless You, and I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable." (Psalm 145:1-3, NASB)
Friend to Friend
I fell in love with my husband half-my-life ago, yet with fifteen years of marriage under my belt, there are still moments that I shake my head and wonder, "who is that man?" And while I may not have every mystery about him solved, I do know my husband. I know his voice, his touch, and his quirks. I'm a witness to his character, his personality, and his ways. The same is true about my relationship with God. Over the years, I have learned to hear His voice, to recognize His touch, and to understand some basic truths of who He is.
There are so many revelations of God in His Word. The Bible boasts of His greatness, glory, honor, and character. We know that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb 13:8), that God's grace is sufficient for every repentant heart, and that His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We know that His name is above all other names (Philippians 2:9), that there is no other like Him (Jeremiah 10:6), and that His wisdom holds secrets that are hidden from before time began (I Corinthians 2:7). And for as much as we know about the LORD, our knowledge of Him is but a fraction of grain of sand as held up the all the beaches on earth.
Though He is the mysterious master Creator who hung each star in the sky and calls them by name, He wants us to love Him, to trust Him, to know Him, and to worship Him. That thought alone sets my mind to wonder! God invites us to participate with Him in a vibrant dance of abundant life through His Son, Jesus Christ. Our amazing Heavenly Father bids each and every one of us to come to Him with questions, to be held by His love, to find peace, hope, and healing in His Son. He calls us to seek Him through prayer and to experience new revelations of Him through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
The voice of all of creation shouts His praise! I encourage you to pause in this moment to consider Him...to respond to Him...to meditate on His glorious splendor. As you do, He will become the all-satisfying desire of your heart, while at the same time, He will stir up a hunger in your soul to know Him even more.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your greatness truly is unsearchable! I pray that you will continue to stir up a hunger in my soul to know all the mystery of You that remains. Please cause me to think bigger thoughts of You, and to acknowledge You in all my ways.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This devotion was inspired by a new worship song that I co-wrote called, UNSEARCHABLE. Take a moment to read through the lyric. Speak it out loud!
UNSEARCHABLE
By Sue Smith and Gwen Smith
Lord I know that your grace is sufficient for me
I know I am held by your love
And You're there when I call
You are strong when I'm weak
You delight over me from above
And You stir up a hunger that I can't explain
To know all the mystery of You that remains
Unsearchable greatness
Unsearchable wisdom
Unsearchable mercy to me
I am lost in the wonder of all that I know
Knowing there's much more to see
Cause you are unsearchable
You are unsearchable
Lord, I boast in Your glory that humbles the stars
Your name has such power and might
And Your goodness and kindness
Have captured my heart
Your Word keeps giving me life
And you stir up a hunger that I can't explain
to know all the mystery of You that remains
Chorus
Hear the voice of all creation crying out (4x)
Now... CLICK HERE to listen to the song and respond in worship. (Turn on your speakers!)
Read Jeremiah 33:3. "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." What does this verse mean to you? What does this verse tell you about the rewards of calling on our Lord? Thank Him for hearing your prayers and for healing your pains. Be lost in the wonder of Him.
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Gwen's song "Unsearchable" is the title track to her new CD that is just being released. CLICK HERE to order your copy!
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. Need a speaker for your next women's conference, retreat, or event? Consider inviting Gwen. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
Don't miss the next Girlfriends in God Conference, October 17-18, in Gloucester County, New Jersey. For more information, go to www.gcccpray.com.
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October 13, 2008
A Woman's Hands
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy." (Proverbs 31:20 NIV)
Friend to Friend
On a shelf in my living room sits a black and white photograph of a young girl that was taken in the early 1900's. Her hair is pulled back with an oversized bow peeking from behind the edges of her head. Her dress is typical of the times with puffed sleeves and a brimming lace collar resting on her shoulders. She isn't smiling and she appears to be somewhat awkward, timid, and I dare say, even afraid. This is a picture of my grandmother Anderson on her wedding day. She was fourteen-years-old.
As I gaze at this amazing woman who bore twelve children and then miscarried eleven others, I am always drawn to her hands. Hanging uncomfortably at her side, are hands that seem much too large for her petite frame. "Anderson hands," my mother calls them. I surmise that God must have known this little lady would need a big heart and big hands to embrace all that life would send her way.
Like my Grandmother Anderson, all of us mothers need big hearts and big hands. Our hands grip the bed rail in pain in the delivery room; then gently caress a newborn for the first time. Before long, those hands are changing diapers, washing bottoms and faces, cleaning spit-up, wiping tears, rocking sleepy heads and placing babies in a crib. Then they are holding a toddler's chubby hand and grabbing him to keep him out of harm's way. Tossing a ball, preparing holiday dinners, setting a festive table, tying packages for birthday parties and Christmas presents. Coloring and cutting out shapes in workbooks. Picking up leaves and bugs for collections. Pushing a swing and letting go of a bike as a child first learns to peddle on his own. Sewing party dresses and mending torn baseball jerseys, washing scraped knees and spooning out medicine. Holding the sweaty palm of an awkward adolescent while dancing around the den, tying the knot of a neck tie and pinning on a boutonniere for a first party. Writing letters to children away at camp or folding hands in prayer asking for the Lord's protection while they're away. Tightly grasping the steering wheel while chauffeuring children from one place to the next or gripping the seat as a teen learns how to drive herself. Hands that wave goodbye as a son drives off to college and hands that adjust a cherished daughter's wedding veil. A mother's hands are loving hands, disciplining hands, grieving hands, protecting hands and providing hands. They embrace the child and then, when the child is ready, she opens them and lets them go.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for holding me always in the palm of Your hands. I pray that today, I will use my hands for good: to help a child, to give a hug, to pat a back, to cook a meal, to touch with kindness, to caress with love. I lift up my hands to praise you and fold them in prayer to intercede.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and think of all your hands have done over the past week. Make a list of how you have used your hands to love others.
Make a list of how the touch of other people has encouraged you over the past week.
Proverbs 14:1 says that the wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. What are some ways that we can tear our house down with our own hands? Are there any destructive uses of your hands that need to be eliminated?
Think back to all the ways your own mother loved you through her hands. You may even want to write a list or even write her a letter of thanks.
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It is truly amazing all that a mom does on any given day. Being a mom is one of the greatest responsibilities and privileges we will ever have. If you're a mom and need a bit of encouragement today, you'll want to read Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids. It's packed with encouraging words, helpful tips and Biblical advice.
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October 14, 2008
You Can't Take It With You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 12:15 "Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."
Friend to Friend
Greed and stress go hand-in-hand. If we want to eliminate stress, we must choose to put "things" in their proper place, refusing to attach importance to them. In Luke 12:15, Jesus issues a warning, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (ICB). I believe that attaching importance to "things" is sin and will always lead to more sin. The monster of greed is fed by fear. We are afraid to give it all to God. We are afraid of not having enough. We are afraid to sacrifice and not having enough resources for the future. How important are your possessions? How do you view the things you possess?
The story is told of the world's stingiest man who went shopping for a friend's gift. Everything was too expensive, except for a $50.00 vase that was on sale for $2.00 because the handle had been broken off. The stingy man bought it and had the salesman ship it so that his friend would think that he had paid the full price of $50.00 for the vase and that it had been broken in shipment. A week later, the penny-pinching man received a thank you note from his friend. "Thank you for the lovely vase," the note read. "It was so nice of you to wrap each piece separately."
One way we can guard against greed and control our wants is to view our possessions as resources loaned to us by God for us to disperse instead of treating them as earned rewards or deserved pleasures. "Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others." (I Peter 4:10 NIV) Every spiritual gift, every financial resource and possession has been given to us by God as a way to serve others. Greed steps in the minute we begin to view those gifts and resources as our own while clutching them tightly in our hands and in our hearts. Fear then leads us to worry about losing what is not really ours to begin with and left unchecked, greed can lead to dishonesty. Greed and exaggerated wants can control our lives to the point that we are consumed by a fear that naturally leads to dishonesty and lies.
The reality is that who we are should never be measured in terms of what we have or do not have. Instead, our lives are measured by who and what we are. The lure of material wealth is undeniably stronger than the human will or self-control and always positions itself between us and God. The result will always be stress. Someday, I think we will discover that the door that shuts out many from heaven is covered with silver and gold.
I love the story of a wealthy man who prayed, asking for permission to take his earthly wealth with him when he died and went to heaven. An angel appeared to the man and said, "We heard your prayer, but I am sorry. You simply cannot take it with you." The man pleaded so passionately that the angel said, "Let me see what I can do." When the angel returned, he reported, "Good news! God has made an exception for you. You may bring one suitcase with you when it is your time to go." Delighted, the man packed his one suitcase and went on with life. Several years later, he died and appeared at the Pearly Gates where he was met by St. Peter who took one look at the suitcase and said, "I am sorry, sir, but you cannot bring that in with you." The man protested, "But I received special permission." Just then, the angel appeared and said, "Peter, it is true. He has special permission to bring one suitcase in with him." Curious, Peter said, "Do you mind showing me what is in the bag that is so important to you?" With a smile, the man replied, "Not at all" and proceeded to open the suitcase to reveal stacks of gold bricks. Peter's face said it all, "Pavement? You brought pavement with you?"
Stress thrives on greed that urges us on, in a never-ending and futile quest to accumulate "pavement" here that is totally worthless there! Wealth is all a matter of perspective. We need to understand that our Father wants us to have wealth. We just have to be careful that we do not settle for earthly money and possessions instead of eternal treasures.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for reminding me that what I have is temporary but that who I am is eternal. Give me a heart that loves to give instead of to receive. Help me to make decisions and choices that are generous instead of greedy. I pray that others would see You in the way I give myself away in service and that I would never count on earthly possessions for the peace and contentment only You can give.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It Is Your Turn
Make a list of your ten most prized possessions.
If you lost them all, how would your life change in light of eternity?
How much peace and contentment would you forfeit?
Set aside time today to review your list and surrender each prized possession to God.
Give one of those possessions away this week as a secret gift.
Pray for an eternal perspective of earthly "things"
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Several years ago, we moved from a large house to a much smaller one in order to pay off some debt. As we packed, I realized that half of what we owned would not fit in the new house. We began giving away furniture, making frequent trips to various charities and the local dumpster. It is amazing how much "junk" can be accumulated over the years. Looking back, with the exception of one or two items, I can't even remember what we got rid of. It really is just "stuff". Do you want to break the hold that material things have in your life? Give them away. You will be amazed to see that you just can't out-give God! I want to invite you to join my Free Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. We are beginning a new study, "A Glimpse of Heaven" that will encourage an eternal perspective in your life and help you to break free from the grasp of earthly things.
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October 15, 2008
I am God's Workmanship
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." (Ephesians 2:10 NIV)
Friend to Friend
When my son was in elementary school, he created some works of art that had a striking resemblance to that of the world-renowned artist, Picasso. However, Picasso's paintings are worth millions of dollars and my son's are only valuable to me. What makes a work of art valuable? Its value is based on the artist who created it. You, dear friend, are a piece of art created by God Himself. King David described it this way:
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. (Psalm 139:13-16).
A woman was and is one of God's most magnificent creations. In fact, she was His grand finale. After He fashioned Eve, creation was complete and He took a rest! God has placed in our hearts a love for beauty and a desire to be beautiful. Let's go back to the beginning of time and reflect on our magnificent beginnings.
After God created the sun, moon, stars, earth, waters, creeping and flying animals, he created man. But something was missing. For Adam there was no creature suitable for him. This is the only time God said any aspect of His creation was "not good." He said, "It is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18).
So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. And the LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. And the man said, "This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." (Genesis 2:21-24 NASB)
While God created the world and all it contains, He did something a little special when He made woman. The NASB translation says He fashioned Eve. He didn't simply make you -- He fashioned you with extra special care and meticulous detail. You are a thing of beauty, a sight to behold, and one of His most spectacular masterpieces - a work of art, a valuable original, a one of a kind.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Forgive me when I complain about Your masterpiece -- my nose, my hips, my complexion, etc. I praise You for the intricacies of the human body. The fact that my heart beats without my telling it to, my lungs inhale and exhale without my instruction, and my reflexes react automatically. Yes, I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list today of how your body is wonderfully made by God. Example:
My eyelids blink.
My food is digested.
My heart beats.
What ways have you complained about your body lately?
How does the above list of how you are wonderfully made compare to your complaints?
When you see a newborn baby, what is one of your first thoughts?
Considering that Genesis 1:26 says, "Let us make man in our own image," how should we view ourselves?
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Wow, when we think of all the intricacies God put into making us, it is truly amazing. But more than a body, He also created us with a soul and a spirit. And all through our lives, God is at work to complete the masterpiece of you and me through our minds, wills, and emotions. If you would like to begin seeing yourself as God sees you, you'll want to read Experience the Ultimate Makeover by Sharon Jaynes. When you see yourself as God sees you, you'll never again feel inadequate.
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October 16, 2008
When I Am Afraid
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind" 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV).
Friend to Friend
We do a lot of laundry at the Southerland house. There always seems to be a load in the washer that needs to go in the dryer, a load in the dryer that needs to be folded and a load of dirty laundry waiting to begin the process all over again. Sound familiar?
Our washer and dryer have numerous settings for everything from hand washables and fine delicates to cotton and permanent press. In an effort to raise responsible young adults, our children began doing their own laundry at a young age. However, there was a price to be paid for that lesson. After a few loads that yielded pink male underwear and sweaters shrunk to fit Barbie dolls, we decided to wash everything on one setting. Heaven help the man, woman or child who dares to change that setting.
When a life crisis comes, we generally have an automatic setting of fear and anxiety. The good news is that we can change that setting to peace and joy! How? By counting on God.
Count on God to be with you. We battle stress every day, but God is faithful and we can count on Him to be with us every step of the way. Worry is trying to fix tomorrow's problems with today's resources. My husband and I are flying to Charlotte, North Carolina. Dan booked the tickets and reserved seats for both of us. We have packed our suitcases and made every preparation we can think of. However, we really don't need any of those things...until we get on the plane. Grace is much the same. God gives grace in daily doses -- just when we need them.
Isaiah 43:2 When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you (NLT).
Count on God for direction. Life can easily spin out of control in a whirlwind of confusion. God offers direction and guidance through His word, through His people and through the Holy Spirit.
Psalm 32:8 I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you (NLT).
Count on God for provision. God goes before us in every area of life. Nothing that happens to us will ever surprise God. We must be careful to stay away from the scenario sickness of "What if". There are no "what ifs" when we choose to trust God for every need.
Isaiah 65:24 I will provide their needs before they ask. I will help them while they are still asking for help (NLT).
Count on God for protection. God will fight for us when we are attacked. When we follow God's agenda, God fights for us. When we follow our agenda, we are on our own.
Exodus 14:13 The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still" (NIV).
I recently saw a bumper sticker that read, "If God is your Co-Pilot, switch seats!" Many of us have good reason to be afraid because we are sitting in the pilot seat of life, determined to be in control. Fear feeds stress. Stress thrives in an atmosphere of fear and doubt when our hand is on the steering wheel of life. We need to move over, surrender control to God and find the peace waiting in His hand.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is filled with fear. It seems like I am drowning in the uncertainties of my life. Lord, help me to surrender my fears to You. Strengthen me to face each one and walk through it, knowing that You are with me. I choose to trust You and doubt my fears. I choose against stress and choose for peace. I choose You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What fears are you facing today?
Make a list of your fears.
What step(s) do you need to take in order to find victory over those fears?
Surrender each one to the loving control of God as you pray, "I will fear no evil, for you are with me."
Burn the list as an offering of praise and thanksgiving to God's perfect peace enthroned in your life.
Read and memorize the following verses. When you are afraid, pray and speak these verses aloud:
Psalm 46: 1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble (NIV).
Psalm 63: 7-8 Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me (NIV).
Isaiah 42:16 I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them (NIV).
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The longer I live and walk with Christ, the more I experience the reality that God is the only one I can truly count on in life. He never lets me down. He never leaves me. He is always there when I cry out to Him. Fear was once a very familiar prison to me. Step-by-step, I began to realize just how faithful God is and that realization has changed my life. When you are afraid, He is your complete peace. Need encouragement? Check out the new MP3s now available!
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October 17, 2008
Through The Veil
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water" (Hebrews 10:19-22).
Friend to Friend
A few years ago, my father received the gift of life as a transplant recipient. Tragically, in order for my dad to live, someone else had to die. The only information our family received about the donor is that the person had died in a car crash. While our family rejoiced at this priceless provision, another family mourned the passing of one they loved. It was a bittersweet exchange ...wonderful and horrible at the very same time.
At the very moment of Christ's death, across the city of Jerusalem -- in the temple -- the veil that separated the Holy of Holies from the Most Holy Place was torn from top to bottom...from God to man. The barriers between God's mercy and us no longer exist.
Some 2000 years ago, when Jesus surrendered His perfect life to death -- once for all -- a new and living way was created for us to be reconciled to the holy heart of God. It was the Great Exchange. Through the curtain, which is the body of Christ, we have access to the Most Holy Place ...the presence of God. In the Old Testament, the high priests entered the Holy of Holies with great trepidation. Because of Christ, we can cross the threshold of mercy with confidence.
While studying this very topic, the Lord inspired me to write this worship song:
Through The Veil
by Gwen Smith
Hebrews 10:19-23
Through the veil there's a new and living way
Through the curtain, welcome to the Holy Place
Though we once were separated, we are now invited in
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
The Holy Place is open, come and worship
The Lamb for Sinner's slain is King of all
We praise and glorify the Lord before His mighty throne
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO THROUGH THE VEIL
I've heard it said that "We are far more sinful than we can possibly imagine and far more loved than we can possibly accept."
How does this affect you and me? How does this pivotal moment in history, this "veil renting" influence the way we live? Well, I guess that's up to each one of us. Hebrews 4:16 says, "Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
Have you accepted this great exchange in your own heart? Have you prayed to receive this mercy and forgiveness that is offered freely to all who ask? If not, would you like to now? God is waiting with open arms. Roman's 10:9 tells us "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." Nothing you have ever done lands outside the scope of God's forgiveness.
If you would like to pray, it's as simple as this: "Dear Lord, I confess that I have done many things wrong -- the Bible calls it sin and I'm guilty. Would you please forgive me? I do believe that Jesus is Your Son and that He is Lord. I believe that He lived, died and rose again. Would you be my Lord? Would you teach me what it means to follow you? Thank you Father. In Jesus' name, amen."
If you prayed that prayer and meant it sincerely, would you please email us and let us know. We would love to pray for you.
Once we are covered in grace, prayer, praise and worship should be our natural response to God. We must come with both reverence and boldness...with quiet awe and joyful singing...because He is both a radiant, holy God and a trustworthy, faithful friend. Enter in today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are amazing! Thank You for offering forgiveness and mercy through the great exchange of Jesus. I am blessed beyond measure to be able to come into Your presence with a heart that is pure. Your love is extravagant. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there an area of your life that needs 'transplanted?'
Do you know that God can forgive anything you have done?
Write a response to God. Thank Him for his love and mercy, and then read it to Him as an act of worship!
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Gwen's song "Through The Veil" is featured on her new CD that is just being released. CLICK HERE to pre-order your copy!
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
To listen to Gwen's music, CLICK HERE!
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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October 20, 2008
Whose Report Are You Going to Believe?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We should go up and take possession of the land, for we can certainly do it." (Numbers 13:30 NIV).
Friend to Friend
All through the Bible, God gives us great and wonderful promises about who we are in Christ, what we have in Christ, and where we are in Christ. Let me remind you of just a few.
"I can do everything through him who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:13)
"Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." (Proverbs 16:3)
"God has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ."
(Ephesians 1:3)
"For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith." (1 John 5:5)
The Bible is packed full of many promises just like those. However, the enemy, Satan, tells us that we are worthless losers with little to no power to live in victory. He tells us we are but "grasshoppers" in the face of our difficulties and struggles. So, whose reports are we going to believe?
The Israelites faced the same situation. They had been freed from Egyptian slavery and then roamed around in the desert. God then signaled it was time to enter the Promised Land flowing with milk and honey. He said, "Send some men to explore the land of Canaan which I am giving the Israelites." At God's command, Moses sent in twelve men to spy out the land and ten of them came back with this report:
"We went into the land which you sent us and it does flow with milk and honey! But the people who live there are powerful and the cities are fortified and very large." (Numbers 13:27, 28) The men went on to say they were like grasshoppers compared to the giants who lived in Canaan.
However, two of the spies, Caleb and Joshua, believed God and reported, "We should go up and take possession of the land, for we can certainly do it." (13:30)
Guess who the people believed? They believed the "evil report" and failed to take the land because of fear. I have an acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. They saw only the giants, but failed to see Almighty God. God had already given them the land. The people simply needed to walk in and take possession of it. Instead of moving into the Promised Land, they wandered in the desert for forty years because of their unbelief. Caleb and Joshua were the only two who inhabited the Promised Land. The others died in their unbelief.
Oswald Chambers notes, "Human frailty is another thing that gets between God's words of assurance and our own words and thoughts. When we realize how feeble we are in facing difficulties, the difficulties become like giants, we become like grasshoppers, and God seems to be non-existent. But remember God's assurance to us -- 'I will never ... forsake you.' Have we learned to sing after hearing God's keynote? Are we continually filled with enough courage to say, 'The Lord is my Helper,' or are we yielding to fear?"
I don't want to be like those Israelites who didn't believe God told the truth. Do you? Let me ask you a few questions. Are you going to move into the land flowing with milk and honey - take the promises found in the Bible and make them yours? Or, are you going to believe the evil report and continue wandering around in the desert -- free from slavery, but missing the Promised Land? Whose report are you going to believe?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You that You have called me to walk in victory. Help me to realize when I am listening to Satan's lies, "to the evil report," and not to You. If I am the only person who believes in Your promises today, give me the courage to believe and walk forward in faith to what You've called me to do.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your life for the past few months. Have you believed what your eyes see or have you believed what God promises in His word? Make a list of promises of God that mean the most to you and practice believing the truth!
Look back over the promises of God listed above in the devotion. How might these verses help you defeat that "grasshopper" feeling in your life?
Can you think of a time where you believed God's report instead of the border bullies, naysayers, and gloom and doomers? What was the result?
Is there someone you have been listening to and believing rather than God?
Do you feel like a grasshopper or a soldier in God's army? Which is the truth?
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October 21, 2008
Touched by Angels
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 1:14 All the angels are spirits who serve God and are sent to help those who will receive salvation.
Friend to Friend
When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, He takes full responsibility for us, which means
He takes care of us. One of the ways God cares for us is through the ministry of His angels as they help us and protect us.
2 Kings 6:16-17 "Don't be afraid," the prophet answered. 'Those who are with us are more than those who are with them.' And Elisha prayed, 'O LORD, open his eyes so he may see.' Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha."
There was an ongoing conflict between Israel and the empire of the king, Ben-Hadad. Elisha constantly revealed the secret plans of this Syrian King to the king of Israel. When the King of Syria found out, he sent an army to capture Elisha. While Elisha was getting dressed that morning, his servant came running to him in fear. He told Elisha that they were surrounded by the King's army and that the soldiers were carrying powerful weapons of war. Elisha was not disturbed by this news. In fact, he told the servant not to be afraid because "our army is bigger and better than their army." The servant was confused because he could not see any army ready to fight for Elisha. Elisha then prayed and asked God to open the eyes of this servant and allow him to see God's protective angels. "Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha."
God's angels protect His children from potential enemies.
Psalm 91:11-14 "For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. 'Because he loves me,' says the LORD, 'I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.'"
In this passage, "command" literally means "to order or assign", "guard" literally means "to observe and care for" and "acknowledges" literally means "to know intimately." In other words, when we know God and have a personal relationship with Him, He assigns angels to watch over us and to help carry out His plan for our lives.
Hebrews 1:14 "But angels are only servants. They are spirits sent from God to care for those who will receive salvation."
Angels are motivated by their great love for God and are committed to seeing that the will of God is carried out.
Most Christians can recall some incident in which their lives have been miraculously saved from disaster. Perhaps a car missed them by inches. An airplane flight was planned, but some reason, was not taken only to later discover that the plane had crashed. They did not see angels but their presence could easily explain why tragedy was avoided.
John G. Paton was a missionary in the New Hebrides islands. One night, hostile natives surrounded his mission headquarters, shouting threats that they would burn the Paton's home and then kill them. Paton and his wife prayed all night long. At dawn, they were amazed to see the natives turn and leave. A year later, the chief of that very tribe became a Christian. Paton asked him what had kept him and his men from burning down their house and killing them that night. The chief asked, "Who were all of those men with you?" Paton assured the chief that there had been no one there except him and his wife. The chief shook his head and insisted that they had seen hundreds of men standing guard, big men in shining garments with drawn swords.
Scripture is filled with accounts that describe how many of God's servants were delivered from danger. It also tells how many servants of God were not delivered by angels.
Hebrews 11:35-39 "Others were tortured; some faced jeers and flogging, while still others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned; they were sawed in two; they were put to death by the sword. They went about in sheepskins and goatskins, destitute, persecuted and mistreated."
These men had faith, courage and were obedient. Time after time, they must have cried out to God for angels to come -- but none came. Why? Hebrews 11:40 tells us that God had a better plan. "To live by faith is better than deliverance by angels." These saints were not physically delivered but they still lived by faith and died by faith enduring pain and suffering, counting on the grace of God to sustain them. Because of their great faith, these "medal of honor" Christians received a greater reward in heaven.
Matthew 5:12 "Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you."
These saints knew that if God said "no" to their request for deliverance, there was a reason. It was part of His plan. If you are like me, there are times when, for the life of me, I cannot understand God's plan and furthermore, even if I understand it, it is just plain hard to accept. Jesus understands. When Jesus faced the cross, He asked God to deliver Him but God said, "No."
Matthew 26:39 "He went on a little farther and fell face down on the ground, praying, "My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will, not mine."
Angels do exist and they do touch our life. Look around. Listen carefully. Walk by faith. The angels are with you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your angels and the role they play in my life. I praise You for all of the times that tragedy was avoided because one of Your angels touched my life. Help me to walk in faith and obedience to your perfect plan -- no matter how hard it may be at times. I want to be a woman of faith, a woman who walks with Your angels. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us how angels protected and delivered many of the servants of God. Read the following bible passages and fill in the blanks. Then celebrate God's work in the lives of these saints and in your own life.
• Peter was delivered from ________________ by an angel. (Acts 12:5-11)
• Paul received a message of ____________ from an angel. (Acts 27:23-25)
• An angel saved the life of Abraham's ____________. (Gen. 22:15)
• An angel saved _________________ in the lion's den. (Daniel 6:22)
• An angel appeared to Moses in the ____________ _________. (Acts 7:30)
• An angel rolled the ___________________ away from Jesus' tomb. (Matthew 28:2)
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October 22, 2008
Joint-heirs with Christ
Sharon Jaynes
Key Verse:
"Now if we are children, then we are heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory." (Romans 8:17 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Imagine you have just been informed that you have inherited a multi-level mansion equipped with every conceivable treasure. You run up the curving brick sidewalk, throw open the massive oak doors, and excitedly run from room to room hardly believing the good fortune bequeathed to you! However, what you discover are not the surroundings fit for a queen that you expected, but sensible chambers, adequately furnished and sparsely decorated.
In the foyer, a beautifully carved winding staircase, adorned with plush crimson carpet, beckons you to climb to the next level. You consider the steps, look back over your shoulder and decide, "Hey, the lower level's enough for me. Besides, I'm afraid of heights. I'll just stay down here where it's safe."
Unbeknownst to you, the upper levels house all the treasures intended to become your inheritance, and you're standing in the servants' quarters. Upstairs awaits a golden gilded ballroom, a chandeliered dining hall, four poster beds with down filled mattresses, a safe filled with enough gold and silver to last a lifetime, and a jewelry box brimming with family heirlooms.
All that stands between you and these treasures is the staircase. What keeps you on ground level - contentment with mediocrity, lack of knowledge, or a fear of the unknown?
We all have an inheritance from our heavenly Father. We are joint-heirs with Jesus Christ. But often times we spend our days in the servants' quarters, never climbing the stairs to where the true riches are stored.
We can move forward with confidence knowing that in whatever He calls us to do He will provide what we need. He doesn't necessarily call the qualified, but He qualifies the called. We are blessed with every spiritual blessing, joint-heirs with Christ, and given the Holy Spirit as a down payment - and that's only the start.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for living like a spiritual pauper when I am a child of the King. Thank You that You have given me everything I need to live a life of godliness and truth. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will fill me anew today and open my eyes to the blessings that surround me on every side. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of "outrageous prayers." What would you like to ask from God, but have been afraid to ask?
Are there any areas of your life where you have been living like a spiritual pauper instead of a child of the King?
What is the difference between how a servant of a King and a child of the King would approach the King?
Which way do you tend to approach God in prayer?
After reading the above devotion, where are you in relation to the stairs? At the bottom? In the middle? At the top?
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October 23, 2008
Generous or Greedy?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Timothy 6:17 Tell those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which will soon be gone. But their trust should be in the living God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. (NLT)
Friend to Friend
The great Bible teacher, Howard Hendricks, was invited, along with his wife, to have dinner at the home of a very wealthy man. The Hendricks were slightly apprehensive about spending an entire evening with someone so powerful and famous but as the meal progressed, they discovered that their host was completely unassuming and surprisingly down to earth. As they were leaving, Howard Hendricks turned and asked the man, "How could you grow up in such wealth and not be consumed by materialism?" The man smiled and replied, "My parents wisely taught us that everything in our home was either an idol or a tool." What a great truth for all of us!
We live in a "stuff" driven world where it doesn't really matter what we have; it is never enough! We are constantly told that the more "things" we have - the more successful we are! Encouragements to accumulate and hoard the things of this world fuel every aspect of the media. Each day is spent looking for ways to increase our earthly treasures. Greed has become the driving force behind much of what we do in life and as a result, is a prevailing enemy of contentment.
Calvin Miller says, "The world is poor because her fortune is buried in the sky and all her treasure maps are of the earth."
In Philippians 4:12 the Apostle Paul writes, "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want."
Paul is driving home the point that his contentment does not depend upon "stuff" and neither should ours. Having experienced both wealth and poverty Paul had learned to be content within -- no matter what the circumstances without might be. Notice that Paul "learned" to be content; it did not come naturally. "Learn" literally means "initiated into the secret". In other words, Paul's circumstances were his introduction to the life truth that real contentment has nothing to do with either prosperity or poverty! Contentment is an inside job, the result of knowing God and living life against the backdrop of eternity. It is important to understand that greed is not just about material things. We may be guilty of wanting other people's gifts -- possessions -- abilities or circumstances in life. Driven to have the best and to be the best, we cannot simply relax and appreciate where we are and what we have. We keep pursuing things that will never satisfy, frantically trying to squeeze life out of lifeless things. That pursuit is pointless and always results in a desperate longing for something more.
We need to understand that our Father does want us to have wealth. We just have to be careful not to settle for money! Instead, we need to "seek first the kingdom of God" and everything we need will be added to our lives. Peace, joy, love, goodness, patience, purpose and power are credited to our spiritual account the moment we become a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ. Now that, my friend, is true wealth!
We must constantly be alert to the subtle workings of Satan in our lives. The greatest way to guard against greed is by training our hearts and minds to view those things we possess as either tools or resources loaned to us by God. We are simply stewards and managers of these possessions, called by God to disperse them in such a way that the needs of others are met and lost hearts drawn to Him. Hold your possessions loosely, my friend. Invest them in the two things that are eternal -- people and God's truth!
We cannot "out-give" God! But when we try, contentment will come and greed will vanish.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart and life are so often filled with greed and discontent. Right now, I choose to take my eyes off of "things" and focus on what You want for my life. Thank You for all that you have given to me and for what You have done in my heart. I praise You, knowing that in You I have everything I need. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
We need to understand that greed will destroy our peace and contentment. Examine your life, asking the Holy Spirit to reveal every area of greed. Confess your greed as sin and choose against it while looking for ways to practice "Kingdom" giving. Ask yourself the following questions:
What areas of my life are most affected by greed?
What are my idols?
What "things" or "desires" do I need to give up so that greed will have no grip on my life?
What specific ways can I begin to practice "Kingdom" giving?
What is the first step I should take in order to guard against greed?
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October 24, 2008
God Really Does Care
Nancy Sebastian Meyer
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Nancy Sebastian Meyer.
Today's Truth
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7 NIV)
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." (Philippians 4:6 NIV)
Friend To Friend
I memorized today's verse as a little girl in Christian school. However, as is typical of God's Word, the meaning of the verse deepens each time God applies it to my life. Just two weeks ago, God reminded me again how much He really does care.
Rushing around on last minute errands prior to a trip, I needed to drop a pre-packaged delivery envelope into the nearest UPS collection box. To my dismay, the receptacle I drove to was a FedEx drop box instead. As I kept driving, my mind tried - without success - to come up with the next closest UPS box.
This problem may not rank high on your personal list of frustrations, but that particular day's schedule and my patience were seriously overloaded. Crying out to God, I asked what to do. In the very next second, I passed a convenience store where a big, brown UPS truck sat idling in the parking lot. The driver congenially accepted my parcel, and I pulled away humbly worshipping the God who cares about the tiniest details of our lives.
Just twenty-four hours later, I approached my travel destination only to find my directions slightly amiss. Deciding to pull off onto a quiet side street to check the map, I began making the corner and immediately knew something was seriously wrong with the car. Carefully guiding the car to the curb, I parked and got out to investigate the problem.
Imagine my shock when I noticed a rear wheel was coming off of the car! The five lug nuts normally holding it onto the car were completely missing. Lying on the pavement behind the car, I could see from underneath a separation between the wheel and axel. My mind whirled with the possible scenarios. Just ten minutes before, I had been driving fast in thick traffic on the Interstate. Worship again flooded my soul as I knelt before the Lord and thanked Him for taking such good care of me.
While the world chants: "Don't worry, be happy," we Christians should practice a much more appropriate principle: "Don't worry, God cares!" God knows and God really does care about the little and large things that touch our lives.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for caring about every single detail of my life and for taking care of them all. Help me to trust You more and turn to You more quickly for help in every situation. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How has God taken care of you this past week?
Read 1 Peter 5:6-11. Who is trying to rob you of joy (vs. 8)? Describe the picture the verse creates in your mind. You can resist him by humbly asking God for help (vs. 6) and worshipping God (vs. 13).
Make a list of the troubling situations in your life. Read Philippians 4:6-7 and follow the directions. Enjoy the resulting peace!
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Tell a friend about one of your own "God Moments" (like the UPS story and the almost-accident). Sharing gives us the opportunity to praise God. It may also create in your friend the desire to look for God in her own life circumstances! If you're a mom, you might want to check out the "God Hunt" idea for children in the "Showing Jesus To Your Kids" chapter of my book Spiritually Single Moms: Raising Godly Kids When Dad Doesn't Believe.
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Leaves of Life
OCTOBER TWENTY-SIXTH
Dr. Philip Doddridge died 1751.
Count Von Moltke born 1800.
Elizabeth Cady Stanton died 1902.
One of the notable eddies of the present-day world currents is what has been loosely called the "Woman Movement." The sensitive and vicarious spirit of womanhood has been enlisted for service in behalf of those who have been denied a fair chance, or who are the victims of oppression, greed, and ignorance.
--William T. Ellis.
And whether consciously or not, you must be in many a heart enthroned: queens you must always be: queens to your lovers; queens to your husbands and sons; queens of higher mystery to the world beyond, which bows itself, and will forever bow, before the myrtle crown, and the stainless scepter of womanhood.
--John Ruskin.
O woman, great is thy faith: be it done unto thee even as thou wilt.
--Matthew 15. 28.
Lord and Master of all, I pray that thou wilt make me see through my prejudices and beyond my desires to the very "top of my condition." May I not wait for places or circumstances that are dimly in the distance or that are near at hand, but accomplish the work I should do to-day. Amen.
October 27, 2008
God Never Changes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." (Hebrews 13:8 NIV)
Friend to Friend
My husband, Steve, became a Christian in High School and has never wavered from his strong faith in Christ. He was never a rebellious child, but just a good ol' all-American kid. As an adult, he has been a model citizen and exemplary Christian. I guess you might say that he is the male version of Snow White.
One problem that Steve does have, along with every other man, is trying to understand the mysteries of the internal working of that fascinating creature called ...woman. To top it all off, the poor fellow has seven female employees (translation: seven sets of hormones and seven schedules of PMS). They are all wonderful Christians, but women none-the-less.
As I listened to his stories about the seven women, and sensed his frustration in trying to figure them out, I kept getting this picture in my mind of "Dr. Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs." If you remember, the dwarfs' names were Doc, Bashful, Happy, Sleepy, Sneezy, Dopey, and Grumpy. I decided what he needed to do was to make name tags of the seven dwarfs and put them in a basket. Each morning, when the women came in the office, they could reach in the basket and get out a name tag which expressed how they were feeling on that particular day. That way it would take the guesswork out, and Steve would know how to respond to each lady on any given day.
Of course, at the end of each day, he would have to collect the name tags, put them back into the basket, and bring them home so I could pick out which dwarf I was on that day. Poor men! We women do make it hard for them.
As I think about how our emotions can flit back and forth on any given day, I am comforted by the fact that we serve a God who never changes. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. (Hebrews 13:8) The Bible is full of different names for God that describe for us unchangeable characteristics of His nature. He is Jehovah-Jireh, the Lord who provides; Jehovah-rah, the Lord who heals; Jehovah-shalom, the Lord our peace; Jehovah-Shammah, the Lord who is there. God can change anything He wants to change, but remains unchanged in Himself. He is our Rock that is without deviation.
"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord, who has compassion on you." (Isaiah 54:10)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, as the ever-changing world swirls around me, I am so thankful that You remain the same. Thank You for being the constant in my life -- the North Star that guides my compass and gives me direction as the world and my life spin on its axis.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think of all the things that have changed in your life over the past year.
Make a list of the ways that you've seen God remain the same through the changes.
How does God's unchanging nature give you hope in a changing world?
How would you like to memorize half of a psalm in the next sixty seconds? Want to give it a try? Turn to Psalm 136. After each sentence, there is an echo, "His love endures forever." If you repeat those words twenty-six times, you have quoted half of the psalm! David begins by reminding us that God created the world, led the captives out of Egypt and through the desert, and conquered the enemies of the Israelites so they could move into the Promised Land. While He works in many varied ways and with many different people, one thing remains the same -- "His love endures forever!" He never changes.
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This story of "Dr. Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs" was adapted from Sharon's devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God. To learn more, see http://www.sharonjaynes.com/
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Are You Free?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." (2 Corinthians 5:21, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I've loved God since I was just a kid. I accepted Jesus as my personal Savior in Mr. Dunn's Sunday school class when I was just nine years old. As a teenager, I served God and grew in faith. I said "no" to the crowd and "yes" to the cross. I was a girl with convictions, a girl of strong disciplines, and a girl of high moral standards who walked the straight and narrow. Then...I went away to college and secretly entered a season of compromise.
I never meant to stray from my values. It was a new chapter in my life, and I naively thought I could handle it on my own. My rebellion was a subtle, gradual thing. I was still the same Gwen, just a compromised version of me.
During that time, secrets and compromise became comfortable to me. I wore them like a pair of faded jeans. My friends considered me to be a good Christian girl, and I wasn't about to burst their bubble with the truth that I was sliding into sinful ways. Oh, how my plastic smile served me well in those days! I could turn on the fake charm like water from a faucet.
Eventually, the compromises and choices that I'd made caught up with me and resulted in great brokenness. I couldn't reconcile what I had done with who I was, or with who I was supposed to be. My heart was broken. I felt hopeless and was horribly ashamed.
The dark days turned into weeks, which turned into months. All the while, the voice of the Accuser screamed loudly in my head. "You've messed up too much this time! You're not a Christian. God would never want someone like you." At the same time, the Holy Spirit whispered to my soul, "You are God's daughter. He's waiting for you to come home. Turn back! He loves you!"
God chased me with His love. When He caught me, I collapsed into arms of mercy and wept bitterly at His feet in raw repentance. Then, as the psalmist experienced, "He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God." (Psalm 40:2-3) Although I didn't deserve His mercy, Jesus forgave me. My forgiveness was immediate and complete, but the healing took time. And He sure did give me a new song.
I've been forgiven and transformed by the unconditional love of God. I was dead in my sins, but am now alive in Christ! I am free and it is my privilege to encourage you toward that same freedom in Christ. Are you free? Free of guilt? Free of shame? Free from past mistakes?
Jesus came that we would have life abundantly. (John 10:10) Not because of anything that we've done to deserve it, but because of what He has done. His grace is sufficient. The guilt, pain, and shame of our past tell us that we are disqualified to move on, to serve God, to be free, and to know peace. But to believe this lie is to believe that your sin is outside the scope of God's grace. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have purpose in this life. And though you may have gone through a season of hurt, rejection, or pain, God can and will pick you up and place you back on track. I'm living proof!
"Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame." Psalm 34:5
There is no condemnation for those in Christ. While the enemy loves to cast false guilt, our Lord loves to extend grace and forgiveness, which is the remedy that restores all your broken pieces. He longs for you to experience His freedom today. Don't hold onto those pieces of brokenness. Don't hide them behind a plastic smile. Bring them into the light, lay them at the feet of Jesus, and let go. God delights in transforming lives ... even your own.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, today I come to You with the broken pieces in my life that I have been hesitant to deal with. Take my hand and lead as I walk past my fears and doubts to the refuge of Your forgiving arms. Please take what is broken and transform it into beautiful. Please free me from lies that shackle. Help me to trust that You can redeem and restore every area of my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I co-wrote a song called "Broken Into Beautiful" that ultimately is my testimony in a song. Please take a moment right now to listen to "Broken into Beautiful" and allow it to minister to your heart and spur you on toward His. CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO BROKEN INTO BEAUTIFUL
The Bible assures us that our hope has never been about what we have done; it has always been about what Christ has done! "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith--and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God--not by works, so that no one can boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9) Take a few moments right now to thank God for sending Jesus to reconcile your heart to His.
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Friend, I know that when we talk about hurts and secrets of our pasts, fresh wounds can surface ...especially if the pain and shame has not been dealt with. I also know that the burden of carrying old wounds is a very heavy load. I've been there. Sharon and Mary have, too. Allow today to become your personal "freedom day" by taking your troubles to the heart of God in prayer. He loves you perfectly and completely...no matter what. Forgiveness awaits you. Freedom awaits you. Go now.
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. To order Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen's song "Broken Into Beautiful" is featured on her new CD that is just being released. CLICK HERE to pre-order your copy!
To listen to Gwen's music, CLICK HERE!
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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October 29, 2008
A Daddy Who Loves Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters." (2 Corinthians 6:18 NIV)
Friend to Friend
One of my favorite retreat topics is from my book, Dreams of a Woman -- God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dreams. In this book, I talk about five dreams every little girl has: to have a daddy who loves me, to be a bride, to be a mommy, to be beautiful, and to have a best friend.
In talking to women all across the country, I have seen eyes fill with tears when I talk about the dream of having a daddy who loves me. But the tears are not for me, they reveal the longing in their own hearts. Butterfly Kisses, a song by Bob Carlisle that climbed the charts in 2000, received international recognition in both the Christian and secular music industries. The song was about the tender love between a father and his daughter, starting from her birth to her wedding day. Mr. Carlisle said, "I get a lot of mail from young girls who try to get me to marry their moms. That used to be a real chuckle because it's so cute, but then I realized they didn't want romance for mom. They want the father that is in that song, and that just kills me."
In the Old Testament, God has many names. He is Elohim -- the Creator, El Elyon -- God Most High, El Roi -- the God who sees, El Shaddai -- the All-Sufficient One, Adonai -- the Lord, Jehovah -- the Self-Existent One, Jehovah-Jireh --the Lord Will Provide, Jehovah -- Rapha -- the Lord that heals, Jehovah--Shalom -- the Lord is peace, Jehovah-Raah -- the Lord my Shepherd, and many more. His covenant name with the people of Israel was I AM. J.I. Packer, in his book, Knowing God, said, "He is: and it is because He is what He is that everything else is as it is."
In the New Testament, Jesus introduced a new name for God -- Father. It is the name that Jesus referred to more than any other and the name that He invites us to use to address the Creator of the Universe. Just stop and think about that for a moment. The God of the universe who created the heavens and the earth, who always has been and always will be, who is all-knowing, all powerful, and present everywhere at once -- that same God invites you to call Him - Daddy!
When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, He said:
But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray: 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name....' (Matthew 6:6-9 NIV).
Packer went on to say: "For everything that Christ taught, everything that makes the New Testament new and better than the Old, everything that is distinctly Christian as opposed to merely Jewish, is summed up in the knowledge of the fatherhood of God." All other religions demand followers to worship created beings (Mohammad, Buddha), but Jehovah the Creator, the great I AM, invites us to crawl up in His lap, become His child, and call Him Abba, Daddy. He said, "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters." (2 Corinthians 6:18 NIV)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for being a father who loves me as His precious child. How amazing to think that the God who created the universe and all it contains invites me to be His child and call Him Abba, Father. I do not take this invitation lightly, but cherish it with all my heart.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What would a perfect Father look like to you? Make a list of those qualities. Now put a check mark by the ones you have experienced in God as His child.
What does God promise in 2 Corinthians 6:18?
Describe how God, our Father is depicted in Hosea 11:3-4.
What do you learn about the love of God in Ephesians 3:18-19?
What do you learn about the Fatherhood of God in 1 Corinthians 8:6?
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Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life or that He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His. Take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find out how in Dreams of a Woman God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dream by Sharon Jaynes.
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October 30, 2008
I Need Rest!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place" (Mark 6:30-32, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I spin plates. Not real plates. Metaphorical plates. I spin lots of plates at the same time and I multi-task, whether it's with small household chores or with big projects. Doesn't matter. This is both a blessing and a curse in my life. Sometimes my attention is divided in too many directions, leaving me harried ... while at other times, I'm energized by the amount of things I can get done in a small window of time. Regardless, there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get things done or enough hours in the night to give me complete rest.
Being a plate-spinning mom can be a real challenge. When my kids want me, they don't like to wait for me to spin three more plates before I answer them. When they were smaller, they figured out a way to stop me mid-task, no matter what I was doing. They would place their chubby little hands on my cheeks, look me in the eye, and demand my full attention. Then they would deliver their message or question to me. I was their captive audience.
In Mark 6:30-32, we learn that Jesus and His apostles had been busy working for their heavenly Father. In fact, they had worked with such vigor that they hadn't even gotten a decent meal in their belly. (Boy, do I know what that's like!) In response, Jesus invited them to get away with Him so they could find some rest and rejuvenation in His presence. He said, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest" (Mark 6:31, NIV). That same invitation is extended to you and me.
God wants you to pause the plate spinning and be His captive audience in this very moment. He wants you to come away with Him to a quiet place: to be still, to gaze into His eyes, to worship Him in Spirit and in truth, to be lost in His glory, and found by His grace - to find rest.
I'd like you to imagine His strong yet gentle hands reaching for your cheeks, lifting your chin, and drawing your eyes to His. He wants you to fix your gaze on His beautiful, blazing, mercy-filled eyes. He wants your full attention. He wants to be your rest.
I co-wrote a song called "Sacred Place" that speaks to this. Please take a moment right now to listen to "Sacred Place" and personally respond to Him.
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO SACRED PLACE
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, please forgive me for all of the times I fail to give You my attention. I shake my head at the very thought that You want to lock gazes with someone like me, yet Scripture clearly tells me that You desire to be sought after and found by me. I'm here. You have my full attention, please speak to my heart and help me to be Your captive audience throughout today and everyday. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Find a solitary place, grab your Bible and read Psalm 103.
Write down your favorite verses from that chapter and journal about what they teach you.
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Do you know that rest, the rest that comes from the heart of God and permeates every fiber of who you are...no matter what you are facing? God desires for you to know His rest, for you to experience the fullness of His love and His peace. If your soul is in turmoil, lift your gaze to the Father. Seek His heart. He will meet you at your need and sustain you one day at a time. Spend some sacred quiet time with Him today.
Gwen's song "Sacred Place" is featured on her new CD, UNSEARCHABLE, that is just being released. CLICK HERE to pre-order your copy!
God delights in transforming lives, including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
To listen to Gwen's music, CLICK HERE!
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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October 31, 2008
Oh, no! She's awake!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.' (NIV)
Friend to Friend
For many years, I did everything I possibly could to hide or erase any weakness in my life. When that didn't work, I simply pretended that those weak areas didn't exist. Why? Because if I was weak, how could Jesus love me? How could anyone love me? How could I love myself?
When our son, Jered, began to walk, I immediately noticed that his feet turned inward. Our pediatrician recommended a specialist who examined Jered thoroughly, then ordered several x-rays. The more he examined Jered, the more concerned we became. When the specialist finally called us in for a consultation, we braced ourselves for bad news ... just in case. The doctor's stoic face revealed nothing but his diagnosis was a gift. "There is nothing wrong with Jered's feet," he said. "They are simply the feet of a natural athlete and were designed to give him great balance." What we feared as a weakness, an obstacle to overcome, was, in reality, a great strength and part of the Master's plan for Jered who graduated from college because of a football and academic scholarship. .
The same is true in our lives as children of God. We were created by God, according to His plan, in love and with purpose -- weaknesses and all. "God in heaven appoints each person's work." (John 3:27 NLT) We tend to view our weaknesses as liabilities. However, since our worth does not depend upon us in any way, we can and must be honest about our weaknesses, knowing they do not diminish our value in the heart and mind of God but can, in fact, become the areas through which God does His greatest work.
Instead, we try to ignore weaknesses, hoping no one will notice. We live in denial, assigning blame to others when we fail. Eventually, we attempt to bury our weaknesses only to find them resurrecting themselves when we least expect it. A powerful life embraces pain, brokenness and weakness and understands that perfection is for Heaven, not Earth. The words of Paul are profound, "God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong." (1 Corinthians 1:27 NIV)
When we are honest about our weaknesses, we are conceding the fact that only God can accomplish anything good in or through us. God's power is instantly recognizable in obvious weakness. God has always allowed man's weakness to validate the immeasurable need of His redemption and His sufficiency in our lives. He can and will use us if we allow Him to do so -- not despite our weaknesses -- but through our weaknesses. We are not the message -- just the messenger. Our weaknesses are not excuses to escape God's plan but divinely appointed opportunities for that plan to work.
Noah was a drunk.
Abraham was too old.
Isaac was a daydreamer.
Jacob was a liar.
Leah was ugly.
Joseph was abused.
Moses had a stuttering problem.
Gideon was afraid.
Sampson had long hair and was a womanizer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Jeremiah and Timothy were too young.
David had an affair and was a murderer.
Elijah was suicidal.
Isaiah preached naked.
Jonah ran from God.
Naomi was a widow.
Job went bankrupt.
John the Baptist ate bugs.
Peter denied Christ.
The Disciples fell asleep while praying.
Martha worried about everything.
The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once.
Zaccheus was too small.
Paul was too religious and Lazarus was dead!
(Author unknown)
More important than where you have been or even where you are, is where you are headed. Don't wait until you have it all figured out. That won't happen, this side of Heaven. Don't wait until you think you are good enough. You never will be. Step up to the plate and be the imperfect you; allowing God's perfection to shine through each and every weakness. Do not listen to the doubts and lies of Satan. His goal is to render you helpless and defeated, no longer a threat to him or his kingdom. I recently told a friend, "I want to get to the place in my walk with God, that when my feet hit the floor each morning, the devil says, "Oh, no! She's awake!" I know I have a long way to go, but join me in the choice to embrace weakness and pain, allowing God's strength and restoration to shine through each broken place.
Let's Pray
Father, right now, I yield to the truth that I am weak and You are strong. Forgive me for the arrogance and pride that makes me think I can do anything good on my own. Keep me broken, Father, and on my face before You. Please use the broken places in my life to let Your light shine through. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the weaknesses you see in your life.
Read the story of Gideon in Judges 6:1 -- 27.
What was Gideon's response to God when God called him to serve? What is your usual response to God's voice?
Whose strength accomplished the task God called Gideon to do? How can you relate that to your own daily life?
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For years, I struggled with not being good enough. Many of my hopes and dreams were lost or paralyzed by doubt and fear ... until I found myself in a clinical pit of depression where God taught me so many life changing lessons. No one can take my place in the Father's heart. I am indispensable to no one but God. I will never be "good enough" but my relationship with God does not exist because of good works, nor will it be sustained by what I do. Instead, He lives through me and I live by His power. Do not let the enemy backhand you with the lie that you are nothing to God. My friend, you are everything to Him. Go for it! Need help? Mary has a free online bible study as well as a variety of books, CDs and MP3 downloads that will encourage and equip you for daily life. Drop by her online store today!
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November 3, 2008
The Only Perfect Parent
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In love He predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with His pleasure and will -- to the praise of His glorious grace, which He has freely given us in the One He loves" (Ephesians 1:5-6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
For many, the idea of God being their father may not be a pleasant one. We have a human tendency to project our perception of fatherhood, based on our own experience with our earthly fathers, onto our idea of the fatherhood of God.
Some never knew their earthly fathers, some had abusive fathers, and some were deserted by their fathers and some had loving endearing fathers and some lost their fathers due to sickness or catastrophe. Even the best earthly fathers have feet of clay and will disappoint their children.
When I was growing up, I never had lengthy conversations with my father, therefore, when I became a Christian, it was very difficult for me to have lengthy conversations with my heavenly father. Prayer was difficult.
We need to remove the mask of our earthly parent from the face of God. No matter what your past experience with your earthly father has been, the truth is your Heavenly Father is the perfect parent who loves you, cares for your every need, is interested in all you do, and skillfully guides you. He wisely trains you, never deserts you, generously supplies for your needs, is always available to you, and cherishes you as His precious child.
God has made a way for us to understand what He is like. If we want to know the Father, the only perfect parent, we have but to look at the life of His Son. Jesus said, "Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father...The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work" (John 14:9, 10 NIV). The writer of Hebrews explained, "The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word" (Hebrews 1:3 NIV). If you understand what Jesus is like, you understand what God is like and the more intimately you know the Son, the more clearly you understand the character of the Father.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for adopting me as your child. Even though I had many faults and failures, you chose me anyway. Lord, I pray that I will become more and more like You, my Father, every day. Do whatever it takes to make me into a child that resembles her Dad. I love You. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
We are called "children" of God. What does the word "child" imply?
How would you describe the perfect father?
How does Your Heavenly Father fit that description?
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Every little girl dreams of a daddy who loves her. And the good news is that we do have just that. If you would like to learn more about Your Heavenly Father who loves you and has great dreams for your life, see Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman -- God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams.
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November 4, 2008
The Circle of Encouragement
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God."
Friend To Friend
You have heard the old saying, "What goes around, comes around." Truer words were never spoken when talking about encouragement. We all need encouragement -- especially during the tough times. Those "tough" times can come in all shapes, sizes and forms and can vary from person to person. For example, we have one child who has been known to run an extremely high fever, walk around on a broken foot, and have a headache that would put me in bed ... all without a word of complaint. The doctors have always been amazed at this child's high level of pain tolerance. We have another child who has been known to dissolve into hysterics at the sight of a splinter embedded in a finger and turn ghastly pale and almost faint at the mere smell of the doctor's office. The doctor's have been amazed at this child's low level of pain tolerance. The difference between these two children does not reflect a right or wrong reaction. As one of my friends often says, "It is what it is!" When each child was in pain, they both needed understanding, compassion and encouragement.
When I went through my first major battle with clinical depression, I was amazed at the people God sent to encourage me. Phone calls came from friends we hadn't seen or heard from in years. "I don't know what is going on in your life," they would say, "but I have had you on my heart and just felt compelled to call." Notes and letters arrived in the mail -- all filled with encouraging words -- many from people who had no idea about my struggles. Strangers would take one look at me and proceed to rescue me from whatever circumstance in which I was trapped and having a panic attack.
One of the most precious groups of encouragers was the elders of our church. With my permission, my husband, as the pastor, shared with them what I was going through and asked them to pray, which they did. These men just didn't think prayer was enough. These amazing angels wanted to do more by putting feet and hands to those prayers and did not stop until they came up with a rescue plan for me.
Our church had five services each weekend and because I was so emotionally frail, I never knew which service I would be able to attend until I was on the way. Dan would relay the message that I was coming and the elders went into action. One would meet me at the car and escort me inside. Another would keep an eye on me during the service in case I needed help. Our church auditorium had three main aisles. An elder would walk those aisles before and after the service, watching and waiting. Many times, the elder would press a note of encouragement into my hand as he passed the offering plate. If he sensed I was in trouble or caught in a draining conversation, he would swoop in, take me by the arm and say, "Excuse us, please. Mary is needed elsewhere." I was then ushered to my car, hugged and told, "We are praying for you. We love you. Go home." I know. It was amazing! It was also a main factor in my recovery.
The reason these special men offered me encouragement was because Dan and I made the decision to share my pain -- openly and honestly. Doing so invited them into my life. Now that I am on the other side of that pit, I remember the love and encouragement they gave me -- and I am motivated to encourage others in God's circle of encouragement. However, there is another very important truth here I don't want us to miss.
There are those who suffer alone and in silence, unable to scrape up the courage to share their pain and have no advocate to sound the alarm on their behalf. I believe God will not only give us the discernment to see their pain, but will show us how to encourage and build them up. He will show us how to help the weak and be patient with the broken lambs who cross our path ... if we ask Him to do so. The holidays may be a very difficult time for you. Would you be willing to share your pain with others and allow God to use them in your life as a source of encouragement? Perhaps the greatest gift you can give this year is the gift of encouragement to someone who finds it hard to share their pain openly. Either way, the question is, are you willing? Don't miss the opportunity to be part of the circle of encouragement.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed at how You love me through others. Thank You for the gift of encouragement. Help me to receive that gift and then to give it away to someone else in need. I want to be Your hands and feet to those who are hurting around me. Give me eyes to see them, Lord. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you need encouragement, think of two people with whom you can share that need and make a plan to do so.
Look for people in your life to encourage.
In your journal, record a recent time when you received and/or gave encouragement. What were the results?
Write a note of encouragement to someone in need, letting them know you are praying for them. Offer to take care of a specific need such as preparing a meal, dropping by the grocery store to pick up a few items or picking up their cleaning. Many times, people in pain can't or won't ask for help. If you see a need, meet it.
Write a note of thanks to someone who has encouraged you.
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We really do need each other, don't we? God created us that way. The holidays are often "dead zones" for encouragement. Our heart and mind is so filled with other things that the signal is not coming through! We get so busy that we forget the very reason for the season -- Jesus Christ -- the One who loves the most and calls us to love like He loves. Don't let the stress of the holidays rob you of the joy of giving encouragement. You can now purchase and download my new bible study, "God's Answer to Stress", as a guide to managing stress and enjoying a holiday season centered on Him.
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November 5, 2008
Unfailing Love
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord, who has compassion on you" (Isaiah 54:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
2002 was a year of transition for me. I changed positions at the ministry where I work, my son packed up to go away to college, my thyroid went out of control and had to be purposely destroyed with radioactive iodide, my first book went out of print, the grocery store quit carrying my favorite coffee, and Revlon discontinued the eyeliner that I'd been using for ten years. Like a little girl who had lost her best friend, I whined, "Doesn't anything ever stay the same? Isn't there one thing I can count on being the same tomorrow as it is today!"
Then I heard that gentle whisper I've grown to love, "Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord, who has compassion on you" (Isaiah 54:10 NIV).
Yes, there is one thing that will never change, God's unfailing love for His children. The word compassion in Isaiah 54:10 is the Hebrew word racham, which means "to soothe; to cherish; to love deeply like parents; to be compassionate, be tender. This verb usually refers to a strong love which is rooted in some kind of natural bond, often from a superior one to an inferior. (Now here's the best part.) Small babies evoke this feeling."
When my son, Steven, came into the world, a love was birthed in my heart that I never thought possible. Elizabeth Stone said it well: "To make a decision to have a child, it's momentous. It is to decide to have your heart go walking around outside of your body for the rest of your life." That is how our Heavenly Father feels about His children!
The beautiful Hebrew word, hesed, is translated unfailing love in Isaiah 54:10. It is often translated loving-kindness, steadfast love, grace, mercy, faithfulness, goodness, and devotion. This word is used 240 times in the Old Testament and is considered one of the most important in the vocabulary of the Old Testament. Why? Because God's unfailing love is one of the most important themes of the entire Bible. It is who He is and what He does (I John 4:8).
How would you like to memorize half of a psalm in the next sixty seconds? Want to give it a try? Turn to Psalm 136. After each sentence, there is an echo, "His love endures forever." Repeat that sentence twenty-six times and you will have quoted half of the Psalm! David begins by reminding us that God created the world, led the captives out of Egypt and through the desert, and conquered the enemies of the Israelites so they could move into the Promised Land. While He works in many varied ways and with many different people, one thing remains the same -- "His love endures forever!"
Paul echoes David's words in his letter to the Romans. "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38). "His love endures forever!"
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, even though everything else in my life tends to change, I am so thankful that Your love never changes. Your love endures forever. Praise Your Holy Name!
In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Write down all the changes that have occurred in your life over the past year. Now write down all the ways that God has remained the same through the changes.
Memorize 1 John 3:1
Go back and read Psalm 136. Use it as a model for prayer, using your own life experiences.
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Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His, take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find out how in Dreams of a Woman God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dream by Sharon Jaynes.
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November 6, 2008
Are You Ready for the Holidays?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:16-20 (NIV) "So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told."
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues". I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it. We have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing -- even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and home owner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first -- until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold but was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level -- refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay. Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place or push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sink hole waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. Before we realize it, the dark, slimy pit swallows us up. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend! Now is the time to do something about it!
Thanksgiving can be a time of praise if we choose to focus on the victories and joys we have experienced during the year and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings, if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, get ready for the holidays by choosing an attitude of joy, by focusing your mind on the things of heaven -- not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to re-visit the holiday season of 2007.
What was the best part of those holidays for you? Why?
List three changes you would like to make this year.
What is the first step you need to take to make those changes happen?
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can your choice to "ponder" on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made concerning this holiday season. Make a step-by-step plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Can you believe the holidays are already here? I have been on a diligent search this year -- to discover the secrets of having the best and most Christ-centered holidays of my life. I am excited about my NEW MP3, How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas, and believe it will help you learn how to prevent and control holiday stress, how to give God the gifts He wants to receive from us and how to give ten wonderful gifts without spending a dime. Download it today!
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November 7, 2008
Prayer - Our Calling and Privilege
Melody Hadley
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Melody Hadley.
Today's Truth
James 5:16 (NKJV) instructs us with these words, "Confess your trespasses to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much."
Friend to Friend
The New Testament teaches that intercession is expected of all believers. Praying for the sick is particularly important. To be an effective intercessor we must keep a clean, open heart to hear God's voice and follow His instructions. We must recognize what a great privilege it is to serve God in prayer and that it is our duty as Christians to care about the welfare of others.
My response to God's call to be a mediator/intercessor all began in January 2005. A distraught friend e-mailed, asking that I pray and contact as many prayer warriors as I could for intercessory prayer on behalf of her daughter-in-law who was dealing with major psychiatric and physical health problems. My immediate response was to pray for God's healing and guidance in this young lady's life. I asked Him for direction as to the best method of speedily spreading this prayer concern, and God responded in my heart. He told me to e-mail all the Christian people in my e-mail address book with the request.
The response was overwhelming. Men and women from several states and countries as far away as India and Australia joined me in intercessory petitions to God for this woman, whom they have never met, and most likely never will meet. God answered our prayers, and although this woman still struggles today, her condition has improved.
Because of being obedient to God's leading in what many would call a "small" matter of responding to one prayer request, a ministry was born. Those who shared in the intercession began contacting me to say how humbled and honored they felt to be a participant. They also began sending prayer requests and praise reports on a regular basis. A commonality of purpose emerged from within the group and each member wanted to serve the Lord by serving others, as James 5:16 (NIV) says, "...pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."
Who in your life needs your prayer support today? If you need prayer, have you contacted someone, asking for prayer? It's never too late to start praying and it's always too early to stop.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, we come to You seeking to know Your will. Show us where and how we can demonstrate Your love, by praying for others. Give us open hearts and minds so that we can truly identify the specific needs of others. Grant us the ability to be Your hands, Your feet in serving others in love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you would like to be part of prayer ministry via Internet or phone, there is always a place for you on a prayer team. God encourages us to communicate with Him--so please pray! Contact your church and your friends. If there isn't an existing prayer ministry, consider stepping out and being the facilitator and get a prayer ministry started!
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Think about your hands/fingers. You wash them, use them to feed yourself, type with them, work in the garden, touch a child, play an instrument, etc. They are an amazing and complex part of the body God created for us. A wonderful way to utilize your hands and fingers as prayer reminders is described below.
The Five Finger Prayer
It is sometimes helpful to have a plan to follow when praying. The "Five Finger Prayer" is a simple but effective pattern of prayer:
The thumb is nearest you. So begin praying for those closest to you.
The pointing finger is next. Pray for those who instruct, teach, and heal, including teachers, doctors, and ministers who point others to God.
The tallest finger reminds us to pray for leaders -- men and women in places of influence such as our President, business leaders, your boss -- anyone in power.
The ring finger is the perfect reminder to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain.
The little finger reminds you to pray for yourself.
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November 10, 2008
Undeniable Access
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In Him and through faith in Him we may approach God with freedom and confidence." (Ephesians 3:12 NIV)
Friend to Friend
One of my favorite people is author and speaker Patsy Clairmont. We were discussing my first book on the telephone one day and trying to set up a time to meet face-to-face when she came to speak at a Women of Faith Conference in my hometown.
"Patsy, I'd love to spend some time with you before the conference, but I don't have a backstage pass. I won't have access to the part of the building where you will be."
"No problem," Patsy answered. "Just go to my book table and tell my son who you are. He'll bring you to me."
The day of the conference arrived, and I swam through a sea of women to reach Patsy's crowded book table. It wasn't hard to spot her son -- a male version of Patsy herself. After proper introductions, Jason and I were off to find his mom. First, we passed through heavy mahogany double doors that led to an area called The Crown Room for the VIP's who attended professional basketball games and other important events. Then we entered an elevator that took us to an area where the speakers were tucked away.
As I stepped into the elevator, a stern faced security guard pointed his finger in my face and pronounced, "You're not supposed to be here, young lady. Where's your backstage pass? You're going to be in a lot of trouble."
He whipped out is walk-talkie and was not afraid to use it. Before I could force one word out of my dry mouth, Patsy's son stepped forward, showed the guard his credentials, and gallantly stated, "She's with me."
"That's right," I agreed when I had once again found my tongue. "He's Patsy Clairmont's son, and I'm with him."
"Oh, okay then," the guard said, and he was off to seek and find other dangerous Christian women like myself who were attending the conference.
I had a wonderful visit with Patsy and left the conference very inspired by each one of the speakers, but perhaps the best lesson I learned was on that elevator ride. One day, we will leave this earth, bound for heaven. As we make our way to His throne room and pass through heaven's doors, there may be someone lurking in the shadows, waiting to accuse us, to call us unworthy, and to question our credentials. In Revelation 12:10, Satan is called "the accuser of the brethren." I envision him standing in my path, pointing his crooked, gnarled, demonic finger in my face and saying, "You don't belong here! Where's your pass? What are your credentials?"
Then just as Patsy's son stepped forward to vouch for me, God's Son will step forward and say, "Leave her alone! She's with me. I'm all the credentials she needs."
In the Old Testament, there is a sense that God was unapproachable because of His holiness. In the temple, a veil separated the Holy of Holies where God resided, from the other areas of the temple where the priests attended daily. The high priest only entered the Holy of Holies once a year, on the Day of Atonement. Before he could enter, the priest went through a rigorous ceremonial cleansing process. Bells were hemmed to the bottom of his robe and a rope was tied around his foot. The people outside listened for the tingling bells to make sure the priest was still alive. If per chance the sound ceased, they pulled the dead priest out by the rope.
But in the New Testament, things changed. God was and is still the holy great I AM, but He invites us to enter the Holy of Holies with the confidence of a child approaching his daddy. When Jesus died on the cross of Calvary, God tore the veil of the Holy of Holies from top to bottom, inviting all those who believe in Christ to enter with assurance and confidence. (Mark 15:38). "Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need" (Hebrews 4:16). "In Him and through faith in Him we may approach God with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12).
No longer do we have to offer blood sacrifices as they did in the Old Testament. Jesus Christ is our perfect High Priest who offered the perfect sacrifice -- Himself. "Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water" (Hebrews 10:19-22).
Just like the security guard who pointed his finger in my face and told me I didn't have the right credentials to enter the secure area, Satan will tell us that we don't deserve access to the Father. Never fear my friend. Jesus Christ stands to show His credentials that allow us to enter the throne room of God. As a child of God, you have undeniable access because God's Son is with you and in you - and He's all the credentials you need.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that I can come before You at any time. Unlike the people in the Old Testament, I do not have to be afraid to come into Your presence, and I do not have to go through an earthly priest. You invite me to come directly to You. The only priest I need is Jesus Christ, our High Priest forever. In His name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When you go before the Lord in prayer today, thank Him for his undeniable access.
The next time you make a telephone call and are put on hold or have to go through a lengthy series of (if...press two, if...press three, if...press 0) thank God that you do not have to go through such maneuvers to get to Him.
Along with today's truth, ponder these verses: "Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water" (Hebrews 10:19-22 NIV ).
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Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His, take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find out how in Dreams of a Woman God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dream by Sharon Jaynes. Today's story of Patsy and the security guard was taken from Sharon's new devotional book, Extraordinary Moments with God. To read a portion of this adorable gift book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com
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November 11, 2008
What's In Your Trash Basket?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" (John 8:10 NIV)
Friend to Friend
A four-year-old girl was overheard reciting the Lord's Prayer, "and forgive us our trash baskets, as we forgive those who pass trash against us." When I first heard that story, I smiled. Then I thought of a conversation I recently had with a girlfriend.
She is a Christian friend. But though she has "emptied her trash basket" of sin before the Lord in sincere repentance, she has not emptied the trash basket of self-condemnation. Not completely. She won't allow it. She struggles deeply to let go of mistakes she made in her past. She holds the trash basket lid on tightly. To be free of that waste doesn't seem fair in her mind.
She is haunted by shame. Haunted by sins that are no longer remembered by God. Haunted by sins that have been cast as far as the east is from the west.
"For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him." (Psalm 103:11-13)
These memories don't live in her past. They live in her now. They haunt her regularly like a spine-chilling horror film monster and as much as she would like to move forward in forgiveness, she just can't find the courage to scare the monster away.
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 8, we meet a woman caught in the act of adultery. The legalistic teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought her before Jesus. They publicly humiliated her in front of all the town's people, saying to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" (John 8:4-5)
Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger as they continued to question him. Finally, "He straightened up and said to them, '"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.'" Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground" (John 8:7-8).
The crowd eventually thinned to nothing. The older, wiser men cleared first. Then the younger ones trickled away. When the adulterous woman and Jesus were the only ones remaining:
"Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she said.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin" (John 8:10-12).
My sister, do you see that our holy Lord delights to show us mercy? He does not condemn us as we deserve. Time and time again, Scripture reveals merciful pictures of forgiveness. The woman in this story was guilty when she was brought to face Jesus, but as she left His presence, her guilt was forgiven. Her trash basket was empty. When we turn to face Jesus with repentant hearts, our guilt is forgiven as well.
This account of the adulterous woman teaches us a valuable lesson about judging and condemning others. We shouldn't judge others. It's not appropriate and it's not our place. Simple as that.
Toss your trash!
But what does this lesson teach us about judging ourselves? My friend that I spoke of earlier carried around a trash basket filled with junk she threw in herself. Sure, it was accompanied by trash from other people too, but the lingering condemnation came from memories of decisions she had made, things she had done, places she had been, and brokenness she has experienced because of her own choices. In her heart, she accepts the forgiveness of Jesus, but she can't bear to forgive herself. So many women won't forgive themselves.
I've been that woman.
I know that woman.
I know that self-loathing. I've lived it. I'm not going to sit here and try to tell you that forgiving yourself is easy. It's hard--and, in a lot of ways, it should be! But I can testify that it wasn't until I prayerfully allowed the stubborn, strong, and unconditional love of Jesus to pry my fingers off the lid of my trash basket and empty the condemning contents, that I experienced true freedom and complete forgiveness.
Is there something for which you have not been able to forgive yourself?
My friend, we need to stop beating ourselves up for sins of our past. We need to stop allowing guilt and shame to chain us to unproductive living. Jesus humbled Himself by becoming human, endured an excruciating death, and then defied the grave in His resurrection so that we could be restored to a place of complete healing. Complete healing.
Second Corinthians 5:21 states that "God made Him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." If you are in Christ, the Bible says that your guilt was paid for on the cross of Calvary. Jesus carried the sins of the world on His shoulders so that you would not have to carry them on yours.
If you are holding on to unconfessed sin, the time has come for you to release your grip. God's Word promises that, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
Accept His forgiveness.
None of us is perfect, just perfectly forgiven. Take your hand off the lid and allow the Lord to empty your trash basket of every condemning voice, once and for all. Embrace the freedom that Jesus intends for you to live in.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your mercy defies logic in my mind. I don't deserve it, and I just don't understand how You could possibly forgive me for all that I have done. Please take my trash basket and empty it. Forgive me today and help me to forgive myself, and others, so I can live freely in Your amazing grace. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recite, write, and memorize these verses: "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death." (Romans 8:1-2)
Prayerfully forward this email to a friend (or friends) who might need to read this message.
Journal what God is teaching you. Praise Him for revealing truth to your heart and for His matchless grace.
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Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful, and it is a core message of faith. I know that many of you might have had to read it through tear-filled eyes. I pray that you will allow God to replace your tears of pain with tears of joy. I would love you to hear a special song (make sure your volume is turned up). CLICK HERE TO LISTEN.
God delights in transforming lives, including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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November 12, 2008
He Calls you by Name
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Fear not, for I have redeemed you. I have called you by name, you are mine" (Isaiah 43:1 NASB).
Friend to Friend
Over the years, several people in my life never seem to remember my name. A few of my more popular aliases are Sarah James, Susan James, Shannon James, and Jane Jaynes. Then there are the people who just can't remember me altogether and don't even try to fish a name from their memory pool. To tell you the truth, I'm not very good with names either.
However, names are very important to God. In the Bible, a person's name revealed a unique quality of their character. Moses meant "drawn out of water." Ruth meant "woman friend." Naomi meant "pleasant," and she changed it to "Mara" which meant "bitter." Her two sons' names meant "Puny" and Piney." Evidently, these two fellows weren't exactly strapping young he-men, and both died at an early age. If a person had an encounter with the living God, many times He changed their name to fit the experiences He had planned for their futures. Abram was changed to Abraham. Sarai was changed to Sarah. Saul was changed to Paul.
Yes, names are very important. That's why when someone very dear to me forgot mine, it broke my heart.
My father accepted Jesus as his Savior when I was 21 years old. The transformation I saw in him was nothing short of miraculous. One of the benefits that I received was that he learned how to love me. In my father's later years, we had a very tender and dear relationship. But it was short lived.
A few years after dad committed his life to Christ, I noticed him becoming very forgetful. At first, it was small idiosyncrasies: forgetting an order at work, misplacing his shoes or keys, not remembering what day it was, drawing a blank on a close friend's name. Then it progressed to more serious absent-minded behavior: forgetting where he parked in a parking deck (and even which parking deck), coming home to take my mother to the market forgetting he had already taken her an hour before, and becoming confused when taking measurements for cabinets which he had been doing for over forty years. In 1987, our greatest fears were confirmed. Dad had Alzheimer's disease. He was fifty-six-years-old.
My dad had been a tough cookie as a young man. From the time he was fifty-six to sixty-six, I watched a competent, quick witted entrepreneur reduced to a man who could not remember how to speak, button his shirt or move a spoon from his plate to his mouth. But what pained me the most was the day he forgot my name.
I still remember holding his face in my hands and saying, "Daddy, it's me. Do you know who I am?" But I was only met by a childish grin and eyes that seemed to look straight through me.
Names. They are important. In Isaiah 43:1, God says, "Fear not, for I have redeemed you. I have called you by name, you are mine" (NASB). In Isaiah 49:1, the prophet announces, "Before I was born, the LORD called me; from my birth he has made mention of my name" (NIV).
As God's child, He has called you by name and the Bible promises He will never forget it. Your name is engraved on the palm of His hand (Isaiah 49:16).
On a Friday morning in May of 1996, the Lord graciously came and took my earthly father to his new home in glory. He's probably up there right now measuring for cabinets and working on all those mansions we've read so much about. His memory has been restored and I look forward to the day when my earthly father and my heavenly Father welcome me with open arms and say, "Welcome, Sharon, my daughter, my child."
Let's Pray
Dear Father, sometimes when I think of you calling my name, I am moved to tears. You know my name! You have it engraved in the palm of your hand. Thank you Lord that you will never forget me. In Jesus' precious name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
As we have seen, names are important. The most important name in the universe is God's name. Do you ever say His name flippantly or without reverence? ("Oh my God," for example.)
How do you think God feels about His name being used as an explicative? (Exodus 20:7) Make a commitment today to speak God's name in reverence and holiness.
What does it mean to you that God knows you by name?
Write a prayer of thanksgiving to God expressing the joy of knowing that your name is engraved on the palm of His hand.
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God does know your name, but He has also given you many new names: salt of the earth, light of the world, saint, holy, pure, chosen, Bride of Christ, redeemed, righteous, etc. If you would like to learn more about your new identity in Christ, see Sharon's book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover. Also, on her website you can find a laminated card that fits snuggly in your Bible with a list of who you are in Christ! Visit www.sharonjaynes.com
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November 13, 2008
On Our Way Home
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:4-7 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Friend to Friend
Have you noticed how hard "re-entry" is?
One of my favorite movies is "Apollo 13" in which we first heard those famous words, "Houston, we have a problem", an understatement, to say the least. The astronauts faced seemingly impossible odds of getting back to earth but refused to give up the fight until they splashed down in the waters of home.
Life is much the same. We are often thrust into a daily life of foreign and often frightening worlds, shaky circumstances, and impossible trials with no obvious way of escape. It seems like we will never get home and our world will never be right again.
I have discovered a truth that surfaces in my heart every Christmas holiday. We all come into this world with a sense of being lost. Tucked into the corner of our souls is a feeling of restlessness...a longing for home, for something eternal. That longing will never be satisfied outside of a relationship with Him! God holds each today and every tomorrow in His hands. Nobody and nothing can fill the "God-shaped" hole in our heart.
I have come to cherish that desperate heart cry that drives me to my knees and into the lap of my Father! Each and every time I come to Him, He whispers, "It will be all right. You are not home - yet."
I do not want this broken and torn world to be my final home, but merely a place I am passing through. While I am here, I have a God-sized job to do, an extraordinary mission to complete and a wonderful purpose to fulfill. Is that awesome or what? Absolutely! But it is only the beginning of the eternity for which I was created. It doesn't get any better than that, my friends.
So as you dive into your hectic schedule, remember that one day, we will be home - with Him - but until then, let's celebrate here! Guard your hearts and mind by filling them with God's Word. Hold fast to the true meaning of the season and don't let go! Look for ways to share the message of the manger, embracing that longing for home as a sweet reminder that one day we will celebrate His birth in Heaven. What a Christmas that will be! And we are on our way home!
Let's pray
Oh God, I love You and am so thankful for the hope that eternity holds because I know You. I am not alone, nor will I ever be. I will lack nothing because You are my Provider. I can sing in the midst of the storm because You are sufficient. I praise You and long for Home. But while I'm here, help me to be all that You created me to be. In Jesus' name, Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever experienced loneliness or a sense of loss during or after the Christmas season? I encourage you to prepare for it beforehand. The best way to get ready for a difficult time is to stay ready for a difficult time. In other words, now is the time to prepare your heart and mind for the holidays.
Make time each day to be alone with God.
Pour out your dreams and desperation to Him.
Read Psalm 23 once a day.
Invest at least 15 minutes in solitude each day, allowing your soul to "catch up."
Make a list of the top five joy thieves in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Prayerfully choose five verses of Scripture about peace. Write these verses on a 3X5 card and carry it with you through the holidays, referring to it while you wait in line, while you are stuck in traffic, at every meal, etc. Consider doing the same as a family project.
After the holidays are over, evaluate the difference this preparation made in your holiday celebration.
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Do not allow anyone or anything to steal your joy as you celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ! The choice is in your hands. Need help? Check out Mary's new bible study, God's Answer to Stress, and let it help you make this holiday season the best one of your life as you learn to manage stress instead of allowing it to manage you. Blessings.
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November 14, 2008
Hurdles
Angela L. Craig
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
James 1:2 (MSG) "Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that, under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don't try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way."
Friend to Friend
Imagine that it is your birthday, and before you sits the most beautiful gift you have ever seen. You can hardly wait to find out what is inside such an amazing gift box, wrapped in gold and glitter. Everyone gathers to celebrate as you delicately undue the paper from the box. You lift the lid to find a note that reads:
Dear (your name here):
Happy Birthday! This year, you will receive tests and trials that will challenge you to your core and require incredible perseverance and resilience on your part.
The good news is that if you persevere, your faith and your character will be built up.
Love,
James
Would you rejoice in such a gift, or would you throw the box at the gift-giver?
I recently read an article about Lolo Jones, an Olympic Gold Medal hopeful.
Lolo grew up in a family that was homeless for many years. Lolo's father was in and out of jail and not in the picture most of the time, leaving Lolo's mother to raise her and her four siblings alone.
Lolo's story continued as the world watched her overcome her tough childhood through her love for running and hurdles. Due to her come-back attitude, Lolo was touted to be the girl who would live out the American Dream story, from rags to riches, from defeat to glory! Lolo persevered regardless of the odds against her!
However, in one moment, her dreams were crushed when she clipped a hurdle during the Olympic trials and went from 1st place to 7th place.
In less than a second, all that she had worked for, all that she had hoped for in her life was gone. In an interview shortly after her fall, Lolo made this statement:
"As I crossed the line it was very hard to pick myself back up," Jones said through tears. "It took about 30 seconds, but you know what? Today's hard and tomorrow's going to be harder. What can you do but try again?"
How many of us have felt like we couldn't pick ourselves up, that today was hard, but tomorrow didn't look much better?
The good new is that you and I know a God (or we are getting to know a God) that wants us to overcome every hurdle. He wants to heal every wound and help us walk triumphantly into our future!
So ladies, "what can you do but try again?"
Don't let go of your dreams, God hasn't!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, teach me how to rejoice when I face trials and challenges in my life. Please help me to see the gain and not the loss of these events. I believe that Your plan for my life is the best one possible and I thank You giving me a resilient and thankful attitude regardless of life's trials. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What trials or tests are you facing today?
How are you responding to your circumstances? Do you feel defeated, tired or angry? Are you at the point that you are ready to try again?
If you are ready to try again, take these actions:
a) Change your mind-set to reflect God's word. Trials are not obstacles but opportunities!
b) Don't stop moving towards your goal. Wishing your circumstances will change will never move you out of adversity. Ask God to help you see the path He would like you to take. God will never fail you!
c) Anticipate and embrace the personal growth and self-discovery that will take place as you persevere!
d) Share the lessons you have learned with others that need hope. God can use your past to begin the healing process of another person's pain!
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We all fail and make mistakes. God understands that we are frail human beings who will never be perfect, this side of heaven. He stands ready and waiting to pick you up, soothe your wounded heart and wrap His arms of love around His broken lamb. He will give you time to gather the strength to begin again. Don't give up! Don't quit! Don't stop! Mary has a CD that will encourage you toward a new beginning. Visit her online store to download the MP3 or purchase the CD, "I Have a Hope".
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November 17, 2008
Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.' He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit." (Galatians 3:13, 14 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Today, I want to take you back a few years to one of our childhood fairy tales. Even though it may be familiar to you, stay with me for a surprise ending.
It all began long, long ago, in a land faraway, where a young Princess named Snow White lived. Her stepmother, the Queen, was very cruel and jealous of Snow White's beauty. Every day, the vain queen approached her magic mirror and asked, "Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who's the fairest of them all?" For many years, the mirror answered, "You are fairest of all, O Queen." But Snow White grew from a little girl into a woman.
One day, the Queen approached her magic mirror and asked, "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?" Much to her regret, the queen heard the answer she knew would inevitably come.
"Fair is thy beauty, Majesty, but behold -- a lovely maid I see, one who is more fair than thee. Lips red as a rose, hair black as ebony, skin white as snow..."
At once, the Queen shrieked in anger, knowing that the mirror spoke of none other than Snow White, her beautiful stepdaughter. The queen decided to eliminate her competition. She ordered one of her huntsmen to kill the fair princess in yonder woods.
The next day, the huntsman took the princess to the woods, but could not bring himself to end the life of one so lovely. Thus, he left her in the forest, hoping the queen would think he had accomplished his mission. Snow White stumbled across seven adorable young dwarfs with giant hearts who loved and cared for her.
The next day, the evil Queen asked the mirror once again, "Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"
Once again, the mirror answered, "Snow White."
Realizing her competition was not dead; the queen transformed herself into a witch (which did not take much effort, I might add) and went to find the girl. When she did, she devised a fool-proof plan to offer Snow White a poisoned apple that would cast her into an eternal sleep.
The dwarfs warned Snow White not to talk to any strangers while they were away doing their chores in the forest. But when the witch came bringing the tempting apple, Snow White took the fruit, ate a bite, and fell into a sleep that was supposed to last forever.
As a child, I remember reading the story of Snow White and almost crying at the fate of one so lovely. As an adult, I read the story and realize it is more than a fairy tale: it is our story as well.
Satan was once a lovely prince. Ezekiel describes him as once being "full of wisdom and perfect in beauty" with every precious stone as his covering. He was the anointed cherub who was on the mountain of God (Ezekiel 28:12-14). But pride was his downfall and he wanted to be like God. As a result, God cast Satan from heaven with one-third of all the angels (Isaiah 14:12-23). After his downfall, he was no longer the "fairest of them all." Satan, like the cruel and wicked queen, then came after us with the poisoned fruit of disobedience.
But the story of Snow White didn't end with her being caught in the evil spell. One day, a handsome Prince rode through the forest on his white horse. When he saw Snow White deep in sleep, he fell in love with her and placed a kiss upon her lips. When he did, she sat up, blinked her eyes, and sprang to life. The prince scooped Snow White into his arms and took her off to his castle where they lived happily ever after.
Oh dear sisters, a handsome prince has come into our lives as well. His name is Jesus. Our prince has placed a kiss upon our lips, taken us in His strong arms, and lifted the evil curse. Now when we look into the mirror of God's word and ask, "Who's the fairest of them all?" God answers," You are, my child" -- for He sees the reflection of His Son in our eyes.
"As a child of God
Looks daily into the Word of God
And beholds intently the glory of God
As manifested in the Son of God,
She shall, by the will of God,
Be transformed into the image of God."
Harry Reeder
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for rescuing me from the forces of evil in this world and transferring me to the kingdom of light. Thank You for breaking the curse that was placed on all mankind due to the disobedience of Adam and Eve in the garden and awaking our dead spirits to newness of life. I praise You that nothing, absolutely nothing, can separate us from Your love.
In Jesus' name. Amen
Now It's Your Turn
When you were a child, how did you feel when reading the story of Snow White? Were you concerned about her fate?
How did you feel about the wicked Queen? About the handsome prince?
Now, as an adult princess who has been rescued by the Prince of Peace, how do you feel toward Him?
The Bible tells us to "resist the devil and he will flee from you." What would have happened had Snow White said "no" to the Queen's tempting fruit? What would have happened if Eve had said "no" to Satan's tempting fruit?
Have you ever been in a tempting situation and taken the bait? What was the outcome?
Have you ever been in a tempting situation and refused to take the bait? What was the outcome?
Try your hand at writing your own version of Snow White with you as the damsel in distress and Jesus as the handsome prince.
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Adam and Eve had everything! They lived in the perfect world in the Garden of Eden. Then the evil one tempted them to disobey God and they ate the forbidden fruit. They lost it all. But Jesus Christ came to destroy the work of the devil and restore to us all that was lost. Then why do we continue to struggle? I believe it is because we don't realize what we have as a child of God. We still live like fallen creatures rather than restored children of God. Want to know more? See Experience the Ultimate Makeover and discover who you are and what you have as a child of God.
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November 18, 2008
My Psalm 23 Season
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1 (NASB) "The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want."
Friend to Friend
Stores are already filled with Christmas decorations. Television ads for the newest and best toys multiply every day. It won't be long until we are wringing our hands, wondering where the money for Christmas gifts is going to come from, a fact that must sadden the heart of God. To think that our first thoughts of His birth are wrapped in financial distress clearly indicates the reality that we do not understand or trust the sufficiency of God.
Have you noticed that it is always more fun to pay the bills when you actually have money to pay them instead of holding what my husband calls "The Monthly Draw"? The Southerland Monthly Draw is held when there are more bills than money. The rules are quite simple. All of the bills are placed in a stack. Dan then rifles through the stack, drawing out one of the bills to pay. This process continues until there is no more money. The rest of the bills have to wait until more money comes in. Sound familiar?
One morning, I walked into the study and could immediately tell by the look on Dan's face that the "draw" was not going so well. Finances had been extremely tight for a variety of reasons. Dan and I had prayed our way through that month, knowing that the next few months would only hold more of the same. I debated whether I should stick around to offer encouragement or run for the hills. I decided to stay. "Honey, can I help?" Dan looked up at me with a weak grin and said, "Not unless you have $900.00." Oh, boy! It was worse than I thought. Seeing the look on my face, my sweet husband quickly added, "Don't worry, honey, God always comes through." Now I must admit that at that precise moment, I would have preferred a tangible sample of God's provision. You know - something along the lines of a money tree in the back yard or an oil well in the front. I went to my desk, hoping to find a forgotten check from a speaking event or book sale but came up empty. An examination of my check register was even more depressing. Did we really need two children? Maybe we should sell one! (Just kidding) "Lord, I want to trust You as my Provider but right now, we really need $900.00," I informed the God of the Universe. How is that for a prayer of faith?
Dan did all he could do with the stack of bills and went next door to visit our neighbor while I stayed home, plotting and scheming ways to come up with $900.00. In fact, I spent the rest of the day in what my mother called "a tizzy" because as far as I could see, there was no plan and there was no scheme remotely looming in the Southerland picture that could produce the needed amount of money. And that was the problem. I was only looking "as far as I could see".
Finally, I left the need at His feet and went on with what was left of my day. As I began to prepare dinner, I remembered that I had forgotten to check the mail and quickly headed outside. There it was, God's perfect provision just sitting in our mailbox, waiting for me to come - an unexpected check for $949.64. Dan and I became aware of our need that morning. The check was mailed several days before. God met the need before the need was evident. He always does! In Philippians 4:19, Paul reminds us that our God will "meet all our needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
I often learn the most life-changing lessons at the feet of children. Ellie is the five-year-old granddaughter of a very close friend, Gina, who often cheers me up by sharing what she calls an "Ellie-ism". Not long ago, Gina was telling me about the prayer Ellie had prayed the night before at dinner. The meal was ready. Everyone in the family was seated, and Ellie volunteered to say the blessing. Every adult at the table smiled, wondering what childish offering they were about to hear. What they heard was profound truth from God as spoken through the words of a child. Head bowed, hands folded, Ellie prayed, "God is great. God is good. Let us thank Him for our food. By His hand, we all are fed. Give us, Lord our daily bread. THE END!" That about sums it up!
Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as the sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care and provision, we would be wise to depend totally upon God. He is our Provider. He is our Source and in light of that reality, stress flees, leaving only peace. As the holidays approach, fix your heart on God, rely upon your Shepherd, and trust Him to meet every need in your life and rest in the fact that He is the beginning ... and the end.
My Psalm 23
Lord, You are my Shepherd
You are my Identity
I shall not want
You are my Provision
You make me lie down in green pastures
You are my Rest
You lead me beside the still waters
You are my Replenishment
You restore my soul
You are my Healing
You lead me in the paths of righteousness
You are my Guide
For Your name's sake
You are my Purpose
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death
You are my Strength.
I will fear no evil
You are my Security
For You are with me
You are my Peace.
Your rod and your staff they comfort me.
You are my Deliverer
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies
You are my Hope
You anoint my head with oil
You are my Blessing
My cup runs over
You are my Abundance
Surely, goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life
You are my Promise.
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord
You are my Destiny.
Forever
You are my All in All!
Let's Pray
Father, in the midst of preparing for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays, I pray that I would constantly be reminded of the truth that it really is all about You. Give me the eyes to see those in need around me. Give me the heart to reach out to the walking wounded. Help me recognize and be thankful for the amazing journey this year has been and remember that You have been there every step of the way, through every valley and over every mountain. I give You praise! In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 28:7.
How does the psalmist encourage us to praise God?
When the psalmist writes that God is our strength and shield, what do you think he means? How does that apply to your own life?
According to this verse, what is the right heart attitude that prompts us to praise God?
Notice the psalmist tells us to "give" praise. What about our feelings? Will we always feel thankful?
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If we based our Thanksgiving and Christmas celebrations on Psalm 23, I think it would change the way we experience each one. I am easily distracted these days, especially when my "to do" list grows longer by the minute but I am praying that this year, my heart and mind will be wrapped up in Him alone. In my two new MP3s, The Secret of a Merry Christmas and Giving the Perfect Gift, I share practical ways to make that prayer a reality, and if the holiday stress is getting to you, download my new bible study, God's Answer to Stress as a gift to yourself. Blessings!
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November 19, 2008
Shattered Dreams (part 1)
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has born? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands." (Isaiah 49:15 NIV)
Friend to Friend
My husband and I were reveling in our time with our good friends from our college days, Larry and Cynthia Price. It had been almost a year since our last visit and I was hungry to hear of the latest family news about their children, Daniel, Julianna, and Laura Beth. While the four adults feasted on grilled teriyaki chicken, steamy baked potatoes, tossed salad with home grown sliced tomatoes, the kids ran out the door to attend the Friday night high school football game. For over an hour, conversation and sweet tea flowed like a mountain stream. We were just finishing the last bites of chocolate silk pie when our laughter was interrupted by the ringing phone.
"Hello," Cynthia answered.
I could only hear one side of the conversation, but I could tell something was terribly amiss.
"Daniel, calm down! What's wrong? Talk slower," she urged. "Oh God, no," Cynthia gasped. "OK, Daniel. I'll meet you at the hospital."
An ashen Cynthia turned to her husband and could barely force the words out of her mouth. "Larry, Daniel said that Will took a bad hit at the football game. He went in for a tackle. They hit. Will stood up. He fell on the ground and never got back up. They are taking him to the hospital in Clinton."
"Cynthia, you two go on to meet them. Don't even think twice about us," I assured her. "I'll clean up and take any calls that come in."
"Are you sure?" she asked. "I hate to leave you here."
"Absolutely, now scoot!"
Before they left, we held hands and prayed for Will, his mother Luanne, his dad, Bob, and his two brothers and little sister who were all at the game.
Larry and Cynthia drove down their mile long driveway and my mind rushed back to another time fourteen years earlier when I first met Luanne Johnson. She was Cynthia's best friend in the sleepy rural town of Rose Hill, NC, four hours from our home. She had just given birth to her third child, Bailey. Bailey was born with a hole in his heart. When he was seven months old, Luanne kissed his cheek as the doctors and nurses rolled him into the operating room to attempt to correct the defect. The physicians assured the Johnson's that the procedure had a 98% success rate and there was no cause for alarm. While Bailey came through the surgery just fine, he developed complications a few days later and had to go back in for a second procedure. This operation was not successful. Bailey died on the operating table. Bailey died on his brother Will's third birthday. Now this.
I pictured Luanne riding in the ambulance or perhaps following in a car close behind the blaring sirens. I recalled the words I had penned in another book, "There is an inexplicable bond that exists between a mother and her child. Even though the umbilical cord is severed in the delivery room, a cord of love connects them for the rest of their lives." Luanne already had one deposit in heaven. The thought of a second was almost too painful to imagine.
Oh, he'll be OK, I thought. I'd grown up in a small North Carolina town where high school football was a part of life for the entire community. When I was in elementary school, I went to Friday night games and ran around under the bleachers paying very little attention to the pigskin on the field. When I was a teenager, I was a cheerleader and knew just enough to know which cheers to yell when. My father-in-law had been a coach. Boys were constantly, "down on the play." But they always got up. Didn't they?
I'm not sure how much time passed, but Cynthia's phone call startled me back to reality.
"Sharon, this is Cynthia. Will didn't make it."
"What do you mean 'didn't make it?'" I asked.
"Will died before he even got to the hospital," she said.
Somehow, the news spread through the quiet little town that Will Johnson had been hurt at the football game. All through the night, I fielded calls that came to the Price's home. Cynthia was Luanne's best friend and Daniel had been Will's best friend.
The next day, the news reported the story. Will had gone in to make a tackle and when he hit the boy carrying the ball, his opponent's helmet crashed into Will's chest On impact, Will's heart had a concussion. He stood up and said, "Coach, I think I need to come out." Then he collapsed and his heart never beat again.
I was just a visitor from 200 miles away. I didn't know most of these people but one thing was clear. What affected one, affected them all. A mother's dreams had been shattered and the entire town felt her pain.
Shattered dreams are a part of life. Children die, husbands leave, jobs are lost, cancer tests come back positive, proposals are rejected, teenagers rebel, houses burn, terrorists attack, and the list goes on. Part of the pain is the feeling that God has forgotten us, grown deaf to our cries, or lost our address. Zion cried, "The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me" (Isaiah 49:14). David lamented, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning? O my God, I cry out by day, but you do not answer, by night, and am not silent" (Psalm 22: 1, 2). Even Jesus called out from the cross, "My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?" (Matthew 27:46) I have cried, "Where are you, God? How could you do this to me? Have you forgotten all about me?" Then He answers, "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15).
Ah, the string around His finger, the brand on His palm, the scar on His heart. No, He doesn't forget. Join me tomorrow as we continue looking at Shattered Dreams and God - the Restorer of Broken Dreams.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, sometimes I don't understand why things happen. Why would a tsunami take hundreds of lives? Why would a mother bury her child? But this one thing I do know. You are always good and Your ways are always good. Help me to trust Your heart when I don't see Your hand. Help me to trust You in the dark.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time when you felt as though God had deserted you. How did He assure you that He hadn't?
Perhaps you still feel like He has forgotten you? That's OK to admit. I have felt that way at times myself. However, what does the truth of Isaiah 49:15 tell us?
The next time you are wondering where God is, just recite His promise to you found in Hebrews 13:5.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman-God's Plan for Fulfilling your Dreams. If you are struggling with a broken dream or an interrupted dream, Dreams of a Woman will help you dream again. Our God is truly the restorer and fulfiller of dreams. (Also available in Spanish.)
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November 20, 2008
Shattered Dreams (Part 2)
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die." (John 11:15 NIV)
Friend to Friend
In the New Testament, we find a story about two sisters whose dreams were shattered by a death in the family. Jesus received word that one of His best friends, Lazarus, was sick. In reality, by the time the messenger had made the one day journey to inform Jesus about Lazarus' illness, he had already died. Jesus didn't leave right away, but tarried two days before making the journey to Bethany. When Jesus arrived, Lazarus had been in the tomb for four days. His death shook the entire village and many Jews from surrounding cities went to mourn their loss. For these two women, their dreams for the future were bleak -- no husband, no children, no father, and now, no brother to take care of them.
When Martha heard Jesus was coming, her hopes soared and she ran to meet Him.
"Lord," Martha said to Jesus, "if you had been here, my brother would not have died" (John 11:12). Can you relate to Martha? Have you ever felt, Lord, if you had been here, this would not have happened to me. Where were you? Where are you now?
Then it is as if she thought better of the words that had escaped her lips and said, "But I know that even now, God will give you whatever you ask."
Jesus said to her, "Your brother will rise again."
Martha answered, "I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day."
Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?"
"Yes, Lord," she told him, "I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who has to come into the world."
Martha went back to her home and told Mary that Jesus was on the way. Like Martha, Mary ran to meet him and said, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." Do you see a pattern? Once again -- If you had been here this would not have happened to me. Where were you?
Do you think God hurts when we hurt? Oh yes, dear sisters, God hurts. Jesus wept when he saw the pain of those around him. He wept for the two sisters and I suspect He wept for a people who did not understand the power of God.
After four days, Lazarus' body would have already begun to decay. Make no mistake about it: God was about to do something so incredible, no one would refute His power.
Jesus ordered the stone rolled away from the mouth of the cave which served as Lazarus' tomb. Then Jesus said, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?'
They took away the stone. Then Jesus looked up and said, "Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me."
When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out!"
And he did!
Jesus resurrected Mary and Martha's dream.
Those of us who have lost a loved one may be thinking....yeah, but God didn't bring my brother back. God didn't save my child. God didn't resurrect my dead marriage and if you read yesterday's devotion, God didn't bring Will back to life. (If you didn't see yesterday's devotion, I encourage you to go back and read part one of this series.)
Let's go back to Will for a moment. Did resurrection power take place after Will's death? His mother would say a resounding "yes."
Luanne shared with me that just days before Will's final football game he had said, "Mom, I'll be glad when this is all over. Now that I'm older, I see just how unimportant all this sports stuff is."
As Lou Ann knelt beside her boy on that football field, she begged him to keep breathing. But then, as she felt him take his last breath, his words echoed in her heart,"I'll be glad when this is all over."
"It's all over, son," Luanne whispered. "Go on home."
At Will's funeral a few days after his death, Luanne stood and shared the gospel message about the Jesus Will loved so much. What was the result? Thirty people attending the service committed their lives to Christ or renewed their passion for serving Him.
"Mrs. Johnson, I gave my life to Christ today!"
"Luanne I haven't been following Jesus like I should. I recommitted my life to Him today and I'm going to get serious about my relationship with Him."
"Luanne, our family was in a shambles and I was thinking about leaving my husband. After today, I have decided to make our marriage work. I see how important family is."
"I have been putting my family on the back burner and letting everything and anything come before them. After today, I'm putting my family second only to God."
The Johnson family continues to minister all across the state about the power of Jesus Christ that sustains us when our dreams are shattered. Because of Will's death, hundreds have come to Christ, many family relationships have been restored, and churches have torn down denominational walls as the Presbyterians, Methodists, Baptists and Pentecostals in the tiny little town have made a historical move to worship together. Being from a small North Carolina town myself, believe me - that is a miracle.
The Bible says that before we know Jesus Christ, we are dead in our transgressions. We inherited a dead spirit from our father Adam. However, when we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior, God gives us a new heart and a new spirit that is fully alive. This is resurrection power at its best.
Why did God allow Lazarus to die? He allowed it so His Son could be glorified through it (John 11:4). Why did God allow His own Son to die on the cross? To bring salvation to all who believe? I suspect that is the same for Luanne and Bob's son as well.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are some aspects of my life that have not turned out like I thought they would. There are shattered dreams and many things I do not understand. However, I do know this. You are a loving God and nothing happens to me that You cannot use for Your glory. Help me to be open to see the good in the circumstances that seem at times to be so hard. I choose to believe that You can redeem every situation in my life and use it for good.
In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Is there something that you have been praying about and perhaps you feel that God is "late?"
What can we learn about God's timetable from today's devotion?
In today's devotion, I quoted Jesus as saying, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?" Could it be that Jesus is saying those same words to you today?
Would you be willing to pray that God would show you the dreams He has for you?
Would you be willing to give up your unfulfilled dreams and reach forward to what lies ahead?
Read the following verse and ponder what God wants you to leave behind and what He is calling you to reach toward. "But one thing I d Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead" (Philippians 3:13b NIV).
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Shattered dreams are a part of life, but God has big plans for each of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you. Place your hand firmly in His -- then take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find all this and more in Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman-God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams.
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November 21, 2008
Choose to Give Praise
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 50:23 "He who sacrifices thank offerings honors me and he prepares the way so that I may show him the salvation of God." (NIV)
Friend to Friend
My husband, Dan, grew up driving the family ski boat, pulling various family members and friends across some lake as they learned to water ski. Consequently, he is an excellent boat driver, especially for children or any novice on skis. Both our son, Jered, and our daughter, Danna, learned to ski behind a boat driven by their dad. I knew they preferred Dan to other drivers but did not realize just how important it was to them until someone else tried to take the wheel.
Several years ago, we invited some friends to join us for a few days at the lake. We had gotten to know Josh and Sarah at church and had become good friends. Our kids seemed to enjoy theirs so the idea of a combined vacation was perfect! Right!
After several days of non-stop skiing, Dan was exhausted and asked the kids for a breather. "Guys, let me have one day off and I will be set for the rest of the week", he pleaded. Josh immediately volunteered to drive the boat, assuring Dan and the kids that he was an "expert." Doubt spread across the faces of Jered and Danna but since Josh was their only option, they grabbed their life jackets and skis and headed for the boat. Dan grabbed a snack, a cool drink, the novel he had been trying to read all week and headed for the nearest hammock, a gloriously unplanned day to call his own. Actually, it turned out to be a gloriously unplanned hour before we heard our boat returning to the dock. Jered and Danna scrambled out of the boat and headed straight for their dad. I could tell by the look on their faces that the boating excursion had definitely not been a success! "Seriously, Dad, Josh has no idea what he is doing!" Jered explained. "He nearly killed me!" Danna reported with her usual dose of drama. Jered summed up his thirty minute play-by-play account of the disastrous skiing incident by announcing, "Dad, from now on I will only ski when you are driving the boat!"
What Jered was really saying was that he had no confidence or peace when someone besides his father was at the wheel. How true! When God is "at the wheel", every circumstance we face is in His hand and under His control! Peace takes up residence and the power of praise is revealed.
Praise turns trials into faith-builders as we learn to measure our problems against His limitless power, transforming the stumbling blocks of today into stepping stones for tomorrow.
Praise frees us from having to understand our circumstances, knowing that God is in control. A heart that is filled with praise does not have to understand every detail of the circumstance. In fact, the details really don't matter. What does matter is that God is aware of every minute detail, monitors the circumstance and shapes it to fit His plan.
Praise transforms tragedy into triumph. Fanny Crosby was six-weeks-old when she lost her vision because of a doctor's error as he applied the wrong medicine to her eyes, a mistake that set the course of the infant's life. She could have easily become bitter but instead, chose to praise God. I am certain she didn't understand all of the reasons for her lot in life, but I am equally certain that she made the choice to build a monument of praise on that lot instead of resurrecting a tombstone of bitterness. Fanny Crosby wrote over 8000 hymns of praise including "All the Way My Savior Leads Me", "Blessed Assurance", and "To God Be the Glory". Praise made the difference between becoming bitter or better!
I know that many of you have had a tough year! Loss, disappointment, pain, financial stress ... the list is endless. Go ahead and make that list, my friend. Add it all up. Then factor in the grace, mercy and love of God -- and it is more than enough. Praise God!
Let's Pray
Father, I give You praise for Your hand in my life this year. At times, I did not understand what You were doing -- and still don't. But it doesn't matter, Lord, because I know I can trust You. Help me remember that my inner heart attitude does not have to reflect my outer circumstances. No matter what, I can praise You, knowing it will all turn out for my good. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over the past year to a time when your faith was tested. How did you do? What lesson(s) did you learn through that trial?
Write a prayer of praise to God. Tuck it in your Bible, tape it on your mirror -- put it in an obvious place and refer to it often through the holidays.
Read Romans 8:28. How does this verse encourage a spirit of thanksgiving and trust?
More From the Girls
Chuck Swindoll says, "The sovereignty of God is the Christian's security blanket." Thanksgiving is the perfect time for our attitude to reflect that truth. When I think of who He really is and realize again that He loves me unconditionally, I want to praise Him. Join me, my friend! And do not let the holiday stress get to you! Download my new bible study, God's Answer to Stress, as a gift for a friend or to yourself.
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November 24, 2008
What Now?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Have you ever had a shattered dream? If so, you're not alone.
If ever there was a group of people who lost their dream, it was Jesus' disciples and the women who ministered to and with them. They had such high expectations that Jesus would be the next political leader of Israel (Luke 24:20). They had witnessed his power in feeding 5,000 men plus women and children with two loaves and five fishes; they felt the waves beneath their tiny boat subside at his command; they had watched him breathe life into a lifeless child, open the eyes of a man blind from birth, create new skin from rotting flesh on the limbs of lepers, and command a lame man to take up his pallet and walk. They had seen him walk on water, outwit the Pharisees, and win the lost.
In their narrow scope of hopes for a political leader to save the Jews, they missed the bigger picture of God's plan for a Savior to free mankind from the bondage of sin. While Peter realized Jesus' identity ("You are the Christ."), he did not understand His destiny. Peter was shocked when Jesus explained that He had to go to Jerusalem, suffer, be killed, and on the third day rise from the dead. He even took Jesus aside and said, "Never, Lord. This shall never happen to you!" (Mark 8:33). This was not part of Peter's dream. Suffering did not fit into his plan.
"Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."
Call me stupid, but don't call me Satan. Yet, that is how Jesus sees it when we try to block God's plans. He sees us as an instrument of darkness, an offense, a hindrance and a snare. It is amazing that one minute Peter could be a building block and the next a stumbling block but that's the trap we all fall into when we have our minds set on the world instead of on the things of God.
Jesus told His disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life, will lose it, but whoever lose his life for me will find it." (Matthew 16:24)
Even though Jesus forewarned the disciples of his death and resurrection, they fled when the soldiers came to arrest him, and they hid when he was hung on a cross to die. When Jesus was sealed in the tomb, their hopes and dreams were sealed in the darkness with him.
Every day, I receive emails from women who have had their dreams shattered. A husband has an affair, becomes addicted to pornography, abuses the children, or deserts the family. A child gets caught with drugs, gets pregnant or dies in a car accident. Parents divorce, friends betray, careers come to an abrupt halt. The list is endless. So what do we do when our dreams are seemingly destroyed? The answer to that question will shape the rest of our lives.
Does that mean we give up our dreams? I can promise you this, whatever dreams you have for your life, God's dreams are greater. The power of the Holy Spirit the disciples received after Jesus' resurrection, and the impact they made on the world thereafter, was beyond their wildest dreams. That's what God does with a heart wholly yielded to Him. That's what He does when we give our shattered dreams to Him. I have learned to stop saying "Why me?" but instead start saying "What now?"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are things about my life that I don't understand, but I do know this. You are good and You are kind. I thank You that nothing happens in my life that is a surprise to You. You have a greater plan than my small vision can imagine. I pray that You will reveal that larger plan for my life to me. Help me to pay attention to Your promptings and obey Your bidding.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your life and list two or three dreams that did not turn out like you thought they would.
Is there a prayer request or dream in your life that, in retrospect, you are glad God did respond to affirmatively?
Write down any areas of your life where you have said, "Why me?" and are now willing to say,"What now?"
Place yourself in the disciples' sandals for just a moment. How do you think you would have felt the night Jesus died on the cross?
How do you think you would have felt the day you saw Him walk into the room ... resurrected from the dead?
How would that experience have affected the way you viewed trials in your life from that time forward?
Now, how should that affect the way you see trials today?
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Shattered dreams are a part of life. But God has big plans for each of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you. Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find all this and more in Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman-God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams.
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November 25, 2008
Operation Shoebox
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:17 (NIV) "Every good action and every perfect gift is from God. These good gifts come down from the Creator of the sun, moon, and stars, who does not change like their shifting shadows."
Friend to Friend
Before you hit the malls and plunge into the Black Friday frenzy, set aside some time to pray, asking God to direct your shopping trip and give you insight as you purchase each gift. Interesting thought, isn't it? I have to admit that I tend to plan, think and worry about Christmas gifts more than I pray about them. However, I recently heard a true story that has changed my perspective on Christmas giving.
Each Christmas, Operation Shoebox collects and sends over eight million shoeboxes stuffed with small gifts such as candy, school supplies, small toys, toothbrushes, soap, and shampoo to children across the world. In Mexico, hundreds of boys and girls gathered at the church in a small village, excitedly anticipating the arrival of their precious shoeboxes.
Delightful chaos erupted as bulging shoeboxes, wrapped in brightly colored paper and ribbon were passed into the small, eager hands of each child. Wrapping paper was hurriedly ripped into pieces and tossed aside, a smile spreading across the face of each child as their long awaited Christmas treasures were revealed.
However, one little boy dissolved into tears as he lifted the lid of his box and peered inside to see what he had received for Christmas this year. One of the Operation Shoebox volunteers spotted the little boy and hurriedly made his way across the church to see what the problem could possibly be. With the help of an interpreter, the volunteer asked the now sobbing little boy, "What is wrong? What is in your box?" With tears streaming down his face, the little boy said, "Socks!" The worker instantly understood and assured the little boy that he could trade his box of socks for another box that might have crayons or a piece of candy in it. Alarm spread across the face of the child as he vigorously shook his head and quickly jerked the box away from the now somewhat confused worker.
Clutching the shoebox to his chest, the boy began sobbing out an explanation to the interpreter who listened for a few moments and then, with tears spilling out of his own eyes, turned to the volunteer and said, "You won't believe this!" Taking a deep, steadying breath, the interpreter explained, "This little boy has a rare skin condition with which he was born. It seems to affect his feet more than any other part of his body. The doctors have tried various medications and treatments but finally told the little boy that nothing will work and his feet will never heal unless he begins wearing cotton socks. His parents cannot even afford food for this boy; much less provide socks for their son. So, all year long, he has been praying for socks."
Have you ever considered the idea that your Christmas gift may very well be an answer to someone's prayer? I have to admit that I have rarely, if ever, made a Christmas gift list with that criterion in mind. Always in a hurry, my first thought is usually how to find the greatest deal at the lowest price in the shortest amount of time with the least amount of effort and hassle at the first store I enter -- and hope the person likes it -- because that is what he or she is going to get. Ah, yes. That is certainly the heart of God, isn't it?
Join me in making this Christmas season different. Do not allow television ads, catalogues or shopping fliers dictate the gifts you give this year. Turn your Christmas list into a prayer list and you may very well end up giving an "operation shoebox" gift to someone you love.
Let's Pray
Father, I so want to make this Christmas all about You. I pray that the gifts I give this year will be encouraging and truly helpful and not just items checked off of a list or obligations that have been met. Please direct my thoughts, my heart and my shopping trips. Help me to spend wisely, in a way that pleases and honors You. Give me Your heart, Lord, and remind me that Christmas really is all about You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Carefully make your Christmas list for this year.
Pray for each person on that list, asking God to give them peace and joy this holiday season.
Consider making gifts instead of buying them.
Give something of special value to you to someone on your list.
Ask God to bless each gift and each recipient.
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November 26, 2008
Which Character Will You Play?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.'" (Jeremiah 33:3 NIV)
Friend to Friend
One Saturday night, my family hunkered down on the den sofa with an oversized bowl of popcorn, tall glasses of soda, and an action-packed video: Raider's of the Lost Ark, starring Harrison Ford. We were ready to be entertained by suspense, intrigue, and a touch of romance. Like any good movie, there were three principal characters: the good guy, the bad guy, and the damsel in distress. The good guy, Dr. Indiana Jones, who was a professor of archeology, obtainer of rare antiquities, and student of the world-renowned Dr. Ravenwood of the University of Chicago, quickly charmed us. The bad guy, a waxy-faced Nazi with a sinister grin and breathy laugh, who was always accompanied by an entourage of brutal, salivating, gargantuan, henchmen, quickly appalled us. Then there was the damsel in distress -- the not-so-fair Marian, daughter of the now deceased Dr. Ravenwood and sole proprietor of a drinking establishment in the snowy mountains of Nepal.
In the opening scene, Dr. Jones is pulled from teaching his archeology class to meet with two agents from U.S. Army Intelligence. It seems that Hitler is obsesses with religion and the occult and is on a mission to find the whereabouts of the Ark of the Covenant which has been missing since Solomon's temple was destroyed in 586 B.C. Obviously, the government officials missed a few days in Sunday school, so Dr. Jones fills them in on the significance of this rare treasure. The Ark contains the Ten Commandments and symbolizes the presence of God.
The government officials explain they have intercepted a German communication that reveals the Nazis are searching for the Ark of the Covenant in Cairo, but in order to determine its exact location, they need a map that is engraved on a gold medallion, once owned by Dr. Ravenwood. Dr. Jones' mission, should he choose to accept it, is to locate the medallion, uncover the Ark of the Covenant, and bring it safely back to the United States.
Professor Jones, with the gleam of adventure in his eyes, whisks off his bow tie and wire-rim glasses and dons his suede Indiana Jones hat, leather whip, and trusty pistol. Off he goes to Nepal to find the fair Marian and hopefully, the medallion (which she has been wearing around her neck for years). Unfortunately for Marian, the waxy-faced Nazi also realizes that she is the key to finding the map and pays her a little visit just before Indiana Jones arrives. In adventure film fashion, a fight ensues, a fire breaks out, and the damsel's life is in peril. Just before the blazing walls come crashing down, the spy notices the gold medallion engulfed in flames and hanging from a pole. Without considering the consequences, he grabs the metal disc from the flames, only to quickly drop it from his hot little hand, but not before it leaves a lasting impression. One side of the map is forever burned into the palm of his hand. Of course, Indiana Jones comes to the rescue. The music soars, the hero cracks his whip, saves the damsel in distress, and recovers the medallion.
The Germans, thinking they have the map in the palm of their hand (actually the palm of Mr. Waxy-Face's hand) start to dig. But what Professor Jones realizes is that the map is actually on the front and back of the medallion. The Germans have only half of the map and thus are digging in the wrong place.
Now I have to tell you, this was supposed to be an evening of mindless activity and pure entertainment, but God spoke to me is a big way. He used this movie to teach me about searching for God's presence, hearing His voice, and how different people go about it. Many people would like to have the presence of God in their camp. And just like in the movie, we could potentially play one of three roles.
Some people are like the damsel, who had been wearing the treasure map around her neck for years, but had no idea what it was. She only wore it because her beloved father had given it to her as a gift. Likewise, there are those who wear a cross around their neck, but don't truly understand the significance of the gift of sacrifice and salvation from their heavenly Father. There are others who have a dusty Bible on a crowded bookshelf or displayed on a living room coffee table, but don't realize that it contains God's Words to them. They don't understand that the Bible is the map to experiencing God's presence and hearing His voice in their daily lives.
Some are like the bad guy with only one side of the medallion burned into the palm of his hand. They have heard parts of Scripture, read a few verses here and there, or visited a church on Holy Days such as Easter or Christmas. They are searching for hidden treasure of life, but because they don't understand the whole truth of God, they are digging in the wrong place.
Finally, some are like the heroic Dr. Jones who possessed the whole map and knew exactly where to search for the treasure above all treasure -- The Ark of the Covenant -- the presence of God. Oh the joy that comes from following God's map...not just parts of it...but all of it. God has not left us alone to figure out this thing called life on our own. He speaks to us through the pages of the Bible to tell us great and mighty things we did not know (Jeremiah 33:3).
The movie was over. My popcorn bowl was empty, but my heart was full. As the credits rolled across the screen, God seemed to say, "There are three principles roles. Which character will you play?"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you that You have given us the entire map of where to find the treasure of all treasures...eternal life. Help us to unfold Your truth all the way, see the entire picture, and not simply look at one panel or one particular part. Thank You, Lord, for loving us enough to give us a map with such clear directions. We are looking forward to the day when we reach our final destination and spend eternity with You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
In the above devotion, which character do you resemble the most?
Which character would you like to resemble the most?
Do you need to make any adjustments in your life in order to have the map readily accessible in your mind?
If so, what adjustments do you need to make?
Do you know the steps to eternal life by memory? Pretend that you have met someone and are leading them to a personal relationship with Christ. Write the verses and the steps down on a piece of paper.
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This story and more can be found in Sharon's beautiful devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God. Join Sharon as she dusts for God's fingerprints to discover God-moments that turn ordinary days into extraordinary treasures. It's the perfect Christmas gift!
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November 27, 2008
He Took My Place
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 106:1 (NIV) "Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever."
Friend to Friend
In homes across America, friends and family will gather around beautifully decorated tables filled with warm, scrumptious food to give thanks. It's Thanksgiving Day. However, this day will be nothing like holidays of the past for many people.
Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle will patrol foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home long for word of their safety. The homeless will make their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face as so many celebrate this day of abundance. An empty place at the table will be a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad will sit at the head of the table, wondering how he is going to tell his family that he just lost his job. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised or build the right house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation or when we retire. We keep trying to find joy, contentment and peace in lifeless places and things. Jesus Christ is life. He is Joy and Love and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give thanks when it seems as if there is nothing for which to be thankful.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver told him, "I always park there. You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday School, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing.
After Sunday School, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still said nothing.
Later, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day of thanksgiving and praise because praise and thanksgiving have little to do with the Thanksgiving holiday and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, my friend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs this year in ways that we may or may not have understood at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and your power and we celebrate You ...we celebrate life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Sharon, Gwen and I want to wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving Day, a day of remembering all that God is, all that God has and all that He wants to be in your life.
We praise Him for allowing us to do life with you and with each other.
We want you to know that we are with you, on the same journey, here for you,
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November 28, 2008
The Gift That Keeps on Giving
Ginger Plowman
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Ginger Plowman. Ginger Plowman, author of Don't Make Me Count to Three and Heaven at Home, speaks at women's events and parenting conferences across the country.
Today's Truth
"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23
Friend to Friend
The hustle and bustle of the holiday season finds us all seeking the answer to the same question, "What gifts will I buy for my loved ones this Christmas?" We rack our brains for just the right items. Like crazed bloodhounds, we bound from store to store eager to pounce on the perfect presents, ones that will please the receiver without depleting the pocket of the purchaser. Searching for the ideal gifts can be frustrating. If we're not careful, the hot pursuit of gift buying can hinder us from celebrating and enjoying the reason for the season.
Determined to find a better way to spend my time, last December I came up with the perfect solution to end my shopping frenzy. Shrink-wrap. Allow me to explain how it works. You simply wrap the clear paper around an item, apply warm air from a hairdryer, and wait as the paper "shrinks" to wrap tightly and flawlessly around the item. With just a flick of the switch on my hairdryer, I could make used items appear new while cleaning out my closets and attic at the same time. "Ginger," I said to myself, "you have just revolutionized your holiday season!"
With newly found purpose and determination, I purchased a four dollar ninety-nine cents roll of shrink-wrap and climbed up the attic stairs. Oh, the treasures I found! I gleefully ran from box to box as I talked out loud to myself, "The comedy video of Dennis Swanburge would be perfect for Aunt Emily! Terri Blackstock's suspense book would be just right for my mother-in-law, and my brother would absolutely love the multi-sized wrench set!" If my arms weren't so short, I would have patted myself on the back. It was a brilliant plan...or so I thought.
The glitz and glitter of Christmas Day was in full swing. The stockings were hung by the chimney with care; the fragrances of warm cider, cinnamon, and pine permeated the air; and Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas played softly in the background. Laughter echoed throughout the living room, and hugs were exchanged as we opened our gifts. A twinge of guilt tugged at my heart as I thought, "Should I feel bad for passing off used items as new? Naaaaa, what better gifts than ones I have personally tested and approved?" I convinced myself that I had chosen the perfect gifts.
I had almost pulled it off, when suddenly my mother-in law opened the cover of her suspense book. "Hey!" she called out, "This book is signed to Ginger, from Dad!" The music stopped, and the room grew uncomfortably quiet. A ball fell off the tree. So much for my brilliant plan.
While we may find the right size, the right color, and the right price, there is only one perfect gift. It won't wind up in the attic or at a yard sale, and it lasts forever. It's the only gift that it is ancient, yet new every day. The gift of salvation was purchased especially for you by Jesus Christ. He paid for it with his own life. All you have to do to receive it is admit that you are a sinner, ask Jesus to forgive you, and surrender your life to Him.
The world offers many gifts that bring temporary satisfaction. Temptations come in neatly wrapped packages with shiny ribbons and enticing bows, but once you have un-wrapped the thin layer of cheap frills, you'll find nothing more than an empty box...and an empty heart. If you would like to receive the gift that truly keeps on giving, un-wrap the presence of Christ this holiday season.
Let's pray
Lord, help me to put aside my own agenda for this month. Open my eyes and my heart to see and feel Your presence each day. May the song of my voice and the meditation of my heart be a sweet aroma of praise and worship to You. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now it's your turn
Make a list of everything you have to do this month. Cross off anything that can be eliminated. Plan several nights at home with your family. Ideas include: reading and discussing the story of the birth of Christ, listening to Christmas music as you play games, sipping cider as you bake holiday treats and addressing Christmas cards for friends and family together.
More from the Girls
This year, I want my family to experience a Christmas season of peace, joy and love. If I am to lead the way, I have to experience the true meaning of Christmas in my own life. Let's take inventory:
What does Christmas mean to me?
Am I more concerned with buying presents and preparations than celebrating the birth of Jesus?
Are my children witnessing the real "reason for the season" in my words and actions?
What temporal tasks are hindering me from enjoying the gift of Christ?
How can I lead my children in focusing on Christ this Christmas?
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December 1, 2008
Pot Luck
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"May they be brought to complete unity to let the world now that you sent me and have loved them, even as you have loved me." (John 17:23 NIV)
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I recall as a young child, rocking on my grandma's front porch and listening to the ladies from the mission society gossip about the "heathens" whose church was across the street from theirs. It always puzzled me because the "heathens" were such nice people and their church looked just like grandma's church. As far as I could tell, there was no difference. Both believed in Jesus, wore funny hats on Sundays, and sang the same hymns. And both had great pot-luck dinners.
How did the church come up with the notion of the famous pot-luck supper (alias, covered-dish dinner)? I personally think it all began in Matthew chapter 15. The first covered-dish gathering was a great success as Jesus served more than 4,000 men (not to mention a few thousand women and children) and had leftovers to boot. All this came from one little covered dish. Actually, it was a covered basket. This was, after all, before the advent of Corning Ware.
Later the Baptists followed His lead and the next thing you know, all denominations are celebrating a multiplicity of occasions with every variety of casserole known to man, but the twenty first-century church isn't being caught simply serving up fish and chips. We have taken the notion of "breaking bread" and run with it. Not only do we break bread, but we crunch fried chicken, munch fresh veggies, scoop casseroles, slice pies, cut cakes, and sip coffees. We chew the fat while chewing our food and extend the right hand of fellowship while our left hand extends the serving spoon. No matter how much food walks through the doors, none ever goes to waste, but much goes to the waist. I'd say that covered-dish dinners are one of the most cherished rituals in the church today!
Our Sunday school class's annual Christmas party entailed such an event. It was at the home of Dr. and Mrs. Marshall McMillan. The class consisted of 150 people in a church of 1,600. It's a little difficult to be intimate with 150 congregates on Sunday morning, so the Christmas party was a great time to chat with people you didn't normally have a chance to visit otherwise. Because people tend to sit in the same seats each week, I had never really seen about half of the class.
The Christmas party was designed to remedy that problem. The McMillan's home was beautifully decorated with holly, spruce and magnolia clippings. It was filled with the sights, sounds, and smells of the season as well as the incoming aroma of the many deliciously prepared meals. In an effort to provide crowd control and proper traffic flow, our host, Marshall had posted directional signs around the house. One sign read "COATS," with an arrow pointing up the stairs to their daughter's room. Another read "HOT FOOD," with an arrow pointing toward the kitchen.
Marshall was doing a great job at his post as official greeter and traffic police.
"Hello, how are you?" He greeted two ladies and one man as they made their way up the front steps with dishes in hand. "You can take your food into the kitchen and then follow the arrows to the coat room."
The obedient threesome followed directions well and then headed to the name tag table, but a warning light was flashing in my mind.
"Marshall," I said, "Who are those people? I don't recognize them."
"I don't recognize them, either," he answered. "But you know our class is so big. Maybe they sit on the opposite side of the room and we just haven't noticed them before."
They looked like they could have been one of us. They seemed to know the drill, but something was wrong with this picture.
"Marshall, go find out who they are," I urged.
He approached the trio, who were now looking a little bewildered themselves. "Excuse me. You are here for the Sunday school Christmas party, aren't you?"
"Yes," they answered. However, their "yes" sounded more like a question than an answer. Then they asked, "This is the Sunday school class for First Baptist Church isn't it?"
"No, ma'am," Marshall answered. "This is the party for Forest Hill Presbyterian. You folks are at the wrong party."
The three embarrassed Baptists quickly reclaimed their food, once again followed the arrows to the coat room, and high-tailed it out of the McMillan's house to another Sunday school covered-dish gathering a few doors down.
Won't heaven be an interesting place? One big perpetual brightly lit Christmas party: a celebration of new birth. No covered dish required because He will sit us down at His banqueting table which He has prepared for us. One great thing about this party will be that when the Baptists stumble into a room full of Presbyterians or when the Episcopalians walk in on a bunch of Assemblies of God folks, no one will feel out of place. We will all say, "Welcome! And come on in. Take your coat off and stay a while - an eternity, for that matter. You're definitely in the right place."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm not even sure how all this business of denominations started in the first place, but I do know that You specifically prayed that we would have unity among the Body of Christ. Help us to put away our differences and focus on what is truly important -- Jesus Christ and Him crucified.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Are you prejudiced against certain denominations?
If you do, how do you think Jesus feels about that?
What do you think Paul meant by this statement? "For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified." (1 Corinthians 2:2 NIV)
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December 2, 2008
Don't Miss Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 (NIV) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son."
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The Christmas rush is on! I know many of you are still looking for the perfect gift, wrapping presents, baking your famous sugar cookies, packing the car for a long trip and wrestling with overly excited children. Ho! Ho! Ho!
Right now - right where you are -- stop. Take a deep breath and travel back with me to a time when there was no hope...no celebration. I simply cannot imagine a world without Jesus and yet I often live my life as if He does not even exist. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness floods my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness. Financial stress gives birth to worry, filling my mind with doubt and the proverbial question, "What if ...? Instead of turning to God, my source, I settle for a human answer when what I really need is a supernatural solution from our extraordinary God!
When I do cry out to God, He lovingly fills each black corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, He steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything -- yes, everything! The presence of Jesus Christ changes everything! He could have come to us in many ways but He chose to interrupt the very ordinary with the most extraordinary! He could have chosen to be born in a palace. After all, He was a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger - a dirty, smelly barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to me and one of my most profound life lessons. I often wish that I had been there that holy night when Jesus was born but then He reminds me that I have my own manger, my own holy moment when God became a reality to me, and I worship Him!
Every year I am reminded of the very heart of Christmas - Emanuel, God with us. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go - what we do - the smile we give the harried stranger - the patience we wear in the crowd of impatient shoppers - the love that prompts the secret gift - the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit.
Join me in this quest - to celebrate Him and His birth in everything I do. Have a birthday party for Jesus! Adopt a family in need! Reach out to the lonely! Look for Him in the crowd! Emanuel, God with us! Wow!
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. I celebrate Your birth, Your life, Your death and Your resurrection. And as I celebrate, Lord, help me to be "God with skin on" to those in need around me. Open my eyes and let me see them as You see them! I love You! Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Now It's Your Turn
Put your faith in action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season. Give a gift to someone you don't know. Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner. Go through your closet and give the clothes you don't wear to those who have no clothes. Then choose one of your favorite outfits and give to your "sandpaper person". Yes! During the holiday rush, difficult people can drive us right up the holiday walls and out of our merry mind! Need help? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People. It may be the best Christmas gift you have ever given yourself!
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December 3, 2008
Long Walk Part of Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, "Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him" (Matthew 2: 1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
An African boy listened carefully as his teacher explained why Christians give presents to each other on Christmas day. "The gift is an expression of our joy over the birth of Jesus and our friendship for each other," she said.
When Christmas day came, the boy brought to the teacher a seashell of lustrous beauty. "Where did you ever find such a beautiful shell?" the teacher asked as she gently fingered the gift.
The youth told her there was only one spot where such extraordinary shells could be found. When he named the place, a certain bay several miles away, the teacher was left speechless.
"Why...why, it's gorgeous...wonderful, but you shouldn't have gone all that way to get a gift for me."
His eyes brightening, the boy answered, "Long walk part of gift."
I just love that story. During this holiday season, I watch as people scurry about swiping those plastic cards through the credit card machines faster than a speeding bullet. Yet, God has already shown us that the most precious gifts can not be bought or sold. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV).
The magi also knew about the joy of giving. While they gave gold, frankincense, and myrrh to the Christ child, they also gave another gift...a long walk. We don't know how far the magi traveled, but we do know it took months, perhaps years for them to reach their destination. Their long walk was part of the gift.
I wonder how far we are willing to go to worship Jesus...to bring our gifts to him. I wonder how far out of the way we will go to praise him. Do we only give to Him when it is convenient or easy? Or do we give what He wants most -- a portion of our selves, our very lives.
I think the little African boy had the right idea. The real gift wasn't the shell. The real gift was the sacrifice he made to give it that was so precious.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the gift You gave us through your Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that I will keep gift giving in perspective this holiday season and give gifts from the heart rather than the pocketbook. Help me to see that a "long walk," or a portion of me, is the greatest gift of all.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Describe a time when someone's sacrificial gift meant a lot to you.
Describe the feeling you had when you gave a portion of yourself, such as your time, to someone.
Try to imagine the teacher who received the shell. What thoughts do you think came to mind when she looked at it year after year? Do you think it was the shell itself, or the heart of the boy who gave it to her?
Now, imagine how God looks at our gifts we give to Him. Do you think He reflects on the gifts themselves or the heart of the child who gives it?
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 4, 2008
The Monthly Draw
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 13:5 "Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. God has said, "I will never leave you; I will never forget you."
Friend to Friend
Can you believe the holidays are just around the corner? Stores are already filled with Christmas decorations. Television ads for the newest and best toys multiply every day. It won't be long until we are wringing our hands, wondering where the money for Christmas gifts is going to come from, a fact that must sadden the heart of God. To think that our first thoughts of His birth are wrapped in financial distress is a clear indication that we do not understand and live on the sufficiency of God.
Have you noticed that it is always more fun to pay the bills when you actually have money to pay them instead of holding what my husband calls "The Monthly Draw"? The Southerland Monthly Draw is held when there are more bills than money. The rules are quite simple. All of the bills are placed in a stack. Dan then rifles through the stack, drawing out one of the bills to pay. This process continues until there is no more money. The rest of the bills have to wait until more money comes in. Sound familiar?
One morning, when I walked into the study, I could immediately tell by the look on Dan's face that the "draw" was not going so well. Finances had been extremely tight for a variety of reasons. Dan and I had prayed our way through that month, knowing that the next few months would only hold more of the same. I debated whether I should stick around to offer encouragement or run for the hills. I decided to stay. "Honey, can I help?" Dan looked up at me with a weak grin and said, "Not unless you have $900.00." Oh, boy! It was worse than I thought. Seeing the look on my face, my sweet husband quickly added, "Don't worry, honey, God always comes through." Now I must admit that at that precise moment, I would have preferred a tangible sample of God's provision. You know - something along the lines of a money tree in the back yard or an oil well in the front. I went to my desk, hoping to find a forgotten check from a speaking event or book sale. I came up empty. An examination of my check register was even more depressing. Did we really need two children? Maybe we should sell one! (Just kidding) As I racked my brain for some way to "provide", I realized that I was stepping dangerously close to enemy territory. "Lord, I want to trust you as my Provider but right now, we really need $900.00", I informed the God of the Universe. How is that for a prayer of faith?
Dan did all he could do with the stack of bills and went next door to visit our neighbor while I stayed home, plotting and scheming ways to come up with $900.00. In fact, I spent the rest of the day in what my mother called "a tizzy" because as far as I could see, there was no plot and there was no scheme remotely looming in the Southerland picture that could produce the needed amount of money. And that was the problem. I was only looking "as far as I could see".
Finally, I left the need at His feet and went on with what was left of my day. As I began to prepare dinner, I remembered that I had forgotten to check the mail and headed outside. There it was, God's perfect provision just sitting in our mailbox, waiting for me to come - an unexpected check for $949.64. Dan and I became aware of our need that morning. The check was mailed several days before. God met the need before the need was evident. He always does! In Philippians 4:19, Paul reminds us that our God will "meet all our needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
I often learn the most life-changing lessons at the feet of children. Ellie is the five-year-old granddaughter of a very close friend, Gina, who is known to cheer me up by sharing an "Ellie-ism". Not long ago, Gina was telling me about the prayer Ellie had prayed the night before at dinner. The meal was ready. Everyone in the family was seated, and Ellie volunteered to say the blessing. Every adult at the table smiled, wondering what childish offering they were about to hear. What they heard was profound truth from God as spoken through the words of a child. Head bowed, hands folded, Ellie prayed, "God is great. God is good. Let us thank Him for our food. By His hand, we all are fed. Give us, Lord our daily bread. THE END!" That just about sums it up!
Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as the sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care and provision, we would be wise to depend totally upon God. He is our Provider. He is our Source and in light of that reality, stress flees, leaving only peace. As the holidays approach, fix your heart on God, rely upon your Shepherd, and trust Him to meet every need in your life and rest in the fact that He is the beginning ... and the end.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I often look to things and to people to meet the needs in my life when all I need to do is trust You. Today, I praise You as my Provider, Lord. I trust You to go before me and "make a way" through every valley. I trust You to take care of me. Right now, I choose to guard against greed and ask that You would give me a heart of compassion and a generous spirit. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses carefully. How does each verse support the truth that God is committed to meeting the needs of His children?
Psalm 32:8 The LORD says, "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you."
John 10:4 "After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they recognize his voice."
1 Thessalonians 5:18 "No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus."
Make a list of the needs in your life today. Beside each entry, record one of the above verses as your commitment to trust God.
Memorize these verses so that when the enemy tempts you to doubt God, you will be equipped and ready to dispute his lies.
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I never really understood the relationship between a shepherd and his sheep until I began to study Psalm 23. I cannot tell you how much peace this psalm has brought me. My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the result of that study. I also have a six-week E-Book Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress that is perfect for your daily quiet time or for small group study. Make Psalm 23 the heart of this holiday season for you and your family. Blessings!
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December 5, 2008
She Stooped to Conquer
LaTan Roland Murphy
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", LaTan Roland Murphy, author of Becoming a Woman of Interior Elegance and proofreader for Girlfriends in God devotionals.
Today's Truth
Ephesians 5:21 "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."
Friend to Friend
"Mom, they were whispering to one another about the birthday party. They didn't want me to hear because I am not invited," my daughter said with trembling voice as tears filled her big beautiful eyes.
My heart was breaking in half as I listened to how hurt she was. "They are my best friends at school, Mom. Why would they not invite me?"
I reached out to hug her, our arms wrapping around each other tightly as she turned her soft tear stained face toward my neck. It was a familiar crying spot as she had buried her face there time and time again in the same position since she was a baby. We helped each other without speaking a word for a while. Sometimes there are just no words to make things better, so I cried with her. One week later, while driving our daughter to school, she asked her dad in a quiet voice if he would please stop at the grocery store.
"Why DaNae'? Do you need something for school?"
"Well, sort of."
"What do you need, honey, because we are already going to be late."
"I need to buy a balloon for someone who is having a birthday party tonight."
"Who is it?" I asked.
"Do you remember the girl who was whispering about her birthday party in front of me? Well, I want to take a balloon to school for her." I looked over at my husband and he looked at me, each of our hearts melting both with a sense of pride and of sadness. We knew we had to stop even if it meant we would be late. It was worth it!
Da-Nae' walked happily into the grocery store and in a few moments came running out with a huge grin spread across her seventh grade face. Her balloon was flying high in the air with a pack of chewing gum hanging from the bottom, acting as a weight. She was the happiest girl in the world!
My husband and I were so blessed by our daughter's actions that morning. She stooped to conquer feelings that could have been filled with anger and hurt. Some people might ask why she would make a fool of herself after being treated the way she was or how she could lower herself after what her friend had done to her. When Christ is the center of our lives, He empowers us to do things we could never do in our own human nature. Our daughter chose not to be a martyr. She chose to stoop a little so she could rise up on a much higher level. She chose to reject her sadness about not being invited to the party. She reaped the blessings of stooping to conquer her emotions and blessed her friend in spite of how she had been treated. When was the last time you stooped to conquer?
Let's Pray
"Lord Jesus, please give me courage to stoop to conquer emotions that are not in perfect alignment with Your plan for me. Help me to be a woman of character--- submitting to Your leading in my life each day. Show me how to respond in a Godly way when I am hurt. Lord Jesus, thank You for stooping to conquer both death and the grave for my salvation. I pray my life will reflect the gratitude You deserve." In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Hurt will come to each of us. We can't change that fact. What we can change is the way we respond to hurtful situations in our lives. Will we become bitter or better?
Think of a hurt you have carried for a long time. Think about how it has affected your life. How did you first respond to the hurt? What is your response today?
Ask the Lord to bind up your wounded heart and heal you completely. Ask Him to give you such Godly character that every response is in alignment to His perfect will.
Allow Christ to fill all the empty places in your heart
Understand that by stooping to conquer these emotions, you will defeat the enemy's ploy to destroy and ultimately win over sin!
Accept the truth that we are all made in the image of God and by submitting to one another as the scripture reference reminds us today, we will be reverencing God in the most beautiful way.
More From The Girls
It is a whole lot easier to give in to the base human library of emotions within each one of us, but God always calls us up higher, to make higher choices. Why? One reason is because that higher choice simply screams the message, "I can't do this on my own! God helped me make this choice!" These words are especially true when dealing with difficult people. Sandpaper People is available as a book, CD and MP3 download and will help you stoop to conquer ungodly emotions.
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December 8, 2008
Wise Men: Who Are Those Guys Anyway?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold and of incense and of myrrh." Matthew 2 11 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
There has been quite a bit on confusion over the years about the "Wee Three Kings of Orientar." Who were they? Wise men? Magi? Kings? How old was Jesus when they arrived? Did they get there on Christmas night? Or was Jesus a toddler by the time they arrived? The rough and rowdy Herdsmen in The Greatest Christmas Pageant Ever thought a ham was a much more practical gift than gold, frankincense, and myrrh.
Matthew 2:1-12 tells the story of the wise men (KJV) or magi (NAS) who came from the east to worship the new King of the Jews. Traditionally they have been referred to as Kings, but nowhere in Scripture is that confirmed. We don't know exactly how many of them there were, but again, traditionally we've celebrated three, because of the three gifts.
Most likely, they did not show up in the stable at the advent of Christ's birth. Matthew 2:11 says that they "came into the house and saw the child," indicating that Mary and Joseph had moved from the stable. We're not sure how old Jesus was when they arrived. Some sources say He was approximately two-years-old.
Apparently, God did not think all these details were important, but He did give specific details about the gifts that the wise men brought for Jesus: Gold, frankincense and myrrh.
Gold stood for the riches of a king. Jesus was the King of Kings. (Revelations 19:16)
Frankincense was incense used by the priests in the temple worship. Jesus would be our high priest who would go before the Heavenly Father and intercede for us. (Hebrews 4:14)
Myrrh was a perfume used in burial services, pointing to Jesus' death on the cross - a holy sacrifice for our sins. (Romans 5:8)
One way to emphasize the journey of the wise men is to place them a short distance away from the nativity displayed in your home. Each day, move the trio a little closer, until they finally arrive on Christmas Day.
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes we get so caught up in the traditions of men that we overlook the intentions of God. Help us to remember the true meaning of Christmas and focus on what is important. We worship Jesus, our King, our Priest, and our Savior.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of any Christmas traditions that you are unsure where they came from or why we celebrate them? If so, consider researching to discover their origins.
Make a list of the ways that Jesus is your King.
Make a list of the ways that Jesus is your high priest.
Make a list the ways that Jesus' death and resurrection changed your life.
More from the Girlfriends
It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus of what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 9, 2008
God's Gift
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son." John 3:16 (NIV)
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Already out of money for Christmas gifts? Exhausted and tired of crowds, malls and traffic jams? Wondering how you can possibly get it all done before December 25? Maybe it is time to stop, refocus and consider the ways we can truly celebrate Christmas by learning how to give -- the right way -- and in doing so, experience a Christmas season filled with joy and peace instead of chaos and discontent. Are we giving the wrong gifts or are we giving gifts to the wrong people? Maybe the problem is that we have never received the real gift of Christmas in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. True giving is based on a personal experience with Him. Before we can truly give, we must truly receive. God gave the greatest gift of all when He gave Jesus.
Christmas is not a date on the calendar. It is a way of life - but like the innkeeper, we have put up a sign in our heart and mind that reads, "No room!" Oh, we can participate in the holiday festivities of the Christmas season, but until we receive the gift of Jesus, we will never truly experience Christmas on December 25, or any other day of the year. Jesus could have been born into a palace. His first home on earth could have been a mansion. He was, after all, a King. Instead, He came to a dirty smelly manger and His birth was announced by shepherds instead of Kings - the greatest of all miracles in the midst of total simplicity. Today, Jesus still wants to meet us in the midst of our simple daily lives. It seems too easy and too good to be true, doesn't it?
It was Christmas Eve and the family was preparing to attend the special service of their local church. Everyone was going except Dad, who was an honest man, a man who could not seem to wrap his logical mind around the story of God come to earth as a baby in a manger. He didn't want to be a hypocrite, pretending to worship a Savior he wasn't sure even existed, so he stayed home, built a fire to dispel the bitter cold of that winter night and began to read the paper, waiting for his family's return. Hearing a knock at the window, he turned to see a tiny bird trying to reach the warmth of the fire. The man opened the window but the bird refused to come in. Grabbing his coat, he went out to the barn and opened the doors wide -- but still, the bird refused to come in. The man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just one minute, I could lead the bird to safety." At that moment, he heard the church bells ring and for the first time, he understood why Jesus came to earth as a man, to become one of us so He could lead us to eternal safety.
I believe Christmas has a longing in it placed there by God; a longing for home, a longing for Him that can never be satisfied outside of our decision to receive God's gift to us, Jesus Christ, His one and only Son. Jesus is the reason we can celebrate Christmas and life itself.
Let's Pray
Thank You, God, for sending Your Son to earth as a tiny baby in a manger. Today, I choose to celebrate His birth and Your gift of life He brings. I choose to receive Your gift of love and forgiveness for my sins. I now surrender everything I am or ever hope to be to You. Please take control of my life and direct my paths. I promise to follow. In Jesus' name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 3:16. Contemplate the love described in this verse. Have you ever experienced that kind of love?
What do you think it means to "believe" in God? How would that belief affect your daily life?
Examine this verse in light of your own journey. What decision do you need to make in response to the truths in this verse?
What gift do you really want this Christmas?
More from the Girlfriends
Sharon, Gwen and I pray that your life is filled with God's peace and joy this holiday season. Don't settle for the world's shallow viewpoint of Christmas. Instead, receive God's gift of love and kneel before the manger, giving your life to Him. Need help with choosing meaningful Christmas gifts? Are you on a tight budget? Check out my two MP3s, Giving the Perfect Gift and The Secret of a Merry Christmas or grab a book and CD for that last minute gift.
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December 10, 2008
Held By Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." Luke 2:19 (NIV)
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Have you ever wanted to travel back in time to be an eyewitness of the celestial celebration that took place in Bethlehem the night that Jesus was born? Now, I am quite particular about fashion, but I'd even consider donning shepherd garb and hanging out with a few sheep for that opportunity! To see angels fill the sky, to hear the voice of God through the cries of a baby. To catch a glimpse of the brilliant Star of David, and to satisfy my curiosity as to what exactly a host of heavenly angels sounds like.
Oh, and to talk to Mary! Wouldn't that be amazing to hear what she was thinking as she witnessed, and took part in, the greatest miracle ever known to man? This baby she gave birth to was God made flesh, a true bundle of love. What do you think she treasured in her heart as she took it all in? I'm struck by this thought: As she held the Hope of the world, the Hope of the world was also holding her. Ponder that!
The baby born in a barn that holy night long ago is the Hope of the world - the Grace that saves us - the Love that heals us. Jesus is Hope that changes our worthless into precious, our guilty to forgiven, our hungry into satisfied, and our empty into full. His presence is inescapable. We cannot flee from His stubborn grip. The psalmist, David said: "If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast" (Psalm 139:8-10).
The Bible tells us in the New Testament that Jesus Christ sits at the right hand of God, the Father in heaven. God's Word clearly shows us that Jesus "holds us fast." Relish that thought. The Hope that holds us is Jesus Christ. We are held by Hope.
In the Old Testament, God told Joshua that He would "never leave or forsake" him (Joshua 1:5). God says the same to us. He will never leave us or forsake us; no matter the circumstances, not matter the diagnoses, no matter the financial struggle. Our faithful LORD is the same yesterday, today, and forever. We can rest assured that in everything, we are held by Hope.
After His resurrection and before His ascension into heaven, Jesus said, "Surely, I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). A Bible-teaching girlfriend of mine (Not to drop any names ... cough ... Mary Southerland) often reminds her audiences that the word "always" actually means ... drum roll please ... always! He is always with us. Always loving us. Always wanting us to find comfort, refuge, joy and satisfaction in Him.
As Christmas approaches and a New Year dawns, let's be mindful of God's promise that we are never alone. Just like the shepherds received the headline news of Jesus' birth from singing angels so long ago, receive this glad tiding of great joy today: If you are in Christ, then you are held by Hope.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are more wonderful that I can possibly imagine. Thank You for sending Jesus, my Hope, to forgive me, to love me, and to restore me to Your heart. I join the psalmist today in praying, "Sustain me according to Your promise, and I will live; do not let my hopes be dashed. Uphold me, and I will be delivered" (Psalm 119:116-117a). I'm leaning into Your heavenly hug today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
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Friend, I know that as sweet as Christmas is, it will be hard for many of you this year. Pain is no respecter of persons, and loneliness can find us in a crowded room. I pray that you will find comfort in knowing that -- whether you feel it or not - you are being held by the loving God of the universe. If you, or someone you know needs encouragement, grab a copy of Gwen's book, "Broken into Beautiful."
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December 11, 2008
1 Corinthians 13 Christmas Style
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV)
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With Christmas just around the corner, it is easy to get so busy with the cooking, decorating and shopping that we forget why we're doing all this in the first place. Sometimes, the very people we love get lost in the hustle and bustle of packed schedules, holiday parties, and Christmas musicals. This Christmas, let's keep our focus on Jesus and celebrate the reason He came.
Today, I want to share a poem that I wrote a few years ago that helps me keep a proper perspective.
1 Corinthians 13 Christmas Style
©By Sharon Jaynes
If I decorate my house perfectly with lovely plaid bows, strands of twinkling lights, and shiny glass balls, but do not show love to my family - I'm just another decorator.
If I slave away in the kitchen, baking dozens of Christmas cookies, preparing gourmet meals, and arranging a beautifully adorned table at mealtime, but do not show love to my family - I'm just another cook.
If I work at the soup kitchen, carol in the nursing home, and give all that I have to charity, but do not show love to my family - It profits me nothing.
If I trim the spruce with shimmering angels and crocheted snowflakes, attend a myriad of holiday parties, and sing in the choir's cantata but do not focus on Christ, I have missed the point.
Love stops the cooking to hug the child.
Love sets aside the decorating to kiss the husband.
Love is kind, though harried and tired.
Love doesn't envy another home that has coordinated Christmas china and table linens.
Love doesn't yell at the kids to get out of the way.
Love doesn't give only to those who are able to give in return, but rejoices in giving to those who can't.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
Love never fails. Video games will break; pearl necklaces will be lost; golf clubs will rust. But giving the gift of love will endure.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for sending Your Son, Jesus, that starry night in Bethlehem. Like the Shepherds, I am still amazed at Your great love. May I not lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas, but celebrate Jesus' birthday with joy!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What are some ways that you can make sure to love your family well this holiday season?
Are there any activities that you need to eliminate from your busy schedule to alleviate over-commitment? Is your family being neglected because of a hectic Christmas schedule?
If that question wasn't painful enough, here's another one. Is Jesus being neglected as you prepare for His birthday? Ouch! I just stomped on my own toe!
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus of what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 12, 2008
Greed: A Deadly Master
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.'" Luke 12:15 (NIV)
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If we are not careful, greed can become a deadly master -- especially during the Christmas season. Greed is serious business in God's eyes, reeking of idolatry and ulterior motives. Greed lies easily and fervently urges an already disobedient heart on toward sin. The true story is told of a self-made millionaire who had lived in New York City his entire life. Born and raised in a ghetto, he worked hard and achieved much. Anyone who knew this man would testify to the fact that he was generous - to a fault, some would say. One year, the man was disturbed by an attitude of greed that seemed to pervade the Christmas holiday season and everyone around him. Not one to condemn, the millionaire decided that since he had been given so much, it was up to him to do his part in combating greed and came up with an unusual plan. Wearing a disguise, this man stuffed his pockets with $100 dollar bills and set out for a walk on the streets of New York City. When he saw someone in need, he whipped out one of the bills, pressed it into that person's hands and with a "Merry Christmas", made his way down the street. "It was the most wonderful part of my holiday season," the man reported, and he has been doing it every since.
In 2 Corinthians 9:7, the apostle Paul writes, "Each one should give as you have decided in your heart to give. You should not be sad when you give, and you should not give because you feel forced to give. God loves the person who gives happily." Giving with joy is Kingdom giving! When we practice Kingdom giving, we are making eternal deposits "taking hold of real life" here on earth! If, however, our motive is wrong, our gift will be wrong and will not count in the Kingdom of God. Before you give, ask yourself, "What's in it for me?" If the answer is "nothing", then go ahead and give the gift. Choosing to examine heart motives will guard our hearts against greed, celebrating the commitment that "He is all I want".
Greed can be very stressful in that it is never satisfied and never at rest. There is always something more to be gained and someone else to outdo. Sheep are dumb enough to eat until they are sick. They simply do not know when to stop. A heart that is filled with greed behaves the same way.
Cantaloupe may very well be my favorite food. When it is in season, I stock up and always have some on hand. Last summer, on a particularly hot day, a lunch of cantaloupe sounded luscious...and it was. Afterwards, I was gone for several hours, running errands. When I walked back in the front door that afternoon, a foul stench nearly knocked me down, it was so strong. A dead animal was my first thought. A plumbing problem was my next. I began a room-to-room search that ended abruptly at the kitchen sink. Opening the cabinet underneath, I nearly gagged at the stench that slapped me in the face, making my eyes water. I instantly remembered that I had thrown the cantaloupe peels in the garbage before running errands and forgotten to take them to the outside garbage can as I usually did. The house reeked and the delicious cantaloupe was forgotten as I threw the peels away, lit every candle I could find and opened every window in an effort to eliminate the odor of rotting fruit. Nasty!
Greed acts the same way. It is the gangrene of the soul. If not quickly dealt with, greed will contaminate every emotion and create a foul stench in every part of life. "So get rid of all malicious behavior and deceit. Don't just pretend to be good! Be done with hypocrisy and jealousy and backstabbing" (1 Peter 2:1 NLT). Greed must be treated like garbage! Deliberately throw it away! Remove it from your life immediately! When the first hint of greed and jealousy comes, reject it! Get rid of it! Take it to the garbage! Choose against it! Fight it with Scripture and bombard it with prayer. Nail it to the cross and count it dead. "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me" (Galatians 2:20 NIV). Every motive in our heart must be nailed to the cross and considered dead. "Consider" is an accounting term and literally means to "reckon" or to "calculate". While we will never be free from wrong motives this side of Heaven, we can and must "reckon" those very human and very wrong motives to be dead and through God's power, allow them no power or place in life.
Greed is powerful and responsible for the downfall of so many. Money is a good servant but a poor master. Martin Luther once said, "God divided the hands into fingers so that money could slip through." One of the wealthiest men who ever lived was John D. Rockefeller. Following his death, a reporter interviewed Rockefeller's chief accountant and asked the pointed question, "How much did John D. leave? We know that he was very wealthy." Without hesitation, the accountant shot back, "Everything! He left everything!" Greed is a deadly master that is never satisfied.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is so easily filled with greed. It seems that the more I have, the more I want. Right now, I choose to focus on what I do have and to be contented. Help me see You in every opportunity to give this Christmas season and please, Lord, give me Your generous heart so that others can see You in me.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If I asked you to list your five most treasured possessions, what would they be?
Why are these things important to you?
Are these things tools or idols in your life? Explain the difference.
Which one of these things can you give away this year as an offering of sacrifice and praise to God?
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You have heard the familiar saying, "The most important things in life aren't things." The truth of those words is often swallowed up in the frantic rush of Christmas giving. Make this year different. Ask yourself what you can give that will really matter in the life of that friend or loved one. How will your gift help someone get through the New Year? I have some ideas that might help you. Download my two new MP3s, The Perfect Gift and The Secret of a Merry Christmas and discover how to enjoy a Christ-centered Christmas. If you need a bible study to get you through the holidays and into the New Year, check out my 35 page E-Book Study, God's Answer to Stress now available for download.
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I often struggle seeing how God is using me or those around me. However, if I continually look at my life and my surroundings through Jesus' eyes and perspective, I will see myself, others and my situation with love, joy, peace and patience. -- Cliff Young
Don't Judge on Appearances
I often struggle seeing how God is using me or those around me. However, if I continually look at my life and my surroundings through Jesus' eyes and perspective, I will see myself, others and my situation with love, joy, peace and patience. -- Cliff Young
December 15, 2008
Longings of Christmas
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Better one handful of tranquility than two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind."
Ecclesiastes 4:5 (NIV)
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Ah, Christmas! What a joyous time of the year! What a busy time of the year! What an expensive time of the year! Yikes!
A family friend of ours is going through a tight financial season and is concerned about what he and his wife can afford to buy their children for Christmas. He has been talking with his seven-year-old son about the spending limitations they are bound by, hoping that these talks will diminish the child's expectations of a lavish Christmas. Regardless of the monetary dialog, his son is still determined to get an electronic toy that is very expensive.
Over the past few weeks, this resolute child just could not stop talking about, longing for and thinking about this toy. My friend was amused and surprised the other day when his naïve son burst into the room with excitement, exclaiming "Daddy! Daddy! I figured out a way! I've figured out a way! I can still get my toy and you won't have to buy it! You won't have to spend your money! I've decided to ask Santa for it!"
At times, we can long for something so desperately, that we just can't stop thinking about it. The problem with me is that I'm often longing for vapors. I want things that are neither eternal nor important in the grand scheme of things. King Solomon referred to this in the Old Testament book of Ecclesiastes as "chasing after the wind." It just seems that my flesh is constantly battling the God-seeker in me. Can you relate?
At Christmas time, longings attack our contentment. Whether they are longings of a material nature or emotional nature -- tangible or intangible. Our desires are often heightened by the commercial status of this flesh-driven culture. I'm compelled this year to pray specifically that the God-seeker in me would be strengthened. I want to want Christ more. I want a heart that is satisfied with Him.
There's an old hymn written by the late Charles Wesley that is perfect for both Christmas time and all year round: "Come, Thou Long-Expected Jesus." It was the cry of those anticipating the arrival of a coming Messiah more than 2000 years ago and it remains our cry today as we celebrate the birth of baby Jesus and anticipate His return as our King of Kings and Lord of Lords.
Come, Thou long expected Jesus
Born to set Thy people free
From our fears and sins release us
Let us find our rest in Thee
Israel's Strength and Consolation
Hope of all the earth Thou art
Dear desire of every nation
Joy of every longing heart
Born Thy people to deliver
Born a Child and yet a King
Born to reign in us forever
Now Thy gracious Kingdom bring
By Thine own eternal Spirit
Rule in all our hearts alone
By Thine all sufficient merit
Raise us to Thy glorious throne
The purposed love-mission of Jesus wrapping Himself in flesh and clothing Himself in humanity was for us to be reconciled to the loving heart of God the Father. Hope came as a babe in a manger and will be returning soon to take us home. Now THAT is something to long for...
Let's Pray
Holy Father, thank You for loving me. Thank You for making that extravagant journey from heaven to earth to reconcile me to God the Father. As this Christmas season quickly approaches, empty my heart of longings that are not purposed for Your glory and replace them with longings for You. Would You fortify the God-seeker in me with Your Holy Spirit so my wind-chasing will stop? Please help me share the Hope of Christmas with my friends and family today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there something you have been longing for that God may be calling you to lay aside?
Is there a sin in your life that needs to be confessed so you can be reconciled to the Father?
List three God-centered longings that you would like to possess, find a correlating scripture in your concordance for each one, look them up and write out those scriptures on a note card so you can have a handy reminder!
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Have you gone Christmas caroling this year? I haven't yet (because I am writing this well before you are reading it) but I plan to take my family and a few friends to a local retirement community to do just that! Please join me. Buckle up buttercup and get your carol on! Grab some friends, your kids, your kid's friends, anyone with a pulse -- no matter the singing talent -- and go be a blessing in your community. Be sure to take your smiles with you!
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December 16, 2008
The Gift of Forgiveness
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs." 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5 (NIV)
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Sometimes the hardest thing to say is "I'm sorry", to admit that we have hurt someone. The only thing that can be harder is to forgive those who have hurt us. The story is told of a father and his teenage son who lived in Spain. Over the years, their relationship had become strained. In fact, the list of hurts grew so long that the son ran away from home. The father searched for him, but after months of failure, made one last desperate effort by putting an ad in the local newspaper of Madrid. "Dear Paco, meet me in front of the newspaper office at noon. All is forgiven. I love you. Your Father." The next day at noon, in front of the newspaper office, eight hundred Pacos showed up. The reality is that we all need forgiveness and we all must learn how to forgive.
I grew up in a small Texas town where we had moved the day after my father's funeral. We were poor, living in what some would call a "shack" on the edge of town. My amazing mother worked three jobs to support three children as well as my grandmother who lived with us. Her main job was as a nurse in the hospital nursery where she took care of newborns.
As a child, I was frequently sick with a cold, ear infection or the flu. It seemed as if I was at the doctor's office almost every week during the winter. We had very little money but we did have a family doctor who was a friend and colleague of my mother. In fact, they worked side-by-side each day at the one and only hospital in town. Knowing our financial circumstances, this doctor and his wife often asked my mom to baby-sit to earn extra money and since they had five children, I was often recruited to go with her as a backup.
Over the years, this doctor often took care of our medical needs, charging us nothing. Little did I know the high price I would have to pay. This doctor was my friend, a man I respected, and a man I trusted -- until the day that he molested me. The hurt, pain and betrayal were so great that I locked it away in some dark corner of my soul, refusing to admit it had ever happened. I told no one.
Fast forward twenty years to the time when I was happily married to Dan Southerland, a pastor and my best friend, and had two wonderful children. Our church was exploding in growth. I had started traveling and speaking for women's conferences and retreats, and loved it! Everything on the outside looked great, successful and very right but inside, the past slowly ate away at my very being until, one day, my world collapsed and I sank into a pit of clinical depression. I was paralyzed emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. The simple tasks seemed like impossible mountains to climb. Panic attacks became a daily event. I stepped out of ministry and out of life as I had known it.
I began to uncover the wounds I had so desperately tried to ignore most of my life. Instead of dealing with those wounds, I kept insanely busy in a vain attempt to earn God's favor and the approval of others. My worth seemed to rest on the foundation of doing, instead of being. I soon discovered that one of the main reasons I had fallen into that pit was because I refused to face and deal with the pain of my past, but with the help of a loving husband, a Christian psychiatrist and a brilliant family doctor, I began to make slow but steady progress in climbing out of that dark, slimy pit. Then, I remembered.
I remembered that day in the doctor's office. I remembered it all and when that awful memory slammed into my life, I fell apart. I hated that man. I wanted him to pay for what he had done to me. I wanted him to hurt like I had been hurt. I also knew that somehow, I had to let my pain go and forgive him, or I would be trapped for the rest of my life. God and I began to work through every painful, horrifying moment of that memory.
Months passed, and the day came when Dan asked me to speak for the five worship services of our church. When I asked him what the topic was, he smiled and simply said, "Forgiveness." I knew what God was up to and being the mature and godly woman that I was, I was furious! "That man does not deserve forgiveness, Lord" I ranted. My Father whispered, "Neither do you, child." I was still angry. "Lord, he is the one that hurt me," I cried. "Just as you have hurt me," He responded. I wasn't through. "I think it is only fair for me to wait for him to make the first move. And then he needs to come crawling on his hands and knees, begging for my forgiveness!" In the silence, I heard the words of the Great Physician, a voice I have come to love so much, "Aren't you glad I didn't wait for you to come to me?"
I suddenly realized I had a choice to make. I could choose to hang on to my anger and bitterness, making him my jailer, or I could choose to forgive him and set myself free! But I just couldn't forgive him on my own, so I did what David did. I cried out to God.
Psalm 40:1-3a (NIV) "I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit; out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
As I wrestled with the choice to forgive, I learned several life-changing truths:
If we make the choice to forgive, God will supply the forgiveness.
There should be no limit to our forgiveness because there is no limit to His.
Forgiveness is not a feeling or an emotion. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice.
Forgiveness is our greatest need and God's greatest gift.
While we cannot change the past, we can change our response to the past and dictate the power it has over us. If our greatest need had been information, God would have sent an educator. If our greatest need had been technology, God would have sent a scientist, but because our greatest need was and is forgiveness, God sent a Savior, Jesus Christ, who is calling us all to a higher place, a place of forgiveness. The choice is ours to make. Today, we can choose freedom by choosing to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, it is not within my power to forgive, but it is within my power to choose forgiveness. Right now, I surrender my pain and hurt to You. I choose to forgive as You have forgiven me.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
For some reason, the holidays seem to intensify old wounds and resurrect old hurts. Examine your heart for wounds that have not healed. Decide today to deal with the pain of the past. Choose to give the gift of forgiveness and receive God's healing and restoration in return.
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December 17, 2008
Ready for Christmas?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near." (Matthew 3:2 NIV)
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It seems like everywhere you go during the month of December people ask the same question. At the grocery checkout counter - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the bank drive through window - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the doctor's office - "Are you ready for Christmas?"
I think the answer to that question depends on how you define "ready." Let me ask you this question: "Are you ready for Jesus?" Now that puts the idea of being ready in a whole different Christmas light, doesn't it?
John the Baptist was sent by God to get the people ready to meet Jesus. Here's what Matthew had to say about him:
In those days John the Baptist came preaching in the Desert of Judea and saying, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near." This is he who was spoken of through the prophet Isaiah:
"A voice of one calling in the desert,
'Prepare the way for the Lord; make straight paths for him.'"...
"People went out to him from Jerusalem and all Judea and the whole region of the Jordan. Confessing their sins, they were baptized by him in the Jordan River." Matthew 3:1-3, 5-6).
We don't like the words "repent" or "repentance" very much. They mean "to make a radical change in one's life, to turn and go in the opposite direction from sin (another word we're not too fond of today) to God". Repentance involves an element of grief over the way we have lived apart from God and a decision to run toward the Father. That was God's idea of the way to prepare for Christ's arrival in the book of Matthew, and it is still God's idea of preparing to worship Him today.
Let's reflect for a moment on the words to this poem and then answer the question, "Are you ready for Christmas?"
"Ready for Christmas," she said with a sigh
As she gave a last touch to the gifts piled high...
Then wearily sat for a moment AND READ
Til soon, very soon, she was nodding her head.
Then quietly spoke a voice in her dream,
"Ready for Christmas, what do you mean?"
She woke with a start and a cry of despair.
"There's so little time and I've still to prepare.
Oh, Father! Forgive me, I see what You mean!
Yes, more than the giving of gifts and a tree.
It's the heart swept clean that He wanted to see,
A heart that is free from bitterness and sin.
So be ready for Christmas - and ready for Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I want to be ready for Jesus today and everyday. I come to You now in repentance for my sins: my sin of selfishness, stubbornness, and rebellion. I turn from my self-centeredness today and commit to keep my focus on You. God, I cannot do this on my own. I am not able. So I ask that you fill me with the power of Your Holy Spirit Who empowers me to obey. Thank You that You have given me every thing I need for a life of godliness and truth. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think it means to be "ready for Christmas?"
What do you think it means to be ready for Jesus?
Go back and read the parable of the ten virgins in Matthews 25:1-13. Notice the difference between the five who were ready and the five who were not. Which group more resembles your readiness for Christ?
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus of what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 18, 2008
Mistakes or Opportunities?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28 (HCSB)
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I am sure you have heard the story of Ivory soap, the "soap that floats". However, it was not always that way. Years ago, this soap was just another brand among many until a factory foreman made a mistake. He left a fresh batch of soap in the cooking vat and went to lunch. When he was late getting back and the soap had overcooked, the foreman frantically examined the burned soap. It seemed to clean the same. The only difference he could see was in the weight. The burned soap was just lighter. He could either report the mistake and risk being fired, or he could make the best of it and ship the soap out as if nothing had happened. He shipped it out. The results surprised everyone. Instead of complaints, the company was deluged with orders for this new "floating soap" and the foreman was promoted.
God works the same way, taking our mistakes, our sins and bringing good out of them. Paul said it well in Romans 8:28, "We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose." (HCSB) If we let Him, God will use the pain of our sin and the results of our mistakes as the foundation upon which he can build a new life and a more effective ministry.
God works through our mistakes, knowing there is strength in pain that can be gained no other way. God does not eliminate mistakes but he does step into the midst of the mistakes we bring to him. At our invitation, God's very presence fills those mistakes with power and fresh hope, redeeming them for new truth and insight. God is not committed to our comfort, but he is committed to our character, to making us more like Jesus, and he will use every part of our life to make it happen. God does not waste a single experience and there are no "scraps" of life to be thrown away! He uses even our mistakes for our good.
1. God uses mistakes to direct us. Some of my biggest mistakes have yielded the most powerful lessons in my life, pointing me in a new direction or revealing an area that needs change. As the writer of Proverbs explains, "Sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us change our ways." Proverbs 20:30 (NLT)
2. God uses mistakes to inspect us. People are like tea bags. If you want to know what is really inside, just drop them into hot water! How we respond to mistakes, problems and sin tests the strength and reality of our faith. James writes, "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow." James 1:2-3 (NLT)
3. God uses mistakes to correct us. Some lessons simply cannot be learned in the light; they are wrapped in the darkness of pain and defeat. I can remember when our daughter, Danna, was a toddler with a fascination for electric outlets. I repeatedly pointed to each outlet in our home and firmly said, "No! No!" It was not until she stuck an object into one of those outlets, burning her little finger that she learned the lesson and changed her behavior. In fact, she hasn't repeated that mistake in twenty two years! We would be wise to choose the attitude of the psalmist, "It was good that I had to suffer in order to learn your laws. The teachings [that come] from your mouth are worth more to me than thousands in gold or silver." Psalm 119:71-72 (GNT)
4. God uses mistakes to protect us. A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents us from being harmed by something more serious. Several years ago, a family friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem and seemed like a huge mistake - but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when his former management's illegal actions were eventually discovered. "You planned evil against me but God used those same plans for my good..." Genesis 50:20 (Message)
5. God uses mistakes to perfect us. When responded to correctly, mistakes and problems are character builders. Our relationship to God and our character are the only two things we are going to take with us into eternity. The apostle Paul warns, "There's more (trouble) to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we are hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next." Romans 5:3-4 (Message)
God is at work in us - even in our mistakes -- even when we do not recognize Him or understand His process. Someone once said, "Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way."
While living in South Florida, I considered hurricanes to be mistakes of nature. However, I soon discovered that hurricanes are necessary to maintain a balance in the environment. We all know the devastation these monstrous storms can cause, yet scientists tell us that hurricanes are also tremendously valuable because they reduce a large percentage of the oppressive heat that builds up at the equator. In fact, hurricanes are indirectly responsible for much of the rainfall in North and South America. Meteorologists no longer use cloud-seeding techniques to prevent hurricanes from being formed because they are convinced that hurricanes actually do more good than harm.
Take a closer look at your mistakes. Have they become an albatross around your neck, constantly reminding you of your failure and inadequacy? Do past mistakes keep you from stepping out in faith today? It is time to strain each failure through a new God-given perspective for the valuable nuggets of truth and the treasures that the darkness holds.
Isaiah 45:3 promises, "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of living in the failure of my mistakes. Today, I admit those wrong choices, ask Your forgiveness and choose to see them through Your eyes. Please help me learn the lessons each mistake holds and keep me strong so that I will not fall into the same old wrong patterns of behavior again. Thank You that even my mistakes are treasures in Your hands.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What one mistake has paralyzed your life? No matter where you go or what you do, are you haunted by that wrong decision? Aren't you ready to be free from that prison of defeat? God is ready to set you free. Face and admit your mistake. Ask for God's forgiveness, the forgiveness of anyone you have hurt and then forgive yourself. Learn the lesson and let God use it for good in your life.
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The Christmas season often magnifies old hurts and brings up painful memories. And Satan stands in the shadows, laughing. Now is the time to silence him. Today is the day for freedom and healing. Don't waste another moment in that prison of guilt. God's forgiveness will set you free. If you need help in learning how to discover and live out that forgiveness, grab a copy of my CD or download the MP3, The Power of Forgiveness.
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December 19, 2008
The Day I Became a Sheep
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, "Let's go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about." (Luke 2:15 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Today I want to share with you a story that I wrote a few years ago. I tried to imagine what it would have been like to be a shepherd visiting Jesus at His birth. For just a moment, I want you to pretend that you are reading a letter that one of the shepherds wrote to his brother, Mathias.
Dear Mathias:
As I am writing you this letter, my hand is still a bit shaky. I'm not sure it will ever stop. But I must tell you about an incredible experience that happened to Matthew, Simeon, Levi, and me, two weeks ago. As usual, we were watching our sheep on a hillside east of Bethlehem. I was on the night watch and the others were sleeping. There was something unusual about the sky that night. I can't explain it, really. Like heat reflecting off the desert sand, the stars seemed to be jockeying into place, fidgeting and restless in their usual stayed positions. Diamonds danced on the inky backdrop, rather than standing sure and still. Even the sheep seemed to notice the heavenly mirage.
Then it happened. As if a curtain was pulled back, I saw what was stirring the stars....angels! Yes, angels, angels, everywhere. Immediately, the others awoke to the celestial lights, flapping of wings and the resonation of indistinguishable singing.
At first, only one spoke. "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."
Then, the curtain was drawn back even more and the sky was filled with angels! "Glory to God in the highest!" they sang, "and on earth peace to men on whom His favor rests."
The flapping of their wings stirred the air, whipped our hair, and blew our tunics in all directions. Amazingly, the sheep were calm during this majestic occurrence. It was almost as if this were nothing unusual happening. Perhaps this was not the first time they had seen an angel. Who knows? We, on the other hand, were awestruck. Tears streamed down our dusty cheeks. We fell to our knees, marveling at the beauty of heaven displayed before us.
Then quietly and slowly, the curtain returned and the angels were no more. We rose to our feet and began to run in the direction of Bethlehem to see this babe. How did we know where to go?
Mathias, the only way I know how to explain it is to think of my relationship to my sheep. When I am grazing in a field with several of my friends and their flocks, our sheep get all mixed together. Sometimes five different flocks can be mingled together at one time. But as soon as I call to my sheep, they separate from the others and follow me home. They know my voice. Each and every one of them can distinguish the voice of their shepherd and they know whom to follow.
That's how it was that night. It was as if a shepherd had called my name. I knew his voice and he called me out from among all the rest.
Where did we go? To a palace? To a temple? To a stately manor? No, we went to a stable. But isn't that where a shepherd would call his sheep? To a stable?
What did we see? A burning bush like our ancestor, Moses? Writing on the wall? A vision? No. We saw a baby, wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger -- just like the angel had said. He didn't speak, but somehow he called our names. He is the Christ, Mathias. The one of which the prophets spoke.
Do you remember the prophet Isaiah's words? "He tends his flock like a shepherd; he gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young." When I saw the babe (who later his parents told me was named Jesus), I knew this was the one of whom the prophet spoke. And didn't the prophet Micah say the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem? It all makes sense to me now, and yet it is still a mystery.
Why me? Why did God choose to send the angels to announce the Savior's birth to me -- a lowly shepherd? I don't know the answer to that, my friend. All I know is that one starry night, I was a shepherd. And then God spoke my name and I became a sheep. Now, my friend, God is calling your name as well.
I don't know what will become of this baby in the manger, but I do know this...the world will never be the same again -- nor will I.
Shalom,
Your brother, the sheep.
©Sharon Jaynes
The Shepherd became a Sheep
By Sharon Jaynes
The angels appeared and called to me
"Be not afraid, dear one.
For you are now a lowly sheep
For you God sent His Son."
"Go to the babe and see him there
We will lead the way.
The shepherd has chosen you -- a sheep
To celebrate this day."
We ran and saw the baby there.
I'll never be the same.
He raised his eyes, said not a word
And yet he spoke my name.
Years have passed and now I know
This babe became a man.
He lived and died and rose again
And now I understand.
"Follow me," Jesus said
"And I will lead the way."
"My sheep listen, know my voice
And with me they will stay."
I was a shepherd, to be sure.
My sheep slept at my feet
But on that night the babe was born.
I became a sheep.
©Sharon Jaynes
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I am so glad that you sent the angels to common man to proclaim the Savior's birth to lowly shepherds. And I am so glad that you looked down from heaven and chose to announce the Savior's birth to a common girl -- me. Thank you for sending a Shepherd for me -- one of Your sheep.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
The shepherds were not the only ones excited about Jesus' birth. Why not try your hand at some creative writing. Imagine that you are one of the wise men (wise women). Try writing a letter to one of your family members after visiting Jesus and delivering your gift.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus of what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 22, 2008
Hang on!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters." (Psalm 18:16, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Today, I'd like to encourage those among us who are struggling. Whether you are feeling the squeezes of a strained economy, the aches of a broken marriage, or the difficulties of an illness, God longs to sustain you in the storm. When all else fails, all that's required of us is that we just hang on to our faith.
Now, I'm talking directly to you. Whatever your circumstances...no wound of life is too infected for God to heal. No problem is too difficult for God to solve. No sin is too abominable for God to forgive. No sickness is beyond His ability to make well. He is able. I don't know the shattered matters of your life, but God does. He is able to do exceedingly, abundantly beyond all you can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Hang on!
If you are ready to walk out on your husband—God loves you and is able to heal your marriage. Hang on!
If your child is wild—God loves you and is able to change his/her heart. Hang on!
If you are barraged by addiction—God loves you and wants to satisfy your every craving. Hang on!
If you are chained by financial burdens—God loves you and will supply all your needs according to His riches in Christ Jesus. Hang on!
If you are a widow who feels abandoned—God loves you and will never leave your side. Hang on!
If you are a single mother—God loves you and is the perfect Father for your fatherless children. Hang on!
If you are battling illness—God loves you, is familiar with suffering, and is able to heal you. Hang on!
If you are single and long to be cherished by a man—God loves you and sees you as perfectly beautiful in Christ. Trust His plan. Hang on!
If you feel worthless and damaged—God loves you and considers you precious and valuable. Hang on!
If you are consumed by guilt—God loves you, knows you, and paid for that sin on the cross.
Release it to His hands...be free!
Hang on to Jesus, friend. Hang on to Jesus. "He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy" (Job 8:21). I know from personal experience that in the painful, tear-filled days, God is still good and can still be trusted. I know He is faithful. I've witnessed His strength in my weakness. I've felt His comfort in times of loss. And though we aren't always kept from experiencing shattered matters, we never have to endure them alone.
Take comfort that He knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God's ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He is powerful, and He is able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior, you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I need to hang on to you today. I'm comforted that You know every issue on my heart and You are able to shoulder my burdens. I bring them to you now. Thank You for being able. I love you so much.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Were you on the list? Which woman are you?
God longs to be glorified IN your circumstances. Write three things you can do to bring glory to God in your circumstances and then journal those possibilities.
David said to the Lord: "Therefore let everyone who is godly pray to you while you may be found; surely when the mighty waters rise, they will not reach him. You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance." (Psalm 32:6-7) Run to God as your hiding place.
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Each of us struggle through issues in life. Sharon, Mary and I are not excluded from challenging circumstances. We're in the trenches with you. Let's make a commitment as girlfriends right now. Let's commit to struggling well! The best thing we can do is to turn to God. He said that when we seek Him that we will find Him. Spend a few moments in prayer right now. Worship the Lord for who He is and ask God to be strong in your weakness. Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book, please CLICK HERE.
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Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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December 23, 2008
Singing the Gospel
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ, the Lord.'" (Luke 10:10-11 NIV)
Friend to Friend
I love hearing children sing Christmas carols! One little girl was heard singing that the shepherds were "washing their socks by night!" When my son was four years old, I overheard him singing "O Holy Night" in his best vibrato voice. I chuckled as I heard him boom, "Long lay the world in sin and ever whining!" Sin and error pining wasn't in his vocabulary, but he definitely understood the concept of ever whining.
When I became a Christian, the words to familiar Christmas carols began jumping off the pages of the hymnal. It seems the gospel was right there in the words to the carols, and I had missed it before. I began to see what God had done in my life in the words of Silent Night, O Little Town of Bethlehem, and Hark! The Herald Angels Sing.
For example, let's look at the words to Hark! The Herald Angels Sing. First, look at all those exclamation marks in the song! These angels must have been very excited, and no wonder! They were proclaiming the birth of Jesus, the "newborn King."
The second line says, "Peace on earth and mercy mild, God and sinners reconciled." Some people are not too crazy about the word "sinner." Originally, it was an archery term that meant the distance between the bull's-eye and where the arrow landed on the target. Therefore, "sin" meant "to miss the perfect mark." And it still means that today. Sin means to miss the mark of God's perfection. The Bible says that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
And because of that sin, we have been separated from God. The first verse of Hark the Herald Angels Sing tells us WHY Jesus came - to reconcile or join us back together with God. It also tells us TO WHOM Jesus came - "to all nations." No wonder the angels were so excited!
Verse 1 tells us why Jesus came. Verse 2 tells us WHO He was. He is adored in heaven. He is the everlasting Lord. He is the offspring of a Virgin's womb. He is God with flesh and bones. He is Deity. He is Emmanuel - God with us.
Verse 3 tells us HOW the Christ child made eternal life available to all mankind. He laid aside His glorious heavenly position, came to earth as a man, and gave His life so that we could experience a second birth and live eternally in heaven.
Hark! The Herald Angels Sing tells us WHY Jesus came, WHO He was, and HOW He would accomplish His purposes to reconcile a lost world to God. That's the gospel, and it's all packed into one Christmas Carol.
As you sing the familiar Christmas Carols this holiday, season, look for the gospel among the verses and let the melody of the gospel fill your heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you so much for the men and women who have gone before us to pen the words to the carols we sing today. I pray that as Christians sing the familiar words, You will stir them to praise You afresh. I pray for those who do not know Jesus as Lord and Savior. I pray that as they sing the words to carols, or even hear them on the radio, they will recognize the gospel and understand that Jesus came as the Babe in the manger to die on the cross...because of His great love for them. I pray that they will hear the gospel and embrace the message.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Pretend that you did not have a Bible handy, but only a hymnal or book of Christmas carols. Could you explain the gospel through the words in the songs? Why not give it a try.
If you have children, consider using a hymnal for a family devotion, explaining the meaning to various Christmas songs.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and to lose focus of what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 24, 2008
Silent Night
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace" (Isaiah 9:6 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Tomorrow is Christmas Day. I imagine if you're like most of us, you are still scurrying about with last minute Christmas preparations. What do you think the angels were doing on that first Christmas Eve? Do you think the heavenly host had one last choir practice before their concert on the hillside? Do you think God was making sure that everyone was in their proper places on the kingdom stage before the curtain rose on the grandest drama of all time? Do you think the Holy Spirit was hovering low over the entire world, stirring the hearts of men and women to receive the greatest gift of all?
I'm not sure what was happening in the heavenly realm the night before Jesus was born. But I do know that my heart is aglow with the joy that tomorrow we celebrate Jesus' birth once again.
Perhaps you have sung Christmas carols hundreds of times in your life, but today, I encourage you to pause and read the words to one of my favorites as if you are seeing them for the first time. Read slowly. Ponder the words. "Glories stream from heaven afar"...picture it. "With the dawn of redeeming grace"...savor it. "Christ the Savior it born"...celebrate it.
Silent night, holy night
All is calm all is bright
'Round yon virgin Mother and Child
Holy infant so tender and mild
Sleep in heavenly peace
Sleep in heavenly peace
Silent night, holy night
Shepherds quake at the sight.
Glories stream from heaven afar
Heavenly hosts sing Alleluia
Christ the Savior is born
Christ the Savior is born
Silent night, holy night
Son of God, love's pure light
Radiant beams from Thy holy face
With the dawn of redeeming grace
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, My heart quietly waits in anticipation of the grand celebration that tomorrow brings. Thank You for the gift of Your Son. Thank You for redeeming grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
The Girlfriends in God, Mary, Sharon, and Gwen, pray that you will have a joy-filled Christmas Day celebrating the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ. We love you!
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December 25, 2008
Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:8-12 "Now there were in the same country shepherds living out in the fields, keeping watch over their flock by night. And behold, an angel of the Lord stood before them, and the glory of the lord shone around them, and they were greatly afraid. Then the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people. For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger." (NKJV)
Friend to Friend
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday, dear Jesus!
Happy Birthday to You!
Christmas is the birthday of Jesus Christ! I have always wondered why we typically celebrate His birth by giving gifts to everyone but Him! What gifts does He want from us? What gifts are fit for the King? To answer that question let's go back to that first Christmas and see what gifts He received that holy night.
The gift of trust
Mary, the mother of Jesus Christ, was a teenage girl, probably fourteen or fifteen years old, engaged to Joseph when an angel appeared to her with the startling message that she would have a baby, a son named Jesus. Since she was still a virgin she did not understand the message but she knew the One who had sent it -- and that was enough. Trust is a gift fit for the King. Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight."
The gift of obedience
Joseph's engagement to Mary was legally binding. Imagine his shock and confusion when he learned that Mary was pregnant. Knowing that he could not possibly be the baby's father, Joseph's first reaction was to divorce Mary quietly. An angel from God appeared and told Joseph to "keep her but do not sleep with her!" Now Joseph's response could have been many things. But he chose obedience. John 14:15 "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
A small child riding in the car wanted to stand in the front seat by his father. The dad explained the importance of a seat belt and told the little boy to sit down. He refused, crossing his little arms in defiance. The father physically sat his son down and buckled him into the seat, bragging on the little boy for his obedience. With a glare his son said, "I may be sitting down on the outside but I'm still standing up on the inside." Obedience is an active choice to do what God wants us to do. Obedience is not just an outward motion -- it is also an inward attitude -- and a gift fit for the King.
The gift of praise
When the shepherds heard the angels' news, they went to see Jesus for themselves. After they saw the baby, they left praising God! Anytime we are in the presence of God, praise will result. Praise is also a continual choice that we make again and again until it becomes a habit. Psalm 50:6 "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord." Don't let anyone or any circumstance keep you from praising God! Praise keeps us kneeling before the manger and is a gift fit for the King."
The gift of sacrifice
The Wise Men came; bringing gifts that required sacrifice because they knew that true worship always involves sacrifice. Gold, a precious metal, Incense, a rare and expensive product used in worship and Myrrh, an expensive perfume were the gifts they brought to Jesus. Sacrifice goes beyond what is required or expected. The best gift - the most expensive and extravagant gift should go to the one whose birthday we celebrate. Gifts of trust, obedience, praise and sacrifice please God and are gifts fit for the King.
In other words, the best gift that we can give God at Christmas is US! May the words of this children's song be the prayer of our hearts this Christmas Day:
"I'm gonna wrap up myself for Christmas
And tie me with a big red bow.
That's what I'm giving to Jesus.
It's a present He'll like I know."
Merry Christmas!
Let's Pray
Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, everything I hope to be. I love You, Lord. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have a birthday party for Jesus today. Bake a cake, sing "Happy Birthday" and worship Him by surrendering to His plan and provision for your life.
Leave one Christmas decoration out this year as a reminder of His birth and what His presence means every single day.
Consider the following questions:
What is the meaning of Christmas in your life?
How can you lead your family to celebrate the birth of Jesus?
What has been the most meaningful part of this Christmas holiday? Why?
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Sharon, Gwen and I pray that today is a true celebration of Jesus Christ in your life. Carve out time today to spend alone with Him. Praise and worship Him for who He is, Lord, King, Father and Shepherd. He is Friend of the wounded heart and the Great Physician. He is our Everything and He is Emmanuel -- God with us. Merry Christmas!
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December 26, 2008
Does Time Really Heal Everything?
Angela L. Craig
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
"Jesus said, "'The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach the good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of the sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor.'" Luke 4:18 -19 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
You have heard it said, "Time heals everything." I have two questions for you. First, who said that? Second, does time really heal everything? It boggles my mind to think of all the times that I have believed something because "they said it," not even knowing if "they" are a reliable source! I would like to believe that time does heal everything but I have come to realize the truth that time really does not heal everything. What about you, has time healed your wounds?
Think about the first boy who broke your heart or the husband that walked out on you. Did time heal that wound? What about the parent that disappointed you time after time or the boss who never saw your full potential? Did time heal your disappointment or make you believe that you had worth?
For me, time only puts a band-aid on the injury. All it takes is a memory of an offense or hurt to replace the band-aid with a dagger that goes straight through my heart.
What pain have you hoped time would heal? Is it fear, worry, anger or the inability to forgive? Are you trying to cover a broken heart of rejection or grief?
Have you been inspired or determined to change, only to find yourself living the same way, walking the same painful road, or feeling the same destructive emotions? If this describes how you feel, you are not alone! I have walked in those shoes and so has practically every other woman who is reading this devotional today.
I have discovered a significant truth in life. There is a huge difference between an "inspirational moment" and a "defining moment." An inspirational moment is when we feel motivated to change. A defining moment is when we actually do change. The difference between the two is enormous.
With best intentions and a willing heart, many of us have had inspired moments that failed to develop into defining ones. Our best human effort left us feeling defeated and doubtful that our lives would ever change for the better. That is why we need Jesus!
The birth of Jesus was a defining moment that changed the course of history for this world, but more importantly, it was a defining moment for you. Jesus came to earth not only to give you eternal life, but to give you freedom (Galatians 5:1) and the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome the things that hold you back from having the life for which you were created. The same power that God used to raise Jesus from the dead is available to you to break down ANY stronghold or hurt in your life (2 Corinthians 10:4). All you have to do is ask God to help you.
During this Christmas season, I pray that every time you are reminded of the birth of Christ, you will be reminded of the message that Jesus came to earth for you! He came to unchain you, to set you free so you could fly, and to open your eyes to your incredible worth! Jesus has special Christmas gift for you this year, a defining moment wrapped and waiting for you. Will you receive it?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I need a defining moment in my life. I don't want to stay the same anymore. I accept the gift You have given me to overcome the strongholds and hurts in my life by the power of Your Holy Spirit. I specifically give __________________ to You with confidence and eager expectation that my life will change! I believe that Your plan for my life is the best one possible and I thank You for walking with me every day as I take the steps to heal!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
Looking back at Luke 4:18-19, ask God to reveal to you any areas where you need freedom from bondage, clearer vision or release from oppression.
Have you had any "inspirational moments" lately? Through the power of the Holy Spirit, how could those moments be turned into "defining moments" in your life?
What steps will you take to make sure you slow down enough during this Christmas season to recognize the defining moment Christ has waiting for you?
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You may be surrounded by family and friends, are you may be alone today. Either way, God is with you. Take some time today to seek Him and to listen for His voice above all others. Don't allow the "things" of Christmas to divert your heart gaze from that tiny baby, lying in a manger, come to earth for you. Gwen, Sharon and I pray that your defining moment with Jesus Christ will come today. Blessings!
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December 29, 2008
Winning Over Worry, Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
The holidays are a very difficult time for many people -- for many reasons. Following the thrill of the Christmas holidays and New Year's celebrations, reality starts to sink in. The credit card bills arrive. The sun disappears and long, dark days string together like a heavy, suffocating blanket. Already broken resolutions for the New Year mock our commitment to discipline and the darkness of depression makes us want to crawl back in bed, to pull the covers over our head and wait for a better life to come along. Those feelings are all too familiar.
In 1995, I went through a devastating two year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that deep, dark pit, I discovered many truths and learned many lessons. One of the most important lessons is that the pit of depression is always full of waters swimming with worry. I worried about how I got into the pit and how I would or even if I could get out. I worried that depression would affect my family and our ministry. I worried about what people would think of me when they saw my weakness and failure.
In the darkness, worry made everything seem bigger and uglier than it really was! Worry helped usher me into the pit and worry was now one of the prisons guards. I desperately wanted to trust God, exchanging my worry for His peace. I read countless books on the subject, described in detail my favorite worries to those who would listen and constantly begged God to take away the anxiety and fear. Nothing worked. I was losing the battle with worry while sinking lower into the grip of darkness. There had to be a way to win over worry!
The journey began with a strong, clear look at the affects of worry in my life. It wasn't a pretty picture. Worry permeates every area, invading peace, warping perspectives and impacting physical and emotional health.
I am reminded of the man hospitalized because of anxiety. For hours, he pressed his ear up against the wall, listening intently. When the nurse came in to check on him, he whispered a warning and called her over, motioning for her to be quiet. The nurse pressed her ear up against the wall and listened for a long time. "I can't hear a thing!" she finally said. "I know", the man replied. "It's been like that all day!"
Worry is wasted energy. It is consuming, draining and unhealthy. Worry fits this world but certainly does not fit the picture of a joy-filled life, the life that Jesus came to give us. Nothing will rob you of joy quicker than worry. God came so that we would not have to worry and yet we continue to do so. During those dark years, I sat at His feet dumping each fear and worry into His capable hands, resting and waiting for deliverance. It came.
In the key passage, Paul gives us the promise of peace. However, there are conditions to be met and actions we must take in order to experience that peace and win over worry!
Action one: Choose joy
Philippians 4:4 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" The Message says it this way: "Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him!"
The author, Paul, is serious about joy, telling us twice in this passage to rejoice! The word "rejoice" means "to practice joy, to take delight in and be glad". Many times, life makes it impossible to be happy but we need to understand that happiness is not what Paul is calling us to. Happiness is a cheap imitation of true joy and totally dependent on the circumstances of life. Joy, however, is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control no matter what the circumstances of life may be. Joy is a choice.
Paul's situation, while writing this letter, could make you wonder why he was even writing about joy, of all things. He was in prison under Roman house arrest, awaiting trial and almost certain execution because of his faith in Jesus Christ. Yet, he tells us to rejoice! Don't miss this! What Paul is really telling us is a life-changing truth! Our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outward circumstances. In other words, we cannot always find joy in our circumstances but we can always find joy in the Lord of the circumstances.
You have probably discovered that there is absolutely no way in this world to escape pain, but we can avoid joy. The pursuit of joy is a matter of choice. Our first and most important choice is to come to the only source of true joy - Jesus Christ. We must also choose to rejoice in the midst of every circumstance - good or bad -- and keep our focus on God, gladly accepting His plan for our lives. We must choose a joyful perspective. A little boy asked his friend. "Wouldn't you hate to wear glasses all the time?" "No-o-o," the other boy answered slowly, "not if I had the kind grandma wears. She sees how to fix a lot of things. She sees lots of nice things to do on rainy days and she always sees what you meant to do even if you mess things up! I asked her one day how she could see that way all the time and she said, 'It is the way I choose to look at things.' So it must be her glasses." When we choose joy, we are choosing against worry!
Let's Pray
Father, I feel as if worry constantly nips at my heels, trying to steal my joy. Help me to see life as You see it and to choose Your perspective instead of my own. Lead me into Your peace as I learn to trust You wholly.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen.
Not It's Your Turn
Make a list of the five things you worry about the most. Find a verse or passage of scripture that applies to these five areas of worry. Write the verses on a 3x5 card and place the cards in your purse so that when the worry comes, you are prepared.
Look back over your life.
What role have you allowed worry to play in daily life?
What are some of the ways you have confronted worry in the past? Were they effective?
What is the first step you need to take in order to win over worry?
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The best way to win a battle is to prepare and stay prepared for that battle. We can get ready and stay ready to win the war with worry by saturating our life with God's Word and by a consistent prayer life. If you or someone you love has allowed worry to paralyze and imprison them, there is hope. Read my story of God's deliverance from the pit of darkness in my book, "Hope in the Midst of Depression." If God can deliver me, He can deliver you.
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December 30, 2008
Winning Over Worry, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
In Philippians 4:4-7, Paul gives us the promise of peace. However, there are conditions to be met and actions we must take in order to experience that peace and win over worry.
Action one: Choose joy
Action two: Be gentle
Philippians 4:5 gives an unusual directive concerning worry. "Let your gentleness be evident to all." "Gentleness" literally means "humility, softness and tenderness" and seems to indicate that part of dealing with worry is related to the directive that we must be gentle with everyone. The Living Bible translates "gentle" as "unselfish and considerate". Any way you look at it, this truth is in direct opposition to the viewpoint of the world in which we live. Power and assertiveness gain respect while gentleness is often viewed as weakness. In God's eyes, gentleness is harnessed strength, and a controlled power. What does gentleness have to do with eliminating worry? Paul is saying the way we treat people affects our peace. Many of us have lives filled with worry because we have relationships filled with conflict. When we are not gentle, conflict is the inevitable result. Worry and anxiety thrive in the atmosphere of conflict. What does it mean to be gentle in our relationships?
· Gentleness is willing to give up control.
James 3:17a "But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure and full of quiet gentleness. It allows discussion and is willing to yield to others." Gentleness can always find a patch of common ground, giving people room to grow and change.
Gentleness doesn't control but is willing to yield or submit to one another in love.
· Gentleness is love in action.
James 3:17b "Gentleness if full of mercy and good deeds." When gentleness sees a need, it does something about it. It is compelled to take action!
· Gentleness forgives.
Colossians 3:13 "Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Gentleness is quick to give and to receive forgiveness, always taking the responsibility to initiate forgiveness.
· Gentleness wages peace.
Hebrews 12:14 "Pursue peace with all people." "Gentleness" does not retaliate but pursues peace instead. The goal of gentleness is unity. I've read that when thoroughbred horses are under attack, they stand in a circle, face each other, and with their back legs kick out at the enemy! Donkeys do just the opposite. They face the enemy and kick each other.
We are called to wage peace. When we practice gentleness and pursue peace in our relationships, there will be less conflict, more unity and fewer footholds for worry.
Action three: Be aware of His presence.
Philippians 4:5 "The Lord is near." We often pray, asking for God's presence when our prayer should be, "Lord, make me aware of your presence." He is near but many times our lives and hearts are too crowded to see or hear Him. The more we are aware of God's presence the less we will worry. We become aware of His presence through:
· Bible
Hebrews 4:12 "For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword."
The most powerful weapon against worry is scripture. Read it. Memorize it. Immerse your life in it. The word of God grounds us, repelling worry. When worry comes - reject it! Deflect it with the shield of God's word.
· Prayer
1 Peter 5:7 "Let him have all your worries and cares, for he is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you."
Prayer is simply conversation with God and a powerful weapon against worry. I read of a widow who had successfully raised a large family of eighteen children, twelve of whom were adopted. Yet, she never seemed to worry. During an interview, a reporter asked the secret of her peace and confidence. She said, "I'm not alone. I'm in a partnership with God. Years ago, I said "Lord, I'll do the work and you do the worrying! I have had peace ever since!"
· Friends
Ecclesiastes 4:12 "And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
When you share your fears with others, they grow smaller because someone has gotten under the load with you. A shared load is a lighter load. We tend to hide our fears in darkness where they grow and strengthen, instead of bringing them out into the light where they will die. When we try to be "lone-ranger Christians" and handle our fears on our own, we are susceptible to attacks that will defeat us. When we stand together, our strength is multiplied and we are not easily beaten.
· Experience
James 1:17 "Every good thing bestowed and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation, or shifting shadow."
The more we know Him, the more we will understand that He really is who He says He is and that He is willing and able to work in our lives. We will naturally begin to trust Him and soon discover that He is faithful.
So much worry is buried in the unknown. The "known" victories of yesterday can destroy the fear of today's "unknown" circumstances because He is always the same. What a security comes when we realize that we can truly count on Him. God's presence empowers us to win over worry. When you are tempted to worry, stop and go back over the books, remembering the victories and celebrating them once again. The God who delivered you yesterday will deliver you today and tomorrow! The experiences of life prove Him true and underline His presence within.
Let's Pray
Father, help me to handle the relationships in my life with gentleness. When there is conflict, give me the strength to confront it in Your love. I long for Your presence in my life. Help me to be more aware of Your hand at work.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize these names of God and call on Him when doubt and worry come:
Jehovah Shammah: "I am there"
Jehovah Shalom: "I am your peace"
Jehovah Jireh: "I am your provider"
Emmanuel: "God with us"
What one step do you need to take in the battle against worry? We want to encourage you and walk with you. Check out Mary's online Bible Study, Light for the Journey for ways to grow in Christ and live a life of victory instead of defeat.
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December 31, 2008
Winning Over Worry, Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
We stand on the brink of the New Year, 2009. Some people are celebrating the end of the old year and are hopeful that the next twelve months will hold better things than 2008 did. It is hard to know - and that is where the problem lies -- in the unknown. The economy is struggling, a new administration is preparing to take the reins of our country, wars still rage and everyone seems to have a different opinion about how to correct every problem. However, one thing is certain. God has neither moved nor changed and when we know Him, the future cannot harm us. How can we live in peace and win over worry?
Action one: Choose joy
Action two: Be gentle
Action three: Be aware of His presence
Action four: Choose to trust
It is possible not to worry. It must be. God never asks us to do anything that He doesn't empower us to do! In today's key passage, the Apostle Paul challenges us, "Do not be anxious about anything."
"Anxious" literally means, "to be pulled in different directions" and is based on the old English root from which we get our word "worry" meaning "to strangle". Worry can strangle us but trust breaks the hold of worry in our lives! The Comanche Indians tortured and killed their enemies by staking them to the ground. They would take a wet leather strap and place it around the neck of their prisoner. As the strap dried, it would gradually cut off the air supply, choking the victim to death. This is the perfect picture of what worry can do to us.
Worry is a control issue. Its opposite is trust. Choose to trust and you will not worry. Choose to worry and you will not trust. What a great promise is found in Isaiah 26:3! "You, LORD, give true peace to those who depend on you, because they trust you." Be brutally honest for a moment. Who is God in your life? I ask that question because I have discovered that playing God is the root of worry. When we play God, we are trusting in our own sufficiency. God commands us to give Him first place and live - totally depending upon Him. Every opportunity to worry is also an opportunity to trust God. Choose trust!
Action Five: Pray about everything.
Philippians 4:6b "But in everything, by prayer and petition...present your requests to God."
"Prayer" is simply conversation with God. "Petition" means to earnestly plea with or implore. To "present your requests" is simply to "make known" or "tell" God specifically what it is that you need. Praying about everything shuts out worry because prayer invites God to be involved in every area of life, and when He is involved, we have nothing to fear!
I am not sure why we have a portable phone because I can never find it. While searching for the roving phone, I walked into the living room to find Danna on the couch with the missing phone in one hand and the television remote control in the other. "Are you talking to Amanda?" I asked. Danna and Amanda were best friends and constantly on the phone. "Yes," she said. "We are watching T.V. together." I asked if I could use the phone but heard, "Mom, Amanda will be right back. She is eating dinner but I want to keep the line open." That is the idea of praying without ceasing - the idea of keeping the line open. I have heard it said that "when your knees knock, kneel on them!" Prayer eliminates worry.
Action Six: Practice the attitude of gratitude.
Ephesians 5:20 "Always give thanks for everything to our God and Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ."
When our hearts and lives are filled with praise and thanksgiving, worry is a weed that will die from lack of attention. Praise is a powerful weapon against worry and frees God to work in our lives. Why? Because when we praise Him, we trust Him.
The story is told of a young hippie who was sitting on a park bench reading his Bible. Suddenly he began to shout, "Praise the Lord! What a miracle!" An older, very distinguished man walking by stopped and asked why he was so excited. The young man replied, "I was just reading how God parted the Red Sea and the whole nation of Israel walked on dry ground!" The older man sneered, "Don't you know? That wasn't a real sea at all. It was just a few inches of water." The unbeliever turned in irritation, walked away, leaving the young man confused and discouraged -- for a moment - until his shouts once again filled the air. The angry cynic returned asking, "What are you shouting about now?" "Well, sir, I just read how God drowned the whole Egyptian army in just a few inches of water!" Don't let anyone keep you from praising God. Don't let any circumstance deny you the joy of praise. If you want to win over worry, praise Him!
A final thought: Paul ends with the promise, "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." "Peace" can be defined as "a state of untroubled, undisturbed well-being". Paul says this kind of peace is beyond our understanding and our ability to comprehend. The world cannot grasp it but would pay any price to have it. Peace is a supernatural gift from God, given as a hedge of protection that will "guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." "Guard" is a military term, meaning "a garrison or stationed guard". When we have met His conditions, God stations peace at the doorway of our life with the assignment, "Protect my child!"
What fear is gripping your heart? What are you worrying about? Give it up! Take action! Claim the promises and exchange your worries for God's gift of peace!
Let's Pray
Father, today I choose to face my fears with prayer and praise and in doing so, declare my trust in You. Thank You for being Peace in my life.
In Jesus' name, I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask a friend to be your prayer partner. Meet regularly to pray and praise God for the answered prayer. Keep a prayer and praise journal. At the end of each week, review your journal to see God's hand at work.
What circumstance in your life is the result of worry?
What affect does praise have on that fearful circumstance?
Does worry keep you from praying? Why?
Is my prayer life powerful? Why? Why not?
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I pray that this series of devotions has been helpful to you and that you are walking in God's peace. Winning the war over worry is a constant battle but we can win if the Word of God is our source of strength and power. Would you like to have a plan that will help you study the bible consistently? Check out my online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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January 1, 2009
I'd be Happy If..., Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The thief (Satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I (Jesus) have come that they might have life, and might have it abundantly" John 10:10 (DARBY).
Friend to Friend
I'd be happy if... If you begin a sentence with those words, then beware. Those little words of discontentment are the very words that Satan uses to draw us into his deceitful traps. I'd be happy if I were married. I'd be happy if I had children. I'd be happy if I had a different husband. I'd be happy if I had more money. All these thoughts take our focus away from the blessings that we do have.
And it's nothing new. This is the same old story that began in the Garden of Eden with the same antagonist deceiving the leading lady. But I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's start at the very beginning.
Five days after time began, the Creator of the Universe gazed at all He had made and was not completely satisfied. Yes, as the sun set on each of the first five days on God's kingdom calendar, He said, "It is good." But there was something missing. Something more. Someone more.
The stage was set for Act 6. The curtain rose. Everything had to be perfect for God's grand finale. The angels gathered round as God announced the final scene on the grand drama of "In the Beginning."
God began with an announcement..."Let us make man in Our own image." This being will be different from all the rest. With body, soul, and spirit, man will enter into a relationship with the Creator on a personal and intimate level. He will be just a little lower than the angels and rule over the animals that creep on the earth, the fowl that soar in the sky, and the fish that swim in the sea. Man will be God's friend.
So God knelt on the ground and gathered a handful of dirt. He spat on the dust and began forming the most magnificent creation to date. With His very fingertips, God fashioned man's inward parts: capillaries, nerve endings, brain cells, hair follicles, eyelashes, taste buds. Meticulously and deliberately, the Artist created a masterpiece of divine design.
And as the lifeless form lay before the celestial audience, God placed His mouth upon the nostrils of man and breathed life into his waiting lungs. A collective gasp ran through the crowd as man's lungs filled with holy oxygen and he took his first breath. As if God flipped the breaker switch of life, man's heart began beating, the lungs began expanding, and the eyes began fluttering open to see. And the curtain began to fall on this, the sixth day of creation.
"Wait!" the Creator cried. "My work is not done. It is not good for man to be alone! I will create a helper suitable for him. A companion like him, but yet, oh so different."
So, mid-air, the curtain rises to expose the day, and God -- the Us, the Three-In-One, began to fashion the grand finale...woman.
Can't you just see it now? Can't you sense the excitement of the angels as they hovered low? From the very beginning of time, man was set apart. He was uniquely designed for a specific purpose as God's image bearer to rule the earth.
But there was one among the onlookers that day who watched with evil intent. Yes, he was among the created angelic beings, one of the most beautiful, in fact. But he wasn't happy with God's creation. Earlier, this angelic being decided he didn't particularly like his position in the heavenly order. He wanted to elevate himself above God. And while he had been created to be a light-bearer, his rebellion resulted in being thrown to the earth to become known as the Prince of Darkness.
Now there were these...humans...created in God's image. The enemy was not pleased. As soon as Adam and Eve stood on the stage, the Prince of Darkness began to devise their demise. If he was going down, he was going to take as many of these image bearers with him as possible.
Join me tomorrow as we look at the enemy's plan then and now.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know that the enemy wants me to fail and fall. I also know that You want me to have abundant life filled with peace and joy. Help me to listen to Your voice and turn a deaf ear to the enemy's taunting. I stand on the truth of Who You are and Who I am in You...more than a conqueror.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Adam and Eve had it all...and they threw it away for a piece of fruit.
Have you ever known someone who has thrown away the abundant life for a mere piece of forbidden fruit?
What can we learn from Adam and Eve's example? What would have been her response had she combated Satan with God's truth?
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Sometimes it is easy to read about Adam and Eve and not see ourselves. But we fight the same enemy with the same tactics. If you would like to learn more about how to recognize the lies, reject the lies, and replace the lies with truth, see Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. It is packed with 72 common lies women believe and the truth that sets us free
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January 2, 2009
I'd Be Happy If..., Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't be deceived, my dear brothers (and sisters). Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows" James 1:16, 17 (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Adam and Eve lived in a perfect world. All their needs were cared for. They had perfect communion with God and each other. They were "naked and unashamed." The only restriction placed on them was that they were not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil located in the middle of the Garden. God warned them, "If you eat of it, you will surely die."
As they basked in the light of God's love, darkness slithered into the Garden with his plan to kill, steal and destroy the image bearers. And how did he do it? He did it with the most powerful weapon of all...lies.
"Now the serpent..." The great deceiver clothed himself as a serpent and slithered up to Eve with a game plan to destroy God's prized possession. He didn't come with a sword, or gun, or even a knife for his attack. He simply wielded lies.
The serpent knew Adam and Eve would not buy into a radical flamboyant denial of God, so he slithered into the garden with a twist and a turn of the truth. He began by causing Eve to doubt... "Did God really say you must not eat from any tree in the garden?" (Genesis 3:1).
Satan knew exactly what God had said. He was simply trying to confuse Eve. Perhaps he was evaluating just how well she knew the truth. He found out.
"We may eat fruit from the tress in the garden," Eve replied, "but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die'" (Genesis 3:3).
Bingo. She didn't know the truth that well after all. God never mentioned not touching the fruit. That seems like a pretty good idea, but it was not what God said.
Second he denied God and lied about the consequences of disobedience. Satan said, "You will not surely die" (3:4). He didn't even try to disguise the deception. He told a flat-out lie.
Finally, he told her she could be like God: "For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil" (Genesis 3:5). In other words, "God doesn't know what He's talking about. He's holding out on you. You don't need Him. You can be your own god."
Eve rejected the truth and believed the lie. She believed that she could be like God ... in control of her own life. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her" (Genesis 3:6).
And as she sunk her teeth into the forbidden fruit of deception and the lie slid down her delicate throat, the temptation settled in her soul and fermented into shame and condemnation. Her husband, who chose the woman over God, also felt the sickening rot of sin settle in his very soul. Suddenly shame and fear entered the world, and Adam and Eve hid from God like wayward children.
All temptation is an attempt to get us to live our lives independent of God. Satan is not very creative, but he is very effective. And he has been lying to us ever since. Why? Because it works.
Every one of his lies springs from the idea that happiness is just a decision away. Satan wants you to believe God is holding out on you; you can be like God; you can be your own god. Rather than being thankful for what we do have, he points out what we don't have. Think about it. Eve had at her disposal every tree in the garden except one. Every one! That is a smorgasbord of goodness! Rather than being thankful, she bought the lie that the one thing she couldn't have was the one thing that would make her happy. I would be happy if... Is any of this sounding familiar to you? It should. Satan uses the same tactics with us that he used with Eve.
Eve believed the enemy's lie over God's truth. His plan worked. But what the serpent did not know was that God's amazing plan of forgiveness and grace was about to unfold. Satan did not win the battle for man's soul in the garden. Jesus Christ won the war on Calvary's Cross. When Jesus said, "It is finished," and then breathed his last, He made a way for all mankind to regain all that Adam and Eve had lost.
Let's Pray
Dear God, help me to recognize the lies of the enemy. I am so thankful for all that You have given me. I commit, right now, that I will not entertain thoughts that "I would be happy if..." but rather praise You for all that You have given me: freedom in Christ, eternal life, access to You though prayer, salvation, redemption, purpose. I love you.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you said or thought, "I would be happy if..."
What does that thought imply?
Where does true joy come from?
Go back to Today's Truth and write down what it means to you.
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Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Are you ready to begin living the abundant life that God planned all along? Well, let's grab hands and begin the journey of walking in the truth together. Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, will open your eyes to the truth and set you free from the lies. Just visit www.sharonjaynes.com and begin the amazing journey.
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January 5, 2009
Inventory Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 (NIV)
Friend to Friend
The tree is down, the decorations are packed away and the company has all gone home. I hope you all enjoyed the holidays and have emerged, relatively unscathed, ready to face a New Year. If you have ventured out into the malls, you have discovered those stores that were crammed full for a solid month are now almost deserted in comparison. The store clerks that just days ago welcomed you with open arms and flashing smiles now ignore you as if you were an intrusion. There's a reason. They are busy taking their yearly inventory. We need to do the same.
A spiritual inventory is an important tool of growth in our walk with God. How can we know where we are headed if we don't know where we have been? What lessons did we learn during the last year? What do we want to keep and what needs to be tossed aside as we face a new year? What changes need to happen and what needs to remain the same? What new choices do we need to make in order to achieve new goals -- the right goals?
It is often so easy to keep on doing "the next thing." We put one foot in front of the other, casually drifting through a life without purpose, only to wake up one day to discover that we have wasted much of that life on the "unimportant." I don't know about you, but I have reached the point in life where I absolutely refuse to live in survival mode. I want my life to count ... to make an impact.
For several nights, I have found myself lying awake for hours, pondering the "next step." I am on my knees asking God for His direction, and trusting Him to make those steps clear. I have decided that when I can't understand the plan or see what's just ahead, I will choose to trust God. It is a decision I make continually.
This New Year, 2009, is not just another year; it is another chapter of life, filled with opportunities, challenges and fresh purpose. I choose against my "old nature" that wants to just sit back and rest in the warmth of yesterday's victories or hide in the darkness of yesterday's defeats.
Instead, I choose to strain both victory and defeat through the promise of Romans 8:28 that all things work together for good, learning the truths and lessons that need to be learned while embracing God's highest plan for my life. We do not have to settle for anything less than knowing God and pursuing all that He holds in His hands for each one of us. Right now, pick up that pad and pencil and get started on your own personal inventory. May this be the most God-honoring year of your life.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for all that You have done in my life this year. There are so many times during the past year when I would not have made it through the day without Your power and presence. Help me to apply the lessons of 2008 in this New Year so that I will grow and become more like You, leading others to seek and know You. I love You, Father, and praise You for all that You have in store for me in 2009. May my life be a trophy of Your grace, mercy and love.
In Jesus' name, I pray
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside a few hours this week to review 2008.
What lessons have you learned? How did you learn them?
What new truths has God given you? How are you applying those truths in your daily life?
What new perspective has God given you this year? In what way will that perspective change habits and behaviors in your life during 2009?
Make a step-by-step plan for implementing a daily quiet time alone with God. Choose the place, gather your materials and select the time of day when you will most likely have a few minutes of uninterrupted time.
When you fail, begin again. God will honor your commitment.
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Around our house, the "after-Christmas" activity of choice is what one of my friends calls "purging". Every year, she packs up the Christmas decorations and begins a diligent room-by-room, closet-by-closet, box-by-box search for anything she did not use during the past year. Family heirlooms and items of sentimental value are the only treasures excluded. Everything else is fair game, and if she hasn't used it in a year and doesn't foresee using it this year, out it goes! We should apply the same tactic to the attitudes, behaviors, habits and disciplines of our spiritual journey. We have hopefully learned valuable lessons, gained fresh truths and molded more godly perspectives during the past twelve months. Now is the time to plug each truth and perspective into daily life. Need help? I encourage you to join my online bible study, Light for the Journey for encouragement and practical application of God's truth in your life. Check it out!
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January 6, 2009
A Desperate Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then one of the synagogue rulers, named Jairus, came there. Seeing Jesus, he fell at his feet and pleaded earnestly with him, "My little daughter is dying. Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live." (Mark 5:22-23, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I had a painful phone conversation with a girlfriend this week. She's heavy with hurt. Spiritually paralyzed by circumstances. Her faith has been greatly challenged and weakened. It broke my heart. I wanted to reach through the phone line and hug her. I wanted to lift her burdens and solve all her problems, but, of course, I couldn't. So I listened, reminded her of God's love for her, and prayed.
Back in the days of Jesus' ministry, a man, desperate for a miracle, approached Jesus and fell before him. His daughter was dying. Jesus was his only hope. Here's how it played out in the Message version:
"After Jesus crossed over by boat, a large crowd met him at the seaside. One of the meeting-place leaders named Jairus came. When he saw Jesus, he fell to his knees, beside himself as he begged, "My dear daughter is at death's door. Come and lay hands on her so she will get well and live." Jesus went with him, the whole crowd tagging along, pushing and jostling him." (Mark 5:21-24, MSG)
Along the way, Jesus healed a woman who had suffered from a bleeding disorder for twelve long years. Jesus said that her faith made her well. "Daughter, you took a risk of faith, an now you're healed and whole. Live well, lived blessed! Be healed of your plague." (Mark 5:34, MSG)
"While he was still talking, some people came from the leader's house and told him, "Your daughter is dead. Why bother the Teacher any more?" Jesus overheard what they were talking about and said to the leader, "Don't listen to them; just trust me."
He permitted no one to go in with him except Peter, James, and John. They entered the leader's house and pushed their way through the gossips looking for a story and neighbors bringing casseroles. Jesus was abrupt: "Why all this busybody grief and gossip? This child isn't dead; she's sleeping." Provoked to sarcasm, they told him he didn't know what he was talking about.
But when he had sent them all out, he took the child's father and mother, along with his companions, and entered the child's room. He clasped the girl's hand and said "Talitha koum," which means "Little girl, get up." At that, she was up and walking around! This girl was twelve years of age. They, of course, were all beside themselves with joy." (Mark 5:35-42, MSG)
Like Jairus and the bleeding woman, I've found that when life is hardest, the best thing I can do is take my need to Jesus. In the times when I fall before Him in prayer, He sustains and strengthens me ... but in the times that I try to handle things in my own strength, I am weak and ineffective.
Desperate times call for a desperate faith. As Christians, we have faith in a person - God. Faith in and of itself is meaningless, but faith in an all-seeing, all-knowing, all-powerful God means everything ... because He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Faith is the core of our lives. It is essential to pleasing God. He wants us to trust Him in every trial and through every trouble. "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." (Hebrews 11:6, NIV)
Are you desperate for a miracle today? Is the declining economy, the burden of debt, or soaring unemployment rate affecting you or someone you love? Perhaps you bear the pain of a broken marriage, broken dreams, or a broken body. If you are desperate for healing, help, and hope, ask the Lord to increase your faith today, and make a determined choice to trust Him.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are a mighty God, and I'm in need of Your power in my life. I beg You to move! Please fan the flame of my faith today. I trust that You are in control and ask that You would sustain and strengthen me to face every challenge.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Need encouragement? Allow this prayer song to lift your heart to God's. I wrote in a time when I was overwhelmed with hard times. Turn your speakers up and CLICK HERE.
Read and memorize Matthew 11:28-30. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
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Beth Moore once said, "Desperation can be the sweetest gift God ever gave you." I agree. God longs to be our Refuge and Rest in the midst of every storm. If you love music, order Gwen's CD, Unsearchable, and allow the songs to usher you into God's presence and fill your heart with praises.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. Visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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January 7, 2009
What Am I Doing in This Pit?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 40:1-3 (NIV) "I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord."
Friend to Friend
It was the spring of 1995 and Spring Breakaway was just around the corner. Normally this event was a highlight of my year. I always looked forward to teaching at this very special retreat for women in Fort Lauderdale, Florida - not this year. This year I didn't even want to go, and I certainly did not want to teach.
I felt completely empty and totally drained. My energy was gone. My heart and mind seemed paralyzed. I was exhausted in every way. But then again ... I did have the right to feel that way, right? After all, it had been a nonstop year for me.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor/teacher of Flamingo Road Church, a contemporary, seeker-sensitive ministry in Fort Lauderdale that had exploded in growth that year and begun meeting in multiple services. I attended every service, going early to welcome newcomers and staying late to smooth any ruffled feathers that came my way. We were in the process of transitioning from a very traditional church to a very contemporary one. Change is always hard, but this experience had been a nightmare. I had never encountered such opposition. I had never been the target of such criticism. I had never known such rejection as people I thought were my friends attacked my husband's integrity, heart, and vision. It seemed as if there was always someone waiting in line to question and criticize what we were doing. I felt like a walking wound. I knew we were being obedient to what God had called us to do, but it seemed that many disagreed. I was hurt and angry, and I did not know what to do with those emotions.
My ministry as the church pianist had become more of a pain than a joy. Singing was no longer the overflow of a daughter's full heart, but the hollow performance of a spiritual chore. I had always loved being a mom, but, lately, even this role felt more like an unwelcome burden. I was used to being the one who gave help. I was the one others came to for strength and direction. I was the great encourager -- the caregiver. People who knew me well would describe me as a very strong woman. All of my life, I was driven to excel in everything, and if I couldn't do it perfectly, I didn't do it at all. I was a raging perfectionist.legalistically disciplined...with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. The simplest decision sent me into a panic. The great wisdom-giver could not compile a grocery list. The woman who taught hundreds of women couldn't bring herself to face crowds of any size. The large tasks of life were out of the question, and even the simplest tasks seemed like huge mountains.
Meals, housework, and even shopping were all left undone. If I managed to get out of bed and get dressed by the time my kids got home from school, the day was a success. All I wanted to do was sleep and to be left alone. I was paralyzed. I had fallen into a deep, dark, nameless pit. I had no idea how I got there. And even more frightening was the stark reality that I had no idea how to get out.
I decided I was just tired. All I needed was some rest. With that hope in hand, my family and I escaped the hot, humid flatlands of Florida to enjoy three weeks in the cool mountains of North Carolina, my favorite vacation spot. That vacation is a complete blur. My children knew something was terribly wrong. They had never seen their mom so quiet...so still...and so sad. Dan listened patiently as I poured out my fear and confusion night after night. There seemed to be no answers...only questions. In his eyes, I could see the growing fear that I felt in my own heart. We had never been here before. It was a foreign land. We had no idea how to navigate those unfamiliar waters. It was very simple. I was in serious trouble, and I needed help.
As each day grew darker, Dan and I both realized we had to come up with a plan -- quickly! We decided I would see a Christian counselor Dan often referred people to and in whom he had great confidence. My first appointment with Betty was uneventful as far as I could tell - and a total waste of time. I was furious! She was supposed to "fix" me in those few hours and had failed miserably. She did, however, accomplish one thing. She named my pit.
Clinical depression was a problem I knew little about. Evidently, it was an enemy that strong, committed Christians were not supposed to encounter, because I had never heard anyone in the church even talk about depression, much less admit they struggled with it. I recoiled at the thought of such blatant weakness in my life. I felt ashamed of what was obviously a great failure on my part, but I was very desperate and willing to do whatever it took to climb out of that pit. I also knew I could not make this journey alone. Dan and Betty, along with many others, climbed down into that dark, slimy pit with me and became God with skin on. They sounded the alarm and gathered the troops.
Today, I can say with the certainty of an experienced pit dweller that there is a way out. I have good news for you, my friend. You are not alone! I believe that one reason God allowed me to experience the pit of depression is to help others find the way out. I want to say to those of you who are in that pit -- and to those of you who are peering over the edge of it wondering how to help someone you love -- you do not have to be a prisoner of the dark. You do not have to stay in your pit. You do not have to stand helplessly by while a friend or family member drowns in the darkness of depression. We were meant to dwell in the light. So lift up your head, open up your heart, and listen for the voice of the One who knows you best and loves you most. He can and will bring you out of the dark.
Let's Pray
Lord, it seems as if my world has collapsed, hurling me into a deep, dark pit. I come to you in complete surrender. I am desperate for you, helpless and afraid. Please lift me out of this pit and show me the way, Lord. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pour out your heart to your God, asking Him to uncover the dark places in your life. As He does, record them in simple, honest words. Each day, read aloud Psalm 40:1-3 and claim it as a certain hope from God's heart to yours.
Go back over your life. When have you experienced the darkness? How has it affected your life? In what ways?
What has been your typical response to the dark times in life? Does that response line up with Psalm 40:1-3?
Do you really believe that if you cry out to God that He will hear your cry? What does that mean to you?
Are you willing to face and deal with the darkness in your life?
Ask a friend to be your prayer partner this week as you begin this journey to the Light!
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Statistics show that more people struggle with depression during the month of January than at any other time of the year. I know. I have been in that pit, and if God can deliver me, He can and will deliver you. Hope in the Midst of Depression is my story of desperation, brokenness and restoration. I pray it will be a blessing to you.
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January 8, 2009
Set Free
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You will know the truth and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32 NIV).
Friend to Friend
For fifteen years, Leeanne was emotionally and verbally abused by her mother. Every day she heard that she was a stupid worthless failure. Her mother told her that she was "ugly" and "fat" and "not good enough." "No man will ever want you," she scorned.
Leeanne grew up afraid of women and hating herself. "Why can't I be different?" she wondered. She believed her mother's estimation of her and lived in defeat. Leeanne grabbed attention any way she could, and by the time she was twenty-three, she had three abortions on her medical record. The guilt and shame of those abortions compounded her feelings of worthlessness.
But something amazing happened to Leeanne when she was twenty-four. She accepted Jesus as her Lord and Savior and became a new creation. She knew that God forgave her the moment she asked -- totally and completely. However, Satan continued to remind her of the terrible mistakes of her past. How could I have killed my children? What would my friends think if they knew the truth? I can never let anyone know about my past. Some things are simply unforgivable in human eyes.
Leeanne met and married a wonderful Christian man. They began their life of ministry as he pastored a church in a small community. God blessed them with three wonderful children, but still the shame of her past lingered.
"I felt so unworthy of my husband's love," she said. "I felt I wasn't good enough to be his wife. I never told him about my past. It was a secret that weighed me down."
Leeanne went to a women's retreat and picked up one of my books, Your Scars are Beautiful to God. For the first time, she began to heal from the wounds her mother had inflicted on her little girl heart. She realized that is was Satan who continued to taunt her with those lies and make her feel as if they were true. Then she did something that really made the enemy mad. She forgave her mother. Even though her mother had since died, she forgave her as if she were standing before her that very day.
Leeanne imagined Jesus erasing away all her faults, especially the ones that her mother had so maliciously written on the chalkboard of her mind. "All gone," she said. "I'm set free."
But there was one more step to Leeanne's freedom. See, as long as she kept her past a secret, she would never be totally free. "I prayed all day and night for the courage to tell my husband about the three abortions, and I finally did. No one in the world knew about the abortions but me. I had to tell my husband the secret so Satan could not use it against me any longer."
"Finally, I did it. I told him the truth. But he did not react the way I imagined he would. He held me in his arms and cried. 'I can't believe you have held on to this for so long alone,' he said."
Leeanne went on to say...
"I am no longer shameful. I am pure."
"I am no longer ugly. I am beautiful."
"I am no longer unlovable. I am dearly loved."
Leeanne recognized the lies. Leeanne rejected the lies. Leeanne replaced the lies with truth. She is now walking in the truth as a holy, chosen, dearly loved, child of God.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank You for setting me free from condemnation. Thank you for Your grace -- receiving the gift I don't deserve, and for mercy -- not receiving the punish I do deserve. Thank You for making me a new creation in Christ -- pure, holy, cleansed.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Is there some secret in your life that the enemy is holding over you?
Do you want to be free?
Often, an important step to freedom, after receiving God's forgiveness, is telling someone and using what you have been through to help others. Then the enemy can't use it against you any longer. If you don't have a trusted friend with whom to share, I would like to be that friend. You can simply e-mail me and tell me how God has forgiven you. You can write me directly at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com
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Do you want to experience the freedom that Leeanne experienced in her life? It begins with recognizing the lies and replacing them with the truth. It's time to renew your mind and think God's thoughts rather than being held in bondage by the enemy's deceptions. If you would like help on that journey, see Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Also, if you have wounds in your life that have yet to heal, Your Scars are Beautiful to God will walk you through the steps to freedom.
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January 9, 2009
Crow anyone?
Marlo Peddycord Francis
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Marlo Francis.
Today's Truth
"Don't pick on people, jump on their failures, or criticize their faults-- unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It's easy to see a smudge on your neighbor's face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, 'Let me wash your face for you,' when your own face is distorted by contempt? It's this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor."
Matthew 7: 1-5, The Message
Friend to Friend
It was late afternoon as I screeched into the driveway and franticly started unloading my car. I had arrived home the night before from a week of ministry travel, and as brilliance would have it ... I planned a dinner party for my return. You'd think that I would have planned it somewhere else other than my own home ... but no, some flicker of momentary insanity convinced me that I would arrive from Atlanta calm, completely caught up, and ready to entertain. Would someone please slap me the next time I think something like that?
As I slid the grocery bags across the kitchen floor and then ran for more, I decided that if I triple-timed everything from that moment forward, I would have dinner ready when the guests arrived. Of course, that meant sacrificing some of the frivolous things off my pre-dinner "to do" list, such as using the bathroom, changing clothes, and washing the vegetables. I could live with that!
As I unpacked, my husband Steve chose the wrong time to walk through the kitchen.
"Oh honey, would you puh-leeze help me get this stuff put away? Everyone is going to be here and I still have a gazillion things to do. If you would put those salad dressings in the fridge to cool before we eat, it would really help."
Now, let me just say, Steve had just gotten off "daddy duty" with my arrival home, and his accommodating spirit had graciously allowed me the opportunity to stay out of town for six days. He is so supportive of my ministry work, and he does everything he can to encourage what God is doing in my life. However, the man was more than happy to pass the torch back into my motherly hands when I got home. Still, my request was met with an understanding smile and a, "Sure, sweetie", as he turned around and headed to unpack my bounty of Newman's and Hidden Valley. What a precious husband I have, had scarcely passed through my brain when all of the sudden I felt my blood pressure rising.
When Steve opened the door to the refrigerator, he saw the crowded door filled with bottles, jars, and containers. He sighed heavily, shook his head, and proceeded to unload the whole fridge door onto my countertop. My head began to spin around like a rabid owl.
Now hear me ladies, this is exactly the same sort of behavior I have seen in my father. My mother will ask him to stop and help her do a simple task ... and he (along with his enormous left brain) will have to stop, reorganize, label, and color code whatever the project is centered around. He just doesn't understand how Mama lets things get so... ummm ... "right-brainy". We creative types must have our outlets. You could eat off Mama's or my kitchen floor with no risk of disease ... but stay out of our fridges and sock drawers. It isn't pretty.
Steve is so much like my father, so he quietly dove right in to remedy my "right-brainy" refrigerator disorder. Observing this from the other side of the kitchen ... and knowing our guests were most likely on their way across town ... I stopped spinning my head long enough to release a low, guttural growl and said, "You're doing that thing my father does." Steve looked up at me with sticky, half-full bottles of dressing that expired 7 years ago piled in his arms and calmly, unashamedly stated, "That's because you are doing that thing your mother does."
Touché.
Score:
Steve -1
Marlo - 0
When he said it, I felt such conviction flood my spirit. Sure, I was rushed and flustered. Sure, there were hungry people headed across town expecting a meal I had yet to prepare. As the world would see it, I had plenty of reasons to be impatient with this sudden display of tidiness on Steve's part. However, not only had he willingly given so much of himself over the last six days for the good of our family; but he had done it out of genuine love and support for who I am in Christ. I was so quick to overlook that precious gift ~ and instead, I chose to react harshly to the first thing that irritated me. As soon as he responded, the scripture of Matthew 7 sprang from my memory. I felt so badly for jumping on him, knowing that his intent was to do something helpful. In the seconds that followed his reaction, we stopped and our eyes met. I'm amazed that Steve could see mine with the honking planks protruding from my sockets; but surprisingly, he could. We started at one another for a moment, and then we burst out laughing. I said, "I'm so sorry! You are right; I am just like my mother. I love to cram bottles in the door ... I can't help it!" We hugged, and the guests arrived within the hour.
As we sat down to our meal, I gazed across the table at Steve, realizing all over again why I love him so much. I also thanked God that He swiftly brought the truth of His Word to my heart when harsh words were so close to the surface. He reminded me that it is easy to look at the actions of others and feel justified in judgment ... but He used that truth to point out how my actions are equally capable of prompting the same response.
As everyone cut open their piping hot potatoes and dressed their crunchy, cold salads, I quietly thanked the Lord for the salt of Scripture ... and how much better crow tastes when it's sprinkled with the Word of Truth.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the power of Your Word. Thank You that when we hide scripture in our hearts, You bring it back to us when we need it most. I am sorry for the times I quickly reach out to remove the smudge from someone's face ~ failing to check my own face in the mirror. Please give me a heart that is quick to love and slow to point a finger. Let me be a servant of grace and an ambassador of mercy. Thank You that even when we see fall so short, You allow us to find reconciliation and even sometimes, a laugh.
In Your name, Jesus, we pray,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
We all have moments of looking at the speck in someone else's eye. Our sinful nature makes sure of that. This week, ask the Lord to make you sensitive to those times when your reaction is to check your neighbor's eye before your own. Often times, after examining our own faces in the mirror ... we see grace in a whole new light. Thank God today for His patience and mercy ~ and ask Him to give you new eyes to see others more clearly, for His glory.
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What an important message Marlo has shared today! I will never again look at salad dressing in quite the same way! We encourage you to read, to study and memorize Scripture so that when the time comes, it is a powerful tool, ready to be used. Need help? Visit the Girlfriends in God website for resources that will encourage and equip you for the journey.
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January 12, 2009
Swollen Imaginations
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"(We are) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5 (KJV)
Friend To Friend
Ada had an uneventful dental visit at my husband's office -- just a routine filling. He was surprised when she called him at home later that evening, complaining of a swollen cheek and excruciating pain.
"Dr. Jaynes," she groaned. "I can barely hold my head up. My face is swollen, I can't open my mouth, and the pain is severe."
"Ada, I'm so sorry you're having trouble," Steve replied. "I can't imagine what the problem could be. I'll call you in some pain medicine and you come in first thing in the morning."
The following day, I was working as Steve's assistant, and was amazed at Ada's appearance when she arrived at the office. Her eyes were half closed, she could barely walk, and her right cheek did appear quite swollen. Ada sat down in the chair as if every movement took great effort. She could barely open her mouth to let Steve see what the problem might be. Finally, she did manage to open slightly. Steve gently lifted her lip and a huge grim spread across his face. He reached in with an instrument and removed a cotton roll from the area between her cheek and tooth... that I had forgotten to remove the previous day.
Ada's eyes popped open as she miraculously bolted upright in the chair. "What did you do?" she exclaimed, all signs of weakness gone. Ada was miraculously healed!
Steve grinned and held up the small piece of cotton. "This is what was causing you so much 'pain.'"
Ada was terribly embarrassed.
Steve and I replayed the scenes from the previous day. Before placing the filling, he put a small cotton roll between Ada's cheek and tooth to keep the area dry. I was assisting him that day and forgot to remove the cotton roll when he had finished. When the anesthesia wore off, Ada felt her cheek and thought it was swollen. As the night wore on, her imagination ran rampant until she had worked herself into such a state, she could barely move with imaginary pain. She had made herself sick. Never once did she open her mouth and look inside. If she had, she would have seen a little white piece of cotton.
That is the power of our imagination and faulty thinking. We can talk ourselves into believing a lie to the point that it affects our actions and our emotions and even our health. However, with close examination, we can recognize the lie and stand on the truth.
Finally, Paul writes to "take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ." Just like the policeman who pursues and captures a criminal on the loose, we can capture those runaway thoughts and lock them away for good. Oh, Satan will try to post bail and set them free again. But we have the power and the authority to lock them up and throw away the key.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Help me recognize when I've let my thoughts run away like a wild stallion. Help me rein in worry and regret with the truth of Your Word. Thank You for the Holy Spirit who gives me the power to take every thought captive. Help me to cooperate with him.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope today's devotion made you laugh. To tell you the truth, sometimes we just need to laugh at ourselves. Yes, taking every thought captive is serious business, but laughing at the way we can work ourselves up over nothing is sometimes ... well, just plain funny.
Has there ever been a time when you've just had to laugh at yourself over unnecessary worry or fretting? If so, I'd love to hear about it!
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Today's comical look at how believing something that is not true can affect every aspect of our lives ... even our health ... is taken from Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. To learn more about how to recognize the lies, rejects the lies, and replace the lies with truth, check out the book at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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January 13, 2009
Getting Good at Being You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I made you in your mother's womb, I chose you." (NCV)
Friend to Friend
Beginnings are very important! In fact, the place of origin has much to do with the quality of the journey as well as the final destination! My journey - like yours - began in the heart and mind of God. Before I took even one breath, God wanted, loved and planned me. That same truth applies to you, my friend. You are no accident! You and I were created in response to the love of God and according to His plans. God did not "accidentally" create us and then step back in alarm and say, "Oops! I created her. Now what am I going to do with her?" The plan came first.
There have been many times in my life when I doubted my worth and value. I filled every waking moment with activity -- good things -- thinking that if I did enough good things, I would be good enough. It didn't work. I can never be good enough to earn the love and favor of God. The good news is that I don't have to be! My worth and value rest in the fact that I am chosen by God to be His very own child. I am loved, wanted and planned by God Himself. Wow! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created -- not to be a puppet -- but for an intimate relationship with God.
Psalm 139:14-16 "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old." (NCV)
When our son, Jered, was four-years-old, we enrolled him in a daycare for two mornings each week. Jered loved to play with other children and always seemed to get along with all of the other children. I was surprised and upset when his teacher asked me to come in for a conference. My husband said, "Honey, how bad can it be? Jered is only four!" Jered's teacher met with a smile and a good report. "Jered is a wonderful little boy," she began, "but there is one problem. How long has Jered known he was adopted?" I was still clueless about that being a problem, but answered, "Since he began talking. We have told him repeatedly how special he is and that he is a chosen baby." She smiled and went on to explain that Jered told the other children that he was special because he was adopted. In fact, Jered informed each child that his mom and dad had chosen him -- while their parents "got stuck" with them.
Listen, my friend, when you begin to understand and live out the eternal truth that you are loved, planned, wanted and chosen by God, His perfect plan and highest purpose will naturally unfold before you each day. Remember, in His eyes, you are special and His plan for your life is simply for you to get good at being you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know You and find Your plan for my life. I choose to see myself through Your eyes of love, forgiveness and grace. I want to be the woman You created me to be. Thank You for loving me. Help me to walk each day in the knowledge that I am Your child.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really believe God loves you unconditionally?
What proof of that belief is evident in your life?
Do you consider yourself worthy? Why or why not?
Read Psalm 139 each day for one month. Record the new truths that you learn, the changes in your perspective and any fresh insights in your journal.
At the end of the month, write Psalm 139 in your own words and share it with a friend.
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I have spent many years of my life trying to earn the favor and love of God. I worked very hard at being the person I thought God wanted me to be instead of seeking Him to discover who He created me to be. Rick Warren once asked, "Mary, who is going to be you if you don't be you?" I had to stop and think about that statement for a minute, but slowly began to realize that God really does have a special plan just for me and that my highest act of obedience is to seek that plan each and every day. Hope in the Midst of Depression is the story of my struggle to see myself as God sees me and in doing so, be set free from the darkness of judgment and condemnation. I encourage you to visit my online store and pick up a copy.
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January 14, 2009
The Problem with Sight
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path." Psalm 119:105 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
On July 16, 1999, John F Kennedy, Jr., his wife, Carolyn Bessette, and his sister-in-law, Lauren Bessette, met their death in a watery grave in the Atlantic Ocean. John was piloting their single engine aircraft and was only a few miles from their destination of Martha's Vineyard when something went terribly wrong
The plane left New York City en route to a family gathering in Massachusetts in the dark of night, and while crossing a thirty-mile stretch of water to make its final decent, the plane began a series of erratic maneuvers. John's descent varied between 400 and 800 feet per minute, about seven miles from shore. The plane began an erratic series of turns, descents and climbs. Its final decent eventually exceeded 4700 fpm and the airplane nose-dived into the ocean. Other pilots flying similar routes on the night of the accident reported no visual horizon while flying over the water because of haze. They couldn't see a thing. The watery grave swallowed the plane and the three passengers on board. (www.airsafe.com/events/celebs/jfk_jr.htm)
One pilot explained that John most likely experienced the "Black Hole" syndrome. Pilots of small engine planes use the horizon as a reference point. However, John lost visual sight of the horizon and his eyes gave the brain no clue as to which way was up and which way was down. In this situation, if an airplane should turn slightly or nose down slightly, the body's inner ear compensates to make the pilot believe he's flying straight and level. If for some reason the pilot makes another correction, he can make a bad decision worse. (www/cnn.com/chat/transcripts/Edmund.pinto.html)
John was not flying under Instrument Flight Rules, but rather Visual Flight Rules. That means that he was not trained to use the instrument panel properly, but simply learned how to fly by sight alone. When he could not see the horizon due to hazy conditions, John became disoriented and his mind lost its sense of perspective and direction. He had what we commonly call vertigo and the flight pattern showed all the evidence of "mind wobbling and tortured confusion." (www.airlinesafety.com/editorials/JFKJrCrash.htm Heart Over Mind: the Death of JFK, Jr. by Eric Nolte) While John had all the instruments on board for a safe landing, he did not know how to use them.
One pilot explained John's vertigo and disorientation this way, "And here is the crux of the matter; the pilot's emotions drowned out the flight instrument's story about banking and diving at high speed, and screamed out, "No Way! It can't be! I'm actually flying straight and level! I know it!"
John's instruments told him that his wings were tilted (flying sideways), but he felt that he was right-side-up. A skilled instrument flyer knows he can't rely on his feelings and has the ability to regain control of the airplane by depending on the instruments. Instructors call this lifesaving skill "recovery from unusual attitudes." "The real skill of instrument flying is truly depending on the instrument's readings rather than your feelings. Recovery from 'unusual attitudes' consists of one essential belief: your feelings cannot be trusted as the final authority on what the airplane is doing. Your mind is the boss. The instruments are your window on reality and you desperately need to understand the data they provide."
Friend, I hope you are tracking with me. This isn't just about flying an airplane; this is about maneuvering through life! John had everything he needed to make a safe landing right there on the instrument panel in front of him. He had the resources available for a safe landing, but he didn't know how to use them. John chose to rely on his feelings rather than the facts. His feelings lied. He died.
We have the opportunity right before us to learn how to fly through the storms of life with limited visibility. We can maneuver safely through unexpected turbulence and relational malfunctions. God has given us the tools to avoid becoming disoriented and going into a tailspin or nose-dive. His Word is the Truth that guides us through the inky soup of life when the horizon is nowhere in sight. His Word is the instrument panel. However, if we rely on our feelings we won't know which way is up and which way is down.
This new year, let's purpose to learn the instrument panel (God's Word) and stop flying by sight alone. Then we'll have smooth take offs and safe landings, even in the turbulence of life.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Your Word tells us that You have given us everything we need for a life of godliness and truth. Help me to walk in the light of Your truth and not to stumble around with my limited sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and note how living in the truth affects your life. Give an example of each.
Psalm 40:11
Psalm 43:3
John 8:32
John 8:51
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Ready for some flying lessons so that you can soar? Want to learn more about the instrument panel of God's Truth that will guide you in the darkest of times? Then you'll want to check out Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, to see the important role that knowing and believing the Truth plays in abundant living.
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January 15, 2009
Sandpaper People
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 13:34 "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." (NIV)
Friend To Friend
We live in a world that hoards a myriad of problems. However, you will be thrilled to know that I have discovered the biggest problem of all -- people! In my opinion, if there were fewer people, there would definitely be fewer problems. Let's be honest! Some people are more difficult to get along with than others; they "rub" us the wrong way! I call them "Sandpaper People". Sandpaper people come in all shapes, sizes and colors and sometimes they are us! We try to change them, run from them, ignore them and even take a stab at fixing them. If only it were that simple. It rarely is.
Getting along with sandpaper people requires a new point of view, seeing them as God sees them. We cannot base love on feelings, but on God's love released by choices we make in dealing with sandpaper people.
· Choose love. Ephesians 2:10 "We are God's workmanship." (NIV)
The artist came to the park every day when the light was just right, positioning his easel and paints under the same familiar shade tree. For hours, he watched people strolling by, searching for just the right face to paint. A beggar sitting across the path caught his eye. Thinking of God's handiwork in every human being, the artist resolved to paint the man as he imagined he could be. With the last stroke, the artist breathed a sigh of satisfaction. It was done. And it was some of his best work. The artist then called the beggar over to see the painting. "Is that me?' the beggar asked. "That is the "you" I see!" replied the artist. The beggar stared at the painting, and with tears in his eyes, softly spoke, "If that's the man you see in me, then that's the man I shall be!"
Sandpaper people desperately need someone who will look beyond their abrasive behavior to recognize their worth. Sandpaper people have allowed someone or something to assign an identity to them that is false. As a result, they live a life they were never intended to live, bound to an unhealthy self-image, having no concept of who they really are or what they can become. Desperate to fit in, they try on different identities like trying on new clothes, wondering why none of them fit. Sandpaper people fail to understand that their identity was established before the world began, in the heart and mind of God. That's where we come in.
When we make the deliberate choice to love a sandpaper person, we are inviting God to work in us and through us to bring about change; to create His image in us so we can then see His image in others. Difficult relationships find it hard to survive in an atmosphere of love because stubborn wills yield to love as the worth of a soul is recognized and valued.
· Choose encouragement. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Encourage one another." (MIV)
If you want to disarm a sandpaper person, become their cheerleader! By focusing on their good points, your perspective of that person will change. Other people's perspective of that person will change and even that person's own perspective will change.
In second grade, my son, Jered, had a classmate, Kyle, who qualified as a first class sandpaper person. One Monday morning, Kyle came to school with both arms in a cast from wrist to elbow. The teacher explained that Kyle would need a friend to help him do class work, eat lunch, go to the restroom, and in short, be his personal slave for eight weeks.
In the silent, tension-filled classroom, it seemed as if everyone was holding their breath, hoping Kyle would somehow disappear. He didn't. Disappointment clouded the teacher's face until Jered said, "I'll do it, Miss Chism." A sigh of relief erupted as everyone stared at Jered in gratitude, unable to understand why he would link himself to this abrasive kid, but clearly glad he had.
Over the next few weeks, Jered discovered that Kyle wasn't so bad after all. In fact, they became friends. Then Kyle's behavior began to change. The other children, watching this unlikely friendship unfold, surmised that if Jered liked the sandpaper boy, there must be something worth liking. After eight weeks, the class of now-wiser children included Kyle in every activity. When the casts came off, so did the old sandpaper person. All he needed was a cheerleader. Maybe that's all your sandpaper person needs.
· Choose thankfulness. Philippians 4: 6b "Always be thankful, for this is God's will." (NIV)
Choosing to be thankful for sandpaper people is one of the most important choices we can make, as well as one of the most difficult choices we must make to bring any measure of health to the relationship. Thankfulness is a foreign language to sandpaper people, their native tongue criticism and displeasure. The last thing any sandpaper person expects to encounter is an attitude of thankfulness. Yet, it is the first step God commands us to take.
Right now, begin thanking God for allowing you to experience pain at the hand of a sandpaper person. Praise Him for the shattered dreams and crushed hopes that have come as the result of a difficult relationship. Trust Him to take what the enemy meant for bad and use it for good in your life. If you want to experience victory in your most difficult relationships, thank God for each and every one.
Sandpaper people are not only a reality of life, but opportunities from the heart of God. God uses difficult relationships in my life as catalysts through which He lovingly upsets my comfortable plans and purposefully redirects my safe and sound steps. Every relationship, difficult or easy, is wrapped in God's love, faithfully delivered with His permission and wrapped in His plan. The world is watching, as is every sandpaper person in our lives, pushing every limit to see how we will respond. It is through these difficult relationships that we grow and mature in Christ. The rough edges fall away as we welcome the lessons sandpaper people bring.
Let's Pray
Father, ________________ is driving me crazy! I know I am supposed to love her like You love her, but it is just so hard. I have tried changing her, ignoring her and even tried to fix her. Nothing has worked. Today, I ask You to love her through me, Lord. Give me the right heart attitude to encourage her as I thank You for allowing her presence in my life. Help me to love as You love me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What name came to mind when I first mentioned a "sandpaper person." Why?
What has been your response to this difficult person? Did it work? Why or why not?
Find one good thing in the life of this abrasive person and voice it -- today!
Write a note of encouragement to your sandpaper person.
Right now, mentally cut any strings attached to your actions toward your sandpaper person. Choose to love freely. Choose to love like God loves you.
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I know what you are thinking. "Mary, you have no idea what you are asking me to do. It is impossible to love the sandpaper person in my life." First, I am not doing the asking. God is. Second, it is impossible to love the unlovable on your own. God will supply the love you need to love that difficult person in your life. Just ask. Need some help? Check out my book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to love the difficult people in your life. It is also available on CD and as a MP3 download.
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January 16, 2009
The Undertow of Fear
Lisa Whittle
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Lisa Whittle.
Today's Truth
"But when I am afraid, I put my trust in you." Psalm 56:3 (NLT)
Friend To Friend
The beach is one of my favorite places on earth to be. I don't like the sand so much, especially now with three small children and all they can do with it, but I love the water. I love to hear its mighty roar as it crashes onto shore. I love to watch my children play in it, laughing and splashing while they try to "outrun" the waves.
Several years ago, my husband, Scott, and I took Graham, our only child at the time, to the beach for a few days. He was excited to get there and play, and I was anxious to rest my eight-months-pregnant feet on the soft sand while my husband and child got some daddy-son time. I had only watched them for a few minutes before drifting off to sleep in my brightly-colored beach chair. I didn't see the events of the next few minutes, but my husband remembers them quite vividly.
The beach we were visiting was right on an intercostals water way. The enormous cargo boats would pass by at a certain point everyday. And for a two-year-old child, the "great big boat" was possibly the neatest thing he had ever seen in his young life. Graham was ecstatic. "Wook, Daddy!" he said. "See the big boat? My husband smiled as he replied, "Yes, buddy. I see it." He was thrilled to share the moment with his awestruck son.
Scott soon noticed that the undertow was starting to pull them out a little farther than he felt comfortable going. The power of the big boat had made quite an impact on the ocean water. While Graham continued to play, my husband became afraid.
"Let's go back in, closer to Mommy, okay?" His anxiety was intensifying, as the subtle tug of water got stronger. As a young naïve child, Graham was oblivious. Soon Daddy's words became commanding. Come on, big guy. It's time to go in now. "Hold on to me, and I'll carry you back to the shore". Graham then wrapped his arms around my husband's neck. He was holding on to his daddy, and his daddy was holding on to him. Nothing or no one could have come between them.
Life is unpredictable, and dangers loom closer than we sometimes think. Undertows can sweep our feet from under us without warning. But our God is ready, willing, and able to scoop us up into His arms, His mighty arms, and carry us to a place of shelter, safety and ultimate security. He is our source, the only One we need, to rid us of all our deep anxieties and concerns. We must rely on Him, and Him alone, to save us.
I learned a verse when I was a young child: "But when I am afraid, I put my trust in you." It started out as just one of my weekly verses my mother made me memorize to get a star on my "good behavior chart." But over the years, Psalm 56:3 came to mean so much more.
As a child, I would recall this verse whenever I was scared of the dark or had a bad dream. I said it when I heard a noise or if I imagined a "bad guy" in my room. It helped me go back to sleep feeling less afraid. With years of life now under my belt and young children of my own, I am still quoting this verse. Gone are the days of the boogeyman under the bed, but I still get scared. I get scared about my health. I get scared for my children. I get scared about what tomorrow holds. And when I do, I recite those eleven precious and inspired words that seem as though they were written just for me. They help me not to be so afraid when the darkness comes.
When you are facing your fear, whatever it is, God is asking you to hold on to Him. He in turn will hold on to you. And nothing and no one will ever come between you.
(*Excerpt taken from "The Seven Hardest Things God Asks a Woman to Do")
Let's Pray
Oh Lord, help me know You are near during those times I am afraid. I pray that I will trust You when life sweeps me up in its undertow and threatens to harm me. May I learn to place my life in Your capable and strong hands.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
1) Submit yourself to the scrutiny of the Lord and ask him to show you the areas of your life that are controlled by fear.
2) Write them down and pray over each one, claiming the victory in your life by the power of God over every area.
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Trust is a big issue for most women. Whether or not we have been taken advantage of, stepped on, betrayed or belittled, we have a difficult time making ourselves completely vulnerable with others. We need to take inventory of our soul and make sure we truly believe that God can be trusted with our life. In order to overcome our fears, we must be willing to relinquish control over the areas that concern us.
For more on this topic, see...
The 7 Hardest Things God Asks a Woman to Do by Kathie Reimer and Lisa Whittle (Shepherd Press, 2007)
Behind Those Eyes: What's Really Going on inside the Souls of Women by Lisa Whittle (Thomas Nelson, 2008)
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January 19, 2009
Taming the Evil Yes Monster
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said." Luke 10:38-39 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever bitten off more than you could chew? Have you ever said, "Sure, I'll be glad to do that!" when you should have said, "I'm sorry, but I can't commit to that right now?" Has an over-loaded schedule ever added stress to you, your family, or your relationships? I would think you've answered, "yes" to each of the previous questions. I know I did.
Each New Year, we have the opportunity to reflect on our lives and make positive adjustments. Two areas I constantly evaluate are my calendar and commitments. Trust me, I'm not the boundary queen. I won't even pretend to have all the answers about this topic, because I don't. I bow to the evil "yes monster" more than I care to admit. I'm in the trenches with you, constantly struggling to find a healthy balance between faith, family, friends, fashion, and ministry. (Okay, fashion doesn't really belong on that list, though it's terribly fun, I just wanted to see if you were paying attention!) J
Jesus had some friends named Mary and Martha. Martha was a busy girl who allowed her to-do list to keep her from worship. Mary just wanted to be with Jesus.
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"
"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her." Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)
This year, let's choose what's better! It's so important that we establish healthy boundaries in our lives to keep us from being too busy to sit at the Lord's feet. Over the years, I've been forced to grow in the area of setting boundaries in order to bless and preserve my faith, family, friendships and ministry. In an article called Setting Boundaries, Dr. Richard J. Krejcir wrote, "A boundary is a fence to ward of potential problems and to protect those in its guardianship."
What does that look like in real life? How can we possibly spend time with the Lord, keep our homes clean, run errands, go to meetings, serve on committees, change diapers, shower, find missing teddy bears, take Johnny to little league, run Sally to dance practice, and have a hot, healthy dinner on the table by six o'clock? I'm sure it will look different for each of us, but there's one basic parameter that applies across the board, whether you are married, divorced, single, or widowed, or with or without children: make time for God.
Jesus said that the highest call on your life is to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" (Matthew 22:37). Keep the main thing the main thing! Nothing should replace your personal time with God. Set aside time each day for Bible study, prayer, and worship. Jesus tells us that we must remain in Him. "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).
And one additional thought: protect your passions. What do you love to do? Is there time in your life for it? Make it a priority. Allow yourself time to refuel and relax by scheduling fun time. Whether it's taking a hike in the woods, playing the piano, having lunch with a girlfriend, reading a book, or bargain shopping, keep your heart fed with fun. You'll be a better you for it!
Once you've established faith boundaries that prioritize and protect your time with Jesus, you can freely say "yes" to the opportunities that are in line with your passion and interests. You can also say "no" to the yes monster that tries to rob you of God's best and to dilute your focus.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me for the times when I clutter my life with busyness and fail to put You first. Help me to discern what is best for my schedule according to Your perfect will, and equip me with the wisdom and courage to make any changes that are needed. I love You and long to know you more with all my heart, mind, and soul.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you relate more with Mary or Martha?
Are you saying yes to too many things? Protect you and your family from the evil yes monster. Take a few moments to consider if any of your activities could be eliminated.
More From The Girlfriends
Friend, don't be discouraged if your calendar seems off-the-charts crazy. I know what that's like. This devotion wasn't written to condemn, only to challenge. Let's choose the best together and clear a space everyday to sit and worship at the feet of Jesus. "Through All Generations" is a CD filled with ancient hymns and modern worship songs that was designed to lead you to the transforming presence of God. Order your copy today.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. You can listen to her music on her My Space.
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January 20, 2009
Broken Mirrors
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"As [a man] thinks within himself, so he is." Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever wondered why it is so easy to believe the lies about who we are rather than God's truth? Maybe you're not sure what God's truth is? And where do those lies come from? Well, it all began in the Garden.
After the sixth day of creation, when God looked at all He made, He pronounced, "It is good." But something went terribly wrong. The enemy crept into God's perfect world and deceived His image bearers with lies. And while God's redemptive plan has restored what the serpent destroyed, the enemy continues to tell us lies even today. He tells us that we are worthless, powerless, failures who are not good enough, smart enough, or competent enough to succeed. And it is not the truth.
When God created the world and stocked the seas with marine life and the skies with winged creatures - when He ignited the stars in the night sky and placed the sun to light the day and the moon to illumine the darkness - He did so with words. "And God said ... and it came to be" (Genesis 1:3-26). God spoke and what was not became what is. "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth." (Psalm 33:6)
Amazingly, when God created man in His own image, He gave us that same powerful tool. He didn't entrust words to monkeys, zebras, or elephants. He gave words to man. Our words also have creative potential. In fact, the Bible tells us that "death and life are in the power of the tongue." Proverbs 18:21 (NASB) Our words become the mirror in which others see themselves. Our words impact children, husbands, friends, and the world. But some of the most powerful words we speak are the ones that no one hears ... the words we speak to ourselves.
We can speak life to ourselves and we can speak death to ourselves. Our minds think about 130 words per minute and our mouths (women) speak about 25,000 words in a day. That's a lot of words! A considerable amount of those words are spoken or thought to ourselves. Most of this self-talk is harmless, such as what will I fix for dinner? or where did I put my hairbrush? But some are very destructive.
Saying, "I'm so stupid," "I'm such an idiot," or "I'm never going to be good enough," can create habitual destructive thought patterns that can paralyze a person into inactivity. Negative self-perceptions repeated over a period will brand themselves into our minds and eventually become our reality. If you repeat an unbelief or lie enough times, you begin to believe it. "Nobody loves me," "I don't have any friends," or "I'm so ugly" becomes your reality ... even though it is a false reality. You can become stuck in the house of mirrors looking at a distorted reflection of who you really are.
The negative destructive lies of the enemy are like a tar baby. The more you play with it, toy with it, embrace it, the more you get stuck to it. Each time we speak a lie about ourselves, we become more bound to it. "As [a man] thinks within himself, so he is" (Proverbs 23:7 NKJV)
When we look into God's mirror, His incredible love letter to us we call the Bible, we discover the truth. God does love you (Colossians 3:12) You have an entire cloud of witnesses cheering for you (Hebrews 12:1). You are God's masterpiece ... a work of beautiful art (Ephesians 2:10). You are good enough because Christ lives in you (John 14:20). You are a chosen, holy, dearly loved child of God. That's the truth. Let's start seeing ourselves as God sees us.
In one of John's letters, he wrote, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth" (3 John 1:4). I believe that God has no greater joy than to know that His children are walking in the truth. When we are walking in the truth, the lies are exposed. We can recognize the lie, reject the lie, and replace the lie with truth. Then, and only then, can we be all that God has created us to be and do all that God has created us to do. We can experience the abundant life that He planned all along.
I believe that God has great plans for us all – His Word promises that He does. "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him" (1 Corinthians 2:9). But many of us are not experiencing the abundant life because we don't know who we are. We have believed the lies that we are not good enough, unloved, unworthy, and unforgivable. We have been looking in distorted mirrors for far too long. God wants us to look into the only true mirror that will tell us exactly who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God – His Word. It is the key to living the victorious Christian life.
It is time to start believing the truth. It is time to hear God say, "You are my daughter, whom I love; with you I am well pleased."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I have believed the lies of the enemy way too long. This year, I am going to purpose to renew my mind with the truth of Your Word and begin seeing myself as You see me ...Your chosen, holy, and dearly loved child.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you believed the lies of the enemy rather than God's truth?
Do you see yourself as God sees you?
Look up the following verses to discover just a glimpse of who you are as a child of God.
Romans 5:1
1 Corinthians 2:16
Colossians 3:12
2 Peter 1:4
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January 21, 2009
Climbing Out of the Pit, Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry." Psalm 40:1 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
Children are wonderfully different! When our son, Jered, was nine months old, he began to pull up on every piece of furniture that would hold his stocky little frame. For weeks, he maneuvered his way around our home, until one day, he took his first step ... alone! Now, it was a step of only inches but we celebrated as if he had run a marathon! Then there is our daughter, Danna, who crawled when she was four months old, before she could even sit up. We assumed she would be walking within a matter of weeks. Danna had a different plan. She never pulled up on a single piece of furniture. She never took a step, but one day, when she was ten months old, she simply stood up and trotted across the room. Jered and Danna both walk extremely well today as teenagers, but they both began with tiny steps and with a plan uniquely their own.
Nobody becomes depressed overnight. Nobody overcomes it overnight. The journey out of the pit of depression is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. He is the Guide for your journey out of the darkness.
Step One: Wait for God.
In Psalm 40:1, David writes, "I waited patiently for the LORD." I had always thought of waiting as passive and even wasteful. But I began to see that waiting is active and can be a powerful spiritual experience.
To wait means to accept the pit.
Picture yourself falling into a slimy pit. Your first reaction, like mine, would probably be to frantically claw and struggle, fighting your way out! Then, when you have used up all energy, you stop struggling and sit down to rest, waiting for help because that is all you can do. You have no other options. When hard times come, we immediately begin to beg and bargain for rescue - for a way of escape. God loves us too much to waste our pain. It is a shallow love that always rescues easily. It is a depthless love that always rescues quickly. Sometimes our Father says wait. So be patient, accept your pit, and know that He is at work.
To wait means to admit that there is a problem.
We can be so proud and so self-sufficient at times. Admitting that we are helpless and must wait on God is sometimes hard. In reality, we can learn to celebrate our helplessness. We can grow to the place of rejoicing in our weakness because our weakness and helplessness are an invitation for the power of God to take up residence and display itself in our life! Isaiah tells us that "He gives power to the tired and worn out, and strength to the weak." (Isaiah 50:29 NLT)
Instead of hiding or trying to rationalize the darkness away, we must be willing to admit that we are struggling with depression. Pride always hinders authenticity. Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity, when we can be truthful enough to say to ourselves and to others "I need help!" We cannot be right until we choose to be real.
To wait means to practice authenticity.
When I first began to battle depression, my husband was the pastor/teacher of a large, very visible and fast growing church. Dan and I had a choice to make. We could choose to be transparent and real or we could attempt to hide my struggle. We chose transparency and began to share our pain with the team that God had assembled around us. We then took an even bigger risk by sharing my struggle with the entire church.
We quickly discovered that the sharing of the crisis lessened its grip on our lives. The response to our transparency and willingness to share our pain with those who had known great pain themselves was overwhelming! People began to pray. Cards, letters and Scripture verses came pouring through the mail. Women would show up at the front door with meals. At times, others came to clean my house, do my laundry and entertain my children. Deacons would station themselves at various places in the church building during any worship service that I attended. If I got "caught" in a difficult situation, all I had to do was turn and nod to them. They would come, take me by the arm and walk me to my car with a hug and instructions to go home, assuring me that they loved me and were praying for me.
We were created to share our burdens with each other. Isaiah 35:3-4 is a clear directive! "Strengthen those who have tired hands, and encourage those who have weak knees. Say to those who are afraid, 'Be strong, and do not fear, for your God is coming to destroy your enemies. He is coming to save you.'" We need each other. A shared load is a lighter load. Transparency brings healing and authenticity yields restoration!
To wait means to practice solitude.
In the pit, it is so dark that we cannot see. All we can do is wait, trust and rest. In the midst of my depression, I began to discover that darkness is a great place for solitude. Distractions are few. When the Light comes, it is easier to see and the silence makes His voice clear and strong!
Psalm 46:10 advises, "Be still and know that I am God." We cannot know God on the run. Solitude lets our souls catch up. In the jungles of Africa, a tourist was taking a safari. He hired natives from a tribe to carry all of the necessary supplies. On the first day, they walked rapidly and went far. The tourist was excited because he wanted to get there quickly. On the second morning, the tourist woke early, ready to go, but the natives refused to move. They just sat and rested. When the tourist questioned them, he was told that they had gone too fast the first day. Now they were waiting for their souls to catch up!
Stress, hurry, and intense activity can cause us to lose our perspective, to disconnect from ourselves and our purpose in life. The busier we are, the more we need regular solitude. I love the Greek motto that says: "You will break the bow if you keep it always bent." I broke! One of the main reasons that I broke was that solitude had never been a part of my life. I was too busy being spiritual. I was too busy trying to earn God's love and approval and running from the past. I was too busy trying to be good enough.
During my two years in the pit of depression, I gave up every role of leadership in order to spend time in solitude, seeking God. It felt as if I were giving up my whole identity because so much of who I was had been built upon what I did. Many times, I walked to the front door of our church, stopped and had to turn away in panic. I just could not make myself go in. As I struggled with the guilt and self-condemnation of my frailty, the Father taught me an important truth that has revolutionized my life! He is more concerned with who I am than what I do! He loves me - warts and all! If I never do another thing in the Kingdom, He still loves me. His love for me is not affected by what I do or don't do. He simply loves me! That life-changing truth was born out of darkness - in solitude.
The first step out of the pit is to wait. While we wait we must admit there is a problem, accept the pit, practice transparency and embrace solitude.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You -- weak, tired and broken. I admit my great need for You, Lord, and choose to rest in You rather than struggle against You. By faith, I accept the darkness as an opportunity to wait at Your feet, listening for Your voice alone. Change me, Lord. Teach me Your ways. Strip away what is not of You and let stand what is.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Not It's Your Turn
· Set aside 15 minutes every day this week to spend in solitude with God. Record your thoughts, prayers and needs. Be brutally honest and transparent as you write. Then spend a few moments celebrating the fact that His love covers it all.
· Why is it so hard to accept the dark times in life?
· What is keeping me from being transparent?
· Would my family and friends describe me as "authentic"?
· Am I afraid of solitude? Why?
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Did you know studies indicate that January 24 is the day when more people are depressed than at any other time of the year? Family members and holiday guests have gone home, and their visit was not what you had hoped it would be. Perhaps no one came and you were alone. The credit card bills from Christmas are starting to come in. You may have just lost your job and are facing a year of financial uncertainty. The pit of depression and darkness is filled with paralyzing fear and unanswered questions. Where do we turn? Who can deliver us from that pit? God can, my friend. For more help, visit my website to find the MP3 download or CD, Coming Out of the Dark or check out my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression.
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January 22, 2009
Climbing Out of the Pit, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry." Psalm 40:1 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
At some point in life, we all will find ourselves in some kind of pit, the darkness settling around us like a paralyzing blanket of hopelessness. That deep, dark pit may have many names, but easily becomes a prison from which escape seems impossible. The journey out of that pit is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. He is the Guide for this journey.
Step One: Wait for God.
Step Two: Cry out for help.
Many times, those who are imprisoned by darkness and depression look for help in the wrong places. Let me share with you some of the right places to find help.
Turn to God
In Psalm 40:1 "cry" literally means "to summon." What an amazing thought! The God of the universe, the One who created the world and flung the stars into space, waits and listens for the voice of His children. When they cry out, He comes to them just like a mother runs to her sick child, calling through the darkness of night. God comes to us in many ways.
· Reading His Word Psalm 119:105 "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path."
I lived in the book of Psalms during the two darkest years of my depression. I could no longer study but I could meditate. A friend had given me an instrumental tape of hymns. Every day, I would plug in that tape, take the phone off of the hook and read psalm after psalm for hours. They were like water to a thirsty heart, an oasis to a weary child, wandering in the dry and barren desert. I found myself in the words that I read and took great comfort in the fact that God was totally aware of everything that I was feeling.
· Talking with Him Peter 3:12 "For the Lord is watching his children, listening to their prayers."
The darkness called forth the most childlike prayer of my life. Day after day, night after night, I poured out the questions I had always been afraid to ask, my deepest fears and greatest pain. It was the most honest and powerful prayer of my life. I began to fall in love with the One who created me in my mother's womb and set me apart for Himself. When you spend time with Him, you will love Him and learn to know the sound of His voice above all others.
Turn to doctors and counselors
Proverbs 15: 22 "Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success."
Many people say that depression is only a spiritual problem and that there are only spiritual solutions. I disagree.
There was a terrible storm. The little girl was so frightened that she cried out in fear. Her daddy came running, gathered her up in his arms and held her tightly. He quietly explained that she had nothing to fear because God would take care of her. The little girl thought for a moment and then replied, "I know God will take care of me and love me, but right now, Daddy, I want someone with skin on!"
We often need "someone with skin on" to help us out of our depression. One of those persons may be a physician. I encourage anyone experiencing depression to get a physical as soon as possible. Depression is often a physical problem and may respond to medication. After a physical and several blood tests, my doctor discovered that I had a chemical imbalance which encouraged depression and said that it had probably been present from birth. I just thought that everyone saw life like I saw it - like a poorly developed photograph - black around the edges and closing in. It seemed as if I had lived my whole life trying to escape one dark shadow after another. The doctor prescribed medication that would correct the imbalance, but it would not eliminate the depression. It simply enabled me to have the strength and energy to deal with the issues that had led me to the pit.
Christian counseling is another valuable weapon in the battle against depression. God gave counselors their gifts to use for Him in ministry. He must have known that we would need them and the gift of healing they bring when balancing the psychological world with the healing power of a living God. Somewhere in your world, God has stationed servants who are equipped and ready to help you.
Turn to your support team
Isaiah 42:3 "He will not break the bruised reed, nor quench the dimly burning flame. He will encourage the fainthearted, those tempted to despair."
A support team is essential for anyone in the pit of depression. My team carried me when I couldn't take another step and loved me when I was unlovable, encouraging me when I felt like giving up. I would still be in the darkness today if it weren't for my family, my church and my friends. God worked through them in my life.
When I married into the Southerland family, I did not know that tent camping was part of the deal. I might have reconsidered (just kidding). I decided that I could learn to camp and maybe even enjoy it! My first trip to Lake Greason in the foothills of the Ozarks was quite an experience. It did not take me long to learn the routine. Every day, Dan's mom would prepare a huge breakfast. Afterwards, the kids did dishes while mom headed for her tent, where she changed into her swim suit, put on her sun glasses, grabbed a towel and made a bee line for the lake. On the shore, she would grab an inner tube, position her towel in just the right spot, turn around and sit down in the tube. Then she would float blissfully for hours. There was a slight problem with this plan. Lake Greason had a current that would carry mom down the lake, around the bend and into the path of ski boats. Several times a day, someone would have to swim after her, pulling her back to the safety of the shore, where she would profusely thank them and go right back to floating. Finally, one of the kids came up with a great idea. Get a rope! They grabbed a ski rope, tied one end to mom's inner tube and the other end to a wooden stake driven securely into the ground. She could then float until the rope ran out and someone "reeled her in".
This is exactly what the people on my support team did for me. They rescued me repeatedly. They could see the dangers I was too weak to see. They loaned me their energy when mine was gone. They became a life line that kept me from drifting toward the brink of disaster. Has it affected their opinion of me? Absolutely! It has shown them that I am just like them - not a Superwoman -- and has given them permission to face their own weaknesses. It has modeled authenticity and transparency for them and encouraged them to be real. I know that some of you are thinking that there is absolutely no one who will sign up to be a member of your support team. If you will cry out to God and honestly seek help, He will bring your helpers.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your help! I turn to You first. My heart cries out to You, asking for Your hand of deliverance and restoration to touch my life. Please lead me to those You have equipped and chosen to help me during this dark time. I don't see them, Lord, but I trust You to bring them. Thank You for what You are already doing in the midst of this pit!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Read one psalm every day.
· Pray, crying out for help from His hand, waiting on God and listening for His voice.
· Where do you usually go for help?
· What do the words "cry out to God" mean to you?
· What do you have to surrender, in order to cry out to Him?
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For a long time, I let my pride keep me from asking for help. Fortunately, those who loved me didn't wait for me to ask. They simply jumped in when they saw a need -- and found a way to meet that need. If you are struggling with depression or the darkness of a pit, share your pain with someone who loves you. Ask for help. In doing so, you are inviting God to work through those people to bring you out of the darkness, into the light. My story is much like yours and can be read in my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. Would you like to work through a bible study that will help? Try Strength for the Storm, an E-Book bible study you can download and work through on your own or with a friend.
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January 23, 2009
Climbing Out of the Pit, Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD." Psalm 40:2-3 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
At some point in life, we all will find ourselves in some kind of pit, the darkness settling around us like a paralyzing blanket of hopelessness. That deep, dark pit may have many names, but easily becomes a prison from which escape seems impossible. The journey out is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. He is the Guide for this step-by-step journey.
Step One: Wait for God.
Step Two: Cry out for help.
Step Three: Count on God.
In this world, there are few certainties. God is one. His promises are true and we can wholly trust Him to keep His Word, to do exactly what He promises to do. In the key passage today, we find an impressive set of promises. God promises to free us -- direct us -- restore us -- give us joy and invites us to join Him in Kingdom work. Wow! That is quite an impressive "to do list" when you are sitting at the bottom of an ugly pit, with the shattered pieces of your life scattered around you. But God's ways are not our ways.
In Romans 11:33, Paul writes "Oh, what a wonderful God we have! How great are his riches, wisdom, and knowledge. How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his methods." (NIV)
God is drawn to brokenness. What an amazing truth, that He turns first to the broken. Psalm 40:1 says "He turned to me." Notice it does not say that David, the author, turned to God. I don't think that David could turn to God! Knowing the desire of David's heart and understanding his weakness, God heard his cry and turned to David just like God will hear your cry and turn to you!
During the darkest hours, I questioned God continually. I flung my anger at Him like a spear. My heart and soul were filled with fear and confusion instead of faith and trust. Yet, He never turned away from me. He knew every tear that I cried. Out of those tears and brokenness has come the most effective and powerful chapter of my life! I am convinced that the more we are broken, the more we are used. You can count on God. You can credit His grace to your account!
Mercy is when we don't get what we deserve.
Justice is when we get what we do deserve.
Grace is when we get what we do not deserve.
We are trophies of God's grace and we can count on Him.
Step Four: Be patient.
Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord."
In this verse, "patiently" literally means "without tiring" or "with perseverance". Be patient with yourself. Don't give up on you. No one gets depressed overnight and no one conquers depression overnight. It is a marathon, not a fifty yard dash! On my journey, it took 45 years to hit rock bottom. It has taken me four years to climb out ... this far. I am still climbing! We must be patient. We must be willing to persevere. Don't give up! Just give in and allow God to take control. He will turn that pit into an altar on which your broken spirit can be laid as a sweet sacrifice of praise.
Step Five: Don't give up.
Philippians 1:6 "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
God is at work! The very fact that you are reading this devotion is proof that the Father has ordered your steps so that you can hear my story. That may be because you are in a pit and you need help or maybe because someone you love is in that pit and you need to help them. God wants you to experience restoration and then to be a vessel of restoration for others.
Years ago, in a large southeastern city, the great pianist, Paderewski, was scheduled to perform. The city was alive with excitement and the day finally came. In the crowd at the concert was a young mother clutching the hand of her small son. Hoping to inspire him to practice, she had brought him to hear the master perform. As they sat and waited for the concert to begin, she turned her head to look at the people as they filled the auditorium. The little boy saw his chance to escape. He quietly slipped from his seat, walking down the aisle toward the stage. Just as he reached the orchestra pit, a spotlight hit the grand piano and he gasped at the beauty of the instrument. No one noticed the little boy as he slipped up the side stairs to the stage and climbed up on the piano stool. No one noticed him at all, until he began to play "Chopsticks". The concert hall fell silent. Then people began to shout. "Get him away from that piano!" Backstage, the Master heard the crowd and grabbing his coat, rushed to the little boy's side. Without a word, he bent down and, placing his hands on either side of the boy's, began to compose a beautiful counter melody to "Chopsticks". As they played together, he whispered in the little boy's ear, "Don't stop! Keep on! Don't quit!"
Right now, right where you are, understand that your Father is standing beside you, with His arms wrapped around you. Listen as He gently speaks, "Don't stop! Keep on! Don't quit!"
I know that the music of your darkened soul may be filled with chaos and dissonance, but even now, the Master is composing the "rest" of your song. One day very soon, it will be a song of beauty and light! One day, you will come out of the dark!
Let's Pray
Oh God, right now I choose to wait on You, crying out for Your hand of mercy and love to deliver me from this pit of darkness. I abandon myself to You and am counting on You to be my Redeemer and Friend. Give me the courage to share my pain with others and ask for help. Now, in the presence of my enemies of darkness and depression, I celebrate the victory. Thank you, Father!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Psalm 40:1-3. Accept these promises as a gift from God for every pit -- past, present and future -- in your life. Ask yourself the following questions:
· What is the first step you should take in order to climb out of this pit?
· What do you need to leave behind or step over in order to take this first step?
Read 2 Samuel 2:29. What does it mean when it says that God is your lamp? How does that change your perspective of life?
Examine the deepest desires of your heart. Do you really want to escape this pit of darkness? Does the freedom frighten you? Why?
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I am often asked if I no longer have to deal with depression. Yes, I do. I have asked God to take this struggle out of my life, but He has said "no." Why? I don't pretend to know all of the reasons, but I do know that my name, Mary, literally means "bitter, but when broken, sweet." My battle with depression keeps me on my face before God, broken and crying out to God. Anything that makes us cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. If you need help in dealing with depression and the pain of the pit, you can find resources that will help by visiting my online store and website where you will find free resources to encourage and equip you on your journey. You can also email me at mary@marysoutherland.com. Blessings.
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January 26, 2009
Unshakable Confidence
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant" (2 Corinthians 3:5-6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Do you have confidence? Do you have self-confidence? You might be surprised that Paul, one of the greatest leaders in the New Testament, had very little confidence in himself, but he had immeasurable confidence in God who empowered and equipped him.
Paul said that he "put no confidence in the flesh" (Philippians 3:3). In other words, he didn't think that he was good enough because of any particular talent or ability that he had on his own. But his confidence came from who he was, what he had, and where he was as a child of God. Someone once said, "A man wrapped up in himself makes a pretty small package." But a man, or woman, wrapped up in God is an amazing sight to behold.
I am not advocating confidence in self, but confidence in God - confidence in who you are because of what Jesus has done for you and the Holy Spirit can do through you. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5, 6 TNIV). Connected to the vine you can do everything God calls you to do (Philippians 4:13).
Paul knew what he could accomplish on his own...nothing. Oh, he could be busy. We all can do that. But bearing "fruit that will remain" is another story. This is how he viewed his own personal weaknesses:
I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan's angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty! At first, I didn't think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me,
'My grace is enough; it's all you need.
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.'
Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ's strength moving in on my weakness. Now that I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size-abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.
(2 Corinthians 12:7-10 The Message)
Paul had great confidence. The prefix, "con" means "with" and the root "fid" means faith." Therefore, a confident person is one who walks in faith. We walk in faith that we are holy, chosen, redeemed, dearly loved children of God who are empowered by the Holy Spirit, equipped by our Maker, and enveloped by Jesus Christ. Now that's an unshakable confidence.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know that nothing good dwells in me apart from You. I can do nothing in my own strength that will have eternal worth. But through the power of the Holy Spirit, when I am abiding in the Vine (attached and connected to Jesus), I can do mighty works with everlasting fruit that remains. I am confident because of who I am in You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Would you say that you are a confident or insecure person?
Where does your confidence come from?
Now what does God-confidence have to do with what Jesus promised us in John 14:12?
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The enemy tells us that we're not smart enough. God says we have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16). The enemy tells us that we are losers. God says that we are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37). The enemy tells us that we are incompetent. God says that our competence is from God (2 Corinthians 3:5-6). Now, let's start walking in confidence. What to learn more? See Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves and start walking in the truth today!
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January 27, 2009
Living by Faith
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 5:7 (NIV) "We live by faith, not by sight."
Friend To Friend
Miracles should be a daily occurrence. "God things" should be the norm if we truly know and abide in Christ. Men and women leave ministry every day, their lives shattered against a measurable faith by the hammering blows of life. Life lived in human power is consuming and futile but life lived in God's power is powerful and purpose driven.
As a wife, mother, friend, family member ... in any relationship, we cannot lead where we have not been, we cannot share what we do not possess and we cannot convey a message of power from a powerless life. God stands ready to pour His power in and through us to a world filled with hurting, wounded and hopeless people. All of His power is at our disposal yet we are satisfied to live our days filled with results that can be understood and easily explained in human terms. I desperately want to live in such a way that one day I can look back in wonder at all of the "God things" He did in and through my life. I pray that those who come behind me will celebrate an ordinary life that was lived in extraordinary ways and is explainable only through a power man can neither produce nor comprehend -- God's power.
The power of God is unleashed through faith. Faith is a personal issue. Just as we cannot inherit or borrow faith, neither can we rely on the faith of anyone else. We must have our own personal faith.
As a freshman in college, I began dating a young man whose faith was very different from my own. Normally, I would never have considered dating anyone whose beliefs were in such stark contrast to mine, but we had so many other things in common and so enjoyed being together that we decided to take the risk and just date for fun. Big mistake! Neither one of us was prepared for the fact that our relationship quickly escalated into a serious one but we both realized that unless we resolved the faith issue, we would never have a future together.
I had attended church from birth and simply assumed that my beliefs were right because they were all I knew -- until someone I really cared about questioned the authenticity of my commitment to God. I began to examine my faith and ended up making it my own. While a human relationship ended, I will be forever grateful that God used that young man to affirm my belief system, test my faith and deepen my eternal relationship with God.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to become a woman of faith in order to please You and live a life of victory -- not defeat. I want my life to point others to You alone. I don't want to settle for anything less than the best You have for me, Father. Please fill my heart with a hunger for You, Your truth and Your will. Today, I choose to step out in faith and do whatever You want me to do. Strengthen me, Lord, and help me to live by faith -- not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define faith?
Would others describe you as a woman of faith? Would your husband and children? Your friends?
Read Hebrews 11:1-3 and then write the meaning of faith according to these verses.
How does your faith differ from the kind of faith described in Hebrews?
What is the first step you need to take in order to become a woman of faith?
Do a word search of bible verses containing the word "faith". Choose three of these verses to memorize.
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I love the acrostic defining faith: Forsaking all I trust Him. In order to trust God, we must forsake anyone or anything else as our source. God is our source and like the Shepherd cares for his flock, God meets every need in the lives of His children. Join me in a new commitment to live life, trusting only God. Need help? I have a CD - Love That Never Fails and an MP3 download - Stepping Out in Faith that will encourage and equip you to walk in faith. Blessings.
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January 28, 2009
I'm not_______ enough.
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you?" 1 Corinthians 3:16 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
I'm not _____________ enough. You can fill that blank in with smart, talented, gifted, spiritual, or any number of positive attributes, but the root source of each one of those lies is "I'm not good enough." It is one of the enemy's favorite weapons and he uses it to keep God's children in bondage to feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. The bottom line is that the enemy wants you to believe that you are "not enough." Period. But you are enough. You are enough and have been equipped and empowered to do everything that God has called you to do.
It seems the message of "I'm not good enough to earn my way to heaven on my own," has been transformed into I'm not good enough ... period. God created man and woman and said, "It is good." We are so valuable to God that He gave His only Son to restore our brokenness.
To be honest, I could have been the poster child for this lie. If feeling inadequate was an Olympic event, I would have been on the Wheaties box. It was the undercurrent of my entire existence until I finally realized who I was in Christ. Bible teacher Beth Moore said, "In the dead of the night when insecurities crawl on us like fleas, all of us have terrifying bouts of insecurity and panics of insignificance. Our human natures pitifully fall to the temptation to pull out the tape measure and gauge ourselves against people who seem more gifted and anointed by God." That was me.
Many women are living in silent defeat, comparing themselves to other women who are living in secret defeat. I'm not a good mother. I'm not a good wife. I'm not a good Christian. I'm not a good witness. I'm not a good housekeeper. I'm not a good decorator. I'm not a good cook. I'm not a good .... Women are caught in a cycle of the "I'm not good enoughs." One by one, the petals fall from the beautiful flower God created us to be. Like ticker tape, our fragmented pieces of confidence litter the streets like the Macy's parade passing by.
Unfortunately, I wasted many precious years held captive by the enemy's lies before I held up my chained hands to God and said, "I'm ready for you to set me free."
Consider this:
Jacob was a liar.
Moses was a stutterer.
Gideon was a coward.
David was an adulterer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Esther was an orphan.
Balaam's donkey was ...well, a donkey.
Yet God used each one of them to impact His kingdom.
God doesn't call us because we are particularly gifted or talented. He uses us because we are obedient and dependent on Him. He doesn't call the qualified -- He qualifies the called.
The truth is, if you have experienced new birth in Christ, when God looks at you, He sees Jesus. And friend, Jesus is good enough.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You today. Because of Jesus Christ and His work of redemption in me, I am deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing and totally accepted by You. Because of Jesus Christ in me, I am equipped and empowered to do all that You have called me to do. Now, LORD, help me act like it.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to that first sentence in today's devotion. What would you put in that blank?
Is that the truth?
What do you think God would say to you about what you have written in that blank?
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Are you ready to begin walking in the truth rather than stumbling over the lies? Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Then you'll want to read Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Visit her website to read an excerpt. But be warned. This book could change your life!
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January 29, 2009
Hope for Tomorrow
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control." 2 Timothy 1:7 (NCV)
Friend To Friend
A cloud of terror hung over the Valley of Elah as snarling threats and vile promises spewed from his mouth. The intimidator strutted along grassy slopes swinging an enormous club, his mammoth, ironclad feet pawing the ground like an irate bull, ready to attack. The huge, ugly monster was Goliath, a nine foot giant, the pride of Philistia. He wore massive armor; a bronze coat weighing 200 pounds, a solid iron spear, a heavy bronze helmet. The target of his ranting and raving was a frightened, helpless group of Israelites, cowering in their tents. For forty agonizing days, Goliath had come, taunting them, promising certain destruction and doom. The Israelites, paralyzed with fear, had given up all hope of escape, resigned to their tortured fate at the hand of this Philistine monster.
Then came day forty-one! I am certain, as the sun inched its way over the mountains that morning, that neither Goliath nor the Israelites had any idea just how different this day would be. A young handsome teenager stepped into the valley of fear, fresh from the presence of God. David, the youngest in a family of eight boys could not believe the scene before him. Tossing the giant's threats and obvious advantage aside, David refused to accept what he saw. Instead, he chose to believe what he knew in his heart; this giant was going down! With simple but certain faith and unreserved confidence in God, David stepped through the fear, ushering in the mighty presence and power of God. Goliath not only met David that day, He met the Lord of Heaven and Earth. And the giant fell! Giants always fall in the presence of God!
We stand on the threshold of a new year -- a new beginning! If you are like me, you face 2009 with mixed emotions. Personally, I am thrilled that I survived 2008! There were certainly moments when I wondered if I would. I am so excited about a fresh start, a brand new set of days overflowing with new dreams and unmarked possibilities. But I also know that this year is crammed full of the unknown as well as a giant or two. And if I am brutally honest, I have to admit that the unknown fashions a pocket of fear in my heart where questions and doubts thrive.
The good news is that what lies ahead is no surprise to God. In fact, He has already been where we are going. That reason alone empowers us to face every tomorrow with hope, knowing that whatever touches us passes through His hands, with His permission. It is not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the defeat and fall of every giant that we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, facing every giant in God's power and with His promises. The Holy Spirit will guide the path of His truth to its destined mark, taking down the giants lurking in each tomorrow.
He is the same yesterday, today and forever! The days ahead are saturated with the memory of Goliath's fall and trust in Almighty God, the Giant Killer! So then, my friend, I ask you, what is there to fear? Happy New Year!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your goodness to me this past year. I confess that there were times when I focused on the storm instead of on You. I allowed fear to overpower my faith. Please help me begin this New Year in faith, with my eyes on You and my glance on the circumstances. I want to face every giant in Your power alone, walking straight through my fear in faith. Right now, Father, I surrender to You and the plan You have for me in 2009.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to review the past year and consider the following questions:
What giants have you faced this year?
Was your response to these giants right or wrong?
How do you typically handle fear?
What giants are you facing today?
What has been your natural response to giants of the past?
How do the birth, life and death of Jesus Christ affect those responses?
Read Luke 2:8-14. Examine your life in light of this passage.
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Can you believe that the clean slate of 2009 is just ahead? A new beginning! A fresh start! However, what did we learn in 2008 that will make a difference in 2009? As the holiday season winds down, I pray that your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings. Start the New Year off right by making daily bible study a priority. Check out two of my E-Book Bible Studies, Strength for the Storm and God's Answer to Stress.
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January 30, 2009
Sit Down, Soul!
Cindi Wood
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Cindi Wood.
Today's Truth
"Come away with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." Mark 6:31
Friend To Friend
Cooking...cleaning...refereeing...chauffeuring...filing...paying bills...making phone calls...going to work...do you ever feel like running away from being in charge of everybody and everything!?
Maybe, like me, you've realized that what causes the most stress in life seems to be the accumulation of those common daily hassles. Honestly, those daily things pile up and drive you nuts! According to research, I've read, women do pretty well dealing with those major life events -- but it's the daily conquering of our never-ending "To Do Lists" that sends us over the edge.
Girlfriend, God has a word for you! Yes, all of you who are teetering on the edge of Freak-Out and for those of you who already have plunged over that cliff! His word comes through the psalmist in Psalm 131:2. "But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother."
Oh, the simplicity of being still; sitting down and being quiet in the middle of chaos is the way to regain your composure and strengthen your heart.
How quiet is your soul? Your soul is your mind and emotions. And if you're like most women, your soul is running all over the place! Maybe you've mastered the art of sitting down physically and even appearing to be quiet. But on the inside, your soul is charging ahead -- making plans and thinking about everything that has to be done. Any sisters out there?
I liken it to the perpetual little Ms. Pac Man -- running all over the place trying to gobble up all those stress ghosts before they gobble you! I remember so well when my boys were young and I'd pull them away from the video games, sending them to "the quiet place" so they could calm down and unwind. Sometimes it took quite a while for them to recover a quiet demeanor after being jerked around with all the agitated stimuli on the computer.
How about you, dear friend? Are the stressors of life jerking you around, leaving you agitated and jumpy? Well, I invite you to take a stress break. Quiet your emotions. De-escalate your soul. "Be still and know that He is God." (Psalm 46:10)
Yes, be very still and really know that He is God!
Okay. So right now, I'm going to take a few moments to deep breathe. Instead of charging frantically ahead to the next stress-stop, I'm sprinting into the arms of my God. He's the only One who can quiet my spirit and settle my nerves.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'm catching my breath; I'm catching my breath in You. Instead of charging ahead with my plans, I'm rushing to You! Teach me how to be still and know You are God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Determine with your mind to be still.
Throughout the day, deep breathe the name of Jesus as you quiet yourself.
Thank Him regularly for calming your heart and being your strength.
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Dear Frazzled Sister, I know being still is perhaps the most difficult thing you'll ever do. I encourage you to take time each day to be still in the arms of God. He will bless you in this determination to come before Him on a daily basis. Meditate on Scripture as you quietly soak in His Presence. You'll be surprised at the joy and peace you'll discover by being obedient to God in His calling to come away with Him, by yourself, to this quiet place.
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February 2, 2009
Fogged In
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)
Friend To Friend
The night before, I made all the final preparations for my trip from Charlotte to Kentucky, with a plane change in Atlanta. The conference had been booked a year ago and I was eager to be with the women who would be gathering in just a few hours. But the next morning proved to be one of those days that the harder I tried, the behinder I got. It all began at 6:35 am.
"My flight is at 9:35," I told my husband. "So we should be safe leaving at 8:00. That will give us 30 minutes and I'll get to the airport at 8:35."
My husband, who says he has an airport ministry taking me to and fro, waited patiently in the car as I hopped in at 8:05. "Five minutes behind," I smiled. "That's not too bad."
We pulled out of our garage and we were immediately engulfed in a wet blanket of dense fog. "I can't see a thing," Steve moaned. "This may take a while."
After creeping out of the neighborhood, we eased onto the belt road and join the parade of cars inching their way through earthbound clouds. My heart began to race as the car continued to crawl. Clutching my ticket, I glanced down trying to will the departure time to be later than I had read earlier. "Oh no," I cried, "I read the ticket wrong! The flight departs at 9:05, not 9:35. There's no way I'm going to make it!"
I could tell from the white knuckles on the steering wheel that Steve was just about to resign from his airport ministry and keep his day job in dentistry. Dentistry was a lot less stressful.
Not another word was spoken all the way to the airport.
At 8:59, I bolted from the car, through the terminal doors, and to the security checkpoint. Faster than Superman in a phone booth, I stripped off my boots, jacket, earrings, necklace and watch, pushed my carry on through the x-ray monster's mouth, and walked through the metal arches. Foot tapping on the other side the lackadaisical security specialist sang, "Ma'am, we're going to have to check inside your luggage. There's something in there we can't identify."
"No, please don't," I pled. "I'm about to miss my plane."
"No, please don't," isn't something that goes over too well with security guards. So they did -- search my bag that is. Inside they discovered 25 scripture bracelets that read, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." I almost laughed.
While they searched, I redressed and re-accessorized. Please Lord, let the flight be delayed, I prayed
I jogged to the gate in my three-inch heel boots only to discover that God had answered my prayers! The flight was delayed. Seemed I wasn't the only one affected by the fog. Over the next 45 minutes, I regained consciousness, summoned my sanity, and slowed my pulse. I dared not tell the disgruntled passengers that the flight delay was my fault.
Finally, we were on the plane and on our way. But then...rolling, rolling, rolling, pause. Rolling, rolling, rolling, pause. It seemed that we were going to drive to Atlanta rather than fly. We sat on the runway for 45 more minutes and I knew that I was not going to make my connecting flight in Atlanta.
When we did finally arrive in Atlanta, 2 ½ hours behind schedule, I discovered that my flight to Kentucky was delayed and there were no more seats available for the entire day. I was placed on standby, only to join 40 others on standby as well. I was #32. The plane held 57 passengers and it was booked solid. I called the conference coordinator and gave her the news. Prognosis -- not good. My attitude -- even worse.
Now, I have left out lots of frustrating minute details, but let's just say I was not happy. No one was cooperating: the weather, the airlines, or the One who controls it all. At least that's how I felt. Pull up a chair beside me and watch what God did to adjust my attitude and put the day's frustrations in perspective.
I'm sitting at a jam-packed gate filled with angry disgruntled passengers. B12. I look just like them, feel just like them, act just like them. Are you with me?
"Excuse me," the airport employee announced. "Let's clear the aisle, people. This plane is preparing to disembark. Clear the way. Make room."
She walked over to the boarding door and positioned a red wheelchair by the entrance. Then she was joined by another, then another, then another. I had a front row seat and facing me -- staring me in the face -- were 7 attendees standing behind 7 shiny red wheelchairs... waiting for passengers disembarking the plane.
Then God began to speak to my heart. I suspect He had been trying to get my attention all day long, but I was too wrapped up in my own struggles to listen. Sharon, He began, which side of this aisle would you rather be on. The standby side or the side waiting for those who can't stand at all.
Suddenly, my little trials and tribulations of the day seemed very small. So what if my flight was canceled. I could walk. I stopped whining and began thanking God -- for eyes that see, ears that hear, fingers that feel, hands that help, lips that speak. I realized that I needed to focus less on the air traffic controllers and more on the One who controls the air. A little fog never stopped Him from accomplishing all that He has purposed and if He wanted me to sit in that airport, I could trust that He had a great plan.
I didn't make that flight, but all 37 of us on standby did get out of Atlanta that night. A family of five made it to the wedding of a beloved son, a soldier in uniform returned to the arms of his waiting mom, and I made it to the conference with thirty minutes to spare.
God had it under control all along. He just needed to lift the fog in my own heart before I could see clearly to serve Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, there are many days when I get so anxious about the details of life. Thank you for the reminder that You are in control. Direct my path. Help me rest in the assurance that no matter what happens today, it is no surprise to You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you became frustrated because of a delay?
What was your attitude in that situation?
How can today's truth help you cope with the frustration when your well -made plans are interrupted by life?
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Don't you just love when God teaches you lessons right in the middle of your ordinary days? If you would like to read more stories to encourage you, see Sharon's devotional book, Extraordinary Moments with God. You'll begin to see His fingerprints on the pages of your life! Visit www.sharonjaynes.com
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February 3, 2009
The Gift of Prayer
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I Thessalonians 5:17 "Pray continually." (NIV)
Friend To Friend
Even as a baby, our son, Jered, has always loved the outdoors. We lived in sunny South Florida for over twenty years and always enjoyed its climate, which allowed for year around outdoor activities. As a toddler, one of Jered's favorite places to go was the beautiful park across the street from our home. Squirrels scampered along walking trails and ducks dotted a small lake nestled under hundreds of tall oak trees. We had a routine. Each morning after breakfast, while I cleaned up the kitchen, Jered would run to his room, grab his hat, his "cool" Disney sunglasses and push his stroller to the front door. If I was not quite ready to go he would then climb into the stroller and wait -- but just for a minute or two. Babies and toddlers are not known for their patience. At first, Jered would calmly announce his presence and his plan but if I did not respond, his voice would begin to rise in volume and his request would soon turn into a firm request, well on its way to a command. "Mom, let's go!" Guess what? We always went! Sound like your prayer life?
Many of you are great conversationalists. When you meet someone new, you find it easy to talk with them, establishing a relationship within minutes. Others are not so eloquent. You may be a little shy or withdrawn so that when you meet someone new, you touch on a new subject, like testing a hot iron, and you are out of there! Even those who are great at meeting people tend to keep things on a surface level, talking about the weather, kids, jobs, etc. We don't usually start a conversation with, "Hi! It is so good to meet you. Could you tell me how much you weigh?" Everyone knows that is breaking the rules and may result in a sharp, painful blow to the body. We keep the conversation on safe ground until the relationship can handle a deeper level of inquiry.
Sadly, some of us have never gotten past the "safe" level of conversation with God. We thank Him for food, ask Him to heal those who are sick and then proceed to give Him our list of requests and demands. The Father wants so much more than that for us!
While it is a wonderful privilege to share our requests with God, what He really wants is our heart conversation. He wants to know what is going on in your soul -- not because He doesn't already know but because He wants to be with you and interact with you. Praying continually not only means to pray silently, but to pray out loud, talking with Him like you talk with a close friend. Praying out loud involves every sense and solidifies an awareness of His presence. I pray out loud about everything from a parking space to the greatest crisis in my life. I have found that an ongoing conversation with God makes Him more real to me and deepens my relationship with Him. God never meant praying to be a burden but rather the most wonderful privilege of life. Don't miss this precious gift to you from God. He is waiting, listening for your voice!
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You more. I truly want my prayer life to be as natural to me as breathing. Help me to learn how to pray, to share everything with You honestly and openly. By faith, I thank You for hearing me and loving me. Thank You for the gift of prayer.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Learn to recognize prayer as a privilege -- not a burden.
Examine honestly your prayer life over the last year. Has it grown and if so, how?
Think back over the last month. What prayers has God answered?
Make the commitment -- right now - to make continual prayer a heart habit.
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One of the most amazing gifts in my life is a group of ladies who are committed to pray for me each and every day -- my Prayer Warriors. When a storm hits, I race to my computer and email them, asking for prayer. They pray for my family, for each speaking engagement and every word of every book I write. There are days when I can hardly get out of bed to face the day and then I remember that they are praying! Prayer really is a gift from God. Some of you may be thinking you don't have the time. I encourage you to join my online bible study, Light for the Journey. Our current topic is "Time: Friend or Foe?" Be sure to check out the free resources available and then drop by our online store. Blessings!
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February 4, 2009
Homeland Security
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"A capable, intelligent and virtuous woman, who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels, and her value is far above rubies or pearls." (Proverbs 31:10 Amplified Version)
Friend To Friend
After the horrific events of September 11, 2001, President George W. Bush appointed the new cabinet position of Homeland Security. It is defined as the deterrence, prevention, preemption of, and defense against, aggression targeted at United States territory, sovereignty, population, and infrastructure as well as the management of the consequences of such aggression and other domestic emergencies.
In a speech on July 16, 2002, in the Rose Garden, he explained how Homeland Security would deal with the threats of the 21st century in our country. "Our unity is a great weapon in the fight. And by acting together to create a new and single Department of Homeland Security we'll be sending the world a signal that the Congress and the administration will work together to protect the American people and to win the war on terror."
As I read President Bush's description of homeland security and the perilous dangers that threaten our country, I was reminded of the danger that threatens our homes as well. There is a war going on to destroy the God-ordained institution of marriage in this country and around the world. Interestingly, Webster defines marriage as "the institution under which a man and a woman become legally united on a permanent basis." Almost every word of that definition is under attack today. We need our own "homeland security" to establish the deterrence, prevention, preemptions of, and defense against, aggression targeted against our marriages!
For a man to guard his heart usually means he must guard his eyes. For a woman to guard her heart, it means she must guard her emotions. "My coworker really listens to me," Barbara mused. "My friend, Peter, truly cares about my problems," Clare reflected. "Bob at the post office likes me in this red sweater," Mary pondered. Each of these thoughts sets off the "homeland security alarm." Homeland security begins in our own hearts.
Mighty Warrior on Patrol
Homeland security also means that we work to protect our families.
The Proverbs 31 woman has represented an ideal for women throughout the ages. While she intimidates some, all would agree she is a role model worth emulating. Scripture describes her as smart, skillful, thrifty, and strong. She's a good cook, a savvy money manager, a contributor to the community, an entrepreneur, a seamstress, a blessed mother, a faithful friend, a loyal wife, and a devotee of God. As Proverbs 31:10 states, "An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels" The New International Version calls her "a wife of noble character." But I personally like the Amplified version that describes her as "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." The Hebrew word that's translated "excellent" or "virtuous" can also mean "wealthy, prosperous, valiant, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior.
She fights Satan on her knees in prayer, she fights her hectic schedule to keep her priorities in proper perspective, and she fights to guard her heart against ungodly influences of the society in which she lives.
In verse 27, we see that the Proverbs 31 woman "watches over the ways of her household," or as another translation states, "she carefully watches all that goes on in her household" (NLT). The phrase "watch over" means to "hedge about as with thorns" as a mother bird might protect her young with the thorny rim of a nest. These same words are also used in the Bible as a military term, such as to watch over a city.
I envision the wife of noble character walking around the wall fortifying her home, fully equipped to take on any enemy that threatens to invade her marriage. But lest we imagine the enemy is always some outside force, I believe the greatest enemy can be what happens in our own hearts and minds.
Homeland security? I believe it begins in our very own hearts and homes.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that you will show me how to protect my home. When something comes before me that I should not see, help me to turn my head, click the delete button, or change the channel. Help me to guard my heart above all else.
I also pray that you will help me to be a mighty prayer warrior for my family. I will stand in the gap for each member of my family, interceding for them by name.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think about these sentences in today's devotion... "Almost every word of that definition is under attack today. We need our own "homeland security" to establish the deterrence, prevention, and preemptions of, and defense against, aggression targeted against our marriages!" How is the institution of marriage being attacked today?
Have you sensed any of that in your home or your extended family?
What are some ways that you can initiate some "homeland security" in your home?
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One of the best ways we can protects our homes is through prayer. Sharon offers laminated prayer cards with Scripture to pray over children, husbands, and grandchildren. She also has two great resources for homeland security: Becoming the Woman of His Dreams and Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids. To read an excerpt, just visit her website.
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February 5, 2009
Forgive and Forget
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"God forgave all our sins. He canceled the debt, which listed all the rules we failed to follow. He took away that record with its rules and nailed it to the cross." Colossians 2:13-14 (NCV)
Friend To Friend
There are many uncertainties in marriage, but one thing is sure; we will hurt our husbands and our husbands will hurt us. How we handle that hurt determines the health of our marriage.
The story is told of a little boy shopping with his mom at the mall. He did well for the first few minutes but soon grew tired of following his mother into stores that were of no interest to him at all. He began to whine and cry, hoping that she would take him home. When that didn't work, he threw a tantrum, complete with screaming, yelling and a mad dash for the nearest exit. It worked! Stuffing a crumpled shopping list into her purse, the little boy's mother grabbed his hand and headed for the parking lot. He was thrilled, anticipating the freedom so close at hand. But as they drove home in tense silence, the realization that he was in serious trouble began to settle around his anxious heart and mind. In an attempt to placate his mother the little boy asked, "Mom, when you do something wrong it's a sin - right?" A stiff nod was his answer. "Mom, my teacher at church said that God loves us even when we do wrong things. That's right isn't it?" With an angry glance, his mother answered, "Yes, son. That is right." He was onto something here -- she spoke! "Mom, my teacher says that when we say we are sorry for the wrong things we do and ask God to forgive us, He takes those wrong things and throws them into the sea. Isn't that neat, Mom?" Through slightly clenched teeth came the answer, "Yes, son. God does love us and forgives us for every wrong thing we do." Several silent moments passed and with a sigh, the little boy surrendered. "Mom, I told God I am sorry for the way I acted at the mall and asked Him to throw those wrong things into the deepest ocean He could find. But I have a feeling that when we get home, you're gonna go fishing in that ocean!"
Part of true forgiveness is releasing the hurt and choosing to let go of the pain! To truly forgive means that we "quit fishing" in the emotional waters of our past!
I love super-glue and use it for just about everything! Not too long ago I was trying to repair the broken saucer of a miniature tea set. With my trusty super-glue, I went to work, gluing the pieces of the saucer together and holding them in place for the recommended thirty seconds - only to discover that I had glued my finger to the saucer! Because I frequently use super-glue, I keep an adequate supply of super-glue dissolver. As I worked to free my finger from the saucer, I was reminded that forgiveness extremely important to my marriage. When I refuse to allow my husband to get past his past, it is as if I am "gluing" him to his mistakes. Tightly clutching the hurt, I refuse to see Dan as more than something he has done. Instead, the forgiveness of God compels us to separate the sinner from his sin.
Notice that God never says we have to feel like forgiving. Honestly, our feelings are irrelevant and untrustworthy. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a choice. Forgiveness is an independent act between us and God, totally separate from the response or reaction of the person we are forgiving. We are not responsible for their response. They are! God is! But when we hold on to the hurt we are refusing to truly forgive and become a hindrance to God working in their lives.
It's time to forgive.
It's time to let go of the hurt!
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess to you that I have been hurt and angry about things that my husband has done in the past. Right now, I choose to forgive him and lay down my attitude of revenge. Will you please forgive me and heal the broken parts of our marriage? I trust you to make our marriage a living illustration of your forgiving love. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List three of the hurts that you have been unwilling to forgive.
Pray through each one, choosing to forgive and let go of the hurt.
Thank God for the precious gift of forgiveness that He made possible by His death on the cross.
Answer the following questions:
What past hurts still have power in my life today?
Why have I held on to those hurts for so long?
How can I choose to forgive my husband when I really do not want to?
Would my family and friends describe me as a "forgiving person"?
What is the first step I need to take in order to forgive?
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Honestly, there are times when I don't want to forgive the person who has hurt me. I want to see them endure the same pain they have inflicted. The desire for revenge is not only sin, it is dangerous. Revenge eats away at your spirit and spills out into every part of your life. Let that person go! Release the hurt! Forgive them and set yourself free! Check out Mary's CD, G-Harmony (taught by Mary and her husband, Dan) for ways to restore the broken parts of your marriage. Mary's CD, The Power of Forgiveness will help you learn how to experience and give forgiveness. Both are also available as a MP3 download.
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February 6, 2009
Trading Anger For Love
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20 NIV.
Friend To Friend
"I'm a terrible mom!"
Do you ever say this to yourself? I do. I just did.
I was working in my office, minding my own business, when my oldest son threw a paper airplane at the back of my head. Not one to normally welcome an air attack, I gave him the stern "mom voice," and asked him to stop messing around and give me some private time so I could get some work done. He agreed, and turned to leave. Surprisingly, he then jumped around and threw it at me again! Well, let me tell you, my grace-o-meter was reading pretty low at this point!! I barked like an angry dog. "What in the world do you think you are doing? I just told you that I needed to be left alone so I can get some work done! Stop it!"
"There's a message on the plane." He tenderly retorted. "Read it, mom!"
As I unfolded the airplane made of orange construction paper, I saw this message written in pink marker: "I Love You."
"Nice!" I said to myself. "Loser-mom strikes again." I had scolded my son and reacted out of frustration with an unkind tone. All the while, my son was trying to communicate love to me.
I felt horrible...so, naturally, I started to beat myself up.
But as shame tried to fill my heart, love kicked shame to the curb. I called my son in, and apologized for my behavior. I welcomed this tall, lanky pre-teen to sit on my lap and told him that -- while I'm not fond of airplane attacks, especially while I'm working, I am fond of love attacks. We held each other and had a very sweet moment.
Here's the lesson I learned: When we trade our anger for love, we are able to experience restoration in relationships.
The Bible tells us that we are to be slow to anger. It is a lesson that I am still learning. Now, that doesn't mean that we should never be angry. Jesus exhibited righteous anger in the Jerusalem temple when he drove out the merchants that were buying and selling there. Righteous anger is permissible. We should be angry about sin and injustice. But when we respond to others in anger, it becomes our sin.
The benefits of trading anger for love are tremendous, but the application can be very challenging. We can't overcome our natural, sinful tendencies to react, and overreact, in anger alone. We need God's help. His strength will meet us at our need when we call on Him. The Holy Spirit will help us to respond in God's strength, not our own.
When I traded anger for love following the construction paper airplane attack, my son and I were greatly rewarded and beautifully restored.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I need Your help! I confess my anger right now. Please forgive me. Please bring restoration to relationships that have been affected by my anger. Help me recognize when I over-react or when I respond in anger. Give me the strength to respond in love, so that You can be glorified through my behavior.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to trade anger for love? In what relationships? How?
Ask God to bring a fresh awareness to your soul each time you react in anger.
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I'm a very passionate person. When my kids were babies, I constantly over-reacted. And although God has been working in my heart for years on this issue, I humbly confess that anger still comes much too easy to me. If you struggle with this, you are not alone.
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
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February 9, 2009
AAA Club of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
In Celebration of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.
Today's Truth
"And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband-that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly (Ephesians 5:33 Amplified)
Friend To Friend
Are you a member of the Triple A Club of Marriage? You didn't know there was such a thing? While there is no official club for broken marriages, I do keep this one club in the back of my mind. It stands for adoration, admiration, and appreciation. Did you know that big tough man of yours longs to be admired? He desires for someone to think he's brave and brilliant, loving and logical, tough and tender, handsome and humorous, masculine and magical. That's the stuff of your man's dreams.
What does it mean to adore your husband? It means to love him with all your heart...and let him know about it. George Eliot once said, "I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved." Do you want to see your husband's face light up like a full moon? Tell him you are amazed that he knows how to ________ or that you are impressed by his _______, then sit back and watch him glow.
When the TV cameras pan the sidelines of a college football game, my heart always melts in a pool of butter when the young men wave and say those precious two words: "Hi Mom." It's almost like they're saying, "Look at me! Look at me!" The truth is, men want to be admired by the woman of their dreams. It starts out with mom, and then continues with the Missus.
Where does your husband go for adoration, admiration and appreciation? He goes somewhere. All men do. Does he go to work in hopes of hearing "job well done"? Does he go to the ball field in hopes of hearing "way to go man"? Does he go back home to mother to hear "I'm so proud of you son?" Does he work late hoping for a few compliments from the gals in the office? Does he feast on compliments from patients or clients? Does he hang out at the gym flexing and building his biceps? Tell me, where does your man go to be admired?
Dr. Willard Harley says, "When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself as capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. That inspiration helps him prepare for the responsibilities of life. Admiration not only motivates, it also rewards the husband's existing achievements. When she tells him that she appreciates him for what he has done, it gives him more satisfaction than he receives from his paycheck. A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become, if he lived up to her standards. For some men -- those with fragile self-images -- admiration also helps them believe in themselves. Without it, these men seem inherently more defensive about their shortcomings....While criticism causes men to become defensive, admiration energizes and motivates them. A man expects -- and needs -- his wife to be his most enthusiastic fan. He draws confidence from her support and can usually achieve far more with her. " [Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs Her Needs (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Fleming H. Revell, 1986) p151.]
You become the mirror in which your husband sees himself. So if he's looking sort of glum lately, maybe you need to renew your membership into the Triple A Club of marriage and try a little adoration, admiration and appreciation around your home.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be my husband's biggest fan. Please help me to restrain my critical tongue. Help me to see him as You see Him...a child of the King. I do so love my husband; help me to make sure that he knows just how much.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have been withholding admiring words from your husband, it may feel strange to begin. First and foremost, be authentic -- be real. If you contrive admiring words, he will be able to tell. Start with one compliment or word of appreciation. It may be as simple as "thank you" and soon the admiration will begin to flow...hopefully both ways. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Place an "I love you sign in a public place." (I put a sign out side of Steve's office window to surprise him on Valentine's Day. The fact that all his patients saw it was an extra boost!)
Write him a love letter.
Write an acrostic of reasons you adore, admire, and appreciate him A-Z.
Leave an "I love you" message on his voice mail.
Write him a thank you note for something specific he did for you.
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February 10, 2009
Are you normal?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 4:12-13 "Do not be surprised at the painful things you are now suffering. These things are testing your faith." (ICB)
Friend To Friend
I pray that your New Year is off to a great start! As wonderful as the holidays are, it is always good to get back into a normal routine. Then the question becomes, "What exactly is normal?"
Author and speaker, Patsy Clairmont says that "normal" is just a setting on the dryer. I am inclined to agree with her. At birth, the world silently hands us a list of do's and don'ts that we must follow in order to "fit in" and gain approval. I believe God's definition of normal is quite different from my own characterization or the perspective used by others as a measuring stick.
As I look back over the lives of those who made the biggest difference in the early Kingdom days, they were anything but normal. A bag of mixed nuts is more like it - men and women from all walks of life who were radical in their devotion to God - to the point of placing their lives on the line every day for the cause of Christ. They were normal in that they celebrated their "sameness" with the pagans who were shunned by religious zealots but stubbornly loved by the Father. Yet, they were profoundly abnormal in the love they showed and the depth of their commitment to God and to His cause.
As I was putting the Christmas decorations away for another year, I got to the study where we have a collection of gifts and souvenirs from the various countries where Dan and I have visited to speak. Each one brought back memories of precious people who, despite being persecuted because of their faith in Jesus Christ, are all people of joy. As far as material possessions are concerned, they have very little but when it comes to joy, contentment and peace ... they have it all. These people who have chosen to follow Christ -- even in the face of danger - are not normal! And I think the face of God shines on them because of their abnormal faith.
That is the kind of "normal" I want to be this year. I want to be God with skin on to those who don't even believe He exists. I want to love every excuse and doubt right out of their minds. I want them to see a power in me that they cannot explain in human terms and a message that shouts of God's mercy and forgiveness. I want to be hungry and thirsty for God and live my life in the "It is so not about me" gear.
How about you? Are you willing to pack away the old, safe, comfortable and quite stale normalcy, allowing God to bring some not so normal people and circumstances into your life? I'm ready! Join me, my friend, for the journey.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of playing it safe, of bowing to the wrong crowd and listening to the wrong voices. I lay down my pride and surrender to You and Your plan for my life in 2007. Stretch my faith. Give me Your eyes to see those in need. Fill me with Your abnormal power so that others will be drawn to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In what way have you played it safe when it comes to your faith in God?
Are you willing to be a radical follower of Jesus Christ -- no matter the cost?
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. How do these verses apply to an abnormal walk with God?
What first step do you need to take in order to walk by faith...not by sight?
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The first time my husband, Dan and I visited Cuba, my eyes were opened to a whole new level of faith. I watched believers live under the scrutiny of a godless government. Pastors and their families lived in poverty because they chose to worship none other but the one true God. Yet, there was no fear - only faith. They celebrated what they had instead of complaining about what they didn't have. We were humbled to be in their presence and challenged to live as they lived -- with an abnormal faith and in a radical obedience to God. That same challenge is before us all today. Are you ready? Check out my CD set, Strength for the Storm/I Have a Hope for resources that will strengthen your faith and encourage you in your journey to the heart of God.
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February 11, 2009
The Roman Rules of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
[Let your] love be sincere-a real thing." (Romans 12:9 AMP)
Friend to Friend
February is the month we celebrate love, marriage, and sweethearts. But love is more than frilly Valentine's Cards, heart-shaped candy, and bouquets of roses or balloons. Sometimes love is commitment to hard work.
If you are married, here are some questions for reflection: Do I love my husband well? Do I adore the man God has given to me? Am I admiring him as a child of God? Am I appreciating him for who he is today instead of what he could be if he lived up to my expectations? Am I giving my heart freely or do I make him feel as though he constantly has to earn my love?
Paul gives us some good advice on how to love one another in Romans 12:9-18.
Love must be sincere.
Cling to what is good.
Be devoted to one another.
Honor one another above yourselves.
Never be lacking in zeal.
Be joyful in hope.
Be patient in affliction.
Be faithful in prayer
Share with God's people who are in need.
Practice hospitality.
Bless those who persecute you.
Rejoice with those who rejoice.
Mourn with those who mourn.
Live in harmony with one another.
Do not be proud.
Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.
If it is possible, a far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Now take a look at that list. It is easy to think that Paul is talking about our friends or fellow Christians. But if these are the guidelines for loving our friends, how much more are they guidelines for loving our very own husbands! As Ann Landers once said, "Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing, and forgiving. It is a loyalty through good and bad. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses."
I hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day as you celebrate your marriage. And if you're not married, celebrate the love you share with friends, family, and your heavenly Bridegroom - Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear God of Love, I pray that I will love others well today. I pray that You will fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I can overflow Your love to those around me. I know that loving others is Your most important command. Help me to keep that foremost in my mind and actions this day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the Roman Rules above. Either write them out or print them off from this devotion. Carry this list in your pocket and glance at them often today. Check up on yourself several times through the day and see how you're doing!
If you're brave enough, ask a friend to give you honest feedback on what you do well and what needs improvement.
More From The Girlfriends
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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February 12, 2009
Reaching and Teaching
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind..." (Titus 2:3-5a,NIV).
Friend to Friend
One day, following a church service, a fellow 'lead worshipper' approached me. She is a fabulously lovely, young, hip '20-something' chick who totally loves Jesus. To my surprise and delight, she asked if I would consider becoming her mentor. At first I thought...'but I'm way too young to be your mentor!!' Then I woke up from my momentary dream and remembered that I am a wise-on-my-good-days, slightly-elder-ish '30-something' chick with a decade of life, marriage, and ministry on her. I was excited and scared at the same moment as I readily agreed. Of course I would agree! I have been blessed beyond measure by many women in my life who are slightly more gray and slightly less green than me!! (Mary and Sharon...I am SO not saying you girls are gray! Love you!)
We all need a spiritual mentor to take our hand as we face life. Likewise, we all need to grab hold of a younger spiritual hand for the journey, to bring them along in Christ and strengthen their spiritual muscles, to encourage, teach and admonish. As runners in a relay race reach forward to grab the baton from their teammate in front of them, they also extend the baton back to a runner about to take off in her own race. We need to be reaching and teaching!
The Bible says in Mark chapter 6 that after John the Baptist had died, his disciples came and took his body and laid it in a tomb. I found it interesting that the word 'disciples' was used instead of the word friends or associates. The implication is that John had poured his life into guiding and instructing these men in the truth and hope of Christ.
The Bible also tells us that Jesus revered John the Baptist as one of the greatest men to ever walk the earth. Interestingly, John did not consider himself even worthy to tie the sandals of Jesus. So even a man such as John the Baptist, who was set apart for a special God-mission to prepare the way for the LORD, needed to reach forward to Christ for guidance and wisdom. What a beautiful example we see here. John made disciples. With God's help and a little effort, we can too!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are so good to instruct us toward relationships...both with You and with others. Would you help me to grow in faith? Would you use me to make a difference in the lives of other women as well? Please lead me in Your will and in Your ways. In the powerful name of Jesus, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a spiritual mentor?
Have you spoken with her recently?
Why not call or email her to set up a date to meet for coffee or lunch this week?
Are you mentoring anyone right now?
If so...why don't you call or email her to set up a time to meet for coffee or lunch sometime in the next week or two?
If you are not a spiritual mentor yet or don't have a spiritual mentor...take a few moments to seek God's heart about this for your life.
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This is the heart of what Girlfriends in God is all about...reaching and teaching...pouring into the lives of other women so that together we can experience the far reaching love of God more intimately. Thanks for joining us on the journey. We love you, Girlfriend!
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February 13, 2009
Then God Created a Helper
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, I'll be focusing on marriage during the month of February!)
Today's Truth
And the Lord God said, "It isn't good for man to be alone. I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs" (Genesis 2:18 TLB)
Friend To Friend
Do you remember the story of Creation recorded in Genesis? I never cease to wonder at that marvelous beginning of the book I have grown to love..."In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth." Before the creation of the world, there was nothing... Try to think of...nothing. It's hard to do. Then God molded the earth in His hands, decorated the sky with the sun, moon, and stars; scattered seed of every kind in the soil, released flocks of birds into the sky, swarms of insects into the air, and schools of fish into the sea. Then, on the sixth day, God created all the creeping animals and He created man in His own image. After each masterpiece was completed, God said, "It is good." The only time God said "It is not good," was when He said, "It is not good for man to be alone."
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of man, and he brought her to the man (Genesis 2:20-22).
The New American Standard Bible says God "fashioned" Eve. He took extra special care when He created you. As a matter-of-fact, woman was God's grand finale!
Up to this point in the Genesis recording of creation, Adam had remained silent. However, when he saw the fair Eve, I imagine he said, "Whoa! Now this is good!" We don't know for sure, but we do know that his first recorded words were after laying eyes on God's magnificent gift to him. "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man" (Genesis 2:23).
Eve was created to complete man like two pieces of a puzzle fitting together. The word complete means to fill up; that which is required to supply a deficiency; one of two mutually completing parts. While each translation of the Bible uses a different combination of words to describe Eve, they each contain the word helper. The man was not better than the woman (he was lacking without her). The woman was not better than the man (she was lacking without him). Paul wrote, "However, in the Lord, neither is woman independent of man, nor is man independent of woman" (I Corinthians 11:11). We were designed to depend on and to compliment each other. The Greek word helper can also be translated partner. "Just as the rib is found at the side of the man and is attached to him, even so the good wife, the rib of her husband, stand at his side to be his helper-counterpart, and her soul is bound up with his."
While some may bristle at the thought of being called a mere helper, we need only to look at the pages of Scripture to see helper is a place of great honor. The word helper that is used for woman (ezer) is derived from the Hebrew word used of God and the Holy Spirit (azar). Both mean helper -- one who comes alongside to aid or assist. King David wrote, "O Lord, be Thou my helper" (Psalm 30:10) -"The LORD is with me; he is my helper" (Psalm 118:7) Moses said of God, "My father's God was my helper; he saved me from the sword of the Pharaoh" (Exodus 18:4). In the New Testament, Jesus told the disciples that when He ascended to heaven, His Father would send them another Helper, the Holy Spirit (John 14:16). When we consider that the same word is used for "woman", we should feel honored!
Today, think about your relationship with your husband. Are you a completer or a competer? Are you a helper or a hindrance? Determine in your heart to be all that God intended you to be as a wife to your man.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am constantly amazed that You saw fit to bring me and my husband together. I admit that sometimes I am more of a hindrance to him than a helper, more of a competer than a completer. Help me to look for ways that I can be partner with him to complete him. I do want to be the wife that You created me to be. Help me to listen to Your still small voice when You convict me that I am not.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What comes to mind when you read in the Bible that you were created to be a "helper?"
Considering that the same word is used of the Holy Spirit, how does that change your initial reaction?
What are some ways that you can be a helper to your husband this week?
What are some ways that you can be his completer?
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February 16, 2009
Getting Past Your Past
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 1:7 He (God) is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven. (NLT)
Friend To Friend
One of the key factors in my ongoing battle with clinical depression is dealing with and letting go of past sin and pain. If I am not careful, the shadows of yesterday can so easily become the dark clouds of today. In order to deal with depression and the darkness life can hold, we must deal with sin -- first, in a personal relationship with Christ and then on a daily basis as a believer.
Every believer has two problems when it comes to dealing with sin. First, we must confess sin. I know it sounds simple but so many of us have lost our sensitivity to sin because we are aligned with the world instead of with God. The mark of a believer growing in grace is sensitivity to sin. When I was a little girl, I rarely wore shoes, but when the first day of summer came along, I kicked off my shoes and stored them in my closet -- wearing them only when necessary. Even now, I can remember the painful sensations of playing on the gravel road beside our house those first days of summer vacation. The sharp rocks cut and bruised my tender feet but by summer's end, my feet were rough and calloused. I could run, jump and play for hours on the rocks that had once caused so much pain.
Sin is much the same. The first time we commit a sin, it breaks our heart, but the next time we commit that same sin, it doesn't seem quite as bad. Our heart becomes calloused to that sin we repeatedly commit and a foothold is formed, making a place for depression and darkness to reside. We must confess sin completely, confidently and continually. Jesus is faithful and will keep His promise to forgive and to cleanse us from all sin.
Psalm 103:12 (NIV) As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
The second problem we have with sin is forgetting forgiven sin. Is it even possible to experience true forgiveness? While we can't totally blot out a memory, we can make sure it's no longer a live issue in our life. God's way seems too easy -- to just ask and receive. We act as if the Holy Spirit needs our help or as if what Jesus did on the cross was not enough. We feel like we must make additional payments for our sin by doing something when Micah 7:19 is clear about God's attitude toward our sin, "Once again you will have compassion on us. You will trample our sins under your feet and throw them into the depths of the ocean." (NLT) The problem comes when we revisit confessed sin, when we "go fishing" in the waters of our past.
Sometimes, the core of clinical depression or any pit in life is riddled with sin we have never acknowledged or dealt with. Guilt and shame surround each transgression and since condemnation seems like the logical solution, we allow the darkness to consume us as payment for each sin. An important part of the battle with the darkness of depression is the deliberate choice to face and deal with sin.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to live today while carrying the baggage of my past. Please give me the courage to face the sins I have tried so hard to bury. Help me to turn away from each one, leaving it in Your hands. Thank You, Lord, for Your grace, Your mercy and Your love. Please fill my heart with the light of Your forgiveness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In order to deal with the sin in your life, consider the following action steps.
I understand that forgiveness requires repentance.
I choose to confront and turn from the sin in my life.
I am willing to destroy any paths that might lead to that same sin.
I trust God for the power to practice repentance and praise Him for the forgiveness He offers.
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Today's devotion can and will change your life if you apply it personally. You don't have to understand it all to have it all, girlfriend. Accept His love. Surrender the pain and sin of your past to His forgiveness and healing power. Come to Him just as you are. If you want to hear more about dealing with sin, get Mary's CD, How to Get Past Your Past.
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February 17, 2009
A Husband's Prayer Warrior
Sharon Jaynes
In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's devotions will focus on marriage during the month of February.
Today's Truth
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Of all the roles and responsibilities that God has given us as wives, the position of prayer warrior or intercessor is perhaps the greatest of all. An intercessor is a person who intervenes or prays for another person. It was derived from the Greek word, enteuxis, which means to go before a King with a petition or plea on behalf of someone else.
In essence, it means the same thing today. We go before the King of Kings with a petition or plea on our husbands' behalf. What we accomplish on our knees in the invisible realm will ultimately affect the strength of our marriage in the visible realm. There is no other person who is more called or more qualified to pray for your man than you.
In the Bible, God describes the marriage of a man and a woman as a visual example of the spiritual union between Jesus Christ and the church (all Christians). Believers are called "the bride of Christ" (Revelation 19:7). We are walking, talking, earthly examples of the heavenly relationship between God's Son and those who believe on His name. God instructs men, "Love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25).
There is someone who wants to destroy that living example, and his name is Satan. Jesus said, "The thief (Satan) comes to steal, kill, and destroy" (John 10:10). He desires to destroy the God ordained and designed institution of marriage. He began with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and continues his destructive tactics even today. Satan is not very creative, but he's very effective, and he uses the same temptations and tactics today that he used in the first marriage on earth. Satan has proclaimed an all out assault on the family and he begins at the top -- with the husband and wife.
So many times, we fail to see the real enemy in our marital struggles. The writer of Ephesians explains, "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12). When I am having a conflict with my husband, I need to stop, take a deep breath, and think...who is the real enemy here? While there is a spiritual battle raging all around us that we can't even see, there is an even greater reality that our five senses detect. It is a battle that is not to be feared, but one that is to be recognized and fought the only place where it can be won -- in prayer.
Let's Pray:
Dear Lord, I pray for my husband, from head to toe.
His Head --That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
His Mind -- That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes --That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears -- That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth -- That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:1)
His Neck -- That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart -- That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms -- That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands -- That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His Feet -- That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
Now It's Your Turn
Consider asking your husband for some specific ways that you can pray for him today.
Look up each of the Scripture references above and make the prayer for your husband specific to his particular needs.
Find one friend with whom you can pray for your marriage. Commit to pray for each other's marriage on a regular basis.
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Praying for your husband is one of your most important roles as a wife. If you would like a more comprehensive list of Scriptural prayers to pray for your husband, you can find them in Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Also, Sharon has the prayer above laminated on a prayer card that can be tucked in your Bible for easy reference. Just log onto www.sharonjaynes.com and click on Books and audio.
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February 18, 2009
How to Deal With Stress
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the LORD Forever."(Psalm 23:1-6 NIV)
Friend To Friend
As I drove home from a busy day of running errands, my thoughts drifted to the absurd schedule through which I had hurled myself that day. It was a schedule without margins, every moment assigned to something or someone. My stress level grew with every task, threatening to overwhelm my heart and soul in a torrential downpour of anxiety and tension. I couldn't wait to get home, change into my comfort clothes and sink into solitude and rest. But stress was waiting to greet me, just inside my front door. Children needed clean clothes, hot food, transportation to various events, help with homework and a listening ear. My husband had experienced the same kind of chaotic day I had and was in desperate need of peace and quiet for his frazzled soul. Ah, life!
Stress is a familiar and faithful companion, an unavoidable part of life. It doesn't matter where we work or live, whether we are married or single; have no children or dozens of them, are filthy rich or dirt poor. We will encounter stress as we strive to honor God by becoming His fully devoted followers. Unless we learn how to manage stress -- God's way - we will become a sitting duck for the enemy.
Stress management is a spiritual discipline. The truth of Psalm 23:1 is the starting place for dealing with stress. Life begins here -- in a vital, personal relationship with the living, peace giving God. It is very frustrating to try living the Christian life when you are not one. I know. For years, I tried desperately to be a Christian, saved by knowledge and good works. It simply cannot be done. To know who we are, we must understand whose we are.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words and did all the right things. I prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for God. During a Saturday evening worship service, I sat in a church pew, wrestling with God over my soul. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist in worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I argued that I knew all about God -- and then it hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I did not know Him. That night we met. I surrendered all I knew about myself to all I knew about Him. The course of my life was re-set and I was changed forever.
Over the years, there have been times when sin has hindered my relationship with God - but it has not and cannot sever that relationship. Nothing can separate us from His love. However, when we cherish and harbor sin, life inevitably spirals into a swirling cesspool of chaos where stress reigns and self-doubt flourishes. What a powerful promise found in 1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sin, He is faithful to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness". Every time I read that verse, I am amazed by the hope it conveys. When we confess sin, God not only forgives that sin but removes the stain it leaves behind. The stain of sin is one of Satan's favorite weapons. With it, he births guilt and shame, crippling us spiritually. When we buy into those lies, allowing them free reign, we are telling God that sending His son to die on the cross was not enough. I cannot even imagine what it must do to His heart, as He watches His children settle for so little when He offers so much. Knowing whose we are empowers us to live and serve from His love -- not to it -- and is the first key in dealing with stress.
I have spent a great deal of my life wondering who and what I am. Much of my stress and frustration could have been avoided by understanding that my identity can only be found in a personal relationship with God. That knowledge frees me to be me. Knowing whose we are brings peace and settles our souls. Today, sit at His feet. Allow Him to draw you into His arms. Listen to His heart and voice. And you will know that you belong to Him. Nothing else matters.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me and for making me Your child. As I face each day, help me to remember that I belong to You, and because I belong to You, I have everything I need and can dwell in peace. Today, I choose to trust and rest in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify the most stressful areas of your life. Read Psalm 23 every day this month, committing each one of these areas to the Shepherd. As you walk through each stress-filled day, lean on the truths of this psalm. At the end of the month, evaluate your stress level.
I encourage you to list the sins that stand between you and God. Face them, deal with them and turn away from them. Perhaps you have sinned against someone. Don't wait another minute. Ask their forgiveness. Sin that has never been confessed is a stronghold of the enemy from which he dispenses guilt, condemnation and stress.
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February 19, 2009
Scripture as a Guide for Prayer
Sharon Jaynes
In Celebration of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.
Today's Truth
"And now I will show you the most excellent way" (1 Corinthians 12:31b NIV).
Friend To Friend
Most of us married women would agree that we long to be the woman of our husband's dreams. But I have a question. Why? Is it so we can get what we want in the long run? Is it so that when he sees how irresistible we are he'll magically become the man of our dreams meeting our every need?
Those are good questions -- tough questions. But becoming the woman of his dreams won't happen until we decide we would rather win his heart than win the battle, do right than be right, give more than get more, wrap our arms around him instead of wrap him around our little finger. Becoming the woman of his dreams involves sacrifice. It involves respecting him as a man and a leader, adoring him as the one who makes your heart skip a beat, initiating intimate friendship through creating commonalities, safeguarding your marriage by putting him second only to God, encouraging him in his pursuits and dreams, and sexually fulfilling him. Many times this means denying ourselves and putting our man's needs above our own.
Did you realize we can even pray for our husbands with wrong motives? James said, "When you ask you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives that you may spend what you get on your pleasures" (James 4:3). Ouch! Does that mean I can't pray that Steve will change his mind about that new den sofa I want? Hmmm. The goal for praying for our husband is not to get them to do what we want but for them to do what God wants.
Hollywood tells us that we will be happy when we "find the right person." However, I have discovered that a successful marriage occurs when we become the right person. "For years I prayed that God would change my husband," Denise told me. "Our marriage went from bad to worse and we ended separated and headed for divorce. Then I began to read about what it meant to be a godly wife. In the world's eyes, I was doing a pretty good job. In God's eyes, I was missing the mark. So I began to pray -- this time for my own heart. God gave me the answer to my prayer to change my husband...He changed me."
How do we begin to pray like the woman of our man's dreams? A good place to start is by looking at the Bible's definition of love found in 1 Corinthians 13. I love to use Scripture as a guide for prayer, so I'm going to pattern today's prayer after this wonderful chapter on love. As a matter-of-fact, the verse that introduces this chapter says it well, "And now I will show you the most excellent way" (1 Corinthians 12:31b).
Let's Pray
If I teach Bible study classes, volunteer for the church women's ministry, and sing in the choir, but do not love my husband, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have a college degree, high paying job, and successful career, but do not love my husband, I am emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. If I have faith that can move mountains, am quick to pray for those in need, and even have half the Bible memorized, but do not love my husband, I am disobedient and do not please God. If I keep a spotless house, maintain a well manicured lawn, and prepare nutritionally balanced meals, but do not love my husband, it is all for naught. Hired hands can do as much.
Lord, help me to be patient. Help me to be kind. I pray that I will not envy others who have seemingly happier marriages and husbands that are more helpful around the house, thoughtful, or romantic. I pray that I will never try to lift myself up by putting my husband down. Lord, I pray that I will not be a proud woman who refuses to listen to her husband, who always has to have the last word, who always thinks her way is best. I pray that I will not be rude to my husband with curt comments, disregard his needs, and be ungrateful for all he does and is, but treat him with the respect and honor that the king of a castle deserves.
I pray that I will not be self seeking, always thinking about what is best for me, but thinking of what would be best for my husband. I pray that I will not be angered easily, not hold a grudge, not keep a record of wrongs, not plan ways to retaliate, and not use my tongue as a weapon to cause pain. I pray that I will not rejoice and say "I told you so" when things don't work out the way my husband hoped.
Lord, above all, I pray that my husband will see me as his chief cheerleader who desires to rejoice with him in his victories, both big and small. He will see me as one who longs to protect our marriage and our love. Help me to create a warm and loving environment in which he feels safe, wanted, and revered. I pray that you will give me endurance when things get tough. Help the word divorce to never enter my mind or cross my lips as an option. Lord, I know that love never fails and that You never fail. Fill me with your Holy Spirit to give me the endurance to stand up under trials and love my husband as You would have me love him -- till death do us part.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's application step is very simple. Open your Bible to 1 Corinthians 13 and pray those words over yourself as you love your husband.
If you are not married, open your Bible to 1 Corinthians 13 and pray those words over the significant people in your life.
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February 20 ,2009
Do You Love Being Loved?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." (Zephaniah 3:17)
Friend to Friend
Every once in a while one of my children surprises me with unexpected sweetness. Don't get me wrong. My kids are sweet on a regular basis, but I'm talking about a special, take-my-breath-away sweetness that creates a time capsule moment for my mommy heart. A moment that I'll remember forever.
I had one of those special conversations recently with my nine year-old son, Hunter. It was bedtime. Teeth were brushed. Jammies were on. Prayers had been prayed. The smell of Pantene lingered from his freshly showered head as I brushed a stray hair from his eye. That's when he initiated "project: unexpected sweetness" with an innocent question: "Mommy, do you know what I love?"
"What do you love, Hunter?" I asked quietly.
"I love being loved," he said. "Yep. I really love being loved."
As I lay beside him in the dark room I could scarcely process the vast paradox of his statement. It was the simplest of thoughts, delightfully honest, yet one of the most profound and insightful statements I've ever heard come from his lips. From his heart.
When he spoke those four little words, "I love being loved," he communicated several things to me:
He knew he was loved.
His love tank was full.
His greatest need is love.
Like Hunter, our greatest need is also to be loved. To feel safe, adored, and content in love.
I don't know where this devotion finds you this morning, but I sense God nudging me to tell you that He loves you. Completely. Perfectly. Eternally. (Yes, I'm talking to you!) He knows your name, He knows your heart, He knows your circumstances, and He hears your prayers. He loves you and desires for you to rest in His love.
God's love is not based on performance or beauty. It's not based on position or abilities. Many times we mistakenly think that if we could just do this or that better -- that God would love us more. That if we just hadn't done this or that -- God would love us more. The truth is this: God will never love you more or less...no matter what. His love is complete and you are the object of His heart. Savor the special sweetness of God's love for you today. Linger on thoughts of His affection for you.
The Bible tells us, "...that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
No matter what you've believed in the past, choose by faith to believe this now: you are valued, priceless, and adored by God. "Take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:18--19, MSG).
Let's Pray
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen" (Ephesians 3:16-21).
Amen? Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Do you know that you're loved? I'm sure that you're familiar with the famous Scripture verse John 3:16. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." Read it again, but this time, insert your name in replacement of "the world."
"For God so loved _______________ that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
God loves you and takes pleasure when you go to Him. Why? Because you're His. Made in His image. Restored to His heart through Jesus Christ. Allow Him to quiet you with His love today. Spend a few moments in prayer right now. Thank Him for His love. Worship at His feet. Be still before Him.
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February 23, 2009
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
The One Thing He Can't Do Without
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly." (Ephesians 5:33 AMP)
Friend To Friend
I've been shut up, shut down, shot down, ridiculed, disregarded, over looked, over booked, and overwhelmed...I know I was made for a reason. I know that, in God's eyes, I count. So, I simply want to find someone who believes in me.
No, these are not the lyrics from the latest country song. They are the lament from one of my survey respondents when I asked hundreds of men what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams. It seems Aretha Franklin isn't the only one who wants a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t these days. One area that rated very high in my survey of men describing the wife of their dreams was RESPECT. Webster defines respect as the special esteem or consideration in which one holds another person or thing, the state or quality of being esteemed, to feel or show consideration to. It's the one thing a happy husband can't do without.
God's Command
In the Bible, Paul wrote to both men and women about their various roles in marriage. In the book of Ephesians he wrote, "Each one of you (men) also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (Ephesians 5:33). Now that doesn't mean that husbands don't have to respect their wives or wives don't have to love their husbands. I believe Paul was summing up what was paramount for both men and women. We want to be loved and cherished just like our husbands want to be honored and respected.
Another reason I believe that Paul admonishes wives to respect their husbands is because he knew that after years of mistakes, poor choices, wrong decisions, and smelly socks, respect may not come naturally for a wife. It may well take an act of obedience empowered by the Holy Spirit within.
But how do you respect someone who vegetates watching TV all the time? How do you respect someone who sits around waiting for the right job to come along when you're working yourself to death trying to keep food on the table? (You may need to stop and quietly put that responsibility back where it belongs.) How do your respect someone who apparently has no respect for himself? It may seem impossible, but as the angel asked Abraham, "Is anything too hard for the LORD?" (Genesis 18:14). The same God who parted the sea for the Israelites to walk across on dry land, who caused the walls of Jericho to fall with a shout, who kept Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego from even having a hint of smoke as they exited the fiery furnace, who caused flesh to reappear on the fingerless hands of lepers, who made a man blind from birth see, and who raised Lazarus from the dead -- that same God can give you the power to respect your husband. It all begins with prayer and follows with obedience close behind. "There is incomparable great power available to those who believe" (Ephesians 1:19).
In the Bible, power always follows obedience. As soon as the high priests crossing the Jordan placed their feet in the water, the river parted. (Joshua 3:15-16) As soon as the rotting lepers turned toward Jerusalem to tell the priests they were healed, their skin began to heal (Luke 17:14). As soon as Namaan dipped into the river seven times as the prophet Elijah had commanded, his leprosy began to disappear (2 Kings 5:14). The miracle didn't come before they obeyed, but after they obeyed. Do you want to see a miracle unfold before your eyes like the petals of a rose unfolding? Obey God. An amazing thing happens when we begin to show respect to our husbands. They begin to act respectable.
Let's go back to Paul's letter to the Ephesians. I love how the amplified version expounds on Ephesians 5:33. "Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly." What a power packed verse!
Carol Ladd, author of The Power of a Positive Wife, said, "Respect is wrapped up in the beautiful paper of kind and gentle words and tied with the enormous ribbons of a loving spirit." Respect is one of the most beautiful gifts a wife can give.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for my husband. Help me to be the wife that he needs in all areas of my life. Help me to respect, revere, regard, honor, prefer and esteem him greatly. Not only that, but help me to show it in my words and actions so that there is no doubt in his mind just how much I love him.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
During the reign of King David, he brought the once captured Ark of the Covenant back to Israel. It was one of the grandest moments in his life. Read the account recorded in 2 Samuel 6 and answer the following questions:
How did David's wife, Michal, react to David's outward praise of God (6:16,20)?
What was David's response to her? (6:21)
What was the outcome of her disrespect? (6:23)
What can we learn from her lack of respect?
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February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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February 24, 2009
Celebrate Jesus
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Then God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins. He canceled the record that contained the charges against us. He took it and destroyed it by nailing it to Christ's cross." Colossians 2:13-14 (NLT)
Friend To Friend
I love the story of a man who came home from work, picked up the paper and settled into his favorite chair for a few precious and well-deserved moments of solitude after a long day at work. He had just begun to relax when his son burst through the front door. Spotting his dad, the little boy raced across the room, flung himself against his father's knees and said, "Daddy, I love you!" The father gave him a pat on the head and said rather absentmindedly, "Yes, Son, I love you, too!" Picking up his paper, the father continued reading - but the boy was not satisfied. He leaned a little further into the newspaper barricade and said, "But Daddy, I really, really love you." The man took a deep breath, put the paper down and hugging the boy said, "Yes, Son. I love you just as much!" Again, he picked the paper up and resumed reading. Finally, the little boy could not stand it any longer! He jumped up on his father's lap, crushing the newspaper and any thoughts of relaxation the dad might have had. "Son, what is it that you want?" the father tiredly asked. In response, the boy threw his arms around his dad and gave him a big squeeze, explaining, "I love you so much, Daddy and I've just got to do something about it!"
That is exactly what God said to Jesus. "Son, I love them so much that I have to do something about it!" Then He sent His one and only perfect Son to earth where He would live and die for you and for me. God's love is an unconditional love -- a love with no strings attached -- a love worth celebrating!
In the bible, we find the story of a sinful woman, a prostitute who had spent her entire life seeking a love with no strings attached. Then Jesus came to town and into her life, and everything changed. When Simon, one of the local Pharisees, invited Jesus to his home for dinner, the sinful woman walked through her shame and fear, and went to meet Jesus. Everyone at the party, including Simon, knew who she was. Simon would never have allowed this kind of woman to enter his home, but when a Rabbi was invited to someone's house, others could stop by and listen to the conversation. She came, knowing that everyone at the party would recognize and judge her, but her desire to meet Jesus was greater than her pride.
Emptiness and sin eating away at her soul, this woman was tired of being used, unwanted and unloved. She came, and Jesus met her there, love and forgiveness in His hands. As the love of Jesus enveloped her very soul, she fell at His feet, weeping tears of worship and praise. Her natural response was to love Him so much that she had to do something about it! In her hands was her most precious possession, a bottle of very expensive perfume she used in her "business". This woman was not wealthy by any means and worked the streets, selling her body in order to live. She could have put a small amount on the feet of Jesus and it would have been a great financial sacrifice. But she brought it all and gave it all! She came, totally abandoning herself and all she had to Jesus. His response was to love her, unconditionally and completely.
Like this sinful woman, we are spiritually bankrupt, looking for love in all the wrong places. Jesus came, spelling Himself out in a language you and I can understand -- a message of love. There is no condemnation with Him, friend. He adores you just as you are. He wants to spend time with you, laugh with you, dry your tears and fill your heart with new dreams. Today, no matter where you are or where you have been, He stands waiting for you. Come to Him. No matter how ugly the sin or how great the failure, He loves you. Come to His love. Celebrate Jesus!
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize Your unconditional love for me. I do not understand it or deserve it but I know that it is available to me. Thank You for loving me! Today, I accept and celebrate Your love, coming just as I am. Please forgive my sin and cleanse my heart and soul. I surrender to You, Your love and Your plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Right now -- celebrate God's unconditional love. Read and memorize Romans 8:38-39.
Right now -- celebrate your spiritual bankruptcy. Read and memorize Romans 3:23.
Right now -- celebrate God's payment for your sin. Read and memorize John 3:16.
Right now -- celebrate and walk, by faith, in His unconditional love and forgiveness! Read and memorize Romans 5:5.
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I can get so busy that I tend to go through each day, unaware of God's work around me. I take His unconditional love for granted. I forget just how much Jesus paid with His death on the cross so that I can take each step of my day in peace and victory. Join me in making a new commitment to celebrate Jesus every moment ... of every day. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to plug God's truth into your daily life.
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February 25, 2009
Can You Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too?
Sharon Jaynes
(If you are single, you're not off the hook here. Keep reading.)
Today's Truth
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).
Friend To Friend
Sitting in a waiting room, I rummaged through stacks of magazines to pass the time. A magazine for families, I thought as I picked up a popular title. That ought to be safe.
Thumbing through the pages, I went directly to the "Family Matters" column to see what the culture was teaching these days. The title? "Why You Can Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too." I turned back to the cover to make sure I had not inadvertently picked up Cosmopolitan or The National Inquirer. Nope it was a magazine for families -- targeted at wives and mothers.
This is some of what the author had to say:
Last spring I found myself applying a pretty shade of pink lipstick before heading off to the nursery to buy annuals. Why the fuss? I hoped to run into the handsome gentleman who worked there....According to experts, married crushes are natural and common. As long as you don't let them develop into full blown fantasies or consider acting upon them, these minor attractions can actually help you appreciate your spouse more...Infatuations offer a safe break from the marital routine. Everyday life is a bit humdrum, making it hard to maintain a passionate connection all the time...
Well friends, there is another expert on marriage who was not quoted in this article and his teaching is the antithesis of this one. His name is Jesus. This is what He has to say about infatuation with the delivery boy, flirting with the man at the nursery, or cattily toying with a coworker in the next cubicle.
"You have heard it said, do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:29).
Looking at another man with a flirtatious eye is such a serious offense that Jesus went on to say, "If you right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away." (Matthew 5:28). Now, don't worry. I'm not going to tell you to pluck out your eye if you do have a crush on the buff young man who bags your produce at the grocery store, but I am telling you that you might need to shop elsewhere. I am saying that if you find yourself adding a bit of lip gloss before heading to the post office where the cute blond with the steel blue eyes always greets you like you've made his day, you need to forget the gloss and go to another post office. And that man in the next cubicle who always showers you with compliments and makes your heart skip a beat? I think Jesus is saying to pluck it out, change cubicles, or even more drastic, change jobs.
Perhaps you think I've gone just a bit too far. I imagine the folks listening to Jesus' advice about running from temptation thought so too. The truth is, I've never know one woman who had an affair which did not begin with a toying glance or flirtatious "innocent" bantering. Every sin begins with a thought and every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind.
Let's face it, women long to feel beautiful. After being married for a few years and having a baby or two, we begin to wonder if we are still pretty or sexually appealing. Then a man comes along who pays us a compliment and our hearts skip a beat. That is natural. However, if that compliment or attention leads to infatuation, returning for more, or a "crush" as the article implied, Jesus tells us to turn and run in the opposite direction...press the delete button...and avoid reply. "Flee sexual immorality" (I Corinthians 6:18). This is serious...pluck it out.
It is interesting that when Satan tempted Eve in the garden, the first step to her downfall was her eyes. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye...." (Genesis 3:6). It all began with her eyes...what she looked at. I wonder what would have happened if she had chosen to look away.
The above article had very little to do with Brad Pitt or Mel Gibson, but more to say about men we meet everyday. Honestly, had it been Brad or Mel, I might have had a chuckle. But this article was encouraging women to play with fire. The author went on to say...
Whether you have a soft spot for Mel Gibson or Mel the mailman, make sure your husband knows that a crush doesn't change the way you feel about him. We all want to know that we are number one in our spouse's life. As for me, I told my husband about the man at the nursery. 'Going to see your boyfriend?' he teased as I headed out the door to buy mulch. Later I assured him that while Garden Guy knew the best cure for aphids; he could never melt my heart.
I read that and tried to imagine my husband, Steve, saying to me...."Honey, I want to tell you that I have a crush on the check out girl at Home Depot, but I still love you the best." I get a queasy feeling just thinking about such a conversation. Yet, this is what the "family magazine" was suggesting for women of the new millennium. No wonder the divorce rate in this country is 50% and rising.
But what if you are single? Does this apply to you? Absolutely! The enemy would like nothing better than for you, in your singleness, to fantasize about a man that you see on a regular basis. He would like your mind to go where it need not go. He knows that singleness can be a lonely place and he is an equal opportunity tempter.
Bottom line? "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23). The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to guard my heart today and every day. Help me to recognize temptation and flee -- run in the opposite direction. I know that temptation is not a toy to be played with, but an evil weapon against me to be destroyed. Thank You for giving me the power of the Holy Spirit to resist temptation and the power of the Truth in Scripture to fight the lies that it would bring pleasure.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there any area in your life where you are toying with temptation?
If you are single, have you been entertaining a relationship that would not be pleasing to God?
Go back and print off today's devotion. Highlight the various verses and commit them to memory. Make them part of your arsenal to resist temptation.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities every man longs for. If you would like to learn more about how to have a wonderful marriage, this book is for you. And, if you would like to learn more about how to resist the lies of the enemy in every area of life, you'll want to see Sharon's latest release, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves.
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February 26, 2009
A Satisfied Soul
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days." (Psalm 90:14, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Our souls constantly demand to be fed, and make no mistake about it: if God does not have the proper place in your life, your soul will remain hungry. When I invite God into my days, I experience His satisfying presence no matter what I face. But when I don't set aside time to pray, when I don't read my Bible, and when I don't praise, I get hungry. Really hungry ... and grouchy.
Christians are hungry people. Just like the Israelites who wandered in the desert, we need God's daily bread, His spiritual manna. Jesus taught us to ask for a daily portion. In the New Testament book of Matthew, Jesus took a moment to teach His followers how to pray. In that prayer, commonly referred to as the Lord's Prayer, He said, "Give us today our daily bread" (Matthew 6:11, emphasis mine).
He didn't ask to be fed for an entire week--just for today.
We would be wise to do the same.
Some people might think that once we become Christians all of our spiritual hunger subsides. Not so! I've found that the more I get to know God, the more I want to know Him. The more I experience His peace, presence, and power in my life, the more I want to experience His peace, presence, and power. I crave Him more.
In John 4:13, Jesus says to a Samaritan woman at Jacob's well, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again." He was referring to the water in the well and a body's physical thirst. But then He tells her what He can offer her soul: "but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life" (v. 14).
Jesus also addressed spiritual thirst and hunger when He spoke to a large crowd outside Capernaum. The day before, He had met their physical need by miraculously feeding over five thousand hungry people on a hill near the Sea of Galilee. But on this day, the crowds questioned him about what God wanted them to do. Jesus told them that they must "believe in the one [God] has sent" (John 6:29). (God isn't satisfied by what we do, but by whom we believe.) From there, the conversation went like this:
So they asked him, "What miraculous sign then will you give that we may see it and believe you? What will you do? Our forefathers ate the manna in the desert; as it is written: 'He gave them bread from heaven to eat.'"
Jesus said to them, "I tell you the truth, it is not Moses who has given you the bread from heaven, but it is my Father who gives you the true bread from heaven. For the bread of God is he who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world."
"Sir," they said, "from now on give us this bread."
Then Jesus declared, "I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty" (John 6:30-35).
In his book, Come Thirsty, Max Lucado writes:
You're acquainted with physical thirst. Stop drinking and see what happens. Coherent thoughts vanish, skin grows clammy, and vital organs shut down. Deprive your body of necessary fluid, and it will tell you.
Deprive your soul of spiritual water, and it will tell you. Dehydrated hearts send desperate messages. Snarling tempers. Waves of worry. Growing guilt and fear. Hopelessness. Resentment. Loneliness. Insecurity.
But you don't have to live with a dehydrated heart. God invites you to treat your thirsty soul as you would treat your physical thirst. Just visit the WELL and drink deeply.
Every day we eat bread (food) to keep us healthy and strong. We stay healthy and strong spiritually by continually communing with Jesus. He calls Himself the Bread of Life as well as the Living Water. In order for food and water to sustain and strengthen us physically, we must eat and drink it. Likewise, we need to call on Jesus each day to sustain us spiritually. Call on Him now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for the invitation to come, eat, drink, and be satisfied in You. You are all that I need, and more than enough. I pray that You will bear the weight of the burdens on my heart today, and ask that You would fill my soul with Your rest. Finally, please increase my cravings for You, Lord -- so that you can be glorified in and through my life. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Spending time with the Lord through His Word is one great way to feed your soul. Read and meditate on Psalm 63:1-8.
Read it silently the first time, then read it again out loud.
When have you witnessed God's power in your life? Thank Him!
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Although your physical cravings might include dark chocolate, coffee, and warm, fresh bread - your soul constantly craves intimacy with God. Spend some time worshiping Him today. Sing to Him. Gwen's Unsearchable CD is a live worship recording, filled with songs that illuminate the immeasurable goodness of God.
Today's devotion includes excerpts from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, singer and Gwen invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
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February 27, 2009
Get ready!
Mary Southerland
Today's truth
"Be careful! Watch out for attacks from the Devil, your great enemy. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for some victim to devour." 1 Peter 5:8 (NLT)
Friend to Friend
During the first week of boot camp, the new recruits were taking a written examination. When one of them was asked why he wasn't working, he replied, "Sir, I have neither paper nor pencil." "Well," exclaimed the instructor, "what would you think of a soldier who went into battle with neither rifle nor ammunition?" The recruit thought for a moment, and then answered, "I'd think he was an officer, sir."
Unfortunately, too many Christians today think they are "officers" in God's army and don't really have to prepare for the battle. Not true and very dangerous thinking! The best way to avoid sin is to stay prepared to face temptation. The minute that we let our guard down or the minute that we are unprepared, the enemy strikes. We must take three actions in order to be on guard against temptation.
· Action One: Be alert.
"Alert" literally means "to stay on guard" or "to keep watch". Our Father wants us to stay alert and always be on guard! Columnist Herb Caen wrote in the San Francisco Chronicle: "Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up knowing that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed. And every morning a lion wakes up knowing that it must outrun the slowest gazelle or it will starve to death. It doesn't matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle; when the sun comes up you'd better be running." It doesn't matter how long we have known God, we must get up each day, prepared to guard against sin, knowing we will face temptation. The best way to stay alert and the greatest deterrent to sin is the word of God!
Psalm 119:11 "I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." (NIV)
It is important to remember that God's truth came before Satan's lies. When God's truth comes first in our lives, we will be able to recognize the lies of Satan and temptation will be easier to withstand. When we get away from God's word, however, we become an easy target for temptation and sin. Sin will keep us from God's Word or God's Word will keep us from sin.
Eve either did not know God's command very well or she chose to forget God's command. When Jesus went into the wilderness and was tempted, He won the battle of temptation by using the word of God. Every time Satan tempted Him, Jesus responded with scripture. If it was good enough for Jesus, it is good enough for us. The best way to prepare for temptation is by knowing the Word of God.
· Action Two: Pray continually.
Paul tells us in 1 Thessalonians 5:17 to "never stop praying". But many times, we pray only as a last resort. I read about a kindergarten class that went to the fire station for a tour. The fireman was explaining what to do in case of a fire. "First go to the door and feel the door to see if it's hot. If it is hot, fall to your knees! Does anyone know why you should fall to your knees?" A little voice spoke up, "Yeah, to start praying and asking God to get us out of this mess!" How true!
The power to withstand temptation comes from a praying heart. The devil will do anything to keep us from praying! He laughs at our religious activities and mocks our human wisdom, but he trembles when we pray! I wonder what choice Eve would have made if she had talked to God about Satan's temptations.
· Action 3: Practice self-control.
James 1:14-15 "Temptation comes from the lure of our own evil desires. These evil desires lead to evil actions, and evil actions lead to death."
Temptation is the first step on the road to sin. It begins in human desire and can stop there if we learn how to control those desires. While speaking for a conference in Sterling, Colorado, I often saw cows on the country roads. I even spotted a sign that read "If you hit a cow you pay for the cow". A local farmer explained that cows often escape and get lost. When I asked how a cow could possibly get lost he explained, "Well, the cow starts nibbling on a patch of green grass. When it finishes it looks ahead to the next patch of grass and starts nibbling on that one. Then it nibbles on a clump of grass right next to a hole in the fence. On the other side of the fence is another patch of grass, which the cow nibbles. The next thing you know, the cow has nibbled itself into being lost." Sin is not usually one giant leap but the result of many small steps. Eve chose to give in to, rather than control her natural desires and physical appetites.
Genesis 3:6 "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it." (NIV)
Today, we are tempted just like Eve was tempted. When she ate that fruit, it was more than just a rebellious act. It was choosing to value her own desires over God's will. It was choosing to believe the lies of Satan. Adam was just as guilty as Eve - not just because he ate the fruit but because he said nothing. Silence is always agreement. Self-control is the choice to do the right thing in preparation for facing temptation. To win the war with temptation we must be prepared by staying alert, praying continually and practicing self-control.
Let's Pray
Lord, today I choose to become a student of the bible. Strengthen me through your truth and empower me to stand against temptation and sin. I also choose to make prayer a natural part of every day. Make me more aware of your presence and power, Lord. I want to be a godly woman, a woman of discipline, a woman whose life honors you and draws other to you. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Recognize the power of prayer against temptation.
· Admit that you have allowed the enemy to "sneak" into your life.
· Identify the areas in your life that are out of control.
· Choose to surrender those areas to God.
· Make me aware of your power and presence in my life.
More From The Girlfriends
We are all in the same boat when it comes to facing temptation, but some of us are more prepared than others to face that temptation. I pray that today's devotional gives you more weapons with which to wage the battle of sin. Need help? Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey as well as free resources on my web site at www.marysoutherland.com. We are with you. Walk in victory, girlfriend!
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March 2, 2009
The Velveteen Woman
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ" (Galatians 1:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us have read or heard of the childhood classic, The Velveteen Rabbit. Perhaps you first heard the story snuggled in your mother's lap or like me, as an adult with a child snuggled in your lap. For me, The Velveteen Rabbit is a treasure I discovered in motherhood, rather than in my childhood. And like many children's books, the message carries a profound truth that resonates more with adults than with kids.
The story begins...
"There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid. He was fat and bunchy, as a rabbit should be; his coat was spotted brown and white, he had real thread whiskers, and his ears were lined with pink sateen. On Christmas morning, when he sat wedged in the top of the Boy's stocking, with a spring of holly between his paws, the effect was charming.
"The boy loved the rabbit...for at least two hours, but then he was put on the nursery shelf with all the other toys. Because he was velveteen, some of the more expensive toys snubbed him. Some of the toys boasted about being fashioned as smaller models of real things, such as boats and soldiers. But the rabbit didn't even know that there was such a thing as a real rabbit. He thought all were just as he was, stuffed with sawdust. But one night, the rabbit made a fascinating discovery.
"The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else...
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become real. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."[1]
The Velveteen Rabbit wasn't even sure what a rabbit was supposed to do. He just knew there had to be more to life than being filled with sawdust and sitting on a shelf.
Being real. That's what really matters. I don't want to wait until most of my hair has fallen out and I've lost my stuffing. I want to be real right now. So what if I don't look as shiny as the other toys in the nursery.
Yes, sometimes it is painful to become real. It takes courage. But until we do, we'll find our existence sitting on the shelves a dim reflection of the freedom and jubilant dance that God intended in the fields of life.
Join me tomorrow as we look at a man in the Bible who learned what it meant to be real.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know that You want me to be real and honest with those around me. Jesus was. He never pretended to be something that He was not and He didn't pretend not to be something that He was. I am Your child with many faults, failures and foibles. I made mistakes in my past and will make mistakes in my future. I pray that I will always have the courage to be real with those around me and never participate in religious pretending because of concern over what others may think. I'm just me: saved, sealed, delivered!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
You might be concerned that today's devotion didn't have more Scripture. So let's go ahead and prepare our hearts for tomorrow's devotion.
Read Genesis 25: 23, 24. Who was Jacob?
How did he trick his brother? (Genesis 25:29-34)
How did he trick his father? (Genesis 27)
Jacob was pretending to be someone he was not. In the end, it caused much heartache. But that's not the end of the story. Stay tuned!
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Being real is one of the theme's of Your Scars are Beautiful to God by Sharon Jaynes. God doesn't want us to hide our scars. He wants us to be real and use the scars of our past to impact those in our present! To learn more, see Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past.
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March 3, 2009
Jacob becomes Real
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ" (Galatians 1:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday we looked at the beloved children's story, the Velveteen Rabbit. Today, let's look at a man named Jacob. Jacob -- now there was a fellow who didn't know how to be real. He was the son of Isaac and the twin brother of Esau. When he was born, even though he was not the firstborn, God promised that the older (Esau) would serve the younger (Jacob). Jacob was always his momma's favorite, and she wanted to make sure he received the blessing of the firstborn. Rather than trust God to do what He said He would do, she decided to help God out a bit. So she dressed Jacob up like his hairy brother and tricked her nearly blind husband into giving Esau's blessing to Jacob. Approaching his deathbed, Isaac asked Jacob, "Are you really my son Esau?"
"I am," he lied.
So Isaac gave Esau's blessing to Jacob.
Later, when Jacob became marrying age, His father-in-law-to-be tricked him into marrying the weak-eye Leah, rather than the promised Rachel. Ah, but Jacob wouldn't be outdone. After all, he had learned from the best -- his mom. Jacob in turn tricked his father-in-law and took the best of his livestock for himself. Jacob was a trickster and he continued to be in control of his life...or so he thought.
But there came a time in Jacob's life when he couldn't control his circumstances. He was heading back to his homeland to face his brother Esau...the one from whom he had stolen his birthright and inheritance. Would Esau kill him? Would Esau welcome him? Would Esau slay his family? Would Esau forgive him? All these questions and more tumbled around in Jacob's mind.
The night before he was to come face to face with his brother, Jacob had a close encounter of the heavenly kind. In Genesis chapter 32 we read about his wrestling match with an angel. For years Jacob had been trying to control and manage his life on his own terms. But he knew he had no control over what was going to happen the next day when he faced Esau. All night Jacob wrested with the angel, trying to convince the angel to bless him. But before that could happen, Jacob had to face reality.
When Jacob's father, Isaac, had asked him, "Who are you?" Jacob had pretended to be someone he was not and answered... "Esau." During the wrestling match, the angel gave Jacob another chance to right that wrong.
"What is your name?" the angel asked.
This time Jacob didn't pretend to be someone he was not, but answered truthfully. "Jacob," he replied.
No pretending, no trying to leave a good impression, no explaining, no justifying. Jacob spoke the absolute truth. Jacob -- the schemer, the deceiver, the manipulator, the con artist. That's who I am.
Once Jacob decided to be real and give up trying to be someone he was not, God empowered him with His strength and gave him a new name. No more was he Jacob the "trickster," but now he was Israel, "Prince with God." Oh yes, he walked with a limp for the rest of his life. Sometimes that's the result of being real. But that limp was a reminder to Jacob for the rest of his life that God was in control. He didn't need tricks to succeed. He just needed God.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to be real and transparent today. Thank you for accepting me just the way I am, but loving me enough not to let me stay that way.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The angel could have "taken" Joseph without a struggle at all. Why do you think the angel wrestled with Joseph?
What do you think God was trying to do with this wrestling match?
Is there a limp in your life or a scar on your soul that reminds you of a time that you wrestled with God? Are you wrestling still?
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We can have a great impact on those around us when we live an authentic Christian life. My friend Gwen calls it "organic" living. No fake stuff. No additives. Just the pure real deal. If you would like to learn more about living the authentic Christian life with no "fake stuff added," see Your Scars are Beautiful to God.
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March 4, 2009
"What's Your Temperature?"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Search Me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting"
(Psalm 139:23-24, ESV).
Friend to Friend
I got a phone call in the middle of a workday from my son Preston. He was calling from the nurse's office at the school. Here's how the conversation went:
"Hey mom. It's Preston. I'm not feeling well, and I have a temperature of 96.5. Can you come get me?"
"96.5 degrees?" I asked. "Honey, that's below normal! That doesn't sound right."
"I know," he said, "but I don't feel well. Can you please come pick me up?"
"Sure honey. I'll be right there."
I chuckled the whole way to the school at what he had said. Surely he misread the thermometer! A normal temperature is 98.6. Something was off. I got to the school in a North Carolina minute and headed straight to the nurse's office. While Preston packed up his bag to go home, I spoke privately to the school nurse. With a grin on her face, she explained to me that Preston was resistant to putting the thermometer under his tongue as she had instructed him to do. He wasn't comfortable with that. "So," she said, "he held the thermometer between his lips." The nurse and I exchanged chuckles and amused glances as I thanked her for helping my son.
Although Preston knew something wasn't right with his body, he didn't get an accurate temperature reading because he didn't place the thermometer in deep enough. He didn't let it probe past the surface.
Later that night, as I thought back on the day, the Lord spoke to my heart. He showed me that there are times when I'm resistant to an accurate reading of my spiritual wellness. Times when I won't let Him probe past the surface of my heart, my actions, my attitudes, and my perspective to allow Him to reveal an accurate spiritual temperature for my life. Times when I'm not comfortable with deeper-level stuff. Times when I don't sit still to listen.
I was disturbed by that thought. I needed to be disturbed by that thought. By that truth. I'm in full time ministry, but that doesn't mean that I'm always in perfect spiritual health. To the contrary...the more I learn about God's holiness, the more I realize how much I need His grace and strength every minute of every day.
You might not "feel well" today. Perhaps you have spiritual indigestion from your marriage, your children, your friendships, your finances, your singleness, your conversations. It could be from the shows you watch, the internet relationships you've developed, the gossip you allow to pass from your lips, the jealousy you feel in your heart. You haven't allowed your heart to be probed. You are resistant to an accurate assessment of the hurt---resistant to a true assessment of your own heart.
What's your spiritual temperature? Are you hot or cold? Is the flame of faith in your heart fading or raging? Have you sat still long enough lately to ask God to search your heart? It's time for an accurate reading.
"For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him." 2 Chronicles 16:9, NIV
Let's Pray
Holy Father, as the psalmist prayed, I ask that you would, "search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, ESV). In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a spiritual inventory today. Spend a few moments considering your spiritual wellness. What is your quiet time like? Is God a top priority in your life? Do you set aside time regularly to read your Bible? Ask God to probe your heart and reveal areas in your life that need to be made right.
Read John 15:1-11, then write a prayer response.
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The Bible tells us that God disciplines those He loves. I do realize that this devotion might have stepped on your toes today. Please know that Sharon, Mary and I are on the pruning table right there with you, and though we may not always love the sting of God's pruning, we can trust that it is for our growing and for His glory. Hope you take time for the deeper-level stuff today!
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March 5, 2009
King David's Demise
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23, 24 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several of my devotions lately have been on guarding your heart. I'd like to end the series with a look at King David.
King David was a man in the Bible who was called a "man after God's own heart." However, there was a point in his life when he let his guard down around that God fearing heart of his and he ended up committing adultery and conspiring murder.
David had gone from a mere shepherd boy to becoming the mightiest king in Israel's history. One day, while all his men were off at war, he decided to stay back at the castle and lollygag around. While strolling on the roof to get a breath of fresh air, he noticed his neighbor's wife, Bathsheba, taking a bath on the roof of her home (a very common occurrence during those days). She was very beautiful.
David had grown accustomed to getting what he wanted and he wanted Bathsheba. One of his servants brought her to him for a forbidden night of passion. A few months later, she reported that she was pregnant with his child. In a panic to cover his sin, David ordered Bathsheba's husband to the front line of battle and then ordered the other men to withdraw. As planned, Uriah was killed and David took Bathsheba to be his wife. The story is much more convoluted and complicated, than I have just described, but I have just hit the high points...or should I say the low points.
From that time on, David's life took a downward spiral.
What can we learn from David's lack of control in guarding his heart?
He was at the wrong place at the wrong time. The story begins..."In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war." David was supposed to be off at war, but instead he stayed behind and shirked his duties. In order to guard our hearts, we must make sure we are not putting ourselves in a situation to be tempted. Have you ever found yourself at the wrong place at the wrong time - not by accident, but by choice?
He was lonely and vulnerable. I've often heard the phrase, "It's lonely at the top." But I can assure you it can be even lonelier at the bottom and everywhere in-between. If you are lonely, seek out the company of a female friend. Just as God sent Mary to Elizabeth and Ruth to Naomi, He continues to use women to encourage women. Seeking companionship with a man is treading on dangerous ground.
He knew what was right and ignored his better judgment. After David had sinned with Bathsheba, the prophet Nathan came to him and told him about a wealthy man who had many sheep, but had stolen a poor man's one and only sheep. David said, "As surely as the LORD lives, the man who did this deserves to die!" The prophet responded, "You are the man." David knew what he was doing was wrong, but he proceeded anyway.
God will always provide a way of escape. There were many steps to the process of David's sin. At any point, he could have stopped, but he didn't. God will always provide a way of escape for any temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13). The sooner we heed His warning, the easier it will be to turn and go in the opposite direction. The longer we toy with the idea, the harder it will be to stop. As soon as a tempting thought enters our mind, we need to press the mental ''delete'' and guard our hearts.
No one is above temptation. David was a very godly man. He wrote psalms and truly loved the Lord. And yet, he still committed adultery and murder. I wonder when he was praising God during his coronation if he ever imagined in his wildest dreams that he would fall in such a way. We should never think that we are above any sin, but guard our hearts furiously.
The Holy Spirit will convict us. David's downfall took place over at least a year's time. How many times do you think the Holy Spirit warned him of his sin? Nothing should frighten us more than to know that we have the choice to tune out God's warning and the Holy Spirit's convicting. The Holy Spirit will convict us, but we must heed the warning. It is our responsibility. The devil never makes us do anything.
Honestly, I wish the story of David's sin was not in the Bible. I'd much rather remember him as the giant slayer who loved God more than life itself. But God wants us to know that no one is immune to temptation. David's fall is a picture of what can happen to anyone who does not guard his or her heart. David's story, like so many others in the Bible, is recorded so that we can learn by example (I Corinthians 10:11). "So if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall" (I Corinthians 12:12).
We can pray as David once prayed: "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23, 24).
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know that no one is above temptation. Help me to be at the right places at the right times, to seek godly girlfriends to hold me accountable, and listen to the conviction of the Holy Spirit quickly.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
We all know someone who has fallen in similar ways to David. But today, I don't want you to think about that person or persons. I want us to keep the focus on ourselves. Let's go back to the main points.
Have you ever allowed yourself to be in the wrong place at the wrong time? What was the outcome?
Have you ever sought the friendship of a man when you knew it was not a good idea?
Have you ever let loneliness cloud your thinking and decision making?
Have you ever ignored your better judgment and the conviction of the Holy Spirit and entered into a relationship that wasn't God's best? What was the result?
These are tough questions. No matter what you have gone through or what poor decisions that you have made, you can know this: God will forgive you! Jesus died for the forgiveness of our sins and God's mercies are new every morning. This devotion is not to condemn you in any way! It is to help us against future attacks. God wants us to be prepared! "We are more than conquerors in Christ Jesus!" Amen? Amen!
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Today's devotion is taken from Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. To learn more about how the enemy works to deceive us in our thought life, see Sharon's newest release, "I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves."
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March 6, 2009
Practicing Our Baptism
Haven Parrott
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Haven Parrot.
Today's Truth
"Therefore we were buried with Him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, so we too may walk in a new way of life." Romans 6:4
Friend to Friend
Joshua Coghill gave his heart to Jesus at the ripe old age of 7 ½. After professing personal faith in Christ to his father and his pastor, Joshua was ready for the next step: baptism. He listened intently as the pastor explained that the physical act of immersion into, submersion under, and emersion from the baptismal waters would serve as the outward representation of what had already been inwardly transacted: Joshua's personal identification with Christ's death, burial, and resurrection. Having covered the spiritual implications, the pastor moved to practical considerations by detailing just how it would all go down on the day of the dunking.
That Joshua was still processing the impending plunging became obvious one evening at bath time when he asked his father, Craig, if they could practice his baptism. Caught off guard by his son's curious (albeit serious) request, Craig recovered quickly, grabbed a dry washcloth with which he covered Joshua's mouth and nose, then carefully submerged his son in the bath-tismal waters. Joshua was initially unsatisfied with his dad's dipping proficiency, so the pair practiced until Craig "got it right." Joshua eventually emerged from the tub, cleansed not only of the day's dirt, but of his nervousness about his soon-coming day of dunking.
When Craig told me about the family bathtub becoming a baptismal pool as young Joshua practiced his baptism, I grinned. Grinned at the child's sincerity, and at what the Spirit was whispering inside of me: practicing our baptism before we're dunked is a good idea. Practicing it afterwards, however, is when it really matters, for that's when it's obvious the day of our dunking was about way more than just getting wet. It was about getting dead. Dead to sin so we'd no longer be enslaved to sin; no longer held hostage to the ultimate penalty of sin. Dead to sin so we could experience resurrection in and with Him. Dead to sin so we could live again. Dead to sin so we could live a new life -- Christ's life.
Baptism is the announcement of our new, eternally-secure position: in Christ. Practicing our baptism - putting our position into everyday practice - is how we show we know that baptism isn't about getting wet, it's about getting clean.
Let's Pray
Lord, You died so that we might walk in a new way -- Your way. Yet too often, we want Your way without giving up our old ways. We want to claim You without crucifying us. We are guilty of spiritual laziness. We want an eternally secure position without the effort of putting that position into earthly practice. We want to be clean without getting rid of the dirt. Forgive us, Lord, and thank You for Your graceful Spirit, Who is faithful to continue coercing our cooperation in His job of sanctifying us until we see You. Amen.
Now it's your turn
Consider James Montgomery Boice's explanation of the Greek word for baptize:
"The clearest example that shows the meaning of baptizo is a text from the Greek poet and physician Nicander, who lived about 200 B.C. It is a recipe for making pickles and is helpful because it uses both words. Nicander says that in order to make a pickle, the vegetable should first be 'dipped' (bapto) into boiling water and then 'baptised' (baptizo) in the vinegar solution. Both verbs concern the immersing of vegetables in a solution. But the first is temporary. The second, the act of baptizing the vegetable, produces a permanent change. When used in the New Testament, this word more often refers to our union and identification with Christ than to our water baptism. Mere intellectual assent is not enough. There must be a union with Him, a real change, like the vegetable to the pickle!"
Permanent change requires more than a dip in the baptismal pool; it requires immersion in the Word of God. It takes time in brine for a cucumber to become a pickle, and it takes time in the Word to transform a saved sinner into the likeness of her Savior. A daily bath in the water of the Word is the best way to recognize -- and be cleansed from -- the dirt of the world.
Would you describe your Bible-study habit as a quick dip or a deep cleansing? If it's more like a sponge bath than a soul-softening soak, it's time to make time for the One you've identified yourself with. Start with a slow, prayerful soak in Romans 6. After all, we're not likely to be agents of change for Christ in the world until we've allowed ourselves to be changed by the Word.
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I wonder just how many people have been baptized with water, but do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. You can be a church member and involved in church work without knowing Him. I played at being a Christian for years until the day came when playing wasn't enough. I had to know Him! Do you?
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March 9, 2009
Bailing on God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 3:5 "Trust God from the bottom of your heart." (The Message)
Friend to Friend
I absolutely love being a grandmother and wholeheartedly agree with the saying, "If I had known grandchildren were so wonderful, I would have had them first!" Our fifteen-month-old granddaughter, Lelia Kay, sparkles with joy and has an infectious laugh that instantly captures your heart and compels you to laugh along with her. Consequently, our son, Jered, is always looking for ways to make her laugh. On a recent visit, he proudly demonstrated one of the new "tricks" he had taught Lelia. I was horrified!
Jered came home from work, scooped up his squealing daughter in his arms and gave her a big hug. Lelia giggled, grabbed her daddy's shirt in both hands and looked up at Jered, a mischievous sparkle in her eyes. He looked over at me and said, "Watch, mom!" Jered tightened his hold on his daughter's chubby little legs, and said, "Bail, Lelia!" Surely, I had heard him wrong. Nope! My precious grandbaby immediately fell backwards through the air, hands dangling loosely over her head, swinging her little body through her daddy's legs, laughing hysterically. My stomach fell and my mouth flew open as I watched her repeat this terrifying toddler version of bungee jumping. Not once did Lelia seem to be afraid or even cautious as she totally abandoned herself to the security of her father's arms and heart.
That picture of faith took on a whole new meaning as we replayed it over dinner. Jered said, "I have to be careful. Lelia will sometimes bail on me when I'm not expecting it." (Yes! That statement did increase my prayer life.) I looked at Jered and like so many times over the years, marveled at his strength, thinking of the countless hours he has spent lifting weights, playing football and now building and remodeling homes. His massive arms and shoulders are a testimony of discipline and power. No wonder Lelia feels safe and secure in those arms.
I decided then and there that I want to be like Lelia. I want my faith in God to grow to the place where I can bail on God and totally abandon myself to my Father's safe, strong arms, secure in the knowledge that He will catch me when I fall. I want to obey God without fear, trusting Him to be all I need. I want to depend on and experience God's power and strength as I plunge into His plan for my life, knowing that He is aware of every step I take, that He monitors every breath I breathe and sees every tear I cry.
How about you? Are you ready to bail into the arms of God?
Let's Pray
Father, I thank You for the strength and power of Your love. I praise You for Your faithfulness in my life. I long to believe You wholly and want to walk in a radical obedience to Your truth. Help me to choose faith over fear and trust over doubt. Teach me to rest in Your arms and trust Your heart, even when I don't understand Your process. I choose to rest in You and depend upon your power in my life today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 20:7 "Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God." In your own words, describe the "chariots" and "horses" in your life. Where do you place your trust? In whom or what do you trust? Are you satisfied with the results?
The New Century Version of the Bible translates today's key verse in Proverbs 3:5 as "Trust the Lord with all your heart and don't depend on your own understanding." What part does human understanding play in the process of strengthening our faith in God? What does the word "all" mean to you when it comes to obedience to God?
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It can be scary to step out in faith. We tend to focus on what we cannot see instead of choosing to focus on God and His promises. We need to grow and mature in Christ but we also need to remain childlike in our faith. Jered has never dropped Lelia. It probably has not even occurred to her that her Father could or would drop her. Lelia's trust in her daddy is complete and whole. And I can tell you that Jered delights in that trust and will do everything he can to protect it. God is like that. He celebrates even our tiniest step of faith and rejoices when we abandon our self to Him. Today, choose to trust God.
I would love to help you on your journey. Stepping Out in Faith is now available as am MP3 download and will help you learn how to strengthen your faith in God. Does stress try to sabotage your walk with God? My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, takes a fresh look at Psalm 23 and offers practical ways to manage the stress in your life. Be sure to check out my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
March 10, 2009
Chosen and Loved
Mary Southerland
Today's truth
John 3:16 (NLT) "For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life."
Friend to Friend
"You will never be able to have biological children," the doctor said. After years of painful tests, expensive treatments, frustrating procedures and desperate pleas and prayers, our hopes of having children were shattered by his harsh diagnosis. "Then we will adopt", my husband immediately replied. I wasn't so sure. Could I love another woman's baby as much as a child I would give birth to? I just didn't know.
Months later, God called Dan to be the Youth Pastor of a church where we met Ron, a Christian attorney. "We'd like to talk with you about adoption," Dan said. Ron's response wasn't encouraging. "I rarely do adoptions but come by my office and fill out the papers - just in case." The following week, Ron called. "This is the stork," he said. I laughed. "I have a baby for you," he continued. I stopped laughing. "A young woman came into my office today. She's seven months pregnant and wants to give her baby up for adoption," he explained.
Suddenly, I knew! Every doubt disappeared. Every fear faded into the certainty that this was God's plan for us. Six weeks later, our son, Jered Daniel, was born and three years later, his beautiful sister, Danna Marie, completed our family. Life was unbelievably sweet. We daily celebrated the fact that Jered and Danna were our chosen babies and wanted them to understand just how special they were. I knew the day would come when both children would have questions about their birth and adoption. I just thought I had a little more time.
As Jered climbed into my arms for our daily "snuggle" time before bed, his question ripped through the darkness and my heart. "Why didn't she want me?" Jered softly asked. I cried out to God for just the right words -- for Jered -- and for me. Instantly, it came. Bruno!
When Jered was four-years-old, we were given a chocolate Labrador puppy that quickly outgrew our small yard, our not-so-understanding neighbors and our apprehensive children. We named this gentle giant Bruno! But it soon became clear to all of us that we were not the right family for Bruno. After an intensive search, we discovered "Adopt a Pet", a remarkable organization that finds homes for animals whose owners, for one reason or another, cannot keep them. We were promised that Bruno would be placed in a home where he would be loved and well cared for. We talked and explained, struggling our way to the difficult decision that it was time to put Bruno up for adoption! Still, when they came to pick up Bruno, we all cried! We knew it was the best plan for Bruno - for us - and for a very excited family that wanted and had the room for a Labrador. But it still hurt! Sometimes, doing the right thing - the best thing - the highest thing - is also the most painful thing!
As I looked into the beautiful, blue eyes of the little boy I loved more than life itself, I prayed for wisdom. "Jered, do you remember Bruno?" At the memory of the dog, Jered smiled and sadly whispered, "I still miss him." I nodded in agreement, "I know, son! I know you loved Bruno and are sad that we had to give him away. But do you remember why we gave Bruno away?" Jered thought for a moment, "Because we loved him so much and we knew we couldn't take care of him right ... and because he wasn't very happy 'cause he was so big here ... and because we wanted the best home in the whole wide world for him."
I paused for a moment, basking in the simple wisdom of my Father, spoken through the heart of my only son. "She did want you, honey. And she did love you ... so much, in fact, that she was willing to give you away, just like we gave Bruno away. Just like we wanted what was best for Bruno, your birth mother wanted what was best for you!" I fully recognize that it was an extremely simple illustration for a profoundly complex life circumstance -- but it was enough.
As Jered drifted off to sleep, tears of gratitude spilled down my face, and I thanked God for two courageous young birth mothers and for His extraordinary plan of adoption that linked our four chosen lives and hearts in love.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed by the truth that You love and chose me to be Your very own. I don't understand such love, but I embrace it as the precious gift that it is. Help me to remember that in Your eyes, I am planned, wanted, loved and chosen. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you battle feelings of insecurity?
Read Psalm 139 once each day for a month and see how God changes your perspective.
Is your mind often filled with negative thoughts about who you are and what you do?
Read and memorize 2 Corinthians 10:5. When those thoughts come, reject them with this truth
Do you find it hard to believe that God has a special plan and purpose for your life?
Read and memorize Ephesians 2:10. "For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them."
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For years, I battled insecurity and fear. God loved me through it all until the day came when I really could believe I am special because God made me in response to His plan for my life and not as an afterthought. The same is true for you, my friend. God is crazy about you! And remember that Sharon, Gwen and I love you, too! You are chosen and loved.
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March 11, 2009
A Willing Heart
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"So we are Christ's ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, 'Come back to God!'" (2 Corinthians 5:20, NLT)
Friend to Friend
My husband Brad went on a mission trip to Guatemala last year. What he saw and experienced changed his life and increased his faith in a dramatic way. He was an eyewitness to the healing power of God. On that trip he prayed harder, believed more, and expected more from God each passing day--and as a result, God used their medical missions team as a conduit for miracles.
You and I have that same opportunity every day. We have a chance to be a witness of God's healing love to a world of wounded hearts. Did God need my husband and the other volunteers to heal Guatemalan villagers, treat their physical wounds, and share the hope of Jesus with them? No. Did God move in the lives of the villagers because of their willingness to go in His name? You bet!
Hector, the founder of that Guatemalan ministry, recently visited North Carolina, and my family and I went to hear him speak. When I heard him testify of the provision and power of God, my heart was stirred and my faith was boosted. But what moved me most was the story of the lesson he learned about his call after God led him to be a medical missionary.
Before he began the medical ministry that he devotes his life to now, Hector's main goal in life was to make lots of money. Back then he didn't even apologize for it. He was a Christian and figured that God could use his money to help others.
What happened to change the course of his life? Back in the late eighties, Hector and his wife joined a medical team on a mission to a mountain village. The team was blown away by what God did through them while they were there. On the four-hour drive back to the city, they worshipped and sang praises to God. As he worshipped and drove, Hector heard the Lord speak to his soul. This is what I've made you for. To medically treat My people, to pray for their healing, and to share the hope of Jesus with the hopeless and the lost.
Hector felt so overwhelmed that he pulled the truck over and told the team of his call from God to be a missionary doctor. They prayed over him, whooped it up in celebration, and then continued down the mountain with an even greater sense of purpose and excitement. Hector thought that God had called him to be a missionary because of his skills as a doctor. Later, he would think otherwise.
A few years into his work, while visiting a remote village, a woman with a large mass on her side came into their makeshift clinic. Her terrible pain was curbed only by her excitement that the medical team had come to help her. One glance at her tumor and Hector had a strong suspicion that it was malignant. Upon examining her further, Hector was convinced that she was terminal. He became very frustrated with God, to the extent that he didn't even want to share the gospel with her because he couldn't do anything to help her physically.
Hector sent up a few prayers of frustration, but felt God nudging him to share the gospel with this woman. So he reluctantly shared the good news of Jesus with her; and, to Hector's surprise, she wanted to pray to receive Christ! And as they sat on the floor of that makeshift med-center, this sweet woman trusted Jesus as her Savior. When they finished praying, the woman had a radiant smile and tears in her eyes. He hugged her and she began to cry.
"What happened?" Hector asked. "Why are you crying?"
"As we were praying," she said, "I felt a warmth that started on my head and spread to the tips of my toes." As she said this, she realized something had changed, and she screamed with delight. "My mass is gone! My pain is gone!"
Hector had her lie back down on his examining table. The tumor that had been there just minutes ago was gone. God had intervened. She was healed, both spiritually and physically!
In the amazing celebration that followed, God spoke clearly to Hector's heart. God told him that He had all the power needed for the work He had called Hector to, and it had nothing to do with his medical training. God impressed on his heart that He didn't need Hector's skills or his knowledge, He had all of that covered. He just wanted him to go in His name.
One of my favorite sayings is, "God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called." If you are His, then you are called. Not because of who you are or what you can do, but because God can and will do His work through you.
Did God tell Jonah to go to Nineveh because Jonah was a great leader with amazing vision? No! Jonah proved to be quite wimpy. When Jonah finally made it to Nineveh, did God bring a great wave of repentance and restoration because of Jonah's rhetorical gifts? No! God stirred the hearts and changed the lives of hundreds of Ninevites because Jonah finally had the courage to speak God's words.
God wants to do something similar through you. He wants you to stop fighting Him on this and be willing to speak for Him so others can know the same healing and hope that you know. He wants to bring beauty up from the ashes of brokenness all around you.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I'm so humbled that You would call me to anything. You have all the power needed for every job, yet you ask me to join you. Thank you, Lord. Please make my heart willing to say yes to everything you want me to do.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a willing heart? What is God calling you to do for Him? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to guide you and strengthen you for the task.
Read 2 Corinthians 5:11-21.
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Hey girlfriend-I'm a woman who has hesitated to say yes to God in the past. It took many months of resistance before I conceded to release my testimony into His hands. I just didn't think anything good could come of it. Boy was I wrong! God doesn't waste a hurt, and He has a big plan for your life. Trust His heart... no matter where He's leading you!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
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March 12, 2009
Smiley
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 4:18 (NIV) "So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."
Friend To Friend
I may not know which time zone I am in, but I do know that I am home from a mission trip to South Africa, India and Thailand. To describe the 19 day experience as life-changing is a colossal understatement. It will take me a long time to unpack the lessons, dreams and blessings of the trip. Even now, I wake each morning around 3:00 a.m. to a replay of memories. Smiley is usually one of the first faces I see.
I don't know her real name, but Smiley is one of about 200 men and women who live in a leper colony near one of our church sponsored orphanages in a rural village of India. Leprosy has ravaged her body, leaving her with no toes, no fingers and a death sentence. Cows, chickens and goats roam the dirty, rugged road in front of her thatched roof shack. This precious woman does not enjoy the luxury of running water and electricity and food is scarce. Personally, I could see very little that Smiley had to smile about but it was her radiant smile that caught my attention and tugged at my heart. She sat in front of me in the dirt, waiting for a message from God. I think the message was mine to hear. We had come to bring her joy and hope -- but she already had both.
After the service, I wrapped this precious woman in as big a hug as I could possibly give because she was so rarely touched by others. With the help of an interpreter, we celebrated the truth that one day she will once again have all of her toes and fingers. One day, she would be well and whole. She laughed like a little girl at the promise of being with Jesus and living with Him in heaven.
Smiley has fixed her eyes on the unseen and found joy and hope in the process. She does not depend upon the temporary things of this world for contentment. Hope gives her the strength to get up each morning and begin her daily search for food. The promise of Heaven comforts her each night when she lies down on a dirty mat to sleep. Smiley has nothing -- yet she has everything because she has learned and lives out the truth that inner joy does not depend upon outward circumstances. Joy is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control -- no matter how it looks on the outside. Joy is in inside job and can only be found in a personal relationship with God. Smiley has joy. Do you?
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for my shallow attitude about joy. I confess that my version of joy is often nothing more than an emotion or feeling based on current circumstances. Help me fix my eyes on You, the Author and Finisher of my faith. I want to live my life against the backdrop of eternity, exchanging temporary happiness for eternal joy. I pray that I will learn to choose joy in whatever lies ahead.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the promise of Psalm 19:8. "The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes." What is our main source of joy?
Read Habakkuk 3:17-19. List three truths about joy in this passage. How can you apply these truths to your life?
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Joy has taken on a whole new meaning for me. Why do I continually let the irrelevant things in life rob me of joy? I am making a new commitment to constantly "fix" my eyes on what really is important -- my personal relationship with God -- and refuse to allow the tyranny of the urgent and the meaningless to dictate the attitude of my heart and the direction of my life. Today, let's choose God and in doing so, choose joy. Need help? Check out my CD, Laugh More -- Live Better for ways to saturate your life with joy. (Also available as MP3 download) Find encouragement as you participate with women across the world in my online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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March 13, 2009
Close to God's Heart
Cindi Wood
Today's Truth
"No wonder my heart is glad, and I rejoice. My body rests in safety." Psalm 16:9
Friend to Friend
My friend Heather gave birth four weeks ago. Caleb is a preemie; he's a tiny 3.9 lb miracle of joy to his mom and dad. When Jonathan phoned to give us a progress report, he commented, "Caleb's heart-rate keeps dropping, but when we are sitting close to him and he hears us talking, it returns to normal." My soul immediately swelled with gratefulness for the security of my Heavenly Father's love. Just like little Caleb, who knows the sound of his parents' voices and finds security in their presence, my very being is connected to the heart of my Heavenly Father. I have no reason to fear, to worry, or to question the path ahead. His Spirit lives inside of me and He's directing each step of my every day. The promise we can rest in is this; if we, His children really want to experience His peace, we can -- by listening to His voice!
Now, you say. I'm busy! My days are filled with running after my family, taking care of things at home, and countless other errands that involve work, church, meetings and appointments, and well -- just living life.
Do you want to experience peace? Are you listening for God's voice?
If your mind is screaming: I'm stressed, I'm worried, I'm exhausted, I'm unfulfilled, I don't know what I'm going to do . . . and similar venting, then could it be you're not listening for His voice?
Dear Sister, if you are spending all of your energy in trying to get things done or on preventing a soon-to-be crisis, then perhaps you have no energy left simply to listen to the voice of God. I want to remind you, as I often remind myself; when I put most of my energy on seeking God through His Word instead of trying to solve my problems, it's a sure thing I'll experience His peace. And not only His peace, but His direction, and His security. If Jesus Christ lives inside of you, then you have everything you need to live quietly and sanely in the midst of chaotic daily living. Just as surely as Caleb's mom and dad are right by his side, my Heavenly Father is with me every moment of every day! But in order to experience His peace, His direction, His joy . . . I must intentionally listen for His voice through His Word and engage with His heart through worship, prayer, and meditation.
His promise is sure in Hebrews 13:5-6. For He Himself has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you, so we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper: I will not fear. What can man, or stress, do to me?" (Italics mine)
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank You for the assurance of Your love. Thank You that in You, I find security, peace, and joy. Oh Lord, give me the fortitude today, to put my greatest energy into seeking Your presence instead of accomplishing my tasks. Forgive me for getting so caught up in my TO DO list, instead of being caught up in You. Right now, I sit quietly and thankfully listening for Your voice. I love You.
Now It's Your Turn
1) During the past several days, have you spent most of your energy seeking God's voice or in accomplishing your tasks?
2) What is God speaking to your heart right now?
3) Spend a few quiet moments offering Him your attention and your love.
4) Make an intentional effort in the morning to listen for His voice before doing anything else. Then thank Him for His presence in your life.
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Friend, when I make a deliberate effort each morning to seek God's heart, then the busy-ness of the day ahead doesn't consume me. The Frazzled Female Devotional Journal was written with that in mind. I invite you to check it out at www.frazzledfemale.com May the Lord bless you as you listen for His voice.
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March 16, 2009
Brokenness and Repentance
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
All through the Bible, we see amazing examples of God's grace and forgiveness extended to weak human beings like you and me. King David was one such man. We've looked at King David's demise in a previous devotion, but I want to take us back there again. There is more to learn. For those that are just joining us, I'll give a quick recap.
God referred to David as a "man after my own heart" (Acts 13:22). I can't think of a better endorsement than that. And yet, David also got caught up in his own press and for a moment thought he was above the laws of God.
One spring, when the Kings went out to war, King David decided to stay behind and relax at the palace. While walking on the roof to get a breath of fresh air, he caught sight of his beautiful neighbor, Bathsheba, taking a bath on her roof. He looked. He saw. He wanted. He took.
"Who is that girl?" he asked one of his servants.
"That, my Lord, is the wife of Uriah the Hittite, one of your faithful soldiers."
"Send someone and bring her to me!" he commanded.
So one starry night, in the heat of passion, David slept with his neighbor's wife and she conceived a child.
When David received word that Bathsheba was pregnant, he panicked. Did David confess? No. Did David repent? No. Instead, he tried to cover his tracks. He sent for Uriah to come home from battle thinking that he would sleep with his wife, thus conceal the fact that the child she bore was his. But the faithful Uriah, would not indulge himself in such pleasure during a time of war. Rather than enjoy the comfort of his wife's embrace, Uriah slept outside the palace door.
So David went to plan B.
He sent a message to Joab, the commander of the army.
"When you go to war, place Uriah on the front lines. Then when the battle ensues, have the men retreat, leaving Uriah exposed as a lone target for the enemy."
Joab followed the Commander and Chief's request. Uriah was left alone on the front lines and killed. After the proper time of mourning, David took the pregnant widow as his wife.
Do you wonder how David, a man after God's own heart was feeling this time? Was he afraid? Was he remorseful? Was he proud of himself for the great cover up?
Fortunately, God has allowed us to see inside this man's heart. During this time of moral failure, David penned Psalm 51.
Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin.
For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight,
so that you are proved right when you speak
and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Surely you desire truth in the inner parts;
you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.
Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
and sinners will turn back to you.
Save me from bloodguilt, O God,
the God who saves me,
and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.
O Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will declare your praise.
You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.
The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart,
O God, you will not despise.
(Psalm 51:1-17)
David was crushed in spirit -- and yet no one knew - or did they?
After David had taken Bathsheba to be his wife, the prophet Nathan confronted David with his sin.
David did not try to justify his actions, place blame on anyone else, or claim amnesty because he was king. Immediately he cried, "I have sinned against the LORD!"
After David repented, Nathan proclaimed, "The LORD has taken away your sin."
David was a broken man who repented of his sin, and immediately received grace and forgiveness from God. He resumed his role as king and proceeded to become the most powerful king Israel had ever known.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father: I come to you today confessing my own sin. Help me never to hide or justify my sin, but to see it as the offense to You that it is. I humbly repent before you and thank You for Your mercy that is new every morning. Thank You for forgiving the truly repentant heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What strikes you most about David's story?
Write down five words that might describe David's emotional state during the time he was hiding his sin?
Why do you think God so quickly and completely forgave him?
Do you know that He will do and has done the same for you?
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Today's devotion was taken from Your Scars are Beautiful to God. If you would like to learn more about how to find peace and purpose in the hurts of your past, then this is a great resource. You can find it at www.sharonjaynes.com. It also comes with a Bible Study Guide.
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March 17, 2009
Let Peace Rule
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:15a (NIV) "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts."
Friend to Friend
Peace seems to be on everyone's mind, which is nothing new. It seems to me that we have been chasing peace since time began. We want a peaceful world, a peaceful home, a peaceful workplace -- a peaceful life. I know people who would give everything they have for a few minutes of peace. Peace cannot be found in a treaty or negotiation. Peace is an inside job and can only be found in one place -- a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. When we know Him, we can experience and know peace.
Peace is the condition of wholeness and the sense of well-being that comes from knowing God and being made right in His eyes. Peace is completely dependent upon His presence in us and His gift of eternal life. We come into this world with an ache in our soul, a longing in our heart and a deep sense of being lost. When we find God, we find home. Peace immediately takes up residence in our hearts and we are eternally "found."
When our son, Jered, was a little boy, he and his dad often went for a walk after dinner while I put Danna to bed. One night, Dan decided to test Jered's sense of direction. "How far are we from home, Son?" Dan asked. Jered answered, "Dad, I don't know." Dan then asked, "Well, where are you?" Again, Jered answered, "I don't know." Dan laughed, "Sounds to me like you are lost, Son." Jered looked up at his father, grinned and said, "Nope, I can't be lost. I'm with you." With God, we experience peace.
However, understanding peace does not always guarantee the presence of peace. I am often guilty of filling my days with so many appointments, tasks, meetings, and activities that peace disintegrates before noon. Paul encourages us to "let the peace of Christ rule" in our hearts. The word, "rule," is an athletic term meaning "to preside at the games and distribute the prizes." Sounds like a day at the office to me!
In the Greek games, there were judges who rejected the contestants that were not qualified and disqualified those who broke the rules. Today, we would call them "umpires" and the playing field of peace would be our hearts. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." Peace begins its reign in the center of our being; it then works its way out into every nook and cranny of life - if we allow peace to rule.
Admittedly, there are times when an umpire seems like a good idea because many of us relish a good fight. We say we want peace, but not at the price of giving up control or surrendering personal agendas. We must stand firm in our resolve to pursue harmony and peace, even if it means giving up rights and yielding control.
Relationships must be committed to peace. It is difficult to wage war with someone who has laid down their weapons in an act of surrender. Ah, there's that dreaded word again - surrender. Surrender is the heartbeat of peace. The choice to surrender initiates the process of allowing peace to rule. I guess you could say that the peace of God is our "umpire," and in every situation stands ready to make the calls that will lead us to rest in and trust Him, but first comes the choice to "let" peace rule. The work of peace is always unleashed by our choice, our invitation.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today because You are my peace. Your presence in my life ushers in true peace and lets my soul rest. Forgive me when I cram my days with urgent things that are not always the important things. Help me discern Your plan for my life each day so that I can walk in peace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define the concept of peace in your life? Is your heart and mind filled with chaos and stress instead of peace? Identify the source of stress in your life and make any adjustments necessary to bring that area under control. Write out your own "Peace Treaty" with God and share it with a friend. When you feel as if your life is spinning out of control, remember to rest in Him.
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How is the peace level in your life? I know that we live in uncertain times and can often fall prey to worry, doubt and fear. We don't understand what is happening or why. Solutions seem scarce while problems multiply. What should we do? Stop! Take a deep breath and remember who you are, and whose you are. You are a child of the King, friend, and He is fully aware of your circumstances. Where you are is no surprise to Him. God often allows His children to be cast into a fiery furnace, but His hand is always on the thermostat. Stand firm in your faith and choose peace.
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March 18, 2009
Why Me?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
There is nothing wrong with us trying to understand why the wounds of life occur; however, the Bible clearly tells us not to depend on or lean on our ability to answer the tough question, "Why?" "Trust in the Lord with all your heart," the writer of Proverbs tells us, "and do not lean on your own understanding" (Proverbs 3:5). Don't depend on your own mind to figure life out.
Ultimately, God is in control and His ways are higher than ours. God reminds us "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. "'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9). Dr. James Dobson, in his book, When God Doesn't Make Sense says "trying to analyze His (God's) omnipotence is like an amoeba attempting to comprehend the behavior of man." (Dr. James Dobson, When God Doesn't Make Sense (Wheaton, Illinois: Tyndale Publishing, Inc. 1993) It is simply not possible.
But one thing we can be sure of, "all the ways of the Lord are loving and faithful," whether we understand them or not (Psalm 25:10). "Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known" (1 Corinthians 13:12). It may not be until we cross over from the temporal to the eternal that we understand the many "whys" of life. Until then, we must trust in the sovereignty of God.
No matter what we have gone through or what we will go through in the future, God promises: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10).
God wants to know if we will trust Him no matter what our outward circumstances may be -- even if it means death. Will we say with Job, "Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him" (Job 13:15)?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are so many times when something happens in my life and I simply just don't understand. It is during those times that I cling to what I do know. You love me. You have a plan for me. All your ways are loving and all your ways are good. Help me to remember that song in my heart when the melody grows dim.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you asked God, "Why?"
What one verse in today's devotion speaks the most to you?
Consider writing that verse on an index card and committing it to memory. Then each time the enemy taunts you with doubts, you shoot that verse right back at him.
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Life does not always turn out like we thought it would, but we do know that God has a plan for each and every one of us. If you'd like to learn more about those plans and about how God fulfills them, you'll want to read, Dreams of a Woman: God's plans for fulfilling your dreams., In it, you will read about how God turns our shattered dreams into beautiful masterpieces ... when we let go of the pieces.
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March 19, 2009
A Steady Diet of God's Word
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:16-17 (NIV) "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him."
Friend to Friend
The lakes in Florida are beautiful, but relatively shallow as well. Over the years, they fill up with the silt and mire that wash off the shore. In time, they accumulate two to three feet of mire and decaying vegetation at the bottom. Soon that mire begins to deprive the lake, plants and fish of valuable oxygen and eventually the lakes literally die. In order to halt this process, a program has been put in place to drain the lakes periodically and expose the mire. After it is exposed, workers come in and dredge the mire -- restoring the lake bottom to its original condition. The lake water can then be raised and soon the lake, its vegetation and fish are thriving again.
Our lives are much the same. We need to regularly expose and eliminate the "mire" or sin in our lives, since peace is always realized in a right relationship with God. The more we seek God and the more we nurture our relationship with Him, the stronger our peace will grow. When we have a personal relationship with God, we also have access to all of God's power and all of God's peace. How much power we receive from Him and how much peace we experience in Him depends upon how right our relationship is with Him. A right relationship with God depends on how much time we spend in His Word.
Colossians 3:16 (NIV) "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly..."
In this verse, "dwell" means "to feel at home." The Apostle Paul is conveying the idea that God's Word should be such a natural part of our lives that it comfortably dwells with us and feels at home in us. When a Soviet official was asked why a study of the Bible was frowned upon in his country and why those who dared to print and distribute the Bible were severely punished, he replied, "We find that the reading of the Bible changes people in a way that is dangerous to our state!" When God's Word is "comfortable" in us, it not only changes our life, but the lives of others through us.
Our greatest source of power comes from knowing, embracing and applying the Word of God. "For the word of God is full of living power. It is sharper than the sharpest knife, cutting deep into our innermost thoughts and desires. It exposes us for what we really are." (Hebrews 4:12 NLT) God's Word cuts away sin and heals the deepest wounds as it guides, directs and dispels darkness. How many times we have been through the Bible is not nearly as important as how many times the Bible has been through us.
If you visit Yellowstone National Park, you will be given a piece of paper by one of the rangers at the park entrance. On it, in big letters, is written the warning "Do Not Feed the Bears" but when you drive into the heart of the park, you will still see people ignoring the warning. When a ranger was asked what was so bad about feeding the bears, he answered, "You have only a small part of the picture." The ranger went on to describe how, during the fall and winter months, when few people visit the park, the park service personnel have to carry away the bodies of dead bears -- bears who can no longer feed themselves. Frantic Christians obviously do not know how to feed themselves the Word of God because a steady diet of truth produces peace.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess to You that I do not treasure Your Word like I should. Please forgive me when I do not spend enough time reading, studying and meditating on the truth of the Bible. Help me to learn how to feed myself and grow in Your truth. I choose to cultivate the discipline of Bible study in my life. Please give me a new hunger and fresh thirst for scripture and teach me how to live it as well as learn it.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is bible study a habit in your life? Do you know and apply the Bible each day? What hinders you from reading God's Word each day? What step(s) do you need to take to make Bible study a daily priority? Make a plan for implementing those steps.
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I have been a Christian for many years, and being consistent in Bible study and prayer is still a struggle at times. It is easy to be discouraged and want to give up when the struggle is hard. Don't! That is exactly what the enemy wants you to do. He knows the power of God's Word and shudders when a child of God lives out the truths found in the Bible. If you fail, begin again! God will honor your heart.
Need help? Consider joining my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, to discover the power and relevance of God's Word. You can also download E-Book Bible Studies for your personal use or even for a small group study. We are praying for you as you seek His truth.
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March 20, 2009
God Can Redeem Anything
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20, NIV).
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God is faithful. He can use all circumstances for His glory. Let's take a brief look at the life of Joseph (Genesis 37--50). Joseph was a man of integrity who did right in the eyes of the Lord, yet he faced hardship, betrayal, and temptation. As a young man, he was less than humble a few times with his ten older brothers. Okay. Straight up, he actually came across as a puffed up little braggart. His bragging fed the jealously of Joseph's brothers because he was clearly their father's favorite child. Now granted, Joseph threw gasoline on the fire of this jealousy when he bragged about the dreams God had given him, and may have deserved a good smack upside his head for being so insensitive, but imagine how he must have felt to be thrown into a cistern and sold into slavery by his very own brothers! It chills me to the bone. Through it all, however, "the Lord was with Joseph and he prospered" (Genesis 39:2).
He found favor in the eyes of Potiphar, an official of Pharaoh in Egypt, and gained great position, privilege, and prestige. Not so bad for a guy who had been sold into slavery, huh? God was surely with him through it all. Joseph was trusted and placed over all that Potiphar owned.
His circumstances had taken quite a turn for the better ... until our man Joseph was wronged again ... this time by Potiphar's lying, lustful wife. Although he nobly resisted her sexual advances, Joseph was imprisoned when she falsely accused him of attempted rape. In the darkness of a dungeon, Joseph again experienced the lavish light of God's faithfulness as he was granted, "favor in the eyes of the prison warden" (Genesis 39:21). He quickly rose to a position of power and responsibility amongst his prisoner peers and was trusted by the warden.
While imprisoned, Joseph met a cupbearer and a baker who had been in Pharaoh's service, and when each of these two men had a disturbing dream the same night, God allowed Joseph to interpret their dreams. Joseph told the cupbearer that in three days he would be freed from prison and restored to his position in Pharoah's court (the interpretation wasn't quite so favorable for the baker). Joseph asked the cupbearer to remember him to Pharaoh, but on the third day, at Pharaoh's birthday feast, the cupbearer was reinstated and Joseph was forgotten. How frustrating would that be?
Two years later, while Joseph was still in the dungeon for doing the right thing, Pharaoh had two dreams that troubled him greatly. "So he sent for all the magicians and wise men of Egypt. Pharaoh told them his dreams, but no one could interpret them for him" (Genesis 41:8b). Finally, the cupbearer remembered Joseph and told Pharaoh of his ability to interpret dreams. Pharaoh sent for Joseph, who--with God's enabling--interpreted the dreams, and Pharaoh rewarded Joseph by placing him in charge of his palace and his people.
After Joseph was placed in charge of Egypt, he worked with integrity and fervor. He collected and stored all the excess food from the land in preparation for the famine that God had revealed, through Pharaoh's dream, would come. There were seven years of abundance followed by seven years of famine. The years of famine were severe, and during the famine, Joseph sold grain to both the Egyptians and to people of other lands.
Ultimately, the famine brought Joseph's brothers and father from the land of Canaan to Egypt for a God-reunion and restoration that only our amazing El-Shaddai could have arranged. In spite of all the pain he endured at the hands of others, Joseph was able to exclaim to his brothers in kindness, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good."
Joseph really got it.
He saw the big picture.
Though we've had to rush through this story, the take-away is clear. Joseph paid a high price for sins that had been committed against him, but through the trials, he was blessed richly as God eventually used each circumstance for His good. My dear sister, our God is able to redeem anything and everything that we face or endure. Anything! No matter what you've been through, not matter the secrets you've been hiding or accusations you've been listening to, God is able to redeem you.
Do you believe that? He is waiting to show you the big picture. If you've been holding something back from God or resisting His healing, then it's time for you to take your faith and trust to another level. No more safe living.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Help me see the big picture today. I surrender my pain of __________ to Your greater purpose. You know what I've been through.and I know that You are faithful, compassionate, and able to redeem anything. Please turn my hurt into something that can be used for Your good!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Journal about what's been redeemed in your life ... or about what you would like God to redeem.
Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Write this on the tablet of your heart today. Commit it to memory!
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I've heard it said that, "When we work, we work ... but when we pray, God works." Seek Him earnestly today in prayer. If you'd like to be drawn into His presence through music, turn up your speakers and check out Gwen's MUSIC PAGE on Face Book!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In her book, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls ... and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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March 23, 2009
Pride and Self Righteousness
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives" (1 John 1:9-10 NIV).
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Yesterday we looked at King David's sin and repentance. Now let's go back a few years in history to David's predecessor, King Saul. This was a time in Israel's history when God ruled the people through the prophets. It was known as a theocracy, but after a while, the people grew tired of being ruled by God. They decided that they wanted a King to rule over them...just like all the other nations. So God allowed them to have a King, and appointed a man named Saul, from the tribe of Benjamin. At first, Saul was terrified of his new assignment. In fact, at his coronation, they found him hiding among the baggage! However, he eventually settled into his new role and began enjoying all the perks.
God anointed Saul with the Holy Spirit and he even received the gift of prophesy. He led Israel into victory on several battlefields and depended on God for wisdom and strength...for a while.
But after a few months, Saul's confidence rose to the danger level, and he began to take matters into his own hands. Before going battle against the Philistines, Saul and his men were waiting on Samuel to offer the needed sacrifices to the LORD. After seven days, the time set by Samuel the prophet himself, Saul grew tired of waiting and his men began to get restless.
Oh how hard can it be, thought Saul. I'll just offer the sacrifice myself.
So Saul went against the commands of God and made himself a priest.
Samuel arrived just as Saul was putting the finishing touches on the altar.
"What have you done?" Samuel exclaimed!
"It's all your fault," Saul protested. "When you didn't come, the men started shaking in their sandals and scattering like flies. I had to do something! So I offered the sacrifice myself."
Saul didn't admit that he had done anything wrong. Rather he tried to justify his actions, placed the blame on someone else, and held his head high.
And that was the beginning of the end for Saul.
Did he learn his lesson? Oh, no. Just a few pages later, we see how he disobeyed God once again. God told him to go into battle against the Amalekites and destroy every living thing -- taking no plunder for himself. However, during the attack, he spared the Amalekite King and kept the best sheep, cattle, and everything that was good.
Once again, the prophet Samuel confronted Saul.
"I did everything the LORD commanded," Saul boasted. (Like God wouldn't know the difference.)
"Oh yeah," Samuel replied. "Then what's that baah noise I hear in the background?"
"Oh that. Well, we did take the best of the sheep and the cattle...to offer sacrifices to the LORD you understand."
Once again, Saul did not show any remorse for what he had done. Once again he justified his actions, placed blame on someone else, and held his head high.
"Stop it! Just stop it!" Samuel yelled in frustration. "God doesn't want your sacrifices. He wants you to obey Him. Haven't you figured that out by now?"
Unlike David, Saul was not sorry for what he had done. He was just sorry he got caught.
As a result, God took his kingdom away. He was finished.
Receiving God's grace and forgiveness has everything to do with our heart attitude toward the sin. "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble" (James 4:6).
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, forgive me when I've been like Saul and justified or tried to hide my sin. Help me be more like David -- truly repentant for the wrong I've done. Thank You for forgiving me completely and wholly when I come and with a humble heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you see as the difference between David and Saul when confronted with their sin?
On a continuum from pride and brokenness, where do you fall in regard to your sin?
This is very important. Today's lesson is not to make you carry around guilt. It is to bring you to a place of repentance so that God can bless you. Let me share one more section from Your Scars are Beautiful to God.
God wants us to be broken over our sins, but then He takes those broken pieces and binds us back together to make us stronger and more useful than ever before. As long as we are clinging to the pieces of our broken lives, they remain just that...broken pieces.
Won't you open your clenched fist and offer your shattered past as a sacrifice to the Savior? He will heal you! He will use you! He will make you stronger than before!
(Ken Gire, Windows of the Soul (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan, 1996), p. 194.)
I've learned that a broken bone that has mended is strongest at its place of healing. Likewise, scar tissue is tougher and more resilient than virgin flesh. God can take the wounds of our lives and make us stronger than before.
Saul's light was snuffed out. David's shone brighter than before.
Before Jesus went to the cross, he served his disciples their last meal together. He broke bread which represented his body and passed the cup of wine, which represented his blood. This sacrament, often referred to as the Lord's Supper, has been celebrated for centuries. Isn't it interesting that both the wine and the bread are made through crushing -- both grain and grapes. Could it be that our lives, through crushing and brokenness, serve as a living sacrament or testimony, as a reminder of what Christ has done in our lives?
The closest communion with God comes, I believe, through the sacrament of tears. Just as grapes are crushed to make wine and grain to make bread, so the elements of this sacrament come from the crushing experiences of life.
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Want to learn more about how God takes the broken pieces of our lives and turns them into a beautiful masterpiece of ministry? Then you'll want to read Your Scars are Beautiful to God. It also comes with a study guide.
March 24, 2009
The Mad Board
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:19-20 (NIV) "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
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Learning to control anger is a crucial life lesson -- one that we need to master and pass on to our children. Up until my young adult years, I had a huge temper. It took very little to make me furious. In moments of anger, I would slam doors, hurl various objects across the room and yell a lot! I don't remember anyone telling me what to do with my anger -- until I surrendered my heart to God. And believe me, He had plenty to say about it in His Word.
As the years went by, I married and became the mother of two amazing children who inherited my huge temper. It was now my responsibility to train Jered and Danna in the ways of God, including controlling anger!
I prayed continually that God would not only give me practical ways to manage my own anger but that He would enable me to teach my children to control their anger as well. That is how the "mad board" was created.
When Jered was nine-years-old, we realized that he frequently struggled with his little sister, Danna. She had discovered each and every one of her brother's emotional buttons and delighted in pushing them. Jered's frustration grew until the day he retaliated.
My husband, Dan, and I came up with the "mad board." Dan cut a long piece of two-inch plywood and drove over 50 nails halfway into the board. He wrote "Jered's Mad Board" on the piece of wood and handed it to his curious son. Dan explained that anytime Jered became frustrated with his sister or felt angry inside, he should pick up a small hammer and drive nails into the board instead of exploding.
Over the next few months, we watched Jered drive a lot of nails into a lot of wood, learning that anger can be managed. Today, as a junior in college, Jered is an even-tempered young man who has found constructive ways to manage his anger. In fact, our whole family has learned some techniques you might find helpful:
Pray for the person or circumstance that caused your anger.
Exercise strenuously for 20 minutes.
Play a solo game of basketball.
Run an errand for the purpose of a short silent retreat.
Take a hot shower or bath.
Breathe in to the count of nine. Hold your breath for a count of nine and exhale to the count of nine. Repeat three times.
Memorize five Bible verses on anger and speak them out loud when angry.
Journal your feelings. Even children can do this.
Take a 15-minute walk.
Buy a punching bag and use it to release destructive anger.
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons and anger puts the squeeze on our emotions. While God created us with emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. God's plan for anger management is a priceless gift you can unwrap in your own life as well as in the lives of your children.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I allow my anger to take control of my emotions and life. Help me to be more balanced in the way I live so that I won't be such an easy target for the enemy when it comes to anger. It is so easy to lose control of my emotions when I am not in the Word and not in prayer on a daily basis. I want to make a new commitment to You by making a new commitment to spend consistent time studying the Bible and talking with You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to consider the following questions:
Who or what pushes your buttons the most?
What are your present anger management skills? How well do they work?
What factors in your daily schedule make you more anger prone?
Read and memorize the following verses:
Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent."
Ephesians 4:26 "In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry."
1 Corinthians 13:5 "It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
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Unresolved anger is destructive and a favorite weapon of the enemy. Learning to control anger is an important spiritual discipline we all need. Need help? Check out Mary's books, Escaping the Stress Trap and Sandpaper People for practical ways to control emotions and build healthier relationships. Light for the Journey is Mary's weekly online Bible study that will teach you how to apply God's truths in your daily life. Check it out!
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March 25, 2009
Second Chances
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found,' so they began to celebrate" (NIV).
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Perhaps one of the most memorable and heart touching stories of grace and forgiveness is recorded in Luke chapter fifteen. It's what we've come to know as the story of the Prodigal son. This young man demanded his inheritance while his father was still alive, spent it all on riotous living, and found himself dirty, destitute, and despairing. As despicable as pigs were to Jews, this young man took a job taking care of pigs and eating their food just to stay alive. Then he had an epiphany. He came to his senses.
"How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death. I will set out and go back to my father and say to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.' So he got up and went to his father (Luke 15:17-20).'"
And where was his father? He was panning the horizon, hoping for a sign that his boy might return home. While "he was still a long way off," the father spotted his son on the horizon. Filled with compassion, he picked up the edges of his robe and ran. He didn't wait for his son to come to him, grovel at his feet, and beg for forgiveness. No, as soon as the father caught a glimpse of his son, he dashed toward his boy, smothered him with kisses, and welcomed him home.
If you remember, not everyone was happy when the prodigal son returned. His big brother resented the fact that he got another chance. And you know what? There will be those who resent the fact that we get another chance as well.
"Big brother won't mind if you come back as long as you hang your head and wear your shame. But when God has the audacity to give you a little dignity back and you dare lift your radiant face to heaven in liberated praise, big brother may be appalled! Pride can't celebrate with a prodigal-come-home. Folks who won't celebrate are still kidding themselves into thinking they did something right to be loved by their Father." (Beth Moore, When Godly People do Ungodly Things, (Nashville, TN: Lifeway Press, 2003), p. 145.)
I say, let him be appalled. Nothing makes some people angrier than grace. Big brother is invited to the party too, and it's his decision whether or not he wants to join in the celebration. I'm just glad he's not the one in charge.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for welcoming me back home when I go astray. I don't deserve your grace, but then, that's what grace is...undeserved favor. Help me always to remember the log in my own eye before pointing out the speck in someone else's. I pray that I will never, never be like the big brother who did not celebrate in his brother's return.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I want to focus on Big Brother.
Have you ever been like the big brother?
Have you ever resented someone being forgiven and restored?
Have you ever felt like some ought to "get what they deserve" rather than being forgiven?
These are tough questions and I love you too much not to ask them. After considering the big brother's attitude, do you need to readjust your attitude toward any particular person in your life who has repented?
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Today's devotion was taken from Your Scars are Beautiful to God. Another great resource to help you see yourself as God sees you is I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Whether you are struggling with mistakes from the past or believing lies of the enemy that tell you that you are a failure; the truth is that you are a chosen, holy, dearly loved child of God who is empowered by the Holy Spirit, indwelled by Jesus Christ, and enveloped in God. And that's the truth.
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March 26, 2009
Laugh it Up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" John 10:10 (NKJV).
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Jesus lived and died so that we can experience abundant life! How often we pass over those words without stopping to grasp the amazing truth they hold. Jesus did not come so that we can merely survive life. Pagans can survive life. God's plan is for us to thrive in the midst of the days, months and years we call life. A continual feast of joy -- with every breath we take.
John 10:10 clearly states the promise of God, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." (NKJV) In this verse, "abundant" literally means "going beyond; full or exuberant". In other words, an abundant life is a life filled with joy! Even in the midst of a joy-less world we can live a joy-filled life for one simple reason -- God is in control! And because He is in control, we are promised, "A cheerful heart has a continual feast." (Proverbs 15:15 NIV)
Life, my friend, should be an ongoing celebration.
Now, be honest for a moment. Is your life a continual feast, a daily celebration? Would those who know you best describe you as a woman of joy? Laughter and joy are treasures from God, valuable to us for many reasons.
1. Joy heals.
Proverbs 17:22 "A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength." (NCV)
Author and speaker, Barbara Johnson, says that "One laugh = 3 Tbs. of oat bran." For many years, we lived in the Miami-Ft. Lauderdale area where hospitals and doctors developed "laughter programs". I love it! Doctors are actually prescribing laughter. Why? Because they have discovered what scripture has said for thousands of years - that laughter heals! The documented benefits of laughter are:
· Exercise for lungs
· Increased circulation
· Controlled pain
· Reduced tension
· Strengthened immune system
In other words, God created us to illustrate the truth, that if we laugh more days, we will have more days to laugh! Joy heals!
B. Joy makes us strong.
Joy -- humor -- laughter -- all cultivate inner strength that operates beyond our own human abilities. His joy in us will produce His strength through us. The joy of the Lord in us will produce His strength through us! The words of Nehemiah say it beautifully, "The joy of the Lord is your strength." Nehemiah 8:10 (NIV)
A life without joy is like a car without shock absorbers. It will be jolted by every bump in the road. Laughter and joy are the shock-absorbers of life and can radically change our perspective of life and the tough times it holds.
Several years ago, one of my friends underwent a mastectomy. Sally was out of work for months, undergoing surgery, radiation and chemotherapy treatments. All in all, it was a horrendous ordeal! She was not known for her inner strength and, in fact, often seemed fragile and frail in her handling of tough circumstances. Sally's battle with cancer was by far the greatest challenge of her life. Anticipating her return to work, Sally's co-workers were a little tense, wondering just how this experience would affect her personally as well as her ability to handle the stress of her job. They got their answer on her first day back at work. Sally walked in, smiling, wearing a poster-board sign around her neck. On the sign was a huge black arrow pointing down. The sign read, "It was this one!" Yes, joy and laughter make us strong!
C. Joy makes the ordinary special.
Someone said, "If you have to move ten inches from where you are now to be happy, then you will never be truly happy." We need to celebrate the ordinary things in life because it is against the backdrop of the ordinary that God's work becomes extraordinary. As we celebrate the ordinary - as we celebrate the little things in life - we build a life of joy! We don't have trouble celebrating the big events in life. Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries -- are celebrations we anticipate and execute with great planning and forethought. We tend to place unrealistic expectations on these celebrations because there is no daily celebration of life.
So celebrate, my friends! Celebrate Tuesdays, half birthdays, haircuts, new jeans and report cards. Celebrate the day braces go on -- and especially the day they come off. Celebrate if Dad comes home early. Hey -- celebrate if Dad comes home! My husband is an absolute master at finding joy and laughter in the ordinary and often mundane things of life. Now before I go any further, you need to know that I have his full permission to share the following illustration. I believe his exact words were, "Go for it!"
Several years ago, our family was flying to Texas for the Christmas holidays. Before I could even begin packing, a mountain of laundry had to be done. My sweet husband offered to help. After the first few loads, we turned on the television to watch a Christmas special. Settling into the couch sitting under a wall of windows, we folded load after load of clothes. It was midnight and Dan was bored -- a dangerous combination. The drier buzzed and out he went to retrieve the final load. He came back into the room wearing a "hat" which turned out to be a pair of my sexiest underwear. I burst out laughing -- and so did the people outside our family room windows!
Each year, our church youth decorated Christmas trees and delivered them to the older members of our congregation - a wonderful act of service. They also had a contest to see who could produce the ugliest tree, which was always delivered to the pastor's home on Christmas Eve. However, since we would be out of town on Christmas Eve, they had chosen this particular night to deliver the prized tree. Outside our windows stood youth workers, youth and the youth pastor -- laughing hysterically. (Some of them are still in counseling today!) That ordinary chore has become a favorite family story. Joy and laughter make the ordinary special.
I want it all! I want everything that God has for me! I want to celebrate life! But I often get so wrapped up in the urgent things that I lose sight of the important things. A celebratory attitude is slowly siphoned from our souls by the countless "joy robbers" the enemy sends our way. Guard your heart and mind! Refuse to surrender your God-given joy to anyone or anything. Join me this week as we celebrate Jesus! Party on!
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate You! Thank You for bringing joy and peace into my dark world. Thank You for a love that never fails and a peace that meets every need. Help me to remember that because You are in control, I can have joy every step of the way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Evaluate the joy-level in your heart and in your home.
Identify any "joy-robbers" present in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Plan a party, announcing that the flag of joy will be flying above your home from now on.
Memorize the key verse today and make it one of your life verses.
Answer the following question:
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Would your family describe you as a woman of joy? I encourage you to examine your life to discover who or what you are counting on for joy. I often wonder if it grieves the heart of God to see His children living joy-less lives when He came so we could experience abundant joy. I truly believe that attitudes can be healed by joy and laughter. To help you get started, check out Mary's CD and MP3, Laugh More ... Live Better and don't miss her weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, as she begins a new study on joy and laughter.
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Laugh it Up!
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up, for I have overcome the world" John 16:33 (NLT).
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Not long ago, my husband said something that was profoundly simple and yet life changing for me. "My first prayer each day is my confession to God that I want everything He has for me. I want it all!" I can just see the Father's face smiling at those words from a faithful heart. Our thirst for God pleases Him. Our hunger for God's richest blessings brings Him pleasure. God wants us to thrive -- not merely survive life. A continual feast of joy -- with every breath we take -- that is His plan. Laughter and joy are treasures from God, valuable to us for many reasons.
Joy heals
Joy makes us strong
Joy makes the ordinary special.
4. Joy eliminates tension.
Laughter and joy can take a tense situation and disarm it! When I prepared my first lesson on joy and laughter, Dan was out of town. The kids were young and bedtime was a major hurdle. I knew that several hours of study were ahead of me and was desperately trying to get both children into bed and asleep in order to complete the lesson. I had sweetly -- very sweetly - explained that I needed their help. I had made it very clear that I had to prepare a lesson and they could really help me by going to sleep. They were not cooperating! Before I go any further, let me just say I am fully aware that my behavior that night did not meet the criteria for being a successful mom. I have my moments. With each giggle and whisper from the children who were supposed to be asleep, my frustration level rose higher and higher. Finally, I marched into their rooms, hands on hips, icy stare in place and demanded silence! My son's innocent question was a show-stopper, "Mom, what is your lesson about?" Through gritted teeth, I growled, "Joy and laughter, Son." The words just dangled in mid-air, exposing my absurd heart motive. Jered looked at me. I looked at him. We both turned to look at Danna. Like a volcano erupting, laughter spilled out of our hearts, washing away the tension, while covering the circumstance with joy. When we had laughed it all out, they went to sleep and I wrote the lesson on joy - learned at the feet of my children.
Many times, tension comes when we face circumstances that are simply beyond our control. Have you noticed how little control we really do hold? How much energy we waste attempting to control that which cannot be controlled. Joy is lost in the struggle for power and supremacy, and that, my friend, is the root of a joy-less life. We battle for control of life instead of giving up control to God, the only one who can do anything about life. I often wonder how our journey would change if we realized and practiced the truth that if there is no control, there is no responsibility, so we might as well laugh!
I read of a young mother who posted this sign in her home:
TICDAABGC
"Things I Can't Co Anything About But God Can."
Underneath these words, she made a list of each circumstance and problem that she could not change. That is choosing a perspective of joy. Laughter and joy diffuse tension.
5. Joy reproduces itself.
In his book to the Romans, Paul delivers a simplistic but powerful message to each one of us, "Whoever has the gift of encouraging others should encourage. Whoever has the gift of giving to others should give freely. Anyone who has the gift of being a leader should try hard when he leads. Whoever has the gift of showing mercy to others should do so with joy" Romans 13:8 (NCV).
Joy spreads quickly! People are drawn to joy! Think with me for a moment about the people in your life who bring you joy. If you are like me, when you need encouragement or just some plain old fun, there are certain people who come to mind. What an honor! To be thought of as a "joy builder". Joy is the signature of a true believer. Because we know God, our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outer circumstances. Joy reigns within us -- solid, unchanging and eternal, flowing from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, who is Joy! And because He never changes, our joy is fixed. Hebrews 13:8 "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever" (NIV).
"Joyful believers have no trouble convincing people around them that Christianity is real and that Christ can transform a life. JOY is the flag that flies above the castle of their hearts, announcing that the KING is in residence." (Author unknown)
These days, I find myself avoiding the whiners who love to sneak into my life, crushing and stealing my joy. I am in the process of learning a very important truth. Here it is, friends. We set the joy level in our lives. Unspeakable and immeasurable joy is available through the presence of Jesus Christ but is set free by our choice, our "life setting." When it comes to joy, we need to be thermostats instead of thermometers! What is the joy level of your life? Maybe it is time to check that thermostat!
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You because You are the author and finisher of my faith, the beginning and the end, the Alpha and the Omega! You are my all in all, my light and my joy! Because You came, I can celebrate life. Lord, help me to feast on You and Your presence in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Begin a joy journal. In a spiral notebook, record the "joy-moments" in every day. Start looking for God's hand in your daily life and record your praises each night. I encourage you to, at the end of the week, look back to see God at work. Consider the following questions:
What has been the focus of my life?
How has that focus affected my life journey?
What changes do I need to make in order to live a joy-filled life?
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We pray these devotionals on joy have encouraged you for your journey. I really believe that one of the marks of a maturing Christian is a joy-filled life. The world can understand happiness, but joy -- real joy -- can only be found in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
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April 1, 2009
It's All About Love
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing" (Zephaniah 3:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Before God spoke the heavens and earth into existence - before His voice lit the sun, causing darkness to separate from light - before He decorated the sky with stars and called them each by name - before He commanded the waters to divide from land and established living creatures to inhabit the earth - before He breathed the first breath of life over the dust of the ground and into the lungs of Adam, the mysterious and mighty God of the universe loved you. Try to fathom that for a few minutes.
The mystery of God's love cannot be solved. The magnitude of God's love cannot be grasped. The measure of God's love cannot be comprehended. He loves you perfectly and eternally.
"But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear him" (Psalm 103:17a).
His love is unavoidable for His children. If you are His through the blood of Jesus Christ, nothing can separate you from the love of God! The apostle Paul spoke emphatically about this to the Roman believers: "I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow--not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below--indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39, NLT).
God loves you.
God knows you.
God wants you.
God chose you.
How in the world can that be true? It's a mystery. God said through the prophet Isaiah, "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9).
I don't even pretend to understand it. I just accept it.
God is truth. His Word is truth. His Word says He loves you and He loves me. We need to take Him at His word and trust His heart. That's faith, my friend. "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1). In order to believe that God, whom we've never seen, loves us, faith is essential and takes us right back to the basics, doesn't it?
Jesus loves me, this I know
For the Bible tells me so
Little ones to Him belong
They are weak but He is strong
Yes, Jesus loves me
Yes, Jesus loves me
Yes, Jesus loves me
The Bible tells me so.
That song tells a simple truth. God loves you...because He said so. Believe it. Accept it. His love can't be earned. His love can't be bought. It can only be accepted or rejected. It's a choice. Do you accept His love?
Let's Pray
Praying Scripture is a powerful spiritual weapon. Join me in praying Ephesians 3:16-21.
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever!" In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This one is easy! Print or write out one of the verses featured in the devotion that you want to permeate your heart today. Carry it with you wherever you go, reading it as many times as you can.
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Trying to understand the love of God is like trying to capture the full force of the Niagara Falls with a teaspoon...you just can't do it. But though we can't grasp it fully, we can embrace the mystery of our amazing God who bids us to come to Himself through Jesus Christ, so His love can transform us into a work of His beauty. Turn up your speakers and CLICK HERE to hear Gwen's song "Broken Into Beautiful."
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
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April 2, 2009
Peter Gets Back in the Game
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:31 NIV emphasis added).
Friend to Friend
I'm so glad Jesus picked Peter to be one of His disciples. Time and time again we see him with his foot in his mouth, his pride in his pocket, and his temper on his sleeve. Satan knew Peter was going to have a big impact on the church at large, and he tried many times to get him off course. During the last supper, Jesus warned Peter that he was about to be tested..."Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:31 emphasis added).
Peter puffed out his chest, lifted his head and said, "I am ready to go with you to prison and to death."
I imagine Jesus thought, Sure you are, buddy.
Just a few hours later, the sifting began. As Peter stood by the fire just outside where Jesus was being beaten and tried, a little servant girl asked if he was one of Jesus' followers.
"Woman, I don't know him," he said.
Then again...
"Man, I am not (one of his disciples)!" Peter replied.
And again...
"Man, I don't know what you're talking about!"
And just as the third denial slipped off Peter's lips, the rooster crowed to remind him of Jesus' words, "Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times."
Peter went outside and wept bitterly.
Jesus knew that Peter was going to deny him, and yet, before he even fell from grace, Jesus was picking him up. Yes, Peter was absolutely crushed at his weakness in denying Jesus three times. But then, the ray of God's love reminded him of Jesus' words... "When you have turned back, strengthen your brothers."
After Jesus' resurrection, he reminded Peter to invest what he had learned in other people. Three times Jesus asked, "Do you love me?" After each of Peter's affirmations, Jesus said, "Feed my lambs...take care of my sheep...feed my sheep." Peter did exactly what Jesus asked and spent the rest of his life investing in other people.
Have you made some mistakes that left you feeling disqualified? Do you feel like you have been sitting the bench because of too many technical fouls? Oh dear friend, you are not disqualified. Jesus has not put you on the bench. Just as we have seen with Peter, when we fall, Jesus is waiting for us to get back up on our feet and back in the game to strengthen our brothers and sisters in Christ. Listen closely. Can you hear it? Jesus is whispering...Do you love me...take care of my sheep.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so thankful that you loved Peter...and that You love me. I don't want to sit the bench when it comes to the game of life. I thank you for forgiving me and putting me back in the game. Help me to have the courage to get back on my feet when I fall, dust the shame off my face, and join the team on the field!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind when you read... "And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:31-32)?
Do you think Jesus knows when, where, and how you are going to fail?
What did he want Peter to do after he had repented?
What does God want you to do after you have repented?
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April 3, 2009
I Give Up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
I will never forget the day I discovered that my son was a pagan, a sinner! Jered was about six-months-old and crawling everywhere. I had just come back from running errands and was busy putting groceries away in the kitchen, which had a pass-through opening that enabled me to keep an eye on Jered while I worked. He seemed contented as he played with his toys, occasionally taking a break to terrorize our two cats.
When Jered first began to crawl, we had packed away anything that could hurt him, most of our breakables and everything of sentimental value. We had, however, left a beautiful conch seashell on the living room coffee table and used it to begin the arduous but vital task of teaching Jered the meaning of "no". Repeatedly we would point to the shell, touch it and say, "No, no!" Of course, he was a brilliant child, but I was not sure if he had really grasped the whole concept -- until that momentous day.
With the last of the groceries put away, I dumped a bag of potatoes into the kitchen sink and began peeling them for dinner. Glancing up I saw Jered staring at the shell, a grin of anticipation on his face. All of a sudden, he broke out in a fast crawl straight toward the forbidden shell. I winced as the thought of what he could do to that shell and what that shell could do to his small hands. I called out in a firm, confident voice, "Jered, no. Do not touch that shell!" Immediately, in mid-crawl, he stopped, sat up and looked back at me while seeming to consider his options and weigh the consequences. As I repeated the warning, he joyfully clapped his hands, flashing me the most adorable smile. What a great kid! He's got it! I started around the corner to give him a hug and praise him for his obedience when he took off like a shot, crawling as fast as his chubby little hands and knees would carry him. Reaching the coffee table, Jered grabbed the shell and plopped it in his lap like a hard-earned trophy. I gasped in disbelief as his face reflected total triumph! He knew exactly what he was doing and he was not one bit sorry! My perfect little boy was a rebellious pagan, just like his mother.
Each and every one of us was born with a nature that loves to rebel and feeds a natural "bent" toward selfish, wrong choices. However, when we come to Christ we receive a new nature that naturally desires to obey God. The result is internal civil war. The Apostle Paul struggled with sin just like we do today. In his letter to the church at Rome Paul describes his frustration with his own sin: "I don't understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate." (NLT) Sound familiar? I will never forget the first time I read those fervent words written by this man of God. I was so relieved! I often thought I was the only believer who still engaged in major battles with sin. I was thrilled and encouraged to know that I was not in this battle alone. The reality is that as long as we live in this broken and fallen world, our sinful nature and our God nature will constantly be at war.
How do we win that war? The solution is very simple, but very expensive. In fact, it will cost you everything, beginning with the total control of your life. To win this war between the old and new nature we must constantly surrender to God, allowing Him to guide, direct and empower us to live for Him. I love how one man described his own war against sin. "It is like there are two dogs fighting within me, an old dog and a new dog. The one who will win is the one I feed the most."
The old nature is fed by the world and encouraged to enjoy the sin it so freely offers. But God lovingly urges us to strengthen the new nature He has given us by reading and studying the Bible, by praying and spending time with other believers and by serving Him. Certain victory is ours when we constantly choose against the old nature while surrendering to the power of the Holy Spirit. Join me in giving up! Victory is on the way!
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to please you and obey you. So many times, I make the wrong choice and give in to the sin that constantly draws me. Today, I choose against that sin and give myself to you. Thank you for the power of your word and for the precious gift of prayer, through which I find the strength to stand firm. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the sin in your life that you have refused to face. Write that sin down, confess it and ask Him to forgive you. Now destroy the paper on which you wrote the sin and thank God for His forgiving power. Consider the following questions:
What is the most powerful sin in my life? Why?
How does this sin influence my everyday life?
Does this sin affect my relationship with God? In what way?
What is the first step I need to take in order to free my life from this sin?
What specific actions can I take to strengthen the choice I have made to turn from this sin?
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I have walked with God and served Him in ministry for a very long time! One would think I had this "obedience" concept down pat. I think I understand the concept but my very human heart simply doesn't like it and wants its own way. Dealing with sin is an ongoing battle for us all but it is a battle worth fighting. A clean heart before God is a powerful launching pad for life. Don't give up, friend. Don't get discouraged! You are not alone. In fact, I have an online bible study just for you, Light for the Journey. Check it out! You will also find E-Book Bible Studies on anger, stress and dealing with the tough parts of life along with MP3 downloads that will equip and encourage you on your journey. Blessings!
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April 6, 2009
A Simple Wooden Cross
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God" (1 Corinthians 1:18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The sea breeze blew the tangles from my knotted nerves as a choir of various birds sang revelry to greet the day. Myrtle bushes, bursting with fuchsia blossoms added splashes of color to the sandy landscape. Jumping fish performed acrobatic feats for an audience of One.
Perhaps my favorite place in the entire world is the beach. God seems to speak to me through each intricately carved sea shell, soaring gull, and majestic wave. On this particular spring morning, I had gotten up before the others stirred from their slumber, to have a cup of coffee with the Lord. I sat rocking on the cottage porch surrounded by coastal beauty and watching the water of the lazy canal meander by. As I talked to God and thanked Him for all the splendor of His creation, He urged me to look closely at a reflection in the water. My eyes followed the wavy reflection to the side of the canal where there stood two pieces of weathered wood, forming a simple cross. Upon closer inspection, I realized that this was actually one end of an old forgotten clothesline, but to me it was much more.
I knew at that moment the beams were there just for me. The owner may have viewed them as merely part of a clothesline in disrepair but this cross was God's reminder to me that in all the majesty of His creation, the cross of two wooden beams is still the most majestic of all. Two simple beams display to the entire world for all time the surpassing greatness of His love, the incalculable riches of His grace, and the unfathomable depth of His mercy to all who will believe. More beautiful than any blooming flower, more melodious than any song of my feathered friends, more powerful than the surf of the sea -- the cross.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You so much for the cross. Through the work of Jesus on those two simple beams of wood, You have given me eternal life. I pray I will never forget Jesus' incredible sacrifice. Yes, the world may think the cross is foolish, but the message of the cross is the power of God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does the cross mean to you?
How would you explain that to someone who doesn't know Christ?
Why is the cross called the message of the power of God?
Have you, like me in this story, ever felt that God placed something right before you as a special gift or reminder of His presence?
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Did you know that God is speaking all around you and in your life? Would you like to learn more about how to hear His voice? If so, you might enjoy Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. And for more inspirational stories to spiritually jump start your day, see Extraordinary Moments with God, Sharon's beautiful daily devotional.
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April 7, 2009
Storms and the Cross
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Without faith no one can please God. Anyone who comes to God must believe that he is real and that he rewards those who truly want to find him" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
The Easter holidays mean different things to different people. To some, it is a day to gather with family and friends for a special meal. To others, it is a day of brightly colored baskets filled with colored eggs, candy and gifts. For the fully devoted follower of Christ, it is a day of celebration, the very reality that sets Christianity apart from other religions. We serve a living God -- not a statue or a symbol or a mere man. However, to those without hope, dwelling in darkness and fear, facing the fiercest storms of their life, Easter shouts the promise that there is hope -- and hope has a name -- Jesus.
I grew up in a small Texas town where tornadoes were a common occurrence. When the clouds turned a peculiar shade of green and gusts of wind bullied their way across our little town my family would gather around the radio, waiting for news from the local weather man - hoping and praying that it was just an ugly storm headed our way. A few times, however, we were forced to climb down into the damp, musty storm shelter buried in our back yard. I hated those storms and with great conviction vowed that when I grew up I would live in a place that had no storms!
We then moved to South Florida, where I was introduced to hurricanes. I saw first hand, the devastation these monstrous storms can bring. Hurricanes sweep brutally over their prey with a vicious strength, leaving nothing but destruction and terror behind. Homes are reduced to useless rubble, memories are washed away and lives are often lost.
I had always thought of hurricanes as something that mankind could certainly do without but have recently learned that they are necessary phenomena in order to maintain a certain balance in nature. Scientists tell us that hurricanes are extremely valuable because they break up a large percentage of the oppressive heat that builds up at the equator. Hurricanes are also indirectly responsible for much of the rainfall in North and South America. Because of these findings, meteorologists no longer feel the need to use cloud-seeding techniques to prevent hurricanes from being formed. In fact, the world of science is convinced that hurricanes actually do more good than harm.
The storms of life are much the same. Trials, pain, difficult circumstances and hard times are here to stay. We cannot stop the occurrence of storms but we can change our response to those storms. With every storm comes the opportunity to trust God and see faith grow. Every storm holds the promise of hope. Now, if you are like me, when the storm hits, my natural first response is a fervent plea for deliverance. Every day, things happen that are beyond my understanding and out of my control. I often turn to God and ask, "Why?" What I really want to know is why me, why this, why now?
That is where faith comes in. Faith is a natural by-product of trust and follows the choice to believe God no matter what! He wants us to trust Him wholly, even when we do not understand and cannot explain the stormy circumstances swirling around us. When absolutely nothing makes sense and everything seems completely wrong He asks us to trust Him. Oh, it is easy to sing praises when the seas are calm and the boat is still, but the strength of our faith is justly measured in the midst of the raging storm. A job is lost -- a marriage is destroyed -- a child has strayed -- a dream has died. It is in those bleak, seemingly hopeless moments that the value and depth of our faith is computed. It is because of the cross and the price Jesus Christ paid there -- for you and for me -- that we can withstand any storm because of God. Our hope is in Him. Our gaze is on Him and our glance is on the circumstances.
A crisis always reveals what is really inside. What life does to us depends on what life finds in us. Anything -- any trial or pain -- that drives us to God can be counted as a blessing. Faith sees the storm as a chance for God to work in a new way. Faith sees the darkness as an opportunity for His light to shine brighter. Faith sees pain as an opportunity for God to comfort and encourage His precious child.
The next time the storm churns around you, step out of that rocking boat and walk by faith toward your waiting God. He is alive!
Let's Pray
Lord, I celebrate the fact that You are alive and well! At times, my faith seems so small that Your presence and power seem far away. I confess that when a storm hits my first thought is to find a way out. Please help me to remember what You did on the cross and what You accomplished when You rose from the grave. Please give me the faith to walk through my fear to You, trusting You alone. Help me to learn the lesson of the storm and live in the shadow of the cross.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Celebrate the life only Jesus can offer.
Choose to believe that God is in control of today.
Determine to face your storms with faith.
Thank God now for the trials that drive you to Him.
Read James 1:1-8. How do these verses tell me to view trials?
Read Hebrews 11. List the rewards of faith. How did faith influence the men and women listed in this passage?
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God loves to see His children step out in faith, in blind trust, knowing that if He doesn't come through, they are sunk! Don't miss the message of Easter. Remember and celebrate the life, death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Dive into the Word of God and let its power saturate your life with hope and faith. Need help? Enroll in Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey.
April 8, 2009
Jesus' Scars
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"After he said this, he showed them his hands and side. The disciples were overjoyed when they saw the Lord" (John 20:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was just a few days after Easter, and I was reading about the resurrection of Jesus in the Gospel of John chapter twenty. I had read the story many times prior, but this time God opened my eyes to see something I had never noticed before.
In my mind's eye, I saw the pre-morning mist hovering over the garden surrounding the tomb where Jesus' body had been laid three days earlier. There amongst the dew stood Mary Magdalene, deep in sorrow and mourning over the death of her beloved Jesus. Then...Mary hesitates...blinks, trying to readjust her eyes...and discovers the unthinkable. The heavy stone had been rolled away from the entrance to Jesus' grave.
How could this be? Mary thought to herself. Who would have stolen his body?
"I must go and tell the others," Mary said as she dashed from the empty tomb.
"They took Him!" Mary said as she burst through the door of the room where some of the disciples were hiding. "His body is gone!"
Without asking any questions, Peter jumped up from his sitting position on the floor and bolted out of the room. A much younger and more agile John followed close behind, eventually passing his older friend.
"He's not here," John whispered as he peered inside the opening of the cave. "His body is gone."
A moment later, Peter arrived - stunned.
"Look," John said, to his winded friend, "over there in the corner."
A ray of sunlight pierced the darkness like a spotlight illuminating a lone actor on the stage. At the end of the beam lay Jesus' empty burial cloths. Peter barreled past the timid John and burst into the darkened cave. There was just enough light to see the empty burial cloths and the strips of linen that had once covered Jesus' head.
"What happened here? What does this mean?" they mused.
"Hurry," they agreed, "let's go tell the others."
Running past Mary, Peter and John ran back to tell the other disciples of their discovery. But Mary stayed in the garden, weeping for her beloved Jesus.
Mary knelt at the opening of the empty tomb with her hands covering her tearful eyes. Suddenly, a beam of light caught her attention. There, at the spot where Jesus' body had been laid, sat two glistening angels clothed in white -- one at the foot and one at the head...just like on the Ark of the Covenant in the Holy of Holies, she thought.
"Woman, why are you crying?" the angels asked.
"They have taken my Master," Mary replied through her tears. "I don't know where they have taken Him."
Hearing a rustling in the myrtle bushes behind her, Mary turned her head. There appeared another figure as if in a dream. It was Jesus, but Mary didn't recognize or expect Him.
Jesus echoed the angels. "Woman, why are you weeping?"
Mary thought the man was the Gardener. Oh, she was not mistaken. He was The Master Gardener. "Sir," she whimpered, "if you know where they have taken Jesus, would you please tell me so that I can take care of him?"
Then Jesus whispered one simple word. "Mary."
At the sound of her name, Mary recognized the Lord.
After a brief conversation, Mary raced back to the disciples. "I have seen Him!" she proclaimed, "I have seen Him!"
"Who?" they asked in confused unison.
"I have seen Jesus! He is alive!"
Later that day, as the disillusioned band huddled in their hiding place, Jesus appeared in their midst. He didn't knock. He didn't open the door. He simply appeared.
"Peace be with you," Jesus said.
But the disciples didn't recognize Him. He looked like Jesus, talked like Jesus, but how...how could it be?
In order to convince the disciples that He was indeed the risen Christ, Jesus made a simple gesture. He held out His hands and revealed the nail pierced hands. Then he lifted up his tunic to reveal the scar in His sword pierced side.
It was then...that they believed.
As I read these verses, God played and replayed the frames in my mind's eye, but it was the final scene that captured my attention ..."'Peace be with you!' After he said this, he showed them his hands and side. The disciples were overjoyed when they saw the Lord" (John 20:19-20).
Oh God, I prayed, they didn't recognize Jesus until He showed them His scars.
Yes, my child, He seemed to say, this is what I wanted you to see. They did not recognize Jesus until He showed them His scars, and this is how others still recognize Him today...when men and women who have experienced the healing of past wounds are not ashamed to show their scars to a hurting world.
It was an epiphany or sorts - a revelation - a cataclysmic shift of thinking.
See, Jesus did not have to retain the scars of the crucifixion on His resurrected body. He could have returned without them. After all, He is the one who put new flesh on the hands and feet of the lepers. But He chose to keep the scars, I believe, because they were precious to Him...that's how others would recognize who He was.
That is still the way that people recognize Jesus today, when we are not ashamed to show the scars in our own lives - when we reveal the wounds that are now healed and when we tell about the Healer who made it possible.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You that Jesus kept His scars when He rose from the dead. I pray that I will not be ashamed of the scars in my own life, but that people will recognize the Healer in my life through my story. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think Jesus' kept His scars when he returned from the grave?
What do you think of when you look at the scars on your own body? What comes to mind?
How can you use the scars in your own life (the ones that are on your soul) to bring glory to God?
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Today's devotion was taken from Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past by Sharon Jaynes. You can learn more at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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April 9, 2009
Worthless into Precious, Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You are precious and honored in my sight..." (Isaiah 43:4a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Last winter, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It's a hoodie that's made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zips up in the front and is well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.
When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was like a kid in a candy store on the way home. I fully anticipated a shriek of happiness from my little bag of beans when I gave it to her. Delightfully, I wasn't disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around...until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price. Are you tensing up with me? Suddenly, I felt schnookered! Ripped off. Taken advantage of. As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed -- Kennedy's jacket wasn't worth what I paid for it.
When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it a relative term - one that has shifting factors. For example: last week the cute jacket was thirty-nine dollars, and now it's nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn't change, but its perceived worth did.
Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable, shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn't it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feeling worthless? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it's because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.
What kind of variable factors?
There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:
Ø Because they've been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused...)
Ø Because they've been told that they're worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another...)
Ø Because of choices they've made (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger...)
Ø Because they've been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography...)
Ø Because they're co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people -- "If my husband isn't okay, I'm not okay.")
Ø Because they don't collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability...)
Ø Because they've battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can't drive, cook...)
Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We've felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional, broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion...how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.
Trust me! I am not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth. Or about being a woman of worth. I am in the trenches with you. I struggle with normal woman things. I don't live a fancy schmancy, rose-colored wonder-life. I hit the snooze button several times each morning. I pack lunches for my kids. I spend countless hours of my life each year sitting in the car pool line. It's a never-ending struggle for me to keep the laundry cleaned, and my kids often have to fish for a matching pair of socks in the clean-clothes basket. My husband is my soul mate, but is far from perfect. For that matter, Brad should win a lifetime achievement award for enduring the drama of me! And my kids bring me both great joy and great frustration on a daily basis.
Is this sounding at all familiar to you?
See -- I'm just like you, and I'm walking this faith journey right beside you. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. Amen? I'm constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I've come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags" (Isaiah 64:6a, emphasis mine).
What I do know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I'm a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. I'm a grace girl. Not perfect by a long stretch. I've been changed by the unconditional love of God and restored to perfect beauty through the shed blood of Jesus. Because of love, we are His daughters, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: child of the King of Kings.
Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God's daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. That's exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! I talk to women all the time who bend a knee to negative feelings and live defeated lives because they don't quite know how to overcome their sense of worthlessness. God wants every one of us to experience healing and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.
So let's go back to Kennedy's new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God's department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous -- I mean, stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it's crazy expensive. Way beyond what you could ever dream of paying...like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands -- then multiplied that by ten thousand -- that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.
"It's a perfect fit," He smiles.
"Sir," you manage with a whisper, "I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I'm, well, just an ordinary girl."
"Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full."
As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands...nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.
You see, the Bible tells us that because of what Jesus did on the cross, we can be clothed with the "robe of righteousness." The apostle Paul tells us that when we are reconciled to God, we become His righteousness. "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21). There's no way we could ever afford or earn such a robe. But Jesus gave His life for us - He earned it for us. He paid the price and we receive the gift. Why? Because you're worth it. You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone's bargain rack again.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I'm humbled at the very thought that I could be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty!
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it.
Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.
Print or write out this verse: "I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15-16, NASB). Set it to memory and allow it to serve as a reminder that you are precious to God.
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Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken Into Beautiful. God delights to transform lives...including your own. In Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order the book, please CLICK HERE.
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April 10, 2009
Worthless into Precious, Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You are precious and honored in my sight..." (Isaiah 43:4a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Hagar was a young Egyptian servant girl who had some serious challenges. In the Old Testament book of Genesis, chapter 16, we hear of her plight...and of her flight:
"Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him no children but she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; so she said to Abram, 'The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her.'
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian maidservant Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. He slept with Hagar, and she conceived (vv. 1-4a, NIV)."
I imagine Hagar grew up with low self-esteem. As a servant, she probably felt discarded, insignificant, and unimportant. Not only had she been sold to Abram and Sarai, but she was forced to become his wife as well. I don't know about you, but thinking about that makes my stomach do yucky flip-flops!
What do you think that conversation was like when Sarai commanded Hagar to sleep with her elderly husband? How do you think Hagar felt? I find it disturbing and unfair.
When [Hagar] knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. Then Sarai said to Abram, "You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the Lord judge between you and me."
"Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her (vv. 4b-6).
I can understand from a fleshly perspective why Hagar would choose to despise Sarai. When another person wrongs us, it's difficult to choose a godly, non-sassy response. We must be careful to pray for God's perspective and power so we don't allow weeds of resentment to overtake our hearts and guide our responses.
Hagar was a maidservant, a slave, who was forced to move to a foreign land and to sleep with the husband of her mistress. Though this was a common practice in that culture, there is still great uneasiness in my heart as I read what Hagar had to endure. She was mistreated--the Bible makes that clear--and she had fair reason to run. However, God caught up with her not too far down the road.
The angel of the Lord found Hagar near a spring in the desert, the spring that is beside the road to Shur, and he said, "Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?"
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," she answered (vv. 7-8).
When faced with difficult circumstances, Hagar ran away. I might have done the same thing. But when she found herself seemingly alone in the desert, God sought her out and called her by name. The God of the universe knew Hagar's name. Hagar was a slave, nobody in the eyes of society, yet our God spoke lovingly through the angel of the Lord to this hurting mother-to-be and whispered promises of blessing to her weary heart.
Then the angel of the Lord told her, "Go back to your mistress and submit to her." The angel added, "I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count" (vv. 9-10).
Stunned that the God of the universe cared to comfort her, Hagar responded by giving God a new name--El Roi, "the God Who Sees Me." She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me" (v. 13).
God pursued a broken woman and lifted her eyes to meet His own. He saw her in spite of who she was or thought herself to be, called her by name, and ministered to her heart. My heart burns with awe at the intimate intervention and tenderness that God showed Hagar, a grieving mom-to-be in a very dark hour.
Each one of us strolls through the wilderness of life at times. Our unchanging God knows your name too. He sees you right where you are and knows the burdens of your heart. God sees each one of us just as He saw Hagar, and bids us to see ourselves through His eyes. Why would He? Because of Jesus. God sees you through the blood-stained curtain of Jesus Christ. Perfect. Forgiven. Precious.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for seeing me...even in the times when I feel forgotten and invisible. Your Word says that You know my name and consider me precious. Please speak that to my soul right now. (Pause here to listen...) I love you, Lord. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
What can you learn from Hagar's encounter with God in the desert?
Where have you come from and where are you going? Take time to journal or contemplate a response.
So many times, we want to run from our problems and sidestep accountability. Is there a difficulty in your life that you're tempted to run away from or ignore?
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April 13, 2009
God Pursues Us
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 5:8 "But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
Jesus was on his way to Galilee from Judea. In Jesus' day, the Jews hated the Samaritans and would never purposely travel through their land. There were other roads, better and safer roads Jesus could have taken and usually did take -- but not today. Today, he had a divine appointment. Today he chose to go through the region of Samaria and he chose to go through Sychar, the small village where a certain woman lived. Meeting this woman was no accident on the part of Jesus Christ. With great determination and forethought, he planned a divine interruption in her life, an interlude in which His love and forgiveness met her at the point of her greatest need. He planned to set her free.
Little is known about this woman and what we do know is not good. She was immoral and spiritually ignorant, an outcast despised by the Jews and even by her own people. She was very popular with the men of the village who bought her to satisfy their own physical pleasure and then tossed her aside like a broken, damaged and used doll. I am certain this woman had no illusions about the fact that she meant absolutely nothing to these men. In the beginning, she may have convinced herself that they cared for her and perhaps even loved her, but I imagine that illusion was short-lived. In fact, while studying her life, I have many times wondered if there had ever been a man in her life that she could love or trust. I do not know what drove this woman to such an empty and futile existence, but I do know as far as Jesus was concerned, that old life was over! It did not matter to Him. He looked at this woman through eyes of healing and forgiveness and saw His precious child. He just loved her -- right where she was and just as she was. It is very clear in this scriptural account that this woman at the well was extremely important to Jesus. He recognized her worth.
The life of this woman reminds me of the little boy who built a wooden boat. For hours he worked, whittling and carving, until it was exactly as he had dreamed it would be. After sanding and painting the small boat, the little boy raced outside to the nearby river where the launch of his cherished creation would take place. It was beautiful. Every day, the young captain sailed his boat up and down the lazy river, his active imagination weaving tales of pirates and treasures, mermaids and sea monsters, every story ending with the return of his seaworthy vessel. Then one day, after a torrential rain, the little boy sailed his boat on the burgeoning stream. Too late, he realized that the swift current was taking his boat out of reach. He frantically tried to retrieve the boat, but it was moving too fast and he ran out of shoreline. The boat was lost. Brokenhearted, he stood on the bank of the river, staring into the fading light as his precious boat sailed away from him. When darkness came, the brokenhearted boy turned and slowly walked away.
Several days later, he was on his way home from school when he passed the toy store. There in the window was his boat! Someone had found it! Dropping his backpack, the boy slammed through the door of the toy store and with an anxious heart, the little boy told the owner that the boat in the window belonged to him. But the owner was not convinced and told the boy he would have to pay for the boat. "Can you please, please hold it for me?" the little boy begged. "Just until the store closes today," the owner replied. Frantic, but determined to have his boat, the little boy ran home, grabbed his piggy bank and bolted back to the store. Minutes later, he walked out of the toy store, the boat securely in his hands. "You are twice mine, little boat," the boy whispered, "once because I made you and once because I bought you."
Just as Jesus came looking for the Samaritan woman, He comes looking for you, willing to step right into the mess of your life with the gift of healing love and life-changing restoration in His hands. The price Jesus paid was enormous but he gladly paid that price to buy back what He had created. Like this woman at the well, we are important because God made us and because God pursues us. What hope we find in Paul's words written in the book of Romans 5:8, "But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners" (NLT).
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for loving me just as I am and for being willing to send Your only Son, Jesus Christ, to die for me on the cross -- paying for my sin in full. I celebrate the forgiveness I find in You. Your grace and mercy overwhelm me, Lord. I realize that no one loves me like You do and that I am indispensable to no one but You. Please help me live in the shadow of the cross and in the light of an empty tomb.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and answer each question:
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
What must we do in order to receive God's gift of forgiveness?
1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
This verse was written to believers. What does it tell you about sin and the confession of sin?
2 Chronicles 7:14 "If My people, who are called by My name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land."
What four steps does God ask us to take as we pray?
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Forgiveness is powerful and life-changing. To experience the life God wants us to have, we must learn how to forgive others and how to ask others for forgiveness. Forgiveness is not an emotion or feeling, nor does it depend upon the response of the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice, an independent act between you and God - and forgiveness is hard! In fact, it is impossible -- outside the power of God at work in us. Check out The Power of Forgiveness, a message that will teach you how to process pain and hurt, let go of it and forgive. It is available as a CD or MP3. My weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, will help you to learn God's Word and show you how to grow in your faith.
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April 14, 2009
The Redemption Center
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.' He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit" (Galatians 3:13, 14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
If I think about it long enough, I can almost taste the sickly sweet glue on the tip of my tongue. Yes, the childhood ritual of licking and sticking S & H Green Stamps into books is forever glued in my memory's scrapbook.
When I was a little girl, my mother did her grocery shopping at White's Supermarket on the corner of Tarboro Street and Pearl. Oh sure, there were other grocery stores around, but White's gave out S & H Green Stamps with every purchase. On shopping days, I watched as the cashier rang up my mom's purchases, pulling a lever with each entry. My mom's eyes lit up every time she heard the cha-ching, knowing that meant more stamps. When the total was tallied, the cash register spit out a stream of stamps, both large and small. We never put the stamps in books right away. Mom stuffed them in a brown paper bag and waited until we could make a whole day of it.
About every six months, mom pulled a brown bag swollen with S & H Green Stamps down from a shelf. She spilled its contents on a table and announced, "OK Sharon, it's time to paste the stamps."
For hours, it was lick, stick, lick, stick, lick, stick. Large stamps represented dollars spent and only three filled a page. Small stamps represented cents spent and 30 filled a page. I like doing the dollars.
After six months of collecting stamps and six hours of pasting them in the books, my mom and I excitedly drove down to the S & H Green Stamp Redemption Center. With arms heavy laden, we plopped our days work on the clerk's desk.
"Whatcha goina get?" I'd ask as we strolled up and down the aisles of house wares.
"I don't know, honey," my mom would reply. "But it'll be something good."
After much consternation, mom would decide on a treasure such as an electric can opener, or a steam iron, or a shiny set of stainless steel mixing bowls. Oh, it was an exciting day to make a trip to the S & H Green Stamp Redemption Center and trade in our stamps for a special prize.
Have you ever noticed there are some Christianese words we repeat often, but have difficulty explaining? I think redemption is one of those words. But as a child, because of my visits to the S & H redemption center, I understood "redemption." To me, it meant to trade something in for something else, to take my stamps and trade them in (redeem them) for a prize -- for something valuable. And that's exactly what it means.
Jesus Christ traded in His life to redeem mine. Listen to what these two passages have to say:
Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.' He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit (Galatians 3:13,14 NIV). For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect (I Peter 1:18,19 NIV).
Jesus traded in His life so that I could receive mine. To Him, I was the prize -- a treasure. But that's not all. He's made it possible for me to do a little bit of trading as well. I've traded in confusion for the mind of Christ, filthy rags for a robe of righteousness, bondage for freedom, bitterness for forgiveness, darkness for light, condemnation for acceptance, spiritual poverty for abundance and the list goes on and on. He even gave me (and you) the Holy Spirit as a down payment for more that is yet to come. What an abundance of treasures -- much more valuable than an electric can opener or set of mixing bowls.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for redeeming me! I have traded in my mourning for laughter, my weeping for rejoicing, my sickness for healing, my guilt for freedom, my sin for righteousness, my fear for faith, my weakness for Your strength, my insecurity for Your boldness, my inadequacies for Your supply. What a deal!
In Jesus' Name, the One Who made it all possible,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to do a little trading of your own? Do you need to make a trip to God's redemption center?
What would you like to trade in today? Make a list.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. If you love stories such as these, then you would love Sharon's daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God. It is a beautiful storehouse of inspiration to give you a spiritual quick start for each day. And, if you would like to learn more about how to hear God's voice in your everyday life, check out Becoming a Woman who Listens to God.
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April 15, 2009
God's Transforming Love
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"But anyone who does not love does not know God -- for God is love. God showed how much he loved us by sending his only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love. It is not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins." (1 John 4:8-10 NLT)
Friend to Friend
For several years, we lived in the mountains of North Carolina where woodworking is a common hobby and a unique art. When time permits, I love to browse through the old-world country stores filled with quaint and unusual treasures, run by some of the most interesting people I have ever met.
Several years ago, we were on vacation and I was in search of a treasure. Taking an unmarked dirt road, I decided it was time for an adventure. I swerved and crept my way up the mountain until, and rounding a hairpin turn, I spotted an old log cabin tucked way back in some trees.
A bearded man sat on the porch, rocking and whittling, a pile of wooden logs by his side. There on the rickety porch railing was a large collection of beautifully carved wooden dogs. With a wave of his hand, the man motioned for me to join him, the only invitation I needed. I parked the car, grabbed my purse and headed for those wooden dogs. "Look all ya want," the man invited. "And if you need to, you can ask a question." I had only one. "How in the world do you carve these beautiful dogs out of those ordinary pieces of wood?" I asked. "Well, Missy, it's pretty simple. I just take me a piece of wood and cut away everything that doesn't look like a dog."
God changes lives in much the same way. His love slowly, patiently uses the circumstances and relationships of life to cut away everything that doesn't look like His child. Some of us need extra work but can rest in the truth that if He is the One doing the cutting, the results will be beautiful.
The woman at the well was in desperate need of someone who could change her life. "She said to Jesus, 'You are a Jew, and I am a Samaritan woman. Why are you asking me for a drink?' Jesus replied, 'If you only knew the gift God has for you and who I am, you would ask me, and I would give you living water.' 'But sir, you don't have a rope or a bucket,' she said, 'and this is a very deep well. Where would you get this living water?' Jesus replied, 'People soon become thirsty again after drinking this water. But the water I give them takes away thirst altogether. It becomes a perpetual spring within them, giving them eternal life.' 'Please, sir,' the woman said, 'Give me some of that water! Then I'll never be thirsty again, and I won't have to come here to haul water." (John 4:9-15 NLT)
The living water Jesus described is God's unconditional love, a love that was completely foreign to the Samaritan woman. She had spent her whole life going from man to man, desperately searching for someone who would really love her. Notice that she came to the well at noontime, the hottest hour of the day, to draw her water. All of the other women came in the morning or evening in order to avoid the brutal heat, but she came alone, I believe, to avoid their condemning eyes and sarcastic whispers. I can only imagine the loneliness she must have been feeling that day as she made her way to the well. Then she spotted Jesus -- sitting at the well, waiting for someone. The minute she saw Him she knew that He had come for her, His eyes filled with something that she did not quite recognize. It was unconditional love that reached out through her sin and drew her to Him, tearing down the guilt and stripping away the shame that had become such a familiar part of her being. It was the unfailing love for which we all thirst that compelled her to come. Real love, God's love, with no conditions, no hidden clauses and no strings attached. Scripture tells us God is not just loving or able to dispense love, but is the very definition and substance of love itself. When we know Him, we know love. "But anyone who does not love does not know God -- for God is love. God showed how much he loved us by sending his only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love. It is not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins." (1 John 4:8-10 NLT)
Like this woman, we cannot give what we do not have. We are incapable of giving real love until we have received real love. It is only in a personal encounter with God that we can experience a love so powerful that it reveals the very person of God to us. We must understand and remember that God does not love us because we are lovable and deserve to be loved. He loves us simply because He is love -- and He cannot help Himself!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the love You have given me. I admit that I don't always understand the way Your love works but I know I can trust You to work in my life for my good. I want to experience Your love in a new way and then learn how to share that love with others. I submit myself to You, Lord. Please love through me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following thoughts. Beside each one, write your own definition and thoughts.
We call it mercy - it is God's forgiving love.______________________________
We call it fate - it is God's caring love.__________________________________
We call it kindness - it is God's accepting love.___________________________
We call it death - it is God's proven love.________________________________
We call it the plan of God - it is God's perfect love.________________________
We call it heaven - it is God's rewarding love.____________________________
We call it eternity - it is God's unending love. ____________________________
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April 16, 2009
Jumping to Conclusions
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32)
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I read a bumper sticker once that read, "If mother's place is in the home, why am I always in the car?" Welcome to the new millennium where the car is indeed the moving extension of the home. Whether it's a mother running carpool, a business woman sitting in commuter traffic, or a senior citizen volunteering in the community, the fact is, we live much of our lives in the car. That means God is in the car with us and speaks to its mobile inhabitants. One such "moving" experience taught me about the importance of not jumping to conclusions.
John 8:32 is one of my favorite Bible verses. So much so, that I had the fine people at the license plate bureau make me a personalized plate that read just that - JOHN 8:32. The verse reads, "Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free."
My good friend Mari noticed my license plate for the first time as we passed one day on the highway, and made a mental note to look up the verse when she arrived home. After she found the verse, she spent some time meditating and wondering why in the world I would put that verse on my license plate. She looked again to see if she was missing some deep meaning. Maybe it was a joke.
Mari gave me a call and asked, "What possessed you to put a Bible verse about pigs on your license plate?"
"What are you talking about, Mari?"
"You know. You have Luke 8:32 on your license plate."
The problem was, Mari had remembered the verse as Luke 8:32, not John 8:32. That verse read, "Now there was a herd of many swine feeding there on the mountain; and the demons entreated him to permit them to enter the swine. And He gave them permission." Can't you see it now, bumper stickers that read, "When pigs flew, Luke 8:32." Or, a Chick-fil-A billboard with Luke 8:32 written in the bottom right hand corner with a pig saying "Eat More Chicken."
After I set Mari straight, telling her that she had the right verse but the wrong book, we had a good chuckle. However, it was a "moving" experience for me. The next time I question someone's motives or actions, I need to remember that I usually don't have all the facts. I might have the right chapter and even the right verse, but I may be in the wrong book altogether. And that can make the difference between demon possessed pigs and the truth that will set you free.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to not jump to conclusions and make quick judgments. Help me always to realize that I don't have all the facts when it comes to another person's attitude, actions and reactions. Give me a gracious and loving spirit that always thinks the best of others and closed lips when I don't.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time when you jumped to a conclusion and it turned out to be completely wrong.
How would it have been better to wait until you had all the facts?
What emotions could have been avoided if you had waited to get the facts correct?
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April 17, 2009
Unbelievable Love
Cindi Wood
Today's Truth
"Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!" 1 John 3:1 (NKJV)
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Last week our boys came home. They are grown, married, and live hours away from us, so it was a BIG DEAL that they were coming home for the weekend. The entire week before, I was busy preparing their rooms, shopping for little surprises, baking their favorite foods, and just pretty much consumed with the thought that we'd all be together having fun and just hanging out for an entire weekend. And that, we did! We bowled, ate out, ate in, stayed up late, played games, and sat in the den talking and laughing. For two and a half days, our entire purpose for being seemed to be enjoying each other's company. As we locked hands in prayer before they headed back home to their wives, my heart was about to burst with the wonder of love. Through blurred vision, their dad and I watched them drive away. "It's hard to believe how much I love them so deeply, so unconditionally, just deep down in the core of my being," I said.
Then God spoke softly to my heart. "That's how I love you, but more!"
It really is hard for us to believe God loves us unconditionally, isn't it? How can a perfect and holy God love someone like me? I am learning a valuable and life-changing truth. God does not love us because He is so lovable, friend. He loves us because He is love!
Today, celebrate the fact that you are a child of God, a daughter of the King -- and you are loved.
Let's Pray
O Father, I just can't get my mind around Your love. As deep as my love is for my boys, it's unfathomable to me that Your love is deeper. But I know it is. You love me -- even me, with all my junk, my failures, my sins, and my messes. You love me deeply, unconditionally, and from the core of Your being. You are God. You are love. And Lord, my heart bursts with love for You. Thank You, oh thank You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Precious friend, it's important that you accept the reality of God's love - for YOU! You may feel unlovable, unworthy, unclean, and undeserving -- but that does not negate His love. He loves you because you are His creation. Right now, you may pray this simple prayer to God your Creator. Dear God, I don't understand how you could love me, but I accept the fact that You do. Teach me more about Your love so that I may love others in the way You love me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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April 20, 2009
Rahab Saves the Day
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For the LORD your God is God in heaven above and on the earth below" (Joshua 2:11 NIV).
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Several years ago, I traveled to the Christian Booksellers Association in New Orleans, Louisiana. Now why the committee chose New Orleans, I will never know. However, I must say, I got quite an education while I was there.
One afternoon, I decided to go exploring down the famous Bourbon Street. It seemed there was some sort of street party going on (which I later realized was coup de jour.) Before I knew it, I was shoulder to shoulder in a mass of humanity - a herd of hoopin' and hollerin,' dancin' and drinkin,' carousers. I kept my purse pressed to my chest and looked for the next exit! Bombarded by a cacophony or sights, sounds, and smells, my eyes traveled up to a balcony overhead. Even though it was broad daylight, several "ladies of the evening" were hanging over the railing enticing the men below to join them for sensual pleasure -- by the hour.
The "ladies" wore skin tight tops, thigh high hose with feathery garter belts, and lacy push-up camisoles. With six inch heels on their feet, dangling jewels from their earlobes, and vibrantly painted lips, they hung over the balcony of what appeared to be a brothel, displaying their bodies with alluring words to seduce their prey.
Never having seen a brothel before, I now had a better picture of what Rahab's house in the Bible must have looked like. In the Old Testament, just before the Israelites conquered, captured, and claimed the Promised Land, they sent in spies to check out Jericho's defenses. While there, they went into the house of a prostitute, probably because no one would be suspicious of strange men entering such a place. The officials made an official visit in search of the spies, but Rahab hid them under stalks of flax on the roof until it was safe for them to leave. Before the sun rose the following morning, Rahab made a statement of faith.
"I know that the LORD has given this land to you and that a great fear of you has fallen on us, so that all who live in this country are melting in fear because of you. We have heard how the LORD dried up the water of the Red Sea for you when you came out of Egypt, and what you did to Sihon and Og, the two kings of the Amorites east of the Jordan, whom you destroyed. When we heard of it, our hearts melted and everyone's courage failed because of you, for the LORD your God is God in heaven above and on the earth below. Now then, please swear to me by the LORD that you will show kindness to my family, because I have shown kindness to you" (Joshua 2:8-12).
The spies told Rahab to tie a scarlet cord in her window and bring her entire family into the house. When the army came to destroy the city, they looked for the scarlet cord and rescued Rahab and her family.
I get so excited about this story. See, we have a scarlet cord as well! It is Jesus Christ, God's only Son, whose scarlet blood saves us, protects us, and delivers us. You know what is so wonderful. Rahab wasn't only saved from destruction, but she was brought into the family of God and used for His glory. She even married a wonderful Jewish man named Salmon. Perhaps you haven't heard of him, but I bet you've heard of their son, Boaz, or their grandson, Obed, or their great-grandson, Jesse, or their great-great-grandson, David.
No matter what we've done or where we've come from, when we come to Christ and tie that scarlet cord from the window of our heart, God saves us, welcomes us, and uses us for His glory. See, many people believe they are forgiven, but they don't feel that they are "good enough" to be used. They stand like an outsider, like a waif peering into the window of a great mansion as a banquet is taking place within. Their tummies grumble in hunger as the father slices the roast turkey and the juices seep over the braised meat. Their mouths water as the rich gravy smothers the steamy potatoes and the sweet biscuits are passed from person to person.
But what they fail to see is the empty seat -- the one with their name printed on the place card.
You have been brought into God's family and invited to dine at your Father's banqueting table. Don't stare through the window. Go in and take your seat where you belong. He's waiting for you.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father: Thank You for saving me -- for rescuing me -- for allowing me to be a part of your chosen people. Thank you for allowing me to sit at your banqueting table each and every time I open my Bible and feast upon Your Word.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever pondered the idea that David's great, great grandmother was a prostitute?
How does the story of how God saved and used Rahab encourage you today?
Are you sitting at God's banqueting table as the well-loved guest that you are, or are you standing outside longing to join in?
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April 21, 2009
Here Comes the Judge!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Love one another as I have loved you." John 15:12
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A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in homespun, thread bare clothes, stepped off the train in Boston, and walked timidly into the Harvard University President's outer office where they had no appointment. The secretary could tell with one glance that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard and probably didn't even deserve to be in Cambridge. She frowned. "We want to see the president," the man said softly. "He'll be busy all day," the secretary snapped. "We'll wait," the lady replied.
For hours, the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn't and the secretary grew more angry and frustrated by the moment. Finally, with great hesitation, she decided to disturb the president. "Maybe if they just see you for a few minutes, they'll leave," she told him. He sighed in exasperation and nodded. Someone of his importance obviously didn't have the time to spend with them, but he detested gingham dresses and homespun suits cluttering up his outer office. The president, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple.
The lady told him, "We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard and was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed so my husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus." The president wasn't touched. In fact, he was shocked. "Madam," he said, gruffly, "we can't put up a statue for every person who has attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery." "Oh, no," the lady explained quickly. "We don't want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard." The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit and then exclaimed, "A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven-and-a-half million dollars in the physical plant at Harvard." For a moment, the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now.
The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, "Is that all it costs to start a university? Why don't we just start our own?" Her husband nodded. The president's face wilted in confusion and bewilderment. Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California where they established the university that bears their name, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about.
I wonder how many blessings we miss because we are quick to judge and slow to love. It may surprise you to know that God does not love us because we are so lovable. God loves us because He is love! We all long for someone who will love us just as we are, but wonder if such a love even exists and if it does, is it available to us. Unconditional love does exist and it is available to each one of us - just as we are - through Jesus Christ.
God's love is a gift. It is neither earned nor deserved. Just as with any gift from God, His love is not only given for our benefit but for us to share as well. When we experience the love of God, He then calls us to love like He loves and teaches us how to celebrate the differences in each other instead of insisting that people change. There must be a thread of elasticity running through the very fiber of every relationship - especially our relationships with difficult people. The truth is that those who deserve love the least need love the most. Just as we cannot allow others to define us, we must stop trying to control, change and define others.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive my arrogance when I judge others. I want to learn how to celebrate the differences in others instead of trying to shape them into something I find pleasing. Forgive my impatience when someone does not "measure up" to my standards and then forgive me for even having a standard by which to love and accept others. You love and accept me -- just as I am. Thank You, Father. Please help me see others as You see them and love them as You love them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Remember a time when someone wrongly judged you. How did their attitude make you feel?
Read Luke 6:37 carefully. What are the consequences when we judge others? When we condemn others? What does this verse promise when we choose to forgive others?
Take a few minutes to think about the people in your life -- at home, at work, in your neighborhood. Do you ever judge them? Why? On what basis? How do you think God would evaluate your attitude toward these people and how does it line up with the attitude God wants us to have?
Are you willing to love the unlovable, accept the unacceptable and forgive the unforgivable? Remember, Jesus has already done that in your life and in mine.
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Women are especially good at the comparison game, which is a nice way of saying we are quick to judge other women by how they look, the clothes they wear, their social status -- you get the idea. Now would be a good time to remember and celebrate God's grace and mercy toward each one of us. It is also the perfect time to learn how to see others through the eyes of God -- valuable, loved, planned and wanted.
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April 22, 2009
The Way Up is Down
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up" (James 4:10 NIV).
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What do you think of when you hear the word "power?" Webster defines power as an ability or faculty, control, controlling influence, authority. In the Greek, the original language of the New Testament, the word is dunamis and is that which manifests God's power. It is where we get the English word dynamite.
In the Bible, Jesus told the disciples that they would receive power after he had died and the Holy Spirit came to live in and through them (Acts 1:8). "It is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Counselor will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you" (John 16:7). In the disciples' minds, that did not make sense. Why would it be better for Jesus to leave them? How could they possibly have more power if He were gone?
The disciples would have planned Jesus' reign in a different way. Even Peter, when Jesus foretold of his imminent suffering, death, and resurrection said, "Never Lord! This shall never happen to you!"
They did not understand God's economy: the first shall be last, we gain our lives by dying to self, we receive by giving, we become powerful by being weak, and we are lifted up when we humble ourselves before God.
In Jesus' first recorded sermon, He began with a list of seeming contradictions.
Blessed are the poor in spirit,
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
For they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek.
For they will inherit the earth.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss, in her book, Brokenness -- The Heart God Revives, notes the following concerning Jesus' words about the poor in spirit.
"...Jesus came to introduce a radically different way of thinking about life. In the original Greek language, Jesus could have chosen to speak of someone being "poor" using two different words. The first word suggests someone who lives just below the poverty line, someone who has to scrimp and scrape to survive, and someone who makes it, but barely. That is not the word Jesus chose. He used another word that means a beggar -- a person who is utterly, absolutely destitute. This beggar has no hope of surviving unless somebody reaches out a hand and pulls him up."
What is Jesus saying? Blessed are the beggars -- those who recognize that they are spiritually destitute and bankrupt. They know that they have no chance of survival apart from God's intervening mercy and grace." (Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Brokenness -- The Heart God Revives (Chicago, Illinois: Moody Publishing, 2002), p.49-50.)
Consider these seemingly upside down verses from Scripture:
· "Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave-- just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many" (Matthew 20:26-28).
· "Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" (Luke 6:38).
· "Then he said to them, "Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. For he who is least among you all--he is the greatest" (Luke 9:48).
· "But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me" (2 Corinthians 12:9).
· Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up." (James 4:10)
· "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things--and the things that are not--to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him (1 Corinthians 1:27-29).
We tend to think our scars hinder our service for God when it is our very scars that often render us able. Through our weakness, He makes us strong. Through our dying, He makes us alive. Through our wounds, He makes us whole. "For when I am weak, then I am strong" (2 Corinthians 12:10).
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I am so weak, and yet, through the power of the Holy Spirit I am strong. I am constantly amazed at how You take the weak things of this world and make them strong. You take the humble, lift them up, the uneducated, make them wise, the broken, and make them powerful vessels. Thank You for taking the wounds in my life and transforming them into beautiful scars that tell a story of hope and redemption.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now Its Your Turn
Today's devotion is full of Scripture. Go back over the verses and ponder what they mean in your life.
Are there any attitudes that you need to change?
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April 23, 2009
I Feel Your Pain
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is the Father who is full of mercy and all comfort. He comforts us every time we have trouble, so when others have trouble, we can comfort them with the same comfort God gives us."
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The story of the Good Samaritan is one of the most familiar passages in all of scripture. It is a parable, an earthly story with a heavenly lesson. Jesus tells this parable in response to a question asked him by a Jewish lawyer. "What must I do to inherit eternal life?" the successful young truth seeker asked. Jesus saw his heart and told him the two things he must do, the two things the lawyer would find it hardest to do. He must love God completely and he must love his neighbor as himself.
The lawyer didn't like that answer because he lived by the law. He wanted the laws or doing good works to be his ticket to heaven. This "loving your neighbor" business sounded too messy and certainly too costly. It was simply too much personal responsibility. But Jesus told the lawyer that keeping the law – God's law and man's law - was not enough. He had to love God and he had to love his neighbor.
Thinking he could find a loophole, the lawyer asked, "Who is my neighbor?" Jesus' answer to that question is the parable of the Good Samaritan. It is a story of compassion and drives home the truth that compassion is not just for the easy to love people, but for the not so easy to love sandpaper people as well, an impossible task outside the supernatural power of God working in and through us. The word "compassion" is a key word in 2 Corinthians, is used 29 times and can be defined as "called to one's side to help." How can we become people of compassion?
It was Easter Sunday, and I was sitting in the sanctuary, waiting for the worship service to begin. Anticipating a large crowd, I arrived early to drop our son, Jered, off in the nursery, one of his favorite places to go because every nursery worker spoiled him rotten. Sometimes he would even cry when my husband, Dan, or I picked him up after church, wanting to stay and play. As the choir filed in, a friend slipped into the pew beside me and said, "I think you need to go to the nursery. Something is wrong with Jered." Jumping up, I catapulted over legs, toes and bodies as I raced to the nursery and my son.
I was not prepared for what I saw. Over in the corner, lying on his favorite red mat was Jered, staring at the ceiling, silent and rigid. As I bent over my precious son and looked into those beautiful blue eyes, huge tears slid down his chubby cheeks as he flew into my arms, sobbing. You have to understand, as a baby, the only time Jered cried was when he was hungry, wet or sick. He always seemed to be smiling, happy and contented. Something was obviously very wrong. I kissed his forehead. No fever. I checked his diaper. Dry and clean. I had no idea what the problem was.
Just then, Mrs. Giles, Jered's favorite nursery worker, drew me aside and said, "Let me tell you what just happened. We had a new little girl in the nursery today. It was her first time in a church nursery – ever. When her parents left, she immediately began screaming and wouldn't stop. Jered came running and wrapped his arms around her but she pushed him away. He then brought her his bottle, but she hurled it across the room and continued screaming. Desperate to help the little girl, Jered found his diaper bag and fished out Turtle." Turtle was a small, stuffed green and blue turtle we had given him months earlier when he was in the hospital, seriously ill with croup. From the moment he saw Turtle, everywhere Jered went, Turtle went. Jered slept with Turtle clutched tightly in one hand. Jered ate with Turtle sitting in his lap and carefully tucked Turtle in his diaper bag whenever we left the house. Turtle quickly became Jered's most precious possession and an invaluable source of comfort to him. Mrs. Giles continued, "I couldn't believe that Jered was willing to give Turtle to a stranger, but he tried." The crying child had taken one look at Turtle and thrown it in Jered's face. Stunned, he picked up Turtle and laid down on the mat, refusing to move, the stuffed animal clutched tightly in his arms. Then I knew. I knew that Jered could not stand to see the little girl in pain and was determined to help. When he couldn't, he retreated until someone else came to help. That's compassion.
Compassion is empathy, not just sympathy. We sometimes equate showing compassion with "fixing" people. Genuine compassion is first able to feel their pain. I believe the more pain we experience, the more compassionate we will be. We must learn to use our pain in the right way, not lashing out but looking within to identify with and share the pain of others. There is a choice in every pain, an opportunity in every trial. We can understand and comfort others who walk through the same trials we face. Pain makes us focus inward or outward. It makes us martyrs or merciful. The choice is ours.
The Samaritan chose to use his pain and help the injured man. He could understand the man's pain because of the pain in his own life. Jews hated all Samaritans. The man lying on the road was a Jew. There was no logical reason for this Samaritan to rearrange his plans and spend his money to help this "enemy" in need. But compassion doesn't look for reasons or ask for limitations. It searches for opportunity. The Samaritan had a choice, just as we have a choice every time we are confronted with a need. We can either ignore the need or we can meet the need by giving away part of the comfort God has given us.
If we can't prevent pain, we can at least lessen the load with compassion. Allen Redpath wrote, "You can never lighten the load unless you have first felt the pressure in your own soul." To develop compassion, we must be willing to feel the pain of others, responding as if it were our own.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart can be so hard and indifferent. Please help me remember how Your compassion saved me and then empower me to share that same compassion with others who are hurting. Please help me see them – the wounded ones who cross my path every day.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following words, write them on a piece of paper and keep them in your purse or in your car. As you go through your day, look for ways to demonstrate the compassion of God.
I was hungry
And you formed a humanities club to discuss my hunger.
I was imprisoned
And you went to your chapel to pray for my release.
I was naked
And you debated the morality of my appearance.
I was sick
And you knelt and thanked God for your health.
I was homeless
And you delivered a sermon on the shelter of God's love.
I was lonely
And you left me alone to attend church.
You seem so close to God but I am still very hungry, lonely, and cold! ~ (Author unknown)
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My biggest problem with compassion is the fact that I am sometimes too busy to see a need. It is so much easier just to walk on by, relegating our responsibility to someone else – anyone else. However, the way we care for one another and minister to people no one else will touch should be an illustration of God's all-inclusive and impartial love. I encourage you to join me in a new commitment to be more compassionate.
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April 24, 2009
What Really Matters
Angela L. Craig
Today's Truth
Deuteronomy 31:6 (NLT) "So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you."
Friend to Friend
Did you know that three out of five of us women have been sexually violated? Or that over fifty percent of us are spending more money than we make? Did you know that one out of two marriages will fail, leaving a wake of loneliness, fear, and financial instability for those left behind? What about substance addiction or cancer, did you know that half of us are struggling with them this very moment?
These statistics are only the tip of the iceberg. Pick up any newspaper and you will read about rising unemployment, war, genocide, and a falling stock market. In my city, today's paper headlines the record flooding that has happened over the last three days, leaving many people's lives and homes in a state of devastation. The world seems to be in a downward spiral as one negative event leads to another.
I imagine you sitting at your desk or kitchen counter reading this with one hand on the delete button because the opening of this devotional was anything but uplifting. Am I right? I don't blame you. I didn't want to write those statistics because it is as painful to write as it is to read.
But wait -- just give me one more minute.
Here is the truth: Virtually every person you and I encounter is struggling with something in their life. Life can be overwhelming at times, even for the most "put together" person. Circumstances can lead us to believe that we are alone and isolated. There are times when feelings of grief, fear or anger feel like they will consume us.
How is your world today? Regardless of how you answer, you must know what really matters. You matter. You really matter because God created you and He cares for you. Someone is reading this devotional today that needs to know that you were not a mistake! You are rare and beautiful in God's eyes (Psalm 139). And because you matter, God will help you and He will never leave you (Deut 31:6).
So be strong and courageous...YOU are what really matters!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father,
I need you Lord. Life is tough and it seems overwhelming at times. I will not be swallowed up by negative circumstances because I trust You for my future. I believe that You have gone before me and are protecting and caring for me right now. I pray that You will give me the faith, knowledge and wisdom to move forward into a life that you desire for me to have. Thank you, Lord, that I matter to You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it is Your Turn
1) You are what matters! Meditate on Psalm 139. If you do not have a Bible, you can look up this passage online at: www.crosswalk.com under the heading, "Search the Bible" on the right side of the home page.
2) Remember that you are not alone - God and others surround you and believe in you. Do not be afraid to ask for help! The stress of life situations can lead you to feel like you are in quicksand. Life can become confusing and it may feel like you cannot maintain focus. Don't stay stuck. Take action toward improving your situation. First, ask God for His help. Then ask a friend to help you brainstorm small steps to help you. God will surprise you with the solution to a problem by working through the people around you -- when you are willing to ask for help.
3) "Doing good" by giving or serving has been scientifically proven to have healing powers. You can start small by giving a word of encouragement or an act of kindness. When you "do good" for others, you are guaranteed to be encouraged and strengthened! 1
1 Luks, Allan & Payne, Peggy. The Healing Power of Doing Good. Lincoln, NE: iUniverse.com (2001).
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April 27, 2009
Being Real with God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness" (Lamentations 3:19-24 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Are we brave enough to be real and honest with God? We might as well be; He knows our hearts inside and out anyway. A. W. Tozer, in his book, The Knowledge of the Holy, wrote:
How unutterably sweet is the knowledge that our Heavenly Father knows us completely. No talebearer can inform on us; or enemy can make an accusation stick; no forgotten skeleton can come tumbling out of some hidden closet to abash us and expose our past; no unsuspected weakness in our characters can come to light to turn God away from us, since He knew us utterly before we knew Him and called us to Himself in the full knowledge of everything that was against us.
God knew the real me before I even knew myself. David wrote, "Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O LORD" (Psalm 139:4 NIV). Knowing what He knew and knows, it is a wonder that He even gives me the time of day. And to think, He gives us the time of our lives!
Jeremiah was a mighty man of God who was not afraid to be real before His maker. He wrote, "I am the man who has seen affliction because of the rod of His wrath. He has driven me and made me walk in darkness and not in light. Surely against me He has turned His hand repeatedly all the day. He has caused my flesh and my skin to waste away. He has broken my bones. He has besieged and encompassed me with bitterness and hardship. In dark places He has made me dwell, like those who have long been dead" (Lamentations 3:1-6 NASB).
Jeremiah was mad and he was mad at God. As far as he was concerned, God was the cause of all his problems. He felt trapped and afraid. He continues, "He has walled me in so that I cannot go out; He has made my chains heavy. Even when I cry out and call for help, He shuts out my prayer. He has blocked my ways with hewn stone; He has made my paths crooked. He is to me like a bear lying in wait like a lion in secret places. He has turned aside my ways and torn me to pieces; He has made me desolate...So I say, 'My strength has perished, and so has my hope from the Lord'" (vv.7-11, 18 NASB).
Jeremiah was in a bad situation...mostly because he had a wrong perception of God. God did not make him to walk in darkness, cause his flesh to waste away, or break his bones. God had not encompassed him with bitterness or hardship. But Jeremiah had allowed his perception to be skewed by his circumstances.
Even though what Jeremiah had to say was incorrect and certainly painted a bad picture of God, he was able to be real about what he was feeling. Jeremiah did not feel the need to put on a holy mask before an all-knowing God. And you know what? God didn't strike him dead for being real and saying what was on his heart.
Before we leave poor Jeremiah, let's notice what happens at the end of his lament. He begins to remember all the times that God had been faithful. "This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope. The Lord's loving kindnesses are new every morning; great is Thy faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, 'therefore I have hope in Him'" (vv. 21-22 NASB).
Jeremiah cleaned the clutter out of his emotional closet and rediscovered the treasures he had forgotten were there. His circumstances didn't change. God didn't change. But his attitude and perception of God changed and his emotions followed close behind.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, sometimes I whine and complain and blame You for all sorts of trouble in my life. The truth is, I live in a fallen world where bad things happen and I make poor decisions. Help me to remember that Your ways are always loving and always kind. Help me to recall Your great deeds in my life! Thank you that Your mercies are new every morning! Great is Your faithfulness!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you been complaining to God about your circumstances lately?
Have you been blaming God for the difficult circumstances and forgetting to praise Him for the blessings?
Stop right now and offer up a pray of praise to God for all the wonderful deeds He has performed in your life. The gift of eternal life would be a great place to start.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book,Your Scars are Beautiful to God. The Bible says, "Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story" There is unspeakable joy that bubbles up when a child of God takes off her mask and is real with the world about all that God has done in her life. And nothing is more beautiful that the story of how God takes us from our dark places and transfers us and transforms us into radiant examples of His miraculous love. To learn more, visit www.sharonjaynes.com and read an excerpt of Your Scars are Beautiful to God – Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past.
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April 28, 2009
How to Enjoy Your Family
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:11-12; 30 (NIV) "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm. A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."
Friend To Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that it is not what it used to be. Family is no longer simple, but blended and complex. It has changed to include many different relationships of people who live together.
· Couples with children
· Couples with no children
· Single women with children
· Single men with children
· Grandparents with children
· Parents with grown children who have left and come back home
· Close friends living together
· Unrelated people living together
And they are all family! Family is a group of persons belonging to or forming a household. We've looked at what a family is, but more important is the question, "What is the purpose of family?" There are no perfect families. There never have been. However, the purpose of family is to illustrate the nature and character of God. In other words, family is the primary place we learn about God.
A Sunday school class of first-graders was asked to draw a picture of God. When the pastor stopped by to inspect their work, the children were happy to show him their drawings. One child had drawn God in the form of a brightly colored rainbow. Another had drawn the face of an old man coming out of billowing clouds. One drawing looked a lot like Superman, but perhaps the best picture was the one proudly displayed by a girl who said, "I didn't know what God looked like exactly, so I drew my daddy!"
Children get their first impressions of God from their parents. The family is important to God. In fact, He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. So the challenge before us today is how should we love our family?
I know we all want to be part of a family where we give and receive love. Proverbs 31 tells us how. This chapter, a portrait of a wife and mother, was painted by a King as the kind of woman his mother wanted her son to marry. It is a standard of excellence, not only for women, but for every member of every family. Over the next three days, we will find seven ways in the life of this woman to love your family.
1. Build trust
Proverbs 31:11 tells us that "her husband has full confidence in her." "Full confidence" literally means to trust, to take refuge in or to lean on. The Proverbs 31 woman spent a lifetime building trust. She trusted God and had a personal relationship with Him (vs. 30). We cannot be trustworthy if we are not trusting, and if we don't trust God, we cannot truly trust others. If we are not "taking refuge" or "leaning on" Jesus Christ, when others take refuge and lean on us, we will crumble and fall. Trust shatters fear
Psalm 56:3 (NIV) "But when I am afraid, I will put my confidence in you. Yes, I will trust the promises of God. And since I am trusting him, what can mere man do to me?"
Trust is fragile and once broken, very hard to build again. When our daughter was a little girl, she constantly rode on the trusted shoulders of her dad, and loved it. Then, one day, at a church youth activity, one of the youth was playing around and punched Dan in the stomach. Dan was caught off guard and the youth hit him harder than he meant to. Dan doubled over and Danna tumbled down. The next time Dan tried to put her on his shoulders, Danna refused. It took months for Dan to earn his daughter's trust again. To enjoy our family, we must first trust God, which then enables us to build trust in our family. Our family needs to be able to trust us, no matter what, without having to worry about stepping on emotional land mines. There will be no joy in our homes if there is not an atmosphere of trust. Family is a "team" idea and nothing is more deadly to the success of a team than a lack of trust. Trust God and then build trust in your family. Tomorrow, we will explore other ways to enjoy your family. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. I want to love them like they need to be loved. Help me to build trust in them as I learn to trust You more. Lord, help me to be trustworthy and to be the woman You want me to be as I minister to my family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of ways your family can trust and depend on you.
Identify any areas where you can build trust.
Have a family meeting to discuss what it means to be a team.
Constantly look for ways to foster the mindset that your family is a team.
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Everywhere I look, splintered and broken families abound. Why? I believe that somewhere along the way, trust was broken by an affair...a betrayal...a forgotten vow. What is even more frightening is the casual approach to that broken trust. My friend, God is calling us to trust Him and then to build that trust in our family. Right now, no matter how many times you have failed, begin again. We are with you!
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April 29, 2009
How to Enjoy Your Family, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:13; 15; 20 (NIV) "She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy."
Friend To Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Yesterday, we saw that the first step to loving our family is to build trust. The second step is to serve our family with joy. We are told by many to serve ourselves not others. The Proverbs 31 woman had every opportunity to live a life of leisure.
· She has a prominent husband.
· She had a lot of influence.
· She was visible and active in community.
· She was in charge of charity events.
But she got up while it was still dark to make breakfast for her family and for those who served her. Verse 13 tells us she worked with "eager" hands. The literal meaning of "eager" is "in delight or in chosen joy." In other words, she chose to serve with joy, which means we can choose to serve our family with joy as well. Jesus teaches the truth that service is a natural result of love.
Galatians 5:13 (LB) "For, dear brothers, you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other."
Yet, many of us find it easier to serve everyone in love except our family. When my husband, Dan, was a youth pastor, we saw a variety of family dynamics. At one church, a young man came to us in tears. I will never forget his words, "My parents are getting a divorce because mom has time for everyone in the world except my dad and me!" Service to those we love and call family should not be a burden. In fact, an attitude of service is contagious! The best way to teach your family to serve is to serve them.
From childhood, making the bed was one of my kid's daily chores but I told them that one day a week, I would make their bed for them. It could be on a day when they were running late for school, when they were too tired or didn't feel well. Whatever the reason, I would serve them by making their bed one day a week. One morning, I was running behind. My husband was recovering from an emergency appendectomy and I had been at the hospital day and night and was exhausted. I got up very early, took one look at my bed and decided I just didn't want to make it. I went to take a shower, hoping it would wake me up. When I came out, Danna, our eleven-year-old daughter had made my bed. To love our family, we must serve with joy.
Plan well.
Proverbs 31:15b, 21, 27 (LB) "She plans the day's work. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them. She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household."
Planning prevents chaos. This woman is in control of her home and her life. The control came from good planning. She mastered the skill of homemaking before she ever set foot in the workplace. She set her priorities; then arranged her life around them. She didn't allow others to set priorities for her but chose to focus on what was important, not just urgent. Have you noticed that the urgent things in life barge in demanding attention while the important things wait to be chosen? We can spend a lifetime on the urgent and miss the important. We must set family priorities because if we don't, the world will.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew what needed to be done and made sure that it was done first and in the right way. She didn't fear winter or the hard times because she was prepared. Family should provide the most satisfying earthly relationships. If it doesn't, the problem may be with our planning. Here are some simple tips for planning:
1. Budget your time.
2. Choose one day a week to plan the entire week.
3. Eliminate. Have an "elimination" meeting once a month with your family. Eliminate the things that are hurting your family.
4. Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone.
5. Delegate. Include everyone in the family in the work as well as the playing.
6. Simplify. Give up on perfection. It's for heaven ... not earth!
Plan well! It demonstrates your love for your family!
Work hard.
Proverbs 31:16-18 (LB) "She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.
She is a hard worker. She works far into the night."
There is nothing lazy about this woman and laziness should not be part of our character as women of God. This is a busy woman, but not too busy and not busy doing the wrong things. Busyness does not always equal productivity. I believe a woman can have it all - a career, a family. I'm just not sure she can have it all at the same time.
The Proverbs 31 woman has a strong sense of who she is and what God created her to be. She has a clear plan for life and notice she doesn't do all of the work herself. (By the way, this is your scriptural justification for a maid or as I tell my children, why do you think God made kids?) Working together builds a sense of family. In a nationwide survey, thousands of school children were asked, "What makes a happy family?" The most-mentioned key to happiness was "doing things together." Plan "family projects" and family work days. At the end of day, order a pizza and rent a movie as reward. You can build some of your greatest family traditions and memories around work. Every Thanksgiving week-end, we buy a Christmas tree and put up Christmas lights. While it is a lot of work, it is also a family tradition. I never have to ask the kids to help. They are eager to join in. A woman who loves her family is willing to work hard for them and with them, planning well and building trust.
Let's Pray
Father, family is so important to me. Thank You for the family You have given me. I love each one of them. Help me to show them that love in ways they can understand. I pray that our family will be filled with trust and become a haven for each person. Be glorified in our home and in our family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify areas of family life that need to be more structured.
Establish a weekly family meeting to plan, to keep up and, in short, connect as a family.
Use the principles in step three to become a better planner.
Establish a new family tradition that requires the work of every family member.
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I once heard the statement, "Home is the place you go where they have to take you in." I love that! And it really is true. Tomorrow, we conclude this study on how to enjoy your family. I pray that it is making a difference in your life and in your family. Remember, your home and family is the best place for God to show up and show off.
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April 30, 2009
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:26 "When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says."
Friend To Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love! To be part of a family is to be loved. Over the last two days, we have examined the first steps to loving your family; to build trust, to serve them with joy, to plan well and to work hard. We can also love and enjoy our family by guarding our tongue.
The power of the spoken word is great. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative, critical words, we will reap a family that is negative and critical. Look for the good in your family then speak it. Be their cheerleader. Everyone needs a cheerleader!
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were "on a date", spending some special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was of her. What he thought was a sufficient job he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day but a little girl's hungry heart got fed. Do you have any hearts like that in your family?
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the great singer who rose to stardom singing with her brother, Richard. At the age of 32, she died unexpectedly of heart failure due to many years of abuse caused by Anorexia. But what brought on Karen's fatal obsession with weight control? It seems that a reporter once called her "Richard's chubby little sister."
Psalm 141:3 "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips."
Ask yourself these questions before speaking.
T is it true?
H Is it helpful?
I is it inspiring?
N is it necessary?
K is it kind?
Think before you speak! Use the five to one ratio when correcting anyone - five positive remarks to one negative. The harder the truth, the greater the love we should use to say it. It is our responsibility to use our words to train and instruct our family about the daily things in life, but more importantly, to instruct them about eternal things. We are very concerned about providing for our children when we need to be more concerned about caring for our children. The greatest care we can give is to disciple them by speaking words of truth. Guard your tongue!
The sixth way to enjoy our family is to take care of ourselves. The Proverbs 31 woman certainly did. "She is energetic. Her own clothing is beautifully made--a purple gown of pure linen. She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age." (Proverbs 31:17; 22; 25 LB)
Families are hard work. In order to make our family relationships replenishing we must be replenished. Psalm 46:10 instructs us to "Be still and know that I am God." Let's apply this verse specifically.
Be still, MY MUSCLES, and know God's RELAXATION.
Be still, MY NERVES, and know God's REST.
Be still, MY HEART, and know God's QUIETNESS.
Be still, MY BODY, and know God's RENEWAL.
Be still, MY MIND, and know God's PEACE.
In order to be all that we can be to our families, we must be all that we can be mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. We must be balanced. The Proverbs 31 woman was energetic and hard working for the tasks she was gifted and called to do. Proverbs 31:25 tells us this woman could laugh "at the days to come." The picture here is of a woman who enjoyed her life. She worked hard, but she knew how to stop and plant a vineyard. She liked to shop and watched for bargains. She liked to look beautiful, dressing in purple fine linen.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
We cannot give our heart to God and keep our body for ourselves. When you take care of yourself, you are honoring God and loving your family.
The final way to enjoy and love your family is to remember your audience.
Proverbs 31:28-31 "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
It's so easy to have the wrong audience and the truth is that our audience determines how we run the race. Our audience should be God, our mate, our children and then others. One day we will stand before God as keeper of the family He has loaned to us
for a short time. Will He be pleased? Will He say "Well done"? Will our family stand and bless us? Will others say this woman loved and enjoyed her family?
Let's Pray
"Lord, You know my inadequacies. You know my weaknesses, not only in parenting, but in every area of my life. As You broke the fishes and the loaves to feed the five thousand, now take my meager effort and use it to bless my family. Please make up for the things I did wrong. Satisfy the needs that I have not satisfied. Wrap Your great arms around my family and draw them close to You. And be there when they stand at the great crossroads between right and wrong. All I can give is my best, and I, today, choose to do that! Therefore, I submit to You my family and myself and the job I have done and will do as a wife and mother. The outcome belongs to You." (Author unknown)
Now It's Your Turn
I truly believe our greatest opportunity to impact the world is the way we love and enjoy family. I pray that you have been blessed by this study. I encourage you to examine your family in light of these principles. Identify one principle that needs some work and get started. It is never too late to start and it is always too early to give up, girlfriend. And know that Gwen, Sharon and I are right there with you on this journey. Blessings!
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Family is complex and wonderful. I encourage you to make a new commitment to your family -- no matter what "family" looks like to you. Choose to love those you call family in a new way. Determine to daily illustrate God's very character in your home. Be the thermostat -- not the thermometer -- of your home. We pray that your home is a place of peace, love and joy and that it honors God.
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May 1, 2009
Giving our Children to God
by Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Mother's Day, Sharon will have several devotions this month that are dedicated to moms.)
Today's Truth:
"Everything is possible for him who believes" (Mark 9:23 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A distraught father once had an unruly son with multiple physical and emotional problems. Many people even said the boy was possessed by a demon. The dad had tried everything, but the boy continued to demonstrate antisocial behavior, throwing himself in fire and then in water. That sort of behavior, on top of frequent seizures, rolling on the ground, foaming at the mouth, and an inability to talk, made the dad desperate to find a solution. He even took the boy to some faith healers who were traveling through his hometown. But nothing seemed to work.
Finally, the dad realized no human being was going to be able to help his son, so he took him directly to God. The father heard that Jesus was visiting in his community, so he boldly brought the boy to Him. With desperation in his voice the father pleaded, "If You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!"
And Jesus answered, "If You can! All things are possible to him who believes."
Immediately the boy's father cried out, "I do believe: help my unbelief."
With that profession, Jesus healed the man's son.
Oh how this story from Mark 9 stirs my heart. Can't you feel the father's pain? How desperately he must have felt every time the child threw himself into the water or the fire. "Why son? Why do you do these things? I don't understand," he must have asked.
Imagine the humiliation of the whispers as the family walked down the streets. "That's the Jones family. Have you heard about their son? He's....." The stares, the snickers, the off-color comments. Don't you know there were many days when this dad wanted to just give up? Instead, he offers us a beautiful picture of what all parents must do, the ultimate act in parenting - hand our children over to God.
As mothers, we can sometimes find ourselves at the end of our mental and emotional resources. We feel we have done everything humanly possible and don't know the best action to take with our children. That's exactly where God wants us every day, not depending on our human capabilities but on His insurmountable omniscience, not depending on our own strength but on His unlimited power. When we realize that we do not and never will have all the child-rearing answers and solutions, we discover the importance of giving our children to God.
S.D. Gordon, in Quiet Talks on Prayer, said, "You can do more than pray, after you have prayed. But you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed."
Let's Pray
(For those who have children still at home)
Dear God, today, I once again bring my child to you. Please show me how to parent this precious gift that you have given me. Help me to be the best mother that I can be. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will teach me, Your wisdom will guide me, and Your love will move me. Most of all, Lord, I give this child to You. Please make him (her) a servant after Your own heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
(For those with grown children)
Dear God,
My child is no longer under my roof or under my wing. He (She) is now out in the world making life decisions of his (her) own. I give this adult child to You, Lord. May he (she) seek You with all his (her) heart. I pray that You will protect him (her), guide him (her), and open his (her) heart to the truth of God's Word every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of things about your child over which you have no control.
Now turn that list into a prayer and relinquish each item of concern to God.
Remember what Jesus' reply to the Father was when he said, "If you can do anything..." Write today's key verse down and commit it to memory.
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Being a parent is the most difficult, rewarding responsibility that God has entrusted to us. I am so glad that He doesn't leave us to figure it out all on our own, but gives us the Bible as the ultimate handbook. If you would like to discover key elements of great parenting, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.
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May 3-4, 2009
Being a Mom that Matters
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 22:6 "Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
So much of who we are as women is rooted in the parent/child relationship. I believe that my role as a mother will greatly affect the kind of woman my daughter will become. I also believe that moms are the primary teachers in a child's life. Here are a few familiar and humorous truths taught by mothers:
Cleanliness: "If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning!"
Religion: "You had better pray that will come out of the carpet."
Logic: "Because I said so, that's why."
Planning: "Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."
The circle of life: "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."
Seriously, we live in a world that many times denies the importance of being a mom. I don't come to you as an expert. I simply want to be a successful mom. Well, actually, my credentials are impressive. I am the mother of two beautiful, brilliant children. We adopted our son, Jered, and our daughter, Danna, when they were only days old so I had nothing to do with their beauty or brilliance, but I do want to be the mom they need and deserve. The good news is that God wants the same thing. Being a parent is a holy calling from God and God never calls us to do a job without providing the power and the plan to do that job successfully. How can we be the moms that really matter?
Be a mom who loves God.
1 John 4:19 "We love, because God first loved us" (NCV).
We are incapable of loving our children like they were meant to be loved until we first love God! Motherhood at its best demands a thriving partnership with God! We cannot give unconditional love until we have experienced unconditional love! And God is the only source of that kind of love! We can do everything else right as a parent but if we don't begin with loving God - we will fail!
Be a mom who prays continually.
I Thessalonians 5:17 should every mother's commitment to her children. "Never stop praying" (ICB). It is never too late to start praying and it is always too early to stop.
Pray for God's plan -- not yours -- when praying for your children.
Pray that you will see your child like God sees your child.
Pray specifically for your child. For example, I often pray Proverbs 3:5-6 for our son, "Lord, I pray that Jered would trust in you with all his heart and will lean not unto his own understanding. I pray that in all his ways Jered will acknowledge you and that you will direct his paths." And for our daughter, I pray 1 Peter 5:7, "Lord, I pray that Danna would cast all her care upon you, because you care for her."
Prayer is an eternal gift we can give to our children, teaching them the importance of prayer and teaching them how to pray. I recently heard the story of a mother who had invited several people to dinner. At the table, she turned to their six-year-old daughter and said, "Would you like to say the blessing?" "I wouldn't know what to say," the girl replied. "Just say what you hear Mommy say," she answered. The daughter bowed her head and said, "Lord, why on earth did I invite all these people to dinner?"
We began early to pray with our kids at bedtime. One night, out of the blue, our son, Jered, began to pray that his grandfather and his uncle would stop smoking. Since both had smoked for many years and neither was trying to quit, I didn't expect much. But our son did. Within the next year, both men suddenly quit smoking. I was totally amazed, but Jered acted like it was no big deal. When I questioned his response, he simply said, "Mom, you told me God answers prayer." I am convinced that if we pray for our children and with our children, it will change their lives and ours and give us insight that we can gain no other way.
Be a mom who gives time.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change" (NCV).
It takes time to be a mom, to know and to train your children. Every child comes with a set of characteristics already established by God. Our job is to identify those characteristics and then steer the child toward them. The original root word for "train" is the term for "the palate, the roof of the mouth, the gums". In the days of Solomon, a midwife would deliver the baby, dip her finger into the juice of crushed dates, reach into the mouth of the baby and massage the gums and palate to create a sense of taste and thirst. She would then give the child to the mother so the baby could nurse. Our job as mothers is to develop a thirst in our children for the right things. And that takes time.
There is a popular philosophy today that it doesn't matter the quantity of time that we spend with our kids as long as it is quality time. It does matter! Can a woman have it all - a home, a family, a career? I think she can. I'm just not sure she can have them all at the same time. There are seasons of life to which we must yield in order to be the mother God wants us to be. Time spent with children is never wasted! Every minute invested in your child is an eternal investment! Give your children the best of your time -- not the leftovers.
· Make weekly dates with your kids.
· Pull them out of school occasionally for a fun day.
· Have a meal together every day.
· Be involved in the things they enjoy.
In other words, be available! And just your physical presence is not enough. Our normal bedtime routine was to spend a few minutes with each child, talking about the day, praying together and then I would tuck them in for the night. When our daughter, Danna, was six-years-old, Dan was out of town and I was behind in studying for an upcoming retreat. I went in to Jered's room, completed the bedtime routine and he was asleep in minutes. However, when I went into Danna's room, and tried to speed things up, Danna refused to talk. When I asked her why, she cried out, "Mama, you're not here!" Confused and a little irritated, I responded, "Yes, I am! I am right here!" Her big brown eyes filled with tears as she drove the truth home, "But you're not really here on the inside." Be a mom who gives your children time.
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth and can bring out the best and the worst in you. I know being a mom requires great sacrifice and limitless energy, but to invest your time and best efforts into a child, to watch that child grow and develop, is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself. We're half the way there! Tomorrow, we will explore four more ways to be a mom that matters.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for giving me children. Help me to be the mom they deserve. I commit to constantly pray for each child and invest the best part of my time and life in them. Forgive me for allowing lesser things to take the place of my role as a mother and guide me to be a mom that really matters.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you growing in your life as a Christian? How?
Evaluate your schedule in light of the truth that the best part of your time goes to being a mom.
What changes do you need to make in your schedule?
What do you need to give up so you can spend more time with your children?
What specific needs are you praying for your children? Make a list and pray through that list daily.
More From The Girlfriends
Whoooo! This is a tough one! When we start looking at the minutes and hours of each day to see how much time we really spend being a mom, the authenticity of our role as a mom shines through. We are in this together. Gwen, Sharon and I are all mothers, with children at all stages of life. Know that we are praying with you, walking with you and here if you need us!
Need help in your role as a mom? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People for ways to handle your tough child or any difficult relationship in your life. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey you might be interested in. The current topic is "How to Manage Your Emotions." Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and much more.
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May 5, 2009
Being a Mom that Matters, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 127:3 "Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
So much of who we are as men and women is rooted in the parent/child relationship. I believe that my role as a mother will greatly affect the kind of woman my daughter will become. I also believe that moms are the primary teachers in a child's life. Yesterday, we identified three steps we can take to be the moms God wants us to be:
Be a mom who loves God.
Be a mom who prays continually.
Be a mom who gives time.
Be a mom who encourages.
Today, let's talk about being a mom who encourages her children. In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, we find the simple but life-changing directive, "So encourage each other and give each other strength" (NCV). When we encourage our children, we deposit strength in them. We need to be careful to keep their emotional deposits in balance. Many kids are in emotional bankruptcy because constant withdrawals of criticism are made with few deposits of encouragement. Our job is to study our kids and discover their strengths and weaknesses. We need to understand that many times, their greatest weakness may very well become their greatest strengths.
As a child, I was very stubborn. I know. It is almost impossible to imagine - almost. That stubbornness often got me into trouble, but it also made me the survivor of some very hard times. We need to look for the good things in our children and draw them into the spotlight. In other words, become their "encourager" and their "cheerleader." Everyone needs a cheerleader.
When our son, Jered, was in second grade, one of the boys in his class was what I would describe as a "sandpaper person." It almost seemed as if he worked very hard at being difficult and had succeeded. None of the children in the class liked him. One Monday morning, he came to school with both arms in a cast from wrist to shoulder. The teacher explained that he would need a friend for the next six weeks, someone who could help him with homework, eat his lunch and go with him to the restroom. Get the idea? The classroom fell silent, no one meeting the teacher's eyes. Finally, Jered said, "I'll do it." After a few weeks, Jered begin to see this little boy in a different light. "You know, mom. He's not that bad. He can play soccer and he is really good at math." At the end of six weeks, the other children began warming up to this once ostracized boy and even volunteered to help him. However, the most amazing transformation was in the boy himself. He had become sweeter and gentler. He just needed a cheerleader. Maybe that is all your child needs. Be a cheerleader for your children.
5. Be a mom who laughs.
Proverbs 17:22 "A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength" (NCV).
Moms, we need to lighten up, or my daughter says, "Chill, Mom!" Kids are fun! Find ways to bring joy and laughter into your home. Jered is a big hunk of a football player, but occasionally, I have to remind him of the fact that I can still take him. He will make some irritating comment, tease me or poke me in the ribs. I warn him and then I see the gleam in his eye as he takes one more shot. I then begin chasing him around the house. Jered inevitably starts laughing so hard that, when I catch him, he is totally helpless. It is quite a sight to see! Moms are the thermostats of the home and need to keep the emotional setting on joy. Children get most of their first impressions of God from their parents. I want my kids to know that God is a God of joy and laughter. Kids need a mom who laughs.
6. Be a mom who hugs.
Luke 18:15 "One day some parents brought their little children to Jesus so he could touch them and bless them" (NLT).
Children need moms who touch them in a loving way and demonstrate healthy physical affection. The reality is that children not only need, but crave physical affection. It is a God-given need that is meant to be met in God-given ways. There is healing in a mother's touch. Start early and never stop! It is a terrible shock for kids to have the hugging stop just at the age when they need it the most.
One day, I grabbed our daughter, Danna, in a hug and kissed her cheek. As I walked away, I looked back to see her wiping off that kiss. She caught my hurt look and said, "Don't worry, Mom. I'm just rubbing it in!" I know. She's good ... and has become an affectionate young woman. Be a mom who hugs her kids!
7. Be a mom who disciplines.
Proverbs 6:23 "The correction of discipline is the way to life" (NLT).
Kids want and need discipline -- whether they know it or not. Knowing is our job as mothers. Discipline is a hedge of protection in the life of a child. Part of our job as a parent is to tend that hedge, to keep it strong and in place. If we are not careful, every day can dissolve into a never-ending battle for control. As parents, we need to let go of what we can and hold our ground on what we can't.
Discipline principles:
1. Be consistent
2. Discipline from love ... not anger.
3. Pick your battles carefully.
4. Don't expect children to act like adults.
5. Teach kids that there are consequences to choices.
6. Realize that every child is different.
7. Don't discipline until you have control of your emotions. This last point is major. We are the adults who should be able to control emotions. If we don't, neither will our children. Proverbs 29:11 says, "Foolish people lose their tempers, but wise people control theirs" (NCV).
Pick your battles of discipline and wage them with emotions under control. Whatever you do, don't put the light out in their eyes. Kids need a mom who disciplines.
8. Be a mom who forgives.
Colossians 3:13 13 Get along with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you" (NCV).
We teach children how to forgive others by how we forgive them! Forgiveness is part of every healthy relationship so when we practice forgiveness, we are modeling healthy relationships for them. We also teach our children about God's forgiveness by how we forgive. Be quick to forgive your child but be quicker to ask your child's forgiveness. My children are very used to hearing me say, "I am so sorry! I blew it. Please forgive me."
One morning, I had to apologize to my daughter before she even got to school. I got up tired and grouchy to find that Danna was not moving fast enough for me. I didn't like the clothes she picked out to wear. I didn't like what she was saying or doing or how she was saying and doing it. I didn't like the fact that she kept her cool while I lost mine. Therefore, I did what any mature parent would do. I threw a tantrum and grounded her for it! Yes, I have provided many opportunities for my children to practice forgiveness. I pray that it has made them more forgiving of themselves and of others. Be a mom who is quick to forgive!
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth! It brings out the best and the worst in you! I know that motherhood requires great sacrifice and limitless energy! But to invest your time and best efforts into a child, to watch that child grow and develop, is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself! Today, commit with me to seek God's power and plan to be a mom who really matters.
Let's Pray
Father, more than ever before, I want to be a great mom! However, I often find myself doing just the opposite of what I know is right when it comes to my kids. Please forgive me. Help me to apply the truths and principles of your Word as I walk in this high calling of motherhood. Bless my children, Lord, and help them to follow You all the days of their lives. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review the principles from today's devotion as well as yesterday's.
Choose one area in your role as a mom to focus on.
What changes do you need to make?
Today, celebrate your children. Give them a call. Prepare a special meal. Write them a special note.
Choose now to be a mom that matters.
More From The Girlfriends
A woman recently told me that it was too late to become a better mom because her children were grown and gone. While it is true that she cannot live those years again, it is just as true that she can make a new beginning from today. Remember ... there is always someone in your life that needs your love and attention.
Need help? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People for ways to handle your tough child or any difficult relationship in your life. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey you might be interested in. The current topic is How to Manage Your Emotions. Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and special gift items, including a beautiful bookmark for that special mom in your life, What Kids Need Most in a Mom.
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May 6, 2009
A Mighty Warrior
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have no greater joy than to know that my children are walking in the truth." (3 John 1:4 NIV)
Friend To Friend
Proverbs 31 introduces us to the mother whose children rise up and call her blessed, as a "wife of noble character" (NIV), "an excellent wife" (NASB) and "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." (Amplified) The actual Hebrew word for excellent or virtuous is chayil and is sometimes interpreted as "virtuous, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior." The mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is a warrior who battles in prayer for the hearts, minds, and souls of her children. She prays a hedge of protection around them and stands in the gap when they don't know how to pray for themselves. She meets the enemy head on, dressed in the armor of God with the sword of the spirit (the word of God) drawn and ready for action. We may never know the many times that the enemy's schemes against our children were thwarted by the power of our prayers.
As a mother, you may feel at times that your burden for you child seems more than you can bear. Peter tells us to "cast all our cares upon Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). He cares for your children, too. No matter how much you love your children, God loves them more.
In my Bible, I keep a 4 x 6 laminated card with prayers for Steven that are my defense against the enemy's attack. You, too, can pray that your children will:
· Know Christ as Savior early in life. (Psalm 63:1, 2 Timothy 3:15)
· Have a hatred for sin. (Psalm 97:10)
· Be caught when guilty. (Psalm 119:71)
· Be protected from the evil one in each area of their lives: spiritual, emotional, and physical (John 17:15)
· Have a responsible attitude in all their interpersonal relationships (Daniel 6:3)
· Respect those in authority over them. (Romans 13:1)
· Desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends. (Proverbs 1:10-11)
· Be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17)
· Be kept pure until marriage (as well as the one they marry). (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
· Learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all things. (James 4:7)
· Be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ. (Romans 12:1-2)
· Be hedged in so they cannot find their way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to them. (Hosea 2:6)
A mother wears many hats during the years of raising her children. And while we take off those hats one-by-one as they grow and mature, there is one that will always remain -- the hat of a mother who prays.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the privilege of being a mom. I agree with John who wrote, "I have no greater joy than to know that my children are walking in the truth" That is my prayer today...that my child will walk in Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Perhaps you have certain concerns or desires for your child. If so, find a good concordance and look up Scriptural promises to pray.
Consider joining with another mother and becoming prayer partners for your children. You can use the list from this devotion as a springboard for praying Scripture over your children.
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May 7, 2009
The Trumpet Game
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The LORD your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing." (Zephaniah 3:17, NIV)
Friend to Friend
My friend Brad has a little girl named Elizabeth. When Elizabeth was one year old, Brad and his wife taught her sign language. For the word please, they chose to have her rub her chest. So, as Brad and Jamie taught Elizabeth to say please, they rubbed their own chests and said "please." Simple enough.
Elizabeth had a favorite toy. It's a plastic knobby toy that holds colorful rings. You know the one with the yellow pole and white base that, without the rings, loosely resembles a trumpet. (C'mon, use your imagination!) So, being the fun, creative parents that Brad and Jamie are, they would dump off the rings and playfully hold up Elizabeth's toy and make a trumpet sound. Elizabeth loved her parent's silliness. She laughed and clapped with delight. It became a favorite game in their household.
One day, when Brad and Elizabeth were playing the trumpet game, Elizabeth excitedly grabbed the toy and handed it back to him to do it again. Brad encouraged her to say "please" and reinforced the instruction by rubbing his chest. To his surprise, Elizabeth made her way over to him and started to rub his chest instead of her own.
Did this please her daddy? You bet it did!
Even though Elizabeth mixed up the signals, she communicated with her daddy. Brad was filled with love and joy by her effort. He was pleased that she came to him. Not because she did or didn't do something right, but just because she is his daughter and he loves her. He adores her.
God adores you too. Just because you are His child. His sweet daughter. "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" (1 John 3:1a).
Have you considered that perhaps God isn't longing for you to come to Him with perfect, polished prayers that have fifty-cent words and flowery language? Have you thought about the pleasure God experiences when you simply approach him just as you are, warts and all, because He loves you? He delights in your attention. He takes pleasure when you go to Him simply because you are His.
I love how the psalmist responded to God's love:
Praise the Lord, O my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the Lord, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits--
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
(Psalm 103:1-5)
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thanks for this reminder of Your love for me. Thanks for seeing me as precious and special. I'm amazed by Your love. I'm overwhelmed with thankfulness that You made a way for me to know You through Jesus Christ. Help me to come to You as I am each day...without pretenses, pride, or perfection, but simply with Your permission to just be me...because You love me. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Zephaniah 3:17 again silently
Now read it again aloud
Now read it aloud three more times and insert your name after each 'you' --
"The LORD your God is with you (insert name here), He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you (name), He will quiet you (name) with His love, He will rejoice over you (name) with singing." Zephaniah 3:17 (NIV)
More from the Girlfriends
When Brad shared this story with me, it melted my heart and blessed my soul. I hope you were moved, too. That's really what being a GiG is all about...sharing things that move us and spur us on toward our extravagant Lord! Glad we are doing life together! I'd love to hear what has moved you lately...email and let me know!
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May 8, 2009
A Beacon of Light
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe" (Ephesians 1:18,19 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I have lived in North Carolina all my life and love its sandy beaches and irregular coast. Dotting the ragged shoreline, stand seven stately beacons of light. These majestic, sweeping lighthouse lanterns have flashed warnings and guided seafarers throughout the years. They light the way at Bald Head Island, Ocracoke Island, Cape Lookout, Bodie Island, Currituck Beach, Oak Island, and Cape Hatteras. Each of these sentinels serves as a guardian of the deep, flashing its warning in the night sky. Their distinctive designs of black and white diamonds, stripes or checks tower skyward some 200 feet, serving as landmarks for navigation. To the mariner, the lighthouse is a symbol of integrity, constancy, reliability and aid.
A mother is much like a stately lighthouse. She has a solid foundation in Jesus Christ. Her walls of faith are constructed to withstand the storms of life, and her primary function is to house the light of Christ. This mother is an immovable constant in her child's life, a landmark along life's journey and a guiding light that points her children to the safe harbor of home and eventually out to sea.
If ever there was a mother who was a beacon, it was Monica, the mother of Augustine. From the time he was born, she prayed he would surrender his life to Christ and impact the world for God. However, Augustine's pagan father was just as zealous to lead young Augustine into sin as his mother was to introduce him to Christ.
Augustine himself said that from the time he was born, he was "sealed with Christ's cross." However, he sidestepped God with the determination of a prize fighter.
In his early heathen years, Augustine attended the University of Carthage and received an excellent education in grammar, logic, literature, language, and oratory. During his years of higher education, he also experienced heavy doses of corruption, brothels, and friends in low places.
He graduated into a life style of immorality, alcohol, and sexual promiscuity, living with one woman for 15 years and fathering a child with her. However, they never married. Eventually, he joined what could be compared to a modern day cult.
Even though Augustine was living in apparent destitution of the soul, his mother continued to pray for him. Her light burned brightly with rays of hope, forever pointing him back to Christ. Twice a day she went to church and cried out to the Lord on Augustine's behalf.
One day Monica approached a bishop who was bold in confronting others about their relationship to God and their need for salvation. She begged him to talk to Augustine, but he refused, saying that her son was unteachable. Still, as the bishop walked away, he replied," It cannot be that the son of these tears should perish."
Shortly afterwards, Monica sensed that Augustine was planning to leave Carthage on a ship to Rome. When she confronted him at the dock, he denied it and said that he was only there to bid a friend farewell. However, the next morning, she discovered that her son had lied. He had set sail for Rome and escaped her influence -- or so it seemed. What she did not realize was that as her wayward son turned his eyes toward the shores of home, he pictured in his mind's eye that faithful beacon, pointing him to the safety of Christ's harbor and the one true God.
Monica's prayers followed her son to Rome and God continued to put people in his path to point him to the Savior. One day, while Augustine read one of Paul's letters in the Bible, the Holy Spirit touched his heart and opened his eyes. He knew those letters were written to him, and he committed his life to Jesus Christ.
Augustine went on to write more than 100 books and 1000 sermons. The Encyclopedia Britannica describes him as "the dominant personality of the Western Church of his time...generally recognized as having been the greatest thinker of Christian antiquity." His books, City of God and Confessions are classics still read today. Sixteen hundred years later, the church still reaps the benefits of this praying mother.
Shortly after Augustine became a Christian; his mother said that she felt her work on earth was accomplished. One week later, at the age of 56, she died.
In one of his prayers, Augustine wrote the following about his mother, "She poured out her tears and her prayers all the more fervently, begging you [God] to speed your help and give me light in my darkness." Another entry reads, "My mother, your faithful servant, wept to you for me, shedding more tears for my spiritual death than other mothers shed for the bodily death of a son. For in her faith and in the spirit which she had from you she looked down on me as dead. You heard her and did not despise the tears which streamed down and watered the earth in every place where she bowed her head in prayer. "
Monica remained a beacon of light, a visible sentinel pointing her son to the safe harbor of Christ's arms. Augustine, indebted to his mother for unceasing intercession, he rose up and called her blessed.
The Beacon
Her love is like an island
In life's ocean, vast and wide.
A peaceful quiet shelter
From the wind and rain, and tide.
'Tis bound on the north by Hope,
By Patience on the west.
By tender Counsel on the south,
And on the east by rest.
Above is like a beacon light,
Shining Faith, and Truth, and Prayer;
And through the changing scenes of life,
I find a haven there.
(Author Unknown)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there have been many people who have prayed for me all through my life. Help me to be a shining beacon of prayer to those in my care. Help me never to give up!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does Monica's story tell you about the importance of persistence in prayer?
Is there someone that you have been praying for many years?
What does Jesus tell us about persistency in prayer? Luke 18:1-8
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids. If you would like to learn the seven principles of great mothering, then this is the book for you. It is filled with inspiration and godly wisdom for incredible role. Motherhood -- one of the most difficult jobs we will ever love!
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May 11, 2009
In His Eyes
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 139:14-15 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be" (NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was my first day of teaching second grade. While standing at the classroom door, greeting parents and children, I felt a tug on my skirt. I looked down into the beautiful blue eyes of Sammy, one of my new students. His mother, who was standing beside Sammy, looked at me and said, "I guess you've heard about Sammy. Good luck!" As she walked away, Sammy said, "She's right. I'm dumb and mean and can't read or write."
Lisa was a tall, blonde and beautiful young woman with zero self confidence. Lisa was the family joke because she was always dropping things or falling on the stairs. "Klutz" became her nickname at home and quickly caught on in the youth group and church where her father was the pastor. Everyone thought she was clumsy, even Lisa.
A young wife and mother sobbed out her confession that she had just ended an affair, "He made me feel important and special." A talented singer and pianist, she vowed to never again sing or play because she was damaged goods.
I often hear and see the same prison described by women living in the grip of failure and defeat for one reason or another. I want to share some good news with you. God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Be realistic in your opinion of yourself. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
I love a good sale, don't you? In fact, a 75% off tag may very well be a sign from God. (I'm still trying to convince my husband.) I have also learned that you can save money in the long run if you check the label. Let me explain. We needed a new sofa -- desperately. It had to be a certain color and style and cost a certain amount. I headed for the nearest furniture outlet, where I narrowed my selection down to two sofas. Both were on sale and both would work in our home. I saw the salesman coming. Before he could say a word, I asked, "Which one of these sofas would you tell your wife to buy?" The man immediately pointed to one of the sofas and said, "Definitely that one." When I asked why he had chosen that particular sofa, he replied, "Check the label. The one I chose was made by a company known for its quality work. The other sofa is a cheap imitation
We can judge a product's potential and value by looking at the one who created it and God does not make cheap imitations of anything. You are valuable simply because you were created by the hand of God. I am here to tell you that God is not mad at you! His design of you and plan for your life is second to none. He paid the highest price that could be paid -- for you. To cower or crawl in inferiority is to say to God, "You made a mistake when you made me." God doesn't make mistakes, friend. He never has to say, "Oops!" We were created in His likeness and are valuable to God. God knows my name and loves me. I am His masterpiece and have been validated by God Himself. Wow! That is quite a label, girlfriend!
Step two: Embrace the plan.
While painting in the city park, an artist spotted a beggar sitting across the path from where he was working. Thinking of God's handiwork in every human being, the artist painted the man as he imagined he could be and then called the beggar to see the painting. "Is that me?' the beggar asked. "That is the way I see you," replied the artist. The beggar stared at the painting and with tears in his eyes he said, "If that's the man you see in me, then that's the man I will be!" God created you in response to a unique plan He has for your life. You can discover that plan by reading the Bible, God's instruction manual for your life. The Bible is powerful and will allow us to understand who we are in God's eyes - when we consistently read, memorize and apply it in our daily life.
Tomorrow, we will look at four more steps we can take to understand who we are in Christ as we learn to recognize our value in His eyes. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for life and the special plan You have for me. Honestly, it is hard for me to understand and really believe that I am special to You. To think that You know me and love me just as I am really rocks my world, but I do want to see myself through Your eyes -- no more and no less. Please help me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10 "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
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I have struggled with my identity and value for a big part of my life. Fear of failure once kept me from dreaming new dreams. No more! My dreams seem to get bigger with every year of life that passes and I really believe it is because my new perspective of who I am is more accurate than it has ever been. I am a daughter of the King. I belong to God and He loves me! No one can take my place in the Father's heart and I am indispensable to no one but Him. That is my prayer for you, girlfriend, that you will know and live out the truth that in God's eyes, you are special.
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May 12, 2009
In His Eyes, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 139:14-15 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be" (NIV).
Friend to Friend
God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
Step two: Embrace the plan.
Step three: Be yourself.
We should always be looking for something new to learn, an area where we can grow and changes that need to be made. Sit down with your mate or close friend and ask for a realistic evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Constantly search for gifts and abilities and then take one of those abilities and work on it. Don't be afraid of change. It is a sign of life and of growth. Change what needs to be changed, accept what you cannot change and quit whining about it! I know so many women who wasting so much life trying to be something they were never created to be -- kind of like a hand trying to be a toe. We need to stop questioning God's design and kicking against the plan. An old man from the mountains of North Carolina, who was known for his extraordinary wooden carvings of dogs, was once asked, "How do you take a block of wood and create such beauty?" The old mountain man replied, "Well, I just take my knife and carve away everything that doesn't look like a dog." Learning to see your self through the eyes of God is like "carving away" everything that is not part of the original design -- God's plan -- and then learning how to accept what remains.
Step four: Guard your mind.
Scripture is very clear on the point that the mind is the main battlefield in spiritual warfare and is especially important in the battle of discovering who we are in Christ.
Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinks within himself, so he is."
Colossians 3:2 "Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 "For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."
We are bombarded on all sides by the media, family and friends, co-workers and even enemies. They all have a certain identity that they want to assign to us. We have a choice. No one makes us feel inferior without our permission. We will become what we allow our heart and mind to dwell on. An old saying says it well. "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." In other words, it is impossible to avoid destructive thinking entirely. We will be tempted. We will have negative thoughts and temptations, but we do not have to allow them to dwell in our mind. God has given us a "garbage disposal" for the mind.
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
We once lived in Miami, Florida, a place where ships come from all over world. However, before a ship is allowed to dock, an inspection team goes aboard with one assignment. Find every bit of contamination on board that ship. If contamination of any kind is found, the ship must be quarantined until it is cleaned up and inspected again. Then, and only then, is that ship allowed to dock. We need to control our thought life in the same way.
Step five: Control your tongue.
Our words either build up or tear down. Scripture tells us not to curse others because they are made in the image of God. So are we. We need to apply this truth to our own life. As a mom, I constantly warn our children about the danger of critical words. I want them to learn how to encourage others with their words as well as have a healthy picture of who they are. One day, while standing in front my bathroom mirror, I began talking to myself about something stupid that I had done. I didn't notice that our son, Jered, was quietly standing in our bedroom door where he could hear every word I said. "Mom, who are you talking to?" he asked. Oops! I sheepishly replied, "I was talking to myself." He thought for a moment and then offered a convicting observation, "Boy, if I talked like that, I'd be in big trouble!" I was immediately reminded of the words in Psalm 141:3. "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."
In our own lives, we need to stop putting ourselves down and in the lives of others, we need to encourage and look for reasons to praise God. We must learn to celebrate the good in each other. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we sow destructive, critical words, we will reap a life that is negative and critical but if we sow words of truth, we will reap a life of peace and purpose, knowing who we are in His eyes.
"Dear Father, help me to bridle my tongue, so that on judgment day, I will not be found guilty of assault with a deadly weapon!"
Step six: Be Patient
Weeds spring up overnight but it takes years for a mighty oak to grow. Today, you can take the first step toward gaining a new perspective of who you are in Christ. Our Father says it this way in Philippians 1:6, "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You more and learn to see myself as You see me. Please help me recognize and guard against anything or anyone who would chip away at Your truth working in my life. I believe You love me and cherish me as Your daughter. Help me to walk in that value and worth and then lead others to do the same. I praise You for validating my very existence as part of Your heart's plan. I love You, Father. I pray all of these things in Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is your assignment for the week. Read Psalm 139 at least one time every day. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. At the end of the week, set aside time to celebrate who you are in Christ. Have a praise party -- just you and God -- or invite a few friends to join you in celebrating your identity in Him.
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We pray that these devotions have helped you catch a new glimpse of just how precious you are to God! If you were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, rest assured that you were wanted and planned by God Himself. He is with you and for you, girlfriend. He believes in you and has a plan that will prosper you and give you hope. Turn to Him. Trust Him. You are special in His eyes.
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May 13, 2009
Lessons from the Bamboo Farmer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap a harvest if we do not grow weary" (Galatians 6:9 NASB).
Friend To Friend
For years, I told people that I was in labor for 23 hours. However, the truth is more like 23 years. Being a mother has been the most fulfilling, frustrating, exciting, exhausting, mind-boggling, hair-raising thrilling tiring, stimulating, soul-stirring, delightful, difficult, consuming, laborious, uplifting, inspiring, challenging, captivating, and rewarding job I've ever had. Did I mention difficult? I should have gotten a clue when I was told that having a child begins with a word called "labor."
I've had times when I felt like throwing up my hands in frustrations and saying, "I quit!" Is what I'm doing making any difference to anyone? I want result! Show me results! Then I think about the bamboo tree.
When the Chinese plant bamboo, first they plant the seeds, then water, and fertilize them. The first year, nothing happens. The second year they continue to water and fertilize the seeds, and still nothing happens. The farmer continues this process for a third and fourth year with no visual results. Then sometime during the fifth year, in a period of approximately six weeks, the Chinese bamboo grows ninety feet.
Did the bamboo grow ninety feet in six weeks or did it grow ninety feet in five years? The obvious answer is that it grew ninety feet in five years. If the grower hadn't applied water and fertilizer every year, there would be no bamboo.
It is the same way with raising children. We pour into their lives. We plant seeds of character, pull weeds with discipline, water with prayer, and fertilize with encouraging words. Then one day, if we are persistent and consistent, we will see beautiful results.
If you are in the midst of raising your children, or even a parent of grown children waiting to see the results, I want to encourage you to press on. Don't give up! Keep praying! Keep encouraging! Keep loving! And one day, when you least expect it, your child will one day "rise up and call you blessed."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I get really tired and frustrated as a mom. When I grow discouraged, will You help me to keep the goal before me...to raise a child who is a man or woman after God's own heart? Help me to remember that You, as my heavenly parent, never give up on me. Even when You don't see the results that You desire, You continue to love, nurture and teach me. Thank You for being my example of persistent and consistent love.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of character traits that you long to see in your child.
What seeds are you planting in his or her heart to produce such a crop?
Make a list of glimpses of good fruit that you see budding in your child this week.
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May 14, 2009
Measuring Up
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Proverbs 31:30)
Friend to Friend
My girlfriend Denise is a knockout. She's got the whole beauty package going on. She's tall, slender, athletic, bright, and funny. To know her is to love her. But she is so pretty that if you didn't know her, you might love to hate her. Kind of like the supermodels.
Denise is a former model and gymnast who lived much of her life in the shadow of perfection's impossible measuring stick. She grew up in a small town just outside of Cleveland, Ohio, and made a decision for Christ as a child. Though she was a believer, Denise still struggled with common issues of measuring up.
"It was very important to me to be well-liked and to be very successful in every aspect of my life," she said. "My family strived to be the ideal, all-American family. I worked hard to have great grades, be a great athlete, and wear the right clothes; to overachieve. As a model and gymnast, body type and strength were very important to winning, as well as to my identity."
By nature, Denise is competitive. Most would refer to her personality as type-A. A go-getter. A perfectionist. She's the kind of girl you want on your team: determined, focused, and disciplined. Her quest to be the best, however, left Denise feeling helpless and unsuccessful. Even though she was a fierce competitor as a gymnast, she never felt she was good enough. For years, Denise tried to control the circumstances and the people in her life in an attempt to make things perfect. Eventually, her pursuit of perfection got Denise into a heap of trouble. As Edwin Bliss has said, "The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy. The pursuit of perfection is frustrating, neurotic, and a terrible waste of time" (Tim Hansel, Eating Problems for Breakfast, (Word Publishing, 1988) page 39).
As a high school gymnast, Denise dealt with the pressures to measure up in a destructive way. She became bulimic. She wanted to be in control of her body and manage her weight but she became enslaved to an addictive and damaging behavior. She was a Christian girl who knew that God loved her. She had been told that she was beautiful to Him, but for a season of her life, Denise didn't consider that enough. At first, to her delight, Denise's bulimia resulted in weight loss. Keeping extra weight off allowed her to be competitive in the gym and to look good. She wasn't alone. Most of her teammates had eating disorders too.
"What I thought was just a phase became my way of life," Denise remembers.
Her destructive behavior followed her to college. Denise thought she was in control of the bulimia, but eventually realized that bulimia was in control of her. It consumed her thoughts. It swung the gates of deception wide open for the enemy to stroll right through. He laughed all the way, because he had her right where he wanted her.
Negative self-talk filled her head. A thought as simple as, "I'm a little bit nervous about teaching this fitness class," would snowball into, "You are so fat. You should never have eaten all that food this afternoon. You're such an idiot! You won't even be able to get through this class." The voice in her head constantly told her she didn't measure up.
"If I heard ninety nine positive comments about myself and one negative comment, I couldn't let the one negative comment go," she said. "I illuminated my failures and shortcomings instead of celebrating my successes."
During that time, she constantly talked about her body...about how awful it was. Denise says it was as if a ticker tape was filling her mind with a steady stream of negative thoughts and beating her down.
She prayed, "Lord, help me find a way to cut that ticker tape. I need a reprieve." God eventually did cut it with truth, but it took a while for Denise to learn to recognize Satan's lies for what they were.
The Lord placed many Christian friends in Denise's path who encouraged her to see a counselor. She went, though she still wanted her way more than God's way. The counselor told her that she must want to be healed of her eating disorder. She needed motivation to change. Denise lacked the motivation until she went home for fall break and finally hit rock bottom.
A Time for Change
Denise was consumed with being fit. Each day of break was another opportunity to strive for physical perfection, and she trained hard. . She had been fasting for a few days--something she relished because of the dramatic physical results, not for the spiritual benefits the Bible speaks of--and then ate something. The ticker in her mind told her that she should feel terrible about eating, so Denise went upstairs and made herself throw up. Her body had grown so weak that she fell to the floor before making it to her bed.
Her brother found her on the floor crying and completely out of it.
Denise's brother, who suffers from a mild form of cerebral palsy and has struggled to overcome the challenges of his disability, was alarmed and angry. Once Denise was able to get up from the floor, her brother confronted her with strong words that became a catalyst of change in her life.
"I have worked all my life to overcome my physical deformity," he said. "And here you are intentionally destroying yourself."
It was true and she knew it.
In that moment, Denise felt the weight of truth, and finally crumbled. Her previous casual attempts to allow God to intervene were now replaced with sincere cries for help. She needed to change and she needed God's help for the change to happen. She needed Him to consume her thoughts and transform her mind. She needed Him desperately.
Denise had known the truth from the beginning. She just resisted it. She knew that bulimia was destructive, but the pressures of the world had a greater hold on her.
When she turned to Jesus for help, He began to transform her from the inside out. As a child, Denise gave her heart to Jesus. As an adult, she surrendered her life to Him. There's a big difference. In the surrendering, Denise found healing for the bulimia and emotional freedom from the need to measure up to the world's standard of perfection.
Her healing took time. It progressed slowly. God used His Word, Christian counseling, and friends to replace lies with His truth. Denise has experienced full healing through the strength of the Lord and now regularly shares her story with women and young girls.
Healing begins when we hold tightly to the truth of God and allow the truth of God to hold tightly to us. God gives each of us the freedom to accept or reject His way. When we lean into His truth, we are less likely to conform to the world. His truth, His Word can be the light for each step we take. It illuminates the path that leads to His heart. God's Word transforms. The apostle Paul said, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2a).
We live in a competitive world. The pressures to be thin, beautiful, fit, smart, sexy, funny, rich, and popular trap us in a relentless vise-grip. Denise's story isn't much different from yours or mine. You don't need to be a model or a gymnast to get trapped in a disorder or an addictive lifestyle. You could be a college student, a businesswoman, a nurse, a mom, a dance instructor, a retail clerk, or a Sunday school teacher. No one is exempt. Feelings of inadequacy and inferiority ravage hearts of Christians and non-Christians alike.
Our attempts to measure up are all-consuming traps. They focus our attention inward verses upward, just as they did with Denise. When we get caught in the trap of striving to measure up, we focus on ourselves. That was never God's plan. We were designed to focus on Him. Shifting our attention from ourselves to God will change our perspective. God longs for our obsession to be Him.
"I am the Lord; that is my name! I will not give my glory to another or my praise to idols" (Isaiah 42:8).
Let's Pray
Dear God, please renew and transform me from the inside out! When feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. I want to be held tightly by your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
There's a line in the song "Broken into Beautiful" that says: "We live with accusations, sometimes heavy expectations that tell us we can never measure up" (Featured on Unsearchable, and also on the Because CD by Gwen Smith (www.GwenSmith.net) © Sunday Best Music/ (ASCAP) Newspring, a division of Zomba Enterprises, Inc. (ASCAP)/ CCTB Music (ASCAP). All right OBO CCTB. Music administered by New Spring. Used by permission).
The paradox of that statement is that we can measure up and we can't. Read and meditate on the following verses:
"This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Jesus Christ." Romans 3:22-24
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Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life, then stand back, and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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May 15, 2009
Writing God's Law on our Hearts
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I will put my laws in their minds and write them on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people" (Hebrews 8:10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I used to walk around the neighborhood and see signs that read, "Dog contained by invisible fence." Actually, I thought it was a joke, but after we got a dog, I learned about this incredible invention, and decided to have one installed.
The fence company dug a narrow four foot deep trench around the perimeter of our yard and buried a small wire. This wire was attached to a control box mounted on our garage wall. Ginger, our golden retriever, was then fitted with a collar sporting a special little box with two small prongs that rested against her skin. The dog trainer then placed white flags all around the yard, marking where the underground fence was buried. As Ginger neared the flags, she heard a quiet warning sound clicking from the box. If she kept going and crossed over the boundary marked by the flag, she got a shock and came back.
Now before you get upset about Ginger getting a little shock, I have to tell you, I let the trainer shock me first. It wasn't painful, but I did not want him to do it again. For twelve years, Ginger crossed over the invisible boundary only twice. Once when the fence wasn't working properly and once during her sixth week of motherhood to escape her seven nursing puppies.
After the first month of training, you didn't see any white flags decorating the perimeter of our yard. So, you might wonder, how does Ginger know where the boundary is? It is simple. For the first week, white flags lined the boundary of our yard. On the second week, I removed every other flag. On the third week, I again removed every other remaining flag. And I continued removing flags, until eventually, they were gone. The flags were gone, but Ginger remembered where the boundaries were. She also learned that the warning clicking sound was her friend and kept her from getting into a "shocking" situation.
Those flags are a great picture of the boundaries we set for our children. When they're young, we mark out clear boundaries, and as the child matures into adolescence, we begin pulling up those flags just a little at a time. As they graduate from high school and move into college, most of the flags are gone, and we pray with all our might that they will remember where those boundaries are.
Just like when Ginger heard the warning sound, I believe the Holy Spirit taps on our children's hearts, and warns them not to cross the boundaries set by their parents. Sometimes they will proceed to cross the boundaries anyway. That's when the shock comes in. It might be in the form of discipline and it might be in the form of living with some very unpleasant consequences.
In the Old Testament, God wrote the Law (the Ten Commandments) on tablets of stone, but in the New Testament, He wrote the Law of Love on our hearts. Isn't that our prayer? Yes, we have to spell out the boundaries for our children and point them in the right direction when they are young. But as they move into adulthood, we pray the boundaries will be written on their hearts.
Consider the boundaries listed below:
Be careful what you see. "The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness"(Matthew 6:22, 23 NIV).
Be careful what you love. "No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money"(Mathew 6:24 NIV). "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 5:23 NIV).
Be careful who you listen to. "My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words. Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to a man's whole body" (Proverbs 5:20-22 NIV).
Be careful what you say. "Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips" (Proverbs 5:24 NIV).
Be careful where you go. "Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil" (Proverbs 5:26, 27 NIV).
Be careful whom you choose for close friends. Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character" (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that You set up boundaries for us in Your Word. Just as we set up boundaries for our children for their protection, You set up boundaries for us, Your children, for our protection. Lord, we pray for our children. We pray that they will not forget the boundaries from Your Word that we have laid out for them. We pray that as they leave the nest and fly off to places beyond the safe boundaries of home, they will remember the teachings they have heard. Thank You for Your Holy Spirit who is always with us to prompt us, convict us, warn us, and empower us to turn from situations that would take us from the safe boundaries You have marked out for us.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write down some of the boundaries you have marked out for your children.
Write down some of the boundaries that God has marked out for you, His child.
How do you feel when your children walk beyond those boundaries?
How do you think God feels when you walk beyond His?
Are there some boundary markers in your children's lives or in your own life that need fresh coat of paint?
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May 18, 2009
Intermission
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus" (Philippians 1:4-6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A few years ago, the epic drama, Gone with the Wind, was re-released in theaters all across America. This digitally enhanced, chromatically improved icon took us back to a time in history when American was experiencing a paradigm shift. My husband and I thought it would be important for our teenage son to have the Gone with the Wind experience on the big screen so we purchased three tickets and then settled in for what we knew would be a long evening.
After about two hours, we got to the scene where a sullied Miss Scarlet, deserted by Rhett, stood on a hilltop with Atlanta burning the background, collapsed to the ground, and slowly pulled herself into an upright position. With fist held high, she declared that she would make it through this trial and "As God is my witness," she proclaimed, "I will never be hungry again!" Then the curtain fell, and Steven turned to me and said, "That was a strange way to end."
"Oh, but look," I replied. Then he saw the words "intermission" imposed over the curtain.
"You've got to be kidding," Steven said.
"Nope," we're only halfway done."
You know, I've identified with Miss Scarlett on several occasions. Sometimes life just gets so complicated and it seems as if dreams have been snatched away by some foreign rebel force. My previous way of life is up in flames in the background, my man doesn't understand, and my friends have all run for cover. What will I do? Where will I go? Is this the end!
Then as the curtain falls on this scene in my life, I think to myself, this is a strange way to end. But I look again and see God pointing to the screen as if to say, This, my child, is not the end. It is but the intermission. Get up. Take a break. Stretch if you must. But the movie of your life is not over yet.
Looking back in the Bible, many men and women came to a point in their lives where they thought it was the end, only later to discover it was merely an intermission. Elijah hid in a cave thinking his ministry was over. Moses herded sheep in the desert believing his dream to rescue the Hebrews was dashed. Jonah made his bed under the shade of a plant and lay down to die. The prophet Samuel groveled in depression after his charge, King Saul, disobeyed God and lost his reign. Each of these men thought it was the end, but in reality, it was only an intermission. God wasn't finished with the drama of their lives quite yet.
I don't know what you're facing today. Perhaps your life has taken you to an unexpected place. Perhaps, like Moses, you've made a poor decision that resulted in you running from God and from man. Perhaps like Elijah, you've allowed someone's threats to put fear in your heart and you're in hiding. Perhaps like Jonah, you've obeyed God, but feel duped because your obedience didn't bring the results you'd hoped for. Perhaps like Samuel, you're depressed because someone you oversee (a child, for example) didn't turn out like you had hoped. With your dreams burning in the background, perhaps you've stood on the hillside with fist raised in the air making declarations to God.
If you see yourself on the screen, can I encourage you sit down, take a deep breath, stretch, and regroup. The story's not over yet. Perhaps you're just at an intermission. As someone once said, we shouldn't put a period where God put a comma.
We finally finished the movie. I don't think it ended the way Miss Scarlet would have liked.
But, I'll just think about that tomorrow. ..
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I feel like there is no hope, like the story of my life is running amuck on the sandbar of disappointment. Thank you, Lord, that you never see a situation as hopeless: that what you have begun in me will be completed. Lord, when I make a poor decision, help me to repent and go on with life; when I want to go into hiding, help me to have the courage to come back out of the cave of despair and into the light; when I am disappointed, help me to look to You alone.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you given up on a particular situation or a particular person?
Could it be that it is time for the intermission to be over, and God is waiting for you to come back on the stage?
Have you put a period where God has put a comma?
If so, what do you need to do about it?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God. This beautiful little book makes a wonderful gift for anyone who needs a bit of encouragement or who desires a closer walk with God.
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May 19, 2009
Love That Changes Lives
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So encourage each other and give each other strength." 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Friend To Friend
I will never forget the day I learned just how powerful words can be and their capability to teach and train from the hand of possibly the most abrasive person I have ever met as well as one of the kindest young girls to grace my life. The first thirteen years of ministry found my husband, Dan, and I working with teenagers as youth pastors in three different churches. Before our children were born, I was his right hand girl -- attending every youth event, teaching bible studies, directing the youth choir and loving every minute of ministry at his side. Teenagers flowed in and out of our house at all hours of the day and night, some coming for help and others for fun.
The youth to whom we ministered came primarily from homes that seemed to be healthy and whole. I quickly learned that outer trappings often masquerade inner ruin. A young man named Jack (names have been changed to protect the guilty) joined our youth group, having recently moved to the area because, as he put it, "My parents like to move a lot." That should have been my first clue.
In the beginning, Jack worked hard at making friends and seemed content to go with the flow - until the day he decided that the stream of life was flowing in the wrong direction and it was up to him to redirect its course. The mask came off and the façade quickly crumbled. Standing before me was the real deal -- a genuine, authentic sandpaper person of the coarsest degree. It started with little things -- a friendly shove, caustic comments masquerading as sarcasm, words of darkness and destruction a fast growing and constant stream. Other teenagers began coming to Dan or to me, sharing their concern and eventually disgust at Jack's antics. I talked to Jack. Dan talked to Jack. Together we prayed for Jack and urged the other youth to join us. Nothing seemed to change. As a last ditch effort, we drafted two of our most mature youth to take Jack under their wing and mentor him. Jack did not want to be mentored.
During one Monday night bible study, Dan asked one of those mentors to sing a solo. Jami was a redheaded freckled face girl whose sparkling blue eyes and contagious dimpled grin did not convey the constant pain she suffered as a victim of juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. Jami never complained, always sharing her faith in God and His goodness to her. Everyone loved her and the pure voice with which she sang but as she stood to sing, Jack began laughing, pointing and whispering to the people around him. Their lack of response fueled his fire, upping the ante for Jack to win this battle and capture center stage. With desperate questioning eyes, Jami looked at me, silently begging me to rescue her and the situation. I smiled the most encouraging smile I could muster, hoping it would be enough. It wasn't. I looked back at Jack, delivering my famous and usually feared "shape up or die" glare -- all to no avail. Dan asked, "Jack, are you ready to hear Jamie sing?" Well, that did it! Jack erupted into uproarious laughter, "Sing? Have you heard her sing? She sounds like a frog -- not to mention the fact that she walks funny!" Every ounce of oxygen was sucked out of the room. Everyone froze, except Jami, who fled in tears. From the faces of those youth sitting around Jack, I could tell that well-deserved revenge was close at hand as they began loading their emotional guns and sharpening their retaliation knives. Wanting first shot at this obviously hateful and mean-spirited young man, I jumped to my feet, grabbed Jack by his ear (no, I am not kidding) and pulled him out of the room and sure death.
Reaching the foyer, I released Jack, whirled him around to face me and with clenched teeth ground out my livid question, "Do you have any idea what you just did?" The laughter vanished, pain and harsh realization spread across his face. His response was nothing short of incredible. "Yes. I embarrassed Jami and hurt her feelings." I am not often speechless, but at that moment, words simply evaporated as I stared into the eyes of someone fully aware of the pain he had just inflicted on one of the few kids who truly accepted and was forever defending him. "I cannot believe you! Jami has always been kind to you, coming to your defense when you did not deserve to be defended, inviting you to join the group when the group did not want you anywhere around them. She has probably been the best friend you have ever had or will ever have. What is wrong with you?" Jack stood, silently accepting his rightful and, I thought, well-deserved punishment without a single word of defense.
From the corner of my eye, I saw someone approaching. I was really hoping they were bringing me some kind of rusty weapon. It was Jami, a tremulous smile breaking through the tears cascading down her face. Jack instinctively began backing away until he saw her eyes and the outstretched arms she offered him. In astonishment, I stood paralyzed, a witness to God's supernatural presence and the restoration power of forgiveness at work before my unbelieving eyes and my angry heart. Instantly, I became the student and Jami the teacher. Both Jack and I listened quietly as God spoke through this precious young woman, the words only she could speak. "Jack, I got to thinking about why you did what you just did, and I realized something. I love you and you know that, but you don't think you deserve that love so you tried to kill it by hurting me. It won't work. Do you know why?" Sitting at the feet of this young, wise beyond her years master teacher, I witnessed Jack's sandpaper world being rocked by a love he could not understand, a love that was not altered by anything he did or didn't do, a love that only God can give. In answer to Jami's question, Jack gave a quick headshake and whispered, "No. I don't know why." Jami smiled, wrapped her arms around the very one who, just moments before had viciously wounded her, and with fresh tears streaming down her face, choked out words I will never forget. "I love you with God's love, Jack. Not mine. And His love will never die. People tried to kill it on the cross, but even that didn't work. I just wanted to tell you that I love you -- no matter what you say or do. I am your friend -- period."
Staring into her eyes, I suspect Jack experienced, maybe for the first time, the timeless and stubborn love of God; a love that could be his to give, a love that would redefine his future. With a giggle, Jami playfully grabbed Jack's hand and, pulling him toward the place only love could take him, began happily chattering about how she needed him on the front row to encourage her while she sang. And he did!
That is not the end of the story. From that day forward, Jack was a different person. From time to time, he would fall back into old emotional habits but when he did, Jami or someone under her direction and influence would snatch him back to the new place that words of staggering kindness and God ordained wisdom had brought him. The youth who witnessed Jami's love for this unlovable one were changed and called up higher in their obedience to God, even when it didn't make sense and was completely undeserved. I learned the valuable lesson that hurt people hurt people. Instead of angry words, I need to make my first response one of unexplainable love and unmerited understanding.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I judge instead of love. Help me to see every person through Your eyes of love, grace and mercy. Please guard my tongue and my heart so that I will build up and not destroy others. I want to please You, Lord, by the way I love the unlovable.
In Jesus, name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Right now, think of the most abrasive people in your life.
Are you ready to accept and love them without demanding that they change?
Find one good point about each person and voice it to others whenever you have the chance.
What can you do to demonstrate the unconditional love of God for these people?
Do you need to ask any of them for forgiveness? Are you willing to do that now?
May 20, 2009
Resting in the Palm
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"There is a time for every thing and a season for every activity under the heaven" (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV).
Friend To Friend
A few years ago, I fell in love with a beach cottage named "Barb's Folly." I adored the designer beach décor of periwinkle blue, yellow stripes and floral, the screened in porch that hugged the back of the house, the inviting dark green rocking chairs, and the weather worn dock jutting out over the lazy canal. As if imported from England, a six-foot square of grass was nestled in one corner of the yard framed by a white picket fence. The secret garden was complete with fuchsia myrtle bushes in full bloom, a beckoning weathered bench, and a cozy bird house with a half dozen portals. Seemingly, out of place, owners had transplanted a palm tree just inches from the second story screened in porch and encircled by the wooden steps that led to the dock.
On our first night at "Barb's Folly", we rocked on the porch and watched fire flies dance on the moonlit canal. As if to light a lone actor on a stage, a moonbeam fell across the palm tree and revealed a gentle stirring in its plume. When I moved closer, I discovered a turtledove had built her nest at the top of the thatched tree trunk, where the palm branches sprouted upward. Because we were on the second story, we were at eye level with Mrs. Turtle Dove. As I moved closer to her, she didn't budge, but sat steadfast in her perch.
Early the next morning, before the rest of the house guests stirred, I went on the porch to spend some time with God. Mrs. Turtle Dove was there to greet me. I watched her. She watched me. Our eyes locked. We both blinked. A few moments later, Mr. Turtle Dove flew in and perched on the nearby railing. The couple exchanged coos and then he flew over to his beloved. When she stood up to welcome him, I noticed two tiny eggs peeking out from under the stubble. It seems this was Mother's Morning Out and Daddy bird was here to watch over the soon to be little ones. The momma bird flew away and daddy took over the incubation and protection of their eggs. After a brief time, the momma bird returned and daddy bird went off to work for the rest of the day.
During our entire vacation, this momma bird did one thing and one thing only, she rested in the palm, warming and protecting her two tiny charges. On the afternoon when a violent storm blew through with loud claps of thunder, crackling flashes of lightening, and pelting sheets of rain, she sat undaunted by the storm and unmoved as the trees bent in the nautical winds. When the children ran up and down the stairs inches from her nest and leaned over the railing to get a better took, she appeared unalarmed by the stir of activity. While other birds such as cranes, pelicans and seagulls performed great feats, swooped gracefully into the water, and strutted about parading their showy display, her feathers were not ruffled but continued undeterred in her calling.
On the last morning of our vacation, I was enjoying a final cup of coffee on the back porch and once again relishing in quiet time with God and His creation. Of course, Mrs. Turtle Dove was there to join me.
"God," I asked, "I know You put this bird here for a reason. What do you want me to learn from watching her this week? I don't want to miss it."
Then God spoke to my heart. It was contentment. I was watching a picture of contentment in fulfilling God's call. She was doing what God had made her to do for this season of her life, and she was intent and content in doing it. Regardless of the storms, regardless of what seemingly showy birds were doing, regardless of the endless stream of activity passing by her nest, regardless of the stares or others, she was unmoved from her task.
"Is that it, Lord? Is that what You want me to see?"
Just as I prayed those words, Mr. Turtle Dove flew in for his daily visit. When his lady dove stood up to greet him, I noticed a piece of eggshell attached to her leg. She flew away with much excitement and then I noticed a change in her nest. There lay two tiny downy hatchlings. The eggs had hatched and it was as if God was saying to me, "Yes, Sharon. That's it. This has been my gift to you this week. Through my creation, you have seen a contented mother and the results of her commitment. You do what I've called you to do. Rest in the palm – of my hand. Don't get distracted by the world around you: the storms of life, the endless stream of activity, and other seemingly more glamorous "birds." Be relentless in your call. In due time, I will cause your "eggs to hatch" and all too soon they will leave the nest.
About that time, my six-foot-one teenage son sleepily stumbled out onto the porch. I'm not sure if he saw the tears in my eyes as I looked at his ruffled hair, sleepy eyes, and face that needed a shave.
"Hey Buddy. Look," I said. "The eggs hatched today."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for speaking to us through Your creation. Just as Jesus taught spiritual lessons through natural examples, You continue to speak to us through what You have made. Help us not to miss Your fingerprints on the pages of our lives.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you are a mother of children still in the nest, do you find yourself longing to do what others are doing in ministry, the workplace, the community?
Which do you think is more important?
Ponder this quote today from President Theodore Roosevelt: No other success in life – not being President, or being wealthy, or going to college, or writing a book, or anything else – comes up to the success of the man or woman who can feel that they have done their duty and that their children and grandchildren rise up and call them blessed.
If you've had an extraordinary moment when God spoke to you through nature, I'd love to hear it. Just log onto www.extraordinarymomentswithgod.com and tell me your story.
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Being a mom is not an easy task. If it were, it wouldn't start with something called labor! If you would like a hefty dose of encouragement, just for moms, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. And if you'd like a collection of Sharon's devotions to jump start your day, you can find them in Extraordinary Moments with God.
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May 21, 2009
Just Talk to God!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 2:17 "Therefore, it was necessary for Jesus to be in every respect like us, his brothers and sisters, so that he could be our merciful and faithful High Priest before God."
Friend To Friend
God sent His son Jesus Christ, the greatest communicator ever to walk the earth, so that He could make a way to reach us. The birth, life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ make it possible for us to have an intimate relationship with Him, to communicate with God, right where we are. To think that God wants to talk with me, to hear my voice and listen to my deepest heart longings is an amazing but true realization. Prayer is simply conversation with God, but it is in those intimate conversations that battles are won and strength is gained.
In biblical times, the high priest was the communication link between God and man. However, today, Jesus is our high priest, our communication link with God. And He longs for times of heart conversation with His children, dream sessions where we pour out all that we are and hope to be to the One who can make those dreams a reality. Every problem, every concern is important to God. If it is important to me, it is important to Him. He is always waiting, ready to turn His heart toward the voice of His child as surely as a mother hears her baby's cry above all others.
I have a beautiful little niece, Emma, who has had my heart in her precious little hands since the day she was born. I absolutely adore her and am in love with her sensitive but unusually courageous young heart. During the first several years of her life, Emma endured great pain caused by severe reflux, to the point that major surgery was required.
Helplessly, I watched as this baby girl bravely faced medical procedures that would terrify most people and send them running for the non -- medical hills. Doctors, hospitals, a regimen of various daily medications were routine to this little girl and she faced each one with uncommon strength.
Because Emma lives several hours from me, we often resort to telephone conversations as a way to stay connected. I say "we" because there are times when Emma will tell her mother that she needs to call "Mimi" (that's me) to share something very important. Other times, Emma just wants to talk. I cannot tell you what it does to my heart when I answer the phone and hear Emma's soft, sweet voice say, "Hi, Mimi." To know that she stopped in the middle of her very busy young life to call me is a cherished gift and brings me great pleasure. I treasure every one of those conversations, playing them repeatedly in my heart and mind, sharing them with everyone in my path. I can just see her precious little face and dramatic expressions as she tells me about her trip to the beach and the awful creature that stung her, or listen as she describes what she wore for her ballet recital in which she was obviously the star. Every word is priceless -- not so much because of its content -- but because of the heart from which it is spoken.
I know that our Father loves it -- absolutely loves it -- when we, His children, stop in the middle of our busy lives for no other reason than the fact that we love Him and just need to talk with Him. When I pray, I picture His head turning toward me, to the sound of my voice. He smiles, knowing that "Mary wants to talk with Me." Yes, He is concerned with every ordinary detail of every ordinary day, but I suspect His greatest pleasure is found in the fact that, like Emma, we just need to talk to the One we love.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me. I praise You for the privilege and gift of prayer. I want to learn how to turn to You quickly and easily as I go through every moment of each day. I have to admit that I don't understand how You can love me like You do, but I cherish that love and the freedom it offers to approach the throne of grace, confident that You will hear my voice. Thank You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I want to encourage you to keep a journal of your journey with God. Carry it with you in your purse, briefcase or diaper bag. Write out your prayers to Him and then record the answers when they come. From time to time, look back over your journal entries and celebrate what God has done in your life.
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The children in my life are definitely some of my greatest teachers -- especially in the area of prayer. I once heard the story of a grandpa who stopped at the door of his granddaughter's room to listen to her pray. He soon realized that she was simply reciting the letters of the alphabet. When he tried to correct her, the little girl responded, "Grandpa, I don't know exactly what to pray so I'm just saying all the letters of the alphabet and God can put them together for me."
Need help? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People for ways to handle those difficult relationships in your life. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey you might be interested in. The current topic is How to Manage Your Emotions. Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and special gift items, including a beautiful bookmark for that special mom in your life, What Kids Need Most in a Mom.
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May 22, 2009
The Master Artist
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." (Philippians 1:4-6, NIV)
Friend to Friend
It took four years of fresco painting for the Italian Renaissance sculptor, painter, architect, and poet Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, commonly known as Michelangelo, to finish the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Most of his time painting was spent alone, on his back, lying on scaffolding. (How painful!) The painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is one of the most remarkable in the history of Western art. One thing is for sure: the process that altered a ceiling from plain to fabulous required a lot of time, great discipline, and the hand of a master artist. The same is true for us. The journey from broken into beautiful is a lifelong transformation that requires both discipline and a Master Artist.
As Michelangelo was working, I'm sure that lots of people came through the corridors of the chapel and stood in amazement. As they looked up at the beauty of his work, I bet they said things like, "That is the most fantastic work of art I have ever seen!" or "Extraordinary!" To which he might have said, "It's not done!" But did the unfinished state of the project negate that parts of the ceiling were beautiful? No! The parts that were complete were still extravagant and breathtaking.
Maybe this is the way God and others see our lives. It's common for people to notice the work God has done in us and comment on the beauty. And even though compliments are nice to hear, I've been known to resist them. (Admit it, you probably have too.) It's not so much a humility thing as it is an "I-don't-see-myself-as-beautiful" thing. From my limited perspective, I can see only the unfinished work. But in truth, my vantage point doesn't negate the beauty of the work God has done and is doing in my life. Real beauty isn't about a finished or flawless product. It can't be. It's not possible on this side of eternity to have completed beauty. Our restoration will be complete in the presence of God when we see Him face to face.
So be encouraged today. Remember that you're in good hands when you are in the hands of God, the Master Artist. "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." (Philippians 1:5-6, NIV)
Let's Pray
Dear God,
Thank you for your ability to look at my life and see the potential. Would you take my brokenness - all that I am - and piece together a work of beauty that can reflect your splendor? Help me to bring everything to you until your work in me is made complete in your presence.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the book of Philippians this week! It is only four chapters...but they are so powerful! Be energized and spurred on by the Word of God as He continues to work on your beauty.
Memorize and write out this verse: "Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I d Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:12-14, NIV)
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May 25, 2009
God's Grand Finale
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was sitting in a crowded restaurant with my family when she walked by in her full-length white satin dress delicately trimmed in lace and studded with tiny "jewels," crinoline that swished as she moved across the room, a rhinestone tiara upon her head, and pearl studded slippers on her feet. Golden ringlets framed her rosy cheeks and puckered lips glistened with a hint of gloss. She knew she was beautiful and glanced around at the admiring smiles of onlookers as she walked through the crowd. She was three-years-old.
I'm not sure when the dream to be beautiful enters a little girl's mind, but I do know when the dream ends -- when the preacher says, "may she rest in peace."
I remember as a little girl sneaking into my mother's closet and slipping my child-size feet into her size seven high heels. I'd also stand on my tiptoes on a chair, pull a hat off the top shelf, and plop it on my head like an oversized lampshade. Her satin evening jacket with sleeves that hug eight inches below my finger tips gave a nice elegant touch to my outfit. A lady going to a party would never be caught without "putting on her face," so I crept into the bathroom, opened the forbidden drawer, and created a clownish work of art on the palette of my face. Red rouge circles on my cheeks, heaps of blue eye shadow on my munchkin lids, and smeared orange lipstick far exceeding the proper border were finished off with a dusting of facial powder with an oversized brush.
From the time a little girl stretches on her tiptoes to get a peek in the mirror, she desires to be beautiful -- perhaps like her mommy. As the girl moves into the teen years, she experiments with makeup, delves into fashion, and attempts various hairstyles. Then it's on to makeover ideas in magazines and on talk shows.
I believe the dream to be beautiful is not cultural, but at the very core of womanhood. John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, describes three longings that lie at the heart of every man: a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue, an adventure to live. He also ventures to say that women have three longings of the heart as well: to be fought for, to share in an adventure, and to have her beauty unveiled. "Not to conjure," Eldredge explains, "but to unveil." Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what I speak of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or 'twirling skirts,' those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She'll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight." John Eldredge, Wild at Heart (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 2001) p16-17
We should never be ashamed of our dream to be beautiful. It is a travesty of the feminist movement that has tried to strip women of their femininity and make them more male. It is as if those in the movement were saying that being a woman wasn't good enough and tried to make us into men. So they tried to make women tough, independent and rugged individuals who didn't need anyone or anything. But those who were banking on the tenants of feminism were left spiritually and emotionally bankrupt.
A woman was and is one of God's most magnificent creations. As a matter of fact, she was His grand finale. After He fashioned Eve, creation was complete and He took a rest! God has placed in our hearts a love for beauty and a desire to be beautiful -- as He defines it.
In the New Testament, Paul writes, "For we are God's workmanship" (Ephesians 2:10). The Greek word for workmanship means a work of art. Listen to these words as David describes the Creator at work.
For you created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
When I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
Your eyes saw my unformed body. (Psalm 139:13-16)
Like an artist who sees the finished work in his mind's eye, God saw your unformed substance and then began to fashion you from head to toe. He made no mistakes but planned each detail of your being. You do not need to compare yourself to other works of art, but thank the Artist for how He chose to create the masterpiece called...you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank you for making each and every part of my being. For eyes that see, ears that hear, legs that move, fingers that feel, arms that hug, feet that run, a heart that beats, a brain that thinks, a tongue that tastes. Oh Lord, forgive me when I complain about Your workmanship and wish for something different. Help me to always remember that I am Your workmanship...and You make no mistakes.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of all the parts of your body that you are thankful for. This could take quite some time and perhaps you'll need to come back to your list several times before it is complete.
Get out an anatomy book or visit a web page that shows the various body systems (the circulatory system, the nervous system, the skeletal muscles, etc.) and read about the intricacies of the human body.
If you have children, look at the various systems together and marvel at God's incredible creation.
Who is one of the most beautiful women that you know? What makes her beautiful?
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May 26, 2009
Will the Real Enemy Please Stand Up?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 5:8-9 "Control yourselves and be careful! The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat. Refuse to give in to him, by standing strong in your faith. You know that your Christian family all over the world is having the same kinds of suffering" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
Spiritual ignorance is not bliss -- it is dangerous. Many people say it doesn't really matter what you believe as long as you believe something! I totally disagree! The apostle Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22, "Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil" (NIV). To deal with sandpaper people, we must be able to discern between truth and lies.
If the enemy can dupe us into believing his lies, those difficult relationships will eventually damage and even destroy our emotional health, seeping into the broken places, ripping open almost healed wounds inflicted by sandpaper people. Complete honesty must steer every difficult relationship because sandpaper people must always be confronted with sound, solid truth in clear and transparent conversation as well as disciplined behavior. We are in a battle for godly relationships. In order to win that battle we must identify the real enemy.
1 Peter 5:8 "The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat" (NCV).
Sandpaper people are not the enemy. It is sometimes easier to convince ourselves that they are as it would make the attack plan so much simpler and free of guilt. We could simply do everything in our power to eliminate that person from our life when what God really wants is for us to embrace that sandpaper person, celebrating the truth that where they are is no surprise to God.
When our children were in middle school, several of their friends got laser guns for Christmas. One weekend, they brought the guns to our house for a "big, bad laser war." The kids divided into teams and the object of the game was simple, to wipe out the enemy. Wonderful! What clean, wholesome fun.
Hours went by to the sound of war hoops, shouts and threats and cries of victory. They had a great time playing with those guns -- that is, until it was dark. I stood in the kitchen preparing dinner when I heard the kitchen door open and close -- uh, rather slam -- and looked up to see my daughter, Danna, red-faced with fury. I knew it would not be long before I had every morbid detail of whatever injustice she had endured at the hand of "those boys." I was right. "Mom, I need to talk to you -- now!" I knew a command when I heard it, dropped my spatula and waited for the story. It was short and not so sweet. "Everybody is mad at me because I keep shooting my own team." So far, I was totally lost. I guess my confusion was evident because I could sense the exasperation that fueled her next words, "Mom! Are you listening?" I was -- it didn't help. With a sigh and in her most patronizing tone, she explained, "I keep shooting my own team because it is so dark. I can't tell who the enemy is."
We often have the same problem when it comes to dealing with sandpaper people. We identify them as the enemy but they are not the real enemy.
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Satan should never be the center of attention in any believer's life. We cannot focus on two things at once and if we focus on Satan, we cannot focus on God. However, Paul clearly warns us that no Christian should ever ignore Satan or take him for granted either because he is a powerful and vicious foe.
Satan is our true enemy and would love to encourage our attack on those people who rub us the wrong way and ignore the hand of God in the matter. Nothing and no one touches our life that does not pass through the Father's hand, with His permission. God, however, takes what the enemy meant for evil and uses it for good in our life -- if we let Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the truth that You have already conquered Satan. Please help me remember that while Satan is powerful, he is also defeated. Give me the discernment to recognize his evil tactics and plans to use difficult people in my life to help me fail and fall. I want to walk in the light of Your eternal victory over sin and live in the strength of Your power over the grave and the powers of the darkness. Teach me how to love the sinner but hate the sin. Keep me broken over my own sin and always be ready to offer the grace, mercy and forgiveness You have given me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Fighting the unknown is always more difficult than fighting the known. Getting along with people who rub us the wrong way is dependent on understanding that Satan is at work around us wielding weapons of strife, anger, frustration and misunderstanding. Victory is ours unless we hand it over to the enemy. Ignoring him is foolish but by identifying him and exposing his malignant tactics, we rob him of power and negate his ability to control and manipulate relationships. Read the following verses and then fill in the blanks to identify the different characteristics of Satan's personality:
Satan is a ______________________.
John 8:44 "Satan is a liar and the father of lies."
Satan is a ______________________.
1 John 5:19 "We know that we are children of God and that the world around us is under the power and control of the evil one."
Satan is an _____________________.
2 Corinthians 11:14 "Satan changes himself to look like an angel of light."
Satan is a ______________________.
Revelation 20:10 "Then the Devil, who betrayed them, was thrown into the lake of fire."
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May 27, 2009
Habitat for Humanity
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD Almighty" (Zechariah 4:6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was the incompetent and the inexperienced being led by the inept -- the day our Sunday School Class worked on the Habitat for Humanity house for an unsuspecting, extremely grateful Vietnamese family. Among the crew were two dentists, an investment banker, a lawyer, an engineer, two pastors, a receptionist, several homemakers and a marriage counselor. It's always good to have a marriage counselor on hand when a home improvement project is taking place.
The one-thousand square foot, vinyl siding house had already been framed by a team the week before. Today was sheetrock, or drywall day. The site supervisor's name was TA. That's all the information he gave -- just TA. TA became a Christian one Easter when he reluctantly agreed to go to church with his praying wife.
"I never went to church," he told my husband. "I was a mean man who worked seven days a week. But one Sunday I put on a suit and told my wife, 'I'm going to church with you today, but don't ask me to do it again. This is a onetime deal.' But Jesus saved my soul that day and I've been livin' for Him ever since."
That was TA. A country carpenter who had hammered more nails for Jesus than Noah and his son's put together. He grabbed his clipboard and began.
"Does anyone here know anything about dry wall?" he asked.
Jeff reluctantly raised his hand.
"OK, you'll be a team leader." TA checked the list and moved right along.
"But that was thirty years ago when I was in college," Jeff clarified.
"You'll be fine," TA said as he waved his hand. "Like riding a bike."
I could tell you many stories of the day filled with wacky work and lively laughter laced with caring community, but let me share just one.
Palmer was part of the sheetrock team. Like Rambo, he wielded his screw gun and popped those babies in the sheetrock like a hot knife through butter. Piece of cake. After several hours of neck craning, screw popping, dust in your eyes labor, Palmer took a fifteen minute break.
Re-energized, Rambo picked up his machine gun and once again attacked the ceiling. A lot of forgetting can go on in a fifteen minute break and for some reason the screws forgot how they were supposed to spin out of the gun and magically implant flush with the ceiling.
"That's strange," Palmer thought as he examined the screw protruding one inch from the ceiling.
He moved the gun over a couple of inches and tried again. "Maybe I just need to push harder" he mused. With all the force of a trained counselor, Palmer pressed the gun into the ceiling and pulled the trigger. Once again, the screw hung down one inch from the ceiling.
Like a tennis player who examines his racket after missing an easy lob, or an outfielder who stares at his glove after missing a simple fly ball, Palmer looked at the gun in frustration. "Something is definitely wrong with this gun," the mumbled. "I guess I need to push even harder." Palmer set his jaw, clinched the gun, and firmly pressed the screw gun into the ceiling. "I'm a man. I can do this. I'm going to make this work."
After a third attempt, a frustrated Palmer stared at a neatly placed row of three taunting stalactite screws protruding from the ceiling.
About that time, TA bounced through the room and casually commented to Rambo still holding his gun. "Hey Buddy, you might want to take that gun out of reverse."
A flush of embarrassment rose from the tip of Palmer's dusty shoes to the top of his sandy- blond head. He nonchalantly flipped the switch to forward and proceeded to shoot flush screws efficiently and effectively like nothing had ever happened.
Later, Palmer laughingly said, "Sometimes I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I wonder how many rows of protruding screws I would have shot into that ceiling before I stopped and even considered that the problem might be me?"
OK sisters, stop the cameras. Suddenly I saw myself staring up at those protruding screws with my baffled friend. "What's wrong with her," I complain about a friend who's let me down. "What's wrong with him," I complain about my husband who's not acting according to my plan. "What's wrong with them," I mumble about family members who are not living up to my expectations." In frustration, I continue repeating the same ineffective behavior, never stopping to consider the problem might be me.
Whether it's a string of jobs where you're always treated unfairly, a pileup of relationships that seem to repeatedly end poorly, or a series of marriages with spouses who've let you down...could the problem be...dare I say... you? We push harder. Press more firmly. Repeat the same ineffective behavior again and again.
May I quote TA? "Hey Buddy. It might help if you take it out of reverse."
May I translate TA the way I heard it? "Hey Buddy. You are the problem. You've got life in reverse. Turn and go in the opposite direction."
And you know what? That is the definition of repentance. To turn around and go in the opposite direction.
Palmer could have pushed that screw gun into the ceiling until its nose broke through the sheetrock. He could have forced those babies in -- even hammered them flush. Then he could have slathered a coat of sheetrock mud over the holes and applied a nice coat of paint. On the outside, it might have looked like the screws were properly installed. But the truth would come out eventually. The screw threads would have simply cut a hole in the material and the purpose for which they were created lost. There would be no grip of the screw threads into the drywall. No security in the construction. Just a nicely painted ceiling on the verge of collapse.
Oh friend, when it comes to a life that is not working, we can try harder, push harder, and even pound with emotional hammers to try and make it work. With a fresh coat of pretend-- a smiling face, spit-shined kids, and a well marked Bible, we might look OK -- even downright good. But underneath, the construction remains shaky at best.
But when trying harder is replaced with repentance, shaky is replaced by secure. If life isn't working for you, consult with the project manager -- Jesus Christ. Trying harder is not the answer. Pushing with more force won't get the job done well. Repeating the same ineffective behavior will only leave you frustrated. But relying on the power of the Holy Spirit working in us, God's love flowing through us, and Jesus Christ's redeeming grace surrounding us, well, that is the key to building God's ultimate habitat for all humanity.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes I just don't get it. I try harder, but with the same results. I repeat the same ineffective behavior and then wonder why I don't have more victory in my life. Help me to stop trying harder in my own strength, but start depending more on Your power. Show me when I need to turn and go in the opposite direction, and give me the courage to do so.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Today's assignment is to read Romans 7 and answer the following questions:
What was Paul's struggle?
Have you ever felt like Paul?
What was Paul's answer to the struggle?
What does "walking in the Spirit" look like to you?
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May 28, 2009
Getting Past Your Past
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 1:7 "He (God) is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven" (NLT).
Friend to Friend
One of the key factors in my ongoing battle with clinical depression is dealing with and letting go of past sin and pain. The shadows of yesterday can so easily become the dark clouds of today. In order to deal with depression and the darkness life can hold, we must deal with sin -- first, in a personal relationship with Christ and then on a daily basis as a believer.
Every believer has two problems when it comes to dealing with sin. First, we must confess sin. I know it sounds simple but so many of us have lost our sensitivity to sin because we are aligned with the world instead of with God. The mark of a believer growing in grace is sensitivity to sin. When I was a little girl, I rarely wore shoes. But when the first day of summer came along, I would kick off my shoes and store them in my closet -- wearing them only when absolutely necessary. Even now, I can remember the painful sensations of playing on the gravel road beside our house. The sharp rocks cut and bruised my tender feet -- at first - but by summer's end, my feet were rough and calloused. I could run, jump and play for hours on the rocks that had once caused so much pain.
Sin is much the same. The first time we commit a sin, it breaks our heart, but the next time we commit that same sin, it doesn't seem quite as bad. Our heart becomes calloused to that sin we repeatedly commit and a foothold is formed, making a place for depression and darkness to reside. We must confess sin completely, confidently and continually. Jesus is faithful and will keep His promise to forgive and to cleanse us from all sin.
Psalm 103:12 (NIV) "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us."
The second problem we have with sin is forgetting forgiven sin. Is it even possible to experience true forgiveness? While we can't totally blot out a memory, we can make sure it's no longer a live issue in our lives. God's way seems too easy -- to just ask and receive. We act as if the Holy Spirit needs our help or as if what Jesus did on the cross was not enough. We feel like we must make additional payments for our sin by doing something when Micah 7:19 is clear about God's attitude toward our sin, "Once again you will have compassion on us. You will trample our sins under your feet and throw them into the depths of the ocean" (NLT). The problem comes when we revisit confessed sin, when we "go fishing" in the waters of our past.
Sometimes, the core of clinical depression or any pit in life is riddled with sin we have never acknowledged or dealt with. Guilt and shame surround each transgression and since condemnation seems like the logical solution, we allow the darkness to consume us as payment for each sin. An important part of the battle with the darkness of depression is the deliberate choice to face and deal with sin.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to live today while carrying the baggage of my past. Please give me the courage to face the sins I have tried so hard to bury. Help me to turn away from each one, leaving it in Your hands. Thank You, Lord, for Your grace, Your mercy and Your love. Please fill my heart with the light of Your forgiveness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Victory over the past requires action on your part. You must be willing to take several steps in faith and obedience.
I understand that forgiveness requires repentance.
I choose to confront and turn from the sin in my life.
I am willing to destroy any paths that might lead to that same sin.
I trust God for the power to practice repentance and praise Him for the forgiveness He offers.
I choose to walk in God's promise found in Romans 6:22, "But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves to God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life."
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Today's devotion can and will change your life if you apply it personally. You don't have to understand it all to have it all, girlfriend. Accept His love. Surrender the pain and sin of your past to His forgiveness and healing power. Come to Him just as you are. If you made that decision today, we would love to hear from you so we can pray for you as you begin your new journey with God.
Mary's CD, How to Get Past Your Past, will encourage you as she shares her own personal story of victory over the pain and grip of the past in her life. And be sure to check out her weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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May 29, 2009
What Really Matters
Angela L. Craig
Today's Truth
Deuteronomy 31:6 (NLT)
"So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you."
Friend to Friend
Did you know that three out of five of us women have been sexually violated? Or that over fifty percent of us are spending more money than we make? Did you know that one out of two marriages will fail, leaving a wake of loneliness, fear, and financial instability for those left behind? What about substance addiction or cancer, did you know that half of us are struggling with them this very moment?
These statistics are only the tip of the iceberg. Pick up any newspaper and you will read about rising unemployment, war, genocide, and a falling stock market. In my city, today's paper headlines the record flooding that has happened over the last three days, leaving many people's lives and homes in a state of devastation. The world seems to be in a downward spiral as one negative event leads to another.
I imagine you sitting at your desk or kitchen counter reading this with one hand on the delete button because the opening of this devotional was anything but uplifting. Am I right? I don't blame you. I didn't want to write those statistics because it is as painful to write as it is to read.
But wait -- just give me one more minute.
Here is the truth: Virtually every person you and I encounter is struggling with something in their life. Life can be overwhelming at times, even for the most "put together" person. Circumstances can lead us to believe that we are alone and isolated. There are times when feelings of grief, fear or anger feel like they will consume us.
How is your world today? Regardless of how you answer, you must know what really matters. You matter! You really matter because God created you and He cares for you. You were not a mistake! You are rare and beautiful in God's eyes (Psalm 139), and because you matter, God will help you and He will never leave you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Someone in your life needs to hear this life-changing truth and they need to hear it from you ... today.
So be strong and courageous because you really matter to God!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I need You Lord. Life is tough and it seems overwhelming at times. I will not be swallowed up by negative circumstances because I trust You for my future. I believe that You have gone before me and are protecting and caring for me right now. I pray that You will give me the faith, knowledge and wisdom to move forward into a life that You desire for me to have. Thank You, Lord, that I matter to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it is Your Turn
1) You are what matters! Meditate on Psalm 139. If you do not have a Bible, you can look up this passage online at: www.crosswalk.com under the heading, "Search the Bible" on the right side of the home page.
2) Remember that you are not alone - God and others surround you and believe in you. Do not be afraid to ask for help! The stress of life situations can lead you to feel like you are in quick-sand. Life can become confusing and it may feel like you cannot maintain focus. Don't stay stuck. Take action toward improving your situation. First, ask God for His help. Then ask a friend to help you brainstorm small steps to help you. So many times God will surprise you with the solution to a problem through people around you! But you have to be willing to ask for help.
3) "Doing good" by giving or serving has been scientifically proven to have healing powers. You can start small by giving a word of encouragement or an act of kindness. When you "do good" for others, you are guaranteed to be encouraged and strengthened! (Luks, Allan & Payne, Peggy. The Healing Power of Doing Good. Lincoln, NE: Universe.com (2001)).
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June 1, 2009
God's Mirror
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For as he (a man or woman) thinks within himself, so he is" (Proverbs 23:7 NASB emphases added)
Friend to Friend
Amazingly, when God created man in His own image, He gave us the power of words. He didn't entrust words with monkeys, zebras, or elephants. He gave words to man. Our words also have creative potential. As a matter-of-fact, the Bible tells us that "death and life are in the power of the tongue" (Proverbs 18:21 NASB). Our words become the mirror in which others see themselves. Our words impact children, husbands, friends, and the world. But some of the most powerful words we speak are the ones that no one hears ... the words we speak to ourselves.
We can speak life to ourselves and we can speak death to ourselves. Our minds think about 130 words per minute and our mouths (women) speak about 25,000 words in a day. That's a lot of words! A considerable amount of those words are spoken or thought to ourselves. Most of this self-talk is harmless, such as what will I fix for dinner? or where did I put my hairbrush? But some are very destructive saying, "I'm so stupid," "I'm such an idiot," or "I'm never going to be good enough," can create habitual destructive thought patterns that can paralyze a person into inactivity.
Negative self-perceptions repeated over a time will brand themselves into our minds and eventually become our reality. If you repeat a wrong belief or lie enough times, you begin to believe it. "Nobody loves me," "I don't have any friends," or "I'm so ugly" becomes your reality ... even though it is a false reality. You can become stuck in the house of mirrors looking at a distorted reflection of who you really are.
The negative destructive lies of the enemy are like a tar baby. The more you play with it, toy with it, embrace it, the more you get stuck to it. Each time we speak a lie about ourselves, the more we become bound to it. "As [a man] thinks within himself, so he is" (Proverbs 23:7 NKJV)
When we look into God's mirror, His incredible love letter to us we call the Bible, we discover the truth. God does love you (Colossians 3:12). You have an entire cloud of witnesses cheering for you (Hebrews 12:1). You are God's masterpiece, a work of beautiful art (Ephesians 2:10). You are good enough because Christ lives in you (John14:20). You are a chosen, holy, dearly loved child of God. That's the truth. Let's get out of the house of mirrors and start seeing ourselves as God sees us.
In one of John's letters, he wrote, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth" (3 John 1:4). I believe that God has no greater joy than to know that His children are walking in the truth. When we are walking in the truth, the lies are exposed. We can recognize the lie, reject the lie, and replace the lie with truth. Then, and only then, can we be all that God has created us to be and do all that God has created us to do. We can experience the abundant life that He planned all along.
I believe God has great plans for all of us. His Word promises that He does. "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him" (1 Corinthians 2:9). But many of us are not experiencing the abundant life because we don't know who we are. We have believed the lies that we are not good enough, unloved, unworthy, and unforgivable. We have been looking in distorted mirrors for far too long. God wants us to look into the only true mirror that will tell us exactly who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God -- His Word. It is the key to living the victorious Christian life.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, so many times I speak words that are not true about who I am. I pray for the conviction of the Holy Spirit to stop me from speaking negative words about myself to myself. Help me to speak the truth as found in Your Word. Help me to begin seeing myself as You see me -- a chosen, holy, dearly loved child of Yours who is empowered by the Holy Spirit and enveloped by Jesus Christ.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, pay attention to the words you speak to yourself. They don't have to be said aloud. Think about the words you even think to yourself about yourself.
Would God agree with what you are saying? Do the words line up with what God says about you as His redeemed and empowered child? If you'd like to comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at http://sharonjaynes.com/blog/.
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It is time to start believing the truth. It is time to hear God say, "You are my daughter, whom I love; with you, I am well pleased. Are you ready to walk out of the house of mirrors once and for all? Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Are you ready to begin living the abundant life that God planned all along? Then you'll want to read Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves.
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June 2, 2009
The Lord is My Shepherd, Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends.
(Psalm 100:3 NCV)
Friend to Friend
Shepherding was one of the oldest callings in Israel, even before farming. Shepherds traveled from place to place, living in tents while driving their flocks from one pasture to another. The sheep and their shepherd lived together every minute of every day. In fact, they were so intimately bound together that individual sheep, even when mixed with other flocks, could recognize the voice of their own shepherd and would come immediately when called by name.
A shepherd owned and marked his sheep. In some cases, the sheep were even branded, although branding is no longer an accepted method of identification because of the damage it does to the wool. Today, the ears of sheep are pierced with identification tags but for thousands of years, shepherds around the world marked their sheep by notching their ears with a sharp knife. Each shepherd had his own distinctive notch that indicated identity and ownership.
When we come to Jesus Christ in complete surrender and begin the journey of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ, we are redeemed by his forgiveness, made whole by his grace and marked with his love through the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
Ephesians 1:13 "You were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal; the promised Holy Spirit."
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions. I grew up in a Christian home, attending church just about every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God – not only as my Lord and King - but as my Shepherd, the one who would lead me, provide for me and love me like no other.
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I? (Don't miss the answer to that question in tomorrow's devotion!)
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I have allowed fear and anxiety to fill my mind and heart. I want to trust You above all else. Please give me the faith to believe the promises in Your Word and the strength to take the first step of obedience. Help me remember that I am a sheep, totally dependent upon You, my Shepherd. Thank You for Your perfect provision for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23.
List three ways that sheep are dependent on the shepherd.
List three ways that shepherds care for their sheep.
Compare the two lists. What similarities do you find in your own life?
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I am such a sheep! My Shepherd is constantly providing my needs while I wander around and look for ways I can take care of myself. I take the wrong path and end up trapped in a dangerous place only to have the Shepherd rescue me. Today, I am reminded to rest in the care of Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, instead of frantically trying to "fix" my world. He is God. He is Lord. He is my Shepherd. I encourage you to do the same. Choose trust over worry. Choose faith over fear. Blessings!
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with stress – God's way. (Also available on CD) Need encouragement? Check out Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is "How to Manage Your Emotions."
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June 3, 2009
The Lord is My Shepherd, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23 (NIV) "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely, goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever."
Friend To Friend
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I really a follower of God?
As I contemplated the answer to that question, a startling certainty hit me like a ton of bricks! I knew all about God – and then the deeper truth of that reality followed closely behind. Yes, I had certainly accumulated a lot of knowledge about God but I did not know Him. It wasn't enough for me or for God.
I have come to realize that God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children. That night, I stood in the darkness, gazing at the star-filled heavens and cried out, "God, if you are who you really say you are, I give everything I know about me to everything I know about you. I surrender." I met Jesus Christ that night.
While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations but I also discovered who I really was - a sheep - and being a sheep is awesome! When I am afraid, Jesus Christ is there to bring peace. When my heart is broken, the Holy Spirit comforts and restores me. Even when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression, Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, led me from the darkness into the light.
I began to understand the incredible truth that, Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd had planned my very existence, prepared a plan in response to his love for me, and even made provision for the payment of my past, present and future sin. I was wanted, chosen and marked for God. I no longer had to live life on my own because I now had a Shepherd. God's love precedes me, goes before me and surrounds me as I live each day. Knowing that we are loved fosters peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Actually, when you think about it, sheep don't come across as stressed-out creatures. In fact, they seem almost oblivious to the dangers of being a sheep. Sheep don't seem to worry about where their next meal is coming from, if they will have a place to sleep each night, when the next enemy or thief will attack, or even what the next day holds. When sheep are sick, they simply turn to their Shepherd, instinctively knowing that He will take care of them and comfort them until healing comes.
We need to remember and even revisit the fact that we are all sheep; that Jesus Christ really is our Shepherd and that nothing else really matters.
Let's Pray
I am so needy, Lord. Everywhere I turn, I am inadequate in my own strength, power and abilities. I waste so much time and energy trying to be everything You already are. Help me to remember that I don't have to depend upon my sufficiency. I can always and forever depend on Yours alone. I am Your sheep. And You are my Shepherd. Praise God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day for one week. At the end of that week, examine your stress level. Has it changed? In what ways?
Write Psalm 23 in your journal, on a card or a piece of paper. Tuck a copy in your purse or your bible. In fact, make several copies and place them in prominent places around your house.
Memorize Psalm 23 – one verse at a time. Meditate on each word, each phrase and each truth in that verse.
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Sometimes the most familiar passages of Scripture are the most overlooked parts of the bible. Psalm 23 is one of those passages. I have often heard this psalm read at funerals or taught in an occasional sermon or bible class but never saw the truths it contains on dealing with stress. One day, during a particularly stressful time in my life, I automatically turned to this psalm for comfort – only to find God's stress-management plan that would ultimately change my life. I pray it does the same for you.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for learning how to deal with stress – God's way. (Also available on CD)
Need encouragement? Check out Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is "How to Manage Your Emotions."
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June 4, 2009
The Enemy's Lies
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The thief (Satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I (Jesus) have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10 NIV emphasis added).
Friend To Friend
"Now the serpent..." The great deceiver clothed himself as a serpent and slithered up to Eve with a game plan to destroy God's prized possession. He didn't come with a sword or a gun, or even a knife for his attack. He simply wielded lies. The serpent knew Adam and Eve would not buy into a radical flamboyant denial of God, so he slithered into the garden with a twist and a turn of the truth. He began by causing Eve to doubt... "Did God really say you must not eat from any tree in the garden?" (Genesis 3:1).
Satan knew exactly what God had said. He was simply trying to confuse Eve. Perhaps he was evaluating just how well she knew the truth. He found out.
"We may eat fruit from the tress in the garden," Eve replied, "but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die" (Genesis 3:3).
Bingo. She didn't know the truth that well after all. First, God never mentioned not touching the fruit. That seems like a pretty good idea, but it was not what God said.
Second, Satan denied God and lied about the consequences of her disobedience when he said, "You will not surely die." (3:4). He didn't even try to disguise the deception. He told a flat-out lie.
Finally, he told her she could be like God. "For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil" (Genesis 3:5). In other words, "God doesn't know what He's talking about. He's holding out on you. You don't need Him. You can be your own god."
Eve rejected the truth and believed the lie. She believed that she could be like God...in control of her own life. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her."
As she sunk her teeth into the forbidden fruit of deception and the lie slid down her delicate throat, the temptation settled in her soul and fermented into shame and condemnation. Her husband, who chose the woman over God, also felt the sickening rot of sin settle in his very soul. Suddenly, shame and fear entered the world, and Adam and Eve hid from God like wayward children.
All temptation is an attempt to get us to live our lives independent of God. Satan is not very creative, but he is very effective, and he has been lying to us ever since he lied to Eve. Why? Because it works.
Every one of his lies springs from the idea that happiness is just a decision away. Satan wants you to believe God is holding out on you. You can be like God. You can be your own god. Rather than being thankful for what we do have, he points out what we don't have. Think about it. Eve had at her disposal every tree in the garden except one. Every tree. That is a smorgasbord of goodness! Rather than being thankful, she bought the lie that the one thing she couldn't have was the one thing that would make her happy. I would be happy if... Is any of this sounding familiar to you? It should. Satan uses the same tactics with us that he used with Eve.
Eve believed the enemy's lie over God's truth. His plan worked, but what the serpent did not know was that God's amazing plan of forgiveness and grace was about to unfold. Satan did not win the battle for man's soul in the garden. Jesus Christ won the war on Calvary's Cross. When Jesus said, "It is finished," and then breathed his last, He made a way for all mankind to regain all that Adam and Eve had lost.
Let's Pray
Dear God, help me to recognize Satan's lies as soon as they come into my mind. I have tried being in control of my own life and seen the terrible results. I know that true peace and joy comes from obeying You in all areas of my life. Help me to see through the enemy's lies that tell me anything other than the truth of Your Word.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you been focusing on what you don't have rather than what you do have?
Where do you think that discontentment comes from?
Today, make a list of God's blessings in your life.
If you'd like to comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at http://sharonjaynes.com/blog/.
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If you would like to learn more about how to recognize the lies of the enemy in your life and replace those lies with God's truth that leads to the abundant life, then you'll want to see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Woman Tell Themselves. But be prepared, this book could change your life!
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June 5, 2009
Raw
Angela L. Craig
Today's Truth
Psalm 6:6-7 (NLT) "I am worn out from sobbing. All night I flood my bed with weeping, drenching it with my tears. My vision is blurred by grief; my eyes are worn out..."
Friend to Friend
If someone said that you had only six days to live, what would you do? What would you say?
I would watch my husband and my children as they slept, wondering how I got so lucky; wondering how God could love me so much to give me the miracle of love from an amazing man and two little boys. I would wonder how my husband could love me even when I was stubborn and prideful, and hope that he knew, even when I was at my worst, how much I adored him and didn't want to live without him.
I would wonder if my children would remember me or if they would only remember a to-do list of activities. Maybe they would remember the simple things like hot cocoa on a snowy day, blankies, and good night prayers and kisses. If I was gone in six days, would anyone know how much I loved God, how much He has changed my life, and how much I believe that He can and will do that for anyone.
Eighteen months ago, I wrote this in a tear-covered journal after I found out that one of my dearest friends (in her thirties with two small children) was told that if the cancer didn't kill her, the surgery (which she would have in six days) very possibly would. I was emotionally raw after throwing myself on the floor in front of God, kicking, screaming, and begging Him to save her.
Today, I wait for a phone call from a friend who is having a biopsy done. I'm praying that it is not cancer. Tomorrow, I will sit in a hospital waiting room while another friend faces a double mastectomy at the age of 40. Daily, I am reminded of many people in our community and in our church that have lost their jobs, their houses, or their marriages.
In Psalm 6, the writer, David, states that he was worn out by crying and that his vision was blurred by grief. Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt "emotionally raw?" Maybe you are feeling that way right now as you read these words. I have only one thing to say, "Don't let go!"
Life can leave you spinning in uncertainty and loneliness. Discouragement and brokenness can lead you to believe that there is no way to put the pieces back together. But don't let go!
God awaits your cries for help. He wants to hear your "emotionally raw" prayers that ask Him to rescue you from the pit of despair. He wants to guide and direct you to higher ground. He wants to tell you that you are loved and that there is hope for your future.
In many of the Psalms that David wrote, he cried out his afflictions and suffering to the Lord. Even in his anguish, David always affirmed his trust in the Lord's power to save and heal (Psalm 6, 22, 63, 142...). This is because David knew from experience that when he felt emotionally raw, left without answers or an escape plan, His Father in Heaven would free him from the prison of defeat.
Would you like to know how the story ended for my friend who was told she may only have six days to live? When the surgeons opened her up, they found that there was NO cancer. It had completely disappeared! Even though my friend's doctor was not a Christian, he declared my friend a walking miracle of God.
Hold on my friend! You may not see the evidence of your miracle yet, but God is at work in your life!
Let's Pray
Today, pray whatever is on your mind. Whether you are feeling emotionally raw or emotionally joyous, God wants to listen and He will respond. You are not alone!
Lord, I pray for the incredible woman that comes before You today with a prayer of grief, fear, discouragement, or desperation. I partner with her in prayer, knowing You will deliver her, and bring her the resources that she needs to get out of the pit. We will believe together that all things are possible through You, Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. I pray encouragement, purpose, love, joy, and peace over her as she pours her heart out to You. Thank You for hearing and acting on her behalf.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
Spend some time reading Psalms. If you do not have a Bible handy, go to www.crosswalk.com and enter "Psalm" under "Search the Bible" on the home page. Ask yourself, "Do I have anything in common with the writers?"
Pray for God's direction, comfort, and peace. Matthew 11:28 says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." God is listening!
Ask for help! Ask God for help and then ask a friend, family, or church leader. There are people around you that God will use to bring the help you need. Remember, Ephesians 3:20 (NIV) teaches us that God desired to do "Immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine."
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We all battle the lies of the enemy in one way or another. It seems that Satan knows and targets our weaknesses, trying to make us stumble, fall and quit the race. The days in which we now live are hard and it would be easy to give up hope. As Angela said, "Don't give up!" God is with you and He is for you. Even if you cannot see or understand what God is doing in your life right now, you can see and understand His heart by staying in the Word, praying consistently and sharing the load with others. Stand firm!
Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, and learn how to manage your emotions instead of allowing them to manage you.
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June 8, 2009
The Potter and the Clay
Mary Southerland
Today's truth
Isaiah 64:8 "But LORD, you are our father. We are like clay, and you are the potter; your hands made us all" (NCV).
Friend to Friend
When our daughter, Danna, was in preschool, one of her favorite activities was playing with clay. She often pulled her little step stool over to the closet where the clay was stored and pulled out the boxes of brightly colored clay. With great concentration and effort, her little fingers would then pry each box open and then she went to work.
For hours at a time, Danna would pound, mold, stretch, pinch and ultimately create her own clay world. Animals, people, flowers and aliens would emerge from the small lumps of clay. When she finished, Danna called me and asked me to "put them up." That meant it was time to exhibit her clay creations for her brother and father to see when they came home.
Danna's creations would remain on display until they grew hard and brittle. We would then break them apart, sprinkle them with water and put them back into their containers, allowing the clay to grow soft again.
When it comes to spiritual matters -- God is the Potter, the Creator, and we are the clay. The world says we should never give up our rights because if we do, we will lose everything. God says, "Give up your rights and you will gain everything." When we surrender, we gain everything that is important and eternal -- including God's perfect plan and purpose for our life.
In order for God to make us into what He wants us to be, we have to become pliable and willing - like clay. We must come to Him, placing ourselves in His hands, the Potter's hands. Total surrender demands that we come with no agenda, no pre-set conditions -- giving Him permission to bend us, break us and change us.
We sometimes come to God, with a hardened heart and brittle spirit. Life has broken and damaged us and the wrong hands have molded us. Remember, how we come to Him is not nearly as important as the fact that we come. As we give up control to Him, like a Master Craftsman, He begins to work patiently and lovingly, with a specific plan and one-of-a-kind design in mind. He works through circumstances as well as people, through joy and pain, victory and defeat. He filters every part of life through His plan for us and uses it to create a life of worth and meaning.
Oh, we have tried to live life with our own agenda and plan and have experienced discontentment and frustration. Our soul longs for more and our heart cries out, "Is this all there is?" The truth is that nothing and no one but God can bring us the peace and joy for which we searching. Are you ready to become the clay, surrendering your broken life to the Potter's loving and purpose-filled hands? Today is the day!
Let's pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to live life in my own power. Right now, I give up and surrender my life completely to You. I choose Your plan over mine. I give You permission to mold me and make me what You want me to be. I will wait before You and seek Your direction.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
What has been the plan -- according to you -- for your life up to this point?
What kind of results has that plan produced?
Write a prayer of surrender to God and record it in your journal. Be sure to include the following steps:
Recognize that you have been trying to live life according to your plan -- your agenda.
Admit that your refusal to surrender your life to God has brought only frustration and emptiness.
Right now -- surrender to God.
What action do you need to take in order to obey God:
_____Join a local church
_____Get involved in a small group bible study
_____Read the Bible daily
_____Pray constantly
_____Seek God in everything I do
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I have to admit I am not very good at giving up. I was taught never to give up; to be strong and to depend on no one but myself. In fact, the very thought of surrender seems like a weakness to me and is completely opposite to my human strength and will. Exactly! Did you know that my name, Mary, literally means bitter, but when broken, sweet? Unless I am in a constant state of surrender to God, I will surely become bitter, brittle and broken. Today, I choose to surrender my heart and life to Him.
Need help in your walk with Christ? Beginning June 22, Mary's online bible study, Light for the Journey, begins a new topic, "How to Get Past Your Past." Check it out at www.marysoutherland.com and be sure to visit Mary's online store for MP3s, CDs, books and bible studies that will help you grow in God.
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June 9, 2009
Set-Apart Living
Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Be very careful, then, how you live -- not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV)
Friend to Friend
As Christian believers, we're called to live set-apart lives. To be holy as God is holy. To be in the world, but not of the world. God is the source of all holiness, and in order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him so we can be fueled by His Holy Spirit.
I don't know what your days look like, but mine are pretty full. They start early and end late. Once the sun rises, it seems that coffee isn't the only thing brewing in my house. An invisible competition brews daily that vies for my time and attention. The competitors are often "good things" that end up to be "time-robbing things" that keep me from God's best and God's presence.
Today I'd like to put our computer lives under a spiritual microscope. I'm an e-girl. I love my MacBook Pro computer, my iPhone, email, instant messaging, and the World Wide Web. Though I'm admittedly fully immersed in the e-life, I'm also cognizant of the fact that the e-world has become a dangerous addiction and spiritual deterrent to many. I struggle with this personally! These electronic forums host a new and efficient opportunity for us to connect with other people 24/7. While much of the social networking, online surfing, and emailing is innocent, encouraging, and fun, they clearly present us with opportunities to sin and be distracted from set-apart living.
Over the past several years, Facebook, MySpace, blogs, instant messaging, and chat rooms have replaced many face-to-face conversations and, for some, devotion time. They have become a new source of temptation for us, an opportunity to live a fantasy or a momentary escape from the daily grind.
A friend of mine recently said, "My computer whispers to me." Yikes! Mine does, too! Though it's embarrassing to admit, I sometimes don't manage my time efficiently because I've given in to the lure of e-life by responding to the audio alert that indicates "I've got mail" or the notification that someone has left me a message on a social networking page of mine. As a result, I've robbed myself of productive time. Time I have wasted and spent unwisely.
We are warned against this in Scripture. "Be very careful, then, how you live -- not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV).
Now, hear me clearly on this. I'm not saying that electronic forums or computers are bad or evil in and of themselves. (For goodness sakes, you're reading this devotion because of the amazing electronic world!) I'm simply suggesting that it would be wise for each of us to pray about the amount of time and energy we devote to these things.
How can we be set apart in our e-life? How can we establish healthy e-boundaries that will protect our purity and our time with God? Perhaps we could start by taking an honest look at the amount of time we commit to our social e-lives versus the amount of time we commit to spending in God's Word and in His presence each day. (Did that sting? Rest assured, it stings me too.)
The good news is that we can turn to God for direction and wisdom in all of this. "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him" (James 1:5, NIV). Our gracious Lord longs for each of us to choose His best and live each day in His strength.
"God, make a fresh start in me.
Shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life.
Don't throw me out with the trash,
or fail to breathe holiness in me.
Bring me back from gray exile,
put a fresh wind in my sails!"
Psalm 51:10-12, MSG
Let's Pray
Today I thought it would be fitting to pray directly from Scripture. "And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light" (Colossians 1:10-12, NIV).
Father, we ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's get practical today:
Spend some time in thought and prayer about this subject.
Ask God to reveal to you any e-habits that are sinful, indulgent, or inappropriate.
Check your on-line notification settings and consider eliminating unnecessary email alerts.
Remember that God longs for your time and attention. Be certain that you don't choose mundane activities instead of spending time with Him.
Read Ephesians 5:1-20.
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Hey, girlfriend! It just occurred to me that one of the biggest time-sucking e-temptations for me came from the homepage I had chosen on my internet browser. I used to have my favorite cable news network set as my home page. Every time I logged on to the internet, the headlines begged me to click their links. Today I went into the settings of my internet browser and chose a blank page for my homepage. I anticipate that though it's not overly exciting to have a blank homepage, it will allow me to be wiser with my time. Hope this spurs you on to similar responses!
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life, then stand back, and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
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June 10, 2009
Set-Apart Living, Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." (Ephesians 4:29, ESV)
Friend to Friend
Yesterday we began to talk about living a set-apart life. We looked at our e-lives, the time we spend on computers, and were challenged to establish healthy boundaries to protect and strengthen our faiths. It was noted that God is the source of all holiness. In order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him and then be fueled by His Holy Spirit. Today, we are going to consider how we can be set-apart (holy) with our words.
My ten year old son, Hunter, recently came to me with a humble confession. He said that, "because he hasn't been spending much time with God lately, he has been grumpier and grumpier." He quietly admitted that he has been mean to his siblings and has said some unkind things. With amazing insight, he connected the amount of time that he spent with God and in God's Word with his behaviors ... recognizing that there was a direct correlation in his life.
Boy, could I relate to that! Tears welled up in my eyes as we spoke about this. I told Hunter that I experience the exact same thing in my life. That when I don't carve out time in my day to spend with the Lord, I often say things I shouldn't. For that matter, even when I do read my Bible and pray, I still say and do sinful things.
There was a time in my life when I really struggled with profanity. My tongue was a loose cannon. My church friends would never have known, but when I was angry, profanity was often present ... even if only under my breath. God has delivered me from that ugly habit, but it took over ten years of prayer. In those ten years, I failed repeatedly and struggled to believe that God could change my ways. It was a long-term process for me to be purified in my language, and I can assure you that it is only by the grace and strength of God that I can stub my toe now without needing to wash my mouth out with soap.
The Bible has so much to say on this topic! Here are just a few examples:
"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." (Proverbs 12:18, NIV)
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." (James 1:19-20, NIV)
"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness." (Proverbs 31:26, NLT)
"He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin." (Proverbs 13:3, NIV)
This is hard stuff. Living set-apart with our words is simply beyond us, but be encouraged, because all things are possible with God. We need to constantly fall before the Lord and ask Him to filter our words through the Holy Spirit. It's important that we keep short accounts with God. When we do, He equips us to disarm the loose cannon of our tongues.
At the end my conversation with Hunter, I told my son that one of the most amazing things about our Heavenly Father is the mercy that He greets us with when we come before Him to confess our behavior. I said to him, and I say to you, God loves us so perfectly, that every time we turn to Him with a repentant heart, He offers us His grace. Go in His grace and live a set-apart life in the power of His Spirit today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." (Psalm 19:14, NLT)
I ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Meditate on Hebrews 4:14,16:
"Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
· Now, grab your journal and throw yourself into this devotion. What are your greatest areas of temptation and weakness regarding your words? Confess those to God and ask Him to grant you the mercy and strength to help you live a set-apart life.
· Read Ephesians 4.
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If you are a Christian woman and you're struggling to tame your tongue, know that you aren't alone. Many believers struggle to honor God with their words. Keep praying and believing. The changes might not happen over night, but as you persist, God will work in and through you.
God delights to transform lives ... including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life, and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful, please CLICK HERE.
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June 11, 2009
No More Stinkin' Thinkin'
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:8-9 "Finally, brothers (and sisters), whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Martha was so frustrated with her marriage. She had dreams of marrying her knight in shining armor who would leave flower petals on her pillow, be distracted by her beauty, and pledge his undying love on a regular basis. She dreamed of having three doting, obedient, well-mannered children that she could dress-up in cute little outfits and parade down the church aisle on Sundays. Her tidy home would come with a well manicured lawn, two and a half baths, and perfectly coordinated décor. She would be the happy homemaker who joyfully mopped the beautiful kitchen floor in her size six khaki slacks, shabby chic blouse, and stylish hair cut. She could almost picture Mr. Clean winking at her from the corner of the room, giving his hearty approval of the smile on her flawless face.
But life had not turned out like Martha expected. Her knight did come along, but his armor began to tarnish soon after they said, "I do." He left his smelly socks on the floor, had a love affair with the TV remote, and hardly noticed all the work she did to keep the house clean and orderly.
Life sure has not turned out the way I thought it would. I am bored and unappreciated. Romance: that's what I want. This man wouldn't know romance if it hit him in the face. Why should I care how I look? He sure doesn't care about his appearance. Look at that gut? He complains about me gaining weight? Well, he hasn't seen anything yet. I've made a huge mistake. I just want someone who will love me and appreciate me. Is that too much to ask?
And the kids? They never do what I ask. They're disobedient, loud, and messy. I don't know when I've seen a clean floor last and I'm sure not happy while mopping. And where is Mr. Clean anyway?
The enemy had slowly crept in while Martha was unaware. Unmet expectations became the breeding ground for the lies to grow. He planted the seeds of discontent one disappointment at a time. Rather than thinking how she could make her marriage better, she begins to think about how she could get out of it. Rather than enjoying her rambunctious spirited children, she loathed their energy. Rather than being thankful that she had a home and family to clean up after, she complained about the dirt.
Martha just needs to give her life to Jesus, you might say. But she has! She is a Christian, so on top of her disappointment with life, she adds guilt to it all. I'm a bad Christian. If I was a better Christian, I'd be happy. What's wrong with me?
The enemy's trademark is stamped on this woman's thought life. He has taken her down a road of stinkin' thinking'. While she assumes that these thoughts are her own, the enemy makes the suggestion. She simply buys into them and they soon become her own version of reality -- her own version of the truth. But it is not God's truth. When we know the truth, the lies stick out like a two ton elephant in a herd of sheep.
Paul gave us an effective lie detector through which to filter our thoughts in Philippians 4:8-9.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Now that is a lot to think about, considering that the mind thinks about 130 words per minute. But the good news is -- we are not on our own. God has given us the power of the Holy Spirit to enable us to do all that He has called us to do.
Paul doesn't just leave us with the qualifying list; he gives us the means by which to implement it. "Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice."
It takes practice! Practice! Practice! Practice!
But look at the result..."And the God of peace will be with you."
Let's Pray
Dear heavenly Father, help me to realize when my thinking needs adjusting. I know that I cannot act differently than I think. Help me to run my thoughts through the sieve of Philippians 4:8. Then Your peace will rule in my heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the litmus test for right thinking and carry it around with you today.
Ask yourself, is this thought:
True
Noble
Right
Pure
Lovely
Admirable
Excellent
Praiseworthy
If your words or thoughts don't pass the test, then push the delete button and erase that stinkin' thinkin'!
If you'd like to comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at http://sharonjaynes.com/blog/
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you need to start speaking the truth to yourself about yourself, then this is the book for you, and if the words you speak to others need an overhaul, then you'll want to see The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, Sharon looks at the power of our words to children, husbands, friends, church, the world, and to God in prayer.
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June 12, 2009
The Great "Inspiratio"
Malinda Daniel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Malinda Daniel.
Today's Truth
Jeremiah 32:27 "Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?"
Friend to Friend
Have you ever found yourself in an overwhelming or daunting situation that seemed impossible to understand or face? Is it difficult to comprehend the plan or the purpose behind what you are going through? Do you find yourself asking, "Why Lord?" Do you sometimes plead with God, "I don't know what to do or how to do it. I need You to make it through this!"
Personally, I have been in this position more times than I can count. I jump into an adventure full force thinking I have everything I need to make it happen, only to find out that I have merely a part of what is needed to do the job - not all of it. I am in over my head.
I remember sitting in various classrooms thinking, "I have this test under control and I am so ready for it. I will ace it." I think I am ready, but I doubt myself and realize that my words are a cover up for my insecurity. The test comes and my nerves and thoughts begin to rail as I look through the questions, unable to remember any of the material I studied. I console myself with, "I know this was not in the study guide."
Life is sometimes like a test because we honestly believe we have it all together only to discover that some life circumstances are not on our radar and are certainly not part of the study guide. I have come to realize that these "tests" lead us to a deeper understanding of our need for God.
Luke 12:12 promises, "For the Holy Spirit will teach you at that time what you should say." I know that I am driven to seek God when I lose sight of what to do and I feel lost. He is our provider of ideas and the author of purpose in our lives - hence the word Inspiratio or inspiration.
My new book, Fallacy or Truth: The State of American Education Today, is based on the principle that "understanding the impact that relationship has in the learning process is vital to promoting learning that engages students and creates a positive learning environment." God's desire for us as his "students" in the classroom of life is to fully equip us for every circumstance we will ever face. He is the divine Inspiratio, a Latin word meaning, "He breaths His words divinely into our soul." How marvelous is His love for us as it leads us to experience the truth of His Word. He was and is the Inspiratio.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I know that You are with us at all times as the Holy Spirit gives us the thoughts and words we need to meet Your purpose for our lives. I have to admit I often I try to handle life on my own instead of trusting Your words and Your Spirit to guide me. Help me to fully rely on You, Lord, as a student in the school of life and to trust You with my "tests" knowing that I can't "pass" without Your power and presence. Thank You for loving and saving me and thank You for giving me the answers when I need them.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 12:11-22
How does God help us when we face trials?
List three ways that God allows tests to come into our life.
How has God used this scripture to give you a new truth about trials and tests in your own life?
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I have such trouble trusting God, wanting to do it all on my own and take the glory. I tend to be selfish and to keep things for my own use instead of sharing what God has given me with others. Sharing doesn't come easy to me. I hate change because it makes me worry and ask, "How will it affect us all. How will my children make it today and will they still love God in the future? Will education continue to digress and the economy continue to fall?" I worry so much about things and stuff! I know God has the answers. I just have to trust the divine Inspiratio. Faith can help us do all things when we do them through Chist. I encourage you to join me in a new commitment to trust God and live each day, wanting to make a difference.
Malinda's book, Fallacy or Truth: The State of American Education Today, looks at the need for inspiration in our schools to create balance and allow a celebration of faith. Teachers need love as well as the support from political leaders, administrators, parents, and the community to make this change a reality.
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June 15, 2009
What Am I Doing in This Pit?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, about of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was the spring of 1995 and Spring Breakaway was just around the corner. Normally this conference was a highlight of my year. I always looked forward to teaching at this very special retreat for women in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. But not this year. This year I didn't even want to go, and I certainly did not want to teach.
I felt completely empty and totally drained. My energy was gone. My heart and mind seemed paralyzed. I was exhausted in every way. But then, I had a right to feel that way. After all, it had been a nonstop year for me.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor/teacher of Flamingo Road Church, a contemporary, seeker-sensitive ministry in Fort Lauderdale that had exploded in growth that year and begun meeting in multiple services. I attended every service, going early to welcome newcomers and staying late to smooth any ruffled feathers that came my way. We were in the process of transitioning from a very traditional church to a very contemporary one. Change is always hard, but this experience had been a nightmare. I had never encountered such opposition. I had never been the target of such criticism. I had never known such rejection as people I thought were my friends attacked my husband's integrity, heart, and vision. It seemed as if there was always someone waiting in line to question and criticize what we were doing. I felt like a walking wound. I knew we were being obedient to what God had called us to do, but it seemed that many disagreed. I was hurt and angry, and I did not know what to do with those emotions.
My ministry as the church pianist had become more of a pain than a joy. Singing was no longer the overflow of a daughter's full heart, but the hollow performance of a spiritual chore. I had always loved being a mom, but, lately, even this role felt more like an unwelcome burden. I was used to being the one who gave help. I was the one others came to for strength and direction. I was the great encourager -- the caregiver. People who knew me well would describe me as a very strong woman. All of my life, I was driven to excel in everything, and if I couldn't do it perfectly, I didn't do it at all. I was a raging perfectionist.legalistically disciplined...with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. The simplest decision sent me into a panic. The great wisdom-giver could not compile a grocery list. The woman who taught hundreds of women couldn't bring herself to face crowds of any size. The large tasks of life were out of the question, and even the simplest tasks seemed like huge mountains.
Meals, housework, and even shopping were all left undone. If I managed to get out of bed and get dressed by the time my kids got home from school, the day was a success. All I wanted to do was sleep and to be left alone. I was paralyzed. I had fallen into a deep, dark, nameless pit. I had no idea how I got there. And even more frightening was the stark reality that I had no idea how to get out.
I decided I was just tired. All I needed was some rest, so my family and I escaped the hot, humid flatlands of Florida to enjoy three weeks in the cool mountains of North Carolina, my favorite vacation spot. That vacation is a complete blur. My children knew something was terribly wrong. They had never seen their mom so quiet...so still...and so sad. Dan listened patiently as I poured out my fear and confusion night after night. There seemed to be no answers...only questions. In his eyes, I could see the growing fear that I felt in my own heart. We had never been here before. It was a foreign land. We had no idea how to navigate these unfamiliar waters. It was very simple. I was in serious trouble, and I needed help.
As each day grew darker, Dan and I both realized we had to come up with a plan -- quickly! We decided I would see a Christian counselor Dan often referred people to and in whom he had great confidence. My first appointment with Betty was uneventful as far as I could tell - and a total waste of time. I was furious! She was supposed to "fix" me in those few hours and had failed miserably. She did, however, accomplish one thing. She named my pit.
Clinical depression was a problem I knew little about. Evidently, it was an enemy that strong, committed Christians were not supposed to encounter, because I had never heard anyone in the church even talk about depression, much less admit they struggled with it. I recoiled at the thought of such blatant weakness in my life. I felt ashamed of what was obviously a great failure on my part, but I was very desperate and willing to do whatever it took to climb out of that pit. I also knew I could not make this journey alone. Over the next few months, Dan and Betty climbed down into that dark, slimy pit with me and became God with skin on. They sounded the alarm and gathered the troops.
Today, I can say with the certainty of an experienced pit dweller that there is a way out. I have good news for you, my friend. You are not alone! I believe that one reason God allowed me to experience the pit of depression is to help others find the way out. I want to say to those of you who are in that pit -- and to those of you who are peering over the edge of it wondering how to help someone you love -- you do not have to be a prisoner of the dark. You do not have to stay in your pit. You do not have to stand helplessly by while a friend or family member drowns in the darkness of depression. We were meant to dwell in the light. So lift up your head, open up your heart, and listen for the voice of the One who knows you best and loves you most. He can and will bring you out of the dark.
Let's Pray
Lord, it seems as if my world has collapsed, hurling me into a deep, dark pit. I come to you in complete surrender. I am desperate for you, helpless and afraid. Please lift me out of this pit and show me the way, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pour out your heart to your God, asking Him to uncover the dark places in your life. As He does, record them in your journal using simple, honest words.
Each day, read Psalm 40:1-3 and claim it as a certain hope from God's heart to yours.
Up until now, what has been your typical response to the dark times in life? Does that response line up with Psalm 40:1-3?
Do you really believe that if you cry out to God that He will hear your cry? What does that mean to you?
Are you willing to face and deal with the darkness in your life?
Ask a friend to be your prayer partner this week as you begin this journey to the Light!
More From The Girls
I do not like pits -- in cherries or in life. I pray that my journey out of the pit of clinical depression will encourage you or someone you love and bring hope instead of despair. It is a long, hard road, but through God's power, grace and love, you can do it! If God can deliver me, He can deliver you, friend.
You can read Mary's complete journey from darkness to light in her book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. (Coming Out of the Dark is also available on CD or as an MP3 download.) Mary also has a weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey. Check it out!
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June 16, 2009
The Consequence of Sin
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all men, because all sinned ..." (Romans 5:12 NIV).
Friend To Friend
After Adam and Eve ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, they realized that they were naked and were ashamed. So they hid.
In the cool of the day, when God came to stroll with His friends, they were nowhere to be seen. Of course, He knew where they were. He always does. But He called out anyway, "Where are you?" It was the first question in the Bible -- the question He still asks of us today.
Adam and Eve appeared from behind the bushes, clothed in fig leaves and a downcast countenance. They admitted what they had done ...sort of. Adam blamed the disobedience on Eve, Eve blamed her actions on Satan, and Satan; and well, I imagine he just grinned from pointy ear to pointy ear.
God cursed the serpent and predicted that One would come to crush his head. Eve was cursed with increased pain in childbearing, a desire to control her husband, and his new position to rule over her. Adam was cursed by working the ground with little result, but the most painful punishment of all was separation from God and spiritual death.
Adam and Eve were cast out of the Garden of Eden. Cherubim with flaming swords flashing back and forth were placed at the entrance to keep them out. I can almost hear Eve as she walked away from her home. How did this happen? What have I done? How could I have been so foolish? Tell me, haven't you wondered the same after you've bought into the enemy's lies and succumbed to his suggestions?
Do you think God knew this would happen? I don't know for sure, but upon close inspection, Genesis 1:29 does not say "for if you eat of it you will surely die." It reads "for when you eat of it you will surely die."
I can picture Eve walking out of the garden down the path of failure and defeat. Just yesterday, she had it all. It was a time of firsts. "In the beginning" quickly shone the spotlight of Eve: the first woman, the first wife, the first to believe the enemy's lies ...oh yes, she was a woman of many firsts, but she would not be the last.
Join me tomorrow as we get...the rest of the story!
But I just can't wait to give you tomorrow's truth to ponder ..."For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God's abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ" (Romans 5:17 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, two of my favorite words in the Bible are "but God." Thank You so much for Your plan of salvation for mankind. You could have left us eternally separated from You because of our sin, but chose to give Your Son as a sacrifice once and for all, to pay the penalty for us. Thank You for making a way for me to be eternally joined with You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Let's look at these words in today's devotion: How did this happen? What have I done? How could I have been so foolish? Tell me, haven't you wondered the same after you've bought into the enemy's lies and succumbed to his suggestions?
Think of a time when you uttered those same words.
Now picture God calling out to you, "Where are you?"
Now picture God making the ultimate sacrifice in order to wipe away your mistake.
Write out your own prayer of gratitude for God's incredible gift for you. Write out your own, "But God" story today.
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June 17, 2009
The Savior's Plan
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God's abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ" (Romans 5:17 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Yesterday, we looked at the consequences of sin. Today, let's look at God's plan of redemption.
Dear friend, I have gone into great detail concerning what we lost in the Garden of Eden and what we gained in the Garden of Gethsemane in the book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover. I want to encourage you to read that step-by-step explanation of the incredible transformation that occurred in you the moment you believed.
In a nutshell, the problem was this: God created man in His image. Satan deceived man with the lie that he could be like God. Man traded the truth for the lie, and while his body lived for a time; and his soul lived for eternity, his spirit died totally and completely at the very moment of disobedience. Every man born since that time has been born with a live body and soul but a dead spirit (Romans 5; 12. See also Ephesians 2:1; 1 and Corinthians 15:21-22). But just as soon as Eve's teeth sank into the forbidden fruit, the shadow of the cross appeared on the horizon. All of the Old Testament points to that defining moment on the hill of Calvary when Jesus broke the chains of hell that had man bound, and set us free from the penalty of sin.
When we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior and make Him Lord of our lives, we experience new birth -- become a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Not only do we receive the promise of heaven for all eternity, we receive a new identity that day!
When we understand who we are in Christ, where we are in Christ, and what we have in Christ, we walk in victory through the storms of life, in abundance through the desert days, and in freedom in the confines of earth.
But friend, Satan does not give up on you when you become a Christian. He knows who you are, what you have, and where you are as a child of God. He knows that you are chosen, accepted, adopted, appointed, valuable, justified, reconciled, redeemed, righteous, and free from condemnation, holy, sealed, complete, and completely forgiven. His mission is to keep you from walking in the truth of who you are, and he uses the same tactics today that he used with Eve recorded in Genesis chapter three. That is why it is so important to understand what happened in the Garden. We must recognize his tactics in order to fight the battle for our minds.
A man in the Arizona desert came upon a diamondback rattlesnake. With a hoe in the back of his trunk, he killed the rattler and cut off his head. Amazingly, the headless snake continued to shake his rattle and lunge at him. "What's worse," the man said, "was the fact that even though I knew its head was cut off and that he was dead, I still flinched."
Satan's head has been cut off. He has already lost the battle but continues to shake his rattle to draw our attention away from the truth of his defeat. And while he has been defeated, he wants us to think that he is still in control.
Yes, God has a plan for you. It all starts with new life in Christ. If you have never prayed to receive Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, please click on the button at the bottom of this devotion to learn more. If you do pray to receive Jesus today, we'd love to hear about it and pray for you in this new journey!
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I was a lost sinner, until You embraced me as Your child. Thank You for providing eternal life through Your Son, Jesus Christ. Thank You for His sacrifice on the cross for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The Bible promises that "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved" (Romans 19:9, 10 NIV).
Do you remember the day you prayed to receive Jesus as your Savior?
Today, tell someone your story. Not only will you bless someone else, you'll be reminding yourself of the wonderful gift of God in your life.
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June18, 2009
It's Time to Grow Up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 3:12-14 "Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I d Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
I have recently begun working out with weights. Since I am a novice in this area of fitness, I asked my son, Jered, to help me get started. A rugged football player as well as a carpenter who is well acquainted with the fundamentals of weight training, he graciously volunteered to be my personal trainer. Little did he know the challenge that lay before him.
When I first started a regular exercise program, I naturally experienced some soreness. I was just not prepared for every muscle in my entire body to scream out in painful protest! Honestly, my initial reaction was to stop. I wanted to do what was easy, comfortable and painless but still attain the toned body of a professional weight lifter. Right!
Jered had no mercy. He was absolutely committed to my physical success and long-term health. He drove me onward, constantly encouraging me to keep working those muscles even through the pain and discomfort. One glorious day, he pointed out that those once painful muscles were no longer sore and much stronger as well. He even suggested it was time to increase the weight I was lifting because that beginning workout had become too easy. I had indeed come a long way, baby! I want to accomplish the same thing in my journey with God!
I want to be spiritually fit and mature. When I was a child, I spoke, I thought and reasoned as a child, but as I grew, my thought life and heart desires naturally matured as well. Our thought processes illustrate themselves in our desires. A mature believer has mature desires. A "baby" believer naturally has childish desires. It is sad and unnatural for a longtime believer to have new believer traits, habits and desires. Proverbs 3:7 warns "You should not be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the LORD and turn your back on evil" (NLT).
When we come to the place where we are willing to give Him everything, a wonderful process begins. He trains our immature desires to line up with His perfect ones. When we begin to seek His will by laying our desires and plans at His feet - yielding to Him - He shapes our will until it becomes His will.
The Holy Spirit has been given to us as a Spiritual Trainer of sorts. He will lead us in the right spiritual exercises of life that will make us stronger and more mature. Many of those exercises involve the submission of our will and the yielding of our desires to God. As we allow the pain and stress of daily living to "stretch" us spiritually, we will grow and mature until one day we will realize that His desires and our desires are the same. Mature desires - Godly desires - desires that are in line with His will are the desires of a believer who is growing in Christ.
Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart" (NIV).
"Delight" literally means to enjoy. We can come to God with an attitude of joy, knowing that He is a Father of love who wants what is best for His child. His plan is absolutely the best one we could possibly imagine or accept. We can delight in His love, trust in His goodness and enjoy a growing love relationship with Him. A heart fully and joyfully submitted to God will produce mature desires.
High in the Alps is a monument raised in honor of a faithful guide who died while ascending a peak to rescue a stranded tourist. Inscribed on that memorial stone are the words, "He died climbing!" A maturing, growing Christian should evoke the same attitude and desire. The apostle Paul tells us that it is time to "put away" childish things. As our children grow older, we train them to pick up their toys, to put away things that are not needed, to obey house rules and to leave behind what is childish, straining toward what is ahead. Right now, you have the same choice to make. To "put away" indicates an understanding of what needs to be left behind but also a willingness and commitment to do so. The question is, are you ready to grow up in Christ?
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so tired of being a "baby" Christian. I want to honor and please You with my life, my attitudes and my habits. Please reveal every childish way in me and then help me to do something about it! Please give me a hunger, thirst for Your word, and teach me how to apply it. I really do want to grow up in You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify and make a list of the childish areas in your life. Surrender this list to God in prayer. Taking one area at a time, ask Him to help you "grow up." Ask yourself the following questions:
Do I truly understand that God wants me to "grow up" in Him?
Am I willing to give the Holy Spirit free reign in my life?
Am I willing to seek Him daily through His Word and through prayer?
How can my desires become His desires?
Read Ephesians 4:11-19. As you read this passage of scripture, think about the benefits of maturing and growing in Christ.
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I can be such a spiritual baby. I am battling attitudes and habits today that I battled years ago. Even as I wrote this devotional, God said to me, "Mary, it is time for you to grow up in these areas." Therefore, I wrote every word you just read to me as well. My prayer is that we grow in Him ... together!
You can read Mary's complete journey from darkness to light in her book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. (Coming Out of the Dark is also available on CD or as an MP3 download.) Mary also has a weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey as well as E-Book Bible Studies on managing fear, dealing with stress, learning how to control anger and how to weather the storms of life. Check it out!
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June 19, 2009
A Daddy Who Loves Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
One of my favorite retreat topics is from my book, Dreams of a Woman -- God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dreams. In this book, I talk about five dreams every little girl has: to have a daddy who loves her, to be a bride, to be a mommy, to be beautiful, and to have a best friend.
In talking to women all across the country, I have seen eyes fill with tears when I talk about the dream of having a daddy who loves me, but the tears are not for me. They reveal the longing in their own hearts. Butterfly Kisses, a song by Bob Carlisle that climbed the charts in 2000, received international recognition in both the Christian and secular music industries. The song was about the tender love between a father and his daughter, starting from her birth to her wedding day. Mr. Carlisle said, "I get a lot of mail from young girls who try to get me to marry their moms. That used to be a real chuckle because it's so cute, but then I realized they didn't want romance for mom. They want the father that is in that song, and that just kills me."
In the Old Testament, God has many names. He is Elohim -- the Creator, El Elyon -- God Most High, El Roi -- the God who sees, El Shaddai -- the All-Sufficient One, Adonai -- the Lord, Jehovah -- the Self-Existent One, Jehovah-Jireh --the Lord Will Provide, Jehovah -- Rapha -- the Lord that heals, Jehovah--Shalom -- the Lord is peace, Jehovah-Raah -- the Lord my Shepherd, and many more. His covenant name with the people of Israel was I AM. J.I. Packer, in his book, Knowing God, said, "He is: and it is because He is what He is that everything else is as it is."
In the New Testament, Jesus introduced a new name for God -- Father. It is the name that Jesus referred to more than any other and the name that He invites us to use to address the Creator of the Universe. Just stop and think about that for a moment. The God of the universe who created the heavens and the earth, who always has been and always will be, who is all knowing, all powerful, and present everywhere at once -- that same God invites you to call Him Daddy!
When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, He said:
But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray:
'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name....' (Matthews 6:6-9 NIV).
Packer went on to say: "For everything that Christ taught, everything that makes the New Testament new and better than the Old, everything that is distinctly Christian as opposed to merely Jewish, is summed up in the knowledge of the fatherhood of God." All other religions demand followers to worship created beings (Mohammad, Buddha), but Jehovah the Creator, the great I AM, invites us to crawl up in His lap, become His child, and call Him Abba, Daddy. He said, "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18NIV).
This Father's Day, no matter what your situation may be with your earthly dad, always remember that you have a heavenly Father who loves you dearly and has your name written on the palm of His hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for being a father who loves me as His precious child. How amazing to think that the God who created the universe and all it contains, invites me to be His child and call Him Abba, Father. I do not take this invitation lightly, but cherish it with all my heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your idea of a perfect Father. Now put a check mark by the ones you have experienced in God as His child.
What does God promise in 2 Corinthians 6:18?
Describe how God, our Father, is depicted in Hosea 11:3-4.
What do you learn about the love of God in Ephesians 3:18-19?
What do you learn about the Fatherhood of God in 1 Corinthians 8:6?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His. Take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find out how in Dreams of a Woman God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dream.
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June 22, 2009
I Love a Good Plan!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
When our children became teenagers, we realized that a new plan for their allowances was needed. Dan and I were tired of being asked for money by two teenagers who enjoyed the privilege of a regular and generous allowance. There seemed to be confusion about what their allowances should cover as opposed to those expenses that would fall under the responsibility of parental funding. For example, our son, Jered, would fill up his truck with gas and then drive my car. Our daughter, Danna, would buy a new pair of shoes and then need money for a movie. It was obvious to Dan and to me that a new plan was obviously needed.
Even though Jered and Danna seemed content with the old plan in place, we sat down with each one to make a list of what their allowances would cover, encouraging them to budget their money while setting aside part of each allowance for the special things they wanted to buy. The result was a clear plan of how much money they would receive and an exact list of what it was to cover. The confusion and frustration disappeared because the right plan was in place.
Having a plan does not guarantee success but having the right plan is a great start. We can work almost any plan and experience some level of success, but to be all that we can be, we must find and follow the right plan -- God's plan. The story is told of a man whose Model T Ford broke down on the side of a country road. He opened the hood and was attempting to find and solve the problem -- with no success -- when another car pulled up behind him. A well-dressed, distinguished man got out of the car and asked if he could be of any service. Within minutes, he had the car running smoothly. The owner of the car was amazed and said, "Thank you for your help. How in the world did you find the problem and fix it?" With a smile, Henry Ford replied, "Well, I made this car, so I should be able to repair it." The same is true when it comes to our lives. God created us in response to a perfect plan and purpose so when we stumble and fall or have no clue what the next step is, it only makes sense to turn to the One who created us.
In Proverbs 3:5-6, God promises to "make our paths straight" when we do three things:
1. Trust God. The word "trust" means to "to have confidence in" and to do so with an attitude of anticipation. In other words, when we choose to trust God and seek His plan, He will fill our heart with peace. God is not the author of confusion. More than we want to know His plan ... He wants us to know His plan.
2. Depend on God. When we depend wholly on God, we must abandon everything we are to everything He is. To depend on God is to recognize Him as our source ... for everything.
3. Obey God. Obedience to God is the result of always keeping a "yes" in your heart when it comes to His truth and His plan at work in our life. An applied truth is a learned truth.
Before the Southerland family takes a trip, my husband, Dan, makes the plan. He makes reservations, books hotels, plans stops and makes it happen. We have come to trust his plans because we know he makes every choice in that plan for the good of his family. God's plan for your life is good. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, please help me become more dependent on You each day, seeking Your plan above my own. I want what You want for my life even though I don't always understand the way You are working it out. I want to walk by faith -- not by sight. I want to rest in You -- instead of in my own strength and power. Today, I choose You and celebrate Your perfect and good plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to look back over your life.
Can you remember a time when God's plan seemed impossible to you? Why?
How did you respond to God's plan? What was the outcome?
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11.
Choose right now to trust God's heart even when you don't understand His hand at work in your life.
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Ouch! Surrendering to God's plan is often difficult for me. I am so human! At times, I honestly act on some ridiculous premise that my plan is absolutely the right plan for my life. Looking back over the years, I now see so many times when my plan resulted in destruction and chaos. I also see that God's plan has always led to peace and a clear purpose. Join me today in a new commitment to seek and do God's plan. Blessings!
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June 23, 2009
I Need Patience ... Now!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Thessalonians 5:13-14 "Live in peace with each other. And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Our daughter, who is expecting our third grandchild in July, has begun to battle back pain since her "little man" began kicking. (Yes, it is a boy and I think soccer is definitely in his future.) In frustration, she recently complained, "Mom, he is sitting on my nerve!" My response was not particularly encouraging, "Honey, believe me when I say that it won't be the last time."
Sandpaper people can definitely get on our last nerve, which is why God's plan for dealing with these difficult people includes setting aside part of our emotional energy to cover their faults and allow for their weaknesses. In other words, we must learn and choose to be patient.
The apostle Paul is clear in his explanation of how we should treat others, even those people who rub us the wrong way, the sandpaper people. We are called to "admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak and be patient with all men" 1 Thessalonians 5:14 (NAS).
Sandpaper people are often unruly, meaning that they are frequently careless or out of line in their behavior. The word, "unruly" applies to soldiers who refuse to follow orders, insisting on doing things their own way. Sound familiar? It is the motto of every respectable sandpaper person. Patience lovingly corrects and points out the right way but sandpaper people tend to give up easily, feeding the failure that has become a familiar companion, training their feeble hearts to despair while persuading their fragile spirits to quit. Patience comforts these hard to love people, refusing to give up on them when everyone else has walked away. The "weak" ones are those who are weak in their faith -- the baby Christians. New believers awkwardly stumble through their first steps into the world of Christianity and are often perceived to be "rough around the edges." Patience not only reassures these frightened little lambs that they belong, but also offers to walk with them until they grow stronger and their path is sure.
His name was Sam. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him. I was standing at the door of my second grade classroom, anxiously waiting to greet the thirty students who had been assigned to me for nine months. Though Sam was smaller than the other children, he walked with the earned confidence of one who has seen more than he should have seen at such a young age. What he lacked in size, he more than made up for in personality and attitude. He was a blatant flirt, and I was a goner as soon as he gazed up at me with strikingly blue eyes that tripped my heart. When he flashed two cavernous dimples, I was a goner. I will never forget his words. They broke my heart. "My name is Sam. I am dumb and stupid and I can't do anything right. I get mad real easy and like to break things. I just thought you should know."
It took only a few minutes for Sam to begin what I suspected was his usual attempt to prove his words true as he swept through the quickly filling classroom, destruction in his hands. Papers were ripped and tossed aside. Children shrank away from his now scowling face, fear in their eyes. When a little girl laughed, Sam thought she was laughing at him and knocked her to the floor. I had seen enough. Taking Sam by the arm, I marched him out of the room and down the hall. He was not surprised or particularly concerned. It seemed to be very familiar territory - but what came next wasn't.
Looking for a place to sit, I stopped in front of a bench, pulled him into my arms and held onto him for dear life. "Sam, it is wrong to tell a lie," I whispered. Stunned, he drew back to ask, "What do you mean? I didn't tell no lie." Cupping his freckled face in my hands, I whispered, "Yes, you did. You said you were dumb and stupid and couldn't do anything right. That is a lie. I don't know who told you that and I don't care. It's not true -- is it, Sam?" His eyes filled with tears -- and a tiny ray of unfamiliar hope appeared. It was enough. Slowly, he shook his head, a watery smile creeping across his now softening face. "Nope! I reckon it ain't." Together, we walked back to the classroom and to a new beginning for one little sandpaper person.
That year, I taught Sam and he taught me. I am not certain who learned the most but this I do know - the more we love, the more patience we will have. And the more patience we have, the more we will love. I often wonder just how many "Sams" are waiting for someone -- anyone -- who will choose to unleash the power of patience and by doing so, unleash the power of love as well.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for being impatient with others -- especially the ones who rub me the wrong way. I know You have allowed each one of those sandpaper people to cross my path for a reason. Please help me see them as You see them, loved and chosen. I want my actions to point them to You and to an acceptance that can only come from You. Father, make it clear to my heart when I am the sandpaper person and help me to control my emotions and my words. Thank You for loving me and for the privilege of loving others through You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and record them in your journal. In your own words, explain each verse as it applies to your life. Make a list of three "sandpaper people" in your life and pray these verses for each one.
Proverbs 14:29 "A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly."
Psalm 37:7 "Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes."
1 Timothy 1:16 "But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his unlimited patience as an example for those who would believe on him and receive eternal life."
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My prayer for patience usually concludes with something like "and Lord, I need it right now!" By nature, I am not a very patient person. I tend to be a perfectionist and expect people to do what they are supposed to do, according to Mary. The "sandpaper people" concept is one I have dealt with for years. I can honestly say that I see some growth and progress but it has come with a price. I am slowly learning to choose love over judgment, grace over retribution and forgiveness over retaliation. Sometimes it is so hard to say and do the right thing when someone says or does something that drives me crazy or makes me angry. So I keep praying and keep asking God to guard my mouth and my heart and make me more patient.
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June 24, 2009
More than a Conqueror
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33 NIV).
Friend To Friend
My brother was about four years old when he decided to grab a box of matches and a handful of sparklers to see how they worked. He had heard that sparklers worked best in the dark, so he went into the darkest place at Grandma's house he could find . her wardrobe closet.
Grandma didn't have any closets in her house, so she kept all of her hang up clothes in the large wooden stand alone closet. My brother snuck into the darkness, crouched amongst the dresses and coats, and lit the first match. The sparklers immediately began shooting fiery pops in all directions. Within moments, Stewart noticed more than just the sparklers were on fire. Grandma's clothes were up in flames.
I'm happy to say that Stewart wasn't harmed, unless you count the spanking he got from Grandma on his behind.
Friends, we don't have to go into a closet to find the darkness. It is waiting for us the moment we step out the front door, turn on the television, or listen to the 6:00 o'clock news. The world is full of darkness at every turn.
What exactly is the world? In the Bible, there are several definitions. One definition refers to all the people on the earth: "For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son (John 3:16). In some instances, the word "world" refers to planet earth itself.
Other times "world" refers to the world systems, values, and morals. Paul refers to these world systems when he says, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world," (Romans 12:2). Jesus said that the "world" hated him and we shouldn't be surprised if it hates us as well (John 15:18, 19). Both refer to the world systems, values, or ways of thinking.
The Bible also tells us "that the whole world is under the control of the evil one" (1 John 5:19). It seems like we are "splitting hairs" here. But when we consider the power of the enemy and the pull of the world systems, they are almost one in the same. Right now, the world systems are being heavily influenced by the evil one.
But here's the hope! Jesus said, "But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). As long as we live in the world, we will feel its pull, but God assures us that we have what it takes to "overcome the world" (1 John 5:4, 5). We have the power of the Holy Spirit living in us and faith in the Victor who works through us.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, all around me I see the world trying to pull me away from You. Through movies, television shows, magazines and billboards, the world tries to pull me into a self-centered existence concerned with fulfilling my own selfish desires. But praise God! You have given me the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome the world! I don't have to be drawn in and seduced by the temporary trappings of this world. I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus and I can keep my mind focused on things of eternal worth! Thank You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What are some ways "the world" tries to pull you away from God?
Are there any areas of your life that you need to change to keep that from happening? Are there any movies or television programs that leave you feeling distant from God? Books that you read that leave you feeling yucky inside? Any activities or relationships that need to come to a halt?
You can do it! If God calls you to it, He will see you through it! But He does require participation on your part.
If you'd like to comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at http://sharonjaynes.com/blog/
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The Bible says our struggle is against the world, the flesh, and the devil. If you would like to learn more about how to live a life of victory and be an over comer in all three areas, then you'll want to see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough ...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves.
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June 25, 2009
The Battle of the Flesh
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 10:13 "And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
My devotion yesterday looked at our battle with the influence of an ungodly world. But there is another enemy in this battle for our minds, and that is the flesh. From the time we are born, we receive messages about ourselves -- some true, some false. We go through our lives doing whatever we feel necessary to feel safe, secure, and significant. Between the time we are born physically and the time we are born spiritually (born again), we form certain habit patterns and thought patterns. Our unique way of getting our God-given needs met in our own strength and by our own means is our unique version of the flesh.
Like the word world, the word flesh has several meanings in the Bible. One meaning is simply our bodies - our literal flesh and bones. The Bible says "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us" (John 1:14). Jesus came in bodily form -- flesh and blood.
But there is another use of the word flesh, referring to our sinful thought patterns and actions that have developed over time. It is our mechanism for getting our needs met apart from God. Once we become a Christian, the desire to do things our own way and in our own strength apart from God does not simply vanish. No one pushes the delete button on our old programming. Now there is a struggle between the flesh with its default button of selfish thought patterns and actions, and the spirit with its desire to please God.
When we come to Jesus Christ, we are born again and have a new spirit birthed within us. We are saved from the penalty of sin. However, as long as we walk this earth and live in an earthly body, we will battle with the power of sin. Our old fleshly desires war against our new spiritual desires. While we fight battles with the world systems on the outside, we also fight battles with the flesh on the inside - our mind, will, and emotions.
I live on a lake and we are blessed and plagued with various winged foul. Occasionally, we are invaded by Canadian geese that don't have a visa and need to move back up north where they came from. Strangely, some of the confused air travelers have stopped mid flight and settled in shopping center parking lots. For some strange reason, the geese have decided parking lots are fabulous places to start a family. Momma and papa goose scoop out a nest under a tree and proceed to lay eggs. Momma does her job of sitting on the eggs and papa does his job of protecting his family. He squawks and spits at shoppers simply minding their own business, charges curious kids, and struts around like he owns the place.
One day, I watched as a male goose waddled determinedly over to a mini-van and began furiously attacking the rear hubcap. The confused foul saw his reflection and pecked away at his mirrored image. The poor thing had no idea he was fighting himself and just about broke his beak.
Now friend, we are learning about how to replace the lies with the truth but sometimes we need to realize that we are pecking at our own reflection. Sometimes we are fighting against our own poor choices and weaknesses. Sure Satan notices and takes advantages of those weaknesses. That's how any opponent makes his conquest, but we have to take responsibility for our fleshly choices; admit our sins, confess our mistakes, and repent - turn and go in the opposite direction.
The world, the flesh, and the devil are so intertwined that they can hardly be separated. Ultimately, Satan is the chief conductor driving the train of lies, and he's driving it right off a cliff. But remember this; he can never make you do anything. We always have a choice. God always provides a way of escape (1 Corinthians 10:13).
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know that I am a new creation in Christ. However, I also know that I still battle many patterns of past thinking and ways of getting my needs met apart from Christ. Help me to see when I am walking in the flesh, and then help me to turn and learn to walk in the Spirit. Help me to retrain my mind with Your truth and walk in tandem with You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is easy to blame poor behavior and circumstances on the devil, but we can never say, "The devil made me do it." He might suggest it, but we always have a choice.
Make a list of ways you can safeguard your mind against temptation.
Pray and ask God to reveal any old pre-Christian habit patterns or thought patterns that need to be changed in your life.
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One area of our lives that must be reprogrammed once we become a Christian is the way we see ourselves. The devil tells us that we are not good enough, but God says that we are chosen, holy, and precious, worthy, gifted children of His. If you need help changing the way you see yourself, then take a look at Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Isn't it time you start seeing yourself as God sees you?
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June 26, 2009
The Strength of Weakness
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"He gives strength to those who are tired and more power to those who are weak" (Isaiah 40: 29 NCV).
Friend To Friend
Sandpaper people make me tired -- literally. Dealing with difficult people drains emotional energy and dulls mental consistency. Exhaustion hovers over every interaction we have with a sandpaper person while the spiritual questions that arise from that interaction drive us to our knees. It is a good thing. Anything or anyone who keeps us broken before God can be counted as a blessing. He uses those difficult relationships to refine and define the very best in us, calling us to a higher standard in every relationship. Without the right kind of strength and enough of that strength, we are doomed to failure in getting along with the people who rub us the wrong way.
Strength is in great demand. Everywhere we look gyms, fitness centers and health clubs are popping up, all offering "the one and only" fitness program that will enable us to live the good life, all the way to our hundredth birthday and with the looks of Katherine Zeta Jones or Danzelle Washington while doing so. Billboards and infomercials tell us to lift those weights, run that mile, stretch those muscles and drink that shake. Kickboxing videos are flying off the shelves and trainers are being hired to be personal "Directors of Pain and Suffering". It seems as if we are determined to be healthy and strong. Honestly, I must admit that the human body is an amazing creation.
Every 24 hours:
Our heart beats 103,689 times.
Our blood travels 168,000,000 miles.
We breathe 23,040 times.
We eat 3 1/2 pounds of food.
We drink 2.9 quarts of liquid.
We speak 4,800 words.
We move 750 muscles.
We exercise 7,000,000 brain cells.
No wonder we are tired! And when it comes to diet, we are told to eat bean sprouts instead of chocolate. I don't think so. I prefer Garfield's five-step diet:
1. No seconds, get it all the first time.
2. Never start a diet cold turkey, better lasagna or roast beef.
3. Since vegetables are a must -- try carrot cake, zucchini bread or pumpkin pie.
4. Try to cut back, leave the cherries off your hot fudge sundaes.
5. If that doesn't work, hang around people bigger than you.
Diet and exercise are good and right, but physical strength is not what I am after. I long for an inner strength that plays out in every relationship and makes it possible to deal with and even embrace those people who constantly rub us the wrong way. Sandpaper people seem to sense weakness and then use it to their advantage. Our slightest emotional waver in stability is their signal for action.
I want to be strong, but I am interested in the kind of strength far beyond what any weight machine or diet plan can produce. I am seeking the inner strength only God can give; the lasting strength that is necessary to get along with sandpaper people. Relationships with sandpaper people are depleting relationships, consuming "emotional black holes" that are capable of draining every ounce of energy we possess. If we are not careful, the difficult relationships will craft our emotional bankruptcy.
Queen Esther was a strong young woman whose life models the kind of strength we need in dealing with difficult people. Esther was a very unlikely candidate to be Queen of Persia. However, God always seems to use the most unlikely servants to do His greatest work. Esther was an orphan, an ordinary Jewish teenage girl who seemed to be in over her head as the Queen. I can attest to the fact that sandpaper people are notorious for digging the hole, shoving us in while burying us under a mound of futility. However, the crisis in Esther's life, brought on by her sandpaper person, strengthened Esther for the calling of God on her life.
Haman, the King's right-hand man, was a heavy-duty sandpaper person in Esther's life. He hated all Jews and Esther in particular. Out of his hatred came a plan that would persuade King Ahasueras to pass a law demanding that all people bow to the king or die. Knowing the strong faith of the Jewish people, Haman was certain they would refuse to bend a knee to anyone but God. When Esther heard of the plot, she was terrified because she was a Jew, a fact she had neglected to tell her husband, the King. Haman's law would mean her death.
Sensing impending doom, Esther and her people fasted and prayed for God's direction and protection. Then she did what many women do when faced with a crisis. She prepared a huge meal. Esther threw a dinner party -- in honor of her husband and for Haman - a very smart move on her part. It was during this celebration that Esther revealed Haman's villainous plot along with the juicy little tidbit that she was indeed a Jew. King Ahasueras was not angry with Esther but he was furious at Haman's plot and condemned him to die. The Jewish nation was saved through the faith and strength of Esther.
After examining the life of Esther, we see the strength and confidence with which she handled the biggest crisis of her life and the grittiest sandpaper person she had ever encountered. At first glance, she seems to be a woman of great strength when, in reality, she was terrified and weak, her heart laced and flawed with human frailty -- just like us. Her weakness was the perfect setting for a miracle because, as Paul writes, God's best work is transforming weakness into strength. "My power works best in your weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV). When it comes to dealing with people who rub us the wrong way, we need to embrace the truth that while our strength is inadequate, God's strength is more than enough.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so weak and so desperate for You. I cannot love the sandpaper people in my life without Your strength and power. Please help me choose to love these people and to view them as divine opportunities, not just interruptions. Give me the patience to respond in the right way when they irritate me. Help me look beyond their sandpaper mask and see the hurt that causes them to act like they do. Right now, I lay down my human responses to abrasive people and choose against them. I trust You, Lord, to love these difficult people through me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize 2 Corinthians 12:9.
Identify the emotional buttons most often "pushed" by the sandpaper people in your life.
What steps can you take to diffuse those buttons and respond to difficult people like Jesus would?
Is there anyone in your life who needs your forgiveness today?
Is there someone in your life that you need to forgive?
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I know it is hard to control emotional responses when dealing with difficult people. Just about the time I think I have this sandpaper people thing down pat, a new sandpaper person pops up in my life and I feel like a beginner when it comes to difficult relationships. The important decision is never to give up. Aren't you glad that God never gave up on us?
Mary's book, Sandpaper People, offers 12 practical steps for dealing with the difficult people in your life. A study guide is included and will help you succeed in establishing a habit of bible study and prayer that will equip you to build healthy relationships.
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June 29, 2009
Pay Attention
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Listen and hear my voice; pay attention and hear what I say" (Isaiah 28:7 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Every weekday morning, my husband's alarm clock goes off at 5:30. He gets up, showers, shaves, brushes his teeth, gets dressed, and places his jingling keys in his pocket. He clears his throat, blows his nose, and well, other noisy things. When he opens and closes the door leading to the garage, the alarm in the bedroom beeps three times... loudly. This happens every day and I don't hear a thing. I sleep right through it. My body has grown so accustomed to his routine that I don't even hear the noise.
We can grow so accustomed to lies that we don't even realize the noise is there. Our alarm may beep, but we ignore the alert. Our senses grow dim.
David talked to himself regularly. In one Psalm he wrote, "Awake, my soul!" (Psalm 57:8) The Hebrew word translated "awake" is used 80 times in the Old Testament. It means to rouse oneself or stir up. It could be translated, "Pay attention! Open your eyes!"
We can get used to the lies and not even realize that they are there. Now it's time to wake up! Pay attention! Be on the alert! Watch out! Don't be lulled into the hum of Satan's lies about who you are, what you have, and where you are. "Awake, O my soul!" To win the war, we must wake up to the battle and become un-desensitized to the lies.
Let me give you another example. Come sit with me in an airplane just before take off...
Here we go again, I mused as the flight attendant began her routine instructions. I grabbed the latest copy of Sky Mall magazine tucked in the seat pocket in front of me and began flipping through the pages. The man to my right continued reading the headlines in the day's paper. The woman to my left was a first time flyer and paid close attention.
I glanced around the plane and noticed very few people listening to the flight attendant's life saving instructions. Then it hit me. The frequent flyers paid little attention, not because we were being rude, but because we had heard it all before. The safety procedures were routine information. The hum of the flight attendant's voice merged with the roar of the engine, so we ignored her.
But you better believe that if the pilot announced in mid-flight that a crash landing was imminent, all of us "been there, done that" passengers who did not pay attention to the emergency procedures would all be reviewing those safety instruction cards in the seat pocket in front of us quicker than you could say "buckle your seat belts."
Friend, sometimes in our Girlfriends in God devotions, we review safety instructions that you most likely have heard before, but I want you to read these truths from the Bible as if you are in danger of a crash landing. We never know when life will hit turbulence. Scrambling for the life jacket and fumbling with the oxygen mask on the way down is not the answer. We can be prepared so that when the storms of life hit, when the engines fail, when the machine runs out of gas, we'll be ready to land safely on the ground.
As you begin detecting lies in your thought life, look objectively at any thoughts and attitudes that do not line up with Christ's teachings. When you recognize and expose the lie, you disarm its destructive potential in your life. Our power depends on believing the truth and I pray that God will open our eyes to the power available to each and every one of us (Ephesians 1:18, 19).
Buckle up! Let's get ready to fly!
Let's Pray
Father God, open the eyes of my heart that I might know You better. Help me hear Your voice and see Your handiwork in my life more clearly. Help me to never get lulled into the rhythm of life and become immune to Your gentle nudges. I pray Your words will be fresh and new every time I read them. I cry out with the psalmist, David, "Awake my soul!" I pray that I will be alert to the spiritual workings around me and on guard with the Sword of the Spirit ready to meet whatever comes.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pick a familiar passage in the Bible - perhaps Psalm 100, Psalm 23 - or any number of your favorite chapters. Then pray that God will show you something that you have never seen before in the verses.
If you'd like to comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at http://sharonjaynes.com/blog/
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. We need to pay attention to the lies we tells ourselves, such as I'm not good enough, nobody loves me, I'm a failure, and God doesn't care about me. We need to replace those lies with liberating truth and begin seeing ourselves as God sees us. But be warned...this book could change your life!
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June 30, 2009
Never Alone
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths."
Friend To Friend
The Bible is filled with miracles where God intervened directly in time and space.
· Dividing the Red Sea
· Raising the dead
· Healing the blind
· Turning water to wine
God used miracles in a limited world to demonstrate His unlimited power. It is easy to see Him in the miraculous events of life but I believe God's greatest work is in our everyday lives where He takes the ordinary and uses it to create a magnificent design. We are experiencing God daily. We simply don't know how to recognize Him.
I heard about a pastor's young son who came running in the house after playing outside for hours. His mother took one look at his dirty hands and told him to go wash them carefully. When the little boy asked why he had to wash his hands, his mother told him that there were germs living in all of that dirt. The little boy refused and began to complain, "Germs and Jesus! Germs and Jesus! That's all I ever hear around this house, and I've never seen either one!"
Just because we can't see God at work doesn't mean He isn't at work. In fact, God is always at work in our lives. We just need to look for Him.
1. Look for God in circumstances.
God is constantly at work in our lives preparing us to do what He created us to do. A.B. Simpson says: "God is preparing His heroes, and when the opportunity comes, He can fit them into their place in a moment. And the world will wonder where they came from." When we understand that God integrates every circumstance to accomplish His will, it is easier to trust Him. Even when we do not understand, even when we can't explain it, even when it doesn't make sense or seems wrong, we can choose to trust Him. It is easy to trust God when the seas are calm and the skies are clear, but the strength of our faith is measured in the midst of a storm.
A crisis always reveals what is really inside. Letting go means that we trust God enough to obey Him. Trust is demonstrated by obedience and what I do reveals what I believe about God, regardless of what I say. God will not waste direction on a disobedient heart. The more we obey, the more we will trust. The more we trust, the more we will obey. God reveals His plans to an obedient heart. When we trust God enough to surrender our will to Him, we will find that He is Lord of our circumstances.
2. Look for God in people.
Proverbs 27: 17 "As iron sharpens iron, so people can improve each other."
"Each other" literally means "companion or friend; neighbor or associate". God uses every relationship to improve us and to accomplish His will in us. People come into our lives for eternal reasons. Relationships are mirrors. In them, we see reflections of ourselves. Relationships expose the weaknesses we try so hard to bury and teach us important lessons like forgiveness, patience, kindness, goodness and self-control. If we need to learn patience, He brings someone that is irritating. If we need to learn to love, He will bring the unlovable. God takes those people we call "difficult" and uses them as pruning tools, tools of molding and refining. If we fail to learn from one, He will send another. Even if we do learn from one, He will send another to teach us a different lesson.
3. Look for God in mistakes.
Romans 8:28 "We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him. They are the people he called, because that was his plan."
Even the disasters that strike us are intended for our good. God is in control. Ivory soap is the "soap that floats" but it wasn't always that way. Years ago, this soap was just another brand among many -- until a factory foreman made a mistake. He left a batch of new soap in the cooking vat and went to lunch. He was late getting back and the soap overcooked. It seemed to clean the same. It was just lighter. He could choose to report the mistake, and get fired, or he could make the best of it and ship it out. The results of the "new" soap surprised everyone. Instead of complaints, the company was deluged with orders for this floating soap and the foreman was promoted. God often works the same way. He takes our mistakes and brings good out of them. If we let Him, God will use the pain of our sin the destruction of our mistakes as the foundation upon which He builds a new life, a better life. What we call "dis-appointment" is really "His appointment." God does not waste a single experience.
4. Look for God in a personal relationship with Him.
John 10:27-28 "My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never die, and no one can steal them out of my hand."
The plan of God is revealed through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. We were not created just for time. We were created for eternity and if we live just for this life, we will miss the ultimate purpose of creation. When our circumstances don't add up, the people in our lives seem to be clueless and our mistakes make no sense, we can keep coming back to this relationship because we can depend on God to meet every need. When we know God, His power is credited to our life account. We could be living in spiritual wealth instead of spiritual bankruptcy.
The story is told of a business man who was selling some warehouse property. The building had been empty for months. Vandals had damaged the doors, smashed the windows and trashed the place. As he showed a prospective buyer the property, he took pains to say that he would replace the broken windows, make any repairs needed and clean it up. The buyer said, "Forget about the repairs. When I buy this place, I'm going to build something completely different. I don't want the building. I just want the site."
God is waiting to work in your life. You don't have to repair anything or clean up anything. He just wants you and is waiting for you to come ... just as you are.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to see You and know You more. Please help me to look beyond myself and my own circumstances to see Your hand at work in my life. Help me remember that You are my source and will supply my every need. When I make a mistake, help me find a seed of victory in it. I pray that You will open my eyes and my heart to the people and circumstances around me and help me see You in every part of my life. Thank You, Lord, for all that You are doing -- now -- in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following bible verses and think of ways each one can be applied to your life. Then memorize these verses and invite the Holy Spirit to bring them to mind when you need them.
Psalm 33:20 "We wait in hope for the LORD; he is our help and our shield" (NRV).
2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you. When you are weak, my power is made perfect in you'" (ICB).
Psalm 23:1 "The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not be in want" (NIV).
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Look for God in your life today. Examine each relationship and every circumstance to see His hand at work. I guarantee that cultivating this habit will change your life.
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July 1, 2009
Holy Adonai
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then said I, Woe is me! For I am undone and ruined, because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts!" Isaiah 6:5 (Amplified Bible)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever been 'undone' before the LORD? Have you shaken your head in awe at the mere thought of being accepted as holy in His sight? The prophet Isaiah experienced God, in all of His splendor, through a vision that left him flat-out speechless.
"In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord seated on a throne, high and exalted, and the train of his robe filled the temple. Above Him were seraphs, each with six wings: With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they were flying. And they were calling to one another:
"Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty;
the whole earth is full of His glory."
At the sound of their voices the doorposts and thresholds shook and the temple was filled with smoke. "Woe to me!" I cried. "I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the LORD Almighty." (Isaiah 6:1-5)
I shudder to think how often I approach this awesome, powerful, holy LORD without the reverence that is due Him. I confess that every fiber of my being should fall before Him and shout, "I am undone!" so much more than I actually do. Isaiah's response takes us to the place we should be...face down before our holy, royal, heavenly King.
As a worship leader, I often find myself torn between feeling called and feeling unworthy of the call. The fact of the matter is -- I am unworthy of the call. I screw up on a regular basis. I battle enemies like selfishness, anger, indifference, and pride. I struggle to honor my husband at times and wrestle with shame and guilt more than I'd care to admit. BUT GOD, through His only Son Jesus Christ, made a way for me to be holy and acceptable in His sight.
With the weight of this in mind, I was inspired to write the following worship song: (Adonai is a Hebrew name for God meaning "Master, Lord, LORD, or owner.")
Holy Adonai
Words and Music by Gwen Smith
Majesty
Mighty King
You are God
Everything
Holy One
Father, Son
Matchless Lord
We're undone
You are the One deserving praise
You are the Lord of all my days
You are the royal King of Kings
The only reason we can sing
You rule in splendor from your throne
Within Your grace our hope is known
You are the God who reigns on high
Holy Adonai
You are holy, holy
You are worthy, worthy, worthy, worthy!
©2007 Audio 31 Music / Sunday Best Music / ASCAP / CCLI #4574314
(If you would like to hear and worship along with Gwen's song "Holy Adonai," CLICK HERE)
My dear friend, I can't help but join the heavenly creatures as I shout from my home in North Carolina to you across the globe: "Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory." As you read this devotion in Maine, Florida, Texas, Idaho, California, Indiana, Brazil, Guatemala, Germany, India, Uganda, Croatia, Australia, China or Norway. In whatever city, whatever state, whatever country you reside, would you join heaven's song and lift the name of the LORD high today as a united body of sisters? Let us be 'undone' together and bow before our King with a renewed awe of His greatness. He is worthy!
Let's Pray
Most Holy Father, Adonai, I pray that You would forgive me for all the times that I have come into Your presence lacking reverence. You are worthy of all praise! May You become greater in my life and may I become less. Empower me to live a life that points to your glorious splendor.
In the matchless name of my risen Savior Jesus Christ,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 103
Take a few moments to hum or sing a favorite worship song that focuses on awesomeness of God. (Here are some suggestions: "I Exalt Thee" -- "Heart of Worship" -- "How Great Is Our God" -- "How Great Thou Art" -- "Fairest Lord Jesus" -- "Doxology")
Do you feel unworthy to approach God's throne this morning? His love is unconditional and His grace extends beyond anything you have done because of Jesus. He is waiting with open arms to embrace you right now. Go to Him!
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July 2, 2009
What's in a Name?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain" (1 Chronicles 4:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most likely you have heard about one man's little prayer tucked in 1 Chronicles 4. His name is Jabez, and his name means "pain." I don't know if it was a lapse in judgment or just plain meanness, but when Jabez was born, his momma was not a happy woman. She bore this boy in pain and wanted to make sure he never forgot it. So, she named him...Pain. All his life, Jabez had to live under the cloud that he had caused his mother great pain.
Maybe you have echoes in your memory of your mother reminding you that you were a pain. "You are such a pain." "You cause me pain." "You are a bother." "I sacrificed so much for you and you don't even appreciate it." But you know what? Even if someone has made you feel like you were a royal pain that does not make it true. God would beg to differ. He absolutely adores you. He loves you so much that He even gave His only Son so that you could spend eternity with Him. We don't do that for people who are a pain. On the contrary, we don't want to spend a minute with them...much less an eternity.
Let's go back to Jabez for a moment. What did he do about the name he had been given? He prayed. He decided he was not going to let someone's estimation of him or the label his mother had placed on him, rule him for the rest of his life. Jabez cried out to God. "Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain."
1 Chronicles 4:9 tells us that Jabez was honorable -- more honorable than all his brothers. This was not a self-seeking prayer. He just wanted to be free of the label that had been slapped on him by his momma, and be loved by the God who could slap a blessing on his heart.
Perhaps you need to renounce a few names that have plagued you for years.
"You're no good."
"You're not a good daughter."
"You're irresponsible."
"You don't care about anybody but yourself."
"You're just like your father."
"You're so selfish."
Visualize whatever label you've allowed, to be written on a name tag. Now, visualize Jesus walking up to you and pulling that name tag off your chest, crumpling it up, and throwing it in the trash.
Now visualize Jesus picking up a permanent marker and writing your new name on your heart.
New creation (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Salt of the earth (Matthew 5:13)
Light of the world (Matthew 5:14)
Child of God (John 1:12)
Righteous and holy (Ephesians 4:24)
That's who you really are -- and don't let anyone tell you any different!
Oh, and what of Jabez's request? "And God granted him what he requested" (1 Chronicles 4:10).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for giving me a new name! I pray that I will no longer remember the names that I have been called in the past. This one thing I do...forgetting what lies behind and pressing forward to what lies ahead. I run the race with a new name...the one that you have given me...dearly loved precious child.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a name tag with one of the above verses. Consider wearing it under a sweater or jacket for an entire day.
Look up the following verses and note what they say about who you are in Christ.
John 15:15
John 15:16
Romans 6:18
Romans 8:14,15
I Corinthians 3:16
I Corinthians 6:17
I Corinthians 12: 27
2 Corinthians 5:18, 19
Whose opinion is more important to you and whose estimation is more correct -- the people in your past or the God who made you? Whom are you going to believe?
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One of the most transforming teachings in the New Testament is about our identity in Christ. Knowing who we are and what we have in Christ helps us overcome feelings of inferiority, insecurity and inadequacy. If you would like to start acting like who God says you are, and walking in the confidence of a woman that is more than a conqueror, then check out Sharon's book, Experience the Ultimate Makeover and discover God's transforming power in your life!
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July 3, 2009
The Fight for Freedom
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Galatians 5:1 (NIV) "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery."
Friend To Friend
I rarely watch television but have, in recent days, been drawn to the coverage of our troops who are fighting on foreign soil. It is a stunning sight to see the diligence and courage displayed by these men and women as they march relentlessly toward their objective ... freedom for those who are prisoners of an evil regime. All along the way, these freedom fighters have encountered major obstacles and unexpected attacks. Still they move forward. The plan is in place and these determined soldiers let nothing and no one deter them from their goal.
You and I fight a war every single day. Our Father created us for freedom, but we constantly give up ground to the enemy through an old habit, a wrong attitude or a defiant action. Still, the Holy Spirit marches relentlessly through our lives with one goal in mind, total freedom for the precious child of God. It is amazing how many times I offer Him few weapons with which to fight. I have placed little or no truth in my heart and mind. My shield of faith has been tossed aside. Sin has tarnished the breastplate of righteousness. I am a pitiful warrior who has gone into battle with few weapons and little preparation.
I remember watching the people of Iraq bring down the statue of Saddam Hussein. God pierced my heart with the truth that there are things in my own life that need to be grabbed by the throat and brought to His feet in complete surrender. Then, and only then, will I experience the freedom for which He created me. I am so very grateful that I serve a God who is wholly committed to me and to His plan for my life - even when I am not wholly committed to Him.
We are living in uncertain times. War and rumors of war fill the media. The economy shows little sign of improvement. Countless homes are in crisis, reeling from the devastation of an affair, a child in trouble or the familiar and suffocating weight of apathy. It seems that everywhere we turn, we see a pile of broken dreams and wounded lives. Some of you are dealing with a great sense of loss that has left you paralyzed and helpless in the darkness. It is almost as if the winds of Hell itself are blowing through your life and the storm is raging out of control. Fear has been waiting in the wings of your circumstances for the opportunity to take center stage in your heart and mind. Direction seems unsure at best and the pathway is filled with obstacles and hidden dangers.
We are living in extraordinary times that call for extraordinary faith. Our Father is not surprised by the events of our life nor is He unaware of our struggles. Each and every one of them must pass through His hands and came to us with His permission. Trust Him. Abandon yourself to Him in childlike faith, knowing that no matter how you feel, no matter what you see - He is in control. Choose to give Him praise now - when the skies are dark and the winds are blowing. And when the storm is over, you will see the evidence of His hand and heart at work in your life.
Lift up your head and turn your heart toward home where your Father waits to gather you into His arms. Put your trust in God and keep your eyes fixed on Him, the author and finisher of your faith. Choose to believe what you cannot see and refuse to depend upon what you can understand or explain. Stand firm, knowing that freedom is yours today
Today, my friend, raise His banner high over your life, declaring that the King is in residence. Throw off everything that would hinder His work in your life. Rejoice in the truth that He has come to deliver you from bondage and to set you free.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the freedom You offer each one of us when we come to You in a personal relationship. Give us the courage to stand firm in Your truth, Lord. Fill our heart with Your truth and wisdom so that others may see You above all else. Thank You for the men and women who fight today so that we can experience the freedom of our country. Please keep them safe, strong, and encouraged. Remind us to pray for them, Lord, as they stand in our place. And thank You, Father, for the freedom You offer through Your son, Jesus Christ.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and think about how these truths can set you free.
Ÿ Hebrews 11:1 (NKJV) "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."
Ÿ Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT) "Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths."
Ÿ Proverbs 4:25 (NCV) "Keep your eyes focused on what is right, and look straight ahead to what is good."
What one obstacle is standing in your way of God's freedom in your life? What step do you need to take in order to walk in freedom?
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I am sure most of you heard about the sandstorm followed by drenching rain during the first days of the war with Iraq. Some say it was the worst in over a hundred years. Our troops were bogged down and could not move effectively. The media was already wondering if the troops were in a "quagmire" and dire predictions of gloom and doom came from the left wing media. But what they failed to report was that after the weather had cleared, the Marine group that was mired the worst looked out at the plain they were about to cross. They were shocked at what they saw! Hundreds, if not thousands of anti-tank and anti-personnel mines were uncovered by the wind and then washed off by the rain. If they had proceeded as planned, many lives would have undoubtedly been lost. As it was, they simply drove around them and let the demolition teams destroy them.
Do not despair! No matter where you are or what you are facing, take hold of the eternal and steadfast truth that you can trust your God! His grace is enough and His love is certain. For encouragement during discouraging times, enroll in Mary's online bible study, Light for the Journey. Be sure to visit Mary's online store where you will find practical and powerful resources to strengthen you for your life journey.
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July 6, 2009
It's Not About Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Let them praise the name of the LORD, for his name alone is exalted; his splendor is above the earth and the heavens" Psalm 148:13.
Friend To Friend
Some of my Girlfriends in God are not going to like this devotion. I'm not even sure I do, but I'm going to put it out there anyway. During the month of February, I write devotions on marriage. It is the month of love, and marriages certainly are in shambles all around the world. Each February, I am flooded with e-mails: some are appreciative for the reminders on how to love their husbands; some are hurting because they are in their own struggling marriage, and some are broken hearted because of shattered dreams. These women are so thankful for the balm of God's truth in a very tender area of their lives. However, I also receive lots of e-mails from women who are not married, who do not like the attention to marriage at all. They are flat out angry and frustrated because the devotions do not pertain to them. The same types of complaints come during the month of May when I write about Motherhood.
I've seen the same thing in church. "I didn't like that sermon." "I didn't like the singing today." "I couldn't relate to that teaching." And on and on we go. You know what I've discovered...It's not about me. It is all about God. If the pastor is preaching on a topic that is not my struggle, I pray that God will open my eyes to new truths that I've never seen. If he is talking about losing a loved one, I pray for those who have lost a loved one recently...even though that not might not be my struggle at that particular time. Is the teaching on raising young children? I have a grown son, so I pray for those who are in the throes of raising the next generation.
One Sunday, I was singing in church. Barely singing, I might add. It was a dry old hymn and I just wasn't into it. Then I looked at an older women a few seats down and she had tears trickling down her wrinkled face. She was moved to tears by that old hymn and was taken to the throne room of grace. "Oh Father," I prayed. "Please forgive me. This is not about me. It's not about what I like or dislike. It is all about You. Truth is truth. Worship is worship. Help my focus be on You and You alone. It's not about me.
Listen to how David focused on God during worship:
"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge." Psalm 62:5-8
"Teach me your ways, O LORD, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever." Psalm 86:1112
So let's commit to remember together...it's not about me. It's all about God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me when I make worship and Bible study all about me. The purpose of my worship is to give glory to You and You alone, not to make me feel better. The purpose of Bible study is to learn what Your Word has to say about Your character and Your ways and to discover the truths that lead me into the way of righteousness. I praise You! I thank You! I worship You!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Here is a fun exercise. Go back and pick out one of your favorite chapters in the Bible. Now, focus on the verses that you DID NOT underline.
Here is a wonderful Psalm to use for your extended prayer time today. Open your Bible to Psalm 136 and pray that prayer of praise with David. Don't skip over the repeated refrains...His love endures forever! He repeats it for a reason. David meant it. God wants us to get it!
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This summer, Sharon is offering her book, Building an Effective Women's Ministry at a special discount price. Whether you are starting a women's ministry from the ground up, or simply looking for fresh insight for an existing group, this book is packed full of great ideas!
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July 7, 2009
Seek and Find
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Preston! We give up! Come out from where you are hiding!" My kids were playing hide and go seek a few years ago while my husband and I were upstairs packing for a trip. Hunter and Kennedy had looked everywhere they could think of for their sly older brother, but couldn't find him. Reluctantly, they gave up. As I packed, I checked some choice spots in my walk-in closet to see if I could catch a glimpse of the victorious hider. Nothing.
Several minutes later, as I was loading toiletries into my travel case, the cabinet door beneath my husband's sink slowly opened. My contortionist son quietly and carefully crawled out from underneath the bathroom sink. He glanced my way, and with a twinkle in his eye said: "Hey mom."
"Honey! Your brother and sister asked you to show yourself 10 minutes ago. Why did you stay in there so long?" I inquired.
To which he replied in a hushed tone, "I didn't want them to know where my favorite hiding spot was!"
I have to admit, I was impressed with his hiding strategy. Seemed pretty savvy for a 10 year-old. He just didn't want to be found.
In the game of life, God never hides. To the contrary, He wants to be found. He is always with us and always sees us. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by the hands of One who knows everything about us. He designed us to know and to find Him. And let's be honest girls -- whether we want to admit it or not, deep inside we all want to be known and loved.
In Psalm 139, David penned sacred words that paint an amazing picture of God's stubborn presence in our lives:
"Where can I go from Your Spirit? Where can I flee from Your presence? If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast." (Psalm 139: 7-10, NIV)
Have you ever felt hidden from God? I can assure you today, that you are not. He sees you. No matter where you are. No matter what you have been through. No matter what you are going through. You are not alone. God knows you. God loves you. He wants to be found by you. One of the richest blessings in life is the privilege we have to know Him. Call on Him today and find Him through prayer.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, It is so comforting to know that You are constantly with me. That You know exactly where I am and what I face. Please hold me fast with Your right hand and guide each moment of my day. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans 8:35-39.
Nothing can separate us from God's presence and His love, but sin can hinder our intimacy. Ask God to search your heart and reveal and remove any sin.
What is your hiding strategy? Do you sometimes run from God's presence? Why? Grapple with this one. Ask the LORD for insight.
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Hey friend. After moving across the country a few years back, I experienced a dark season where I just didn't FEEL God's presence. My mind knew He was present, but my heart felt disconnected. Thankfully, God's presence isn't about our feelings. He is always with us. In that time, I penned a song called Comfort Sonata, which is the final track on my Because CD. I uploaded Comfort Sonata to my Facebook Music Page in case you want to listen to it. J
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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July 8, 2009
God Sense vs. Common Sense
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul. The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple" (Psalm 19:7 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Sitting in my backyard, I love to listen to the sounds of all God's critters: birds, crickets, frogs, katydids, woodpeckers, and most of all -- children. Framing our yard from every side, children's giggles, chatter, and raucous play are a symphony of stringed instruments and percussions alike. There's the rhythmic thumping of a basketball bouncing on concrete, the squealing of little girls being chased by boys, the skidding of bicycles tires on asphalt, the popping of a cap gun, declarations of "you're it" and contentions of "you cheated." All blend together in the symphony of youth. Of course the orchestra would not be complete without the reprimanding of parents breaking up fights and reminding stubborn wills of house rules.
Rules, rules, rules. What a bother -- especially when you are five-years-old. When I was five, I never understood why parents had to interfere and ruin all the fun with rules. I eventually decided it was just part of their job description. Parent: law enforcement officer who patrols the neighborhood, ruining all the fun for little girls and boys.
As a five-year-old Tom Boy, my favorite possession was a pink sparkly bicycle with a silver glittery banana seat and u-shaped handle bars. Streamers were attached to the ends of the handles and blew in the breeze as I peddled around the neighborhood at breakneck speed. I could leave skid marks as long as any old boy, balance without holding onto the handlebars, and do "wheelies" with my front tire saluting the air. Oh how I loved to ride around the race track (otherwise known as Pine Haven Drive) feeling the wind whip through my ash blond streaked hair and brush past my bare chest. It was the "bare chest" part that was the problem.
"Sharon Ann Edwards," my mother would call from the front porch. "Get in the house this minute and put on a shirt!"
"I don't want to war a shirt," I whined. "Stewart doesn't have to wear a shirt. Why do I?"
"Because you're a girl and because I said so. That's why."
My brother was five years my senior and he often romped around without a shirt. As far as I could tell, there wasn't any difference between him and me. So why did people snicker when I rode past them without a shirt on? I just didn't get it. So begrudgingly, I'd knock down my kickstand, stomp through the house, and pull on a t-shirt, mumbling all the way.
This was not a onetime incident, and my mother tired of making me dress like a girl. But then something amazing happed. I entered first grade. Suddenly something clicked and I noticed that boys and girls were indeed different. It all started with Isaac Thorp and his big blue eyes. Well, mom never had to tell me to keep my shirt on again.
Rules -- what a bother. Rules -- what a comfort. Eventually, I learned that even if I didn't completely understand one of my parents' rules, it would usually made sense later. And you know what? It's just like that with my heavenly Father. If I don't understand one of His rules or commands, it usually makes sense later. If He tells me "no," I've come to understand that it is for my own good. God's principles are not randomly contrived to ruin our fun. They are meticulously thought out and created to protect His children. God is a lot smarter than we are. Have you noticed that? "Because I said, so," is all the explanation I need from God. Perhaps I'll figure out the reasons later -- but I may not. If I don't, I just need to remember that Father knows best.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you that You do not set up rules for us just to ruin our fun but to provide our protection. Help us to stay within the confines of the safe boundaries you have laid out for us in the Bible. Help us to obey even when we do not understand. Help us to be satisfied with "Because I said so," when it comes from You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Write down a "rule" that your parents enforced that you did not understand at the time.
Now, as an adult, write down the wisdom of that rule and how it protected you.
If you have children, note any rules that you have set up that they do not understand. Do you see a similar parallel between your wisdom as a parent and God's wisdom as your parent?
Now, here's more of today's truth:
"The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul.
The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple.
The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes.
The fear of the LORD is pure, enduring forever.
The ordinances of the LORD are sure and altogether righteous.
They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb. By them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward." (Psalm 19:7-11 NIV).
If you'd like to comment on today's devotion or share a similar story, visit my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and scroll to the comments link.
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Today's devotion was taken from Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. If you would like to learn more about how to sense God's gentle nudges and discover the stories and lessons in your own life, this book is for you! It also comes with a Bible study guide to learn more about how God speaks through His Word, prayer, nature, other people, and everyday circumstances.
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July 9, 2009
The Big Picture
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:4-5 "Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function; so in Christ we who are many form one body" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
In order to prevent pride, we must be Kingdom people, people who see the big picture. Instead, we tend to have tunnel vision and are usually concerned only with what affects us. After all, it really is so about us -- right? What an easy and convenient way of thinking. It seems so logical and is definitely a less demanding way of life. But in doing so, we lose sight of God's Kingdom plan and purpose.
Every believer has a gift that is meant to help the body of Christ grow and achieve balance -- every believer including those sandpaper believers. You know exactly who I am talking about - those people who drive you nuts, push your buttons and then sit beside you in the worship service, singing the praise songs at the top of their voices. I have discovered that God uses these difficult relationships to keep my heart, mind and life focused on the big picture -- His picture.
When living in Fort Lauderdale, our neighbors had a pool that we all enjoyed on those relentlessly brutal, hot and humid summer days. At first, I lamented the fact that we could not afford to have a pool but after watching my neighbor deal with the maintenance of his, I decided I had the best of both worlds.
It seemed as if every time I turned around, he was either going to or returning from the pool supply store. Maintaining the right level of chemicals seemed to be an almost impossible task. My neighbor fought the battle well, but still, the recurrent and slimy algae taxed his patience and checkbook. Finally, after several bouts with the green slime, now his relentless, formidable foe, my neighbor surrendered, hiring a professional pool service to do the job. Success resulted and the pool stayed beautiful and algae-free because of the right chemical balance.
Balance is hard to maintain -- in swimming pools, in churches and in relationships -- especially those relationships with sandpaper people, those people who rub us the wrong way. For the church and the relationships within the church to be balanced, every believer must function according to his or her God-given gifts. That is the plan.
"A spiritual gift is given to each of us as a means of helping the entire church."
(1 Corinthians 12:7 NLT)
Spiritual gifts are neither toys nor weapons but rather tools that the Lord has placed in our hands to use in building the Kingdom of God. When we focus on the gift instead of the Giver, we are missing the big picture, the kingdom picture, and will find it easy to become a prisoner of pride, thinking that we have arrived and are more spiritual than others. Pride destroys unity and sets itself up against God, a very dangerous place to be.
Every gift, every believer and every relationship is important and has a unique purpose in the Kingdom. God is all about relationships. The very fact that He moved Heaven and Earth in order to make a relationship possible between God and man is nothing short of miraculous.
We may believe that our sandpaper person has little or nothing to offer in the way of serving God but scripture is clear that if they are believers, they are part of the plan and are gifted for service. I know -- it just doesn't seem possible, does it? To think that someone like my sandpaper person could be used in Kingdom work just as God chooses to use me just seems so unfair. But Romans 8:28 is either true or false when it says that "all" things work together for our good. To propose any other interpretation of that principle is to negate the Word of God. It is true that God uses all life offers, the good and bad circumstances as well as the difficult and easy relationships to work good in our lives and in His Kingdom.
Sandpaper people need to know that the ground at the foot of the cross is level and that whose they are matters more than who they are. Our own pride keeps us from seeing those abrasive people as God sees them, and loving them as God loves them. We need to choose God's perspective of difficult people, knowing that His grace covers them just as it covers us and that we are all part of God's big picture.
Let's Pray
Lord, I ask that You would help me to keep Your big picture in mind when it comes to my relationships and the part they play in Your Kingdom work. I don't want to be divisive, Lord. I want to be an instrument of peace, loving even those who drive me nuts! Help me to serve with joy...in love. Use me to illustrate Your love to those who feel unloved. Help me wage peace instead of allowing my selfish and prideful attitudes control my behavior. I love You and thank You for the amazing privilege of being Your child and of serving You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify those "sandpaper people" in your life and in your church.
What has been your attitude toward them in the past?
What changes do you need to make in how you treat those difficult people and how you encourage them to use their gifts in service?
Make a plan this week to encourage one difficult person in their service to God.
Pray for that person every day this week and then examine the changes God makes in your heart.
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I have to admit that for every problem, I have an opinion and a solution. Really! If I could rule the world, I am certain that I could solve a whole lot of problems in a hurry! Sounds like pride, doesn't it? Only because it is! I really believe God allows certain people to come into my life in order to break my pride and to remind me of God's amazing grace that allows me to live, breathe and serve. I pray that you and I will, day by day, moment by moment, focus on the big picture of a tiny baby in a manger, a cruel cross, an empty tomb and a coming King!
Interested in learning more about dealing with sandpaper people? God gave me enough material for a whole book...that is available to you - Sandpaper People.
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July 10, 2009
Does It Really Matter?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:13 "Greater love has no one than this; that one lay down his life for his friends" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
A young man who had been raised as an atheist was training to be an Olympic diver. The only religious influence in his life came from his outspoken Christian friend. The young diver never really paid much attention to his friend's sermons, but he heard them often.
One night, the diver went to the indoor pool at the college he attended. The lights were all off, but since the pool had big skylights and the moon was bright, there was plenty of light for practice. The young man climbed up to the highest diving board and turned his back to the pool on the edge of the board, arms extended outward. It was then that he saw his shadow on the wall. The shadow of his body was in the shape of a cross. The man felt as if someone was speaking to him. The words of his Christian friend filled his mind. In his heart, he suddenly realized the truth. Instead of diving, he knelt down and finally asked God to come into his life. As the young transformed diver stood to his feet, a maintenance man walked in and turned on the lights. The pool had been drained for repairs.
I often wonder how many desperate people cross my path each day; people who are one step away from certain destruction; people whose very life direction can be changed by the Light of God in and through my interaction with them.
If you are like me, every day is crammed full of tasks, errands, deadlines, demands and activities. I run headlong through each twenty-four hours from the minute my feet hit the floor until I crawl into bed each night. It is in those quiet moments before sleep that I hear Him ask, "Did you make a difference today? Is someone closer to the Light because you told them about what I have done in your life? Did you recognize that "intruder" or "interruption" as a divine appointment from Me instead of an inconvenience? Does what you did today really matter?"
Sadly, I have to confess that many times I miss opportunities to participate in eternal business because I am so focused on earthly business. My agenda becomes my god and time management my idol. I could have been "God with skin on" to the frustrated cashier at the grocery store instead of brushing her aside because I was in a hurry to do something I deemed more important. I could have blessed the friend who called, needing an encouraging word, instead of preaching an unsolicited sermon in the name of compassion. I could have taken a few more minutes to listen when the elderly man struck up a conversation with me at the gas pump, instead of walking away, leaving him just as lonely as he was when we met.
Jesus did things differently. With every breath, He was aware of the hurting and wounded, pursuing the broken people instead of avoiding them. Jesus carefully and deliberately invested every moment of His time on earth in eternal things. And there has never been a life that made such a difference or mattered so much!
I want my life to really count, don't you? We are never more like God than when we are reaching out in love to meet a need, comfort a broken heart, encourage a weary soul or challenge the darkness with His Light! On your journey today, look for those desperate ones who need you to be God with skin on!
Let's Pray
Father God, I confess to You that I am often too busy to hear Your voice or determine Your direction for my life. Please forgive me for being self-centered. Help me to see those who cross my path as You see them. Help me to love them with Your love, drawing them from the darkness into the Light.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ÿ What keeps you from recognizing the need in others and then reaching out to meet that need?
Ÿ Think back to a time when someone reached out to you. What was your response? How did their action change your life?
Ÿ What difference can an awareness of hurting people make in your daily walk?
Ÿ Identify one person in need today and look for a specific and timely way to meet that need.
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I know this truth is hard to put into action. It is so much easier to just close our eyes to a need, turn away from hurting people and grieve the heart of God. I challenge you to step out in faith and allow God to work in and through you.
Need help? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People for ways to handle the difficult people in your life who rub you the wrong way. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey that offers encouragement and tools for spiritual growth. Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and special gift items.
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July 13, 2009
The Advocate
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And I will ask the Father and He will give you another Counselor, to be with you forever -- the Spirit of truth" (John 14:16).
Friend To Friend
During Jesus' last supper discourse, He reassured the disciples that He would not leave them as orphans. "And I will ask the Father and He will give you another Counselor, to be with you forever -- the Spirit of truth" (John 14:15). The Greek word, which is also translated Helper (NASB) and Comforter (KJV), is parakletos and means a "person summoned to one's aid." Originally it was a term used in a court of justice to denote a legal assistant, counsel for the defense, an advocate; then, generally, one who pleas another's cause, an intercessor, an advocate.
I love the image of being in a court of law. In the Bible, Satan is referred to as the "accuser of the brethren." (Revelation 12:10). He points His gnarly finger in our faces and says things like, "You aren't a very good Christian," "Jesus doesn't really love you," "You were a mistake when you were born," "You've really blown it this time," "What makes you any different now than before you accepted Christ," "I don't see much fruit in your life," "You're a pitiful excuse as a wife, as a mother, as a child of God," etc.
Now tell me, have you ever heard any of those statements before? Perhaps you've always assumed these were your own musings. That's exactly what Satan would have you believe. However, I believe those accusatory statement are words from Satan that he whispers in our ears. It sounds like us, it feels like us, but it's from the accuser himself. It is always amazing to me that while I might have trouble hearing God's voice, Satan's usually comes through loud and clear. Why, we even think they are our thoughts.
On the other hand, the Holy Spirit is our counselor, our attorney, who comes along side us and repeats, "Not guilty! Not guilty! Not guilty!" He says, "You, God's child, have been set free!" The Holy Spirit is our advocate, empowers us, walks along side us, and helps us through life's journey.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for sending the Holy Spirit to be my parakletos: my Helper, my Comforter, my defender. I know that through the power of the Holy Spirit living in me, I can do all things that You have called me to do. As Paul directed in Ephesians 5:18, I pray for a fresh infilling of the Holy Spirit today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Turn to John chapter 15 and write down everything you learn about the Holy Spirit.
Write down what He does in the life of a believer.
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July 14, 2009
Beautiful Irritations
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 (NIV) "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places..."
Friend To Friend
Life can be so irritating! More often than not, it is the little things that annoy me the most. The lost set of keys. The misplaced cell phone. The ice-maker that refuses to do its job on a hot summer day. The empty tea pitcher stuck back in the refrigerator. But then there are times when people are the problem. They show up uninvited or call when I am running out the door, late for an appointment I don't have time to keep. Been there?
I am convinced that these tiny irritations are a tool in the hand of a loving Father who uses them as "heavenly sandpaper" to rub off some of our rough edges.
I was invited to speak for a women's conference based on the theme, "Pearls of Wisdom." When I arrived at the conference center, I was greeted by women wearing pearl necklaces, pearl bracelets, pearl pins, hats covered in multicolored pearls ... you name it, and they wore it. Each table was beautifully decorated with treasure chests overflowing with strands of pearls. Oyster shells held candy mints that looked like pearls and each name tag was decorated with a single pearl. It was amazing!
I was warmly welcomed and then promptly introduced to the event director and leadership team who were excited and ready to go - except for one problem. I was "pearl-less." I was quickly told that the speaker had to wear pearls of some kind. However, this creative group of ladies was not easily deterred and before I knew it, I was wearing a stunning pearl necklace - and it was real! I could just see that necklace breaking while I was speaking, but before I could utter one word of protest, the owner of the necklace said, "Don't worry! You can just give it back to me at the end of the conference." And off we went!
I am what you might call an "active" speaker in that I cannot stand still and talk at the same time. I get excited, pace the stage, arms waving and usually work up quite a sweat ... literally! The "Pearls of Wisdom" conference was no exception. In fact, it was a blistering summer day and the air conditioning was having trouble keeping up with the size of the crowd. By the time I finished speaking, I was indeed "glowing." I forgot all about the pearl necklace until its owner quietly slipped up beside me and said, "I have to leave and need to retrieve my necklace." As she began to undo the necklace clasp, I apologized for perspiring all over her beautiful pearls. She laughed and said, "Actually, it is good for them. Human perspiration helps the pearls keep their luster."
I am constantly amazed at the profound truths God has tucked into the simple things of life. Pearls are formed when a piece of grit, sand or shell get trapped inside an oyster. It protects itself from irritation by secreting a nacreous liquid around the particle which eventually builds into a pearl. In other words, what begins as an annoying irritant eventually becomes a valuable treasure. The same is true in life.
Looking back, I can honestly say that the greatest treasures in my life have been discovered during the darkest times of my life. A battle with clinical depression stripped away years of fear and doubt, leaving me with a new identity in Christ and a ministry I never thought possible. The inability to have biological children made it possible to adopt our son and daughter, Jered and Danna, giving us a gift beyond measure. Weaknesses have given way to strengths and failures have led to successes ... and God has used it all for His glory and my good.
In God's economy, a mess is the perfect setting for a miracle, my friend. At the center of every dark moment are a sliver of hope and a seed of victory. God has gone before you, and in every trial or difficult circumstance you will face, He has buried a treasure. When the tough times come, look for the pearls.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so sorry for the way I complain about my circumstances. Please forgive me for my bad attitude when things don't go my way. I want to see Your hand in every part of every day - good or bad. Help me to face every storm with confidence, knowing that You really are in control. May others see You in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 1:2-4 and answer the following questions:
What does the word "consider" suggest as a response to difficult circumstances?
What should our first response be to trials?
What does the testing of our faith produce in us?
What promise does James give us when we are faithful and choose to stand strong when life is hard?
How do these truths relate to your life today?
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I don't know about you, but I tend to look for the nearest exit when a storm hits. Avoiding difficult people and complicated circumstances tends to be one of my most common goals. But what I really need to do is cultivate an attitude of "But God..." in my heart.
"My husband has lost his job, but God will provide."
"The doctors have said there is no hope, but God is the Great Physician."
"I don't know what to do, but God will lead me in the right way."
We live in uncertain times which demand a certain hope that can only be found in God. Right now, choose faith over feeling. Don't doubt in the darkness what you learned in the Light. God is with you, friend. Look for the pearls!
Need help? Check out Mary's book, Sandpaper People for ways to handle the difficult people in your life who rub you the wrong way. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey that offers encouragement and tools for spiritual growth. Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and special gift items.
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July 15, 2009
God's Grand Finale
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I was sitting in a crowded restaurant with my family when she walked by in her full-length white satin dress delicately trimmed in lace and studded with tiny "jewels," crinoline that swished as she moved across the room, a rhinestone tiara upon her head, and pearl studded slippers on her feet. Golden ringlets framed her rosy cheeks and puckered lips glistened with a hint of gloss. She knew she was beautiful and glanced around at the admiring smiles of onlookers as she walked through the crowd. She was three-years-old.
I'm not sure when the dream of being beautiful enters a little girl's mind, but I do know when the dream ends -- when the preacher says, "may she rest in peace."
I remember as a little girl sneaking into my mother's closet and slipping my child-size feet into her size seven high heels. I'd also stand on my tiptoes on a chair, pull a hat off the top shelf, and plop it on my head like an oversized lampshade. Her satin evening jacket with sleeves that hug eight inches below my finger tips gave a nice elegant touch to my outfit. A lady going to a party would never be caught without "putting on her face," so I crept into the bathroom, opened the forbidden drawer, and created a clownish work of art on the palette of my face. Red rouge circles on my cheeks, heaps of blue eye shadow on my munchkin lids, and smeared orange lipstick far exceeding the proper border were finished off with a dusting of facial powder with an oversized brush.
From the time a little girl stretches on her tiptoes to get a peek in the mirror, she desires to be beautiful -- perhaps like her mommy. As the girl moves into the teen years, she experiments with makeup, delves into fashion, and attempts various hairstyles. Then it's on to makeover ideas in magazines and on talk shows. If one idea doesn't work -- well, there's always next month.
I believe the dream to be beautiful is not cultural, but at the very core of womanhood. John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, describes three longings that lie at the heart of every man: a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue, an adventure to live. He also ventures to say that women have three longings of the heart as well: to be fought for, to share in an adventure, and to have her beauty unveiled. "Not to conjure," Eldredge explains, "but to unveil. Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what I speak of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or 'twirling skirts,' those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She'll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight." (John Eldredge, Wild at Heart (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 2001) p16-17)
We should never be ashamed of our dream to be beautiful. It is a travesty of the feminist movement that has tried to strip women of their femininity and make them more male. It is as if those in the movement were saying that being a woman wasn't good enough and tried to make us into men. So they tried to make women tough, independent and rugged individuals who didn't need anyone or anything. But those who were banking on the tenants of feminism were left spiritually and emotionally bankrupt.
A woman was and is one of God's most magnificent creations. As a matter of fact, she was His grand finale. After He fashioned Eve, creation was complete and He took a rest! God has placed in our hearts a love for beauty and a desire to be beautiful -- as He defines it.
In the New Testament, Paul writes, "For we are God's workmanship" (Ephesians 2:10). The Greek word for workmanship means a work of art. Listen to these words as David describes the Creator at work.
For you created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
When I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
Your eyes saw my unformed body. (Psalm 139:13-16)
Like an artist who sees the finished work in his mind's eye, God saw your unformed substance and then began to fashion you from head to toe. He made no mistakes but planned each detail of your being. You do not need to compare yourself to other works of art, but thank the Artist for how He chose to create the masterpiece called ... you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for making each and every part of my being. For eyes that see, ears that hear, legs that move, fingers that feel, arms that hug, feet that run, a heart that beats, a brain that thinks, a tongue that tastes. Oh Lord, forgive me when I complain about Your workmanship and wish for something different. Help me to always remember that I am Your workmanship ... and that You make no mistakes.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of all the parts of your body that you are thankful for. This could take quite some time and perhaps you'll need to come back to your list several times before it is complete.
Get out an anatomy book or visit a web page that shows the various body systems (the circulatory system, the nervous system, the skeletal muscles, etc.) and read about the intricacies of the human body.
If you have children, look at the various systems together and marvel at God's incredible creation.
Look up the following verses and note what they say about your beauty.
2 Corinthians 3:18
Psalm 45:11
I Peter 3:3-5
Proverbs 11:22 (This verse describes a woman who is beautiful on the inside, but unattractive on the inside.)
To comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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All little girls have dreams, but for most of us, life doesn't turn out like we thought. But did you know that God has great dreams for you? Yes, He wants to fulfill your little girl dreams in His own way. And that's not all, He has greater plans for you than you ever imagined. Put your hand in His and dare to dream again! To learn more, see Sharon's book Dreams of a Woman: God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams.
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July 16, 2009
Will Somebody Please Pick Me?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 139:14-16 "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
I can still remember the terror I felt each time my elementary teacher announced, "Today, we will play softball at recess." My stomach clenched in dread as I contemplated the tortuous hour stretching out before me. I hated playing softball because I was a terrible athlete! Overweight, I huffed and puffed around the bases...if I ever got lucky enough to hit the elusive softball. I had no idea how to wear a softball glove, so the thought of actually trying to catch the ball was terrifying. I was always assigned to the outfield where few balls came and where I had the least chance of doing any damage.
The most horrible part of the whole experience was the dreaded team selection process. It was always the same. Two captains were chosen, usually Sarah and Tim because they were slender, attractive and popular - everything I was not. Sarah and Tim would step to the pitcher's mound and begin the process of choosing their teams. I can still remember trying to look as if I didn't care that everyone around me was defecting to the other side while I waited, praying that I would hear my name called by somebody ... anybody. I was usually one of three or four children left standing, staring at the preferred ones already taking their positions on the field. Sarah usually took pity on me and picked me before Jeff and Alicia. At least I wasn't the last one chosen.
We tend to find our identity and worth in the fact that we are chosen by someone. Take sheep for example. Every shepherd chose his sheep - one by one - with great deliberation, thought and care. A choice implies ownership, pursuit and a deliberate action on the part of the one doing the choosing.
Over the years, I have spent a great deal of my life energy and priceless time in an ongoing attempt to validate my identity. Much of the pain, frustration and stress I experienced could have been avoided by simply remembering whose I am - a chosen child, a daughter of the King, and an indispensable part of God's heart. That's right! I am indispensable to no one but God. No one can take my place in my Father's heart.
The knowledge that I am chosen frees me to serve Him whole-heartedly and boldly without bowing to the unrealistic expectations imposed by others and by my own fragile heart. The knowledge that He created me allows me to embrace the gifts He has given me and encourages me to strain every choice, every decision through the filter of God's perfect plan for my life. Knowing whose I am draws my attention away from both the critics and the cheerleaders in life and fixes my gaze on the only one I have to please ... God.
God is an up-close and personal God. He met Nicodemus at night; He met the woman at the well of Samaria; He met the crippled man at the pool of Bethesda and He touched the blind man, giving him sight. As He walked through Jericho, Jesus saw a little man perched in a tree and called to him, "Zacchaeus, come down. We have a lunch appointment." He met Matthew at the customs' table and told him, "Rise, and follow me." We come to Jesus alone. There are no "group rates" when it comes to knowing God. It's always one-on-one and very personal. What you believe about Him in the silence and stillness of your own heart is what makes the difference in your life journey. The heart is where all spiritual transactions are made and the transformation process begins.
Knowing whose we are settles our souls and directs our steps toward the path God intended when He shaped us. You and I were created as a living, fleshed out depiction of God's love. Just think of it! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created in love -- for love -- with a specific and holy purpose in mind. We can rejoice with the Psalmist who wrote, "Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends" (Psalm 100:3 NCV).
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You simply because You made me. Thank You for loving me unconditionally. Help me to remember that love with every breath and every step. When others reject me, draw my heart back to the fact that Your acceptance and love cancels out that pain.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write down five positive things about who you are and how God created you. Praise God for each one.
Choose one negative opinion that you have about yourself. Hold that opinion up against the message of today's key truth.
Make it a habit of prayer that you will learn to see your worth in Christ alone.
Memorize Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart."
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Misunderstanding our worth in Christ is a foothold for the enemy to slither into our heart and mind, planting doubt and fear. Don't let that happen! Let's pray for each other, asking the Father to let us see ourselves the way He sees us. Amen!
Need help? Check out Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for ways to deal with the stress in your life. Mary also has an online Bible Study, Light for the Journey that offers encouragement and tools for spiritual growth. Visit Mary's online store for MP3 downloads and E-book Bible Studies, CDs and special gift items.
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July 17, 2009
The Stinky Sour Sippy Cup
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life"
(2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Last summer, I flew to Nashville to record vocals for a CD project. My girlfriend, Kerri, and I had spent the last day of my trip in a studio, recording background vocals. When we were finished, I had to high tail it to the airport in order to catch my flight home.
Kerri, a young mom, enthusiastically offered to take me to the airport, and I gladly accepted. I'm all about spending time with my friends and catching up on life! As we made our way out to the car, Kerri apologetically mentioned that her daughter had dropped a Sippy cup of milk in her car the day before, and that she hadn't been able to locate it.
"I will be more than happy to take you to the airport, Gwen," she said, "but there's just no telling what my car is going to smell like!"
"No problem!" I said. "I'm a mom! I've dealt with many-a-missing milk Sippy cup in my day. How bad can it be?"
Did I mention that it was one of those "you can fry an egg on the sidewalk," dog days of August? Yep. It was! You know where this is going, don't you?
As we opened the car doors, Kerri and I were smacked silly with the stinky smell of sour milk. Not just a subtle smell, mind you -- but a dominant, "been sitting in the 100 degree weather all day" smell. It wreaked something fierce! We laughed until we almost cried at how horrible it smelled as we made our way down the expressway to the airport.
Sounds kind of funny, but smells matter. Some smells, like a stinky, sour milk Sippy, are offensive. They make you want to escape their presence. While other smells, like fresh baked bread, or a freshly bathed baby, can be greatly pleasurable and inviting. Which type of smell best represents your presence and persona?
We need to remember that our attitudes and conversations give off a smell as well. The apostle Paul said, "But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, emphasis mine).
Does your attitude give off an aroma of Christ? Are those around you drawn to Him as a result of the love and peace you display? Do your conversations consistently honor God, embody the fruit of the Spirit, and expel the fragrance of life ... or are they sometimes laced with bitterness, resentment, anger, complaining, and gossip? It's time to locate and throw away our stinky, sour attitudes, and ask the Lord to renew our minds. Let's run the race before us as women of honor who, through the power of the Holy Spirit, give off an aroma of Christ.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, please forgive me for all of the times I've allowed sinful behavior to creep into my thoughts and conversations. I ask that You will now, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read, write down, and commit to memory the following verse: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law" (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV).
Spend some time in prayer right now. Ask God to reveal to you any areas in your life that might not "smell" as they should. Then talk to a trusted friend about what He brings to your heart, and ask her to pray for you and hold you accountable.
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As I'm finishing up this devotion, I've got a pot of fresh coffee brewing. Oh, how I love the smell of my dark roast! :-) It's important to understand that when we put love in, we will live love out. Spend some time in God's Word today. I have a GiG challenge for you: for the next 21 days, read one chapter of the New Testament book of JOHN per day and ask God to speak to your heart through His Word.
As you are in your home and about town in your car, play some worship music!! Why wait? Listen to some now!! Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website. If you don't have the resources to invest in your worship library right now, listen to Gwen's music FREE on her MUSIC FACEBOOK PAGE: http://www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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July 20, 2009
Pulling in the Welcome Mat
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV)
Friend To Friend
I hate to admit it, but there have been times when I have pulled in my welcome mat from the front porch. Once, a neighbor became furious with me for correcting her child. She called and told me what a terrible person I was. Who did I think I was for correcting her little angel? I won't go into all the gory details, but let's just say she was less than flattering. I did apologize but decided on a new no-nonsense policy for dealing with my neighbors.
"Lord, I have a plan," I said. "Here's the deal. I am not going to make friends with any of my neighbors. I am going to keep to myself, stay in my own yard, and play with my own toys. I am going to remove the welcome mat at the front door and make sure the alarm-system warning sticker is displayed in a prominent place. No borrowing a cup of sugar. No talking over the fence. No anything! I am even going to import my son's friends. This "Just Say No to Neighbors" policy is in effect immediately."
The next day, I dropped my son off at a YMCA basketball camp. At pick-up time, we moms were standing around talking while waiting for our sons. There was a pretty blonde there, and I heard someone ask where she lived. "I've just moved from the Myers Park area of town to Stratfordshire Drive in the Matthews area," she said. Then she looked over at me and smiled.
That was my street! She knew I had heard her, and she knew I lived on that street. I politely returned her smile and felt panic creep in. What was I supposed to do? My new policy had been in effect for less than forty-eight hours.
I told God that I would introduce myself, but I reminded Him of my "Just Say No to Neighbors" policy. After all, I did not want to be rude, just distant. I introduced myself to Debi, welcomed her to the neighborhood, and chatted for a few minutes. Then I grabbed my son by the shirt and scurried away.
That afternoon there was a knock at the door. When I looked out the window, guess who was standing on my porch? None other than my new cheerful neighbor, Debi who was just dropping by to say hello. As I opened the door, I again reminded the Lord of my plan, just in case He had forgotten. My guard stayed up for about five minutes after she strolled into my house.
Debi walked into the sunroom and exclaimed, "Oh look, we have the same china pattern. And I see you like to collect things with bunnies on them. I just love bunnies, don't you? I have them all over my house. Oh, look, we even have some of the same bunnies!"
We discovered that we both enjoyed decorative flags and had one for each month of the year. Then with a luminous smile, Debi said, "You know, when we moved in and I saw the cute flag with the firecrackers hanging by your porch, I just knew we would be friends." And we have been ever since that day. We go to flea markets together and reach for the same items. We paint together, look for bargains together, and go on garden tours together. And although I had been quite capable before, now it seemed I could no longer make any home decorating decision without first getting her opinion.
My "Just Say No to Neighbors" plan lasted less than two days. Since then, I have opened my heart and home to other neighbors, and many have become my extended family. I'm so glad that God ignores my silly resolves. After all, it's His house too.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, may Your presence continually fill my home as I invite others within its walls. May it be evident that You are the Great Host within who permeates every nook and cranny with Your grace and love. Help me to be faithful with the divine appointments You give with neighbors and friends each day. Help me to keep the welcome mat of my home freshly swept and ready to greet all who come my way.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take some time to pray over each room in your home.
Start with your doorway. Pray that those who enter your house would not only find an open door for friendship and love, but an open door to know and experience Christ personally.
Consider what makes each room special and ask God to make His presence an active part of that room's environment.
Pray for each chair-that those who would sit in them would find great rest and fellowship in reclining there.
Pray over each bed-that those who would sleep in your home will find peaceful sleep and comfort during their stay.
Pray over anything else you feel is an important part of your home environment-that God would be glorified in each object and activity that takes place there.
To comment on today's devotion, visit Sharon's blog at www.sharonjayesn.com/blog
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Today's Devotion was taken from Sharon's very first book, At Home With God, a collection of stories of God's gentle nudges that turn ordinary days into extraordinary moments. To learn more, visit www.sharonjaynes.com
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July 21, 2009
Rest in God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV) "Come to me all you are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Friend To Friend
We live in uncertain times. Where do we turn for rest, for hope, for peace and stability? Jesus offers rest and hope and the promise of a better tomorrow. How can we experience the peace and rest God so freely offers?
Admit your need for rest. Many of us have bought into the lie that who we are is based on what we do or don't do. We fill every waking moment with something or someone in order to prove our worth. After all, we must be worthy if we are doing worthy things, right? Busyness does not always equal productivity. When we admit our need to rest, we are acknowledging the fact that we are imperfect and that our human power if limited. We need to rest in Him.
Turn to Jesus to find rest. Recreation is anything you enjoy doing while relaxation is any activity that slows you down. Restoration is an inside job and can only be found in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. We once had an Australian cattle dog named Dallas. Australian cattle dogs are extremely loyal to a master of their choice. Dallas chose our son, Jered, to be his master. When Jered came home from school each day, Dallas would greet him at the door and follow him wherever he went. If Jered was doing homework in his room, Dallas would find a spot under Jered's desk and lay down. If our son was working in the garage, Dallas was with him. When Jered ran an errand, Dallas went for a ride. Dallas knew that the only place he would find rest was at the feet of his master. The same is true in our life.
Lay your stuff at Jesus' feet. The number one stress in your life is the burden you have assumed that is not yours to carry. Exhaustion comes when we fail to take on a responsibility God never intended us to bear. The twin of exhaustion is emptiness which comes when we fail to take on a responsibility God does intend us to take on. God empowers His plan and agenda for our life. When we step outside of that plan, we are stepping into our own power and depending on our own strength, both of which will soon be depleted.
Realize you are not alone. For years, our family vacationed in the mountains of North Carolina in order to escape the brutal heat of South Florida where we lived. We all had our favorite thing to do while on vacation. Dan loved to read and take long walks in the cool, green forests. The kids loved wading in creeks, looking for "gold." My favorite activity was shopping for antiques. Now let me define "antiques" and "antique stores" according to Mary. The best stores were nestled in the mountains on some remote dirt road and the "antiques" were what most people would call junk. One year, I walked into a shop and stopped in my tracks when I saw the yoke. One of my husband's favorite passages of scripture is Matthew 11:28-30 where Jesus says, "Take my yoke upon you ... and you will find rest for your souls." For years, I searched for just the right yoke to give Dan as a special gift. It seemed that every yoke I found was either too big or too small and in less than stellar condition. The yoke before me was in perfect condition and was just the right size and price. Upon closer inspection, my excitement faded.
Yokes have two loops of leather or wood attached to a sturdy wooden frame. Two working animals wore the loops around their necks in order to bear whatever load they were given. The loops on this particular yoke were not the same size - one larger than the other. When I pointed out the flaw, the shop owner said, "It is supposed to be made like that. The stronger animal is placed in the larger loop to help the weaker animal pull the load. A shared load is a lighter load. Rest is found in a personal relationship with God and with others.
Are you tired and exhausted from trying to live life on your own? Come to Jesus - just as you are. Find rest in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the rest you promise to give when I come to You. It seems like I am always tired and every step is hard. Please forgive me when I turn to You as a last resort instead of running to you first. Today, I turn to You, Lord, for rest.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ÿ Read Genesis 2:2. How does this verse apply to your life?
Ÿ Read Lamentations 5:5. How does rest apply to the difficult people in your life?
Ÿ Read Job 33:26. Notice every "action" word in this verse. What does God promise when we choose to apply the steps He outlines in this verse?
Ÿ Identify the areas of unrest in your life. Bring them to God in prayer and seek rest in Him.
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Rest has always been a struggle in my life. I am finally learning that fatigue is not a spiritual gift. In fact, when I refuse to rest physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am choosing to sin. When I think I have the least amount of time to rest is when I need to rest the most. How about you, friend? Isn't it time to find rest?
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God. One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. Blessings.
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July 22, 2009
Circles in the Sand
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The Israelites had moved about in the desert forty years until all the men who were of military age when they left Egypt had died, since they had not obeyed the LORD. For the LORD had sworn to them that they would not see the land that he had solemnly promised their fathers to give us, a land flowing with milk and honey" (Joshua 5:6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
One night, I was sitting on my sofa doing some paperwork when I noticed a large red fire ant crawling across my sand colored carpet. Being that I was comfortably molded into the seat cushion, I didn't want to get up. So I waited until the ant was within striking distance before I reached for my shoe to put an abrupt end to his journey. The carpet was just a few months old and I didn't want Mr. Ant's remains to leave a permanent mark, so I just banged on him softly. Just in case he wasn't "all the way dead," I left my shoe lying on top of him until I was ready to get up.
To my surprise, a few minutes later, a shaken ant eased his way out from underneath his leather prison and began to limp away. I guess his vision, equilibrium, or left side was impaired, because instead of making a mad dash toward the door, he began to totter, making a series of left turns and going in circles.
Thirty minutes later, my husband, Steve, walked into the room. "There's a big ant crawling on the floor."
"Yeah, I know," I nonchalantly replied.
"Why don't you get a tissue and get rid of him?" he asked.
"I will when I get up," I answered.
"Aren't you afraid he'll crawl away by that time?"
"Nope," I responded confidently. "He's been going around in circles for thirty minutes. I'll get rid of him when I get up."
Sure enough, forty minutes after the ant's trip to nowhere began; I finished my work, got a tissue, and sent him on a trip to visit the city's water treatment plant.
This scenario made me think about another creature that traveled in circles. Well, a lot of creatures in fact: about two millions Israelites - and not for forty minutes, but for forty years.
The Israelites had been under the Egyptians' shoe for 400 years. Then God called Moses to convince the Pharaoh that their brick making days were over and it was time for them to move on. Moses was to lead this band of slaves to freedom - to a land flowing with milk and honey. With plagues that would excite any professional exterminator, God convinced the Pharaoh that letting the Israelite go would be a good idea. He yelled, "Get those Israelites out of here!"
So they gathered up their belongings (not to mention a few belongings that weren't theirs) and left. Led by a pillar of fire by night and a cloud by day, they moved forward. After marching between the towering walls of the parted waters of the Red Sea, they sang for joy. "Hip, hip hooray! Now we're on our way!" Or so it seemed.
But they didn't joyously parade on to the land flowing with milk and honey. They didn't continue in reverence and awe of a God who had already performed more miracles in their presence than most people see in a thousand lifetimes. Instead they started to grumble and complain. "We're sick of this food." They started to doubt God. "Did He bring us out here to die?" They started to question Moses' leadership. "What are we going to drink?" They bickered among themselves, argued with Moses, and disobeyed God. And each time they stiffened their necks, God told them to take a left turn.
For forty years, they wandered in circles in the sand, like my little friend the ant crawling in circles on my sand colored carpet. An entire generation died out and a new generation was born. One day the stiff necks' prodigy had a light bulb moment. "Hey, we've got an idea," they reasoned, "let's try obeying God and see where that leads us."
Of course, we know where it led them, where obedience to God always leads, on a straight path to the Promised Land.
As I studied the Israelites' journey, I noticed a strange phenomenon. As long as they were going in circles in the dessert, bickering among themselves, they didn't encounter many outside enemies. They didn't fight many battles. There was only one.
But as soon as they crossed over the Jordan and headed in the path called obedience, they were under attack left and right. And so it is with us today. Many have been led out of Egypt (saved from the bondage of sin) and passed through the Red Sea (Jesus' blood) only to continue their Christian walk going in circles going nowhere. And amazingly, in the circular walk, there are very few battles. It's safe - not much action. Satan doesn't need to spend his energy attacking this bunch because they're absolutely no threat to him. But let God's children start walking in obedience and moving toward the Promised Land of spiritual maturity, and the battle's on.
Why didn't I get up from my comfy seat and dispose of the ant? Because I knew he wasn't going anywhere, so why bother. But if he had started heading for the door, I'd have taken care of him immediately.
Are you experiencing spiritual warfare in your life ... Jebusites, Amalekites, Hittites, Gossip-ites, Mocker-ites, In-law-ites, Neighbor-ites? Well, praise the Lord! It must mean you're headed in the right direction and someone's not happy about it. Just keep obeying God and marching forward. The Promised Land is just ahead.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I don't want to be like the Israelites who wandered around in the desert, going in circles for forty years. My heart's desire is to hear Your voice and obey Your bidding. Lord, I let go of the things that keep me in a holding pattern, circling over the runway of life. Lord, anything that keeps me from spiritual maturity, I give to You. Like the obedient second generation Israelites, I step forward with the anticipation of someone headed toward her personal Promised Land.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Draw a picture of your spiritual journey over the past few years.
Are you going uphill, downhill, or in circles?
Which way do you want to go?
Write out a plan to get there.
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July 23, 2009
Satan's Plan
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
George Thomas, a pastor in a small New England town, came to church one Easter Sunday morning carrying a rusty, bent, old bird cage, and set it by the pulpit. Eyebrows were raised and, as if in response, Pastor Thomas began to speak.
"I was walking through town yesterday when I saw a young boy coming toward me swinging this bird cage. On the bottom of the cage were three little wild birds, shivering with cold and fright. I stopped the boy and asked, "What do you have there, son?"
"Just some old birds," came the reply.
"What are you going to do with them?" I asked.
"Take 'em home and have fun with 'em," he answered. "I'm gonna tease 'em and pull out their feathers to make 'em fight. I'm gonna have a real good time."
"But you'll get tired of those birds sooner or later. What will you do then?"
"Oh, I got some cats," said the little boy. "They like birds. I'll let the cats have them."
The pastor was silent for a moment. "How much do you want for those birds, son?"
"Huh? Why, you don't want those birds, mister. They're just plain old field birds. They don't sing and they ain't even pretty!"
"How much?" the pastor asked again.
The boy sized up the pastor as if he were crazy and said, "I'll take ten dollars!"
The pastor reached in his pocket and took out a ten dollar bill and placed it in the boy's hand. In a flash, the boy was gone. The pastor picked up the cage and gently carried it to the end of the alley where there was a tree and a grassy spot. Setting the cage down, he opened the door, and by softly tapping the bars persuaded the birds out, setting them free.
Well, that explained the empty bird cage on the pulpit, and then the pastor began to tell this story. One day, Satan and Jesus were having a conversation. Satan had just come from the Garden of Eden, and he was gloating and boasting. "Yes, sir, I just caught the world full of people down there. Set me a trap by using bait I knew they couldn't resist. Got them all!"
"What are you going to do with them?" Jesus asked.
Satan replied, "Oh, I'm going to have fun! I'll teach them how to marry and divorce each other, how to hate and abuse each other, how to drink and smoke and curse. I'll teach them how to invent guns and bombs and kill each other. I'm really going to have fun!"
"And what will you do when you get done with them?" Jesus asked.
"Oh, I'll kill 'em," Satan glared proudly.
"How much do you want for them?" Jesus asked.
"Oh, you don't want those people. They are no good. Why, you'll take them and they'll just hate you. They'll spit on you, curse you and kill you. You don't want those people!"
"How much?" Jesus asked again. Satan looked at Jesus and sneered, "All your blood, tears and your life." Jesus said, "DONE!" Then He paid the price.
The pastor then picked up the cage, opened the door and walked from the pulpit.
Today, my friend, consider the price Jesus Christ paid for you. Go back to the Cross - to Calvary and the darkness that once filled your world. Remember what it was like before Jesus Christ came into your life with His presence and power. We forget. We lose sight of where we were when He came and just how far He has brought us.
Today is a good day to go back over the books and celebrate! Celebrate an undeserved and stubborn love that has radically changed our lives for eternity. Celebrate a forgiveness that covers every sin and shame. Celebrate a hope that is found only in a crucified and risen Lord!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for paying the price for my sin and for taking my place on the cross. Your forgiveness has changed my life and Your love has set me free. I don't understand why You would choose to love me like You do, but I celebrate that love today, Lord. Forgive me when I take Your love for granted and help me share it with others - for Your glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of five things God has done in your life in the last month.
Take the time to re-visit those blessings and examine the way(s) they have changed your life.
Set aside time to celebrate God's power and presence at work in your life.
Invite a few friends to join you for the party! Let each person share the good things God has done for them as well.
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July 24, 2009
The Wrestling Match
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." (Ephesians 6:10-12, NIV)
Friend To Friend
It was the end of the school year. The sun was blazing in the sweltering high 80s with not a hint of shade to be found on the treeless playground. The boys were stinky from their sweaty schoolyard endeavors and the girls were now wilted versions of the fresh flowers they had been that morning. It was almost time for the big wrestling competition. Electric excitement lingered in the air. I was a fifth grader at West Hempfield Elementary School in Irwin, Pennsylvania and I had signed up to participate in the wrestling match.
To this day, I'm somewhat amused and perplexed that I would've thrown myself into the middle of such a barbaric display. Wrestling certainly wasn't my sport of choice, or even a faint interest of mine. So, as we all gathered around the red and white striped gymnasium mats for the annual, end-of-the year wrestling tournament, I was sweating bullets...not just from the relentless, yellow ball of heat in the sky, but also from the nerves that consumed my body.
Before the match even began, I was a captive to the bully in my brain. What do you think you are doing? This is ridiculous! Caroline is not only three inches taller than you, but she's meaner than you, and she's in the sixth grade! You are going down, Gwen. Prepare to be humiliated in front of every fourth, fifth and sixth grader in the school.
At the sound of the whistle, the match was on. Caroline and I danced around like two alley cats with their backs raised high. She had a confidence in her eye that was foreign to me at that moment. A series of unskilled and ungraceful moves followed. (Cringe with me here!) She lunged and I retreated. I lunged and she retreated. Then came contact. Within seconds we were on our hands and knees battling for control. Battling for the win.
The sounds of the crowd were deafening as Caroline moved in to get the better of me. All I could think was 'just DON'T let her get you on your back!" Feelings of hopelessness and desperation flooded my heart as she and I exchanged move for move. There were several points allotted and several restarts from Mr. Gordon's whistle. In the midst of this primitive battle, my goal had changed from trying to win to just trying NOT to be pinned...therein lies the defeat.
As the match came to an end and the final whistle blew, it was Caroline's victorious arm that was raised high in the sky. I was defeated in front of half the school. Cheers went up for Caroline as I shrunk back into the sea of students, longing for super powers that would render me invisible. I was exhausted from the match, humiliated from my failure, and defeated by both Caroline and my own mind.
That was a dark day for me as a young girl. But as dark as that day was emotionally, I was able to clearly see my opponent. Ladies, when it comes to spiritual wrestling matches, we do not have the advantage of sight. The Bible says: "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." (Ephesians 6:12, NIV)
Many of the battles we contend with each day are spiritual. We can't see our enemy. And while at first glance this may seem disarming, look again at Ephesians 6. The Bible clearly tells us that we can be equipped to stand firm with the Armor of God!
"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints." (Ephesians 6:13-18, NIV)
Though the wrestling match with Caroline seemed overwhelmingly daunting, the battles that I face now are so much greater. I'm thankful that God's word clearly says the victory is ours if we are in Christ. If God is for us, who can be against us?
What are you wrestling with today? Is the enemy speaking lies to you? Do you feel weak? Strength comes when we call on Jesus! We can stand firm against the schemes of the devil when we put on the armor of God! Suit up girls...a battle is going on all around you. Be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank you for being a mighty God who longs to cover my weakness with Your strength. Please equip me for all that lies ahead today, protect me from attacks and schemes of the enemy, and help me to be strong in Your mighty power. Cover me with Your peace, truth, faith, and salvation so I can stand firm in the battle.
I ask this in the powerful Name of Jesus,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the top struggles you are currently facing
Take each struggle to the LORD and ask that He would equip you for the battle
Contemplate the advantages of putting on the Armor of God
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July 27, 2009
It's What's on the Inside that Counts
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7 NIV).
Friend To Friend
My husband, son, and I had traveled to Cancun, Mexico for a vacation. It was fun family time, but the trip home was grueling. The airport was full of hot, sweaty, smelly vacationers anxious to return home. Unfortunately, because of various delays, the flight was rescheduled for a later time. Filled to capacity, the darkness of the night could not hide the fact that the aircraft was old, dirty, and decrepit. It didn't matter that the flight crew spoke little English, because the plane was so loud that we couldn't hear what was said anyway. My son kept insisting, "Mom, when we walked by the plane to get on, I saw duct tape on the left rear wing!" When the flight attendant demonstrated the emergency procedures, we all paid very close attention. As a matter of fact, I don't think I ever remember seeing such an attentive group of passengers.
After we were finally airborne, the flight attendant announced that because of flight delays, the Charlotte customs office, our final destination, would be closed when we arrived. So we had to stop over in Florida to go through US customs.
At midnight, ninety hot, tired, disgruntled passengers disembarked, checked their carryon bags through customs, picked up their luggage at the baggage claim, checked it through customs, and then returned to board the same rickety plane. This didn't sound too complicated, except for one problem: one of our suitcases, containing my husband and son's dirty clothes, did not make it to baggage claim. It was missing, probably somewhere back in Mexico. We were a little upset, but filled out the necessary claim form for lost luggage, hoping for the best. After all, it was only clothes, and dirty ones at that.
The next day as he settled down for some quiet time with the Lord, my husband reached for his Bible. But it was nowhere to be found.
"Honey, have you seen my Bible?" he asked. "I can't find it anywhere!" As soon as he finished his sentence, he remembered where he had put it. His Bible was in the lost suitcase with all the dirty clothes. Suddenly, the suitcase was no longer unimportant. This was the Bible that I had given to him on our honeymoon years earlier, the Bible that I had rebound on our tenth anniversary, the Bible with study notes written on every page. We began to pray. We called and asked others to pray. We had to get that suitcase back!
As I spoke to the Lord about the suitcase, He spoke to my heart. Isn't it amazing how the realization of what was inside the suitcase changed its value? So it is with My people. You may look at someone and see only filthy rags, but I see a beautiful creation and a possible dwelling place for My Son, and that makes them valuable.
Never again will I look at the dirty and downtrodden the same way. I realized that day that each person has great value as a possible container of something -- Someone -- very special, Jesus Christ, God's own Son. He stands at the doors of many who, in our eyes may appear as lost luggage, filled with filthy rags. But now when I see such a person, I try to imagine, as though I had X-ray vision, a little black Bible hidden somewhere among the clutter, and I can see them as my Heavenly Father sees them --valuable, dearly loved, and precious.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, help me to remember that beautiful treasures are often contained in most unlikely packages. Help me to view each person in my world as God sees them --as a possible conduit for the Holy Spirit created by God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you enjoy collecting jewelry or other small items of great value? You can turn each one of these personal treasures into a prayer and ministry opportunity. You will need the following:
Ÿ 5-10 of your favorite valuables; and a safe place to put them, yet visible so you don't forget that they have a purpose for this activity.
Ÿ 5-10 names of people you have a desire to begin seeing as God's treasures. These may be people that have not accepted Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. They may be people who do know Christ, yet you have a difficult time loving or viewing as valuable to God. There may also be someone you know who has a difficult time loving themselves or seeing their life with value and purpose.
Ÿ A pen or pencil
Ÿ A pad of small-sized sticky notes
Ÿ Write the name of each person, separately, on a sticky-note or label tab.
Ÿ Then place each sticky-note/label tab on a separate valuable.
Ÿ Place the valuables where you will see them daily, and commit to pray for each person listed on each object accordingly.
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PS. This is for those of you who read to the end J, we did get the suitcase back -- Bible intact.
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July 28, 2009
The Chosen Woman
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I made you in your mother's womb, I chose you" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
After teaching elementary school for several years, I decided that my students would never again play any game that required children to choose teams because, inevitably, the least popular or most athletically challenged children would be left standing alone, on display, easy targets for derogatory labels and ridicule. We began choosing teams on the basis of birthday month, favorite flavor of ice cream or color of clothing worn that day. The result was that every child was chosen.
The reality is that we all long to be chosen, loved by someone who sees us as we really are and recognizes our worth. Esther was chosen by God but like many of us, felt unworthy of that choice. Esther was an orphan, an insignificant and unknown Jewish girl living with her uncle, Mordecai, when she was chosen to be Queen, the wife of Persian King Ahasueras. Esther reigned for only a short time when Mordecai learned of a plot to assassinate the King. Mordecai told Esther who told Ahasueras. The guilty men were executed and the king's life was spared but life for the Jewish people became extremely difficult.
Haman, a very influential but evil officer in the king's court, was promoted to the second highest position in the land. Haman hated the Jews and convinced the King to issue a law that all people had to bow to the King or they would be executed. That law would mean certain death for not only Esther and Mordecai, but for every Jew who bowed only to God. And there was one other small problem. The King did not know that his new queen was a Jew. As Esther and her people fasted and prayed for God's direction, Esther planned a banquet for the king and Haman. During the banquet, Esther revealed Haman's plot and the fact that she was a Jew. The King condemned Haman to die and saved the Jewish nation. In short, God raised Esther up to save her people.
Esther was a woman just like us, with hopes and dreams, strengths and weaknesses. She was imperfect, insecure and also chosen to be queen.
Esther 4:14 "And who knows, you may have been chosen queen for just such a time as this" (ICB).
Esther was chosen - not just by a King but by God. God placed Esther in a high position of leadership at a very special time and for a very special reason. The same is true in your life and in mine. You are no accident and where you are is no surprise to God. Situational ethics is now being taught in many schools. One teacher, wanting to illustrate that human reasoning is many times wrong, gave the following situation to a class of students: "How would you advise a mother who was pregnant with her fifth child based on the following facts. Her husband had syphilis. She had tuberculosis. Their first child was born blind, their second child died while their third child was born deaf and the fourth child had tuberculosis. The mother is considering an abortion. Would you advise her to have one?" Most of the students agreed that she should have an abortion. The teacher then announced, "If you said 'Yes' you would have just killed the great composer Ludwig von Beethoven!"
You and I were created in response to the loving plan of God.
Psalm 139:14-16 "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old" (NCV).
We were created in love ... for love. God Himself supervised our formation. We were created for a special purpose and with a unique plan for our lives. In other words, we were created by God for God!
Psalm 100:3 "Know that the LORD is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends" (NCV).
In this verse, "LORD" literally means "Father" or "dearest daddy." We were not created to be His puppet. We were created for an intimate relationship with God. He created us and chose us. And just as God had a special plan for Esther, He has a special plan for you.
Jeremiah 29:11 "I know what I am planning for you," says the LORD. "I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future" (NCV).
The best plan for our lives rests solely in the hands of the One who created us. In the early days of the automobile, a man's Model T Ford stalled in the middle of the road. No matter what he tried, the car wouldn't start. Finally, a chauffeured limousine pulled up behind him and a wiry, energetic man stepped from the back seat, offering his assistance. After tinkering for a few moments, the stranger said, "Now try it!" Immediately the engine leaped to life. The well dressed man then identified himself as Henry Ford. "I designed and built these cars," he said, "So I know what to do when something goes wrong."
God is our creator. When our lives are broken, He can heal them. When the plan falls apart, He can fix it. We are wanted, loved and cherished by God. We belong to Him. We are chosen.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for loving me. Thank You for the plan You have for my life. I want to follow You and obey you each day - for Your glory, Lord. I want others to examine my life and know that the only possible explanation is You. When I am in trouble, remind me to turn to You first for the answers I need. Help me to walk in the Light, to doubt my doubts and to celebrate the fact that because I am chosen ... I am blessed. I love You, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In your journal, record a word, phrase or sentence that describes your identity in Christ, using the word below:
C _________________________________________
H _________________________________________
O _________________________________________
S _________________________________________
E _________________________________________
N _________________________________________
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There are still times when I find it difficult to wrap my heart and mind around the unfathomable truth that God chose me -- for anything. I guess that is the wonder of it all to me. He loves this unlovable daughter. He chose this unlikely servant. The only explanation is grace -- God's amazing grace. My every breath should be a celebration of that grace, knowing that in Him, I am loved, worthy and chosen. Join me, my friend, in celebrating our worth in His eyes.
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July 29, 2009
Stars
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He determines the number of the stars and calls them each by name." (Psalm 147:4, NIV)
Friend To Friend
A few years back, as my kids were playing with Play-Dough at the kitchen table, they enthusiastically called me over to view their creative masterpieces. I noticed that my son Hunter had used a small cookie cutter to make a bunch of blue stars. As I looked at the work of his small hands, I was reminded of a Bible verse. So I asked them, "Did you guys know that the Bible talks about stars?" I continued, "It says that God made all of the stars in the sky and has named each one!" Without hesitation, my daughter Kennedy, who was five years old at the time, excitedly responded "Like George, Junior, and Kelsey?"
After the laughter waned, we had a simple, yet special conversation about God's love for us. I really enjoy those moments of simplicity ... the times when we pause to think about God's handiwork and His Word as it applies to us. I can't help but shake my head when I consider this thought: if God directed His attention to the stars and named each and every last one ... how much more does He direct His attention to His children who are made in His image and purposed in His love?
It's not uncommon for me to watch my children play in the backyard. While I do care what they say to one another, how they behave, and if they're safe, I love to watch them just because they're my kids and because I love them. Do you know that God delights in you and loves you simply because you are His? Not because of what you do or don't do, not because of what you say or don't say and not because of what neighborhood you live in or what dress size you wear. He just -- flat out -- loves you!
Psalm 145:20a says, "The LORD watches over all who love him...."
I'm so glad that I don't have to perform for God in order to be loved by Him. Just like the stars in the heavens, we were handmade by the Master of Life. He watches over us, loves us, and extends mercy to us through Jesus. I need that mercy daily. We all do. I hope that today you will intentionally remember, this and look for opportunities to extend that same attention, love, and mercy to the people in your life.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for loving me just because I'm Yours. I've spent too many days not relishing that simple truth. Please open the eyes of my heart to how personal Your love is and give me to strength to extend that love to the people in my life.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Tell your child, children, or a special child in your life, that you love them unconditionally regardless of what they do or say.
Have you extended love to a friend recently? Call someone today with a word of unsolicited encouragement.
Write God a love letter -- thank Him, worship Him and love Him.
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I recorded a modern version of the old hymn "The Love of God" on my Unsearchable CD. In my opinion, this lyric is one of the finest ever written. Please visit my facebook music page to listen to the song for free and to worship along. Here's the lyric:
The Love of God
by Frederick Lehman, Addl. Chorus by Mark Harris
The love of God is greater far
Than tongue or pen can ever tell
It goes beyond the highest star
And reaches to the lowest hell
O love of God, how rich and pure!
How measureless and strong!
It shall forevermore endure
The saints' and angels' song.
When years of time shall pass away,
And earthly thrones and kingdoms fall,
When men, who here refuse to pray,
On rocks and hills and mountains call
Could we with ink the ocean fill,
And were the skies of parchment made,
Were every stalk on earth a quill,
And every man a scribe by trade,
To write the love of God above,
Would drain the ocean dry.
Nor could the scroll contain the whole,
Though stretched from sky to sky.
And my lips will sing of a steadfast love
For I've been redeemed by the Saviors blood
And my heart is clean, all my sins are gone
I have been set free by the love of God
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July 30, 2009
Help! I'm Angry!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 4:26 "In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Today, I received an email from one of my long time friends, Sally, asking for prayer. Sally is one of those moms - you know - the ones who really have their act together when it comes to being creative and efficient. Sally is also quick to encourage other young moms to "hang in there" when they want to run away from home. But today, Sally is the one looking for the line where she can go to resign as a mom. It happens to the best of us, doesn't it?
It is summer and all four kids are home. During the month of May, Sally spent countless hours on a special summer project for her children - an individual "Fun Box" uniquely designed for each child to pull out during the summer months when boredom threatened. Let's see, that is four children and three months per child which equals twelve boxes guaranteed to keep her kids happily occupied.
The good news is that the kids loved the boxes! The bad news is that those twelve boxes are already gone and according to my friend, so is her sanity. Furthermore, the kids don't go back to school until mid-August, so she is scrambling for ways to make the rest of the summer an enjoyable time for her family. Sally's biggest problem at the moment seems to be anger and how to help both her and her kids deal with their anger in a constructive, God-honoring way. Controlling anger is a subject we all need to address.
Anger is not sin, but the place we give it in our life and the way we respond to it can be. God created us with emotions, which means He has a plan for controlling and using those emotions for good. Our children are both grown and now have children of their own, but looking back, I realize that we have all learned a lot about dealing with anger. While these pointers are specifically directed at moms as they interact with their children, I think we can all benefit from taking a closer look at how we deal with anger.
· Kids, especially young ones who don't know how to control their emotions may strike out by hitting, biting, pushing or yelling at another child, or even a parent or caregiver. It's up to parents to teach them the right ways to express their anger and frustration. Right now, ask the Holy Spirit to teach you God's ways for dealing with anger.
· Help your child understand that anger is a normal emotion, but one that we must learn to control.
· Help children identify their anger. Some kids yell and scream while others get an upset stomach, headache or even cry without really knowing why.
· Identify the real issue behind your child's anger and talk about it. It may be a response to a new rule or to correct their behavior.
· Teach cool-down techniques. For example, counting to 10, taking deep breaths or writing angry thoughts on a piece of paper that you later tear up. Physical activity, such as relay races, swimming, riding a bike or playing an outside game can help children control emotions and work off emotional energy.
· Help children make a list of good choices they can make and good things they can do the next time they are angry.
· Make sure your child has a healthy diet and gets plenty of rest.
· Limit exposure to violence on TV, on the internet or in electronic games.
· Help your child handle stress by instituting a "quiet time" each day during which they listen to praise music and just rest.
· Pray with your children, asking God to help them control their anger. Encourage your child to pray for the people who make them angry.
· Encourage your child to ask for and give forgiveness when their anger has caused hurt feelings.
· Model anger management in your own life and diligently guard the emotional setting of your home.
· Choose verses from the bible about how to control emotions such as anger. Memorize these verses with your children. Keep them posted on the refrigerator door, bathroom mirror or dashboard of your car as a constant reminder that God will help us when we are angry.
Anger flourishes in uncertain times, is highly contagious and can destroy everything in its path. Don't let it. Instead, choose now to control anger instead of allowing it to control you.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the times when I have allowed my anger to spill out on others, causing hurt and harm. Teach me how to control my emotions through the power of the Holy Spirit and the discipline of Your Word. Help me to model Your heart before my family and friends as I choose against anger and wage peace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize five verses dealing with anger management. Record them in your journal.
Think back to the last time you lost your temper. What were the consequences?
If you could go back and change anything about that experience, what would it be?
What one hedge of protection can you place in your life today that will help you control anger tomorrow?
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June 31, 2009
Beauty & Worth
Angela L. Craig
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
Song of Songs 4:7 (NIV) "All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you."
Friend To Friend
Beauty and worth - these two concepts seem to be the ones we as women struggle with most. Would you agree?
It is not hard to figure out how this has happened. Turn on any television or open any magazine and you are faced with the female "expectation." In the eighties, we saw the commercial, "I can bring home the bacon...fry it up in a pan...and never let you forget you're a man." Now in 2009, we have American Idol's "Bikini Girl." Fabulous!
The report, Beauty at any Cost, noted U.S. women spent some $7 billion a year on cosmetics and beauty products. Friends, just think of the time and money we invest in an attempt to look better. Society has us convinced that the pursuit of beauty will reward us with approval and happiness, but honestly, do we feel any better about ourselves? Do we feel more beautiful or more valued?
A few nights ago, I was reading Eugene Peterson's book, Run with the Horses-The Quest for Life at Its Best in which the author tells the story of the Prophet Jeremiah from Jeremiah, Chapter 13. The words absolutely jumped off the page! I actually screamed so loud that my poor husband thought I was on fire. In reality, it was the gift of God giving me a big "aha moment" through this narrative. I pray that you hear His voice as you read these words too!
One day in the bazaar, he [Jeremiah] had bought a fine linen garment, the kind worn for a wedding ceremony or a religious festival. I always imagine Jeremiah making a production out of the purchase, spending most of the afternoon bargaining with the shopkeeper (not in itself an unusual practice in the Middle East) so that a lot of people would know of the purchase. The word would get around: "What is Jeremiah buying that fine linen garment for? What special event is coming up? What was he invited to that we weren't?"
Then Jeremiah made a show of wadding up this beautiful piece of clothing and sticking it in a rock crevice to keep it safe until the time that he was going to wear it. Later he went back to retrieve it, as if to wear it for the special occasion. It was rotten, in tatters because of exposure to the elements and the insects.
The people got the message: Israel was the fine garment that God wanted to wear, but she wasn't ready yet to be used for His purposes. She wanted to live an ordinary life first, so she wadded herself up and stuffed herself into the secure routines, separating herself from what God had at great cost purchased her for, but when that day comes, it will turn out that she is good for nothing. The beautiful moral life that she set aside for a more convenient day will turn out, when she picks it up, to be mildewed and moth-eaten.1
When I read that excerpt, I felt like the writer made a mistake. He really meant to put my name in the place of Israel. It should have read: Angela got the message. Angela was the fine garment that God wanted to wear, but she wasn't ready yet to be used for His purposes. She wanted to live an ordinary life first, so she wadded herself up and stuffed herself into the secure routines, separating herself from what God had at great cost purchased her for.
You see ladies, we have no idea that we are the finest linen, bought at the highest price, loved and cherished by the King of all kings! If we did, we would quit trying so hard to be everything that the world expects us to be. Instead of stuffing ourselves into a crevice to be destroyed by mildew and moths, we would live as God-made, gifted women, like the beautiful garment He created us to be.
It is time to stop the masquerade. It is through God's eyes -- not the world's - that we need to view and capture our true beauty and worth.
"All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you" (Song of Songs 4: 7 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I need to see my beauty and worth through Your eyes, not the opinions of the world. Help me. Bring my mind into alignment with what the Bible says about me and my purpose on earth. Surround me with encouraging people of faith that will build me up and not tear me down. Thank You for making me a woman of beauty and worth!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
1) You are beautiful and you have immeasurable worth. Meditate on Psalm 139. If you do not have a Bible, you can look up this passage online at: www.crosswalk.com under the heading "Search the Bible" on the right side of the home page.
2) Self-care is important but sometimes beauty can become an obsession and negative self-talk can become destructive. Evaluate how much time, money, or negative self-talk you spend on outer beauty. Is there anything that leaves you feeling mildewed or moth-eaten? Ask God to help spotlight areas which may be hidden to you. A trusted friend can be helpful at seeing these areas as well.
3) Connecting with others by enrolling in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
1 Peterson, Eugene. Run With The Horses -- The Quest for Life at Its Best. Downers Grove, IL: IVP Books (1983) Page 140.
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August 3, 2009
Messenger from Heaven
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and lighting on him. And a voice from heaven said, "This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased" (Matthew 3:16-17 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Katie lay in her bed trying not to think about the pain in her abdomen. For years she had taken care of many patients as she nursed the sick back to health. But now she was the patient. Just four weeks had passed since her doctor said those words that kept echoing in her mind.
"Katie, it isn't an ulcer, like we originally thought. It's cancer - pancreatic cancer. And it has already spread to your liver and your lungs."
"How long do I have?" she questioned.
"I'd say about three to six months," he replied.
Three to six months. She replayed her past fifty years on the stage of her mind. Her thoughts were filled with frantic questions. "How did this happen? What went wrong? How did I get to this point?"
Katie had accepted Jesus as her Savior when she was a young child. But that seemed like a lifetime ago, and in a way it was. Now her thoughts were filled with shame, regret, and guilt. The verses of the woman at the well came to mind. Jesus spoke to the Samaritan woman and said, "Woman, where is your husband?"
She answered and said, "I have no husband."
Jesus replied, "You have well said, 'I have no husband,' for you have had five husbands and the one who you now have is not your husband."
"Lord, you know all that I've done," Katie prayed. "How I've fallen away from following You. I've been married twice and the man I'm living with now is not my husband. Is that why this is happening to me? Am I being punished? People have told me that You still love me, but I feel so alone. Have you left me too, like all the other men in my life?"
Katie reached for her Bible and it fell open to Luke 3 where John baptized Jesus. "And the Holy Spirit descended upon Him in bodily form like a dove, and a voice came out of heaven saying. 'Thou art my beloved Son; in Thee I am well pleased.'"
Tears ran down Katie's dry cheeks like streams in the desert. "Where are you Lord? Please don't desert me."
Katie turned her head to look out at the sun glistening over the tranquil lake in her backyard. Suddenly, as though he emerged from the pages of Luke 3, a dove fluttered to her window sill and perched on its ledge.
Katie hugged her Bible to her chest as she and the dove locked eyes. He seemed to say, "Yes Katie. I do love you. You may have strayed away from the path that I had marked out for you, but that hasn't changed My love. I never left you and I'll stay right here by your side until the day I come to take you home."
The dove stayed on the window sill for quite some time, and Katie thanked the Lord for sending this messenger like the one from long ago. Indescribable warmth fell over Katie's body as she realized that God did indeed still love her.
Three months later, that dove came again to my friend Katie. Only this time, when he soared back toward heaven, Katie's spirit went with him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You that there is no sin so great that Your grace will not forgive, no place so far that Your love cannot reach, no heart so cold that Your mercy cannot melt. Thank You for saving me -- for taking my filthy rags and giving me a robe of righteousness, for taking my sinful nature and making me into a new creation, for taking my sorrow and giving me Your joy.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write down any sin in your life that is greater than God's grace.
Write down any sin in your life that God cannot forgive.
Write down any sin in your life where what Christ did on the cross is not enough.
Dear sister, I do hope that your paper is blank.
Can you relate to Katie in this devotion? If so, how?
What would you have said to Katie had you been by her bedside during her last days?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God. To learn more about this resource, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. While you're there, check out the summer resource special -- Building and Effective Women's Ministry.
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August 4, 2009
I Surrender!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
1 Peter 3:10-11 "Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, here's what you do: say nothing evil or hurtful; snub evil and cultivate good; run after peace for all you're worth" (MSG).
Friend To Friend
"I'm done with it! This battle just isn't worth fighting! I'm tired. It's hopeless." As I listened to my girlfriend verbally bleed from her wounded heart, I silently lifted up a prayer and asked God for wisdom. Her pain was real. Her troubles were not imaginary. She was desperate. She wanted a way out of the maze of disappointment and betrayal she had gotten lost in. Out of the strong undertow of angst that had swept away her hope. Out of the darkness that had covered her life and taken her captive.
No easy answers flooded my mind. I had no slick, three-point "sermonette" to offer her. I'm not a therapist. I don't even play one on TV. I'm just a Christian girl who tries to be there for her friends. So, I didn't feel wise or brilliant that day as I gently, but confidently said: "I think the only way to win this battle is to surrender."
Not to the problem, but to the solution. Not to the conflict, but to the resolution. Both the solution and the resolution are found in the same nail scarred hands. In order to win in any earthly struggle or relationship battle, we must put away the weapons of our wounding words, and set aside the arsenal of our angry actions. Then with knees to the earth, we must raise a white flag in surrender...to the King.
What do we need to surrender? Our pride and expectations...our gripes and lamentations...our calculated manipulations...our righteous indignation...everything.
In order to live victoriously and win the battles we face in life, we've just got to surrender our flesh to the Spirit.
"Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless--that's your job, to bless. You'll be a blessing and also get a blessing"
(1 Peter 3: 8-9) MSG.
On the battlefield of war, when we raise the white flag of surrender, we lose. But on the battlefield of life, when we surrender, we win -- if, and only if we surrender to God and not to our circumstances. We cannot control the variables beyond our own responses, but God will surely bless the woman that walks in obedience to Him.
In a public address titled "Absolute Surrender," Andrew Murray said: "God is ready to assume full responsibility for the life wholly yielded to Him. The condition for obtaining God's full blessing is absolute surrender to Him."
Are you ready to wave that white flag? Blessings await you, friend.
Let's Pray
Lord, This is such a tough one! My life is complicated. It is very hard for me to relinquish control, yet I know that You are calling me to do just that. Help me to surrender my life into Your hands. Please dissolve my resentment, anger, fears and frustrations. Help me to choose Your ways, so that I can obtain the full blessings of absolute surrender.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a moment to thoughtfully consider what barriers exist in your heart that keep you from being willing to surrender.
Pray that God would crush those barriers for His purposes.
Meditate on the lyric of this famous classic hymn as you lift your heart in surrendered worship:
I SURRENDER ALL
Words by: J.W. Van Deventer and Music by: W.S. Weeden
All to Jesus, I surrender
All to Him I freely give
I will ever love and trust Him
In His presence daily live
I surrender all
I surrender all
All to Thee, my blessed Savior
I surrender all
All to Jesus I surrender
Humbly at His feet I bow
Worldly pleasures all forsaken
Take me, Jesus, take me now
All to Jesus, I surrender
Make me, Savior, wholly Thine
Let me feel the Holy Spirit
Truly know that Thou art mine
All to Jesus, I surrender
Lord, I give myself to Thee
Fill me with Thy love and power
Let Thy blessing fall on me
All to Jesus I surrender
Now I feel the sacred flame
O the joy of full salvation!
Glory, glory, to His Name!
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Friend, God can work miracles in any and every situation! No matter what you face, you can choose how you respond to your circumstances. The more I dive into His Word, the more I understand that God's power is made strong through our weakness. Surrender your weakness to Him today and find God's strength.
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and to then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.gwensmith.net.
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August 5, 2009
A Contrite Heart
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble" (James 4:6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
In the Old Testament, there is an interesting account of two kings, two sins, two convictions, and two responses. What makes it interesting is that one king's sin doesn't seem so bad, but his kingdom was taken away, and yet the other king, who committed a heinous act, is referred to as a "man after God's own heart" (1 Samuel 13:14). But I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's take a look at these two stories.
King Saul was "elected" the first King of Israel, mainly because he was tall, dark, and handsome. He would have looked great on TV, if there had been such a thing back then. Oh, he didn't really want to be king at first and hid when the people began chanting his name. But, he sheepishly accepted the kingship, and God anointed him with the Holy Spirit. Things went pretty well for King Saul at first. He won a few battles, gained the respect of his followers, and gathered the booty from the conquered foes.
As a matter of fact, Saul became so confident that he decided being a King wasn't so hard after all. He decided he didn't need God or the prophet Samuel who was appointed over him. After each battle, Saul was supposed to wait for the prophet Samuel to come and offer sacrifices to the Lord. But Saul disobeyed God, and offered the sacrifice himself -- basically making himself a prophet. Samuel arrived just as Saul was putting the finishing touches on the sacrifice.
"What have you done?" Samuel exclaimed.
Saul replied, "When I saw that the men were scattering, and that you did not come at the set time, and that the Philistines were assembling at Micmash, I thought, 'Now the Philistines will come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not sought the Lord's favor. So I felt compelled to offer the burnt offering" (1 Samuel 13:11-12).
Oh, I could quote Saul word for word, but let me sum it up for you. Instead of repenting of his sin and asking for forgiveness, Saul...
Defended himself
Justified his actions
Blamed others
Tried to cover up his sin
Acted as though nothing had happened
Was more concerned with looking good to his peers than repenting of his sin (1 Samuel 15:30).
What was Saul's most heinous sin? I don't think that it was actually assuming the role of prophet and the offering of the sacrifice. I believe that was an outgrowth of his sin. Saul's sin was pride. And even though he was caught red-handed with the blood of the animal sacrifice still on his hands, Saul did not repent of the sin of pride. He was an unrepentant, unbroken man.
Now let's look at the second king, with the second sin, and the second response.
King David was Saul's successor. While Saul was the people's choice as king, David was God's choice. One day, while the rest of the men were at war, King David was lollygagging around the palace. While strolling on the roof, he noticed his next door neighbor bathing on her roof. He saw, he wanted, and he took. David committed adultery with his neighbor's wife, Bathsheba, and subsequently plotted the murder of her husband to cover it up. Several months later, when David was confronted by the prophet Nathan, he did not try to defend himself, justify his action, blame others, or cover up his sin.
David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the Lord" (2 Samuel 12:13).
David repented before the Lord, mourned before his people, and penned two beautiful psalms humbling himself before generations yet to come. Yes, he was "a man after God's own heart."
As we see with these two kings, God is more concerned with the depth of our repentance than the breadth of our sin. As Martin Luther once said, "God creates out of nothing. Therefore until a man is nothing, God can make nothing out of him."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me of the sin of pride in my life. I admit that I have tried to take things into my own hands, have not waited for Your direction, and have thought more highly of myself than I ought. Help me to be more like Jesus, who, "being in the very nature, God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing" (Philippians 2:5,6) Break my pride, Lord, as a loving master breaks the stubborn will of a wild mare.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you see any areas of pride in your life?
Is there a sin that you have been hiding rather than repenting of?
Are you more concerned about what God thinks of you or what other people think of you?
Does your life reflect the attitude of King Saul or King David?
What is your attitude when confronted about sin in your life?
(Dear friend, these are hard questions. I do not ask them lightly, but struggle with you to be a woman after God's own heart.)
Write out your own prayer of repentance for any sin that you've been holding on to.
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August 6, 2009
The Habit of Forgiving
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 1:7 "In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace" (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, a family friend showed up at our front door with an electric sander for my husband, Dan, encouraging him to try woodworking as a stress relieving hobby. Over the next several months, Dan not only developed a love for woodworking but created some beautiful pieces of furniture in the process. Being a supportive wife and the main benefactor of his newfound hobby, I felt a responsibility to encourage my husband in any way that I could.
For every birthday or special event, I bought him a power tool and strategically distributed a list of specific power tools for friends and family members to consider as a gift choice. Within a year, Dan enjoyed a fairly impressive collection of tools - which he proudly displayed in the garage -- and I had several new pieces of furniture which I proudly displayed in the house. But by far, the most precious by-product of Dan's new hobby was watching our son, Jered, as he worked beside his daddy. Day after day, they headed out to the garage for some "daddy time." Dan built a work bench just for Jered beside his own slightly larger work station. Jered had his own tool box and tool belt just like his Dad's. I could hear them singing, laughing, hammering and buzzing happily away for hours. Since Dan especially loved working with pine, he kept a good supply on hand, piling leftover or unused pieces in Jered's wood box for his own special projects. There was one problem. Jered was completely fascinated by those power tools and was constantly sneaking into the garage hoping that his dad had left one plugged in for him to use. We had to come up with a solution -- and fast!
Christmas was just around the corner, so Dan and I went from store to store until we found the ideal gift for Jered and the perfect solution to the power tool dilemma. It was the cutest workbench with its own set of plastic tools. We wrapped and placed the workbench under the tree, anticipating the look on Jered's face when he opened his "workshop in a box." Christmas morning came and every gift had been opened but the strangely wrapped bulky one waiting for the resident junior carpenter. With sheer delight, Jered ripped the paper away, revealing our "perfect" present. Cautiously picking up the red hammer, he conducted a thorough examination of each and every tool before he turned to us, his face a picture of disappointment and determination. "These are baby tools. I cannot use them because I am not a baby. I have to use real tools like Daddy's tools."
With a sense of finality, Jered headed straight for the garage and certain danger. His dad followed him outside as I prayed for just the right words of explanation for both father and son. Kneeling down beside his son, Dan picked up the sander and gently said, "Jered, these tools were made to fit Daddy's hands." Holding out his big hands and placing Jered's small hands in them, Dan pointed out the difference in size. He went on to explain that in Jered's hands the tools could be destructive and harm him. But in Daddy's hands, they were constructive tools that could build and create.
Revenge was never intended for our hands. It belongs in the hands of God. Our revenge destroys while God's revenge brings justice and restoration. Part of true forgiveness is releasing the hurt and letting go of the pain! Instead, we often hold onto that pain, using its power to fuel the revenge we seek. It is easy for our hearts to become bent on revenge. But the Apostle Paul issues a strong warning about revenge. "Do not take revenge, my friends...leave room for God's wrath. 'It is mine to avenge. I will repay,' says the Lord" (Romans 12:19).
We must make forgiveness a habit. The apostle Peter once came to Jesus asking, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, 'I tell you, not seven times, but seven times seventy.'" The religious priests of Jesus' day taught that an offended person needed to forgive only three times. Jesus' answer must have shocked Peter. Seventy times seven! Four hundred and ninety times! How could anyone possibly keep up with that many offenses?
Exactly! That was the point that Jesus was trying to make. We are to keep no record of wrongs! There should be no limit to our forgiveness because there is no limit to God's. When we refuse to forgive, we become a prisoner of our own bitterness, making the person we are unwilling to forgive our jailer! Forgiveness cannot be conjured or worked up; it is a deliberate choice that we must continually make. If we make the choice to forgive, God will supply all the forgiveness we need.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the gift of forgiveness. I don't understand how You could send Your only Son, Jesus Christ, to pay for my sin. I choose to accept His payment by faith. Please help me to walk in Your forgiveness and grace. And Lord, I want to forgive like You have forgiven me. Give me a humble heart and a willing spirit that longs to share Your grace and mercy with others.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize the following verses. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. Now choose one way you can apply each verse in your life this week:
Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."
Romans 6:23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Romans 10:10 "For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."
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Forgiveness is our greatest need but it is also God's greatest gift. We must choose to let go of pain and hurt, making forgiveness a life-changing habit. Who needs your forgiveness today? Don't waste another minute clinging to your anger or hurt. Forgive that person who has wounded you and set yourself free.
Mary's message, "The Power of Forgiveness" is available as both a CD and MP3 download and be sure to check out her online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. On August 17, Mary begins a new study, How to Find Your Missing Peace. Don't miss it!
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August 7, 2009
Seek Me with Your Whole Heart
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
God promised, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13). This is more than a casual glance before heading off to work or to the carpool in the morning. It's more than a hit and run encounter with God. He desires to speak to us through the pages of our Bible and it requires meditating and seeking God with our whole heart.
Jesus told His followers, "If you abide in my Word then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32). Abide means to continue in, to tarry on, to dwell on, and to remain. It is not reading the Scripture for information, but for transformation. There are many scholars who have read the Bible for information, but have never entered into a relationship with Jesus Christ. This reminds me of the difference between the woman who memorizes a menu at a restaurant and a woman who enjoys the food. Only one gets truly fed.
Let me ask you, who can describe a sunset more accurately -- a blind person who has read all about sunsets (what causes the colors, the time of day they occur, the effect of clouds on the hues) or the person who has seen and experienced the vibrant oranges, blues, pinks and purples painted across the sky as the sun creeps below the horizon and the rays play peek-a-boo behind the scattered clouds? I dare say the one who has experience the sunset for herself.
When we study God's Word and couple that study with listening to His voice, we will come to know Him on a much more intimate level than a Biblical scholar who has studied the words on the page but never taken the time to converse with the Author Himself.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You that You have given me Your Word as a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. I pray that as I spend time with You each day, You will open the eyes of my heart to see You more clearly. I pray that I will be able to hear Your still small voice in the clatter of everyday life. I love You, Lord, and can't wait to see what You have in store for me today!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As you read the Bible today, ask God to show you something that you have never seen before.
As God reveals His truth to you today, write down what you've learned.
As you write down what you learned from God's Word today, also write how you are going to apply it to your life.
How passionate are you about hearing from God through the pages of His Word?
With that in mind, how much opportunity are you giving God to speak to you? In other words, how much time are you spending abiding in Him?
Remember, abiding in Christ is not necessarily how many verses you read, but how in tune you are with God.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Women who Listens to God. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God through the Bible, prayer, nature, circumstances and other people, check out this resource. It also comes with a Bible study guide that is great to use with a group, or on your own.
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August 10, 2009
Friendship - God's Unique Design
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 18:24 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I believe that God, our Father, understands a woman's desire to have close friends. He made us that way. He created us to be in relationship.
In Luke 1, the angel Gabriel delivered some pretty incredible news to young Mary. While still a virgin, she was going to conceive a child by the Holy Spirit and give birth to the Savior of the world. Before Mary could catch her breath, the angel continued by telling her, "Oh, by the way, your supposedly barren cousin, Elizabeth, is also pregnant with a child in her old age" (Jaynes version). He knew the young girl was going to need the encouragement of a friend who would understand, so before she could even ask, He sent her to Elizabeth.
So Mary, probably around sixteen years old, traveled one hundred miles from Galilee to Judea to spend three months with her friend. When Mary walked into Elizabeth's home, the older woman gave her a blessing. "Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished! "(1:42-45).
Can you imagine the turmoil Mary felt as she traveled to Judea? "No one is ever going to believe me? Joseph could have put me away. And what will my parents think?" Can you imagine how those words of encouragement were a balm to the young girl? God divinely revealed His plan to Elizabeth and she in turn affirmed Mary before Mary even revealed her news to Elizabeth. What a precious Lord we serve!
Mary was so encouraged, she broke out into song. She stayed with Elizabeth for about three months, no doubt helped with the labor and delivery of John and then returned home.
Jesus Himself had best friends. Think of concentric circles with graduated smaller ones inside the larger like an archery target. His first and largest realm of influence was to the multitudes. Next, He gave special attention to 72 men whom He sent out ahead of him to every town and place where he was about to go. Smaller still, Jesus gathered 12 men to be His good friends whom He closely discipled, but then He chose an even smaller group of 3 to be His best friends -- Peter, James and John. These three men were privy to Jesus' transfiguration (Mark 9:2), his deep sorrow in the garden (Mark) 14:32), and the joy of the empty tomb (John 20:3). But then there was a "place of deeper still" -- the bull's-eye of friendship, if you will, that Jesus shared with no man. It was a place reserved for God alone.
Before His arrest, Jesus took Peter, James and John with Him to Gethsemane to pray. However, He left the three and went a "little farther" to be alone with His Father. It was a place where no man could join Him, no man could calm Him, and no man could reassure Him. He had to go alone. I honestly believe that is a place we rarely go, but a place where Jesus longs for us to join Him.
Dee Brestin, in her book, The Friendships of Women, describes our relationships "like gently moving streams joining into one river, we round the difficult bends of life together, strengthening each other with a fresh water supply. We are free and flowing and unconcerned with boundaries....We are afraid to run toward the ocean alone. We feel a sense of panic in solitude." (Dee Brestin, The Friendships of Women, (Wheaton Illinois: Victor Books, 1988) p37.)
What a beautiful picture of the refreshing, refueling, and renewing power of friendship. However, our friends were never intended to meet our greatest need to be in relationship. No woman - or man- can fill all our emotional needs, and if we look to one friend for everything or even a few, we'll be doomed to disappointment. That is an empty place only Jesus can fill.
I have found that when I feel empty inside and try to grasp desperately at friends to fill the void, I come up emptier than before. At those low points, friendships seem to elude me. The more frantically I grasp, the more elusive true friendships appear. However, if I go to Jesus Christ, allow Him to fill me with His love, I move from needy to full, and from being a taker to a giver. Then I find friendships are plentiful.
When God calls us to come "a little father" away to be completely alone with Him in the garden of our souls, but we go to others instead, we will be sorely disappointed. People are a poor substitute for God.
However, I do believe that there are times when God gives us the wonderful gift of friendship with another. When we find such a friend, we have found a treasure indeed.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank You that You have created women to be in relationship with other women. I pray that You will send me that special friend with whom I can share my deepest longings, dreams, desires, and struggles. I pray that she and I will help each other grow closer to You each time we are together. I thank You for the friends that I do have and pray that You will teach me how to be an encouragement to them. Most of all, Lord, I desire that You call me Your friend. Forgive me when I go to others, when I need to go to You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How do you think Mary and Elizabeth spent their time together?
What common ties did they have during their lifetime?
Why do you think God sent Mary to Elizabeth, rather than some other relative?
Write a letter to a woman who has been a mentor to you, thanking her for her friendship and example. Tell her specific ways she has been a mentor to you.
Make a list of younger women, or perhaps younger women in the faith, to whom you can be a friend and mentor.
If you do not have a close Christian friend, ask God to send you one, and then pay attention to those who cross your path.
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Having friends is part of having a balanced life. To learn more about the seven key areas of a woman's life and how to keep them in proper perspective and balance, see A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life, co-authored by Sharon Jaynes and Lysa TerKeurst. Also, Sharon's book, Building an Effective Women's Ministry is greatly reduced for the summer! It is the perfect resource for those just beginning in women's ministry or those looking for fresh ideas.
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August 11, 2009
The Worker
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3: 23 "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving."
Friend To Friend
A woman was at work when the baby sitter called to tell her that her daughter was very sick. The woman quickly left work and she stopped by the pharmacy on her way home. When she came out of the pharmacy, the now frantic woman discovered that she had locked her keys in the car. Grabbing her phone, she called home only to hear that her daughter was worse. Looking around for help, she spotted an old, rusty coat hanger lying on the ground. She picked it up but had no idea how to use it. By this time, the woman was in a panic so she bowed her head and prayed for help. An old rusty car pulled up and out came a dirty, greasy, bearded man wearing an old biker skull rag on his head. The woman was desperate so she decided to be thankful for answered prayer. The man took the hanger and in less than a minute opened the car. She hugged the man and through tears of relief said, "Thank you so much! You are a very nice man!" The man replied, "Lady, I am not a nice man. I have been in prison for car theft and just got out an hour ago." The woman hugged the man again and sobbed, "Thank you, God, for sending me a professional!"
We all want to be successful in our work. Your office may be downtown or just inside your front door. Your work clothes may be a Casper suit or jeans and t-shirt. You may be paid in cash or with crayon drawings and sticky kisses. None of these things makes us successful in the work place. Success in the work place is not determined by where we work...but by how we work.
The Worker's 23rd Psalm
The Lord is my boss, and I shall not want.
He gives me peace, when chaos is all around me.
He reminds me to pray, before I speak in anger.
He restores my sanity.
He guides my decisions that I might honor Him in all I do.
Even though I face absurd amounts of e-mail, system failures, copier jams, back-ordered supplies, unrealistic deadlines, staff shortages, budget cutbacks, red tape, downsizing, gossiping co-workers and whining customers,
I won't give up, for You are with me.
Your presence, peace and power will see me through.
You raise me up, even when the boss fails to promote me.
You claim me as your own, even when the company threatens to let me go.
Your loyalty and love are better than a bonus check.
Your retirement plan beats any 401K, and when it's all said and done,
I'll be working for you a whole lot longer!
(Author unknown)
God is Lord of all -- or He is not Lord at all! Yet, we often fail to yield certain parts of life to His control. The reality is that 95% surrender is still 5% short. God wants everything we are or ever hope to be. Making Him Lord is the only way He can fully accomplish His plan and purpose in our lives. And until He is Lord, we will never be contented.
The workplace is a common area of life where we find it easy to live out our own agendas. For some reason, we seem to think that once we sit down at our desk, report for duty or clock in, we enter a "No God Allowed" zone. How sad -- when He stands ready and waiting to not only equip and empower us to be the best employee we can be, but desires to pour out His blessings upon our work.
An even greater opportunity and blessing comes when God uses us in the workplace to share Him and His message of love and restoration with those who are seeking Him. God strategically places us on a chosen mission field called "job". A fellow employee needs to see a godly response to unfair criticism. A boss needs to witness the quiet, gracious spirit of submission -- even in the face of a difficult job change. A fully devoted follower may be the only person who reaches out and ministers to someone in need. Make no mistake, friend. Everyone on the job is watching to see if we are "the real deal". It may be the most important "sermon" they ever hear.
I challenge you to do your work "unto Him" and see what He does in and through a life committed to making Him Lord of all!
Let's Pray
Lord, forgive me for my attitude about work. Today, I choose to see my workplace as an altar upon which I lay my service as a sacrifice of praise for all You have done in my life. Help me to love my co-workers in a way that makes them know there is a God. Help me to encourage my boss when he/she is overwhelmed. Use my voice and the words I speak to turn hearts toward You and Your love. Build in me the discipline I need to be a stellar employee who honors You and pleases You in the workplace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you see as your main purpose in your present workplace?
Are you happy in your job? Why? Why not?
Examine your heart attitude about your job. What changes need to be made?
Think of one person you work with that needs your love and encouragement. Make a plan - this week -- to encourage that person in some way.
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Isn't it amazing to think that God has fashioned a "work" for each one of us to do? We often think God is only interested in "church work". Nothing could be further from the truth. When Jesus lived on earth, He spent most of His time outside the temple walls, with people. He visited their homes, their workplaces, their parties...anywhere people were is where Jesus wanted to be. We need to have that same attitude when it comes to the workplace. God has placed you in your job for many reasons. Today, celebrate the mission field called "work" and ask God to use you in a great way. Amen.
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August 12, 2009
Which Character Will You Play?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." (Jeremiah 33:3 NIV)
Friend To Friend
One Saturday night, my family hunkered down on the den sofa with an oversized bowl of popcorn, tall glasses of soda, and an action-packed vide Raider's of the Lost Ark, starring Harrison Ford. We were ready to be entertained by suspense, intrigue, and a touch of romance. Like any good movie, there were three principal characters: the good guy, the bad guy, and the damsel in distress. The good guy, Dr. Indiana Jones, who was a professor of archeology, obtainer of rare antiquities, and student of the world-renowned Dr. Ravenwood of the University of Chicago, quickly charmed us. The bad guy, a waxy-faced Nazi with a sinister grin and breathy laugh, who was always accompanied by an entourage of brutal, salivating, gargantuan, henchmen, quickly appalled us. Then there was the damsel in distress -- the not-so-fair Marian, daughter of the now deceased Dr. Ravenwood and sole proprietor of a drinking establishment in the snowy mountains of Nepal.
In the opening scene, Dr. Jones is pulled from teaching his archeology class to meet with two agents from U.S. Army Intelligence. It seems that Hitler is obsessed with religion and the occult and is on a mission to find the whereabouts of the Ark of the Covenant which has been missing since Solomon's temple was destroyed in 586 B.C. Obviously, the government officials missed a few days in Sunday School, so Dr. Jones fills them in on the significance of this rare treasure. The Ark contains the Ten Commandments and symbolizes the presence of God.
The government officials explain they have intercepted a German communication that reveals the Nazis are searching for the Ark of the Covenant in Cairo, but in order to determine its exact location, they need a map that is engraved on a gold medallion, once owned by Dr. Ravenwood. Dr. Jones' mission, should he choose to accept it, is to locate the medallion, uncover the Ark of the Covenant, and bring it safely back to the United States.
Professor Jones, with the gleam of adventure in his eyes, whisks off his bow tie and wire-rim glasses and dons his suede Indiana Jones hat, leather whip, and trusty pistol. Off he goes to Nepal to find the fair Marian and hopefully, the medallion (which she has been wearing around her neck for years). Unfortunately for Marian, the waxy-faced Nazi also realizes that she is the key to finding the map and pays her a little visit just before Indiana Jones arrives. In adventure film fashion, a fight ensues, a fire breaks out, and the damsel's life is in peril. Just before the blazing walls come crashing down, the spy notices the gold medallion engulfed in flames and hanging from a pole. Without considering the consequences, he grabs the metal disc from the flames, only to quickly drop it from his hot little hand, but not before it leaves a lasting impression. One side of the map is forever burned into the palm of his hand. Of course, Indiana Jones comes to the rescue. The music soars; the hero cracks his whip, saves the damsel in distress, and recovers the medallion.
The Germans, thinking they have the map in the palm of their hand (actually the palm of Mr. Waxy-Face's hand) start to dig. But what Professor Jones realizes is that the map is actually on the front and back of the medallion. The Germans have only half of the map and thus are digging in the wrong place.
Now I have to tell you, this was supposed to be an evening of mindless activity and purely entertainment, but God spoke to me is a big way. He used this movie to teach me about searching for God's presence, hearing His voice, and how different people go about it. Many people would like to have the presence of God in their camp. And just like in the movie, we could potentially play one of three roles.
Some people are like the damsel, who had been wearing the treasure map around her neck for years, but had no idea what it was. She only wore it because her beloved father had given it to her as a gift. Likewise, there are those who wear a cross around their neck, but don't truly understand the significance of the gift of sacrifice and salvation from their heavenly Father. There are others who have a dusty Bible on a crowded bookshelf or displayed on a living room coffee table, but don't realize that it contains God's Words to them. They don't understand that the Bible is the map to experiencing God's presence and hearing His voice in their daily lives.
Some are like the bad guy with only one side of the medallion burned into the palm of his hand. They have heard parts of Scripture, read a few verses here and there, or visited a church on Holy Days such as Easter or Christmas. They are searching for hidden treasure of life, but because they don't understand the whole truth of God, they are digging in the wrong place.
Finally, some are like the heroic Dr. Jones who possessed the whole map and knew exactly where to search for the treasure above all treasure -- The Ark of the Covenant -- the presence of God. Oh the joy that comes from following God's map...not just parts of it...but all of it. God has not left us alone to figure out this thing called life on our own. He speaks to us through the pages of the Bible to tell us great and mighty things we did not know (Jeremiah 33:3).
The movie was over. My popcorn bowl was empty, but my heart was full. As the credits rolled across the screen, God seemed to say, "There are three principal roles. Which character will you play?"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that You have given me the entire map of where to find the treasure of all treasures...eternal life. Help me to unfold Your truth all the way, see the entire picture, and not simply look at one panel or one particular part. Thank You, Lord, for loving me enough to give me a map with such clear directions. I am looking forward to the day when I reach my final destination and spend eternity with You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
In the above devotion, which character do you resemble the most?
Which character would you like to resemble the most?
Do you need to make any adjustments in your life in order to have the map readily accessible in your mind?
If so, what adjustments do you need to make?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God through the Bible, prayer, creation, circumstances and other people, then this book is for you. In it, Sharon also teaches about Road Blocks that hinder hearing from God and how to remove them. Also, make sure and check out the featured summer resource.
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August 13, 2009
Be a Joy-Giver
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 10:28 "The prospect of the righteous is joy."
Friend To Friend
We all want to live a joy-filled life. Right? But it seems that everyone has their own definition of joy and their own plan of how to get it. A pastor told the story of a beautiful lesson he learned one day when he casually wished one of his older church members a good day. The man remarked, "They're all good days, Pastor. It's what we put in them that changes them."
Joy is the deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. When our life is under the control of God, priorities fall into place; life is simplified and is soon characterized by joy. Proverbs 10:28 says, "The prospect of the righteous is joy." In this verse, the word "prospect" means to view or to anticipate. The word "righteous" mentioned in this verse refers to those who have given their lives to Jesus Christ, have been made righteous by His blood and have been given right standing with God. To experience joy, God must be the Lord or the boss of our life. As our Lord, He produces joy and makes it a reality in us.
Over the next two days, we are going to look at the life of Paul and the letter he wrote to the church at Philippi, which we now know as the bible book, Philippians. Paul was a simple man but one who profoundly understood and experienced joy in its truest sense. I really don't understand why, because Paul wrote the letter in the midst of brutal circumstances that were anything but joyful. He was in prison, awaiting trial and facing his own execution. Paul was old, alone, almost blind and in poor health, having suffered severe and constant physical abuse because of his faith in God. To me, Paul had no earthly reason to be joyful. But here's the deal. Joy is not an earthly treasure. Joy is a heavenly gift from a loving Father who is committed to the joy of His children. Joy is a "God-thing."
I love the story of the little girl who misquoted her favorite bible verse: "...that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have ever-laughing life." Exactly! Jesus not only came to give us life but to give us a life saturated with joy now and for all eternity.
If you are like me, there are many times when I look at myself and wonder how in the world God could possibly love me and want me to be happy. That thought just rocks my world because He does love me and He does want me to live a life that is filled with His joy. And He loves you the same way. Why?
I believe the first reason is that Jesus loves us - not because we are so lovable - but because He is love. However, there is a second and just as important reason - to give that joy away. God wants us to be joy-givers. Most of the time, we are focused on what will bring us joy when we should be focused on how to share God's joy with others. The paradox is that when we share our joy with others, we will have more joy ourselves.
Paul was a joy-giver. Paul gave to the church at Philippi and while he was there for a visit, the church at Philippi gave back to him. In Philippians 4:15, Paul says "You people in Philippi remember when I first preached the Good News there." Paul is basically writing a "thank you" note for their gift to him, but more importantly, Paul is thanking them for being "joy-givers" in his life.
To experience joy, we need to stop and remember what we have been given. We tend to think first of temporary things when our true wealth lies in eternal things such as the miracle of knowing Christ personally and having all of our sins forgiven. A personal relationship with God brings purpose and meaning to life and His very presence will produce joy. You cannot give what you do not have. To be a joy-giver, you must first have joy.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be a joy-giver but often find it hard to encourage others when I am so down myself. Please teach me how to choose Your joy instead of trying to create it on my own. I want to know You more and experience the joy that only You can give. Today, please teach me how to be a joy-giver.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Make a list of the things in your life that bring you joy.
· How many of the things on your list are earthly treasures?
· How many are eternal?
· Read 1 Thessalonians 5:16. How does this verse compare to your understanding of joy? What do you think "always" means in this verse?
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It has taken me years to realize that joy is not an emotion or feeling. Joy is a deliberate choice to enthrone Jesus Christ as Lord of my life. Only then can I have the peace and confidence that God is in control - no matter what life looks like today. I don't always understand the way He works but I do understand that His ways are higher than mine and His heart is filled with incomprehensible love for me. And that is enough.
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August 14, 2009
Be a Joy-Giver
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:12 "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
I once heard a story that offers a great prescription for joy. A young believer came to a man who had followed Christ for many years with this complaint. "I have lost my joy!" the young man said. The older, wiser Christian responded, "Go out and do something for someone else. Then repeat that act of kindness nine times. Then you will find joy!"
When we develop the habit of looking for a need and then meeting it, we will experience joy as never before. Many times, instead of looking for a need, we look the other way.
Once upon a time
There were four men named
Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.
There was an important job to be done
And Everybody was asked to do it.
But Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it.
But Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about it
Because it was Everybody's job.
Everybody thought that Anybody could do it
And Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody
And Nobody did the job
That Anybody could have done in the first place. (Author unknown)
It is a paradox in the Christian life that the more we give, the more we receive. In Luke 6:38, we find an amazing promise, "If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving--large or small--it will be used to measure what is given back to you." If you want joy, learn to invest your life in others. Be on the lookout for a need and meet it. God created us to share each other's load because a shared load is a lighter load.
F.B. Meyer once noted: "I used to think, that God's gifts were on shelves-one above another and the taller we grow, the easier we can reach them. Now I find that God's gifts are on shelves, one beneath another and the lower we stoop, the more we get." The apostle Paul says it this way in 2 Corinthians 9:10, "For God is the one who gives seed to the farmer and then bread to eat. In the same way, he will give you many opportunities to do good, and he will produce a great harvest of generosity in you."
· Give materially.
· Give your time.
· Give encouragement.
· Give a praying heart.
· Give a listening ear.
· Give yourself.
The more you give the more joy you will experience. The more joy you have, the more you will want to give - but you cannot out-give God. He rewards "joy-givers."
Philippians 4:17 "Really, it is not that I want to receive gifts from you. But I want you to have the good that comes from giving. Your gift is like a sweet-smelling sacrifice offered to God. God accepts that sacrifice, and it pleases him." The idea of a sweet-smelling sacrifice is taken from the sweet-smelling incense that was burned along with the Jewish sacrifices. When we meet a need in the life of someone, it is a pleasing aroma to God and a sacrifice of praise to Him. In fact, when we meet someone's need, we are actually giving through that need to God Himself. In other words, that met need becomes a deposit slip in our kingdom account. Joy-givers please God and the perspective and heart behind the giving matters.
Three men were hired to work on a large building project. One was asked, "What are you doing?" He responded, "I'm mixing mortar. The second man said, "I'm helping put up this great stone wall." When the third man was asked, he replied, "I'm building a cathedral to the glory of God." Perspective is a powerful thing.
In Philippians 4:19, Paul goes on to say that when we meet the needs of others, God will meet our needs. "My God will use his wonderful riches in Christ Jesus to give you everything you need." When we give out of our limited resources, God gives out of His unlimited resources. What a solid foundation for a life of joy! We simply cannot out-give God.
I recently read the testimony of a man as he shared this story: "I got off at the Pennsylvania depot as a tramp and for a year, I begged on the streets for a living. One day, I touched a man on the shoulder and said, "Hey mister, can you give me a dime?" As soon as I saw the man's face, I was shocked to realize that it was my own father. "Father, do you know me?" I cried. Throwing his arms around me, tears streaming down his face, he said, "Oh my son! I finally found you! You ask for a dime? Everything I have is yours." Think of it. I was a tramp who stood begging my own father for ten cents when, for 18 years, he had been looking for me to give me all that he had.
God stands today, arms open wide, ready to pour out His unspeakable gift of joy into our lives so that we can have joy; so that we can share that joy with others. Our gift back to Him is to be a joy-giver.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am so focused on what I can get that I ignore what I can give. Help me to see others as You see them, to love others as You love them and to give like You give. May I be a vessel through which Your joy flows into the people around me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 2 Corinthians 9:8. What does this verse promise to those who give generously?
Would others describe you as a generous giver? Why? Why not?
What do you think the link is between giving and joy?
What change(s) do you need to make in your life in the area of giving?
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I know it seems illogical to think that the more we give, the more we receive. However, I have seen this truth become a reality in my own life. Let me challenge you this week to concentrate on what you can give instead of what you can get and see what happens to your joy level. I know you will be a blessing and be blessed.
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August 17, 2009
Unsearchable
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I will extol You, my God, O King, and I will bless Your name forever and ever. Every day I will bless You, and I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable." (Psalm 145:1-3, NASB)
Friend To Friend
I fell in love with my husband half-my-life ago, yet with sixteen years of marriage under my belt, there are still moments that I shake my head and wonder, "who is that man?" And while I may not have every mystery about him solved, I do know my husband. I know his voice, his touch, and his quirks. I'm a witness to his character, his personality, and his ways. The same is true about my relationship with God. Over the years, I have learned to hear His voice, to recognize His touch, and to understand some basic truths of who He is.
There are so many revelations of God in His Word. The Bible boasts of His greatness, glory, honor, and character. We know that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb 13:8), that God's grace is sufficient for every repentant heart, and that His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We know that His name is above all other names (Philippians 2:9), that there is no other like Him (Jeremiah 10:6), and that His wisdom holds secrets that are hidden from before time began (I Corinthians 2:7). And for as much as we know about the LORD, our knowledge of Him is but a fraction of a grain of sand as held up to all the beaches on earth.
Though He is the mysterious master Creator who hung each star in the sky and calls them by name, He wants us to love Him, to trust Him, to know Him, and to worship Him. That thought alone sets my mind to wonder! God invites us to participate with Him in a vibrant dance of abundant life through His Son, Jesus Christ. Our amazing Heavenly Father bids each and every one of us to come to Him with questions, to be held by His love, to find peace, hope, and healing in His Son. He calls us to seek Him through prayer and to experience new revelations of Him through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
The voice of all of creation shouts His praise! I encourage you to pause in this moment to consider Him...to respond to Him...to meditate on His glorious splendor. As you do, He will increasingly become the all-satisfying desire of your heart, while at the same time, He will stir up a hunger in your soul to know Him even more.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your greatness truly is unsearchable! I pray that you will continue to stir up a hunger in my soul to know all the mystery of You that remains. Please cause me to think bigger thoughts of You, and to acknowledge You in all my ways.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This devotion was inspired by a worship song that I co-wrote called, UNSEARCHABLE. Take a moment to read through the lyric. Speak it out loud!
UNSEARCHABLE
By Sue Smith and Gwen Smith
Lord I know that your grace is sufficient for me
I know I am held by your love
And You're there when I call
You are strong when I'm weak
You delight over me from above
And You stir up a hunger that I can't explain
To know all the mystery of You that remains
Unsearchable greatness
Unsearchable wisdom
Unsearchable mercy to me
I am lost in the wonder of all that I know
Knowing there's much more to see
Cause you are unsearchable
You are unsearchable
Lord, I boast in Your glory that humbles the stars
Your name has such power and might
And Your goodness and kindness
Have captured my heart
Your Word keeps giving me life
And you stir up a hunger that I can't explain
to know all the mystery of You that remains
Chorus
Hear the voice of all creation crying out (4x)
Now... Go to my FACEBOOK MUSIC PAGE to listen to the song and respond in worship. (Turn on your speakers!)
Read Jeremiah 33:3. "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." What does this verse mean to you? What does this verse tell you about the rewards of calling on our Lord? Thank Him for hearing your prayers and for healing your pains. Be lost in the wonder of Him.
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As you are in your home and about town in your car, play some worship music!! Why wait? Listen to some now!! Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website. If you don't have the resources to invest in your worship library right now, listen to Gwen's music FREE on her MUSIC FACEBOOK PAGE: http://www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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August 28, 2009
I'm Finished Fighting!
Cindi Wood
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Cindi Wood.
Today's Truth
"The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still" (Exodus 14:14).
Friend To Friend
I can't take it anymore, Danita said as she flopped down in the recliner in her den. It was late afternoon, and plenty of evening duties still lay before her. She felt like she'd been putting out fires all day long with no one to help. Somewhere inside of her, she knew she shouldn't be feeling so irritated and helpless. She was running out of energy, and not enjoying life the way she once did. When she breathed her prayer of Lord, please help me ... it was more out of desperation than a sincere cry for help.
Have you ever felt like Danita? Oh, I have! Well, take heart frazzled sister! Your God is strong and mighty to save and, He's longing to invade your daily circumstances and pull you out of the pit. Only our God can bring stability out of the messes of life. As your Heavenly Father, it delights Him to comfort you and rescue you. He understands your stress and knows how the events of daily living can leave you feeling haggard and depleted. If you will turn to Him and allow Him to do so, He will fight your battles, restore your joy, and usher you into victorious living. He is waiting for you to be still.
As a small child, I escaped to the deep end of the pool one day and jumped into water way over my head. I remember fighting underwater, trying to get back to the top. The harder I fought, the deeper I went. I didn't know how to swim. Exhausted, I stopped fighting and expected to drown. Still and helpless, I then floated to the top, where a lifeguard noticed me and quickly pulled me to safety.
Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning in the stress-pool of life, struggling, doing everything imaginable to fight my way to the top, only to arrive nowhere, feeling exhausted and helpless. Then, I finally remember to be still and fall into the arms of my Mighty Rescuer. Not one moment during my frantic struggle does He turn His gaze from me. In fact, He has already rescued me many times. I just don't realize it. In great patience (because He alone knows what's best for me), He waits until I give up my fight of self-sufficiency to demonstrate His power.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, why do I continually try to fight my way through my daily circumstances? Please remind me today, through Your Holy Spirit, to remember how much You long to help me, give me peace and rescue me from the stress I experience. I love You so much and I want to thank You - once again - for being my Mighty Rescuer!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
1) What circumstance, right now, are you battling?
2) Are you willing to step back, take a deep breath, and be still long enough to give the Lord opportunity to demonstrate His power?
3) Take a few moments before leaving this devotion to sit quietly in His presence. Ask Him to open your eyes to His involvement in your situation.
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Life can be so stressful and before you know it, you find yourself engaged in multiple battles. Living like this can drag you and stomp you down bringing mounds of aches, pains, guilt, and helplessness on top of it all! Please know, dear sister, this kind of life is not God's plan for you. I assure you that He's in control and He longs for you to experience His peace. If you'd like to understand more about His plan for victorious living, I invite you to check out the Victoriously Frazzled Bible Study on my web site at www.frazzledfemale.com. May God bless you (and He will) as you give the battle to Him.
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August 31, 2009
Learning The Hard Way
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So do not be foolish with your lives. But learn what the Lord wants you to do. Ephesians 5:17" (ICB).
Friend To Friend
There is only one thing more painful than learning from experience - and that is not learning from experience. Life is a journey, not a destination. It is through that journey that we are born, broken, changed and shaped. God is big on learning the lessons of life because life is His chosen classroom through which He teaches His children His truth. One of the first and most vital truths we need to learn in our walk with God is obedience.
Truth does not change! We must change in response to the truth! A learned truth is an applied truth and when we apply truth, we are practicing obedience. When we don't learn from our wayward steps, we are doomed to make the same mistakes again, falling back into disobedience. It is like climbing the same old mountain again and again!
Dan served as Youth Pastor for many years in South Florida. Each summer, we took the youth on a mission trip to the mountains of North Carolina where they conducted youth rallies in parks, taught back yard Bible Clubs and held worship services in local churches. Everyone worked hard, but each afternoon was free time. We all piled into a rickety old school bus and headed for the mountains to play. Our favorite mountain activity was tubing. One year a pastor told us about a tubing company tucked up in the mountains on Lake Lure, assuring us that the crowds were small, the price was right and the ride was incredible. Off we went!
We soon discovered why it was such a great deal. You couldn't find the place! We got so completely lost - several times. After two hours of searching, we finally found the tubing company and had a great, but short ride. As we headed back to our hotel, one of the counselors wisely suggested that we write down the directions so that we would have them each year. Great idea!
The next summer, everyone was excited about tubing at our new spot - until we discovered that no one had actually written down the directions - and once again, we got lost, wasting an hour of valuable tubing time. I took matters in hand, grabbed a piece of paper and wrote down detailed directions.
The following summer, we were half way to Lake Lure and the mapped out tubing spot when we discovered that we had indeed documented the directions but had left them at the hotel. Once again, we went around that same old mountain, wasting time and energy until we found the tubing place. I looked at Dan and said, "We must be slow learners!"
I am afraid that our Father looks at us many times and with a broken heart wonders, "Why are they so slow to learn and practice my Truth?" In order to learn the ways of God we have to know the Truth of God. Saturating our lives with Scripture is essential to finding and doing the will of God. The Bible is the road map, the blue print and the ultimate plan for our journey.
As we begin to walk in the right direction we must not only have the right directions for today, we must go back and destroy those paths of yesterday that once led us in the wrong direction. Eliminating wrong choices makes the right choices much easier to make. Some of those old paths are familiar and may be hard to uproot. A friendship may have to be ended. A behavior pattern may have to be changed. A habit may have to be eliminated. But if it leads to sin, if it makes it easier to sin, if it entices or tempts you to sin, run from it now! Don't go around that same old mountain of wrong choices again. Learn the lesson and choose obedience.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of going around the same old mountains of defeat and failure in my life. I am afraid of being lost and without direction. Right now, I choose Your ways. Please lead me in them. Help me to see and turn from anyone or anything that would keep me from learning and then obeying Your truth.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a commitment to learn whatever lessons God has for you today. Right now, choose obedience and ask the Holy Spirit to give discernment and power to make the right choices.
Ask God for the wisdom to identify the "old" ways and the strength to turn from anyone or anything that makes it easy to disobey the new ways.
What "new" ways do you need to put in the place of the old ways?
What part does the Holy Spirit and the Word of God play in our ability to be obedient?
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I pray that today's devotion will encourage you to take that step of obedience that you have been flirting with. Don't waste another day of your precious journey by fighting the same old fights. Step into a new land of victory!
Be sure to drop by Mary's online store to browse through books, CDs, MP3 downloads, E-Bible Studies and even special gift items. And don't miss her weekly online bible study, How to Find Your Missing Peace.
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September 1, 2009
Mixed Messages
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters [and girlfriends] this should not be" (James 3:9-10 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
Catherine and I set out for a lazy summer stroll through the neighborhood just before the fireflies emerged to celebrate the setting of the sun. We chatted about raising boys, working husbands, and decorating dilemmas. When we arrived back at her house, she invited me to come in and look at some fabric swatches for a new sofa. Before I knew it, a few minutes turned into a couple of hours.
"Oh, my!" I exclaimed. "It's ten o'clock. I've been gone for over two hours! I bet Steve's worried sick. He doesn't even know where I am. I'd better give him a call before I start back home."
When I dialed the number, the answering machine picked up. After I listened to my sweet Southern greeting, I left a bitter message.
"Steve, I was calling to let you know I'm at Catherine's. I thought you'd be worried, but apparently you don't even care because you won't even pick up the phone!" Click. I said my goodbyes to Catherine and left feeling somewhat dejected. I'm wandering around in the dark all alone and he doesn't even care, I mumbled to no one in particular.
As my eyes adjusted to the darkness, I noticed someone coming toward me. It was Sir Galahad riding on his steed...his bicycle!
"Where have you been?" Steve desperately asked. "I've been riding all over the neighborhood looking for you! Do you know what time it is?"
"Oh you do care," I said with a grin, giving him a big hug.
"What are you talking about?" he asked.
"Oh, nothing. Let's go home." I answered.
When we got back home, I quickly erased the message on the machine before Steve could hear my reprimanding words. "Whew," I thought, "That was close."
A few days later, Steve called me from work.
"Sharon, have you listened to the answering machine lately?"
"No, why?"
"Well, I think there's something on there you need to hear."
We hung up and I reached for my cell phone to call my home phone. The message on the answering machine went something like this.
(The voice of a Sweet Southern Belle) "Hello, you've reached the Jaynes' residence. We're unable to answer the phone right now... (enter the voice of Cruella de Vil) "I was calling to let you know I'm at Katherine's. I thought you'd be worried, but apparently you don't even care because you won't pick up the phone! (Return of Sweet Southern Bell) At the sound of the beep, leave your number and we'll get back with you as soon as possible." Beep.
"Oh, my goodness!" I screamed. "How did this happen! How many people have heard this over the past three days?"
I called the phone company and they explained that sometimes during a thunderstorm (which had occurred three days prior), lightening strikes the wires and answering machine messages get scrambled. The old message somehow got attached to the greeting.
I was mortified. It sounded like Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde reincarnate.
"Lord," I prayed. "This is so embarrassing."
"Yes, it is," He replied.
Well, He didn't really say that in so many words. It was more like this. "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water" (James 3:9-12 TNIV).
"OK Lord, I get the message." I prayed. But unfortunately, so did a lot of other people.
As women, I am amazed how quickly we can flit back and forth between blessing and belittling, praising and putting-down, cheering and critiquing - all in a matter of seconds. God has given us incredible power in our sphere of influence, and it begins with the words we speak. Few forces have as powerful an effect as the sounds that pass our lips. Our words can spark a child to accomplish great feats, encourage a husband to conquer the world, fan the dying embers of a friend's broken dreams into a flame, encourage a fellow believer to run the race set before her, and draw a lost soul to Christ.
My devotions for the month of September will focus on our words. I invite you to explore one of the mysteries of the feminine mystique - the power of a woman's words. Are words powerful? Yes! Just how powerful? We'll learn together. Let's take a look at one of God's most incredible gifts to mankind and consider the potential we have right under our noses...words.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, oh how I have a difficult time controlling my tongue! I pray that you will put a guard over my mouth. Help me to think before I speak. I pray the Holy Spirit will take control of my words and use me as an instrument of encouragement.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
A word has been described as the smallest unit of meaningful linguistic communication. But that little tiny entity has great potential.
Read James 3:2-6 and answer the following questions.
How is the tongue like the rudder of a ship?
Who is the ship? (There is not necessarily a right answer.)
On any given day, there are many travelers on our ship (our families and friends) or people we pass on the waterways of life. How do our words carry people along the same route we are traveling? How do our words maneuver or bump into those that are passing by?
To comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog. You can read other Girlfriend's comments as well!
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words for good, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 2, 2009
The Blessing of Storms
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 46: 1 (NRSV) "God is our refuge and strength, a tested help in times of trouble."
Friend to Friend
The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He feverishly prayed for God's rescue, but with every day that passed, his hope weakened. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect himself from the elements, and to store his few possessions.
One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky. Everything was lost. Stunned with grief and anger, the man cried, "God, how could you do this to me!"
The next morning, he woke to the sound of a ship approaching the island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was here?" the weary man asked. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied.
Storms are for our good. When a storm hits, I usually look for the nearest exit, hoping to escape the high winds. I am more than willing to give up my seat in a rocking boat in exchange for tranquil waters and blue skies. I don't like pain. I dread uncertain times. When life spirals out of control, I often withdraw from friends and family in an attempt to hide. Stress can paralyze me and make it difficult for me to function normally. Small tasks become huge mountains as the clouds gather and the winds pick up speed. To think that storms are for my good is a stretch to say the least.
I know you have repeatedly heard and even taught the truth that we are strengthened by our storms. Honestly, there have been times when I felt as if I would explode if one more person told me to praise God for my storm. Looking back, however, there is absolutely no doubt that my greatest growth has come during my most fierce life storms. Each storm has become a spiritual marker, a testament to the sufficiency and faithfulness of God. It is from those markers that a powerful life is shaped and molded.
Storms will come. Storms are a reality of life. We will either become storm survivors or storm statistics. The choice really is ours to make. We can stop telling God how big our storm is and start telling the storm just how big our God is. The key to enduring storms is to embrace each one that comes, knowing it contains and can yield a seed of victory.
Let's Pray
Father, give me new eyes to see Your hand at work in the midst of my life storms. I surrender my fear and disbelief to the certainty of Your truth. I choose to trust You even if I don't understand You. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, I ask that You strengthen me for whatever tomorrow holds and help me to remember that tomorrow is in Your hands.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 46:1 (NRSV) "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."
Read and think about the following statement: Endurance is never passive. It is the picture of a soldier staying in the heat of the battle under terrible opposition but still pressing forward to gain the victory! Then record any thoughts and/or fresh insights you gained from this verse in your journal.
Examine the following list. How have the storms in your life promoted growth in each area? Explain.
Purity
Love
Patience
Forgiveness
Kindness
Understanding
Read and record the following promises of God and rest in their truth when the next storm hits:
· Proverbs 10:25 (NIV) "When the storm has swept by, the wicked are gone but the righteous stand firm forever."
· Isaiah 25:4 (NASB) "For You have been a defense for the helpless, a defense for the needy in his distress, a refuge from the storm, a shade from the heat..."
· Psalm 57:1 (NRSV) "Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me, for in You my soul takes refuge; in the shadow of your wings I will take refuge, until the destroying storms pass by."
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While describing the events of the past week, a friend said to me, "You know, Mary. People have to believe you when you describe your life. No one could make this stuff up!" I often say that my life is always like a helicopter landing. Storms have become very familiar companions. I am sure many of you could say the same. The question is not if we will have storms, but when will they come. The best way to get ready for a life storm is to stay ready for a life storm. That means getting in the Word, praying and hanging out with other believers who have weathered a few storms of their own.
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September 3, 2009
An Incredible Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit" Proverbs 18:21 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
"In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth" (Genesis 1:1). When God created the world, stocked the seas with marine life and the skies with winged creatures - when he caused the stars to ignite the night sky and placed the sun to light the day and the moon to illumine the darkness - He did so with words. "And God said, 'Let there be light.'" "And God said, 'Let there be an expanse between the waters to separate water from water." "And God said, 'Let the water under the sky be gathered to one place, and let dry ground appear.'" "And God said, 'Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to separate the day from the night...'" "And God said, 'Let the water teem with living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the expanse of the sky.'" "And God said, 'Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds...'" "And God said, Let us make man in our own image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.'" .... "And it was so." God spoke and what was not - became what is. When God created the heavens and the earth, He used a mighty force - words. "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth" (Psalm 33:6).
Amazingly, when God created mankind in His own image, He gave us that same powerful tool. He didn't entrust words to zebra's, birds, monkeys, elephants, lizards, or horses. He entrusted words to mere mortals. Our words also have creative potential. They can create a smile on a discouraged child's face, lighten the heart of a husband loaded down with burdens, fan into a flame the dying embers of a friend's smoldering dreams, cheer brothers and sisters in Christ to run the race with endurance, and bring the message of hope and healing of Jesus Christ to a wounded world. Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe and, amazingly, God has entrusted them to you and me.
How will we use this incredible gift from God? Will we use words to bring life or death? Encouragement or discouragement? Let's pay particular attention to the words we speak and use our words to speak life into the people in our little part of the world today.
A careless word may kindle strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life.
A bitter word may hate instill;
A brutal word may smite and kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way;
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress;
A loving word may heal and bless.
(Author Unknown)
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I am amazed that You have entrusted us with such a powerful tool...words. May we use our words to bless and not to curse, to build up and not to tear down, to heal and not to hurt. By the power of the Holy Spirit, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart by pleasing in Your sight.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and fill in the blanks:
Genesis 1:3 And _______ _______, "Let there be light," and there was light.
Hebrews 11:3 By faith we understand that the universe was formed ___ _________ ______________so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.
Psalm 33:6 By the ______________________ were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth.
What did you discover about the power of God's words?
Now, on a similar note, what can you surmise about the power of your own words?
Throughout the day, ask yourself this question: Did my words build up or tear down?
To comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog. You can read other Girlfriend's comments as well!
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words to speak life into others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 4, 2009
Let The Adventure Begin
Lori Fairchild
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Lori Fairchild.
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 1:7 "Just think--you don't need a thing, you've got it all! All God's gifts are right in front of you as you wait expectantly for our Master Jesus to arrive on the scene for the Finale. And not only that, but God himself is right alongside to keep you steady and on track until things are all wrapped up by Jesus. God, who got you started in this spiritual adventure, shares with us the life of his Son and our Master Jesus. He will never give up on you. Never forget that" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
My 6-year-old daughter Carolyn and I had a busy day planned. I was getting ready while she played. When it came time to do her hair, she appeared - dressed in jewelry, pink sunglasses and a pink purse.
Now this might seem like normal, cute behavior for most 6-year-old girls, but I can count on one hand the number of times my daughter has voluntarily dressed up in pink anything. She has never been interested in princesses and pretty dresses and would rather wield a light saber than a princess wand. After seeing her dressed up, I picked my jaw up off the floor and we had this conversation:
Me: You look beautiful. Are you a rock star?
Carolyn: No, I'm a princess!
Me: Are you going to a ball?
Carolyn: Actually, I'm just pretending to be a princess. I need to trick the castle guard, so I can break into the castle and kill the evil king and rescue the real princess.
While this response was typical Carolyn and caused me to nearly fall down laughing, it also made me think. Carolyn always wants to have an adventure. While other girls are pretending to be mommies and princesses, Carolyn is figuring out how to be the hero. While women come in all shapes, sizes and temperaments, like Carolyn, we all long for a really great adventure and the chance to make a difference.
As Christian women, we sometimes think that an adventure is outside what God has planned for us. We have this view of the "perfect" woman who can recite scripture, has perfect children, can make pie from scratch, always has a clean house and sings like an angel in the church choir. We don't really think God has any life-changing adventures in mind for us.
Somewhere along the way, we've lost sight of the women God has used to accomplish His perfect plan. The women in the Bible were all on a great adventure with God. They were bold and willing to be used by God. Ruth, Rahab and Esther all stepped out in faith and God used them in a mighty way. If you don't think stepping into the king's chamber, knowing it could mean death was an adventure for Esther - think again. Think about Mary, Jesus' mother. Here she was, a young girl who had her life mapped out. She was going to be the wife of a carpenter and settle into a traditional life for a girl of that time. But God had other plans and sent her on a great adventure - one that would stretch her faith and leave her wondering how her life had changed so drastically.
Jesus tells us in John 10:10 that He came so that we might have life and have it more abundantly. Abundant life doesn't tie us to some convoluted vision we have of the "perfect" Christian woman. Abundant life is full of adventure and making a difference. God wants us to go on a great adventure with Him. A relationship with God is a great adventure.
I guarantee that if you truly step into an intimate relationship with God, you will experience more adventure than you have ever known. God will ask you to do things you never thought you could do and may ask you to give up some things you didn't think you could live without. However, He will offer you a relationship with Him and fill your life with blessings beyond your wildest imaginings. Sometimes it's not easy, but it is worth it.
So, pick up your taste for adventure and step into a relationship with God where you are ready for whatever adventure He has for you.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the great adventure of knowing You and walking with You. I praise You for the abundant life you have given me and for the amazing promise of all that is to come because I know You and have surrendered my life to You. Lord, I pray that others will see in me the exciting and full life only You can provide. I don't want to settle for anything less than Your perfect plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does "stepping out in faith" mean in your life?
Would you consider yourself to be a woman of faith? Would your friends and family agree?
Think back over the past month and list the adventures of faith you have experienced. Praise God for His faithfulness and provision in each one.
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
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Remember the last time you and your family went on vacation or planned a special outing. Part of the excitement was in the planning, wasn't it? I have a challenge for you. Make the commitment to get up each day this week - anticipating an adventure with God. Seek Him. Look for His hand at work in your life. Let the adventure begin!
Need encouragement? Check out Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey where you will find practical and powerful tools for daily living. Looking for resources to help you grow in Christ? Visit Mary's online store for a great selection of books, CDs, MP3 downloads, E-Bible Studies and more!
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September 7, 2009
A Powerful Force
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Life and death are in the power of the tongue" (Proverbs 18:21NIV).
Friend To Friend
I've always been amazed at the power restrained in a tiny atom too small to be seen by the naked eye. Fission, (splitting the tiny nucleus of an atom), or fusion, (joining nuclei together), have the potential to generate enough power to provide energy for an entire city or enough destructive potential to level an entire town. It all depends on how and when the joining together or splitting apart takes place.
So it is with our words. Bound in one small group of muscles called the tongue lies an instrument with magnanimous potential for good or evil, to build up or to tear down, to empower or devour, to heal or to hurt. It all depends on how and when the joining together and splitting apart takes place. Our words can make or break a marriage, paralyze or propel a friend, seam together or tear apart a relationship, build up or bury a dream, curse God or confess Christ. With our tongues we defend or destroy, heal or kill, cheer or churn. And we, as women, seem to be most talented at deciding when and where to wield this tiny sword.
Just as God used words to create physical life, our words can be the spark to generate spiritual life. Paul taught, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved" (Romans 10:9 emphasis added). Wow! It is with our mouth that we are saved. That is radical responsibility. That is potently powerful.
In the Bible, the book of James paints a poignant picture of the power of our words.
"When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell" (James 3:3-6 emphasis added).
On average, 4.3 million acres of forests are destroyed by wildfires each year in the United States. In 2000, nearly 123,000 separate fires destroyed 8.5 million acres of forest. About half are destroyed by natural causes such as lightening strikes, and the rest are caused by the carelessness of mankind. While forest fires leave naked trees and barren hillsides that take years to revive, lives singed by fiery words can be laid bare forever. We would never carelessly fling a lit match out of a car window while passing a national forest, and yet, many times we carelessly toss fiery words about as we pass through life.
The writer of Proverbs notes, "Life and death are in the power of the tongue" (Proverbs 18:21). Of all the spiritual disciplines, I believe that bringing our tongues under the submission of the Holy Spirit is one of the greatest. Why? Because through our words we bring life and through our words we bring destruction. They lead us into tranquil waters or take us out to the stormy seas.
There is a story told about Xanthus the philosopher. He once told his servant he was going to have some friends for dinner the following evening and instructed him get the best thing he could find in the market. When the philosopher and his guests sat down the next day at the table, they had nothing but tongue - four or five courses of tongue cooked in various ways. The philosopher finally lost his patience and said to his servant, "Didn't I tell you to get the best thing in the market?" The servant said, "I did get the best thing in the market. Isn't the tongue the organ of sociability, the organ of eloquence, the organ of kindness, the organ of worship?"
Then Xanthus said, "Tomorrow I want you to get the worst thing in the market." The next day when the philosopher sat at the table, there was nothing but tongue-four or five courses of tongue-tongue in this shape and tongue in that shape. The philosopher lost his patience again and said, "Didn't I tell you to get the worst thing in the market?" The servant replied, "I did; for isn't the tongue the organ of blasphemy, the organ of defamation, the organ of lying?"
I have never eaten tongue before, but I have had to eat my words. While words are one of God's most incredible gifts, in the wrong hands (or the wrong mouths) they possess destructive potential.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me choose my words wisely, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. Help me speak life into those around me today- to be a source of encouragement rather than discouragement, of hope rather than hurt, and of love rather than pain.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
At the end of today, make of list of 10 ways you encouraged someone with your words.
What was their reaction to those words?
How did you feel about yourself when you encouraged someone else with your words?
To comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog . Here you can read others' comments as well.
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion is taken from the introduction of Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. There is great power in the words we speak to the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words to speak life into others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 8, 2009
The Grace Factor
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD" (Psalm 40:2-3 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I have a good friend whose granddaughter is a constant source of delight and humor in her life. Ellie is an adorable and extremely bright toddler who, like most toddlers, has very definite ideas about almost everything. Ellie also loves Jesus and often says the blessing at family meals. One night, the family was seated around the dinner table when Ellie's sweet voice began, "God is great. God is good. Let us thank Him for our food. By His hand we all are fed. Give us, Lord, our daily bread." There was a slight pause, after which Ellie smiled and added, "That's all!" She's right! God is enough and He is all we need.
In this world, there are few certainties. God is one. His promises are true and we can wholly trust Him to keep His Word and to do exactly what He promises to do. In Psalm 40:1-3, God promises to free us from the pits of life, to direct and restore us - and then invites us to join Him in Kingdom work. In other words, He promises grace for the journey.
Ah, there is that word again - grace. I am amazed when I think about the price tag dangling from the gift of grace. Grace cost God His son and Jesus His very life. When Jesus came to earth as man, He came as a living, fleshed-out illustration of grace.
Grace allows us to take a "long look" at life, keeping our glance on circumstances and our gaze on the Lord of the circumstances. Grace pursues us and loves us, even when we run and reject God's love. Grace heals the wounded heart and saves the broken soul. God is drawn to brokenness and delights in healing.
What an amazing truth, that God turns first to the broken. Psalm 40:1 says "He turned to me." Notice this passage doesn't say that David, the author, turned to God. I don't think David could turn to God! Have you ever felt that way - empty and exhausted and without hope? Knowing the desire of David's heart and understanding his weakness, God heard his cry and turned to David, just like God will hear your cry and turn to you!
During the darkest hours of my battle with clinical depression, I continually questioned God, flinging my anger at Him like a spear. My heart and soul were filled with fear and confusion instead of faith and trust. Yet, He never turned away from me. He knew every tear I cried and out of those tears and brokenness has come the most effective and powerful chapter of my life! I have discovered that the more we are broken, the more we are used - because of grace.
You can count on God. You can credit His grace to your life account! We are trophies of God's grace and we can count on him!
Now It's Your Turn
· Recognize and accept the truth that the only source of true forgiveness and complete restoration is God.
· What areas of your life need His restoration power?
· What steps do you need to take in order for God to work in your life? List each step in your journal. Pray about each step and then take action. Remember, God is more interested in what you do that what you know. Step out in faith. He will meet you there.
Mercy is when we don't get what we deserve. Justice is when we get what we do deserve but grace is when we get what we do not deserve.
Think about the above statements and compare them to your own definition of grace. Have there been specific times when you sensed the work of grace in your life? Reflect on those times. Record them in your journal.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate the truth that You are a God of grace and that You love me unconditionally. Help me to see Your hand of grace at work in my life. I surrender myself to You and ask that You shape and form me into the image of Your son, Jesus. I want to be like him, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
More From The Girlfriends
Everything changes when you factor in the grace of God. I love the words of the old hymn that describe God's grace. "Amazing grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me. I once was lost but now am found. Was blind but now I see." God's grace provides purpose and direction and gives us an eternal life perspective. Today, revisit the time when you surrendered your heart and life to Christ and first experienced the grace of God - and celebrate! If you have never made that decision, today is the day. He is waiting to pour out His grace in your life.
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September 9, 2009
A Simple Choice
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as in fact you are doing" (I Thessalonians 5:11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
We are shaped by words from those who love us or refuse to love us. And we are shaped by the words of those who don't even know our names. It is the heart cry of all mankind to be loved and accepted, and sometimes a simple word of encouragement can make all the difference.
William Barclay once said, "One of the highest of human duties is the duty of encouragement. It is easy to laugh at men's ideals; it is easy to pour cold water on their enthusiasm; it is easy to discourage others. The world is full of discouragers. We have a Christian duty to encourage one another. Many a time a word of praise, of thanks, of appreciation or cheer has kept a man on his feet. Blessed is the man (or woman) who speaks such a word."
What exactly is encouragement? Webster defines it as "to give courage or confidence to; to raise the hopes of; to help on by sympathetic advice and interests; to advise and make it easy for (someone to do something) to promote or stimulate; to strengthen." In contrast, he defines discourage as "to say or take away the courage of, to deter, to lessen enthusiasm for and so restrict or hinder."
Amazingly, our words have the capacity for both, and we are faced with the choice every time we speak as to which it will be. The Hebrew word "mouth" (peh) is often translated edge. Like a knife, the tongue has a sharp powerful edge that can be used to either heal or destroy. The knife in the hands of a skilled surgeon brings healing and life, but a knife in the hands of a felon brings death and destruction. Like the surgeon, we can study how to use our mouths to bring life to those around us. But it's not easy, and the tongue is difficult to control.
Our words should build up and not tear down. They should minister grace, or as one little girl explained to Florence Littaeur during a children's sermon, words should "be like silver boxes with bows on top" - like verbal presents. They are God's gift to us and we in-turn give them as gifts to those around us. But words are not ordinary presents. They are displayed on a prominent shelf in the heart as a treasured possession.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I pray that you will help my words to be verbal presents to all those I encounter today. May they be seasoned with salt, sweetened with honey, and nourishing to the soul.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to that last sentence in today's devotion: "They are displayed on a prominent shelf in the heart as a treasured possession."
Can you think of encouraging words that were spoken to you in the past that you have treasured in your heart?
Can you think of a sharp word that hurt you to the core?
Don't ponder it. Leave it in the past. Those are not to be placed among our collectibles.
I imagine that two different people came to your mind with those last questions. Now, wouldn't you like for your face to come to someone's mind when asked about an encouraging word that she treasured in her heart - or he has treasured in his heart?
To comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words to speak life into others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 10, 2009
Praise God Anyway!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Someone recently gave me a refrigerator magnet that said, "I know God promises to never give me more than I can handle. But sometimes, I just wish he didn't trust me so much." When trials come and life seems hard, we plead with God to deliver us from the problem when many times his plan is to deliver us in the problem. Praise does not depend upon an understanding of the circumstance or trial. Praise depends upon faith in the God of that circumstance or trial.
As humans, we will never fully understand God - this side of heaven. God is holy and without blemish. God is all powerful and omniscient. He is Creator of the universe and yet lives in you and me. He is the only true, living God! We may understand some of his ways and comprehend the reasoning behind some of his plans. We may even come to the place of knowing him on what we call an intimate level, but a full understanding of God is reserved for heaven. Until then, we walk by faith, not by sight. We praise him in the darkness, knowing that the light is just ahead. We trust him for things we cannot see and praise him in the valleys. Honestly, the thought of serving and relying on a God I can understand is not a reassuring thought.
Most people who know me well would describe me as a strong person, someone who can usually handle what life holds. I thought the same thing until, in 1995, I found myself a powerless, prisoner of the darkness as I battled clinical depression. It took me two long years to climb out of that pit and not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of that wonderful, horrible time. One of the many lessons I learned from my "pit experience" was that I cannot depend upon my own strength or my fickle emotions. God often asked me to praise him when, as far as I could tell, there wasn't a whole lot to praise him for! I didn't feel like praising him. I began to understand that praise is not a feeling but a choice, a step of obedience taken without the assurance of a changed circumstance or the elimination of a trial. Praise focuses on God, not the circumstance, and fixes its gaze upon God's truth and God's character instead of the trial at hand or the one just ahead. That's why we can celebrate the battle before it begins. The outcome is neither our responsibility nor our goal. Praise begins and ends with faith in the very nature, personality and integrity of God ... and that reality never changes.
No matter what lies ahead, God is faithful. No matter how hot the fiery trial may be, God will deliver us. No matter what man says or does, God loves and accepts us. So praise God! Thank him today for every victory tomorrow holds! Celebrate - knowing the battle belongs to God and because of that single truth, victory is certain.
Now It's Your Turn
Begin your "Joy Journal" by recording the daily blessings he gives you each day. Remember to add the "small" miracles as well as the "large" ones. At the end of the week, have a private praise service - just you and God. Thank him for his presence and power at work in your life.
Memorize Philippians 4:7 "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (NIV).
Think about it...
· When I hear the word "praise", what comes to my mind?
· Do I really believe my life can bring God pleasure?
· After reading Psalm 139, how do I think God sees me?
· What are the sources of discouragement in my life?
· What steps do I need to take to eliminate those sources?
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today for all that You have done in my life. You are faithful even when I am faithless. Your love pursues me even when I am unlovable. Your forgiveness covers my sin and frees me from its penalty. Lord, teach me to praise You. Help me to see and understand the power of praising You in my life. I want to bring You pleasure, Father. I praise You for your love and faithfulness to me. Your presence in my life changes everything, empowering me to live each moment of every day, content in knowing You are in control. As I face today, Lord, remind me that no matters what happens, I can praise You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
More From The Girlfriends
An attitude of praise flourishes when we set our mind on God's joy in us. Joy is a deliberate choice of our mind and will - not an emotion or feeling. Joy is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. With that truth tucked into our heart, we can approach every circumstance with praise.
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September 11, 2009
Are You an Enabler or Encourager?
Melody Hadley
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Melody Hadley.
Today's Truth
"Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up." (I Thess. 5:11 NIV)
Friend To Friend
I have a friend who was known to constantly complain. She whined about her job, moaned about her husband and children, was bitter about the way her parents raised her, and was unhappy with life in general. Seemingly unable, or unwilling to stop the defeatism and negativity that surround her, her life was miserable. I would listen, murmuring platitudes, and sighing with her over her difficult life. This scenario played itself out over and over, week after week, month after month.
Then one day, God touched my heart and showed me this was not the way to reach her, to help her. I was enabling her negative behavior by just listening and nodding, and not encouraging the positive perspective she so desperately needed. Jeremiah 29:11 teaches us that we have a "hope and future". I was not reminding her of that. I realized that my behavior and attitude had to change in order for me to be Christ's hands and feet. I looked to God, and through the Holy Spirit and the Word, I was then able to minister to her more appropriately.
When this lovely young mom started speaking in a negative manner again, I knew what to say and could direct the conversation to a positive outlook. I would tell her, "Stop! Let's turn our focus to positive aspects in your life, and to how you can deal with the negative ones."
She is doing so much better now. Once I confronted the negative behavior and turned to God for His guidance and wisdom, He was able to help her. It is so wonderful to see her smiling now, and when she falters, she catches herself, and says "Oops! There I go again. Sorry."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, touch me with Your Spirit, and speak through my voice. Let me touch and uplift others through my hands and my heart. Let me be guided by You, that I may better guide others.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Please consider memorizing this verse: "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).
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Through this 'shepherding' role of being a listening friend, I learned so much about the difference in enabling and encouraging. We have to be aware all the time that Satan just loves it when he can get God's children confused as to how to they are to serve, and what they are to do when confronted with negative, defeated attitudes.
Begin in your own life. Identify and eliminate the footholds of negative thinking and speaking. Ask others to hold you accountable and to help you see when you are sliding into that old, destructive habit.
Stay in the Word. Check out Mary's weekly online study, Light for the Journey and be sure to check out the web sites of Gwen and Sharon for more resources to help you grow in Him.
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September 14, 2009
Using our Words Wisely - Learning from the Best
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Freely you have received, freely give" (Matthew 10:8).
Friend To Friend
This month, I've been examining the power of our words. So today, let's take a look at how Jesus used his words with his friends and let's learn from the best.
Jesus was the Master of believing the best in others and encouraging them to reach beyond their own limited view of their abilities. His disciples had witnessed Jesus command a lame man to walk, restore rotting skin to a leprous outcast, remove fever from Peter's mother with a touch, calm the raging storm, deliver a man from demons, and raise a little girl from the dead. But Jesus wanted more for his friends than to remain spectators in the gospel. He longed for them to be participants and partakers.
On a spring day, shortly after the Passover celebration, Jesus retreated to the north shore of the Sea of Galilee. However, crowds of people quickly pursued this miracle worker to witness his teaching and healing power. As the sun began to sink to the horizon, his disciples remarked that the people were growing hungry. He turned to Philip and asked, "Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?" (John 6:5)
Jesus was not concerned with a lack of provisions. Rather He was taking this opportunity to invite the disciples to share in His ministry. He didn't need their help. However, he wanted to invite them to participate in a miracle to boost their confidence and faith. It was a gentle breeze in their sails of courage.
Philip was smart. In a matter of minutes he had calculated that it would take eight months' wages to feed the ten thousand people gathered on the hill. But Jesus wasn't looking for facts; He was looking for faith.
Andrew was practical. He canvassed the crowd to see what resources were available...five small barley cakes and two small fish. But Jesus wasn't looking for practical; he was looking for powerful.
Jesus told the disciples to have the crowd sit down in groups. Then he took the loaves and fish, blessed the food, and gave it to the disciples to distribute.
Did Jesus need the disciples' help? No. But He chose to include them in the miracle. He wanted them to see that He believed in them.
Now, let's fast forward in Jesus' ministry and his relationship with His disciples. During one of His last moments with the band of brothers, Jesus told them in no uncertain terms the potential He saw in them. Like a coach who believes in his team, Jesus rallied the twelve: "Go to the lost sheep of Israel. As you go, preach this message: `The kingdom of heaven is near.' Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received, freely give" (Matthew 10:6-8).
Before his ascension he gave them one last pep talk: "Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:19,20). They had observed, learned, and practiced. Now it was time to step out into the world and participate in ministry without Jesus' physical presence. He believed in them and He let them know it.
"I tell you the truth," Jesus said, "anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these because I am going to the Father" (John 14:12). Oh my, did you notice? Jesus wasn't just talking about the twelve disciples. He was also talking about you! Jesus believes in you!
Jesus used his words to encourage his friends. I pray that we can follow His example and do the same.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of words. Help me to use my words to encourage my friends and family to be all that You have created them to be. Help me to learn from Jesus' example to expect the best from others and encourage them to participate with You in the ministry You have marked out for them.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the story of Jesus feeding the 5,000 recorded in John 6:1-15. Look for all the ways Jesus encouraged his disciples. Remember, he did not need their help but could have miraculously made the bread appear as God made the manna appear for the Israelites.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book The Power of a Woman's Words. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words to speak life to others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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September 15, 2009
Change the Setting!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind" (NKJV).
Friend To Friend
We do a lot of laundry at the Southerland house. There always seems to be a load in the washer that needs to go in the dryer, a load in the dryer that needs to be folded and a load of dirty laundry waiting to begin the process all over again. Our washer and dryer have numerous settings for everything from hand washables and fine delicates to cotton and permanent press. After a few loads that yielded pink male underwear and sweaters shrunk to fit Barbie dolls, we decided to wash everything on one setting. Heaven help the man, woman or child who dares to change that setting.
When a life crisis comes, we generally have an automatic setting of fear and anxiety. The good news is that we can change that setting to peace and joy! How? By counting on God.
· Count on God to be with you. We battle stress every day, but God is faithful and we can count on Him to be with us. Worry is trying to fix tomorrow's problems with today's resources. God gives grace in daily doses.
Isaiah 43:2 "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you" (NLT).
· Count on God for direction. Life can easily spin out of control in a whirlwind of confusion. God offers clear direction and guidance through his word, through his people and through the Holy Spirit.
Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you" (NLT).
· Count on God for provision. God goes before us in every area of life. Nothing that happens to us will ever surprise God. We must be careful to stay away from scenario sickness of "What if". There are no "what ifs" when we choose to trust God for every need.
Isaiah 65:24 "I will provide their needs before they ask. I will help them while they are still asking for help" (NLT).
· Count on God for protection. God will fight for us when we are attacked. When we follow God's agenda, God fights for us but when we follow our agenda, we are on our own.
Exodus 14:13 "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still" (NIV).
I recently saw a bumper sticker that read, "If God is your Co-Pilot, switch seats!" Great advice! We have good reason to be afraid when we are in control. Fear feeds stress. Stress thrives in an atmosphere of fear and doubt when our hand is on the steering wheel of life. We need to move over, surrender control to God and find the peace only He can offer.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is filled with fear. It seems like I am drowning in the uncertainties of my life. Lord, help me to surrender my fears to You. Strengthen me to face each one and walk through it, knowing that You are with me. I choose to trust You and doubt my fears. I choose against stress and for peace. I choose You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Make a list of your fears.
· Surrender each fear to the loving control of God as you pray, "I will fear no evil, for you are with me."
· Burn the list as an offering of praise and thanksgiving to God's perfect peace enthroned in your life.
· Read and memorize Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble" (NIV).
· Determine what step(s) you need to take in order to find victory over those fears?
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When the tough times come, where do you usually turn first? If you are like me, it is tempting to turn to other people and other resources for help. We often turn to God as a last resort, as if we have tried everything else and since we have no options left, we might as well give God a shot at it! The next time fear assaults you, turn to God and let His peace fight the battle for you. Turn your worries over to God, knowing He already has a plan of rescue in mind.
Fear was a huge struggle in my life for many years. In fact, fear paralyzed me and blocked God's power and joy in my life. I am learning to trust God more and believe my fears less. Need help? Light for the Journey is my weekly online bible study that offers practical and powerful tools for daily living. Check it out!
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September 16, 2009
Changing the Way We Speak
Relying on the Holy Spirit
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was a daunting scene. Over 1,200 miles of Alaskan shoreline covered with black slimy crude oil, more than 1,000 bodies of once bustling sea otters littering the coast, and over 100,000 grounded fowl groping for air. The Exxon Valdez oil spill of 1988 dumped 11 million gallons of crude oil into the Prince William Sound and disrupted the ecological balance of nature to kill many of its most beautiful inhabitants...including 150 bald eagles. The once glacier-fed waters teeming with life became an oily death trap.
Just as toxins in nuclear waste facilities, city dumps, and industrial accidents wreak havoc on the environment, so toxic words cause destruction to the hearts and souls of people. Paul wrote, "Let no foul or polluting language [ever] come out of your mouth" (Ephesians 4:29 Amp). Perhaps as you've read the previous five devotions that I have written about the power of the words we speak, you've cringed at words you've spoken and wish you could take them back. Words that have polluted the ones you hold dear. Can we clean up the mess and repair the damage? Absolutely! We can choose to dismantle the verbal weapons and break the patterns of toxic words. And to do so, we must rely on the power of the Holy Spirit within us.
Relying on the Holy Spirit
Tongues...most animals have one. Some snakes have forked tongues. Lizards smell with their tongues. Some fish, such as salmon and trout, have teeth on their tongues. Frogs and toads have tongues that whip out at incredible speeds to catch flies and other insects. Their cousin, the chameleon, has a tongue that is as long as its body. An anteater's tongue can stretch to the height of a two-year-old. A gecko uses its tongue to wipe across its eyes like a windshield, and a giraffe uses its twenty-inch tongue to clean its ears. The tongue of a blue whale is about the size and weight of a full grown African elephant.
Even though a human tongue cannot smell out dinner, reel in the catch of the day, or reach to the tops of trees to pick fruit, it can do something even more amazing. The human tongue can create words. Words are an incredible gift, and as we have seen, they have the potential for good or evil. How do we harness such energy and insure that it is only used for good? Unfortunately, James tells us it is impossible.
All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by human beings, but no one can tame the tongue" (James 3:7 TNIV). That's the bad news. Now, here's the good news. While no human being can tame the tongue...God can. It may be impossible for James, and for you and me, but it is not impossible for God. "Is anything too hard for the LORD?" the angel asked Sarai after announcing that her ninety-year-old body was going to bear a child (Genesis 18:14).
When we come to faith in Jesus Christ, God gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the third person of the Trinity who enables us to do all that God has called us to do. He gives us the power to change!
Jesus explained to the disciples: "But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth" (Acts 1:8). After Jesus' ascension into heaven, the disciples waited for the Holy Spirit as Jesus had instructed.
"When the day of Pentecost came, a sound like the blowing of a violent wind came from heaven and filled the whole house where they were sitting. They saw what seemed to be tongues of fire that separated and came to rest of each of them. All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit enabled them" (Acts 2:1-4).
Isn't it interesting that the first manifestation of the power of the Holy Spirit was words and the first visual manifestation was tongues of fire? The disciples were able to speak in the various languages of the men and women who were visiting Jerusalem to celebrate Pentecost. The travelers heard the gospel in their own languages! Yes, that was astonishing. But even more amazing was the courage that arose in the cowardly disciples.
Just a short time before Pentecost, Peter had been so afraid that he denied he even knew who Jesus was. A mere servant girl's inquisition had Peter shaking in his sandals and swearing he was no friend of Jesus. After being filled with the Holy Spirit, Peter stood up, raised his voice, and addressed the crowd with such a mighty sermon that 3,000 men and women accepted Jesus as their Savior and were baptized. That's what the Holy Spirit can do for timid souls who believe. He can transform a cursing tongue into a confessing tongue.
It is only through the power of the Holy Spirit that we are able to control this little muscle that rests between our teeth. However, change does require our cooperation. We must work in tandem with the Holy Spirit to reign in this feisty force. The Holy Spirit gives us the power, but our responsibility is to put God-given principles into practice.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that You did not leave us as orphans, but gave us the power of the Holy Spirit living within us to do all that You have called us to do. I pray that the Holy Spirit will help me control the words that I speak and tame my tongue.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
God really loves it when we pray specific prayers. Make a list of ways that you need to change the way you speak. Cursing? Negative? Discouraging? Critical? Complaining? Sarcastic? Crude?
Make a list and pray that God will help you change specific "unwholesome" speech that comes out of your mouth.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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September 17, 2009
Learning to Invest Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to make the most of our time, so that we may grow in wisdom" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
Every minute of every day is either wasted or invested. Since the bible contains over 400 verses about time, we can safely assume that time management is important to God and is, in fact, a spiritual discipline. We not only need to view time as an eternal investment, but as an immediate one as well. One of the most valuable investments we can make is to spend time in solitude.
I once read an African proverb and prayer, "Lord Jesus, make my heart sit down". Solitude is deliberately and diligently setting aside time to "sit down" at the feet of Jesus. It's in those still, quiet moments of solitude at his feet that we hear God's voice and gain strength and wisdom for the journey ahead. In order to practice solitude, we must learn how to budget time.
It's been said that women must balance their time more carefully than men because women don't have wives. The fact is we're all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Time is a precious gift! Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use. If we use it in the wrong way, that time is lost forever and cannot be reclaimed. Un-budgeted time gravitates to our weaknesses, is stolen by others or wasted on the unimportant. We must budget time, just as Jesus did.
Luke 2:52 "Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (NIV).
At the age of 12, Jesus traveled to Jerusalem with his parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When his parents began the long trip home, they didn't miss their son at first and when they did, assumed he was traveling with friends.
Jesus was found in the temple, teaching. My first reaction would probably have been pride in the fact that religious scholars and veteran teachers were actually listening to my young son. I would most likely have encouraged Jesus to continue, basking in the looming recognition and acclaim. Instead, Jesus returned home where, for 18 to 20 years, he simply grew. Luke 2:52 tells us Jesus grew mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. In Luke 3, Jesus begins his ministry, the most powerful ministry ever known. In other words, Jesus Christ budgeted his time wisely, resulting in a balanced life of fulfilled purpose. We can live the same kind of life - if our priorities are right.
Set priorities: Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us "there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven" (NLT). We either set our life priorities or allow circumstances and other people to set them.
Schedule priorities: There is a right time and a right way to carry out right priorities. Ecclesiastes 8:5-6 warns, "For a wise heart knows the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every delight" (NASB). We must schedule time for solitude. We must set aside portions of each day to spend with God.
Stick to priorities: In Ephesians 5:16, the apostle Paul teaches us to "make the most of every opportunity" (NIV). Every challenge will either wreck or affirm our priorities. Right priorities stand firm in the face of change.
One day, we will all stand before the Father and give an account of how we invested our time. Today, examine your time management habits in light of eternity. Initiate schedule changes that honor God. Make a new commitment to invest your time wisely.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize my need for time alone with You. I lay down my schedule, my agenda and anything else in my life that would keep me from that time. Please forgive me for the way I often squander away the minutes, hours and days of my life. Give me the power to invest time wisely and the wisdom to live a balanced life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose to practice solitude - today.
Select a place to spend time in solitude - today.
Lay down your agenda.
Focus on God and listen for His voice.
Read and memorize Psalm 37:7.
Ask yourself the following questions and use the answers to shape a plan for regular solitude:
Why am I afraid of silence?
What is the greatest obstacle to solitude in my life?
What steps do I have to take in order to remove those obstacles?
What do I hope to gain from time spent in solitude?
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September 18, 2009
Changing the Way We Speak By
Examining the Heart
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean...But things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean'" (Matthew 15:11,18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
While it is the Holy Spirit that gives us the power to change the words we speak, the desire to change begins in the heart. The Bible says:
"Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit...For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil out of the evil stored up in him. But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will condemned" (Matthew 12:33-37).
The word heart that is used in this passage is the Greek word kardia. It is not referring to the blood pumping muscle in the chest cavity, but to our thoughts, motives, feelings, our will, and our character. The kardia is the seat of our emotions and represents the inner person. The words that escape our lips reveal the condition of the inner man.
Remember the children's song:
I'm a little teapot short and stout,
Here is my handle, here is my spout.
When I get all steamed up hear me shout,
Just tip me over and pour me out.
Well I don't know about you, but when I get all steamed up, what comes out of my mouth isn't always a cup of tea! It is in those unguarded moments of frustration, anger, or pain that our mouths tend to spew out what is really inside. Jesus said, "What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean...But things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean'" (Matthew 15:11,18). Jesus continually pointed out the condition of the Pharisees' hearts. They clung to outward religious practices. But God desired their hearts, which were hardened and cold.
The book of Proverbs has much to say about how the condition of our heart affects what we say:
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (Proverbs 4:23)
The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin. (Proverbs 10:8)
A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly. (Proverbs 12:23)
An anxious heart weights a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. (Proverbs 12:25)
The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly. (Proverbs 15:14)
The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. (Proverbs 15:28 TNIV)
A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. (Proverbs 15:30)
The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction. (Proverbs 16:31)
The hearts of the wise make their mouths prudent, and their lips promote instruction. (Proverbs 16:23 TNIV)
One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend. (Proverbs 22:11 TNIV)
Like a coating of glaze over earthenware are fervent lips with an evil heart. (Proverbs 26:23)
Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. (Proverbs 26:24, 25 TNIV)
As the water reflects a face, so one's life reflects the heart. (Often that reflection is through spoken words) (Proverbs 27:18 TNIV)
So, how's your heart? The heart of the matter is a matter of the heart.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Examine my heart today and reveal to me any areas of my life that I need to change. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and restore a right spirit within me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Turn to Psalm 51 and make that your prayer today.
To comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog .
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book The Power of a Woman's Words In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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September 21, 2009
The Promises of Problems
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
Friend to Friend
If you are like me, you prefer days when the sun is shining, the sky is blue, and not a cloud in sight. Problems tend to irritate me because they make me realize just how frail I am as a human. But I have come to realize that every problem points to a promise.
Promise of direction
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn't close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. We had it all worked out. He was a preacher and I played the piano and sang. What could be more perfect? I began to pray, "Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door!" The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland. I look back and thank God for that closed door.
"Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways." Proverbs 20:30
Promise of correction
God uses problems to correct us. I have come to realize that some lessons can only be learned in the darkness, through pain and failure. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her...until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. "Ouch!" she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.
"It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." Psalm 119:71-72
Promise of protection
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. It was so hard for me to take our children to the doctor to get immunization shots. I would take a healthy child into the doctor's office and come out with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, "Mary, just think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself.
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
Promise of perfection
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I recently spoke for a women's conference that used the theme of "Problems into Pearls". Strands of pearls were everywhere - the center of each table, on the podium from which I spoke, draped across tables - and many of the ladies wore pearls that day. When the worship leader welcomed me, she said, "We have to get you some pearls!" Digging in her purse, she produced the most beautiful pearl necklace and placed it around my neck. As the day went on, I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When everyone had left, the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace. I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, "Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster."
"We can rejoice when we run into problems... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady." Romans 5:3-4
God is at work in and around you. You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for each problem that points me to You. Help me to see trials as handles for Your promises and tools for growth in my life. I choose to accept the lessons You want to teach me in the dark times and celebrate their truth in the light. Give me the strength and power to trust You completely.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What problem are you facing right now? Put it into words and record it in your journal.
Pray, surrendering that problem to God and ask Him for the promise it holds.
What good can come out of the problem you are facing?
What scripture promise do you claim because of this problem?
Write that promise on a 3 x 5 card and tuck it in your purse. When the going gets tough, pull out that card and read the verse aloud as a statement of your faith in your Problem-Solving God!
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If I had to choose between problems and peace, I know what I would naturally choose. Don't you? But God's ways are higher than our ways, His thoughts higher than our thoughts and His purpose more complete than our plans. Trust Him, today, my friend. He is Lord of the mountain, Shepherd of the valley and He loves you!
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September 22, 2009
Never Lost
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands..." Isaiah 49:16a
Friend To Friend
Not long ago our family got a bouncy little puppy named Roman. One of the first things we did when Roman became a Smith was head to the pet store for doggie supplies. In addition to purchasing chew toys, a collar, and food, we ordered Roman a nameplate to go on his collar in case he ever gets lost. The cashier sold us two tokens for the tag, and sent us to the other side of the store to the engraving machine.
The kids and I approached the engraving machine with giddy hearts. After we slid the two metal tokens into the coin slot, we looked at our ID options and settled on the blue bone for Roman's collar. Then the engraving machine prompted us to enter Roman's puppy information. Once we were satisfied that all the information was accurate, I gave the command for the computer to begin the engraving.
The machine engraved just one letter at a time. With each stroke of the machine's needle, Roman's name began to appear, along with our address and phone number. When the engraving was finished, we immediately put the tag onto Roman's collar. The blue bone boasts that Roman belongs to the Smith family.
For us, in this world, we have to put our names on things so we don't lose them. We put our names on our luggage, on our pet collars, on our backpacks, and in our Bibles. I even have a "page" button on my cordless phone so it can beep when I lose the phone in my house. I've also been known to lose my keys, my driver's license, my cell phone and my purse. (Scary!) Thankfully, God doesn't have the same problem with losing things. He doesn't need to put His name on anything. What's His is His forever.
If you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ, take comfort in the fact that you can never be lost and that you are never out of God's sight. There might be times when you feel invisible - times when you feel lost - times when you feel alone, but the Bible tells us that your name is engraved on the palms of God's hands, and that nothing can separate you from God's love or snatch you from His hand. Nothing.
"I'm absolutely convinced that nothing--nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable--absolutely nothing can get between us and God's love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us." Romans 8:38-39, MSG
"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father's hand." John 10:27-29, ESV
"All whom My Father gives (entrusts) to Me will come to Me; and the one who comes to Me I will most certainly not cast out [I will never, no never, reject one of them who comes to Me]." John 6:37, AMP
God knows your name. He knows where you live. He's got your number. You're never lost.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thank you for engraving my name on the palms of your hands. Please help me to remember the way home when I get lost, distracted or confused. "Because Your love is better than life, and my lips will glorify you!" (Psalm 63:3, NIV) In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the Message version of Romans chapter 8 today. CLICK HERE to view it online.
How does it make you feel to know that nothing can separate you from God's love?
How committed is your love for Him? Do your daily choices line up with His standard? Take a moment to ask God to search your heart and reveal how your ways could line up better with His standard.
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As a mother, I know what it is to love a child, but as much as I can love my kids - the love I have is stained with imperfections. God loves perfectly...no matter what. Be sure to relish that thought today - and spend a few moments to direct the attention of your heart to His in worship!
GOT BEAUTY? God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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September 23, 2009
The Contact Lens and the Ant
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Chronicles 16:9 "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him."
Friend To Friend
Brenda was almost halfway to the top of the enormous granite cliff when she stopped for a well-deserved breather. Standing on a narrow ledge, she measured how far she had come and reveled in the excitement of her first rock climb. As she rested there, the safety rope suddenly snapped against her eye, knocking out her contact lens. "Great!" she thought. "Here I am on a rock ledge, hundreds of feet from the bottom and hundreds of feet to the top of this cliff, and now my sight is blurry." She looked and looked, hoping that somehow the contact lens had landed on the ledge, but it simply was not there. As panic began to set in, Brenda immediately prayed for peace and help in finding her contact lens. Taking a deep breath, she resumed her climb.
When she got to the top, a friend closely examined Brenda's eye and her clothing for the lens, but it was not to be found. Brenda was now calm because she had reached the top, but was also sad because she could not clearly see the beauty of the mountain range around her. A bible verse suddenly popped into her mind, "The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth." Brenda smiled as she thought, "Lord, You can see all of these mountains. You know every stone and leaf and You know exactly where my contact lens is. Please help me find it."
Later, when Brenda and her group of friends had hiked down the trail to the bottom of the cliff, they met another party of climbers just starting up the face of the cliff. One of them shouted, "Hey, you guys! Anybody lose a contact lens?" Well, that would be startling enough, but do you know why the climber happened to see the lens? He had noticed an ant that was moving slowly across a twig on the face of the rock, carrying the contact lens.
The story doesn't end there. Brenda's father is a cartoonist. When she told him the incredible story of the ant, the prayer, and the contact lens, he drew a cartoon of an ant lugging that contact lens with the caption, "Lord, I don't know why You want me to carry this thing. I can't eat it, and it's awfully heavy, but if this is what You want me to do, I'll carry it for You."
Just this week, I have repeatedly asked God why I have to carry one of the current burdens in my life. As far as I can tell, there is absolutely nothing good in it and the weight of that burden seems to get heavier with each passing day. Then yesterday, I received an email from a friend who thought I might need to hear this story of the ant and the contact lens. God has such a great sense of humor, doesn't He? I got the message and am now praying, "Lord, if you want me to carry this load, I will."
I may never understand the purpose of this particular burden but remember ... human understanding is not necessary for spiritual obedience. That's where faith comes in.
Are you carrying a burden that seems to grow heavier with each step you take? Does the load you carry seem pointless and hard to understand? Trust God. He will supply all the strength and power you need for every burden that comes your way.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I complain about the burdens and problems that come my way. I want to face each one with joy and peace. Give me the faith to trust You and to daily surrender to Your plan - even when I don't understand it. Help me to stand firm when I want to give up and remind me that You are working all things together in my life for my good and Your glory. Today, I choose faith over fear. I choose Jesus.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Grab your bible, a piece of paper, a pen or pencil and find a quiet place to get alone with God.
Make a list of the burdens you are carrying today. Be specific.
Read the verses listed below and commit them to memory. Pray them and claim them for each burden in your life.
Beside each burden you listed, write one of the following verses. Surrender that burden to Him and leave it at His feet.
Psalm 68:19 "Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens."
Matthew 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest."
Galatians 5:1"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery."
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It seems like everywhere I turn, I find people who are burdened, facing each day with a sense of hopelessness. God does not want us to be victims of the burdens in our life. He came so we could live in freedom, relying totally on Him for strength and power to live each day. If you are like me, it is easy to get caught up in the trap of trying to "fix" our problems or eliminate our burdens instead of appropriating God's power and promises to sustain us. Pride keeps me from admitting my helplessness and arrogance convinces me that I can handle it on my own. Wrong! I encourage you to celebrate your weaknesses, knowing God delights in transforming each weakness into a vessel through which His power and glory can shine!
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September 24, 2009
Fact or Fiction?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. (1 Peter 3:15, NIV)
Friend to Friend
There is a tale told of that great English actor Macready. An eminent preacher once said to him: "I wish you would explain to me something."
"Well, what is it? I don't know that I can explain anything to a preacher."
"What is the reason for the difference between you and me?" The preacher asked. "You are appearing before crowds night after night with fiction, and the crowds come wherever you go. I am preaching the essential and unchangeable truth, and I am not getting any crowd at all."
Macready's answer was this: "This is quite simple. I can tell you the difference between us. I present my fiction as though it were truth; you present your truth as though it were fiction."
Zinger, huh? Sure does challenge my faith-o-meter. J This story both motivates and cautions me. Frankly, Christians embarrass the cause of Christ all the time. It's vital that we be confident in the message of hope we cling to as believers in Jesus, but it's equally vital that we be prepared to share truth in love - share Scripture in proper context - share our hearts with meekness and fear for the purpose of attracting others to the restoring love of Christ. We don't need to be Bible scholars with capital letters following our names...but we do need to be Bible girls!
I don't need to harp on the fact that there's a great moral decline in the world. We see that coming and going! As Girlfriends In God (GiGs), let's commit ourselves to making a difference in the lives of others, in our homes, among our friends, in our communities, and in this world! To do this, we need to know our Bibles. To think through current issues. We must be prepared to share how we've been changed by the love of God through His Son, Jesus Christ. It's the great commission, and it's for each of us...not for the perfect among us. People around us need to know that God is still in the restoration business - and that He longs to bring His peace, hope and love to every life.
Look at the apostle Paul. He was prepared to speak about Christ wherever he went. In the New Testament book of Acts, we learn that, "from morning 'til evening he explained and declared to them the kingdom of God and tried to convince them about Jesus from the Law of Moses and from the Prophets." (Acts 28:23b, NIV)
The life-changing, peace-giving, truth we know needs to be presented to the world as life-changing, peace-giving truth! Get in His Word - get in His presence - and look for opportunities to share God's love as truth with confidence!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I doubt your truth, or fear speaking it. Help me to always be prepared to give an answer for the hope I have...to speak of Your unfailing love and unchanging truth to those around me so that they might be drawn to Your heart. Draw me to Your Word and teach me Your ways.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 2 Timothy 1:12: "Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed..." Can you say that and mean that?
Are you prepared to give an answer for the hope you have?
Have you been changed by God's grace? Held by His love? Grab your journal and write a paragraph or two that describes how God has worked in your life.
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As you are in your home and about town in your car, play some worship music!! Why wait? Listen to some now!! Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website. If you don't have the resources to invest in your worship library right now, listen to Gwen's music FREE on her MUSIC FACEBOOK PAGE: http://www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: http://www.gwensmith.net/.
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September 25, 2009
Changing the Way We Speak By Renewing the Mind
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me - put into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:8-9 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
Have you ever been to a rodeo and watched a lassoing contest? The little calf bursts from the stall and then the cowboy and his steed follow close behind. With his lasso in hand, the cowboy swings the rope in the air and attempts to lasso the little heifer before she escapes out the corral door at the opposite side of the arena. That is a vivid picture of what we must do with the words that attempt to escape the gate, the mouth...we must rein them in.
The Bible teaches us to take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). Once we lasso a thought (take it captive) we can decide which words leave the gate and which words need to be tied up and secured. Studies show that we speak at about 120 to 180 words a minute. It seems like we need to do a bit more lassoing and a lot less running on.
Let's take a look at this little heifer: our words, and how to rein them in. First, a thought bursts forth from the stall called the brain. It runs across the mind headed for the door called the mouth. In a split second, we must determine if that thought is of God or if it is against the knowledge of God. If we determine that the words are not of God, then we lasso the thought with the Word of Truth and it never makes its way out of the gate (the mouth). If it passes the God-test, we allow it to go free.
What is the lasso? It is the Word of God-the Word of Truth. That can seem a bit overwhelming, so let's just pick one verse as our lasso. Philippians 4:8, 9 is a great place to start. "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me - put into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (TNIV).
Before we speak, we can sift the words through a mental sieve. Is what I'm about to say:
· True
· Noble
· Right
· Pure
· Lovely
· Admirable
If the words don't fit this description, lasso them and don't let them go! If they do pass the test, let them trot out of the gate and bless the world!
The King James translation of 2 Corinthians 10: 5 says it this way: "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." I like that picture of casting down. See, once the cowboy slips the lasso around the calf's neck, he throws her to the ground and whips that rope around her kicking legs to make sure she's not going anywhere. Likewise, we need to "cast down" those thoughts back to the dirt where they came from and make sure they aren't going anywhere.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, sometimes I just can't believe what comes out of my mouth. Help me to think before I speak. If the words that are about to come out of my mouth are not pleasing to You or edifying to others, help me to rein them in and keep them from escaping my lips.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of Paul's litmus test for our words found in today's truth. At the end of the day, evaluate the words you spoke to others and see how you did.
Were there some words that you should have kept in the stall?
Where there some words of encouragement that you should have spoken but didn't?
I'm so glad that you are joining me on this journey to improve the words we speak. Don't get discouraged. Changing the way we speak takes prayer and practice, prayer and practice!
If you would like to comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog .
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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September 28, 2009
Avoiding the Pits of Life
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 4:26-27 "Look straight ahead to what is good. Be careful what you do, and always do what is right. Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
Life is filled with pits that come in all shapes and sizes, formed in many different ways by a variety of life circumstances. While a crisis or trial may very well be the covering of a pit in waiting, pits can also be shelter from a raging storm. In the past, my first reaction to a threatening pit was usually fear, anger, whining or questioning the very presence of that pit. But I must confess that it was at the bottom of the deepest, darkest pit of my life where I met Holy God on His terms and was forever changed, my being totally redefined. Honestly, I would climb back down into that slimy, dark pit today because of what God accomplished through it. Some pits should not be avoided but embraced as evidence of God at work.
However, pits can also be the result of sin - a sin we refuse to relinquish, a wrong habit we cherish and love more than we love God. We should and can avoid these pits by making right choices. One of those choices is to guard our thoughts.
"Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life." Proverbs 4:23 (NCV)
Our thoughts dictate the direction of our lives. The greatest battlefield of life is the mind and we are constantly at war for its control! If we want to live right, we must think right because how we think affects how we live. Since everything we do or say originates with a single thought, minds filled with truth will produce lives filled with truth.
If our mind is not filled with truth, the enemy will pollute it with lies. John warns us that Satan is the King of Lies and the Prince of Pollution! "He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies." (John 8:44 NIV) But what a great promise we find in Isaiah 26:3 "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you!" (NLT) "Fixed" literally means "loyal or faithful" and portrays the idea of faithfulness, the same kind of faithfulness found in marriage. In order to guard our thoughts, we must make the commitment of being married to the truth of God. The result and reward of faithfulness to the truth of God is the peace every mind craves and for which our desperate heart longs.
Polluted minds produce polluted lives. What we allow to dwell in our minds will work its way out in our lives. However, pollution of the mind can only happen with our permission. The best way to prevent mind pollution is to run each thought through God's purification system. The word of God, our main weapon in mental warfare, reprograms the brain, trains the mind and filters input. We must set our minds and then guard that setting. It is the idea of placing a sentry at the entrance of the mind, empowering him to determine what comes in and what doesn't. It is giving up the control of our thinking processes to God.
We are quick to give the custody of our minds away to lesser things, to unworthy goals or desires and thoughts. If it is going on in the mind, it is real and often the first step toward the edge of a very dangerous cliff.
The story is told of an eagle perched on a block of ice just above Niagara Falls. The swift current carried the ice and the great eagle closer to the edge of the falls. Ignoring the warning cries of other birds and animals, the eagle boasted, "I have great and powerful wings. I can fly from my perch at any time. I can handle it."
Suddenly the edge of the falls was only a few feet away. The torrent of water carried the block of ice over the great falls. The eagle spread his powerful wings to mount up over the impending doom only to discover that it was too late. His claws had become frozen to the cake of ice.
Life is filled with casualties of undisciplined thinking. Satan stands in the shadows, laughing at the fallen children of God whose ravaged lives stand as monuments to the powerful kingdom of darkness. In our arrogance, we foolishly believe we can handle a dangerous, mental flirtation with the base and immoral poison of foul movies, filthy books, depraved web sites or vain imaginings. Satan applauds the absence of accountability in our lives. He celebrates the flow of our thoughts toward the very sin nature that nailed Jesus Christ to the cross.
It's time to wake up! Surrender your mind to God, my friend, asking Him to cleanse and purify every part. Then guard each thought as if your life depended on it. It does.
Let's Pray
Father, right now, I surrender my mind to You. Please purify and cleanse my thought life. Give me a thirst for Your truth and a broken heart when I sin against You in the way I think. I choose today to saturate my mind with the truth of Your Word.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
For one week, keep track of how many hours you watch television, go to movies, read or surf the web.
Rate the quality of what you put before your eyes by the standard of Philippians 4:8-9.
Choose one of these areas and begin submitting it to the holiness of God. When you have victory in that area, move on to the next one. After one month, evaluate your progress.
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This week I have asked myself these questions: Would I be embarrassed or pleased to have my thought life on display for everyone in my life to see? What changes should I make? Up until now, what has been the standard for outside sources affecting my thought life? Will that standard please God? Am I really willing to surrender my mind to God? WOW! If you think you have some changes to make, girlfriend, join the club! Through God's power, we will do it together!
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September 29, 2009
The One Who Sees Me
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me." Genesis 16:13, NIV
Friend To Friend
Have you ever felt lonely, scared, angry, confused and hurt all at the same time? Ever felt like running away from a difficult situation? I have. There was a time, several years ago, when I wanted to run - hard and fast - from life as I knew it. I had just birthed three babies in three years. Then, to everybody's surprise, my husband got a promotion that moved our young family across the country to a place where we knew no one. I had two babies in diapers and one 'big boy' struggling to say goodbye to his binky. There was always a diaper to change, a mouth to feed or a mess to clean up. My days were a blur and my emotions were overloaded.
In my mind, I knew I wasn't alone - but in my heart, I felt like I was.
God knew exactly where I was.
He saw me.
El Roi was with me each step of the way. He answered prayers that had never even made it past my lips when he sent me a priceless new friend named Peg. She was a young mom, too. We laughed together, cried together, prayed together, watched each other's children and supported one another. She was a true blessing in that desperate season of my life.
Hagar was a young Egyptian servant girl who also faced some big challenges. In the Old Testament book of Genesis, chapter 16, we hear of her plight...and of her flight. When faced with difficult circumstances, she didn't stay - she ran away. And when she found herself seemingly alone in the desert, God sought her out and called her by name. Stunned that the God of the universe cared to comfort her, Hagar responded by giving God a new name...El Roi..."The One who sees me."
Below is the lyric to an intimate song that I co-wrote about Hagar...but it's also about me...and it's about you...
The One Who Sees Me
By Gwen Smith and Brad Bailey
No matter where I am, Lord, You see me
No matter where I've been, You've been there, too
And even in the times I feel abandoned and alone
You hold me like a child and draw me close to You
I lift my eyes to the One who sees me
No matter where I am
No matter where I am
I lift my soul to the One who lifts me
With a loving hand
With a loving hand
No matter where I am I'm turning to
The One who sees me
No matter what I say, Lord, You hear me
No matter where I go, You're by my side
And even in the times I feel exhausted and unheard
You love me with Your words, passionate and kind
Even my darkest place is illuminated by Your grace
I am so amazed*
To hear "The One Who Sees Me" CLICK HERE and listen on Gwen's Facebook Music Page.
Let's lift our eyes and our souls to El Roi right now!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there have been times when I have felt alone and abandoned. Thanks for reminding me that You are a God who will never allow me to be beyond Your sight or Your reach. Help me to face trials with a courage that is firmly routed in your strength and power so others might be drawn to You and know Your grace. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What can you learn from Hagar's encounter with God in the desert?
Is there a difficulty in your life that you are tempted to run away from or ignore?
Are you willing to surrender your pain to El Roi?
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As you are in your home and about town in your car, play some worship music!! Why wait? Listen to some now!! Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website. If you don't have the resources to invest in your worship library right now, listen to Gwen's music FREE on her MUSIC FACEBOOK PAGE: http://www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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September 30, 2009
Resource Inventory
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1 "The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want."
Friend To Friend
When it comes to the resources that we need for life, this promise from the 23rd Psalm is staggeringly important to remember, because it holds the promise of contentment in our lives. A famous actor was once the guest of honor at a social gathering where he was asked to recite favorite excerpts from various literary works. An old preacher who happened to be there asked the actor to recite the twenty-third Psalm. The actor agreed on the condition that the preacher would also recite it. The actor's recitation was beautifully intoned with great dramatic emphasis for which he received lengthy applause. The preacher's voice was rough and broken from many years of preaching, and his diction was anything but polished. But when he finished there was not a dry eye in the room. When someone asked the actor what made the difference, he replied "I know the psalm, but he knows the Shepherd."
When we know Him, we have everything that we need. An amazing strength and unshakable contentment comes from a source that is not our own. It comes from an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Knowing God makes all of His resources available to us! Resources like:
· wisdom
· guidance
· power
· peace
· love
· patience
· self-control
In other words strength for every area of life! Strength is fertile soil for peace and will bring a harvest of contentment.
Psalm 29:11 The LORD gives his people strength. The LORD blesses them with peace.
God did not come to give us human strength. He came to give us His strength!
Isaiah 12: 2 The LORD GOD is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.
When we count on His resources instead of our own, we will experience true contentment! I read a story about a man who had to cross a wide river on the ice. He was afraid the ice might be thin, so he began to crawl on his hands and knees, afraid that he might fall through at any moment. Just as he neared the opposite shore, totally exhausted, another man glided past him nonchalantly sitting on a sled loaded with iron weights. How like us! We live each day, crawling through life, settling for our meager strength and our pitifully limited resources, afraid that His promises will break under the weight of our circumstances.
Listen, my friend! There is no limit to His power and there is no end to His strength. In fact, our weakness is the perfect showcase for His strength! According to the American Holistic Health Federation, people who are not satisfied with their lives and seem to have no contentment increase their risk of premature death by at least ten percent. Hudson Taylor once noted that "God uses men who are weak and feeble enough to lean on him." Paul writes in another letter to the church at Corinth, "My power works best in your weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9) Today, right now, exchange your weak resources for His by giving up your rights, your plans and solutions. Lay them at His feet and choose His plan instead. Then you will find contentment!
Let's Pray
Father, it seems that a seed of discontent has taken root in my life. I have tried so many things, hoping they would fill that "hole" in my soul. I have looked to so many people to make me happy. I now realize the only source of contentment is You. Right now, I lay down every lifeless resource and submit to You, Your plan and Your perfect provision in my life. Thank You, Lord, for being everything I need.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What resources have you been counting on for contentment? Have those resources disappointed you? How? What steps do you need to take in order to experience His contentment in your life? Try these:
· Admit that you have been counting on your resources instead of God's.
· Recognize that those resources have not brought contentment to your life.
· Choose to allow the Holy Spirit to create God's resources in you.
· Commit to follow His plan and count on His resources for that plan.
· Thank Him for the contentment that you know, by faith, will flood your life.
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Where did the summer go? In fact, can you believe that the holidays are just around the corner? If you are like me, I find it very easy to get caught up in acquiring "stuff" ... especially around the holidays. Last January, we moved to a much smaller house and had to get rid of a lot of "treasures" we had repeatedly moved over the course of many years and many moves. At first, it was hard to let go of each item ... but it got easier and easier as the days went by. Now, I can't remember most of the things I gave away. I am determined that this holiday season will be all about Him and not about things. Make that commitment with me.
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October 1, 2009
Changing Fear to Faith
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I know whom I have believed and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day" (1 Timothy 1:12 NIV).
Friend To Friend
We all have times when our faith begins to waver and doubts creep in like slow growing moss. Even Jesus' cousin, John the Baptist had a bout with doubt. Remember John? He was born several months before Jesus for the sole purpose of preparing the way for Jesus' ministry. "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near," he proclaimed. When Jesus approached John preaching and baptizing by the river, John announced, "Look, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!" (John 1:29). John heard the voice of God saying, "This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased" (Matthew 3:17).
And yet, when John was arrested and sat alone in the darkened prison cell, doubts began to creep in. He sent two of his friends to ask Jesus, "Are you the one who was to come, or should we expect someone else?" (Luke 7:18).
Jesus did not rebuke John for his bout with doubt, but rather reassured him to have faith and cling to the truth.
Faith is trusting God's heart when we can't trace His hand.
For close to a year, I worked on a large needlepoint piece. I must say, the canvas turned out quite lovely. But if you turn it over and look at the backside, it looks like a mess of tangles, knots and frayed ends. That's the way it is with our lives at times. We tend to look at the underside of tangles, knots and frayed ends, while God sees the finished product. Consider the words to this anonymous poem quoted by Corrie Ten Boom in her book, Tramp for the Lord.
My life is but a weaving, between my God and me,
I do not choose the colors, He worketh steadily,
Oftimes He weaveth sorrow, and I in foolish pride,
Forget He see the upper, and I the underside.
Until the loom is silent, and shuttles cease to fly,
Will God unfold the canvas and explain the reason why.
The dark threads are as needful in the skillful Weaver's hand,
As the threads of gold and silver in the pattern He has planned.
If ever there was a woman who had a messy life, it was Rahab. Rahab was a prostitute who lived in one of the apartments built into the walls of Jericho. When Joshua sent two spies into the city to scope out their enemies, the men went to Rahab's home. Jericho was a bustling city and it was not uncommon for travelers to seek the house of a prostitute for lodging.
Rahab did not have the luxury of being taught the Scriptures as we do today. And yet, she had faith in God because of what she had heard. When the king's men came looking for the Israelite spies, she hid them under stalks of flax on the roof. Rahab lived among people who were filled with fear because of the reputation of the Israelites and their God. But rather than being filled with fear, she made a proclamation of faith:
"I know that the LORD has given this land to you and that a great fear of you has fallen on us, so that all who live in this country are melting in fear because of you. We have heard how the LORD dried up the water of the Red Sea for you when you came out of Egypt and what you did to Sihom and Og, the two kings of the Amorites east of the Jordan, whom you completely destroyed. When we heard of it, our hearts melted and everyone's courage failed because of you, for the LORD your God is God in heaven above and on the earth below. Now then, please swear to me by the LORD that you will show kindness to my family, because I have shown kindness to you" (Joshua 2: 9-12).
Rahab turned her fear into faith. Her proclamation of faith saved her and her family, and they were assimilated into God's chosen people. Amazingly, Rahab became the mother of Boaz, the grandmother of Jesse, and the great-great-grandmother of King David and her tiny branch is even part of Jesus' family tree.
I love this inscription posted at Hind's Head Inn in Bray, England: "Fear knocked at the door. Faith answered. No one was there."
Fear comes knocking with a thought. Faith answers with a word ... God's Word. As Martin Luther wrote in his masterful "A Mighty Fortress is our God ..."One little word shall fail him." The very name of Jesus will defeat the devil and drive away fear.
Let's Pray
LORD, You are my light and my salvation...whom shall I fear? You are the stronghold of my life...of whom shall I be afraid? I am surrounded by a host of angels who are here to deliver me from harm. You are my refuge and strength, my ever-present help in trouble. Therefore I will not fear, but put my trust in You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Today's prayer came from several of David's Psalms. Look up the following Scripture and see what you can learn about David's source of courage and confidence.
Psalm 27:1
Psalm 34:7
Psalm 46:1
Psalm 91:1-8
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October 2, 2009
Guilt - the Gift that Keeps on Giving
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." James 4:6 (NIV)
Friend to friend
When Frederick II, an eighteenth-century King of Prussia, went on an inspection tour of a Berlin prison, he was greeted with the cries of prisoners hoping and praying for leniency. They fell on their knees, pleading their cases, asserting their innocence and declaring their unjust imprisonment. While listening to these mournful pleas of innocence, Frederick's eye was caught by a solitary figure in the corner, a prisoner sitting quietly and all alone. "Why are you here?" Frederick asked him. "I am here for armed robbery, Your Majesty." "Are you guilty?" the king asked. "Oh yes, Your Majesty. I entirely deserve my punishment," the prisoner replied. Frederick called the jailer. "Release this guilty man at once," he instructed. "I will not have him kept in this prison where he will undoubtedly corrupt all of these innocent people."
When we come to Christ in a personal relationship, we are set free from guilt. Right? Then why do so many of us live each day waiting for God to "lower the boom"! The mental tapes play repeatedly in our mind, "There must be some sin I have not confessed. I really blew it! How can God really love someone like me? I feel so guilty!" Oh, friend! You are playing right into the hand of Satan himself! One of his favorite weapons of spiritual warfare is guilt. If we are guilt-ridden, we are powerless and impotent. Forgiveness seems like a pipe-dream. Love is an unmerited gift and peace only a dream.
A friend recently told me about a new product she found listed on the internet. "Disposable Guilt Bags" first appeared in a few select stores to test the market. I could have told the inventor that guilt exists in abundance and that people will go to any lengths to assuage their guilt. My friend explained that you could buy a set of Disposable Guilt Bags, ten ordinary brown bags on which were printed the following instructions: "Place the bag securely over your mouth then take a deep breath and blow out all of your guilt. Close the bag and dispose of immediately." The amazing part of this story is that the Associated Press reported that over 2500 kits had sold immediately at $2.50 per kit. Unbelievable! Actually, it isn't. Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving and we will do almost anything to escape it.
Nothing on this earth is powerful enough to erase guilt. We try to "fix" ourselves but fail. We try to "fix" others but fail. The only power that can eliminate guilt is God's grace. "In Christ we are set free by the blood of his death. And so we have forgiveness of sins because of God's rich grace." (Ephesians 1:7 NCV) When our lives are lived against the backdrop of grace, guilt will die from a lack of attention.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of feeling guilty! I desperately want to experience Your peace, Your love and Your forgiveness. I know I am not worthy of Your grace, but I also know that Your grace is a gift, bought and paid for on the cross by Jesus Christ. Please help me to live in the shadow of that cross, free from guilt.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside some time today to spend with God. On a sheet of paper, list the areas of your life that are sources of guilt. Is there a sin you need to confess? Confess it and accept God's forgiveness. Is there a lie you need to abandon? Let it go right now. Is there someone you need to forgive? Choose to forgive that person. Has someone hurt you? Forgive them and release the hurt.
Thank God for His love, His peace and His grace. Write out your prayer and read it each day this week.
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion is especially important to me because for so long, I allowed guilt to hold me prisoner. Looking back, I'm not really sure why. I just felt guilty ... about almost everything. Girlfriend, accept God's gift of grace right now and lay down your guilt today. Sharon, Gwen and I are celebrating with you - the freedom Christ brings. Amen!
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October 5, 2009
I Can't-itis
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I can do everything through him (Jesus) who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13 NIV).
Friend To Friend
By the time my son was four-years-old, he had a bad case of the "I Can't-itis." If he didn't have immediate success in an endeavor, his tendency was to throw up his chubby little hands and say, "I can't do it!"
When it came time to take the training wheels off his bike, a bad case of "I Can't-itis" crept in. For several hours, Steven tried to balance the two wheels, but crashed to the ground time and time again. "I can't do it," he stormed.
"You can't do it, yet," I encouraged. "But you will. And when you learn to ride your bike, it will be the funnest thing you do as a kid."
Steven looked me in the eye, placed his balled up hands on his little hips and slowly said, "This-is-not-fun-and-it-will-never-be-fun."
Oh, my, how I saw myself in those eyes. So many times when God is trying to teach me a life lesson or a new discipline, I lose my balance and want to quit. He takes the training wheels off and sets me on the road of maturity, and sometimes I tumble to the ground. "I can't do it," I cry "This is not fun and it will never be fun."
But God just keeps on working with me, holding the back of the bicycle until I learn to balance and keep moving straight ahead. The next thing you know, I'm cruising down victory lane and God is smiling with joy and delight.
A few days after Steven's declaration of defeat, he walked out the door, hopped on his little red bike, and peddled around the yard without losing his balance once. And you know what, riding his bicycle was the funnest thing he ever did as a kid.
Remember Moses? Now he was a man with a bad case of "I Can't-itis. When God spoke to Moses through the burning bush and called him to lead the Israelites out of Egyptian bondage, Moses started shaking in his sandals. "What if they ask me Your name?" he questioned. "What if they don't believe me?" "I've never been a good speaker." "Please pick someone else!"
God patiently answered each of Moses' arguments and gave him the cure for his cowardice. "I will be with you. I will help you," He replied (Exodus 3:12, 4:12). And friend, that is the cure for you and for me.
The devil would have us believe that we can't _________. We can fill in that blank with any number of things. I can't live victoriously. I can't control my emotions. I can't be a loving wife. I can't find a job. I can't control my eating. I can't control my tongue.
But that is a lie. The truth is "I can do everything through him (Christ) who gives me strength!" Philippians 4:13. Who are you going to believe, the enemy who says "you can't," or God who says "you can?"
You'll be happy to know that Steven is now a twenty-five-year-old confident young man and only has occasional flares ups of "I Can't-it is"...as we all do.
Join me tomorrow as we look at a young man in the Bible who knew the cure for "I Can't-itis."
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, there are so many things that I cannot do ... in my own strength. However, with Your power working through me, I can do anything that You call me to do. I know that if You call me to it, You will see me through it. If You give me the vision, You will give me the provision. I can do all things through him who gives me strength.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen and Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there anything in your life that you feel God has called you to do, but you have answered with "I can't?" It may not be by forming the words with your lips, but ignoring His leading with your actions.
What do you think God is waiting to hear from you?
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've been listening to the lies of the enemy who tells you that you are "not good enough" it's time to stop! Let's start believing God's truth that says you are a chosen, holy, cleansed, forgiven, empowered child of the King.
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October 6, 2009
The Cure for I Can't-itis
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I can do everything through him (Jesus) who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday, we looked at a man who had a bad case of the "I Can't-itis. Today, let's look at a young man who knew the cure. His name was David.
It is during Saul's reign in Israel when we meet this young shepherd boy named David. The Israelites were at war with a powerful warrior-people known as the Philistines. The two warring factions camped on opposing hillsides with a valley in between. It seemed the Philistines had a secret weapon named Goliath. Goliath was over nine-feet tall, wore a bronze helmet and a coat of scale armor of bronze.
For forty days, morning and evening, this nine-foot giant of a man approached the battle lines and shouted at the Israelites, taunting and challenging them to a one-man duel. God's chosen people were terrified and huddled together in fear.
One day, David's father instructed him to take some lunch over to three of his brothers who were huddling among the Israelite army. I can almost see him skipping happily along without a care in the world. He heard the war cries, left the provisions at the camp, and ran out to the battle lines to see what all the commotion was about. Just as he approached, Goliath came forward and shouted his usual defiant challenge. While the soldiers turned and ran, David stood there in a cloud of dust and asked: "Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?" (1 Samuel 17:26). In other words, "What's the big deal?"
This young shepherd boy confidently declared, "Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him. The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistines" (1 Samuel 32, 37).
Oh, I love it! I love it! David refused Saul's heavy cumbersome armor. Wearing someone else's armor would allow them to get part of the glory and David wanted it perfectly clear that the victory would be God's alone. He gathered five smooth stones, stood as tall and erect as his teenage lanky legs could stand, and confidently shouted at the towering enemy.
"You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the LORD Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the LORD will hand you over to me, and I'll strike you down and cut off your head. Today I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds of the air and the beasts of the earth, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the LORD saves; for the battle is the LORD's and he will give all of you into our hands."
As Goliath began to move closer, David charged his enemy, placed a smooth stone in his sling, and took perfect aim. The stone sunk into Goliath's forehead and he fell, face down on the ground. Can't you just see the stunned Israelites, the shocked Philistines, and the smiling angels as little David stood over the giant with his foot pressed against the armor clad-chest?
I'm about to start shouting right now! Go ahead! Give a shout for the home team!
Now this is what I want us to see. Yesterday we looked at Moses, a man who cowered when God called him into leadership. He said, "I can't."
David was a boy who took the bull by the horns, or rather the giant by the head, when faced with God's enemy. He was a boy who said, "God can." What made the difference? Moses looked at his own abilities and said, "I can't. I don't have what it takes." David looked at the almighty God and said, "God can. He has what it takes."
No matter what you are facing today. No matter what giants are standing in your path, if God gives you the vision, He will give you the provision. He may not call the equipped, but He always equips the called. You have what it takes. God has given you the power of the Holy Spirit. That same power transformed Peter from a coward who denied he even knew Jesus after his arrest, into a commando who spoke out with confidence and passion after Jesus' ascension.
Satan wants us to believe that we don't have what it takes. God's truth is that we have everything we need. The power of the Holy Spirit has been given to us, is living in us, and working through us. But here's the key. That power is for us who believe (Ephesians 1:18-20). The power is available, but we must believe to receive.
Satan tells me "I can't."
God tells me, "He already has."
The only obstacle keeping us from doing all that God has called us to do and being all that God has called us to be is our unbelief. Jesus said, "All things are possible to those who believe." .
If God has called you to it, He will see you through it. The truth is: "I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength!"
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, there are many giants in my life and I confess that I have let them scare me from time to time. But today, I am standing with David in confident courage. The same God who empowered David empowers me. Thank You for the gift of the Holy Spirit who gives me all the power I need to live in victory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you had a case of "I Can't-itis?"
Yesterday? This morning?
Now, picture yourself with David and write your own rendition of 1 Samuel 17:26 and 37.
I'd love to see what you wrote! If you'd like to share, just log onto www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and go the comment section of today's devotion.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've been listening to the lies of the enemy who tells you that you are "not good enough" it's time to stop! Let's start believing God's truth that says you are a chosen, holy, cleansed, forgiven, empowered child of the King.
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October 7, 2009
Put Your Faith Where Your Action Is!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead." James 2:17, NIV
Friend To Friend
I remember a time, back in 1993, when I was swept up in the whimsical world of wedding planning. Every detail mattered. I was excited to be marrying Brad Smith, and wanted our wedding day to be a magical springboard to a life filled with amazing adventures and deep years of God-centered love. From the cake choices - to the dress choices - to the music choices - to the guest list choices - to the bridal registry choices: I was all about the business of wedding prep!
The bride of Christ is purposed to be all about the Father's business. To prep for eternity by making choices to bring Him glory throughout our days. To intentionally worship the Lord through our service. As daughters of God, we are called to connect our believing to our behaving. Our convictions to our conversations. Our lip-service to our life-service. The Biblical mandate for each believer is this: put your faith where your action is!
"Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead." (James 2:17)
Hear me out here. Service is not the key to gaining salvation. Salvation comes by faith in Christ alone (Romans 10:9-10). Service is, however, essential for the believer as a response to her salvation. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10).
No matter who you are or what your platform is in life, the truth remains that whatever you do and say is being watched. Everyone emanates something. A radiant Christian woman - a radiant bride of Christ - emanates the saltiness and light of Jesus through her life, as displayed through the things she does and doesn't do.
Jesus said, "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.
You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:13-16, NIV).
Today, I pray that you are spurred on to be a woman of action for Christ - no matter what the circumstances of your life or the complexities of your relationships may be. From your word choices - to your tone choices - to your television choices - to your music choices - to your service choices - to your activity choices - be all about your Father's business. Go in His strength, and put your faith where your action is!
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I pray that You will help my actions to line up with Your perfect will. Help me to be Your hands and feet to those around me. Shine through my actions so others might be drawn to Your healing hope.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your life radiate? What are your actions saying about your faith? Are you salty for Christ in what you do and say? Spend a few moments reflecting on this and then spend some time in prayer.
How can you serve someone today? Perhaps God is leading you to bless someone in your household ... or someone in your church ... or someone in your neighborhood. Could you reach out to a single mom, a family member, a widow, or a hurting friend? Ask God to direct you to opportunities to put your faith into action in the lives of others.
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Trust me, friend, in no way am I trying to place the burden of "you-must-do-more-things-in-order-to-please-God" on you. I just want to encourage you to make the most of every choice and every action. If you feel so drained and weary that you can't imagine being able to give anyone anything right now, be sure to get alone with God. His presence and His Spirit will strengthen you for each moment.
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October 8, 2009
A Promise from the Pit
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:1-2 (NIV) "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
Friend To Friend
From the age of ten, our son, Jered, played football with one goal in mind - to be a starting player on a college football team. When he graduated from high school, and was recruited by a wonderful college that offered him an academic and athletic scholarship, we were ecstatic! Go God!
Jered was red-shirted as a freshman and during his sophomore year, became the starting fullback. It was so exciting to see our son's childhood dream become a reality. Although his team had a less than stellar season that year, Jered loved playing and had a great year as he developed physically, learned the complicated play system and took on that "veteran" mindset.
The following summer, Jered was unusually excited about the approaching football season. The college hired several coaches who seemed to have a new plan in mind for the upcoming year. All summer long, Jered faithfully ran, lifted weights, watched his diet and called teammates with the encouragement, "This is our year!" Even the brutal regimen of pre-season practice was taken in stride ... until the last play ... of the last practice. I will never forget that phone call from our son. "I hurt my knee in practice today. I have to have surgery which means I am out for the whole season." I listened in disbelieving silence that quickly escalated its way to fury. Surely, I had heard him wrong. This couldn't be happening because God wouldn't let it happen - would He? Not to Jered. He had worked so hard. He had been so faithful. Why Jered? Why this? Why now? It's one thing for me to "face trials of many kinds" but it is a totally different matter altogether for my son to face them.
Jered is every mother's dream - sweet natured, gentle, hard working - a rare young man of integrity who loves and serves God. How could this "pit experience" possibly be the best plan for his life? God clearly answered that question as we sat in the stands, week after week, watching Jered pace the sidelines on crutches while cheering his team on. He didn't miss a single rehab session, team practice or team meeting. I never heard him complain or question. Coaches, doctors, trainers, teammates and parents witnessed a living illustration of the truth that the "testing of your faith develops perseverance". Jered's faith was indeed tested and he passed with flying colors! Jered returned the next year as starting fullback and his team finished the season as the undefeated conference champions. I love it when a plan really does come together!
Are you sitting at the bottom of a pit? Do you feel as if God has not only deserted you but "set you up" for a season of pain and failure? Is your heart filled with anger? Are you discouraged? Celebrate, my friend! God is fully aware of your circumstances and will use it all for your good and His glory!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for my complaining and questioning spirit in this pit. Help me to see Your hand at work in every trial and celebrate all You are doing in my life through that difficult circumstance. I choose joy! I choose to believe You and trust You in the darkness as well as in the light. Thank You for the gift of testing and the reward of perseverance.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back to a "pit" experience and remember your initial response. Evaluate that response in light of the truth that since trials develop perseverance, we can face each one with joy.
During that difficult time, did you question God? In what way(s)? Be specific.
Looking back, would you say that the trial strengthened your faith in God or lessened it? Explain your answer.
Pinpoint one truth gained from your "pit" experience. Make a list of specific ways you can apply that truth to your daily walk.
In regard to this "pit" experience, answer the questions, "Why me? Why now? Why this?"
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV) "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths."
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I hate pits! I know God uses them for my good and that the struggle through each one strengthens my faith. But that does not mean my feelings match my faith. In fact, feelings have nothing to do with faith but we often confuse the two. Faith is a deliberate choice, an agreement between you and God about His truth. Your feelings may or may not match that choice. It doesn't matter. God understands that our frail humanity includes fickle feelings that can rarely be trusted. Instead, trust God. Trust His Word!
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October 9, 2009
The Dark Cloud
Leslie Nease
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Leslie Nease.
Today's Truth
"For this is what the Sovereign LORD says: 'I myself will search for my sheep and look after them. As a shepherd looks after his scattered flock when he is with them, so will I look after my sheep. I will rescue them from all the places where they were scattered on a day of clouds and darkness'" Ezekiel 34:11-12
Friend To Friend
Ever have one of those days when you feel like there is a dark cloud following you around? It's like a heaviness that keeps you almost paralyzed with fear or frustration. Honestly, it can be quite overwhelming. Am I speaking your language?
These "cloudy" days come at such unexpected times - usually the most inopportune times, if you ask me. Yesterday was one of those days for me. I had this overpowering feeling of dread. All day I tried to figure it out but was so busy getting the kids in school that I couldn't really stop and find a solution. Last night, my husband and I took a long walk and we talked about it. He said "Just be still and rest tomorrow. Slow down and just try to get alone with God. You will figure it out."
This morning, I decided it was time. So I prayed, opened my Bible and began my search for answers. I don't want another day like yesterday! I read my daily Bible reading and came across this verse in Psalm 105:39 "The Lord spread a cloud above them as a covering and gave them a great fire to light the darkness." He was talking about the Israelites during their Exodus out of Egypt. I like the thought that God "covered" them with this cloud. It almost seemed protective and not scary at all. I thought that was very interesting, so I decided to look up all the instances where the word "cloud" was mentioned.
The word "cloud" is mentioned 153 times in the Bible and the vast majority of those times, it was used to describe God's presence. Interesting! When God's presence was in the form of a thick cloud at the Tabernacle, the Israelites camped out and didn't move. Once the cloud would lift, they would pack up camp and move on.
Numbers 9:20-22 says: "Sometimes the cloud was over the tabernacle only a few days; at the LORD's command they would encamp, and then at his command they would set out. Sometimes the cloud stayed only from evening till morning, and when it lifted in the morning, they set out. Whether by day or by night, whenever the cloud lifted, they set out. Whether the cloud stayed over the tabernacle for two days or a month or a year, the Israelites would remain in camp and not set out; but when it lifted, they would set out."
The Israelites were commanded by God to be still when the cloud was present. This truth is certainly not lost on me. I think my husband was absolutely right. God may be trying to get my attention with this heavy, dark cloud He has allowed to come over me. I need to camp out, slow down and seek Him with everything in me until the cloud disappears.
I can't say the cloud has completely lifted as of yet, but I can say with great confidence that I have met with the Creator of the Universe in my dark, cloudy day and He has shown me great fire to light the darkness. When He blacked out the rest of the world, He slowed me down so I could focus on His promises. He has shown me Light in this darkness that I would not have seen had I not experienced the cloud. If you have a cloud hovering over you today, seek Him. He is in the darkness and He is waiting to meet with you. In fact, the cloud could be His blessed invitation to meet one on one with Him! What a privilege!
Let's Pray
Father, I thank You for Your unfathomable ways. You are so good, so persistent and so patient with me. I pray that when a heavy, dark day comes my way that instead of succumbing to the heaviness that I will look to the Light of Your presence and seek You instead of hiding under the covers. Please remind me daily of the privilege of having a God who cares, who slows me down when I'm going too fast and gives me everything I need. I love You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you trust God even in the dark days of this world? What practical steps will you take the next time one of these days presents itself to avoid falling into the temptation to give up?
Take a few minutes to spend and read Psalm 23, meditating on the truths of this amazing passage of Scripture. Write down the promises that our Shepherd gives to us so you can refer to them the next time the cloud comes your way.
Pray to the Lord and thank Him for the dark days that help us to appreciate those days of Light that much more!
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Leslie Nease is a women's and youth ministry speaker and writer who resides in Tega Cay, SC. Her ministry is called "Get Gutsy for God." She is a former Christian radio host for New Life 91.9 and 106.9 The Light and was a contestant on the hit reality show "Survivor China" in 2007. For more information on her ministry and to find her blog and some free resources and encouragement, please visit her at www.leslienease.com. You can also find her on facebook at www.facebook.com/leslienease.
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October 12, 2009
Taming the Tongue
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control" (Galatians 5:22 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Martha is a sweet older woman who is in the intermediate stages of Alzheimer's disease. Perhaps one of the most radical changes in her behavior, besides memory loss, is her inability to control her tongue. Martha has always used her words in a positive way, but in these latter years, her words have become unrestrained. Her ability to keep unkind or hurtful words from escaping her lips is impaired. She can't help it. It is part of the disease that is ravaging her mind. But watching my dear friend has helped me realized the importance of restraining our tongues. It is a sign of physical, spiritual, and emotional health.
When I was young, I loved reading the story of the stately steed, Black Beauty. In my early teens, I enjoyed visiting my friend Cammie and riding horses on her parents' dairy farm. We often clicked our heels and raced through the fields with reckless abandonment.
The horse is a powerful animal, yet with the tug of the reins or the tap of a heel, he will submit to his master's bidding. On the other hand, a wild stallion that has not been brought under the control of a master is of very little use.
In the Bible, we are instructed to have a spirit of gentleness which tempers the words we speak (Galatians 5:23). The Greek word for gentleness is prautes, and suggests a wild horse that has been tamed. Unfortunately, in our modern society, the word gentleness connotes being weak. However, the Greek word means anything but weak. Picture a muscular steed, proudly holding his head, poised to move with speed and power, nostrils flaring, but at the same time, under his master's control. It is the picture of a warhorse under the control of its master. That is a true picture of prautes - gentleness.
The same word, prautes, is translated "meek" in the King James Version. When Jesus said He was "meek and lowly in heart" (Matthew 11:29), He was saying He was submitted to God - mightily powerful but under God's control. Only when we submit our tongues to God will we have the ability to use our words for good. Meekness isn't weakness; it's power under control. It is taming and training our tongues to be under the submission and control of the Holy Spirit.
Let me give you an example. Oh, I hate to admit this, but I fear many sisters will relate - the dents in my armor attest to it.
Before I became a Christian, I was very "gifted" with a quick sarcastic wit. Have you ever been in an argument and two hours later thought of a great comeback or slam remark? Not me. I could think of them on the spot. I was good - so good. Why, I could have opened up a side business feeding disgruntled wives, employees and friend's quick comebacks through earphones during confrontations. However, after I accepted Christ as my Savior, it didn't take the Holy Spirit long to convict me that my tongue was not glorifying God. Sure, it brought some laughs, but Jesus wasn't smiling. So I began the arduous task of taming the tongue.
I memorized Job 40:4, "I put my hand over my mouth" and bit my tongue. It was hard letting all those good sarcastic comments go to waste, but I knew they were only fit for the garbage heap.
That was over thirty years ago. On many occasions, when someone is telling me about a confrontation with a family member or a co-worker, those quick witted remarks still pop up in my mind like a cue card on the stage. When a store clerk offers a snide remark, I can usually think of one more snide. So where's the victory? The victory comes when I choose not to let the words out of my mouth. When I lasso the words before they have a chance to run out of the gate. When I offer blessings rather than cursing. When I put on the humility of Christ and take the comments without the retaliation. That, my friend, is choosing to walk in the Spirit instead of choosing to walk in the flesh. It can only happen by the power of the Holy Spirit, and it becomes easier with practice.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I pray that the fruit of the Spirit will grow in my life today. I pray that the evidence of that fruit in my life will be in the words I speak to others. Help my fruit to be sweet today. Show me where I need to clip off unproductive branches that hinder healthy growth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
OK, girlfriend, I was honest with you today. Are you willing to be honest with someone about an area that you need to change? Accountability is a powerful tool for change. If there is an area in your life that God has convicted you needs to change, tell a girlfriend and ask her to hold you accountable. Ask her to pray with you about the desired to change and invite her to ask you about your progress. That's what girlfriends in God are for!
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Word. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. This book also has a companion Bible study guide. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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October 13, 2009
Between Faith and a Hard Place
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me--watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." (Matthew 11:28-29, MSG)
Friend To Friend
C.H. Spurgeon wrote, "God often sends us trials that our graces may be discovered, and that we may be certified of their existence. Besides, it is not merely discovery, real growth in grace is the result of sanctified trials. God often takes away our comforts and our privileges in order to make us better Christians. He trains His soldiers, not in tents of ease and luxury, but by turning them out them to forced marches and hard service. He makes them ford through streams, and swim through rivers, and climb mountains, and walk many a long mile with heavy knapsacks of sorrow on their backs. Well, Christian, may not this account for the troubles through which thou art passing? Is not the Lord bringing out your graces, and making them grow? Is not this the reason why He is contending with you?"
Like C. H. Spurgeon, the Bible tells us hard truths. It doesn't paint a rosy picture. It actually paints a thorny picture. It promises hardship. It assures us that in this life there will be troubles...times when we find ourselves caught between faith and a hard place.
Christianity is no free lunch. Faith in Christ doesn't shield us from troubles but it does help us through them. There are natural tensions here. Questions that beg to be asked:
Is God really all loving? Yes.
Is God always good? Yes.
Will we each find ourselves caught between faith and hard places? Yes.
Many television preachers, churches and groups will tell you differently, but the truth remains: faith is an anchor of hope for the believer. Jesus spoke of the hard times we would face. "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33, NIV, emphasis mine).
I don't have all the answers to life's hard questions, and I don't know why His hand brings healing to some and not to others, but I do know that when we take our burdens to Jesus, we can experience peace in each hard place. God is always faithful, whether we are delivered from our hard places or through them.
As Christians, we have faith in a person, God. Faith in and of itself is meaningless, but faith in an all-seeing, all-knowing, all-powerful, loving heavenly Father means everything...because - though our problems come and go - He is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8).
I'm not sure what hard places you face today, but God knows exactly where you are and what you're facing. When you find yourself between faith and a hard place, even in the times when you don't know what to pray, turn to the Lord. God hears every cry and loves you deeply. He's placed two Scriptures on my heart to share with you:
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6
"But now, this is what the LORD says--he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior." Isaiah 43:1-3a
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thanks for the reminder that I never have to walk through a trial without You. Help me to trust You in everything...even when I don't understand. Today, I bring _____________ to You and ask that You would move powerfully in and through this burden of my heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 34.
What verses spoke to your heart? Write them down, speak them out loud, commit them to memory and journal if you like to journal.
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October 14, 2009
Faith in the Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1-6 "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Can you believe the holidays are just around the corner? Stores are already filled with Christmas decorations. Television ads for the newest and best toys multiply every day. It won't be long until we are wringing our hands, wondering where the money for Christmas gifts is going to come from, a fact that must sadden the heart of God. To think that our first thoughts of His birth are wrapped in financial distress is a clear indication that we do not understand and live on the sufficiency of God.
Have you noticed that it is always more fun to pay the bills when you actually have money to pay them instead of holding what my husband calls "The Monthly Draw"? The Southerland Monthly Draw is held when there are more bills than money. The rules are quite simple. All of the bills are placed in a stack. Dan then rifles through the stack, drawing out one of the bills to pay. This process continues until there is no more money. The rest of the bills have to wait until more money comes in. Sound familiar?
One morning, when I walked into the study, I could immediately tell by the look on Dan's face that the "draw" was not going so well. Finances had been extremely tight for a variety of reasons. Dan and I had prayed our way through that month, knowing that the next few months would only hold more of the same. I debated whether I should stick around to offer encouragement or run for the hills. I decided to stay. "Honey, can I help?" Dan looked up at me with a weak grin and said, "Not unless you have $900.00." Oh, boy! It was worse than I thought. Seeing the look on my face, my sweet husband quickly added, "Don't worry, honey, God always comes through." Now I must admit that at that precise moment, I would have preferred a tangible sample of God's provision. You know - something along the lines of a money tree in the back yard or an oil well in the front. I went to my desk, hoping to find a forgotten check from a speaking event or book sale. I came up empty. An examination of my check register was even more depressing. Did we really need two children? Maybe we should sell one! (Just kidding) As I racked my brain for some way to "provide", I realized that I was stepping dangerously close to Sapphira Territory. "Lord, I want to trust you as my Provider but right now, we really need $900.00", I informed the God of the Universe. How is that for a prayer of faith?
Dan did all he could do with the stack of bills and went next door to visit our neighbor while I stayed home, plotting and scheming ways to come up with $900.00. In fact, I spent the rest of the day in what my mother called "a tizzy" because as far as I could see, there was no plot and there was no scheme remotely looming in the Southerland picture that could produce the needed amount of money. And that was the problem. I was only looking "as far as I could see".
Finally, I left the need at His feet and went on with what was left of my day. As I began to prepare dinner, I remembered that I had forgotten to check the mail and headed outside. There it was, God's perfect provision just sitting in our mailbox, waiting for me to come - an unexpected check for $949.64. Dan and I became aware of our need that morning. The check was mailed several days before. God met the need before the need was evident. He always does! In Philippians 4:19, Paul reminds us that our God will "meet all our needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
I often learn the most life-changing lessons at the feet of children. Ellie is the five-year-old granddaughter of a very close friend, Gina, who is known to cheer me up by sharing an "Ellie-ism". Not long ago, Gina was telling me about the prayer Ellie had prayed the night before at dinner. The meal was ready. Everyone in the family was seated, and Ellie volunteered to say the blessing. Every adult at the table smiled, wondering what childish offering they were about to hear. What they heard was profound truth from God as spoken through the words of a child. Head bowed, hands folded, Ellie prayed, "God is great. God is good. Let us thank Him for our food. By His hand, we all are fed. Give us, Lord our daily bread. THE END!" That about sums it up!
Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as the sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care and provision, we would be wise to depend totally upon God. He is our Provider. He is our Source and in light of that reality, stress flees, leaving only peace. As the holidays approach, fix your heart on God, rely upon your Shepherd, and trust Him to meet every need in your life and rest in the fact that He is the beginning ... and the end.
My Psalm 23
The Lord is my Shepherd
You are my Identity
I shall not want
You are my Provision
He makes me lie down in green pastures
You are my Rest
He leads me beside the still waters
You are my Replenishment
He restores my soul
You are my Healing
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
You are my Guide
For His name's sake
You are my Purpose
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death
You are my Strength
I will fear no evil
You are my Security
For You are with me
You are my Peace
Your rod and your staff they comfort me.
You are my Deliverer
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies
You are my Hope
You anoint my head with oil
You are my Blessing
My cup runs over
You are my Abundance
Surely, goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life
You are my Promise
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord
You are my Future
Forever
You are my All in All
(Mary Southerland)
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for meeting every need in my life, just as a shepherd meets the needs of his sheep. I turn to You as my Source. I celebrate Your perfect provision and praise You for being my Shepherd. When I am afraid, help me to remember that You are here. When life is uncertain, help me to depend upon the certainty of Your Word. Today, I choose to rest in Your care, knowing that You are enough.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I challenge you to read Psalm 23 every day this week.
At the end of the week, make a list of the ways God has provided for you and met your needs.
Evaluate your role as a "sheep." Are you a willing follower of the Shepherd or do you tend to "do your own thing?" How is that working for you? Be honest.
What change do you need to make in attitude and behavior in order to experience the perfect provision of God in your life?
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As the holidays approach, the stress level in my life tends to rise. Is the same true for you? For many, this holiday season is especially stressful as people deal with the loss of jobs and struggle to make ends meet. Just this week, I have made a new commitment to read Psalm 23 every day this month as a way to prepare my heart for the holidays. Will you join me?
Need help? Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23, includes a chapter-by-chapter study guide and will encourage you and help you deal with the stress in your life. Be sure to check out Light for the Journey, Mary's weekly online bible study. Make plans today for the best holiday season of your life! Blessings!
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October 15, 2009
Anger to Aroma
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because our anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires" (James 1:19 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
Anger - we all know what it looks and sounds like. The kids track mud through the house again, a husband forgets an anniversary, a car pulls out in front of us and putters down the road at twenty miles per hour, the oven decides to stop working one hour before dinner guests are scheduled to arrive. How do we react? Anger!
The Greek word for anger is orge and means "any natural impulse, or desire, or disposition," and came to be known as anger - the strongest of all passions. While the culture says that anger is healthy, the Bible tells us to "rid ourselves of it" (Colossians 3:8).
I was with a friend who was being treated very unfairly. Someone had approached her about co-authoring a book. Plans were made, contracts were discussed, and content was already forming in her mind. But then she received a phone call from the spouse of the co-author. "I do not want my husband to co-author this book with you. He does not need a female to dumb-down his work."
Several people were in earshot of this conversation. I was furious that my friend was being treated in such a manner! However, rather than react in anger or defend herself, my friend graciously and with the love of Christ spoke words of kindness. Rather than becoming angry, she exuded the fragrance of Christ, and it permeated the entire office.
That is the choice we have. When we choose not to react in anger, but extend grace, the aroma of Christ is released. "My dear brothers and sisters," Paul writes, "take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because our anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires" (James 1:19 TNIV). Thomas Jefferson once said, "If angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, one hundred."
Where does anger come from anyway? Well, it is a reaction to irritating people and circumstances, you might say. But I believe the root cause of anger is self-centeredness. We live in a world that tells us, "It's all about me!" And when something doesn't suit the center of my universe - me - then anger erupts. That's difficult to admit, isn't it? Here's a little test: Each time you become angry over the next few days, ask yourself this question, "Am I angry because I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it?"
Wow! That makes the little kids throwing a temper tantrum in the toy store have a striking resemblance to the woman we see in the mirror each day!
Rather than using our words in anger, we can use our words to be the fragrance of Christ (2 Corinthians 2:15). Have you ever walked out of a convenience store smelling like cigarette smoke for the rest of the day? Have you ever hugged someone and ended up wearing her perfume? We will leave a fragrance, so to speak, by the words we speak.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me be quick to hear and slow to speak. You gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason. Another thing, Lord, help me to listen to You today. I pray that I will sense Your gentle nudges and tender tugs. I love You so much!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How are your listening skills?
Here are some ideas from my book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids on ways to improve our listening skills.
Don't complete someone's sentences for them.
Don't interrupt.
Don't glance at your watch when someone is talking to you.
Don't cross your arms as if to say you are close-minded.
Do make eye contact.
Do lean forward if you are seated.
Do ask good follow-up questions.
Do put down the newspaper or turn off the television to give focused attention.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. It also has a companion Bible Study guide. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together. Also, Sharon has two great resources to help with listening skills in the areas of motherhood and marriage: Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids and Becoming the Woman of His Dreams.
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October 16, 2009
Unleashing the Power of Patience
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love" Ephesians 4:2 (NLT).
Friend To Friend
When our daughter was expecting our third grandchild, she battled back pain because her "little man" loved to kick and did so with great frequency. (I think soccer is definitely in his future.) In frustration she complained, "Mom, he is sitting on my nerve!" My response was not particularly encouraging, "Honey, believe me when I say it won't be the last time."
Patience is a vital part of the parenting process as well as an emotional thread that runs through every healthy relationship. Over the years, Dan and I have had countless opportunities to work on being patient. When our children became teenagers, we realized that a new plan for their allowances was needed. Dan and I were tired of being asked for money by two teenagers who enjoyed the privilege of a regular and generous allowance. There seemed to be confusion about what their allowances should cover as opposed to those expenses that would fall under the responsibility of parental funding. For example, our son, Jered, would fill up his truck with gas and then drive my car. Our daughter, Danna, would buy a new pair of shoes and then need money for a movie. It was obvious to Dan and me that a new plan was obviously needed.
Even though Jered and Danna seemed content with the old plan in place, we sat down with each one to make a list of what their allowances would cover, encouraging them to budget their money while setting aside part of each allowance for the special things they wanted to buy. The result was a clear plan of how much money they would receive and an exact list of what it was to cover. The confusion and frustration disappeared because the right plan was in place.
God's plan for dealing with sandpaper people includes setting aside part of our emotional energy to cover their faults and allow for their weaknesses. The apostle Paul is clear in his explanation of how we should treat others, even those people who rub us the wrong way, the sandpaper people. We are called to "admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak and be patient with all men" 1 Thessalonians 5:14 (NAS).
Sandpaper people are often unruly, meaning that they are frequently careless or out of line in their behavior. The word, "unruly" applies to soldiers who refuse to follow orders, insisting on doing things their own way. Sound familiar? It is the motto of every respectable sandpaper person. Patience lovingly corrects and points out the right way but sandpaper people tend to give up easily, feeding the failure that has become a familiar companion, training their feeble hearts to despair while persuading their fragile spirits to quit. Patience comforts these hard to love people, refusing to give up on them when everyone else has walked away. The "weak" ones are those who are weak in their faith - the baby Christians. New believers awkwardly stumble through their first steps into the world of Christianity and are often perceived to be "rough around the edges". Patience not only reassures these frightened little lambs that they belong but also offers to walk with them until they grow stronger and their path is sure.
His name was Sam. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him. I was standing at the door of my second grade classroom, anxiously waiting to greet the thirty students who had been assigned to me for nine months. Though Sam was smaller than the other children, he walked with the earned confidence of one who has seen more than he should have seen at such a young age. What he lacked in size, he more than made up for in personality. He was a blatant flirt, and I was a goner as soon as he gazed up at me with strikingly blue eyes that tripped my heart and flashed two cavernous dimples that won it. I will never forget his words. They broke my heart. "My name is Sam. I am dumb and stupid and I can't do anything right. I get mad real easy and like to break things. I just thought you should know."
It took only a few minutes for Sam to begin what I suspected was his usual attempt to prove his words true as he swept through the quickly filling classroom, destruction in his hands. Papers were ripped and tossed aside. Children shrank away from his now scowling face, fear in their eyes. When the little girl laughed, Sam thought she was laughing at him and knocked her to the floor. I had seen enough. Taking Sam by the arm, I marched him out of the room and down the hall. He was not surprised or particularly concerned. It seemed to be very familiar territory - but what came next wasn't.
Looking for a place to sit, I stopped in front of a bench, pulled him into my arms and held onto him for dear life. "Sam, it is wrong to tell a lie," I whispered. Stunned, he drew back to ask, "What do you mean? I didn't tell no lie." Cupping his freckled face in my hands, I whispered, "Yes, you did. You said you were dumb and stupid and couldn't do anything right. That is a lie. I don't know who told you that and I don't care. It's not true - is it, Sam?" His eyes filled with tears - and a tiny ray of unfamiliar hope appeared. It was enough. Slowly, he shook his head, a watery smile creeping across his now softening face. "Nope! I reckon it ain't." Together, we walked back to the classroom and to a new beginning for one little sandpaper person.
That year I taught Sam and he taught me. I am not certain who learned the most but this I do know - the more we love, the more patience we will have. And the more patience we have, the more we will love. I often wonder just how many "Sams" are waiting for someone - anyone - who will choose to unleash the power of patience and by doing so unleash the power of love as well.
Let's Pray
Lord, forgive me for my response to that difficult person in my life today. I was angry and irritated and did not take the time to see the hurt behind their sandpaper mask. I am so sorry, Father, for not loving Your child like You love me. Help me to be more patient and to be kinder to those who cross my path each day. I want to be "God with skin on" to those who need Your love, grace and mercy. Thank You for loving me and for the forgiveness and grace you pour into my life every minute of every day. I love You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the people who irritate you the most.
Why do you think it is difficult for you to deal with these people?
Does each person on your list know you are a follower of God by the way you treat them?
What changes do you need to make in your attitude and behavior toward these people?
More From The Girlfriends
Wouldn't it be nice if everyone in your world was just like you? It would certainly make life easier. I truly believe that much of our conflict in relationships is the result of our mission to change the people with whom we interact. We want them to think like we think and act like we act - which would result in very little, if any, growth on our part. Today, celebrate that sandpaper person who drives you crazy! Thank God for all He is teaching you and how He is changing you as you learn to deal with that person.
Mary's book, Sandpaper People, can help you learn to deal with difficult people through cultivating and applying God's principles to your relationships. And be sure to check out Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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October 19, 2009
Turning Complaining to Contentment, Part I
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4: 11-13 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Like six sardines packed into aluminum cans, we sat shoulder to shoulder in the rickety twin engine plane. The destination was Nevis, West Indies. The mission was to provide dental care for the poverty stricken natives of a tiny island with 90% unemployment.
With a newly acquired degree in Dental Hygiene, I was thrilled to join a dentist and his team for a week of ministering to the men, women, and children of this tropical island. We had so much to give to a people who had so little ... or so I thought.
The plane that took us over to the island was so tiny. We could not take our equipment and our luggage in the same trip. We all decided (or the men did) that we didn't really need our clothes. They loaded the equipment and our clothes were to follow later in the day. Our motto became, "Tell me what you need and I'll tell you how you can do without it."
Even without our luggage, the plane was slightly overloaded. I, being the lightest of the bunch, was relegated to the co-pilot's seat. I just kept telling myself that if we crashed, I'd be the first to see Jesus, so that was OK with me.
What did we encounter on the island? Yes, there was poverty. Yes, there were many dental needs. I expected that. What I did not expect was the sense of contentment and joy I saw on the faces of the twelve children who lived in a one-room, thatched-roof shack with no running water and a packed dirt floor. Or the contentment of the women who had one dress to wear. Or the satisfaction of the men who filled their bellies with food from the ocean and tropical fruit that sprang from the surrounding flora.
I did not expect the incredible praises to God that rose through the church roofs, the laughter of children dressed in tattered rags, or the coos of mothers contentedly holding their babies to their breasts. I had arrogantly come to help these people, but they helped me. I experienced what Charles Surgeon penned: "He is richest who is content with the least."
From my earliest years of adulthood, God allowed me to see contentment through the lives of the poor. I knew contentment would never be attained through achievement, accumulation of wealth, or accolades from others. And yet, all through my life, there has been the tension of complaining and contentment. Why? I believe it all started in the Garden of Eden and continues on today. Eve had it all, but wasn't content. She believed God was holding out on her and ate the forbidden fruit.
Job was a man who lost everything, yet he did not complain. His wife, on the other hand, suggested he curse God and die (Job 1:21). But Job's reply was, "Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised" (Job 1:21). His contentment did not rely on people, position or possessions but on the knowledge of the sovereignty of God.
In the New Testament, we see a mirrored example in the person of Paul. Paul had been a man of influence who graduated from the best schools with a degree of a Pharisee and born into the elite line of Benjamin. He referred to himself as a faultless Hebrew of Hebrews with legalistic righteousness. But after he came to Christ, not before, his life was riddled with persecution, problems and prison. Yet he wrote, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4: 11-13). And where was Paul when he penned these words? He was under house arrest, chained to a Roman soldier twenty-four hours a day. Paul knew that living in union with Christ was the true source of contentment. Amazingly, in this letter to the Philippians, his key message is "Rejoice!"
Join me tomorrow as we look more at how to turn complaining into contentment as we continue looking at the life of Paul.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I'll admit that I complain too much. I shouldn't be complaining at all! When I look at the many ways that You have blessed me and my family, I am ashamed at my ungrateful attitude. I confess my sin of an ungrateful heart. I repent of my complaining ways. And I commit to praise You in all things.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever been in a situation where you set out to help someone, but you were the one who was blessed? If so, ponder that experience today.
One of the best ways I know to put a lid on complaining is to help someone else who is in need. Today, look for someone who needs a helping hand and reach out with the love of Christ.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's books, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. In these books, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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October 20, 2009
From Complaining to Contentment, Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4: 11-13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday, we took a look at how to turn a complaining attitude into a contented attitude. Today, let's continue by taking a closer look at the life of Paul. Remember, Paul had been a man of influence who graduated from the best schools with a degree of a Pharisee and born into the elite line of Benjamin. He referred to himself as a faultless Hebrew of Hebrews with legalistic righteousness. But after he came to Christ, not before, his life was riddled with persecution, problems and prison. Yet he wrote, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4: 11-13NIV). And where was Paul when he penned these words? He was under house arrest, chained to a Roman soldier twenty-four hours a day. Paul knew that living in union with Christ was the true source of contentment. Amazingly, in this letter to the Philippians, his key message is "Rejoice!"
Imagine yourself in prison for sharing the gospel. Would your tendency be to say, "God, this isn't fair? Why are you allowing this?" I'm ashamed to say that would be mine.
Come to think about it, I don't have to imagine it. I remember one weekend when I was flying to Houston for a speaking engagement. An hour into the trip, a woman on the plane passed out. The two doctors on board revived the embarrassed passenger and surmised that her blood sugar was probably low because she had not eaten breakfast. But protocol demanded that the plane had to land and disembark the damsel in distress. The closest airport was back from whence we came. My heart sank as I watched the clouds and realized the plane was turning around.
Two hours later, the same plane full of the same passengers minus one took off again. All of us with connecting flights in Dallas missed our connections and were rebooked on a later flight. The only problem was the flight, which was the last one out for the evening, had 32 passengers on standby. There was no way we were going to make the flight and I was going to miss the speaking engagement that had been booked and prayed over for one year.
"God," I whined, "I am doing this for You! Why are you doing this? Why did you allow this to happen?"
In tears, I called my husband to explain the situation. "I don't want to be doing this. It's not worth it. I want to be home with you. I am hungry, I am tired, and I am mad. On and on I went as Steve listened to my complaining."
Sitting at the gate with the crowd of disgruntled travelers who were also not going to make the flight, one man stood up and said, "I'm going to go rent a car and drive to Houston." Then a woman jumped up and added, "Can I go with you?" "Me too," a young businessman chimed in.
I joined this band of weary travelers and headed to the car rental booth. In the end, six strangers piled into a van with one common goal ... get to Houston. During the two hour trip, we addressed the usual questions about family and jobs and interests. The woman who sat beside me was a cheerleading coach. I felt she was just a little bit too perky considering the circumstances. I learned that she was headed to a competition, her kids were her life and her husband ... well, and he was somewhere down the priority list between grocery shopping and house cleaning. But for two hours we chatted. She asked about my books and when I mentioned one title, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, she faltered.
"My husband would like for me to read that one," she mumbled.
"Oh really, why?" I inquired.
I cracked the door and she flung it wide open. Why not? I was a stranger and she would most likely never see me again. But for now, I was "chained to a Roman guard."
When we reached Houston, the driver didn't pull up to the airport and let us out. No, they drove me to the front door of the hotel, just in time for me to walk up to the podium for the women's conference. As I crawled out of the car and waved goodbye, I realized that the assignment from God wasn't about to begin when I walked into that hotel. It had begun the moment I walked out my front door.
When we look at the difficulties, inconveniences and problems of life as potential assignments from God, it changes our perspective. We can decide to focus on what God can do through a difficult circumstance rather than the details of the circumstance itself.
During Paul's time chained to a Roman guard, he was not only captive, but he had a captive audience. He was able to have one on one time with some of the most influential Roman citizens ... the guards. Not only was he able to share the gospel with them, but they were privy to the conversations between Paul and his many visitors from the churches. His time in prison also gave Paul time to write letters to the churches which we hold in our hands today in the New Testament.
One of the first Bible verses I learned as a new Christian was written by Paul who said, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." I applied it to every hurdle imaginable. But the truth is that Paul wrote this verse in the context of contentment. How do we discover the secret to the contented life? How do we frame the words that come out of our mouths and influence those around us? "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."
Can we be content if we never marry? Can we be content if our children don't turn out the way we had hoped? Can we be content if our bosses fail to see our potential? Can we be content if our parents continue to have unrealistic expectations for their adult children?
Let's take it down a notch. Can we be content if the waiter doesn't give good service? Can we be content if the line at the post office moves too slowly? Can we be content if our neighbor's dog keeps us up at night?
Words of contentment have great power because they make people sit up and take notice. They wonder - what makes her different? What are your words telling the world?
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight today. I am determined to have a grateful heart today. Help me recognize opportunities to bless others today, and to see the inconveniences of life from Your perspective.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Open your Bible to the book of Philippians and note how many times Paul uses the words "rejoice" or "joy." Remember, he wrote this letter while in prison. What can you learn from Paul's words on joy considering the circumstance in which he wrote them?
If you would like to comment on today's devotion, visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's books, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study. In these books, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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October 21, 2009
Stress Management 101
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:6-7 (ICB) Do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God's peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it.
Friend To Friend
Stress management is a spiritual discipline that begins with diligent preparation in every area of life - mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. We must be ready to deal with stress before we are required to deal with stress. Dealing with stress is an ongoing, daily battle that will not end - this side of Heaven. In order to win that battle, we must be prepared. While there is no single secret to handling stress, God's Word is filled with many truths that can enable and empower us to deal with stress in a healthy, productive and God-honoring way.
Sometimes the most familiar passages of scripture are also the most overlooked. Psalm 23 is one of those passages. I often find myself rushing to this psalm for peace and comfort in the aftermath of a stressful situation or for guidance and shelter from the storm that I see barreling straight for the unprepared shores of my life. However, I have also discovered that Psalm 23 is a powerful tool for dealing with stress on an everyday basis.
If you are like me, I tend to handle the major calamities in life better than the mundane, ordinary but definitely stress-inducing minutia of daily living. A study of Psalm 23 has led me to believe that it is often the small pebble in my shoe, rather than the massive boulder on my path, that causes the greatest stress in my life. Life is so daily! Fortunately, so is God.
He promises to be my shepherd, to lead and guide me, to provide my every need, to protect me from my enemies, to fill my heart with peace, and to stand between me and my greatest fears. God delivered a profound message when He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to live among us each and every day. Jesus could have come to us in many ways but He chose to interrupt the ordinary with the extraordinary! Jesus could rightfully have been born in a palace. He was, after all, a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger - a smelly, dusty, dirty and definitely common barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to us and a constant reminder that He really does care about everything that touches our lives - no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of each day.
While I cannot imagine my world without the presence and power of Jesus Christ, I am often guilty of living as if He does not exist. The result is a stress-filled life. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness empties my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness where stress is waiting to fill that emptiness with anxiety and fear. Still, God is faithful. His peace is a soothing balm that leads me once again to the manger and away from stress. Emmanuel, God with me! He steps into my life and changes everything. When He comes, stress is stripped away, tranquility given in its place.
When I find myself wishing I could have been there that holy night when Jesus was born, He gently reminds me that I had my own manger experience, when God became a personal reality in my life. I have my own holy moments each and every day as I reach out to Him and He is there, right in the middle of my common, ordinary and often smelly circumstances.
Stress has no place in a heart that kneels before the manger. Stress is powerless in a life that continually seeks God and chooses to surrender to His love and care - like the sheep surrender to the love and care of their Shepherd. Psalm 23 describes the intimate, personal and trusting relationship between sheep and shepherd, between child and father, and is not only a beautiful portrait of God's complete and faithful provision, but an arsenal of stress-busting truths and principles that, when embraced and applied, will empower and equip us to live a life of peace and victory.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for your unconditional love and forgiveness. Help me to focus on You and Your presence in my life each day. I pray that any stress in my heart will be swallowed up in the reality that You are faithful and are in control. I know You are not surprised by anything that comes my way and will transform the good into better, the unthinkable into the unstoppable and the unbelievable into fact. I praise You for the amazing way You guide me and lift me up when I fall. I want to focus on You today and thank You that in doing so, I will experience true peace. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think about the way you begin each day. Are you afraid of what the day holds? Do you dread facing whatever comes your way? Or do you focus on God and His promises? Let's encourage one another to walk in faith, peace and victory.
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Stress is one of the enemy's favorite weapons to use against me. Stress has caused physical pain, emotional darkness and spiritual bankruptcy in my life. I constantly have to bring my heart and mind back to God. I know how hard it is to stay balanced and at peace. Need help? Check out Mary's book, "Escaping the Stress Trap" to discover nine steps you can take to manage stress...instead of allowing it to manage you.
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October 22, 2009
A Fresh Brewed Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Every morning, I walk straight to the coffee pot and push the ON button. I'm a total coffee girl. I like a piping-hot, extra dark roast with half and half, and I struggle to function without my first cup of coffee. I crave that first sip and relish the warmth of the mug in my hands. I jokingly call it my "warm, happy friend." My mornings just wouldn't be the same without coffee! :-)
We should have the same attitude about our faith. We should wake up each morning bursting at the seams to be with God. To be in His presence. To listen for His still small voice. To savor Him. A faith that is brewed fresh daily strengthens us, renews us, and enables us to mount up with wings like eagles. To experience the power of God in our lives. To run and not grow weary. To walk and not faint.
This energizing, percolated faith is readily available to all who ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7-8). How can you experience this power in your life? By getting alone with God, reading the Bible, and listening for His voice each day. "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ" (Romans 10:17, ESV).
Like a morning with no coffee, there are times when we are sluggish in our faith. There are times we need a shot of God-caffeine in our day. A spiritual espresso. What can we do at these times? Are there things in the Scriptures that tell us how can we strengthen and jump-start our faith? Absolutely!
One practical way to build your faith is by remembrance. When David was just a shepherd boy, he had courage to face a giant partly because he remembered the previous victories the Lord allowed him to experience. He approached King Saul with great confidence, saying: "The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine" (1Samuel 17:36, NIV). His past victories fueled his faith. Ours do the same. We can face our giants with equal confidence when we pause to remember how God has worked in our past.
Corrie Ten Boom said, "Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible."
What has God brought you through in the past? Think on these things, and choose to trust Him to bring you through all you face today and tomorrow. When you trust God with a fresh brewed faith, He will be your Strength, your Sustainer, and your Hiding Place so you can run and not grow weary - walk and not be faint. Fill up your faith cup right now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You have brought me through so many challenging times. Please give me a fresh shot of faith that equips me to live today in Your strength. Help me to trust You, and keep me from leaning on my own understanding.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Samuel 17.
Consider specific times that God has moved in your life. Grab a journal and list them.
Pray for God to increase your faith and give you the strength you need for today.
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Facing any giants? God will strengthen you for the battle! Arm yourself in the power of the Spirit of GOD (Ephesians 6:10-18). When you do, no weapon formed against you can prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Go, fight, win, girlfriend!
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October 23, 2009
Learning to Harness our Anger
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 19:11 "People with good sense restrain their anger."
Friend To Friend
I once heard it said that small pots boil over quickly and so do small people. Ouch! I don't want to be a small person known for her quick temper. The life of Nehemiah gives us a wonderful example of how to control and deal with anger. Nehemiah had come back to Jerusalem from a high position in the court. He had come to supervise the rebuilding of the Jerusalem walls. A delegation of Hebrews had come with him hoping to make a profit. They took advantage of the poor by enslaving widows and children, by taking the property of people who were sick and unable to defend themselves. Nehemiah was furious but he models for us the right way to deal with anger.
Nehemiah 5:6-7 "When I heard their outcry and these charges, I was very angry. I pondered them in my mind and then accused the nobles and officials. So I called together a large meeting to deal with them."
In this passage, we find four ways to deal with anger.
Admit your anger
We must be honest about our anger, which can be a problem if we don't like to admit we are angry. We have convinced ourselves that if we deny our anger, we don't have to deal with it. Consequently, we disguise anger by wrapping it in sarcasm, gossip, criticism, complaining, silence or aggression. It simmers on a back burner until one day, it explodes all over our lives and we wonder where in the world that came from. To deal with our anger, we must be willing to say the words, "I am very angry!" That's emotional integrity. 1 Chronicles 29:17 describes God's pleasure with our transparency, "I know, my God, that you examine our hearts and rejoice when you find integrity there." We must be real in order to be right. When you are angry, be honest enough to admit it.
Postpone your anger
Proverbs 29:11 "A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waits and lets it grow cool."
To "cool it" is a spiritual exercise. When my daughter was about six-years-old, she and I were engaged in a battle of wills. I wanted her to go to sleep but she had other plans for the evening, none of which included sleep. When she figured out that I was not going to give in, Danna stomped to her room in a fit of fury. In a few minutes, I went in to make peace. I opened the door to see her sitting on the bed, arms crossed, teeth clinched and eyes flashing! "Danna, let's talk about this", I said. To which she responded, "Mama, I can't talk right now. My mad is too big!"
When Jesus saw the money changers in His Father's temple, He was furious. He stopped - stepped over to the side and began braiding a whip. Now, it was not because He had taken "Whip Braiding 101"! Jesus was "cooling it" because His mad was too big!
Then with harnessed anger, Jesus drove the money changes out. In other words, the longer you hold your temper, the more it improves.
Dismiss your anger
James 1:19-21 "Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants. So put out of your life every evil thing and every kind of wrong."
When anger strikes, we need to stop and ask ourselves some important questions:
· Why am I really angry?
· Is it important?
· Will it matter in a year?
· What action do I need to take?
And sometimes, we should simply dismiss our anger.
Proverbs 19:11 "A wise person is patient. He will be honored if he ignores a wrong done against him."
Maturity is the ability to overlook a hurt, to dismiss anger. When Jered was ten years old and Danna was seven, they went through a stretch when everything Danna did irritated Jered. Jered has a big temper and God was using Danna to teach him how to control it. One day, when Jered was very frustrated and on the edge of losing it, I took him aside and said, "You have a choice. You can be angry and frustrated every time your sister does something that you don't like, or you can choose to throw your anger away. We came up with the "mad board" which was a piece of wood with nails driven in half-way. We then told Jered that when he got angry, he could go to the garage, hammer the nails all the way in and then throw the board away. We all need "anger boards" of some kind. Pray, meditate on a verse about anger, count to ten, make good use of a punching bag, take a long walk or a cold shower. You get the idea! Some anger should simply be dismissed as unworthy to occupy space in our lives.
Resolve your anger
1 Peter 3:8 "All of you should live together in peace."
When we can't dismiss our anger because it is attached to an important issue, we have to resolve it. We postpone anger for a short time only to decide if we need to dismiss it or resolve it.
Ephesians 4:26-27 "When you are angry, do not sin, and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. Do not give the devil a way to defeat you."
We must deal with anger on a daily basis because when we hold on to our anger, it hardens, settling into our soul and taking root as bitterness. Satan loves bitterness, making it a dwelling place from which he dispenses defeat. When we hold on to anger, it becomes an open door for other sins to rush in. Shut that door by learning to deal with your anger.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess to You that I have failed in the ways I have been dealing with my anger. But I want to do it Your way from now on. Fill my life with Your peace. And when I am angry, please guide me and empower me to walk in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize and meditate on the following verses. Make them a part of your arsenal in the battle to deal with anger:
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit."
Proverbs 14:16b "A fool is hotheaded and reckless."
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh one stirs it up."
Ephesians 4:31 "Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others."
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Every single one of us deals with anger on a daily basis. The problem is that we deal with it in the wrong way. I want to be like Nehemiah and please God by dealing with anger His way. I know you want the same thing. Let's pray for each other this week.
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Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Anger Management 911 for powerful and practical ways to harness the power of anger and use it for good in your life. Be sure to take a look at Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, if you are looking for a practical and powerful way to study God's word. Blessings.
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October 26, 2009
From Bitter to Better
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many" (Hebrews 12:15 NIV).
Friend To Friend
"She's just a bitter old woman!" Have you ever heard someone described in that way? I have. And amazingly, when someone uses the word "bitter," I know exactly what they mean. Webster defines bitter as "galling; exhibiting intense animosity, harshly reproachful, marked by cynicism and rancor." It stems from deep seated anger and a lack of forgiveness that plants itself into a soul and is watered and fertilized by playing and replaying the video of the offense in the theater of the mind.
Paul warns us that having a "root of bitterness" can grow up and "defile many" (Hebrews 12:15). James tell us that bitterness is from the devil (James 3:14-15). And Peter cautions that bitterness can keep us from being effective in ministry (Acts 8:22-24).
Just like Naomi in the story of Ruth, bitterness in our hearts will produce bitterness in our actions. The only way to be free of bitterness is to let go of past offenses and refuse to collect them. Collect antiques, beanie babies, or even shoes. But don't collect grudges. There's not enough storage space in your heart to bear the load. Grudges just tumble out every time the door to your mouth is opened.
"My mother used to be a bitter woman," Tim explained. "But then she got Alzheimer's disease and forgot what she was so bitter about. She actually became a very pleasant person to be around." Oh, that we would forget while we are still well enough to enjoy the freedom!
Rather than growing bitter, choose to be better! Think on the words to this poem found in John Cook's book, The Book of Positive Quotations.
The Hard Way
For every hill I've had to climb,
For every stone that bruised my feet,
For all the blood and sweat and grime,
For blinding storms and burning heat,
My heart sings but a grateful song-
These were the things that made me strong.
Those do not sound like the words of a bitter person but a better person. The fact is that hurt is inevitable in relationships. We are sinful creatures living in a fallen world and it is only by the grace of God that we can be a blessing to anyone. The only way to be better rather than bitter is to extend the same grace to others that God extended to us through Jesus Christ. The key to writing a beautiful life story is to have a pencil with a good eraser.
If ever there was a person who had the "right" to be bitter, it was Joseph. The Bible tells us he was thrown into a pit and left for dead, sold into slavery, falsely accused of attempted rape, forgotten by his friends, and unjustly detained in a prison cell for many years. And yet, after his release and subsequent appointment as governor of Egypt, he came face-to-face with the very brothers who caused his demise. Rather than give them the punishment they deserved, he said, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20). Joseph chose not to be bitter, but to allow his circumstances to make him better. And with God's help, we can do the same.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I choose to let the struggles of life make me better and not bitter. I forgive those who have hurt me and refuse to hold a grudge. I will look for the good in every difficult situation and think the best of others. I know that a bitter heart produces bitter fruit, and I refuse to allow my heart to get caught in that trap. Now, Lord, help me accomplish what I have just confessed.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the story of Joseph in Genesis 37, 39-50.
Look for all the things that Joseph could have become bitter about.
What can you learn from Joseph?
Examine your heart and see if there is any bitterness lurking there.
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October 27, 2009
Unshakable Peace
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I have set the LORD always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken." (Psalm 16:8, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Susan lived "the good life." One filled with prosperity and love. For years, she and her husband owned a thriving business that allowed them and their children to be surrounded with beautiful material things. They had a glorious lake home, a lavish boat, and luxury cars. Everything the world counts as gain. In spite of their earthly wealth, when faced with the truth of the Gospel, Susan and her husband realized that they were spiritually bankrupt and in desperate need of a Savior. Within months of each other, Susan and her husband both accepted Christ and began to thrive in newly found faith.
A few years into faith, Susan was squeezed by difficult circumstances. The family business took a turn for the worse and had to close its doors - leaving many friends and families jobless. Then the IRS audited her husband. Scary legal ramifications threatened to crush them if large amounts of money were not paid to accommodate accounting debt. Financially ruined and emotionally stunned, Susan and her husband were forced to sell all that they owned.
Two years later, they're still wading through the deep waters of financial strain. Their debts are far from being forgiven and the economy has grown progressively dim. Through the turmoil Susan has chosen to trust in God as her Provider. As she does, God faithfully fills her with supernatural peace, strength, and joy. She has experienced God's provision through His Word, through His presence, and through her friends. When her pantry has been empty, God knew. He sent friends to her home with bags of groceries and gift cards. When her soul has been discouraged, God knew. He sent reminders of His promises and love through Scripture and through the encouragement of godly women. Despite the fact that her bank account is still bare and every day is still hard, Susan considers herself to be wealthier now than ever.
No matter what you go through, you can experience unshakable peace, and declare, "I will not be shaken!" as the psalmist did in Psalm 16:8. God knows what you are going through. God's Word promises peace to the believer through Jesus Christ.
Part of our unsettled nature is that we try to cling to the things of earth - the "American way" of living and the here and now. When we put our trust in things of this world, we give anxiety, fear, jealously, discontentment, greed, and insecurity open access to our lives. Instead of finding ways to hold on to what you have, be encouraged today to let go! Let go of what doesn't matter!
"So do not worry, saying, "What shall we eat?" or "What shall we drink?" or "What shall we wear?" For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" (Matthew 6:31-34, NIV).
Seek God first, above and before any earthly thing. God wants us to store up treasures where moth and rust will not destroy. When we do, He promises that we can live with an unshakable peace that passes understanding.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need your unshakable peace! Please forgive me for placing my trust and hope in things of this earth. As the psalmist David said, "Apart from You, I have no good thing." Lead my soul to find rest in You and in Your perfect plan for my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 16. Underline your favorite verses and consider committing them to memory.
What are you putting your faith in?
Is it possible that you are in a difficult position of your own making? Ask God to search your heart and reveal to you any ways that are contrary to His.
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One of my favorite Bible verses is Psalm 105:4. ""Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always." No matter what challenges you or your loved ones are facing today, this verse will direct you to the strength of the Lord - our source for unshakable faith. Go in His strength today, friend.
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October 28, 2009
Time - Friend or Foe?
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ecclesiastes 3:1 "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity..."
Friend To Friend
Time management is a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline. We choose where to invest our time, carefully planning everything from coffee with friends to grocery shopping - but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God. Being wrapped up in God's work can easily become a shabby substitute for being wrapped up in Him. Discipline carves out time to sit at His feet.
Sin thrives in an out-of-control life, a life without godly discipline. Temptation happily dances across overcrowded schedules. Our minutes, hours and days are precious commodities, gifts from God that can be unwrapped only once. We can become so busy meeting the needs of others that we destroy ourselves in the process.
I cannot tell you how many men and women I know who have given themselves away for so long that there is nothing left to give. Marriages disintegrate, children rebel and purpose fades because flawed priorities dictate wrong living.
Let me be very clear on this point. Authentic living empowers and energizes. I often hear people joke, "Why, I'd rather burn out than rust out!" The problem with that statement is that either way - they are out - and the absence of godly discipline is too often the culprit behind life dropouts. In an effort to prove our worth, we rush headlong through pointless days. I often hear the flawed thinking, "Mary, it's true that I am very busy, but I am busy doing good things." Those words were the cry of my heart, just before I crashed and burned, landing in a pit of clinical depression, a monument to my insecurity.
From the bottom of that pit, it was easy to see just how skewed my perspective of time really was. I had poured years into making my plan successful only to discover that God resources and empowers His plan alone. It was painfully obvious that I needed an attitude adjustment, an eternal perspective kindled by godly discipline. I needed to understand that my time is not really mine but a treasure on loan to me from God. Every plan, priority and goal must be held against the backdrop of eternity because it is from that backdrop that our priorities are validated, our calling confirmed and our time best invested.
A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what are you doing? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?" The young boy was apologetic. "Please, mister ... please, I'm sorry but I didn't know what else to do," He pleaded. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop."
With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car. "It's my brother. He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."
Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. "Thank you and God bless you," the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man watched the boy push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: "Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!" God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts and sometimes, when we are busy and think we don't have time to listen, He may even throw a brick at us to get our attention.
Let's face it. If we don't set priorities for life, others will. Time thieves will steal the hours and days as we allow them to impose their plans and demands on us. While it is true that different men and women have different priorities in different seasons of ministry, it is also true that one priority remains steadfast. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God" (Matthew 6:33 NIV). Once that priority is firmly established, the rest of life will simply fall into place.
Godly priorities embrace God's plan. I am convinced that much of our frustration in life comes from doing things we were never intended to do. We create the plan as we go instead of resting in the plan He has for us. Discipline guides each step and establishes a basis for obedience and success.
Let's Pray
Father, please help me slow down and really see my world and the hurting people in it. I no longer want to waste time. I want to invest it wisely according to Your plan for my life. Give me the strength to establish and keep my priorities in line with Your purpose. I surrender my agenda to You, Lord. Be glorified in it.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside some time this week to get alone with God.
Make a list of your priorities - your real priorities. Take a look at your calendar and wallet for hints as to what you think is important.
Do those priorities line up with God's plan for your life?
What changes do you need to make in order to live each day in obedience to God?
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With the holidays just around the corner, my thoughts immediately turn to family, friends and time. I really want this holiday season to be meaningful and as stress-free as possible! So I am starting early!
Mary has two NEW E-Book Bible Studies available! I Need a Friend and Time: Friend or Foe? (from which today's devotion was taken). These studies are perfect for personal or small group study. Each study is presented in an attractive PDF format, is easy to download and copy on your home computer and includes a helpful study guide as well.
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October 29, 2009
Time - Friend or Foe
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 5:15-16 "See then that you walk circumspectly not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Time management is a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline. We choose where to invest our time, carefully planning our daily agenda but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God. Discipline carves out time to sit at His feet. I am, by no means, an expert in the area of discipline, but I do want to share some simple ideas that work for me.
Prepare
Just as we budget our money, we must budget your time. Every day, we are presented with twenty-four hours, and every day we must choose to either spend those hours or to invest them. Every Sunday afternoon, I do two things - write a weekly column and plan the week ahead. I assign tasks to each day and prioritize those tasks in order of importance. That's the easy part. The hard part is sticking to the plan, but getting a head start offers a greater chance for success. Schedule one day a week to plan. The preparation will pay off.
Eliminate
Once a month, have a family "spring cleaning". Go out to dinner, and together, eliminate anything that is hurting your family. Make a purposeful plan for adding only those activities that will strengthen each member of your family.
Prioritize
Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone. This lesson is especially hard for me because I actually believe I can do it all! The key to godly discipline and right priorities is learning what my "all" is, and doing all of that! My trusty "Superwoman" cape is never far away. Admittedly, it is a constant battle for me to ignore the presence of that cape, choosing to embrace and employ God's priorities - not mine. But it is definitely a battle worth fighting. Families, marriage, and souls are on the line. A right perspective is the direct result of godly discipline. In order to have right priorities, we must have right perspectives. Godly discipline brings a holy scrutiny to priorities and perspectives. Does it really matter? Is it eternal? Will it impact lives for God?
Delegate
When it comes to family, include every family member in the work and include every family member in the play. The concept of "team" is essential to every successful family. A chore is not just a random assignment. It says, "You are an important part of this team and this family. We need you."
Simplify
Give up on perfection. It is meant for heaven...not earth. I love the Amish saying, "The further we get from simple things, the further we get from God." Jesus was born in sparse simplicity, a manger instead of a mansion. His teachings were simple enough for a child to understand. A simple but stunning truth is His message. We often overlook profound simplicity in search of hollow complexity, foolishly thinking that bigger is always better. When it comes to investing time, we need to employ simple godly discipline.
Yield
When our children were small, I did not travel and speak as often as I did when they were older. I really tried to make my greatest mission field my home, my marriage and my children - easy words to write, but hard words to live. It does not matter how much I do or how successful I am in ministry. If home and family are left with only the scraps of my time, energy, and emotions, I am walking in sin and disobedience.
One of the greatest challenges in my life is to achieve and maintain a disciplined balance. I am not certain why balance is so hard to achieve, but one reason stands out from the rest - self. If "self" were a coin, one side of that coin would be pride. Earning the favor of God, proving my worth and longing for success feed that pride. The opposite side of the coin is insecurity. Believing the lies of the enemy, measuring my worth by what I do instead of whose I am, longing for man's applause and earth's acclaim can be counted on to fuel the sadistic fires of insecurity.
Both pride and insecurity are sin. Both are a preoccupation with self. Godly discipline draws attention to God and away from self, to His work and away from human effort, leaving the glory where it belongs - at His feet alone.
The most effective life is a disciplined life. Discipline builds upon discipline, each success encouraging another. Make the commitment to cultivate the disciplines of godliness, then pick a corner of your life and begin. Discipline does not come naturally or easily. We will surely fail but we can always begin again. Join me today in a new commitment to choosing to seek, apply and relish godly discipline.
"A man may be consecrated, dedicated and devoted but of little value if undisciplined."
(Hudson Taylor)
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for the lack of godly discipline in my life. Make me stronger, Lord. Empower me to live a life that pleases You. I surrender my agenda, my schedule to You and ask You to arrange it according to Your plan. Please help me to hear Your voice above all others and to become a godly woman of discipline.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify the area of your life where discipline is most needed.
How has a lack of discipline in this area impacted your life?
Surrender this undisciplined part of your life to God right now.
Read and memorize 2 Timothy 1:7, "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline" (NIV). How can this verse help you make and keep a new commitment to godly discipline in your life?
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I honestly did not want to write this devotion and tried to talk the Father out of my doing so. You see, while I hate the very word "discipline", most people would describe me as a disciplined woman. If they only knew! Discipline is a constant battle for me - in every area of life - but especially when it comes to time management. Just when I think I have it mastered, everything falls apart. I want to be a champion for God but I have to admit that I am often a miserable failure when it comes to discipline. Sound familiar? My only hope - and your only hope - is God and His power at work in us. Need help? Me, too!
With the holidays just around the corner, my thoughts immediately turn to family, friends and time. I really want this holiday season to be meaningful and as stress-free as possible! So I am getting ready now!
Mary has two NEW E-Book Bible Studies available! I Need a Friend and Time: Friend or Foe? (from which today's devotion was taken). These studies are perfect for personal or small group study. Each study is presented in an attractive PDF format, is easy to download and copy on your home computer and includes a helpful study guide as well.
Need gift ideas? This year, why not give gifts that are life-changing? Enroll a friend or family member in Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is 7 Habits of a Powerful Life.
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October 30, 2009
The Broken Way
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Moses answered the people, 'Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today ... the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still'" (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV).
Friend To Friend
While at a recent football game in which my son, Preston, was playing, I had a moving conversation with another team mom. It was the first time we'd ever dialoged beyond socially expected niceties. Between cheers that went up to our football-playing boys, she stumbled upon the fact that I was in ministry and was excited to share about how God has intimately drawn her heart to his over the past five years. How He met her where she was. Ministered to her through the hands of others. How He sparked life into her soul through His Son Jesus Christ. She was radiant. She spoke with excitement. Joy in every sentence. Praise on her tongue for the God who gives her strength and life. She told me of her grueling battle with an aggressive form of breast cancer.
She was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 35 - as a wife and mother to three small children. Initially, she was angry with God for allowing a disease to ravage her body, furious that her husband and children might have to live without her. Though she fought to understand the "why" of it all, she confidently testified how God used the pain-filled journey on the broken road of cancer to lead her to saving Grace. She is now grateful for the broken way that God breathed new life into her soul as she battled death in her body. As she spoke, the troubles of my life faded to a humble corner of my heart. Her words reminded me that God really can and should be glorified through each hard place we find ourselves in.
Life is filled with challenges. The struggles we endure often leave our hearts breaking and our minds aching for reprieve. I've not battled cancer, but I have experienced my fair share of times when I've been caught between faith and a hard place, just like her. As a wife, mother, daughter, and friend, I've learned that hard times are inevitable and that they hurt.
Toward the end of our conversation about her cancer and faith, my new friend confided that fear still tries to invade her days. She said that she constantly has to choose faith and to trust God instead of dwelling on the possibilities of another future diagnoses. Every one of us doubts at times. We all fail to trust. Scripture assures us that even when we are faithless, God remains faithful. As we walk broken paths that challenge our faith, the truth remains that God does deliver in and through the pain. Though there are struggles that we might take to the grave with us, God is still good. Each hard place is an opportunity for Jesus to show His power in and through our lives.
When we find ourselves on the broken way, we often feel like we are wandering in the wilderness. In Exodus 13:17-14:31, we see a dreary desert drama of the Israelites. Stop here to read the full account now if you can.
"When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter. For God said, "If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt." So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea." (Exodus 13:17-18a, NIV)
As God moved through the leadership of Moses to bring His people from captivity to freedom, from poverty to inheritance, the Israelites were not led the easy way. They didn't get to take the paved road - even though it was shorter. They had to walk through the desert. God led them the harder way because He knew it was best for them in the long run. Sometimes we are led the harder way too. The broken way. Even though our minds conceive an easier solution, He knows what is unknown to us, He sees what is unseen to us, and His ways are trustworthy and best.
"By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night. Neither the pillar of cloud by day nor the pillar of fire by night left its place in front of the people" (Exodus 17:21-22, NIV).
"Then the angel of God, who had been traveling in front of Israel's army, withdrew and went behind them. The pillar of cloud also moved from in front and stood behind them, coming between the armies of Egypt and Israel. Throughout the night the cloud brought darkness to the one side and light to the other side; so neither went near the other all night long.
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left" (Exodus 14:19-22, NIV).
God has given us his Holy Spirit to lead us by day and by night; to be our Strength, our Power, and our Direction in the deserts of life. Just as God made a way for the Israelites when they called on Him as they faced a seemingly impossible Red Sea situation, He will make a way for you. Call on His name. Trust His plan. Reach for His hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for the times when I try to navigate the deep waters of life on my own. When my heart is heavy with burdens, please give me Your strength and remind my soul to trust You. I need Your guidance and power today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel like God has led you through the desert?
Do you trust that He can and will make a way for your Red Seas to be parted when you call on Him?
Grab a journal (if you're a journal girl). Spend a few moments contemplating the circumstances of your harder way. Then lift your eyes from your situation to your Savior. Call on God, and say to your soul: "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today...the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still."" (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV)
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I've seen it in my own life. God delights to deliver us from our hard places in and through the pain. Hang in there, friend. He knows each tear you've cried and He has never left your side. In the words of a beloved hymn by Helen Lemmel, "Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace."
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November 2, 2009
Just Because You're Mine
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith-and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God-not by works, so that no one can boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Anabel Gillham was a woman who loved God, but had trouble accepting that God could love her. Sure, she knew the Bible verses that talked of God's unconditional love for her, and yet she knew herself, and doubted a God who knew her innermost thoughts would approve or her.
The root of her problem was how she saw God and how she believed God saw her. She knew what kind of God He was. She read, Exodus 34:6, "Then the LORD passed by in front of him [Moses] and proclaimed, 'The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in loving kindness and truth...", but she believed she had to earn that love. She believed she had to be good enough to deserve it. Then God used a very special person to help Annabel understand the depths of God's love for her - her second child, Mason David Gillham, who was profoundly retarded. Let's let Anabel tell you her story.
Mace could sing one song with great gusto, just one: "Jesus Loves Me." He would throw his head back and hold on to the first "Yes" in the chorus just as long as he could, and then he would get tickled and almost fall out of his chair. I can still hear him giggle when I think back on those days that seem so distant and so far away. How poignant that memory is to me.
I never doubted for a moment that Jesus loved that profoundly retarded little boy. It didn't matter that he would never sit with the kids in the back of the church and on a certain special night walk down the aisle, take the pastor by the hand, and invite Jesus into his heart. It was entirely irrelevant that he could not quote a single verse of Scripture, that he would never go to high school, or that he would never be a dad. I knew that Jesus loved Mason.
What I could not comprehend, what I could not accept, was that Jesus could love Mason's mother, Anabel. You see, I believed that in order for a person to accept me, to love me, I had to perform for him. My standard for getting love was performance-based, so I "performed" constantly, perfectly. In fact, I did not allow anyone to see me when I was not performing perfectly. I never had any close friends because I was convinced that if a person ever really got to know me, she wouldn't like me.
I carried this belief into my relationship with God, and as I began to study the Bible, I found, to my horror, that He knew my every thought, let alone everything I said or did (Psalm 139:1-4). I was standing "bare and wide open to the all-seeing eyes of our living God" (Hebrews 4:13), TLB. What did that mean to me? That meant that He really knew me, that He saw me when I wasn't performing well. Based on what I perceived as my responsibility to perform in order to receive acceptance, I concluded without a doubt that He could not possibly love me, that He could never like what He saw.
Mace could never have performed for our love, or for anyone's love, but oh, how we loved him. His condition deteriorated to such a degree - and so rapidly - that we had to institutionalize him when he was very young, so we enrolled him in the Enid State School for Mentally Handicapped Children. We drove regularly the 120 miles to see him, but on this particular weekend, he was at home for a visit. He had been with us since Thursday evening, and it was now Saturday afternoon. As soon as the dinner dishes were done, I would gather his things together and take him back to his house. I had done this many times before - and it was never easy - but today God had something in mind that would change my life forever.
As I was washing the dishes, Mason was sitting in his chair watching me, or at least he was looking at me. That's when it began. My emotions were spinning, my stomach started tumbling, and the familiar sickening thoughts of just a little while, I'm going to start packing Mason's toys and his clothes, and take him away again. I can't do that. I simply cannot do it. I stopped washing the dishes and got down on my knees in front of Mace. I took his dirty little hands in mine and tried so desperately to reach him.
"Mason, I love you. I love you. If only you could understand how much I love you."
He just stared. He couldn't understand; he didn't comprehend. I stood up and started on the dishes again, but that didn't last long. This sense of urgency - almost a panic - came over me, and once more I dried my hands and knelt in front of my precious little boy.
"My dear Mason, if only you could say to me, 'I love you, Mother.' I need that, Mace."
Nothing.
I stood up to the sink again. More dishes, more washing, more crying - and thoughts, foreign to my way of thinking, began filtering into my conscious awareness. I believe God spoke to me that day, and this is what He said: "Anabel, you don't look at your son and turn away in disgust because he's sitting there with saliva drooling out of his mouth; you don't shake your head, repulsed because he has dinner all over his shirt or because he's sitting in a dirty, smelly diaper when he ought to be able to take care of himself. Anabel, you don't reject Mason because all of the dreams you had for him have been destroyed. You don't reject him because he doesn't perform for you. You love him, Anabel, just because he is yours. Mason doesn't willfully reject your love, but you willfully reject Mine. I love you, Anabel, not because you're neat or attractive, or because you do things well, not because you perform for Me but just because you're Mine." (Anabel Gillham, The Confident Woman: Knowing Who Your Are in Christ, (Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House Publishers, 1993), 26-29)
Hearing Anabel's story transformed my thinking about God's love for me. For years, I lived as though I had to be "good enough" for God to love me. I understood that salvation was a gift of grace - a free gift from God that I did not earn - but somewhere I began believing the lie that I had to perform properly to keep the gift. I feared if I was not good enough, He would take it back. But that is a lie.
I am enough...because Jesus lives in me and the Holy Spirit works through me. And friend, so are you.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for loving me just the way I am. I thank You that I don't have to earn Your love, but receive it as a free gift that You lavish on me! And God, I thank You that nothing can separate me from Your love.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses and note what you learn about God's love for you.
Psalm 52:8
Romans 8:38-39
Ephesians 2:4-5
1 John 4:10
1 John 4:16
Did Annabel's story touch your heart today? If so, I'd love to hear about it. You can share your thoughts on today's devotion at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog .
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you would like to learn more about how to begin seeing yourself as God sees you, then this is the book for you!
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November 3, 2009
Give Thanks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus." (NLT)
Friend To Friend
The fourth-grader rose from his desk and walked slowly to the front of the classroom to deliver a report concerning the origins of the Thanksgiving holiday. With Thanksgiving just days away, the classroom was buzzing with excitement. The teacher shared the eagerness of her students and felt that she had done an adequate job of encouraging each child to focus on the true meaning of the holiday. Those hopes were soundly dashed against the words of the young speaker.
"The pilgrims came here seeking freedom of ... you know what. When they landed, they gave thanks to ... you know who. Because of these brave people, we can celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday and our freedom to worship every Sunday ... you know where."
We laugh at the thought of leaving God's name out of this childish writing but, in fact, many of us are just as guilty of leaving Him out of our daily walk - especially when it comes to giving thanks. While Thanksgiving does remind us to stop and give thanks, Thanksgiving is not just a national holiday to be celebrated for a few hours each November. Learning to live in the gear of perpetual thanksgiving is a life changing discipline. Giving thanks should be a natural characteristic and innate practice of every believer. It is thanking God for all that He has done as well as for all He is presently doing and going to do in the future. Thanksgiving heightens our awareness of His presence and thrives on an active, living faith - a faith that is not ashamed to boldly act or afraid to speak out even in the face of doubt.
The book of James tells us, "When you ask him, be sure that you really expect him to answer, for a doubtful mind is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the sin" (NLT).
Learning to be thankful - even when we cannot see, hear or understand what God is doing or how He is working - is authentic thanksgiving and the direct result of a living, active and personal faith in God. We often say that we need more faith in order to be more thankful. I don't think so! We operate in faith every single day. We flip a switch believing in faith that light will appear. We turn a key believing in faith that a car will start. We even go to a doctor we hardly know who scribbles an impossible - to - read prescription which we promptly take to a pharmacist we have never seen. This unknown druggist proceeds to fill the prescription, giving us a medicine with a name we cannot even pronounce. And we take it - all in blind faith! Amazing!
I believe that instead of pleading for more faith, we need to exercise the faith we already possess. As we continually step out in faith, not only will that faith grow stronger, but we will begin to trust God more, naturally developing an attitude of thanks. Faith does not believe that God can or will act. Faith believes that God is answering as we pray. And that truth, my friend, will send us to our knees in praise and thanksgiving.
Don't leave God out of your Thanksgiving celebration. Instead, realize that He is the very reason you can experience abundant and eternal life. Do not let the day pass without finding a few moments to be alone, thanking Him for His magnificent bounty in our hearts and in our lives.
Let's Pray
Father, my faith seems so small and weak. I confess that I have allowed fear to invade my heart and mind. Right now, I choose against that fear and step out in faith, thanking You for what You have done in my life, for what You are going to do today and in every tomorrow of my life. Make me aware of Your presence today and give me the courage to share with others what You have done for me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Examine your life for evidences of faith at work.
Would you consider your heart attitude to be one of praise and thanks? Why? Why not?
What changes do you need to make in order to cultivate a thankful heart?
What is the importance of thanksgiving as it relates to faith?
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November 4, 2009
Retraining our Reflexes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Paul wrote: "Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was hot. The traffic was heavy. I was young and distracted.
I was driving alone in the flow of traffic traveling to and from the North Carolina coast. I was in the group headed for home. The July traffic was bumper to bumper with everyone going faster than the posted speed limit. I had other things on my mind besides maneuvering in traffic and was paying little attention to the cars around me.
Traveling sixty miles per hour in my sporty two-tone Pontiac Sunbird, I felt my front right tire slip off of the asphalt and onto the gravel shoulder of the road. In a flood of panic, I heard the voice of my Driver's Ed teacher from four years before, "If you run off the road, do not, and I repeat, do not jerk you car back on the road. Slow down to a stop and guide the car back onto the road gently."
My mind knew the rule. I was even repeating, "Do not jerk the car. Do not jerk the car." Then I promptly... jerked the car. I pulled the steering wheel to the left, jerked the car onto the road, and lost control. First the Sunbird flew across two lanes of traffic to the left and then, after overcorrecting again, she flew back off the road to the right. As if in slow motion, my car began a descent down an embankment. The weight of the car became unbalanced and began to roll. As the car somersaulted down the embankment, my body tossed and tumbled like a rag doll, bouncing around the car's interior. I did not have on a seatbelt. When the car landed upside down at the bottom of the embankment, I was sitting on the ceiling of the passenger's side.
Travelers watched with mouths aghast as the scenario played out before them. You can imagine how amazed they were to see me crawl out of the car's opened window without a scratch. I knew, without a doubt, that I should not have lived through that accident. It was only by the grace of God that I survived.
Thinking back on that event, I am reminded how powerful reflexes are. When the car veered off the road, I knew what to do, but I did the opposite. I knew not to jerk the steering wheel, but I did it regardless.
When it comes to changing the way we speak, we may have some very powerful reflexes to overcome. The Bible tells us that when we come to Christ, we are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). However, no one pushes the delete button to erase the old habits patterns that have been formed over time. That comes with practice, training and reprogramming.
I want to encourage you not to get discouraged if you make a mistake and use your words in a negative way from time to time. Satan would like nothing better than for you to simply give up on using your words for good. But even Jesus knew that sometimes a temple has to be cleaned out more than once.
Shortly after Jesus' first miracle at the wedding of Canaan, he traveled to Capernaum with his mother, brothers, and disciples. It was almost time for the Jewish Passover celebration, so Jesus went up to Jerusalem to worship. As he approached the temple, Jesus heard the bleating of sheep, smelled the stench of the cattle, and saw the gypsy-like haggling and exchanging of coins. The temple had become a free-for-all rather than a house of prayer.
"So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and over-turned their tables. To those who sold doves he said, 'Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father's house into a market!'" (John 2:15-16)
Yes, Jesus cleaned out the temple that day, but it wasn't long before the money changers began to creep back in with their wares. I imagine it all began with one man setting up his table. Then another and another until the carnival-type atmosphere once again polluted God's house.
This incident recorded in John chapter two occurred at the beginning of Jesus' earthly ministry. But we see a similar scene toward the end. It was just a few days before Jesus' arrest and crucifixion. He rode into town on a donkey as the crowd spread their cloaks on the road. "Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord!" they shouted as Jesus passed by.
Once Jesus arrived in Jerusalem, He headed straight for the temple area to worship. Once again He was met with the mayhem and stench of the money changers and the animals they sold for temple sacrifices. As He had done three years prior, Jesus began driving out the money changers with their doves, sheep, and cattle scampering behind. "My house will be a house of prayer" Jesus proclaimed, "but you have made it a den of robbers!"
In the New Testament, God calls us temples of the living God (1 Corinthians 3:16). Just as Jesus cleaned the temple at the beginning and the end of his earthly ministry, so we may need to clean out our temples many times. Yes, we make a clean sweep of the sin in our lives on the day we accept Jesus as our Savior, but eventually, those bad habits tend to creep back in if the temple is left unattended. So check up on yourself often. Pay attention to your words and determine if you need a spring cleaning to keep the temple pure.
Psychologists tell us that it takes twenty-one days to establish a new habit. Here's an idea, for twenty-one days, put five pennies in your left pocket. Each time you say an encouraging word to someone, move a penny to the right pocket. Make it your goal to move all the pennies from the left to the right and deposit encouraging words to those you come in contact with each day. You'll be doing more than moving pennies. You'll be investing in another's soul.
James wrote, "If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless" (James 1:26). Although James uses the analogy of a horse when teaching on the tongue, he's not horsing around when it comes to the impact it has on those around us. Let's reign in our words and gallop on down the path to changing the way we speak.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know it will take practice for me to tame my tongue. And while James said it is impossible for man to tame the tongue, Your word also tells us that nothing is impossible for God. So today, God, I'm asking You to tame my tongue. I commit to participate and practice, as You provide the power.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read today's truth. What did Paul tell us to do?
What is the result of practicing what the Bible teaches?
The verses that precede Philippians 4:9 are some of my favorite. Pull out your Bible and look up Philippians 4:8 and use this as a guide to what you think about today.
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November 5, 2009
Are You Ready for the Holidays?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:16-20 (NIV) "So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told."
Friend To Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues." I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it. We have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing - even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and home owner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first - until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold but was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high or too risky. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level - refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay. Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place and push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sink hole waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. Before we realize it, the dark, slimy pit swallows us. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend! Now is the time to do something about it!
Thanksgiving can be a time of praise if we choose to focus on the victories and joys we have experienced during the year and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings, if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. And a new year? What a great opportunity to start over! The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, get ready for the holidays by choosing an attitude of joy, by focusing your mind on the things of heaven - not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Make me a peacemaker, Lord. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to re-visit the holiday season of 2008.
What was the best part of those holidays for you? Why?
List three changes you would like to make this year.
What is the first step you need to take to make those changes happen?
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can your choice to "ponder" on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective through all of the approaching holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made concerning this holiday season. Make a step-by-step plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Can you believe the holidays are already here? I have been on a diligent search this year - to discover the secrets of having the best and most Christ-centered holidays of my life. I am excited about my MP3, How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas, and believe it will help you learn how to prevent and control holiday stress and how to give God the gifts He wants to receive from us. Want to know how to give ten wonderful gifts without spending a dime? Check out my MP3, Giving the Perfect Gift.
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November 6, 2009
Broken Into Beautiful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame." Psalm 34:5
Friend to Friend
I remember the phone call to my college boyfriend. Through sobs, I managed to tell him I was pregnant. There was a long pause on the other end of the phone ... and then came the speed round of questions and comments: "What are we going to do? Do you think we should get married? Oh, my gosh ... Oh, my gosh...what are we going to do? Do you want to have this baby? What are we going to do? What about volleyball? What will your parents say? What will my parents say? Oh, my gosh!"
Like trapped animals, we were frantically looking for a way out. Then we made our decision. We would take care of it. It wasn't time for us to have a baby yet.
God wasn't consulted. He wasn't invited into our decision.
Adam and Eve hid in the garden after eating the forbidden fruit. My boyfriend and I hid from God and did what we considered to be our only option. We made a plan. He would pick me up and take me to a clinic that I read about in the yellow pages.
When the day came, we drove in icy silence. I was Fort Knox. No one was going to break through the emotional walls I had constructed for protection.
You see there was never a moment that I believed having an abortion was the right thing to do. I only stubbornly and naively believed that my choice was the only ladder to grab out of the horrible pit I had dug for myself.
I was wrong. Dead wrong.
There, in the sterile room of that stale clinic, I used an alias. I wasn't Gwen. My charts did not say that I was Gwen, the girl who was raised by good parents, the girl who was raised in the Word of God to know right from wrong. The counselor I had met with said that using my name could have made me feel uncomfortable with the "harmless and legal procedure" I was having done that day. Nobody else needed to know. I was anonymous.
It was my secret. A secret of chains that bound me in silence for the ensuing fifteen years - a secret kept because I mistakenly assumed that no one else could handle the ugly truth of my sinfulness with grace and forgiveness. I was a Christian girl. Christians don't get pregnant when they aren't married, and Christians don't have abortions, right? It was all too scandalous, and I was crazy afraid of the consequences.
Most of that day was a blur. It was a dark, cold January day. Though the clinic was lit with bright fluorescent lights, the flame of dignity and hope in my heart had grown dim. I blocked out all the voices in my head as they contested what I was doing. I was desperate and scared.
I was Peter. Simon Peter was a fisherman Jesus had called to be a fisher of men. His relationship with Christ was passionate and intimate, but far from perfect. He was a disciple, one of Jesus' closest friends. Jesus called Peter "the rock," and he would eventually go on to build the foundation of the Christian church.
But before he did, the Bible shows us, in Luke 22:54-60, that the night Jesus was arrested, Peter "followed at a distance," sat in a courtyard with enemies of Jesus, and denied the Lord he loved three times. Remarkably, Jesus knew Peter would betray Him, yet still extended advanced mercy as He said to him, "Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:32).
I imagine that when Peter betrayed Jesus on that long, dark night preceding the crucifixion, he must have felt a physical illness and emotional angst similar to the one that shattered my life the day I said yes to death and betrayed my Lord. Luke 22:62 tells us that after he had disowned Jesus three times, Peter "went outside and wept bitterly."
Peter knew Jesus, yet still betrayed Him.
He loved Jesus.
I knew Jesus, yet still betrayed Him.
I loved Jesus too.
But that love was tucked into the icy trunk of my heart on that snowy winter afternoon.
For weeks following my abortion, I went through each day under a dark cloud of despair. I couldn't reconcile what I had done with who I was, and who I was supposed to be. My heart was broken. I felt hopeless and was horribly ashamed. I hated what I had done, and I hated myself for doing it. I was responsible for the death of my baby. It was my fault. I knew it, and it haunted me.
Voices of accusation used to scream in my head. They shouted things like: Murderer! Baby killer! Hypocrite! You can never tell a soul about this! Condemnation kept me shackled. Without realizing it, I was a captive to my own acceptance of those words. I was guilty. A wretch. No excuses. My heart was paralyzed by death. Words just can't express the depth of anguish my soul experienced.
The dark days turned into weeks, which turned into months. Although I could turn on the fake charm like water from a faucet...oh, how my plastic smile served me well in those days...I was dying inside! At night, my pillow soaked up rivers of tears. I would lie awake, wondering if my baby was a boy or girl, or if my baby had felt any pain as she was being sucked from my body.
I wept. I wept for both my baby and for myself. It was necessary. It felt right to cry. And though the tears helped my soul grieve, none were as healing as the ones I cried to Jesus when I finally turned back to Him.
Like Peter after the rooster crowed, I wept bitterly at the feet of Jesus in raw repentance. Then, as the psalmist did, I "waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God" (Psalm 40:1-3). Although I didn't deserve His mercy, Jesus forgave me. My forgiveness was immediate and complete, but the healing took time. He gave me a new song.
Hallelujah! I've been forgiven and transformed by the unconditional love of God. I was dead in my sins, but am now alive in Christ! I am free and it is my privilege to encourage you towards that same freedom in Christ. God longs for you to experience His perfect healing and hope too - no matter what you've done, no matter where you've been, no matter what has left you broken.
What's your story? Jesus came that we would have life abundantly (John 10:10). Not because of anything that we have done to deserve it, but because of what He has done. His grace is sufficient. The guilt, pain, and shame of our pasts tell us we are disqualified to move on, to serve God, to be free, and to know peace. But to believe this lie is to believe that your sin is outside the scope of God's grace. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have purpose in this life. And though you may have gone through a season of hurt, rejection, or pain, God can and will pick you up and place you back on track. I'm living proof.
There is no condemnation for those in Christ. While the enemy loves to cast false guilt, our Lord loves to extend grace and forgiveness, which is the remedy that restores all your broken pieces. Don't hold onto those pieces. Don't hide them behind a plastic smile. Bring them into the light, lay them at the feet of Jesus, and let go. Allow your wounds to be healed today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, today I come to You with the broken pieces in my life that I have been hesitant to deal with. Take my hand and lead as I walk past my fears and doubts to the refuge of Your forgiving arms. Please take what is broken and transform it into beautiful. Please free me from the lies that have me shackled in silence and that keep me from believing that Your forgiveness can be mine. Help me to trust that You can redeem and restore every area of my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask yourself these questions:
What secrets or lies am I allowing to hold me captive?
How could God use my story for His glory?
Am I willing to share my experiences and failures for the transformation power of Christ to be seen by others?
Then, read Luke 7:36-50. Consider the secrets in your life. Place them at the feet of Jesus, repent and pray that God will forgive you, restore you and reveal to you how those secrets can be used for His good. Step out of the darkness of secrecy and into the light of unconcealed freedom. Share your story with a close friend. Allow God to use your life for His purposes...the good, the bad and the ugly.
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Ok...take a deep breath with me! Some of you may feel disturbed that a locked door in your heart has been nudged open this morning. I also know that 30-40% of you that are reading this devotion share my experience of abortion. There is healing and forgiveness for you, too. Through the help of my local Pregnancy Care Center, I went through a post-abortive Bible study that helped me to know complete healing. If you have not taken that step toward healing, I encourage you to contact the Abortion Recovery CARE line at 1-866-4-My-Recovery (1-866-469-7326) - visit www.abortionrecovery.org - or call your local Pregnancy Care Center today to sign up for a post-abortive Bible study or retreat.
Portions of today's devotion are taken from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. Her full testimony is featured in the book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book online, please CLICK HERE.
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November 9, 2009
I'm not_______ enough.
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you" (1 Corinthians 3:16).
Friend To Friend
I'm not _____________ enough. You can fill that blank in with smart, talented, gifted, spiritual, or any number of positive attributes. But the root source of each one of those lies is "I'm not good enough." It is one of the enemy's favorite weapons and he uses it to keep God's children in bondage to feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. The bottom line is that the enemy wants you to believe that you are "not enough." Period. But you are enough. You are enough and have been equipped and empowered to do everything that God has called you to do.
It seems the message of "I'm not good enough to earn my way to heaven on my own," has been transformed into I'm not good enough...period. God created man and woman and said, "It is good." We are so valuable to God that He gave His only Son to restore our brokenness.
To be honest, I could have been the poster child for this lie. If feeling inadequate was an Olympic event, I would have been on the Wheaties box. It was the undercurrent of my entire existence until I finally realized who I was in Christ. Bible teacher Beth Moore said, "In the dead of the night when insecurities crawl on us like fleas, all of us have terrifying bouts of insecurity and panics of insignificance. Our human natures pitifully fall to the temptation to pull out the tape measure and gauge ourselves against people who seem more gifted and anointed by God." That was me.
Many women are living in silent defeat, comparing themselves to other women who are living in secret defeat. I'm not a good mother. I'm not a good wife. I'm not a good Christian. I'm not a good witness. I'm not a good housekeeper. I'm not a good decorator. I'm not a good cook. I'm not a good.... Women are caught in a cycle of the "I'm not good enough." One by one the petals fall from the beautiful flower God created us to be. Like ticker tape, our fragmented pieces of confidence litter the streets like the Macy's parade passing by.
Unfortunately, I wasted many precious years held captive by the enemy's lies before I held up my chained hands to God and said, "I'm ready for you to set me free."
Consider this:
Jacob was a liar.
Moses was a stutterer.
Gideon was a coward.
David was an adulterer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Esther was an orphan.
Balaam's donkey was...well, a donkey.
And yet God used each one of them to impact His kingdom.
God doesn't call us because we are particularly gifted or talented. He uses us because we are obedient and dependent on Him. He doesn't call the qualified - He qualifies the called.
The truth is, if you have experienced new birth in Christ, when God looks at you, He sees Jesus. And friend, Jesus is good enough.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You today. Because of Jesus Christ and His work of redemption in me, I am deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing and totally accepted by You. Because of Jesus Christ in me, I am equipped and empowered to do all that You have called me to do. Now, LORD, help me act like it.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to that first sentence in today's devotion. What would you put in that blank?
Is that the truth?
What do you think God would say to you about what you have written in that blank?
I'd love to hear your comments about today's devotion at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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Are you ready to begin walking in the truth rather than stumbling over the lies? Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Then you'll want to read Sharon's new book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Visit her website to read an excerpt. But be warned. This book could change your life!
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November 10, 2009
Guarding Greed
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:12-13 "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength."
Friend To Friend
I have seen the movie, "Guarding Tess", several times. Even though I know the plot well, it draws me in every time I watch it. The unending quest of Nicholas Cage to control "Tess" is hilarious and all but impossible. My ability to control greed is a lot like that.
As the holidays approach, stores exhibit displays of Thanksgiving and Christmas at the same time. I find myself thinking about the "stuff" of the holidays, instead of giving thanks and celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. I have decided to take charge of my focus this holiday season ... and guard greed.
After the Saturday night worship service, Dan was in his usual spot, down front, talking with those who had made a decision for Christ that night and meeting first time visitors to Flamingo Road Church. As I looked over the crowd gathered around my husband, I noticed Jenna, the five-year-old daughter of our worship leader, sitting on the edge of the platform, patiently waiting for Dan. After several minutes, Jenna was obviously tired of waiting, spotted me sitting on the first row and evidently decided I would have to do.
Jumping off of the stage, she headed straight for me, grinning and pointing to her mouth. "Mimi, guess what? I lost a tooth!" Carefully examining the illustrious gap, I exclaimed, "That's great, Jenna! The tooth fairy will definitely come tonight!" A mischievous grin spread across her face as she responded, "Oh, he already came last night and brought me $5.00. So, my mom took me to the mall today and I bought lots of stuff!" Tooth loss has definitely evolved over the years. "That's wonderful, Jenna," I exclaimed, giving her a big hug. She did not hug me back and, in fact, seemed disappointed. I was confused and obviously missing some important point. Jenna's next words explained it all, "Yes, but Pastor Dan always gives me money when I lose a tooth." Ah, the truth comes out!
Reaching for my purse, I pulled out a dollar and pressed it into Jenna's outstretched hand. With longing in her eyes, Jenna gazed at the money and softly said, "I wish this dollar was really $5.00 so I could go back to the mall and buy more stuff." And there you have the very heart of man.
What happens when we live as if He is not enough and He is not all we want? Greed happens. And stress always tags along with greed.
Stress is a deadly disease that can wreak havoc in our lives - especially around the holidays. The frightening reality is that stress seems to run rampant, unchecked and in epidemic proportions through our relationships, our job, our home and every part of who we are. It does not have to be that way. In fact, a stress-riddled existence has never been and will never be part of God's plan for His children. No, but that would be Satan's plan for us because he knows that stress is a powerful tool through which he can work. Stress is his invitation to set up shop in our lives.
Stress management begins in a personal relationship with God. Without Him, we are in eternal trouble. A little girl ended her bedtime prayer with "Dear God, I need you to please take care of mommy, take care of daddy, take care of my sister and my brother and please, please God, take care of yourself because if you don't, we're all sunk. Amen!" I could not have said it better myself.
Let's Pray
Father, I choose today to celebrate the true meaning of Thanksgiving and Christmas instead of being stressed-out and caught up in the "stuff" of the holidays. Please help me focus on what is important and discard what is not. Give me eyes to see the needs around me and then help me find a way to meet those needs. Guard my heart against greed and an ungrateful attitude.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take the time to be alone and plan your holiday attitudes. Just as you plan meals, parties, gift-giving, and every part of the coming holidays, you can plan your attitude. Choose joy! Choose contentment! Choose to focus on God and His goodness to us and keep your heart focused on gratitude. Make a list of your blessings and keep that list with you during the holidays. Refer to it often and set your heart on peace.
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Stress happens but we do not have to allow stress to control us. Most people who know me would describe my life journey as one of constantly dealing with stressful situations. I have often compared my life to a perpetual helicopter landing! "Escaping the Stress Trap" is my story and it is probably a whole lot like yours. Check it out!
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November 11, 2009
The Great Adventure
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 13:12-13 "Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
Friend To Friend
A certain medieval monk announced he would be preaching the next Sunday evening on "The Love of God." As the shadows fell and the light faded from the cathedral windows, the congregation gathered. In the darkness of the altar, the monk lit a candle and carried it to the crucifix. First, he illuminated the crown of thorns, next, the two wounded hands, then the spear wound, and finally the two feet. In the hush that fell, he blew out the candle and left the chancel. There was nothing else to say.
God loves us perfectly. The greatest call in our lives is to love God in return. God doesn't just call us to receive His love. He also wants us to respond to it - to experience it - to be transformed and restored by it.
Have you ever read that children's book, Going on a Bear Hunt? When my kids were little we wore out the board book we owned. It's about a family who goes on an adventure together and faces obstacle after obstacle. Each time they face a new challenge, they determine that they "Can't go over it. Can't go under it. Can't go around it" so they "have to go through it!"
The great adventure of life is our pilgrimage to God's heart. When you place your faith in Christ, you become a child of the Heavenly Father who will never leave your side. He loves you with a stubborn love! In every case, without exception, you cannot escape, or be separated from His love. You can ignore it, doubt it, and question it but you can't be separated from it. Not if you are His.
When the psalmist experienced trouble, he prayed, "When I said, "My foot is slipping," your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul" (Psalm 94:18-19).
Has your foot slipped lately? Are you anxious or fearful about anything? The psalmist found strength and support and joy in God's love. You can too. When we lay down our fear and anxiety before the Lord, His perfect love drives the fear away and breathes joy into our souls. God wants to give you a greater joy.
Take a moment to center your heart, soul, and mind on Christ right now. Worship Him in Spirit and in truth. Adore Him. Praise Him. Pray that He will help you live the great adventure of your faith today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are my greatest adventure. Your love is beyond what I can imagine or comprehend. Thank you for loving me ... in spite of me. Please remove anything in my heart that keeps me from fully embracing Your love today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Our life song should be a love song. Many of us sing that tune regularly, but let's choose this day to turn up the volume on our love for God. Sing or contemplate the lyrics of this hymn as part of your response:
The Love of God
Frederick Lehman
The love of God is greater far
Than tongue or pen can ever tell;
It goes beyond the highest star,
And reaches to the lowest hell;
The guilty pair, bowed down with care,
God gave His Son to win;
His erring child He reconciled,
And pardoned from his sin.
O love of God, how rich and pure!
How measureless and strong!
It shall forevermore endure
The saints' and angels' song.
When years of time shall pass away,
And earthly thrones and kingdoms fall,
When men, who here refuse to pray,
On rocks and hills and mountains call,
God's love so sure, shall still endure,
All measureless and strong;
Redeeming grace to Adam's race—
The saints' and angels' song.
Could we with ink the ocean fill,
And were the skies of parchment made,
Were every stalk on earth a quill,
And every man a scribe by trade,
To write the love of God above,
Would drain the ocean dry.
Nor could the scroll contain the whole,
Though stretched from sky to sky.
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it.
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Has God ever called you to do something for which you felt terribly unqualified? I've been there. On many days I'm still there! When He led me to write a book, I thought it was just plumb crazy. BUT GOD faithfully provided material for each chapter. Today's devotion is an excerpt from my book, Broken Into Beautiful, that is published by Harvest House Publishers. To order the book, please CLICK HERE.
Gwen recorded a modern version of "The Love of God" on her Unsearchable CD. Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website.
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November 12, 2009
I Choose Love!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:12 "Love one another as I have loved you."
Friend To Friend
For many of us, the holidays not only usher in a time of celebration but a season of pain as well. Once again, we must face and deal with the hurt of old relationship wounds inflicted by some sandpaper person in our life. It may be a family member, a friend or even a mate or child that is at the center of the injury. They may even be coming to our house for the holidays! God's command to love one another like He loves us seems impossible to obey. It is - outside the strength and power of God. One of the greatest illustrations of God's unconditional love demonstrated by man is the story of Hosea (Hosea 3:1-5).
Hosea was married to a young woman named Gomer who was definitely a sandpaper person in his life. They had three children and seemed happy until Gomer was unfaithful to Hosea. Leaving him, she became a prostitute, selfishly clinging to her depraved desires while betraying Hosea's love and breaking the covenant of marriage. Hosea had every right to walk away from Gomer and sever his commitment to her. No one would have blamed him and most would have cheered him but God's love calls us up to higher choices, supernatural choices that demand supernatural action.
The marriage of Hosea and Gomer is meant to be a picture of our relationship with God, illustrating the stubborn and unwavering love of God for His children. It is a love that refuses to give up and will never end. Like Gomer, we have been unfaithful to God. We have become prostitutes of this world, depending on the wrong people and the wrong things, selling ourselves to unworthy desires and goals. We have run from Him and His love nailed to the cross, straight into the arms of our own inadequacies and selfish desires. We have even worshipped false gods, filling our lives and hearts with the clutter of people and things we reverence instead of worshipping the one true God. We must face the stark reality that anything or anyone standing between God and us is an idol. Like Gomer we have become comfortable in our sin, complacent in a disobedient lifestyle. In fact, we are quick to lavish condemnation on Gomer while we cherish and cling to our own pet sins. Our judgmental and hypocritical attitude is abrasive to the heart and nature of God.
Just as Hosea loved Gomer, God loves us unconditionally, right in the middle of our sin. Romans 5:8 is our hope and deliverance, "But God shows his great love for us in this way: Christ died for us while we were still sinners" (NCV). The name "Hosea" means "salvation" and just like Hosea was Gomer's salvation, God is ours. He looks past our rebellious hearts filled with unfaithfulness, and pursues us. Like Hosea, God is eternally committed to us, refusing to give up until He brings us home. I love the words of Paul as he celebrates the security of his relationship with his God, "Whether we are high above the sky or in the deepest ocean, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord" Romans 8:39 (NLT).
C. S. Lewis says it well: "To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, and irredeemable. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers of love is Hell." Mother Teresa said, "Love, to be real must cost! It must hurt! It must empty us of self!" The words of King David reveal the essence of love and forgiveness: "But King David answered, "No, I must pay the full price. I won't take anything that is yours and give it to the Lord. I won't give an offering that costs me nothing" 1 Chronicles 21:24 (ICB).
Hosea could have played it safe. Nowhere in scripture does it suggest that Gomer was ever repentant. Hosea had no guarantee that she would not do the very same thing again. In fact, he took a huge risk in bringing Gomer home. Can't you just hear his friends and family? "You deserve better, Hosea. I have to tell you that this makes no sense. I don't want to see you get hurt again. Walk away from her, Hosea. Taking her back is a big mistake."
In our relationships, especially with sandpaper people, what passes for true love is often little more than a convenient emotional arrangement. Someone is kind to us so we are kind in return. Someone treats us badly, so we don't get mad, we get even. Sound fair? Seem reasonable? It is - but only in human terms. God's unfailing love never gives up and goes far beyond human understanding or reasoning, refusing to settle for justice alone. God's love never gives up and insists on granting mercy.
Right now, celebrate the love and forgiveness of God in your life. Set the focus of your mind and heart on Him. Choose to love and forgive the person who has hurt you and then surrender your pain to your Father and let Him bring healing and restoration to your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You with a wounded heart knowing only You can offer healing and restoration. I now surrender my pain to You and ask that You replace it with Your unconditional and supernatural love. Help me see the person who has hurt me through Your eyes. Lord, I simply cannot do this on my own but I choose love. I choose forgiveness. This holiday season, I choose to honor You with the gift of obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-6.
Evaluate your attitude toward the difficult people in your life using these verses as your standard. How did you measure up?
Go back over your "emotional books" for any old wound, hurt or pain that you have not really faced. Are you willing to deal with it now? Are you ready to surrender your pain to God and let Him love that difficult person through you?
Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 every day during this holiday season and let the Holy Spirit write its truths upon your heart. Make the choice to love and forgive and God will empower that choice.
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We all have sandpaper people in our life but they seem a bit more abrasive during the holidays. Get ready now! Mary's book Sandpaper People offers ten principles for dealing with the difficult people in your life. They are practical ... and they work because they are straight from God's Word. (Also available in CD and MP3 download)
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November 13, 2009
What Dwelling?
Bonnie Schulte
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Bonnie Schulte.
Today's Truth
Psalm 91:1 (NIV) "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty."
Friend to Friend
Having placed the box of Christmas decorations on a recently built shelving unit, I turned off the storage room light switch and walked up the flight of stairs leading into our kitchen. As I approached the top landing, I unexpectedly met my husband.
"Hey, hon." I greeted with a smile. "You're home early today."
His response floored me.
"Well, I guess I'm going to be home for a while. I just lost my job," he replied as he set his brief case on the floor.
Not again! We were barely out of the boxes from our most recent move just seven months earlier. It was almost impossible to comprehend what had happened. A reorganization in one department led to a realignment in another. Bottom line, we were left without a job.
Throughout the last fifteen years, I experienced the effects of changes in my husband's career. Because of promotions, downsizing, firing, and restructuring, we moved six times to six different states. You would think by now I wouldn't be fazed by what I just heard. But I was dumbfounded.
At a loss for words and with tenderness in his eyes, my husband gathered me in his arms. We embraced in absolute silence. At the same time, I clung tightly to the promises of our Most High God.
I became frustrated many times during the next months. I fought nagging fears about my family's future. Psalm 91 became my source of encouragement and assurance.
When we sold one house and purchased another, I thanked God for His provision. Yet, I craved stability. "Dwelling? What dwelling?" I called out to God. I was weary of living in a perpetual state of "temporary." Worn out from picking up, packing up and starting over, my heart of gratitude collided with a longing for permanence as I laid my worry before Him.
It's been said that worry is like a rocking chair. It gives us something to do, but it doesn't get us anywhere. In fact, according to one statistic, we can't do anything about 70 percent of our worries.
40% are things that will never happen
30% are about the past—which can't be changed
12% are about criticism by others, mostly untrue
10% are about health, which gets worse with stress
8% are about real problems that can be solved
When my thoughts became uneasy, I recited the words of Psalm 91. Filled with an abundance of beautiful descriptions of how God cares for us, the psalmist assures us God is concerned for our physical safety, as well as our spiritual protection.
He delivers us from every type of danger. Nothing can touch those whom He protects. We find rest when we dwell in the Almighty's shadow and protection from harm and disaster when we make the Lord our dwelling.
It's been eighteen months since my husband lost his job. He has a new position and we're getting settled into a new physical location.
I'm becoming familiar with our new community and working through the inevitable details of moving, including getting a new driver's license, transferring auto insurance plans, and locating a new doctor and dentist. A hairstylist? Aaahh, now that one can take a bit longer. Fortunately, I've adapted a fresh philosophy where my hair is concerned—it eventually grows back, even after a bad cut.
Spiritually, I'm staying firmly entrenched under God's shadow, in His Word, and in His promises.
I know life isn't all roses. If it were, Psalm 91:15 would have no meaning, "He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him."
Let's Pray
Almighty Lord, when I get scared I become frustrated. As I think about all the "what ifs," worries begin to consume me. I'm sorry for not trusting You. Please help me dwell in Your presence and find sweet rest in Your shadow.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
There is a difference between legitimate concern and excessive worry. Look up Matthew 6:25-34. What does Jesus say about worry?
Read Philippians 4:4-9. What does Paul say are three steps to victory over worry?
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Leaving behind the familiar and facing the unknown is hard. Today's devotion was taken from Nomad Wife - Lessons Learned Unpacking Boxes. Grab a box and join Bonnie Schulte, as together with Jesus Christ, you pick up, pack up, and move on.
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November 16, 2009
Valued
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Mark 5:32 (NIV) "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
Friend To Friend
If you have ever felt worthless, this woman knows how you feel. For twelve years she suffered from bleeding, and no one could find a cure. The more money she spent on treatment, the worse her condition grew. Her money was gone ... her heart was spent. In Jesus' day, a woman was considered 'unclean' during her monthly cycle. This woman had been considered 'unclean' for twelve years. Untouchable. Unacceptable. Worthless.
But she had heard about this Jesus. "He heals the sick. He raises the dead. He restores sight to the blind." Perhaps he could heal me, she hoped.
Can you see her? Her head was covered. Her eyes were downcast, hoping no one would recognize her as she scurried through the crowd.
If I could just touch the hem of his garment, she mused. I know I am not supposed to be out in public, but I have nowhere else to turn. There he is! I see Him!
Thinking that she could "steal" a healing, the woman reached through the crowd and touched the corner of Jesus' robe. Immediately, the flow of blood ceased.
But what happened next was even more miraculous than the physical healing she received. Jesus stopped the caravan of followers to recognize one who felt worthless in the world's eyes.
As soon as the healing power of Jesus left his body, he knew it. Jesus spun around and asked, "Who touched my clothes?"
The disciples thought that was a strange question. Hundreds of people were pressing in all around him. How could he ask, "Who touched my clothes?" But Jesus always knows the intentions of our hearts and he distinguished the touch of faith from the touch of followers.
The woman could have easily snuck away with her healing. But Jesus was interested in her total restoration not simply her physical health. With fear and trembling, she fell at her Healer's feet.
"It was me," she cried. "I know that I am not worthy to wipe the dust from your feet, but I have had an issue of blood for these twelve years. You were my only hope. Forgive me, Lord."
"Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering" (Mark 5:34).
Yes, Jesus was on his way to an important official's home. Jairus' daughter was dying and Jesus was about to make an important house call. And yet, this daughter of Abraham was also important to Him. He stopped his journey, turned around, and restored her physically, emotionally and spiritually. She was worth it. So are you.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I am so grateful that in Your eyes, I have great worth. I am so thankful that Jesus took the time to heal this broken woman and that He takes the time to take care of me as well. As I go about my day, help me to reach out to those who feel worthless and share the love of Christ.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt worthless?
What do you learn about Jesus' attitude toward women as He stopped to heal this woman?
What do you learn through Jesus' actions about stopping to encourage those who feel worthless?
Go back and look at Today's Truth. How do you think it made the woman feel when Jesus called her "daughter?"
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November 17, 2009
Who Defines Your Worth?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Isaiah 43:4a (NIV) "You are precious and honored in my sight..."
Friend to Friend
Last winter, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It's a hoodie that's made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zips up in the front and is well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.
When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home. I fully anticipated a shriek of happiness from my little bag of beans when I gave it to her. Delightfully, I wasn't disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around - until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price. Are you tensing up with me? Suddenly, I felt schnookered! Ripped off. Taken advantage of. As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed - Kennedy's jacket wasn't worth what I paid for it.
When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, last week the cute jacket was thirty-nine dollars, and now it's nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn't change, but its perceived worth did.
Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable, shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn't it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feeling worthless? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it's because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.
What kind of variable factors?
There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:
Because they've been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused...)
Because they've been told that they're worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another...)
Because of choices they've made (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger...)
Because they've been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography...)
Because they're co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people - "If my husband isn't okay, I'm not okay.")
Because they don't collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability...)
Because they've battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can't drive, cook...)
Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We've felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional, broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion - how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.
Trust me, I'm not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth. Or about being a woman of worth. I am in the trenches with you. I struggle with normal woman things. I don't live a fancy schmancy, rose-colored wonder-life. I hit the snooze button several times each morning. I pack lunches for my kids. I spend countless hours of my life each year sitting in the car pool line. It's a never-ending struggle for me to keep the laundry done and my kids often have to fish for a matching pair of socks in the clean-clothes basket. My husband is my soul mate, but is far from perfect. For that matter, Brad should win a lifetime achievement award for enduring the drama of me! And my kids bring me both great joy and great frustration on a daily basis.
Is this sounding at all familiar to you?
See - I'm just like you, and I'm walking this faith journey right beside you. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. Amen? I'm constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I've come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags" (Isaiah 64:6a, emphasis mine).
What I do know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I'm a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. I'm a grace girl. Not perfect by a long stretch. I've been changed by the unconditional love of God and restored to perfect beauty through the shed blood of Jesus. Because of love, we are His daughters, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.
Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God's daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. That's exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! I talk to women all the time who bend a knee to negative feelings and live defeated lives because they don't quite know how to overcome their sense of worthlessness. God wants every one of us to experience healing and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.
So let's go back to Kennedy's new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God's department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous - I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it's crazy expensive. Way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands - then multiplied that by ten thousand - that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.
"It's a perfect fit," He smiles.
"Sir," you manage with a whisper, "I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I'm, well, just an ordinary girl."
"Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full."
As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands - nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.
You see, the Bible tells us that because of what Jesus did on the cross, we can be clothed with the "robe of righteousness." The apostle Paul tells us that when we are reconciled to God, we become His righteousness. "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21). There's no way we could ever afford or earn such a robe but Jesus gave His life for us - He earned it for us. He paid the price and we receive the gift. Why? Because you're worth it. You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone's bargain rack again.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I'm humbled at the very thought that I could be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it.
Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.
Print or write out this verse: "I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15-16, NASB). Set it to memory and allow it to serve as a reminder that you are precious to God.
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I wish I could reach through my computer screen, grab your hands, and pray with you right now. I don't know what you are going through, but our loving Father is keenly aware of your circumstances, your feelings, and your needs. Please take heart in knowing that Mary, Sharon, and I are praying for you.
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November 18, 2009
God Confidence
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
John 15:5 (NIV) "Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing."
Friend To Friend
Paul said that he "put no confidence in the flesh" (Philippians 3:3). In other words, he didn't think that he was good enough because of any particular talent or ability that he had on his own. But his confidence came from his understanding of who he was as a child of God. Someone once said, "A man wrapped up in himself makes a pretty small package." But a man, or woman, wrapped up in God is an amazing sight to behold.
I believe we can change our inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy into unshakable confidence by understanding who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God. However, I am not advocating confidence in self, but confidence in God - confidence in who you are because of what Jesus has done for you and what the Holy Spirit can do through you. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5, 6 TNIV). Connected to the vine you can do everything God calls you to do (Philippians 4:13).
Paul knew what he could accomplish on his own ... nothing. Oh, he could be busy. We all can do that but bearing "fruit that will remain" is another story. This paraphrase shows how he viewed his own personal weaknesses:
"I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan's angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty! At first I didn't think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me,
'My grace is enough; it's all you need.
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.'
Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ's strength moving in on my weakness. Now that I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size-abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become" (2 Corinthians 12:7-10 The Message).
Paul had great confidence. The prefix, "con" means "with" and the root "fid" means faith." So a confident person is one who walks in faith. We walk in faith that we are holy, chosen, redeemed, dearly loved children of God who are empowered by the Holy Spirit, equipped by our Maker, and enveloped by Jesus Christ. Now that's real God-confidence.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I know that I can do nothing of any true lasting value apart from You. However, when I abide in Christ and He works through me, I can accomplish anything You have called me to do. Help me to understand the power that is within me and to have unshakable confidence in Christ today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a look at what you have been trying to accomplish in your own life. Are you working in your own strength or are you depending on Jesus working through you?
What do you think Jesus meant when He said, "Apart from me you can do nothing?"
I'd love to hear your thoughts. You can share them at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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November 19, 2009
Strength for the Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:2-3 "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
When golf balls were first manufactured, their covers were smooth. Golfers soon discovered that after a ball had been roughed up a bit they were able to get more distance out of it. Manufacturers then began producing golf balls with dimpled covers. Life is a lot like that. It takes some rough spots to make us go our farthest. It takes some storms to teach us that God is faithful and will provide the strength to stand firm.
The Apostle Paul knew all about storms. As a fully devoted follower of Christ, Paul was despised, slandered, mistreated, abused and poor. He had every right to be angry and distressed but instead chose joy. "We own nothing, and yet we have everything" (2 Corinthians 6:8-10 NLT).
I never fully understood the amazing truth behind Paul's words because I had never really lived their truth - until 1995 - when I found myself sitting at the bottom of a deep, dark pit. Clinical depression, the psychologists and physicians called it. The name was irrelevant to me. All I knew was that it was the most hellish place I had ever been and I had absolutely no idea how to escape. I was paralyzed and totally helpless - the perfect setting for a miracle! Sitting at the feet of Jesus, stripped of my human efforts and impotent plans, I discovered the life changing truth that He did not come to eliminate the storms in my life. He came to fill those storms with His presence. I was not delivered from that pit until I was first delivered in that pit.
The highest joy will come through the greatest pain. The greater the pain, the more we are forced to search for and cling to the hand of God! That only happens when we choose the right attitude toward pain. Here it is: "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow" (James 1:2-3 NLT).
When was the last time you threw a party to celebrate the trials and storms in your life? Hurricane parties are common practice in South Florida where we lived for many years. Knowing that the loss of electricity was likely, we would empty our refrigerator, inviting neighbors and friends to join us in celebrating the fact that the storm had come and gone and we were still standing. God's ways are higher than our ways and most human reactions are in direct opposition to the paradoxical ways of God. Honestly, there are times when what He has asked me to do simply does not make sense - to me - and there we find the problem. Faith is a matter of blind obedience, not human logic. At the heart of every storm is victory, just waiting to be claimed. The words of James offer the perfect perspective for every life storm.
As I mentioned earlier, I can't sew a straight seam, so when my sister began doing needlepoint, I was duly impressed. One day, she pulled out her latest project, a small Christmas pillow. It was beautiful! "Turn it over," she said. The back was a mess of knots and mismatched thread going in every direction. Then the thought hit me. We question God, asking why life is such a mess, railing against every emotional "knot" and questioning the circumstances that don't seem to match our lives. I can almost hear Him say, "Yes, but you should see it from my point of view. It is beautiful!"
As women and daughters of the King, we have a different point of view for every life experience. It is a manger, a cruel cross, an empty tomb and eternity itself. That viewpoint changes everything. It makes our hearts sing and our souls dance with the truth that we can always count on His joy in us to face the storms around us! It is the reason we do what we do.
What storm is raging in your life? What step do you need to take in order to exchange your strength for His? Your Father stands ready to meet you in your darkest hour. He longs to wrap His arms around you until the winds die down and the waves are stilled. Surrender. Yield to His presence and power. Celebrate the storm that dashed your battered life on the shores of His unyielding love and praise Him. He really does provide the strength and power to endure every storm.
Let's Pray
Father, my life is such a mess! I am tired and frustrated and can feel the edge of the darkness closing in. I'm desperate for You, Lord. I'm lost without You. I feel like a piece of taffy, being pulled in a thousand different directions. No one seems to understand, Lord, but You. So I come to You right now with my broken heart, hands open and holding nothing back. I sit at Your feet and wait for the storm to pass. I love you, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 46:1"God is our refuge and strength, a tested help in times of trouble" (NRSV). Every time you face a storm today, remember where your strength is found.
Describe your greatest life storm. What was your response to that storm? What truth did the storm yield?
Examine the following list of character traits. How have your life storms encouraged growth in each area? Explain.
Purity_____
Love _____
Power _____
Patience _____
Kindness _____
Understanding _____
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Storms are a reality of life. It is not a matter of if a storm will come - but when it will come. We can try running from storms or pretending they don't exist but the only effective way to deal with the storms of life is to make sure God is in the midst of each storm with you. Turn to Him. Invite Him to take up residence in your storm. He will still the waves and calm the seas ... and be with you.
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November 20, 2009
Exposed by the Light
Leslie Nease
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Leslie Nease.
Today's Truth
1 John 1:6-7 "So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living in spiritual darkness; we are not practicing truth. But if we are living in the Light, as God is in the Light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, cleanses us from all sin" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
While speaking at a women's retreat in the mountains, my friend Linda and I were about to go to bed and were chatting in our room at the retreat center. I began to fluff my pillow to make it a little more "comfy" and as I pounded it, apparently Linda could see dust flying everywhere around me. She said "Stop! You're completely surrounded by dust!" After carefully placing my pillow on the bed, I asked her if it was gone yet and she said "No, but I'll just turn out the light so I don't have to see it." She reached over, flipped off the light and said, "Oh, yeah, that's better."
We both giggled as we realized that the dust wasn't really gone, but as long as we couldn't see it, we felt better about it. While speaking to the ladies the next morning, I was reading from John 3:19 where Jesus says "God's light came into the world but people loved the darkness more than the light for their actions were evil. All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear that their sins will be exposed. But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God really wants."
The night before flashed through my head and I began to relay the story of the dusty pillow and how we had turned off the light so we wouldn't have to see it. Turning off the light didn't make the dust go away, but it sure made us feel better. The dust was still there doing damage we couldn't see.
Just because we would rather live in darkness and pretend sin isn't an issue doesn't mean it's gone. It's still there. I think we often believe that ignorance is bliss and as long as we are ignoring the sin in our life, we are fine. The truth is that it can only go away when the Light of Christ exposes it and we confess it, deal with it and allow Him to clean us up. Without the Light, how would we know? How gracious He is to shine His beautiful Light on the dusty, dirty sin in our lives.
In John 12:35-36, Jesus said "My Light will shine for you just a little longer. Walk in the Light while you can, so the darkness will not overtake you. Those who walk in darkness cannot see where they are going. Put your trust in the Light while there is still time; then you will become children of the Light."
Please don't believe the lie that says ignorance is bliss. Ignorance is just plain ignorance! Jesus said His Light will only shine for a little while longer. Eventually, that Light will not be available to us to help us deal with the sin that separates us from a Holy God.
Today, I pray that the Light of Christ that shows you the sin in your life will not offend you. I pray you will receive it, accept it and allow the Light of Jesus to expose the parts of your life that need cleaning up and then ask Him to clean it up for you. He would like nothing more than to do that for you. We are not capable of cleaning up anything in the darkness ourselves and He graciously exposes and then purifies us so we can walk in the Light with Him forever.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, we pray that we will not live in ignorance when it comes to the sin in our lives. Please, shine Your Light on our life and expose those areas we need to deal with. Thank You for the mercy You will give us in the process. Forgive us where we have failed You and give us strength to walk forward in Your grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a moment and ask God to reveal any un-confessed or ignored sin in your life. If He brings something to mind, confront it head on and ask Him for the strength to turn away from it.
Do you have someone you can talk with to give you spiritual accountability in your life? If not, please pray and ask God to help you find a trustworthy, Christian friend who you can talk to about important issues like this.
Are you ready to move forward in your walk with God but you know there is a sin that is hindering you from growth? Ask God to give you the strength to confront and renounce that sin so you can enjoy sweet fellowship with Him and walk in the Light of His presence.
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November 23, 2009
Revealing Your Source
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1 "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not be in want" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Christmas has always been my favorite time of the year. One of my favorite family traditions is the buying of our Christmas tree. This tradition has changed and evolved over the years as our children have grown and married and now have children of their own, but one of my favorite Christmas memories is the buying of the Christmas tree. Join me in a little Southerland Christmas reflection.
The tree must be purchased on the day after Thanksgiving and it must be purchased from the nice man who runs a tree lot just down the street from our house because he has the best Frasier Firs in town. The whole process is something to see and steeped in Southerland tradition.
We all pile into "Old Blue", my husband's well-worn truck, and head for the tree lot. When we arrive, my husband and our children fan out in search of "the tree". Yes, I believe that there is one particular tree just waiting for us to claim it. Over the years, many people have tried to change that opinion, but I'm standing firm. As tradition demands, my husband, Dan, immediately begins muttering, "Bah, humbug" under his breath but just loud enough for us all to hear him. That is the cue for our daughter, Danna, to begin rolling her eyes and correcting her Scrooge father. Our son, Jered, ignores them both and carries out his steady search in quiet contemplation. He usually spots "the tree" first. "Found it!" he will shout, which is another verbal tree-finding tradition. We all gather to inspect Jered's find, immediately dismiss it as unworthy, and spread out once again in search of our tree.
The owners of the tree lot now sense the non-negotiable Southerland step-by-step process and stand back, waiting for the curtain to fall on the tree drama, content in the knowledge that we will eventually buy a tree from them. I consider and dismiss almost every tree on the lot before going back to the first tree Jered picked. Afraid of losing "his" tree to another customer, Jered faithfully stands guard until we all come to our senses and realize that he, once again, has found the perfect tree. After what we consider a respectable search time, we once again gather at Jered's tree, looking for "holes" in the branches, evaluating each side to make sure it will display well and finally, examining the top of the tree to make sure our angel tree-topper will be comfortable there.
The moment of truth arrives when Dan, Danna and Jered all look at me and ask the question, "Well, what do you think, mom? Is this the one?" Savoring the moment, I take my time, circling the tree in quiet appraisal. My husband and children know that, at this point, their only job is to remain silent. Finally, I turn to them and say, "Let's get it!" I am almost certain I hear applause at this moment, from my family, from other customers and certainly from the tree man. My husband writes the check as Jered loads the tree in Old Blue and we head home where the Christmas tree stand is ready and waiting. Jered, the hulk football player, unloads the tree, cuts off an inch of the trunk, places it in the stand and transports the tree to its new home for holidays.
The smell is delicious. The needles are green and fresh - for about a month, and then, every year, the same sad process begins. Although I faithfully water the tree, the needles grow more brittle with each day that passes, the smell is less powerful and eventually, the limbs begin to wither, dry out and turn brown. Why? The tree has been separated from its source. The same is true in life.
I am convinced that a great deal of our stress is born in wrong priorities and is fed by inadequate sources. As a result, we are never quite satisfied as we desperately try to squeeze life out of lifeless things. God is our sole provider. Yet, I often find myself afraid to let go, refusing to give back to God what really belongs to Him in the first place. "The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want." When it comes to the resources we need for life, this promise from the 23rd Psalm is staggeringly important to remember.
A famous actor was once the guest of honor at a social gathering where he was asked to recite favorite excerpts from various literary works. An old preacher who happened to be there asked the actor to recite the twenty-third Psalm. The actor agreed on the condition that the preacher would also recite it. The actor's recitation was beautifully intoned with great dramatic emphasis for which he received lengthy applause. The preacher's voice was rough and broken from many years of preaching, and his diction was anything but polished, but when he finished, there was not a dry eye in the room. When someone asked the actor what made the difference, he simply replied, "I know the psalm, but he knows the Shepherd." When we refuse to accept and live out the truth that God is our source, greed ushers jealousy into our lives, fueling it along with selfish ambition and bitter envy. We need to remember that the only cure for greed is to train our heart to reflect the truth that God alone is our provider. He is all we need. My prayer is that He really is all we want.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the life and power that comes from knowing You. You alone are my Provider and the Source of everything good in my life. You supply every need and fill my life with purpose. In the midst of the holiday rush, please remind me that it really is all about You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What resources have you been counting on for contentment? Have those resources disappointed you? How? What steps do you need to take in order to experience His contentment in your life? Try these:
Admit that you have been depending on your resources instead of God's.
Recognize that those resources have not brought contentment to your life.
Choose to allow the Holy Spirit to create God's resources in you.
Commit to follow His plan and count on His resources for that plan.
Thank God for the contentment that will surely flood your life as you turn your heart toward Him.
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Has the reality hit you that tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day and Christmas is only 29 days away? I know. Take a deep breath and let's make a plan. This year, let's really keep it simple. Focus first on God, then focus more on people and less on things. Spend tomorrow simply giving thanks. Thanksgiving Day is a great day to begin your Joy Journal by keeping a running list of God's blessings in your life.
Stressed about money? Tap into your creative side and give more meaningful and thoughtful gifts this year. Need help? Check out Mary's MP3 download, Giving the Perfect Gift, to discover ten wonderful gifts you can give without spending a dime.
Why not give a subscription to Mary's weekly online bible study Light for the Journey? Or visit Mary's online store for great gift ideas.
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November 24, 2009
Grumbling to Grateful
Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Give thanks in all circumstances" (1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Grumbling is as old as Methuselah. Actually, it goes way back before him. After Satan enticed Eve to disobey God and eat the forbidden fruit, there was a whole lot of grumbling going on.
"The wife You gave me made me do it," Adam complained.
"The serpent You created made me do it," Eve whined.
And the grumbling didn't stop there. From Genesis to Revelation the grumbling rolls like human thunder.
Perhaps one of the most vivid portraits of grumbling is found in Exodus when Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt. God's chosen people had been in servitude to the Egyptians for four-hundred years. During that time, they had been "fruitful and multiplied greatly." In other words, they had a lot of babies. They were "exceedingly numerous so that the land was filled with them" (Exodus 1:7). The Egyptian King feared that the Israelites would rebel and attempt to take over the kingdom, so he made them slaves in order to thwart a future uprising.
For four-hundred years the Israelites served under the whip of the Egyptian task masters. Then one day, God took note of their affliction and heard their cries for deliverance. So God chose Moses to be the deliverer of the Hebrew nation. What follows Moses' encounter with God at the burning bush in Midian is one of the most powerful stories in Scripture. Moses did indeed lead over a million Israelites out of Egypt and on toward the Promised Land of Canaan.
But there were many roadblocks along the way, including the Hebrews' grumbling and unbelief. They grumbled because the drinking water was bitter, so God made it sweet (Exodus 15:23-25). They grumbled about the lack of food, so God brought forth manna from heaven (Exodus 16). They grumbled about the lack of meat, so God rained down quail from the sky (Exodus 16). Again, they grumbled because of the lack water, so God sprang up water from a rock. They grumbled about the leadership selection, so God caused Aaron's rod, a dead piece of wood, to bud, bloom and bear fruit (Numbers 17:8).
How did God feel about their grumbling and complaining?
"Now the people complained about their hardship in the hearing of the LORD, and when he heard them his anger was aroused. Then fire from the LORD burned among them and consumed some of the outskirts of the camp. When the people cried out to Moses, he prayed to the LORD and the fire died down" (Exodus 11:1).
You would have thought they would learn their lesson from this fiery experience. Unfortunately, while God's wrath burned the camp, it did not brand the message on their hearts. Finally, God had had enough of their grumbling and even Moses' prayers could not stop His wrath. He forbade that generation to enter the Promised Land and they died in the desert because of their unbelief and grumbling.
Have you ever considered the idea that grumbling and complaining could be keeping you out of God's Promised Land for your life? We're going to stop with the Israelites in the desert and think about that for a bit but join me tomorrow and we'll discover how to remove the roadblock of grumbling and get going again.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I confess that I grumble and complain way too much. Help me to have a grateful heart for all that You have given me. Today, I commit to turn my grumbling into gratefulness and my complaining into contentment.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
You may want to get a roll of quarters for this exercise.
Every time you complain today, stop and take a quarter out of your purse.
Every time you grumble today, stop and take a quarter out of your purse.
At the end of the day, gather those quarters and give them to someone.
If you would like to do this exercise with your children, give each one a roll of nickels. Ask them to give up a nickel every time they grumble or complain. At the end of the week, they get to keep what they did not have to surrender.
I'd love to hear what happened with you and this exercise. You can let me know at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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November 25, 2009
Grumbling to Grateful
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV) "Give thanks in all circumstances."
Friend To Friend
Yesterday, we looked at how the grumbling Israelites were not allowed to enter the Promised Land because of their unbelief and grumbling attitude. Now, let's take a look at what happened with the next generation.
The next generation learned from their parents' mistakes. They worshipped the Lord, praised Him for His provisions, and believed His promises.
Here's what the first generation of freed Israelites did not understand. When they grumbled and complained, they were not speaking against Moses. They were speaking against God. "You are not grumbling against us," Moses said, "but against the LORD" (Exodus 16:8). God had miraculously delivered them from slavery, parted the Red Sea, provided food from heaven, placed a cloud in the sky to protect them from the scorching sun, provided a fire to warm them in the chill of night, prevented their clothes and shoes from wearing out the entire time they were in the desert ... and yet they grumbled.
Can you imagine such ingratitude? Unfortunately, I can. God provided a sacrifice for our sins and pardon from eternal punishment. "For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16). And if that wasn't enough, take a look at these promises:
"But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it" (Ephesians 4:7).
God has given us the "Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come" (2 Corinthians 5:5).
"His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (2 Peter 1:3).
"Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires" (1 Peter 2:1).
"We know that we live in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit" (1 John 4:13).
"We know also that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true" (1 John 5:20).
...and yet we grumble and complain.
Could it be that when we grumble, we too are complaining, not simply about our circumstances, but about the sovereign God and His provision for our lives?
It all boils down to our attitude and perspective of who is in control.
Bible teacher Chuck Swindoll says this about attitude:
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company ... a church ... a home, or an individual. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for the day. We cannot change our past ... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes.
And what is the attitude that changes grumbling into gratefulness? It is an attitude of gratitude that Paul describes in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, "Give thanks in all circumstances."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for this brand new day. Thank You for eyes to see, ears to hear, a voice to speak, hands to feel and a nose to smell. Thank You for a heart that beats, lungs that breathe, and organs that function to keep my body moving. Thank You for the sun that rose this morning! I am just bubbling over with thanksgiving and praise!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of the ten lepers in Luke 17:11-19.
How many men thanked Jesus for what he had done?
What does that tell you about the other nine?
Today, have an attitude of gratitude and thank God for even the little blessings.
While you're at it, thank others for their service and acts of kindness.
If you noticed a change in other people as you showed an attitude of gratitude, I'd love to hear about it. Just log onto www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and let me know.
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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November 26, 2009
The Taste Berry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 138:2 "I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name."
Friend To Friend
One of the first lessons we teach our children is to say "thank you" when receiving a gift or a compliment from someone. It is just good manners, right? When it comes to thanking God for all He has done in my life, my manners need a monumental overhaul. I am quick to lay my needs and concerns at His feet in prayer, but when those prayers are answered, I tend to get so wrapped up in the answer that I forget to thank the One who provided the answer. Can you relate? We are not alone.
While Jesus was on his way to Jerusalem, he came to a small town where ten men who had a skin disease met him. They did not come close to Jesus but called to him, "Jesus! Master! Have mercy on us!"
When Jesus saw the men, he said, "Go and show yourselves to the priests." As the ten men walked away, they were healed. When one of them saw that he was healed, he went back to Jesus, praising God in a loud voice. Then he bowed down at Jesus' feet and thanked him. Jesus said, "Weren't ten men healed? Where are the other nine? (Luke 17)
We are quick to ask God to meet our needs but we sometimes forget to thank Him for doing so.
While Thanksgiving does remind us to stop and give thanks, Thanksgiving is not just a national holiday to be celebrated for a few hours each November. Learning to live in the gear of perpetual thanksgiving is a life changing discipline. Giving thanks should be a natural characteristic and innate practice of every believer. We should be quick to thank God for all that He has done as well as for all He is presently doing and going to do in our life. That is where faith comes in.
We may not always understand God's process but we can always trust His heart. A thankful heart is a trusting heart. Learning to be thankful - even when we cannot see, hear or understand what God is doing or how He is working - is authentic thanksgiving and the direct result of a living, active and personal faith in God.
It is said that in Africa there is a fruit called the "taste berry." It changes a person's taste so that everything eaten after eating the berry tastes good and sweet. A thankful heart is the "taste berry" of an obedient life. When our heart is filled with gratitude, life is sweeter. Before you cut that turkey or eat that first bite of dressing, check your heart.
Let's Pray
Lord, I give thanks to You for You are good; Your love endures forever. You are with me so I will not be afraid. You are my strength and my song and my salvation. You have made this day so I will rejoice and be glad in it. You are my God and I will give You thanks. You are good and I will lift You up with my thanksgiving. Father, I praise You because You have conquered and taken away the sting of death. Today, I choose to give You thanks in all circumstances - no matter what - because I know it is Your will for me to praise You. Be lifted up, God, and be enthroned in the praises I bring.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It may be Thanksgiving Day on the calendar but for some of us it is a dark and uncertain day. Remember that our inner attitude does not have to reflect our outer circumstances. We can choose to give God thanks and we can literally train our heart in an attitude of gratitude.
Go back over the past year. What has God done in your life? Thank Him for each blessing that comes to mind. Thank Him for answered prayer, spiritual blessings, relational blessings, physical blessings and material blessings.
Make a list of your blessings. Share them with family and friends.
Make a new commitment today to cultivate a thankful heart.
More From The Girlfriends
The Girlfriends in God team prays that you have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! We pray that your table is full, that your family and friends are gathered together and that your home is a place of joy and your life an illustration of our living God!
Gwen, Sharon and I thank God for you and this precious ministry we share as girlfriends in God and look forward to doing life with you in the days ahead. Blessings!
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November 27, 2009
From Cinders to Cinderella
Angela L. Craig
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
Isaiah 61:3 (HCSB) "...to give them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, festive oil instead of mourning, and splendid clothes instead of despair. And they will be called righteous trees, planted by the LORD, to glorify Him."
Friend To Friend
At a recent women's conference, a friend's young daughter handed me a picture she had colored for me. At the top of the masterpiece were the words, To Angela, From Megan and below was an image we are all familiar with, Cinderella. There Cinderella stood in her beautiful dress, shimmering in pink satin with lavender silk ribbon strung by jewel-colored bluebirds along the bottom of her flowing gown. The drawing created the perfect picture of beauty and innocence just as I remembered from the hundred of times I had watched the movie Cinderella as a child and even as an adult.
Tears began to run down my face. The tears surprised me. After all, it was only a picture of Cinderella. I dismissed the tears as just a reaction to the fact that I have boys who would never think of coloring such a beautiful picture for their mother. (They might bring me the gift of a dead bug or a Lego creation, but never a lovely portrait of Cinderella!) As the day went on, the picture of Cinderella never left my mind and I knew there was a much deeper message in my tears than I had initially thought.
While growing up, I always dreamed of being Cinderella - the Cinderella in the picture that Megan colored for me. Not merely for her beauty or for the fairly tale ending of the prince on the white horse (although, I'd be lying if I told you that was not part of it). I also desired her complete freedom and hope but it seemed I was always the girl of cinder and ashes waiting alone at the fireplace before the ball, imprisoned by circumstances that left me with no self-worth ... until I met Jesus.
This was the reason for my tears. They were tears of joy because I can honestly tell you that a relationship with Jesus Christ can and will change your life from a girl of ashes and cinders to a girl of beauty. They were also tears of pain for any woman who does not know that her life can be completely different by taking the risk to find out who Jesus really is.
You do not need to wait alone by the fireplace anymore. Jesus is waiting. He is that Prince on the white horse and so much more! Remember, you have all your Girlfriends in God that want to join you on your journey of faith. God has a plan and a purpose for your life. He wants to break your world wide open and show you the possibilities! You are invited to the ball my friend, but you must take the first step out of the ashes. Will you take that step today?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me just as I am. I praise You for being everything I need in my life. Please help me to keep my eyes on You and value Your opinion above all others. I choose to recognize my worth in You and today I celebrate the fact that I am Your daughter, loved and chosen.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it is Your Turn
1) Who do you identify with more, Cinderella waiting by the fireplace, or Cinderella at the ball?
2) Do you have the life you always dreamed of? Has your prince come? So often we expect man to meet our needs but the Bible teaches us that this is impossible. Only God can meet our needs. Revelation 6:2 refers to Jesus as the Prince on the white horse. Revelation 19:11 calls him "faithful and true." Reflect and journal on one expectation that you could allow God to fill for you.
More From The Girlfriends
Consider reading Gwen Smith's book, Broken Into Beautiful as she invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life. Then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and to transform your life into something beautiful.
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November 30, 2009
Battered and Bruised
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 4:7 (NIV) "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us."
Friend To Friend
The speaker came out onto the stage. He pulled out a one-hundred dollar bill.
"Who would like this one-hundred dollar bill?" he asked.
Hands shot up all around the room.
Then he crumpled the paper, threw it on the floor and ground the dirt into it with his foot. Holding up the dirty, crumpled and tattered money, he then asked, "Now, who wants this one-hundred dollar bill?"
The same hands went into the air.
"And that is why God still wants you," he continued. "You may be battered and bruised. You may be tattered and torn. You may be crumpled and creased but that does not change your value to God any more than what I have done changes the value of this one-hundred dollar bill. You are still precious and valuable to the God who chose you, redeemed you, and loves you as His own."
"He knows how we are formed; he remembers that we are dust" (Psalm 103:14). God understands that we are fatally flawed creatures, yet deems us immeasurably valuable no matter how crumpled and soiled we are.
Paul wrote to the Corinthians, "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7). In Paul's day, it was customary to store treasure in clay jars. The common container disguised its contents and didn't draw attention to the treasure within. You and I might not look like much on the outside. We may appear as common as jars of clay, but inside are hidden incredible treasures. Inside these old cracked pots reside the most incredible treasure of all - Jesus Christ. And that makes us valuable.
In Louisa May Alcott's book, Little Women, she includes a conversation from Mrs. March to her three girls, Meg, Jo, and Amy. "I only care what you think of yourself. If you feel your value lies in being merely decorative, I fear that someday you might find yourself believing that's all you really are. Time erodes all such beauty. But what it cannot diminish is the wonderful workings of your mind - your humor, your kindness, and your moral courage. These are things I so cherish in you."
Our culture places an ungodly amount of significance on a woman's appearance. Outward trappings of appearance are simply ... trappings but God sees us as simple jars of clay containing valuable treasure and that makes us beautiful to Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, even though I am battered and bruised, I know that I am still valuable to You. Thank You for loving me so much that You sent Your Son, Jesus, to die for my sins. Thank You for making a way for me to have eternal life through Jesus' sacrifice. Thank You for seeing me as Your priceless treasure.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Don't you love the teacher's illustration of the crumpled dollar bill? Today, consider using that illustration with a friend or a child who feels knocked down by life.
Did the illustration touch you in a particular way? Is so, I'd love to hear about it. You can share your thoughts on my blog at www.sharonjayes.com/blog.
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you feel battered and bruised by life, if you have been believing lies that you are worthless, then join Sharon in learning to see yourself as God sees you - a valuable treasure - as a chosen, dearly loved child of the King.
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December 1, 2009
Let's Adore Him
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold and of incense and of myrrh" (Matthew 2:11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
O come, all ye faithful,
Come everyone! Come sinners! Come saints!
Come if you're tired, hungry, lonely, or faint!
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint" (Isaiah 40:28-31).
Joyful and triumphant;
Come with rejoicing! Come celebrate!
We worship the One who is mighty and great!
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4).
O come ye, O come ye to Bethlehem!
Come home-school mom! Come business pro! Come friend, wife, sister, and daughter!
Let's bow down low and worship Him. Praise Son, Holy Spirit, and Father!
"Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father" (Philippians 2:9-11).
Come and behold Him - born the King of Angels!
Behold His majesty! Behold the matchless King!
Behold the holy One! Behold the saving Son!
He is the One deserving praise.
He is the Lord of night and day.
He is the God who reigns on high.
He is our holy Adonai.
"The next day he saw Jesus coming to him and said, "Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!" (John 1:29 NASB).
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him - Christ the Lord!
Let's Pray
Lord Jesus, Words can't begin to express the gratefulness in my heart as I pause to adore You! Thank you for putting on a garment of humanity to rescue me from my sin. You are holy and righteous and worthy of my praise. I bow before you today in humble adoration. I love You, Jesus. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Sing to the King! Pause to sing this song of worship (either out loud or in your soul) to our deserving Lord and connect with Him in spirit and in truth. I'll start: "O come, all ye faithful..."
Make a list of 12 reasons that Jesus is worthy of your adoration.
Listen to this song, Holy Adonai, (turn on your speakers and CLICK HERE) as a final heart-focused portion of our time together. Adore Him!
More From The Girlfriends
We were made to praise. Purposed to respond to the glory of God. Yet sometimes life's challenges and choices keep us from His presence and His peace. Maybe you felt unable or unworthy of adoring Him as you read this. Turn to Him now, friend. His love is unconditional and His mercies know no end. He loves you. He's waiting.
GOT A HEART FOR WORSHIP? Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website.
GOT CHALLENGES? In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and bring strength and healing to your heart. He can transform your life into something beautiful.
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December 2, 2009
Life without Limbs
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
The camera framed the young man's handsome face as he flashed a beautiful smile to the audience and spoke with a beguiling accent. "My name is Nick Vujicic," he began, "and I'm from Australia. This morning, I want to share my testimony as to how God has given me grace, strength and comfort through my disability and how you can have victory, peace, and joy in your life- even if circumstances are still present in your life that don't make sense or cause your world to turn upside down."
The camera pulled back to reveal a young man with no arms and no legs, sitting before a massive mesmerized audience. Several video clips followed as we watched this young limbless man shaving, getting a glass of water, walking up stairs, and diving head first in a crystal clear swimming pool.
Born with no limbs, Nick has one of the most powerful of all human attributes: a voice. He has made over 1,600 speaking appearances in 12 nations. "No matter who you are, no matter what you're going through, God knows it," he said. "He is with you. He is going to pull you through."
On this particular day, I watched as Nick spoke to Dr. Robert Schuller during a worship service at the Crystal Cathedral in California.
"I'm twenty-four-years-old," Nick began. "And there's actually no medical reason why this happened. My mom was a nurse and she knew exactly what to do and what not to do in her first pregnancy. I'm their first born son. It was such a great tragedy and we had many questions. They had many questions as parents. I had many questions as a child. But there were no answers.
"The world cannot tell us why I was born this way. But I now see the glory of God in it and I give God all glory and thanks and praise because I am wonderfully and fearfully made. He has a plan and a hope and a future for everybody.
"They (Nick's parents) went through many stages of denial and depression. They straight away took me home and raised me like any other child. But God's peace guided their hearts...
"It was just such a shock. There's no trace of birth defects in either families. I have a brother and a sister born after me and they have no birth defects. But it's just amazing to see the miracle of God's grace as they raised me up. As they trusted in God. Such a stressful and anxious time in their lives."
On his left side, Nick has a tiny foot with two toes at the end of a stub. He calls it a "chicken drum stick" because that's what it actually looks like. With that tiny foot and two toes, Nick can type 43 words per minutes on a keyboard. He has a double degree in accounting and financial planning, can walk, swim, and bring a crowd to their knees with his amazing words of God's grace.
"My purpose in life is to go out in the world and say, 'If I can trust in God with my circumstances, then you can trust in God with your circumstances," Nick explained." We know that God's grace is sufficient and if He doesn't answer your prayers just know that He is with you and that's the message - 'fear not, for I am with you.'
"You know what? A lot of people say, 'Nick, I can never imagine what you've gone through' or 'you're the most inspirational story,' or something like that. I take that to heart. I praise God for the inspiration that I am to the world. But that's not to say that there's not someone else out there who is going through pain. See we all are denying ourselves and taking up our cross. We all know how it feels to be lonely or broken and the thing is this...I could look at you and say, 'maybe the things you have gone through are worse than what I've gone through. But you say, 'no, I could never imagine myself without arms or legs.' See, we can't and we should not compare sufferings.
"I'm just an empty vessel. That's all I am. It's not about me. It's not about my achievements. It's not about what I can do or what I cannot do. It's about what I have become by the power of Jesus Christ. That's the message."
Nick wasn't always so positive. When he was eight-years-old, he wanted to kill himself by flipping himself off the kitchen table to break his neck. His father was a pastor and he grew up going to church and Sunday school. He learned the verses in Psalm 139 that said he was fearfully and wonderfully made. He read Jeremiah 29:11 about how God had a future and a hope for his life. What kind of future will I have, he thought.
He thought he would never get married, hold his wife's hand, dance on his wedding day, or be able to put his arms around his children when they cried. "These things were important to me," he said. "No one could tell me that everything was going to be OK. And even if they did, I couldn't believe them."
Not yet in his teens, Nick prayed that God would give him arms and legs. "It said in the Bible, 'Ask and you shall receive,' Nick explained. "I had faith, and I was actually very angry at God. I didn't understand it. And I thought maybe I wasn't good enough. Maybe that's the reason why He's not answering my prayer. I mean, arms and legs are nothing for God the Creator of the Universe. And so, I prayed for my circumstance to change, but it didn't happen."
"There are two things we want to hear in life as human beings. First of all, that we're loved. Second of all, everything is going to be OK. And the greatest thing that God has given me is His love. To know that He does love me. And when there are things that happen in my life that I don't understand, when there are things that happen in your life and you don't understand the purpose, the question is this: Is God worthy of your thanks? Is God still worthy of your praise? ...This life is temporary, but you know what, I love the fact that that is the greatest joy of all, having Jesus Christ in my life and living godly purposes He has for me. And I can be thankful."
Here's what I want you to hear...I'm standing in my chair with a megaphone...hear this. Nick went on to say, "We stereotype people in this world. And so...if the world thinks you're not good enough, it's a lie, you know. Get a second opinion."
Get a second opinion. Get God's opinion. He thinks Nick is amazing. He thinks you are amazing. Nick, with no arms and legs, felt that he wasn't good enough for God to answer his prayers for physical wholeness. He felt worthless. But oh, God had a greater plan. He is using Nick to bring spiritual wholeness to millions around the world. That is amazing. Nick is good enough. Nick is incredibly valuable to God.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, there is much about this life that I don't understand. But this I do know. Your ways are loving ways. Your ways are kind. So when I can't understand, when I can't trace Your hand, I will choose to trust Your heart. Help me not to see the difficulties of my life as stumbling blocks, but as stepping stones. And today, Lord, I thank You for Nick.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Nick tells us not to compare difficulties and pain, but at the same time, his life does help us get our difficulties in perspective. How did you feel when you read about his attitude about his physical limitations?
I'm still just reflecting on Nick's story. Maybe you need to just reflect on it as well. I'm not going to ask you a lot of questions today. But I would like to hear your thoughts. You can send your thoughts to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or to www.sharonjaynes.com/blog.
Here's a bonus. You can actually see Nick and hear him on the following link. Click and be encouraged and challenged.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V5D_9gklCiY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LtCrlXdd2E
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December 3, 2009
Merry Christmas ... or Not!
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son."
Friend To Friend
Christmas! My favorite time of the year!
· Brightly wrapped presents
· Houses draped in lights
· The smell of cinnamon and pine
· Secret shopping trips
· Children whispering and giggling
· Old movies that make me laugh and cry
· Phone calls from friends miles away
· Chocolate covered cherries.
· Carolers
Something important is happening, a time of celebration. The literal meaning of "Christmas" is "Christ's Mass", the celebration of Christ. We all want a joy-filled Christmas that truly celebrates Christ. Yet, the holiday season often leaves us with very little joy and a feeling of emptiness. What is the secret to a merry Christmas?
I believe that the secret to the celebration of Christmas is found in giving. Maybe we are giving the wrong gifts. Maybe we are giving gifts to the wrong people. Maybe we are not receiving the right gifts. Over the next two days, we will look at the truths surrounding a Christmas that is filled with joy and Christ Himself.
The first truth is that we must receive God's gift to us.
Luke 2:8-13 "There were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them; and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."
God gave the greatest gift of all when He gave Jesus, a gift that only eternity can measure. Across the manger is a shadow of the cross and an empty tomb. The very heart of Christmas can be found in a familiar verse, a verse we seldom associate with the Christmas season.
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son."
Christmas is not a date on the calendar but a way of life. Like the innkeeper who turned away Mary and Joseph, we are often guilty of posting a sign across the entrance of our heart and life that reads, "No room!" We can participate in every festivity of the Christmas season, but until we receive the gift of Jesus Christ, we will never truly experience Christmas.
To have a Christ-centered Christmas, we must not only recognize Him as the center of a season, but the center of our entire life as well - every part of it - every day of the year. By human standards, Jesus could and should have been born in a palace, a mansion fit for the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. But He came to a manger, and His birth was announced by shepherds instead of Kings; the greatest of all miracles - in the midst of total simplicity. Even today, this extraordinary Jesus comes to us in the midst of our ordinary lives. He comes to be one of us.
It was Christmas Eve and the family was preparing to attend the church service. Everyone was going, everyone except Dad. He was an honest man, a good man, but he simply could neither understand nor accept the story of the baby in a manger. It was just too far-fetched for the human mind to conceive. How could God allow His Son to give up Heaven for Earth? Why would Jesus want to die for any man? The questions lingered and, not wanting to be a hypocrite, the man chose to stay home rather than sit in a pew with an unbelieving heart.
As his family went out into the cold wintry night, the man added a log to the fire and settled into his favorite chair to read the paper and wait for his family's return. A knock at the window pulled him away from his peaceful reverie and glancing outside, he was stunned to see that the knocking sound was actually a small bird desperately trying to reach the warmth of the fire.
The man thought for a moment, contemplating a solution to the bird's predicament. He opened the window but the bird wouldn't come in. He tried opening the front door, but the bird refused his offer. Finally, the man grabbed his coat and stepped into the Christmas night and God's plan. He trudged through the deepening snow, determined to save the tiny bird by opening the barn doors, convincing the little bird that the barn was safe and warm. Still, the bird refused his solution.
Frustrated, the man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just a moment, I could lead the bird to safety." Suddenly, the sound of church bells rang through the cold, dark night - and he knew. He finally understood the reason Jesus came - to be one of us - to lead us into the safety of His will.
"And it was necessary for Jesus to be like us so that he could be our merciful and faithful High Priest before God. For since he himself has now been through suffering and temptation, he knows what it is like when we suffer and are tempted, and he is wonderfully able to help us." Hebrews 2:17-18
Wherever you are today, Jesus has been there and He understands. God has tucked a longing into Christmas, a longing for home. That longing can never be satisfied outside of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ! That's why He came. The first truth of a Christ-centered Christmas is to receive God's gift - Jesus.
Let's Pray
Jesus, I am so tired of shallow and meaningless Christmas celebrations. This year, I want to experience You and a Christmas filled with Your joy. Right now, I give myself to You and ask You to forgive my sin and take control of my life. I invite You to reign as Lord and Savior. Thank You, Father, for Your love and Your mercy. I am Yours.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you prayed today's prayer, I encourage you to read the following verses of scripture and consider the truths listed beside each one.
Romans 3:23 We all have sinned.
Romans 6:23 The price of sin is death, but God paid that price.
Romans 5:8 Jesus died for our sin.
Romans 10:13 When we call on God, He hears and saves us.
Romans 8:38 Nothing and no one can separate us from God's love.
Share your decision with a friend. Begin reading your Bible, starting with the Gospel of John. Pray continually because if it is important to you, it is important to your God. Regularly attend a church that teaches the Bible. Seek out those who will encourage you in your faith walk. And we would love to hear from you so we can celebrate the first step of your new life journey. Email us!
Think back to past Christmas holidays. Was Jesus the center of the celebration? If not, what was the focus of each holiday celebration? Evaluate past Christmases in light of your new faith. If you are a Christian, evaluate past Christmases in light of its true meaning. What changes will you make this year to have a joy-filled Christmas?
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Right now, examine your heart and choose the setting of your holiday attitude. Fix your heart and mind on joy and the celebration the birth of Jesus Christ. Let everything else fall into place behind Him!
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December 4, 2009
Merry Christmas ... or Not!
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 6:38 "Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Winston Churchill said, "We make a living through what we get, but we make a life through what we give." The world would like us to believe that the success of Christmas depends upon how much we spend, how many presents we give or receive. While Christmas is about giving, budgets do not determine the success of our Christmas giving.
Giving is not dependent on the condition of your checkbook. Giving is dependent on the condition of the heart. Let me share some creative ways to give gifts that are straight from the heart.
1. A homemade gift
Giving something you make represents time and effort invested on the recipient's behalf. Each year, we make hot chocolate for our neighbors, scoop it into decorated mason jars and deliver it to their doorstep. The best part is ringing the doorbell and the running like crazy! Our neighbors love it and it has become a fun family tradition.
2. Possession gift
Give something you already have, something that is of special value to you. Not your junk, but your treasure. Don't ask the question, "What can I buy for Sally?" Ask the question, "What do I have that would mean a lot to Sally?" My pastor husband once mentioned in a sermon that he collects old Bibles. The next Christmas, one of our church members gave him an old and cherished family Bible. It is still one of Dan's most prized possessions.
3. Gift of time
Time is a valuable gift because when we give thirty minutes of time, we are giving thirty minutes of life. When Dan was in seminary, we were always short on time and money. When Christmas came, one of our friends handed us a Christmas card with his gift inside, a coupon good for one afternoon of babysitting each week for the whole year. To this day, I still remember how thrilled I was when Scott handed us that card and showed up every week. That gift kept on giving all year long. Give a gift of time spent in prayer for a friend or an afternoon of errands run for an older friend. Time is a precious gift.
4. Gift of encouragement.
Tell someone what they mean to you. Write it down so they can read your encouraging words several times. Writing it down can help you say it better and requires more time and thought. You can also make a cassette tape of encouraging words and thoughts for those who can't see well or for that hurried mom who spends much of her life in a car. In my bible, I have several notes tucked as bookmarks for special verses; notes of encouragement that have keep me on my feet during difficult times.
5. A blind gift
Give a gift to someone you don't even know; a gift that is given in Jesus' name, just because you love Him. I recently read an article about a millionaire who sets aside large sums of money at Christmas. Dressed in a disguise, he then walks the streets, pressing $100 bills into the hands of the needy. "It makes my whole year," he says.
6. Secret gift
Give a gift to someone you know without them knowing who gave it. Give with no hidden motive and with no possible benefit to yourself. Like most newlyweds, Dan and I were on an extremely tight budget during the first years of marriage. At one point, we had no money for groceries, a fact we shared with no one but God. We wanted to see what He would do. Returning from church one Sunday night, we started up the steps to our mobile home. There, on the sidewalk, was a brown package. We hurriedly ripped off the paper to find a brick with two $100 bills taped to each side. We still don't know who gave us that gift, but every time I think of them, I ask God to bless them for their secret gift.
This year, make this Christmas your best Christmas by receiving His gift of Love, by giving yourself to Him and by sharing His love with others. Search for Him in every face. Watch for Him throughout each day and may this be a joy-filled Christmas and the beginning of a joy-filled year!
Let's Pray
May "God grant the light in Christmas which is faith; the warmth of Christmas, which is love; the radiance of Christmas, which is purity; the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice; the belief in Christmas, which is truth; the all of Christmas, which is Christ."
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose two of the creative gifts listed above and give them this holiday season.
Think back over past Christmases. What "creative gifts" have you received? What "creative gifts" have you given? What truths did you gain from receiving and giving these gifts? What changes do you plan to make in the way you give and receive gifts this year?
Read and memorize John 3:16-18 as your Christmas prayer this year:
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already be cause he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son." John 3:16-18 (NIV)
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I pray that you have taken some time to evaluate your heart attitude during this holiday season. Remember, Christmas is not just one day on the calendar. Christmas is the celebration of Jesus' birth every single day.
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December 7, 2009
The Touch of the Master's Hand
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well" (Psalm 139:13, 14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Myra was a woman battered and scarred from severe arthritis. Her legs were held captive in a wheelchair, but her soul was forever free. With one pencil in each crippled hand, she used the erasers to type words on her typewriter. The joy of her efforts in typing the words outweighed the pain of creating them.
One day, when a friend was leaving Myra's home, she patted her wheelchair and said, "And I thank God for this!" Prior to her wheelchair days, Myra's talent had been hidden like a treasure in the sand. But after the crippling affect of arthritis confined her, the talent locked away freed her. God used one of her most precious poems to show me our incredible worth.
The Touch of the Master's Hand
It was battered and scarred,
And the auctioneer thought it
Hardly worth his while
To waste his time on the old violin,
But he held it up with a smile.
"What am I bid, good people," he cried,
"Who starts the bidding for me?"
"One dollar, one dollar, Do I hear two?"
"Two dollars, who makes it three?"
"Three dollars once, three dollars twice, going for three."
But, No,
From the room far back a grey haired man
Came forward and picked up the bow.
Then wiping the dust from the old violin
And tightening up the strings,
He played a melody, pure and sweet,
As sweet as the angel sings.
The music ceased and the auctioneer
With a voice that was quiet low,
Said, "What now am I bid for this old violin?"
As he held it aloft with its' bow.
"One thousand, one thousand, Do I hear two?"
"Two thousand, who makes it three?"
"Three thousand once, three thousand twice,
Going and gone," said he.
The audience cheered,
But some of them cried,
"We just don't understand."
"What changed its' worth?
Swift came the reply
"The Touch of the Master's Hand."
And many a man with life out of tune,
All battered with bourbon and gin,
Is auctioned cheap to a thoughtless crowd
Much like that old violin.
A mess of pottage, a glass of wine
A game and he travels on.
He is gong once, he is going twice,
He is going and almost gone.
But the Master comes,
And the foolish crowd never can quite understand,
The worth of a soul and the change that is wrought
By the Touch of the Master's Hand
-Myra Brooks Welch
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, my Creator, my life is much like that old violin. It may not look like much to most, but because of the touch of the Master's hands, I have great worth. Thank You for touching my life. Please use my hands today to give others a special touch from You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the words to Myra's song. How is your life much like the old violin?
Have you ever looked at another person and viewed them as worn out, broken or worthless? Be honest.
What would God say about such a person?
Perhaps you know someone who feels worthless. Today, consider speaking a word of encouragement to let them know just how precious they are to God.
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December 8, 2009
God Make You Mighty, Girlfriends!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all people. For today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; He is Christ the Lord" (Luke 2:10-11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
The Family Life Today show on my local Christian radio station once featured an author named Ace Collins who wrote a historical book about Christmas carols. One traditional carol they talked about was the song, "God Rest Ye, Merry Gentlemen."
Before that day, the first line of that song never made sense to me. The title, "God rest ye, merry gentlemen," seemed too old-school-English to embrace. Was it encouraging us to sleep happily? I just didn't get it. But, I'm excited to share with you that the scales have fallen from my eyes! What I learned about this song is really cool, and I think you are going to find it fascinating as well...
Ace explained to the listeners that he had dug through a bunch of English text from the 1500 and 1600s. One of the first things he learned about this carol was that the comma in our modern day version is actually misplaced in the title. It's not "God Rest Ye, Merry Gentlemen." It's supposed to read, "God Rest Ye Merry, Gentlemen." While that information alone might not seem to make a difference, this next bit of information will bring the main point home. His research revealed that back in the day this song was written, the word "rest" actually meant "make" or "keep." And the word "merry" actually meant "mighty" or "great."
So...if we put that all together - in a modern translation - it should sing:
"God make you mighty, gentlemen, let nothing you dismay.
Remember Christ our Savior was born on Christmas day;
To save us all from Satan's power when we were gone astray.
O tidings of comfort and joy, comfort and joy;
O tidings of comfort and joy."
If you would allow me the freedom, I'd like to translate this even further. Call it the Girlfriends In God Revised Edition. This is powerful:
"God make you mighty, girlfriend! Do not be upset, discouraged, or frightened!
Jesus came to earth to take on our brokenness and sin so that we could be made beautiful and whole in Him! This is great news, which should bring you comfort and joy! Rejoice!"
Have a mighty Christmas! Have a powerful Christmas! Our hope is alive because 2000 years ago, Jesus Christ left His throne in heaven, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life, suffered and died for our sin, and defeated death in resurrection. This is surely "good news of great joy!" (Luke 2:10).
Celebrate Christmas this year in His strength, in His peace, and in His joy. God make you mighty, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Lord, You are mighty and powerful. No matter what I face, I want to walk in Your might instead of my weakness. Help me to remember that Your Word says: "Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world" (1 John 4:4).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you need to be mighty in this Christmas season? Forgiveness? Grace? Understanding? Patience?
Is there something that is causing you to be fearful, discouraged, or upset? Pray about it right now and ask God for His strength to consume your weakness.
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From my heart to yours, may you have a blessed December and a mighty, merry Christmas! Be safe in your travels, quick to forgive, and generous in love.
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December 9, 2009
Don't Miss Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 (NIV) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son."
Friend To Friend
The Christmas rush is on! I know many of you are frantically searching for that perfect gift for someone special, wrapping presents, baking your famous sugar cookies or fudge, packing the car for a long trip and wrestling with overly excited children. Ho! Ho! Ho!
Right now - right where you are - stop. Take a deep breath and travel back with me to a time when there was no hope and no celebration, to the time before Christ was born. I simply cannot imagine a world without Jesus and yet I often live my life as if He does not even exist. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness floods my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness. Financial stress gives birth to worry, filling my mind with doubt and the proverbial question, "What if ...? Instead of turning to God, my source, I settle for a human answer when what I really need is a supernatural solution from our extraordinary God!
When I do cry out to God, He lovingly fills each black corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, He steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything. Yes, the presence of Jesus Christ changes everything! He could have come to us in many ways but He chose to interrupt the very ordinary with the most extraordinary! He could have chosen to be born in a palace. After all, He was a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger - a dirty, smelly barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to me and one of my most profound life lessons. I often wish that I had been there that holy night when Jesus was born but then He reminds me that I have my own manger, my own holy moment when God became a reality to me, and I worship Him for all He has done in my life since I met Him.
Every year I am reminded of the very heart of Christmas - Emanuel, God with us. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go - what we do - the smile we give the harried stranger - the patience we wear in the crowd of impatient shoppers - the love that prompts the secret gift - the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit.
Join me in this quest - to celebrate Him and His birth in everything we do. Have a birthday party for Jesus! Adopt a family in need! Reach out to the lonely! Look for Him in the crowd! Emanuel, God with us! Wow!
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. I celebrate Your birth, Your life, Your death and Your resurrection. And as I celebrate, Lord, help me to be "God with skin on" to those in need around me. Open my eyes and let me see them as You see them! I love You! Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Now It's Your Turn
Put your faith in action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season. Give a gift to someone you don't know.
Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner.
Go through your closet and give the clothes you don't wear to those who have no clothes.
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December 10, 2009
Prayer is a Two Way Street
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me" (John 10:27NIV).
Friend To Friend
I had been in Raleigh, North Carolina on a speaking engagement when we got the news that Hurricane Floyd was making his way up the coast. The ladies quickly said their goodbyes and I hopped in my car to make the three hour trip home. Already the rain was pelting my windshield and the trees were swaying in the gusty wind. A hurricane so far inland was quite unusual. Once I made it out of town and to the highway, I joined several thousand travelers trying to outrun and escape the storm. Men, women, and children as far as two hundred miles away were on the road evacuating the coastal areas.
During my adventure, God and I had plenty of time for conversation. He showed me that my journey home was much like many people's prayer lives. See, I was stuck in a long line of evacuation traffic. My side of the highway was clogged with panicky people trying to get as far away from the storm as possible.
However, on the other side of the highway, the lanes heading east, there was only the occasional brave traveler determined to get to his or her destination. I imagine that's how God sees His children pray. There's a looooooong line of people calling out for help - that would be the evacuation lane. And then there's the sparse few people listening to what God has to say - that would be those heading in the eastbound lane.
While prayer is a two way street, many of us spend far more time on the street directing our prayer to God for help than we do on the street receiving His direction. But I have learned that what God has to say to me is far more important than what I have to say to Him, and I need to be praying in both lanes - speaking and listening.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I just talk too much. Help me to spend more time listening to You when I pray. I'm going to make it short today, because now I'm going to simply listen...
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you find it difficult listening to God? If so, here's an idea.
Find a passage of Scripture to read (perhaps John 15).
Now read just a few verses or one verse at a time, pausing to ask God to speak to you.
As you meditate on the verses, what thoughts come to mind?
Pick a few verses to think on during the day. Note any new thoughts that come to mind regarding the verses.
I'd love to hear your comments. Just log onto www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or on facebook at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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Today's devotion was taken from Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. If you would like to learn more about how God speaks, barriers that impair our hearing, and bridges that help, then this is the book for you. It also includes a study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's Word.
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December 11, 2009
Caution
Bonnie Schulte
I hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend,"
Bonnie Schulte.
Today's Truth
LORD, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. Psalm 16:5-6 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
I placed the letter inside the mailbox and firmly closed the door. As I turned and headed down the country road for my daily walk, I was deep in thought about a friend's difficult situation. While I walked, I prayed that the note I had just mailed would encourage her.
Making my way around a bend in the road, my attention shifted as my eyes were drawn immediately to a neighbor's front yard. In preparation for hosting an annual August Oktoberfest, our neighbor prepared her yard to insure the safety of her guests. Yellow ribbon ran from tree to tree outlining the perimeter of her property. The line of tape clearly set apart the area in which partygoers could safely enjoy the evening's festivities.
CAUTION! CAUTION! CAUTION! In large, bold, black letters, this one repeated word on yellow ribbon marked the borders of the yard. Passing motorists were alerted to the fact something out of the ordinary was happening and they need to pay attention.
What a vivid illustration of Psalm 16.
I began to think about King David. He was appointed by God at a young age to become king over Israel. However, his rise to power was filled with danger, death threats, and disappointments. David was Jesse's youngest and bravest son. He tended sheep; killed both a lion and a bear with his bare hands; and was so musically gifted, he performed for the king. He fought and defeated the giant soldier Goliath, and he lived as a fugitive for many years as he was hunted by a jealous King Saul.
Yet the Lord's faithfulness to David, and David's to the Lord, brought him safely through it all. David cried out to God when he was in trouble, thanked God when he was delivered, and trusted God for his future. David knew that if he had a relationship with God, he had everything he needed for a contented and secure life.
"The LORD has assigned me...the boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places..." Perfectly capable and completely trustworthy, the Lord is good. Bolstered by the reminder and with renewed confidence, I picked up the pace and marched down the road with a determined stride.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for Your faithfulness to me and for Your amazing gift of life eternal through Your Son, Jesus Christ. I trust You and give You my life. Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses and note the reasons we can walk through this life with confidence.
Job 23:10
Psalm 119:140-143
Isaiah 41:10-13
Romans 8:38-39
Ephesians 2:8-9
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Leaving behind the familiar and facing the unknown is hard. Today's devotion was taken from Nomad Wife - Lessons Learned Unpacking Boxes. Grab a box and join Bonnie Schulte, as together with Jesus Christ, you pick up, pack up, and move on.
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December 14, 2009
Becoming More Fruitful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 1:2, NIV).
Friend To Friend
On a recent family visit to the beach, our room had a balcony that overlooked the swimming pool. As I sat on the balcony one morning, I watched as a maintenance man for the resort approached a palm tree and pulled a brown, life-less branch from the tropical tree. Oddly, before he pulled the dead branch, I hadn't even noticed it was there. After he pulled it, however, I noticed that the palm tree looked fresh and vibrant. Healthy. The pruning made such a difference!
Jesus spoke to His disciples and said, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples." John 15:1-8, NIV
The maintenance man at the resort didn't pull the branch to hurt the palm tree. He pruned it to increase its beauty, health and vibrancy. God does the same for us. He prunes His children to increase our beauty, health and vibrancy for our good and for His glory - to make us more useful to Him and more fruitful.
Are there any dead branches hanging on the tree of you?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for Your perfect love that longs for me to be fruitful and beautiful in You. Please remove any life-less branches in my life. As the psalmist prayed: "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How fruitful is your life?
Read John 15:1-17 and spend some time reflecting on God's plan for you to become more fruitful.
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It seems kind of weird that we should want to go through the pain of pruning, doesn't it? It reminds me a bit of the old work out saying, "No pain, no gain." When you allow the Lord to expose dead branches in your life and to strip them away, a simple, radiant beauty remains. You become a more vibrant reflection of Him and become better equipped to bear fruit. Trust Him, friend...no matter what or whom He may call you to give up.
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December 15, 2009
Greed: A Deadly Master
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions'" Luke 12:15 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
If we are not careful, greed can become a deadly master - especially during the Christmas season. Greed is serious business in God's eyes, reeking of idolatry and ulterior motives. Greed lies easily and fervently urges an already disobedient heart on toward sin. The true story is told of a self-made millionaire who had lived in New York City his entire life. Born and raised in a ghetto, he worked hard and achieved much. Anyone who knew this man would testify to the fact that he was generous - to a fault, some would say. One year, the man was disturbed by an attitude of greed that seemed to pervade the Christmas holiday season and everyone around him. Not one to condemn, the millionaire decided that since he had been given so much, it was up to him to do his part in combating greed and came up with an unusual plan. Wearing a disguise, this man stuffed his pockets with $100 dollar bills and set out for a walk on the streets of New York City. When he saw someone in need, he whipped out one of the bills, pressed it into that person's hands and with a "Merry Christmas", made his way down the street. "It was the most wonderful part of my holiday season," the man reported, and he has been doing it every since.
In 2 Corinthians 9:7, the apostle Paul writes, "Each one should give as you have decided in your heart to give. You should not be sad when you give, and you should not give because you feel forced to give. God loves the person who gives happily." Giving with joy is Kingdom giving! When we practice Kingdom giving, we are making eternal deposits "taking hold of real life" here on earth! If, however, our motive is wrong, our gift will be wrong and will not count in the Kingdom of God. Before you give, ask yourself, "What's in it for me?" If the answer is "nothing", then go ahead and give the gift. Choosing to examine heart motives will guard our hearts against greed, celebrating the commitment that "He is all I want".
Greed can be very stressful in that it is never satisfied and never at rest. There is always something more to be gained and someone else to outdo. Sheep are dumb enough to eat until they are sick. They simply do not know when to stop. A heart that is filled with greed behaves the same way.
Cantaloupe may very well be my favorite food. When it is in season, I stock up and always have some on hand. Last summer, on a particularly hot day, a lunch of cantaloupe sounded luscious...and it was. Afterwards, I was gone for several hours, running errands. When I walked back in the front door that afternoon, a foul stench nearly knocked me down, it was so strong. A dead animal was my first thought. A plumbing problem was my next. I began a room-to-room search that ended abruptly at the kitchen sink. Opening the cabinet underneath, I nearly gagged at the stench that slapped me in the face, making my eyes water. I instantly remembered that I had thrown the cantaloupe peels in the garbage before running errands and forgotten to take them to the outside garbage can as I usually did. The house reeked and the delicious cantaloupe was forgotten as I threw the peels away, lit every candle I could find and opened every window in an effort to eliminate the odor of rotting fruit. Nasty!
Greed acts the same way. It is the gangrene of the soul. If not quickly dealt with, greed will contaminate every emotion and create a foul stench in every part of life. "So get rid of all malicious behavior and deceit. Don't just pretend to be good! Be done with hypocrisy and jealousy and backstabbing" (1 Peter 2:1 NLT). Greed must be treated like garbage! Deliberately throw it away! Remove it from your life immediately! When the first hint of greed and jealousy comes, reject it! Get rid of it! Take it to the garbage! Choose against it! Fight it with Scripture and bombard it with prayer. Nail it to the cross and count it dead. "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me" (Galatians 2:20 NIV). Every motive in our heart must be nailed to the cross and considered dead. "Consider" is an accounting term and literally means to "reckon" or to "calculate". While we will never be free from wrong motives this side of Heaven, we can and must "reckon" those very human and very wrong motives to be dead and through God's power, allow them no power or place in life.
Greed is powerful and responsible for the downfall of so many. Money is a good servant but a poor master. Martin Luther once said, "God divided the hands into fingers so that money could slip through." One of the wealthiest men who ever lived was John D. Rockefeller. Following his death, a reporter interviewed Rockefeller's chief accountant and asked the pointed question, "How much did John D. leave? We know that he was very wealthy." Without hesitation, the accountant shot back, "Everything! He left everything!" Greed is a deadly master that is never satisfied.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is so easily filled with greed. It seems that the more I have, the more I want. Right now, I choose to focus on what I do have and to be contented. Help me see You in every opportunity to give this Christmas season and please, Lord, give me Your generous heart so that others can see You in me.
In Jesus' name, I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If I asked you to list your five most treasured possessions, what would they be?
Why are these things important to you?
Are these things tools or idols in your life? Explain the difference.
Which one of these things can you give away this year as an offering of sacrifice and praise to God?
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You have heard the familiar saying, "The most important things in life aren't things." The truth of those words is often swallowed up in the frantic rush of Christmas giving. Make this year different. Ask yourself what you can give that will really matter in the life of that friend or loved one. How will your gift help someone get through the New Year?
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December 16, 2009
1 Corinthians 13 Christmas Style
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love" (1 Corinthians 13:13 NIV).
Friend To Friend
With Christmas just around the corner, it is easy to get so busy with the cooking, decorating and shopping that we forget why we're doing all this in the first place. Sometimes, the very people we love get lost in the hustle and bustle of packed schedules, holiday parties, and Christmas musicals. This Christmas, let's keep our focus on Jesus and not forget to invite the honored guest to His own birthday celebration.
Today, I want to share a poem that I wrote a few years ago that helps me keep a proper perspective on Christmas.
1 Corinthians 13 Christmas Style
©By Sharon Jaynes
If I decorate my house perfectly with lovely plaid bows, strands of twinkling lights, and shiny glass balls, but do not show love to my family - I'm just another decorator.
If I slave away in the kitchen, baking dozens of Christmas cookies, preparing gourmet meals, and arranging a beautifully adorned table at mealtime, but do not show love to my family - I'm just another cook.
If I work at the soup kitchen, carol in the nursing home, and give all that I have to charity, but do not show love to my family - it profits me nothing.
If I trim the spruce with shimmering angels and crocheted snowflakes, attend a myriad of holiday parties, and sing in the choir's cantata but do not focus on Christ, I have missed the point.
Love stops the cooking to hug the child.
Love sets aside the decorating to kiss the husband.
Love is kind, though harried and tired.
Love doesn't envy another home that has coordinated Christmas china and table linens.
Love doesn't yell at the kids to get out of your way.
Love doesn't give only to those who are able to give in return, but rejoices in giving to those who can't.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
Love never fails. Video games will break; pearl necklaces will be lost; golf clubs will rust. But giving the gift of love will endure.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for sending your Son, Jesus, that starry night in Bethlehem. Like the Shepherds, I am still amazed at Your great love. May I not lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas, but celebrate Jesus' birthday with joy!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What are some ways that you can make sure to love your family well this holiday season?
Are there any activities that you need to eliminate from your busy schedule to alleviate over-commitment? Is your family being neglected because of a hectic Christmas schedule?
If that question wasn't painful enough, here's another one. Is Jesus being neglected as you prepare for His birthday? Ouch! I just stomped on my own toe!
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It is hard not to get so caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity that we lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and holiday inspiration.
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December 17, 2009
Holding Fast to the Faithful One
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed."
2 Corinthians 4:7-9
Friend To Friend
My husband and I are in a waiting period. His company has recently gone through a merger and is collapsing positions and territories, which leaves his employment in jeopardy. We'll know soon if Brad will be looking for another job. In the mean time, God is bidding me to trust Him.
Choosing to trust God is so daily, isn't it? When I only look at the "what-ifs" of this situation - the possible unemployment, the grueling process of job hunting, the financial strain and the uncertainty of the economy - my faith and God-confidence shakes and wanes. Fear and doubt knock on my heart, suitcases in hand, wanting to move in and take up residence. On the other hand, when I fix my eyes on God, look at His character and at the ways He has brought us through hard times in the past, my faith is strengthened. Courage, confidence and joy knock on my heart! They're much better residents!
The Old Testament book of Ruth features the heart-warming story of Ruth and Naomi: two women who faced difficult circumstances and an uncertain future. Following the death of her husband and sons, Naomi decided to move back to her homeland of Israel. Though she freed her daughters-in-law to stay in their home country of Moab and re-marry, Ruth refused to leave Naomi's side.
Determined and loyal, Ruth held tightly to the woman she loved deeply. Though our natural tendency in hard times is often to try to go it alone, I've learned from Ruth, and from my own experience, that in turbulent times it's vital that we hold fast to our faithful God and to the ones we love.
Not only did Ruth cling to Naomi, she held tight to Naomi's God, the One true God of Israel.
"Look," said Naomi, "your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her."
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her" (vv. 15-18).
God breathed hope into the souls of Naomi and Ruth through their kinsman-redeemer, Boaz. The book of Ruth goes on to tell a fascinating story of how God lovingly cared for and blessed Naomi as He used the faithful friendship and kindness of Ruth to "renew her life and sustain her" (4:15). She went back to Bethlehem as a broken, hopeless widow and was restored by the loving hand of God.
Like Naomi, when I experience difficult times - like the one Brad and I are facing now - I must choose to trust God. Some days I choose well. Some days I don't. I've found that my courage to trust is bolstered by playing praise music, meditating on God's goodness, reading Scripture, and praying. Those things collectively renew my mind and strengthen my faith.
No matter what challenges you face today, take comfort that God knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Hold fast to the faithful One. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God's ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He's powerful, and He's able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior, you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You know exactly where I am right now and You know the circumstance of my life. Please give me the courage to be gracious in my relationships, and help me to trust You today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the book of Ruth. (It's only 4 chapters!)
Look for the ways that Ruth and Naomi held fast to God and to each other through trying circumstances.
List three difficult times that God has brought you through.
Examine your heart to see if there is any fear or doubt hanging around.
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December 18, 2009
Hark! The Herald Angels Sing!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Suddenly a great company of heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, 'Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom His favor rests'" (Luke 2:13-14 NIV)
Friend To Friend
When my son was four-years-old, I overheard him singing "O Holy Night" in his best vibrato voice. I chuckled as I heard him bellow, "Long lay the world in sin and ever whining!" Sin and error pining wasn't in his vocabulary, but he definitely understood the concept of ever whining.
The words to Christmas carols explain the gospel to many unsuspecting listeners. I can still remember the exhilaration I felt hearing Joy to the world the Lord has come being sung over the intercom of a department store. A preacher on a soapbox would have been offensive; however, the sweet music on the intercom was singing the gospel, with shoppers humming along.
During the holiday season, savor the richness of carols and use them for your own personal or family devotional times.
For example, let's look at the words to Hark! The Herald Angels Sing.
Did you ever wonder why the angels were so excited? The next line gives us a hint. "Glory to the newborn King." They were excited because a new king was born! Check out all those exclamation marks!
The next line says "Peace on earth and mercy mild, God and sinners reconciled." Some people are not too crazy about the word "sinner." But originally it was an archery term that meant the distance between the bull's eye and where the arrow landed on the target. Therefore, "sin" meant "to miss the perfect mark." And it still means that today. Sin means to miss the mark of God's perfection. The Bible tells us that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. And because of that sin, we are separated from God. We didn't become a sinner the first time we did something wrong. We were born that way...but the good news is that God didn't leave us that way.
The first verse of Hark the Herald Angels Sing tells us WHY Jesus came - to reconcile or join us back together with God. It also tells us TO WHOM Jesus came - "to all nations." No wonder the angels were so excited!
Verse two tells us WHO Jesus is. Can you list all the descriptions of Jesus found in verse two? He is adored in heaven. He is the everlasting Lord. He is the offspring of a Virgin's womb. He is God with flesh and bones. He is Deity. He is Emmanuel, which means, God with us.
Verse three tells us HOW the Christ child made eternal life available to all mankind. He laid aside His glorious heavenly position, came to earth as a man, and gave His life so that we could experience a second birth- a spiritual birth- and live eternally in heaven.
This one Christmas carol shows WHY Jesus came, FOR WHOM He came, WHO He was, and HOW He would accomplish His purposes to reconcile us with the Father. All that is packed into one Christmas carol! Now pick out another carol and see what treasures are tucked inside.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, when I read the words to Hark the Herald Angels Sing, I understand why there are so many exclamation marks. I understand why the angels were so excited. They had been waiting since the fall of man for Your marvelous plan of redemption to be set in motion. Help me never forget Your amazing gift!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Did you know all that theology was packed inside Hark the Herald Angels Sing? Now, pick another favorite Christmas Carol from a hymnal, or write down the words from memory, and see what you can learn about Jesus and His birth.
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It is hard not to get so caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity that we lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and holiday inspiration.
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December 21, 2009
Who do you trust?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Timothy 6:17 "Tell those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which will soon be gone. But their trust should be in the living God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment."
Friend To Friend
The subject of giving always seems to make some people a little nervous - especially in church - and certainly during the month of December. My husband is the Lead Teaching Pastor at Westside Family Church in Lenexa, Kansas and, in my totally objective opinion, a truly gifted Bible teacher. Dan teaches on the subject of tithing and giving only when it comes up in Scripture. It came up this week. "You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving" he said. I totally agree.
The Old Testament clearly teaches the principle of tithing, of giving back 10% of what we earn and have to God, while the New Testament takes giving a step further and encourages us to give sacrificially - beyond our tithe. Dan also said, "You can't be a serious Christ follower without being a serious giver." I had to think about that statement for a minute. When I held it up against God's Word, it stood firm. Then why do so few people who proclaim to be serious Christ followers get excited about sacrificial giving?
I have to start with my own heart and realize that greed certainly plays a part in my attitude toward giving but I also think we don't want to give because we are afraid - afraid that God won't come through but that money will. I know it sounds ridiculous when put into words, but it is true. We are afraid to trust God - who is unseen - because it seems much easier and more logical to trust money - which is seen. In other words, many of us have come to view and trust money as our Provider. After all, when you hand someone money, you usually get something you need or want in return - clothes, food, a car, electricity or the opportunity to live in a house. Fear then asks the question, "But what would you do without money?"
We live in a "stuff" driven world where it doesn't matter what we have - it is never enough. We are told that the more things we have, the more successful we are and the happier we will be.
Howard Hendricks is a great Bible teacher. He and his wife were having dinner with a very wealthy but humble man from a prestigious family. Dr. Hendricks asked the young man, "How did you grow up in such wealth and not be consumed by materialism?" The man replied, "My parents taught us that money is either an idol or a tool. It depends on how we use it and the place we give it in our lives."
Steve Brown, author and Bible teacher writes: "The secret of a happy life is not to get what you want but to live with what you've got. Most of us spend our lives concentrating on what we don't have instead of thanking God for what we do have. Then we wake up, our life is over and we missed the beauty of the present."
Let me challenge you this Christmas season to trust God and give sacrificially. Step through your fear and beyond what you can see - into simple faith, choosing to believe that God is your Provider and will meet every need of your life even though you can't see how. He will not only meet your needs but He will pour out His blessings on your life because you gave. The more you choose to give, the more you will receive.
Luke 6:38 "Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
While it is true that we cannot "out-give" God, it is just as true that we can find a lot of joy in trying.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the greed in my heart. I confess that greed as sin and choose against it. Help me to focus on giving, Lord. Teach me what sacrificial giving is all about and then help me practice sacrificial giving this Christmas and every day of 2010. May every gift I give honor and please You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 13:5 "Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. God has said, "I will never leave you; I will never forget you." Examine your level of contentment in light of this verse.
Are you willing to give a sacrificial gift to someone in need? Are you willing to give it secretly? Make a plan to do so this week.
Ask and honestly answer the question, "Who or what do I see as my Provider?"
What change(s) do you need to make in order to be a serious follower of God in 2010?
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Christmas Day is just a few days away. Have you decided what you are giving Jesus this year? All He wants is you, girlfriend. I love this poem by Christian Rossetti.
My Gift
What can I give Him,
Poor as I am?
If I were a shepherd
I would give Him a lamb.
If I were a wise man,
I would do my part.
But what can I give Him?
I will give Him my heart.
I pray that this week is a time of preparation in your heart to receive Jesus Christ as a baby who came to earth, our Savior on the cross, Victor over death and our coming King! Merry Christmas!
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December 22, 2009
The Day I Became a Sheep
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, "Let's go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about." Luke 2:15 NIV
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Today I want to share with you a story that I wrote a few years ago. In it, I tried to imagine what it would have been like to be one of the shepherds that visited Jesus at His birth. For just a moment, I want you to pretend that you are reading a letter that one of the shepherds wrote to his brother, Mathias.
Dear Mathias:
As I am writing you this letter, my hand is still a bit shaky. I'm not sure it will ever stop. But I must tell you about an incredible experience that happened to Matthew, Simeon, Levi, and me, two weeks ago. As usual, we were watching our sheep on a hillside east of Bethlehem. I was on the night watch and the others were sleeping. There was something unusual about the sky that night. I can't explain it, really. Like heat reflecting off the desert sand, the stars seemed to be jockeying into place, fidgeting and restless in their usual stayed positions. Diamonds danced on the inky backdrop rather than standing sure and still. Even the sheep seemed to notice the heavenly mirage.
Then it happened. As if a curtain was pulled back, I saw what was stirring the stars....angels! Yes, angels, angels, everywhere. Immediately, the others awoke to the celestial lights, flapping of wings and the resonation of indistinguishable singing.
At first, only one spoke. "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."
Then, the curtain was drawn back even more and the sky was filled with angels! "Glory to God in the highest!" they sang, "and on earth peace to men on whom His favor rests."
The flapping of their wings stirred the air, whipped our hair, and blew our tunics in all directions. Amazingly, the sheep were calm during this majestic occurrence. It was almost as if this were nothing unusual happening. Perhaps this was not the first time they had seen an angel. Who knows? We, on the other hand, were awestruck. Tears streamed down our dusty cheeks. We fell to our knees, marveling at the beauty of heaven displayed before us.
Then quietly and slowly, the curtain returned and the angels were no more. We rose to our feet and began to run in the direction of Bethlehem to see this babe. How did we know where to go?
Mathias, the only way I know how to explain it is to think of my relationship to my sheep. When I am grazing in a field with several of my friends and their flocks, our sheep get all mixed together. Sometimes five different flocks can be mingled together at one time. But as soon as I call to my sheep, they separate from the others and follow me home. They know my voice. Each and every one of them can distinguish the voice of their shepherd and they know whom to follow.
That's how it was that night. It was as if a shepherd had called my name. I knew his voice and he called me out from among all the rest.
Where did we go? To a palace? To a temple? To a stately manor? No, we went to a stable. But isn't that where a shepherd would call his sheep? To a stable?
What did we see? A burning bush like our ancestor Moses? Writing on the wall? A vision? No, we saw a baby, wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger - just like the angel had said. He didn't speak, but somehow he called our names. He is the Christ, Mathias. The one of which the prophets spoke.
Do you remember the prophet Isaiah's words? "He tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young." When I saw the babe (who later his parents told me was named Jesus,) I knew this was the one the prophet spoke of. And didn't the prophet Micah say the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem? It all makes sense to me now, and yet it is still a mystery.
Why me? Why did God choose to send the angels to announce the Savior's birth to me - a lowly shepherd? I don't know the answer to that, my friend. All I know is that one starry night, I was a shepherd. And then God spoke my name and I became a sheep. And now, my friend, God is calling your name as well. I don't know what will become of this baby in the manger, but I do know this...the world will never be the same again - nor will I.
Shalom,
Your brother, the sheep.
©Sharon Jaynes
The Shepherd became a Sheep
By Sharon Jaynes
The angels appeared and called to me
"Be not afraid, dear one.
For you are now a lowly sheep
For you God sent His Son."
"Go to the babe and see him there
We will lead the way.
The shepherd has chosen you - a sheep
To celebrate this day."
We ran and saw the baby there
I'll never be the same.
He raised his eyes, said not a word,
And yet he spoke my name.
Years have passed and now I know
This babe became a man.
He lived and died and rose again
And now I understand.
"Follow me," Jesus said,
"And I will lead the way."
"My sheep listen, know my voice
And with me they will stay."
I was a shepherd, to be sure.
My sheep slept at my feet.
But on that night the babe was born,
I became a sheep.
©Sharon Jaynes
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I am so glad that you sent the angels to common man to proclaim the Savior's birth to lowly shepherds. And I am so glad that you looked down from heaven and chose to announce the Savior's birth to a common girl - me. Thank you for sending a Shepherd for me - one of Your sheep.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The shepherds were not the only ones excited about Jesus' birth. Why not try your hand at some creative writing. Imagine that you are one of the wise men (wise women). Try writing a letter to one of your family members after visiting Jesus and delivering your gift.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 23, 2009
Operation Shoebox
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:17 (NIV) "Every good action and every perfect gift is from God. These good gifts come down from the Creator of the sun, moon, and stars, who does not change like their shifting shadows."
Friend To Friend
Before you hit the malls and plunge into the last days of shopping frenzy, set aside some time to pray, asking God to direct your shopping trip and give you insight as you purchase each gift. Interesting thought, isn't it? I have to admit that I tend to plan, think and worry about Christmas gifts more than I pray about them. However, I recently heard a true story that has changed my perspective on Christmas giving.
Each Christmas, Operation Shoebox collects and sends over eight million shoeboxes stuffed with small gifts such as candy, school supplies, small toys, toothbrushes, soap, and shampoo to children across the world. In Mexico, hundreds of boys and girls gathered at the church in a small village, excitedly anticipating the arrival of their precious shoeboxes.
Delightful chaos erupted as bulging shoeboxes, wrapped in brightly colored paper and ribbon were passed into the small, eager hands of each child. Wrapping paper was hurriedly ripped into pieces and tossed aside, a smile spreading across the face of each child as their long awaited Christmas treasures were revealed.
However, one little boy dissolved into tears as he lifted the lid of his box and peered inside to see what he had received for Christmas this year. One of the Operation Shoebox volunteers spotted the little boy and hurriedly made his way across the church to see what the problem could possibly be. With the help of an interpreter, the volunteer asked the now sobbing little boy, "What is wrong? What is in your box?" With tears streaming down his face, the little boy said, "Socks!" The worker instantly understood and assured the little boy that he could trade his box of socks for another box that might have crayons or a piece of candy in it. Alarm spread across the face of the child as he vigorously shook his head and quickly jerked the box away from the now somewhat confused worker.
Clutching the shoebox to his chest, the boy began sobbing out an explanation to the interpreter who listened for a few moments and then, with tears spilling out of his own eyes, turned to the volunteer and said, "You won't believe this!" Taking a deep, steadying breath, the interpreter explained, "This little boy has a rare skin condition with which he was born. It seems to affect his feet more than any other part of his body. The doctors have tried various medications and treatments but finally told the little boy that nothing will work and his feet will never heal unless he begins wearing cotton socks. His parents cannot even afford food for this boy; much less provide socks for their son. So, all year long, he has been praying for socks."
Have you ever considered the idea that your Christmas gift may very well be an answer to someone's prayer? I have to admit that I have rarely, if ever, made a Christmas gift list with that criterion in mind. Always in a hurry, my first thought is usually how to find the greatest deal at the lowest price in the shortest amount of time with the least amount of effort and hassle at the first store I enter - and hope the person likes it - because that is what he or she is going to get. Ah, yes. That is certainly the heart of God, isn't it?
Join me in making this Christmas season different. Do not allow television ads, catalogues or shopping fliers dictate the gifts you give this year. Turn your Christmas list into a prayer list and you may very well end up giving an "operation shoebox" gift to someone you love.
Let's Pray
Father, I so want to make this Christmas all about You. I pray that the gifts I give this year will be encouraging and truly helpful and not just items checked off of a list or obligations that have been met. Please direct my thoughts, my heart and my shopping trips. Help me to spend wisely, in a way that pleases and honors You. Give me Your heart, Lord, and remind me that Christmas really is all about You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Carefully make your Christmas list for this year.
Pray for each person on that list, asking God to give them peace and joy this holiday season.
Consider making gifts instead of buying them.
Give something of special value to you to someone on your list.
Ask God to bless each gift and each recipient.
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Wow! To think that God can and does use us to meet the needs of people across the world is just amazing and humbling to me! Life is filled with miracles like the shoebox - many of which we won't know anything about this side of Heaven. But we can put feet to our prayers and give a gift in Jesus' name! Look around, girlfriend. Who needs you this Christmas?
It is not too late to enroll a friend in Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Mary kicks off 2010 with a new series, "If You Aim at Nothing ... You Will Hit It!" Don't miss this exciting study of how to set meaningful and practical life goals for the New Year. And now you can connect with Mary on FACEBOOK!
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December 24, 2009
Silent Night
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace" (Isaiah 9:6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Tomorrow is Christmas Day. I imagine if you're like most of us, you are still scurrying about with last minute Christmas preparations. What do you think the angels were doing on that first Christmas Eve? Do you think the heavenly host had one last choir practice before their concert on the hillside? Do you think God was making sure that everyone was in their proper places on the kingdom stage before the curtain rose to begin the grandest drama of all time? Do you think the Holy Spirit was hovering low over the entire world, stirring the hearts of men and women to receive the greatest gift of all?
I'm not sure what was happening in the heavenly realm the night before Jesus was born. But I do know that my heart is aglow with the joy that tomorrow we celebrate Jesus' birth once again.
Perhaps you have sung the words to Christmas carols hundreds of times in your life. But today, I encourage you to pause and read the words to one of my favorites as if you are seeing them for the first time. Read slowly. Ponder the words. "Glories stream from heaven afar"...picture it. "With the dawn of redeeming grace"...savor it. "Christ the Savior it born"...celebrate it.
Silent night, holy night
All is calm all is bright
'Round yon virgin Mother and Child
Holy infant so tender and mild
Sleep in heavenly peace
Sleep in heavenly peace
Silent night, holy night,
Shepherds quake at the sight.
Glories stream from heaven afar,
Heavenly hosts sing Alleluia;
Christ the Savior is born
Christ the Savior is born
Silent night, holy night,
Son of God, love's pure light.
Radiant beams from Thy holy face,
With the dawn of redeeming grace,
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, My heart quietly waits in anticipation of the grand celebration that tomorrow brings. Thank you for the gift of Your Son. Thank You for redeeming grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
The Girlfriends in God, Mary, Sharon, and Gwen, pray that you will have a joy-filled Christmas Day celebrating the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ.
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December 25, 2009
Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:8-12 "Now there were in the same country shepherds living out in the fields, keeping watch over their flock by night. And behold, an angel of the Lord stood before them, and the glory of the lord shone around them, and they were greatly afraid. Then the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people. For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger" (NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday, dear Jesus!
Happy Birthday to You!
Christmas is the birthday of Jesus Christ! I have always wondered why we typically celebrate His birth by giving gifts to everyone but Him. What gifts does He want from us? What gifts are fit for the King? To answer that question let's go back to that first Christmas and see what gifts He received that holy night.
The gift of trust
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight."
Mary, the mother of Jesus Christ, was a teenager, probably fourteen or fifteen years old, engaged to Joseph when an angel appeared to her with the startling message that she would have a baby, a son named Jesus. Since she was still a virgin she did not fully understand the message but she knew the One who had sent it - and that was enough. Trust is a gift fit for the King.
The gift of obedience
John 14:15 "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
Joseph's engagement to Mary was legally binding. Imagine his shock and confusion when he learned that Mary was pregnant. Knowing that he could not possibly be the baby's father, Joseph's first reaction was to divorce Mary quietly. An angel from God appeared and told Joseph to "keep her but do not sleep with her!" Now Joseph's response could have been many things but he chose to respond in obedience. A small child riding in the car wanted to stand in the front seat by his father. The dad explained the importance of a seat belt and told the little boy to sit down. The boy refused, crossing his little arms in defiance. Finally, the father physically sat his son down and buckled him into the seat, bragging on the little boy for his obedience. With a glare, his son said, "I may be sitting down on the outside but I'm still standing up on the inside." Obedience is an active and deliberate choice to do what God wants us to do. Obedience is not just an outward motion - it is also an inward attitude - and a gift fit for the King.
The gift of praise
Psalm 50:6 "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord."
When the shepherds heard the angels' news, they went to see Jesus for themselves. After they saw the baby, they left praising God! Anytime we are in the presence of God, praise will result. Praise is also a continual choice that we make again and again until it becomes a habit. Don't let anyone or any circumstance keep you from praising God! Praise keeps us kneeling before the manger and is a gift fit for the King."
The gift of sacrifice
Romans 12:1 "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship."
The Wise Men came; bringing gifts that required sacrifice because they knew that true worship always involves sacrifice. Gold, a precious metal, Incense, a rare and expensive product used in worship and Myrrh, an expensive perfume were the gifts they brought to Jesus. Sacrifice goes beyond what is required or expected. The best gift - the most expensive and extravagant gift should go to the one whose birthday we celebrate. Gifts of trust, obedience, praise and sacrifice please God and are gifts fit for the King.
In other words, the best gift that we can give God at Christmas is US! May the words of this children's song be the prayer of our hearts this Christmas Day:
"I'm gonna wrap up myself for Christmas
And tie me with a big red bow.
That's what I'm giving to Jesus.
It's a present He'll like I know."
Merry Christmas!
Let's Pray
Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, everything I hope to be. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have a birthday party for Jesus today. Bake a cake, sing "Happy Birthday" and worship Him by surrendering to His plan and provision for your life.
Leave one Christmas decoration out this year as a reminder of His birth and what His presence means every single day.
Consider the following questions:
What is the meaning of Christmas in my life?
How can I lead my family to celebrate the birth of Jesus?
What has been the most meaningful part of this Christmas holiday? Why?
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Sharon, Gwen and I pray that today is a true celebration of Jesus Christ in your life. Carve out time today to spend alone with Him. Praise and worship Him for who He is, Lord, King, Father and Shepherd. He is Friend of the wounded heart and the Great Physician. He is our Everything and He is Emmanuel - God with us. Merry Christmas!
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December 28, 2009
Emergency! Emergency!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always" (Psalm 105:4NIV).
Friend To Friend
My husband, Steve, graduated from dental school in 1981. For the first two years, I was his only employee: his dental hygienist, dental assistant, receptionist, and insurance clerk. On the days that I was not helping him, I worked for another dentist in town. I was so exhausted most of the time that our joke became, "Sharon works six days a week and cries on the seventh."
One thing that amazed me, in starting a new practice, was all the emergency phone calls that Steve received on nights and weekends. I usually answered the phone and asked the caller several questions, one of which was, "Mrs. Jones, how long have you been having this problem?" Invariably the patient would say, "three days," "two weeks," "a month." I always thought, "So why did you wait until Saturday to call?" Of course, being the sweet person that I am, I never said that.
One night the phone rang at about 2:00 a.m. I groggily picked up the phone and managed a weak, "Hello."
"Hello," the woman on the other end stated. "My son is having a terrible toothache. Is the doctor in?"
Where did she think he would be, other than "in" at 2:00 in the morning? "Yes ma'am, he is. How long has this tooth been bothering your son?"
"Oh, I'd say for about two weeks," she answered.
So why did you wait until now to call (thought, not said, of course). I spoke with this mother for a few more minutes. Something about this call signaled a red flag in my mind. Then I asked, "Ma'am, how old is your son?"
"Twenty-seven," She answered. "My son is twenty-seven-years- old."
I was so shocked that I quickly sat up in the bed, accidentally jerking the phone cord out of the wall, and disconnecting the caller. She did not call back. I had envisioned a distraught mother with a crying five year old. But twenty-seven? Oh my.
I laid back down complaining and grumbling. "Lord, why is it that people won't go to the doctor regularly but only want help on demand when they have an emergency?"
When I got quiet enough to listen, I heard God's still small voice whisper to my heart - "Now you know how I feel."
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I am so sorry that I tend to come to You only when I have an emergency. I know that You long for me to come to You every day simply to tell you how much I love You and how thankful I am for all You do for me. Today, I want to say just that...I love You. Thank You for Your loving kindness toward me, Your little child.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope you laughed at today's devotion...at least cracked a smile. Doesn't God have a wonderful sense of humor? Now let's think about the lessons learned.
Do you tend to pray more often when you are in need?
If you are a parent, how would you feel if your child only talked to you when he or she needed something?
As a parent, what sort of conversations do you long for? What does your heart good?
Now, what do you think Your Heavenly Father longs to hear from you?
I always love to hear your thoughts. Come by for a visit at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. If you would like to make hearing from God a daily experience in your life, then this book will sharpen your spiritual ears!
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December 29, 2009
Let me think about it!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 4:23 (ICB) "Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life."
Friend To Friend
I just love going through airport security where I am required to show my driver's license to several hundred security personnel. My bags are rammed through an x-ray machine and I repeatedly have to answer the same set of questions about the contents of every bag. If you fly at all, you know the drill. "Are these your bags? Have they been in your possession at all times? Has anyone given you anything to carry on the plane? Please jump through this fiery hoop, prepare for a strip search and roll up your sleeve. Oh, and we will need a blood sample." Well, I may have added a question or two, but it seems like a ridiculous and necessary ordeal ... until I stop and remember that the security check is a life-saving process for my good and for the safety of every person on my plane. We should have this same attitude about our thoughts.
In 2 Corinthians 10:5 (ICB), Paul instructs us to "capture every thought and make it give up and obey Christ." Capturing thoughts is an obedient and powerful tactic of spiritual warfare, taking hold of wrong thinking and wrestling it into a disciplined submission. The Word of God is the filter through which every thought should pass. When those old, false mental tapes begin to play, dismiss them with Scripture. When temptation comes or a crisis looms, lean on His truth. We can't use the Word of God unless it is hidden in our heart.
Years ago, we moved into a great house with a huge back yard, which our children immediately proclaimed as "the perfect spot for a trampoline." Since they had worked so hard helping us move, we rewarded them by buying the trampoline they had wanted for so long. As we unpacked and assembled the trampoline, I also unpacked memories from my college years.
One of my P.E. courses included six weeks of instruction on the trampoline. My class couldn't wait to get started! However, before anyone set foot on that trampoline, the professor spent several class periods going over the safety rules. We didn't need rules! How hard could it be? You get on the thing and jump! Not so, according to our teacher.
With great persistence, she detailed rule after rule, especially the one about making sure you "lead your body with your head" - or something like that - I really wasn't listening. She persisted, even though it was obvious that we were ready for her to be quiet, move out of the way and let us jump. I guess she thought desperate measures were called for as she began sharing every injury of every student in every class she had ever taught over the years - injuries that happened, she said, because the students were impatient and ignored the rules.
Finally, the teacher ended the class by saying, "Good gymnasts know that where their head goes, the rest of their body will eventually follow." To this day, every time I see a trampoline, those words pop into my mind. And they are just as true when applied to our thoughts.
In the war with temptation and sin, our greatest battlefield is the mind. We are constantly at war for its control. To live right, must think right. Proverbs 23:7 (NASB) says it well, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." Everything we do or say originates with a single thought. Filling our minds with truth will fill our lives with truth. Isaiah says "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, whose thoughts are fixed on You." (Isaiah 26:3 NLT) In this verse, fixed" literally means "loyal or faithful" and refers to the same kind of faithfulness found in marriage. In order to discipline and guard our thoughts, we must make the commitment of being married to the truth of God.
If, however, our minds are not filled with truth, the enemy will pollute them with lies. Polluted minds produce polluted lives but mind pollution can only happen with our permission. I am amazed at how many of us rarely have a fresh word from God or a new truth found in a daily quiet time with Him. God's Word is a powerful purification system for the mind, reprogramming and training thoughts to line up according to God's standards. Depositing God's Word into the mind results in a holy discernment and God-given strength to recognize and turn away from sin. It is the idea of placing a sentry or guard at the entrance of the mind, giving him the authority to determine what does or does not come in. We are quick to give the custody of our mind away to lesser things, to unworthy goals or desires and thoughts, to sin. Understand that if it is going on in the mind, it is reality and often the first step toward the edge of a very dangerous cliff.
The story is told of an eagle perched on a block of ice just above Niagara Falls. As the swift current carried the ice and the great eagle closer to the edge of the falls, the eagle ignored the warning cries of other birds and animals. "I have great and powerful wings," he boasted. "I can fly from my perch at any time. I can handle it." Suddenly the edge of the falls was only a few feet away, the torrent of water carrying the block of ice over the powerful cascade. The eagle spread his massive wings to mount up over the impending doom only to discover that it was too late. His claws were frozen to the cake of ice. Sin is like that.
When we allow our minds to "perch" on sinful thought patterns, we entertain destruction. Our arrogance blinds us to the ramifications of sinful behavior and soon, we find ourselves on the brink of disaster, wondering how we got there. How many lives are destroyed by a habit that began with one wrong thought? Have you allowed destructive thoughts to rule your life? No more! Right now, choose God's truth over Satan's lies. Get God's Word into your mind ... and think about it!
Let's Pray
Father, as this New Year begins, I want to honor You with my thoughts, attitudes and behavior. Right now, I choose to put Your truths into my mind by reading and memorizing Scripture more consistently. Help me to see those things that create negative and destructive thoughts and then give me the strength to eliminate each one. Thank You for the power of the Bible. Help me to plug it into my mind and life today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize the following verses:
Isaiah 26:3
Proverbs 23:7
2 Corinthians 10:5
When a negative or destructive thought comes to mind, dismiss it by saying one of these verses aloud.
Ask God to make you more aware of thoughts that do not honor and please Him.
Identify and eliminate any sources of unworthy thoughts (television shows, movies, books, conversations)
Ask your family to hold you accountable. Give them permission to correct you when your words are destructive. Then correct the thought that led to those negative words.
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I know. Retraining our thought life is one of the most challenging parts of the journey for me. I can think one wrong thought and before I know it, I am overwhelmed by darkness, despair, anger and just plain destructive thoughts! I am convinced that the habit of reading and memorizing Scripture is our greatest weapon in the battle for the mind.
Need help in developing the habit of a daily time in the Word of God and in prayer? We all do, girlfriend! Mary's weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, may be the solution for you. Take a look at the topics for 2010. Remember, God's Word is the secret to a life of victory and power!
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December 30, 2009
Held By Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." Luke 2:19 (NIV)
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Have you ever wanted to travel back in time to be an eyewitness of the celestial celebration that took place in Bethlehem the night that Jesus was born? Now, I am quite particular about fashion, but I'd even consider donning shepherd garb and hanging out with a few sheep for that opportunity! To see angels fill the sky, to hear the voice of God through the cries of a baby. To catch a glimpse of the brilliant Star of David, and to satisfy my curiosity as to what exactly a host of heavenly angels sounds like.
Oh, and to talk to Mary! Wouldn't that be amazing to hear what she was thinking as she witnessed, and took part in the greatest miracle ever known to man? This baby she gave birth to was God made flesh, a true bundle of love. What do you think she treasured in her heart as she took it all in? I'm struck by this thought: As she held the Hope of the world, the Hope of the world was also holding her. Ponder that!
The baby born in a barn that holy night long ago is the Hope of the world - the Grace that saves us - the Love that heals us. Jesus is Hope that changes our worthless into precious, our guilty to forgiven, our hungry into satisfied, and our empty into full. His presence is inescapable. We cannot flee from His stubborn grip. The psalmist, David said: "If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast" (Psalm 139:8-10).
The Bible tells us in the New Testament that Jesus Christ sits at the right hand of God, the Father in heaven. God's Word clearly shows us that Jesus "holds us fast." Relish that thought. The Hope that holds us is Jesus Christ. We are held by Hope.
In the Old Testament, God told Joshua that He would "never leave or forsake" him (Joshua 1:5). God says the same to us. He will never leave us or forsake us; no matter the circumstances, not matter the diagnoses, no matter the financial struggle. Our faithful LORD is the same yesterday, today, and forever. We can rest assured that in everything, we are held by Hope.
After His resurrection and before His ascension into heaven, Jesus said, "Surely, I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). A Bible-teaching girlfriend of mine (Not to drop any names ... cough ... Mary Southerland) often reminds her audiences that the word "always" actually means ... drum roll please ... "always." He is always with us. Always loving us. Always wanting us to find comfort, refuge, joy and satisfaction in Him.
As a New Year dawns, let's be mindful of God's promise that we are never alone. Just like the shepherds received the headline news of Jesus' birth from singing angels so long ago, receive this glad tiding of great joy today: If you are in Christ, then you are held by Hope.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are more wonderful. Thank You for sending Jesus, my Hope, to forgive me, to love me, and to restore me to Your heart. I join the psalmist today in praying, "Sustain me according to Your promise, and I will live; do not let my hopes be dashed. Uphold me, and I will be delivered" (Psalm 119:116-117a). I'm leaning into Your heavenly hug today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
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Friend, I know that as sweet as Christmas is, it will be hard for many of you this year. Pain is no respecter of persons, and loneliness can find us in a crowded room. I pray that you will find comfort in knowing that - whether you feel it or not - you are being held by the loving God of the universe.
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December 31, 2009
He's Coming Again!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Blow a trumpet in Zion, and sound an alarm on my holy mountain. Let all the inhabitants of the earth tremble, for the day of the Lord is coming, surely it is near" (Joel 2:1 NIV)
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In just a few days, you will most likely be taking down those Christmas decorations and packing them up until next year...when you will be pulling them out and decorating all over again! Yes, Christmas is coming again...unless Jesus comes back before then.
This year, as you pack away those tinseled treasures, I want you to think about this: The babe who was born in a manger, who lived a perfect sinless life, who died on the cross and rose again so that you and I can have eternal life...He's coming again! Only next time he will not come as a babe in a manger, but as a reigning King.
John saw Jesus as He will appear when he returns, dressed in a robe reaching down to his feet and with a golden sash around his chest. His head and hair were white like wool, as white as snow, and his eyes were like blazing fire. His feet were like bronze glowing in a furnace and his voice was like the sound of rushing waters" Revelation 1:12-16.
And He has promised that He will come again to reign in Zion forever. When that day occurs, we will have eternal "peace on earth."
Listen to what the prophet Isaiah wrote about those final days.
Now it will come about that in the last days, the mountain of the house of the Lord will be established as the chief of the mountains, and will be raised above the hills; and all the nations will stream to it. And many peoples will come and say, "Come, let us go up to the mountain of the Lord, to the house of the God of Jacob: that He may teach us concerning His ways. And that we may walk in His paths." For the law will go forth from Zion, and the word of the Lord from Jerusalem. And He will judge between the nations, and will render decisions for many peoples; and they will hammer their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks. Nation will not lift up sword against nation, and never again will they learn war. (Isaiah 2:2-4 NASB)
Here's how God revealed Jesus' second coming to John.
I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth passed away, and there is no longer any sea. I saw the Holy City, the New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, made ready as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne, saying, "Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He shall dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself shall be among them." And He shall wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there shall no longer be any death; there shall no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away. And he who sits on the throne said, "Behold I am making all things new." And he said, "Write, for these words are faithful and true."(Revelation 21:1-5 NIV)
I don't know about you, but I can hardly wait. The prophet Joel said that the day was drawing near. I don't know when Jesus will return, but I do know that it is sooner than it was yesterday. Until then, we'll continue to celebrate Christmas until He comes to take us home where we will have the most wonderful eternal Christmas celebration imaginable. And the good news is...God has already decorated for the party.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for the promise of heaven. What a wonderful celebration it will be to see Jesus face-to-face. Until then, I'll celebrate Christmas in my heart everyday, thanking You for the gift of Your Son.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What about heaven are you looking forward to the most?
Skim through the book of Revelation and note John's description of what he saw in his vision of heaven.
Read Isaiah 6 and note what the angels were singing before the throne of God.
Can you imagine yourself joining the heavenly chorus?
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Heaven will be so amazing! I can hardly wait. However, for now, we are here on earth for a purpose and a plan. As you go into the New Year, if you would like to learn about the incredible plans that God has for your life, see Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman: God's Plan for fulfilling your dreams.
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January 1, 2009
A Desperate Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then one of the synagogue rulers, named Jairus, came there. Seeing Jesus, he fell at his feet and pleaded earnestly with him, "My little daughter is dying. Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live." (Mark 5:22-23, NIV)
Friend To Friend
I had a painful phone conversation with a girlfriend recently. She's heavy with hurt. Spiritually paralyzed by circumstances. Her faith has been greatly challenged and weakened. It broke my heart. I wanted to reach through the phone line and hug her. I wanted to lift her burdens and solve all her problems, but, of course, I couldn't. So I listened, reminded her of God's love for her, and prayed.
Are you feeling overwhelmed today? Discouraged by the complicated challenges you face? Perhaps you have a friend who is nursing emotional wounds. There are so many hurting hearts in this world. So many burdens being carried by souls weary of the task. So many people desperate for a miracle from God. Desperate for healing and hope.
God knew we would struggle with difficulties. In His Word, He lovingly points us to Hope. Back in the days of Jesus' ministry, a man, desperate for a miracle, approached Jesus and fell before him. His daughter was dying. Jesus was his only hope. Here's how it played out in the Message version:
"After Jesus crossed over by boat, a large crowd met him at the seaside. One of the meeting-place leaders named Jairus came. When he saw Jesus, he fell to his knees, beside himself as he begged, "My dear daughter is at death's door. Come and lay hands on her so she will get well and live." Jesus went with him, the whole crowd tagging along, pushing and jostling him." (Mark 5:21-24, MSG)
Along the way, Jesus healed a woman who had suffered from a bleeding disorder for twelve long years. Jesus said that her faith made her well. "Daughter, you took a risk of faith, and now you're healed and whole. Live well, lived blessed! Be healed of your plague." (Mark 5:34, MSG)
"While he was still talking, some people came from the leader's house and told him, "Your daughter is dead. Why bother the Teacher any more?" Jesus overheard what they were talking about and said to the leader, "Don't listen to them; just trust me."
He permitted no one to go in with him except Peter, James, and John. They entered the leader's house and pushed their way through the gossips looking for a story and neighbors bringing casseroles. Jesus was abrupt: "Why all this busybody grief and gossip? This child isn't dead; she's sleeping." Provoked to sarcasm, they told him he didn't know what he was talking about.
But when he had sent them all out, he took the child's father and mother, along with his companions, and entered the child's room. He clasped the girl's hand and said "Talitha koum," which means "Little girl, get up." At that, she was up and walking around! This girl was twelve years of age. They, of course, were all beside themselves with joy." (Mark 5:35-42, MSG)
Desperate times call for a desperate faith. As Christians, we have faith in a person - God. Faith in and of itself is meaningless, but faith in an all-seeing, all-knowing, all-powerful God means everything ... because He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Faith is the core of our lives. It is essential to pleasing God. He wants us to trust Him in every trial and through every trouble. "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." (Hebrews 11:6, NIV)
Like Jairus and the bleeding woman, the best thing you can do is take your needs to Jesus. Purposefully place your faith in the Faithful One. When you fall before Him in prayer, He will sustain and strengthen you - but, rest assured, if you try to handle things in your own strength, you will remain weak and ineffective.
Are you desperate for a miracle today? Is the declining economy, the burden of debt, or soaring unemployment rate affecting you or someone you love? Perhaps you bear the pain of a broken marriage, broken dreams, or a broken body. If you are desperate for healing, help, and hope, ask the Lord to increase your faith today, and make a determined choice to trust Him. When you do, He will meet you at your need and carry the load of your burdens for you.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are a mighty God, and I'm in need of Your power in my life. I beg You to move! Please fan the flame of my faith today. I trust that You are in control and ask that You would sustain and strengthen me to face every challenge.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Matthew 11:28-30. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Call, email or send a card of encouragement to a friend who is hurting. Speak life and hope into her heart.
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Beth Moore once said, "Desperation can be the sweetest gift God ever gave you." I agree. God longs to be our Refuge and Rest in the midst of every storm. If you love to worship with music, order Gwen's CD, Unsearchable, and allow the songs to usher you into God's presence and fill your heart with praises.
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January 4, 2010
Living Below the Bar
by Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"So Mephibosheth ate at David's table like one of the king's sons" (2 Samuel 9:11 NIV).
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Who in the world is Mephibosheth and what possessed his momma to give him such a name? Well, I can't answer the second question, but I can shed some light on the first. Mephibosheth was a man who was living way below his potential. He was the grandson of King Saul and the son of Prince Jonathan, but he lived like a pauper. When he was a boy, his nurse dropped him while fleeing from their enemies. As a result, he was crippled in both feet (2 Samuel 9).
When David took over as King of Israel, he wanted to know if there was anyone in Jonathan's household to whom he could show kindness. Jonathan had been David's best friend and he loved him as a brother. A servant told David about the crippled Mephibosheth and he was summoned immediately. Mephibosheth lived in a place called Lo-Debar (meaning a pasture-less land).
My own (very unofficial) translation of Lo-Debar is "below the bar." Mephibosheth was living below the bar. He was the grandchild of a king, but he was living in a pasture-less land like a pauper. When he came before King David he said, "What is your servant, that you should notice a dead dog like me?"
David didn't even answer him. He simply turned to his servant and commanded that all the land that had been Saul's be given back to his grandson and that Mephibosheth should eat at the king's table every day.
Perhaps you are walking around like a cripple because of something that has happened to you as a child. Perhaps you feel like a "dead dog." And yet, God is looking for ways to bless you, to restore what has been taken away, and invite you to feast at His table everyday. Mephibosheth was a grandchild of King Saul and potential heir to the throne. However, he saw himself as nothing more than a "dead dog," unworthy to receive even the smallest crumb of kindness from David. David's desire was to restore to Mephibosheth all the land that would have been his inheritance and invite him to feast at his table daily. Mephibosheth didn't see himself as he really was. In reality, he was royalty. "A dead dog?" I think not!
Do you see yourself as you really are? You are a chosen, dearly loved, child of God. You have been blessed with every spiritual blessing, delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of light! You, girlfriend, are a child of the King!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, so many times I walk around with an emotional limp like a wounded animal. But the truth is, I am a child of the King and I should act like one! Thank You for inviting me to feast at Your banquet table every morning by feeding my soul from Your Word and drinking in the Holy Spirit's power. Today, I will not limp about, but run, jump, and even dance with joy!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Be honest. Do you act more like the pitiful Mephibosheth or a powerful princess?
What mind adjustment do you need to make to start acting like a child of the King?
You have been invited to feast at His table and do so every time you open the pages of your Bible. Have you accepted His invitation?
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Unfortunately, many of us limp around like poor old Mephib. We live below the bar of what God intended. If you would like to learn more about who you are as a child of God and start living the life God intended all along read, Experience the Ultimate Makeover: Discovering God's Transforming Power by Sharon Jaynes.
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January 5, 2010
Nothing is Impossible With God
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left" (Exodus 14:21-22) NIV.
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A boy was sitting on a park bench with one hand resting on an open Bible. He was loudly exclaiming his praise to God. "Hallelujah! Hallelujah! God is great!" he yelled without worrying whether anyone heard him or not.
Shortly after, along came a man who had recently completed some studies at a local university. Feeling himself very enlightened in the ways of truth and very eager to show this enlightenment, he asked the boy about the source of his joy.
"Hey" asked the boy in return with a bright laugh, "Don't you have any idea what God is able to do? I just read that God opened up the waves of the Red Sea and led the whole nation of Israel right through the middle."
The enlightened man laughed lightly, sat down next to the boy and began to try to open his eyes to the "realities" of the miracles of the Bible. "That can all be very easily explained. Modern scholars have shown that the Red Sea in that area was only 10 inches deep at that time. It was no problem for the Israelites to wade across.
The boy was stumped. His eyes wandered from the man back to the Bible laying open in his lap. The man, content that he had enlightened a poor, naive young person to the finer points of scientific insight, turned to go. He had taken only two steps when the boy began to rejoice and praise louder than before. The man turned to ask the reason for this resumed jubilation.
"Wow!" exclaimed the boy happily, "God is greater than I thought! Not only did He lead the whole nation of Israel through the Red Sea, He topped it off by drowning the whole Egyptian army in 10 inches of water!"
The Old Testament book of Exodus shows, over and over again, that nothing is impossible with God. Nothing! Moses was an ordinary man who was chosen by God to do an extraordinary task. On the far side of the desert in Midian, high on the mountain of God, Moses met the LORD face to flame. God appeared to Moses "in flames of fire from within a bush."
I would imagine that Moses was probably dirty, sweaty, and stinky from shepherding as he stood on holy ground before the LORD. I'm sure he was keenly aware of his filth and stench, both physically and spiritually. As he slipped off his shoes, he hid his face in fear. Moses did not feel adequate for the assignment that he had been given. He wasn't confident in his abilities to get the job done. In fact, he even pleaded with God to send someone else! Moses said to God in Exodus 4:10, "O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue."
But God had a plan and Moses was His man. Through 10 plagues and many signs and wonders, God flexed his muscles through Moses. Once Pharaoh had finally let God's people go, Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt. No compass was necessary. God led His people through the desert with a pillar of clouds by day and a pillar of fire by night. It must have been an amazing sight. It must have been thrilling...up until the point where Pharaoh's army was closing in on them as they approached the Red Sea. Talk about being caught between faith and a hard place! Talk about being faced with a seemingly possible situation! Moses and around two million of his closest Hebrew friends stood at the edge of the water with nowhere to go. They were trapped. "They were terrified and cried out to the LORD" (Exodus 14:10). BUT GOD! God was on time for the miracle show. He had a plan. He made a way. Nothing is too difficult for God!
"Moses answered the people, "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today...The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still" (Exodus 14:13). God purposed this extravagant rescue for His glory.
"Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left" (Exodus 14:21-22).
The Israelites were saved, and Pharaoh's army was destroyed - all under the watchful eyes of the LORD. God wanted to be glorified through a seemingly impossible situation. He wants to be glorified through the difficult situations that you face, too. "If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31) When we stand with Christ, we stand with power. What Red Sea are you facing? Nothing is impossible with God. When you set aside your doubts and call on the name of the LORD, you can face the waters of your circumstances with a strong confidence, knowing that God is able and willing to do great things in and through you.
Red Sea
Lyrics and Music by Gwen Smith
A battle is raging, the stage is set
Rivers edge, they're placing bets
Facing the water, I'm fighting doubt
I need Your hand to help me out
Part this Red Sea, deliver me
The tide is high, still on the rise
Secure my feet and guide my steps
I won't retreat from this duress
I'm movin', I'm pushin', I'm constantly pressin'
Approaching these waters with holy aggression
Show me Your power, I need intervention
Come and rescue me
Part this Red Sea
Minute by minute new circumstances
Uncharted water, taking my chances
I'm trying to get up the nerve to move
With You on my side, I know I can't lose
Pillar of fire by night on this desert road
Pillar of cloud by day with my heavy load
It's big, it's big, I hear it mocking me
But You are bigger and You can part this sea
©2007 Audio 31 Music / Sunday Best Music / ASCAP
Let's Pray
Dear God, like Moses, I often feel un-equipped to handle the assignments You have given me. You know exactly what waters I face today. As I stand at the water's edge, I commit to trusting Your strength. I will not give in to the fears, frustrations, and doubts that mock me. You are far more powerful than the circumstances of my life. Thank You for reminding me that nothing is too difficult for You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Grab some paper or your journal and list some "pillars of fire and pillars of clouds" God has placed in your life to give you direction on your journey.
Take a moment to thank God for His leading and seek His heart about direction for your next steps.
Read and meditate on this Scripture: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior." (Isaiah 43:1-3, NIV)
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I love sharing my music with you! I wish I could fit all the GiGs onto my living room couch, give you a steaming mug of coffee, and sing for each of you personally. :-) Obviously, I can't. But - praise God - we have instant access to music via the Internet. I'd love for you to hear and be encouraged by a song I wrote called Red Sea. So...turn up the volume on your computer and CLICK HERE to listen on my Facebook page (www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic).
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January 6, 2010
Climbing Out of the Pit
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry." Psalm 40:1 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
Children are wonderfully different! When our son, Jered, was nine months old, he began to pull up on every piece of furniture that would hold his stocky little frame. For weeks, he maneuvered his way around our home, until one day, he took his first step ... alone! It was a step of only inches but we celebrated as if he had run a marathon! Then there is our daughter, Danna, who crawled when she was five -months-old and before she could even sit up. We assumed she would be walking within a matter of weeks. Danna had a different plan. She never pulled up on a single piece of furniture. She never took a step, but one day, when she was ten months old, she simply stood up and trotted across the room. Jered and Danna both walk extremely well today as young adults but they both began with tiny steps and with a plan that was uniquely their own.
Nobody becomes depressed overnight. Nobody overcomes depression overnight. The journey out of the pit of depression is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. He is the Guide for your journey out of the darkness.
Step One: Wait for God.
In Psalm 40:1, David writes, "I waited patiently for the LORD." I had always thought of waiting as a passive and even wasteful experience. But while sitting at the bottom of the pit of clinical depression, I began to see that waiting is active and can be a powerful spiritual experience.
To wait means to accept the pit.
Picture yourself falling into a slimy pit. Your first reaction, like mine, would probably be to frantically claw and struggle, fighting your way out! When you have used up every ounce of energy, you stop struggling and sit down to rest, waiting for help because that is all you can do. You have no other options. When hard times come, we immediately begin to beg and bargain for rescue - for a way of escape. God loves us too much to waste our pain. It is a shallow love that always rescues easily. It is a depthless love that always rescues quickly. Sometimes our Father says wait. So be patient, accept your pit, and know that He is at work.
To wait means to admit that there is a problem.
We can be so proud and self-sufficient at times. Admitting that we are helpless and must wait on God is a last resort. In reality, we can learn to celebrate our helplessness. We can grow to the place of rejoicing in our weakness because our weakness and helplessness are an invitation for the power of God to take up residence and display itself in our life! Isaiah tells us that "He gives power to the tired and worn out, and strength to the weak" (Isaiah 50:29 NLT).
Instead of hiding or trying to rationalize the darkness away, we must be willing to admit that we are struggling with depression. Pride always hinders authenticity. Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity, when we can be truthful enough to say to ourselves and to others "I need help!" We cannot be right until we choose to be real.
To wait means to practice authenticity.
When I first began to battle depression, my husband was the pastor/teacher of a large, very visible and fast growing church. Dan and I had a choice to make. We could choose to be transparent and real or we could attempt to hide my struggle. We chose transparency and began to share our pain with the team that God had assembled around us. We then took an even bigger risk by sharing my battle with depression with the entire church.
We quickly discovered that the sharing of the crisis lessened its grip on our lives. The response to our transparency and willingness to share our pain with those who had known great pain themselves was overwhelming! People began to pray. Cards, letters and Scripture verses came pouring through the mail. Women would show up at the front door with meals. At times, others came to clean my house, do my laundry and entertain my children. Deacons would station themselves at various places in the church building during any worship service that I attended. If I got "caught" in a difficult situation, all I had to do was turn and nod to them. They would come, take me by the arm and walk me to my car with a hug and instructions to go home, assuring me that they loved me and were praying for me.
We were created to share our burdens with each other. Isaiah 35:3-4 is a clear directive, "Strengthen those who have tired hands, and encourage those who have weak knees. Say to those who are afraid, 'Be strong, and do not fear, for your God is coming to destroy your enemies. He is coming to save you.'" We need each other because a shared load is a lighter load. Transparency brings healing and authenticity yields restoration.
To wait means to practice solitude.
In the pit, it is so dark that we cannot see. All we can do is wait, trust and rest. In the midst of my depression, I began to discover that darkness is a great place of solitude. Distractions are few. When the Light comes, it is easier to see and the silence makes His voice clear and strong.
Psalm 46:10 advises, "Be still and know that I am God." We cannot know God on the run. Solitude lets our souls catch up. In the jungles of Africa, a tourist who was taking a safari hired natives from a tribe to carry all of the necessary supplies. On the first day, they walked rapidly and went far. The tourist was excited because he wanted to get there quickly. On the second morning, the tourist woke early, ready to go, but the natives refused to move. They just sat and rested. When the tourist questioned them, he was told that they had gone too fast the first day. Now they were waiting for their souls to catch up.
Stress, hurry, and intense activity can cause us to lose our perspective, to disconnect from our true purpose in life. The busier we are, the more we need regular solitude. I love the Greek motto that says: "You will break the bow if you keep it always bent." I broke! One of the main reasons that I broke was that solitude had never been a part of my life. I was too busy being spiritual. I was too busy trying to earn God's love and approval and running from the past. I was too busy trying to be good enough.
During my two years in the pit of depression, I gave up every role of leadership in order to spend time in solitude, seeking God. It felt as if I were giving up my whole identity because so much of who I was had been built upon what I did. Many times, I walked to the front door of our church, stopped and had to turn away in panic. I just could not make myself go in. I felt like a total failure as a wife and mother but as I struggled with the guilt and self-condemnation of my frailty, the Father taught me an important truth that has revolutionized my life. He is more concerned with who I am than what I do! He loves me - warts and all! If I never do another thing in the Kingdom, He still loves me. His love for me is not affected by what I do or don't do. He simply loves me! That life-changing truth was born out of darkness - in solitude.
The first step out of the pit is to wait. While we wait we must admit there is a problem, accept the pit, practice transparency and embrace solitude.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You - weak, tired and broken. I admit my great need for You, Lord, and choose to rest in You rather than struggle against You. By faith, I accept the darkness as an opportunity to wait at Your feet, listening for Your voice alone. Change me, Lord. Teach me Your ways. Strip away what is not of You and let stand what is.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Not It's Your Turn
· Set aside 15 minutes every day this week to spend in solitude with God. Record your thoughts, prayers and needs. Be brutally honest and transparent as you write. Then spend a few moments celebrating the fact that His love covers it all.
· Why is it so hard to accept the dark times in life?
· What is keeping me from being transparent?
· Would my family and friends describe me as "authentic"?
· Am I afraid of solitude? Why?
More From The Girlfriends
Did you know that several studies identify January 24 as the day when more people are depressed than at any other time of the year? Family members and holiday guests have gone home and their visit was not what you had hoped it would be. Perhaps no one came and you were alone. The credit card bills from Christmas are starting to come in. You may have just lost your job and are facing a year of financial uncertainty. The pit of depression and darkness is filled with paralyzing fear and unanswered questions. Where do we turn? Who can deliver us from that pit? God can, my friend. I know. He delivered me.
For more help, visit my website to find free resources on how to deal with depression as well as the MP3 download or CD, Coming Out of the Dark or check out my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression.
The Word of God is your most powerful weapon against the darkness. Get it into your life. Read, study and memorize Scripture and allow God's powerful truths to be a mental, emotional and spiritual hedge of protection. Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful life goals.
You can also connect with Mary on FaceBook!
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January 7, 2010
Climbing Out of the Pit
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry." Psalm 40:1 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
At some point in life, we all will find ourselves in some kind of pit, the darkness settling around us like a paralyzing blanket of hopelessness. That deep, dark pit may have many names, but easily becomes a prison from which escape seems impossible. The journey out of that pit is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father.
Step One: Wait for God.
Step Two: Cry out for help.
Many times, those who are imprisoned by darkness and depression look for help in the wrong places. Let me share with you some of the right places to find help.
Turn to God
In Psalm 40:1 "cry" literally means "to summon." What an amazing thought! The God of the universe, the One who created the world and flung the stars into space, waits and listens for the voice of His children. When they cry out, He comes to them just like a mother runs to her sick child, calling through the darkness of night. God comes to us in many ways.
· Reading His Word Psalm 119:105 "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path."
I lived in the book of Psalms during the two darkest years of my depression. A friend had given me an instrumental tape of hymns. Every day, I would plug in that tape, take the phone off of the hook and read psalm after psalm. I found myself in the words that I read and took great comfort in the fact that God was totally aware of everything that I was feeling.
· Talking with Him Peter 3:12 "For the Lord is watching his children, listening to their prayers."
The darkness called forth the most childlike prayer of my life. Day after day, night after night, I poured out the questions I had always been afraid to ask, my deepest fears and greatest pain. It was the most honest and powerful prayer of my life. I began to fall in love with the One who created me in my mother's womb and set me apart for Himself. When you spend time with Him, you will love Him and learn to know the sound of His voice above all others.
Turn to doctors and counselors
Proverbs 15: 22 "Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success."
Many people say that depression is only a spiritual problem and that there are only spiritual solutions. I disagree.
There was a terrible storm. The little girl was so frightened that she cried out in fear. Her daddy came running, gathered her up in his arms and held her tightly. He quietly explained that she had nothing to fear because God would take care of her. The little girl thought for a moment and then replied, "I know God will take care of me and love me, but right now, Daddy, I want someone with skin on!"
We often need "someone with skin on" to help us climb out of that pit. One of those persons may be a physician. I encourage anyone experiencing depression to get a physical as soon as possible. Depression is often a physical problem and may respond to medication. In my case, the doctor prescribed medication that corrected a chemical imbalance he found. The medication did not eliminate the depression. It simply enabled me to have the strength and energy to deal with the issues that had led me to the pit.
Good nutrition and regular exercise are also powerful tools in dealing with the darkness. God has wonderfully created the human body to respond to healthy life habits.
Christian counseling is another valuable weapon in the battle against depression. God gave counselors their gifts to use for Him in ministry. He must have known that we would need them and the gift of healing they bring when balancing the psychological world with the healing power of a living God. Somewhere in your world, God has stationed servants who are equipped and ready to help you.
Turn to your support team
Isaiah 42:3 "He will not break the bruised reed, nor quench the dimly burning flame. He will encourage the fainthearted, those tempted to despair."
A support team is essential for anyone in the pit of depression. My team carried me when I couldn't take another step and loved me when I was unlovable, encouraging me when I felt like giving up. I would still be in the darkness today if it weren't for my family, my church and my friends. God worked through them in my life. They could see the dangers I was too weak to see and loaned me their energy when mine was gone. They became a life line that kept me from drifting toward the brink of disaster. Has it affected their opinion of me? Absolutely! It has shown them that I am just like them - not a Superwoman - and has given them permission to face their own weaknesses. I know that some of you are thinking that there is absolutely no one who will sign up to be a member of your support team. If you will cry out to God and honestly seek help, He will bring your helpers.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your help! I turn to You first. My heart cries out to You, asking for Your hand of deliverance and restoration to touch my life. Please lead me to those You have equipped and chosen to help me during this dark time. I don't see them, Lord, but I trust You to bring them. Thank You for what You are already doing in the midst of this pit!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Read one psalm every day.
· Pray, crying out for help from His hand, waiting on God and listening for His voice.
· Where do you usually go for help?
· What do the words "cry out to God" mean to you?
· What do you have to surrender, in order to cry out to Him?
More From the Girlfriends
For a long time, I let my pride keep me from asking for help. Fortunately, those who loved me didn't wait for me to ask. They simply jumped in when they saw a need - and found a way to meet that need. If you are struggling with depression or the darkness of a pit, share your pain with someone who loves you. Ask for help. In doing so, you are inviting God to work through those people to bring you out of the darkness, into the light. My story is much like yours and can be read in my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. Would you like to work through a bible study that will help? Try Strength for the Storm, an E-Book bible study you can download and work through on your own, with a friend or in a small group.
For more help, visit Mary's website to find free resources on how to deal with depression as well as the MP3 download or CD, Coming Out of the Dark.
The Word of God is your most powerful weapon against the darkness. Get it into your life. Read, study and memorize Scripture and allow God's powerful truths to be a mental, emotional and spiritual hedge of protection. Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful life goals.
You can also connect with Mary on FaceBook!
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January 8, 2010
Climbing Out of the Pit
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD." Psalm 40:2-3 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
At some point in life, we all will find ourselves in some kind of pit, the darkness settling around us like a paralyzing blanket of hopelessness. That deep, dark pit may have many names, but easily becomes a prison from which escape seems impossible. The journey out is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. He is the Guide for this step-by-step journey.
Step One: Wait for God.
Step Two: Cry out for help.
Step Three: Count on God.
In this world, there are few certainties. God is one. His promises are true and we can wholly trust Him to keep His Word, to do exactly what He promises to do. In the key passage today, we find an impressive set of promises. God promises to free us - direct us - restore us - give us joy and invites us to join Him in Kingdom work. Wow! That is quite an impressive "to do list" when you are sitting at the bottom of an ugly pit, with the shattered pieces of your life scattered around you. But God's ways are not our ways.
In Romans 11:33, Paul writes "Oh, what a wonderful God we have! How great are his riches, wisdom, and knowledge. How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his methods." (NIV)
God is drawn to brokenness. What an amazing truth, that He turns first to the broken. Psalm 40:1 says "He turned to me." Notice it does not say that David, the author, turned to God. I don't think that David could turn to God! Knowing the desire of David's heart and understanding his weakness, God heard his cry and turned to David just like God will hear your cry and turn to you!
During the darkest hours, I questioned God continually. I flung my anger at Him like a spear. My heart and soul were filled with fear and confusion instead of faith and trust. Yet, He never turned away from me. He knew every tear that I cried. Out of those tears and brokenness has come the most effective and powerful chapter of my life! I am convinced that the more we are broken, the more we are used. You can count on God. You can credit His grace to your account!
Mercy is when we don't get what we deserve.
Justice is when we get what we do deserve.
Grace is when we get what we do not deserve.
We are trophies of God's grace and we can count on Him.
Step Four: Be patient.
Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord."
In this verse, "patiently" literally means "without tiring" or "with perseverance". Be patient with yourself. Don't give up on you. No one gets depressed overnight and no one conquers depression overnight. It is a marathon, not a fifty yard dash! On my journey, it took 45 years to hit rock bottom. It has taken me four years to climb out ... this far. I am still climbing! We must be patient. We must be willing to persevere. Don't give up! Just give in and allow God to take control. He will turn that pit into an altar on which your broken spirit can be laid as a sweet sacrifice of praise.
Step Five: Don't give up.
Philippians 1:6 "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
God is at work! The very fact that you are reading this devotion is proof that the Father has ordered your steps so that you can hear my story. That may be because you are in a pit and you need help or maybe because someone you love is in that pit and you need to help them. God wants you to experience restoration and then to be a vessel of restoration for others.
Years ago, in a large southeastern city, the great pianist, Paderewski, was scheduled to perform. The city was alive with excitement and the day finally came. In the crowd at the concert was a young mother clutching the hand of her small son. Hoping to inspire him to practice, she had brought him to hear the master perform. As they sat and waited for the concert to begin, she turned her head to look at the people as they filled the auditorium. The little boy saw his chance to escape. He quietly slipped from his seat, walking down the aisle toward the stage. Just as he reached the orchestra pit, a spotlight hit the grand piano and he gasped at the beauty of the instrument. No one noticed the little boy as he slipped up the side stairs to the stage and climbed up on the piano stool. No one noticed him at all, until he began to play "Chopsticks". The concert hall fell silent. Then people began to shout. "Get him away from that piano!" Backstage, the Master heard the crowd and grabbing his coat, rushed to the little boy's side. Without a word, he bent down and, placing his hands on either side of the boy's, began to compose a beautiful counter melody to "Chopsticks". As they played together, he whispered in the little boy's ear, "Don't stop! Keep on! Don't quit!"
Right now, right where you are, understand that your Father is standing beside you, with His arms wrapped around you. Listen as He gently speaks, "Don't stop! Keep on! Don't quit!"
I know that the music of your darkened soul may be filled with chaos and dissonance, but even now, the Master is composing the "rest" of your song. One day very soon, it will be a song of beauty and light! One day, you will come out of the dark!
Let's Pray
Oh God, right now I choose to wait on You, crying out for Your hand of mercy and love to deliver me from this pit of darkness. I abandon myself to You and am counting on You to be my Redeemer and Friend. Give me the courage to share my pain with others and ask for help. Now, in the presence of my enemies of darkness and depression, I celebrate the victory. Thank You, Father!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Psalm 40:1-3. Accept these promises as a gift from God for every pit - past, present and future - in your life. Ask yourself the following questions:
· What is the first step you should take in order to climb out of this pit?
· What do you need to leave behind or step over in order to take this first step?
Read Psalm 18:28. What does it mean when it says that God is your lamp? How does that change your perspective of life?
Examine the deepest desires of your heart. Do you really want to escape this pit of darkness? Does the freedom frighten you? Why?
More From The Girlfriends
I am often asked if I no longer have to deal with depression. Yes, I do. I have asked God to take this struggle out of my life, but He has said "no." Why? I don't pretend to know all of the reasons, but I do know that my name, Mary, literally means "bitter, but when broken, sweet." My battle with depression keeps me on my face before God, broken and crying out to God. Anything that makes us cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. If you need help in dealing with depression and the pain of the pit, visit my website to find free resources to encourage and equip you on your journey. You can also email me at mary@marysoutherland.com.
The Word of God is your most powerful weapon against the darkness. Get it into your life. Read, study and memorize Scripture and allow God's powerful truths to be a mental, emotional and spiritual hedge of protection. Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful life goals.
You can also connect with Mary on FaceBook!
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January 11, 2010
The Three-Headed Monster Rears His Ugly Heads
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 3:4 (NIV) "Such confidence as this is ours through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God."
Friend To Friend
The three-headed monster of inferiority, insecurity and inadequacy can paralyze a Christian into inactivity and leave him or her sitting on the bench during the game of life ... afraid to get into the game. God's desire is to destroy the monster with the truth and render him impotent in our lives. Satan's desire is to feed him with lies until he's big and strong. Who are we going to believe?
Believing who we are in Christ destroys feelings of inferiority. Believing where we are in Christ destroys feelings of insecurity. Believing what we have in Christ destroys feelings of inadequacy. What a transformation when a Christian believes the truth. She experiences a confidence makeover!
I do not want you to think I am always victorious and never struggle with the three-headed monster. He still rears his ugly head every now and then. Let me give you one example.
It was my first large speaking engagement to about 450 women about thirteen years ago. My topic was "Unshakable Confidence in Christ." Two weeks before I was to speak to the group, I attended a luncheon. Two ladies whom I did not know were sitting at my table, and they were talking about a speaker they had recently heard at the church where I would be speaking in a few weeks.
"He was the most powerful speaker I have ever heard," one said.
"I cried all the way through his testimony. Just to think, he had to live with the fact that his son was an arsonist. Oh how God has worked mightily in the family. The pastor was so moved, he asked him to speak at the Sunday night service. That is highly unusual. I don't think we will ever have a speaker that good again."
On and on they sang the praises of this mighty man of God. They used words like dynamic, powerful, electric, and eloquent. I never mentioned that I would be the speaker for their next meeting. At that point, I wasn't so sure I would be.
As I listened to the ladies, my throat constricted, the tea sandwiches clung to the roof of my mouth, and my heart pounded wildly. Then Satan, the gatekeeper for the three-headed monster, let him out.
"Who do you think you are, going to speak at this event? Listen to the caliber of people they bring in. This man came from all the way across the country. You are coming from just across town. What could you possibly have to say to help these women? If I were you, I'd bow out now before you embarrass yourself."
You know what? Even though I knew it was the enemy whispering in my ear, I started to believe him. After all, what he was saying made a lot more sense than the "Who I am in Christ" statements taped on my refrigerator door.
After the luncheon, I decided to go by the church and purchase a tape of the previous speaker, just to see what I was going to be compared to. I walked into the church, paid my $5.00, popped the tape in the console, and braced myself for the hour of power.
Nothing happened.
I fast-forwarded the tape.
Nothing happened.
I flipped the tape over.
Nothing happened.
The tape was blank.
At that moment, I did not hear the dynamic speaker on the tape, I heard God.
Sharon, you do not need to hear what my servant said to these people two weeks ago. The tape is blank because I do not want you to compare yourself to anyone else. It doesn't matter what he said. I will give you a message for these ladies. I can speak through a prophet, I can speak through a fisherman, and I can speak through a donkey.
I gave him a message and I have given you one as well. Who are you "performing" for, my child, them or Me? Do not compare yourself to anyone. You are my child and I am asking you to speak to an audience of One.
It was indeed an hour of power. I didn't bother getting my money back for the defective tape. It was exactly what I needed to hear.
So the next time Satan said to me, "Who do you think you are?" let me tell you what I said. "I am the light of the world. I am the salt of the earth. I am a child of God. I am the bride of Christ. I am a joint-heir with Christ. I have the power of the Holy Spirit. I have been delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of Christ. I am chosen of God, holy and dearly loved."
Two weeks later I spoke with confidence, and God blessed us all.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I know that without You I am nothing but an empty vessel. However, because of You, I am filled with the power of the Holy Spirit and have been blessed with every spiritual blessing! I can be confident because of who I am as a child of the King. I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you had a case of the "I can'ts?
Where do you think those feelings of insecurity come from?
Do you believe that the power of God lives in you?
Do you think there is any incident in which God would say "I can't?"
I hope you answered no! Look up these two verses and write them down. Post them in a visible place and look at them every time your confidence begins to wane this week.
Luke 1:37
Genesis 18:14
If you are struggling with insecurity, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this devotion. Visit my Facebook page and let's chat. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
More From The Girlfriends
If you ever struggle with feelings of inferiority, insecurity, or inadequacy, then you'll want to study Sharon Jaynes' book Experience the Ultimate Makeover. The message of this book will help you to see yourself as God sees you!
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January 12, 2010
I Need Rest!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place" (Mark 6:30-32, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I spin plates. Not real plates. Metaphorical plates. I spin lots of plates at the same time and I multi-task. This is both a blessing and a curse in my life. Sometimes my attention is divided in too many directions, leaving me harried ... while at other times, I'm energized by the amount of things I can get done in a small window of time. Regardless, there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get things done or enough hours in the night to give me complete rest.
Being a plate-spinning mom is a challenge. When my kids want me, they don't like to wait for me to spin three more plates before I answer them or give them my attention. When my daughter Kennedy was a toddler, she figured out a way to stop me mid-task, no matter what I was doing. She would place her chubby little hands on my cheeks, look me in the eye, and demand my full attention. Then she would deliver her message or question to me. I became her captive audience.
Just like Kennedy used to seek my attention, the Spirit of the Lord often speaks a similar message to my heart: "Don't forget about me, Gwen! I know you have a lot going on, but your attention should be mine. I love you. Come sit with me a while."
Life is busy. Each day we have activities, tasks and distractions that vie for our time and attention. If we aren't careful and deliberate, our relationship with God can suffer as a result. The Lord doesn't want to be an after-thought and He doesn't want to be penciled in to our schedules. He wants us to prioritize Him. Focus our hearts on Him. Worship Him. Be with Him. Rest in Him.
What are your priorities? Where does God fit into your schedule? How vital is it to you that you spend one-on-one time with God each day? Are you experiencing the supernatural rest that's found in His presence?
In Mark 6:30-32, we learn that Jesus and His apostles had been busy working for their heavenly Father. In fact, they had worked with such vigor that they hadn't even gotten a decent meal in their belly. (Boy, do I know what that's like!) In response, Jesus invited them to get away with Him so they could find some rest and rejuvenation in His presence. He said, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest" (Mark 6:31, NIV). That same invitation is extended to you and me.
God wants you to pause the plate spinning and be His captive audience in this very moment. He wants you to go with Him to a quiet place: to be still, to gaze into His eyes, to worship Him in Spirit and in truth, to be lost in His glory, and found by His grace - to find rest.
I'd like you to imagine His strong yet gentle hands reaching for your cheeks, lifting your chin, and drawing your eyes to His. Fix your gaze on His beautiful, blazing, mercy-filled eyes. Give the Lord your full attention. He will be your rest.
I co-wrote a song called "Sacred Place" that is purposed to lead you to His presence. After you pray the prayer below, please take a moment to listen to "Sacred Place" and personally respond to Him.
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Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, please forgive me for all of the times I fail to give You my attention. I shake my head at the very thought that You want to lock gazes with someone like me, yet Scripture clearly tells me that You desire to be sought after and found by me. I'm here. You have my full attention, please speak to my heart and help me to be Your captive audience throughout today and everyday.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Find a solitary place, grab your Bible and read Psalm 103.
Write down your favorite verses from that chapter and journal about what they teach you.
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Do you know that rest, the rest that comes from the heart of God and permeates every fiber of who you are...no matter what you are facing? God desires for you to know His rest, for you to experience the fullness of His love and His peace. If your soul is in turmoil, lift your gaze to the Father. Seek His heart. He will meet you at your need and sustain you one day at a time. Spend some sacred quiet time with Him today.
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January, 13 2010
The Fear Factor
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:4 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!"
Friend To Friend
The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Fear is a common factor of life in our world, a broken world filled with broken people who seem to live at the mercy of their fears. We worry about things big and small, important things as well as silly things. We are often afraid of what might happen and then worry that other things will never happen. Worry makes everything seem bigger than it really is. Worry is not only wasted energy, but consuming and unhealthy in every area of life.
The story is told of a man hospitalized because of anxiety. Day in and day out, the man continually pressed his ear up against the wall, listening intently. When a nurse came by, stuck her head in the room and asked what he was doing, the patient responded with "Shh!" motioning her over. The very patient nurse pressed her ear up against the wall and listened for a long time. Finally, the nurse said, "I can't hear a thing!" Alarmed, the man whispered, "I know. It's been like that all day!" Worry fits this world, but worry does not fit the picture of a victorious life in God. And nothing will rob you of joy quicker than worry. God came so that we would not have to worry and yet we continue to do so. How do we win this battle with fear and worry?
In Philippians 4:4, the apostle Paul tells us to choose joy and to rejoice in God. In this verse, "rejoice" literally means to practice joy, to take delight in and to be glad. Life often makes it impossible to be happy. Happiness is not what Paul is calling us to pursue because happiness is merely a cheap imitation of true joy. Joy is a deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. Paul's situation, when writing this letter, makes me wonder. After all, Paul was a prisoner, awaiting trial and almost certain execution, but he still tells us to rejoice. In other words, we can't always find joy in circumstances but we can always find joy in the Lord of those circumstances. You have probably heard that statement many times and thought it was just a tired old cliché when it is really a choice of perspective and a way of life. The tense of the verb "rejoice" translates to "keep on rejoicing" and is an ongoing command and calling to obedience. In John 15:10-11 we find the promise that obedience always begins with a choice and always ends in joy.
John 15:10-11 "If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete."
We cannot avoid pain but we can avoid joy because joy is the harvest of a life that consistently pursues God and insists on seeking His truth, longing to obey that truth. The pursuit of joy is a matter of choice and perspective.
A little boy asked his friend, "Wouldn't you hate to wear glasses all the time?" "No," the other boy responded, "not if I had the kind of glasses that grandma wears. She sees how to fix a lot of things. Grandma sees lots of nice things on a rainy day. She sees good that other people call bad and she always sees what you meant to do, even if you mess it up." Noticing the puzzled look on his friend's face, the little boy continued, "I asked her one day how she could see that way all of the time and she said it was the way she learned to look at things. So it must be her glasses." Choosing joy is choosing for God and against fear.
Let's Pray
Father, I do not want to live this year at the mercy of fear. Right now, I surrender my heart and mind to You. Please give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word as I seek Your will for my life. When I am afraid, give me the strength to trust in You. When the darkness comes, show me Your Light. Help me to choose joy - even when I don't understand or like my circumstances. I want to be a woman of faith, God, and honor You by the peace that fills my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Fear and worry send people to counselors, psychologists, and ministers in droves. I thank God for these gifted men and women. Our Father knew we would need them. The store shelves are stocked with various supplements and vitamins that promise to calm anxiety and eliminate fear. Entire television programs, books, magazine articles and even web sites are devoted to eliminating worry and fear. Fear and worry are destructive forces and the enemies of peace.
Would you describe yourself as a fearful person?
Would family and friends label you as someone who tends to worry?
How does fear affect your daily life?
1. Physically: _______________________
2. Mentally: _________________________
3. Emotionally: ______________________
4. Spiritually: _______________________
Record your answers and thoughts in your journal. Be sure to date your entry.
Read and memorize Psalm 27:3 "Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then will I be confident." Re-examine the consequences of fear and of worry in your life and hold each one up against the promise of this verse.
Record changes, insights or new truths in your journal. If you have never kept a journal, I encourage you to do so in 2010.
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Fear is a familiar enemy in my life and has often been a paralyzing force. I have discovered that the Word of God is our most powerful weapon against fear. Get the Bible into your life. Read, study and memorize Scripture and allow God's powerful truths to be a mental, emotional and spiritual hedge of protection.
Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful life goals.
Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear. It is a great study for your personal quiet time as well as for a small group.
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January 14, 2010
Your New Identity
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV) "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"
Friend To Friend
There's a game that I've played many times at conferences and retreats as an icebreaker activity. Each person has the name of a famous or infamous person taped to her back. The women in the room walk around giving each other clues about who they "are." "You always put off worrying until tomorrow." "You had so many children you didn't know what to do." "You were the queen of soul." The point of the game is to figure out your identity. Once you guess correctly, you take a seat.
As I watched the women play that game, I was struck with its similarity to real life. Many times we determine our identity, by what others tell us about ourselves. You are so smart. You are a loser. You are so pretty. You could do anything you set your mind to. You are so ugly. You are so fat. After a while, those messages determine how we see ourselves, whether true or false. It is only a mature person who realizes that just because a person perceives you a certain way, doesn't make that perception true.
One of the greatest blessings of becoming a Christian is receiving a new identity. In the Bible, when God touched and changed a person's life, many times He changed his or her name. He said, "You will be called by a new name that the mouth of the Lord will bestow" (Isaiah 62:2). Saul became Paul. Abram became Abraham. Sarai became Sarah. Jacob became Israel. Simon became Peter.
Likewise, when we accept Christ, God gives us a new identity and a new name. If we want to know our true identity, we need only look in the mirror of God's Word to discover it. It may be different from what you've heard others say about you, but which do you think is more accurate? Who do you think has a better perception of who you are, your Creator, or other creatures just like yourself? If you are a Christian today, the following verses describe your new identity.
My Identity in Christ
Matthew 5:13 I am the salt of the earth.
Matthew 5:14 I am the light of the world.
John 1:12 I am a child of God.
John 15:1,5 I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of Christ's life.
John 15:15 I am Christ's friend.
John 15:16 I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.
Romans 8:17 I am a joint-heir with Christ, sharing His inheritance with Him.
I Corinthians 3:16 I am a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in me.
I Corinthians 12:27 I am a member (part) of Christ's body.
2 Corinthians 5:17 I am a new creation.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19 I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation.
Ephesians 1:1 I am a saint.
Ephesians 1:3 I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in heavenly places.
Ephesians 1:11 I am sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit who has been given as a pledge of my inheritance.
Ephesians 2:10 I am God's workmanship created in Christ to do His work that He planned beforehand that I should do.
Ephesians 4:24 I am righteous and holy.
That is a lot to put on a nametag, but that is your new identity. Neil Anderson, in his book Victory over the Darkness notes, "The reason so many Christians are not enjoying the maturity and freedom which is their inheritance in Christ is because they hold wrong self-perceptions. They don't see themselves as they really are in Christ. They don't understand the dramatic change which occurred in them the moment they trusted in Him. They don't see themselves the way God sees them, and to that degree they suffer from a poor self-image. They don't grasp their true identity."
In that paragraph, Dr. Anderson described me perfectly. For the first twenty years of my Christian walk, I had no idea who I was, what I had, or where I was in Christ. As God opened my eyes to the truth, I realized that how I saw me and how God saw me were in stark contrast to one another. I came to a crisis of belief...who was I going to believe? And that, dear friend, is the same question you need to ask yourself.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I thank You that I am a new creation in Christ. I admit that sometimes I feel just like the old me and act like the old me, but I believe by faith that I am brand new. Thank You that my identity is based on my position in Christ rather than my performance on earth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do have any labels from your past that are in conflict with what the Bible tells you about who you are as a child of God?
Look at the above verses. Do have a difficult time believing the truth about who you are?
Now here's the big question. Are you going to believe what others have told you in the past or are you going to believe God?
Now, go back up to the list of verses again and read them to yourself aloud.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Is this something that you have struggled with in your Christian walk? Let's talk... http://www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Someone once told me that faith is believing that God tells the truth. But many of us don't know the truth about who we are in Christ, what we have in Christ, and where we are in Christ. If you would like to learn more about your true identity as a child of God, read Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes by Sharon Jaynes. Also, on Sharon's books and resource page, you can find a laminated card of verses about your true identity in Christ to tuck in your Bible for quick reference!
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January 15, 2010
Expectations
Angela L. Craig
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Angela Craig.
Today's Truth
Isaiah 55:8 (NIV) "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD."
Friend To Friend
Has life turned out at all like you expected? What about the last year? Okay, what about the last week? If you are human, you are probably laughing by now because no matter how much planning we do, life never seems to turn out exactly like we planned.
Personally, being somewhat of a perfectionist, I get a little defensive when things do not go according to my plan and the natural thing to do when I am feeling defensive is to blame someone. So who do I blame? I go right to the top. I don't settle for any small potatoes like my husband, parents, or politicians. I just complain directly to God.
I don't think I am the first person to blame God for unexpected life events. In the Bible, it seems that God takes responsibility for many things that the people of ancient times were not happy about - floods, barrenness, death, plagues, and much more. But could you imagine that their unexpected loss would eventually become a gift of mercy, forgiveness, restoration, and grace from a God that loved them?
Let me illustrate. Have you had a toddler in your home? I recently had my one-year-old nephew, Christopher Paul Jr., over for a visit. My boys are older and it did not take me long to realize that my home is far from baby-proofed. My full-time job immediately became the task of following Jr. around to make sure he went home the same way he arrived ... uninjured and happy!
You can probably guess what his favorite game was. Remember the "Watch Me Climb the Stairs" game? With all the confidence in the world, my nephew would climb five or six stairs and then turn and grin at me as if to say, "I have totally got this down, Aunty. You have nothing to worry about." And like any good Aunty who did not want her nephew to fall down, I would take him off the stairs and redirect him to a safer path on which to play.
Sometimes we are much like Jr. As we confidently climb various "stairs" in life and follow our own plans, God lovingly redirects us to another path. He knows that if we were allowed to climb to the top, we would turn around and fall to the bottom. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) says, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
When you give your life over to Christ, God will always keep and fulfill the promises He has for your life. Talk about great expectations!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that no matter how stubborn I am, You will re-direct me when I am on the wrong path. Let my focus be on You and not on myself and my plans. Change me so that I trust You. Increase my faith so that I always follow You and only You. Thank You for loving me enough to gently guide me to a new path went I stray.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
1) Has God ever taken you off the stairs and re-directed your path?
2) Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) says, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." So often we want God to prosper us but we don't want to change our ways to align them with the Word of God. What is one thing in your life that you know needs changing?
3) Change begins when you commit to obedience and ask someone else to hold you accountable for that change. Change the change you want to make with someone you trust. And remember that we are here for you - Girlfriends in God. Go for it! We believe in you!
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January 18, 2010
Cheap Nails
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he (she) is a new creation, the old is gone, and the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
Friend To Friend
One of the greatest philosophers of all time is Charlie Brown, the little round-headed kid in Charles Schulz's Peanuts cartoon. But even Charlie Brown has his problems. One day he was visiting his psychiatrist, Lucy. Lucy sat pensively behind her makeshift booth that resembled a lemonade stand. Her shingle read - Psychiatric Help 5 cents.
Frame one: Lucy says to Charlie Brown, "Your life is like a house..."
Frame tw "You want your house to have a solid foundation, don't you?"
Frame three: "Of course you do..."
Frame four: "So don't build your house on the sand, Charlie Brown..."
Frame five: A strong wind blows, knocking Lucy off her chair and the booth into a heap on the ground.
Frame six: "or use cheap nails."
I see many women today who have started building their spiritual houses on the solid rock of Jesus Christ, but then proceed to build on that foundation with the cheap nails of outward appearance, performance, possessions, power, and the praises of others. Alas, when the strong winds of adversity begin to blow, just like Lucy's makeshift psychiatric booth, we fall apart.
In second Corinthians 3:10-15, Paul talks about two types of building materials. One type is wood, hay, and stubble. These are what man produces. He plants and he reaps. They are very temporary and can be burned up or lost in a moment. The other type of building material is gold, silver, and precious stones. These are what God has created, but we just have to discover - sometimes requiring digging through mountains of dirt.
The culture's outward beauty ideas are very temporary ... wood, hay, and stubble. But the principles found in God's Word are eternal with everlasting results. We can try the beauty tips in the magazines, but true beauty occurs when we sit in God's spa and let Him perform a miracle.
Women love the idea of a day at the spa. After all, Queen Esther in the Bible stayed in a spa for an entire year before she claimed her title of Mrs. Xerxes. Her beauty regimen included six months with oils of myrrh and six months with perfumes and cosmetics (Esther 2:12). Not only that, she was assigned seven maids to take care of her every need. Now that sounds like a spa package worth looking into!
Let's face it, women want to be beautiful. However, many fail to realize that true beauty begins on the inside and works its way out. But how do you become beautiful on the inside? You will not discover the secret in magazines, talk shows, or reality TV. Inner beauty is the result of God's transforming power in the heart of a willing soul. He doesn't simply cover up our flaws; He miraculously starts from scratch and makes us new. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, (she) is a new creation," Paul wrote, "the old is gone, and the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
The best beauty treatment is spending time with the makeover artist Himself ... Jesus. God's spa is always open and the price has already been paid. So what are we waiting for! I'll see you there.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I thank You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Lord, I pray that You will make me spiritually beautiful. I thank You that I am a new creation in Christ. Help me to walk in that truth today and wear that heavenly glow that only comes by spending time with You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have any "cheap nails" in your life? If so, what are they?
Have you ever gone through a struggle and seen those "cheap nails" give way under the pressure?
What do you think it means to be a "new creation?"
Write today's truth on an index card and memorize it.
I always like to hear what my girlfriends in God are thinking. Let's talk about cheap nails and come up with a list. Visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and let's share our ideas.
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Every woman loves the thought of a day at the spa. If you'd like to learn more about becoming spiritually beautiful, see Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book by Sharon Jaynes was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover).
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January 19, 2010
What Really Matters
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Far too often I seek God's blessings instead of seeking God. I seek His hand instead of His heart. Like a child with a long Christmas list, at times I run to my heavenly Father as if He's a celestial Wal-Mart purposed to satisfy my every want. Instead of leaning in to hear the whispered will of the Lord, I selfishly shout my will. My desires. My demands. I'd rather have relief from life-pressures than gain the strength to endure them and the lessons I'm intended to learn from them. When I'm desperate to fill my over-sized heart-cart with things that I think I need, I rob myself of what really matters: the pursuit of God and the blessings found in Him alone.
Why do we desire God's intervention in our lives more than His presence? Why do we think that we know what we need? It's so arrogant of us to tell God how to be God. Isn't that what we do when we stomp our feet before His throne and whine about all of the things that need fixing instead of praising Him for the strength He graciously gives us to endure? While we're certainly encouraged by Scripture to make our requests known to the Father (Philippians 4:6), the highest calling on our lives is to love God with all of our hearts, souls, bodies and minds (Matthew 22:37). What really matters is seeking God first.
God knew we would struggle with this truth. His Word promises that when we chase His heart, we can relax. Our needs will be met because He loves us.
"And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
"So don't worry about these things, saying, 'what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today" (Matthew 6:30-34, NLT).
The Message version of the Bible says it like this:
"If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don't you think he'll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I'm trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God's giving. People who don't know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, and God-provisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.
Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don't get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes" (Matthew 6:30-34, MSG).
Set your list of wants aside today and seek God. Go before Him with a heart of worship and adoration. Get lost in His presence. Remember His mercy. Relish His grace. Love Him. Seek Him. Put first things first.
God loves us so much. His plan is perfect and His ways are mysterious. He knows our needs and He knows our desires. When we remember what really matters we can rest in the knowledge that He's working on our behalf, and in our best interest, to bring glory to Himself through our lives.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all I need. Please forgive me for the times when I seek Your blessings before I seek Your heart. Help me to trust Your plan and rest in Your grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has God met your needs in the past? Do you trust that He is able to meet them today?
He's not just concerned with your needs - God also cares about your heart matters. Read, meditate on and memorize this verse: "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4, ESV).
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Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-29). Please know that today's devotion is not suggesting that we shouldn't go to God with our burdens. We must! But God wants your love before your list.
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January 20, 2010
Rotten Apple
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And let not your adornment be merely external-braiding hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God" (1 Peter 3:3-4 NASB).
Friend To Friend
There is nothing worse than purchasing a beautiful, highly polished red delicious apple, and biting into it only to find it mealy and mushy on the inside. Well, maybe there is something worse - a physically beautiful woman who is rotten to the core. Solomon says that's like putting a "gold ring in a pig's snout." What a waste.
Becky experienced this first hand when she was nineteen-years-old. She was performing as a runway model at her hometown department store. She was 5'2 and 100 pounds, just the perfect size to model apparel from the petite department. But she had always longed to be tall and slender like the runway models from the big cities. On one occasion, the management of the store where Becky worked flew in a New York model to add to the excitement of a fashion show event. Becky was thrilled to watch as professionals paraded up and down the runway with poise and elegance.
Becky explained, "I can remember standing behind a rack of clothes and peering admiringly as the 5'8" sleek blond glided up and down the runway with the grace and poise of a queen. 'Oh God,' I prayed, 'How I wish I could be like her.'"
After the fashion show was over Becky was gathering her belongings from backstage when she overhead the model in a fit of rage.
"I don't even know what happened," Becky said. "All I know is that this beautiful woman, who I had so admired, almost worshipped, was spewing the filthiest language I had ever heard and slinging clothes and shoes all around the room. I ran out of the store and cried all the way home. Disappointment and disillusionment filled my heart. 'Oh God,' I prayed once again, 'Please don't ever let me be like her.'"
Becky had learned a valuable lesson about true beauty. As someone once said, "Often behind silken apparel lies a threadbare soul."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please don't ever let me be a shiny apple that is rotten on the inside. I know that no amount of makeup or fancy clothes can truly hide what's on the inside. It always comes out sooner or later. Help me to be the type of woman that is known for inner qualities that reflect Your beauty.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of women you admire. Now write down what it is that you admire about them?
What do you want people to admire about you? Your clothes? Your hair? Your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control? (Check out Galatians 5:22 to see where these qualities come from.)
Now, which are you spending more time on cultivating - inner or outer beauty?
Let's talk about it. Let me know what you think. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me why you think we spend so much time on the outside and so little on the inside.
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Would you like to learn more about how to become spiritually beautiful? It all starts by spending time in God's spa. You can find out more in Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book by Sharon Jaynes was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover). It comes with a Bible study guide for that extra special glow!
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January 21, 2010
Give Thanks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 106:1 (NIV) "Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever."
Friend To Friend
The holiday season of 2009 was nothing like holidays of the past for many people. Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle patrolled foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home longed for word of their safety. The homeless made their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face as others celebrated their abundance. An empty place at the table was a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad sat at the head of the table, wondering how he was going to tell his family that he just lost his job or a mom broke down in tears as she shared the diagnosis of cancer with her family. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs around us is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised or build the right house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation or when we retire. We blame our anger and discontent on bad health, difficult relationships and friends who just don't understand! We keep trying to find joy, peace and contentment in lifeless places and things.
Jesus Christ is the only source of life. He is Joy and Love and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give God praise when it seems as if there is nothing for which to praise Him.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver told him, "I always park there. You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday school, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing.
After Sunday school, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still said nothing.
Later, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day in which we can choose to give God praise because praise has very little to do with a holiday or even our circumstances and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, my friend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs this year in ways that we may or may not have understood at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and your power and we celebrate You ...we celebrate life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to go back over the major 2009 events in your life. You know - the ones that immediately come to mind.
Grab your journal and make a list of the five toughest trials you went through last year. Now think about the results of each trial. Did God see you through it? Did you learn a new lesson or truth? Can you give God praise for some part of that trial?
What changes do you need to make in 2010 when it comes to dealing with the difficult moments of life? Record them in your journal and review them often, remembering that God is faithful and sufficient for whatever tomorrow holds.
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Choosing the right backdrop for life is so important. If we are not careful, we will hold up each minute of life against the backdrop of financial devastation, economic uncertainty, difficult relationships or health problems. Yes, I know life is filled with pain but this year, I challenge you to join me in the commitment to measure my life against God's presence and provision, His love and forgiveness and the fact that no matter what happens here, we win, girlfriend!
Need help and encouragement? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful life goals as you discover God's unique plan for your life.
Check out Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, to discover how to manage and control stress instead of allowing stress to manage and control you!
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January 22, 2010
Present Tense Believing
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe" (Ephesians 1:18-19 NIV).
Friend To Friend
In Ephesians 1:13 we read: "And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him, with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit." We believed - past tense - and were saved; sealed, delivered ... we're His! It was completed in the past, once and for all time.
Now let's read a little further down in Ephesians 1:18. "I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe." We received salvation when we believed (past tense). We have great power when we believe (present tense).
The Greek word for believe that is used in Ephesians 1:18 is a present active participle. That means it is a continuous action verb. Bible teacher Beth Moore explains: "In other words, the promise given in verses 19-20 is not applied to those 'having believed' as in verse 13 where they had believed to become Christians. Rather, it is applied to those who are presently, actively, and yes, continually believing God."
Maybe you believed in Jesus and experienced salvation. But do you believe the Word of God by faith and understand that you have the same power working in your life that raised Jesus from the dead? It is available to you if you believe.
A sapling planted in the ground does not become more of a tree as it grows, it just becomes stronger and more mature. Writer Neil Anderson compares our spiritual growth to a tree: "The growth stage cannot alter the organism; it can only ensure that the organism reaches its greatest potential." As a tree's roots grow deeper it produces a greater display of leaves, more shade and beauty for others to enjoy, and stronger branches for tire swings and bird's nests, but it's still a tree. The moment you come to Christ, you are saved and become a saint by calling with a whole new identity. There is nothing you can do to make your identity truer than at the very moment you accept Christ as your Savior, but there is much you can do to have more power in your life as you mature.
It begins by believing the truth. It is a step of faith. "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1). It is "acting like God tells the truth."
Are you ready to start practicing present tense believing today? Are you ready to experience God's power in your life! If you answered yes, then buckle up. God's power is about to be demonstrated in your life in a mighty way!
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Thank You for giving me the gift of faith. Forgive me when I doubt You. Today, I am choosing to believe. Even if circumstances seem bleak, I know that You are who you say You are and You will do what You say You will do.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are you believing God for today? Let's hold each other accountable.
Visit my blog and write it out. (www.sharonjaynes.com/blog) Sometimes writing out what you are believing God for helps to solidify your faith and we can hold each other accountable!
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Need a "faith lift" today? Want to learn more about how to practice present tense believing? Then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover.)
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January 25, 2010
Salt and Light
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
"You are the salt of the earth. You are the light of the world" (Matthew 5:12,13 NIV).
Friend To Friend
You are the salt of the earth.
Have you ever tasted potatoes without salt added? They are bland, blasé, and blah. Likewise, a world without Christians would be very unappealing.
Salt has three primary purposes. It preserves, heals, and gives flavor. As Christians, one of our privileges is to preserve what is right and good in the world in which we live. Satan is referred to as a roaring lion. He prowls around seeking to rip Judeo-Christian values from the government, public schools, entertainment industry, and the very fabric of life. Christians, on the other hand, serve to preserve the values of our godly heritage.
Salt is also an effective healing agent. Gargling with salt water helps heal a sore throat, swimming in a salty sea helps heal a skinned knee, and fellowshipping with "salty" Christians helps heal wounded souls by introducing them to spiritual, mental and physical wellness afforded them through a relationship with Jehovah Rapha - the One who heals.
The most common use of salt is to add flavor, and as Christians, we add flavor to our world. A gourmet cook once told me that salt not only gives food the salty flavor, but it also brings out the natural flavor of the food to which it is added. As Christians, we should bring out the best in other people as well.
You are the light of the world.
Jesus said, "You are the salt of the earth." He also said, "You are the light of the world."
For eighteen years, I worked as a Dental Hygienist. Fourteen of those years I worked with my husband, Steve, and four to six other Christian women. When I think back on those days, I see our team as a chandelier of light: individual yet united to shine the light of Christ to our patients. In the reception room, Newsweek, Southern Living, and Better Homes and Gardens were mixed in with Focus on the Family, Guidepost, and Decision magazines.
Steve and his assistant volleyed ideas about various aspects of the Christian faith back and forth like a tennis ball over a net while they worked on patients. Talk about a captive audience! We prayed with patients, sent them books, and listened to their family problems. Someone once asked, "Aren't you afraid you'll offend someone and lose patients?"
"Someone might leave," I answered. "But a person can get into heaven with a cavity, but they can't get to heaven without knowing Christ."
In our own simple way, we were being light in a very dark world.
Think for a moment about what light does. It drives out darkness. Even the smallest birthday candle in a darkened coliseum will push the darkness aside. Jesus encourages Christians not to hide their light under a bushel, but to put it on a stand to be seen by all. Jesus said He was the light of the world. He has put that same light in you. It is part of your new identity.
Robert Louis Stevenson said, "When a happy man comes into a room, it is as if another candle has been lighted." How much more does a Christian who has something to be truly happy about light up a room!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I look around and see what the world would be like if all the Christian influences were removed. Help me to make a difference in my sphere of influence, bring the healing of Jesus Christ with those I come in contact, and encourage the best in others to surface. Help me be salt and light in the world.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think this verse means? "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men" (Matthew 5:13).
What do you think this verse means? "You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house" (Matthew 5:14,15).
I'd love to hear your answers. Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and let's chat.
Think of one way that you and your family can be salt and light in the world today.
Try sprinkling a little salt by giving words of encouragement to at least five people today.
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I don't know about you, but I want to be a salty Christian! If you would like to learn more about your role as salt and light in the world, you'll want to check out Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book by Sharon Jaynes was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover). It's sure to make you thirsty for more of the only One who can quench your thirst!
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January 26, 2010
Directions
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Coritntians 5:7 "For we walk by faith, not by sight."
Friend To Friend
I am terrible at directions. I can totally understand up, down, left and right and have often wondered why all directions are not limited to those four simple words. Trying to read a map gives me a headache and I would starve to death if I had to make a living as a navigator. My husband has finally quit handing me the atlas to find anything on any trip we take together. That's what billboards and road signs are for - right?
Moving to a new city presents a whole new set of problems for people like me who are directionally challenged but I have learned to cope. I tend to find my way by using landmarks.
When we first moved to Charlotte, North Carolina, I needed directions to the high school our daughter would attend. Instead of whipping out a map, I asked one of the local farmers if he could tell me where the high school was and how I could get there. "Well, you go down this road until you come to the red light just before the one at the big grocery store on the right and the Methodist church on the left. If you get to the church or grocery store, you have gone one light too far. Now, take a right and keep going straight until you pass the goat farm. Turn left on the first street after the goat farm and then follow that street until it quits. Then turn right and the high school is just a hop, skip and a jump away." Now those are what I call directions!
I fumbled my way around Charlotte until our son rescued me. Jered usually has no problems with directions and can actually comprehend the concept of a map very well. From the time Jered could read, Dan placed an atlas in his little hands at the beginning of every family vacation and announced, "Son, you are our navigator." As a teenager and now as an adult, Jered can always reach his destination. However, even Jered had a hard time finding his way around Charlotte - until the day he found an aerial map of the city. "I took one look at Charlotte from the air and it all fell into place, Mom." The same is true in life.
We can seek advice from others about the roads we should take and the turns we should make. We can follow the steps of those who are successful by human standards and we can navigate our way through life by using certain landmarks as our guide. Human triumphs, personal achievements, individual power and earthly wealth all seem like worthy destinations and goals for life, don't they? The problem with that mindset is that they are temporary, lifeless and have no eternal value.
We are lost without God's direction. Fortunately, He has handed us an eternal plan and perspective for our life journey. It is called the Bible.
Let's Pray
Father, I thank You for the power of prayer and for how it guides my path in the right direction. Help me to listen for Your voice above all others. Give me a hunger and thirst for the Word of God and the discipline to apply it in my life. I yield my plan to You and accept yours in return.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. How does this verse apply to your life ... right now?
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6. Identify the five steps you must take in order to see and do God's will for your life.
Set aside some time today to surrender all that you know about you ... to all that you know about God.
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It seems like so many people love me and have a plan for my life. The problem is that they all sound like great plans. But it really does not matter how great those plans sound because the only one that matters is the plan God has for me. His plan is the only plan that guarantees purpose and a meaningful life. The good news is that God longs to show us the plan He has for our life. We just need to keep our gaze on Him, our glance on the circumstances and listen for His voice spoken through the Bible.
Need help? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, as she begins 2010 with the series, "Aim at Nothing ... And You Will Hit It!" Learn how to set meaningful and powerful goals that can change the entire direction of your life. Don't settle for anything less that what God has in mind for you.
Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear. It is a great study for your personal quiet time as well as for a small group.
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January 27, 2010
Exchanging the Old for the New
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit" (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Julianna came out of the womb ready to meet every challenge with determination, every celebration with enthusiasm, and every mystery with the passion of discovery. Her fiery red hair was matched only by her fiery personality. She never did anything half-way, but with the throttle full speed ahead. Of the Price's three children, Julianna was the one who frequented the emergency room for stitches due to throwing caution to the wind as she whirled through her childhood.
One day when Julianna was twelve years old, she rushed out her front door on her way to dance class. She slammed the door behind her as she hurried to catch her ride, but the door closed before all of her fingers followed her body across the threshold. Now you have probably have slammed your fingers in a door a time or two, and can remember wincing a bit. But Julianna never does anything half-way. She jerked to a sudden halt, spun around quickly, and saw her appendages trapped in the closed door. When she opened the door to remove her hand, she was horrified to discover that all of it was not there. She had amputated the upper third of her second right finger.
"Help! Somebody help me! I've just cut off my finger!"
Fortunately, the woman picking her up for dance class was a nurse. She rushed to the screaming ballerina. "Julianna, where's your mom?" she asked.
"She's not here," Julianna answered between sobs. "Nobody's here but Daniel."
"Quick," the neighbor instructed, "Let's put some pressure on that nub. Daniel, come help us!" she yelled.
Daniel, Julianna's fifteen-year-old brother, ran down the stairs at the cry for help.
"Julianna's just cut her finger off. You have to find it. We've got to put it in ice and take her to the hospital right away."
A pale-faced Daniel went to the scene of the accident. As he hung his head, he saw the finger lying at his feet. Trying not to lose his breakfast, Daniel picked up his sister's digit in a towel and handed it over to the nurse.
Well the good news is that they got to the hospital in time. The skilled doctor put Humpty-Dumpty back together again and told them to pray that the finger would reattach.
"We'll keep our fingers crossed," he said with a grin as he walked out of the treatment room.
A few days later Julianna unwrapped the bandages, afraid of what she might find underneath. What she saw was not a pretty sight. Instead of a finger, she saw a black mushroom-like thimble sitting atop her nub.
"Doctor, we took the bandage off today. It's black and crusty and looks like a mushroom cap," her mom reported. "It looks dead."
"That's fine," he reassured her. "Don't worry. If nature is working properly, and it sounds like it is, the top will turn black, but underneath, nerves and blood vessels are reattaching. Underneath the thimble, a new finger is forming. She needs the old part in order for the new part to form underneath. In about three weeks, we'll know if the procedure worked. Just keep it wrapped and clean."
A few weeks after the accident, Julianna came to spend the night with us while she was attending a dance camp in my hometown. I had the pleasure of her company and the displeasure of changing her bandage. Her description was accurate.
Four weeks after Julianna had returned home, she wrote me a thank-you note for having her in our home. She ended by saying, "P.S. Guess what? My crusty thimble fell off and I have a new finger!"
Now don't ask me how this happened. It is a mystery to me. But scripture tells of another mystery that is just as amazing. Another grafting process that is just as miraculous. When God warned Adam and Eve not to eat of fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, He told them that their punishment for disobedience would be death. They did eat - and immediately their spirits died- their zoe life was taken away and they were cut off from God. As a result, every person after that time has been born with a dead spirit, including you and me.
But God didn't leave us that way. God demonstrated His love toward us, that while we were still a sinner (cut off, dead, rotten to the core), Christ died for us and made it possible for us to be grafted onto the living root - Himself (Romans 5:8, Romans 11:17). At the very moment we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior, we receive a new living spirit (zoe life) to replace our old dead spirit. In the twinkling of an eye - in the time it takes for us to say, "I believe," we become a spiritually new creation. However, God's process of shaping and molding us into the image of Christ, takes a lifetime. That process is how to become spiritually beautiful.
Paul tells us: "And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit" (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV). Reflecting the Lord's glory! I know of no other beauty treatment that will make a woman truly beautiful.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know I became a new creation in Christ when I became a Christian. But sometimes, I just feel like the same old me. Please help me to become more conformed to the image of Christ today. Take away whatever needs to be taken away to reveal the beauty of You that is in my heart. Help me to be spiritually beautiful today and always.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How would you describe "spiritual beauty?"
Who do you know that exemplifies what "spiritual beauty" looks and acts like?
What do you think makes that person reflect the beauty of Christ?
I'd love to hear your responses. Let's chat. Go to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me what you think makes a woman spiritually beautiful!
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Have you ever felt this way: "If I'm a new creation, then why don't I feel like one and why don't I act like one?" If so, then perhaps you need to read Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book by Sharon Jaynes was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover.) In this book you'll discover the secrets to spiritual beauty and to becoming a radiant Christian woman. It also comes with a Bible Study guide for those who want to spend extra time at God's spa!
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January 28, 2010
Dare to Discipline
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 12:11 (NIV) "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it."
Friend To Friend
I rarely watch television but occasionally flip through channels, in search of a few minutes of mindless entertainment. I especially enjoy shows featuring children in candid conversations because kids really do say the funniest things! The Bill Cosby Show is one of my favorites, especially the shows in which he dialogues with children - one on one. I recently watched an episode where Cosby was talking with one of Rudy's friends, a bright seven-year-old boy. "Do you have any pets?" Cosby asked. The little boy thought for a moment and then replied, "Well, I don't have any pets now, but I used to have some goldfish." Sensing a story, Cosby responded, "Tell me about the goldfish. What happened?" "Well," the boy began, "my science teacher said that our water is too hard for goldfish to live in but my mom puts stuff in the washer to make our clothes soft." Moans rumbled through the audience as the little boy continued, "So ... I got me some of that stuff and put it in the aquarium ... but Rudy said I put too much soft stuff in, 'cause the goldfish softened to death." A lack of Godly discipline in our lives renders us "soft" to the things of God. When we surrender our lives to Him, He sets our feet on the right road. To stay on that road demands Godly discipline.
I am constantly amazed at the arrogance of which I am capable, daring to think I have the power within myself to intimidate Satan or thwart his efforts in my life. I have no power apart from God. I am weak without His strength, vulnerable to sin and a prime target for temptation. I can easily get caught up in human affirmation, my own sense of self-importance or the flattery of others. The result is always spiritual arrogance. The solution is always godly discipline. Godly discipline is not only a hedge of protection in our lives; it is a catalyst for spiritual growth. James Dobson says, "If one examines the secret behind a championship football team, a magnificent orchestra, or successful business, the principle ingredient is discipline."
Now, I know the very word, "discipline", evokes distasteful images of pain, deprivation, sacrifice and surrender when, in fact, true discipline is simply a wholehearted "yes" to God. True discipline neither barters with God for control nor attempts to supersede His plan. Discipline does not make us worthy but is the result of understanding that we are already worthy in God's eyes and living life as a response to that love. We are chosen, loved, bought and purchased by God who has a sacred blueprint for each one of us. Discipline accepts that blueprint, following it with an eager obedience wrapped in sweet abandonment and absolute trust in the architect of the master plan - God. Godly discipline allows us to rest within the framework of God's sovereignty.
When our son, Jered, was seven-years-old, he fell while skateboarding, cut his chin and needed stitches. We raced to the nearest emergency clinic where we were greeted by a young doctor, who at first glance, seemed friendly enough. Jered, however, took one look at the strange man in white and panicked in the midst of his first experience with stitches.
After several attempts to gain Jered's trust and cooperation, the doctor grew impatient and threatened, "Son, this won't hurt. If you cannot be still we will have to put you in restraints." This man obviously did not know who Jered was - mine - nor did he understand that he was now dealing with the wrath of Mary, something too horrible to describe. However, I was more than willing to enlighten him. I could see the warning in Dan's eyes, but chose to ignore it.
I had two major problems with the doctor's statements. First, no restraints were going to be placed on my son. Secondly, of course the stitches would hurt. Glaring at the doctor I firmly explained, "If you will just tell Jered the truth and explain what you are doing he will be still for you." The doctor looked up at me as if I had just arrived from another planet and then, with an edge of sarcasm, spit out, "Right, lady. I know how to handle this." So did I - but before I could rip off his head, Dan intervened, telling the doctor that we did indeed have a plan! I knew what my plan was but thought it wise to consider Dan's plan.
Gently holding Jered's head in his "daddy-sized" hands, Dan softly explained what the doctor would do, how he would do it and sweetly instructed our son to fix his eyes on me while I told him a story. It worked! Jered calmed down and the stitches were done in a matter of minutes. The doctor even offered a sheepish apology, thanking us for teaching him a lesson in working with children. I decided to let him live.
Even though Jered did not fully understand the process or trust the doctor, Jered did fully understand and trust his father. Godly discipline is the basis for trust and is found at the feet of Jesus where we will come to know Him better, love Him more and find the discipline we so desperately crave.
Let's Pray
Father, I need You desperately in my life. I need Your discipline as a hedge of protection. I want my life to count, Lord, and I want to be Your fully devoted follower. Help me to see and do Your plan. Today, I submit my life goals to You and choose to line them up with Your purpose for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Tucked away in my notes are the following words: "The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith and a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success!"
How would you define success? The world defines success in so many ways and most of them are wrong. I believe that a successful life is totally surrendered to God and fully devoted to discovering and doing God's plan for our life. Purpose in life produces success in life.
What are your life goals?
What will you be doing in two years or in five years?
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11.
Read and memorize Philippians 4:14.
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We all want to be successful and live according to the purpose and plan God has for us. Setting meaningful life goals is an important step in that process. Should Christians have life goals? I believe learning how to set life goals that are submitted to God and line up with His will is a Godly discipline. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and get in on the current series, If You Aim at Nothing ... You Will Hit It!
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January 29, 2010
Debbie's Acceptance of Her New Identity
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I delight greatly in the LORD; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels" (Isaiah 6:10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Debbie's paternal grandparents had both a housekeeper and groundskeeper who lived in their basement apartment. Silas and Nina were like part of the family and had lived with the grandparents for as long as Debbie could remember. On many occasions, when Debbie's parents and grandparents went out to dinner, she and her older sister were left in the care of Silas and Nina. The girls' parents had no idea that Silas was molesting their precious children time and time again.
From the time Debbie and Beth were three- and six-years-old, until they were ten and thirteen, Silas fondled and sexually molested the girls in the basement apartment lit only by the black and white television blinking in the background. While Silas ravaged Debbie's body, her sister held her face in her hands and told her stories. Together, the girls escaped to a land faraway while the worse nightmare imaginable was played out before them.
Silas warned them," If you tell anybody, I'll hurt your brother." So the girls suffered in silence.
When Debbie was ten-years-old, she and her sister spent the night with her maternal grandmother while her parents were away on a business trip. The elderly grandmother paused at the opened door to watch her precious granddaughters kneeling beside their bed. With arms wrapped around each other they began to say their prayers.
What began as a tranquil picture of innocence transformed into a nimbus cloud of horrible darkness. Their grandmother clutched her heart as she heard the two little girls pray.
"Dear God, thank you for mommy and daddy and Kevin, and Grandma and Grandpa Wilson, and Grandma James. We pray that you will protect us from Silas and keep him from hurting us and touching us in private places. We pray..."
The rest was a blur.
The sobbing grandmother rushed to the girls and held them to her breast. A few hours later, in the wee hours of the morning, their parents came back from their business trip...two days early. The girls could hear their parents crying in the next room, but nothing was ever mentioned about Silas. All they knew was that the next time they went to Grandma and Grandpa Wilson's house, Silas and Nina were gone.
Years passed with little mention of the years of abuse by Silas. Like old war veterans who never mention the horrors of battle, the girls never mentioned the molestation again. However, the chronic pain of the past was an undercurrent to their total existence. Debbie felt dirty, used, and cheap. She felt like damaged goods.
Debbie accepted Jesus Christ as her Savior when she was a small child, but had a difficult time believing Jesus could accept her. She didn't see herself as a precious holy child of God dressed in robes of righteousness. She saw herself as a dirty orphan dressed in tattered rags. Then one day, she went to a Bible study and heard for the first time about her identity as a child of God.
"I didn't feel like a holy child of God, but that's who the Bible said I was," she explained. "I read and reread that list of who I am in Christ. The more I studied about my new identity and the truth that sets us free, the more I began to accept it as true. I began to realize it was Satan who held up the picture of Silas and what he had done to me - to remind me of who he wanted me to believe I was. But that was a lie. God took the truth and massaged it into my broken heart like a healing ointment. He placed a princess's crown of beauty on my head and washed away the ashes. He gave me the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and dressed me in a garment of praise instead of despair. No longer was my identity determined by what happened to me as a child. My identity is determined by what happened in me through Jesus Christ."
Debbie accepted her new identity. It was there all along, like a cloak waiting to be placed on the princess's regal shoulders. She received the robe of righteousness and now walks with the confidence of a dearly loved child of the King. To me, she looks like a Queen. Debbie is one of my heroes.
This devotion may have been difficult for you to read, but it is very important. No matter what you have been through, if you know Jesus as Savior and Lord, you are a child of the King. Have you accepted your new identity? Are you ready to start believing the truth? Are you ready to put off the ragged robes of shame and put on the robe of righteousness that Jesus purchased just for you with His own life? He's holding it open for you right now. Slip it on. It's just your size.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father who loves me, I come to you with a heart humbled by Your tender love for me. I thank You that You have removed the filthy rags of this world from my life and clothed me with the righteousness of Christ. Help me to hold my head high as a child of the King.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Is there anything in your life that Satan has held up as a distorted mirror of who you are?
What do you need to tell the enemy when he taunts you with the past?
What did Jesus do in the wilderness when the enemy taunted him? If you're not sure, check it out in Matthew chapter 4. The same weapon Jesus used is available to each of us.
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Let's chat. Visit my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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This story was taken from Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes. (This book by Sharon Jaynes was previously titled Experience the Ultimate Makeover.)
If it has touched your heart, you might want to read the entire book to get a firm grip on your new identity in Christ. Also, if you would like a daily reminder of your true identity in Christ, Sharon has a laminated card filled with Scripture that tucks securely in your Bible. Just visit www.sharonjaynes.com.
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February 1, 2010
AAA Club of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband-that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly" (Ephesians 5:33 Amplified).
Friend To Friend
Are you a member of the Triple A Club of Marriage? You didn't know there was such a thing? Well, there's not an official one that you can call if your marriage breaks down, but I have one that I keep in the back of my mind. It stands for adoration, admiration, and appreciation. Did you know that big tough man of yours longs to be admired? He desires for someone to think he's brave and brilliant, loving and logical, tough and tender, handsome and humorous, masculine and magical. That's the stuff of your man's dreams.
What does it mean to adore your husband? Basically, it means to love him with all your heart...and let him know about it. Someone once said, "I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved." Do you want to see your husband's face light up like a full moon? Tell him you are amazed that he knows how to ________ or that you are impressed by his _______, then sit back and watch him glow.
When the TV cameras pan the sidelines of a college football game, my heart always melts in a pool of butter when a young man waves his hand and says those precious two words: "Hi Mom." It's almost like he's saying, "Look at me! Look at me!" The truth is men want to be admired by the woman of their dreams. It starts with mom, and then continues with the Misses.
Where does your husband go for adoration, admiration and appreciation? He goes somewhere. All men do. Does he go to work in hopes of hearing "job well done"? Does he go to the ball field in hopes of hearing "way to go man"? Does he go back home to mother to hear "I'm so proud of you son"? Does he work late in hopes of a few compliments from the gals in the office? Does he feast on compliments from patients or clients? Does he hang out at the gym flexing and building his biceps? Tell me, where does your man go to be admired?
Dr. Willard Harley says, "When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself as capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. That inspiration helps him prepare for the responsibilities of life. Admiration not only motivates, it also rewards the husband's existing achievements. When she tells him that she appreciates him for what he has done, it gives him more satisfaction than he receives from his paycheck. A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become, if he lived up to her standards. For some men - those with fragile self-images - admiration also helps them believe in themselves. Without it these men seem inherently more defensive about their shortcomings....While criticism causes men to become defensive, admiration energizes and motivates them. A man expects - and needs - his wife to be his most enthusiastic fan. He draws confidence from her support and can usually achieve far more with her." (Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs Her Needs (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Fleming H. Revell, 1986) p151.)
You become the mirror in which your husband sees himself. So if he's looking sort of glum lately, maybe you need to renew your membership into the AAA Club of marriage and try a little adoration, admiration and appreciation around your home.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be my husband's biggest fan. Please help me restrain my critical tongue. Help me to see him as You see Him...a child of the King. I do so love my husband; help me to make sure that he knows just how much.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have been withholding admiring words from your husband, it may feel strange to begin giving them. First and foremost, be authentic - be real. If you contrive admiring words, he will be able to tell. Start with one compliment or word of appreciation. It may be as simple as "thank you." Soon the admiration will begin to flow...hopefully both ways. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Place an "I love you sign in a public place." (I put a sign outside of my husband's office window to surprise him on Valentine's Day. The fact that all his patients saw it was an extra boost!)
Write him a love letter.
Write an acrostic from A-Z of reasons you adore, admire, and appreciate him.
Leave an "I love you" message on his voice mail.
Write him a thank you note for something specific he did for you.
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February 2, 2010
Let it Go!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 1:7 (NLT) "He (God) is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven."
Friend To Friend
Our grandson is now six-months old and does something new every day. It seems like just yesterday when Justus was an infant, content to be held and cuddled. Not so much anymore. He has discovered a whole new world of exciting things and wants to grab each one and put it in his mouth. He is one knee away from crawling and is teething two teeth. I hate to admit it, but he is growing up - fast!
One of the first signs of maturing was when Justus started to open his little hands. For the first few weeks of his life, his fingers tightly curled into a tiny fist and stayed that way. However, the day soon came when he extended his little fingers and began to grab anything he could touch. We had to change our perspective and make sure that anything within his reach was helpful - not harmful - to his growth.
Our spiritual maturity is much the same. As we grow in Christ, our faith slowly unfolds in daily obedience as God guides and encourages us to let go of the "old things" and reach for the "new things" he has planned for our lives. However, it is not always easy to let go of those old things.
One of the key factors in my ongoing battle with clinical depression is dealing with and letting go of past sin and pain. The shadows of yesterday can so easily become the dark clouds of today. In order to deal with depression and the darkness life can hold, we must deal with sin - first, in a personal relationship with Christ and then on a daily basis as a believer.
Every believer has two problems when it comes to dealing with sin. First, we must confess sin. I know it sounds simple but so many of us have lost our sensitivity to sin because we are aligned with the world instead of with God. The mark of a believer growing in grace is sensitivity to sin. When I was a little girl, I rarely wore shoes. But when the first day of summer came along, I would kick off my shoes and store them in my closet - wearing them only when absolutely necessary. Even now, I can remember the painful sensations of playing on the gravel road beside our house. The sharp rocks cut and bruised my tender feet - at first - but by summer's end, my feet were rough and calloused. I could run, jump and play for hours on the rocks that had once caused so much pain.
Sin is much the same. The first time we commit a sin, it breaks our heart, but the next time we commit that same sin, it doesn't seem quite as bad. Our heart becomes calloused to that sin we repeatedly commit and a foothold is formed, making a place for depression and darkness to reside. We must confess sin completely, confidently and continually. Jesus is faithful and will keep His promise to forgive and to cleanse us from all sin.
Psalm 103:12 (NIV) "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us."
The second problem we have with sin is forgetting forgiven sin. Is it even possible to experience true forgiveness? While we can't totally blot out a memory, we can make sure it's no longer a live issue in our lives. God's way seems too easy - to just ask for and receive. We act as if the Holy Spirit needs our help or as if what Jesus did on the cross was not enough. We feel like we must make additional payments for our sin by doing something when Micah 7:19 is clear about God's attitude toward our sin, "Once again you will have compassion on us. You will trample our sins under your feet and throw them into the depths of the ocean" (NLT). The problem comes when we revisit confessed sin, when we "go fishing" in the waters of our past.
Sometimes, the darkness in life is the result of sin we have never acknowledged or dealt with. Guilt and shame surround each transgression and since condemnation seems like the logical solution, we allow the darkness to consume us as payment for each sin. If we want to walk in victory, we must make the deliberate choice to face and deal with sin - and then let it go!
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to live today while carrying the baggage of my past. Please give me the courage to face the sins I have tried so hard to bury. Help me to turn away from each one, leaving it in Your hands. Thank You, Lord, for Your grace, Your mercy and Your love. Please fill my heart with the light of Your forgiveness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are you holding onto that is keeping God from filling your life with purpose and power?
Choose to confront that sin.
Deal with it and destroy any paths that might lead you back to that same sin.
Let it go and praise God for the forgiveness He offers.
Read and memorize John 3:16.
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Today's devotion can and will change your life if you apply it personally. You don't have to understand it all to have it all, girlfriend. Accept His love. Surrender the pain and sin of your past to His forgiveness and healing power. Come to Him just as you are.
I believe that we all want to be successful and live according to the purpose and plan God has for us. Setting meaningful life goals is an important step in that process. Should Christians have life goals? I believe learning how to set life goals that are submitted to God and line up with His will is a Godly discipline. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and get in on the current series, If You Aim at Nothing ... You Will Hit It!
Struggling with depression? I have been there, friend, and if God can deliver me, He can and will deliver you. Read how God brought me out of the pit in my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and be encouraged.
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February 3, 2010
Then God Created a Helper
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's devotions will focus on marriage during the month of February.)
Today's Truth
"And the Lord God said, 'It isn't good for man to be alone. I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs'" (Genesis 2:18 TLB).
Friend To Friend
Do you remember the story of Creation recorded in Genesis? I never cease to be amazed at that marvelous beginning of the Book I have grown to love..."In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth." Before the creation of the world, there was nothing. Try to think of...nothing. It's hard to do. Then God molded the earth in His hands, decorated the sky with the sun, moon, and stars, scattered seed of every kind in the soil, released flocks of birds into the sky, swarms of insects into the air, and schools of fish into the sea. Then, on the sixth day, God created all the creeping animals and He created man in His own image. After each masterpiece was completed, God said, "It is good." The only time God said "It is not good," was when He said, "It is not good for man to be alone."
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of man, and he brought her to the man (Genesis 2:20-22).
The New American Standard Bible says God "fashioned" Eve. He took extra special care when He created you. As a matter-of-fact, woman was God's grand finale!
Up to this point in the Genesis recording of creation, Adam had remained silent. However, when he saw the fair Eve, I imagine he said, "Whoa! Now this is good!" We don't know for sure, but we do know that his first recorded words were after laying eyes on God's magnificent gift to him. "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man" (Genesis 2:23).
Eve was created to complete man like two pieces of a puzzle fitting together. The word complete means to fill up; that which is required to supply a deficiency; one or two mutually completing parts. While each translation of the Bible uses a different combination of words to describe Eve, they each contain the word helper. The man was not better than the woman (he was lacking without her). The woman was not better than the man (she was lacking without him). Paul wrote, "However, in the Lord, neither is woman independent of man, nor is man independent of woman" (I Corinthians 11:11). We were designed to depend on and compliment each other. The NIV commentary says this: "Just as the rib is found at the side of the man and is attached to him, even so the good wife, the rib of her husband, stands at his side to be his helper-counterpart, and her soul is bound up with his." (Kenneth L. Barker & John R. Kohlenberger, III, Zondervan NIV Commentary of Old Testament, (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1994), p.8.
While some may bristle at the thought of being called a mere helper, we need only to look at the pages of Scripture to see that helper is a place of great honor. The word helper that is used for woman (ezer) is derived from the Hebrew word used of God and the Holy Spirit (azar) (Strong's Exhaustive Concordance, (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Book House, 1987) 478). Both mean helper - one who comes alongside to aid, assist, or rescue.
King David wrote, "O Lord, be Thou my helper" (Psalm 30:10). "The LORD is with me; he is my helper" (Psalm 118:7). Moses said of God, "My father's God was my helper; he saved me from the sword of the Pharaoh" (Exodus 18:2). In the New Testament, Jesus told the disciples that when He ascended to heaven, His Father would send them another Helper, the Holy Spirit (John 14:16). When we consider that the same word is used for "woman" we should feel honored!
Today, think about your relationship with your husband. Are you a completer or a competitor? Are you a helper or a hindrance? Determine in your heart to be all that God intended you to be as a wife to your man.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am constantly amazed that You saw fit to bring me and my husband together. I admit that sometimes I am more of a hindrance to him than a helper, more of a competitor than a completer. Help me to look for ways that I can be a partner with him to complete him. I do want to be the wife that You created me to be. Help me to listen to Your still small voice when You convict me that I am not.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What comes to mind when you read in the Bible that you were created to be a "helper?"
What are some ways that you can be a helper to your husband this week?
What are some ways that you can be his completer?
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February 4, 2010
The Lord is My Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 10:11 (NIV) "I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep."
Friend To Friend
The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, deserted island. He prayed fervently for God to rescue him. Every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none came. Exhausted, he eventually built a small hut out of driftwood as a shelter and a place to store his few remaining possessions.
One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky. Everything was lost. Stunned with grief and anger, he cried, "God, how you could do this to me!" Early the next day, however, he was awakened by the sound of a ship approaching the island. It had come to rescue him! "How did you know I was here?" the weary man asked. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied.
God is always at work in our lives, even during the most stress-filled moments. When we entrust everything we are and everything we have to God, when we depend upon his truth instead of our own understanding and choose to walk in obedience, God promises to "make our paths straight" (Proverbs 3:6 NLT). No matter how deep the valley, we can count on God for direction. In Proverbs 3:6, "make straight" means "to do right, to make smooth or to be evenly hammered". I love that truth! I can almost see my Father going before me, the hammer of truth in his hand, flattening every fear-filled obstacle, hammering down every mountain of doubt before me so that, when he has made a way, I can cross over. He straightens out the crooked paths, improving my behavior and causing me to do the "right" things.
Valleys are best faced with a total abandonment to the Shepherd of the valley. How many times have we danced with joy on the mountain top then moaned and complained in the valley? God is Lord of the mountain and the valley. I suspect that the most powerful life is lived in the valley - not on the mountain top. Every valley is surrounded by mountains and every valley has a shepherd, a shepherd who will walk with us through the valley, a shepherd who will go before us, leading us out of the valley. When the psalmist wrote these words, he wrote my life message, "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand." (Psalm 40:1-2 NIV)
As a young pastor's wife, I desperately needed help. Grace Chavis, a gifted author and speaker, stepped into my life and was a friend and mentor to me for many years. I will never forget the day I heard she had been diagnosed with terminal cancer. I picked up the phone to call this precious lady, expecting to offer words of comfort and faith. The person who answered the phone could not possibly be Grace! She sounded ecstatic! But it was Grace! I sputtered, "Grace, I must have misunderstood a message I received today saying you had been diagnosed with terminal cancer!" A laugh of pure joy rang in my ears as she said, "Yes! That's right! I am a little out of breath because I am here in my living room, dancing before Jesus and singing, "I'll be with you soon!" I have to tell you that her response blew me away and to this day still challenges my faith. Talk about trust!
No matter where you are today, your Father is there. No matter how deep or long the valley, he is with you, waiting for you to surrender all. Give him your valley, knowing that he will surely lead you out. God has ordained that valley as an altar of sacrifice, an opportunity for him to work through your broken heart and life. Keep your glance on the valley and your gaze on the Shepherd. Begin praising him for your deliverance. It will surely come.
Let's Pray
Father God, my Shepherd. I feel like a lost sheep, a broken lamb. I am desperate for You. I confess that I don't always understand how You work, and tend to doubt You in those times. But I want to trust You as a sheep trusts its shepherd. By faith, I come to You, placing my life in Your hands in total surrender. Thank You for loving me just as I am.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What valley are you facing today?
What is your biggest fear or concern about this valley?
In what way(s) are you like a sheep in this valley?
What do you believe God can and will do to help you navigate this valley?
Read, meditate on and memorize Psalm 40:1-3:
"I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD" (NIV).
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Been there? At the bottom of a valley? Surrounded by mountains? As Jodi, my daughter-in-law, would say, "No worries!" It is a common expression of hers and always reminds me that as long as God is God ... I really don't have any worries. I know that is easy to say and hard to do. Let's challenge each other to live as women who wholly trust God. Amen!
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February 5, 2010
The Worship of Giving
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Acts 4:32 (NIV) "All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had."
Friend To Friend
"What's yours is mine, and what's mine is mine." My husband Brad and I used to joke that this was the unspoken motto of our kids when they were little. Toddlers have no qualms about grabbing a toy, snack, or any random item of interest from other people or pets. It's rare to see a child share her cherished possessions generously.
It can be hard for you and me to share too. Today's media bombards us with marketing campaigns that tell us we are the center of the universe. "You, you, you, you, you!" Time and time again we hear that this life is all about us. The more we have, the happier we'll be. The bigger that bank account, the more blessed the life. I sincerely hope that none of us actually buy these lies. They're dangerous deceptions.
We all have a sharing problem to some degree, don't we? Sometimes we don't want to share our time or our space. Sometimes we don't want to share our loved ones or our gifts. Sometimes we don't want to share our resources. Sometimes we just want to be left to ourselves and don't want to share anything!
God calls each of us to share. The early New Testament church shows us that generous living honors God and blesses others. In Acts 4:32-37; we see an amazing snapshot of generous giving in the early church. The believers were one in heart and mind. They were supernaturally unified to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and you could not find a needy person among them. What a model!
Giving wasn't political. It wasn't mandatory. It wasn't done begrudgingly.
"...They shared everything they had." (Acts 4:32)
"The disciples, each according to his ability, decided to provide help for the brothers living in Judea. This they did, sending their gift to the elders by Barnabas and Saul." (Acts 11:29-30)
"But just as you excel in everything - in faith, in speech, in knowledge, in complete earnestness and in your love for us - see that you also excel in this grace of giving...For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what he does not have." (I Corinthians 8:7,12)
The resources of the believers were God's, and they knew it. They placed what they had before the leaders in selfless acts of worship...for the glory of God and the provision of others. This principle is very important, but it's also very counter-cultural.
The Bible clearly reveals that true life, a blessed life, an abundant life, a purposed life, is, in fact, all about God. What we have, have given birth to, or hold onto is really not our own. It's just on loan to us for a breath of a moment by our more-than-generous Creator. Each day brings us new opportunities to be good stewards.
Let's face it; it's just not always easy or natural to be generous. Perhaps we have been taken advantage of or we've been hurt by another's deception. There are risks to giving.
The generous giving of the early church blessed the lives of their people. When we share what we have, God is honored and needs are met. The risks are worth taking.
I'm not suggesting a Robin Hood philosophy of "take from the rich and give to the poor." And I don't believe in the politics of communism or socialism. This principle of generous giving is Biblical. It's an act of worship to God. It matters to God, and it should matter to us.
We need to reject the toddler mentality of "what's mine is mine." God loves a cheerful giver. We are blessed to give. Tell God today: "Lord, what's mine is Yours. Use it for Your glory!"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for this reminder from Your Word. You are amazingly lavish in Your love for me, and You have given me so much. All I have is Yours. Please help me to excel in the grace and worship of giving. Open my eyes to opportunities to bless others for Your glory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How do you feel about your possessions?
Have you shared generously lately?
Is God bringing anyone to your mind that could use your help or generosity?
Read and meditate on 2 Corinthians 8:1-15
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Hey friend. I know that this is a sensitive subject to some of you. Maybe your husband won't tithe. Perhaps you don't even know how you will pay your rent this month. God knows your heart. He loves you greatly. Remember, giving isn't always about money. We can give in many ways; service, an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a dinner to a new mom, or time spent with an elderly friend. Now...go bless someone today!!
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February 8, 2010
A Husband's Prayer Warrior
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's devotions will focus on marriage during the month of February.)
Today's Truth
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Of all the roles and responsibilities that God has given wives, the position of a prayer warrior or intercessor is perhaps the greatest of all. An intercessor is a person who intervenes or prays for another person. It was derived from the Greek word, enteuxis, which means to go before a King with a petition or plea on behalf of someone else. In essence, it means the same thing today. We go before the King of Kings with a petition or plea on someone's behalf. What we accomplish on our knees in the invisible realm will ultimately affect the strength of our marriage in the visible realm. There is no other person who is more called or more qualified to pray for your man than you.
In the Bible, God describes the marriage of a man and a woman as a visual example of the spiritual union between Jesus Christ and the church (all Christians). Believers are called "the bride of Christ" (Revelation 19:7). We are walking, talking, earthly examples of the heavenly relationship between God's Son and those who believe on His name. God instructs men, "Love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25).
There is someone who wants to destroy that living example, and his name is Satan. Jesus said, "The thief (Satan) comes to steal, kill, and destroy" (John 10:10). He desires to destroy the God-ordained and designed institution of marriage. He began with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and continues his destructive tactics even today. Satan is not very creative, but he's very effective, and he uses the same temptations and tactics today that he used in the first marriage on earth. Satan has proclaimed an all out assault on the family and he begins at the top - with the husband and wife.
So many times we fail to see the real enemy in our marital struggles. The writer of Ephesians explains, "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12). When I am having a conflict with my husband, I need to stop, take a deep breath, and think...who is the real enemy here? There is a spiritual battle raging all around us that we can't even see, but is very real. It is the greater reality. It is a battle that is not to be feared, but one that is to be recognized and fought in the only place where it can be won - in prayer.
Let's Pray:
Dear Lord, I pray for my husband, from head to toe.
His Head -That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes -That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth - That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:14)
His Neck -That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His feet - That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
Now It's Your Turn
Consider asking your husband for some specific ways that you can pray for him today.
Look up each of the Scripture references above and make the prayer for your husband specific to his particular needs.
Find one friend with whom you can pray for your marriage. Commit to pray for each other's marriage on a regular basis.
I'd love to hear how you pray for your husband. Please visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share how you pray for your husband.
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Praying for your husband is one of your most important roles as a wife. If you would like a more comprehensive list of Scriptural prayers to pray for your husband (over 100), you can find them in Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Also, Sharon has the prayer above laminated on a prayer card that can be tucked in your Bible for easy reference. Just log onto http://www.sharonjaynes.com/ and click on books and audio.
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February 9, 2010
Harnessing our Anger
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 19:11 "People with good sense restrain their anger."
Friend To Friend
I once heard it said that small pots boil over quickly and so do small people. Ouch! I don't want to be a small person known for her quick temper but I need help with harnessing my anger. The life of Nehemiah gives us a wonderful example of how to control and deal with anger. Nehemiah had come back to Jerusalem from a high position in the court. He had come to supervise the rebuilding of the Jerusalem walls. A delegation of Hebrews had come with him, hoping to make a profit and proceeded to take advantage of the poor by enslaving widows and children and by taking the property of people who were sick and unable to defend themselves. Nehemiah was furious but still models for us the right way to deal with anger.
Nehemiah 5:6-7 "When I heard their outcry and these charges, I was very angry. I pondered them in my mind and then accused the nobles and officials. So I called together a large meeting to deal with them."
In this passage, we find four ways to deal with anger.
Admit anger.
We must be honest about our anger, which can be a problem if we don't like to admit we are angry. We have convinced ourselves that if we deny our anger, we don't have to deal with it. Consequently, we disguise anger by wrapping it in sarcasm, gossip, criticism, complaining, silence or aggression. It simmers on a back burner until one day, it explodes all over our life and we wonder where in the world that came from. To deal with our anger, we must be willing to say the words, "I am very angry!" That's emotional integrity and pleases God. 1 Chronicles 29:17 applauds transparency when it says, "I know, my God, that you examine our hearts and rejoice when you find integrity there". We must be real in order to be right. When you are angry, be honest enough to admit it.
Postpone anger.
Proverbs 29:11 "A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waits and lets it grow cool."
To "cool it" is a spiritual exercise. When our daughter was about six-years-old, she and I were engaged in a battle of wills. I wanted her to go to sleep but she had other plans for the evening, none of which included sleep. When she figured out that I was not going to give in, Danna stomped to her room in a fit of fury. In a few minutes, I went in to make peace. I opened the door to see her sitting on the bed, arms crossed, teeth clinched and eyes flashing! "Danna, let's talk about this", I said. To which she responded, "Mama, I can't talk right now. My mad is too big!"
When Jesus saw the money changers in His Father's temple, He was angry but He stopped - stepped over to the side and began braiding a whip. Now, it was not because He had taken "Whip Braiding 101." Jesus was "cooling it" because His mad was too big. Then with harnessed anger, Jesus drove the money changes out. In other words, the longer you hold your temper, the more it improves. As Paul Harvey would say, "Join me tomorrow for the rest of the story" as we explore two more ways to harness anger.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess to You that I have failed in the ways I have been dealing with my anger. But I want to do it Your way from now on. Fill my life with Your peace. And when I am angry, Lord, please guide me and empower me to walk in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize and meditate on the following verses. Make them a part of your arsenal in the battle to deal with anger:
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit."
Proverbs 14:16b "A fool is hotheaded and reckless."
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh one stirs it up."
Ephesians 4:31 "Do not be bitter or angry or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others."
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Every one of us deals with anger on a daily basis. The problem is that we deal with it in the wrong way. I want to be like Nehemiah and please God by dealing with anger His way. I know you want the same thing.
One of the most powerful tools in dealing with emotions - especially anger - is the Word of God. Reading and studying the Bible will equip you to harness anger and use its power for good in your life. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join hundreds of women from across the world as we study the Bible.
Struggling with depression? I have been there, friend, and if God can deliver me, He can and will deliver you. Read how God brought me out of the pit in my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and be encouraged.
We can also connect through e-mail or on Facebook! I would love to hear how you harness the anger in your life! Let's talk!
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February 10, 2010
Harnessing Your Anger - part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 19:11 "People with good sense restrain their anger."
Friend To Friend
Just about the time I think I have learned to control anger, I am blindsided by a critical word or a hurtful comment and discover that the capacity to explode in anger is still present in my life - but so is the power of God and that makes the impossible possible. On my own, I could not possibly control my emotions but through the power of the Holy Spirit, I can. God created us with the capacity for strong emotions but He also gave us boundaries for controlling those emotions instead of allowing them to control us.
Yesterday, we talked about Nehemiah and how his life beautifully models the choices we must make in controlling and harnessing anger. First, we must admit our anger because emotional integrity begins at the point of emotional transparency and authenticity. Be honest about the fact that you are angry and then learn to control and harness that emotional power.
Proverbs 29:11 is very clear when it says, "A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waits and lets it grow cool." Sometimes the first step in dealing with anger is to postpone it for a time - until you can make the right decision about the next step. In other words, learn to "cool it."
Dismiss your anger.
James 1:19-21 "Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants. So put out of your life every evil thing and every kind of wrong."
When anger strikes, we need to stop and ask ourselves some important questions:
· Why am I really angry?
· Is it important?
· Will it matter in a year?
· What action do I need to take?
And sometimes, we should simply dismiss our anger.
Proverbs 19:11 "A wise person is patient. He will be honored if he ignores a wrong done against him".
Maturity is the ability to overlook a hurt, to dismiss anger. Our children went through a stretch when everything Danna did irritated her brother. Jered has a big temper and God was using Danna to teach him how to control it. One day, when Jered was very frustrated and on the edge of losing it, I took him aside and said, "You have a choice. You can be angry and frustrated every time your sister does something that you don't like, or you can choose to throw your anger away! We came up with the "mad board", a piece of wood with nails driven in half-way. We then told Jered that when he got angry, he could go to the garage - hammer the nails all the way into the board and then throw the board away. We all need "anger boards" of some kind. Pray, meditate on a verse about anger, count to ten, make good use of a punching bag, take a long walk or a cold shower. You get the idea! Some anger should simply be dismissed as unworthy to occupy space in our lives.
Resolve your anger.
1 Peter 3:8 "All of you should live together in peace."
When we can't dismiss our anger because it is attached to an important issue, we have to resolve it. We postpone anger for a short time only to decide if we need to dismiss it or resolve it.
Ephesians 4:26-27 "When you are angry, do not sin, and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. Do not give the devil a way to defeat you."
We must deal with anger on a daily basis. When we hold on to anger, it hardens, settling into our soul and taking root as bitterness. Satan loves bitterness, making it a dwelling place from which he dispenses defeat. When we hold on to anger, it becomes an open door for other sins to rush in. Shut that door by learning to deal with and harness your anger.
Let's Pray
Father, it is so easy to let my emotions spiral out of control. I do not want to live life that way. I want to honor You with my emotional responses. I want others to see You when my emotional buttons are pushed. Examine my heart, Lord, and show me any anger there. Please help me to be honest about that anger and be committed to resolving it in a way that pleases You. Today, I surrender my emotions to Your control.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take an emotional inventory. Is there unresolved anger in your life? Today is the day to deal with it. Identify that anger right now and follow the four steps we have talked about to deal with it.
Admit
Postpone
Dismiss
Resolve
Make a commitment and choice to submit every emotion to God's control.
Instead of trusting your emotions, trust the Word of God. Read and memorize the verses of Scripture from these two devotions on harnessing anger. Record each verse in your journal.
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I pray that these two devotions have given you at least one new truth about dealing with anger. Now take that truth and apply it to your life. Let's pray for each other - to become women who, through the power of God, can harness their anger and use it for good.
One of the most powerful tools in dealing with emotions - especially anger - is the Word of God. Reading and studying the Bible will equip you to harness anger and use its power for good in your life. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join hundreds of women from across the world as we study the Bible.
Struggling with depression? I have been there, friend, and if God can deliver me, He can and will deliver you. Read how God brought me out of the pit in my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and be encouraged.
We can also connect through e-mail or on Facebook! I would love to hear how you harness the anger in your life! Let's talk!
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February 10, 2010
Filled to the Brim
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"Jesus said to the servants, 'Fill the jars with water'; so they filled them to the brim" (John 2:7 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Shortly after Jesus was baptized, he attended a wedding reception in the town of Cana, in Galilee. Apparently Jesus felt very comfortable at such a party, and I imagine Him laughing, mingling, and having a good time with His friends. On the third day of the festivities, Mary, Jesus' mother, noticed that they were running out of wine. For a host to run out of wine at a Jewish wedding celebration was an embarrassment and disgrace. Leave it to a woman to notice the party details. Leave it to a woman to know where to go for help.
Mary turned to her son and said, "They have no more wine," (John 2:3 NIV) as if she expected Him to do something about it. I can almost see her raised eyebrow and the mischievous twinkle in her eye.
Jesus said, "Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not yet come" (John 2:4).
Mary turned to the servants and said, "Do whatever He tells you." Mary seemed to understand Jesus' power before anyone else.
Jesus told the servants to fill six large thirty gallon stone pots with water. So they filled them "to the brim." Then He told them to draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.
One of the servants dipped his ladle into the jar and poured rich aromatic red wine into a goblet. I imagine he couldn't keep his eyes off of the miracle he held in his hands. Reverently the servant passed the cup to the master of ceremonies.
The master then called out to the bridegroom and said, "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
I often wonder what would have happened if the servants had filled the pots half full or three fourths full. I imagine Jesus would have transformed exactly what they put in. Likewise, God will transform just as much of our lives as we give Him. As for me, I want to "fill it to the brim," give Him all of my life - every bit of it. It is the same with my marriage. I want to give Jesus all of my marriage...to the brim. So in our winter years, my husband and I will agree...we have saved the best till now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be like the servants who did exactly what you told them to do. My desire is to obey you fully...to the brim. Help me not to hold back anything but give You all of me so that you can transform me totally.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How much of your marriage do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your marriage have you given Him?
How much of your attitude do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your attitude have you given Him?
How much of your __________ do you want Jesus to transform? (You fill in the blank.) How much have you given Him?
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Please visit my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes to share your comments.
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Today's devotion was taken from Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If there is one area of our lives that we need to give totally to Christ, it is our marriage. Perhaps that's why Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding. To learn more about how to have an incredible marriage, visit www.sharonjaynes.com and follow the links to read an excerpt or watch a video of Sharon's book.
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February 12, 2010
Envy - Wrecking
Rhonda Rhea
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Rhonda Rhea.
Today's Truth
Psalm 37:8 (NLT) "Do not envy others--it only leads to harm."
Friend To Friend
I have a friend who looks good in absolutely everything she puts on. Argh! The girl could drape herself in the cover of her car and look classy enough for the fashion runway. If I draped myself in a car cover, I guarantee I would look more like a Buick. And I'll just go ahead and admit that I need to drop a few pounds off these fenders. My bumpers are a bit of a wreck, too.
Envy is such a dangerous thing. It throttles peace--and worse, it leads to anger, even rage. Psalm 37:8 says, "Stop your anger! Turn from your rage! Do not envy others--it only leads to harm." (NLT) The envious, angry person experiences painful harm personally. Proverbs 14:30 tells us that, "...envy, jealousy, and wrath are like rottenness of the bones." (AMP) Our own personal rottenness. It can be a total life-wrecker but it's even more than just personal rottenness. That harmful, rotten disposition often spreads, spilling over onto family and friends.
How do we avoid bone-rotting envy and wrath? We replace them with love. 1 Corinthians 13:4 tells us that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy..." (NIV) Love is the opposite of envy.
Anytime we catch ourselves envying, we can ask God to love the person we envy through us. He loves to answer that prayer. As he gives us love for the ones we're tempted to envy, we discover that love, just as 1 Corinthians teaches, always wants the very best for others. Instead of envying, love rejoices in their victories!
Rejoicing in victory; that's the Jesus way. Yes, rejoicing in the victories of others ... even if those others have exceptionally sleek fenders.
Let's Pray
Oh Father, please show me every area of sneaky, rotten jealousy and envy that might be hiding in my heart. I'm depending on You to help me tear down those sinful, envious places by Your power. Give me Your amazing grace and please help me show that grace to others. May I, by Your love, mature to the place where I can rejoice in every good thing that comes to those I meet, knowing that good things come from You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there anyone who seems to have it all together in every aspect of her life? Is there someone who seems to always succeed in areas where you struggle? Are there times when you would find pleasure in seeing her fail?
Confess that sin of envy and ask the Lord to replace it with his love. Understand that he longs to answer that prayer.
Practice rejoicing for that person in her every success, and pray every day this week for God to bless her in new and special ways.
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As you're praying daily for the success of the person you're tempted to envy, don't you just love it when you find God doing an incredible work in your heart? You may actually find yourself wanting the very best for slender-fender girl. Who would've thought it? I just love it when our gracious God works like that!
For more topics like this, check out High Heels in High Places: Walking Worthy in Way Cute Shoes and other books by Rhonda Rhea.
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February 15, 2010
No More Nagging
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions are focused on marriage.)
Today's Truth
James 5:16 (TNIV) "The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."
Friend To Friend
There are some verses in the Bible that I wish God had just left out. Here are a few:
"A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping" (Proverbs 19:13).
"A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand" (Proverbs 27:15, 16).
"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife" (Proverbs 21:19).
"Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife" (Proverbs 25:24).
OK, that's about all I can take right now. When I wrote the book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, I surveyed and interviewed men about what they longed for in a wife. One thing that men repeatedly mentioned was their aversion to nagging. Drip, drip, drip. Webster defines nagging as to scold or find fault with repeatedly, to cause annoyance by scolding or repetition. Interestingly, a nag is also an inferior or aged horse. The best remedy to cure ourselves from being a nagging wife is to become a praying wife. Jesus invites us to stop nagging our husbands and begin nagging God!
Here's what Jesus had to say:
Then he said to them, "Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, `Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.'
"Then the one inside answers, `Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man's boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs.
"So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened" (Luke 11:5-9).
In the Greek, the original language of the New Testament, the words ask, seek, and knock are present participle verbs. That means that the more accurate translation would read, ask and keep on asking, seek and keep on seeking, knock and keep on knocking. God invites us to be persistent in our prayers for our husbands. We can give our worries and cares to God and leave it up to Him to do the rest. "Cast all your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you" (Psalms 55:22). "Cast all your anxiety on Him for He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). Remember, you don't want to be your husband's mother...you want to be the wife of his dreams.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I confess that sometimes I nag my husband ... alright, maybe more than sometimes. But Lord, I am determining in my heart to stop nagging my husband and start being consistent and persistent in prayer. My husband is Your workmanship, not mine. Forgive me when I try to yank the paint brush from Your hand and create brushstrokes of my own. I pray that I can be the woman that he needs in order for him to become the man that You desire.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think a nag sounds like?
Do you ever nag your husband? I know that is a silly question, but answer it any way. Confession is good for the soul J
If there are things that you tend to nag your husband about, try this. Write them down on a piece of paper, turn the list over to God, and then turn off the leaky faucet. Give it a try. You might be surprised!
I'd love to hear how God has used prayer in your marriage. Visit my Facebook page and let's chat. While you're there sign up! www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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Nagging just seems to come natural for most of us girls. But God calls us to live super-naturally. For more on how to be the woman of your man's dreams, you'll want your own copy of Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. Visit her website to read an excerpt.
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February 16, 2010
A Psalm 23 Life
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1-6 (NIV) "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever."
Friend To Friend
As I drove home from a busy day of running errands, my thoughts drifted to the absurd schedule through which I had hurled myself that day. It was a schedule without margins or boundaries, every moment assigned to something or someone. My stress level grew with every task, threatening to overwhelm my heart and soul in a torrential downpour of anxiety and tension. I couldn't wait to get home, change into my comfort clothes of sweatshirt and jeans and sink into solitude and rest. But stress was waiting to greet me, just inside my front door. Children needed clean clothes, hot food, transportation to various events, help with homework and a listening ear. My husband had experienced the same kind of chaotic day I had and was in desperate need of peace and quiet for his frazzled soul. Ah, life!
Stress is a familiar and faithful companion, an unavoidable part of life. It doesn't matter where we work or live, whether we are married or single; have no children or dozens of them, are filthy rich or dirt poor. We will encounter stress as we strive to honor God by becoming His fully devoted followers. Unless we learn how to manage stress - God's way - we will become a sitting duck for the enemy.
Stress management is a spiritual discipline. The truth of Psalm 23:1 is the starting place for dealing with stress. Life begins here - in a vital, personal relationship with the living, peace giving God. It is very frustrating to try living the Christian life when you are not one. I know. For years, I tried desperately to be a Christian, saved by knowledge and good works. It simply cannot be done. To know who we are, we must understand whose we are.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words and did all the right things. I prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for God. During a Saturday evening worship service, I sat in a church pew, wrestling with God over my soul. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist in worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I argued that I knew all about God - and then it hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I did not know Him. That night we met. I surrendered all I knew about myself to all I knew about Him. The course of my life was re-set and I was changed forever.
Over the years, there have been times when sin has hindered my relationship with God - but it has not and cannot sever that relationship. Nothing can separate us from His love. However, when we cherish and harbor sin, life inevitably spirals into a swirling cesspool of chaos where stress reigns and self-doubt flourishes. What a powerful promise found in 1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sin, He is faithful to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness". Every time I read that verse, I am amazed by the hope it conveys. When we confess sin, God not only forgives that sin but removes the stain it leaves behind. The stain of sin is one of Satan's favorite weapons. With it, he births guilt and shame, crippling us spiritually. When we buy into those lies, allowing them free reign, we are telling God that sending His son to die on the cross was not enough. I cannot even imagine what it must do to His heart, as He watches His children settle for so little when He offers so much. Knowing whose we are empowers us to live and serve from His love - not to it - and is the first key in dealing with stress.
I have spent a great deal of my life wondering who and what I am. Much of my stress and frustration could have been avoided by understanding that my identity can only be found in a personal relationship with God... I am His sheep and He is my Shepherd. That knowledge frees me - to be me. Knowing whose we are brings peace and settles our souls.
Today, sit at His feet. Allow Him to draw you into His arms. Listen to His heart and voice. And you will know that you belong to Him. Nothing else matters.
Let's Pray
Father, I thank You for loving me and for making me Your child. As I face each day, help me to remember that I am Yours, Lord and because I belong to You, I have everything I need and can truly dwell in peace. Today, I choose to trust and rest in You, my Shepherd and my God.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify the most stressful areas of your life. Read Psalm 23 every day this month, committing each one of these areas to the Good Shepherd. As you walk through each stress-filled day, lean on the truths of this psalm. At the end of the month, evaluate your stress level.
I encourage you to list the sins that stand between you and God. Face them, deal with them and turn away from them. Perhaps you have sinned against someone. Don't wait another minute. Ask their forgiveness. Sin that has never been confessed is a stronghold of the enemy from which he dispenses guilt, condemnation and stress.
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Stressed out? I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day for one month and see what happens to your stress level!
The Bible will help you deal with the stress in your life. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join hundreds of women from across the world as we study God's Word together.
If you want more on this topic, check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap or take a look at my CD, MP3 and E-Book Bible Study on stress management.
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February 17, 2010
Man's Best Friend
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"The LORD God said, 'It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'" Genesis 2:18 NIV
Friend To Friend
For thirteen years, our family was blessed with a Golden Retriever named Ginger. We gave her to our son, Steven, for Christmas when he was five-years-old and she still holds the blue ribbon as the best present ever. I can still remember the look of surprise on Steven's cherub face when the "stuffed" animal began to move. "It's a puppy!" he exclaimed. "It's not a toy!"
And while Ginger was officially Steven's dog, and I was unofficially her primary caretaker, it was my husband who held a special place in her heart. From the very beginning, Ginger loved my husband the best.
Ginger lollygagged her days away by sleeping in the driveway or lounging by the back stoop steps. However, when my husband's car entered the neighborhood and turned the corner onto our shady Stratfordshire Drive, Ginger's ears perked up and her eyes began to beam. Suddenly infused with a burst of anticipatory energy, she would jump to her feet and run in circles. "He's home! He's home!" she seemed to say.
When Steve pulled into the garage and opened his car door, Ginger whined, ran to greet him and rested her head on his left leg while he cooed and rubbed her ears. Steve's homecoming was the highlight of her day.
No wonder dog is called "man's best friend." Ginger was loyal, didn't nag, and loved Steve no matter how much or how little attention he paid to her on any given day. She was very forgiving and almost immediately forgot any injustice such as withholding her dinner when we ate in her presence or being left behind when we traveled on vacation. Often at the mere sight of Steve, Ginger rolled over on her back and beckoned him to rub her tummy. She always responded to his touch like it was heaven on earth. What man wouldn't love such a response from "his girl?"
And yet, when God created Adam and placed him the garden, only to determine that "It is not good for man to be alone," He did not create a dog to be his loyal companion. God created a woman to fill the void in his life. She was called an ezer in the Hebrew - the original language of the Old Testament. Most Bible translations render the word ezer as "helper," however, the word is packed with so much more meaning than a mere helper.
Author, Carolyn Custis James reveals the following: Ezer appears twenty-one times in the Old Testament. Twice in Genesis it describes the woman (Genesis 2:18, 20). But the majority of references (sixteen to be exact) refer to God, or Yahweh, as the helper of his people. The remaining three references appear in the books of the prophets, who use it to refer to military aid. If language means anything, then ezer, in every case, is not a flunky or junior assistant but a very strong helper.
We would be very remiss if we looked at the word ezer or helper in only domestic terms. Adam didn't need someone to cook for him, clean up after him, or care for him. That was not the problem. The void in Adam's life was that he did not have a companion to work with him, rule the earth with him, love with him, procreate with him and after the fall - struggle with him. A dog might have been an easier adjustment for Adam, but God decided Adam needed someone with words.
As an ezer or a strong helper, how will we use our words? Will we use them to fortify or flatten, defend or defeat, complete or compete? The choice begins in our minds, runs through our hearts, and responds with our lips. And one of the best ways we can use our words is in prayer.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I so want to be a good ezer - a good companion that is my husband's completer. I want to be a help and not a hindrance. Help me to use my words in such a way that help him to be all that You have created him to be as we work together in life. In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think of when you think of the word "helper?"
Why do you think Adam needed a helper?
How have you been an ezer to your husband over the past week? (Not geezer, mind you. But ezer.)
You might want to ask him some ways that you could help him in the coming days?
What are some ways that you can be your husband's helper? Visit my Facebook page and let's chat! www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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February 18, 2010
Making Wise Investments
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ecclesiastes 11:1(NCV) "Invest what you have, because after a while you will get a return."
Friend To Friend
The recent earthquake in Haiti has left millions of people homeless and without hope. Entire families have been wiped out and thousands of children have been left with no parents or family. Lifeless bodies line the streets as a devastated people desperately try to survive
The investments that we make in life determine the level of contentment that we gain from life. We come into this world as self-centered beings, concerned solely with our needs and wants. Only a personal relationship with Christ can truly change that egotistical human bent. Even unbelievers attempting to soothe a troubled and unfulfilled heart invest their time and resources in charities or service organizations. They are trying to gain life from dead things. It is simply not possible. Unfortunately, many followers of Jesus Christ have not yet learned the spiritual principle that you cannot "out-give" God! We falsely assume ownership of the gifts God has given us to manage on His behalf.
The story is told of a little boy who lived in a ghetto. Because of his strong belief in God, the little boy was constantly teased by his friends. They taunted him saying, "If God loves you, why doesn't he take care of you? Why doesn't God tell someone to bring you shoes or send someone with a warm coat? Where is the good food you've been asking God for?" The little boy faced his critics, thought for a moment and with tears in his eyes, softly said, "I guess He does tell somebody but somebody forgets."
We forget! We forget the wonder of what Jesus Christ did for us on the cross and how He served and now calls us to serve. And because of that precious gift, that eternal investment of love made by Jesus Christ on the Cross of Calvary, you and I are redeemed from Hell itself. In response to God's love, the apostle Paul gave his life in service to God, finding his greatest joy in simply doing what God told him to do. Before he encountered Christ, Paul had been a man of great influence and power but as a follower of Jesus Christ the highest title he ever gave himself was "servant."
It is important to note that Paul was first a servant - then an apostle set apart for the gospel. The people he served became his family and in turn served him by praying for him, encouraging him and meeting his physical needs. Service is not an option for the Christian. It is a command - a holy calling and the ultimate joy. The most contented people I know are the ones who serve the most. They have found an outlet for giving, have discovered their God given gifts and are using them to serve God. It is a paradox in the Christian life that the more we give the more we receive and the greater our level of contentment. When we turn inward and become focused on self, discontentment creeps in and takes up residence.
The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water that flows from Mt. Hermon. The Sea of Galilee is a beautiful place, lush and green, because it has an outlet as it gathers in its riches then pours them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. It gives. On the other hand, the Dead Sea, with the same water creates destruction because it has no outlet. It keeps.
The highest purpose in life is to be used by God to impact the lives of others. We often think that God reserves service for those called "ministers." Every follower of God is called to be a minister. Your mission field is your home - your office - your neighborhood and your world. If you want to discover the secret of contentment, look for opportunities to make investments in others by giving yourself away. Every act of service is a deposit in eternity and a wise investment.
Let's Pray
Lord, I recognize You as my source of contentment. I love You and want to serve You. Today, I will look for opportunities to make eternal Kingdom investments. Thank You for loving me and giving me the privilege of serving You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider the following questions:
· Who has made eternal investments in my life?
· What is my perception of service?
· What are my spiritual gifts?
· How can I use those gifts to serve others?
· What are the benefits of serving God and others?
Contentment is found when I invest myself in others. There are "mission fields" in my life where I can serve Him by serving others. I choose today to become a "giver" instead of a "keeper."
Memorize the two following verses:
Matthew 20:28 (NLT) "For even I, the Son of Man, came here not to be served but to serve others, and to give my life as a ransom for many."
Galatians 5:13 (NCV) "My brothers and sisters, God called you to be free, but do not use your freedom as an excuse to do what pleases your sinful self. Serve each other with love."
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February 19, 2010
GPS
Connie Kovach
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Connie Kovach.
Today's Truth
Psalm 139:2-7 (NLT) "You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I'm far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your spirit! I can never get away from your presence!"
Friend To Friend
My family and I just returned from our first vacation in nine years. My husband, our four children, and I left Ohio and began our journey to Myrtle Beach, SC. After a few days, we then headed to North Carolina to meet some old friends. We really enjoyed our trip, aside from the hundreds of stops, and kids fighting in the car ... good times. About a week before we left, we prepared for the trip by packing and planning and borrowing a GPS system from my sister and brother-in-law. I have used one before but never really thought about how amazing they are.
A GPS stands for Global Positioning System. It is a navigational system involving satellites and computers that can determine the latitude and longitude of a receiver on Earth by computing the time difference for signals from different satellites to reach the receiver. In other words, the GPS receives signals from satellites that let the GPS know where they are and where they need to go, to get to where they need to be.
Ok, now that I have that figured out, on with my story. Usually, when we take a trip, we plan our route by using an atlas. My job is to intently watch the map and pinpoint the signs on the side of the road to make sure we are heading the correct way. However, this trip was different.
Before we left, we put the hotel information in the GPS and did what the voice told us to do. At first, we enjoyed just listening to the voice, almost entertained by this little box telling us to turn left off of our street. It did not take long, however, before we were amazed by the accuracy of this tool. The directions are so intricately given; it lets you know the amount of feet left until it is time to turn. It is so sensitive, that it will let you know the speed limit change at the same time you pass the sign on the side of the road. The voice is so consistent, it never sounds angry or irritated, no matter how many gas stops or potty breaks we took. It just simply said "recalculating" and went on with how to get us back on track. There were times, however, that we got quite irritated with that sweet voice when we just wanted to "be there!"
We left Myrtle Beach after a few days and headed to Concord, North Carolina, a city near Charlotte. We put the address in the GPS and let it do its thing. As we got closer, we passed an exit that read the exact city that we were heading toward, on the exact highway that should have taken us directly there. I didn't understand why the GPS didn't have us turn. I opened the map and looked at the route we were taking. I was sure the GPS had finally messed up; it was taking us clear into Charlotte. Not only did we pass the exit to our city, we were going in the wrong direction. After about twenty minutes of intently watching this system fail us, and adding how much time we are losing with our friends, the road turned and got us right to our hotel, and yes, in the exact time it said we would be there.
What I learned from the GPS is that there is no point in having it if you don't trust it. I experienced frustration that I did not need to experience. As I laughed at myself and my lack of faith in this system that is so intricately designed, I felt God so clearly asking me why I do the same thing to Him. You see, if we have faith, then why do we constantly question when will this happen or why didn't this go the way I thought it would? Why do we question the route in which God takes us where He wants to take us? Sometimes we have everything figured out ahead of time, like we are making His job easier, right? Did you ever look back at a trail of events in your life that lead to something amazing? I'm sure it did not always go the easiest way or the way we thought would be easiest.
Like on our way to Concord NC, the satellite had its reasons for taking us I85 instead of the highway intended for the city of Concord. Maybe there was construction or an exit closed. Maybe if we had gone that way, and that sweet voice just said "recalculating", the ride would have taken twice as long. Just because we think one way is best, doesn't mean it's the way God wants us to go.
The GPS gets its signals from the satellites in space, as our Holy Spirit get's its coordinates from God the Father. Once He fills us with the Holy Spirit, it's up to us to listen to that sweet voice or to do our own thing, only to hear "recalculating." I want to listen to that first voice so that I get where He wants me to get, when He wants me to get there. Faith is such a huge part of the Christian walk, yet it's the hardest part. It is a big decision to make, yet the best one you will ever choose. May God bless you on all your travels.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for that GPS you have given us called the Holy Spirit. Thank You for guiding us through life. The longer I bow down to disobedience, the longer I wait for Your will for my life. Lord, I pray that I will recognize that still small voice the first time so I never have to hear "recalculating" from You. I love You so much Lord, and I thank You for Your unfailing love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you relying on God for directions and guidance? Name a situation where you are struggling to trust in God's plan. Get quiet with the Lord and tell Him you are sorry for not trusting His plans and timing. Relinquish that situation to Him and enjoy the freedom of not carrying that burden anymore. Read Isaiah 40:12-14 NLT, write it on a note card and read it each day.
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Praise God that He will recalculate when we are not obedient and make a wrong turn. Like having an internal GPS, we cannot escape His spirit; we cannot get away from His presence. So why do we constantly try or let the enemy trick us into thinking we know best? The biggest form of freedom is when we can say we are God's and He has it all figured out already. Whew, what a relief!
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February 22, 2010
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
The One Thing He Can't Do Without
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly" (Ephesians 5:33 AMP).
Friend To Friend
I've been shut up, shut down, shot down, ridiculed, disregarded, over looked, over- booked, and overwhelmed...I know I was made for a reason. I know that, in God's eyes, I count. So, I simply want to find someone who believes in me.
No, these are not the lyrics from the latest country song. They are the lament from one of the men who answered my surveys of what they were looking for in the woman of their dreams. It seems Aretha Franklin isn't the only one who wants a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t these days. One area that rated very high when I surveyed hundreds of men was their longing for RESPECT. Webster defines respect as the special esteem or consideration in which one holds another person or thing, the state or quality of being esteemed, to feel or show consideration to. It's the one thing a happy husband can't do without.
In the Bible, Paul wrote to both men and women about their various roles in marriage. In the book of Ephesians he wrote, "Each one of you (men) also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (Ephesians 5:33). Now, that doesn't mean that husbands don't have to respect their wives or wives don't have to love their husbands. I believe Paul was summing up what was paramount for both men and women. We want to be loved and cherished just like our husbands want to be honored and respected.
Another reason I believe that Paul admonishes wives to respect their husbands is because he knew that after years of mistakes, poor choices, wrong decisions, and smelly socks, respect may not come naturally for a wife. It may well take an act of the will empowered by the Holy Spirit within.
But how do you respect someone who vegetates watching TV all the time? How do you respect someone who sits around waiting for the right job to come along when you're working yourself to death trying to keep food on the table? (You may need to stop and quietly put that responsibility back where it belongs.) How do you respect someone who apparently has no respect for himself? It may seem impossible, but as the angel asked Abraham, "Is anything too hard for the LORD?" (Genesis 18:14). The same God who parted the sea for the Israelites to walk across on dry land, who caused the walls of Jericho to fall with a shout, who kept Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego from even a hint of smoke as they exited the fiery furnace, who caused flesh to reappear on the rotted hands of lepers, who made a man blind from birth see, and who raised Lazarus from the dead - that same God can give you the power to respect your husband. It all begins with prayer and follows with obedience close behind. "There is incomparable great power available to those who believe" (Ephesians 1:19).
In the Bible power always follows obedience. As soon as the high priests crossing the Jordan placed their feet in the water, the river parted (Joshua 3:15). As soon as the rotting lepers turned toward Jerusalem to tell the priests they were healed, their skin began to heal (Luke 17:14). As soon as Namaan dipped into the river seven times as the prophet Elijah had commanded, his leprosy began to disappear (2 Kings 5:14). The miracle didn't come before they obeyed, but after they obeyed. Do you want to see a miracle unfold before your eyes like a multi-petaled rose unfurling? Obey God. An amazing thing happens when we begin to show respect to our husbands. They begin to act respectable.
Let's go back to Paul's letter to the Ephesians. I love how the amplified version expounds on Ephesians 5:33. "Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly." What a power-packed verse!
Friend and fellow author, Carol Ladd, said, "Respect is wrapped up in the beautiful paper of kind and gentle words and tied with the enormous ribbons of a loving spirit." It is one of the most beautiful gifts a wife can give.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for my husband. Help me, in all areas of my life, to be the wife that he needs. Help me to respect, revere, regard, honor, prefer and esteem him greatly. Not only that, but help me to show it in my words and actions so that there is no doubt in his mind just how much I love him.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
During the reign of King David, he brought the once-captured Ark of the Covenant back to Israel. It was one of the grandest moments in his life. Read the account recorded in 2 Samuel 6 and answer the following questions:
How did David's wife, Michal, react to his outward demonstration of praise to God (6:16-20)?
What was David's response to her? (6:21)
What was the outcome of her disrespect? (6:23)
What can we learn from her lack of respect?
I'd like to hear your thoughts. I know this is a highly charged topic among women. Log on to my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and tell me your thoughts.
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February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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February 23, 2010
Refining Love
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 13:34 "Love one another as I have loved you."
Friend To Friend
Everywhere I go, I seem to be surrounded by red hearts, roses, pink ceramic dishes, boxes of chocolate and brightly decorated cards that sing mushy love songs and even let you record your very own words and thoughts of affection. February is the month of love but if we are honest, some people are harder to love than others. I call those people "sandpaper people" because they can be irritating, abrasive and tend to rub me the wrong way.
I can also be a sandpaper person. We all can. Our only hope is God's love at work in and through us. God calls us to love the unlovable and to reach out to those people we would rather avoid. God calls us to love each other just like He has loved us. In fact, God uses those difficult people to refine us and make us more like Him.
In the late 1800's, a group of women enrolled in a Bible study came across Malachi 3:3, "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver." Since no one understood the verse, they commissioned one of their members to explore the process of refining silver and report back to them at their next study. The woman called a silversmith, making an appointment to watch him work and ask a few questions.
On the appointed day, she saw him hold a piece of silver over the fire, letting it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, a silversmith needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest, so that all impurities would burn away. The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot; then she thought again about the verse, that he sits as a refiner and purifier of silver. She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined. The man answered that he not only had to sit there holding the silver, but had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left even a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed. The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked, "How do you know when the silver is fully refined?" He smiled. "Oh, that's easy. The refining process is complete when I see my image in it."
Difficult relationships can sometimes make us feel like we are being dangled over a fire of unreasonable expectations, can't they? It seems easier to simply give up and walk away from all of the emotional stress of trying to make the relationship work. When we make the choice to love a sandpaper person, we are inviting God to work in us and through us to bring about change - to create His image in us so we can then see His image in others. Difficult relationships and combative interactions do not hold up well in an atmosphere of love, because it is through love that stubborn wills are compelled to yield. Under the influence of God's love in our lives, winning no longer seems important to us, as we recognize the value and worth of a soul.
Let's Pray
Father, I thank You for loving me even though I can be abrasive and difficult to love. I want to love like You love and be a vessel through which Your love can flow to others. Please help me to love others the way You love them and help me see those sandpaper people through Your eyes of mercy and grace. Refine me, Lord, and make me more like You. Conform me to Your image, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ephesians 2:10 tells us that "we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Because we are the work of God, it is a spiritual discipline and step of obedience to see ourselves through God's eyes - as someone of worth and value. Sandpaper people often lack this perspective. Before we can love the difficult people in our lives, we must first love God and ourselves.
Read Psalm 8:3-5. Evaluate the way you see yourself by the standards in this passage. What difference could this verse make in the life of a sandpaper person?
Read Jeremiah 1:5. Look back over your life. Identify the "special work" for which God has set you apart. How has He prepared you for that work?
How has God changed your life? List the ways God has transformed your life. Praise Him for each one. List ways God could transform the life of your sandpaper person. Pray for each one.
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I find it fairly easy to get along with people who think like I think. Can you relate? Thankfully, God does not see it that way. That sandpaper person is not in your life by accident. God has a plan for both of you that will refine you and make you more like Him.
The Bible will help you deal with those difficult people God has given you to love. Need help? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join women from across the world as we study God's Word together.
If you need help dealing with the difficult relationships in life, you might want to pick up my book, Sandpaper People. It also comes in CD and MP3 format.
We can also connect through e-mail or on Facebook! Join the discussion on how to deal with the sandpaper people in your life. Let's talk!
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February 24, 2010
Never Forget
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will remember the deeds of the LORD; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago" (Psalm 77:11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Sometimes it is easy to read about Adam and Eve's failure in the garden and wonder how they could have been so disobedient. But in reality, this is not Adam and Eve's story alone. It is our story as well. We make decisions daily that dishonor God or honor God. We disobey, take charge of our own lives, and become Lord of our own ring. Then like Eve, we try to cover up our shame and even attempt to hide from God.
Do you know the first question God asked in the Bible? After Adam and Eve cowered in the bushes, hiding from God, He asked - Where are you? God knew exactly where they were, what they had done, and how the enemy had tricked them. However, He decided to remain in relationship with them and begin the process of restoration which was completed on Calvary's cross. He asks us the same question today when we attempt to hide ... Where are you?
I think "but God" are two of most beautiful words in Scripture. The Bible says, "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). When did we become sinners? The first time we sinned? No, we were born sinners and that sin is what separated us from God. While we were yet sinners, He became the perfect sacrifice for us, not to cover our sin, but to cleanse us forever - once and for all. Salvation Army Officer, John Allen once said, "I deserved to be damned in hell, but God interfered." God interfered, intervened, and intercepted our death sentence. He sent His Son, who paid the penalty for our sin and all we have to do to receive the pardon is to accept His wonderful gift.
How do we receive the gift? "If you confess with your mouth 'Jesus as Lord' and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). When you accept Jesus Christ as your own personal Savior, you are freed from the penalty of sin (spiritual death and eternal separation from God) and He gives you a new living spirit. Someone once said, "Salvation is moving from living death to deathless life."
"All this is from God who reconciled us [joined us back together] to himself through Christ" (2 Corinthians 5:18 AMP). Once there was a Christian group who sang a song with a line that said, "There's a bridge to cross the great divide." However, when they were recording, someone sang, "There's a cross to bridge the great divide." Suddenly, they realized that they had not made a mistake at all. We were separated from God because of sin, but He sent His Son to die on Calvary's cross to bridge the great divide.
Why did God do this for us? "For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV). The Greeks had three words for life: bios (life of the body), psyche (life of the soul), and zoe (life of the spirit). Guess which word for life is in John 3:16? Zoe - life of the spirit! When you become a Christian, your spirit is reborn and you become a brand new creation. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV). We were crucified with Christ and now we no longer live, but Christ lives in us (Galatians 5:20 NIV).
What about those glaring needs that cropped up as a result of Adam and Eve's sin in the garden? What about feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy that so many struggle with today? Here's what the Bible says: "So then as through one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men, even so, through one act of righteousness, there resulted justification of life to all men" (Romans 5:18, 19 NASB). All were condemned because of Adam's disobedience and all who accept Jesus are freed because of Christ's obedience. At the moment of your salvation, everything mankind lost when Adam and Eve sinned in the garden was returned to you in Jesus Christ. Once again you have:
Significance because of who you are in Christ.
Safety and security because of what you have in Christ.
A sense of belonging because of where you are in Christ.
Your glaring needs have been fulfilled and transformed into your glowing attributes. The question is, why don't we act like our needs have been fulfilled? Why do we continue to struggle with feelings of shame, fear, loneliness, and rejection? Why do we continue to try to get our needs met by our own means? Because even though our spirits are changed in an instant, our minds must be renewed, our wills must come under the control of the Holy Spirit, and our emotions must be reprogrammed.
It's a process and that's why Girlfriends in God even exists. We are learning, growing, and reprogramming our minds together. And as we do, we grow more and more spiritually beautiful every day.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, all through the Old Testament, the patriarchs told the Israelites to "remember." Today I stop and remember all that You have done for me. I remember what I was like before I came to Christ and I remember all that You have done to bring me to Yourself. Thank you, Father. Thank You, Jesus. Thank You, Holy Spirit. May the remembrance of Your mercies be new every morning.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Sometimes, when you have been a Christian for many years, you forget just how amazing the gift of salvation really is. Today, I'm not going to ask you any questions, but I do want you to go back and reflect on the verses in this devotion. Write out your own prayer of gratitude for all that God has done to bridge the great divide that separated you from Him.
As always, I love to hear from my Girlfriends in God. You can visit my blog (www.sharonjaynes.com/blog ) or Facebook (www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.com ) to share your comments.
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February 25, 2010
The Beauty of Rest
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
Friend To Friend
For most of my adult life, I have wrongly equated being busy with being productive. I'm guilty as charged when it comes to living each day in overdrive. My Day Timer has, at times, been my Bible. The result has always, always been exhaustion, burnout and watered down living. Everything looked great on the outside - but when I was alone with God, we both knew the façade I had so carefully erected was a spiritual monument to self-promotion and pride-filled goals. The house built upon the sand seemed like very familiar digs. And I was not alone.
We are all masters of rationalizing our way to approval. The problem is that the approval we gain comes from impotent and lifeless sources. I am convinced that if we are willing to surrender our lives to the tyranny of the urgent, the enemy will keep the urgent things in life coming - people who need you immediately, those who clamor for your attention above your family and personal relationship with God, the person who can talk to no one but you, and the list goes on. What ego strokes they offer! And what futility.
I have always loved music and began taking piano lessons at the age of five. I will never forget that first piano lesson with Mrs. McKenzie, a very sweet, elderly woman who played the piano beautifully. Her hair was slightly blue, her house smelled like lemon drops and she had clocks that chimed every fifteen minutes. I was so excited and ready to play the piano like my sister who played for our church worship services. Betty was amazing and I was desperately hoping that same musical ability ran in our family.
"Let's get started," Mrs. McKenzie said. I climbed up on the piano bench, waiting for her brilliant instruction to begin. She placed a bright, red piano book in front of me and invited me to open it to the first page. I was disappointed to see only little, black pictures. Where was the music? Where were the songs? Mrs. McKenzie smiled as she patiently began to explain the musical symbols pictured in the book before me. I soon grew restless. "What's wrong, Mary?" she asked. "I want to play the piano, please," I sweetly responded. With a knowing smile, she said, "We'll get to that." I was not happy.
On and on - for what seemed like hours - Mrs. McKenzie pointed to funny-shaped black symbols, named them and explained their meaning. I was not impressed. I just wanted to get my hands on that keyboard. Sensing my impatience, Mrs. McKenzie pointed to one of the symbols on the page before me and said, "Mary, this small, black box is called a 'rest' and is one of the most important symbols in music." I simply didn't care. It did nothing but sit on a page in useless and unproductive silence. I wanted music. "Do you know why rests are so important in music?" she persisted. Obviously, I had no clue until she said something I remember to this day, "The music that comes after the rest is the most beautiful music of all."
At the time, I didn't understand the deeper meaning of those words, but life and time have illustrated their importance and their truth. The best part of life comes after we rest in Him. The most beautiful service follows time spent at His feet. Rest is a powerful part of our life song. The rest in music prepares the listener for what comes next. So does rest in life.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for being too busy to spend time with You. Forgive me when I fail to see the hurting and wounded people who need my love and attention. Lord, I need to rest in You but am not very good at doing so. Teach me, Father, to rest in Your love and Your plan for my life. May the essence of my life be a song of praise to You that others will want to sing.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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I know what many of you are thinking. You do not have time to rest. However, the spiritual reality is that we need rest the most - when we have the least amount of time to rest. Maybe it is time to re-evaluate you priorities and goals. Are they part of God's plan for your life or does your life reflect the tyranny of the urgent? Take a deep breath and choose to rest in Him.
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February 26, 2010
Is The Bible Important to You?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 3:16-17 "All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God's way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do" (NLT).
Friend To Friend
If we really want to know God; if we really want to understand who and whose we are, the Bible must have the highest place in our lives. We don't have to be a Bible scholar or have a firm grip on the Hebrew and Greek languages to know and apply God's principles and promises. As you read the Bible, the Holy Spirit will give you understanding and teach you spiritual truth. He will then give you the power you need to follow those teachings and apply each truth.
A disciple is a follower, a learner and a student. If we want to follow God and be a learner of Him, a student of His ways, then we have to understand the importance of the Bible, love the Word and spend time in it. I thought I was doing a fair job of plugging the truth of God's Word into my life until I rammed right into Psalm 119. Within this passage, I discovered a test for us as believers that will help determine the importance we really place on God's Word in daily life. Take this test with me to see if God's Word has the place in your life that it should have.
Is God's Word more important than food?
Psalm 119:103 "Your promises are sweet to me, sweeter than honey in my mouth" (NCV). Here the Bible is described as honey and at other places in the scripture as milk or bread. The Bible is our spiritual food and sustains and strengthens us just as food sustains and strengthens our physical body. Just as malnutrition affects our physical growth, spiritual malnutrition affects our spiritual growth. I dare say that we rarely miss a meal. We always find a way to eat. Do we have the same depth of commitment to our spiritual growth and health as we do to satisfying the hunger pains of our human body?
Is God's Word more important than money?
Psalm 119:72 "Your teachings are worth more to me than thousands of pieces of gold and silver" (NCV). What the psalmist is saying is that spiritual wealth is more important than human wealth. Do we really live as if that statement were true? I have a friend who is totally committed to God and to serving Him whole-heartedly. My friend is a garbage collector - a happy garbage collector. I once asked him why he was so happy in his work. "Mary, I collect garbage to pay the bills but my real passion in life is to share Jesus Christ and to serve Him with joy." He has the right backdrop for life and it is not wealth or money.
Is God's Word more important to you than sleep?
Psalm 119:147-148 "I wake up early in the morning and cry out. I hope in your word. I stay awake all night so I can think about your promises." (NCV) I know. Now God is getting personal! When we start talking about giving up sleep to read and study the Word of God, we are talking radical obedience. Exactly! If we want to experience God's power in our lives, we have to saturate our lives with His Word.
How did you do? I will tell you honestly that I failed this test! I have walked with God for over forty years and I still do not have the hunger and thirst for God's Word that I should have. If we would listen carefully, I believe we could hear God say, "If you want to get to know me - really know me - if you want to be intimate with Me, you have to know my Book!"
The truth is that we find a way to do the things in life that are important to us. Have you noticed that we always seem to find the time to eat and sleep? We are driven to work in order to live the good life but we neglect the most important - the only eternal part of our being - our soul. Our soul can only be nourished and fed by the Word of the Living God. How important is God's Word in your life?
Let's Pray
Father, I pray that You would give me a hunger and thirst for the Bible. I want to please You with my life through obedience to Your truths. I choose to spend time reading the Bible and praying each day this week. Would You please honor my commitment and empower me to keep it? When I fail, Lord, I choose now to forgive myself as You forgive me - and begin again.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside one hour this week to re-evaluate your plan for reading and studying the Bible.
Set new goals for daily Bible study.
Make the goals realistic for your current lifestyle.
Next week, add 15 minutes to your study time each day
Pray and ask the Father to empower this new commitment.
Set a specific time and place for your Bible study. Remember to record new truths and insights in a journal. At the end of the week, go back over your entries and see what changes God has made in your life.
Praise Him for the power of His Word.
And when you fail, do not allow the enemy to discourage you or persuade you to give up. Simply begin again.
Read and memorize 2 Timothy 3:16 (NIV) "All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work."
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We live in Shawnee, Kansas where Westar Energy makes a tremendous amount of electricity available to us. With that power, we can light our homes, stay warm in the winter and cool in the summer. We can enjoy electrically powered appliances that turn, spin, wash, dry and clean. What a difference that electricity makes in our lives ... when we flip the switch. Unless we use and appropriate the power of available electricity, it is worthless to us. The same is true of the Bible.
Need help in making Bible study a daily habit? Enroll in my online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join women from across the world as we study God's Word together.
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March 1, 2010
Nailing Lies To The Cross
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Romans 8:38-39 (NLT) "I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Friend To Friend
One major blessing of being in women's ministry is the friendships I have with other women in ministry. We are our own little band of sisters. Sisters with a mission! We cheer for one another, cry with one another, laugh with one another, pray for one another, and rejoice with one another.
One sister I have had the opportunity to lock arms with for the journey is Renee. She works for an international women's ministry and is a talented God-fearing, Bible-teaching speaker and writer. A few years back, Renee traveled across the country to speak at a women's retreat. When she got there, a few unexpected circumstances caused her to send out an "SOS, pray-for-me-now" email to her ministry sisters. I got the email and hit my knees.
Early the next week, Renee sent us an email thanking us for praying and telling us what God did in the hearts of women at that retreat. She told us that she spoke about the lies that we believe as women and told personal and biblical stories that illuminated God's truth. Then, at the final session, Renee asked the women to consider what they believed to be true about themselves. Her challenge went something like this: "When you settle your soul long enough to simply be still—when you pause to listen to your heart—what do you hear? Are there lies that linger in your heart knowingly or unknowingly?"
She encouraged them to write down on a note card the lies they had accepted as truth, whether lies spoken by a parent, kids in the schoolyard, a friend, a family member, a spouse, a child, a pastor, or a stranger. She told them that some of the lies might never have been spoken at all, just believed.
When they finished she invited them to bring the cards to a wooden cross at the front of the room. Next to the cross, she had placed baskets filled with promises from God's Word, and after each woman nailed her card to the cross, she picked up a truth that would replace her lies.
Tears ran down almost every cheek as the women brought their lies to the cross and embraced God's life-changing Words. Guilt was forgiven, worthless became precious, and sorrow was traded for joy that day. Then a whoop-it-up celebration went down! God, through his Holy Spirit, revealed His heart to those sweet women and shattered the lies of the enemy.
After the retreat was over, Renee looked through the cards that had been nailed to the cross. One card jumped out at her. Written over and over was one word: Worthless!
The woman who wrote that wasn't the only one at that retreat who felt that way. That same word—worthless—was penned on many of the cards that weekend. It represents a lie that has been believed by most every woman at some point in her life. There have been days, weeks, and months that I've believed it myself.
It's one of Satan's favorite words to throw at us, and it is a big, fat, ugly lie.
The Bible clearly shows us that we are valued in the sight of the Lord. When we allow God's Word to flood our lives with the truth we are changed by the height, the depth, and the width of His love for us. "Take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:18-19, MSG).
God loves you with a personal love. He knows your name. He considers you highly valuable. No matter what you've believed in the past, choose by faith to believe this now: you are valued, priceless, and adored by God. When you take God at His Word, and trust Him at His heart, you will experience the deep, life-changing love of your Heavenly Father.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for holding me safely in Your arms of love. Please help me to recognize any lie that my heart may perceive as truth, and strengthen me to trade in my sorrow for Your joy.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your heart hear when you are still?
What lies would you write on that card?
Meditate on the following Psalm (Read it silently; then aloud.)
"Praise the Lord, O my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits—who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's" (Psalm 103:1-5).
Now, spend a few moments prayerfully responding to God.
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Gwen Smith is a speaker, worship artist, songwriter, and author. For more information about her ministry or schedule, visit her website at http://www.gwensmith.net/.
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March 2, 2010
Renewing Your Mind with the Truth
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I see three emotions blocking women from being all God intends for them to be and from accomplishing all that God intends for them to accomplish - feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. I hear women make comments such as, I can't do that. I wish I were talented like Sarah. If people really knew me, they wouldn't like me. I'm not very smart. I feel like a failure. I can't do anything right. I could never stand up in front of anyone and speak. I believe the Bible works for her, but I don't believe it would work for me. I don't fit in anywhere. Nobody loves me. And friend, I admit I have heard similar comments come out of my own mouth!
Where do those feelings come from? From the time we are born, we receive messages about ourselves. These messages are programmed into our minds. We may not realize our minds are being programmed, but it happens as surely as I'm typing these words on my computer. Either we felt esteemed, encouraged, and embraced as a child or we felt unloved, uncared for, and worthless. Messages were given both intentionally and unintentionally by family, friends, teachers and other significant people who made up our own little world. They were programmed into our minds and formed a type of filter or grid system. Every thought we have, every piece of information we receive must pass through that filter before it is processed by our minds. Soon, a false filter distorts the truth.
For example, little Mari was told at an early age that she was stupid, ugly, and clumsy. Her ears looked like wings; her teeth looked like a twenty-car-pileup, and her legs looked like a flamingo's. In the fourth grade, she got coke bottle glasses and kids called her "four-eyes" on the playground when the teachers weren't close enough to hear. One day in geography class, the room erupted with laughter when she incorrectly answered that Philadelphia was our nation's capital.
Seven years later, as a high school junior, Mari's head has grown to catch up with her ears, the orthodontist has done a stellar job of straightening her now perfectly aligned white teeth, and her blue contact lenses accentuated the aqua marine hue of her eyes. She is inducted into the National Honor Society and scores 1420 on her SAT. Yet, when Mari walks into a room full of people, she feels like that awkward fourth grader with the big ears, skinny legs, and thick glasses who was laughed at in geography class. Even though she is a beautiful, intelligent young lady, that negative self-degrading filter is still in place, and deception is the glue that holds it there. She does not see herself for who she really is.
Now let's pretend that Mari goes to a church retreat and hears the good news of Jesus Christ for the first time. Let's say she makes a profession of faith, accepts Jesus as her Savior and begins the journey of making Him Lord of every aspect of her life. What happens to the negative filter covering her mind? Does it immediately disappear when she becomes a Christian? No, it does not. As a matter-of-fact, she probably doesn't even know it is there. Even though Mari is a child of God, holy and dearly loved, unless she removes the negative filter by renewing her mind, she will most likely continue feeling inferior, insecure and inadequate. Only now, she may heap guilt on top of it for not feeling more victorious and peaceful in her new Christian faith.
When Mari became a Christian, she received a new spirit and a new identity. She just didn't know it. It reminds me of a story I heard about two boys arguing if a chicken running around the barnyard with his head cut off was dead or alive. While they were watching this strange phenomenon, an old wise farmer walked up.
"Sir," the boys asked. "Is that headless chicken running around dead or alive?"
The old farmer scratched his chin and pondered the situation. Finally, he spoke, "Well, best I figure, that chicken is dead, but he just don't know it yet."
That pretty much describes many Christians. It described me for about fifteen years of my life after I became a born-again Christian. My old self was dead, but I just didn't know it yet. I had the spirit of Jesus Christ living in and through me; I just didn't know it yet. I was a saint, the salt of the earth, holy and dearly loved; I just didn't know it yet. But when I finally understood who I am in Christ, what I have in Christ, and where I am in Christ, those feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy began to fade away.
How about you? Do you know who you are?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to renew my mind with the truth of my new identity. Help me see the areas when I have been filtering life through the lies of the past. As I read Your Word, please use it to renew my mind with the truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time in your childhood that shaped how you see yourself today.
Is it the truth of who you really are or are you allowing the enemy to hold up a false mirror, distorting who God says you really are?
Look up 2 Corinthians 5:17. Write it down. What does that mean to you?
I'd love to hear your answers on question #2. Let's chat. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or www.sharonjaynes.com/blog.
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We will never be truly beautiful as long as the dark cloud of past wrong thinking blocks the radiance within. If you would like to learn more about who you truly are and how to renew your mind with God's truth, see Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing yourself through God's Eyes.
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March 4, 2010
Unshakable Confidence
Sharon Jaynes
Today's' Truth
"I will never leave you or forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5 NKJV).
Friend To Friend
She was among an eager group of four-year-old children crowded around my feet as I taught their Sunday school lesson. I was the teacher and they were the students - or at least that is how it started out. The pint-sized audience listened intently as I tried to create a mental image of Jesus and His disciples trapped in a thunderstorm on the Sea of Galilee.
"The winds bleeeeeeew and rocked the little boat back and forth, back and forth. The waves were soooooo big; they splashed over the wooden sides and got the men all wet. Then water started filling up the boat - and do you know what happens when a boat gets full of water?"
"It sinks," they chimed together.
"That's right." I continued with a wrinkled brow and concerned look on my face. "That's not all. The lightening was sooooo bright; it looked like fire in the sky. And the claps of thunder were sooooo loud; they could feel them vibrate in their chests."
After painting this picture of impending doom and thinking I would have my "congregation" just a little worried about the fate of these men trapped in a storm, I asked the question. "Now if you were in a tiny boat like this, caught in a terrible storm like this, would you be afraid?"
Then one precious little girl, confident and unshaken by the entire scenario, shrugged her shoulders and replied, "Not if Jesus was in the boat with me."
I will never forget that answer. I have come to realize that this answer calms all our worries and fears. Just as the disciples had the storm raging all around them, many times the storms of life rage around us. A friend discovers she has cancer, a husband loses his job, and a child is born with birth defects. These are storms with waves of emotions so high that our lifeboat fills with tears and appears that it could sink at any moment. Waves of fear rock our boat and threaten to spill us into despair without even a life jacket to keep us afloat. Storms cause us to doubt who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God. Waves of emotions rock our faith.
"Tell me, would you be afraid?"
"Not if Jesus was in the boat with me."
And guess what. He is. God said, "I will never leave you or forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5 NKJV), and Jesus said, "Surely I am with you always, to the end of the age" (Matthew 26:20). Although the pain may be great, we do not need to be afraid that the storms of life will destroy us, because Jesus is in the boat with us. His power can calm the seas and still the storms of life that threaten to pull us under.
After the children filed out and scattered to Sunday lunches throughout the city, I sat in the room to digest the words of the real teacher that day. It was childlike faith in its purest form. The little girl believed God.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I will admit, sometimes I get so scared when the storms of life rock my boat. Thank You that You are in the boat with me, that You will never leave me and that You are always right by my side. That is what You promised. That is what I know to be true.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the story of Jesus calming the storm in Luke 8:19-25. How would you answer the disciples' question in verse 25..."Who is this? He commands even the winds and the water, and they obey him."
What life situations are rocking your boat today?
Do you have the sense that Jesus is in the boat with you?
What reassurance does that give you?
I would love to hear your answer! Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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March 5, 2010
What Difference Do I Make?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:13 "Greater love has no one than this; that one lay down his life for his friends" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
A young man who had been raised as an atheist was training to be an Olympic diver. The only religious influence in his life came from his outspoken Christian friend. The young diver never really paid much attention to his friend's sermons, but he heard them often.
One night, the diver went to the indoor pool at the college he attended. The lights were all off, but since the pool had big skylights and the moon was bright, there was plenty of light for practice. The young man climbed up to the highest diving board and turned his back to the pool on the edge of the board, arms extended outward. It was then that he saw his shadow on the wall. The shadow of his body was in the shape of a cross. The man felt as if someone was speaking to him. The words of his Christian friend filled his mind. In his heart, he suddenly realized the truth. Instead of diving, he knelt down and finally asked God to come into his life. As the young transformed diver stood to his feet, a maintenance man walked in and turned on the lights. The pool had been drained for repairs.
I often wonder how many desperate people cross my path each day; people who are one step away from certain destruction; people whose very life direction can be changed by the Light of God in and through my interaction with them.
If you are like me, every day is crammed full of tasks, errands, deadlines, demands and activities. I run headlong through each twenty-four hours from the minute my feet hit the floor until I crawl into bed each night. It is in those quiet moments before sleep that I hear Him ask, "Did you make a difference today? Is someone closer to the Light because you told them about what I have done in your life? Did you recognize that "intruder" or "interruption" as a divine appointment from Me instead of an inconvenience? Does what you did today really matter?"
Sadly, I have to confess that many times I miss opportunities to participate in eternal business because I am so focused on earthly business. My agenda becomes my god and time management my idol. I could have been "God with skin on" to the frustrated cashier at the grocery store instead of brushing her aside because I was in a hurry to do something I deemed more important. I could have blessed the friend who called, needing an encouraging word instead of preaching an unsolicited sermon in the name of compassion. I could have taken a few more minutes to listen when the elderly man struck up a conversation with me at the gas pump instead of walking away, leaving him just as lonely as he was when we met.
Jesus would have done things differently. With every breath, He was aware of the hurting and wounded, pursuing the broken people instead of avoiding them. Jesus carefully and deliberately invested every moment of His time on earth. And there has never been a life that made such a difference or mattered so much!
I want my life to really count, don't you? We are never more like God than when we are reaching out in love to meet a need, comfort a broken heart, encourage a weary soul or challenge the darkness with His Light! On your journey today, look for those desperate ones who need you to be God with skin on!
Let's Pray
Father God, I confess to You that I am often too busy to hear Your voice or determine Your direction for my life. Please forgive me for being self-centered. Help me to see those who cross my path like You see them. Help me to love them with your love, drawing them from the darkness into the Light.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What keeps you from recognizing the need in others and then reaching out to meet that need?
Think back to a time when someone reached out to you. What was your response? How did their action change your life?
What difference can an awareness of hurting people make in your daily walk?
Identify one person in need today and look for a specific and timely way to meet that need.
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I know this truth is hard to put into action. It is so much easier to just close our eyes to a need ... turn away from hurting people ... and grieve the heart of God. I challenge you to step out in faith and allow God to work in and through you!
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March 8, 2010
Don't Scratch That Itch!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me.' For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed" (James 1:13-14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I once woke up with a spider bite that was the size of a quarter. It may as well have been the size of North Carolina for as much as it itched! I was half-tempted to scratch off my arm. That nasty bite was just begging to be scratched. However, I have learned a thing or two in my thirty-something years, and one thing I know for sure: it is best not to scratch this type of itch.
It would be like opening a bag of chips with the naive intention of eating only one (yeah, right!) I knew that if I started scratching my bug bite, it would be nearly impossible to stop. I would regret having ever started.
Super-itchy bug bites are a lot like temptations. Temptations are itchy! The call on us with urgent voices that scream, "Scratch me! Scratch me!" Yet, in all reality, a little scratch will not satisfy temptation's itch at all...it will just make matters worse. When we scratch the itch of temptation, the itch does not diminish. To the contrary, it increases.
The Bible teaches us that when we resist temptation, our faith is then mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened. Let's look at what that looked like for a guy named Joseph. (For the full account, pause here and read Genesis 39.)
Joseph was a man of integrity who did right in the eyes of the Lord, but he definitely faced some temptation! He was seduced by temptation in the form of his master's wife, Mrs. Potiphar. You see, Mrs. Potiphar wanted her husband's right-hand man to sleep with her, and she pursued him with aggression. Hers was a hand-delivered invitation for Joseph to sin that had itchy written all over it. But he flat-out refused. His heart was determined to honor God.
"My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" Though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her (Genesis 39:9-10).
Temptation chased Joseph relentlessly. Oh, how he must have longed for the itching to stop! To give in would be sinful. To give in was simply not an option for this young man of character. So on the day that Potiphar's wife caught him by the cloak and begged again for Joseph to sleep with her, Joseph ran out of the house. He ran from that tempting situation as fast as his legs would carry him.
God was honored in Joseph's response.
He ran from temptation.
We would be wise to do the same.
What do you need to run from today? Have you determined in your heart to honor God in everything? Temptation comes in all shapes and sizes. It might be calling your name from your pantry - or from your computer - or from a bottle - or from another cubicle in your office. What temptations do you face today? Name them and run the other way! Don't scratch that itch! Determine in your heart that you will choose the path that brings honor to God, and call on Him for strength.
I realize that dealing with temptation is not easy. When that nasty spider bit my arm, I struggled not to scratch the bite. I had to re-direct my thinking to persevere through the temptation. When we come face to face with temptations, God's strength is always available to us. We need God's strength. Ours will fail us. Friend, when we resist temptation, we get to experience the peace and protection of God, our faith is mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need You so much. I constantly find myself being dragged away and enticed by temptation. Please give me strength to run the other way, and give me the wisdom to run to Your arms. I really want to be a woman of godly character. Help me be that woman!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Contemplate the following questions: What have you been dragged away and enticed by in the past? How did you respond? How have you grown from those experiences?
Though our sovereign God allows trials to enter our lives, He does not ever tempt us. (James 1) Tuck that truth in your heart today, and the next time you experience a temptation - great or small - recognize that the enemy is behind the allure. Then tell him to get behind you and pray that Jesus will re-direct your thinking.
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I wish my temptations were always as simple as the itch of a pesky little bug bite! But, of course, they are not. Each of us will encounter some real whoppers in our lives. James chapter one tells us that when we persevere through trials and temptations, one rewards is maturity. That really encourages me! I hope it encourages you as well.
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March 9, 2010
The Title Deed
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Hebrews 11:1 gives us a wonderful definition of faith: "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." The NIV Bible Commentary says, "It is that trust in God that enables believers to press on steadfastly whatever the future holds for them. They know they can rely on God." Neil Anderson, in his book, The Common Made Holy said faith is the "avenue through which God invades our lives."
In the Greek, the original language of the New Testament, the word faith is pistis, which means assurance, belief, believe, faith, fidelity. So when we say that we believe God, we are saying that we have faith in God.
Another Bible translation of Hebrews 11:1 notes, "Now faith is the assurance (the confirmation, the title-deed) of things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality--faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses" (Amplified).
I love the idea of a "title-deed." That means when Satan comes snooping around and accusing us of being anything less than what God has declared, we need to show him the title deed, the Word of God, to prove him a liar. We have been bought with a price and stamped with the official seal - the Holy Spirit.
When we built our home, we were blessed with a big backyard that served as playground, shaded flower garden, and gazebo refuge for many years. Our neighborhood's border was about 150 feet from our backdoor. We didn't have a fence along the border ... didn't think we needed one.
The Smiths (not their real name) had lived in their home about fourteen years before we came along. Previously, Mrs. Smith had cleared and used about a third of our lot as her own. She had planted a nice ivy bed, hung flower baskets under the trees, and even had a sitting area under a big oak tree. When we bought the property, Mrs. Smith was furious that we were encroaching on her annex. But in truth, the land was not hers. The surveyors marked out the property line before we bought the lot, and even though our back boundary ran smack down the middle of her driveway, we didn't insist that they move it.
But over the following five years, the boundary line grew a bit fuzzy for Mrs. Smith. Gradually, she began to inch her way back into our yard, acting as though it were her own. At first, it was trimming the bushes along the back border, and then it was pulling up and thinning the ivy some ten feet within our yard. But when we drove up and saw her on a ladder trimming the lower branches off our trees, we knew it had to stop.
"Mrs. Smith," Steve said, "What are you doing?"
"I'm trimming the trees," she said.
"We don't want our trees trimmed," Steve said.
"Well, they need trimming." Then the dam broke loose and the deluge of hatred held back over five years burst forth.
"You didn't plant that ivy! You didn't plant those bushes! You didn't plant these trees!" she yelled. "I planted them and I can trim them if I want to."
"No, you can't," Steve calmly replied. "This isn't your yard. You can't come over here and act like it is."
"You're just selfish," she continued to rant. "What about 'love your neighbor as yourself!'" (She did not attend church, but knew this verse well.)
Honestly, Steve and I were exasperated after seven years of a battle that continued to escalate. Finally, we did what we should have done in the first place. We put up a fence.
See, in Mrs. Smith's mind, she would not accept the fact that the property was not hers. She had used it for so long, and had even called a lawyer to try to claim squatter's rights like in the Old West. It was not hers ... it never had been. She was actually breaking the law.
Why do I tell you this story? Because there is someone who would like to come into your territory and pretend that it is his. Before you knew Jesus Christ, Satan used you and pretended that you were all his. He planted thoughts in your mind, sinful acts in your will, and insecurities in your emotions. But God came along and chose you to be His prized possession ... His personal property. He paid a very high price for you when He gave His only Son. And honestly, Satan was not and is not happy about that; as-a-matter-of-fact, he is furious.
Satan knows where the boundary line around your heart lies, but just like Mrs. Smith, he will attempt to creep back into your yard. He plants a little thought here, a little temptation there, and the next thing you know he's standing on a ladder trimming your trees! Well, maybe not your trees, but he's lopping off areas of growth in your life and whacking at anything within his reach. He might even throw out a few Bible verses taken out of context.
So what do you do when you see the enemy creeping back onto your conquered and purchased territory? What do you do if he tries to claim squatter's rights? You show him the title deed.
"Right here, Satan," you shout. "Right here in the Word of God it says that I have been bought with a price! I am no longer your property! I am God's! You have no right messing in my yard or in my life. You get out of here this instant! See that fence? That is there to keep you out. The Bible says that my boundary lines have fallen in pleasant places and they don't include you in my territory (Psalm 16:6). Jesus owns the title deed to my heart and you have no right messing with me! You got that? Now get out of here in Jesus' name!"
Let's Pray
Dear God, I feel all pumped up right now. I'm not going to let Satan take back any of the territory in my life that You have already purchased! The title deed is signed with Jesus' blood and sealed with the Holy Spirit's imprint. I'm Yours!
In Jesus' powerful Name,
Amen and Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there any parts of your life where you have let the enemy creep back in? Here are some areas to consider: bad TV or movie viewing, bad language, impure thoughts, overeating, negative attitudes, overspending, lack of faith, worry over circumstances, neglecting your marriage, confused priorities...
I'm not going to ask us to ponder anything else today. I think that is enough. Ask God to reveal any area that you need to take back.
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March 10, 2010
The Power of Being Weak
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong" (1 Corinthians 1:27 NIV).
Friend To Friend
When our son, Jered, began to walk, I immediately noticed that his feet turned inward. Our pediatrician recommended a specialist who examined Jered thoroughly, then ordered several x-rays. The more he examined Jered, the more concerned we became. When we were finally called in for a consultation, we braced ourselves for bad news - just in case. The doctor's stoic face revealed nothing but his diagnosis was a gift." There is nothing wrong with Jered's feet," he said. "They are simply the feet of a natural athlete and were designed to give him great balance." What we feared as a weakness and an obstacle to overcome was really a great strength and part of God's plan for Jered who attended and graduated from college - on a football scholarship.
The same is true in our lives. We were created by God, according to His plan, in love and with purpose, weaknesses and all. "God in heaven appoints each person's work" (John 3:27 NLT). We tend to view our weaknesses as liabilities. However, since our worth doesn't depend upon us in any way, we can and must be honest about our weaknesses, knowing they don't diminish our value in the heart and mind of God but can, in fact, become the areas through which He does His greatest work. Instead, we try to ignore weaknesses, hoping no one will notice. We live in denial, assigning blame to others when we fail. Eventually, we attempt to bury our weaknesses only to find them resurrecting themselves when we least expect it. A powerful life embraces pain, brokenness and weakness and understands that perfection is for Heaven, not Earth. The words of Paul are profound, "God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong" (1 Corinthians 1:27 NIV).
I love the bible story of Gideon, because I can relate to his way of thinking. Gideon is a great example of someone who used his weaknesses as an excuse for disobedience. Gideon's act of threshing wheat in a winepress reflected both his fear of discovery by his enemies, the Midianites, as well as Gideon's small harvest. Normally, wheat was threshed in an open area on a threshing floor by oxen pulling threshing sledges over the stalks. Gideon complained about God's direction, "My clan is the weakest ... and I am the least." I would probably have said something similar since the Midianites were nomadic invaders of great number and formidable strength. God wanted Gideon to defeat them, freeing the Israelites. Gideon's response was so human and so like our own when God calls us to do something that makes little sense and seems impossible.
God's commitment to Gideon reaffirmed His presence with Gideon and the ease with which Gideon would defeat the Midianites. In fact, God told Gideon that he would defeat his enemy "as if they were but one man". I love it! Here was Gideon, probably the last man anyone would choose to face the Midianites, and God is telling him the victory will be so easy it will seem like he is facing one man instead of an army of fierce invaders. Even then, Gideon's attitude was lousy. I can almost hear him whining as he blamed God for getting the Israelites into their current mess and voicing major doubts about God's willingness or even His desire to save them. Still, God said Gideon was the man for the job.
When we are honest about our weaknesses, we are conceding the fact that only God can accomplish anything good in or through us. God's power is instantly recognizable in obvious weakness. Just like God was with the flawed Gideon, He is with us. "God has promised, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.' So we say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'" (Hebrews 13:5-6 NIV).
Let's Pray
Father, I have to confess that I tend to depend on my strengths while trying to hide my weaknesses. Please help me to be real and honest when it comes to who I am in You. Help me celebrate the weaknesses that keep me on my face before You and in total dependence upon Your strength and power. Without You, I am nothing, Lord. But with You, anything is possible.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Make a list of your top three weaknesses as you see them.
· What have you done in an attempt to cover up those weaknesses? Has it worked?
· What do you think would happen if you began to view those weaknesses as opportunities for God's strength to be illustrated in your life?
· Choose one of the three weaknesses you listed above. Right now, thank God for His willingness to work through that weakness to illustrate His power and love.
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I hate to admit failure or weakness, but looking back over my life, I can see how God has used those dark times and failures for my good. Romans 8:28 tells us that God will use everything for His good if we love Him and seek to obey Him. Do not be afraid to recognize your human frailty and celebrate the fact that God's grace covers it all. The CD, Getting Good at Being You, can help you understand and apply this powerful truth in your life. Check it out!
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March 11, 2010
The Great I AM
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then God said to Moses, 'I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: I AM has sent me to you'" (Exodus 3:14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
One day, I was talking to a friend of mine on the phone. Her four-year-old daughter, Hope, who was supposed to be taking a nap, came walking in the room.
"What are you doing out of bed, young lady," Lysa asked.
"I'm having my quiet time," she responded matter-of-factly.
Hope plopped down on the couch with her "Bible" - the Sears Catalog.
Unfortunately, many view God as someone up in heaven Who doles out the goodies and see prayer as a time to place an order. But He is so much more.
A.W. Tozer wrote, "Nothing twists and deforms the soul more than a low or unworthy conception of God." Our concept of God, our understanding of who He is and what He does, is of crucial importance. Inaccurate and unbiblical thoughts about God can block His power in our lives.
In the Old Testament, there are many names of God that describe His character: He is Elohim-the Creator, El Elyon-God Most High, El Roi- the God who sees, El Shaddai- the All-Sufficient One, Adonai- the Lord, Jehovah- the Self-Existent One, Jehovah-Jireh- the Lord will Provide, Jehovah-Rapha-the Lord who Heals.
When someone in the Old Testament had an encounter with God and learned something new about His character, that person often gave God a new name. Likewise, when we encounter God in our everyday lives, we will learn new and exciting aspects of His character. However, our perception of God should never be based on our experiences alone. God has given us the Bible to reveal His nature. Through that revelation, God releases His power in our lives - power that renews our minds and in turn, affects our actions and emotions.
Of all the names of God mentioned in the Bible, the one that is the most powerful is I AM. Moses asked God, "Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, 'The God of your fathers has sent me to you,' and they ask me, 'What is his name?' then what shall I tell them?"
God answered, "I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: I AM has sent me to you" (Exodus 3:13-14.) That name is so powerful that when Jesus answered the questioning Roman soldiers who were coming to arrest Him with the same answer, they fell over backwards (John 18:5). Whatever you need, dear friend, God is.
Oswald Chambers once said, "We act like pagans in a crisis - only one out of an entire crowd is daring enough to invest faith in the character of God." How about you? Do you trust in the Great I AM today?
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are the great I AM, and because of who You are, everything is as it should be. You always have been and You always will be. You had no predecessor and You'll have no successor. There was nobody before You and there will be nobody after You. You are indescribable, incomprehensible, invincible, and irresistible. You are The Great I Am.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of anything you need today that God cannot provide?
Today, make a list of all the names of God you can think of. I would love to hear them. Let's share our answers on my Facebook page. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes And while you're there, make sure to sign up so you can visit with other Girlfriends in God.
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March 12, 2010
Time to Turn Around
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 1:7 (NLT) "He (God) is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven."
Friend To Friend
Several years ago, an interesting cartoon appeared in the Saturday Review of Literature. Little George Washington is standing with an ax in his hand. In front of him, lying on the ground is the famous cherry tree. He has already made his smug admission that he did it because, after all, he "could not tell a lie." However, his frustrated father is standing there saying, "All right, so you admit it! You always admit it! The question is when are you going to stop doing it?"
That really is the question we need to be asking ourselves. We often soothe our bothered conscience with admissions of sin, presenting them to the Father in obedience to the spiritual principle that we must confess our sin. One element of true confession goes a step farther, resulting in a changed lifestyle and behavior. It is called repentance. I once associated the command to repent with old-fashioned gospel meetings and screaming preachers on television. In reality, repentance is the very cornerstone of genuine forgiveness and gives credibility to the very act of confessing sin. To repent simply means to "turn away from." When we choose to turn from our sin and turn to God and His ways, we are practicing true repentance.
The Gospel of Luke tells the story of a prostitute who came to Jesus Christ seeking forgiveness. Her story is a beautiful illustration of authentic repentance, the result of her unabashed willingness to abandon her sin and seek God's forgiveness.
Luke 7:38 "As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them."
Notice that this woman stood behind Jesus like a "caught" child ashamed to look her Father in the eyes. I am certain that her guilt and sense of unworthiness prevented her from facing Him. Just being in His presence made her doubt everything about herself but nothing about Him. Standing so close to Him completely transformed her and she began to weep. Jesus was as pure as she was sinful. Every ugly thought, word or deed of her past must have flooded her heart and shattered it.
Tears of sorrow and joy spilled down her face onto the feet of the One - the only One who truly loved her. Those tears were the first genuine prayer of her life. She then let her hair down in total submission, dropped to her feet and began to dry the feet of Jesus with her hair. The social custom of the day demanded that women keep their hair bound up. To let it down was considered a brazen act and could even be grounds for divorce. But this woman was beyond caring about social custom and earthly rules. She was conducting eternal business, finally finding what she had been searching for in every wrong relationship, every failure and every dead end choice. She found Jesus!
This woman began kissing his feet and pouring perfume over them, totally oblivious to the condemning stares, lost in the wonder of His love. The word "kissed" literally means "to kiss again and again." She somehow knew that He understood everything she could not say and loved her in spite of her great sin.
It is very important to notice that Jesus did not move away from her. He did not condemn her or stop her. Jesus Christ knew exactly why she was there and He was thrilled! He saw her heart and received her humble action as an acceptable gift of worship. Jesus looked past her sin and saw her heart crying out for forgiveness. I love His response to this woman recorded in Luke 7:48 "Then Jesus said to her, 'Your sins are forgiven'." The verb tense of "forgiven" indicates that this forgiveness of sin was completed in the past, continues through the present and will keep working in the future.
Forgiveness is our greatest need and God's highest accomplishment, a complete and eternal gift bestowed on those who truly confess their sin.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize that I am a sinner in dire need of Your forgiveness. I come to You right now, repenting and turning from the sin that has separated me from You. Thank You for Your forgiveness and love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you ready to make the following commitment? Read aloud the following statements as your decision to deal with your sin - God's way.
I recognize the truth that forgiveness demands repentance. I now choose to confess and turn from the sin in my life. I will destroy any paths that might lead to those same sins. I will trust God to forgive me and empower me to keep turning from that sin. And I choose to do so right now - today!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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Don't wait another minute, girlfriend. Don't spend another day without purpose and power. Jesus is waiting for you; arms open wide, forgiveness and love in His heart - for you. Come to Him now. We would love to hear from you and celebrate the decision you made today.
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March 15, 2010
Faith in the Storm
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'" (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
The most difficult times to continue believing the promises of God are during the storms of life when the waves of emotions are so great they threaten to tip your boat and spill you into an ocean of despair.
I have been there, my friend. And I do know it can be the most difficult time to believe the truth and the easiest time to believe the enemy's lies. Let me share one such storm in my own life.
When my husband, Steve, and I decided to have children, we conceived with no problem. Steven Hugh Jaynes, Jr. was born with a shock of thick black hair and long Bambi-like eyelashes that had the nurses measuring for record breaking length. I loved being a mother more than any role I had ever experienced. Never in my life had I ever imagined so much love could be wrapped in such a small package.
Steven was about two-years-old when we decided to expand our family once again.
"Steven," we explained, "We are praying that God will give Mommy and Daddy another Jaynes baby so you can have a little brother or sister."
He thought that sounded like a good idea, so he ended our family prayer time each night with the benediction, "And God, please give Mommy and Daddy another Jaynes baby. Amen."
After six months, there was no news of another Jaynes baby. I was perplexed. Then a year passed. I was distraught. Then two years passed. I began sinking in a sea of fear and doubt. All the while, Steven prayed each night, "And God, please give Mommy and Daddy another Jaynes baby."
My husband and I began traveling down the frustrating road of doctor visits, infertility treatment and timed intimacy (which is anything but intimate). Then I began worrying about how this "unanswered" prayer was going to affect Steven's faith in God.
By age four, we still had no news for Steven. Obviously, it was not the Lord's plan for us to have another child at this time and I didn't know how to tell Steven that we didn't have to pray that prayer every night. I kept hoping that he would just forget about it. But he didn't forget about it any more than he forgot the "Amen" at the end of a prayer.
So I began to pray, Lord please show me how to ease out of this predicament. Show me how to tell Steven that we don't need to pray for another baby every night. I do not want this seemingly unanswered prayer to damage his faith.
We have a miniature table and chairs in the kitchen where Steven and I ate lunch together each day. One day while sharing peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, Steven looked up, and in his sweet little voice said, "Mommy, have you ever thought that maybe God only wants you to have one child?"
Shocked, I answered, "Yes, I have thought that maybe that is the case and if it is, I am so thankful because He has given me all I ever hoped for in a child wrapped up in one package, YOU!"
Then he turned his little head like a robin and said, "Well, what I think we ought to do is keep praying until you're too old to have one. Then we'll know that's His answer!"
What a great idea. I had been worried about Steven's faith, but all the while, it was my own that was struggling. I was having trouble believing that God loved me when He was withholding what I wanted most...a house full of children. How could He love me and not give me the desire of my heart? I wondered. Maybe He doesn't love me after all.
A favorite song Steven used to sing when he was four-years-old had these words:
"My God is so big, so strong, and so mighty. There's nothing my God cannot do. The mountains are His. The valleys are His. The stars are His handiwork too. My God is so big, so strong, and so mighty. There's nothing my God cannot do."
Steven didn't know how old too old was, (Sarah in the Bible was 90), but he did know God. He knew God could do anything. If His answer was "no" he didn't have a problem with that. I told him "no" many times and he understood that "no" did not mean "I don't love you." "No" just meant "no," because I am your parent and I know what's best for you.
The Lord taught me a great lesson through my four-year-old son. I saw through his childlike faith, an example of the attitude of trust that I should have toward my Heavenly Father who loves me and knows what's best for me. And though the storm had subsided for just a while, a tidal wave hit a few years later. Join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father who always knows what is best for me, today I give You my hopes and my dreams. If the answer is "no," I understand that You know what is best for me and honestly, I don't have a clue. Thank You for both Your provision and Your protection.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when your earthly parents told you "no," and you got upset? Then later, you understood the wisdom of their guidance?
Can you think of a time when your Heavenly Father said "no" to a request? Perhaps you didn't understand it at the time, but later the reason became crystal clear. Let me say it another way. Can you think of a time when you later praised God for the "no" and saw it was His provision or His protection?
I think sharing these stories would be a huge encouragement to our sisters who are struggling with an unfulfilled dream right about now. Let's share our stories. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com/facebook and encourage your sister-in-Christ. Remembering will encourage your heart as well!
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As I mentioned at the beginning of today's devotion, the most difficult times to continue believing the promises of God are during the storms of life when the waves of emotions are so great they threaten to tip your boat and spill you into an ocean of despair. So where are you today? Do you need a "faith lift?" Today's devotion came from Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. It might be just the book you need to encourage you to keep believing! Read an excerpt at www.sharonjaynes.com
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March 16, 2010
Faith in the Storms
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful" (Psalm 25:10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Sometimes when I gaze at the Jaynes family portraits of three smiling faces, I can almost see a shadow of a fourth. For there are four of us and one day - our picture will be complete.
"Steve, can you meet me for lunch? I have a little surprise I want to give to you."
I was so excited to share this unexpected news with my husband that I called him at the office and asked him to meet me at our favorite spot for lunch. After five years of struggling with infertility, we had become content with the realization that it must be the Lord's desire for our son, Steven, to be raised as an only child. It appeared that he would not have a brother or sister.
And now this surprise. At lunch, as Steve plucked the bow from the tiny package and nestled among the tissue paper hid a small gingham baby pillow. "Does this mean what I think it means?" he asked with tears forming in his eyes.
With a lump in my throat, all I could manage was a nod that said, "Yes, I'm pregnant."
After many years of trying to conceive, the Lord had blessed us with this unexpected pregnancy. I began planning the nursery, the doctor confirmed that the baby was growing, and we were about the happiest couple on earth. But our elation collapsed when a few months later the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, and my heart was crushed with sadness and despair. For those of us who believe that life begins at conception, a miscarriage can be devastating, because it is not simply the loss of a child who is to be; it is the loss of a child who is.
This was a tidal wave and it hit me broadside. I wish I could tell you I got out my Bible and began reciting the verses about my new identity. I wish I could tell you that I said, "All things work together for good" and kept my chin up. I wish I could tell you that I went into a time of prayer, trusting that "Father knows best." I did not. I went to bed and mourned for three months. I avoided church and happy people, my prayers felt empty and rote, and I allowed the tidal wave of pain to swallow my hope. Why? I listened to the lies of Satan. "I told you so," he taunted.
While I was too weak to pray, Jesus prayed for me (Hebrews 6:20).
One summer night, three months after the miscarriage, as I lay on my bed, crying, praying, and crying again, I wondered, What is my child doing in heaven? What does she look like? If only I could see a glimpse of her face or have one conversation with her. With a miscarriage there is no funeral - there are no sympathy cards. I needed some kind of closure to this grief. Then Almighty God Himself reached down and gave me a precious gift. Just as clearly as if I were reading words on a printed page, a letter was spoken to my heart. When the words stopped coming, I jumped up and wrote each precious gift on paper.
Dear Mommy,
I asked Jesus if it would be all right for me to write you a letter. He said it would be OK.
First of all, I want to thank you for loving me and giving me life. I remember how happy you and daddy were when you found out that you were going to have me. I remember how you prayed that I would come to know Christ at an early age. I remember how you prayed that I would have a mission in life to help others.
Mom, I know that you and dad were sad when God decided to take me to heaven before I was born. I saw the tears that you cried. But Mom, what I wanted to tell you is this: Your prayers were answered. I am healthy. I am strong. I do know Christ, and He lets me sit on His lap every day. And mom, I do have a mission. Everyday new babies come to heaven who were never born. Many of them never knew the love of a mother or father. When they come to heaven, they always ask the same question; 'Baby Jaynes, tell me, what was it like to have the love of a mother?' And I can tell them. Oh, how I can tell them.
Thank you, mom, for loving me. I know you miss me. But one day we will be together and what a time we will have. Until then, imagine me happy and whole, playing at the feet of Jesus, and telling other babies about what it feels like to have a mommy that loves them.
See you soon,
Baby Jaynes
What a precious gift the Lord had given me. The time of mourning had passed. I now had a picture of my child playing at the feet of Jesus! I still have days when I long for this child. Some days when I look at portraits of the Jaynes threesome adorning our family room walls, I almost see a fourth shadow in the sunlight. But there will come a day when my little girl will not be a mere shadow. I will hold her in my arms. Until then, it gives me great comfort picturing her healthy and whole and being held lovingly in the arms of Jesus.
During those months, I had a friend who used to sing me these words from a song titled "Trust His heart" by Eddie Carswell and Babbie Mason.
God is too wise to be mistaken.
God is too good to be unkind.
So when you can't understand
When you don't see His plan.
When you can't trace His hand
Trust His heart.
Faith. It is believing God no matter what our eyes and emotions tell us. It is not enough just to know the words in our heads; we must believe them in our hearts. Faith is trusting God in the dark.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I trust You because You are trustworthy. You never change. You always tell the truth. You always want what is best for me. You always have my best interest in mind. So even though I may not understand Your ways, I trust Your heart - and that gives me a peace that passes all understanding.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Job - now there was a man caught in a terrible storm. He had no idea what had hit him! And while his friends tried to come up with all kinds of reasons his life was falling apart, they had no idea.
Today, I want you to read God's response to Job. It's long, but buckle up. You're about to get an earful. Read Job 38-41.
Now, what was Job's response to God? Job 42:1-6.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes to share what's on your heart.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. Finding the nuggets of gold in the difficulties of past hurts is one of the ways we become spiritually radiant.
God turns miseries into ministry, messes into a message, and hurts into hope. You can learn more at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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March 17, 2010
Look At It This Way
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 4:24 (NCV) "Keep your eyes focused on what is right, and look straight ahead to what is good."
Friend To Friend
One of my favorite parts of attending Vacation Bible School as a child was the music. I enjoyed the Bible stories, crafts and being with my friends but singing was definitely the highlight of my day. I particularly loved the songs that included hand motions and can, to this day, remember most of those songs and hand motions.
One of my favorite songs was "Oh, Be Careful Little Eyes." The lyrics and melody are simple but the truth of this song is profound.
Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.
Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.
For the Father up above is looking down in love.
Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.
A study was done of concentration camp survivors to determine the common characteristics of those who did not die from disease or starvation. Victor Frankl was a living answer to that question. Before the Nazis threw him into a concentration camp, he was a successful psychiatrist. After his rescue, Victor Frankl traveled the world, sharing his story: "There is only one reason why I am here today. You kept me alive. Others gave up hope. I dreamed that someday I would be here telling you how I, Victor Frankl, had survived the Nazi concentration camps. I've never been here before, I've never seen any of you before, and I've never given this speech before. But in my dreams, I have stood before you and said these words a thousand times."
Outlook determines outcome. Victor Frankl survived because he chose a right focus, keeping his eyes fixed on what was ahead. Proverbs 4:25 explains, "We need to keep our eyes focused on what is right and look straight ahead to what is good." The picture painted here is one of an "upright" life, a life of "moral purity." We serve a holy God who is very serious about sin - serious enough to send His son, Jesus Christ, as payment for that sin. We claim the miracle of blood-bought forgiveness while flirting with sin. We give lip-service to God's sacrifice while allowing impurity to negate its power in our lives. We point others to the cross when we are the ones in desperate need of its deliverance.
When it comes to having a right focus, not only do we turn away from what is worthless but we turn to what is worthy. In yesterday's devotion, we discovered that Satan knows if he can control the mind, then he has won the battle. Who wins that battle is up to us and hinges on the choices that we make. The battle of the mind is won by controlling and filtering what we set before our eyes. In Psalm 101:3, we find an important key to guarding our mind, "I will set before my eyes no vile thing" (NIV). "Vile" means "evil one or troublemaker." Anything that is not feeding and nourishing the soul is depleting the soul, originates with Satan himself and will bring nothing but trouble. If it is not of God, it will numb you to what is of God. Be very careful what you place before your eyes - books, movies, television, magazines. We foolishly believe the lie that we "can handle it." If we could handle our sin, there would have been no reason for Jesus Christ to give up His life in order to pay for that sin. We are lost without Him!
I once lived in a small, rural community where cows were familiar neighbors and lost cows a common occurrence. How does a cow get lost? It starts nibbling on a patch of green grass. When it finishes, the cow looks ahead to the next patch of green grass. That patch digested, the cow looks ahead to the next patch of green grass and starts nibbling on that one. Then it nibbles on a patch of grass right next to a hole in the fence. The cow then sees the green grass on the other side of the fence so it nibbles on that one and then goes on to the next one and the next one. The cow finally looks up to discover it has nibbled itself into being lost.
We do the same thing. We bury our heads in the patches of everyday living. We make a single wrong choice and instead of looking up for forgiveness, instead of looking straight ahead for new direction, we look around for another wrong choice. Soon, we find ourselves at the bottom of a pit wondering how we got there. We must learn to keep our glance on the circumstances and our gaze on Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, please help me to focus on Your plan and purpose for my life. I keep looking in the wrong places for the right answers. I confess that I often keep my gaze on things that do not please You. Today, I ask You to give me the strength and power to look for You in every circumstance and to keep my focus on You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As you go through today, be aware of the things you see and watch that are not pleasing to God and do not measure up to His standard. How can you eliminate them?
What is the focus of your life? How does it need to change?
What consequences have you suffered because your eyes were focused on wrong things or wrong people?
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Wow! I know! I am getting downright personal, aren't I? But the reality is - if He is not Lord of all, He is not Lord at all. In other words, we need to surrender everything to God, including the control of our "eyesight" and choose to focus on what is right and good. Screen your thoughts, the books you read, the movies you see and ask yourself if they are pleasing to God. If not, get rid of them. Choose against them and choose to look at things God's way.
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March 18, 2010
Prayer Power
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Pray continually" (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
Friend To Friend
Over the past few years, my spiritual life has changed dramatically. I've witnessed the LORD move in amazing ways, and have felt His hand guide me like never before. What's the big secret? Why the big change? Simple: prayer. There is unexplainable power in prayer.
No, prayer isn't new to me. I've prayed ever since I was a child. But even though I love God, I often struggled to remain focused during my quiet time ... or to even carve out a daily quiet time, for that matter. My creative mind has a strong tendency to wander. So a few years back, I began keeping a prayer journal and my faith has really grown as a result.
My journal isn't fancy or expensive, just a notebook that can be picked up anywhere, but it has been a power tool for God's movement in and through my life. By keeping my heart focused in prayer, my journal has fanned the flame of my prayers, and has fueled the fire in my soul to connect with our active and living God who longs to be the center of our attention.
It's not rocket science and there aren't any special tricks. A prayer journal can be an effective tool for spiritual growth, but the power is in the praying. How do I put my power tool to work? I start off by writing the date. I then jot down who I want to pray for and what I want to pray about. I also love to write out Scripture passages that have spoken to my heart. Then I go to my Father- focused and fearless. God is the source of all power, and prayer is essential to experiencing His power in our lives.
Martin Luther said, "As it is the business of tailors to make clothes, and of cobblers to mend shoes, so it is the business of Christians to pray." Prayer moves the hand of God, yet, statistically; most Christians spend less than 5 minutes a day in prayer. That's just crazy! Why would we expect God to show His power in our lives if we don't give Him more time than we spend brushing our teeth each day?
Are you experiencing the power of God in your life? Would you like more strength, peace and direction in your days? God wants you to come to Him in prayer: when you are hurting, when you are angry, when you need direction, when you need answers, when you need hope, when you need healing. He wants you to come to Him for forgiveness, courage, strength, confidence, and perspective. Come with praise, adoration, humility, honor, and worship.
So - grab a journal and focus your heart and thoughts on God . The main thing is to get alone with God. He just wants you to come.
A GIG PLEDGE: Let's commit together to spend more time on our knees! Raise your right hand and say out loud: "Lord, it is my sincere intention to seek you more fervently from this moment on." God assures us, that when we seek Him, we will find Him! As Girlfriends in God, we are growing rapidly in numbers. All around the globe, close to 200,000 women join together in devotion to seek God's face. As we grow in width, may we, as GiGs, also grow in depth. I pray that we will each seek Him and experience His powerful and presence daily.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, thank You for allowing me to come to You in prayer today. I humbly bow before Your throne of grace and ask that You would forgive me for all of the times I have failed to come. I need You more than I know. Please help me experience the fullness of Your life-changing presence in a fresh and powerful way.
For Your glory and In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider keeping a prayer journal. Grab a pen and a notebook and get started! If you don't know where to start, use this as a template to begin:
Begin reading the Psalms during your quiet time. Journal what you learn and write down the verses that stir your heart. (There are 150 of them and if you meditate on one or two each day, you could be kept busy for a few months!)
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One morning, as I was reading in the Psalms, I came across a great scripture prayer. It is Psalm 143:8: "Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul." As I read it over and over, a song came to my heart. Want to hear it?? It will make you get your praise on, girlfriend! J Turn up your speakers and CLICK TO MY FACEBOOK PAGE to listen to "Show Me The Way."
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March 19, 2010
The Gift of Confrontation
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend" (Proverbs 27:6 NAS).
Friend To Friend
Sandpaper people are no strangers to confrontation. However, that confrontation usually comes from an unclean heart and an angry spirit. In fact, inept confrontations can easily become just another notch in a sandpaper person's belt, giving them one more reason to be who they are - difficult people.
Confrontation is a gift we bring to every relationship - especially difficult relationships. When love and gentleness deliver correction, it is much more likely to be received and acted on. We can be caring and confronting at the same time. In fact, confrontation is a spiritual exercise and an act of spiritual obedience that changes lives and builds healthy relationships.
Before Dan and I were married, I noticed several "rough edges" in his character that needed to be sanded away and felt like I was just the one for the job. After all, that's what wives are for - right? I decided to lay low for a few months, lulling him into a false sense of security while giving him a chance to make the changes on his own before I stepped in with my brilliant plan for his life. The only problem was that my plan did not line up with Dan's plan. In fact, he seemed oblivious to the character flaws that were blatantly obvious to me.
After a few months of marital bliss, during which I was secretly fine-tuning my "Fix Dan Plan", a seed of discontent took root and began to grow in my heart. The strength I had so admired in Dan now resembled stubbornness. His ability to take a complicated issue, dissect it and boil it down to a practical three-step-plan now seemed patronizing and sometimes even meddlesome. What I had once embraced as his devotion to me now seemed like his need to control me. It was time for the execution of my now well-thought-out and sure-to-succeed plan of transforming my husband into the man God and I thought he should be.
It goes without saying that unity was the last thing on my mind or on my list of changes to be made. Looking back, I am certain I fit the bill of a sandpaper person deluxe at that point in Dan's life! But like most difficult people, I would not be deterred. The results were painfully disastrous.
Arguments over insignificant issues ensued as we battled for control of the relationship. Dan fielded each attack, confused and bewildered by the mysterious and not-so-wonderful change in his wife. Every area of our marriage suffered and we were both miserable. Thankfully, my young but wise husband was committed to me, I was committed to him and we were both committed to God's plan for our marriage. I will never forget the afternoon Dan confronted me in love and with amazing patience. I don't remember much of the conversation but I remember the words that broke my heart but saved our marriage, "Honey, I'm not sure what is going on between us. But I do know I want to love you like you need to be loved." And there you have the recipe for a successful marriage and healthy relationships.
I loved Dan like I thought he should be loved instead of how he needed to be loved, with my requirements and my expectations, hoping that he would have to do all of the changing while I did all of the controlling. I had a lot to learn about the art of confrontation, how it brings unity, peace and joy to any relationship where it is invited to work. There is a right way and a wrong way to confront. The success of any confrontation depends upon understanding the difference between the two.
· Always begin confrontation with affirmation. Encouraging words set the stage and prepare the heart to hear words of correction.
· Be willing to take your part of the blame. No conflict is ever totally one-sided. Taking your share of the blame often diffuses anger and steers the confrontation in the right direction.
· Express hurt...not hostility. It is important to keep emotions under control during confrontation. Volume negates listening. Raised voices and angry words slam the door shut on any possible good that can come from confrontation. Express your feelings with words - not volume or accusation.
· Make clear, direct statements. When facing confrontation, I will often write down what I plan to say; then read it aloud and sometimes in front of the mirror. I can then go back and eliminate unnecessary comments, inflammatory words or vengeful statements disguised as correction. In any confrontation, it is important to stick to the facts, refusing to become either hysterical or historical.
· Avoid using the words "never" and "always" because they tend to stir up emotions and fan emotional fires. These words are obviously untrue and accomplish little in a confrontation, destroying any credibility of the person doing the confronting.
·Learn to listen. One of my favorite tactics in confrontations is to use the time the other person is speaking to formulate my next point. As a result, I don't listen because I assume I already know what will be said. Difficult conversations require total attention.
Be solution centered. It is so easy to go for the "let's get this over" conversation instead of the "let's get to the heart of this problem" discussion. Make the decision beforehand to stay at the table of confrontation until a solution is found and restoration is achieved.
We were created to live in harmony. God calls us to wage peace in every relationship - the easy ones as well as the relationships that are difficult. Part of winning the battle is learning how to confront sandpaper people in the right way - God's way. Confrontation that is done in love changes lives, impacts relationships and honors God
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be a good friend. I want to please You through the relationships in my life. Give me the wisdom and strength to be honest with those I love but give me a gentle spirit as well. Guard my heart against pride and help me to see the things in my own life that need correcting. I pray that what I say and do pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Ecclesiastes 4:12. What does this verse say to you about the importance of friendship?
One of the most beautiful portraits of friendship is the relationship between Ruth and Naomi. Read Ruth 1:1-22. Was confrontation important in the friendship between these two women? How?
Examine the friendships you have in your life. Are you willing to bring the gift of confrontation to each one?
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Do not succumb to the line of thinking that combat and confrontation are the same thing. Combat slowly corrodes and splinters while confrontation is an art that, when done correctly, improves and strengthens relationships. Let's wage peace!
Need help in your spiritual growth? Check out my weekly online study, Light for the Journey. Or download one of my E-Book Bible Studies such as Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear, I Need a Friend... more.
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March 22, 2010
The Conviction of Things Not Seen
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
When my son was five-years-old, we had a cassette tape called "Rappin' Rabbit's Christian Habits." On this tape, Rappin' Rabbit rapped Bible verses. It was a bit annoying, to tell you the truth, but I still remember those verses. One verse was Hebrews 11:1. Rappin' Rabbit jammed, "Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. That may be hard to say, but Hebrews 11:1 says it that way."
I just love the words "the conviction of things not seen,"(NASB), or as the NIV says, "certain of what we do not see." That's what faith is all about. Believing in our heart what we don't see with our eyes.
One day, God allowed Elisha and his servant to glimpse into "things not seen." In 2 Kings 6:16-17, Elisha's servant woke up one morning terrified because they were surrounded by a host of enemies on horseback. Elisha asked God to reassure the servant by allowing him to see into the invisible spiritual realm.
"Oh, my lord, what shall we do?" the servant asked.
"Don't be afraid," the prophet answered. "Those who are with us are more than those who are with them."
And Elisha prayed, "O LORD, open his eyes so he may see." Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.
Elisha and his servant saw the army of God surrounding them - ready to fight on their behalf. The Lord may never give us the opportunity to have that veil that separates the visible from the invisible lifted in the physical sense, but what we cannot see with our eyes is very real. "So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:18 NIV). The unseen, the spiritual, is the greater reality.
Faith is not based on ignorance, but rather on what we know to be true about God. It means believing God, even though our eyes and emotions tell us differently.
We will never have all of our questions answered this side of heaven, but if we simply strengthen our faith by believing and acting on what little we do know, we'll be mountain moving, giant slaying women of beauty and strength.
The foundation of our faith is a clear understanding of who God is. This is not based on what He does, because we cannot understand His ways and many times we falsely interpret His actions. If we base our faith purely on what we see God do with our physical eyes, our journey will be a spiritual roller coaster of ups and downs, twists and turns, highs and lows. "As the heavens are higher than the earth," God said, "so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:9). Faith is believing that "Father knows best" no matter what.
Three boys who had faith in God based on who He was, regardless of what He might do, were Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. They were Jewish administrators who served during the time of King Nebuchadnezzar. When they refused to worship the king's idols, but chose to honor the One True God instead, the King threatened to throw them in a blazing furnace. They replied:
O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and He will rescue us from your hand, O King. But even if He does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up. Daniel 3:16-15.
The boys knew God could rescue them, but if He chose not to, they understood He had a higher purpose beyond what they could see. By the way, do you want to know how the story ends? The king tied up the boys with ropes and threw them in the furnace. Then he watched Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego dance around in the fire with a fourth man who looked like a "son of the gods." Jesus showed up. The King shut up. And the boys were released without even a hint of the scent of smoke.
I'm believing God today! How about you?
Let's Pray
Dear God, there are circumstances going on in my life today and honestly, I don't see an end in sight. But I know that You know the beginning from the end and have everything under control. Whether I'm in the fiery furnace, the lion's den, or caught in the stormy sea, You are right there with me. I choose to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
"The conviction of things not seen" seems a bit confusing. It seems like one of those Christian-ese phrases that are just hard to describe. But it is important. Go ahead. Give it a try. How would you explain that phrase to someone in a way that is easy to understand?
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March 23, 2010
The Beatitudes of Anger Management
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 4:26 "In your anger, do not sin."
Friend To Friend
Everyone gets angry and everyone must learn to deal with his or her anger. Anger is an emotional warning light that tells us something is wrong. We are hurt, frustrated, wronged or rejected. Something has changed and we do not like it. It is important to remember that anger itself is not sin. In Ephesians 4:26, Paul warns, "In your anger, do not sin" which means that while God created us with the capacity for anger, it is possible to be angry and yet not sin.
Anger handled correctly becomes a tool for good but anger that is mishandled leads to destruction and can even get in the way of God's justice. We must choose to cultivate spiritual disciplines and habits that will enable us to deal with and express anger correctly. Today, we will examine choices we must make to control and manage anger.
Be still.
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
Anger is more likely to flourish in a life that is too busy. If we are busy, it is much easier to ignore or refuse to face and deal with the real source of anger. Anger that is not dealt with in the right way accumulates over time, allowing bitterness to take root and rage to simmer just below the surface of everything we do, say, think or feel. In order to manage anger, we need to incorporate frequent and regular "stops" into our schedules; time set aside to simply be still and hear the voice of God.
Be quiet.
James 1:19-20 "Everyone should be slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Our first response to conflict is often not a response at all but a reaction. We jump in with a brutal rebuttal or a thoughtless correction - which is like pouring gasoline on a fire. An explosion is certain. Our first action should be to stop and think instead of rushing to respond sarcasm or an offensive rebuttal. Let the other person(s) have their say and try to understand all the perspectives before taking your turn to offer an opinion. Try to view the facts objectively by seeing the "big picture." Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.
Be wise.
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control."
Wisdom is doing the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Anger management comes from wisdom rooted in self-control. I love the story of Jesus driving the moneychangers out of His Father's temple. In John 2:15, scripture says Jesus "made a whip out of cords." Don't miss this picture. At the height of His anger, Jesus wisely took the time to gather several cords with which he braided a whip. Jesus was so angry that He knew He needed to cool off, so He deliberately chose to be still and quiet for a time. When we are close to losing control of anger, we need to do what Jesus did - take a break from the situation in order to control our anger in the situation.
Be discerning.
Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin...search your hearts and be silent."
When you are angry with someone, ask yourself why. Think back to what led up to the conflict. Was it something someone said to you? Could a past problem have triggered your present anger? Give yourself time to consider why you are upset and what you should do to handle it in the most effective and appropriate way.
We need to deal with anger in the right way for our own good. However, there is another reason - a higher reason to practice anger management. The story is told of a preacher who was putting in a wooden fence. As he hammered away, he noticed a little boy quietly watching him. The boy didn't say a word so the preacher kept working, thinking the little boy would leave - but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admired, the preacher finally said, "Well, son, are you trying to pick up some pointers on building?" The little boy quickly responded, "No! I'm just waiting to see what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer." answered.
The world is watching and waiting to see what we do when our emotional buttons are pushed because what is really inside comes out when anger strikes. Join me tomorrow as we examine four more beatitudes of anger management.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for creating me with the capacity to feel and to experience emotions. Please help me learn how to control my emotions and use them for good. Help me eliminate anything in my life that is a source of anger and frustration. I want to please You and honor You but I need Your strength to obey Your commands. Today, I choose against destructive anger and ask you to teach me how to experience and promote peace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The longer I work with people the more I realize that there is always a reason for their behavior. Hurt people - hurt people. Anger is often hurt and pain in disguise. When we choose to focus on the hurt behind the anger instead of the anger itself, our response has a greater chance of being right.
Is there any hurt or pain in your life that you have not addressed?
How has that pain affected your life? Your relationships?
Are you ready to experience God's healing in your life so that you can lay down your hurt and anger?
Which one of the four attitudes listed above do you struggle with most?
What first step do you need to take in order to correct that attitude?
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I know it is sometimes hard to control emotions. Anger can be especially difficult to manage. I believe we can learn to control our emotions through the power of the Holy Spirit at work in our life. Consistent Bible study and prayer are powerful habits that will help us develop attitudes and discipline our emotions toward peace.
Join women across the world in Bible Study by enrolling in my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
Download my E-Book Bible Study, Anger Management 911 for more practical ways to deal with anger. This study is perfect for individual or small group study.
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March 24, 2010
The Beatitudes of Anger Management
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 4:26 "In your anger, do not sin."
Friend To Friend
Anger is an emotional warning light that tells us something is wrong. We are hurt, frustrated, wronged or rejected but something has changed and we do not like it. Anger itself is not sin. In Ephesians 4:26, Paul warns, "In your anger, do not sin" which means that while God created us with the capacity for anger, it is possible to be angry and yet not sin. The key to dealing with anger is learning to express it correctly. Yesterday, we talked about four actions that will help us manage anger. Today, we will complete the list of choices we can make in controlling anger - instead of allowing it to control us.
Be focused.
Psalm 37:8 "Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret; it leads only to evil."
I witnessed the utter strength and beauty of our daughter-in-law as she went through hours of labor during the birth of our twin grandchildren. The pain was excruciating, but Jodi worked through each contraction by doing two things: controlling her breathing and choosing a focus point. We need to do the same. When anger consumes you, take several deep breaths, releasing each one slowly as we focus on the peace of God. Sometimes, you may need to excuse yourself for a short break in order to gain the right perspective. If possible, try walking for a few minutes to work off anger rather than take it out on someone. Walk the dog or simply stroll around the block. Physical activity offers an outlet for anger. Getting into the habit of taking 30-minute walks several times a week will improve your overall state of mind and lessen the occurrence and intensity of your anger.
Be understanding.
James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen."
We have two ears and one mouth for a reason—to listen twice as much as we speak. When you begin getting angry with someone, take time to listen to what the other person has to say. Make sure you understand that person's viewpoint. In fact, it might be a good idea for you to repeat it back to make sure you get the point. Only then, when you have processed that information and reigned in your emotions, should you offer a reply. Listening skills play a significant role in anger management.
Be kind.
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
The next time someone makes you angry, put a smile on your face. No, I am not kidding! It is hard to stay upset when you are smiling. Smiling is one of the best and most affordable anger management tips because you can do it anytime, almost anywhere, and to pretty much anyone. The next time you are angry, choose to give a friendly smile of understanding, appreciation, or patience as you listen to the other side of the story; and make sure it is a real smile—not a sarcastic grin.
Be ready.
1 Peter 5:8 "Be self-controlled and alert."
The best way to manage anger is to prevent it in the first place. How? Balance your schedule and priorities so that you will not live in a constant state of frustration and exhaustion. Avoid spending time with angry people. Proverbs 22:24 is very clear, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man; do not associate with one easily angered." We really do become like the people with whom we spend the most time. Pray constantly, asking the Holy Spirit to help you cultivate the habits that encourage peace instead of anger. Memorize Scripture. The Word of God is a powerful weapon in dealing with and managing our emotions.
God created us with the capacity for emotions. That means He has a right plan and a right place for emotions in our lives. Anger management is a spiritual discipline that God honors, blesses and empowers.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for creating me with the capacity to experience emotions. Sometimes I have a hard time controlling those emotions - especially my anger. Please help me learn how to express my emotions in a way that is healing to my relationships and pleasing to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review the eight beatitudes of anger management. Which one do you need to cultivate in your life?
Be ready.
Be kind.
Be understanding.
Be focused.
Be still.
Be quiet.
Be wise.
Be discerning.
Record these beatitudes in your journal.
Write out your prayer of commitment to cultivate attitudes and habits that will help you manage anger in your life.
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I know it is sometimes hard to control emotions. Anger can be especially difficult to manage. I believe we can learn to control our emotions through the power of the Holy Spirit at work in our life. Consistent Bible study and prayer are powerful habits that will help us develop attitudes and discipline our emotions toward peace.
Join women across the world in Bible Study by enrolling in my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
Download my E-Book Bible Study, Anger Management 911 for more practical ways to deal with anger. This study is perfect for individual or small group study.
Strength for the Storm is my new DVD of how to handle the storms in life. Check it out today! I would love to connect with you on Facebook! Let's talk!
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March 25, 2010
Strengthening Your Faith
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Elijah was a man just like us. He prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a half years. Again he prayed, and the heavens gave rain, and the earth produced its crops" (James 5:17-18 NIV).
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I remember sitting in embryology and anatomy classes in college and being amazed at the intricacies of the human body. It still boggles my mind to imagine that a microscopic strand of molecules called DNA determines every part of our physical body. It is also a wonder that every muscle you and I will ever have is present when we are born. (So is every fat cell!) Every little trapezious, tricep, bicep, quadracep, and glutteous maximus - from the top or our heads to the tip of our toes is present and accounted for when we breathe our first breath. That means that you and Arnold Swarzenegger came with the same basic muscular equipment, but because of exercise, His muscles grew bigger!
Just as a baby has all the muscles she will ever have at birth, as a new, born-again believer, you received all the faith you will ever need. We are each given a measure of faith (Romans 12:3). However, some have a larger faith (not necessarily more) because they have exercised, stretched, and strengthened what they were given. When the disciples failed to cast out a demon and asked Jesus the reason for their failure, He answered, "Because you have so little faith." This was not the quantity of their faith but the quality - their faith needed more exercise. Jesus went on to say, "I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
Let's consider two Bible verses. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17) and "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (2 Peter 1:3). Do you have the faith to believe those two promises?
Hebrews chapter 11 is filled with men and women in the Bible who believed God, but perhaps my favorite New Testament walk down the Old Testament memory lane is in James 5:17-18. "Elijah was a man just like us. He prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a half years. Again he prayed, and the heavens gave rain, and the earth produced its crops." What's so special about that passage? To me, it's not that he prayed about the rain. It's those three little words, "just like us." He was just like us! He didn't have more faith, but He had strong faith.
As we renew our minds with the Word of God and then put what we have learned into practice, our faith will grow stronger. James wrote, "Faith without works is useless" (James 2:20). In other words, if we simply say that we believe something in our minds, but do not appropriate or demonstrate it in our actions, it does not bring life to us or to those around us. As we exercise our faith, it grows stronger.
Exercise the faith you have been given. Find one promise in Scripture, confess it, believe it, and make it yours. Then pick another, then another and another. Soon that mustard seed of faith will take root, shoot toward the sky, sprout branches, and produce a bumper crop of fruit.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank You for the gift of faith. Help me to recognize the situations in my life where I have allowed doubt to creep in and weaken my faith. Today, I am exercising the faith that You have given me so that it will grow stronger and be more effective.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
My son loves lifting weights to build up his muscles. When he does a bench press and lifts a potential face-crushing barbell over his chest, (this is how I see it as a mother!) he has a "spotter" standing over him. The spotter's job is to catch the barbell and keep it from falling on Steven's head in case he should slip or pick up a weight he's not strong enough to lift. As we exercise our faith, Jesus is our spotter. If we are too weak to lift the weight of a heavy load, Jesus is standing as our spotter to keep us from being crushed. If we find ourselves too weak to lift the load, we don't give up, but continue pressing on and working those faith muscles until they are stronger.
God also gives us girlfriends in God who serves as spotters. When we see a friend's faith beginning to slip, we can help hold up the weight for her. Today, ask God if there is someone who needs your help through believing prayer.
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March 26, 2010
"What's Your Temperature?"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Search Me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."
(Psalm 139:23-24, ESV)
Friend To Friend
I got a phone call in the middle of a workday from my son Preston. He was calling from the nurse's office at the school. Here's how the conversation went:
"Hey mom. It's Preston. I'm not feeling well, and I have a temperature of 96.5. Can you come get me?"
"96.5 degrees?" I asked. "Honey, that's below normal! That doesn't sound right."
"I know," he said, "but I don't feel well. Can you please come pick me up?"
"Sure honey. I'll be right there."
I chuckled the whole way to the school at what he had said. Surely he misread the thermometer! A normal temperature is 98.6. Something was off. I got to the school in a North Carolina minute and headed straight to the nurse's office. While Preston packed up his bag to go home, I spoke privately to the school nurse. With a grin on her face, she explained to me that Preston was resistant to putting the thermometer under his tongue as she had instructed him to do. He wasn't comfortable with that. "So," she said, "he held the thermometer between his lips." The nurse and I exchanged chuckles and amused glances as I thanked her for helping my son.
Although Preston knew something wasn't right with his body, he didn't get an accurate temperature reading because he didn't place the thermometer in deep enough. He didn't let it probe past the surface.
Later that night, as I thought back on the day, the Lord spoke to my heart. He showed me that there are times when I'm resistant to an accurate reading of my spiritual wellness. Times when I won't let Him probe past the surface of my heart, my actions, my attitudes, and my perspective to allow Him to reveal an accurate spiritual temperature for my life. Times when I'm not comfortable with deeper-level stuff. Times when I don't sit still to listen.
I was disturbed by that thought. I needed to be disturbed by that thought. By that truth. I'm in full time ministry, but that doesn't mean that I'm always in perfect spiritual health. To the contrary...the more I learn about God's holiness, the more I realize how much I need His grace and strength every minute of every day.
You might not "feel well" today. Perhaps you have spiritual indigestion from your marriage, your children, your friendships, your finances, your singleness, your conversations. It could be from the shows you watch, the internet relationships you've developed, the gossip you allow to pass from your lips, the jealousy you feel in your heart. You haven't allowed your heart to be probed. You are resistant to an accurate assessment of the hurt---resistant to a true assessment of your own heart.
What's your spiritual temperature? Are you hot or cold? Is the flame of faith in your heart fading or raging? Have you sat still long enough lately to ask God to search your heart? It's time for an accurate reading.
"For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him." 2 Chronicles 16:9, NIV
Let's Pray
Holy Father, as the psalmist prayed, I ask that you would, "search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, ESV). In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a spiritual inventory today. Spend a few moments considering your spiritual wellness. What is your quiet time like? Is God a top priority in your life? Do you set aside time regularly to read your Bible? Ask God to probe your heart and reveal areas in your life that need to be made right.
Read John 15:1-11, then write a prayer response.
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The Bible tells us that God disciplines those He loves. I do realize that this devotion might have stepped on your toes today. Please know that Sharon, Mary and I are on the pruning table right there with you, and though we may not always love the sting of God's pruning, we can trust that it is for our growing and for His glory. Hope you take time for the deeper-level stuff today!
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March 29, 2010
Sit Down and Be Quiet
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish" (John 6:11 NIV).
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Have you ever noticed this pattern in the gospels - the disciples get in a bind and Jesus bails them out. It reminds me of the old fifties program, Father Knows Best. The kids got in trouble, the father solved the problem and then he taught us all an important life lesson at the end. Come to think of it, "Father Knows Best" would be a fabulous subtitle for the gospels!
In John 6:1-15, we find the disciples in a precarious situation. Their lawn party had turned into quite a bash. The guests far exceeded their expectations, the disciples hadn't planned on providing dinner, and it appeared the crowd was expecting refreshments. But the disciples didn't have the funds or the food to feed them. All they could scrounge up were five loaves of bread and two dried fish. The crowd was getting restless, the disciples were getting nervous, and Jesus was getting ready. He took the five loaves and two fish and told the crowd to sit down - he told them to rest.
Then He lifted the food toward heaven, blessed it, and commanded the disciples to hand out the provisions to those who were seated. He didn't feed the people who were running around worrying - but the ones who were at rest. To those He gave "immeasurably more than they could ask or imagine" (see Ephesians 3:20), with twelve baskets left over.
When we believe God, we will have rest and peace in our lives. I want you to do something for me. Right now, I want you to use your imagination. The Bible tells us in Ephesians that we are "in Christ" and Christ is "in us." It also tells us that we are seated "in heavenly places" and "transferred to the kingdom of Christ." Picture yourself sitting right beside Jesus under a spreading oak tree. Perhaps His arm is around your shoulder and your head is resting on his chest. You can feel the beating of His heart against your cheek and your head moves with the rise and fall of His breathing. With His other hand, He strokes your head and immediately knows how many hairs are on your head. His breath warms your skin as it brushes past your face. Imagine Him looking into your eyes and knowing your innermost being and meeting your gaze with a warm, affirming smile reassuring you of His love and care.
Now tell me, as you imagine yourself in the presence of Jesus, how anxious do you feel? How rejected do you feel? How worried about tomorrow are you?
You may be thinking, "Yes, Sharon. I feel at peace in that scene. But that's not reality." Dear sister, that is the greater reality. No matter what you are going through today, Jesus is right there with you. So maybe you just need to sit down and be quiet for a while.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I'll admit, sometimes I am so busy running around trying to solve my problems, I miss Your provision. Help me to listen to You more closely and see Your provision more clearly. I don't want to miss what You have for me today. Help me to sit down and be quiet - to rest in You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is it difficult for you to sit down and be quiet with Jesus?
What keeps you from taking time to be still before Him?
Today, take at least ten minutes to be still with Jesus. No multi-tasking. Don't do this while driving the car or washing the dishes. Just you and Jesus. Give Him your full attention.
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March 30, 2010
Waging Peace
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:2-3 "I encourage both Euodia and Syntyche to have the attitude the Lord wants them to have. Yes, I also ask you, Syzugus, my true partner, to help these women. They fought beside me to spread the Good News along with Clement and the rest of my co-workers, whose names are in the Book of Life"(GWT).
Friend To Friend
If we have a personal relationship with God then we have access to all of His power and all of His peace. Now stop for a moment and read that statement again. Do you really believe it? I am convinced that we have become complacent about the power of God. It is that same power that raised Lazerus from the dead, healed the blind man and made the lame man walk. That same power is ours - if we know God.
While His power is miraculous, we still live each day as if we were spiritual beggars without hope and without purpose because we do not understand and walk in the truth that God makes His power and His peace available to us. The question then becomes how to tap into God's power and peace. Scripture is clear when it says that our only power and peace comes from God through consistent prayer, bible study and right relationships.
Paul understood that peace is often the casualty of unresolved conflict in relationships and in ministry. In his letter to the church at Philippi, Paul gives us a glimpse of just how serious he is about peace. He was serious enough to call names and to call those names in front of the whole church. I don't know about you, but if I had been Euodia and Syntyche, I would have died of embarrassment and looked for the nearest pew to crawl under when Paul's letter was read. On the other hand, their names may be the reason for their anger. Euodia means "prosperous journey" while Syntyche means "pleasant acquaintance". These two women were certainly not living up to their names. Euodia and Syntyche were not bad women but women who worked in the church and had even worked with Paul. But something had happened! The scripture does not say what the problem was. It wasn't important. It usually isn't. Paul really did not care about the details. He simply said to "fix it" and tells them to agree with each other in the Lord.
Paul is not saying they must always agree about everything or that there will never be conflict. He is telling them that their bickering is destroying the peace of the church - dangerous ground on which to stand. Unresolved conflict is the enemy of peace and has no place in the church. Yet, as women in ministry, much of our time is spent on this very issue - conflict resolution - and the reason is simple. Sin is alive and well - in the world and in the church. If we "followed wholly" after God, seeking to become fully devoted followers of God, peace would be the norm instead of the exception.
The world has its own system for working out conflict. It is called retaliation and revenge! But God has a different plan.
Proverbs 27:6 "Faithful are the wounds of a friend."
The "wound" is confrontation for the good of friend. If you love - you level! Loving confrontation is a gift we bring to healthy relationships and one of the most important tools in ministry. Our refusal to confront someone because it makes us uncomfortable is like watching in silence as someone we love walks off a dangerous cliff. It is sin. God calls us as women in ministry to confrontation. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to confront someone.
My husband, Dan, was leaving for a trip, a time always filled with tension. Something he did made me very angry, but I did not want to confront him about it before his trip, knowing we would not have time to discuss the problem. My solution was to save my confrontation. I waited - and gave my anger ample time to grow into a full-fledged, volcanic eruption. Several days later, my poor unsuspecting husband walked in the front door, suitcases in hand, exhausted and so glad to be home. Well, I fixed that! I let him have it - in front of the kids. In other words, I broke every rule of confrontation. I could easily have waited until Dan had taken a nap, the kids had gone outside to play or I had managed to garner a better attitude. Better still, I could have dismissed the whole issue for what it was, an unworthy place to invest my emotion energy.
Successful confrontation is always done in love. If we enjoy or look forward to the confrontation, our motive is wrong. The harder the truth, the more love we must use to say it. Here are a few rules for confrontation done the right way:
Confront with the right motive.
Confront at the right time.
Confront with the right audience.
Confront in the right way.
The time to prepare for conflict resolution is now. The choice to handle every disagreement according to the rules of healthy confrontation must be made before the disagreement or conflict occurs. Decide right now to resolve all conflict. And if you are causing conflict - stop it! Peace is at stake.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the peace You bring to my life. I celebrate You as the Prince of Peace and Lord of Lords. Please help me to be a woman of peace. I pray that You will help me learn how to confront others in a way that pleases and honors You and restores others.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine the relationships in your life.
Is there any conflict that needs to be resolved?
Are you willing to take the first step toward restoration?
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As children of God, our relationships should illustrate God's love and peace. When conflict occurs, we need to be willing to initiate the process of resolving that conflict. I want to challenge ever Girlfriend to wage peace - in your relationships, your home, your family and workplace. Do not surrender the peace of God to anyone or any agenda.
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March 31, 2010
Whose Report Will You Believe?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We should go up and take possession of the land," they said, "for we can certainly do it...If the LORD is pleased with us, he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and will give it to us" (Numbers 13:30, 14:8 NIV).
Friend To Friend
This month, I've been talking a lot about faith. Believing God...it's what takes us into our personal Promised Land. In the Old Testament, God brought the Israelites out of the bondage of Egyptian slavery. Moses led the people under the blood-stained doorframes of the Passover, across the dry land of the Red Sea, and into the land flowing with milk and honey. The travelers witnessed God part the sea, rain down quail from heaven, scatter manna on the ground, and pour water from a rock. He guided them by a fire at night and a cloud by day. And yet, when it came time to march into the Promised Land, the land that was theirs for the taking, they faced a crisis of belief.
"Send some men to explore the land of Canaan, which I am giving to the Israelites," God instructed Moses. So Moses sent twelve spies to scout out the land. When they returned, ten gave the following report:
"We went into the land where you sent us and it does flow with milk and honey!" they said. "But the people who live there are powerful, and the cities are fortified and very large...We can't attack those people; they are stronger than we are...The land we explored devours those living in it. All the people we saw there are of great size...We seemed like grasshoppers in our own eyes, and we looked the same to them" (Numbers 13:27-33).
But two of the spies, Caleb and Joshua, believed God. "We should go up and take possession of the land," they said, "for we can certainly do it! If the LORD is pleased with us, he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and will give it to us. Only do not rebel against the LORD. And do not be afraid of the people of the land, because we will swallow them up. Their protection is gone, but the LORD is with us. Do not be afraid of them." (Numbers 13:30, 14: 8, 9).
Guess whom the people believed? They believed the "evil report" - the ten men who did not believe God rather than the two men who did. God had already given them the land; the people simply had to move forward and posses it. But instead of moving into the Promised Land, they wandered in the desert for the rest of their lives. That entire generation of adults died in their unbelief, except for Caleb and Joshua.
But when the next generation came along, they believed God and moved into the Promised Land that their parents never saw. We can be just like that unbelieving generation - saved from slavery but wandering in the desert of unbelief. I have an acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. They only saw the giants, but failed to see Almighty God.
Oswald Chambers notes:
Human frailty is another thing that gets between God's words of assurance and our own words and thoughts. When we realize how feeble we are in facing difficulties, the difficulties become giants, we become like grasshoppers, and God seems to be non-existent. But remember God's assurance to us: "I will never ...forsake you." Have we learned to sing after hearing God's keynote? Are we continually filled with enough courage to say, "The Lord is my Helper," or are we yielding to fear?
So here's my question to you. Whose report are you going to believe? Are you going to believe God's Word is true, or the enemy who tries to stop you from entering your own Promised Land because of fear?
Satan says, "You can't do it." God says, "I already have."
I don't want to be like those Israelites who didn't believe God. Do you? Are you going to move into the land flowing with milk and honey - take God's promises and make them yours? Or, are you going to believe the evil report and continue wandering around in the desert - free from slavery, but missing the Promised Land? Whose report are you going to believe?
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, forgive me for being like the Israelites who didn't believe You. Forgive me when I focus on the giants in the land rather than the giant-slayer. Today, I commit to take You at Your Word. I'm believing God today and moving forward to take the land You have already given me!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you were listening to the two reports mentioned in today's devotion, which one would you have believed?
Hindsight is 20/20 and most of us would cheer, "I'd believe Joshua! I'd believe Caleb!" But I wonder. Do we believe God's promises even now?
What promises of God do you need to believe today?
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April 1, 2010
Taking Every Thought Captive
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We are destroying speculation and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5 NASB).
Friend To Friend
Several years ago, my family went on an excursion out West. We flew to Nevada, rented a car, and then proceeded to log in 2500 miles in ten days. One of our stops was Jackson Hole, Wyoming - cowboy country.
On Saturday night, we attended the local rodeo. There we sat, three city slickers among whoopin' hollerin' locals. The cowboys' skills entertained and amazed those of us who thought a Bronco was a 4-wheel drive. Cowboys, young and old, rode bucking broncos, raced around barrels, and conquered angry bulls. But the most thrilling event was the lassoing contest.
We all sat on the edge of our seats as the cowboy waited, poised in his saddle, anticipating the calf's release from the chute. The corral door swung open and the calf burst from the gate. The cowboy exploded through a second door with lasso in hand, and pursued the bucking, twisting, galloping animal. He lassoed the calf's neck; threw him to the ground; quickly wrapped the rope around his legs; tied them securely in place; and immediately jumped up and raised his arms in victory. As the victor stood receiving his applause, his trained steed took three steps backward to secure the rope in place.
The timer continued to run for a few seconds to make sure the calf was indeed captive. Then the cowboy's time was posted on the scoreboard. Time and time again, cowhands lassoed little calves, secured their captives, and raised their hands in victory. Only a few times did a calf escape the rope and make his way out the door on the other end of the corral.
I'll admit that I was feeling a bit sorry for the little calves, even though they were released as soon as the time was logged. The first time one escaped the lasso, I applauded wildly. Angry onlookers let me know with a glare that cheering for the calf was not acceptable. As I continued to watch the contest, the Lord prodded my mind and told me to look and learn. Suddenly it hit me. This event was a perfect picture of what Paul described in today's truth.
Those calves reminded me of wild and wooly thoughts that burst forth from the stable of my mind at times: negative, rebellious, fearful, angry, worrisome, jealous, degrading thoughts that are untamed and unruly, bucking, jumping and running wild across pleasant plains. And my reaction should be like the cowboy's: ride up hot on the thought's heels, lasso it with the truth, tie it up securely, and throw it in the dust. My response should be just like the cowboy's trusty trained horse who, automatically, because of practice, takes three steps backward to make sure the deceptive thought "ain't goin' nowhere."
Trained because of practice. Taking every thought captive. Yes siree. Let's lasso those thoughts little sister, tie 'em up, and throw em' back in the dust where they came from in the first place. Then we can raise our arms in victory with all the heavenly hosts applauding in victory. And believe me, the faster we do it, the better.
Over the next four days, we will look at four simple steps to taking every thought captive. My prayer is that you will put these steps into practice in your own life and light up the scoreboard with victory in lassoing those run-away thoughts.
See you tomorrow!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes my thoughts run wild. I believe things are true when they aren't and don't believe things are true when they are. Help me to take every thought captive that is not of You. Fill me with Your Truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you had a run-away thought?
At what point did you realize the thought was not of God?
Look up Philippians 4:8 and meditate on this litmus test for our thoughts.
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Every spiritual battle is won at the threshold of the mind. If you would like to learn more about how to take every thought captive and read Sharon's entire teaching on this subject, you can find it in I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. This resource will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and see yourself as God sees you!
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April 2, 2010
Taking Every Thought Captive
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Yesterday, we looked at 2 Corinthians 10:5 and the idea of taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. This battle is not fought with hand-to-hand combat, but with spirit-to-spirit warfare. Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind; right as the calf comes bursting through the door. Let's look at four simple steps for taking every thought captive and lassoing those run-away thoughts.
STEP ONE
Realize the Enemy's True Identity
On Tuesday morning, September 11, 2001, after I got my son off to school and my husband off to work, I took a long walk through my neighborhood. The sky was crystal clear blue with a gentle breeze blowing through my hair. It was a gorgeous cool North Carolina fall day with just a hint of color on the leaves. There was nothing special on my schedule - just the ordinary. However, one hour later, because of a horrendous terrorist attack on our country in New York City and Washington, DC, by evil personified, the day turned into anything but ordinary. I watched in horror as the television played and replayed the airplanes crashing into the World Trade Center towers and the Pentagon.
Amazingly, we never saw it coming. It started out as just an ordinary day. As I thought about that, God reminded me: That's how the enemy always attacks. When you least expect it.
Let's think about another monumental day in our country's history. On December 31, 1999, the country and the world braced for the potentially disastrous effects of Y2K. Families and businesses alike prepared for months for what might occur as the clock ticked past 11:59 PM. We held our breaths, clasped our hands and braced ourselves. Yes, we were ready. What happened? Nothing. The new millennium came without incident. And yet, on an ordinary day, September 11, 2001, when we least expected it, an evil force attacked our country as never before in history.
Oh dear friends, do you see the correlation? There is an enemy who seeks to kill, steal, and destroy (John 10:10). His name is Satan. He desires to destroy us just as sure as the hijackers drove those airplanes into, and toppled, the twin towers in New York City.
Satan has other names - the devil, the accuser of the brethren, a liar and the father of lies, the deceiver. A deceiver is someone who presents a lie in such a way, it sounds like the truth. He can make you believe something is not true when it is and make you believe something is true when it isn't. He speaks in your own voice. The thoughts feel like you, because they are the old you that he has memorized so well. He's not very creative, but he is very effective and he uses the same methods with us he's used since the beginning of time.
The first step to changing the way we think is to recognize the enemy's true identity. It's not your mother; it's not your father; it's not the person who abused you as a child. The real enemy is Satan himself and he uses your past hurts and failures as canon fodder. If you don't have sufficient ammo in your past, he concocts some of his own.
Join me in our next devotion as we look at Step Two to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know that I cannot win a battle if I do not know who I am fighting. Help me to recognize the enemy's true identity. Spiritual warfare is very real. Today, I put on the armor of God and stand firm against the powers of the enemy. I am more than a conqueror through the power of Jesus Christ.
In His Name I pray and stand,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you blamed someone for a difficulty in your life when it might have been an attack of the enemy?
Go back and read John 10:10. What does the enemy desire to do?
What is he called in John 8:44?
Why do you think it is important to know who the real enemy is in order to win the battle?
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Every spiritual battle is won at the threshold of the mind. If you would like to learn more about how to take every thought captive and read Sharon's entire teaching on this subject, see I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. We cannot change the way we act before we change the way we think. We can't change the way we think if we don't know what we're up against. This resource will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and see yourself as God sees you!
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April 5, 2010
Taking Every Thought Captive
Part 3
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV).
Friend To Friend
My neighbor, Michael, was a stand-in for Samuel, the nine-year-old son of Benjamin Martin (Mel Gibson) in the movie The Patriot. For months, Michael wore his long hair with extensions, slipped on Italian knickers and knee-high stockings and acted the part of an American colonial boy. He traveled to rural South Carolina where part of the movie was filmed and received an education in the production of the silver screen. Michael saw how producers and makeup artists made something appear as though it were real. The movie was rated R for violent content, but his parents let nine-year-old Michael watch it upon release. The movie was a bloody realistic reenactment of the horrors of the Revolutionary War. However, during the guts and gore, little Michael didn't even bat an eye. Why? He knew it was not real.
During one scene, Mel Gibson pummeled a British soldier and landed a hatchet square in the middle of his bloody forehead. I covered my eyes. Michael watched nonplussed. His comment?
"That guy walked around on the set with that hatchet in his head for three days. We even ate lunch together and he had that hatchet with fake blood glued to his face. It isn't real."
Michael knew what was true and it removed all fear. That is the power of the truth. Yesterday we looked at step one to taking every thought captive. Today let's look at step tw
Step One: Recognize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
In 2 Corinthians 2:11 Paul says, "We are not unaware of the enemy's (Satan's) schemes." So let's take a few moments and look at his battle plan. "The One who is in you is greater than the one that is in the world" (I John: 4:4) and Paul reminds us "in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us" (Romans 8:37). But let's see how this defeated foe operates and plays with our minds so we can recognize the lies when he fires them at us.
If Satan came to you in a little red suit with a pitchfork and announced himself as the devil, you would not believe a word he said. But he is cunning and disguises himself as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14). When he deceived Eve, he even quoted Scripture - albeit twisted and distorted. He has a collection of old tapes from your past and pushes rewind and play, rewind and play. Oh yes, he knows just which buttons to push. He also uses personal pronouns like "I" instead of "you." The thoughts sound something like this: "I am a failure. I am a loser. I can't do anything right. I am ugly." The thoughts sound like us, feel like us, and before you know it, we think it is us. He did this all throughout Scripture and he still does it today.
Satan knows exactly which lies to whisper in your ear. He has watched you over the years and is well acquainted with your insecurities, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities. Do you tend to get discouraged? He will plant seeds of discouragement in your mind. Do you tend to feel rejection and loneliness? He will put ideas that you are rejected in your mind. But are they true? No, they are not. You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength. You are loved and chosen by God. That is the truth.
Here is a simple exercise. If you aren't sure if a thought is of the enemy, attach, "In Jesus Name," to the end of it. For example: "I can't stand that woman, in Jesus' Name." "I don't love my husband, in Jesus' Name." I am a loser, in Jesus Name." Just doesn't fit does it? Now, that is not a fail-safe method for detecting the truth versus a lie, but it is a quick litmus test that takes us in the right direction.
Step two in taking every thought captive is recognizing Satan's lies.
Join me tomorrow as we look at step three to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to recognize Satan's lies. I know the only way to recognize a lie is to know the truth. I pray that the Holy Spirit will convict me when I believe a lie and that He will help me see Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of some of the negative thoughts that have run through your mind this week. Now attach "in Jesus' Name" to the end of that thought. What does that reveal?
What are some lies that you have believed about who you are? For example: I am a loser. I can't do anything right. I am used goods. I can never be forgiven. I am too far-gone.
Friend, each one of those is a lie of the enemy. Now, who does God say that you are? Whom are you going to believe?
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This series of lessons is taken from Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself from God's Perspective. However, these particular lessons had such a great impact, she wrote a follow-up book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves that goes into much greater detail on how to overcome the lies of the enemy. If you struggle in this area, I'm Not Good Enough is the book for you. You can find both on her website.
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April 6, 2010
Taking Every Thought Captive
Part 4
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV).
Friend To Friend
This week we have been looking at four steps for taking every thought captive. Today, let's look at step three: Reject the Lie
Once I had a door-to-door vacuum salesman come to my house. To my detriment, I let him in. Before I could convince him I did not need a new vacuum cleaner, he had his demonstration trash sprinkled all over my foyer floor. Almost two hours later, I finally got him to leave.
What was my first mistake? You know it! My first mistake was to let him cross the threshold of my doorway and enter my house. Once he was in, it was difficult to get him out. It is the same way with our thoughts. Once we entertain a thought, once we allow the "salesman" to scatter his "trash" in our minds, it is hard to dismiss it or push it back out again. The place of easiest victory is at the threshold; don't even let the trash in the door. It has been said, "Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind." I think victory is possible once the thought has passed over the threshold, but it sure will save us a lot of heartache and pain if we begin to recognize Satan's lies and reject them from the start.
Let's go back to 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 and dig a little deeper by discovering the rich meaning of some of the key words in the original Greek language of the New Testament.
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
This verse tells us that through Christ, we have the power to demolish strongholds. What is a stronghold? The Greek word for stronghold is echo, meaning, "to hold fast." A derivation of that same word, echuroma means "a stronghold, fortification, fortress." Bible teacher, Beth Moore, describes them as "anything in our lives that we hold on to that ends up holding us." They are formed when thoughts or habit patterns "echo" time and time again in our lives. They are negative thoughts that are burned into our minds through repetition (such as verbal abuse) or a one-time traumatic incident (such as a rape). These thought patterns have the potential to grab hold of a mind and rule a life. Many strongholds are built brick-by-brick for protection, but inevitably they become prisons. Beth goes on to say, "No matter what the stronghold may be, they all have one thing in common: Satan is fueling the mental tank with deception to keep the stronghold running."
The word demolish implies a kind of destruction requiring tremendous power - divine power. One reason many Christians have remained in a yoke of slavery to past sins and lies of the enemy is because they swat at strongholds like they are mosquitoes instead of blasting them with the truth like they are concrete fortresses formed by years of construction. We cannot destroy demonic strongholds on our own strength even on our best days. The Holy Spirit can destroy strongholds with His power even on our worst days. The power of the Holy Spirit is the Greek word dunamous, which is where we get the word dynamite. "The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds."
The verse goes on to describe another area that needs to be destroyed. "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God." I don't know about you, but on a few occasions, (OK, on more occasions than I can count) I have argued with God and against the knowledge of God. Guess what? God always wins.
The Greek word for arguments is logismos, meaning "a reckoning, calculation, consideration, reflection." A calculated thought might be a conclusion that you are a failure, after you have failed at something. That seems logical. It all adds up. Upon reflection, it seems highly probable. However, that's not what the Truth says. It is against the knowledge of God. Regardless of your calculations, God says you are a saint who has been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, a child of God, and a co-heir with Christ. You are not a failure and you need to reject the lie. When the thought comes into your head, simply say, "I reject that thought. It is a lie of the enemy and not the truth of God. I failed in this instance, but I am not a failure."
So far we've looked at three steps to taking every thought captive:
Step One: Recognize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
Step Three: Reject the Lies
Join me tomorrow as we look at the final step to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I'll admit that I toy with thoughts that I know are not true. I feel sorry for myself, entertain thoughts of rejection, and sometimes even feel like nobody loves me. Those are lies. All of them. Right now, I commit to reject the lies of the enemy as soon as the thought comes into my head. Thank You for the truth that sets us free from feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength - and that's the truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I want you to write down five lies that you tend to believe about yourself and leave some space between them. Now, I want you to write down a truth from the Bible for each one that lets you know it is a lie.
Let me get you started.
Lie: I can't do anything right.
Truth: I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
Lie: Nobody ever prays for me.
Truth: Jesus said: "I pray for ...those you have given me. John 17:9
More From The Girlfriends
This series of lessons is taken from Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful - Seeing Yourself from God's Perspective. However, the lessons had such a great impact, she wrote a follow-up book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves that goes into much greater detail on how to overcome the lies of the enemy. If this is an area where you struggle, I'm Not Good Enough is the book for you. You can find both on her website. This resource will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and see yourself as God sees you!
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April 7, 2010
Taking Every Thought Captive
Part 5
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Over the past few days, we have been looking at steps to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. Let's review:
Step One: Recognize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
Step Three: Reject the Lies
And today we are looking at step four: Replacing the lies with the Truth
Before we come to Christ, we learn ways to get our basic needs of significance, safety and security, and belonging met on our own terms. We are programmed by the world, the flesh, and the devil to live independent of God. When we become a Christian, that software is still on our hard drive. Satan has read the files and he tries his best to keep those corrupt files intact. It takes time to reprogram our minds with the truth of God, but He is our technician. He is very patient and will walk us through the process step-by-step to guide us into all truth (John 16:13). Our part is to choose to press the keys: recognize the corrupt programs, delete the corrupt programs, and install the incorruptible truth. We renew our minds by constantly choosing to believe the truth.
Just as Satan tries to deceive you and me, he tried to deceive God's Son with lies and cause Him to forfeit His inheritance and abandon His mission. Jesus was never programmed with lies as we were, but Satan did tempt him with lies.
After Jesus had been fasting for forty days in the desert, Satan came to Him with three temptations. Just like he tempted Eve, he tempted Jesus in the three key areas of His life: his body, soul, and spirit. How did Jesus fight the enemy? He fought him with Scripture - He conquered him with the truth. Each time Satan put an evil thought before Him, Jesus said, "It is written...."
It is not a sin to be tempted. The Bible says that Jesus was tempted and yet did not sin. It becomes a sin when we act on the thought, accept it as truth, linger over it, or replay it repeatedly. As Martin Luther once said, "You can't keep the birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hat."
Let me give you this example. I believe that Satan sends us e-mails all day long (evil-mails). When we get a seductive e-mail on the screen of our computer, is it our fault? If we get an unsolicited e-mail that reads, "click here for a hot time tonight" is that our doing? Not unless you've placed yourself on some bad e-mail lists. When does that e-mail become a sin? The moment we click on it and accept the invitation. Likewise, when the enemy tempts us to believe a lie, the temptation is not sin. It becomes sin when we accept the thought as our own and act on it. Our responsibility is to delete the lie and replace it with the truth. When it comes to defeating Satan, Dr. Neil Anderson said it well: "You don't have to out shout him or outmuscle him to be free of his influence. You just have to out truth him."
Below are some common lies of the enemy and the truth that "demolishes" them. I have listed each lie in the first person, "I," because that is how the enemy puts them into our thoughts.
Satan's Lie Nobody loves me.
God's Truth For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son. (John 3:16)
Satan's Lie I'm not able to do this job. I don't have the right gifts.
God's Truth Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant. (2 Corinthians 3:5)
Satan's Lie God couldn't love me.
God's Truth How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God! (I John 3:1)
Satan's Lie I'm so worried about this.
God's Truth Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6)
Satan's Lie I'm a loser.
God's Truth I have been blessed in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. (Ephesians 1:3)
Satan's Lie I can't help myself.
God's Truth Resist the devil and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)
In order to win the battle for our minds, we must refuse the lie and replace it with the truth. After all, which is true?
Jesus said, "I am the way and the truth and the life" (John 14:6). He is truth. The more we think on truth, the more our minds will be conformed to the image of Christ, and the quicker we will recognize the lies and replace them with truth.
Girlfriend, I am proud of you for sticking with me these five days. The Bible says, "Wisdom brightens a face and changes its hard appearance" (Ecclesiastes 8:1 NIV). I would say you are absolutely glowing. Stunning.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You that You will never call us to do something that You will not empower us to do. You tell us to take every thought captive, so with the power of the Holy Spirit working in us, we can. Thank You for making us into new creations - holy, chosen, and dearly loved.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It seems the key to this entire process of taking every thought captive is knowing and applying the truth! So let's commit 2 Corinthians 10:5 to memory. In this series, I quoted from several different translations. Chose the translation that is most comfortable for you and write this verse on a card. Put it on your dashboard, by your kitchen sink, or on your bathroom mirror.
See if you can name the four steps to taking every thought captive without looking.
Had to look? That's OK. You might want to write them on the back of the index card on which you wrote 2 Corinthians 10:5.
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April 8, 2010
I'm Exhausted!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly" (Matthew 11:30, MSG).
Friend To Friend
I had just arrived at my favorite coffee shop. As I opened the door, the smell of freshly brewed java greeted me and filled my creative mind with possibilities. I was eager to get to work and excited that my warm coffee-friend would come along with me for the ride. As I grabbed a cup from the counter and paid, I asked the barista how she was doing.
"I'm exhausted!" She lamented with a sigh.
I knew exactly how she felt. I feel that way a lot! I am famous for trying to put ten pounds of living into a five-pound sack. She was tired. Stressed. Drained. Over-committed. Under-rested. Exhausted. Yep! I totally know that feeling.
Have you been there? Ha! Of course, you have! It is so easy for us to rush into our days and get busy with life stuff, attempting to accomplish mountains of tasks and deal with emotional situations in our own strength. We are constantly pulled in a million directions. Trying to juggle the slow, steady drain of complicated relationships, crazy schedules, and weighty challenges.
The truth is our exhaustion problems cannot be solved without God. I find it comforting to realize that we are not the first people to struggle with feelings like this. All throughout Scripture people got worn-out and lamented about their tired souls. David wrote countless Psalms about being weary, and Elijah was so exhausted at one point that he sank into a deep depression and lost his God-courage. Jesus spoke to a crowd of people in Galilee one day about the only sure-fire solution to our exhaustion problem.
He said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30, NIV).
The MESSAGE version of those same verses reads this way, "Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you will recover your life. I will show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I will not lay anything heavy or ill fitting on you. Keep Company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly" (Matthew 11:28-30, MSG).
When you keep company with Jesus, you will learn to live freely and lightly. Does that sound appealing to you? If so, then it is time to respond to His invitation. Whether you have thirty seconds or thirty minutes, pause now to turn to Him. Grab your prayer journal if you have one. Center your heart on His splendor and approach Him with reverence. While you are in His presence, empty your exhaustion out before Him. Tell Him the concerns on your heart and take a soul rest.
That day in the coffee shop, as I filled my cup I gave my exhausted, coffee-serving friend a smile and a knowing look. Then I spoke a word of hope to her heart and encouraged her to refuel in the secret place, the presence of God. She smiled back and thanked me for the reminder. She loves the Lord, but - like all of us - she sometimes forgets that soul rest is available.
Keep company with Him today. All day. When you do, you will experience His strength for each moment and His hope in each challenge. Live freely and lightly in Jesus, girlfriend.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are mighty to save and all I need. Thank You for reminding me that I can always come to You and trade in my exhaustion for Your rejuvenation. I come to You today and ask that You would restore rest to my soul.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the words that Jesus spoke to His apostles when they were tired and weary, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest" (Mark 6:31b, NIV).
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I know some of you are carrying heavy loads of exhaustion. Free living might sound like a promise for other people, but not for you. Perhaps you are dealing with a constant strain in your life. God sees you, friend. He knows your struggles. He is able to work out the details. Trust Him for strength and rest - whether He delivers you from the exhaustion or through it.
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April 9, 2010
Love Shows Up
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Galatians 5:13 "You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love."
Friend To Friend
The consensus is in. I am a great nurse but a lousy patient. I could not believe my ears when the surgeon finished her post-operative examination and said, "Everything is fine. You will be able to resume normal activities in three or four weeks. Until then, get plenty of rest and make sure that you do not lift anything heavy. "Surely I had heard her wrong. The surgery she had done the day before was not what I would call "serious." It was simply a new surgery to correct and repair an old surgery. It was no big deal. I was confident in the Southerland stamina but had generously given myself one whole week to recuperate. Maybe her problem was that she did not understand the meaning of "normal" in my life.
I normally teach a weekly Bible study at our church where my husband is the lead teaching pastor. As the women's ministry director, I normally oversee all of our women's events and was in the final stages of getting ready for our annual women's retreat we had been planning for months and was just ten days away. Our daughter and her eight-month-old son live with us while she is attending school and I am normally the main babysitter for this little hunk of joy - all 21 pounds of him - while mommy goes to class. When I asked the doctor what she meant by "heavy," she stopped the now irritating scribbling on the clipboard she held in her hand, peered over her glasses and firmly responded with "I mean you cannot lift anything over two or three pounds." I did not like her attitude. "What do you mean when you said I have to get a lot of rest?" I pressed. Again, her steely eyes met mine as she responded, "I mean rest. Sleep, read, and take it easy. Your body needs time to heal." No matter what question I asked or how I asked it, her answer did not change.
Have you ever seen your life flash before your eyes? I began to think about the different areas of my life and the responsibilities each one held. When the surgeon left the room, I sat on that cold hard examination table and wondered how I was going to handle her ridiculous mandate and more importantly, how could the people in my world possibly survive without me for four whole weeks? I could see our daughter being forced to drop out of school, the retreat being cancelled and my Bible study going down the tube while I was recovering. My family would starve to death, walk around in filthy clothes and live in a dirty house because I had to rest. Nonsense! I am tough. I can handle it. Over the next few weeks, I was quickly and brutally reminded just how frail the human body can be. I was also reminded of my struggle with pride and with asking for and accepting help from other people. I am the one who is supposed to be doing the helping.
It has been several weeks since the surgery, and I am still recovering and still have to spend a lot of time resting. Danna aced her final, guest speakers have blessed the women attending my Bible study and the retreat for over 250 women was awesome and came off without a hitch. People in our church have brought meals, kept our grandson, and even volunteered to do our laundry. My sister has called almost every day to check on me and make sure I am being "good." My sweet husband has waited on me with such kindness and tenderness. Our daughter has cleaned house, done the laundry, run errands and taken time each day to make me laugh. Our son and daughter-in-law have sent care packages filled with my favorite candles, chocolate, pictures of our grandchildren and the beautiful cards they made so Mimi can "get well faster." Through it all, I have been reminded of several important truths:
I am a frail human who is indispensable to no one but God.
God created us to need each other.
God is delighted when we serve one another.
God is not pleased when we allow pride and self-sufficiency to prevent us from accepting help when we really need it.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is a verb.
One of the most special Christmas gifts we received this year was a beautifully framed etching that simply said, "Love shows up." Those three words have taken on a completely new meaning in my life over the past few weeks. I encourage you to join me in a new commitment to show God's love by reaching out to someone in need. And if you are the one in need, lay down your pride and let God love you through the service of others.
Let's Pray
Father, how I love You! Thank You for reminding me of Your faithfulness to meet every need in my life. I confess my pride and choose against my human tendency to think that I am self-sufficient. Help me learn how to share Your love with others in need but also help me learn how to receive Your love with a gracious and humble heart.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask God to help you become more aware of opportunities to share His love with others.
Examine your heart. Do you have the attitude of a servant? Are you willing to serve others?
Are you willing to be served by others?
Is there any pride in your heart that would keep you from serving others or from being served? Are you willing to confess that pride and cultivate a humble attitude?
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April 12, 2010
Does He See Beautiful?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me" (Matthew 26:10, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I am completely crazy about cool jewelry, so when the Lord prompted me to take off my favorite necklace and give it to the woman who had just admired it, I tried to pretend I did not hear Him.
"It's mine, God!" I reasoned. "It isn't replaceable! Why would ask me to do that?"
My self-plan did not like the God-plan laid out before me. God was asking me to give up something that meant a lot to me so that another woman could be blessed. It seemed crazy. Unnecessary. However, in this instance, through the strength of Christ, I chose to obey even though I did not want too. It hurt. It cost me big. I felt the loss.
God softened my childish heart, however, as the woman wept at the Lord's blessing. As I silently confessed my selfish thoughts, God poured a deep joy into my soul. He showed me that my sacrifice was an act of worship to Him. Blessings boomeranged right back to my heart as I humbly thanked Him for allowing me to participate in His moment with her. It was a beautiful thing.
There are just times when I would rather give gifts that don't cost me too much. That is probably something that only I wrestle with, right? (Wink! Wink!) It is hard to be open handed with things that we hold dear, isn't it? Some of us struggle with an unwillingness to give away material things or money. Others hold tightly to our schedules, our affections, or our availability while still others try to keep a tight reign on our children, grandchildren, spouses, parents or other people in our life.
God must have known we would struggle with this because His Word addresses this issue and shows us a beautiful picture of surrendered devotion in Mary of Bethany. The offering she poured out onto the feet of Jesus was worth a year's wages. She lavished her costly perfume, her attention, her affection, her time and her worship on Jesus because she loved Him. He was her Savior. Her Friend. Her Hope. The Healer who had miraculously brought life back to the stench of death that had fallen on her brother Lazarus.
"While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of a man known as Simon the Leper, a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table.
When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. "Why this waste?" they asked. "This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor."
Aware of this, Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me. The poor you will always have with you, but you will not always have me. When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial. I tell you the truth, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her." (Matthew 26:6-13, NIV)
The Message version says it this way: "She has just done something wonderfully significant for me." (Matthew 26:10)
When I read this story, I am compelled to wonder if God sees a beautiful thing when He looks at my life. Does He see me do anything that is wonderfully significant for Him?
What do you think He sees when he looks at your life?
Does He see a beautiful thing?
The more time we spend with God and reading His Word, the more beautiful our life will become. Therefore, here is my challenge to you: I challenge you to commit 15 minutes a day to God for one week. Just one week. Can you do that? Read a chapter in the Psalms and spend time in prayer each day for seven days. Make the sacrifice. If you already have a disciplined quiet time, I challenge you to add 15 minutes of prayer time. It will be a beautiful thing to both you and God.
When we open the hands of our lives to His presence, to His service and for His glory, rest assured God will see a beautiful thing. When we obey His promptings and listen to His voice that whispers to our soul, He will fill us to overflowing with joy, peace, satisfaction and His beauty.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are worth far more praise than I could ever give. Please help me to rest in Your presence and trust in Your plan. Fill me with Your perspective until I joyfully lay down my will for Yours. Lord, when You look at my life, I want You to see beautiful.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider what you are holding back from God. Spend time in prayer returning it to Him
Read Psalm 96. Read through it a second time, but pause after each verse with a personal and prayerful response to God. Journal any verses that you want to remember.
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April 13, 2010
Under New Management
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:9-13 (NIV) "For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength."
Friend To Friend
The story is told of a farmer who lived on the same farm all of his life. It was a good farm but with the passing years, the farmer began to tire of it and long for something better. Every day, he found something else wrong with the farm and finally decided to sell. He hired a realtor who made up a sales flier, emphasizing the good points of the farm including an ideal location, modern equipment and healthy stock on acres of fertile ground. Before she ran the ad, she called the farmer and read it to him for his approval. The farmer listened carefully as she read and when she finished he cried out, "Hold everything! I have changed my mind. I am not going to sell. I have been looking for a place like that all of my life!"
Like the farmer, you and I are constantly looking for something "better." Deep in our heart, we long for something more. As followers of Jesus Christ, we should be living illustrations of peace and contentment but we often struggle to do so. What is the secret of contentment?
To find the secret of contentment we turn to the life of Paul, a disciple of Christ who had every reason to be discontented. He wrote the book of Philippians from prison where he was awaiting trial and possible execution. He was all alone, facing great persecution as a believer. Paul was no stranger to persecution; he had been beaten, stoned, shipwrecked and ridiculed because of His vocal faith in God. As he approached the end of his life, his health was bad and he was almost blind. Yet, through the darkness of his pain, he joyfully exclaimed, "I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am." Paul's perspective is amazing and worthy of scrutiny.
The first step toward a contented life is to choose obedience. Paul tells us in verse nine that in order to experience peace and contentment we must "put into practice" the precepts of God. When one company takes over another company there is sometimes a sign displayed that reads, "Under New Management." When we invite Christ to take over our life, we place ourselves under new management - the management of Jesus Christ. He then directs our life from a heart of love - if we allow Him to. When God takes over, He puts into place His Word and His plan for our life. Paul assures us that it is the best plan - the highest plan and the only plan that will produce a contented life.
Our choice to obey that plan will guarantee contentment because when we choose obedience, we are stepping under the umbrella of God's protection. The success of the plan depends upon Him and our obedience sets Him free to work, encouraging peace in our heart and bringing the contentment we seek.
Disobedience is the enemy of contentment. Contentment and disobedience cannot exist together in the same heart. Vance Havner says, "You cannot break the laws of God---you break yourself against them." It is not enough to know the truth. Jesus is not pleased with or impressed by how much we know. He is pleased with how much we do. Choose to obey God and you will find contentment.
Let's Pray
Lord, I long to know You more and experience the contentment that only an intimate relationship with You can bring. Thank You for loving me and for choosing me to be Your own. I now place myself under Your management and control.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take some time to look back over your life, recognizing that His plan for you is the only one that will satisfy your soul and bring you contentment. Choose to follow that plan, seeking Him every step of the way. Start by asking the following questions:
What are the areas of discontentment in my life?
What are the areas of disobedience in my life?
What hindrances need to be removed in order for me to be obedient to God?
What do I already know to be part of His plan for me?
What steps must I take in order to follow that plan?
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Notice that Paul said he had "learned" to be content. Paul made the consistent choice to find contentment in Jesus Christ. He trained his heart and mind to seek God and in doing so, found peace and contentment. If Paul can learn to be contented, so can we.
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April 14, 2010
What's In Your Trash Basket?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" (John 8:10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
A four-year-old girl was overheard reciting the Lord's Prayer, "and forgive us our trash baskets, as we forgive those who pass trash against us." When I first heard that story, I smiled. Then I thought of a conversation I had recently had with a girlfriend.
She is a Christian friend. Though she has "emptied her trash basket" of sin before the Lord in sincere repentance, she has not emptied the trash basket of self-condemnation. Not completely. She will not allow it. She struggles deeply to let go of mistakes she made in her past. She holds the trash basket lid on tightly. To be free of that waste does not seem fair in her mind.
She is haunted by shame. Haunted by sins that are no longer remembered by God. Haunted by sins that have been cast as far as the east is from the west.
"For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him." (Psalm 103:11-13)
These memories don't live in her past. They live in her now. They haunt her regularly like a spine-chilling horror film monster. And as much as she would like to move forward in forgiveness, she just can't find the courage to scare the monster away.
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 8, we meet a woman caught in the act of adultery. The legalistic teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought her before Jesus. They publicly humiliated her in front of the entire town's people, saying to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" (John 8:4-5)
Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger as they continued to question him. Finally, "He straightened up and said to them, '"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.'" Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground" (John 8:7-8).
The crowd eventually thinned to nothing. The older, wiser men cleared first. Then the younger ones trickled away. When the adulterous woman and Jesus were the only ones remaining, "Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she said.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin" (John 8:10-12).
My sister, do you see that our holy Lord delights to show us mercy? He does not condemn us as we deserve. Time and time again, Scripture reveals merciful pictures of forgiveness. The woman in this story was guilty when she was brought to face Jesus, but as she left His presence, her guilt was forgiven. Her trash basket was empty.
When we turn to face Jesus with repentant hearts, our guilt is forgiven as well.
TOSS YOUR TRASH
This account of the adulterous woman teaches us about forgiveness and it teaches us a valuable lesson about judging and condemning others. But what does this lesson teach us about judging ourselves? My friend that I spoke of earlier carried around a trash basket filled with junk she threw in herself. Sure, it was accompanied by trash from other people as well, but the lingering condemnation came from memories of decisions she had made, things she had done, places she had been, and brokenness she has experienced because of her own choices. In her heart, she accepts the forgiveness of Jesus, but she can't bear to forgive herself. So many women won't forgive themselves.
I have been that woman.
I know that woman.
I know that self-loathing. I have lived it. I'm not going to sit here and try to tell you that forgiving yourself is easy. It is hard—and, in many ways, it should be. However, I can testify that it wasn't until I prayerfully allowed the stubborn, strong, and unconditional love of Jesus to pry my fingers off the lid of my trash basket and empty the condemning contents, that I experienced true freedom and complete forgiveness.
Is there something that you have not been able to forgive yourself for?
My friend, we need to stop beating ourselves up for sins of our past. We need to stop allowing guilt and shame to chain us to unproductive living. Jesus humbled Himself by becoming human, endured an excruciating death, and then defied the grave in His resurrection so that we could be restored to a place of complete healing. Complete healing.
Second Corinthians 5:21 states that "God made Him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." If you are in Christ, the Bible says that your guilt was paid for on the cross of Calvary. Jesus carried the sins of the world on His shoulders so that you would not have to carry them on yours.
If you are holding on to un-confessed sin, the time has come for you to release your grip. God's Word promises that, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
ACCEPT HIS FORGIVENESS.
None of us is perfect, just perfectly forgiven. Take your hand off the lid and allow the Lord to empty your trash basket of every condemning voice - once and for all. Embrace the freedom that Jesus intends for you to live in.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your mercy defies logic. I don't deserve it, and I don't understand how You could possibly forgive me for all that I have done. Please take my trash basket and empty it. Forgive me today and help me to forgive myself, and others, so I can live freely in Your amazing grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recite, write, and memorize these verses: "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death" (Romans 8:1-2).
Prayerfully forward this email to a friend (or friends) who might need to read this message.
Journal what God is teaching you. Praise Him for revealing truth to your heart and for His matchless grace.
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Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful, and it is a core message of faith. I know that many of you might have had to read it through tear-filled eyes. I pray that you will allow God to replace your tears of pain with tears of joy. There is a song that I would love for you to hear right now (make sure your volume is turned up). CLICK HERE TO LISTEN.
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April 15, 2010
Making Wise Investments
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ecclesiastes 11:1 (NCV) "Invest what you have, because after a while you will get a return."
Friend To Friend
The investments that we make in life determine the level of contentment that we gain from life. We come into this world as self-centered beings, concerned solely with our needs and wants. Only a personal relationship with Christ can truly change that egotistical human bent. Even unbelievers attempting to soothe a troubled and unfulfilled heart invest their time and resources in charities or service organizations. They are trying to gain life from dead things. It simply is not possible. Unfortunately, many followers of Jesus Christ have not yet learned the spiritual principle that you cannot out give God. We falsely assume ownership of the gifts God has given us to manage on His behalf.
The story is told of a little boy who lived in a ghetto. Because of his strong belief in God, his friends constantly teased the little boy. They taunted him saying, "If God loves you, why doesn't he take care of you? Why doesn't God tell someone to bring you shoes or send someone with a warm coat? Where is the good food you've been asking God for?" The little boy faced his critics, thought for a moment and with tears in his eyes, softly said, "I guess He does tell somebody but somebody forgets."
We forget. We forget the wonder of what Jesus Christ did for us on the cross. He served and calls us to serve. He gave and calls us to give. And because of that precious gift, that eternal investment of love made by Jesus Christ on the Cross of Calvary, you and I are redeemed from Hell itself. In response to God's love, the apostle Paul gave his life in service to God, finding his greatest joy in simply doing what God told him to do. Before he encountered Christ, Paul had been a man of great influence and power but as a follower of Jesus Christ the highest title he ever gave himself was "servant."
It is important to note that Paul was first a servant - then an apostle set apart for the gospel. The people he served became his family and in turn served him by praying for him, encouraging him and meeting his physical needs. Service is not an option for the Christian. It is a command - a holy calling and the ultimate joy. The most contented people I know are the ones who serve the most. They have found an outlet for giving, have discovered their God given gifts and are using them to serve God. It is a paradox in the Christian life that the more we give, the more we receive and the greater our level of contentment. It is when we turn inward and become focused on self that discontentment creeps in and takes up residence.
The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water that flows from Mt. Hermon. The Sea of Galilee is a beautiful place, lush and green, because it has an outlet. It gathers in its riches then pours them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. It gives. On the other hand, the Dead Sea, with the same water creates destruction because it has no outlet. It keeps.
The highest purpose in life is to be used by God to influence the lives of others. We often think that God reserves service for those called "ministers." Every follower of God is called to be a minister. Your mission field is your home - your office - your neighborhood - your world. If you want to discover the secret of contentment, look for opportunities to make investments in others by giving yourself away. Every act of service is an investment in eternity.
Let's Pray
Lord, I recognize You as my source of contentment. I love You and want to serve You. Today, I will look for opportunities to make eternal investments. Thank You for loving me and for giving me the privilege of serving You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is so easy to be wrapped up in our own needs to the point that we fail to see the needs of others. I want my life to count and the best way to do that is to invest my time, energy, and talents ... everything I am and have ...in serving God by serving others. Let me challenge you to join me in making a new commitment to serve.
Who has made eternal investments in my life?
What is my perception of service?
What are my spiritual gifts?
How can I use those gifts?
What are the benefits of serving God and others?
Can you make the following commitment?
I need to understand that contentment is found when I invest myself in others. There are "mission fields" in my life where I can serve Him by serving others. I choose today to become a "giver" instead of a "keeper."
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Do not let the enemy or your own heart tell you that you are not good enough to be used by God to serve others. Just make yourself available to God and see what He does in you and through you.
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April 16, 2010
Mirage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened" (Romans 1:21 NIV emphasis added).
Friend To Friend
Flutter. Flutter. Bang! Flutter. Flutter. Bang! Momma and Papa Bluebird danced in front of our sunroom windows, trying frantically to break through the glass barrier. Time and time again, they banged their feathered heads against the panes. What were they pursuing? Where were they trying to go? What had caught their eye? Why were they so persistent? I wanted desperately to help them solve their dilemma, but I could not figure out what the dilemma was.
After three days of this featherbrained, frenzied activity, I decided to put myself in their position, get a bird's eye view, and examine the situation from their perspective. I stepped out onto the patio, stood in front of the windows, and there it was. In the reflection of the glass was mirrored their birdhouse, some thirty feet behind me.
Mr. and Mrs. Bluebird's lovely cedar shingled home with a decorative finial sat on a tall pole nestled under the protective branches of an old oak tree. Their bed and breakfast came equipped with an adjoining spa - a concrete birdbath surrounded by fragrant rose bushes, bursting with red blossoms and a carpet of white annuals. Instead of being satisfied with their high-rise estate, they were banging their heads against the pane, striving for a mirage, a mere reflection.
Amazingly, a few times they turned around, soared to their home, and crawled through its opening for a reprieve. But before long, they were dive bombing into the glass again, trying to gain entrance into an illusion of something better.
This made me think of my own life and the many times I go flutter, flutter, bang, flutter, flutter, bang, striving for something that is just a cheap imitation of God's perfect provision for my life. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans that I have for you, to prosper you, and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope."
And yet I argue, "Yeah, I know that God. I know You've provided me with this home and this job and with these particular gifts. But, well, I don't mean to sound ungrateful or anything, but I reaaaaly would be happy if You'd give me a house like Mary's over there. And you know Beth, well I reaaaaly would be happy if you made me a Bible teacher like she is. And you know Teresa? If I could just be as sweet as she is, I'd be satisfied. Then there's Laura. Now God, she has the prettiest blond silky hair. Could I just have hair like hers? Don't get me wrong, Lord. I do appreciate what You have given me, but if I could just have ..."
Well, you get the picture.
Flutter. Flutter. Bang! Flutter. Flutter. Bang!
The banging birds may have knocked themselves silly, but they also knocked some sense into my hard head. God has provided me with everything I need. As David, the psalmist wrote, The Lord is my Shepherd, I don't need anything! I can flutter about looking at the mirage of happiness in other people's windows, or I can nestle down in contentment and not get my feathers ruffled trying to get more. The way to keep from fluttering around from one mirage of happiness to the other is to stay close to home and be satisfied with my own nest, feathers, and chicks. I've learned that I'm most content when I'm at home in the Father's will, nestled in His protective branches, perched on the pole of His standard, nurtured by the Living water of His fountain, cleansed in the laver of the Holy Spirit, and beautified by the fragrance of the Rose of Sharon. And as Dorothy of Kansas once said, "There's no place like home."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me when I complain about what I don't have and when I am not thankful for what I do have. Help me not to be like the people mentioned in Romans chapter one who "did not give thanks." I do thank You for all the blessings You have poured out in my life. I love You so much.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How thankful are you today for the blessings and provisions of God?
Consider writing Him a thank-you note. Let me get you started.
Dear God,
I want to thank You for ...
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April 19, 2010
TICDAABGC
Winning over Worry
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:4-7 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
I can be so arrogant when it comes to the control of my life. I set my agenda and then ask God to put His stamp of approval on it. I face difficult circumstances with the attitude that I am capable of handling them on my own. In reality, I am desperate for God. There are so many things I can't do anything about - but God can.
I read about a young woman whose battle with worry prompted her to create a sign that read, "Things I Can't Do Anything About But God Can." Underneath those words, she listed anything in her life that tempted her to worry instead of trusting God.
In 1995, I went through a devastating two-year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that deep, dark pit, I discovered that the pit of depression is always filled with waters swimming with worry.
I worried about how I got into the pit and how I would or even if I could get out. I worried that my depression would hurt my family and our ministry. I worried about what people would think of me when they saw my weakness and failure. In the darkness, worry made everything seem bigger and uglier than it really was. Worry helped usher me into the pit and worry was now one of the prisons guards. I desperately wanted to trust God, exchanging my worry for His peace. I read countless books on the subject, described in detail my favorite worries to those who would listen and constantly begged God to take away the anxiety and fear. Nothing worked. I was losing the battle with worry while sinking lower into the grip of darkness. There had to be a way to win over worry.
The journey began with a strong, clear look at the affects of worry in my life. It was not a pretty picture. Worry permeates every area of life, invading peace, warping perspectives and affecting physical and emotional health.
Worry is wasted energy. It is consuming, draining and unhealthy. Worry fits this world but it certainly does not fit the picture of a joy-filled life, the life that Jesus came to give us. Nothing will rob you of joy quicker than worry. God came so that we would not have to worry and yet we continue to do so. During those dark years, I sat at His feet dumping each fear and worry into His capable hands, resting and waiting for deliverance. It came.
In today's key passage, Paul gives us the promise of peace. However, there are conditions to be met and actions we must take in order to experience that peace and win over worry.
Action one: Choose joy.
Philippians 4:4 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" The Message says it this way: "Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him!"
The author, Paul, is serious about joy, telling us twice in this passage to rejoice. The word "rejoice" means "to practice joy, to take delight in and be glad." Many times life makes it impossible to be happy but we need to understand that happiness is not what Paul is calling us to. Happiness is a cheap imitation of true joy and totally dependent on the circumstances of life. Joy is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control no matter what the circumstances of life may be. Joy is a choice.
Paul's situation, while writing this letter, could make you wonder why he was writing about joy, of all things. He was in prison under Roman house arrest, awaiting trial and almost certain execution because of his faith in Jesus Christ. Yet, he tells us to rejoice! Don't miss this life-changing truth! Our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outward circumstances. In other words, we cannot always find joy in our circumstances but we can always find joy in the Lord of the circumstances.
You have probably discovered that there is absolutely no way in this world to escape pain, but we can avoid joy. The pursuit of joy is a matter of choice. Our first and most important choice is to come to the only source of true joy - Jesus Christ. We must also choose to rejoice in the midst of every circumstance - good or bad - and keep our focus on God, gladly accepting His plan for our lives. We must choose a joyful perspective.
A little boy asked his friend, "Wouldn't you hate to wear glasses all the time?" "No-o-o," the other boy answered slowly, "not if I had the kind grandma wears. She sees how to fix many things. She sees many nice things to do on rainy days and she always sees what you meant to do even if you mess things up. I asked her one day how she could see that way all the time and she said, 'It is the way I choose to look at things.' So it must be her glasses." When we choose joy, we are choosing against worry.
(Join me tomorrow for Part 2 as we explore more steps that will help us win over worry.)
Let's Pray
Father, I feel as if worry constantly nips at my heels, trying to steal my joy. Please help me to see life as You see it and to choose Your perspective instead of my own. I ask You to lead me into Your peace as I learn to trust You wholly.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· What role have you allowed worry to play in daily life?
· What are some of the ways you have confronted worry in the past? Were they effective?
· What is the first step you need to take in order to win over worry?
· Read and memorize the verses of Scripture below.
Philippians 4:7 "Then God's peace, which goes beyond anything we can imagine, will guard your thoughts and emotions through Christ Jesus" (NLT).
Isaiah 26:3 "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you" (NLT).
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We live in uncertain times when worry and fear seem to be familiar companions. God wants us to experience and live in peace. Ask Him to help you surrender each fear to Him and step out in faith - today.
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April 20, 2010
TICDAABGC
Winning over Worry
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV) "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
In the key passage, Paul gives us the promise of peace. However, there are conditions to be met and actions we must take in order to experience that peace and win over worry!
Action one: Choose joy
Action two: Be gentle
Philippians 4:5 gives an unusual directive concerning worry when it says we should "let our gentleness be evident to all." "Gentleness" literally means "humility, softness and tenderness" indicating that we must be gentle with everyone. The Living Bible translates "gentle" as "unselfish and considerate." Any way you look at it, this truth is in direct opposition to the viewpoint of the world in which we live. Power and assertiveness gain respect while gentleness is often viewed as weakness.
In God's eyes, gentleness is harnessed strength, a controlled power. But what does gentleness have to do with eliminating worry? Paul says that the way we treat people affects our peace. Many of us have lives filled with worry because we have relationships filled with conflict. When we are unkind, conflict is the inevitable result. Worry and anxiety thrive in the atmosphere of conflict.
What does it mean to be gentle in our relationships?
Gentleness is willing to give up control.
James 3:17 "But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure and full of quiet gentleness. It allows discussion and is willing to yield to others." Gentleness can always find a patch of common ground, giving people room to grow and change. Gentleness does not control but is willing to yield or submit to one another in love.
Gentleness is love in action.
James 3:17b "Gentleness if full of mercy and good deeds." When gentleness sees a need, it does something about it. It is compelled to take action.
Gentleness forgives.
Colossians 3:13 "Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Gentleness is quick to give and receive forgiveness, always taking the responsibility to initiate forgiveness.
Gentleness wages peace.
Hebrews 12:14 "Pursue peace with all people." Gentleness pursues peace - not retaliation. The goal of gentleness is unity. I've read that when thoroughbred horses face attack, they stand in a circle, facing each other, and with their back legs, kick out at the enemy. Donkeys do just the opposite, facing the enemy and kicking each other. We are called to wage peace.
When we practice gentleness and pursue peace in our relationships, there will be less conflict, more unity and fewer footholds for worry.
Action three: Be aware of His presence.
Philippians 4:5 "The Lord is near."
We often pray, asking for God's presence when our prayer should be, "Lord, make me aware of your presence." He is near but many times our lives and hearts are too crowded to see or hear Him. The more we are aware of God's presence the less we will worry. We become aware of His presence through:
His word
Hebrews 4:12 "For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword."
The most powerful weapon against worry is scripture. Immerse your life in it. When worry comes - deflect it with the shield of God's word.
Prayer
1 Peter 5:7 "Let him have all your worries and cares, for he is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you."
Prayer is simply conversation with God and a powerful weapon against worry. I read of a widow who had successfully raised a large family of eighteen children, twelve of whom were adopted. Yet, she never seemed to worry. During an interview, a reporter asked the secret of her peace and confidence. She said, "I'm not alone. I'm in a partnership with God. Years ago, I said "Lord, I'll do the work and you do the worrying! I have had peace ever since!"
Other believers
Ecclesiastes 4:12 "And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
When you share your fears with others, they grow smaller because someone has gotten under the load with you. A shared load is a lighter load. We tend to hide our fears in darkness where they grow and strengthen, instead of bringing them out into the light where they will die. When we try to be "lone-ranger Christians" and handle our fears on our own, we are susceptible to attacks that will defeat us. When we stand together, our strength is multiplied and we are not easily beaten.
Experience
James 1:17 "Every good thing bestowed and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation, or shifting shadow."
The more we know Him the more we will understand that He really is who He says He is and that He is willing and able to work in our lives. So much worry is buried in the unknown. The "known" victories of yesterday can destroy the fear of today's "unknown" circumstances because He is always the same. When you are tempted to worry, stop and go back over the books, remembering the victories and celebrating them once again. The God who delivered you yesterday will deliver you today and tomorrow! The experiences of life prove Him true and underline His presence within.
(Join me tomorrow for the conclusion of this series on how to win over worry.)
Let's Pray
Father, help me learn how to handle the relationships in my life with gentleness. When there is conflict give me the strength to confront it in Your love. Give me a heart for restoration instead of retaliation. Guard my words and my thoughts, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize these names of God and call on Him when doubt and worry come:
Jehovah Shammah:"I am there."
Jehovah Shalom: "I am your peace."
Jehovah Jireh:"I am your provider."
Emmanuel: "God with us."
Read Psalm 56:8 "Lord, you have seen me tossing and turning through the night. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded every one in your book." In your journal, write this verse in your own words as a prayer of thanksgiving for God's unfailing love.
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The voice of worry and fear will be drowned out when we choose to listen to God's voice above all others. Need help? We all do, friend. Join women from across the world as we study the Word of God in my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
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April 21, 2010
TICDAABGC
Winning Over Worry
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV) "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
In the key passage, Paul gives us the promise of peace. However, there are conditions to be met and actions we must take in order to experience that peace and win over worry!
Action one: Choose joy
Action two: Be gentle
Action three: Be aware of His presence
Action four: Choose to trust
It is possible not to worry. It must be. God never asks us to do anything that He doesn't empower us to do! In today's key passage, the Apostle Paul challenges us, "Do not be anxious about anything."
"Anxious" literally means, "to be pulled in different directions" and is based on the old English root from which we get our word "worry" meaning "to strangle." Worry can strangle us but trust breaks the hold of worry in our life. The Comanche Indians tortured and killed their enemies by staking them to the ground. They would take a wet leather strap and place it around the neck of their prisoner. As the strap dried, it would gradually cut off the air supply, choking the victim to death. This is the perfect picture of what worry can do to us.
Worry is a control issue. Its opposite is trust. Choose to trust and you will not worry. Choose to worry and you will not trust. What a great promise is found in Isaiah 26:3, "You, LORD, give true peace to those who depend on you, because they trust you." Be brutally honest for a moment. Who is God in your life? I ask that question because I have discovered that playing God is the root of worry. When we play God, we are trusting in our own sufficiency. God commands us to give Him first place and live - totally depending upon Him. Every opportunity to worry is also an opportunity to trust God.
Action Five: Pray about everything.
Philippians 4:6b "But in everything, by prayer and petition...present your requests to God."
"Prayer" is simply conversation with God. "Petition" means to earnestly plea with or implore. To "present your requests" is simply to "make known" or "tell" God specifically what it is that you need. Praying about everything shuts out worry because prayer invites God to be involved in every area of life. And when He is involved, we have nothing to fear.
I am not sure why we have a portable phone because I can never find it. While searching for the roving phone, I walked into the living room to find Danna on the couch with the missing phone in one hand and the television remote control in the other. "Are you talking to Amanda?" I asked. Danna and Amanda were best friends and constantly on the phone. "Yes," she said. "We are watching T.V. together." When came back later, I found the phone on the sofa beside Danna. I asked if I could please use the phone but heard, "Mom, Amanda will be right back. She is eating dinner but I want to keep the line open." That is the idea of praying without ceasing - the idea of keeping the line open. I have heard it said that "when your knees knock, kneel on them!" Prayer eliminates worry.
Action Six: Practice the attitude of gratitude.
Ephesians 5:20 "Always give thanks for everything to our God and Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ."
When our hearts and lives are filled with praise and thanksgiving, worry is a weed that will die from lack of attention. Praise and thanksgiving are powerful weapons against worry, freeing God to work in our lives because when we praise Him, we trust Him blindly.
The story is told of a young hippie who was sitting on a park bench reading his Bible. Suddenly he began to shout! "Praise the Lord! What a miracle!" An older, very distinguished man walking by stopped and asked why he was so excited. The young man replied, "I was just reading how God parted the Red Sea and the whole nation of Israel walked on dry ground!" The older man sneered, "Don't you know? That wasn't a real sea at all. It was just a few inches of water." The unbeliever turned to walk away, leaving the young man confused and discouraged - for a moment - until his shouts once again filled the air. The angry cynic returned asking, "What are you shouting about now?" "Well, sir, I just read how God drowned the whole Egyptian army in just a few inches of water." Don't let anyone keep you from praising God. Don't let any circumstance deny you the joy of praise. If you want to win over worry, praise Him!
A final thought:
Paul has shown us the actions we must take to win over worry:
Choose joy
Be gentle
Be aware of His presence
Choose to trust
Pray about everything
Practice the attitude of gratitude
Six conditions for one promise; "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." "Peace" can be defined as "a state of untroubled, undisturbed well-being." Paul says this kind of peace is beyond our understanding and our ability to comprehend. The world cannot grasp it but would pay any price to have it. We cannot create peace on our own because peace is a supernatural gift from God, given as a hedge of protection that will "guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." "Guard" is a military term, meaning "a garrison or stationed guard." When we have met His conditions, God stations peace at the doorway of our life with the assignment, "Protect my child!"
What fear is gripping your heart today? What are you worrying about? Give it up. Exchange your worries for God's gift of peace. Remember, you can't do anything about it ... but God can!
Let's Pray
Father, today I choose to face my fears with prayer and praise. I surrender my doubts to You and choose to walk by faith - not by sight. Fill my heart and life with Your peace and help me face these uncertain times in Your strength and power. And those things I can't do anything about, Lord, are Yours. Thank You for being Peace in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask a friend to be your prayer partner. Meet regularly to pray and praise God for answered prayer. Keep a prayer and praise journal. At the end of each week, review your journal to see God's hand at work.
What circumstance in your life is the result of worry? What affect does praise have on that fearful circumstance?
Read and memorize Deuteronomy 31:6. "Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you"(NASV).
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I pray that this series of devotionals has been a blessing to you. Choose to take your gaze off of your uncertainties and fix your gaze on your certain God. He is with you and will be your peace.
Need help? We all do, friend. Join women from across the world in my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
Visit my online store and download the E-Bible study, Getting a Grip on Fear or check out my new DVD - Strength for the Storm.
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April 21, 2010
Who's Talking?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"This is my son, whom I love. Listen to him!" (Mark 9:7 NIV)
Friend To Friend
Fourteen exhausted, sweaty teenage boys plopped down on the bottom step of the gymnasium bleachers - my son being one of them. The assistant Junior Varsity basketball coach paced back and forth, lecturing them on the error of their ways. In the style of Sergeant Carter addressing Gomer Pyle, he yelled, "Who's talking?"
The boys, in practiced unison shouted back, "You are, sir!"
"OK then, listen up!" he barked.
For the next twenty minutes, they did just that.
Unfortunately for the merry band of athletes, school is not simply a place where sports are played, but also an institution for academic advancement. The next day it was time to see just how much advancement had taken place in the first four months of school via the dreaded semester exams.
Six of the basketball players sat nervously with their peers on the edge of their seats. Each grasped pencils in hand, ready to attack the twenty-page social studies test. Apparently someone broke the total silence code with a whisper. The six foot five, two hundred and fifty pound teacher jumped to attention and yelled, "Who's talking?"
Automatically, without even thinking, Chris Crutchfield, one of the basketball teammates, shot back, "You are, sir!"
The high school freshman social studies class erupted with laughter. Everyone was tickled, except the teacher and the terrified Chris.
"So, you want to be smart, do you?" Mr. Thompson asked. "Who else in here wants to be smart?"
Over half of the class (mostly boys overcome with mischief, my son included) raised their hands. "I want to be smart," they answered back.
Things were not going well for Mr. Thompson, or for Chris Crutchfield. After school detention was crowded that week.
It was an innocent mistake - an automatic response - a reflex reaction. But it made Chris a hero for the day among his buddies. And in a way, he was my hero as well.
When my Heavenly Teacher speaks to me, when He whispers in my ear, gives me direction, directs my path - when He tries to get my attention and says, "Who's talking?" I pray my response will be just as automatic as Chris's. "You are, Sir!" And when He says "Well listen up, then," that's exactly what I plan to do.
What about you? Are you listening to God today? Do you know how to detect that still small voice? Pay attention. He's longing to talk to you!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, speak to me today, for I am listening. Help me to recognize Your gentle nudges and Your still small voice.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I hope today's devotion made you smile. It made me laugh all over again just remembering the scene. Now, let me ask a few questions.
When was the last time you sensed God speaking to you?
What was the outcome of that conversation?
I'd love to hear your response? Let's share our stories. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell how God has spoken to you!
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If you would like to learn more about how to hear God's still small voice in your daily life, see Becoming a Woman who Listens to God by Sharon Jaynes. And if you would like a book filled with inspirational stories, check out Sharon's daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God.
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April 23, 2010
To Snip or Not to Snip
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 15:2 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Spring is in the air and I'm already getting excited about gardening! I wish I could have you over for coffee on my patio sometime around the end of June. A bed of begonias carpet the area just to the left of the brick patio. Verdigris pots overflowing with pink petunias, dusty miller, and sky blue ageratum stand guard on each side of the steps leading from the house. Two wire planters frame a wall fountain that trickles water over sculptured blue birds. By June, fragrant pink and white begonias and purple petunias spill over the edge of the planters bursting with color.
In May, the sturdy begonias slowly sink their roots deep into the soil before mounds of flowers start to cautiously multiply. But the petunias rush into summer by parading their bright colors right away. So by the end of June, the petunias are the pride of the garden. However, by August, they become "leggy," spindly, and unsightly. Long, ugly stems protrude in the air with a single purple velvet blossom on the end. The flowers are pretty, but the lanky stems become so distracting that by mid-August I usually just pull them up and throw them away. Then the sturdy begonias that took the time to get grounded first simply fill in the empty spaces.
I do have another option other than pulling up and throwing out the spindly petunias. When they start to show the first sign of "legginess," I could snip them off - prune them. But that means I have to sacrifice the beautiful flower on the end of the stalk, and for two weeks there is no color. The result of pruning in June is a healthier, bushier plant in August, but it's hard to snip and wait.
This pruning business is painful, not just in my flower garden, but also in my life. But the Master Gardner has taught me a few pruning tips along the way.
You must clip away dead flowers or they will keep other buds from blooming. (Are there areas in my life that are not blooming or producing fruit? Are there activities I need to prune in order to produce a more productive, healthy life?) Lesson: Snip it off.
Remove any sucker shoots because they sap energy from the rest of the plant. (Is there any one area of my life that is out of control and sapping energy from the rest of my life? Are there any sucker shoots in my life that keep me from flourishing where God wants me to bloom?) Lesson: Snip if off.
Just because a plant is bearing some blooms does not mean that it should not be pruned. (Is there something in my life that is somewhat productive but needs to be pruned in order to be more productive?) Lesson: Snip it off.
In order for a flower to thrive, it must stay attached to the stalk. (In order for me to continue to grow and bloom, I must stay attached to the Vine.) Lesson: Stay connected to Christ.
The Master Gardner wields His gardening tools in our lives as He trims, snips, and prunes. And we can rest assured He'll do what is necessary to insure the most beautiful bouquets.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD and Master Gardener, I don't like pruning. I resist change. However, I give me life and my schedule to You today. Prune away. Show me what I need to keep and what I need to cut away. I don't want to be a leggy petunia with an occasional bloom here and there. I want to be a healthy deep-rooted perennial that blooms time and time again.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the four pruning lessons in today's devotion. Ask yourself those questions and come up with a pruning plan of your own.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Are you a leggy petunia in need of a good pruning or a bushy begonia with deep roots?
More From The Girlfriends
Don't you just love how God speaks to us through nature? If you would like to learn more about how to listen to God's still small voice in your daily life, see Becoming a Woman who Listens to God by Sharon Jaynes. And if you would like a book filled with inspirational stories, check out Sharon's daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God..
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April 26, 2010
Constant Cravings
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days" (Psalm 90:14, NIV).
Friend To Friend
A friend of mine is hypoglycemic. Before he was diagnosed, he had one compelling symptom. He was constantly thirsty. Now the crazy thing was, the more water he drank, the thirstier he became. It defies logic. As you live out your faith, you will have a similar insatiable thirst and hunger for God. The more you ask for His daily help, the more you will want it. But know this, friend, you will not be fully satisfied or quenched until you are in His presence.
In his book, Come Thirsty, Max Lucado writes:
You're acquainted with physical thirst. Stop drinking and see what happens. Coherent thoughts vanish, skin grows clammy, and vital organs shut down. Deprive your body of necessary fluid, and it will tell you.
Deprive your soul of spiritual water, and it will tell you. Dehydrated hearts send desperate messages. Snarling tempers. Waves of worry. Growing guilt and fear. Hopelessness. Resentment. Loneliness. Insecurity.
But you don't have to live with a dehydrated heart. God invites you to treat your thirsty soul as you would treat your physical thirst. Just visit the WELL and drink deeply.
Here on earth, hunger and thirst never end. Just because you ate breakfast this morning doesn't mean you won't have a grumbling tummy at lunchtime. And when you eat lunch, that doesn't cover you for the next three days. You need to eat again and again.
The spiritual parallels here are as rich as a piece of Ghirardelli cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. (Great restaurant, by the way!) A three-course meal of worship, prayer, and a sermon on Sunday morning doesn't nourish your body with the spiritual calories you need for an entire week. Not by a long stretch. We were designed in the image of God, for God. We were made to worship and to respond to the glory of God; to know Him. Continually. Daily. Without ceasing.
I don't know about you, but hunger affects my judgment. If I dare go to the grocery store while I'm hungry, my cart will usually contain extra food items I wouldn't normally purchase. Are you smellin' what I'm cookin' here? If I'm hungry when I arrive at a dinner party, I'll more than likely eat the mother lode of appetizers (especially if there is dip involved).
When we are spiritually hungry, the same truth applies. We have a tendency to compromise our judgment and set aside our convictions. We grumble and complain about our lives. We look to other people and other stuff to meet our needs. Yadda, yadda...
BEING SPIRITUALLY THIN IS SO NOT IN!
Look around! Spiritually hungry people are everywhere. Just turn on your television, pick up a magazine, or go to an online chat-room. People are desperately trying to fill their hunger ... trying to find happiness and satisfaction in things, status, and people.
Now, if you dare, look even closer to home. Look at your PTA meetings, boardrooms, Little League fields, and malls. And, if you're really brave, look in the mirror. Each one of us sees a hungry woman staring us in the face.
It is really important to turn to the Bread of Life at the first inkling of hunger pains. Go to Him with your needs and give Him your burdens. Jesus said: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). He wants to meet you at the point of your need.
God gave you an open invitation to come to Him when He said through the prophet Isaiah,
"Come, all who are thirsty,
come to the waters;
and you who have no money,
come, buy and eat!"
(Isaiah 55:1a, NIV).
Each time we connect with God throughout the day, our souls are nourished. Sometimes we just need a small spiritual meal. Sometimes our needs are greater. In those moments, we are invited by our compassionate God to sit down to a great big dinner. How are you handling your constant cravings?
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the invitation to come, eat, drink, and be satisfied in You. You are all that I need, and more than enough. I pray that You will bear the weight of the burdens on my heart today, and I ask that You would fill my soul with Your rest. Finally, please increase my cravings for You, Lord - so that you can be glorified in and through my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Spending time with the Lord through His Word is one great way to feed your soul. Read and meditate on Psalm 63:1-8.
Read it silently the first time, then read it again out loud.
When have you witnessed God's power in your life? Thank Him!
More From The Girlfriends
Although your physical cravings might include dark chocolate, coffee, and warm, fresh bread - your soul constantly craves intimacy with God. Spend some time worshiping Him today. Sing to Him!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls ... and of the loving, holy God who restores their wounded hearts and makes them beautiful in Him.
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Gwen Smith is a worship artist, songwriter, speaker, and author. For more information, visit her website at: www.GwenSmith.net.
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April 27, 2010
Take This Job and Love It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:27 (NLT)"God in heaven appoints each person's work."
Friend To Friend
Our son graduated from college with a business degree and the plan to build his own company from the ground up. Jered has been a gifted carpenter since childhood when he built his first "house" in our garage. A 10 x 10 foot clubhouse was the envy of every kid in the neighborhood. When I asked him how he had known what to do, he said, "I just saw it in my mind." I knew then that his life work was to build. Today, he is a master carpenter who recently said, "It is so awesome to get up every morning and love to go to work!"
Do you love to go to work? Many people never experience satisfaction or success in their work because they are in the wrong work. God is the source of all our skills, gifts, abilities and talents and He wants us to use them to the best of our ability. Proverbs 22:6 encourages parents to "train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it" (NIV). "The way he should go" means in the ways of God and in the direction or bent the child was created to go. In other words, we are designed with a natural inclination that naturally draws us toward God and the plan He has for us to live out.
My husband, Dan, has served as a youth pastor in several churches over the years. As I served beside him, I gained a wealth of knowledge as I watched teenagers try on different identities like they tried on new clothes. I will never forget the lesson I learned from Laura, a beautiful, talented girl who had trouble finding work and rarely succeeded at any job she actually landed. I could not understand how such a beautiful girl could be so clueless about herself - until I met her parents.
It was painfully obvious that Laura's negative opinion of herself was firmly rooted in her parent's negative opinion of their daughter. Her room was a disaster because a clean room was important to her mother. Her grades were disgraceful because good grades were important to her father. She only dated guys who treated her like dirt because ... well, she believed that she was dirt. Laura confided in me that she wanted to graduate from high school, attend a local beauty school to become a hair stylist and maybe one day, open her own beauty shop. I could see her doing just that! Girls flocked to Laura for help with their hair and make-up because she was so good at it. When I asked her what was keeping her from following that dream, tears streamed down her face as she explained, "My Parents think that being a hair stylist is a ridiculous idea. If I choose to attend a beauty school instead of a four-year-college, I have to move out and do it all on my own." When I offered to talk to her parents, she shook her head and said, "It won't do any good." She was right. I did talk with them and nothing changed. But Laura did.
Laura moved out of her home and in with a man who introduced her to drugs and alcohol. Years later, I heard that she was living on the streets to support her habits. I have often wondered what would have happened if Laura's parents had supported the gifts and abilities God had given their daughter instead of holding her hostage until she paid the ransom of bowing to their plan for her life.
In John 3:27 we find a simple but powerful truth, "God in heaven appoints each person's work" (NLT). John explained that because God had given him his work, he had to continue it until God called him to do something else. Amos raised sheep until God called him to be a prophet proclaiming God's message to others. If you are following God's blueprint for your life, your job is part of your life plan and you are successful. God can and will work through you to do extraordinary things, no matter how "ordinary" your occupation may be in the eyes of man.
Over the years, we often talked with our children about a life plan. We encouraged them to discover what they love to do and then find a way to be paid doing it. Life here is short. Do not waste it doing something you were not created to do. Choose your work carefully.
I know there are days when the will of God seems completely wrong and we do not understand. We are treading water, desperately longing to see Him walking on the treacherous waves toward us, rescue in His hand. It is in those shadowed moments that we must choose to trust the Plan Maker because His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. One day, every one of our question marks will be yanked into exclamation points as we see that high plan as He sees it - perfect!
Today, my friend set aside your inadequate agenda. Lay down your limited life arrangement and look for God to meet you at the point of surrender - power and victory in His hands. Now that is a great plan!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the gifts and abilities that You have given me. I pray that I will learn to use each one according to Your plan for my life. Please give me discernment as I make career choices. I trust You to guide every step and empower every decision because I am seeking You and just want to do what You want me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The One who knows us best and loves us most created us. God had a plan in mind and lovingly, purposefully created us in response to that plan. Take a brutally honest inventory of your natural gifts, talents and abilities, knowing that they are from God and are all part of your life plan. Ask those who know you best for their opinions and perspectives. Make career choices based on persistent prayer and daily obedience to God.
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I know we are living in tough economic times and that many people who have lost their job are working wherever they can to put food on the table and pay the bills. God will use every experience in life to refine and define us if we allow Him to.
Need encouragement in your work? Check out my weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. We are beginning a new series, "Take This Job and Love It."
I know some of you are trying to weather some kind of storm in your life. God is with you! Find new strength for the difficult times in my new DVD, Strength for the Storm.
I would love to connect with you on Facebook or through email.
Need prayer? Email your prayer request to our Prayer Team Director, Ginger Meador.
Blessings!
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April 28, 2010
To Snip or Not to Snip
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 15:2 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Spring is in the air and I'm already getting excited about gardening! I wish I could have you over for coffee on my patio sometime around the end of June. A bed of begonias carpet the area just to the left of the brick patio. Verdigris pots overflowing with pink petunias, dusty miller, and sky blue ageratum stand guard on each side of the steps leading from the house. Two wire planters frame a wall fountain that trickles water over sculptured blue birds. By June, fragrant pink and white begonias and purple petunias spill over the edge of the planters bursting with color.
In May, the sturdy begonias slowly sink their roots deep into the soil before mounds of flowers start to cautiously multiply. But the petunias rush into summer by parading their bright colors right away. So by the end of June, the petunias are the pride of the garden. However, by August, they become "leggy," spindly, and unsightly. Long, ugly stems protrude in the air with a single purple velvet blossom on the end. The flowers are pretty, but the lanky stems become so distracting that by mid-August I usually just pull them up and throw them away. Then the sturdy begonias that took the time to get grounded first simply fill in the empty spaces.
I do have another option other than pulling up and throwing out the spindly petunias. When they start to show the first sign of "legginess," I could snip them off - prune them. But that means I have to sacrifice the beautiful flower on the end of the stalk, and for two weeks there is no color. The result of pruning in June is a healthier, bushier plant in August, but it's hard to snip and wait.
This pruning business is painful, not just in my flower garden, but also in my life. But the Master Gardner has taught me a few pruning tips along the way.
You must clip away dead flowers or they will keep other buds from blooming. (Are there areas in my life that are not blooming or producing fruit? Are there activities I need to prune in order to produce a more productive, healthy life?) Lesson: Snip it off.
Remove any sucker shoots because they sap energy from the rest of the plant. (Is there any one area of my life that is out of control and sapping energy from the rest of my life? Are there any sucker shoots in my life that keep me from flourishing where God wants me to bloom?) Lesson: Snip if off.
Just because a plant is bearing some blooms does not mean that it should not be pruned. (Is there something in my life that is somewhat productive but needs to be pruned in order to be more productive?) Lesson: Snip it off.
In order for a flower to thrive, it must stay attached to the stalk. (In order for me to continue to grow and bloom, I must stay attached to the Vine.) Lesson: Stay connected to Christ.
The Master Gardner wields His gardening tools in our lives as He trims, snips, and prunes. And we can rest assured He'll do what is necessary to insure the most beautiful bouquets.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD and Master Gardener, I don't like pruning. I resist change. However, I give me life and my schedule to You today. Prune away. Show me what I need to keep and what I need to cut away. I don't want to be a leggy petunia with an occasional bloom here and there. I want to be a healthy deep-rooted perennial that blooms time and time again.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the four pruning lessons in today's devotion. Ask yourself those questions and come up with a pruning plan of your own.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Are you a leggy petunia in need of a good pruning or a bushy begonia with deep roots?
More From The Girlfriends
Don't you just love how God speaks to us through nature? If you would like to learn more about how to listen to God's still small voice in your daily life, see Becoming a Woman who Listens to God by Sharon Jaynes. And if you would like a book filled with inspirational stories, check out Sharon's daily devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God.
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April 29, 2010
A Willing Heart
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 5:20 (NLT) "So we are Christ's ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, 'Come back to God!'"
Friend To Friend
My husband Brad went on a missions trip to Guatemala a few years ago. What he saw and experienced changed his life and increased his faith in a dramatic way. He was an eyewitness to the healing power of God. On that trip he prayed harder, believed more, and expected more from God each passing day—and as a result, God used their medical missions team as a conduit for miracles.
Do you ever find yourself doubting that God wants to move in and through your life? Have you ever felt like you've needed a faith-lift? Are there circumstances in your life that have left you feeling "unqualified" to be the voice of life to others? Do you want to experience God's strength and power in your average, ordinary days?
If so, then lean in, girlfriend, because what I'm about to share with you is a key to increasing the power of God in your life!
Hector, the founder of that Guatemalan ministry that Brad teamed up with on the missions trip, visited North Carolina, and my family and I went to hear him speak. When I heard him testify of the provision and power of God, my heart was stirred and my faith was boosted. But what moved me most was the story of the lesson he learned about his call after God led him to be a medical missionary.
Before he began the medical ministry that he devotes his life to now, Hector's main goal in life was to make lots of money. Back then he didn't even apologize for it. He was a Christian and figured that God could use his money to help others.
What happened to change the course of his life? Back in the late eighties, Hector and his wife joined a medical team on a mission to a mountain village. The team was blown away by what God did through them while they were there. On the four-hour drive back to the city, they worshipped and sang praises to God. As he worshipped and drove, Hector heard the Lord speak to his soul. This is what I've made you for. To medically treat My people, to pray for their healing, and to share the hope of Jesus with the hopeless and the lost.
Hector felt so overwhelmed that he pulled the truck over and told the team of his call from God to be a missionary doctor. They prayed over him, whooped it up in celebration, and then continued down the mountain with an even greater sense of purpose and excitement. Hector thought that God had called him to be a missionary because of his skills as a doctor. Later, he would think otherwise.
A few years into his work, while visiting a remote village, a woman with a large mass on her side came into their makeshift clinic. Her terrible pain was curbed only by her excitement that the medical team had come to help her. One glance at her tumor and Hector had a strong suspicion that it was malignant. Upon examining her further, Hector was convinced that she was terminal. He became very frustrated with God, to the extent that he didn't even want to share the gospel with her because he couldn't do anything to help her physically.
Hector sent up a few prayers of frustration, but felt God nudging him to share the gospel with this woman. So he reluctantly shared the good news of Jesus with her; and, to Hector's surprise, she wanted to pray to receive Christ! And as they sat on the floor of that makeshift med-center, this sweet woman trusted Jesus as her Savior. When they finished praying, the woman had a radiant smile and tears in her eyes. He hugged her and she began to cry.
"What happened?" Hector asked. "Why are you crying?"
"As we were praying," she said, "I felt a warmth that started on my head and spread to the tips of my toes." As she said this, she realized something had changed, and she screamed with delight, "My mass is gone! My pain is gone!"
Hector had her lie back down on his examining table. The tumor that had been there just minutes ago was gone. God had intervened. She was healed, both spiritually and physically!
In the amazing celebration that followed, God spoke clearly to Hector's heart. God told him that He had all the power needed for the work He had called Hector to, and it had nothing to do with his medical training. God impressed on his heart that He didn't need Hector's skills or his knowledge, He had all of that covered. He just wanted him to go in His name.
You and I have that same opportunity every day. We have a chance to be a witness of God's healing love to a world of wounded hearts. Did God need my husband and the other volunteers to heal Guatemalan villagers, treat their physical wounds, and share the hope of Jesus with them? No. Did God move in the lives of the villagers because of their willingness to go in His name? You bet!
One of my favorite sayings is, "God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called." If you are His, then you are called. Not because of who you are or what you can do, but because God can and will do His work through you.
Did God tell Jonah to go to Nineveh because Jonah was a great leader with amazing vision? No! Jonah proved to be quite wimpy. When Jonah finally made it to Nineveh, did God bring a great wave of repentance and restoration because of Jonah's rhetorical gifts? No! God stirred the hearts and changed the lives of hundreds of Ninevites because Jonah finally had the courage to speak God's words.
God wants to do something similar through you. He wants you to stop fighting Him on this and be willing to speak for Him so others can know the same healing and hope that you know. He wants to bring beauty up from the ashes of brokenness all around you.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I'm so humbled that You would call me to anything. You have all the power needed for every job, yet you ask me to join you. Thank you, Lord. Please make my heart willing to say yes to everything you want me to do.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a willing heart? What is God calling you to do for Him? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to guide you and strengthen you for the task.
Read 2 Corinthians 5:11-21.
More From The Girlfriends
Hey girlfriend! I'm a woman who has hesitated to say yes to God in the past. It took many months of resistance before I conceded to release my testimony into His hands. I just didn't think anything good could come of it. Boy was I wrong! God doesn't waste a hurt, and He has a big plan for your life. Trust His heart... no matter where He's leading you!
GOT BEAUTY? Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
GOT FACEBOOK? Visit Gwen's FACEBOOK PAGE - leave a message on her wall - listen to a few songs - share the page with your FB friends! :-)
EVENTS: Interested in having Gwen speak and sing at your upcoming women's event? Send your Women's Ministry Director to Gwen's website (www.GwenSmith.net) to fill out the booking inquiry form found on her site.
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April 30, 2010
The Lord is My Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 100:3 (NCV) "Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends."
Friend To Friend
Shepherding was one of the oldest callings in Israel, even before farming. Shepherds traveled from place to place, living in tents while driving their flocks from one pasture to another. The sheep and their shepherd lived together every minute of every day. In fact, they were so intimately bound together that individual sheep, even when mixed with other flocks, could recognize the voice of their own shepherd and would come immediately when called by name.
A shepherd owned and marked his sheep. In some cases, the sheep were even branded, although branding is no longer an accepted method of identification because of the damage it does to the wool. Today, the ears of sheep are pierced with identification tags but for thousands of years, shepherds around the world marked their sheep by notching their ears with a sharp knife. Each shepherd had his own distinctive notch that indicated identity and ownership.
When we come to Jesus Christ in complete surrender and begin the journey of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ, we are redeemed by his forgiveness, made whole by his grace and marked with his love through the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
Ephesians 1:13 "You were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed; you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit."
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions. To make things worse, I was up to my neck in ministry at the time.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church just about every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God - not only as my Lord and King - but as my Shepherd, the one who would lead me, provide for me and love me like no other.
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God.
Then a startling certainty hit me like a ton of bricks! I knew all about God - and then the deeper truth of that reality followed closely behind. Yes, I had certainly accumulated a lot of knowledge about God but I did not know Him. To know about God wasn't enough for me or for God. I have come to realize that God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children. That night, we met as I surrendered all that I knew about myself to all that I knew about Him.
While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations but I also discovered who I really was - a sheep - and being a sheep is awesome! When I am afraid, Jesus Christ is there to bring peace. When my heart is broken, the Holy Spirit comforts and restores me. Even when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression, Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, led me from the darkness into the light.
I began to understand the incredible truth that, Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd had planned my very existence, prepared a plan in response to his love for me, and even made provision for the payment of my past, present and future sin. I was wanted, chosen and marked for God. I no longer had to live life on my own because I now had a Shepherd. God's love precedes me, goes before me and surrounds me as I live each day. Knowing that we are loved fosters peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Actually, when you think about it, sheep don't come across as stressed-out creatures. In fact, they seem almost oblivious to the dangers of being a sheep. Sheep don't seem to worry about where their next meal is coming from, if they will have a place to sleep each night, when the next enemy or thief will attack, or even what the next day holds. When sheep are sick, they simply turn to their Shepherd, instinctively knowing that He will take care of them and comfort them until healing comes. We need to remember that we are all sheep; that Jesus Christ really is our Shepherd and that nothing else really matters.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the truth that You are my Shepherd and that You will lead, guide and protect me and provide everything I need. Help me learn how to trust You fully and follow You. I know Your plan for me is the highest and best plan for my life. I surrender to You and that plan. I love you, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Life can be very stressful when we try to live it on our own. Identify the most stressful areas of your life. Read Psalm 23 every day this month, committing each one of these areas to the Shepherd. As you walk through each stress-filled day, lean on the truths of this psalm. At the end of the month, evaluate your stress level and then celebrate God's sufficiency.
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May 3, 2010
Giving our Children to God
Sharon Jaynes
(For the month of May, many of Sharon's devotions will focus on motherhood. If you are not a mom, please pray for those who are.)
Today's Truth:
"Everything is possible for him who believes" (Mark 9:23 NIV).
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Once, a distraught father had an unruly son with multiple physical and emotional problems. Many people even said the boy was possessed by a demon. The dad had tried everything, but the boy continued to demonstrate anti-social behavior: throwing himself in the fire and then in water. That sort of behavior, on top of frequent seizures, rolling on the ground, foaming at the mouth, and an inability to talk, made the dad desperate to find a solution. He even took the boy to some faith healers who were traveling through his hometown. But nothing seemed to work.
Finally, the dad realized no human being was going to be able to help his son, so he took him directly to God. The father heard that Jesus was visiting in his community, so he boldly brought the boy to Him. With desperation in his voice the father pleaded, "If You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!"
And Jesus answered, "If You can! All things are possible to him who believes."
Immediately the boy's father cried out, "I do believe: help my unbelief."
With that profession, Jesus healed the man's son.
Oh, how this story from Mark 9 stirs my heart. Can't you feel the father's pain? How desperately he must have felt every time the child threw himself into the water or the fire. "Why son? Why do you do these things? I don't understand," he must have asked.
Imagine the humiliation of the whispers as the family walked down the streets. "That's the Jones family. Have you heard about their son? He's..." The stares, the snickers, the brutal comments. Don't you know there were many days when this dad wanted to just give up? Instead, he offers us a beautiful picture of what all parents must do, the ultimate act in parenting - hand our children over to God.
As mothers, at time we find ourselves at the end of our mental and emotional resources. We feel we have done everything humanly possible and don't know the best action to take with our children. That's exactly where God wants us every day: not depending on our human wisdom but on His unfathomable omniscience, not depending on our own strength but on His unlimited power. When we realize that we do not and never will have all the child-rearing answers and solutions, we discover the importance of giving our children to God.
S.D. Gordon, in Quiet Talks on Prayer, said, "You can do more than pray, after you have prayed. But you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed."
Let's Pray
(For those who have children still at home)
Dear God, today, I once again bring my child to you. Please show me how to parent this precious gift that you have given me. Help me to be the best mother that I can be. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will teach me, Your wisdom will guide me, and Your love will move me. Most of all, Lord, I give this child to You. Please make him (her) a servant after Your own heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
(For those with grown children)
Dear God,
My child is no longer under my roof or under my wing. He (She) is now out in the world making life decisions of his (her) own. I give this adult child to You, Lord. May he (she) seek You with all his (her) heart. I pray that You will protect him (her), guide him (her), and open his (her) heart to the truth of God's Word every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of things about your child over which you have no control.
Now turn that list into a prayer and relinquish each item of concern to God.
Remember Jesus' reply to the Father when He said, "If you can do anything..." Write today's key verse down and commit it to memory.
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Being a parent is the most difficult, rewarding responsibility that God has entrusted to us. I am so glad that He doesn't leave us to figure it out all on our own, but gives us the Bible as the ultimate handbook. If you would like to discover seven key elements of great parenting, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.
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May 4, 2010
Idols and Tools
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 12:15 (ICB) "Jesus said to them, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns."
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We live in a "stuff" driven world where it does not seem to matter what we have, it is never enough. We are told the more things we have, the more successful we are. We not only want possessions, we want other people's talents, abilities, circumstances and relationships. Luke warns us to guard against "all kinds of greed." It is easy for us to covet a job that offers more power and prestige. We want the power that another seems to possess in their career. We are driven to have the best and to be the best, unable to relax and celebrate where we are and what we do have. Hebrews 13:5 is powerfully clear in its warning, "Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. God has said, "I will never leave you; I will never forget you" (NCV). Now that is a fortune.
Be honest. How important are your possessions? How do you view them? Howard Hendricks, a great Bible teacher, was having dinner with a very wealthy and prestigious man. Hendricks was amazed at the humility of his host, knowing the man's impressive credentials and the massive wealth he possessed. At the end of the evening, Hendricks asked his friend, "How did you grow up in such wealth and not be consumed by materialism?" With a smile, the man responded, "My parents taught me that everything in our home was either an idol or a tool. The choice was up to me."
The truth is that we want whatever we put first in life. I have discovered the more I have to live for, the less I need to live on. Too often, greed and jealousy encourage wrong decisions and foster unhealthy and ungodly attitudes. The fact is - greed and jealousy are fruits of idolatry. Everything in life is either an idol we choose to worship or a tool we choose to use for good or bad.
Corrie ten Boom was a godly woman who endured great persecution from the Nazis in the World War II concentration camp known as Ravensbruck. During an interview, she once stated she had learned to hold everything "loosely" in her hands. When asked why, Miss ten Boom explained that after being a Christian for many years, she had discovered the truth that when she grasped things tightly, it hurt more when the Lord would have to pry her fingers loose. The choice really is ours to make. We need to hold our "stuff" loosely while investing financial resources in eternal things. We need to keep our gaze riveted to God's plan alone instead of entering the all too familiar and ungodly "competition" that seems to plague so many people.
To stay away from idols and avoid greed we need to change our focus from what we want to what we have and choose to be satisfied with whatever that is. In Luke 12:15, Jesus issues a warning, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (ICB). I believe that attaching importance to "things" is sin and will lead to more sin.
I love the story of a wealthy man who prayed, asking for permission to take his earthly wealth with him when he died and went to heaven. An angel appeared to the man and said, "We heard your prayer, but I am sorry. You simply cannot take it with you." The man pleaded so passionately that the angel said, "Let me see what I can do." When the angel returned, he reported, "Good news! God has made an exception for you. You may bring one suitcase with you when it is your time to go." Delighted, the man packed his one suitcase and went on with life. Several years later, he died and appeared at the Pearly Gates where St. Peter who took one look at the suitcase and said, "I am sorry, sir, but you cannot bring that in with you", met him. The man protested, "But I received special permission." Just then, the angel appeared and said, "Peter, it is true. He has special permission to bring one suitcase in with him." Curious, Peter said, "Do you mind showing me what is in the bag that is so important to you?" With a smile, the man replied, "Not at all" and proceeded to open the suitcase to reveal stacks of gold bricks. Peter's face said it all, "Pavement? You brought pavement with you?"
Many of us are in a never-ending and futile quest to accumulate "pavement" here that is worthless there! Wealth is all a matter of perspective. We need to understand that our Father wants us to have wealth. We just have to be careful not to settle for earthly money and possessions or human power and prestige instead of the eternal treasures only He can offer.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess to You that the material things of this world often tempt me. Please forgive me for the greed in my life and help me learn how to choose against it. I choose to keep my eyes on You and the eternal wealth You alone can offer. Help me to guard my heart and mind.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· How important are your possessions to you? Be honest.
· Make a list of your ten most important "things." Will they be just as important in a year?
· Examine your heart for any jealousy. Record your thoughts in your journal.
· Give away one of your prized possessions. What emotions did you have to deal with in doing so?
· Identify and eliminate any "pockets" of jealousy and greed in your heart.
· Begin each day with a prayer of thanksgiving. Evaluate the difference this prayer has made in your life after a month.
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Many of us have become accustomed to "living on the edge" of financial security. Guard your heart, my friend! Keep your gaze on God and the plan to which he has called you. Keep your glance on the world and the empty promises of fame and power it offers. Cultivate a grateful heart. Pray for the discernment to embrace those hidden treasures buried in every trial. Praise God for His sufficiency in meeting your every need, even if the way he meets it does not correspond with yours. Trust God.
We all know how hard it is to battle greed. A personal relationship with God is the only way to experience true victory. Do you know Him? Click here to learn more about how to have a personal relationship with God.
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May 5, 2010
A Mighty Warrior
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth" (3 John 1:4 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Proverbs 31 introduces us to the mother whose children rise up and call her blessed. She is a "wife of noble character" (NIV), "an excellent wife" (NAS) and "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." (AMPLIFIED VERSION) The actual Hebrew word for excellent or virtuous is chayil and is sometimes interpreted as "virtuous, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior." The mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is a warrior who battles in prayer for the hearts, minds, and souls of her children. She prays a hedge of protection around them and stands in the gap when they don't know how to pray for themselves. She meets the enemy head on, dressed in the armor of God with the sword of the spirit (the word of God) drawn and ready for action. We may never know the many times that the enemy's schemes against our children were thwarted by the power of our prayers.
As a mother, you may feel at times that your burden for your child seems more than you can bear. Peter tells us to "cast all our cares upon Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). He cares for your children, too. No matter how much you love your children, God loves them more.
In my Bible, I keep a 4 x 6 laminated card with prayers for Steven that is my defense against the enemy's attack. You, too, can pray that your children will:
Know Christ as Savior early in life. (Psalm 63:1, 2 Timothy 3:15)
Have a hatred for sin. (Psalm 97:10)
Be caught when guilty. (Psalm 119:71)
Be protected from the evil one in each area of their lives: spiritual, emotional, and physical (John 17:15)
Have a responsible attitude in all their interpersonal relationships. (Daniel 6:3)
Respect those in authority over them. (Romans 13:1)
Desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends. (Proverbs 1:10-11)
Be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17)
Be kept pure until marriage (as well as the one they marry). (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
Learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all things. (James 4:7)
Be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ. (Romans 12:1-2)
Be hedged in so they cannot find their way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to them. (Hosea 2:6)
A mother wears many hats during the years of raising her children. And while we take off those hats one-by-one as they grow and mature, there is one that will always remain - the hat of a mother who prays.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the privilege of being a mom. I agree with John who wrote, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth." That is my prayer today...that my child will walk in Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Perhaps you have certain concerns or desires for your child. If so, find a good concordance and look up Scriptural promises to pray.
Consider joining with another mother and becoming prayer partners for your children. You can use the list from this devotion as a springboard for praying Scripture over your children.
If you are a mom in need of a bit of encouragement today, I have a video clip just for you. Just look on the homepage of www.sharonjaynes.com and click on the video for moms.
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May 6, 2010
The Sheep and His Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 40:1 "He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young."
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Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times ... or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins, which cause sudden death. This problem was even more complicated for the shepherds of the Bible. The type of shepherding referred to in the Bible is not the farming of fenced pasturelands but nomadic grazing. The shepherd had to carefully plan the path and lead the way so that the sheep had neither too little nor too much grazing and were able to get to the water hole on time.
Pastures were often lost to extreme heat, which meant the shepherd had to scour the countryside in search of green grass. Several flocks of sheep were gathered together at night in a sheltered place so that shepherds could share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds were always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they would not last long. Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger.
Let's think about the sheep you minister to as a shepherd here on earth. God calls us all in different ways to do different things...but we are all called to be a shepherd to someone. We live in a world filled with people who, like sheep, are lost, confused, hungry, lonely, and in desperate need of a Savior. I suspect many of you do feel as if you actually live with your sheep day in and day out. Everywhere you go you run into someone from your flock, your phone rings off the wall, e-mails pile up and you are constantly trying to rescue one of your sheep who always seem to be in trouble.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim - with one exception. I rarely wait patiently! Remember, I am a sheep!
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD."
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness ... until He rescues me. I satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul ravenous for what is good while stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I do not like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for being my Shepherd. I am your lamb and I choose to follow You. Forgive me for following the wrong voices instead of listening for Yours above all others. I want to trust You, Lord, for every need ... and I am so needy. Right now, I surrender my will to Yours and celebrate You in my life as my Shepherd.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Read Psalm 23 every day this week.
· Think back to the times when you have strayed from God's leadership and He has lovingly reached out, drawing you to Himself. Thank God for His precious care.
· Is there anyone in your life who needs to know that they can turn to God? How can you help them?
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When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many people have somehow bought into the lie that they can make it on their own or that the rules, the commandments of God, do not necessarily apply to them ... just those other sheep. The longer I live, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we all need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own - as a sheep and without a shepherd?
Do you know Jesus Christ? Is He your Shepherd? Today, I encourage you to surrender all you know about yourself to all you know about God. He will meet you there!
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May 7, 2010
Hats Off to Moms!
Sharon Jaynes
In Celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon will have several devotions devoted to moms!
Today's Truth:
"Her children arise and call her blessed;" (Proverbs 31:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Along the coast of North Carolina there are seven stately lighthouses that stand as sentinels on our rugged shoreline. A mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is much like those stately lighthouses. She has a solid foundation in Jesus Christ. Her walls of faith are constructed to withstand the storms of life, and her primary function is to house the light of Christ. This mother is an immovable constant in her child's life, a landmark along life's journey and a guiding light that points her children to the safe harbor of home and eventually out to sea.
My Grandma Edwards was a constant in my life. From my earliest remembrance, she never seemed to change. She was always old, wore funny baggy underwear and an equally unattractive undershirt to match, and styled her gray hair in a long braid that wound around her head like a crown. She loved to watch Perry Mason, eat peanut butter crackers, and drink coca-cola from chilled glass bottles. She never drove a car or frequented a shopping mall, but spent her days gardening, canning, and sewing.
Mothers and grandmothers no longer spend their days like my Grandma Edwards. They are on the go with schedules that would make the best air traffic controller's head spin.
Recently I attended a barbecue dinner with five hundred tourists in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Across from me sat a family of four from Atlanta, Georgia: a dad, mom, and two little girls, ages 8 and 10. We all introduced ourselves and began the friendly banter of "do you know so-an-so" and "what do you do?" At one point in the conversation, someone asked Mary what she "did" in Atlanta? With downcast eyes, she shrugged and said, "Oh, I'm just a mom. I don't have a job."
Immediately the hair bristled on the back of my neck and sirens and lights went off in my head. "Just" a mom! How could she say such a thing? I assured Mary that she had the most important job in all creation: to create order out of chaos, ensure the physical, emotional and spiritual well-being of her two little girls, and shape the individuals who will contribute to what we are as a community and a nation. I don't think Mary will ever use the words "just" and "mom" in the same sentence again.
Let's unpack that little word, "mom." What exactly is her job description? She's a wife, mother, friend, housekeeper, interior decorator, laundress, gourmet chef, short order cook, chauffeur, painter, wallpaper hanger, seamstress, nurse, guidance counselor, internal affairs CEO, financial planner, travel agent, administrative assistant, disciplinarian, preacher, teacher, tutor, spiritual advisor, dietician, lecturer, librarian, fashion coordinator, private investigator, cheerleader, manicurist, pedicurist, landscaper, hair stylist, psychologist, plumber, computer programmer, automobile maintenance expert, referee, and gift purchasing agent for both sides of the family. She may not get a salary, but the fringe benefits are invaluable: hugs, kisses, and buckets of love. And hopefully, one day a child who will call her blessed.
Even though we change hats from one minute to the next, we can assure our children that our love never changes, our support never tires, and our commitment to being a beacon remains unmoved. In that way, we're still like my Grandma Edwards.
This Mother's Day, my hat`s off to moms! Thanks for all you do to raise the next generation for Jesus. As a special salute, I have recorded a video just for you. Just visit my homepage and be blessed!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for giving me the privilege of being a mom. I pray that you will help me be a beacon that shines the light of Christ to my children as well as the children that I come in contact with through the course of a day. You are the Light of the World and I pray that I will be a shining reflection of that light today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a woman who was a shining beacon for Christ in your life? It may or may not be your own mom.
Consider writing a note of thanks to a woman who affected your life...perhaps a spiritual mother.
What are some ways that you can be a shining beacon in your child's life or the life of a child that you know? Be specific.
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If you are a mom who needs some encouragement today, you'll want to read Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. You'll laugh. You'll cry. And you will know that you have one of the most important jobs on earth. Also, click on the video button to see a special Mother's Day encouragement for moms!
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May 10, 2010
Unfinished
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Philippians 1:4-6 (NIV) "In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
It took four years of fresco painting for the Italian Renaissance sculptor, painter, architect, and poet Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, commonly known as Michelangelo, to finish the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Most of his time painting was spent alone, on his back, lying on scaffolding. (How painful!) The painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is one of the most remarkable in the history of Western art. One thing is for sure: the process that altered a ceiling from plain to fabulous required a lot of time, great discipline, and the hand of a master artist.
There are many days that I wish God's work in my life was complete - days when I frustrate myself by choosing weak self-living over powerful Spirit-living - days when I'm undisciplined and in great need of heart fixing, fully aware that God's work in me is unfinished.
I long to be the woman God intends for me to be, yet know that I'm not there yet. It grieves my heart. Have you ever felt that way? Do you ever long to be farther along in your sanctification process than you are? The journey from broken into beautiful is a lifelong transformation that requires both spiritual discipline and a Master Artist.
As Michelangelo was working, I'm sure many people came through the corridors of the chapel and stood in amazement. As they looked up at the beauty of his work, I bet they said things like, "That is the most fantastic work of art I have ever seen!" or "Extraordinary!" To which he might have said, "It's not done!" But did the unfinished state of the project negate that parts of the ceiling were beautiful? No! The completed parts were still extravagant and breathtaking.
Maybe this is the way God and others see our lives. It's common for people to notice the work God has done in us and comment on the beauty. And even though compliments are nice to hear, I've been known to resist them. (Admit it, you probably have, too.) It's not so much a humility thing as it is an "I-don't-see-myself-as-beautiful" thing. From my limited perspective, I can only see the unfinished work, but in truth, my vantage point doesn't negate the beauty of the work God has done and is doing in my life. Real beauty isn't about a finished or flawless product. It can't be. It's not possible on this side of eternity to have completed beauty. Our restoration will be complete in the presence of God when we see Him face to face.
Here's an exciting word for today: God loves you right where you are even though you are an unfinished work. Nothing you can do or say could make Him love you more or less. When you are His child, Scripture tells us that nothing can separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39). He loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). He's not done with you yet, so hang on and lean in. Press on and keep seeking Him! Be encouraged, friend. You're in good hands when you are in the hands of God, the Master Artist. Philippians 1:5-6 (NIV) "...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank you for your ability to look at my life and see the potential. Would You take my brokenness - all that I am - and piece together a work of beauty that can reflect your splendor? Help me to bring everything to You until Your work in me is made complete in Your presence.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the book of Philippians this week. It is only four chapters ... but they are so powerful! Be energized and spurred on by the Word of God as He continues to work on your beauty.
Memorize and write out these verses: "Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I d Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:12-14, NIV)
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May 11, 2010
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:11-12; 30 (NIV) "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm. A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."
Friend To Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that it is not what it used to be. Family is no longer simple, but blended and complex. It has changed to include many different relationships of people who live together.
· Couples with children
· Couples with no children
· Single women with children
· Single men with children
· Grandparents with children
· Parents with grown children who have left and then come back home
· Close friends living together
· Unrelated people living together
And they are all family. Family is a group of persons belonging to or forming a household. We've looked at what a family is, but the more important question is, "What is the purpose of family?" There are no perfect families. There never have been. However, the purpose of family is to illustrate the nature and character of God. In other words, family is the primary place we learn about God.
A Sunday school class of first-graders was asked to draw a picture of God. When the pastor stopped by to inspect their work, the children were happy to show him their drawings. One had drawn God in the form of a brightly colored rainbow. Another had drawn the face of an old man coming out of billowing clouds and there was one drawing that looked a lot like Superman. Perhaps the best drawing was the one proudly displayed by a girl who said, "I didn't know what God looked like exactly, so I drew my daddy!"
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. So the challenge is ... how can we love our family?
I know we all want to be part of a family where we give and receive love. Proverbs 31 tells us how. This chapter, a portrait of a wife and mother, was painted by a King as the kind of woman his mother wanted her son to marry. It is a standard of excellence, not only for women, but for every member of every family. In the life of this woman, we find several ways to love our family.
Build trust.
Proverbs 31:11 tells us that "her husband has full confidence in her." "Full confidence" literally means to trust, to take refuge in or to lean on. The Proverbs 31 woman spent a lifetime building trust. She trusted God and had a personal relationship with Him. We cannot be trustworthy if we are not trusting, and if we don't trust God, we cannot truly trust others. If we are not "taking refuge" or "leaning on" Jesus Christ, when others take refuge and lean on us, we will crumble and fall. Trust shatters fear.
Psalm 56:3 "But when I am afraid, I will put my confidence in you. Yes, I will trust the promises of God. And since I am trusting him, what can mere man do to me?" (NIV)
Trust is fragile and once broken, very hard to build again. When our son was a little boy, he constantly rode on the trusted shoulders of his dad, and loved it. Then, one day, at a church youth activity, one of the youth was playing around and punched Dan in the stomach. Dan was caught off guard and the youth hit him harder than he meant to. Dan doubled over and Jered tumbled to the ground. The next time Dan tried to put Jered on his shoulders, Jered flatly refused. It took months for Dan to earn Jered's trust again. To enjoy our family, we must first trust God, which then enables us to build trust in our family. Our family needs to be able to trust us, no matter what - with no hidden land mines. There will be no joy in our homes if there is not an atmosphere of trust. Family is a "team" idea and nothing is more deadly to the success of a team than a lack of trust. Trust God and then build trust in your family. Tomorrow, we will explore other ways to enjoy your family. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. I want to love them like they need to be loved. Help me to build trust in them as I learn to trust You more. Lord, help me to be trustworthy and to be the woman You want me to be in my family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of ways your family can trust and depend on you.
Identify any areas where you can build more trust.
Have a family meeting to discuss what it means to be a team.
Constantly look for ways to foster the mindset that your family is a team.
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Everywhere I look, splintered and broken families abound. Why? I believe that somewhere along the way, trust was broken by an affair, a betrayal or a forgotten vow. What is even more frightening is the casual approach to that broken trust. God is calling us to trust Him and then to build that trust in our family. Right now, no matter how many times you have failed, begin again. We are with you!
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May 12, 2010
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:13:15, 20 (NIV) "She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy."
Friend To Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Yesterday, we saw that the first step to loving our family is to build trust. The second step is to serve our family with joy. We are told by many to serve ourselves - not others. The Proverbs 31 woman had every opportunity to live a life of leisure.
· She has a prominent husband.
· She had a lot of influence.
· She was visible and active in community.
· She was in charge of charity events.
But she got up while it was still dark to make breakfast for her family and for those who served her. Proverbs 31:13 tells us she worked with "eager" hands. The literal meaning of "eager" is "in delight or in chosen joy." In other words, she chose to serve with joy, which means we can choose to serve our family with joy as well. Jesus teaches the truth that service is a natural result of love.
Galatians 5:13 "For, dear brothers, you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other."
Yet, many of us find it easier to serve everyone in love except our family. When my husband, Dan, was a youth pastor, we saw a variety of family dynamics. At one church, a young man came to us in tears. I will never forget his words, "My parents are getting a divorce because mom has time for everyone in the world except my dad and me!" Service to those we love and call family should not be a burden. In fact, an attitude of service is contagious. The best way to teach your family to serve is to serve them.
From childhood, making the bed was one of my kid's daily chores. I told them that one day a week, I would make their bed for them. It could be on a day when they were running late for school, when they were too tired or didn't feel well. Whatever the reason, I would serve them by making their bed one day a week. One morning, I was running behind and in a hurry to visit my husband was recovering from an emergency appendectomy. I had been at the hospital day and night and was exhausted. I got up very early, took one look at my bed and decided I just didn't want to make it. I went to take a shower, hoping it would wake me up. When I came out, Danna, our eleven-year-old daughter had made my bed. To love our family, we must serve with joy!
Plan well.
Proverbs 31:15b, 21, 27 (LB) "She plans the day's work. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them. She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household."
Planning prevents chaos. This woman is in control of her home and her life. The control came from good planning. She mastered the skill of homemaking before she ever set foot in the workplace. She set her priorities; then arranged her life around them. She didn't allow others to set them for her but did what was important, not just urgent. Have you noticed that the urgent things in life barge in demanding attention while the important things wait to be chosen? We can spend a lifetime on the urgent and miss the important. We must set family priorities because if we don't, the world will.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew what needed to be done and made sure that it was done first and in the right way. She didn't fear winter or the hard times because she was prepared. Family should provide the most satisfying earthly relationships. If it doesn't, the problem may be with our planning. Here are some practical tips for planning:
· Budget your time.
· Choose one day a week to plan.
· Eliminate. Have an "elimination" meeting once a month with your family. Eliminate the things that hurt your family.
· Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone.
· Delegate. Include everyone in the family in the work as well as the playing.
· Simplify. Give up on perfection. It's for heaven - not earth.
Plan well. It demonstrates your love for your family.
Work hard.
Proverbs 31:16-18 (LB) "She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard. She is a hard worker. She works far into the night."
There is nothing lazy about this woman! Laziness should not be part of our character as women of God. This is a busy woman, but not too busy ad not busy doing the wrong things. Busyness does not always equal productivity. I believe a woman can have it all - a career, a family. I'm just not sure she can have it all at the same time. This woman has a strong sense of who she is and what God created her to be. She has a clear plan for life. And notice she doesn't do all of the work herself. (By the way, this is your scriptural justification for a maid or as I tell my children,"Why do you think God made kids?") Working together builds a sense of family. In a nationwide survey, thousands of school children were asked, "What makes a happy family?" The most-mentioned key to happiness was "doing things together." Plan "family projects" and family work days. At the end of day, order a pizza and rent a movie as reward. You can build some of your greatest family traditions and memories around work. When our kids were younger, we bought our Christmas tree and put up our Christmas lights every Thanksgiving weekend. While it is a lot of work, it is also a family tradition. I never had to ask the kids to help. They were eager to join in ... and have carried this tradition into their own families.
A woman who loves her family is willing to work hard for them and with them, planning well and building trust.
Let's Pray
Father, family is so important to You and I want it to be that important to me as well. Thank You for the family You have given me. I love each one of them and want them to be sure of my love. Please help me love them in ways they can understand. I pray that our family will be filled with trust and become a haven for each family member. Be glorified in our home and in our family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify areas of your family life that need to be more structured.
Establish a weekly family meeting to plan and connect as a family.
Use the principles in step three to become a better planner.
Establish a new family tradition that invites every family member to participate.
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I once heard the statement, "Home is the place you go where they have to take you in." I love that statement. And it really is true. Tomorrow, we conclude this study on how to enjoy your family. I pray that it is making a difference in your life and in your family. Remember, your home and family is the best place for God to show up and demonstrate Who He really is.
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May 13, 2010
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:26 "When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says."
Friend To Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Over the last two days, we have examined the first steps to loving your family; to build trust, to serve them with joy, to plan well and to work hard. We can also love and enjoy our family by guarding our tongue.
Control your tongue.
The power of the spoken word is great. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative, critical words, we will reap a family that is negative and critical. Look for the good in your family then speak it. Be a cheerleader for your family because everyone needs a cheerleader.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a "date," spending special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was to have her as a daughter. When he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day but a little girl's hungry heart was fed. Do have any hearts like that in your family?
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the great singer who rose to stardom singing with her brother, Richard. At the age of 32, she died unexpectedly of heart failure due to many years of abuse caused by Anorexia. What brought on Karen's fatal obsession with weight control? It seems that a reporter once called her "Richard's chubby sister."
Psalm 141:3 "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips."
Before speaking, ask yourself the following questions.
T is it true
H Is it helpful
I is it inspiring
N is it necessary
K is it kind
Think before you speak. Use the five to one ratio when correcting - five positive remarks to one negative comment. The harder the truth, the more love we should use in saying it. It is our responsibility to use our words to train and instruct our family about the daily things in life, but more importantly, to instruct them about the eternal things. We are very concerned about providing for our children when we need to be more concerned about caring for our children. The greatest care we can give is to disciple them by speaking words of truth. Guard your tongue.
Take care of yourself.
The Proverbs 31 woman certainly did. "She is energetic. Her own clothing is beautifully made--a purple gown of pure linen. She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age." (Proverbs 31:17; 22; 25)
Families are hard work. In order to make our family relationships replenishing, we must be replenished. Psalm 46:10 instructs us to "be still and know that I am God." Let's apply this verse specifically.
Be still, MY MUSCLES, and know God's RELAXATION.
Be still, MY NERVES, and know God's REST.
Be still, MY HEART, and know God's QUIETNESS.
Be still, MY BODY, and know God's RENEWAL.
Be still, MY MIND, and know God's PEACE.
In order to be all that we can be to our families, we must be all that we can be mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. We must be balanced. The Proverbs 31 woman was energetic and hard working for the tasks she was gifted and called to do. Proverbs 31:25 tells us this woman could laugh "at the days to come." The picture here is of a woman who enjoyed her life. She worked hard, but she knew how to stop and plant a vineyard. She liked to shop and watched for bargains. She liked to look beautiful, dressing in purple fine linen.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
We cannot give our heart to God and keep our body for ourselves. When you take care of yourself, you are honoring God and loving your family.
Remember your audience.
The final way to enjoy and love your family is to remember who your audience should be.
Proverbs 31:28-31 "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
It's so easy to live life before the wrong audience. The truth is that our audience determines how we run the race. Our audience should be God, our mate, our children and then others. One day we will stand before God as keeper of the family He has loaned to us for a short time. Will He be pleased? Will He say "Well done?" Will our family stand and bless us? Will others say this woman loved and enjoyed her family?
Let's Pray
"Lord, you know my inadequacies. You know my weaknesses, not only in parenting, but in every area of my life. As you broke the fishes and the loaves to feed the five thousand, now take my meager effort and use it to bless my family.
Please make up for the things I did wrong. Satisfy the needs that I have not satisfied. Wrap your great arms around my family and draw them close to you.
And be there when they stand at the great crossroads between right and wrong. All I can give is my best, and I, today, choose to do that. Therefore, I submit to you my family and myself and the job I have done and will do as a wife and mother. The outcome belongs to you." (Author unknown)
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define "family" in your life?
Which one of the steps covered in this series of devotionals do you need to take in order to have the family God wants you to have?
Set aside time to pray for each family member.
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I truly believe our greatest opportunity to impact the world is the way we love and enjoy family. I pray that you have been blessed by this study. I encourage you to examine your family in light of these principles. Identify one that needs some work and get started. It is never too late to start and it is always too early to give up, girlfriend. And know that Gwen, Sharon and I are right there with you on this journey. Blessings!
For more information about how to enjoy family or how to deal with a difficult child, check out the MP3s, How to Enjoy Your Family and Tough Love for Tough Kids in my online store.
Summer is coming! Get ready! Check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap, and learn how to manage stress instead of allowing it to manage you.
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May 14, 2010
Verbal U-Turn
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I remember taking my son, Steven, to an amusement park just before he began fourth grade. It was hot, the lines were long, and I began to feel queasy from being gyrated and jerked to sudden stops from 60 miles per hour. I wasn't sure Steven realized what a great mom he had. I was feeling quite the martyr and felt the need to remind Steven just how lucky he was to have a mother like me. But before the words escaped from my mouth, the Holy Spirit gently stopped me. Was that what I really wanted to say? Would those words make Steven feel "lucky" or would they make him feel guilty, like he owed me something?
Instead of uttering my initial thought, I wrapped my arms around my precious young son and said, "Steven, I am so lucky to have a son like you that I can bring to a place like this!"
With those words, a dimpled smile spread across his precious face, and I was thankful for the splash of the watery roller coaster that disguised the tears streaming down my face.
If I had spoken that first sentence, Steven would not have felt lucky to have a mom like me at all. He would have felt guilty, and that he needed to pay me back for my "kindness." However, the revised version made him feel special, treasured, and loved.
Now, who was encouraged? Actually, we both were.
Perhaps you have some old tapes from your past that you tend to replay with your own children. Did your mother make comments that caused you to feel guilty or as if you were indebted to her for the care she gave you? Perhaps she still does. Many moms could be travel agents for guilt trips. Is that how you want to be remembered?
Guilt is like verbal heartburn or acid reflux of the soul. It just keeps on coming back and coming back. But we can change the verbal menu and decide not to serve up a dish of words that cause indigestion!
I had success with my words that day at the amusement park, but not every day has been a banner day. I have used my words to tear down instead of build up. I have failed many times. The tongue is difficult to control. It can only be tamed by the power of the Holy Spirit. God has given those who are in Christ Jesus, the power of the Holy Spirit. He is referred to as our "Helper." Just like a wild lion who is trained by hours and hours of discipline, so our tongue can be tamed by prayer and practice.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, today, I simply want to pray back Your Word. I pray that You will help me not to let any unwholesome word come out of my mouth today, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs. If it isn't helpful, may I keep my mouth shut. If it builds them up, may I speak freely and often.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
OK, this is a tough one. If you're reading this devotion in the morning, I want you to pay attention to the words you speak today.
As you go through the day categorize your spoken words as:
Helpful or Unhelpful
Edifying or Unedifying
If you are reading this devotion at the close of the day, you're not off the hook. This is your assignment for tomorrowJ.
I'd love to hear your comments about how someone's words have built you up. Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog
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Paul said that it was impossible to control the tongue, and I agree. However, what is impossible for man is more than possible with God! He can do it! We simply need to participate with prayer and practice. If you would like to learn more about taming the tongue and using your words in positive ways, see The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study by Sharon Jaynes.
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May 17, 2010
The Lighthouse
Sharon Jaynes
In celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon will have several May devotions devoted to moms!
Today's Truth
"She watches over the affairs of her household..." (Proverbs 31:27 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I have always seen a mother as a lighthouse, or beacon in a child's life. Think about it. A beacon is a landmark that her children can always count on. She shines the light of Christ at night and she serves as a landmark by day. She is watching out over the sea of faces to protect her tiny fleet. Like the Proverbs 31 woman she "watches over the ways of her household." She is present. She's available. And she's on guard.
The words "watch over" mean "to hedge about as with thorns," much like a mother bird might do to protect her young. These same words are also used in the Bible as a military term, such as to watch over a city. Can't you just see it now: the lighthouse standing tall, not tossed by the surf, guiding her children safely to shore?
But this beacon watches out for more than the physical safety of her fleet. She watches out for their spiritual and emotional needs as well.
Her gaze is not a casual glance. She doesn't just give her children a "once over" before they rush out the door to make sure their hair is combed and their socks match. This is a mother who actively guards, protects, saves, guides, and attends to those precious to her.
When children approach adolescence, they desire Mom to be less visible. However they want to know the sentinel is still available. Being available for that teen after school is paramount. They need a refuge, a safe harbor after a day of social combat. Who will they turn to? Whoever is available and willing to listen. If it is not you, it will be someone else. And just who that someone could be is a scary thought.
Being physically present is not the mother's primary goal. Having the greatest possible impact on her home is. You can be physically present and still not make a positive impact. You can be there, but not be all there. You can become so wrapped up in other pursuits, so focused on relational struggles, so preoccupied with keeping the castle clean and checking items off your "to do" list, so engrossed in television or a good book, that you are oblivious to the chubby fingers tugging on your skirt or the teenager who has become withdrawn and sullen. If you are going to be there - then be all there - mind, body and soul.
Being a landmark doesn't end when a child goes off to college. The farther a ship goes out to sea, the more important the landmarks become. One day in the Sunday School class I attend, 150 parents of teenagers sat with an air of foreboding filling the room. It was the Sunday after many students had made their exodus to that wild, frenzied world of academia, experimentation, and freedom - their kids had gone off to college.
Grown men were weepy, sharing their battle wounds of dropping their baby girls off at tiny, stark dorm rooms. Moms were unashamedly crying, and many were speechless for the first time in their lives.
Nancy and Bill Hall were there that day. Their son, Jordan, a rising sophomore, was visiting our class and witnessed these blubbering parents. In an attempt to encourage everyone, our teacher asked, "Jordan, since you haven't gone back to school yet and already have one year under your belt, can you share some words of wisdom with the class about what you feel your parents did right during your first year of college?"
With that, Jordan rose, faced the class, and replied, "I would like to take this time to publicly thank my parents for the strong moral upbringing they gave me. I want to thank them for the way they gave me my freedom when I went off to college. But more importantly for the way they let me come back home. They were always available when I needed someone to talk to, and they've left the lines of communication open. They have been great parents and I like to publicly thank them for all they've done."
When Jordan sat down, everyone was crying, even those who did not have children leaving for college. He had risen and called his parents blessed. His mother was a beacon. A faithful landmark that keep her light shining, welcoming him home, but directing the way so he could leave and sail out to new horizons.
Their childhood goes by so quickly yet we can never turn back the clock as this poem expresses.
My hands were busy through the day.
I didn't have much time to play
The little games you asked me to,
I didn't have much time for you.
I'd wash your clothes.
I'd sew and cook,
But when you'd bring your picture book
And asked me please to share your fun,
I'd say, "A little later son."
I'd tuck you in all safe at night
And hear your prayers, turn out the light,
Then tiptoe softly to the door...
I wish I'd stayed a minute more.
For life is short, the years rush past.
A little boy grows up so fast.
No longer is he at your side,
His precious secrets to confide.
The picture books are put away,
There are no longer games to play.
No good-night kisses, no prayers to hear,
That all belongs to yesteryear.
My hands once busy now are still
The days are long and hard to fill.
I wish I could go back and do
The little things you asked me to.
Author Unknown
Let's Pray
Dear Lord,
Thank You for being the light of my life. I pray that You will help me watch over the ways of my household with a wise and understanding eye. Help me not to miss the special moments, but to embrace and enjoy them. Remind me often to stop and pray for those that You have placed within my care.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think of and list all the functions and characteristics of a lighthouse.
How are those similar to a mother and her children?
What are some ways that you watch over the ways of your household?
Place your right hand on your left side and your left hand on your right side. Now give yourself a big hug. That's from me! You're doing a great job!
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May 18, 2010
The Promises of Problems
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
Friend To Friend
If you are like me, you prefer days when the sun is shining, the sky is blue, and not a cloud in sight. Problems tend to irritate me because they make me realize just how frail I am as a human. But I have come to realize that every problem points to a promise.
Promise of direction
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn't close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. We had it all worked out. He was a preacher and I played the piano and sang. What could be more perfect? I began to pray, "Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door!" The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland. I look back and thank God for that closed door.
"Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways." Proverbs 20:30
Promise of correction
God uses problems to correct us. I have come to realize that some lessons can only be learned in the darkness, through pain and failure. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her ... until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. "Ouch!" she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.
"It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws." Psalm 119:71-72
Promise of protection
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. It was so hard for me to take our children to the doctor to get immunization shots. I would take a healthy child into the doctor's office and come out with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, "Mary, just think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself.
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." Genesis 50:20
Promise of perfection
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I recently spoke for a women's conference that used the theme of "Problems into Pearls." Strands of pearls were everywhere - the center of each table, on the podium from which I spoke, draped across tables - and many of the ladies wore pearls that day. When the worship leader welcomed me, she said, "We have to get you some pearls!" Digging in her purse, she produced the most beautiful pearl necklace and placed it around my neck. As the day went on, I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When everyone had left, the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace. I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, "Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster."
"We can rejoice when we run into problems ... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady." Romans 5:3-4
God is at work in and around you. You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for each problem that points me to You. Help me to see trials as handles for Your promises and tools for growth in my life. I choose to accept the lessons You want to teach me in the dark times and celebrate their truth in the light. Give me the strength and power to trust You completely.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What problem are you facing right now? Put it into words and record it in your journal.
Pray, surrendering that problem to God and ask Him for the promise it holds.
What good can come out of the problem you are facing?
What scripture promise do you claim because of this problem?
Write that promise on a 3 x 5 card and tuck it in your purse. When the going gets tough, pull out that card and read the verse aloud as a statement of your faith in your Problem-Solving God!
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If I had to choose between problems and peace, I know what I would naturally choose. Don't you? But God's ways are higher than our ways, His thoughts higher than our thoughts and His purpose more complete than our plans. Trust Him, today, my friend. He is Lord of the mountain, Shepherd of the valley and He loves you! Need help avoiding that pit? Check out Mary's CD, How to Avoid the Pits and sign up for her weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey.
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May 19, 2010
Oil for My Lamp
Sharon Jaynes
In celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon is doing a series of May devotions celebrating moms.
Today's Truth
"Her lamp does not go out at night..." (Proverbs 31:18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Driving along the coast and coming upon a lighthouse is an inspiring sight. Even though the map marks where the landmarks are stationed, it still brings a thrill when each one comes into view. That's how I feel when I see a mother nurturing her child. It is nothing new, this love of a mother for her offspring, but each time I see it, my heart takes a leap. Lighthouses and mothers share some common features, yet each one is beautiful and unique. Her light consistently burns bright, her stairs invite visitors to climb to greater heights, and her rough exterior remains impervious to the elements. But the most important feature is the oil in her lamp.
Recently, I stood looking at the Bodie Island lighthouse with its bold black and white horizontal stripes painted on its cement exterior. She is quite a flashy beacon, to say the least. Then I turned to look at the rough seas that were beating against the shore. I thought about the mariners who were so dependent on the lighthouse's searching beam to lead them safely to shore. What if she ran out of oil? What if she didn't shine? The ships were relying on her to be prepared and well supplied with oil. Then I thought about my own life as a mother. Suppose I ran out of oil, my light grew dim, or worse, burned out altogether. What would happen to my little fleet?
The blessed mother in Proverbs 31:18 also had a lamp. Scripture says that "her lamp did not go out at night." I used to read that verse and think, "Doesn't this woman ever sleep!" But then I realized that it wasn't so much about her staying awake all night, as it was about her lamp. She never let her oil run dry.
A lighthouse has one primary mission: to broadcast light so a mariner can see the shore. Likewise, a mother is a beacon that displays the light to guide her children through an ocean of choices. A mother's light is Jesus Christ, and she can't shine that light if her lamp runs dry. Ephesians 5:18 says, "Be filled with the Holy Spirit." That "be filled" is a present tense, continuous verb. It means be filled daily and continually. And interestingly enough, many times in Scripture, the Holy Spirit is referred to as ... you guessed it...oil!
How does a mother run out of oil? In Max Lucado's book, Just Like Jesus, he tells a story that gives us a clue.
"A lighthouse keeper who worked on a rocky stretch of coastline received oil once a month to keep his light burning bright. Not being far from the village, he had frequent guests. One night a woman needed oil to keep her family warm. Another night a father needed oil for his lamp. Then another needed oil to lubricate a wheel. All the requests seemed legitimate, so the lighthouse keeper tried to meet them all. Toward the end of the month, however, he ran out of oil and his lighthouse went dark, causing several ships to crash on the coastline. The man was reproved by his superiors, 'You were given the oil for one reason,' they said, 'to keep the light burning.'"
As mothers in the twenty-first century, we are tempted to meet every need that comes our way - and they are constant. But our primary job is to love the Lord, love our husbands, and nurture our children. All the other needs that scream for our attention, though they are noble, must wait until we take care of our families first. Their childhood goes by so quickly yet we can never turn back the clock as this poem expresses.
My hands were busy through the day.
I didn't have much time to play
The little games you asked me to,
I didn't have much time for you.
I'd wash your clothes.
I'd sew and cook,
But when you'd bring your picture book
And asked me please to share your fun,
I'd say, "A little later son."
I'd tuck you in all safe at night
And hear your prayers, turn out the light,
Then tiptoe softly to the door...
I wish I'd stayed a minute more.
For life is short, the years rush past.
A little boy grows up so fast.
No longer is he at your side,
His precious secrets to confide.
The picture books are put away,
There are no longer games to play.
No good-night kisses, no prayers to hear,
That all belongs to yesteryear.
My hands once busy now are still
The days are long and hard to fill.
I wish I could go back and do
The little things you asked me to.
Author Unknown
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for this family that You have given me. I pray that I will be careful to take care of their needs before the needs of others who scream for my attention. Help me to be a woman with a balanced life- God first, husband second, children third.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever run out of oil? Out of strength? Out of energy?
That's a silly question! We all have!
In the Bible, God compares the Holy Spirit to oil. What does Ephesians 5:18 say about the Holy Spirit in our lives?
What source of fuel does Christ promise us in Acts 1:8?
Which statement best describes your life?
I am burning my light like a candle that consumes itself.
I am burning like an oil lamp fueled by an endless supply of the Holy Spirit's power.
Write a prayer asking God to fuel you with the Holy Spirit's power today.
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If you are a mom who needs some encouragement today, you'll want to read Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. You'll laugh. You'll cry. And you will know that you have one of the most important jobs on earth. And if you need a little help with balance in your life, you'll want to read Sharon's book, A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life.
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May 20, 2010
Celebrate the Battle
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
I once saw a refrigerator magnet that said, "I know that God promises to never give me more than I can handle. But sometimes, I just wish He didn't trust me so much." When trials come and life seems hard, we plead with God to deliver us from the problem when many times, His plan is to deliver us in the problem. Praise does not depend upon an understanding of the circumstance or trial. Praise depends upon an understanding of and faith in God.
As humans, we will never fully understand God - this side of heaven. God is holy and without blemish. God is all powerful and omniscient. He is Creator of the universe and yet lives in me. He is the only true, living God! We may understand some of His ways and comprehend the reasoning behind some of His plans. We may even come to the place of knowing him on what we call an intimate level, but a full understanding of God is reserved for heaven. Until then, we walk by faith, not by sight. We praise him in the darkness, knowing that the light is just ahead. We trust him for things we cannot see and turn to him in the valleys. Honestly, the thought of serving and relying on a God I can understand is not a reassuring thought.
Most people who know me well would describe me as a strong person, someone who can usually handle what life holds. I thought the same thing until, in 1995, I found myself a powerless, prisoner of the darkness as I battled clinical depression. It took me two long years to climb out of that pit and not a day goes by that I am not reminded of that wonderful, horrible time. One of the many lessons I learned from my "pit experience" was that I cannot depend upon my own strength or my fickle emotions. God often asked me to praise him when, as far as I could tell, there wasn't a whole lot to praise him for! I didn't feel like praising him. I began to understand that praise is not a feeling but a choice, a step of obedience taken without the assurance of a changed circumstance or the elimination of a trial. Praise focuses on God, not the circumstance, and fixes its gaze upon God's truth and God's character instead of the trial at hand or just ahead. That is why we can celebrate the battle before it begins. The outcome is neither our responsibility nor our goal. Praise begins and ends with faith in the very nature, personality and integrity of God ... and that never changes.
No matter what lies ahead, God is faithful. No matter how hot the fiery trial may be, God will deliver us. No matter what man says or does, God loves and accepts us. So praise God! Thank Him today for every victory tomorrow holds! Celebrate - knowing that the battle belongs to God and because of that single truth, victory is certain.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today for all that You have done in my life. You are faithful even when I am faithless. Your love pursues me even when I am unlovable. Your forgiveness covers my sin and frees me from its penalty. Lord, teach me to praise You and to see and understand the power of that praise. I want to bring You pleasure, Father. I praise You for Your love and faithfulness to me. Your presence in my life changes everything, empowering me to live each moment of every day, content in knowing You are in control. As I face today, Lord, remind me that no matters what happens, I can praise You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Begin your "Joy Journal" by recording the daily blessings He gives you each day. Remember to add the "small" miracles as well as the "large" ones. At the end of the week, have a private praise service - just you and God. Thank Him for His presence and power at work in your life.
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Our praises are a gift to God. What an amazing thought! God listens for and longs to hear the praises of His children. Busy schedules, crowded lives and chaotic hearts can keep us from sifting through circumstances to find the seed of victory ... to praise Him. What has God done for you, friend? Take the time today to stop and praise Him. He will be pleased and you will be blessed. Need a dose of joy and laughter? My CD, Laugh More...Live Better, may be just what you need to kick off a day of praise. Check it out!
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May 21, 2010
Making the Cut
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus answered, "I am the way the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Listening to the kids playing in the neighborhood, I hear the familiar sound of little girls pretending to be cheerleaders. "Push em'back, push em' back, waaaay back. Push em' back, push em' back waaaaay back." Their chants take me back to my own years as a high school cheerleader.
I was a cheerleader from the seventh grade all the way through my senior year. Back in the 70's, girls didn't play on team sports, so this was about as athletic as it got in eastern North Carolina. In the spring of my freshman year, it was time to try out for the varsity squad. A panel of six judges sat along the sidelines and critiqued fifty or so hopefuls yell like freight trains, bounce like rubber balls, and perform acrobatic feats across the shinny gym floor. Pony tails bobbed. Pom-poms swished. Smiles flashed. Arms and legs flew.
"When you're up you're up, and when you're down you're down. But when you're up against the Gryphons, you're upside down!" The cheer closed with a series of cartwheels across the basketball court and an effortless split like a hot knife through butter. Then we sprang back up, shot our index fingers in the air, and ran off the court cheering, "We're number one! We're number one!"
After everyone had a chance to show their abilities and flash their smiles, we had to wait for the judges to tally the scores. Then one by one the names were called. My best friend's name was called first. Liz Safy. Then Belinda Judkins, Susan Edwards, Patricia Edwards. Thirteen names were announced. Liz and I made eye contact and held our breaths as the fourteenth and final name was called. It was not mine. While my buddies huddled together, jumping up and down in delight, I slipped out of the gym and made my way home.
Of course there were phone calls offering condolences. But Liz was the one who called and just cried with me. I was sixteen and heartbroken.
Later that night, there was a strange turn of events. The phone rang. Should I answer it? I thought. I was so weary of people calling to tell me they were sorry, but something made me pick up the phone one more time.
"Hello," I sadly said.
"Sharon, this is Mrs. Rose the cheerleading coach. I don't know how to tell you this," then there was a long hesitation. What could she say that was any worse than what she'd already told me?
Then she continued. "When I got home tonight, something told me to go back and recount the votes. There has been a mistake. You really did make the squad. It was Beth (not her real name) who didn't make the cut. I thought I could just keep it to myself and nobody would know there was a mistake, but I knew I'd struggle every time I saw your face. Congratulations. I am so sorry this happened to you. I'll see you at practice tomorrow."
I was speechless. My freight train voice was reduced to a mere squeak. "Thanks for being honest Mrs. Rose. I know this is hard. I'll see you tomorrow."
Immediately I called Liz and we yelled and screamed in delight. But then when I hung up the phone, my heart sank as I thought about two other people who were not shouting for joy. One was Mrs. Rose who had to deliver the disappointing news to Beth. The other was Beth, who was about to have her dreams dashed. I prayed for both of them.
Its one thing to get cut from a team and then realize there was a mistake and you really did make it. It's quite another to think you're in and find out you're not. This whole turn of events may seem very insignificant in the scheme of world events, but for a sixteen-year-old girl, it made a lasting impression.
There are many who do incredible feats for God, turn spiritual cartwheels, and yell "He's number one" but in the end, may find out they didn't make the team. There's only one way to make sure you're going to make the cut and be on God's eternal team. It's found in Romans 10:9, 10: "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved." Jesus is the only way. Good works or leading a moral life won't get you to heaven. Making Jesus Lord of your life is the only way to make it onto God's team.
I can't do splits or cartwheels any longer. The thought of it brings visions of emergency rooms and stretchers to my mind. And I'm so glad that such acrobatics aren't necessary to make the God Squad. As the Bible tells me in Romans 10, I've already made the cut. And if you know Jesus as Savior and Lord, then you have made it as well.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You that I don't have to wonder if I have eternal life. Thank You for the assurance that I have eternal life through Jesus Christ, Your Son, and that I can know that when I leave this earthly life, I will be in heaven with You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you were standing at the gates of heaven and the gatekeeper asked why he should let you in, what would you say?
If you aren't sure, then click on the link at the bottom of today's devotion to learn more about how to have the assurance of your salvation.
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May 24, 2010
Set-Apart Living
Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV)
Friend To Friend
As Christian believers, we're called to live set-apart lives. To be holy as God is holy. To be in the world, but not of the world. God is the source of all holiness, and in order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him so we can be fueled by His Holy Spirit.
I don't know what your days look like, but mine are pretty full. They start early and end late. Once the sun rises, it seems that coffee isn't the only thing brewing in my house. An invisible competition brews daily that vies for my time and attention. The competitors are often "good things" that end up to be "time-robbing things" that keep me from God's best and God's presence.
Today I'd like to put our computer lives under a spiritual microscope. I'm an e-girl. I love my MacBook Pro computer, my iPhone, email, instant messaging, and the World Wide Web. Though I'm admittedly fully immersed in the e-life, I'm also cognizant of the fact that the e-world has become a dangerous addiction and spiritual deterrent to many. I struggle with this personally! These electronic forums host a new and efficient opportunity for us to connect with other people 24/7. While much of the social networking, online surfing, and emailing is innocent, encouraging, and fun, they clearly present us with opportunities to sin and be distracted from set-apart living.
Over the past several years, Facebook, MySpace, blogs, instant messaging, and chat rooms have replaced many face-to-face conversations and, for some, devotion time. They have become a new source of temptation for us, an opportunity to live a fantasy or a momentary escape from the daily grind.
A friend of mine recently said, "My computer whispers to me." Yikes! Mine does, too! Though it's embarrassing to admit, I sometimes don't manage my time efficiently because I've given in to the lure of e-life by responding to the audio alert that indicates "I've got mail" or the notification that someone has left me a message on a social networking page of mine. As a result, I've robbed myself of productive time. Time I have wasted and spent unwisely.
We are warned against this in Scripture. "Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV).
Now, hear me clearly on this. I'm not saying that electronic forums or computers are bad or evil in and of themselves. (For goodness sakes, you're reading this devotion because of the amazing electronic world!) I'm simply suggesting that it would be wise for each of us to pray about the amount of time and energy we devote to these things.
How can we be set apart in our e-life? How can we establish healthy e-boundaries that will protect our purity and our time with God? Perhaps we could start by taking an honest look at the amount of time we commit to our social e-lives versus the amount of time we commit to spending in God's Word and in His presence each day. (Did that sting? Rest assured, it stings me too.)
The good news is that we can turn to God for direction and wisdom in all of this. "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him" (James 1:5, NIV). Our gracious Lord longs for each of us to choose His best and live each day in His strength.
"God, make a fresh start in me.
Shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life.
Don't throw me out with the trash,
or fail to breathe holiness in me.
Bring me back from gray exile,
put a fresh wind in my sails!"
Psalm 51:10-12, MSG
Let's Pray
Today I thought it would be fitting to pray directly from Scripture. "And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light" (Colossians 1:10-12, NIV).
Father, we ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's get practical today:
o Spend some time in thought and prayer about this subject.
o Ask God to reveal to you any e-habits that are sinful, indulgent, or inappropriate.
o Check your on-line notification settings and consider eliminating unnecessary email alerts.
o Remember that God longs for your time and attention. Be certain that you don't choose mundane activities instead of spending time with Him.
o Read Ephesians 5:1-20.
More From The Girlfriends
Hey, girlfriend! It just occurred to me that one of the biggest time-sucking e-temptations for me came from the homepage I had chosen on my internet browser. I used to have my favorite cable news network set as my home page. Every time I logged on to the internet, the headlines begged me to click their links. Today I went into the settings of my internet browser and chose a blank page for my homepage. I anticipate that though it's not overly exciting to have a blank homepage, it will allow me to be wiser with my time. Hope this spurs you on to similar responses!
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May 25, 2010
Set-Apart Living
Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." (Ephesians 4:29, ESV)
Friend To Friend
Yesterday we began to talk about living a set-apart life. We looked at our e-lives, the time we spend on computers, and were challenged to establish healthy boundaries to protect and strengthen our faiths. It was noted that God is the source of all holiness. In order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him and then be fueled by His Holy Spirit. Today, we are going to consider how we can be set-apart (holy) with our words.
My ten year old son, Hunter, recently came to me with a humble confession. He said that, "because he hasn't been spending much time with God lately, he has been grumpier and grumpier." He quietly admitted that he has been mean to his siblings and has said some unkind things. With amazing insight, he connected the amount of time that he spent with God and in God's Word with his behaviors ... recognizing that there was a direct correlation in his life.
Boy, could I relate to that! Tears welled up in my eyes as we spoke about this. I told Hunter that I experience the exact same thing in my life. That when I don't carve out time in my day to spend with the Lord, I often say things I shouldn't. For that matter, even when I do read my Bible and pray, I still say and do sinful things.
There was a time in my life when I really struggled with profanity. My tongue was a loose cannon. My church friends would never have known, but when I was angry, profanity was often present ... even if only under my breath. God has delivered me from that ugly habit, but it took over ten years of prayer. In those ten years, I failed repeatedly and struggled to believe that God could change my ways. It was a long-term process for me to be purified in my language, and I can assure you that it is only by the grace and strength of God that I can stub my toe now without needing to wash my mouth out with soap.
The Bible has so much to say on this topic! Here are just a few examples:
"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." (Proverbs 12:18, NIV)
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." (James 1:19-20, NIV)
"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness." (Proverbs 31:26, NLT)
"He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin." (Proverbs 13:3, NIV)
This is hard stuff. Living set-apart with our words is simply beyond us, but be encouraged, because all things are possible with God. We need to constantly fall before the Lord and ask Him to filter our words through the Holy Spirit. It's important that we keep short accounts with God. When we do, He equips us to disarm the loose cannon of our tongues.
At the end my conversation with Hunter, I told my son that one of the most amazing things about our Heavenly Father is the mercy that He greets us with when we come before Him to confess our behavior. I said to him, and I say to you, God loves us so perfectly, that every time we turn to Him with a repentant heart, He offers us His grace. Go in His grace and live a set-apart life in the power of His Spirit today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." (Psalm 19:14, NLT)
I ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Meditate on Hebrews 4:14,16:
"Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
· Now, grab your journal and throw yourself into this devotion. What are your greatest areas of temptation and weakness regarding your words? Confess those to God and ask Him to grant you the mercy and strength to help you live a set-apart life.
· Read Ephesians 4.
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If you are a Christian woman and you're struggling to tame your tongue, know that you aren't alone. Many believers struggle to honor God with their words. Keep praying and believing. The changes might not happen over night, but as you persist, God will work in and through you.
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May 26, 2010
Making My Heart Sit Down
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to make the most of our time, so that we may grow in wisdom" (NLT).
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Every minute of every day is either wasted or invested. Since the Bible contains over 400 verses about time, we can safely assume that time management is important to God. In fact, it is a spiritual discipline. We not only need to view time as an eternal investment, but as an immediate one as well. One of the most valuable investments we can make is to spend time in solitude.
I once read an African proverb, "Lord Jesus, make my heart sit down". Solitude is deliberately and diligently setting aside time to "sit down" at the feet of Jesus. It is in those still, quiet moments of solitude at his feet that we can more clearly hear God speak and gain strength and wisdom for the journey ahead. In order to practice solitude, we must learn how to budget time.
It's been said that women must balance their time more carefully than men because women don't have wives. The fact is we are all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Time is a precious gift! Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use. If we use it in the wrong way, that time is lost forever and cannot be reclaimed. Un-budgeted time gravitates to our weaknesses, is stolen by others or wasted on the unimportant. We must budget time, just as Jesus did.
Luke 2:52 "Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (NIV).
At the age of 12, Jesus traveled to Jerusalem with his parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When his parents began the long trip home, they did not miss their son at first and when they did, assumed he was traveling with friends. Jesus was found in the temple, teaching. My first reaction would probably have been pride in the fact that religious scholars and teachers were actually listening to my young son. I would most likely have encouraged Jesus to continue, basking in the looming recognition and acclaim. Instead, Jesus returned home where, for 18 to 20 years, he simply grew. Luke 2:52 tells us that Jesus grew mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. In Luke 3, Jesus begins his ministry, the most powerful ministry ever known. In other words, Jesus Christ budgeted his time wisely, resulting in a balanced life of fulfilled purpose. We can live the same kind of life if our priorities are right.
Set priorities: Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that "there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven" (NLT). We either set our life priorities or allow circumstances and other people to set them.
Schedule priorities: There is a right time and a right way to carry out right priorities. Ecclesiastes 8:5-6 warns, "For a wise heart knows the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every delight" (NASB). We must schedule time for solitude. We must set aside portions of each day to spend with God.
Stick to priorities: The apostle Paul teaches us to "make the most of every opportunity" (Ephesians 5:16 NIV). Every challenge will either wreck our priorities or affirm them. Right priorities stand firm in the face of change.
One day, we will all stand before the Father and give an account of how we invested our time. Today, examine your time management habits in light of eternity. Initiate schedule changes that honor God. Make a new commitment to invest your time wisely.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize my need for time alone with You. I lay down my schedule, my agenda and anything else in my life that would keep me from that time. Please forgive me for the way I often squander away the minutes, hours and days of my life. Give me the power to invest time wisely and wisdom to live a balanced life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose to practice solitude - today.
Select a place to spend time in solitude - today.
Lay down your agenda.
Focus on Him and listen for His voice.
Memorize Psalm 37:7 "Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him." (NIV)
Ask yourself these questions and use the answers to shape a plan for regular solitude:
Why am I afraid of silence?
What is the greatest obstacle to solitude in my life?
What steps do I have to take in order to remove those obstacles?
What do I hope to gain from time spent in solitude?
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Learning to rest and be still before God is so important to our spiritual growth, strength and maturity. It won't just happen. We have to carve out time to spend alone with God in solitude. Time spent in solitude allows our heart to be still before God. Solitude filters through all of the voices in life and seeks out God's voice above the rest. I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day this month and find time each week for solitude. The book and/or CD, Escaping the Stress Trap, will be a helpful tool as you learn to make your heart sit down.
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May 27, 2010
You Are Writing a Gospel
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We are therefore Christ's ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us" (2 Corinthians 5:20 NIV).
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Charles Swindoll tells the story of four scholars who were arguing over Bible translations. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its eloquent old English, another preferred the American Standard because of its literalism and a third preferred the way the Moffatt translation captured the reader's attention. After giving the issue considerable thought, the fourth scholar admitted, "I have personally preferred my mother's translation." The others scholars chuckled, but as he explained, "Yes, she translated it. She translated each page of the Bible into life. It is the most convincing translation I ever saw."
You have probably heard people say, "My life is an open book." Well it certainly is with children. They are reading about life from every page. They are finding answers to many of life's questions: "How, as a wife, am I supposed to love and honor my husband?" "How am I supposed to spend my money?" "How should a Christian act?"
Not only are children reading the pages of our lives to learn what a Christian looks like, but they also are reading us to draw conclusions about what God is like. Think back to your own childhood. How did you perceive God? In your eyes, was He a harsh taskmaster who sat in the clouds, looking down with disdain every time you made a mistake? Did He carry a big stick, ready to whip you into shape? Did He keep a big score book where He made notations when you did something bad and gave you red check marks when you did something good?
Or did you see Him as a loving Father with children clamoring around His feet and climbing into His welcoming lap? Did you see Him as a Daddy who tucked His children in at night and listened to them talk about anything and everything? Did you see Him as being not mad but hurt when you made a mistake?
As the authors of the Parent Factor say, "Whether they have been loving or aloof, kind or harsh, supportive or neglectful, parents have played a major role with forming your view of God... The result can be wonderful or tragic."
Children are reading the pages of our lives to see what a Christian is supposed to look like. A self-righteous, boastful Sunday school teacher was preaching to his class on the importance of exemplary living. With his head held high and chest thrust out, he strutted back and forth across the room. He asked, "Now, children, why do people call me a Christian?"
There was a moment of silence. Then one boy raised his hand.
"Yes?" asked the teacher.
"Probably because they don't know you very well," responded the boy.
They had read the pages of the teacher's life and he had come up wanting. Here's a poem I'd like us to consider:
You are writing a gospel,
A chapter each day.
By deeds that you do,
By words that you say.
Men [children] read what you write,
Whether faithless or true.
Say! What is the gospel,
According to you?'
(Author Unknown)
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know people are watching me to see what a Christian is like. I know that I am an ambassador for You. That really scares me a little. Today, help me to be cognizant that others are watching. Help me to represent You well today. Help me to show the world that You are a loving, caring, Father who treasures His children and wants the best for them.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think back to your childhood. Do you have any preconceived ideas about God that are a result of how you saw your earthly parents?
Whether your parents were wonderful or wanting, they are, or were, still human and have feet of clay. When it comes to our Heavenly Father, we need to take our earthly parent's face off of the Almighty God. He is the only perfect parent.
Now, as an ambassador for Christ today, I want you to go about the business of representing Him well today!
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May 28, 2010
The Potter and the Clay
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 64:8 "But LORD, you are our father. We are like clay, and you are the potter; your hands made us all" (NCV).
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When our daughter, Danna, was in pre-school, one of her favorite activities was playing with clay. She often pulled her little step stool over to the closet where the clay was stored and pulled out the boxes of brightly colored clay. With great concentration and effort, her little fingers would then pry them open and she would begin to work.
For hours at a time, Danna would pound, mold, stretch and create her own clay world. Animals, people, flowers and aliens would emerge from the lumps of clay. Her work done, she called me to "put them up". That meant it was time to exhibit them for her brother and father to see when they came home.
Danna's creations would remain on display until they grew hard and brittle. We would then break them apart, sprinkle them with water and put them back into their containers, allowing the clay to grow soft again.
When it comes to spiritual matters - God is the Potter, the Creator, and we are the clay. The world says we should never give up our rights because if we do, we will lose everything! God says, "Give up your rights and you will gain everything!" When we surrender, we gain everything that is important.
In order for God to make us into what He wants us to be, we have to become pliable and willing - like clay. We must come to Him, placing ourselves in His hands, the Potter's hands. Total surrender demands that we come with no agenda, no pre-set conditions - giving Him permission to bend us, break us and change us. We sometimes come to God, with a hardened heart and brittle spirit. Life has broken and damaged us and the wrong hands have molded us. Remember, how we come to Him is not nearly as important as the fact that we come. As we give up control to Him, like a Master Craftsman, He begins to work patiently and lovingly, with a specific plan and one-of-a-kind design in mind. He works through circumstances as well as people, through joy and pain, victory and defeat. He filters every part of life through His plan for us and uses it to create a life of worth and meaning.
Oh, we have tried to live life with our own agenda and plan and have experienced discontentment and frustration. Our soul longs for more and our heart cries out, "Is this all there is?" The truth is that nothing and no one but God can bring us the peace and joy for which we searching. Are you ready to become the clay, surrendering your broken life to the Potter's loving and purpose-filled hands? Today is the day!
Let's Pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to live life in my own power. Right now, I give up and surrender my life completely to You. I choose Your plan over mine. I give You permission to mold me and make me what You want me to be. I will wait before You and seek Your direction.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What has been the plan - according to you - for your life up to this point?
What kind of results has that plan produced?
Write a prayer of surrender to God and record it in your journal. Be sure to include the following steps:
Recognize that you have been trying to live life according to your plan - your agenda.
Admit that your refusal to surrender your life to God has brought only frustration and emptiness.
Right now - surrender to God.
What action do you need to take in order to obey God:
____Join a local church
____Get involved in a small group
____Read the Bible daily
____Pray constantly
____Seek God in everything I do
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I have to admit I am not very good at giving up and even flinch at the very thought of "surrender". I was taught never to give up; to be strong and to depend on no one but myself. In fact, the very thought of surrender seems like a weakness to me and is completely opposite to my human strength and will. Exactly! Did you know that my name, Mary, literally means bitter, but when broken, sweet? Unless I am in a constant state of surrender to God, I will surely become bitter, brittle and broken. When it comes to dealing with difficult people, a willingness to surrender to God's viewpoint is essential. Need help? Get my book, Sandpaper People to discover ten actions you can take to build healthy relationships. And be sure to check out my CDs, How to Get Past Your Past and Escaping the Stress Trap.
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May 31, 2010
Second Chances
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found. So they began to celebrate" (Luke 15:24 NIV).
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Perhaps one of the most memorable and heart touching stories of grace and forgiveness is recorded in Luke chapter fifteen. It's what we've come to know as the story of the prodigal son. This young man demanded his inheritance while his father was still alive, spent it all on riotous living, and found himself dirty, destitute, and despairing. As despicable as pigs were to Jews, this young man took a job taking care of pigs and eating their food just to stay alive. But then he had an epiphany. He came to his senses.
"How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death. I will set out and go back to my father and say to him? 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.' So he got up and went to his father" (Luke 15:17-20).
And where was his father? He was panning the horizon, hoping for a sign that his boy might return home. While "he was still a long way off," the father spotted his son on the horizon. Filled with compassion, he picked up the edges of his robe and ran. He didn't wait for his son to come to him, grovel at his feet, and beg for forgiveness. There were no "I told you so's." No, as soon as the father caught a glimpse of his son, he dashed toward his boy, smothered him with kisses, and welcomed him home.
"But the father said to his servants, 'Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let's have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found. So they began to celebrate" (Luke 15:22-24 NIV).
If you remember, not everyone was happy when the prodigal son returned. His big brother resented the fact that he got another chance. And you know what? There will be those who resent the fact that we get another chance as well.
Bible teacher, Beth Moore wrote: "Big brother won't mind if you come back as long as you hang your head and wear your shame. But when God has the audacity to give you a little dignity back and you dare lift your radiant face to heaven in liberated praise, big brother may be appalled!... It's pride that can't celebrate with a prodigal-come-home. Folks who won't celebrate are still kidding themselves into thinking they did something right to be loved by their Father."
I say, let him be appalled. Nothing makes some people angrier than grace. Big brother is invited to the party too and it's his decision whether or not he wants to join in the celebration. I'm just glad he's not the one in charge.
God is a God of second chances. When we stray, He pans the horizon waiting for our return. When we do, He runs to embrace us, throws His arms around us, and celebrates with the heavenly host shouting...Welcome home!
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank You for welcoming me home when I stray. I pray that I will never be like the older brother who resented the prodigal's return. Thank You so much for welcoming me with open arms and rejoicing over me with singing.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who are you more like in this story?
Are you like the prodigal who has walked away from God?
Are you like the older brother who looks down on those who have fallen and feel they need to not be welcomed back so readily?
Are you like the father who longs for the prodigal to return, celebrates when he/she does, and restores him/her to a place of dignity.
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This devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the pain of your past. If you would like to learn more about how to turn pain into purpose, misery into ministry and hurt into hope, this book is for you!
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June 1, 2010
Will the real enemy please stand up?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 5:8-9 "Control yourselves and be careful! The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat. Refuse to give in to him, by standing strong in your faith. You know that your Christian family all over the world is having the same kinds of suffering" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
Spiritual ignorance is not bliss - it is dangerous. Many people say it doesn't really matter what you believe as long as you believe something! I totally disagree! The apostle Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22, "Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil" (NIV). To deal with sandpaper people (those people who rub us the wrong way), we must be able to discern between truth and lies.
If the enemy can dupe us into believing his lies, those difficult relationships will eventually damage and even destroy our emotional health, seeping into the broken places, ripping open almost healed wounds inflicted by sandpaper people. Complete honesty must steer every difficult relationship because sandpaper people must always be confronted with sound, solid truth in clear and transparent conversation as well as disciplined behavior. We are in a battle for godly relationships. In order to win that battle we must identify the real enemy.
1 Peter 5:8 "The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat" (NCV).
Sandpaper people are not the enemy. It is sometimes easier to convince ourselves that they are as it would make the attack plan so much simpler and free of guilt. We could simply do everything in our power to eliminate that person from our life when what God really wants is for us to embrace that sandpaper person, celebrating the truth that where and who they are is no surprise to God.
When our children were in middle school, several of their friends got laser guns for Christmas. One weekend, they brought the guns to our house for a "big, bad laser war." The kids divided into teams and the object of the game was simple, to wipe out the enemy. Wonderful! What clean, wholesome fun.
Hours went by to the sound of war hoops, shouts and threats and cries of victory. They had a great time playing with those guns - that is, until it was dark. I stood in the kitchen preparing dinner when I heard the kitchen door open and close - uh, rather slam - and looked up to see my daughter, Danna, red-faced with fury. I knew it would not be long before I had every morbid detail of whatever injustice she had endured at the hand of "those boys." I was right. "Mom, I need to talk to you - now!" I knew a command when I heard it, dropped my spatula and waited for the story. It was short and not so sweet. "Everybody is mad at me because I keep shooting my own team." So far, I was totally lost. I guess my confusion was evident because I could sense the exasperation that fueled her next words, "Mom! Are you listening?" I was - it didn't help. With a sigh and in her most patronizing tone, she explained, "I keep shooting my own team because it is so dark. I can't tell who the enemy is."
We often have the same problem when it comes to dealing with sandpaper people. We identify them as the enemy but they are not the real enemy.
Ephesians 6:12 (NIV) "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
Satan should never be the center of attention in any believer's life. We cannot focus on two things at once and if we focus on Satan, we cannot focus on God. However, Paul clearly warns us that no Christian should ever ignore Satan or take him for granted either because he is a powerful and vicious foe.
Satan is our true enemy and would love to encourage our attack on those people who rub us the wrong way and ignore the hand of God in the matter. Nothing and no one touches our life that does not pass through the Father's hand, with His permission. God, however, takes what the enemy meant for evil and uses it for good in our life - if we let Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the truth that You have already conquered Satan. Please help me remember that while Satan is powerful, he is also defeated. Give me the discernment to recognize his evil tactics and plans to use difficult people in my life to help me fail and fall. I want to walk in the light of Your eternal victory over sin and live in the strength of Your power over the grave and the powers of the darkness. Teach me how to love the sinner but hate the sin. Keep me broken over my own sin and always be ready to offer the grace, mercy and forgiveness You have given me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Fighting the unknown is always more difficult than fighting the known. Getting along with people who rub us the wrong way is dependent on understanding that Satan is at work around us wielding weapons of strife, anger, frustration and misunderstanding. Victory is ours unless we hand it over to the enemy. Ignoring him is foolish but by identifying him and exposing his malignant tactics, we rob him of power and negate his ability to control and manipulate relationships. Read the following verses and then fill in the blanks to identify the different characteristics of Satan's personality:
Satan is a ______________________.
John 8:44 "Satan is a liar and the father of lies."
Satan is a ______________________.
1 John 5:19 "We know that we are children of God and that the world around us is under the power and control of the evil one."
Satan is an _____________________.
2 Corinthians 11:14 "Satan changes himself to look like an angel of light."
Satan is a ______________________.
Revelation 20:10 "Then the Devil, who betrayed them, was thrown into the lake of fire."
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I believe we waste a lot of time and energy fighting the wrong enemy. Satan is good at disguising himself as a difficult person, a painful trial or hurtful situation. He is already defeated, girlfriend! I have read the end of the Book - and we win! Do not let your focus stray from God, the Author and Finisher of your faith. Become grounded in the Word. Pray about everything and spend time with other followers of Christ so that when the storms of life come, you are not alone in that rocking boat! Sharon, Gwen and I began this ministry out of that very desire - to do life with you - through the good and bad times. We all have them but we do not have to go through them alone. We are here for you - but most importantly, God is with us all! Blessings!
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June 2, 2010
A Father's Strong Arm
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Isaiah 59:1 (NIV) "Surely the arm of the LORD is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear."
Friend To Friend
I was just a wisp of a girl - a six-year-old, forty pound monkey with gangly arms and legs who vowed she could do anything her eleven-year-old mischievous brother, Stewart, could do. Standing on the glistening sand of Bogue Inlet Beach, N.C., I hungrily watched as Stewart and his friend, Jeffery, plunged into the briny waters at the end of the island where the Atlantic Ocean merged with the Intracostal Waterway. Steward and Jeffery had one goal: to swim across the treacherous waters to a beckoning sandbar some 100 feet away.
This was the spot at the end of the island where waves gave way to calm, salt water gave way to fresh, and sand gave way to soil. What looked like tranquil water on the surface was in reality a strong undercurrent that sucked the ocean away from its home. Like a lovesick puppy mourning its master's absence, I watched as the boys plunged into the water and swam away from shore.
"I want to go too!" I called out after them.
"You're just a kid!" Stewart yelled back. "You stay there! You can't come!"
"It's not fair," I stormed. "He gets to do everything!"
"You stay here with us," my dad instructed. "You're too little. It's not safe."
My dad's remarks only made me more determined to prove them all wrong. "If he can do it, I can do it," I mumbled. "I always get left behind."
When my dad turned his back to talk to a friend, I saw my chance and dove into the water. My thin limbs were no match for the sucking force of the undertow and the pull of the current. Very quickly, my lithe body was swept away along with the ocean's salt, sand and silt into the fresh water. My salty tears mixed with the briny water and my small cries for help went unheard. The strong ropes of current continued to pull me away from my family as they grew smaller.
Dad turned from his conversation to see the boys had almost hit their mark. Out of the corner of his eye, he noticed small splashes to his far right. "Oh no," he cried. "That's Sharon out there!"
My father dove into the water and cut through the menacing current. Propelled by panic, he reached me in a matter of moments. Like a fisherman's hook, dad reached out and grabbed my flailing body and reeled me to his side. With one arm, he fought the current once again and pulled us safely to shore. My dad had rescued me.
Have you ever been in a similar situation? Perhaps you've jumped into deep waters, into strong currents that appeared benignly calm on the surface. Perhaps you envied others who were headed in a certain direction and felt you were missing all the fun.
"Don't go there," your Heavenly Father warns. "It's not safe."
"But why do they get to have all the fun," you whine. "I always get left behind."
Then, when you think God isn't looking, in you jump! Before you know it you are being swept away in the current of poor choices, sucked down by the undertow of self-centeredness, and pulled away as your family grows strangely small.
Oh friend, my earthly father pulled me safely to shore that day when I was six, but my Heavenly Father has pulled me safely to shore more times than I can count. When we ignore our Father's warnings we forfeit the safety of His shore and plunge into the ocean of harm's way: the undertow of over-commitment, the current of wrong choices, and the rising tide of moral danger. Perhaps that's where you are right now. If so, there is hope. You only have to call out to God for help and He will pull you safely to shore. David cried out, "Turn your ear to me, come quickly to my rescue; be my rock of refuge, a strong fortress to save me" (Psalm 31:2). "Reach down your hand from on high; deliver me and rescue me from the mighty waters..." (Psalm 144:7).
"But Sharon," you might say, "You don't know how far I've fallen. You don't know what a mess I've made of my life." You are right. I don't know. But God does and there is no place that you can go where His arm is too short to reach down and save you. That's a promise.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I am so glad that Your arm is never too short to save me - to pull me out of the difficult places of life. Forgive me for ignoring the Holy Spirit's warnings and jumping into treacherous waters that I should have avoided. Give me the strength to walk away when I feel that check in my spirit that says ... don't go there. I love You, Lord, and thank You for being my Rescuer, my Rock, and my Redeemer.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever found yourself in rough water because of a poor decision you have made? Perhaps that's where you are right now. If so, I encourage you to call out to God for help. Write your own prayer for rescue today.
If you have found yourself in an undertow because of a poor decision, and you have cried out to God for help, and He has rescued you, I'd love to hear about it. Did you know that your testimony might be just the story someone needs to hear in order to hope again? I encourage you to go to my public Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell your story.
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June 3, 2010
The Real Deal
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 11:7 (NCV) "The LORD does what is right, and he loves justice, so honest people will see his face."
Friend To Friend
Worship is a word we often use but something we rarely experience. Oh, we say that we are going to a worship service each Sunday but do we really encounter the living God or merely endure another weekly religious gathering? When was the last time you walked away from a worship service - changed forever - because God met you there? We misunderstand what true worship is and fail to recognize the requirements of worship.
A preacher, out for a walk, noticed a group of boys standing around a small stray dog. "What are you doing, boys?" he asked. "Telling lies," one young man explained. "The one who tells the biggest lie gets the dog." The minister was shocked and said, "Why, when I was your age I never even thought about telling a lie." The boys looked at each other and their faces fell in disappointment. Finally, one young man shrugged and said, "I guess he wins the dog."
To worship God is to see Him - truly and honestly. No, we cannot actually see His face but we can understand who He is, recognize His power and acknowledge His sovereignty. True worship takes place in an honest heart. Honesty is a rapidly disappearing attribute. Truth is hedged and masked. Integrity is compromised. "Mom isn't here" our children say when we want to avoid the caller. We silently pocket the incorrectly counted change received in the drive-through lane. Untruths we label as "small white lies" punctuate our character until authenticity is forfeited. A life of integrity demands honesty. So does worship.
Worship is all about seeking the face of God. Seeking God with our whole heart is the first step in experiencing authentic worship. We cannot truly seek Him until we are willing to come before Him in absolute abandonment, completely and totally honest before Him.
In the gospel of Luke, we find a woman who came to dinner at the home of Simon Peter. This woman came for one reason alone - she had heard that Jesus would be there. It was common knowledge that she was a prostitute with a terrible reputation. Everyone at the party - including Simon, the host - knew exactly who she was and what she had done. Simon would never have allowed - much less invited this kind of woman to enter his home. However, it was also common knowledge that when a Rabbi was invited to someone's house, others could stop by and listen to the conversation. A desperate woman, she came knowing that everyone at the party would recognize and judge her. But her desire to meet Jesus was greater than her pride.
She came openly - hiding nothing. She came just like she was, a sinful woman. In other words, as my daughter would say, she was the "real deal." No pretense. No hypocrisy. Just authenticity. She came with an honest heart and Jesus met her at that point of brutal honesty. As a matter of fact, He was waiting for her to come. He is waiting for us to come as well. The fact is that we will never experience the full power of true worship until we are ready to honestly confront and deal with the sin in our lives. An honest heart pleases God and is invited to worship Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I do not truly understand what it means to worship You in the way that You desire, but I want to worship You. I want to come into your presence with complete honesty and transparency. My heart desire is to sit at Your feet. I lay down my pride and arrogance, confessing that without You, I am nothing. I praise You and love You, Father. Teach me how to truly worship You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine your life in the light of honesty.
Come before Him wrapped in that spiritual honesty.
Know that He always responds to an honest heart.
Refuse to fall back into old habits that would corrupt your newfound authenticity.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What sin(s) have I been hiding and refusing to face?
What action(s) will it take for me to deal with those sins honestly?
How does sin affect my ability to worship God?
Define honesty. Does your definition line up with God's?
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I don't know about you, but I am so tired of lugging my collection of masks around. I am no longer willing to waste energy trying to be someone God did not create me to be. I really do want to be "the real deal." Let's pray for each other to become a woman that pleases God.
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June 4, 2010
Resurrection of Hope
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jeremiah 20:11 (NIV) "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Friend To Friend
Beth is one of my dearest friends. She had been married for 24 years when her husband walked away from their marriage. Beth is a very strong Christian and for five years put on a happy face telling everyone, including herself, "That's OK. Jesus is enough." She has two absolutely incredible children who love the Lord and both serve in some facet of ministry. And yet, I wondered if she had been the first person I had ever known who had skipped the grieving process that follows the devastation of divorce.
She was not.
Five years after the divorce, Beth and I were talking about some struggles she was facing in a new relationship.
"Beth, I don't think you ever allowed yourself to grieve over your loss. I know your first husband betrayed you at the very core of what a marriage is supposed to be, but there is still a loss. There is grieving the loss that your children do not have the father they deserve, the loss of investing twenty-four years with a man who betrayed you, and the loss of the dream of what marriage could and should be like - what God intended from the beginning of time."
Beth is just now beginning to grieve the many losses that accompanied her divorce and she - and her two grown children - are in the process of breaking free.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book, On Death and Dying, notes five stages of grief: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. But for us who have the hope of Jesus Christ, there is a sixth stage: resurrection.
Grief is part of the healing process. I grieved that I did not grow up being the apple of my daddy's eye, that I was not unconditionally loved, and that I did not get to hold my second child in my arms. Grieving the loss helped me to let it go. But after a time, I had to stop lamenting what was not, and rejoice in the blessing of what is. God had new plans for my life!
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:11-13 NIV).
Just as God raised Jesus from the dead, He can raise our broken dreams. Acceptance is not the end of the grieving process for those of us who know Jesus Christ.
Resurrection is the end of grief and the beginning of a dream, a new life, and a glorious future.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that for me, as a Christian, I don't have to stop at mere acceptance when it comes to grief. There is more than acceptance ...there is resurrection. You take the broken pieces of our lives and make a beautiful mosaic. Thank You for resurrecting my hopes and dreams and making my life much better than I had ever imagined. I look forward to the day when my earthly body will be resurrected to spend eternity in heaven with You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there any area of your life where you have settled for acceptance?
How do you think God could resurrect a forgotten dream?
Compare the Moses who lost his dream when he was 40 (Exodus 2) with the Moses whose dream was restored when he was 80 (Exodus 3). What made the difference? Who was in control in chapter 3? Who was in control in chapter 4?
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Today's Devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the pain of your past. If you would like to learn more about how to turn your pain into purpose, misery into ministry and hurt into hope, this book is for you! Don't waste your sorrows! God wants to use them for an amazing purpose.
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June 7, 2010
Holy Adonai
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then said I, Woe is me! For I am undone and ruined, because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts!" Isaiah 6:5 (Amplified Bible)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever been 'undone' before the LORD? Have you shaken your head in awe at the mere thought of being accepted as holy in His sight? The prophet Isaiah experienced God in His splendor, through a vision that left him flat-out speechless.
"In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord seated on a throne, high and exalted, and the train of his robe filled the temple. Above Him were seraphs, each with six wings: With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they were flying. And they were calling to one another:
"Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory."
At the sound of their voices the doorposts and thresholds shook and the temple was filled with smoke. "Woe to me!" I cried. "I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the LORD Almighty" (Isaiah 6:1-5).
I shudder to think how often I approach this awesome, powerful, holy LORD without the reverence that is due Him. I confess that every fiber of my being should fall before Him and shout, "I am undone!" so much more than I actually do. Isaiah's response takes us to the place we should be ...face down before our holy, royal, heavenly King.
As a worship leader, I often find myself torn between feeling called and feeling unworthy of the call. The fact of the matter is - I am unworthy of the call. I screw up on a regular basis. I battle enemies like selfishness, anger, indifference, and pride. I struggle to honor my husband at times and wrestle with shame and guilt more than I'd care to admit. BUT GOD, through His only Son Jesus Christ, made a way for me to be holy and acceptable in His sight.
With the weight of this in mind, I was inspired to write a worship song called "Holy Adonai." Adonai is a Hebrew name for God meaning "Master, Lord, LORD, or owner."
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My dear friend, I can't help but join the heavenly creatures as I shout from my home in North Carolina to you across the globe: "Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory." As you read this devotion in Maine, Florida, Texas, Idaho, California, Indiana, Brazil, Guatemala, Germany, India, Uganda, Croatia, Australia, China or Norway. In whatever city, whatever state, whatever country you reside, would you join heaven's song and lift the name of the LORD high today as a united body of sisters? Let us be 'undone' together and bow before our King with a renewed awe of His greatness. He is worthy!
Let's Pray
Most Holy Father, Adonai, I pray that You would forgive me for all the times that I have come into Your presence lacking reverence. You are worthy of all praise! May You become greater in my life and may I become less. Empower me to live a life that points to your glorious splendor.
In the matchless name of my risen Savior Jesus Christ,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 103.
Take a few moments to hum or sing a favorite worship song that focuses on the awesomeness of God. (Here are some suggestions: "I Exalt Thee" - "Heart of Worship" - "How Great Is Our God" - "How Great Thou Art" - "Fairest Lord Jesus" - "Doxology")
Do you feel unworthy to approach God's throne this morning? His love is unconditional and His grace extends beyond anything you have done because of Jesus. He is waiting with open arms to embrace you right now. Go to Him!
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June 8, 2010
A Simple Gesture
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today..." (Hebrews 3:13 NIV)
Friend To Friend
My husband, Steve, was pumping gas. It seemed like he was always pumping gas. Living out in the country and driving into town each day required gas, and a lot of it. As he stood holding the nozzle and watching the numbers rapidly roll by higher and higher, he noticed an old 1992 grey Honda Civic pull up to the pump behind him. The car had seen better days: rusted roof, missing hubcaps, faded paint, and dented bumper.
Out of the corner of his eye, he observed a young woman who appeared to be in her late 20's get out of the car. She was dressed in medical scrubs and looked about as tired as her Civic. Methodically, she swiped her card, placed the nozzle in the tank, and squeezed the handle. Within one minute of beginning, she stopped squeezing. She then placed the nozzle back in the pump and began screwing the cap back on her tank.
That couldn't have been more than a couple of gallons, Steve thought.
"Is that all the gas you're getting?" Steve asked.
"Yeah, well, you know. Trying to space it out," she replied.
Steve placed his nozzle back on in its holder, walked over to her pump, and swiped his card. "Let's fill it up today."
"No, no. You can't do that," she protested.
"I already did," he smiled. "It's already done. See. The card's approved. Fill it up."
"Tears welled up in her eyes. "Thank you," she said.
"Now you have a good day," he replied. "God bless." And off he drove.
I just love that man.
As I thought about Steve's act of kindness, I was challenged to pay closer attention to those around me throughout my busy days. I was stirred to look for someone who needed a kind word, a bill paid, a burden carried.
Throughout Jesus' thirty-three years he walked this earth, he noticed people who crossed his path during his busy day. He noticed a small man in a tree straining to catch a glimpse as he passed by (Luke 19:1-8). He noticed a woman with a bent-over back sitting in the women's section of the synagogue straining to hear (Luke 13). He noticed a 38-year-old lame man sitting by a pool (John 5). He noticed a grieving mother mourning the loss of her only son (Luke 7). He noticed the hunger of the crowd after a long day of teaching on the hillside (Mark 6). He noticed ... and he did something about it.
It is very easy to go about our busy days with blinders on - focusing on our own little worlds and ignoring the ministry opportunities surrounding us. But Jesus showed us how to pay attention, lighten a load, bestow a blessing, give a gift, help the hurting, and bind-up the broken. Listen, Jesus was busy! He had a lot to accomplish in 3.5 years of his earthly ministry. But he was never too busy to pay attention to the needs of the people around him.
Steve was my hero that day. And I suspect, for one young lady in a beat-up, old gray Honda Civic, he was her hero as well.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, open my eyes today. Forgive me for being so selfish that I forget to notice the needs all around me. Show me someone that I can help today. Show me how I can be Your hands and feet today. I'm listening. I'm watching. I'm paying attention.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I bet you can guess what I'm going to say now. Apply today's principle and reach out to help someone in need. It doesn't have to be big. It could be as simple as opening the door for a mother with a stroller. And when you do, I want to hear about it! You won't be bragging. Don't worry about that. You'll simply be encouraging each one who reads your post to be blessed as I'm sure you will be blessed when you reach beyond your own needs to touch someone else.
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God speaks to us all day long; we simply need to learn how to grow accustomed to His gentle nudges, His tender tugs, and His still small voice that speaks to our hearts. If you would like to learn more about how to sense God's presence in your own life, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. And don't forget to check out her latest release, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered.
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June 9, 2010
The Lord is My Shepherd
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends."
(Psalm 100:3 NCV)
Friend To Friend
Shepherding was one of the oldest callings in Israel, even before farming. Shepherds traveled from place to place, living in tents while driving their flocks from one pasture to another. The sheep and their shepherd lived together every minute of every day. In fact, they were so intimately bound together that individual sheep, even when mixed with other flocks, could recognize the voice of their own shepherd and would come immediately when called by name.
A shepherd owned and marked his sheep. In some cases, the sheep were even branded, although branding is no longer an accepted method of identification because of the damage it does to the wool. Today, the ears of sheep are pierced with identification tags but for thousands of years, shepherds around the world marked their sheep by notching their ears with a sharp knife. Each shepherd had his own distinctive notch that indicated identity and ownership.
When we come to Jesus Christ in complete surrender and begin the journey of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ, we are redeemed by His forgiveness, made whole by his grace and marked with His love through the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
Ephesians 1:13 "You were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal; the promised Holy Spirit."
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions. I grew up in a Christian home, attending church just about every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God - not only as my Lord and King - but as my Shepherd, the one who would lead me, provide for me and love me like no other.
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I? (Don't miss the answer to that question in tomorrow's devotion!)
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I have allowed fear and anxiety to fill my mind and heart. I want to trust You above all else. Please give me the faith to believe the promises in Your Word and the strength to take the first step of obedience. Help me remember that I am a sheep, totally dependent upon You, my Shepherd. Thank You for Your perfect provision for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23.
List three ways that sheep are dependent on the shepherd.
List three ways that shepherds care for their sheep.
Compare the two lists. What similarities do you find in your own life?
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I am such a sheep! My Shepherd is constantly providing my needs while I wander around and look for ways I can take care of myself. I take the wrong path and end up trapped in a dangerous place only to have the Shepherd rescue me. Today, I am reminded to rest in the care of Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, instead of frantically trying to "fix" my world. He is God. He is Lord. He is my Shepherd. I encourage you to do the same. Choose trust over worry. Choose faith over fear. Blessings!
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with stress and learning to manage it before it manages you. (Also available on CD)
Looking for a Bible Study? Mary's new Bible Study, "Winning the War with Temptation," may be exactly what you need. You can download each lesson on your own computer, print it out and complete it at your own pace. Perfect for both personal and small group study.
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June 10, 2010
The Lord is My Shepherd
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23 (NIV) "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely, goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever."
Friend To Friend
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I really a follower of God?
As I contemplated the answer to that question, a startling certainty hit me like a ton of bricks! I knew all about God - and then the deeper truth of that reality followed closely behind. Yes, I had certainly accumulated a lot of knowledge about God but I did not know Him. It wasn't enough for me or for God.
I have come to realize that God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children. That night, I stood in the darkness, gazing at the star-filled heavens and cried out, "God, if you are who you really say you are, I give everything I know about me to everything I know about you. I surrender." I met Jesus Christ that night.
While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations but I also discovered who I really was - a sheep - and being a sheep is awesome! When I am afraid, Jesus Christ is there to bring peace. When my heart is broken, the Holy Spirit comforts and restores me. Even when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression, Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, led me from the darkness into the light.
I began to understand the incredible truth that, Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd had planned my very existence, prepared a plan in response to his love for me, and even made provision for the payment of my past, present and future sin. I was wanted, chosen and marked for God. I no longer had to live life on my own because I now had a Shepherd. God's love precedes me, goes before me and surrounds me as I live each day. Knowing that we are loved fosters peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Actually, when you think about it, sheep don't come across as stressed-out creatures. In fact, they seem almost oblivious to the dangers of being a sheep. Sheep don't seem to worry about where their next meal is coming from, if they will have a place to sleep each night, when the next enemy or thief will attack, or even what the next day holds. When sheep are sick, they simply turn to their Shepherd, instinctively knowing that He will take care of them and comfort them until healing comes.
We need to remember and even revisit the fact that we are all sheep; that Jesus Christ really is our Shepherd and that nothing else really matters.
Let's Pray
I am so needy, Lord. Everywhere I turn, I am inadequate in my own strength, power and abilities. I waste so much time and energy trying to be everything You already are. Help me remember that I don't have to depend upon my sufficiency. I can always and forever depend on Yours alone. I am Your sheep. And You are my Shepherd. Praise God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day for one week. At the end of that week, examine your stress level. Has it changed? In what ways?
Write Psalm 23 in your journal, on a card or a piece of paper. Tuck a copy in your purse or your bible. In fact, make several copies and place them in prominent places around your house.
Memorize Psalm 23 - one verse at a time. Meditate on each word, each phrase and each truth in each verse.
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Sometimes the most familiar passages of Scripture are the most overlooked parts of the bible. Psalm 23 is one of those passages. I have often heard this psalm read at funerals or taught in an occasional sermon or Bible class but never saw the truths it contains on dealing with stress. One day, during a particularly stressful time in my life, I automatically turned to this psalm for comfort - only to find God's stress-management plan that would ultimately change my life. I pray it does the same for you.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with stress and learning to manage it before it manages you. (Also available on CD)
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June 11, 2010
Taking the Good with the Bad
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone, (1 Thessalonians 5:14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
As I sat on my screened-in porch early one Spring morning, I was taken aback with the beauty surrounding me. A layer of mist rose from the serene waters of the lake and hovered just above the surface. Sunrays slanting in from the east elongated shadows that all too soon would stand at attention in the noon-day sun. Pampas grass plumes praised their Creator with a gentle sway.
I held a steamy cup of coffee in my hand and placed my open, well-worn Bible in my lap. As if on cue, as had been our routine for the past several weeks, a visitor hopped from the shrubbery and onto the night-cooled patio. "Good morning Peter," I cooed to the little brown bunny I'd watched grow since early spring. "And how are you today?" I just love bunnies, I mused.
Peter skipped and jumped from bush to bush, and kicked up his heels like an Irishman ready to meet the day. As usual, he stopped right in front of the porch and blinked his big brown eyes as if to say "hello." Just as I was enjoying watching my furry friend, he hopped over to a flower pot, stood up on his hind legs, and yanked a rather large stem of petunia from the plant.
"Good grief," I moaned. "Stop that!" Bounding down the steps, I came face-to-face with the wrascally wrabbit. "Stop eating my flowers," I warned. "Get out of here. Shooo."
Apparently, the bunny didn't see me as much of a threat and didn't budge. He just continued munching away. I could have touched him if I'd wanted.
"I mean it," I continued. "Shooo." It wasn't until I clapped my hands several times that Peter scampered behind the bush to finish up his breakfast.
Back on the porch, I grabbed my lukewarm coffee and placed my Bible back in my lap. It wasn't long before a dainty hummingbird buzzed up to the hummingbird feeder just outside the screen. I watched in amazement as its wings fluttered and it hovered in mid-air. Iridescent colors of green and blue glistened in the sun. I just love hummingbirds, I whispered.
No sooner had the thought entered my head than a second hummingbird dive-bombed the first. Quickly a fight ensued. Beak to beak, they fought for their terrain. Right jab. Left stab. "Guys, stop it," I pled as if they cared. "There are six perches and enough nectar for the entire country. Good grief!" And as quickly as they had appeared, they were gone.
Taking a sip from my now cold coffee, I tried once again to concentrate on my open Bible. But in the corner of my mind, I saw our heron approaching. A beautiful heron lives on our lake and occasionally he passes our way. I marveled at his long legs pointing behind him and his slender beak leading the way. With exaggerated movements, he slowly flapped his magnificent blue-gray wings and glided before me. But then, like a Boeing 747 with a leak in the fuselage, a stream of poop fell from the bird and made a trail in the yard.
"Good grief," I moaned for the third time in one day.
Back to the Bible. As I tried to concentrate, God began speaking to my heart about what I had seen. "Are you willing to take the good with the bad?" He seemed to say.
"What do you mean, Lord?" I questioned.
"You love bunnies and they eat your plants. You love hummingbirds but they constantly fight. You love the heron but he makes a mess in your yard. Are you willing to take the good with the bad?"
"Well, yes. I am willing to take the good with the bad. I love your creatures!"
"What about people? "He seemed to continue. "If you are willing to take the good with the bad with mere animals, are you willing to take the good with the bad in people created in My image?"
"That's not funny, God," I argued.
"Well are you?"
And then, as God so often does in my life, He left me to think about it. I began to think about people in my life that I have rejected or relationships that I have walked away from because of annoying behavior or emotional messiness. It seems I was willing to take the good with the bad with God's creation- but when it came to people created in God's image...not so much.
God is a Master at taking the good with the bad. Abraham believed God, but he also made some terrible mistakes, namely Hagar. David was a man after God's own heart, but he committed murder and adultery. Jacob was the father of the twelve tribes of Israel, but he was also a deceiver. Moses was a leader but he also struggled with taking matters into his own hands.
In the New Testament, we see the same pattern of Jesus taking the good with the bad. Peter was a bold believer, but he also was brash and impulsive. Martha was hospitable, but she was also bossy. Andrew was loving, but he was also loud (he wasn't called a son of thunder for nothing). Thomas was dutiful, but he was also doubtful.
And then there's the woman I look at in the mirror every morning. I'm not going to list my annoying qualities, but let me tell you they are there. And yet, God takes the good with the bad. He loves me even when I make a mess.
So here's the question for us today. Are we willing to take the good with the bad? Are we willing to overlook the annoying behavior of others and embrace their positive qualities instead? I'm going to leave you to think about it like God left me to think about that particular morning.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, all I can say today is HELP! Help me be patient, loving, and kind. Help me to focus on the positives of others and shrug off the negatives. And Lord, help others do the same with me!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This will be fun. Today, make a list of things you enjoy and the negative aspects you must endure to enjoy them. Let me get you started.
Roses - thorns
Spring flowers - pollen
Marriage - dirty socks on the floor
After you make your list, spend time praising God for the negatives, because they allow you to have the positives!
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God often speaks to us through nature. Jesus often used nature in His parables to help others understand spiritual principles. If you would like to sharpen your ability to see God, to hear God, and to sense His presence in your daily life, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. Hearing from God should not be a once-in-a-lifetime occurrence, but a daily experience.
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June 14, 2010
Seek and Find
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Preston, we give up! Come out from where you are hiding!" My kids were playing hide and go seek a few years ago while my husband and I were upstairs packing for a trip. Hunter and Kennedy had looked everywhere they could think of for their sly older brother, but couldn't find him. Reluctantly, they gave up. As I packed, I checked some choice spots in my walk-in closet to see if I could catch a glimpse of the victorious hider. Nothing.
Several minutes later, as I was loading toiletries into my travel case, the cabinet door beneath my husband's sink slowly opened. My contortionist son quietly and carefully crawled out from underneath the bathroom sink. He glanced my way, and with a twinkle in his eye said, "Hey mom."
"Honey, your brother and sister asked you to show yourself 10 minutes ago. Why did you stay in there so long?" I inquired.
Preston replied in a hushed tone, "I didn't want them to know where my favorite hiding spot was!"
I have to admit, I was impressed with his hiding strategy. It seemed pretty savvy for a 10 year-old. He just didn't want to be found.
In the game of life, God never hides. To the contrary, He wants to be found. He is always with us and always sees us. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by the hands of One who knows everything about us. He designed us to know and to find Him. And let's be honest, girls, whether we want to admit it or not, deep inside we all want to be known and loved.
In Psalm 139, David penned sacred words that paint an amazing picture of God's stubborn presence in our lives:
"Where can I go from Your Spirit? Where can I flee from Your presence? If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast" (Psalm 139: 7-10, NIV).
Have you ever felt hidden from God? I can assure you today, that you are not. He sees you. No matter where you are. No matter what you have been through. No matter what you are going through. You are not alone. God knows you. God loves you. He wants to be found by you. One of the richest blessings in life is the privilege we have to know Him. Call on Him today and find Him through prayer.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, it is so comforting to know that You are constantly with me - that You know exactly where I am and what I face. Please hold me fast with Your right hand and guide each moment of my day. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans 8:35-39.
Nothing can separate us from God's presence and His love, but sin can hinder the intimacy we enjoy through a personal relationship with Him. Ask God to search your heart and reveal and remove any sin.
What is your hiding strategy? Do you sometimes run from God's presence? Why? Grapple with this one. Ask the LORD for insight.
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Hey friend. After moving across the country a few years back, I experienced a dark emotional season where I just didn't FEEL God's presence. My mind knew He was present, but my heart felt disconnected. Thankfully, God's presence isn't about our feelings. He is always with us. In that time, I wrote a song called Comfort Sonata, which is the final track on my Because CD.
NEED INSPIRATION? Allow the music and lyrics of Comfort Sonata to minister to your heart right now. Turn up the speakers on your computer and CLICK HERE to listen to the song as you center your heart, mind, and soul on the Comforter.
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June 15, 2010
What Ever He Says, Do It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"His mother said to the servants, 'Do whatever he tells you,'" (John 2:5 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was a beautiful day for a wedding. Mary only hoped it would hold out for the seven days of celebration that would follow. She was glad for the break in the mundane activities of running a household, and looked forward to spending extended time with her son.
"Hope you don't mind if I bring along a few friends," Jesus asked as he walked in from his work in the carpentry shop.
"Absolutely not," she replied. "As long as they will behave and not embarrass the family," she teased.
Jesus turned to Mary with a look that pierced her soul. "These men have been chosen as well."
Chosen. There was that word again. And the feeling of normalcy began to slip through her fingers like grains of sand.
Jesus had grown strong and tall over the past thirty years. While Mary had seen glimpses of his divine nature, she continued to hold her breath for the day the angel prophesied would come to fruition. The words Savior of the world, Son of the Most High, a kingdom that would reign forever, were never far from her memory. She recalled the story of Jesus' baptism. "This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased" (Matthew 3:17). Everyone heard God speak those words as Jesus emerged from the baptismal waters in the Jordan. Mary clung to the days of normalcy as long as she could, but felt they were drawing to a close.
The bride was radiant and the groom proud as a freshly preened peacock. The wedding party and guests alike enjoyed a bountiful buffet, delightful dancing and ambrosial wine. Gaiety and merriment filled the rooms with laughter and joyous chatter. There was nothing like a wedding party to wash away the doldrums of everyday life.
Day three of the festivities was in full swing when Mary noticed the wine was running low. For a groom to run out of wine was a disgrace. Leave it to a woman to notice the party details. Leave it to a woman to know where to go for help.
Mary tugged on Jesus' sleeve and with a mischievous twinkle in her eye whispered, "They have no more wine."
With a chuckle, Jesus replied, "Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not come."
As soon as the words escaped Jesus' lips, he felt the nudge from his Heavenly Father; the prompting that he had been waiting for his entire life. In a split second, God allowed Mary to flip the switch, to topple the first domino, to ignite the fuse. It was time.
Mary turned to the attendants standing nervously by the stone water jars used for ceremonial cleansing. With quiet authority, she nodded toward her son, "Do whatever he tells you."
Jesus pointed to six water jars with the capacity to hold from twenty to thirty gallons of water. "Fill the jars up with water," he instructed.
Quickly, the servants drug the heavy stone cisterns to the well behind the house and filled them to the brim.
After bringing them back to Jesus, he continued. "Now draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet."
Continuing to follow Jesus' instructions, one of the servants dipped his ladle into the jar and poured rich aromatic red wine into a silver goblet. He couldn't keep his eyes off the miracle he held in his hands. Reverently the servant passed the cup to the master of ceremonies.
"Samuel," the master called out across the court. "You sly dog. Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
The servants were dumbstruck.
Jesus' friends were confused.
Jesus was readied.
Mary was numbed with the reality of what had just taken place. Her time of quiet normalcy was over. She knew that now. What would come next, only God knew.
And that was the beginning of Jesus' ministry of the miraculous. After thirty years of waiting, God used Mary, a woman, to flip the breaker and give Jesus the signal that the time for miracles had begun. Right in the middle of a pack of men-Jesus, Peter, Andrew, James, John, Philip, Nathanael and the wine stewards- God tapped Mary on the shoulder and chose her to ignite the fuse.
"His mother said to the servants, "'Do whatever he tells you.'"
These words have become my life verse. I hope they can be woven into the fabric of your own life as well. See, that was Mary's mantra. "Be it done to me as you have said" (Luke 1:38), became "Do whatever he tells you." Mary wasn't just speaking to the servants here. She is speaking to us as well. Do you want to be a woman freed from an ordinary life and freed to an extraordinary purpose? Then the path is clear, "Do whatever he tells you." Obedience to God is the key to unlocking the doors to the most exciting life imaginable.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I want to do whatever You tell me to do. Help me be a woman who listens to God: who senses Your gentle nudges throughout the day leading and guiding me. I know that obedience is the key to an extraordinary life filled with extraordinary purpose. LORD, I'm Your girl. Speak LORD, I'm listening.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The wine stewards had no idea what Jesus was up to, but they obeyed him anyway. When is the last time you obeyed a nudge from God, even though it did not make sense?
What was the outcome?
Is there something God has asked you to do that you have not done yet? It could be that He has a whole string of mighty feats for you to accomplish, but He is waiting for you to obey step one before He reveals step two!
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June 16, 2010
Chosen and Loved
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 (NLT) "For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life."
Friend To Friend
"You will never be able to have biological children," the doctor said. After years of painful tests, expensive treatments, frustrating procedures and desperate pleas and prayers, our hopes of having children were shattered by his harsh diagnosis. "Then we will adopt," my husband immediately replied. I wasn't so sure. Could I love another woman's baby as much as a child I would give birth to? I just didn't know.
Months later, God called Dan to be the Youth Pastor of a church where we met Ron Gossett, a Christian attorney. "We'd like to talk with you about adoption," Dan told Ron. Ron's response wasn't encouraging. "I rarely do adoptions but come by my office and fill out the papers - just in case." The following week, Ron called. "This is the stork," he said. I laughed. "I have a baby for you," he continued. I stopped laughing. "A young woman came into my office today. She's seven months pregnant and wants to give her baby up for adoption," he explained. I knew! Every doubt disappeared. Every fear faded into the certainty that this was God's plan for us. Six weeks later, our son, Jered Daniel Southerland, was born and three years later, his beautiful sister, Danna Marie, completed our family. Life was unbelievably sweet. We daily celebrated the fact that Jered and Danna were our chosen babies and wanted them to understand just how special they were. I knew the day would come when both children would have questions about their birth and adoption. I just thought I had a little more time.
One night, our young son climbed into my arms for our daily "snuggle and prayer" time before bed. His question ripped through the darkness and my heart. "Why didn't she want me?" Jered softly asked. I cried out to God for just the right words - for Jered - and for me. Instantly, it came. Bruno!
When Jered was four-years-old, we were given a chocolate Labrador puppy that quickly outgrew our small yard, our not-so-understanding neighbors and our apprehensive children. We named this gentle giant Bruno. But it soon became clear to all of us that we were not the right family for Bruno. After an intensive search, we discovered "Adopt a Pet," a remarkable organization that finds homes for animals whose owners, for one reason or another, cannot keep them. We were promised that Bruno would be placed in a home where he would be loved and well cared for. We talked and explained, struggling our way to the difficult decision that it was time to put Bruno up for adoption. Still, when they came to pick up Bruno, we all cried. We knew it was the best plan for Bruno - for us - and for a very excited family that wanted and had the room for a Labrador. But it still hurt. Sometimes, doing the right thing - the best thing - the highest thing - is also the most painful thing.
As I looked into the beautiful, blue eyes of the little boy I loved more than life itself, I prayed for wisdom. "Jered, do you remember Bruno?" At the memory of the dog, Jered smiled and sadly whispered, "I still miss him." I nodded in agreement, "I know, son. I know you loved Bruno and are sad that we had to give him away but do you remember why we gave Bruno away?" Jered thought for a moment, "Because we loved him so much and we knew we couldn't take care of him right ... and because he wasn't very happy 'cause he was so big here ... and because we wanted the best home in the whole wide world for him."
I paused for a moment, basking in the simple wisdom of my Father, spoken through the heart of my only son. "She did want you, honey. And she did love you ... so much, in fact, that she was willing to give you away, just like we gave Bruno away. Just like we wanted what was best for Bruno, your birth mother wanted what she thought was best for you." I fully recognize that it was an extremely simple illustration for a profoundly complex life circumstance - but it was enough.
As Jered drifted off to sleep, tears of gratitude spilled down my face, and I thanked God for two courageous young birth mothers and for His extraordinary plan of adoption that linked our four chosen lives and hearts in love.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed by the truth that You love and chose me to be Your very own. I don't understand such love, but I embrace it as the precious gift that it is. Help me to remember that in Your eyes, I am planned, wanted, loved and chosen.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you battle feelings of insecurity? Read Psalm 139 once each day for a month and see how God changes your perspective.
Is your mind often filled with negative thoughts about who you are and what you do? Read and memorize 2 Corinthians 10:5. When those negative thoughts come, reject them with this truth
Do you find it hard to believe that God has a special plan and purpose for your life?
Read and memorize Ephesians 2:10. "For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them."
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For years, I battled insecurity and fear. God loved me through it all until the day came when I really could believe I am special because God made me in response to His plan for my life and not as an afterthought. The same is true for you, my friend. God is crazy about you! And Sharon, Gwen and I love you, too! Blessings!
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June, 17, 2010
Remembering to Remember
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But Mary treasured all these things and pondered them in her heart" (Luke 2:19 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Mary, now in her late forties, was startled from her mending with a pounding on the door. Who would come here at this time of night, she wondered.
"John," she cried as she peered through the slightly opened door. "What are you doing here? Is it Jesus?"
"Oh Mary, I don't even know where to begin," he whispered as tears streamed down his agonized face.
"Come in, come in," Mary said as she wrapped her arm around Jesus' closest friend.
"Start at the beginning."
"Well, we had a nice Passover dinner on Thursday, but I could tell that Jesus was deeply troubled. There was just a different air about him. He even washed our feet and spoke about leaving us. Something about going to a place where we didn't know. Of course Peter said he would follow him to the death. You know how Peter boasts."
"Yes, go on."
"After dinner we went to the Garden of Gethsemane. Jesus talked to us as we walked along the road, as if he were a father telling his sons the family secret to success before leaving to go off to war. He was so unsettled and bothered about something. When we arrived at the Garden, he told us to pray for him while he went off to be by himself. I'm sorry to say, we fell asleep several times. Once, I overhead Jesus asking God to let this cup pass from him. When I looked, Jesus had blood dripping from his brow where sweat should have been.
"Just before I was going to ask him about it, an angry mob of Romans came and arrested him!"
"Arrested him? For what?" Mary cried.
"I don't know. Something about blaspheming. And guess who was at the head of the pack? Judas. I never did trust that man."
John went on to tell Mary of the trial, the flogging and the ultimate sentencing of execution by crucifixion."
With great resolve, Mary looked John in the eye and said, "Take me to him."
It seems that all her life Mary had been trying to save Jesus. She remembered when she and Joseph fled to Egypt to escape Herod's decree to kill all the boy babies under two-years-old in Bethlehem. He recalled the day she and her sons tried to convince Jesus to come home when she heard rumors that the Pharisees were plotting to kill him. And now this.
Mary recalled the words of Simeon the prophet when she and Joseph took their baby to the temple to be consecrated to the Lord: "This child is destined to cause the falling and rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be spoken against, so that the thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your own soul too" (Luke 2:34-35). This was Simeon's sword, piercing her heart with a pain only a mother could understand.
Arriving on the Via de la Rosa, Mary watched with horror as her first-born son trudged through the jeering crowd. His flesh hung in shreds, torn by floggings of the Roman metal tipped whip. His clothes were crusted with dried blood and mud from collapsing under the weight of the cross tied to his back, and streaks of crimson cut furrows down his face from the crown of thorns pressed into his forehead.
When Jesus reached the place where his mother stood among the crowd, he raised his head to meet her gaze. A thousand thoughts passed between them without a single spoken word. She was there, just as she had been all along.
Later, as he hung on the cross, Jesus breathed his final parting words.
"Dear woman, here is your son," Jesus moaned as he nodded toward John.
And then to John he said, "Here is your mother."
Even in his last breaths, Jesus' concern was for this chosen girl from Nazareth - his mother Mary.
Mary had been there all along. She was there to hear the babe's first cry in Bethlehem and there to hear the Savior's final breath at Calvary.
We don't have a lot of information about Mary at the foot of the cross, except that she was there - standing below her flesh torn, blood drenched, and physically battered, precious son. I have painted a picture today in order to help us catch a glimpse of a mother's heart.
We do know she heard the hammer hit the nails, saw the Roman spear pierce his side, felt the labor of his breathing. As his heart burst, her chest ached. For six hours she watched him die. Pierced. How perfectly that word described her at this moment. The sword that had hung over her head for thirty-three-years now pierced her heart.
It must have seemed like an eternity since a symphony of angels announced his birth. Now a cacophony of accusers hurled insults and accusations. "Crucify him!" the savage rabble demanded. "He could save others but he can't save himself," the burly soldiers taunted.
Where are those angels now, she must have thought. If she could have peered into the spiritual realm, she would have found them hovering low, silent in full armor array.
It is difficult to envision God's presence surrounding the tragedies in our lives. Somehow the two don't seem to be able to co-exist in our minds. It is almost incomprehensible to picture the angles standing by while mere humans taunted and tortured the Son of God. What do we do when life doesn't make sense? We remember.
Mary remembered Gabriel's announcement.
Mary remembered Elizabeth's welcome.
Mary remembered Joseph's dreams.
Mary remembered the shepherd's arrival.
Mary remembered the Magi's gifts.
Mary remembered Simeon's prophesy.
Mary remembered Anna's words.
Mary remembered the twelve-year old boy in His Father's house.
Mary remembered the water transformed to wine.
Mary remembered the miracles.
Mary remembered the teaching.
Mary remembered the healings.
Mary remembered.
After the shepherds' visit in the stables that first Christmas evening, Luke tells us, "Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart" (Luke 2:19). No doubt her thoughts returned to that treasure chest of memories for the reassurance she so needed. The events of Jesus' life slipped through her mind like beads on a string with the knot of faith tied securely in the end.
And friend, that is what we must do. The Bible tells us that in Christ "are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge" (Colossians 2:3). When we treasure God's Word in our hearts, just as Mary did in hers, it calms the waves of doubt during the storms of life. The storm may not be removed, but God's Word will help us to hold steady as the difficulties of life toss us to and fro.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, as life tosses me to-and-fro, help me to remember. Help me to remember Your promises. Help me remember the ways You have blessed me in the past. You are my Rock, my Redeemer, and my Restorer. And though I may not always understand, I know that Your ways serve a greater purpose in my life than I may ever know.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I doubt Mary kept a journal, but if she had, wouldn't you love to see it? Today, I want you to make a list of the ways God has blessed you over the years. Keep it in a place that you can refer to often. As you remember certain blessings, go back to your list and jot them down.
If you do not keep a journal of prayer requests and God's answers, you might want to consider starting one. A prayer journal is a great source of encouragement during the difficult times of life. We have very short memories when it comes to remembering God's goodness to us. Writing them down will help us treasure them in our hearts.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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June 18, 2010
Don't Let Anything Get In Your Way
Lori Fairchild
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Lori Fairchild.
Today's Truth
"As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?" (Psalm 42:1-2)
Friend To Friend
We recently acquired a dog. He's a beautiful two-year-old German shorthaired pointer named Buddy. He's a great dog - smart, gentle and well-behaved. He only has one quirk. He can't stand to be left alone. He loves our family so much that he wants to be with us every minute of every day. Whenever we leave the house, he throws a doggy fit. He destroys things by chewing on them and barks constantly. He stays in his crate while we're gone, and one day we came home to find he had chewed through the metal bars of his crate. He was so desperate to get to us that even metal bars couldn't stop him.
The interesting thing about Buddy's separation anxiety is that it didn't start until after we'd had him for several weeks. It wasn't until Buddy got to know and love us that he decided he is miserable when we aren't around. Buddy's behavior reminds me of how we should feel about God. We should desire to be in God's presence so much that we let nothing get in our way. And the more we get to know God, the more miserable we will be when we don't spend time with Him. We will feel like the psalmist when he says, "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God."
Yet, sometimes, we let the busyness of life get in the way of our pursuit of God. Instead of longing to spend time with Him, we give Him whatever time we have left over after we've taken care of our jobs, our families and our church responsibilities. God wants us to long to spend time with Him, to seek Him out, to act like Buddy in our desire to be with Him. He wants nothing - not our families, our friends or our activities - to stand in the way of us growing closer to Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I want to be closer to You. I want to seek You out each day. Create in me a desire to spend time each day with You. Make that time more important to me than anything else in my day. Help me not to let the busyness of life distract me from spending time with You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What in your life is taking up time you should be spending with God?
Do you feel like Buddy in your desire to spend time with God or are you giving God the leftovers?
Choose a time in your day to set aside to spend time with God. Choose the time that works best for you, but make it a point to set aside time with God each day.
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Spending time with God doesn't have to be rigidly structured. Talk to God all day long, but make it a point to spend some time in His word during the day. Technology is a wonderful help in this. You can get the Bible on your computer, on your phone or even on a CD to listen to in your car. Choose the time and the method that work best for you. There is no one set way that God draws us near to Him. No matter the method, the result is the same - a closer relationship with God.
Want insights into sharing God's word with your children? Check out Lori's blog, Everyday Truth, at www.everdaytruth66.blogspot.com.
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June 21, 2010
Change the Setting
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV) "God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind."
Friend To Friend
We do a lot of laundry at the Southerland house. I'm sure you can relate to the fact that there always seems to be a load in the washer that needs to go in the dryer, a load in the dryer that needs to be folded and a load of dirty laundry waiting to begin the tedious process all over again. Our washer and dryer have numerous settings for washing everything from hand washables and fine delicates to cotton and permanent press. After a few loads of producing pink, male underwear and sweaters shrunk to fit Barbie dolls, we decided to wash everything on one setting and in cold water. Heaven help the man, woman or child who dares to change that setting.
When a life crisis comes, we generally have an automatic and very human setting of fear and anxiety. The good news is that we can change that setting to "peace" by counting on God.
Count on God to be with you. We battle stress every day, but God is faithful. We can count on Him to be with us every step of the way. Worry is a trust issue stemming from our desire to be in control. When we try to play God, the result is always worry and stress. We keep trying to fix tomorrow's problems with today's resources. God gives grace in daily doses that are always enough and right on time.
Isaiah 43:2 "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you" (NLT).
Count on God for direction. When we don't know or refuse to follow God's plan, life can easily spin out of control in a whirlwind of confusion and doubt. God offers direction and guidance through His Word, through His people and through the Holy Spirit.
Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you" (NLT).
Count on God for provision. God goes before us in every area of life. Nothing that happens to us will ever surprise God. We must be careful to stay away from scenario sickness of "what if." There are no "what ifs" when we choose to trust God for every need. God is at work around us, meeting needs we are not even yet aware of. Even as we pray, God's answer is on the way.
Isaiah 65:24 "I will provide their needs before they ask. I will help them while they are still asking for help" (NLT).
Count on God for protection. God will fight for us when we are attacked. When we yield control to God and follow Him, God fights for us but when we pursue our agenda, we step out from under His umbrella of protection and into our own limited strength.
Exodus 14:13 "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still" (NIV).
I recently saw a bumper sticker that read, "If God is your Co-Pilot, switch seats!" The story is told of a newly licensed pilot who was flying his private plane through a fierce storm. He was not very experienced in instrument landing, so when the storm worsened, he realized that the control tower was going to have to bring him in for a landing. The pilot started thinking about all of the hills, towers and buildings in the area and began to panic. Over his radio, a calm but stern voice commanded, "You just obey instructions and we'll take care of the obstructions." Many of us have good reason to be afraid because we are sitting in the control seat of our life, trying to maneuver around every obstruction we face. Stress thrives in an atmosphere of fear and doubt when our hand is on the steering wheel of life. We need to move over, surrender all control to God and find the peace waiting in His hand.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is so often filled with fear and it seems like I am drowning in the uncertainties of my life. Help me learn to surrender my fears to You and leave them in Your hands. Strengthen me to face each storm and walk through it, knowing that You are with me. I choose to trust You and doubt my fears. I choose against stress and for peace. I choose You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your greatest fears.
Prayerfully surrender each fear to he loving and faithful control of God.
Destroy the list as an offering of praise and thanksgiving to God's perfect peace now enthroned in your life.
When fear and doubt assault you, the Word of God is your most powerful weapon. Read and memorize the following verses on fear:
2 Timothy 1:7
Philippians 4:6 -7
1 Peter 5:7
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I know it is human nature to "over-promise" and "under-deliver" but it still hurts when someone in my life breaks their promise to me. The only person in my life that has never failed me is God. He is faithful. His promises are true and eternal. You really can count on Him, friend.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with stress and learning to manage it before it manages you. (Also available on CD)
Looking for a Bible Study? Mary now has several E-Bible Studies available. You can download each lesson on your own computer, print it out and complete it at your own pace. These E-Bible Studies are perfect for both personal and small group study.
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June 22, 2010
Free to Fulfill an Extraordinary Purpose
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!" (Luke 1:45 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Mary, the mother of Jesus, was certainly an extraordinary woman. All through the gospels we see her playing leading roles in God's redemptive plan. In the book of Acts, we see Mary one last time. After Jesus' resurrection, he addressed the disciples one final time before his ascent to take his seat at the right hand of the Father. He instructed them to wait for the promised Holy Spirit, reassured them that he would return again, and commissioned them to share the gospel to the ends of the earth. Then Jesus was taken up before their very eyes, and the group headed to Jerusalem to wait.
So who was among this commissioned group of disciples? Peter, John, James, Andrew, Philip, Thomas, Bartholomew, Matthew James Simon, Judas son of James, the women, Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers. Hold everything! The women? Yes, the women. Mary? Yes, Mary. For centuries, the religious leaders had been an all boys club. But now, a fresh wind blew in to change the scenery of the new order called "the church." Jesus' parting words commissioned both men and women to spread the gospel to the ends of the earth.
Mary, the mother of Jesus was among the disciples. She was a disciple, a learner, a follower. She was commissioned with the rest to spread the gospel "in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth." And while we don't meet up with this incredible woman again, we can be sure that she did just that.
Mary was among the collective prophesy of Joel: "'In the last days,' God says, 'I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams. Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy'" (Acts 2:17-18; Joel 2:28-32 emphasis added).
We have to be careful not to worship Mary. Jesus didn't. When someone from a crowd yelled, "Blessed is the mother who gave birth and nursed you;" Jesus answered, "Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it" (Luke 11:27, 28).
Perhaps the most remarkable character trait of Mary, the one we can grasp with both hands and soar with her to great heights, is her radical obedience. From the very beginning, Mary's response to God's call on her life rings through the ages: "I am the Lord's servant. May it be to me as you have said" (Luke 1:38). When that is our response to God's call on our lives, we will indeed lead extraordinary lives filled with great exploits for the kingdom.
Yes, God chose Mary. Yes, God chose you. He has freed us from insignificance, and the key to access that freedom lies in Jesus' words: "Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it." That is where our significance lies.
That type of obedience flows from a relationship of trust. It is not a burden or a "have to" but a joy and a "want to." It is not obedience simply because the Bible says so, but an adventure because we link arms with Jesus and follow him into great purpose. This is a place where our simple water is transformed into the robust wine of life.
God has great plans for all of us. "Things which eye has not seen and ear has not heard, and which have not entered the heart of man, all that God has prepared for those who love Him" (1 Corinthians 2:9). As Mary has shown us, God sets the offer before us, but He will not force His plan on anyone. We have to choose and say "yes" to Him. "Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!" (Luke 1:45). That, my friend, is the key to experiencing the abundant life!
God freed Mary from an ordinary life and freed her to fulfill an extraordinary purpose. He called an ordinary girl named Mary center stage, and she willingly walked forward to take her place. I'm so glad she did.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I want to be radically obedient like Mary. Help me to be a woman who says "yes" when You call. I know that You have a great plan for my life. My prayer is that others will say about me..."Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you are ready to experience the abundant life that God has planned for you all along, then write out this verse and fill in the blank with your name.
"I, ________________, am the Lord's servant. May it be to me as you have said" (Luke 1:38).
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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June 23, 2010
Service: Love in Action
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 2:10 "God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing" (NCV).
Friend To Friend
The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water that flows down, clear and cold from the heights of Hermon and the roots of the cedars of Lebanon. The Sea of Galilee is a place of great beauty because it has an outlet. It gathers in its riches and then pours them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. However, the Dead Sea, with the same water creates horror. The Dead Sea has no outlet. It gets to keep.
When we come to God, one of our first "natural" responses is to serve Him. In fact, our service to God should be spontaneous, enthusiastic and tireless. If there is no desire to serve or we find it hard to serve, then there is something wrong in our relationship with God.
One summer, our air conditioner was not working correctly. It only partially cooled the house but seemed to run all day long, doubling our electric bill. When the repairman arrived, the first thing he did was remove the filter from the air conditioning unit. It was filthy. He then removed the coil which was completely covered with layers of dog hair, cat fur and dust. The repairman explained, "This unit was never meant to work under this load. It is working as hard as it can but it is not strong enough to do something it was never intended to do." He then replaced the filter and cleaned the coil. Our electric bill went back down, the house was cooler than it had been in months and the unit ran smoothly.
We were created to serve God and to worship Him - here on earth and for eternity. Worship and service cannot be separated. When we worship God, we will naturally serve Him and when we serve God, we are worshipping Him.
There are many Christians who are doing nothing but there are no Christians who have nothing to do. When we think of a servant, we may think of someone who reports to work for a specific amount of time and is paid a specific wage. That is an employee - not a servant. The word "serve" comes from the Greek word "latreuo" and is often translated as "worship." It is not the picture of a slave serving a master. It is the picture of a love relationship that compels action.
Romans 12:1 (NIV) "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship."
We worship God by pleasing Him in the daily routines of life. In other words, we should consider each day as a worship service to God.
· Cleaning house
· Cooking meals
· Making beds
· Picking up children
· Helping a neighbor
· Buying groceries
· Teaching a bible study
· Listening to a hurting friend
Service begins in the heart where it was conceived in love and then works its way out in every day life as an act of praise and gratitude. Service is love in action.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for sending Your son, Jesus Christ, to die in my place and pay for my sin. I can never thank You enough for Your grace, mercy and love. I want to serve You with my whole heart. Please lead and direct me in the way You have for me to go. I want to be Your servant.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List several talents and gifts that you recognize in your own life.
How are you using those talents and gifts to serve God?
Ask those who know you best to identify your strengths. You may be surprised at their response.
Look for ways to serve in the areas that give you the most joy.
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The most joyful people I know are the ones who serve God whenever and wherever they can. Don't try to serve with the gifts you think you should have. I encourage you to identify your gifts and abilities and then use them to serve others. God created you with a specific plan in mind and will empower you for His service.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with stress and learning to manage it before it manages you. (Also available on CD)
Looking for a Bible Study? Mary's new E-Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation may be exactly what you need. You can download each lesson on your own computer, print it out and complete it at your own pace. Perfect for both personal and small group study.
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June 24, 2010
Mad Mary
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"After this, Jesus traveled about from one town and village to another, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom of God. The Twelve were with him, and also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases: Mary (called Magdalene) from whom seven demons had come out; Joanna the wife of Cuza, the manager of Herod's household; Susanna; and many others." Luke 8:1-3a NIV).
Friend To Friend
She was just a normal little girl frolicking about the house, toying with the goats, and sticking her fingers in her mother's rising dough. After her father died, Mary's mother tried her best to raise the child on what little her husband had left behind. But when puberty began to bloom, a poisonous weed began to take root in Mary's mind. With each passing year, her behavior grew more and more erratic.
Often she was seen banging her head against the wall of their modest home, screaming curses to unseen shadows, crawling like an animal through the yard, and cutting her arms with sharp edged stones. Mary's mother was almost relieved when the deranged young woman ran away to live among the tombs. "Now I won't have to deal with her craziness," her mother breathed.
Mary Magdalene was an outcast, demon-possessed lunatic - unwanted, unclean, untouchable, and unapproachable. But all that was about to change.
"Peter," Jesus spoke as he led the troupe of men toward the cemetery on the fringes of Magdala, "I need to stop by here for a moment."
"But why," John questioned. "Do you have a relative's grave you wish to visit?"
"Not a physically dead relative," my friend, "but a spiritually dead sister who needs me."
With confused looks on their faces, Jesus' friends knew not to argue with Jesus' travel plans. It seemed he always had an agenda that they didn't know about.
As soon as the band of disciples neared the tombs, a half-dressed woman in tattered rags bolted from the brush.
"We know who you are," the woman hissed. "You are the Son of God. What do you want with us?"
The disciples recoiled at the sight and stench of this mad woman, but Jesus drew near. Certainly this was not the sister he mentioned. With a shout, Jesus directed his words toward the woman, but rebuked the demons within. "Come out of her!"
The woman fell to the ground in a violent seizure. After a few moments of blood curdling screams and obscene curses, she lay perfectly still.
"Is she dead?" James asked.
"No, my friend," Jesus replied. "She is actually more alive than she has ever been."
Jesus knelt down beside her, brushed the hair from her eyes and extended his hand. "Mary, Daughter of Abraham, rise to newness of life."
The disciples stared wide-eyed as Mary stood to her feet and in her right mind. Her crazy countenance was replaced by perfect peace.
"Thank you, thank you," she cried as tears of freedom and joy coursed down her weathered cheeks.
Jesus turned to walk away to his next assignment, but rather than stand and stare in awe, Mary ran to follow. The disciples waited for Jesus to send her away. They were quite surprised when he did the opposite and motioned for her to come along. From that day on, she would remain among the disciples to do whatever she could to further the ministry of Jesus.
We don't know much about Mary Magdalene's encounter with Jesus and her deliverance from demons. A closer look at her emancipation only allows us to examine one solitary sentence. "The Twelve were with him, and also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases: Mary (called Magdalene) from whom seven demons had come out..." (Luke 8:2).
For most of my life, I pictured Jesus traveling about with his twelve disciples. After all, isn't that the picture in the Sunday school books? It was only recently that the landscape in my mind changed dramatically. I had to walk over to the easel in my mind and paint a new picture on a fresh canvas. Jesus didn't travel about with only the twelve men. Luke lets us know that there were women who travelled with them as well: Mary Magdalene, Joanna, Susanna, and many others.
"...and many others." I just love that. These were women who had been healed, delivered, saved and empowered by Jesus. Where have they been all my life? They've been there all along, but somehow I've missed their influence and impact on Jesus' earthly ministry. I've allowed ancient artists to paint the pictures of Jesus and his entourage in my mind rather than Scripture.
Now we are a part of "...and many others." In Jesus' day, women were not allowed to study under a Rabbi's teaching, attend temple services in the same room with the men, or even talk to men in public. But Jesus came to change all that. He showed great love and respect for God's female image bearers and risked his reputation to save theirs. He flung open the doors to His classroom for them to learn and the doors of the Kingdom for them to serve.
I hope you know just how much God loves you today. Jesus is proof of just how much He does.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Thank You for all you did to set women free to play leading roles in Your redemptive story. I pray that I, like Mary Magdalene, will do what I can to further the gospel of Jesus Christ.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Did today's devotion give you a better idea of what Mary Magdalene's life may have been like before she met Jesus?
Most likely, you have not been delivered from 7 demons like our sister Mary, but if you know Jesus Christ as Savior, you have been delivered from darkness. Look up the following verses and note how you have been delivered from darkness.
Ephesians 5:8
Colossians 1:13
1 Peter 2:9
I'd love to hear your comments about today's devotion. Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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June 25, 2010
Connecting the Dots
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you." (John 14:26, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Ever since I was young, I've loved connecting dots. In my childhood, it was dots with numbers on paper that I could connect and color. As I threw my attention to the page and followed the numbered steps, a picture developed. A new creation appeared. It brought joy to my little-girl heart.
My grown-up dot-connecting challenges are far from a kid's fun sheet. There are "life dots" like: parenting dots, faith dots, emotion dots, relationship dots, job dots, and decision dots. I continually struggle to make sense of situations and circumstances and long for a simply numbered life sheet to give me guidance and direction.
Do you ever feel that way? Do you ever wonder how to connect the practical instruction of God's Word to your daily choices and behaviors? Do you struggle to understand how to connect the dots between your questions and God's answers? Between the decisions you need to make and God's wisdom?
If you have a pulse, I'm guessing you deal with this dot-connecting life stuff regularly like I do. The Lord knew we would struggle with this, and He gives each of us the power to connect our life dots according to His plan. How? Through His Holy Spirit.
In Scripture, we see a beautiful promise of God. Before His crucifixion and resurrection, Jesus told His disciples that He must die in order to connect the sinful hearts of man to the holy heart of God. He explained that though He was leaving this world, His followers would not be left alone or without power.
"If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Counselor to be with you forever - the Spirit of truth" (John 14:15-17a).
Jesus went on to say, "All this I have spoken while still with you. But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you" (John 14:25-26).
The Holy Spirit works in and through us to connect the life dots between our heart and God's. He's the connector between our problems and God's solutions. When we go to God in prayer and ask Him to help us take the next step, or make the next decision, or choose the next response, He will faithfully lead us to the next dot with wisdom through the power of His Holy Spirit.
Invite the Holy Spirit to lead your decisions and emotions today. Open your heart to His counsel. Call on His wisdom and listen for the whispers of His truth. When you do, He will connect your life dots in order to bring glory to God the Father. Imagine what our lives, families, churches, and communities would look like if we allowed the Spirit of God within us to connect our life dots each day. The world would see a beautiful faith picture.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are all-knowing and all-powerful. You know every decision I need to make and every challenge I face. Please forgive me for the times that I try to figure this life out on my own. I need You. I need Your Holy Spirit to give me strength, wisdom, and direction, specifically concerning ______________.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
After telling His disciples about the Holy Spirit in John 14, Jesus blessed them with a peace promise: "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid" (John 14:27).
Where does this promise find you today?
Whatever you are facing, know that the Holy Spirit is ready to guide and comfort you. Journal your thoughts and ask God to connect the faith dots for you so you can bring Him glory in your circumstances and then experience His peace.
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June 28, 2010
Fresh Hope for the Journey
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Friend To Friend
I had almost forgotten what it felt like to wake up at the bottom of that deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. The darkness has been an all too familiar companion for most of my life. Over the years, I tried just about everything to soothe the pain in my heart and mind - things like success in ministry, the approval of others, perfectionism, doing good things, and food - to name a few.
In 1995, the bottom fell out of my life and I spent two long years climbing out of that pit of darkness. I even wrote a book, "Hope in the Midst of Depression" that describes the painful but healing journey that totally and completely changed who I was and what I would become in the years ahead. God absolutely "re-defined" me and gave me a "new song" to sing as He opened doors for me speak to women across the world about how to find hope in the midst of depression. I have often said, "I would go through that pit experience again tomorrow because of what God has done in my life through it." I really meant those words. I just didn't think that "tomorrow" would come. But it has. So what do I do now?
I go back to the place where it all began - to the place of complete brokenness - and remember. Evidently, I have forgotten some of truths God taught me in the darkness. I have surrendered right priorities to the wrong plan and failed to hear God's voice above all others.
Depression may not be the problem you are facing, but the hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. But a pit is a pit - a place of paralyzing fear and numbing doubt that is constantly fed by our human frailty and desperate attempts to escape the darkness.
Over the next two days, we will explore four steps we can take in order to find fresh hope and new freedom from the darkness. Let's get started!
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
I recently underwent what I thought was going to be a simple medical procedure, but when I woke up in recovery, I knew I was in trouble. According to the doctor, the surgery went great but she had not expected to find so much scar tissue and repair work to do and I certainly had not expected to experience the level of pain, soreness and inability to function that overwhelmed me. I was basically helpless. I had given myself a whole ten days to recuperate but it was brutally obvious that recuperation was going to be a long time coming. In fact, those ten days I had so generously carved out of my schedule turned into months of painful and slow recovery. I could feel myself sliding into that familiar pit of darkness.
You see, I have a problem with pride. It has always been extremely hard for me to accept help. I was raised to be strong and independent. When anyone asked what they could do to help out during my recovery, I automatically responded with, "I am fine. I will let you know if I need anything." Fortunately, my family and friends ignored that absurd assertion and stepped right over my pride as they brought meals, cleaned house, did laundry, assumed my teaching and speaking responsibilities and kept our infant grandson while our daughter attended school three days a week. I could not even get out of bed or go downstairs without help - and I did not like it one bit! In fact, I was furious!
Just like a tiny flame can turn into a raging fire, unresolved anger can turn into depression. As I began to work through my own anger and frustration, one purpose of this particular pit quickly emerged as God reminded me of a truth I often share but fail to practice. We were created to need God and each other. It is so easy to slide into a pattern of thinking much like the prideful toddler who announces, "I do it myself!"
We can't! And the good news is that we don't have to! Lay down your pride, girlfriend, and let fresh hope fill your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I cannot deal with the darkness and climb out of this pit in my own strength. I recognize my human frailty. I am desperate without You and I choose to trust You and rest in Your sufficiency. Make me more like Jesus and teach me the truths You have for me in this pit.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pits can bring life to a screeching halt, demanding that we change our perspective of living and examine our priorities in light of that new perspective. Read 1 Peter 1:6. Compare your perspective to the one described in this verse.
Pits make us face and admit our weaknesses and come to the conclusion that we cannot live life in our own strength. Read 2 Corinthians 12:10. Make a list of your weaknesses and struggles and thank God for each one. Celebrate the power of God's grace in your life.
Pits can strengthen our faith if we allow them to. Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. How has God's power helped you face and deal with the darkness?
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June 29, 2010
Fresh Hope for the Journey
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Friend To Friend
Hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. What can we do to find hope in the midst of the darkness?
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
Step 2: Choose a response to the pit.
We have several choices about how to deal with the pain and darkness in life. We can become bitter and blame God for the pain or we can give up and wallow in the mire and mud of that slimy pit. I am guilty of plastering a smile on my face, gritting my teeth and denying that the pit even exists. However, the choice we should make is to trust God, knowing He will deliver us in and from the pit. The Apostle Paul was an expert when it came to squeezing a seed of victory and truth out of every tough circumstance.
2 Corinthians 12:7-9 "So that I would not become too proud of the wonderful things that were shown to me, a painful physical problem was given to me. I begged the Lord three times to take this problem away from me. But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you.'"
Paul was not sinning by asking God to remove his affliction. Paul may not have understood what God was doing, but he chose to accept it because he knew God's heart. Paul may not have understood God's process but he trusted God.
Step 3: Embrace the power of the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you. When you are weak, my power is made perfect in you.' So I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
God was sending Paul a message of hope. It is important to note the tense of the verb in this verse, "But he said to me" can be translated "He (God) has once-for-all said to me." It is an eternal promise.
The story is told of a business man who was selling warehouse property that had been empty for months. Since vandals had damaged the doors, smashed the windows and left garbage, the building needed expensive repairs. As the owner showed a prospective buyer the property, he was quick to explain that he would make any repairs needed. The buyer said, "Forget the repairs. When I buy this place, I'm going to build something completely different. I don't want the building - just the site."
God's grace turns defeat into victory, tragedy into triumph and weakness into strength by providing real power over circumstances. People without Christ can muster up enough courage and human strength to get through a trial. God will not only enable us to survive the hard times, He wants us to thrive in and because of them. Paul used his pain and chose to make that pit work for him - and God's power was unleashed in Paul's life.
Step 4: Find joy in the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
Joy is not an earthly treasure but a heavenly gift from our loving Father who is committed to the joy of His children. I am convinced that God entrusts the greatest trials to those who will respond to them in the right way. Some of the most joyful people I know have suffered the most because they have learned not to live on explanations but on promises - the promises of God.
I love the story of the little girl who misquoted her favorite Bible verse, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son so that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have ever-laughing life." Jesus wants to give us a life of joy, pits and all. We need to remember that joy is the deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control and that our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outer circumstances. We can find joy in the pit.
Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of the book, Man's Search for Meaning, was imprisoned by the Nazis in World War II because he was a Jew. His wife, children and parents were killed in the Holocaust. As the Gestapo stripped away his clothes and cut off his wedding band, Victor said to himself, "You can take away my family and destroy everything I possess, but there is one thing that no person can ever take from me - my freedom to choose how I react to what happens to me."
Let's Pray
Father, thank You that You are my strength and my joy at a time when I feel so weak, trapped in a pit of despair. By faith, I turn to You and seek Your forgiveness for the pride that blinds me to the hope I can find in You. Please help me to see Your hand at work in my life and even when I can't, give me the power to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3.
Record these verses in your journal.
When the darkness comes, remember each promise and count on God's grace.
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I really hope and pray that these devotions have met a need in your life. We are living in difficult and dark times for so many people. If you are one of them, we want you to realize that you are not alone. Maybe God wants to use you to encourage someone else battling the darkness. Know that we are praying for you and walking with you - over every mountain - through every valley - girlfriends in God. Blessings.
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June 30, 2010
Stark Contrast
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be" (James 3:9-10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
The summer heat can be unbearable. North Carolina is by no means a place of cool summers. To the contrary, we Tar Heel residents expect to have our air conditioning units running almost round the clock. But the heat we've experienced this year has been uncommonly sweltering. At times, it's been so balmy that my sweat drops had sweat drops! Now, you can call it global warming, or you can call it chance, but I just call it plain old hot!
On one of those crazy-hot summer days, I spent time at our local library. I sat on the lower level, which is the coolest area in the building. The vigilante AC unit worked aggressively to protect us book-reading occupants from the external heat wave. I was on the chilly lower level for the better part of two hours, and gradually turned to a human icicle. My fingers were completely numb as I signed out a Hardy Boys book for my son and turned to exit the building.
As I opened the door to leave, a forceful wave of heat swept over me. In that moment, I thought, "Wow! That sure is a stark contrast! What a temperature change!" From one extreme to the other, the heat pendulum had swung. Hot to cold, and then hot again. As I considered the contrast, it occurred to me that the temperature of my life might sometimes look the same. It gave me reason to pray.
Have you ever gotten up early and had a sweet time with the LORD, only to turn into an unreasonable, raging screamer hours later? Have you ever had an argument with your spouse or children on the way to church, only to cross the threshold of the lobby with blessings and kindness on your tongue? Have you ever driven in traffic with worship music on the dash and praise on your lips when suddenly, someone cut you off and the praises on your tongue turned to cursing? If you've answered "yes" to any of these questions, welcome to the Sinner's Club. All humans have an automatic membership that activates at birth and is irrevocable until we accept forgiveness through Jesus Christ, and see His face on the other side of glory.
The Bible calls us to a higher, more consistent temperature of living. We must be careful not to praise and curse with the same tongue. Are you swinging the pendulum of your responses, or are they swinging you? We are accountable for our behavior. We are accountable for the way we respond to circumstances. Our responses reflect the core of who we are. They reflect our faith ... good or bad.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV).
As we go through today, let's center the thermometer of our hearts on Christ so we are less likely to respond in stark contrast to His perfect example of love. Let's heed the wisdom found in Proverbs 3:3: "Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart."
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive me for the times when my responses are unkind. Please forgive me for the times when I over-react and under-love. I need the power of the Holy Spirit to moderate the temperature of my heart and my responses.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you over reacted or responded harshly to a family member, friend or co-worker lately?
Have you been trying to be the thermostat instead of the mercury?
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Okay - this is hard! Trust me, as I was stepping on your toes with this message, I was trampling all over mine, too. Let's go in grace today, and pray that God will be strong in our weakness. We are continually being transformed into a greater likeness of Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit ... one day at a time ... thank You, Jesus!
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July 1, 2010
Stop! In the Name of Love
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering," (Mark 5:34 NIV).
Friend To Friend
"Gone. All gone."
For twelve long years, she had been bleeding. Over 4,380 days. Lydia had gone from doctor to doctor to try and stop the flow, but as the years progressed she only worsened. Each day was a reminder of the emptiness she felt as her very life ebbed from her body.
"I've lost my family, my friends, my energy and now all my money. My very womanhood, the ability to conceive and suckle a child at my breast flows out of my body and leaves me a barren wasteland. And the pain? The constant cramping feels as though my womb is being squeezed by an invisible hand.
"'Unclean.' That's what the priests say I am. No one is supposed to even touch me unless they are willing to go through a cleansing process afterwards. The house I live in, the chair I sit in, the utensils I cook with - all ceremonially unclean. Oh how I long for a human touch. A hug. A kiss. A pat on the back. A baby's cheek against my own."
"Oh, God," Lydia prayed. "There is nothing else for me to do. I've tried everything. Only a miracle will set me free from this life of isolation."
God smiled down at his daughter of Abraham and noticed her name on Jesus' celestial day-timer. Today was the day.
Sitting all alone in a darkened room, she heard a ruckus outside her window.
"It's Jesus!" Someone shouted. "Jesus is coming!"
"Jesus," she whispered to herself. "Maybe he could heal me. I know I'm not supposed to go out in public. Certainly I cannot speak to this man or any man on the street. What can I do?"
Quickly, she devised a plan. She wrapped a veil around her face with only enough of an opening for her eyes to peer out. She snuck out of her home and merged with the throng of people trying to catch a glimpse of the much-acclaimed healer and teacher. Gathering all the courage she could muster, she pushed her way through the crowd in hopes of getting close enough just to touch the hem of his robe.
"Jesus!" a man called from the crowd. Like the parting of the sea, the multitude gave way for the synagogue ruler to pass. Everyone knew Jarius. He was important.
Jesus turned as Jarius fell at his feet and begged. "My little daughter is dying," he began. "Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live."
The woman looked on as Jesus extended his hand to this distraught father, compassionately helped him to his feet, and apparently changed course to go with him. It was then that she made her move.
Shoring up courage and confidence, Lydia began muttering to her self, "If I can just touch his clothes, I will be healed. I know it. I just know it. I can't let this opportunity slip away." While unsure of herself, she was confident in Him. Her faith overcame her fear and she pressed forward.
Like a runner stretching for the finish line, the woman reached through the crowd and brushed her fingers against the hem of his garment. Just as her faith reached out to touch Jesus, God's healing power reached down to touch her. Immediately, she felt a surge of power flow through her body and the flow of blood come to a halt.
She knew it. She felt it. The flow stopped ... and then Jesus stopped.
"Who just touched my clothes?" he asked.
The woman kept her eyes fixed to the ground as a jumble of thoughts scrambled through her mind. I'm unclean and not supposed to be out in public. I'm not supposed to touch anyone. What am I going to do? If I remove my veil people with recognize me. I'm not supposed to talk to a man in public. She wanted to run, but her feet were suddenly rooted to the ground.
"You see the people crowding against you," his disciples answered, "and yet you can ask, 'Who touched me?'"
Jesus ignored the disciples' comments and continued to pan the crowd in search of the person who had purposely touched his robe. He felt the power flow from his body like a current. He knew what had happened. Jesus can always sense the difference between the press of the curious and the touch of the faithful.
Silence hung like a cloud. No one said a word.
Finally, she couldn't hold it in any longer. She turned to Jesus and fell at his feet. With trembling voice, a geyser of gratitude and confession gushed forth.
"Master, I have had an issue of blood for over twelve years. I have gone from doctor to doctor and no one has been able to help me. I've lost my family, my friends and my finances. But when I heard that you were passing through, I just knew that you, O Lord, that you could heal me. I know I'm not supposed to touch anyone. I know that I am unclean in all regards. Please forgive me for the intrusion. But Jesus, what I have to tell you is this! I am healed! As soon as I touched the hem of your robe, the blood ceased to flow! Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus."
While others began to back away from her "uncleanness," Jesus reached forward and embraced her faith.
"Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that when I feel alone and forgotten, You see me. Thank you for sending Jesus my way. Even though others may desert me, You always draw me near.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Today's devotion is a retelling of Jesus healing the woman with the twelve year bleeding in Mark 5:21-34. I encourage you to go back and read it from the Bible.
How do you think you would you feel if you had been bleeding for 12 years?
Have you ever felt forgotten?
How would you feel if Jesus stopped right in the middle of what He was doing to speak to you and take care of your needs?
Sister, He has.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 2, 2010
Not Forgotten
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He said to her, 'Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering,'" (Mark 5:34 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Oh how I love the story of Jesus healing the woman with the issue of blood recorded in Mark 5:21-34. In my last devotion, we looked at the overall story. Today, let's take a closer look.
I can so relate to this woman. What woman among us hasn't felt the wretchedness of rejection, the shame of suffering, and the humility of hopelessness? What woman hasn't wondered, would God care about the likes of me? And here we have a story of just how much God values and esteems His female image bearers. He singles out one lone woman from a multitude of curious followers, heals her of her affliction with but a touch, and then shines the heavenly spotlight center stage for her to testify of the miraculous transformation.
The woman we meet in Mark, chapter five, has been called, "the woman with the issue of blood." She was defined by what was wrong with her. For twelve long years, this woman had been bleeding; we can assume it was vaginally. When we meet her, she is physically, financially, socially and spiritually drained - bankrupt in every way.
In Biblical days, certain situations and conditions rendered a person ceremonially unclean. Leprous people were separated from society and had to shout, "Unclean! Unclean!" when they walked among common folk. Anyone who touched a dead body was considered unclean. And women were considered unclean during their monthly period.
For seven days, considered the time of a normal female period, a woman was secluded. A woman hemorrhaging for twelve years would be considered permanently unclean. If unmarried, she would not be able to marry. If married, her condition would be grounds for divorce. She would be expelled from her home, cut off from her family, and ostracized by her community.
Each doctor's visit brought a surge of hope and expectation, only to be swept away when the red flow of despair reappeared. The joy of tender youth was now a vague memory, crushed by life's hardness and the weight of disappointment. The hammer of rejection drove the nails of isolation into the coffin of her tightly secured heart.
Unlike the lame man who was lowered through the roof by four friends and placed at Jesus' feet, this woman had no one to intercede for her. There was no father pleading for his daughter. There was no husband praying for his wife. There was no master employing Jesus' help to heal a servant. When we meet this woman, she is fearful and forgotten. She is all alone - or so it seemed to her.
Sometimes we can feel the same: abandoned by friends, deserted by a spouse, forgotten by family, unseen by society. But she was not forgotten. She was not alone. This Daughter of Abraham was close to God's heart and foremost on His mind. So God the Father orchestrated His Son's journey to pass her way.
This woman understood that Jesus was radically different in his approach and appreciation of women. She knew full well that she was overstepping cultural and religious boundaries set out by pious men of her day, but it was a risk she was willing to take.
Two things happened when she touched Jesus. First she was healed. It was measurable. She felt the flow of blood had ceased. Jesus felt the power of God released. Secondly, she was revealed. Her courage was cloaked in anonymity trembling in the fear of exposure, but Jesus was not going to allow her to "steal" her healing. He wanted to do more than stop the flow of blood. He wanted to start the flow of ministry. He called her forward to testify, to tell what had just happened to her so that others would believe.
He said to her, "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering. (Mark 5:34).
A Rabbi did not speak to a woman in public, but once again, Jesus, the liberator, broke the man-made rules for the God-made woman. He did not call her out to embarrass or shame her in any way. He called her center stage to honor her honesty, to commend her courage, and to validate her valor. He did not reprimand her for breaking the religious rules, but praised her great faith.
Once again, Jesus called a woman out from the shadows and placed her center stage. No longer was she a woman in need of a healing touch, but now a believer who had received it and was called on to tell about it.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I am so thankful that Jesus didn't let this woman slip away with her healing, but called her out to tell what happened. Help me to speak up about the wonderful things You have done, and are doing in my life, so others may hear and believe.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The Bible doesn't tell us what happened to the woman after her healing. What do you think happened to her? What do you think she did with the rest of her life?
How do you think the crowd responded to her healing?
What does Revelation 12:11 tell us about the power of our personal testimonies?
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 5, 2010
Free at Last
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So Christ has really set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don't get tied up again in slavery to the law" Galatians 5:1 (NLT).
Friend To Friend
The story is told of an Indian village that held an annual bazaar where villagers came to sell the crafts and wares they had made during the year as well as the animals they had raised. One year, a man brought a covey of quail to sell. In order to display the birds, he tied one end of a piece of string to one of their legs and the other end to a stake in the ground.
All day long, shoppers passed by watching the birds walk in a circle around the stake. No one seemed interested in buying them until a religious man approached and asked how much the merchant wanted for them. The merchant named an exorbitant price, which the religious man quickly paid, immediately instructing the merchant to set the birds free. When the merchant asked why he was willing to pay so much for the birds and then let them go, the religious man simply responded, "Because they were created to be free."
The merchant didn't understand but shrugged his shoulders and cut the strings, setting the birds free. The quail continued marching in a circle around the stake. The buyer stepped into the middle of the circle, scattering the birds, which flew a few yards, landed and once again began to march in a circle. The quail were free - but did not know it.
We all seek freedom. With our very first breath, we come into this world kicking and screaming for freedom. The desire to be free was tucked into our very soul by God Himself as He formed us in the womb. Because freedom is a God-given need our Father promised to provide a right way for that need to be met and the longing for freedom to be filled.
Freedom comes through truth.
In John 8:32 we find the promise, "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (NIV). To know truth we must know God because He is truth. John 14:6 "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me." When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, we will experience true freedom for the first time - freedom from sin - freedom from condemnation and death and freedom to really live. Without truth, there can be no freedom.
Freedom comes through obedience.
Obedience calls us to challenge and lay aside anything that hinders our walk with God. Instead, we refuse to forsake cherished sin, allowing wrong attitudes to take root and prosper while harmful habits hold us prisoner. The writer of Hebrews offers compelling direction for the captured soul longing to be free. "Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us" (Hebrews 12:1). Obedience brings freedom.
Freedom comes through understanding.
Until we understand who we are in His eyes, we will never truly be free. Our value and worth rest solely in the fact that we were created, chosen and pursued by God - for God. We belong to Him. His unconditional love sets us free to become all He created us to be and more than we ever dreamed we could be. In Romans 5:8, the words of Paul celebrate our identity in Him, "But God showed his great love for us by sending Jesus to die for us while we were still sinners." Recognizing our worth and value to God sets us free from the chains of human expectations and earthly demands. Understanding brings freedom.
Christ really has set us free. The question is - are we living in that freedom. Don't live another day chained to the old ways. Seek His truth, walk in obedience and celebrate your God-created identity! Free - free at last!
Let's Pray
Father, I long to be set free in you but I have to admit that total freedom in you frightens me. I am not sure what it will require. I have allowed old habits, sins and attitudes to keep me in bondage. I know that is not your will or your plan. Right now, I lay down everything that keeps me from being free in you. Help me to walk in that freedom.
In Jesus name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there any areas in your life that seem like a deep, dark pit from which there is no escape?
· In your journal, write down the first area that came to mind.
· Turn in your Bible to Psalm 40:1-3. Read this passage several times, claiming it as God's promise to you .... because it is!
· Now look at the area of bondage you wrote down. Ask God to show you the steps you must take in order to be free from that bondage.
· Write out a prayer of commitment to do what God shows you. Date it and sign it.
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Are you ready to accept the truth that you were created to live in freedom? Great! But that's not enough. Are you willing to give God permission to work in your life in order to experience His freedom? Sometimes, I think it is easier to stay in the darkness, to be content in a familiar prison. It becomes our identity...and we are not sure if there will be a new identity waiting for us in the light. Friend, do not listen to the lies of the enemy! He wants you to stay where you are, settling for so little when God wants to offer you everything! Don't wait another minute. Cry out to God and take your first step out of bondage into freedom.
Join women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. It's Never Too Late to be Great is the current series and is based on the fascinating lives of Samson and Delilah. Do you think you have made too many mistakes and had too many failures for God to love, forgive and work through you? No matter where you have been or where you are now - it is not too late! Don't miss this study! When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies we have done so far. Check it out!
Going through a tough time? Get Mary's new DVD, Strength for the Storm and find new hope that will strengthen you for the hard times you are facing.
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July 6, 2010
When the Soul Bleeds
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6b NIV).
Friend to Friend
When we read the story of Jesus healing the woman who had been bleeding for twelve years, it is hard for us twenty-first century women to imagine such a condition lasting for so long. Medical science has progressed far beyond the rudimentary knowledge of Jesus' day. It is simply unthinkable today.
But I suggest there are still many women with chronic bleeding of a different sort. We bleed from the heart.
From the time Sarah was six-years-old, her father crept into her bedroom in the dark of night and violated her little body. Now, as an adult, her heart bleeds.
When Beth was walking to her dorm room from the college library, a man jumped from behind the bushes, and dragged her to a nearby shed and raped her at knife-point. Now, ten years later, her heart bleeds.
After twenty-years of marriage, Lucy accidentally stumbled upon an in-town hotel receipt in her husband's wallet. Suspecting the worse, she uncovered past e-mails, supposed meetings that never occurred and a trail of deceit. When presented with the evidence, her husband admitted having a three-year long affair. And her heart bleeds.
Margaret's routine physical reveals that she has AIDS. She had only been with one man her entire life - her husband. And her heart bleeds.
Laura was laid off from her job and her mother's words re-emerge like sewage leakage from an underground septic tank. "You're no good. You'll never amount to anything. You're a loser just like your father." And because of the lies, her heart bleeds.
Melissa holds her newborn little girl in her arms and coos her to sleep. Interrupting the sweetness of the wee hours of the morning, she hears her aborted child crying from the grave. Guilt presses down as the ever-present weight deflates her joy. And her heart bleeds.
Women - hoping the pain will go away; awakening each day with a memory that cuts a fresh wound. Women - longing to hear the words "Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
The woman with the issue of blood was no different from you and me. While her apparent illness was physical, her inward suffering ruled her life. But in one radical moment, with one momentous decision, she reached out to Jesus and grabbed hold of her healing.
Mark used specific words to describe our friend with the issue of blood. She "suffered greatly" and she was "afflicted." These are the same words that were used of Jesus during his last days on earth (Mark 8:32, 9:12). The same words Isaiah spoke when he prophesied of Jesus' death (Isaiah 53:7). Jesus understood her suffering more than she knew. As the blood flowed from her body and rendered her unclean, Jesus knew the blood that would soon flow from his body to cleanse us all.
He wants to set us free from our suffering, but he will not push us out of the cell. He unlocks the jail cell, but we must walk out the door. We can choose to bleed. We can choose to remain in our suffering and pick at the scabs of the past, but hear me dear friend - it is a choice. Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life and have it to the full" (John 10:10). That's what he wants for each of us. But we have to embrace the truth and, like the woman with the twelve-year-bleeding, reach for our healing.
In John, chapter five, Jesus encounters a lame man sitting by a pool of water where the paralyzed, blind, and afflicted gathered. They believed that when the waters were stirred by supposed angels, the first one in the pool would be healed. For thirty-eight years this man sat in his sickness.
Then Jesus walked up to him and asked a strange question, "Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6b).
Perhaps it was not such a strange question after all. Many times we get used to being sick and wear it like a shroud. motionally we are the walking wounded - victims who pick as scabs - not allowing them to heal.
Jesus said to the woman, "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering." That is the same healing he offers to you and to me.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I reach forward today, touch the hem of Your garment, and receive my healing. Yes, I want to get well. Give me the faith to walk in freedom and victory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there pain in your life that you have refused to let go of?
Do you want to get well?
That is a risky question. It took a lot for the man to get up off of that pallet. He had to learn how to walk, get a job, and learn to live like a healthy person. That's a big change after 38 years. But you can do it! You can let go of the past and begin to live in victory and freedom! Let's start today!
How has this devotion ministered to you? Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your comments with your Girlfriends in God all around the world.
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Want to learn more about how to be free from your past suffering and walk in victory? How to stop the bleeding of your soul and use your past pain for present purpose? Then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God.
Also, today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 7, 2010
How to Avoid Bankruptcy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
It is not enough to acknowledge the presence of negative emotions or even understand why they exist. We must take action. If we don't, negative emotions will take control, a dangerous proposition for any woman. We must not only be able to manage negative emotions in our own lives, we must be able to react correctly to negative emotions produced by the sometimes abrasive behavior of those we call family and friend. The seeker watches carefully, curious to see what happens when the pressure is on.
So many women are imprisoned by feelings of inferiority and the results are always disastrous. Constructive criticism is perceived as an emotional attack. Jealousy burgeons as others receive the accolades we desperately crave. Decisions are made and a course of life is determined so that fragile egos are fed, excluding God's plan and purpose. Comparison reigns as a false idol attempting to validate worth and success. Inferiority crosses over to pride and sin reigns.
On the other hand, we can put negative emotions to work in our lives. Every woman knows that emotions can be like runaway horses. You are trampled by a friend with a hidden agenda, kicked in the gut by a family member, thrown by the lies of a trusted co-worker or crushed by a lack of integrity and character in those in authority over you. Emotions can easily stampede out of control and into sin.
The success of emotional integrity lies in the one who holds the reins. We must constantly choose to surrender every emotion to the supernatural control of God because when we do, the Holy Spirit empowers that choice, produces control and transforms emotional bondage into emotional freedom. Learning to control anger is a crucial life lesson and one that we need to master.
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons or squeezes our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. When Jesus saw money-changers desecrating the temple of God, He was furious! Yet, He modeled the right way to harness emotions and use them for good. I have heard many Bible teachers and preachers attempt to soften the response of Jesus, but the truth is - He was irate! I can almost see His face shrouded in plain old fury as He contemplated His options. If I had been in His place, I can tell you that those wicked men would have been toast! But before Jesus faced the intruders, He stepped aside to braid a whip - not because He had completed "Whip Braiding 101", but because He was taking the time to harness His emotions. Jesus then used that harnessed anger to drive the money-changers out of the temple, correcting a wrong. We choose where to invest every ounce of emotional energy we possess. Like Jesus, we must learn to invest wisely, in order to reap the benefits of healthy emotions, harnessed and trained by godly discipline.
Emotional bankruptcy is too often responsible for the destruction of a life. We must intentionally monitor emotional withdrawals and the impact they will have on our lives. There are certainly emotional withdrawals that are good, right and ordained by God. I will never forget the night we found a broken and defeated young pastor standing at our front door. With tears streaming down his face, John told us that his wife was having an affair and wanted a divorce. Certain that his ministry was doomed, this precious and gifted servant poured out his pain and defeat. For months, Dan and I ministered to this stellar young man, loving him, encouraging him, making him part of our family while he tried desperately to save his marriage.
When it became clear that his wife was determined to leave him, we repeatedly assured John that God would once again use him for Kingdom work. Today, that once broken young man is married to a beautiful, godly woman who adores him and has two incredible children. The church he now pastors is exploding in growth, changing lives and impacting the world for Jesus Christ! The time and energy we poured into David was a worthy emotional investment, to say the least, and one of our greatest blessings in ministry.
However, some emotional deposits are not good, right, healthy or God-ordained! Life is jam-packed with lifeless places in which to invest emotional energy. There are those who look to us to be their faithful savior or always available crisis manager. That job belongs to God alone!
We all know about bounced checks. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why banks don't adopt my obviously superior philosophy about checking accounts. It goes something like this, "As long as there are checks, there is money." Sadly, my current bank is rather narrow-minded in this area, so the reality is that my checks will bounce when our bank account is overdrawn and out of balance. The same is true in life.
We constantly need to check our emotional balance, guarding the emotional withdrawals we allow and diligently making consistent emotional deposits. Prayer, solitude, Bible study, friendships, service, accountability and a guarded thought life are just a few of the deposits that can make the difference between emotional health and emotional bankruptcy. Emotional imbalance occurs when we operate in our own strength, doing our "own thing" instead of wholly depending upon God and living in the parameters of His will. When we abandon all that we are to His strength, purpose and power, the Father deposits everything we need to accomplish every good work He created us to do.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for giving me the gift of emotions. Help me learn how to manage and control those emotions so that they are assets instead of liabilities. I want to become a godly woman of discipline but I can't even start that journey without your power. I choose to spend time in Your Word and in prayer. I submit my emotions to You and ask that You use them in my life for Your glory. And may others see and know You are God.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to make a list of the top five emotional responses common in your life. What one of these emotions do you experience the most?
Beside each emotion, write one habit you can incorporate into your life that will enable you to control that emotion.
Identify the activities, relationships or habits that drain you instead of replenish you. Eliminate those that are negative.
Keep an emotional diary for 5 days. Record any emotional outbursts and the reason behind those outbursts. Surrender each emotion to the power of God.
More From The Girlfriends
Since God created us with the capacity for emotions, He has a plan for those emotions. And since God never guides where He cannot provide, our emotional integrity is dependent on our obedience to God's plan. Sounds simple, doesn't it? Not! The best way to be ready for emotional struggles is to get ready and stay that way. Make the choice before you have to. And know we are right there with you ... walking the same path in pursuit of emotional integrity.
Need help? Check out Mary's CD and MP3, Getting Good at Being You and learn how to manage emotions, instead of allowing them to manage you.
Join other women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. It's Never Too Late to be Great is the current series and is based on the fascinating lives of Samson and Delilah. Do you think you have made too many mistakes and had too many failures in your life for God to love, forgive and work through you? No matter where you have been or where you are now - it is not too late! Don't miss this study! When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies we have done so far. Check it out!
Going through a tough time? Get Mary's new DVD, Strength for the Storm and find new hope that will strengthen you for the hard times you are facing.
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July 8, 2010
You Go Girl!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus said, "Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet returned to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, "I am returning to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God." (John 20:17 NIV emphasis added).
Friend To Friend
Jesus knew it was coming. He tried to warn the disciples. Death loomed in the air with swirls of bloodthirsty hatred circling the Son of God. But somehow the disciples didn't understand the eminence of Jesus' crucifixion, and they certainly didn't comprehend the promise of his resurrection. Mary Magdalene didn't understand it either. However, she was there until the end...and at the new beginning for us all.
After Jesus' arrest, his eleven surprised disciples scattered like church mice when the lights come on - but not Mary Magdalene. She watched in horror as his beaten body was stripped, nailed to the cruel Roman cross, and displayed before the gawking crowd. She saw his precious blood drip from his thorn-pierced brow and onto the cursed ground. Mary watched closely when his lifeless body was lowered from the cross, and she followed quietly when they laid him in the borrowed tomb. We get no stories of Mary Magdalene running away from the authorities, hiding behind locked doors, or denying her association with Jesus from curious bystanders.
When it was time to make His big reveal, Jesus had something, or rather someone, very special in mind. Let's join her crying at the empty tomb.
"Woman," he said, "why are you crying? Who it is you are looking for?"
Thinking he was the gardener, she said, "Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have put him, and I will get him."
Jesus said to her, "Mary." (John 20:15-16a)
My heart just skips a beat every time I read these words. I see myself weeping with Mary as she is down on her knees with gut wrenching sorrow pouring from her soul. All her dreams - shattered. They died with Jesus on the cross and were sealed away in the cold stone tomb. And now? Like a sweeping tidal wave, the empty tomb erased the most important three years of her life...and then...all that changed with but one word. "Mary."
As soon as he said her name, Mary knew it was Jesus.
Earlier Jesus taught, "I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me...My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me." (John 10:14, 27). When the shepherd spoke her name, this precious lamb recognized him right away.
And what was the first word the risen Savior spoke? "Woman." Don't you love it? Jesus came to set women free from societal and religious oppression of his day. He honored women. He respected women. He appointed women. His first spoken words after his resurrection were directed to one of us - and in a sense, it was meant for all of us.
She turned toward him and cried out in Aramaic, "Rabonni!" (which means Teacher).
Jesus said, "Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet returned to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, "I am returning to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God" (John 20:17).
What did Mary do when she realized that Jesus was alive? The same thing I would do if I realized that someone I loved who was presumed dead suddenly appeared. I'd grab him or her and hang on for dear life! But Mary needed to let go of Jesus because he was sending her on special assignment. She had places to go and people to see! Liz Curtis Higgs wrote: "Just as God chose Mary of Bethlehem to bring the baby Jesus into the world, so God chose Mary of Magdala to bring news of the risen Christ to the world."
During a time in history when women were not allowed to testify in court, when they were considered unreliable witnesses, God appointed Mary Magdalene the primary eye-witness of the most significant event in all of history.
Jesus' resurrection was the most pivotal point of all time. And yet, he waited until Peter and John had left the empty tomb before he made his presence known to one lone woman - Mary Magdalene. Jesus was standing center stage and he extended his hand for Mary Magdalene to join him front and center. Mary is often referred to as the "disciple to the disciples" or as Augustine described her, the "apostle of the apostles." Not only was she the first to witness Jesus' resurrection, she was also the first to proclaim it. You go, girl!
Let's Pray
Dear God, I don't know why You waited to reveal Jesus' resurrection to Mary Magdalene rather than Peter and John, but I am glad You did. Thank You for including women in Your redemptive story. Thank You for giving them leading roles. Lord, help us all to step forward when called. Help us to walk with the same courage as Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of Jesus, and the many other women who stood by Jesus until the end and beyond.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Notice the two words I highlighted in today's truth. What are they? What does that mean to you?
Considering that women were not considered reliable or credible witnesses in a court of law during the days of Jesus, what does it mean to you that God chose Mary Magdalene to be the key witness in the most important event in all of history?
Considering the way women were perceived during those days, if the writer of the resurrection story were making up a tale, would he have made Jesus appear to a woman or a man? Which would have been more logical to those hearing the story?
Don't you just love it when God defies logic!
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Does understanding how women were perceived in those days shed light on just how important God's female image-bearers were to Jesus and how He went out of His way to honor them? Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes .
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 9, 2010
Doubt Your Doubts
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 11:1 "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see."
Friend To Friend
Billy Graham once said, "Most of us do not understand nuclear fission, but we accept it. I don't understand television, but I accept it. I don't understand radio, but every week my voice goes out around the world, and I accept it. Why is it so easy to accept all these man-made miracles and so difficult to accept the miracles of the Bible?"
Faith is a personal issue and often demands that we give up what we can see for what we cannot see, but just because we can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there. Let me share some ways to weaken your doubts and strengthen your faith:
Read the bible consistently.
Romans 10:17 Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.
You may have heard the familiar Old Chinese saying, "There is a good dog and a bad dog fighting within each of us. The one that is going to win is the one we feed the most". The same is true when it comes to faith and doubt. We weaken our doubt by strengthening our faith in God. The Word of God feeds the new nature God gives us when we surrender our life to Him. As that new nature grows stronger, the old sinful nature becomes weaker and as that old nature becomes weaker, faith in God grows. A steady diet of the Word produces strong faith. Read the bible each day. Memorize a verse of scripture each week.
Turn to God constantly.
Mark 9:14-29 tells of the man who brings his demon-possessed son to Jesus Christ and pleads, "If you can do anything, take pit on us and help us". Jesus responds, "If I can! All things are possible to him who believes". The dad exclaimed, "Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief!"
Sounds just like us! We believe but we also doubt. In those moments, we must be honest enough to cry out to God! Jesus didn't punish this man for his doubt. He healed his son. God always responds to honesty!
Focus on God continually.
Psalm 34:6 This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles.
We focus on the mountain while crying out to God for help, wondering if He really will do anything. We need to remember what God promises and does not promise. God does not promise to remove the mountain or that we will even understand the mountain. However, God does promise to help us climb the mountain and He does promise to climb it with us. We must make the continual choice to fix our gaze on God and our glance on the circumstances. When doubt comes, refuse it.
Seek out faith-builders persistently.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
We need to look for people who will encourage us to be faithful instead of constantly looking for ways to undermine our faith. Did you hear about the farmer that had a brilliant dog? He also had a neighbor that was negative - no matter what. If it was raining, the farmer would say to his neighbor, "Boy, look at it rain. God's washing everything clean." The neighbor said, "Yeah, but if this rain keeps up, it's going to flood." Then the sun would come out and the neighbor would say, "If it keeps that up, it's going to burn the crops." The farmer thought, "What am I going to do with this guy?" He made a plan! The farmer trained his dog to walk on water. He didn't tell his neighbor - just took him duck hunting. Boom! Boom! They got two ducks. The farmer said to his dog, "Go get 'em." The dog sprinted across the water, picked up the ducks and hopped back in the boat, nothing wet, just his paws. With a confident smile, the farmer asked his doubting neighbor, "What do you think of that?" The neighbor quickly replied, "He can't swim, can he?" Do you know people like the neighbor? Run from the doubters in your life. We struggle enough with doubt on our own and should not compound it by investing time in doubters and cynics. Look for people who walk in faith, who believe God and study His Word. They will encourage and build your faith while weakening your doubts.
Women have so much in common. We have the same problems, the same fears and the same doubts. Don't let fear and doubt wreak havoc in your heart and mind. Stay in God's Word. Don't be afraid or ashamed to cry out to Him when you are afraid. Keep your eyes on Him and look for other women who do the same. Will you join me in a new commitment to becoming a woman of faith? Remember, when doubt knocks on the door, just send faith to answer it - and you will find no one there!
Let's Pray
Father God, I want to become a woman of faith, but I am so weak. I constantly battle fear and my faith seems so small. Please give me a new thirst for Your Word. I choose to focus on You, Father, instead of focusing on my circumstances. Help me to find faith and to be a faith-builder each day. I now turn to You, Lord.
In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your top five fears.
Choose one verse from today's devotion for each fear.
When that fear comes, cry out to God and pray that verse of Scripture aloud.
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal.
Share your decision to be a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire.
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What a journey we are on - a journey to the heart of God! Let's make that journey together, friend. We are here to encourage you and to help strengthen your faith. We are your sisters, your girlfriends in God and we would love to hear from you.
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear.
Join other women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. It's Never Too Late to be Great is the current series and is based on the fascinating lives of Samson and Delilah. Do you think you have made too many mistakes and had too many failures in your life for God to love, forgive and work through you? No matter where you have been or where you are now - it is not too late! Don't miss this study! When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies we have done so far. Check it out!
Going through a tough time? Get Mary's new DVD, Strength for the Storm and find new hope that will strengthen you for the hard times you are facing.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Face book or through email. She loves hearing what God is doing in your life!
Seeking God?
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July 12, 2010
The Stone Unthrown
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her," (John 8:7 NIV).
Friend To Friend
"What are we going to do with this Jesus," the chief priest asked the group. "He is going about healing people left and right. Everywhere I go the buzz is about Jesus. It's Jesus this, and Jesus that. And the crowds are calling him the Messiah! Everyone knows that the Messiah will not come from Galilee. If we don't get rid of him, we are going to have an insurrection on our hands."
"And ever since the buzz about him multiplying a few loaves and fish to feed over 5,000 people has circulated, his followers have multiplied as well. He must be stopped."
"I have an idea," Lucius responded with a gleam in his eye. "I happen to know a certain married man who is sleeping with his mistress at this very moment. I happened to see him slink into her house last night."
And as the hard-hearted Pharisees gathered round, a spiteful plan to trick Jesus began to unfold.
The sun was just peeking through the securely locked shutters of Morah's bedroom window. The predawn stillness was broken only by the songs of early rising birds floating on the breeze. Morah was a tangle of sheets, arms and legs as the man she loved lay sleeping beside her.
"Oh, Zachariah," she whispered as her fingertips brushed a stray lock of hair from his closed eyes. "If only you weren't married. I know this is wrong, but I love you so. And I have to believe you when you say you love me as well. We are risking our very lives with these frequent trysts."
Morah's musings were suddenly interrupted by a banging on the door.
"Open up!" the gruff voice demanded.
"Who is there?" Morah cried as she scrambled to find her robe.
"Open up or we'll break the door down."
"What's all the commotion," Zachariah mumbled as he groggily sat up in bed. "What's going on?"
Before Morah could even think to answer, the angry mob of religious men broke through the simple lock and into the lovers' hideaway.
"What is the meaning of this," Zachariah barked. "What do you think you are doing?"
"What do you think you are doing, my friend?" the Pharisee countered. "That is the real question here."
"Morah, daughter of Omar, you are under arrest for adultery under the Law of Moses!" the moral police spat. "Get dressed and come with me."
The Pharisee tossed Morah her night robe, but failed to turn his head as she slipped her trembling frame from the cover of the sheets and into the thin cloak. He grabbed her by the arm and began dragging her to the door.
"Where are you taking me?" she cried.
"You'll find out soon enough," the Pharisee growled.
"What about Zachariah?" the youngest man of the group inquired.
"Just leave him," the Pharisee replied. "We don't need him."
"Why don't you go back to your wife where you belong," the Pharisee called over his shoulder as the group left the room. And with that, the conspiring mob continued their trek to the temple with the half-clad trembling woman in tow. Two men flanked the weeping woman on either side, dragging her through the early morning hustle and bustle of the city. The bait was hooked, and now it was time to reel in the catch.
Like mice following the Pied Piper, a curious stream of townsfolk joined the parade. Jesus was already teaching in the courtyard with a group gathered at his feet. As always, Jesus' message and miracles drew large crowds. A distant rumble interrupted his gentle teaching as the angry mob and curious crowd approached. They marched right into the inner circle of the classroom and thrust the woman at the Master's feet.
Morah's unbound hair fell around her bare shoulders and fluttered in the early morning breeze. Her shame-filled eyes stayed riveted on the earthen floor, refusing to meet Jesus' gaze. Then one of the men pulled her to her feet and displayed her for all to see.
"Teacher," the pious Pharisee began, "this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The Law of Moses commands us to stone such a woman. Now what do you say?"
She didn't need to look at the man before her. She recognized his voice. It was Jesus.
Jesus didn't look at the woman's half-clad body as the others openly gawked. He looked into her soul.
Morah lifted her eyes and looked into the face of love. What do I detect in his gaze? she thought to herself. It wasn't contempt, disgust, or condemnation, but rather compassion, concern, and pure, unadulterated love. Somehow she knew that this was the look she had been searching for her entire life.
As Morah listened to the Pharisee's question, she understood Jesus' dilemma. If he set her free, the Pharisees would accuse him of ignoring the Law of Moses and deem him a heretic. If he sentenced her to death by stoning, then his teachings of grace and forgiveness would be negated.
The religious leaders already held the stones in their clenched fists, anticipating his reply. Their hearts were as hard as the rocks they held in their hands, but rather than give a quick answer, Jesus moved his gaze from the trembling woman and stooped to the ground. With his finger, the very hand of God-made-man, he began writing in the dirt. A frigid chill swept through the Pharisees pious robes. Suddenly they felt the rawness of naked exposure as Jesus' eyes looked up at each of them and without a word, uncloaked their sinful thoughts and desires. With one look from Jesus, they stood soul bare and more exposed than the half-dressed woman before them.
Everyone held their breath. The silence was deafening. The tension was palpable. Finally, Jesus rose and delivered the verdict.
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Then Jesus squatted once again and continued to write.
One-by-one the Pharisees unclenched their fists, dropped the stones, and filtered through the crowd. The older men who had accumulated a longer list of sins turned to leave first, with the younger ones not far behind.
The remaining crowd listened closely as the drama continued to unfold. After the last of the Pharisees cleared the scene, Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she replied.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
The woman turned to leave - but not before picking up a discarded stone to take with her.
"To remember," she whispered.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, this story of Your great mercy and grace takes my breath away. Just to think that the only person qualified to throw the stone was the very One who set her free. Help me to always remember that You have forgiven me of my sins. Help me to drop the stones I so quickly pick up to cast at others and extend to them the same grace You have extended to me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope your heart was stirred with the re-telling of this amazing story. We don't know the woman's name. I have simply called her Morah so we can paint a picture of a real woman with a real problem in our minds. Now let me ask a few questions...
When is the last time you held a rock of condemnation in your hand? Not a real rock, but a judgmental attitude?
When is the last time you acted like the Pharisees who were so quick to condemn?
Who do you want to be like, Jesus who showed grace and forgiveness, or the Pharisees who wanted to give her what she deserved?
Let's chat. How does this story impact your life? In other words...what difference does it make?
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July 14, 2010
Then Neither do I Condemn You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave you life of sin" (John 8:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Remember the story of the woman caught in adultery recorded in John 8:1-11? If you aren't familiar with it, stop right now and read it for yourself. The Pharisees had brought this half-dressed woman to Jesus right in the middle of his teaching and tried to snare him in a trap. Should she be stoned or set free?
As this woman listened to the Pharisee's question Jesus, she understood his dilemma. If he set her free, the Pharisees would accuse him of ignoring the Law of Moses and deem him a heretic. If he sentenced her to death by stoning, then his teachings of grace and forgiveness would be negated.
The religious leaders already held the stones in their clenched fists, anticipating his reply. Their hearts were as hard as the rocks they held in their hands. But rather than give a quick answer, Jesus moved his gaze from the trembling woman and stooped to the ground. With his finger, the very hand of God-made-man, he began writing in the dirt. A frigid chill swept through the Pharisees pious robes. Suddenly they felt the rawness of naked exposure as Jesus' eyes looked up at each of them and without a word, uncloaked their sinful thoughts and desires. With one look from Jesus, they stood soul bare and more exposed than the half-clad woman before them.
Everyone held their breath. The silence was deafening. The tension was palpable. Finally, Jesus rose and delivered the verdict.
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Then Jesus squatted once again and continued to write.
One-by-one the Pharisees unclenched their fists, dropped the stones, and filtered through the crowd. The older men who had accumulated a longer list of sins turned to leave first, with the younger ones not far behind.
After the last of the Pharisees cleared the scene, Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she replied.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
Now, let's bring this story home. Imagine yourself standing before God on your day of judgment. You know all that you have done. Satan is pacing back and forth reading your long list of sins. But then Jesus steps forward and takes the list from the accuser. Looking over the accusations he begins: "I paid for this one, and this one, and this one, and this one...."
Finally, reaching the end of Satan's meticulously penned and amazingly accurate enumeration of all your shortcomings, Jesus begins to tear the paper into shreds. He cups the pieces of the destroyed list of failures in his nail-scarred hands and then, with the breath of grace, blows them as far as the east is from the west. Wiping his hands together as if completing a work, he glances back over to the Judge, "All gone," he says with a smile.
Satan grumbles under his sulfurous breath, and slinks back to his darkened cave - foiled again.
God looks up and asks you, "Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," you reply.
"Then enter my eternal kingdom and find rest."
Friend, if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, and if you are still feeling condemned, know that condemnation is not coming from God. Our enemy, the devil or Satan, is called the "accuser of the brothers," and he is the accuser of the sisters as well. The Bible tells us that he marches before God accusing believers night and day. (Revelation 12:11). "She did this and that and that and this and that," he hisses.
And God' replies "Really? I don't remember? There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
Then He looks at you with a welcoming smile.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for forgiving me of my sins. Thank You for washing me clean. Thank You that when the enemy accuses me before You, Jesus steps forward to announce He's paid my debt and set me free.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you truly believe that God has forgiven you of your sins? If you're not sure, read 1 John 1:9.
Notice the last thing Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery. What was it?
Jesus wasn't saying that what she did was OK. He called sin a sin. Could it be that He is saying the same to you in a particular area of your life today? (Sorry. I just had to go and make it personal, didn't I? But that's what girlfriends are for!)
Did God speak to you in today's devotion? If so, I'd love to hear it! Share your comments with other GiGs at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book with a special gift with purchase until July 17th, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 15, 2010
I Want Her Gift!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 12:4 "There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit."
Friend To Friend
We get into trouble when we try to serve God with the gifts we want instead of the gifts we actually have. By the time I was in high school, I just knew I was going to marry a minister. I had to get ready if I was going to be a pastor's wife because it is a widely known fact that the wife of a pastor has to be able to do certain things - one of which is sewing.
As a high school junior, I decided it was time to take Homemaking 101. I can still see Mrs. Johnson's face as she naively gazed at her new students. Bless her unsuspecting heart! She had no idea the challenge I brought to that class and to her career as a teacher. For weeks, I muddled through each lesson with a respectable but less than stellar performance, until we hit the section on sewing. It would prove to be her undoing where I was concerned.
Being the veteran teacher that she was, Mrs. Johnson took a deep breath and doggedly plunged ahead in determination, vowing she could teach anyone to sew - even me. I decided to make a blouse and chose what I thought was a simple and easy McCall's pattern. Mrs. Johnson was thrilled with my selection, competent that even I could make a blouse requiring approximately seven straight seams. The pattern looked so simple and even pretty in the package. Then I opened it, gingerly unfolding and carefully arranging each delicate pattern piece, staring at the foreign documents before me. They were simply beyond human comprehension. I concluded that the pattern was actually a sinister trap of some accomplished but sadistic seamstress and quickly stuffed the flimsy entrapments back into their package. After all, I was creative! I didn't need a pattern! I knew exactly what I wanted to make. How hard could it possibly be? Ignorance really can be bliss.
When I presented the completed blouse to Mrs. Johnson for a grade, her eyes widened as she silently stared at my first and last attempt at sewing. "Interesting," she muttered, obviously in shock. I made a "C" in her class, a sympathy grade if there ever was one. And the blouse? I buried it in my back yard - literally. Since that day, I always make sure I have at least one friend who can sew and the name of two seamstresses on hand at all times. However, in all my years as Dan's wife, I can truthfully say that my inability to sew has never hindered God's work in my life or my calling as the wife of a pastor.
Another line of thinking proposes that because I am a pastor's wife, I should drag out my silver (if I had any) and host dinners and teas for the women of the church. (Please know that those of you who actually enjoy these tortuous events have my undying admiration and respect.) In our first full-time church, I actually gave it a shot by inviting the entire church to our home for a Christmas open house. Since there were several hundred church members at the time, I concluded it would take three nights to accommodate them all. Looking back, my only defense is a complete loss of sanity.
My family hated the month before the first open house. They had good reason. I put them all to work, cleaning and scrubbing every square inch of the house. I bought and hoarded food, threatening anyone who even thought about infiltrating my "stash." I even managed to destroy Thanksgiving week-end by insisting that we decorate, inside and out, for Christmas, not in anticipation of celebrating Christ's birth, but in preparation for the "open houses" to be held the following weekend.
For three years, I tried to be the "hostess with the most-ess" until my husband put a stop to the madness by asking one simple question, "Honey, why are you doing these open houses? You obviously don't enjoy them very much." The answer that popped into my mind and out of my mouth was absurd. "Because that's what pastor's wives do!" I feebly responded. "Where does it say that, honey?" he asked. I had no answer to that question.
Dan went on to set me free. "We have done our last open house. Please don't ever do anything else because you think it fits the man-made profile of a pastor's wife. Do what God has gifted and called you to do - period - and never apologize to anyone for doing so." I do not have the gift of hospitality, but in every church we have ever served, there have been amazing women who do and delight in using that gift for Him.
What about you? Are you embracing the "you" God intended you to be or are you trying to be the woman you and others think you should be? Friend, you are uniquely gifted by God to serve God. Celebrate His perfect plan for your life!
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to please others. I want to please You. Today, I ask You to help me discover the gifts You have given me and then show me how to use them to serve You and minister to others.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to set aside time this week to pray and seek God's plan for your life. Read and claim Jeremiah 29:11.
Ask family and friends to identify the abilities and talents they see in you. Are you serving God through those strengths? If not, how and where can you begin to do so?
Identify your weaknesses. Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. What part do your weaknesses play in God's plan for your life?
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Don't waste another minute of your life wanting the gifts you think you should have. Lay every plan at Gods' feet and ask Him to pick up and empower what is of Him, and let fall away what is not in His plan for you. Celebrate who you are in Christ!
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July 16, 2010
I Surrender!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, here's what you d say nothing evil or hurtful; snub evil and cultivate good; run after peace for all you're worth" (1 Peter 3:10-11, MSG).
Friend To Friend
"I'm done with it! This battle just isn't worth fighting! I'm tired. It's hopeless." As I listened to my girlfriend verbally bleed from her wounded heart, I silently lifted up a prayer and asked God for wisdom. Her pain was real. Her troubles were not imaginary. She was desperate. She wanted a way out of the maze of disappointment and betrayal she had gotten lost in. Out of the strong undertow of angst that had swept away her hope. Out of the darkness that had covered her life and taken her captive.
No easy answers flooded my mind. I had no slick, three-point "sermonette" to offer her. I'm not a therapist. I don't even play one on TV. I'm just a Christian girl who tries to be there for her friends. So, I didn't feel wise or brilliant that day as I gently, but confidently said: "I think the only way to win this battle is to surrender."
Not to the problem, but to the solution. Not to the conflict, but to the resolution. Both the solution and the resolution are found in the same nail scarred hands. In order to win in any earthly struggle or relationship battle, we must put away the weapons of our wounding words, and set aside the arsenal of our angry actions. Then with knees to the earth, we must raise a white flag in surrender ... to the King.
What do we need to surrender? Our pride and expectations ... our gripes and lamentations ... our calculated manipulations ... our righteous indignation ... everything.
In order to live victoriously and win the battles we face in life, we've just got to surrender our flesh to the Spirit.
"Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, and be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that's your job, to bless. You'll be a blessing and also get a blessing"
(1 Peter 3: 8-9) MSG.
On the battlefield of war, when we raise the white flag of surrender, we lose. But on the battlefield of life, when we surrender, we win - if, and only if we surrender to God and not to our circumstances. We cannot control the variables beyond our own responses, but God will surely bless the woman that walks in obedience to Him.
The text in 1 Peter goes on to say: "Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, here's what you d say nothing evil or hurtful; snub evil and cultivate good; run after peace for all you're worth" (1 Peter 3:10-11, MSG).
We are able to run after peace and experience blessings of God in our day when we go before Him with a yielded heart. In a public address titled "Absolute Surrender," Andrew Murray said: "God is ready to assume full responsibility for the life wholly yielded to Him. The condition for obtaining God's full blessing is absolute surrender to Him."
What will that look like for you today? Are you ready to wave that white flag? Imagine what God will do in and through you as you daily choose to align your heart to His! Go there now. Be with the Strength-giver. Yield to the will of Him who loves you most. Blessings await you, friend.
Let's Pray
Lord, This is such a tough one! My life is complicated. It is very hard for me to relinquish control, yet I know that You are calling me to do just that. Help me to surrender my life into Your hands. Please dissolve my resentment, anger, fears and frustrations. Help me to choose Your ways, so that I can obtain the full blessings of absolute surrender.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a moment to thoughtfully consider what barriers exist in your heart that keep you from being willing to surrender.
Pray that God would crush those barriers for His purposes.
Lift your heart in surrendered worship as you sing the hymn "I Surrender All."
I SURRENDER ALL
Words by: J.W. Van Deventer and Music by: W.S. Weeden
All to Jesus, I surrender
All to Him I freely give
I will ever love and trust Him
In His presence daily live
I surrender all
I surrender all
All to Thee, my blessed Savior
I surrender all
All to Jesus I surrender
Humbly at His feet I bow
Worldly pleasures all forsaken
Take me, Jesus, take me now
All to Jesus, I surrender
Make me, Savior, wholly Thine
Let me feel the Holy Spirit
Truly know that Thou art mine
All to Jesus, I surrender
Lord, I give myself to Thee
Fill me with Thy love and power
Let Thy blessing fall on me
All to Jesus I surrender
Now I feel the sacred flame
O the joy of full salvation!
Glory, glory, to His Name!
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Friend, God can work miracles in any and every situation! No matter what you face, you can choose how you respond to your circumstances. When I dive into His Word, God reminds me, time and time again, that HIS power is made strong through my weakness. Surrender your weakness to Him today and find God's strength.
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July 19, 2010
It was a Dark and Stormy Night
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:17-18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Up at 4:30 AM, I was preparing to speak at a Good Friday prayer breakfast in Oil City, PA. At the event, the Holy Spirit showed up, God moved, and we had a great beginning to a wonderful weekend celebrating Christ's resurrection.
After the event, it was off to the Philadelphia airport for a quick 1 ½ hour flight home. Easter weekend had the airport teeming with travelers. As we waited, clouds began to roll in and planes failed to roll out. Unfortunately, overbooked airplanes and stormy weather do not a good combination make. Delays and cancelations lit up the departure board.
I was scheduled to arrive in Charlotte, NC at 7:00 PM. But then my arrival time was pushed back to 7:40, then to 8:40, then to 9:30. This was turning out to be not such a "good Friday" after all. The travelers were getting angry, the ticketing agents were getting agitated, and kids were getting antsy. I just wanted to go home.
Finally, after many gate changes and time delays, we boarded the plane headed for Charlotte. As we neared North Carolina, the pilot made an announcement.
"Hello, this is Captain Bernard. Unfortunately, the storm is passing through Charlotte, NC at this time and we will not be able to land. We are going to land in Greensboro, NC, 90 miles away, and wait it out. Feel free to disembark the airplane, but do not leave the boarding area. We will make an announcement when it is time to re-board. Don't worry. We'll get you to Charlotte just as quickly as possible. Sorry for the inconvenience. "
Arg! We landed in Greensboro and waited ... and waited ... and waited. About 10:30, there was another announcement. "May I have your attention please? For those travelling on flight 389 to Charlotte, unfortunately, the flight crew has logged in too many hours and they will not be able to continue the flight to Charlotte. We have secured vans to drive you the rest of the way. Sorry for the inconvenience."
A collective moan rose from the motley bunch. We trudged down to baggage claim, retrieved our bags, and separated into groups of nine.
"What do you do?" a man in a business suit asked, trying to pass the time.
"I'd rather not say," I answered. Thinking he might get the wrong idea, I smiled and said, "Just kidding. I'm an author."
"What do you write?"
I was hoping he wouldn't ask me that question. I was not being a very good advertisement. "I write Christian oriented books for women," I answered. "You know - the kind that tells women how to handle difficulties in life." We all started laughing.
We piled into the van: eight traveling to visit family, one going home. The air conditioner was broken, and heat blew out of the vents in every direction. No one could figure out how to shut it down. Temperatures rose, sweat poured, layers came off, the widows fogged up. It was miserable.
After about an hour and a-half, I started to relax, thinking we would be in Charlotte at any minute. In the seat in front of me, a twenty-something woman and her mother chatted happily. They were on their way to spend the weekend with daughter number two. Daughter number one, who was apparently tracking our progress on her I-phone, turned around in her seat to face me.
"We're passing Statesville," she said. "How much further do we have?"
"Statesville!" I cried. "We're not supposed to be passing Statesville! He's going the wrong way!"
Our one and a-half hour van ride turned into a three hour van ride. This was just the icing on a very bad cake. I had way too much material for a new book on suffering and was ready for this not-so-good Friday to be over. Just as I was having a not-so-nice, one-way conversation with God, the mother in front of me drew a smiley face on the window. A smiley face!
What in the world does she have to be happy about! I mused. I don't see anything "smiley" about this entire situation!
We finally arrived in Charlotte sometime after midnight. The 1 ½ hour trip had turned into an eight-hour nightmare. Nine dripping wet, exhausted passengers climbed out of the van and breathed in the fresh night air.
"Bye, Beth," I said to the young I-pod toting girl. "You have fun with you sister and mom this weekend."
"Oh, we will," she replied. "My mom just found out that she has cancer for the second time. It doesn't look too good. We're going to spend a weekend together, just the three of us, simply enjoying each other."
She turned to walk away ... never seeing the tears that filled my eyes.
I looked back at the van's window which still held the picture of a smiley face drawn by a dying woman's hand. Suddenly, my night of little inconveniences seemed rather petty. It was a Good Friday after all. God had reminded me of all I had to be thankful for. Storms will come in this life. It is our perspective in the storm that will determine whether we will grumble and complain, or draw a smiley face and thank God for each and every breath we have.
I slipped into the car with my precious, patient husband, gave him a quick kiss, and drew a smiley face on the window.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, forgive me when I whine over life's inconveniences. In the storms of life, help me see Your blessings in the raindrops, Your power in the lightening, and Your voice in the rolling thunder.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen. :-)
Now It's Your Turn
I have two passages I want you to read today. The first is 2 Corinthians 4:17-18. What do you think Paul meant by his light and momentary afflictions?
Now read 2 Corinthians 11:23-28. Now, what do you think Paul meant by light and momentary afflictions? This is not what I'd call light affliction, but in view of the glory that we will experience in heaven, Paul thought the struggles of this world were well worth it.
In light of what you are going through today, I'd love to hear if this devotion stirred your heart to think differently. Let's chat. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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God often speaks to us through our difficulties. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God's still small voice in your heart, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. Learn how to listen to the One who longs to speak to you!
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July 20, 2010
The Perfect Plan
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 139:14-16 (NCV) "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old."
Friend To Friend
Situational ethics is now being taught in many of our public schools. One teacher, wanting to illustrate that human reasoning is many times wrong, gave the following situation to a class of high school students: "How would you advise a mother who was pregnant with her fifth child based on the following facts. Her husband had syphilis and she had tuberculosis. Their first child was born blind, the second child died. A third child was born deaf while their fourth child had tuberculosis. The mother is considering an abortion. Would you advise her to have one?" In view of these facts, most of the students agreed that the mother should have an abortion. The teacher then announced, "If you said 'yes', you would have just killed the great composer, Ludwig von Beethoven."
You and I were created as a living, fleshed out depiction of God's love. We can celebrate the precious truth of Psalm 139:14-16 (NCV), "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old."
Just think of it! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created in love - for love - with a specific and holy purpose in mind. We can rejoice with the Psalmist who wrote, "Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends" (Psalm 100:3 NCV).
Many women buy into the lie that we are little more than puppets in the hands of God; that He created us as tools for His personal use or slaves to do His bidding and carry out His plan. In this verse, "Lord" literally means "Father" or "dearest Daddy" indicating an intimate relationship between a loving Father and His child. God undoubtedly has plans for us, but we misunderstand the character and heart of God when we assume those plans serve as a punishment or penalty for not being good enough. Jeremiah certainly understood the heart of God toward His children when he wrote, "I know what I am planning for you," says the Lord. "I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future" (Jeremiah 29:11 NCV). The best plan, the highest plan for our lives rests in the hands of the One who created us.
In the early days of the automobile, a man's Model - T Ford stalled in the middle of the road. No matter what he tried, he couldn't get it started. A chauffeured limousine pulled up behind the stalled car and a wiry, energetic man stepped from the back seat to offer his assistance. After tinkering with the engine for a few moments, the stranger said, "Now try it!" Immediately, the engine leaped to life. The well-dressed man then identified himself as Henry Ford. "I designed and built these cars," he said, "So I know what to do when something goes wrong." When our lives are broken, when the plan falls apart and everything seems to go wrong, we need to wait on God, knowing He created us, knows us best and loves us most.
Let's Pray
Lord, I have to admit that I sometimes doubt Your plan when it comes to my life. Forgive me when I question You, Father. Help my unbelief! Teach me Your ways and empower me to walk in them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
We all want to experience greatness and live a life driven by God's purpose and plan. The great news is that God wants the same thing! Spiritual greatness begins in a personal relationship with God that is lived out in service to God. What we are is God's gift to us, but how we serve God is our gift to Him.
· Revisit the time when you first realized God's plan for your life. What was your initial reaction and response?
· If you could choose one word to describe your journey - so far - what would it be? Explain.
· Explain the statement that "God is your source." What does that really mean in your life? What other "sources" have you counted on? Did they lead to success or failure?
· What "wants" have been a hindrance in your life? What steps of obedience have you taken to control those "wants?"
· How would you evaluate the impact of your life on those around you?
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God loves you ... and everybody else has a plan for your life. Right? The only plan that matters is God's plan. God loves a seeking heart and wants you to know His plan. Get in the Word. Pray. Have a "yes" in your heart. The right plan will unfold before you.
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July 21, 2010
Just What You've Always Wanted
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said: "I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of," (John 10:10b The Message).
Friend To Friend
Yard sales. I've never really liked them. But when we were preparing to move from our home of twenty years, we decided it was a must. It was a way to clean out the clutter, make a little money, and not haul out yesterday's treasures to today's trash.
We displayed our lovely attic décor on makeshift plywood tables and waited for the bargain babes to descend. We were not disappointed. Two hours before the advertised opening time, treasure hunters began congregating outside the closed garage doors. Then, upon the unveiling, the swarm attacked.
Among the valuables from my past sat an electric, ceramic 12" Christmas tree with various colored lights ... no doubt a gift from the eighties. One particular woman perused the lovely display and came upon this "magnificent work of art."
"I've always wanted one of these!" she declared with excitement in her voice. "How much is it?"
"Three dollars," my husband, Steve, answered.
"Humph," she grunted and walked on.
Steve and I just looked at each other and stifled our laughter.
Let's rewind the scene for a moment. This woman said she had always wanted a ceramic Christmas tree just like that one. (I'm not here to judge another person's dreams. That's just what she said.) Always. Her whole life. And here it was! For a mere $3, her dream could have come true! The search over! Most likely we would have sacrificed this masterpiece for $2, but she didn't even ask. She just shrugged and walked away.
Then my mind began to wander through a rummage sale of its own. As I watched the woman walk away, I thought about the Pharisees in the Bible. For years they waited for the coming of the promised Messiah. Prayed about it. Preached about it. Prepared for it. Then when Jesus showed up, they turned their backs and walked away. "Humph," they said with a shrug. "No thanks."
How many times do we long for a particular dream to come true in our lives? Long for it. Search for it. Obsess over it. A husband. A child. A job. A home. Then one day, there it is! It can be ours! The search is over. We say our "I do's," bring home the bundle of joy, log in our first eight hours, hang the last curtain. But then, a little time passes. The husband is not as romantic as we had hoped, the kids are not as obedient and loving as we had imagined, the job isn't as rewarding as we had envisioned, and the house is a never ending maze of maintenance. "Humph," we grumble. We think we want something, and then when we get it, we decide we really don't want it after all.
Let me take it one step further. How many times do we long for love, joy, and peace in our lives? We search for it, long for it, and pray about it. Then someone points us to the cross and says, "There is it. It can be yours for the asking. It's not even $3, $2 or $1. It's free!"
"Humph," we shrug. "No thanks." And we walk away to rummage through the yard sales of life looking for treasure among other people's clutter.
Dear friend, God is holding out His Holy hand with the most magnificent Gift of all time. Love, joy, and peace personified in His Son, Jesus Christ. He is what you have always been longing for, searching for, watching for. Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life and have it to the full" (NIV). Will we take him up on the offer, or say, "Humph, no thanks," and walk away?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for making all of my dreams come true. You have given me everything I have ever longed for in the person of Jesus Christ. Please forgive me for turning my back on Your amazing Gift and trying to fill my longings with people and possessions. I know that nothing will ever satisfy my desire for peace, love, and joy except Jesus. And Lord, I also know that when I am filled with the peace, love, and joy of Jesus, I will spill that love onto those around me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever searched and searched for something in particular, and then when you found it, you realized it wasn't so great after all? Make a list. If you're like me, it is probably long ... if you're honest.
Now let's look inward. Are there longings in your life that you are expecting other people to fill, but in reality, you know in your "knower" that only Jesus can really fill?
If so, what do you need to do about it?
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July 22, 2010
I Don't Feel Like It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 25:28 (NIV) "Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control."
Friend To Friend
You have probably discovered that you simply cannot trust your emotions because they are unreliable, misleading and will constantly betray you. A family member verbally blasts you and rage consumes your spirit. Your career is in decline and depression slithers into your heart. Caught in the comparison trap, you find yourself avoiding those who have bigger, more influential jobs. Anger is a constant companion, finances are tight and rest is a distant memory. A sense of bone-deep weariness saturates your soul as your own heart ridicules the sincerity with which you serve. "You might as well give up. It's no use. Just quit!" the enemy taunts.
Negative emotions can take hold of and destroy a life void of emotional control. Control puts emotions in their God-shaped place, discarding negative emotions as the spiritual leeches they are while safeguarding and reinforcing positive emotions. I am amazed at the number of women who base eternal decisions on feelings while seeking confirmation and even direction from emotional responses. I almost missed one of the highest plans for my life because it didn't feel right.
My husband, Dan, was Youth Pastor at Sheridan Hills Baptist, a dynamic church in Hollywood, Florida where Bill Billingsley, one of the greatest men I have ever known, was senior pastor. He and his amazing wife, Betty Jean, had an enormous impact on me personally, and the ministry of speaking and writing to which God has now called me. It was in the midst of my God ordained transformation at Sheridan Hills and the youth program's greatest growth that Dan dropped the bomb - he felt God calling him back to Southwestern Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas. Well, I felt God calling him to stay put!
I loved Sheridan Hills! It was home! Going back to seminary meant I would have to go back to teaching elementary school fulltime. Teaching wasn't the problem but placing our young son, Jered, in daycare. We had waited so long for this chosen baby, and the thought of relegating his care to strangers broke my heart. How could this possibly be God's plan when it felt so wrong?
My favorite worship time at Sheridan Hills was the Wednesday night service - for two reasons. I enjoyed the contemporary worship and in-depth bible teaching. I also treasured the fact that, each week, while Dan was in meetings and Jered was in the nursery, I could slip into the empty, darkened auditorium for an hour of solitude.
However, the Wednesday night after Dan shared the numbing probability of our return to seminary, my usually refreshing solitude dissolved into a tantrum of crying, praying and pleading with God to let us stay at Sheridan Hills.
When a hand gently patted my shoulder, I looked up into the tear-filled eyes of my pastor. "I have something to tell you," he said. Pastor Billingsley was not only a spiritual mentor in my life, but a loving father figure as well. Expecting a word of wisdom or encouragement, I was shattered by his words, "I have cancer." Speechless, we sat in pain-filled silence, weeping; each flailing in our own sea of emotions and questions. Bill Billingsley then spoke the words that have guided my steps from the moment he gave them life. "Mary, just remember that God's will penalizes no one."
I immediately knew I had a choice to make. I could mulishly hold on to my emotional comfort or submit to God's will. My choice to obey God plotted the course for an incredible journey filled with purpose, a life of sharing God's hope and healing with women across the world through speaking and writing. Had my emotions ruled, I would have missed God's best for my life.
Emotions are a gift from God. While emotions themselves are not sin, the place we give them can be. Since God created us with the capacity for strong emotions, we can rest assured that He will equip and empower His plan for managing them.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, honestly and sincerely asking You to be in control of my emotions. I live too many days dictated by how I "feel." I am so sorry, Lord. Forgive me for not allowing the Holy Spirit to have free reign in my heart and mind. Please help me live a life marked with peace and with hope.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take an emotional inventory. What negative emotion has become a hindrance in your life? Why?
Think about the way you begin each day. Are you afraid of what the day holds? Do you dread facing whatever comes your way? Or do you focus on God and His promises?
Read and memorize the following promises of God:
Philippians 4:6-7 (ICB) "Do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God's peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it."
Colossians 3:2 (NIV) "Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."
Proverbs 29:11 (NKJ) "A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back."
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When emotions are out of control, the result is stress. Stress is one of the enemy's favorite weapons. Stress has caused physical pain, emotional darkness and spiritual bankruptcy in my life. I constantly have to bring my heart and mind back to God. I know how hard it is to stay balanced and at peace. Know you are not alone, friend. We are with you and praying for you.
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July 23, 2010
When Love Trumps Anger
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires" James 1:19-20 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
"I'm a terrible mom!"
Do you ever say these words? I do. I just did.
I was working in my office, minding my own business, when my oldest son threw a paper airplane at the back of my head. Not one to normally welcome an air attack, I gave him the stern "mom voice," and asked him to stop messing around and give me some private time so I could get some work done. He agreed, and turned to leave. Surprisingly, he then jumped around and threw it at me again! Well, let me tell you, my grace-o-meter was reading pretty low at this point! I barked like an angry dog. "What in the world do you think you are doing? I just told you that I needed to be left alone so I can get some work done! Stop it!"
"There's a message on the plane," he tenderly replied. "Read it, mom!"
As I unfolded the airplane made of orange construction paper, I saw this message written in pink marker: "I Love You."
"Nice!" I said to myself. "Loser-mom strikes again." I had scolded my son and reacted out of frustration with an unkind tone. All the while, my son was trying to communicate love to me.
I felt horrible ... so, naturally, I started to beat myself up.
But as shame tried to fill my heart, the Spirit of God within me gently nudged - reminding me that condemnation is not from Him ... that His conviction was purposed to spur me on toward choosing a godly response. So I chose love - God's love alive in me. As I chose God's better way, His love trumped my anger. It's weightier. Praise God!
I called my son back into my office, and apologized for my behavior. I welcomed this tall, lanky teen to sit on my lap and told him that - while I'm not fond of airplane attacks, especially while I'm working, I am fond of love attacks. We held each other and had a very sweet moment.
As I held Preston, God reminded me of this principle: When we allow His love to trump our anger, we are able to experience restoration in relationships.
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires" (James 1:19-20 NIV).
The Bible tells us that we are to be slow to anger. It is a lesson that I am still learning. Now, that doesn't mean we should never be angry. Jesus exhibited righteous anger in the Jerusalem temple when he drove out the merchants that were buying and selling there. Righteous anger is permissible. We should be angry about sin and injustice. But when we respond to others in anger, it becomes our sin.
Got any relationships that are in need of restoration? Is there any anger, unforgiveness, or bitterness in your heart that might be gaining a stronghold in your life and keeping you from God's best? The benefits of allowing the love of God to trump the anger in your heart are tremendous, but the application can be very challenging. We can't overcome our natural, sinful tendencies to react, and overreact, in anger alone. We need God's help. His strength will meet us at our need when we call on Him. The Holy Spirit will help us to respond in God's strength, not our own.
Call on His strength today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I need Your help! I confess my anger/bitterness/unforgiveness right now with _______________. Please forgive me. Please bring restoration to the relationships that have been affected by my anger. Help me recognize when I over-react or when I respond in anger that is ungodly. Give me the strength to respond in love, so that You can be glorified through my behavior.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to trade anger for love? In what relationships? How?
Ask God to bring a fresh awareness to your soul each time you react in anger.
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I'm a very passionate person. When my kids were little, I over-reacted far too often. And although God has been working in my heart for years on this issue, I humbly confess that anger still comes much too easy to me. If you struggle with this, you are not alone. Need prayer? Let's meet on my Facebook page - www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic - to PRAY for one another today.
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July 26, 2010
Faith Believes God
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 7:9 (NCV) "If your faith is not strong, you will not have strength enough to last."
Friend To Friend
Our life may be deemed successful and powerful by man's standards, but when it comes to faith, only an eternal perspective and a holy standard will do. Authentic faith produces authentic power. Faith is active - never idle. We talk a lot about faith, but the real question is - do we live it?
In his book, "Holy Sweat," Tim Hansel shares the following story of faith. "One day, while my son Zac and I were out in the country, climbing around in some cliffs, I heard a voice from above me yell, "Hey Dad! Catch me!" I turned around to see Zac joyfully jumping off of a rock straight at me. He had jumped and then yelled, "Hey Dad!" I became an instant circus act, catching him. We both fell to the ground. For a moment after I caught him, I could hardly talk. When I found my voice again, I gasped in exasperation: "Zac! Can you give me one good reason why you did that?" He responded with remarkable calmness: "Sure - because you're my Dad." His whole assurance was based on the fact that his father was trustworthy. He could live life to the hilt because I could be trusted."
The kingdom of God is not just a topic for discussion. The faith through which we live should be undeniable proof that God is alive and well. Faith believes God.
Faith believes God is who He says He is.
Matthew 14:18-21 (NCV) "Jesus said, "Bring the bread and the fish to me." He then told the people to sit down on the grass. He took the five loaves and the two fish and, looking to heaven, He thanked God for the food. Jesus divided the bread and gave it to His followers, who gave it to the people. All the people ate and were satisfied. Then the followers filled twelve baskets with the leftover pieces of food. There were about five thousand men there who ate, not counting women and children."
Weak faith is not quite sure that God really is God. Did Peter believe that Jesus was who He said He was? It is interesting to notice where Peter was before he stepped into that boat. He was with Jesus, in the middle of a miracle. Jesus had just learned that His disciple and friend, John the Baptist, had been murdered by King Herod. Needing time alone, Jesus "left in a boat and went to a lonely place by himself" but when He arrived, crowds of people had gathered to meet Him. Setting aside his own needs, Jesus had compassion on the people and healed those who were sick.
When evening came, the disciples, realizing they were out in the middle of nowhere, with no restaurants, no homes and no food, urged Jesus to send the people home to eat. Jesus had another plan in mind. He told the disciples to feed the people. Their response was faithless. "But we have only five loaves of bread and two fish."
At this point, it is important to realize that these very same men had personally witnessed Jesus perform miracle after miracle. He had healed the sick, made the blind to see, and the lame to walk. He had calmed a storm, raised a young girl from the dead, convinced demon-possessed pigs they could fly and then empowered the disciples to perform the same kind of miracles He had performed before their very eyes. Jesus had healed Peter's mother-in-law, and still, the disciples didn't fully believe that God really was God.
Jesus took the five loaves of bread and two fish, blessed them and turned the meager snack into a feast for thousands - with baskets of food left over. Scripture tells us that Jesus then told the disciples to get in the boat while He dismissed the lingering crowd and went to the mountainside to pray. I believe He prayed, not only in response to John's death, but for His disciples.
When the boat was about four miles from shore, a storm sprang up. Even though these men were experienced fishermen and no strangers to storms, a small boat on stormy seas is terrifying and dangerous. I imagine the disciples were more afraid of the unknown than they were of the storm. Yes, Jesus sent them into the storm. Why? Perhaps He was setting the stage for another faith-building miracle, proving once again, that God really is who He says He is. Don't miss tomorrow's devotion!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me when I doubt You. I pray Your peace will replace fear in my heart. I do not want to believe the lies of the enemy. Please guard my mind and help me to grow in faith so that others will see You and Your power at work in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As our faith grows stronger, we begin to see God at work every day. Think back over the week. List three circumstances in which you saw God's hand.
Read and memorize the following verses:
1 Thessalonians 5:24 "The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it."
Hebrews 11:6 "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."
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The Bible is filled with miracles and stories of men and women who were healed by Jesus - even though their faith was weak. That encourages me. However, the faith of others is not my standard. God sets that benchmark. Join me in a new commitment to walk in faith.
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July 27, 2010
Faith Believes God
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 14:22-24 (NCV) "After he had sent them away, he went by himself up into the hills to pray. It was late, and Jesus was there alone. Immediately Jesus told his followers to get into the boat and go ahead of him across the lake. He stayed there to send the people home. By this time, the boat was already far away from land. It was being hit by waves, because the wind was blowing against it."
Friend To Friend
Faith believes that God is able. You would think, after seeing Jesus in action, that the disciples would not let something like a little storm rock their world. They should have known with absolute confidence that God was aware of and able to meet their every need. Faith is a quiet certainty that God keeps His promises.
We do not like to wait on God with "quiet certainty." We see a need, and instead of seeking God's wisdom and timing, we make a plan we think will meet that need and then, with earthly resources, see that the plan is carried out. As a result, we often settle for so much less than God had in mind. "Now glory be to God! By his mighty power at work within us, he is able to accomplish infinitely more than we would ever dare to ask or hope" (Ephesians 3:20 NLT).
Many children seem to possess the "quiet certainty" that God is able. The prayer life of a child is often powerful as they dare to pray big prayers, asking God to do the impossible.
Christmas was just around the corner when we decided to go home for the holidays. We lived in South Florida at the time and rarely had the opportunity or finances to fly to Texas where Dan and I were both raised and our families still live. Everyone was excited, especially Jered and Danna. While they looked forward to seeing all of their aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins, they were more excited about seeing snow for the first time. The only problem was that snow was not in the forecast. In fact, it was supposed to be unusually warm in Texas during our visit. Danna and Jered would not be deterred. Nothing we said convinced them that there would be no snow for Christmas. Every night, they prayed, asking God to let it snow in Texas. They told all of their friends and anyone who would listen that they were going to Texas for Christmas and that it was going to snow. I gave up, planning what I would say to our children when it did not snow. Yes, it would be a hard lesson, but life is filled with hard lessons.
Our plane landed and we were met with hugs and kisses from my sister and brother-in-law ... but no snow. It didn't matter. Jered and Danna were confident. Betty and Carey fielded a barrage of "snow questions" as we claimed our baggage and started home. Interestingly enough, it did seem to get colder the closer we got to Fort Worth. In fact, by the time we arrived, it was just plain cold - but certainly not cold enough to snow.
As Dan and I unpacked suitcases, the kids squealed with delight at the Christmas tree, the gifts underneath, the home-made fudge ... and the snow! "Everybody, come see the snow!" they shouted. Dan and I looked at each other, smiled and continued unpacking, realizing that it was time for the "sometimes God says no" conversation.
Suddenly, my usually rational sister appeared in the doorway of our bedroom, eyes big as saucers. "You are not going to believe this!" she said. The kids had obviously brainwashed her. Dan and I played along, following her to the living room where both Jered and Danna were plastered against the sliding glass door, watching giant snowflakes gently fall, their faith on display for all to see.
Over the years, I have often relived that moment, cherishing the lesson I learned that day. God is able! Even when everything seems wrong and everyone shouts "impossible," He is able. We may not always understand the process, but we can always rest in the fact that God is God, able to meet every need in ways we cannot begin to imagine outside the possibilities of true faith.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to have the faith of a child. Help me believe Your truth even when it seems impossible. Give me new dreams that will honor You and populate heaven. When doubts come, remind me to never doubt in the darkness what You have said in the light.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you believe God for right now? What are your God-sized dreams? Is your life totally explainable in human terms or is God's power the obvious foundation for what is happening?
Read Acts 2:16-18 and prepare your heart for God to do something new. Be open and willing to obey Him. Celebrate "the next chapter" of life.
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Just about the time I think my life is in order and the plan is set, God surprises me! I am walking through one of those "next chapter" seasons of life. We live in Kansas City where Dan pastors an amazing church. We have three beautiful grandchildren that have totally stolen my heart. My list of "things I never thought would happen" grows longer each day. Whatever, Lord! Here I am!
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July 28, 2010
Masterpiece by the Bay
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32 NASB).
Friend To Friend
I grew up on the East Coast and was excited when my husband, son, and I decided to visit San Francisco for our vacation. My heart's desire and prayer for each day was that we would see God's handiwork, hear His voice, and be reminded of His greatness as we ventured out like three eager explorers to discover new aspects of His creation.
We traveled south along the shoreline and were amazed at the 200 foot regal cliffs that rose from the earth, pushing heavenward with waves splashing at their feet. Then we traveled north and drank in the beauty of acres and acres of vineyards on grassy rolling hills in the Napa Valley wine country. We hiked through the majestic Redwood Forest and stood under 1,000 year old, 260 foot giants, dwarfed by their towering branches.
But the most amazing sight was in a place called Alcatraz. There in the middle of the San Francisco Bay, just a mile and a quarter from the sights and sounds of the beautiful city, sits a rock island, known by some as the "Devil's Island of America." From 1934-1963, Alcatraz was a prison where the country's most corrupt, incorrigible criminals were housed. Al Capone and Machine Gun Kelly were just two of its more colorful residents.
There is no road to the prison, so we took a ferry across the bay. As we taxied up to "The Rock" and stared at the shell of concrete walls, barbed wire, and iron bars, an eerie feeling crept over my body. Each of us picked up headphones and a cassette recorder and toured the prison while listening to the taped voices of various prisoners recount their days behind bars. I walked into a cell called "the hole," closed my eyes, and tried to imagine what it would be like in solitary confinement with no light, no sound, and no other voice but my own. My heart was heavy as I thought about the souls that passed those halls, souls full of darkness, depression, and despair.
But as I rounded the final corner of the tour, I saw an amazing sight - a white haired, eighty-year-old grandfather, with crystal blue laughing eyes and a radiant smile that spread across his wrinkled face. A line formed as tourists stood waiting for him to sign his name and number on his autobiography, Alcatraz: from the Inside. This precious man before me was Jim Quillen, ex-prisoner #AZ586. He had spent ten years of his life, from 1942-1952, behind bars in this prison built to house the most dangerous criminals of his day. I looked in his eyes as we spoke. This was not the face of a dangerous man. What had happened to change his life?
I didn't have to flip many pages in his book to find the answer. In it he wrote, "It was only through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and His intercession, that my life of hopeless incarceration was averted. His help and forgiveness permitted me to obtain freedom, family, and a useful and productive place in society." I went back over to Mr. Quillen and sat by his side for a minute or so. We chatted a bit, and he autographed my copy of his book. Then God spoke to my heart, "On this vacation, you prayed that you would see My handiwork and be reminded of My greatness. This man is some of my best work."
On my trip to San Francisco, I was reminded of God's unchanging strength in the majestic rock cliffs of the shoreline and of His nurturing care as the Vinedresser in the hills of the wine country. I saw a picture of God's protective canopy over His children in the towering Redwoods of the forests. But when I looked into Jim Quillen's eyes, I saw God's most incredible masterpiece: a changed life.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for setting me free! You took my pain and turned it into purpose. You took my hurt and turned it into hope. You took my fear and turned it into faith. Thank you, O Lord, for setting my feet to dancing and my voice to singing Your praise!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What one person that you know has shown the most dramatic change since he or she became a Christian?
What has been the most dramatic change in your life since you gave your life to Christ?
This summer, as you head out on vacation, ask God to reveal Himself to you in a special way. And when He does, I'd love to hear about it! Visit my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog or my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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July 29, 2010
A Word to the Wise
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"This is what the LORD All-Powerful, the God of Israel, says: Go and tell the men of Judah and the people of Jerusalem: 'Will you not learn a lesson and obey my words,' declares the LORD" Jeremiah 35:13 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
Our grandson, Justus, just celebrated his first birthday. And we are scrambling to child-proof everything in our home! I did not realize how many drawers and cabinets we have until Justus decided it was time to explore every single one of them looking for a "ball." He is just like his mother when she was a toddler - curious and always on the go.
When Danna was about three years old, she became utterly fascinated with electrical outlets. One of her favorite activities was working the childproof cover off of an electrical outlet in order to insert toys and various household items in the funny little holes. Needless to say, I was not thrilled with this game. Over and over, several times a day, I took her to the outlet and said firmly, "No! No! No! It will hurt you!" She would look up at me with her beautiful brown eyes and dimpled smile in angelic agreement. After several trips to the outlet I thought, "She's got it!" And she did - for two whole days. While putting groceries away, I heard a piercing scream from the family room. When I reached Danna, I found a sobbing toddler holding up a tiny burned finger for me to kiss and make better. Even at her young age, she had acquired a valuable nugget of wisdom and has never again purposely inserted a foreign object into any electrical outlet.
When we give in to temptation, ignoring God's truth, the result is always sin. Attached to that sin is the hefty price tag of painful consequences. Every choice we make - every action that we take has consequences. We can ignore those consequences or learn from them, taking to heart the message God has assigned to them and gain the wisdom that they hold.
Everyone in the Garden of Eden had consequences. Eve's wrong choices led to pain in childbirth, subjection to her husband's authority and the loss of her perfect world. Adam forfeited his "cushy" job to discover that growing food would require a lot of sweat and hard work. The fertile ground would grow only thorns and he, too, would be thrown out of the garden. Death for man and animals became a reality and the serpent was doomed to crawl in the dust forever, facing the hatred of all men as well as judgment and death.
The story is told of a young man who, at the age of thirty-two, was appointed President of the bank. He had never dreamed that he would become president at all - much less at such a young age. So he approached the Chairman of the Board, a man known for his wisdom, and asked, "You know, I've just been appointed President and was wondering if you could give me some advice." The old man came back with just two words, "Right decisions!" The young man had hoped for a bit more than this. "That's really helpful and I appreciate it," he said, "but can you be more specific? For example, how do I make right decisions?" The wise old man pondered the question for a moment then simply responded, "Experience." Growing impatient, the young man said, "Well, that's why I am here. I don't have the kind of experience I need. How do I get it?" The terse reply quickly came, "Wrong decisions!"
Wise people accept the consequences of sin and learn from their wrong choices and then apply those lessons to their lives. God honors a life of applied truth and will provide His wisdom and understanding as we follow and obey Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I want Your wisdom for my life. Please help me examine every choice that I make today in the light of Your truth.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Accept the fact that temptation will come. What temptations are you facing today?
Get ready and stay ready to face temptation by reading and memorizing Scripture. Start with John 3:16.
When you sin, accept the consequences and learn the lessons of that wrong choice. Read and memorize 1 John 1:9. Look for opportunities to apply your newly gained wisdom by changing an attitude and/or behavior.
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My husband often says that you can't keep a bird from flying over your head, but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair. You cannot avoid temptation. Just remember that temptation itself is not sin - but an invitation to sin. When temptation knocks, ask Jesus to answer the door.
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July 30, 2010
Friends That Sharpen
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]" (Proverbs 27:17, AMP).
Friend To Friend
Whether it's over a steaming mug of dark roasted coffee, a frilly lunch served at the local sushi restaurant, or a power walk in the wee hours of the morning, my accountability partner and I meet regularly to speak into each other's lives. We trust each other. We challenge one another. I'm a better woman because she's my friend - because she speaks with honesty and courage - because she is for me - because she turns my heart toward God and His ways.
As much as I love girlfriend time - and I truly do love girlfriend time - there's a depth to this particular friendship that flows to the core of who I am. I often feel uncommonly exposed during our conversations. Vulnerable, yet safe. She gets in my grill about my priorities, marriage, mothering, ministry, and faith matters ... and I welcome it. I need it.
We all need friends. We need people in our lives that will love us where we are and help us get to a place of higher living. We need friends that will hold us accountable to God's standards - friends that sharpen us.
The Bible makes a compelling to point about this type of friendship. "Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]." (Proverbs 27:17, AMP)
Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary on the Bible says of this principle: "We are cautioned to take heed whom we converse with. And directed to have in view, in conversation, to make one another wiser and better."
Take time to consider your friendships today. Do you have any friends who sharpen you and challenge your "worthy purpose"? Who make you wiser and better? Is there anyone in your life who asks you tough questions, shares godly truths, and confronts you when you need confronted? If so, thank God for her. Purpose to connect with her regularly, grant her permission to continue to speak into your life, and ask that she give you permission to do the same.
Are you that friend to anyone? Do you long to have deeper friendships? If you find yourself in a wide pool of shallow friendships, I'd encourage you to pray about it. Pray that God would bring meaningful friendships to your life and that He would teach you what it looks like to be a good friend.
Sharon, Mary and I delight to come along side of you each day as your Girlfriends In God - to spur you on and encourage you towards Christ, but we could never replace the real-life friendships God intends for you to have. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NIV)
When we have a friend that sharpens and we become a friend that sharpens, our lives are enriched. Think about what our churches, our neighborhoods, our marriages, our work places, and our lives would look like if we all had this type of friend in our lives. Helen Keller said it beautifully: "Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for friendships. You know the people in my life and the needs of my heart. Please help me to grow as a woman who is able to pour into the life of her friends. Help my heart be open to constructive feedback that a friend might speak to me, and give me the capacity to love my friends as You love them.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Send a card, an email, a letter, or a text to a friend today ... just to bless her.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." Are there any friends in your life that are toxic? If so, prayerfully consider how that relationship affects you, your family, and your faith. If a friend encourages you to make bad choices and to live contrary to God's Word, then it's probably time to reconsider the friendship.
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August 2, 2010
Don't Do It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Flee from sexual immorality...Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God. You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians 6:18, 19-20 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Can I talk girlfriend to girlfriend for just a moment? It's about a very uncomfortable subject, and honestly, one most of us would rather pretend does not exist in "Christian circles." It's sexual sin.
In my last devotion, we stood road-side and looked at the story of the woman caught in adultery, and of Jesus who set her free. Even though she wasn't behind prison bars, she was in bondage to a sinful lifestyle. Sexual sin is highly addictive and the search for love in all the wrong places, insatiable. It is a drink that never satisfies the soul and leaves the partaker only thirsty for more.
A woman is enticed by a syrupy word from a co-worker, an e-mail from an old boyfriend, an invitation on Facebook, or an alluring smile at a neighborhood gathering. Loneliness fills the room and passion comes knocking at the door. But when the smoke clears, loneliness returns with new hunger pangs laced with regret.
Sex outside of marriage can lead to many things: unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, divorce, mistrust, regret, shame, loss of family and a whole list of undesirable dominos that tumble in succession. But in Jesus' day, a woman caught in the act of adultery faced possible execution. In some parts of the world, that law is still enforced today. So why would the woman that we meet in John Chapter 8 who was caught in the act of adultery take the risk? Was it worth it? No. The answer is always no.
There is no greater longing in the heart of a woman than to be loved, cherished, and cared for. It can cause the strongest to break a resolve and succumb to the tempter's lure. Adultery has been the cause for church leaders to crumble, ministries to melt down, and families to falter. Sexual sin has caused the most sensible to act like a fool, the most moral to march into madness, the most devout to be devoured by desire. The desire to love and to be loved can sometimes scream over the din of reason.
The yearning for love gnaws at the heart. And then the brush of a hand, the glimpse of the eyes, or the stirring of a comment blows on a spark and sets it ablaze. Loneliness echoes in a hollow soul, just as passion come scratching at the door. Never doubt this, my friend: Satan is an opportunist who takes advantage of the lonely heart (Luke 4:13).
To be loved is one of the strongest desires of the human heart. God planned it that way because He longs for us to have that longing filled by a relationship with Him; but so many settle for a sip from the rusty tin cup when God offers an everlasting stream.
A woman can risk it all for a few moments of passion. She can lie to herself that a sexual relationship or liaison is love. Then after the brief pleasure lies exposed by the morning sun, she realizes what felt like love was tainted with the poison of shame. It can happen. It does happen. It did happen to the woman standing before Jesus with an angry mob of rock-holding Pharisees gathered around. It has happened to many women who e-mail me every day.
I sat in a movie theater with a friend who had succumbed to sexual temptation. She had lost her husband, her family, and many of her "friends." During a preview for another movie, the film showed a woman contemplating an affair with a suave Frenchman. Martha (not her real name) spoke a bit too loudly for the moviegoers sitting in the darkened theater. "Don't do it," she cried aloud. The words came out of her mouth before she could stop them. Martha was living the devastation of yielding to sexual temptation, and her audible cry was the overflow of her pain-filled heart.
Can I shout with Martha for just a moment? "Don't do it!"
I know this devotion is not for everybody. But if there is one woman out of the 200,000 or so that receive our Girlfriends in God devotions every day...just one woman who will turn away from the temptation that is knocking on her door today, then it is worth it.
Don't do it. Turn to God and allow Him to fill the emptiness in your heart today. He's waiting with open arms.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I pray that I will be alert to the devil's schemes today. Help me to see when and where he is tempting me to sin against You. Give me the strength to flee temptation and run straight into Your arms. I cannot do this on my own. I need the power of Your Holy Spirit to empower me to do what is right and good in Your sight. Thank You for being all that I need.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you been contemplating a sexual relationship outside of marriage? What is God telling you today?
Are you in a sexual relationship outside of marriage right now? What is God telling you today?
If neither one of these application questions apply to you, would you please join me in praying for our dear sisters who are fighting the temptation to enter into such a relationship or struggling to get out of one? Let's hit our knees for our girlfriends in God who desperately need our loving intercession.
If this devotion was for you, would you e-mail me privately at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com? I'd love to pray for you.
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August 3, 2010
Always on Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:19 (NIV) "And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
I grew up in Texas where we lived in what some might call a "shack" on the edge of a small town. To me, it was just home. My amazing mother often worked three jobs to make ends meet but that "meeting" did not always happen. Looking back, I can honestly say that God always provided what we needed - when we needed it. He still does.
My husband and I knew the finances would be tight last week but we did not expect the brakes to go out on one of our cars or plan a trip to urgent care or expect the electric bill to be so high. The cost of groceries suggested that we fast for awhile and the rent was due. I know you can relate.
After many years of serving God, you would think I would know and walk in the truth that God is our source and provides everything we need - when we need it. Oh, no! I panicked! A frantic search for some solution to our financial problems ensued. In the midst of that panic, I suddenly remembered the mail. Interesting timing wasn't it?
I had not checked our mailbox in three days and knew the box would be crammed full. When I unlocked our mailbox, a pile of newspapers, envelopes, magazines, bills and cards spilled into my hands and onto the ground. The mailman had also left me a key to the larger mailbox below that was usually reserved for packages. It was full of mail as well. I cleared off the kitchen table where I began sorting through the mound of paper, discarding all of the junk mail and organizing the rest.
And then I saw it - an envelope that seemed to stand out from the rest of the mail.
I slowly opened the envelope. The return address told me it was from the Women's Ministry Director of a church where I had spoken several months before. One of my best friends was a member of the church, and I had offered to speak for an event that I hoped would encourage her as well as each woman who attended. I did not ask for or expect an honorarium, but as I slowly opened the envelope, I saw a check written for the exact amount that would meet our financial needs for the week.
I fell into a chair and began to pray, asking God to forgive my lack of faith and my choice to worry instead of trusting Him. I marveled in the knowledge that the check had been written long before the need became evident to me. In other words, God met our need before we even knew we had a need.
By the way, I am a mail freak and have been for most of my life. I check the mail every single day without fail. Not this week! God knew I needed a reminder of His faithfulness and He knew exactly when I needed it. He is always right on time.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for meeting the needs in my life in Your perfect timing. Forgive me when I fail to trust You and allow worry to steal my joy. I want to be patient and learn how to wait on You to work in my life. Your faithfulness sustains me and Your mercy blesses my life. I praise You, God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 104:13-15. How does this passage of Scripture encourage you to trust God in every area of your life?
Read Luke 6:38. What does this verse say to you about the relationship between giving and receiving from God?
What need in your life is a source of fear and uncertainty? Right now, surrender that need to God and praise Him for meeting it.
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August 4, 2010
Freed to Start Anew
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation: the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV)
Friend To Friend
Laura lived in a small town with parents who were morally sound and family oriented. She went to church from her earliest remembrance and was baptized when she was twelve-years-old. In high school, she began dating Barry. After Laura went off to college both of Barry's parents died. He was lonely and missed the close-knit family he had once enjoyed.
After Laura's first year of college, Barry began talking marriage. He had not gone to college and wanted her to come home and be his wife. Laura was torn, but made the decision to marry Barry and continue working toward her degree.
Laura and I held hands and prayed together before she walked down the aisle. It was a beautiful day as I stood with her and the two were united as man and wife. However, after the wedding comes the marriage - something that neither the nineteen-year-old Laura nor Barry were prepared to face.
After five years, Laura was bored with the marriage, restless in her job, and disappointed in her husband. While working in a medical office, Bob, a salesman for an international medical supply company, took on their account. Bob was older and lived what seemed like an exciting lifestyle. It started as friendly bantering, which progressed to enticing flirtation. Laura found herself looking forward to Thursdays - the day the rep made his weekly visits.
A touch here, a lunch there, and soon an affair ensued. Laura packed her bags, left her marriage, her job, and her hometown to move to greener pastures. But the greener pastures weren't so green. Thorns infested the relationship. Bob wasn't interested in anything long term. Laura was just a young plaything he toyed with on weekends. What promised to be an exciting life away from small town America, away from a mundane, monotonous marriage, turned into a deep, dark pit of regret and remorse. Laura discovered Bob wasn't anything special. He was just someone different - a diversion. And she was his flavor of the month.
After her divorce was final, Laura was left all alone in a strange town. What have I done? She cried.
Laura's husband remarried and put the broken pieces of his life back together. Laura, on the other hand, was just broken.
Laura turned away from our friendship when she headed down the road to self-destruction, but after she came to her senses, she called me - full of remorse and sadness. I welcomed her in my arms, held her close to my heart, and brought her to my hometown. My husband and I found her a job, helped her get her finances in order, and directed her to a great Bible-based church. That's what it looked like on the outside, but here's what really happened.
Laura, in her own words would tell you that she stood before Jesus like the woman caught in adultery. She felt the stares of her accusers and recoiled at the rocks that would surely fly. In her own mind, she stood naked and ashamed before her community, her childhood church body, and her lifelong friends. But more importantly, she stood in shame before Jesus.
"I didn't think God would forgive me," she began. "I had hurt my family, my husband, and my witness. What would God want with someone like me?"
"Laura," I began, "we are all sinners. We are all saved by grace. None of us deserve it. That's what makes grace, grace. You made a terrible mistake, but so did the woman caught in adultery that the Pharisees brought to Jesus. What did Jesus do with that woman? What did he say?"
"He told her to go and sin no more."
Exactly. He told her to leave her life of sin. That doesn't mean that she never sinned again. But we can safely believe that she left this lifestyle, this sinful relationship, and began a new life. That is what Jesus will do for you. That is what he does for all of us."
God promises: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Another translation uses the words "cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (NASB). I love the picture of God washing away all our sins, erasing the list of offenses, throwing our sins into the deepest of seas - all gone.
Laura did begin again. She repented of her sin, immersed herself in Bible study and ministry, and began a new life totally committed to the One who forgave her and set her free from condemnation. And that my friend, is what Jesus does for each and every one of us who come to him with a repentant heart ready to start anew.
After Laura began her new life, she followed hard after God. She was so grateful for a chance to start again, and she gave her life to serving and honoring Jesus.
Sometime during her fifth year at her new church, she met a wonderful Christian man, Peter. After they were married, Laura and Peter committed their lives to serving God wherever He led. After a missions trip to Eastern Europe, they both felt God calling them to return on a more permanent basis. Now, for over ten years, Laura and Peter have been serving God in Eastern Europe, planting churches and loving people to Christ. She has agreed with Paul when he wrote, "This one thing I do, forgetting what lies behind and straining toward what lies ahead" (Philippians 3:13). But friend, it is a choice.
See, God doesn't just set us free from our past. He sets us free to an exciting future. And Jesus showcased the woman caught in adultery in John chapter 8 and my friend, Laura, to show us how.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for being a God who allows u-turns. Not only do You forgive me of my sin, You allow me to start anew.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Did you know that God allows u-turns in your own life?
Is there an area that you need to make a u-turn and head back toward God?
Are you ready to repent of your sin, accept God's forgiveness, and begin a new life filled with purpose? If so, it is only a prayer away.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Let's chat.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. And if you are struggling to let go of past mistakes and failures, you might want to check out Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God.
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August 5, 2010
A Box of Socks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 21:22 (NIV) "If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer."
Friend To Friend
My sister loves socks! One day, we were shopping and happened to walk into a department store where neither one of us could afford to buy one single thing. We were just passing through, on our way to find the bargains we could afford. With a sigh and a wistful look on her face, Betty said, "I wish I could afford to shop in this store." When I asked her what she would buy, she immediately replied with a smile, "Socks! I want a big box of socks. I would wear a different pair every day." I could think of several things I would have liked to buy in that store and socks was not one of them. I guess it is a matter of perspective. What was important to her was not important to me.
I sometimes think my prayer requests are insignificant and unimpressive to God. After all, He is God. Does He really have the time or the desire to hear and answer my prayers? Yes! The truth is that if it is important to me, it is important to God.
Each Christmas, Operation Shoebox collects and sends over eight million shoeboxes stuffed with small gifts such as candy, school supplies, small toys, toothbrushes, soap, and shampoo to children across the world. In Mexico, hundreds of boys and girls gathered at the church in a small village, excitedly anticipating the arrival of their precious shoeboxes.
Delightful chaos erupted as bulging shoeboxes, wrapped in brightly colored paper and ribbon were passed into the small, eager hands of each child. Wrapping paper was hurriedly ripped into pieces and tossed aside, a smile spreading across the face of each child as their long awaited Christmas treasures were revealed. However, one little boy dissolved into tears as he lifted the lid of his box and peered inside to see what he had received for Christmas this year.
One of the Operation Shoebox volunteers spotted the little boy and hurriedly made his way across the church to see what the problem could possibly be. With the help of an interpreter, the volunteer asked the now sobbing little boy, "What is wrong? What is in your box?" With tears streaming down his face, the little boy said, "Socks!" The worker instantly understood and assured the little boy that he could trade his box of socks for another box that might have crayons or a piece of candy in it.
Alarm spread across the face of the child as he vigorously shook his head and quickly jerked the box away from the now somewhat confused worker. Clutching the shoebox to his chest, the boy began sobbing out an explanation to the interpreter who listened for a few moments and then, with tears spilling out of his own eyes, turned to the volunteer and said, "You won't believe this!"
Taking a deep, steadying breath, the interpreter explained, "This little boy has a rare skin condition with which he was born. It seems to affect his feet more than any other spot on his body. The doctors have tried various medications and treatments but finally told the little boy that nothing will work and his feet will never heal unless he begins wearing cotton socks. His parents cannot even afford food for this boy; much less provide socks for their son. So, all year long, he has been praying for socks."
Socks were at the top of the little boy's prayer list. As a matter of fact, they were his list. The mere sight of ordinary cotton socks brought tears to his eyes as he stared in awe at the priceless gift in his hands - socks. You see, they were more than just socks. They were the profound answer from our extraordinary God to a child's simple prayer. One unknown and seemingly insignificant boy in Mexico prayed. God heard him and said "Let me take care of you."
No matter how small or trivial your prayers may seem, remember God's perspective. If it is important to you, it is important to Him.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the privilege of coming before You in prayer. I want prayer to be as natural to me as breathing out and breathing in. I refuse to believe the lie that my prayers are too small or unimportant for You to hear. You are my Father. You are my God and You long to hear my voice. I will bring every prayer of my heart to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have your own "box of socks" for which you are praying? What is it?
Do you really believe that God will hear and answer your prayer?
Read Hebrews 11:6. How does your faith measure up to the faith described in this verse?
Today, pray in faith and see what God does!
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Do you have your own "box of socks" story? I would love to hear it! Email me! Know that Sharon, Gwen and I are praying for you and asking God to increase your faith ... as you go. Blessings.
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August 6, 2010
Please Notice Me
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Long ago the Lord said to Israel: "I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself" (Jeremiah 31:3, NLT).
Friend To Friend
We were gathered as a family around the pull up bar in the upstairs hall to see our oldest son, Preston, display his thirteen-year-old man-cub strength. Like a chimpanzee, he pulled his lanky frame up and down with ease, impressing us all. When he was exhausted, Preston dropped down and met our enthusiastic applause with a satisfied grin.
As the clapping and praise died down, my nine-year-old daughter, Kennedy, decided to give the pull up bar a try. Lifted to the high metal pole by her strong daddy, she gave her best effort but fell short of her desired goal. With a slightly disappointed - but not defeated - expression, she dropped to the floor, knowing that it would be a while until her upper body strength could support numerous pull up attempts.
Then my middle child man-cub jumped up to join the pull up party. At twenty-six months younger than Preston, Hunter struggled to raise and lower his youthful body on the bar. After a few successes - and even more fumbled attempts - Hunter dropped to his feet with a scowl and stomped away angrily.
Before he got too far, my husband and I spoke words of encouragement to him.
They rolled off his wilted shoulders.
He was frustrated. Disappointed. Mad.
In his eleven-year-old mind, he thought that he should be able to do what his older brother could do. He wanted the spontaneous, enthusiastic applause of an impressed gathering - not the parental encouragement to "keep working on it." So he grumbled and stewed.
After a few cool-down moments, my husband called Hunter over to have a private daddy chat. Brad confronted Hunter on the negative behavior he displayed. Then he spoke words of life to Hunter's little boy heart.
With eyes that communicated understanding and remorse, Hunter looked at his daddy and vulnerably confessed, "I'm sorry, Dad, I just really like attention - especially from you and mom."
A beautiful love moment followed.
Our days are filled with teachable moments. Sometimes we teach children. Sometimes they teach us. Often both. Hunter's voice echoed across the globe as he spoke on behalf of all the children of the world. Every child wants attention. Every child wants love.
But that longing doesn't stop at childhood. His words ring true in our hearts, don't they? Each of us wants to be loved. We all wear an invisible sign that says, "Please notice me!" "Tell me that I'm special." "Show me that you love me...and really mean it!"
"Long ago the Lord said to Israel: "I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself" (Jeremiah 31:3, NLT).
Just as God spoke those words to His children, the Israelites, long ago, God speaks across the universe today to each daughter's heart: "I notice you!" "You are special to me." "I love you...perfectly...eternally...completely, and I really mean it." He beautifully demonstrated that love through the death and resurrection of His son, Jesus. He speaks that same love through His Word and His Spirit whispers it to the hearts of His children continuously.
Are you listening? Can you hear the whispers?
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are always worthy of my attention, my affection, my adoration, and my love. To think that You would choose to love me, listen to me, and draw me to Your heart is simply mind-boggling. You are so good! Could you please speak those words of love to my heart again today, Lord?
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you believe that God notices you? What do you base that belief on?
Insert your name in this verse: "Long ago the Lord said to ________________ "I have loved you, _______________, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself, ___________________." (Jeremiah 31:3, NLT)
Believe it, friend. It's true.
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God's love is perfect. He has seen our biggest failures, our greatest places of shame and hurt - and yet, He beckons us to His love, forgiveness, healing, and grace. He has a plan for each life that is far beyond the shattered matters we deal with. Every step of transformation begins with our surrender to the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration!
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August 9, 2010
Come Thirsty, Leave Satisfied
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus answered, 'Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life'" (John 4:13-14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
We all come into the world thirsty. From the time my son made his first cry in the delivery room, he began rooting around for something to drink. God planned it that way. Our bodies are 50 to 60 percent water and must be replenished continuously. When we go without water, our skin grows clammy, our eyes become scratchy and our head start to pound. We need water to keep our mouths moist enough to swallow, our vital organs plump enough to function, and our joints lubricated enough to flex. One week without water and we simply dry up and die.
We also come into the world spiritually thirsty. From the time we are cut loose from our mother's nourishing umbilical cord, we begin our journey to discovering the living water that will satisfy the soul. Oh, we don't know it yet, but God has placed the desire in each and every one of His image bearers. Until we meet Jesus at the well, we fumble about trying to quench the God-given thirst with anything and anyone who offers temporary relief. But it is just that...temporary.
It is only in a relationship with Jesus that we discover "the ultimate purpose for which we were created, the meeting and marriage between ourselves and God...the highest and holiest and happiest hope of the human heart, the thing we were all born hungering (and thirsting) for, hunting for, longing for." (Peter Kreeft, Three Philosophies of Life, San Francisc Ignatius Press, 1989, 99.)
In John 4, we meet the Samaritan woman who had come to the well after drinking from many shallow streams. Those streams had only left her thirsty for more - or at least for something different. Jesus offered her freely flowing, resplendently refreshing water; water that bubbles up from the indwelling Holy Spirit and quenches every thirst, washes away every sin, and flows into every nook and cranny of our beings. He invites us to come often and drink deeply.
I live on a beautiful lake. I can look at the lake, swim in the lake and even stand in the lake...and still die of thirst. The only way for the water to enter my system is to scoop it up and drink.
Likewise, we can read about Jesus, listen to sermons about Jesus and even believe that He was a good man. But until we actually believe that Jesus is God's Son, the Messiah, who died for our sins and rose again...until we partake of Jesus and make Him Lord of our lives, we will remain thirsty.
In The Silver Chair, the fourth book in the Chronicles of Narnia, C.S. Lewis introduces a new character to the land of Narnia. Jill finds herself transported to Narnia as if she were caught up in a dream. The first creature she encounters is Aslan the lion, the Christ figure throughout the series. Aslan appears for a moment and then stalks slowly back into the forest. Jill is terribly afraid of meeting up with the lion, but her increasing thirst drives her in search of water. Alas! Jill discovers a stream, but she has to pass Aslan to reach it.
"Are you not thirsty?" said the Lion.
"I'm dying of thirst," said Jill.
"Then drink," said the Lion.
"May I-could I-would you mind going away while I do?" said Jill.
The Lion answered this only by a look and a very low growl. As Jill gazed at the Lion's motionless bulk, she realized that she might as well have asked the whole mountain to move aside for her convenience.
The delicious rippling noise of the stream was driving her frantic.
"Will you promise not to do anything to me, if I do come?" said Jill.
"I make no promise," said the Lion.
Jill was so thirsty now that, without noticing it, she had come a step nearer.
"Do you eat girls?" she said.
"I have swallowed up girls and boys, women and men, kings and emperors, cities and realms," said the Lion. It didn't say this as if it were boasting, nor as if it were sorry, nor as if it were angry. It just said it.
"I daren't come and drink," said Jill.
"Then you will die of thirst," said the Lion.
"Oh dear!" said Jill, coming another step nearer. "I suppose I must go and look for another stream then."
"There is no other stream," said the Lion.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I come to You thirsty today. I pray that you will fill me with living water that never shall run dry. Forgive me when I skip away to drink from other streams that never satisfy. I know that Jesus is the living water and I drink deeply from Him today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What other "streams" besides Jesus have you drank from to try and quench your thirst?
What was the end result?
What are some ways that we can quench our thirst with Jesus, the Living Water?
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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August 10, 2010
Prayer Unleashes Faith
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 5:13-16 (NIV) "Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."
Friend To Friend
A small country town was in desperate need of rain. One Sunday morning, the pastor of the local church called for a special prayer meeting to be held that night. "It's time to pray for rain," he said. The people gathered with a sense of purpose and excitement, but when the pastor stood to lead the prayer time, his words stunned the waiting crowd. "Only one of you came in faith," he announced. Looking down at the first row, the pastor pointed at a little girl who sat quietly, a smile on her face and an umbrella in her hand. We can pray for rain, but faith brings an umbrella. Prayer invites and expects God to step in and take charge. Rick Warren, the pastor of Saddleback Church in California and author of "The Purpose Driven Life" was once asked, "Rick, why do you think God blesses your life and this ministry in such powerful ways?" His answer was surprisingly simple, "Because I expect him to." Prayer shuts out fear and fuels faith.
Remember when Jesus came to the disciples, walking on the water, between three and six o'clock in the morning, the darkest time of the night? I have often wished I could have been on that boat with the disciples, waiting for Jesus to show up. I imagine the questions and complaints were flying! "Why would Jesus send us out here, knowing the waves were high? And where is He, by the way? Why is He waiting so long to rescue us? Can't He just calm the waves like He did before? I ministered all day long and this is my reward? Is He really coming? I don't understand!" Sound familiar?
When the winds picked up and the waves grew larger, I am sure that every disciple in that rocking boat was praying like crazy! Unfortunately, it often takes a crisis to drive us to our knees in prayer. I think I know why. Until we are utterly helpless, prayer seems like an option instead of our only hope.
Three ministers were discussing which position produces the most powerful prayer. As they were talking, a telephone repairman was working on the phone system in the background. One minister shared that he felt the key to powerful prayer was in the hands. He always held his hands together and pointed them upward as a form of symbolic worship. The second suggested that real prayer was conducted on the knees while the third minister suggested that they both had it wrong. According to him, the only position worth its salt was to pray while stretched out flat on your face in humility. The phone man couldn't resist offering his opinion, "I have found that the most powerful prayer I ever prayed was while I was dangling upside down by my heels from a power pole suspended forty feet above the ground." Helplessness underlines our need for faith and our total dependence upon God, even when the skies are clear and the water is calm.
Answered prayer should be the norm. Prayer should be as natural and constant as breathing. A mother overheard her daughter-in-law talking on the telephone to a friend who had called, asking for prayer. Five-year-old Amy came bouncing into the room, stood still for a moment to listen, and heard her mother praying. "Is that God on the phone, Mom?" Amy interrupted. "I need to talk to Him, too!"
Samuel Chadwick writes, "The one concern of the devil is to keep Christians from praying. He fears nothing from prayer-less studies, prayer-less work and prayer-less religion. He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom, but he trembles when we pray." The best time for prayer isn't found. It's made. The average Christian spends very little time in prayer - then wonders why they have no faith and experience no power. If we are too busy to pray, we are too busy to experience the power of God. We can be very busy, but not necessarily productive because we lack faith. One of the main reasons we lack faith is because we don't pray. Consistent prayer builds consistent faith.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for the gift of prayer. I am constantly amazed by Your love and the fact that You really want to spend time with me in prayer. Help me to become a mighty prayer warrior for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray! You have probably read many devotions and listened to a few sermons on prayer. However, I believe the main problem with our prayer life is simple - we just do not pray. We think we have to be in a certain place, at a certain time going through specific steps in order to pray. Prayer needs to become a habit that takes second place to nothing. Pray about everything. Start praying in the morning when your eyes open and don't stop until they close in sleep. Create a prayer journal in which you can record prayer requests, prayers and praises. Right now, celebrate the gift of prayer - and pray!
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God's love is not a shallow love that always rescues easily or quickly. God loves us enough to walk us through the fiery times that make us more like His Son, Jesus Christ. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are different from our thoughts. He is Holy God! Join me in a new commitment to trust God to work at the right time and in the right way as we seek Him in prayer.
Need help? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
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August 11, 2010
Steamed Up in the Kitchen
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her" (Luke 10:41, 42 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Mary and Martha lived in a home with their brother, Lazarus, in the small Judean village of Bethany. Bethany was two miles east of the temple in Jerusalem, on the east slope of the Mount of Olives - the final station on the road from Jericho to Jerusalem. The name, Bethany, meant "house of dates and figs," the perfect place to stop for refreshment. Mary and Martha's home served as a safe haven and quiet retreat for Jesus as he traveled from place to place.
Mary and Martha were busy in the kitchen making dinner for their honored guest and his friends. "Mary, check on the roasting lamb," Martha calls among the clattering of the pots and pans. "And where's the wine? The bread must be kneaded in fifteen minutes. There's just so much to do!"
"I'll take a bowl of fresh dates into the guests," Mary said. "That will give them something to nibble on while we finish the preparations."
As Mary entered the room, she heard Jesus talking about the kingdom of God, the plan of redemption, the fulfillment of prophecy, the forgiveness of sins, and eternal life.
"Do not judge and you will not be judged," Jesus taught. "Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Give and it will be given to you."
"The kingdom of God is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his garden," he continued. "It grew and became a tree, and the birds of the air perched in its branches."
Jesus noticed Mary standing in the doorway and motioned for her to enter. Looking directly at her, he continued, "The kingdom of God is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into a large amount of flour until it worked all through the dough."
Jesus continued teaching about who he was, and what he came to do. Mesmerized by the Rabbi's words, Mary sank to the floor and sat right at the Master's feet with the others. The men shifted uncomfortably in their places, but Jesus lowered his eyes and began speaking directly to Mary - his newest student.
The disciples waited for Jesus to send Mary back into the kitchen where she belonged, but He didn't. They were confused when Jesus welcomed her into the classroom, but tried their best not to become distracted by her presence. After all, women were not allowed to sit and learn from a Rabbi's teaching. They weren't even allowed to join men in such a gathering at all.
Twenty minutes passed when Martha huffed, "Where is that girl?"
Martha angrily stomped into the gathering room with mixing bowl in hand. All eyes turned toward the frustrated sister as she interrupted Jesus and pointed her wooden spoon in Mary's direction.
"Lord," she began sternly, "can't you see that Mary has left me all alone in the kitchen? What does she think she's doing? Don't you care that I have to do all this work by myself while my irresponsible sister is out here lollygagging about with the men. Why she's not even supposed to be out here at all. It isn't proper for a woman to join a room full of men, much less sit at a rabbi's feet while he's teaching. Put her in her place! Tell her to get back in the kitchen this instant!"
The men turned their head from Jesus to the red-faced Martha and back to Jesus again.
"Martha, Martha," Jesus replied, "don't get so worked up. Mary is right where she needs to be. You are so worried, bothered, and distracted with the details of living that you miss the joys of life. You don't need to work so hard to create a feast for us. That's not even important. What is important is that I am here and I have something to share with you. Mary has figured that out. She has chosen what is important and I am not going to send her away. She has joined the classroom to learn - to become a disciple of God's Word - and I am not going to take that away from her.
Martha put her flour-covered hand on her hip, spun around on her heels, and marched back into the kitchen. "Well, I never," she mumbled as she stomped away.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I have a smile on my face as I think about Martha all steamed up in the kitchen. Thank you for the courage of Mary of Bethany to enter your classroom and sit at Your feet with the other disciples. Thank You for swinging the doors wide open for women to become disciples or students of the Word and followers of Jesus Christ.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope you enjoyed my retelling of the story of Martha steamed up in the kitchen. We must never forget that these were real women who had real encounters with Jesus - encounters that changed their lives forever.
Have you ever entered a place of worship or study and felt somewhat or totally out of place?
What do you think the disciples thought when Jesus allowed a woman to join them while He taught?
Do you think this was a gutsy move for Mary?
Do you think they were surprised when Jesus didn't send her back into the kitchen?
Is God calling you to make a gutsy move for Him today? If so, I'd love to hear about it. Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your story. We'd love to pray for you as you move forward!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours.
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August 12, 2010
Strength for the Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth.
Romans 5:3-5 (NLT) "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation."
Friend To Friend
Life is filled with storms of one kind or another. In the midst of those storms, we tend to respond as if God has somehow been caught off guard. The storm makes no sense. We can't explain why terminal illness strikes godly people. We don't understand how our strongest friends can become our fiercest critics. The anguish of a broken marriage or the overwhelming heartbreak of a prodigal child drives us to doubt God's purpose, plan and provision. The fear of financial ruin paralyzes us. God understands.
The Bible is filled with men and women who were storm survivors - people of God who endured great pain and weathered intense life storms because they chose to follow Him. The Apostle Paul, known for persecuting and murdering Christians, was forever changed when he met Jesus Christ. While God gave him a life of great power and eternal impact, it was also a life filled with great storms. Paul learned to "patiently" endure the troubles, hardships and calamities that came his way. (2 Corinthians 6:4 NLT)
Because grain was a precious food source to the Romans, threshing grain was a natural part of every day in ancient Rome. In pictures of early Rome, one man is always seen stirring up the sheaves while another rides over them in a crude cart equipped with rollers instead of wheels. Sharp stones and rough bits of iron were attached to these wheels to help separate the husks from the grain. This simple cart was called a "tribulum" from which we get our word "tribulation."
No Roman ever used his tribulum as a tool of destruction - only refinement. God uses our trials and storms as tools of refinement to build in us endurance. The word "endure" comes from two Greek words that when combined, give the meaning "to remain under." It is the capacity to stay under the load, to remain in the circumstances without running away or looking for the easy way out.
The purpose of every storm is to purify and cultivate endurance. Like Paul, we may sometimes feel as if we are being torn to pieces under the pressure of circumstances. But his challenge to the Romans compels us to re-examine our perspective and response to each storm we face. "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation" (Romans 5:3-5 NLT).
Endurance is never passive. It is the picture of a soldier staying in the heat of the battle under terrible opposition but still pressing forward to gain the victory.
There are few things that we can count on in this unpredictable life - but we can count on storms to come. We can also count on God's continual and unfailing strength for those storms. When the hard times come, when bad things happen, we do not have to wonder where God is. Instead we can hold on to the promise that is found in Jeremiah 16:19, "Lord, you are my strength, and my protection. You are a safe place for me to run in times of trouble" (NLT).
An old seaman once said, "In fierce storms we can do but one thing. There is only one way to survive. We must put the ship in a certain position and keep her there." Richard Fuller commented on the old seaman's words:
"This, Christian, is what you must do. Sometimes, like Paul, you can see neither sun nor stars, and no small tempest lies on you. Reason cannot help you. Past experiences give you no light. Only a single course is left. You must stay upon the Lord; and come what may -- winds, waves, cross seas, thunder, lightning, frowning rocks, roaring breakers -- no matter what, you must lash yourself to the helm and hold fast your confidence in God's faithfulness and his everlasting love in Christ Jesus."
No matter what storm rages in your life today - no matter how fierce the winds or how high the waves may be - where you are is no surprise to God. Heaven is not in a panic. Keep your gaze on Him and your glance on the raging waters. "Lash yourself" to Him and He will supply everything you need to stand firm in the storm.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to weather the storms of life on my own. I need Your power and strength to face each one. Please teach me to turn to you first. Help me learn to patiently endure the hard times and honor You in the midst of them as I walk by faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back at the storms you have come through. Have you learned more about endurance? Are you stronger now than you were then?
Memorize Romans 5:3-5. Examine the storms you are facing today. Choose to rejoice in the midst of each one, knowing it is an opportunity to trust God.
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We lived in South Florida for many years. As hurricane season approached each year, residents of South Florida raced to the grocery stores and nearest lumber yards to stockpile supplies. Batteries, flashlights, canned food, bread, peanut butter and bottled water were the first to go. Weathermen issued constant warnings to get ready and stay ready for a storm. We must do the same. Make no mistake - a storm is on the horizon. Stand firm, knowing that God is Lord of every storm you will ever face.
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August 13, 2010
The To-Do List Abyss
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:17 (NIV) "She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks."
Friend To Friend
Many of us check off neatly penciled boxes. Some draw lines through the tasks we've finished. A select few of us even add tasks that we've already completed to our list so that we've got accurate accomplishment records at the end of the day! (Present company included!) J Some of us keep track of what we need to do each day in our heads, while others track progress of daily goals electronically.
There are days I fluff up my list. Instead of simply writing, "Do three loads of laundry," I'll create twelve list items to check off that read:
· Wash whites
· Dry whites
· Fold/hang whites
· Put away whites
· Wash colors
· Dry colors
· Fold/hang colors
· Put away colors
· Wash darks
· Dry darks
· Fold/hang darks
· Put away darks
Oh, how I love to check boxes! Why? I want to be productive woman. I want my work to matter. It's pretty much a daily struggle for me. As an eternal optimist, I wake up anticipating that the seconds, minutes, and hours of each day will bend to cooperate with the demands of my list.
Yeah, right.
I'm such a dreamer. It just never seems to work out that simply or efficiently.
I'm guessing that you are in this daily struggle with me. Right? No matter what it looks like, thinks like, or prints off like, many of us feel overwhelmed by the abyss of a rarely satisfied to-do list. We face constant demands that call to us and vie for our attention. We sift through the essentials and the fire drills, then we go to bed, wake up, and do it all again. The abyss of a to-do list can be so exhausting!
The good news is that we don't need to face our lists alone. God offers to come along side of us daily to provide the strength, perspective, and wisdom we need. In the Bible, we read of a woman who approached each day with God-power and God-perspective:
"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks" (Proverbs 31:17, NIV).
Though this is an impressive statement about her work ethic and though it seems this fictional woman dominates her daily to-do list, it's important to consider the source of her strength: God. At the end of the chapter, Scripture shows us that she "...fears the Lord..." (Proverbs 31:30, NIV). Her source of strength is rooted in faith and in her dependence on God. Ours should be, too.
Your list looks different from mine. We all have unique ministries, friendships, jobs, responsibilities, and families. Whether you are in the work force, unemployed, or retired or a stay-at-home mom, a single mom, or an empty nester - a wife, a widow, a single woman, or a divorcee - God can and will give you strength for each day when you prioritize Him and fear Him.
Consider the following verses:
"Are you so foolish? After beginning with the Spirit, are you now trying to attain your goal by human effort?" (Galatians 3:3, NIV).
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:28-31, NIV).
God longs to strengthen your arms for the tasks on your to-do list today. Place time with Him as your first priority. Check your God-box. Go to Him now. Pray. Listen. Call on Him for direction, wisdom, renewal, and strength. Strong arms await you, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
God, I was created by You and for You. Please forgive me when I rush into a day without calling on You for my strength. I need you, Lord. Please prioritize my heart and my list today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 31:25-26: "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."
How closely do you relate to the above verse?
What steps need to be taken in your life to move toward a deeper dependence on God's strength verses your own? Are you willing to go there? Take a moment to talk to God about it.
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August 16, 2010
Lassie Come Home
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
As a child, my best friend was my collie dog, Lassie. She was my constant companion, committed confidant, and persistent protector. When the veterinarian told us that Lassie had an incurable skin disease, I was devastated. My dad couldn't bring himself to have her put to sleep, so he took her to an old farmer for the remainder of her days. But it wasn't too long before Lassie ran away.
My dad always looked for Lassie when he was in that "neck of the woods." Then one day, a miracle happened! Dad saw Lassie running down the street toward him. She looked healthier than ever and a flurry of fur, tail wagging, and sloppy dog kisses almost knocked Dad off his feet. We were overjoyed when Lassie came cruising home in the gray Buick.
Two weeks later, my older brother was out wrestling with Lassie in the yard. Dazed and ashen faced, he stumbled through the backdoor.
"Mom, we've got a problem," he said. "Lassie isn't a lassie at all. She's a laddie! She's a boy and this is not our dog!"
Upon closer inspection, we discovered that she was a he...and not our Lassie. We ran ads in the paper, but no one ever claimed him. He seemed perfectly content in our home, so there he stayed.
Have you ever wanted something so badly - hunted, searched, and maybe even prayed - then when you found it, you realized that maybe it wasn't exactly what you wanted, but it was definitely what you needed? I wanted my dog back. Laddie wanted a home. And for one little girl and one stray pup, God's answer was perfect in every way.
God always answers our prayers, but sometimes it's just not in the way we had expected.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that You care about every hair on my head. You hear the spoken and unspoken longings of my heart. Help me to pay attention and recognize those moments when You gently and quietly answer my prayers...perhaps in a way I didn't expect.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time when you prayed and God said "no." Looking back, can you now see the wisdom of that answer?
Have you ever prayed and had God answer you in an unexpected way? If so, I'd love to hear about it. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com/blog and share your story.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's devotional book, Extraordinary Moments with God. Come with Sharon as she dusts for God's fingerprints that change ordinary days into extraordinary moments. As you explore this treasury of stories highlighting "God moments" in the lives of fellow travelers, you too will begin to sense His presence in extraordinary ways.
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August 17, 2010
Lessons Learned on the Job
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:11 (NLT) "Never be lazy in your work, but serve the Lord enthusiastically."
Friend to Friend
God uses our work as one of His tools to mold us into who He wants us to be. Stress comes when we view our job as our main life mission instead of seeing our work as an opportunity to provide the tools we need to accomplish our life mission. The apostle Paul writes, "Life is worth nothing unless I use it for doing the work assigned me by the Lord Jesus - the work of telling others the Good News about God's mighty kindness and love" (Acts 20:24 LB). Paul worked as a tentmaker, a church planter, an author. His purpose never changed, but his work certainly did. Many of us do not need a different job. We simply need a different attitude and a new point of view about the job we have. Begin by envisioning Jesus standing in the midst of your work place as your real boss. Then look for the life lessons God provides through your work.
God uses my work to teach me responsibility. Meeting deadlines, completing assigned tasks with excellence, showing respect for co-workers (even the abrasive ones) and working without supervision are all valuable life lessons learned on the job. When we try to cut corners, stress steps in and wreaks havoc in our attitude about work.
God uses people at work to teach me about relationships. Cooperation, fairness, flexibility, humility and patience are relationship skills of a successful worker. Stress comes when we stray from the guidelines God gives us for serving others. Our workplace is not only one of our God-ordained mission fields; it is a classroom for learning to love the unlovable, forgive the unforgivable and, in short, be "God with skin on." You may very well be the only sermon your co-workers ever hear.
God uses my work to teach me how to serve. The way we serve God is by serving others. God wants us to grow spiritually at work by becoming a servant to those with whom we work. It is easy to serve those who sit beside us on a pew each Sunday, but a real servant serves on the job. God asks us to accept others unconditionally, encourage other continually, forgive others freely and help others willingly.
Attitudes never sit still. They constantly move and change. An attitude is a pattern of thinking, a filter through which we view life. We can choose to be honest about our attitude at work and we can choose to change our attitude about work, but most importantly, we can choose to pray for God's attitude about work. When we can't change our attitude, the One who lives in us can give us His attitude. Exchanging our attitude for His always eliminates stress.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for Your provision through my job. I praise You for the opportunity to serve You and others through my work. Help me to see those in need and reach out to them in Your name.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your Turn
Consider the ways God uses your job to teach you the valuable life lessons listed below. List specific work circumstances and the lessons you learned in each one. Examine your attitude about your work for any changes that need to be made. Record those changes below.
God uses my work to teach me responsibility. _________________________________
God uses people at work to teach me about relationships. _______________________
God uses my work to teach me how to serve. _________________________________
Consider the following questions:
Do the people I work with see Christ in me?
Do they even know I am a Christian?
What changes do I need to make in order to point my co-workers to Christ?
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I recently stopped at a local discount store to pick up a few things. When I went to check out, the cashier looked very familiar. He must have seen the question in my eyes because he smiled and said, "It's good to see you, Mrs. Southerland." When I heard his voice, I immediately recognized him as the manager of a local grocery store where I frequently shopped. Before I could say one word, he explained, "I lost my job at the grocery store. Evidently, I needed to change mission fields for awhile." Now that is what I call a heavenly perspective of an earthly job.
Need help? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Strength for the Storm, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
Join other women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Sandpaper People is the current series and will help you discover ten ways to deal with the "sandpaper people" in your life - you know - the ones that rub you the wrong way. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
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August 18, 2010
Jesus Loves Me, This I Know
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:35, 38-39 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was the first anniversary of the terrorist bombing of September 11, 2001. The rubble from the World Trade Center had been cleared and the Pentagon repaired, but men and women all across America still mourned the 3,000 lives that were lost on that dark day. In my hometown, a memorial was set up on an expanse of land with a sea of twelve-inch white crosses representing the men and women who died.
Kathy and her family went to see the memorial. Along with her seventeen-year-old daughter, Heather, Kathy took along her three-year-old niece, Taylor. It was difficult for young Taylor to understand exactly what was going on and why so many people were sad, but she obediently walked hand-in-hand with her cousin between the tiny crosses. At some point, little Taylor wandered away from her family.
It was reverently silent as the crowd of mourners looked at the names inscribed on the white memorials. Some crosses were decorated with flowers, others with Teddy Bears or other memorabilia, but nothing spoke more poignantly than the silence broken by quiet sobs. Then, as if coming directly from heaven, a small voice could be heard floating on the breeze. Everyone turned to notice a little girl with outstretched arms twirling in circles among the crosses.
With face lifted toward the sky, she sang...
"Jesus loves me, this I know.
For the Bible tells me so.
Little ones to Him belong.
We are weak but He is strong.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
The Bible tells me so."
Time seemed to stand still as hundreds of mourners turned their attention to one small girl with a big message. Even in the midst of pain, even with the loss of life, loss of dreams, and loss of hope... Jesus still loves us. That love can lift the burden of despair, resurrect our dreams, and restore our hope.
In 2 Corinthians 4:6-9 Paul reminds us: "For God who said, 'Let light shine out of darkness,' made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."
Jesus loves me...this I know.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, today I remember all the men and women who died in the terrorist attack of September 11, 2001. I also think of the difficulties in my own life. Thank You that no matter what my outward circumstances may be, the fact that Jesus loves me will never be shattered or shaken. You, O LORD, are the constant in my life and You are the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Jesus loves me, this I know.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was a time in your life that you have felt overcome with the gravity of a difficult situation?
How did the knowledge of God's unchanging, unfailing love give you comfort?
Perhaps you are in the middle of such a situation at this very moment. Are you willing, as the little girl in this story, to open your arms to God and sing, "Jesus loves me this I know?" Why don't you stop right now where you are and sing that chorus to God.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book; Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Discovering peace and purpose in the hurts of your past. If you would like to learn more about turning your pain into purpose and your hurt into hope, this book can help you on your journey to wholeness and healing.
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August 2010
Is God's Word Important to You?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 3:16 (NLT) "All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. 17It is God's way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do."
Friend to Friend
If we really want to know God, if we really want to understand who and whose we are, the Bible must have the highest place in our lives. We don't have to be a Bible scholar or have a firm grip on the Hebrew and Greek languages to know and apply God's promises. As you read the Bible, the Holy Spirit will give you supernatural understanding and teach you spiritual truth. He will then give you the power you need to follow those teachings and apply their truths.
A disciple is a follower, a learner and a student. If we want to follow God and be a learner of Him, a student of His ways, then we have to understand the importance of the Bible, love the Word and spend time in it. I really thought I was doing a fair job of plugging the truth of God's Word into my life until I rammed right into Psalm 119. Within this passage, I discovered a test for us as believers that will help determine the importance we really place on God's Word in daily life. Take this test with me to see if God's Word has the place in your life that it should have.
Is God's Word more important to you than food?
Psalm 119:103 "Your promises are sweet to me, sweeter than honey in my mouth" (NCV).
Here the Bible is described as honey and at other places in the Scripture as milk or bread. The Bible is our spiritual food. God's Word sustains and strengthens us just like food sustains and strengthens our physical body. Just like malnutrition affects our physical growth, spiritual malnutrition affects our spiritual growth. I dare say that we rarely miss a meal. We always seem to find a way to eat, even if we must resort to eating fast food. Do we have the same depth of commitment to our spiritual growth and health as we do to satisfying the hunger pains of our human body?
Is God's Word more important to you than money?
Psalm 119:72 "Your teachings are worth more to me than thousands of pieces of gold and silver" (NCV).
The psalmist is saying is that spiritual wealth is more important than human wealth. Do we really live as if that statement were true? I have a friend who is totally committed to God and to serving Him whole-heartedly. My friend is a garbage collector - a happy garbage collector. I once asked him why he was so happy in his work. "Mary, I collect garbage to pay the bills. My real passion in life is to share Jesus Christ and to serve Him with joy." I recently spoke for a church that is almost totally staffed by volunteers. One couple in particular, felt led to serve the church but knew that the church budget would not pay another salary. What did they do? They moved into a tiny, one-bedroom apartment and sold their car to buy a smaller, more economic vehicle. The husband quit his job to work as a full-time volunteer at the church and his wife took a church staff position that pays a minimal salary that they both live on. And I have never met two happier or less-stressed people. They have the right backdrop for life and it is neither wealth nor money.
Is God's Word more important to you than sleep?
Psalm 119:147-148 "I wake up early in the morning and cry out. I hope in your word. I stay awake all night so I can think about your promises" (NCV).
I know. God is getting really personal, isn't He? When we start talking about giving up sleep to read and study the Word of God, we are talking radical obedience. Exactly! If we want to experience God's power in our life, we have to saturate it with His Word.
The truth is that we find a way to do the things in life that are important to us. Have you noticed that we always seem to find the time to eat and sleep? We are driven to work in order to live the good life but we neglect the most important - the only eternal part of our being - our soul. Our soul can only be nourished and fed by the Word of the Living God. How important is God's word in your life?
Jeremiah 2:32 "Does a maiden forget her jewelry, a bride her wedding ornaments? Yet my people have forgotten me, days without number" (NCV).
Jeremiah did not write these words to the unbeliever but to those of us who call ourselves "disciples" of Jesus Christ. I can hear the sorrow in His words, can't you? They vividly portray the broken heart of a Father whose children have ignored Him and abandoned His words. I know what it does to me as a parent when my children do not listen to me or when they choose a path that is in direct opposition to one I would have chosen for them. I can only imagine what it does to God's heart when we go for days and even weeks or months without even picking up the Bible except as an accessory for others to see when attending church.
We live in Shawnee, Kansas where Westar Energy creates a tremendous amount of electricity and makes it available to us. With that power, we can light our home, stay warm in the winter and cool in the summer. We can enjoy electrically powered appliances that turn, spin, wash, dry and clean. Electricity makes a big difference in our life - when we flip the switch. Unless we use and appropriate the electricity that is available to us, it has no power in our life. The same is true of the Bible. How important is God's Word to you?
Let's Pray
Father, I pray that You would give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word. I want to please You with my life through obedience to Your truths. I choose to spend time with You every day this week, studying the Bible. Would You please honor my commitment and empower me to keep it? When I fail, Lord, I choose now to forgive myself as You forgive me - and begin again.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your Turn
Set aside one hour this week to re-evaluate your plan for reading and studying the Bible. Set new goals for daily Bible study. Make the goals realistic for your current lifestyle. Next week, add 15 minutes to your study time each day. Pray and ask the Father to empower this new commitment. Set a specific time and place for your Bible study. Remember to record new truths and insights in a journal.
At the end of the week, go back over your entries you have made to see what changes God has made in your life. Praise Him for the power of His Word. Do not allow the enemy to discourage you or persuade you to give up.
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How did you do? I will tell you honestly that I failed this test! I have walked with God for many years and I still do not have the hunger and thirst for God's Word that I should have. If we would listen carefully, I believe we could hear God say, "If you want to get to know me - really know me - if you want to be intimate with Me, then you have to know my Book!" The level of stress in my life is directly correlated to the amount of time I spend or don't spend reading and applying the Word of God.
Need help? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Strength for the Storm, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
Join other women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Sandpaper People is the current series and will help you discover ten ways to deal with the "sandpaper people" in your life - you know - the ones that rub you the wrong way. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
Going through a tough time? Are your fears and uncertainties rooted in your past? Get past your past! Check out Mary's FREE MP3: Getting Past Your Past.
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August 20, 2010
Make Up Your Mind
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 26:3 (NCV) "You, LORD, give true peace to those who depend on you, because they trust you."
Friend to Friend
As I stood on the sideline of the football field where my eighteen-year-old son was practicing for the South Florida All Star Football Game, I was not prepared for the hideous sounds and horrific sights that assaulted every protective sense I have as a mother. My baby - my six foot, two hundred and thirty pound baby - was knocking padded giants left and right as he bulldozed his way toward the goal line.
Mixed emotions, foreign thoughts skipped through my heart and mind. On one hand, I was so proud of Jered that I felt like shouting to the college scouts and coaches standing beside me, "That's my boy!" On the other hand, I wanted to drag him off of that field, lock him in his nice, safe room and never let him play the barbaric game of football again. The curious thing is that Jered is a gentle young man who loves every animal he sees, will do anything to help anyone in need, rarely gets angry and is a major hugger. So what happens when he steps on that football field? I'll tell you what happens; he turns into a growling, intimidating predator, who will bash heads and bruise any bodies that get in his way.
On the ride home, I shared my thoughts with Jered, describing my astonishment at his metamorphosis from the teddy bear I know to the bulldozing bear opponents fear. He laughed and said, "Mom, ninety per cent of football is mental. If you think tough you will be tough." I could buy that theory, in part, but looking at Jered's size, considerable bulk and bulging muscles, I had to believe that his physical attributes had something to do with his intimidating bruiser mentality on the football field. "Son, you are a hulk. Any player would be afraid of you!" He grinned, loving the compliment and then reminded me of a friend who had graduated two years before. Chris was a short and lean but deadly running back known for intimidating players twice his size. I did remember Chris, as well as Jered coming home from several practices complaining, "I'd rather get hit by anyone on the team but Chris. He is brutal!" My son then said something I will never forget. "Mom, Chris was a great football player because he thought he was a great football player. I have seen so many guys who are bigger, stronger and better who could not begin to play as well as Chris played. In this game, success is not only in the body but the mind."
What a powerful truth - on the football field - and in the game of life.
The thought processes of a child are very different from those of a mature person. A child thinks only of himself and his desires, his wants and needs making up the heart of his world and completely occupying his focus. Certainly for the sake of survival, every baby comes into this world as a narcissist, thinking only of its own needs. But with healthy growth of the mind comes a natural change in focus from inward to outward. The thought life of a mature believer must be well trained because the greatest battlefield for the Christian is the mind. Proverbs 23:7 tells us, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is" (NASB). In other words, what we think about powerfully influences who and what we will become. Our actions, our attitudes and habits are born in the mind, an offspring of the thought life we entertain.
We can literally change our life by changing how we think - but we cannot do it alone. God's standard and guideline for the thought life is very clear and demanding. In fact, it's downright impossible without God's power at work in our life.
Philippians 4:8 "Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected" (NCV).
We choose what we watch and read, the conversations we have and the time we spend in the Word. If the mind is not filled with good, trust me, the enemy will fill it with bad. The human mind will always set itself on something. In this passage, Paul is challenging us to wisely choose that setting, taking charge of our thoughts by inviting the Holy Spirit to empower God's standard for the mind.
It is time for us to allow the Holy Spirit free reign in training our mind, harnessing our thoughts and measuring them by God's standard. If we don't make up our mind, our unmade mind will unmake us. In order to live right we must think right. How about you? Have you made up your mind?
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess to You that my thoughts are not pure. I have allowed the world and outside influences to pollute the mind that should be set on You. Right now, I choose against my old ways of thinking and invite the Holy Spirit to stand guard over my mind. I commit to fill my heart and mind with Your truth.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recognize the power of your thought life.
Read Colossians 3:2.
Choose God's worthy standard for your thought life from this day on.
Read Romans 8:6.
In the past, how have your thoughts affected your decisions or actions?
Read Ephesians 4:22-24.
How can you control outside sources of influence?
Read Isaiah 26:3.
What part can the Word of God play in renewing your mind? How?
Read Psalm 26:2-3.
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August 23, 2010
The Hidden Treasure
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Romans 8:28 is a verse in the Bible that has been loved and despised by many who struggle with difficult situations or mourn the loss of a broken dream. "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
What does God really mean by "all things?" Last time I checked, it means "all things" including the good, the bad, and the ugly. In every dark circumstance of life, I believe that there is a nugget of gold or a hidden treasure, waiting to be discovered. However, for that to happen, we must get out of the pit, push the dirt aside, and look beneath the surface.
Is it easy? No. Is it messy? Usually. It is worth it? Always.
Many years after we had lost our second child, I was standing in the doorway of our son's room. I watched as Steven lay in a tangle of sheets with limbs sticking out in all directions. He was sixteen-years-old, six-feet tall, and needed a shave. A mass of shaggy thick brown hair rested on his pillow and my heart swelled with love for this man-child.
"Lord," I prayed, "you know how much I love children and how I always longed to be a mom. Your ways are higher than our ways and I know that You are my heavenly Father who knows what is best for me, but God, I need a nugget of gold today. I need for You to show me a purpose behind this pain. Why were there no more children?"
Then, God's Word washed over me: For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
"Is that You Lord," I asked. Again: For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The words drenched me like a spring rain on parched ground, and for the first time in my life, I truly grasped the height, the depth, and the breadth of those familiar words.
See, I have a one and only son. There are many people that I love in this world, but there is no one...no one...that I love enough to sacrifice my only son. And yet, God loved me that much. He loved me enough to sacrifice His one and only Son in order to give me life. With tears streaming down my cheeks, I thanked God for helping me understand His great love - for giving me a living breathing picture indelibly impressed in my mind and on my heart. If that was the only purpose behind the years of infertility and the loss of a child, then that was enough.
Have you gone through a painful time in your life? If so, God has a valuable treasure just waiting to be discovered. Today, pray that God will reveal the nugget of gold to be unearthed.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I know that You can use every difficult situation in my life for good. I may not understand Your ways, but I trust Your wisdom. I may not see Your hand, but I trust Your heart. I pray that You will open my spiritual eyes to see the hidden treasure in today's dark circumstances.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you explain mining for gold to a child?
How is mining for gold much like looking for treasure in the dirt of life?
Has there been a difficult situation in your past that God has used for good? If so, what is it?
Are you willing to ask God to show you the hidden treasure?
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Today's lesson was taken from Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. If you would like to learn more about discovering the gold in the difficulties of life, and becoming the radiant woman that God intended all along, then this book is for you! Let's grow and glow together!
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August 24, 2010
Beautiful Irritations
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places so that you may know that I am the LORD, your God (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Life can be so irritating. More often than not, it is the little things that annoy me the most. The lost set of keys. The misplaced cell phone. The ice-maker that refuses to do its job on a hot summer day. The empty tea pitcher stuck back in the refrigerator. But then there are times when people are the problem. They show up uninvited or call when I am running out the door, already late for an appointment that I really don't have time to keep. Been there?
I am convinced that these tiny irritations are a tool in the hand of a loving Father who uses them as "heavenly sandpaper" to rub off some of our rough edges.
I was invited to speak for a women's conference based on the theme, "Pearls of Wisdom." When I arrived at the conference center, I was greeted by women wearing pearl necklaces, pearl bracelets, pearl pins, hats covered in multicolored pearls ... you name it, and they wore it if it had pearls. Each table was beautifully decorated with treasure chests overflowing with strands of pearls. Oyster shells held candy mints that looked like pearls and each name tag was decorated with a single pearl. It was amazing!
I was warmly welcomed and then promptly introduced to the event director and leadership team who were excited and ready to go - except for one problem. I was "pearl-less." I was quickly told that the speaker had to wear pearls of some kind. I did not have any pearls but this creative group of ladies was not easily deterred and before I knew it, I was wearing a stunning pearl necklace - and the pearls were the real deal. I could just see that necklace breaking while I was speaking, but before I could utter one word of protest, the owner of the necklace said, "Don't worry! You can just give it back to me at the end of the conference." And off we went!
I am what you might call an "active" speaker in that I cannot stand still and talk at the same time. I get excited, pace the stage, arms waving and can literally work up quite a sweat. The "Pearls of Wisdom" conference was no exception. In fact, it was a blistering summer day and the air conditioning was having trouble keeping up with the size of the crowd. By the time I finished speaking, I was indeed "glowing." When we were dismissed for the day, women waited in line to talk, ask for prayer or share a new truth God had given them. I forgot all about the pearl necklace until its owner quietly slipped up beside me and said, "I have to leave and need to retrieve my necklace." As she began to undo the necklace clasp, I apologized for perspiring all over her beautiful pearls. She laughed and said, "Actually, it is good for them. Human perspiration helps the pearls keep their luster."
I am constantly amazed at the profound truths God has tucked into the simple things of life. Pearls are formed when a piece of grit, sand or shell is trapped inside an oyster. The oyster protects itself from irritation by secreting a nacreous liquid that surrounds the irritant until it eventually becomes a pearl. In other words, what begins as an annoying irritant eventually becomes a valuable treasure. The same is true in life.
Looking back, I can honestly say that the greatest treasures in my life have been discovered during the darkest times of my life. A battle with clinical depression stripped away years of fear and doubt, leaving me with a new identity in Christ and a ministry I never thought possible. The inability to have biological children made it possible to adopt our son and daughter, Jered and Danna, giving my husband and me a gift beyond measure. Over the years, weaknesses have given way to strengths and failures have led to successes and God has used it all for His glory and my good.
In God's economy, a mess is the perfect setting for a miracle, girlfriend. A sliver of hope and a seed of victory are buried at the center of every problem. God has gone before you. He has already been where you are going and in every trial or difficult moment of life, God has buried a treasure. When the tough times come, just look for the pearls.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so sorry for the way I complain about my circumstances. Please forgive me for my bad attitude when things don't go my way. I want to see Your hand in every part of every day - good or bad. Help me learn how to face every storm with confidence, knowing that You really are in control even though I cannot hear Your voice or see Your hand at work. May others see You in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 1:2-4 and answer the following questions:
· What does the word "consider" suggest as a response to difficult circumstances?
· What should our first response be to trials?
· What does the testing of our faith produce in us?
· What promise does James give us when we are faithful and choose to stand strong when life is hard?
· How do these truths relate to your life today?
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I don't know about you, but I tend to look for the nearest exit when a storm hits. Avoiding difficult people and complicated circumstances tends to be one of my most common goals. Can you relate? What we really need to do is cultivate an attitude of unshakable confidence in God and keep a "but God" promise in our heart.
"My husband has lost his job, but God will provide."
"The doctors have said there is no hope, but God is the Great Physician."
"I don't know what to do, but God will show me the way."
We live in uncertain times which demand a certain hope that can only be found in God. Right now, choose faith over feeling. Don't doubt in the darkness what you learned in the light. God is with you, friend. Look for the pearls!
Need help? Check out Mary's books, Sandpaper People and Escaping the Stress Trap for ways to handle those irritating people who rub you the wrong way and manage the stress they can cause in your life.
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August 25, 2010
Meeting the Man of Your Dreams
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I who speak to you am he" (John 4:26 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The harsh mid-day sun beat down through a cloudless sky. The morning breeze had long since stilled as the heavy air weighed a body down. The weary, worn woman picked up her empty water jug, a reflection of her empty life, and headed to Jacob's well to draw her daily supply.
Jacob's well was a bustling place for community life among the women in the small village. It was their one chance to leave the confines of home and mingle with friends. They caught up on the latest gossip, exchanged village news, and shared homemaking tips. Most women came to the well in groups...no surprise there. But Ramona ventured out alone.
"It would be nice if I could go to the well in the cool of the morning or the calm of the evening like all the other women," she mumbled to herself. "But it's just not worth it. I'm tired of the condescending stares, the buzzing gossip, and the snide snickers. Why, last week, Mariah yanked her five-year old daughter's arm to keep her from getting too close to me. What? Did she think I would contaminate her if she brushed my robe? No, I prefer the searing sun to their glaring gazes."
Ramona peeked out of the door. "High noon. The coast is clear."
The Samaritan woman easily balanced the five-gallon water jug atop her veiled head and made her way to the community well. Her thoughts of rejection continued as she plodded down the dusty trail. She felt as empty as the jug she carried. All I've ever wanted was to be loved. What's so wrong with that? Five times I've tried and five times I've been rejected. Married and divorced, married and divorced. Tossed away like an old worn sandal. Rejected by men. Shunned by former friends. I guess I'm just a throw-away person that nobody really wants.
Ramona's thoughts were interrupted as she reached her destination and noticed a lone man sitting by the well's edge. What's a Jew like that doing in a place like this? She mused. I'll just keep my eyes down and pretend he isn't here.
But he was there. And he was there for a purpose.
His unexpected words pierced the silence.
"Will you give me a drink," He asked.
A Jewish man would never stoop so low as to speak to a Samaritan woman, she thought. He's just like all other men. He won't speak to me in public where people can see, but he is all too eager to engage when he wants something. I'll show him.
With a hint of sarcasm, the woman replied. "You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink? Isn't that against the rules?"
Jesus ignored her sarcasm and cut right to the chase. He was more interested in winning the woman than winning the war of words. "If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asked you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water."
Now he had her attention. What in the world is living water? What is the gift? Who is this man? Without realizing it, she lowered her water jug and began lowering her emotional walls as well.
"And how are you going to get this living water?" she laughed. "You don't even have a bucket? Are you just going to reach down in the well with your hands? Our forefather, Jacob, gave us this well. Are you saying that you are greater than Jacob? That you can give us something better than he has given?"
Even though Jesus was trying to move her thinking from a physical need to spiritual truth, she was not quick to follow.
"Drink from this well," Jesus continued, "and you'll be thirsty again. But if you drink from the well that I'm speaking of, the well of living water, your thirst will be quenched forever. Not only that, you'll have a spring of water living inside you that will bubble up and spill over onto those around you."
"Give me that water!" she said. "Oh how I'd love to never come to this well again!"
The woman didn't understand what "living water" was all about, but if it meant that she didn't have to come to the well every day and face the condemning comments and stoic stares from the other women in the town, she wanted it.
"Go, call your husband and come back."
Suddenly, the warmth she had felt earlier began to seep from her soul and the empty chill returned with a vengeance.
"I don't have a husband," she flatly replied, retreating behind harsh features and a practiced face.
"You are right," Jesus continued. "I'm glad that you admitted it. I applaud your honesty. The truth is, you have had five husbands and the man you're living with right now is not your husband. So you are telling the truth when you say you don't have a husband."
There was not a hint of condemnation in Jesus' voice. He simply stated the facts like he would have noted the day's weather condition or the price of eggs at the market.
Suddenly the years of her pitiful life passed before her and she saw herself all alone...emotionally empty and desperately thirsty. How did he know that about me? She wondered. Who is this man? Is he a prophet?
Trying to skirt the real issue at hand, the woman tried to engage Jesus in a theological debate. She tried to divert the conversation away from her life and onto a safer subject. "Sir, I get the idea that you are a prophet. Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem. Which is it?"
"Believe me," Jesus said, "one day you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. A time is coming and actually has now come, when the true worshippers will worship the Father in spirit and truth. That's what God really wants. It is not about where you worship but whom and how."
"Oh well," she shrugged, "I know that Messiah is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us."
Jesus looked intently at the woman, and for the first time in his ministry, he told someone his true identity. "I who speak to you am he."
She wanted to laugh, to cry, to worship at his feet, but before she could do any of those things, a cloud of dust and the rumble of male voices interrupted their conversation. Jesus' friends had returned from the market and stopped short; amazed that Jesus was talking to a woman alone. But even more startling than who he was talking to, was what he had just said..."I am he."
Then leaving her water pot, she ran back to town and told the townsfolk about the Messiah she met at Jacob's well. She had met the man of her dreams-- what she had been longing for all her life. She had met the Messiah.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am that woman. No, I haven't been married and divorced five times, but I do come thirsty. Thank You for giving me Your living water! Today, I drink deeply and share freely. Forgive me for going to "other wells" seeking satisfaction. I know that You are the only One who will satisfy my soul completely.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's devotion was taken from John chapter 4. I hope you'll go back and read it for yourself. I've re-told the story hoping to make it come alive for you. This was a real woman with real pain. We don't really know her name, but it we could certainly write our own names in the script.
So today's assignment is simple: go back and read John 4:1-42 in your Bible. We'll meet up with this woman again in my next devotion.
I'd love to hear your thoughts about Jesus' interaction with our Samaritan friend. Let's chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjayenes and share your heart.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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August 26, 2010
Greed Stinks!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:5 (NIV) "Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry."
Friend to Friend
Cantaloupe may very well be my favorite food. When it is in season, I stock up and always have some on hand. On one particularly hot day, a lunch of cantaloupe sounded luscious ... and it was. Afterwards, I was gone for several hours, running errands. When I walked back in the front door that afternoon, a foul stench nearly knocked me down. It was such a strong odor! A dead animal was my first thought. A plumbing problem was my next idea. I began a room-to-room search that ended abruptly at the kitchen sink. Opening the cabinet underneath, I nearly gagged at the stench that slapped me in the face, making my eyes water. I instantly remembered that I had thrown the cantaloupe peels in the garbage before running errands and forgotten to take them to the outside garbage can as I usually did. The house reeked and the delicious cantaloupe was forgotten as I threw the peels away, lit every candle I could find and opened every window in an effort to eliminate the odor of rotting fruit. Nasty!
Greed acts the same way in our life and must be treated like garbage. Deliberately throw it away. Remove it from your life as soon as you discover its presence in your life. In 2 Corinthians 7:1, we find the apostle Paul's strong warning to "purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God" (NIV). Greed is the gangrene of the soul and if not quickly dealt with, will contaminate every emotion, creating a foul stench in every part of life. Choose against it. Fight it with Scripture and bombard it with prayer, remembering that God alone is our provider and that He will supply our every need.
I have come to the conclusion that the underlying problem with wants and needs is that we confuse the two. What we want and what we need are not always the same things. Anyone who has met my husband will tell you that he is down-to-earth and unassuming. Dan may be a mega church pastor, but he is also very approachable and unpretentious. The truck Dan drives is proof that he is totally unimpressed with the material things this world has to offer. Our family named the truck "Old Blue" for two reasons. It is old and it is blue. However, it is paid for and it runs and that is all Dan needs. However, I am certain that he would not turn down an offer from someone who wanted to buy him a brand new Ford F-150 truck as a Christmas gift. In fact, from time to time, I have seen him gaze at some bright, shiny new truck with longing in his eyes.
Dan is the lead teaching pastor of a church that runs over 5,000 people in attendance each week and could easily rationalize driving a nice car or truck as part of his pastoral image. The only problem with that idea is that Dan is not the least bit concerned with his pastoral image when it comes to material possessions. He is, however, deeply concerned with the image of God being seen in his life.
Is it wrong to want and desire nice things? Not if we view and use those nice things as tools and refuse to worship them as idols. I sometimes think God has to strip us of everything we have so we can learn the life changing truth that He is our Source. Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care, we would be wise to depend totally upon God. He is our Provider. He is our Source and He is all we need.
Let's Pray
Father, I can be so greedy! Please forgive me when I live as though You cannot provide my every need. Help me to walk by faith, knowing that You love me fiercely and will take care of me fully. You are my Father, my God ... my Provider! Thank You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really see God as your Provider, the One who stands ready to meet every need you will ever have? Does your life reflect the promise that God is enough?
Think back to the times when God met your needs. Record each experience in your Victory Journal. And if you don't have a Victory Journal, today would be a great time to start keeping one. Make a habit of searching for and keeping a record of God's provision in your life.
Read and memorize Luke 12:15. "Jesus said to them, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (ICB).
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Our son attended college in a small South Carolina town filled with antique stores and family owned businesses. One store in particular caught my eye as we drove into town for the first time. The message painted on the storefront windows said it all, "If we ain't got it, you don't need it!" How true! God holds everything we need in the palm of His hand. He is our Provider. Amen!
Need help? Summer vacation is almost over! Get ready for the new school year by reading Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for ways to walk in peace.
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August 27, 2010
Jesus' Celestial Day-Timer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Now he [Jesus] had to go through Samaria" (John 4:4 NIV).
A Closer Look
I have to tell you, the story of Jesus talking to the Samaritan woman at the well is one of the most exciting passages in the Bible for me. It is filled with hope for all women who feel abused, misused, and forgotten. It is for all women who have tried everything and everyone to fill the void in their hearts, but still hear the echo of emptiness ringing in their hollow souls.
I hope you read my last devotion, "Meeting the man of Your Dreams." If you didn't, go back and read it before you read this one. You can find it on our archives at www.girlfriendsinGod.com. I want you to feel the length and the depth of the words of this story. You see, this is the longest recorded conversation between Jesus and any one single person in the entire New Testament...and it was with a woman.
The shortest route from Judea to Galilee lay on a high road straight through Samarian territory, but the Jews routinely crossed the Jordan River and took the long way around to avoid going through the towns of the despised Samaritans. Jews avoided Samaritans like the plague...literally. Like a quarantined hospital room, the Jews kept their distance.
So it wasn't because of geography that Jesus "had to go through Samaria." Oh no. He had to go through Samaria because His Father told him to. As Jesus reminded the disciples many times, he only did what his Father told him to do (John 5:30; 6:38; 8:26; 9:4; 10:37-38; 12:49-50).
Jesus had to go to Samaria because of divine destiny. Another translation states, "Jesus had a need to go to Samaria" (KJV). He was there on special assignment. It was not a coincidence or causal meeting, but a "deliberate, intentional, and calculated decision on the part of the Savior of the world to go meet with her." You see, there was a woman in Samaria who had been used and abused all her life. And now, God reached down from His throne and chose her for such a time as this. While she felt that she was damaged goods, fit for no one, God chose her as His special spokesperson for an entire town. And He sent His own Son to commission her for ministry.
So Jesus "had" to go, not because of geography, but because of what His Dad wrote in His celestial day-timer. And while the disciples went shopping for groceries, Jesus waited patiently for his assignment to come to him.
While most women went to the well to draw water for their daily use in the cool of the morning or late in the evening, this woman went at high noon. The scorching sun of high noon was a small price to pay in order to avoid being snubbed by the other women in the town. She preferred the heat of the sun to the cold shoulders of the women. So while the women gathered for girlfriend time at the well early in the morning, this particular woman waited until they had returned to their safe havens in order to find safety of her own.
When Jesus asked her for a drink, he didn't demand it of her. He never does. He simply asks. But the fact that he even asked was radical. Men did not talk to women in public in this culture. Jewish men didn't talk to Samaritan women at all. And for a Jew to drink from a Samaritan's cup was unheard of. Jews considered Samaritans unclean, and to drink from a Samaritan's cup would in turn make them unclean. Jesus wasn't concerned in the slightest, for it is only by drinking from his cup that any of us could ever be clean to begin with.
Jesus spoke to her directly and respectfully. This was no doubt radically different from any other Jewish man she had come in contact with. Don't for one minute think that her nationality and gender were happenstance. They were both intentionally chosen by our very intentional God - just another example that God's plan to set the captives free was for all who would believe.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father. Thank You that Jesus "had" to go to Samaria to set a woman free. Thank You that Jesus "had to" come to a simple woman like me to set me free as well. Thank You for writing my name in Jesus' celestial day-timer...that He reached down and saved me, redeemed me, and now uses me to share His message of redemption.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt like the Samaritan woman at the well? Like no one wanted to be around you?
Just think about how risky it was for Jesus to have this conversation with her.
What do you think would have happened if the disciples had been there?
Check out the story again and notice when the disciples showed up. (John 4:25-30)
What does that tell you about God's timing?
Has there been time in your life when God's timing just amazed you? I'd love to hear about it. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your experience!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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August 30, 2010
Yes, Jesus Loves Me!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 19:14 "Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these. '"
Friend to Friend
I believe that much of our stress is the result of a constant and innate quest to be loved and to love. The problems come when we look in the wrong places for love. When we know God, we know love. When we experience His unconditional love, we are then freed and empowered to love ourselves and others. I have personally discovered that it is just downright frustrating and completely impossible to live the Christian life when you are not a Christian. I tried.
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words and did all the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God. I needed to experience the unconditional love of God.
During a special Saturday evening church service, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I'd been living a lie.
My mind argued that I knew all about God - and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I didn't know Him. His perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children.
That night I met Jesus! I surrendered all that I knew about myself to all that I knew about Him. While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations. The difference was that God's love preceded me, surrounded and sustained me as I lived each day. Knowing we are loved fosters contentment and peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
One of the highlights of my day is when our 13 month-old-grandson is getting ready for bed. No, it is not his favorite time of the day, but his mom has a routine that works well. She gives Justus a bath, during which he absolutely soaks every square inch of the bathroom. His squeals of laughter and loud splashes can be heard by everyone in the house. Danna then wraps him in a big, fluffy towel and brings him to everyone so that they can see the "clean baby" and give him a goodnight kiss. Next come lotion and pajamas followed by "bah" which means, "It's time to read a book." The light in his room is then dimmed, the musical fish sing and dance across the ceiling ... and Justus settles down in his crib with Elmo in one hand and his blanket in the other, falling fast asleep within seconds. In a perfect world - which this is not - that scenario is played out every night.
However, on nights when Justus does not feel well, or needs a few extra hugs, Danna will ask me if I would like to rock him. I know. It is a rotten job but somebody has to do it! I scoop that precious little man into my arms and we settle into the rocker in his room. As we rock, I sing to him. I have quite a repertoire of "Mimi" ballads, but when I start to sing "Jesus Loves Me," Justus always looks up at me with his big brown eyes and gets very still and quiet until the song is finished. I put him in his crib and he usually does go right to sleep. However, last night, it was a different story.
Danna has been teaching Justus sign language and one of his favorite words to sign is "more." When I finished singing and started to get up, Justus stretched out his little hands and signed "more." Did I sit back down and sing some more? Do birds fly? Do fish swim?
With tears streaming down my face, I sang "Jesus Loves Me" until he was sound asleep. I sat in the rocker, just holding him, thinking about how very much I love this baby boy. In that quiet moment, the Holy Spirit whispered to my heart, "Mary, Jesus loves you, too." As Justus and I rocked a few minutes longer, the stress of the day melted away and I revisited the moment I met Jesus and first experienced His unchanging love. That quiet celebration filled my heart and left no room for anything but the love of God.
Yes, Jesus loves me, and He loves you, too.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, thanking You for the love You have given me through the life and death of Your Son, Jesus Christ. Please help me to walk in that love every day with the faith of a child.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Right now, wherever you are, let the words of this simple song lead you in a quiet celebration of God's love for you.
Jesus loves me, this I know.
For the Bible tells me so.
Little ones to Him belong.
They are weak but He is strong.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
Yes, Jesus loves me.
The Bible tells me so.
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When we experience the love of God, everything changes. Our prayer for you today is that you know God and walk in His love for you. If you have questions and are seeking God, check out our website at www.girlfriendsingod.com.
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August 31, 2010
May She Rest in Peace
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 26:3-4 (ICB) "You, Lord, give true peace. You give peace to those who depend on you. You give peace to those who trust you. So, trust the Lord always. Trust the Lord because he is our Rock forever."
Friend to Friend
We often associate the phrase "rest in peace" with death and the loss of a loved one. In fact, these words of comfort are often spoken at some point in most funerals I attend or are included in the inscription on many headstones.
Today, I want us to associate the words "rest in peace" with life instead of death.
Yes, God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sin so that we can rest in peace when we die, but God also gave His one and only Son so that we can rest in peace every minute of every day. Does that sound like your life? Would the people who know you best describe you as a peaceful person? As I ask myself that question, the words "not so much" come to mind.
The Mayo Clinic once stated that the illnesses in 80 to 85% of their caseload were caused by stress. An article in a leading medical journal entitled "Is Stress the Cause of All Disease?" said that at the beginning of the century, bacteria were the leading cause of illness but today stress has replaced bacteria.
We all long for an inner calm - especially in the valleys of life. We all want, pray for and pursue peace. At the point of desperation, some people pursue peace by numbing their pain with alcohol, drugs, sex ... food ... success ... the list is endless. Remember the old country song that says we look for love in all the wrong places and on the wrong faces? The same can be said about peace.
Some people tend to believe that peace is simply the absence of problems, valleys and trials. Not so! Peace is a calm confidence that the Lord of the mountains is still on the throne - no matter how deep the valley may be. Peace recognizes Jesus walking on the water as He calms the crashing waves and stills the howling winds in your life. Trials become opportunities to trust God when peace reigns in a heart. That kind of peace can only be found in God.
Notice that I did not say we can find peace in church membership, in doing good things, in giving large sums of money to a charity or ministry, or even in being a really good person. Peace is a gift. When we enter into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we enter into true peace.
Romans 5:1 (NCV) "Since we have been made right with God by our faith, we have peace with God. This happened through our Lord Jesus Christ."
We cannot bargain for or earn peace, girlfriends, but we will experience peace when we are willing to move away from our sin toward the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ, in a personal relationship. Then, and only then, will His peace become our peace.
When John Paton was translating the Bible for a South Seas Island tribe, he discovered that they had no word for peace. One day, a native who had been running very hard for several miles came to the missionary's house, flopped down into a large chair and tried to catch his breath. "It's good to rest my whole weight on this chair" the runner said. Paton thought for a minute before replying, "I'll translate peace as the result of resting one's whole weight on God." Exactly!
We hear from so many women across the world who would give everything they have for just one minute of peace. I know the list of trials and storms is long. I honestly do not know how some people get out of bed each morning to face the trials and hard times in their life. I understand that the problems we deal with every single day can weigh us down; but I also know that every problem can be given to God. When we surrender the weight of our trials and pain to Him, we will experience peace. As we allow God to carry the weight of worry, the burden of anxiety and the penalty of every sin in our life, peace will reign and leave no room for the deadly trap of stress. Today, girlfriend, I pray that you will rest in Peace.
Let's Pray
Father, it seems that anxiety and doubt are constant companions right now. This valley seems so deep and so dark. By faith, I choose to trust You, my Shepherd. I am so tired, Father. Will You please carry me? I cannot see what is ahead. Will You please guide me? I am discouraged and ready to quit. Will You please be my strength? I love You and want to please You with my life. Empower me to be all You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Hebrews 13:6 and ask the Holy Spirit to let the truths of this verse sink into every corner of your heart and soul:
Hebrews 13:6 (NIV) "So we can say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?"
As you spend time with God today, read and affirm the following commitment in your heart and life:
I recognize God as the only source of true peace.
I now completely surrender my valley to God.
I confess any known sin and turn from it.
I choose to rest in Him.
Let's go a little deeper today. Complete the statements below as you make a new commitment to God. Record it in your journal. Date it and sign it. When the next trial comes - and it will come - go back and read the decision you made today, and while your circumstances may have changed, God is the same.
I have tried to find peace in_____________________________.
The valley I am facing today is __________________________.
Until today, my response to this valley has been to _________________________.
I now turn it all over to God and choose to rest in Him, the Shepherd of my every valley.
I would love to hear about the decision you made today concerning peace. Connect with me on Facebook or through email. I love hearing what God is doing in your life!
Need help? Summer vacation is almost over! Get ready for the new school year by reading Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap. You will discover a step-by-step plan found in Psalm 23 that will help you walk in peace.
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September 1, 2010
If You Only Knew
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If you only knew the gift God has for you and who I am, you would ask me, and I would give you living water" (John 4:10 New Living Translation).
Friend to Friend
What happens when someone says to you, "If you only knew"? I don't know about you, but it makes me want to know. Jesus spoke those same enticing words to the gal with the empty bucket he met at a well in Samaria. He was engaging her and inviting her to draw water from the springs of life. He was stirring her curiosity.
While she focused on drawing physical water, Jesus continued drawing her closer to living water. The water in Jacob's well would alleviate physical thirst temporarily. The water in Jesus' well would quench spiritual thirst eternally. Jesus' living water would fill this empty woman with overflowing joy.
So she asked him, "Give me this water!"
Wait a minute. Did she say, "Give me that water?" Isn't that what Jesus asked from her? As Jesus often does, He asks us to give him something only to offer something better in return. That is the very definition of redemption.
Jesus lifted the curtain on the story of her life and the acts of the saga were exposed before her. Count them 1-2-3-4-5. Five husbands plus one extra. We don't know why she had been divorced five times. In those days, a man could divorce his wife if she went outside the home with her hair unbound or even spoke to a man in public. He could divorce her if she burned the bread or he decided that he just didn't like her any more. It didn't take much, but whatever the reasons, this was a woman who had been abused, misused, and tossed away by men she had trusted and loved.
This also gives us a hint that she was not a young woman. It takes time to experience that much rejection. No doubt the years of heartache and broken dreams were etched on her sun-scorched face. Like the rising bucket full of hope from the well of each new marriage, her dreams spilled out on the parched grounds of divorce - five times. Her longing for love left her empty and led her to yet another poor decision - man number six.
Jesus spoke to her of her past without a hint of condemnation or rejection in his voice. As a matter of fact, he applauded her honesty. He moved the conversation to a personal level, and took one step closer to the heart of the matter ... the matter of the heart. Jesus always moves the conversation to a personal level when He is about to set someone free. And He was rattling the prison keys.
What do we do when confronted with such naked truth about ourselves? We often try to change the subject. That's exactly what this woman did. She wanted to get the spotlight off of her and onto some theological or religious debate. "Let's don't talk about me," she seemed to say. "Let's talk about religion. What about the poor people in third world countries who have never heard the gospel? How can God allow bad things to happen to good people? What about other religions? Let's talk about that."
Jesus always brings the subject back to me ... to you. That's what is important to Him. Jesus answered her question by explaining that God is more interested in how we worship than where we worship. He is more concerned with our relationship with Him than our religious practices. And friend: that is what He wants from all of us. God is not impressed with religion. Jesus wasn't impressed with the Pharisees. What God wants is to enter into a personal on-going relationship with us through His Son.
Would you say that you have a religion in your life, or that you have a personal relationship with Jesus? I'm going to leave us by the well to think about that for the rest of the day. We'll join Jesus and the Samaritan woman in my next devotion.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, forgive me when I get off track and start acting all religious. Forgive me when I focus on religious activities more than my relationship with You. I love you, Jesus. My greatest desire is to draw closer to You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Would you say you have a religion or a relationship with Christ?
Would you say you feel more comfortable working for God or spending time with God?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in-love with Jesus all over again.
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September 2, 2010
When I Fall Down
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 91:1-2 (NIV) "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, 'He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.'"
Friend to Friend
I had forgotten just how amazing the process of learning to walk really is until our youngest grandchild recently reminded me. Justus was a speed crawler who could scoot along the floor almost as fast as I could walk and seemed content to explore the bottom of tables and chairs, play with doorstops or inspect flecks of lint, food crumbs and the floor at close range. For the first twelve months of his life, that was enough.
However, the day came when he was no longer satisfied to explore his world from the vantage point of his two little hands and knees and began pulling up on various pieces of furniture. Evidently he liked what he saw because he soon grew tired of just being upright and quickly graduated to the "One Step" method of walking.
Throughout the day, Justus repeatedly and carefully pulled himself up on the living room sofa. Next came the toddler shuffle as he tentatively positioned his stout and very determined little thirteen-month-old body between the sofa and loveseat. Pausing to catch his breath and gather his courage, Justus longingly stared at his goal, the armrest of the loveseat. His big brown eyes seemed to measure the size of the step he would have to take in order to reach his final destination and thus, master that long-held toddler tradition of cruising the furniture.
Eventually, he would let go of the sofa cushion, take "a step" and quickly grab hold of the loveseat. Most of the time, this brave little man then looked over his shoulder at whoever happened to be watching, a huge grin lighting up his face and the room. That was the cue for applause. And believe me, we always applauded. Yes, the "One Step" method of walking served Justus well - until he decided that what he wanted was not anywhere near the sofa or loveseat - and a new strategy was required.
I can imagine his little heart beating with excitement and fear as he realized the profound ramifications of his next move. He had to completely let go of that sofa and loveseat and walk where he had never been - into thin air - with no safety net.
And then it happened. Justus let go and took a step ... then another and another! We held our breath as we watched this special little boy actually walk for the very first time in his life. When he wobbled and fell to the floor, our daughter instinctively reached out to catch her precious child. He didn't see her at first, but when he looked up ... there she was. She had been nearby, watching the whole time. Justus looked into her eyes. Danna squealed with joy, grabbed Justus in a fierce hug and twirled him around the room, laughing and yelling, "Good job! You did it! You walked, honey!" My husband and I joined in the celebration, clapping and cheering along with our daughter. Justus decided that his accomplishment must be worthy of praise and he began to clap as well. In fact, he was so excited that he fell to the floor, kicking, laughing and clapping. It was both hilarious and profound.
Have you ever felt like you have taken the step God wanted you to take only to find yourself dangling in thin air with no safety net in sight? I have. I don't like it. I want to know what is just ahead and see what is around the next corner of life. It frightens me to take risks. I wonder if God will really be there and come through for me the way He says He will in the Bible. Can I really do what God is asking me to do? Will He be pleased by my seemingly insignificant step of faith? And what happens if I fall? Falling is painful and something I try to avoid whenever possible.
I have great news for you, girlfriend! God is near. His eyes are set on you and His heart delights in your very existence as His daughter. If you listen carefully, you just might hear Him applauding that one tiny step of faith you were willing to take as you walked straight through your fear. God is fully aware of where you are and what you need. Heaven is not in a panic. And when you fall, you can rest assured your Father will be there to hold you in His arms of love and strengthen you for every step of your journey.
Let's Pray
Lord Jesus, I want to see and know You as the loving and caring Father that You are. Thank You for Your faithfulness in my life. I praise You for Your unconditional love that gives me hope when life looks hopeless. Thank You for never leaving me to live in my own strength. Today, I celebrate the truth that I am Your child and when I fall, You will be there.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 91:1-2 (NIV) "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust."
Look at the action words in these two verses. What would those actions mean or look like in a life that chose to trust God even when times are hard? For example:
Action word: dwells
Means: If I stay under the protection of God (Most High) I will find rest and a shelter from the storms I face in life. God protects me through His Word, through prayer and the ministry of others. I need to constantly be looking for God - even when things are falling apart. What is God trying to show me? What lesson do I need to learn? Do I need to change the direction in which I am headed? Do I need to wait to make a decision until I have God's peace and rest?
If you are facing a difficult time, I encourage you to begin keeping a journal. It can become your victory journal as you look for and see God at work in your life.
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Yes! We are living in tough times, but instead of allowing the giants to defeat me, I am asking God to let the giants in my life fall. Everyone laughed at David for taking on Goliath. "Look how big he is" they taunted. But I can just see David laughing right back with "I know! Isn't it great? He's too big to miss!"
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September 3, 2010
Mary-the Daring Disciple
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her: (Luke 10:41-42 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Mary and Martha lived in a home with their brother, Lazarus, in the small Judean village of Bethany. Their home served as a safe haven and quiet retreat for Jesus as He traveled from place to place. Today, let's join Jesus at His first visit in their home. The welcome mat is freshly swept, the aroma from the kitchen is wafting from the windows, and the chatter from the group of men lets us know that friends are within. But Jesus is serving up something extra special for the girls ...
Mary and Martha were busy in the kitchen making dinner for their honored guest and his friends. "Mary, check on the roasting lamb," Martha called among the clattering of the pots and pans. "And where's the wine? The bread must be kneaded in fifteen minutes. There's just so much to do!"
"I'll take a bowl of fresh dates into the guests," Mary said. "That will give them something to nibble on while we finish the preparations."
As Mary entered the room, she heard Jesus talking about the kingdom of God, the plan of redemption, the fulfillment of prophecy, the forgiveness of sins, and eternal life.
"Do not judge; and you will not be judged," Jesus taught. "Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Give; and it will be given to you."
"The kingdom of God is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his garden," He continued. "It grew and became a tree, and the birds of the air perched in its branches."
Jesus noticed Mary standing in the doorway and motioned for her to enter. Looking directly at her, He continued. "The kingdom of God is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into a large amount of flour until it worked all through the dough."
Jesus continued teaching about who he was, and what he came to do. Mesmerized by the Rabbi's words, Mary sank to the floor and sat right at the Master's feet with the others. The men shifted uncomfortably in their places, but Jesus lowered his eyes and began speaking directly to Mary - his newest student.
The disciples waited for Jesus to send Mary back into the kitchen where she belonged, but He didn't. They were confused when Jesus welcomed her into the classroom, but tried their best not to become distracted by her presence. After all, women were not allowed to sit and learn from a Rabbi's teaching. They weren't even allowed to join men in such a gathering at all.
Twenty minutes passed when Martha huffed, "where is that girl!"
Martha angrily stomped into the gathering room with mixing bowl in hand. All eyes turned toward the frustrated sister as she interrupted Jesus and pointed her wooden spoon in Mary's direction.
"Lord," she began sternly, "can't you see that Mary has left me all alone in the kitchen. What does she think she's doing? Don't You care that I have to do all this work by myself while my irresponsible sister is out here lollygagging about with the men. Why she's not even supposed to be out here at all. It isn't proper for a woman to join a room full of men, much less sit at a rabbi's feet while he's teaching. Put her in her place! Tell her to get back in the kitchen this instant!"
The men turned their head from Jesus to the red-faced Martha and back to Jesus again.
"Martha, Martha," Jesus replied, "don't get so worked up. Mary is right where she needs to be. You are so worried, bothered, and distracted with the details of living that you miss the joys of life. You don't need to work so hard to create a feast for us. That's not even important. What is important is that I am here and I have something to share with you. Mary has figured that out. She has chosen what is important and I am not going to send her away. She has joined the classroom to learn - to become a disciple of God's Word - and I am not going to take that away from her.
Martha put her flour-covered hand on her hip, spun around on her heels, and marched back into the kitchen. "Well, I never," she mumbled as she stomped away.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Thank You for welcoming me into Your classroom. Thank You for elevating women all through the New Testament and even today. I want to be one of Your top students! Thank You for swinging the doors wide open for me to become one of Your disciples.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope you enjoyed my re-telling of the story of Martha in the kitchen and Mary in the classroom. My hope is that you'll see them as real flesh and blood women just like you and me. What makes this story so radical for its day is that women were not allowed to eat with men in such a gathering, and women were not allowed to be taught by a Rabbi. With that in mind, what was Jesus showing the disciples and Martha by His actions?
What does that say to you, as a woman?
How does the fact that Jesus defended and welcomed Mary encourage you?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in-love with Jesus all over again.
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September 6, 2010
Extravagant Worship
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will praise you, O LORD, with all my heart" (Psalm 9:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Mary of Bethany shares three scenes in the Bible with her sister Martha. In her final appearance, we find her once again at a dinner party for Jesus. As usual, the men are gathered around the table and the women are absent from the scene ... that is until Mary enters the room ...again. Only this time she is not there to learn. She is there to teach.
"Mary, don't forget to stir the lamb stew," Martha called from across the room. "Our guests will be here any minute."
Once again, Martha and Mary were hosting a dinner party for Jesus and His closest friends. The party was not at their home, but Simon had convinced Martha to be in charge of all the fixings. After all, there was no one better at hosting a party than Martha.
But this was a special celebration - no ordinary dinner party. Only months before, Martha and Mary had been mourning their brother, Lazarus' death. And now? And now, because of Jesus, Lazarus sat alive and well amongst his friends. He was laughing and telling jokes like he'd never seen the inside of a darkened tomb for four days. What a celebration!
How kind of Simon the leper to open his home to us, Mary mused. Oh, we must do something about his name. After all, he doesn't have leprosy any longer. Jesus healed him months ago. Just look at his skin-as smooth as a newborn babe's. After all, if he was still Simon the leper, none of us would be here.
As Mary continued to stir the stew, her mind began to stir with memories of Jesus' past three years: the helpless healed, the demon-possessed delivered, the rotting raised, the rejected restored, and the sinner saved. But Mary's soaring soul began a gradual descent as she remembered Jesus' words about His eminent death:
"The Son of Man will be betrayed to the chief priests and the teachers of the law. They will condemn Him to death and will turn Him over to the Gentiles to be mocked and flogged and crucified. On the third day He will be raised to life!"
I know our time with him is short, she thought. I can't bear the thought of losing him, and yet, I know that is why he came. That is what He has taught us all along. My heart is so heavy. What can I do to honor Him?
Mary's mind traveled to another incident in Jesus' life. She had not witnessed it personally, but savored it as one of her most favorite moments in the recounting of Jesus' adventures: the day a sinful woman interrupted another dinner party Jesus attended. She walked right into the home of a Pharisee, brushed past all the men, knelt at Jesus' side, washed His feet with her tears and anointed them with costly nard.
Suddenly, she knew what she had to do.
"Martha, I'll be right back," Mary called.
Mary ran home and went to the secret place where her most valuable treasure was stored. She reached on the top shelf and lifted the priceless jar of pure nard - a costly perfume. Mary had been saving it for her own wedding, but now she wanted to use it for her one true love. I want to honor Jesus. He has welcomed me as a disciple, loved me like a sister, taught me as a student, and given my brother back to me from the grave. It is the least I can do. I know His time is short. I want to honor Him now.
Beaming with anticipation, Mary ran back to Simon's home with passion and purpose. This time, the disciples were not shocked at a woman's entrance into the room of men. After three years, they had grown accustomed to Jesus' welcoming ways.
Mary carefully moved through the room and hit her mark. She stopped where Jesus reclined at the table and knelt at his feet. With a snap, she broke the neck of the alabaster jar and poured its contents on Jesus' head and feet. Something stirred inside Mary as she anointed Jesus' body. A knowing.
Then Mary unbound her hair and wiped the excess from Jesus' calloused feet. The sweet fragrance filled the room and clung to those nearby. Once they realized where the scent was coming from, a buzz of comments swarmed like the hum of bees. Some looked on with understanding approval. Some turned up their noses in pious protest.
"What a waste," one of the disciples complained. "That perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor."
Mary's heart sank at the unwelcome comment, but Jesus quickly buoyed her spirit with encouraging words. "Why are you bothering this woman?" he asked while placing his hand on her head. "She has done a beautiful thing to me. You'll always have the poor to take care of, but you will not always have Me here with you. Don't you get it? When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare Me for burial. I tell you the truth," Jesus announced loud enough for all to hear, "wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what Mary has done will also be told."
Mary lifted her eyes to meet his and her heart spilled over with love.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I want to be like Mary. I want to worship You no matter what anyone thinks. I want to praise You with all I've got and not be concerned if anyone thinks I am being extravagant or over-the-top.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When Mary anointed Jesus with perfume, some of the on-lookers didn't approve. Some thought she was being extravagant and over-the-top. Has anyone ever ridiculed you because your worship was too demonstrative?
Have you ever looked down on someone else because you felt their worship was too demonstrative or emotional?
When it comes to worship, are you more concerned with what others think, or what God thinks? (I know I'm getting in your business now!)
What do you think God would say about a woman who praises Him with everything she has no matter what anyone else in the room thinks? We don't have to go any further than this story to get an idea.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion and what worship means to you. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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September 7, 2010
Praise God Anyway!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:7 (NIV) "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Friend to Friend
I once saw a refrigerator magnet that said, "I know God promises to never give me more than I can handle, but sometimes, I just wish He didn't trust me so much." Can you relate? When trials come and life seems hard, we plead with God to deliver us from the problem when many times; His plan is to deliver us in the problem. Praise does not depend upon an understanding of the circumstance or trial. Praise depends upon an understanding of who God really is and wants to be in our life and our willingness to put our faith in Him.
As humans, we will never fully understand God - this side of heaven. God is holy and without blemish. God is all powerful and omniscient. He is Creator of the universe and yet lives in you and me at our invitation. He is the only true, living God!
We may understand some of His ways and comprehend the reasoning behind some of His plans. We may even come to the place of knowing Him on what I call an intimate level, but a full understanding of God is reserved for heaven. Until then, we walk by faith, not by sight. We praise Him in the darkness, knowing that the light is just ahead. We trust Him for things we cannot see and rest in Him in the valleys. Honestly, the thought of serving and relying on a God I can understand is not a reassuring thought.
Most people who know me well would describe me as a strong person, someone who can usually handle what life holds. I thought the same thing until I found myself a powerless, prisoner of the darkness as I battled severe clinical depression. It took me two long years to climb out of that pit and not a day goes by that I am not reminded of that wonderful, horrible time. God used that first experience with the darkness in so many ways. He taught me new truths as He stripped away wrong attitudes and destructive thought patterns. I began to see myself as He sees me - loved, planned and wanted.
One of the many lessons I learned from my "pit experience" was that I cannot depend upon my own strength or my fickle emotions. God often asked me to praise Him when, as far as I could tell, there wasn't a whole lot to praise him for. I didn't feel like praising Him.
I began to understand that praise is not a feeling. Praise is a choice, a step of obedience taken without the assurance of a changed circumstance or the elimination of a trial. Praise focuses on God, not the circumstance, and fixes its gaze upon God's truth and God's character instead of the trial at hand or just ahead. That is why we can celebrate the battle before it begins. The outcome is neither our responsibility nor our goal. Praise begins and ends with faith in the very nature, personality and integrity of God ... and that never changes.
No matter what lies ahead, God is faithful.
No matter how hot the fiery trial may be, God will deliver us in it or from it and surely be with us as we go through it.
No matter what man says or does, God loves and accepts us.
So praise God!
Thank Him today for every victory tomorrow holds.
Celebrate - knowing that the battle belongs to God and because of that single truth, victory is certain.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today for all that You have done in my life. You are faithful even when I am faithless. Your love pursues me even when I am unlovable. Your forgiveness covers my sin and frees me from its penalty. Lord, teach me to praise You. Help me to see and understand the power of praising You in my life. I want to bring You pleasure, Father. I praise You for your love and faithfulness to me. Your presence in my life changes everything, empowering me to live each moment of every day, content in knowing You are in control. As I face today, Lord, remind me that no matter what happens, I can praise You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and answer the following questions:
When you hear the word "praise," what comes to your mind?
Do you really believe your life can bring God pleasure?
Read Psalm 139. According to this psalm, how does God see you?
What are the sources of discouragement in your life?
What steps do you need to take to eliminate those sources?
Begin your "Joy Journal" by recording the daily blessings He gives you each day this week. Remember to add the "small" miracles as well as the "large" ones. At the end of the week, have a private praise service - just you and God. Thank Him for His presence and power at work in your life.
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Isn't it easy to get into the mental habit of looking for what is wrong in life instead of what is right? Maybe it is time to change the filter through which we view our circumstances and relationships. What would happen if you and I began to make praise the norm instead of the exception in our attitudes, words and actions?
Need help? I can't believe I am even writing these words, but the holidays are just around the corner! I can already feel the stress that is just around that same corner. If you want to find God's answer for stress, check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for steps you can take to help you live in peace.
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September 8, 2010
The Hidden Key
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD"-- and you forgave the guilt of my sin" (Psalm 32:3 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a teenager, my high school was just a few miles from my home. Lunch break was a mere thirty-five minutes, but I enjoyed driving home and taking a respite from the hustle and bustle of the crowded hallways.
Rocky Mount, North Carolina, was a sleepy little town with a railroad track that ran down the middle of downtown dividing it into two counties. It had a fledgling minor league baseball team whose housing Sports Illustrated ranked worst in the league, and a Hardees fast food restaurant on every corner reminding us that the corporate office for the chain was just down the street. As a child, we slept with our windows open and our doors unlocked. We rode our bicycles all over town without a hint of reservation.
But times changed in the late sixties and early seventies. We began to keep our windows closed at night, our doors locked even during the day, and kids stayed much closer to home. At our house, we kept an extra key in the mailbox just inside the garage. The only people who knew it was there was our family, and the mailman.
In high school, when I went home for lunch at 12:10 every day, I simply reached in the mailbox to retrieve the key, and then placed it back in the box until I came home again at 3:15.
One day, I came home after school at the usual time, used the hidden key, and let myself in. Before grabbing a snack, I made a bee-line to the television to turn on my favorite program. When I opened the television cabinet door, I saw the TV was missing.
I didn't know that anything was wrong with the TV, I thought. Mom must have taken it into the shop for repairs.
I called mom at her craft store.
"Hello, Bee N' Beetle, can I help you," my mom said.
"Hey Mom, this is Sharon. Did you take the TV in for repair?"
"No. I didn't. Why?" she asked.
"Well, because it isn't here," I replied.
"What do you mean, it isn't there?" she questioned.
"It's not here. The cabinet is empty," I answered.
"Is anything else missing?" she asked with a hint of fear in her voice.
"I don't know. Let me check."
I didn't have to look far to see that a few other items were gone. When I came back to the phone to report, mom said, "Sharon, quick! Get out of there!"
When the police came, we discovered that someone had indeed broken into our house and taken many things. And how did he get in? Why, he used the hidden key!
Apparently, someone had been watching me. He knew that I came home at 12:10 and left again at 12:45. He also knew that I came home from school around 3:15. So between 12:45 and 3:15, he simply took the key from the mailbox, let himself in, and helped himself to whatever he so desired among our belongings. Then, when he had what he wanted, the thief simply locked the door behind him and put the key back in the mailbox for "safe keeping."
Looking back on the incident, I see that is exactly what Satan does when we have things hidden in our hearts. He knows where the key is hidden and he takes it out to steal from us at just the opportune time. He wants to rob us of our peace and our purpose. As long as that key is hidden, he knows exactly where to look.
The Bible tells us that Satan is a roaring lion seeking someone to devour. Sometimes the hidden parts of our hearts, the ones that we have not given to God, are where Satan wants to sink his teeth. As long as we have that key hidden, Satan can get to it.
There's only one solution. Don't hide the key. Give the key to God. No more hiding. No more shame. Give God every compartment of your heart ... your whole heart.
Now It's Your Turn
Today I am going to flip-flop our prayer and response. I'd like for us to reflect before we pray together...
Is there something that you've been "hiding" from God?
Are there hidden areas of your life that are locked up like an old storage closet that Satan continues to open from time to time?
Are you willing to give that key to God so that Satan can never use it against you again? If so, pray with me ...
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, for too long I've been clinging to this one area of my life. (Say what that area is). I've kept it shut tight and hidden the key from You. Unfortunately, Satan has used the key many times to rob me of my peace and my joy. He's reminded me of my sin and shame. Today, I give that key to You. I give You my whole heart ... every single bit of my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
If you prayed that prayer, I'd love to pray for you!
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Satan would like nothing better than to keep reminding you of your past mistakes. If you are ready to get rid of the shame once and for all, then Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of your Past, can help. Sister, it's time to get free and stop letting the thief rob you of the joy God intends.
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September 9, 2010
Just Say "Yes"
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 4:10 (NIV) "Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others."
Friend to Friend
Many of our summer meals are created on our outdoor grill. Hamburgers are a regular item on the Southerland summer menu for several reasons. They are inexpensive, easy to prepare and scrumptious. However, I have never considered hamburgers to be health hazards until a few weeks ago.
We live in Kansas where the summer heat can be brutal. Why add to the rising temperature outside by turning on an oven inside? Does that seem logical to you? I didn't think so. It was definitely a hamburger kind of night.
My husband offered to do the grilling but he had just gotten home from work and looked like he needed a nap more than he needed to help prepare dinner. Being the wonderful wife that I am, I said, "Honey, why don't you take a quick nap while I grill the hamburgers?" Being the wonderful husband that he is, Dan responded, "I will be glad to do that for you. It really is hot outside." I should have taken him up on his offer.
I didn't want to be in the scorching heat one minute longer than I had to be, so I quickly seasoned the hamburger patties, slapped them on the grill and quickly headed back into the house to set the table. About that time, our daughter walked in with our youngest grandson in her arms. When Justus saw me, he smiled and stretched out his chubby little arms for me to hold him. I immediately accepted his invitation and promptly forgot about the hamburgers sizzling on the grill. When Danna asked what we were having for dinner, visions of charred hamburger patties danced through my head as I jumped up and made a mad dash to rescue our meal.
I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw that the hamburgers were still edible - barely - but a little charcoal is a healthy addition to any diet - right? I quickly transferred the hamburgers to a plate, closed the lid on the grill and turned to head inside. My foot caught on the leg of a patio chair and I stumbled and juggled the plate of meat in my hand. I was not about to give up those hamburgers without a fight. Instinctively, I reached out for something to break my fall ... and found the grill - with three fingers.
Have you ever had an accident that seemed to happen in slow motion? I could feel the searing heat followed by the temporary numbness that accompanies second and third degree burns. Ice! I needed ice and water! I raced into the house, dropped the plate of burgers on the dinner table and said, "Let's eat!" Leaning over the kitchen sink, I turned the cold water on full blast, hoping it would ease the growing pain. It didn't. We tried every pain reliever we had in the house and finally resorted to soaking the injured fingers in a small bowl of ice water - which really did help for awhile - but when the large blisters began to appear, Dan and I headed to the Urgent Care near our home.
The doctor prescribed a cream that she promised would work wonders on the burns. "Will it stop the pain?" I asked because they had taken my bowl of ice water away and I could not believe how much pain three little burned fingers could cause. "It won't help with the pain as much as it will help the burns heal and prevent infection, but you will need a pretty powerful painkiller for the next couple of days," she replied as she wrote a prescription and handed to me. I was surprised to see that it was the same pain medication I had once taken after major surgery. Now, I am not a doctor, but taking pain medication that affects the whole body seems like overkill and almost absurd when only three fingers are in pain. But as the hours passed, I was very thankful for each little pill.
Honestly, I am pretty strong when it comes to dealing with pain but I have to tell you that every part of my body seemed to be screaming, "Pay attention to the fingers! We hurt!"
The Body of Christ should function the same way.
When someone hurts, we should respond to their pain. When one of us is weak, another should be strong. Those who stumble and fall should be able to count on someone to pick them up and finish the race. Instead, we often shoot our wounded and leave them lying in the dirt to find help on their own.
Admittedly, the problem is not always that we are unwilling to help someone in pain. Sometimes we are simply blind to the fact that they exist. We overlook hurting people because we are in a hurry or maybe we just don't want to deal with the mess of a broken life.
Jesus Christ willingly left His throne in Heaven and came to Earth as a man. He felt every pain we have ever felt or will feel. He was afraid and lonely and often had no place to "lay His head." Jesus was misunderstood and slandered and then crucified to pay for our sin. It must break the heart of God when we so easily toss aside what cost Him so much, the life of His only Son, Jesus.
Look around you, girlfriend. Someone needs you to acknowledge their pain and be willing to do something about it. Just say "yes" and God will show you the next step.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the times I could have made a difference in the life of someone who was hurting, but didn't because I was too busy or just didn't care enough. Break my heart so that I will see the needs of people around me and teach me to recognize the wounded hearts You send my way. Lord, I want to serve You by serving others. Right now, I say "yes" to whatever You have for me to do, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Matthew 28:19-20. These verses are commonly referred to as "The Great Commission." What would it look like if you really applied these truths to your life?
Take a look at the list below. Which ones have a need you can meet? Now make a step-by-step plan to meet that need.
___Spouse
___Child
___Parent
___Friend
___Neighbor
___Co-worker
___Boss
Are you up for a challenge?
I am challenging every GiG to put hands and feet to this devotion and then share what God does through your willing heart. My husband recently gave up his seat on a flight so that a family could fly home together. The ticket agent was so impressed that she gave Dan the last seat on the plane so he could get home as well. When I posted that experience on Facebook, the huge response surprised me. Looking for and meeting the needs of others should be our "normal" way of life - not the exception.
Go for it, girlfriend! Then tell me about it on Facebook or through email. I love hearing what God is doing in your life!
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September 10, 2010
Get in the Game
Lori Fairchild
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of the women who have blessed our lives as girlfriends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Lori Fairchild.
Today's Truth
James 1:22-25 "Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man, who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does."
Friend to Friend
My then 6-year-old daughter announced one day in the spring of 2009 that she wanted to play ice hockey. You need to know that we live in Kansas City, not exactly the hockey hotbed of the world, so we looked at her, said "that's nice, dear," and went on living our lives. In August, she looked at me and said, "When are you going to sign me up for hockey?"
Sitting in a cold arena watching my daughter play ice hockey is not what I had in mind when the doctor told us we'd had a second daughter. (Having a frozen piece of rubber fly at her pretty face still gives me pause.) But she seemed serious, so I started looking into it. In my mind, I thought, "We'll find her a nice girls' team to play on." As I mentioned before, we don't live in a hockey-crazed city. You'd be lucky to find five people in 100 here who can even tell you what a face-off is. So, it turns out there are no girls teams, and to play on the "co-ed" teams (which means there might be one girl for every 60 boys) you have to pass five six-week sessions of the learn-to-play hockey program. Yes, that's 30 weeks of classes before they let you play on a team. For four of those sessions, you don't even get a stick.
My daughter spent from August to May simply learning to skate and stop. We went to hockey class at least once a week for eight months (she had to take a couple of the sessions twice), and she wasn't even playing hockey. But, boy was she learning how to skate. And she can now spray snow with the best of them when she stops.
Even though she had become a really good skater, she wasn't a hockey player. She didn't have a stick. She had all the knowledge to be a hockey player, but until they put that stick (hers has blue and purple polka dots on it) in her hands, she couldn't call herself a hockey player. The point of hockey is to put the puck in the net, but my daughter couldn't even touch the puck without a stick. She couldn't tell you how to stick-handle the puck or how to shoot it. Until she got in the game, she couldn't use all her skating knowledge for anything except to skate in circles.
Our Christian walk often follows the same path as my daughter's hockey progression. When we're brand-new Christ followers, we want to soak up all the knowledge we can get. We're so excited about Christ that we dig in and learn all that we can. As we become more mature Christ followers, the Bible tells us that we should put what we know to work. James 1:22 says "Do not merely listen to the word ... Do what it says."
We can sit in all the Bible studies and read all the devotionals that we want, but if we aren't living out what we have learned, then all that studying is in vain. As Christ-followers, we study the Bible to become more like Christ. Christ's ministry is marked by action—Christ taught, He healed, He fed the hungry. And He commanded His followers to do the same. In Matthew 28:19-20, Jesus tells his disciples to GO and make disciples of all nations. He didn't say, stay here and exchange knowledge with each other. He said GO and put into practice all that I have taught you.
The command for Christians today has not changed. God still says GO. Whether He is sending you to be the face of Christ to your neighbors or to be the face of Christ to a small tribe in the Amazon, the command is the same - GO and DO. So stop skating in circles, pick up your stick and get in the game.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I want to get in the game for You. Show me what You want me to do to reach people for You. Help me to not be afraid to step outside my comfort zone to do Your work. Let me be the face of Christ to whomever You put in my path today. Let me do Your work, equipped with the knowledge of Your word.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 2:14-17. Examine your life in light of these verses. Are you doing the work God asks of you?
Make a list of ways you think God is calling you to live out your faith today. What actions does He require of you?
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I love to study and teach the Bible, but I often find myself getting caught up in the detail and missing the big picture. I love all the historical detail and root word meanings that you can dig up when studying the Bible, but I have to be careful that I don't miss God's message to me when I'm looking at the detail. All of that stuff is good, but it's nothing but noise if we miss the point. Be careful not to treat your Bible study time as an academic exercise. Look for God to speak to you through His word, and be ready to do what He asks.
Want insights into sharing God's word with your children? Check out Lori's blog, Everyday Truth, at www.everydaytruth66.blogspot.com.
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September 13, 2010
One Last Name
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Now that we know what we have - Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God - let's not let it slip through our fingers. We don't have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He's been through weakness and testing, experienced it all - all but the sin. So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help" (Hebrews 4:14-16 MSG).
Friend to Friend
For almost forty years, Margaret lived with word-inflicted wounds that nearly destroyed her life. From the first day she attended her one room schoolhouse, she and her teacher, Ms. Garner, didn't get along. Ms. Garner was harsh, bitter, and cruel, and could not tolerate Margaret's childish idiosyncrasies. For years, the tension between the two built up pressure.
Margaret was nine-years-old when the cataclysmic day occurred - the one that ripped her world apart. It happened after recess when she frantically raced into class, late again. As she burst through the doors, she faced her peers jeering at her maliciously.
"Margaret!" Ms. Garner shouted. "We have been waiting for you! Get up here to the front of the class, right now!"
Margaret walked slowly to the teacher's desk, was told to face the class, and then the nightmare began.
Ms. Garner ranted, "Boys and girls, Margaret has been a bad girl. I have tried to help her to be responsible. But, apparently, she doesn't want to learn. So we must teach her a lesson. We must force her to face what a selfish person she has become. I want each of you to come to the front of the room, take a piece of chalk, and write something bad about Margaret on the blackboard. Maybe this experience will motivate her to become a better person!"
Margaret stood frozen next to Ms. Garner. One by one, the students began a silent procession to the blackboard. One by one, the students wrote their life-smothering words, slowly extinguishing the light in Margaret's soul. "Margaret is stupid! Margaret is selfish! Margaret is fat! Margaret is a dummy!" On and on they wrote until twenty-five terrible scribblings of Margaret's "badness" filled the chalkboard.
The venomous accusations taunted Margaret in what felt like the longest day of her life. After walking home with each caustic word indelibly written on her heart, she crawled into her bed, claimed sickness, and tried to cry the pain away. But the pain never left, and forty years later she slumped in the waiting room of a psychologist's office, still cringing in the shadow of those twenty-five sentences.
Jesus understands what it feels like to have people call you names. People called him a blasphemer (Matthew 9:3), the prince of demons (Matthew 9:34), an evil spirit (Mark 3:30), and a law breaker (Mark 2:24). His own family said that he was crazy (Mark 3:21). Yes, He knows what it feels like to have a broken heart - both figuratively and physically.
Jesus understands our hurt because He experienced it for Himself. Eugene Peterson, in his work, The Message wrote: "Now that we know what we have - Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God - let's not let it slip through our fingers. We don't have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He's been through weakness and testing, experienced it all - all but the sin. So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help" (Hebrews 4:14-16 MSG).
Let's go back to Margaret for a moment. After decades of depression and anxiety, she had finally sought help from a psychologist. Two long years of weekly counseling helped Margaret to finally extricate herself from her past. It had been a long and difficult road, but she smiled at her counselor (how long it had been since she'd smiled!) as they talked about her readiness to move on.
"Well, Margaret," the counselor said softly, "I guess its graduation day for you. How are you feeling?"
After a long silence, Margaret spoke. "I...I'm okay."
The counselor hesitated. "Margaret, I know this will be difficult, but just to make sure you're ready to move on, I am going to ask you to do something. I want to go back to your schoolroom and detail the events of that day. Take your time. Describe each of the children as they approached the blackboard; remember what they wrote and how you felt - all twenty-five students."
In a way, this would be easy for Margaret. For forty years she had remembered every detail. And yet, to go through the nightmare one more time would take every bit of strength she had. After a long silence, she began the painful description. One by one, she described each of the students vividly, as though she had just seen them, stopping periodically to regain her composure, forcing herself to face each of those students one more time.
Finally, she was finished, and the tears would not stop, could not stop. Margaret cried a long time before she realized someone was whispering her name. "Margaret. Margaret. Margaret." She looked up to see her counselor staring into her eyes, saying her name over and over again. Margaret stopped crying for a moment.
"Margaret. You...you left out one person."
"I certainly did not! I have lived with this story for forty years. I know every student by heart."
"No, Margaret, you did forget someone. See, he's sitting in the back of the classroom. He's standing up, walking toward your teacher, Ms. Garner. She is handing him a piece of chalk and he's taking it, Margaret, he's taking it! Now he's walking over to the blackboard and picking up an eraser. He is erasing every one of the sentences the students wrote. They are gone! Margaret, they are gone! Now he's turning and looking at you, Margaret. Do you recognize him yet? Yes, his name is Jesus. Look, he's writing new sentences on the board. 'Margaret is loved. Margaret is beautiful. Margaret is gentle and kind. Margaret is strong. Margaret has great courage.'"
And Margaret began to weep. But very quickly, the weeping turned into a smile, and then into laughter, and then into tears of joy." (This story of Margaret was taken from Ron Lee's book, Mistreated).
For forty years Margaret had limped through life with the pain of a broken heart. But finally she allowed Jesus, the Healer, the Comforter, and the Great Physician, to bind up the broken heart and allow it to heal.
What is Jesus writing on the chalkboard about you?
You are chosen.
You are dearly loved.
You are holy.
You are beautiful.
You are pure.
You are my bride.
I have your name engraved on the palm of my hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that I am a new creation in Christ Jesus. I can almost picture You walking to the front of the room and writing my new identity in Christ on the board. Help me to see myself as you see me and never believe the lies that tell me otherwise.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you see yourself as God sees you? Holy? Chosen? Dearly loved? Pure? Righteous? Having the mind of Christ?
Go back up the list and ponder how God sees you. Are there any names that you need to erase from the chalkboard of your mind?
I'd love to hear which aspect of your new identity means the most to you. Let's chat. Let me know at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. If you have painful memories that need the healing touch of Jesus, it is only a prayer away. If you need help getting there, join Sharon in this book as she takes you by the hand and you walk the journey to wholeness together.
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September 14, 2010
Strong in the Broken Places
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV) "We are God's workmanship."
Friend to Friend
Sandpaper people, the people who rub us the wrong way, are not only a reality of life but a gift from God. How? God has used these difficult relationships as catalysts in my life through which He has lovingly upset my comfortable plans and purposefully redirected my self-ordered steps. The results have often been chaotic and unsettling, but always life changing.
Our son, Jered, played football all the way through college. Over the years, he endured several injuries, but as a junior in high school, Jered experienced his first surgery to repair a broken bone in his foot. The orthopedic doctor explained exactly what he would do during surgery. "First of all, I will remove the scar tissue that has formed around the break. I will then insert a metal screw to connect the broken bones." As he spoke, I was comforted by my mind's depiction of a shiny thin and smooth metal screw resting gently in my son's foot. There are times when ignorance is a blessing.
The surgery went well and after two weeks, I took Jered in for a follow-up visit during which his foot was once again x-rayed to make sure it was healing properly. The doctor walked in, smiling and waving an x-ray in his hand. "Your foot is healing beautifully," he announced with great pride. Curious, I asked the doctor if we could see the x-ray. When he slapped it up against the light board, I was horrified to see a thick, long metal bolt. In fact, on closer examination, I was certain the beginnings of rust could be seen on that barbaric screw jammed up into my son's precious bone.
Seeing the look on my face, the doctor assured me that everything was fine. I was far from convinced and had a few questions that needed answering - immediately. "Is that screw supposed to look like that or did you put the wrong screw in my son's foot? Will he be able to play football? Will his foot hurt when it rains? Will that enormous screw set off airport security detectors? Will Jered's foot ever be as strong as it was before the surgery?" I asked. The doctor listened patiently, smiled and said, "Well, now that you mention it, I need to be honest and tell you Jered's foot will not be as strong as it was before." The evil doctor then grinned and said, "It will actually be stronger."
I find it interesting that all through life, the greatest strength is forged in broken places. The same is true in dealing with difficult people. God is not committed to our comfort. God is committed to creating His character within us. One way He accomplishes that goal is through the abrasive and coarse work of sandpaper people as they grind off and sand away our rough edges, even to the point of breaking. Suffering comes in many ways, but always with the purpose of making us strong enough to endure pain and weak enough to rely upon God.
Many times, it is through difficult relationships that we experience the most pain. Peter writes that God will "make everything right" which indicates the promise that He will take our circumstances and relationships, adjust them and make the broken pieces fit together in order to equip us for service. "Making everything right" can also be translated in the original language as "mending nets." A fisherman's net was a vital part of his livelihood and a broken net meant no fish. Even one broken net affected the fisherman's ability to make a living and provide for his family. It was imperative for the fisherman to keep his nets in working condition, constantly mending the broken places.
Every time we are broken but allow God to do the mending, we become stronger and new life is provided. Paul was certainly no stranger to trials, pain and broken nets. "We know that these troubles produce patience. And patience produces character, and character produces hope." (Romans 5:3-4 NCV) I must admit I have been known to insert the name of my current sandpaper person into that verse so that it reads, "I know that my sandpaper person produces patience. And patience produces character, and character produces hope." What an amazing progression, from a difficult relationship to Godly character and then on to hope. Hope follows pain because pain forces us to trust God and rely upon His power to mend a broken life. It is in that abandonment to God that we find hope.
Difficult relationships and the brokenness they bring can make us either bitter or better. It is our choice. We can insist on comfort and forfeit character or we can embrace the brokenness, knowing that God will use it for our good. Sandpaper people are grindstones. Whether they grind us down or polish us up depends on what we are made of. Harry Truman said: "Fame is a vapor, popularity is an accident, riches take wings, those who cheer today may curse tomorrow and only one thing endures - character."
I believe sandpaper people voice the silent prayer that someone will be strong enough to stop their vicious cycle of offensive behavior. God calls us to be that strong someone. I also believe God allows difficult relationships to form within the realm of our daily walk in order to strengthen us for the very task of life.
Let's Pray
Lord, please fill my heart with Your love for the sandpaper people in my life. Please let me see them as You see them. Use them, Father; to refine me to the place that I am the woman You created me to be. I choose to thank You for the difficult relationships in my life, knowing that through these abrasive people, Your work is accomplished in me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Write down the name of a sandpaper person in your life and list five reasons you consider that person abrasive.
· Pray for that sandpaper person.
· Thank God for bringing that difficult person into your life. What do you believe God wants to accomplish through this sandpaper person? Are you willing to trust Him enough to praise Him for that person?
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Loving the unlovable is impossible - outside of God's power at work in us. Pray that God will give you His eyes to see the hurting and wounded He brings your way. And remember, hurt people ... hurt people. Proceed with love.
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Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Sandpaper People is the current series and will help you discover ten ways to deal with the "sandpaper people" in your life - you know - the ones that rub you the wrong way. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
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September 15, 2010
Slow Down and Pay Attention
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that all God's people may be thoroughly equipped for every good work" (2 Timothy 3:16,17 TNIV).
Friend to Friend
One summer I went to a very famous art museum. I walked up and down the aisles, quickly glancing at first one masterpiece and then another. Finally, I decided to stop and look at one particular painting. I don't even remember which one it was. The more I looked at the painting, the more I began to see. It was dark on one side and grew lighter on the other. I noticed the expressions on the faces, the longing of a child, the pain of a man, the approaching cloud in the sky, the hues of the clothes, a bare foot, a torn robe, a clenched fist. A story began to unfold before my eyes and it was if I were beginning to see into the heart of the artist.
This reminded me of how we sometimes read the Bible - like perusing through an art gallery and never really stopping to see what the artist intended in the great masterpieces lining the majestic walls. Like walking briskly through an art gallery, we grab the Bible and read a few verses before running out the door in the morning or closing our eyes at night.
But God's Word is a masterpiece and He speaks through every stroke of the writer's pen. Oh the treasures stored on each page just waiting to be discovered!
The Hebrew word for Bible is mikra, which means "the calling out of God." He calls out to us from the pages and speaks to us through the words. The Bible is amazingly profound and yet simple enough for a child to understand. The more time we spend in the Scriptures, the more God will reveal the truths within.
The Bible tells us that the Scriptures are alive. John calls Scripture "the word of life" (I John 1:1). Peter calls Scripture the "living and enduring word of God" (I Peter 1:23). "For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edge sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart" (Hebrews 4:12). No matter how long we live, no matter how many times we read through the Bible, God will continue to speak to us through the pages of His Word. His Words are living and bring us life!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that You will "give us the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that we may know him better and so that the eyes of our hearts may be enlightened in order that we may know the hope to which he has called us, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe" (Ephesians 1:17-19). I pray that the eyes of our hearts will be open to see God through the pages of the Bible and hear His voice in each and every word.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Over the next few days, read the book of Esther in one sitting. Then ponder the story just as if you were looking at the story of a painting.
Who are the main characters?
Who are the villain and the hero?
What is the conflict?
What is the lesson learned from the story?
Even though God's name is not mentioned in the story, where do you see Him in the masterpiece?
I'd love to hear how God has been speaking to you through the Scriptures lately. Let me know at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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God has so much to say to His children. And yet, so few will take the time to truly listen. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God's voice, then see Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God.
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September 16, 2010
Do You Love Being Loved?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing" (Zephaniah 3:17).
Friend to Friend
Every once in a while one of my children surprises me with unexpected sweetness. Like most children, my kids are sweet on a regular basis, but I'm talking about a special, take-my-breath-away sweetness that creates a time capsule moment for my mommy heart, a moment that I'll remember forever.
I had one of those special conversations recently with my nine year-old son, Hunter. It was bedtime. Teeth were brushed. Jammies were on. Prayers had been prayed. The smell of Pantene lingered from his freshly showered head as I brushed a stray hair from his eye. That's when he initiated "project: unexpected sweetness" with an innocent question: "Mommy, do you know what I love?"
"What do you love, Hunter?" I asked quietly.
"I love being loved," he said. "Yep. I really love being loved."
As I lay beside him in the dark room I could scarcely process the vast paradox of his statement. It was the simplest of thoughts, delightfully honest, yet one of the most profound and insightful statements I've ever heard come from his heart.
When he spoke those four little words, "I love being loved," he communicated several things to me:
He knew he was loved.
His love tank was being re-filled as I tucked him in.
His greatest need is love.
Like Hunter, our greatest need is also to be loved. To feel safe, adored, and content in love.
I don't know where this devotion finds you this morning, but I sense God nudging me to tell you that He loves you. Completely. Perfectly. Eternally. (Yes, I'm talking to you!) He knows your name. He knows your heart. He knows your circumstances and He hears your prayers. He loves you and desires for you to rest in His love.
God's love is not based on performance or beauty. It's not based on position or abilities. Many times, we mistakenly think that if we could just do this or that better - that God would love us more or that if we just hadn't done this or that - God would love us more. The truth is this: God will never love you more or less...no matter what. His love is complete and you are the object of His heart. Savor the special sweetness of God's love for you today. Linger on thoughts of His affection for you.
The Bible tells us "...that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
No matter what you've believed in the past, choose by faith to believe that you are valued, priceless, and adored by God. "Take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:18-19, MSG).
When you embrace the deep love of Christ as a personal reality, you gain traction for powerful, meaningful living that begins with forgiveness and continues on in truth and grace. Go in His love today. Be assured of it. Share it. Be changed by it and let it flow through you to others.
Let's Pray
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen" (Ephesians 3:16-21).
Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Do you know that you're loved? I'm sure that you're familiar with the famous Bible verse found in John 3:16. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." Read it again, but this time, insert your name in replacement of "the world."
"For God so loved _______________ that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
God loves you and takes pleasure when you go to Him. Why? Because you're His. Made in His image. Restored to His heart through Jesus Christ. Allow Him to quiet you with His love today. Spend a few moments in prayer right now. Thank Him for His love. Worship at His feet. Be still before Him.
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Okay. So you know that I'm a worship chick from the word go, right? Well, I think that the perfect ending to our time together today would be to worship. Stop by my Facebook page to listen to a preview of a NEW SONG from my upcoming CD, Uncluttered. Here's the link: www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
God's love is perfect. He has seen our biggest failures, our greatest places of shame and hurt - and yet, He beckons us to His love, forgiveness, healing, and grace. He has a plan for each life that is far beyond the shattered matters with which we deal. Every step of transformation begins with our surrender to the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration.
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September 17, 2010
Lord, life scares me!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 59:16 (NIV) "But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble."
Friend to Friend
I will never forget the first time I took our two-year-old son to the beach. I assumed Jered would take one look at the ocean and make a beeline for the water. We lived in South Florida where many of the people we knew either had a swimming pool or lived on a canal that literally ran through their backyard. Since the tropical climate made it possible for Jered to play outside almost every day of the year, it was not unusual for him to be around water of some kind on a regular basis.
Just to be sure the trip was successful, I did what I thought was a fairly impressive job of preparing Jered for his first beach adventure. We talked and read books about the ocean and watched television shows about going to the beach. We quizzed friends about the best places to go once we got there and, finally, the day came when we actually went to the beach.
I am a list-maker. So, of course, I had compiled an extensive list of things to do and take with us.
Suntan lotion - check.
Picnic basket filled with snacks and drinks - check.
Mickey Mouse sunglasses and hat for Jered - check.
Beach towels, a beach ball and toys for building sand castles - check.
Jered helped me pack the car and scrambled into his car seat yelling, "Go, Mom! Hurry!" I did, and off we went. We sang and laughed all the way and planned what we were going to do once we reached the water. Honestly, it never crossed my mind that Jered would be afraid of the ocean because Jered is afraid of very little in life. Even as a toddler, he approached each task with confidence and the attitude that the only reason he could not do something was because he had not had the opportunity to try.
As we pulled into an ocean front parking lot, Jered began clapping and cheering. He quickly scrambled out of his car seat, grabbed my hand and promptly froze. Miles of sand and water stretched out before him in every direction. When the waves crashed against the sand, he gripped my hand and asked, "What's that, Mom?" Puzzled, I said, "Why, that is the ocean, honey. Isn't it great?" I watched the color drain out of my son's face as he backed up, pulling me with him. "I don't want beach, Mom!" I couldn't believe it! Obviously a little reassurance was needed. When I pulled Jered into my arms and slowly edged my way toward the water, he promptly burst into tears. "Too big, Mommy! Too big!" he cried. I suddenly realized that Jered did indeed love the water - as long as it was surrounded by cement and filled with chlorine. The ocean was an entirely different matter altogether. It was too big and completely overwhelming.
Are you facing a circumstance that is much too big for you to handle? The deafening waves of doubt may be crashing around you, drowning out the promises of God. The unknown stretches before you and all you can see are the mistakes you have made and the opportunities you have missed. Fear has brought you to your knees and you are more desperate than you have ever been in your life. The questions far outnumber the answers. You cry alone in a darkness that is unlike any you have ever faced. You long to be understood and crave a love that accepts you just as you are in the midst of your fear and doubt.
I have great news for you, girlfriend! God sees you. He has not been caught off guard by the circumstances you face and where you are is no surprise to Him. In fact, God will take what the enemy means for evil and use it as the perfect setting for a miracle. You don't have to understand God to trust Him. Restoration and peace are His specialty. He will be your refuge and your strength. Right now, quietly turn to Him. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a sense of helplessness. I am desperate for You, Lord. I need Your strength and power to sustain me because everything seems to be falling apart. I want to be a woman of faith and stand strong when trouble bombards my life but I cannot do it alone. Today, I turn to You, God, and celebrate the truth that You will turn to me and be my refuge.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Jered has grown into a wonderful young man who loves the ocean. Swimming, fishing, tubing, snorkeling, water skiing ... he enjoys it all. What once held only fear and uncertainty now brings him joy. God can do the same thing for you.
Look back over your life. When did God take something bad and bring good out of it? Describe that experience. Remember the truth that God is the same yesterday, today and forever and what He did in your past ... He can do today and tomorrow. He is faithful - even when we are faithless.
Read and memorize Today's Truth found in Psalm 59:16. Choose to sing a new song of praise - no matter what happens today. Record this verse on an index card and keep it with you. When fear and doubt come, meet them with this powerful promise from God.
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We are with you, girlfriend! Sharon, Gwen and I want to encourage you with the truth that you are loved. God loves you and so do we!
Need help dealing with stress? Check out Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for practical and powerful steps found in Psalm 23 for managing stress before it manages you.
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Sandpaper People is the current series and will help you discover ten ways to deal with the "sandpaper people" in your life - you know - the ones that rub you the wrong way. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
Need a friend? Connect with me on Facebook or through email. I love hearing what God is doing in your life! Tell me how praising God has made a difference in your life. Let's talk about it, girlfriend!
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September 20, 2010
Cleaning out Our Spiritual Ears
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not quench the Spirit" (1 Thessalonians 5:19 NASB).
Friend to Friend
The Holy Spirit speaks to us to convict us of sin, but sometimes I think we have "spiritual ear wax build-up" which causes us to have a difficult time hearing His voice. In my own life, when the Holy Spirit speaks to me concerning a particular sin, it is almost as if He is screaming at me to stop and think about what I'm getting ready to do or the potential consequences of my unholy actions. If I ignore His promptings, the next time His voice isn't quite as loud. Eventually, if I continue to choose to ignore the Holy Spirit's voice, I may not hear His voice at all. Paul wrote to the Thessalonians, "Do not put out the Holy Spirit's fire" (I Thessalonians 5:19 NIV). Another version says, "Do not quench the Spirit" (NASB). Each time we ignore Him, we diminish our ability to hear His voice.
Let's say I turn the television to a program that I know God would not want me to watch. I feel the Holy Spirit's conviction and sense Him speaking to me to turn the television off and not fill my mind with visions and words that are unpleasing to God. If I ignore the Holy Spirit and watch the program, it is like I get "spiritual ear wax build up" and the next time the Holy Spirit speaks His voice is not quite as clear. I believe with all my heart that turning a deaf ear to the Holy Spirit's conviction in our lives will lead to a serious case of spiritual hearing loss. The only solution is repentance - which is more than saying, "I'm sorry." It is agreeing with God that your actions are sin, and then turning and going in the opposite direction.
Once someone accepts Jesus as his or her personal Savior, the Holy Spirit comes and takes up residence in that person (Romans 8:8-9). "You yourselves are God's temple and God's Spirit lives in you" (I Corinthians 6:19). Because the Holy Spirit abides in each believer, we should expect Him to speak to us on a regular basis. But each time we resist the Spirit (Acts 7:51), grieve the Spirit (Ephesians 4:29) or quench the Spirit (1 Thessalonians 5:19 NASB), we throw a cup of water onto the flame. The Holy Spirit won't leave us, but His power in our lives may be reduced to a smoldering ember if we refuse to listen.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for the Holy Spirit who warns me to stop before sinning. Help me to have the will power to heed His voice and obey quickly. Please forgive me for the times I have ignored the Holy Spirit's promptings and proceeded to act like a stubborn child who ignores her father's warnings.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there certain activities or areas of your life in which you have felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit?
If so, have you made changes? Stopped watching a particular TV program? Discontinued a relationship? Changed the way you dress? Changed an eating habit? Etc?
Do you need your "ears" cleaned out? One of the best ways to keep "spiritual ear wax" from building up is to start each day reading God's Word and praying. Write out a prayer making a commitment to God to listen to His voice through the pages of your Bible and the Holy Spirit's prompting.
If the Holy Spirit has been convicting you of behavior you need to change, I'd love to hear about it. Sometimes writing it down helps us to stay strong! Log on to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and put it in words.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to
God. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God's still small voice in your life, then this book is for you!
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September 21, 2010
And I love Me!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 22:37-38 (NIV) "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself."
Friend to Friend
I love being a grandmother. I absolutely adore our three grandchildren and work hard at finding any and every excuse to spend time with them. The games I played with their parents, I now play with them. I read many of the same stories that I read to their parents and have come up with new renditions of old songs I once sang as a young mother. I am convinced that my grandchildren keep me young. I am also convinced that they are some of my greatest and most profound teachers. Maybe that is because they are so "fresh" from Heaven and the presence of God. Whatever the reason, when I spend time with them, I always come away with new truth.
I recently visited our son and daughter-in-law in Charlotte, North Carolina because two of our three grandchildren live with them. They are twins. As you can imagine, life is anything but dull as Jered and Jodi try to keep up with three-year-old Lelia and Jaydan. It seems like the twins do or say something new every day and I can now testify to the fact that are learning to talk ... a lot! They are also learning how to pray.
As we sat down at the dinner table one night, I watched Lelia and Jaydan bow their heads and begin to sing the blessing. It was one of those life moments I will never forget. But there was more. When the song was finished, Jered prayed, "Thank You, God, for our food and our home. Thank You for Mommy, Daddy, Lelia, Jaydan and for Mimi." I waited for the usual "amen" but instead, heard two sweet voices offer their own thanks. Lelia ended their prayer time by pointing to each person seated at the table and declaring, "I love Mommy and Daddy. I love JayJay. I love Mimi." Then came the "amen" from daddy. However, Lelia was not done. With sparkling eyes and a smile that would melt any heart, she pointed to herself and said, "And I love me!"
And there you have the three-year-old translation of the two most important commandments Jesus ever gave. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself" Matthew 22:37-38 (NIV).
Jesus is responding to a question he was asked by an interpreter of the law. I suspect the motive behind the question was far from pure, but Jesus responded with pure truth when He said that the love of God is the "first and greatest commandment." In other words, our love of God must not only be not sincere but radical. If we love God, we sell out to Him and will naturally serve Him by loving and serving others. Too often, we stop right there and never get to the second most important commandment. Jesus said we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.
Yes, there is a self-love that is corrupt, and the root of the greatest sins we can possibly commit. That kind of self-love must die. However, Jesus teaches that we are to love ourselves enough to take care of and be concerned with the welfare of our own bodies and souls. Our body houses the Holy Spirit. Our soul is eternal. We are responsible for the care of both. And we must love our neighbor as truly and sincerely as we love ourselves. That kind of love often asks us to deny ourselves for the good of others because people could care less how much we know, until they know how much we care. Our choice to obey these two commandments will mold our heart and life into something beautiful that honors and pleases God.
The psalmist writes, "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well" (Psalm 139:13-14). You can judge the value and the worth of a product by looking at the one who made it. You are no accident. You were created by God - for God - and even if you were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, you were planned and wanted by God. So, love your neighbor and while you are at it, love yourself
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate the fact that You created me. You planned my life and chose me to be Your daughter because You love me. Help me to love others, God, and then help me to see and love myself through Your eyes.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10 "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
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Learning to see ourselves through the eyes of God - no more and no less - is fundamental to a life of power and victory. The enemy would love for us to think that we are worthless and of little or no value to God. Do not buy his lies! You are loved and wanted by God, friend. Now live like it!
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September 22, 2010
The Learner's Permit
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still; teach the righteous and they will add to their learning" (Proverbs 9:9 TNIV).
Friend to Friend
I had dreaded the day for months. My breakfast and lunch stuck in my throat, not quite making it past the lump lodged there. I knew the momentous day was coming. I had fifteen and a-half years to prepare, but that proved insufficient. Would I live through the ordeal? Could I withstand the pressure? Should I allow the inevitable?
"Hi, Mom!" Steven chirped as he eagerly burst through the kitchen door to disrupt my musings. "I'm home from school. Ready to go get my driver's permit?"
"Oh, hi, Son. I'd almost forgotten about it," I teased. "Was that today?"
"Mom, you know it's today. It's been marked on the calendar for weeks and you even made the appointment at the DMV so we wouldn't have to wait!"
What was I thinking? I wondered to myself.
"Oh yes, I remember. Let me gather my things." I muttered and puttered around the house, stalling for time. "Pocketbook, keys, Steven's social security card, insurance information, Tylenol, nerve medication - OK, I'm ready to go."
I knew Steven was prepared. He had studied three times more for his driver's permit exam than he had for his biology semester exam. After all, which was more important? He was ready. I wasn't.
We arrived at the ever-crowded DMV where we filled out the necessary papers. I paced the waiting room with several other apprehensive parents while Steven took the test. Of course, he passed. Of course he wanted to drive home - on a Friday afternoon - in five o'clock traffic - on a major highway. It was the longest twelve miles of my life.
As we neared a busy intersection close to our home, I saw the traffic light turning yellowish pink. Did he see it? I wasn't sure.
"Steven," I managed to say through clenched teeth as we rapidly approached. "Are you going to stop?"
"I don't know? Should I stop or try to get through?"
In his indecision, he came to a screeching halt - right smack dab in the middle of the intersection where we sat idling over the manhole. Cars on the east, west, north and south, stared in disbelief.
"Now what?" he yelped with a voice an octave higher than normal.
"Back up."
"What?" he asked.
"Back up."
The car behind us graciously backed up and let Steven shimmy back into position behind the red light, which promptly turned green. Whew! That was close.
Later that day, he ran a stop sign in a parking lot, declaring he never knew that parking lots even had traffic signs.
After our eventful day, I decided Steven did not have a driver's permit. He had a learner's permit. He had permission to learn - and learn he would.
I wonder if perhaps I got a taste of how our Heavenly Father feels as his children embark on their Christian journey. Like Steven passing the written test, we might think we know all the rules, can keep life under control, know when to stop, go, slow down, and speed up. Then we see a yellow light from the Lord and wonder - Does that mean to slow down or speed up and go through quickly?
I don't know about you, but I've been caught in the intersection of life more times than I'd like to admit. I've had times when I couldn't decide whether to go forward or stop or back up. As a result, I found myself idling in the middle of my journey, holding up traffic.
On those days, I think God is saying, "Back up. That's right, back up and wait until I give you a green light." I've decided that when it comes to driving down the road of life, I only have my learner's permit. He has never given me permission to take hold of the wheel and apply my foot to the accelerator without Him in the car.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me when I try to take control of my life. Forgive me when I act like I think I know it all. I don't. I am still learning. Thank you for being the patient Teacher and showing me when to stop, yield, or go.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you ever act like a spiritual know it all, or are you always willing for God to teach you new truth?
Look up the following Psalms and see what the writer says about his desire to learn.
Psalm 25:4, 5
Psalm 27:11
Psalm 32:8
Psalm 85:11
Psalm 119:68
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September 23, 2010
Reaching and Teaching
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind..." (Titus 2:3-5a,NIV).
Friend to Friend
One day, following a church service, a fellow 'lead worshipper' approached me. She is a fabulously lovely, young, hip '20-something' chick who totally loves Jesus. To my surprise and delight, she asked if I would consider becoming her mentor. At first I thought...'but I'm way too young to be your mentor!' Then I woke up from my momentary dream and remembered that I am a wise-on-my-good-days, slightly-elder-ish 'almost 40-something' chick with a decade of life, marriage, and ministry on her. I was excited and scared at the same moment as I prayerfully agreed. I have been blessed beyond measure by many women in my life who are slightly more gray and slightly less green than I am!
Have you ever wanted life advice and didn't know who to talk to? I have. We all need a spiritual mentor to take our hand as we face life. Likewise, we all need to grab hold of a younger spiritual hand for the journey, to bring them along in Christ and strengthen their spiritual muscles, to encourage, teach and admonish. As runners in a relay race reach forward to grab the baton from their teammate in front of them, they also extend the baton back to a runner about to take off in her own race. We need to be reaching and teaching! Look at what the apostle Paul told his disciple, Titus, about women doing life with other women:
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God" (Titus 2:3-5, NIV).
The Bible says in Mark chapter 6 that after John the Baptist had died, his disciples came and took his body and laid it in a tomb. I find it interesting that the word 'disciples' is used instead of the word friends or associates. The implication is that John had poured his life into guiding and instructing these men in the truth and hope of Christ.
The Bible also tells us that Jesus revered John the Baptist as one of the greatest men to ever walk the earth. Interestingly, John did not consider himself even worthy to tie the sandals of Jesus. So even a man such as John the Baptist, who was set apart for a special God-mission to prepare the way for the LORD, needed to reach forward to Christ for guidance and wisdom. Though he was not one of the chosen twelve disciples of Jesus, John the Baptist was, indeed, a disciple of the Lord. What a beautiful example we see here. John was a disciple and made disciples. With God's help and a little effort, we can do both, too!
Friend, this is what GiG (Girlfriends in God) is all about. Sharon, Mary and I purpose to pour in to you each day through these devotions - to encourage you and spur you on toward the heart of God. But we can't be the only resource you've got in this area. Beyond us e-GiGs, you need flesh-friends in your life for the same purpose. I challenge you to prayerfully connect with one or two women this week to discuss this mentoring topic. Reach ahead. Reach behind. When you do, deep blessings and growth will be evidenced in your life and in the life of those with whom you connect.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are so good to instruct us toward relationships...both with You and with others. Would you help me to grow in faith? Would you use me to make a difference in the lives of other women as well? Please lead me in Your will and in Your ways.
In the powerful name of Jesus,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a spiritual mentor?
Have you spoken with her recently?
Why not call or email her to set up a date to meet for coffee or lunch this week?
Are you mentoring anyone right now?
If so, why don't you call or email her to set up a time to meet for coffee or lunch sometime in the next week or two?
If you are not a spiritual mentor yet or don't have a spiritual mentor, take a few moments to seek God's heart about this for your life.
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GiGs - Thanks for joining us on this journey. Sharon, Mary and I love you and pray for you regularly. Beyond the devotions, be sure to visit us on Facebook so we can have a continuous e-connection. Today on my Facebook page, we will be gathering to pray for one another. Got a prayer need? Stop by and connect/pray with GiGs all over the world right now: www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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September 24, 2010
What are you doing with your anger?
Georgia Shaffer
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of the women who have blessed our lives as girlfriends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Georgia Shaffer.
Today's Truth
"Be angry, and yet do not sin" Ephesians 4:26 (NASB).
Friend to Friend
I grew up in a home where I never learned how to express my anger in healthy ways. In fact, I believed anger was a bad thing. If someone even hinted that I might be angry I would say, "I'm not angry. I'm just upset."
Many years later, I finally understood that the real issue isn't whether or not I get angry but what I do with my anger. Do I try to ignore it or deny my anger? Do I express it in a selfish, harmful way? Or do I accept it and find constructive ways to handle it?
Most of us would agree that physical and verbal aggression, such as throwing things, slapping, name-calling, or cursing, are hurtful. But we don't always recognize how harmful it is to express our anger with sarcasm or by giving someone the silent treatment.
Here are five ways we can express our anger destructively. See if you can recognize yourself in any of following.
Critical Words - Criticism, as a destructive expression of anger, is finding fault or expressing disapproval of another person. Some experienced criticizers deliver their verbal jabs while smiling and end by saying, "I'm only telling you this for your own good."
Vengeful Behavior - "I'll get even with him," Abby said after her husband left her to be with someone else. "He's not going to get away with this." The desire to get back at someone is a common reaction when we've been hurt. What we do next is what matters. Unless we address our unresolved anger, it will quickly harden into bitterness and negatively impact all our relationships.
Sarcastic Remarks - "I was only kidding" is a comment we often hear after someone has made a cutting remark and we are pulling out the knife and tending to our emotional wound. They may even tell us we are too sensitive if we say we are hurt. They may respond, "I didn't mean anything by it. Can't you take a joke?"
Withdrawing Communication - Temporarily leaving the scene of a heated argument can be a good thing. But distancing ourselves becomes destructive when we do it to avoid communicating with someone. People who withdraw often refuse to answer emails or calls—sometimes for days, weeks, or years.
Withholding Something -Maybe we don't give someone the silent treatment, but we get stingy with our time, attention, money, and other resources. We hold back the very thing we know the person wants or needs.
Whether we tend to use criticism, sarcasm, or give the silent treatment, we want to cultivate the habit of expressing our anger constructively. I've found it helpful to do something physical like take a walk, garden, or clean my home. Journaling is another way I process my anger. On more than one day, my journal has become a trash can where I dump my emotional junk.
You may choose to express your anger by talking to a friend or counselor, addressing a relational issue, or finding new solutions to old problems. Just remember, the goal is not to get rid of all anger but to intentionally express it in a healthy way.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to have a healthy view of my angry feelings. Help me to accept them rather than ignore or deny them. Help me to realize when I'm expressing this powerful emotion in a selfish, harmful or destructive way. Most importantly, give me the wisdom and discernment to purposefully and constructively handle my anger.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
1. What role does anger play in your life? With which of the destructive styles of anger listed below can you identify?
- Aggressive action
- Critical words
- Vengeful behavior
- Sarcastic remarks
- Withdrawing communication
- Withholding something
2. List two things you can do this week to express your frustrations or fury in a positive way. For example, you might want to memorize a Scripture verse about anger, such as Proverbs15:1, Proverbs 19:11, Ephesians 4:3, or James 1:19. When your anger starts to surface, count to 10, and repeat the memorized verse.
Maybe you would rather take a brisk walk, work in the garden, talk to a friend, or clean out a closet. Do whatever helps you control your anger instead of allowing it to control you.
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Today's devotion was taken from Georgia Shaffer's newest book, Taking Out Your Emotional Trash: Face Your Feelings and Build Healthy Relationships. As a licensed psychologist in PA and certified life coach, Georgia is passionate about helping you handle life's up and downs more easily so that you can experience more energy, peace, and happiness.
If you want to take the free Dump Your Junk Self-Assessment or order Georgia's book go to www.GeorgiaShaffer.com. Taking Out Your Emotional Trash is also available at any bookstore such as www.Amazon.com. To connect with Georgia on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=1408877303.
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September 27, 2010
Love Covers it All
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 John 4:8-10 "But anyone who does not love does not know God--for God is love. God showed how much he loved us by sending his only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love. It is not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins."
Friend to Friend
When I was a little girl, I often went grocery shopping with my mother, hoping to snag a treat or two for myself. Mama shopped at one particular grocery store for one reason alone. They handed out S&H green trading stamps with each purchase. Let me just say that my Mama was all about collecting those small, green stamps. She was one of the hardest working women I have ever known. In fact, she sometimes worked two or three jobs at a time to put food on the table. Collecting S&H green stamps was simply a way to get a little more for her money. My job was to lick the stamps and stick them in the S&H green stamp books. I can still taste that nasty glue! I then placed the books in a wooden chest where Mama kept her "stash."
For months, she hoarded the small, green stamps until she had enough to trade for something we needed. Yes, it was always something we needed until one particular Saturday in December. "Get the green stamp books," she said. "We are going to town!" I noticed an unusual excitement in her voice and assumed we were going to trade the stamps in to buy a Christmas present for someone in our family. Mama rarely redeemed the stamps for something she wanted. That seemed to be a luxury we could not afford and a splurge she would not allow for herself. Stamps in hand, off we went to find a treasure.
When we reached the redemption center, Mama parked the car and with great resolve, marched straight in, totally ignoring the appliance section, past all of the toys, skipping the aisle where small electronics, hairdryers and vacuums were displayed, and made a beeline for the linens department. I had a sinking feeling that my idea of a treasure did not match my mother's idea of a treasure.
Unlike most of our trips to the redemption center, Mama did not take her time to look around and weigh her options. It was obvious that she was on a mission and would not be deterred! Suddenly, she stopped, a smile spreading across her face as she gazed at an item on the shelf. "It's still here!" she whispered in relief.
I remember thinking that whatever she had spotted must be very special to warrant such determination, such joy and a whole lot of stamp glue. When I realized that the blue treasure she clutched in her hands was just a tablecloth, I simply did not understand. I mean, there were so many other beautiful things in the store she could have chosen. I had tasted and pasted a lot of stamps for a tablecloth? What was so special about an ordinary tablecloth? I was confused - until we got home.
Our family was poor - in material things - and we lived in what most people would refer to as a "shack" out on the edge of a small, Texas town. My mother was an amazing woman who somehow managed to raise three children after my father died of a heart attack. Honestly, I don't think we ever realized how poor we really were or considered ourselves to be deprived. Many happy times and scrumptious meals were enjoyed around our old, scratched, worn and downright ugly dining room table. That dilapidated table dominated the entire room with ugliness - until the day Mama bought the blue tablecloth.
I watched as she carefully removed the cloth from its hard, plastic package and began to unfold her treasure. Now, my mother could "snap" a bed sheet or tablecloth with the best of them. I can still hear that sound as she whipped the blue cloth in front of her to straighten out any wrinkles and let it slowly float through the air, finally settling on the dining room table. As she smoothed her treasure across that shabby table, an amazing thing happened. Not only did the table look beautiful, the whole room looked better!
Love is like that, its mere presence transforming the ugliness of a broken life into a beautiful trophy of grace. Love covers the scars of sin. Love heals old wounds and eases the pain of the past. We all need to be loved and we all need to love.
Jesus was and is the living illustration and certain fulfillment of His Father's love. The love of God is unconditional, unfailing and will stubbornly pursue us no matter where we go, what we do or don't do. We cannot earn God's love because then, it would be wages paid for work done. We will never be good enough to deserve the love of God because God's love is holy and pure ... and we aren't. God's love is a gift. All we can do is accept it and rest in Him. God's love satisfies the deepest longings of our soul and enables us to love ourselves and others.
Friend, across your defeats spread the hope and promise of a tiny baby lying in a manger. Across your pain, spread the unconditional love poured out for you on a cruel cross. Across your doubts and fears, spread the promise of an empty tomb and a coming King. The love of God changes everything. God's love covers it all.
Let's Pray
God, I need Your love. My life is filled with scars and wounds that can be healed by Your love alone. I celebrate the love You so freely offer. I accept the gift of Your love and thank You for its transforming power in my heart and life. I love You, Father, and celebrate Your presence and power in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What past experiences in your life need the covering of God's healing love? Right now, make the decision to face and deal with those experiences in God's timing and God's way.
Why do we bury hurt and pain?
With what have you tried to "cover" the painful parts of your life? Did it work? Why? Why not?
What does it really mean to allow God's love to cover the sin and pain in your life?
What is the first step or action that you need to take in the process of allowing God to heal the broken places?
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Getting past our past is a crucial step toward living a victorious life. God cannot fill hearts and hands that still clutch the pain of the past. Let go! Walk straight ahead into the love and transforming power of God.
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September 28, 2010
Come Often, Drink Deeply
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If anyone is thirsty, let him come to me and drink" (John 7:38 NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all come into the world thirsty. From the time my son made his first cry in the delivery room, he began rooting around for something to drink. God planned it that way. Our bodies are 50 to 60 percent water and must be replenished continuously. When we go without water, our skin grows clammy, our eyes become scratchy and our head starts to pound. We need water to keep our mouths moist enough to swallow, our vital organs plump enough to function, and our joints lubricated enough to flex. One week without water and we simply dry up and die.
We also come into the world spiritually thirsty. From the time we are cut loose from our mother's nourishing umbilical cord, we begin our journey to discovering the living water to satisfy the soul. Oh, we don't know it yet. But God has placed this desire in each and every one of his image bearers. Until we meet Jesus at the well, we fumble about trying to quench the God-given thirst with anything and anyone who offers temporary relief. But it is just that...temporary.
It is only in a relationship with Jesus that we discover what Peter Kreft in Three Philosophies of Life called, "the ultimate purpose for which we were created, the meeting and marriage between ourselves and God...the highest and holiest and happiest hope of the human heart, the thing we were all born hungering (and thirsting) for, hunting for, longing for."
The Samaritan woman at the well we read about in John chapter 4 had tried drinking from many shallow streams. She had been married five times and the man she was living with when she encountered Jesus was not her husband. But they had all left her thirsty for more - or at least for something different. Jesus offered her freely flowing, resplendently refreshing water; water that bubbles up from the indwelling Holy Spirit and quenches every thirst, washes away every sin, and flows into every nook and cranny of our beings. He invites us to come often and drink deeply.
I live on a beautiful lake. I can look at the lake, swim in the lake and even stand in the lake...and still die of thirst. The only way for the water to enter my system is to scoop it up and drink.
Likewise, we can read about Jesus, listen to sermons about Jesus, and even believe that He was a good man. But until we actually believe that Jesus is God's Son, the Messiah, who died for our sins and rose again...until we partake of Jesus and make Him Lord of our lives, we will remain thirsty.
And our woman at the well? She accepted the invitation. She believed! She left the water jug right at Jesus' feet. She didn't need it anymore. After all, she found what she had been looking for her entire life.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Oh how I praise You for Your living water. I come to You thirsty and I will drink deeply from Your Word. Thank You for giving me Your Word that I can read every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
We all come into the world spiritually thirsty. What are some ways that people try to quench that spiritual thirst other than with Jesus?
What are some ways that you have tried to quench that God-given thirst other than with Jesus?
When is the last time you spent time drinking deeply from God's Word? How about spending an extended time with Him today? You've got a great start!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in love with Jesus all over again. There's also a companion Bible Study Guide for those who want to learn more.
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September 29, 2010
Counting the Ways
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you" Psalm 63:2-3.
Friend to Friend
So - I'm at the airport. I totally mismanaged time this morning, and missed my flight. Thankfully, I gave myself some wiggle room for travel and will still get to my conference in plenty of time. The consequences of my tardiness seemed harsh at first ...six hours of sitting still. Now, as I'm an hour into the sitting, I am strangely grateful for this time. I suddenly have grace space in my day.
In this time of reflection, I'm reminded of a day in an airport, a few years back, when I experienced a memorable God-moment after my flight had been cancelled. The extra time became the opportunity for me to have extended personal worship. I reflected on God's goodness as He bragged on Himself with a glorious sunrise. I remember sensing His presence and His pleasure deep inside as I considered a few of the reasons that I loved our LORD. In the chaos of the terminal, I felt a peace and serenity that was profound. Have you ever had one of those sweet moments?
On that warm June morning I had gotten to the Philadelphia airport crazy-early. I sipped piping hot coffee, as my mind wandered to that classic poem "How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways," written by the talented poet of the Victorian era, Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Her poem seemed the perfect backdrop for my worship that morning. Out of this sweet moment was birthed the lyric for a song, Because, that I recorded later that year.
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN to Gwen's song "BECAUSE"
Have you really savored our Savior lately? Have you paused to adore Him today? What about yesterday? This week? In the midst of marriage, mothering and ministry, I constantly struggle with freeing up time to 'just sit' with God and worship...to behold Him in His sanctuary... yet, this is what God desires most. So today, I praise Him for my missed flight. What in your life do you praise Him for today? Think on that. Make a list!
I'm off to journal and pray now, but before I go, let's pray together and tell God some of the reasons we love Him.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, there are so many reasons why I love you! You chased me and caught me. You cherish me and bought me with the blood of your Son, Jesus. Please forgive me for the times when the busyness of life crowds out my time to adore You. Hear my heart today as it tenderly and sincerely whispers, "I love You!"
In the powerful, saving name of Jesus,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Write a love note to God. List at least 10 reasons why you love Him.
· Read Psalm 63 and then pray for God's presence, provision and protection in your life.
· Write a "love note" to someone special in your life that you feel led to bless. Pray that God would lead you in this.
More from the Girlfriends
Hey, GiGs, I just wanted to let each of you know that Sharon, Mary and I really love pouring into your lives from the Word of God. We are blessed and honored to be doing life with you! Thanks for inviting us into your inbox each day! With sincere love, Gwen.
LOVE TO WORSHIP? The song that was featured in today's devotion is on Gwen's CD, Because. Order the CD from Gwen's website (www.GwenSmith.net/store) or download it from iTunes.
GOT FACEBOOK? Gwen loves her Facebook friends! J Stop by Gwen's page at www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. While you're there, leave a message on her wall - listen to a few songs - share the page with your FB friends! (She interacts with and prays for her page friends regularly!)
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September 30, 2010
Stop! Drop! Roll!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:52 "Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men."
Friend to Friend
A friend recently sent me the following message in an email with a subject line that said, "I immediately thought of you when I read this!"
"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body. But rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming, "Wow, what a ride!"
As I read the words on the computer screen, I wasn't sure if I had just received a sweet compliment or some badly needed correction - or both. The part about arriving at the grave in a pretty and well preserved body was flattering, but the part about being thoroughly used up and totally worn out - well, not so much. My next thought was, "Boredom is highly underrated!" I suspect that the truth lies somewhere in between, maybe around the area of balance.
Contrary to popular belief and the way that I have lived a great deal of my life, "balance" is not a dirty word. In fact, a balanced life is a powerful life. It must be. I wrote those words in one of my books. I also stated that a busy life is not necessarily a productive life. I think it is time for a refresher course on how to find God's balance in life because being out of balance is not a good thing. When our finances are out of balance, we hear from the bank. When the washer is out of balance, it dances across the floor. When the tires on our car are out of balance, the ride is rough. But when our life is out of balance, disaster is just around the corner.
As I was praying about this devotional, the Father brought to mind my elementary school days when the firemen came to our school to teach us what we should do in case we ever caught on fire. I remember the drill clearly. Stop! Drop! Roll! Let's apply that same drill to the area of balance.
Stop!
When was the last time you stopped, got off the merry-go-round and out of the fast lane to take a long, hard look at your life? It is so easy to live each day just doing "the next thing" that comes along. The "one size fits all" mentality about life plans is from the pit and smells like smoke, girlfriend. God has a plan for your life that is unique and you are the only person who can be "you." Build on your strengths. Accept your limitations and yield to the seasons of life. Get in the Word and ask God to show you His plan.
Drop!
Once you discover your life plan, eliminate anything that does not fit that plan. Learn to invest your time instead of just spending it or allowing others to steal it. Choose to budget your time just like you budget your money and learn to say "no" without feeling guilty. We are all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use.
Roll!
Roll away the burdens you are carrying and learn the value of resting in God. Every opportunity to worry is also an opportunity to trust Him. I heard a story about a man who had to cross a wide river on the ice. He was afraid it might be too thin, so he began to crawl on his hands and knees in fear, thinking he would fall through the icy surface at any time. Just as he neared the opposite shore, exhausted and weak, another man glided past him sitting on a sled loaded with iron. The promises of God will not break under the weight of any problem or trial you will ever face. Take Him at His Word. Let God be God in your life and trust Him.
When Jesus was twelve years old, He traveled to Jerusalem with His parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When Mary and Joseph began the long trip home, they assumed Jesus was traveling with friends. When they realized Jesus was missing, their search found Him at the temple, teaching.
Don't miss this important truth. Jesus returned home with His parents and spent the next twenty years growing and maturing. Luke 2:52 tells us that "Jesus grew in wisdom, in stature, and in favor with God and men." Then in Luke 3, we see Jesus as He began His ministry on earth. Don't miss this important truth! Jesus grew mentally and emotionally, physically, spiritually and socially. His life was balanced - before He began His ministry. You may be waiting for your life to just fall into place, hoping that the things you are doing will achieve balance. The opposite is true. A powerful life comes from a balanced life. Now is the time for you to stop ... drop ... and roll.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired. My life is out of control and I don't know what to do. Please help me examine my priorities by Your standards and expectations and live for Your pleasure and glory. I choose now to trust You, knowing that You are in control whether it looks like it or not. My faith is weak, Lord. Strengthen me to do what You created me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time to come before God, in total surrender and with a willing heart. Ask Him to show you His plan. Choose to follow that plan now.
Stop: Read and memorize Psalm 139:16. Examine your priorities. Do they line up with God's priorities?
Drop: What activity or time consumer do you need to eliminate from your life? For example, how much time do you spend watching television or online? What would your life look like if you invested that time in studying the Bible, praying or serving God?
Roll: Exodus 31:17 says, "For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, and on the seventh day He rested and was refreshed." What does this verse say to you about the importance of rest?
2 Timothy 1:7 says, "God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control." What is your greatest fear? Give it to God today and trust Him.
More from the Girlfriends
I know it is hard to find the right balance in life. Only God can make that happen when we make the choice to let Him. Are you ready to make that choice? Know that we are praying for you and asking God to fill your life with peace and joy as you seek Him. We are with you, girlfriend.
Need help? I can't believe I am even writing these words, but the holidays are just around the corner! I can already feel the stress that is just around that same corner. If you want to find God's answer for stress, check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for steps you can take to help you live in peace.
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Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. A new study begins October 4: When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
Need a friend? Connect with me on Facebook or through email. I love hearing what God is doing in your life! Tell me how praising God has made a difference in your life. Let's talk about it, girlfriend!
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October 1, 2010
Mixed Messages
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters [and girlfriends] this should not be" (James 3:9 TNIV and girlfriends added).
Friend To Friend
Catherine and I set out for a lazy summer stroll through the neighborhood just before the fireflies emerged to celebrate the setting of the sun. We chatted about raising boys, working husbands, and decorating dilemmas. When we arrived back at her house, she invited me to come in and look at some fabric swatches for a new sofa. Before I knew it, a few minutes turned into a couple of hours.
"Oh, my!" I exclaimed. "It's ten o'clock. I've been gone for over two hours! I bet Steve's worried sick. He doesn't even know where I am. I'd better give him a call before I start back home."
When I dialed the number, the answering machine picked up. After I listened to my sweet Southern greeting, I left a bitter message.
"Steve, I was calling to let you know I'm at Catherine's. I thought you'd be worried, but apparently you don't even care because you won't even pick up the phone!" Click. I said my goodbyes to Catherine and left feeling somewhat dejected. I'm wandering around in the dark all alone and he doesn't even care, I mumbled to no one in particular.
As my eyes adjusted to the darkness, I noticed someone coming toward me. It was Sir Galahad riding on his steed...his bicycle!
"Where have you been?" Steve desperately asked. "I've been riding all over the neighborhood looking for you! Do you know what time it is?"
"Oh, you do care," I said with a grin, giving him a big hug.
"What are you talking about?" he asked.
"Nothing. Let's go home." I answered.
When we got back home, I quickly erased the message on the machine before Steve could hear my reprimanding words. "Whew," I thought, "That was close."
A few days later, Steve called me from work.
"Sharon, have you listened to the answering machine lately?"
"No. Why?"
"Well, I think there's something on there you need to hear."
We hung up and I reached for my cell phone to call my home phone. The message on the answering machine went something like this.
(The voice of a Sweet Southern Belle) "Hello, you've reached the Jaynes' residence. We're unable to answer the phone right now... (Enter the voice of Corella Deville) "I was calling to let you know I'm at Catherine's. I thought you'd be worried, but apparently you don't even care because you won't pick up the phone! (Return of Sweet Southern Bell) At the sound of the beep, leave your number and we'll get back with you as soon as possible." Beep.
"Oh, my goodness!" I screamed. "How did this happen! How many people have heard this over the past three days?"
I called the phone company and they explained that sometimes during a thunderstorm (which had occurred three days prior), lightening strikes the wires and answering machine messages get scrambled. The old message somehow got attached to the greeting.
I was mortified. It sounded like Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde reincarnate.
"Lord," I prayed. "This is so embarrassing."
"Yes, it is," He replied.
Well, He didn't really say that in so many words. It was more like this. "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water" James 3:9-12 TNIV).
"OK Lord, I get the message." I prayed. But unfortunately, so did a lot of other people.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, oh how I have a difficult time controlling my tongue! I pray that you will put a guard over my mouth. Help me to think before I speak. I pray the Holy Spirit will take control of my words and use me as an instrument of encouragement.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
A word has been described as the smallest unit of meaningful linguistic communication. But that little tiny entity has great potential.
Read James 3:2-6 and answer the following questions.
How is the tongue like the rudder of a ship?
Who is the ship? (There is not necessarily a right answer.)
On any given day, there are many travelers on our ship (our families and friends) or people we pass on the waterways of life. How do our words carry people along the same route we are traveling? How do our words maneuver or bump into those that are passing by? I'd love to hear your answer! Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your thoughts.
More From The Girlfriends
Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. There is great power in the words we speak. Our words have the power to speak life or death into the souls of those we love. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful force and use your words in positive ways, this book is for you! Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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October 5, 2010
Iron Sharpens Iron
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
In my silverware drawer at home, I have about 15 knives of various shapes and sizes. However, I only use about four of them and the others simply are taking up space. The problem is, the other knives are dull and I've never taken the time to sharpen them. I could just toss them in the trash, but that seems like such a waste.
The same can be true in our own lives. The Bible says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17 TNIV). When we don't have friends that challenge us and encourage us to grow, we grow dull. Ultimately, we become "not the sharpest knife in the drawer" and other ones are chosen for tasks that we would love to do. Is there someone that God is calling you to sharpen? Is there someone who God is nudging you to invite to be a sharpening agent?
Jesus gave us a word of caution when it comes to "sharpening" our friends. Do it in love. Alice Miller has a good rule of thumb for correction: "If it is very painful for you to criticize your friends, you are safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that is the time to hold your tongue."
Bonnie is one of my friends that keep me sharp. Her sometimes brutal honesty is couched in such love for me that I can take the sharpening stone even if it hurts. It is a tough love that I have grown to appreciate and admire. Sometimes her honesty makes me burst out laughing.
Bonnie lives in Michigan and I live in North Carolina. Because I am a writer and she works for a publishing house, we frequently attend the same conventions. Bonnie and I take every opportunity to visit and room together at many of these meetings. One night, after a long exhausting day of meetings, Bonnie and I were snuggled in our adjacent beds chatting. I confided in her about an internal struggle I was having with a particular person.
"That's just plain old sin," Bonnie said.
"What?" I asked
"Sharon, that's sin. You need to pray about that," she flatly replied.
I have to tell you, I laughed till I cried. Who else but Bonnie would call a spade and spade and label my whining for exactly what it was. I love her to pieces. She's not afraid to pull out the sharpening stone when she notices I'm getting a bit dull.
But everyone can't be a Bonnie in our lives. She has earned the right to sharpen me because she loves me well. Likewise, we can't go around expecting to use our words to sharpen others around us without loving them first. Otherwise the words will have destructive power and will not be received at all.
As women, we love to soak in warm bubble baths, lather in fragrant soaps, and soften with aromatic oils. But all too often, when it comes to removing dirt from a friend, we pull out the hard-bristled scrub brush of harsh words and scrub, scrub, scrub. The end result is often not the removal of dirt, but a wounded, emotionally scraped and bruised soul. Powerful words are not caustic words. They are gentle, tender words wrapped in an attitude of love. Paul wrote to the Colossians, "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience" (Colossians 3:12).
We all make mistakes. The prophet Isaiah wrote, "We all like sheep have gone astray" (Isaiah 53:6). The composer Beethoven said it this way: "We all make mistakes, but everyone makes different mistakes." The philosopher Goethe remarked, "One has only to grow older to become more tolerant. I see no fault that I might not have committed myself."
I am not suggesting that we withhold the sharpening tool when it is needed. But just make sure it is well oiled with love and a gentle spirit before the rub begins.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for friends that have sharpened me over the years. I pray that I may be a friend that sharpens others with love and encouragement and never wounds with hurtful comments and scorn. Thank You for always lovingly correcting and encouraging me through the work of the Holy Spirit in my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a special friend who keeps you sharp? If not, pray that God will send you one!
Make a list of ways that you can sharpen your friends. Look over the list carefully and prayerfully. Now - get started!
One way you can sharpen your friends is by passing along the Girlfriends in God devotions! Let's get sharp together!
Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me about a friend that keeps you sharp!
More From The Girlfriends
I don't know about you, but I want to be known as a person who is a sharpening stone, not a person who throws stones. If you would like to learn more about how to lovingly use your words to sharpen those in your sphere of influence, check out The Power of a Woman's Words. Not only will it change your life, but you'll learn how to use your words to change the lives of those around you!
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October 6, 2010
Are you ready?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Timothy 6:17 (NLT) "Tell those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which will soon be gone. But their trust should be in the living God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment."
Friend To Friend
It's that time of year again. I went shopping today and could not believe what I saw. One store displayed Halloween costumes, Thanksgiving turkeys and a fully decorated Christmas tree all at the same time. Now I am all about being prepared and planning ahead ... but I think we may have taken things just a bit too far when it comes to the holidays. I am absolutely not going to allow myself to get caught up in the materialistic aspect of the 2010 holidays - for two reasons.
First, money is tight.
Our economy is in trouble. Many people have lost the job they have had for many years. Others have lost the house in which they raised their family. Some people are facing each day, praying and hoping to find a job ... any job ... to put food on the table. The retail industry is responding by having "the biggest sale of the year" every other week and trying to get a head start on holiday spending. We need to put money and "stuff" in its right place.
The great Bible teacher, Howard Hendricks, was invited, along with his wife, to have dinner at the home of a very wealthy man. The Hendricks were slightly apprehensive about spending an entire evening with someone so powerful and famous but as the meal progressed, they discovered that their host was completely unassuming and surprisingly down to earth. As they were leaving, Howard Hendricks turned and asked the man, "How could you grow up in such wealth and not be consumed by materialism?" The man smiled and replied, "My parents wisely taught us that everything in our home was either an idol or a tool." What a great truth for all of us!
In Philippians 4:12 the Apostle Paul writes, "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want."
Paul is driving home the point that his contentment does not depend upon "stuff" and neither should ours. Having experienced both wealth and poverty, Paul had learned to be content within - no matter what the circumstances without might be.
Notice that Paul "learned" to be content; it did not come naturally. "Learn" literally means "initiated into the secret." In other words, Paul's circumstances were his introduction to the life truth that real contentment has nothing to do with either prosperity or poverty. Contentment is an inside job, the result of knowing God and living life against the backdrop of eternity.
Second, time is short.
The psalmist writes, "Teach us how short our lives really are so that we may be wise" (Psalm 90:12). Each day is a gift from God. We need to be wise in how we use that gift. Wisdom sees time - not as something to spend - but as something to invest. The way we spend our time is an eternal investment.
Speaking of eternity ...
Just last week, a family friend died in his sleep. His death was sudden and unexpected from an earthly viewpoint, but I know there was a party going on in heaven when he arrived. We have known Jamall Badry for over thirty years and have been so blessed by his ministry of music and his heart for sharing Christ. As I tried to wrap my mind around his death, I got to thinking about the night he died. I don't think he knew that before the night was done, he would meet Jesus face to face. Jamall went to sleep in his earthly home and woke up in his heavenly home. He was ready. Are you?
I sometimes think we spend more time preparing for the holiday season than we spend preparing for eternity. Not this year! Let's truly celebrate Jesus and give Him thanks by coming to Him in complete surrender.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart and life are so often filled with greed and discontent. Right now, I choose to take my eyes off of "things" and focus on You and what You want for my life. Thank You for all that you have given to me and for what You have done in my heart. I praise You, knowing that in You, I have everything I need.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider the following questions:
If you died tonight, where would you spend eternity, girlfriend?
Have you surrendered your life to Jesus Christ?
Have you accepted the gift of salvation that Jesus freely offers?
Have you turned from your sin and turned to God?
Are you willing to become a fully devoted follower of Christ?
More From The Girlfriends
Sharon, Gwen and I want to encourage you to surrender your heart and life to Jesus Christ. It is the reason Girlfriends in God exists. We love you and want to take you to Heaven with us! For more information about how to have a personal relationship with God, visit our website and click on the link: Seeking God. We would love to hear about the decision you made today so we can pray for you and celebrate with you!
Need help understanding the Bible? Check out Mary's online Bible study, When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God, and join women across the world in learning how to apply God's truths to your daily life.
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October 7, 2010
Keep Going! Don't Give Up!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us" (Hebrews 12:1 NIV).
Friend To Friend
My son was fast, and he ran with a fast crowd. As a matter of fact, his entire track team was pretty fast! In the ninth grade, Steven participated in the conference track meet, running the 1600 meters. (That's four times around the big circle.) I was so proud of him as he ran like a gazelle around the first lap, about six feet behind the first place participant. But, at some point during the beginning of the second lap we saw an unidentified flying object soar over Steven's head.
"What was that?" my husband asked. "It's a bird. It's a plane. No, it's Steven's shoe!"
All the fans were laughing and pointing as they noticed Steven's left running shoe fly heavenward and land on the grassy field. But amazingly, Steven kept running and never missed a beat. With one shoe off and one shoe on, he continued running. The atmosphere of the race sparked with excitement and the focus seemed to change. It became less about who would win and more about if Steven would make it to the finish line. All curious eyes were now on one lean runner. Would he stop? Would he slow down? Would his sock stay on?
His teammates began to run around the track, cheering him on. "Come on Steven! Don't give up! Don't slow down! Keep going!"
Surprisingly, at the urging of his teammates, Steven sped up. By the third lap, he had passed the first place runner by several paces. But then predictably, his sock started to work its way down the ankle and the toe was flopping like a loose sole of a worn old shoe. Undaunted, Steven ran on, sock flopping behind.
When Steven crossed the finish line in first place, the crowd erupted in applause and laughter. He had broken his best personal running time!
"Son, maybe you should have kicked off both shoes. No tellin' what you could have done," my husband cheered. "You made your best time ever. What made the difference?"
"I knew everybody was looking at me," Steven answered. "It wasn't just a race anymore, but they were watching to see what I'd do. It made me go faster. It made me want to do better."
All through our lives, we will notice "fellow runners" who have lost more than a shoe - they have lost their hopes, their dreams, and their will to finish the race. What will we do? What can we do? We can cheer them on by offering a timely word of encouragement and run alongside them shouting, "Come on friend! Don't give up! Don't slow down! Keep going!"
Who knows? That friend may do more than simply finish the race. She may even take first place!
Maybe you're that friend. That's why we're here. We all need girlfriends to cheer us on. So consider yourself encouraged today. You keep going girlfriend! We're cheering for you!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, is there someone that I can encourage today? Is there someone who is growing weary in the race, who has lost hope, or who has quit altogether? Show me one person today that I can cheer on. Show me one person today who needs to hear about the One who loves them best - You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Has there been a person in your life who has cheered you on when you hit rough times? If so, consider writing her a note or sending her an e-mail of thanks.
Is there someone that you have noticed isn't running too well these days? Perhaps God is calling you to be that cheerleader for them.
Make a list of some tangible ways that you can "cheer" a friend on. Let's share them with each other at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. You ideas may be just what someone needs to hear.
More From The Girlfriends
Do you want to be known as an encourager? The Bible tells us how. The answer is right under our noses - words. To learn more about how to use words wisely you'll want to read Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. Learn about the power you possess, the people you impact, and the potential to change!
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October 8, 2010
Drawing Closer
Mary Nash
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of the women who have blessed our lives as girlfriends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Mary Nash.
Today' Truth
Matthew 11:28 (NIV) "Come unto Me and I will give you rest."
Friend To Friend
In biblical times, if a lamb wandered away from the flock, the shepherd searched for that lamb until he found it. The shepherd sometimes broke one of the lamb's legs and then carried the wounded lamb on his shoulders until the leg was healed. The lamb developed such a close relationship with the shepherd, that when its leg was healed, the lamb would never again wander away from the one who had rescued it and cared for it so tenderly.
The loss of a loved one is always so difficult to survive. When the doctors diagnosed my dear husband with pancreatic cancer, we both knew we were facing some very difficult days. Pancreatic cancer is a deadly disease and usually has a very poor prognosis. Although I have lived through many unhappy situations and experienced great disappointment in my life, losing my husband was absolutely the worst. I just didn't know how I was going to get through this one. But somehow, I have survived the loss of my husband.
Some days, the only good thought I have is that I will be with him again in Heaven. I miss him every day and the only way I can find hope is to claim the promise of the peace and rest promised by the Savior. I have drawn closest to the Savior when I am hurting the most. He is really the only one who can sooth my pain. There may not be much understanding on my part, but there is a longing to draw so close to the Savior that I will totally rely on His love and His promises. He has never failed me.
The Scripture, "Come unto me and I will give you rest," has kept me going so many times when my emotions wanted to just give in completely to despair and depression. I try to visualize myself being carried in the arms of Jesus. He is always there, urging me on, whispering in my ear to never give up, pulling me as close to Him as I am willing to come, all the time saying, "Come closer, my child; depend on Me completely, and I will see you through this, no matter what happens."
God has put some special people in my path, people who lift me up and encourage me with their love and prayers. I have come to believe that our steps are truly ordered - each and every one. My job is to seek out and walk in the steps He has planned for me - even when those steps are filled with pain and confusion.
Cancer certainly gets our attention, but in all the emotional chaos of wondering what will happen also comes the sure knowledge that I am being carried in strong loving arms that will never let me go. I asked God "why" many times and while I know He understands my frailty as a servant, He keeps giving me the same answer, "Hang on, I am with you. We can do this together."
If you sometimes feel like one of those lambs with a broken leg, just know that if you ask, the Savior will pick you up, hold you tightly, and carry you until you can stand again. Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, will forever call us to come closer, never pushing us away.
Even when life comes at us like a hurricane, we know we have the hope of Jesus Christ. We know why we are here on this earth - to know Him, to love Him, and to serve Him - so that we can spend eternity with Him in Heaven. Cling to the hope that can only be found in knowing God. Share that same hope with those who are hurting, broken and looking for a Savior.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, even in the depths of my sadness and depression, just keep reminding me how much you love me and are willing to walk each step with me, always being there, sharing every tear and fear along the way. Help me to always share my innermost feelings with you and to draw closer to you each day.
In Jesus' Name
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you currently in a time when you need to draw closer to the Savior?
What do you have hiding in your heart that you need to share with Him today?
How can you let the Shepherd pick you up and hold you?
More From The Girlfriends
Storms are a reality of life. We will all face difficult circumstances and be tempted to lose hope. Check out Mary Southerland's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression and her DVD, Strength for the Storm.
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October 11, 2010
I want to love you - my way!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 13:35 (NIV) "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."
Friend To Friend
Grandchildren often remind me how to find joy in the simple things of life. Not long ago, I took Lelia and Jaydan, our two-year-old twin grandchildren, on a little shopping trip. When Mimi comes for a visit, there is always a shopping trip on the agenda. Lelia and Jaydan piled into the car and we headed to the store. I think I was more excited than they were. That's how grandmothers are.
Once we were inside the store, we grabbed a shopping cart and off we went in search of treasures. In other words, we needed toys! As we headed to the toy section of the store, we passed the pharmacy - which reminded me that I needed to pick up some vitamins. The twins were very patient as I searched the pharmacy shelves and found what I needed. I tossed the box of vitamins in the cart and said, "Let's go! The toys are just ahead!"
When we reached the first aisle of the toy section, I reminded Lelia and Jaydan that they could each pick one very special toy for Mimi to buy. Jaydan headed straight for the "crucks" and cars. No surprise there! But Lelia didn't seem very interested in looking at much of anything. Now that was surprising!
As I tried to figure out what the problem could possibly be, I spotted something pink out of the corner of my eye. A closer look revealed a small pink box of Hello Kitty Band-Aids clutched tightly in Lelia's little hands. Judging from the slightly crumpled box, I knew she had been holding her treasure for some time. The vitamin aisle! Evidently, Lelia had done a little looking on her own while I was searching for my vitamins; and had come up with a box of Band-Aids. But Mimi did not travel all the way from Kansas to North Carolina to buy her precious little granddaughter a paltry box of Band-Aids!
When I tried to persuade Lelia to pick something else - something a little more exciting than Band-Aids - she politely refused. Lelia was happy but Mimi was not. I wanted to buy her a "real" toy, but what Lelia really wanted was a box of Hello Kitty Band-Aids.
We often treat irritating people the same way. Have you noticed that sandpaper people are usually needy people? I have discovered that irritating behavior is often nothing more than a plea for help in disguise. True love - God's love - looks beyond abrasive behavior to see and meet the real needs of a difficult person.
Meeting a need in the life of a sandpaper person can be messy and usually demands a sacrifice of some kind on our part. It is easier to simply placate or avoid difficult people than it is to love them the way they need to be loved. It makes our life easier. For example, when we see that sandpaper person coming, we turn around and head in the opposite direction. When the called ID indentifies our sandpaper person as the caller, we do not answer. Hurried conversations replace a listening heart. We offer tolerance instead of acceptance. And God is not pleased. He is committed to our character - not our comfort.
God wants us to love each other in the same way that He loves - unconditionally. In fact, God wants us to love in such a way that the people around us will know we are fully devoted followers of Christ. I wonder what our relationships would look like if we did. Who knows? That sandpaper person may very well turn into a velvet person.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for looking beyond my faults and for loving me unconditionally. Forgive me when I fail to love others in the same way. Give me eyes to see the needs in my sandpaper person's life and show me how to meet those needs in a way that pleases You. I pray that others will see Your love working in and through my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Nowhere in the Bible will you find the words, "When you feel like it, love others." Nope! It is not in there. The Bible tells us to practice love. Love is a choice - not an emotion or feeling. Loving sandpaper people usually requires a deliberate choice on our part. I challenge you to step out in faith today and choose to love that difficult person in your life. Read the following commitment and fill in the blanks with the name of your sandpaper person. Be sure to sign and date your commitment.
Father, I choose to love _____________________ as a step of obedience to You.
I will show Your love to _____________________ by sending her a note of encouragement. I will pray for _____________________, remembering that she is made in Your image and that You love her just as much as You love me.
Sign____________________________ Date _____________________________
More From The Girlfriends
I know it is hard to love someone who is constantly on your nerves. In fact, it is impossible without the power of God in your life. Sharon, Gwen and I understand how hard it is to love difficult people, so we hold each other accountable. I encourage you to recruit a girlfriend who is willing to do the same for you.
Need help understanding the Bible? Check out Mary's online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join women across the world in learning how to apply God's truths to your daily life in her current study, When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God.
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October 12, 2010
Bracing Up Toppled Friends
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted" (Galatians 6:1 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
It was just a bit of burlap peaking out from underneath the soil, but to our Golden Retriever, Ginger, it was a challenge that needed to be pursued.
Shortly after we had planted a maple tree in our backyard, we went on vacation. It was the first time we had left Ginger home alone, and a neighbor fed and watched out for her while we were away. On the second day of our trip, I called Cathy to see how Ginger was fairing.
"Well, Ginger's fine," Cathy reported. "But you know that tree you planted last week? She dug it up!"
"She did what!" I exclaimed.
"She dug it up," Cathy confirmed. "The tree is lying in the yard on its side."
When we got home, we assessed the situation. It seemed that when we planted the tree, we left a small piece of the burlap around the root ball exposed. Ginger spied that remnant peaking out of the ground and wanted it...bad. A few times we had caught her pawing at the burlap, reprimanded her with a stern "no," and she had walked away. I imagine when she saw us pull out of the driveway with a packed car; she crept over to the forbidden tree and began to dig. I imagine she dug and dug for hours with all her puppy might - flinging dirt in every direction. I've got to get to the bottom of this, she might have thought. This must be exposed!
Finally, she accomplished her mission and the burlap was totally uncovered! Exposed! Of course she gave no thought to the tree she toppled in the mean time. It was never about the tree.
As I stared at the poor little maple lying helplessly in the yard in the hot, drying sun, I thought about how many friends I've observed in the same state. I thought about friends I have known, and even my self for that matter, that have been toppled for much the same reason. Perhaps someone has a little flaw that comes to the surface in plain view. Then someone else comes along and decides that the flaw is a nuisance and must be exposed at all cost. Someone starts digging and digging - flinging dirt in every direction, with no thought to what all the digging is doing to the friend. The rough canvas may be unearthed, but unfortunately the friend lies toppled in the process.
Lifeless, wounded, exposed - and for what purpose? To satisfy someone's dogged determination to uncover a rough edge?
There are times in any friendship when confrontation is necessary. But we must always make sure that the confrontation is wrapped in prayer and tied with the lovely bow of love. If we take any joy whatsoever in the process, we must stop and check our motives and attitude.
Steve and I gently removed what was left of the burlap sack around the root system, carefully sat the maple back up into her prepared soil, and lovingly patted the dirt back around her parched roots. Then, because of her weakened state, we braced her up with ropes tied to three stakes in the ground. I watered the weary maple daily, not knowing if she would recover from the trauma. In the end, the tree not only survived, it thrived.
Oh, that we would do the same for our toppled friends. When we see a friend who has been wounded by words, we can slowly stand her back up, lovingly reestablish her roots in the good soil of God's Word, gently brace her up with kindness, and water her daily with prayer. Who knows, you may even help her not only survive, but thrive.
Thankfully, Ginger left the tree alone after that episode. After all, she never cared about the tree in the first place.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I'll admit that sometimes I act like Ginger and dig for the dirt rather than caring for the person. Help love always to be my ultimate goal, and if I ever have one bit of pleasure in correcting someone, I pray that I will keep my mouth shut and worry about the dirt in my own life that needs to be cleaned up.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever been "toppled" by someone trying to correct you or expose a mistake you've made? How did you feel?
Have you ever caught yourself experiencing pleasure in correcting someone or pointing out someone's faults? How do you think God feels about that type of correction?
Read this verse and ponder it today.
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?" (Luke 6:41 NIV)
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion? Been toppled? Been braced up? Let's chat. Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More From The Girlfriends
I bet as you read today's devotion, you remembered a time when you lay toppled and exposed by the comments of another person. Just remembering how we felt ought to be enough to keep us from doing it to someone else. But it takes practice to hold our tongues and concentrate on our own specks...or should I say logs! If you would like to learn more about how to use your words to build up your friends rather than topple them emotionally, see The Power of a Woman's Words. It also has a companion Bible study guide for group or individual study.
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October 13, 2010
I Can Sleep When the Wind Blows
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1 (NIV) "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want."
Friend To Friend
Stress is a familiar and faithful companion. It doesn't matter where life takes us, we will encounter stress. Unless we learn to manage and deal with that stress - God's way - we will find ourselves trapped, an easy target for the enemy.
A friend recently told me the story of a farmer who, as the owner of a large piece of land along the Atlantic seacoast, constantly advertised for hired hands. Most people were reluctant to work on farms along the Atlantic because of terrible storms known to plague the area. As the farmer interviewed applicants for the job, he received a steady stream of refusals. Finally, a short, thin middle-aged man applied for the job. "Are you a good farm hand?" the farmer asked. "Well, I can sleep when the wind blows," answered the little man. Although puzzled by this answer, the desperate farmer hired him.
The slight man worked hard, to the delight of the farmer. Then one night, the howling wind blew in from offshore, signaling the approach of a monstrous storm. Jumping out of bed, the farmer grabbed a lantern and rushed to the hired hand's sleeping quarters. "Get up! A storm is coming!" he yelled. The man rolled over in bed and firmly responded, "No sir. I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows." Furious, the farmer was tempted to fire him on the spot. Instead, he hurried outside to prepare for the storm only to discover that all of the haystacks had been covered with tarps. The cows were in the barn, the chickens were in their coops, the doors were barred and the shutters were tightly secured. Nothing could blow away. The farmer then understood what his hired hand had meant. He, too, returned to his bed to "sleep while the wind blew".
Stress management is a spiritual discipline that begins with diligent preparation in every area of life - mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. We must be ready to deal with stress before we have to deal with stress.
Know whose you are. I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It wasn't until middle school that the authentic life of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God intimately. During an evening church service, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. I argued that I knew all about God - and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I didn't know Him. That night we met. While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that stress was not going to disappear from my life.
I still have to face and deal with stressful circumstances every day. The difference is that I don't have to face and deal with those tough situations alone. God is with me. His power strengthens me and His love surrounds me, saturating even the most desperate circumstances with hope. Knowing that we belong to God is the very foundation for a life of peace and the first step in dealing with stress. Join me tomorrow as we examine four more ways to deal with stress.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for being my Peace in the midst of a stressful day. I can't always see Your hand at work or even understand Your process. But I do know that I can fully trust Your heart of love for me, Lord. When the storms of life come and I am tempted to worry, help me to trust You instead. When it seems like my life is spinning out of control, give me Your strength to stop and remember that You are God and that heaven is not in a panic! Right now, I choose against the tyranny of stress in my life and I choose to trust You instead. Thank You for Your faithfulness to me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to the time when you first met God and surrendered your life to Him.
What changes has that decision made in your life?
How did you feel when you first realized that you belong to God?
What did you do?
Who did you tell?
Now think about your relationship with God today and compare your circumstances, attitudes and habits with those first days of knowing Him.
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. Celebrate God's perfect and unique plan for your life. And when stress shows up in your life today, remember whose you are.
More From The Girlfriends
Whew! Just talking about stress wears me out. It's so daily! At one point in my life, stress literally made me sick. And I know your life is just like mine, friend. But God...don't you just love those words? But God can give you peace and take away the anxiety of stress-filled circumstances. My book Escaping the Stress Trap is my journey from a stress managed life to a life where, through God's power, I am learning to manage stress. Check it out! And walk in peace today!
I would love to hear what God does through you this week because you were willing to step out in obedience. Email me at: mailto:mary@marysoutherland.com.
Need help? Check out Mary's FREE MPs or visit her online store for great deals on books, CDs,
E-Bible Studies and her DVD, Strength for the Storm.
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study that begins today: When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God. Enroll now and have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
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October 14, 2010
I Can Sleep When the Wind Blows
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1 (NIV) "The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want."
Friend To Friend
Storms are a reality of life. That's the bad news. The good news is that God is bigger than any storm we will ever face. When our daughter, Danna, was a toddler, she and her daddy had a favorite game. Dan would place her in some high spot then stand back, hold up his arms and say, "Jump to Daddy!" I hated that game but Danna loved it. She would always jump into his arms, laughing and giggling. One day, however, Dan picked a spot that seemed to be just a little too high for Danna's taste. She did what I do when I get scared. She closed her eyes. When her dad said, "Jump!" she said, "I can't! I can't see you, Daddy!" Dan said, "It doesn't matter, baby. I can see you!" With a smile on her scrunched up face my daughter bailed off into the strong arms of her Father, secure in the knowledge that he would catch her just as he always had. Talk about a major stress buster! Knowing that we belong to God is the foundation for a life of peace. Today, let's look at four more ways to deal with stress.
Recognize your source.
I believe that a large part of stress is the result of misplaced expectations, requiring the people and circumstances in our lives to meet needs that only God can meet. Most people who know me well would tell you that I'm a very strong woman. It took a complete physical, emotional and spiritual breakdown for me to realize I was only as strong as my human personality and abilities would allow me to be. I was, in short, looking in all the wrong places for the deepest needs of my heart to be met. When all was stripped away by a two-year battle with clinical depression, I was left with nothing but broken dreams and unanswered questions. There, in that dark pit, surrounded by the meager remains of a shattered life, I discovered that God is enough. "The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want." Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as the sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care, we must depend totally upon God. He is our Source and in light of that reality, stress flees, leaving only peace.
Learn to rest.
I am terrible at this "rest" thing, forever walking the thin line between being productive and my life spiraling out of control. I have repeatedly tried to defy my God-given need for rest, thinking that I'm somehow "above" both the occurrence and consequences of exhaustion. Stress shouts, "Get busy! There's so much to do!" Stress applauds and dances with delight as I keep on "doing" instead of "being." I've discovered that when I'm tired, it's much harder to handle stress. Just as ninety percent of income goes farther when we tithe ten percent of it, so does our energy when we tithe it in rest.
Manage your fears.
It's not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the fall of every giant we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, confronting those giants in God's power instead of our own, while counting on the promise that God really is the same yesterday, today and forever. We have nothing to fear, not because we are clever or self-sufficient, but because we are his sheep. We can learn to manage fear and stress instead of allowing fear and stress to manage us.
Take the long look.
We must be very careful to choose the right backdrop against which we live. Our backdrop is eternity - not the daily tyranny of urgent demands. Our backdrop is an old rugged cross - not the condemnation of our own heart or the judgments of others. Our backdrop is an empty tomb - not the stress filled prison of despair. When stress threatens and it seems like you can't go on, rest in God's truth. Take the long look at life, knowing that He will provide your every need and fill your heart with peace.
Stress is tenacious in its quest to derail and destroy us. Marriages and homes teeter on the brink of disaster because we're too busy. Personal and family needs are consigned to the bottom of our priority list. Distractions are rampant because our lives are not rightly focused - and the enemy laughs in the shadows, applauding our foolishness. Stop. Get off of the merry-go-round. Come into God's presence and rest there until stress has gone and peace has come.
Let's Pray
Father, I refuse to surrender my peace to the stress of life. Help me learn how to truly rest in You, knowing that You will never leave me or forsake me. Today, I submit my will to Your plan for my life. You are my Shepherd and my God. I put my trust in You and praise You for Your perfect provision in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23 every day for one week. Beside each phrase below, write you own thoughts about how God is at work in your life:
He makes me to lie down in green pastures___________________________.
He leads me beside the still waters__________________________________.
He restores my soul _____________________________________________.
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me_____________________________.
He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name's sake ___________.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life _________.
More From The Girlfriends
Dealing with stress is an ongoing battle. Just about the time I think I have it all figured out, some storm blows into my life and instead of trusting God to calm the waves, I panic and give in to doubt and fear. I am amazed at the grace of God that simply reaches through each storm to calm my heart and guide me back into His peace.
How about you? What has God taught you about living life in such a way that you can sleep when the wind blows? Email me at: mailto:mary@marysoutherland.com.
Need help? Check out Mary's FREE MPs or visit her online store for great deals on books, CDs, E-Bible Studies and her DVD, Strength for the Storm.
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study that begins today: When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God. Enroll now and have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
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October 15, 2010
Becoming Your Child's Chief Cheerleader
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him" (Psalm 127:3 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
Studies show that in the average home, ten negative comments are made for every positive one. Also, it takes four positive comments to counteract one negative comment. With that ratio, it's easy to understand why so many children are discouraged and suffer from a poor self-image these days.
We can't always see the destructive potential of our words, but let's imagine the following scenario. Your child gets up in the morning and dresses in a shingled outfit much like the Jolly Green Giant on the vegetable commercials. The only difference is the outfit is made of Post-It notes. Every time you question his worth, criticize, make him feel guilty, incapable, insufficient, or unattractive, the hurtful words are scribbled across a slip of yellow paper and it flutters to the ground. Perhaps when you see the paper begin to fall, you realize the effect of your hurtful words and try to stick the paper back on with a positive word. However, it won't stick. The child goes off to school and hears more discouraging words and more shingles fall to the ground. Finally, at the end of the day, the child comes home, exposed, naked and insecure - and rightly so.
As a mom, we can cover our kids with positive words so that when the negative ones cause a post-it note to fall, they won't even know it's missing. But it takes a lot of work.
Paul wrote to the Colossians: "Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children - do not be hard on them or harass them; lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated; do no break their spirit" (Colossians 3:21AMP). Can I add something to Paul's exhortation? Mothers, don't you do it either.
It is a terrible thing to be a part of a family when the only things that are noticed are mistakes. The pain from constant criticism and correction can become a chronic source of insecurity long after the child has become an adult. It is our job, our "homework," to instruct our children, but when we are continually pointing out their faults and failures, they tend to simply stop trying.
We must always remember that children are children and they will act like children. Children are not miniature adults. I remember when my husband was in dental school at the ripe old age of twenty-three. It was his first time treating a four-year-old little girl, and was unprepared for the crocodile tears that escaped her eyes.
"You'll be fine," Steve assured her. "You be a big girl now."
Then she looked up at him with big blue eyes that melted his heart. "But I'm not a big girl," she said. "I'm just a little girl."
That's what we must always remember. No matter how frustrated or angry we become...kids are kids and they will act like kids.
As you go through your day, look for the chance to catch your children doing something right, and shower them with praise. And if you don't have children or if your children have already left the nest, try catching a friend, your husband, or a co-worker in the act of doing something praise-worthy and shower them with praise!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for children. I pray that I will use my words to encourage a child today - whether it is my child or someone else's child. Most of all, thank You for encouraging me, Your child, by the many ways You show me You love me each day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here's a partial list of some words kids long to hear, taken from my book The Power of a Woman's Words. Take a look at the list and speak at least three of these affirmations to a child today!
Words Your Kids Long to Hear
· Great job!
· I'm glad you're my sondaughter.
· I love spending time with you.
· I'll never forget the day you were born. You were such an incredible gift from God...and you still are.
· I like you!
· I love the way you fixed your hair!
· That shirt looks great on you!
· You played that song beautifully!
· You are a great friend!
· You'll make a wonderful wifehusband some day!
· Thanks for cleaning your room. You did a great job.
Have some more cheers? How about sharing them with your GiG's today? Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share some cheers we should know.
More From The Girlfriends
We can all remember someone who encouraged us as a child. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be remembered as an encourager? If you'd like to learn more about using your words to encourage a child to accomplish his or her dreams, see The Power of a Woman's Words or Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. They are both packed with great ideas for becoming your child's chief cheerleader!
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October 18, 2010
Under the Influence of Love
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 5:22-24 (NIV) "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."
Friend To Friend
Dan and I once lived in a neighborhood of predominantly retired people who became surrogate grandparents, aunts and uncles for our two children since both of our families lived several states away. The one exception was the older couple that lived behind us. They complained about almost everything we did. Our kids were too loud. Our dog barked too much. Our garbage can was six inches over their property line. It was not unusual to find cryptic notes and warnings taped to our front door or wedged under the windshield wipers of our car. I not only considered them to be sandpaper people, I thought of them as a nuisance. In dealing with these neighbors, our children taught me an important lesson about the power of identifying and meeting a need in the life of a sandpaper person.
The Southerlands have many family Christmas traditions. When our two children, Jered and Danna, were young, we made Christmas cards for special friends and family members. Since we lived in South Florida, cold weather rarely ushered in the holiday season and I could not get past the idea that when Christmas rolled around, the grass was supposed to be brown - not bright green, and the climate was supposed to be cold - not hot and humid. Our solution was to turn the air conditioner on and lower the temperature until the house was cold enough to turn on the gas fireplace. We listened to Christmas music while baking sugar cookies and making our special Christmas cards. In the midst of one of those Hallmark moments, Jered, looked up at me and said, "Mom, are we going to make them a Christmas card?" I had an idea who them was but desperately hoped I was wrong. I wasn't. "You know, Mom, the Smiths," Jered explained.
Being the spiritual giant that I am, I responded, "Son, why would you want to make them a Christmas card? They are mean!" How is that for loving your neighbor? But the Smiths had complained about something we were doing wrong almost every day that week, and I had just about reached the end of any patience I had ever had with them. "But Mom, I never see any kids at their house. Nobody ever comes to visit them and they don't even have a dog," Jered insisted. We made Christmas cards for the Smiths.
When the kids wanted to deliver those cards, I suggested that they wait until their dad came home so he could get in on the fun. I know. I am evil. Nope! Those cards had to be delivered immediately. I was clearly outnumbered. As we headed out the door, Danna yelled, "Wait! I forgot the books!" Okay. I was clueless. Why in the world would we need books? With a sigh of exasperation, Danna said, "Because they might want to read to us, Mom!" She didn't say it, but I could hear the silent "duh."
Books and cards in hand, we once again headed out the door when Jered suggested, "Mom, we should take them some of the cookies we made." Now that was asking too much! My sugar cookies are a "must" for every special holiday and considered by many to be "scrumptious." And now my children wanted to waste some of those precious cookies on people who would probably toss them in the garbage.
However, the silent plea of our son's blue eyes persuaded me to add a Christmas tin of my delicious sugar cookies to our quickly growing stack of nice things to take to people who were definitely not nice. With every step, I prayed that the Smiths would not be home. I rang the doorbell and after a whole thirty seconds, turned to Jered and Danna and said, "Too bad! They are not home. We can come back later." At that precise moment, Mr. Smith opened the door and barked, "What do you people want?" I could see the headline, "Pastor's Wife Arrested in Neighborhood Disturbance." It was one thing to be mean to me, but when someone is mean to my kids - well, let's just say it isn't pretty.
As I counted to ten for the second time, Jered thrust the Christmas cards into the man's hands and said, "We made you something and it's free!" No way! It was not possible! I thought I saw the beginning of a smile on Mr. Smith's face. Danna chose that particular moment to hand Mr. Smith the cookies. "And these are for your mother," she said, her big, brown eyes sparkling with excitement. Great! With six words, my daughter had just aged Mrs. Smith by twenty years.
And then it happened. Mr. Smith smiled, stepped back into the house and called, "Mother, we have company." For two hours, the Smiths read books, ate sugar cookies and raved about the beautiful cards the kids had made. When we finally left, Mr. Smith said, "Such lovely children. You should have more!" Mrs. Smith hugged the kids and asked, "Why didn't you bring the dog?" I was speechless. And I was ashamed. My heart cried out to God, "Lord, I am so sorry for being so blind to the needs of these people. Please forgive me." But that is not the end of the story.
The Smiths became friends and great neighbors. Weeks later, Mr. Smith had a heart attack and was hospitalized for several days. Dan was able to visit him and share Christ with a man who simply needed someone to recognize the deepest need of his life - and do something about it. Our children led the way and taught me a powerful lesson about the depth and height of God's stubborn love and what can happen when we are under the influence of that love.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for refusing to love the sandpaper people in my life. Right now, I choose to let Your love flow through me as I deal with difficult people. Let me see them through Your eyes. Show me how I can meet a need in their lives and then give me the wisdom and strength to meet that need.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask God to let you see one need in the life of your sandpaper person that you can meet.
Pray for that person and then make a specific plan for meeting that need.
Read and memorize 5:22-24. How does this passage of Scripture apply to your difficult relationships?
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We all need help in dealing with difficult people. Every relationship comes to our life with God's permission and has a purpose that will help us grow and mature as a follower of Christ. Right now, thank God for what He is doing in your life through your sandpaper person.
Need help? Mary's book, Sandpaper People, offers practical steps you can take that will help you deal with difficult people. This book can revolutionize your relationships.
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October 19, 2010
Words - An Incredible Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit" (Proverbs 18:21 NIV).
Friend To Friend
"In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth" (Genesis 1:1). When God created the world, stocked the seas with marine life and the skies with winged creatures - when He caused the stars to ignite the night sky and placed the sun to light the day and the moon to illumine the darkness - He did so with words. "And God said, 'Let there be light.'" "And God said, 'Let there be an expanse between the waters to separate water from water." "And God said, 'Let the water under the sky be gathered to one place, and let dry ground appear.'" "And God said, 'Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to separate the day from the night...'" "And God said, 'Let the water teem with living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the expanse of the sky.'" "And God said, 'Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds...'" "And God said, Let us make man in our own image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.'" .... "And it was so." God spoke and what was not - became what is. When God created the heavens and the earth, He used a mighty force - words. "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth" (Psalm 33:6).
Amazingly, when God created mankind in His own image, He gave us that same powerful tool. He didn't entrust words to zebra's, birds, monkeys, elephants, lizards, or horses. He entrusted words to mere mortals. Our words also have creative potential. They can create a smile on a discouraged child's face, lighten the heart of a husband loaded down with burdens, fan into a flame the dying embers of a friend's smoldering dreams, cheer brothers and sisters in Christ to run the race with endurance, and bring the message of hope and healing of Jesus Christ to a wounded world. Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe and amazingly, God has entrusted them to you and me.
The question is - how will we use this incredible gift from God today? Will we use them to bring life or death? Encouragement or discouragement? Today, let's pay particular attention to the words we speak and use our words to speak life into the people in our little part of the world today.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I am amazed that You have entrusted us with such a powerful tool...words. May we use our words to bless and not to curse, to build up and not to tear down, to heal and not to hurt. By the power of the Holy Spirit, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in Your sight.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses and fill in the blanks:
Genesis 1:3 And _______ _______, "Let there be light," and there was light.
Hebrews 11:3 By faith we understand that the universe was formed ___ _________ ______________so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.
Psalm 33:6 By the ______________________ were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth.
What did you discover about the power of God's words?
Now, on a similar note, what can you surmise about the power of your own words?
Throughout the day, ask yourself this question: Did my words build up or tear down? Did my words encourage or discourage? Did my words speak life or death?
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful force and use your words to speak life into others, this book will tell you how. It also has a companion Bible Study Guide. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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October 20, 2010
Taming the Tongue
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 15:1 (NLT) "A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare."
Friend To Friend
It had been one of "those" mornings and I was behind schedule in preparing to teach the women's Tuesday morning Bible study at our church. I am fairly certain I did not exude peace and joy as I rushed around - as my Mama would say - like a chicken with its head cut off. The auditorium was set up correctly. The sound man had my power point ready to go and was waiting to do a sound check. The coffee pot was plugged in and doing its thing. Smiling ladies gathered to greet the Bible study members as they arrived. I paused and breathed a sigh of relief. It looked like everything was ready - everything except my heart.
I knew I needed to spend some time alone with God before standing to teach His Word, so I found a quiet room where I could escape for a few minutes of solitude. As I began to pray, the door flew open and crashed against the wall behind it as the husband of one of our group leaders burst into the room. I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy and that whatever was wrong was definitely my fault. In a very loud and very angry voice, the man began to explain the problem, ending his tirade with the question, "And just what are you going to do about it?"
Sidebar: Guess what lesson I was teaching that particular morning. Remember, God definitely has a sense of humor. The lesson title was "How to Tame Your Tongue."
I knew what I wanted to say to the man. I also knew God didn't want me to say it. In a rare moment of wisdom, I faced my accuser with a smile and whispered, "I'll tell you exactly what I am going to do. I am going to do whatever it takes to make you happy."
I was completely unprepared for the man's reaction. His mouth fell open, his eyes widened in surprise - no, make that shock - and he stumbled backwards as if I had hit him. The silence was deafening. We stared at each other for what seemed like an hour before he finally whispered back, "Thank you!" Without another word, the man turned and literally ran out of the room. The most amazing part of this story is that from that day on, he has been one of my strongest encouragers.
The Bible works, girlfriend! When God says that a gentle answer "deflects" anger, He really means it. The word "deflect" means "to change course" or "to force the alteration of plans." When anger is met with love, it is forced to change its destructive course. The plans of the enemy are altered when they are forced to comply with God's truth. A sweet response yanks the fuse right out of an emotional time bomb that is set and ready to explode. We need to choose our responses instead of allowing our reactions to dictate the words we speak.
Godly responses begin in the mind. I believe that our thought life is the front line of battle for the control of our entire life. Proverbs 34:13 warns, "Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies." The word "keep" indicates action on our part. We decide. We choose what is allowed to take up room in our mind. It is literally the idea of a guard standing at the gate of the city, stationed there to keep watch. He is there by invitation only. If we want to live right and speak right - we must think right.
Godly responses come from the heart. If there is something wrong with our words, then there is something wrong with our heart. The truth of Proverbs 16:23 is profound in its simplicity, "A wise man's heart guides his mouth."
A judge utters a few words and a guilty man is taken to death row.
A friend speaks a word of encouragement and a desperate heart finds hope.
A mother lashes out with angry words and the light in her child's eyes is gone.
A wife offers a word of forgiveness and a marriage is restored.
A gossip makes a phone call and a reputation is destroyed.
A teenager says "no" and changes the course of her life.
Words are powerful. Words can destroy or build. We need to make the choice today - to respond in the right way to those angry words that are surely headed our way tomorrow.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to please You and encourage others with the words I speak. Clean my heart, God. Transform my mind and fill my mouth with words that honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine the words you have spoken today in light of the following verses:
Psalm 141:3 "LORD, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say."
Psalm 20:14. "May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer."
How did you do? I encourage you to memorize these two verses. Ask God to let each verse take root in your heart and work its way out in the words you speak.
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I read the following post on Facebook this week: "Lord, please keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth." I really do want to be the kind of woman who pleases God and blesses others with her words. Imagine what your world would look like if your words were filled with encouragement and love.
We all need help learning how to control our tongue and the words we speak. I strongly encourage you to get Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. It is practical and powerful! And know that we are praying for you and love doing life with you!
Need help with the tough relationships in your life? Mary's book, Sandpaper People, offers practical steps you can take that will help you deal with difficult people. This book can revolutionize your relationships.
Check out Mary's FREE MPs or visit her online store for great deals on books, CDs,
E-Bible Studies and her DVD, Strength for the Storm.
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2010 studies. Check it out!
Need a friend? Connect with me on Facebook or through email. How are you dealing with the sandpaper people in your life? Someone needs to hear your story! Let's talk!
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October 21, 2010
Restoring Someone's Broken Dream
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I live in Charlotte, North Carolina, 200 miles from the coast. And yet, our local Wal-Mart has a random smattering of seagulls that soar overhead and eat French fries and other debris from neighboring fast food restaurants. The truth - seagulls are lost. They've taken a wrong turn. And instead of discovering where they went wrong, they've settled for the asphalt parking lot rather than the salty sea. They've reconciled themselves to feeding on the refuge and trash of harried shoppers rather than the fresh seafood cuisine of their feathered forefathers.
It's not just the seagulls that are lost... who have forgotten the reason for their very existence, the habitat for which they were created to survive and thrive. It is human beings as well. Many have become lost. They are standing in the parking lot of life subsisting off of the refuse of fast living.
Someone needs to point them to the ocean of opportunity, the sea of success, the shore of satisfaction. And I'm not talking about money or materialism...that IS mere French fries compared to the abundant life that God has for His image bearers. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).
Do you know someone who is discouraged? Who has taken a wrong turn in life? Who has let the fire go out on their hopes and dreams? A friend? A husband? A child? If so, hang the fire extinguisher back in the corner and become an encourager who fans even the smallest spark of potential into flame. Let's send those "gulls" and "buoys" back to the sea of opportunity where they belong.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, all around me I see people who have settled for less than Your best. They've given up on their hopes and dreams, but Lord, I don't want to be one of those people. Are there dreams in my own life that I have forgotten? Have I settled for less than Your best? If I have, please reveal it to me and give me the courage to get out of the parking lot of life and soar to places that You had planned all along.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's think about David in the Bible for just a moment. What happened to him when the prophet Samuel came to his father's house in 1 Samuel chapter 16?
Did things go well for David after he was anointed as the next King of Israel? If you're not sure, just skim through the pages of 1 Samuel.
Did David ever give up on God's dream for him?
Do you think that David ever wanted to give up and just go back to taking care of sheep? I think he probably did. But he kept pressing on.
In your own life, have there been dreams that you have given up on because the way grew too rough? What have you learned from this lesson today?
I'd love to hear how someone helped restore a broken dream in your life. Just click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your story.
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I don't know what I would have done if certain friends had not encouraged me during the difficult times of life. I do know this, I wouldn't be writing books. If you would like to be known as a woman who encourages others to accomplish their dreams, you might want to consider two valuable resources: The Dreams of a Woman-God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams (at a new closeout price) and The Power of a Woman's Words. How exciting to think we could be part of someone accomplishing their dreams!
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October 22, 2010
Something Beautiful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me" (Matthew 26:10, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I am completely crazy about cool jewelry, so when the Lord prompted me to take off my favorite necklace and give it to the woman who had just admired it, I tried to pretend I did not hear Him.
"It's mine, God!" I reasoned. "It isn't replaceable! Why would ask me to do that?"
My self-plan did not like the God-plan laid out before me. God was asking me to give up something that meant a lot to me so that another woman could be blessed. It seemed crazy and unnecessary. However, in this instance, through the strength of Christ, I chose to obey even though I did not want to. It hurt. It cost me big. I felt the loss.
God softened my childish heart, however, as the woman wept at the Lord's blessing. As I silently confessed my selfish thoughts, God poured a deep joy into my soul. He showed me that my sacrifice was an act of worship to Him. Blessings boomeranged right back to my heart as I humbly thanked Him for allowing me to participate in His moment with her. It was a beautiful thing.
There are just times when I would rather give gifts that don't cost me too much. That is probably something that only I wrestle with, right? (Wink! Wink!) It is hard to be open-handed with things that we hold dear, isn't it? Some of us struggle with an unwillingness to give away material things or money. Others hold tightly to our schedules, our affections, or our availability while still others try to keep a tight reign on our children, grandchildren, spouses, parents or other people in our life.
God must have known we would struggle with this because His Word addresses this issue and shows us a beautiful picture of surrendered devotion in the life of Mary of Bethany. The offering she poured out onto the feet of Jesus was worth a year's wages. She lavished her costly perfume, her attention, her affection, her time and her worship on Jesus because she loved Him. He was her Savior - her Friend - her Hope. The Healer who had miraculously brought life back to the stench of death that had fallen on her brother Lazarus.
"While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of a man known as Simon the Leper, a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table.
When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. "Why this waste?" they asked. "This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor."
Aware of this, Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me. The poor you will always have with you, but you will not always have me. When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial. I tell you the truth, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her." (Matthew 26:6-13, NIV)
The Message version says it this way: "She has just done something wonderfully significant for me." (Matthew 26:10)
When I read this story, I am compelled to wonder if God sees a beautiful thing when He looks at my life. Does He see me do anything that is wonderfully significant for Him?
What do you think He sees when he looks at your life?
Does He see a beautiful thing?
The more time we spend with God and reading His Word, the more beautiful our life will become. Therefore, here is my challenge to you: I challenge you to commit 15 minutes a day to God for one week. Just one week. Can you do that? Read a chapter in the Psalms and spend time in prayer each day for seven days. Make the sacrifice. If you already have a disciplined quiet time, I challenge you to add 15 minutes of prayer time. It will be a beautiful thing to both you and God.
When we open the hands of our lives to His presence, to His service and for His glory, rest assured God will see a beautiful thing. When we obey His promptings and listen to His voice that whispers to our soul, He will fill us to overflowing with joy, peace, satisfaction and His beauty.
CLICK HERE to LISTEN to the song, Something Beautiful, that Gwen co-wrote when wrestling with and praying through this passage of Scripture. Let her song be the springboard for your time in prayer today...
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are worth far more praise than I could ever give. Please help me to rest in Your presence and trust in Your plan. Fill me with Your perspective until I joyfully lay down my will for Yours. Lord, when You look at my life, I want You to see beautiful.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider what you are holding back from God. Spend time in prayer returning it to Him
Read Psalm 96. Read through it a second time, but pause after each verse with a personal and prayerful response to God. Journal any verses that you want to remember.
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October 25, 2010
Deborah Leads the Way
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Deborah said, "Go! This is the day the LORD has given Sisera into your hands. Has not the LORD gone ahead of you?" (Judges 4:14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Women leaders in the Old Testament are few and far between. However, Deborah's story in the fourth chapter of Judges is enough to make any woman proud. I'm sure she would have been a Girlfriend in God.
Deborah was a prophetess and led Israel during a time when her people were being oppressed by the pagan king of Canaan. Her name meant "bee" and she was a busy bee indeed. She served as counselor, judge, and warrior. Deborah held court under a Palm tree which became know as the Palm of Deborah.
One day, Deborah called for Barak, one of the leaders of the Israeli army. God had given her instructions for this mighty warrior whose name meant "thunderbolt." As he approached the tree, she passed along his marching orders direct from his Commanding Officer...God. He was to go into battle. (Judges 4:6-7)
Barak cowered at God's command and like a little boy said, "If you go with me, I will go; but if you don't go with me, I won't go" (Judges 4:8).
"Very well," Deborah said, "I will go with you. But because of the way you are going about this, the honor will not be yours, for the LORD will hand Sisera over to a woman" (Judges 7:9). (Deborah was not talking about herself, but another woman who would play a major role in the enemies' ultimate defeat. See Judges 4:17-24). Apparently Barak did not trust in the power of God and insisted that this woman of faith accompany him onto the battlefield.
Deborah reprimanded Barak for his lack of faith, but she did not shame him nor did she step in and do his job for him. She acknowledged that he was the warrior who was to lead the men into battle and she was the prophetess who was to encourage and inspire. Deborah didn't take the lead, but rather worked with Barak to accomplish God's goals. She accompanied him to the battlefield, and when it came time for the attack, she spurred him on with encouraging words.
Barak was inspired by this amazing woman. She pumped courage into his failing heart and he did indeed follow God into battle. She taught him not to focus on the nine hundred iron chariots of the opponents but on the mighty arm of God. That day, the LORD confused Sisera and Israel easily routed their enemy. Afterwards, Deborah and Barak sang a duet celebrating the nation's victory.
What can we learn from the power of Deborah's words? Her encouragement spurred Barak to become all that God had called him to be. She not only gave him the gift of encouraging words, but she walked with him to the battlefield as well. Her words not only bolstered Barak's courage, but stoked the smoldering embers of the entire army. She stayed true to her calling as an encourager and helped Barak stay true to his as a warrior. She didn't try to be a one-woman show, but worked with others to fulfill God's purposes in their lives.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for women like Deborah who show us how to use our words to encourage those in leadership roles. Help me to encourage others to be all You've created them to be and fulfill Your call on their lives.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the entire story mentioned in today's devotion. It's found in Judges 4.
What can you learn from Deborah's actions toward Barak?
How can that apply to your role in the church or in your marriage?
I'd love to hear your thoughts about Deborah. What about her role as a judge means the most to you?
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Don't you just love studying God's Word? Sharon has written several Bible studies that are available on her website, http://www.sharonjaynes.com/. Today's devotion is taken from The Power of a Woman's Words.
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October 26, 2010
First Class Living
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 10:10 (NLT) "Jesus said, "My purpose is to give life in all its fullness."
Friend To Friend
I will never forget the first time I flew first class. Dan and I were on our way to North Carolina for a few days of much needed vacation. We were both exhausted, having just returned from a wonderful but grueling mission trip to Peru. I couldn't wait to get on that plane, grab a pillow and blanket and sleep my way to North Carolina.
When I spotted an abnormally long line of people and realized it was the check-in line for our gate, my attitude took a nose dive. I was tired. I was hungry. We had missed both breakfast and lunch in order to make our flight and that tiny little pouch of honey roasted peanuts waiting for me on board the plane was just not going to cut it! Oh, and did I mention how much I hate to wait - for anyone or anything? Patience is definitely not one of my strongest qualities.
Suddenly, a man dressed in a pilot's uniform stepped up to the ticket counter. "He looks familiar," I thought to myself, but since Dan was the pastor of a large church in town, we often ran into people who attended one of the five weekend services. My husband is great at remembering names and faces, but me - not so much. The fact that the pilot looked familiar did not register as pertinent information - until he waved in our direction and said, "Please step forward."
Wait! Was he talking to us?
"Pastor Dan and Mary, will you please step up to the counter?" the pilot repeated. Dan immediately recognized him as John Littleton, a new believer who was attending the church.
"I knew you were a pilot, John, but I didn't realize that you worked for this airline," Dan said. Things were definitely looking up. Maybe I could score two pouches of honey roasted peanuts.
"Where are you headed?" my new best friend asked. When we told him, John promptly moved us from coach to first class and escorted us past all of the other waiting - and now glaring - passengers. I was a little uncomfortable "cutting" in line, but any hesitation on my part quickly faded as John showed us to our seats and instructed the stewardess to take good care of his "pastors." I love that man!
I soon discovered that I was a real person in first class, assigned to a spacious and extremely comfortable leather recliner where I actually had room to move and breathe without assaulting the person next to me. My meal was not wrapped in paper and they actually trusted me with real eating utensils. I was presented with cloth napkins, hot food, good movies, current magazines and a stewardess who seemed totally committed to my comfort.
I immediately decided that I was born to fly first class! The only problem with that decision is that I simply cannot afford to purchase a first class airline ticket. Someone will have to buy it for me.
You and I were created to live a full and abundant life - a first class kind of life. In John 10:10, Jesus said, "My purpose is to give life in all its fullness."
The good news is that Jesus has already paid the price, not only for our "ticket" to heaven, but for a life of purpose and power here on earth. We cannot begin to understand all that God's "fullness" holds but I do know that what He wants for me far exceeds anything I could possibly imagine. And I can imagine a lot.
God is calling you to follow Him. He is asking for 100% commitment and, in return, He will fill your life, now and eternally, with the fullness that only comes through knowing and serving the Master. Don't settle for anything less than living life - first class.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart hungers for Your power to flow through my life. I choose to obey You. I will seek You with my whole heart and I will follow You wherever You lead me. I know that Your plan for my life is amazing and I don't want to miss any of it. Today, I choose to set aside my agenda and rest in the abundant life only You can give.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you could choose one word to describe your life journey so far, what would it be? Explain.
Explain the statement that God is your source. What does that really mean in your life? What other "sources" have you counted on? Did they lead to success or failure?
What "wants" have been a hindrance to the abundant and full life God has for you? What steps of obedience are you willing to take in order to control those "wants"?
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It is easy to live an entire life - just doing the next thing on the list. God has so much more for you! Surrender! Give Him permission to capture your heart. Yield to God's abundant plan and experience what it is like to live - first class.
If you or someone you love struggles with depression, I encourage you to read my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. I have been in that dark pit and know what it is like to long for just a sliver of light. The good news is that there really is hope and a way out of that pit.
Check out Mary's FREE MPs or visit her online store for great deals on books, CDs,
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October 27, 2010
Hush my Mouth
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye! How can you say to your brother, 'let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" (Matthew 7:3, 4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I couldn't believe it. The announcement of one of the most important days of my life...my dream come true... and there was a misprint! A horrible misprint. My husband and I got married in a small eastern North Carolina town, on a beautiful August afternoon. There's not a lot going on in Rocky Mount, so weddings and funerals get full coverage. My wedding picture, in all its bridal glory, was a 4x5 crisp black and white photo displayed in the local section of the paper. Under my smiling face read the caption...Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes.
I was mortified! My mother-in-law did not have a lapse in judgment when Steve was born. She did not name him HUSH. His middle name is Hugh. Oh my goodness. What were those people thinking? How could they be so careless? Didn't they realize I would cut that picture out and put it in my wedding album for all eternity? Didn't they understand the teasing that would surely follow that misprint? Didn't they understand how important this was? Hush! I was furious. My only hope was that the even smaller town where I was actually born would also run the wedding announcement. They did. A few days after discovering the "hush" dilemma, the tiny newspaper from Spring Hope, North Carolina arrived. I unfolded the page and there, as big as day, was my wedding picture. This one was 5 x 7 and underneath it read...Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes. Oh my glory! Now I was crying.
On the same day, I received the newspaper from my husband's hometown of over 500,000. Underneath my itty bitty wedding picture were the words...you guessed it...Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes!
Suddenly the truth began to sink in. This was not the error of inept newspapers. It was my fault. When I print, I'm a bit sloppy and my "g" seldom closes, looking like an "s." I guess it looks a lot like an "s." So now it was time for me to hush.
Have you ever been in a situation where you were blaming someone for a mishap and suddenly realized you were the one at fault? Have you ever pointed the finger at someone and then realized you were the problem? Jesus said it this way, "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye! How can you say to your brother, 'let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" (Matthew 7:3, 4)
I have since learned that when you point a finger at someone, there are at least three other fingers pointing back at yourself. The best way to avoid that is not to point the finger at someone in the first place.
Jesus went on to say, "First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye" (Matthew 7:5). I don't know about you, but I have plenty of sawdust in my own life to keep me busy.
I still put the newspaper announcements in our wedding album. It is a great reminder of two truths. Number one: August 16, 1980 was one of the happiest days of my life. Number tw when I start casting blame or pointing out faults, I need to take a good look in the mirror and hush.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes I am so quick to blame someone else for my mistakes. Help me to always examine my own heart and let You take care of the rest. Thank You for the embarrassing reminders that I am a work in progress and You are not finished with me yet.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you blamed someone else for a difficult situation only to discover that you were the problem?
Can you think of a time that you wish you had "hushed up" instead of getting upset with someone?
Today was a fun devotion. I hope it made you smile. Now, to finish it off, read Job 40:4b and make it part of your day. As you read it, think about this...Your hand is made to perfectly fit over your mouth. I wonder if that was Divine DesignJ
Does today's devotion remind you of an incident where you pointed a finger and it came right back at you? I hope you can laugh at it today? Click on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me your story.
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Words! They are difficult to control sometimes. If you would like to learn more about how to use your words wisely, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words by Sharon Jaynes. And for a more in-depth look at what God's Word has to say about the words we speak, see The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study Guide.
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October 28, 2010
Family Matters
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up."
Friend To Friend
What a crazy day it had been! It was a day probably like many of yours. I was a young mom with two small children. My husband was the youth pastor at a large church in town. I taught a weekly Bible study for senior high girls and directed a youth choir that practiced one night a week and sang for the early worship service every Sunday. We hosted a youth bible study in our home every Monday night ... and, well, you get the idea. My schedule was almost to the point of ridiculous and I was exhausted most of the time. But this particular day had been crazier than most. Both kids had a cold and were grumpy because they didn't feel well. The house was a mess, the laundry was piled high and I had a meeting at church that night. I was counting the minutes until my husband came walking through the front door. I needed rescuing.
The phone rang. "Honey, I won't be able to make it home before church visitation tonight," Dan said. He sounded so tired that I could not muster up one ounce of anger. Instead, I shifted into overdrive - snatching both kids off of the backyard swing and away from neighborhood friends - plopping them in the bathtub for a quick rinse, impatiently shoving little arms and legs into clean clothes and spooning food into little mouths before firmly depositing both kids in their car seats. Off we went to church for the third night in a row.
At a stop sign, I glanced in the rearview mirror and saw two miserably silent children, tears streaming down their sad little faces. I heard His voice, "Mary, what are you doing and who are you doing it for?" My heart broke. I suddenly realized that I was running the race of life for the wrong audience. Turning the car around, I headed home.
"Hey guys! Would you like to go home, put on your pajamas, make some cookies and watch a movie with me?" Cheers and clapping erupted from the back seat as tears gave way to smiling faces and laughter and giggles filled the car and my heart. It has been over twenty years and I still remember that precious night of ministry.
Women are so busy. As believers, we delight in finding creative ways to touch hearts and are often passionate about introducing those hearts to God's love, forgiveness and transforming power - and rightly so. However, I wonder how many of us miss the hungry hearts that greet us each morning across the breakfast table or wait for us to come home each night. Do we overlook a child's silent longing for the kind of love that is spelled "t-i-m-e?" Do we miss the opportunity to encourage a weary husband who has, once again, returned home without a job? When was the last time you gave your parents a hug and thanked them for everything they have done for you over the years? Do your grandparents know how valuable their legacy of love and wisdom is to you? We make the erroneous assumption that the people in our life know how we feel about them. Do they? And even if they do know, wouldn't it be great to tell them again?
It is so easy to lose focus and scramble priorities. We get so busy doing good things and miss one of the highest things God created us to do - family. Our public life is only as valid as our private life. Family is the perfect framing for God's highest work, the litmus test for authentic service and our greatest opportunity to meet needs in His name.
Being involved in a church is a good and right thing. Providing creative outlets such as sports or music for our children is a wonderful gift. We just need to make sure we are not substituting activities for the time we should be spending together as a family.
When our daughter, Danna, was a little girl, one of her favorite activities was to color a page in what she called her "special" coloring book. The book had several "special" pages, one in particular being a dull, gray picture of a butterfly. Frankly, I couldn't understand her excitement. When I asked why she liked that picture so much, Danna grinned and said, "Watch, Mommy!" She rubbed her little hands together to create warmth; then laid them on the butterfly drawing. The touch of her hand caused the special inks in the printing to react and the dull gray was transformed into a vivid rainbow of color.
Everyone is hungry for the warm touch of someone who cares - a word of kindness, an act of compassion, a hug of encouragement. I believe God created the family to be the first place where that hunger is best satisfied. Yet, I am amazed that we can stand in silence, watching homes, marriages and families disintegrate before our very eyes. Silence is agreement. It is time for us, as women of God, to boldly stand against anyone and anything that undermines our marriage or threatens the solidarity of our family.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. Please grant me the wisdom to know how I can best serve and minister to them in Your name. Help me to set priorities that reflect You and Your plan, and give me the strength and discipline to live by those priorities. Show me how to love and disciple each member of my family and lead them to become Your fully devoted followers.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Family is God's idea. In fact, He created the family before He established the church. I believe God is calling us to pour encouragement into those people we call family. Read the following verses. Beside each verse, write the name of a family member who needs the truth contained in that particular verse. Now make a plan to do something about it!
Isaiah 35:3 "Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way."
Galatians 6:2 "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
Psalm 10:17 "You hear, O LORD, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry."
Ecclesiastes 3:12 "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
Hebrews 3:12 "Encourage one another daily."
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The approaching holidays may be a difficult time for you or for someone in your family that struggles with depression. I encourage you to read my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. I have been in that dark pit and know what it is like to long for just a sliver of light. The good news is that there really is hope and a way out of that pit.
Check out Mary's FREE MPs or visit her online store for great deals on books, CDs,
E-Bible Studies and her DVD, Strength for the Storm.
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October 29, 2010
A Fresh Brewed Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Every morning I walk straight to the coffee pot and push the ON button. I'm a total coffee girl. I like a piping-hot, extra dark roast with half and half, and I struggle to function without my first cup of coffee. I crave that first sip and relish the warmth of the mug in my hands. I jokingly call it my "warm, happy friend." My mornings just wouldn't be the same without coffee! J
We should have the same attitude about our faith. We should wake up each morning bursting at the seams to be with God. To be in His presence. To listen for His still small voice. To savor Him. A faith that is brewed fresh daily strengthens us, renews us, and enables us to mount up with wings like eagles. To experience the power of God in our lives. To run and not grow weary. To walk and not faint.
This energizing, percolated faith is readily available to all who ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7-8). How can you experience this power in your life? By getting alone with God, reading the Bible, and listening for His voice each day. "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ" (Romans 10:17, ESV).
Like a morning with no coffee, there are times when we are sluggish in our faith. There are times we need a shot of God-caffeine in our day. A spiritual espresso. What can we do at these times? Are there things in the Scriptures that tell us how can we strengthen and jump-start our faith? Absolutely!
One practical way to build your faith is by remembrance. When David was just a shepherd boy, he had courage to face a giant partly because he remembered the previous victories the Lord allowed him to experience. He approached King Saul with great confidence, saying: "The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine" (1Sam 17:36, NIV). His past victories fueled his faith. Ours do the same. We can face our giants with equal confidence when we pause to remember how God has worked in our past.
Corrie Ten Boom said, "Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible."
What has God brought you through in the past? Think on these things, and choose to trust Him to bring you through all you will face today and tomorrow. When you trust God with a fresh brewed faith, He will be your Strength, your Sustainer, and your Hiding Place so you can run and not grow weary - walk and not be faint. Fill up your faith cup right now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You have brought me through so many challenging times. Please give me a fresh shot of faith that equips me to live today in Your strength. Help me to trust you, and keep me from leaning on my own understanding.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Samuel 17.
Consider specific times that God has moved in your life. Grab a journal and list them out.
Pray for God to increase your faith and give you the strength you need for today.
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Facing any giants? God will strengthen you for the battle. Arm yourself in the power of the Spirit of GOD (Ephesians 6:10-18). When you do, no weapon formed against you can prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Go, fight, win, girlfriend!
GOT BEAUTY? God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful.
GOT A HEART FOR WORSHIP? Download Gwen's live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website.
GOT FACEBOOK? Visit Gwen's page at www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. While you're there, be sure to listen to a few songs, leave a message on her wall, and add her as a friend!
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November 1, 2010
Did Martha Stay in the Kitchen?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. John 11:5
Friend to Friend
I just love the story of Mary and Martha. If you're not familiar with it, go back and read it. It won't take long. You can find it in Luke 10:38-42.
Now let me ask you this? What do you think Martha did after Jesus walked out of the kitchen to resume His teaching? We are not told. Luke simply goes on to another story and leaves us with Martha holding the spoon and Jesus holding the door.
M.L. del Matro, in his book, All the Women of the Bible, re-tells stories of Biblical women in narratives that paint beautiful landscapes with the simple outlines given in the Scriptures. In his story of Martha he writes that Martha was freed from "the imprisoning, lethal order she craved, so that she could live." He went on to say:
After that amazing meal, order gradually became less and less her god, less the air she needed for breathing and more simply a product of her active giving and receiving of love. She learned to relax and let other people do what they did best without feeling challenged or threatened, because she learned what she could be, was in fact, loved for who she was, not for what she did and how she did it. That was how her service was becoming service in reality, not just a disguise for control nor a means to prevent her own annihilation. That "better part" became her choice as well, thanks to Him." (M.L. del Mastro, All the Women of the Bible, (Edison, NJ: Castle Books, 2004), p. 270)
Have you ever wondered why the story of Martha steamed up in the kitchen was included in the gospel in the first place? It's not about a healing, deliverance, or absolution of sin. It is not one of Jesus' parables or related to his journey to the cross. Think about it. I believe the story is included as an example of how Jesus came to set women free...free to become his disciples, to sit at His feet, and to join the classroom that had previously been reserved for men. I believe it is included to help women see just what is truly important in this life.
So what did Martha do after she walked back into the kitchen? I'll tell you what I think she did. I think she stewed a bit more - at least for the rest of the day. But at some point, Martha took Jesus up on His invitation to join him in the classroom. She became a disciple as well. How do I know? Because of her response to Jesus' pop quiz after Lazarus died. "I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who was to come into the world," she replied. Yes, she passed with flying colors.
Our last glimpse of Martha is at Simon's dinner party where Mary anointed Jesus' body with perfume and prepared him for burial. And where is Martha? Why, she's in the kitchen serving. Being a disciple of Jesus Christ does not release us from our day-to-day activities and responsibilities. We still cook dinner, vacuum the house, dust the furniture, go to the office, drive carpool and fold laundry. But knowing Jesus gives us the freedom to serve joyfully, giving to others out of the overflow of our relationship with the Savior. God didn't change her natural bent toward serving, but did change her sinful bent toward complaining, projecting her expectations, and attempting to control others.
Yes, at this final party, Martha was serving in the kitchen. She wasn't fussing about it - worried, bothered, and distracted because Mary wasn't doing her part. After all, Mary was right where she belonged. This time Martha served with a new attitude of thanksgiving and praise for the One who had set her free.
She was free to be who God had created her to be...Martha. And Jesus loved her (John 11:5).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so glad You opened the door for women to learn and become Your disciples. Help me never forget the wonderful privilege I have to open Your Word and spend time in Your presence every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Martha's response to Jesus about the resurrection proves that she had spent time at Jesus' feet. What responses to others in your life would let them know that you have done the same?
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and let's chat!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was toward women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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November 2, 2010
Treasures of Darkness
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Friend to Friend
I love a great movie. To me, a movie is only great - no matter what any movie critic says or how many stars the film is granted - when good wins over evil, the right guy gets the right girl, nobody gets hurt and everyone lives happily ever after. A bit naive, I know, but I have decided that there is enough harsh reality traipsing through my daily life without paying to see more on a movie screen. When I sit down in that cushy theatre seat, popcorn and soda in hand, I want happy endings.
With these criteria in mind, I went to see the movie, "Sea Biscuit." God has a way of wrapping remarkable truths in unremarkable circumstances. There I was; munching and sipping away, minding my own business and enjoying my brief respite from the real world, when his words echoed through the movie theatre and slammed into my soul.
"You don't throw a whole life away just because it's a little banged up," he said. I was done. I thoroughly enjoyed the rest of the movie but those simple words were written just for me and lingered long after the movie's credits scrolled across the movie screen. We are all "banged up a little" by life. I know what it feels like to be broken and in pain. And I do not like it - a fact that seems meaningless when it comes to facing and dealing with tough experiences in my life. The hits just keep coming. I have a choice to make. I can embrace the pain and brokenness in my life and learn from it or I can surrender to the darkness and hide - and hope it all goes away. Trust me, girlfriend. It doesn't.
In "A Farewell to Arms," Ernest Hemingway writes, "The world breaks everyone and many are strong at the broken places." Jesus says it this way, "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name" (Isaiah 45:3).
Wow! The truth of this verse rocks my world. Don't miss it! God has gone before us and buried a treasure in every problem and stored rich truths in every minute of darkness we will face. The only way we can discover that treasure is to embrace the problem as an opportunity to trust God and uncover a new seed of victory. Some things cannot be learned in the light - they are treasures of the darkness.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is broken and it seems very dark. I don't understand what You are doing in my life. The darkness is very real and filled with more questions than answers. And I don't like it! But I love You, Lord, so I choose trust instead of fear and faith instead of doubt. Lord, please fill each broken place in my heart with Your mercy and Your grace. Today, I choose You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
God has changed my life through the truths of Psalm 40:1-3.
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3.
Write it in your journal.
Circle the action words. Which ones apply to you? Which ones apply to God?
Write this verse in your own words as your prayer to God.
Choose to praise God today as you look for the treasures waiting for you in each trial you are facing.
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The approaching holidays may be a difficult time for you or for someone in your family that struggles with depression. I encourage you to read my book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. I have been in that dark pit and know what it is like to long for just a sliver of light. The good news is that there really is hope and a way out of that pit. But there are also treasures to be found in the midst of that darkness.
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, When an Ordinary Woman Meets an Extraordinary God. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2010 studies. But hurry! This offer ends soon! Check it out!
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November 3, 2010
Coming Out of the Shadows
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When Jesus saw her, he called her forward..." (Luke 13:12 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was another Sabbath day, much like any other. But as Mariah opened her eyes framed with years of pain and sorrow, she had no idea this would be the day that changed her life.
"I'm getting too old for this," Mariah groaned as she twisted her crooked body to roll her stiff frame out of bed. "I wish I could just stay home today, but it is the Sabbath."
Mariah swung her legs over the edge of the bed and dropped her feet onto the cold hard floor. Her gaze and feet hit the packed dirt surface simultaneously, where both spent their waking hours.
"At least in bed I can see the sky through the window, the bird on its perch and the faces of those I love," she moaned. "But even an old woman like me can't stay in bed all day."
As Mariah stood, if you can call it that, she was in for another day of looking down at the dirt packed floor, dusty gravel roads, and the mud-caked feet of passersby. For eighteen years she had been crippled, bent over by an evil spirit that taunted her day and night. It didn't happen all at once, but progressed gradually as if someone were laying bricks on the back of her neck, one-by-one, day-by-day. Her back began to slowly succumb to the invisible weight and bend like a broken reed. Now her spine was parallel to the floor and a hump remained where a young girl's strong back had been.
"Feet, I am so tired of looking at feet," she moaned. "But at least I can see. I can hear. I can speak. I do have much to be thankful for. So today, I go to the synagogue to worship."
Mariah ran a comb through her gnarled grey hair, covered her head with a veil, and slipped sandals on her winkled feet. Then her shuffle to the temple began. Her frame prohibited her from looking up to find the women's section of the synagogue, so she just followed the feminine feet to find her seat ...in the back and at the bottom of the temple's progressive tiers.
She couldn't see his face, but she knew the person who stood to speak was not the usual teacher of the Law. As soon as he approached the podium, whispers stirred like a hive of bees. "It's Jesus," they began. "The teacher and healer everyone is talking about." "It's Jesus! It's Jesus!"
Ignoring the buzz, Jesus began to teach. Unlike any other man she had ever heard before, Jesus spoke with authority and compassion. For the first time in her life, someone explained the Scriptures in a way that made sense to her. He explained spiritual truths with everyday examples that made his teaching come alive.
"Oh I wish I could see his face," she silently prayed.
No sooner had the words raced across her mind, when Jesus stopped. She could not see him, but he could see her.
A hush fell over the room.
"Woman, come forward," he instructed.
Mariah strained to lean back on her bench in order to see to whom he was speaking. "He's talking to you," her neighbor whispered. "He's looking right at you."
Mariah wasn't exactly sure what she should do. Jesus was asking her to leave the women's section of the synagogue and walk up the steps that separated the women from the men. He was calling her into forbidden territory. After a few moments of internal struggle, faith overcame fear and Mariah was out of her seat. She couldn't see their faces, but she knew all eyes were on her slow, dragging gait forward.
Women gasped at her courage. Men glared at her audacity. Both parted as Mariah passed through.
After many long moments of painful struggle, Mariah finally arrived at the front of the crowd - center stage. Jesus bent down, placed his hand on the mountain that had become Mariah's back and leveled the land. She felt warmth surge through her frozen muscles as years of stiffness melted away. Like a marionette in the hands of a puppeteer, Jesus pulled her to full attention. For the first time in eighteen years, her crooked spine stood like a tall cedar. The physical malady that had defined her was gone and she rose to look into the eyes of the One who had set her free.
"Woman," he spoke, "You are free from your infirmity."
Tears of joy coursed down her weathered cheeks, and the words of the Psalmist coursed through her veins. "But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of my head" (Psalm 3:3 KJV).
"Thank you, Jesus!" she cried. "Thank you, Jesus!" She twirled around and raised her hands in praise to God. She laughed with lightness and others rejoiced with her. No longer did she feel like the dirt she was forced to stare at day in and day out. She was free!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I cry every time I read this story. Thank You for calling women out of the shadows to receive healing! Thank You for noticing me, loving me, calling me, and using me to bring glory to Your Name.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
I hope you enjoyed my re-telling of the woman with the crippled back who was healed by Jesus. No, we don't know her name, but I wanted to paint a picture of a real woman to make it come alive for you. Now with that said, let's think about this:
Can you imagine what it would be like if you were not allowed to worship with the men at church, or if you were kept behind a partition out of sight? Describe how that would make you feel.
Now, describe how you think this woman must have felt as Jesus took notice of her and called her forward?
That's how I want you to feel today!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's latest book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was toward women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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November 4, 2010
Everything Will Be Okay
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 43:2 (NLT) "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you."
Friend to Friend
I am an avid reader. In fact, reading is one of my favorite ways to escape the sometimes chaotic pace of daily life. I also enjoy browsing through bookstores, especially the ones that provide cushy chairs where customers can sit quietly and read without being disturbed.
It is easy to tune out your surroundings and lose yourself in the pages of a good book. I was doing just that when I heard a familiar voice. Looking up, I spotted one of my friends, Carol, who was asking an employee where she could find a new suspense novel that had just been released. The young man quickly handed Carol the book from his personal stash behind the counter and went back to work. I watched a smile spread across Carol's face as she examined her new treasure while gently turning the book over in her hands and flipping through pages. Carol then did something I absolutely could not believe. She turned to the last several pages of the book and began reading.
It was time for an intervention. I was ready for the task.
I quickly put the book I had been reading back on the shelf. I needed to focus on the obvious needs of my friend. With a quick wave, I got Carol's attention and made my approach. After a quick hug, I said, "It is so good to see you. How have you been?" We spent a few minutes catching up on what was happening in our lives.
I could not help myself. "Are you buying that book?" I asked. It was an honest question because, for the life of me, I could not understand why anyone would want to buy a suspense novel when they already knew how it ended. Excitement danced in her eyes as she responded, "Yes, I am. I can't wait to read it. The ending is awesome!"
Now I can understand reading the first few pages or scanning the table of contents before buying a book. I can even comprehend reading a few paragraphs here and there to get an idea of the story line. That makes sense to me. Carol's perspective did not. "Okay. I have to confess that I saw you reading the last few pages of the book. Why in the world did you read the ending? Won't that spoil the story for you?" I asked.
"Not at all," Carol quickly responded. "Before I buy a book, I always read the ending to make sure I really want that particular book," she explained. It was worse than I thought. Seeing the look of disbelief on my face, she laughed and admitted, "I know. It sounds crazy, but I have to know that everything turns out okay before I commit to reading the book."
The more I thought about Carol's words, the more I realized that as followers of God, we need to do the same. Billy Graham once said, "I've read the last page of the Bible. It's all going to turn out all right."
When we focus only on what we can see and understand or explain, we will worry. Fear and doubt will become familiar companions if we live each day against the backdrop of this broken world. Our only hope is God. And it is not enough to just know about Him. We must know Him. A personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ assures us that no matter what the world throws our way, it's all going to be okay.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tempted to worry about so many things. Our world is a mess! Forgive me for focusing on anything or anyone but You. Thank You for the Bible that equips and empowers me to live each day. Right now, I declare that You are my only Hope. Please help me to remember that You really are in control.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:2: "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you."
Make a list of your fears. Surrender each one to the loving control of God as you pray through Psalm 23. Then destroy the list as an offering of praise and thanksgiving to God's perfect peace enthroned in your life.
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November 5, 2010
Fact or Fiction?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
1 Peter 3:15 (NIV) "But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have."
Friend to Friend
There is a tale told of that great English actor Macready. An eminent preacher once said to him: "I wish you would explain something to me."
"Well, what is it? I don't know that I can explain anything to a preacher."
"What is the reason for the difference between you and me?" The preacher asked. "You are appearing before crowds night after night with fiction, and the crowds come wherever you go. I am preaching the essential and unchangeable truth, and I am not getting any crowd at all."
Macready's answer was this: "This is quite simple. I can tell you the difference between us. I present my fiction as though it were truth; you present your truth as though it were fiction."
Zinger, huh? Sure does challenge my faith-o-meter. J This story both motivates and cautions me. Frankly, Christians embarrass the cause of Christ all the time. It's vital that we be confident in the message of hope we cling to as believers in Jesus, but it's equally vital that we be prepared to share truth in love, share Scripture in proper context and share our hearts with meekness and fear for the purpose of attracting others to the restoring love of Christ. We don't need to be Bible scholars with capital letters following our names ... but we do need to be Bible girls!
I don't need to harp on the fact that there's a great moral decline in the world. We see that coming and going. As Girlfriends in God (GiGs), let's commit ourselves to making a difference in the lives of others, in our homes, among our friends, in our communities, and in this world! To do this, we need to know the Bible. We need to think through current issues. We must be prepared to share how we've been changed by the love of God through His Son, Jesus Christ. It's the great commission, and it's for each of us...not for the perfect among us. People around us need to know that God is still in the restoration business - and that He longs to bring His peace, hope and love to every life.
Look at the apostle Paul. He was prepared to speak about Christ wherever he went. In New Testament book of Acts, we learn that, "from morning 'til evening he explained and declared to them the kingdom of God and tried to convince them about Jesus from the Law of Moses and from the Prophets" (Acts 28:23b, NIV).
The life-changing, peace-giving, truth we know needs to be presented to the world as life-changing, peace-giving truth! Get in His Word - get in His presence - and look for opportunities to share God's love as truth with confidence! Imagine what our homes, relationships, neighborhoods and communities will look like if we take the commission of Christ seriously and prioritize loving God and loving others above all else. Lives will be changed. Broken relationships will be restored. Communities will experience a great awakening to the saving love of Jesus Christ!
Focus your heart and mind on Him today, friend. Remember the commission on your life, and determine to keep growing in truth and love.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I doubt Your truth, or fear speaking it. Help me to always be prepared to give an answer for the hope I have, to speak of Your unfailing love and unchanging truth to those around me so that they might be drawn to Your heart. Draw me to Your Word and teach me Your ways.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read 2 Timothy 1:12: "Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed..." Can you say that and mean it?
Are prepared to give an answer for the hope you have?
Have you been changed by God's grace? Held by His love? Grab your journal and write a paragraph or two that describes how God has worked in your life.
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November 8, 2010
Are You Spiritually Crippled?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Woman, you are released (set free) from your infirmity! (Luke 13:12 Amplified, note added).
Friend to Friend
I was riding down the crowded streets of Mexico City in a cab when I saw her. She measured about four feet high, backed curved, bent at the waist at a ninety-degree angle, and fingers gnarled and twisted shut. Like an upside down chair, her face was parallel to the dirty sidewalk. Feet, dirt, trash. That was her view of the world. She shuffled alongside our car as we inched through the congested traffic. I saw her, but she did not see me. She could not see me. She just saw feet.
Sharon, look at my daughter, God seemed to say. When you read about the woman with the crippled back, never again see her as a character in a story. See her as you see this woman now. Flesh and blood. Real and relevant. My daughter. Your sister.
God reminded me once again that the women we read about in the Bible were real people - just like you and me. We must never forget that. Today, let's look again at the woman with the crippled back in Luke 13:10-17. And while we might not be able to relate to being crippled physically, most of us can relate to being crippled emotionally. We see feet...people passing by going about their busy lives. We see dirt...the mistakes we've made through the years. We see trash...the pain inflicted on us by others and many times by our own poor decisions.
Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-29). Rest for our souls - isn't that what we all want?
Like the woman with the crippled back, we may have "a spirit of infirmity," a sickness of the soul. That is an interesting way to explain her illness. More than just a crippled back, her spirit was crippled as well.
Linda Hollies, in her book, Jesus and Those Bodacious Women brings this point home.
"There are many spirits that can cause you to walk around in a bent-over state. They might be your color, your gender, your age, your marital state, your family, or they could be abuse, injustice, resentment, oppression, despair, loneliness, your economic state, or even a physical challenge. It makes no difference what has hurt you in the past. It makes no difference how old you were when the trauma affected your life, and it makes no difference what your wealth, position, or status is. For the evil one comes to steal, kill, and destroy and each one of us is a candidate for being bent and bowed."
Bent and bowed. The weight of the world on our shoulders. Little by little. Day by day. Heaviness too difficult to bear. A spirit of infirmity. Crippled by shame, fear, pain, disappointment, depression, poverty, insecurity, inferiority, inadequacy, broken dreams. Satan, the one who orchestrates the spirit of infirmity, wants to cripple us into inactivity so that our walk becomes a shuffle. Our voice becomes a whisper. Our vision becomes a blur.
Who put the chains on her in the first place? Jesus said Satan had her bound (Luke 13:16). In reality, all sickness was ushered into the world when Adam and Eve believed Satan's lie over God's truth and ate the forbidden fruit. For the thirty-three years that Jesus walked the earth, he was in a life-and-death struggle with evil. John tells us that the reason Jesus came was to destroy the devil's work (1 John 3:8). The battleground is the world and humans are the pawns of the evil one. Note the language, "locked up" and "set free." This is about much more than physical healing. It is about spiritual freedom. And when Jesus said on the cross, "It is finished," it was. Now, because of Jesus' victory over the enemy through his death and resurrection, we are more than conquerors through faith in Him.
Don't miss this. Jesus said, "Woman, you are set free from your infirmity." There are those words again - set free. The words paint a picture of chains and manacles that are falling from a prisoner's shackled body. Another translation says it this way, "Woman, you are released from your infirmity!"(Luke 12:13 Amplified). The irons of oppression that held her prisoner to this crippled frame gave way and fell at Jesus' feet as He unlocked the chains that had her bound.
Jesus came to set us free and that freedom comes in many forms. Whatever Satan is using to bind you, Jesus came to free you. Free from...and free to. I can't say that enough. For far too long we've looked at freedom only in terms of what we are free from. But freedom encompasses so much more than a shedding of chains. Jesus set us free to live the abundant life by being all He has created us to be and accomplishing all that He has planned for us to do. Setting her straight (literally) was only the beginning for the crippled woman.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, Thank You for setting me free! Today, I choose to walk in that freedom and never be held captive by emotional chains again!
In Your Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Have you ever been emotionally crippled?
Perhaps you feel that way today. If so, I'd love to pray for you and so would your GiG sisters. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes, share your request, and let's pray for each other.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's latest book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was toward women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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November 9, 2010
It's Time to Do Something!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 John 4:11 "Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another."
Friend to Friend
I could not tear my eyes away from the television screen as the 33 miners began to emerge from the depths of what could have been their mass grave. The men had been trapped for more than two months in the collapsed Chilean copper mines nearly half a mile underground. Everything I have read or heard about the tragedy is extraordinary.
The miners survived the early days by rationing food and working together as a team. Each man was assigned a job, one of which was to maintain peace and harmony until they were rescued. The selfless mining supervisor who insisted on being the last to leave his underground prison showed the world what it really means to put others first. I was amazed at the selflessness of the rescue worker who became the initial guinea pig for the rescue capsule and then chose to stay behind - alone - while the world celebrated above.
I wonder how long it will take us to forget. How long will we remember that the world came together to save a group of strangers? Will the powerful lessons of their rescue make any difference in the way we treat each other?
We all know what it is like to be trapped in a pit of some kind. It is probably not a collapsed mine, but pits are all basically the same.
Our world has collapsed under the weight of fear and pain.
No one seems to care. In fact, a lot of people have written us off as a lost cause.
People are too busy to recognize or understand our hopelessness.
Darkness prevails and rescue seems impossible.
We are wounded, sick and tired.
Civil war rages in our soul as we struggle to obey God instead of giving in to sin.
I truly believe that every day is filled with divine appointments - opportunities to rescue people who are trapped in some kind of pit. We miss the emptiness reflected in the eyes of the sales clerk or simply choose to ignore the homeless man begging for money so that he can buy food. After all, we are in a hurry and have more important things to do. The sales clerk would probably be embarrassed if I said anything and that homeless man would probably just use the money I give him for drugs or alcohol.
The ringing phone is someone in need but we don't care enough to answer. Our neighbor does not know God but her life is a mess and we really don't want to get involved. Instead of taking action and doing what we know God wants us to do, we decide that it is enough to pray for that neighbor and leave the messy part of God's work to someone else.
I am so guilty of walking away from someone in need instead of running to their rescue. I am in pain, too, and my pain is more important than theirs. I may not actually say those words but I don't have to. My actions are blatant illustrations of my own egotism and self-absorption.
I do not want to be like the priest who nonchalantly strolled by the wounded and bleeding man lying on the road. I want to be like the Good Samaritan who stopped and saved the wounded man's life. I want to be "God with skin on."
One day, just as rescue workers descended into that Chilean mine, Jesus Christ will descend into this broken world and rescue us from the pit of human frailty. Until then, let's be His hands and feet. Let's love Him so much that we just have to do something about it.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart of praise for the way You meet every need in my life and how You constantly rescue me from the darkness. I want Your heart, Lord. I want to be Your hands and feet to the people You place in my path. Give me eyes to see their need and the courage to do something about it. Please guard my heart against pride and selfishness. I want to please and honor You alone.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is sometimes hard to love someone in need, but God calls us to look beyond their rough exterior and see the pain hidden there.
Read Ephesians 4:2. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Notice the action words. What would your daily life look like if you took action and lived out this verse?
Is there someone in your life who is hurting? How can you ease their pain?
Is there someone in your life who is wounded? How can you help them heal?
Is there someone in your life who has fallen into some kind of pit? How can you help rescue them?
Make a specific plan to meet a specific need in someone's life today. Then do something about it!
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We are living in tough times. It is easy to get so wrapped up in our own problems that we fail to see the needs of others. Today, I am issuing a challenge to all of us, girlfriends! Look around. Find someone in need and then take action. We are never more like our Father than when we love and serve someone in His name.
I would love to hear your story! How did God use you to meet a need in the life of someone? How did someone meet your need?
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November 10, 2010
Stand Up Straight, Girlfriend!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then he put his hands on her, and immediately she straightened up and praised God" (Luke 13:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When my brother was a teenager, my mother used to threaten him when he hunched over at the dinner table. "If you don't sit up," she'd say, "I'm going to buy you a back brace from Sears." Now I don't even know if Sears made back braces back then, but it sounded like a pretty good threat to me.
Then I had a son who grew to six feet seemingly overnight. He didn't know what to do with all that height, so he slumped. I tried my best not to say, "If you don't sit up, I'm going to buy you a back brace from Sears."
Then one night, my father-in-law took care of it for me. We were measuring and marking various family members' height on the dining room doorframe. (Yes, you read that correctly-the dining room. Some battles are just not worth fighting). My seventy-seven-year-old father-in-law, who stood at about 5'10", stood with the back of his head against the doorframe. Then he took a deep breath and extended his curved back to its fullest upright position. We marked him at 6'3".
I watched Steven's eyes grow wider as Papa grew taller. He saw firsthand the difference it made to stand up straight. Papa was huge, but his bent over frame hid his once strong healthy stature. Steven caught a glimpse of the strappingly strong frame that we once knew. From that day on, Steve stood straight and tall. Never once have I seen him slump since.
That's what I'm hoping for you. That's why I write devotions and books like I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves and What God Really Thinks about a Women. My hope is that you will see women who have stood to their full stature and want to do the same. No more slumping in self-doubt or hunching in half-hearted conviction, but rather standing up to the full stature of a confident woman who knows that she is equipped by God, empowered by the Holy Spirit, and enveloped in Jesus Christ.
There are many emotions that cause us to slump spiritually and become crippled emotionally. Worry wears us down. Regret ruins our confidence. Hatred hardens our hearts. Unforgiveness uglies our souls. Bitterness binds our hearts. Insecurity incapacitates our capabilities.
I was crippled for many years. Words from my past told me I was "ugly," "not good enough," and "worthless." Inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy were my three closes companions. I didn't like these three lurking shadows, but they followed me everywhere I went. Stalkers, that's what they were. They stalked me, yelling taunts and accusations that no one heard but me.
The more I listened to them, the more emotionally crippled I became. Then one day, Jesus called me up front. I didn't want to go, mind you. I had grown comfortable hiding in the back where I felt I belonged. I could hear just fine from my seat along the wall. The lighting wasn't as good, but it was enough to get by.
But then Jesus saw me and called me forward. It wasn't that He hadn't seen me all along. After all, He is El Roi, the God who sees. There was never a day when I had not been in His sight. But now the time had come for Him to set me straight in every way. So He called me up front where others could see what He was about to do. Jesus placed his nail-scared hand under my chin and lifted my eyes to meet his. "Sharon, you are free from your infirmity of self-doubt."
It wasn't long after that, words began to flow. From pen to paper, God filled me with words that overflowed to encourage and equip other sisters who needed to experience the same liberating freedom in Christ.
You know what? I'm sure some on-lookers gasped at my courage and glared at my audacity as I stepped out of the shadows onto center stage. "Who does she think she is?" they might have thought.
And I can answer that question. I am a crippled woman who Jesus set free. He calls me a child of God, light of the world, salt of the earth, bride of Christ, redeemed, holy, chosen, ambassador, saint, bride...and that's just for starters. And friend, if you know Jesus Christ as Savior, then that's exactly what He calls you too!
So here I am today and you are reading one of my devotions. A previously emotional cripple set straight and shored up by God.
Is there something in your life that is crippling your spirit? Unforgiveness? Bitterness? Guilt? Resentment? Sorrow? Worry? Regret? Comparison? If so, cut it loose, cast it off, and throw it away. God calls us sheep; and sheep are not pack animals. We are not meant to carry such burdens with these scrawny legs of ours. If we try, we will only bend under the pressure we were never meant to bear.
Oh friend, He is calling you right now. Whatever has been holding you back from being all God has called you to be and do all God has fashioned you to do...Jesus has come to set you free! Stand up straight! Do you feel the press of His hand on the crook of your back? Do you feel his index finger under the point of your chin?
There's no doubt in my mind that you are reading this devotion because Jesus is calling you from the shadows to join him center stage. He sees you, and now is the time. You've been sitting in the back, in your crippled state far too long. It is time. "Woman, you are set free from your infirmity."
Set me free from my prison that I might praise your name. Psalm 142:7
Now it's Your Turn
I want to go back and ask you the questions I asked in the devotion.
Is there something in your life that is crippling your spirit? Unforgiveness? Bitterness? Guilt? Resentment? Sorrow? Worry? Regret? Comparison? If so, cut it loose, cast it off, and throw it away.
Oh friend, He is calling you right now. Whatever has been holding you back from being all God has called you to be and doing all that God has fashioned you to do...Jesus has come to set you free! Stand up straight! Do you feel the press of His hand on the crook of your back? Do you feel his index finger under the point of your chin?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's latest book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was toward women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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November 11, 2010
The Taste Berry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 138:2 "I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name."
Friend to Friend
Alexander Whyte, the Scottish preacher, always began every prayer with praise. One brutally cold Sunday, his people filed into the church, wondering what the preacher could possibly find to praise God for on such a miserable day. Alexander Whyte stood, bowed his head and prayed, "O Lord, we thank Thee that it is not always like this."
Are there times when you don't feel like praising God? Honestly, our feelings are irrelevant when it comes to praising God. Praise is not about us. Praise is all about God. Praise is a deliberate choice and a learned habit that produces contentment and an attitude of gratitude.
In Philippians 4:11, the Apostle Paul writes, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances." In this verse, "learned" means to be "educated by experience" and the word "content" means "contained." Paul's contentment was the result of the resources contained in his heart. In other words, Paul used his circumstances as tutors in the school of praise. He learned how to give God praise even when he was beaten, ridiculed, in prison and facing his own death. Paul's attitude did not reflect his circumstances. Paul made a deliberate choice to praise God - no matter what. Why? Because Paul knew that even when he did not understand God's process, he could trust God's heart.
Let's pretend for just a moment. Suppose I went to my local bank and tried to cash a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that when I presented that check to the teller, she would have burst out laughing. She knows what I have in my bank account. Now suppose Bill Gates walked into his bank and presented the teller with a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that the teller would not burst out laughing. In fact, she would promptly cash that check. She knows what Bill Gates has in his bank account.
When we come to Jesus Christ, all of His promises are credited to our spiritual account. And there is a money-back guarantee on every promise of God. That is why we can praise Him - no matter what.
Praise invites God to take up residence in the middle of whatever mess we are facing.
Psalm 22:3 "But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel."
Praise produces trust in God and strengthens our faith.
Psalm 42:11 "But, O my soul, don't be discouraged. Don't be upset. Expect God to act! For I know that I shall again have plenty of reason to praise him for all that he will do. He is my help! He is my God!"
In Africa, there is a fruit called the "taste berry" that literally changes a person's taste buds so that everything tastes sweet and pleasant. Sour fruit, even if eaten several hours after the taste berry, becomes sweet and delicious.
Praise is the "taste berry" for every Christian. Praise is more than emotions or spoken words, singing songs or lifting up hands in worship. True praise is the celebration of God, His power, His works and His greatness. Praise is the fruit of a committed heart and the tool of a life completely surrendered to God.
When we are discouraged, praise reminds us that there is hope in God.
When we are afraid, praise reminds us that no matter what happens, God is with us.
When we are lost, praise reminds us that God has already been where He is leading us.
When we are confused, praise reminds us that heaven is not in a panic.
Right now, girlfriend, lift up your head and praise your God. He is with you and He is more than enough.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for Your love and Your mercy. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I praise You for sending Jesus to die in my place, to pay for my sin. I praise You for the family and friends You have given me. I praise You for this ministry of Girlfriends in God and for every woman who reads each word. Please bless them and fill their hearts with Your presence and Your power as they praise You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Not it's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and fill in each blank.
I will praise God with ________________.
Psalm34:1 "I will praise the Lord no matter what happens. I will constantly speak of his glories and grace."
I will praise God with ________________.
Ephesians 5:19 "Speak to one another with psalms."
I will praise God with _____________.
Psalm 69:30 "Then I will praise God with my singing!"
I will praise God with my ____________.
2 Corinthians 5:15 "He died for all so that all who live--having received eternal life from him--might live no longer for themselves, to please themselves, but to spend their lives pleasing Christ who died and rose again for them."
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November 12, 2010
The Bigger the Battle, the Bigger the Blessing
Pam Farrel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of the women who have blessed our lives as girlfriends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Pam Farrel.
Today's Truth
James 1:12 (NLT) "God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him."
Friend to Friend
I [Pam] had one baby and a toddler and was four months pregnant, dressed in a white suit as I carefully stepped out of my house to head to Bible study. A heavy rainstorm had hit the night before, and there was a film of red clay mud all down the front stairs.
With a toddler, diaper bag, and Bible-study bag in tow, I gingerly stepped onto the first stair, holding on to the handrail. Then, I gingerly took step two, only to fall flat on my back, desperately clinging to my baby to keep him from hitting his head. Sliding down the rest of the stairs, I finally plopped in a puddle on the bottom landing.
Shaken, I stood up and checked on baby Brock, who was smiling from the adventurous ride and seemed completely unharmed. Once relief set in that he had survived the fall, I burst into tears. Fear gripped my heart. Lord, what about this baby inside me? A fall like this can cause a miscarriage. Please protect this little one!
I took inventory of my belongings, spilled across the lawn and the stairs. I would have to take a wet rag to most of the things, but they all seemed intact. Then I looked at myself in the reflection of our bay window. I was one big mud pie, head to toe. I checked my watch. If I took the time to clean up, I would definitely be late to Bible study. Then a thought came: Maybe I should just stay home.
Remembering Ephesians 6:11-13 about life being a spiritual battle, I loudly proclaimed, "Satan, get out of here! If you think a little mud or a tumble is going to keep me from God's Word, you are messing with the wrong woman. I take my stand in Jesus and through His shed blood, I claim the victory. If you're working this hard to discourage me, Satan, then something really great is on the other side, if I persevere. The bigger the battle - the bigger the blessing on the other side!"
With that, I got up, went inside to change clothes, and then drove to Bible study, where I did receive more encouragement to win the battles of life I was dealing with at that time.
I'm glad I learned that lesson long ago, because during the writing of my LOL with God devotional, I think nearly everything I own broke: my car, my computer (it crashed twice), the icemaker, the washing machine, the printers in our office—and more importantly, the hearts of two of my three sons. This mom was carrying their pain on her heart, but I knew I'd receive a blessing, and others would too, if I pressed on through the battle.
Press on! Blessings ahead!
Let's Pray
Lord, help me not to give in to the battle weariness I feel. Keep my eyes off the attack and on You, the One who gives victory and blessing. Let me press through the battle until we get to the blessing, together, You and me, God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Ephesians 6:11-13 tells us to "Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. . . . so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground . . ."
Some steps to help you stand your ground might include:
Go to bed with your iPod playing the Bible or songs of praise so you wake up confident and full of hope.
Speak verses of courage and confidence out loud (a good place to begin is the Psalms).
Place Scriptures and positive affirmations around your mirror where you put on your make up each day.
Take a prayer walk with a friend (this is a 3 for one deal: You will get closer to God, closer to your friend—and thinner!)
Which step could you do right now, or in the next hour, to help you stand firm?
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When my boys were small, I used to read them the children's picture book, Harry and the Terrible Whatzit. In it, Harry, the small boy was frightened by what he thought was a scary monster, so he took a broom and whacked the imaginary thing until it became a tiny little creature who eventually became his friend. I picture God's Word as my "broom" and when I whack away on that fear with the Word of God, the fear grows smaller and smaller and my view of God grows larger and larger. As I wrote LOL with God, I pictured women worldwide picking up their "brooms" (their Bibles) and whacking down their fears. So girlfriend, pick up your broom, that Bible of yours, and let God shrink then sweep away your fears and frustrations today!
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November 15, 2010
The Velveteen Woman
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ" (Galatians 1:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us have read or heard of the childhood classic, The Velveteen Rabbit. Perhaps you first heard the story snuggled in your mother's lap or like me, as an adult with a child snuggled in your lap. For me, The Velveteen Rabbit is a treasure I discovered in motherhood, rather than in my childhood. And like many children's books, the message carries a profound truth that resonates more with adults than with kids.
The story begins...
"There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid. He was fat and bunchy, as a rabbit should be; his coat was spotted brown and white, he had real thread whiskers, and his ears were lined with pink sateen. On Christmas morning, when he sat wedged in the top of the Boy's stocking, with a spring of holly between his paws, the effect was charming.
"The boy loved the rabbit...for at least two hours, but then he was put on the nursery shelf with all the other toys. Because he was velveteen, some of the more expensive toys snubbed him. Some of the toys boasted about being fashioned as smaller models of real things, such as boats and soldiers. But the rabbit didn't even know that there was such a thing as a real rabbit. He thought all were just as he was, stuffed with sawdust. But one night, the rabbit made a fascinating discovery.
"The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else...
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become real. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
The Velveteen Rabbit wasn't even sure what a rabbit was supposed to do. He just knew there had to be more to life than being filled with sawdust and sitting on a shelf.
Being real. That's what really matters. I don't want to wait until most of my hair has fallen out and I've lost my stuffing. I want to be real right now. So what if I don't look as shiny as the other toys in the nursery?
Yes, sometimes it is painful to become real. It takes courage. But until we do, we'll find our existence sitting on the shelves a dim reflection of the freedom and jubilant dance that God intended in the fields of life.
Join me next time as we look at a man in the Bible who learned what it meant to be real.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know that You want me to be real and honest with those around me. Jesus was. He never pretended to be something that He was not and He didn't pretend not to be something that He was. I am Your child with many faults, failures and foibles. I made mistakes in my past and will make mistakes in my future. I pray that I will always have the courage to be real with those around me and never participate in religious pretending because of concern over what others may think. I'm just me: saved, sealed, delivered!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
You might be concerned that today's devotion didn't have more Scripture. So let's go ahead and prepare our hearts for Thursday's devotion.
Read Genesis 25: 25:23, 24. Who was Jacob?
How did he trick his brother? (Genesis 25:29-34)
How did he trick his father? (Genesis 27)
Jacob was pretending to be someone he was not. In the end, it caused much heartache. But that's not the end of the story. Stay tuned!
More from the Girlfriends
Being real is one of the themes of Your Scars of Beautiful to God. God doesn't want us to hide our scars. He wants us to be real and use the scars of our past to impact those in our present! To learn more, see Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past.
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November 16, 2010
Remodeling 101
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:13 "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."
Friend to Friend
I promised myself that I would never buy a house that could be described as a "fixer-upper." I don't like fixing things. I want everything to be fixed before I move in. But there I was, buying a town house that needed so much work even the realtor couldn't believe my husband and I wanted to buy it. Why didn't someone stop me? No one did, so the sale was made and we went to work. Actually, my son and husband went to work while I went crazy.
I had no idea how horrible the process of remodeling could be. Layer after layer of dirt, grime, stains and ugliness was stripped away. Rotten kitchen cabinets were torn from the walls and rusty appliances were replaced. We basically gutted the whole place and rebuilt it - while living in it. I was not happy!
I will never forget the day I woke up to see a toilet sitting at the foot of our bed. It was at that moment I resolved to never set foot in another house that required so much work. I am so thankful God does not feel that way about me.
Honestly, I used to wonder why God didn't just demolish the old me and build a new one. Then He did just that - through a two-year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that deep, dark and slimy pit, the Father lovingly stripped away old fears and insecurities. From the walls of my heart, He tore the rotten attitudes, undisciplined thoughts and unholy desires that had walked me to the edge of my pit; then pushed me in. He replaced rusty old dreams with new ones and basically, gutted my life to build a new one, a better one, and a stronger one. Part of that new life was forgiveness. God taught me how to forgive myself so I could then forgive others.
Because forgiveness is so important, it only stands to reason that there are roadblocks that can hinder our willingness to forgive. We must make the commitment to identify and remove each one.
Selfishness
Selfishness shouts, "I have been hurt! It is so unfair. I have rights!" What I am really saying is that how I feel about the hurt is more important than forgiving the hurt.
Pride
Pride cries, "Look at what they have done to me. Don't they realize who I am?" To receive or give forgiveness requires humility.
Low self-esteem
Some of us have built an entire identity around a hurt. The attention we gain from the wrong we have suffered defines who we are. It is something we cherish and refuse to relinquish for the sake of forgiveness.
Blindness
We may be blind to the fact that we have not forgiven a hurt. We have convinced ourselves that we really have forgiven the one who hurt us by going through the motions and saying the right words without really dealing with the pain. In reality, all we have done is dig a hole and bury the pain. As long as hurt is buried alive, it will keep resurrecting itself in our life, but when the hurt is dealt with and forgiveness is given, the pain is buried dead - and it stays dead.
Pain
Forgiveness is spiritual surgery. It exposes old hurts that have never completely healed. We can move, change jobs, change churches, change friends or even change families, but until we yank up the root of bitterness and cover it with forgiveness, we will live with unresolved pain.
Ignorance
Maybe we don't know how to forgive someone because are under the impression that forgiveness is an emotion or feeling. True forgiveness is a choice - a deliberate choice to release the person who has hurt us from the pain they have caused. We can stop forgiving others when God stops forgiving us.
We need to identify and eliminate the roadblocks to forgiveness so God can set us free, heal our pain and make us more like Him. Now that is a remodeling job I would welcome.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the changes You have made in my life through the power of Your forgiveness. Please help me forgive the people who have hurt me just as You have forgiven me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
The holiday season seems to highlight certain emotions - one of which is emotional pain. A family member has wounded you and shows no sign of remorse. Maybe a friend has betrayed you and refuses to apologize. Or you may be struggling to forgive yourself because you don't think you deserve to be forgiven. None of us deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift from God. Today is the day to make the choice to forgive. Beside each statement below, write the name of someone in your life who needs your forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not limited to those who deserve it. ______________________________
Forgiveness is not limited to those who apologize. ______________________________
Forgiveness is not limited to those who change. ________________________________
Read and memorize 1 John 1:9: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
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God is the One who heals. Forgiveness puts us in the correct posture for Him to do so. Don't wait another minute to deal with the issue of forgiveness in your life. Know that we are praying for you and standing with you as you choose forgiveness.
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November 17, 2010
Jacob becomes Real
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ" (Galatians 1:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
On Tuesday, we looked at the beloved children's story, The Velveteen Rabbit. If you missed it, click on www.girlfriendsingod.com and find the title in our archives...The Velveteen Woman.
Today, let's look at a man named Jacob. Jacob - now there was a fellow who didn't know how to be real. He was the son of Isaac and the twin brother of Esau. When he was born, even though he was not the firstborn, God promised that the older (Esau) would serve the younger (Jacob). Jacob was always his Momma's favorite, and she wanted to make sure he received the blessing of the firstborn. Rather than trust God to do what He said He would do, she decided to help God out a bit. So she dressed Jacob up like his hairy brother and tricked her nearly blind husband into giving Esau's blessing to Jacob. Approaching his deathbed, Isaac asked Jacob, "Are you really my son Esau?"
"I am," he lied.
So Isaac gave Esau's blessing to Jacob.
Later, when Jacob became marrying age, His father-in-law-to-be tricked him into marrying the weak-eyed Leah, rather than the promised Rachel. Ah, but Jacob wouldn't be outdone. After all, he had learned from the best - his mom. Jacob in turn tricked his father-in-law and took the best of his livestock for himself. Jacob was a trickster and he continued to be in control of his life...or so he thought.
But there came a time in Jacob's life when he couldn't control his circumstances. He was heading back to his homeland to face his brother Esau...the one from whom he had stolen his birthright and inheritance. Would Esau kill him? Would Esau welcome him? Would Esau slay his family? Would Esau forgive him? All these questions and more tumbled around in Jacob's mind.
The night before he was to come face to face with his brother, Jacob had a close encounter of the heavenly kind. In Genesis chapter 32, we read about his wrestling match with an angel. For years, Jacob had been trying to control and manage his life on his own terms but he knew he had no control over what was going to happen the next day when he faced Esau. All night Jacob wrested with the angel, trying to convince the angel to bless him, but before that could happen, Jacob had to face reality.
When Isaac asked Jacob who he was, Jacob pretended to be someone he was not and answered"Esau." During the wrestling match, the angel gave Jacob another chance to right that wrong.
"What is your name?" the angel asked.
This time Jacob didn't pretend to be someone he was not, but answered truthfully. "Jacob," he replied.
No pretending, no trying to leave a good impression, no explaining, and no justifying. Jacob spoke the absolute truth. Jacob - the schemer, the deceiver, the manipulator, the con artist. That's who I am.
Once Jacob decided to be real and give up trying to be someone he was not, God empowered him with His strength and gave him a new name. No more was he Jacob the "trickster," but now he was Israel, "Prince with God." Oh yes, he walked with a limp for the rest of his life. Sometimes that's the result of being real. But that limp was a reminder to Jacob for the rest of his life that God was in control. He didn't need tricks to succeed. He just needed God.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to be real and transparent today. Thank You for accepting me just the way I am, but loving me enough not to let me stay that way.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
The angel could have "taken" Joseph without a struggle at all. Why do you think the angel wrestled with Joseph?
What do you think God was trying to do with this wrestling match?
Is there a limp in your life or a scar on your soul that reminds you of a time that you wrestled with God? Are you wrestling still?
Are you ready to be real? If so, God has some amazing plans for you!
More from the Girlfriends
We can have a great impact on those around us when we live an authentic Christian life. My Girlfriend in God, Gwen, calls it "organic" living. No fake stuff. No additives - just the pure real deal. If you would like to learn more about living the authentic Christian life with no "fake stuff added," check out Your Scars are Beautiful to God - Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.
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November 18, 2010
Tell It Like It is
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV) "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God."
Friend to Friend
Okay. It's Sunday morning and you are frantically trying to get ready for church. You somehow managed to set your alarm for PM instead of AM and you are running late. No time for breakfast - which is just as well since you did not have time to go to the grocery store and the only thing in your refrigerator is an almost empty jar of Mayonnaise and a block of molded cheese. Your daughter throws a tantrum because she is not about to wear any of the "dorky" clothes hanging in her closet. Your son is actually wearing his dorky clothes, but he got bored waiting on everyone else to get ready and headed outside to play in the puddles created from last night's storm. It was the perfect opportunity to see if his new shoes really were waterproof like the salesman said. His clothes are now caked in mud, the shoes are definitely not waterproof and he is yelling for help. "Check the dirty clothes basket" you yell back. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
Your husband, oblivious to the chaos around him, is sitting at the kitchen table, reading the newspaper and drinking his coffee. When he announces that it is time for everyone to get in the car or you will be late for church, your last and completely frazzled nerve snaps. "Why do I have to do everything on Sunday morning - and every other morning for that matter?" you demand. "I have one morning a week that I can relax and have a few minutes to myself," he snaps back. Great! One more thing for your ever growing list of "things we need to work on in our marriage." Whatever! You don't have time to process that information because everyone is finally in the car and ready to go.
Your husband decides to drive the speed limit for once in his life which means you are going to be late - and you hate being late. You could cut the tension in the car with a knife, but when you reach the holy asphalt of the church parking lot, you smile and nod as people greet you with, "Good morning! How are you?" But they don't really want to know, and you don't really want them to know. "Great! Everything is just great!" you answer to no one in particular.
Here's my question. Where is the transparency? Why do we feel like we cannot be honest with each other? What is so frightening about saying, "If you really want to know, it has been a lousy morning and I'm ready to explode?"
I think there are several reasons we are afraid to be transparent, but pride is at the root of most of them. We are not willing for others to see us as we really are - a frail human being. I'm not saying that we should launch into a liturgy of complaints every time someone asks how we are, but I am saying that we need to be more transparent. Jesus was.
Jesus wept when His friend, Lazarus, died. When money-changers defiled the temple, Jesus was furious and drove them out with a whip. On the cross, Jesus cried out to God, "Why have You forsaken me?" Jesus was a frequent guest at wedding celebrations and had a sense of humor. He was authentic and real and wants us to live our life with that same emotional integrity and transparency.
In order to understand what transparency is, we need to understand what it is not. Transparency is not a spiritual license to rip someone apart or tell them off. I know what it is like to take an emotional risk only to be blasted under the guise of "just being honest." Transparency is not revenge in disguise nor does it give us permission to unload every problem we have on everyone we meet.
Transparency is being willing to let others see who we really are and what is really going on in our heart and life. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, the Apostle Paul writes, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." In other words, comfort and encouragement are cyclical.
When I choose to be transparent about my struggle with clinical depression, I position myself to receive and give comfort and encouragement to others fighting that same battle. It sounds so simple, doesn't it? It is - if we choose to be transparent.
Let's Pray
Father, please help me to take off the masks I hide behind. I want to be real and authentic in a way that pleases You and encourages others. I am sometimes afraid to be honest about who I am and what I am going through. Give me the strength to walk through that fear and be the transparent woman of God You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone." Now think about the people in your life and answer the following questions:
Who needs motivation (idle)?
Who needs courage (timid)?
Who needs strength (weak)?
Who needs understanding (patient)?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up." How can you apply this verse to the people in your life?
More from the Girlfriends
Encouragement is God's love in action. It is the idea of a "spiritual cheerleader" and we all need a cheerleader. One of the main reasons Girlfriends in God exists is to encourage women. I want to challenge you today to share that encouragement with someone in your life.
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November 19, 2010
"Soul-Blinders"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"So be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left" (Deuteronomy 5:32, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a young girl, I rode horses with my cousin, Beth. When she was prepping her horse for shows, Beth would often add blinders to the bridle of her horse. Horse trainers believe these blinders, also called blinkers or winkers, keep the horse focused on what is in front of him, and encourage him to pay attention to the race rather than other distractions, such as crowds. Now, I'm not a horse, but at times my heart sure does wander and get distracted from what really matters. It makes me think that I could really benefit from some "soul-blinders."
You see, I have this distraction problem. At times I look around at what others are doing, being, and accomplishing and feel ineffective, unproductive, and unnecessary. There. I said it. It's not pretty, but it's true.
When do I have this problem? When I look around instead of looking to God. (How bizarre! I even know the answer to my problem ... and I still struggle with it!) Do you ever do that? Do you compare yourself to others and, as a result, determine that there are great deficiencies in your life? Do you ever feel like you don't measure up to those around you? Join the club. I bet we all struggle with this at times.
The good news is that God doesn't leave us without direction or help. He gave us His Word, the Bible, to direct our thoughts, behaviors, hearts, minds and souls - to be our soul-blinders! Scripture reminds us of this in Deuteronomy 5:32-33: "So be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess."
Ahhh ... and the light bulbs turn on! When we look to the LORD - to His plan for us - to the one that is unique to each of us, we will prosper. And when we look to the right and to the left, we lose our focus, we worry about comparison, and we become distracted. So, like Paul, let's press on. Forward. With a gaze committed to the path ahead - not to the path that is behind us or on either side. Sisters, like the apostle Paul says, "...I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I d Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13-14).
Today, I pray that you will join me in asking God to give us soul-blinders. Because when we turn our eyes upon Jesus and look full in His wonderful face, the things of earth ... the distractions, the comparisons, and stuff that causes us to lose our focus ... will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thanks for giving us the Bible to direct us in life. I ask that You would put blinders on my heart so that I will be solely focused on living for You. I pray as the psalmist does: "I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. I have taken an oath and confirmed it, that I will follow your righteous laws." (Psalm 119:104-106) Please help me to follow Your ways.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Take time to evaluate what people or things might be distracting you from God's best. Spend some time in prayer about it.
How much time have you been spending in God's Word each day? Each week? Each month? Consider adding ten minutes to your current commitment for one week. Ask God to give you a greater clarity of His plans and direction for your life.
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November 22, 2010
Hearing God-Seeing God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparable great power for us who believe" (Ephesians 1:18,19 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A few years ago, a phenomenon swept the country called "Magic Eye." These were colorful pictures that had a hidden picture within the picture. The way you discovered the hidden image was to hold the picture a certain distance from you face and then stare until your eyes went a bit out of focus. When you did it just right, another three-dimensional picture would pop into view. At least that's how it was supposed to work. However, I rarely, if ever, could get my eyes to find the hidden picture. I noticed that children seemed to be able to do it right away! I'd hear them shouting, "I see it! I see it!" while I sat cross-eyed wondering what was wrong with my brain.
This reminds me of the process of reading Scripture. As I read, I pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal the "hidden picture." Then as He works to clarify God's Word, I begin to shout, "I see it! I see it!"
What has been so exciting to me over the years is how the Holy Spirit brings out various and deeper truths of Scripture the more time I spend in God's Word. He "opens the eyes of my heart" to see new and amazing truths in verses that I've read time and time again. So many times I've read a verse and thought, "where did that come from? I've read that passage a hundred times and never seen that before!"
The Holy Spirit speaks to us when we read the Word and expands and enriches our understanding of the Scriptures, God's character, and God's ways. When Jesus asked Peter, "Who do you say I am?" Peter answered, "You are the Christ, the Son of the living God." Jesus replied, "Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, for this was not revealed to you by man, but by my Father in heaven" (Matthew 16:15-17). Peter did not figure this out by himself. God revealed it to him.
We can always be certain that God will never speak to us anything that is contradictory to His written Word. However, as we go through our day, He will, through the Holy Spirit, remind us of the words we have read and give us illustration after illustration to help us understand and apply those truths to our lives. I find myself saying to Him, "Oh this is what you meant in the verses I read today," or "Now I understand what you meant by such and such." As I keep my heart in tune to hearing His voice, the Holy Spirit reminds me of certain passages throughout the day.
The Holy Spirit is the person who takes God's Word that we have stored in our hearts and brings it to remembrance. Jesus said, "The Holy Sprit will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you" (John 14:26). The Holy Spirit teaches us about God's character, His purposes, His ways, His nature, and His plans.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for the Holy Spirit who opens the eyes of my heart to understand Your Word and opens my spiritual ears to hear Your voice. I pray that You will open my eyes today to see the riches that are hidden on the pages of my Bible and detect Your fingerprints that run throughout my day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When was the last time God showed you something new in Scripture that you had never seen before?
Today, go back and read a passage of Scripture that you have read many times before. (Perhaps Psalm 100, John 3, 1 Corinthians 13, Psalm 23) Ask God to open the eyes of your heart to see something that you have never seen before.
I'd love to hear what He showed you! Log onto www.facebook.com/sharon and tell me what you've seen.
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Today's Devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God. If you would like to learn more about how to hear God's still small voice, then this book is for you! Just click on the link to order.
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November 23, 2010
The Sandpaper People are Coming!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 6:27-28 "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you."
Friend to Friend
I sometimes think that the holiday season should somehow come with a warning label that reads, "The Sandpaper People are coming!" The holidays usher in many things - one of which is the opportunity to deal with the difficult people in our life. That relative that irritated you last Thanksgiving may very well do the same thing this year. Get ready to deal with your sandpaper people - the people who rub you the wrong way.
God created us with the capacity for strong emotions and like any gift from God our emotions can be used for good or misused for bad. Sandpaper people not only have an uncanny knack for knowing where emotional buttons are located, they honestly think it is their purpose in life to push every single one of them. Our first reaction to the incessant and calculated button pushing of a sandpaper person is usually angry retaliation while God calls us to a peaceful resolution. When it comes to difficult relationships, God does not want or expect us to declare war. We are to control our emotions instead of allowing them to control us. The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 12:18, "As much as is possible, live peaceably with all men." In other words, we need to set our mind on peace - not winning.
God's wants us to wage peace in every relationship - including the roughest, most abrasive, anger producing sandpaper people who come our way. A formidable task, since every sandpaper person I have ever known comes complete with a set agenda that targets emotional eruptions and creates constant relationships upheavals. They love a good fight, live to evoke angry reactions and are fierce warriors determined to win every battle initiated by their downright irritating personalities. However, combat is impossible when the enemy has laid down his weapons and chosen peace.
As I headed to the grocery store for my dreaded weekly shopping trip, I wrestled with my attitude. You have to understand that I absolutely hate grocery shopping but on this particular morning, I vowed to choose joy and turned my focus to the balmy Florida day before me. I had it all under control - until I pulled into the grocery store parking lot.
It seemed like every South Florida resident was in that parking lot frantically searching for a parking space - and they were not happy. After circling several times, I spotted an empty spot right by the entrance. God does answer prayer. I made a beeline for "my" parking space. Just as I turned to pull in, an older lady boldly stepped into that prized space and with great ceremony, held up her left hand, signaling me to stop right where I was. With her right hand, this self-imposed traffic director began motioning to a man I assumed was her husband as he circled the parking lot in his very large car. I suddenly realized that she was saving "my" spot for him. Of all the nerve! What incredible gall!
Parking spaces are a serious matter to me. Evidently, I was not the only one who felt that way. In the midst of my simmering, soon-to-explode anger, this still small voice reminded me that I had a choice to make. I really hated surrendering my anger to God, but the thought of apologizing to that woman for running over her with my car was more than my mind could conceive and my stomach could handle. I quickly decided that if she was willing to risk her life for a grocery store parking space, she deserved to have it.
Unfortunately, the driver behind me did not agree and whipped her car into the sought after space just in front of the man in his large car, barely missing the traffic controlling woman as she frantically jumped up on the sidewalk, out of the car's path. I decided to watch the scene unfold - or explode. Crude gestures and loud, repulsive words filled the air. Some I understood. Some I had never heard and did not care to define. Threats were exchanged along with promises of retribution.
The whole experience was an ugly reminder that we live in a world filled with angry people who are constantly rubbing each other the wrong way. Sandpaper people. And while it is true that everyone gets angry from time to time, it is just as true that everyone can learn to effectively control and manage his or her anger. When dealing with a sandpaper person, we must not allow ourselves to become the enemy. As you get ready for Thanksgiving Day, remember to prepare your heart as well to love the hard-to-love people that come your way.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so thankful that You love me - rough edges and all. Please help me to love others in the same way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Who are the difficult people in your life?
In what way(s) do they irritate you?
What can you do to avoid a difficult situation with the sandpaper people in your life?
Ask God to let you see those difficult people as He sees them - through eyes of love.
Pray for each person and ask God to bless them.
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I can almost hear you saying "What? I'm supposed to ask God to bless this person who is so hard to love?" Yes. Luke 6:28 tells us that we are to bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us. God always honors obedience.
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November 24, 2010
Will the real enemy please stand up!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:3-5).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever had one of those days when you thought...What is going on? I just don't understand what's happening? Have you ever had one of those weeks when you felt that there was some invisible force working against you? Well, sometimes there is. The Bible tells us that there is a spiritual realm that we cannot see and there are angels working on your behalf!
Perhaps one of the clearest examples of this spiritual battle is recorded in 2 Kings Chapter six. The King of Aram was furious with the prophet Elijah because he continued to reveal his battle plans to the King of Israel. During the night, the King sent horses and chariots and a strong force to surround the city where Elisha was stationed. When the sun peeked over the horizon, Elisha's servant pulled back the curtain and stood in horror at their certain doom.
"Oh, my lord, what shall we do?" The servant asked.
"Don't be afraid," the Elisha calmly replied. "Those who are with us are more than those who are with them."
Elisha prayed, "O LORD, open his eyes so he may see." Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha."
Elisha knew that God's warring angels were there to protect them, defend them, and fight the battle for them. While most likely we will never have the privilege of having the curtain that separates the seen from the unseen parted as Elisha's servant did, we can be sure that God has his angels in place to minister to us in mighty ways (Hebrews 1:14). There is a battle raging for our marriages, for our husbands, for our children, for our joy, and for our peace. But just as Elisha encouraged his servant, "Those who are with us are more than those who are with them." We have the LORD on our side!
In Ephesians 6:13-17, Paul describes the armor God provides for each of us to fight those spiritual battles. The helmet of salvation protects our head, the breastplate of righteousness protects our hearts and vital organs, the peace of God protects our feet, the belt of God's truth holds it all together, and the shield of faith (holding up what we know to be true) blocks the fiery darts of the devil. All the pieces of the armor are for defense except for one - the sword of the spirit, which is the Word of God. With the truth of God's Word, we fight the lies of the enemy (which is his most effective weapon).
When Jesus was tempted by Satan in the desert after fasting for 40 days, He had only one weapon of defense and it is the same weapon that is available to you and me. He used Scripture to fight the enemy. "It is written, it is written, it is written," Jesus said. Satan couldn't stand up under that kind of attack, so he fled. "Resist the devil and he will flee from you," James tells us (James 4:7). Satan can't stand the Word of God and he can't stand up to the Word of God.
Evil is something to be aware of, but girlfriend, it is nothing to be afraid of. Greater is the One that is in you than the One that is in the world. Just pull out that sword and stand your ground.
Let's pray
Dear Lord, thank You for not leaving us defenseless. Help us to recognize the true enemy in our lives and fight with the mighty weapon of the Truth that You have given each one of us. I thank You for the power that lives within me...the power of the Holy Spirit. I thank You for the power that rules around me...the power of God. I thank you for the power that prays for me continually...the power of Jesus. I thank you that "those who are with us are more than those who are with them."
In Jesus' powerful Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of Elisha and his servant in 2 Kings 6 from your own Bible.
What amazes you about this story?
Does Elisha seem worried at all?
Why or why not?
As you go through your day, remember Elisha's confidence and apply it to your own life!
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Today's devotion was adapted from Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes. When facing marriage struggles, sometimes we simply need to remember who the real enemy is. It's not our husbands. It is Satan who wants to destroy our marriages. To learn more about how to protect your marriage through prayer, click on the link to Sharon's book.
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November 25, 2010
He Took My Place
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 106:1 (NIV) "Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever."
Friend to Friend
In homes across America, friends and family will gather around beautifully decorated tables filled with warm, scrumptious food to give thanks. It's Thanksgiving Day. However, this day will be nothing like holidays of the past for many people.
Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle will patrol foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home long for word of their safety. The homeless will make their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face as so many celebrate this day of abundance. An empty place at the table will be a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad will sit at the head of the table, wondering how he is going to tell his family that he just lost his job. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised or build the right house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation or when we retire. We keep trying to find joy, contentment and peace in lifeless places and things. Jesus Christ is life. He is Joy and Love and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give thanks when it seems as if there is nothing for which to be thankful.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver told him, "I always park there. You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday school, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing.
After Sunday school, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still said nothing.
Later, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day of thanksgiving and praise because praise and thanksgiving have little to do with the Thanksgiving holiday and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, my friend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs this year in ways that we may or may not have understood at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and Your power and we choose to celebrate You ...we celebrate life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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Sharon, Gwen and I want to wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving Day, a day of remembering all that God is, all that God has and all that He wants to be in your life.
We praise Him for allowing us to do life with you and with each other.
We want you to know that we are with you, on the same journey, here for you,
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November 26, 2010
A Satisfied Soul
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days." (Psalm 90:14, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Our souls constantly demand to be fed, and make no mistake about it: if God does not have the proper place in your life, your soul will remain hungry. When I invite God into my days, I experience His satisfying presence no matter what I face. But when I don't set aside time to pray, when I don't read my Bible, and when I don't praise, I get hungry, really hungry ... and grouchy.
Christians are hungry people. Just like the Israelites who wandered in the desert, we need God's daily bread, His spiritual manna. Jesus taught us to ask for a daily portion. In the New Testament book of Matthew, Jesus took a moment to teach His followers how to pray. In that prayer, commonly referred to as the Lord's Prayer, He said, "Give us today our daily bread" (Matthew 6:11, emphasis mine).
He didn't ask to be fed for an entire week—just for today.
We would be wise to do the same.
Some people might think that once we become Christians all of our spiritual hunger subsides. Not so! I've found that the more I get to know God, the more I want to know Him. The more I experience His peace, presence, and power in my life, the more I want to experience His peace, presence, and power. I crave Him more.
In John 4:13, Jesus says to a Samaritan woman at Jacob's well, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again." He was referring to the water in the well and a body's physical thirst. But then He tells her what He can offer her soul: "but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life" (v. 14).
Jesus also addressed spiritual thirst and hunger when He spoke to a large crowd outside Capernaum. The day before, He had met their physical needs by miraculously feeding over five thousand hungry people on a hill near the Sea of Galilee. But on this day, the crowds questioned him about what God wanted them to do. Jesus told them that they must "believe in the one [God] has sent" (John 6:29). (God isn't satisfied by what we do, but by whom we believe.) From there, the conversation went like this:
So they asked him, "What miraculous sign then will you give that we may see it and believe you? What will you do? Our forefathers ate the manna in the desert; as it is written: 'He gave them bread from heaven to eat.'"
Jesus said to them, "I tell you the truth, it is not Moses who has given you the bread from heaven, but it is my Father who gives you the true bread from heaven. For the bread of God is he who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world."
"Sir," they said, "from now on give us this bread."
Then Jesus declared, "I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty" (John 6:30-35).
In his book, Come Thirsty, Max Lucado writes:
You're acquainted with physical thirst. Stop drinking and see what happens. Coherent thoughts vanish, skin grows clammy, and vital organs shut down. Deprive your body of necessary fluid, and it will tell you.
Deprive your soul of spiritual water, and it will tell you. Dehydrated hearts send desperate messages. Snarling tempers. Waves of worry. Growing guilt and fear. Hopelessness. Resentment. Loneliness. Insecurity.
But you don't have to live with a dehydrated heart. God invites you to treat your thirsty soul as you would treat your physical thirst. Just visit the WELL and drink deeply.
Every day we eat bread (food) to keep us healthy and strong. We stay healthy and strong spiritually by continually communing with Jesus. He calls Himself the Bread of Life as well as the Living Water. In order for food and water to sustain and strengthen us physically, we must eat and drink it. Likewise, we need to call on Jesus each day to sustain us spiritually. Call on Him now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for the invitation to come, eat, drink, and be satisfied in You. You are all that I need, and more than enough. I pray that You will bear the weight of the burdens on my heart today, and ask that You would fill my soul with Your rest. Finally, please increase my cravings for You, Lord - so that you can be glorified in and through my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Spending time with the Lord through His Word is one great way to feed your soul. Read and meditate on Psalm 63:1-8.
Read it silently the first time, then read it again out loud.
When have you witnessed God's power in your life? Thank Him!
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Although your physical cravings might include dark chocolate, coffee, and warm, fresh bread - your soul constantly craves intimacy with God. Spend some time worshiping Him today. Sing to Him. My new CD, Uncluttered, is now available exclusively on my website. (It won't be in stores for a few more months!) The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Order your copy of Uncluttered today at: http://www.GwenSmith.net/store.
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls ... and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
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November 29, 2010
Time to Rest
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NIV) "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
When the Eastern shepherd brings his sheep back to the fold each night, he stands at the door, counting each one, placing his hand on the head of each animal as it enters the fold. The shepherd is diligent in this daily practice of touching his sheep. Why? If the sheep did not feel the daily touch of his shepherd, it would soon fail to respond to the voice of the shepherd, a reality that would spell disaster for the sheep who would not hear the warning shout of the shepherd when danger loomed. Sheep instinctively know that as long as they follow the shepherd, he will meet their every need. Even when they go through a dangerous valley, the shepherd is beside them. At the end of the day, the shepherd leads the flock back to the fold, a three-sided brush enclosure, and stands by the open door to examine each sheep as it enters. If the shepherd sees one sheep that is bruised or weary, he spreads refreshing oil on it to soothe and heal its wounds, and then gives the sheep a drink of cool water. In short, sheep are completely helpless and totally dependent upon the shepherd for every need.
Friend to Friend
I recently heard the frightening statistic that sleeping less than five hours produces the same response time as someone who is legally drunk. If that statement is true, I am in serious trouble because I have always been a "night person" and have cherished those precious, silent hours when the house was quiet. When I did climb into bed, sleep always came quickly - until the last few weeks. Insomnia is something new for me. I have come to dread the night and its silent but fierce battle with sleep. Tossing and turning, watching the hours creep by leaves a great deal of time to think, pray and learn. I have often taught and loved the promise that "He gives to His beloved in their sleep." As wonderful as that promise is, I am finding it very difficult to function on two or three hours of sleep and am ready to move on to a different classroom. I have tried everything from warm baths and warm milk to relaxation exercises and several herbal concoctions that were downright nasty. The sheep are counted and the blessings listed. I have solved several world problems but what world leader would listen to a woman with dark circles under her eyes who finds it hard to put a complete sentence together due to sleep deprivation?
Then a wonderful thing happened. I caught the flu. I know what you are thinking. Lack of sleep has made her crazy. True - but I was so sick that I was forced to see a doctor. During the course of her examination, she happened to ask how I was sleeping. Now I am certain she was not evenly remotely prepared for my response as frustration and exhaustion spilled out all over her nice, quiet office. Her eyes widened in surprise as I ranted and raved. When I finished my tirade, she smiled and quietly said, "Let's figure out what the problem is." Just like that!
We talked for over an hour about my life, the medications I was taking, every ache, pain and problem I was experiencing. After a thorough examination, she removed her glasses, sat down and smiled again. "I think I know what the problem is." Evidently, the insomnia is one side affect of a new medication I am taking. It makes most people sleepy but, in my case, causes insomnia. She made some adjustments and prescribed a new medication that enabled me to sleep better than I have in months. I could not believe it! I did not know whether to hug the doctor or deck her!
Where had she been all of these sleepless weeks and why had she waited so long to figure out the problem? You already know where I am going with this one. She had been there all along, waiting in her office for me, holding the answer in her hand. Desperation made me seek her help. God's plan is not for us to stumble through the hours and days of life - exhausted and depleted to the point of desperation, drowning in stress. We can choose to rest. We can learn to be still.
Matthew 11:28-29 (NCV) "Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives."
It seems that during the holiday season, we frantically race from activity to activity, desperately keeping track of the items on our "to do" lists, but losing sight of who and what and important. I am a Master List Maker! I have even been known to write down things on my list that I have done - just so I could mark them off. I know. But I tend to equate the success of my day with the length of those lists. I constantly battle this behavior...especially during the holidays.
Rest is usually way down on my list of things to do. I am such a slow learner in this area of life. Why, I don't need to rest because ...well, I am Superwoman, right? So very wrong! God is so good to "give" me rest and is so creative in His ways of doing so. Illness, cancelled appointments, missed flights, or unexpected company will force me to stop and rest, focusing on the important things in life like time with God, family, friends, and health. We can cheat this thing called "rest" short-term but the inevitable truth that we need and must rest will play out in our life.
During the holiday season, carve out time each day to rest. Get a good nights' sleep. Take a 10 minute walk. Learn the art of the 15 minute nap. Turn off your phone, don't answer the door and spend 30 minutes in total silence. Play a game with your children or visit a shut-in neighbor. Rest can come in many ways. Discover what replenishes you, what rests your soul, and make it a daily habit.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me when I abuse my physical body by not getting enough rest. I want to be obedient in this area, but Lord, it seems to be so hard for me. I need Your power to help me make the right choices about how I spend my time. I need Your strength and love to remind and encourage me to be obedient when it comes to rest. I want to praise You and worship You this holiday season by choosing to rest.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Think of one person who is replenishing in your life. Make a plan to spend time with that person this week.
Identify one activity that reduces stress in your life. Make a plan to incorporate that activity into your schedule this week.
Read Psalm 23 every day during the month of December and regularly measure your stress levels.
Make the commitment today to walk in obedience as you learn and choose to rest.
Ask a friend to hold you accountable in learning to rest.
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We are right there with you, girlfriend! I can feel the holiday stress slowly creeping over the horizon. Help! Let's pray for each other. Let's hold each other accountable and let's encourage each other to find daily time to rest.
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November 30, 2010
A Father Who Loves Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This then is how you should pray: 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name...'" (Matthew 6:6-9NIV).
Friend to Friend
One thing that makes the New Testament distinctively different from the Old Testament is that Jehovah God, the creator of the Universe and all it contains, invites us to call Him daddy. It is the name of God that Jesus referred to more than any other. When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, He said:
"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This then is how you should pray: 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name...' (Matthew 6:6-9).
If you are a parent, you can imagine how discouraging it would be if your children only talked to you when they wanted something. Quite the contrary, we talk to our children to discipline, instruct, nurture, train, comfort, encourage, guide, and teach. Our relationship with our Heavenly Father is much the same. We are called children of God and He longs to gather us under His wing like a mother hen and speak to us in the quietness of prayer. Our heavenly Father is always available and attentive, compassionate and caring, and interested and involved.
Sometimes, God wants to speak to us in our times of prayer simply to tell us how deeply He loves us. I will never forget a time of prayer I spent with a group of women just before I was to speak at an event. I had flown to Tennessee and moments before I went out to minister to the women who had gathered at the church, the leadership team held hands and prayed together. As one woman prayed, she said, "Sharon, God showed me today, just how precious you are to Him."
God's love washed over me and tears began to spill down my face. God loved me! He loved me! See, that's the message that I was going to share with the women at the conference, but in the hustle and bustle of preparation, God wanted to remind me that He loved me, too.
Today, how about talking to your heavenly daddy - not because you need anything - but just because you love Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today as a little child. I love You so much. Thank You for loving me and accepting me just the way I am. Thank You for being my heavenly Father Who loves me, cares for me, protects me, takes an interest in me, has dreams for me, watches over me, and provides for me. How blessed I am to have a daddy like You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you describe the perfect parent?
When you pray, how do you picture God?
God is the great I AM and cannot be confined to one particular image. However, today as you pray, picture Him as your Daddy.
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December 1, 2010
No Room
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 3:16 (NIV) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son."
Friend to Friend
I make room for things that are important to me. I eat two or three meals every day and sleep several hours each night even though my "to do" list is not much shorter today than it was yesterday. I will choose to play with a grandchild over cleaning the house any day of the week. I manage to find a place for that great piece of furniture I don't really need - but really like. After all, it was on sale. I like watches. Don't ask me why because I simply don't know. I only need one watch, but I own several. I will have lunch with a friend instead of running errands. And there is always room for chocolate! Silly examples - right? I wonder. I wonder what the innkeeper thought as he turned away the young man and his very pregnant wife that holy night so long ago. He had no room - it was that simple. Do we?
The Christmas season is here! Our calendars are already full, our bank accounts are closing in on empty and our hearts and lives are crowded with things we deem important, but have we made room for Jesus?
I simply cannot imagine a world without the presence of God and yet I often live my life as if He does not exist. A crisis hits and I try to handle it on my own. I don't understand the trials in my life while those who could care less about God seem to prosper. Instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness. Financial stress fuels worry. Instead of turning to God, I rely on what I can see and understand. I settle.
When I do cry out to God, He lovingly fills each dark corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, Jesus Christ steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything - absolutely everything!
Jesus could have come to us in many ways. The simplicity of His birth is extraordinary and sometimes hard to grasp. Jesus could have been born in a mansion. He was, after all, a King. Instead, He came to a dirty smelly manger and His birth was announced by common shepherds instead of Kings - the greatest of all miracles in the midst of total simplicity. Today, Jesus still wants to meet us in the midst of our simple daily lives. It seems too easy and too good to be true, doesn't it?
It was Christmas Eve and the family was preparing to attend the special service of their local church. Everyone was going except Dad, who was an honest man, a man who could not seem to wrap his logical mind around the story of God come to earth as a baby in a manger. He didn't want to be a hypocrite, pretending to worship a Savior he wasn't sure even existed, so he stayed home, built a fire to dispel the bitter cold of that winter night and began to read the paper, waiting for his family's return. Hearing a knock at the window, he turned to see a tiny bird trying to reach the warmth of the fire. The man opened the window but the bird refused to come in. Grabbing his coat, the man went out to the barn and opened the barn doors wide - but still, the bird refused to come in. The man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just one minute, I could lead the bird to safety." At that moment, he heard the church bells ring and finally understood why Jesus came to earth as a man - to become one of us so He could lead us to eternal safety.
The very heart of Christmas is Emanuel, God with us - with me - and with you. Christmas is not a date on a calendar. Christmas is a way of life that celebrates the presence of God in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do - the smile we give the harried stranger or the patience we choose in the crowd of impatient shoppers - the love that prompts the secret gift or the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit. God is with us - if we choose to make room for Him.
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. Thank You for sending Your Son to earth as a tiny baby in a manger. I celebrate the birth of Jesus and the gift of life that He brings. I choose to receive Your gift of love and forgiveness for my sins. I now surrender everything I am or ever hope to be to You. Please take control of my life and direct my paths. I promise to follow.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 3:16 once a day and then look for ways to share God's love with the people in your life.
Give a gift to someone you don't know.
Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner.
Offer to take an elderly neighbor shopping.
Put your faith into action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season.
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I pray that your life is filled with God's peace and joy this holiday season. I know it has been a difficult year for many of you. Remember - God is with you.
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December 2, 2010
Eating Crow
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life--in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing "(Philippians 2:14-16 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes we like what life serves up to us, and sometimes we don't, but most of the time it simply depends on the attitude of the person holding the spoon. Such was the case one evening when I went out to dinner with friends to the Sanitary Fish Market. I know that is a strange name for a seafood restaurant, but it was a great place that everyone frequented in Atlantic Beach, North Carolina. Since the food was good, I guess it was a nice plus to know that it was sanitary as well.
One evening, when I was eighteen-years-old, I went out to dinner with three friends. Three of us were Christians and the fourth was not. Larry was very macho and preferred the, "I'm in control of my destiny" approach to life. But we loved him anyway.
The three of us Christians usually took a moment to ask a blessing before we had a meal, but we had not eaten in a restaurant with Larry before. He was surprised and embarrassed when we bowed our heads to pray. Larry held his head high and proud as if to say, "I might be at the same table with these people, but I'm not one of them."
All four of us ordered clam chowder as an appetizer. We had the same waitress and same chowder, from the same pot. We three "holy rollers" (we acquired this name because of a 10-second prayer) dipped our spoons into our bowls and tasted chowder full of tender clams and steamy potatoes.
Then proud Larry dipped in his spoon to retrieve only broth. "Why is your chowder full of clams and potatoes," he demanded, "and all I've got is broth?"
Larry was about to call the waitress over and complain when I looked up and said, "Well, maybe it's because we asked God to bless ours and you didn't."
Larry didn't complain to the fine people at the Sanitary, but ate "crow" instead. It is amazing how God takes a grateful heart and fills it even more! Feeling empty today? Stop and praise God for His goodness. Feeling lonely today? Stop and thank God for His presence. Feeling anxious today? Stop and thank God for His provision.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, so many times I am quick to complain when I haven't even asked You to bless my day. Help me to have an attitude of gratitude and become a woman who talks to You regularly, thanks You consistently, and praises You throughout the day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Keep a list of all the times you complain today.
Keep a list of all the times you compliment or encourage someone today.
Keep a list of all the reasons you have to be thankful today.
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December 3, 2010
Holding Fast to the Faithful One
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed."
2 Corinthians 4:7-9
Friend to Friend
My husband and I were in a waiting period. His company had gone through a merger and was collapsing positions and territories, which left his employment in jeopardy. For months we didn't know if Brad would keep his job or if he would need to look for another one. During that time, God bid us to trust Him.
Choosing to trust God is so daily, isn't it? When I only looked at the "what-ifs" of Brad's job situation - the possible unemployment, the grueling process of job-hunting, the financial strain unemployment would bring, and the uncertainty of the economy - my faith and God-confidence shook and waned. Fear and doubt knocked on my heart, suitcases in hand, wanting to move in and take up residence. On the other hand, when I fixed my eyes on God, looked at His character and at the ways He had brought us through hard times in the past, my faith was strengthened. Courage, confidence and joy knocked on my heart! They are much better residents!
The Old Testament book of Ruth features the heart-warming story of Ruth and Naomi: two women who faced difficult circumstances and an uncertain future. Following the death of her husband and sons, Naomi decided to move back to her homeland of Israel. Though she freed her daughters-in-law to stay in their home country of Moab and re-marry, Ruth refused to leave Naomi's side.
Determined and loyal, Ruth held tightly to the mother-in-law she loved deeply and to the God of Israel whom she now called her own. Though our natural tendency in hard times is often to try to go it alone, I've learned from Ruth, and from my own experience, that in turbulent times it's vital that we hold fast to our faithful God and to the ones we love.
"Look," said Naomi, "your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her."
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her" (vv. 15-18).
God breathed hope into the souls of Naomi and Ruth through their kinsman-redeemer, Boaz. The book of Ruth goes on to tell a fascinating account of how God lovingly cared for and blessed Naomi as He used the faithful friendship and kindness of Ruth to "renew her life and sustain her" (4:15). She traveled back to Bethlehem as a broken, depressed and hopeless widow but was comforted and restored by the loving hand of God.
Like Naomi, when I experience difficult times - like the one Brad and I were facing last fall - I must choose to trust God. Some days I choose well. Some days I don't. Choosing to trust is essential.
How can we choose to trust God? I've found that my courage to trust is bolstered by playing praise music, meditating on God's goodness, reading Scripture, and praying. Those things collectively renew my mind and strengthen my faith.
No matter what challenges you face today, take comfort that God knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Hold fast to the faithful One. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God's ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He's powerful, and He's able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior - when you choose to trust Him - you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You know exactly where I am right now and You know the circumstance of my life. Please give me the courage to be gracious in my relationships, and help me to trust You today. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the book of Ruth. (It's only 4 chapters!)
Look for the ways that Ruth and Naomi held fast to God and to each other through trying circumstances.
List three difficult times that God has brought you through.
Examine your heart to see if there is any fear or doubt hanging around. Then choose to trust God as you lay each situation down before the Faithful One.
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December 6, 2010
On Our Way Home
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 13:14 (NLT) "For this world is not our permanent home; we are looking forward to a home yet to come."
Friend to Friend
It had been a wonderful evening with our daughter, Danna, and her sixteen-month-old son, Justus. We ate dinner at one of our favorite restaurants to celebrate Danna's graduation from school and the fact that we had all survived. Since our daughter is basically a party looking for a place to happen and really knows how to tell a story, we laughed until we cried as Danna described her encounter that day with a teacher who seemed to be preoccupied with blue cornbread. I am not kidding! Justus may not have understood what his mom was saying, but he joined in the family celebration with gusto - laughing and clapping his little hands. After a delicious meal, we climbed into the car and headed home.
When we pulled into our neighborhood, Justus began clapping and pointing ... at something. We were clueless until we pulled into the driveway - and our sweet little man laughed and bounced with excitement in his car seat. Justus was glad to be home.
At that precise moment, a line from one of my favorite movies, Apollo 13, popped into my mind. "Houston, we have a problem" may very well be one of the greatest understatements of all time. The astronauts faced seemingly impossible odds of getting back to earth but refused to give up the fight until they splashed down in the waters of - home.
We all long for a safe place - home - when life brutally thrusts us into a world of fear and uncertainty. Shaky circumstances rattle our faith. Relief seems like a remote possibility and that light at the end of the tunnel really is the headlight of another trial headed our way. The hits just keep coming and we wonder if our world will ever be right again.
I have discovered a truth that surfaces in my heart every Christmas. We all come into this world with a sense of being lost. Tucked into the corner of our souls is a feeling of restlessness ... a longing for home, for something or someone eternal. That longing will never be satisfied outside of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He holds each today and every tomorrow in His hands. Nothing and no one but Jesus Christ can fill that "God-shaped" hole in our heart.
I have come to cherish that desperate cry of my heart that drives me to my knees and into the arms of God, my Father. Each and every time I come to Him, He whispers, "It will be all right. You are not home - yet."
No, this broken world is not my final home because I know God and He knows me. I have surrendered my life to Him and can face tomorrow because Jesus Christ lives. Yes, this world is just the beginning of the eternity for which I was created. I am just passing through, but while I am here, I have a God-sized job to do, an extraordinary mission to complete and a wonderful purpose to fulfill. So do you! It doesn't get any better than that, girlfriend.
As you dive into your hectic holiday schedule, remember that one day, we will be home - with Him - but until then, let's celebrate here! Guard your hearts and mind by filling them with God's Word. Hold fast to the true meaning of Christmas and don't let go! Look for ways to share the message of the manger, embracing that longing for home as a sweet reminder that one day we will celebrate the birth of Jesus in Heaven. What a Christmas that will be! We are on our way home!
Let's Pray
Father, I love You and am so thankful for the hope that life holds because I know You. I praise You and celebrate the truth that I am not alone, nor will I ever be. I will lack nothing because You are my Provider. I can sing in the midst of every storm because You are sufficient. I praise You and long for Home, but until then, help me to be all that You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Have you ever experienced loneliness or a sense of loss during or after the Christmas season? I encourage you to prepare for it beforehand. The best way to get ready for a difficult time is to stay ready for a difficult time. In other words, now is the time to prepare your heart and mind for the holidays.
Make time each day to be alone with God.
Pour out your dreams and desperation to Him.
Read Psalm 23 once a day.
Invest at least 15 minutes in solitude each day, allowing your soul to "catch up."
Make a list of the top five joy thieves in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Prayerfully choose five verses of Scripture about peace. Write these verses on a 3X5 card and carry it with you through the holidays, referring to it while you wait in line, while you are stuck in traffic, at every meal, etc. Consider making this idea a family project.
After the holidays are over, evaluate the difference this preparation made in your Christmas celebration.
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I love this time of year - mostly. I have to be careful that in the midst of the birthday celebration, I don't miss the birthday child - Jesus. Join me in a commitment to keep Him at the heart of this holiday season.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you manage holiday stress. It is the perfect Christmas gift from you - to you!
Check out these two new resources now available in Mary's online store:
NEW E-Bible Study: Take This Job and Love It!
NEW CD: Divine Surprises
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss her new study beginning today, The Secret of a Merry Christmas. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2010 studies. But hurry! This offer ends December 15.
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December 7, 2010
I Want, I Need, God Wants me to Have
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Timothy 6:6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Mary Elizabeth was strolling down the cookie aisle at Wal-Mart with her three-year-old daughter, Sarah, riding comfortably in the "front seat" of the shopping buggy. Suddenly, Sarah spied a box of sugar cookies, coated with pink icing and decorated with multi-colored sprinkles.
Her eyes brightened with enthusiasm as she put on her best cherub face. "Mommy, I want those cookies."
"Oh, Sarah," replied her mom, "we don't need any cookies today. We have plenty at home. Maybe another time."
Ten minutes later, as Mary Elizabeth passed through the checkout line, Sarah tried again. "Mommy, I need those cookies."
"No, Sarah, you don't need those cookies. We have plenty at home, and I'm not buying cookies today."
Finally, as they pulled out of the Wal-Mart parking lot, Sarah gave it one last try. "Mommy, I think God wants me to have those cookies."
I laughed as my friend told me her story. It was a nervous laugh. For just a moment, I saw myself riding through life in a shopping buggy, pointing at first one thing and then another whining, "I want ...I need ...God wants me to have."
Sarah already had learned our mechanism for justifying our whims. Whether its sugar cookies with sprinkles on top or a new red convertible, given enough time we can justify our wants following that same progression. For Sarah, she went from I want to I need to God wants me to have in a matter of minutes. For us, it may take a little longer, but the tendency is still there.
However, God is very clear that He will supply us with everything we need and that can be a far cry from everything we want.
As you enter into the holiday season filled with television commercials, magazine ads, and newspaper flyers enticing your senses, pray that God will help you focus on what's really important ... celebrating the gift of His Son.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Forgive me when I act like a child and want more, more, more. Forgive me when I go from "I want" to "God wants me to have" in the blink of an eye. I know You desire me to have a thankful heart - a contented heart that wants only one thing ... more of You. I say with the Psalmist, "The Lord is my Shepherd. I have everything I need."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Have you ever justified your wants by saying that God wants you to have them?
Ouch! That hurts, doesn't it?
Ponder these two verses today.
"And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19 NIV).
"His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (2 Peter 1:3 NIV).
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December 8, 2010
Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:8-12 "Now there were in the same country shepherds living out in the fields, keeping watch over their flock by night. And behold, an angel of the Lord stood before them, and the glory of the lord shone around them, and they were greatly afraid. Then the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people. For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger" (NKJV).
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Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday, dear Jesus!
Happy Birthday to You!
Christmas is the birthday of Jesus Christ. I have always wondered why we typically celebrate His birth by giving gifts to everyone but Him. What gifts does He want from us? What gifts are fit for the King? To answer that question let's go back to that first Christmas and see what gifts He received that holy night.
The gift of trust
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Mary, the mother of Jesus Christ, was a teenage girl, probably fourteen or fifteen years old, engaged to Joseph when an angel appeared to her with the startling message that she would have a baby, a son named Jesus. Since she was still a virgin, Mary did not understand the message but she knew the One who had sent it - and that was enough. Trust is a gift fit for the King.
The gift of obedience
John 14:15 "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
Joseph's engagement to Mary was legally binding. Imagine his shock and confusion when he learned that Mary was pregnant. Knowing that he could not possibly be the baby's father, Joseph's first reaction was to divorce Mary quietly. An angel from God appeared and told Joseph to "keep her but do not sleep with her!" Now Joseph's response could have been many things - but he chose obedience.
A small child riding in the car wanted to stand in the front seat by his father. The dad explained the importance of a seat belt and told the little boy to sit down. He refused, crossing his little arms in defiance. The father physically sat his son down and buckled him into the seat, bragging on the little boy for his obedience. With a defiant glare, his son said, "I may be sitting down on the outside but I'm still standing up on the inside." Obedience is an active choice to do what God wants us to do. Obedience is not just an outward motion - it is also an inward attitude - and a gift fit for the King.
The gift of praise
Psalm 50:6 "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord."
When the shepherds heard the angels' news, they went to see Jesus for themselves. After they saw the baby, they left praising God! Anytime we are in the presence of God, praise will result. Praise is also a continual choice that we make again and again until it becomes a habit. Don't let anyone or any circumstance keep you from praising God! Praise keeps us kneeling before the manger and is a gift fit for the King.
The gift of sacrifice
The Wise Men came; bringing gifts that required sacrifice because they knew that true worship always involves sacrifice. Gold, a precious metal, Incense, a rare and expensive product used in worship and Myrrh, an expensive perfume were the gifts they brought to Jesus. Sacrifice goes beyond what is required or expected. The best gift - the most expensive and extravagant gift - should go to the one whose birthday we celebrate. Gifts of trust, obedience, praise and sacrifice please God and are gifts fit for the King.
In other words, the best gift that we can give God at Christmas is US! May the words of this children's song be the prayer of our hearts this Christmas season:
"I'm gonna wrap up myself for Christmas
And tie me with a big red bow.
That's what I'm giving to Jesus.
It's a present He'll like I know."
Let's Pray
Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, everything I hope to be. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Have a birthday party for Jesus. Bake a cake, sing "Happy Birthday" and worship Him by surrendering to His plan and provision for your life.
Leave one Christmas decoration out this year as a reminder of His birth and what His presence means every single day.
Consider the following questions:
What is the meaning of Christmas in your life?
How can you lead your family to celebrate the birth of Jesus?
What has been the most meaningful part of this Christmas season so far? Why?
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I pray that this Christmas season is a true celebration of Jesus Christ in your life. Carve out time today to spend alone with Him. Praise and worship Him. He is Friend of the wounded heart and the Great Physician. He is our Everything and He is Emmanuel, God with us.
Don't let stress steal your joy this Christmas! Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you manage holiday stress. It is the perfect Christmas gift from you - to you!
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December 9, 2010
The Women of Christmas
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Surely the arm of the Lord is not to short to save, nor his ear to dull to hear" (Isaiah 59:1 NIV).
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When the writers of the Old Testament penned the words to the long lists of lineages, the so-and-so begat so-and-so's, they always listed the males. Nary a time do you find a woman's name in the list. But when we turn the page from the Old Testament to the New Testament, we see God honoring women in a brand new way. Even in the lineage of Jesus recorded in Matthew chapter one, we see four women in addition to Mary in the list! For that time in history, that was quite radical!
Now, if you were going to be part of this liberating radical movement to recognize women in the Holy Scriptures, whom would you pick? Oh, I'd probably include Mrs. Noah. She had to be a very patient, submissive wife to be able to put up with all those animals and Noah's wild ideas.
Or perhaps I'd pick Mrs. Moses. Zipporah must have been a very godly woman to allow her husband to travel about in the dessert for all those years. And besides, any woman who has a husband in leadership knows the sacrifices she must have made.
Or perhaps I'd pick Sarah. After all, she did bear a child when she was ninety.
But no. Those are not the women that God chose to be listed in the lineage of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He chose Rahab - a redeemed woman who had been a prostitute before she joined the children of God. He chose Tamar - who had an incestuous relationship with her father-in-law. He chose Bathsheba - who had an affair with King David and bore a son. And He chose Ruth - a woman from a cursed nation.
Oh friend, do you see it? I am so glad that these are the women that God chose. Through these women we see there is no place so far from God that He cannot save us, redeem us, and ultimately use us for His glory. His arm is not too short to save us from the deepest pit imaginable. That was true for those four women, and it is true for you and me. That, dear one, is the story of Christmas.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Redeemer, I am so thankful that you choose the weak things of the world to shame the wise. I am one of those "weak things" and I am constantly amazed that You chose me and use me for Your glory. Praise You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Over the next few days, go back and read the stories of the women listed in Jesus' genealogy and see what you can learn about their lives.
Rahab: Joshua 2
Tamar: Genesis 38:1-30
Bathsheba: 2 Samuel 11
After reading about them, answer these questions. What did God take them from? What did God take them to?
What does this tell you about the people that God can use?
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This is not your typical fluffy Christmas message - but it is why Jesus came. To save the lost, heal the sick, and use the redeemed. If you would like to learn more about God's transforming power, see Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Pain of your Past. And for more ways to keep Jesus the focus of the holiday season, see Sharon's book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas, Ideas from A-Z.
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December 10, 2010
The Fire Swamps
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength." (Isaiah 40:30-31, NIV)
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There's a scene in the whimsical and quirky film The Princess Bride in which some bad guys were chasing the movie's two main characters, Princess Buttercup and Wesley. In order to escape, Buttercup and Wesley ran into the treacherous Fire Swamp. (Insert scary music and creepy feelings here.) The Fire Swamp has three challenges: fire spurts, quicksand, and the ROUS - rodents of unusual size. (Stay with me...) At one point in the Fire Swamp adventure, Princess Buttercup fell into a pit of dry quicksand, instantly vanishing. Her brave hero, Wesley, quickly grabbed a sturdy vine then plunged in to save his true love. Moments later both characters emerged from the quicksand gasping for breath, stunned by the events that just took place.
Life clutter can sometimes consume us just as fast and leave us gasping for breath, stunned. When we find ourselves in the fire swamps, we ask question after question: How did this happen? How did I get here? How do I get out of this scary place? Does anyone know I'm in this pit? Who will be my hero?
Falling into the quicksand of situational fire swamps becomes a greater risk when we run on empty. Without a doubt, I'm more vulnerable on the days when my schedule is so full that my God-time is minimized. You probably know what it feels like to have a day filled with activity but a heart filled with empty. I imagine you, too, feel at times as if all you do is work, work, work and give, give, give. You feel lonely among crowds of people and wonder if anyone really sees you or if anyone really cares. At times, you have too many obligations, too much stress, and not enough strength.
In order to survive these pitfalls, we must wait upon God - the One who won't grow tired or weary. He has strength readily available for us and knows where to direct our steps. "He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV)
King David said it like this, "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God" (Psalm 40:1-3a).
Fire swamps of life come and go. There's really no avoiding them. We can, however, be spiritually prepared to face their challenges. God equips us - strengthens us - as we wait on Him. As we trust in Him. As we dwell with Him.
Have you refueled in His presence lately? Take time to meet with God one-on-one today. As the psalmist wrote, "Let us go to His dwelling place; let us worship at His footstool - arise, O LORD, and come to Your resting place, You and the ark of Your might" (Psalm 132:7-8).
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are my Strong Tower, my Deliverer, and my Shelter. I'm running to You now. Please renew my strength. Please lead me with Your Holy Spirit and guide my day.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Are there obligations in your life that could be eliminated? Take a few moments to consider your schedule and your circumstances. What needs to stay and what needs to go? Make a list and then make an action plan.
Go to God with your list and lean in to listen to His leading!
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December 13, 2010
Long Walk Part of Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, "Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him" (Matthew 2: 1 NIV).
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An African boy listened carefully as his teacher explained why Christians give presents to each other on Christmas day. "The gift is an expression of our joy over the birth of Jesus and our friendship for each other," she said.
When Christmas day came, the boy brought to the teacher a seashell of lustrous beauty. "Where did you ever find such a beautiful shell?" the teacher asked as she gently fingered the gift.
The youth told her that there was only one spot where such extraordinary shells could be found. When he named the place, a certain bay several miles away, the teacher was left speechless.
"Why...why, it's gorgeous...wonderful, but you shouldn't have gone all that way to get a gift for me."
His eyes brightening, the boy answered, "Long walk part of gift."
I just love that story. During this holiday season, I watch as people scurry about swiping those plastic cards through the credit card machines faster than a speeding bullet. And yet, God has already shown us that the most precious gifts cannot be bought or sold. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV).
The magi also knew about the joy of giving. While they gave gold, frankincense, and myrrh to the Christ child, they also gave another gift ... a long walk. We don't know how far the magi traveled, but we do know that it was a distance that took months, perhaps years. Their long walk was part of the gift.
I wonder how far we are willing to go to worship Jesus ... to bring our gifts to him. I wonder how far out of the way we will go to praise him. Do we only give to Him when it is convenient or easy? Or do we give what He wants most - a portion of ourselves, our very lives.
I think the little African boy had the right idea. The real gift wasn't the shell; it was the sacrifice he had to make to give it.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the gift You gave us through Your Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that I will keep gift-giving in perspective this holiday season and give gifts from the heart rather than the pocketbook. Help me to see that a "long walk," or a portion of myself, is the greatest gift of all.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Describe a time when someone's sacrificial gift meant a lot to you.
Describe the feeling you had when you gave a portion of yourself, such as your time, to someone.
Try to imagine the teacher who received the shell. What thoughts do you think came to mind when she looked at it year after year? Do you think it was the shell itself, or the heart of the boy who gave it to her, that meant so much?
Now, imagine how God looks at our gifts we give to Him? Do you think He reflects on the gifts themselves or the heart of the child who gives it?
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It is easy to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 14, 2010
The Joy of Giving
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 9:7 (NCV) "Each one should give as you have decided in your heart to give. You should not be sad when you give, and you should not give because you feel forced to give. God loves the person who gives happily.'
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We make a living by what we get out of life, but we make a life by what we give and how we give it. I am convinced that God loves to see us give for no other reason than the joy of giving.
The true story is told of a self-made millionaire who had lived in New York City his entire life. Born and raised in a ghetto, he worked hard and achieved much. Anyone who knew this man would testify to the fact that he was generous - to a fault, some would say. One year, the man was disturbed by an attitude of selfishness and greed that seemed to pervade the Christmas holiday season and everyone around him. Not one to condemn, the millionaire decided that since he had been given so much, it was up to him to do his part in combating greed and came up with an unusual plan. Wearing a disguise, this man stuffed his pockets with $100 dollar bills and set out for a walk on the streets of New York City. When he saw someone in need, he whipped out one of the bills, pressed it into that person's hands and with a "Merry Christmas" and made his way down the street. "It was the most wonderful part of my holiday season," the man reported, and he has been doing it every since.
When our children were in middle school, we owned what I affectionately called a "Mini-Gym." It was a set of bar bells, a weight lifting bench and a few free weights. Both Jered and Danna loved their "gym" and used it almost every day. When Christmas rolled around, we learned that two of their good friends, Jeff and Jeremy, were not going to have much of a Christmas because their dad had lost his job. Jered came up with a plan. "Mom," he said, "Danna and I have talked about it. We think that Jeff and Jeremy would love to have a gym like ours, but we don't want them to know we gave it to them because they might be embarrassed. What do you think?" I thought I was in the presence of two joyful givers and quickly joined them in their plan.
A few days before Christmas, Jered and I took the gym apart and loaded it in our car while Danna found a huge red bow and made a sign that read, "Merry Christmas!" Danna then blew up balloons while Jered dug out some Christmas lights. We enlisted the help of a neighbor who had a key to our friend's house. Her job was to let us know when our friends left and then unlock the back door so we could complete our mission. We parked down the street until the neighbor called, giggling, to let us know the coast was clear.
Once we were inside, we raced to assemble the gym, tie the balloons and tape the lights to the front door. We then high-tailed it home as if the FBI was hot on our trail! The neighbor reported that just minutes after the boys and their mom returned she heard shouting and "whooping and hollering." The joy of that Christmas still lingers today.
Greed doesn't hold a candle to joyful giving. Greed is never satisfied and never at rest. There is always something more to be gained and someone else to outdo. I'm afraid our motives are all too often self-serving when it comes to giving. Our pride is at stake, so we give to impress others. Perhaps we give out of fear and guilt, hoping to buy God's forgiveness from our sin. People are watching, so we give in order to gain their approval.
God is much more interested in our motive for giving than in the gift itself. If that motive is tainted with greed of any kind, the gift simply does not count. This year, before you give, ask yourself, "What's in it for me?" If the answer is "nothing," then go ahead and give the gift. Be a joyful giver.
Let's Pray
Father, You have given me so much. Thank You for the blessings in my life. Thank You for meeting my every need. Now help me to give with a joyful heart. I want You to be pleased and honored by the gifts I give this Christmas.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 11:24-25 "Some people give much but get back even more. Others don't give what they should and end up poor. Whoever gives to others will get richer; those who help others will themselves be helped."
What truths about giving do you see in these verses?
How can you apply those truths to the gifts you give this Christmas?
Have you considered the fact that your gift may very well be the answer to someone's prayer?
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I simply cannot "out-give" God. It seems that the more I give, the more I receive. How about you? I would love to hear your story! Send me an e-mail and let's encourage each other to be joyful givers.
Don't let stress steal your joy this Christmas! Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you manage holiday stress. It is the perfect Christmas gift from you - to you!
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December 15, 2010
Who are Those Wise Men Anyway?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, "Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews?" We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him." Matthew 2:1-2 NIV.
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There has been quite a bit on confusion over the years about the "Wee Three Kings of Orientar." Who were they? Wise men? Magi? Kings? How old was Jesus when they arrived? Did they get there on Christmas night? Or was Jesus a toddler by the time they arrived? The rough and rowdy Herdsmen in The Greatest Christmas Pageant Ever, thought a ham was a much more practical gift than gold, frankincense, and myrrh.
Matthew 2:1-12 tells the story of the wise men (KJV) or magi (NAS) who came from the east to worship the new King of the Jews. Traditionally they have been referred to as Kings, but nowhere in Scripture is that confirmed. We don't know exactly how many of them there were, but again, traditionally we've celebrated three, because of the three gifts.
Most likely, they did not show up in the stable at the advent of Christ's birth. Matthew 2:11 says that they "came into the house and saw the child," indicating that Mary and Joseph had moved to a home from the stable. We're not sure how old Jesus was when they arrived. Some sources say He was as old as two years.
Apparently, God did not think all these details were important. But He did give specific details about the gifts that the wise men brought for Jesus: gold, frankincense and myrrh. Gold stood for the riches of a king, showing us that Jesus is the King of Kings. Frankincense was incense used by the priests in the temple worship, showing us that Jesus is our High Priest who goes before the Heavenly Father and intercedes for us. And myrrh was a perfume used in burial services, pointing us to Jesus' death on the cross - a holy sacrifice for our sins.
This Christmas, as you think of the wise men, ponder the gifts they brought and the rich meaning behind them. Jesus is your King that guides you, your High Priest who prays for you, and the Messiah who came to give His life so that you might live.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for sending Your Son - the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords, the one and only sacrifice for my sins. Thank You that He became flesh and dwelt with us, He left His throne to walk among us, and hung on the cross to die for us.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you know Jesus as your King? If so, what does that mean to you?
Do you know Jesus as your High Priest who prays for you? If so, what that mean to you?
Do you know Jesus as the One who gave His life as a sacrifice for your sins? If so, what does that mean to you?
Now, look at your answers above. You have just written a wonderful description of who Jesus is, why He came, and why the wise men brought their gifts.
Idea: If you have small children, here's a great holiday idea. One way to emphasize the journey of the wise men is to place them a short distance away from the nativity displayed in your home. Each day, move the trio a little closer, until they finally arrive on Christmas Day.
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For more holiday ideas, see Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It is packed with ways from A-Z with ways to keep Jesus the focus of the holiday season.
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December 16, 2010
Unsearchable
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I will extol You, my God, O King, and I will bless Your name forever and ever. Every day I will bless You, and I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable." (Psalm 145:1-3, NASB)
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I fell in love with my husband half-my-life ago, yet with fifteen years of marriage under my belt, there are still moments that I shake my head and wonder, "Who is that man?" And while I may not have every mystery about him solved, I do know my husband. I know his voice, his touch, and his quirks. I'm a witness to his character, his personality, and his ways. The same is true about my relationship with God. Over the years, I have learned to hear His voice, to recognize His touch, and to understand some basic truths of who He is.
There are so many revelations of God in His Word. The Bible boasts of His greatness, glory, honor, and character. We know that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8), that God's grace is sufficient for every repentant heart, and that His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We know that His name is above all other names (Philippians 2:9), that there is no other like Him (Jeremiah 10:6), and that His wisdom holds secrets that are hidden from before time began (I Corinthians 2:7). And for as much as we know about the LORD, our knowledge of Him is but a fraction of a grain of sand as held up to the all the beaches on earth. God is a majesty mystery. He's knowable, yet unsearchable!
"Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable." (Psalm 145:3, NASB)
Though He is the master Creator who hung each star in the sky and calls them by name, He wants you and me to draw near to Him in love, to trust Him, to know Him intimately, and to worship Him wholeheartedly. God invites us to join Him in a vibrant dance of abundant life through His Son, Jesus Christ. How extraordinarily unsearchable is that?
Our amazing Heavenly Father bids each and every one of us to come to Him with questions, to be held by His love, to find peace, hope, and healing in His Son. He calls us to seek Him through prayer and to experience new revelations of Him through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
Pastor John Piper wrote, "God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him." The voice of all of creation shouts His praise, friend! I encourage you to pause in this moment to consider Him...to respond to Him...to meditate on His glorious splendor. As you do, He will become the all-satisfying desire of your heart, while at the same time, He will stir up a hunger in your soul to know Him even more.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your greatness truly is unsearchable! I pray that You will continue to stir up a hunger in my soul to know all the mystery of You that remains. Please cause me to think bigger thoughts of You, and to acknowledge You in all my ways.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This devotion was inspired by a worship song that I co-wrote called, UNSEARCHABLE. Take a moment to read through the lyric. Speak it out loud!
UNSEARCHABLE
By Sue Smith and Gwen Smith
Lord I know that Your grace is sufficient for me
I know I am held by Your love
And You're there when I call
You are strong when I'm weak
You delight over me from above
And You stir up a hunger that I can't explain
To know all the mystery of You that remains
Unsearchable greatness
Unsearchable wisdom
Unsearchable mercy to me
I am lost in the wonder of all that I know
Knowing there's much more to see
Cause You are unsearchable
You are unsearchable
Lord, I boast in Your glory that humbles the stars
Your name has such power and might
And Your goodness and kindness
Have captured my heart
Your Word keeps giving me life
And You stir up a hunger that I can't explain
to know all the mystery of You that remains
Chorus
Hear the voice of all creation crying out!
Now... Visit my facebook page (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) to listen to the song and respond in worship. (Turn on your speakers!)
Read Jeremiah 33:3. "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." What does this verse mean to you? What does this verse tell you about the rewards of calling on our Lord? Thank Him for hearing your prayers and for healing your pains. Be lost in the wonder of Him.
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Gwen's song Unsearchable is the title track to her live worship CD, which is now available for only $1.99 when you order her new CD, Uncluttered. Order your copies today at http://www.gwensmith.net/store/specials.htm
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December 17, 2010
Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti
Pam Farrel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend",
Pam Farrel.
Today's Truth
"Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God" Romans 15:7.
Friend to Friend
Why is communication with the opposite gender so difficult? Because Men are like Waffles, and Women are Like Spaghetti. That's our way of explaining Genesis 1:27:
"So God created man in his own image, . . . male and female he created them."
So how can we understand how God created the opposite gender? Men are like waffles. Men process life in boxes. If you look down at a waffle, you see a collection of boxes separated by walls. That is typically how a man processes life. Their thinking is divided up into boxes that have room for one issue and one issue only. The first issue of life goes in the first box, the second goes in the second box and so on. The typical man then spends time in one box at a time and one box only. When a man is at work, he is at work. When he is in the garage tinkering around, he is in the garage tinkering. When he is watching TV, he is WATCHING TV! Social scientists call this "compartmentalizing."
As a result of thinking through life in boxes, men are natural problem solvers. They enter a box, size up the "problem" that exists and formulates a solution. A man strategically organizes his life in boxes and then spends most of his time in the boxes he can succeed in. And when he brings up a subject to talk about, he actually thinks it is that subject you will be discussing. He likes to stay "in the box."
In contrast to men's waffle-like approach, women process life more like a plate of spaghetti. If you look at a plate of spaghetti, you notice that there are individual noodles that all touch one another. If you attempted to follow one noodle around the plate, you would intersect a lot of other noodles and you might even switch to another noodle seamlessly. That is how women face life. This is why women are typically better at multi-tasking than men. You can talk on the phone, prepare a meal, make a shopping list, work on the planning for tomorrow's business meeting, give instructions to your children as they are going out to play and close the door with your foot without skipping a beat!
As a result, most women are in a pursuit of connecting life together so they solve problems by talking things through. This creates significant stress for couples because while she is making all the connections, he is frantically jumping boxes trying to keep up with the conversation! The man's eyes are rolling back in his head while the tidal wave of information is swallowing him up. When she is done, she feels better and he is overwhelmed. The conversation might look something like this:
Honey, I was driving by your favorite truck store yesterday, you know the one where you got the cup holder? Right by your truck store is my favorite dress store, and there is the cutest suit in the window. It's my color, you know I went to that seminar on colors and I found out I was a "winter" so I knew if I got this suit you would say, "Oh Baby!" and I love that! You know the suit reminded me of the one Mrs. Clinton wore for that press conference a few years ago. You know when she was talking about Eleanor Roosevelt talking to her? I wanted to say, "Hillary, Eleanor is dead!" That's so weird, thinking you are hearing from a dead person. Kind of like that new age stuff I have been hearing is in the schools. What if our kids get some of that in the classroom? I think we should stop and pray for the kids.
He has been frantically jumping boxes, trying to keep up, and wondering, "Where is this conversation going?" And while you think he is praying he is really asking, "So what about my truck?"
Today, express your appreciation to your "waffleman" (your husband, son, dad, brother, or male co-worker) and his compartmentalizing, problem-solving DNA. Look for the upside of the male gender as you interact.
Let's Pray
Lord, the men in my life are so different than I am. Please help me value, appreciate and compliment the guys in my world today. Help me see them from Your perspective not mine.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The question I am asked most often as I speak for women's conferences is, "How can I get the man in my life to open up to me?" So whether it is your spouse, your son, your dad, brother or friend, keep these things in mind as you seek to emotionally connect:
· Men like to spend time in "boxes" where they feel successful and comfortable.
· Men are more likely to open up and share when they are in these comfortable "boxes."
· Men are slower to reveal themselves and share emotionally than we are.
· Stay on subject or "in the box" he is interested in talking about.
· The best way to get a man to open up is to go into his favorite "box" (join him in what he loves best) and be a good listener.
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My husband likes to quote his favorite "philosopher" when speaking on gender differences: Rocky Balboa of the Rocky movie. When asked by Adrian's brother, "What you doin' with my sister?" Rocky replied, "I got gaps, she got gaps, we fill each other's gaps." Men are like Waffles, and Women are Like Spaghetti --those differences can work for us!
Today, make an effort to look at the positive side of the opposite gender of your husband, son, dad, brother, friends and co-workers. When he brings up a subject to talk about, today, just try it - talk about THAT subject - stay in the box! To learn more ways to value the "waffle" in your life, order Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti at www.billandpam.org.
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December 20, 2010
Ho! Ho! Ho! Help!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:16-20 (NIV) "So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told."
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues." I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it or have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing - even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and home owner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first - until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold but was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level - refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay. Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place or push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sink hole waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. Before we realize it, the dark, slimy pit swallows us up. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend!
Make this Christmas season a time of praise. Choose to focus on the victories and joys you have experienced during the year and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings, if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, choose an attitude of joy by focusing your mind on the things of heaven - not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
· What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
· How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
· How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can your choice to "ponder" on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made. Make a plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Take a few moments to re-visit last year's holiday season. What was the best part of those holidays for you? What changes do you need to make this year so that the way you celebrate Christmas honors God?
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23.
One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 10.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
Start 2011 right! Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to deal with stress.
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December 21, 2010
Ready for Christmas?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near" (Matthew 3:2 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It seems like everywhere you go during the month of December people ask the same question. At the grocery checkout counter - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the bank drive through window - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the doctor's office - "Are you ready for Christmas?"
I think the answer to that question depends on how you define "ready." Let me ask you this question: "Are you ready for Jesus?" Now that puts the idea of being ready in a completely different Christmas light, doesn't it?
John the Baptist was sent by God to get the people ready to meet Jesus. Here's what Matthew had to say about him:
In those days, John the Baptist came preaching in the Desert of Judea and saying, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near." This is he who was spoken of through the prophet Isaiah:
"A voice of one calling in the desert, 'Prepare the way for the Lord; make straight paths for him.'"..."People went out to him from Jerusalem and all Judea and the whole region of the Jordan. Confessing their sins, they were baptized by him in the Jordan River" (Matthew 3:1-3, 5-6).
We don't like the words "repent" or "repentance" very much. They mean "to make a radical change in one's life, to turn and go in the opposite direction from sin (another word we're not too fond of today) to God". Repentance involves an element of grief over the way we have lived apart from God and a decision to run toward the Father. That was God's idea of the way to prepare for Christ's arrival in the book of Matthew, and it is still God's idea of preparing to worship Him today. Now that's what I call getting ready for Christmas!
Let's reflect for a moment on the words to this poem and then answer the question, "Are you ready for Christmas?"
"Ready for Christmas," she said with a sigh
As she gave a last touch to the gifts piled high...
Then wearily sat for a moment AND READ
Til soon, very soon, she was nodding her head.
Then quietly spoke a voice in her dream,
"Ready for Christmas, what do you mean?"
She woke with a start and a cry of despair.
"There's so little time and I've still to prepare.
Oh, Father! Forgive me, I see what You mean!
Yes, more than the giving of gifts and a tree.
It's the heart swept clean that He wanted to see,
A heart that is free from bitterness and sin.
So be ready for Christmas - and ready for Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I want to be ready for Jesus today and every day. I come to You now in repentance for my sins: my sin of selfishness, stubbornness, and rebellion. I turn from my self-centeredness today and commit to keep my focus on You. God, I cannot do this on my own. I am not able. So I ask that You fill me with the power of Your Holy Spirit. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think it means to be "ready for Christmas?"
What do you think it means to be ready for Jesus?
Go back and read the parable of the ten virgins in Matthews 25:1-13. Notice the difference between the five who were ready and the five who were not. Which group more resembles your readiness for Christ?
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It is hard not to be caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what is important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you will love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas by Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration that will help you truly get ready for Christmas!
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December 22, 2010
What Translation Are You Using?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 8:1 "Knowledge puffs you up with pride, but love builds up."
Friend to Friend
As a teenager, I can remember feeling sorry for my mother because - well, she just didn't seem to know much about anything. When I graduated from high school and went to college, I think she must have taken some classes herself because she seemed to get smarter every time we talked. And when I graduated from college and moved out on my own, I began to realize just how brilliant my mother really was.
Mama raised three children on her own and often worked three jobs a day to put food on the table while attending nursing school. She studied - a lot. I can still see her cooking dinner while holding her nursing manual in one hand and a spoon in the other. Mama became an excellent nurse and was highly respected by those who worked with her. And she was one of the sweetest and most loving people I have ever known.
Children adored her. Crying babies grew silent and peaceful in her arms. Stubborn toddlers did whatever she asked them to do and she could still a mischievous child with a glance. I miss her so much - especially around the holidays. But I don't miss her brilliant mind, even though she graduated near the top of her nursing class while raising three kids and working three jobs. I miss the feel of her arms hugging me and the way she would kiss my forehead when I was sick. I miss the way her eyes sparkled with pride as I sang a solo at church or played the piano for a worship service. I miss her love.
Isn't it amazing how much we have to know before we realize how little we know? Knowledge - for the sake of knowledge - is worthless and can easily lead to pride and arrogance. But knowledge for the sake of love is priceless. In other words, no one really cares how much you know until they know how much you really care.
Knowledge is powerful and should be used in love and love should always be controlled by knowledge. God gives us the ability to understand the Bible and then use its truths to build each other up and meet the needs of others.
A preacher once said, "Some Christians grow. Others just swell." Arrogance and pride are the result of knowledge that is misused. Knowledge can be a weapon of destruction or a tool of construction. It all depends on how it is used. We can know doctrine and never know God. We can grow in Bible knowledge but not grow in grace. We can attend church every time the doors are open but until we actually apply God's truth to the way we live, something is lost in the way we translate the Good News of Jesus Christ.
I heard the story of four Bible scholars who were arguing over the best translation of the Bible. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its beautiful, eloquent old English. Another said he preferred the American Standard Bible for its literalism and accurate translation from the original text. A third man preferred the newer translations because of their practical application. The fourth scholar listened thoughtfully and then added, "Personally, I prefer my mother's translation." When the other men laughed, he explained, "My mother translates every page of the Bible into her daily life and it is the most convincing translation I have ever seen."
I wonder. Do the people in my life better understand God because of the way I live? Is my life a living illustration of God's love? Is the "Mary Southerland Translation" of the Bible authentic and real and pleasing to God? I hope so. Mama would be proud.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed that You love me - no matter what I do or don't do. Lord, I want others to look at my life and see You. Teach me Your ways. Give me Your strength and wisdom to live each day as a beautiful translation of Your unconditional love and grace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Pray for the people on your Christmas list and ask God to show you how to demonstrate His love in a tangible way. Look for a need in each person's life and then make a plan to meet that need.
Read John 3:16 as part of your Christmas celebration.
Write a "love letter" to each family member. Place the letter in an envelope and hang it on your Christmas tree. Make it the first gift you open on Christmas morning.
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Christmas is the perfect time for us as fully devoted followers of Christ to share the love of God with people in need. The need may be financial or physical. Others just need a friend and a listening heart. Maybe a family member needs some of your time this week. I encourage you to be a living translation of God's love this holiday season.
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23.
One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 10, 2011.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
Start 2011 right! Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to deal with stress.
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December 23, 2010
Wrapping Up Christmas
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Ye shall find the babe, wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger" (Luke 2:12 KJV).
Friend to Friend
Who in the world would wait until Christmas Eve to do their Christmas shopping? I find it hard to believe the statistics that show December 24th is one of the biggest shopping days of the year, so one season I decided to venture out to the stores and see for myself. I usually have my Christmas list complete by Thanksgiving to avoid the crowds, so even though I was elbow to elbow with anxious shoppers, I didn't feel the same angst that seemed etched on their faces.
I traveled to my favorite department stores and picked through a few stocking stuffers. Low and behold, I saw three of my in-laws scrambling for gifts. I picked up a few items and went to stand in the check-out line about sixteen people deep. Maybe this was the "season to be jolly" but the people in line at 2:00 on Christmas Eve were anything but cheerful. Amazingly, they were talking to each other. Strangers who normally would never speak to each other in a checkout line were chatting away about Charismas plans, families, special purchases, and where to find great last minute bargains. I actually was enjoying listening to the friendly banter. It seemed the shoppers were bonding because of a common cause - get the shopping finished today!
The young lady in front of me was laden down with five large rolls of very expensive wrapping paper. She turned to me and said, "I can't believe I'm spending over $25.00 on wrapping paper. It seems like such a waste for something that's going to be torn off and thrown in the trash tomorrow. But at least I won't have to get back in that traffic and go to another store."
I didn't bother telling her about the paper I saw on sale for one-fifth the price she was about to pay. By the look on her face, the $20.00 saving wouldn't be worth the trip. Instead I said, "Oh it is expensive isn't it? But it will look lovely under your tree."
"Thanks," she said. "I think it's pretty too."
Musing over the idea of wrapping paper took me back to the origin of the gift giving tradition. We give gifts at Christmas because the wise men gave gifts to baby Jesus. But were they wrapped? I don't think so. I didn't even remember wrapping being mentioned in the Christmas story at all. Then the words of Luke two came flooding through my mind. "And you shall find the babe, wrapped in swaddling clothes, and lying in a manger."
Ah, the first Christmas gift was wrapped indeed.
As I watched the young lady dash to her car with her shiny gold paper I thought, "Maybe that expensive paper is not such a waste after all."
As you look at the beautifully wrapped gifts under your tree this year, remember that the most important gift of all - the One that was wrapped just for you - is the Christ Child Himself.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, My heart is full today just thinking about that first Christmas Day. Thank You for taking on the form of man, for humbling Yourself and leaving Your throne just for me. I am wrapped in gratitude pondering Your amazing gift.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
If you have any more gifts to wrap, think about that first Christmas gift and thank Jesus for His amazing gift.
Girlfriend Hint:
Dollar stores have lovely wrapping paper and gifts bags.
Use brown paper and let your children color trees, bells, and stars on them.
Buy gift wrapping after Christmas and save it until next year. (Just don't forget where you put it!)
I'd love to hear your ideas on how to keep Christ the focus of the holidays. Let's share. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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I just love Christmas and love helping people remember the reason for the season. If you'd like more helpful ideas for the holidays, see Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas on my website.
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December 24, 2010
And Jesus Said "Yes"
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 91:4 "He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge."
Friend to Friend
An article in National Geographic several years ago provided an interesting picture of God's wings. After a forest fire in Yellowstone National Park, forest rangers began their trek up a mountain to assess the inferno's damage. At the base of a tree, one ranger found a bird literally petrified in ashes. Dismayed by the strange sight, the ranger knocked the bird over with a stick. To his amazement, three tiny chicks scurried from under their dead mother's wings. The loving mother, sensing the impending disaster, had carried her chicks to the base of the tree and gathered them under her wings. She could have flown to safety but had refused to abandon her babies. The blaze had descended upon her, scorching her small body, but the mother remained steadfast, willing to die so those under the cover of her wings would live.
God's love is like that. God defined His unconditional and relentless love for us when He sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to earth as a baby. And Jesus said, "Yes!" What an amazing gift! The love of God for you and for me compelled Jesus Christ to willingly exchange a throne for a manger, divinity for humanity and Heaven for Earth.
God's love changes everything and everyone it touches. It protects and breathes life and purpose into every minute of every day. God's love is a gift beyond measure that surrounds us and covers us when the fire of life rains down. It is God's love and the very reason for the season we call Christmas - or it should be.
I know many of you are experiencing those "fires" of life this year. No job and no prospect of one. Someone you love is very ill or maybe you are the one battling to survive each day. A rebellious child has broken your heart. A secret addiction is slowly destroying your life. Your spouse packed his bags and walked out the front door because he no longer wants to be married. It is hard to celebrate anything in the midst of such darkness.
I have great news for you, girlfriend.
You can celebrate Jesus. Do not believe the lies of the enemy when he tells you that your God has forsaken you. God is with you - Emmanuel. God understands your fear and loneliness. He endured the cross, completely and absolutely alone because He loves you and because no one can take your place in the Father's heart. No matter where this Christmas Eve finds you - you can celebrate Jesus.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate You and the love You so freely offer. I may not understand some of the things happening in my life right now but I choose to trust You with each one. My faith is small, Lord. Give me Your strength for each step and help me to remember that You are with me. Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, everything I hope to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Find some time today to spend alone with God. Praise and worship Him for who He is, Lord, King, Father and Shepherd. Celebrate the perfect plan and design of God for your life.
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Sharon, Gwen and I pray that this Christmas is a true celebration of Jesus Christ at work in your life. It is such an honor to do life with you.
May God grant you the light in Christmas, which is faith;
The warmth of Christmas, which is love;
The radiance of Christmas, which is purity;
The righteousness of Christmas, which is justice;
The belief in Christmas, which is truth;
The all of Christmas, which is Christ.
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December 27, 2010
The Trust Fall
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you." (Psalm 56:3, ESV)
Friend to Friend
Our arms were braided across each other's and our hands were locked tightly. As the young girl stood on the tall tree stump above us she looked over her shoulder and saw with her eyes that our formation was tight ... that we were ready for her. She heard with her ears that we would catch her ... that we would not let her get hurt. Yet the fear that screamed in her head told her not to do it. Not to fall backwards.
Her legs shook and lips quivered. Other campers had gone before her and her cabin mates had successfully caught each one. But this camper hesitated - allowing the looming possibilities of failure and pain to paralyze her into inaction. The risks just seemed too great.
She trembled.
We encouraged.
She cried.
We encouraged.
Then, finally, with determination in her heart, she took the plunge. She fell straight backwards onto the safety net of our arms. We bent low to the ground giving way to her fall and caught her with cheers of excitement. She did it! As her trembling legs regained their confidence, she stood tall and beamed from ear to ear - realizing that she had faced her fear. Joy was felt from heart to heart as each of us rejoiced with her.
Mission accomplished. Early in the day we had trekked across the campgrounds to the "trust fall station" as a group of counselors and campers who didn't have a shared experience among us. An unconnected strand of strangers. Now our wooded team-building time had come to an end and we left the trust fall station having bonded deeply as a group of new girlfriends prepared for a fresh journey of fun and adventure.
Each of us took turns at the trust fall that day. We all faced a set of scary circumstances and were forced to work through our doubts, tremblings and fears. As a result, we learned valuable lessons and strengthened our relationships.
Since my days of being a camp counselor, I've faced many scary life trust falls: financial trials, relationship strains, relocations, sick loved ones, and difficult family matters. I've trembled and I've cried. I've been paralyzed by "what ifs" and "whys." We all go through difficult seasons and trials. Times when we want to see the invisible arms of the One who says He will catch us. Times when we are afraid to fall into them.
Where ever we go and whatever we face, God is with us - yesterday, today and forever. He bids us to live by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). He wants us to trust Him. He catches us when we trust fall ... when we live by faith. And to encourage us along the way He spurs us on by sending a cloud of witnesses who testify of His faithfulness. "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us" (Hebrews 12:1, NIV).
Today, whether you identify with the shaky young camper on the trust fall stump or with the cabin mates who were filled with encouragement for another, God wants you to trust Him ... right where you are. It might be scary. Tears might be shed. But God is faithful and can be trusted.
Like the psalmist, let's choose to say, "But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. I praise God for what he has promised. I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?" (Psalm 56:3-4, ESV)
When we trust fall from our struggles into the faithful arms of God, we are freed from the fears that paralyze us. Trust Him today, friend. A cloud of GiG witnesses are cheering for you!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord,
You are good, loving and faithful - and You know exactly what I'm facing. Please take this burden from me. Help me today to fall into a deeper place of trusting you.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What is God asking you to trust Him in or through? Spend a few moments in prayer over this.
Who has been there for you when you faced scary circumstances? Consider writing her a note or sending her an e-mail of thanks.
Do you have a friend who seems to be struggling to trust God with her tough places? Maybe God wants you to encourage her or him.
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December 28, 2010
Pruning our Lives
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 15:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In 2006, I sat down to write my annual Christmas letter and it began with these words: "This year has been a year of change." Then I realized that was the very same way I had begun our traditional letter the year before! I tore up the letter and decided to skip our Christmas letter that year.
Have you ever had one of those years when everything in your life seemed to change? I had two years in succession where God left no area of my life untouched...except my marriage. I did get to keep my husbandJ My son graduated from college, I stepped down from leadership at a ministry where I had served for ten years and my voice went off the radio for the first time in a decade. But perhaps the biggest change was that we left a home we had lived in for twenty years. This was a home we had built, filled with wonderful memories in every room. My adult son's two-year-old handprints were stamped in the concrete of the driveway, his growth was charted on the kitchen doorframe, and echoes of laughter and tears lingered in the now empty rooms.
But Steve and I packed up our memories and moved out into the country to a house overlooking a beautiful lake. And while we loved the view and the house, the yard was a mess. The shrubbery around the house was terribly overgrown and there were just too many bushes. Steve began the arduous task of cutting the bushes back, and while he is quite a Rambo with a hedge trimmer, the job was too big for him. We hired a crew to finish the job. The men hauled off truck loads of trimmings. All-in-all, they carted away 2,000 pounds of cuttings!
As I watched the last dump truck pull away from our newly trimmed yard, God began to show me a picture. He seemed to tell me that over the past two years, He had been pruning my life in order to make room for healthy new growth. My life had become too full with what I had been comfortable doing. Yes, there was fruit, but He wanted me to produce more fruit. The only way to make room for what He had in store was to lop off areas of my life that had become overgrown. Was it comfortable? No. Was it spiritually profitable? Yes.
Jesus explained this process to the disciples in one of their last conversations together before the cross: "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 15:1).
As you move into the New Year, ask God what parts of your busy schedule need to be pruned or cut back. Perhaps, like me, He has some new and exciting ventures waiting just around the corner, and He's waiting for you to make room in your life before He reveals them.
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes I don't like it when you prune my life. It's uncomfortable and I'm not crazy about change. However, I know that You are the gardener who knows what is best to produce the best crop in my life. Forgive me when I whine and complain about the process. Help me to trust You more and give up what needs to be removed with an attitude of expectancy and anticipation of a bumper crop of spiritually healthy fruit.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
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One of the ways God blessed me with more fruit was by bringing me to Mary and Gwen to start Girlfriends in God. It has been such a joy to join hands with you and share our lives together. What does God have in store for you this year? If you would like to learn more about how to listen to God's direction in your life, you might want to check out Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God. He's speaking; can you hear Him?
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December 29, 2010
Time for Rest
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1-3 (NLT) "The LORD is my shepherd. I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters. He refreshes my soul."
Friend to Friend
Life is so daily and often filled with uncertainty, a reality that can make me very nervous. I want to know what the plan is and how that plan is going to be implemented. Details! I need details! Instead, God calls me to rest. I don't want to rest. When I rest, I feel guilty. I have places to go, people to see and important things to do. I hear the quiet whisper of the One who knows me best and loves me most, "Mary, it's time to rest." I have tried to ignore that whisper on more than one occasion but it is only a temporary maneuver on my part. The Lord is my Shepherd, He is used to dealing with stubborn sheep like me. He will lovingly make me lie down in green pastures and firmly lead me beside quiet waters. Why? Because He wants to refresh my soul and give me the peace that can only be found at His feet. Rest is not really an option. It is a spiritual discipline that needs to become a spiritual habit in our life.
Admit your need for rest. Many of us have bought into the lie that who we are is based on what we do or don't do. We fill every waking moment with something or someone in order to prove our worth. After all, we must be worthy if we are doing worthy things, right? Busyness does not always equal productivity. When we admit our need to rest, we are acknowledging the fact that we are imperfect and that our human power is limited. We need to rest in Him.
Turn to Jesus to find rest. Recreation is anything you enjoy doing while relaxation is any activity that slows you down. Restoration is an inside job and can only be found in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. We once had an Australian cattle dog named Dallas. Australian cattle dogs are extremely loyal to a master of their choice. Dallas chose our son, Jered, to be his master. When Jered came home from school each day, Dallas would greet him at the door and follow him wherever he went. If Jered was doing homework in his room, Dallas would find a spot under the desk. If our son was working in the garage, Dallas was with him. When Jered ran an errand, Dallas went for a ride. Dallas instinctively knew that the only place he would find genuine rest was at the feet of his master. The same is true in our life.
Lay your stuff at Jesus' feet. The number one stress is the result of bearing a burden that is not yours to carry. Exhaustion comes when we take on a responsibility God never intended us to have. The twin of exhaustion is emptiness that comes when we fail to take on a responsibility God does intend for us to assume. God empowers His plan and agenda for our life. When we step outside of that plan, we are stepping into our own power and depending on our own strength, both of which will soon be depleted.
Realize you are not alone. For years, our family vacationed in the mountains of North Carolina in order to escape the brutal heat of South Florida where we lived. We all had our favorite thing to do while on vacation. Dan loved to read and take long walks in the cool, green forests. The kids loved wading in creeks, looking for "gold." My favorite activity was shopping for antiques. Now let me define "antiques" and "antique stores" according to Mary. The best stores were nestled in the mountains on some remote dirt road and the "antiques" were what most people would call junk. One year, I walked into a shop and stopped in my tracks when I saw the yoke. Matthew 11:28-30 is one of my husband's favorite passages of Scripture where Jesus says, "Take my yoke upon you and you will find rest for your souls." For years, I searched for just the right yoke to give Dan as a special gift. It seemed that every yoke I found was either too big or too small and in less than stellar condition. The yoke before me was in perfect condition and was just the right size and price. Upon closer inspection, my excitement faded.
Yokes have two loops of leather or wood attached to a sturdy wooden frame. Two working animals wear the loops around their necks in order to bear whatever load they are given. The loops on this particular yoke were not the same size - one larger than the other. When I pointed out the flaw, the shop owner said, "It is supposed to be made like that. The stronger animal is placed in the larger loop to help the weaker animal pull the load. A shared load is a lighter load.
Are you tired and exhausted from trying to live life on your own? Come to Jesus and find rest in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the promise of rest. It seems like I am always tired and every step is hard. Please forgive me when I turn to You as a last resort instead of running to You first. Today, I turn to You, Lord, for rest.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read Genesis 2:2. How does this verse apply to your life?
Read Lamentations 5:5. How does rest apply to the difficult people in your life?
Read Job 33:26. Notice every "action" word in this verse. What does God promise when we choose to apply the steps He outlines in this verse?
Identify the areas of unrest in your life. Bring them to God in prayer and seek rest in Him.
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Rest has always been a struggle in my life. Seriously? Fatigue is not a spiritual gift. In fact, when I refuse to rest physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am choosing to sin. When I think I have the least amount of time to rest is when I need to rest the most. How about you, friend? Isn't it time to find rest?
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23.
One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 10, 2011.
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December 30, 2010
Taming the Evil Yes Monster
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said." Luke 10:38-39 (NIV)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever bitten off more than you could chew? Have you ever said, "Sure, I'll be glad to do that!" when you should have said, "I'm sorry, but I can't commit to that right now?" Has an over-loaded schedule ever added stress to you, your family, or your relationships? I would think you've answered, "yes" to each of the previous questions. I know I did.
I'm constantly trying to make positive life adjustments. Two areas I evaluate regularly are my calendar and commitments. Trust me, I'm not the boundary queen. I won't even pretend to have all the answers about this topic, because I don't. I bow to the evil "yes monster" more than I care to admit. I'm in the trenches with you, constantly struggling to find a healthy balance between faith, family, friends, fashion, and ministry. (Okay, fashion doesn't really belong on that list, though it's terribly fun, I just wanted to see if you were paying attention!)
Jesus had some friends named Mary and Martha. Martha was a busy girl who allowed her to-do list to keep her from worship. Mary just wanted to be with Jesus.
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"
"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her." Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)
As we face a new year, let's choose what's better! It's so important that we establish healthy boundaries in our lives to keep us from being too busy to sit at the Lord's feet. Over the years, I've been forced to grow in the area of setting boundaries in order to bless and preserve my faith, family, friendships and ministry. In an article called Setting Boundaries, Dr. Richard J. Krejcir wrote, "A boundary is a fence to ward off potential problems and to protect those in its guardianship."
What does that look like in real life? How can we possibly spend time with the Lord, keep our homes clean, run errands, go to meetings, serve on committees, change diapers, shower, find missing teddy bears, take Johnny to little league, run Sally to dance practice, and have a hot, healthy dinner on the table by six o'clock? I'm sure it will look different for each of us, but there's one basic parameter that applies across the board, whether you are married, divorced, single, or widowed, or with or without children: make time for God.
Jesus said that the highest call on your life is to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" (Matthew 22:37). Keep the main thing the main thing! Nothing should replace your personal time with God. Set aside time each day for Bible study, prayer, and worship. Jesus tells us that we must remain in Him. "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).
And one additional thought: protect your passions. What do you love to do? Is there time in your life for it? Make it a priority. Allow yourself time to refuel and relax by scheduling fun time. Whether it's taking a hike in the woods, playing the piano, having lunch with a girlfriend, reading a book, or bargain shopping, keep your heart fed with fun. You'll be a better you for it!
Once you've established faith boundaries that prioritize and protect your time with Jesus, you can freely say "yes" to the opportunities that are in line with your passion and interests. You can also say "no" to the yes monster that tries to rob you of God's best and to dilute your focus.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me for the times when I clutter my life with busyness and fail to put You first. Help me to discern what is best for my schedule according to Your perfect will, and equip me with the wisdom and courage to make any changes that are needed. I love You and long to know you more with all my heart, mind, and soul.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you relate more with Mary or Martha?
Are you saying yes to too many things? Protect you and your family from the evil yes monster. Take a few moments to consider if any of your activities could be eliminated.
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Friend, don't be discouraged if your calendar seems off-the-charts crazy. I know what that's like. This devotion wasn't written to condemn, only to challenge. Let's choose the best together and clear a space everyday to sit and worship at the feet of Jesus. "Uncluttered" is a CD filled with songs that sweep you away from excess 'life-noise', this music focuses your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Order your copy today.
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December 31, 2010
Patience Pays Off
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:12 "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." (NIV)
Friend to Friend
Patience is not one of my greatest strengths. In fact, I tend to live each day with a schedule in mind, an agenda by which to live that day and several goals I need to meet before the day's end. God does have a sense of humor. I can't tell you how many times my schedule falls apart, the agenda is completely forgotten and I have to move today's goals to tomorrow. I am learning that when God wants to build a certain quality in my life, He puts me in the opposite circumstance. For example, if God wants me to be more patient, He arranges the hours and minutes of my day in ways that demand patience.
What is patience? To be patient is to have the ability to endure, but it doesn't stop there. Patience must also have the capacity to be wronged and not retaliate. In other words, patience is love persevering and love waiting. We are not only to be patient in the way we face difficult situations but in our relationships as well. That just about covers life, doesn't it?
One of the most powerful Bible passages on patience and perseverance is found in the book of James. "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." Do you want to be blessed? Stand firm in your trial. Do you want to be rewarded? Stand firm in that tough circumstance. Be patient - because patience really does pay off. God promises blessings and rewards to those who persevere and stand firm in hard times. The reason we can stand firm is because God loves us unconditionally and promises to walk with us through every dark moment life will bring. Nothing touches our life that does not pass through God's hand, with His permission.
Remember the Bible story of the man named Job? Job was a faithful servant of God, strong in his faith and unwavering in his obedience to God. Satan didn't like it. In fact, he went to God and asked permission to test Job. I love it! The devil had to go to God like an errand boy in order to get permission to touch His child, Job. Satan was convinced that if Job lost everything God had given him, his health, his family, his possessions, he would curse God and follow Satan. God told the serpent to give it his best shot, convinced that Job would persevere. Satan stripped Job of his health, his possessions, his wealth and his family - everything Job held dear. Job stood firm.
Every trial must come through His love but every trial has a purpose. Every pain has a purpose, every ordeal contains a seed of victory and there is a promise for every problem you and I will ever face. The psalmist writes, "The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy" (Psalm 28:7).
Patience pays off in many ways, but one of the greatest rewards of patience is joy, a deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. Warren Wiersbe says that "when God permits His children to go through the furnace, He keeps His eye on the clock and His hand on the thermostat!" God will never let us face more than we can handle with His help. Hebrews 12:12 says it so well, "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." I have been there, done that and can relate to a weary heart and shaky legs. Can't you?
Patsy Clairmont shares the true story about her son, Jason. When he was seven, she sent him off to school one day. After a little while, there was a knock at the door and when Patsy opened the door, it was Jason. "What are you doing here?" she asked. "I've quit school" he said. "Why have you quit school, Jason?" she demanded. Jason said, "Well, it was too long, it was too hard and it was too boring. And I didn't like a lot of it!" Patsy responded, "Jason, you have just described life. Get back on the bus!" When God sees patience at work in your life, He is pleased by your choice to "get back on the bus" in obedience and in faith.
An evangelist told the story of his friend who, during the depression, lost a job, a fortune, a wife and a home, but he held onto his faith because it was all he had left. One day, he stopped to watch some men building a stone church. One of the workers was chiseling a triangular piece of rock. "What are you going to do with that?" asked the friend. The workman said, "Do you see that little opening way up there near the spire? Well, I'm shaping this down here so that it will fit up there." Tears filled the eyes of the broken man as he walked away. It seemed that God had spoken through the workman to explain the trials of his life. God is using the trials here on earth to refine and purify us. In Colossians 1:11, the apostle Paul writes, "God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient!"
No matter where you are today, where you have been or what you are facing tomorrow, be patient, knowing your God will strengthen you to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am impatient. Help me to see You at work in the trial and choose to depend on Your strength instead of my own. Help me to see Your purpose and plan but even if I can't understand it all, help me to stand firm in faith. Lord, make me more patient so that others will see You in me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read Romans 12:12 "Be patient when trouble comes." What trouble in your life today requires patience? Are you willing to choose faith and obedience by trusting God with that trouble?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "Be patient with everyone." What relationship in your life demands patience from you? Evaluate how patient you have been in this relationship. What one thing do you need to change in order to choose obedience to God as you relate to this person?
Read Ephesians 4:2 "Always be humble, gentle and patient." Notice that patience is listed along with two other important qualities that God wants to see in us. How do you think patience relates to humility and gentleness?
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God uses the difficult people and painful trials in our life to teach us patience. We can choose to let those tough times painfully rub off the rough edges of our character or we can just choose to endure the pain time and time again. The only thing worse than learning from experience, is not learning from experience. I am right there with you, friend. I encourage you to check out my book, Sandpaper People, as a resource for those difficult relationships in your life.
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23.
One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 10, 2011.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
Start 2011 right! Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to deal with stress.
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January 3, 2011
What Does It Mean to be Lost?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost" (Luke 19:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was our first trip to Disney World and my video camera was poised to capture those precious memories. But the video didn't start out as I had planned. As it begins, we're in some type of welcoming center where children are running around climbing on various objects, crawling through tunnels, and swinging from monkey bars. As the "movie" comes into view, the first thing I see is my husband, Steve, running toward the camera, his face growing larger and larger until it fills the frame.
"Where's Steven," he cries. "I can't find him anywhere!"
Then the screen goes blank.
What a way to start our vacation! Steven had wandered away, climbed into one of those tunnels and had yet to emerge. Of course we panicked. Who wants to lose their kid at Disney World? Of course we found him. He had no idea he was even lost.
Ah, did that last sentence give you pause? He had no idea he was even lost...
Even as I wrote it, God quickly reminded me that I was in the same situation. There is no one more lost than someone who doesn't even know that he is lost. I had no idea I was lost, and yet my Heavenly Father found me.
Lost. It is still very relative to the human condition. What does it mean to be lost? How did we get into this situation of such lostness, darkness, and emptiness? It all began in the Garden of Eden when man chose to disobey God and sever their relationship. The Bible tells us, from the very moment Eve sunk her teeth into the forbidden fruit, and every person has been born with a live body and soul, but a dead spirit - separated from God. Rejected. But God did not leave us that way. As soon as Adam and Eve disobeyed God, the shadow of the cross appeared on the horizon and God began to unfold His magnificent redemptive plan.
After Adam and Eve disobeyed, they hid from God. When He came looking for them in the cool of the evening, He asked the first question recorded in the Bible...Where are you? That question runs like a scarlet thread from Genesis through Revelation.
Where are you? No matter what you've done, no matter how far you've strayed from His perfect plan for your life, He is always in pursuit of you. We come into this world lost, separated from God, wandering around looking for something, and yet not even sure what that something is. All you have to do is come out from hiding and say...Here I am, Lord.
From Genesis through Revelation, we see that plan unfurl right before our eyes. In my next devotion, I'll look at what it means to be saved. The book of Romans outlines the steps of salvation beautifully. We're going to take a walk down the Romans Road to discover how to move from rejected to accepted...how to receive the gift of eternal life in the future and abundant life today.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for pursuing me, for finding me, and for saving me. I was so lost and didn't even know it. Thank You for rescuing me even in my ignorance.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you describe what it means to be spiritually "lost"?
To be "lost" is one of those church words that many Christians would have a difficult time describing. Let's get a good handle on what it really means rather than simply saying the word.
Let's think of some other words that describe what "lost" means to someone who isn't familiar with the concept. Go to www.sharonjaynes.com/facebook and share your answers. I'll start. Here is one word I think that describes being spiritually lost...empty.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you have believed the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God see you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 4, 2011
Standing Firm in the Storms of Life
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit."
Friend to Friend
Just as storms in life are a certainty, so is the provision of God. Life can be messy and bad things will happen but every crisis and every storm is also an opportunity to trust God. He calls us to a heavenly perspective when facing challenging times. He calls us to see the storms of life as He sees them - opportunities for His power and purpose to be illustrated in human terms. How can we face the storms of life in a way that honors God?
First truth: Live a pure life.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
The apostle Paul was certainly no stranger to storms. In his writings to the church at Corinth, Paul lists several actions we can take to survive and even thrive in those storms. Notice that purity is listed first. Paul is sending a clear and certain message. Integrity and power for daily life are the result of a heart committed to purity. A clean heart unleashes the authority of God in us and through us. Impurity corrodes stability while purity generates a supernatural strength. It is that power and stability that keeps us from falling.
Psalm 51:10 (NASB) "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."
The Psalmist links a pure heart with a steadfast spirit. "Steadfast" literally means "fixed or unchanging" and defines the kind of strength that can only be found in a right relationship with God. Stability is essential when those blustery winds of life storms are raging. Some storms come to uncover that cherished sin we try so hard to bury. But make no mistake - the purpose of the storm is always to purify - then empower. If we refuse to deal with the sin in our life, God will urge us toward obedience by allowing the storms to come.
Second truth: Seek understanding.
2 Corinthians 6:6 NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
Understanding is only as good as its place of origin. Human understanding is limited and tainted while Godly understanding is infinite and unspoiled. Our greatest lessons are learned in the fiercest storms. I know you have heard that statement many times - but are those words a living reality in your life?
A teacher was asked a question by one of his students who had come across Deuteronomy 6:6 that says, "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts." The student asked, "Why does it say to put God's commandments upon our hearts instead of in our hearts?" The wise teacher responded, "It is not within man's power to deposit truth directly into his heart. All we can do is place truth on the surface of the heart so that when the heart breaks, it will fall in."
Every circumstance that results in brokenness is designed to produce greater self-control and a fresh perspective. We can face every storm with confidence, knowing that God will redeem it for understanding and truth.
Third truth: Learn to be patient.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
I must confess that I am not the epitome of patience. In fact, I hate to wait - on anyone or anything - which may very well explain the presence of certain storms and trials in my life. James had the same problem but a much better attitude.
James 1:2-8 (NIV) "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."
I tend to consider it pure joy when I can escape trials of many kinds, but James tells us that trials can and should be faced with patience and an attitude of joy. Not joy for the trials but joy in the trials. Don't miss this vital truth. Joy is deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. Joy is a chosen attitude and understands that trials are not punishment.
Take a $5.00 bar of steel. If you cut that bar into ordinary horseshoes, it is worth about $10.00. That same $5.00 bar of steel cut into needles is worth $350 but cut into delicate springs for watches, that same $5.00 bar of steel is worth $250,000.
Trials are a test, a measurement of growth. Patience gives God permission to work and even expects to be tested. We go to great lengths to avoid trials and shelter ourselves from the storms of life. The result is spiritual immaturity. God will not build our character without our cooperation and He will not work in us without our permission. We must surrender, invite Him to work and then by faith, patiently embrace that work in our life. Warren Wiersbe writes, "When God permits his children to go through the furnace, He keeps his eye on the clock and his hand on the thermostat." Doubt puts our circumstance between us and God while faith puts God between us and our circumstances. Patience comes when we give up the responsibility for the outcome to God.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness in my life. Sometimes my motives are not pure and are so often self-serving. Right now, please cleanse my heart of all sin. Give me eyes to see the treasure buried at the heart of every trial and help me to choose joy - even when I don't understand what You are doing in my life. Teach me, Lord. Let my life be an illustration of Your strength perfected in my weakness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs."
What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Do you really believe we can experience joy - even in the midst of the fiercest storm? Explain.
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
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I know your trials are many and that you have been battered by some brutal storms. But more importantly, God knows. In Him, you can be a storm survivor! And when you are face to face with a storm, you are standing on the edge of a miracle. Don't tell God how big your storm is. Tell your storm how big your God is! Stand firm!
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in DVD, CD, MP3 and E-Bible Study.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 17.
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January 5, 2011
What Does It Mean to Be Saved?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I walked through the receiving line during the visitation for a godly man who had passed away a few days before. As the person in front of me embraced the wounded widow he whispered, "Oh, but you will see him again." My heart broke as I heard her reply, "I hope so. I don't know if I've been good enough."
This was no place for me to reprimand or scold, but my heart was torn in two. This eighty-six-year-old woman had been in church all her life. She read her Bible often, pondered devotions daily, and attended church regularly. And yet, she believed a lie. Somehow she believed that she had to earn her way to heaven...that she had to be "good enough to get in."
Oh dear friend, we will never be good enough to earn our way to heaven. We will never be good enough to "get in." If we could, Jesus would not have had to give His life in our stead. It is a free gift.
So many are trying to earn what they already have. And it is the lie of performance-based acceptance that keeps women bound.
Perhaps you have found yourself believing the lie that you have to earn your way to heaven, or that you could somehow lose your salvation if you did not perform properly. Let's expose that lie and learn to walk in God's incredible gift of grace.
Or perhaps you have the helmet of salvation fixed securely in place and it has never left your pretty little head. If that's the case, just sit back and thank God for His precious gift and rejoice with your sisters who are about to pluck the bow from the most precious gift of God and join the party.
What does it mean to "be saved?"
The word "saved" has been tossed about so much in the church that I feel it has lost its wonder and mystery. What does it mean to be saved?
The word salvation is used five times in Romans and the verb form, saved, occurs eight. It means "deliverance" or "rescue." So what are we saved from? Through Jesus Christ we are saved from lostness (Matthew 18:11), the wrath of God (Romans 5:9), the penalty of sin, the realm of darkness (Colossians 1:13), eternal separation from God, and eternal punishment in hell (Revelation 20:6). We are saved from the penalty of sin the moment we believe. We are being saved from the power of sin as we continue to live on this earth and become more and more conformed to the image of Christ. And we will be saved from the presence of sin when we leave this earthly body to spend eternity with God.
Saving faith involves our entire being: mind, will and emotions. With the mind we understand the truth of the gospel, with the will we choose to submit to God and make Jesus Lord of our lives, and with the emotions we express sorrow over our sin and joy over God's mercy and grace. Salvation is more that a "get out of jail free" card. It is more that a ticket into heaven. Eternal life begins the moment you believe, and God's desire is for you to experience the abundant life here on earth (John 10:10). It is passing from spiritual death to spiritual life in the twinkling of God's eye. We are not saved by how we behave, but by how we believe.
So here's the question. Are you saved? Have you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior? If you are still exploring, join me in my next devotion as we walk down the Roman Road to the Cross.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that while I was still a sinner, lost and separated from You, You sent You One and Only Son to save me. Jesus did for me what I could never do for myself. In His Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In my last devotion I asked you to define or describe what it means to be lost. Now let's describe what it means to be "saved." Pretend you are describing it to someone who has never heard the gospel. Don't use "churchy" words. Remember, that lingo is like a foreign language to someone who did not grow up in the church. I'd love to hear your answer. Let's chat. Share your description on my Facebook page. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
In 10 days, I'm going to pick my favorite description and send a free copy of "I'm Not Good Enough"... and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've believed the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God see you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 6, 2011
Standing Firm in the Storms of Life
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit."
Friend to Friend
It would be just fine with me if I never had to go through another storm. However, God is more committed to my character than He is to my comfort. Every storm is an opportunity to grow in Christ and trust Him more.
The Apostle Paul was well acquainted with vicious storms and harsh realities. In his writings to the church at Corinth Paul offers five truths that - when applied - will enable us to stand firm in the storm.
Truth 1: Live a pure life.
Truth 2: Seek understanding.
Truth 3: Learn to be patient.
Truth 4: Practice kindness.
When bad things happen, we cry out in desperation for someone to care. More people come to Christ during a crisis than at any other time. Kindness is simply compassion at work and love in action. We need to constantly refocus our success-targeted eyes, crucify each self-promoting heart motive and look for the needs around us. I often wonder just how amazed we will be when we get to Heaven and find the unlikely, unknown but devoted servants of God exalted above all others - rewarded for their quiet and often unseen acts of kindness.
A preacher once described his mother as a woman of great compassion. One day he came home from school to find her sitting at the table with an elderly, homeless man. Apparently, she had gone shopping, met the man on the way and invited him home for a warm meal. During their conversation the visitor said, "I wish there were more people in the world like you." The woman said quickly, "Oh there are! You just have to look for them!" The old man simply shook his head and smiled, "But lady, I didn't need to look for you. You looked for me!"
Needs constantly parade before us day after day but we don't see them. We are too busy to see the broken lambs the Shepherd sends our way. We view them as intrusions or annoying interruptions in our very important schedule. These uninvited and unscheduled guests may very well be divine appointments sent by God. The warning of Hebrews 13:2 is a haunting one. "Remember to welcome strangers, because some who have done this have welcomed angels without knowing it." How many angels have we missed because we were too busy?
Perhaps we fail to be kind simply because we don't care enough. A little girl was sent by her mother on an errand. She was gone far too long so when the little girl returned, the mother demanded an explanation. The little girl said that on her way she had met a friend who was crying because she had broken her doll. "Oh," said the mother, "then you stopped to help her fix her doll?" "Oh, no!" replied the little girl. "I stopped to help her cry!" We are never more like our Father than when weathering relationship storms with kindness and love. Jesus says that if we really love God we will really love each other. Kindness and compassion are directly related to the health of our personal relationship with Jesus Christ. The truths in 1 John 4:20 are clear, "If people say, 'I love God,' but hate their brothers or sisters, they are liars. Those who do not love their brothers and sisters, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have never seen." We can be very religious and not care enough. Kindness does not look for reasons. Compassion doesn't ask for limitations. It searches for opportunity.
Truth 5: Experience and practice love.
We not only need God in the midst of the storm, we need each other. The essence of love is tested within the context of relationships. Paul writes that we must "prove" ourselves by being patient and kind. How we handle relationships exhibits the depth and validity of God's love at work in and through us.
Ephesians 4: 2-3 (NCV) "Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way."
Learning to build healthy relationships is crucial to a fulfilled life. Someone will always be disappointed, disgruntled, or displeased with us. We have a choice to make - to honor God by waging peace or venerate Satan himself by entertaining conflict in relationships. God is committed to unity. If we don't make "every effort" to eradicate discord, a storm may come to help us do so.
I have a friend who raises and works with horses. She once explained how a group of thoroughbred horses confronts an enemy. They stand in a circle, facing each other and, with their back legs, kick out at the enemy. Donkeys do just the opposite, facing the enemy and kicking each other. Enough said.
When golf balls were first manufactured, their covers were smooth. Golfers soon discovered that after a ball had been roughed up a bit they were able to get more distance out of it. Manufacturers then began producing golf balls with dimpled covers. Life is a lot like that. It takes some rough spots to make us go our farthest. It takes some storms to teach us that God is faithful. When was the last time you threw a party to celebrate a trial or storm in your life?
James 1:2-3 (NLT) "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow."
God's ways are higher than our ways and most human reactions are in direct opposition to the paradoxical ways of God. Honestly, there are times when what He has asked me to do simply does not make sense - to me. And there we find the problem. Faith is a matter of blind obedience, not human logic. At the heart of every storm is victory - waiting to be claimed!
What storm is raging in your life today? What step do you need to take in order to experience His strength for that storm? Your Father stands ready to meet you in your darkest hour. He longs to wrap His arms around you until the winds die down and the waves are stilled. Right now - surrender. Celebrate the storm that dashed your battered life on the shores of His unyielding love and let Him give you the strength to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for being with me every step of the way - especially in the storms of life. I praise You for Your sufficiency in my life and for Your love that never fails. I pray that I will learn how to stand firm in the storms ahead and grasp the lesson each storm holds. I want to please You, Father. Change my comfortable heart to an obedient heart, a heart that is always ready to praise You - no matter what!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When you face a difficult situation, where do you turn first for help?
What is your attitude about the storms in your life? How does that attitude need to change?
Examine your life for any sin that is blocking God's power. How can you eliminate that barrier?
How can you best prepare for the storms ahead?
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I hate storms, but have finally come to terms with the fact that they are certain. So is God's deliverance. Sometimes He delivers us from the storm and other times He delivers us in the storm. Either way, God is with us.
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in DVD, CD, MP3 and E-Bible Study.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 17.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
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January 7, 2011
What Really Matters
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Far too often I seek God's blessings instead of seeking God. I seek His hand instead of His heart. Like a child with a long Christmas list, at times I run to my heavenly Father as if He's a celestial Wal-Mart purposed to satisfy my every want. Instead of leaning in to hear the whispered will of the Lord, I selfishly shout my will - my desires - my demands. I'd rather have relief from life-pressures than gain the strength to endure them and the lessons I'm intended to learn from them. When I'm desperate to fill my over-sized heart-cart with things that I think I need, I rob myself of what really matters: the pursuit of God and the blessings found in Him alone.
Why do we desire God's intervention in our lives more than His presence? Why do we think that we know what we need? It's so arrogant of us to tell God how to be God. Isn't that what we do when we stomp our feet before His throne and whine about all the things that need fixing instead of praising Him for the strength He graciously gives us to endure? While we're certainly encouraged by Scripture to make our requests known to the Father (Philippians 4:6), the highest calling on our lives is to love God with all of our hearts, souls, bodies and minds (Matthew 22:37). What really matters is seeking God and seeking Him first.
God knows that our selfish and demanding hearts bring loads of unnecessary anxiety to our days. His Word gives an amazing solution to our priority problem. He promises that when we chase His heart, we can relax and rest in His peace. Our needs will be met because He loves us.
"And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
"So don't worry about these things, saying, 'what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today." (Matthew 6:30-34, NLT)
The Message version of the Bible says it like this:
"If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don't you think he'll attend to you, take pride in you, and do his best for you? What I'm trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God's giving. People who don't know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.
Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don't get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes" (Matthew 6:30-34, MSG).
Set your list of wants aside today and seek God. Go before Him with a heart of worship and adoration. Get lost in His presence. Remember His mercy. Relish His grace. Love Him. Seek Him. Pray. Put first things first.
Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-29, NIV). Please know that I am not suggesting that we shouldn't go to God with our burdens. We must! But God wants your love before your list.
God loves us so much. His plan is perfect and His ways are mysterious. He knows our needs and He knows our desires. When we remember what really matters we can rest in the knowledge that He's working on our behalf, and in our best interest, to bring glory to Himself through our lives.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all I need. Please forgive me for the times when I seek Your blessings before I seek Your heart. Help me to trust Your plan and rest in Your grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has God met your needs in the past? Do you trust that He is able to meet them today?
He's not just concerned with your needs - God also cares about your heart matters. Read, meditate on and memorize this verse: "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4, ESV).
Add ten minutes to your prayer time each day for the next five days, then stand back and see how God blesses you!
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Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." (Matthew 11:28-29) Please know that today's devotion is not suggesting that we shouldn't go to God with our burdens. We must! But God wants your love before your list.
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January 10, 2011
The Romans Road
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13).
Friend to Friend
In my last two devotions, I looked at what it means to be lost and what it means to be saved. Today, let's look at four key verses from the book of Romans that explain why we need to accept Jesus and how. We'll look at the problem, the penalty, the provision, the promise, and the prayer.
The Problem
"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Romans 5:23.
There is not one person who has ever been good enough to achieve the right to go to heaven, and no one can work their way to heaven. This is perhaps one of the greatest differences between Christianity and other world religions. Buddhism, Hinduism, and Islam all teach that a person has to earn their way to God. Guess what. We can't.
Imagine you are standing on the east coast of the United States, peering out over the Atlantic Ocean. On the opposite shore, God is sitting on His throne. All you have to do is put on your goggles and flippers and begin the swim to the other side. Would you make it? No. Likewise, there is no way that you or I could ever work our way into heaven. God requires sinless perfection in order to enter into His presence, and as the writer of Romans reminds us, we've all failed.
The Penalty
"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Jesus Christ our Lord." (Romans 6:23).
From the very beginning, God warned Adam and Eve that if they disobeyed Him and ate of the forbidden fruit, the penalty would be death. And while their bodies did not die the moment they sunk their teeth into the fruit of disobedience, the process was set into motion and their spirits died totally and completely.
Through one act of disobedience, the dike was opened and creation was flooded with sin. However, just as one act of disobedience ushered sin into the world, one act of obedience delivered grace. Jesus Christ's sacrifice made eternal life available to all who believe. Notice that Paul refers to eternal life as a gift. Salvation is not something we earn. It is not a paycheck at the end of a long life. It is a gift to be received, unwrapped, and enjoyed forever.
In his letter to the Ephesians Paul wrote, "But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions - it is by grace you have been saved...For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast" (Ephesians 2:4, 8). So how do we receive this incredible gift? We simply confess and believe.
The Provision
"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8).
All through the Old Testament, men and women realized that they could not meet God's standards for holy living. There is a cycle of obedience, rebellion, repentance, revival, obedience, rebellion, repentance, revival throughout Israel's history. And don't we see that in our own hearts? I am so glad that God loves us despite our weaknesses and human frailties.
At the perfect time on God's kingdom calendar, He looked at His Son and said, "Now is the time." And on that starry night in Bethlehem, God-man was born to a virgin named Mary, wrapped in swaddling clothes, and laid in a manger. Smelly sheep, dirty cows, and clucking chickens welcomed the King of Kings into the world as the angels sang a symphony of praise heard by common men.
Jesus lived a perfect sinless life, even though He was tempted and tried, just as you and I are today. Then as the angels hovered low, Jesus gave His life as a sacrifice and died a cruel death as He hung on a Roman cross and breathed His last. He was the last sacrifice required by God, once and for all. But three days later, just as Satan's victory party was in full swing, the almighty power of God raised Jesus from the dead, the stone was rolled away, and the resurrected Christ burst forth in fullness of life!
"You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly (that's you and me). Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrated his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:6-8).
The Promise
"If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved" (Romans 10:9-10).
God gives us this promise: if we confess with our mouths and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we will be saved. There is not a long list of rules to obey, only a person to follow.
Confession is an outward expression of our inward belief. It is more than simply saying something out loud. Even the demons know that Jesus is the Son of God. Many times in the Bible they acknowledged His true identity. John McArthur wrote: Confession "is the deep personal conviction, without reservation, that Jesus is that person's own master or sovereign. This phrase includes repenting from sin, trusting in Jesus for salvation, and submitting to Him as Lord." The Greek word "confess" means to say the same thing, or to be in agreement with someone. When we confess Jesus as Lord, we are agreeing with God's declaration of Jesus' true identity.
We confess with our mouths and believe in our hearts. And what are we to believe? Here Paul says, "Believe in your hearts that God raised him from the dead." Without the resurrection, there would be no salvation. Jesus would be just like every other religious leader who walked the face of the earth - dead. But what makes Christianity infinitely different from all other religions is that our God lives! He was resurrected from the dead and lives now at the right hand of the Father praying for you and me all day long!
The Prayer
"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13).
If you can't remember a time when you accepted Jesus as your Savior and Lord, why not clear that up right here and now?
If you have never asked Jesus to be your Lord and Savior, and would like to accept that precious gift from God, we can do that today as well.
Let's pray together.
Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you today as a sinner in need of a Savior. I confess that I have sinned and made many mistakes in my life. I am unable to live a holy life on my own. I believe in my heart that Jesus Christ is Your Son, who was born of a virgin, lived a perfect life, and gave Himself as a sacrifice to pay the penalty for my sins. I believe that He rose from the dead on the third day and now lives forever with You. I ask you to forgive me and save me. I come to You in faith, believing, and thank You for giving me the gift of eternal life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you prayed that prayer today, I'd love to hear from you. Please e-mail me at mailto:Sharon@sharonjaynes.com and let's celebrate together!
Also, there is a wonderful new website to help you in your spiritual journey. Please visit www.jesusforwomen.com. While there, you'll see a brief video of my testimony and how I came to Christ.
You might consider memorizing the key verses in today's devotion as you share your faith with others.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've believed the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God sees you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 11, 2011
Facing the Giants
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 1:7 (NCV) "God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control."
Friend to Friend
A cloud of terror hung over the Valley of Elah as snarling threats and vile promises spewed from his mouth. The intimidator strutted along grassy slopes swinging an enormous club, his mammoth, ironclad feet pawing the ground like an irate bull, ready to attack. The huge, ugly monster was Goliath, a nine foot giant, the pride of Philistia. He wore massive armor; a bronze coat weighing 200 pounds, a solid iron spear, a heavy bronze helmet. The target of his ranting and raving was a frightened, helpless group of Israelites, cowering in their tents. For forty agonizing days, Goliath had come, taunting them, promising certain destruction and doom. The Israelites, paralyzed with fear, had given up all hope of escape, resigned to their tortured fate at the hand of this Philistine monster.
Then came day forty-one! I am certain, as the sun inched its way over the mountains that morning, that neither Goliath nor the Israelites had any idea just how different this day would be. A young handsome teenager stepped into the valley of fear, fresh from the presence of God. David, the youngest in a family of eight boys could not believe his eyes. Tossing the giant's threats and obvious advantage aside, David refused to accept what he saw. Instead, he chose to believe what he knew in his heart; this giant was going down! With simple but certain faith and unreserved confidence in God, David stepped through the fear, ushering in the mighty presence and power of God. Goliath not only met David that day, He met the Lord of Heaven and Earth. And the giant fell! Giants always fall in the presence of God!
We stand on the threshold of a new year - a new beginning. If you are like me, you face 2011 with mixed emotions. Personally, I am thrilled that I survived 2010! There were certainly moments when I wondered if I would. I am so excited about a fresh start, a brand new set of days overflowing with new dreams and unmarked possibilities. But I also know that this year is crammed full of the unknown as well as a giant or two. And if I am brutally honest, I have to admit that the unknown fashions a pocket of fear in my heart where questions and doubts thrive.
The good news is that what lies ahead is no surprise to God. In fact, He has already been where we are going. That reason alone empowers us to face every tomorrow with hope, knowing that whatever touches us passes through His hands, with His permission. It is not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the defeat and fall of every giant that we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, facing every giant in God's power and with His promises. The Holy Spirit will guide the path of His truth to its destined mark, taking down the giants lurking in each tomorrow.
Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever. Determine right now to face each day with the memory of Goliath's fall and trust in Almighty God, the Giant Killer. So then, my friend, I ask you, what is there to fear? Happy New Year!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your goodness to me this past year. I confess that there were times when I focused on the storm instead of on You. I allowed fear to overpower my faith. Please help me begin this New Year in faith, with my eyes on You and my glance on the circumstances. I want to face every giant in Your power alone, walking straight through my fear in faith. Right now, Father, I surrender to You and the plan You have for me in 2011.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to review the past year and consider the following questions:
What giants have you faced this year?
Was your response to these giants right or wrong?
How do you typically handle fear?
What giants are you facing today?
What has been your natural response to giants of the past?
How do the birth, life and death of Jesus Christ affect those responses?
Read Luke 2:8-14. Examine your life in light of this passage.
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Can you believe that the clean slate of 2011 is just ahead? A new beginning and a fresh start! However, what did we learn in 2010 that will make a difference in 2011? As the holiday season winds down, I pray that your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in DVD, CD, MP3 and E-Bible Study.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 17.
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Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
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January 12, 2011
Now That I'm a Christian, What's Next?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death" (Romans 8:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Imagine standing before a court of law. You've been arrested on multiple counts and the sentencing is about to begin. But just before the judge makes his final proclamation that will determine your punishment, someone walks from the back of the courtroom and approaches the bench.
"Judge, I know that this woman is guilty of every crime brought before the court today. I know that she deserves a life sentence without parole. But I come before you today, in the presence of these witnesses, and offer to serve in her stead. My life for her life so that she may go free."
The Judge looks as this man whose eyes are full of compassion and love. "Very well," he proclaims. He turns to the woman as the man who redeemed her life is lead away in chains. "Not guilty! You are free."
When we come to Christ, all our sins, past, present, and future are forgiven - tossed into the deepest of seas. The word "condemnation" is a legal term used only three times in the book of Romans. It paints a picture of us standing before the Judge in a court of law. Our record has been expunged, wiped clean, and there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. We are accepted by God and adopted as His child.
Just as you could do nothing to earn your salvation, you can do nothing to lose it. Jesus is able to keep those who are entrusted to him. "To him who is able to keep you from falling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy-- to the only God our Savior be glory, majesty, power and authority, through Jesus Christ our Lord, before all ages, now and forevermore! Amen" (Jude 1:24). While you can do nothing to change your state as a child of God, there is much you can do to change the standing - the closeness of the relationship. Throughout life we ebb and flow in our closeness to God depending on our obedience. However, God never moves. We do.
Nothing can separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39). But the depth and intimacy of your relationship with God is proportional to the time you spend with Him reading his Word, talking to Him in prayer, and listening to His still, small voice.
Let's say that you met and married the man of your dreams, but soon after you walked the aisle and said "I do," you moved to Texas. He is still in North Carolina and you call him once a week to tell him what you need. Oh, let's say you call him on Sundays, except when you're too tired to pick up the phone. How much intimacy would you expect from such a union? How well would you know your man?
I hope you catch the parallel there. It is not enough to simply walk the aisle and be joined to your heavenly bridegroom. In order to have a personal intimate relationship, we must spend time getting to know Him. If not, we will begin to feel distant. I've been married over thirty years and I continue making new discoveries about my man. Likewise, I've been a Christian for over thirty years and I'm still making incredible discoveries about my Lord.
As you begin this New Year, tell God that you are eternally grateful for your eternal salvation.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You that I just as I could never be good enough to earn my salvation, I could never be good enough to keep it. Thank You that Jesus has paid the price once and for all. Oh Father, how I want to know You more. Show me Your ways. Help me hear Your voice. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Think of ways to get to know someone better. Make a list.
Now apply that list to your relationship with God. How is it similar?
What is the most recent truth you have learned about God? How long ago was your latest discovery?
I hope you are discovering new truths about God through the Girlfriends in God devotions. I know I am!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've been believing the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God see you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 13, 2011
What is Normal?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 4:12-13 "Do not be surprised at the painful things you are now suffering. These things are testing your faith" (ICB).
Friend to Friend
I pray that your New Year is off to a great start. The holidays are wonderful but I am always ready for them to be over so life can get back to normal. Hmmm...that word "normal" can definitely mean different things to different people. I have to admit that "normal" is not a word people commonly use to describe me or my life. I have heard more than one person say, "Mary, you are not a normal pastor's wife!" I smile and thank them for the compliment. Ignorance can definitely be bliss. Several of my closest friends are convinced that I could make millions by doing my own television reality show. "Nobody could make this stuff up!" they proclaim.
Author and speaker, Patsy Clairmont says that "normal" is just a setting on the dryer. I am inclined to agree with her. At birth, the world silently hands us a list of do's and don'ts that we must follow in order to "fit in" and qualify as "normal." I believe God's definition of normal is quite different from the one offered by the world.
As I look back over the lives of those who made the biggest difference in the early Kingdom days, they were anything but normal. A bag of mixed nuts is more like it - quirky men and broken women from all walks of life who were radical in their devotion to God - to the point of placing their lives on the line every day for the cause of Christ. They were normal in that they celebrated their "sameness" with the pagans who were shunned by religious zealots but stubbornly loved by the Father. Yet, they were profoundly abnormal in the love they showed and the depth of their commitment to God and to His cause.
As I was putting the Christmas decorations away for another year, I ended up in the study where we have a collection of gifts and souvenirs from the various countries where Dan and I have visited on mission trips. Each one brought back memories of precious people we met - people who are persecuted each day because of their faith in Jesus Christ. As far as material possessions are concerned, these saints have very little, but when it comes to joy, contentment and peace ... they are filthy rich! These men and women have chosen to follow Christ in a radical obedience that may very well cost them their lives one day. Is that normal? It should be.
When an ordinary woman meets an extraordinary God, normal life takes on a whole new meaning. Knowing God changes everything. We cannot encounter the living God and be the same. A personal relationship with Him produces a holy discontent with the status quo and compels us to live in such a way that miracles are a daily occurrence.
Miracles come in all shapes and sizes. A woman chooses not to have an abortion. A pastor in Peru lives another day even though his name is first on a list of Christian pastors to be executed. An alcoholic makes it through one more day without a drink. An underground church in Cuba meets to worship God. A husband who has been unemployed for over a year gets a job. Bibles are smuggled into Mexico and distributed to remote mountain tribes. A couple seeks counseling instead of a divorce. Cancer goes into remission. The sun rises and sets. We have food to eat and water to drink. A life is changed in response to what God has done in ours.
People are desperately looking for ordinary women like you and me whose lives have been changed by an extraordinary God - the One who is calling us to be "God with skin on" to those who don't even believe He exists. I want to love every excuse and doubt right out of their minds. I want them to see a power in me that they cannot explain in human terms and a message that shouts of God's mercy and forgiveness. I want to be hungry and thirsty for God as never before. I want my normal life to be abnormally extraordinary because God is alive and well and at work in and around me.
How about you? Are you ready to step out in faith? Are you willing to live a normal life filled with people and circumstances that can only be explained by the extraordinary power and presence of God? Let's do it, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of playing it safe, of bowing to the wrong crowd and listening to the wrong voices. I lay down my pride and surrender to You and Your plan for my life in this New Year. Stretch my faith. Give me Your eyes to see those in need. Fill me with Your power and strength so that others will be drawn to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In what way have you played it safe when it comes to your faith in God?
Are you willing to be a radical follower of Jesus Christ - no matter the cost?
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. How do these verses apply to an abnormal walk with God?
What first step do you need to take in order to walk by faith - not by sight?
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The first time my husband, Dan and I visited Cuba, my eyes were opened to a whole new level of faith I had never seen or experienced. I watched believers live under the scrutiny of a godless government. Pastors and their families lived in poverty because they chose to worship God alone. Yet, there was no fear - only faith. They celebrated what they had instead of complaining about what they didn't have. We were humbled to be in their presence and challenged to live as they lived - in radical obedience to God. That same challenge is before us all today. Are you ready?
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2011 is How to Handle Hurt and begins January 17.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
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January 14, 2011
"When There Is Nothing There"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Go and look toward the sea," he told his servant. And he went up and looked. "There is nothing there," he said. Seven times Elijah said, "Go back." The seventh time the servant reported, "A cloud as small as a man's hand is rising from the sea" (1 Kings 18:43-44, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have a Christian girlfriend who is caught between faith and a hard place. Though she is a committed Christ-follower she struggles to believe God's promises and feels helpless to the circumstances of her trial. She prays - but wonders if God no longer listens to her. She daily looks for the light at the end of the trial-tunnel, yet sees none.
Have you been there? Are you, or is someone you love, there now? God's ways and timing are mysterious - no doubt. At times, His ways can even seem frustrating. But He is good. He graciously provides strength and hope when we call on Him ... but waiting on God can be such a difficult spiritual discipline.
Time and time again in Scripture we are shown beautiful pictures of God's faithfulness to those who wait on Him and call on Him. Snapshots of God's faithfulness displayed in the life of Elijah are simply fascinating. (Pause to read chapters 17 and 18 of 1 Kings now.) Elijah was the most dramatic and famous of all Israel's prophets. God worked in and through him powerfully and miraculously, but even Elijah went through seasons of waiting and wondering - just like my friend. Just like each of us.
For years, Ahab (king of Israel) and his wife, Jezebel, had done evil in the eyes of the Lord. They worshiped Baal - an idol - instead of the one true God, which provoked the Lord to anger. Then God called Elijah to the scene. Elijah told Ahab, "As the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, whom I serve; there will be neither dew nor rain in the next few years except at my word" (1 Kings 17:1). As you can imagine, Ahab wasn't too happy about that 'word' and, in his fury, he wanted Elijah dead. God had other plans though. He directed and protected Elijah and provided for all his needs throughout the time of the drought.
In the third year, the Lord sent Elijah back to king Ahab, and a showdown of showdowns went down on Mount Carmel. Like a celestial boxing match with Baal and his false prophets in one corner and God and Elijah in the other, a battle began. The prophets of Baal took the first swing. They made a sacrifice to their god and cried out to him for hours to consume their offering with fire. Baal was silent and unresponsive because he was not real. Duh.
Elijah knew he served a powerful, living, and responsive God, so he advanced to the center of the ring and took his swings with confidence. He repaired the altar of God, prepared the sacrifice, and then prayed for God to reveal His deity by consuming the offering. God flexed His divine muscles and answered Elijah's prayers instantly with an all-consuming fire. Knock out!
After the showdown was over, God told Elijah to deliver a new message to King Ahab. "And Elijah said to Ahab, "Go, eat and drink, for there I the sound of a heavy rain" (1 Kings 18:41). So Ahab went to eat and Elijah went up to the top of Mount Carmel to look for evidence of God's rain-miracle.
"Go and look toward the sea," he told his servant. And he went up and looked.
"There is nothing there," he said.
Seven times Elijah said, "Go back."
The seventh time the servant reported, "A cloud as small as a man's hand is rising from the sea" (1 Kings 18:43-44).
What struck me as I studied this passage is the fact that Elijah didn't get his miracle right away this time. Could God have opened up the sky and poured out a storm immediately? You bet. Did He? No. Elijah had to wait. His servant had to look for the miracle...and look...and look...and look. Seven times.
Hallelujah! You and I aren't the only ones who have to wait, friend!! God's will is God's will. It bends for no man. Yet ours can bend to His and, as a result, we will find strength and peace - even in the waiting.
"Meanwhile, the sky grew black with clouds, the wind rose; a heavy rain came on ..." (1 Kings 18:45a)
God moved. Once again, He was faithful. He can be no other way.
Now think about this. God used Elijah in really big ways. Elijah spoke on God's behalf, was God's front-line man in raising a dead child back to life in order to bless a widowed mother, and he was the lead character in a miraculous God-show that brought fire from heaven ... consuming an offering and connecting the hearts of wandering people back to the heart of God. We're talking big God-stuff! Yet even Elijah experienced difficult situations and was forced to wait on God.
When discouragement sets in and you feel unheard - when you are forced to wait on God - when you find yourself caught between faith and a hard place - when there is nothing there ... no evidence of God's miracle on the horizon - remember that God is faithful, powerful, and responsive. He has seen you through trials in the past and He will see you through trials in the future. Even in the challenges you face now, you are seen, you are heard, and He is able. "Look to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always" (Psalm 105:4).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I worship You, the One, true God! You are mighty and powerful; full of never-ending compassion and love. Please help me to see you when I face trials and to trust Your heart when circumstances discourage me."
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write this verse out: "Look to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always." (Psalm 105:4) Keep it handy. Read it out loud. Memorize it.
Is there someone in your life who is in a period of waiting? Do something to encourage them today. If she is in a financial bind, consider writing a note and sending it with a gift card. If she is struggling with a strained marriage, a complicated job frustration, or a difficult parenting situation, reach out to her. Pray for her. If you know a single mom, consider helping her with her children. Allow God to encourage someone through you today.
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Girlfriend - God placed a burden on my heart to encourage you today. I know this was very personal and timely for some of you. Let's meet on my facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together. www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic
Know someone who NEEDS ENCOURAGEMENT? In her book, Broken into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to hear her own beautifully broken story and the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls ... and of the loving heavenly Father who makes them beautiful again.
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January 17, 2011
What if I Don't Feel Saved?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I know whom I believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day" (2 Timothy 1:12 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Anna grew up in the church. It wasn't a church that used the word "salvation" or "saved" very often and there was never a decisive moment she could recall "giving her life to Jesus," as she heard her more evangelical friends recount. There was no "born again" experience that she could recall. But she did love Jesus. She'd loved Him for as long as she could remember. But, she was not sure if she was actually saved.
Beth remembers walking down the red carpeted aisle of her church when she was twelve-years-old. She filled out a membership card, signed up for the next baptism service and attended the catechism class for new believers. She still remembers the feeling when she knew that she was a sinner who needed a Savior, and she wanted to follow Jesus more than anything. Several years later, Beth packed her bags to go to college and entered the world of liberal teaching, wild sorority parties, and free flowing alcohol. One night, in drunken confusion, Beth gave away her most valuable treasure to a boy she barely knew. In five minutes or less, her virginity vanished. "How have I gotten so far away from God," she cried. "I thought I was saved, but I guess I'm not."
Sarah had been attending a neighborhood Bible study for two years. Most of the women there had no idea she wasn't a Christian. "I put on a happy face, do my homework, and use the right lingo," she explains. "I am really hungry to know God and I've asked Jesus to come in my heart dozens of times, but I just don't feel saved. Why can't I get saved?"
Can you see how each one of these women has believed the lie that they have to earn their way to heaven? Why? Because they are depending on their feelings rather than the truth.
Paul wrote to the Ephesians, "And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession to the praise of his glory" (Ephesians 1:13-14). Having believed, you were saved. Totally accepted. Past tense, finished, complete.
In Ephesians chapter 6, Paul teaches us to put on the full armor of God. The very first piece of armor is the "helmet of salvation." We've got to know that we have moved from rejection to acceptance, from guilty to forgiven, from condemned to saved. If Satan can cause you to doubt your salvation, he will gain a strong foothold into your conquered territory. Once you are saved, he can't do anything about the reality of your salvation. You are signed, sealed, delivered...you're God's: signed by God with the blood of Christ, sealed by the Holy Spirit for all eternity, and delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of Christ. Amen!
What does Paul mean when he tells the Ephesians to "put on the helmet of salvation?" A helmet is designed to protect a soldier's head, and the helmet of salvation is designed to protect a Christian soldier's mind. In order to have victory in the spiritual battle that we face every day, we must make sure that the helmet of salvation is seated securely on our minds and strapped snuggly in place.
Once you accept Jesus as your Savior, Satan can't do anything about your position in Christ. However, he can do much to try and confuse you or cause you to doubt your salvation. Remember, he is the father of lies. It's what he does. It's who he is. There may be days when you don't feel saved. Well, rain on your feelings. They are not the truth. "Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved" (Acts 16:31).
You may not feel that you are saved, but you can know that you are saved. Timothy wrote, "I know whom I believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day." Timothy had the chin strap of the helmet of salvation strapped snuggly in place and he knew he was saved no matter how he felt. That's what faith is all about - believing God regardless of, or in spite of, our feelings.
So where's your helmet today? Is it strapped firmly in place?
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, once again, I thank You for saving me. Sometimes I don't feel like I'm any different than I was before I said "yes" to You. But I believe by faith, regardless of how I feel. I stand firm in the knowledge of my salvation, my eternal inheritance, and my identity as a child of God. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
OK, here's the test. You mess up. Really mess up. The devil says to you...how can you call yourself a Christian? You must not be a Christian after all? What are you going to tell him?
After you've written down your answer, check out my answer at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've been believing the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God sees you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 18, 2011
You're Just Like Your Father
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Malachi 3:3 "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
The story is told of a group of women who met each week to study the Bible, hoping to learn more about the nature and character of God and how He works in our life. The women were puzzled and even a little troubled by the description of God they found in Malachi 3:3, "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver." One of the women offered to do a little research on the subject and report back to the group at their next meeting. The woman found a local silversmith and made an appointment to observe him at work, explaining that she was particularly interested in the process of refining silver. She watched as the craftsman carefully selected a piece of silver for his demonstration. She thought the piece of silver was already beautiful but evidently the silversmith saw something that she could not see. As he held the silver over the furnace, the craftsman explained that in refining silver, the silver had to be placed in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest so all of the impurities would be burned away.
The woman was silent for a moment as her thoughts drifted to the fiery trials she was facing in her own life. Honestly, she did not get it. Why would a loving God allow His children to suffer when He could so easily deliver them? In fact, why does God even allow bad things to happen to people who are seeking Him and really trying to live for Him?
The woman asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined. "Oh, yes!" he replied. "I cannot take my eyes off the silver. If it is left in the furnace even a moment too long, it will be destroyed." The woman suddenly understood the beauty and comfort of Malachi 3:3, "He shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver."
Yes, there are times when it seems as if we will be swallowed whole by the fires of Hell itself. The pain seems too hard to bear. The fear is paralyzing. The doubt is overwhelming and questions flood our heart and mind.
Is God really who He says He is?
Will He really do what He says He will do?
Will He really keep His promises?
Our trials are not random persecutions. Heaven is not in a panic and where we are and what we are going through is no surprise to God. We may be knocked down and kicked around by life, but if we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we will not be destroyed.
Our lives are filled with excess baggage and waste - a cherished sin we refuse to relinquish or an addiction to which we are enslaved. What about the emotional garbage that weighs us down or our unforgiving spirit that holds us prisoner? Fiery trials come to burn away the guilt of sin and then purify our heart. From those ashes of freedom, the Father then creates a work of beauty.
I believe the words I just wrote. I know and accept the truth that trials and hard times make me stronger and strengthen my faith, but there are times when I want it all to stop. I find myself asking, "How much is enough, Lord? How many trials do I have to endure? When will the pain and trouble end?"
"How do you know when the silver is fully refined?" the woman asked. The silversmith smiled and answered, "Oh, that's easy. The refining process is complete when I can see my image reflected in the silver."
God is not committed to our comfort. He is committed to our character. Only God can exchange the ashes of our sin for the beauty of His forgiveness and grace. God alone can replace our despair with His peace that passes all understanding. Hope can only be found in Him. Our purpose in life is to know and become more like Jesus ... and act just like our Father.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be more like You. Give me the strength to withstand the trials in my life. Help me love the people who are hard to love and forgive the people who have hurt and even abused me. Burn away the sin in my life and empower me to live for You. Create a clean heart in me, Lord, and teach me how to live for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Journaling is a powerful spiritual discipline and habit that I encourage you to cultivate this year. A journal can be a spiral notebook or leather bound book. You may write in your journal every day or once a week. Your entry can fill an entire page or one line. How you journal is not nearly as important as the fact that you journal.
Record new truths and insights God gives you as you read and study the Bible. Write your prayers and thoughts. Create a section in your journal where you can record the promises God gives you. Below are a few entries from my journal.
God will direct my steps. Isaiah 48:10 "See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction" (NIV).
God will never leave me. Isaiah 43:2 "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze" (NIV).
God will always make a way for me. 1 Corinthians 10:13 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (NIV).
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I know many of you are facing fiery trials. You may be wondering how you can make it through the day or find the strength to face tomorrow. God is with you. He is working in your life. Choose right now to believe Him and walk by faith ... not by sight.
Need help? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. Trials are part of life. We will experience pain and hurt. That is reality this side of heaven ... but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory. We can harness the power of our pain and use it for good. We can choose to examine every broken part of life and compel it to give us a "seed" of victory. Join women across the world in this powerful and practical online Bible Study by Mary Southerland.
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January 19, 2011
Give God a Round of Applause!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Clap your hands, all peoples! Shout to God with the voice of triumph and songs of joy" (Psalm 47:1 Amplified Version).
Friend to Friend
Steve and I boarded a Cog Train for a scenic ride to the top of Pike's Peak in Colorado Springs, Colorado. It is the most visited mountain in North American - a hiker's paradise. But since going up and down my stairs at home is about as much hiking as I like to do, we opted for the train to chug us to the top. This stately mountain stands as a majestic backdrop to Colorado Springs and the Garden of the Gods rock formations. As we clicked along the 8.9 miles of railway, a tour guide pointed out various areas of interest and wildlife along the way. Suddenly, the train slowed to a crawl and a chorus of ooohs and aaahs rumbled through the boxcars. In hushed silence, we gazed at a herd of Big Horned sheep congregating to our right.
The six-foot male grayish-brown rams with white fluffy rumps gathered in a circle like spectators at a boxing match. Two males stood head-to-head in the center of the ring, eyeing each other with studied determination. Smaller female rams with diminutive spiked horns grazed nonplussed over to the side. It seems it was mating season and the males were vying for the ladies' attention.
A crack filled the air as the two males ran toward each other and furiously butted heads. With front feet leaving the ground, the hefty rams twisted and turned interlocking horns until one retreated from battle. The sound of cameras clicking mixed with cracking rams horns as we dared not interfere with the ritual of thousands of years. Time and time again the males butted heads with one thing on their minds - the right to spawn with the seemingly disinterested females grazing nearby and trot away with the spoils. (Oh, we ladies can be so coy at times).
After viewing this incredible display of God's creation, the train continued its trek up the mountain and the onlookers broke out in cheers. The tour guide enthusiastically shouted, "Folks, I want you to give yourself a big hand! I've never seen such a display on any of my trips up the mountain. Give yourselves a round of applause for seeing this magnificent sight today!" The entire coach broke out in wild cheers, applause, and congratulatory back slaps. Well not the entire coach.
I looked at Steve and said, "Why in the world would we give ourselves applause? Why are these people clapping? We had absolutely nothing to do with it. God placed that in front of us for our enjoyment. He allowed a sneak peek at His divine creation. All we did was decide to get on the train."
Then I heard God speak to my heart. Happens all the time.
O dear friend. God has given us an incredible gift of salvation. We neither earned it, merited it, nor deserved it. If we could, it would not be referred to as a gift. Salvation is not something that we need to congratulate ourselves for. We actually have nothing to do with it. All we did was decide to get on the train. But praise God, He has promised us the ride of our lives filled with incredible displays of His splendor. We don't have to earn it. We simply have to accept it.
As we begin this New Year, let's give God the round of applause He deserves each and every day!
Let's Pray
(As you pray today, consider standing to your feet and giving God a hearty round of applause. The Bible calls this a praise offering! Clap your hands all you people!)
Dear Lord, I am speechless because of Your goodness to me. So today, I stand, lift my hands, and offer up a rip-roaring round of praise-clapping hands to You! In Jesus' Name! Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you took credit for something God did in your life? Boy, that was a personal question, wasn't it? I'm asking myself that very question too.
As you go throughout the day, make a list of all the reasons God deserves applause.
If you have children, ask them to do the same. Then at mealtime, share your lists. Consider giving God a round of applause as a family!
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you've been believing the enemy's lies that you are not good enough, totally worthless, would be happy if..., etc. and are ready to begin living in victory by believing God's truth, then this book is for you! It's time to be set free to see yourself as God sees you: His holy, chosen, forgiven, and dearly loved child. Now that's a truth worth repeating.
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January 20, 2011
Just Ask
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us" (1 John 3:21-23, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Christmas morning is serious business at the Southerland home and is steeped in tradition that is not to be tampered with. We open stockings first. Then comes breakfast - during which the Christmas story is read - followed by the grand finale of opening the gifts under the Christmas tree. I could hardly wait for our eighteen-month-old grandson to open the presents we had so carefully chosen, purchased and wrapped for him this year. Justus quickly got the hang of opening gifts as he happily ripped off the brightly colored paper covering his new fire truck. And then it happened. Justus immediately sat down and began to play with the truck - which is the whole point - right? No! There were more gifts for him under the tree. In fact, the fire truck was the smallest and least expensive toy we had purchased. It didn't matter. Justus was happy with one gift. He had no idea what was waiting for him under that tree. In fact, he did not even open all of his gifts on Christmas morning. His very wise mother said, "Let's save a couple of gifts for him to open later this week." What? Was she kidding me? Nope! Those unopened boxes sat under the tree for days. It just about drove me crazy! I knew what was in each box. I also knew Justus was going to love each gift. But he is just a baby. He didn't realize that all he had to do was ask and those gifts would be opened in a flash.
One morning, as I walked by the Christmas tree and saw the unopened gifts, the Father whispered, "Mary, you know I want to bless you. Why won't you ask?" My thoughts immediately went to a story I often tell when I speak at conferences.
A man died and went to heaven. He was met at the pearly gates by Saint Peter who offered to show him the home God had prepared for him. The man's excitement grew as he and Saint Peter passed a street lined with beautiful mansions - but they did not stop. The man was still enthusiastic as he and Saint Peter walked by a street lined with smaller but still lovely houses, but they did not stop. The man began to wonder just what kind of home was waiting for him when Saint Peter stopped in front of an attractive but tiny house. "This is your home," Peter explained. Even though it was not a spectacular mansion or magnificent house, the man was thrilled. After all, the little house was in Heaven.
The man's excitement faded as he opened the front door of his heavenly home. Instead of beautifully furnished rooms, he saw stacks of unopened boxes. In fact, every room was filled with boxes stacked from the ceiling to the floor. When the man asked Saint Peter what was inside the boxes, Peter smiled sadly and said, "These are the gifts and blessings God had for you on earth" The now very confused man responded, "Why didn't He send them to me?" Saint Peter smiled sadly and said, "Because you never asked."
I want every blessing God has for me. I know you feel the same way. God is not a heavenly vending machine that dispenses blessings simply because we want them. Every promise of God is accompanied by at least one condition we must meet in order to experience the blessing of God. That condition is always rooted in obedience to Him.
1 John 3:21-23 "Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us" (NIV).
When we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and seek to obey His commands, we can come before God in confidence, knowing that He wants to pour out His blessings on our life. He is waiting. We just need to ask.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for loving me. Please help me walk in obedience to Your commands and live my life in a way that pleases You. I really do want to be a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ. Right now, I surrender all that I am to You and ask for Your blessings in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Read Psalm 51:10. How is a clean heart related to the blessings of God?
· Focus on the blessings God has already given you and praise Him for each one.
· Read Proverbs 21:2. "A person may think their own ways are right, but the LORD weighs the heart." How does this verse apply to the blessings of God in your life?
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One of my problems with asking God to bless my life is that I don't think I deserve His blessings. I really don't ... and neither do you. God's blessings are not based on who we are or what we deserve. I am so glad! God's blessings are unmerited gifts that are backed by the honor of His name. God loves you and wants to bless your life. Just ask.
Need help? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. Trials are part of life. We will experience pain and hurt. That is reality this side of heaven ... but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory. We can harness the power of our pain and use it for good. We can choose to examine every broken part of life and compel it to give us a "seed" of victory. Join women across the world in this powerful and practical online Bible Study by Mary Southerland.
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21, 2011
Come on In!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Galatians 3:28 "There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:28, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I recall as a young child, rocking on my grandma's front porch and listening to the ladies from the mission's society gossip about the "heathens" whose church was across the street from theirs. It always puzzled me because the "heathens" seemed like such nice people and their church looked just like Grandma's. As far as I could tell there was no difference. Both believed in Jesus, wore funny hats on Sundays, and sang the same hymns. And both had great pot-luck dinners.
How did the church come up with the notion of the infamous pot-luck supper? As best I can tell, it all began in Matthew chapter 15. The first covered-dish gathering was a great success as Jesus served more than 4,000 men, not to mention a few thousand women and children, and had leftovers to boot. All this came from one little covered dish. Actually, it was a covered basket. This was, after all, before the advent of Corning Ware.
Later the Baptists followed His lead and the next thing you know, all denominations were celebrating a multiplicity of occasions with every variety of casserole known to man. But the twentieth-century church isn't being caught simply serving up fish and chips. We have taken the notion of "breaking bread" and run with it. Not only do we break bread, but we crunch fried chicken, munch fresh veggies, scoop casseroles, slice pies, cut cakes, and sip coffees. We chew the fat while chewing our food and extend the right hand of fellowship while our left hand extends the serving spoon. I'd say that covered-dish dinners are one of the most cherished rituals in the church today!
Our Sunday school class's annual Christmas party at the McMillians's home entailed such an event. The class consisted of 150 people in a church of 1,600. It's a little difficult to be intimate with 150 congregates on Sunday morning, so the Christmas party was a great time to chat with people you didn't normally have a chance to otherwise. Because people tend to sit in the same seats each week, I never actually got a good look at half of the class.
Marshal and Denise's home was beautifully decorated with holly, spruce and magnolia clippings. It was filled with the sights, sounds, and smells of the season as well as the incoming aroma of the many delicious prepared meals. In an effort to provide crowd control and proper traffic flow, our host, Marshall had posted directional signs around the house. One sign read "COATS," with an arrow pointing up the stairs to their daughter's room. Another read "HOT FOOD," with an arrow pointing toward the kitchen.
Marshall was doing a great job at his post as official greeter and traffic police.
"Hello, how are you?" he greeted two ladies and one man as they made their way up the front steps with dishes in hand. "You can take your food into the kitchen and then follow the arrows up the stairs to the coat room."
The obedient threesome followed directions well and then headed to the name tag table. But a warning light was flashing in my mind.
"Marshall," I said, "Who are those people? I don't recognize them."
"I don't recognize them, either," he answered. "But you know our class is so big. Maybe they sit on the opposite side of the room than we do, and we just haven't noticed them before."
They looked like they could have been one of us. They seemed to know the drill. But something was wrong with this picture.
"Marshall, go find out who they are," I urged.
He approached the trio, who were now looking a little bewildered themselves. "Excuse me. You are here for the Sunday school Christmas party, aren't you?"
"Yes," they answered. However, their "yes" sounded more like a question than an answer. Then they asked, "This is the Sunday school class for First Baptist Church isn't it?"
"No, ma'am," Marshall answered. "This is the party for a different church. You folks are at the wrong party."
The three embarrassed Baptists quickly reclaimed their food, once again followed the arrows to the coat room, and high-tailed it out of the McMillians' house to another Sunday school covered-dish gathering a few doors down.
Won't heaven be an interesting place? One big perpetual celebration of new birth. No covered dish required because He will sit us down at His banquet table which He has prepared for us. One great thing about this party will be that when the Methodists stumble into a room full of Presbyterians, no one will feel out of place. The Episcopalians will be chewing the fat with the Primitive Baptists, the Assemblies of God will be singing with the Lutherans, and the Church of God folks will be dancing with the Congregationalists.
And when each new saint arrives, we'll hear, "Welcome! Come on in. Take your coat off and stay a while - an eternity, for that matter. You're definitely in the right place."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Forgive us for how we have separated ourselves as believers. Help us to see each brother and sister in Christ as dearly loved children of God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here at Girlfriends in God, we strive to cross generational, racial, and denominational barriers to bring together the Body of Christ. (If you'd like to learn more about our purpose, visit our website at www.girlfriendsingod.com). With that in mind, let's ponder a few questions.
Do you have prejudice against certain denominations?
If you do, how do you think Jesus feels about that?
What do you think Paul meant by this statement: "For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified?" (1 Corinthians 2:2, NIV).
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January 24, 2011
Stress Happens
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my shepherd" (Psalm 23:1, NKJV).
Friend To Friend
Stress happens. I believe much of our stress is the result of a constant and innate quest to love and be loved. The problems come when we look in the wrong places for love. When we know God, we will know love. When we experience His unconditional love, we are then freed and empowered to love ourselves and others. I have personally discovered that it is downright frustrating and completely impossible to live the Christian life when you are not a Christian. I tried.
For years I desperately struggled to be a Christ follower with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God. I needed to experience the unconditional love of God.
During a special Saturday evening church service, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, even as a middle school student I was an active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and I even directed a children's choir. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I'd been living a lie. My mind argued that I knew all about God - and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him, but I didn't know Him.
God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with His children. That night I met God. I surrendered all that I knew about myself to all that I knew about Him. While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with stressful situations. The difference was that God's love preceded me and surrounded and sustained me as I lived each day. Knowing we are loved fosters contentment and peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the peace that comes from knowing You. Help me remember that no matter what comes my way, You are with me. When I am tempted to worry, give me the strength to choose faith over fear. Teach me Your ways, Lord, and empower me to walk in them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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I want to challenge you to read Psalm 23 every day for one month and then check the level of stress in your life. The Lord really is your Shepherd. He loves you and He will take care of you. Rest in Him, knowing that His peace will follow you all the days of your life.
Start the New Year right! Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. Trials are part of life. We will experience pain and hurt. That is reality this side of heaven ... but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory. We can harness the power of our pain and use it for good. We can choose to examine every broken part of life and compel it to give us a "seed" of victory. Join women across the world in this powerful and practical online Bible Study by Mary Southerland.
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January 25, 2011
Man's Best Friend
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The LORD God said, 'It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him'" (Genesis 2:18, NIV).
Friend To Friend
For thirteen years, our family was blessed with a Golden Retriever named Ginger. We gave her to our son, Steven, for Christmas when he was five-years-old and she still holds the blue ribbon as the best present ever. I can still remember the look of surprise on Steven's cherub face when the "stuffed" animal began to move. "It's a puppy!" he exclaimed. "It's not a toy!"
And while Ginger was officially Steven's dog, and I was unofficially her primary caretaker, it was my husband who held a special place in her heart. From the very beginning, Ginger loved my husband the best.
Ginger lollygagged her days away by sleeping in the driveway or lounging by the back stoop steps. However, when my husband's car entered the neighborhood and turned the corner onto our shady street, Ginger's ears perked up and her eyes began to beam. Suddenly infused with a burst of anticipatory energy, she would jump to her feet and run in circles. "He's home! He's home!" she seemed to say.
When Steve pulled into the garage and opened his car door, Ginger whined, ran to greet him and rested her head on his left leg while he cooed and rubbed her ears. Steve's homecoming was the highlight of her day.
No wonder dog is called "man's best friend." Ginger was loyal, didn't nag, and loved Steve no matter how much or how little attention he paid to her on any given day. She was very forgiving and almost immediately forgot any injustice such being left behind when we traveled on vacation. Often at the mere sight of Steve, Ginger rolled over on her back and beckoned him to rub her tummy. She always responded to his touch like it was heaven on earth. What man wouldn't love such a response from "his girl?"
And yet, when God created Adam and placed him the garden, only to determine that "It is not good for man to be alone," He did not create a dog to be his loyal companion. God created a woman to fill the void in his life. She was called an ezer in the Hebrew - the original language of the Old Testament. Most Bible translations render the word ezer as "helper," however, the word is packed with so much more meaning than a mere helper.
Author, Carolyn Custis James reveals the following: "Ezer appears twenty-one times in the Old Testament. Twice, in Genesis, it describes the woman (Genesis 2:18,20). But the majority of references (sixteen to be exact) refer to God, or Yahweh, as the helper of his people. The remaining three references appear in the books of the prophets, who use it to refer to military aid. If language means anything, then ezer, in every case, is not a flunky or junior assistant but a very strong helper."
We would be very remiss if we looked at the word ezer or helper in only domestic terms. Adam didn't need someone to cook for him, clean up after him, or care for him. That was not the problem. The void in Adam's life was that he did not have a companion to work with him, rule the earth with him, love with him, procreate with him and after the fall - struggle with him. A dog might have been an easier adjustment for Adam, but God decided Adam needed someone with words.
As an ezer or a strong helper, how will we use our words? Will we use them to fortify or flatten, defend or defeat, complete or compete? The choice begins in our minds, runs through our hearts, and responds with our lips. And one of the best ways we can use our words is in prayer.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I so want to be a good ezer - a good companion that is my husband's completer. I want to be a help and not a hindrance. Help me to use my words in such a way that help him to be all that You have created him to be as we work together in life. In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think of when you think of the word "helper?"
Why do you think Adam needed a helper?
How have you been an ezer to your husband over the past week? (Not geezer, mind you, but ezer.)
You might want to ask him some ways that you could help him in the coming days.
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January 26, 2011
Think Right ... Live Right
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected" (Philippians4:8, NCV).
Friend To Friend
I was absolutely pathetic as I moaned and groaned my way up the stairs. My back was killing me! I had just spent four long hours taking down Christmas decorations, packing them in boxes, hauling each box down three flights of stairs to the basement and hoisting every one of those heavy, packed-to-the-brim boxes up on shelves that are taller than I am. Do you get the painful picture?
I was working up a stellar case of self-pity when my husband came home from work and asked what I had been doing all day. "I did two loads of laundry, wrote two devotions, took care of Justus while Danna studied, answered email and then it took me four hours to take down all of the Christmas decorations," I declared in my best "poor me" voice. Dan did not seem impressed. "It really took you that long? I didn't think you had that many decorations out this year. Why didn't you wait until I got home so I could help you? " he asked. I didn't want to wait. I was not happy ... and more than a little upset with him for not being more sympathetic. But my sweet husband was not done.
"Your problem is not in your back, honey. Your problem is in your mind," he patiently explained. I could see the conversation going down the tube fast but managed to muster up just enough self-control that kept me from saying what I really wanted to say. Instead, I sweetly asked, "What do you mean?"
Sidebar: Three months ago, I was in a car wreck that caused some fierce muscle spasms in my back and resulted in several visits to the chiropractor. Two months ago I had a stomach virus that lasted a week followed by the Thanksgiving holidays during which we had our kids and grandkids for a week ... which was incredibly wonderful and deliciously chaotic. The day they left, I went to the doctor with a respiratory infection that turned into bronchitis that soon blossomed into walking pneumonia from which I am still recovering. Do you feel my pain?
"Honey, you have been so sick - not to mention being rear-ended by a car going 70 miles an hour. Why did you feel like you had to decorate the entire house in the first place?" Dan asked. I know. I could not believe it either! "It was Christmas!" I sputtered in frustration. And then I saw it. The problem really is in my mind. I had allowed wrong thinking to dictate wrong priorities.
The mind is a great battlefield. The Bible tells us that we have the mind of Christ because we have a personal relationship with Him, but we still have to allow or choose to "let" the mind of Christ be in control. Every day we are at war for the control of the mind. Who wins that war is up to us and the choices that we make.
Proverbs 23:7 tells us, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is" (NASB). In other words, what we think about powerfully influences who and what we will become. Our actions, our attitudes and habits are born in the mind, an offspring of the thought life we entertain.
We can literally change our life by changing how we think - but we cannot do it alone. God's standard and guideline for our thought life is very clear and demanding. In fact, it's completely impossible without God's power at work in our life.
"Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise; think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected" (Philippians 4:8, NCV).
We choose what we watch and read, the conversations we have and the time we spend in the Word. If the mind is not filled with good, trust me, the enemy will fill it with bad. The human mind will always set itself on something. Paul is challenging us to wisely choose that setting, taking charge of our thoughts by inviting the Holy Spirit to empower God's standard for the mind.
My husband often says, "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." Now stay with me. Impure and wrong thoughts will come but we do not have to entertain them and invite them to "come on in and stay awhile." When we choose to surrender the control of our mind to God, He will honor that choice and give us the strength and power to think right. And when we think right - we will live right.
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess to You that I often struggle with the way I think. I desperately need Your help. Please make me aware of the influences that draw my mind away from You and show me how to avoid each one. Teach me how to fix my thoughts on You and give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word. Today, I surrender the control of my mind to You, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The mind is the control center of your life. How have your thoughts affected your decisions or actions this week? I challenge you to fill your mind with God's Word and watch God work in your life. Read the following questions and record your answers in your journal.
What specific steps do I need to take in order to put more of God's word into my mind?
To honor God with my thought life, what changes do I need to make in the following areas?
Movies ___________________________________________
Television_________________________________________
Music ____________________________________________
Books____________________________________________
Magazines ________________________________________
Internet___________________________________________
Conversations______________________________________
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January 28, 2011
I Want to Be Just Like Jami
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So encourage each other and give each other strength" (1 Thessalonians 5:11, NCV).
Friend To Friend
When Jack joined our church youth group, I had no idea that he would evolve into one of the most abrasive people in my life. In the beginning, Jack worked hard at making friends and seemed content to go with the flow, but one day, Jack decided that the stream of life was flowing in the wrong direction and it was up to him to redirect its course. The mask came off and the façade quickly crumbled and standing before me was the real deal - a genuine, authentic sandpaper person of the coarsest grade.
It started with little things like a friendly shove or a caustic comment masquerading as sarcasm. Other youth began coming to Dan or to me, sharing their concern about Jack's antics. I talked to Jack. Dan talked to Jack. Together we prayed for Jack and urged the other youth to join us. Nothing seemed to change. As a last ditch effort, we drafted two of our most mature youth to take Jack under their wing and mentor him.
During a Monday night Bible study, Dan asked one of those mentors to sing a solo. Jami was a redheaded freckled face girl whose sparkling blue eyes and contagious dimpled grin did not convey the constant pain she suffered as a victim of juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. Jami never complained, always quick and eager to share her faith. When she stood to sing, Jack began laughing, pointing and whispering to the people around him. Their lack of response fueled his fire, upping the ante for Jack to win this battle and capture center stage. Jami looked at me, silently begging me to rescue her and the situation. I smiled the most encouraging smile I could muster, hoping it would be enough. It wasn't. I looked back at Jack, delivering my famous and usually feared "shape up or die" glare - all to no avail. In a firm voice, Dan asked, "Jack, are you ready to hear Jamie sing?" Well, that did it! Jack erupted into uproarious laughter, "Sing? She sounds like a frog - not to mention the fact that she walks funny!" Every ounce of oxygen was immediately sucked out of the room. Everyone froze, except Jami, who fled in tears. From the faces of those youth sitting around Jack, I could tell that revenge was close at hand as they began loading their emotional guns and sharpening their retaliation knives. I jumped to my feet, grabbed Jack and pulled him out of the room.
Reaching the foyer, I whirled Jack around to face me and with clenched teeth ground out my livid question, "Do you have any idea what you just did?" The laughter vanished as pain and harsh realization spread across his face. His response was nothing short of incredible. "Yes. I embarrassed Jami and hurt her feelings." I am not often speechless, but at that moment, words simply evaporated as I stared into the eyes of someone fully aware of the pain he had just inflicted on one of the few people who accepted and defended him. "I cannot believe you!" I growled. "Jami has always been kind to you, coming to your defense when you did not deserve to be defended or inviting you to join the group when the group did not want you anywhere around them. She has probably been the best friend you have ever had or will ever have. What is wrong with you?" I knew my response was far from what it should be, but at that moment, all I could see was the hurt on Jami's face. What I didn't see was the hurt in Jack's heart. He stood, silently accepting his rightful and, I thought, well-deserved punishment without a single word of defense.
From the corner of my eye, I saw someone approaching. I was really hoping they were bringing me some kind of rusty weapon but it was Jami - with a tremulous smile breaking through the tears cascading down her face. Jack instinctively began backing away until he saw Jami's eyes and her outstretched arms. I stood paralyzed, a witness to God's supernatural presence and the restoration power of forgiveness at work before my unbelieving eyes and my angry heart. Instantly, I became the student and Jami the teacher. Both Jack and I listened quietly as God spoke through this precious young woman, the words only she could speak. "Jack, I got to thinking about why you did what you just did, and I realized something. I love you and you know that, but you don't think you deserve that love so you tried to kill it by hurting me. It won't work. Do you know why?" I saw Jack's sandpaper world being rocked by a love he could not understand, a love that was not altered by anything he did or didn't do, a love that only God can give. In answer to Jami's question, Jack gave a quick headshake and whispered, "No. I don't know why." Jami smiled, wrapped her arms around the very one who, just moments before had viciously wounded her, and with fresh tears streaming down her face, choked out words I will never forget. "I love you with God's love, Jack. Not mine. And His love will never die. I just wanted to tell you that no matter what you say or do, I am your friend - period."
Staring into her eyes, Jack experienced, maybe for the first time, the timeless and stubborn love of God; a love that would redefine his future. With a giggle, Jami playfully grabbed Jack's hand and began happily chattering about how she needed him in the front row to encourage her while she sang. And he did!
Here's the rest of the story. From that day forward, Jack was a different person. From time to time, he would fall back into old emotional habits but when he did, Jami or someone under her direction and influence would snatch him back to the new place that Jami's words of staggering kindness and God ordained wisdom had brought him. The youth who witnessed Jami's love for this unlovable one were changed and called up higher in their obedience to God, even when it didn't make sense and was completely undeserved. Jami taught me that hurt people really do hurt people. I want to be just like Jami when I grow up.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I judge others when I should love them. Help me to see every person through Your eyes of love, grace and mercy. Please guard my tongue and my heart so that I will build up and not destroy others. I want to please You, Lord; by the way I love the unlovable. Help me to grow up and become a fully devoted follower of Christ.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Right now, think of the most abrasive people in your life.
Are you ready to accept and love them without demanding that they change?
Find one good point about each person and voice it to others whenever you have the chance.
What can you do to demonstrate the unconditional love of God for these people?
Do you need to ask any of them for forgiveness? Are you willing to do that now?
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I can be very impatient with people who do not see life the way I see it or act the way I think they should. God is continually teaching me new truths about how to show "sandpaper people" God's love through what I do and say.
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January 31, 2011
Broken Into Beautiful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame" (Psalm 34:5, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I remember the phone call to my college boyfriend. Through sobs, I managed to tell him I was pregnant. There was a long pause on the other end of the phone ... and then came the speed round of questions and comments: "What are we going to do? Do you think we should get married? Oh, my gosh ... Oh, my gosh ... what are we going to do? Do you want to have this baby? What are we going to do? What about volleyball? What will your parents say? What will my parents say? Oh, my gosh!"
Like trapped animals, we were frantically looking for a way out. Then we made our decision. We would take care of it. It wasn't time for us to have a baby yet.
God wasn't consulted. He wasn't invited into our decision.
Adam and Eve hid in the garden after eating the forbidden fruit. My boyfriend and I hid from God and did what we considered to be our only option. We made a plan. He would pick me up and take me to a clinic that I read about in the yellow pages.
When the day came, we drove in icy silence. I was Fort Knox. No one was going to break through the emotional walls I had constructed for protection.
You see there was never a moment that I believed having an abortion was the right thing to do. I only stubbornly and naively believed that my choice was the only ladder to grab out of the horrible pit I had dug for myself.
I was wrong. Dead wrong.
There, in the sterile room of that stale clinic, I used an alias. I wasn't Gwen. My charts did not say that I was Gwen, the girl who was raised by good parents, the girl who was raised in the Word of God to know right from wrong. The counselor I had met with said that using my name could have made me feel uncomfortable with the "harmless and legal procedure" I was having done that day. Nobody else needed to know. I was anonymous.
It was my secret. A secret of chains that bound me in silence for the ensuing fifteen years - a secret kept because I mistakenly assumed that no one else could handle the ugly truth of my sinfulness with grace and forgiveness. I was a Christian girl. Christians don't get pregnant when they aren't married, and Christians don't have abortions, right? It was all too scandalous, and I was crazy afraid of the consequences.
Most of that day was a blur. It was a dark, cold January day. Though the clinic was lit with bright fluorescent lights, the flame of dignity and hope in my heart had grown dim. I blocked out all the voices in my head as they contested what I was doing. I was desperate and scared.
For weeks following my abortion, I went through each day under a dark cloud of despair. I couldn't reconcile what I had done with who I was, and who I was supposed to be. My heart was broken. I felt hopeless and was horribly ashamed. I hated what I had done, and I hated myself for doing it. I was responsible for the death of my baby. It was my fault. I knew it, and it haunted me.
Voices of accusation used to scream in my head. They shouted things like: Murderer! Baby killer! Hypocrite! You can never tell a soul about this! Condemnation kept me shackled. Without realizing it, I was a captive to my own acceptance of those words. I was guilty. A wretch. No excuses. My heart was paralyzed by death. Words just can't express the depth of anguish my soul experienced.
The dark days turned into weeks, which turned into months. Although I could turn on the fake charm like water from a faucet ... oh, how my plastic smile served me well in those days ... I was dying inside! At night, my pillow soaked up rivers of tears. I would lie awake, wondering if my baby was a boy or girl, or if my baby had felt any pain as she was being sucked from my body.
I wept. I wept for both my baby and for myself. It was necessary. It felt right to cry. And though the tears helped my soul grieve, none were as healing as the ones I cried to Jesus when I finally turned back to Him.
Like Peter after the rooster crowed, I wept bitterly at the feet of Jesus in raw repentance. Then, as the psalmist did, I "waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God" (Psalm 40:1-3). Although I didn't deserve His mercy, Jesus forgave me. My forgiveness was immediate and complete, but the healing took time. He gave me a new song.
Hallelujah! I've been forgiven and transformed by the unconditional love of God. I was dead in my sins, but am now alive in Christ! I am free and it is my privilege to encourage you towards that same freedom in Christ. God longs for you to experience His perfect healing and hope too - no matter what you've done, no matter where you've been, no matter what has left you broken.
What's your story? Jesus came that we would have life abundantly (John 10:10). Not because of anything that we have done to deserve it, but because of what He has done. His grace is sufficient. The guilt, pain, and shame of our pasts tell us we are disqualified to move on, to serve God, to be free, and to know peace. But to believe this lie is to believe that your sin is outside the scope of God's grace. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have purpose in this life. And though you may have gone through a season of hurt, rejection, or pain, God can and will pick you up and place you back on track. I'm living proof.
There is no condemnation for those in Christ. While the enemy loves to cast false guilt, our Lord loves to extend grace and forgiveness, which is the remedy that restores all your broken pieces. Don't hold onto those pieces. Don't hide them behind a plastic smile. Bring them into the light, lay them at the feet of Jesus, and let go. Allow your wounds to be healed today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, today I come to You with the broken pieces in my life that I have been hesitant to deal with. Take my hand and lead as I walk past my fears and doubts to the refuge of Your forgiving arms. Please take what is broken and transform it into beautiful. Please free me from the lies that have me shackled in silence and that keep me from believing that Your forgiveness can be mine. Help me to trust that You can redeem and restore every area of my life.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask yourself these questions:
What secrets or lies am I allowing to hold me captive?
How could God use my story for His glory?
Am I willing to share my experiences and failures for the transformation power of Christ to be seen by others?
Then, read Luke 7:36-50.
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Okay ... take a deep breath with me! Some of you may feel disturbed that a locked door in your heart has been nudged open this morning. I also know that 30-40% of you that are reading this devotion share my experience of abortion. There is healing and forgiveness for you, too. Through the help of my local Pregnancy Care Center, I went through a post-abortive Bible study that helped me to know complete healing. If you have not taken that step toward healing, I encourage you to contact the Abortion Recovery CARE line at 1-866-4-My-Recovery (1-866-469-7326) - visit www.AbortionRecovery.org - or call your local Pregnancy Care Center today to sign up for a post-abortive Bible study or retreat.
Portions of today's devotion are taken from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. Her full testimony is featured in the book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book online, please visit Gwen's website at www.GwenSmith.net/store.
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February 1, 2011
AAA Club of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband-that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly" (Ephesians 5:33 Amplified).
Friend To Friend
Are you a member of the Triple A Club of Marriage? You didn't know there was such a thing? Well, there's not an official one that you can call if your marriage breaks down, but I have one that I keep in the back of my mind. It stands for adoration, admiration, and appreciation. Did you know that big tough man of yours longs to be admired? He desires for someone to think he's brave and brilliant, loving and logical, tough and tender, handsome and humorous, masculine and magical. That's the stuff of your man's dreams.
What does it mean to adore your husband? Basically, it means to love him with all your heart...and let him know about it. Someone once said, "I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved." Do you want to see your husband's face light up like a full moon? Tell him you are amazed that he knows how to ________ or that you are impressed by his _______, then sit back and watch him glow.
When the TV cameras pan the sidelines of a college football game, my heart always melts in a pool of butter when a young man waves his hand and says those precious two words: "Hi Mom." It's almost like he's saying, "Look at me! Look at me!" The truth is men want to be admired by the woman of their dreams. It starts with mom, and then continues with the Misses.
Where does your husband go for adoration, admiration and appreciation? He goes somewhere. All men do. Does he go to work in hopes of hearing "job well done"? Does he go to the ball field in hopes of hearing "way to go man"? Does he go back home to mother to hear "I'm so proud of you son"? Does he work late in hopes of a few compliments from the gals in the office? Does he feast on compliments from patients or clients? Does he hang out at the gym flexing and building his biceps? Tell me, where does your man go to be admired?
Dr. Willard Harley says, "When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself as capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. That inspiration helps him prepare for the responsibilities of life. Admiration not only motivates, it also rewards the husband's existing achievements. When she tells him that she appreciates him for what he has done, it gives him more satisfaction than he receives from his paycheck. A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become, if he lived up to her standards. For some men - those with fragile self-images - admiration also helps them believe in themselves. Without it these men seem inherently more defensive about their shortcomings....While criticism causes men to become defensive, admiration energizes and motivates them. A man expects - and needs - his wife to be his most enthusiastic fan. He draws confidence from her support and can usually achieve far more with her." (Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs Her Needs (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Fleming H. Revell, 1986) p151.)
You become the mirror in which your husband sees himself. So if he's looking sort of glum lately, maybe you need to renew your membership into the AAA Club of marriage and try a little adoration, admiration and appreciation around your home.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be my husband's biggest fan. Please help me restrain my critical tongue. Help me to see him as You see Him...a child of the King. I do so love my husband; help me to make sure that he knows just how much.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have been withholding admiring words from your husband, it may feel strange to begin giving them. First and foremost, be authentic - be real. If you contrive admiring words, he will be able to tell. Start with one compliment or word of appreciation. It may be as simple as "thank you." Soon the admiration will begin to flow...hopefully both ways. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Place an "I love you sign in a public place." (I put a sign outside of my husband's office window to surprise him on Valentine's Day. The fact that all his patients saw it was an extra boost!)
Write him a love letter.
Write an acrostic from A-Z of reasons you adore, admire, and appreciate him.
Leave an "I love you" message on his voice mail.
Write him a thank you note for something specific he did for you.
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February 2, 2011
Harnessing the Power of the Past
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand." (Psalm 40:1-2, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Florida is famous for its sinkholes. I personally find them fascinating since I grew up in Texas where most holes are made intentionally. As I studied these overnight wonders, an interesting explanation emerged. Scientists assert that sinkholes occur when the underground resources gradually dry up, causing the surface soil to lose its underlying support. Everything simply caves in - forming an ugly pit.
Depression and sinkholes have a lot in common. Depression seems to overwhelm with a vicious suddenness when it is actually the result of a malignant and constant process. Inner resources are slowly depleted until one day there is nothing left. The world caves in and darkness reigns.
Depression is America's number one health problem. Someone once called it "a dark tunnel without a ray of light" while cartoonists portray it as "a little black cloud hovering overhead." I have a friend who says, "Some days you're the bug. Some days you're the windshield." Many believe that depression is simply a spiritual problem while others insist it is an emotional and physical disorder. They are all right. Studies indicate that over half of all women and one out of three men struggle with depression on a regular basis. Because no one is immune to the darkness, we must learn to face it honestly and with emotional and spiritual integrity.
That moment came for me in the spring of 1995 when my world fell apart. I was empty and completely exhausted. It seemed as if I had been living in the fast and furious lane forever. Overwhelmed, I sat down and mentally listed the demands on my life:
Serving as Pastor's wife in a large and fast-growing church
Raising two young children
Maintaining a hectic speaking schedule
Directing the Women's Ministry of our church
Teaching a weekly and monthly Bible study
Counseling women in crisis
Playing the piano for three worship services
Teaching twenty piano and voice students
No wonder I was struggling. I was just plain tired. Being a perfectionist, I had always been very strong and driven to excel with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. Getting dressed by the time my children returned from school meant it was a good day. The simplest decisions sent me into a panic and the thought of facing crowds was overwhelming. Many times, I walked to the front door of the church but couldn't go in. I felt guilty missing services but couldn't handle the sympathetic looks and questioning stares as I stood, weeping uncontrollably. I was paralyzed, imprisoned in a bottomless pit where loneliness and despair reigned, wreaking emotional havoc from their throne of darkness. I had no idea how I had gotten there and what was even more frightening was the fact that I had no idea how to escape! I did the only thing I could do. I cried out to God.
"I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand" (Psalm 40:1-2, NIV).
With that single heart cry, my journey from darkness into light began. The first step was to recognize the factors that can trigger depression; a lack of replenishing relationships, various chemical imbalances, and a poor self-image, just to name a few. One of the most common and deadly factors is failure to deal with the past. The "mire" mentioned in Psalm 40:2 means "sediment at the bottom." When our children were small, we frequented the beach. Wading out into the ocean, they took turns pushing a beach ball under water and counting to see who could hold the ball under water the longest. Eventually their arms would tire, or the ball would escape their control, popping to the surface. The "mire" in our lives is like that beach ball. The "sediment" or "junk" that we have never dealt with settles at the bottom of our souls, randomly popping up until we run out of energy to keep it submerged. Eventually, this mire works its way to the surface, spilling ugliness and darkness into our life.
"Mire" comes in all shapes and sizes - buried pain, unresolved anger, hidden sin or a great loss. I had never really dealt with my mother's death or faced some very painful parts of my past. As I looked back over my life a startling realization came - I had painted a picture in my heart and mind of how I wanted my childhood to be instead of how it really was. I had spent my whole life running from the past by filling the present with frenzied activity. In the following weeks and months, the Lord and I sifted through the enormous pile of "mire" that had settled into my spirit and life. Together we faced experiences that I had carefully locked away until they slammed into my heart and mind with breathtaking force and fresh pain; an alcoholic father, the trusted family doctor who molested me, times of loneliness and rejection, haunting failures, unreasonable fears that were never spoken. It seemed as if the flood of polluted memories would never end.
But God is good - providing a defense mechanism for those experiences that are beyond our ability to face. He gently tucks them away until we are ready. When we bury pain alive, it keeps popping up at unexpected moments. Pain must be dealt with and buried...dead. Freedom from the pit of darkness demands a confrontation of our past, straining every experience through the truth that "all" things work together for our good. The will of God admits no defeat and penalizes no one. We can allow our past to defeat us or empower us. Harnessing the power of the past is a compelling weapon in the war against darkness.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of the darkness that greets me every morning when I open my eyes and stares me down at night when I try to sleep. I am no longer willing to be a prisoner of my past. Show me the sins I need to confess and turn away from. Heal the wounds that have hurt for so long. I lay my past at Your feet and ask You to make it a cornerstone for the new life I can have in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think back over your life. Make a list of the "mire" that has settled in your heart and soul. Be specific. It may be a sin you need to confess or the pain of a broken relationship that needs to be healed. Ask God to show you the things in your past that have become footholds of darkness in your life today. Face each one. Deal with it and let it go.
Read Romans 8:28. What good things has God brought out of the pain in your past? Is your faith stronger? Have you been able to encourage others who have experienced that same pain?
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· Change a negative thought life into positive, healthy thought patterns.
· Control and use the power of emotions to avoid erratic mood swings.
· Enjoy better relationships by establishing replenishing friendships and managing draining ones.
· Re-set priorities to have a more balanced life
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February 3, 2011
Lost that Lovin' Feeling?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Yet I hold this against you; You have forsaken your first love" (Revelation 2:4, NIV).
Friend To Friend
If you're married, what do you do when you've lost that loving' feelin'? Maybe you truly adored your husband in the beginning, but now you can't remember why. Maybe you honestly admired his finer qualities, but now you can't remember what they were. Maybe you appreciated his wonderful attributes, but now take them for granted. What do you do now?
Here's a statistic you might find interesting. According to an analysis of the National Survey of Families and Households, 86 percent of unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier. In fact, nearly 60 percent of those who rated their marriage as unhappy in the late 1980's, and who stayed married, rated their same marriage "very happy" or "quite happy" when re-interviewed five years later ( Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage (New York: Doubleday, 2000) 148). In comparison, those who divorced and remarried and divorced again at a rate of 60 percent (Judith Wallerstein and Julia A. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Hyperion, 2000) p295).
So, starting over may very well be the answer ... as long as it's with the same man.
In the book of Revelation in the Bible, God had this to say to the church at Ephesus. "Yet I hold this against you; You have forsaken your first love" (Revelation 2:4). Ephesus was one of the most loving churches in the New Testament and yet, somewhere along the way, they lost that initial thrill of knowing Christ. Their love for each other and for God had grown cold.
As I read God's lament, I whispered a prayer. "Oh Lord, how many of us women have forgotten our first love. We've forgotten the thrill we felt when we first met our husbands: the spine tingling chills when he walked into a room, the heart skipping flutter when he called on the phone, the tender wooing when we opened a letter penned by his hand, the electricity of sexual desire stirred with a kiss. Somewhere between taking out the garbage, paying the bills, running carpool, mowing the lawn, disciplining the kids, folding the laundry...somewhere among the mundane routine of life, we've lost that lovin' feelin'.
How do we get it back? God gave the church two simple steps for the Bride of Christ to renew her passion for her Beloved, and I believe we can apply the same principles to renewing our passion for the man of our dreams.
Remember and Return
Remember what drew you to your husband in the first place? Remember how you tried to please him, capture his heart, and win his affection? That may have been fifty pounds and a full head of hair ago, but that young man who longed to be adored, admired, and appreciated still lives within his heart. He wants to know if he still "has what it takes." Let him know that he does.
Everyone loves a love story. Tell your children the story of how you first met and fell in love. Remember special days such as your first date, your first kiss, or when you first realized he was the man you wanted to marry. Listen to a tape or watch a video of your wedding. Steve and I celebrate not only our wedding anniversary but also the day he asked me to marry him. I'm sure my son has tired of hearing the story time and time again, but he's never doubted that his parents are crazy about each other.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I so want to be a woman that is on fire for You. I want my spiritual passion to be ablaze and never cool. Likewise, I want my marriage to be a passionate example of Christ and the Church. Help me to always remember what drew me to my husband and show me ways to keep that love strong.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have kids, tell them the story of how you met and fell in love with your husband at the dinner table tonight.
If you aren't married, tell someone how you met Jesus Christ and gave your life to Him.
If you are married, write down what drew you to your husband initially.
If you are not married, write down what you long for in the man of your dreams.
Let's share some ideas. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell some ways that you keep the love alive in your marriage.
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February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams - Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes.
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February 4, 2011
Coming Out of the Dark
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry" (Psalm 40:1,NIV).
Friend To Friend
Patience is not my greatest virtue. I do not like to wait - for anyone or anything - which is precisely why you should never get in line behind me at the grocery store. It doesn't matter if there are two people or ten people in front of me, my line will invariably be the slowest line. I do not like to wait on God either ... but was forced to do so when I found myself sitting at the bottom of a pit called clinical depression. I was empty and more tired than I had ever been in my life. I kept asking, "How did I get here?"
Depression is not an overnight phenomenon. I can honestly say that I don't know a single person who has climbed out of bed in the morning and said, "Hmmm ... I think I will jump into the pit of depression today." Deliverance from that pit is usually not an overnight process either. It takes time and patience.
1. Wait. The psalmist simply says, "I waited." Waiting is not passive. Waiting is meant to be a time of preparation, a time of rest and healing,
To wait means to accept the pit. Isaiah 45:3 (NIV) "I will give you hidden treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Any time "LORD" is capitalized in Scripture, it means "Abba Father." This verse indicates that our Father has gone before us and in every dark moment or painful circumstance has buried a treasure or stored a secret. The only way we can find the treasure or learn the secret is to pass through that darkness. Some things cannot be learned in the light. To wait means to accept the pit, knowing it is for our good.
To wait means to admit there is a problem. Isaiah 40:29 (NLT) "He gives power to those who are tired and worn out; he offers strength to the weak."
Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity with a willingness to say "I need help!" When clinical depression overwhelmed my life, my husband was the pastor of a large church in South Florida. We could choose to be transparent and real or we could sweep my struggle under the rug. We concluded that in order to be right, we had to be real. Dan and I shared my battle with the staff, the deacons and then with the entire church. Yes, we took a risk but learned an important lesson in doing so. A shared load is a lighter load. We were created to need each other.
To wait means to be still. Psalm 40:1 "I waited ..." To wait means to hope in and look for someone or something who will rescue us.
So much about God can never be known on the run. I was so wrapped up in serving God that I had failed to be wrapped up in Him. During those two years in the pit, I not only gave up every role of leadership, there were many times when I could not even attend church because of panic attacks. God taught me an important truth. He is more concerned with who I am than what I do. No one can take my place in His heart.
2. Be patient. It took twenty-two years for the McDonald's hamburger chain to make its first billion dollars. It took IBM forty-six years and Xerox sixty-three years to make their first billion. Harvey Mackay, in his book Swim with the Sharks, tells of an interview with the 88-year-old President of Japan's largest and most successful electrical enterprise. The interview went as follows:
Question: Mr. President, does your company have long-range goals?
Answer: "Yes."
Question: "How long are your long-range goals?"
Answer: "Two hundred and fifty years."
Question: "What do you need to carry them out?"
Answer: "Patience."
David said, "I waited patiently for the Lord." The word "patiently" means "without tiring and with perseverance." It took me many years to hit rock bottom. It took me two years to climb out of that pit and I am still climbing. Yes, I still battle depression from time to time. Depression keeps me broken and on my face before God - and that is a good thing.
Depression may not be the problem you are facing, but at some point in life, we will all face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. But a pit is a pit - a place of paralyzing fear and numbing doubt that is constantly fed by our human frailty and desperate attempts to escape the darkness.
The good news is that God is drawn to broken people. Psalm 40:1 says "He turned to me." Notice it does not say that David turned to God. Honestly, I doubt David had the strength to turn to God ... so God turned to him. God heard the cry of David and he will hear yours. I don't know if you are in a pit and need help or if someone you love is in that pit and needs your help, but one thing I do know is that the purpose of the pit is to purify and then restore. Right now, surrender the broken pieces of your life to God. He can and will bring you out of the dark.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired. I can't hear Your voice or sense Your presence in my life. My faith is weak and I need Your strength to go on. Right now, I am laying the broken pieces of my life at Your feet and counting on You to come through for me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 40:1-3. "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Circle all of the "action" words in these verses. What does God ask you to do? What does God say that He will do? Do you believe Him? Are you willing to let Him be God in your life?
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If you or someone you love is dealing with depression, I encourage you to check out these FREE resources on my website. My book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, is a practical guide for anyone dealing with depression and will help you learn how t
· Change a negative thought life into positive, healthy thought patterns.
· Control and use the power of emotions to avoid erratic mood swings.
· Enjoy better relationships by establishing replenishing friendships and managing draining ones.
- Re-set priorities to have a more balanced life
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February 7, 2011
"Don't Scratch That Itch"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me.' For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed" (James 1:13-14, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I once woke up with a spider bite that was the size of a quarter. It may as well have been the size of North Carolina for as much as it itched! I was half-tempted to scratch off my arm. That nasty bite was just begging to be scratched. However, I have learned a thing or two in my thirty-something years, and one thing I know for sure: it is best not to scratch this type of itch.
It would be like opening a bag of chips with the naive intention of eating only one (yeah, right!) I knew that if I started scratching my bug bite, it would be nearly impossible to stop. I would regret having ever started.
Super-itchy bug bites are a lot like temptations. Temptations are itchy! The call on us with urgent voices that scream, "Scratch me! Scratch me!" Yet, in all reality, a little scratch will not satisfy temptation's itch at all ... it will just make matters worse. When we scratch the itch of temptation, the itch does not diminish. To the contrary, it increases.
The Bible teaches us that when we resist temptation, our faith is then mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened. Let's look at what that looked like for a guy named Joseph. (For the full account, pause here and read Genesis 39.)
Joseph was a man of integrity who did right in the eyes of the Lord, but he definitely faced some temptation! He was seduced by temptation in the form of his master's wife, Mrs. Potiphar. You see, Mrs. Potiphar wanted her husband's right-hand man to sleep with her, and she pursued him with aggression. Hers was a hand-delivered invitation for Joseph to sin that had itchy written all over it. But he flat-out refused. His heart was determined to honor God.
"My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" Though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her (Genesis 39:9-10).
Temptation chased Joseph relentlessly. Oh, how he must have longed for the itching to stop! To give in would be sinful. To give in was simply not an option for this young man of character. So on the day that Potiphar's wife caught him by the cloak and begged again for Joseph to sleep with her, Joseph ran out of the house. He ran from that tempting situation as fast as his legs would carry him.
God was honored in Joseph's response.
He ran from temptation.
We would be wise to do the same.
What do you need to run from today? Have you determined in your heart to honor God in everything? Temptation comes in all shapes and sizes. It might be calling your name from your pantry - or from your computer - or from a bottle - or from another cubicle in your office. What temptations do you face today? Name them and run the other way! Don't scratch that itch! Determine in your heart that you will choose the path that brings honor to God, and call on Him for strength.
I realize that dealing with temptation is not easy. When that nasty spider bit my arm, I struggled not to scratch the bite. I had to re-direct my thinking to persevere through the temptation. When we come face to face with temptations, God's strength is always available to us. We need God's strength. Ours will fail us. Friend, when we resist temptation, we get to experience the peace and protection of God, our faith is mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need You so much. I constantly find myself being dragged away and enticed by temptation. Please give me strength to run the other way, and give me the wisdom to run to Your arms. I really want to be a woman of godly character. Help me be that woman!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Contemplate the following questions: What have you been dragged away and enticed by in the past? How did you respond? How have you grown from those experiences?
Though our sovereign God allows trials to enter our lives, He does not ever tempt us. (James 1) Tuck that truth in your heart today, and the next time you experience a temptation - great or small - recognize that the enemy is behind the allure. Then tell him to get behind you and pray that Jesus will re-direct your thinking.
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God's love is perfect. He has seen our biggest failures, our greatest places of shame and hurt - and yet, He beckons us to His love, forgiveness, healing, and grace. He has a plan for each life that is far beyond the shattered matters with which we deal. Every step of transformation begins with our surrender to the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration.
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February 8, 2011
God Can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes
Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will be on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"Then he [God] said to me , "Prophesy to these bones and say to them, 'Dry bones hear the word of the LORD!' This is what the Sovereign LORD says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you, and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the LORD.'" (Ezekiel 37:4-6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was January 7, 2005 when a group of friends gathered at Don and Jona's house to watch the Dr. Phil show. Jona had written in to a contest that Good Housekeeping, in conjunction with Dr. Phil, had on "life change." Of fifteen thousand applicants, Jona was the grand prize winner! As the winner, Don and Jona were guests on the Dr. Phil Show to tell their story. But I didn't need Dr. Phil to tell me the story, I lived it with them. Let Jona and I share how we remember it ...
Don was twenty-seven-years old when Jona first met him on a spring church beach retreat. Immediately, she knew he was exactly what she had always dreamed of in a husband. Don had a strong faith in God, a good job, a college degree, drive, and dreams for the future. He was physically fit, witty, adventurous, sexy, and "just plain gorgeous." On top of that, he was constantly surrounded by women at the retreat that were vying for his attention.
When they returned home, Jona could hardly believe her good fortune when Don asked her to dinner. Don and Jona dated only three months before he asked her to marry him, and on March 30, 1985, before the next spring beach retreat, they were husband and wife.
Their first year of marriage was a blissful blur of candlelight dinners, spontaneous lovemaking, and endless conversation. The icing on the one-year anniversary cake was the purchase of their first home. By their second anniversary, Don quit his job to start his own business. Life was clicking along at a steady pace toward acquiring the American Dream. By their fourth anniversary, Jona had their first child and joined the ranks of "stay-at-home-mom." But, after twenty-four months of Don's new business venture, the couple faced a second mortgage, a dwindling bank account, and a looming cloud of debt. Jona was forced to go back to work and seeds of discontentment, disrespect, and disenchantment began to take root.
"I was so mad at Don for the mistakes I felt he had made," Jona explained. "Deep down, I wanted him to be God and to fulfill all my needs. He made a poor God. When my mother died in 1993, I sank into a clinical depression. I spent most of my time at home in bed. And even though I had two children by this time, I withdrew from being a mom, as well as being a wife. I then began to eat...and eat. I went from 140 pounds to 240 pounds."
"Don and I had the perfect engagement, a beautiful wedding, and a fantasy honeymoon. But when the obstacles came along, I wasn't prepared to maneuver over, around, or through them. I thought "This is not the way the story goes. What happened to the fairy tale?"
"Don changed jobs about every other year, however, he always provided for our needs. It just drove me crazy that he couldn't stay put."
"I remember one day Don said, 'Why are you eating and gaining all this weight?' I shot back, 'I'm doing this because I don't want you to touch me. Besides, I can lose the weight if I want to, but you'll always be a loser.' Little by little, word by word, angry look by angry look, rejection by rejection; I began the process of destroying my husband. Comments like 'You're so stupid,' 'duh,' and 'can't you do anything right?' were constantly spewing from my mouth. I was in pain and I wanted Don to be in pain, too. One day, I made a list of all of Don's faults. He found the list, but I didn't even care."
Jona always thought that since Don was a Christian, he would never leave her. However, there came a point where he could not take the emotional turmoil any longer. On May 6, 2001, Don left. Jona had destroyed her marriage and her man. On January 31, 2003, the divorce was final.
"A couple of months after our divorce, I woke up to God's still small voice," Jona explained. "He seemed to say, 'Is this what you wanted? Did you want a divorce? Do you want Don to marry another woman and have your children torn between spending time in two different households? Do you want to be alone? Were you the wife I called you to be?' Oh God," Jona cried, "What have I done?"
Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona's heart. She didn't change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I know Today's Truth seems like a strange verse. It is! Go back and read Ezekiel chapter 37. If God can do that with a bunch of dry bones, just think what He can do with your marriage!
Do you see yourself in Jona?
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage?
Let's chat, visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me how changes you have made have affected your marriage. Or tell me how you are committing to change today.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you!
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February 9, 2011
God Can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"So I prophesied as he [God] Commanded me, and breath entered them; they came to life and stood up on their feet-a vast army," (Ezekiel 37:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I can hardly wait for you to read the rest of the story from yesterday. If you missed it, please go back and read it first. Here's where we left off...Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona's heart. She didn't change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and keep reading.
God took Jona to a place of repentance and began to soften, remold and remake her very heart. That's what God does. He doesn't try to cover up our flaws; He starts from scratch and makes us new. While the divorce was final, God was only just beginning to work on Jona's heart.
"God took me to a place of repentance," Jona explained. "For the first time, through a support group, I saw clearly what I had done to destroy my marriage. I had always blamed our problems on Don changing jobs so often, but the real problem was my lack of respect for the God appointed leader of my home. I was the real problem and Don simply couldn't take it anymore. I had rejected Don with my words, my appearance, and my withdrawal of physical touch."
Whether or not God could salvage the marriage, Jona made a commitment that she would allow God to salvage her.
Jona's heart longed to be reunited to Don, but her ultimate goal was to become the woman God wanted her to be. She immersed herself in Bible study and prayer, and began to take an interest in her appearance. Interesting, as the pounds began to drop, so did the scales that had covered her eyes.
"I began to understand what God's Word said about the relationship between a husband and wife. I was not Don's Holy Spirit. I was not the leader of my home. God had called me to respect Don as the leader, to honor him as a child of God, and to love him with my all. One day when Don came to pick up our two boys, I shared with him what I had been learning."
"I told Don that I knew that we are divorced, but I was making a commitment to submit to him. I didn't when we were married, but I did from that time forward."
"That's fine," he told me. "But you need to know I'm moving on with my life."
"You can move on," I said, "But I'm staying right here."
Jona continued to encourage Don and give him her BEST.
"BEST stands for bless, edify, share, and touch," she explained. "I began to touch him when he came by the house. I'd pat his back or give him a quick hug. When I knew he was coming, I'd put on a nice dress and fix my hair. I'd tell him I was proud of how he was handling the boys and share with him what God was teaching me. Some people told him I was trying to trick him and that he should ignore me. But it wasn't a trick. God had changed my heart and I was committed, no matter what happened between us in the future, to never go back to being that bitter woman I had been before."
"Sharon, I hate to tell you this," she said, "but for the first time, I prayed for Don. I had never prayed for him before, but now I pray for him all the time."
Jona lost the added pounds and gained a beautiful glowing countenance. It was amazing. More than the change in her physical appearance, the glow of Jesus Christ shone through her radiant face.
Don was confused at times and a bit leery of the change. "Why do you think I'm wonderful, all of a sudden?" he asked her.
"Because now I see you through God's eyes," she explained. "I see that you are a wonderful man."
Don fell in love with Jona all over again. No, it wasn't a trick - it was a miracle. God has given them a second chance. They were remarried on August 24, 2003. Oh how I love God ... He is the God of second chances.
Dear friends, Jona has so graciously allowed me to tell you her story because she has decided that she will do anything to help one woman not make the same mistakes she has made. She cried and cried all through the recounting of the story, and relived the pain...for you. "God allowed me to go to a terrible place," Jona explained. "My prayer is that others will not have to go to that place before they wake up and realize what they are doing to their men."
And that...is what Dr. Phil did not tell you.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I know Today's Truth seems like a strange verse. It is! Go back and read Ezekiel chapter 37. If God can do that with a bunch of dry bones, just think what He can do with your marriage!
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage?
Let's chat, visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me how changes you have made have affected your marriage.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you!
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February 10, 2011
Take This Job and Love It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be" (Psalm 139:16, NIV).
Friend To Friend
We all want to be successful in our work. Your office may be downtown or just inside your front door. Your work clothes may be an elegant suit or ragged jeans and a stained t-shirt. You may be paid in cash or with crayon drawings and sticky kisses. It doesn't really matter because none of these things alone makes us successful in the work place.
Many people never experience success in their work because they are in the wrong work to begin with. Not me. As a high school student, I knew exactly what I wanted to be - a nurse. My mother was a nurse and I wanted to be just like her so I signed up to be a student volunteer at the hospital where my mother worked. When I told her the good news, she thought for a moment and then simply said, "That's great, honey. You'll make a wonderful nurse."
On my first day, I eagerly donned the required red and white striped uniform and reported for duty. The head nurse welcomed me and explained that I would be checking each patient to make sure they had water to drink, magazines to read and a listening ear. That sounded simple enough. "Oh, and one more thing," she continued. In retrospect, I should have instantly recognized the danger in those words and run for the nearest exit. In my ignorance, I stayed. "Since we are short-handed, I may ask you to do just a few things to help the other nurses on duty," she said. "No problem" I assured her.
At that precise moment, a scream pierced the air! The head nurse calmly looked at me, smiled and said, "Could you check on that, please?" Surely, I had misunderstood her. "Now!" she continued. Taking a deep breath, I headed in the direction of the scream, praying that that it was nothing more than the celebratory cry of someone who had just won a million dollars.
As I neared the room in question, a bedpan flew through the doorway in front of me, landing at my feet. Furthermore, the bedpan was not empty. I decided right then and there that nursing was not for me, turned in my candy cane apron and raced for the nearest exit. Mama was waiting for me as I stepped off the elevator. She smiled, handed me the cars keys and simply said, "See you at home." Fortunately, I had a wise and wonderful mother who knew me well and from that day on encouraged me to be the teacher God created me to be.
I truly believe many people are living stress-filled lives because they have never sought and discovered God's plan and are trapped in jobs and careers that simply do not fit. Every day, they feel like the proverbial round peg being jammed into a square hole - a painful and frustrating process.
What does fit is God's plan. In Psalm 23:3, David writes, "He leads me in paths of righteousness." In this verse "righteousness" simply means "right things." The Shepherd has a plan for His sheep. Unfortunately, so does everyone else. The difference is that God's plan is filled with the "right things" He shaped and created us to do while the agendas of others tend to service their own purposes instead of God's. God empowers His plan, but when we step into our own agenda or a plan created by anyone else, we are stepping into and relying upon our frail, limited strength. Soon, we will be empty and stress will flood in, filling the emptiness with anxiety and tension. Don't waste another day just doing the "next" thing. Take a long, hard look at your work, your job, and your agenda to make sure you are in the right place - doing what you were created to do in this world.
You have probably heard the statement, "I climbed the ladder of success, and when I reached the top, I realized it was leaning against the wrong wall." Not long ago, I came to a crossroads in my life that made me question the path I was taking in ministry. I asked God to either change me and the way I was doing ministry or change my ministry. He did both! Once again, I realized that God wants the highest and best things for my life. That really is His plan. Don't settle for anything less.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to follow Your plan for my life. Help me to walk in daily obedience so that Your unique and perfect plan for my life will naturally unfold before me. And when I am discouraged or stressed because of the work I am doing, give me Your peace and the assurance that I am in the right spot doing the right things You created me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The amazing truth is that more than we want to know God's plan for our life - He wants us to know it and stands ready to guide us. God always reveals His plan to an obedient and seeking heart. Are you willing to do whatever God asks you to do?
Read Jeremiah 29:11 and record it in your journal. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).
Seek God and ask for His direction.
Seek His will by searching His Word.
Pay attention to the passion of your heart.
Realistically evaluate your abilities.
Take into account your natural talents.
Consider the advice of those who know you best.
Then step out in faith, trusting God to help you make the right choice.
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God gives us His truth to learn and then to apply. God has a unique plan or "recipe" for each one of us. Our greatest opportunity for success is to live that plan. I believe God tucks into our very soul a discontentment with anything but His life "recipe." If we approach each day searching for His handprints in every situation, choosing to walk in obedience to His Word, we will surely find ourselves right in the middle of God's purpose and plan.
Mary's Bible Study Take This Job and Love It, offers six principles from the life of the Proverbs 31 woman that will help you be successful in your work, no matter where you work or what your job may be. Study guide included.
It's not too late to enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and have access to all of 2011 studies. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. We will experience pain and hurt but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory.
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February 11, 2011
What's the Plan?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'" (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I have come to the conclusion that many of our problems stem from the fact that we are not prepared to run the race of life. Some people are not even sure what kind of race they are in and wonder where the finish line is or if there really is a finish line. It seems that we are busier than we have ever been but accomplishing less and experiencing fewer successes than ever before. Stephen Wright says, "I think God is going to come down and pull civilization over for speeding." Can you relate?
I believe Christians should be goal-oriented and focused people. Setting goals is not about what I want to do with my life as much as it is what God wants to do in and through my life. Someone once said that goals are the "rudder of our lives, and God's wisdom is the wind filling the sails." Should Christians make plans and set goals in life? Absolutely! Is goal planning Biblical? Yes! In fact, we were created in response to God's plan. Psalm 139:13 says God created our "inmost being" and "knit" us together in our mother's womb. We were created for a reason and God has a specific plan for each one of us.
God has always had plans and has set goals according to those plans. God created the world with a plan in mind. Can you imagine the bedlam creation would have caused if God had not had a set plan and goal? Part of God's plan is for each of us to have a personal relationship with Him. The forgiveness of our sin is part of God's plan. When Jesus came to earth, it was again part of God's plan as were His life, death, burial and resurrection. God does not ordain chaos and is a God of order and peace - not confusion and turmoil. He wants us to live with purpose and joy and that means we must learn how to plan and set goals that please Him and line up with His Word. Fitzhugh Dodson said, "Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination."
I have a friend who believes that setting goals is a worldly and unspiritual habit. She has no real schedule to speak of, makes no concrete plans and sets no goals. In other words, she aims at nothing. Why? She says that she wants to be free to do what God tells her to do. She prays before making the smallest decision. That concept sounds very right and very spiritual, doesn't it? Prayer is definitely an essential part of setting life goals and plans but my friend has taken this concept to a whole new level - one I believe to be dangerous. She prays about whether she should go to work or church, clean her house, pay her bills, buy groceries, pick up her mail ... you get the idea. There are a couple of problems with her way of thinking and living.
First, she is basing the leadership of God in her life on her feelings. We cannot always trust feelings because they are fickle and can easily change with each circumstance. If Jesus Christ had based His life on feelings, He would never have gone to the cross. In the garden, Jesus prayed and asked if "this cup could pass from Me" (Matthew 26). He did not feel like being crucified but He knew it was God's plan and purpose for His life - and so He chose to endure Calvary. If Jesus had based His plans on feelings, He would never have let one of His best friends, Lazarus, die; but He did, because there was a higher plan in place. When Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, God received more glory than He would have if Jesus had only healed His friend. We must learn to plan and set goals instead of relying upon feelings to guide us through life.
Second, my friend assumes that God does not lead us to plan or set goals. The apostle Paul constantly made ministry plans as did Jesus Christ and His disciples. Jesus planned to go through Samaria where He met the woman at the well. Paul planned trips to the various churches he served. In fact, the Bible is filled with accounts of men and women who made plans as God led them.
I have another friend who religiously follows her daily list of things to do to the point that if it is not on the list then it is not of God and it is not going to happen. Having a rigid and inflexible set of plans or goals is just as wrong as having no plans or goals at all. God not only gave us a mind to use but a heart as well. Some people live as if they are omniscient when setting goals and making plans.
Only God is omniscient and has our tomorrows under control. Matthew 6:34 says, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." My friend who makes no plans and sets no goals uses this verse to substantiate her position when the opposite is true. We do not have to worry about tomorrow because we are living according to God's plan and purpose reflected in our plans and goals today.
Setting goals is serious business. We should not be so anxious about life that we make rigid plans which are beyond our capacity to keep, nor should we be so lazy that we make no plans at all. The balance is found when we truly and humbly seek God and His plan and then step out in obedience to make our life goals a reality.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your direction and guidance in my life. I really want to do what You created me to do. Show me the steps I need to take in order to walk in obedience and faith and then give me the strength to take those steps.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take the time this week to review and evaluate 2010. What goals did you achieve? Record your answer in your journal.
Read Isaiah 30:1: "Woe to the obstinate children," declares the LORD, "to those who carry out plans that are not mine; forming an alliance, but not by my Spirit, heaping sin upon sin." What does this verse say about the importance of seeking God's plan for your life?
Read Psalm 20:4: "May he (God) give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed." According to this verse, what is the relationship between the desires of your heart and successful plans?
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I know you have heard the statement, "If you aim at nothing you will hit it every time." If you want to be successful, seek God's plans and goals for your life.
Mary's Bible Study, Take This Job and Love It offers six principles from the life of the Proverbs 31 woman that will help you be successful in your work, no matter where you work or what your job may be. Study guide included.
It's not too late to enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and have access to all of 2011 studies. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. We will experience pain and hurt but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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February 14, 2011
The Roman Rules of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"[Let your] love be sincere-a real thing" (Romans 12:9, AMP)
Friend To Friend
February is the month we celebrate love, marriage, and sweethearts. But love is more than frilly Valentine's cards, heart-shaped candy, and bouquets of roses or balloons. Sometimes love is commitment to hard work.
If you are married, here are some questions for reflection: Do I love my husband well? Do I adore the man God has given to me? Am I admiring him as a child of God? Am I appreciating him for who he is today instead of what he could be if he lived up to my expectations? Am I giving my heart freely or do I make him feel as though he constantly has to earn my love?
Paul gives us some good advice on how to love one another in Romans 12:9-18.
Love must be sincere.
Cling to what is good.
Be devoted to one another.
Honor one another above yourself.
Never be lacking in zeal.
Be joyful in hope.
Be patient in affliction.
Be faithful in prayer.
Share with God's people who are in need.
Practice hospitality.
Bless those who persecute you.
Rejoice with those who rejoice.
Mourn with those who mourn.
Live in harmony with one another.
Do not be proud.
Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.
If it is possible, a far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Now take a look at that list. It is easy to think that Paul is talking about our friends or fellow Christians. But if these are the guidelines for loving our friends, how much more are they guidelines for loving our very own husbands? As Ann Landers once said, "Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is a loyalty through good and bad. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses."
I hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day as you celebrate your marriage. And if you're not married, celebrate the love you share with friends, family, and your heavenly Bridegroom - Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear God of Love, I pray that I will love others well today. I pray that You will fill me with Your Holy Spirit so that I can overflow Your love to those around me. I know that loving others is Your most important command. Help me to keep that foremost in my mind and in my actions this day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the Roman Rules above. Either write them out or print them off from this devotion. Carry this list in your pocket and glance at them often today. Check up on yourself several times throughout the day to see how you're doing!
If you're brave enough, ask a friend to give you honest feedback on what you do well and what needs improvement.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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February 15, 2011
He is Waiting for You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Now as they went on their way, He entered a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home" (Luke 10:38, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Balance always requires a fierce and ruthless examination of priorities. Our true priorities are not mere lists of activities completed or goals set, but candid reflections of our heart desires. What we deem important receives the most time, energy, attention and resources. The importance of right and balanced priorities is illustrated by the life of Martha.
Jesus knew that He was always welcome in the home of Martha. Scripture tells us that Jesus "had no place to lay His head" but He often came to this home when He needed to rest or get away from the demanding crowds. At the age of thirty, the Son of God left His natural home and there is no record of His ever returning to live there. He often went to Bethany, to the house of Martha, Mary and Lazarus, and even spent His final week on earth there. Jesus didn't have to wonder if He was welcome in this home or if Martha was "ready" for His presence. He knew she was. Can He say the same about us? Do we have the heart of a seeker, one who lives each day aware of God's presence, His plan and His priorities?
Seeking God begins with recognizing who He is and then inviting Him into our life as Lord and Savior. If He is not Lord of all, then He is not Lord at all. For some of us, the problem is not that we lack a personal relationship with God. Our problem is that we are not "making room" for that relationship. Balance comes when we yield to His plan in the everyday moments of life.
One summer, our family went to Pennsylvania where we visited Amish country. I have always been fascinated by the Amish people and enjoyed every minute spent in their beautiful and carefully ordered world. As our visit came to an end I wanted to buy a souvenir to remind me of the peaceful days we had spent there, but everything I picked up was too expensive. Being a committed shopper, I was not about to let that stop me. We travelled up and down the small hidden back roads of each community, looking for the Amish products known only to a few and to those relentless shoppers who were willing to persevere. I was beginning to lose hope when I spotted the small, white sign posted on the fence of a quaint and absolutely perfect house. "Amish Crafts" it said. This was it!
As we climbed out of the car, a sense of peace settled around us like an old familiar blanket. Our voices immediately dropped to a whisper as we tiptoed up the narrow stone path and gently opened the screen door. When we stepped onto the porch filled with beautiful Amish crafts, a woman came out of the house, welcomed us with a beautiful smile and introduced herself as Mary. She invited us to browse and let her know if we needed any help. I have to admit that I was almost rude in my pathetic attempts to catch a glimpse of her home through the porch windows. Reading my mind, she graciously offered, "Would you like to come in and look around?" I thought she'd never ask!
Mary's home revealed a world very different from mine and an uncommonly simplistic lifestyle I desperately longed to experience. The house was sparsely furnished with only the necessities but Mary described her life and daily routine with words like "calm, uncomplicated, peaceful and serene." When I asked why she had chosen such a lifestyle she sweetly responded with words of wisdom I will never forget, "I have discovered that when my life and my heart get too crowded there is not enough room for God." Exactly!
An unbalanced life is too crowded for God. It is so easy to relegate our spirituality to religious activity when all He really wants is to spend time with us. When the tears fall, He wants to wipe them away, collecting each one so that He can pour them back into our lives as a refreshing rain of restoration. God longs for us to forever run into His arms, sharing every hurt and rejoicing in every victory. The Father yearns to wrap His strong arms around us, bringing the peace and balance we so desperately need.
Instead, we often relinquish control of our life to unworthy demands dictated by a world that operates in "urgent" gear. We forget what is really important. The important rarely barges in while the urgent is always an offensive intruder. The important waits patiently while the urgent demands its own way, creating bedlam and imbalance. Certainly, there are times when the important is also urgent - but we must learn to discern between the two. We wrongly conclude that a busy life is automatically a productive life and think that a full schedule will surely produce a full heart.
I have great news! He loves who you are more than He loves what you do. Seek Him today. Make room for Him. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, I am too busy and sometimes I feel like my life is spinning out of control. I'm tired of the imbalance I see in the way I live. Help me learn how to establish priorities that please You and reflect Your plan for me. I commit to spending time with You each day, seeking Your wisdom and direction. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you ready to evaluate your life according to God's priorities? Set aside time today to spend with Him. Grab your journal and record the truths He gives you about how to balance your life.
Ask God to let you see your life through His eyes. Be willing to change what needs to be changed in order to invest your time wisely.
Determine the top five life priorities of your life - right now. Take a deep breath and brutally examine your calendar and checkbook to see where you spend most of your time and resources. We can give lip service to what we think our priorities should be but until our daily schedule reflects those priorities, we are only "playing at life."
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Choose to keep the commitments you have made today for one month. So much of the Christian walk is wrapped up in the word "choice." A choice is a deliberate action and purposeful decision. We can choose where and how we spend our time.
It's not too late to enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and have access to all of 2011 studies. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. We will experience pain and hurt but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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February 16, 2011
Words Can Captivate Your Man
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)
Today's Truth
"A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds" (Proverbs 31:10, The Message).
Friend To Friend
Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.
All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman, he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest. All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we're at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives...and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife...well, she surpasses them all.
What a picture! That's the woman I want to be, don't you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say? Let me give you a few from my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.
Words to Never Say to Your Husband
1. I told you so.
2. You just don't think.
3. It's your fault.
4. What's wrong with you?
5. I can't do anything to please you.
6. All you care about is yourself.
7. You never listen to me.
8. I don't know why I put up with you.
9. What do you want now?
10. How many times do I have to tell you?
Words Your Husband Longs to Hear
I've been thinking about you all day.
What can I do for you today?
How can I pray for you today?
The best part of my day is when you come home.
You are one of God's most precious gifts to me.
You are so wonderful.
You look so handsome today.
I don't feel complete without you.
I will always love you.
I trust your decisions.
Today, be aware of the words you say to your husband. Do they build him up or tear him down? Do they make him glad he came home, or wish he hadn't?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please keep watch over my lips today. Help me use my words to speak life to those I come in contact with today. Help me use my words to build up and not tear down.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why not pick out 1 or 2 phrases from the list of words you husband longs to hear and try them out with your husband today. You might be surprised just how much his eyes light up! When you love your husband well, God says "Well done, my good and faithful servant!"
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More From The Girlfriends
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
Seeking God?
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February 17, 2011
Step Away from the Shore
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Between three and six o'clock in the morning, Jesus came to them, walking on the water" (Matthew 14:25, NCV).
Friend To Friend
Faith is the ability to trust what we cannot see. John Shedd says, "A ship in harbor is safe--but that is not what ships are built for." Faith is willing to take risks, embrace the unseen and step away from the safety of the shore. We fear the outcome or don't understand the step God has asked us to take. We are afraid to fail and are more concerned about our "reputation" as a Christian than we are about being obedient to God. As long as the enemy can keep us preoccupied with a selfish perspective, our faith is impotent.
Authentic faith naturally produces action, but faith is hindered unless we abandon ourselves to that faith. Did you know that the African impala can jump to a height of over ten feet and cover a distance of greater than thirty feet? Yet these magnificent creatures can be kept in any zoo by a three-foot wall. The animals will not jump if they cannot see where their feet will land.
Many people say they do believe God is who He says He is and that He is able to do what He says he will do, but falter at the point of believing that God is willing to work in their lives. If we don't believe He is willing to keep His promises, we are not walking in faith. Oh, we find it easy to agree mentally with the truth that we serve a powerful God who loves us and has a great plan for our life, but that belief is worthless until it settles in our hearts and changes the way we live. If we don't live it, we don't really believe it. If we are not willing to step away from the shore, we will miss so much of what God has for us in life.
The story is told of Will Rogers who came to his friend, Eddie Cantor, for advice. Will wanted to make some important changes in his act but was worried about the danger of such changes, explaining that he wasn't sure if they would work. Eddie Cantor's response was, "Why not go out on a limb? That's where the fruit is!" The same is true of faith.
Faith believes that God is willing. The life of Jesus Christ is the embodiment of God's willingness to work in our lives. The disciples had personally witnessed God's willingness to save His children. Yet, in Matthew 14, we find them in a boat, caught in a storm, afraid and still questioning God's willingness to rescue them. Did they cry out in fear? Yes! Did He come? Yes!
Jesus came to the disciples, walking on the water, between three and six o'clock in the morning, the darkest time of the night. I have often wished I could have been on that boat with the disciples, waiting for Jesus to show up. I imagine the questions and complaints were flying. "Why would Jesus send us out here, knowing the waves were high? Where is He? Why is He waiting so long to rescue us? Can't He just calm the waves like He did before? I ministered all day long and this is my reward? Is He really coming? I don't understand!" Sound familiar? It does to me.
We are quick to believe the lie that God is angry with us and as a result, will not bless our life or meet our needs. The truth is that God is willing and waiting to pour out His favor and blessings on a life of faith. Hebrews tells us that faith always honors God and God always honors faith. "Without faith no one can please God. Anyone who comes to God must believe that he is real and that he rewards those who truly want to find him" (Hebrews 11:6 NCV).
I think part of the problem is that we don't know how to define "blessing." A blessing is not always easy, painless, simple, comfortable or expected. A blessing often comes, wrapped in the mystery of darkness. But I am learning this truth - anything that makes us cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. Why? Because when we are desperate and in pain, when we have no answers and the darkness is closing in, we cry out to God, just as the disciples did - and He comes! Not because we have earned His presence or His mercy, but because we cried out with a tiny seed of faith, as His children, knowing He is not only able, but willing to come. Step away from that shore, girlfriend. He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a faith that seems so small. I want to believe You, Lord. I want to walk by faith, knowing that You will keep every promise You have ever made. Help my unbelief, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 86:15 (NIV) "But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness."
Record this verse in your journal. Then make a list of the words in this verse that describe God. What do these words tell you about God's willingness to bless your life?
What is the first step of faith you need to take today? Are you willing to take it right now?
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The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Many women deal with paralyzing fear on a daily basis. Fear makes everything seem bigger than it really is, wastes energy and contaminates life itself. Mary's Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear uncovers God's plan for peace and identifies five ways to deal with and be free from fear.
It's not too late to enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and have access to all of 2011 studies. The current topic is How to Handle Hurt. We will experience pain and hurt but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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February 18, 2011
Drawing Near
Lori Fairchild
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend,"
Lori Fairchild
Today's Truth
"I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness' (Jeremiah 31:3).
Friend To Friend
This past Christmas, I lovingly set up my nativity set on the hearth. I placed Joseph, Mary and baby Jesus in the stable surrounded by the animals and the wise men. Because our nativity set comes with an angel, I put the angel and the shepherds a little distance away, as if they were in a field nearby.
A couple of hours later, I looked over at our fireplace to find the shepherds of our nativity set squeezed in next to the wise men in the stable. The angel was there, too. All of the figurines were placed with their faces toward Jesus and their backs to the room. My 7-year-old daughter had rearranged things more to her liking.
I started to move them back - after all, it looked better with the shepherds a little ways off and the figurines facing outward - but then I decided my 7-year-old had it right. She wanted all of the people to be in the stable where they could be near Jesus. So, for the month of December, our nativity set figurines stayed huddled around Jesus, backs to the world, a reminder for us to focus on the most important thing in the world - being near Jesus.
Too often, I spend my time where I had placed the shepherds - a short distance away from Jesus. I'll get close, but not too close. Why? If I get too close then God might ask me to do something that makes me uncomfortable or expect me to deal with the sin in my life. Too often, I want to stand out in the field and hear the wonderful news that Jesus came to save me, but I don't want to do anything about it.
God isn't content to let us be far away from Him. He wants us near. Jeremiah 31:3 says that He draws us near. Have you ever dealt with a skittish animal or a shy child? When you want them to come close to you, you offer them things that they want to draw them in. God offers us the thing that we want more than anything - unconditional love. He loves us for who He made us to be. And He uses that love to draw us closer to Him.
When we're physically close to someone, we can know things about them that we can't know when we're far away. We can read their body language, which gives us clues to knowing what they think and feel. The same is true when we draw near to God. While we can't see Him, we can know Him better. The more we get to know God, the more we become like Him. And the more God can use us to share His love with others.
Girlfriend, God loves you, and He is doing His best to draw you near with His unconditional love and His unfailing kindness. He gave up His son for you. You can choose to stand out in the field, doing whatever you think is important or you can choose to run to God.
When the shepherds heard the good news of Jesus' birth from the angel, they didn't stay in the field. They hurried to the stable - to be near Jesus. Jesus came so that you could do the same.
God is waiting for you to draw near to Him. Unlike the shepherds in our nativity set, you won't have squeeze in - God's arms are big enough for all of us. And He is saving a spot just for you. Draw near today.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for Your amazing love and Your unfailing kindness that draws me near. I want to draw closer to You and become more like You. Show me the things that are keeping me from drawing near to You today, and help me to remove those obstacles. Bring me closer to You today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Ephesians 3:17-19. How does it make you feel to know that God's love is more than we can understand, and that He uses that love to draw us near to Him?
Pray and ask God to show you one way that you can take a step closer to Him today. You may need to commit to a daily time with God or commit to joining a ladies' Bible study. Whatever that step is, take it today.
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It's easy to make excuses for not drawing closer to God. I know. I have two girls who play sports. We've got school activities, plus there's work, church and some time for fun. It's easy to say, "I'll squeeze God in tomorrow." The next time you find yourself saying that, stop and find a time in your day to spend with God. Use the time you spend waiting in the carpool line at school or break out your Bible instead of the newspaper at the breakfast table. God is doing His best to draw us near, but we have to start walking in His direction for that to happen. Make the time to spend time with God. You won't regret it.
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February 21, 2011
Are Happy Endings Really Possible?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him" (Psalm 32:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love a good story. I love stories filled with drama, mystery, action, honesty, hope, grit, tension, release, passion, tenderness, love, restoration, and redemption. My favorite stories, however, combine many of these elements and finish with a happy-ending. My heart beats for stories with a happy ending.
There have been days in my life that have been heavy on the tension and light on the release; moments when I've felt deep pain and longed for deep peace; weeks when hope evaded my heart because I had chosen to turn from God's way and defiantly chose Gwen's way and season's when I felt like I had messed up so badly that a happy ending for my life was simply impossible.
Have you ever felt that way? Like there was a great chasm between your life and a happy ending? Have you ever felt like you were in a situation, a relationship or a condition that was un-healable, un-helpable, and un-redeemable? I sure have. I think we all have.
Luke 7 introduces us to a woman who endured her shattered, jagged life publicly. I bet she probably felt like there could never be a happy ending for her life - like hope and healing were for other people, not for her.
She was guilty of something, though we are never told what. She is simply described as a woman "who had lived a sinful life." Though she is nameless to you and me, the people of her town surely knew her name. The Pharisees knew enough to condemn her with judgmental thoughts.
Her sin was public, not private. Yet the public disgrace of this broken, sinful woman became the perfect canvas on which Jesus Christ would paint a beautiful picture of extravagant grace.
"Now one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, so he went to the Pharisee's house and reclined at the table. When a woman who had lived a sinful life in that town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster jar of perfume, and as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them." (Luke 7:36-38, NIV)
Imagine what a scandalous moment this must have been. I'm sure the host was wondering how this uninvited woman managed to get into his home. We know his mind was racing because the next few verses tell us s
When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, "If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner."
Jesus answered him, "Simon, I have something to tell you."
"Tell me, teacher," he said.
"Two men owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he canceled the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?"
Simon replied, "I suppose the one who had the bigger debt canceled."
"You have judged correctly," Jesus said.
Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little."
Then Jesus said to her, "Your sins are forgiven" (Luke 7:39-48).
Imagine the freedom that flooded her soul when this woman looked up, through tear-filled eyes, into the face of grace for the very first time. Jesus looked beyond her reputation to her regret. Then He forgave her. Not because she had earned forgiveness, but because Jesus loved her.
She was forgiven much, so she loved Him much. Oh, how I can relate to this sinful woman. The love that resides in my heart is so great because the sins I've been forgiven of are so many.
Jesus still loves to extend grace, and I am so thankful. Grace! What none of us deserves, but each of us longs for. In his book, What's So Amazing about Grace? Philip Yancey wrote:
Grace does not excuse sin, but it treasures the sinner. True grace is shocking, scandalous. It shakes our conventions with its insistence on getting close to sinners and touching them with mercy and hope. It forgives the unfaithful spouse, the racist, the child abuser. It loves today's AIDS-ridden addict as much as the tax collector of Jesus' day.
In his book 3:16, The Numbers of Hope, Max Lucado writes, "The heart of the human problem is the heart of the human. And God's treatment is prescribed in John 3:16." It's the verse you've more than likely heard since you were a child. The verse scribbled on cardboard signs and held up at sporting events. The verse that gives hope to each and every one of us: "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16).
Why would He lay down His life for you, for me, and for all humanity? In one word: love; perfect, unconditional and doesn't-matter-who-you-are-or-where-you've-been-or-what-you've-done love. God made a new and living way through the blood shed by Jesus Christ so our wounded hearts could be restored...so that everyone of us could experience deep peace, love, forgiveness, and hope. Welcome to your happy-ending story. It's available to each of us who turn our hearts to Him.
The End.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are above all and beyond all! You are mighty to save, gracious to forgive, and merciful to forget all that I've done wrong. I praise You for who You are, and thank You for the grace that is at work in my heart and in my life. Help me to cast aside everything that keeps me from You today, Lord.
In Jesus' Name, I pray.
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it.
Have you experienced the wonder of grace at work in your life? In what ways? Do you extend that same grace to others? Spend a few moments in prayer. Thank God for His grace.
Print or write out this verse: "Those who look on him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame" (Psalm 34:5). Memorize it and allow it to serve as a reminder that in Christ you are a new creation, and viewed as radiant by our holy Lord.
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Hey friend, I thought I would leave today's devotion with this beautiful blessing from scripture..."The amazing grace of the Master, Jesus Christ, the extravagant love of God, the intimate friendship of the Holy Spirit, be with all of you" 2 Corinthians 13:14 (MSG).
A portion of today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving, holy God who restores their wounded hearts and makes them beautiful in Him.
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February 22, 2011
Prayer Can Change a Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I tell you the truth, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you" (Matthew 17:20, NIV).
Friend To Friend
I am always stunned when I hear someone say, "Well, I guess the only thing left to do is pray." My goodness, I've even been shocked to hear the words come out of my own mouth. Prayer should never be seen as a last resort but as a first line of defense. No matter what condition your marriage is in today, prayer will make it better. God can make a bad marriage good and a good marriage great. God's answers to prayer healed the sick, fed the hungry, stopped the rain, kept the earth from revolving on its axis for an hour, divided the Red Sea, poured forth water from a rock, opened wombs, confused enemies, opened jail doors, made leprous skin reform, caused the lame to dance, gave courage to the fearful, and raised the dead. Jesus said, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you" (Matthew 17:20).
Have you noticed that it's hard to stay mad at someone when you're praying for them? Somehow walking into the throne room of God with a pack of anger and resentment strapped on your back doesn't feel comfortable. I've noticed when I'm angry at my husband, and I begin to pray for him (And I'm not talking "God help him when I get a hold of him" type prayers) God begins to soften my heart. The Bible says that God is love and it is difficult to be in Love's very presence and remain angry. Oh, you can stay mad, but it takes a lot of effort.
Sometimes it is hard to pray for our husbands when we're mad at them. But God tells us to "pray for our enemies." How much more should we pray for our God-given, lifelong mate?
I know there are many of you who are reading this devotion with anger or resentment in your hearts. You may be wondering, how did my marriage drift so far from where I hoped it would be? How did my marriage get to this state of desperation, mediocrity, frigidity, mutual tolerance, and co-existence? Is it too late for me? Is it too late for us?
Friend, the answer is no - it is not too late. I have good news for you. God's specialty is resurrection. He excels at bringing life from death. In the Old Testament, there was a couple you may have heard of, Abraham and Sarah. When Sarah laughed at the angel who said she would have a child at ninety-years-old, the angel said, "Is anything too hard for God?"
The following year, the joke was on her. She had a baby boy and named him Isaac, which means laughter.
Nothing is too hard for God, my friend. Absolutely nothing. Jesus said, "All things are possible to him (or her) who believes" (Mark 9:23). A baby is born to a dried up womb, fingers and toes materialize on nubs on a leper's hands and feet, sight is given to a man blind from birth, a son is raised right in the middle of his own funeral procession, and the Red Sea is parted and thousands walk across on dry land. Now, tell me, is there anything in your life too hard for a God like this?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for my marriage today. I pray that you will make me into the woman that You intended all along. Help me to see my husband through your eyes today -as a chosen, dearly loved, child of God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I'm giving you a list of Bible verses to pray for your husband, from head to toe. This is your assignment for today...for always.
Lord, I pray for my husband, from head to toe:
His Head - That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes - That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth - That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:14)
His Neck - That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart - That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6;5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms - That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands - That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His feet - That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
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February 23, 2011
Get Serious About Sin
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (1 John 1:9, NCV).
Friend To Friend
As a little girl, I always looked forward to the first day of summer vacation because it meant two things. First, I did not have to sit in a classroom all day wasting precious brain power trying to comprehend and learn what I considered to be useless information. Second, I did not have to wear shoes except when I went to church or when my mother handed down the decree, "If you are going with me, you have to wear shoes." It had to be a really important errand for me to don even a pair of sandals or flip-flops.
Those first few days of my shoeless adventures were always a painful shock to my tender feet since my "playground" was actually nothing more than a gravel road running beside our house on the edge of town. I played for hours, climbing trees and racing friends up and down that rocky street. At the end of each day, my feet were grimy and filthy, often bruised and sometimes slightly bloody. Even now I can remember the stinging discomfort inflicted by those razor-sharp rocks during the first few weeks of summer. My pain management was firmly rooted in the knowledge that my feet would soon grow callused and tough. I took comfort in the fact that I would soon be running down that gravel road with little or no pain.
Sin works the same way. The first time we commit a sin it is painful. We are filled with remorse and mourn the fact that we have grieved the heart of God, but regret is not enough when it comes to dealing with sin. Unless we confess and turn away from that sin, we are likely to commit it again. If we allow sin to settle into our life and refuse to confess it, that sin eventually hardens our heart and builds spiritual calluses in our soul. When we become comfortable with our sin, we are walking in enemy territory and setting ourselves up for spiritual failure and discouragement.
The good news is that Jesus understands human frailty. He is well acquainted with temptation and the tactics of Satan. Jesus gave His life as a ransom for yours and mine. He paid our sin debt in full.
1 John 1:9 "But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (NCV).
This verse was written to believers as an encouragement to deal with sin and a promise that when we do so, God will be faithful to forgive us and clean up the mess that sin has caused. We are not perfect - just forgiven. To experience that forgiveness fully we need to keep short books on sin. That means being sensitive to sin and immediately choosing to do something about it. God is serious about sin. We need to be as well.
1. We must confess sin continually. "Confess" means to agree with and is a present tense verb meaning that we must confess sin frequently, without stopping.
2. We must confess sin completely. We commit sins one at a time. We need to confess them one by one as well.
3. We must confess our sin confidently. Once we confess and repent of our sin, we can put it behind us. God is just and fair - seeking only one payment for sin. Jesus has already made full and complete payment with His death on the cross.
One of Satan's favorite tactics is to resurrect buried sin. Wrapping that confessed transgression in his vain taunts and useless accusations, the enemy hauls it back into focus, hoping that guilt will paralyze and imprison a soul set free. Satan can hold us prisoner if we let him. But how often do we believe his empty lies - and by doing so, grant him access to that which he has no right? To break the hold of sin, we can and must stand against the enemy, trusting not in our feelings but in the facts of God's word. And those facts are unchanging and crystal clear - when we confess sin, God forgives it.
Let's Pray
Father, do not let me ever forget the price You paid for my sin. Thank You for the forgiveness and freedom You purchased with Your death on the cross. Bring swift awareness and conviction when I sin. Give me the strength and power to deal with and turn from the sin in my life. For Your glory and in Your name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time each day to pray and study His Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to make you aware of every sin that stands between you and God. Confess that sin. Choose against it and walk on in His power and forgiveness. Ask yourself the following questions:
What sin do I need to confess right now?
Why have I held on to this sin?
What effect has this sin had on my life?
What changes do I need to make in order to "turn" from my sin?
Do I really believe that God can and will forgive this sin? Why? Why not?
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The life of Eve is an encouragement to me. Maybe it's because I can relate to a woman who has really made a mess of things. I love the fact that her story is part of Scripture. I believe God uses the life of Eve to remind us that we all make mistakes and are broken and wounded people. But God takes the broken pieces, the wounded hearts and troubled souls, and makes something beautiful out of it all.
Need help? Winning the War with Temptation is one of Mary's E-Download Bible Studies that examines the life of Eve to discover five steps she could have and should have taken to win the war with temptation. The central message of this study is grace, God's unmerited favor, His unconditional love and the complete forgiveness only He can give. Temptation is a certainty of life but God has a plan that will enable us to stand firm in His strength and through the power of His Word.
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Feb 24, 2011
A Kodak Moment
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him" (2 Chronicles 16:9).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, we took a look at the story of the widow who gave all she had to God (Mark 12:41-44 NIV). (If you missed it, click on http://www.girlfriendsingod.com/ and look for the archive The Widow's Mite and Mighty Faith.) This is the last recorded incident in Jesus' public ministry before He makes final preparations for the cross. All the way from Galilee to Jerusalem, He had been teaching the disciples about the high cost of discipleship. "Leave everything behind" (Luke 14:25-33)."He who humbles himself will be exalted" (Luke 14:11)."Anyone who does not carry his cross and follow me cannot be my disciple" (Luke 14:27). "In the same way, any of you who does not give up everything he has cannot be my disciple" (Luke 14:33). Now, as they arrived at the temple in Jerusalem, Jesus shows them a living example of his spiritual teaching.
This was Passover week and Jerusalem was teeming with Jews participating in the festivities. Jesus had been teaching for the better part of the day, knowing that this would be the last chance he had to speak to the multitudes in the temple. After teaching, he moved to where the offerings were placed to teach his disciples about true giving.
During the time of Jesus, the temple was partitioned off in various segments allowing only certain types of people in each area. Each partition was separated by a set of steps that led up to the next one. Higher and higher the Jewish leaders elevated themselves from the rest of the common folks. The Court of Women held the temple treasury and it is where all worshippers gave their tithes and offerings. Thirteen boxes, shaped like inverted megaphones or trumpets, lined the walls to receive the money. In this particular story, it was Passover week, so there was a steady flow of pilgrims depositing their contributions.
Jesus, the Creator of the universe, the God-made-man, the Great High Priest, didn't go past gate 2, gate 3, gate 4 or gate 5. Rather He stayed in the Women's Court with the common folk - with His people. But there was one woman in particular that He was waiting for. He knew she was coming. He was expecting her.
Picture Jesus, pulling up a chair by a certain offering box. Oh, let's just say it was offering box number five. Of course we don't know which one of the thirteen offering boxes Jesus was watching, but the point is, He knew exactly which one she would be coming to. He was waiting for her...she just didn't know it.
One-by-one, wealthy attendees tossed their coins into the coffers. I can almost hear the clanging now. The more noise the offering made the better. "Look at me! Look at me!" the loud clanging coins announced. "I'm giving a lot today. Why? Because I am important. I am wealthy. I am holy. Don't you wish you could be more like me?"
But then, here she comes. A shabbily dressed, worn, old woman. Head hung low, unproud. She timidly approaches the offering box and gingerly places her treasure among the coins. The others "toss." She "places." Two small copper coins - the smallest coins in circulation in Palestine - about a penny (RSV). Two of these lepton, as they were called, were worth 1/64 of a denarius, a typical day's wage. But these coins were, in reality, worth more than any day's wages. They were all she had...and Jesus knew it.
Do you ever feel like other people don't really care about what is going on in your life? Do you feel insignificant in the grand scheme of things? I am sure this widow must have felt the same. I'm nothing. I have nothing. I am invisible to these men with flowing robes and tasseled garb.
Ever been there? I have. But she wasn't insignificant. Jesus was waiting for her arrival - for her gift. "For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him" (2 Chronicles 16:9).
Jesus was waiting for this widow. He knew she was coming. And He used a seemingly insignificant woman to teach his disciples about significant giving. The widow had 2 copper coins. I wonder what I would have done in the same situation. I think I would have been tempted to just give one to the temple treasury and keep one for myself. One for You. One for me. After all, God wouldn't want me to go hungry, would He?
When my family and I travelled to Yellowstone Park and Jackson Hole Wyoming several years ago, one of our goals was to see as many unusual animals as possible. For us that was anything other than a dog, cat, or bird. During the entire time, we were on the lookout for moose, elk, buffalo and other furry beasts with antlers. After several days, we fell into the rhythm of looking for groupings of cars stopped alongside the road or crowds clustered in the woods. This signaled a sighting! As if holding up a neon sign, the assembly let us know we needed to stop. There was some magnificent creature we needed to see.
Imagine with me for a moment. Jesus calls the disciples over to see the widow and her gift. Thirteen men gather round the offering box as Jesus shines his spotlight on her sacrificial act. Now, what else do you see? I see other people migrating to the scene. "What's so important?" "What's going on?" "What are you men looking at?" Then Jesus lifts his hand and directs their attention to one of God's magnificent creations. She simply nods and walks away. That, my friend, is truly a Kodak moment.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father: Forgive me for clinging to my possessions as if they were really mine in the first place. Help me to give generously and freely every time You prompt me to give. Thank You for taking care of all my needs according to Your riches in glory. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you picture Jesus waiting for the widow to show up at the offering coffer?
How do you think God blessed the widow for her generous gift?
If God had a scrapbook of Kodak moments of your life, what do you think would be included?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance Through the Women Jesus Encountered. Through the miracles and messages of Jesus, we discover just what God thinks about women. God's personal and perfect touch on your life is only a prayer away when you look to Him to loving exchange your heartache, hopelessness, or pain for the beauty of becoming everything He intended for you to be. You can watch a short video by clicking on the books and audio page of Sharon's website. Check out this book and fall in love with Jesus all over again!
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February 25, 2011
What Kind of Book Are You Writing?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I will be careful how I act and will not sin by what I say. I will be careful what I say around wicked people. I became very angry inside, and as I thought about it, my anger burned. So, I spoke" (Psalm 39:1, 3 NCV).
Friend To Friend
A young lady named Sally relates an experience she had in a Seminary class taught by Dr. Smith, a teacher who was well known for his elaborate object lessons. One particular day, Sally walked into the classroom and instantly knew they were going to have a lot of fun. On the wall was a big target and on a nearby table was a large stack of darts. Dr. Smith told the students to draw a picture of a person they disliked or someone who had made them angry and he would allow them to throw darts at the person's picture.
Sally's girlfriend drew a picture of a girl who had stolen her boyfriend. Another friend drew a picture of his little brother who was a constant irritation. Sally drew a picture of a former friend who had betrayed her. As Sally remembered the pain and hurt of that broken friendship, she put a great deal of detail into her drawing, even drawing pimples on the face. When her picture was completed, Sally sat back and gazed at her work, pleased with the overall effect she had achieved.
The class lined up and began throwing darts. Laughter and shouts of success rang out as each dart found its target. Some of the students threw the darts with such force that their targets were ripping apart. Sally was looking forward to her turn but was disappointed when Dr. Smith called time and asked the students to return to their seats.
As Sally sat thinking about how angry she was because she didn't have a chance to throw any darts at her target, Dr. Smith began removing the target from the wall. Underneath the target was a picture of Jesus. A complete hush fell over the room as each student viewed the mangled picture of Jesus; holes and jagged marks covering His face.
Dr. Smith quietly said, "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me" (Matthew 25:40, KJV). No other words were necessary. The tear-filled eyes of each student focused only on the picture of Christ.
Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. The words we speak are powerful and will either build up or destroy. Words can diffuse anger and turn tragedy into triumph. The right word, spoken at the right time and in the right way can bring peace in the midst of confusion. God gives us "spiritual radar" so we can assess a situation and speak the right word for that circumstance, but how often do we speak before we check the radar?
· A judge utters a few words and a guilty man is taken to death row.
· A friend speaks a word of encouragement and a desperate heart finds hope.
· A mother lashes out with angry words and the light in her child's eyes is gone.
· A wife offers a word of forgiveness and a marriage is saved.
· A gossip makes a phone call and a reputation is destroyed.
· A teenager says "no" and changes the course of her life.
It has been estimated that most people speak enough words in one week to fill a large book of 500 pages which, in the average lifetime, would amount to somewhere around 3000 volumes or 1,500,000 pages. What kind of book are you writing today with your words?
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your help. I want the words I speak to encourage and build up the people in my life. Forgive me for the hurtful words I have spoken. Teach me how to speak the right words in each situation and how to think before I speak. And Lord, help me keep my mouth shut when I need to!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Colossians 4:6 (NLT) "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone."
What guidelines does this verse give us for the words we speak?
What one change do you need to make today in order to tame your tongue?
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I love the honesty of the woman who prayed, "Lord, help me control my tongue so that on Judgment Day, I won't be found guilty of assault with a deadly weapon." I struggle to control the words I speak. I can be quick to criticize and slow to encourage. Not a day passes that I don't find myself wishing I could retract some statement I made during the day. The reality is that a spoken word cannot be unspoken. We need to understand the power of our words and choose them carefully.
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February 28, 2011
The Stinky Sour Sippy
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him; for we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, NIV).
Friend To Friend
A few years ago, I flew to Nashville to record vocals for a CD project. My girlfriend, Kerri, and I had spent the last day of my trip in a studio, recording background vocals. When we were finished, I had to high tail it to the airport in order to catch my flight home.
Kerri, a young mom, kindly offered to take me to the airport, and I gladly accepted. I'm all about spending time with my friends and catching up on life. As we made our way to the car, Kerri apologetically mentioned that her daughter had dropped a sippy cup of milk in her car the day before, and that she hadn't been able to locate it.
"I will be more than happy to take you to the airport, Gwen," she said, "but there's just no telling what my car is going to smell like!"
"No problem!" I said. "I'm a mom! I've dealt with many-a-missing milk sippy in my day. How bad can it be?"
Did I mention that it was one of those "you can fry an egg on the sidewalk" days of August? Yep. It was! You know where this is going, don't you?
As we opened the car doors, Kerri and I were smacked silly with the stinky smell of sour milk. Not just a subtle smell, mind you - but a dominant, "been sitting in the 100 degree weather all day" smell. It reeked! We laughed until we almost cried at how horrible it smelled as we made our way down the expressway to the airport.
Sounds kind of funny, but smells matter. Some smells, like a stinky, sour milk sippy, are offensive. They make you want to escape their presence. While other smells, like fresh baked bread, or a lotioned-up baby, can be greatly pleasurable and inviting. Which type of smell best represents your presence and persona?
As Christians, we need to remember that our attitudes and conversations give off a smell as well. The apostle Paul said, "But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him; for we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, emphasis mine).
Does your attitude give off an aroma of Christ? Are those around you drawn to Him as a result of the love and peace you display? Do your conversations consistently honor God, embody the fruit of the Spirit, and expel the fragrance of life ... or are they sometimes laced with bitterness, resentment, anger, complaining, and/or gossip? It's time to locate and throw away our stinky, sour sippy attitudes, and ask the Lord to renew our minds. Let's run the race before us as women of honor who, through the power of the Holy Spirit, give off an aroma of Christ.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, please forgive me for all of the times I've allowed sinful behavior to creep into my thoughts and conversations. I ask that you will now, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read, write down, and commit to memory the following verse: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law" (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV).
Spend some time in prayer right now. Ask God to reveal to you any areas in your life that might not "smell" as they should. Then talk to a trusted friend about what He brings to your heart, and ask her to pray for you and hold you accountable.
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As I'm finishing up this devotion, I've got a pot of fresh coffee brewing. Oh how I love the smell of my dark roast! It's important to understand that when we put love in, we will live love out. Spend some time in God's Word today. I have a GiG challenge for you: for the next 16 days, read one chapter of the New Testament book of MARK per day and ask God to speak to your heart through His Word. Who's in? Click over to my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic and let me know that you are good for the challenge!!
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March 1, 2011
The Widow's Mite and Mighty Faith
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Many rich people threw in large amounts. But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a fraction of a penny" (Mark 12:41-42, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Beatrice woke as the morning sun peeked through the closed shutters of her sparse bedroom. Every joint in her tired old body creaked like a grinding wheel in dire need of good oiling.
Her arthritic hands rubbed sleepy eyes and instinctively reached to the empty space where her husband slept so many years ago.
"Another Sabbath to worship Jehovah," she smiled. "Oh LORD, thank you for the health and strength to travel to your house today. Thank you for all the many blessings that you have showered on this old woman."
Beatrice slipped on her worn woolen garment, wound her grey streaked hair around her head and splashed yesterday's water on her wrinkled face. Slipping her hand into her money pouch hidden behind a grouping of jars, she fumbled her fingers to gather an offering for the temple coffers.
A heavy sigh escaped her lips as her hand retrieved two small coins. She put her hand back in the pouch and ran her fingers from side to side. This time she came up empty.
Looking at the two small coins in her hand she continued her conversation with God. "I wish I had more to give you today. But LORD, this is all I have." Not once did Beatrice wonder how she would buy wheat for her next meal. She knew God would provide. He always did.
Beatrice shuffled out the door and through the busy streets of Jerusalem. The population was more than doubled because of the Passover celebration. Jews from miles around gathered at the temple during the holy week.
People, people, everywhere people, Beatrice thought to herself. And not one notices an old worthless widow woman like me.
Beatrice kept her eyes down as she climbed the first set of steps to the Women's Court in the temple. I'm glad I'm not a man or priest, she mused to herself. I don't think I could climb all those stairs to get to the upper levels.
The widow made her way to the same offering receptacle she always used. When she raised her eyes to place the two small coins in the container, she noticed a man sitting right beside it. It was Jesus! It was too late to turn back or walk to another coffer. Color rose to her cheeks as she realized that the Teacher was watching her. Beatrice cringed with embarrassment as she dropped the two small coins into the large box. What must he think of me? She thought. Two copper coins.
When she looked up and met Jesus' gaze, he grinned from ear to ear and nodded his approval. Every winkle in her face crinkled as she returned the smile. But what he said next made her feel like a spry young girl again.
"Peter. John. James. Friends, come over here," Jesus called. "You're looking around at all these people dropping their coins in the temple treasury and I'm sure you have noticed some of the wealthy made large donations. At least they are hoping you've noticed. But I tell you the truth, this poor widow has put more in the treasury than all the others. They all gave out of their wealth. That was no sacrifice at all. It was just surplus. But this woman gave out of her poverty," Jesus continued as he placed his hand on Beatrice's shoulder. "She gave all she had to live on. Her gift is more precious to God than all the others combined."
Beatrice gently bowed and turned to leave. Jesus laughed to himself thinking about what she would find in her money pouch the next day. Oh how God loved blessing His children.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank You for the many blessings You have given me. I know that I could never out give You! Help me to trust You more with my finances and give You more than I ever have before. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I hope you have enjoyed my retelling of the story of the widow and her two small coins. It is easy to think of these stories as just stories. But this was a real woman, living in a real world of poverty. We don't know her name, but I've given her one so you could better walk in her shoes.
Have you ever been in a situation like this widow? Have you ever given a sacrificial gift like she did?
I'd love to hear how God blessed you when you did. Let's share on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
Now here's a tough one. Is God calling you to give more that you have been giving in the past? If so, what's holding you back?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance Through the Women Jesus Encountered. Through the miracles and messages of Jesus, we discover just what God thinks about women. God's personal and perfect touch on your life is only a prayer away when you look to Him to loving exchange your heartache, hopelessness, or pain for the beauty of becoming everything He intended for you to be. Check out this book and fall in love with Jesus all over again!
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March 2, 2011
Failure is Not Final
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"At least there is hope for a tree. If it is cut down, it will sprout again, and its new shoots will not fail" (Job 14:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have never met a single person whose goal in life was to fail but failure is a reality of life. The key to success is not avoiding failure; it is learning how to handle failure.
· Beethoven's music teacher once told him that he was a hopeless composer.
· Abraham Lincoln campaigned for a seat in the Illinois General Assembly and failed. He then opened a general store which failed after only a few months.
· Walt Disney was fired by the editor of a newspaper for lacking creativity.
· The Ford Motor Company was Henry Ford's third business. The first two didn't work out.
· A teacher told Thomas Edison that he was too stupid to learn anything.
· Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times.
I remember the first time I failed a test. I was in first grade and my teacher, Mrs. Martin, decided to test us on the names of the states and their capitols. We had been studying them for what seemed like an eternity. I did not like Geography and tended to daydream my way through class. Why did I need to know the names of states I would probably never visit? And what was the big deal about state capitols? As far as I could tell from the pictures in my Geography book, they all looked pretty much the same to me - boring.
Even though I did not like Geography, I had to make 100 on the Geography test. Why? I was only six-years-old, but I knew the unspoken rule that failing a test meant I was a failure.
When Mrs. Martin told us to clear our desks except for one pencil, I panicked. A quick glance at the assignment board revealed nothing. The look of confusion on the faces of my classmates told me that they were just as clueless as I was.
"We are having a little test to see how you are doing in Geography," Mrs. Martin explained. I had three problems with her statement. First, there is no such thing as a "little" test. Second, no one had said anything about having a test, and third, I did not know the names of the states and their capitols. When I voiced my complaints, Mrs. Martin smiled and said it was a "pop quiz."
Sidebar: That might have been the moment when I decided to become an elementary school teacher, vowing to never subject my students to the terror of "pop quizzes."
My stomach dropped and I broke out in a cold sweat. My mind raced as I frantically searched for my Geography book. Maybe I could learn the names of a capitol or two while she handed out the tests. "No books allowed," Mrs. Martin warned. I was doomed.
When the blank outline of the United States appeared on my desk, I dissolved into tears. Mrs. Martin immediately dropped to her knees beside my desk and gathered me in her arms. She asked the student teacher to take over as she gently ushered me out of the classroom and in to the nurse's office next door.
When I finally stopped crying, Mrs. Martin said, "Honey, what is wrong?" I could not believe my ears. "I don't know the names of the states or their capitols," I wailed out what seemed to be a ridiculously obvious explanation. "Do you know some of them?" she asked. I thought for a moment. "I know some of them but not all of them and that means I'll fail the test," I responded. "Why don't you just do your best and see what happens," she said. I did my best ... and I still failed the test.
Guess what? The world kept spinning. I passed first grade and elementary school with flying colors, graduated from high school with honors, attended college on a music and academic scholarship and eventually became an elementary teacher. And I failed a lot along the way. So did a lot of people in the Bible. Adam and Eve blatantly disobeyed God and then lied about their sin. David committed adultery with Bathsheba and then plotted the murder of her husband. Peter bragged about his commitment to Jesus but denied Him - not once - but three times. In fact, it is hard to find Biblical characters who did not fail at some point, but those who learned from their failure and used it as a tool of growth were often used by God to accomplish great things.
I have come to believe that failure is a necessary part of our growth and maturity as a follower of Jesus Christ. Failure can interpret the unconditional love and forgiveness of God like nothing else can - if we let it. Desperation can be our friend if it makes us crave God and long to see His power unleashed in our lives. Failure is not final but God's grace is.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, imperfect and flawed, knowing that I have failed You. Forgive me for the sin in my life. Thank You for Your love and mercy that covers that sin. Help me learn the lesson that each failure holds and teach me how to apply that lesson in my daily life. I celebrate the hope and fresh start I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans 8:28. "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (NIV). How does this verse apply to the way we view and respond to failure?
What failure are you facing today? Filter that failure through Romans 8:28 and look for the lesson and seed of victory it holds.
Read Job 14:7 (NIV) "At least there is hope for a tree: if it is cut down, it will sprout again, and its new shoots will not fail." How can you apply this verse to the failures in your life?
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March 3, 2011
A Dream Come True
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" (1 John 3:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Once upon a time, not so very long ago or far away, a baby girl was born to parents who could not keep her. While neither parent was willing to release her for adoption, neither was able to care for her. So while the legal system shuffled her case back and forth, the baby girl grew into a toddler in a foster home.
Her care was certainly adequate, her physical needs were met and she never went hungry. Her clothes, though not new, were never dirty. Her toys, though not her own, were always sufficient. This little girl was not mistreated or abused, and yet, in her heart was a hollow space. She desperately wanted what she had never had - a mommy and a daddy of her very own.
As fate would have it, only a few doors down from the foster home, lived a kind couple with a teenage son. The little girl needed a family, the family wanted a little girl, and the details of a trying and lengthy adoption were settled. And while this little girl received a wonderful mommy and an adoring big brother, it was her daddy and their relationship that was extra special.
Ashley was two-years-old when she entered his life. She was thin, pale and clingy. By the time the adoption was finally complete, she was almost three. Ashley had never seen the ocean, eaten a "Happy Meal," or slept in a bed in a room of her own.
A few months after the adoption, Ashley traveled to the beach for her first family reunion. She was overwhelmed with excitement and pride. She had received so much so fast, and it was hard to take it all in. Ashley asked everyone she met if they were part of her family.
"Are you my aunt?" "Are you my uncle?" "Are you my cousin?" She ran from person to person showering hugs and kisses on her newly acquired family. "I love you!" she told them. "I love you all!"
When her new daddy took her to McDonald's for the first time, Ashley couldn't join in with the other children who played busily on the playground equipment. She was too busy asking important questions. "Do you have a daddy? I have a daddy! See, that's my daddy over there" she exclaimed with excitement and wonder. "Isn't he wonderful?"
"What's your name?" she asked. "My name is Ashley Jordan AMBROSE - just like my daddy. I'm named after my daddy!"
Five years later, tanned, transformed and confident, Ashley again returned to the annual family reunion. This time she brought a scrapbook of pictures to share with anyone who would sit still long enough to listen.
"This is my story," she would say. "See, this is where I lived before Mommy and Daddy adopted me. They picked me out special. See, this is my room now - it's all my own. And these are my toys, and my own clothes, and here's a picture of my kitty, and one of my dog, and ..."
Ashley has love overflowing for everyone, but no one is higher on her list than her daddy. He knows how to polish toenails, drip sandcastles, tie hair ribbons, hold her in the night - and he calls her "his little Princess."
This story, which is the opening of my latest book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Fulfills Them, was originally told by a friend of mine, Gail Montgomery about her niece. The reason it grabs my heart ...every time ... is because it is my story too. And girlfriend, it is your story as well. We have been adopted by a loving Heavenly Father (Ephesians 1:5, 1 John 3:1-2). You are His little princess! And just like Ashley, I love Him so much; I just can't help but tell about Him. Who will you tell today?
Let's Pray
Abba Father, I love You. Thank You for adopting me as Your child. I pray I will represent our family name (Christian) as I go about my daily life today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What emotions does this story stir in your heart?
How does knowing that you are God's child affect the way you view your life and your circumstances? Let's share our ideas on my Facebook page, www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
Whom have you told lately about Your Heavenly Daddy?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them (a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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March 4, 2011
Get Out of that Boat!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Between three and six o'clock in the morning, Jesus came to them, walking on the water. When his followers saw him walking on the water, they were afraid. They said, 'It's a ghost!' and cried out in fear. But Jesus quickly spoke to them, 'Have courage! It is I. Do not be afraid.' Peter said, "Lord, if it is really you, then command me to come to you on the water." Jesus said, 'Come.' And Peter left the boat and walked on the water to Jesus. But when Peter saw the wind and the waves, he became afraid and began to sink. He shouted, 'Lord, save me!' Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught Peter"(Matthew 14: 25-31, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus and His disciples fed more than five thousand people with only five loaves of bread and two fish. Now that is what I call a miracle! The disciples not only saw the miracle Jesus performed but were the ones Jesus actually commissioned to distribute the bread and fish. Witnessing the miracles of Jesus was not a new experience for these men. In fact, I am sure they considered themselves mature, devoted and unshakable disciples. But when Jesus sent them out onto the water in a small fishing boat while He went up into the hills to pray – their faith was put to the test.
Everything was fine - the disciples' faith in tact - until the storm hit. It is easy to believe God when the skies are blue and the nets are full of fish. How strong is our faith when we are clinging to the side of a rocking boat in the death grip of a brutal storm? The disciples cried out in fear and Jesus came – at the right time and in the right way. Like the disciples, we often question God's timing and His ways. When they don't translate into methods that we can understand, we surrender our faith to the tyranny of fear. Fully devoted followers of Christ are willing to forsake the known for the unknown. They choose to trust God and walk by faith – not by sight or human logic. The response of Jesus to the disciples' fear was encouragement and a call to step out in faith and obedience. The only taker in the boat was Peter.
Matthew 14:28-29 (NCV) "Peter said, 'Lord, if it is really you, then command me to come to you on the water.' Jesus said, 'Come.' And Peter left the boat and walked on the water to Jesus."
Faith demands a willingness to give up what we can see in exchange for what we cannot see. "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen" (Hebrews 11:1 NKJV). This verse indicates a persuasion or conviction in response to unseen evidence. But just because we can't see it, does not mean it isn't there.
John Paton and his wife were missionaries in the New Hebrides Islands. One night, hostile natives surrounded the mission headquarters, intent on burning the Patons out and killing them both. Paton and his wife prayed all night, asking God to strengthen their faith. At dawn, they were amazed to see their attackers simply turn and leave.
A year later, the chief of that tribe became a Christian. Paton asked him what had kept him and his men from killing them that night. The chief answered with a question, "Who were all those men with you?" Paton answered, "There was no one with us. My wife and I were all alone." The chief said they had seen hundreds of men standing guard, big men in shining garments with drawn swords. God is not only able to answer our prayer of faith, He delights in doing so. The problem is that we don't always like His answers.
As a fisherman, Peter knew all about boats and storms. However, I feel safe in saying that Peter had probably never tried walking on any kind of water, much less tempestuous water. It didn't matter. Jesus said, "Come." Jesus wrapped a world of truth in that one word. Strength for every trial, faith for every storm, courage for every conflict, the promise of His presence and absolutely everything we need to obey is promised to those who are willing to leave the safety of the boat and "come" to Jesus. God never forces us into obedience. He invites us to obey and leaves the choice to us.
Peter chose obedience when he slipped off his sandals, hitched up his robe and climbed over the side of that boat. Peter left the "known" behind and stepped through his fear in a radical faith that pleased God. Peter then did what we all have done at some point in life. He took his eyes off Jesus. And when he began to sink, Peter cried out in fear. I love the fact that Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed the flailing hand of Peter. I would probably have let the doubting disciple sink like a stone to teach him a lesson. Not Jesus. Grace covered it all – the storm, the sin and Peter's plea for rescue. Love heard Peter's cry. Mercy saved him.
What about you, friend? Are you trapped in a storm, clinging to the sides of a rocking boat and wondering where God is and why He is silent? Is your heart in the grip of fear and doubt? Cry out to God. Take one step of faith, and He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is filled with doubt and I am afraid. I want to believe You, Lord. I want to step out in faith, trusting You to meet me at the point of my greatest need, but I am so weak. Please teach me to listen for Your voice above the crashing waves of fear and the deadly whispers of human logic. Give me the strength to keep my eyes on You – no matter what my sea of circumstances may be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 56:3 (NIV) "When I am afraid, I put my trust in you." What do you think it means to "put" your trust in God?
Read John 14:27 (NIV) "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." Does peace help us control emotions or do controlled emotions produce peace? Right now, take a step of faith by making the choice to let peace rule in your heart.
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Peace is not the absence of conflict, a lack of trouble or scarcity of problems. Peace is not a feeling. Peace is a Person – Jesus – and when we know Him, we can experience true peace.
Need peace?The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Fear is a faithful companion in a world filled with broken people, many of whom live at the mercy of their fears. Mary's Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear, will help you discover God's plan for peace by identifying five ways to face and deal with fear.
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March 7, 2011
I Want a Daddy Who Loves Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18 NIV italics added).
Friend to Friend
When I was a little girl, my father spent most of his waking hours working at his building supply company, observing construction sites, or socializing with his colleagues and associates. Even though his place of business was only a few blocks from our home, his heart was miles away in a place I could never find.
My father didn't drink alcohol every day, but when he did, it consumed him. Dad was filled with a rage that always seemed to be boiling just beneath the surface of his tough exterior. When he drank, that rage spewed out like hot lava onto those around him.
As a child, many nights I crawled into bed, pulled the covers tightly under my chin or even over my head, and prayed that I would quickly fall asleep to shut out the noise of my parents yelling and fighting. Crashing furniture, smashing glass, and fist upon flesh were common sounds that pierced my little girl nights. Occasionally I'd tiptoe over to my pink ballerina jewelry box, wind up the key in the back, open the lid, and try to focus on the tinkling melody that came from the music box as the dancer twirled with hands overhead. I wanted to be wherever she was...anywhere but home.
I was afraid of my father. Even when he was sober, I kept my distance. At the same time, I observed how other daddies cherished their little girls. I saw daddies snuggle their daughters in their laps, hold their hands while walking in the park, or kiss their cheeks as they dropped them off at school in the mornings. Deep in my heart, a dream was birthed. I dreamed that one day, I would have a daddy who loved me like that – not because I was pretty, or made good grades, or could play the piano well, but just because I was his. I dreamed that one day I would be a cherished daughter and the apple of my daddy's eye.
In talking to women all across the country, I have seen eyes fill with tears when I talk about the dream of having a daddy who loves me. But the tears are not for me; they reveal the longing in their own hearts. Butterfly Kisses, a song by Bob Carlisle, climbed the charts in 2000, receiving international recognition in both the Christian and secular music industries. The song was about the tender love between a father and his daughter, starting from her birth to her wedding day. Mr. Carlisle said, "I get a lot of mail from young girls who try to get me to marry their moms. That used to be a real chuckle because it's so cute, but then I realized they didn't want romance for mom. They want the father that is in that song, and that just kills me."
What did the little girls long for? They wanted a daddy to scoop them up in his strong arms. They wanted to plant butterfly kisses on his scruffy face. They wanted to see tears in his eyes when he walked them down the aisle on their wedding day. Little girls and grown women alike long for a father to protect them, help them, guide them, nurture them, and cheer them on through the struggles of life.
In the Old Testament, God has many names. He is Elohim – the Creator, El Elyon – God Most High, El Roi – the God who sees, El Shaddai – the All-Sufficient One, Adonai – the Lord, Jehovah – the Self-Existent One, Jehovah-Jireh –the Lord Will Provide, Jehovah – Rapha – the Lord who heals, Jehovah—Shalom – the Lord is peace, Jehovah-Raah – the Lord my Shepherd, and many more.
In the New Testament, Jesus introduced a new name for God – Father. In the Gospel of John alone, God is referred to as Father at least 120 times. It is the name that Jesus referred to more than any other and the name that He invites us to use to address the Creator of the Universe. Just stop and think about that for a moment. The God of the universe who created the heavens and the earth, who always has been and always will be, who is all-knowing, all powerful, and present everywhere at once – that same God invites you to call Him Abba Father. He invites you to call Him Daddy!
When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, He said:
"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for yourFather knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray:
'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name....'" (Matthews 6:6-9 italics added).
Let's Pray
Our Father who art in heaven, Hollowed by Thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts as we also have forgiven our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I believe that God gives us Butterfly Kisses all through the day. Today, look for ways that God is sending you little blessings. Don't miss it! It could be in a sunrise, a redbird on the backdrop of a gray sky, or a gentle breeze that whispers "I love you."
At the end of the day, visit my Facebook page and share how you sensed your Father's presence today.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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March 8, 2011
Laugh it up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" (John 10:10, NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus lived and died so that we can experience abundant life. Jesus did not come so that we can merely survive life. Pagans can survive life. God's plan is for us to experience joy and peace – no matter what life holds.
John 10:10 clearly states the promise of God, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." In this verse, "abundant" literally means "going beyond; full or exuberant." In other words, an abundant life is a life filled with joy. Even in the midst of a joy-less world, we can live a joy-filled life for one simple reason – God is in control. And because He is in control, we are promised, "the cheerful heart has a continual feast" (Proverbs 15:15 NIV). Life should be an ongoing celebration.
Now, be honest for a moment. Is your life a continual feast, a daily celebration? Would those who know you best describe you as a woman of joy? Laughter and joy are treasures from God, valuable to us for many reasons.
1. Joy heals. Proverbs 17:22 "A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength."
We lived in the Miami-Ft. Lauderdale area when hospitals and doctors first developed "laughter programs." Doctors actually prescribed laughter for their patients. Why? Because they discovered what Scripture has said for thousands of years - laughter heals. Studies show that laughter:
Exercises lungs
Increases circulation
Controls pain
Reduces tension
Strengthens immune systems
In other words, God created us to illustrate the truth, that if we laugh more days, we will have more days to laugh. Joy heals.
2. Joy makes us strong. Nehemiah 8:10 "The joy of the Lord is your strength."
Joy – humor – laughter – all cultivate inner strength that operates beyond our own human abilities. The joy of the Lord in us will produce His strength through us. A life without joy is like a car without shock absorbers. It will be jolted by every bump in the road. Laughter and joy are the shock-absorbers of life and can radically change our perspective of life and the tough times it holds.
Several years ago, one of my friends had a mastectomy. Sally was out of work for months, undergoing surgery, radiation and chemotherapy treatments. Sally seemed fragile and frail in the way she handled tough circumstances and her battle with cancer was by far the greatest challenge of her life. Anticipating her return to work, Sally's co-workers were a little tense, wondering just how this experience would affect her personally as well as her ability to handle the stress of her job. They got their answer on her first day back at work. Sally walked in, smiling, wearing a large poster-board sign around her neck. On the sign was a huge black arrow pointing down. The sign read, "It was this one!" Yes, joy and laughter make us strong.
C. Joy makes the ordinary special.
Someone said, "If you have to move ten inches from where you are now to be happy, then you will never be truly happy." As we learn to celebrate the ordinary things in life, we build a life of joy because it is against the backdrop of the ordinary that God's work becomes extraordinary. We don't have trouble celebrating the big events in life. Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries – are celebrations we anticipate and execute with great planning and forethought. We tend to place unrealistic expectations on these celebrations because there is no daily celebration of life.
So celebrate, my friends! Celebrate Tuesdays, half birthdays, haircuts, new jeans and report cards. Celebrate the day braces go on – and especially the day they come off. Celebrate if Dad comes home early. Hey, just celebrate if Dad comes home. My husband is an absolute master at finding joy and laughter in the ordinary and often mundane things of life. Now before I go any further, you need to know that I have his full permission to share the following illustration. I believe his exact words were, "Go for it!"
Several years ago, our family was flying to Texas for the Christmas holidays. Before I could even begin packing, a mountain of laundry had to be done. My sweet husband offered to help. After the first few loads, we turned on the television to watch a Christmas special. Settling into the couch positioned under a wall of windows, we folded load after load of clothes. It was midnight and Dan was bored – a dangerous combination. The drier buzzed and out he went to retrieve the final load. He came back into the room wearing a "hat" which turned out to be a pair of my sexiest underwear. I burst out laughing – and so did the people outside our family room windows.
Each year, our church youth decorated Christmas trees and delivered them to the older members of our congregation - a wonderful act of service. They also had a contest to see who could produce the ugliest tree, which was always delivered to the pastor's home on Christmas Eve. Since we would be out of town on Christmas Eve, they had chosen this particular night to deliver "our" tree. Outside our windows stood youth workers, youth and the youth pastor – laughing hysterically. (Some of them are still in counseling today.) That ordinary chore has become a favorite family story. Joy and laughter make the ordinary special.
I want it all. I want everything God has for me. I want to celebrate life, but I often get so wrapped up in the urgent things that I lose sight of the important things. A celebratory attitude is slowly siphoned from our souls by the countless "joy robbers" the enemy sends our way. Guard your heart and mind. Refuse to surrender your God-given joy to anyone or anything. Join me this week as we celebrate Jesus. Party on, girlfriends!
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate You! Thank You for bringing joy and peace into my dark world. Thank You for a love that never fails and a peace that meets every need. Help me to remember that because You are in control, I can have joy every step of the way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Evaluate the joy-level in your heart and in your home.
Identify any "joy-robbers" in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Plan a party to celebrate Jesus.
Memorize the key verse today. Write it on a card and post it where you will see if most often.
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Would my family describe me as a woman of joy? I pray so. I know it doesn't please God when we live as if He is not in control. I know from experience that joy and laughter can heal a broken heart and restore a wounded soul. Today, let's turn to God and choose the joy He offers.
Need joy?Life is hard. How can we find joy in the midst of difficult times? Mary's Bible study, Laugh More... Live Better is filled with humor, life stories and dynamic principles from God's Word that will help you experience the abundant life God provides.
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March 9, 2011
He Loves You No Matter What
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us live in a world of performance-based acceptance. We make good grades and mommy is proud. We look pretty and daddy smiles. We do a good job at work and the boss is pleased. We serve at church and congregation thinks we are "good Christians."
Unfortunately that same sense of having to perform well to be accepted by people can easily roll over into our relationship with God. We falsely believe that we must perform well to be loved and accepted by Him, when nothing could be further from the truth. As a result, we strive to obtain something that we already have...God's unconditional love.
Anabel Gillham was a woman who loved God, but had trouble accepting that God could love her. Sure, she knew the Bible verses that talked of God's unconditional love for her. And yet she knew herself and doubted a God who knew her innermost thoughts would approve of her.
Then God used a very special person to help Annabel understand the depths of His love for her – her second child, Mason David Gilham, who was profoundly retarded. Let's let Anabel tell you her story.
I never doubted for a moment that Jesus loved that profoundly retarded little boy. It didn't matter that he would never sit with the kids in the back of the church and on a certain special night walk down the aisle, take the pastor by the hand, and invite Jesus into his heart. It was entirely irrelevant that he could not quote a single verse of Scripture, that he would never go to high school, or that he would never be a dad. I knew that Jesus loved Mason.
What I could not comprehend, what I could not accept, was that Jesus could love Mason's mother, Anabel. You see, I believed that in order for a person to accept me, to love me, I had to perform for him. My standard for getting love was performance-based, so I "performed" constantly, perfectly. In fact, I did not allow anyone to see me when I was not performing perfectly. I never had any close friends because I was convinced that if a person ever really got to know me, he wouldn't like me.
Mace could never have performed for his parent's love, or for anyone's love, but oh, how they loved him. His condition deteriorated to such a degree-and so rapidly-that they had to place him in an institution when he was very young. His parents enrolled him in the Enid State School for Mentally Handicapped Children. They drove regularly 120 miles to see him but occasionally also brought him home for a visit.
On one particular visit, Mace had been with them since Thursday evening. On the following Saturday afternoon God painted a vivid picture of His great love for Anabel through Mason. She was standing at the kitchen sink, dreading what lay ahead. In just a few moments, she would be gathering Mace's things together and taking him back to "his house." She had done this many times before-and it was never easy-but today God had something in mind that would change her life forever.
"I stood up to the sink again," she continued. "More dishes, more washing, more crying – and thoughts, foreign to my way of thinking, began filtering into my conscious awareness. I believe God spoke to me that day, and this is what He said: "Anabel, you don't look at your son and turn away in disgust because he's sitting there with saliva drooling out of mouth; you don't shake your head, repulsed because he has dinner all over his shirt or because he's sitting in a dirty, smelly diaper when he ought to be able to take care of himself. Anabel, you don't reject Mason because all of the dreams you had for him have been destroyed. You don't reject him because he doesn't perform for you. You love him, Anabel, just because he is yours. Mason doesn't willfully reject your love, but you willfully reject Mine. I love you, Anabel, not because you're neat or attractive, or because you do things well, not because you perform for Me but just because you're Mine."
And friend, that's exactly how God feels about you. He loves you just because you're His.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me unconditionally. You love me when I perform well, and when I fall flat on my face. Help me to love others the same.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Do you ever feel that God loves you more when you perform well?
I'm guessing you said, "Yes." So tell me, what is wrong with that way of thinking?
More From the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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March 10, 2011
Will God Really Come Through?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The LORD says, 'I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you'" (Psalm 32:8, NLT).
Friend to Friend
When our daughter, Danna, was a toddler, she and her daddy had a favorite game. Dan would place her in some high spot then stand back, hold up his arms and say, "Jump to Daddy!" I hated this game but Danna loved it and always jumped into Dan's arms, laughing and giggling. But one day, Dan put her in a spot that Danna thought was just a little too high. She did what I do when I get scared. She closed her eyes. When Dan ordered her to jump, Danna wailed, "I can't! I can't see you, Daddy!" Dan softly responded, "It doesn't matter, baby. I can see you!" With a smile on her scrunched up face my daughter bailed off into the strong arms of her Father, secure in the knowledge that he would catch her - just as he always had.
The apostle Paul understood and lived by the truth that God is constantly at work in and around us, monitoring every circumstance. Paul writes in Philippians 4:10, "I rejoice greatly in the Lord that at last you have renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you have been concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it." There is a truth in this verse that is easy to miss - the truth that God is always at work around us. Paul's circumstances did not show that God was working, but Paul knew He was. Paul was secure in the belief that help was on the way, so he stood firm and began watching for God to show up.
Paul examined every circumstance, understanding that it had already passed through His Father's hands - with His permission. And God came through. To find real security and contentment we must learn to search for the handprints of God in the every day circumstances of life.
Life is not a series of accidents but a series of divine appointments made by our heavenly Father – each one designed to prove that He loves us and orchestrated to illustrate His provision for us. That interruption we complain about or that intrusion we resent may well be a window of opportunity sent by Him. God is our provider. The word "provider" comes from two Latin words: "pro" which means "before" and "video" which means "to see." In other words, God will take care of it beforehand. God caused the church at Philippi to become concerned about Paul's needs when Paul needed their love most. God always comes through when we need Him the most. It is a picture of the Good Shepherd meeting every need of every sheep.
John 10:4 (NLT) "After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they recognize his voice."
The Shepherd is always ahead of his sheep - out in front - which means that any attack upon the sheep has to take Him into account first. What peace and security we can have knowing that God has gone before us through every valley, across each mountain of life. He knows what tomorrow holds and will give us everything we need to face it. When we begin to understand and walk in the truth that God monitors every circumstance, we will walk in contentment – knowing that He really is in control.
You may find yourself in a frightening place filled with darkness and doubt. Your fragile heart may be wondering if God knows where you are. He does. You think that because you cannot see the hand of God or sense His presence, it means He is not working. Nothing could be further from the truth. We may not understand or even like His process, but God is always at work in our lives. Rest assured – God really is in control – and He will come through for you.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that when the darkness comes and doubt invades, I sometimes complain that I don't understand and cannot see Your hand at work. Forgive me, Lord, for my demanding and faithless attitude. Forgive me for not trusting You and help me, by the power of Your Spirit, to trust You completely.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the last few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done.
Identify the people or things that you tend to think of and rely upon as sources of security and contentment in your life.
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. What are the steps listed in this passage that – when taken – will produce contentment?
What hedges of protection can you put in place today that will prepare you to face tomorrow with security and contentment?
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When it comes right down to it, I really prefer that God be able to see me rather than insisting that I be able to see and understand Him. That is where faith comes in. Faith believes God is who He says He is ... and will do what He promises to do. And it only takes a tiny seed of faith to unleash the power of God in your life. Right now, exchange your fear and doubt for His peace and power in your life.
Need peace?The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Fear is a faithful companion in a world filled with broken people, many of whom live at the mercy of their fears. Mary's Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear, will help you discover God's plan for peace by identifying five ways to face and deal with fear.
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March 11, 2011
Accepting the Call
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus replied, "Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching" (John 14:23a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
There is a feature on my cell phone that allows me to decline an incoming call. There are a thousand reasons why I might choose to hit the "decline" button when my phone rings. Sometimes I am writing and have a deadline to make. Decline. Sometimes a call comes in when I'm mid-conversation with a friend or when I'm connecting with my family. Decline. At times, true confessions here, I decline a call simply because I don't want to talk to the person who's calling me at that moment. (C'mon, don't judge me.)
Similarly, there are times in my life when I try to ignore the promptings of the Holy Spirit as if I were declining a cell phone call. Times when I just don't feel like doing what I know God wants me to do. Times when I don't want to hear the still small voice that whispers to my soul: "forgive him" – "release your anger" – "humble yourself and ask for forgiveness" or "focus on my plan for you ... not on my plan for another person."
One such time took place a few years back. It was after the final session at a three-day ministry event, I was focused and fervent, determined to head home to my husband and three children as quickly as possible. I busied myself wrapping microphone chords, loading CDs from my resource table, and prepping to leave. While I was mid-busy, a friendly thirty-something woman I'd chatted with previously that weekend came up to me with her friend. I was courteous to them, but in a "see-you-later, girlfriend" kind of way.
Not getting my subtle clues, this woman inquired excitedly about the book I was in the middle of writing. I lifted my head with surprise as she announced, "I can't wait to read your book! Your enthusiasm for the Lord is so contagious, and I just know you have an amazing testimony!" Then she and her friend stood there expectantly. Decline.
Okay, feel my pain here. It is day three of a three-day event! I was exhausted. I was done. Yet this woman and her friend wanted to hear my testimony. So, I did what any normal fleshy woman would do. I told God, Not now, Lord. I'm going home. I've done what I came to do and now I'm going home to my family. I'm tired, slightly grumpy, definitely hungry, and done. I can't tell these girls about my abortion right now. Nope. Not going to go there. Please don't ask me to!
So I looked up at these two sweet women and, with a forced chuckle, said, "Yeah, I've got a doozy of a story, but don't we all? Thank God for grace."
There! Now they should leave me alone, I thought.
But God kept nudging my heart. Tell them, Gwen.
Before I had a chance to continue my dialog with the Lord, another couple of women came to join our conversation. I was so not amused.
God, are You kidding me? We are done here!
But He kept nudging.
So I finally conceded and shared my testimony with the six women who had gathered to speak to me. Within minutes, two of the six were crying. They'd had abortions as well and for years had lived under the weight of shame. We became a bonded band of blubbering sisters. The story of my redemption from brokenness and the beauty and healing I found in Christ had become a tool in the hands of God that afternoon. What had once been a wound became a weapon ... but only because I accepted the call. (Even if it did take me a while to concede.)
Jesus told his disciples that if they loved Him, they would obey His commands and His teachings (John 14:15-27). A simple if-then statement. If you love me, then you will obey. He also told them that when He returned to the Father in heaven, He would send the Holy Spirit to teach, to guide in truth, to convict of sin and to remind believers of what Jesus taught (John 16:7-14). To help us. To empower us.
The Spirit of God lives within every Christian. He equips us for each task as we yield to His leading. When God prompts us to do something on His behalf, He is faithful to lead the way and to bless our obedience – for His own glory. It's all about His glory. He simply wants our willingness and our obedience. Friend, His plans need to be our plans ... even if His plans sometimes seem to "interrupt" our plans. Let's be women who accept His call. Are you willing today?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I've chosen my plan over Your plan. Align my will to Yours and help me to express my love for You by obeying your Word and by responding to the promptings of Your Spirit.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you sensed that God was leading you to do something? How did you respond?
Is there something He is calling you to do today? Are you withholding forgiveness from someone? Are you aware of a need that God wants you to meet? Does He want you end a toxic relationship? Spend a few minutes in prayer about this.
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God calls each of us to use our lives to point to His hope. Right before He ascended into heaven, Jesus said, "But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth." (Acts 1:8, emphasis added). That call—that commission—will look different for each of us. GiGs, what does this look like for you today? Let's talk about it on my Facebook page. Leave a comment or thought on my wall at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
Portions of today's devotion are taken from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. Her full testimony is featured in the book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book online, please visit Gwen's website.
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March 14, 2011
Some Things Never Change
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good. His love endures forever!" (Psalm 136:1, NIV)
Friend to Friend
2002 was a year of transition for me. I changed positions at the ministry where I served, my son packed up to go away to college, my thyroid went out of control and had to be purposely destroyed with radioactive iodide, my first book went out of print, the grocery store quit carrying my favorite coffee, and Revlon discontinued the eyeliner that I'd been using for ten years. Like a little girl having a hissy fit, I whined, "Doesn't anything ever stay the same? Isn't there one thing I can count on being the same tomorrow as it is today!
Then I heard that gentle whisper I've grown to love: "'Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord, who has compassion on you" (Isaiah 54:10).
Yes, there is one thing that will never change, God's unfailing love and care for His children. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and on that we can always depend. Solomon tells us the one thing each of us longs for is unfailing love (Proverbs 19:22). And that is exactly what we have in the love of our heavenly Father.
The word compassion in Isaiah 54:10 is the Hebrew word racham, which means "to soothe; to cherish; to love deeply like parents; to be compassionate, be tender...This verb usually refers to a strong love which is rooted in some kind of natural bond, often from a superior one to an inferior. (Now here's the best part.) Small babies evoke this feeling." (Beth Moore, Breaking Free: Making Liberty in Christ a Reality in Life (Nashville, Tenn.: Lifeway, 1999), 160.)
When my son, Steven, came into the world, a love was birthed in my heart that I never thought possible. Elizabeth Stone said it well: "To make a decision to have a child, it's momentous. It is to decide to have your heart go walking around outside of your body for the rest of your life." That is how our Heavenly Father feels about His children!
The beautiful Hebrew word, hesed, is translated unfailing love in Isaiah 54:10. It is often translated loving-kindness, steadfast love, grace, mercy, faithfulness, goodness, and devotion. This word is used 240 times in the Old Testament and is considered one of the most important in the vocabulary of the Old Testament. Why? Because God's unfailing love is one of the most important themes of the entire Bible. It is who He is and what He does (1 John 4:8).
How would you like to memorize half of a psalm in the next sixty seconds? Want to give it a try? Turn to Psalm 136. After each sentence, there is an echo, "His love endures forever." Just say that sentence twenty-six times and you've quoted half of the Psalm! The Psalmist begins by reminding us of how God created the universe and all it contains. Then he continues by reminiscing how God led the captive Israelites out of Egypt, across the parted Red Sea, through the arid desert, and into the lush Promised Land conquering enemies at every turn. And through it all, one thing remained the same – "His love endures forever!"
There may be times in our lives when we cry, "Where are you God? Don't you care what is happening to me? I can't hear You. I can't see Your hand working in my life." But be assured of this. Even when we can't sense God's presence, He is always there. Always. And through it all, one thing remains the same – "His love endures forever!"
Let's Pray
LORD, today I am rejoicing over the truth that Your love endures forever. Even though everything around me may be falling apart and changing, You will always remain the same yesterday, today and tomorrow!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Just for fun, list all the things that changed in your life in 2010. This might take a while.
Now after each of those entries, go back and write the phrase: His love endures forever.
I know some GiGs do these devotions with their gal pals. This would be a great exercise to do together. Have fun!
I'd love to see your list. You can share them with me at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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March 15, 2011
From Tragedy to Triumph
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"These (trials) have come so that your faith – of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire – may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed" (1 Peter 1:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am told that in the famous lace shops of Belgium there are certain rooms used for spinning the finest and most delicate designs of lace. Each room is completely dark – except for one small window. Through this tiny window, light shines directly on the work at hand. A solitary spinner works in the darkness, sitting where the narrow stream of light will fall on the delicate thread. The choicest pieces of lace, the most exquisite designs, are created when the worker is in the dark and only his work is in the light. When it comes to handling hurt, we often find ourselves sitting in the darkness of frustration and pain, wondering if anything good can possibly be salvaged from the broken pieces of our lives.
I will never forget the day I learned that God really can turn tragedy into triumph. I was sitting at my desk, working on an assignment from the counselor I had been seeing. For months, I had been wrestling with my past; slowly, methodically working through painful issues and buried memories that seemed to be feeding the clinical depression I was battling. As page after page filled with harsh realities, a memory slammed into my heart and mind.
The pain was overwhelming as a vile scene from my childhood slowly took shape. I could hardly breathe as I frantically tried to escape the certainty I had been molested. The perpetrator had been our family doctor and friend. He had even provided free medical treatment when we had not money to pay. I had trusted him, counted on him. As a nurse, my mother had worked beside this man every single day and often watched his children when he and his wife went out.
Anger unlike any I had ever known fueled violent thoughts of revenge and retaliation. I was angry with this man – and angry with God. How could He have let this happen? Where was the light in this dark place?
For months, I worked through painful memories and raging emotions until I saw the first glimmer of light. It was wrapped in chosen forgiveness. And I began to see that had I never been wounded so badly, I would never have been able to forgive so freely – and in doing so, discover a depth of healing and freedom only the greatest pain can produce. Today, I can honestly thank God for all He has accomplished in me through the sin of that man.
There are no accidents with God, nor is He surprised by anything or anyone in the life of His child. God uses even the most horrendous circumstances for our good. The same can be said of relationships. Every relationship – difficult or easy – comes to us for a purpose, wrapped in God's love and plan and faithfully delivered with His permission. The apostle Paul gives clear directions for the handling of these difficult relationships:
"Live in peace with each other. Encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else. Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus" (1 Thessalonians 5:13-18). It is only in God's economy that being thankful transforms tragedy into triumph.
Let's Pray
Father, I come into Your presence, choosing to believe that You are faithful and will do what You have promised to do in Your Word. I lay my pain at Your feet and surrender my hurt to You. Only You can ease my pain and restore my joy. Only You can turn the broken places of my life into living illustrations of Your sufficiency and power. I praise Your name, Lord, and choose to trust You today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really believe that an attitude of gratitude helps us measure our problems against the limitless power of God, turning stumbling blocks into stepping stones? Explain.
Read Psalm 43:4. "Then I will go to the altar of God, to God, my joy and my delight. I will praise you with the harp, O God, my God." What does it mean to "go to the altar of God" in dealing with hurt and pain in your life?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:18. "Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." How does this verse apply to the way you handle hurt and pain in your life?
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Only God can take the broken pieces of your life and make something beautiful out of each one. He is waiting for you to let go of your pain and trust Him. And you really can. No one loves you like He does. You may not always understand or even like His process, but you can always trust His heart of love for you!
Stressed out? Mary's Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to control stress in your life instead of allowing stress to control you. Check it out!
Need a good laugh? Mary's MP3, Laugh More – Live Better, is a refreshing message filled with humor and Biblical principles that will help you learn how to celebrate life.
Need something for your pain? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
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March 16, 2011
I'm Not Going to Beg Anymore
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" (I John 3:1).
Friend to Friend
Cary and Madeline Rivers read about the overcrowded orphanages in Eastern Europe and God stirred their hearts to look into adoption. Foreign adoptions are very costly, but God had blessed the couple financially and the cost was not prohibitive. They decided to adopt, not one, two or three, but four children. After eleven months and miles of red tape, the adoption process was complete and the couple traveled across the ocean to gather their new family.
The trip home was 22 hours, so when they arrived at the Atlanta, Georgia airport for a two-hour layover, the family decided to let the rambunctious boys run around the terminal to work out some of their pent-up energy. Of course, they never let their new sons out of their sight. After a short while, Madeline noticed one of the boys, watching a man drinking at a water fountain. Even though the child could not speak English, he seemed to be using his hands and body language to communicate. To Madeline's horror, the man reached in his pocket and handed her new son a dollar bill.
She rushed over to the man and asked, "What are you doing?"
"Well, I could tell this boy couldn't speak English, but I could also tell that he was begging. So, I gave him a dollar."
The parents looked in the boy's pocket and he had ten one-dollar bills! The little boy had no idea the riches that came with his adoption. Even though he was now part of a family with great wealth, he continued to do what he had done all his life...beg.
Oh dear sister, do you see yourself in the little boy's eyes. Are you begging for handouts when your daddy owns the "cattle on a thousand hills?" Are you scavenging for crumbs when your heavenly Father provides "everything you need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness" (I Peter 1:3)? Are you searching for acceptance and approval from others when God longs to lavish you with His? Are you begging for what is already yours?
John wrote: "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" (I John 3:1). To lavish is to give freely, profusely, extravagantly, and abundantly. He doesn't give us everything we want when we want it. No father wants spoiled children. Rather, He gives us everything we need to become well-behaved children who bear His name well.
Let's Pray
Dear God, forgive me for acting like a spiritual pauper when I am a child of the King. Open my eyes to see all that You have given me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Look up and define the word "pauper."
Would you say you live like a child of the King or a spiritual pauper?
What would be the difference?
How would the child of a king live differently than a pauper? Let's chat about that at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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March 17, 2011
The Tool of Discouragement
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart" (Proverbs 3:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was advertised that the devil was putting his tools up for sale. When the day of the sale came, each tool was priced and laid out for public inspection. And what a collection it was. Hatred, envy, jealousy, deceit, pride, and lying ... the inventory was treacherous. Off to one side was a harmless-looking tool priced higher than all the rest, even though it was obviously more worn than any other tool the devil owned. "What's the name of this tool?" asked one of the customers. "That," the devil replied, "is discouragement." The customer asked, "But why have you priced it so high?" The devil smiled and explained, "Because discouragement is more useful to me than all the others. I can pry open and get inside a man's heart with that tool when I can't get near him with any other. It's badly worn because I use it on almost everyone, since so few people know it belongs to me."
The valleys in life are lined with disappointment and discouragement. Some people seem to thrive on adversity, emerging from their valley with greater strength and deeper faith. Others stumble and fall, giving in to discouragement and dropping out of the race. The difference in outcome is determined by the way we choose to handle discouragement.
We must respond to each valley with trust and faith. The word "trust" means "to lie helpless, face down" and is the picture of a servant waiting for his master's command or a soldier yielding himself to a conquering general. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." In other words, to trust God completely means that from the very center of our being, from the very core of our existence, we trust Him, totally abandoning ourselves in childlike faith to Him and His plan. We come to God, holding nothing in our hands, with one word in our heart – "whatever!" Whatever You want me to do, Lord, I will do. Whatever You want me to say, Lord, I will say. Whatever You want me to think, Lord, I will think. Whatever path You have for me, Lord, I will walk."
If you are like me, you sometimes think you don't have enough faith. The amount of faith is not nearly as important as the right kind of faith – faith in God alone. Faith does not rest on what we have done, but on what Christ has already done on the cross and in our lives. Faith builds on the victories of yesterday to help us face the valleys of today and the storms of tomorrow. Faith does not bypass pain. It does, however, empower us to deal with pain. Faith steps up to the bat and invites the opponent to throw his best pitch. Sometimes faith strengthens us, and other times, surprises us. Great faith is forged in the deepest valleys, beginning where our strength and power end.
I love the story of a missionary family, home on furlough and visiting friends. When it was time for dinner, the mother of the missionary children called her kids in. When her son burst through the door, she took one look at his hands and said, "Son, go wash those hands. They are dirty and covered in germs." With a scowl on his face, the little boy headed to the sink muttering, "Germs and Jesus! Germs and Jesus! That's all I hear about and I've never seen either one!" While we tend to say that seeing is believing, faith says that believing is seeing. Doubt creates mountains; faith moves them. Faith produces trust that shatters fear and leaves no room for discouragement.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so discouraged. Life is just not turning out like I thought it would. I have had so many disappointments and it seems like I face one valley after another. I need You and the hope that only You can give. Help me to trust You will all of my heart – not just part of it. Teach me how to walk by faith and not by sight. Today, I come to You with a "yes" in my heart for whatever You have planned for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 13:6 "We can say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'"
· What valley are you facing today?
· What has been your response to that valley so far?
· Are you willing to recognize God as the only source of true peace?
· Are you ready to surrender your valley to God and trust Him to deliver you?
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I know that many of you are discouraged and in pain. My first reaction is that of a mother – to do whatever I can to make that pain go away. But then I remember how God has taken the most painful parts of my life and used them for good. He really has. And I can tell you that no matter where you are, no matter how deep the pit may be, your God sees you and will deliver you. Don't quit! Don't give up! God is with you ... and so are we!
Stressed out? Mary's Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress, is based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to control stress in your life instead of allowing stress to control you. Check it out!
Need a good laugh? Mary's MP3, Laugh More – Live Better, is a refreshing message filled with humor and Biblical principles that will help you learn how to celebrate life.
Need something for your pain? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
Need a friend?Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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March 18, 2011
An Uncluttered Woman
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a little girl, one of my favorite things to do was to twirl in the grass. With arms out stretched, I'd spin around and around until I was silly-dizzy, and then fall to the ground with a giggly heart. It was thrilling, invigorating and a fun and simple way to spend a lazy summer day in the rolling hills of southwestern Pennsylvania. Now that I'm older, I can't handle spinning in circles. My body rejects any twisty endeavor. Nausea quickly sets in and reminds me that I'm not a "spinny-girl" anymore.
A few years ago while my family and I were at an amusement park, in an effort to gain favor in the eyes of my kids and earn imaginary super mom points, I enthusiastically got on a ride that spins in circles. My hero-husband always goes on this type of ride with our children, so I thought, "If Brad can do it, then I can do it, right?"
What a joke!
I walked up the ramp to the wretched "Wheel of Whirl" naively optimistic and walked down the ramp having made a great big fool of myself. The park employee had to stop the ride to let me off. Bad decision. Yucky feelings followed. Instead of becoming super mom, I became super sick mom. My center of balance and my emotions were quickly thrown off leaving my poor family with the disenchanting consequences of my twirling ambitions.
Just like that day in the amusement park, I constantly find myself thrown off balance from the wheeling whirl-of-life clutter. Why? Simply put: I complicate my life.
If we're being honest – and I assure you, I'm all about straight talk – then I'd have to confess that I am one of my own biggest obstacles to living life as an uncluttered woman. I know that I should depend solely on God for direction and strength, but the simple fact is I often don't. Most of us would admit that this is the case. It is hard to sift through all that is thrown at us each day. Clutter happens and it challenges all of us. I'm in the trenches with you and readily admit that navigating this silly-dizzy world is difficult.
There are ten bazillion things that compete for our attention and clutter our faith: emotions, materialism, negative thinking, overbooked schedules, doubts, legalism, laziness, self-reliance, our past pains and failures, technology, work, our need to control things, finances, debt, stress, addictions, discontentment and relationships. And I'm just getting started! This list could go on forever.
The Bible instructs us to direct our silly-dizzy days toward God. "Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans" (Proverbs 16:3, NIV).
In His presence, God gives order to both our thoughts and our to-do lists. Everything changes when we seek Him first and commit our plans to Him. The journey to becoming an uncluttered woman is all about personal contact with Jesus. You and I will experience greater peace and deeper faith as we determine to respond to His constant invitation to come. But don't worry. Jesus is no stranger to clutter. He walked the same earth we do and dealt with the same struggles and problems we deal with. He loved many a cluttered woman while here on earth and many more before and since His ascension. He knows your clutter – your stuff – and He invites you to come just the same.
When we position ourselves in the presence of the Peace-giver and look to Him to lead and prioritize our heart matters, the uncluttering begins.
Let it begin.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thanks for reminding me that I can always come to You and trade in my exhaustion for Your rejuvenation. Please bring order to my day and establish my priorities according to Your will. Teach me what it means to live a Spirit-led life and show me how to become an uncluttered woman.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read this devotion?
In Matthew 6:33, Jesus said, "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." What are you seeking first?
Are there activities, emotions, relationships, or thoughts in your life that need to be committed to the Lord? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask the Lord to establish your plans according to His will.
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I think we all struggle with this one. BUT GOD – He loves to give us strength where we struggle. The title track of my newest CD is called Uncluttered. Since we've gone there devotionally, I'd really like to go deeper by exploring this topic musically. Please join me on my Facebook page right now and take a listen to Uncluttered. (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) Then write a few thoughts on my wall about where God is directing you in all of this.
SILLY-DIZZY? Check out Gwen's new CD, Uncluttered.The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ.
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March 21, 2011
The Right Credentials
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In Him and through faith in Him we may approach God with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
One of my favorite people is author and speaker Patsy Clairmont. We were discussing my first book on the telephone one day and trying to set up a time to meet face-to-face when she came to speak at a Women of Faith Conference in my hometown.
"Patsy, I'd love to spend some time with you before the conference, but I don't have a backstage pass. I won't have access to the part of the building where you will be."
"No problem," Patsy replied. "Just go to my book table and tell my son who you are. He'll bring you to me."
The day of the conference arrived, and I swam through a sea of women to reach Patsy's crowded book table. After proper introductions, Jason and I were off to find his mom. First we passed through heavy mahogany double doors that led to an area called, The Crown Room, for the VIP's who attended professional basketball games and other events.
Then we entered an elevator that took us to an area where the speakers were tucked away. As soon as we stepped into the elevator, a stern faced security guard rushed in, pointed his finger in my face and pronounced, "Where's your backstage pass? You're not supposed to be here, young lady. You're in a lot of trouble."
Then he whipped out his walkie-talkie and was not afraid to use it. Before I could force one word out of my dry mouth, Patsy's son stepped forward, showed the guard his credentials, and gallantly stated, "It's OK. I'm one of the speaker's sons. I have a backstage pass and she's with me."
"That's right," I agreed when I had once again found my voice. "He's Patsy Clairmont's son, and I'm with him."
"Oh, okay then," the guard said as he put the walkie-talkie back in its holster. He exited the elevator and he was off to seek and find other dangerous Christian women like myself who were attending the conference.
I had a wonderful visit with Patsy and left the conference very inspired by each one of the speakers. But perhaps the most important lesson I learned was on that elevator ride. Revelation 12:10 says that Satan, "the accuser," stands before God accusing us day and night. He calls us "unworthy" and questions our credentials as he points his gnarly finger and tells us we're not good enough to pass through heaven's doors. But just when we begin to feel unworthy to approach the throne room, God's Son, like Patsy's son, steps forward and says, "Leave her alone. She's with me, and I'm all the credentials she needs."
In the Old Testament, there is a sense that God was unapproachable because of His holiness and our sinfulness. In the temple a veil separated the Holy of Holies where God resided, from the other areas of the temple where the priests attended daily. The high priest entered the Holy of Holies only once a year, on the Day of Atonement. Before he could enter, the priest went through a rigorous ceremonial cleansing process. Bells were hemmed to the bottom of his robe and a rope was tied around his ankle. When the priest entered the Holy of Holies, the men outside listened for the tinkling bells to make sure he was still alive. If God was not pleased, and the sound of the bells ceased, they pulled the dead priest out by the rope.
But in the New Testament all that changed. God was and is still the holy great I AM, but He welcomes us into the Holy of Holies with the confidence of a child approaching her daddy. When Jesus died on the cross of Calvary, God tore the veil of the Holy of Holies from top to bottom, inviting all those who believe in His Son as Savior and Lord to enter with assurance and confidence. (Mark 15:38). The writer of Hebrews encourages us, "Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need" (Hebrews 4:16). Paul reminds us, "In Him and through faith in Him we may approach God with freedom and confidence (Ephesians 3:12).
Just like the security guard who pointed his finger in my face and told me I didn't have the right credentials to enter the secured area, Satan will tell us that we don't deserve to enter into God's presence. But just as Patsy's son showed his credentials to allow me to enter the secured room, Jesus Christ stands to show his credentials that allow us to enter the throne room of God. As a child of God, your Father welcomes you into His presence. Not only that...He longs for you to come.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I know that there is no way I could ever be good enough to earn my way to heaven. Thank You that Jesus did it for me, and He is all the credentials I need.
In Him Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Has Satan ever tried to make you feel like you weren't good enough?
If so, then here are a few verses that let him know exactly who and Whose you are!
I am the salt of the earth. (Matthews 5:13)
I am the light of the world. (Matthews 5:14)
I am a child of God. (John 1:12)
I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of Christ's life. (John 15:15)
I am Christ's friend. (John 15:15)
I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit. (John 15:16)
· I am a joint-heir with Christ, sharing His inheritance with Him. (Romans 8:14-15)
· I am a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in me. (1 Corinthians 3:16)
I am joined to the Lord and am one spirit with Him. (1 Corinthians 6:17)
I am a member (part) of Christ's body. (1 Corinthians 12:27)
I am a new creation. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation. (2 Corinthians 5:18,19)
I am a saint. (Ephesians 1:1)
I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in heavenly places. (Ephesians 1:3)
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Sharon also has a laminated prayer cardfilled with verses to help you remember your identity in Christ.
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March 22, 2011
What Did You Say?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver" (Proverbs 25:11).
Friend to Friend
Fruit is one of my favorite foods. When I go grocery shopping, it always takes me longer to get through the fruit section than any other area of the store. I spend what some might consider a ridiculously long time picking out what I hope will be the juiciest apples, the plumpest grapes and sweetest bananas. Experience has taught me to quickly discard any piece of fruit that is bruised, mushy or discolored. I shake cantaloupe and thump watermelons. Ripe strawberries have a unique sweet scent and only the reddest cherries will do. Plums and tomatoes must be firm to the touch, bright in color and wrinkle-free while the more wrinkles the better when it comes to choosing passion fruit.
On a recent trip to the grocery store, I was carefully making my fruit selections when the thought occurred to me that I spend more time choosing fruit than I spend choosing my words.
Words are power tools that can build and encourage. Words can also destroy and cause confusion. We have all been hurt and even defeated by words spoken in anger or words rising out of a wounded and bitter heart. I have been guilty of speaking damaging words with the ulterior motive of flaunting power or demonstrating control. It is so easy for my mouth to be in motion before my mind is in gear and the result is rarely good or godly.
The words we speak can clarify or complicate a situation. I have watched my husband diffuse an emotional bomb and avoid a potentially explosive situation with a few carefully chosen and quietly spoken words of wisdom. I have also observed him in the art of confrontation – and with Dan, it really is an art. In fact, one person told me that he was halfway home before he realized that Dan had just confronted and corrected him.
Solomon offers great wisdom concerning the use of words, "Whoever controls his mouth protects his own life. Whoever has a big mouth comes to ruin" (Proverbs 13:3 GWT). If we do not learn to use and control our tongue, it will use and control us. While it is true that we need to choose our words carefully, it is just as true that the tongue is a spiritual thermometer that reflects the condition of the heart.
I am not a good patient and tend to think that most medical rules apply to everyone else in my life – but not to me. After all, I am a woman and I am a Southerland. According to my husband, it doesn't get much tougher than that. Several years ago, I was slammed with a high fever and blinding headache that sent me to bed for days, something highly unusual for me. I called my doctor. When he heard my symptoms, he told me to come in immediately and even though his waiting room was full, he would make room for me in his already crowded schedule. His urgency was not encouraging.
The minute I walked in his office, the receptionist waved me back to the patient area where a nurse promptly escorted me to an examination room, hurriedly recorded my symptoms, took my temperature, glanced briefly at my throat and quickly left the room. Minutes later, the doctor and a nurse walked in and stood on the opposite side of the room, almost smiling at me. At this point, I realized that whatever I had was evidently highly contagious and probably fatal. I felt so awful that the latter was definitely appealing.
"Mary, I am almost certain you have viral meningitis," the doctor said. Seeing the blank look on my face, he explained, "Your abnormally high fever of 104 and severe headache are classic symptoms of meningitis, but we need to run some tests to verify my suspicions. Oh, and by the way, how long have you had the solid white coating on your tongue?" I was stunned! What coating? Why is the color of my tongue even important in determining my illness? The doctor continued, "The health of the tongue is a very strong indicator of the health of the entire body."
The same is true when it comes to the words we speak. "The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things" (Matthew 12:34-35, NCV). If my words are boastful, my heart is insecure. If my words are filthy, my heart is impure and if my words are critical, my heart is filled with pride and anger. In other words, the problem is not really my mouth, it's my heart. The words I speak reflect the true condition of my heart.
Careless words can cause such grief. Unless strained through discipline and holiness, words can convey false perspectives and untruths. However, the right word, spoken at the right time and in the right way can bring order in the midst of confusion and light on a very dark path. I believe God gives us spiritual "radar" so we can assess a situation and speak the right word for that circumstance. We just need to check the "radar screen" before we speak.
Let's Pray
Father, I can be so careless with the words I speak. Forgive me. Please help me learn how to control my tongue. Create in me a clean heart, God, so that I can speak words filled with grace and love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Colossians 4:6. "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone."
How would you describe words that are "gracious?"
How can our words be "effective" in the lives of others?
What do you think Paul means when he says that we can have the "right answer for everyone?"
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The subject of taming the tongue is a hard one. Since communication is a gift from God, He has a plan for the right way to use it. My problem is that I tend to think my plan is better. I know. I can be arrogant ... and stubborn. Someone recently sent me this prayer: "Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth." Amen!
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March 23, 2011
Seek Me with Your Whole Heart
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
God promised, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart" (Jeremiah 29:13 NIV). This is more than a casual glance before heading off to work or to carpool in the morning. It's more than a hit and run encounter with God. He desires to speak to us through the pages of our Bibles and it requires meditating and seeking God with our whole hearts.
Jesus told His followers, "If you abide in my Word then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32 NIV). Abide means to continue in, to tarry, to dwell, to remain. It is not reading the Scripture for information, but for transformation. There are many scholars who have read the Bible for information but have never entered into a relationship with Jesus Christ. This reminds me of the difference between the woman who memorizes a menu at a restaurant and a woman who enjoys the food. Only one gets fed.
Let me ask you, who can describe a sunset more accurately – a blind person who has read all about sunsets (what causes the colors, the time of day they occur, the effect of clouds on the hues) or the person who had seen and experienced the vibrant oranges, blues, pinks and purples painted across the sky as the sun creeps below the horizon and the rays play peek-a-boo behind the scattered clouds? I dare say the one who has experienced the sunset for herself. When we study God's Word and couple that with listening to His voice, we will come to know Him on a much more intimate level than a Bible scholar who has studied the words on the page but has never taken the time to converse with the Author Himself.
Jesus told us that when we abide in God's Word, we will become a disciple, a learner, and an imitator of the Teacher himself (John 8:31). One thing I've noticed through the years, a Bible that is falling apart usually belongs to a person who isn't!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank You for the incredible love letter You have written to each and every one of us ... the Bible. I commit to not only read your Word, but meditate on Your Word. Lord, please speak to me through the pages of my Bible and help me be a woman who hears Your voice.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think it means to seek God with your whole heart? I'd love to hear your answers! Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
Do you feel that you are seeking God with your whole heart? If so, write down how.
If not, write down what needs to change.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. God speaks to us through His Word, the Holy Spirit, prayer, nature, circumstances, and other people. If you would like to make hearing from God a daily occurrence rather than a rare occasion, then this book is for you! Join Sharon as you learn now to become a woman who truly listens to God.
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March 24, 2011
Set-Apart Living
Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil"(Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As Christian believers, we're called to live set-apart lives. To be holy as God is holy. To be in the world, but not of the world. God is the source of all holiness, and in order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him so we can be fueled by His Holy Spirit.
I don't know what your days look like, but mine are pretty full. They start early and end late. Once the sun rises, it seems that coffee isn't the onlything brewing in my house. An invisible competition brews daily that vies for my time and attention. The competitors are often "good things" that end up to be "time-robbing things" that keep me from God's best and God's presence.
Today I'd like to put our computer lives under a spiritual microscope. I'm an e-girl. I love my MacBook Pro computer, my iPhone, email, instant messaging, and the World Wide Web. Though I'm admittedly fully immersed in the e-life, I'm also cognizant of the fact that the e-world has become a dangerous addiction and spiritual deterrent to many. I struggle with this personally. These electronic forums host a new and efficient opportunity for us to connect with other people 24/7. While much of the social networking, online surfing, and emailing is innocent, encouraging, and fun, they clearly present us with opportunities to sin and be distracted from set-apart living.
Over the past several years, Facebook, MySpace, blogs, instant messaging, and chat rooms have replaced many face-to-face conversations and, for some, devotion time. They have become a new source of temptation for us, an opportunity to live a fantasy or a momentary escape from the daily grind.
A friend of mine recently said, "My computer whispers to me." Yikes! Mine does, too! Though it's embarrassing to admit, I sometimes don't manage my time efficiently because I've given in to the lure of e-life by responding to the audio alert that indicates "I've got mail" or the notification that someone has left me a message on a social networking page of mine. As a result, I've robbed myself of productive time. Time I have wasted and spent unwisely.
We are warned against this in Scripture. "Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV).
Now, hear me clearly on this. I'm not saying that electronic forums or computers are bad or evil in and of themselves. (For goodness sakes, you're reading this devotion because of the amazing electronic world!) I'm simply suggesting that it would be wise for each of us to pray about the amount of time and energy we devote to these things.
How can we be set apart in our e-life? How can we establish healthy e-boundaries that will protect our purity and our time with God? Perhaps we could start by taking an honest look at the amount of time we commit to our social e-lives versus the amount of time we commit to spending in God's Word and in His presence each day. (Did that sting? Rest assured it stings me, too.)
The good news is that we can turn to God for direction and wisdom in all of this. "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him"(James 1:5, NIV). Our gracious Lord longs for each of us to choose His best and live each day in His strength.
"God, make a fresh start in me.
Shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life.
Don't throw me out with the trash,
or fail to breathe holiness in me.
Bring me back from gray exile,
put a fresh wind in my sails!"
Psalm 51:10-12, MSG
Let's Pray
Today I thought it would be fitting to pray directly from Scripture."And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light" (Colossians 1:10-12, NIV).
Father, we ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's get practical today:
· Spend some time in thought and prayer about this subject.
· Ask God to reveal to you any e-habits that are sinful, indulgent, or inappropriate.
· Check your on-line notification settings and consider eliminating unnecessary email alerts.
· Remember that God longs for your time and attention. Be certain that you don't choose mundane activities instead of spending time with Him.
· Read Ephesians 5:1-20.
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Hey, girlfriend! Last year it occurred to me that one of the biggest time-sucking e-temptations for me came from the homepage I had chosen on my internet browser. I used to have my favorite cable news network set as my home page. Every time I logged on to the internet, the headlines begged me to click their links. So I went into the settings of my internet browser and chose a blank page for my homepage. Though it's not overly exciting to have a blank homepage, it has helped me to be wiser with my time. Hope this spurs you on to similar responses!
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March 25, 2011
Set-Apart Living
Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear"(Ephesians 4:29, ESV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday, we began to talk about living a set-apart life. We looked at our e-lives, the time we spend on computers, and were challenged to establish healthy boundaries to protect and strengthen our faiths. It was noted that God is the source of all holiness. In order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him and then be fueled by His Holy Spirit. Today, we are going to consider how we can be set-apart (holy) with our words.
My ten year old son, Hunter, recently came to me with a humble confession. He said that, "because he hasn't been spending much time with God lately, he has been grumpier and grumpier." He quietly admitted that he has been mean to his siblings and has said some unkind things. With amazing insight, he connected the amount of time that he spent with God and in God's Word with his behaviors ... recognizing that there was a direct correlation in his life.
Boy, could I relate to that! Tears welled up in my eyes as we spoke about this. I told Hunter that I experience the exact same thing in my life. That when I don't carve out time in my day to spend with the Lord, I often say things I shouldn't. For that matter, even when I doread my Bible and pray, I still say and do sinful things.
There was a time in my life when I really struggled with profanity. My tongue was a loose cannon. My church friends would never have known, but when I was angry, profanity was often present ... even if only under my breath. It was a deeply rooted sin and a deeply ingrained pattern of behavior. Thankfully, God has delivered me from that ugly habit, but it took almost ten years of prayer. In those ten years, I failed repeatedly and struggled to believe that God could change my ways. It was a long-term process for me to be purified in my language, and I can assure you that it is only by the grace and strength of God that I can stub my toe now without needing to wash my mouth out with soap.
The Bible has so much to say on this topic. Here are just a few examples:
"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."(Proverbs 12:18, NIV)
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."(James 1:19-20, NIV)
"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness." (Proverbs 31:26, NLT)
"He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin."(Proverbs 13:3, NIV)
This is hard stuff. Living set-apart with our words is simply beyond us, but be encouraged, because all things are possible with God. We need to constantly fall before the Lord and ask Him to filter our words through the Holy Spirit. It's important that we keep short accounts with God. When we do, He equips us to disarm the loose cannon of our tongues.
At the end my conversation with Hunter, I told my son that one of the most amazing things about our Heavenly Father is the mercy that He greets us with when we come before Him to confess our behavior. I said to him, and I say to you, God loves us so perfectly, that every time we turn to Him with a repentant heart, He offers us His grace. Go in His grace and live a set-apart life in the power of His Spirit today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." (Psalm 19:14, NLT)
I ask this in Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Meditate on Hebrews 4:14,16:
"Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
· Now, grab your journal and throw yourself into this devotion. What are your greatest areas of temptation and weakness regarding your words? Confess those to God and ask Him to grant you the mercy and strength to help you live a set-apart life.
· Read Ephesians 4.
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If you are a Christian woman and you're struggling to tame your tongue, know that you aren't alone. Many believers struggle to honor God with their words. Keep praying and believing. The changes might not happen overnight, but as you persist, God willwork in and through you.
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March 28, 2011
No Safety Net
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The Lord answered him, "I will be with you. It will seem as if the Midianites you are fighting are only one man" (Judges 6:16, NCV).
Friend to Friend
I was born to be an elementary school teacher – period. So when a total stranger tapped me on the shoulder and said, "While you were singing, God told me that you are supposed to be my Music and Youth Assistant this summer," I felt sorry for him. He obviously needed to have his hearing checked.
I had just graduated from college with an elementary education teaching degree. A good friend was leading worship for a local church and asked me to sing a solo in the evening service. That's all – or so I thought. When the service ended, my good friend introduced me to his good friend, the hard-of-hearing stranger, and said, "You should at least pray about his offer." I did. And here I am – thirty years later – an unlikely servant who lives in constant amazement at God's plan for her life.
The Bible is filled with men and women who were unlikely servants. Weak, fearful and unwilling, they fought against the call of God, offering excuses and pleading for exemption – just like we do. Gideon was such a man.
Judges 6:11-16 (NCV) "One day the angel of God came and sat down under the oak in Ophrah that belonged to Joash the Abiezrite, whose son Gideon was threshing wheat in the winepress, out of sight of the Midianites. The angel of God appeared to him and said, 'God is with you, O mighty warrior!' Gideon replied, 'With me, my master? If God is with us, why has all this happened to us? Where are all the miracle-wonders our parents and grandparents told us about? The fact is, God has nothing to do with us—he has turned us over to Midian.' But God faced him directly: 'Go in this strength that is yours. Save Israel from Midian. Haven't I just sent you?' Gideon said to him, 'Me, my master? How and with what could I ever save Israel? Look at me. My clan's the weakest in Manasseh and I'm the runt of the litter.' God said to him, 'I'll be with you. Believe me. You'll defeat Midian as one man.'"
Gideon was a farmer, a family man just trying to earn a living and put food on the table. Like us, he felt inadequate and unworthy to carry out God's plan for his life. But God saw what Gideon could be, not just what he was.
The fact that the angel called Gideon a "mighty warrior" is just plain funny. Gideon didn't look like a mighty warrior and he certainly didn't act like one. Normally, wheat was threshed in an open area on a threshing floor by oxen pulling threshing sledges over the stalks. Not Gideon. He did his work in a winepress, hidden from the view of the Midianites. I don't blame him. The Midianites were basically terrorists - a large and powerful army of nomadic invaders. God wanted Gideon to defeat them and set the Israelites free.
I can imagine the look on Gideon's face and the sheer panic in his heart when God told him the plan. Gideon's response was so human and so like our own when God calls us to do something that seems absolutely impossible and makes no human sense at all.
Are you talking to me?
You must have me confused with somebody else.
If God is with me, why is my life such a mess?
You want me to do what? Save who? Now that's funny!
Take a good look at me.
I am weak.
I come from the wrong side of the Manasseh tracks.
People like me don't save nations and defeat armies.
I don't think Gideon was being humble. I think he was scared spit-less and firmly convinced that he was totally unqualified for the job God was asking him to do. I know that feeling. I tend to use my weaknesses as excuses for disobedience instead of accepting them for what they really are, opportunities for God to show up and show off in my life. God's power shines best through obvious weakness. And just like God was with the flawed Gideon, He is with us.
God's commitment to Gideon reaffirmed His presence with Gideon and the ease with which Gideon would have victory over the Midianites. The literal translation is "as if they were but one man." I love it! Here was Gideon, probably the last man anyone would choose to face the Midianites, and God is telling him the victory will be so easy it will seem like he is facing one man instead of an army of fierce invaders.
Nevertheless, Gideon's attitude was lousy. I can almost hear him whining as he blamed God for getting the Israelites into their current mess and voicing major doubts about God's willingness or even His desire to save them. Gideon sputtered every excuse imaginable, reminding God how weak he was, venting his anger and confusion while questioning the validity of God's choice. Still, God insisted Gideon was the man for the job.
Making excuses is always a waste of time because God is completely aware of who we are and what we can and cannot do. When God calls us, He not only equips us but empowers us to obey that calling. The Lord told Gideon to "go in the strength you have." God was asking Gideon to step out in faith, knowing that his meager strength would not be enough for the task ahead. The reality is that our strength is never enough for any task. That's what faith is all about. Faith is a willingness to step out in mid-air, no safety net in sight – trusting God to be there – at the point of our greatest need.
Tomorrow: Gideon meets Indiana Jones
Let's Pray
Father, I am just like Gideon. I am afraid to step out in faith. I want to trust You but my faith is weak. I don't understand how You can love someone like me and to think that You have a special plan for my life is hard to believe. Help my unbelief, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Hebrews 11:1(NIV) "Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see."
How would you define "confidence" and "assurance" as it relates to your faith in God?
Think about the following definition of faith: Forsaking All I Trust Him.
What does "all" mean in your life?
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March 29, 2011
Gideon Meets Indiana Jones
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 11:1 "Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it" (Hebrews 11:1, ICB).
Friend to Friend
I have a love-hate relationship with the movie, "The Last Crusader." The hero, Indiana Jones, is constantly hovering above some bottomless pit or dodging bullets, flying knives or hoards of sinister enemies and nasty creatures that are trying to kill him and prevent him from completing his mission. It is exhausting to watch! One part of the movie stands out above the rest as terrifying moments go.
As usual, Indiana is on the run and comes to a chasm he must cross in order to obtain the Holy Grail. No bridge. No net. No ropes or hat tricks - just air, and nothing but air.
At this point in the movie, I am looking for a tangible resolution to Indiana's predicament. Maybe a hidden elevator built into the side of the abyss or an alternate route to the treasure. You know, something you could touch and see and ... well, explain.
Instead, the treasure map dictates a ridiculous solution that makes no sense at all but demands a huge step of faith. If Indiana will just step over the edge of that bottomless pit ... a bridge, a rock wall will appear. Right! How about that bridge appears and then Indiana traipses across it?
Nope. That is not the plan.
Even though I have seen the movie several times, my stomach still lurches as Indiana closes his eyes, takes a deep breath and cautiously steps out into air and the seemingly bottomless abyss. If the treasure map is wrong and the wall does not appear, Indiana Jones will surely plummet to his death. Fortunately, the clue is correct, the wall does appear and Indiana Jones races across to safety, resuming his quest.
Gideon and Indiana Jones have a lot in common when it comes to faith. "Am I not sending you?" God asked Gideon, as if that fact explained it all. Actually, it does explain it all. In order to experience the power of God, we have to be willing to step out in faith, even when it seems there is no way and no solution to the problem at hand and our strength is gone. God will strengthen us as we go. He is the Way Maker and the only thing that really matters is the fact that God sends us.
The Coast Guard has a motto: "You must go out but you don't have to come back." A powerful life is fueled by the kind of faith that steps out in obedience and lets God worry about whether or not we come back. At the center of every challenge is an opportunity for trust in God to work. Every problem contains a concentrated opportunity and offers the option of stepping out in faith.
The highest truths God has to offer are rarely wrapped in a beautifully wrapped or elegantly presented package and handed to us on a silver platter. I am convinced that our Father takes heaven-sent treasures, buries them at the heart of a huge problem, then watches and applauds when we have what it takes to break that problem apart, finding the wealth hidden there in the darkness. The words of Isaiah say it well. "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness - secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name" (Isaiah 45:3 NLT). Some things cannot be learned in the light. The greatest treasures are often buried in the deepest pits and require a step of faith to discover.
We all have faith. We go to a doctor we don't really know and are handed a prescription we cannot read. We then take that prescription to a pharmacist, a total stranger, who presents us with a mysterious bottle filled with pills that we swallow – all in faith. Our problem is not so much a lack of faith but where we place that faith.
Billy Graham said, "Most of us do not understand nuclear fission, but we accept it. I don't understand television, but I accept it. I don't understand radio, but every week my voice goes out around the world, and I accept it. Why is it so easy to accept all these man-made miracles and so difficult to accept the miracles of the Bible?"
Hebrews 11:1(ICB) "Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it."
Faith is built upon trust. God wants us to trust Him - even when we do not understand what is happening or can explain the circumstances. Even when nothing makes sense and everything seems wrong. It is easy to trust Him when the seas are calm and the skies are clear but the strength of our faith is measured in the midst of a raging storm. A crisis always reveals what is really inside. What life does to us depends on what life finds in us. Faith is a deliberate choice to believe God, to walk through our fear, knowing we can trust Him every step of the way.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of living a life that can be explained and understood in human terms. My heart longs to walk by faith, counting on Your strength instead of my own, knowing that You orchestrate every step to illustrate Your power made perfect in my weakness. Today, I choose to trust You instead of demanding an explanation for what is happening in my life. Right now, I choose to walk through my fear and step out in faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God. Matthew 17:20 also tells us that even a tiny amount of faith pleases Him. "I Jesus) tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, it grows into a huge tree. Jesus said a little faith can have incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God and our faith depends on Him.
What is the greatest storm in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that trial with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
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We are on this journey of faith with you and pray for God's strength and power where you need it most. He knows. You can trust Him. Just take one step of faith and He will meet you there.
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When you are afraid, put your trust in God. Mary's E-Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear will help you learn how to face and deal with your fear.
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March 30, 2011
Do you want to get well?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do you want to get well? Get up! Pick up your mat and walk" (John 5:6,8, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Do you want to get well? That seems like a strange question, doesn't it. But sometimes we can get so used to being soul sick, we don't even realize that we are not truly well. Sometimes the chains we wear shackled to our hearts become so comfortable, we get used to the pain and forget what it is like to be well. Perhaps some of us have never known. But the big question is – do you want to get well? Do you want to be free? Of course I do, I hear you say. But do you really?
There was a certain man that Jesus encountered who faced the same crossroads in his life. In Jerusalem, men and women with various infirmities congregated at the Sheep Gate Pool. Surrounding the pool were five porticoes or shelters, where sick people clustered, waiting for the "moving of the waters." They believed an angel of the Lord came down from heaven at certain seasons and stirred the pool. When the people saw the waters ripple, they all made a mad dash to jump in. They believed that the first one to make it to the pool would be healed.
One man, an invalid, had been waiting by the pool for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw the man lying there and learned that he had been doing so for thirty-eight years, he asked him, "Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6).
That seems like an unusual question – or does it? Sometimes we get used to being "sick." We become attached to our wounds. They become a part of who we are and we can't imagine life without them. For this man, healing meant a drastic life change. He would have to get a job, become a responsible adult, and stop lounging by the pool all day. Oh, we say we want to be free, but do we?
Pain can become an idol. Not that we worship it in a good sense. But we worship it as an awesome force and allow it to control our lives. When we allow our past to control our lives and dictate our future, we are giving it the power of a god and making it an idol. Author Richard Exley wrote: "We can hug our hurts and make a shrine out of our sorrows or we can offer them to God as a sacrifice of praise. The choice is ours."
Did the invalid want to get well? He had not asked for Jesus' help. It seems he clung to his illness and blamed it on those around him – a victim of circumstance. "I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred," he said. We don't know if he had lost the will to be healed, was afraid to lose the income of a beggar, or simply had accepted lameness as his lot in life. In any case, he came face to face with the one who could set him free.
The man never did answer Jesus' question. Jesus simply said, "Get up! Pick up your mat and walk" (John 5:1-8). And he did.
Thirty-eight years is a long time to be immobile, and yet, in my own life there were some things that had held me back for the same amount of time. I was paralyzed by feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy because of messages from my past. Then Jesus asked me, "Do you want to get well?"
Satan wants to use our past to paralyze us. God wants to use our past to propel us! The choice is ours. Girlfriend, let's pick up our mat and walk...better yet, let's run, leap, and dance for joy!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, it's a simple question, but sometimes one that is difficult to answer. Yes, I want to get well, but I'm scared at the same time. So I'm taking a deep breath and asking You to make me completely whole: spiritually, mentally, and physically. If there is something in my life I need to change to achieve health, I pray that You will reveal it to me and give me the courage to change.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you relate to the man by the pool? Is there any area of your life where you feel "paralyzed?"
How do you think the man's life was different after his encounter with Jesus?
How has your life been different since your encounter with the Living God?
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. If you would like to learn how to move from the pain of your past into a purposeful future, then this book is for you! We all have scars; it is what we choose to do with them that can change the world.
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March 31, 2011
Put Your Faith Where Your Action Is!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead" (James 2:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I remember a time, back in 1993, when I was swept up in the whimsical world of wedding planning. Every detail mattered. I was excited to be marrying Brad Smith and I wanted our wedding day to be a magical springboard to a life filled with amazing adventures and deep years of God-centered love. From the cake choices - to the dress choices - to the music choices - to the guest list choices - to the bridal registry choices: I was all about the business of wedding prep!
The bride of Christ is purposed to be all about the Father's business - to prep for eternity by making choices to bring Him glory throughout our days; to intentionally worship the Lord through our service. As daughters of God, we are called to connect our believing to our behaving; our convictions to our conversations; our lip-service to our life-service.
The Biblical mandate for each believer is this: put your faith where your action is. "Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead" (James 2:17).
Hear me out here. Service is not the key to gaining salvation. Salvation comes by faith in Christ alone (Romans 10:9-10). Service is, however, essential for the believer as a response to her salvation. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10).
No matter who you are or what your platform is in life, the truth remains that whatever you do and say is being watched. Everyone emanates something. A radiant Christian woman - a radiant bride of Christ - emanates the saltiness and light of Jesus through her life; displayed through the things she does and doesn't do. Through things she says or doesn't say.
Jesus said, "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.
You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:13-16, NIV).
Today, I pray that you are spurred on to be a woman of action for Christ - no matter what the circumstances of your life or the complexities of your relationships may be. From your word choices - to your tone choices - to your television choices - to your music choices - to your service choices - to your activity choices ... be all about your Father's business. Go in His strength, and put your faith where your action is.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I pray that You will help my actions to line up with Your perfect will. Help me to be Your hands and feet to those around me. Shine through my actions so others might be drawn to Your healing hope.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your life radiate? What are your actions saying about your faith? Are you salty for Christ in what you do and say? Spend a few moments reflecting on this and then spend some time in prayer.
How can you serve someone today? Perhaps God is leading you to bless someone in your household ... or someone in your church ... or someone in your neighborhood.
Could you reach out to a single mom, a family member, a widow, or a hurting friend? Ask God to direct you to opportunities to put your faith into action in the lives of others.
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Trust me, friend, in no way am I trying to place the burden of "you-must-do-more-things-in-order-to-please-God" on you. I just want to encourage you to make the most of every choice and every action. If you are drained and weary and can't imagine being able to give anyone anything right now, get alone with God. His presence and His Spirit will strengthen you for each moment.
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April 1, 2011
I Want to Be Beautiful
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" (Psalm 139:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was sitting in a crowded restaurant with my family when she walked by in her full-length white satin ball gown delicately trimmed in lace and studded with tiny "jewels." Crinoline swished as she moved across the room, a rhinestone tiara sparkled on her head, and pearl studded slippers accentuated her feminine feet. Golden ringlets framed her rosy cheeks and puckered lips glistened with a hint of gloss. She knew she was beautiful and glanced around at the admiring smiles of onlookers as she walked through the crowd. She was three-years-old.
I'm not sure when the dream to be beautiful enters a little girl's mind, but I do know when the dream ends – when the preacher says, "may she rest in peace." In my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful, I told about my shenanigans as a little girl who wanted to be a grown up beauty.
I remember as a little girl sneaking into my mother's closet and slipping my child-size feet into her size seven high heels. I'd also stand on my tiptoes on a chair, pull a hat off the top shelf, and plop it on my head like an oversized lamp shade. Her satin evening jacket with sleeves that hug eight inches below my finger tips gave a nice elegant touch to my outfit. A lady going to a party would never be caught without "putting on her face," so I crept into the bathroom, opened the forbidden drawer, and created a clownish work of art on the palette of my face. Red rouge circles on my cheeks, heaps of blue eye shadow on my munchkin lids, and smeared orange lipstick far exceeding the proper border were finished off with a dusting of facial powder with an oversized brush.
From the time a little girl stretches on her tiptoes to get a peek in the mirror, she desires to be beautiful – perhaps like her mommy. As the girl moves into the teen years, she experiments with makeup, delves into fashion, and attempts various hairstyles. Then it's on to makeover ideas in magazines and on talk shows. If one idea doesn't work – well there's always next month.
I believe the dream to be beautiful is not simply an American obsession, but at the very core of womanhood all around the world. Various cultures have their ideas of what constitutes true beauty. National Geographic reported that on the border of Burma and Thailand, members of the Kayan tribe begin their beauty rituals at age 5 by wearing brass rings around their necks. As they grow older, more rings are added, and eventually their necks elongate to look like a giraffe's. For these women, the shiny brass rings are the ultimate sign of female elegance and status. In Maori, women consider it beautiful to tattoo their lips dark blue. Young girls in the Karo tribe in southern Ethiopia allow their elders to cut scars onto their stomachs which they believe will make them more beautiful and able to attract a husband.
In a West African country, Mauritania, they believe that bigger is better and have practiced the ritual of force feeding young girls to plump them up. Interestingly, Dove posted on their Facebook page that only 2% of the women around the world describe themselves as beautiful. (see http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=21435141328&topic=9559#!) And while various cultures have their own ideas of what true beauty looks like, women go through great lengths to achieve a look that does not come naturally.
John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, describes three longings that lie at the heart of every man: a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue, an adventure to live. He also ventures to say that women have three longings of the heart as well: to be fought for, to share in an adventure, and to have her beauty unveiled. "Not to conjure," Eldredge explains, "but to unveil. Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what I speak of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or 'twirling skirts,' those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She'll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight."
Friend, you are beautiful. You have captured your Heavenly Father's delight. You are an incredible masterpiece fashioned by the Eternal Artist. Ponder these words of David:
For you created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
When I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
Your eyes saw my unformed body.(Psalm 139:13-16)
Let's Pray
Dear Father, forgive me for complaining about Your masterpiece when I look into the mirror. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank You for crafting my eyes that see, my ears that hear, my mouth that speaks, and all the amazing organs that work in tandem that I can't even see. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, make a list of all that you are thankful for about your body. It should be a long list!
Don't forget all your inner workings.
No matter how beautiful a person is on the outside, if she is not beautiful on the inside, it will come through. Who is someone you know that is beautiful on the inside? Consider letting her know how beautiful you think she is!
I'd love to hear what you think makes someone truly beautiful. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would ... and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
And to learn more about inner beauty, see Becoming Spiritually Beautiful...Seeing Yourself from God's Perspective.
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April 4, 2011
The Circle of Encouragement
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
You have heard the old saying, "What goes around, comes around." Truer words were never spoken when talking about encouragement. We all need encouragement – especially during the tough times. Those "tough" times can come in all shapes, sizes and forms and can vary from person to person. For example, we have one child who has been known to run an extremely high fever, walk around on a broken foot, and have a headache that would put me in bed ... all without a word of complaint. The doctors have always been amazed at this child's high level of pain tolerance. We have another child who has been known to dissolve into hysterics at the sight of a splinter embedded in a finger and turn ghastly pale and almost faint at the mere smell of the doctor's office. The doctor's have been amazed at this child's low level of pain tolerance. The difference between these two children does not reflect a right or wrong reaction. As one of my friends often says, "It is what it is." When each child was in pain, they both needed understanding, compassion and encouragement.
When I went through my first major battle with clinical depression, I was amazed at the people God sent to encourage me. Phone calls came from friends we hadn't seen or heard from in years. "I don't know what is going on in your life," they would say, "but I have had you on my heart and just felt compelled to call." Notes and letters arrived in the mail – all filled with encouraging words – many from people who had no idea about my struggles. Strangers would take one look at me and proceed to rescue me from whatever circumstance in which I was trapped and having a panic attack.
One of the most precious groups of encouragers was the elders of the church where my husband was the pastor. With my permission, Dan shared with them what I was going through and asked them to pray. They did pray. But these men didn't think prayer was enough. These amazing angels wanted to do more by putting feet and hands to those prayers and did not stop until they came up with a rescue plan for me.
Our church had five services each weekend and because I was so emotionally frail, I never knew which service I would be able to attend until I was on the way. Dan would relay the message that I was coming and the elders went into action. One would meet me at the car and escort me inside. Another would keep an eye on me during the service in case I needed help. Our church auditorium had three main aisles. An elder would walk those aisles before and after the service, watching and waiting. Many times, the elder would press a note of encouragement into my hand as he passed the offering plate. If he sensed I was in trouble or caught in a draining conversation, he would swoop in, take me by the arm and say, "Excuse us, please. Mary is needed elsewhere." I was then ushered to my car, hugged and told, "We are praying for you. We love you. Go home." I know. It was amazing! It was also a main factor in my recovery.
The reason these special men offered me encouragement was because Dan and I made the decision to share my pain – openly and honestly. Doing so invited them into my life. Now that I am on the other side of that pit, I remember the love and encouragement they gave me – and I am motivated to encourage others in God's circle of encouragement. However, there is another very important truth here I don't want us to miss.
There are those who suffer alone and in silence, unable to scrape up the courage to share their pain and have no advocate to sound the alarm on their behalf. I believe God will not only give us the discernment to see their pain, but will show us how to encourage and build them up. He will show us how to help the weak and be patient with the broken lambs who cross our path ... if we ask Him to do so. Are you willing to share your pain with others and allow God to use them in your life as a source of encouragement? Don't miss the opportunity to be part of the circle of encouragement.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed at how You love me through others. Thank You for the gift of encouragement. Help me to receive that gift and then to give it away to someone else in need. I want to be Your hands and feet to those who are hurting around me. Give me eyes to see them and love them, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
If you need encouragement, think of two people with whom you can share that need and make a plan to do so.
Look for people in your life to encourage.
In your journal, record a recent time when you received and/or gave encouragement. What were the results?
Write a note of encouragement to someone in need, letting them know you are praying for them. Offer to take care of a specific need such as preparing a meal, dropping by the grocery store to pick up a few items or picking up their cleaning. Many times, people in pain can't or won't ask for help. If you see a need, meet it.
Write a note of thanks to someone who has encouraged you.
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Encouragement is like a boomerang. When thrown correctly, it will come back to you. Godly encouragement does not wait for an invitation to work. It looks for the opportunity to work.
New E- Bible Study now available:What Am I Doing in This Pit? At some point in life, we will find ourselves in some kind of pit. Instead of looking for the nearest exit or frantically trying to claw our way out of the pit, we need to rest in God, discover the purpose of the pit and trust Him to deliver us.
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April 5, 2011
Wooed, Won, and Wed
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely" (Song of Solomon 2:14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In the Song of Solomon, we meet a King who is riding though his kingdom and spies a young maiden working in the fields. Suddenly he is captivated by her beauty and smitten by her form. Her hands are stained with grape juice of the vineyard, her skin is tanned from the mid-day sun, and her clothes are soiled from the dirt of the field. But the King sees beyond all that. While the King is enthralled with her beauty, she begs him not to stare at her. She does not feel worthy of such attention.
No matter what she thought of herself, the King was mesmerized and wooed her to become his bride. For centuries, commentators have noted a parallel between the Lover and the Beloved and Jesus and His bride. The Shulammite maiden in the Song of Solomon represents you, and in the words we discover just how much Jesus loves us. You may blush a bit, but listen to a few of the passionate pursuer's words about the woman of his dreams. Soak in his description of her beauty.
Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. (1:10)
How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. (1:15).
Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the maidens. (2:2)
Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Mount Gilead. (4:1)
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn, coming up from the washing. Each has its twin; not one of them is alone. (4:2).
Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon; your mouth is lovely. Your temples behind your veil are like the halves of a pomegranate. (4:3)
Your neck is like the tower of David built with elegance (4:4)
Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies. (4:5)
Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue (4:11)
How beautiful your sandaled feet, (7:1)
Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands. (7:1)
Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies. (7:2) [This is my favorite verse. A mound of wheat, mind you, not a flat plain!]
All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you. (4:7)
This woman's betrothed adored her rosy cheeks, her long neck, her black flowing hair, and her ruby lips. He adored the fact that she had all of her teeth, shapely legs and small breasts. He even thought her poochy tummy was adorable.
But what did she think of herself? Not very much. "Do not stare at me because I am dark," she said, "because I am darkened by the sun. My mother's sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I have neglected" (1:6).
She felt inferior to others because she was darkened by the sun. To be tan in those days was not desirable. Women went to great lengths to shade their skin from the scorching sun. This woman, however, was very dark. Because she was forced to take care of her brothers' vineyards, she had neglected to take care or herself. But amazingly, in the end, she began to see herself as her bridegroom saw her. Oh, that we would do the same.
Is the Song of Solomon our song? I think so. Jesus, the lover of our soul, looks at us and thinks we are absolutely beautiful. However, we tend to look in the mirror and see our flaws. I read a quote once that said when a man looks in the mirror; he focuses on his best features. When a woman looks in the mirror, she focuses on her worst. I don't know how men see themselves, but I do know that most women focus on their negative features instead of their positive ones. We need to look into the only mirror that matters, the Word of God, and He thinks we are beautiful. I keep a card in my Bible with the following prayer: "Lord, help me see myself as You see me, no matter how beautiful it is."
The Shulammite maiden in the Bible and Cinderella in our childhood story book, both had difficulty seeing their beauty. Cinderella mistakenly believed her beauty was dependent on her dress and perfectly arranged hair. The Shulammite maiden mistakenly believed her beatify was dependent on fair skin and a tidy appearance. But in both scenarios, the Prince knew differently. Jesus sees our true beauty and is captivated.
Jesus desires to hear our voice and see our face. Both are His delight. "My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely" (Song of Solomon 2:14).
Let's Pray
Dear God, help me to see myself as you see me. Thank You that Jesus, the lover of my soul, has wooed me and won me. How I long for the day when we are wed. I am His and He is mine.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Today's Truth
Over the next week or so, go back and read the Song of Solomon. Put yourself in the Shulammite woman's place and catch a glimpse of how the Groom longs to see your face.
Write these words on an index card and put tuck it in your Bible.
"Lord, help me see myself as You see me, no matter how beautiful it is."
I'd love to know how the words of the Song of Solomon stir your heart. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would ... and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 6, 2011
Smiley
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I don't know her real name, but Smiley is one of about 200 men and women who live in a leper colony near one of our church sponsored orphanages in a rural village of India. Dan and I had been asked to lead a worship service for the leper colony and I have to admit that I was both curious and terrified by the prospect of ministering to lepers. I had never even seen anyone with leprosy and had no idea what to expect. I prayed like crazy that God would somehow work through me to bless His wounded and broken children.
As the worship service began, Smiley sat in front of me in the dirt, a look of anticipation on her face, waiting for a message from God. I think the message was mine to hear. We had come to bring her joy and hope – but she already had both. Leprosy has ravaged her body, leaving her with no toes, no fingers and a death sentence. Cows, chickens and goats roam the dirty, rugged road in front of her thatched roof shack. Smiley does not enjoy the luxury of running water and electricity and food is scarce. Personally, I could see very little that Smiley had to smile about but it was her radiant smile that caught my attention and tugged at my heart.
After the service, I wrapped this precious woman in as big a hug as I could possibly give because she was so rarely touched by others. With the help of an interpreter, we celebrated the truth that one day she will once again have all of her toes and fingers. One day, she would be well and whole. Shelaughed like a little girl at the promise of being with Jesus and living with Him in heaven.
Smileyhas fixed her eyes on the unseen and found joy and hope in the process. She does not depend upon the temporary things of this world for contentment. Hope gives her the strength to get up each morning and begin her daily search for food. The promise of Heaven comforts her each night when she lies down on a dirty cardboard mat to sleep. Smiley has nothing – yet she has everything - because she has learned, and lives out the truth that inner joy does not depend upon outward circumstances. We can learn a lot from Smiley.
God promises that if you know Him you will know true joy. Joy is not merely happiness but rather an unshakable confidence that God is in control. Therefore, He is our one and only source of joy and stands ready, waiting to saturate every circumstance with His presence. As His children, joy is ours to claim. If so, then where is it and why do we not experience a sense of confident celebration as we go through each day?
Maybe it is because of the "joy stealers" who lurk in the shadows, waiting to crush joy wherever they find it.
Choosing joy requires us to identify and eliminate the "joy stealers" in life. You may be allowing a person to take your joy. Maybe some painful experience from a shadowed yesterday is an obstacle of joy in your life today. Perhaps a fearful circumstance or a broken dream is the culprit.
I know life can be painful. I know life is often hard and unfair. I also know that God is in control. Therefore, if God really is God (and He definitely is) then we can and should be people of joy. I have read the final chapter of the Book and we win! Nothing and no one can take your joy without your permission. So, don't give it! Choose joy!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for my shallow attitude about joy. I confess that my version of joy is often nothing more than an emotion or feeling based on current circumstances. Help me fix my eyes on You, the Author and Finisher of my faith. I want to live my life against the backdrop of eternity, exchanging temporary happiness for eternal joy. I pray that I will learn to choose joy in whatever lies ahead.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read the promise of Psalm 19:8. "The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes." What is your main source of joy?
Read Habakkuk 3:17-19. List three truths about joy in this passage. How can you apply these truths to your life?
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Joy has taken on a whole new meaning for me since I met Smiley. Why do I continually let the irrelevant things in life rob me of joy? I am making a new commitment to constantly "fix" my eyes on what really is important – my personal relationship with God – and refuse to allow the tyranny of the urgent and the meaningless to dictate the attitude of my heart and the direction of my life. Today, let's choose God and in doing so, choose joy.
Need help?Check out my CD, Laugh More – Live Better for ways to saturate your life with joy. (Also available as MP3 download)
New E- Bible Study now available:What Am I Doing in This Pit? At some point in life, we will find ourselves in some kind of pit. Instead of looking for the nearest exit or frantically trying to claw our way out of the pit, we need to rest in God, discover the purpose of the pit and trust Him to deliver us.
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April 7
Trusting God With Tomorrow
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The LORD said to him, "Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the LORD? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say" (Exodus 4:11-12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On the far side of a desert, high upon the Mountain of God, a voice called out to Moses from within a curious, fiery bush. He had been tending the sheep of his father-in-law's flock – minding his own business – going about his normal day-in-day-out tasks on the day that God spoke to him from the flames. On the day that God called Moses to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a noble prince of Egypt with the world at his feet, he had become a lowly shepherd with dust on his sandals. His crown had been traded in for a staff. The palace days were far behind Moses now. He fled them because of what he had done. Glancing to his left and right to be sure that no one would know what he was about to do, Moses took a horrible situation into his own hands and killed a man. He had murdered an Egyptian and covered the death with sand.
Fear and shame bombarded his heart so he fled – away from his dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of humble hiding. The door to his yesterdays was closed. Moses had moved on to a new place. His past was his past and he had no intentions of returning to it. His life was different now. Normal, not noble.
Then God interrupted Moses' new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for Moses were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom – the freedom of His people, the Israelites, who were captives – slaves to Egypt. God called Moses to face the pains of his past so that the Israelites could face a future of freedom. His plans of emancipation required that Moses obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions and trust Him.
Moses quivered and doubted. He made excuses about why he couldn't do it. He felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met Moses at his doubts. He called him to courage and went on to use Moses as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power and freedom. Yes – Moses made mistakes along the way, but God was powerful in, through and in spite of each one. Through it all, God led as only God can. He led with power. He led with purpose. He led with love. And through Moses, God led His people to a new place of promise and freedom.
On the far side of Charlotte, North Carolina, high upon a mountain in a retreat center, a voice called out to me from within a curious and fiery story. I had been tending to my husband and children, to the laundry and the dishes – writing songs and leading worship at women's events – minding my own business – going about my normal day-in-day-out tasks on the day that God spoke to my heart from the testimony of another woman. On the day that God called me to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a sold-out, dream-filled God-girl, I had become a grace-embracing, yet disqualified-for-anything-big-because-of-what-I-had-done God-girl. My use-me-in-a-big-way-Lord prayers had been traded in for average, can't-have-a-dream-anymore faith-living. My God-dream days were far behind me. I had fled them because of what I had done in my junior year of college. Glancing to my left and right to be sure that no one would know what I was about to do, I took a horrible situation – an unplanned pregnancy – into my own hands and killed a baby. I robbed my baby of life when I had an abortion and covered the death of my precious child with sands of compartmentalizing and reason.
Fear and shame bombarded my heart, so I fled – away from God – away from my dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of heart-hiding. After a season of brokenness, God brought me to a place of beauty, forgiveness and healing. I was restored and redeemed by scandalous, merciful grace. But then the door to my yesterdays was closed. I moved on to a new place in Christ. My past was my past and I had no intentions of returning to it – or to the God-dreams that swelled my heart as a young, sold-out Jesus lover. My life was different now. Normal, not dream-worthy.
Then God interrupted my new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for me were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom – the freedom of His people, the women, who were captives – slaves to their life-wounds. God called me to face the pains of my past so that my Girlfriends in God might face a future of freedom when they hear my testimony. His plans of emancipation required that I obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions and trust Him.
I quivered and doubted. I made excuses about why I couldn't do it. I felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met me at my doubts. He called me to courage and is using my broken-into-beautiful story as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power and freedom. Yes – I make mistakes along the way, but God is powerful in, through, and in spite of each one. Through each surrendered day, God is leading as only He can. With power – with purpose – with love. And I pray right now that this story – my story – will bring you to a new place of promise and freedom through the grace of Jesus Christ.
What fresh and fiery mission is God calling you to trust Him with, friend? Let me encourage you to stop with the excuses. I'm living proof that God will free anyone from her shame and can use anyone for His purpose. Step up to the burning bush – into God's presence. Listen to His voice. Obey. Follow. Take courage. Trust Him with your past and with your tomorrows. Allow His grace and love to decide what your mission should look like.
But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.
Exodus 9:16, NIV
Let's Pray
Dear God, With a trembling heart, I approach Your throne of grace today in reverence and humility – fully aware that You are holy and I am not. Speak, Lord. Show me the plans you have for me. Bind me to Your Word and to Your strength so I will have the courage to obey. May my brokenness be restored for the beauty of Your glory. Please help me to trust You with my today and tomorrows.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Take a few moments to consider where you've come from and where you feel God is leading you.
Do you trust Him? Are you concerned about not being "able" or "qualified"?
Commit your today and tomorrows to Him. Journal about what that might look like.
More from the Girlfriends
Welcome to my personal pulse. This type of transparency is always risky. My pulse races each time I expose the broken places of my past and my present – but GOD is always faithful to use it in some beautiful way. Some of you may feel this devotion was written specifically for you. Don't ignore that. Explore it. Please come to my facebook page today and share with me about the direction you feel God is nudging you toward. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. We will pray over each of you!
Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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April 8, 2011
Choose to Give Praise
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"He who sacrifices thank offerings honors me, and he prepares the way so that I may show him the salvation of God" (Psalm 50:23, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My husband, Dan, grew up driving the family ski boat, pulling various family members and friends across some lake as they learned to water ski. Consequently, he is an excellent boat driver, especially for children or any novice on skis. Both our son, Jered, and our daughter, Danna, learned to ski behind a boat driven by their dad. I knew they preferred Dan to other drivers but did not realize just how important it was to them until someone else tried to take the wheel.
Several years ago, we invited some friends to join us for a few days at the lake. We had gotten to know Josh and Sarah at church and had become good friends. Our kids seemed to enjoy theirs so the idea of a combined vacation was perfect – right?
After several days of non-stop skiing, Dan was exhausted and asked the kids for a breather. "Guys, let me have one day off and I will be set for the rest of the week," he pleaded. Josh immediately volunteered to drive the boat, assuring Dan and the kids that he was an "expert." Doubt spread across the faces of Jered and Danna but since Josh was their only option, they grabbed their life jackets and skis and headed for the boat. Dan grabbed a snack, a cool drink, the novel he had been trying to read all week and headed for the nearest hammock, a gloriously unplanned day to call his own. Actually, it turned out to be a gloriously unplanned hour before we heard our boat returning to the dock. Jered and Danna scrambled out of the boat and headed straight for their dad. I could tell by the look on their faces that the boating excursion had definitely not been a success. "Seriously, Dad, Josh has no idea what he is doing!" Jered explained. "He nearly killed me!" Danna reported with her usual dose of drama. Jered summed up his thirty minute play-by-play account of the disastrous skiing incident by announcing, "Dad, from now on I will only ski when you are driving the boat!"
What Jered was really saying was that he had no confidence or peace when someone besides his father was at the wheel. How true! When God is "at the wheel," every circumstance we face is in His hand and under His control. Peace takes up residence and the power of praise is revealed.
Praise turns trials into faith-builders as we learn to measure our problems against His limitless power, transforming the stumbling blocks of today into stepping stones for tomorrow.
Praise frees us from having to understand our circumstances, knowing that God is in control. A heart that is filled with praise does not have to understand every detail of the circumstance. In fact, the details really don't matter. What does matter is that God is aware of every minute detail, monitors the circumstance and shapes it to fit His plan.
Praise transforms tragedy into triumph. Fanny Crosby was six-weeks-old when she lost her vision because of a doctor's error as he applied the wrong medicine to her eyes, a mistake that set the course of the infant's life. She could have easily become bitter but instead, chose to praise God. I am certain she didn't understand all of the reasons for her lot in life, but I am equally certain that she made the choice to build a monument of praise on that lot instead of resurrecting a tombstone of bitterness. Fanny Crosby wrote over 8000 hymns of praise including "All the Way My Savior Leads Me," "Blessed Assurance," and "To God Be the Glory." Praise made the difference in her life between becoming bitter or better.
I know that many of you have had a tough year. Loss, disappointment, pain, financial stress ... the list is endless. Go ahead and make that list, girlfriend. Add it all up. Then factor in the grace, mercy and love of God – and celebrate the fact that He is more than enough. Praise God!
Let's Pray
Father, I give You praise for Your hand at work in my life. At times, I have not understood what You were doing – and still don't. But it doesn't matter, Lord, because I know I can trust You. Help me remember that my inner heart attitude does not have to reflect my outer circumstances. No matter what comes my way, I can praise You, knowing it will all turn out for my good and Your glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Think back over the past few months to a time when your faith was tested. How did you do? What lesson(s) did you learn through that trial?
Write a prayer of praise to God. Tuck it in your Bible, tape it on your mirror – put it in an obvious place and refer to it often. When you are tempted to complain or doubt God, pray that prayer out loud.
Read Romans 8:28. How does this verse encourage a spirit of thanksgiving and trust?
More from the Girls
Chuck Swindoll says, "The sovereignty of God is the Christian's security blanket." I want my attitude to reflect that truth – in the good times and in the bad. How about you, girlfriend?
Need help?Check out my CD, Laugh More – Live Better for ways to saturate your life with joy. (Also available as MP3 download)
New E- Bible Study now available:What Am I Doing in This Pit? At some point in life, we will find ourselves in some kind of pit. Instead of looking for the nearest exit or frantically trying to claw our way out of the pit, we need to rest in God, discover the purpose of the pit and trust Him to deliver us.
Need something for your pain? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
Need a friend?Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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April 11, 2011
When You Praise Him
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts; whose name is the Lord, and exult before Him (Psalm 68:4).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of the woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today. She did and she had a wonderful day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmm", she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." She did and she had a great day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail." So she did and she had a fun day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "Yes!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!" Now that's what I call having a good attitude.
Attitude can transform anything and everything – thoughts, habits, and perspectives. We can literally change our lives by changing the way we think. In Isaiah 26:3 (NLT), we find the promise, "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you." A mind filled with thoughts fixed on God will produce a heart filled with praise – and girlfriend, praise is a powerful tool in our spiritual arsenal.
Praise brings healing to our spirit. When we honestly express our trust in God, then choose to give thanks, healing begins. Praise provides a highway upon which the Father conveys deliverance and blessing. Praise invites God to take up residence in the midst of our messy lives and becomes a free-flowing conduit of God's very presence and power at work in us. God funnels infinite blessings into a life that praises Him. Stress and anxiety fade as peace floods the heart that is filled with praise.
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts. (Psalm 68:4, ICB)
But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel. (Psalm 22: 3, NKJV)
Don't miss the life changing truth that we can enthrone God in every situation of our lives by praising Him. Praise converts our everyday surroundings into His dwelling place. It is from that throne of praise that God dispenses victory. Praise tunes us into His sovereignty and allows us to experience the reality and power of His presence.
Praise strengthens our prayer life. Prayer is not only a remarkable privilege that we often fail to recognize or understand, it is also part of our worship to God. There is the asking side of prayer when we seek forgiveness, lay needs before God and intercede on behalf of others. Then there is the appreciating side of prayer when we offer praise and thanksgiving to God for who He is and what He has done. Our relationship with God is strengthened through prayer and praise.
Now here is my favorite truth about praise. Are you ready? Praise devastates Satan and his forces. Yes! I love it! In fact, Psalm 20:5 (NIV) promises, "We will shout for joy when you are victorious and will lift up our banners in the name of our God." Satan is well aware of just how powerful praise is and I suspect he absolutely hates it ... which absolutely delights me! I can almost sense his fury when I choose to praise God instead of questioning Him. He hates it when I walk by faith, setting aside feelings and emotions while focusing on God's Word and His faithfulness in my life.
Through continual prayer, through the power of God's Word and through faithful praise, we declare our trust in God to deliver us. Praise lifts up the shield of faith in spiritual warfare. Praise makes a frontal attack on doubt and fear. Even in the midst of Satan's best efforts, we can find victory when we praise Him.
Let's Pray
When you can't seem to find the right words to pray – go to the Word of God and pray Scripture. Join me in a prayer of praise found in Psalm 150.
Praise the LORD. Praise God in his sanctuary; praise Him in His mighty heavens. Praise Him for His acts of power; praise Him for His surpassing greatness. Praise Him with the sounding of the trumpet, praise Him with the harp and lyre, praise Him with timbrel and dancing, praise Him with the strings and pipe, praise Him with the clash of cymbals, praise Him with resounding cymbals. Let everything that has breath praise the LORD. Praise the LORD.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you known as a woman who praises God?
As you begin each day, take time to position your mind and heart for praise.
Look for opportunities during the day to praise God – then voice that praise aloud.
Begin keeping a praise journal in which you write your praises to God.
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Nowhere in God's Word will you find the directive to praise God when you feel like it. I know. I have looked. Praise that is based on emotions is a shallow excuse for the praise that flows from a desperate heart. Don't wait until you understand it all to praise God. Simply give Him praise, knowing that He inhabits the praises of His children.
Need help?Praise is one of the most powerful ways to manage stress. Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and offers a step-by-step plan for stress management.
New E- Bible Study now available:What Am I Doing in This Pit? At some point in life, we will find ourselves in some kind of pit. Instead of looking for the nearest exit or frantically trying to claw our way out of the pit, we need to rest in God, discover the purpose of the pit and trust Him to deliver us. What Am I Doing in This Pit is a four-week Bible Study that will help you lead a life of victory.
Need something for your pain? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
Need a friend?Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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April 12, 2011
I Want to Be a Mommy
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The LORD is faithful to all his promises and loving toward all he has made" (Psalm 145:13b NIV).
Friend to Friend
I can still remember cuddling, rocking and singing to my favorite baby dolls when I was a little girl. I'd love them until their nylon hair was matted, their single outfits were tattered, and their painted cheeks were marred. I'd bandage their knees, kiss their heads, and teach them important life lessons.
Most little girls dream of one day being a mommy. In the hundreds of surveys I collected for the book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman...and How God Wants to Fulfill Them, to be a mommy was the number one dream. And of all the dreams of a woman, this one can be the cause of the most pain. Not being able to have children, rebellion of the children we do have, or losing a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or untimely death can be one of the most heart wrenching experiences of a woman's life. It hits at the very core of womanhood.
After I was married, my dream to be a mother began to grow. It seemed my arms ached to have a child to nurture, love, and pour my life into. When I was twenty-six, Steve and I decided it was time to increase our family of two. We conceived on our first attempt, and nine months later, Steven Hugh Jaynes, Jr. came screaming into the world. As I nestled that baby boy with a shock of thick black hair and long Bambi-like eye lashes against my breast, I knew I was holding God's first deposit in His great plan for my life – to be a mother. I had never felt more fulfilled in my life and I was certain I was "born to bear." When Steven was about two-years-old, we began praying for baby number two.
"Steven," we explained, "God is the one who gives babies to mommies and daddies, so we are going to pray that He will send us another 'Jaynes baby' so you can have a little brother or sister."
This sounded like a good idea to him, so he added, "And God please send mommy and daddy another 'Jaynes baby'" at the end of our family prayers each night. Conception happened so easily the first time, we thought this would be a wonderful opportunity to show Steven how God answers prayer.
Six months passed, and there was no news of another Jaynes baby on the way. Then one year passed with no news. Then two years passed with no news. During that time we began traveling down the frustrating road of doctor visits, infertility treatments and timed intimacy (which is anything but intimate.) We also began building our dream home with bedrooms for four children and a children's bathroom with two sinks so the brood wouldn't argue about whose turn it was. When the house was near completion, I walked from room to room. "Please Lord," I prayed, "don't let us move into this house without the hope of children to fill it." My heart felt as empty as those bedrooms that seemingly would have no children occupying them.
God did not answer my prayer as I had hoped. After many years of infertility treatment and heart-wrenching, faith-filled prayer, the children's bedrooms remained empty, the blankets unruffled, and the dream unfulfilled. It appeared there would be no more children. While Steven was everything I could have ever hoped for wrapped up in one package, my desire to have a houseful of little ones was not God's will. Was I thankful for the child I did have? Absolutely, but that did not negate the desire in my heart to be a mother of many.
Sometimes life doesn't turn out like we had hoped, but let me assure you of this: "The LORD is faithful to all his promises and loving toward all he has made" (Psalm 145:13 NIV). Join me tomorrow as I continue the lessons learned through my journey of infertility.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes life just doesn't turn out like I thought it would, but I am trusting You. I know that You know what is best for me. I know that You have great plans and dreams for my life that I could never even imagine. Help me to see Your plan and listen to Your voice.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Did you play with baby dolls when you were a little girl?
Did you have a dream about having children? What did it look like?
How is your reality different from your little girl dream? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would...and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 13, 2011
When God Says "No"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us have broken dreams, but they just happen to be different ones. Yesterday I brought you along on one of mine ... the dream to be a mommy to a houseful of children. Thank you for joining me again as we continue. While this may not have been your particular struggle, the pain of broken dreams and the hope that God wants to give is still the same.
For years, my son Steven, continued to pray that God would give us another "Jaynes baby." He prayed it every night. When he was about five-years-old, I thought it was time to tell him to stop. But how do you tell a child to stop praying a prayer? This was something God was going to have to do because I did not know how.
One day, Steven and I were sitting at his miniature table eating our peanut butter and jelly sandwiches when he looked up at me and said, "Mommy, have you ever thought maybe God wants you to have only one Jaynes baby?"
You can imagine my shock at this statement coming out of the blue from a near five-year-old. Once I regained my composure I answered. "Well, yes, I have thought that maybe that is the case. If it is, I am so thankful, because He has given me all I ever hoped for in a child wrapped up in one package - YOU!"
Then he cocked his little head like a robin and continued, "Well, what I think we ought to do is to keep praying until you're too old to have one. Then we'll know that was His answer."
What a great idea! Steven had no idea how old "too old" was, but he did know that God could do anything. If His answer was "no," he didn't have a problem with that. I told Steven "no" many times and he knew "no" did not mean, "I don't love you." "No" meant "no" because I was his parent and knew what was best for him. I was the one having trouble with God telling me "no."
There was a song Steven used to sing that went:
My God is so big, so strong and so mighty
There's nothing my God cannot do.
The mountains are His,
The valleys are His,
The stars are His handiwork too.
My God is so big, so strong and so mighty
There's nothing my God cannot do.
The Lord taught me a great lesson that day. Through Steven's childlike faith, I saw an example of the attitude of trust that I should have toward my heavenly Father who loves me and knows what's best, even when the answer is "no." After all, if God said yes to every request, then He wouldn't be God at all...we would.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to accept when you say "no" with the trust that You know what is best for me. Help me to become a woman that doesn't ask "Why me," but rather "What now." Thank You for taking the pieces of my broken dreams and making them into something more beautiful than I could have ever imagined.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When something seemingly bad happens in your life, do you tend to ask, "Why me?"
Here's something I want you to practice: Try asking "What now?" Think of a broken dream in your life. In your mind's eye, place it at Jesus' feet. Now look up at Him and ask, "What would you have me to do now?"
I can't wait to hear what He tells you! However, it might be quite some time before He answers. For me, it took one year from the time I asked Him the question, until He revealed His plan. In the meantime, get ready! The best is yet to come!
Has God taken you on a different path than you ever dreamed? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would...and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath, and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
Seeking God?
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April 14, 2011
A New Kind of Fruitful
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Therefore go and make disciples of all nations" (Matthews 28:19).
Friend to Friend
Those years of infertility were a stormy time in my life, but then, a few years later, a tidal wave hit.
"Steve can you meet me for lunch? I have a little surprise for you."
I was so excited to meet Steve and tell him this unexpected news that I called him at the office and asked him to meet me for lunch. After several years of infertility treatment, we had become content with our family of three, but now it seemed Steven was going to have a little brother or sister after all.
I handed Steve a tiny wrapped package. He gingerly pulled back the paper and opened the lid to discover a baby pillow nestled in soft white tissue paper.
"Does this mean what I think it means?"
"Yes," I replied with tears filling my eyes.
My dream was coming true! There would be more children after all. While the baby was growing well inside my womb and the nursery was being planned inside our home, the dream came to a screeching halt. The baby died. I had a miscarriage. It was not the loss of a child that was to be. It was the loss of a child that was. For months I grieved her loss.
There are still times today when I look at the portraits of our family of three and I can almost see the shadow of a fourth. But one day there will come a time when my little girl will not be a mere shadow. I will hold her in my arms. Until then, it gives me great comfort to picture her healthy and whole and playing at the feet of Jesus.
During those summer months following our loss, a friend sang me this song.
God is too wise to be mistaken.
God is too good to b unkind.
So when you can't understand
When you don't see His plan,
When you can't trace His hand,
Trust His heart.
And as the years progressed, God began to show me what it really meant to "Be fruitful and multiply."
Being Spiritually Fruitful
God fashioned women to be child bearers. Our wombs, breasts, hips, and hormones were uniquely designed for conceiving and giving life. There is an inborn nature to nurture, and while we may not give birth to our own flesh and blood in a delivery room, we can still – must still – be fruitful and nurture those in our sphere of influence.
When God created Adam and Eve, He commanded them to "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it;" (Genesis 1:28 NASB). In the New Testament, we see another kind of fruitfulness as Jesus sent out the disciples. "Therefore go and make disciples of all nations," (Matthews 28:19). He could have said, "Be fruitful and multiply," which is exactly what they did.
Think for a moment about why little girls want to grow up and become mommies. We want to cuddle and care for, rear and raise, share and shape, teach and train. We want to pour our love into another human being in the hopes that they will give that same love in return.
God has created women with a desire to nurture, but I think it goes much deeper than just having children. Most long to invest their lives in something that matters. Most of the time, that something is other people. The Bible calls that being fruitful. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit," (John 15:5). He also tells us that the true sign of a Christian is that he or she will bear fruit (John 15:8).
Sometimes when our dreams of motherhood are shattered, we have to let them die and allow God to birth other dreams in our lives. As Dr. Pamela Reeves wrote in Parables of the Forrest, it is as if He is saying to us, "When you are letting go, remember that I am planting seeds of new life in you. Your grief is only for a season. My end is not death. It is always life. I am the author of life." Whether it is the dream of having one child, the dream of having seven children, or the dream that a child will turn out a particular way, we must all eventually give that dream to God.
"Be fruitful and multiply." That is something every child of God can do!
Let's Pray
Dear God, I am overwhelmed with joy today! Thank You for allowing me to be a spiritual mother. Open my eyes to those whom You would have me birth into the Kingdom and those whom You would have me nurture into maturity. What an honor! What a privilege!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who is God leading you to nurture? I bet she's praying for a spiritual mother to come along.
Who is your spiritual mother? Who is the woman who stirred up the desire to know Christ in your heart? I'd love to know about her. Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. And while you're at it, why not forward this devotion along to her as a way of saying "Thanks."
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would...and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath, and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 15, 2011
Yes and Amen!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"For no matter how many promises God has made, they are "Yes" in Christ. And so through him the "Amen" is spoken by us to the glory of God" (2 Corinthians 1:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When my son, Preston, was in sixth grade he chose to plant spinach for his science fair project. He planted seeds in four plastic cups and watered each batch with a fixed daily amount of four different liquids: water, orange juice, cola, and milk. (Yes, you are correct! By day three of his fourteen-day project, the milk cup reeked to high heavens with a stinky-sour smell!) His hypothesis was that he believed that the seeds watered with water would grow faster than the seeds that were watered by orange juice, cola and milk.
Once his hypothesis was determined, he and I (his faithful mommy-research-assistant) diligently went about the task of collecting data, watering the seeds, taking pictures, and documenting his findings. The instructions on the back of the seed envelope indicated that we should see spinach sprouts within 7-10 days. Preston was looking forward to seeing the sprouts and was eager to see if his hypothesis was valid. I was too.
So we watered and we waited. We stayed the course and did the work required with hearts that were eager to witness a green, leafy harvest. Day seven came and went. No sprouts. Day eight came and went. No sprouts. Day nine. No sprouts. Day ten. No sprouts.
When all was said and done, we were disappointed that his faithful efforts did not bear spinach. In fourteen days not one green sprout shot up from any of the cups. In fact, we saw no external evidence of any growth at all ... not even on a root level. And although his data got collected, his project got completed and Preston received a good grade, we were both heart-sad that we didn't get to see any growth.
Sometimes our lives are like that science fair project. We invest in others and are eager to see the harvest. We obey God, trust His plan and walk according to His Word. We plant seeds into the soil of our marriages or dating relationships and water them with love, hope and truth. We plant seeds into the life-soil of our friends and co-workers and water them with loyalty, time and encouragement. As parents and grandparents we "grow" our children and our grandchildren. We water them with love, feed them with the Word. We water and we wait with great expectations in our hearts and a desire to see some growth. We long to see the fruit of our labor.
At times we see fruit.
At times we don't.
Jesus gave His disciples a trustworthy promise that if we stick to His side and stay tight to God's will, that our lives and our efforts will bear fruit. He said in John 15:4-5, Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. When we remain in Jesus – when we trust God by turning to the Holy Spirit for guidance and to His Word for truth – you and I will bear fruit ... whether we see it or not.
A person of faith believes God's promises because His promises are connected to His character. God's promises aren't flippant. They're secure! The apostle Paul said it like this: Whatever God has promised gets stamped with the Yes of Jesus. In him, this is what we preach and pray, the great Amen, God's Yes and our Yes together, gloriously evident. God affirms us, making us a sure thing in Christ, putting his Yes within us. By his Spirit he has stamped us with his eternal pledge—a sure beginning of what he is destined to complete (2 Cor. 1:20-22, MSG).
You see, friend, the yes-and-amen promise here is that we will bear fruit, not that we will necessarily see the fruit in our own timing or even in our own lifetimes. Understanding this promise sure does help me to trust God more. And further, knowing that our faithfulness will directly impact how much fruit will be produced should challenge us to remain faithful!
All of the promises of our Covenant God are "yes" and "amen". We can trust His Word to be true because the character of our God is unblemished. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. When we remain in Him, we will bear fruit. Sometimes we will see it. Sometimes we won't.
Our God-confidence is bolstered when we remember that He is faithful, and that our job is to listen, seek, and obey – to remain in Him – not to try to control the outcome of the seeds that He instructs us to sow. When we grow in our understanding of His character and rest in the knowledge that He is for us, not against us (Jeremiah 11:29), this helps us to trust Him. Let's strive to be women who take God at His Word and believe His "Yes" and "Amen" promise!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for planting a seed of faith in the soil of my heart through Your Son, Jesus Christ. Please grow my faith. Help me to trust You more and remind me to fix my eyes on You, not on the results of my life investments.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Are there promises you doubt God will fulfill?
Write a list of promises you have a hard time trusting God with. Then, write a big YES or AMEN across it and trust in God to answer!
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Let's connect GiG to GiG today with a fun, creative challenge!! (I LOVE a good creative challenge!) In 20 words or less, post a message on my Facebook page (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) that sums up the story of time when you realized God's "yes-and-amen" promise personally. Be creative. Boast on God a bit. Have fun testifying!
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April 18, 2011
Is Fatigue a Spiritual Gift?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Then he went on alone into the desert, traveling all day. He sat down under a solitary broom tree (Juniper tree) and prayed that he might die. 'I have had enough, LORD,' he said. 'Take my life, for I am no better than my ancestors.' Then he lay down and slept under the broom tree. But as he was sleeping, an angel touched him and told him, 'Get up and eat!' He looked around and saw some bread baked on hot stones and a jar of water! So he ate and drank and lay down again. Then the angel of the LORD came again and touched him and said, 'Get up and eat some more, for there is a long journey ahead of you.' So he got up and ate and drank, and the food gave him enough strength to travel forty days and forty nights to Mount Sinai, the mountain of God (1 Kings 19:4-7, NLT).
Friend to Friend
On the seventh day of creation, God rested; a fact that always amazes me. Did He need to rest? Obviously not, but when God set aside a day for rest, He made a powerful point. Our bodies were created in such a way that rest is not really an option. Rest is a physical reality and a spiritual discipline.
Elijah is a great example of a man in need of rest. One day he was the conquering hero, the next we find him sitting under a Juniper tree, wallowing in self-pity – and begging God to let him die. The poor man was simply exhausted. True, it was an exhaustion produced by victory, but it was still exhaustion.
Elijah had called down fire from heaven, proving the existence of the only true God, destroying idols and idol worshippers. Big stuff! In fact, it is my personal opinion that he should have been celebrating. So why was he so discouraged? It was a woman, Jezebel, who was largely responsible for his discouragement.
Jezebel was the evil and influential wife of Ahab, King of Israel, and widely known as the real power behind her husband's throne. Jezebel did not worship the one true God of Israel. Instead, she was fanatical in her worship of the pagan god, Baal, and tried to impose her beliefs on the people of Israel. One man stood in her way – Elijah. When Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal to a showdown on Mount Carmel, God answered Elijah's prayer with a stream of fire from heaven. You would think that a miracle like that would have convinced Ahab and Jezebel to believe in God. It didn't. In fact, Jezebel was furious. When she learned what had happened on Mt. Carmel with the fire and idols, she put a contract out on Elijah. Now stop and think about that for a moment.
Elijah had been in the presence of God. God had heard and answered Elijah's prayer, putting on an impressive fiery display for all to see. Idols had fallen. The prophets of Baal had either fled or been destroyed. And Elijah is worried about one angry woman? Elijah was tired and needed to rest – big time.
Discouragement often follows victory. Battle consumes energy and often leaves the warrior depleted and exhausted. Have you noticed that stress and exhaustion always produce skewed perspectives? Elijah lost his perspective and was ready to quit, which is where we find him ... sprawling under a Juniper tree ... the spoils of fresh victory all but forgotten. God's solution was simple. Elijah needed rest. Elijah slept and ate and then slept some more. It's interesting to note that the Juniper tree was common to the desert. So is stress. Deserts are filled with stress and exhaustion. Elijah stayed in the desert for 40 days, not because he had been disobedient or sinned, but because he was stressed out and needed time to rest, allowing God to replenish and restore him.
A visitor saw several shepherds in Nazareth bringing their flocks to water them at the well. When the sheep had drunk their fill, the shepherds called and their sheep immediately followed. The visitor asked the shepherds if the sheep always followed their own shepherds when they called. One shepherd responded, "Yes, under one condition. The sheep that do not follow the voice of their shepherd are the sick sheep. If a sheep is healthy, it will always follow the shepherd, but if there is something wrong with the sheep, it will follow anybody," the shepherd explained.
When we are sick and exhausted, we are in danger of following the wrong voice. Our defenses are down and our discernment is dulled by the stress of life. Rest heals and restores. Fatigue is definitely not one of the spiritual gifts, girlfriend. Rest in Him.
Now It's Your Turn
Define "rest" and examine your life in light of that definition.
Why do you feel guilty when you rest?
Do you think of rest as unproductive? Why?
Does that thought line up with God's plan?
Find two ways to incorporate rest into your daily schedule this week. At the end of the week, list the benefits that rest has produced in your life.
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I struggle with getting enough rest. I can't list all of the reasons why I struggle with this rest issue, but this I do know – every reason is a sin. Ouch! I know! Getting enough rest is spiritual obedience. Rest tends to be the last item on our "To Do" list when it should be the first. I have discovered that the time I need to rest is when I don't have time to rest. I invite you to join me in a new commitment to rest as we seek and follow our Good Shepherd.
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April 19, 2011
God's Great Plans for You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him," (1 Corinthians 2:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Last week I shared about the broken dream of infertility and miscarriage. As you recall, I have one incredible blessing in my son Steven, but my dream to have a house full of children did not materialize as I had hoped. During one of my times with the Lord, I was studying in the Song of Solomon about being the bride of Christ. This is a very romantic book of the Bible about the courtship, engagement, and eventual marriage between a man and a woman. Many compare it to the relationship of Jesus with His bride, the church. That's how I was reading it on this particular day.
As I read Song of Solomon 2:1, God stopped me. "I am the Rose of Sharon," the woman said to her beloved.
What was her name?God seemed to ask.
"Sharon," I answered.
What is your name? He again seemed to ask.
"Lord, my name is Sharon," I whispered aloud.
Look it up,He prompted my heart.
I went to my Bible dictionary and looked up Sharon. It meant - a fertile valley near Mount Carmel. God was telling me that while my medical chart had INFERTILE stamped across the front, He made sure that my name meant FERTILE before I was even born. No, I do not have a house full of children, but He has made me fertile in many other ways. Through writing, speaking, radio and simply obeying God when He nudges me to reach out to one of His own, God has allowed me to birth and nurture many spiritual children.
God does not always give us babies or husbands for which we've prayed. All of our dreams may not turn out the way we had hoped. But He will always give us access to everything we need to have an abundant life filled with purpose, passion, and His provision. When God says "no" we can rest assured there is a greater "yes" if we will but relinquish our shattered dreams to Him.
Someone asked me recently, "But would you rather have the house full of children, or the ministry opportunities you have today?"
"I want exactly what God wants for my life – nothing more and nothing less," I replied. "Because I know that whatever He has planned for my life is much greater than anything I could ever imagine or conceive." And girlfriend, that is true for you as well.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I get so excited thinking about the great plans You have for me. Help me not to get so mentally stuck on what I want, that I miss what You had planned all along. I want to grasp Your great dreams for me and move forward full steam ahead.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would ... and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath, and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 20, 2011
He has risen!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He is not here; he has risen! (Luke 24:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The boys and girls in Mrs. Stephens' fourth grade Sunday school class entered the room and quickly found their seats. The girls were dressed in frills and lace and chatting excitedly about the candy-filled baskets they had received that morning. The boys pulled at the unfamiliar ties around their necks and quickly discarded the sports coats they had obviously been forced to wear. The room was filled with excitement – for good reason. It was Easter Sunday.
Mrs. Stephens wanted to help her students understand that there is so much more to the Easter holiday than new clothes, chocolate bunnies and egg hunts. It is more than family gatherings and tables filled with luscious food. Easter is about life. Easter celebrates the certainty of Jesus' death on the cross, the fact that He was buried, and the reality that He came out of that burial tomb to conquer death – so that we can have life - eternal life with Jesus in Heaven and abundant life with Him here and now.
Mrs. Stephens came up with a plan. After sharing the Bible story of Jesus' resurrection, she gave each one of her students an empty plastic egg and said, "We are going to take a walk outside and I want each one of you to find one sign of life and put it in your plastic egg." As the children filed out of the room, Mrs. Stephens noticed Danny, a little Down syndrome boy who had been coming to her class for some time. His bright smile and sunny disposition had immediately won her heart. In fact, when it came to Danny, she often thought he had taught her so much more about the unconditional love of God and the joy of simply being a child of God than she could ever teach him. When she heard the other children make fun of him, it broke her heart. She always corrected the children and tried to help them see just how special Danny was, but Danny seemed oblivious to their hurtful words and thought of each child as his "buddy."
The children soon returned from their walk, depositing their eggs on the teacher's desk as they made their way to their seats. Inside one student's egg was a butterfly. In another was an ant. Others had collected flowers, twigs, blades of grass and leaves to fill their eggs. But one egg had nothing in it. Everyone knew whose egg it was. Mrs. Stephens silenced the giggles with a look of warning. When she asked Danny why he had not put anything inside his egg to show signs of life, his face broke into a huge grin as he responded, "Because the tomb was empty."
Danny understood the profound truth of Easter. The empty tomb is the ultimate sign of life and a miracle like none other.
Jesus Christ had risen from the dead. The women knew Jesus was dead. Some of them had seen Him die. And they were sure His body was in the tomb; it had been there since Friday. But when they went to anoint the body on that Sunday morning, the tomb was empty! The body could not have been stolen. Nobody was playing tricks on them. They were not merely fooling themselves. The miracle was real! They could see the empty tomb with their own eyes. Jesus Christ really had risen from the dead!
On this Easter weekend, spend some time thanking God for the miracle of life. And then share the good news with someone else: He is risen! He is risen indeed!
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for the miracle of life – abundant life here and eternal life with You in Heaven. Help me to celebrate that life every day as I seek You and follow Your plan for my life. Today, I say with the Apostle Paul, "Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?"
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider this truth: Satan has no answer for the empty tomb. What does the resurrection of Jesus Christ mean to you?
Set aside time today to remember what Christ has done for you through His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Read Luke 24 and celebrate the life only He can give.
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I would love to have been there that morning when the women went to the tomb – expecting to deal with death and instead found life, wouldn't you? You may be dealing with death in your own life – the loss of a loved one – the death of a dream – the pain of a broken body. Just as Jesus Christ rose from the dead, He can breathe new life into your heart and mind. Right now, quietly turn to Jesus. He is waiting for you – healing and restoration and new life are in His hands.
You can make Mary's MP3, Celebrate Life, part of your Easter celebration. Need something for your pain?Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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April 21, 2011
An Easter Bride
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready" (Revelation 19:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was a beautiful day for a wedding. The sun shone brightly as the daffodils danced in the gentle breeze, nodding their happy faces in conversation. A choir of robins, cardinals, and finches sang rounds of cheerful melodies, which floated through a clear blue sky that was a reflection of the bride's sparkling eyes. The air had that unusual crisp quality of spring, reminding us of the chill from winter's past and the warmth of summer's promise.
The day was Easter Sunday of 1997, the day the groom had chosen to be joined to His beloved. Like the Jewish custom of old, he had proposed to his young maiden, and then promptly gone away to prepare a home for her. On this day, his father had signaled the home was ready and he could go to get his bride
Iris had been waiting for her husband to come and take her to the wonderful home that He had prepared for her. How like him to pick Easter, she thought to herself. My favorite day of the year.
She smiled as she heard Him coming, and her heart fluttered with the anticipation of seeing His face.
She wore a white dress with flecks of blue and carried a bouquet of pink carnations and white mums with a spray of asparagus fern as wispy as her baby-fine hair. A sweet smile spread across her face as she saw her beloved Jesus hold out His strong hand to help her cross the threshold of the temporal and into the hall of eternity. She walked into His loving embrace and drank in the loveliness of her surroundings which He had perfectly described in His many letters.
On Easter Sunday, in 1997, my husband's dear, sweet, 74-year-old Aunt Iris went home to be with the Lord. As we all gathered around to say our last good-byes, I could not manage to be mournful. Yes, I was going to miss her. But Iris had never been married on this side of eternity and the vision I had in my mind was of her joining the Lord as the Bride of Christ. For me, it was not a funeral. It was a wedding. It was what she had always longed for...a dream come true.
In Isaiah 61:3, the prophet describes what God will do for the Bride of Christ. He will bestow on her a crown of beauty instead of ashes, anoint her with the oil of gladness instead of mourning and place on her shoulders a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. Are you feeling brokenhearted because of broken dreams? Have you been in mourning because your dream of being a bride has not turned out like you had hoped? God desires to blow away the ashes and place the crown of a royal bride on your head. So lift your head dear one, and accept your crown from the King of Kings.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for choosing me to be the Bride for Your Son. I look forward to the day when I will be joined with my heavenly Bridegroom for all eternity. Until then, I will prepare myself to be the best bride I can be. In my Bridegroom's Name I pray, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I asked my husband what picture came into his mind when he thought about himself as being a part of the Bride of Christ. He gave me a strange look and said, "Nothing really."
Oh how precious that we girls can have the picture of walking down the aisle to meet our heavenly Bridegroom. Today, that's what I want you to imagine. Just put that picture in your mind and savor it all day.
What picture comes into your mind when you think of yourself as the Bride of Christ? Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share with your girlfriends in God all around the world.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them (a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would...and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 22, 2011
Learning To Breathe
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness. (1 Timothy 4:7b, NASB)
Friend to Friend
Before our first child was born, my husband and I took a series of classes to prepare us for childbirth. I vividly remember being told by my Lamaze instructor that while in labor, I would need to breathe through each contraction. She would give us instructions like: "Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth" and "When you inhale, allow your belly to expand first, then your chest." She told us that the way we breathe would affect the way we would experience labor.
We spent a lot of time during those week-after-week classes learning how to breathe in a whole new way. We were taught that the breaths we would take during labor would need to be purposed and controlled. They required discipline and were not like natural breathing. So I practiced and I practiced the special breathing techniques in preparation for when the labor pains came a-knocking.
When the day arrived to welcome my firstborn son, Preston Miles Smith, into the world, I learned what a discipline breathing through contractions really is! There were times during labor that I felt like holding my breath instead of breathing. Times when the pain was so intense that my natural response was to scream instead of to breathe. Yes. This type of breathing was surely a learned behavior, a purposed discipline. And on the other side of this purposed discipline, in spite of all the pain endured, I was blessed to experience the wonderful joy of life.
I've labored through many hard life experiences since my child birthing days. I'm sure you have too. There are times when circumstances press us in waves, contractions of life that are seemingly endless. When the waves of trials hit our heart and home, the spiritual discipline of trusting God helps us to breathe through the squeeze of each pressure. I like to call it faith-breathing. When we hunker down and put into practice the act – the discipline – of faith.
But what do we mean by "the discipline of faith?" Paul wrote: "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever," (1 Corinthians 9:24-25). Just like I learned to breathe in preparation for going through labor pains, Christians learn to breathe through life pains when we implement spiritual disciplines in our lives like prayer, fasting, journaling and Scripture reading. They are purposed disciplines that bring joy and strength. The more we pray, the more we grow in intimacy with God. The more we read and know the Bible, the more we understand God's will and character. We see over and over again that He is good, faithful, compassionate, loving, gentle, just, holy, righteous and trustworthy in all things. We are encouraged and spurred on by the faith of others. We learn to faith-breathe!
God is always with us and will help us breathe through the difficult situations we face. He allows us to go through trials as a part of our refining process. Struggles send us running to God for help, for faith, for strength, for protection and direction. They are often pregnant with pain. Bursting with heartache. If we yield them to God, He uses them to rid our lives of trust-barriers like fear and doubt, and to bring glory and honor to him. There are many life contractions that hurt us, but there is no earthly pain that can diminish the hope of our salvation. We must simply breathe – continue practicing those spiritual disciplines that bind us to the heart of God.
"Yes, and everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution. But you must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. You have been taught the Holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work," (2 Timothy 3:12, 14-17 NLT).
Trusting God takes discipline. We don't always feel like it. It's not always what we want to do. It's not natural. At times we feel overwhelmed and want to soul-scream. If we always acted on our feelings, our lives would be chaotic messes. As in childbirth, there finally comes the time of deliverance where what is birthed forth to joy is directly the result of the very pain we have gone through.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, please teach me to breathe! Strengthen me through life's hard labor experiences and help me to practice the disciplines I have learned through Your Scriptures. When I feel like screaming through the pain, help me to breath by reading and memorizing Your Word, fasting and praying, and meditating on Your Truth. Thank You for the strength You will give me as I trust in You. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Spend some time meditating on God's Word today. Read over the verses below and write them on note card and review them until they are committed to memory.
"...all things are possible with God" (Mark 10:27b).
"I can do everything through Him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13).
"I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119:11)
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:8-9).
How did today's devotion connect with your heart? How were you challenged personally? Let's talk about it on my Facebook page! Meet me at www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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April 25, 2011
Quiet Waters of Rest
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul (Psalm 23:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
For most of my adult life, I have wrongly equated being busy with being productive. I am guilty as charged when it comes to living each day in overdrive. My Day Timer has, at times, been my Bible. The result has always been exhaustion, burnout and watered down living. Everything looked great on the outside – but when I was alone, just God and me, we both knew that the façade I had so carefully erected was a spiritual monument to self-promotion and pride-filled goals. The house built upon the sand seemed like very familiar digs - and I was not alone.
We are all masters of rationalizing our way to approval. The problem is that the approval we gain comes from impotent and lifeless sources. I am convinced that if we are willing to surrender our lives to the tyranny of the urgent, the enemy will keep them coming – people who need you immediately, those who clamor for your attention above your family and personal relationship with God, the person who can talk to no one but you, and the list goes on. What ego strokes they offer - and what futility.
I have always loved music and began taking piano lessons at the age of five. I will never forget that first piano lesson with Mrs. McKenzie, a very sweet, elderly woman who played the piano beautifully. Her hair was slightly blue, her house smelled like lemon drops and she had clocks that chimed and rang every fifteen minutes. I was so excited and so ready to play the piano like my sister who played for our church worship services. Betty was an amazing pianist and I was desperately hoping that same musical ability filtered down to me.
"Let's get started," Mrs. McKenzie said. I climbed up on the piano bench, waiting for her brilliant instruction to begin. She placed a bright, red piano book in front of me and invited me to open it to the first page. I was disappointed to see only little, black pictures. Where was the music? Where were the songs? Mrs. McKenzie smiled as she patiently began to explain the musical symbols pictured in the book before me. I soon grew restless. "What's the matter?" she asked. "I want to play the piano, please," I sweetly responded. With a knowing smile, she said, "We'll get to that." I was not happy. On and on – for what seemed like hours, Mrs. McKenzie pointed to funny-shaped black symbols, named them and explained their meaning. I was not impressed. I just wanted to get my hands on that keyboard!
Sensing my impatience, Mrs. McKenzie pointed to one of the symbols on the page before me and said, "Mary, this small, black box is called a 'rest' and is one of the most important symbols in music." I simply did not care. It did nothing but sit on a page in useless and unproductive silence. I wanted music. "Do you know why rests are so important in music?" she persisted. Obviously, I had no clue. She then said something I remember to this day, "The music that comes after the rest is the most beautiful music of all." At the time, I did not understand the deeper meaning of those words, but life and time have illustrated their importance and their truth.
The best part of life comes after we rest in God. The most beautiful service follows time at His feet. Rest is a powerful part of our life song. Just as the rest in music prepares the listener for what comes next, time spent in rest is an invaluable time of preparation and restoration. Yet, we often buy the enemy's lie that to rest is a waste. The psalmist disagrees when he writes: He makes me to lie down in green pastures ... He restores my soul... (Psalm 23:2-3).Now that word "makes" takes on a whole new meaning when it comes to God's work in and through us. Understand that if we refuse to rest, the Father will "make" us rest. The good news is that time spent in rest is the prelude of God's restoration power.
For years, I filled every waking moment with activity. I lived by the principle that busy people are productive people. It was only after I crashed, spending two years in a deep, dark pit of burnout and depression that I learned the eternal value of rest and stillness. This pivotal life lesson is stated in the simple words of a shepherd: Psalm 23:2 He leads me beside quiet waters. The psalmist writes this soothing promise from the perspective of a shepherd tending his flock of sheep. A good shepherd understands the truth that sheep are never fully at ease around rushing water because every sheep innately knows that the weight of their wool – when wet – will drown them. A wise shepherd understands that he must lead his sheep beside still waters, to a place of rest. The sheep only has to follow.
Today, make the commitment to carve out a daily time to spend in rest.Sit at His feet. Allow Him to restore, replenish and refocus your heart and mind. Then rise to serve Him and lead others to the "quiet waters" of rest.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the arrogance that keeps me on the run, trying to prove my worth. Teach me how to rest in You, Lord. Help me learn how to say "no" to those things that keep me from sitting at Your feet. Give me a hunger and thirst for You that can only be satisfied by time alone with You. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider the following questions:
Why does it really mean to "be still before God"?
What "time thieves" do I need to eliminate from my schedule?
What long-term commitment do I need to make concerning rest?
What areas of my life seem to be out of control and need to be submitted to God?
Choose a time and place where you can rest.
Read Psalm 23 every day and record the benefits of rest in your life in your journal.
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For me, one of the hardest parts of learning to rest is giving myself permission to rest. I once heard a preacher proudly announce that he would rather burn out than rust out. Well, girlfriend, the way I see it, either way – you are out. And the enemy loves it when we crash and burn. God empowers us to do His will. And part of His will is for us to stop and rest in Him.
Need help being a sheep that follows her Shepherd? Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and offers a step-by-step plan for learning how to truly rest in God. Looking for more? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
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April 26, 2011
The Reflection in Your Groom's Eyes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The king is enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord" (Psalm 45:11, NIV)
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, I talked about us being the Bride of Christ. But this time I want to focus on the groom. I think we can all agree that a woman never looks more beautiful than when she marches down the aisle to meet the man of her dreams. But what about the groom? Certainly he is not the focus of attention on such a day, but let's take just a moment to look in his eyes as he watches his bride come down the aisle. Come closer. Stand on your tip toes if you have to. He won't mind. Look in his eyes. What do you see?
If the light is just right and the angle of his head is just so, you will see what he sees. There, reflected in his eyes is his bride. The vision of her fills his eyes as his love for her fills his heart. With each progressive step down the aisle, his heart pounds with anticipation. Go ahead, place your hand on his chest. Do you feel it? Strong, pounding, anticipatory. He loves her. He adores her. He can't imagine life without her. She is his and he can hardly fathom this great prize that is for him alone.
Now, look a little closer. The bride is nearer now. You can see her face in the reflection of his eyes. Dear sister, the face is your face. You are the bride.
Jesus Christ has chosen you, He is wooing you and He wants to take care of you as His precious bride. He's standing at the altar, just waiting for you to say, "I do."
Whether you are divorced with a heart broken by betrayal, widowed with a bed chilled by loneliness, single with still no promise of a ring on your finger, or happily joined to the man of your dreams, Jesus longs to take you in his arms, not "for as long as you both shall live," but for all eternity.
Let me share the words to a precious song by Judie Lawson:
Wedding Feast of the Lamb
There is a place prepared for me
A table by the crystal sea
Where my Beloved bids me rest
And gently lean upon His breast
He dries my tears, He breaks my chains
He binds my wounds, He heals my pain
He soothes my tired and troubled soul
He fills my cup, it overflows
The finest wine, the choicest bread
By His own nail-scarred hands I am fed
He hides my shame in holy dress
He clothes me with His righteousness
He lifts my veil, He draws me close
Proclaims me His to the heavenly host
While angels sing His reverence
He leads me in a sacred dance
There is a place by the crystal sea
Where my Beloved waits for me.
He bids me come just as I am
To the wedding feast of the Lamb.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, I can hardly wait to walk that final aisle and join you in heaven. I pray the Holy Spirit will give me the power and the strength as I prepare myself to be the very best Bride that I can be.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you can get your hands on a wedding video, take a look at the groom's eyes. What do you see?
How did today's devotion make you feel, as you imagined the Groom's eyes focused on you? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would...and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath, and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 27, 2011
Mary Had a Little Lamb
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young (Isaiah 40:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As a little girl, I really did have a little lamb whose fleece was white as snow. I can remember the day my mother showed me the lamb and explained that she did not have a bottle with which to feed the stray lamb. I did. I agreed to let the lamb have my bottle if I could have the lamb. I have been fascinated by the unique relationship between sheep and their shepherd ever since.
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times...or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins which cause sudden death. This problem was even more complicated for the shepherds of the Bible.
The type of shepherding referred to in the Bible is not the farming of fenced pasture lands but nomadic grazing. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so that the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat which means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass. Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so that shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger. The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they will not last long.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently! Remember, I am a sheep!
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD" (NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness...until He rescues me. I try to satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul remains ravenous for what is good while stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don't like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep. When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that they can make it on their own or that the rules, the commandments of God, do not necessarily apply to them...just those other sheep. The longer I serve God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
A good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me. I am so glad He was willing to lay down His life for every single sheep – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs like me. Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan and remember that we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so thankful that You are my Shepherd and that no matter how deep the valley or dark the pit, You have gone before me and made a way. Help me to understand that Your ways are higher than mine. Forgive me when I complain that the way You have made for me is harder than I want it to be. I surrender my life to you, Lord, my God and my Shepherd. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Here is a challenge for every Girlfriend in God. Read Psalm 23 once a day for one month. Record it in your journal. Let every word soak into your heart, mind and soul. When fear comes, turn to God. When you are in need, trust the Shepherd. When confusion surrounds you, trust God to make the crooked paths straight. Rejoice daily in the fact that you are His lamb and He is your Shepherd.
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I truly believe that most of our stress in life is rooted in our refusal to trust God as our Shepherd. Escaping the Stress Trap is not just a book I wrote. It is based on Psalm 23 and is my story of learning to understand that I am His sheep and He is my Shepherd. Check it out! If you need help dealing with the pain in your life, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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April 28, 2011
She Didn't Live Happily Ever After ... But She Could Have
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners...to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion--to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair," (Isaiah 61:1-4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all know the story of Cinderella. She went from being held captive in the furnace to being a captivating belle of the ball, from being covered with ashes to being crowned with jewels, from being abused by her wicked stepfamily to being adored by her entire village. We all love "And they lived happily ever after" endings.
In 2 Samuel 13 of the Bible, there is a story that somewhat reminds me of Cinderella's, but with two major differences: it is no fairy tale and the events occur in reverse. It is the story of Tamar, the lovely princess daughter of King David.
Tamar was one of the most beautiful young ladies in the entire kingdom. Her name meant "palm tree," a symbol of victory and honor. She had several siblings: sisters, brothers, half-brothers, and half-sisters. It was a royal blended mess.
One of her half brothers, Amnon, lusted after his beautiful half-sister to the point he couldn't sleep at night. At the advice of a wicked friend, Amnon plotted to lure Tamar into his bedroom with the help of their unsuspecting father. Amnon pretended to be sick and requested some of Tamar's special baked bread. He also requested that she feed it to him with her own hands. Tamar obeyed her father's request to tend to her brother. After she entered his bedroom, the supposed sickly Amnon commanded the servants to leave the room and lock the door behind them. He grabbed Tamar, threw her on his bed, and even though she begged and pleaded for him to stop, he stole her most treasured possession, her virginity. After he had his way with her and his lust was satisfied, Amnon tossed Tamar on the floor along with her hopes and dreams.
The distraught, devastated, and demeaned Tamar ran from Amnon's room, crying out in anguish and despair. She tore her royal robes and ran the halls searching for her beloved brother, Absalom. When Absalom came to her rescue, he surmised what had happened and bid her to come to his house to live. "Shhhhh," he whispered, "don't worry; I'll take care of you. Now don't tell anyone what happened, just leave it up to me."
And even though Tamar was still a royal princess, she spent the rest of her days secluded in a darkened room, wearing sackcloth as if in mourning and placing ashes on her head in shame. Never again did she place the royal robe which was rightfully hers on her shoulders or live as the princess she truly was. She lived the rest of her life believing she could never be restored.
This is not just the story of Tamar, but the story of many women I meet everyday – hiding because of shame, feeling ugly and unworthy to accomplish God's dreams. Paul reminds us that when we come to Christ, he makes us a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), but many conceal or cover up that beauty with shame from past mistakes or abuse. It is as if they rise each morning and put a fresh dusting of ashes on their souls; the very ashes that Jesus came to wash away. And dear sister, it is Satan who keeps the supply of ashes coming and Satan who holds the box of ashes in his hand with the lid open ready for us to use.
Oh, we may not be walking around with ashes on our heads or dressed in burlap sacks, but we wear the mantle of shame that Satan has placed on our shoulders and secures with guilt-ridden deception and lies. I meet many women who have children, a husband, a successful career, and appear beautiful on the outside, but are spending their days in desolation of the soul because Satan has convinced them that's where they belong. Wearing the cloak of shame because of past abuse, misuse or mistakes, they don't realize that Jesus Christ has washed them clean, purchased a robe of righteousness made just for them, and He is eager to place it on their shoulders.
Please don't let Satan deceive you into believing that you are anything less than a beautiful princess. Do not allow him to convince you your dignity cannot be restored. The truth is, it already has been. We simply need to start believing the truth.
The prophet Isaiah spoke of Jesus in these verses:
"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners...to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion--to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair," (Isaiah 61:1-4).
Jesus has the glass slipper in His hand. He's waiting for the princess to offer her foot – your foot. Don't let Satan tell you it doesn't fit. The One who made your foot has already decreed that it does.
Let's Pray
And they lived happily ever after. Dear Lord, I know that is the way the story of my life will end. I've read the book. I'll live in eternity with the Prince. Forgive me when I sit in shame and forget what Jesus has done for me. Today, I will walk clothed in the mantle of righteousness that Jesus purchased just for me. In His Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I've told you the story of Tamar, but I'd like for you to go back and read it for yourself. You can find it in 2 Samuel 13.
Tamar's father didn't do anything to help her get over her shame and come out of hiding. Your Father did. Describe, in your own words, just what God did to restore your crown.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's new book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them(a new revised version of her previous book, Dreams of a Woman). This book is for every woman whose life hasn't turned out like she dreamed it would ... and I think that includes most of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His--take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. Let's dare to dream again!
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April 29, 2011
Praise The Perseveres
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. (Acts 16:25, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Andrea lives in Lake Mary, Florida and is the proud momma to four beautiful girls. Two of her daughters are identical twins who have cerebral palsy and are severely disabled. Over the past 14 years, Andrea and her husband have been through the ringer. Her days are spent caring for the twins. And they are grueling days: filled with many tears, outbursts of frustration, and bouts of anger. There have been times that she has felt abandoned by God. Andrea admits that on many days, she has called out to God like the psalmist did: Answer me when I call to you, O my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress; be merciful to me and hear my prayer (Psalm 4:1, NIV).
Through it all, however, Andrea has determined that she will praise God in spite of the daily complications. "I have always prayed for healing for my girls," she shares. "I believe that with the mere thought of our God that my girls could be restored. I know that if He heals them I will spend my life praising Him for that miracle and telling others of His goodness. Of course, although God can heal them, I've had to learn to spend my whole life praising Him simply because He is God – whether He heals the girls or not. I decided very early on that God is still God no matter what He allows in my life. I can trust Him even when I can't understand Him." She thoughtfully finished with this statement: "It sounds easy, but it hasn't been."
Oh, how I can relate to honestly like that! How I'm drawn to this type of God-courage. Her challenges are great, but she is determined to praise God anyway. When I hear stories like Andrea's, my heart stretches toward trusting God. I hear and feel that the trials in her life have led her to a greater dependency on God and a deeper trust in His sovereignty. I'm reminded that in every situation, I come to a crossroad and have a choice: I can pout or I can praise. I can turn away from God because I don't understand or I can turn toward God in full assurance that His understanding is enough for the both of us – even if it hurts – even if anger lingers – even if doubt looms.
Have you been to these crossroads?
God shows us a powerful example of praise that perseveres in chapter sixteen of the book of Acts. During the Apostle Paul's second missionary journey, he and his ministry buddy Silas encountered a collision of faith and trouble while in Philippi. After Paul cast out a demon that was terrorizing a young slave girl, he and Silas were seized by disgruntled Roman citizens and dragged to the marketplace before the rulers. They were then wrongfully accused of public disruption. They were stripped, beaten, and unlawfully jailed without a trial. After the flogging, Paul and Silas were taken to the in the inner cell of the prison, normally reserved for the most dangerous offenders, and their feet were placed in stocks.
Though they had every reason to sit and stew because of the injustice of their situation, Paul and Silas chose to trust in God's plan and praise their Lord, Jesus Christ. Though they had open wounds and would have been in severe physical pain, Paul and Silas chose to glorify the name of God. "After they had been severely flogged, they were thrown into prison, and the jailer was commanded to guard them carefully. When he received these orders, he put them in the inner cell and fastened their feet in the stocks. About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them," (Acts 16: 23-25).
Then God shook the earth and the prison foundations and loosed the chains of the prisoners. In horror, knowing he would be held responsible for the escape of the prisoners, the jailer raised his sword to kill himself – but Paul stopped him. He and Silas hadn't fled. They stood amidst their dark circumstances and spoke and sang with confidence in their God.
As a result, several people, including the jailer and his family, came to believe in Jesus Christ. "The jailer called for lights, rushed in and fell trembling before Paul and Silas. He then brought them out and asked, 'Sirs, what must I do to be saved?'"
"They replied, 'Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household.' Then they spoke the word of the Lord to him and to all the others in his house. At that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds; then immediately he and all his household were baptized. The jailer brought them into his house and set a meal before them; he was filled with joy because he had come to believe in God—he and his whole household," (Acts 16:29-34).
Though we won't always rejoice in our circumstances, we are commanded to always rejoice in the Lord. "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus," (Philippians 4:4, 6-7).
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance," (James 1: 2-3). When we praise the Lord through, and in spite of what we face, our praise becomes our deliverance through the trial.
"We also have joy with our troubles, because we know that these troubles produce patience. And patience produces character, and character produces hope. And this hope will never disappoint us...," (Romans 5:3-5a NCV).
No matter what difficult times we encounter, God is worthy of our praise. When we choose to praise, we choose to trust God. When we choose to trust God, the broken world around us lifts their eyebrows in wonder – just like the Roman jailer. Sometimes a sacrifice of praise is required. Offer it. We can and should choose to bless His name through the pain, which astonishingly can bring His joy into our hearts.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for being trustworthy and praiseworthy! I ask that You will nudge me to trust You each time I approach the crossroads of faith and trouble. In spite of the burdens on my heart and challenges in my path right now, I praise Your name and celebrate that Your hope will never disappoint. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
What steps can you take today that will help you remember to praise God when you come to the faith/trouble crossroads?
Sometimes life does not turn out like we thought it would. OK, not just sometimes, but most times. Is there any part of your life that seemed to take a bad turn, and then God showed you that it was indeed His perfect plan? What good did you see coming out of it?
Let's talk about today's devotion on my facebook page: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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To be honest, there are a million times that I feel like screaming instead of praising. What a battle! Yet, I know the best response is to trust God and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My new CD, Uncluttered is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. We are running a great CD Special now at http://gwensmith.net/store/specials.htm.
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May 2, 2011
God's Little Post-It Notes
Sharon Jaynes
Key Verse
Since the creation of the world, God's invisible qualities-his eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse (Romans 1:20 TNIV).
Friend to Friend
I believe one of the greatest inventions of the twentieth century was the Post-It Note. First there was yellow. Then came fuchsia, turquoise, buttercup, and magenta. From full-page mega notes to tiny little strips, sticky notes have saved me from embarrassment, kept me organized, and helped me memorize. Mostly, they have served as visual reminders of information, events, and appointments not to forget.
But visual reminder of things not to forget didn't begin with Post-It Notes. They began with God, Himself. All through life God places Post-It Notes on our days to remind us of Him. Just the other day, I jotted down a few of God's Post-It Notes.
The sunrise with swirls of mist rising from the lake behind my home
A vibrant red male cardinal and his demure wife sharing the bird feeder
Boisterous Canadian geese flying in V-formation across the sky
Tulip bulbs peeping through the ground
Dogwood blossoms heralding Easter's approach
The weeping willow praising God in the breeze
A monarch butterfly perched on the windowsill
Midday sunlight dancing on the water
A baby's cry
A little girl's giggle
Orange, magenta and red streaks across the sky as the sun bid goodnight
A sliver of white in the inky sky with a smattering of twinkles all around
My husband's hand reaching for me in the night
Each and every one of these sightings was God's reminders to me that He has infused my life with His presence. Through His creation, God longs for us to see and discover – observe and remember - His creative beauty, His enduring grace, and His fathomless mercy.
In the Bible, Paul wrote to the Romans, "Since the creation of the world, God's invisible qualities-his eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse" (Romans 1:20 TNIV). If we do not hear from God today, if we do not see His fingerprints through creation, we are without excuse. His is speaking to us all day long with holy post-it notes, and it seems to me Hs voice is sweetest in Spring.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord our Creator, I am in awe of Your creation today. Help me to never take You or Your handiwork for granted. I pray that I will always be amazed at the sunrise and the sunset and all that falls in-between. I love You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Today, look for God's Post-It Notes in your life today.
Consider getting a pad of Post-It Notes and jot down visual reminders of God that grab your attention. Write your observations on the notes and post them around your home.
If you have children, consider giving them a pack of Post-It Notes and have them jot down things that remind them of God throughout their day. Before bedtime, share your Post-It Notes as a family.
I'd love for you to share your post-it-notes with me and your girlfriends in God. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me what you saw today!
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It is amazing that God speaks to us all throughout our busy days. Will we listen? Will we recognize His voice? If you would like to learn more about recognizing God's presence in your life, see Becoming a Woman who Listens to God by Sharon Jaynes.
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May 3, 2011
Reel me in ... please!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A certain expert guide lived in the deserts of Arabia. He was known for his tracking skills and the fact that he never lost his way. The secret of his success could be found in the fact that he carried with him a homing pigeon that had a very fine cord attached to one of its legs. When the guide had doubts as to which path to take, he threw the bird into the air. The pigeon quickly strained at the cord to fly in the direction of home, leading the guide accurately to his goal.
We all need connections to people who will point us in the right direction. We will inevitably take a wrong path or make a wrong turn and there will be times when we have no idea which way to go or the right choice to make. We must then turn to God and to those who hold us accountable.
Accountability is often seen as confining - a relationship straight jacket that limits freedom of expression and hinders those who "march to the beat of a different drummer." Actually, the opposite is true. Accountability frees us to grow and change and is an important part of every healthy relationship.
When I married into the Southerland family, I didn't know that tent camping was part of the deal. However, I decided that I could learn to camp and maybe even enjoy it. My first camping trip to Lake Greason in the foothills of the Ozarks was an interesting and educational experience. It did not take me long to learn the daily routine. Each morning, Dan's mom would prepare a huge breakfast. The kids then did the dishes and cleaned up while Mom changed into her swim suit, donned her sun glasses, grabbed a towel and headed for the lake. On the shore, she would find an inner tube, position her towel in just the right spot over the tube, turn around and sit down. She would then float blissfully for hours. There was one problem with this plan. Lake Greason had a current that would carry Mom down the lake, around the bend and into the path of ski boats. Several times a day, someone would have to swim after her and pull her back to the safety of the shore, where she would profusely thank them and go right back to floating. Finally, one of the kids came up with a great idea – a rope. One end of a ski rope was tied to Mom's inner tube and the other end to a wooden stake driven securely into the ground. She could then float until the rope ran out and someone "reeled her in."
What a perfect picture of accountability – giving someone who loves you the permission to "reel you in" when they see you headed in a dangerous direction. Our willingness to make ourselves accountable to others will ultimately yield boundaries, parameters and behavioral lines that translate into hedges of protection in our lives.
Honestly, most of us have experienced very little accountability in life because at the heart of being accountable to someone is our willingness to be submissive to them. Contrary to popular belief, submission is not a dirty word. God never intended submission to be demeaning or smothering. Submission is protection and an intentional willingness to consider first the desires and wishes of another before our own. God places others in our lives to see things that we cannot see, to encourage and build up, to correct, love and protect. Still, we tend to view accountability as a crutch and submission as a weakness. We need to change our viewpoint and realize that Godly submission is harnessed strength, a controlled strength that is the natural result of obedience to God's commands.
Jesus submitted Himself to the will of His father. He willingly laid down His desires and dreams, His plans and hopes in total submission. Out of that total surrender came the most powerful life ever lived. When we willingly submit ourselves to God and choose to make ourselves accountable to others, we will experience a new kind of freedom and power in our lives.
God did not create us to live alone. We were created to need each other – for many reasons. One of the most important reasons is accountability. It is much easier to make the wrong choices and to take the wrong turns when no one is watching. I often wonder how many marriages have failed, how many friendships have been destroyed, or how many lives have been wasted because there was no accountability. I praise God every day for a husband and friends who are willing to be a safety net in my life by holding me accountable. If you don't have an accountability partner, don't wait another minute. Ask God to send you a friend who loves you enough to reel you in.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, submitting myself to You. Thank You for the protection, direction and power that comes from that submission. Forgive me for the times when I have been silent while someone I loved made dangerous decisions. Give me the courage to confront in love. Help me learn how to receive correction and to be accountable to others. Thank You for Your love that never condemns but always stands ready to keep me from making mistakes. And when I do fall, thank You for being there to pick me up and walk with me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Proverbs 27:6 says, "Faithful are wounds of a friend." What does this verse mean to you? How does this verse relate to accountability?
Name two people in your life to whom you are accountable.
Are they willing to tell you the truth instead of just saying what you want to hear?
Do they constantly point you toward Christ?
Who is accountable to you?
Are you willing to step between that person and the wrong choices they make?
Can you confront in love for the sole purpose of restoration – not winning?
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Be sure to check out Mary's resources on marriage, parenting and difficult relationships. If you need help dealing with the pain in your life, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurt, and learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 4, 2011
Lessons from the Bamboo Farmer
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Mother's Day, Sharon's devotion will focus on motherhood.)
Today's Truth
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap if we do not grow weary (Galatians 6:9 NASB).
Friend to Friend
For years I told people that I was in labor for 23 hours. However, the truth is more like 21 years. Being a mother has been the most fulfilling, frustrating, exciting, exhausting, mind-boggling, hair-raising thrilling tiring, stimulating, soul-stirring, delightful, difficult, consuming, laborious, uplifting, inspiring, challenging, captivating, and rewarding job I've ever had. Did I mention difficult? I should have gotten a clue when I was told that having a child begins with a word called "labor."
I've had times when I felt like throwing up my hands in frustrations and saying, "I quit!" Is what I'm doing making any difference to anyone? I want results! Show me results! Then I think about the bamboo tree.
When the Chinese plant bamboo, first they plant the seeds, then water, and fertilize them. The first year, nothing happens. The second year they continue to water and fertilize the seeds, and still nothing happens. The farmer continues this process for a third and fourth year with no visual results. Then sometime during the fifth year, in a period of approximately six weeks, the Chinese bamboo grows ninety feet.
The question is, did it grow ninety feet in six weeks or did it grow ninety feet in five years? The obvious answer is that it grew ninety feet in five years. If the grower hadn't applied water and fertilizer every year, there would be no bamboo.
It is the same way with raising children. We pour into their lives. We plant seeds of character, pull weeds with discipline, water with prayer, and fertilize with encouraging words. Then one day, if we are persistent and consistent, we will see beautiful results.
If you are in the midst of raising your children, or even a parent of grown children waiting to see the results, I want to encourage you to press on. Don't give up! Keep praying! Keep encouraging! Keep loving! And one day, when you least expect it, your child will "rise up and call you blessed."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I get really tired and frustrated as a mom. When I grow discouraged, will You help me to keep the goal before me ... to raise a child who is a man or woman after God's own heart? Help me to remember that You, as my Heavenly Parent, never give up on me. Even when You don't see the results that You desire, You continue to love, nurture and teach me. Thank You for being my example of persistent and consistent love.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now it's your turn
Make a list of character traits that you long to see in your child.
What seeds are you planting in his or her heart to produce such a crop?
Make a list of glimpses of good fruit that you see budding in your child this week.
Let's pray for each other and our children. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes, share your prayer request, and then pray for the person above and below your entry.
If you need a bit of encouragement in the motherhood department, click on this video message I recorded for moms. You can find it on my homepage at www.sharonjaynes.com. You might want to share this with a friend who is feeling a bit discouraged. It's sure to lift her spirits!
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Being a mom is the most difficult and rewarding job in life! If you would like more encouragement in this important calling from God, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids!
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May 5, 2011
Run!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths (Proverbs 4:27, NCV).
Friend to Friend
At the close of the sermon, a church member came forward to speak with the pastor. He was very upset because of the sin in his life and his blatant disobedience to God. With tears streaming down his face, the repentant man took the pastor's hand to confess that his life was full of sin, but what came out was, "My sin is full of life." I can relate.
I don't know about you, but my sin is definitely "full of life." I am always amused but also saddened by people who think that just because I am in full time ministry, I am holier than they are, better than they are or don't have to battle sin like they do. Just ask my husband and children. They will blow that theory right out of the water. I'm just thankful our cats can't talk! The fact is, as long as I live in this fallen world and sport this frail humanity, I will wrestle with sin.
However, I have refined several tactics for dealing with my sinful nature. Rationalization is one of my personal favorites. And there is always the handy comparison ploy – measuring my sin against the sin of another. At times, I subscribe to the popular "bury it and hope it will go away" tactic. The reality is that nothing satisfies the payment sin demands except the blood of Jesus Christ and my response to His sacrifice in true, unadulterated repentance - on my face before my Holy God.
When we turn our lives over to God, He sets our feet on the right path. But to stay on that path requires a continual choice to run from sin. With our flawed choices, we take side trips, create detours and wind up on the wrong road headed in the wrong direction. Solomon warns us to stay away from evil paths. "Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths" (Proverbs 4:27, NLT). "Keep away" literally means "to turn aside or drag from." In other words, when we see sin or even the opportunity to sin, we should turn around and run in the opposite direction. We should "drag ourselves" away from sin. What do we do instead? We flirt with sin. We want to be delivered from temptation but would really like to keep in touch. We pray for God to "lead us not into temptation" and then deliberately place ourselves in its path. In our arrogance, we think we can handle sin and the temptation to sin on our own. That very attitude is an open invitation for the enemy, daring him to take his best shot.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor of Flamingo Road Church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, for many years. A man of great wisdom, Dan was adamant about the fact that neither he nor his staff should ever put themselves in a situation that flirted with sin or made it easier to sin. Solid wooden office doors were replaced with glass doors. No pastor was allowed to meet with a woman for any reason unless one of the other staff members was present. A staff counselor was hired to handle anyone needing more than one counseling session. The staff often went to lunch following their regular Tuesday morning staff meeting and even though the restaurant was literally across the street from the church, no man was allowed to ride alone with a woman. Sound ridiculous? Seem absurd? Not at all! Dan simply refused to provide ammunition for the enemy. The bottom line is that it's foolish and dangerous to flirt with sin.
There is no holding pattern for believers nor can we live in a neutral state. We are either going forward or backward. We are either being renewed or consumed. Girlfriend, do not relinquish any more life territory to the enemy. Run from sin!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the sin in my life. Right now, I choose to turn away from that sin. I turn to You, Lord. I know that I am lost and totally helpless without You. Thank You for the unconditional love and unending forgiveness that I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Read 1 Corinthians 10:13. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (NIV).
Consider the following promises found in 1 Corinthians 10:13. What do they mean to you and how do they apply to your life?
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
God is faithful.
He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
He will provide a way out.
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While it is true that we all face many temptations every single day, it is just as true that God will strengthen us to withstand each one. Need help? Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation, offers five steps you can take to help you resist temptation and live a life of victory.
If you need help dealing with the pain in your life, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurt, and learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 6, 2011
Springs of Living Water
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Even now," declares the LORD, "return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning." Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the LORD your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love..." (Joel 2:12-13)
Friend to Friend
Jeremiah was just a youngster when he came to know God and began to work for Him as a prophet. He endured year after year of hard times, frustrating people and complicated disappointments. His message was one that called the people of Jerusalem - God's chosen people - to turn away from the idols that they had been worshiping and back toward the one, true God.
Let me say it straight: God was miffed at the nation of Israel and He sent Jeremiah to let them know. He had every reason to be angry! He had given the children of Abraham a sacred covenant, a promised future, delivery from oppression, and His "tabernacled" presence, yet they turned their backs on Him. Continually. They doubted His exclusivity and they set their attentions and affections on things other than God. They worshiped idols made of wood and stone. Powerless and worthless. In Jeremiah 2:13, God said of his people: "They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water."
Pastor Greg Laurie describes it this way: "A cistern is a large well or pool carved in a rock. A broken cistern has sprung a leak and can't hold water. God is saying, "If you go out there to the world and drink from that well, it is not going to satisfy you."
It sets my mind to wonder.
Why would anyone place her trust in the unstable, un-powerful, unfulfilling things of earth when she can place her trust in a stable, powerful, satisfying God? Seems like such a no-brainer – yet, don't you and I do that all the time?
Sure we do.
We dig our own cisterns, broken cisterns, and expect them to satisfy our thirst and bring us contentment. We drink from the broken cisterns of materialism, position, wealth, popularity, stuff, relationships, rules and religion. We have faulty expectations that our kids, spouses and friends are meant to satisfy our heart-needs. The ultimate broken cistern, however, is our pursuit of purpose in life via things of this earth.
We were created to pursue God.
We were created to know God – to be satisfied in Him and Him alone.
To worship Him and Him alone.
Oh, you and I are such a thirsty gaggle of girlfriends, aren't we? Even as believers, we deal with emptiness and bow to idols other than God. We place our faith in the economy, in our financial situations, in our health, in our employment status, marital status, and our relationships. When they fail or fumble we fall apart ... and no wonder! They are all broken cisterns and were never meant to be our source of hope or satisfaction!
Friend, we need to turn away from our broken cisterns and turn toward the springs of living water. From stagnant waters to the Living Water. The Bible tells us that confession is the path to the spring of living water. When we eliminate the things that clutter our faith – the broken things we trust in – and place our faith in the resurrection power of Jesus Christ, God's heart swells with mercy, compassion and grace toward us. He forgives and strengthens us.
Who or what are you trusting in today?
Where are you soul-drinking from: broken cisterns or springs of living water?
When Jeremiah was preparing to take God's message of repentance to Jerusalem, God spoke confidence and promise to his shaking heart. Let these words speak confidence to your heart today, friend. God's promise to Jeremiah is valid to you and me when we turn away from the broken cisterns of this world and place our trust in Him. "I am with you and will rescue you, declares the Lord." (Jeremiah 1:19b).
Jesus Christ is the Living Water our souls are parched for (John 4:13-14). "Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, "Let anyone who is thirsty come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them"(John 7:37-38).
Say with the psalmist: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God." (Psalm 42:1-2a).
Go to Him today. Confess. Believe. Drink. Be satisfied.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'm so thirsty for You! Please forgive me for the times that I have drunk from broken cisterns instead of from Your springs of Living Water! Thank You for Your compassionate grace and ever-flowing love. In a world that is constantly changing, I choose right now – once again – to place my trust in You as my unchanging God. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's your turn
Today we talked about placing our trust in things other than God. Broken cisterns. We all struggle with this to some degree. How has this affected you in the past?
How does it affect you in the present?
And to go Dr. Phil on you, "How's that working for you?" Spend time in prayer about this today. Ask God to reveal the broken cisterns you've been trying to drink from. Repent of this and commit to a deeper trust-level today.
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May 9, 2011
A Mighty Warrior
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Mother's Day, Sharon's devotion will focus on motherhood.)
Today's Truth
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth (3 John 1:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Proverbs 31 introduces us to the mother whose children rise up and call her blessed, as a "wife of noble character" (NIV), "an excellent wife" (NAS) and "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." (AMPLIFIED VERSION) The actual Hebrew word for excellent or virtuous is chayil and is sometimes interpreted as "virtuous, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior." The mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is a warrior who battles in prayer for the hearts, minds, and souls of her children. She prays a hedge of protection around them and stands in the gap when they don't know how to pray for themselves. She meets the enemy head on, dressed in the armor of God with the sword of the spirit (the word of God) drawn and ready for action. We may never know the many times that the enemy's schemes against our children were thwarted by the power of a mother's prayers.
As a mother, you may feel at times that your burden for you child seems more than you can bear. Peter tells us to "cast all your cares upon Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). He cares for your children, too. No matter how much you love your children, God loves them more.
In my Bible, I keep a 4 x 6 laminated card with prayers for Steven that are my defense against the enemy's attacks. You, too, can pray that your children will:
Know Christ as Savior early in life. (Psalm 63:1, 2 Timothy 3:15)
Have a hatred for sin. (Psalm 97:10)
Be caught when guilty. (Psalm 119:71)
Be protected from the evil one in each area of their lives: spiritual, emotional, and physical (John 17:15)
Have a responsible attitude in all their interpersonal relationships (Daniel 6:3)
Respect those in authority over them. (Romans 13:1)
Desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends. (Proverbs 1:10-11)
Be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17)
Be kept pure until marriage (as well as the one they marry). (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
Learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all things. (James 4:7)
Be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ. (Romans 12:1-2)
Be hedged in so they cannot find their way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to them. (Hosea 2:6)
A mother wears many hats during the years of raising her children. And while we take off those hats one-by-one as they grow and mature, there is one that will always remain – the hat of a mother who prays.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the privilege of being a mom. I agree with John who wrote, "I have no greater joy than to know that my children are walking in the truth." That is my prayer today ... that my child will walk in Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Perhaps you have certain concerns or desires for your child. If so, find a good concordance and look up Scriptural promises to pray.
Consider joining with another mother and becoming prayer partners for your children. You can use the list from this devotion as a springboard for praying Scripture over your children.
Let's pray for each other and our children. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes, share your prayer request, and then pray for the person above and below your entry.
If you need a bit of encouragement in the motherhood department, click on this video message I recorded for moms. You can find it on my homepage at www.sharonjaynes.com. You might want to share this with a friend who is feeling a bit discouraged. It's sure to lift her spirits!
More from the Girlfriends
Being a mom is the most difficult and rewarding job in life! If you would like more encouragement in this important calling from God, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids!
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May 10, 2011
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm. A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised (Proverbs 31:11-12, 30, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that it is not what it used to be. Family is no longer simple. It is complex, constantly changing and a blend of different relationships.
Couples with children
Couples with no children
Single women with children
Single men with children
Grandparents with children
Parents with grown children who have left and then come back home
Close friends living together
Unrelated people living together
And they all are family. Family is a group of persons belonging to or forming a household. More important than the definition of family is the purpose of family. There are no perfect families. There never have been and never will be this side of Heaven. However, the purpose of family here on Earth is to illustrate the nature and character of God. In other words, family is the primary place we learn about God.
A Sunday school class of first-graders was asked to draw a picture of God. When the pastor stopped by to inspect their work, the children were happy to show him their drawings. One had drawn God in the form of a brightly colored rainbow. Another had drawn the face of an old man coming out of billowing clouds and there was one drawing that looked a lot like Superman. Perhaps the best drawing was the one proudly displayed by a girl who said, "I didn't know what God looked like exactly, so I drew my daddy."
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and He has a plan for the family to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. So the real challenge is ... how can we love our family?
I know we all want to be part of a family where we give and receive love. Proverbs 31 tells us how. This chapter, a portrait of a wife and mother, was painted by a King as the kind of woman his mother wanted her son to marry. It is a standard of excellence, not only for women, but for every member of every family. In the life of this woman, we find several ways to love our family.
Build trust.
Proverbs 31:11 tells us that "her husband has full confidence in her." "Full confidence" literally means to trust, to take refuge in or to lean on. The Proverbs 31 woman spent a lifetime building trust. She trusted God and had a personal relationship with Him. We cannot be trustworthy if we are not trusting, and if we don't trust God, we cannot truly trust others. If we are not "taking refuge" or "leaning on" Jesus Christ, when others take refuge and lean on us, we will crumble and fall. Trust shatters fear.
Psalm 56:3-5 (TLB) "But when I am afraid, I will put my confidence in you. Yes, I will trust the promises of God. And since I am trusting him, what can mere man do to me?"
Trust is fragile and once broken, very hard to build again. When our son was a little boy, he constantly rode on the trusted shoulders of his dad, and loved it. Then, one day, at a church youth activity, one of the youth was playing around and punched Dan in the stomach. Dan was caught off guard and the youth hit him harder than he meant to. Dan doubled over and Jered tumbled to the ground. The next time Dan tried to put Jered on his shoulders, Jered flatly refused. It took months for Dan to earn Jered's trust again. To enjoy our family, we must first trust God before we can build trust in our family. Our family needs to be able to trust us, no matter what – with no hidden land mines. There will be no joy in our homes if there is not an atmosphere of trust. Family is a "team" idea and nothing is more deadly to the success of a team than a lack of trust. Trust God and then build trust in your family. Tomorrow, we will explore more ways to enjoy your family. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. I want to love them like they need to be loved. Help me to build trust in them as I learn to trust You more. Lord, help me to be trustworthy and to be the woman You want me to be in my family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Make a list of ways your family can trust and depend on you.
Identify any areas where you can build more trust.
Have a family meeting to discuss what it means to be a team.
Constantly look for ways to foster the mindset that your family is a team.
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Everywhere I look, splintered and broken families abound. Why? I believe that somewhere along the way, trust was broken by an affair, a betrayal or a forgotten vow. What is even more frightening is the casual approach to that broken trust. God is calling us to trust Him and then to build trust in our family. Right now, no matter how many times you have failed, begin again. Need help? Check out Mary's resources on marriage, parenting and difficult relationships.
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May 11, 2011
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (Proverbs 31:13-15, 20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Yesterday, we saw that the first step to loving our family is to build trust. The second step is to serve our family with joy. We are told by many to serve ourselves - not others. The Proverbs 31 woman had every opportunity to live a life of leisure.
She had a prominent husband.
She had a lot of influence.
She was visible and active in the community.
She was in charge of charity events.
But she got up while it was still dark to make breakfast for her family and for those who served her. Proverbs 31:13 tells us she worked with "eager" hands. The literal meaning of "eager" is "in delight or in chosen joy." In other words, she chose to serve with joy, which means we can choose to serve our family with joy as well. Jesus teaches the truth that service is a natural result of love.
Galatians 5:13 "For, dear brothers, you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other."
Yet, many of us find it easier to serve everyone in love except our family. When my husband, Dan, was a youth pastor, we saw a variety of family dynamics. At one church, a young man came to us in tears. I will never forget his words, "My parents are getting a divorce because mom has time for everyone in the world except my dad and me!" Service to those we love and call family should not be a burden. In fact, an attitude of service is contagious. The best way to teach your family to serve is to serve them.
From childhood, making the bed was one of my kids' daily chores. I told them that one day a week, I would make their bed for them. It could be a day when they were running late for school, when they were too tired or didn't feel well. Whatever the reason, I would serve them by making their bed one day a week. One morning, I was running behind and in a hurry to visit my husband who was recovering from an emergency appendectomy. I had been at the hospital day and night for a week and was exhausted. I got up very early, took one look at my bed and decided I just didn't want to make it. I went to take a shower, hoping it would wake me up. When I came out, Danna, our eleven-year-old daughter had made my bed. To love our family, we must serve with joy.
Plan well.
Proverbs 31:15b, 21, 27 (LB) "She plans the day's work. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them. She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household."
Planning prevents chaos. The Proverbs 31 woman was in control of her home and her life. The control came from good planning. She mastered the skill of homemaking before she ever set foot in the workplace. She set her priorities; then arranged her life around them. She didn't allow others to set priorities for her and she did what was important, not just urgent. Have you noticed that the urgent things in life barge in demanding attention while the important things wait to be chosen? We can spend a lifetime on the urgent and miss the most important things God has for us. We must set family priorities because if we don't, the world will.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew what needed to be done and made sure that it was done first and in the right way. She didn't fear winter or the hard times because she was prepared. Family should provide the most satisfying earthly relationships. If it doesn't, the problem may be with our planning. Here are some practical tips for planning:
Budget your time.
Choose one day a week to plan.
Eliminate. Have an "elimination" meeting once a month with your family. Eliminate the things that hurt your family.
Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone.
Delegate. Include everyone in the family in the work as well as the playing.
Simplify. Give up on perfection. It's for heaven - not earth.
Plan well. It demonstrates your love for your family.
Work hard.
Proverbs 31:16-18 (LB) "She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard. She is a hard worker. She works far into the night."
There is nothing lazy about this woman. Laziness should not be part of our character as women of God. The Proverbs 31 woman was busy, but not too busy ...and she was not busy doing the wrong things. Busyness does not always equal productivity. I believe a woman can have it all - a career, a family. I'm just not sure she can have it all at the same time. This woman has a strong sense of who she is and what God created her to be. She has a clear plan for life. And notice she doesn't do all of the work herself. (By the way, this is your Scriptural justification for a maid or as I tell my children,"Why do you think God made kids?") Working together builds a sense of family. In a nationwide survey, thousands of school children were asked, "What makes a happy family?" The most-mentioned key to happiness was "doing things together." Plan family projects and family work days. At the end of the day, order a pizza and rent a movie as a reward. You can build some of your greatest family traditions and memories around work. When our kids were younger, we bought our Christmas tree and put up our Christmas lights every Thanksgiving weekend. While it is a lot of work, it is also a family tradition.
A woman who loves her family is willing to work hard for them and with them, planning well and building trust.
Let's Pray
Father, family is so important to You and I want it to be that important to me as well. Thank You for the family You have given me. I love each one of them and want them to be sure of my love. Please help me love them in ways they can understand. I pray that our family will be filled with trust and become a haven for each family member. Be glorified in our home and in our family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Identify areas of your family life that need to be more structured.
Establish a weekly family meeting to plan and connect as a family.
Use the principles in step three to become a better planner.
Establish a new family tradition that invites every family member to participate.
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I once heard someone say, "Home is the place you go where they have to take you in." I love that statement. And it really is true. Tomorrow, we conclude this study on how to enjoy your family. I pray that it is making a difference in your life and in your family. Remember, your home and family is the best place for God to show up and demonstrate Who He really is. Need help? Check out Mary's resources on marriage, parenting and difficult relationships. If you need help dealing with the pain in your life, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 12, 2011
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says (Proverbs 31:26, TLB).
Friend to Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Over the last two days, we have examined the first steps to loving your family; to build trust, to serve them with joy, to plan well and to work hard. We can also love and enjoy our family by guarding our tongue.
Control your tongue.
The power of the spoken word is great. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative, critical words, we will reap a family that is negative and critical. Look for the good in your family then speak it. Be a cheerleader for your family because everyone needs a cheerleader.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a "date," spending special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was to have her as a daughter. When he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day but a little girl's hungry heart was fed. Do have any hearts like that in your family?
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the great singer who rose to stardom singing with her brother, Richard. At the age of 32, she died unexpectedly of heart failure due to many years of abuse caused by Anorexia. What brought on Karen's fatal obsession with weight control? It seems that a reporter once called her "Richard's chubby sister."
Psalm 141:3 "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips."
Before speaking, ask yourself the following questions.
T is it true
H Is it helpful
I is it inspiring
N is it necessary
K is it kind
Think before you speak. Use the five to one ratio when correcting - five positive remarks to one negative comment. The harder the truth, the more love we should use in saying it. It is our responsibility to use our words to train and instruct our family about the daily things in life, but more importantly, to instruct them about the eternal things. We are very concerned about providing for our children when we need to be more concerned about caring for our children. The greatest care we can give is to disciple them by speaking words of truth. Guard your tongue.
Take care of yourself.
The Proverbs 31 woman certainly did. "She is energetic. Her own clothing is beautifully made--a purple gown of pure linen. She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age" (Proverbs 31:17; 22; 25).
Families are hard work. In order to make our family relationships replenishing, we must be replenished. Psalm 46:10 instructs us to "Be still, and know that I am God." Let'sapply this verse specifically.
Be still, MY MUSCLES, and know God's RELAXATION.
Be still, MY NERVES, and know God's REST.
Be still, MY HEART, and know God's QUIETNESS.
Be still, MY BODY, and know God's RENEWAL.
Be still, MY MIND, and know God's PEACE.
In order to be all that we can be to our families, we must be all that we can be mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. We must be balanced. The Proverbs 31 woman was energetic and hard working for the tasks she was gifted and called to do. Proverbs 31:25 tells us this woman could laugh "at the days to come." The picture here is of a woman who enjoyed her life. She worked hard, but she knew how to stop and plant a vineyard. She liked to shop and watched for bargains. She liked to look beautiful, dressing in purple fine linen.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
We cannot give our heart to God and keep our body for ourselves. When you take care of yourself, you are honoring God and loving your family.
Remember your audience.
The final way to enjoy and love your family is to remember who your audience should be.
Proverbs 31:28-31 "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.' Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
It is easy to run the race of life for the wrong audience. Our audience should be God, our mate, our children and then others. One day we will stand before God as keeper of the family He has loaned to us for a short time. Will He be pleased? Will He say "Well done?" Will our family stand and bless us? Will others say this woman loved and enjoyed her family?
Let's Pray
"Lord, you know my inadequacies. You know my weaknesses, not only in parenting, but in every area of my life. As you broke the fishes and the loaves to feed the five thousand, now take my meager effort and use it to bless my family.
Please make up for the things I did wrong. Satisfy the needs that I have not satisfied. Wrap your great arms around my family and draw them close to you.
And be there when they stand at the great crossroads between right and wrong. All I can give is my best, and I, today, choose to do that. Therefore, I submit to you my family and myself and the job I have done and will do as a wife and mother. The outcome belongs to you." (Author unknown)
Now it's your turn
How would you define "family" in your life?
Which one of the steps covered in this series of devotionals do you need to take in order to have the family God wants you to have?
Set aside time to pray for each family member.
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I truly believe our greatest opportunity to impact the world is the way we love and enjoy family. I pray that you have been blessed by this study. I encourage you to examine your family in light of these principles. Identify one that needs some work and get started. It is never too late to start and it is always too early to give up, girlfriend. And know that Gwen, Sharon and I are right there with you on this journey.
Be sure to check out Mary's resources on marriage, parenting and difficult relationships. If you need help dealing with the pain in your life, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study,How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 13, 2011
Practice Makes Progress
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
In the night, LORD, I remember your name, that I may keep your law. This has been my practice: I obey your precepts. You are my portion, LORD; I have promised to obey your words.
(Psalm 119:55-57)
Friend to Friend
I'm a sporty girl – always have been. I love to power walk and keep fit. I grew up playing lots of different athletic games – from basketball to softball – but volleyball has always been my sport of choice. I just love the game. I love the quick pace, the strength and agility demands, and the team component of the matches.
In college, I had the opportunity to play volleyball, and now that I'm a mom I coach my daughter's team. I've been around this game for more than twenty-five years and I've spent more time on the court, on the sand, and on the grass playing and practicing than most people ever will. You'd think that after all the hours invested I'd have the game perfected by now, right? Not hardly.
There are still times when I shank a pass – when it flies off my arms wildly in the wrong direction. I still have spike attempts that send the ballinto the net instead of over the net. There are still times when I miss a serve. Each mistake frustrates me. Seriously. I'm competitive and I hate to lose. I hate to make mistakes and I almost always think I should've played better than I actually did. No matter how much I've grown as a player since I first picked up a volleyball, I've come to realize that when I step on the court there will always be frustrating shanked passes that fly off my arms and there will always be opportunities for me to grow and progress in my skills. Simple as that.
And you know what? I've found the same to be true in my prayer life.
Do you remember that old saying "practice makes perfect?" Well, I think it's a bunch of beans! I recently heard a phrase that better represents the reality of growth and development: practice makes progress. Whether we're talking about our development as athletes, as students, as a wives, as employees, or simply as women of faith – specifically, as women of prayer – we are all purposed for growth until we die.
The truth that the apostle Paul wrote about in Romans 7 still remains: we don't do what we should do and we do what we shouldn't. Whew! I can so relate. Prayer, I'm afraid, is one of the "don't dos" for many of us. We all seem to know how important it is to trust God with our burdens, but many of us neglect this important discipline.
Do you ever go the phone before you go to the throne? Yeah – me too. There are times when I fail to trust God with my prayers. And though I've been faith-walking with Him a long time, there are still a million ways that I need to grow. There will always be ways for us to grow and there will always be mistakes for us to work through.
Our relationship with God will grow as we continually turn to Him in prayer. Similarly, our trust in God grows as our relationship with Him grows. "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you," (John 15:15). Jesus counts us as his "friends". How many of us would talk to our close friends as infrequently as we talk to Jesus, our Creator and Redeemer?
Of course, it's not like we can ignore the world around us and pray 24/7. Right? We are still going to go to work, have playtime, time with friends and family, but in the midst of it all, Scripture instructs us to: "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you," (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Our practice of this continual praying life will increase our progress in faith and in trusting God. This can translate into prayers of thankfulness and petition during our power walks, our time in the carpool line, while we wash our laundry and our lunch breaks. We can redeem these times to thank God for and pray for our children, our careers, our futures, our marriages, our trials and our challenges. When we "do life" with God – when we exercise this spiritual discipline of continuous prayer – our faith grows. It helps us to trust Him more.
Jesus was the only perfect man and He turned to our Father continually. He gave thanks for food when He prayed over the loaves and fishes that became a miracle (Matthew 14:16-21), He took his sorrows to God in the garden before His massacre (Matthew 26:39), He prayed for His friends (John 17:6-19), for Himself (John 17:1-5) and for future believers (John 17:20-26). Jesus also modeled how we should pray (Luke 11:1-13), and taught about prayer (Matthew 6:5-15). If Jesus, the God of the Universe, saw prayer as such an important part of the Christian life, why do we sometimes overlook the importance of it? We need to make time to turn to Him and trust Him with our daily concerns, big and small.
A strong volleyball team is one that relies on each other in the game. As Christians, we have the advantage. We have God on our team. And with God on our team, we cannot fail. Seriously. If God is for us, who can stand against us? We just need to talk to Him and trust him, rather than trying to play the game of life on our own. We have to remember that practice makes progress! We will learn to trust as we practice trusting the Lord through prayer.
Let's Pray
Dear God, That You would choose to call me friend is simply amazing! Thank you that though I'm not perfect, your grace allows me to progress in faith! Please forgive me for the times when I go about my day and "do life" without You. Help me to continuously pray and to trust You with my burdens.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
How would you rate your prayer life on a scale from 1-10?
Where would you like your prayer life to rank on that same scale?
Are you willing to do anything about it? If so, what? If not, why?
Consider connecting with a girlfriend today and ask her to be your prayer/accountability partner. Then connect regularly with each other to share prayer burdens, pray with each other and hold one another accountable.
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C.S. Lewis said this of prayer, "Prayer in the sense of petition, asking for things, is a small part of it; confession and penitence are its threshold, adoration its sanctuary, the presence and vision and enjoyment of God its bread and wine." As you embark to progress in this prayer discipline, I encourage you to move from confession, to adoration, to thanksgiving and end with your petitions (personal prayer needs).
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May 16, 2011
Resting in the Palm
Sharon Jaynes
In Celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon's devotion will focus on motherhood
Today's Truth
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A few years ago, I fell in love with a beach cottage named "Barb's Folly." I adored the designer beach décor of periwinkle blue, yellow stripes and floral patterns, the screened in porch that hugged the back of the house, the inviting dark green rocking chairs, and the weatherworn dock jutting out over the lazy canal. As if imported from England, a six-foot square of grass was nestled in one corner of the yard framed by a white picket fence. The secret garden was complete with fuchsia myrtle bushes in full bloom, a beckoning weathered bench, and a cozy bird house with a half dozen portals. Seemingly out of place, owners had transplanted a palm tree just inches from the second story screened in porch and encircled by the wooden steps that led to the dock.
On our first night at "Barb's Folly" we rocked on the porch and watched fire flies dance on the moonlit canal. As if to light a lone actor on a stage, a moonbeam fell across the palm tree and revealed a gentle stirring in its plume. When I moved closer, I discovered a turtledove had built her nest at the top of the thatched tree trunk, where the palm branches sprouted upward. Because we were on the second story, we were at eye level with Mrs. Turtle Dove. As I moved closer to her, she didn't budge, but sat steadfast in her perch.
Early the next morning, before the rest of the house guests stirred, I went on the porch to spend some time with God. Mrs. Turtle Dove was there to greet me. I watched her. She watched me. Our eyes locked. We both blinked. A few moments later, Mr. Turtle Dove flew in and perched on the nearby railing. The couple exchanged coos and then he flew over to his beloved. When she stood up to welcome him, I noticed two tiny eggs peeking out from under the stubble. It seems this was Mother's Morning Out and Daddy bird was here to watch over the soon to be little ones. The momma bird flew away and daddy took over the incubation and protection of their eggs. After a brief time, the momma bird returned and daddy bird went off to work for the rest of the day.
During our entire vacation, this momma bird did one thing and one thing only, she rested in the palm, warming and protecting her two tiny charges. On the afternoon when a violent storm blew through with loud claps of thunder, crackling flashes of lightening, and pelting sheets of rain, she sat undaunted by the storm and unmoved as the trees bent in the nautical winds. When the children ran up and down the stairs inches from her nest and leaned over the railing to get a better took, she appeared unalarmed by the stir of activity. While other birds such as cranes, pelicans and seagulls performed great feats, swooped gracefully into the water, and strutted about parading their showy display, her feathers were not ruffled but continued undeterred in her calling.
On the last morning of our vacation, I was enjoying a final cup of coffee on the back porch and once again relishing in quiet time with God and His creation. Of course, Mrs. Turtle Dove was there to join me.
"God," I asked, "I know You put this bird here for a reason. What do you want me to learn from watching her this week? I don't want to miss it."
Then God spoke to my heart. It was contentment. I was watching a picture of contentment in fulfilling God's call. She was doing what God had made her to do for this season of her life, and she was intent and content in doing it. Regardless of the storms, regardless of what seemingly showy birds were doing, regardless of the endless stream of activity passing by her nest, regardless of the stares or others, she was unmoved from her task at hand.
"Is that it, Lord? Is that what You want me to see?"
Just as I prayed those words, Mr. Turtle Dove flew in for his daily visit. When his lady dove stood up to greet him, I noticed a piece of eggshell attached to her leg. She flew away with much excitement, and then I noticed a change in her nest. There lay two tiny downy hatchlings. The eggs had hatched and it was as if God was saying to me, Yes, Sharon. That's it. This has been my gift to you this week. Through my creation, you have seen a contented mother and the results of her commitment. You do what I've called you to do. Rest in the palm – of My hand. Don't get distracted by the world around you: the storms of life, the endless stream of activity, other seemingly more glamorous "birds." Be relentless in your call. In due time, I will cause your "eggs to hatch" and all too soon they will leave the nest.
About that time, my six-foot-one teenage son sleepily stumbled out onto the porch. I'm not sure if he saw the tears in my eyes as I looked at his ruffled hair, sleepy eyes, and face that needed a shave.
"Hey Buddy," I said. "Look. The eggs hatched today."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for speaking to us through Your creation. Just as Jesus taught spiritual lessons through nature's examples, You continue to speak to us through what You have made. Help us not to miss Your fingerprints on the pages of our lives.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now it's your turn
If you are a mother of children still in the nest, do you find yourself longing to do what others are doing in ministry, the workplace, the community?
Which do you think is more important?
Ponder this quote today.
No other success in life – not being President, or being wealthy, or going to college, or writing a book, or anything else – comes up to the success of the man or woman who can feel that they have done their duty and that their children and grandchildren rise up and call them blessed. - President Theodore Roosevelt
Has God spoken to you through nature? I'd love to hear your story! Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share it with your girlfriends.
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Being a mom is not an easy task. If it were, it wouldn't start with something calledlabor! If you would like a hefty dose of encouragement, just for moms, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. And if you'd like a collection of Sharon's devotions to jump start your day, you can find them inExtraordinary Moments with God.
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May 17, 2008
The Spiritual Cancer
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble" (James 4:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
C.S. Lewis called pride a "spiritual cancer" that devours love and contentment. Pride is a sign of our own insecurity and feelings of inferiority. Pride and inferiority are actually opposite sides of the same coin and are both sin, a preoccupation with self that leaves little room for God's spirit of humility.
We all struggle with pride and must constantly battle the tendency to measure every circumstance and relationship against the narcissistic viewpoint of "What's in it for me?" Pride has no place in the life of a Christian because pride steps between God and us. To think that God stands in opposition against prideful people is a strong and sobering statement that should send us all running to the place of humility. Because He is a loving Father, God opposes pride, in part, for what it does to His children. "Pride will destroy a person; a proud attitude leads to ruin. It is better to be humble and be with those who suffer than to share stolen property with the proud" (Proverbs 16:18-19). Learning to deal with pride is an important and essential part of spiritual growth.
Pride will prevent us from seeing others as God sees them. Pride will hold us back from laying down our expectations and rights in order to reach out to those who cross our path. Pride will slowly erode the humble spirit God so wants to see in His people and in their relationships. I suspect that a good dose of humility would cure many of our failing marriages, broken family relationships and struggling friendships. Then the question becomes, how can we eliminate pride and prevent it from carving out a destructive stronghold from which relationship problems arise. The answer is found in a passage of scripture written by the apostle Paul and directed to the church in Rome.
Romans 12:3 -6;10 "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Paul certainly understood what it meant to struggle with pride. Before his encounter with Christ, Paul had been a man of great arrogance. After all, he was a power broker in the Roman government as well as a highly regarded and chief persecutor of anyone following Jesus Christ. Little did Paul know what the road to Damascus held for him that day when God interrupted Paul's life with His blinding love and His unparalleled power. Everything changed. Paul became a humble man, the walking definition of a servant, delighting in his new role of striving to be last among the least. Paul understood that he was a trophy of grace; that his heart had been captured by grace and his life completely transformed in the process. God's grace was Paul's starting place and finish line and the very reason Paul was so humble and so powerful. It is such a paradox in God's economy of life that in order to be strong we must choose weakness and in order to be first we must be content with last.
The amazing truth is that grace is ours for the asking. God stands ready to pour His priceless grace into every heart and soul while watching grace work to generate an unexplainable peace, eternal life, unending joy, and freedom from sin through unconditional love. Grace offers us the riches of God, at the expense of Jesus Christ and His death on the cross.
Pride's goal is to make us independent of God, duping us into believing that we are in control of our own fate and are able to call our own shots. What audacity we possess as humans to think we can live life on our own when, whether we admit it or not, we are totally dependent on God and even our very next breath is a gift from His hand. Pride convinces us that we can play God, worshipping ourselves while erecting false idols shrouded in rebellion and sin. Pride is the universal religion of hell and a deadly poison. It's antidote? Grace.
A friend told me about a new product she found listed online. "Disposable Guilt Bags" first appeared in a few select stores to test the market. I could have told the inventor that guilt exists in abundance and that people will go to any lengths to assuage their guilt. My friend explained that you could buy a set of Disposable Guilt Bags, ten ordinary brown bags on which were printed the following instructions: "Place the bag securely over your mouth then take a deep breath and blow out all of your guilt. Close the bag and dispose of immediately." The amazing part of this story is that the Associated Press reported that over 2500 kits had sold immediately at $2.50 per kit.
Nothing on this earth is powerful enough to erase guilt. We try to "fix" ourselves but fail. The only power that makes it possible to be forgiven is God's grace. "In Christ we are set free by the blood of his death. And so we have forgiveness of sins because of God's rich grace" (Ephesians 1:7). When our lives are lived against the backdrop of grace, pride will die from a lack of attention.
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive my arrogant heart. I am so sorry for the pride I see in my life. Today, I ask You to search my heart and destroy the strongholds of pride and ego. Help me to recognize prideful thoughts and actions in my life. Give me the discernment to be honest and transparent before You and before others. I, too, am a trophy of grace. Help me to live like one.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Read the following verses and answer each question:
Psalm 10:4"In his pride the wicked does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God" (NIV). How does pride affect our relationship with God? Is this true in your life?
Proverbs 16:5"The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished" (NIV). What is God's attitude toward those who are proud?
Psalm 40:4"Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods" (NIV). How does pride encourage idolatry? Do you have any idols in your life? Name them and eliminate them.
What decision do you need to make today in order to choose grace over pride? What would that look like in your daily life?
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May 26, 2011
If You Want Joy ... Real Joy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" (John 10:10, NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus lived and died so that we can experience abundant life, a life exuding joy, a life so full that others crave to know the source of that fullness. Jesus did not come so that we can merely survive life. Pagans can survive life. Jesus came to be our joy.
I came across this quote: "Joy is the flag that flies above the castle of our hearts indicating that the King reigns within." If that is true, then why are so many women living lives with little or no joy? I'm afraid that we have bought the lies of the enemy, allowing him to steal our joy. Discouragement, weariness, disillusionment, shattered dreams and unrealized goals are some of his favorite weapons, but the truth is that the enemy can only use what we allow him to use.
It is time for us to reclaim surrendered ground. Do you sometimes think you are fighting the same old battles you have been fighting for years? I do. Clinging to familiar pain, we find our identity there. Consumed with our own agenda, joy is buried under a mountain of self.
Joy is not the result of outward circumstances. Joy is an inside job, a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. Every trial or loss, every defeat or victory measured against this confidence can be counted as joy.
The Apostle Paul was a man of great joy. By human terms, he had every right to be angry and even bitter. Persecuted, imprisoned and facing His own death, Paul says, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:12-12, NIV).
The expression, "Have a good day" is a common greeting. I heard about one woman who, when told to have a good day, responded, "Thanks, but I have other plans." Sound familiar? We rise to face each day with a perspective of pending doom instead of the certain joy that is ours through Jesus Christ. God created the world in a process of one day at a time. At the end of each day, He examined his work and announced: "It is good!" We, too, can learn to see the good in each day. We can learn to be joyful. How?
Check your heart.
"My heart and my flesh sing for joy to the living God" (Psalm 84:2, NAS).
In this verse, "heart" literally means "body and soul" or "whole being." In other words, what's down in the well comes up in the bucket. Real joy is found in and flows from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. God's very presence in our lives is His eternal reminder that Jesus died on a cross, rose from the grave and is coming again. Have you turned your heart and life over to Jesus?
Choose to rejoice.
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything" (James 1:2, NIV).
We cannot avoid pain but we can avoid joy. The pursuit of joy is a matter of choice. Our inward perspective does not have to reflect our outward circumstances. We can choose joy!
A little boy was overheard talking to himself as he strutted through the backyard, a baseball cap on his head, ball and bat in hand. He was muttering, "I'm the greatest hitter in the world!" Then he tossed the ball in the air, swung at it and missed. "Strike one!" He picked up the ball, threw it into the air and said to himself, "I'm the greatest hitter ever!" He swung at the ball again. "Strike two!" He paused, examined his bat and ball and threw the ball into the air, missing a third time. He cried out, "Wow! I'm the greatest pitcher in the world!"
Yes, the pursuit of joy is a matter of choice and perspective. It is also a matter of obedience. As Christians, one of our spiritual priorities should be joy.
"One ship sails east.
One ship sails west.
Regardless of how the winds blow,
It is the set of the sail
And not the gale
That determines the way we go."
(Author unknown)
Set your sails for joy, girlfriend! Celebrate! Revel in who God is, in what He has done, is doing and will do in your life when you choose joy.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You with praise in my heart and on my lips. Forgive me when I doubt You and what You are doing in my life. Please help me to walk by faith – not by sight. Teach me to see my daily life through Your eyes and show me how to walk in Your joy.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
How would you define joy? Would the people who know you best describe you as a woman of joy?
Read Psalm 16:11. "Being with You will fill me with joy." What does this verse say to you about the connection between God's presence and a life of joy?
What is blocking the flow of God's joy in your life? Is it a sin you need to confess? A relationship you need to make right? A step of obedience you need to take? Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what action you need to take to experience the joy of the Lord.
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You were created for joy. I know that life can be painful but God's plan for an abundant life takes that pain into account. Need help? Check out Mary's CD, Laugh More ... Live Better. Also available in E-Bible Studyand MP3 download.
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May 27, 2011
Keep Watch!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith... (1 Peter 5:8-9a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was really excited that evening because I actually had a fun dinner plan ... which is not always the case. There was some grilled chicken left over from dinner the night before, so I decided to bust out my griddle and whip up some yummy grilled chicken quesadillas – a simple, yet very popular Smith-family delicacy. I know: it's a crazy-easy make, but for some reason my kids think I'm a genius when quesadillas are on the menu. Go figure.
I grabbed a knife, a chopping board, and the leftover chicken from the fridge. Minutes later, the chicken was ready for it's cheese and tortilla companions. While the griddle was heating up, I turned my attention to a few other family matters. I don't even remember what those matters were. It might have been a buzzer, noising from laundry room – alerting me of dry clothes that needed hung. I might have turned away to set the table or perhaps I had to intervene between my children who perpetually struggle to keep their hands to themselves. Whatever it was that drew my attention away from dinner prep was innocent – normal stuff – nothing out of the ordinary.
When I turned back to the business of quesadilla making, confusion gripped me as an empty cutting board glared at me. With an eyebrow raised quizzically, I asked my husband if he had moved my chicken.
"No Honey. I haven't touched your chicken." He replied, with a twinkle in his eye.
Hmmmmm. A chicken mystery. How odd.
I grew a bit anxious and quickly began to interview each of my children, "Did you take the chicken off the cutting board?"
"No Mom. I didn't touch the chicken." They said one after another.
I wondered, "If I didn't move the chicken and my family didn't move the chicken, then where is my chicken?" I looked around the room once more just to be sure that I hadn't simply placed the chicken somewhere else.
Then I saw it ... a look of guilt. A look that screamed and pleaded, "Yes! I took your chicken, but please don't be angry with me. It smelled so good and ... and ... I'm a big dog – I need my nourishment. Was it wrong? Okay. I know it was wrong. Please forgive me. I did it. I ate your chicken. I'm sorry. I'd like to go to my crate now..."
His ears lowered as my eyes met his. My brows furrowed. "Rocky! YOU ate my chicken! Bad dog!" I lamented in frustration as I began to make a new dinner plan...
Rocky's just a dog. He's not out to get me and he didn't mean to mess up our dinner plans, but he did prey on our family meal that night. He came and took what wasn't his because I had let my guard down. I wasn't watching over my chicken.
As believers in Jesus Christ, you and I must guard our hearts and watch over our homes. The Bible warns Christians to keep watch. Beyond things seen, there are spiritual battles taking place around us continually. If you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, then you have an enemy and his name is Satan. If you live to listen to the voice of Jesus, the Good Shepherd, then strap on your battle gear, girlfriend, because your enemy has a mission to destroy you. Beware!
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 10, Jesus identified himself as the exclusive way to our salvation – as the Gate for the sheep of God – as the One who loves, leads and rescues us. In John 10:10, Jesus warns that though His plan for us is protection, love and help, the enemy ... Satan ... "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full."
The Bible has a lot to say about this. It tells us time and time again to be alert to the schemes of Satan. To keep watch. "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith..."(1 Peter 5:8-9a, NIV).
Though we have an enemy with a real plan to mess with our emotions, our health, our marriages, our children, our relationships and our thoughts, we are not without help or hope. We have both. God's power and protection are readily available to believers, 24/7. "But the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and protect you from the evil one" (2 Thessalonians 3:3, NIV).
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people" (Ephesians 6:10-18, NIV).
I was caught off guard the night that my dog took the chicken off my counter, and there have been times when I've been caught off guard in the midst of spiritual battles. As Christian women, let's remember to keep watch – over our hearts, our minds, and our homes. Let's purpose to proactively pray for protection, power and perseverance. May we always keep watch.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all-powerful and mighty to save. I praise you and delight in your plan for me to have abundant life through Jesus. Please cover me in Your Spirit today and equip me to fend off attacks from the enemy in your power and help.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
What came to your mind/heart as you read this devotion? Can you identify an area where you feel the enemy is attacking you? Grab your journal and write about it. Pray for specific people and relationships that you feel need protection.
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May 30, 2011
Not Guilty
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
And I will ask the Father and He will give you another Counselor, to be with you forever – the Spirit of truth (John 14:16-17 NIV).
Friend to Friend
During Jesus' last supper with his disciples, He reassured them that He would not leave them as orphans. He said, "And I will ask the Father and He will give you another Counselor, to be with you forever – the Spirit of truth" (John 14:15). The Greek word which is also translated Helper (NASB) and Comforter (KJV), isparakletos and means a "person summoned to one's aid." Originally it was a term used in a court of justice to denote a legal assistant, counsel for the defense, an advocate; then, generally, one who pleads another's cause, an intercessor.
I love the image of the Holy Spirit representing me in a court of law. Satan is called the accuser and he accuses us day and night (Revelation 12:10). He points His gnarly finger in our faces and says things like, "You aren't a very good Christian." "Jesus doesn't really love you." "You were a mistake when you were born." "You've really blown it this time." "What makes you any different now than before you accepted Christ?" "I don't see much fruit in your life." "You're a pitiful excuse as a wife, as a mother, as a child of God," etc.
Now tell me, have you ever thought any of those words before? Perhaps you've always assumed they were your own musings. That's exactly what Satan wants you to believe, and he does a pretty good job at making us believe them. They sound like us, it feels like us, but those words are from the accuser himself. It is always amazing to me that while I might have trouble hearing God's voice, Satan's usually comes through loud and clear.
On the other hand, the Holy Spirit is our counselor, our attorney, who comes along side us and repeats, "Not guilty! Not guilty! Not guilty!" He says, "No jail time! You, my child, have been set free!"
Now, who are you going to believe?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are many days when I feel guilty. I know now that it is Satan who tries to make me feel guilty and whispers accusing thoughts into my head. Thank You that Jesus died on the cross to pay the penalty for my sin so that I can walk in freedom and live for eternity in heaven with You.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel guilty because of past sin?
Have you asked God to forgive you for those mistakes?
If so, have you accepted God's forgiveness or are you listening to the lies of Satan that continue to taunt you?
Who are you going to listen to? Are you going to listen to God who says you are forgiven or Satan who says you are guilty?
If you've never accepted Christ as Your Savior, click on this video link and let Sharon lead you through the steps. www.jesusforwomen.com
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May 31, 2011
The Beatitudes of Anger Management Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend to Friend
Everyone has to deal with anger. The challenge is to deal with anger in the right way. Anger is powerful - an emotional warning that something is wrong. We have been hurt or rejected. Something has changed and we don't like it!
Anger itself is not sin. We just have to learn to express anger in the right way. Mishandled anger is destructive but anger that is handled correctly can become a tool for good. God's Word is filled with tips for learning to handle anger in a healthy and godly way.
Be still.
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
If we are busy, it is much easier to ignore or refuse to face and deal with the real source of anger. Anger that is not dealt with in the right way accumulates over time, allowing bitterness to take root and rage to simmer just below the surface of everything we do, say, think or feel. In order to manage anger, we need to incorporate frequent and regular "stops" into our schedules; time set aside to simply be still and hear the voice of God.
Be quiet.
James 1:19-20 "Everyone should be slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Our first response to conflict is often not a response at all ... but a reaction. We jump in with a brutal rebuttal or a thoughtless correction – which is like pouring gasoline on a fire. An explosion is bound to happen. Our first action should be to stop and think instead of rushing to respond in a way that could escalate tensions or provoke an offensive response from others. Listen to the other person before responding. Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.
Be wise.
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down, is a man who lacks self-control."
Wisdom is doing the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Anger management comes from wisdom rooted in self-control. I love the story of Jesus driving the money-changers out of His Father's temple. In John 2:15, Scripture says Jesus "made a whip out of cords." Don't miss this picture. At the height of His anger, Jesus gathered several cords and braided a whip. I imagine it took several minutes at least to form a whip substantial enough to drive grown men anywhere. I think Jesus was so angry that He knew He needed to cool off, so He deliberately chose to be still, quiet and wise. When we are close to losing control of anger, we need to be wise.
Be discerning.
Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin ... search your hearts and be silent."
The longer I work with people the more I realize that there is always a reason for their behavior. Hurt people – hurt people. When you are angry at someone, ask yourself why. Think back to what led up to the conflict. Was it something someone said to you? Has a past problem triggered your present anger? Give yourself time to consider why you are upset and what you should do to handle it in a way that pleases God.
God created us with the capacity for emotions. That means He has a right plan and a right place for emotions in our lives. Anger management is a spiritual discipline that God honors, blesses and empowers. Tomorrow, we will look at four more ways God gives us to control anger.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I allow anger to control what I say and do. I want to honor You in the way I manage my emotions – especially the anger in my life. Fill my heart with Your peace. Help me cultivate the spiritual discipline of anger management and learn how to control my emotions instead of allowing them to control me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Evaluate the level of anger in your life. Would people who know you well describe you as an angry person? Identity the source of your anger; then make the commitment to face and deal with whatever is causing your anger. Review each anger management tip. Which one jumps out at you as a starting point for learning to control anger in your life? Read and memorize the verse of Scripture listed with that tip. Pray – asking God to show you the steps you need to take today to manage the anger in your life. Record your thoughts and the truths God gives you in your journal.
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Learning how to control our emotions is an important step in our spiritual maturity. If you need help in controlling anger, check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Anger Management 911. Don't miss Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study Under the Influence...of Lovebeginning June 6. Learn five powerful steps you can take to forgive and love your enemies. Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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June 1, 2011
The Beatitudes of Anger Management
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend To Friend
A minister was making a wooden trellis to support a climbing vine. As he was pounding away, he noticed a little boy watching him. The youngster didn't say a word so the preacher kept on working, thinking the boy would leave – but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admire, the pastor finally asked, "Trying to pick up some pointers on gardening?" The little boy said, "Nope. I'm just waiting to hear what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer."
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons and anger puts the squeeze on our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for strong emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. Yesterday, we looked at four ways to manage anger. Here are four more:
Be focused.
Psalm 37:8 "Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil."
I witnessed the utter strength and beauty of our daughter-in-law as she went through hours of labor during the birth of our twin grandchildren. The pain was excruciating, but Jodi worked through each contraction by doing two things: controlling her breathing and choosing a focus point. We need to do the same when we are angry. Take a deep breath and focus on the peace of God.
Be understanding.
James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen."
We have two ears and one mouth for a reason—to listen twice as much as we speak. When you find yourself getting angry with someone, take time to listen to what the other person has to say. Make sure you understand their viewpoint. In fact, it might be a good idea for you to repeat it back to make sure you do get the real point. Only then, when you have processed that information and reigned in your emotions, should you offer a reply. Listening for the purpose of understanding plays a significant role in anger management.
Be kind.
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
It had been one of "those" mornings and I was behind schedule in preparing to teach the women's Tuesday morning Bible study at our church. I am fairly certain I did not exude peace and joy as I rushed around. Finally, it looked like everything was ready – everything except my heart. I knew I needed to spend some time alone with God before standing to teach His Word, so I found a quiet room where I could escape for a few minutes of solitude. As I began to pray, the door flew open and crashed against the wall behind it as the husband of one of our group leaders burst into the room. I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy and that whatever was wrong was definitely my fault. In a very loud and very angry voice, the man began to explain the problem, ending his tirade with the question, "And just what are you going to do about it?" I knew what I wanted to say to the man. I also knew God didn't want me to say it. In a rare moment of wisdom, I faced my accuser with a smile and whispered, "I'll tell you exactly what I am going to do. I am going to do whatever it takes to make you happy."
I was completely unprepared for the man's reaction. His mouth fell open, his eyes widened in surprise - no, make that shock - and he stumbled backwards as if I had hit him. We stared at each other for what seemed like an hour before he finally whispered back, "Thank you." Without another word, the man turned and literally ran out of the room. The most amazing part of this story is that from that day on, he has been one of my strongest encouragers.
The next time someone makes you angry, put a smile on your face. It is hard to stay upset when you are smiling. Smiling is one of the best anger management tips because you can do it anytime, almost anywhere, and to pretty much anyone. The next time you are angry, choose to give a friendly smile of understanding, appreciation, or patience as you listen to the other side of the story.
Be ready.
1 Peter 5:8 "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour."
The best way to manage anger is to prevent it in the first place. How? Balance your schedule and priorities so that you will not live in a constant state of frustration and exhaustion. Avoid spending time with angry people. Proverbs 22:24 says, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man; do not associate with one easily angered." We really do become like the people with whom we spend the most time. Pray constantly, asking the Holy Spirit to help you cultivate the habits that encourage peace – not anger. Memorize Scripture. The Word of God is a powerful weapon in dealing with and managing our emotions.
Anger is today's emotional epidemic. What does it take to make you angry? Do you have a short fuse or a long one? How many relationships in your life have been damaged by your anger? Remember ... more important than the way you were and more important than the way you are ... is the way you can be. Right now, surrender your anger to God and thank Him for a new beginning.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your power and strength to help me control my anger. Forgive me for the damage and pain my anger has caused the people in my life. I want my emotional health to honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review all of the anger management tips we have explored. How can you plug these tips into your daily life? I encourage you to recruit a girlfriend who will hold you accountable for the way you handle anger. Check in with her once a week. Be honest and open about your anger level. Journal your thoughts ... the truths God gives you ... the progress you make.
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Learning how to control our emotions is an important step in our spiritual maturity. If you need help in controlling anger, check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Anger Management 911.
Don't miss Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study Under the Influence...of Lovebeginning June 6. Learn five powerful steps you can take to forgive and love your enemies. Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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June 2, 2011
Drifting
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away from it" (Hebrews 2:1 NASB).
Friend To Friend
It was supposed to be a sailing adventure for Loran and his youth group at Central Church. His friend procured three sailing vessels that resembled the Niña,Pinta and the Santa Maria. I'm not sure how much they looked like the ships that came across the Atlantic with the pilgrims, but they seemed just about as old.
When they left the dock, the sky was blue, the wind was brisk, and the teenagers were ready to ford the sea. However, by nightfall, a threatening gale blew in and the rolling waves grew to fifteen foot walls of water, tossing the tiny boats like toys in a toddlers tub.
"Loran," the captain said, "This storm could mean big trouble for us. You're going to have to stay up all night and hold the wheel steady to keep the boat on course."
So all-night, Loran fought the storm. He kept alert. He prayed to the One who calms the seas and kept his eyes on the sailboats in front of him, one of which held two of his most prized possessions: his daughters. Hundreds of times, the boat shot straight into the air and then dashed into the inky water. But Loran held fast. It was a battle he was determined to win.
In the wee hours of the morning, the wind and rains came to a halt. The storm had passed, and once again the boats cut a smooth path across the glassy sea. Everyone was exhausted from the rollicking of the night before, so the team decided to look for a lagoon to drop anchor and rest. One was found, and the three sailing vessels stopped for a few hours of rest and relaxation in the safety of the cove.
Loran jumped into the cool crystal blue water and suddenly realized how tired he was from the struggle of the night before. He turned over on his back, closed his burning eyes, and began to float. Slowly the knots in his neck and back began to unwind and tension escaped from his aching muscles. The noises of the teens playing in the water were soon muffled and the only sound he heard was water splashing against his skin and the occasional call of a sea gull. He was so relaxed he almost drifted off to sleep as his body drifted out to sea.
After some time, Loran looked up and noticed that he had drifted a great distance away from the rest of his party. They were playing happily in the water and had no idea Loran was gone.
"OK, Lord. Help me get back," he prayed.
Loran swam and swam, fighting the water with all his might, but the receding tide was stronger than he was. After what seemed like a lifetime, Loran was still a mile or so from his friends and family.
"Help!" he cried. But no one heard his distant cry.
"Oh God! Don't let me die now."
Somehow, Loran finally made it back to the boat alive. As he lay panting on the deck, he realized a great truth. Over the past twenty-four hours, he had been in great danger two times - once battling the storm and the other drifting out to sea. But of the two, he was in more danger when he was carelessly drifting along than he was when he was alert and standing fast.
God spoke to me by Loran's story. Paul tells us in Hebrews 2:1 "For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away from it." Carelessly drifting can be a dangerous business, but storms keep us alert and ready at the helm. I need to be alert at all times, and be careful not to drift aimlessly along but listen as God speaks to me through the course of life.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, help me to always be alert. I know that the devil roams around like a roaring lion looking for those who are aimlessly drifting through life. He sneaks in when we least expect it. Help me never get so comfortable with my life that I drift aimlessly along rather than stay alert to the changing winds and tides – holding fast to You in the storms of life and in the calm seasons as well. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you were caught off guard by a temptation or by the devil?
How would you describe your spiritual life at the time...alert and on course or drifting?
What do you think could have made the difference in your ability to see the temptation coming?
I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion. Log onto www.facebook.com and share how to stay spiritually alert.
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June 3, 2011
Holy Adonai
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Then said I, Woe is me! For I am undone and ruined, because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts!" Isaiah 6:5 (Amplified Bible)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever been 'undone' before the LORD? Have you shaken your head in awe at the mere thought of being accepted as holy in His sight? The prophet Isaiah experienced God in His splendor, through a vision that left him flat-out speechless.
"In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord seated on a throne, high and exalted, and the train of his robe filled the temple. Above Him were seraphs, each with six wings: With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they were flying. And they were calling to one another:
"Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory."
At the sound of their voices the doorposts and thresholds shook and the temple was filled with smoke. "Woe to me!" I cried. "I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the LORD Almighty" (Isaiah 6:1-5).
I shudder to think how often I approach this awesome, powerful, holy LORD without the reverence that is due Him. I confess that every fiber of my being should fall before Him and shout, "I am undone!" so much more than I actually do. Isaiah's response takes us to the place we should be ...face down before our holy, royal, heavenly King.
As a worship leader, I often find myself torn between the calling to lead people into God's holy presence and feelings of unworthiness. The fact of the matter is – I am unworthy of the call. I mess up on a regular basis. At times I behave selfishly, at times I allow anger to get the better of me ... honestly, the list could go on and on. BUT GOD, through His only Son Jesus Christ, made a way for me to be holy and acceptable in His sight. How amazing is that? How amazing is His love? He made a ways for each of us to be forgiven! When we place our faith in Jesus Christ, confess our sins and ask to be forgiven, the Bible tells us that God forgives our sins. (1 John 1:9) Not only does God forgive our sins, but He looks upon us as holy because of Jesus! Oh, friend, we have so much to be thankful for!
With the weight of this in mind, I was inspired to write a worship song called "Holy Adonai." Adonaiis a Hebrew name for God meaning "Master, Lord, LORD, or owner."
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My dear friend, I can't help but join the heavenly creatures as I shout from my home in North Carolina to you across the globe: "Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory." As you read this devotion in Maine, Florida, Pennsylvania, Texas, Idaho, California, New York, Indiana, Brazil, Guatemala, Germany, India, Uganda, Croatia, Australia, China or Norway. In whatever city, whatever state, whatever country you reside, would you join heaven's song and lift the name of the LORD high today as a united body of sisters? Let us be 'undone' together and bow before our King with a renewed awe of His greatness. He is worthy!
Let's Pray
Most Holy Father, Adonai, I pray that You would forgive me for all the times that I have come into Your presence lacking reverence. You are worthy of all praise! May You become greater in my life and may I become less. Empower me to live a life that points to your glorious splendor. Thank you, Lord!
In the matchless name of my risen Savior Jesus Christ,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 103.
Take a few moments to hum or sing a favorite worship song that focuses on the awesomeness of God. (Here are some suggestions: "I Exalt Thee" – "Heart of Worship" – "How Great Is Our God" – "How Great Thou Art" – "Fairest Lord Jesus" – "Doxology")
Do you feel unworthy to approach God's throne this morning because of sin? His love is unconditional and His grace extends beyond anything you have done because of Jesus. Ask the Lord to forgive you. Pray. He is waiting with open arms to embrace you right now. Go to Him!
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Hey friend. I hope you were spurred on to greater thoughts of God through this devotion. To worship at home with the song "Holy Adonai," download it from iTunes or order a copy of Gwen's BECAUSE CD from her website.
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June 6, 2011
Who Knows ... Maybe a Miracle is Coming Your Way
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me!" (Matthew 15:22 NIV)
Friend To Friend
Belva held her twitching daughter in her arms. With eyes rolled back and thrashing limbs, the child convulsed on the earthen floor.
"Oh Mara," the distraught mother cried. "When will this ever end?"
For years little Mara had violently convulsed in predictable synchronized intervals.The child often cried out in loud screeching voices, threw herself against the walls of their one room home, and cut her arms with rocks and broken pottery until blood flowed.
Belva and her daughter lived in Tyre, a Gentile Phoenician city that bordered Galilee along the Mediterranean Sea. She was from Canaanite descent- a people who had been enemies of the Jews since they marched into the Promised Land hundreds of years before. The Jews despised the entire region from Tyre to Sidon, and avoided it at all costs. The land was home to idol worship of the false gods Baal and Ashera that practiced temple prostitution and human sacrifice.
But among the ungodliness that permeated the city, words of Jesus' miracles and teaching drifted among the streets. Belva drank in the stories like rain on the dry cracked streets upon which she walked. How she longed for a drop of hope to fall on her weary soul. One story caught her attention more than any other.
"Belva, have you heard?" a neighbor began. "Jesus delivered a boy much like your Mara."
"Tell me," Belva asked hungrily. "What happened?"
"There was a boy in Galilee who was much like your Mara. He had an evil spirit that seized him and caused him to scream out for no reason at all. The spirit threw him into convulsions and he foamed at the mouth. It was destroying the boy and his father, for that matter."
"So what happened?" Belva asked, hungry for a morsel of hope.
"Well, Jesus was just returning from a trip with three of his disciples. I believe their names were Peter, James and John. His other disciples had remained back in the village while they were away. This father took his son to them for healing. But nothing happened. He convulsed right before their eyes and they couldn't do a thing."
"But then Jesus and his three friends walked into the crowd and this father fell at his feet."
"Teacher, I beg you to look at my son, for he is my only child," the father cried. "A spirit seizes him and he suddenly screams; it throws him into convulsions so that he foams at the mouth. It scarcely ever leaves him and is destroying him."
"That sounds just like my Mara," Belva cried. "What happened next?"
"Well, the father begged Jesus to drive the demons out. And right then and there, while the father was pleading with The Teacher, the boy approached and the demon threw him to the ground in a convulsion!"
"Oh my" Belva cried with her hand over her mouth.
"Then this Jesus rebuked the evil spirit! 'Come out of him!' he cried. And then, just like that, the demon was gone. Jesus picked up the boy and handed him back to his father."
Tears filled Belva's eyes as she listened to this miraculous account. If only I could go to Jesus, she thought. But he wouldn't have anything to do with the likes of me, a woman: a despised Gentile woman with Canaanite heritage, none-the-less. That was the story of a man and his son. Does God even care about a woman and her little girl?
"Some say he is the Messiah – the Son of David. Who knows? Too bad Jesus won't be coming here," her friend continued. "He would never step foot in this forsaken place."
And with a shrug, the talebearer walked away.
"O God," Belva prayed. "If there is any way you could make an exception for one so lowly as me. I know I am from a cursed race, a despised people, but my daughter is being destroyed. She is only a child. I am not asking for me. I am begging for her. Please send Jesus my way. Please heal my little daughter. You are our only hope." And with those final words on her lips, Belva cried herself to sleep.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I've felt like Belva so many times. "Is there any way you could make an exception for one as lowly as me?" I cry. "Please send Jesus my way." I'm waiting. I'm anticipating His arrival. In His Name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's devotion is a glimpse into what the life of the Syrophoenician mother's life could have been like. It is so easy to read about the women in the Bible and not see them as gals just like us ... but they were. They loved their children, did their housework, and longed for rest from their troubles.
Have you ever been in what seemed like a hopeless situation?
How did God come through for you?
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Perhaps you're still waiting for you miracle. Join us tomorrow for the rest of the story.
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Today's story was taken from Sharon's book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. Through the miracles and messages of Jesus we see how He came to set women free from an oppressive society and into a new life of purpose. Be prepared to fall in love with Jesus all over again! You can also watch a video about the book by clicking on the link above.
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June 7, 2011
He's Here!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Oh, woman, your faith is something else. What you want is what you get!' Right then her daughter became well" (Matthew 15:28 The Message).
Friend To Friend
I hope you read yesterday's devotion. We left Belva crying herself to sleep and muttering the following prayer: "O God, if there is any way you could make an exception for one so lowly as me. I know I am from a cursed race, a despised people. But my daughter is being destroyed. She is only a child.I am not asking for me. I am begging for her. Please send Jesus my way. Please heal my little daughter. You are our only hope."
With those words she fell asleep.
"He's here! He's here!" A raucous crowd outside Belva's window startled her from her slumber. She rubbed the sleep from her eyes and roused herself out of bed. Quickly she ran to the window and peeked out to see what the commotion was all about. Then she saw him. No one had to tell her the identity of the stranger walking past her home. Somehow she just knew.
"It's Jesus!" she cried.
Belva grabbed her shawl and flew from her home. Hope was passing by and she fell at his feet to block the way. "Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is suffering terribly from demon-possession."
Jesus didn't answer the woman but kept walking along the dusty road.
Again she cried. "Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is suffering terribly from demon-possession."
"Send this woman away," the disciples urged. "She keeps crying out after us. Get rid of her."
Jesus then paused and spoke to the woman. "I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel."
Kneeling humbly at his feet, she sobbed. "Lord, help me!"
"It is not right to take the children's bread and toss it to their dogs," Jesus replied.
"Yes, Lord," she gently whispered, "But even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master's table."
Jesus held out his hand and pulled this woman to her feet - this woman to whom he had been sent. "Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted."
Belva ran home to find her daughter lying on her bed, brushing her doll's hair, and in her right mind. She never had a seizure again.
Years later, as she often did, Mara asked her mother to tell her a bedtime story as she tucked her into bed. "Mommy, tell me the story of Jesus again."
Let's Pray
Oh Jesus, thank You for caring about a simple woman like Belva.Thank You for caring for a simple woman like me. Just as Mara longed to hear the story of how Jesus changed her life, I love to tell the story of how You changed mine! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Did that bother you when Jesus didn't answer the mother right away? I'll admit that when I read the scenario in Matthew 15, it caused my heart to ache for her. But Jesus had something up His sleeve. He was using this as a teaching moment in the lives of the disciples. His silence caused her to show just how much faith she had.
Has Jesus' silence in your life ever caused you to dig down deep to discover just how much faith you have?
What was the result of this mother's persistence?
What can you learn from her?
How has persistent praying ushered in a miracle in your life? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's story was taken from Sharon's book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered.Through the miracles and messages of Jesus we see how He came to set women free from an oppressive society and into a new life of purpose. Be prepared to fall in love with Jesus all over again! You can also watch a video about the book by clicking on the link above.
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June 8, 2011
Got faith?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 21:21-22 I tell you the truth, if you have faith and do not doubt, not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and it will be done.
Friend To Friend
We all have faith. We go to a doctor we hardly know. He hands us a prescription we cannot read. We take that prescription to a pharmacist we have never met. He gives us a medication we do not recognize or understand and we take it ... all in faith. Faith in God does not come all at once. Faith is a step-by-step process that begins with one small step and increases as we go. An Old Testament story found in Joshua 3 illustrates this truth.
The Israelites are camped on the bank of the Jordan River. Forty years earlier, they had escaped from Egypt and have been wandering around in the wilderness ever since. All of their needs have been met by God. They have seen miracle after miracle and now they can see Canaan, the Promised Land. However, there is a problem.
A huge river stands between them and the Promised Land and there is no way around it. To make things worse, it is flood season and the usual places to cross are covered with deep, rushing water. The Israelites knew God could stop the river right before their eyes or He could throw a bridge across it - but He doesn't. Instead, He gives Joshua some very strange orders.
First order
The people are to keep an eye on the Ark of the Covenant.
Second order
As soon as they see the priests carrying the Ark, the people are to fall in behind them.
Third order
Joshua tells the people to expect amazing things to happen.
Fourth order
Joshua commands the priests to pick up the Ark and stand in the river.
God told His people that He would make a dry path through the river but the priests had never seen that happen. In fact, they hadn't even been born when the Red Sea was parted and there were no reruns of the Ten Commandments at the local Wilderness Theatre. The Israelites had spent their entire adult lives in the wilderness and finally, they could see a way out. Oh, and one more problem - the priests couldn't swim. This was probably the first river they had even been close to in their lives. I can imagine their fear and questions. God was asking them to step out in faith as never before.
I don't imagine the Israelites had a great deal of faith in God at that moment, but they had just enough faith to take that first step. And that was enough.
Joshua 3:15-17 (NCV) During harvest the Jordan overflows its banks. When the priests carrying the Ark came to the edge of the river and stepped into the water, the water upstream stopped flowing. It stood up in a heap. So the people crossed over.
Notice that God did nothing until those toes touched the water. That first step was all God needed to see. Many times, we won't take the first step because we're afraid we won't be able to make the whole journey.
Don't wait until you believe it all.
Don't wait until you can see it all.
Don't wait until you understand it all.
Step out in childlike faith and put your trust in God. Some people say it doesn't really matter where we place our faith, as long as our faith is real. I could not disagree more!
A United Press release told of a mid-western hospital where officials discovered that the firefighting equipment had never been connected. For 35 years, the medical staff and the patients had believed in this system, but it had never been attached to the city's water main. The pipe that led from the building extended 4 feet underground -- and then stopped. The expensive equipment was adequate for the building but it lacked the most important thing – water. Yes, their faith was real but it was dangerously misplaced.
Our faith is worthless unless it is placed in God alone. We have no hope apart from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. One of my favorite worship songs says it beautifully:
I have a hope that will never fade away.
It's alive in me – living day to day.
I have a hope.
And my hope has a name – Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today in faith. I want to know You. I want to follow You for the rest of my life. I am afraid because my faith is small, but I am placing the faith I do have in You, Lord. I trust You to strengthen and grow that faith and help me become a fully devoted follower that pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God. Matthew 17:20 also tells us that even a tiny amount of faith pleases Him. (Jesus) replied, "I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, grows into a large tree. Jesus said a little faith can have incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God and our faith depends on Him!
What is the greatest problem in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that problem with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
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You are not alone in your quest for a life of purpose and meaning. I am constantly evaluating my faith and seeking God for the next step He wants me to take. And I can tell you that He is faithful and will keep every promise He has ever made. He is faithful ... even when our faith is small.
Need help? Mary's CD, I Have a Hope, is the story of how God changed her life when He gave her hope and a future.
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June 9, 2011
Connecting the Dots
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you." (John 14:26, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Ever since I was young, I've loved connecting dots. In my childhood, it was dots with numbers on paper that I could connect and color. As I threw my attention to the page and followed the numbered steps, a picture developed. A new creation appeared. It brought joy to my little-girl heart.
My grown-up dot-connecting challenges are far from a kid's fun sheet. There are "life dots" like: parenting dots, faith dots, emotion dots, relationship dots, job dots, and decision dots. I continually struggle to make sense of situations and circumstances and long for a simply numbered life sheet to give me guidance and direction.
Do you ever feel that way? Do you ever wonder how to connect the practical instruction of God's Word to your daily choices and behaviors? Do you struggle to understand how to connect the dots between your questions and God's answers? Between the decisions you need to make and God's wisdom?
If you have a pulse, I'm guessing you deal with this dot-connecting life stuff regularly like I do. The Lord knew we would struggle with this, and He gives each of us the power to connect our life dots according to His plan. How? Through His Holy Spirit.
In Scripture, we see a beautiful promise of God. Before His crucifixion and resurrection, Jesus told His disciples that He must die in order to connect the sinful hearts of man to the holy heart of God. He explained that though He was leaving this world, His followers would not be left alone or without power.
"If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Counselor to be with you forever – the Spirit of truth" (John 14:15-17a).
Jesus went on to say, "All this I have spoken while still with you. But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you" (John 14:25-26).
The Holy Spirit works in and through us to connect the life dots between our heart and God's. He's the connector between our problems and God's solutions. When we go to God in prayer and ask Him to help us take the next step, or make the next decision, or choose the next response, He will faithfully lead us to the next dot with wisdom through the power of His Holy Spirit.
Invite the Holy Spirit to lead your decisions and emotions today. Open your heart to His counsel. Call on His wisdom and listen for the whispers of His truth. When you do, He will connect your life dots in order to bring glory to God the Father. Imagine what our lives, families, churches, and communities would look like if we allowed the Spirit of God within us to connect our life dots each day. The world would see a beautiful faith picture.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are all-knowing and all-powerful. You know every decision I need to make and every challenge I face. Please forgive me for the times that I try to figure this life out on my own. I need You. I need Your Holy Spirit to give me strength, wisdom, and direction, specifically concerning ______________. Thank you, Lord.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
After telling His disciples about the Holy Spirit in John 14, Jesus blessed them with a peace promise: "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid" (John 14:27).
Where does this promise find you today?
Whatever you are facing, know that the Holy Spirit is ready to guide and comfort you. Journal your thoughts and ask God to connect the faith dots for you so you can bring Him glory in your circumstances and then experience His peace.
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Hey friend. I know many of you are facing very difficult times. Some of you are trying to sift through the ashes of marriage problems, financial challenges, health issues and emotional torment. God knows right where you are, He loves you and He knows your heart. He has a plan for your life. As you look to Him to connect your life dots, trust His plan and press on to do His will.
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June 10, 2011
Fogged in?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
II Corinthians 4:18 So we do not look at what we can see right now, the troubles all around us, but we look forward to the joys in heaven which we have not yet seen. The troubles will soon be over, but the joys to come will last forever.
Friend To Friend
In an effort to escape the brutal summer heat of South Florida, our family headed to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina. We splashed in the icy mountain streams until our hands and feet were almost numb from the cold and spent as much time outside as we possibly could; trying to soak up the cool, crisp mountain air. The Blue Ridge Parkway was one of our favorite spots for hiking, so we planned a day trip that included exploring a few hiking trails, a picnic and a visit to the beautiful and historic colonial home of Carl Sandburg.
We woke to discover the beautiful weather of the day before had dissolved into a soupy mix of drizzle and fog. But we were not about to let a little fog and rain deter us from our original plan. We had been vacationing in North Carolina for years and knew that fog is a common occurrence – even in the summer. We piled into our van and made our way up the mountain.
The closer we got to the Sandburg home, the heavier the fog became. In fact, when we arrived, the fog was so thick that we could barely see the walkway that led to the gift shop where we needed to purchase tickets for the tour of the home and grounds. We decided that we would have to come back another day for the tour, but since we were already at the gift shop, it wouldn't hurt to do a little browsing.
The shop owner greeted us warmly and asked if we would like to purchase tickets for the guided tour that was scheduled to leave in an hour. Always the diplomat, I responded, "Are you kidding me? Have you looked outside?" The owner smiled and said, "Oh, you mean the fog? It will be gone in a little while. Now – how many tickets do you need?" I don't like pushy salesmen, even when they are sweet and kind – and maybe a little near-sighted. "I think we will just wait and see if the fog actually lifts," I responded, convinced that the thick fog would last all day, and resumed my browsing.
I lost track of time and was surprised to hear the owner announce, "The tour is leaving in 15 minutes. This is our final call for tickets." I walked out of the gift shop to discover that the fog really was lifting and the skies were actually beginning to clear. I couldn't believe my eyes! Within minutes, the sun was shining - as if the fog had never existed.
It sometimes feels as if the fog of doubt and fear of darkness will never lift from our lives. The promises of God seem to get swallowed up by the problems we face. We want to curse our crisis – not praise God in the midst of that crisis. The hurt and pain overwhelm our faith and we lose sight of the fact that this world is not our home and the troubles we face are only temporary. Lift up your eyes, Girlfriend. Fix your heart and mind on God – He is with you.
I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth" (Psalm 121:1-2, NIV).
Let's Pray
Lord, I need Your help. I am tired of trying to face my problems in my own strength. Please help me keep my gaze on You and my glance on my circumstances. Help me remember that Your strength and power are more than enough to face anything that comes my way. And when I am afraid, teach me how to put my trust in You alone.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 51:6. "Liftup your eyes to the heavens, look at the earth beneath; the heavens will vanish like smoke, the earth will wear out like a garment and its inhabitants die like flies. But my salvation will last forever, my righteousness will never fail."
What does this verse say about the importance of earthly possessions and values in comparison to the joys waiting for us in Heaven?
What fears are you facing today? What step(s) do you need to take in order to find victory over those fears?
Read and memorize the following verses. When you are afraid, pray and speak these verses aloud.
Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble" (NIV).
Psalm 63:7-8 "Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me" (NIV).
Isaiah 42:16 "I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them" (NIV).
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The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Fear is a faithful companion in a world filled with broken people, many of whom live at the mercy of their fears. Need help? Check out my downloadable Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fearthat uncovers God's plan for peace and identifies five ways to deal with and be free from fear.
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June 13, 2011
When Coincidences are Really God-incidences
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him" (2 Chronicles 16:9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Have you ever had a set of circumstances in your life that were so unexpected and so convoluted that you knew there was no other way it could have happened except by divine appointment? Heather certainly did. She and her family lived in North Dakota, hundreds of miles from their hometown. After her grandmother died and her mother-in-law hospitalized for triple by-pass surgery, she longed to move closer to her extended family in Arkansas. After applying for a transfer, her husband Bob was chosen for a job in Little Rock. They packed up their three boys, Robert, Cameron, and Caleb and headed east.
During a routine eye exam of their oldest son, Robert, the optometrist discovered a bulging optic nerve. He was then referred to an ophthalmologist at Saline Memorial Hospital for further evaluation. A CAT scan showed that fifteen-year-old Robert had a brain tumor. They were then instructed to take Robert to Arkansas Children's Hospital. Dr. Burson, one of the neurosurgeons, was there waiting for them.
An MRI showed that the tumor appeared to have tentacles wrapped around the brain stem and needed to be removed right away. If the tentacles were intertwined around the brain stem, and if the stem was damaged during the resection and removal of the tumor, there was a chance that Robert would not be able to walk or talk after surgery. The doctor assured the weary parents that he would do his best to remove the tumor without damaging the brain stem, but there was a risk.
Friends and family rallied around this little family with prayer and support. A man who worked with Heather at Family Life Today was a great source of encouragement. "Sandy had been diagnosed with a brain tumor years earlier," Heather explained. "He came to encourage Robert that night in the hospital. It was so encouraging to see a man who had undergone brain surgery walking and talking normally. The Lord used him and his story to fill our hearts with great hope."
Then another burst of hope came through an email. The son of a woman who also worked with Heather also had a brain tumor removed by the same neurosurgeon that would be removing Robert's. "Dr. Burson studied under one of the greatest neurosurgeons in the country," she began. "And he is a follower of Jesus Christ too."
The next morning Robert was taken into surgery. Hours later, the smiling doctor reported that the tumor had been safely removed and the tentacles had not yet wrapped around the brain stem as the MRI had suggested.
God had orchestrated the Molden family's move from North Dakota to Arkansas at just the right time. He knew the tumor was there. He knew one of the best neurosurgeons in the country was there. This was no coincidence but a God-incident. Initially, they moved across the country to be closer to extended family. But the reality is that God moved them there to take care of one of their greatest treasures...Robert, their son.
Would God do that for one single family in Little Rock, Arkansas? Absolutely. There are no insignificant children in God's family.
The mother in Matthew 15 discovered that as well. Just as Jesus "had to go to Samaria," I believe that he had to go to Tyre. You see, there was this woman there. A woman who had cried out to God for the life of her child. And on God's kingdom calendar, written on Jesus' celestial day timer, her name appeared.
Neither Matthew (Matthew 15) nor Mark (Mark 7) tell us of any other activity that occurred in Tyre. As far as we know, Jesus didn't come in contact with any other residence or perform any other miracles. Would Jesus go through all that trouble for one woman and her little girl? You betcha. That's how significant God's daughters are to Him.
We don't know this Canaanite woman's name. But here's the thing. Jesus knew her name. Jesus knew her address. Jesus knew her need. And sister, he knows your name, your address and your need as well. No matter what you may think of yourself, Jesus thinks you are worth the trip!
As someone once said, "If God had a wallet, your picture would be in it." Each and every one of us has great significance to the Father who cares for us as if we were His only child. If you have ever felt insignificant in your little part of the world, know that nothing could be further from the truth. God treasures you, my friend. You are important to Him.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I know that there is no such thing as co-incidences in my life. Help me to see the God-incidences that occur every day. My eyes are watching. My ears are listening. I don't want to miss it. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever had a set of circumstances that had God's fingerprints all over them? Twists and turn that only He could have orchestrated?
If so, write out a prayer of thanksgiving for how He has worked in your life.
Testimonies of how God has worked in your life might be just what someone needs to hear today. I'd love to hear how God has worked in your life. You could be the very person God will use to encourage me today. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share one of your God-incidences.
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June 14, 2011
Angels Unaware
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"All the angels are spirits who serve God and are sent to help those who will receive salvation" (Hebrews 1:14, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Diane was visiting in the home of some friends. Time passed quickly as each person shared their various experiences of the past year. She ended up staying longer than she had planned and had to walk home alone. But she wasn't afraid because it was a small town and she lived only a few blocks away. As she walked along under the tall elm trees, Diane whispered a prayer asking God to keep her safe from harm and danger.
When she reached the alley, which was a shortcut to her house, she decided to take it. However, halfway down the alley, she noticed a man standing at the end, as though he were waiting for her. She became uneasy and began to pray again, asking for God's protection. Instantly a comforting sense of quietness and security wrapped around her and she felt as though someone was walking with her. When Diane reached the end of the alley, she walked right past the man and arrived home safely.
The following day, Diane read in the paper that a young girl had been assaulted in that same alley - just twenty minutes after she had been there. Overwhelmed by this tragedy and the fact that it could have been her, she began to weep.
Thanking the Lord for her safety and wanting to help the young woman who had been attacked, she decided to go to the police station. She told them her story and offered to help identify the assailant. The police asked if she would be willing to view a lineup, she agreed and immediately pointed out the man she had seen in the alley the night before.
When the man was told he had been identified, he immediately broke down and confessed. The officer thanked Diane for her bravery and asked if there was anything they could do for her. Diane was curious as to why the assailant had not attacked her. When the policeman asked him, his answer stunned them all, "Because she wasn't alone. She had two tall men walking on either side of her."
Do you believe in angels? I do. I believe that angels are real and are at work in our ordinary, everyday lives. I have personally sensed the presence of angels in my own life and have talked with many believers who share the same experience and belief. However, the mostpowerful evidence that angels exist is found in Scripture.
Thirty-four of the Bible's sixty-six books talk about angels in detail.
Every New Testament writer confirms the existence of angels.
The word "angel" or "angels" occurs more than 300 times in Scripture.
From beginning to end, the Bible validates the existence of angels:
Genesis 3:24 "After God forced the man out of the garden, he placed angels and a sword of fire that flashed around in every direction on its eastern border. This kept people from getting to the tree of life."
Revelation 7:11 "All the angels were standing around the throne and the elders and the four living creatures. They all bowed down on their faces before the throne and worshipped God."
When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, He takes full responsibility for us. That means He takes care of us. And one of the ways that God cares for us is through the ministry of His angels. What an amazing and comfort-filled promise – that God sends His angels to encourage, protect and guide us on our life journey. As God's messengers and our helpers, angels serve and honor Him through their praise and obedience as they carry out His will here on earth. As believers, we can count on the presence and power of angels.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the way You love me and protect me through the ministry of Your angels. Help me be more aware of Your presence at work in my life and remember that no matter what comes my way, You are with me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Up until today, what has been your initial reaction to the subject of angels? Read the following verses and determine the work of angels in each circumstance.
Genesis 3:24 "After God forced the man out of the garden, he placed angels and a sword of fire that flashed around in every direction on its eastern border. This kept people from getting to the tree of life."
Revelation 7:11 "All the angels were standing around the throne and the elders and the four living creatures. They all bowed down on their faces before the throne and worshipped God."
You may have given little thought to angels and their purpose in our lives. By faith, celebrate the truth that angels exist and honor God by the way they comfort, encourage, protect and guide us. Ask God to make you more aware of the ministry of angels in your life.
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As I look back over the past week, I wonder if I missed the presence and work of angels. Maybe when, at the last minute, the car swerved to avoid hitting me ... or I came across the precious wedding ring I lost weeks ago ... or an unexpected phone call of encouragement from a friend I haven't heard from in years. Some people might say it was just a coincidence or an accident. I don't think so. As you go through your day, set your mind on "things above" and be sure to include angels.
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June 15, 2011
Remembering to Forget
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13, 14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
As humans, we tend to remember what we need to forget and forget what we need to remember. God, on the other hand, forgets what He promises to forget and remembers what He promises to remember. God said, "Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more" (Hebrews 10:17).
Paul tells us one of the secrets to his success as a Christian and in life. "But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13,14).
In the Bible, God tells us that He "forgets" our sins and remembers them no more. But how does an omniscient, all-knowing God forget? Let's look at the antonym to get a better understanding.
There are many events in the Bible that begin with the words "God remembered": "God remembered Noah" (Genesis 8:1), "He (God) remembered Abraham" (Genesis 19:29), "God remembered Rachel" (Genesis 30:22), "God heard their groaning and remembered his covenant with Abraham, with Isaac, and with Jacob" (Exodus 2:24). In each incident, God's remembering meant that He was about to do something - God was about to act.
Therefore, if God's remembering means He is about to act, then God forgetting means that He is not going to act. "For I will forgive their wickedness," He says, "and will remember their sins no more" (Jeremiah 31:34). He forgets our sins – He is not going to act upon them. Likewise, while we cannot physically forget the details of the wounds of our past, we can choose not to act on them. We can choose to forgive the person who has hurt us and not allow the memory of the offense to control our lives. In that sense, we can forgive and forget.
When Paul talks about forgetting he does not mean that he will or even can wipe an incident from his memory. "Forgetting did not mean obliterating the memory of his past, but was a conscious refusal to let it absorb his attention and impede his progress."(Zondervan NIV Commentary: Volume 2: New Testament (Grand Rapids, Michigan: The Zondervan Corporation, 1994), pg. 806.) Paul refused to allow anything from his past control his present. He could tell about it, but without pain, malice, or a hint of revenge.
But it's too hard,you might say. Friend, God will never tell us to do something that He will not give us the power to do. He has instructed us to forgive...so He will give us the power to do so. He has instructed us to leave the past behind ... so He will give us the power to do so. Paul said, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13). "All things" means all things that God has called us to do.
Isaiah wrote, "When a farmer plows for planting, does he plow continually? Does he keep on breaking up and harrowing the soil? When he has leveled the surface, does he not sow caraway and scatter cumin? Does he not plant wheat in its place, barley in its plot, and spelt in its field?" (Isaiah 28:24).
I think for many of us, we have been plowing and re-plowing the ground far too long. We've been telling and re-telling what was done and how it was done going over the same ground and stirring up the dirt into a giant dustbowl. But there comes a point when it is time to stop plowing up the ground and start planting seeds – until then, we will never see a harvest.
Today, ask God if there is someone you need to forgive, if there is something you need to "forget," or if there is some ground you need to cease plowing. Then give the memory to God and ask Him to plant good seeds for an incredible harvest!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I've been plowing up the soil of past memories for far too long. Today, I'm going to put away the plow and start planting seeds. When You see me reaching for the plow and going back to rehash old grievances and hurts, I pray that the Holy Spirit will convict me quickly. Today, the past is the past and I'm not looking back.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there hurts in your life that you keep stirred up?
Is there a "field" that you continue to plow?
What do you think God wants you to do with those past hurts?
Are you willing to "put the plow away?"
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June 16, 2011
The Angels Are With You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. 'Because he loves me,' says the LORD, 'I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name' (Psalm 91:11-14, NIV).
Friend To Friend
When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, He takes full responsibility for us, which means He takes care of us. One of the ways God cares for us is through the ministry of His angels as they help us and protect us.
2 Kings 6:16-17 "Don't be afraid," the prophet answered. 'Those who are with us are more than those who are with them.' And Elisha prayed, 'O LORD, open his eyes so he may see.' Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha."
There was an ongoing conflict between Israel and the empire of the king, Ben-Hadad. Elisha constantly revealed the secret plans of this Syrian King to the king of Israel. When the King of Syria found out, he sent an army to capture Elisha. While Elisha was getting dressed that morning, his servant came running to him in fear. He told Elisha that they were surrounded by the King's army and that the soldiers were carrying powerful weapons of war. Elisha was not disturbed by this news. In fact, he told the servant not to be afraid because "our army is bigger and better than their army." The servant was confused because he could not see any army ready to fight for Elisha. Elisha then prayed and asked God to open the eyes of this servant and allow him to see God's protective angels. "Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha."
God's angels protect His children from potential enemies.
Psalm 91:11-14 "For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. 'Because he loves me,' says the LORD, 'I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.'"
In this passage, "command" means "to order or assign," "guard" means "to observe and care for" and "acknowledges" means "to know intimately." In other words, when we know God and have a personal relationship with Him, He assigns angels to watch over us and to help carry out His plan for our lives.
Hebrews 1:14 "But angels are only servants. They are spirits sent from God to care for those who will receive salvation."
Angels are motivated by their great love for God and are committed to seeing that the will of God is carried out. Most Christians can recall some incident in which their lives have been miraculously saved from disaster. Perhaps a car missed them by inches. An airplane flight was planned, but some reason, was not taken only to later discover that the plane had crashed. They did not see angels but their presence could easily explain why tragedy was avoided.
John G. Paton was a missionary in the New Hebrides islands. One night, hostile natives surrounded his mission headquarters, shouting threats that they would burn the Paton's home and then kill them. Paton and his wife prayed all night long. At dawn, they were amazed to see the natives turn and leave. A year later, the chief of that very tribe became a Christian. Paton asked him what had kept him and his men from burning down their house and killing them that night. The chief asked, "Who were all of those men with you?" Paton assured the chief that there had been no one there except him and his wife. The chief shook his head and insisted that they had seen hundreds of men standing guard, big men in shining garments with drawn swords.
Scripture is filled with accounts that describe how many of God's servants were delivered from danger. It also tells how many servants of God were not delivered by angels.
Hebrews 11:35-39 "Others were tortured; some faced jeers and flogging, while still others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned; they were sawed in two; they were put to death by the sword. They went about in sheepskins and goatskins, destitute, persecuted and mistreated."
These men had faith, courage and were obedient. Time after time, they must have cried out to God for angels to come – but none came. Why? Hebrews 11:40 tells us that God had a better plan. "To live by faith is better than deliverance by angels." These saints were not physically delivered but they still lived by faith and died by faith enduring pain and suffering, counting on the grace of God to sustain them. Because of their great faith, these "medal of honor" Christians received a greater reward in heaven.
Matthew 5:12 "Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you."
These saints knew that if God said "no" to their request for deliverance, there was a reason. It was part of His plan. If you are like me, there are times when, for the life of me, I cannot understand God's plan and furthermore, even if I understand it, it is just plain hard to accept. Jesus understands. When Jesus faced the cross, He asked God to deliver Him but God said, "No."
Matthew 26:39 "He went on a little farther and fell face down on the ground, praying, "My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will, not mine."
Angels do exist and they do touch our life. Look around. Listen carefully. Walk by faith. The angels are with you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your angels and the role they play in my life. I praise You for all of the times that tragedy was avoided because one of Your angels touched my life. Help me to walk in faith and obedience to Your perfect plan – no matter how hard it may be at times. I want to be a woman of faith, a woman who walks with Your angels.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us how angels protected and delivered many of the servants of God. Read the following Bible passages and fill in the blanks. Then celebrate God's work in the lives of these saints and in your own life.
Peter was delivered from ________________ by an angel. (Acts 12:5-11)
Paul received a message of ____________ from an angel. (Acts 27:23-25)
An angel saved the life of Abraham's ____________. (Genesis 22:15)
An angel saved _________________ in the lion's den. (Daniel 6:22)
An angel appeared to Moses in the ____________ _________. (Acts 7:30)
An angel rolled the ___________________ away from Jesus' tomb. (Matthew 28:2)
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June 17, 2011
Friends That Sharpen
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]" (Proverbs 27:17, AMP).
Friend To Friend
Whether it's over a steaming mug of dark roasted coffee, a frilly lunch served at the local sushi restaurant, or a power walk in the wee hours of the morning, my accountability partner and I meet regularly to speak into each other's lives. We trust each other. We challenge one another. I'm a better woman because she's my friend – because she speaks with honesty and courage – because she is for me – because she turns my heart toward God and His ways.
As much as I love girlfriend time – and I truly do love girlfriend time – there's a depth to this particular friendship that flows to the core of who I am. I often feel uncommonly exposed during our conversations. Vulnerable, yet safe. She gets in my grill about my priorities, marriage, mothering, ministry, and faith matters ... and I welcome it. I need it.
We all need friends. We need people in our lives that will love us where we are and help us get to a place of higher living. We need friends that will hold us accountable to God's standards - friends that sharpen us.
The Bible makes a compelling point about this type of friendship. "Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]." (Proverbs 27:17, AMP)
Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary on the Biblesays of this principle: "We are cautioned to take heed whom we converse with. And directed to have in view, in conversation, to make one another wiser and better."
Take time to consider your friendships today. Do you have any friends who sharpen you and challenge your "worthy purpose"? Who make you wiser and better? Is there anyone in your life who asks you tough questions, shares godly truths, and confronts you when you need confronted? If so, thank God for her. Purpose to connect with her regularly, grant her permission to continue to speak into your life, and ask that she give you permission to do the same.
Are you that friend to anyone? Do you long to have deeper friendships? If you find yourself in a wide pool of shallow friendships, I'd encourage you to pray about it. Pray that God would bring meaningful friendships to your life and that He would teach you what it looks like to be a good friend.
Sharon, Mary and I delight to come along side of you each day as your Girlfriends In God – to spur you on and encourage you towards Christ, but we could never replace the real-life friendships God intends for you to have. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NIV)
When we have a friend that sharpens and we become a friend that sharpens, our lives are enriched. Think about what our churches, our neighborhoods, our marriages, our work places, and our lives would look like if we all had this type of friend in our lives. Helen Keller said it beautifully: "Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for friendships. You know the people in my life and the needs of my heart. Please help me to grow as a woman in my ability to pour into the lives of my friends. Help my heart be open to godly, constructive feedback that a friend might speak to me, and give me the capacity to love my friends as You love them.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What friends came to your mind as you read this today? Consider forwarding this email to them.
Send a card, an email, a letter, or a text to a friend today ... just to bless her.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." Are there any friends in your life that are toxic? If so, prayerfully consider how that relationship affects you, your family, and your faith. If a friend encourages you to make bad choices and to live contrary to God's Word, then it's probably time to reconsider the friendship.
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June 20, 2011
Emergency! Emergency!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I call on you, O God, for you will answer me; give ear to me and hear my prayer" (Psalm 17:6 NIV).
Friend To Friend
My husband, Steve, graduated from dental school in 1981. In the beginning I was his only employee: his dental hygienist, dental assistant, receptionist, and insurance clerk. On the days that I was not helping him, I worked for another dentist in town. I was so exhausted most of the time that our joke became, "Sharon works six days a week and cries on the seventh."
One thing that amazed me when we started his practice was all the emergency phone calls that Steve received on nights and weekends. I usually answered the phone, and asked the caller several questions, one of which was, "Mrs. Jones, how long have you been having this problem?" Invariably the patient would say, "three days," "two weeks," "a month." I always thought, So why did you wait until Saturday to call? Of course, being the sweet person that I am, I never said that.
One night the phone rang at about 2:00 a.m. I groggily picked up the phone and managed a weak, "Hello."
"Hello," said the caller. "My son is having a terrible toothache. Is the doctor in?"
Where did she think he would be other than "in" at 2:00 in the morning? (OK, I'm being grumpy again.) "Yes ma'am, he is. How long has this tooth been bothering your son?"
"Oh, I'd say for about two weeks," she answered.
So why did you wait until now to call...thought, not said, of course. Something didn't feel right about the call. Then I asked, "Ma'am, and how old is your son?"
She answered, "27. My son is 27-years-old."
I was so shocked that I quickly sat up in the bed, accidentally jerking the phone cord out of the wall and disconnecting the caller. She did not call back. I had envisioned a distraught mother with a crying five-year-old. But twenty-seven!
I laid back down complaining and grumbling. "Lord, why is it that people won't go to the doctor regularly but only want help on demand when they have an emergency?"
When I got quiet enough to listen, I heard Him say..."Now you know how I feel."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for only talking to you when I have a problem that needs fixing or a situation that needs solving. How it must hurt You when Your children come to You always asking for something, rather than simply telling You how much we love You. Today, I just want You to know how much I love you! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How do you feel when your children only come to you when they want something?
When was the last time you went to God with an "emergency" prayer?
When was the last time you went to God with an "I love you" prayer?
Write out a prayer to God, simply telling Him how much you love Him.
Here's a challenge. Log onto my Facebook page and tell me 3 reasons you love God today. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Don't you love reading stories of God's fingerprints on the pages of everyday life! Sharon's devotion book, Extraordinary Moments with God, is full of them! Some stories will make you laugh. Some stories will make you cry. Each story will point you to God and strengthen your relationship with Him. To learn more, visit www.sharonjaynes.com.
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June 21, 2011
A Great Plan
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy" (Psalm 28:7).
Friend To Friend
I love the story of a tourist visiting the Grand Canyon. As he gazed in wonder at the sight before him, the tourist got too close to the edge, lost his footing and fell over the side. Just before he went out of sight, the man grabbed a scrubby bush and held on for dear life. Filled with terror, he called out toward heaven, "Is anyone up there?" A calm powerful voice came out of the sky, "Yes, there is." The tourist pleaded, "Can you help me?" The calm voice replied, "I'm sure I can. What seems to be the problem?" The man explained, "I fell over the edge of the canyon and am now dangling in space, holding onto a bush that's about to come loose. Please help me!" The voice said, "I will. Do you have faith?" The terrified man replied, "Yes! I have strong faith!" The voice said, "Then just let go. Everything will be fine." There was a tense pause. The tourist then yelled, "Is there anyone else up there?"
The first time I heard that story, I laughed and thought, "How ridiculous!" My next thought was that I have more in common with the tourist than I care to admit.
How often do I edge my way toward a dangerous cliff of disobedience and find myself giving in to temptation? How many times have I cried out to God to rescue me from some self-made pit into which I have fallen, but dictated how I wanted to be rescued? I can't begin to count the number of times when I have foolishly chosen to follow my plan instead of God's plan for my life. Now that's ridiculous.
Max Lucado tells the story of buying a new bicycle for his oldest daughter. It was her first "real" bike because it had no training wheels. After watching her sister ride the new bicycle, his younger daughter wanted a new bike, too. Max Lucado explained, "Your sister is older. She doesn't need training wheels anymore." His young daughter was not buying his story and kept badgering him for a new bike. In frustration, Max Lucado finally said, "Honey, I am your dad. You are just going to have to trust me this time." His daughter thought for a moment before responding, "No. I'm just gonna get me a different daddy."
God has a unique plan for each one of us that is beyond human understanding or expectation. It is called His will. God has been making His will known from the very beginning of time. In the Garden of Eden God revealed to Adam and Eve His will or plan for their lives. It is important to note that with the revealed plan He also gave them the choice to obey because He is a loving Father and a gracious God. Knowing that His way was right, God still allowed Adam and Eve to choose the wrong way. They made the wrong choice - but He still loved them and forgave them. He will do the same for you.
The Bible promises that God's plan is the best plan; the one for which we were created. Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life." God agrees to not only show us the plan, He promises to provide all of the strength and resources needed to carry out that plan. His sufficient and constant power is unleashed by our choice to accept and follow His blueprint for victorious living.
We were created by the One who knows us best and loves us most. There are no accidents with God. He never has to say, "Oops!" Before we were ever conceived in the heart and mind of man we were conceived in the heart and mind of God. Wanted, loved and planned since before the world began. He had a plan in mind and lovingly, purposefully created us in response to that plan.
I know that there are days when the will of God seems completely wrong and we simply do not understand. Every moment is pregnant with darkness and our hearts are numb, paralyzed by fear and doubt. We are treading water in the storm tossed sea of life, desperately longing to see Him walking on the treacherous waves toward us, rescue in His hand. It is in those shadowed moments that we must choose to trust the Plan Maker even though our faith is small and we cannot understand the plan. His ways are higher than our ways. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. And one day, every one of our question marks will be yanked into exclamation points as we see that high plan as He sees it – perfect.
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Today, my friend set aside your meager agenda. Lay down your limited life arrangement and look for God to meet you at the point of surrender - power and victory in His hands. Now that is a great plan.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I stubbornly choose to ignore Your plan for my life. Thank You for always being there for me, ready to rescue me from my own selfish desires and decisions. Help me to remember that Your plan is the highest plan for my life and give me the strength to follow that plan. I want to honor and please You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What things or people besides Jesus are you tempted to place your trust in during a crisis?
What keeps you from fully trusting the words of Jesus?
How would your life be different if you chose to place your trust in Jesus alone?
Read Matthew 7:24-28. How do these verses relate to your faith in God and the results of trusting Him?
"Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won't collapse, because it is built on bedrock. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn't obey is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash. When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching." (Matthew 7:24-28).
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June 22, 2011
Let's Joust, Daddy!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation" (Psalm 5:3-4 NIV).
Friend To Friend
In 1986, my husband and I built a house which would be our home for the next twenty years. While the builders were hammering away, I was sewing away, trying to have all the curtains made before we moved in.
The fabric for the curtains came on five foot long cardboard tubes. For one year, those tubes were my two-year-old son's favorite toys. They served as tunnels for Matchbox cars and giant megaphones from which all sorts of important announcements were made. But his favorite thing to do with the tubes was "joust" (sword fight). Every day when Steve, my husband, came home from work, he was greeted by Steven shouting, "Let's joust, Daddy!" My husband jousted tirelessly for months.
Nine years later, in a conversation remembering the jousting days, Steven confessed, "You know, I used to have terrible nightmares about those huge cardboard tubes. I used to dream that giant "jousting rods" were chasing me all around the house trying to get me."
Baffled, I asked him, "Why didn't you tell us about the dreams? And why did you want to continue playing with the tubes if they gave you bad dreams?"
"I guess it was because I loved Dad so much and playing the game with him, that it was worth having the scary dreams," he answered.
Little did Steven know what a profound statement he had made. My thoughts immediately went to my heavenly Father, my love for Him, and what I was willing to endure to spend time with Him. See, I too have a jousting rod. It is called the "sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God" (Ephesians 6:17). I love to joust with my heavenly Daddy. This jousting does not cause me to have bad dreams, but sometimes I have to endure a house that's not as clean as I would like or a project that is in the other room screaming out to be finished. That's a nightmare to me.
In this busy world in which we live, taking time out to be with our Heavenly Father can be somewhat of a struggle. But the rewards are so great. So every morning, I grab my jousting rod, God's Word, and together we conquer foes and win battles side-by-side.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to put all my busyness aside to spend time with You each day. I pray that my love for You will supercede any other activity that I have planned on any given day. Thank You for wanting to spend time with me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is your relationship with God something you feel that you "have" to do, or that you "get to do?"
What are you willing to put aside to spend time with God?
Where is your favorite place to have your quiet time with God each day? Let's share our spots? If you have a camera, take a picture and post it on my Facebook page: www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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June 23, 2011
Time to Surrender
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind' (Matthew 22:37, NIV).
Friend To Friend
From the moment of birth, we are taught that successful people never give up. Yet, I have discovered the paradoxical secret that true success can only be found in complete surrender.
Dr. Billy Graham tells the story of a little child who was playing with a very valuable vase. The child put his hand into the vase but could not pull it out. His father tried to free the little boy's hand, but couldn't. They were thinking of breaking the vase when the father said, "Son, let's try one more time. Open your hand and hold your fingers out really straight and then pull." The look of alarm on the boy's face surprised the dad until the little boy explained, "Oh no, Father. I can't hold my fingers like that. If I did, I would drop my penny."
Many of us are like that little boy – holding onto something that is keeping us from letting go and letting God have His way in our lives. It doesn't really matter what that something is. If it is keeping us from surrendering to God, it is our captor and we are its hostage.
Jesus longs for us to come to Him in total surrender. Not because He wants to win or prove His power, but because He longs to set us free. Matthew 22:37 goes straight to the heart of surrender and abandonment when it says, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.'" Let's take a closer look at the meaning of this verse:
"Heart" means "thought and emotion."
"Soul" means "life or whole person."
"Mind" means "understanding."
In other words, to truly experience God, we must lay down everything. Every thought and emotion, every dream and plan, every bit of human knowledge or understanding, our past, present and future – everything - just like the woman in Luke did.
Luke tells us that a certain woman came to Jesus bringing "an alabaster jar of perfume." In Jesus' day, alabaster jars were very common and of little value. It was the substance hidden inside that was so precious. The perfume was the woman's most priceless possession. It was very expensive but very necessary in her line of work as a prostitute, working the streets, selling her body in order to live. The money given to her by the men she slept with paid for the perfume she brought to Jesus. She could have put a small amount on His feet and it would have been a great financial sacrifice. But she brought it all and she gave it all. She came to God with a "yes" in her heart and a "whatever" in her soul, totally abandoning herself and all that she had to Him. "Abandon" literally means "without restraint or hindrance, a total relinquishment." This woman came to Jesus, walking through her shame, straining against every hindrance and relinquishing her old way of life. She came, ignoring the ugly whispers and judgmental stares of those who knew her so well.
Why? I believe she was simply worn out. The emptiness and sin were eating away at her soul. She was tired of being used, unloved and unwanted. She came ready to give up everything and in a desperation that is always winsome to God. He met every need of her heart and changed the course of her life.
Today, dear friend, He is calling you to that same kind of abandonment. Are you ready to exchange your life for a life far beyond your greatest hopes and dreams? Are you desperate for Him? The Father is patiently and tenderly calling you to His arms. Come and rest in Him.
Let's Pray
God, I am so tired of trying to live without You. I come today, desperately longing for You and seeking Your presence. Right now, I surrender completely to You, giving everything I know about myself to everything I know about You. Thank You for meeting me at my point of need.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List the things in your life that keep you from fully surrendering to God.
Confess them and choose against each one.
Destroy that list as a sacrifice of complete abandonment to God.
Choose to walk in the freedom He brings.
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June 24, 2011
When Love Trumps Anger
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires" James 1:19-20 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
"I'm a terrible mom!"
Do you ever say these words? I do. I did that day. The day I was working in my office, minding my own business, when my oldest son threw a paper airplane at the back of my head. Not one to normally welcome an air attack, I gave him the stern "mom voice," and asked him to stop messing around. I told him to give me some private time so I could get some work done. He agreed, and turned to leave. Surprisingly, he then jumped around and threw it at me again! Well, let me tell you, my grace-o-meter was reading pretty low at this point! I barked like an angry dog. "What in the world do you think you are doing? I just told you that I needed to be left alone so I can get some work done! Stop it!"
"But Mom, there's a message on the plane," he tenderly replied. "Read it."
As I unfolded the airplane made of orange construction paper, I saw this message written in pink marker: "Mom, I Love You." His affectionate declaration was followed by a few X's and O's. You know: hug, hug, kiss, kiss. Pure precious.
"Nice!" I said to myself. "Loser-mom strikes again." I had scolded my son and reacted out of frustration with an unkind tone. All the while, my son was trying to communicate love to me.
I felt horrible. Time seemed to stand still as I started to beat myself up.
Shame began to fill my heart, but as it did the Spirit of God within me gently nudged – reminding me that condemnation is not from Him ... that His conviction was purposed to spur me on toward choosing a godly response. So I chose love - God's love alive in me. As I chose God's better way, the grace way, His love trumped my anger. It's weightier. Praise God!
I called my son back into my office, and apologized for my behavior. I welcomed this tall, lanky teen to sit on my lap and told him that – while I'm not particularly fond of airplane attacks, especially while I'm working, I am fond of love attacks. We held each other and had a very sweet moment.
As Preston and I hugged, God reminded me of this principle: When we allow His love to trump our anger, we are able to experience restoration in relationships.
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires"(James 1:19-20 NIV).
The Bible tells us that we are to be slow to anger. It is a lesson that I am still learning. Now, that doesn't mean we should never be angry. Jesus exhibited righteous anger in the Jerusalem temple when he drove out the merchants that were buying and selling there. Righteous anger is permissible. We should be angry about sin and injustice. But when we respond to others in anger, it becomes our sin.
Got any relationships that are in need of restoration? Is there any anger, unforgiveness, or bitterness in your heart that might be gaining a stronghold in your life and keeping you from God's best? The benefits of allowing the love of God to trump the anger in your heart are tremendous, but the application can be very challenging. We can't overcome our natural, sinful tendencies to react, and overreact, in anger alone. We need God's help. His strength will meet us at our need when we call on Him. The Holy Spirit will help us to respond in God's strength, not our own.
Call on His strength today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Thank you for leading me in Your way of grace today. I need Your help! I confess my anger/bitterness/unforgiveness right now with _______________. Please forgive me. Please bring restoration to the relationships that have been affected by my anger. Help me recognize when I over-react or when I respond in anger that is ungodly. Give me the strength to respond in love – to be slow to speak and quick to listen – so that You can be glorified through my behavior.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to trade anger for love? In what relationships? How?
Spend a few moments in confession and ask God to bring a fresh awareness to your soul each time you react in anger.
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Friend – I'm a very passionate person. When my kids were little, I over-reacted far too often. And although God has been working in my heart for years on this issue, I humbly confess that anger still comes much too easy to me. If you struggle with this, you are not alone. Need prayer? Let's meet on my Facebook page – www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusicto PRAY for one another today.
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June 27, 2011
Stepping Up and Stepping Out
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him (1 Corinthians 2:9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
God always has important kingdom work for us to do. Paul tells us: "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him" (1 Corinthians 2:9). We were not meant to be mere stagehands or decorative props, but leading ladies working together alongside our brothers and sisters to impact the world for Christ.
Every little girl needs to grow up knowing that she is valued, that she is made in the image of God. Every little girl needs to grow expectantly waiting for her God-given potential to be released. The women in the New Testament gave us a taste – a glimpse.
Mary Magdalene is just one example. She did not lobby for a position of leadership. She did not argue for women's rights. She was content with the lowest place on Jesus' ministry team, doing whatever needed doing and giving financial support out of her own means. But Jesus had a different calling for Mary Magdalene - one she certainly did not choose or aspire to. He called her center stage and gave her a leading role to announce the most important news in human history. She was an apostle to the apostles, commissioned by Jesus himself.
In the Gospels, we see Jesus pause in the middle of his busy day for the bleeding woman, stop his teaching to lift the chin of the bent and bowed, walk miles to deliver one small child, and wait patiently in the hot noon sun for the broken Samaritan to arrive. What kind of God does that? A God who loves his daughters.
And how did the women respond to Jesus calling them center stage?
Mary of Nazareth stepped up to accept her calling.
Mary Magdalene signed up to join Jesus' ministry team.
The woman with the chronic bleeding spoke up to tell of her miraculous healing.
The woman caught in adultery cleaned up to start anew.
The empty woman at the well filled up to evangelize an entire town.
The Syrophoenician mother was shored up for bold believing.
Mary of Bethany showed up in the classroom.
The woman with the alabaster jar opened up her heart to worship.
Martha was steamed up in the kitchen, but then moved up to the head of the class.
The woman with the crippled back walked up to receive her healing.
The widow gave it all up as an example of sacrificial giving.
These leading ladies' stories show us that in God's family, girls are important too. They are strong women of faith who were bolstered by Jesus to come out of the shadows and take their place among the world changers of their day.
After Jesus' ascension, both men and women waited in Jerusalem for the promised Holy Spirit. On the day of Pentecost as the Holy Spirit descended with a gusty wind and tongues of fire, Peter stood and explained to curious onlookers what was taking place.
"This is what was spoken by the prophet Joel," he began.
In the last days, God says,
I will pour out my Sprit on all people.
Your sons and daughters will prophesy,
Your young men will see visions,
You old men will dream dreams.
Even on my servants, both men and women,
I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy."
Peter explained to the people what Jesus had been showing them all along. God's grace, love, and power are extended to all people regardless of rank or race, gender or generation: sons and daughters, young and old, men and women. Paul would later pen: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:28).
If God calls you center stage to accomplish His purpose for this generation, I pray that you will accept the role of a lifetime. And who knows, perhaps you are reading this devotion and being challenged to fulfill God's purposes in your lifetime, "for such a time as this."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm ready to do whatever You tell me to do. Thank You for my New Testament sisters who were brave enough to step out of the shadows during a time when women were rarely seen or heard. Thank You for Jesus who called them forward and sent them out. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In today's devotion, I mentioned several women of the New Testament. Pick two of them. Use a concordance and look up where their stories appear in the gospels. Read their stories and ponder their bravery.
Is there something God has been nudging you to do, but you've been putting it off? Let's pray for one another. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand let your sisters know how they can pray for you to heed God's call.
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Do you ever read the end of a book first? Well today, I've given you a glimpse of the conclusion to What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance Through the Women Jesus Encountered. But my heart's desire is that you sit with the woman at the well, stand by the woman reaching for Jesus' robe, and kneel with the woman anointing His feet. This book promises to have their stories come to life. It impact how you see Jesus, and you'll fall in-love with Him all over again.
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June 28, 2011
Is the Bible Important to You?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God's way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do (2 Timothy 3:16, NLT).
Friend To Friend
If we really want to know God, if we really want to understand who and whose we are, the Bible must have the highest place in our lives. We don't have to be a Bible scholar or have a firm grip on the Hebrew and Greek languages to know and apply God's promises. As we read the Bible, the Holy Spirit will give us understanding and teach us how to apply God's truth in our lives.
A disciple is a follower, a learner and a student. If we want to follow God and be a learner of Him and a student of His ways, then we have to understand the importance of the Bible, love the Word and spend time in it. I thought I was doing a fair job of plugging the truth of God's Word into my life until I was reading through the Old Testament and rammed right into Psalm 119. Within this passage, I discovered a test for us as believers that will help determine the importance we really place on God's Word in daily life. Take this test with me to see if God's Word has the place in your life that it should have.
Is God's Word more important than food?
Psalm 119:103 "Your promises are sweet to me, sweeter than honey in my mouth" (NCV). Here the Bible is described as honey and at other places in Scripture as milk or bread. The Bible is our spiritual food. God's Word sustains and strengthens us just as food sustains and strengthens our physical body. We always find a way to eat, even if we must resort to eating fast food. Do we have the same depth of commitment to our spiritual growth and health as we do to satisfying the hunger pains of our human body?
Is God's Word more important than money?
Psalm 119:72 "Your teachings are worth more to me than thousands of pieces of gold and silver" (NCV). Spiritual wealth is more important than human wealth. Do we really live as if that statement is true? I have a friend who is totally committed to God and to serving Him whole-heartedly. My friend is a garbage collector - a happy garbage collector. I once asked him why he was so happy in his work. "Mary, I collect garbage to pay the bills. My real passion in life is to share Jesus Christ and to serve Him with joy." Do we really live to know and share God's truths?
Is God's Word more important than sleep?
Psalm 119:147-148 "I wake up early in the morning and cry out. I hope in your word. I stay awake all night so I can think about your promises" (NCV). I know. Now God is getting personal. When we start talking about giving up sleep to read and study the Word of God, we are talking radical obedience. Exactly! If we want to experience God's power in our lives, we have to saturate our lives with His Word.
How did you do? I will tell you honestly that I failed this test. I have walked with God for many years and I still do not have the hunger and thirst for God's Word that I should have. If we listen carefully, I believe we can hear God say, "If you want to get to know me - really know me – if you want to be intimate with Me, then you have to know my Book." The level of stress in my life is directly correlated to the amount of time I spend or don't spend reading and applying the Word of God.
Jeremiah 2:32 "Does a maiden forget her jewelry, a bride her wedding ornaments? Yet my people have forgotten me, days without number" (NCV).
Jeremiah did not write these words to the unbeliever but to those of us who call ourselves "disciples" of Jesus Christ. I can hear the sorrow in His words, can't you? They vividly portray the broken heart of a Father whose children have ignored Him and abandoned His words. I know what it does to me as a parent when my children do not listen to me or when they choose a path that is in direct opposition to one I would have chosen for them. I can only imagine what it does to His heart when we go for days and even weeks or months without even picking up the Bible except as an accessory for others to see when attending church.
We live in Kansas City where Westar Power Company makes a tremendous amount of electricity available to us. With that power, we can light our homes, stay warm in the winter and cool in the summer. We can enjoy electrically powered appliances that turn, spin, wash, dry and clean. What difference electricity makes in our lives ... when we flip the switch. Unless we use and appropriate the power of available electricity, it is worthless to us. The same is true of the Bible. To experience the power of God's Word, we must make it important in our lives.
Let's Pray
Father, I pray that You would give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word. I want to please You with my life through obedience to your truths. I choose to spend time with You each day this week, studying the Bible. Will You please honor my commitment and empower me to keep it? When I fail, Lord, I choose now to forgive myself as You forgive me - and begin again.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside one hour this week to re-evaluate your plan for reading and studying the Bible.
Set new goals for daily Bible study. Make the goals realistic for your current lifestyle. Next week, add 15 minutes to your study time each day.
Pray and ask the Father to empower this new commitment.
Remember to record new truths and insights in a journal. At the end of the week, go back over your journal entries to see what changes God has made in your life. Praise Him for the power of His Word, and when you fail, do not allow the enemy to discourage you or persuade you to give up. Simply begin again.
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The truth is - we find a way to do the things in life that are important to us. Our soul can only be nourished and fed by the Word of the Living God. How important is God's Word in your life?
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June 29, 2011
Removing the Mask and Becoming Real
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Whether he is a sinner or not, I don't know. One thing I do know. I was blind but now I see!" (John 9:25 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I can still remember the Saturday night rituals at my house when I was six-years-old. My mother wound my sun-streaked ash blonde hair in what seemed like a hundred pink sponge rollers. She'd swipe her middle and pointer fingers through the sticky jar of blue Dippidy-Do, slather it on a swatch of hair, and then wind the sponge round and round. My "ouches" and winces were met with "be still" and "stop squirming."
Why did she put me through the torture and sentence me to a fitful night's sleep trying to find a comfortable spot to lay my head? Because the next day was Sunday and we were going to church lookin' good. On Sundays our family drove to church, many times fighting all the way, and walked through the pristine double doors of the church with smiles and platitudes.
"How are you?" the fellow parishioners asked.
"Fine," we mechanically replied. "And how are you?"
"Fine," thank you.
But we were anything but fine, and I imagine the folks on the pews beside us were anything but fine either.
My home was riddled with unhappiness. My father drank heavily, and Saturday nights were usually the worst. My mom was extremely unhappy. I was lonely and afraid. And my brother was just plain mad most of the time. But nobody knew. We hid it well.
What is it about church that makes us put on masks to cover up what is really going on inside? Forget the fig leaves. We've moved on to designer clothes, shiny cars, and smiling faces in order to attend the masquerade ball we call "church."
Why do we do it? Is it because we don't want to appear weak? Is it that we want to appear strong as the rock of Gibraltar even if a husband just lost his job, a son is flunking out of school, parents are dying with cancer, and a lump just surfaced while showering that very morning?
"How are you?"
"Fine, just fine. Praise the Lord."
Sometimes the church becomes our stage where we play "Let's Pretend." But as the audience applauds our performance, the Director's voice grows faintly dim.
There is a scene in C.S. Lewis's The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, that exemplifies what I think God longs for in the Body of Christ. The White Witch has turned many of the inhabitants of Narnia into stone statues. Then, in a valiant display of courage, Aslan, the lion Christ-like figure, pounces into the courtyard and breathes on each of the statues...bringing them back to life. Let's join in the party for just a moment...
"The courtyard looked no longer like a museum; it looked more like a zoo. Creatures were running after Aslan and dancing around him till he was almost hidden in the crowd. Instead of all that deadly white the courtyard was now a blaze of colors; glossy chestnut sides of centaurs, indigo horns of unicorns, dazzling plumage of birds, reddy-brown of foxes, dogs and satyrs, yellow stockings and crimson hoods of dwarfs; and the birch-girls in silver, and the beech-girls in fresh, transparent green, and the larch-girls in green so bright that it was almost yellow. And instead of the deadly silence the whole place rang with the sound of happy roarings, braying, yelpings, barkings, squealings, cooings, neighings, stampings, shouts, hurrahs, songs and laughter."
I fear that many of our churches have turned into the stone courtyard where everyone tries to blend in and conform to the image...not of Christ...but of what others expect from church-going-folks. However, we were never meant to be a gathering of identical statues, but of colorful, wildly wonderful individuals...real people...unmasked.
This week, let Aslan blow the spirit of truth on the stone places in your heart and turn you into "real."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I don't want to be fake. I want to be real. I don't want to wait until I am old and withered. I want to be real today! Help me to remove the mask of perfection and join the courtyard of the "happy roaring, braying, yelping, barking, squealing, cooing, neighing, stamping, singing and laughing creatures. May I never pretend to be other than I really am. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Psychologists say that we are mentally healthier when we have one or two people with whom we can be completely honest. Who are those people in your life?
If you do not have such a person, pray that God will send you one.
When we remove our masks and become real, it encourages others to do the same. Give it a try. The next time you are sharing with a friend, be honest about a struggle you are having and watch what happens.
So let me ask you. How are you doing today? Let's pray for each other. List your prayer requests on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes, and then pray for the GiG before and after your entry. It would be extra special to tell her that you've prayed.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God. This book is a wonderful resource for anyone who would like to learn more about the real power of your own personal story and how to share it with a hurting world. You'll turn your pain into purpose and your hurt into hope.
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June 30, 2011
The Streets of Gold
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions" (Luke 12:15).
Friend To Friend
Greed and stress go hand-in-hand. If we want to eliminate stress, we must choose to put "things" in their proper place, refusing to attach importance to them. In Luke 12:15, Jesus issues a warning, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (ICB). I believe that attaching importance to "things" is sin and will always lead to more sin. The monster of greed is fed by fear. We are afraid to give it all to God. We are afraid of not having enough. We are afraid to sacrifice and not having enough resources for the future. How important are your possessions? How do you view the things you possess?
The story is told of the world's stingiest man who went shopping for a friend's gift. Everything was too expensive, except for a $50.00 vase that was on sale for $2.00 because the handle had been broken off. The stingy man bought it and had the salesman ship it so that his friend would think that he had paid the full price of $50.00 for the vase and that it had been broken in shipment. A week later, the penny-pinching man received a thank you note from his friend. "Thank you for the lovely vase," the note read. "It was so nice of you to wrap each piece separately."
One way we can guard against greed and control our wants is to view our possessions as resources loaned to us by God for us to disperse instead of treating them as earned rewards or deserved pleasures. "Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others" (I Peter 4:10 NIV). Every spiritual gift, every financial resource and possession has been given to us by God as a way to serve others. Greed steps in the minute we begin to view those gifts and resources as our own while clutching them tightly in our hands and in our hearts. Fear then leads us to worry about losing what is not really ours to begin with and left unchecked, greed can lead to dishonesty. Greed and exaggerated wants can control our lives to the point that we are consumed by a fear that naturally leads to dishonesty and lies.
The reality is that who we are should never be measured in terms of what we have or do not have. Instead, our lives are measured by who and what we are ... and whose we are. The lure of material wealth is undeniably stronger than the human will or self-control and always positions itself between us and God. The result will always be stress. I sometimes think the door that shuts out many from heaven is covered with silver and gold.
I love the story of a wealthy man who prayed, asking for permission to take his earthly wealth with him when he died and went to heaven. An angel appeared to the man and said, "We heard your prayer, but I am sorry. You simply cannot take it with you." The man pleaded so passionately that the angel said, "Let me see what I can do." When the angel returned, he reported, "Good news! God has made an exception for you. You may bring one suitcase with you when it is your time to go." Delighted, the man packed his one suitcase and went on with life. Several years later, he died and appeared at the Pearly Gates where he was met by St. Peter who took one look at the suitcase and said, "I am sorry, sir, but you cannot bring that in with you." The man protested, "But I received special permission." Just then, the angel appeared and said, "Peter, it is true. He has special permission to bring one suitcase in with him." Curious, Peter said, "Do you mind showing me what is in the bag that is so important to you?" With a smile, the man replied, "Not at all" and proceeded to open the suitcase to reveal stacks of gold bricks. Peter's face said it all, "Pavement? You brought pavement with you?"
Stress thrives on greed that urges us on, in a never-ending and futile quest to accumulate "pavement" here that is totally worthless there where the streets are made of gold. Wealth is all a matter of perspective. We need to understand that our Father wants us to have wealth. We just have to be careful that we do not settle for earthly money and possessions instead of eternal treasures.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for reminding me that what I have is temporary but that who I am is eternal. Give me a heart that loves to give instead of to receive. Help me to make decisions and choices that are generous instead of greedy. I pray that others would see You in the way I give myself away in service and that I would never count on earthly possessions for the peace and contentment only You can give.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your ten most prized possessions.
If you lost them all, how would your life change in light of eternity?
How much peace and contentment would you forfeit?
Set aside time today to review your list and surrender each prized possession to God.
Give one of those possessions away this week as a secret gift.
Pray for an eternal perspective of earthly "things".
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Several years ago, we moved from a large house to a much smaller one in order to pay off some debt. As we packed, I realized that half of what we owned would not fit in the new house. We began giving away furniture, making frequent trips to various charities and the local dumpster. It is amazing how much "junk" can be accumulated over the years. Looking back, with the exception of one or two items, I can't even remember what we got rid of. It really is just "stuff." Do you want to break the hold that material things have in your life? Give them away. You will be amazed to see that you just can't out-give God.
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July 1, 2011
The Devil Made Me Do It
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can't stand up against it. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it (1 Corinthians 10:13, NLT).
Friend To Friend
I once lived in a small, rural community where cows were familiar neighbors and lost cows a common occurrence. How do cows get lost? The cow starts nibbling on a patch of green grass. When it finishes, the cow looks ahead to the next patch of green grass and when that patch is eaten, it looks ahead to the next patch of green grass and starts nibbling on that one. The cow then nibbles on a patch of grass right next to a hole in the fence which positions the cow perfectly so it can see the green grass on the other side of the fence. The fence has a hole just big enough for the cow to fit, so on it goes to the next patch of grass. The next thing you know, the cow has nibbled itself into being lost. We often handle temptation the same way.
While Flip Wilson, a talented comedian and variety show host of the 80's, is often credited with the origination of that well known and still popular excuse "The devil made me do it," I think Eve actually beat him to the punch. Temptation really has not changed much since the Garden of Eden days. Like that juicy, red apple, temptation still entices us with delicious sin. We still engage in power struggles with God, we still flirt with the devil and when we get caught, we still try to shift the blame to someone else.
Temptation is not a test from God but rather a trap from Satan that is baited with seductive snares in every size, shape and appeal. Paul reminds us that we are not alone in our temptation. "But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience." At first glance, those words are discouraging to me. You see, I need to believe that my temptations are bigger and stronger than the temptations others face because that belief gives me a little "wiggle room" to rationalize away my sin, drawing attention to the exclusivity and enormity of the temptations I face. After all, no one else could possibly understand what it is like to deal with such strong temptations. Paul says, "Get real! Your temptations are no different from the ones everyone else faces – including Jesus."
I can't tell you how much comfort it brings me to know that Jesus understands what it feels like to be tempted in the same way I am tempted. Religious hypocrites taunted Jesus, trying to lure Him into the trap of anger and pride. Jesus understood physical pain as well as the pain of loss. He wept when His friend Lazarus died, and He cried out on the cross when those nails were driven into His hands. Jesus was lonely and felt abandoned when the disciples fell asleep in the Garden of Gethsemane and was well acquainted with betrayal and ulterior motives. I am certain women threw themselves at Jesus. After all, He was a controversial, powerful and exciting man. Jesus was also very human. That is the point! Jesus came to earth as a frail, weak and flawed vessel just like you and me. Yet, He was able to withstand temptation and in doing so, offers us His proven strength to withstand the same temptations.
Jesus is also well acquainted with the cunning seduction of Satan who first came in the form of a snake and at a time and in such a way that neither Eve nor Adam expected. Part of the work that Adam and Eve had to do was to care for and rule over the animals. The serpent was part of their dominion so he used deception and wore a disguise. He still does.
Life would be so much easier if Satan was obvious but he isn't. He is subtle and clever as he mixes lies with truth. He never shouts - he whispers. His goal is the total destruction of your life and his opening attack is temptation. We have to remember that temptation is not sin. Eve did not sin when she began her conversation with Satan nor did she sin when she questioned God's instructions. Eve sinned when she mentally agreed with the lies of the enemy because that mental choice led to an action of disobedience.
A visitor at a fishing dock asked an old fisherman who was sitting there, "If I were to fall into this water, would I drown?" It was a strange way of asking how deep the water was, but the fisherman had a good answer. "No. Falling into the water doesn't drown anybody. It's staying under it that does." Remember ... temptation is not sin. It is an invitation to sin. Just say "no."
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You asking for the wisdom to recognize temptation when it comes and the strength to resist it. Please forgive me when I give in to temptation and sin. Father, I know You understand every temptation I will face today. I praise You that Satan is a defeated enemy and that through Your strength, I can resist every temptation he brings my way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 4:7-9. "So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud 'no' to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet 'yes' to God and He'll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it's the only way you'll get on your feet" (The Message).
Which one of the following steps do you need to take in order to experience victory over temptation? Pray through this list and place a check in front of the ones you are willing to take in your life.
_____ I now surrender to the will of God.
_____ I will tell the Devil "no" when he tempts me to sin.
_____ I will choose to obey God.
_____ I will refuse to flirt with sin.
_____ I will confess the sin in my life.
_____ I will get serious about resisting temptation and dealing with sin.
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Temptation is a certainty of life, but God has a plan that will enable us to stand firm in His power and through the power of His Word. Learn five ways to face and deal with temptation in Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation. Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible StudyStress Management 101 that begins July 18! Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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July 4, 2011
The Guestbook
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody (2 Corinthians 3:2 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Just before leaving our rented condominium after a week of sun, sand, and surf, at Hilton Head Island, SC, we found a treasure tucked under some old magazines on the coffee table. It was a 6 X 8 inch white guest book, signed by previous vacationers who had also shared a relaxing week away from home.
Feeling somewhat like a "peeping Tom" craning to peer into someone's window, we cracked open the book and stole a glimpse into the personalities of our fellow travelers. With each entry, we visualized what the guests looked like, decided if we would like to invite them over for dinner, and surmised whether they had an enjoyable vacation together.
Have a look for yourself and decide with whom you would like to share a cup of coffee or would like to have as your neighbor:
"Thank you very much for the use of your condo. We thoroughly enjoyed our first, but not last visit to S.C."
"Had a great time. Enjoyed your villa very much! However, you need to have the springs in the couch repaired. Very uncomfortable to sit on. Thank you."
"We have decided that this is where we'd love to live. It's a golfer's dream. Your courses are beautiful. The girls loved the beach, parasailing, bike rides, horseback riding, shopping! I love my tan. We will be back to visit! If you are ever in Arkansas, come to Stuttgart. We are 50 miles east of Little Rock. Stuttgart hosts the World Championship Duck Calling Contest every year during Thanksgiving weekend. We are known as the "Rice and Duck Capital of the World." Riceland Rice comes from our little town and the ducks feed off of the rice fields during the winter after harvest. It is some of the best duck hunting anywhere. Thank you for the use of your condo. We've had a great week here."
"We really enjoyed your villa, but we won't be staying here again. We just booked another villa at Colonnade for next year a couple of doors down for almost $300 less."
"Hello. My name is Amanda and I got here yesterday. So far we are having a good time. I'm eleven-years-old and I came here with my mother, grandmother, and my Aunt Loretta. She got here at the same time we did, but she is leaving tomorrow. We came all the way from Lake Wylie, S. C. I love it here and might be back next year.
"It has been a fabulous time. This villa is bigger than our home! My niece is sure she saw a whale at the Old Oyster Factory, but we are sure she saw a buoy. Greg and Dad played golf together and we all played mini-golf. We went bike riding and "gator chasing." The ocean is breathtaking. I've never seen it before, so I'm still in awe!
""When we first came, the keys wouldn't fit, you forgot to give us a pass, and we almost ran over a biker. Get better service! Two grandmas were with us! Sixth time here - never happened before."
The Bible tells us that we are simply visitors here on earth (1 Chronicles 29:15). The words we speak are also our entries in the Guestbook of Life.
What entries am I writing with my attitudes, actions and words for all the world to see? Will they think that I was a crabby old lady who wanted better service? Will they think I savored each day here with my wonderful family? Will they think that I would have preferred another life just a few doors down? Or will they think that I so enjoyed my time here that I wanted to share it with anyone and everyone who was passing through?
Do you want to know what we wrote in the Guestbook before we left?
"Thank you for the use of your beach home. July fourth is a time to celebrate our great country with its many freedoms. Our hope for all who follow us here is that you will know the freedom which comes from knowing the Truth that sets us all free (John 8:32)." Steve, Sharon and Steven Jaynes
Matthews, NC
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Your Word tells me that I am a letter being read by everyone. I pray that I won't be junk mail today. I pray that I won't be like a bill making people feel like they owe me. I pray that I will be a love letter, a thank you note, and an invitation to celebrate life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are you leaving in the guestbook of life for all to read?
What would youlike to be leaving in the guestbook of life for all to read?
Go ahead, write it down?
Now, live this day as if you were a walking, talking letter from God to everyone you come in contact with!
Here's your chance to start today. Come by my Facebook page for a visit. Sign in and tell me one thing you have loved about this day! www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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We are walking, talking letters to the world, telling them and showing them about what Jesus is like. Yikes! The Bible calls us Ambassadors. If you need to improve the quality of your letter, you might want to read The Power of a Woman's Words to learn about the people we impact, the power we possess, and the potential to change. Just click on the link or go to www.sharonjaynes.com.
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July 5, 2011
The Potter and the Clay
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But LORD, you are our father. We are like clay, and you are the potter; your hands made us all (Isaiah 64:8, NCV).
Friend To Friend
When our daughter was in pre-school, one of her favorite activities was playing with clay. Danna often pulled her little step stool over to the closet where the clay was stored and pulled out the boxes of brightly colored clay. With great concentration and effort, Danna's little fingers would then pry them open and she would begin to work.
For hours at a time, Danna would pound, mold, stretch and create her own clay world. Animals, people, flowers and aliens would emerge from the lumps of clay. Her work done, she called me to "put them up." That meant it was time to exhibit her clay masterpieces for her brother and father to see when they came home.
Danna's creations would remain on display until they grew hard and brittle. We would then break them apart, sprinkle them with water and put them back into their containers, allowing the clay to grow soft again.
When it comes to spiritual matters – God is the Potter, the Creator, and we are the clay. The world says we should never give up our rights because if we do, we will lose everything. God says that if we surrender to Him, we will gain everything that is important.
In order for God to make us into what He wants us to be, we have to become pliable and willing - like clay. We must come to Him, placing ourselves in His hands, the Potter's hands. Total surrender demands that we come with no agenda, no pre-set conditions – giving Him permission to bend us, break us and change us. We sometimes come to God, with a hardened heart and brittle spirit. Life has broken and damaged us and the wrong hands have molded us. Remember, how we come to Him is not nearly as important as the fact that we come. As we give up control to Him, like a Master Craftsman, He begins to work patiently and lovingly, with a specific plan and one-of-a-kind design in mind. He works through circumstances as well as people, through joy and pain, victory and defeat. He filters every part of life through His plan for us and uses it to create a life of worth and meaning.
Oh, we have tried to live life with our own agenda and plan and have experienced discontentment and frustration. Our soul longs for more and our heart cries out, "Is this all there is?" The truth is that nothing and no one but God can bring us the peace and joy for which we are searching. Are you ready to become the clay, surrendering your broken life to the Potter's loving and purpose-filled hands? Today is the day!
Let's Pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to live life in my own power. Right now, I give up and surrender my life completely to You. I choose Your plan over mine. I give You permission to mold me and make me what You want me to be. I will wait before You and seek Your direction.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What has been the plan – according to you – for your life up to this point?
What kind of results has that plan produced?
Write a prayer of surrender to God and record it in your journal. Be sure to include the following steps:
Recognize that you have been trying to live life according to your plan – your agenda.
Admit that your refusal to surrender your life to God has brought only frustration and emptiness.
Right now – surrender to God.
What one of the following actions do you need to take in order to obey God?
_____Join a local church
_____Get involved in a small group
_____Read the Bible daily
_____Pray constantly
_____Seek God in everything I do
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I have to admit I am not very good at giving up and even flinch at the very thought of "surrender." I was taught never to give up; to be strong and to depend on no one but myself. In fact, the very thought of surrender seems like a weakness to me and is completely opposite to my human strength and will. Exactly! Did you know that my name, Mary, literally means bitter, but when broken, sweet? Unless I am in a constant state of surrender to God, I will surely become bitter, brittle and broken.
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July 6, 2011
The Landowner Returns
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows (2 Corinthians 1:3-5).
Friend To Friend
Once there was a landowner who decided to go on a long journey. He called three of his servants together and divided up their responsibilities, each according to his own ability. He also entrusted them with a certain amount of money to oversee. The money was weighed out in what he called "talents." To one servant he gave five talents, to one servant he gave two talents, and to the other he gave one talent.
After many months, the master returned and met with the servants to settle their accounts. The servant who had been given five talents had immediately invested the money and doubled his profits – giving the master back ten talents. The servant with two talents had invested his money and doubled his as well – giving the master back four talents. To both of these the Master said, "Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your Master's happiness!"
But then there was the servant with the one talent. He was a fearful and lazy man who didn't want to take a chance. He didn't invest the money at all, but rather dug a hole in the ground and hid his talent in the dirt. ""Master," he said as he made up excuses, "I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So I was afraid and went out and hid your talent in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you."
The Master was furious with the fearful servant. He took the one talent and gave it to the one with ten who had invested well.
Has God given you "talents" that He expects you to invest? One such "talent" may be life experiences such as a trial or struggle that you have overcome. Perhaps God now wants you to use that experience to comfort others in a similar situation with what you have learned.
In Second Corinthians, Paul wrote: "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows" (2 Corinthians 1:3-5). God does not comfort us simply to make us comfortable. God comforts us to make us comfort-able...able to comfort other people.
Take an inventory of your life and ask God what life experiences He would like for you to invest in others.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please show me if I have been hiding my "talent" rather than investing in others. Your Word tells me that I have been given spiritual gifts...am I hiding them? Your Word tells me that I have been "blessed with every spiritual blessing." Am I investing those blessings or hording them to myself? Open my eyes to the gifts and talents you have given me and direct me in the way to invest in others.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are the "talents" that God has entrusted to you?
What are some ways you can invest what you've gone through in the lives of others?
What are some ways your life experiences could be used to comfort others?
What will the Master say to you when you see Him face to face? Will He say, "Well done?"
If you are using what you've gone through in the past to minister to others, I'd love to hear your story. Let's share on Facebook. Your story might be just what someone needs to hear. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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July 7, 2011
You Really Don't Have to Worry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Never worry about anything. But in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks (Philippians 4:6, GW).
Friend To Friend
The Comanche Indians tortured and killed their enemies by staking them to the ground. They then took a wet leather strap and placed it around the neck of their enemy. As the leather strap slowly dried in the blazing desert sun, it would gradually cut off the air supply until their enemy finally choked to death. Worry does the same thing. "Worry" literally means "to be pulled in different directions." The old English root from which we get our word "worry" means "to strangle." Worry literally strangles our peace and weakens our faith.
Worry is a control issue.
Worry is wasted energy.
Worry is consuming and unhealthy.
Worry is a joy thief.
Worry is the interest that we pay today on tomorrow's problems.
Worry is practicing atheism.
Worry makes everything seem bigger than it really is.
When we choose to trust God, we are choosing against worry. In Isaiah 26:3, Isaiah voices a powerful prayer of faith that should be our prayer as well. "You, Lord, give true peace. You give peace to those who depend on you. You give peace to those who trust you." It is simple. God rewards our trust with His peace.
I saw a bumper sticker that read "Worry is the darkroom in which negatives are developed." How true! I can only imagine what it does to the heart of God to see His children caught in the trap of negative attitudes when His plan is a peaceful mind-set. We will never live in freedom and power until we consistently choose against worry and deliberately choose to trust God alone.
It is possible not to worry. It must be. God never asks us to do anything that He doesn't empower us to do. The problem is that we like to play God in our lives. Playing God is the root of worry. When we take life into our own hands, worry will always be the result. The apostle Paul certainly had plenty of reasons to worry. He was in jail, facing a trial and an almost certain execution. Paul's health was failing rapidly and the churches he had spent his whole life building were struggling to survive. Yet, Paul refused to worry and lived a life marked by peace. We can, too.
Paul gives us the formula for eliminating worry and establishing peace when he writes "in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks." In this verse, "prayers" are thoughts spoken to God while "requests" are specific needs presented to God. In other words, if it is big enough to concern us, it is big enough to concern God. Then why do we get serious about prayer only as a last resort instead of making prayer our first response? We have forgotten that aside from God's power, we are helpless and lost. Peace comes while we are on our knees before Him in prayerful dependence. Paul reminds us that we are to pray about everything. Prayer should be a habit instead of a last-ditch effort.
Notice that Paul says if we want to experience peace, we must give thanks while we are praying, the perfect picture of praying in faith. To pray in faith is to believe that God not only can answer or will answer prayer, but that He is answering even as we pray.
The story is told of a small town in west Texas that was experiencing a severe drought. One Sunday morning, a pastor in that town announced there would be a prayer meeting that night and encouraged every member to meet at the church to pray for rain. The pastor challenged them to come in faith, believing that God would hear and answer their prayer. That night, the church was filled with every leader of the church and community. The preacher stood, looked out over the crowd and said "Only one of you has come in faith." He then pointed to a little girl seated in the front row. She was holding an umbrella. Faith eliminates worry and feeds peace.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a sense of helplessness. I am desperate for You, Lord. I need Your strength and power to sustain me because everything seems to be falling apart. I want to be a woman of faith and stand strong when trouble bombards my life but I cannot do it alone. I am afraid and seem to worry about everything. Today, I turn to You and celebrate the truth that You will turn to me and be my refuge.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back over your life. When did God take something bad and bring good out of it? Describe that experience. Remember the truth that God is the same yesterday, today and forever and what He did in your past ... He can do today and tomorrow. He is faithful – even when we are faithless.
Read and memorize Psalm 59:16. Choose to sing a new song of praise – no matter what happens today. Record this verse on an index card and keep it with you. When fear and doubt come, meet them with this powerful promise from God.
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July 8, 2011
Giving and Gaining
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." (Proverbs 11:25, NIV)
Friend To Friend
I pretty much consider myself to have a black thumb. I like plants and genuinely try to keep plants healthy and thriving in my home, but fail at it a lot more than I succeed. Seriously. Black thumb. So when my girlfriend brought me a baby aloe plant, my heart was torn between girlfriend-gratitude and feelings of sorrow for the innocent little aloe.
A few weeks after she gave me the plant gift, my friend told me a story. She confessed that she struggles to share things. It's just hard for her. She had two aloe plants for a long time but one day she felt a heart-nudge to give one of them to me. (Bless her heart! She obviously knows nothing of my black thumb!) Though she admittedly isn't naturally inclined to give her things away, she said that she decided in her heart that she would give me the small aloe baby.
For weeks she had meant to act on that heart-nudge and give me the aloe plant, but just never got around to it. She kept forgetting. She'd think about bringing me the aloe plant when she wasn't home or remember late at night when it was too late to run it by my house. In the back of her mind she thought that one of her plants would surely have an aloe baby offspring ... reasoning that she could just give me that one instead of one of her two plants.
Finally, she remembered. She brought me the cute little healing plant and gave it to me with a smile. Yay! We threw down a happy plant-dance that morning as we shared both a cup of coffee and our hearts in friendship.
So as we sat at my kitchen table again, coffee mugs in hands, she finished her story by excitedly saying, "The most amazing thing happened this week, Gwen! When I walked past the aloe plant that I'd kept for myself, I noticed that a baby aloe plant had sprung up in the pot! It was almost like a little present from God reminding me that I can't out-give Him. That when I trust Him and obey His nudges, He will bless me right back."
I nodded and smiled. She's so right. In the Bible God clearly calls us to be generous, and He promises to bless us when we are. God's Word has a lot to say about the tandem between generous giving and blessings.
"Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice" (Psalm 112:5, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed" (Proverbs 11:25, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor" (Proverbs 22:9, NIV, emphasis mine).
"Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work" (2 Corinthians 9:6-8, NIV).
"Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life" (1 Timothy 6:17-19, NIV).
God clearly calls His children to generous living ... no matter what we have, who we are, or where we live. Even the poorest among us are called to live generously. And let's not confuse the matter: it's not about our bank accounts – it's about our hearts. We are to be generous, willing to share, and rich in good deeds for the glory of God. The Scriptural promise we can stand on is that blessings will follow our generosity. When we give freely in obedience to Christ and live open-handed with all that we've been entrusted with, we reap beautiful life benefits.
Where does this promise and prompting find you today? Have you been nudged lately to be generous? Do you struggle to share things, both tangible and intangible?Is God calling you to serve Him somewhere with your time, treasures, or talents? Maybe the thing you need to give is forgiveness to someone or to yourself – or encouragement – or kindness. Got a family member, neighbor, or friend in need? Do something!
Generous living will look different to each of us, but we are all called to give as we live. I was blessed when my friend gave me that baby aloe plant. She was blessed too. God made sure of it. He always does. Friend, consider this truth and ask the Lord to move you missionally and to direct your giving. Today and every day live to give for the glory of God. Good will come of it. He promises ... and that's a promise you can take to the bank!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are perfectly generous. I am blessed by the abundance of Your grace, mercy, love and truth. Help me to live generously and to give open-handedly just as you have with me.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read this devotion?
What are you going to do about it?
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July 11, 2011
The Purpose of Prayer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven (Matthew 6:9-10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Prayer is not meant to change God's mind, but to change ours. Prayer aligns our thinking with God's will. When we begin our prayer with praise, we take the focus off of ourselves and put it on God. When we pray for God's will to be done, we take the focus off of our desires and put it on God's desires for our lives.
Jesus taught His disciples to pray, "Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven." For those who recite what we've come to know as the Lord's Prayer on a regular basis, it is very important that we never take those words for granted or say them flippantly. It is the cornerstone, the focus, and the ultimate purpose of prayer. Jesus himself prayed for God's will to be done. In the Garden of Gethsemane, just before his arrest, Jesus prayed, "Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me." His prayer was so intense, capillaries burst and droplets of blood trickled down his forehead. And yet, as much as He would have welcomed redemption in any other way than the cross, Jesus prayed, "yet, not my will, but yours be done," (Luke 22:42).
I am so thankful that God has not answered each of my requests with a "yes." My life would be much different than it is today – and I don't mean for the better. How thankful I am for my Heavenly Father Who knows what's best for me! He has plans that are "above and beyond all that we ask or think" (Ephesians 3:20) and in order to hear God speak through prayer, we must allow ourselves to think beyond our limited knowledge, to see beyond our limited vision, and to believe beyond our limited understanding.
Prayer turns our focus toward God and allows Him to rearrange our priorities and set our agenda. It is more than unloading our burdens and enumerating our desires. Prayer is more than telling God what we want. It is asking God what He wants.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I don't know what is best for me, but I know You do. Thank You that You don't give me everything I want, but You do give me everything I need. Lord, help me to recognize when my desires do not line up with Your plans. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, many cars come with a GPS (Global Positioning System). How would your day look if God was you GPS navigational system?
How are prayer and Bible study like a GPS for life?
Explain how ignoring a car's GPS and ignoring God's GPS in the Bible might have similar results.
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July 12, 2011
Pride and Chiggers
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you (Romans 12:3b, NIV).
Friend To Friend
A famous explorer in South America was once forced to abandon his journey by an almost invisible enemy. He was equipped to meet leopards, serpents and crocodiles. They proved to be no threat, but what he had failed to consider were the tiny insects called chiggers. They are so tiny that in North America we call them the "no see-ums." Someone composed this poem about these tiny invaders:
Here's to the chigger, the bug that's no bigger
Than the end of a very small pin;
But the itch that he raises simply amazes,
And that's where the rub comes in!
Pride and chiggers have a lot in common. Pride comes in little ways, unseen actions, subtle thoughts or inconspicuous comments. Unguarded attitudes and random thoughts are prime breeding grounds for pride. We must take charge of those thoughts, discipline our attitudes, training our thinking processes to give up and obey God.
Pride loves to take up residence in an undisciplined thought life, changing the setting and dictating attitudes with little or no resistance. When Paul encouraged the believers in Rome to cultivate "sober judgment," he was warning them to take charge of the mind, refusing to allow the entrance of any thoughts that would entertain pride. A disciplined thought life is the very foundation of a victorious journey with God.
I have heard it said that the bigger a man's head gets, the easier it is to fill his shoes. It is not wrong for Christians to recognize and even applaud gifts in our own lives and in the lives of others as long as we remember that spiritual gifts are ours to manage, not to own. Pride draws attention to those God given gifts and tempts us to take credit for their existence and the way in which they are used.
Many of us attempt to find worth and identity in what we do – not in who we are. As a result, our actions are intended to draw the attention of anyone and everyone in a vain effort to establish self-worth. There may be people in your life who are difficult to love. Our responsibility is to love and accept these difficult people without insisting they change or counting on them to change. In order to do that, we must choose grace and humility over pride and censure. Pride vanishes beneath the loving gaze of our Father who simply longs for each one of us to see ourselves through His eyes – no more and no less.
The frontline of battle against pride is in the mind. We must "take our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5, NASB). To take something captive is a military tactic that we must use to guard against pride. It sometimes seems as if pride can actually crawl into my mind and grab hold of any undisciplined thoughts floating around. Pride then flings those random thoughts into my heart as an attitude laced with burning arrogance and prideful perception of who I am in comparison to others.
We can change our lives by changing how we think. We can dictate the attitudes of our heart by fixing our thoughts on God and His truth. The result is peace, which stands against pride, electing humility instead. "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you" (Isaiah 26:3). What does it mean to "fix" our thoughts? Webster's Dictionary defines "fixed" as "rigid, solid or firm." We must learn to fix our thoughts on the truth of God's word. We need to be rigid in controlling our thought processes, holding firm to God's standard for the mind. The result will be a stable way of thinking and living. To prevent pride requires a choice to take charge of our mind.
I once dated a young man I thought was "the one." For some reason, my mother did not like him. Knowing her daughter well, my mother said nothing but I am sure she was on her knees pleading with God to take that young man out of my life. He did. We eventually broke up and my mother finally spilled the beans, explaining why she had a problem with this young man. "If I could buy him for what he's worth and sell him for what he thinks he is worth, I would be a millionaire!" Mama did have a way with words. She was so right! Today, that man is out of ministry, divorced and living a life that is unpleasing to God. His pride robbed him of the best God had for him. Don't let that happen to you, girlfriend. Run from anyone or anything that promotes a prideful attitude. Eliminate the strongholds of pride in your life. Nail your ego to the cross and declare it powerless. Celebrate the trophy of grace you are in God.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the grace You give. Thank You that grace covers all my sin with unconditional love and forgiveness. Help me to walk in that grace, turning away from pride and arrogance. Give me a humble spirit that draws others to You. Help me to see myself through Your eyes and then live out what I see. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
One of my favorite quiet time exercises is to create an acrostic using one word from the passage of Scripture I have read that day, pinpointing and explaining the main truth in the Scripture. Try it! Let me help you get started.
P. Pompous mindset
R. rejected
I. I sentence my ego to
D. death
E. Eliminating pride
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Pride is an ugly thing, isn't it? I have come to realize that I must daily nail my old self to the cross and count it dead if pride is to be defeated in my life. What does that mean? We must constantly choose others first, refusing to enthrone self in any circumstance. Ouch! It is so easy to promote me instead of others but I am determined to do so. How about you?
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July 13, 2011
Paid in Full
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9 NIV).
Friend To Friend
When we ask God to forgive us of our past mistakes and failures, He does. Plain and simple. The Bible promises, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
The original language of the New Testament was Greek. In the Greek, the word for forgiveness is aphieme. The word means to cut someone loose, and it also means to cancel a debt, the remission of the punishment due to sinful conduct.
It involves confession and repentance. To "confess" is more than saying, "yes, I did it." In the New Testament, the word "confess" is homologeo and means "to speak the same thing, to assent, accord, agree with...to confess by way of admitting oneself guilty of what one is accused of, the result of inward conviction." Simply put, it is agreeing with God about your sin.
To "repent" means to change your mind and go in the opposite direction. The Greek word is metanoeo and signifies to change one's mind or purpose. When Jesus forgave the woman caught in adultery, he said, "go and sin no more." In other words, "Stop what you're doing, go in the opposite direction, and don't commit adultery again." That is a picture of true repentance.
So we've learned three words today:
Confession: agreeing with God about your sin
Repentance: changing one's mind, turn and go in the opposite direction.
Forgiveness: cutting someone loose, cancel a debt
Are you broken hearted over your sin? Have you asked God to forgive you? Have you agreed with God that what you did was wrong and are you committed to turn and go in the opposite direction? If you have asked, then He has forgotten the offense already. If you have asked for forgiveness, but are having difficulty receiving it, then why not pray this prayer and receive it by faith.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I come before You today, confessing______________. I am truly repentant and sorry for my sin against You. I ask that You forgive me and cleanse me. Right now, I receive Your grace and forgiveness. I believe that You have forgiven me and will no longer hold my sin against me. I accept the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for my sin and thank You that my debt has been paid in full. Thank You God for forgiving me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now, dear one, I want you to picture your sin nailed to the cross. It is finished. Don't let Satan try to convince you otherwise. And believe me, he will try. Satan is called "the accuser" who accuses Christians day and night (Revelation 12:10). I picture him walking back and forth with our mug shots before the throne of God, saying "look at her! She's guilty as sin!"
And in response, our Heavenly Father says "I know her. She's my precious child whom I love! Her sentence has already been taken care of. Jesus paid it for her. She's forever free!"
Now It's Your Turn
Today, if you prayed the prayer above I want you to write your sin on a piece of paper, and then in large red letters write the words PAID IN FULL across the page.
Consider writing a prayer of thanksgiving to God thanking Him for sending Jesus to pay the price for your sin.
If you prayed that prayer, I'd love to know. Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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July 14, 2011
In His Steps
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be careful what you do, and always do what is right (Proverbs 4:26, NCV).
Friend To Friend
When Dan and I first married, I knew almost nothing about football. In fact, I would often ask, "Honey, who has the ball now?" He was so patient, answering every question without bursting into laughter. Dan's favorite team was the Dallas Cowboys and his favorite player was Emmett Smith, their star running back at the time.
During one particular game, Emmitt was playing on grass instead of the artificial turf he preferred. The grass was wet and Emmett was not playing his best game, falling down two plays out of three. Frustrated with his performance, Emmett took himself out of the game to change cleats. It didn't help. In fact, it took three cleat changes before he found the ones that gave him the best footing. He then went on to play a phenomenal game and lead his team to victory.
Obedience puts us on solid ground. God is not asking us for a season of obedience but for a lifestyle of obedience. Will Rogers once said, "Live your life in such a way, that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip." In Proverbs 3:6-7 (NCV) Solomon wrote, "Remember the Lord in all you do, and He will give you success. Don't depend on your own wisdom. Respect the LORD and refuse to do wrong." Obedience is remembering and choosing God in everything we do, choosing to walk in His steps and following the path He has set for us.
We are to live like citizens of a future world, guarding each step to make sure it matches the step of God. Not out of fear but out of love. Not because man observes and keeps score, but because God watches and we want to please Him. "Obey God because you are his children. Don't slip back into your old ways of doing evil; you didn't know any better then." (Peter 1:14, NLT). We cannot come to Christ and continue to respond to the world in the same way. Our behavior will change along with our perspective, our standards, our motives – everything. As Paul says, we become "a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV). This holy discipline sounds like an impossible and overwhelming command. It is – outside the power of God.
As I mentioned earlier, our son played football for many years. Different coaches tried to get Jered to play different positions, but they always ended up playing him as a fullback. College recruiters said he was a "throwback" explaining that Jered was built like a true fullback; he ran like a true fullback and thought like a true fullback. Consequently, he rarely fumbled the ball, explaining his success in a way I remember to this day: "Most players who carry the ball either make the mistake of trying to create their own route or end up following the wrong guy. I have blockers assigned to me on every play. Their job is to make a path for me. The minute I get the ball, I put my head down, look for my blockers, watch their feet and follow them - right across the goal line."
God has already been where He wants us to go. All we have to do is look for Him, watch His steps and follow them – right across the finish line. Discipline your steps, making sure that they match His.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to obey You. Forgive me when I let fear keep me from walking in Your steps or when I listen for the voice of others above Yours. Give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word so that I can grow up in You and become a mature believer that honors You with her life. Give me the strength and power to step out in faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 86:11. "Teach me your way, LORD, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name" (NIV).
The psalmist prays for an "undivided heart." Examine your own heart. Is it divided? What does that mean to you and how does it impact your walk with God?
Read Romans 10:17. "Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ" (NIV).
How does the Word of God impact the strength of your faith?
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July 15, 2011
The To-Do List Abyss
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Proverbs 31:17 (NIV) "She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks."
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Many of us check off neatly penciled boxes. Some draw lines through the tasks we've finished. A select few of us even add tasks that we've already completed to our list so that we've got accurate accomplishment records at the end of the day! (Present company included!) Some of us keep track of what we need to do each day in our heads, while others track progress of daily goals electronically.
There are days I fluff up my list. Instead of simply writing, "Do three loads of laundry," I'll create twelve list items to check off that read:
Wash whites
Dry whites
Fold/hang whites
Put away whites
Wash colors
Dry colors
Fold/hang colors
Put away colors
Wash darks
Dry darks
Fold/hang darks
Put away darks
Oh, how I love to check boxes! Why? I want to be a productive woman. I want my work to matter. It's pretty much a daily struggle for me. As an eternal optimist, I wake up anticipating that the seconds, minutes, and hours of each day will bend to cooperate with the demands of my list.
Yeah, right.
I'm such a dreamer. It just never seems to work out that simply or efficiently.
I'm guessing that you are in this daily struggle with me. Right? No matter what it looks like, thinks like, or prints off like, many of us feel overwhelmed by the abyss of a rarely satisfied to-do list. We face constant demands that call to us and vie for our attention. We sift through the essentials and the fire drills, then we go to bed, wake up, and do it all again. The abyss of a to-do list can be so exhausting!
The good news is that we don't need to face our lists alone. God offers to come along side of us daily to provide the strength, perspective, and wisdom we need. He helps us prioritize our days when we turn to Him in prayer. In the Bible, we read of a woman who approached each day with God-power and God-perspective:
"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks" (Proverbs 31:17, NIV).
Though this is an impressive statement about her work ethic and though it seems this fictional woman dominates her daily to-do list, it's important to consider the source of her strength: God. At the end of the chapter, Scripture shows us that she "...fears the Lord..." (Proverbs 31:30, NIV). Her source of strength is rooted in faith and in her dependence on God. Ours should be, too.
Your list looks different from mine. We all have unique ministries, friendships, jobs, responsibilities, and families. Whether you are in the work force, unemployed, or retired or a stay-at-home mom, a single mom, or an empty nester – a wife, a widow, a single woman, or a divorcee – God can and will give you strength for each day when you prioritize Him and fear Him.
Consider the following verses:
"Are you so foolish? After beginning with the Spirit, are you now trying to attain your goal by human effort?" (Galatians 3:3, NIV).
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:28-31, NIV).
God longs to strengthen your arms for the tasks on your to-do list today. Place time with Him as your first priority. Check your God-box. Go to Him now. Pray. Listen. Call on Him for direction, wisdom, renewal, and strength. Strong arms await you, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
God, I was created by You and for You. Please forgive me when I rush into a day without calling on You for my strength. I need you, Lord. Please prioritize my heart and my list today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 31:25-26: "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."
How closely do you relate to the above verse?
What steps need to be taken in your life to move toward a deeper dependence on God's strength verses your own? Are you willing to go there? Take a moment to talk to God about it.
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Hey friend, God is all over me about this subject right now. His Spirit is constantly reminding me of the importance of operating in God-strength and not Gwen-strength. I think we all struggle with this one. BUT GOD – He loves to give us strength where we struggle. The title track of my latest CD is called Uncluttered. Since we've gone there devotionally, I'd really like to go deeper by exploring this topic musically. Please join me on my Facebook page right now and take a watch the music video to Uncluttered. I'd love to hear stories from you about where you are with this. Then write a few thoughts on my wall about where God is directing you in all of this. (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic)
SILLY-DIZZY? Check out Gwen's new CD, Uncluttered. The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ.
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July 18, 2011
Ignored by Man, Chosen by God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world (John 15:19 NIV).
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Have you ever felt that you were overlooked or ignored ... like you were a nobody? Well, take heart girlfriend. You are not alone.
In the Bible, we read the story of when the prophet Samuel went to anoint the next king of Israel. By God's instruction, Samuel traveled to Bethlehem, to the house of Jesse. He knew where to go and what family the king would come from. He knew the next king would be one of Jesse's sons ... he just didn't know which son.
Samuel arrived in Bethlehem and asked Jesse to bring all of his sons out for his inspection. Jesse brought out each of his seven sons, one-by-one. As Samuel prayerfully approached each young man, God said, "No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one." Seven times God refused Jesse's sons. Finally, exasperated and confused, Samuel asked, "Are these all the sons you have?"
"Oh yeah, I do have one more son," Jesse said. "I almost forgot all about him. Little David is out taking care of the sheep. I'll send someone to get him."
David was so insignificant to his own father, that when the prophet requested an audience with all of his boys, the dad didn't even think to invite him. However, David was the very one God had selected to be the next ruler of His chosen people. How exciting! You may have felt overlooked, disregarded, and ignored by man, but make no mistake about it, you are chosen by God!
Ponder these verses...
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience" (Colossians 3:12 NIV).
"In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory" (Ephesians 1:11,12 NIV).
"Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies" (Romans 8:33 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank You that I am chosen and dearly loved. While there have been many times in my life where I was not chosen, I rejoice that You chose me! Help me to be an encourager to others who may feel neglected or discarded by others. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was a time in your life when you felt rejected?
The Bible says that we have a High Priest, Jesus, who has felt all the pain and suffering just as we have. How was Jesus rejected?
At the same time, how was Jesus chosen by God?
Consider writing down the verses in today's devotion and post them somewhere you can see them often.
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You are chosen, holy, and dearly loved. And that's just the beginning. If you would like to learn about who you are in Christ, what you have in Christ, and where you are in Christ, then you'll want to read Becoming Spiritually Beautifulby Sharon Jaynes. This book will help you see yourself as God sees you ... absolutely beautiful!
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July 19, 2011
The Power of Quiet
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul (Psalm 23:1-3a, NIV).
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There are times when laundry takes over my house. Piles build up, though I try to stay on top of them. Many of the clothes are clean and even folded, but not put away. That tricky put-away-part is always hard for me.
Then there are the socks. Oh, the socks! They burden me so!! I'm half tempted to believe that a great sock nation exists,and that sock-soldiers are on a secret mission to destroy my testimony by driving me crazy! Divide and conquer. That's what they do! Why can't socks just behave? Why can't they ever stay in pairs, and where am I supposed to put the socks that remain unmatched? (Insert dramatic sigh here...) Unmatched socks and folded-but-not-put-away-laundry tie me up in knots. I don't like to admit it, but sometimes days go by before I make the time to put them away.
Is it just me?
I've come to realize that my days can be a lot like my laundry situation. At times they get piled up with "busy." Sabbath gets squeezed out. Now, when I say Sabbath, I mean the priority of sitting before the Lord just to sit with Him ... quietly ... expectantly ... to listen. Though I do include God in my days and breathe prayers throughout, when I don't sit before the Lord – and exercise the spiritual discipline of being quiet before God – it seems that both old and new burdens can tie my heart into a frazzled knot.
It had been one of those weeks. Knots. Knots. Knots. Then I finally remembered the power of quiet. As I sat in the cool still of the morning with a hot mug of coffee in my hand and the warming presence of God in my soul, the burdens of my heart began to drift away. Direction came. Joy resounded. Mercy rained. Peace ... deep peace fell.
It was when the companion of God's Spirit had begun to transform my soul, my thoughts, my goals, and my day that I realized, as if I had slumbered half the week away ... this is where they go! This is where my burdens belong! The old ones that I've written about time and time again in my prayer journal and the new ones that are just beginning to unravel from my heart. This is where they go! I just needed to put my continuous stream of life-burdens away like the unending piles of laundry! Then ... order, soul order. Peace, compelling peace. Joy, divine joy. It all comes.
I sat in wonder. Still. In His presence. Convicted of my failure to remember the power of being quiet before the Lord. "Of course this is where they go. I knew that. I knew that! Lord, forgive me. Oh, how I'm thankful for your daily mercy showers."
Jesus tells all who believe that we should go to Him. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30).
When our lives get too busy ... when the laundry piles up in our homes and the burdens pile up in our hearts, we often forget the power of quiet. The power of being still before God. The power of listening, expecting, soul-pouring ... receiving rest. His presence sorts souls and never leaves an unmatched burden. His presence never leaves and un-lifted burden. Hallelujah! What a Savior!
Take some time to power-down and be still before Him right now. Remember the power of quiet as you exchange your burdens for His peace.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Your mercy is fresh each day, and Your grace piles higher than all my laundry and all my heart-woes. Thank You, Lord! I'm here. Please align my heart to Yours. Quiet me with Your love, direction, and peace today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When is the last time you sat and were still before God – with no music playing, no TV on, etc.?
When we spend purposed time with the Lord, beautiful things happen. Look up Zephaniah 3:17 and fill in the blanks below:
"The LORD your God is _______ _________, he is mighty to save.
He will take ___________ ______________in you, he will _____________ you with his ______________, he will _____________ over you with ________________."
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Are you up for a personal GiG challenge? I challenge you to add a ten-minute "Sabbath" to your day for the next week. (I recommend you do it as soon as you wake up, but that's your call.) Simply sit before the Lord and let Him know you are there. You might want to start your time by reading a psalm and responding in prayer. Then be still. Just ten minutes a day for a week. Ready for the challenge? Let me know by telling me on my Facebook wall: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. Hope you will join me!
NEED SOME SOUL REST? Check out Gwen's new CD, Uncluttered.The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ.
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July 20, 2011
Doubting Thomas
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Thomas fell to his knees and cried, 'My Lord and my God!' (John 20:29 NIV).
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When Jesus appeared to the disciples after His resurrection, there was one who was absent from the motley crew – Thomas. When he came back to the group, they were abuzz telling of Jesus' appearance. But Thomas didn't believe a word they said.
"Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it," he declared.
"A week later his disciples were in the house again and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus suddenly appeared and stood among them.
"Peace be with you!" he said.
Then Jesus turned to a stunned Thomas and said, "Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe."
Thomas fell to his knees and cried, "My Lord and my God!"
The world is full of "Thomases." I was one and perhaps you were one too. And even though I did not run my fingers over Jesus' nail scarred hands or thrust my hand into his sword pierced side, I recognized Jesus through the scars of the men and women who were not afraid to share their stories of healing and redemption...and I believed.
In Revelations 12:11, John wrote, "They overcame him (Satan) by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." Incredible power is released when we drop the chains of bitterness, fear, and shame to tell our stories. Because Satan knows that our stories are instrumental in his ultimate defeat, he will do anything and everything to convince us to keep the treasures hidden away. Oh dear one, God is calling us to not be ashamed of our scars, for it is by those very scars that others will recognize the Savior, Jesus Christ.
Do you know a "Thomas" who needs to see Jesus' scars ... perhaps in your own life? This week, I encourage you to share your story of redemption with one other person and watch a miracle take place!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am overwhelmed today by the great sacrifice that You made for me on Calvary's Cross. Thank You for the scars You bore for me. Help me to share my scars to help others see the hope and healing You have brought into my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think Jesus kept His scars?
What helped Thomas believe that Jesus was alive?
How can showing or telling about the scars or your past help others see Jesus in your life?
Is there someone who needs to hear your story?
If you've never shared your story, but would like to today, I'd love to hear it. You can e-mail me at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com.
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If you would like to learn more about how God can use your story to help others, then you'll want to read Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.Your story might be just what someone needs to hear in order to trust in Jesus as Savior, Healer and Lord.
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July 21, 2011
Serving Sandpaper People
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:10, NIV).
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We live in a problem-filled world. However, you will be thrilled to know I have discovered the biggest problem of all – people. In my opinion, if there were fewer people, there would be fewer problems. Every day, we face the daunting challenge of getting along with people. Some make it easy, and some don't. Some are kind and encouraging, and replenishing, while others drive us to the brink of insanity and beyond.
One Sunday morning, a Sunday school teacher, in the process of teaching the Ten Commandments to her third-grade class, asked the question, "Last week we learned the commandment to honor your father and mother. Can anyone tell me if there is one that refers to brothers and sisters?" A little girl's hand immediately shot up. When the teacher called on her to give an answer, the anxious youngster quickly responded, "Yes, there is a commandment just about brothers. The one that says, 'Thou shalt not kill!'"
Let's be honest – some people are simply more difficult to get along with than others. They "rub" us the wrong way. I call them "sandpaper people." We try to change them, run from them, ignore them, and even take a stab at fixing them. But what would happen if we made the choice to serve them?
I know. The last thing I usually want to do is serve someone who is hard to get along with. In fact, shouldn't these "sandpaper people" be serving me in order to make up for all of the grief they have caused? Sounds right, doesn't it? God has a different plan – a higher plan that produces supernatural results. It is called service.
In his letter to the church in Rome the Apostle Paul defined true service when he said that we are to "be devoted to one another in brotherly love" and "honor one another" (Romans 12:10, NIV). In this verse, "devotion" indicates commitment and duty and carries the idea of a constant faithfulness that deliberately chooses repeatedly to serve. To "honor" someone means to "prefer" him or her or regard them as more important than ourselves. Honestly, most sandpaper people are used to people preferring that they disappear.
Sandpaper people are hard to serve and hard to help because they rarely, if ever, think of themselves as someone in need. The needs of others are not high on their priority list but control and power are. To manipulate is to succeed. Sandpaper people honestly believe that the world does or should revolve around them. It doesn't seem to matter if the audience is applauding or jeering. Either way, they win. Why would God ask us to serve the very people who drive us crazy - the people who are so hard to love and seem to constantly wreak emotional havoc in our lives?
Choosing to serve a difficult person demands that we lay down our pride and our rights and deliberately choose to identify and meet a need in that person's life. We then become a conduit through which His love can flow to reach and transform that hard-to-love person. When we dare to serve a sandpaper person, it rocks their world. They are accustomed to scratching and clawing their way to a false and shallow acceptance. Sandpaper people find it almost impossible to believe that anyone would ever be willing to serve them in any way. That kind of chosen love is foreign to them but it certainly grabs their attention. I wonder what our world would look like if we made the choice to love and serve the sandpaper people in our lives.
Let's Pray
Father, when I let pride take up residence in my heart, I can be so blind to the needs of others, especially those who are more difficult to love. I am so thankful that You did not feel that way toward me, one of the most difficult people of all to love. I praise You for the grace and love You have given me. Help me to be an instrument of that love and grace in the lives of those around me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think about the people in your life – family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.
List two people who are easy to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve them. Be specific.
List two people who are difficult to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve them. Be specific.
Compare the two experiences.
From which one did you learn the most?
Which one forced you to rely upon God's power the most?
What one truth did you gain through these two experiences?
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If I am not careful, I automatically gravitate to those who are easy to love and easy to serve. I have to remind myself that Jesus Christ came for broken people like me. I am not always easy to love and am prone to reject service because "I can do it myself." Sound familiar? Today, choose to love and serve those difficult people in your path. When someone loves and wants to serve you, accept that love and service in Jesus' name, as a gift from God's hand. Be blessed.
Need more help? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper Peopleto discover 12 steps you can take to deal with the difficult people in your life. (Also available in CDand MP3 download)
Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible StudyStress Management 101that just began. It is not too late to join. Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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July 22, 2011
Who Defines Your Worth?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
You are precious and honored in my sight... (Isaiah 43:4a, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Last winter, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It's a hoodie that's made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zips up in the front and is well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.
When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home. I fully anticipated a shriek of happiness from my little bag of beans when I gave it to her. Delightfully, I wasn't disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around - until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price. Are you tensing up with me? Suddenly, I felt schnookered! Ripped off. Taken advantage of. As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed – Kennedy's jacket wasn't worth what I paid for it.
When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, last week the cute jacket was thirty-nine dollars, and now it's nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn't change, but its perceived worth did.
Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable, shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn't it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feeling worthless? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it's because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.
What kind of variable factors?
There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:
Because they've been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused...)
Because they've been told that they're worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another...)
Because ofchoices they've made (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger...)
Because they've been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography...)
Because they're co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – "If my husband isn't okay, I'm not okay.")
Because they don't collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability...)
Because they've battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can't drive, cook...)
Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We've felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional, broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion - how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.
Trust me, I'm not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth. Or about being a woman of worth. I am in the trenches with you. I struggle with normal woman things. I don't live a fancy schmancy, rose-colored wonder-life. I hit the snooze button several times each morning. I pack lunches for my kids. I spend countless hours of my life each year sitting in the car pool line. It's a never-ending struggle for me to keep the laundry done and my kids often have to fish for a matching pair of socks in the clean-clothes basket. My husband is my soul mate, but is far from perfect. For that matter, Brad should win a lifetime achievement award for enduring the drama of me! And my kids bring me both great joy and great frustration on a daily basis.
Is this sounding at all familiar to you?
See – I'm just like you, and I'm walking this faith journey right beside you. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. Amen? I'm constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I've come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags" (Isaiah 64:6a, emphasis mine).
What I do know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I'm a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. I'm a grace girl. Not perfect by a long stretch. I've been changed by the unconditional love of God and restored to perfect beauty through the shed blood of Jesus. Because of love, we are His daughters, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.
Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God's daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. That's exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! I talk to women all the time who bend a knee to negative feelings and live defeated lives because they don't quite know how to overcome their sense of worthlessness. God wants every one of us to experience healing and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.
So let's go back to Kennedy's new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God's department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous!One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it's crazy expensive. Way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.
"It's a perfect fit," He smiles.
"Sir," you manage with a whisper, "I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I'm, well, just an ordinary girl."
"Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full."
As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands - nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.
You see, the Bible tells us that because of what Jesus did on the cross, we can be clothed with the "robe of righteousness." The apostle Paul tells us that when we are reconciled to God, we become His righteousness. "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21). There's no way we could ever afford or earn such a robe but Jesus gave His life for us - He earned it for us. He paid the price and we receive the gift. Why? Because you're worth it. You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone's bargain rack again.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I'm humbled at the very thought that I could be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it.
Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.
Print or write out this verse: "I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15-16, NASB). Set it to memory and allow it to serve as a reminder that you are precious to God.
More From The Girlfriends
I wish I could reach through my computer screen, grab your hands, and pray with you right now. I don't know what you are going through, but our loving Father is keenly aware of your circumstances, your feelings, and your needs. Please take heart in knowing that Mary, Sharon, and I are praying for you.
Today's devotion is from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
NEED PRAYER? Visit Gwen's facebook page at www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. Today Gwen will designate her Facebook wall to prayer, so swing by and post a prayer need, then while you are there, pray for the needs posted by other GiGs
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July 25, 2011
Failing Doesn't Make You a Failure
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers (Luke 22:31-32 NIV emphasis added).
Friend To Friend
I'm so glad Jesus picked Peter to be one of His disciples. Time and time again we see him with his foot in his mouth, his pride in his pocket, and his temper on his sleeve. Satan knew Peter was going to have a big impact on the formation of the Christian Church, and he tried many times to get him off course. During the last supper, Jesus warned Peter that he was about to be tested..."Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers," (Luke 22:31-32 emphasis added).
Peter puffed out his chest, lifted his head and said, "I am ready to go with you to prison and to death."
I imagine Jesus thought, Sure you are, buddy.
Just a few hours later, the sifting began. As Peter stood by the fire just outside where Jesus was being beaten and tried, a little servant girl asked if he was one of Jesus' followers.
"Woman, I don't know him," he said.
Then again...
"Man, I am not (one of his disciples)!" Peter replied.
And again...
"Man, I don't know what you're talking about!"
And just as the third denial slipped past Peter's lips, the rooster crowed to remind him of Jesus' words, "Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times."
Peter went outside and wept bitterly.
Jesus knew that Peter was going to deny him, and yet, before he even fell from grace, Jesus was picking him up. Yes, Peter was absolutely crushed at his weakness in denying Jesus three times. But then, the ray of God's love reminded him of Jesus' words... "When you have turned back, strengthen your brothers."
After Jesus' resurrection, three times Jesus asked, "Peter, do you love me?" After each of Peter's affirmations, Jesus said, "Feed my lambs...take care of my sheep...feed my sheep." Peter did exactly what Jesus asked and spent the rest of his life doing just that.
Have you made some mistakes that left you feeling disqualified from serving God? Do you feel like you have been sitting on the bench because of too many technical fouls? Oh dear friend, you are not disqualified. Jesus has not put you on the bench. Just as we have seen with Peter, when we fall, Jesus calls us to repent, reassure Him of our love, and get back in the game to strengthen our brothers and sisters in Christ. Listen closely. Can you hear it? Jesus is whispering...Do you love me...take care of my sheep.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so thankful that you loved Peter...and that You love me. I don't want to sit on the bench when it comes to the game of life. Thank you for forgiving me and putting me back in the game. Help me to have the courage to get back on my feet when I fall, dust the shame off my face, and join the team on the field! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind when you read ... And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:31-32)?
Do you think Jesus knows when, where, and how you are going to fail?
What did he want Peter to do after he had repented?
What does God want you to do after you have repented?
Let's get real. Were you convicted or motivated by the words of today's devotion? Let's chat. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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We all make mistakes ... just different ones. If you would like to learn how to turn your mistakes into ministry, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past. It's time to get off the bench and back in the game!
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July 26, 2011
I Just Don't Have the Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Conduct yourselves wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time (Colossians 4:5, NRSV).
Friend to Friend
Time management is a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline. We choose where to invest our time, carefully planning everything from work related meetings and lunch appointments to play dates and trips to the grocery store - but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God. Discipline carves out time to sit at His feet.
Sin thrives in an out-of-control life, a life without godly discipline. Temptation happily dances across overcrowded schedules. Our minutes, hours and days are precious commodities, gifts from God that can be unwrapped only once. We can become so busy meeting the needs of others that we destroy ourselves in the process. I cannot tell you how many women I know who have given themselves away for so long that there is nothing left to give. Marriages fail, children rebel and homes crumble because flawed priorities dictate wrong living.
I know what it is like to rush headlong through pointless days, trying to prove my worth. For many years, I was busy doing good things ... some might even say great things ... but they were not the highest things for my life. I crashed and burned, landing in a pit of clinical depression, a monument to my insecurity.
From the bottom of that pit, it was easy to see just how skewed my perspective of time really was. I had poured years into making my plans successful only to discover that God resources and empowers His plan alone. It was painfully obvious that I needed an attitude adjustment, an eternal perspective kindled by godly discipline. I needed to understand that my time is not really mine but a treasure on loan to me from God. He wanted me to understand that He was calling me to work from His love and acceptance – not to it!
Every plan, priority and goal must be held against the backdrop of eternity because it is from that backdrop that our priorities are validated, our calling confirmed and our time best invested. Godly priorities embrace God's plan. I am convinced that much of our frustration in life comes from doing things we were never intended to do. We create the plan as we go instead of resting in God's plan. Discipline guides each step and establishes a basis for obedience and success in our walk with God.
I am, by no means, an expert in the area of discipline, but I do want to share some simple ideas that work for me.
Prepare
Just as we budget our money, we must budget our time. Every day, we are presented with twenty-four hours, and every day we must choose to either spend those hours or invest them. Every Sunday afternoon, I do three things – write devotions, finish my online Bible study and plan the week ahead. I assign tasks to each day and prioritize those tasks in order of importance. That's the easy part. The hard part is sticking to the plan, but getting a head start offers a greater chance for success. Schedule one day a week to plan. The preparation will pay off.
Prioritize
If we don't set priorities - others will. Time thieves will steal the hours and days as we allow them to impose their plans and demands on us. While it is true that different women have different priorities in different seasons of life, it is also true that one priority remains steadfast. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God" (Matthew 6:33, NIV). Once that priority is firmly established, the rest of life will fall into place.
Eliminate
Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone. This lesson is especially hard for me because I actually believe I can do it all. The key to godly discipline and right priorities is learning what my "all" is and then doing all of that. My trusty "Superwoman" cape is never far away. Admittedly, it is a constant battle for me to ignore the presence of that cape, choosing to embrace and employ God's priorities – not mine - but it is definitely a battle worth fighting. Godly discipline brings a holy scrutiny to priorities and perspectives.
Delegate
Include every family member in the work and include every family member in the play. The concept of "team" is essential to every successful family. A chore is not just a random assignment. It says, "You are an important part of this team. We need you."
Simplify
Give up on perfection. It is meant for heaven ... not earth. I love the Amish saying, "The further we get from simple things, the further we get from God." Jesus was born in sparse simplicity, a manger instead of a mansion. His teachings were simple enough for a child to understand. We often overlook profound simplicity in search of hollow complexity, foolishly thinking that bigger is always better. When it comes to investing time, we need to employ simple godly discipline.
Yield
My greatest mission field is my home, my marriage and my children and grandchildren - easy words to write, but hard truths to apply. It does not matter how much I do or how successful I am in ministry. If home and family are left with only the scraps of my time, energy, and emotions, I am walking in sin and disobedience.
Discipline does not come naturally or easily. We will surely fail but we can always begin again. Join me today in a new commitment to cultivate, apply and relish godly discipline.
Let's Pray
Father, I want my life to be under Your control – not mine. Help me learn how to wisely invest my time in a way that pleases and honors You. Teach me how to set boundaries and establish priorities that will encourage my obedience to You. Empower me to live for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following statements and check the ones that are true in your life.
___I often feel confused and scattered.
___I have too much to do and too little time in which to do it.
___I think of myself as contented.
___I enjoy my family.
___I have a daily quiet time.
___I sometimes take a nap.
___I enjoy regular exercise.
___I spend most of my time on urgent things instead of the important things.
___I often feel guilty for taking time to relax.
___I have prayerfully set life goals.
Evaluate your answers in light of today's devotion. Identify one change you need to make in order to invest your time wisely.
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July 27, 2011
The Fiery Furnace
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze (Isaiah 43:2 NIV).
Friend To Friend
One of the most beautiful pictures of trusting in the sovereignty of God is in the story of three young Jewish men: Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. These three lads refused to bow to King Nebuchadnezzar's idol. The punishment for such rebellion against the king was death in a fiery furnace. When the young men were taken before the king just before facing death, they respectfully explained:
The God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king. But even if he does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up. (Daniel 3:17-18)
That is a faith that's real – truly tried by fire. God can deliver me, but if He chooses not to, I'll serve Him anyway. God can heal me, but if He doesn't, I love Him regardless.
The young men were thrown into the furnace. Their refusal to bow to the King's request infuriated Nebuchadnezzar. He ordered the furnace heated seven times hotter than usual and commanded some of the strongest soldiers in his army to tie the young men up and toss them into the flames. The flames were so hot, the soldiers who took the bound boys to the furnace died in its heat. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego walked into the flames and the King stood by to watch.
"Didn't we throw three men in the furnace," the King asked in amazement.
"Look, I see four men walking around in the fire, unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like a son of the gods" (Daniel 3:25).
That was enough for the king to have a change of heart. He ordered the door opened, and the three young men walked out of that furnace without a singed hair on their heads or a hint of smoke on their clothes!
We can be sure of this, my friend - when walking through the fiery trials of life, we are never alone. Jesus is right there with us all the way. A little smoke and fire doesn't bother Him one little bit.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that I never have to walk through the fiery trials of life alone. You promised that You will never leave me, and I cling to that truth today. Also, thank You for sending friends to walk through the flames with me! They are some of my most treasured gifts. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Describe one of the fiery trials in your life that you have had to walk through?
How was God's presence manifested in the "flames?"
Do you have a friend who needs someone to walk through a fiery trial with her?
Do you desire to have friends like the three young men in this story? If so, ask God to send you one or two friends with a strong faith with whom you can lock arms.
Gwen, Mary and I are so thankful that you have allowed us to walk through life with you. You are a blessing!
More From The Girlfriends
Fiery trials come in all shapes and sizes with varying degrees of heat. But no matter what the trial, there is always a lesson to be learned. God can use it for good (Romans 8:28). Let's not waste our sorrows, but turn them around and use them for good! To learn more on how to do just that see Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.
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July 28, 2011
In His Eyes
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was my first day of teaching second grade. While standing at the classroom door, greeting parents and children, I felt a tug on my skirt. I looked down into the beautiful blue eyes of Sammy, one of my new students. His mother, who was standing beside Sammy, looked at me and said, "I guess you've heard about Sammy. Good luck!" As she walked away, Sammy said, "She's right. I'm dumb and mean and can't read or write."
Lisa was a tall, blonde and beautiful young woman with zero self-confidence. Lisa was the family joke because she was always dropping things or falling on the stairs. "Klutz" became her nickname at home and quickly caught on in the youth group and church where her father was the pastor.
A young wife and mother sobbed out her confession that she had just ended an affair, "He made me feel important and special." A talented singer and pianist, she vowed to never again sing or play because she was damaged goods.
I often hear and see the same prison described by women living in the grip of failure and defeat for one reason or another. I want to share some good news with you. God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Be realistic in your opinion of yourself. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
I love a good sale, don't you? In fact, I am tempted to think that a 75% off tag may very well be a sign from God. However, I have learned that you can save money in the long run if you check the label. Let me explain. We needed a new sofa. It had to be a certain color and style and cost a certain amount. I headed for the nearest furniture outlet, where I narrowed my selection down to two sofas. Both were on sale and both would work in our home. I saw the salesman coming. Before he could say a word, I asked, "Which one of these sofas would you tell your wife to buy?" The man immediately pointed to one of the sofas and said, "Definitely that one." When I asked why he had chosen that particular sofa, he replied, "Check the label. The one I chose was made by a company known for its quality work. The other sofa is a cheap imitation."
We can judge a product's potential and value by looking at the one who created it. You are valuable simply because you were created by the hand of God. His design of you and His plan for your life is second to none. To cower or crawl in inferiority is to say to God, "You made a mistake when you made me." God doesn't make mistakes, girlfriend. He never has to say "Oops!" You were created in His likeness. You are valuable to God. God knows your name and loves you. You are His masterpiece and have been validated by God Himself.
Step two: Embrace the plan.
While painting in the city park, an artist spotted a beggar sitting across the path from where he was working. Thinking of God's handiwork in every human being, the artist painted the man as he imagined he could be and then called the beggar to see the painting. "Is that me?' the beggar asked. "That is the way I see you," replied the artist. The beggar stared at the painting. With tears in his eyes he said, "If that's the man you see in me, then that's the man I will be!" God created you in response to a unique plan He has for your life. As you read the Bible and obey His truth, that plan will unfold.
Tomorrow, we will look at four more steps we can take to understand who we are in Christ as we learn to recognize our value in His eyes. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for life and the special plan You have for me. Honestly, it is hard for me to understand and really believe that I am special to You. To think that You know me and love me just as I am really rocks my world, but I do want to see myself through Your eyes – no more and no less. Please help me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10. How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5. How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11. Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
More From The Girlfriends
I have struggled with my identity and value for a big part of my life. Fear of failure once kept me from dreaming new dreams. No more! My dreams seem to get bigger with every year of life that passes and I really believe it is because my new perspective of who I am is more accurate than it has ever been. I am a daughter of the King. I belong to God and He loves me. No one can take my place in the Father's heart and I am indispensable to no one but Him. That is my prayer for you, girlfriend, that you will know and live out the truth that in God's eyes, you are special.
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July 29, 2011
In His Eyes
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride and it does not exalt self above others. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own and when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be. Yesterday, we examined the first two steps we can take to understand who we are in His eyes. Today, we will look at four more steps.
Step three: Be yourself.
We should always be looking for something new to learn, an area where we can grow and changes that need to be made. Sit down with your mate or close friend and ask for a realistic evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Constantly search for gifts and abilities on which you can work. Don't be afraid of change. It is a sign of life and growth. Change what needs to be changed, accept what you cannot change and quit whining about it! Don't waste another minute trying to be someone you were never created to be. Stop questioning God's design for your life. When an old man from the mountains of North Carolina was asked how he created such extraordinary wooden carvings of dogs, he replied, "Well, I just take my knife and a piece of wood and carve away everything that doesn't look like a dog." Learning to see your self through the eyes of God is like "carving away" everything that is not part of the original design – God's plan – and then learning how to accept what remains.
Step four: Guard your mind.
We are bombarded on all sides by the media, family and friends, co-workers and even enemies who have a certain identity they want to assign to us. We have a choice. No one makes us feel inferior without our permission. We will become what we allow our heart and mind to dwell on. An old adage says it well: "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." It is impossible to avoid destructive thinking entirely. We will be tempted. We will have negative thoughts and temptations, but we do not have to allow them to dwell in our minds. God has given us a "garbage disposal" for the mind.
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
We once lived in Miami, Florida, a place where ships come from all over world. However, before a ship is allowed to dock, an inspection team goes aboard with one assignment. Find every bit of contamination on board that ship. If contamination of any kind is found, the ship must be quarantined until it is cleaned up and inspected again. The ship is then allowed to dock. We need to control our thought life in the same way.
Step five: Control your tongue.
Our words either build up or tear down. Scripture tells us not to curse others because they are made in the image of God. So are we. As a mom, I constantly warned our children about the danger of critical words. I wanted them to learn how to encourage others with their words as well as have a healthy picture of who they are. One day, while standing in front my bathroom mirror, I began berating myself for something I had done. I didn't see our son who was quietly standing in our bedroom door where he could hear every word I said. "Mom, who are you talking to?" he asked. I sheepishly replied, "I was talking to myself." He thought for a moment and then offered a convicting observation, "Boy, if I talked like that, I'd be in big trouble!" I was immediately reminded of the words in Psalm 141:3: "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."
Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we sow destructive, critical words, we will reap a life that is negative and critical, but if we sow words of truth, we will reap a life of peace and purpose, knowing who we are in His eyes.
Step six: Be Patient
Weeds spring up overnight but it takes years for a mighty oak to grow. Today, you can take the first step toward gaining a new perspective of who you are in Christ. Our Father says it this way in Philippians 1:6, "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You more and learn to see myself as You see me. Please help me recognize and guard against anything or anyone who would chip away at Your truth working in my life. I believe You love me and cherish me as Your daughter. Help me to walk in that value and worth and then lead others to do the same. I praise You for validating my very existence as part of Your heart's plan. I love You, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is your assignment for the week. Read Psalm 139 at least one time every day. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. At the end of the week, set aside time to celebrate who you are in Christ. Have a praise party – just you and God – or invite a few girlfriends to join you in celebrating how special you are to Him.
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I pray that these devotions have helped you catch a new glimpse of just how precious you are to God. If you were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, rest assured that you were wanted and planned by God Himself. He is with you and for you, girlfriend. He believes in you and has a plan that will prosper you and give you hope. Turn to Him. Trust Him. You are special in His eyes.
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August 1, 2011
Don't Do It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Flee from sexual immorality...Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God. You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians 6:18, 19-20 NIV).
Friend To Friend
Can I talk girlfriend to girlfriend for just a moment? It's about a very uncomfortable subject, and honestly, one most of us would rather pretend does not exist in "Christian circles." It's sexual sin.
In my last devotion, we stood road-side and looked at the story of the woman caught in adultery, and Jesus who set her free. Even though she wasn't behind prison bars, she was in bondage to a sinful lifestyle. Sexual sin is highly addictive and the search for love in all the wrong places, insatiable. It is a drink that never satisfies the soul and leaves the partaker only thirsty for more.
A woman is enticed by a syrupy word from a co-worker, an e-mail from an old boyfriend, an invitation on Facebook, or an alluring smile at a neighborhood gathering. Loneliness fills the room and passion comes knocking at the door. But when the smoke clears, loneliness returns with new hunger pangs laced with regret.
Sex outside of marriage can lead to many things: unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, divorce, mistrust, regret, shame, loss of family and a whole list of undesirable dominos that tumble in succession. But in Jesus' day, a woman caught in the act of adultery faced possible execution. In some parts of the world it is still enforced today. So why would the woman we meet in John Chapter 8 who was caught in the act of adultery take the risk? Was it worth it? No. The answer is always no.
There is no greater longing in the heart of a woman than to be loved, cherished, and cared for. It can cause the strongest to break a resolve and succumb to the tempter's lure. Adultery has been the cause for church leaders to crumble, ministries to meltdown, and families to falter. Sexual sin has caused the most sensible to act like a fool, the most moral to march into madness, the most devout to be devoured by desire. The desire to love and be loved can sometimes scream over the din of reason.
The yearning for love gnaws at the heart. And then the brush of a hand, the glimpse of the eyes, or the stirring of a comment blows on a spark and sets it ablaze. Loneliness echoes in the hollow soul just as passion comes scratching at the door. Never doubt this, my friend: Satan is an opportunist who takes advantage of the lonely heart (Luke 4:13).
To be loved is one of the strongest desires of the human heart. God planned it that way because He longs for us to have that longing filled by a relationship with Him. But so many settle for a sip from the rusty tin cup when God offers an everlasting stream.
A woman can risk it all for a few moments of passion. She can lie to herself that a sexual relationship or liaison is love. Then after the brief pleasure lies exposed by the morning sun, she realizes what felt like love was tainted with the poison of shame. It can happen. It does happen. It did happen to the woman standing before Jesus with an angry mob of rock holding Pharisees gathered around. It has happened to many women who e-mail me every day.
I sat in a movie theater with a friend who had succumbed to sexual temptation. She had lost her husband, her family, and many of her "friends." During a preview for another movie, the film showed a woman contemplating an affair with a suave Frenchman. Martha (not her real name) spoke a bit too loudly for the moviegoers sitting in the darkened theater. "Don't do it," she cried aloud. The words came out of her mouth before she could stop them. Martha was living the devastation of yielding to sexual temptation, and her audible cry was the overflow of her pain-filled heart.
Can I shout with Martha for just a moment? "Don't do it!"
I know this devotion is not for everybody. But if there is one woman out of the 200,000 or so that receive our Girlfriends in God devotions every day...just one woman who will turn away from the temptation that is knocking on her door today, then it is worth it.
Don't do it. Turn to God and allow Him to fill the emptiness in your heart today. He's waiting with open arms.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I pray that I will be alert to the devil's schemes today. Help me to see when and where he is tempting me to sin against You. Give me the strength to flee temptation and run straight into Your arms. I cannot do this on my own. I need the power of Your Holy Spirit to empower me to do what is right and good in Your sight. Thank You for being all that I need.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you been contemplating a sexual relationship outside of marriage? What is God telling you today?
Are you in a sexual relationship outside of marriage right now? What is God telling you today?
If neither one of these application questions apply to you, would you please join me in praying for our dear sisters who are fighting the temptation to enter into such a relationship or struggling to get out of one? Let's hit our knees for our girlfriends in God who desperately need our loving intercession.
If this devotion was for you, I'd love to pray for you. You can email me privately at Sharon@sharonajaynes.com. I may not be able to email everyone a response, but be assured, I will pray for you by name.
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Check out Sharon's latest book: What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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August 2, 2011
Whose Voice Do You Hear?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me (John 10:27, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Dan and I had been married one year when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas, so Dan could attend seminary. I desperately wanted a teaching job, but none was available. Instead I was hired as a secretary in an insurance office. It was definitely not my idea of a dream job, but I had a plan. Every day, on my lunch hour, I call the school district's personnel office to ask, "Do you have a job or me yet?" After several weeks, a frustrated voice finally responded with the words I had been longing to hear. "Mary, will you teach anything anywhere?" she asked. Finally! I jumped at the job offer and made an appointment to visit my new classroom that afternoon. The principal escorted me up a flight of stairs, pointed to a door, and said, "That's your classroom. Good luck!" With a knowing smile, he turned and walked away...quickly.
Stepping into the classroom, I froze at the astonishing sight before me. Some children were jumping on desks while others crawled under tables, all screaming and yelling at the top of their lungs. Paper and food littered the floor. In the corner sat an obviously frazzled substitute teacher, who was desperately trying to gain control of her students...uh, make that my students. The classroom was in total chaos. My first thought was, "What have I gotten myself into?" The next few weeks certainly answered that question.
Each classroom was arranged in learning centers instead of desks. The students moved from center to center as they completed assignments, a plan that naturally invited noise. I learned that because of overcrowding, each teacher had been asked to select two children to form a new classroom...my classroom...and of course, each teacher had chosen his or her two most difficult students.
The first few weeks were a nightmarish battle for control. After losing my voice twice, my sister, Betty, a veteran first grade teacher, gave me some great advice. "The louder you are, the louder the children will be. If you want to get their attention, speak softly so they will have to be quiet in order to hear your voice." I put her advice into action the very next day. As the children entered the classroom, I greeted each one with a silent smile. In my hands was a brightly wrapped box. Curious, they asked, "What is that, Mrs. Southerland?" I merely smiled and said nothing until every student was quietly seated. "I have a new plan," I began. "Sometime during the day, I will call your name once. If you hear my voice, you may choose one prize from our new prize box. If you don't hear my voice, you will miss the opportunity to select a prize and I will call another student's name." It worked like a charm! In a matter of days, my students learned to listen for my voice above all others.
Stress comes when we allow the many voices in life to drown out the only voice that really matters, the voice of God. We can't obey every voice we hear. If we try, we will end up in total failure, carrying a heavy load we were never created to carry. Obedience to God is not a heavy load because we don't have to carry it alone. God's strength and power bear the burden of our obedience to Him. The more time we spend in God's Word and in prayer, the easier it will be to recognize His voice.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, wanting and needing to hear Your voice. I am drowning in the expectations of others and am so confused about the next step I need to take. Please give me Your direction and the strength to follow Your plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 32:8 (NLT) "The LORD says, "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you." What comfort does this verse give you about God's plan for your life as opposed to your plans or the plans of others?
Read John 10:4 (NLT) "After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they recognize his voice." Notice that the shepherd walks ahead of his sheep, gently calling them to follow. What change do you need to make in your life so that you can look for God's hand at work and listen for His voice alone?
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the last few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done. Identify the "voices" that you tend to listen to instead of listening for the voice of God.
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August 3, 2011
Changing the Way We Speak By Renewing the Mind
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:8-9 TNIV).
Friend To Friend
Have you ever been to a rodeo and watched a lassoing contest? The little calf bursts from the stall and then the cowboy and his steed follow close behind. With his lasso in hand, the cowboy swings the rope in the air and attempts to lasso the little heifer before she escapes out the corral door at the opposite side of the arena. That is a vivid picture of what we must do with the words that attempt to escape the gate, the mouth...we must rein them in.
The Bible teaches us to take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). Once we lasso a thought (take it captive) we can decide which words leave the gate and which words need to be tied up and secured. Studies show that we speak at about 120 to 180 words a minute. Seems like we need to do a bit more lassoing and a lot less running on.
Let's take a look at this little heifer: our words, and how to rein them in. First, a thought bursts forth from the stall called the brain. It runs across the mind headed for the door called the mouth. In a split second, we must determine if that thought is of God or if it is against the knowledge of God. If we determine that the words are not of God, then we lasso the thought with the Word of Truth and it never makes its way out of the gate (the mouth). If it passes the God-test, we allow it to go free.
What is the lasso? It is the Word of God-the Word of Truth. That can seem a bit overwhelming, so let's just pick one verse as our lasso. Philippians 4:8,9 is a great place to start. "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (TNIV).
Before we speak, we can sift the words through a mental sieve. Is what I'm about to say:
True
Noble
Right
Pure
Lovely
Admirable
If the words don't fit this description, lasso them and don't let them go! If they do pass the test, let them trot out of the gate and bless the world!
The King James translation of 2 Corinthians 10: 5 says it this way: "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." I like that picture of casting down. See, once the cowboy slips the lasso around the calf's neck, he throws her to the ground and whips that rope around her kicking legs to make sure she's not going anywhere. Likewise, we need to "cast down" those thoughts back to the dirt where they came from and make sure they aren't going anywhere.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, sometimes I just can't believe what comes out of my mouth. Help me to think before I speak. If the words that are about to come out of my mouth are not pleasing to You or edifying to others, help me to rein them in and keep them from escaping my lips.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of Paul's litmus test for our words found in today's truth. At the end of the day, evaluate the words you spoke to others and see how you did.
Were there some words that you should have kept in the stall?
Where there some words of encouragement that you should have spoken but didn't?
I'm so glad that you are joining me on this journey to improve the words we speak. Don't get discouraged. Changing the way we speak takes prayer and practice, prayer and practice!
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August 4, 2011
Party On!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; my cup runs over (Psalm 23:5, NKJV).
Friend To Friend
Many life battles are lost because our confidence and faith in God are eroded under the persistent battering of daily stressful situations. We often fail to recognize and embrace the truth that God defines and refines us through each battle in life. If the battle truly belongs to God, we win! We win before the first shot is fired. We win before one step of the battle plan is taken.
I would naturally assume that a victory banquet would be held after the victory was won. However, the Hebrew people blew that idea right out of the water when they held victory banquets before the battle even began. If I had been there, I would have surmised that the Hebrews were either ridiculously arrogant or people of great faith. The truth is that there was an anointing on their lives, a sign of being chosen by God. And because they were a chosen people, their faith grew strong and freed them to stand on the undeniable truth that they could count on their God. Celebrating the battle's outcome was simply a matter of celebrating God, acknowledging His power on their lives, and walking by faith in the victory provided before the battle was even fought.
We, too, are a chosen people, created by the hand of God. We can sit down at the table of victory every moment of every day because no matter what happens, if God is for us – we win! The battle really is for our good.
I believe our faith is measured by how we handle each battle that comes our way. It may be a skirmish to carry out God's holy vision, a war against those who seek to undermine God's calling, or the age-old conflict of good versus evil. The battlefield is not nearly as important as our choice to align ourselves with God's plan and step out in faith of the battle already won – which brings us to the powerful stress-buster of praise.
My friend, Michelle, is the consummate hostess. She makes entertaining look so easy. To her, a dinner party for 50 guests is a simple feat. Just shoot me now! One of her favorite preparations is the dinner table. When I'm expecting company, the first guests to arrive often have the honor of setting the table with whatever they can find in the way of tablecloths, silverware, glasses, and...you get the idea. Not Michelle. I've seen her table completely and beautifully arranged days before the anticipated dinner party or holiday meal. When I asked her why she went to such elaborate lengths her answer made me stop and think: "It is part of the celebration for me. I love having the table set early because every time I walk past it, I think of the people who will sit in those chairs and pray for them. I think of their favorite dishes and look forward to preparing each one. I guess you could say that I enjoy the party long before it begins." That is the idea behind praise.
We can praise God for what He will do long before He does it. We can prepare a victory table before the battle begins, knowing that the battle belongs to our God. And don't you know that a pre-battle victory party irritates the fire out of the enemy? I love that!
It is said that in Africa a tree produces the "taste berry," a unique fruit that literally alters taste buds so that everything that's eaten after eating the berry tastes good and sweet. Praise is the "taste berry" of the Christian's life. When our hearts are filled with praise, when we choose to praise God, no matter what, stress fades into the background of a battle won before it begins, life is sweet, and all is good. Party on, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, praising You for Your presence in my life. Right now, I celebrate the victory You have already won in every battle I am facing. I choose against my human fear and tendency to demand proof of Your presence in my life and Your power at work. I am stepping out in faith and praising You for who You are.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What battle are you facing in your life today? Set aside time to spend with God, praising Him for the victory He promises. Share that promised victory with at least one girlfriend today. Don't wait until you feel like it. Step out in faith and praise Him!
Read Psalm 100:4-5 (NLT). "Enter His gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and bless his name. For the Lord is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation."
Now write those verses in your own words and make them your own prayer of praise to your God. (For example: "I will enter Your gates with thanksgiving, Lord. I will go into Your courts with praise...")
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August 5, 2011
The Great Adventure
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love" (1 Corinthians 13:12-13).
Friend To Friend
A certain medieval monk announced he would be preaching the next Sunday evening on "The Love of God." As the shadows fell and the light faded from the cathedral windows, the congregation gathered. In the darkness of the altar, the monk lit a candle and carried it to the crucifix. First, he illuminated the crown of thorns, next, the two wounded hands, then the spear wound, and finally the two feet. In the hush that fell, he blew out the candle and left the chancel. There was nothing else to say.
God loves us perfectly. The greatest call in our lives is to love God in return. God doesn't just call us to receive His love. He also wants us to respond to it. To experience it. To be transformed and restored by it.
Have you ever read that children's book, Going on a Bear Hunt? When my kids were little we wore out the board book we owned. It's about a family who goes on an adventure together and faces obstacle after obstacle. Each time they face a new challenge, they determine that they "Can't go over it. Can't go under it. Can't go around it. They have to go through it!"
The great adventure of life is our pilgrimage to God's heart. When you place your faith in Christ, you become a child of the Heavenly Father who will never leave your side. He loves you with a stubborn love! In every case, without exception, you cannot escape, or be separated from His love. You can ignore it, doubt it, and question it. But you can't be separated from it. Not if you are His.
When the psalmist experienced trouble, he prayed, "When I said, "My foot is slipping," your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul" (Psalm 94:18-19).
Has your foot slipped lately? Are you anxious or fearful about anything? The psalmist found strength and support and joy in God's love. When we lay down our fears and anxieties before the Lord, His perfect love drives the fear away and breathes joy into our souls.
Take a moment to center your heart, soul, and mind on Christ right now. Worship Him in Spirit and in truth. Adore Him. Praise Him. Pray that He will help you live the great adventure of your faith today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are my greatest adventure. Your love is beyond what I can imagine or comprehend. Thank you for loving me...in spite of me. Please remove anything in my heart that keeps me from fully embracing Your love today. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Our life song should be a love song. Many of us sing that tune regularly, but let's choose this day to turn up the volume on our love for God. I recorded the hymn below on my Unsearchable Live album. To listen to the song, visit www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. Sing along or contemplate the lyrics of this hymn as part of your response:
The Love of God
Frederick Lehman
The love of God is greater far
Than tongue or pen can ever tell;
It goes beyond the highest star,
And reaches to the lowest hell;
The guilty pair, bowed down with care,
God gave His Son to win;
His erring child He reconciled,
And pardoned from his sin.
O love of God, how rich and pure!
How measureless and strong!
It shall forevermore endure
The saints' and angels' song.
When years of time shall pass away,
And earthly thrones and kingdoms fall,
When men, who here refuse to pray,
On rocks and hills and mountains call,
God's love so sure, shall still endure,
All measureless and strong;
Redeeming grace to Adam's race—
The saints' and angels' song.
Could we with ink the ocean fill,
And were the skies of parchment made,
Were every stalk on earth a quill,
And every man a scribe by trade,
To write the love of God above,
Would drain the ocean dry.
Nor could the scroll contain the whole,
Though stretched from sky to sky.
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August 8, 2011
Changing the Way We Speak By Examining the Heart
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean...But things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean'" (Matthew 15:11,18 NIV).
Friend To Friend
While it is the Holy Spirit that gives us the power to change the words we speak, the desire to change begins in the heart. The Bible says:
"Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit...For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil out of the evil stored up in him. But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will condemned" (Matthew 12:33-37).
The word heart that is used in this passage is the Greek word kardia. It is not referring to the blood pumping muscle in the chest cavity, but to our thoughts, motives, feelings, our will, and our character. The kardia is the seat of our emotions and represents the inner person. The words that escape our lips reveal the condition of the inner man.
Remember the children's song:
I'm a little teapot short and stout,
Here is my handle, here is my spout.
When I get all steamed up hear me shout,
Just tip me over and pour me out.
Well I don't know about you, but when I get all steamed up, what comes out of my mouth isn't always a cup of tea! It is in those unguarded moments of frustration, anger, or pain that our mouths tend to spew out what is really inside. Jesus said, "What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean...But things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean'" (Matthew 15:11,18). Jesus continually pointed out the condition of the Pharisees' hearts. They clung to outward religious practices. But God desired their hearts, which were hardened and cold.
The book of Proverbs has much to say about how the condition of our heart affects what we say.
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (Proverbs 4:23)
The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin. (Proverbs 10:8)
A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but theheart of fools blurts out folly. Proverbs 12:23)
An anxious heart weights a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. (Proverbs 12:25)
The discerningheart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly. (Proverbs 15:14)
The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. (Proverbs 15:28 TNIV)
A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. (Proverbs 15:30)
The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction. (Proverbs 16:21)
The hearts of the wise make their mouths prudent, and their lips promote instruction. (Proverbs 16:23 TNIV)
One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend. (Proverbs 22:11 TNIV)
Like a coating of glaze over earthenware are ferventlips with an evil heart. (Proverbs 26:23)
Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. (Proverbs 26:24, 25 TNIV)
As the water reflects a face, so one'slife reflects the heart. (Often that reflection is through spoken words) (Proverbs 27:18 TNIV)
So, how's your heart? The heart of the matter is a matter of the heart.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Examine my heart today and reveal to me any areas of my life that I need to change. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and restore a right spirit within me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Turn to Psalm 51 and make that your prayer today.
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August 9, 2011
Sandpaper People on Wheels
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
You have heard that it was said, "Love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" (Matthew 5:43-44, TNIV).
Friend To Friend
I am certainly not proud of the fact that I tend to have little or no patience with road hogs and seem to find ample opportunities for expressing my less-than-favorable opinion of the way they drive. I am working on my attitude and learning some lessons along the way.
We once lived in a small but rapidly growing town just outside of Charlotte, North Carolina. Because the town has outgrown its winding country roads, traffic from the city into our community was a daily nightmare. At one particular spot, a double lane narrows to a single lane. The change is clearly marked by several strategically placed signs and most people – the nice velvet people – pull into the single left lane long before the road narrows, knowing the right lane will soon merge with the left lane.
The sandpaper people, on the other hand, spot the merging lane signs and consider them an open invitation to speed ahead, worming their way into the long line of waiting cars. I consider it my personal responsibility to educate these road hogs in "The Ins and Outs of Traffic Courtesy According to Mary," by refusing to let them barge in front of me and secure a spot in "my" line. I never make eye contact with these sandpaper drivers, thus denying their existence while inching along as close as possible to the car in front of me, determined to hold my ground.
One day, however, I met my match. I saw him coming but stood firm in my resolve to enforce my "don't let 'em in no matter what" rule. When he tried to pull in front of me, I ignored him. He honked. I feigned deafness. Finally, in one last-ditch effort to merge before his lane ended, the man rolled down his window and yelled, "Look!" I couldn't help myself. He was holding up a napkin that read "Pleeeeeeeease!" I burst out laughing and motioned for him to pull in front of me. He applauded and danced a seated jig in celebration of his hard-earned place in line.
Life is like that – sandpaper people trying to capture our attention, ignoring the signs, breaking the relationship rules while barging into our lives. It takes a sense of humor to navigate the tumultuous waters of difficult relationships without capsizing. The secret of joy-filled relationships is to count on God's strength instead of our own. Joy comes from a continual reliance upon Him to hammer down the mountains in our difficult relationships, making the path straight and pointing us in the right direction.
In Philippians 4:11-12, the Apostle Paul says, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." This passage can also be applied to having healthy relationships and could easily read, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every relationship by depending upon the power of God's love at work. I can love anyone through Him who gives me strength." As we learn to laugh more and cultivate our God-given sense of humor, patience and the ability to deal with the difficult relationships in life will flourish.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me even when I am so unlovable. Please teach me how to deal with difficult people in a way that pleases and honors You. I want others to see Your unconditional love at work in my relationships. Help me choose to forgive those who have hurt me and look for ways to find joy in the midst of it all.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write down the name of a sandpaper person in your life and list five reasons you consider that person to be abrasive.
Pray for that sandpaper person.
Thank God for bringing that abrasive person into your life. What do you believe God wants to accomplish through this difficult relationship? Are you willing to trust Him enough to praise Him for that person?
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August 10, 2011
Changing the Way We Speak
Relying on the Holy Spirit
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).
Friend To Friend
It was a daunting scene. Over 1,200 miles of Alaskan shoreline covered with black slimy crude oil, more than 1,000 bodies of once bustling sea otters littering the coast, and over 100,000 grounded fowl groping for air. The Exxon Valdez oil spill of 1988 dumped 11 million gallons of crude oil into the Prince William Sound and disrupted the ecological balance of nature to kill many of its most beautiful inhabitants...including 150 bald eagles. The once glacier-fed waters teeming with life became an oily death trap.
Just as toxins in nuclear waste facilities, city dumps, and industrial accidents wreak havoc on the environment, so toxic words cause destruction to the hearts and souls of people. Paul wrote, "Let no foul or polluting language [ever] come out of your mouth" (Ephesians 4:29 Amp). Perhaps as you've read the previous five devotions that I have written about the power of the words we speak, you've cringed at words you've spoken and wish you could take them back. Words that have polluted the ones you hold dear. Can we clean up the mess and repair the damage? Absolutely! We can choose to dismantle the verbal weapons and break the patterns of toxic words. And to do so, we must rely on the power of the Holy Spirit within us.
Relying on the Holy Spirit
Tongues...most animals have one. Some snakes have forked tongues. Lizards smell with their tongues. Some fish, such as salmon and trout, have teeth on their tongues. Frogs and toads have tongues that whip out at incredible speeds to catch flies and other insects. Their cousin, the chameleon, has a tongue that is as long as its body. An anteater's tongue can stretch to the height of a two-year-old. A gecko uses its tongue to wipe across its eyes like a windshield, and a giraffe uses its twenty-inch tongue to clean its ears. The tongue of a blue whale is about the size and weight of a full grown African elephant.
Even though a human tongue cannot smell out dinner, reel in the catch of the day, or reach to the tops of trees to pick fruit, it can do something even more amazing. The human tongue can create words. Words are an incredible gift, and as we have seen, they have the potential for good or evil. How do we harness such energy and insure that it is only used for good? Unfortunately, James tells us it is impossible.
"All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by human beings, but no one can tame the tongue," (James 3:7-8 TNIV). That's the bad news. Now, here's the good news. While no human being can tame the tongue...God can. It may be impossible for James, and for you and me, but it is not impossible for God. "Is anything too hard for the LORD?" the angel asked Sarah after announcing that her ninety-year-old body was going to bear a child (Genesis 18:14).
When we come to faith in Jesus Christ, God gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the third person of the Trinity who enables us to do all that God has called us to do. He gives us the power to change!
Jesus explained to the disciples: "But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth" (Acts 1:8). After Jesus' ascension into heaven, the disciples waited for the Holy Spirit as Jesus had instructed.
"When the day of Pentecost came, a sound like the blowing of a violent wind came from heaven and filled the whole house where they were sitting. They saw what seemed to be tongues of fire that separated and came to rest on each of them. All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak on other tongues as the Spirit enabled them" (Acts 2:1-4).
Isn't it interesting that the first manifestation of the power of the Holy Spirit was words and the first visual manifestation was tongues of fire? The disciples were able to speak in the various languages of the men and women who were visiting Jerusalem to celebrate Pentecost. The travelers heard the gospel in their own languages! Yes, that was astonishing. But even more amazing was the courage that arose in the cowardly disciples.
Just a short time before Pentecost, Peter had been so afraid that he denied he even knew who Jesus was. A mere servant girl's inquisition had Peter shaking in his sandals and swearing he was no friend of Jesus. After being filled with the Holy Spirit, Peter stood up, raised his voice, and addressed the crowd with such a mighty sermon that 3,000 men and women accepted Jesus as their Savior and were baptized. That's what the Holy Spirit can do for timid souls who believe. He can transform a cursing tongue into a confessing tongue.
It is only through the power of the Holy Spirit that we are able to control this little muscle that rests between our teeth. However, change does require our cooperation. We must work in tandem with the Holy Spirit to reign in this feisty force. The Holy Spirit gives us the power, but our responsibility is to put God-given principles into practice.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that You did not leave us as orphans, but gave us the power of the Holy Spirit living within us to do all that You have called us to do. I pray that the Holy Spirit will help me control the words that I speak and tame my tongue.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
God really loves it when we pray specific prayers. Make a list of ways that you need to change the way you speak. Cursing? Negative? Discouraging? Critical? Complaining? Sarcastic? Crude?
Make a list and pray that God will help you change specific "unwholesome" speech that comes out of your mouth.
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August 11, 2011
Thriving or Surviving?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy (Job 8:21, NCV).
Friend To Friend
One Saturday morning a little boy and his father took a long awaited trip to the local pet store in search of a new puppy. The dad had been promising the trip for weeks and finally, the day had come. For weeks, the little boy had been reading books about dogs, surveying the pets of his friends, asking countless questions and waiting for this day, ready to make his choice.
When father and son walked into the pet store the dad immediately realized that this task was going to be much harder than he had thought it would be. There were so many adorable puppies from which to choose. But with determination in his heart and confidence in his step, the little boy began his search. Suddenly, he stopped in his tracks, eyes and heart locked on the perfect dog. Staring at the little boy from the wired confines of a small crate was an undersized and fairly unimpressive but hopeful black puppy. Following his son's gaze, the dad cringed as he realized that the first puppy he had eliminated as a possibility was the very one his son was watching.
The father attempted to re-direct the interest of his son toward a more suitable dog. It was not to be. Each time the little boy returned to his first choice, the black puppy who was grinning at the boy, eagerly pawing at the cage door and wagging his tail with great enthusiasm. The dad finally asked, "Son, which one do you want?" The little boy immediately pointed at the dog with the furiously wiggling tail and announced with great certainty, "I want that one, Daddy! I want the one with the happy ending."
We all want a life filled with happy endings, but we seem to be living lives that could well be described as "joy-less." Every day is lived at the mercy of the world. We are like Charlie Brown who admits, "I have a new philosophy. I'm only going to dread one day at a time."
God promises that if you know Him you will know true joy. Joy is not merely happiness but rather an unshakable confidence that God is in control. Therefore, He is our one and only source of joy and stands ready and waiting to saturate every circumstance with His presence. As His children, joy is ours to claim. If so, then where is it and why do we not experience a sense of confident celebration as we go through each day?
Maybe it is because of the Joy Stealers who lurk in the shadows, waiting to crush joy wherever they find it. I have great news for you, my friend. Nothing and no one can take your joy without your permission. So, don't give it! Choose joy instead.
Choosing joy requires us to identify and eliminate the "joy stealers" in life. You may be allowing a person to take your joy. Maybe some painful experience from a shadowed yesterday is an obstacle of joy in your life today. Perhaps a fearful circumstance or a broken dream is the culprit. I know life can be painful. I know it is often hard and unfair. I also know that God is in control. So if God really is God (and He definitely is) then we should be people of joy. I have read the final chapter of the Book and we win! Now that, my friend, is what I call the happiest ending of all.
Let's Pray
Lord, remind me to live each day against the backdrop of eternity. I pray that, in every circumstance, I would choose joy, knowing that You are in control.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recognize that real joy is found only in God. Make a list of the people or circumstances that you would classify as "joy stealers." Pray for wisdom in dealing with each person and circumstance. Choose now what your response will be when someone tries to steal your joy.
What has been my personal definition of "joy" up until now?
What have I been counting on in my life to produce joy?
How does a personal relationship with God change my perspective of joy?
What are the steps to take in order to eliminate the "joy stealers" in my life?
How do my feelings influence my joy level?
In what way do trials and problems affect my joy level?
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I can still remember the words of the song I often sang as a child:
"If you want joy, real joy, wonderful joy
Let Jesus come into your heart."
Life seemed so simple back then. Today, I have traveled quite a few miles and been through some very tough times. And God's truth remains the same. If we want to experience joy, we must experience God. We look in a lot of wrong places for joy but the only right place is in a personal relationship with God. How about you? Are you thriving or just surviving?
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August 12, 2011
Worthless into Precious
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You are precious and honored in my sight..." (Isaiah 43:4a, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Hagar was a young Egyptian servant girl who had some serious challenges. In the Old Testament book of Genesis, chapter 16, we hear of her plight...and of her flight:
"Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him no children but she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; so she said to Abram, 'The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her.'
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian maidservant Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. He slept with Hagar, and she conceived (vv. 1-4a, NIV)."
I imagine Hagar probably grew up with low self-esteem. As a servant, she might have felt discarded, insignificant, and unimportant. Not only had she been sold to Abram and Sarai, but she was forced to become his wife as well. I don't know about you, but thinking about that makes my stomach do yucky flip-flops!
What do you think that conversation was like when Sarai commanded Hagar to sleep with her elderly husband? How do you think Hagar felt? I find it disturbing and unfair.
"When [Hagar] knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. Then Sarai said to Abram, "You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the Lord judge between you and me."
"Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her (vv. 4b-6).
I can understand from a fleshly perspective why Hagar would choose to despise Sarai. When another person wrongs us, it's difficult to choose a godly, non-sassy response. We must be careful to pray for God's perspective and power so we don't allow weeds of resentment to overtake our hearts and guide our responses.
Hagar was a maidservant, a slave, who was forced to move to a foreign land and to sleep with the husband of her mistress. Though this was a common practice in that culture, there is still great uneasiness in my heart as I read what Hagar had to endure. She was mistreated—the Bible makes that clear—and she had fair reason to run. However, God caught up with her not too far down the road.
"The angel of the Lord found Hagar near a spring in the desert, the spring that is beside the road to Shur, and he said, "Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?"
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," she answered (vv. 7-8).
When faced with difficult circumstances, Hagar ran away. I might have done the same thing. But when she found herself seemingly alone in the desert, God sought her out and called her by name. The God of the universe knew Hagar's name. Hagar was a slave, nobody in the eyes of society, yet our God spoke lovingly through the angel of the Lord to this hurting mother-to-be and whispered promises of blessing to her weary heart.
"Then the angel of the Lord told her, "Go back to your mistress and submit to her." The angel added, "I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count" (vv. 9-10).
Stunned that the God of the universe cared to comfort her, Hagar responded by giving God a new name—El Roi, "the God Who Sees Me." She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me" (v. 13).
God pursued a broken woman and lifted her eyes to meet His own. He saw her in spite of who she was or thought herself to be, called her by name, and ministered to her heart. My heart burns with awe at the intimate intervention and tenderness that God showed Hagar, a grieving mom-to-be in a very dark hour.
Each one of us strolls through the wilderness of life at times. Our unchanging God knows your name too. He sees you right where you are and knows the burdens of your heart. God sees each one of us just as He saw Hagar, and bids us to see ourselves through His eyes. Why would He? Because of Jesus. Once you place your faith in Christ, God sees you through the blood-stained curtain of His risen Son. Perfect. Forgiven. Precious.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for seeing me...even in the times when I feel forgotten and invisible. Your Word says that You know my name and consider me precious. Please speak that to my soul right now. (Pause here to listen...) I love you, Lord. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What can you learn from Hagar's encounter with God in the desert? Where have you come from and where are you going? Take time to journal a response or visit my facebook page (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) to tell me about how today's devotion hit your heart.
So many times, we want to run from our problems and sidestep accountability. Is there a difficulty in your life that you're tempted to run away from or ignore?
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August 15, 2011
Grumbling Grumbling Grumbling
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Moses also said, 'You will know that it was the LORD when he gives you meat to eat in the evening and all the bread you want in the morning, because he has heard your grumbling again him. Who are we? You are not grumbling against us, but against the LORD' (Exodus 16:8 NIV emphasis added).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday we looked at Miriam and how she grumbled against Moses, but Miriam was not the only one who grumbled while heading toward the Promised Land. The Israelites grumbled at every turn. God cared for the Israelites by His own hand - providing water from a rock, manna from heaven, quail from the sky, clothes that never wore out, a fire by night and a cloud by day. And yet...they grumbled.(See Exodus 15:24, 16:2,7,8,9,11, 17:2,3) Do you think they all started grumbling at once? I don't. I think it started with a few murmurs and grew like an approaching train.
Back in the late 50's, there was a movie called "The Blob." The blob looked like a massive pile of silly putty that rolled along swallowing up everything and everyone in its path. That's what grumbling and gossiping can do among believers. It too rolls along swallowing up unsuspecting victims along the way.
God didn't take too kindly to Miriam's grumbling. While she started out whispering about Moses' choice of a wife, that was not really the issue at all. It was jealousy pure and simple. Actually, there was nothing "pure" about it.
"Has the LORD spoken only through Moses? Has he not spoken as well through us?" Her words and attitude of jealousy were just as destructive to the cause of God as infectious leprosy that ate away at her fingers and toes. Why was only Miriam punished and not Aaron? I imagine that she was the principle instigator of the ill-spoken words and Aaron happened to be in the blob's path.
Let's back up to Numbers 12:3: "Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth." Theologians suggest that the word "miserable" is a better translation of the Hebrew word than "humble." "Ever since Numbers 11:1, one thing after another had brought pressure on Moses so that in 11:14 he whimpers to God that he is not able to bear the load any longer. He even asks that he might die to be relieved of the pressures. Now with this assault of his sister and brother, it was simply too much. He was now the most "miserable" man on the earth. He had found his lot so difficult, his task so unmanageable, his pressure so intense that he called out to God saying, "It is too much!" (11:4) "Now the man Moses was exceedingly miserable, more than any man on the face of the earth!"
( Kenneth L. Barker & John R. Kohlenberger III, Zondervan NIV Commentary Volume I: Old Testament (Grand Rapids, Micigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1994), p. 198.)
When someone is bending under the pressure of trying to please God and the grumblers he or she is trying to serve, what is needed is not more booing and hissing from the crowd but cheers and holy pep talks from the team. "Do all things without grumbling," Paul encourages the church at Philippi (Philippians 2:14 NASB). Timothy writes, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing" (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
So we have a choice. We can be like the prophetess Deborah in the Bible who dispensed encouragement from under the honey tree and walked side-by-side with Christian soldiers into battle. (See Judges 4-5). Or we can be like the prophetess Miriam who stirred up strife and caused the march to the Promised Land to come to a complete stop. The difference lies right under our noses.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me when I grumble. I know that ultimately, when I grumble, I am grumbling against You. Help me to be an encourager and use my words to minister to those around me. Help me to build up and not tear down, to encourage and not discourage, and to fan the flames of hope rather than extinguish the sparks of a dream.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Just try saying the word grumble with a smile on your face. It doesn't work, does it? I'm sitting here trying now. I sure hope no one's looking.
Let's think about this. When we are grumbling about our circumstances, who are we really grumbling against?
Do you see yourself as a person who grumbles or a person who is grateful?
What do you need to do to change?
Make a list of things you are grateful for today!
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If you would like to learn more about how to be a Deborah who encourages others to walk into battle rather than a Miriam who stops progress, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words. And to go deeper into God's Word and learn about the incredible gift of words that He has entrusted to us, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study Guide. It is perfect for individual or group study.
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August 16, 2011
Paid in Full
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you (Colossians 3:13, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Do you remember the last words of Jesus as He hung on the cross? "It is finished!" The most literal translation would be "paid in full."
I will never forget paying off my very first car loan. After sending in my forty-eighth and final payment, I celebrated the fact that I finally owned my bright blue and ever-so-compact Chevrolet Vega – from bumper to bumper. There were those who said you couldn't drive a Vega – you had to wear it. Others described the bright color as strangely "unique." But to me, it was the most beautiful car in the world because it was mine. I quickly found other places to spend the once allocated car payment and went on with life – until the day I opened my mailbox to find the loan papers for my car. Stamped in big red letters across the document were the words, "Paid in full." I danced a jig right there in my driveway because I was finally free of that debt.
Part of forgiveness is releasing the person from the debt we think they owe us. Refusing to let go of the hurt and pain someone has caused in our lives will always rob us of our joy. Sometimes the best thing to do is to simply let something go and cut our losses instead of allowing the weight of an unpaid debt to deplete our mental and emotional energy. In other words, we can forgive the debt and free ourselves.
We decided it was time to sell one of our old junky cars. We had several from which to choose but this particular one was old, ugly and needed work. In the right hands, it might last a few more years. A man who worked for the church said he could fix the car and agreed to buy it. He and Dan worked out the terms. The man was to pay a certain amount each month until the car was paid for. No papers were signed because, after all, it was a business agreement between two ministers. Some lessons are learned the hard way. Dan gave him the car title and car keys. He gave us nothing. Not one penny.
Dan talked with the man several times. He always responded with the promise that he would make a payment soon. "Soon" never came. I was furious – not so much because of the money, although it would have come in very handy – but because this sandpaper man was taking advantage of my husband's giving heart and ticking me off in the process. I ranted and fumed for several days until Dan said, "Honey, I have decided to forgive the debt on that old car." Well, I decided not to, and my anger grew.
A few weeks later, the man quit his job at the church and went to work for a nearby grocery store – my grocery store. I soon learned that God has a sense of humor because almost every time I went to the store, the man was there. And every time I saw him, anger consumed my heart. I finally realized that this whole car situation was robbing my life of joy – until the day I decided to give him the car. It was the only thing I could do if I wanted peace.
I created a mental scene of my driving to the grocery store, handing the car keys to the man and saying, "Merry Christmas! Enjoy your new car." Now it wasn't Christmas and the car was far from new, but the plan worked. I forgave the debt in my heart and let it go. The most amazing thing happened. I was the one set free. From that day on, every time I saw the man, I waved and smiled. He began avoiding me, unable to look me in the eyes. Remember I told you that God has a sense of humor? A few weeks later, I saw the man driving a different car and learned from one of his co-workers that "his old car just up and died." Enough said.
Forgiving the debt is a deliberate choice that is made by an act of your will. You may not feel forgiving. It doesn't matter. Just do it and many times the feelings will follow that choice – other times they won't. Feelings are irrelevant but obedience is crucial. Do not base the validity of what you are doing on how you feel. Make the choice to forgive and then obey.
Someone once said: "We put our resentments in cold storage and then pull the switch to let them thaw out again. Our grudges are taken out to the lake of prayer to drown them and we end up giving them a swimming lesson. How often have we torn up the canceled note but hang on to the wastebasket that holds the pieces? This is not to say that human forgiveness does not occur; only that it is rare and that much that passes for forgiveness is often not so at all."
God is the One who heals painful memories. Forgiveness puts us in the correct posture for Him to do so in our lives. As I wrestled with the choice to forgive, I learned several life-changing truths:
If we make the choice to forgive, God will supply the forgiveness.
There should be no limit to our forgiveness because there is no limit to His.
Forgiveness is not a feeling or an emotion. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice.
Forgiveness is our greatest need and God's greatest gift.
While we cannot change the past, we can change our response to the past and dictate the power it has over us. If our greatest need had been information, God would have sent an educator. If our greatest need had been technology, God would have sent a scientist, but because our greatest need was and is forgiveness, God sent a Savior, Jesus Christ, who is calling us all to a higher place, a place of forgiveness. The choice is ours to make. Today, we can choose freedom by choosing to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the love and forgiveness You so freely offer. I don't understand how You can love me when I am so unworthy of the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross. To think that He died for me rocks my world. Please give me the wisdom and strength to forgive those who have hurt me. I want my life to be a living illustration of Your unconditional love and unending forgiveness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration.
Consider the following questions and record your answers in your journal.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in your heart?
What are the things for which you cannot forgive yourself?
What does refusing to forgive yourself indicate about your understanding of true forgiveness?
Celebrate right now the power of forgiveness in your life.
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August 17, 2011
Taming the Tongue
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Martha is a sweet older woman who is in the intermediate stages of Alzheimer's disease. Perhaps one of the most radical changes in her behavior, besides memory loss, is her inability to control her tongue. Martha has always used her words in a positive way, but in these latter years, her words have become unrestrained. Her ability to keep unkind or hurtful words from escaping her lips is impaired. She can't help it. It is part of the disease that is ravaging her mind. But watching my dear friend has helped me realized the importance of restraining our tongues. It is a sign of physical, spiritual, and emotional health.
When I was young, I loved reading the story of the stately steed, Black Beauty. In my early teens, I enjoyed visiting my friend Cammie and riding horses on her parents' dairy farm. We often clicked our heels and raced through the fields with reckless abandonment.
The horse is a powerful animal, yet with the tug of the reins or the tap of a heel, he will submit to his master's bidding. On the other hand, a wild stallion that has not been brought under the control of a master is of very little use.
In the Bible, we are instructed to have a spirit of gentleness which tempers the words we speak (Galatians 5:23). The Greek word for gentleness is prautes, and suggests a wild horse that has been tamed. Unfortunately, in our modern society, the word gentleness connotes being weak. However, the Greek word means anything but weak. Picture a muscular steed, proudly holding his head, poised to move with speed and power, nostrils flaring, but at the same time, under his master's control. It is the picture of a warhorse under the control of its master. That is a true picture of prautes – gentleness.
The same word, prautes, is translated "meek" in the King James Version. When Jesus said He was "meek and lowly in heart" (Matthew 11:29), He was saying He was submitted to God – mightily powerful but under God's control. Only when we submit our tongues to God will we have the ability to use our words for good. Meekness isn't weakness; it's power under control. It is taming and training our tongues to be under the submission and control of the Holy Spirit.
Let me give you an example. Oh, I hate to admit this, but I fear many sisters will relate – the dents in my armor attest to it.
Before I became a Christian, I was very "gifted" with a quick sarcastic wit. Have you ever been in an argument and two hours later thought of a great comeback or slam remark? Not me. I could think of them on the spot. I was good – so good. Why, I could have opened up a side business feeding disgruntled wives, employees and friends quick comebacks through earphones during confrontations. However, after I accepted Christ as my Savior, it didn't take the Holy Spirit long to convict me that my tongue was not glorifying God. Sure, it brought some laughs, but Jesus wasn't smiling. So I began the arduous task of taming the tongue.
I memorized Job 40:4, "I put my hand over my mouth" and bit my tongue. It was hard letting all those good sarcastic comments go to waste, but I knew they were only fit for the garbage heap.
That was over thirty years ago. On many occasions, when someone is telling me about a confrontation with a family member or a co-worker, those quick witted remarks still pop up in my mind like a cue card on the stage. When a store clerk offers a snide remark, I can usually think of one snider. So where's the victory? The victory comes when I choose not to let the words out of my mouth. When I lasso the words before they have a chance to run out of the gate. When I offer blessings rather than cursing. When I put on the humility of Christ and take the comments without the retaliation. That, my friend, is choosing to walk in the Spirit instead of choosing to walk in the flesh. It can only happen by the power of the Holy Spirit, and it becomes easier with practice.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I pray that the fruit of the Spirit will grow in my life today. I pray that the evidence of that fruit in my life will be in the words I speak to others. Help my fruit to be sweet today. Show me where I need to clip off unproductive branches that hinder healthy growth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
OK, girlfriend, I was honest with you today. Are you willing to be honest with someone about an area that you need to change? Accountability is a powerful tool for change. If there is an area in your life that God has convicted you need to change, tell a girlfriend and ask her to hold you accountable. Ask her to pray with you about the desire to change and invite her to ask you about your progress. That's what girlfriends in God are for!
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Word. In this book, you can explore the power you possess, the people you impact, the potential for change, and the profound possibilities. As you harness this mighty force, you will begin to use words to speak life to those around you. This book also has a companion Bible study guide. Get one for yourself, or gather a group of girlfriends to learn and grow together.
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August 18, 2011
Charge It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He (God) is so rich in kindness that he purchased our freedom through the blood of his Son, and our sins are forgiven (Ephesians 1:7, NLT).
Friend To Friend
Several years ago an interesting cartoon appeared in the Saturday Review of Literature. Little George Washington is standing with an ax in his hand. In front of him, lying on the ground is the famous cherry tree. He has already made his smug admission that he did it because, after all, he "cannot tell a lie." However, his frustrated father is standing beside him saying, "All right, so you admit it! You always admit it! The question is when are you going to stop doing it?"
That is the question at hand, girlfriend. We often soothe our bothered conscience with admissions of sin. We then present them to the Father as obedience to the spiritual principle that we must confess our sin. There is, however, an element of true confession that goes a step farther and results in a change in lifestyle and behavior. It is called repentance.
I once associated the command to repent with old-fashioned gospel meetings and screaming preachers on television. In reality, repentance is the very cornerstone of genuine forgiveness and gives credibility to the very act of confessing sin. To repent simply means to "turn away from." When we choose to turn from our sin and turn to God and His ways, we are practicing true repentance.
2 Chronicles 7:14 "Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and heal their land."
What does it mean to repent? The woman in the book of Luke knew. She models repentance for us and illustrates beautifully the truth that if we want to experience worship we must come to God, seeking forgiveness and being willing to repent of our sin. Forgiveness is our greatest need and God's highest accomplishment, always resulting in worship.
Luke 7:38 "As she stood behind Him at His feet weeping, she began to wet His feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them."
This woman stood behind Jesus like a "caught" child who was ashamed to look her Father in the eyes. I am certain that her guilt and sense of unworthiness prevented her from facing Him. Just being in His presence made her doubt everything about herself but nothing about Him. Standing so close to Him simply transformed her and she began to weep. Jesus was as pure as she was sinful. Every ugly thought, word or deed of her past must have flooded her heart and shattered it.
Tears of sorrow and joy spilled down her face onto the feet of the One – the only One who truly loved her. Those tears were the first prayer of her life. She then let her hair down in total submission, dropped to her feet and began to dry the feet of Jesus with her hair. The social custom of the day demanded that women keep their hair bound up. To let it down was considered a brazen act and could even be grounds for divorce. But this woman was beyond caring about social custom and earthly rules. She was conducting eternal business. She found what she had been searching for in every wrong relationship, every failure and every dead-end choice. She found Jesus!
She began kissing the feet of Jesus while pouring perfume over them, totally oblivious to those watching. The word "kissed" literally means "to kiss again and again." Standing in His presence, she somehow knew that He understood everything she could not say and loved her in spite of her sin. It is very important to notice that Jesus did not move away from her. He did not condemn her or stop her. He knew exactly why she was there and He was thrilled! He saw her heart and received her humble action as an acceptable gift of worship.
Jesus looked past her sin and saw her heart crying out for forgiveness. Notice His response in Luke 7:48: "Then Jesus said to her, 'Your sins are forgiven.' " Wow! God always majors in grace and forgiveness. The tense of the verb "forgiven" indicates that this forgiveness of sin was completed in the past, continues through the present and will keep working in the future. The forgiveness of God is complete and eternal.
A little girl was sitting on Santa Claus' lap. She gave him a long list of expensive toys that she wanted for Christmas. Without a word of appreciation she jumped off Santa's lap and started toward her mother who stopped her and asked, "Honey, haven't you forgotten something?" The little girl thought for a moment then said, "Oh, yes." Turning back toward Santa she shouted, "Charge it."
God has already "charged" our sins to His Son and has paid the debt in full. Powerful worship flows from a heart that has repented from every known sin and received the gift of forgiveness that God offers.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to truly worship You and am ready to confess and turn away from my sin. Please search my heart and life. Reveal every wrong attitude and action that is keeping me from truly worshipping You. Lord, I am tired of trying to live life on my own. I am desperate for You. Right now, I surrender everything I am and ever hope to be to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you ready to turn away from your sin and turn to God? If so, record the following commitment in your journal. Pray through each statement. Sign and date your entry.
· I understand that forgiveness demands repentance.
· I choose to admit the sin in my life.
· I choose to "turn from" the sin in my life.
· I will destroy any paths that might lead to that same sin.
· I will trust God for the power to practice repentance.
More From The Girlfriends
One of the most powerful illustrations of God's love and forgiveness is found in the lives of Hosea and Gomer. Read their story in Mary's MP3 download, Love That Never Fails.
Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
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August 19, 2011
Are You Free?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (2 Corinthians 5:21, NIV)
Friend To Friend
I've loved God since I was just a kid. I accepted Jesus as my personal Savior in Mr. Dunn's Sunday school class when I was just nine years old. As a teenager, I served God and grew in faith. I said "no" to the crowd and "yes" to the cross. I was a girl with convictions, a girl of strong disciplines, and a girl of high moral standards who walked the straight and narrow. Then...I went away to college and entered a veiled season of compromise.
I never meant to stray from my values. It was a new chapter in my life, and I naively thought I could handle it on my own. My rebellion was a subtle, gradual thing. I was still the same Gwen, just a compromised version of me.
During that time, secrets and compromise became comfortable to me. I wore them like a pair of faded jeans. My friends considered me to be a good Christian girl, and I wasn't about to burst their bubble with the truth that I was sliding into sinful ways. Oh, how my plastic smile served me well in those days! I could turn on the fake charm like water from a faucet.
Eventually, the compromises and choices that I'd made caught up with me and resulted in great brokenness. I couldn't reconcile what I had done with who I was, or with who I was supposed to be. My heart was broken. I felt hopeless and was horribly ashamed.
The dark days turned into weeks, which turned into months. All the while, the voice of the Accuser screamed loudly in my head. "You've messed up too much this time! You're not a Christian. God would never want someone like you. He can't forgive what you've done!" At the same time, the Holy Spirit whispered to my soul, "You are God's daughter. He's waiting for you to come home. Turn back! He loves you! Call on Jesus. Confess your sins. Forgiveness and grace await."
God chased me with His love. He caught me when I wept bitterly at His feet in raw repentance and collapsed into arms of mercy. Then, as the psalmist experienced, "He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God." (Psalm 40:2-3) Although I didn't deserve His mercy, Jesus forgave me. My forgiveness was immediate and complete, but the healing took time. And He sure did give me a new song.
I've been forgiven and transformed by the unconditional love of God. I was dead in my sins, but am now alive in Christ! I am free and it is my privilege to encourage you toward that same freedom in Christ.
Are you free? Free of guilt? Free of shame? Free from past mistakes?
Jesus came that we would have life abundantly. (John 10:10) Not because of anything that we've done to deserve it, but because of what He has done. His grace is sufficient. The guilt, pain, and shame of our past tell us that we are disqualified to move on, to serve God, to be free, and to know peace. But to believe this lie is to believe that your sin is outside the scope of God's grace. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have purpose in this life. And though you may have gone through a season of hurt, rejection, or pain, God can and will pick you up and place you back on track. I'm living proof!
"Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame." Psalm 34:5
There is no condemnation for those in Christ. While the enemy loves to cast false guilt, our Lord loves to extend grace and forgiveness, which is the remedy that restores all your broken pieces. He longs for you to experience His freedom today. Don't hold onto those pieces of brokenness. Don't hide them behind a plastic smile. Bring them into the light, lay them at the feet of Jesus, and let go. God delights in transforming lives ... even your own.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, today I come to You with the broken pieces in my life that I have been hesitant to deal with. Take my hand and lead as I walk past my fears and doubts to the refuge of Your forgiving arms. Please take what is broken and transform it into beautiful. Please free me from lies that shackle. Help me to trust that You can redeem and restore every area of my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I co-wrote a song called "Broken Into Beautiful" that ultimately is my testimony in a song. Please take a moment right now to watch the music video to "Broken into Beautiful" that is posted on my Facebook page and allow it to minister to your heart and spur you on toward His: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
The Bible assures us that our hope has never been about what we have done; it has always been about what Christ has done! "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9) Take a few moments right now to thank God for sending Jesus to reconcile your heart to His.
More From The Girlfriends
Friend, I know that when we talk about hurts and secrets of our pasts, fresh wounds can surface ...especially if the pain and shame has not been dealt with. I also know that the burden of carrying old wounds is a very heavy load. I've been there. Sharon and Mary have, too. Allow today to become your personal "freedom day" by taking your troubles to the heart of God in prayer. He loves you perfectly and completely...no matter what. Forgiveness awaits you. Freedom awaits you! Go now.
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. To orderBroken Into Beautiful, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
Gwen's song "Broken Into Beautiful" is featured on both her Because CD and her Unsearchable Live CD. Both can be ordered from her website or downloaded from iTunes.
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Monday, August 22, 2011
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August 22, 2011
Using our Words Wisely – Learning from the Best
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Freely you have received, freely give (Matthew 10:8).
Friend To Friend
This month, I've been examining the power of our words. So today, let's take a look at how Jesus used his words with his friends and let's learn from the best.
Jesus was the Master of believing the best in others and encouraging them to reach beyond their own limited view of their abilities. His disciples had witnessed Jesus command a lame man to walk, restore rotting skin to a leprous outcast, remove fever from Peter's mother with a touch, calm the raging storm, deliver a man from demons, and raise a little girl from the dead. But Jesus wanted more for his friends than to remain spectators in the gospel. He longed for them to be participants and partakers.
On a spring day, shortly after the Passover celebration, Jesus retreated to the north shore of the Sea of Galilee. However, crowds of people quickly pursued this miracle worker to witness his teaching and healing power. As the sun began to sink to the horizon, his disciples remarked that the people were growing hungry. He turned to Philip and asked, "Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?" (John 6:5)
Jesus was not concerned with a lack of provisions. Rather He was taking this opportunity to invite the disciples to share in His ministry. He didn't need their help. However, he wanted to invite them to participate in a miracle to boost their confidence and faith. It was a gentle breeze in their sails of courage.
Philip was smart. In a matter of minutes he had calculated that it would take eight months' wages to feed the ten thousand people gathered on the hill. But Jesus wasn't looking for facts; He was looking for faith.
Andrew was practical. He canvassed the crowd to see what resources were available...five small barley cakes and two small fish. But Jesus wasn't looking for practical; he was looking for powerful.
Jesus told the disciples to have the crowd sit down in groups. Then he took the loaves and fish, blessed the food, and gave it to the disciples to distribute.
Did Jesus need the disciples' help? No. But He chose to include them in the miracle. He wanted them to see that He believed in them.
Now, let's fast forward in Jesus' ministry and his relationship with His disciples. During one of His last moments with the band of brothers, Jesus told them in no uncertain terms the potential He saw in them. Like a coach who believes in his team, Jesus rallied the twelve: "Go rather to the lost sheep of Israel. As you go, preach this message: `The kingdom of heaven is near.' Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received, freely give" (Matthew 10:6-8).
Before his ascension he gave them one last pep talk: "Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:19-20). They had observed, learned, and practiced. Now it was time to step out into the world and participate in ministry without Jesus' physical presence. He believed in them and He let them know it.
"I tell you the truth," Jesus said, "anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these because I am going to the Father" (John 14:12). Oh my, did you notice? Jesus wasn't just talking about the twelve disciples. He was also talking about you! Jesus believes in you!
Jesus used his words to encourage his friends. I pray that we can follow His example and do the same.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of words. Help me to use my words to encourage my friends and family to be all that You have created them to be. Help me to learn from Jesus' example to expect the best from others and encourage them to participate with You in the ministry You have marked out for them.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the story of Jesus feeding the 5,000 recorded in John 6:1-15. Look for all the ways Jesus encouraged his disciples. Remember, he did not need their help but could have miraculously made the bread appear as God made the manna appear for the Israelites.
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Today's devotion is taken from Sharon's book The Power of a Woman's Words. There is great power in the words we speak and the people we impact. If you would like to learn more about how to harness this powerful resource and use your words to speak life to others, this book will be a great resource. Why not get a group of girlfriends together and learn about The Power of a Woman's Words together!
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August 23, 2011
Care Enough to Confront
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6, NIV).
Friend To Friend
One of the basic needs of every healthy relationship is the art of confrontation. To confront someone is to meet them head-on in the quest for compromise. Confrontation is an emotional tackle for the purpose of resolving conflict while promoting peace. Just as God separates us from our sin, He calls us to do the same with sandpaper people. We must disconnect who they are from what they do, loving the sinner but hating the sin, looking beyond their weaknesses in search of their strengths.
Most people I know hate confrontation and will do anything to avoid it, but in doing so, give the impression that they are content with the status quo. It is important for us to understand that silence is agreement. Confrontation is a gift we bring to every healthy relationship as well as the unhealthy relationships with which we struggle. Confrontation is a spiritual surgery that tends to be painful. But without it, the cancer of contention and discord will remain unfettered, free to grow and spread its deadly relationship poison.
When we have one nerve left and our sandpaper person is romping on it, we tend to confront in anger, from pain and frustration, with little control. The explosion can be heard for miles around. Healthy confrontation does not involve a weapon of any kind – verbal or non-verbal. We speak honestly but gently. Confrontation that is wrapped in gentle love is powerful!
When my husband became a pastor, we both struggled with maintaining a balanced schedule. It was easy for Dan to work six or seven nights a week. The church was exploding in growth and a crisis was always on the agenda. Being the precious and loving wife that I am, I confronted Dan – not in love and not with gentleness. It did not work. I decided to back off and let God work.
One afternoon, while preparing dinner, Dan called to say that one of the church members had just been admitted to the hospital with chest pains. Dan was planning to drop by the hospital, which meant that he would be late – again. He promised to make his hospital visit short and be home as soon as he could. When Danna strolled through the kitchen, checking out the dinner menu, she asked when her dad was coming home. I explained the situation but assured her that Dan would be home as soon as he could. She seemed satisfied with my explanation and headed for the family room. As I set the table, I overheard Danna calling the church office. Then I heard her childlike but powerful words of confrontation, "Dad, please come home. I don't like it when you have to work late. I know that man in the hospital needs you, but there are lots of doctors there. I only have one daddy and it makes me sad when you are not here. I need to see you with my eyes." Dan called one of our deacons who jumped at the chance to visit someone in the hospital and Dan came home.
Every relationship in life improves with confrontation done the right way. In fact, the harder the truth, the more love we must use in sharing it, especially when it comes to sharing truth with sandpaper people. Here are some simple tips for effective confrontation done the right way:
1. Always begin confrontation with affirmation. Encouraging words set the stage and prepare the heart to hear words of correction.
2. Be willing to take your part of the blame. I have lived long enough to know that no conflict is ever totally one-sided. Taking your share of the blame often diffuses anger.
3. Express hurt...not hostility. It is important to keep emotions under control during confrontation. Volume negates listening. Raised voices and angry words slam the door shut on any possible good that can come from confrontation. Sandpaper people rarely realize the depth of the pain they inflict.
4. Make clear, direct statements. When facing confrontation, I will often write down what I plan to say; then read it aloud. I can then go back and eliminate unnecessary comments, inflammatory words or vengeful statements. Stick to the facts.
5. Avoid using words like "never" and "always." These words are untrue and accomplish little in a confrontation. For some reason, they tend to stir up emotions and fan emotional fires.
6. Listen. One of my favorite tactics in confrontations is to use the time the other person is speaking to formulate my next point. As a result, I don't listen because I assume I already know what will be said. Difficult conversations require total attention. Listening validates people and invites them into your life. Refusing to listen is arrogant and self-centered.
7. Be solution centered. Make the decision beforehand to stay at the table of confrontation until a solution is found and some measure of restoration is achieved. It is so easy to go for the "let's get this over with" conversation instead of getting to the heart of the problem.
The sandpaper people in your life are likely to be confronted on a regular basis. But because that confrontation usually comes from an unclean heart and an angry spirit, it can easily become just another notch in that sandpaper person's belt, giving them one more reason to be who they are – difficult. When love and gentleness deliver correction, it is much more likely to be received and acted upon. We can be caring and confronting at the same time. Most sandpaper people are controllers and manipulators, intimidating their way into other people's lives, because it is the only way they know to get in. Confrontation is a spiritual exercise and an act of obedience to God that changes lives and builds healthy relationships.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I confront someone in anger or with a bitter heart. I really do want my relationships to reflect Your love. Teach me how to control the words I say and the attitude with which I say them. Forgive me for the pride that fuels a spirit of revenge when I should be seeking healing and restoration. Be glorified in all of my relationships, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Matthew 7:2-6. Compare "sawdust" with "plank." In your journal, describe the requirement Matthew explains in this passage of Scripture.
Gentleness is not weakness. It is controlled strength. Apply this truth to the art of confrontation. Why is gentle confrontation so important?
Review the seven elements of confrontation listed in today's devotion. Which one of these elements do you need to work on first? Why?
More From The Girlfriends
One of the most powerful illustrations of God's love and forgiveness is found in the lives of Hosea and Gomer. Learn about their story in Mary's MP3 download, Love That Never Fails.
Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible Study: Stress Management 101. Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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August 24, 2011
A Place to Belong
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God (John 1:12, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Advertisers are well aware of the need human beings have to belong. They are banking on it. How many times have my eyes filled with tears over a television commercial? A credit card commercial shows a grown daughter taking her elderly mother back to Italy to discover her roots..."The cost? Priceless." (I cry.) A horse-drawn carriage glides through the snow on its way to a cozy cottage nestled in the trees with smoke swirling in the sky..."Home for the holidays." (I cry). A young man dressed in a military uniform drops his duffle bag on his unknowing parent's den floor in the wee hours of the morning and starts the coffee maker. His mother, smelling the aroma, hurries down the stairs and clutches her heart as tears stream down her cheeks at the sight of her soldier home from war. (I cry.)
The tears that form in my eyes prove that the advertisers have tapped into my need to belong. They would have us believe that if we buy their particular product, we will have that warm fuzzy feeling of euphoria or ecstatic joy.
But we know the truth. True joy will not be found on the grocery store shelf, the cars sales lot, or the department store window. It cannot be bought with the swipe of a credit card or cold hard cash. People want to feel they are a part of something bigger than themselves and that there is more to this life than accumulating wealth and accomplishments.
God tells us that when we come to Christ, we become part of His family.
"Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God" (John 1:12).
"The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God' children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ" (Romans 8:16, 17).
"How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" (1 John 3:1).
We have lots of brothers and sisters. Not only that, we have girlfriends in God who love each other, care for each other, and sometimes correct each other. I'm so glad that God has given us a place to belong. Aren't you?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for bringing me into Your family. I am so thankful that I belong to You. Today, help me to find comfort in the fact that no matter who rejects me or excludes me, You will always love me and accept me just the way I am.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever teared-up at a TV commercial? If so, which one?
What about the commercial touched your heart?
Have you ever teared-up over a Bible passage? If so, which one?
John 17:20-26 is one passage that always touches my heart. Just to think that Jesus was praying for me on the day before He went to the cross makes my heart swell. Read those words and remember that Jesus is praying for you, even today.
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Because God is your Father, He has dreams for His little girl...you. To learn more about the incredible dreams that God has for you, see Dreams of a Woman: God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. And hold on to your hats...He's got great plans for your life!
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August 25, 2011
I Need a Friend
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. In his book, "The Broken Heart", Dr. James J. Lynch shows that lonely people live significantly shorter lives than the general population. In other words, God created us to need each other. We need friends.
I know what you are thinking. Everyone knows that having close friends is risky business. While attending seminary, one of my professors told me that, as a pastor's wife, I would never be able to have close friends in the church. I didn't believe him then. And I don't believe him now.
I have been a woman in ministry for many years and my best friends have always been with women in the church where I ministered. Have I been burned? Yes. Have I been betrayed and disappointed? Yes. Has it been worth it? Absolutely! It is my prayer that over the next few weeks, we will catch God's plan and purpose for the friendships in our lives. But before launching into this study, there are three friendship facts we must first understand and accept.
Fact 1: Friendships have many different levels. There are friends we see occasionally and then there are soul-mates with whom we share everything. There is a place for both in our lives.
Fact 2: Friendships may change with the seasons of life. We are naturally drawn to women who face the same problems and share the same dreams.
Fact 3: We all need friends. Friendship is part of God's plan for our lives.
Jesus placed great value on relationships. The Bible tells us that He spent much of His time deepening relationships with a few - not the crowds. His teachings are filled with practical suggestions on how to be a friend and how to have healthy relationships. One of the most beautiful portraits of friendship is found in the book of Ruth. It is the story of Naomi, a godly woman, a wife and the mother of two married sons.
Naomi's husband and sons died, leaving three women alone, Naomi and her two daughters-in-law, Ruth and Orpah. Because they had neither food nor money and no certainty of what the future might hold, Naomi chose to return to Bethlehem, her homeland. On the way, Naomi suddenly stopped to tell Ruth and Orpah that they should return to their homes in Moab because there, they would have the chance to marry again. Both Ruth and Orpah protested but Naomi was insistent. Finally, Orpah gave in and returned home, but Ruth would not leave Naomi, her mother-in-law and friend. Noami was amazed at the loyalty Ruth offered and together, they made the trip to Bethlehem. Interestingly, it was there that Ruth met and married Boaz. They had a son named Obed, who later became the grandfather of King David. Ruth, a gentile from Moab, became part of the family line of Jesus. Why? Ruth was a loyal friend. Wouldn't you like to have a friend like that? Wouldn't you like to be a friend like that? The lives of Ruth and Naomi offer nine keys to healthy and vital friendships.
First Key: Time
Ruth says, "Where you go I will go. Where you stay I will stay." Ruth was willing to commit her life and time in friendship. Friendship doesn't just happen. True friendship takes consistent investments of time. Time spent together in friendship creates a memory bank from which we can make withdrawals when tough times come and we need encouragement. Time is a priceless gift and one of the most powerful communicators of love. When we are willing to give 30 minutes of time, we are actually giving 30 minutes of life. Ruth was willing to sacrifice her entire life agenda for the sake of her friendship with Naomi.
We live in a "quick-fix" world that often fails to understand or address the relationship truth that it takes time to build a friendship. It is so easy for women to fill every time slot of every day with activity, leaving little or no room for friends. The waters of daily life are often difficult to navigate. True friends are willing to get in the boat and ride out the storm with us.
We tend to spend time instead of investing it. The depth of the friendship depends upon the investment of time we can make or the investment of time we are willing to make. I have a friend, Michelle Johnson, who is the perfect example of a friend who was willing to invest time in our relationship. Michelle and I first met at a church where she and her husband were small group teachers while Dan was the youth pastor. We were not especially close because our paths rarely crossed. But when Dan was called to be the pastor of a nearby church, Michelle and her family joined us in ministry. Our children were in school together and we were both involved in women's ministry. As our paths crossed more frequently, we became friends. Then, during a two-year battle with clinical depression, we moved into the neighborhood where Michelle and Jay lived. Michelle made a choice. She chose to invest large chunks of time, walking with me through those dark years. As a result, her friendship is beyond measure in my life. Friendships take time.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for being the ultimate Friend. You have never let me down or turned away from me – even when I have turned away from You. Please help me be the kind of friend You want me to be so that Your love can flow through me in my relationships. Teach me how to invest time wisely so that each friendship is a living illustration of Your love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· What is the greatest hindrance to friendship in your life?
What has been the greatest reward of friendship in your life?
Are you willing to take the risk of cultivating intimate friendships and of being a true friend? Explain.
Make a list of your closest friends and then picture life without them. What would that picture look like?
Make a specific plan this week to invest time in the life of a friend.
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August 26, 2011
Masterpiece in the Making
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you (Philippians 1:6, AMP).
Friend To Friend
It took four years of fresco painting for the Italian Renaissance sculptor, painter, architect, and poet Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, to finish the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Commonly known as Michelangelo, his time painting was mostly spent alone, on his back, lying on scaffolding. (How painful!) The painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is one of the most remarkable in the history of Western art. One thing is for sure: the process that altered a ceiling from plain to fabulous required a lot of time, great discipline, and the hand of a master artist. The same is true for us. The journey from broken into beautiful is a lifelong transformation that requires both discipline and a Master Artist.
As Michelangelo was working, I'm sure that lots of people came through the corridors of the chapel and stood in amazement. As they looked up at the beauty of his work, I bet they said things like, "That is the most fantastic work of art I have ever seen!" or "Extraordinary!" To which he might have said, "It's not done!" But did the unfinished state of the project negate that parts of the ceiling were beautiful? No! The parts that were complete were still extravagant and breathtaking.
Maybe this is the way God and others see our lives. It's common for people to notice the work God has done in us and comment on the beauty. And even though compliments are nice to hear, I've been known to resist them. (Admit it, you probably have too.) It's not so much a humility thing as it is an "I-don't-see-myself-as-beautiful" thing. From my limited perspective, I can see only the unfinished work. But in truth, my vantage point doesn't negate the beauty of the work God has done and is doing in my life.
Real beauty isn't about a finished or flawless product. It can't be. It's not possible on this side of eternity to have completed beauty. Our restoration will be complete in the presence of God when we see Him face to face.
Now, you might be saying, "But Gwen, I can't be beautiful! You don't know what I've done...or what I've been through...or what I'm going through!"
Friend, God knows where you have been, what you have been through, and where you are now. He knows what your flaws are and loves you in spite of your imperfections. His tender love is far-reaching and complete.
Your past sins do not define you.
Your painful scars do not define you.
Your present sufferings do not define you.
They are just shards of brokenness that God will use to lovingly refine your beauty. The transformation from broken into beautiful is neither easy nor instantaneous. It demands a yielded heart and can be quite painful, but it comes with great reward. God will need your broken pieces—your scars, shame, insecurities, disappointments, betrayals, and failures.
Do you have some of those?
Are they tucked away in a safe, do-not-enter part of your heart?
You might find it hard to hand over hurts. I get that. It's hard for me too. But difficult as it may be, it's time to hand them over and let our masterful Lord create a stunning work of beauty in you. And He's going to need all of your broken pieces to complete the restoration.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I am humbled by Your willingness to love and forgive someone like me. Please take the broken pieces of my life and don't allow me to have them back. I surrender to Your healing. Mold me and shape me into a beautiful reflection of Your glory. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 64:8, "Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."
Meditate on this verse. Read it again and personalize it in a prayerful response to God: "Yet, O LORD, you are MY Father. I AM the clay, you are the potter; I AM the work of your hand."
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Today's devotion is from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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August 29, 2011
Woe is You. Woe is Me!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.'...The things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean' (Matthew 15:11,18, NIV).
Friend To Friend
All through the Bible we have accounts of God sending men and women out into the world with a message. Whether it is a message of repentance, judgment, deliverance or hope, God made sure the messengers were placed in strategic moments in time to make an impact on those around them. But God doesn't send the messenger out unprepared. He trains them as only He can do...and it usually has something to do with their words.
Let's look at two messengers and how God prepared them to impact the world: Isaiah and Jeremiah.
Isaiah was called to prophesy to Jerusalem 740 years before Christ. In the first five chapters, the overriding theme is impending judgment. "Woe to you who add house to house and join field to field...Woe to those who rise early in the morning to run after their drinks...Woe to those who draw sin along with cords of deceit and wickedness as with cart ropes...Woe to those who call evil good and good evil...Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight...Woe to those who are heroes at drinking wine, and champions at mixing drinks..." But then something happens to Isaiah as he sees his own life reflected in God's magnificent glory.
Isaiah had a vision.
I saw the Lord seated on a throne high and exalted, and the train of his robe filled the temple. Above him were seraphs, each with six wings. With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they were flying. And they were calling to one another:
"Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty; the whole earth is full of his glory." At the sound of their voices the doorposts and threshold shook and the temple was filled with smoke.
"Woe to me!" I cried. "I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the LORD Almighty." (Isaiah 6:1-5)
I imagine Isaiah was feeling pretty good about himself, being called by God to prophesy to this irksome people. But just when he got out the sixth woe, God decided to hold up the mirror of His holiness in which Isaiah saw his own sin. And where did the sin manifest itself? His words.
God doesn't convict us of our sin to condemn us. He reveals our sin to bring us to repentance and change. Just as Isaiah was lamenting his own foul tongue, a seraph (brightly shimmering heavenly beings whose name means' burning ones') picked up a live coal with tongs from the altar of atonement and touched it to the prophet's lips. Just as God sent the Holy Spirit to the believers at Pentecost in the form of flaming tongues, He sent a coal to set Isaiah's tongue afire with cleansing power. The seraph touched Isaiah's tongue with the burning coal and then announced that his guilt was taken away.
Now Isaiah was ready to go out into the world and proclaim God's message to His people and his "woe is me" was transformed into "Here am I send me."
Isaiah didn't need to change his eating or drinking habits, he didn't need to alter his outward appearance, or take extra classes at the local seminary. Isaiah needed to have his words purified and fortified so God could be properly glorified.
If God thought it necessary to deal with Isaiah's tongue before he embarked on his heavenly assignment then we should not think it would be any different for you and for me. But did you notice it was God who did the cleansing? It takes more than washing our mouths out with soap to be a woman of clean lips. It takes the power of the Holy Spirit and the touch of God. Our part is to cooperate with Him, submit our words to Him, fill our lives with Him, and live our lives through Him.
Now It's Your Turn
Unlike Isaiah, Jeremiah didn't begin prophesying until God touched his mouth first. Like Isaiah, Jeremiah was called to be a prophet to the Hebrew nation. However, he was very reluctant to heed the call. "I do not know how to speak; I am only a child," he argued. But God reprimanded Jeremiah, "Do not say, 'I am only a child'...Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you."
Then God reached out his hand and touched Jeremiah's mouth and said, "Now, I have put my words in your mouth." God called this young man to be strong and courageous and assured him that He would be with him wherever he went.
Today, pull out your Bible and read Jeremiah chapter one. Turn the words into a prayer for your own life and pray that God will use your words and your life to make a positive impact for the gospel today.
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The Bible tells us that death and life are in the power of the tongue. If you would like to learn more about how to use your words to speak life into those around you, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words by Sharon Jaynes. And for a more in-depth look at what God's Word has to say about our words, see The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study Guide.
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August 30, 2011
I Need a Friend Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. God created us to need each other. We need friends and we need to be a friend. Over the next few days, we will continue to uncover nine keys to healthy friendships.
Key one: Time
Key two: Risk
The emotional demands on women are vast. One of the ways God replenishes the emotional drains we experience is through friendships. Many women are convinced that the risk of having close friends outweighs the rewards. I disagree. There is no love without risk. Every friendship must contain the element of risk if it is to grow and mature, reaching its full potential. Ruth was willing to risk her very future for the sake of her friendship with Naomi. John 15:13 says it well. "Greater love has no one than this; that one lay down his life for his friends." When we choose to lay down our life, we automatically take a chance on being hurt, rejected, betrayed or misunderstood.
Anyone who knows me also knows that living foliage is doomed to die a premature death if left in my care for any length of time. I have even been known to kill a plant without touching it. In fact, the only hope any plant of mine has to live past its purchase date is for me to ignore its existence with great diligence. I am certain you can understand why I am in awe of anyone who gardens and is actually capable of growing green things.
I once had a neighbor who was known for her green thumb. In fact, everyone in our small Mississippi town knew that the most beautiful roses were found in Joyce's back yard. It was in that same yard where I learned an important lesson about friendship.
Every afternoon, after their nap time, I took our two children, Jered and Danna, outside to play in our fenced-in back yard. While the kids enjoyed the fresh air, neighborhood friends and their swing set, I enjoyed visiting with Joyce. Most of our conversations took place over the vine-covered fence and her dazzling rose garden. After weeks of watching Joyce plant, prune, water, feed, talk to and even sing to her "Rose Babies." I noticed that Joyce never handled the roses without wearing thick gloves to protect her hands from thorns. One day, our conversation abruptly halted when she yanked her hand into the air and yelled, "Ouch!" When I asked her why she insisted on growing roses instead of some safer and less prickly foliage, her answer was profound. "The beauty of the roses is worth the occasional wound they inflict," she replied. Joyce had learned to handle the roses with respect and in such a way that her wounds were few. Friendships are much the same.
Friends will hurt you. Friends will wound you. We would be wise to don thick emotional gloves when it comes to handling friendships. It is a fatal mistake to assign the responsibility for our happiness to friends. In reality, depending on a friend to make us happy sets that friend up for failure in the relationship and positions that friendship for inevitable destruction. For example, I have a friend who simply cannot keep a secret. She would do anything in the world for me – except keep her mouth closed. Because I love her and don't want to write her off as a friend, I have simply chosen to be cautious about what I share with her. Every friendship has a price tag of some kind attached. We just need to get to the place where love covers the cost.
The words of 1 Peter 4:8 say it well, "Love covers a multitude of sins." In this verse, "cover" literally means to "hide" or "overlook" the faults. Friendship knows the weaknesses are there, but chooses to love anyway. Friendship is always costly but always well worth the cost.
Key three: Transparency
In verse 16, Ruth offers an amazing display of transparency. "Where you go I will go. Where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God, my God." Openness and honesty nourish friendship. We are naturally drawn to transparent people because transparency produces authenticity. In fact, one of the most winsome aspects of Jesus was the fact that He was so transparent and lived an authentic life. He did not remain aloof from His disciples. He lived among them, sharing every part of their lives. He ate with them, prayed with them, ministered with them, cried with them and laughed with them. Jesus repeatedly opened Himself up to the disciples.
John 15:15 "I do not call you servants any longer, because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from my Father."
Jesus made a deliberate choice to be transparent, modeling friendship at its best. He was hurt, betrayed and rejected by those He called friends. Still today, He waits for you and for me, longing to be the most transparent and authentic friend we have. Life can be a very lonely place. Jesus knows. Friendships are not only an important source of encouragement to us as women, but a valuable source of strength as well. I am convinced that if we built fewer relationship walls, we would have more friends and be a better friend.
Let's Pray
Father, I have to admit that it is sometimes easier to be lonely than it is to be authentic and real with others. Forgive me for letting fear keep me from reaching out to someone in friendship. I am willing to risk being hurt. I am willing to be transparent in order to be a better friend. I lay every friendship at Your feet as an offering of praise for the Friend You are to me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time when you were hurt by someone you thought was a friend. How did you respond? Answer the following questions in light of that response.
· Would you change your response if you could? How?
· Did your response make the friendship stronger or weaker? In what way(s)?
· Have you let go of the hurt and forgiven the person who hurt you?
· Read Colossians 1:13-14. How do these verses influence the way you forgive the friends who have hurt you?
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August 31, 2011
Silent Longings
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
She (Hagar) gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: 'You are the God who sees me,' for she said, 'I have now seen the One who sees me' (Genesis 16:13, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Everyone wants to be noticed, to be cared for, to be loved. How my heart breaks with David's words, "No one cares for my soul" (Psalm 142:4). He is crying out during one of the darkest times in his life and felt all alone in his struggle to survive. We might expect to hear those words from the crowded city streets as men and women scurry about in their power suits off to make the next deal. We wouldn't be surprised to hear those words from a vagrant huddled under a bridge with all his worldly possessions stuffed in a plastic grocery bag. But would we expect it from the person sitting beside us in the church pew, the co-worker in the next cubicle, or the mother of three next door?
While flying from the east coast to the west coast, I watched an in flight movie, a cleaned up version of What Women Want staringMel Gibson. Mr. Marshal (Mel Gibson) worked at an advertising firm with a host of busy men and women bustling about in their own little self-absorbed worlds. In a strange twist of events, Mr. Marshal is "electrically altered" when he slips in the bathroom and falls into the bathtub, along with a hair dryer. When he regains consciousness after his shocking experience, he has the ability to read women's minds and hear their thoughts. With his new perceptive powers, he lands a huge Nike advertising account and wins the heart of the leading lady...of course. But there is one poignant sideline of the movie that grabbed my heart.
In the movie, one young nondescript woman in his office had thoughts that stopped Marshal in his tracks. What if I just jumped out the window? Would anyone notice? I could be gone for days and no one would notice...until the files started piling up. Then they'd say, 'Where's the geek with the glasses who carries the files?'
No one did notice the errand girl who refused to make eye contact with her fellow employees, except Marshal, who could hear her thoughts.
One day, the young women (who we learn is named Erin), doesn't show up for work?
"Where's Erin?" Marshal asked as he notices a pile of files sitting on her desk.
"I don't know," someone replies. "She didn't show up for work today."
Fearing the worst, Marshal locates Erin's address and dashes out to stop her from ending her life.
Bursting into her apartment Marshal sees a suicide letter lying on the table and his heart sinks. A startled Erin walks into the room.
"Mr. Marshal, what are you doing here?"
"I'm glad I got here before you hurt yourself?" he replied.
"What makes you think I was going to hurt myself?"
"I just sensed it," he answered.
"Really? You sensed it? That's not good."
Then Marshal brilliantly changes course. "The real reason I'm here is to offer you a job. You know we got the Nike account and we were wondering who would be a real spitfire to work on this project..." Marshal offers Erin a job and rescues her from the despair of feeling unwanted, unloved, and unimportant.
I'm not suggesting that you watch the movie. After all, it was a cleaned up airline version. However, I am suggesting that you ponder the situation. I believe that men and women walk past us every day, just like Erin in this movie, who feel that they have no significant purpose in this world. Like Erin, I know that there are many who feel that their sudden disappearance would cause little fanfare or concern. It might be the woman who passes you in the hall at work, the rebellious looking teen who shuffles by you at the mall, or the businessman dashing to his next appointment. It takes so little to let someone know that they are significant. We have the ability to give someone hope by offering a simple word of acknowledgement.
Dr. David Jeremiah wrote, "We are shaped by those who love us or refuse to love us, and by those whom we love or refuse to love" (Dr. David Jeremiah, The Power of Encouragement (Sisters, Oregon: Multnomah, 1997), p. 13) . It is an amazing opportunity given to each of us as we walk through our day to shape and mold those around us with a simple word of encouragement, acknowledgement, or appreciation. The world is crying out for love - a positive word, a tender touch, a morsel of praise. Sometimes a simple "hello" can be a boost to someone starving to be noticed. Many people are so lonely that any token of attention is like a drop of rain on dry parched ground.
Jesus met a woman who felt very insignificant – bone weary and bone dry. As he talked to her by a well, He said, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life" (John 4:13, 14 NIV). Yes, Jesus is the living water that people need. Isn't it amazing that He allows us to hold the cup - to offer the only drink that will satisfy.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that you always see me and notice what I'm going through. You know every hair on my head! Help me to never loose sight of the fact that I am very significant in Your eyes. You loved me so much that You gave Your Son, Jesus, so that I might have eternal life with You. I praise Your Holy Name.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Let's go back up to today's truth. Hagar was a woman who felt ignored and all alone. But then God showed up.
Go back and read her amazing story in Genesis 16.
What do You learn about God from this story?
Hagar was not one of God's chosen people, and yet, He cared for her. The Hebrew name that she gave God was El Roi, the God who Sees. Remember today that God sees you!
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For most of us, we get to a point in our lives where we realize life has not turned out like we thought it would. But would you dare to dream again? God has great plans for you! Grab His hand and go to the place that He planned all along. To discover God's amazing plan for your life, see Dreams of a Woman-God's Plans for Fulfilling Your Dreams by Sharon Jaynes and begin to dream again.
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September 1, 2011
I Need a Friend Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, 'Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.' When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. God created us to need each other. We need friends and we need to be a friend. Over the next few weeks, we will uncover nine keys to healthy friendships.
Key one: Time
Key two: Risk
Key three: Transparency
Key four: Touch
Women are such emotional critters. I can almost see Naomi and Ruth hugging each other or holding hands as their friendship was forged through love, sorrow, pain and loss. The earthly ministry of Jesus constantly demonstrated the power of love poured out through His touch. The touch of Jesus brought healing to the sick, sight to the blind and life to the dead. In Matthew, He stretched out his hand and touched the leper (Matthew 8:3). Mark tells us that Jesus took the children in His arms (Mark 10:16). I am always amazed that even though Jesus could have healed the blind and sick with just a word, a breath, a glance or even a thought, He often chose to touch the broken ones in order to make them whole. Physical touch is a powerful communicator of love.
A group of medical students, training in the children's ward of a large metropolitan hospital, learned the power of touch in an unusual way. Day after day, the eager students made their rounds together, all of them visiting the same children, performing the same routine medical procedures. However, it soon became obvious to all that one particular medical student was especially loved by the children. Whenever he walked into the ward, the face of each child lit up. The medical students did not understand why the kids seemed to love this particular student more. Curious, they decided to follow their co-worker, hoping to learn his secret. They did. Every night, when he made his last rounds, this beloved young student kissed each child good-night and tucked them into bed. In Ephesians 2:14, Paul talks about "breaking down the walls that divide us." Many times, the best way to break down emotional walls is to reach out, in God's love, and offer the healing touch of a pat on a weary back, a quick hug for a lonely heart, or an encouraging hand on a burdened and bent shoulder.
Sidebar:Let me also be honest and open at this point. Rarely a week goes by that my husband and I don't hear of a marriage, family and ministry destroyed because of an affair. That affair began with one inappropriate thought that led to one inappropriate touch. Make no mistake, friend. The enemy wants to destroy you, your family, your home and your life. You can be certain he will attempt to do so – any way that he possibly can. When he does manage to derail a man or woman, he dances on the ashes of the fallen ones and the Father weeps. This is where correction comes in. Along with the command to demonstrate the love of God in friendships, comes the responsibility of loving accountability and correction.
Key five: Correction
Naomi told Ruth to return to her home land, but Ruth refused to go. Instead, she confronted and corrected her mother-in-law. A brave woman! The results were dramatic. "When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her." Godly friendships have the element of correction. Correction brings authenticity and health to every relationship in life – especially friendships. A true friend puts your good above the risk of anger or rejection. "Faithful are the wounds of a friend" (Proverbs 27:6). The "wound" is the correction or confrontation for the good of a friend.
Silence is agreement and just as dangerous as holding a friend's hand as he or she walks toward the edge of a steep, deadly cliff. When a warning bell goes off in your mind, when you have a question in your spirit about any part of a friend's life, you are called to confront that friend in love. Failure to do so may very well result in their destruction.
When I married into the Southerland family, I didn't know tent camping was part of the deal. I might have reconsidered (just kidding). I decided I could learn to camp and maybe even enjoy it. My first trip to Lake Greason in the foothills of the Ozarks was quite an experience. It did not take me long to learn the routine. Every day, Dan's mom would prepare a huge breakfast. The kids did dishes and cleaned up while mom changed into her swim suit, donned her sun glasses, grabbed a towel and headed for the lake. On the shore, she grabbed an inner tube, positioned her towel in just the right spot, turned around and sat down in the tube. Then she would float blissfully for hours. There was a slight problem with this plan. Lake Greason had a current that carried mom down the lake, around the bend and into the path of ski boats. Several times a day, someone would have to swim after her, pulling her back to the safety of the shore, where she would profusely thank them and go right back to floating. Finally, one of the kids came up with a great idea – a rope! We grabbed a ski rope, tied one end to mom's inner tube and the other end to a wooden stake driven securely into the ground. She could then float until the rope ran out and someone "reeled her in".
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September 2, 2011
God Confidence
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Paul said that he "put no confidence in the flesh" (Philippians 3:3). In other words, he didn't think that he was good enough because of any particular talent or ability that he had on his own. But his confidence came from his understanding of who he was as a child of God. Someone once said, "A man wrapped up in himself makes a pretty small package." But a man, or woman, wrapped up in God is an amazing sight to behold.
I believe we can change our inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy into unshakable confidence by understanding who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God. I am not advocating confidence in self, but confidence in God - confidence in who you are because of what Jesus has done for you and what the Holy Spirit can do through you. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5,6 TNIV). Connected to the vine you can do everything God calls you to do (Philippians 4:13).
Paul knew what he could accomplish on his own...nothing. Oh, he could be busy. We all can do that. But bearing "fruit that will remain" is another story. This paraphrase shows how he viewed his own personal weaknesses:
I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan's angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty! At first I didn't think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me,
'My grace is enough; it's all you need.
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.'
Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ's strength moving in on my weakness. Now that I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size-abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.
(2 Corinthians 12:7-10 The Message)
Paul had great confidence. The prefix, "con" means "with" and the root "fid" means faith." So a confident person is one who walks in faith. We walk in faith that we are holy, chosen, redeemed, dearly loved children of God who are empowered by the Holy Spirit, equipped by our Maker, and enveloped by Jesus Christ. Now that's real God-confidence.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I know that I can do nothing of any true lasting value apart from You. However, when I abide in Christ and He works through me, I can accomplish anything You have called me to do. Help me to understand the power that is within me and to have unshakable confidence in Christ today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a look at what you have been trying to accomplish in your own life. Are you working in your own strength, or are you depending on Jesus working through you?
What do you think Jesus meant when He said, "Apart from me you can do nothing?"
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you need a confidence booster, then this book is for you! Begin seeing yourself as God sees you and discover the amazing potential you have to live the victorious Christian life!
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September 5, 2011
I Need a Friend Part 4
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, 'Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.' When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. God created us to need each other. We need friends and we need to be a friend. Over the next few weeks, we will uncover nine keys to healthy friendships.
Key one: Time
Key two: Risk
Key three: Transparency
Key four: Touch
Key five: Correction
Key six: Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a spiritual truth and principle that, as Christians, we teach, preach and encourage. Forgiveness is also easier said than done. Yet, the very foundation for godly life is integrity. If we cannot forgive, we have no spiritual integrity.
Naomi was Ruth's mother-in-law and after a close examination of their circumstances, you can imagine the potential for conflict in their relationship. Naomi was a godly woman whose son had married Ruth, a woman who did not worship God. Yet, they loved each other. Forgiveness had to be part of their friendship. Forgiveness has to be part of every friendship. The first step taken in the process of forgiveness is always our responsibility while the outcome and the healing are God's responsibility. Paul writes in Colossians 3:13 that we must "bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." To "bear with" means to "put up with" and "grievances" means "complaints." In other words, we are to put up with any complaints we have with each other without retaliation or revenge. There's more. The verse goes on to tell us to forgive like Jesus did – which means taking the initiative in forgiving as well as being quick to give and receive forgiveness.
We often make the mistake of thinking forgiveness depends upon feelings, rights, justification or a variety of other man-made excuses. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice, a chosen attitude and a discipline of the heart and will. In fact, forgiveness is a choice that leads to an action that may or may not result in a feeling. A friend of Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross, once reminded her of an especially cruel act that someone had done to her years before, but Miss Barton seemed not to recall it. "Don't you remember?" her friend asked. "No," replied Clara Barton. "I distinctly remember forgetting it." Healthy friendships practice forgiveness.
Key seven: Freedom
Healthy friendships are relationships where each person gives the other room to grow and change. Instead of possessing their friends, they encourage them to grow and change. Paul says it simply and clearly, "Love is not possessive" (I Corinthians 13:4). The friendship of Ruth and Naomi certainly demonstrates this kind of freedom. Naomi was willing to let Ruth start a whole new life that did not even include her. Naomi gave Ruth the gift of freedom and, as a result, gained a friendship beyond measure. Neither Ruth nor Naomi was sure of the future, but they both knew there would be changes. They also knew that their friendship was secure enough to withstand those changes. Notice that Naomi gave Orpah freedom to leave and did not condemn her when she left. Naomi gave Orpah the gift of freedom as well, with different but right results.
When a person changes, their relationships will also change. If friendship falters when one friend changes, the relationship is likely built upon the wrong foundation and operates with erroneous motives. The heart of every healthy friendship has a thread of elastic running through it. Without the freedom to change and grow, friendship becomes a prime target for jealousy. Jealousy can ruin and has ruined many friendships because jealousy feeds on unrealistic expectations and is the result of overloading one relationship with emotional needs that only God can satisfy. True friends give each other freedom. It is from that freedom that a deeper friendship, a healthier relationship will grow.
I am acutely aware of those who want to be my friend because of what they believe they can gain from a relationship with the pastor's wife - access to ministry "secrets", a sense of importance, admission into "the inner circle." I am constantly amazed by this ridiculous mindset and fully believe it is an affront to the Kingdom and the very heart of God. I have the solution. Have a "Pedestal Burning Party." It doesn't matter who put that pedestal in place. Pedestals are stages on which pride, self-importance and sin perform their greatest works. Burn every pedestal in sight, ladies! Oh, and while you are at it, throw in all of those masks you have worn for so long! When you walk in humility, authenticity and transparency, you will be a better friend and find true friendship.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I allow jealousy to have a place in my heart. Teach me how to celebrate with my friends as they grow and change and succeed. Help me remember how Your forgiveness covers my sin and empowers me to forgive others. I lay down every grudge and resentment in my heart. I choose to forgive those who have hurt me and commit to seek the forgiveness of those I have hurt. Thank You for the love and grace I can only find in knowing You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in your heart?
What are the things for which you cannot forgive yourself?
What does that indicate about your understanding of true forgiveness?
Celebrate right now the power of forgiveness in your life.
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September 6, 2011
The Power of the Holy Spirit in You!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you" (Acts 1:8 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"I'm not good enough." Have you ever said or thought those words?
The truth is if you have made Jesus the Lord of your life, then you have the power of the Holy Spirit living in you and working through you. Jesus said, "You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you" (Acts 1:8). You have God's incomparably great power at your disposal. "That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms..." (Ephesians 1:19-20). The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is at work within us? Yep. The same power.
Jesus said, "I tell you the truth" (don't you just love it when He says that), anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these because I am going to the Father" (John 14:12). Did He just say that? Yep. What does going to the Father have to do with the power we receive? Because once Jesus went to the Father, the Holy Spirit came to live in believers. "If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever-the Spirit of truth" (John 14:15-16).
Holocaust survivor Corrie ten Boom spent the last years of her life speaking to men and women all around the world about the God who sustained her during her imprisonment and who delivered her from the Nazi prison camps. During one of her presentations, she held up a lady's white glove.
"What can this white glove do?" she asked. Then she went on to explain...
"The glove can do nothing. "Oh, but if my hand is in the glove, it can do many things...cook, play the piano, write. Well, you say that is not the glove but the hand in the glove that does it. Yes, that is so. I tell you that we are nothing but gloves. The hand in the glove is the Holy Spirit of God. Can the glove do something if it is very near the hand? No! The glove must be filled with the hand to do the work. That is exactly the same for us: We must be filled with the Holy Spirit to do the work God has for us to do."
It is time to see yourself as God sees you. No more living in a house of mirrors looking at a distorted image of who you are. This is how God sees you.
You are a child of God. John 1:12
You are justified- completely forgiven. Romans 5:1
You are free from condemnation. Romans 8:1
You have the mind of Christ. 1 Corinthians 2:16
You have been made righteous. 2 Corinthians 5:21
You have been blessed with every spiritual blessing. Ephesians 1:3
You are righteous and holy. Ephesians 4:24
You have been redeemed and forgiven of all your sins. Colossians 1:14
You are a dwelling place for Christ. He lives in you. Colossians 1:27
You are complete in Christ. Colossians 2:10
You are chosen of God, holy and dearly loved. Colossians 3:12
You have been given a spirit of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
You have been given exceedingly great and precious promises by God by which you are a partaker of God's divine nature. 2 Peter 1:4
And that, my friend is only the beginning! Say these verses out loud. Speak to your soul. Believe the truth about who you are. You are more than good enough because of who lives in you and works through you.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for sending the Holy Spirit to live in me, to work through me, and give power to me. I pray that I will plug into the power source every day. Forgive me when I act like a powerless spiritual invalid rather than a spirit-empowered soldier. Regardless of what my feelings tell me today, I choose to believe that I am a dearly loved, chosen, holy child of God who is enveloped by Jesus Christ and empowered by the Holy Spirit.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I've given you a lot to think about today. Go back up to the verses listed in today's devotion and put a check by the ones that you have a difficult time believing for yourself. Now, choose to believe the truth, regardless of how you feel. When you choose the truth, you will be renewing your mind!
Check out Romans 12:2 to learn what happens when we renew our minds with the truth.
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September 7, 2011
I Need a Friend Part 5
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, 'Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.' When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. God created us to need each other. We need friends and we need to be a friend. Over the past few weeks, we have examined the friendship between Naomi and Ruth, a relationship that illustrates vital keys to a healthy relationship between friends.
Key one: Time
Key two: Risk
Key three: Transparency
Key four: Touch
Key five: Correction
Key six: Forgiveness
Key seven: Freedom
Key eight: Loyalty
One of the most important friendship keys is loyalty. Ruth was loyal to Naomi. God honored that loyalty and used it to attract her future husband, Boaz. "Boaz replied, "I've been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband--how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before" (Ruth 2:11). Boaz was struck by the loyalty of Ruth, realizing that she was the kind of woman he wanted to marry. True friends are loyal and committed to each other. Here are some ways to build loyalty into friendship.
· Don't criticize friends to other people.
· Cheer at the successes of your friends.
· Encourage the strengths of your friends.
· Never use a friend's weaknesses to your advantage.
· Overlook "cracks" in the armor and "tilted" halos of friends.
Protect the heart of your friend by guarding your friendship with loyalty.
Key nine: Action
Ruth demonstrated her love for Naomi by her actions. She went with her to Bethlehem and worked in the field for her. "Let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action" (1 John 3:18). The best friendships are created by layers of kind actions.
1. Rituals or traditions are one of most important ingredients in a healthy friendship. It may be a weekly lunch date, annual shopping trip or dinner and a movie once a month. The best friendships are rich with memories accumulated over time.
2. Gifts are a symbol of time and energy spent for a friend. It is not the cost or size of the gift, but the thought behind it that says, "She thought of me." It is a tangible reminder of relationship. Notes, funny cards, a favorite snack or magazine, phone calls for no reason, favors done back and forth are all tiny statements of love. When my husband was in the hospital, one friend bought groceries, picked up my kids from school and delivered my cleaning. I didn't ask for help, but she knew I needed help. When you sense a need, just do it, because sometimes, hurting friends can't ask for help.
3. Words of a friend are filled with acceptance and approval. In friendships, we need to be cautious with criticism and liberal with praise. Paul writes, "So encourage each other to build each other up." (1 Thessalonians 5:11). People become what we encourage them to be. A true friend trains his heart and mind to pass over faults in search of strong points. Choose to draw the strong qualities of friends into the spotlight and be their cheerleader. Friends look for reasons to praise God in each other.
4. Listening by definition means "attention, with the intention to understand." James says we should be "quick to listen and slow to speak" (James 1:19). Talking is sharing but listening is caring. Take a tip from creation. Ears aren't made to shut but the mouth is. Put away your sermon, save your advice and just listen. Sometimes the best gift a friend can offer is a listening ear.
The words of Jesus found in John 13:34-35, portray the perfect backdrop for God's love. "And so I am giving a new commandment to you now--love each other just as much as I love you. Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciples." Does the world know we are His disciples by the way we love and relate to each other?
Chad was a shy, quiet little boy. One day he came home and told his mother he'd like to make a valentine for everyone in his class. Her heart sank. "I wish he wouldn't do that!" she thought. She had watched the children when they walked home from school. Her Chad was always behind them. They laughed and hung on to each other and talked to each other. But Chad was never included. Nevertheless, she decided she would go along with her son. She purchased the paper, glue and crayons and for three whole weeks, night after night, Chad painstakingly made thirty-five valentines. Valentine's Day dawned, and Chad was frantic with excitement! He carefully placed the valentines in a bag, and bolted out the door. His mom decided to bake his favorite cookies because she knew he would be disappointed when he came home from school. It hurt her to think that he wouldn't get many valentines -- maybe none at all. That afternoon she had the cookies and milk on the table. Finally, when she heard their voices, she looked out the window to see the children laughing and having the best time. As usual, there was Chad in the rear but walking a little faster than usual. She fully expected him to burst into tears as soon as he got inside. His arms were empty, she noticed, and when the door opened, she choked back the tears. "Honey, I have some warm cookies and milk for you" but he hardly heard her words. He just marched right on by, his face glowing, and all he could say was: "Not a one -- not one." The mother's heart sank. Then he added, "I didn't forget a one, not a single one!" When God is in control of our friendships, we will be a better friend and have more true friends.
Let's Pray
Father, I know that I really do need friends but often let the fear of rejection keep me from reaching out in friendship. I choose against that fear right now. I want to please and honor You by the way I love my friends. Help me to become the kind of friend that points others to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Life really is all about who you make the journey with. Read the ABC's of friendship below and make a plan to put each one into action this week.
Allow people to get close. Friendship requires taking a risk. Read Proverbs 18:24 (NLT) "There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother."
Become a great friend. Which way do you run in times of trouble? Read Proverbs 17:17a (NIV) "A friend loves at all times ..."
Celebrate your friends. Who do you need to celebrate this week? How will you celebrate their friendship? Read Philippians 1:3 (NLT) "Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God."
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September 8, 2011
I'm Believing God!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe" (Ephesians 1:18-19 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In Ephesians 1:13 we read: "And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him, with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit." We believed - past tense - and were saved, sealed, delivered...we're His! It was completed in the past, once and for all time.
Now let's read a little further down in Ephesians 1:18. "I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe." We received salvation when we believed (past tense). We have great power when we believe (present tense).
The Greek word for believe that is used in Ephesians 1:18 is a present active participle. That means it is a continuous action verb. Bible teacher Beth Moore explains: "In other words, the promise given in verses 19-20 is not applied to those 'having believed' as in verse 13 where they had believed to become Christians. Rather, it is applied to those who are presently, actively, and yes, continually believing God."
Maybe you believed in Jesus and experienced salvation. But do you believe the Word of God by faith and understand that you have the same power working in your life that raised Jesus from the dead? It is available to you...if you believe.
A sapling planted in the ground does not become more of a tree as it grows, it just becomes stronger and more mature. Writer Neil Anderson compares our spiritual growth to a tree: "The growth stage cannot alter the organism; it can only ensure that the organism reaches its greatest potential." As a tree's roots grow deeper it produces a greater display of leaves, more shade and beauty for others to enjoy, and stronger branches for tire swings and bird's nests, but it's still a tree. The moment you come to Christ, you are saved...you are a saint by calling with a whole new identity. There is nothing you can do to make your identity more true than at the very moment you accept Christ as your Savior, but there is much you can do to have more power in your life as you mature.
It begins by believing the truth. It is a step of faith. "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1). It is "acting like God tells the truth."
Are you ready to start practicing present tense believing today? Are you ready to experience God's power in your life! If you answered yes, then buckle up. God's power is about to be demonstrated in your life in a mighty way!
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, Thank You for giving me the gift of faith. Forgive me when I doubt You. Today, I am choosing to believe. Even if circumstances seem bleak, I know that You are who you say You are and You will do what You say You will do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are you believing God for today?
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September 9, 2011
Where is God?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The Lord is my light and the one who saves me. So why should I fear anyone? The Lord protects my life. So why should I be afraid? Evil people may try to destroy my body. My enemies and those who hate me attack me, but they are overwhelmed and defeated. If an army surrounds me, I will not be afraid. If war breaks out, I will trust the Lord (Psalm 27:1-3, NCV).
Friend to Friend
I remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when the phone rang and my husband said, "Honey, you need to turn on the television - right now." It was the middle of the day and I was busy cleaning house, doing laundry and trying to cram in an hour of study time, but the sadness and dread in my husband's voice stopped me in my tracks. Something was very wrong. Still, I was totally unprepared for the horrific scene that played out in vivid reality on the television screen before me. I stared in shock at the surreal images of two airplanes flying into the Twin Towers of the World Trade Center in New York City. Both towers collapsed - killing thousands of innocent people – and forever changing life as we know it.
Why bad things happen to good people is a question we have been asking since time began. I have been a Christ follower for many years. I am a Christian author and speaker and the wife of a pastor. Over the years, God has brought me out of more pits than I can count and I have literally attended church since the day I was born. My faith in God should be unwavering and I should never doubt or question Him or His plan. But sometimes I do.
You may be offended at my next statement, but if I am brutally honest, my faulty human mind and sin-tainted heart can almost - almost come to grips with such horrendous circumstances happening to someone who is evil and has turned their back on God. Bad things should happen to bad people and good things should happen to good people. Sounds logical and fair - right?
You and I both know that life is not fair and that our human logic is a shallow substitute for God's sovereignty. We are broken people living in a broken world. Bad things do happen to good people while those who mock God seem to prosper, and it's been that way for a long time. Take Job for example.
Job 1:8-12 "The LORD said to Satan, 'Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.' 'Does Job fear God for nothing?' Satan replied. 'Have you not put a hedge around him and his household and everything he has? You have blessed the work of his hands, so that his flocks and herds are spread throughout the land. But stretch out your hand and strike everything he has, and he will surely curse you to your face.' The LORD said to Satan, 'Very well, then, everything he has is in your hands, but on the man himself do not lay a finger.'"
Don't miss the important fact that God not only allowed Satan to test Job, but dictated how Satan could test him. Job went from having vast wealth to great poverty, losing everything he and his wife had, including their ten children. Job's wife urged her husband to turn away from and curse God and to forsake the very faith that had blessed her and Job for so long - but Job stood firm.
Job 1:20-21 "Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: 'Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.'"
Job was an extraordinary man, husband, father and leader who served God faithfully. His faithfulness to God in prosperity was a powerful testimony, but His faithfulness to God in the face of death, pain and despair was even more powerful. Did Job doubt and question God? Absolutely! Did Job openly and honestly grieve his loss and weep in his pain? Yes, but he remained faithful to God, even when he did not understand why God would let him endure such suffering and even when his heart and body was broken. God was pleased with Job and rewarded him for his faithfulness.
Job 42:11 "The LORD blessed the latter part of Job's life more than the first."
Storms come in all shapes and sizes. The lab report comes back malignant. The school calls, demanding that you pick up your child who has just been expelled. Your husband informs you that he no longer wants to be married to you. Your boss calls you into his office to let you know that you are being fired. Financial disaster seems certain while dependable friends seem to vanish. Yes, storms will come and bad things will happen – even to fully devoted followers of God. Where is God when the winds pick up and the churning waters pummel your rocking boat? God is where He has always been and always will be - in the midst of every stormy circumstance. Run into His waiting arms when you are afraid. Trust Him – even though you may not understand what is happening in your life. He is with you.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, celebrating the freedom that so many have given their lives to protect. I pray that we would remember and cherish their sacrifice. Lord, I am so sorry for doubting You when life is hard. Forgive me for questioning Your plan when it seems to make no sense. I want to be a woman of faith who trusts You no matter what happens. Help me cultivate the kind of faith Job had and strengthen me for every trial ahead. Take my heart and mind captive and make them Yours. Today, I choose faith over fear and trust over doubt.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back to a time when God allowed something to happen that you simply could not understand. His plan seemed illogical and undoable. You asked, "Why did this happen to me?"
Now look at where you are now. What good things have come out of that painful experience? What lessons did you learn from that difficult time? How have those lessons influenced your life today?
Read Isaiah 45:3. How does this powerful verse relate to the difficult times you are facing now or have faced in the past?
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3. God gave me that promise in the darkest days of my life and they are even more precious in the light.
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September 12, 2011
Don't Scratch That Itch!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me.' For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed" (James 1:13-14 NIV).
Friend To Friend
I once woke up with a spider bite that was the size of a quarter. It may as well have been the size of North Carolina for as much as it itched! I was half-tempted to scratch off my arm. That nasty bite was just begging to be scratched. However, I have learned a thing or two in my thirty-something years, and one thing I know for sure: it is best not to scratch this type of itch.
It would be like opening a bag of chips with the naive intention of eating only one (yeah, right!) I knew that if I started scratching my bug bite, it would be nearly impossible to stop. I would regret having ever started.
Super-itchy bug bites are a lot like temptations. Temptations are itchy! The call on us with urgent voices that scream, "Scratch me! Scratch me!" Yet, in all reality, a little scratch will not satisfy temptation's itch at all...it will just make matters worse. When we scratch the itch of temptation, the itch does not diminish. To the contrary, it increases.
The Bible teaches us that when we resist temptation, our faith is then mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened. Let's look at what that looked like for a guy named Joseph. (For the full account, pause here and read Genesis 39.)
Joseph was a man of integrity who did right in the eyes of the Lord, but he definitely faced some temptation! He was seduced by temptation in the form of his master's wife, Mrs. Potiphar. You see, Mrs. Potiphar wanted her husband's right-hand man to sleep with her, and she pursued him with aggression. Hers was a hand-delivered invitation for Joseph to sin that had itchy written all over it. But he flat-out refused. His heart was determined to honor God.
"My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" Though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her (Genesis 39:9-10).
Temptation chased Joseph relentlessly. Oh, how he must have longed for the itching to stop! To give in would be sinful. To give in was simply not an option for this young man of character. So on the day that Potiphar's wife caught him by the cloak and begged again for Joseph to sleep with her, Joseph ran out of the house. He ran from that tempting situation as fast as his legs would carry him.
God was honored in Joseph's response.
He ran from temptation.
We would be wise to do the same.
What do you need to run from today? Have you determined in your heart to honor God in everything? Temptation comes in all shapes and sizes. It might be calling your name from your pantry – or from your computer – or from a bottle - or from another cubicle in your office. What temptations do you face today? Name them and run the other way! Don't scratch that itch! Determine in your heart that you will choose the path that brings honor to God, and call on Him for strength.
I realize that dealing with temptation is not easy. When that nasty spider bit my arm, I struggled not to scratch the bite. I had to re-direct my thinking to persevere through the temptation. When we come face to face with temptations, God's strength is always available to us. We need God's strength. Ours will fail us. Friend, when we resist temptation, we get to experience the peace and protection of God, our faith is mobilized and the muscles of our character are strengthened.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need You so much. I constantly find myself being dragged away and enticed by temptation. Please give me strength to run the other way, and give me the wisdom to run to Your arms. I want to be a woman of godly character. Help me be that woman!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Contemplate the following questions: What have you been dragged away and enticed by in the past? How did you respond? How have you grown from those experiences?
Though our sovereign God allows trials to enter our lives, He does not ever tempt us. (James 1) Tuck that truth in your heart today, and the next time you experience a temptation – great or small – recognize that the enemy is behind the allure. Then tell him to get behind you and pray that Jesus will re-direct your thinking.
Read and memorize Psalm 105:4: "Look to the LORD and His strength; seek His face always."
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I wish my temptations were always as simple as the itch of a pesky little bug bite! But, of course, they are not. Each of us will encounter some real whoppers in our lives. James chapter one tells us that when we persevere through trials and temptations, one rewards is maturity. That really encourages me! I hope it encourages you as well.
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September 13, 2011
Sit Down and Be Quiet
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish" (John 6:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever noticed this pattern in the gospels – the disciples get in a bind and Jesus bails them out. It reminds me of the old fifties program, Father Knows Best. The kids got in trouble, the father solved the problem and then he taught us all an important life lesson at the end. Come to think of it, "Father Knows Best" would be a fabulous subtitle for the gospels!
In John 6:1-15, we find the disciples in a precarious situation. Their lawn party had turned into quite a bash. The guests far exceeded their expectations, the disciples hadn't planned on providing dinner, and it appeared the crowd was expecting refreshments. But the disciples didn't have the funds or the food to feed them. All they could scrounge up were five loaves of bread and two dried fish. The crowd was getting restless, the disciples were getting nervous, and Jesus was getting ready. He took the five loaves and two fish and told the crowd to sit down – he told them to rest.
Then He lifted the food toward heaven, blessed it, and commanded the disciples to hand out the provisions to those who were seated. He didn't feed the people who were running around worrying – but the ones who were at rest. To those He gave "immeasurably more than they could ask or imagine" (see Ephesians 3:20), with twelve baskets left over.
When we believe God, we will have rest and peace in our lives. I want you to do something for me. Right now, I want you to use your imagination. The Bible tells us in Ephesians that we are "in Christ" and Christ is "in us." It also tells us that we are seated "in heavenly places" and "transferred to the kingdom of Christ." Picture yourself sitting right beside Jesus under a spreading oak tree. Perhaps His arm is around your shoulder and your head is resting on his chest. You can feel the beating of His heart against your cheek and your head moves with the rise and fall of His breathing. With His other hand, He strokes your head and immediately knows how many hairs are on your head. His breath warms your skin as it brushes past your face. Imagine Him looking into your eyes and knowing your innermost being and meeting your gaze with a warm, affirming smile reassuring you of His love and care.
Now tell me, as you imagine yourself in the presence of Jesus, how anxious do you feel? How rejected do you feel? How worried about tomorrow are you?
You may be thinking, "Yes, Sharon. I feel at peace in that scene. But that's not reality." Dear sister, that is the greater reality. No matter what you are going through today, Jesus is right there with you. So maybe you just need to sit down and be quiet for a while.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I'll admit, sometimes I am so busy running around trying to solve my problems, I miss Your provision. Help me to listen to You more closely and see Your provision more clearly. I don't want to miss what You have for me today. Help me to sit down and be quiet – to rest in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is it difficult for you to sit down and be quiet with Jesus?
What keeps you from taking time to be still before Him?
Today, take at least ten minutes to be still with Jesus. No multi-tasking. Don't do this while driving the car or washing the dishes. Just you and Jesus. Give Him your full attention.
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September 14, 2011
Greed is Contagious
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Tell those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which will soon be gone. But their trust should be in the living God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. Tell them to use their money to do good. They should be rich in good works and should give generously to those in need; always being ready to share with others whatever God has given them. By doing this they will be storing up their treasure as a good foundation for the future so that they may take hold of real life" (1 Timothy 6:17-19, NLT).
Friend to Friend
It was a holiday weekend and I was determined to find the best sale in town – so I headed to the mall. Evidently, everyone else had the same idea because the mall parking lot was crammed full. Horns were honking. People were racing into various entrances, an anxious look on their faces. I wanted to cruise the mall, roll down my window and shout, "Seriously? It is only a sale, people!" As I drove on, I thought about the harried scene I had just witnessed and my thoughts turned to the ugly subject of greed. Greed is contagious. If we spend time with people who are prone to jealousy and greed, it will be easier for us to be jealous and greedy as well.
When anyone in my house gets sick, they know what is coming. War! I immediately launch an all-out battle against sickness and germs. I head to the store in order to stock up on necessary supplies. The list is usually the same; juice, soup, crackers, yogurt, throat lozenges, tissues, cold medicine and last, but certainly not least, several cans of Lysol. I then implement my battle plan. The "sickie" is confined to their quarters. They are allotted one bathroom, one sofa and one bedroom for the duration of their illness. The ailing one is not to enter any other area of the barracks ... uh, house ... without my permission. I then go room to room; spraying every surface that they may have touched or even thought about touching. While the patient is allowed to continue breathing, I tend to follow the feeble one around, spraying the air that borders those breaths. This procedure continues until the patient is completely well. I know. I am obnoxious but I am also successful more times than not. I do not want to catch their disease and feel it is my personal responsibility to quarantine the sick ones in order to halt the progression of the illness.
Greed is a noxious disease, one that demands immediate and fierce spiritual quarantine. We must be careful that we do not catch the spirit of greed and steer clear of those people who are carriers of this deadly disease.
Greed is an inside job, invading our thoughts and then taking up residence in a discontented heart as it opens the door for other deadly sins. Proverbs 4:23 issues a clear warning when it says: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do" (NLT). Greed and honesty cannot exist in the same heart and God wants us to give with an honest heart.
"I know, my God, that you test people's hearts. You are happy when people do what is right. I was happy to give all these things. I gave with an honest heart" (1 Chronicles 29:17, NCV).
In this verse "honest" literally means "with integrity." To give with integrity is to give the right thing at the right time, to the right person for the right reason. The reason for giving should always originate in love - God's love - a love that has been given to us in order for us to give it away in His name. The circle of giving is a circle of love and it all started with God when He gave His one and only Son, Jesus Christ.
We are loved, so we give love and because we give love, we receive more love. Matthew 7:2 says "the amount you give to others will be given to you" (NCV). Luke 6:38 offers a clear picture of God's giving plan. "Give and you will receive. You will be given much. Pressed down, shaken together, and running over, it will spill into your lap.The way you give to others is the way God will give to you" (NCV). What and how we give determines what and how much we receive.
We simply cannot out-give God! I have heard it said that the Lord loves a cheerful giver but that He will even accept it from a grouch. I have also heard it said that plenty of people are willing to give God credit but few are willing to give Him cash. The truth is that the Father looks past the gift and examines the heart behind the gift. The motive of the heart determines the acceptability of the gift.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart and life are so often filled with greed and discontent. Right now, I choose to take my eyes off of "things" and focus on what You want for my life. Thank You for all that You have given to me and for what You have done in my heart. I praise You, knowing that in You I have everything I need. Please teach me how to give in a way that pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read and meditate on Paul's words in Philippians 4:12-13: "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." What impact do these verses have on an attitude of greed?
We need to understand that greed will destroy our peace and contentment. Examine your life, asking the Holy Spirit to reveal every area of greed. Confess your greed as sin and choose against it while looking for ways to practice "Kingdom" giving. Ask yourself the following questions:
What areas of my life are most affected by greed?
What are my idols?
What "things" or "desires" do I need to give up so that greed will have no grip on my life?
What specific ways can I begin to practice "Kingdom" giving?
What is the first step I should take in order to guard against greed?
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September 15, 2011
Priceless Pigs
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you..." (Ephesians 1:18 NIV)
Friend to Friend
An African tribe viewed a film about the life of Jesus, The Jesus Film, in their own heart language. As a follow-up, another ministry, Faith Comes by Hearing, provided the tribe with a contraption called a "recorder." Most of the world can neither read nor write, so the recorder allows the tribal people to be discipled by listening to the New Testament in their own native tongue. It runs off of solar power and will play the New Testament 1,000 times. (For more on these two incredible ministries see www.jesusfilm.org and www.faithcomesbyhearing.com)
A group of listeners gather round to listen to the story of Jesus healing a demon-possessed man recorded in Luke chapter 8.
They (Jesus and his disciples) sailed to the region of the Gerasenes,which is across the lake from Galilee. When Jesus stepped ashore, he was met by a demon-possessed man from the town. For a long time this man had not worn clothes or lived in a house, but had lived in the tombs. When he saw Jesus, he cried out and fell at his feet, shouting at the top of his voice, "What do you want with me, Jesus, Son of the Most High God? I beg you, don't torture me!" For Jesus had commanded the evil spirit to come out of the man. Many times it had seized him, and though he was chained hand and foot and kept under guard, he had broken his chains and had been driven by the demon into solitary places...
Jesus demanded the demons to come out of the man and cast into a herd of nearby pigs. Then the pigs rushed down a steep hillside and into a lake and drowned.
The tribal community was stunned as they listened to this story. They knew the value of one pig, much less an entire herd.
"Why would Jesus do that?" they asked. "Why would He allow their entire source of income to be destroyed?"
Many questions stirred among the group. Then the wise chief spoke. "Perhaps Jesus is showing us that one human soul is worth more than an entire tribe's economy," he said.
I was silenced by his answer. That passage had been quite mysterious to me for many years. But God revealed this powerful truth to one little African chief hearing the story for the very first time. The chief understood just how valuable we are to God.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for revealing Your truth to the babes in Christ when so many of the studied miss it. Open my eyes to see and your truth, rather than become satisfied with predigested truth from the many teachers around me. Help me to be as this tiny tribe, and listen in awe as if I were hearing the gospel for the very first time. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I'm wondering, in light of our economic situation, do the words of the chief stir you as much as they do me?
In light of the chief's words, do you spend more time being concerned with the souls of mankind or money? Which consume most of your prayer time?
Let's chat. Tell me one reason you know that you are valuable to God at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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September 16, 2011
"When There Is Nothing There"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Go and look toward the sea," he told his servant. And he went up and looked. "There is nothing there," he said. Seven times Elijah said, "Go back." The seventh time the servant reported, "A cloud as small as a man's hand is rising from the sea." (1 Kings 18:43-44, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I have a Christian girlfriend who is caught between faith and a hard place. Though she is a committed Christ-follower she struggles to believe God's promises and feels helpless to the circumstances of her trial. She prays – but wonders if God no longer listens to her. She daily looks for the light at the end of the trial-tunnel, yet sees none.
Have you been there? Are you, or is someone you love, there now? God's ways and timing are mysterious – no doubt. At times, His ways can even seem frustrating. But He is good. He graciously provides strength and hope when we call on Him... but waiting on God can be such a difficult spiritual discipline.
Time and time again in Scripture we are shown beautiful pictures of God's faithfulness to those who wait on Him and call on Him. Snapshots of God's faithfulness displayed in the life of Elijah are simply fascinating. (Pause to read chapters 17 and 18 of 1 Kings now.) Elijah was the most dramatic and famous of all Israel's prophets. God worked in and through him powerfully and miraculously, but even Elijah went through seasons of waiting and wondering – just like my friend. Just like each of us.
For years, Ahab (king of Israel) and his wife, Jezebel, had done evil in the eyes of the Lord. They worshiped Baal – an idol – instead of the one true God, which provoked the Lord to anger. Then God called Elijah to the scene. Elijah told Ahab, "As the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, whom I serve, there will be neither dew nor rain in the next few years except at my word." (1 Kings 17:1) As you can imagine, Ahab wasn't too happy about that 'word' and, in his fury, he wanted Elijah dead. God had other plans though. He directed and protected Elijah and provided for all his needs throughout the time of the drought.
In the third year, the Lord sent Elijah back to king Ahab, and a showdown of showdowns went down on Mount Carmel. Like a celestial boxing match with Baal and his false prophets in one corner and God and Elijah in the other, a battle began. The prophets of Baal took the first swing. They made a sacrifice to their god and cried out to him for hours to consume their offering with fire. Baal was silent and unresponsive because he was not real. Duh.
Elijah knew he served a powerful, living, and responsive God, so he advanced to the center of the ring and took his swings with confidence. He repaired the altar of God, prepared the sacrifice, and then prayed for God to reveal His deity by consuming the offering. God flexed His divine muscles and answered Elijah's prayers instantly with an all-consuming fire. Knock out!
After the showdown was over, God told Elijah to deliver a new message to King Ahab. "And Elijah said to Ahab, "Go, eat and drink, for there I the sound of a heavy rain." (1 Kings 18:41) So Ahab went to eat and Elijah went up to the top of Mount Carmel to look for evidence of God's rain-miracle.
"Go and look toward the sea," he told his servant. And he went up and looked.
"There is nothing there," he said.
Seven times Elijah said, "Go back."
The seventh time the servant reported, "A cloud as small as a man's hand is rising from the sea." (1 Kings 18:43-44)
What struck me as I studied this passage is the fact that Elijah didn't get his miracle right away this time. Could God have opened up the sky and poured out a storm immediately? You bet. Did He? No. Elijah had to wait. His servant had to look for the miracle...and look...and look...and look. Seven times.
Hallelujah! You and I aren't the only ones who have to wait, friend!! God's will is God's will. It bends for no man. Yet ours can bend to His and, as a result, we will find strength and peace – even in the waiting.
"Meanwhile, the sky grew black with clouds, the wind rose, a heavy rain came on..." (1 Kings 18:45a)
God moved. Once again, He was faithful. He can be no other way.
Now think about this. God used Elijah in really big ways. Elijah spoke on God's behalf, was God's front-line man in raising a dead child back to life in order to bless a widowed mother, and he was the lead character in a miraculous God-show that brought fire from heaven... consuming an offering and connecting the hearts of wandering people back to the heart of God. We're talking big God-stuff! Yet even Elijah experienced difficult situations and was forced to wait on God.
When discouragement sets in and you feel unheard – when you are forced to wait on God – when you find yourself caught between faith and a hard place – when there is nothing there... no evidence of God's miracle on the horizon – remember that God is faithful, powerful, and responsive. He has seen you through trials in the past and He will see you through trials in the future. Even in the challenges you face now, you are seen, you are heard, and He is able. "Look to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always." (Psalm 105:4)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I worship You, the One, true God! You are mighty and powerful; full of never-ending compassion and love. Please help me to see you when I face trials and to trust Your heart when circumstances discourage me."
In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write this verse out: "Look to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always." (Psalm 105:4) Keep it handy. Read it out loud. Memorize it.
Is there someone in your life who is in a period of waiting? Do something to encourage them today. If she is in a financial bind, consider writing a note and sending it with a gift card. If she is struggling with a strained marriage, a complicated job frustration, or a difficult parenting situation, reach out to her. Pray for her. If you know a single mom, consider helping her with her children. Allow God to encourage someone through you today.
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September 19, 2011
Do it now!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
To one who knows the right thing to do, and does not do it, to him, it is sin (James 4:17, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Procrastination is one of the greatest sources of stress in life. I once heard a preacher tell the old story of three demons who were arguing over the best way to destroy the Christian movement. The first demon had it all figured out. "Let's tell all the Christians that there is no heaven. If we take away the reward incentive, their movement will collapse." The second demon responded with, "No, I have a better idea. Let's tell all of the Christians that there really is no hell. If we take away their fear of punishment, their movement will collapse." The third demon offered, "Both of those are great ideas, but there is a better way. Let's tell all the Christians that there is no hurry." The other demons applauded in delight! "That's it!" they said. "Our best weapon of all is procrastination."
Procrastination is understandable and normal – humanly speaking – but procrastination is not part of God's best plan for our lives. We don't often view procrastination as sin, but it is. Sin is not merely doing wrong. It is failing to do what you know you should do – when you know you should do it. Knowledge equals responsibility. Procrastination and disobedience are just opposite sides of the same coin.
Sin usually brings pleasure for at least the moment. If you are on a diet and want to have just one bite of a chocolate candy bar – but end up eating three chocolate candy bars – it is because you wanted more of that chocolate pleasure and simply could not make yourself stop at one bite – right? Or maybe you go shopping with a set amount you can spend on a new pair of shoes and end up buying three pairs of shoes only to realize that you need a dress to go with them, and a new purse to go with the dress, and new jewelry to match the shoes, purse and dress and ... well, you get the idea. It is easy to understand how we get caught up in sins like gluttony, lust and greed because they all bring momentary pleasure.
Procrastination is different in that it helps us avoid doing the things we don't want to do – the tasks that require personal discipline and a commitment to godly goals. Wasting time often creates a restless feeling that produces a sense of failure. When the deadline we were supposed to meet has come and gone or the dreaded task we keep putting off spirals out of control – guilt sets in. We try to rationalize it away when the simple truth is that we have sinned.
The key to dealing with procrastination begins with a commitment to obey God and exercise His wisdom. Joyce Meyer once said, "Wisdom always chooses to do now what it will be satisfied with later on." We can choose to be led by wisdom rather than our momentary feelings. We can choose to make right choices. We can learn to be good stewards of the time God has given us.
I once attended a leadership conference that changed my life in many ways. The speakers did not talk about money or success. They focused on the fact that God created each one of us in response to His unique plan for our lives. One of the simplest but most powerful mottos I came away from that conference with was: "Do it now!" Do you realize that it takes as much energy to avoid a task as it does to do it? Procrastination drains energy while action produces energy. God empowers us to do what He calls us to do.
Matthew 6:33 (NCV) "The thing you should want most is God's kingdom and doing what God wants. Then all these other things you need will be given to you."
Truth is for now. God is not impressed with good intentions. Obedience today is the greatest preparation for every tomorrow. So do what you know to do today! The Proverbs 31 woman did. In fact, Scripture tells us she could "laugh at the days to come" (Proverbs 31:25). In other words, this woman fully lived in the present but carefully planned and prepared for the future. Proverbs 31:19 indicates that she made thread with her hands and weaved her own cloth: "In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers." Notice she only made thread and cloth – not the finished product of clothes. That was a task for the future. She was simply getting ready today to meet the needs of tomorrow. The result was a life filled with hope and lived out in purpose.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for putting off what I know You want me to do. Help me to be more disciplined with my time. Teach me how to find and live by Your priorities for my life. I want to do what You created me to do, Lord. Show me how to live a life of power and purpose.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Procrastination is really about loving self and pleasing self above others. Romans 12:10 tells us that we should love each other deeply and honor others more than ourselves. The moments God give us really do matter now and eternally. We are responsible for how we spend them. Each moment in time represents an eternal opportunity. Evaluate your life in light of these truths. How well do you invest your time? What one change can you make this week to overcome procrastination? Ask a friend or family member to hold you accountable to make that change.
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September 20, 2011
Battered and Bruised
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7NIV).
Friend to Friend
The speaker came out onto the stage. He pulled out a one-hundred dollar bill.
"Who would like this one-hundred dollar bill?" he asked.
Hands shot up all around the room.
Then he crumpled the paper, threw it on the floor and ground the dirt into it with his foot. Holding up the dirty, crumpled and tattered money, he then asked, "Now, who wants this one-hundred dollar bill?"
The same hands went into the air.
"And that is why God still wants you," he continued. "You may be battered and bruised. You may be tattered and torn. You may be crumpled and creased. But that does not change your value to God any more than what I have done changes the value of this one-hundred dollar bill. You are still precious and valuable to the God who chose you, redeemed you, and loves you as His own."
"He knows how we are formed; he remembers that we are dust" (Psalm 103:14). God understands that we are fatally flawed creatures, yet deems us immeasurably valuable no matter how crumpled and soiled we are.
Paul wrote to the Corinthians, "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7). In Paul's day, it was customary to store treasure in clay jars. The common container disguised its contents and didn't draw attention to the treasure within. You and I might not look like much on the outside. We may appear as common as jars of clay, but inside are hidden incredible treasures. Inside these old cracked pots reside the most incredible treasure of all...Jesus Christ. And that makes us valuable.
In Louisa May Alcott's book,Little Women, she includes a conversation from Mrs. March to her three girls, Meg, Jo, and Amy. "I only care what you think of yourself. If you feel your value lies in being merely decorative, I fear that someday you might find yourself believing that's all you really are. Time erodes all such beauty. But what it cannot diminish is the wonderful workings of your mind – your humor, your kindness, and your moral courage. These are things I so cherish in you."
Our culture places an ungodly amount of significance on a woman's appearance. Outward trappings of appearance are simply that...trappings. But God sees us as simple jars of clay containing valuable treasure...and that makes us beautiful to Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, even though I am battered and bruised, I know that I am still valuable to You. Thank You for loving me so much that You sent Your Son, Jesus, to die for my sins. Thank You for making a way for me to have eternal life through Jesus' sacrifice. Thank You for seeing me as Your priceless treasure.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Don't you love the teacher's illustration of the crumpled dollar bill? Today, consider using that illustration with a friend or a child who feels knocked down by life.
Did the illustration touch you in a particular way? If so, I'd love to hear about it. You can share your thoughts on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves.If you feel battered and bruised by life, if you have been believing lies that you are worthless, then join Sharon in learning to see yourself as God sees you – a valuable treasure –as a chosen, dearly loved child of the King.
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September 21, 2011
Put that burden down!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Then Jesus said, Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Our air conditioner was just not getting the job done. It only partially cooled the house, running night and day, doubling our already exorbitant electric bill. I called John, our friendly air conditioning repairman, with a desperate plea for help. When he came to the house, the first thing he did was remove the filter from the vent. It was filthy, completely covered by some nasty gray gunk! Changing the air filter had never been one of my top priorities, as evidenced by the dirt and hair-caked object in front of me.
With a disapproving scowl wrinkling his weathered face, John continued working, muttering under his breath. I pretended not to hear. He then removed the coil which proved to be the last straw for him. With a sigh of exasperation, John dramatically thrust the offensive coil in front of my face, pointed at the almost unrecognizable object and asked, "What is this?" My response was classic. "John, how am I supposed to know what that is? You're the air conditioning expert." He did not think the comment was funny.
In an attempt to avoid his scathing glare, I stepped forward and began to closely examine the obviously faulty coil. It was covered with layers of dog hair, compliments of our West Highland terrier and Australian cattle dog; cat hair, compliments of Sassy, Chocolate and Tiger; and dust, compliments of me!
John then proceeded to chastise me for not changing the filter more often and ended his discourse with an ominous explanation, "Mrs. Southerland, this unit was never meant to work under this kind of load. It's working as hard as it can, but it's not strong enough to do something it was never intended to do." John then replaced the air filter, cleaned out the coil along with our bank account, and left the scene of the crime. The electric bill went back down, the house was cooler than it had been in months, and the unit worked like it was supposed to work. I forgave him and learned a thing or two about burdens.
We come to Jesus, asking and trusting Him to save us from the eternal burden of sin, but we find it hard to believe that He can and will carry the burdens we deal with every day. We forget that He is our Shepherd and we are His sheep, totally dependent upon Him for every need – big and small.
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters (Psalm 23:1-2).
Notice the words "makes me lie down." They are not a suggestion. The word used in this verse is "rabas," a Hebrew command meaning to rest; lay something down; to lay down in rest - securely and safely. God is commanding us to lay down our burdens and spiritually rest our souls in Him. It is important to note that the place of rest to which Jesus is referring - the Judean landscape - is not naturally a place I would describe as restful or replenishing. It is dry, parched, and sandy. A shepherd has to spend a great deal of time working the land; tilling it, cultivating it and planting it in order to grow the young, tender, green shoots of grass the sheep like best. The sheep graze on the finished work of the shepherd. The Shepherd of our souls wants us to rest in His finished work on the cross. If Jesus can save us, He can certainly handle every burden we will ever have. We simply have to make the choice to release each burden to Him.
Some days are harder than others. There are so many things that can get us down. Long hours at work, difficult relationships, financial difficulties, medical conditions, emotional stress and family responsibilities are just a few of burdens we tend to carry.
Then Jesus said, Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28, NASB).
In Matthew 11:28, the word "rest" literally means "tranquility in the midst of labor." The implication is to be still before Him and choose to release each burden to Him. How? When the kids are screaming and on your last nerve, put on some praise music and dance your stress away. Meditate on His Word when you are confused and afraid. Pray as you do the laundry. List your blessings as you clean house. Look for His hand in every part of every circumstance. Our Father does not intend for us to carry the burdens He alone can shoulder.
Jesus understands the burdens we carry. During His time on earth, Jesus healed the sick and set the captives free. He established the Church, sent the Holy Spirit to teach us and took His rightful place at the right hand of the Father. The church works on His behalf to help us. The Holy Spirit indwells us in order to guide and comfort us and Jesus Himself intercedes for us with the Father. So when Jesus said "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest," He really meant it.
What burden do you have? What is weighing you down? Bring it to Jesus. He will comfort and guide you. He will give you rest. Right now, in the midst of that worry or issue or concern, the God of the universe is asking you to turn it over to Him. Let Him work it out in His timing and His perfect way.
Let's Pray
Lord, I bring my burdens to You, knowing that I can do nothing apart from You and Your power. You know my situation. It is not a surprise to You, Lord. Please fill my heart with Your peace and comfort my soul. Guide me, Father. Give me strength. I give You my burdens; please give me Your rest.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Matthew 11:28. Record it in your journal. Identity the areas in your life in which you need peace and rest.
Make a list of burdens that you will lay down at His feet and leave there. When you are tempted to pick up one of those burdens, choose instead to meditate on and walk in the truths of Psalm 23, trusting your Shepherd every step of the way.
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September 22, 2011
Exchanging the Old for the New
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit" (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Julianna came out of the womb ready to meet every challenge with determination, every celebration with enthusiasm, and every mystery with the passion of discovery. Her fiery red hair was matched only by her fiery personality. She never did anything half-way, but with the throttle full speed ahead. Of the Price's three children, Julianna was the one who frequented the emergency room for stitches due to throwing caution to the wind as she whirled through her childhood.
One day when Julianna was twelve years old, she rushed out her front door on her way to dance class. She slammed the door behind her as she hurried to catch her ride, but the door closed before all of her fingers followed her body across the threshold. Now you have probably have slammed your fingers in a door a time or two, and can remember wincing a bit. But Julianna never does anything half-way. She jerked to a sudden halt, spun around quickly, and saw her appendages trapped in the closed door. When she opened the door to remove her hand, she was horrified to discover that all of it was not there. She had amputated the upper third of her second right finger.
"Help! Somebody help me! I've just cut off my finger!"
Fortunately, the woman picking her up for dance class was a nurse. She rushed to the screaming ballerina. "Julianna, where's your mom?" she asked.
"She's not here," Julianna answered between sobs. "Nobody's here but Daniel."
"Quick," the neighbor instructed, "Let's put some pressure on that nub. Daniel, come help us!" she yelled.
Daniel, Julianna's fifteen-year-old brother, ran down the stairs at the cry for help.
"Julianna's just cut her finger off. You have to find it. We've got to put it in ice and take her to the hospital right away."
A pale-faced Daniel went to the scene of the accident. As he hung his head, he saw the finger lying at his feet. Trying not to lose his breakfast, Daniel picked up his sister's digit in a towel and handed it over to the nurse.
Well the good news is that they got to the hospital in time. The skilled doctor put Humpty-Dumpty back together again and told them to pray that the finger would reattach.
"We'll keep our fingers crossed," he said with a grin as he walked out of the treatment room.
A few days later Julianna unwrapped the bandages, afraid of what she might find underneath. What she saw was not a pretty sight. Instead of a finger, she saw a black mushroom-like thimble sitting atop her nub.
"Doctor, we took the bandage off today. It's black and crusty and looks like a mushroom cap," her mom reported. "It looks dead."
"That's fine," he reassured her. "Don't worry. If nature is working properly, and it sounds like it is, the top will turn black, but underneath, nerves and blood vessels are reattaching. Underneath the thimble, a new finger is forming. She needs the old part in order for the new part to form underneath. In about three weeks, we'll know if the procedure worked. Just keep it wrapped and clean."
A few weeks after the accident, Julianna came to spend the night with us while she was attending a dance camp in my hometown. I had the pleasure of her company and the displeasure of changing her bandage. Her description was accurate.
Four weeks after Julianna had returned home, she wrote me a thank-you note for having her in our home. She ended by saying, "P.S. Guess what? My crusty thimble fell off and I have a new finger!"
Now don't ask me how this happened. It is a mystery to me. But scripture tells of another mystery that is just as amazing. Another grafting process that is just as miraculous. When God warned Adam and Eve not to eat of fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, He told them that their punishment for disobedience would be death. They did eat - and immediately their spirits died- their zoe life was taken away and they were cut off from God. As a result, every person after that time has been born with a dead spirit, including you and me.
But God didn't leave us that way. God demonstrated His love toward us, that while we were still a sinner (cut off, dead, rotten to the core), Christ died for us and made it possible for us to be grafted onto the living root – Himself (Romans 5:8, Romans 11:17). At the very moment we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior, we receive a new living spirit (zoe life) to replace our old dead spirit. In the twinkling of an eye - in the time it takes for us to say, "I believe," we become a spiritually new creation. However, God's process of shaping and molding us into the image of Christ, takes a lifetime. That process is how to become spiritually beautiful.
Paul tells us: "And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit" (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV). Reflecting the Lord's glory! I know of no other beauty treatment that will make a woman truly beautiful.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know I became a new creation in Christ when I became a Christian. But sometimes, I just feel like the same old me. Please help me to become more conformed to the image of Christ today. Take away whatever needs to be taken away to reveal the beauty of You that is in my heart. Help me to be spiritually beautiful today and always.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you describe "spiritual beauty?"
Who do you know that exemplifies what "spiritual beauty" looks and acts like?
What do you think makes that person reflect the beauty of Christ?
I'd love to hear your responses. Let's chat. Go to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me what you think makes a woman spiritually beautiful!
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September 23, 2011
Be Still
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Be still and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10a).
Friend to Friend
There was a crisp chill slipping through the window as I headed to the couch to get with God before rushing into my day. I filled up my coffee mug, lit a cinnamon bun scented jar candle and nestled into my corner spot. Before I could get comfortable, however, I realized that the combination of the morning breeze and the ceiling fan were a bit much for my shorts-clad legs. I jumped up from the couch and turned the ceiling fan off ... for possibly the first time in five or six months.
As I got back into my comfy prayer corner, I looked up at the fan, now still, and drew a deep breath of surprise. Dirt! All over the blades of my ceiling fan! And when I say that I saw dirt, let me tell you, it wasn't just a smidgeon ... it was a good amount of dirt. Yuck. When did that happen? How did it get there? Note to self: clean fan today.
I brought my Bible and prayer journal to my lap, ready to talk to God and seek His direction for the day, but before I could even lift my pen and open the Word, I heard a soul whisper, "Be still."
"I'm here, Lord! Ready to talk. Ready to pray," my heart responded.
Again...the whisper, "Be still."
"Like the fan, LORD?" I wondered?
Then it hit me: when I slow my soul to still and listen quietly, God gently shows me the dirt on the blades of my heart. You see, I'm an action girl. I love to move and chat and go, go, go. Dust doesn't settle on my days – but – as God reminded me, dirt sure can settle on my heart.
I nod knowingly. "It's Your kindness that leads me to repentance, oh Lord." (Romans 2:4)
When I slow to still and know that He is God, I am face to face with His holiness. In light of His holiness, my wretchedness is revealed. His love and kindness brings revelation that causes my heart to ache for restoration. So I confess. I confess my mess. My heart dirt. And His mercy runs. Before the confessions leave my tongue, the blades of my heart are sparkling. Wiped clean with the righteousness of Grace. Beautiful, far-reaching grace.
"For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to give strong support to thosewhose heart is blameless toward him" (2 Chronicles 16:9, ESV).
This grace is for every one of us – and it begins and ends with Jesus Christ. It's for me. It's for you. Whether you are at work, at home, at the hospital or in a jail cell. He's whispering, "Be still." Whether you are struggling with life strains or are in a season of reprieve. "Be still." Whether you have a house full of crazy noise or an apartment filled with ordered quiet. "Be still." Whether the diagnosis is cancer, the sting of betrayal is fresh, the Hope you cling to resounds, or you are weary and unsettled. "Be still." Know that He is God. Know that He is good. He is in control. He loves you. He is able. He is holy. He is worthy. Oh, so worthy.
Then, in the stillness ... respond.
O Lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I'm far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you,
and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
(Psalm 139:1-6, 23-24, NLT)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm here. I'm still. Please reveal my heart dirt. (Pause to listen and reflect.) I confess these sins to You ________________ and I ask that you remove them as far as the east is from the west. Thanks for capturing me with Your grace once again. Help me to know and love You more today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
· Read Psalm 139 in its entirety. Pray responsively or journal about the inescapable presence of God.
· Be still before Him.
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September 26, 2011
Never Forget
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will remember the deeds of the LORD; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago" (Psalm 77:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes it is easy to read about Adam and Eve's failure in the garden and think to ourselves, How could they have been so disobedient? But in reality, this is not Adam and Eve's story alone. It is our story as well. We make decisions daily that dishonor God or honor God. We disobey, take charge of our own lives, and become Lord of our own ring. Then like Eve, we try to cover up our shame and even attempt to hide from God.
Do you know the first question God asked in the Bible? After Adam and Eve cowered in the bushes, hiding from God, He asked – Where are you? God knew exactly where they were, what they had done, and how the enemy had tricked them. However, He decided to remain in relationship with them and begin the process of restoration which was completed on Calvary's cross. He asks the same question of us today when we attempt to hide...Where are you?
I think "but God" are two of most beautiful words in Scripture. The Bible says, "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). When did we become sinners? The first time we sinned? No, we were born sinners and that sin is what separated us from God. While we were yet sinners, He became the perfect sacrifice for us, not to cover our sin, but to cleanse us forever – once and for all. Salvation Army Officer, John Allen once said, "I deserved to be damned in hell, but God interfered." God interfered, intervened, and intercepted our death sentence. He sent His Son, who paid the penalty for our sin and all we have to do to receive the pardon is to accept His wonderful gift.
How do we receive the gift? "If you confess with your mouth 'Jesus as Lord' and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). When you accept Jesus Christ as your own personal Savior, you are freed from the penalty of sin (spiritual death and eternal separation from God) and He gives you a new living spirit. Someone once said, "Salvation is moving from living death to deathless life."
"All this is from God who reconciled us [joined us back together] to himself through Christ" (2 Corinthians 5:18 AMP). Once there was a Christian group who sang a song with a line that said, "There's a bridge to cross the great divide." However, when they were recording, someone sang, "There's a cross to bridge the great divide." Suddenly, they realized that they had not made a mistake at all. We were separated from God because of sin, but He sent His Son to die on Calvary's cross to bridge the great divide.
Why did God do this for us? "For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV). The Greeks had three words for life: bios (life of the body), psyche (life of the soul), and zoe (life of the spirit). Guess which word for life is in John 3:16? Zoe – life of the spirit! When you become a Christian, your spirit is reborn and you become a brand new creation. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV). We were crucified with Christ and now we no longer live, but Christ lives in us (Galatians 5:20 NIV).
What about those glaring needs that cropped up as a result of Adam and Eve's sin in the garden? What about feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy that so many struggle with today? Here's what the Bible says: "So then as through one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men, even so, through one act of righteousness, there resulted justification of life to all men" (Romans 5:18,19 NASB). All were condemned because of Adam's disobedience and all who accept Jesus are freed because of Christ's obedience. At the moment of your salvation, everything mankind lost when Adam and Eve sinned in the garden was returned to you in Jesus Christ. Once again you have:
Significance because of who you are in Christ.
Safety and Security because of what you have in Christ.
A sense of belonging because of where you are in Christ.
Your glaring needs have been fulfilled and transformed into your glowing attributes. The question is, why don't we act like our needs have been fulfilled? Why do we continue to struggle with feelings of shame, fear, loneliness, and rejection? Why do we continue to try to get our needs met by our own means? Because even though our spirits are changed in an instant, our minds must be renewed, our wills must come under the control of the Holy Spirit, and our emotions must be reprogrammed.
It's a process...and that's why Girlfriends in God even exists. We are learning, growing, and reprogramming our minds together. And as we do, we grow more and more spiritually beautiful every day.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, all through the Old Testament, the patriarchs told the Israelites to "remember." Today I stop and remember all that You have done for me. I remember what I was like before I came to Christ and I remember all that You have done to bring me to Yourself. Thank you, Father. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Holy Spirit. May the remembrance of Your mercies be new every morning.
In Jesus' mame,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Sometimes, when you have been a Christian for many years, you forget just how amazing the gift of salvation really is. Today, I'm not going to ask you any questions, but I do want you to go back and reflect on the verses in this devotion. Write out your own prayer of gratitude for all that God has done to bridge the great divide that separated you from Him.
As always, I love to hear from my Girlfriends in God. You can visit my blog (www.sharonjaynes.com/blog) or Facebook (www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.com) to share your comments.
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Have you ever felt this way: "If I'm a new creation, then why don't I feel like one and why don't I act like one?" If so, then perhaps you need to read Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful – Seeing Yourself as God Sees You. In this book you'll discover the secrets to spiritual beauty and to becoming a radiant Christian woman. It also comes with a Bible Study guide for those who want to spend extra time at God's spa!
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September 27, 2011
I Feel Your Pain
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was Easter Sunday, and I was sitting in the sanctuary waiting for the worship service to begin. Anticipating a large crowd, I arrived early to drop Jered off in the nursery, one of his favorite places to go since every nursery worker doted on him. As the choir filed in, a friend slipped into the pew beside me and said, "I think you need to go to the nursery. Something is wrong with Jered." Jumping up, I leapt over legs, toes, and pews as I raced to the church nursery and my son.
I was not prepared for what I saw. In a far corner, lying on his favorite red mat was Jered, staring at the ceiling, silent and rigid. As I bent over him, searching those beautiful blue eyes, huge tears slid down his chubby cheeks as he flew into my arms, sobbing. You have to understand – as a baby, Jered cried only when he was hungry, wet, or sick. He always seemed to be smiling, happy, and contented. Something was obviously very wrong. I kissed his forehead. No fever. I checked his diaper. Dry and clean. The snack box I had packed for him earlier that morning was empty. I had no idea what had broken my son's heart, but I certainly intended to find out.
Just then, Mrs. Giles, Jered's favorite nursery worker, drew me aside and said, "Let me tell you what happened. We had a new little girl in the nursery today. It was her first time in a church nursery – ever. When her parents left, she immediately began screaming and wouldn't stop. Jered came running and wrapped his arms around her, but she pushed him away. He then brought her his bottle, but she hurled it across the room and continued screaming. Desperate to help her, Jered then found his diaper bag and fished out Turtle.
Turtle was a small, green-and-blue stuffed turtle we had given Jered during a stay in the hospital when he was seriously ill with the croup. From the moment Jered saw Turtle, they were inseparable. He slept with Turtle clutched tightly in one hand, ate with Turtle sitting in his lap or on the table beside his plate, and carefully tucked Turtle in his diaper bag whenever we left the house. Turtle was his most precious possession and was an invaluable source of comfort to him.
Mrs. Giles continued, "I couldn't believe Jered was willing to give Turtle to a stranger, but he tried." The crying child took one look at Turtle and threw it in Jered's face. Stunned, he picked up Turtle, dusted it off, and lay down on the mat, refusing to move, the stuffed animal clutched tightly in his arms. Then I knew. I knew Jered couldn't stand to see the little girl in pain and was determined to help. When he couldn't, he retreated, waiting for someone else to help. That's compassion.
Compassion is not just sympathy. It is empathy. When it comes to dealing with difficult people, we mistakenly equate compassion with "fixing" them. Genuine compassion is first able to feel their pain. I believe one of the reasons we encounter and are commanded to deal with sandpaper people is because the more pain we experience, the more compassionate we will be. We must learn to use our pain in the right way, not lashing out, but looking within to share the pain of others. There is a choice in every pain, an opportunity in every trial. Pain makes us focus inward or outward. It makes us martyrs or merciful. The choice is ours.
I have a love-hate relationship with the Good Samaritan in the Bible. The Samaritan chose to use his pain and help an injured man. He understood the man's pain because of the pain in his own life. The Jews hated all Samaritans. The man lying on the road was a Jew. There was no logical reason for this Samaritan to rearrange his plans and spend his money to help this "enemy" or "sandpaper person" in need. But compassion doesn't look for reasons or search out limitations. It searches for opportunity. The Samaritan had a choice, just as we have a choice every time we are confronted with a need. We must adjust our thinking to understand that sandpaper people are needy people. We can either ignore the need, or we can meet the need by giving away part of the comfort God has given us when we have been in pain.
Galatians 6:2 (NLT) "Share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ."
If we can't prevent pain, we can at least lighten the load with compassion. Alan Redpath wrote, "You can never lighten the load unless you have first felt the pressure in your own soul." Compassion makes us willing to feel the pain of others, responding as if it were our own.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me when I respond in anger to the difficult people in my life. I really want Your love to flow through me to each sandpaper person with whom I come in contact. Give me Your heart of compassion to feel their pain and then teach me how to look for ways to help ease that pain.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of the Good Samaritan found in Luke 10:31-37. How can you apply the same truths in your life that the Samaritan applied when taking care of the wounded man?
Wherever today finds you, look around for someone in need – someone who needs a touch of compassion in their life. Are you willing to let God use you to be "God with skin on" to that person?
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Today's devotion is taken from Mary's book, Sandpaper People. Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
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September 28, 2011
I am a Citizen of Heaven
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control; will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body" (Philippians 3:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One spring, we had a ten-year-old boy from Russia stay with us and go to school with my son. His mastery of the English language was very limited and we depended on hand signals and facial expressions to get by. On one occasion, I was trying to get him to write his parents a letter. I pulled out the stationary, handed him a pen, pointed to a picture of his parents, and said, "Why don't we write your parents a letter?" He had no idea what I was talking about.
For twenty minutes, I drew pictures and tried to get him to understand me. Finally, with tears in his eyes, he looked up at me and said, "What do?"
I just hugged him and put the pen and paper away.
Sometimes, I feel just like our little Russian guest. I don't understand the cruelty I read in the papers and hear on the news. I am confused at the angry attitudes of drivers with road rage. I don't understand how an adult could harm a child. In confusion, I look to my heavenly Father and say, "What do?"
But then God reminds me that I will never feel at home here on earth, because I am an alien, a foreigner. My true citizenship is in heaven and I'm just a foreign exchange student here for a short while. I am not home yet.
The Bible tells us that we are citizens of heaven. Our lives may be grand here on earth, but there will always be a longing that goes unmet while our feet are on this ground. That is because we were made for heaven! There will come a day when we will be completely at home, at rest, and at peace. Until then, just remember, we are aliens and strangers in this world where we temporarily live.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I long for heaven. I love my life here on earth and I am so thankful for every day. But I know that my life is but a breath. Thank You that my true citizenship is in heaven with You!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever had a day when everything was going great, and yet there was an unidentifiable longing in your heart? What do you think that longing was?
1 Peter 2:11 says that we are aliens and strangers in this world we temporarily live in. What do you think the Bible means when it calls us aliens in this world?
How is an alien in a foreign country very similar to our time here on earth?
What makes you long for heaven? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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If you would like to learn more about your true identity, who you are in Christ, you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You! Let's stop believing the lies of the enemy who says we are less than what God created us to be. You are chosen, holy, dearly loved, saved, forgiven, completely acceptable, totally loved, and that only the beginning!
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September 29, 2011
Under the Juniper Tree
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My soul, wait thou in silence for God only; for my expectation is from Him (Psalm 62:5, ASB).
Friend to Friend
Elijah is a great example of a man in need of rest. One day he was the conquering hero, the next we find him sitting under a Juniper tree, wallowing in self-pity – and begging God to let him die. The poor man was simply exhausted. True, it was an exhaustion produced by victory, but it was still exhaustion.
Elijah called down fire from heaven, proving the existence of the only true God, destroying idols and idol worshippers. Big stuff! In fact, it is my personal opinion that he should have been celebrating. So why was he so discouraged? It was a woman, Jezebel, who was largely responsible for his discouragement.
Jezebel was the evil and influential wife of Ahab, King of Israel, and widely known as the real power behind her husband's throne. Jezebel did not worship the one true God of Israel. Instead, she was fanatical in her worship of the pagan god, Baal, and tried to impose her beliefs on the people of Israel. One man stood in her way – Elijah. When Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal to a showdown on Mount Carmel, God answered Elijah's prayer with a stream of fire from heaven. You would think that a miracle like that would have convinced Ahab and Jezebel to believe in God. It didn't. In fact, Jezebel was furious. When she learned what had happened on Mt. Carmel with the fire and idols, she put a contract out on Elijah. Now stop and think about that for a moment.
Elijah had been in the presence of God. God had heard and answered Elijah's prayer, putting on an impressive fiery display for all to see. Idols had fallen. The prophets of Baal had either fled or been destroyed. And Elijah is worried about one angry woman? Elijah was tired and needed to rest – big time. He found that rest while sitting under a Juniper tree, waiting in silence for God to show up. I know. God had showed up in big ways for Elijah, but this time, Elijah needed a personal, one-on-one encounter with his Father. I've been there, haven't you?
I'm not very good at waiting. I don't like to wait on anyone or anything and often view the waiting rooms of life as missed opportunities and unproductive circumstances to be avoided whenever possible. And as far as silence goes, if there is a word to be spoken, I will gladly speak it. In fact, for much of my life, I have tried my best to avoid silence and solitude. However, I am learning that while the seasons of silence and the waiting rooms of life are different in nature and purpose, they are always for my ultimate good.
Silence sometimes falls like a sweet, gentle and refreshing rain. I don't have to do anything, be anything or seek anything. I am just with Him and He is with me. I crawl up into my Father's lap and wrap my arms around Him and find healing and restoration. I fall in love with Him all over again as He reminds me that His love for me is unchanging and unconditional. The Father gently reassures my frightened heart that He is not going anywhere and that I can count on Him to be with me – no matter what!
But there are also times when waiting in silence feels more like a bottomless pit from which there is no escape. The darkness is filled with fear and unanswered questions threaten my peace. I am lonely and don't understand what God is doing. I am tired of being hurt and disappointed and quitting seems like the easiest way out. My energy is gone and no one seems to understand.
It doesn't really matter what compels us to crave time under the Juniper tree. It only matters that we come. Clinical depression brought me to my knees and drove me to seek God as never before. It was there that His truth pierced my heart and changed the course of my life with the promise found in Psalm 40:1-3:
I waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Oh, I had read the book of Psalms many times, but in the silence under my personal Juniper tree, it settled into my soul and really took root. I began to learn how to wait on God. I came to the precious place of desperation and cried out to Him. I made the deliberate choice to trust Him like the helpless child that I am. During those precious moments, we laughed, cried, and talked about the trials that brought me to the pit of darkness. For the first time in my life, I began to realize that anyone or anything that makes me cry out to God can be counted as a blessing.
I am learning to embrace the silent times of waiting as gifts from His hand to my life. So time under the Juniper tree is good. Sometimes I just need to be reminded. How about you?
Let's Pray
Thank You, Lord, for arranging the circumstances of my life so that I must stop and rest and sit at Your feet in quiet solitude. Thank You for the healing I find there. Thank You for the new truth and redefined purpose for my life. Help me apply the truths I find under the Juniper tree and then give me the strength and determination to share Your plan of deliverance with those who need your restoration.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you long for times of silence or avoid them whenever possible? Why? I encourage you to find a few minutes each day this week to spend in silence before God. Establish the habit of a silent retreat when possible. Read the Psalms daily and keep your gaze on God.
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We will never be free from stress this side of heaven – so we had better figure out how to deal with it. That's why I wrote the bookEscaping the Stress Trap, a verse-by-verse study of Psalm 23. If you read Psalm 23 every day for a month, I promise you will see a difference in your stress level.
Come as You Areis Mary's NEW Online Bible Study that begins September 26! The most common invitation offered by Jesus Christ is simply to "come." He doesn't ask us to fix what is wrong or expect us to clean up our lives. That is His responsibility. Jesus loves us just as we are and when we come to Him with a "yes" in our hearts, He lovingly transforms the broken places into beautiful scars of healing and new life. Enroll before October 1and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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September 30, 2011
Making My Heart Sit Down
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Teach us to make the most of our time, so that we may grow in wisdom (Psalm 90:12, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Every minute of every day is either wasted or invested. Since the Bible contains over 400 verses about time, we can safely assume that time management is important to God. In fact, it is a spiritual discipline that helps determine the rate of growth and maturity of our faith. We not only need to view time as an eternal investment, but as an immediate one as well. One of the most valuable investments we can make is to spend time in solitude.
I once read an African proverb, "Lord Jesus, make my heart sit down." Solitude is deliberately and diligently setting aside time to "sit down" at the feet of Jesus. It is in those still, quiet moments of solitude at His feet that we can more clearly hear God speak and gain strength and wisdom for the journey ahead. In order to practice solitude, we must learn how to budget time.
It's been said that women must balance their time more carefully than men because women don't have wives. The fact is that we are all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Time is a precious gift. Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use. If we use it in the wrong way, that time is lost forever and cannot be reclaimed. Time that is not purposely and wisely budgeted will inevitably gravitate to our weaknesses and be stolen by others or wasted on the unimportant. We must budget time, just as Jesus did.
Luke 2:52"Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (NIV).
At the age of 12, Jesus traveled to Jerusalem with His parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When His parents began the long trip home, they did not miss their son at first, and when they did, assumed He was traveling with friends. Jesus was found in the temple - teaching. My first reaction would probably have been pride in the fact that religious scholars and teachers were actually listening to my young son. I would most likely have encouraged Jesus to continue, basking in the looming recognition and acclaim. Instead, Jesus returned home where, for 18 to 20 years, He simply grew and matured. Luke 2:52 tells us that Jesus grew mentally, physically, spiritually and socially. Luke 3 records the beginning of Jesus' ministry – the single most powerful ministry and life ever lived. In other words, Jesus Christ budgeted His time wisely, resulting in a balanced life of fulfilled purpose. We can live the same kind of life if our priorities are right.
Set priorities:Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us "there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven" (NLT). We either set our life priorities or allow circumstances and other people to set them. We are often guilty of allowing human standards and expectations to determine priorities for our lives when what we need to do is set our priorities and then plan the days of our lives around them.
Schedule priorities: There is a right time and a right way to carry out right priorities. Ecclesiastes 8:5-6 warns, "For a wise heart knows the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every delight" (NASB). We must schedule time for solitude. We must set aside portions of each day to spend with God.
Stick to priorities: The apostle Paul teaches us to "make the most of every opportunity" (Ephesians 5:16 NIV). Every challenge will either wreck our priorities or affirm them. Right priorities stand firm in the face of changing circumstances because God empowers them and honors obedience.
One day, we will all stand before the Father and give an account of how we have invested our time. Today, examine your time management habits in light of eternity. Initiate schedule changes that honor God and give Him first place in your life. Make a new commitment to invest your time wisely.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize my need for time alone with You. I lay down my schedule, my agenda and anything else in my life that would keep me from that time. Please forgive me for the way I often squander away the minutes, hours and days of my life. Give me the power to invest time wisely and the wisdom to live a balanced life that pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose to practice solitude in your daily life.
Select a place to spend time in solitude.
Lay down your agenda.
Focus on Him and listen for His voice.
Memorize Psalm 37:7 (NIV) "Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him."
Ask yourself these questions and use the answers to shape a plan for regular solitude:
Why am I afraid of silence?
What is the greatest obstacle to solitude in my life?
What steps do I have to take in order to remove those obstacles?
What do I hope to gain from time spent in solitude?
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Learning to rest and be still before God is so important to our spiritual growth, strength and maturity. It won't just happen. We have to carve out time to spend alone with God in solitude. Time spent in solitude allows our heart to be still before God, filter through all of the voices in life, and seek out God's voice above the rest. I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day this month and find time each week for solitude. Escaping the Stress Trap (available in book, CD or MP3 download) can be a helpful tool as you learn to make your heart sit down.
Come as You Areis Mary's NEW Online Bible Study that begins September 26! The most common invitation offered by Jesus Christ is simply to "come." He doesn't ask us to fix what is wrong or expect us to clean up our lives. That is His responsibility. Jesus loves us just as we are and when we come to Him with a "yes" in our hearts, He lovingly transforms the broken places into beautiful scars of healing that give birth to new life. Enroll before October 1and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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October 3, 2011
Satan's Tempting Tactics
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The thief (Satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I (Jesus) have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Adam and Eve had a wonderfully fulfilling life. They lived in God's presence. He walked and talked with them in the cool of the evening, and He met all of their needs.
"I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds of the air and all the creatures that move on the ground-everything that has the breath of life in it-I give every green plant for food," (Genesis 1:29-30).
God placed only one restriction on the pair. "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden, but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die," (Genesis 2:16-17).
In Genesis chapter three, we see where our ancestors made a grave decision that affected every person born thereafter. Satan came to Eve in the form of a serpent and tempted her with the one restriction placed on her by God. How did he do it?
1. He questioned God. "Did God really say, 'You must not eat from any tree in the garden'?"
2. He denied God. "You will not surely die," the serpent said to the woman.
3. He caused her to doubt God's justice. "For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil."
Satan is the great deceiver who takes what worked in the Garden and continues to use the same tactics today. He is not very creative, but he is highly effective. It is very important to understand his tactics in order to recognize and defeat them. Paul said he was not ignorant of the devil's schemes (2 Corinthians 2:11 NASB), and we shouldn't be either. Satan tempts us to question God. Has God really said you must stay married to a man who doesn't meet your needs? He tempts us to deny God. God wouldn't count it as a sin for you to seek happiness elsewhere. He tempts us to doubt God's justice. What kind of God is He who would deny you the right to find happiness in the arms of a different man who appreciates you? These are lies, my friend. And just as God warned Eve, they are deadly.
The basis for Eve's temptation and for ours as well, is the lie that God is somehow holding out on us. Think about it. Can you think of any temptation that does not have its root in that lie? Eve had it all! And yet, Satan came to her and whispered, "God is holding out on you. There's more to be had than your perfect world. You can be like God. You can be in control."
Girlfriend, do not be deceived. Satan is a liar and the father of lies. He still tells lies today. He still deceives those who will listen in the same way he deceived Eve. So recognize the lies when you hear them, and stand on the truth of God's Word to watch him flee.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for giving me everything I need for a life of godliness and the truth (1 Peter 1:3). Help me to be keenly aware of Satan's lies and recognize them for what they are. When I have a tempting thought, I pray that the Holy Spirit will convict me, help me replace the lie with truth, and give me the power to walk the other way. I want to be like David who said, "I have hidden your Word in my heart that I might not sin against you," (Psalm 119:11).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I asked a question earlier, but let's think about it again.
Can you think of any temptation that is not based on the lie that God is holding out on you?
How did Jesus fight Satan's temptations when he was in the desert? (Matthew 4)
What did Satan do after Jesus answered him with Scripture?
What will Satan do when we fight him with Scripture? (James 4:7)
More from the Girlfriends
Satan has a whole bunch of lies to try to make us girls feel inferior, insecure, and inadequate. If you would like to learn how to fight the enemy by recognizing the lies, rejecting the lies, and replacing the lies with truth, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. It also comes with a Bible study guide perfect for groups or individual study.
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October 4, 2011
I Need a Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He tends his flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young (Isaiah 40:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins which cause sudden death. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat which means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass.
Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they would not last long. Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to continually find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently. Remember, I am a sheep!
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness until He rescues me. I satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things from the wrong hands found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul is soon ravenous for what is good because I have been stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don't like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep. When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that we can make it on our own or that the rules and commandments of God do not necessarily apply to us like they apply to those other sheep. The longer I walk with God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
Let's think about the sheep for whom we are responsible as shepherds here on earth. We are all called by God in different ways to do different things, but we are all called to be a shepherd to someone. We live in a world filled with people who, like sheep, are lost, confused, hungry, lonely, and in desperate need of a Savior. Family members, friends, co-workers and neighbors are all part of our flock. And sometimes their needs are overwhelming.
You live with your sheep or everywhere you go you run into someone from your flock. Your phone rings off the wall, e-mails pile up and you are constantly trying to rescue one of your sheep who is in trouble. The feeding schedule of your flock is not an easy task either. Since sheep must eat the right amount of the right foods at the right time, you must always be prepared to feed them, according to their needs – not yours. As a shepherd, you must know your sheep so well that you can lead them – not push them – in the right direction. The natural inclination of every sheep in your flock is to run when they sense danger. You may be trying to lead your sheep, but they are either too afraid or too stubborn to let you lead. You may be standing in the middle of their escape route, which may also mean that they will run right over you in their frantic stampede to escape. Remember that they are afraid and in desperate need of rescue. Your job, as their earthly shepherd, is to care for them and to continually point them to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ. Remember, a good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me. Do you love your flock enough to lay down your life for each one – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs?
Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan and remember that we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for laying down Your life so that I can live now and eternally. I am desperate for You. I am lost without Your love and power at work in my life. I don't know where to go or what to do. I am afraid, Lord. Right now, I surrender every part of my life to You. Please be my Shepherd and my Guide. Help me love and care for the people in my life and point them to You, Lord. Use me to love others and serve them in a way that pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23:1-6 once a day for one month. Let it soak into your heart, mind and soul and become a living reality in your life. As you read Psalm 23, consider the following questions:
In what ways are sheep dependent on their shepherd?
How do shepherds care for their sheep?
Compare the two lists. What similarities do you find in your own life?
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with the stress in life and learning how to truly trust God.
Come as You Are,Mary's NEW Online Bible Study, has just begun. Enroll before October 15and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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October 5, 2011
Follow Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
After this, Jesus went out and saw a tax collector by the name of Levi sitting at his tax booth. 'Follow me,' Jesus said to him, and Levi got up, left everything and followed him (Luke 5:27-28, NIV).
Friend to Friends
I was at a funeral for the father of a friend of mine. Amazingly three of the deceased's nephews were preachers and each wanted a turn at eulogizing Uncle Bob. There was a Baptist, a Pentecostal, and Methodist. It was a long service. One of the preacher's stories about ole Uncle Bob really tickled me. I've changed the names, but let's let nephew John tell the story.....
"When I was a young boy of 17, I was working in the family business, and didn't yet have my driver's license. Uncle Bob came over one day, took me by the arm, and said, 'Boy, it's time to go and get your driver's license.
"But Uncle Bob," I argued, "I haven't practiced enough. I'm not good enough yet."
"Don't you worry about that, son," he said. "I'll teach you what you need to know on the way."
So off they went to the Department of Motor Vehicles. One young man with nervous clammy hands. One older man with a determined knowing grin. John parked the car, not between the lines, but right smack dab in the middle of two spaces with the line running under the middle of the car. He very nervously walked into the building, fumbled through the driving test, and miraculously came out with a certificate and a license.
"I always wondered how in the world I passed that test," the now older man mused. "But years later I found out. Uncle Bob knew the Patrolman who administered the test."
Wow! I sat there on the edge of my seat! That was the gospel! Jesus takes us by the hand and tells us its time to get started moving on with Him. "Follow me," He calls. Sometimes we tell Him, "I'm not ready. I need more practice. I'm not good enough yet."
But Jesus says, "Don't you worry about that. Follow Me and I'll teach you what to do along the way."
Have you been putting off doing something that God has called you to do because you feel like you're not ready? If so, don't put it off any longer. Jesus says, "Follow me." He'll take care of the rest.
Have you been putting off accepting Jesus as your personal Savior because you feel you're not ready? If so, Jesus says, "Follow me." What are you waiting for?
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes I am hesitant to do what You are calling me to do because I don't feel that I'm ready. But I know that I am ready the moment You call me and that You will supply all my needs according to Your riches in glory. I am so thankful that we never have to get ready to be saved! You tell us to come as we are. "Just as I am without one plea, but that Thy blood was shed for me." Hallelujah! "Oh Lamb of God, I come. I come."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Is there something that God is calling you to do but you have put it off because you feel you're not ready?
Do you think that God would call us to a task and leave us to fend for ourselves?
If you have not accepted Jesus as Your Savior, what's stopping you? If He has called, then you ARE ready. Don't worry about being good enough. None of us ever could be. But He will teach you what you need to know along the way.
If you have never prayed to receive Jesus, I have a short video that will walk you through the steps. Simply click on www.jesusforwomen.com. If you pray the prayer to accept Christ, I'd love to hear about! Please email me at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com.
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October 6, 2011
I Have a Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends. (Psalm 100:3, NCV)
Friend to Friend
Shepherding was one of the oldest callings in Israel, even before farming. Shepherds traveled from place to place, living in tents while driving their flocks from one pasture to another. The sheep and their shepherd lived together every minute of every day. In fact, they were so intimately bound together that individual sheep, even when mixed with other flocks, could recognize the voice of their own shepherd and would come immediately when called by name.
A shepherd owned and marked his sheep. In some cases, the sheep were even branded, although branding is no longer an accepted method of identification because of the damage it does to the wool. Today, the ears of sheep are pierced with identification tags, but for thousands of years, shepherds around the world marked their sheep by notching their ears with a sharp knife. Each shepherd had his own distinctive notch that indicated identity and ownership.
When we come to Jesus Christ in complete surrender and begin the journey of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ, we are redeemed by His forgiveness, made whole by His grace and marked with His love through the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
You were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13, NIV).
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions. To make things worse, I was up to my neck in ministry at the time.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church just about every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God - not only as my Lord and King - but as my Shepherd, the one who would lead me, provide for me and love me like no other.
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be – right? Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked like a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God.
Then a startling certainty hit me like a ton of bricks! I knew all about God but I did not know Him. It wasn't enough for me or for God. I have come to realize that God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with His children. That night I met Jesus Christ as I surrendered all that I knew about myself to all that I knew about Him.
While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations. I also discovered who I really am - a sheep - and being a sheep is awesome! When I am afraid, Jesus Christ is there to bring peace. When my heart is broken, the Holy Spirit comforts and restores me. Even when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression, Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, led me from the darkness into the light.
I began to understand the incredible truth that Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, has planned my very existence, prepared a plan in response to His love for me, and even made provision for the payment of my past, present and future sin. I am wanted, chosen and marked for God. I no longer have to live life on my own because I have a Shepherd. God's love precedes me, goes before me and surrounds me as I live each day. Knowing we are loved fosters peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Actually, when you think about it, sheep don't come across as stressed-out creatures. In fact, they seem almost oblivious to danger. Sheep don't seem to worry about where their next meal is coming from, if they will have a place to sleep each night, when the next enemy or thief will attack, or even what the next day holds. When sheep are sick or in need, they simply turn to their Shepherd, instinctively knowing He will take care of them and comfort them until healing comes.
We need to remember and often revisit the fact that we are all sheep and that Jesus Christ really is our Shepherd and nothing else really matters.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Lord, for being so faithful to me – even when my faith is small and my strength is gone. Help me learn how to trust You more and turn to You first when I am in trouble. I surrender my fears to You, Lord. I need Your love and guidance to get me through each day. I need Your protection from people and circumstances that are harmful. You are my Source and my Deliverer. Help me choose to trust You in such a way that brings You glory and honor.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Record the following promises in your journal. Beside each promise, write the words of Psalm 23 that substantiate that promise. I have listed a few to help you get started.
God promises to meet every need in my life. "I shall not want."
God gives me rest and peace. "He leads me beside quiet waters."
God gives my life purpose and direction._________________________________________
God comforts me when my heart is broken. ______________________________________
God promises that He will never leave me._______________________________________
God gives me victory over my enemies. _________________________________________
God promises me eternal life. _________________________________________________
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October 7, 2011
Becoming More Fruitful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 1:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On a family visit to the beach, our room had a balcony that overlooked the swimming pool. I sat on the balcony one morning and watched as a maintenance man for the resort approached a palm tree and pulled a brown, life-less branch from under the green leaves. Oddly, before he pulled the dead branch, I hadn't even noticed it was there. After he pulled it, however, I noticed that the palm tree looked fresh and vibrant. Healthy. The pruning made such a difference!
Jesus spoke to His disciples and said, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father's glory, thatyou bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples." John 15:1-8, NIV
The maintenance man at the resort didn't pull the branch off to hurt the palm tree. He pruned it to increase its beauty, health and vibrancy. God does the same for us. He prunes His children to increase our beauty, health and vibrancy for our good and for His glory - to make us more useful to Him and more fruitful.
Are there any dead branches hanging on the tree of you?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for Your perfect love that longs for me to be fruitful and beautiful in You. Please remove any life-less branches in my life. As the psalmist prayed: "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How fruitful is your life?
Read John 15:1-17 and spend some time reflecting on God's plan for you to become more fruitful.
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It seems kind of weird that we should want to go through the pain of pruning, doesn't it? It reminds me a bit of the old workout saying, "No pain, no gain." When you allow the Lord to expose dead branches in your life and to strip them away, a simple, radiant beauty remains. You become a more vibrant reflection of Him and become better equipped to bear fruit. Trust Him, friend...no matter what or whom He may call you to give up. Click over to my Facebook page and tell me how today's devotion spoke to your heart today. What lessons are you learning? I'd love to hear about it. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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October 10, 2011
How to Let Peace Rule
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts (Colossians 3:15a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Understanding peace does not guarantee the presence of peace. I can fill my days with so many tasks, meetings, appointments, tasks and activities that peace disintegrates before noon. In Colossians 3:15, Paul encourages us to "let the peace of Christ rule" in our hearts. The word "rule" is an athletic term meaning "to preside at the games and distribute the prizes." Sounds like a typical day in the life of a woman to me!
In the Greek games, there were judges who rejected the contestants who were not qualified and disqualified those who broke the rules. Today, we would call them "umpires" and the playing field of peace would be our hearts. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." Peace begins its reign in the center of our being; then works its way out into every nook and cranny of life - if we allow peace to rule.
Admittedly, there are times in life when an umpire seems like a good idea because many of us relish a good fight. We say we want peace, but not at the price of giving up control or surrendering personal agendas. We must stand firm in our resolve to pursue harmony and peace, even if it means giving up rights and yielding control.
Relationships must be committed to peace. It is difficult to wage war with someone who has laid down their weapons in an act of surrender. Ah, there's that dreaded word again - surrender. Surrender is the heart beat of peace. The choice to surrender initiates the process of allowing peace to rule. I guess you could say the peace of God is our "umpire" and in every situation and stands ready to make the calls that will lead us to rest in and trust Him – when we choose to let peace rule. The work of peace is always unleashed by our choices which invite the Holy Spirit to work in and through us.
Choose to be obedient.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him (Colossians 3:16-17, NIV).
The lakes in Florida are beautiful, but relatively shallow as well. Over the years, they fill up with the silt and mire that wash off the shore. In time, they accumulate 2 to 3 feet of mire and decaying vegetation at the bottom. Soon that mire begins to deprive the lake, plants and fish of valuable oxygen and eventually the lakes literally die. In order to halt this process, a program has been put in place to drain the lakes periodically and expose the mire. After the mire is exposed, workers come in and dredge the mire – restoring the lake bottom to its original condition. The lake water can then be raised and soon the lake, its vegetation and fish are thriving again.
Our lives are much the same. We need to regularly expose and eliminate the "mire" or sin in our lives. The more we seek God, walk in obedience and nurture our relationship with Him, the stronger our peace will grow. When we have a personal relationship with God, we also have access to all of God's power and all of God's peace. How much power we receive from Him and how much peace we experience in Him depends upon how right our relationship is with Him.
Choose to be accountable.
Admonish one another with all wisdom (Colossian 3:16b, NIV).
"Admonish" literally means "to warn, to instruct or correct." Paul is talking about obedience that is guarded by accountability. As John 14:23 (NCV) states, how much we love God is measured by how much we obey God. "Jesus answered, 'If people love me, they will obey my teaching.'" Obedience is easier in an atmosphere of accountability.
Dan and I learned countless life lessons in ministry but one of the most important lessons was in the area of accountability. Hardly a week passes without a distressed phone call from some pastor or pastor's wife, asking for help in their marriage, their ministry, or their personal lives. The problems ranged from drug addictions and alcoholism, to extra-marital affairs, prodigal children, mishandling church funds or...well, you name it! Every phone call serves as a reminder for us to be diligent in our efforts to maintain integrity. Wooden office doors at the church have been replaced with glass doors. We have a staff of professional counselors who handle the mounting demands and need for ongoing, personal counseling. Weekly staff meetings always include a time of holding each other accountable for time spent with children, dates with spouses as well as blunt conversations concerning potential temptations or struggles. Accountability is a hedge of protection that helps protect us from the storms and temptations in life.
After planting several pine trees in our front yard, I was concerned that they were not growing straight, even though we had planted them straight. One of our neighbors told me not to worry. "The winter winds are coming," she explained. "The pines will grow against the wind and naturally straighten themselves while gaining strength to survive the winter." Her words of plant-life-wisdom ring true for each one of us. Obedience and accountability encourage peace and strengthen us for the storms of life.
Let's Pray
Father, I am weak and recognize my helplessness to be obedient without Your strength and power. I have sinned against You, Lord. I now confess that sin and choose to turn away from it. Thank You for the forgiveness and restoration I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Spiritual maturity is not measured by how much we know. Spiritual maturity is measured by how much we do. The confession of sin is an important spiritual discipline we need to cultivate in order to grow in Christ. Read and memorize the following verses of Scripture:
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8, NIV).
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and purify us from all our unrighteousness (1 John 1:9, NIV).
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Need help? Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and is a step-by-step plan for dealing with the stress in life and learning to truly trust God. Looking for a Bible study? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible studies, How to Find Your Missing Peace and Winning the War with Temptation.
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October 11, 2011
Trusting God No Matter What
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
There is nothing wrong with us trying to understand why bad things happen. However, the Bible clearly tells us not to depend on or lean on our ability to answer the tough question...why. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart," the writer of Proverbs tells us, "and do not lean on your own understanding," (Proverbs 3:5).
Ultimately, God is in control and His ways are higher than our ways. God reminds us, "'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9). Dr. James Dobson, in his book, When God Doesn't Make Sense says "trying to analyze His (God's) omnipotence is like an amoeba attempting to comprehend the behavior of man." It is simply not possible.
But one thing we can be sure of, "all the ways of the Lord are loving and faithful," whether we understand them or not (Psalm 25:10). "Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known" (1 Corinthians 13:12). It may not be until we cross over from the temporal to the eternal that we understand the many "whys" of life. Until then, we must trust in the sovereignty of God.
No matter what you have gone through or what you will go through in the future, God promises: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand," (Isaiah 41:10).
God wants to know if you will trust Him no matter what your outward circumstances may be. Will you say with Job, "Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him," (Job 13:15)?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank You that Your ways are higher than my ways. I make a poor god even on my best days. I thank You for being an all-knowing, all-seeing, ever-present God who knows what's best for me. Forgive me for questioning You and help me to trust you more.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What area do you have the most difficulty trusting God? Your marriage? Your children? Your finances?
Do you believe that God understands that area of your life better than you do?
Are you willing to trust God even though you do not understand His ways?
Meditate on the Scriptures that are mentioned in today's devotional.
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October 12, 2011
T-H-I-N-K
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says (Proverbs 31:26, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A father took his six-year-old daughter on a "date" to their favorite restaurant. During the meal, the dad did most of the talking as he told his little girl how wonderful she was, how proud of he was to be her dad and how special she was to him and to God. After he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her little hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy. Longer!" The father said he didn't eat much food that day, but a little girl's hungry heart was certainly fed.
Life is filled with hungry hearts. I really believe most of us delight in finding creative ways to touch those hearts and are passionate about introducing them to God's love, forgiveness and transforming power. However, I wonder how many of us miss the hungry hearts that greet us each morning across the breakfast table, wait for us to come home each night or silently long for us to convince them that they really are not total failures. Every day, we cross paths with people who feel unworthy and unwanted. They have no idea how special they are to us and in the eyes of God. How easy it is to lose focus and scramble priorities. We get so busy doing such good things and miss one of the highest things God created us to do – encourage one another.
One of the greatest gifts we can give the people in our lives is the gift of a guarded tongue. The Psalmist writes, "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips." Someone once said, "Lord, please bridle my tongue, so that on Judgment Day, I will not be guilty of assault with a deadly weapon." The power of the spoken word is great in that words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative words, destructive and critical words, we will reap relationships that are negative, destructive and critical. On the other hand, if we consistently plant words of encouragement, our relationships will flourish. Look for the good in your family and friends – and then speak it. Be a cheerleader for the people God sends your way. Everyone needs a cheerleader!
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the talented singer who rose to stardom while singing with her brother, Richard. At the young age of 32, Karen Carpenter died unexpectedly of heart failure, the result of many years of abuse caused by the eating disorder, Anorexia Nervosa. What amazed and saddened me most about Karen Carpenter was the underlying reason for her fatal obsession with weight control. It seems that a reporter once called her "Richard's chubby sister." Careless words, spoken without thought, can demolish a life.
We need to ask God to teach us to understand just how powerful our words are. Proverbs 31:26 reads, "When she speaks, she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly." How I wish that statement could be said about me. There are days when I desperately want to rip out my unruly tongue or reach out and grasp the harsh words I have just spoken and stuff them back into my mouth. What was I thinking? That's just it. I wasn't thinking. We would be wise to ask ourselves these questions before speaking:
T Is it true?
H Is it helpful?
I Is it inspiring?
N Is it necessary?
K Is it kind?
Over the years, I have had many, many opportunities in ministry and in life to learn from my mistakes when it comes to the way I speak and the words I use. Here are a few thoughts for us all to consider:
Use the five to one ratio when correcting someone – five positive comments to one negative comment.
The harder the truth, the greater the love with which it should be said.
Never put confrontational words in writing. Instead, confront face-to-face and write only words of encouragement that can be read again and again.
Our words should not only be guarded and carefully measured, but should be filled with wisdom and kindness as well.
While it is our responsibility to train our children in daily living, it is more important that we train them in Kingdom living. Words of wisdom gleaned from God's Word will not only transform the hearts and lives of our husband and children, but our own as well. Look for every opportunity to emphasize God's words as a model for the words we speak.
Make it a daily habit to speak words of encouragement to the people with whom you come in contact. By doing so, your heart and mind will soon be trained to focus on the good in each other. And that perspective builds healthy relationships.
The Apostle Paul writes, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29, NIV). I wonder what our world would look like if the words we speak were ruled by wisdom and kindness.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so sorry for the careless words I have spoken today. I really do want to encourage and build others up with the words I speak. I cannot control my tongue without Your power and strength. Help me learn to think before I speak. Break my heart when my words hurt others. Teach me how to be a cheerleader for my family and friends so that Your love will flow through me into their lives.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine the words you have spoken today in light of the following verses:
Psalm 141:3 "LORD, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say."
Psalm 20:14. "May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer."
How did you do? I encourage you to memorize these two verses. Ask God to let each verse take root in your heart and work its way out in the words you speak.
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I know the subject of controlling the tongue is a tough one – especially when anger is involved. I constantly struggle to think before I speak. How about you? If you need help, check out my E-Bible Study: Anger Management 911.
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October 13, 2011
When God says No
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5, 6, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Like any good parent, God's answers to our requests are not always "yes." When God says "no," we must accept the fact that our Father knows best.
In my own life, my desire was to have three or four children. I conceived my first child with no problem. Little did I know at the time that Steven would be my only child. For years my husband and I prayed for more children. We traveled down the road of infertility doctors, diagnostic procedures, and timed intimacy which is anything but intimate. As hard as it was for me to accept, God said "no."
Do I understand God's decision completely? No, I do not. But I've come to realize that He doesn't owe me an explanation. God is God. He does what He pleases and I must trust Him. When we can't see His hand, we must trust His heart. I so know this: "One thing God has spoken, two things have I heard: that you, O God, are strong, and that you, O Lord, are loving," (Psalm 62: 11,12). God is strong – He can do anything. God is loving – He will always do what is in our best interest.
Have you ever considered that God said no to His own Son, Jesus? Just before His arrest, Jesus prayed, "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me," (Matthew 26:39). And yet, God said "no." Jesus went to the cross. God knew it was the only way. He loves you and me that much.
We can be assured that if God does say "no" to our requests, it is for the same reason – He loves you and me that much.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so glad that You have not answered "yes" to every one of my requests. When I think about what my life would be like if You had given me everything I had ever asked for... oh my, I shudder. Thank You for loving me enough to say "no." Thank You for answering each and every prayer with Your infinite wisdom. I trust You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of some prayer requests that you are glad God said "No" to.
Are there some prayer requests that God has said "no" to that you don't understand?
Are you willing to trust that God knows best?
I would love to hear how you are thankful for one of God's "no" answers in your life. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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We all have broken dreams. What do you do when life doesn't turn out the way you thought it would? What do you do with broken dreams or unfulfilled longings? Learn how God wants to fulfill your dreams in His own way and in His own timing in Sharon's book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman...and How God Wants to Fulfill Them. It also includes a Bible study guide that is perfect for group or individual study.
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October 14, 2011
The Broken Way
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Moses answered the people, 'Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today ... the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
While at a football game of my son Preston's, I had a moving conversation with another team mom. It was the first time we'd ever dialogued beyond socially expected niceties. Between cheers that went up to our football-playing boys, she stumbled upon the fact that I was a Jesus-loving girl and was excited to share about how God has intimately drawn her heart to his over the past five years. How He met her where she was, ministered to her through the hands of others. How He sparked life into her soul through His Son Jesus Christ. She was radiant and she spoke with excitement, joy in every sentence, praise on her tongue for the God who gives her strength and life. This dear lady opened her heart and told me of her grueling battle with an aggressive form of breast cancer.
She was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 35 – as a wife and mother to three small children. Initially, she was angry with God for allowing a disease to ravage her body, furious that her husband and children might have to live without her. Though she fought to understand the "why" of it all, she confidently testifies that God used the pain-filled journey on the broken road of cancer to lead her to saving Grace. She is now grateful for the broken way that God breathed new life into her soul as she battled death in her body. As she spoke, the troubles of my life faded to a humble corner of my heart. Her words reminded me that God really can and should be glorified through each hard place we find ourselves in. I was freshly reminded to trust God.
Life is filled with challenges. The struggles we endure often leave our hearts breaking and our minds aching for reprieve. I've not battled cancer, but I have experienced my fair share of times when I've been crushed by circumstances that are beyond my control ... just like her. As a wife, mother, daughter, and friend, I've learned that hard times are inevitable and that they hurt.
Toward the end of our conversation about her cancer and faith, my new friend confided that fear still tries to invade her days. She said that she constantly has to choose faith and to trust God instead of dwelling on the possibilities of another future diagnosis. Every one of us doubts at times. We all fail to trust. But Scripture assures us that even when we are faithless, God remains faithful. As we walk broken paths that challenge our faith, the truth remains that God does deliver in and through the pain. Though there are struggles that we might take to the grave with us, God is still good. Each hard place is an opportunity for Jesus to show His power in and through our lives.
When we find ourselves on the broken way, we often feel like we are wandering in the wilderness. In Exodus 13:17-14:31, we see a dreary desert drama of the Israelites. Stop here to read the full account now if you can.
When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter. For God said, "If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt." So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea (Exodus 13:17-18a, NIV).
As God moved through the leadership of Moses to bring His people from captivity to freedom, from poverty to inheritance, the Israelites were not led the easy way. They didn't get to take the "paved" road – even though it was shorter. They had to walk through the desert. God led them the harder way because He knew it was best for them in the long run. Sometimes we are led the harder way too. The broken way. Even though our minds conceive an easier solution, He knows what is unknown to us, He sees what is unseen to us, and His ways are trustworthy and best.
By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night. Neither the pillar of cloud by day nor the pillar of fire by night left its place in front of the people." (Exodus 17:21-22, NIV)
"Then the angel of God, who had been traveling in front of Israel's army, withdrew and went behind them. The pillar of cloud also moved from in front and stood behind them, coming between the armies of Egypt and Israel. Throughout the night the cloud brought darkness to the one side and light to the other side; so neither went near the other all night long.
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left (Exodus 14:19-22, NIV).
God has given us his Holy Spirit to lead us by day and by night, to be our Strength, our Power, and our Direction in the deserts of life. Just as God made a way for the Israelites when they called on Him as they faced a seemingly impossible Red Sea situation, He will make a way for you. Call on His name. Trust His plan. Reach for His hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for the times when I try to navigate the broken path of life on my own. When my heart is heavy with burdens, please give me Your strength and remind my soul to trust You. I need Your guidance and power today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel like God has led you through the desert?
Do you trust that He can and will make a way for your broken paths to be made straight when you call on Him?
Grab a journal (if you're a journal girl). Spend a few moments contemplating the circumstances of your harder way. Then lift your eyes from your situation to your Savior. Call on God, and say to your soul: Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today...the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV).
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I've seen it in my own life. God delights to deliver us from our hard places in and through the pain. Hang in there, friend. He knows each tear you've cried and He has never left your side. In the words of a beloved hymn by Helen Lemmel, "Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace."
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October 17, 2011
What's the Plan?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. Before you were born I set you apart! (Jeremiah 1:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I want to be successful – don't you? And the awesome news is that God wants us to be successful as well. When we know and seek God's perfect plan for our lives, we will find success. Our immeasurable value rests solely in the fact that God created us, that His stubborn love sets us apart and the amazing fact that He designed and empowers a unique plan for each one of us. Yes, I know that plans are rampant in your life. God loves you and everyone else has a plan for your life, right? But the only plan that matters is the plan made for you by the One who formed you - the One who loves you, knows you and has set you apart to be His own. And it is a great plan!
1.Your life plan is customized. Psalm 139:16 You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!
You were born in response to the determined plan of God, not as an afterthought. Before you took even one breath, every day, every step and every circumstance in your plan was recorded. God's plan uses your strengths as well as your weaknesses. We all have strengths - they are part of the plan. We all have limitations - they are also part of the plan. We all have seasons of life that are essential to the plan as well. True success comes when, instead of constantly fighting against or trying to change the plan, we learn to identify and build on our strengths, accept the limitations as hedges of protection from God, and yield to the seasons in life as God's avenue of perfect timing. God's plan for you is not a "one-size-fits all." It is customized and just your size.
2. Your life plan is good. Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord," plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
For some reason we tend to think that God sat down one day and designed a sinister life plan laced with pain and defeat. Nothing could be farther from the truth. This train of thought contradicts the very nature of God and misunderstands His heart - the heart of a loving Father who wants the absolute highest and best plan for His child. It is a good plan!
3. Your life plan is guaranteed. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.
God always empowers what He calls us to do. With the plan comes every resource that we will need to accomplish that plan. For many years, my life mission was really quite simple. I tried and often succeeded in filling every waking moment with activity. Oh, it was wonderful activity filled with good things - but they were not the best things or the highest things for my life. I did many of those things in order to feel worthy and important, hoping they would bring my life into balance and under control. I hoped that doing good things would provide a purpose and plan for the restlessness in my soul. While sitting at the bottom of a deep, dark pit named "Clinical Depression," I discovered a truth that has redefined who I am and altered my soul perception of God. I now realize that the most powerful life flows from a clear life plan not to it!
How do we discover our life plan?
At first glance, that question may seem complicated and almost impossible to answer, but when we spend time with the Plan Maker, that question is easily answered as we step out in obedience to God. When we begin to saturate daily life with His truth and continually turn our hearts to conversation with God, His plan naturally unfolds as we take every "next step" in obedience. Consider the following questions when praying about and asking God to reveal His plan for your life:
· What are your spiritual gifts?
· What are you passionate about?
· What are your natural abilities?
· What is your personality type?
· What are the spiritual markers in your life?
· What do others see in you?
After a two-year battle with clinical depression, I realized that I had lived a great deal of my life based on the wrong plan. I began to ask these questions, looking for the gifts He has given me instead of the ones I thought I should have or wanted to have. I began to accept my limitations knowing that He had woven them into the seams of my journey for my good. I began yielding to the seasons of life, trusting Him to lead the way through this foreign land called life.
Guess what? I looked around one day to find myself smack-dab in the middle of His life plan for me. It was suddenly so simple and amazingly clear! I am learning to say "no" to those things that do not fit into that life mission. Certainly, I fail and have to begin again. And sometimes I am misunderstood because I have chosen to follow God's plan instead of someone else's. But I would rather be misunderstood than disobedient. I had to choose a new audience for this race of life and so must you. I had to make a decision about the One I wanted to please and so must you. Don't waste another minute on anything but God's very best plan for your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know and live out the plan You have for me. Sometimes my faith is weak but I really do want to please and honor You. Guide my steps, Lord. Give me Your strength to be obedient. Thank You for giving my life purpose and meaning. Today, I choose Your plan above all others and celebrate the joy I find in knowing You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Spend time alone with God in prayer and ask Him to help you answer the following questions:
· What are my spiritual gifts?
· What am I passionate about?
· What are my natural abilities?
· What is my personality type?
· What are the spiritual markers in my life?
· What do others see in me?
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October 18, 2011
Avoiding Burnout Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place where he prayed (Mark 1:35, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I sat on the edge of my seat as I watched my son's first track meet. The crowd was abuzz as moms and dads chatted, waiting for their teens to dash, sprint, or endure the eight laps of the thirty-two hundred meter race. But when the boys lined up for the hurdles event, the visiting stopped and the crowd watched with rapt attention. Why? In the hurdles event, the stakes were higher. It became less about who would win, and more about who would gracefully leap and clear the metal roadblocks or tip and topple over the barriers.
Hurdles - they are not simply found on the asphalt of track and field but also in the great race called life. As women, we struggle finding balance with our many roles and responsibilities. Our flame of enthusiasm begins to diminish when we are doing more than God intended or when we are doing what God intended, but on our own strength rather than His.
In the Bible we see many who experienced times of burnout. After Jonah's miraculous delivery from the big fish and prophetic announcement to the people on Nineveh, he sank into a depression and wanted to die (Jonah 4:3). After Elijah called down fire from heaven that miraculously burned up the sacrifices of Baal, the fire in his own life went dim (1 Kings 18-19). Elijah prayed, "I have had enough, LORD. Take my life," (1 Kings 19:4). Both of these men wanted to quit.
How do we avoid those same feelings of burnout? The first step is to realize that it can happen and does happen to the best of us.
What was God's response to Elijah? Let's take a look at 1 Kings Chapter 19.
He allowed Elijah to sleep. (19:5) – rest
He sent an angel to provide food for him to eat. (19:5) – refreshment
He allowed Elijah to sleep again. (19:6) – more rest
He sent an angel to provide food for him to eat again. (19:7) – more refreshment
He caused Elijah to ponder what he was doing. "What are you doing here?" (19:9) – reflection
He spoke to Elijah personally. (19:11) – response
He caused Elijah to ponder what he was doing, again. "What are you doing here?" (19:13) – reflection
He told Elijah what to do next. (19:15) - redirection
He showed Elijah who He had appointed to help him. (19:16) - reinforcement
Rest
Refreshment
Rest
Refreshment
Reflection
Response
Reflection
Redirection
Reinforcement
Girlfriend, exhaustion is epidemic among us gals. I tell you what... let's talk more about this tomorrow. For today, just rest in knowing that God has a plan for your life and that He loves you dearly!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'll admit, I'm tired today. I need the refreshment that only You can give. Send the Holy Spirit to reinforce my spirit today! I am expecting His energizing force! Help me to reflect on You and Your goodness all day long.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the R's and note what each one of those ideas would look like to you. Be realistic. I know Hawaii would be a great idea for refreshment, but that probably won't happen in my life today.J
For example: Rest – stop all activities at 8:00 p.m. rather than 10:00 p.m. and soak in a long hot bath.
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This devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Building an Effective Women's Ministry. To learn more about having a balanced life, see A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life, co-authored by Sharon Jaynes and Lysa TerKeurst. Balance isn't easy. That's why it took two of us to write it. J
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October 19, 2011
Avoiding Burnout Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place where he prayed (Mark 1:35, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday, we looked at the problem of burnout or exhaustion. Burnout is defined as "a state of mental and/or physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress." Sound familiar? We also looked at several men in the Bible who struggled with spiritual and mental exhaustion. So if the great leaders of the Bible struggled with exhaustion, how do we avoid it?
The most effective way to avoid burnout is to be in constant communion with God, the Father. In Mark chapter one, Jesus gives us the key to avoiding overload: "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place where he prayed," (Mark 1:35 NIV).
Early in the morning Jesus went off by Himself and spent time alone with His Heavenly Father. Interestingly, Simon and his companion interrupted Jesus' time of prayer. "Everyone is looking for you!" they exclaimed. The day before, Jesus had healed many men and women. No doubt, the disciples and the townspeople wanted Jesus to return to perform more miracles. But Jesus had a different idea..."Let us go somewhere else - to the nearby villages - so I can preach there also. That is why I have come."
I don't know about you, but by 8:00 in the morning, my phone is ringing with people making requests and demands on my time. How do we know when to say "yes" and when to say "no?" How do we know what God's will is for us on any given day? Jesus gives us the answer right there in Mark 1:35. We begin our day with God by praying and asking Him to give us our marching orders.
Would it have been a good and noble thing for Jesus to go back to Capernaum and minister to the people there? Yes, it would have been good, but perhaps not God's best. Because Jesus had spent time with God in the morning, He knew what God's plans were for Him that day and He could say "yes" and "no" with confidence.
Inviting God to fuel and fan the flames of enthusiasm for life each day is the key way to avoid burnout. But our friend, Elijah, gives us an example of how God tenderly re-ignites that flame if it has dimmed to a mere flicker. No matter where you are on the continuum of blazing spiritual passion or smoldering wick, here are some ideas to avoid burnout or rekindle the fire.
Rest often. (God rested on the 7th day.)
Refresh with proper diet.
Re-evaluate priorities and responsibilities on a regular basis (monthly).
Relegate and delegate.
Review commitments regularly (monthly).
Resist saying "yes" to demands and requests that do not line up with what God has called you to do.
Resist being ruled by your schedule and allow for divine appointments from God that may not be on your schedule.
Remove superfluous activities that interfere with or choke out with God's agenda.
Refocus on what God has called you to do rather than what others would like for you to do.
Remain in close and constant communion with God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You know that I have a tendency to take on too much. Please help me to hear Your still small voice telling me when to say "yes" and when to say "no." Today, I commit to remain in constant communion with You. You are my strength and my provider.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and look at the activities that you engaged in last week and ponder the following questions:
Were they all necessary?
Could they have been done more effectively by someone else?
Was there anything on your schedule that you wished you had said "no" to?
Consider memorizing today's Key Verse and making it the filter for your daily activities.
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This devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Building an Effective Women's Ministry. To learn more about having a balanced life, see A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life, co-authored by Sharon Jaynes and Lysa TerKeurst. Balance isn't easy. That's why it took two of us to write itJ
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October 20, 2011
I Love it When a Plan Comes Together!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Many, LORD my God, are the wonders you have done, the things you planned for us. None can compare with you; were I to speak and tell of your deeds, they would be too many to declare (Psalm 40:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family vacations always begin with "the plan." Before packing one sock or booking one hotel room, the Southerland family is summoned to a family meeting with one item on the agenda – a discussion of the vacation plan. Everyone has the opportunity to make suggestions and share ideas. My husband Dan and I then pool those ideas and make a final decision. Once the destination is chosen, Dan goes to work, charting every stop, logging the number of miles between stops, booking hotel rooms when we can't take any more stops and locating favorite restaurants along the way. When our children were young and still living at home, we fell into a lovely rut as far as vacation spots go. Our favorite vacation spot tended to be nestled somewhere in the smoky mountains of North Carolina. Dan couldn't wait to pack up our faithful old van, plug in the country music and hit the road! He claimed that just this side of the North Carolina state line he could actually begin to smell those mountains.
Over the years, every family member discovered a different reason for loving North Carolina. I was drawn to the quaint little towns filled with antique stores and smiling people. Dan loved the winding mountain roads and slower pace of life while our two children clamored to stop and play in the icy mountain water of every stream or creek they saw. However, their all-time favorite spot was Sliding Rock, a gigantic boulder that has been transformed into a huge water slide by the powerful falls above it.
Our first experience at Sliding Rock – when our son, Jered, was five and our daughter, Danna, was two - proved to be quite an event. Wiggling out of my arms, Jered ran straight to the rock, hurriedly plopped down, squealing with delight as the chilly rushing water carried him over the frozen slab and into the icy pool at the bottom. Danna just watched; her big brown eyes wide with questioning fear as she witnessed her brother's disappearance down the mountain. When Jered's curly head popped out of the water, Danna's face flooded with relief as she clapped and cheered for "Bubba." Dan was next, whooping and hollering Texas style as he catapulted down the watery slide. Coming up for air he held out his arms and shouted, "Danna! Come with me!"
Now my daughter did not fully comprehend what was being asked of her but she undoubtedly did recognize who was asking – her daddy. To my amazement our usually tentative and fearful daughter rushed into the outstretched and familiar arms of her father, tightly clutching his neck as he positioned her in his frozen lap. Down they went! I waited and wondered at the outcome. When they popped up out of the frigid pool, Danna was laughing and sputtering and begging, "We do it again, Daddy! We do it again!" Danna did not understand the plan but she knew and trusted the "plan maker".
We can do the same.
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6, NLT).
God has a unique plan for each one of us that is beyond human understanding or expectation. It is called His will. God has been making His will known from the very beginning of time. In the Garden of Eden, God revealed to Adam and Eve His will or plan for their lives. It is important to note that with the revealed plan He also gave them the choice to obey because He is a loving Father and a gracious God. Knowing that His way was right, God still allowed Adam and Eve to choose the wrong way. They blew it by making the wrong choice - but He still loved them and forgave them. He will do the same for you.
The Bible promises that God's plan is the best plan; the one for which we were created. Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life." God agrees to not only show us the plan, but He promises to provide all of the strength and resources needed to carry out that plan. His sufficient and constant power is unleashed by our choice to accept and follow His blueprint for victorious living.
We were created by the One who knows us best and loves us most. There are no accidents with God. He never has to say, "Oops!" Before we were ever conceived in the heart and mind of man we were conceived in the heart and mind of God - wanted, loved and planned since before the world began. He had a plan in mind and lovingly, purposefully created us in response to that plan.
I know that there are days when the will of God seems completely wrong and we simply do not understand. Every moment is pregnant with darkness and our hearts are numb, paralyzed by fear and doubt. We are treading water in the storm tossed sea of life, desperately longing to see Him walking on the treacherous waves toward us, rescue in His hand. It is in those shadowed moments that we must choose to trust the Plan Maker even though our faith is small and we cannot understand the plan. His ways are higher than our ways. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. And one day, every one of our question marks will be yanked into exclamation points as we see that high plan as He sees it – perfect!
Girlfriend, set aside your meager agenda. Lay down your limited life arrangement and look for God to meet you at the point of surrender - power and victory in His hands. Now that is a great plan!
Let's Pray
Lord, I want everything you have for me in this life! I don't want to settle for anything less than Your best. Teach me how to seek and follow You with my whole heart and how to fully trust You to direct my steps. Thank You for Your love and grace that completes me and fills my life with hope.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."
These verses contain three steps we must take in order to experience one promise that God will make our paths straight. Grab your journal and in your own words, explain what each step requires and what you think God means when He says that He will make our paths straight.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart_________________________________________
Lean not on your own understanding_________________________________________
In all your ways submit to him_______________________________________________
He will make your paths straight_____________________________________________
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Want to be successful in your work? Check out Mary's four-week study, Take This Job and Love It, to discover six principles from the life of the Proverbs 31 woman that will help you be successful in your work, no matter where you work or what your job may be. Study guide included.
Come as You Are, Mary's NEW Online Bible Study, has just begun. Enroll now and have access to all 2011 lessons. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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October 21, 2011
I'm Right Here
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Fear not ... I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you... (Isaiah 43:1-2)
Friend to Friend
While walking into the opening session of a marriage conference that we had been looking forward to, his cellphone rang. He answered the call and we took our seats. As the emcee kicked off the weekend with gracious greetings, my husband, Brad, leaned over and whispered in my ear, "Preston fell on a rock at camp and is on his way to urgent care to get stitches in his chin." He took my hand and whispered again, knowing from my expression that I was alarmed, "It's just a few stitches. He'll be okay, honey."
My stomach flip-flopped. We locked eyes and shared pain – both wounded in the heart for our firstborn son. This was not the way we had imagined that our weekend away would begin. As the session began, my momma-bear instincts kicked in and my mind reeled. Though he was a hundred miles away and though he's a man-cub teenager, I ached to be by Preston's side while the doctor stitched up his chin. I am always by his side when he gets hurt. Yet, there was comfort in knowing that this was "just a few stitches."
As that first session came to a close in prayer, Brad's cell phone invaded the quiet. He leapt up and left the room swiftly to get an update on Preston. Right behind him, I asked repeatedly, "What are they saying? Is everything okay?"
"He said that Preston broke his jaw," Brad said with a tone of disbelief. Again he said, "The x-rays showed that he broke his jaw. I can't believe this. They need us to come get him and take him to Charlotte. He might need surgery."
Gripped by his words, I struggled to think clearly, "A broken jaw? Surgery? It was just supposed to be a few stitches! Well – it's probably just a small fracture. I really hate that I'm not with him right now..." Bags were packed quickly and by the time darkness fell on North Carolina, Charlotte was on the horizon.
The next several hours were a blur of doctors, x-rays, CAT scans and surgery plans. Bad went to worse as we learned that Preston didn't just break his jaw... he broke his jaw in three places, and, as the doctor phrased it, "he pretty much broke his jaw as bad as you can break a jaw." Nice.
Surgery began and the wait was on... and on... and on. The heart-distance between the operating room and the waiting room was a thousand miles. It killed me to not hold his hand and stroke his hair while his jaw was reconstructed for seven and a half hours.
In the wee hours of the morning, surgery was complete and Preston was wheeled to his room. Brad and I rushed to his side as they brought him to his room and though he was heavily sedated, I reached for his hand and assured him, "Preston! I'm right here! I'm right by your side. I will stay here beside you. I know you're in pain, buddy, but you're going to heal well now. I'm right here and I love you." His eyes flickered open for a split second to let Brad and I know that he heard our love then he drifted back to post-surgical sleep.
Several times an hour the nurses came in to check his vitals. I hadn't slept in nearly a day and was thoroughly exhausted, but each time a nurse entered the room I leapt to his side and whispered to my wounded child, "I'm right here, Preston! I'm right here. You're not alone."
After the third or fourth time of reassuring Preston of my presence, I lay back down and whispered to God, "Lord, please heal my son! Please heal him." And in the still of the night, in the quietness of my bleeding momma-heart, my soul sensed Him whispering right back to me, "I'm right here, Gwen! I'm right here. For him. For you. You're not alone."
Peace. I heard the voice of Peace speak His presence and tenderness into my pain. He heard me. He knew of my plight. He knew I needed a word of encouragement. Not an audible word – just a heart whisper. He was right by my side. I knew it as I remembered His Word, "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Peace.
There are times when your heavy heart-burdens cry so loudly that you struggle to hear the voice of Peace. Times when your prayers seem to go unanswered and your broken situations seem unfixable ... and painful. Oh, so painful! We all know ache. We can't get through this life without knowing ache. The Bible says that not a tear falls from your eye that isn't known to God. (Psalm 56:8)
He knows all about your heart-burdens. He knows that you need a word of encouragement today. Hear His whisper now, friend. Whispers from His Word ... from His heart, "I will never leave you or forsake you. I know your name and have engraved it on the palm of my hand. I hold your tears in a bottle and ache with you. My grace is sufficient and I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. I'm right here." (Deuteronomy 31:6, Psalm 139, Psalm 56:8, 2 Corinthians 12:9, John 16:33)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for reminding me that You are always with me, that You see me, and that You hear my prayers. Please help me to know deeper levels of peace today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 43:1-3,5a. "But now, this is what the LORD says— he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior... Do not be afraid, for I am with you."
How does this speak to your circumstances today? To your heart? Pray about it and journal if you're the journaling type... then let's meet on my Facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together. www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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If this devotion resonated with you and if you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, don't miss Gwen's book Broken into Beautiful. Every step of transformation begins with the heart of God. Broken into Beautiful will take you there. To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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October 24, 2011
Giving Back
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Thanks be to God for his indescribable gift! (2 Corinthians 9:15, NIV)
Friend to Friend
My husband sat across the table with a friend who was raising money for their university Alma Mater. The friend was giving a large sum – a very large sum.
"The reason I am giving so much to the school building project is because I owe them so much," he enthusiastically explained. "If it weren't for the school, I wouldn't have this great career and this lifestyle that I enjoy. No telling what I'd be doing. The amount I'm giving is the least I can do as my way of saying thanks. I owe them so much.
Steve and I know this person very well. He's brilliant and would be successful no matter what school he had attended or what profession he selected. But he felt an incredible amount of gratitude to his school for the education and training he had received.
As I reflected on Steve's lunch conversation, God spoke to my heart. See, this man was willing to give because of the education he had received. How much more should I want to give to God because of the eternal life I have received? For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son and whoever believes in Him will never perish but have eternal life! What a sacrifice. What love. What an inheritance. What an education. What an opportunity to receive abundant life – the best "lifestyle" of all.
Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life and have it abundantly," (John10:10). More than an academic education, more than a skill to produce a good income, more than any other man-made institution or ideal, it is God to Whom I owe my gratitude.
Oh how I love Him! Oh how I appreciate Him! Oh how I owe Him for all that I am and ever will be. Where would I be without Him? Thinking about this friend's burning desire to repay the school for all they had done to contribute to his success has compounded my desire to give to God for all He's done for me.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I am overflowing with gratitude for all You have done for me. My life is but a breath, and yet, You loved me enough to give Your one and only Son to pay for sin. I give You my day. I give You my life. May Your incredible gift be ever on my mind today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Name a person who has made a big impact in your life for good.
What did that person do for you?
Now, write down what God has done for you. What did He do on your behalf?
How can you give back to Him? I'd love to hear your answer. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Did you know that Sharon has a devotion book filled with devotions just like the ones you read on Girlfriends in God? It is titled Extraordinary Moments with God. It is a small padded covered book that can fit right in your purse! A perfect gift. See all of Sharon's books and other resources on her website.
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October 25, 2011
The Power of One Broken Seed
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The sacrifice you want is a broken spirit. A broken and repentant heart, O God, you will not despise (Psalm 51:17, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I am famous for my "brown thumb." Even though we have moved several times over the years, changing climates, states, neighborhoods and soil conditions, nothing has altered the fact that if I touch any living plant, its chances for survival are slim. My husband has fared no better in his numerous attempts to plant trees and flowers. I fear that the "brown thumb" disease is contagious. There is more. I see undeniable evidence that this gardening malady is hereditary. My son, bless his heart, has tried to rescue wilted flower after crispy plant from his mother's clutches. But there is hope! My daughter, Danna, is not only able to keep living plants alive for an impressive amount of time, she can plant seeds and green things will actually grow! It is absolutely amazing to me!
When Danna was in kindergarten she had a very creative science teacher, Miss Kay, who constantly planned fun activities and projects for the children. Danna loved her and was always talking about what she learned in science class. One day, as I waited for Danna in the carpool line, I spotted her standing by Miss Kay, grinning from ear to ear, jumping up and down as if she simply could not wait for me to get there. I pulled up, Danna hopped into the car, gave a huge sigh of satisfaction and stretched out her tiny hand, proudly displaying the reason for her enthusiasm - a wadded up paper towel.
Now I am normally very good at being excited about the things my kids find important, but for the life of me, I could not fathom why Danna would be so thrilled with a crumpled paper towel. "Honey, what is that?" I asked. She looked up at me with sparkling brown eyes and whispered, "Mom, there are seeds in here. Miss Kay gave them to me and I am going to plant them and they are going to grow. Can you believe it?"
Given my morbid experience with seeds, I declined to answer that question but instead, chose to join my daughter in her excitement – until I saw the seeds. Evidently, Danna had been carrying them around all day because when she carefully unfolded the paper towel, all I could see was a big mess of broken, mismatched, crushed and crumbled seeds. Looking into the eager eyes of my daughter I said, "Honey, if these seeds don't grow for some reason, remember that we can go to the store and buy some new ones." Clutching the seeds tightly to her heart and safely out of my reach, Danna said, "Mama, they have to grow 'cause I prayed and asked God to please make them grow and He said He would!" I began planning a trip to the gardening center.
Danna was silent all the way home but when we pulled into our driveway she jumped out of the car and darted into the house, leaving her doubting mother behind. Moments later Danna reappeared with a small paper cup in her hand. I watched as she scooped up dirt from the front flower bed and marched confidently back into the house. I followed her, moaning my silent complaint, "Father, do you realize that your reputation is on the line here? Why did she have to pick that particular flower bed, the one we filled with decorative rocks because nothing, not even weeds, would grow there?" Once again I tried to reason with Danna. "Honey, why don't we just buy some new seeds?" Ignoring my obvious lack of faith, Danna stuffed the broken seeds down into the cup, marched to the kitchen sink and, placing the cup under the faucet, turned the water on full blast. Just as fast as the seeds and dirt spilled over the edge of the cup into the sink, Danna scooped them up and poked them back in, all the way to the bottom of the cup so they could not escape.
"Miss Kay says that they have to have sunshine to grow." With this announcement, Danna placed her soggy cup of broken, mismatched seeds on the kitchen window sill that looks out over our screened-in porch; a place purposely designed to receive no sunlight at all. By this time, I knew my words were falling on deaf ears and decided to let God handle this one on His own.
Several days later, I was standing at the kitchen sink preparing dinner, when I glanced out on the porch to see my daughter's faith on spectacular display. A small paper cup filled with green sprouts confronted my doubting heart. I could not believe my eyes. Dropping the potatoes in the sink, I literally ran to Danna's room shouting, "Danna! Danna! Your seeds are growing!" I found her calmly playing "Chutes and Ladders" with Danielle, her best friend. "Danna! Did you hear me? Your seeds are growing!" A brief glance and knowing smile from Danna said it all. "That is so neat, Mom. I knew they would." She and Danielle resumed their game, leaving me to gaze in awe and wonder at the faith of my child who dared to believe in a broken dream.
I know that you are desperately clinging to the broken and mismatched remnants of your life, wondering how you can go on. Whispers of the enemy creep into your heart, soul and mind, taunting you with the lie that you are just too dirty and broken for God to love or use. It seems as if nothing and no one can change that reality, so you might as well give up, throwing your life away.
Nothing could be further from the truth, girlfriend. In fact, God is drawn to broken people, choosing the most broken to do His highest work. His light shines best through broken people. Never underestimate the power of one, tiny broken seed. Placed in the right hands, it will surely grow into an expression of His beauty for all to see.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, broken and desperate for Your love and grace. Please heal the broken places in my life. I surrender my hurt and pain to You and ask You to transform it all into something beautiful that glorifies You. I choose to trust You – not my feelings or human understanding. I choose to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you really want God to change your life and teach you how to embrace your pain, you must be willing to make several choices:
I choose faith over doubt.
I choose to believe God's Word over man's wisdom or logic.
I choose to stand firm and trust God when the storms of life come.
I choose to count on God's holiness and perfect plan for my life instead of my effort.
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Women are amazing! Every day, we receive e-mails from women who are facing seemingly impossible circumstances, and yet choose to believe and cry out to God. Doesn't sound like enough, does it? In reality, it is everything! No matter where you are, God is with you...and so are we! For more help, check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap, to discover 9 practical ways to overcome overload. Looking for a Bible Study? Be sure to check out my E-Book Bible Study, Strength for the Storm.
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October 26, 2011
Getting to the Root of the Problem
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man (or woman) of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago I owned a car that continually overheated. The first time I saw the little red needle pointing to the big H on the dashboard, I assumed it meant the car was hot. It was in the middle of August and frankly, I was hot too, so I wasn't terribly alarmed. I decided to mosey on down to the dealership about twelve miles away to have it checked out. Big mistake.
After about a minute or so, steam began billowing from under the hood, the engine began knocking angrily, and the little engine that could, decided it couldn't any longer. It died in the middle of a busy intersection on a Friday afternoon in 5:00 traffic. The car was towed to the dealership where the mechanic delivered the unfortunate news.
"Mrs. Jaynes, you see that needle that is pointing to the 'H'?" the repairman asked. "That means that the engine is runnin' hot. When you see that, you've got to stop right away. Since you kept goin', you burned up your engine. It's a goner. You'll have to get a new one."
"That sounds expensive," I moaned.
"Oh, it'll be about four thousand dollars," he answered, while continuing to poke around under the hood.
Four thousand dollars! And all because I didn't stop the car when it overheated...all because I didn't heed the warning signs. It was a painful and costly lesson.
The mechanic installed a new engine. You can imagine my alarm when I noticed that little red needle pointing to H a few weeks later. This time, I stopped right away. Once again, my car was towed to the dealership. Once again, they made adjustments, gave reassurances, and sent me on my way.
Over the following weeks, my car overheated three times. Each time, it was towed to the shop and the mechanic made adjustments. Finally, I said, "No more." I got rid of the car.
The trouble was, the mechanic never fixed the cause of the problem, but only tinkered with the symptoms. He fixed first one thing and then another, but never got to the root of the problem to find out why the car was overheating in the first place.
How like us. We continue to tinker, fixing one flaw and then another, but never getting to the root of the problem. Many times when reading the Bible, we want the "how to-s" without the "why for-s." In this age of instant messaging, instant food, and microwave cooking, we want a quick fix without understanding the deep truths of Scripture. We say, "Just tell me what to do and I'll do it." "Give me a ten-step program and I'll check off the steps one by one." But in order to experience lasting change – we must begin with ultimate truth.
When we dig deep into Scripture, we discover the root cause of our problems and God's amazing solutions.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I have been tinkering with my problems long enough. My hot button has gone off more times than I care to admit. Would you please show me the root cause of this problem? You are the Heavenly mechanic and my engine is in need of repair. I open my hood (heart) to You and pray that you will help me run like a well-Holy Spirit - oiled machine.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time your emotion meter hit H for Hot?
What was the problem?
Now look at your answer. Did you blame it on someone else? If so, you are tinkering, tinkering, tinkering. (I love you, girlfriend.)
Think...pray...now answer the question again. What was the problem?
More from the Girlfriends
Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful, takes us back to the root cause of the problems in all of our lives and how God wants to fix it. Most of what we call problems or characters flaws are only symptoms. If you would like to get under the hood with God and take a look at what's broken so He can fix it, then this book is for you! This book also comes with a Bible study guide that is perfect for group or individual study.
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October 27, 2011
Never Lost
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands... (Isaiah 49:16a)
Friend to Friend
A few years ago our family got a bouncy little puppy named Roman. One of the first things we did when Roman became a Smith was head to the pet store for doggie supplies. In addition to purchasing chew toys, a collar, and food, we ordered Roman a nameplate to go on his collar in case he ever gets lost. The cashier sold us two tokens for the tag, and sent us to the other side of the store to the engraving machine.
The kids and I approached the engraving machine with giddy hearts. After we slid the two metal tokens into the coin slot, we looked at our ID options and settled on the blue bone for Roman's collar. Then the engraving machine prompted us to enter Roman's puppy information. Once we were satisfied that all the information was accurate, I gave the command for the computer to begin the engraving.
The machine engraved just one letter at a time. With each stroke of the machine's needle, Roman's name began to appear, along with our address and phone number. When the engraving was finished, we immediately put the tag onto Roman's collar. The blue bone boasts that Roman belongs to the Smith family.
For us, in this world, we have to put our names on things so we don't lose them. We put our names on our luggage, on our pet collars, on our backpacks, and in our Bibles. I even have a "page" button on my cordless phone so it can beep when I lose the phone in my house. I've also been known to lose my keys, my driver's license, my cell phone and my purse. (Scary!) Thankfully, God doesn't have the same problem with losing things. He doesn't need to put His name on anything. What's His is His forever.
If you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ, take comfort in the fact that you can never be lost and that you are never out of God's sight. There might be times when you feel invisible - times when you feel lost – times when you stubbornly choose your ways over His – or times when you feel alone, but the Bible tells us that your name is engraved on the palms of God's hands, and that nothing can separate you from God's love or snatch you from His hand. Nothing.
"I'm absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between us and God's love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us." Romans 8:38-39, MSG
"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, andthey will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father,who has given them to me,is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out ofthe Father's hand." John 10:27-29, ESV
"All whom My Father gives (entrusts) to Me will come to Me; and the one who comes to Me I will most certainly not cast out [I will never, no never, reject one of them who comes to Me]." John 6:37, AMP
God knows your name. He knows where you live. He's got your number. You're never lost. Praise Him!
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thank you for engraving my name on the palms of your hands. Please help me to remember the way home when I get lost, distracted or confused. "Because Your love is better than life, and my lips will glorify you!" (Psalm 63:3, NIV)
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans chapter 8 today.
How does it make you feel to know that nothing can separate you from God's love? Let's talk about it on my Facebook wall: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
How committed is your love for Him? Do your daily choices line up with His standard? Take a moment to ask God to search your heart and reveal how your ways could line up better with His standard.
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As a mother, I know what it is to love a child, but as much as I can love my kids – the love I have is stained with imperfections. God loves perfectly...no matter what. Be sure to relish that thought today – and spend a few moments to direct the attention of your heart to His in worship!
GOT BEAUTY? God delights to transform lives...including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work. He is willing to eternally forgive and forget and to transform your life into something beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
NEED SOME SOUL REST? Check out Gwen's new CD, Uncluttered.Now available oniTunes! The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ.
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October 28, 2011
Fresh Hope for the Journey Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I had almost forgotten what it felt like to wake up at the bottom of that deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. The darkness has been an all too familiar companion for most of my life. Over the years, I tried just about everything to soothe the pain in my heart and mind – things like success in ministry, the approval of others, perfectionism, doing good things, and food – to name a few.
In 1995, the bottom fell out of my life and I spent two long years climbing out of that pit of darkness. I even wrote a book, "Hope in the Midst of Depression" that describes the painful but healing journey that totally and completely changed who I was and what I would become in the years ahead. God absolutely "re-defined" me and gave me a "new song" to sing as He opened doors for me speak to women across the world about how to find hope in the midst of depression. I have often said, "I would go through that pit experience again tomorrow because of what God has done in my life through it." I really meant those words. I just didn't think that "tomorrow" would come. But it has. So what do I do now?
I go back to the place where it all began – to the place of complete brokenness - and remember. Evidently, I have forgotten some of truths God taught me in the darkness. I have surrendered right priorities to the wrong plan and failed to hear God's voice above all others.
Depression may not be the problem you are facing, but the hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. But a pit is a pit – a place of paralyzing fear and numbing doubt that is constantly fed by our human frailty and desperate attempts to escape the darkness.
Over the next two days, we will explore four steps we can take in order to find fresh hope and new freedom from the darkness. Let's get started!
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
I recently underwent what I thought was going to be a simple medical procedure, but when I woke up in recovery, I knew I was in trouble. According to the doctor, the surgery went great but she had not expected to find so much scar tissue and repair work to do and I certainly had not expected to experience the level of pain, soreness and inability to function that overwhelmed me. I was basically helpless. I had given myself a whole ten days to recuperate but it was brutally obvious that recuperation was going to be a long time coming. In fact, those ten days I had so generously carved out of my schedule turned into months of painful and slow recovery. I could feel myself sliding into that familiar pit of darkness.
You see, I have a problem with pride. It has always been extremely hard for me to accept help. I was raised to be strong and independent. When anyone asked what they could do to help out during my recovery, I automatically responded with, "I am fine. I will let you know if I need anything." Fortunately, my family and friends ignored that absurd assertion and stepped right over my pride as they brought meals, cleaned house, did laundry, assumed my teaching and speaking responsibilities and kept our infant grandson while our daughter attended school three days a week. I could not even get out of bed or go downstairs without help – and I did not like it one bit! In fact, I was furious!
Just like a tiny flame can turn into a raging fire, unresolved anger can turn into depression. As I began to work through my own anger and frustration, one purpose of this particular pit quickly emerged as God reminded me of a truth I often share but fail to practice. We were created to need God and each other. It is so easy to slide into a pattern of thinking much like the prideful toddler who announces, "I do it myself!"
We can't! And the good news is that we don't have to! Lay down your pride, girlfriend, and let fresh hope fill your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I cannot deal with the darkness and climb out of this pit in my own strength. I recognize my human frailty. I am desperate without You and I choose to trust You and rest in Your sufficiency. Make me more like Jesus and teach me the truths You have for me in this pit.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pits can bring life to a screeching halt, demanding that we change our perspective of living and examine our priorities in light of that new perspective. Read 1 Peter 1:6. Compare your perspective to the one described in this verse.
Pits make us face and admit our weaknesses and come to the conclusion that we cannot live life in our own strength. Read 2 Corinthians 12:10. Make a list of your weaknesses and struggles and thank God for each one. Celebrate the power of God's grace in your life.
Pits can strengthen our faith if we allow them to. Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. How has God's power helped you face and deal with the darkness?
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One of the reasons that "Girlfriends in God" exists is because Sharon, Gwen and I recognize our desperate need for God and for the friendships of other women who are seeking Him as well. We really do want to be "God with skin on" in your life.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies that you can download for your personal use and/or for a small group study. Are you or someone you love battling the darkness? Get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and discover how God delivered her from the pit of depression.
Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, is a great Bible study tool as well. Check it out! The current topic is Come As You Are.
Need a friend?Connect with Mary on Face book or through email. She loves hearing what God is doing in your life!
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October 31, 2011
Fresh Hope for the Journey Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. What can we do to find hope in the midst of the darkness?
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
Step 2: Choose a response to the pit.
We have several choices about how to deal with the pain and darkness in life. We can become bitter and blame God for the pain or we can give up and wallow in the mire and mud of that slimy pit. I am guilty of plastering a smile on my face, gritting my teeth and denying that the pit even exists. However, the choice we should make is to trust God, knowing He will deliver us in and from the pit. The Apostle Paul was an expert when it came to squeezing a seed of victory and truth out of every tough circumstance.
2 Corinthians 12:7-9 "So that I would not become too proud of the wonderful things that were shown to me, a painful physical problem was given to me. I begged the Lord three times to take this problem away from me.But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you.'"
Paul was not sinning by asking God to remove his affliction. Paul may not have understood what God was doing, but he chose to accept it because he knew God's heart. Paul may not have understood God's process but he trusted God.
Step 3: Embrace the power of the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you. When you are weak, my power is made perfect in you.' So I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
God was sending Paul a message of hope. It is important to note the tense of the verb in this verse, "But he said to me" can be translated "He (God) has once-for-all said to me." It is an eternal promise.
The story is told of a business man who was selling warehouse property that had been empty for months. Since vandals had damaged the doors, smashed the windows and left garbage, the building needed expensive repairs. As the owner showed a prospective buyer the property, he was quick to explain that he would make any repairs needed. The buyer said, "Forget the repairs. When I buy this place, I'm going to build something completely different. I don't want the building – just the site."
God's grace turns defeat into victory, tragedy into triumph and weakness into strength by providing real power over circumstances. People without Christ can muster up enough courage and human strength to get through a trial. God will not only enable us to survive the hard times, He wants us to thrive in and because of them. Paul used his pain and chose to make that pit work for him – and God's power was unleashed in Paul's life.
Step 4: Find joy in the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
Joy is not an earthly treasure but a heavenly gift from our loving Father who is committed to the joy of His children. I am convinced that God entrusts the greatest trials to those who will respond to them in the right way. Some of the most joyful people I know have suffered the most because they have learned not to live on explanations but on promises – the promises of God.
I love the story of the little girl who misquoted her favorite Bible verse, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son so that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have ever-laughing life." Jesus wants to give us a life of joy, pits and all. We need to remember that joy is the deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control and that our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outer circumstances. We can find joy in the pit.
Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of the book, Man's Search for Meaning, was imprisoned by the Nazis in World War II because he was a Jew. His wife, children and parents were killed in the Holocaust. As the Gestapo stripped away his clothes and cut off his wedding band, Victor said to himself, "You can take away my family and destroy everything I possess, but there is one thing that no person can ever take from me - my freedom to choose how I react to what happens to me."
Let's Pray
Father, thank You that You are my strength and my joy at a time when I feel so weak, trapped in a pit of despair. By faith, I turn to You and seek Your forgiveness for the pride that blinds me to the hope I can find in You. Please help me to see Your hand at work in my life and even when I can't, give me the power to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3.
Record these verses in your journal.
When the darkness comes, remember each promise and count on God's grace.
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I really hope and pray that these devotions have met a need in your life. We are living in difficult and dark times for so many people. If you are one of them, we want you to realize that you are not alone. Maybe God wants to use you to encourage someone else battling the darkness. Know that we are praying for you and walking with you – over every mountain – through every valley – girlfriends in God. Blessings.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies that you can download for your personal use and/or for a small group study. Are you or someone you love battling the darkness? Get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and discover how God delivered her from the pit of depression.
Mary's weekly online Biblestudy, Light for the Journey, is a great Bible study tool as well. Check it out! The current topic is Come As You Are.
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November 1, 2011
Old Enough to Learn
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth (Psalm 86:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The little girl bounced up and down, trying to see over the bank counter as her daddy made a deposit. She was about three feet tall and not quite big enough to get a clear view.
"How old are you?" the teller asked.
The little girl stood up straight and tall and said, "I'm four years old, and next year I'm going to be five, and then I'll be old enough to learn!"
Of course we know she'd been learning her entire life. Being five just meant she could go to school.
Then God reminded me that sometimes His children put off learning about Him until...well, later. When the kids go off the school. When a big project is completed. When retirement rolls around. But the time for learning about God is now. All day God speaks to us through creation, other people, and our circumstances, but the primary way we learn about Him is through the pages of the Bible. He has written us an incredible love letter filled with precious promises, comforting commands, and godly guidelines just waiting to be discovered. The Hebrew word for "Bible" actually means, "The calling out of God." He is calling out to us from the pages of our Bibles. And we're never too young or too old to learn.
Because you're reading this Girlfriends in God devotion, I'm thinking you have decided that now is the time to learn. We're right there with you, locking arms with you in this journey to become a woman who listens to God day by day to discover the abundant life Jesus came to give.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for teaching me. Help me to become a diligent student of Your Word who uncovers treasures on every page of Scripture. Open my eyes to discover Your truths and my heart to apply them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 119 and mark or highlight everything David had to say about how much he loved God's Word! This is a long passage. David really, really loved God's Word. You might need to break it down into several days.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our everyday life.
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November 2, 2011
Are You Ready for the Holidays?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told (Luke 2:16-20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues." I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it. We have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing – even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On one particular program, an interior decorator and home owner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised she had listed that task first – until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold, but was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark and isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level – refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay. Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place or push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sink hole waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. Before we realize it, the dark, slimy pit swallows us up. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend! Now is the time to do something about it!
Thanksgiving can be a time of praise if we choose to focus on the victories and joys we have experienced during the year then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings - if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, get ready for the holidays by choosing an attitude of joy, by focusing your mind on the things of heaven - not earth - and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to be one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to re-visit the holiday season from last year.
What was the best part of those holidays for you? Why?
List three changes you would like to make this year.
What is the first step you need to take to make those changes happen?
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can your choice to "ponder" on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made concerning this holiday season. Make a step-by-step plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Can you believe the holidays are just around the corner? If you need help learning how to prevent and control holiday stress, check out Mary's MP3 ... How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas.
Need help learning how to study the Bible? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies that you can download for your personal use and/or for a small group study. Are you or someone you love battling the darkness? Get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and discover how God delivered her from the pit of depression.
Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, is a great Bible study tool as well. Check it out! The current topic is Come As You Are.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Face book or through email. She loves hearing what God is doing in your life!
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November 3, 2011
The Spelling Train
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When I am weak, then I am strong (2 Corinthians 12:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
My hands were clammy. Beads of sweat formed on my brow. A familiar knot in the pit of my stomach threatened to push me toward the restroom, and my dry tongue began cleave to the roof of my mouth. It was 10:25 a.m. In just five more minutes the dreaded event would begin.
When I was in the first grade, the one academic exercise I feared more than any other was the spelling train. It was sheer torture—at least for me.
"Okay, students," Mrs. March would say. "Everyone pick up your chairs and move them over to the chalk board. It's time for the spelling train."
Twenty first graders slipped their munchkin-sized chairs from their desks to form a semi-circle around our chief engineer. I always put mine at the end.
"Now remember the rules," she explained. "I am going to hold up a flash card. If you read the word correctly, you get to go to the front of the train. If you miss it, you have to go to the caboose."
She held up the cards one by one, and the class chugged along at a quick pace. Dog. Sally. Bob. Spot. Red. Blue. Mother. Stop. Run. Then it was my turn.
"Sharon, what is this word?"
Pause. Giggles.
Well, more often than not I had no idea. And when that happened, I would either guess wrong or sit in silence. I spent most of my time in the first grade spelling train in the caboose.
As the year progressed, I did move up into the passenger cars a few times, but usually I didn't stay there long enough to keep the seat warm. There was one particular word that kept me from ever visiting the engine: T-h-e. So Mrs. March decided she was going to help me. For two weeks she made me wear a name tag that read "THE" plastered on my chest like the scarlet letter. I can still remember kids coming up to me on the playground, pointing at THE on my chest, and saying, "Hey, what's that? Why are you wearing that? Is your name The? Are you stupid?"
Eventually I did learn how to spell the word t-h-e, but that's not all I learned. I learned that I was stupid, not as smart as everybody else, and just not good enough. But you know what? That wasn't true. Those were lies from the enemy. And it took many years for God to hold me by the hand and help me see myself as He sees me: a uniquely created, dearly loved, completely forgiven, and totally accepted child of God who is capable of doing everything He has called me to do by the power of the Holy Spirit.
That was more than forty years ago, and now I have found joy in stringing written words together. I've noticed that life has many unusual twists and turns when God is at the helm. He takes our greatest weaknesses and turns them into our grandest strengths. That's what happens when we turn our lives over to Him—we get out of the caboose and get to ride up with the chief engineer to places we never imaged possible. When we are weak, then He is strong.
Where are you in the train of life right now? If you're hiding in the back, listen closely and you just might hear God calling you up front where you belong.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, it's amazing to think of all You have done in my life. You have taken my greatest weaknesses and turn them into my greatest strengths. When I am weak, through the power of the Holy Spirit I am strong. Thank You for working in me and through me. And help me never to believe the lies of the enemy that say "I'm not enough" again.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture Reading: 2 Corinthians 11:1–12:10
Can you think of one way God has taken one of your weaknesses and turn it into one of your strengths? If so, I'd love to hear about it. Let's share on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy day. For more on the topic of today's devotion, see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves.
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November 4, 2011
Turning On the Lights
Lori Fairchild
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Lori Fairchild.
Today's Truth
I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life (John 8:12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My friend's 5-year-old daughter, Lexi, likes to have the lights on. It doesn't matter if it's the middle of the day; she wants the lights to be on. She goes around the house and turns on every light switch, even the outside lights.
Her mom told me she once came home and found not only every light in the house turned on, but every closet door in the house open as well. Lexi was apparently shining light into all the dark corners of the house.
Now, this might just be an amusing quirk of childhood, except for one thing. Three years ago, Lexi was adopted from a Russian orphanage. I don't know how much you know about Russian orphanages, but they're not well-funded institutions. There are lots of kids and not a lot of anything else. In her young life, Lexi was most likely hungry, lonely and scared. When my friends adopted her, she had never been outside the grounds of the orphanage.
I don't know how much Lexi remembers about the orphanage, but I think her soul was left with a permanent yearning for light – both physical light and spiritual light. That orphanage in Russia may have had lights, but it was an emotionally dark place. Whether Lexi knows it or not, it left her with a need for light in her life.
Yet, Lexi isn't really that different than the rest of us. We all yearn for light. We may not have spent our early years in a literal "dark place" like a Russian orphanage, but we have all walked in darkness. Yet our souls yearn for light.
Sometimes the world can be a dark, lonely and scary place. At times it may seem like we're walking down a dark tunnel that seems to have no end.
Yet, that's not what God has in mind for us. We don't have to walk in darkness. He sent His Son to die for us so we could walk in light. Jesus told us "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life" (John 8:12, NIV).
Have you ever noticed when you turn on a light in a dark room, the darkness disappears? Even a small candle brings light into darkness. Darkness can never overwhelm the light. It must flee when light appears.
When Jesus enters the picture, evil and darkness must flee. With His death and resurrection, Jesus defeated death. He defeated Satan. And He defeated the darkness.
Just as a candle lights a room, so Jesus lights our lives. And the great thing about Jesus' light is that it's unlimited. Unlike the candle that will eventually burn out, Jesus' light is eternal.
He wants to lead us with His light, but Jesus also wants us to share that light with others – to bring light into the darkness of their lives.
Jesus said "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:14-16, NIV).
If you and a friend were trapped in a dark cave and you found a source of light, would you hide it from your friend, letting her sit in darkness while you took in the light? No. You would share it so you could both find the way out.
Jesus is that light – the one that leads the way out of despair to hope. We do our friends a disservice when we choose to hide the light of Jesus from them. He wants us to shine His light into all the dark corners of our worlds.
We never know when our friends are seeking a light that we can provide. Don't let the fear of rejection or embarrassment keep you from letting your light shine to your friends. You can never go wrong by letting the light shine and forcing darkness to flee.
Let's Pray
Lord, let me be a light in the darkness. Help me to shine Your light into all the dark corners in my world. Don't let me be ashamed of Your light and try to hide it. Let my friends and family see Your light in me and yearn to bask in its glow.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Jesus' light cannot be overcome with darkness. Every time you flip a light switch today, remind yourself that darkness must flee in the presence of light – and there is no greater light than Jesus. Memorize this verse. Say it whenever you turn on a light.
In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcomeit. (John 1:4-5, NIV)
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November 7, 2011
The Taste Berry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name (Psalm 138:2, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Alexander Whyte, the Scottish preacher, always began every prayer with praise. One brutally cold Sunday, his people filed into the church, wondering what the preacher could possibly find to praise God for on such a miserable day. Alexander Whyte stood, bowed his head and prayed, "O Lord, we thank Thee that it is not always like this."
Are there times when you don't feel like praising God? Honestly, our feelings are irrelevant when it comes to praising God. Praise is not about us. Praise is all about God. Praise is a deliberate choice and a learned habit that produces contentment and an attitude of gratitude.
In Philippians 4:11, the Apostle Paul writes, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances." In this verse, "learned" means to be "educated by experience" and the word "content" means "contained." Paul's contentment was the result of the resources contained in his heart. In other words, Paul used his circumstances as tutors in the school of praise. He learned how to give God praise even when he was beaten, ridiculed, in prison and facing his own death. Paul's attitude did not reflect his circumstances. Paul made a deliberate choice to praise God – no matter what. Why? Because Paul knew that even when he did not understand God's process, he could trust God's heart.
Let's pretend for just a moment. Suppose I went to my local bank and tried to cash a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that when I presented that check to the teller, she would have burst out laughing. She knows what I have in my bank account. Now suppose Bill Gates walked into his bank and presented the teller with a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that the teller would not burst out laughing. In fact, she would promptly cash that check. She knows what Bill Gates has in his bank account.
When we come to Jesus Christ, all of His promises are credited to our spiritual account. And there is a money-back guarantee on every promise of God. That is why we can praise Him – no matter what.
Praise invites God to take up residence in the middle of whatever mess we are facing.
Psalm 22:3 "But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel."
Praise produces trust in God and strengthens our faith.
Psalm 42:11 "But, O my soul, don't be discouraged. Don't be upset. Expect God to act! For I know that I shall again have plenty of reason to praise him for all that he will do. He is my help! He is my God!"
In Africa, there is a fruit called the "taste berry" that literally changes a person's taste buds so everything tastes sweet and pleasant. Sour fruit, even if eaten several hours after the taste berry, becomes sweet and delicious.
Praise is the "taste berry" for every Christian. Praise is more than emotions or spoken words, singing songs or lifting up hands in worship. True praise is the celebration of God, His power, His works and His greatness. Praise is the fruit of a committed heart and the tool of a life completely surrendered to God.
When we are discouraged, praise reminds us that there is hope in God.
When we are afraid, praise reminds us that no matter what happens, God is with us.
When we are lost, praise reminds us that God has already been where He is leading us.
When we are confused, praise reminds us that heaven is not in a panic.
Right now, girlfriend, lift up your head and praise your God. He is with you and He is more than enough.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for Your love and Your mercy. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I praise You for sending Jesus to die in my place, to pay for my sin. I praise You for the family and friends You have given me. I praise You for this ministry of Girlfriends in God and for every woman who reads each word. Please bless them and fill their hearts with Your presence and Your power as they praise You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Not it's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and fill in each blank.
I will praise God with ________________.
Psalm 34:1 "I will praise the Lord no matter what happens. I will constantly speak of his glories and grace."
I will praise God with ________________.
Ephesians 5:19 "Speak to one another with psalms."
I will praise God with _____________.
Psalm 69:30 "Then I will praise God with my singing!"
I will praise God with my ____________.
2 Corinthians 5:15 "He died for all so that all who live--having received eternal life from him--might live no longer for themselves, to please themselves, but to spend their lives pleasing Christ who died and rose again for them."
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I wish I could reach through the computer screen and give you a hug, girlfriend! No matter what you are facing, God is with you and so are we. You are not alone. I pray that God will become more real to you as you praise Him. We would love to pray for you and with you. E-mail your prayer requests to our team of prayer warriors.
Free resources are available on Mary's website. Need a friend? Connect with me on Facebook or through email.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies that you can download for your personal use and/or for a small group study. Are you or someone you love battling the darkness? Get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and discover how God delivered her from the pit of depression.
Mary's weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, is a great Bible study tool as well. Check it out! The current topic is Come As You Are.
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November 8, 2011
Lessons from the Battlefield
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my early years, I was a rough and rowdy tomboy who climbed trees, skipped rocks, and made skid marks on the asphalt with my glittery pink banana seat bike. My backyard was the envy of every kid in the neighborhood. It came equipped with a drainage ditch across the back border that separated us from a vacant, thickly wooded lot. The ditch tunneled beneath six city blocks through concrete pipes large enough to stand up in and walk through, and culminated in a very large crater we dubbed "The Canyon." How do I know you could stand up in them? You guessed. We did it.
To the kids in the neighborhood, the ditch was a virtual wonderland filled with all kinds of creepy, crawly critters to be discovered. I felt like the luckiest kid around to have such an attraction right in my own backyard.
On the other side of "The Canyon" lived another neighborhood that was a bit rougher than ours. We dubbed the boys who lived there the "Canyon Boys." Great animosity existed between the Canyon Boys and the boys in our neighborhood (of which I thought I was one).
One day the warring factions decided there was going to be a big rumble between the two. The time: 2:00 p.m. The place: the drainage ditch bordering my backyard. The weapon of choice: dirt clods.
We boys gathered in my yard on the east side of the ditch as the enemy gathered in the vacant lot on the west. We gathered our ammo, hunkered down behind mounds of dirt and trees, and waited for the first shot to be fired. Then it began. Clods of hardened mud flew left and right. At some point during this heated battle, I peeked out from behind a tree to throw a grenade, and something hit me square in the forehead. I wasn't sure what it was, but it didn't feel like dirt. As blood poured down my brow, I looked on the ground and saw the culprit. A brick.
"You cheated!" I yelled at the enemy forces.
Fearing I had suffered a fatal blow, the enemies ran for their lives. My buds ran to get my mom (who had no idea what was going on in the backyard), and I was whisked away to the hospital. The doctor shaved a patch of hair from my forehead, sewed my skin back together, and placed a patch over the wound. Oh, it wasn't as nifty as a broken arm or a broken leg, but having your head spit open by a rival was pretty cool.
Some of my hair never grew back in that spot and I have a scar to remind me of a few facts about fighting foes.
1. The enemy cheats.
The enemy slings more than just dirt.
The enemy has great aim.
The enemy's attacks sometimes leave scars.
The enemy is not playing a game.
I don't fight with bullies anymore—at least, not the human kind. But I do have one nemesis that challenges me regularly. The Bible calls him the "great deceiver," "the accuser," "the devil," "the evil one." Interestingly, the same lessons I learned from that dirt clod fight apply to him today.
What about you? Do you know how to fight the spiritual battles in your life? Ephesians 6:10-20 is a great place to start.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, today I put on the full armor of God to stand against the enemy's schemes: the helmet of salvation, the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, and the sandals of the gospel of peace. I also take up the shield of faith in one hand and the sword of the Spirit in the other. Now I'm ready to take my stand.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture Reading:Ephesians 6:10-20
Let's pray for each other today. Visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share your prayer request. Then pray for the GiG sister whose entry is listed below yours. Let's lock shields and march into battle together! (Have I told you lately just how much I love doing life with you?)
More from the Girlfriends
Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy days.
Seeking God?
Click here to find out more about
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November 9, 2011
It's Time to Do Something!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another (1 John 4:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I could not tear my eyes away from the television screen as the 33 miners began to emerge from the depths of what could have been their mass grave. The men had been trapped for more than two months in the collapsed Chilean copper mines nearly half a mile underground. Everything I have read or heard about the tragedy is extraordinary.
The miners survived the early days by rationing food and working together as a team. Each man was assigned a job, one of which was to maintain peace and harmony until they were rescued. The selfless mining supervisor who insisted on being the last to leave his underground prison showed the world what it really means to put others first. I was amazed at the selflessness of the rescue worker who became the initial guinea pig for the rescue capsule and then chose to stay behind – alone - while the world celebrated above.
I wonder how long it will take us to forget. How long will we remember that the world came together to save a group of strangers? Will the powerful lessons of their rescue make any difference in the way we treat each other?
We all know what it is like to be trapped in a pit of some kind. It is probably not a collapsed mine, but pits are all basically the same.
Our world has collapsed under the weight of fear and pain.
No one seems to care. In fact, a lot of people have written us off as a lost cause.
People are too busy to recognize or understand our hopelessness.
Darkness prevails and rescue seems impossible.
We are wounded, sick and tired.
Civil war rages in our souls as we struggle to obey God instead of giving in to sin.
I truly believe that every day is filled with divine appointments – opportunities to rescue people who are trapped in some kind of pit. We miss the emptiness reflected in the eyes of the sales clerk or simply choose to ignore the homeless man begging for money so he can buy food. After all, we are in a hurry and have more important things to do. The sales clerk would probably be embarrassed if I said anything and that homeless man would probably just use the money I give him for drugs or alcohol.
The ringing phone is someone in need but we don't care enough to answer. Our neighbor does not know God but her life is a mess and we really don't want to get involved. Instead of taking action and doing what we know God wants us to do, we decide it is enough to pray for that neighbor and leave the messy part of God's work to someone else.
I am so guilty of walking away from someone in need instead of running to their rescue. I am in pain, too, and my pain is more important than theirs. I may not actually say those words, but I don't have to. My actions are blatant illustrations of my own egotism and self-absorption.
I do not want to be like the priest who nonchalantly strolled by the wounded and bleeding man lying on the road. I want to be like the Good Samaritan who stopped and saved the wounded man's life. I want to be "God with skin on."
One day, just as rescue workers descended into that Chilean mine, Jesus Christ will descend into this broken world and rescue us from the pit of human frailty. Until then, let's be His hands and feet. Let's love Him so much that we just have to do something about it.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart of praise for the way You meet every need in my life and how You constantly rescue me from the darkness. I want Your heart, Lord. I want to be Your hands and feet to the people You place in my path. Give me eyes to see their need and the courage to do something about it. Please guard my heart against pride and selfishness. I want to please and honor You alone.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is sometimes hard to love someone in need, but God calls us to look beyond their rough exterior and see the pain hidden there.
Read Ephesians 4:2. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Notice the action words. What would your daily life look like if you took action and lived out this verse?
Is there someone in your life who is hurting? How can you ease their pain?
Is there someone in your life who is wounded? How can you help them heal?
Is there someone in your life who has fallen into some kind of pit? How can you help rescue them?
Make a specific plan to meet a specific need in someone's life today. Then do something about it!
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We are living in tough times. It is easy to get so wrapped up in our own problems that we fail to see the needs of others. Today, I am issuing a challenge to all of us, girlfriends! Look around. Find someone in need and take action. We are never more like our Father than when we love and serve someone in His name.
I would love to hear your story! How did God use you to meet a need in the life of someone? How did someone meet your need?
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November 10, 2011
Grandma's Hands
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (Proverbs 31:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On a shelf in my living room sits a black-and-white photograph of a young girl taken in the early 1900s. Her hair is pulled back with an oversized bow peeking from behind the edges of her head. Her dress is typical of the times, with puffed sleeves and a brimming lace collar resting on her shoulders. She isn't smiling, and she appears to be somewhat awkward, timid, and, I dare say, even afraid. This is a picture of Grandmother Anderson on her wedding day. She was 14 years old.
As I gaze at this amazing woman who bore 12 children and miscarried 11 others, I am always drawn to her hands. Hanging uncomfortably at her side are hands that seem much too large for her petite frame. "Anderson hands," my mother calls them. I surmise that God must have known this little lady would need a big heart and big hands to embrace all that life would send her way.
Like Grandmother Anderson, all mothers need big hearts and big hands. A mother's hands grip the bed rail in pain in the delivery room and then gently caress a newborn for the first time. Before long, those hands are changing diapers, washing bottoms and faces, cleaning spit-up, wiping tears, rocking sleepyheads, and placing babies in a crib. Then they are holding a toddler's chubby hand and grabbing him to keep him out of harm's way. Tossing a ball, preparing holiday dinners, setting a festive table, tying packages for birthday parties and Christmas presents. Coloring and cutting out shapes in workbooks. Picking up leaves and bugs for collections.
Pushing a swing and letting go of a bike as a child first learns to peddle on his own. Sewing party dresses and mending torn baseball jerseys, washing scraped knees and spooning out medicine. Holding the sweaty palm of an awkward adolescent while dancing around the den, tying the knot of a necktie and pinning on a boutonniere for a first party. Writing letters to children away at camp, or folding hands in prayer asking for the Lord's protection while they are away. Tightly grasping the steering wheel while chauffeuring children from one place to the next or gripping the seat as a teen learns how to drive.
Hands that wave goodbye as a son drives off to college and hands that adjust a cherished daughter's wedding veil. A mother's hands are loving hands, disciplining hands, grieving hands, protecting hands, and providing hands. They embrace the child and then, when the child is ready, she opens them and lets them go.
Take a look at your hands today and ask God how He would have you use them. If you are are mom, thank God for all the ways He lets you use your hands to bless your children. If you are not a mom, thank God for all the hands that He has used to bless you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for holding me always in the palm of Your hands. I pray today that I will use my hands for good: to help a child, to give a hug, to pat a back, to cook a meal, to touch with kindness, to caress with love. I lift up my hands to praise You and fold them in prayer to intercede.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture Reading:Proverbs 31:10-31
Today, take a good look at your hands. Think about your hands. Thank God for your hands. Throughout the day, make a list of all the ways God allows you to use your hands to minister to other people. Let's make a list! Visit www.facebook.comand share how you used your hands to bless others today. Don't be shy! This will be fun. You can also list how someone else used her hands to bless you.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our everyday life. And if you are a mom who needs some encouragement today, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.
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November 11, 2011
Image vs. Integrity
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity(Proverbs 11:3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On a recent flight, I was thumbing through a magazine someone left behind when the title of an article caught my eye. "Image is everything" the author declared. For a few seconds, I found myself mentally agreeing with the author's statement until I recognized the subtle lie hidden in the seemingly benign words.
As followers of Christ, we sometimes focus on developing and presenting the right image while neglecting the spiritual discipline of integrity. Our public lives are only as authentic as our private lives. Image is who and what people think we are while integrity is who and what we really are. Billy Graham once said, "Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact. When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. When character is lost, all is lost."
Bobby Jones was one of the greatest golfers to ever compete, having won all four major tournaments in the U.S. and Britain in a single year. Early in his career, Jones made it to the final playoff in the U.S. Open. While setting up a fairly difficult shot, his golf club accidentally touched the ball. Jones immediately became angry, turned to the marshals, and called a penalty on himself. Since the marshals had not seen the ball move, they left the decision to Jones. It was a two-stroke penalty – which Bobby immediately called on himself, not knowing he would later lose the tournament by a single stroke.
Bobby dismissed praise for his honesty by replying, "You may as well praise a man for not robbing a bank!" Jones may have lost the tournament, but his character was legendary and today the United States Golf Association's award for sportsmanship is known as the "Bobby Jones Award."
I have often heard it said that integrity is what you do when no one is watching or that character is best illustrated by how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing for you. Integrity is a heart issue and a spiritual habit that decides beforehand to do the right thing. Character counts. Integrity matters to God.
Matthew 5:8 (NIV) "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."
1 Chronicles 28:9b "For the Lord searches every heart, and understands every desire and every thought."
The word for "pure" means "ready for sacrifice." In other words, the decisions and choices we make should be living sacrifices that are holy and acceptable to God as acts of worship. To have integrity means to live an integrated life. That integration occurs when what we believe, what we think, what we say and what we do are all consistent. In reality, image really is nothing without integrity and character to back it up.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You right now, asking You to examine my heart and show me every impurity hidden there. Search my desires and thoughts and show me the disobedience that breaks your heart and hinders my walk with You. I want to please You with every choice and decision I make, Lord. Forgive me for the hypocrisy in my life. I lay down my pride and my agenda and choose instead to seek and follow You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Psalm 51:10 that says, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." As this verse becomes the consistent prayer of your heart, each choice and decision you make will begin to line up with God's will. He will be honored, and you will experience a new power and purpose in your life. Continually ask yourself, "Will my choice make God smile?"
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November 14, 2011
Breaking the Will but Not the Spirit
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Submit yourselves, then, to God ... (James 4:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Of all of the activities ten-year-old Miriam enjoyed, she loved riding her horse, Charlie, the best. He had a sleek chestnut mane, well-defined muscular legs, and a fierce strong will to match. Miriam felt powerful and self-assured when controlling this massive animal—except when he caught a glimpse of the barn. Whenever Miriam and Charlie returned from a jaunt in the woods, as soon as they got close enough for him to see the barn, he bolted homeward, forcing Miriam to hang on to the reins for dear life.
One day Miriam's riding instructor witnessed this strong-willed animal taking control of his master.
"Miriam!" she called out. "You cannot let that animal control you in that manner! Bring that horse back out of the barn this instant."
Dutifully, Miriam mounted Charlie and led him a distance away from the stalls.
"Now, when you turn around and Charlie sees the barn and begins to run toward it," the wiser, older woman instructed, "pull the reins all the way to the right. Do not let him go forward."
On cue, Miriam steered her horse toward the stalls. On cue, he bolted.
"Turn him! Turn him!" the instructor shouted.
Young Miriam pulled the reins to the right as hard as she could until the horse's head was inches away from touching his right shoulder. Charlie fought her with the force of a war horse. Round and round the horse and rider circled.
"Don't let go," the instructor shouted. "You must break his will!"
After ten long minutes, Charlie stopped circling, and Miriam stopped pulling him to the right. Miriam gently tapped his flanks, and he slowly walked toward the stable. She had broken his will, and he now obeyed his master's touch.
Have you ever felt that you are going in circles? Perhaps God is trying to break some old habit patterns in your life to help you become more adept at sensing His gentle nudges and tender tugging. Perhaps He is trying to steer you in the different direction other than bolting to the familiar. It's an amazing ride when you yield your will to the Master and travel the path He leads.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, so many times I see myself in Miriam's horse. I bolt to what is familiar rather than submit to You. Help me to follow Your lead, submit to Your guidance, and walk at the pace You set.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture Reading:James 4:1-12
Is there an old habit that God is trying to break in your life? Are you running for the stalls out of habit or obeying your Master's lead?
How will we keep going in circles if we do not heed the Master's lead? (Think Israelites in the wilderness)
How do you keep from going in circles and repeating the same mistakes? Let's share ideas at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. Your idea might be just what someone needs to hear!
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy day. For more on today's topic of getting rid of old habit patterns, see Sharon's book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful.
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November 15, 2011
Plan for Peace
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When a man's ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.(Proverbs 16:7, ESV).
Friend to Friend
I recently read the story of a young reporter who approached an older gentleman on his 100th birthday.
"I want to wish you a happy birthday, Sir. I have just one question for you. What would you say is your greatest accomplishment in life?" the young reporter asked.
"Well," said the man, "I don't have a single enemy in the world."
"Really? That's incredible!" responded the reporter. "What is your secret?"
The centenarian smiled and proudly replied, "I have outlived every single one of them."
Let's be honest. Some people are harder to get along with than others. I call them "sandpaper people" because they are irritating and rub me the wrong way. Tough relationships are a certainty in life. When it comes to handling those difficult relationships, God does not want or expect us to declare war. We are to control our emotions instead of allowing them to control us. The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 12:18, "As much as is possible, live peaceably with all men." In other words, we need to set our mind on peace – not winning.
God's desire is for us to wage peace in every relationship. What is even more amazing to me is the fact that God calls us to wage peace with even the roughest, most abrasive sandpaper people who come our way. Now that is a formidable task, since sandpaper people seem to come with a set agenda that targets emotional eruptions and creates constant relationship upheavals. They love a good fight, live to evoke angry reactions and are fierce warriors determined to win every battle initiated by their downright irritating personalities. However, combat is impossible when the enemy has laid down his weapons and chosen peace.
Unresolved conflict is the enemy of peace, and peace is often the casualty of unresolved conflict in relationships. I love this little poem about relationship problems:
"To dwell above with saints we love, that will be grace and glory.
To live below with saints we know; that's another story!" (Author unknown)
The world has its own system for working out conflict. That system is retaliation. God has a different plan for working out conflict. That plan is restoration. The apostle Paul was a master at conflict resolution and in 1 Thessalonians 5:13, he offers a simple but powerful command to "live in peace with each other." In Colossians 3:12-14, he paints a clear picture of what living in peace should look like in our lives:
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Sounds like an impossible task, doesn't it? It is ... unless we choose to rely on and surrender to the power of the Holy Spirit working in and through us. When Paul says that we are to "clothe" ourselves with certain characteristics so we will always be prepared for peace, he means we must plan ahead and make deliberate choices before the choice is actually necessary.
For example, the holidays are coming up. (I know. I can't believe it either.) Let's say that your least favorite relatives are coming for a week and you are already dreading their visit. Make the decision right now to practice patience, love and self-control during their stay. Choose today to please God by how you treat them and welcome them into your home. Why?
Proverbs 16:7 (ESV) "When a man's ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."
"He" is the operating word in the verse above. Did you catch that? Our obedience to God invites Him to promote peace in our relationships – even the most difficult ones. All we have to focus on is making sure our ways are pleasing to the Lord and He will do the rest. Now that is a great plan for peace!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live a life of obedience to You. Make me an instrument of Your peace. Teach me to love even my enemies. Give me the strength to wage peace when what I really want to do is wage war. Today, I choose to surrender my stubborn will to You. I lay down my emotional weapons and choose peace. Be glorified in my relationships, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When our daughter, Danna, was a little girl, she loved to shop ... for any reason. One day, when I picked her up from school, she hopped in the car and exclaimed, "Mom, it is going to snow tonight!" I started laughing because I had already checked the weather and snow was nowhere in the forecast. "Danna, it is going to be in the 50s tonight. I hardly think we need to prepare for snow." Danna's immediate response was, "But don't you think we should go shopping - just in case?"
We need to plan for peace. The characteristics that we wear or "bring" to relationships will determine the level of peace in those relationships. Peace makes the decision to resolve conflict before conflict comes. Paul lists the characteristics we need to cultivate personally in order to have right relationships filled with peace. On a scale of one to five, how are you doing in each area when it comes to dealing with the difficult people in your life?
1 = Awful
5 = Awesome
___ Compassionate
___ Kind
___ Humble
___ Gentle
___ Patient
___ Merciful
___ Loving
___ Forgiving
What one change are you willing to make today to promote peace in your relationships? Record your answer in your journal along with a prayer of commitment. Feeling brave? Share your commitment with a girlfriend who will hold you accountable.
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Already feeling the stress of the approaching holidays? You need Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for practical steps to dealing with and managing stress. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook- or through email. Need help learning how to study the Bible? Join women across the world in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and find out.
"I am flat broke and Christmas is just around the corner!" Do those words sound familiar? Don't let gift-giving become a chore instead of a joy. Get Mary's MP3 download - Giving the Perfect Gift-and discover how to give ten wonderful and inexpensive gifts.
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November 16, 2011
A Courageous Beauty Queen
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God ... (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Katie was born in Wichita, Kansas, a petite blond-headed pride and joy to the Signaigo family. In the following years, two more baby girls were born, and the Signaigo quiver was full. Katie grew up enjoying all the frills and thrills of childhood. She loved school and church activities, swimming and running, and most of all, she loved her friends.
Katie was only nine years old when she noticed a lump by her left ankle that wouldn't go away. The soreness would come and go, but the lump remained. For more than a year she and her mom were in and out of doctors' offices trying to figure out what this mysterious lump was all about. Two years later, eleven-year-old Katie was diagnosed with cancer, and her leg was removed just below the knee. She felt as though her life was over.
"No one will ever love me or want to marry me!" young Katie cried to her mom. "My life will never be the same. What am I going to do? People will laugh at me and make fun of me. I'll never be able to walk or run again. I'm going to have to live the rest of my life in a wheelchair!"
"Oh, precious," her mother spoke in assuring tones. "You will get married one day. You are a beautiful girl. You will run and swim and do all the things you've always loved doing. You are not going to be in a wheelchair, but have a prosthetic leg that will allow you to do all the things you did before. No, your life will not be the same, but it will be great. You'll see. We'll get through this together."
As a precaution, Katie went through chemotherapy for one year. Besides losing her leg, Katie also lost all of her beautiful blond hair. "When is this ever going to end?" she cried.
Eventually, Katie's hair grew back, she learned to walk with a prosthesis, and life returned to a new kind of normal. However, no one—absolutely no one but her immediate family—saw Katie's leg. She kept her prosthesis hidden from the world.
But then God began nudging Katie to return to the hospital where she had her surgery to talk to other children facing similar ordeals. She put her fears aside and visited the cancer ward and showed her leg to a girl named Amanda.
"Here, go ahead and touch it," Katie said. "It's okay." And Katie saw something flicker in Amada's eyes. It was hope.
Since that time Katie and her mom have made many visits to the hospital, telling children and their parents about what to expect and sharing hope. Together they are taking their scars, both physical and emotional, and investing in others.
Katie graduated from high school and attended the University of Central Arkansas. While there, she watched an Oprah program that featured Aimee Mullins, a double amputee who had become an athlete and a model. This amputee even showed various prostheses she used for different occasions.
So Katie decided it was time to stop hiding her leg from the world, and she did it in a big way. She entered the Miss University of Central Arkansas pageant! She participated in the talent, evening gown, and interview competitions. But Katie won the hearts of the crowd when she proudly walked down the catwalk in the bathing suit competition. There have been many tearful moments as pageant sponsors have placed the crowns on a winner's head, but I dare say there was never a more precious moment than when Katie Signaigo was crowned Miss UCA.
"We are all cracked pots in some way or other," Katie told a group of ladies at a women's gathering. "We all have our unique flaws. Don't be afraid of your flaws. Look for the positive things in life. Don't let yourself dwell in the bad things. This has been the greatest blessing in my life."
Like with Katie, often God uses our biggest struggles as a springboard for ministry. Listen closely. Is God calling you to use what you've gone through to encourage others with the hope and healing of Jesus Christ?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I get stuck when life doesn't turn out the way I thought it would. Help me to be a woman who refuses to say, "Why me?" but rejoices in saying "What now?" Show me how to turn my pain into purpose and my miseries into ministry.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does 2 Corinthians 1:3-11 tell you about how God wants you use what you have gone through to help other people. Are you willing to do that? I hope so!
Today, pray that God will show you what He wants you to do with what you've learned in difficult times. If you feel God calling you to minister to others, but aren't sure how to begin, Your Scars are Beautiful to Godwill walk you through the steps to begin.
I'd love to hear how God has taken a painful situation in your life and turned it into a ministry to help others. Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of busy days..
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November 17, 2011
To Forgive or Not Forgive
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done (1 John 1:9, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Music has always been an important part of my life. In fact, I attended college on a music scholarship. The piano was my main instrument, but I also wanted to be a guitarist. Since I had played the piano for so many years, the musical challenge of playing the guitar was not my problem. It was my fingers. After two guitar lessons from a very patient friend and several hours of practicing, my fingertips were sore and raw to the point of bleeding. When I asked my friend what I was doing wrong, he just laughed and held out his hands, showing me the rough calluses on his own fingers. "When I began playing the guitar, my fingers were just as sore and raw as yours are now. Just keep playing, and your fingers will eventually develop calluses and it won't hurt to play," he explained.
Sin works the same way. The first time we commit a sin it really bothers us. We feel guilty and mourn the fact that we have grieved the heart of God. However, if we allow sin to settle into our lives by refusing to confess it, that sin hardens our heart and builds spiritual calluses in our soul. When we become comfortable with our sin, we are walking in enemy territory and setting ourselves up for spiritual discouragement and failure.
1 John 1:9 says "But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (NCV).
This verse was written to believers as an encouragement to deal with sin and a promise that when we do so, God will be faithful to forgive us and clean up the mess that sin has caused. To fully experience the forgiveness of God, we need to keep short books on sin. That not only means being sensitive to sin but being willing to do something about it. God is serious about sin. We need to be as well.
1. We must confess sin continually. "Confess" means to agree with. It is a present tense verb meaning we must confess sin frequently - without stopping. Doing so makes us more sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit and creates a hunger and thirst for righteousness.
2. We must confess sin completely.We commit individual sins. We need to confess them one-by-one and learn to be authentic and transparent when dealing with the sin in our lives.
3. We must confess sin confidently.Once we confess our sins, we can put them behind us. God is just and fair -- seeking only one payment for sin. Jesus has already made that full and complete payment with His death on the cross. If we refuse to forgive ourselves, we are saying that what Jesus did on the cross was not enough. I love the story of a little boy standing in front of the Washington Monument. "I want to buy it, and I have a quarter," he told the guard. "That's not enough," the guard said. The little boy replied, "I thought you would say that," pulling nine more cents out of his pocket. The guard looked down at the small boy and said, "Son, you need to understand three things. First, thirty-four cents is not enough. Second, the Washington Monument is not for sale. And third, if you are an American citizen, the Washington Monument already belongs to you." We need to understand three things about God's forgiveness. We will never be good enough to deserve it. It is not for sale and we cannot earn it. But if we have a personal relationship with God, His forgiveness already belongs to us.
One of Satan's favorite tactics is to resurrect buried sin. Wrapping that confessed transgression in his vain taunts and useless accusations, the enemy hauls it back into focus, hoping guilt will paralyze and imprison a soul set free.
How often do we believe Satan's empty lies and choose to remain a prisoner of false guilt and condemnation? To break the hold of sin, we must stand against the enemy, choose to trust the Word of God and embrace the promise that when we confess sin, God forgives it.
Let's Pray
Father, do not let me ever forget the price You paid for my sin. Thank You for the forgiveness and freedom You purchased with Your death on the cross. Bring swift awareness and conviction to my heart and life when I sin. Give me the strength and power to deal with and turn from my sin.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the following verses:
Matthew 5:23-24 (NLT) "So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you ... leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God."
Colossians 1:13-14 (NIV) "For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins."
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in my heart?
What are the things for which I cannot forgive myself?
What does that indicate about my understanding of true forgiveness?
Celebrate right now the power of forgiveness in your life.
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November 18, 2011
Measuring Up
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30).
Friend to Friend
My girlfriend Denise is a knockout. She's got the whole beauty package going on. She's tall, slender, athletic, bright, and funny. To know her is to love her. But she is so pretty that if you didn't know her, you might love to hate her. Kind of like the supermodels.
Denise is a former model and gymnast who lived much of her life in the shadow of perfection's impossible measuring stick. She grew up in a small town just outside of Cleveland, Ohio, and made a decision for Christ as a child. Though she was a believer, Denise still struggled with common issues of measuring up.
"It was very important to me to be well-liked and to be very successful in every aspect of my life," she said. "My family strived to be the ideal, all-American family. I worked hard to have great grades, be a great athlete, and wear the right clothes; to overachieve. As a model and gymnast, body type and strength were very important to winning, as well as to my identity."
By nature, Denise is competitive. Most would refer to her personality as type-A. A go-getter. A perfectionist. She's the kind of girl you want on your team: determined, focused, and disciplined. Her quest to be the best, however, left Denise feeling helpless and unsuccessful. Even though she was a fierce competitor as a gymnast, she never felt she was good enough. For years, Denise tried to control the circumstances and the people in her life in an attempt to make things perfect. Eventually, her pursuit of perfection got Denise into a heap of trouble. As Edwin Bliss has said, "The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy. The pursuit of perfection is frustrating, neurotic, and a terrible waste of time."
As a high school gymnast, Denise dealt with the pressures to measure up in a destructive way. She became bulimic. She wanted to be in control of her body and manage her weight but she became enslaved to an addictive and damaging behavior. She was a Christian girl who knew that God loved her. She had been told that she was beautiful to Him, but for a season of her life, Denise didn't consider that enough. At first, to her delight, Denise's bulimia resulted in weight loss. Keeping extra weight off allowed her to be competitive in the gym and to look good. She wasn't alone. Most of her teammates had eating disorders too.
"What I thought was just a phase became my way of life," Denise remembers.
Her destructive behavior followed her to college. Denise thought she was in control of the bulimia, but eventually realized that bulimia was in control of her. It consumed her thoughts. It swung the gates of deception wide open for the enemy to stroll right through. He laughed all the way, because he had her right where he wanted her.
Negative self-talk filled her head. A thought as simple as, "I'm a little bit nervous about teaching this fitness class," would snowball into, "You are so fat. You should never have eaten all that food this afternoon. You're such an idiot! You won't even be able to get through this class." The voice in her head constantly told her she didn't measure up.
"If I heard ninety nine positive comments about myself and one negative comment, I couldn't let the one negative comment go," she said. "I illuminated my failures and shortcomings instead of celebrating my successes."
During that time, she constantly talked about her body...about how awful it was. Denise says it was as if a ticker tape was filling her mind with a steady stream of negative thoughts and beating her down.
She prayed, "Lord, help me find a way to cut that ticker tape. I need a reprieve." God eventually did cut it with truth, but it took a while for Denise to learn to recognize Satan's lies for what they were.
The Lord placed many Christian friends in Denise's path who encouraged her to see a counselor. She went, though she still wanted her way more than God's way. The counselor told her that she must want to be healed of her eating disorder. She needed motivation to change. Denise lacked the motivation until she went home for fall break and finally hit rock bottom.
A Time for Change
Denise was consumed with being fit. Each day of break was another opportunity to strive for physical perfection, and she trained hard. . She had been fasting for a few days—something she relished because of the dramatic physical results, not for the spiritual benefits the Bible speaks of—and then ate something. The ticker in her mind told her that she should feel terrible about eating, so Denise went upstairs and made herself throw up. Her body had grown so weak that she fell to the floor before making it to her bed.
Her brother found her on the floor crying and completely out of it.
Denise's brother, who suffers from a mild form of cerebral palsy and has struggled to overcome the challenges of his disability, was alarmed and angry. Once Denise was able to get up from the floor, her brother confronted her with strong words that became a catalyst of change in her life.
"I have worked all my life to overcome my physical deformity," he said. "And here you are intentionally destroying yourself."
It was true and she knew it.
In that moment, Denise felt the weight of truth, and finally crumbled. Her previous casual attempts to allow God to intervene were now replaced with sincere cries for help. She needed to change and she needed God's help for the change to happen. She needed Him to consume her thoughts and transform her mind. She needed Him desperately.
Denise had known the truth from the beginning. She just resisted it. She knew that bulimia was destructive, but the pressures of the world had a greater hold on her.
When she turned to Jesus for help, He began to transform her from the inside out. As a child, Denise gave her heart to Jesus. As an adult, she surrenderedher life to Him. There's a big difference. In the surrendering, Denise found healing for the bulimia and emotional freedom from the need to measure up to the world's standard of perfection.
Her healing took time. It progressed slowly. God used His Word, Christian counseling, and friends to replace lies with His truth. Denise has experienced full healing through the strength of the Lord and now regularly shares her story with women and young girls.
Healing begins when we hold tightly to the truth of God and allow the truth of God to hold tightly to us. God gives each of us the freedom to accept or reject His way. When we lean into His truth, we are less likely to conform to the world. His truth, His Word can be the light for each step we take. It illuminates the path that leads to His heart. God's Word transforms. The apostle Paul said, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2a).
We live in a competitive world. The pressures to be thin, beautiful, fit, smart, sexy, funny, rich, and popular trap us in a relentless vise-grip. Denise's story isn't much different from yours or mine. You don't need to be a model or a gymnast to get trapped in a disorder or an addictive lifestyle. You could be a college student, a businesswoman, a nurse, a mom, a dance instructor, a retail clerk, or a Sunday school teacher. No one is exempt. Feelings of inadequacy and inferiority ravage hearts of Christians and non-Christians alike.
Our attempts to measure up are all-consuming traps. They focus our attention inward verses upward, just as they did with Denise. When we get caught in the trap of striving to measure up, we focus on ourselves. That was never God's plan. We were designed to focus on Him. Shifting our attention from ourselves to God will change our perspective. God longs for our obsession to be Him.
"I am the Lord; that is my name! I will not give my glory to another or my praise to idols" (Isaiah 42:8).
Let's Pray
Dear God, please renew and transform me from the inside out! When feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. I want to be held tightly by your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
There's a line in the song "Broken into Beautiful" that says: "We live with accusations, sometimes heavy expectations that tell us we can never measure up. And yet You repeat with mercy that in Your eyes we are worthy, 'til at last we see how much we're loved."
How does this speak to you today? Do you really know how much you're loved? Pray about it and journal if you're the journaling type... then let's meet on my Facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together. www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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Tim Hansel, Eating Problems for Breakfast, (Word Publishing, 1988) page 39.
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November 21, 2011
Grandma's Inheritance
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Older women...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home ... (Titus 2:3-5, NASB).
Friend to Friend
As far as I can remember, my Grandma Edwards was always old. She didn't have many material possessions, but she had a sharp mind, a determined spirit, and buckets full of love. She was a small-framed woman who raised a family of five children during the depression by running a country general store and harvesting produce from her garden. Her waist-long, tightly braided hair wound around her head like a crown, and her teeth came out at night.
Another thing that always amazed me as a little girl was Grandma's undergarments. She wore knit baggy underwear that hung down to her knees and an equally attractive T-shirt to match. I never saw these undergarments anywhere except on Grandma's clothesline, so I decided there must be a special "Grandma store" that sold baggy underwear just for grandparents.
Grandma never drove a car, but she would ring up the grocery store and a box of supplies would magically appear on her back stoop. Grandma's house was filled with the aroma of strong coffee and fresh-baked biscuits. There was also the scent of salve, which was the cure-all for any ailment, and of snuff, which she would sneak between her cheek and gum when she thought I wasn't looking.
Each summer I would spend a week at Grandma's house. The highlight of our day was watching Perry Mason on her big black-and-white television. We drank Coca-Cola from cold glass bottles and ate peanut butter crackers. Grandma had a standing date with Perry each day. If someone "came a'callin' " during that time, they knew to pull up a chair, grab a Coke, and wait until the verdict was in before conversation could commence.
During my weeks with Grandma, there were no trips to fast-food restaurants or shopping sprees at the mall. That's just not what grandmas were for. So what did I do for seven days? I did what Grandma did (except dip snuff). I made biscuits, shelled lima beans, canned vegetables for the following winter, and learned how to sew.
When I was six years old, Grandma taught me how to turn a square piece of daisy-covered fabric into a gathered apron with a big bow in the back. At seven, we transformed a rectangular piece of floral cloth into a jumper with big ball buttons on the straps. At eight, we conquered the zipper.
Without realizing it, my grandmother was being a Titus 2 woman. "Older women...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home." It was her inheritance to me.
Grandma didn't leave me a sum of money when she passed away, but she left something much more valuable. God used her to show me that leaving an inheritance to our children is so much more than money in the bank, well-invested mutual funds, and valuable heirlooms. It is leaving them memories of simple times together, showing them on how to become men and women of God, and leaving a legacy that causes them to "rise up and call you blessed."
What sort of legacy will you leave behind? The more we become women who listen to God, the more likely we will leave a yearning in others to do the same.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to leave a godly heritage and invest love today that will multiply tomorrow. Help me to always remember what is important—not money in the bank, but God in the heart. Help me to be the type of woman that we read about in Titus 2 who exemplifies what You desire.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of an older woman who has invested in you? Consider writing her a note and telling her how she has blessed you.
How are you investing in the younger generation?
If you are reading this devotion, there is someone younger than youJ
Here is a way to honor someone who has been a Titus 2 woman for you. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share how she has helped you understand what a godly woman looks like.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy day.
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November 22, 2011
The Secret of Discipline
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit (Proverbs 25:28, NAS)
Friend to Friend
Discipline is obedience, a lifetime process that brings us to a state of order by training and controlling our behavior. Discipline is focusing and eliminating, zeroing in on what is important in every area of life. Discipline not only leads to right thinking, pleasing behavior and balanced emotions, but also produces a purpose driven life based on right goals and priorities.
And that brings us to the discipline of our time - a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline for many of us. We have either forgotten or failed to realize the truth that our minutes, hours and days are precious commodities - gifts from God that can be unwrapped only once. Time is wasted unless it is invested in goals and priorities that are rooted in God's plan.
A busy life is not necessarily a productive life, girlfriends. Oh, I can hear it now! "Mary, it's true that I am very busy, but I am busy doing good things." Those words were the cry of my heart just before I crashed and burned and landed in a pit of clinical depression. The problem with my list of "good things" was that it was just that – my list - the wrong list for my life. The result was exhaustion, burnout and disobedience.
One of the most important lessons of my "pit experience" was that my perspective of time was skewed. I had poured years into making my plan successful only to discover that God resources and empowers His plan alone. Outlook determines outcome. It was painfully obvious I needed an outlook adjustment, an eternal perspective. I needed to understand the truth that my time is not really mine to do with as I please. It is a resource on loan to me from God. As a result, every plan, priority and goal should be held against the backdrop of eternity because it is from that backdrop that our priorities are validated, our calling confirmed and our time best invested.
Let's face it. If we don't set priorities - others will. Time thieves will steal our time as we allow them to impose their plans and standards on us. While it is true that different women have different priorities and different seasons of life, it is also true that one priority remains steadfast. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God..." (Matthew 6:33). Once that priority is firmly established and adhered to, the rest of life will surely fall into place.
Learning how to discipline time is a challenge for us all. I am, by no means, an expert in this area, but I do want to share some simple ideas that have worked for me.
Tithe your time. Just as we tithe our money, we should tithe our time. God blesses and multiplies the time we set aside to spend in Bible study, prayer and service.
Get organized. In 1 Corinthians 14:40, we are challenged to "do all in a fitting and orderly way." In other words, being organized is a spiritual discipline, freeing us from the tyranny of the urgent while making room for the eternal things that matter. Here are some organizational tips:
· Buy and keep a calendar. Writing down things keeps me from wasting time and "bunching up" activities. It takes the pressure off of me to remember everything and allows me to see, at a glance, what is important.My weeks and months are more evenly scheduled and I am forced to prioritize, doing the important things first.
· Choose one day a week to plan. Every Sunday afternoon, I plan the week ahead, recording the main tasks I need to complete and scheduling the appointments I need to make and keep. Pray over your week, asking the Holy Spirit to make clear those things ordained for each day.
· Simplify and eliminate.Experts advise us to approach spring cleaning by dealing with one closet at a time. Break jobs up into manageable steps so that the large tasks seem doable.
· Tackle the dreaded task first.I have discovered that tackling the job I dread the most energizes me for the rest of the tasks. I have also learned to use my best time, the time of the day when my energy is highest for the most important and the most difficult tasks.
· Stop activity when it becomes unproductive. Sometimes, a 10 minute break will boost energy, refocus attention and get those creative juices flowing.
· Begin a task, even if you won't have time to complete it. I hate doing laundry and frequently long for the day of disposable clothing. As a result, I do the laundry in pieces. For example, I will start the wash and answer email. I then toss the wet clothing into the dryer and work on a writing assignment. You get the idea!
· Delegate.When we delegate work to our children, we are teaching them godly discipline. The church is filled with people waiting to be pushed out of their comfort zones in service. Look for those potential leaders and delegate.
· Leave margins in your schedule.I tend to fill every time slot during the day. Therefore, when the "unexpected" comes along, I am overwhelmed and unprepared. Building margins of time into our schedules is a step of faith, trusting God to fill them in any way He chooses.
· Yield to the seasons of life.When my children were small, I did not travel and speak like I do now. Do not sacrifice your family on the altar of any church or any ministry. Our greatest mission field is our home, our marriage and our children. It does not matter how much we do or how successful we are, if home and family get the leftovers of our time, energy, emotions and spiritual service we are walking in sin and disobedience.
Discipline builds upon discipline, each success encouraging another. Make the commitment to cultivate the disciplines of a godly woman, then pick a corner of your life and begin. Discipline does not come naturally or easily. We will fail. But we can always begin again. Join me today in a new commitment to godly discipline.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for your unconditional love and forgiveness. Please help me focus on You and Your presence in my life each day. I pray that any stress in my heart will be swallowed up in the reality that You are faithful and that You are in control. I know You are not surprised by anything that comes my way and will transform the good into better, the unthinkable into the unstoppable and the unbelievable into fact. I praise You for the amazing way You guide me and lift me up when I fall. Today, I choose to focus on You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Philippians 4:6-7 (ICB) "Do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God's peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it."
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November 23, 2011
Put a Lid on It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark ... (James 3:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
From the time I could hold a crayon in my chubby little hand, I've enjoyed creating various works of art. For my family and friends, my annual endeavors usually found their way under the Christmas tree and into their hands. One year it was macramé hanging plant holders woven with wooden beads. Another it was a menagerie of decoupage wooden boxes. Then there were the years of framed cross-stitch, ceramic Nativity sets, and quilted pig and chicken pillows.
When I was 17, it was the year of the candle. Everyone from Grandma Edwards to my best girlfriends received praying hands candles. For weeks I slaved over a hot stove, stirring melted wax, meticulously centering the ten-inch wicks, and then slowly pouring the red, green, or yellow molten material into an inverted mold in the shape of praying hands. When the wax hardened, I burped the rubber mold and plopped the hands onto the counter. My kitchen looked like a prostheses laboratory with hands littering the counters.
I was just cooking up my last batch of wax when the doorbell rang. I was having so much fun that I had forgotten the time. I had a date at 7:30, and here I was in pink curlers and a paraffin-covered sweatshirt. I rushed through the kitchen, leaped over my dad, who had fallen asleep on the den floor in front of the television, and threw open the door.
"Hi, Jim. Come on in," I said, out of breath. "I'm not ready."
"So I noticed," he said with a grin.
"I was cooking candles and lost track of time."
"You were what?"
"Oh, never mind. Just come on in and have a seat on the couch. I'll be ready in a minute."
I dashed to my room to change clothes, take out the curlers and run a brush through my hair, swipe mascara through my lashes, and place a hint of gloss on my lips. Jim sat uncomfortably on the sofa, listening to my dad snore and Jackie Gleason yell at Ralph Kramden. After about 15 minutes Jim smelled something burning from the kitchen. He didn't want to call me for fear of waking up my dad. (Teenage boys don't like to wake up their date's dad if they can help it.) Instead, he tiptoed into the kitchen and discovered a pot on the stove with flames shooting up about 18 inches in the air.
Sleeping dad or no sleeping dad, Jim yelled, "Sharon! Whatever you were cooking is on fire!"
"Oh my goodness!" I exclaimed. "I forgot to turn off the stove!"
Just as I burst into the kitchen, Jim threw a cup of water into the flaming wax. Rather than extinguish the flames, the fire exploded upward. The flames shot up the wall, across the ceiling, and down the other side of the room. Our screams alerted my father, who woke to see his baby girl standing in a room surrounded by flames. With the agility of Superman, Dad sprang to his feet, ran to the kitchen faster than a speeding bullet, grabbed the lid of the pot, and clamped it down on the source of the flames. Just as quickly as the fire had erupted, it seemed to recede back into the pot like a genie returning to his bottle.
This all happened in a matter of seconds. We stood in the middle of the room like three stunned deer. I never did tell my dad that it was Jim who threw the water on the burning wax. Teenage boys have two strikes against them just by walking through the doors to pick up a man's baby girl.
After the shock of the incident wore off, I had time to reflect on the speed at which the flames blazed around the room, the feeling of fire licking against my skin, the terrifying sound the fire made. It made me think about my words and how easily they can explode and singe those around me. I saw and understood the destructive power of our words and the speed at which that destruction can spread. But you know what else I learned? I learned just how easy it is to stop the blaze...put a lid on it. As soon as my father placed a lid on the pot and removed the flames' source of oxygen, the fire went out.
As we listen to God day by day, I pray we will sense His leading to put a lid on our destructive words. Let's pray we will be quick to listen, slow to speak, and quick to obey when God warns us to keep fire-sparking words from slipping past our lips.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, set a guard over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips. May nothing escape my mouth today that is not pleasing to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 3:1-18 and note what you learn about our words.
Has there been a time you wish you had "put a lid on it" rather than say something you said. (I know that is a silly question. Who hasn't?)
Today, sit a pot lid out on your kitchen counter as a reminder to put a lid on your words. You might want to leave it out for more than a few days.
If you'll agree to leave a pot lid out on your kitchen counter for a few days, let me know at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. I'd love to know if it made a difference.
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Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy days. And if you would like to learn more about how to control your words, then see Sharon's best-selling book and Bible study, The Power of a Woman's Words.
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November 24, 2011
Remember ... and Give Thanks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 106:1 (NIV) "Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His love endures forever."
Friend to Friend
In homes across America, friends and family will gather around beautifully decorated tables filled with warm, scrumptious food to give thanks. It's Thanksgiving Day. But today will be nothing like holidays of the past for many people.
Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle will patrol foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home long for word of their safety. The homeless will make their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face as so many celebrate this day of abundance. An empty place at the table will be a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad will sit at the head of the table, wondering how he is going to tell his family that he just lost his job. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised or build the perfect house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we can afford a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation or when we retire. We keep trying to find joy, contentment and peace in lifeless places and things.
Jesus Christ is life. He is Joy and Love and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give thanks when it seems as if there is nothing for which to be thankful.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver told him, "I always park there. You took my place." The visitor went inside for Sunday school, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat. You took my place." The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing.
After Sunday school, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place." The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still said nothing.
Later, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day of thanksgiving and praise because praise and thanksgiving have little to do with the Thanksgiving holiday and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, girlfriend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs this year in ways that we may or may not have understood at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and Your power and we choose to celebrate You ...we celebrate life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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Already feeling the stress of the approaching holidays? Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for practical steps to dealing with and managing stress and check out her MP3, The Secret of a Merry Christmas. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email. Need help learning how to study the Bible? Join women across the world in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, and find out.
"I am flat broke and Christmas is just around the corner!" Do those words sound familiar? Don't let gift-giving become a chore instead of a joy. Check out Mary's MP3 download - Giving the Perfect Gift- and discover how to give ten wonderful and inexpensive gifts.
Sharon, Gwen and I want to wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving Day, a day of remembering all that God is, all that God has and all that He wants to be in your life.
We praise Him for allowing us to do life together and want you to know that we are with you ... Girlfriends in God.
November 25, 2011
The Trumpet Game
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The LORD your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing." (Zephaniah 3:17, NIV)
Friend to Friend
My friend Brad has a little girl named Elizabeth. When Elizabeth was one year old, Brad and his wife taught her some sign language. For the word please, they chose to have her rub her chest. So, as Brad and Jamie taught Elizabeth to say please, they rubbed their own chests and said "please." Simple enough.
Elizabeth had a favorite toy. It's a plastic knobby toy that holds colorful rings. You know the one with the yellow pole and white base that, without the rings, loosely resembles a trumpet. (C'mon, use your imagination!) So, being the fun, creative parents that Brad and Jamie are, they would dump off the rings and playfully hold up Elizabeth's toy and make a trumpet sound. Elizabeth loved her parent's silliness. She laughed and clapped with delight. It became a favorite game in their household.
One day, when Brad and Elizabeth were playing the trumpet game, Elizabeth excitedly grabbed the toy and handed it back to him to do it again. Brad encouraged her to say "please" and reinforced the instruction by rubbing his chest. To his surprise, Elizabeth made her way over to him and started to rub his chest instead of her own.
Did this please her daddy? You bet it did!
Even though Elizabeth mixed up the signals, she communicated with her daddy. Brad was filled with love and joy by her effort. He was pleased that she came to him. Not because she did or didn't do something right, but just because she is his daughter and he loves her. He adores her.
God adores you too. Just because you are His child. His sweet daughter. "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" (1 John 3:1a).
Have you considered that perhaps God isn't longing for you to come to Him with perfect, polished prayers that have fifty-cent words and flowery language? Have you thought about the pleasure God experiences when you simply approach him just as you are, warts and all, because He loves you? He delights in your attention. He takes pleasure when you go to Him simply because you are His.
I love how the psalmist responded to God's love:
Praise the Lord, O my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the Lord, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
(Psalm 103:1-5)
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thanks for this reminder of Your love for me. Thanks for seeing me as precious and special. I'm amazed by Your love. I'm overwhelmed with thankfulness that You made a way for me to know You through Jesus Christ. Help me to come to You as I am each day...without pretenses, pride, or perfection, but simply with Your permission to just be me...because You love me. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Zephaniah 3:17 again silently
Now read it again aloud
Now read it aloud three more times and insert your name after each 'you' –
"The LORD your God is with you (insert name here), He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you (name), He will quiet you (name) with His love, He will rejoice over you (name) with singing." Zephaniah 3:17(NIV)
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When Brad shared this story with me, it melted my heart and blessed my soul. I hope you were moved, too. That's really what being a GiG is all about...sharing things that move us and spur us on toward our extravagant Lord! Glad we are doing life together! I'd love to hear what has moved you lately...come to my facebook page and let me know!
Today's devotion is from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. Gwen's testimony is featured in her book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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November 28, 2011
Refinished and Restored
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"
( 2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Junk. That's what my family and friends thought of most of my purchases. But to me, they were treasures waiting to be revealed.
When I was in my late teens, I had an unusual fetish for beat-up antique furniture. While most of my friends were at the mall shopping for clothes, I was at estate sales, flea markets, yard sales, and auctions hunting for antiques. Often, when I brought my purchases home, my family would roll their eyes and say, "I can't believe you paid money for that old piece of junk." But I never saw my purchases as junk. They just needed a little work...okay, sometimes a lot of work.
At one estate sale I spied a little drop leaf kitchen table with three spindle-back chairs. I could just imagine a sweet little older lady spending many years sitting at that very table drinking her morning coffee or perhaps her afternoon tea. I could almost hear the faint whispers of thousands of conversations from generations past. The set was painted a hospital green, but I saw that it had great potential. Obviously the other bidders didn't recognize a treasure when they saw one, because ten minutes and $35 later, the set was mine.
I brought the dinette set home, all excited about my great buy, and couldn't understand why no one else shared my enthusiasm.
"Sharon, do you realize how much time and energy it is going to take to make that old green rickety table look even slightly presentable?" they asked. At that point in my life, I had a lot more time than money, so the time wasn't a problem.
Refinishing furniture is a dirty, grueling task. First, I stripped off the paint with paint remover and discovered that not only had the table been green, it had also been blue, and before that white. But underneath it all was pure walnut.
The paint remover raised the grain of the wood, so I had to go back and sand it smooth. If the sanding isn't done well, the finished product will always be a little rough. A few joints were loose from wear and tear, so I glued them back together. Then I applied a warm walnut stain which deepened its color and made the beautiful pattern of the wood grain stand out. Finally, I applied a polyurethane coat to seal and protect the piece.
As I worked I began to think of the old broken table as a symbol of my own life. I was also on the auction block, and God had purchased me with His Son's precious blood. I had layers and layers of my old self that had to be stripped away to reveal the beauty hidden beneath. This raised my grain, but God sanded me with life experiences and trials to remove the rough edges. He glued my loose joints and mended my broken pieces, for He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Then He put a sealer not only on me but in me—the Holy Spirit—who brought out the beauty of who God created me to be.
After I finished refurbishing the old table and chairs, I sat in the garage thinking about all that God had done in my life. My mom opened the door, looked at the old table, and said, "I never thought something so ugly could turn out to be so beautiful."
I said, "Amen."
Where are you in the refinishing process? It's never really over, this side of heaven. But as we listen to God day by day, He will show us what needs to be stripped off, sanded away, and polished smooth to be all that He has created us to be.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I was such a mess before You transformed me. Thank You for restoring my soul, renewing my spirit, and redeeming my life to become Your treasured possession...a true work of art.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever refinished a piece of furniture? If so, consider writing your own story of how the process resembles how God changed you.
Even if you haven't, make a list of all the old layers of self that God has stripped away from your life so far. (It is amazing how they just keep coming!)
If you want to see the old table I refinished over 30 years ago, log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand take a peak.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you find yourself longing to hear God's voice – not as a once-in-a-lifetime experience but on a daily basis? If so, Sharon's new 15-Minute Devotional book, Listening to God Day-by-Day,will help you do just that. It is an expanded version of the smaller book, Extraordinary Moments with God. In it you will find 100 devotions to help you become a woman who detects God's still small voice in all of life. This is a warm, fun, tender look at recognizing some of the wonderful and unexpected ways God reaches out to us in the middle of our busy days. And for more on how God refinishes and refines, see Becoming Spiritually Beautiful.
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November 29, 2011
No Room
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I make room for things that are important to me. I eat two or three meals every day and sleep several hours each night even though my "to do" list is not much shorter today than it was yesterday. I will choose to play with a grandchild over cleaning the house any day of the week. I manage to find a place for that great piece of furniture I don't really need – but really like. After all, it was on sale. I like watches. Don't ask me why because I simply don't know. I only need one watch, but I own several inexpensive ones. I will have lunch with a friend instead of running errands. And there is always room for chocolate! Silly examples – right? I wonder. I wonder what the innkeeper thought as he turned away the young man and his very pregnant wife that holy night so long ago. He had no room – it was that simple. Do we?
The Christmas season is almost here! Our calendars are already full, our bank accounts are closing in on empty and our hearts and lives are crowded with things we deem important, but have we made room for Jesus?
I simply cannot imagine a world without the presence of God and yet I often live my life as if He does not exist. A crisis hits, and I try to handle it on my own. I don't understand the trials in my life while those who could care less about God seem to prosper. Instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness. Financial stress fuels worry. Instead of turning to God, I rely on what I can see and understand. I settle.
When I do cry out to God, He lovingly fills each dark corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, Jesus Christ steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything – absolutely everything!
Jesus could have come to us in many ways. The simplicity of His birth is extraordinary and sometimes hard to grasp. Jesus could have been born in a mansion. He was, after all, a King. Instead, He came to a dirty smelly manger and His birth was announced by common shepherds instead of Kings -- the greatest of all miracles in the midst of total simplicity. Today, Jesus still wants to meet us in the midst of our simple daily lives. It seems too easy and too good to be true, doesn't it?
It was Christmas Eve, and the family was preparing to attend the special service of their local church. Everyone was going except Dad, who was an honest man, a man who could not seem to wrap his logical mind around the story of God come to earth as a baby in a manger. He didn't want to be a hypocrite, pretending to worship a Savior he wasn't sure even existed, so he stayed home, built a fire to dispel the bitter cold of that winter night and began to read the paper, waiting for his family's return. Hearing a knock at the window, he turned to see a tiny bird trying to reach the warmth of the fire. The man opened the window, but the bird refused to come in. Grabbing his coat, the man went out to the barn and opened the barn doors wide – but still, the bird refused to come in. The man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just one minute, I could lead the bird to safety." At that moment, he heard the church bells ring and finally understood why Jesus came to earth as a man -- to become one of us so He could lead us to eternal safety.
The very heart of Christmas is Emanuel, God with us – with me – and withyou. Christmas is not a date on a calendar. Christmas is a way of life that celebrates the presence of God in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do -- the smile we give the harried stranger or the patience we choose in the crowd of impatient shoppers -- the love that prompts the secret gift or the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit. God is with us – if we choose to make room for Him.
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. Thank You for sending Your Son to earth as a tiny baby in a manger. I celebrate the birth of Jesus and the gift of life that He brings. I choose to receive Your gift of love and forgiveness for my sins. I now surrender everything I am or ever hope to be to You. Please take control of my life and direct my paths. I promise to follow.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 3:16 once a day and look for ways to share God's love with the people in your life.
Give a gift to someone you don't know.
Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner.
Offer to take an elderly neighbor shopping.
Put your faith into action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season.
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I pray that your life is filled with God's peace and joy this holiday season. I know it has been a difficult year for many of you. Remember – God is with you.
Already feeling the stress of the approaching holidays? Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for practical steps to dealing with and managing stress and check out her Christmas MP3 downloads, The Secret of a Merry Christmas and Giving the Perfect Gift.
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email. Need help learning how to study the Bible? Join women across the world in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey.
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November 30, 2011
She's All Mine
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demon, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have personally discovered that it is downright frustrating and completely impossible to live the Christian life when you are not a Christian. I tried. For years, I desperately struggled to trust God with only head knowledge of who He is and wants to be in my life. When that trust settled into my heart and life – well, life became a different journey altogether.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words and did all the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God and experience His unconditional love.
One Sunday, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I'd been living a lie.
My mind argued that I knew all about God – and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I didn't know Him. That night, I met Jesus. My problems did not disappear but much of my stress did as I began to trust God, I mean really trust Him. Over the years, I have been taught by some incredible men and women of faith, but none more precious or more powerful than our grandchildren.
My grandchildren call me Mimi ... and words are pitifully inadequate when trying to express just how much I love being a grandmother. I have experienced a new and deeper level of love with the birth of each grandchild. Watching one of my grandchildren is kind of like watching my heart walk around on the outside of my body.
I have a good friend, Lisa, who is a teacher at the school where my four-year-old grandson, Jaydan, attends pre-school classes three mornings each week. One day, Lisa happened to be on the playground when Jaydan's class came out to play. She teasingly asked, "Jaydan, I don't have a Mimi. Can I have yours?" Jaydan immediately whirled around, placed his hands on his hips and firmly responded, "No way!" Lisa smiled and said, "But Jaydan, don't you want to share your Mimi with me?" Jaydan adamantly replied, "I can't! She's mine ... all mine!"
Wow! As I listened to Lisa tell me this story, I have to admit my heart doubled in size. And then I immediately thought about the way God loves me ... and the way He loves you. God's love for us is unconditional, boundless and fierce.
1 John 4: 8-10 (The Message) "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love to us: He sent his one and only Son into the world so that we could have life through him. This is what real love is: It is not our love for God; it is God's love for us in sending his Son to be the way to take away our sins."
Trusting God begins and ends with the fierce love of God. Trusting God really is all about wrapping our hearts and minds and lives around the reality of God's love. He loved us so much that He sent His Son to die for our sins so we can have an abundant life – now and eternally.
You may find yourself in a frightening place filled with darkness and doubt. Your fragile heart may be wondering if God knows where you are of if He even cares. He does.
You think that because you cannot see the hand of God or sense His presence it means He is not working. Nothing could be further from the truth, girlfriend. We may not understand or even like His process but let me assure you that God is always at work in our lives.
He will always love you. He will come through for you and you really can trust Him. Him
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know You and trust You with my whole heart and life. Thank You for loving me even when I doubt Your love. I praise You for being faithful even when my faith is small. Teach me how to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10 "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
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Can you believe 2012 is just ahead, like a clean slate filled with new beginnings and fresh starts? However, what did we learn in 2011 that will make a difference in 2012? As the holiday season winds down, I pray your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. And be sure to get your copy of our new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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December 1, 2011
Don't Miss Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Christmas rush is on! I know many of you are still looking for the perfect gift, wrapping presents, baking your famous sugar cookies, packing the car for a long trip and wrestling with overly excited children. Ho! Ho! Ho!
Stop right where you are! Take a deep breath and travel back with me to a time when there was no hope and no celebration. I can't imagine a world without Jesus and yet, many times I live my life as if He doesn't even exist. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness floods my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness.
He then interrupts my life and fills each black corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, He steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything – everything! He could have come to us in many ways but He chose to interrupt the very ordinary with the most extraordinary. He could have chosen to be born in a palace. After all, He was a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger housed in what amounted to little more than a dirty, smelly barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to me and one of my most profound life lessons.
I often wish I had been there that holy night when Jesus was born but then He reminds me I have my own manger; my own holy moment when God became a reality to me, and I worship Him!
Every year I am reminded of the very heart of Christmas -- Emanuel, God with us. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do, the smile we give the harried stranger and the patience we wear in the crowd of impatient shoppers, the love that prompts the secret gift and the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit.
Join me in this quest to celebrate Him and His birth in everything we do. Have a birthday party for Jesus. Bake Him a huge cake and invite neighbors to join in the celebration. Adopt a family in need. Reach out to the lonely. Look for Him in the crowd. Emanuel, God with us! Wow!
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. I celebrate Your birth, Your life, Your death and Your resurrection. And as I celebrate, Lord, help me to be "God with skin on" to those in need around me. Open my eyes and let me see them as You see them! I love You. Happy Birthday, Jesus!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Put your faith in action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season. Give a gift to someone you don't know. Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner. Go through your closet and give the clothes you don't wear to those who have no clothes.
More from the Girlfriends
I pray that your life is filled with God's peace this Christmas. Don't let anyone or anything steal your joy. Guard your heart and mind and keep your focus on the birth of Jesus as you begin to prepare for the Christmas holidays. No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email.
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December 2, 2011
"Don't Miss the Beautiful"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I recently went on a trip to minister in Tennessee at a women's event and, to my delight, my daughter Kennedy was able to join me. The two of us are all about "mommy-daughter time" so we were giddy with happy as we started off on the three and a half hour drive.
Prior to the trip, I had given Kennedy permission to use my iPad to watch a movie. So once we hit the highway, she got cozy with her pillow, her headphones went on, and her attention became fixed on the rectangular screen in front of her. Random giggles floated in the air from the movie-watcher as I drove and prayed through the talk that I was to give later that afternoon.
Just off the Northern parts of the Carolina highway – past the congestion of traffic and the hullaballoo of the suburbs – I was freshly smitten by the splendor of God through traces of red, yellow, orange, and brown leaves that were dancing in the breeze under brilliant blue skies. The trees continued to boast of more and more glory as I neared Virginia... and then they were joined by the mountains. Oh, the mountains! They puffed their chests with the majesty of color and power! My heart was captured by the glory of it all, so I tapped Kennedy and pointed out the window, encouraging her to look around... to lift her eyes and soak in the wonder.
"Don't miss the beautiful!" I urged.
"Don't miss the beautiful!"
She paused her movie and joined the beauty moment, agreeing that God was indeed showing off with His creation. Minutes later, she went back to watching her movie as I drove on undone. Wrung out by glory. Overwhelmed by the sacred sanctuary I'd stumbled upon. I stayed in the moment and celebrated the beautiful as the psalmist did in Psalm 96:
1 Sing to the LORD a new song;
sing to the LORD, all the earth.
2 Sing to the LORD, praise his name;
proclaim his salvation day after day.
3 Declare his glory among the nations,
his marvelous deeds among all peoples.
4 For great is the LORD and most worthy of praise;
he is to be feared above all gods.
5 For all the gods of the nations are idols,
but the LORD made the heavens.
6 Splendor and majesty are before him;
strength and glory are in his sanctuary.
7 Ascribe to the LORD, O families of nations,
ascribe to the LORD glory and strength.
8 Ascribe to the LORD the glory due his name;
bring an offering and come into his courts.
9 Worship the LORD in the splendor of his holiness;
tremble before him, all the earth.
10 Say among the nations, "The LORD reigns."
The world is firmly established, it cannot be moved;
he will judge the peoples with equity.
11 Let the heavens rejoice, let the earth be glad;
let the sea resound, and all that is in it;
12 let the fields be jubilant, and everything in them.
Then all the trees of the forest will sing for joy;
13 they will sing before the LORD, for he comes,
he comes to judge the earth.
He will judge the world in righteousness
and the peoples in his truth.
Worship poured from my heart. I thanked God for the beauty show. As praise and adoration continued to rise a God-thought settled on my heart. "Tell them, Gwen."
"Tell them what, Lord?" I wondered.
"Tell the women what you told Kennedy. Tell them not to miss the beautiful."
Ahhhh, yes! I would tell them, and I would chew on that challenge for days to come. Convicted by questions like: How often do I drive right through the busyness of my days and miss the beautiful? How many moments of glory do I not even see because my eyes are on the mundane? Do I even look for it?
As we head into this busy holiday season and dance between the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years - as we decorate the doors and the hearths of our homes and communities, let's be intentional to decorate the doors and the hearths of our hearts with ribbons of God's grace. Let's live with eyes lifted to the Gift of gifts, Jesus Christ.
When we face the stresses of our lists, and our tasks, and our activities, and our heart burdens, let's commit to remembering that the best present is His presence. He's our Hope, our Peace, our Joy... our Beautiful.
Don't miss the beautiful.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are glorious and worthy of all praise! Please help me to fix my eyes on You each day so I can walk in your hope, peace, joy and beauty.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture reading: Colossians 3:1-17
Have you paused to spend time with God one-on-one yet today? This week? Prioritize prayer. Spend time in personal worship. Just you and Him. Then click to my Facebook page (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) and allow the songs that I've posted today lead you in further adoration and praise!
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Friend, don't be discouraged if your calendar seems off-the-charts crazy. I know what that's like. Let's choose the best together and clear a space every day to sit and worship at the feet of Jesus. Uncluttered is a CD filled with songs that sweep you away from excess 'life-noise', this music focuses your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Order your copy today from iTunesor from www.GwenSmith.net.
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December 5, 2011
Forgive Us our Christmases
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For to us a child is born, to us a son is given... (Isaiah 9:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Once upon a time, a little girl named Mary Beth found herself caught in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity, all of which seemed to be coming to a head on Christmas Eve. Her dad was always scurrying about, loaded down with bundles and burdens. Her mom, under the pressure of getting ready for the great occasion, had succumbed to tears several times during the day. The little girl tried to help her weary parents, but always found that she was in the way.
"Not now, Mary Beth! Can't you see I'm busy!" her parents would say.
Finally, near tears herself, she was hustled off to bed. There kneeling to pray the Lord's Prayer, her heart and tongue became intertwined, "Forgive us our Christmases as we forgive those who Christmas against us."
Perhaps Mary Beth's prayer was not such a great mistake after all. Many times we leave Christ out of Christmas. Many times our Christmas spirit is not of good will but of exhaustion, causing us to trample on our loved ones' feelings. And many times we are so busy planning the birthday celebration that we forget to invite the guest of honor.
Imagine for a moment, that you have never heard the Christmas story and you visit a shopping mall on December 22. You listen to the music being played over the intercom system and eavesdrop on a few shoppers' conversations. Next, you stop by a greeting card shop and browse through the rows and rows of red and green envelopes with cards sporting colorful and comical messages. Window displays grab your attention, enticing you with promises of low prices for the last minute shoppers. Stress laden faces rush by carrying stacks of boxes in various shapes and sizes. What conclusions would you draw about the event that culminates on December 25?
Much has changed since the God of the universe decorated the night sky with the star of Bethlehem and directed the choir of angels in a chorus announcing the birth of Our Savior, Jesus Christ. But the commercialism doesn't have to rule in our hearts and homes. This year, let's focus on the Christ Child and remember the true meaning of the holiday season. As we turn our eyes to the Babe in the manger, we will not view Christmas as a dreaded obligation or a major retail event. It will be a time of joyous celebration, honoring the One Who came to give us eternal life and worshipping our Heavenly Father.
Let's focus on celebrating a Christ-centered Christmas!
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes I get too caught in the Christmas commercialism. OK, a lot of times. Today, I'm going to refocus my heart and remember why I'm celebrating this wonderful day in the first place. I'm celebrating Jesus today...and every day!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What stirs in your heart when you see how retailers are trying to cash in on Christmas?
What do you think Jesus would say about all that?
What are some ways that you keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season? Let's share some ideas. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand share your ideas.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmasby Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 6, 2011
How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Christmas! My favorite time of the year!
· Brightly wrapped presents
· Houses draped in sparkling lights
· The smell of cinnamon and pine
· Secret shopping trips
· Children whispering and giggling
· Old movies that make me laugh and cry
· Phone calls from old friends
· Chocolate covered cherries
· Carolers
It is obvious that some thing important is happening. The literal meaning of "Christmas" is "Christ's Mass" and is the celebration of Christ. Oh, how far we have gotten from the wonder and awe of that first Christmas so long ago. I believe we all want a joy-filled Christmas that truly does celebrate Christ. Yet, so often, the holiday season leaves us with very little joy and an elusive emptiness we find hard to explain. Suicide rates soar during the Christmas holidays as depression and exhaustion become constant companions. Something is very wrong. How can we experience a joy-filled Christmas?
I believe the secret to a holy and joy-filled celebration of Christmas is found in giving. It always has been. Are we giving the wrong gifts to the wrong people? Maybe we are not receiving the right gifts with the right attitude. Over the next few days, we will examine several truths about Christmas that will lead us once again to the manger where we will worship the Christ child and experience a Christmas holiday filled with love, peace and joy.
First truth: We must receive God's gift to us.
Luke 2:8-12 (NIV) "There were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them; and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."
God gave the greatest gift of all when He gave Jesus. The very heart of Christmas can be found in a very familiar verse, a verse not often associated with the Christmas holidays.
John 3:16"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son" (NIV).
Christmas is not a date on the calendar. Christmas is a way of life. Like the innkeeper, we have posted a sign that reads, "No room!" No room in our schedules...no room in our homes...no room in our hearts and minds...no room in our lives for Jesus. We can participate in the festivities of the Christmas season but until we truly receive the gift of Jesus we will never truly experience Christmas. To have a joy-filled Christmas, we must not only recognize Him as the center of a season, but as the center of our lives. Jesus could have easily been born in a palace. His first home on earth could certainly have been a mansion. But He came to an ordinary manger and His birth was announced by commonplace shepherds instead of Kings - the greatest of all miracles in the midst of total simplicity. Today, He waits, longing to come to us in the midst of our ordinary, simplistic and commonplace lives.
Hebrews 2:17 (NLT) "Therefore, it was necessary for Jesus to be in every respect like us, his brothers and sisters, so that he could be our merciful and faithful High Priest before God. He then could offer a sacrifice that would take away the sins of the people."
My friend, wherever you are today, He has been there and He understands. I truly believe that into the very heart of Christmas, God has tucked a unique longing. It is a longing for home, for something and someone eternal, a longing that can never be satisfied outside of a personal, vital and growing relationship with God. That is why Jesus came, choosing to dwell in us. To have a joy-filled Christmas, we must receive God's gift to us...the gift of His one and only son, Jesus.
Let's Pray
Father, please help me truly celebrate Your birth this Christmas in a way that pleases and honors You. Right now, I choose to focus on the real meaning of Christmas. May the joy of knowing You direct every part of this Christmas season in the life of my family and friends. Be glorified in the way we celebrate Your birth.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to read the Christmas story in Luke 2:1-20. Pray and ask God to show you how to celebrate Christmas this year. Have a family meeting during which you determine what it means to have a joy-filled Christmas and then make a plan to do just that.
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December 7, 2011
Ready for Christmas?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near (Matthew 3:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It seems like everywhere you go during the month of December people ask the same question. At the grocery checkout counter - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the bank drive-through window - "Are you ready for Christmas?" At the doctor's office - "Are you ready for Christmas?"
I think the answer to that question depends on how you define "ready." Let me ask you this question: "Are you ready for Jesus?" Now that puts the idea of being ready in a whole different Christmas light, doesn't it?
John the Baptist was sent by God to get the people ready to meet Jesus. Here's what Matthew had to say about him:
In those days, John the Baptist came preaching in the Desert of Judea and saying, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near." This is he who was spoken of through the prophet Isaiah:
"A voice of one calling in the desert,
'Prepare the way for the Lord; make straight paths for him.'
"People went out to him from Jerusalem and all Judea and the whole region of the Jordan. Confessing their sins, they were baptized by him in the Jordan River." Matthew 3:1-3, 5-6).
The world is not very fond of the words "repent" or "repentance." But they are good words. They mean "to make a radical change in one's life, to turn and go in the opposite direction from sin toward God." Repentance involves an element of grief over the way we have lived apart from God and a decision to run toward God. That was God's idea of the way to prepare for Christ's arrival in the book of Matthew, and it is still God's idea of Christ's arrival today.
Let's reflect for a moment on the words to this poem and then answer the question, "Are you ready for Christmas?"
"Ready for Christmas," she said with a sigh
As she gave a last touch to the gifts piled high...
Then wearily sat for a moment and read,
Til soon, very soon, she was nodding her head.
Then quietly spoke a voice in her dream,
"Ready for Christmas, what do you mean?"
She woke with a start and a cry of despair.
"There's so little time and I've still to prepare.
Oh, Father! Forgive me, I see what You mean!
To be ready means more than a house swept clean.
Yes, more than the giving of gifts and a tree.
It's the heart swept clean that He wanted to see,
A heart that is free from bitterness and sin."
So be ready for Christmas - and ready for Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I want to be ready for Jesus today and every day. I come to You and repent for my sins: my sin of selfishness, stubbornness, and rebellion. I turn from my self-centeredness today and commit to keep my focus on You. God, I cannot do this on my own. I am not able. So I ask that You fill me with the power of Your Holy Spirit Who empowers me to obey. Thank You that You have given me everything I need for a life of godliness and truth. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think it means to be "ready for Christmas?"
What do you think it means to be ready for Jesus?
Go back and read the parable of the ten virgins in Matthews 25:1-13. Notice the difference between the five who were ready and the five who were not. Which group more resembles your readiness for Christ?
How do you get your heart ready for Christmas. Log onto www.facebook.comand share your ideas! It might be just the thing to help one of your GiGs to keep her heart focused on Jesus.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmasby Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration that will get you ready for Christmas!
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December 8, 2011
How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I believe the secret to a holy and joy-filled celebration of Christmas is found in giving. It always has been. Are we giving the wrong gifts to the wrong people? Maybe we are not receiving the right gifts with the right attitude. Over the next few days, we will examine several truths about Christmas that will lead us once again to the manger, where we will worship the Christ child and experience a Christmas holiday filled with love, peace and joy.
First truth: We must receive God's gift to us.
Luke 2:8-12"There were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them; and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger." (NIV)
Second truth: We must give the right gifts to Him.
Christmas is the birthday of Jesus Christ. Yet, we celebrate His birthday by giving gifts to everyone but Him. What gifts does He want from us? What gifts are fit for the King? To answer that question, let's go back to that first Christmas and see what gifts He received that first Christmas night.
· The gift of trust
The gift of trust was given to Jesus by Mary, a teenage girl who was engaged to Joseph. I can only imagine what thoughts raced through her mind when an angel appeared to Mary announcing she would give birth to a son named Jesus. I am certain she could not have possibly understood what the angel told her, but she knew the one who sent the angel, and that was enough for Mary. I can almost guarantee you it would not have been enough for me if I had been in her place. After all, she was a virgin and last time I checked, virgins cannot be pregnant. What would Joseph think? Trust shines best in the darkness. Trust is a gift fit for the King.
Proverbs 3:5-6"Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight (NASB).
· The gift of obedience
Joseph gave Jesus the gift of obedience. He was betrothed to Mary, and in Jesus' day, a betrothal was legally binding. While engaged, Mary becomes pregnant. Joseph knows he is not the father of this baby because he has never slept with Mary. His first reaction was to divorce Mary quietly, but an angel comes to him and explains that Joseph is to keep her but not sleep with her. Joseph's response could have been many things but he responded with obedience.
John 14:15(NIV) "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
Obedience is not just an outward action, but an inner attitude. I love the story of the small child who was riding in the front seat of the car. Wanting to be close to his dad, the youngster stood to his feet. Dad said, "Son, please sit down and put on your seat belt." The little boy said, "But dad, I want to stand by you!" It took several attempts but the boy finally sat down. When his father bragged on his obedience, the little boy responded, "I may be sitting down on the outside, but I'm still standing on the inside." Obedience is a deliberate choice to do what God wants us to do. Obedience is a gift fit for the King.
· The gift of praise
When the shepherds heard the news, they went to see Jesus for themselves. Afterwards, Scripture tells us they went on their way - praising God. Praise is a continual choice we must make again and again until it becomes a habit. A young hippie was sitting on a park bench, reading his Bible when he suddenly began shouting, "Praise God! What a miracle!" A cynic walking by stopped to ask the man why he was so excited. The hippie replied, "I was just reading how God parted the Red Sea and the whole nation of Israel walked on dry ground!" The older man snapped, "That's ridiculous! Don't you know the Red Sea wasn't a real sea at all? It was only a few inches deep." He then turned and walked away. For a moment, the young man was confused and discouraged but it was only minutes until his shouts again filled the air. The unbeliever returned to ask, "What are you shouting about now?" "Well, I just read how God drowned the entire Egyptian army in only six inches of water!" Don't let anyone keep you from praising God. Don't let any circumstance deny you the joy of praise. Praise keeps us kneeling before the manger and is a gift fit for the King.
Psalm 150:6 (NASB) "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord."
· The gift of sacrifice
The wise men came, bringing gifts that required sacrifice on their part because they knew true worship always involves sacrifice. They brought gold, a precious metal, myrrh, an expensive perfume like Mary later used to wash the feet of Jesus, as well as incense, a rare and expensive product used in worship.
1 Chronicles 21:14 (NCV) "I won't offer a burnt offering that costs me nothing."
Sacrifice goes beyond what is required or expected. The best gift, the most expensive and extravagant gift should go to the one whose birthday we celebrate. This year, give a sacrificial gift in His name.
As the Christmas season approaches, I encourage you to examine your heart and life. What gift does Jesus want from you this year? Is it whole-hearted trust? Is the Father waiting on your willingness to obey before revealing the next step on your journey? Do you live in the gear of attitude and praise? Is He asking you to lay everything down as a sweet-smelling sacrifice unto Him? The best gift we can give Him this year is our heart, soul and mind.
Yesterday, I revised my Christmas list from last year and it occurred to me that the name of Jesus is not on that list. To have a joy-filled Christmas, Jesus Christ must be in the backdrop of every gathering...every preparation... every plan and every holiday celebration. May it be so in our lives this Christmas.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate the birth and life of Jesus Christ who is the very reason for the Christmas season. My gift to You this year is me ... every part of my life in full surrender to Your plan and purpose. Please help me keep my eyes firmly fixed on You as I celebrate Christmas this year. May others see the joy and peace only You can give as I honor You on Your birthday.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider the following gifts you can give to Jesus this year. Read and memorize the verses listed below. Record them in your journal. When you are tempted to get side-tracked by the world's materialistic view of Christmas, remember the gifts that are fit for the King.
Gift of trust
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NASB) "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Gift of obedience
John 14:15(NIV) "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
Gift of praise
Psalm 150:6 (NASB) "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord."
Gift of sacrifice
1 Chronicles 21:14 (ICB) "I won't give an offering that costs me nothing."
More from the Girlfriends
No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email.
Don't miss the biggest sale of the year going on in Mary's online store December 1 – 15! Great savings on Books, CDs, MP3 downloads, E-Bible Studies and Video downloads. Every order is also an automatic entry to win one of three copies of Girlfriends in God's first devotional book, Trusting God. Winners will be announced on December 15.
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December 9, 2011
God Make You Mighty, Girlfriend!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But the angel said to them, Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all people. For today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; He is Christ the Lord (Luke 2:10-11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Family Life Today show on my local Christian radio station once featured an author named Ace Collins who wrote a historical book about Christmas carols. One traditional carol they talked about was the song, "God Rest Ye, Merry Gentlemen."
Before that day, the first line of that song never made sense to me. The title, "God rest ye, merry gentlemen," seemed too old-school-English to embrace. Was it encouraging us to sleep happily? I just didn't get it. But, I'm excited to share with you that the scales have fallen from my eyes! What I learned about this song is really cool, and I think you are going to find it fascinating as well...
Ace explained to the listeners that he had dug through a bunch of English text from the 1500 and 1600s. One of the first things he learned about this carol was that the comma in our modern day version is actually misplaced in the title. It's not "God Rest Ye, Merry Gentlemen." It's supposed to read, "God Rest Ye Merry, Gentlemen." While that information alone might not seem to make a difference, this next bit of information will bring the main point home. His research revealed that back in the day this song was written, the word "rest" actually meant "make" or "keep." And the word "merry" actually meant "mighty" or "great."
So...if we put that all together – in a modern translation – it should sing:
"God make you mighty, gentlemen, let nothing you dismay.
Remember Christ our Savior was born on Christmas day;
To save us all from Satan's power when we were gone astray.
O tidings of comfort and joy, comfort and joy;
O tidings of comfort and joy."
If you would allow me the freedom, I'd like to translate this even further. Call it the Girlfriends In God Revised Edition. This is powerful:
"God make you mighty, girlfriend! Do not be upset, discouraged, or frightened!
Jesus came to earth to take on our brokenness and sin so that we could be made beautiful and whole in Him! This is great news, which should bring you comfort and joy! Rejoice!"
Have a mighty Christmas! Have a powerful Christmas! Our hope is alive because 2000 years ago, Jesus Christ left His throne in heaven, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life, suffered and died for our sin, and defeated death in resurrection. This is surely "good news of great joy!" (Luke 2:10).
Celebrate Christmas this year in His strength, in His peace, and in His joy. God make you mighty, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Lord, You are mighty and powerful. No matter what I face, I want to walk in Your might instead of my weakness. Help me to remember that Your Word says: "Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world" (1 John 4:4).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you need to be mighty in this Christmas season? Forgiveness? Grace? Understanding? Patience?
Is there something that is causing you to be fearful, discouraged, or upset? Pray about it right now and ask God for His strength to consume your weakness.
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CHRISTMAS is right around the corner! If you still have people on your list to shop for, my newest CD, Uncluttered, is a great gift idea. The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. We have a low-priced bundle SPECIAL available too! For more information, go to http://www.gwensmith.net/store/specials.htm.
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December 12, 2011
Hang On!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me (Psalm 63:8, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever felt that this thing called life is just too hard? I know I have. Sometimes life just does not turn out like I thought it would. That's when I have to hang onto God and simply trust Him.
I remember when my son was four-years-old and I was trying to teach him how to snow ski. The first day was just horrible...at least it was for me. I felt like a down-covered workhorse as I lugged two sets of skis in one arm while dragging along Steven with the other. Clunky ski boots, overstuffed mittens, and a hooded snowsuit made it difficult for Steven to maneuver. Add all that to the slippery snow, and we had the perfect formula for a day of whining in winter wonderland.
I tried to teach Steven how to snow plow to keep from going too fast. That's when you point the tips of the skis toward the center and the backs of the skis point out. Well, he just wasn't catching on. He fell and he fell and he fell.
Finally, I came up with another idea. I made an A-frame tent with my legs, Steven stood in front of me, and wrapped his arms around my thighs. Off we went. We moved as one. If I turned left, he went with me. If I turned right, he went with me. His only responsibility was to hang on and relinquish control. And even though he thought he was skiing, in reality, I was the one skiing and he was simply along for the ride.
That is a great picture of what trusting God is all about. That's a picture of what "abiding in Jesus" is all about. We cling to him, hang on to Him, abide in Him. If He goes left, I go left. If He goes right, I go right. David wrote in Psalm 63:8, "My soul clings to You." In other words, David was saying, "I'm hanging on for dear life" Just like Steven did.
Today, as you move through life, cling to Jesus. Hang on to Him. Acknowledge His presence with you and His Spirit in you. Trust Him!
Let's Pray
Jesus, I'm trusting You today. I'm clinging to You. I'm hanging on Your every word.
In Your Name, men.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think David meant when he wrote, "My soul clings to you." Notice he said "soul." That encompasses the mind, will and emotions.
What are some ways your "soul" can cling to Jesus as you move through your day? I'd love to hear your answers. It might be just want someone needs to hear! Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me what you think!
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It's finally here!Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God,is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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December 13, 2011
Gifts That Matter Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you (Luke 6:38, NLT).
Friend to Friend
The world would like us to believe that the success of Christmas depends upon how much we spend, how many presents we give or how many presents we receive. Christmas is about giving, but price tags do not determine the success of our giving. Giving is not dependent on the condition of our checkbooks. Giving is dependent on the condition of our hearts. I am so glad! Like you, we have to plan carefully what we buy and how much we spend on each gift. As a result, we have discovered some creative ways to give gifts from the heart, meaningful gifts that cost very little.
A homemade gift
In 1 Corinthians 4:12, Paul teaches that we should "work hard with our own hands." This principle can easily be applied to Christmas gifts. Giving a homemade gift represents time, thought and is a part of you. When our children were small, one of our favorite Christmas traditions was to create and deliver a homemade hot chocolate mix in decorated mason jars to our neighbors. We placed the jars just to the left of each neighbor's front door, rang their doorbell and ran like crazy! I am not certain who enjoyed it the most ... our neighbors or us. But every year, we were amazed by how much the neighbors enjoyed our homemade gift. (By the way, the recipe posted on my website if you want to carry on this tradition.)
A possession gift
In Matthew 6:40, Jesus spoke about giving away the shirt and coat on our backs. Giving something we already own can be a wonderful Christmas gift if it is something of special value to us. In other words, it is not the idea of getting rid of junk but sharing our treasure. Do not ask the question, "What can I buy for Sally?" Ask the question, "What do I have that would mean a lot to Sally?" My husband is a pastor. During a message, Dan mentioned he collects old Bibles. The next Christmas, one of our church members gave him a family Bible that had been passed down through several generations of family members. It was and still is one of Dan's most precious possessions.
A gift of time
Time is a valuable gift, a precious commodity. The apostle Paul wrote, "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity" (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV). When we give someone 30 minutes of our time, we are giving them 30 minutes of our lives. While Dan was in seminary, we rarely had a spare minute or extra dollar between school, jobs and babies. A close friend who knew our schedule gave us a precious gift of time. "I have no money but wanted to give you a gift for Christmas," he said, handing us a card. Inside was a coupon for free childcare one afternoon each week for the spring semester. That was over twenty-five years ago, and I still remember that wonderful gift of time.
A gift of prayer
The greatest gift we can give someone is the commitment to pray for them consistently. James writes, "Pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and wonderful results" (James 5:16, NLT). Following our traditional Christmas Eve service, an elderly lady approached Dan and said, "I don't have anything to give you, Pastor. But I want you to know that I will pray for you, Mary and the kids every morning this year at 6:00 a.m." And she did! What a priceless gift! Every time she saw us, this sweet lady asked what we needed and how she should pray. Only Heaven knows all that God accomplished in our lives through the prayers of this godly woman.
A gift of encouragement
As the writer of Proverbs says, encouragement is a powerful gift. "An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up" (Proverbs 12:25, NIV). We assume the people in our lives know how much they mean to us. They rarely do. This Christmas, write a letter to someone you love and appreciate, telling them how important they are to you. Be specific. A written note or letter requires time, careful thought and allows that person to read your words of encouragement again and again. One of my most prized possessions is a blue wooden box our son built and gave me one year for Christmas. In that box, I store notes, letters and cards of affirmation so on my "blue" days, I can pull out a dose of encouragement. One year, I wrote a letter of encouragement to my husband and to each child. The letters were placed in decorated envelopes, tied to branches of the Christmas tree and opened first on Christmas morning.
On Thursday, I will share with you six more gifts from the heart. I pray this holiday season will lead us once again to the manger, where we will worship the Christ child and experience a Christmas holiday filled with love, peace and joy.
Let's Pray
Father, teach us to celebrate Your birth in the way we give to others. Lord, I don't want to get caught up in buying gifts that make me feel good. I want to give gifts that honor God, encourage others and point them to the real reason for this season – Jesus. Be glorified in every gift I give this year.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Luke 6:38 that says, "If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you.
What does this verse tell you about how important it is to give?
What does this verse say about the importance of the attitude behind the gift?
What does God promise to do in our lives when we give generously?
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No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend.
Don't miss the biggest sale of the year going on in Mary's online store December 1 – 15! Great savings on Books, CDs, MP3 downloads, E-Bible Studies and Video downloads. Every order is also an automatic entry to win one of three copies of Girlfriends in God's first devotional book, Trusting God. Winners will be announced on December 15.
If you are like me, you are easily swept into the rush of Christmas preparation. I love it – mostly. But I also want to remember that at the very heart of Christmas is Emanuel, God with us. Join me this Christmas season in a quest to celebrate Him and His birth as never before. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email.
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December 14, 2011
I Want a Daddy
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters (2 Corinthians 6:18 emphasis added, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, my friend Gayle learned a wonderful lesson from her pint-size granddaughter. Carlie was sitting in the back seat of Gayle's car with her little best friend. Carlie and this little friend were born on the same day, and their moms were in hospital rooms right beside each other. Not only that, the two girls lived in the same apartment complex. One difference was that Carlie's friend never knew her father. Her mom had boyfriends that came and went through the years, but never a real dad.
When Gayle kept Carlie on the weekends, sometimes her best friend came along. That meant that on Sunday's when Gayle and her granddaughter went to church, Carlie's little friend went along, too.
One day, Gayle had both girls in the back seat when she was running an errand. They were about five-years-old at the time. And out of the blue, Carlie's little friend said, "I wish I had a daddy like you have a daddy."
And Carlie replied, "Oh you do have a daddy."
"No I don't. I want a daddy like you have a daddy. I wish I had a daddy."
"But you do have a daddy," Carlie answered back. "We all have a daddy. God is our daddy. He's everybody's daddy."
Gayle looked in her rearview mirror and saw Carlie's friend hold up her hands in exasperation. "Why has nobody ever told me this?"
How precious! Listen. I have a daddy. You have a daddy. God is your Father and He loves you more than you could ever know. Today, my prayer is that you'll know just how much your Heavenly Father loves you! He's crazy about you and excited to spend this time with you. Trust God! He's got so much to share with you.
Let's Pray
Dear Abba Father, I am trusting You today! I am so thankful that You are my heavenly Father who loves me unconditionally, cares for me unceasingly, and provides for me unreservedly.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of everything you want in a father.
Then go back to that list and put a check beside every one of those qualities that you see in God.
Let's chat. Visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me one quality of God as you father that means the most to you.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here!Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God,is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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December 15, 2011
Gifts That Matter Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you (Luke 6:38, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Have you discovered the truth that we simply cannot "out-give" God? The more we give, the more we receive. And that truth does not just apply to financial giving. It is really all about the attitude behind the gift. Do you remember the Christmas gifts you received last year? How about the Christmas gifts you gave? What about the gift you gave Jesus? On Tuesday, we talked about several meaningful gifts you can give. Here are a few more for you to consider.
A gift of care Galatians 6:2 (RSV) "Bear one another's burdens."
Christmas is a time of empty hopes and fierce loneliness for many people. In fact, the holidays can be nothing more than a season riddled with pain. Every loss is magnified. Every wound is deepened. Pray that the Father will give you His eyes to see the broken lambs, crying out for help. This year, do something for someone who is hurting:
· Invite them over for a meal.
· Listen to them.
· Meet one need in their life.
· Include them in your celebration.
· Take them shopping with you.
Christmas is always hard for me because it is a time when I especially miss my mother who died many years ago. I don't openly broadcast that fact but one Christmas, a precious older lady at our church somehow sensed that I was struggling and decided to meet a need in my life. Cards filled my mailbox. Every time I saw her, Miss Marion would hug me and tell me how much she loved me. She invited our children over to bake Christmas cookies and in doing so, became their adopted grandmother. Miss Marion died a few years ago, but her loving care and investment in my life lives on.
A secret gift Matthew 6:3-4 (TLB) "But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you."
Give a gift to someone you know in secret without them knowing who it is from and with no hidden motive and no apparent benefit to you. Dan and I had been married for three years when we first discovered the joy that a "secret gift" can bring. Dan was in seminary, I was teaching elementary school, and we were both serving at a local church. It seemed as if we were always running, always tired and always broke. At one point, the financial picture was especially bleak. We had 10 days of life to go before the next pay day and not a cent to our name. We told no one but God -- and waited. One Sunday night, we pulled up to the mobile home where we were living and started in the front (and only) door. There on the top step was a small but heavy package wrapped in brown paper. It was a brick. Taped to each side of the brick was a hundred dollar bill. God had provided for our needs through a truly generous heart, someone who had chosen to give a secret gift. To this day, we still have no idea who "bricked" us, but we often think of them and ask God to bless their gift of encouragement.
A gift of forgiveness Colossians 3:13 (NCV) "Get along with each other, and forgive each other."
The Christmas holidays have a way of resurrecting past hurts. The greatest gift we can give ourselves for Christmas is the gift of forgiveness because in choosing to forgive someone else, we set ourselves free. Every 60 seconds of anger displaces 60 seconds of joy. Let go of the hurts. Forgive the wrongs and find healing.
Dan sold one of our old cars to a man who worked in the church maintenance department. A payment plan was created, the title was transferred and the man drove away, never to pay a cent. For months, I was furious, thinking of the man who had stolen our car. To make matters worse, the man then left the church to work at the grocery store -- my grocery store. Every time I bought groceries, he was there and he was smiling. Just the sight of him drove my blood pressure higher as my stomach knotted up with anger. Dan finally decided to give him the car. I decided not to give him the car until I realized the only person being hurt in the deal was me. The next time I bought groceries I walked up to the man and said, "I hope the car is working well for you. Dan and I have decided to just give you the car as a gift." I walked away, a free woman, while he stood, open-mouthed and in shock, now holding his own guilt in his hands.
A gift of teaching Romans 12:7 (NLT) "If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well."
What skill, ability or talent has God given you? Each one is from His hand, meant to be given away in service to others. Is there a young believer in your life you can mentor? What better time to share your gifts and abilities than at Christmas? You may be able to sew or play the piano, cook gourmet meals or beautifully decorate your home. Each talent and ability is a potential gift. In high school, my choral director gave me a free voice lesson each week. Consequently, I attended college on an academic and music scholarship because one woman chose to share her gift with me.
Get creative! Give a gift from the heart this year. May this be a Christmas filled with the joy of the Lord as you celebrate His birth and life.
Let's Pray
May God grant you the light in Christmas which is faith; the warmth of Christmas, which is love; the radiance of Christmas, which is purity; the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice; the belief in Christmas, which is truth and the all of Christmas, which is Christ.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Grab your Christmas list and set aside some time to pray for each person on that list this week. Do you need to rethink some of the gifts you are giving this year? It is not too late! Ask God how you can best honor His birth by the gifts you give to others.
More from the Girlfriends
No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email.
Don't miss the biggest sale of the year going on in Mary's online store December 1 – 15! Great savings on Books, CDs, MP3 downloads, E-Bible Studies and Video downloads. Every order is also an automatic entry to win one of three copies of Girlfriends in God's first devotional book, Trusting God. Winners will be announced on December 15.
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December 16, 2011
Held by Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. (Luke 2:19, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wanted to travel back in time to be an eyewitness of the celestial celebration that took place in Bethlehem the night that Jesus was born? Now, I'm a bit fussy about fashion, but I'd even consider donning shepherd garb and hanging out with a few sheep for that opportunity! To see angels fill the sky, to hear the voice of God through the cries of a baby. To catch a glimpse of the brilliant Star of David, and to satisfy my curiosity as to what exactly a host of heavenly angels sounds like.
Oh, and to talk to Mary! Wouldn't that be amazing to hear what she was thinking as she witnessed, and took part in the greatest miracle ever known to man? This baby she gave birth to was God-in-flesh, a true bundle of love. What do you think she treasured in her heart as she took it all in? I'm struck by this thought: As she held the Hope of the world, the Hope of the world was also holding her. Ponder that!
The baby born in a barn that holy night long ago is the Hope of the world - the Grace that saves us - the Love that heals us. Jesus is Hope that changes our worthless into precious, our guilty to forgiven, our hungry into satisfied, and our empty into full. His presence is inescapable. We cannot flee from His stubborn grip. The psalmist, David said: "If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast" (Psalm 139:8-10).
The Bible tells us in the New Testament that Jesus Christ sits at the right hand of God, the Father in heaven and that He "holds us fast." Relish that thought. The Hope that holds us is Jesus Christ. You and I are held by Hope.
In the Old Testament, God told Joshua that He would "never leave or forsake" him (Joshua 1:5). God says the same to us. He will never leave us or forsake us; no matter the circumstances, not matter the diagnoses, no matter the financial struggle. Our faithful LORD is the same yesterday, today, and forever. We can rest assured that in everything, we are held by Hope.
After His resurrection and before His ascension into heaven, Jesus said, "Surely, I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). My girlfriend Mary Southerland often reminds people that the word "always" actually means ... drum roll please ... "always!" He is always with us. Always loving us. Always wanting us to find comfort, refuge, joy and satisfaction in Him.
As a Christmas approaches and New Year dawns, let's be mindful of God's promise that we are never alone. Just like the shepherds received the headline news of Jesus' birth from singing angels so long ago, receive this glad tiding of great joy today: If you are in Christ, then you are held by Hope.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, You are more wonderful. Thank You for sending Jesus, my Hope, to forgive me, to love me, and to restore me to Your heart. I join the psalmist today in praying, "Sustain me according to Your promise, and I will live; do not let my hopes be dashed. Uphold me, and I will be delivered" (Psalm 119:116-117a). I'm leaning into Your heavenly hug today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you held by Hope? Have you received the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ? Are you seeking God? He's waiting with His arms open wide. CLICK HEREto find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
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Friend, I know that as sweet as Christmas is, it will be hard for many of you this year. Pain is no respecter of persons, and loneliness can find us in a crowded room. I pray that you will find comfort in knowing that – whether you feel it or not - you are being held by the loving God of the universe.
My Facebook page will be a page of prayer today. We'd love to pray for you. Please join us there: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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December 19, 2011
Singing the Gospel
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ - the Lord (Luke 2:10-11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love hearing children sing Christmas carols! One little girl was heard singing that the shepherds were "washing their socks by night!" When my son was four-years-old, I overheard him singing "O Holy Night" in his best vibrato voice. I chuckled as I heard him boom, "Long lay the world in sin and everwhining!" Sin and error pining wasn't in his vocabulary, but he definitely understood the concept of ever whining.
When I became a Christian, the words to familiar Christmas carols began jumping off the pages of the hymnal. It seems the gospel was right there in the words to the carols, and I had missed it before. I began to see what God had done in my life in the words of Silent Night, O Little Town of Bethlehem, and Hark! The Herald Angels Sing.
For example, let's look at the words to Hark! The Herald Angels Sing.
First, look at all those exclamation marks in the song! These angels must have been very excited, and no wonder! They were proclaiming the birth of Jesus, the "newborn King."
The second line says "Peace on earth and mercy mild, God and sinners reconciled." Some people are not too crazy about the word "sinner." But originally it was an archery term that meant the distance between the bull's eye and where the arrow landed on the target. Therefore, "sin" meant "to miss the perfect mark." And it still means that today. Sin means to miss the mark of God's perfection. The Bible says that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. And because of that sin, we have been separated from God. The first verse of Hark! The Herald Angels Sing tells us WHY Jesus came - to reconcile or join us back together with God. It also tells us TO WHOM Jesus came - "to all nations." No wonder the angels were so excited!
Verse one tells us why Jesus came. Verse two tells us WHO He was. He is adored in heaven. He is the everlasting Lord. He is the offspring of a Virgin's womb. He is God with flesh and bones. He is Deity. He is Emmanuel - God with us.
Verse three tells us HOW the Christ child made eternal life available to all mankind. He laid aside His glorious heavenly position, came to Earth as a man, and gave His life so that we could experience second birth (be born again) and live eternally in heaven.
Hark! The Herald Angels Singtells us WHY Jesus came, WHO He was, and HOW He would accomplish His purposes to reconcile a lost world to God. That's the gospel in a nutshell, and it's all packed into one Christmas Carol.
This holiday season, as you sing the familiar Christmas Carols, look for the gospel among the verses and let the melody of God's great Gift fill your heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you so much for the men and women who have gone before us to pen the words to the carols we sing today. I pray that as I sing the familiar words, You will stir me to praise You afresh. And I also pray for those who do not know Jesus as Lord and Savior. I pray that as they sing the words to carols or even hear them on the radio, they will recognize the gospel and understand that Jesus came as the babe in the manger to die on the cross...because of His great love for them. I pray that they will hear the gospel and embrace the truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pretend that you did not have a Bible handy, but only a hymnal or book of Christmas carols. Could you explain the gospel through the words in the songs? Why not give it a try.
If you have children, consider using a hymnal for a family devotion, explaining the meaning to various Christmas songs.
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It is hard not to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmasby Sharon Jaynes. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration.
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December 20, 2011
A Box of Socks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer (Matthew 21:22, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My sister loves socks! One day, we were shopping and happened to walk into a department store where neither one of us could afford to buy a single thing. We were just passing through, on our way to find the bargains we could afford. With a sigh and a wistful look on her face, Betty said, "I wish I could afford to shop in this store." When I asked her what she would buy, she immediately replied with a smile, "Socks! I want a big box of socks. I would wear a different pair every day." I could think of several things I would have liked to buy in that store and socks was not one of them. I guess it is a matter of perspective. What was important to her was not important to me.
I sometimes think my prayer requests are insignificant and unimpressive to God. After all, He is God. Does He really have the time or the desire to hear and answer my prayers? Yes! The truth is that if it is important to me, it is important to God.
Each Christmas, Operation Shoebox collects and sends over eight million shoeboxes stuffed with small gifts such as candy, school supplies, small toys, toothbrushes, soap, and shampoo to children across the world. In Mexico, hundreds of boys and girls gathered at the church in a small village, excitedly anticipating the arrival of their precious shoeboxes.
Delightful chaos erupted as bulging shoeboxes, wrapped in brightly colored paper and ribbon were passed into the small, eager hands of each child. Wrapping paper was hurriedly ripped into pieces and tossed aside, a smile spreading across the face of each child as their long awaited Christmas treasures were revealed. However, one little boy dissolved into tears as he lifted the lid of his box and peered inside to see what he had received for Christmas this year.
One of the Operation Shoebox volunteers spotted the little boy and hurriedly made his way across the church to see what the problem could possibly be. With the help of an interpreter, the volunteer asked the now sobbing little boy, "What is wrong? What is in your box?" With tears streaming down his face, the little boy said, "Socks!" The worker instantly understood and assured the little boy that he could trade his box of socks for another box that might have crayons, a toy or a piece of candy in it.
Alarm spread across the face of the child as he vigorously shook his head and quickly jerked the box away from the now somewhat confused worker. Clutching the shoebox to his chest, the boy began sobbing out an explanation to the interpreter who listened for a few moments and then, with tears spilling out of his own eyes, turned to the volunteer and said, "You won't believe this!"
Taking a deep, steadying breath, the interpreter explained, "This little boy has a rare skin condition with which he was born. It seems to affect his feet more than any other spot on his body. The doctors have tried various medications and treatments but finally told the little boy that nothing will work and his feet will never heal unless he begins wearing cotton socks. His parents cannot even afford food for this boy; much less provide socks for their son. So, all year long, he has been praying for socks."
Socks were at the top of the little boy's prayer list. As a matter of fact, they were his list. The mere sight of ordinary cotton socks brought tears to his eyes as he stared in awe at the priceless gift in his hands – socks. You see, they were more than just socks. They were the profound answer from our extraordinary God to a child's simple prayer. One unknown and seemingly insignificant boy in Mexico prayed. God heard him and said "Let me take care of you."
No matter how small or trivial your prayers may seem, remember God's perspective. If it is important to you, it is important to Him. And He will take care of you.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the privilege of coming before You in prayer. I want prayer to be as natural to me as breathing out and breathing in. I refuse to believe the lie that my prayers are too small or unimportant for You to hear. You are my Father. You are my God and You long to hear my voice. I will bring every prayer of my heart to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have your own "box of socks" for which you are praying? What is it?
Do you really believe that God will hear and answer your prayer?
Read Hebrews 11:6. How does your faith measure up to the faith described in this verse?
Today, pray in faith and see what God does!
More from the Girlfriends
Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook - or through email. A new year is just around the corner. Is one of your resolutions for 2012 to have a daily quiet time? Need help? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. And be sure to get your copy of our new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God.
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December 21, 2011
Silent Night
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor,Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Christmas Day. I imagine if you're like most of us, you are still scurrying about with last minute Christmas preparations. What do you think the angels were doing on that first Christmas Eve? Do you think the heavenly host had one last choir practice before their concert on the hillside? Do you think God was making sure that everyone was in their proper places on the kingdom stage before the curtain rose to begin the grandest drama of all time? Do you think the Holy Spirit was hovering low over the entire world, stirring the hearts of men and women to receive the greatest gift of all?
I'm not sure what was happening in the heavenly realm the night before Jesus was born. But I do know that my heart is full of joy knowing that tomorrow we celebrate Jesus' birth once again.
Perhaps you have sung the words to Christmas carols hundreds of times in your life. But today, I encourage you to pause and read the words to one of my favorites as if you are seeing them for the first time. Read slowly. Ponder the words. "Glories stream from heaven afar"...picture it. "With the dawn of redeeming grace"...savor it. "Christ the Savior is born"...celebrate it.
Silent night, holy night
All is calm all is bright
'Round yon Virgin Mother and Child
Holy Infant so tender and mild
Sleep in heavenly peace
Sleep in heavenly peace
Silent night, holy night,
Shepherds quake at the sight.
Glories stream from heaven afar,
Heavenly hosts sing Alleluia!
Christ the Savior is born
Christ the Savior is born
Silent night, holy night,
Son of God, love's pure light.
Radiant beams from Thy holy face,
With the dawn of redeeming grace,
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, My heart quietly waits in anticipation of the grand celebration that tomorrow brings. Thank you for the gift of Your Son. Thank You for redeeming grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
The Girlfriends in God, Mary, Sharon, and Gwen, pray that you will have a joy-filled Christmas Day celebrating the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ. We love you!
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December 22, 2011
Making a List ... Checking it Twice
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Every year, I make a Christmas list comprised of every person for whom I am buying a gift. Beside each name, I put a dollar amount, a limit for how much money I will spend for that gift, vowing not to spend one penny more than the set limit. (Somehow, the amount I actually spend rarely coincides with the amount I intended to spend.) With every purchase, I then draw a beautiful red line through that name. Done!
I carry that list everywhere I go because sometimes I find a gift during a random shopping trip but mainly because I can't afford to let it out of my sight. There are evil people lurking in my home who will go to any lengths to find that list! You see, I am the Queen of Surprise when it comes to Christmas, so I must guard my list with my life in order to keep my "Queen-ship" status secure. Consequently, the list is hidden in various and unusual places such as a random file on my computer, in my closet, in an old purse, in a sock drawer, in a flower pot – you get the picture. I know where that Christmas list is at all times because it is my gift-giving plan for the holidays.
I wish I were just as concerned about "God's list" for my life; carrying His life plan for me in my heart and mind as I live each day, constantly making choices and decisions in light of that list, guarding it like the treasure map of eternity that it truly is. Just knowing the plan God has for me does not guarantee success. I must do the plan. That is where the choice to obey comes in. An obedient heart is a "fixed" heart and may very well be the gift God wants from us this holiday season.
Psalm 108:1
"O God, my heart is fixed!"
Psalm 40:8
"I take joy in doing your will, my God, for your law is written on my heart."
A "fixed" heart is a determined heart, a steadfast heart that is rightly focused on God and His will, His plan. When we choose to follow God's plan, the desires of our heart will line up in obedience to that plan. We will find our greatest joy in pleasing God, in doing His will because that is what we were created to do.
Maybe today is a good time to stop, go back over the list, review those life lessons we have learned, checking to see where we really are in our walk with God. Maybe today is the perfect time to revisit the manger to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ by giving Him the gift of obedience.
Let's Pray
Father, I love You. Forgive me for the times when I choose to follow my own will instead of Yours. Teach me how to fix my heart on You and give me the strength to do what You created me to do. I know Your plan is the highest and best plan for me and that I was created in response to that plan. Thank You for the purpose that doing Your will brings to my life. Today, I choose to seek You and obey Your Word.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
A new year is just around the corner. Is one of your resolutions for 2012 to have a daily quiet time? Need help? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. And be sure to get your copy of our new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God.
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December 23, 2011
Let's Adore Him
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold and of incense and of myrrh (Matthew 2:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
O come, all ye faithful,
Come everyone! Come sinners! Come saints!
Come if you're tired, hungry, lonely, or faint!
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint" (Isaiah 40:28-31).
Joyful and triumphant;
Come with rejoicing! Come celebrate!
We worship the One who is mighty and great!
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4).
O come ye, O come ye to Bethlehem!
Come home-school mom! Come business pro! Come friend, wife, sister, and daughter!
Let's bow down low and worship Him. Praise Son, Holy Spirit, and Father!
"Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father" (Philippians 2:9-11).
Come and behold Him – born the King of Angels!
Behold His majesty! Behold the matchless King!
Behold the holy One! Behold the saving Son!
He is the One deserving praise.
He is the Lord of night and day.
He is the God who reigns on high.
He is our holy Adonai.
"The next day he saw Jesus coming to him and said, "Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!" (John 1:29 NASB).
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him – Christ the Lord!
Let's Pray
Lord Jesus, Words can't begin to express the gratefulness in my heart as I pause to adore You! Thank you for putting on a garment of humanity to rescue me from my sin. You are holy and righteous and worthy of my praise. I bow before you today in humble adoration. I love You, Jesus and pray in Your name. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Sing to the King! Pause to sing this song of worship (either out loud or in your soul) to our deserving Lord and connect with Him in spirit and in truth. I'll start: "O come, all ye faithful..."
Make a list of 12 reasons that Jesus is worthy of your adoration.
LISTEN to this song, Holy Adonai, which is posted on my facebook page today. (www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic) as a final heart-focused portion of our time together. Adore Him!
More from the Girlfriends
NEED HEALING for some heart wounds? Got a friend going through a difficult time? Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful,takes the reader by the hand and shows her how God delights to transform lives. To order the book, go to Amazonor visit Gwen's website: http://www.gwensmith.net/.
Connect with Gwen on her facebook page! www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic
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December 26, 2011
Taking a Leap of Faith
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see (Hebrews 11:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, on a trip to Kauai, my husband and our friends, Larry and Cynthia Price, decided to go on a zip line through the jungle. After being jostled and tossed like ragdolls in the back of a retired army jeep, we finally made it to the top of the mountain from which we were going to zip down – risking life and limb I might add. Crazy, I know.
I hopped out of the jeep and eyed the cable suspended high above the valley below. After watching Cynthia fly through the trees, I climbed up onto a wooden platform and surrendered to Jack, a jovial, burly Hawaiian, who strapped me into a harness and placed a helmet on my head. With a simple click of a metal buckle, he attached my harnessed body onto a seemingly flimsy steel cable. As I stood on the edge of the platform eyeing the disappearing earth below my feet, I had a choice. I could say, "no thanks" and asked to be released from the cable, or I could jump.
I chose to jump. My body flew over the treetops and the stunningly beautiful gorge. I was Tarzan's Jane and this was my jungle. Airborne. Exhilarating. Risky.
Jacob was with us that day. He was a stranger among our little band of adventures. Jacob was alone. No friends. No spouse. No family.
"Jacob, what brings you up to this mountain today?" I asked.
"I'm afraid of heights," he answered.
I then began to notice the thin line of perspiration beading over his upper lip. The slight tremble in his voice. The mechanical one-foot-in-front-of-the-other halted gait up the hill.
"You're afraid of heights?" I asked. "Then why are you here?"
"I'm going to conquer it today," he determinedly answered.
I was struck. We were here to have fun. He was here for a totally different reason. When Jacob stood on that platform, I prayed for my new friend. For Jacob this was not just a joy ride...or just maybe it was.
I'm not saying that God told Jacob to go to the top of a mountain and attach his body to a flimsy cable, and fly over the gorge at the risk of life and limb. But I am saying that obedience often requires a leap of faith. Too often we say yes to God, but live the no because of fear. We stand at the precipice of belief and a decision has to be made. Am I going to trust God or not? Am I going to attach my heart to the cable of His love and take a leap of faith, or am I going to freeze in fear because I don't trust that He has my best interest in mind? Am I going to settle for safety and miss the thrill of seeing God work through me?
As we live and move and have our being in Jesus, God will take us to some amazing places. But there will always be a choice. Will we jump headlong into the adventurous journey of His perfect plan, or will we hang back because of lack of faith?
Jacob stood on the platform, took a deep breath, and jumped. He flew over the treetops, careened over the river, and landed safely on the other side of his greatest fear.
We clapped and cheered. Jacob took a bow. God smiled.
(If you want to see a video clip of my crazy ride, log onto my Facebook page and take a look.)
Let's Pray
Father, I am so thankful that You always have my best interest in mind. Today, help me to have the courage to take a leap of faith if I need to. I trust You. I'm attaching my heart to the cable of Your love, and I'm going to jump!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when obeying God took a leap of faith?
What happened when you jumped?
Perhaps God is calling you to do something right now that requires a leap of faith. What's holding you back?
Did this devotion bring something to mind that you've been putting off? Is God calling you to take a leap of faith? The first step might be to simply tell someone about it! Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me about what leap God is prompting you to make.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here!Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God,is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
December 27, 2011
On Our Way Home
Mary Southerland
Todays Truth
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:4-7).
Friend to Friend
Have you noticed how hard "re-entry" is?
One of my favorite movies is Apollo 13 in which we first heard those famous words, Houston, we have a problem, an understatement, to say the least. The astronauts faced seemingly impossible odds of getting back to earth but refused to give up the fight until they splashed down in the waters of home.
Life is much the same. We are often thrust into a daily life of foreign and often frightening worlds, shaky circumstances, and impossible trials with no obvious way of escape. It seems like we will never get home and our world will never be right again.
I have discovered a truth that surfaces in my heart every Christmas holiday. We all come into this world with a sense of being lost. Tucked into the corner of our souls is a feeling of restlessness, a longing for home, for something eternal. That longing will never be satisfied outside of a relationship with God. God holds each today and every tomorrow in His hands. Nobody and nothing can fill the God-shaped hole in our hearts.
I have come to cherish that desperate heart cry that drives me to my knees and into the lap of my Father. Each and every time I come to Him, He whispers, "It will be all right. You are not home - yet."
I do not want this broken and torn world to be my final home, but merely a place I am passing through. While I am here, I have a God-sized job to do, an extraordinary mission to complete and a wonderful purpose to fulfill. Is that awesome or what? Absolutely! But it is only the beginning of the eternity for which I was created. It doesn't get any better than that, my friends.
So as you dive into your hectic schedule, remember that one day, we will be home - with Him - but until then, let's celebrate here! Guard your hearts and mind by filling them with Gods Word. Hold fast to the true meaning of the season and dont let go/ Look for ways to share the message of the manger, embracing that longing for home as a sweet reminder that one day we will celebrate His birth in Heaven. What a Christmas that will be! And we are on our way home!
Lets Pray
Oh God, I love You and am so thankful for the hope that eternity holds because I know You. I am not alone, nor will I ever be. I will lack nothing because You are my Provider. I can sing in the midst of the storm because You are sufficient. I praise You and long for Home. But while Im here, help me to be all that You created me to be.
In Jesus name,
Amen!
Now Its Your Turn
Have you ever experienced loneliness or a sense of loss during or after the Christmas season? I encourage you to prepare for it beforehand. The best way to get ready for a difficult time is to stay ready for a difficult time. In other words, now is the time to prepare your heart and mind for the holidays.
Make time each day to be alone with God.
Pour out your dreams and desperation to Him.
Read Psalm 23 once a day.
Invest at least 15 minutes in solitude each day, allowing your soul to catch up.
Make a list of the top five joy thieves in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Prayerfully choose five verses of Scripture about peace. Write these verses on a 3X5 card and carry it with you through the holidays, referring to it while you wait in line, while you are stuck in traffic, at every meal, etc. Consider doing the same as a family project.
After the holidays are over, evaluate the difference this preparation made in your holiday celebration.
More from the Girlfriends
A new year is just around the corner. Is one of your resolutions for 2012 to have a daily quiet time? Need help? Check out Marys Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. And be sure to get your copy of our new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God.
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December 28, 2011
Following God's Lead
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The LORD says, I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you (Psalm 32:8 NLT).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, my husband and I decided to take a few ballroom dance classes. I wanted to be the next Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers. So we signed up for a six week class. The first thing we learned was the Fox Trot, which is like making little boxes with your feet. I put my right hand on Steve's left shoulder and my left hand into his right and we began to march in little boxes. Slow, slow, quick, quick.
The teacher explained that Steve was the leader and I needed to learn how to follow his cues. But I had trouble with this. After all, I was the better dancer and felt that if he would just let me lead, then the classes would go a lot quicker. But that's not how it works. Steve was the leader, and I had to learn how to follow. For the first few weeks, the teacher kept saying, "Sharon, you're leading again."
Here's the thing. Steve was the leader and I needed to learn how to trust him. Did you catch that? It was really about trusting him. And that's the same way it is with God. When we learn how to trust Him, our walk through life becomes a beautiful dance. God, as the leader, has the hard part. We just have to learn to follow His lead, to trust Him. Then we get to dip and spin and make the fancy moves. He actually makes us look good.J
Steve and I are still no Fred and Ginger, but I have learned how to follow his lead on the dance floor. And when it comes to my dance with God, I'm learning how to follow His lead as well. And let me tell you, He knows all the right moves.
I want you to think about that today. When you give up control and learn how to trust God, He turns your walk through life into a beautiful dance that's He's choreographed just for you.
Let's Pray
Jesus, today I'm trusting You! I'm giving up control and following Your lead. Help me to follow Your cues...Your gentle nudges throughout the day. Thank You for extending Your hand and inviting me onto the dance floor of life! I think I hear the heavenly host playing our song!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In your own life, would you say that you tend to take the lead and ask God to join you, or does God have the lead and you join Him? That's a tough question. We know what the answer should be, but what is the reality of your life?
What does relinquishing control look like? How do you relinquish control and yield to God's leading in your life?
I'd love to hear your ideas? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here!Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God,is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
:angel:
December 29, 2011
Hope for Tomorrow
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control
(2 Timothy 1:7).
Friend to Friend
A cloud of terror hung over the Valley of Elah as snarling threats and vile promises spewed from his mouth. The intimidator strutted along grassy slopes swinging an enormous club, his mammoth, ironclad feet pawing the ground like an irate bull, ready to attack. The huge, ugly monster was Goliath, a nine foot giant, the pride of Philistia. He wore massive armor; a bronze coat weighing 200 pounds, a solid iron spear, a heavy bronze helmet. The target of his ranting and raving was a frightened, helpless group of Israelites, cowering in their tents. For forty agonizing days, Goliath had come, taunting them, promising certain destruction and doom. The Israelites, paralyzed with fear, had given up all hope of escape, resigned to their tortured fate at the hand of this Philistine monster.
Then came day forty-one! I am certain, as the sun inched its way over the mountains that morning, that neither Goliath nor the Israelites had any idea that this day would be different. A young handsome teenager stepped into the valley of fear, fresh from the presence of God. David, the youngest in a family of eight boys could not believe the scene before him. Tossing the giant's threats and obvious advantage aside, David refused to accept what he saw. Instead, he chose to believe what he knew in his heart; this giant was going down. With simple but certain faith and unreserved confidence in God, David stepped through the fear, ushering in the mighty presence and power of God. Goliath not only met David that day, He met the Lord of Heaven and earth. And the giant fell! Giants always fall in the presence of God.
We stand on the threshold of a new year – a new beginning! If you are like me, you face 2012 with mixed emotions. Personally, I am thrilled that I survived 2011! There were certainly moments when I wondered if I would. I am so excited about a fresh start, a brand new set of days overflowing with new dreams and unmarked possibilities, but I also know this year is crammed full of the unknown as well as a giant or two. If I am brutally honest, I have to admit the unknown fashions a pocket of fear in my heart where questions and doubts thrive.
The good news is what lies ahead is no surprise to God. In fact, He has already been where we are going. That reason alone empowers us to face every tomorrow with hope, knowing whatever touches us passes through His hands, with His permission. It is not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the defeat and fall of every giant we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, facing every giant in God's power and with His promises. The Holy Spirit will guide the path of His truth to its destined mark, taking down the giants lurking in each tomorrow.
He is the same yesterday, today and forever! The days ahead are saturated with the memory of Goliath's fall and trust in Almighty God, the Giant Killer. So then, girlfriend, I ask you, what is there to fear? Happy New Year!
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You by faith, laying every fear and worry at Your feet. I am not sure what this year holds for me but I do know You are with me every step of the way. When I am tempted to worry, please remind me to trust You. When fear attacks, I choose to pray instead of panic, knowing You are my Lord and my Shepherd. I praise You for Your faithfulness in my life, even when I don't understand and can't see the next step. I praise You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to review the past year. What giants have you faced? Was your response to these giants right or wrong? What changes do you need to make as you approach a new year? Ask yourself the following questions:
How do I typically handle fear?
What giants will I face today?
What has been my natural response to giants of the past?
How do the birth, life and death of Jesus Christ affect those responses?
Read Luke 2:8-14. Examine your life in light of this passage.
More from the Girlfriends
Can you believe 2012 is just ahead, like a clean slate filled with new beginnings and fresh starts? However, what did we learn in 2011 that will make a difference in 2012? As the holiday season winds down, I pray your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. And be sure to get your copy of our new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God.
:angel:
December 30, 2011
I Need Rest!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place" (Mark 6:30-32, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I spin plates. Not real plates. Metaphorical plates. I spin lots of plates at the same time and I multi-task. This is both a blessing and a curse in my life. Sometimes my attention is divided in too many directions, leaving me harried ... while at other times, I'm energized by the amount of things I can get done in a small window of time. Regardless, there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get things done or enough hours in the night to give me complete rest.
Being a plate-spinning mom is a challenge. When my kids want me, they don't like to wait for me to spin three more plates before I answer them or give them my attention. When my daughter Kennedy was a toddler, she figured out a way to stop me mid-task, no matter what I was doing. She would place her chubby little hands on my cheeks, look me in the eye, and demand my full attention. Then she would deliver her message or question to me. I became her captive audience.
Just like Kennedy used to seek my attention, the Spirit of the Lord often speaks a similar message to my heart: "Don't forget about me, Gwen! I know you have a lot going on, but your attention should be mine. I love you. Come sit with me a while."
Life is busy. Each day we have activities, tasks and distractions that vie for our time and attention. If we aren't careful and deliberate, our relationship with God can suffer as a result. The Lord doesn't want to be an after-thought and He doesn't want to be penciled in to our schedules. He wants us to prioritize Him. Focus our hearts on Him. Worship Him. Be with Him. Rest in Him.
What are your priorities? Where does God fit into your schedule? How vital is it to you that you spend one-on-one time with God each day? Are you experiencing the supernatural rest that's found in His presence?
In Mark 6:30-32, we learn that Jesus and His apostles had been busy working for their heavenly Father. In fact, they had worked with such vigor that they hadn't even gotten a decent meal in their belly. (Boy, do I know what that's like!) In response, Jesus invited them to get away with Him so they could find some rest and rejuvenation in His presence. He said, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest" (Mark 6:31, NIV). That same invitation is extended to you and me.
God wants you to pause the plate spinning and be His captive audience in this very moment. He wants you to go with Him to a quiet place: to be still, to gaze into His eyes, to worship Him in Spirit and in truth, to be lost in His glory, and found by His grace - to find rest.
I'd like you to imagine His strong yet gentle hands reaching for your cheeks, lifting your chin, and drawing your eyes to His. Fix your gaze on His beautiful, blazing, mercy-filled eyes. Give the Lord your full attention. He will be your rest.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, please forgive me for all of the times I fail to give You my attention. I shake my head at the very thought that You want to lock gazes with someone like me, yet Scripture clearly tells me that You desire to be sought after and found by me. I'm here. You have my full attention, please speak to my heart and help me to be Your captive audience throughout today and every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· I co-wrote a song called "Sacred Place" that is purposed to lead you to His presence. Please take a moment to listen to "Sacred Place" and personally respond to Him. CLICK HEREto listen to the song on my Facebook page.
Find a solitary place, grab your Bible and read Psalm 103.
Write down your favorite verses from that chapter and journal about what they teach you.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you know that rest, the rest that comes from the heart of God and permeates every fiber of who you are...no matter what you are facing? God desires for you to know His rest, for you to experience the fullness of His love and His peace. If your soul is in turmoil, lift your gaze to the Father. Seek His heart. He will meet you at your need and sustain you one day at a time. Spend some sacred quiet time with Him today.
Gwen's song "Sacred Place" is featured on her live worship CD, Unsearchable, which is available on iTunes, Amazonand on Gwen's website.
Portions of today's devotion are found in Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. God delights to transform lives...even yours! Experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and then stand back and watch the wonder of grace at work.
:angel:
January 2, 2012
Be Still and Know
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In him we live and move and have our being, (Acts 17:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I pressed the send button on my latest manuscript, What God Really Thinks about Women. For twelve months I had spent night and day with Jesus and the women he encountered while he walked the earth. I was going to miss them. Miss walking in their sandals. Miss breathing their air. Miss crying their tears. Miss carrying their water jugs. And while I wasn't going to be in their lives and in their business every day, their imagined faces were etched in my mind and they had become part of me for eternity. But it was time to move on.
I grabbed a cup of coffee, snuggled up in my favorite overstuffed den chair, and opened my Bible in my lap. "OK, God," I began, "that project is finished and tied securely with a bow. So what do you want me to do now?"
I wondered if I should get into a Bible study group, take a class at the local seminary, or finally write those magazine articles I had been putting off. Should I start a small group, volunteer at a charity, or start a new book project? I asked the question and waited.
God surprised me. Acts 17:28 came to my mind. I believed He put it there. In him we live and move and have our being. Learn what that means, He seemed to say. Let's just spend time together. No agenda. No goal. No deadlines. I want to rekindle the romance. Will you let me?
His answer startled me. I hadn't even realized the fire had died down. Wasn't I working for Him? Wasn't I doing God's will? Wasn't I busy about my Father's business? And then I began to see what He meant. He began turning the lens of my mind's camera and the fuzzy image grew clear. I wondered how I had missed it before. In the middle of all my busyness for God, I had neglected my relationship with God.
I was made for goals, or so I thought. Sitting still wasn't in my nature, and perhaps that was what God was trying to tell me. My "nature" or natural bent of work was standing in the way of worship. My natural bent of activity for God was getting in the way of my communion with God. My daily routine of sanctioned quiet times was getting in the way of divine romance in which He wanted me to engage.
Like the men caught on the stormy Sea of Galilee, I felt I had been reeling in the waves for years – never in danger of truly sinking – just reeling from one rolling wave of work and deadlines to the next. But on this particular morning, I began to see the cast of characters in this Galilean scene in a different light. I was definitely in the scene, but I wasn't in the boat at all. I was the storm.
I love how Eugene Peterson describes Jesus' words to the wind and the waves as his friend stirred him from his sleep to calm the squall: "'Quiet! Settle down!'" The wind ran out of breath; the sea became smooth as glass."(Mark 4:39 The Message).
What does God really want from me? I've pondered that question since the day I first came to Christ. It was one of the two questions Saul asked when he met Jesus on the road to Damascus: "Who are you? What shall I do?" (Acts 22:8, 10).
I think I've made my relationship with Jesus far too difficult. I have spent so much time striving to get closer to the heart of God. And all the while God has been whispering to me, "Cease striving and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10 NASB). "It's not that hard. Settle down. Be quiet."
And that is what Jesus was telling me that frosty January morning. But I realized I didn't really know how to be quiet and settle down. I had never mastered the idea of "be still and know." I knew that God was God. It was the "be still" part that stumped me every time. Now don't get me wrong. I can be still for a few minutes, maybe even an hour if need be. But much longer than that and I'm undone. Restless spirit syndrome begins to shake my soul, and the urge to get up and get moving wrestles me from worship.
So on this January morning, as I share this with you, I'm asking...will you be still and know that He is God with me? For a moment?
God had a lot to show me in the year that followed that frosty morning. I'll be sharing what I learned from time to time as we go through 2012 together.
So Happy New Year! I look forward to linking arms and hearts in 2012.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to learn what it means to live and move and have my being in You. Thank You for a New Year. I am excited to see what You have in store.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How good are you at "be still and know that I am God?"
Have you ever felt God say those words to you?
Easy? Hard? What do you think stands in the way?
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to see yourself as God sees you this year? You are a chosen, dearly loved, child of God! Transformed! Totally new! To learn more about who you are, what you have, and where you are in Christ, see Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful and put on your holy glow!
:angel:
January 3, 2012
Go for the Gold Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 1:12 "Our conscience testifies that we have conducted ourselves in the world, and especially in our relations with you, in the holiness and sincerity that are from God. We have done so not according to worldly wisdom but according to God's grace."
Friend to Friend
I always look forward to watching the Winter Olympics and am always amazed by the amount of training the athletes are willing to invest in order to win a gold, silver or bronze medal. If Christians were willing to make the same kind of investment in running the race of life, I believe the world would be a vastly different place. How important you consider a race to be influences how hard you will run it and determines the goals you set in order to win that race. I believe every believer should have clear life goals based on clear spiritual goals which should be the most important goals of all. There is a close connection between spiritual goal-orientation and motivation and fulfillment in your Christian life. This is a big reason why so many Christians are unmotivated in their walks. If you want your relationship with God to be motivating, it has to be making progress, accomplishing something and steadily growing - which involves learning to set meaningful life goals.
In order to set meaningful life goals, it is important to remember that because we are children of God, we walk by faith - not by sight. The world's wisdom is often in direct opposition to the grace of God. In 2 Corinthians 1:12 the apostle Paul reminds us to keep our gaze on God, our glance on our circumstances and our path in His will. One of the most comforting thoughts about setting goals is that God is more concerned about my future than I am. When I stop to think about the fact that God has planned out every day of my life, setting goals becomes the daily quest of discovering that plan and choosing to follow it. I find great hope in the knowledge that even though I do not know every detail concerning my future, God does, and He has already made every provision for that plan. In other words, where God guides - He provides - which is why I can face each day with a confident expectation that God is sufficient and will bless my life as I seek His plan and set my life goals accordingly. Setting goals is the mark of a seeking heart that longs to please God and experience every blessing He has in store.
A friend once shared with me the idea of making life goals "S.M.A.R.T." Over the years, this idea has become a practical and powerful tool in learning how to set meaningful life goals. I hope it is helpful to you.
Specific. Psalm 139:16 "All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."
Life goals must be specific. Determine precisely what your goals are. What have you always wanted to do but have never had the time or money? What would you do if money and time were not an issue? What do you want to accomplish in the next five years? What do you wish you had done in the last five years? What do you think God wants you to do that you are not doing?
Break each goal down into a series of smaller accomplishments that, when completed, would result in achieving your primary goal. When you break your goals into bite-sized pieces they don't seem to be quite as daunting.
By the way, celebrate each time you achieve one of your goals. Sharon Jaynes is a good friend and awesome partner in ministry. I will never forget the day Sharon walked into the office where we both worked, holding what looked like a new baby wrapped in a blanket. Since Sharon's son was in college at the time, you can say I was a little surprised - until she unfolded the blanket and said, "I just gave birth." Her "bundle" was actually the first copy of her new book and she was celebrating. I joined her in praising God for the goal she had set and met! Praise and celebration can help motivate you to achieve the next goal on your list.
Measurable. Luke 11:28"Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it."
Can you tangibly show you met the goal? Goals must be specific to have life-changing value and you must be able to tell whether or not you have reached each goal. What specifically do you want to accomplish, and within what time frame? It is so easy to set ambiguous life goals. "I want to get more involved in my church" instead of "I will attend the 10:30 worship service each week." I once set the goal of improving my prayer life but the first question that popped into my mind was, "How?" A better goal would have been to pray each morning for 10 minutes or recruit a prayer partner to pray with once a week.
Once a goal has been met, review the process of meeting that goal and determine what mistakes you could have avoided and what changes you should have made along the way. Ask God for wisdom as you plan and set specific goals. Involve Him every step of the way and be sure to chart your progress. Don't be afraid to make mid-course corrections as needed. We sometimes allow sin to influence the goals we set but if we submit each goal to God, He will guide us back onto the right path and lead us to re-evaluate each goal
Join me Thursday for the "rest of the story" on setting goals.
Let's Pray
I come to You today with a heart filled with praise and wonder. To think You created me in response to Your plan is an amazing thought, Lord. But I choose to believe it and celebrate it in my life today. Help me learn how to set life goals that will lead me in Your ways and help me fulfill the purpose for which I was created. Thank You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. With that promise in your heart, begin to evaluate your life goals. Are they specific? Are they measurable? What changes do you need to make in order to set and meet the goals God has for your life? Record those changes below.
Specific goals. Psalm 139:16 "All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." _______________________________________________________
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Measurable goals. Luke 11:28"Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it."
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More from the Girlfriends
Need help getting the Word of God into your life? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is When I Am Afraid. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
:angel:
January 4, 2012
The Glory Ache
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full, (John 10:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us come to Christ with a certain"inloveness"—a stirring of emotion mixed with an inexplicable knowing that we've discovered our reason for being. But some years into our spiritual journey, the wonder that swelled during the early years ebbs into routine religion laced with busyness. And we secretly question the point of it all. There has to be more than this, we muse. There has to be something more. What am I missing? What's wrong with me? I'm doing all the right things, but God seems so far away. I'm trying as hard as I can, but it never seems to be enough. What does God really want from me anyway?
For decades, as I have had the privilege of ministering to women, I have heard the same heart-cry from those who desire to have a deep, intimate, exuberant relationship with Christ but don't know how to find it.
Perhaps you can relate. You long to feel close to God but sense there's just something lacking, that you've missed the mysterious formula to make it happen. I call this a "glory ache" —a persistent longing to experience God's presence on a daily basis. Perhaps like most women, you've tried desperately to balance the montage of mundane demands and somehow slip God into the white spaces that are few and far between. You long to spend time in the sacred with God, but find the desire crowded out by the responsibilities of the secular—the daily demands—that lay claim to your attention. You yearn to experience God's presence, but feel far away from Him as you reach to click off the bedside lamp and collapse exhausted once again. Maybe tomorrow, you sigh.
Sound familiar? If so, you are not alone.
The travesty is that we allow the busyness of life to crowd out the Source of life. As the Psalmist wrote, "We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing" (Psalm 39:6 NLT). Ann Voskamp echoes that lament: "In a world addicted to speed, I blur the moments into one unholy smear."
And in that unholy smear, that blur of the world passing quickly by, we know something's not quite right. So we strike out to make it all better. And most of us are quick to think 'something more' means 'doing more.' We ramp it up and gun the engines—sign up for a new committee, volunteer for a new cause, bake one more casserole to feed the sick. We attempt to silence the hunger pains of the heart by feeding it the bread and water of duty. And at the end of the day, while we might feel a self-induced sense of well-being, the hollowness in our soul that can only be satisfied with God echoes with the grumblings of hunger still.
We long for a sense of closeness with God, but we have a hard time putting our finger on exactly what that closeness would look like. It's just something more. Something different. A flavor we have yet to taste. A country we have yet to visit. A sunset we have yet to experience. A lover we have yet to embrace. There has to be something more, we cry! And we are quite right. We are craving the closeness that comes with an intimate relationship with Jesus.
We try so harder. We go to Bible studies, attend church, say our prayers, and read our devotions. Check, check, check. And yet, we constantly feel that we are somehow letting God down. With the last amen of the day, we sigh, What more does God want from me?
I want to suggest that we're asking the wrong question. It is not what God wants from you. It is what God wants for you. John 10:10 gives you a hint.
So today, ask God THAT question. You might be surprised.
Let's Pray
God, I don't know quite what to do with this longing for something more...with this glory ache that pulls at my heart. Will you give me glimpses of Your glory today? Help me to see You? To Hear You? I'm expectantly waiting!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt that "glory ache" I mentioned?
How did the following describe their glory ache? Isaiah 26:9Psalm 42:12, 63:1, 84:2
How did Jeremiah describe anything we go to other than God to satisfy the glory ache? Jeremiah 2:11-13
What does Jesus invite us to do? John 7:37-38
Let's talk about this...Have you tried to fill your ache for God with something on this earth, and came up hungry still? If so, what was it? What did you learn? Let's share on www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. Your honesty will help someone else. I'm sure of it.
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Do you need a tune-up when it comes to tuning-in to God? Do you want to know how to hear that still small voice? If so, check out Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to Godand sharpen your spiritual listening skills! And don't forget to check out our new Girlfriends in God devotion book, Trusting God.
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January 5, 2012
Go for the Gold Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take (Proverbs 3:5-6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Someone once said that if God showed us every detail of our lives - all at one time - we would sit down and refuse to face another day. We were not created to be omniscient like God. He reveals our future to us in portions we can digest - like loving parents feeding their child only the type and amount of food that the child can handle.
Watching our daughter introduce solid foods to our six-month-old grandson was an intriguing process to watch. I'm not sure if it was the texture or taste that surprised Justus, but the faces he made when that new food was first placed in his little mouth were hilarious. When he liked the new food, his eyes got big and he grinned and made a big smacking sound as if to say, "Where have you been keeping this stuff?" However, a few foods elicited a very different reaction. He scrunched up his face, turned his head and promptly spat out the offending food. Danna quickly learned the art of mixing foods in a single bite and also learned the same food Justus refused to eat on Thursday was often consumed the next time she tried. God only reveals what we can understand, perceive, apply and digest at the time.
Attainable. Proverbs 16:3 "Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."
If you have seen the movie, "Miss Congeniality," you will remember when each contestant was asked about life goals. "I want to achieve world peace" was the popular answer. World peace is a great goal but not attainable by one person. Perhaps a better individual goal would be to make peace with your neighbor. I sometimes think we set life goals that are lofty and unattainable because then we really can't do anything to reach that goal. Reaching a life goal requires action. We are called by God to not only hear His Word but then to put it into practice - to do something about it through setting goals.
A goal should not be set to authenticate what you have already been doing or want to do. God created us to mature, to grow and change, not to stand on the sidelines of life. God wants us in the game and on the field of life. Godly goals will push us beyond where we are and what we are capable of. If no effort is required to reach the desired outcome, then it really isn't a goal. When I was in college, I sensed God leading me to take organ lessons. I had played the piano for years but, for some reason, suddenly wanted to play the organ as well. After a few months of lessons, I was asked to play the organ for a countywide crusade to be held at the convention center of the small town where I grew up. Hundreds of people would attend the crusade, and the guest speakers were well-known across the state. I was terrified but began to practice the organ every spare minute of every day. By the time the crusade came, I was able to play each song that was handed to me. It was definitely "a God-thing."
Sidebar: Ask a trusted friend to hold you accountable in each area where you want to improve, grow, or achieve. This should be a same-sexed friend from whom you can easily take criticism and who will feel comfortably pushing you a little when you aren't following through on your goals. When we involve others, we tend to feel a greater sense of responsibility and accountability. Run your plans and goals past other people. You don't want to do this with every goal and at every step along the way, but you should with big and important plans, especially if they impact other people.
Realistic. Hebrews 11:6 "And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him."
It is easy to establish a goal that is totally unrealistic. In doing so, we are setting ourselves up to fail. I once set a goal to read and memorize at least two chapters of the Bible each week. Yes, it was a great goal but unrealistic for that season of my life. I had two small children and was directing the women's ministry of the church where my husband was the lead pastor, teaching a community Bible study, teaching 20 voice and piano students each week and had begun traveling and speaking for women's events. When I did not reach that goal, I beat myself up with guilt and God was not honored. A more realistic goal would have been to memorize a few verses each week.
At this point, it is good to brutally examine motives. Are the goals we are setting from God or from our own selfish desires? Do I want my relationship with God to grow or do I want others to think I am Godly? Consciously decide in light of Scripture which goals you will prioritize, or you will most likely end up surrendering to the "tyranny of the urgent" or just doing the next and easiest thing.
Timely. Ephesians 5:15-16"Be very careful, then, how you live, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."
I have to have deadlines to achieve goals. When someone books me to speak for an event, I always ask them to give me a deadline for submitting handouts and slides, shipping resources, etc. I then record those deadlines on my personal calendar. If I don't, I often find myself scrambling to get books shipped in time for the event and end up paying extra postage or have to download slides onto a memory stick to take with me to the event. If you give yourself a deadline, you will get more done.
Write out a list of things that would need to change in your life in order for your goals to come true. Sometimes the only reason we don't accomplish our goals is that we don't have a written plan of what needs to be done. Without having the ability to review the goals regularly, we tend to lose our focus. Before we know it, a month or two has gone by, there is no progress, and we are frustrated that we are no closer to the realization of our goals.
Pray! Ask God to give you direction to create goals and help you to reach them. He has plans and purposes for our lives. Success and purpose come when we find out what they are and go after them wholeheartedly. Surround your goals and plans with prayer and ask the Lord to bless you as you work toward each one. We need to order our lives in a more conscious way. Set forward-focused, spiritually sound goals, and be delivered from the futility of a life with no purpose.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to follow Your plan for my life. Please lead me and guide me in Your ways. Give me Your wisdom and truth and show me the purpose for which I was created. I will seek You first in my life. I will trust You with my whole heart and do whatever You ask me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take."
Record these verses in your journal.
Circle each action word.
In your own words, define the action words you circled.
How can you apply each directive to your daily life?
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January 6, 2012
Wow Him!
Pam Farrel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions.
We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Pam Farrel.
Today's Truth
Love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
Friend to Friend
My husband, Bill, loves his coffee. But along with his love of coffee, Bill also has a habit that can be very annoying - his aversion to getting the coffee mugs into the dishwasher. I find coffee cups every place imaginable: in the garage, in the car, in the truck, in the closet, on the sidewalk, on the deck and patio, in the shop, in the office, on the stairwell, in the bathroom—you name it, and I have probably found a coffee cup there. It is a good thing we are authors and speakers because we love collecting the coffee mugs from all the churches where we speak and all the TV and radio shows on which we appear —and we need every one of those mugs!
I am not a coffee drinker really. I might drink a nonfat latte, but for the most part, coffee makes my heart race, and I prefer that only Bill makes my heart skip a beat! Bill says I am naturally caffeinated by God and it takes Bill drinking three cups of coffee just to keep up with my energy. On the other hand, Bill has an internal homing device that helps him spot a Starbucks green awning!
How did I handle the mugs issue?
Appreciate the Difference: Coffee is a part of what makes Bill - well, Bill! One day, as we were preparing to move homes, I was doing that "last load of dishes" and I realized it was all coffee mugs - 47 of them to be exact! It made me smile because years ago, I decided to pray for Bill every time I saw one of his empty displaced mugs. I was seeking to apply the principle "love covers a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8). I have embraced the ever-reappearing-dirty coffee mug with fond affection because it reminds me of my hard workin' man who requires caffeine to do all the wonderful acts of service that benefit so many – including me.
Celebrate the Difference: We celebrated Bill's 50th birthday by having Bill select and then roast his own brand of coffee. It took one whole afternoon to visit a coffee farm, select the beans, roast them to perfection and then design the label. I knew I had a winning date as Bill sat and lingered a moment to savor the aroma of his Farrel Family blend of Mountain Thunder Vienna roast. He took a sip. I then watched a big grin appear on my husband's well-caffeinated soul.
Let's Pray
God, if anyone I love has something that is driving me crazy, please help me look for the upside, the flipside of that thing so I can see my family and friends the way You see them. Help me desire to bless them. Give me creative ways to express my love when I am irritated.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, take that thing that is driving you crazy about your husband (sibling, parent, roommate or coworker) and pray about it. Then look for a way to celebrate them. If you are married, step out and create a date to WOW him!
More from the Girlfriends
Many times when something irritates us we allow it to fester or grow into a slow burn. We allow our mind to tell us the person is doing it on purpose—just to be irritating. Usually, that is far from the truth. Put yourself in the irritating person's shoes. How do you want others to treat you when some habit, some personality trait, some quirky behavior is bugging them? Before you lose your cool, shoot up a prayer, "God, make me a blessing." Take a breath and then respond with the words or actions God will give you. In my new book, 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband, I share how to make this year the best year of your man's life.
Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of over 35 books including best selling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti. Free relationship articles and other books and resources like Pam's newest 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband can be found at www.Love-Wise.com.
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January 9, 2012
Where Are You Going?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life, (John3:16, NASB).
Friend to Friend
I was traveling to Canada to speak at a women's conference. As I approached the passport checker, I held out my little book like a seasoned traveler.
"Are you here for business or pleasure," the guard asked?
"Well, I'm not sure what to call it. I'm here for ministry. I'm speaking at a women's event and it is my pleasure to be here."
"Where are you going?"
"I'm not sure where the event is, "I answered. "They have someone picking me up."
"Where are you staying?" she continued.
"You know, I have no idea," I answered with a smile.
"Excuse me, ma'am. Will you please set aside and follow me?"
"Of course."
I followed what looked like a police officer as she led me to a little room. All of a sudden, a twinge of fear rose up in my throat, and I realized I might not have answered her questions with the best answers. I was entering a foreign country and I couldn't tell them where I was going or where I was staying. I sat in the plastic chair and noticed a security camera in the corner.
In quick order, another man came in the room with an official looking note pad. He asked me a battery of questions. I quickly learned that when those border patrol people ask you where you are going and where you are staying, you'd better have a ready answer. You do not want to be ushered into the little white room with the camera recording your every move.
Thankfully, they let me in the country, and I spoke at the women's retreat. But I can assure you, every other time I've crossed the border, whether north, south, east or west, I've had a ready answer to the questions that I know will be coming my way.
That brings me to a couple of questions we're all going to have to answer one day. Do you know where you are going? Do you know where you are staying? Not tomorrow or the next day, but for eternity? If you were to die today, do you know where you're headed? If you're not sure, Click here to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the assurance of heaven as your final destination.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, thank You for giving Your life for me so that I can have eternal life in heaven. I know that I could never earn my salvation...that I could never be good enough. But You were good enough for me. Because of Your finished work on the cross, God has made a way for everyone to believe on You, confess your Name, and be saved.
In Your Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Picture yourself at the customs counter trying to get into heaven. What about your passport would make the agent let you in?
Do you know where you're going?
Do you know where you're staying?
More from the Girlfriends
Once I became a Christian, I knew I was going to heaven, but I wasn't sure what I was supposed to do until I got there. I had no idea who I was as a child of God, so I lived in continual defeat. It wasn't until I learned who I was and what I had as a child of God that I began living the victorious life. I want that for you! To learn more about how to live in victory because of who you are, what you have, and where you are in Christ, see my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful and get ready to put on your holy glow!
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January 10, 2012
Coming Out of the Dark Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Florida is famous for its sinkholes. I personally find them fascinating since I grew up in Texas where most holes are made intentionally. As I studied these overnight wonders, an interesting explanation emerged. Scientists assert that sinkholes occur when the underground resources gradually dry up, causing the surface soil to lose its underlying support. Everything simply caves in -- forming an ugly pit.
Depression and sinkholes have a lot in common. Depression seems to overwhelm with a vicious suddenness when it is actually the result of a malignant and constant process. Inner resources are slowly depleted until one day there is nothing left. The world caves in and darkness reigns.
Depression is America's number one health problem. Someone once called it "a dark tunnel without a ray of light" while cartoonists portray it as a "little black cloud hovering overhead." I have a friend who says, "Some days you're the bug. Some days you're the windshield." Many believe depression is simply a spiritual problem while others insist it is an emotional and physical disorder. I think they are all right. Studies indicate that over half of all women and one out of three men struggle with depression on a regular basis. Because no one is immune to the darkness, we must learn to face it honestly, with emotional integrity.
That moment came for me in the spring of 1995 when I realized that something was drastically wrong. I was empty and completely exhausted. It seemed as if I had been living in the fast and furious lane forever. Overwhelmed, I mentally listed the demands on my life:
Serving as pastor's wife in a large and fast-growing church
Raising two young children
Maintaining a hectic speaking schedule
Directing the Women's Ministry of our church
Teaching a weekly and monthly Bible study
Counseling women in crisis
Playing the piano for three worship services
Teaching twenty piano and voice students
No wonder I was struggling. I was just plain tired. Being a perfectionist, I had always been very strong, driven to excel with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. Getting dressed by the time my children returned from school meant it was a good day. The simplest decisions sent me into a panic and the thought of facing crowds was overwhelming. Many times, I walked to the front door of the church but couldn't go in. I felt guilty missing services but couldn't handle the sympathetic looks and questioning stares as I stood, weeping uncontrollably. I was paralyzed, imprisoned in a bottomless pit where loneliness and despair reigned, wreaking emotional havoc from their throne of darkness. I had no idea how I had gotten there and what was even more frightening was the fact that I had no idea how to escape. I did the only thing I could do. I cried out to God.
"I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand." (Psalm 40:1-2, NIV)
With that single heart cry, my journey from darkness into light began. The first step was to recognize the factors that can trigger depression; a lack of replenishing relationships, various chemical imbalances, and a poor self-image, just to name a few. One of the most common and deadly factors is failure to deal with the past. The "mire" mentioned in Psalm 40:2 means "sediment at the bottom." When our children were small, we frequented the beach. Wading out into the ocean, they took turns pushing a beach ball under the water and counting to see who could hold the ball down for the longest time. Eventually their arms would tire, or the ball would escape their control, popping to the surface. The "mire" in our lives is like that beach ball. The "sediment" or "junk" that we have never dealt with settles at the bottom of our souls, randomly popping up until we run out of energy to keep it submerged. Eventually, this mire works its way to the surface, spilling ugliness and darkness into every part of life.
"Mire" comes in all shapes and sizes -- buried pain, unresolved anger, hidden sin or a devastating loss. I had never really dealt with my mother's death or faced some very painful parts of my past. As I looked back over my life, a startling realization came -- I had painted a picture in my heart and mind of how I wanted my childhood to be, not how it really was. I had spent my whole life running from the past by filling the present with frenzied activity. In the following weeks and months, the Lord and I sifted through the enormous pile of "mire" that had settled into my spirit and life. Together we faced experiences that I had carefully locked away until they slammed into my heart and mind with breathtaking force and fresh pain; an alcoholic father, the trusted family doctor who molested me, times of loneliness and rejection, haunting failures, unreasonable fears that were never spoken. It seemed as if the flood of polluted memories would never end!
But God is good -- providing a defense mechanism for those experiences that are beyond our ability to face. He gently tucks them away until we are ready. When we bury pain alive, it keeps popping up at unexpected moments. Pain must be dealt with and buried ... dead! Freedom from the pit of darkness demands a confrontation of our past, straining every experience through the truth that "all" things work together for our good. The will of God admits no defeat and penalizes no one. We can allow our past to defeat us or empower us. Harnessing the power of the past is a compelling weapon in the war against darkness.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired and so afraid of the darkness in my life. Right now, I cry out to You. Please help me deal with the mud and mire in my past. Heal my heart and soul and mind. I want to trust You, Lord. I am no longer willing to be a prisoner of my past. Show me the sins I need to confess and turn away from. Heal the wounds that have hurt for so long. I lay my past at Your feet and ask You to make it a cornerstone for the new life I can have in You. I choose to believe You will work it all together for Your glory and my good.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think back over your life. Make a list of the "mire" that has settled in your heart and soul. Be specific. It may be a sin you need to confess or the pain of a broken relationship that needs to be healed. Ask God to show you the things in your past that have become footholds of darkness in your life today. Face each one. Deal with it and let it go.
Read Romans 8:28. What good things has God brought out of the pain in your past? Is your faith stronger? Have you been able to encourage others who have experienced that same pain?
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Now is a great time to establish the habit of a daily quiet time. Let us help you get started. Get your copy of the Girlfriends in God new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God. You can use it for your personal study or why not form a GiG group and work through the book together?
Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to face and deal with fear in Mary's new study, When I Am Afraid, beginning January 16. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 11, 2012
Are You Asking God the Wrong Question?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Cease striving and know that I am God, (Psalm 46:10, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Could it be that we have made our relationship with God far too difficult? We strive so hard to draw closer to the heart of God. And all the while, God's outstretched hand is reaching to draw us in. Psalm 46:10 reads, "cease striving and know that I am God" (NASB).
Cease striving.
For over a half of a century, I had been striving, pursuing, and seeking God. And like a cat chasing her tail, I had been going in circles. Circling in the wilderness with the Israelites, if you will. Saved from slavery, for sure. Headed to my own personal Promised Land, hopefully. But somehow stuck in the wilderness wandering, ever circling but not quite reaching Jordan's shore.
And I am not alone. Statistics show that one of the top desires of Christians is to grow closer to God. During a recent poll, sixty-five percent said they were declining or on a plateau in their spiritual growth. On the other hand, Peter wrote: "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness" (2 Peter 1:3). We have everything we need to experience the ever growing, continually maturing, abundant life, so why aren't we? Why are most of us languishing on the desert plateaus of mediocrity and complacency? Why are most of us satisfied munching on the predigested truths of teachers rather than pulling up to the banquet table and feasting with God at a table set for two?
"God, what do you really want from me?"
I've pondered that question since the genesis of my relationship with Christ. Perhaps you have too. When you boil down all the water from the diluted soup of questions men and women have simmered in their heart through the centuries, this is the one question left in the pot. And somehow, we feel that if we could answer that one question, we would discover why that glory ache persists and how to satisfy our yearning.
I had asked the question a thousand times, but one frosty January morning, I got quiet enough to listen. And then, in the stillness, He showed me that I and my busy sisters have been asking the wrong question.
Rather than ask God what He wants from us, we need to ask Him what He wants for us.
I meditated on Acts 17:28 throughout the following year after the day God whetted my appetite with the possibilities wrapped up in those eight little words. I came to realize that what He wants for us is to sense His presence, experience His love, and delight in intimate relationship as we live and move and have our being in sacred union with Him. And when we do, He opens our eyes to His glory all around and the ache for something more is soothed.
Let's Pray
God, what do you want for me today? Open my eyes to see and ears to hear. Show me glimpses of Your presence as I live and move and have my being in you. And help me not to miss it!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever asked God what He wants from you?
Have you ever asked God what he wants for you?
Now, I want you to do just that. Ask God what He wants for you and then pay attention.
At day's end, tell me what you learned. What did He show you? Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you need a tune-up when it comes to tuning-in to God? Do you want to know how to hear that still small voice? If so, check out Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to Godand sharpen your spiritual listening skills! And don't forget to check out our new Girlfriends in God devotion book, Trusting God.
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January 12, 2012
Coming Out of the Dark Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Friend to Friend
Children are wonderfully different. When our son, Jered, was nine months old, he began to pull up on every piece of furniture he could find. For weeks, he maneuvered his way around our home until the day he took his first step alone. It was a step of inches, but we celebrated as if he had completed a marathon. On the other hand, our daughter, Danna, had a different plan. She never pulled up on a piece of furniture and never took "a" step. When she was ten months old, Danna stood up, looked around and trotted across the room. Jered and Danna both walk extremely well today as young adults, but they both began with tiny steps and in their own way.
Nobody gets depressed overnight and nobody overcomes depression overnight. The journey out of the pit is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. Let's look at some of the steps we must take in order to find our way out of the dark.
1. Wait. The psalmist simply says,"I waited." Waiting is not passive. Waiting is a time of preparation, a time of rest and healing, a time when God covers us with the shadow of His wing.
To wait means to accept the pit.
Isaiah 45:3 is a compelling verse, "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Any time the word, "LORD" is capitalized, it means "Father" or "Dearest Daddy." This verse indicates that our Father has gone before us and, in every dark moment or painful circumstance, has buried a treasure or stored a secret. The only way we can find the treasure or learn the secret is to pass through that darkness. Some things cannot be learned in the light. The pit of depression has become a hedge of protection in my life, a warning light that something is wrong or out of balance. To wait means to accept the pit, knowing it is for our good.
To wait means to admit there is a problem. Isaiah 40:29 "He gives power to the tired and worn out, and strength to the weak."
We must be willing to admit we are struggling, but pride often prevents us from doing so. Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity, being willing to say "I need help!" and being honest with ourselves and with others. When clinical depression first overwhelmed my life, my husband, Dan, was the pastor of a large, fast-growing church in South Florida. We could choose to be transparent and real or we could sweep my struggle under the rug. We concluded that to be right, we had to be real. Dan and I shared my battle with the staff, the deacons and then with the entire church. Yes, we took a risk but learned an important lesson in doing so. A shared load is a lighter load because we were created to need each other.
To wait means to be still. "I waited." To wait means to hope in and look for someone or something who will rescue us.
So much about God can never be known on the run. We can get so wrapped up in everyday life that we fail to be wrapped up in Him. The busier we are, the more stillness and rest we need. During those two years in the pit, I not only gave up every role of leadership in church, I could not even attend church at times because of panic attacks. The Father taught me an important truth. He is more concerned with who I am than what I do.
2. Cry out for help. Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry."
People struggling with depression often look for help in the wrong places. Let me share with you some of the rightplaces.
God. Your Fatherstands waiting to hear your voice; and when you cry out to Him, He comes running – through His Word, through prayer and through His people. There was a terrible storm and the little girl was afraid. When she cried out in fear, her father came running down the hall, into the bedroom and scooped her up in his arms as he said, "Honey, God will take care of you." The tearful child replied, "I know God loves me and will take care of me but right now, I need somebody with skin on." If you cry out to God, He will come to you in some way.
Doctors and counselors. Proverbs 15:22 gives us an important truth when it says, "Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success." I encourage anyone experiencing depression to get a physical because depression is often rooted in a physical problem, requiring medication. The medication does not eliminate the depression but simply levels the playing field so whatever is triggering the depression can be addressed. Christian counselors are a gift from God. He knew we would need them.
Others. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 instructs us to "encourage each other and give each other strength." I would never have survived the pit of clinical depression without the help and encouragement of family and friends. Members of our church brought meals, cleaned house and helped take care of our kids. The deacons were guardian angels at church and other women took my place in leadership. I would still be in that pit if it were not for these people who helped rescue me. Has it affected their opinion of me? Yes! It has shown them that I am just like them and has given them permission to face their own weaknesses. You may be thinking, "I have no one in my life that will help me." If you cry out to God, He will bring you help.
3. Count on God to come through. One of the promises I clung to while sitting in the darkness of depression was Psalm 107:13-14. "Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom and broke away their chains." The Psalmist promises that when you cry out to God, He will:
· "lift you up out of the slimy pit"
· "set your feet on a rock"
· "give you a new place to stand"
· "put a new song in your heart"
· "use your pit so that others will "see and trust God".
God is drawn to broken people. Psalm 40:1 says "He turned to me." Notice it does not say David turned to God. Honestly, I doubt David had the strength to turn to God – so God turned to him. God heard the cry of David, and He will hear yours. I was angry at God but He never turned away from me. Instead, He surrounded me with His love and compassion and as Psalm 56:8 promises, He knew every tear I cried. "You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book." You can count on God to come through.
4. Be patient. "I waited patiently for the Lord." The word "patiently" means "without tiring and with perseverance." To come out of the darkness takes time and requires patience. It took me many years to hit rock bottom. It took me two years to climb out of that pit and I am still climbing. Yes, I still battle depression from time to time. I have asked God to deliver me, but He has said "no." Do you know what my name, Mary, means -- bitter, but when broken, sweet. Depression keeps me broken and anything that makes me cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. When we come to the end of ourselves, God begins.
The story is told of a little boy who was walking home when he spotted a caterpillar struggling to get out of its cocoon. Feeling sorry for the helpless creature, the little boy ran home, grabbed a pair of scissors and ran back to cut the caterpillar free. He watched it spread its wings and try to fly, only to discover that it couldn't. It is in the struggle out of the darkness of the cocoon that the butterfly's wings gain enough strength to fly. Be patient. I don't know if you are in a pit and need help or if someone you love is in that pit and you need to help them. One thing I do know is that the purpose of the pit is to purify then restore. Right now, surrender the broken pieces of your life to God and watch as he brings you out of the dark. Do not quit! Do not give up! God is at work in your life.
Philippians 1:6 "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Father God, my heart is filled with chaos and confusion. I feel as if I am drowning in my circumstances, my heart filled with fear and confusion. I need the strength and peace that only You can give. Right now, I choose to rest in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Philippians 4:7 (NIV) "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Make a list of the dark places in your life today. Surrender each one to God. Ask Him to bring light into your heart and mind and help you walk in His peace. Now, walk in that peace today. When the waves of darkness come, remember each one now belongs to your Father.
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Can you believe 2012 is here, like a clean slate filled with new beginnings and fresh starts? However, what did we learn in 2011 that will make a difference in 2012? As the holiday season winds down, I pray your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God. This new study, When I Am Afraid, begins January 16.
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January 13, 2012
The Worship of Giving
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Act 4:32 (NIV) All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had.
Friend To Friend
"What's yours is mine, and what's mine is mine." My husband Brad and I used to joke that this was the unspoken motto of our kids when they were little. Toddlers have no qualms about grabbing a toy, snack, or any random item of interest from other people or pets. It's rare to see a child share her cherished possessions generously.
It can be hard for you and me to share too. Today's media bombards us with marketing campaigns that tell us we are the center of the universe. "You, you, you, you, you!" Time and time again we hear that this life is all about us. The more we have, the happier we'll be. The bigger that bank account, the more blessed the life. I sincerely hope that none of us actually buy these lies. They're dangerous deceptions.
We all have a sharing problem to some degree, don't we? Sometimes we don't want to share our time or our space. Sometimes we don't want to share our loved ones or our gifts. Sometimes we don't want to share our resources. Sometimes we just want to be left to ourselves and don't want to share anything!
God calls each of us to share. The early New Testament church shows us that generous living honors God and blesses others. In Acts 4:32-37; we see an amazing snapshot of generous giving in the early church. The believers were one in heart and mind. They were supernaturally unified to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and you could not find a needy person among them. What a model!
Giving wasn't political. It wasn't mandatory. It wasn't done begrudgingly.
"...They shared everything they had."(Acts 4:32)
"The disciples, each according to his ability, decided to provide help for the brothers living in Judea. This they did, sending their gift to the elders by Barnabas and Saul."(Acts 11:29-30)
"But just as you excel in everything – in faith, in speech, in knowledge, in complete earnestness and in your love for us – see that you also excel in this grace of giving...For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what he does not have." (I Corinthians 8:7,12)
The resources of the believers were God's, and they knew it. They placed what they had before the leaders in selfless acts of worship...for the glory of God and the provision of others. This principle is very important, but it's also very counter-cultural.
The Bible clearly reveals that true life, a blessed life, an abundant life, a purposed life, is, in fact, all about God. What we have, have given birth to, or hold onto is really not our own. It's just on loan to us for a breath of a moment by our more-than-generous Creator. Each day brings us new opportunities to be good stewards.
Let's face it; it's just not always easy or natural to be generous. Perhaps we have been taken advantage of or we've been hurt by another's deception. There are risks to giving.
The generous giving of the early church blessed the lives of their people. When we share what we have, God is honored and needs are met. The risks are worth taking.
I'm not suggesting a Robin Hood philosophy of "take from the rich and give to the poor." And I don't believe in the politics of communism or socialism. This principle of generous giving is Biblical. It's an act of worship to God. It matters to God, and it should matter to us.
We need to reject the toddler mentality of "what's mine is mine." God loves a cheerful giver. We are blessed to give. Tell God today: "Lord, what's mine is Yours. Use it for Your glory!"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for this reminder from Your Word. You are amazingly lavish in Your love for me, and You have given me so much. All I have is Yours. Please help me to excel in the grace and worship of giving. Open my eyes to opportunities to bless others for Your glory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How do you feel about your possessions?
Have you shared generously lately?
Is God bringing anyone to your mind that could use your help or generosity?
Read and meditate on 2 Corinthians 8:1-15
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Hey friend. I know that this is a sensitive subject to some of you. Maybe your husband won't tithe. Perhaps you don't even know how you will pay your rent this month. God knows your heart. He loves you greatly. Remember, giving isn't always about money. We can give in many ways; service, an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a dinner to a new mom, or time spent with an elderly friend. Now...go bless someone today!!
Gwen Smith is the author of Broken into Beautifuland a co-author of Trusting God, A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. Connect with her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusicand Tweet with her at www.twitter.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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January 16, 2012
God's Glory Revealed to you and Through You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Bring my sons from afar and my daughters from the ends of the earth - everyone who is called by my name whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made,(Isaiah 43:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wondered why you were created? You were created for God's glory and to glorify God, (Isaiah 43:7) because it pleased Him to do so (Ephesians 1:5). The concept of glory can be a difficult concept to wrap our human minds around. It seems so otherworldly. We can catch glimpses of its meaning throughout Scripture, but then like a shooting star that appears for a just a moment, it quickly slips away into the vast expanse of God's infinite wisdom. But let's see what we can know about this bigger-than-life word.
In the Old Testament, the most common Hebrew word for glory is kabod meaning "weight, honor, esteem." The Bible associates God's glory with how He manifests Himself or makes His presence known. Some theologians refer to these as theophanies. He made His presence known in a devouring fire (Exodus 24:16-17), a moving cloud (Exodus 13:21) and a still small voice (Exodus 33:18). His glory is reflected in creation (Psalm 19:1) and in His sovereign control of history (Acts 17:26). His glory is made known through the life of simple human beings like you and me.
The same concept of God's glory is in the New Testament in the Greek word, doxa, which meansglory, honor and splendor.(William D. Munce, General Editor , Munce's Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2006, 290). John wrote, "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only who came from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14). After Jesus' first miracle, turning the water into wine, John wrote: "This, the first of his miraculous signs, Jesus performed at Cana in Galilee. He thus revealed his glory, and his disciples put their faith in him" (John 2:11). In Hebrews 1:3, the writer reveals this about Jesus: "The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word" (Hebrews 1:3).
The verb form of glory, to glorify, is doxazo, and primarily denotes "to magnify, extol, praise, to ascribe honor to God, acknowledging Him as to His being, attributes and acts, i.e., His glory. It is the revelation and manifestation of all that He has and is. When we glorify God, we are giving a display or manifestation—or a reflection—of His character. To magnify God is to make Him easy to see. Jesus said that the disciples would glorify God when they bore fruit (John 15:8). Through their actions, they would point others to God and make Him easy to see.
God's glory is how He makes Himself known. It is almost incomprehensible to think that He would choose mere human beings to accomplish such a task. But as Scripture tells us, we were created in His image (Genesis 1:26) and as a display of His glory (Isaiah 43:7). You were created to make God recognizable to others—to show others what God is like. He makes Himself recognizable to us and through us. The glory of any created thing is when it is fully fulfilling the purpose for which it was created...and that includes you and me.
Glory. It's a big word—a weighty word.
Today, look for ways that God makes Himself known to you and through you.
Let's Pray
Lord, I pray that I will glorify You today. I pray that my actions and words will make You easier to see. I pray that You will open my eyes to see Your glory as I live and move and have my being in You today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up all the verses mentioned in today's devotion and write down what you learn about the word glory.
If someone were to ask you to define "glory," what would say?
What are some ways that you can glorify God today? Let's share our answers at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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One way that we glorify God is in the words we speak. If you would like to learn more about how to control your tongue and use your words to speak life to those around you, then check out Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. On her website you can watch a video and download a free chapter of this life-changing book. It also has a Bible study guide and DVD for group or individual study.
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January 17, 2012
The Power of Forgiveness Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD said to me again, 'Go, show your love to a woman loved by someone else, who has been unfaithful to you. In the same way the LORD loves the people of Israel, even though they worship other gods and love to eat the raisin cakes.' So I bought her for six ounces of silver and ten bushels of barley. Then I told her, 'You must wait for me for many days. You must not be a prostitute, and you must not have sexual relations with any other man. I will act the same way toward you.' In the same way Israel will live many days without a king or leader, without sacrifices or holy stone pillars, and without the holy vest or an idol. After this, the people of Israel will return to the LORD their God and follow him and the king from David's family. In the last days, they will turn in fear to the LORD, and he will bless them (Hosea 3:1-5, NCV).
Friend to Friend
True love is strong, unconditional – God's love – a love that we cannot understand or explain in human terms. The life of the Old Testament prophet, Hosea, powerfully illustrates this kind of love. Hosea was married to Gomer and together they had three children. Gomer was unfaithful to Hosea, betraying the covenant of marriage. Hosea had every right to walk away, but love that never fails calls us up to higher choices that are beyond human reasoning. Supernatural choices demand supernatural action and sacrifice.
Hosea 3:2 "So I bought her for six ounces of silver and ten bushels of barley" (NCV).
Think about it. Hosea was the one who had been wronged and humiliated. Yes, he was the one following God but he was also the one called to sacrifice. We misunderstand the full meaning of sacrifice, thinking it is only a decision to "give up" self-centered rights, hoarded resources or the freedom to walk away. Sacrifice is a mirror reflecting our own pride and sin, calling us to lay down all sense of human justice or fairness in order for God to work in and through us to love others. What sacrifices did God call Hosea to make?
· Hosea had to sacrifice his pride.
The phrase "loved by another," suggests Gomer was owned by a family friend or fellow citizen. She may have been sleeping with one or more of Hosea's friends or, at the very least, one of his neighbors. Hosea had to swallow his pride and go to her in love and forgiveness. Now let me just tell you that if I had been the one going to find Gomer, I would have been more likely to snatch her up by the hair and drag her home in front of as many people as possible to prove she could not get away with what she was doing. Better yet, I would have said, "Good riddance. You can keep her!" I am certain I could find many who would agree with my plan of punishment and revenge. It seems to me that Hosea stood to gain very little but lose a great deal by choosing to respond as he did. Hosea was called on to sacrifice everything to redeem a woman who did not deserve sacrifice or redemption. Jesus did the same thing for us when He died on the cross. He now calls us to respond with that same God-like heart attitude of redemption.
· Hosea had to sacrifice his rights.
Gomer broke the covenant of marriage. Don't miss this pivotal truth. Biblically, Hosea had every justification to divorce Gomer. He could have tossed her out and turned her children against her, stripping her life of every good thing. Hosea could have destroyed Gomer, and no one would have blamed him. Instead, Hosea rose to a higher place when he laid down his anger, hurt and the right to retaliate or seek revenge. It doesn't stop there.
Hosea took the initiative and went to her. Matthew describes a forgiveness we find hard to understand. "So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God" (Matthew 5:23, NLT). Notice what this verse says. If we know someone has something against us and we refuse to deal with it, nothing we do or say will count in Kingdom work. God always seeks restoration and reconciliation and commands us to look past what seems like a logical reaction to the highest obedience we can offer.
There is one more very important step in learning to truly forgive. Don't miss the rest of Hosea and Gomer's story in Thursday's devotion.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of holding on to the pain in my life. I want to forgive those who have hurt me and learn how to let go of the pain and walk on. Today, I lay down my pride and my rights. I will not seek revenge or retaliation. Instead, I choose to love my enemies and bless those who have harmed me. Please give me the strength and power to honor you as I step out in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the following verses:
Matthew 5:23-24 (NLT) "So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you ... leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God."
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, be willing to take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration. Consider the following questions and answer them honestly.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in my heart?
What are the things for which I cannot forgive myself?
What does that indicate about my understanding of true forgiveness?
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Be sure to check out the FREE MP3son Mary's website.
Need help with forgiving those who have hurt you? Mary's E-Bible Study, The Power of Forgivenessoffers practical steps you can take to truly forgive.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life?Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, When I Am Afraid, to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God.
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January 18, 2012
The Power of Forgiveness Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD said to me again, 'Go, show your love to a woman loved by someone else, who has been unfaithful to you. In the same way the LORD loves the people of Israel, even though they worship other gods and love to eat the raisin cakes.' So I bought her for six ounces of silver and ten bushels of barley. Then I told her, 'You must wait for me for many days. You must not be a prostitute, and you must not have sexual relations with any other man. I will act the same way toward you.' In the same way Israel will live many days without a king or leader, without sacrifices or holy stone pillars, and without the holy vest or an idol. After this, the people of Israel will return to the LORD their God and follow him and the king from David's family. In the last days, they will turn in fear to the LORD, and he will bless them (Hosea 3:1-5, NCV).
Friend to Friend
True forgiveness always requires sacrifice on our part – a truth that may often seem unfair in human terms. After all, we are the ones who have been hurt. Why should we have to sacrifice anything? Shouldn't the people who hurt us be the ones who have to make the first move and offer the biggest sacrifice? True forgiveness – God's forgiveness – defies human logic and cannot be explained in human terms. Human forgiveness is easier but a shallow substitute and cheap imitation for the amazing power of God's forgiveness.
Hosea was married to a woman who hurt and humiliated him. Scripture does not say Gomer ever repented and asked for Hosea's forgiveness. But that did not stop Hosea from forgiving her. In fact, Hosea sacrificed his pride and his human rights in order to forgive Gomer. Hosea's forgiveness also required a financial sacrifice.
· Hosea had to sacrifice materially.
Hosea had to buy back his own wife. Seriously? Gomer was damaged goods and she definitely was not on sale. The price was substantial. Six ounces of silver and ten bushels of barley was the going price of a slave and since prophets are definitely not in the top income bracket, the payment was a great financial sacrifice for Hosea. Gomer's own sin had placed her in bondage. Even so, Hosea was willing to make a financial sacrifice in order to fulfill his commitment in marriage. Love that never gives up is willing to pay a price, to sacrifice so people in bondage can be set free.
Mother Teresa said, "Love, to be real must cost. It must hurt. It must empty us of self!" The words of King David reveal the essence of love and forgiveness. "No, I must pay the full price. I won't give an offering that costs me nothing" (1 Chronicles 21:24, ICB).
Hosea could have played it safe. Nowhere in Scripture does it suggest Gomer wanted his forgiveness, and Hosea had no guarantee she would not do the very same thing again. He took a huge risk in bringing Gomer home. What passes for true love is often little more than a convenient emotional arrangement. Someone is kind to us so we are kind in return. Someone treats us badly, so we don't get mad, we get even. Sound fair? Seem reasonable? Yes, but only in human terms. Love that never fails goes beyond reason and refuses to settle for justice alone but insists on granting mercy.
I love the story of a doctor who told the little boy that he could save his sister's life by giving her some of his blood. "Johnny, are you sure you want to give your blood for Mary?" the doctor asked. The boy hesitated for several moments; his lips trembled as tears filled his eyes. His parents and the doctor assured Johnny that the procedure would not be very painful and would be over with quickly. Finally, he smiled bravely and said, "Sure Doc. I'll give my blood for my sister." As the transfusion took place, the little girl began to respond immediately. Parents, doctors and nurses erupted into cheers and applause. When the ordeal was almost over, Johnny's brave little voice was heard, "Hey, Doc, when do I die?" A stunned silence fell across the room. The doctor and parents suddenly realized what Johnny was thinking. Johnny thought when he gave his blood to his sister, he would die – a very high price he was willing to pay.
Love that never fails is willing to pay a great price and make a great sacrifice. Love that never fails is yours to receive and yours to give.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, asking first for Your forgiveness for the sin in my life. I choose to turn from that sin and obey you. Thank You for your grace and mercy. Give me the strength and power to extend that same mercy and grace to those in my life who have hurt me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What hurt or pain are your holding in your heart and life? Realize it is holding you prisoner and make the choice to let it go today. Forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is a choice that leads to a step of obedience. Forgiveness is not an emotion or feeling. If you make the choice to forgive, God will supply the forgiveness.
Read the whole story of Hosea and Gomer found in the book of Hosea. First put yourself in the place of Gomer. How do you think she reacted to Hosea's decision to forgive her and bring her home? Then put yourself in the place of Hosea. Think about the thoughts and feelings running through Hosea's heart and mind. Record your thoughts and insights in your journal.
What one person do you need to forgive right now? Pray for that person. Ask God to let you see them through His eyes and make the deliberate choice to forgive them.
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Be sure to check out the FREE MP3son Mary's website.
Need help with forgiving those who have hurt you? Mary's E-Bible Study, The Power of Forgivenessoffers practical steps you can take to truly forgive.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life?Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, When I Am Afraid, to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God.
Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure?Get a copy of our new book, Trusting God.
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January 19, 2012
God Called Out
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But the Lord God called to the man, "Where are you?" (Genesis 3:9 NIV)
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Eden was full of God's glory—breathtaking beauty with unbroken union and constant communion with God. But as we know, something went terribly wrong, and Adam and Eve found themselves naked and ashamed. And what was the first thing they did when that happened?
They hid.
They hid from God.
"Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man, "Where are you?" (Genesis 3:9). God called out.
God.
Called.
Out.
"Where are you?" God asked. It was the very first question in the Bible, and it was asked by an all-knowing God. He still asks that very question today. Perhaps you've heard it as well. I have.
The real tragedy of Adam and Eve's disobedience was that union between God and man was broken. Shattered. Destroyed. But as soon as Eve sank her teeth into the forbidden fruit, the shadow of the cross rose on the horizon, and God's redemptive plan to restore all that we had lost was set in motion. All through the rest of the Old Testament, from Genesis 3:9 to Malachi 4:6, we read of God calling humanity back to Himself.
We read of cycles of humanity's fellowship with God, followed by humanity's rebellion against God, followed by God's wooing humanity back in the midst of difficult circumstances, followed by humanity's repentance, followed by humanity's fellowship with God, followed by humanity's rebellion against God, followed by God's wooing humanity back in the midst of difficult situations, followed by humanity's repentance, followed by humanity's fellowship with God, followed by....
And all along God continues His passionate pursuit of the human heart as He relentlessly romances us, His image bearers, and calls out to us first one way, then another.
Interestingly, the Hebrew word for Bible is mikra, and it means the calling out of God. Isn't that what the Bible really is? The calling out of God to draw mankind back to Himself. To restore our original glory through the finished work of Jesus Christ? He begins with calling out that very first question: "Where are you?" He ends it the same. "I stand at the door and knock," (Revelation 3:20).
The Bible tells us, "all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23). There is not one of us who is completely and perfectly living the life that God had intended in the Garden. But the good news is that Christ in us is the hope of glory (Colossians 1:24-27). It is through that union that glory moments occur. Without Christ in us, we are not even able to detect or reflect God's glory at all. And yet, that was God's original intent for us "in the beginning."
Most people would agree that we are born with an inherent inner nagging that there has to be something more than what we see. Solomon wrote: "He has also set eternity in the hearts of men" (Ecclesiastes 3:11). No matter how humanity has tried to satisfy the hunger, quench the thirst, or mask the reality of God's existence, eternity still pulls at the heart. A longing to experience God persists. The glory ache is a chronic throb.
But here is the good news! Aren't you ready for some good news? This is not our final home! We are merely passing through this thing called life. Until those who know Christ leave this earth and enter God's glory once and for all, until we inhale eternity, He gives us glimpses of glory right here on earth! Moments of sudden glory abound, if we will but take the time to recognize them, to embrace them, to enjoy them ... to taste and see that the Lord is good!
Let's Pray
Here I am, Lord. I'm right here in Your presence. Thank You for not leaving me hiding in shame, but called me out of hiding to join You in a relationship.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt like you were hiding from God?
Have you ever felt that He was calling out to you?
God still calls out. Jesus still knocks. Look for Him. Listen for Him.
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January 20, 2012
What Really Matters
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well (Matthew 6:33, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Far too often I seek God's blessings instead of seeking God. I seek His hand instead of His heart. Like a child with a long Christmas list, at times I run to my heavenly Father as if He's a celestial Wal-Mart purposed to satisfy my every want. Instead of leaning in to hear the whispered will of the Lord, I selfishly shout my will. My desires. My demands. I'd rather have relief from life-pressures than gain the strength to endure them and the lessons I'm intended to learn from them. When I'm desperate to fill my over-sized heart-cart with things that I think I need, I rob myself of what really matters: the pursuit of God and the blessings found in Him alone.
Why do we desire God's intervention in our lives more than His presence? Why do we think that we know what we need? It's so arrogant of us to tell God how to be God. Isn't that what we do when we stomp our feet before His throne and whine about all of the things that need fixing instead of praising Him for the strength He graciously gives us to endure? While we're certainly encouraged by Scripture to make our requests known to the Father (Philippians 4:6), the highest calling on our lives is to love God with all of our hearts, souls, bodies and minds (Matthew 22:37). What really matters is seeking God first.
God knew we would struggle with this truth. His Word promises that when we chase His heart, we can relax. Our needs will be met because He loves us.
"And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
"So don't worry about these things, saying, 'what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today" (Matthew 6:30-34, NLT).
The Message version of the Bible says it like this:
"If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don't you think he'll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I'm trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God's giving. People who don't know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, and God-provisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.
Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don't get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes" (Matthew 6:30-34, MSG).
Set your list of wants aside today and seek God. Go before Him with a heart of worship and adoration. Get lost in His presence. Remember His mercy. Relish His grace. Love Him. Seek Him. Put first things first.
God loves us so much. His plan is perfect and His ways are mysterious. He knows our needs and He knows our desires. When we remember what really matters we can rest in the knowledge that He's working on our behalf, and in our best interest, to bring glory to Himself through our lives.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all I need. Please forgive me for the times when I seek Your blessings before I seek Your heart. Help me to trust Your plan and rest in Your grace.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has God met your needs in the past? Do you trust that He is able to meet them today?
He's not just concerned with your needs – God also cares about your heart matters. Read, meditate on and memorize this verse: "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4, ESV).
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Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-29). Please know that today's devotion is not suggesting that we shouldn't go to God with our burdens. We must! But God wants your love before your list.
God delights to heal and transform lives ... including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and bring strength and healing to your heart. He can transform your life into something beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
Start your new year off right!Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God,is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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January 23, 2012
Pursued
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
My lover spoke and said to me, "Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me" (Song of Songs 2:10, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I was in college when I first eyed my husband. He was sitting on the floor at a friend's Bible study gathering with his back against the wall, dressed in scruffy jeans and a red flannel shirt with the sleeves rolled halfway up his muscular forearms. His thick brown hair and chocolate-brown eyes left me weak in the knees. And the best part was that this handsome hunk of a man had a tattered Bible in his lap. He laughed easily, prayed humbly, and read intently. I was smitten from the first time I laid eyes on Steve.
After a few weeks, he finally asked me out on a date. We continued seeing each other over the next several weeks, but I was still accepting invitations from others as well. One night, Steve asked me to a college football game, and I agreed to go. Then he said, "Can I just ask you? Will you go with me to all of the football games for the rest of the year?"
"I'm not going to answer that question," I replied. "You'll just have to ask me each week."
Looking back on those early days, what I was really saying was that I wanted to be pursued. None of this blanket invitation for the entire fall business. I wanted to be wooed and won. Even though he had me the moment I saw him sitting on the shag carpet floor, I didn't want him to know that. I wanted him to show me I was worth putting forth the effort to capture my heart. Isn't that the desire of every woman's heart?
And nobody does it better than God.
I love what Simon Tugwell once said: "So long as we imagine it is we who have to look for God, we must often lose heart. But it is the other way about. He is looking for us."
Oh friend, God has pursued and continues to pursue you every day. A sunset. A dandelion growing through a crack in a concrete sidewalk. A favorite song on the radio. He is pursuing you like a love-struck beau. Pay attention and enjoy His advances as He pursues you today.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I swoon thinking of how you pursue me. Me, one so unworthy of Your advances. Help me to recognize Your love notes throughout the day. I am my beloved's and He is mine.
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, consider reading the story of the Samaritan woman that Jesus met at the well (John 4:1-26, 39-42). Look at the great lengths he went to to pursue her heart.
Remember, this was a time in history when men did not speak to women in public. Jews did not enter Samaria. Women were not allowed to study under a rabbi's teaching. And here's another tidbit. This was the first person that Jesus told that He was the Messiah.
After you read her story, tell me what strikes you about the lengths Jesus went to to pursue her heart. www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Sharon's book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encounteredis an insightful look at every encounter Jesus had with women while here on earth. To order this life-changing book, download a free sample chapter, or watch a video, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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January 24, 2012
To Know Him More
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better (Ephesians 1:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was Christmas Eve and I had a final errand to run. One of the gifts I ordered for our grandson still had not arrived. I ordered it several weeks earlier and patted myself on the back for the great deal I had gotten, but in all the delightful Christmas chaos, I had forgotten all about it until Christmas Eve when I made the final inspection of my Christmas list and stash of gifts for the kids and grandkids.
The Customer Service manager at the department store from which I ordered the gift had no idea where the gift was or what had happened to it but offered to trace it. I laughed. Trace it? He was obviously unaware that looking for a missing gift on Christmas Eve was not an option! I pressed on. After several frustrating and fruitless phone calls, I cancelled the order and decided to take matters into my own hands. I would simply go to the store and buy another gift for my grandson, Justus.
Justus is only two years old and would not really know the difference, but his Mimi would. For months, I had carefully researched and planned the number of gifts each grandchild would receive and could not bear the thought that Justus would have one less gift under the tree than the other two grandchildren. By the way, those other two grandchildren are four years old. I know. They wouldn't know the difference either, but again, Mimi would.
Did I have time to go to the mall? No! Did I want to go to the mall? Absolutely not! A root canal sounded more appealing at that precise moment. I still had cooking and baking to do, a few last minute gifts to wrap, a Christmas Eve service to attend and ... well, you get the idea. Ho! Ho! Ho! Help!
I quickly dressed, grabbed my coat and purse and raced down the stairs. My husband was sitting on the couch, eating a snack and having a little down time before heading to church to preach the final four Christmas Eve services of the week. He looked up in surprise and said, "Where are you going? I thought you had a lot to do this afternoon!" Couldn't he tell I was in a hurry and did not have time to answer his question or any question for that matter?
Sidebar: When I switch into my well-known and so very ridiculous "overdrive" mode, rational thinking flees and the results are nearly always ugly and disastrous. Today would be no exception.
I simply did not have time to explain the situation to my husband. After all, it would take a sixty whole seconds I could not spare. As I raced down the stairs, anger and frustration filled my heart and mind ... and I fell. I fell spiritually when I said, "I do not have time to explain the situation to you. I just have to run an errand. Okay?" And I fell physically when I stumbled, missed the bottom three stairs and landed on the floor at the bottom of the stairs. My sweet husband immediately jumped off the couch and was standing over me with a look of concern on his face. "Are you hurt?" he asked, practically carrying me to the couch. A quick exam left us with the conclusion that I would probably be sore for a few days and have a few bruises. I also had a severely sprained ankle. Did that stop me from going to the toy store? Oh, no. Not this Superwoman.
I mentally donned my Superwoman cape, swallowed a couple of aspirin and limped my way to the store and back, the cherished Christmas gift in hand. I then wrapped the gift, crammed my sprained ankle into a boot and hobbled to the Christmas Eve service at church. Still and quiet for the first time that day, the worship music carried me back to that night when Christ was born. Oh, what a night it must have been! As I finally and truly celebrated the birth of my King, the Holy Spirit whispered, "Be still and know that He is God." That truth should be the foundation for everyday life – not just for the Christmas holidays.
January is often referred to as the "blue" month. The blahs attack and a strange sense of discontentment fills our hearts and minds. A local radio host recently explained that since the holidays are over, there is a void or a vacuum left that causes those blues. I agree with part of that assessment. Something is definitely missing but I don't think it has as much to do with the Christmas holidays as with the way we live the rest of the year.
Christmas is not a season.
Christmas is not a date on the calendar.
Christmas is a way of life.
Every day should find us still and quiet before the manger as we celebrate the birth, life, death and resurrection of our coming Lord and King, Jesus Christ. We need to learn how to seek Him and pray continually about everything. If it is important to us, it is important to Him. It is time for us to focus on how we can serve instead of being so concerned about being served. We need to keep our gaze on Him and our glance on the circumstances that so often cause us to stumble and fall because we have forgotten what is really important – to nourish and cultivate our relationship with Jesus Christ. Our heart desire should center around becoming more like Him and serving others as He did during His time on earth.
My one resolution for 2012 is a simple one. I want to know Him more. I want others to wonder why I am so joyful when there doesn't seem to be one logical reason why I should be. I want to trust God as never before and choose to step out in faith with no visible safety net below. I want to pray with shameless audacity, knowing God absolutely loves it when I do! Join me in a new faith adventure of trusting God.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for allowing anything or anyone to occupy first place in my life. I am tired of rushing through each day in an effort to prove my worth by what I do or whom I please. I want to live each day for You, an audience of One. Use me, Lord, to impact the lives of my family and friends. Help me learn how to see the needs of those around me and give me a holy discontent with the status quo. Right now, I surrender my heart and life to You in a new commitment to know You more.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose one Christmas decoration to leave out this year. Put it in a place where you will see it every day as a reminder that Christmas is a daily celebration and a way of life.
In your journal, write out a prayer of commitment to know and serve Jesus more this year. What would that look like in your life? Record your description in your journal. Recruit an accountability partner who will periodically ask you how you are doing in this new faith adventure.
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January 25, 2012
The Beauty of Romantic Love
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet and your face is lovely," (Song of Songs 2;14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Aren't you glad that God refers to the Church as the Bride of Christ? I asked my husband what pictures come into his mind when he reads God's description of the Church as the Bride of Christ. He gave me a strange look and said, "none, really." I'll admit, I can't picture Steve walking down the aisle in a flowing wedding gown, but oh sister, I can see myself dressed in a satin and lace, pearl-studded gown with a flowing veil, and walking down the aisle of heaven to meet Jesus—my heavenly Bridegroom. Can't you? What glorious imagery God has given to His female image bearers.
Perhaps one of the most romantic books in the Bible is the Song of Songs, or as some translations title it, The Song of Solomon. While it can be read as King Solomon's wooing the Shulammite woman working in the fields, many theologians, including Augustine, Matthew Henry, Charles Spurgeon, Hudson Taylor, and at least one gal from the South, see it as an allegory of Jesus wooing the heart of His Bride.
I have been like the Shulammite woman who questioned God's pursuit. She felt unworthy of her suitor's advances. "Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun," she cried (Song of Songs 1:6). Her hands were stained from tending her brothers' vineyard. Her skin was burnt by the blazing sun. Her feet were calloused from walking bare on hardened ground. But the king looked past all the outward signs of a hard-lived life, and saw only her beauty.
When I first read those words through the lens of Jesus pursuing me, tears filled my eyes. And yet, the tears were not for the Shulammite woman. The tears were for myself.
I grew up in a home riddled with cyclical bursts of physical violence and constant emotional turmoil. My father drank very heavily and my parents fought, both verbally and physically, in front of me. Many nights I went to bed, pulled the covers up around my chin, and prayed that I would hurry up and go to sleep to shut out the noise of the yelling, screaming, and arguing in the next room. My parents were so wrapped up in their own problems, they were unsure how to show love to their children. I lived in a beautiful house and all my physical needs were cared for. But my heart was hungry for something I couldn't define. An undercurrent of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy ran through my entire existence and became the window through which I viewed my little world.
From my earliest remembrance, I felt that I wasn't good enough, smart enough, or pretty enough. Looking back through my scrapbook of photos, I was actually a cute little girl. However, when someone feels ugly, the mirror on the wall somehow bypasses the reflection in the glass and goes right to the heart. No wonder my daddy doesn't love me, I thought on many occasions.
And yet, the King spied me in the fields and wooed me. Through a two-year courtship, Jesus pursued my adolescent heart until I finally stopped shunning His advances and allowed myself to be caught. "I am my Beloved's and His desire is for me." Every girl's dream.
There are many different types of love: motherly love, friendship love, patriotic love, and a host of other shades and varieties. But romantic love brings with it colors and hues that are specific and unique to every other on the spectrum of emotions. Lovers are consumed with ways to make each other happy. They long for together times and feel a sense of loss when apart. Lovers are willing to sacrifice just about anything to be together. They lie awake at night dreaming up ways to make the other happy. An embrace. A kiss. A word. A look. Each of these ordinary movements between friends or acquaintances becomes rapturous between lovers. How lovely that God has chosen romantic love to describe how He feels about you. And what He really desires is for you to express that love in return in an intimate relationship.
Let's Pray
Jesus, I honestly don't know what you saw in me, but I'm so glad You thought I was worth pursuing. I do love You so. Thank You for pursuing me and catching me in your love net. I am captivated by Your love.
In Your Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses in the Song of Songs and envision Jesus saying the words to you!
Song of Songs 1:9,15; 2:2,14; 4:1-7
More than the love story between a woman who felt unworthy of attention and a man captivated by her beauty—the Song of Songs is a beautiful picture of Jesus wooing and winning His Bride...you. You have captured Jesus' attention just as surely as the Shulammite maiden captured the young King's who eyed her in the fields.
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Have you ever felt like you weren't smart enough, pretty enough, or just not good enough? Well, God thinks differently. If you would like to learn how to have the confidence of a woman who knows she is deeply loved, completely forgiven and powerfully equipped to do all God has called her to do, then Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves,is the book for you. Begin seeing yourself as God sees you and leave those lies behind.
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January 26, 2012
Just Give Up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death (Romans 8:1-2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I will never forget the day I discovered that our son is not perfect. In fact, I came to the horrifying realization that he is a sinner – just like his mother. Jered was about six months old and crawling everywhere. I had just returned from running errands and was busy putting groceries away in the kitchen, which had a pass-through opening that enabled me to keep an eye on Jered while I worked. He seemed content as he played with his toys, occasionally taking a break to terrorize our two cats.
When Jered first began to crawl, we removed anything that could hurt him, most of our breakables and everything of sentimental value. We had, however, left a beautiful conch seashell on the living room coffee table and used it to begin the arduous but vital task of teaching Jered the meaning of "no." We would repeatedly point to the shell, touch it and say, "No, no!" Of course, he was a brilliant child, but I was not sure if he had really grasped the whole concept – until that momentous day.
With the last of the groceries put away, I dumped a bag of potatoes into the kitchen sink and began peeling them for dinner. Glancing up, I saw Jered staring at the alluring shell, a mischievous grin of anticipation on his face. He suddenly launched into a fast crawl straight toward the forbidden shell. I winced as I pictured what he could do to that shell and what the sharp-edged shell could do to his small, tender hands. I called out in a firm but confident voice, "Jered, do not touch that shell!" Immediately, in mid-crawl, he stopped, sat up and looked back at me while seeming to consider his options and weigh the consequences. As I repeated the warning, he joyfully clapped his hands, flashing me his most adorable smile. What a great kid! He's got it! I started around the corner to give him a hug and praise him for his obedience when he took off like a shot, crawling as fast as his chubby little hands and knees would carry him. Reaching the coffee table, Jered grabbed the shell and plopped it in his lap like a hard-earned trophy. I gasped in disbelief as his face reflected total triumph. He knew exactly what he was doing, and he was not one bit sorry! My perfect little boy had a rebellious streak -- just like his mother.
Each and every one of us was born with a nature that loves to rebel and feed a natural "bent" toward selfish, wrong choices. However, when we come to Christ, we receive a new nature that naturally desires to obey God. The result is internal civil war. The Apostle Paul struggled with sin just like we do today. In his letter to the church at Rome, Paul describes his frustration with his own sin: "I don't understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate" (Romans 7:15, NLT). Sound familiar? I will never forget the first time I read those ardent words written by this zealous man of God. I was so relieved! It sometimes seems as if I am the only believer engaged in major battles with sin. Paul's words, however, assure me that I am not in this battle alone. Neither are you, girlfriend. The reality is that as long as we live in this broken and fallen world, our sinful nature and our God nature will constantly be at war.
How do we win that war? The solution is very simple, but very expensive. In fact, it will cost us everything, beginning with the total control of our lives. To win this war between the old and new nature, we must constantly surrender to God, allowing Him to guide, direct and empower us to live for Him. I love how one man described his own war against sin. "It is like there are two dogs fighting within me, an old dog and a new dog. The one who will win is the one I feed the most."
While the old nature is fed by the world and encouraged to enjoy the sin it so freely offers, God lovingly urges us to strengthen the new nature He has given us by reading, studying and applying the Bible, by praying and spending time with other believers and by serving Him. Certain victory is ours when we constantly choose against the old nature while surrendering to the power of the Holy Spirit. Join me in giving up! Victory is on the way!
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to please You and obey You. So many times, I make the wrong choice and give in to the sin that constantly draws me. Today, I choose against that sin and give myself to You. Thank You for the power of Your Word and for the precious gift of prayer, through which I find the strength to stand firm.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the sin in your life that you have refused to face. Write that sin down, confess it and ask God to forgive you. Now destroy the paper on which you wrote the sin and thank God for His forgiving power. Consider the following questions and write your responses in your journal.
What is the most powerful sin in my life?
How does this sin influence my relationships, behavior, attitudes, etc?
What is the first step I need to take to rid my life of this sin?
What specific actions can I take to strengthen the choice I have made to turn from this sin?
Read, memorize and record the following verses in your journal.
2 Thessalonians 3:3 "But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one" (NIV).
Isaiah 41:10 "Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand" (NLT).
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January 27, 2012
Trusting God with Your Tomorrows
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The LORD said to him, "Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the LORD? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say (Exodus 4:11-12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On the far side of a desert, high upon the mountain of God, a voice called out to Moses from within a curious, fiery bush. He had been tending the sheep of his father-in-law's flock, minding his own business, going about his normal day-in-day-out tasks when God spoke to him from the flames. On the day that God called Moses to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a noble prince of Egypt with the world at his feet, Moses had become a lowly shepherd with dust on his sandals. His crown had been traded in for a staff. The palace days were far behind Moses now. He fled them because of what he had done. Glancing to his left and his right to be sure that no one would see what he was about to do, Moses took a horrible situation into his own hands and killed a man. He had murdered an Egyptian and covered the body with sand.
Fear and shame bombarded his heart so he fled—away from his dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of humble hiding. The door to his yesterdays was closed. Moses had moved on to a new place. His past was his past and he had no intention of returning to it. His life was different now. Normal, not noble.
Then God interrupted Moses's new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for Moses were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom—the freedom of His people, the Israelites, who were captives, slaves to Egypt. God called Moses to face the pains of his past so that the Israelites could face a future of freedom. His plans of emancipation required that Moses obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions, and trust Him.
Moses quivered and doubted. He made excuses about why he couldn't do it. He felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met Moses at his doubts. He called him to courage and went on to use Moses as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power, and freedom. Yes, Moses made mistakes along the way, but God was powerful in, through, and in spite of each one. Through it all, God led as only God can. He led with power. He led with purpose. He led with love. And through Moses, God led His people to a new place of promise and freedom.
On the far side of Charlotte, North Carolina, high upon a mountain in a retreat center, a voice called out to me from within a curious and fiery story. I had been tending to my husband and children, to the laundry and the dishes, writing songs and leading worship at women's events, minding my own business, and going about my normal
day-in-day-out tasks on the day that God spoke to my heart through the testimony of another woman. On the day that God called me to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a sold-out, dream-filled God-girl, I had become a grace-embracing yet disqualified-for-anything-big-because-of-what-I-had-done God-girl. My use-me-in-a-big-way-Lord prayers had been traded in for average can't-have-a-dream-anymore faith-living. My God-dream days were far behind me. I had fled them because of what I had done in my junior year of college. Glancing to my left and right to be sure that no one would know what I was about to do, I took a horrible situation—an unplanned pregnancy—into my own hands and killed a baby. I robbed life from my own child when I had an abortion, and I covered over the death of my precious child with sands of compartmentalization and reason.
Fear and shame bombarded my heart, so I fled—away from God, away from my dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of heart-hiding. After a season of brokenness, God brought me to a place of beauty, forgiveness, and healing. I was restored and redeemed by scandalous, merciful grace. The door to my yesterdays was closed. I moved on to a new place in Christ. My past was my past and I had no intentions of returning to it—or to the God-dreams that swelled my heart when I was a young, sold-out Jesus lover. My life was different now. Normal, not dream-worthy.
Then God interrupted my new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for me were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom—the freedom of His people, the women who were captives, slaves to their life-wounds. God called me to face the pains of my past so that my Girlfriends in God might face a future of freedom
when they hear my testimony. His plans of emancipation required that I obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions, and trust Him.
I quivered and doubted. I made excuses about why I couldn't do it. I felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met me at my doubts. He called me to courage and is using my broken-into-beautiful story as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power, and freedom. Yes, I make mistakes along the way, but God is powerful in, through, and in spite of each one. Through each surrendered day, God is leading as only He can. With power, with purpose, with love. And I pray right now that this story—my story—will bring you to a new place of promise and freedom through the grace of Jesus Christ.
What fresh and fiery mission is God calling you to trust Him with, friend? Let me encourage you to stop with the excuses. I'm living proof that God will free anyone from her shame and can use anyone for His purpose. Step up to the burning bush—into God's presence. Listen to His voice. Obey. Follow. Take courage. Trust Him with your past and with your tomorrows. Allow His grace and love to decide what your mission should look like.
But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power
and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.
(Exodus 9:16)
Let's Pray
Dear God, with a trembling heart, I approach Your throne of grace today in reverence and humility, fully aware that You are holy and I am not. Speak, Lord. Show me the plans You have for me. Bind me to Your Word and to Your strength so I will have the courage to obey. May my brokenness be restored for the beauty of Your glory. Please help me to trust You with my today and my tomorrows. In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Take a few moments to consider where you've come from and where you feel God is leading you.
· Do you trust Him? Are you concerned about not being "able" or "qualified"?
· Commit your today and tomorrows to Him. Journal about what that might look like.
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Welcome to my personal pulse. This type of transparency is always risky. My pulse races each time I expose the broken places of my past and my present – but GOD is always faithful to use it in some beautiful way. Some of you may feel this devotion was written specifically for you. Don't ignore that. Explore it. Please come to my Facebook page today and share your heart with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. We will pray over each of you!
Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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January 30
God is the God of Lost Things
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And when she finds it, she calls her friends and neighbors together and says, 'rejoice with me; I have found my lost coin.' In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents," (Luke 15:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was New Year's Eve. Steve and I had shared a wonderful meal with friends and then circled a table for a feisty card game called Shanghi. As I reached to pick up my first hand, I noticed a void in my wedding ring. "Oh no," I cried, "Part of my wedding ring is missing. One of the diamonds is gone!"
My wedding ring (which I received on our twentieth anniversary) has one diamond solitaire in the middle with two little triangles, called trillions, on each side. It was one of the settings for the triangle that lay empty.
My mind retraced my steps through the day. I had cleaned the bathrooms, vacuumed the house, and crafted two new upholstered pillows for the living room sofa. I envisioned the little triangular diamond going down the drain, sucked up in the vacuum cleaner, or sewn into the inside of a pillow. Of course we retraced my steps at our friend's home, but most likely it had fallen out before I got there.
On New Year's Day, I woke up thinking about the diamond and chatting with God about it. "Lord, I know this is like looking for a needle in a haystack, but would you please help me find that sliver of diamond?"
I got up, fixed a cup of coffee, and decided to go up stairs and look in the very messy, beige carpeted, sewing room. A haystack if there ever was one. Of course stuck in a haystack is better than going down a drain.
As I turned to go up the wooden steps of the stairs, I saw a tiny sliver of sparkle. You guessed it! The little trillion sat poised as if placed by a Holy Hand. I believe it was. A Sudden Glory!
You know, sometimes God answers a prayer and remains anonymous, or hidden. We wonder...could that have been Him?
And then sometimes He is so obvious you know that you know that He has intervened in your life in a very real and miraculous way.
"Do you think God cares about diamonds?" Steve asked.
"I think He cares about lost things?" I replied.
The next day, I took the diamond to the jewelers to have it reset. "How in the world did you find this little thing?" the Jewish Jeweler asked. So I told him.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for caring about the little things in my life. There are no coincidences. There is no luck. You are in it all.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever lost anything and asked God to help you find it?
Did you suddenly realize where it was?
Did you find it in a strange place?
Hmmm. How do you think that happened?
Read Matthew 17:24- 27. How in the world did that coin end up in that fish's mouth?
Is that a fun story or what!
Would you like to see the little diamond on the step? I took a picture to help me remember the God of Lost Things. You can see it on my facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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January 31, 2012
Looking for God?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise the LORD! For he has heard my cry for mercy. The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving (Psalm 28:6-7, NLT).
Friend to Friend
God is constantly at work in our lives, preparing us to do with joy what He created us to do. A.B. Simpson said: "God is preparing His heroes. And when the opportunity comes He can fit them into their place in a moment. And the world will wonder where they came from." When we understand that God integrates every life detail to accomplish His will, a deeper level of trust is born in our hearts.
God wants us to trust Him in every circumstance. Trust is letting go, knowing that God is more than enough. Trust is obedience because what I do reveals what I believe about God regardless of what I say. I don't think God wastes His direction on a disobedient heart but does, in fact, reveal His plans to those who will obey them. Trust and obedience go hand in hand. The more we obey, the more we will trust and the more we trust, the more we will obey, understanding that He is indeed Lord of all. The result is joy.
We should be women of joy. That is life at its best. However, if we live under the burden of circumstances instead of seeing God in their midst, our hearts will be filled with emotional chaos or spiritual rebellion, and there will be no joy. As Christians, we should be the most joyful people on earth, heart and soul at rest, because we serve the God of all circumstances, Lord of every mountain and Shepherd of every valley. However, this week alone, I have talked with both men and women who are ready to walk away from their lives all because in their hearts, marriages and ministries, there is neither joy nor peace. They cannot see God in their circumstances. The darkness is closing in as they struggle to stay afloat on the storm-tossed seas of strained relationships fueled by exhaustion, burnout, depression and a lack of purpose for living. Anger is a constant companion, and bitterness shadows each step. This is not the way life is supposed to be – is it?
When we fail to faithfully and continually seek God, we will likely forfeit our joy to human idols and lifeless activities in which we often exchange holiness for tolerance. No wonder we sometimes find life impotent and dismal when it should be powerful and filled with unshakable joy. We are to be vessels containing, and naturally spilling out, the joy of the Lord on those in our lives. That joy is our strength and the salt that makes others thirst to know Him more. Instead of focusing on what is wrong in life, we need to look on the "right" side of life.
A little girl and her father were taking a walk one night. They lived way out in the country on a remote farm far from the neon signs of the city. The night was still and dark, cloaked in reverent silence. Lightning bugs pranced through the tall grass and the onyx skies, celebrating life itself. Father and daughter walked in comfortable silence, satisfied just to be together. With a contented sigh, the little girl looked up into the dark skies filled with winking stars that seemed on the verge of bursting into sparkling worship of their Creator, God Himself. The little girl was overwhelmed and cried out, "Oh, Daddy! If the wrong side of heaven is so beautiful, I wonder what the right side looks like!"
We live on the wrong side of heaven. This world is not our home. It is a broken place filled with unspeakable pain and crushed dreams. Even so, we can live in this foreign land for a while – with joy -- knowing that home is waiting, celebrating here because of what we have there. "The Message" translates the words of Paul in Philippians 4:4 this way, "Celebrate God all day, every day. Revel in him!" I love it! Paul is calling us to party! That's right! We are to celebrate God every minute of every day for as many days as we have. "Revel" literally means "to party, to raise the roof" or, as my Mama used to say, "paint the town red." Every day we have a choice to make when it comes to our perspective on life. That choice then determines our attitudes which then lead to the actions that determine success or failure and the quality with which we live and serve.
Paul is serious about joy, and his instructions are clear. We are to be joyful - always. I know that many times, life makes it impossible to be happy but happiness is not what Paul is talking about. Happiness is a cheap imitation of true joy, depending totally upon man-made circumstances, while joy is an inside job and depends totally upon God's presence in the midst of those circumstances. Nehemiah 8:10 reminds us that "the joy you have in the LORD is your strength" (GWT). Remember that joy is not a feeling but rather a chosen perspective that recognizes the fact that God is in control. I am not talking about the power of positive thinking. I am talking about a real, honest-to-goodness transformation of the perspective from which we live. I'm talking about the power of God, active and present in every circumstance. Don't settle for Pharisaical religion or slot-filling, box-checking church activity. Settle for nothing less than the unexplainable but undeniable power of God's presence at work in your life.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the joy you have given me through Your love, mercy and grace. Forgive me for the times I take that joy for granted. Teach me how to look for you in the circumstances of my daily life. I want to celebrate Your presence even when I may not understand or even like Your process. I want to learn to trust You more and walk by faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask yourself the following questions:
How can I train my heart and mind to look for God at work in my life?
In what ways does an awareness of God's presence change the way I live each day?
Begin each day by setting the focus of your heart and mind on seeking God. Look for His handprint in every person you encounter. Keep John 3:16 in the forefront of your thoughts. Praise Him the minute you recognize His power at work around you. Share that revelation with a friend and record it in your journal.
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February 1, 2012
Can You Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too?
Sharon Jaynes
(If you are single, you're not off the hook here. Keep reading.)
Today's Truth
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sitting in a waiting room, I rummaged through stacks of magazines to pass the time. A magazine for families, I thought as I picked up a popular title. That ought to be safe.
Thumbing through the pages, I went directly to the "Family Matters" column to see what the culture was teaching these days. The title? "Why You can Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too." I turned back to the cover to make sure I had not inadvertently picked up Cosmopolitan or The National Inquirer. Nope it was a magazine for families – targeted at wives and mothers.
This is some of what the author had to say.
Last spring I found myself applying a pretty shade of pink lipstick before heading off to the nursery to buy annuals. Why the fuss? I hoped to run into the handsome gentleman who worked there....According to experts, married crushes are natural and common. As long as you don't let them develop into full blown fantasies or consider acting upon them, these minor attractions can actually help you appreciate your spouse more...Infatuations offer a safe break from the marital routine. Everyday life is a bit humdrum, making it hard to maintain a passionate connection all the time...
Well friends, there is another expert on marriage who was not quoted in this article and his teaching is the antithesis of this one. His name is Jesus. This is what He has to say about infatuation with the delivery boy, flirting with the man at the nursery, or cattily toying with a coworker in the next cubicle.
"You have heard it said, Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28).
Looking at another man with a flirtatious eye is such a serious offense that Jesus went on to say, "If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away," (Matthew 5:29). Now, don't worry, I'm not going to tell you to pluck out your eye if you do have a crush on the buff young man who bags your produce at the grocery store, but I am telling you that you might need to shop elsewhere. I am saying that if you find yourself adding a bit of lip gloss before heading to the post office where the cute blond with the steel blue eyes always greets you like you've made his day, you need to forget the gloss and go to another post office. And that man in the next cubicle who always showers you with compliments and makes your heart skip a beat? I think Jesus is saying to pluck it out, change cubicles, or even more drastic, change jobs.
Perhaps you think I've gone just a bit too far. I imagine the folks listening to Jesus' advice about running from temptation thought so too. The truth is, I've never known one woman who had an affair which did not begin with a toying glance or flirtatious "innocent" bantering. Every sin begins with a thought and every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind.
Let's face it, women long to feel beautiful. After being married for a few years and having a baby or two, we begin to wonder if we are still pretty or sexually appealing. Then a man comes along who pays us a compliment and our hearts skip a beat. That is natural. However, if that compliment or attention leads to infatuation, returning for more, or a "crush" as the article implied, Jesus tells us to turn and run in the opposite direction...press the delete button...and avoid reply. "Flee sexual immorality," (1 Corinthians 6:18). This is serious...pluck it out.
It is interesting that when Satan tempted Eve in the garden, the first step to her downfall was her eyes. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye...." (Genesis 3:6). It all began with her eyes...what she looked at. I wonder what would have happened if she had chosen to look away.
The above article had very little to do with Brad Pitt or Mel Gibson, but more to say about men we come in contact with everyday. Honestly, had it been Brad or Mel, I might have had a chuckle. But this article was encouraging women to play with fire. The author went on to say...
Whether you have a soft spot for Mel Gibson or Mel the mailman, make sure your husband knows that a crush doesn't change the way you feel about him. We all want to know that we are number one in our spouse's life. As for me, I told my husband about the man at the nursery. 'Going to see your boyfriend?' he teased as I headed out the door to buy mulch. Later I assured him that while Garden Guy knew the best cure for aphids; he could never melt my heart.
I read that and tried to imagine my husband, Steve, saying to me...."Honey, I want to tell you that I have a crush on the check out girl at Home Depot, but I still love you the best." I get a queasy feeling just thinking about such a conversation. And yet, this is what the "family magazine" was suggesting for women of the new millennium. No wonder the divorce rate in this country is 50% and rising.
But what if you are single? Does this apply to you? Absolutely! The enemy would like nothing better than for you, in your singleness, to fantasize about a man that you come in contact with on a regular basis. He would like for your mind to go where it need not go. He knows that singleness can be a lonely place and he is an equal opportunity tempter.
Bottom line? "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life," (Proverbs 4:23 NIV). The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to guard my heart today and every day. Help me to recognize temptation and flee – run in the opposite direction. I know that temptation is not a toy to be played with, but an evil weapon used against us. Thank You for giving me the power of the Holy Spirit to resist temptation and the power of the Truth in Scripture to fight the lies that "I would be happy if..."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there any area in your life where you are toying with temptation?
If you are single, have you been entertaining a relationship that would not be pleasing to God?
Go back and print off today's devotion. Highlight the various verses and commit them to memory. Make them part of your arsenal to resist temptation.
What are some ways that we can resist temptation? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If you would like to learn more about how to have a wonderful marriage, this book is for you. And, if you would like to learn more about how to resist the lies of the enemy in every area of life, you'll want to see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. When it comes to spiritual warfare, let's be armed and dangerous to the enemy's lies.
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February 2, 2012
Remodeling 101
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:13 "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."
Friend to Friend
I promised myself that I would never buy a house that could be described as a "fixer-upper." I don't like fixing things. I want everything to be fixed before I move in. But there I was -- buying a town house that needed so much work even the realtor couldn't believe my husband and I wanted to buy it. Why didn't someone stop me? No one did, so the sale was made and we went to work. Actually, my son and husband went to work while I went crazy.
I had no idea how horrible the process of remodeling could be. Layer after layer of dirt, grime, stains and ugliness was stripped away. Rotten kitchen cabinets were torn from the walls and rusty appliances were replaced. We basically gutted the whole place and rebuilt it – while living in it. I was not happy!
I will never forget the day I woke up to see a toilet sitting at the foot of our bed. It was at that moment I resolved to never set foot in another house that required so much work. I am so thankful God does not feel that way about me.
Honestly, I used to wonder why God didn't just demolish the old me and build a new one. Then He did just that – through a two-year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that deep, dark and slimy pit, the Father lovingly stripped away old fears and insecurities. From the walls of my heart, He tore the rotten attitudes, undisciplined thoughts and unholy desires that had walked me to the edge of my pit; then pushed me in. He replaced rusty old dreams with new ones and basically, gutted my life to build a new one, a better one, and a stronger one. Part of that new life was forgiveness. God taught me how to forgive myself so I could then forgive others.
Because forgiveness is so important, it only stands to reason that there are roadblocks that can hinder our willingness to forgive. We must make the commitment to identify and remove each one.
Selfishness
Selfishness shouts, "I have been hurt! It is so unfair. I have rights!" What I am really saying is that how I feel about the hurt is more important than forgiving the hurt.
Pride
Pride cries, "Look at what they have done to me. Don't they realize who I am?" To receive or give forgiveness requires humility.
Low self-esteem
Some of us have built an entire identity around a hurt. The attention we gain from the wrong we have suffered defines who we are. It is something we cherish and refuse to relinquish for the sake of forgiveness.
Blindness
We may be blind to the fact that we have not forgiven a hurt. We have convinced ourselves that we really have forgiven the one who hurt us by going through the motions and saying the right words without really dealing with the pain. In reality, all we have done is dig a hole and bury the pain. As long as hurt is buried alive, it will keep resurrecting itself in our life, but when the hurt is dealt with and forgiveness is given, the pain is buried dead – and it stays dead.
Pain
Forgiveness is spiritual surgery. It exposes old hurts that have never completely healed. We can move, change jobs, change churches, change friends or even change families, but until we yank up the root of bitterness and cover it with forgiveness, we will live with unresolved pain.
Ignorance
Maybe we don't know how to forgive someone because are under the impression that forgiveness is an emotion or feeling. True forgiveness is a choice – a deliberate choice to release the person who has hurt us from the pain they have caused. We can stop forgiving others when God stops forgiving us.
We need to identify and eliminate the roadblocks to forgiveness so God can set us free, heal our pain and make us more like Him. Now that is a remodeling job I would welcome.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for the changes You have made in my life through the power of Your forgiveness. Please help me forgive the people who have hurt me just as You have forgiven me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Emotional pain can cripple our lives unless we deal with it and forgive the hurt. A family member has wounded you and shows no sign of remorse. Maybe a friend has betrayed you and refuses to apologize. Or you may be struggling to forgive yourself because you don't think you deserve to be forgiven. None of us deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift from God. Today is the day to make the choice to forgive. Beside each statement below, write the name of someone in your life who needs your forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not limited to those who deserve it. ______________________________
Forgiveness is not limited to those who apologize. ______________________________
Forgiveness is not limited to those who change. ________________________________
Read and memorize 1 John 1:9: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
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God is the One who heals. Forgiveness puts us in the correct posture for Him to do so. Don't wait another minute to deal with the issue of forgiveness in your life. Know that we are praying for you and standing with you as you choose forgiveness.
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February 3, 2012
Learning To Breathe
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness (1 Timothy 4:7b, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Before our first child was born, my husband and I took a series of classes to prepare us for childbirth. I vividly remember being told by my Lamaze instructor that while in labor, I would need to breathe through each contraction. She would give us instructions like: "Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth" and "When you inhale, allow your belly to expand first, then your chest." She told us that the way we breathe would affect the way we would experience labor.
We spent a lot of time during those week-after-week classes learning how to breathe in a whole new way. We were taught that the breaths we would take during labor would need to be purposed and controlled. They required discipline and were not like natural breathing. So I practiced and I practiced the special breathing techniques in preparation for when the labor pains came a-knocking.
When the day arrived to welcome my firstborn son, Preston Miles Smith, into the world, I learned what a discipline breathing through contractions really is! There were times during labor that I felt like holding my breath instead of breathing. Times when the pain was so intense that my natural response was to scream instead of to breathe. Yes. This type of breathing was surely a learned behavior, a purposed discipline. And on the other side of this purposed discipline, in spite of all the pain endured, I was blessed to experience the wonderful joy of life.
I've labored through many hard life experiences since my child birthing days. I'm sure you have too. There are times when circumstances press us in waves, contractions of life that are seemingly endless. When the waves of trials hit our heart and home, the spiritual discipline of trusting God helps us to breathe through the squeeze of each pressure. I like to call it faith-breathing. When we hunker down and put into practice the act – the discipline – of faith.
But what do we mean by "the discipline of faith"?Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever(1 Corinthians 9:24-25).Just like I learned to breathe in preparation for going through labor pains, Christians learn to breathe through life pains when we implement spiritual disciplines in our lives like prayer, fasting, journaling and Scripture reading. They are purposed disciplines that bring joy and strength. The more we pray, the more we grow in intimacy with God. The more we read and know the Bible, the more we understand God's will and character. We see over and over again that He is good, faithful, compassionate, loving, gentle, just, holy, righteous and trustworthy in all things. We are encouraged and spurred on by the faith of others. We learn to faith-breathe!
The flames of fire have heated up and refined my faith on many occasions! Life is filled with challenges. God is always with us and will help us breathe through the difficult situations we face. He allows us to go through trials as a part of our refining process. Struggles send us running to God for help, for faith, for strength, for protection and direction. They are often pregnant with pain. Bursting with heartache. If we yield them to God, He uses to rid our lives of trust-barriers like fear and doubt, and to bring glory and honor to him. There are many life contractions that hurt us, but there is no earthly pain that can diminish the hope of our salvation. We must simply breath – continue practicing those spiritual disciplines that bind us to the heart of God.
Yes, and everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution. But you must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work(2 Timothy 3:12, 14-17, NLT).
Trusting God takes discipline. We don't always feel like it. It's not always what we want to do. It's not natural. At times we feel overwhelmed and want to soul-scream. If we always acted on our feelings, our lives would be chaotic messes. As in childbirth, there finally comes the time of deliverance where what is birthed forth to joy is directly the result of the very pain we have gone through.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, please teach me to breath! Strengthen me through life's hard labor experiences and help me to practice the disciplines I have learned through your Scriptures. When I feel like screaming through the pain, help me to breath by reading and memorizing your Word, fasting and praying, and meditating on your Truth. Thank you for the strength you will give me as I trust in You.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read over the verses below and write them on note card and review them until they are committed to memory.
"...all things are possible with God" (Mark 10:27b).
"I can do all things through Him who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).
"I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119:11)
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:8-9).
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February 6, 2012
God Can Resurrect Your Marriage From the Ashes Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then he [God] said to me [Ezekiel], "Prophesy to these bones and say to them, 'Dry bones, hear the word of the LORD!' This is what the Sovereign LORD says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you, and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the LORD,'" (Ezekiel 37:4-6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was January 7, 2005 when a group of friends gathered at Don and Jona's house to watch the Dr. Phil show. Jona had written in to a contest that Good Housekeeping, in conjunction with Dr. Phil, had on "life change." Of fifteen thousand applicants, Jona was the grand prize winner! As the winner, Don and Jona were guests on the Dr. Phil Show to tell their story. But I didn't need Dr. Phil to tell me the story, I lived it with them. Let Jona and I share how we remember it ...
Don was twenty-seven-years old when Jona first met him on a spring church beach retreat. Immediately, she knew he was exactly what she had always dreamed of in a husband. Don had a strong faith in God, a good job, a college degree, drive, and dreams for the future. He was physically fit, witty, adventurous, sexy, and "just plain gorgeous." On top of that, he was constantly surrounded by women at the retreat that were vying for his attention.
When they returned home, Jona could hardly believe her good fortune when Don asked her to dinner. Don and Jona dated only three months before he asked her to marry him, and on March 30, 1985, before the next spring beach retreat, they were husband and wife.
Their first year of marriage was a blissful blur of candlelight dinners, spontaneous lovemaking, and endless conversation. The icing on the one-year anniversary cake was the purchase of their first home. By their second anniversary, Don quit his job to start his own business. Life was clicking along at a steady pace toward acquiring the American Dream. By their fourth anniversary, Jona had their first child and joined the ranks of "stay-at-home-mom." But, after twenty-four months of Don's new business venture, the couple faced a second mortgage, a dwindling bank account, and a looming cloud of debt. Jona was forced to go back to work and seeds of discontentment, disrespect, and disenchantment began to take root.
"I was so mad at Don for the mistakes I felt he had made," Jona explained. "Deep down, I wanted him to be God and to fulfill all my needs. He made a poor God. When my mother died in 1993, I sank into a clinical depression. I spent most of my time at home in bed. And even though I had two children by this time, I withdrew from being a mom, as well as being a wife. I then began to eat...and eat. I went from 140 pounds to 240 pounds."
"Don and I had the perfect engagement, a beautiful wedding, and a fantasy honeymoon. But when the obstacles came along, I wasn't prepared to maneuver over, around, or through them. I thought, this is not the way the story goes. What happened to the fairy tale?"
"Don changed jobs about every other year, however, he always provided for our needs. It just drove me crazy that he couldn't stay put."
"I remember one day Don said, 'Why are you eating and gaining all this weight?' I shot back, 'I'm doing this because I don't want you to touch me. Besides, I can lose the weight if I want to, but you'll always be a loser.' Little by little, word by word, angry look by angry look, rejection by rejection; I began the process of destroying my husband. Comments like 'You're so stupid,' 'duh,' and 'can't you do anything right?' were constantly spewing from my mouth. I was in pain and I wanted Don to be in pain too. One day, I made a list of all of Don's faults. He found the list, but I didn't even care."
Jona always thought that since Don was a Christian, he would never leave her. However, there came a point where he could not take the emotional turmoil any longer. On May 6, 2001, Don left. Jona had destroyed her marriage and her man. On January 31, 2003, the divorce was final.
"A couple of months after our divorce, I woke up to God's still small voice," Jona explained. "He seemed to say, 'Is this what you wanted? Did you want a divorce? Do you want Don to marry another woman and have your children torn between spending time in two different households? Do you want to be alone? Were you the wife I called you to be?' Oh God," Jona cried, "What have I done?"
Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona's heart. She didn't change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I know Today's Truth seems like a strange verse. It is! It is one of the strangest stories in the bible. Go back and read Ezekiel chapter 37. If God can do that with a bunch of dry bones, just think what He can do with your marriage! Your broken life! Your broken dreams!
Do you see yourself in Jona?
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage? In your relationships?
Let's chat, visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me how one little change has made a difference in one of your relationships.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you! And if you know someone who is struggling in her marriage, this would be a great gift.
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February 6, 2012
God Can Resurrect Your Marriage From the Ashes Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then he [God] said to me [Ezekiel], "Prophesy to these bones and say to them, 'Dry bones, hear the word of the LORD!' This is what the Sovereign LORD says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you, and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the LORD,'" (Ezekiel 37:4-6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was January 7, 2005 when a group of friends gathered at Don and Jona's house to watch the Dr. Phil show. Jona had written in to a contest that Good Housekeeping, in conjunction with Dr. Phil, had on "life change." Of fifteen thousand applicants, Jona was the grand prize winner! As the winner, Don and Jona were guests on the Dr. Phil Show to tell their story. But I didn't need Dr. Phil to tell me the story, I lived it with them. Let Jona and I share how we remember it ...
Don was twenty-seven-years old when Jona first met him on a spring church beach retreat. Immediately, she knew he was exactly what she had always dreamed of in a husband. Don had a strong faith in God, a good job, a college degree, drive, and dreams for the future. He was physically fit, witty, adventurous, sexy, and "just plain gorgeous." On top of that, he was constantly surrounded by women at the retreat that were vying for his attention.
When they returned home, Jona could hardly believe her good fortune when Don asked her to dinner. Don and Jona dated only three months before he asked her to marry him, and on March 30, 1985, before the next spring beach retreat, they were husband and wife.
Their first year of marriage was a blissful blur of candlelight dinners, spontaneous lovemaking, and endless conversation. The icing on the one-year anniversary cake was the purchase of their first home. By their second anniversary, Don quit his job to start his own business. Life was clicking along at a steady pace toward acquiring the American Dream. By their fourth anniversary, Jona had their first child and joined the ranks of "stay-at-home-mom." But, after twenty-four months of Don's new business venture, the couple faced a second mortgage, a dwindling bank account, and a looming cloud of debt. Jona was forced to go back to work and seeds of discontentment, disrespect, and disenchantment began to take root.
"I was so mad at Don for the mistakes I felt he had made," Jona explained. "Deep down, I wanted him to be God and to fulfill all my needs. He made a poor God. When my mother died in 1993, I sank into a clinical depression. I spent most of my time at home in bed. And even though I had two children by this time, I withdrew from being a mom, as well as being a wife. I then began to eat...and eat. I went from 140 pounds to 240 pounds."
"Don and I had the perfect engagement, a beautiful wedding, and a fantasy honeymoon. But when the obstacles came along, I wasn't prepared to maneuver over, around, or through them. I thought, this is not the way the story goes. What happened to the fairy tale?"
"Don changed jobs about every other year, however, he always provided for our needs. It just drove me crazy that he couldn't stay put."
"I remember one day Don said, 'Why are you eating and gaining all this weight?' I shot back, 'I'm doing this because I don't want you to touch me. Besides, I can lose the weight if I want to, but you'll always be a loser.' Little by little, word by word, angry look by angry look, rejection by rejection; I began the process of destroying my husband. Comments like 'You're so stupid,' 'duh,' and 'can't you do anything right?' were constantly spewing from my mouth. I was in pain and I wanted Don to be in pain too. One day, I made a list of all of Don's faults. He found the list, but I didn't even care."
Jona always thought that since Don was a Christian, he would never leave her. However, there came a point where he could not take the emotional turmoil any longer. On May 6, 2001, Don left. Jona had destroyed her marriage and her man. On January 31, 2003, the divorce was final.
"A couple of months after our divorce, I woke up to God's still small voice," Jona explained. "He seemed to say, 'Is this what you wanted? Did you want a divorce? Do you want Don to marry another woman and have your children torn between spending time in two different households? Do you want to be alone? Were you the wife I called you to be?' Oh God," Jona cried, "What have I done?"
Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona's heart. She didn't change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I know Today's Truth seems like a strange verse. It is! It is one of the strangest stories in the bible. Go back and read Ezekiel chapter 37. If God can do that with a bunch of dry bones, just think what He can do with your marriage! Your broken life! Your broken dreams!
Do you see yourself in Jona?
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage? In your relationships?
Let's chat, visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me how one little change has made a difference in one of your relationships.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you! And if you know someone who is struggling in her marriage, this would be a great gift.
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February 7, 2012
God Can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"So I prophesied as he [God] commanded me, and breath entered them; they came to life and stood up on their feet-a vast army," (Ezekiel 37:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I can hardly wait for you to read the rest of the story from yesterday. If you missed it, please go back and read it first. Here's where we left off...Don and Jona were divorced.
Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona's heart. She didn't change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and keep reading.
God took Jona to a place of repentance and began to soften, remold and remake her very heart. That's what God does. He doesn't try to cover up our flaws; He starts from scratch and makes us new. While the divorce was final, God was only just beginning to work on Jona's heart.
"God took me to a place of repentance," Jona explained. "For the first time, through a support group, I saw clearly what I had done to destroy my marriage. I had always blamed our problems on Don changing jobs so often, but the real problem was my lack of respect for the God appointed leader of my home. I was the real problem and Don simply couldn't take it anymore. I had rejected Don with my words, my appearance, and my withdrawal of physical touch."
Whether or not God could salvage the marriage, Jona made a commitment that she would allow God to salvage her.
Jona's heart longed to be reunited to Don, but her ultimate goal was to become the woman God wanted her to be. She immersed herself in Bible study and prayer, and began to take an interest in her appearance. Interesting, as the pounds began to drop, so did the scales that had covered her eyes.
"I began to understand what God's Word said about the relationship between a husband and wife. I was not Don's Holy Spirit. I was not the leader of my home. God had called me to respect Don as the leader, to honor him as a child of God, and to love him with my all. One day when Don came to pick up our two boys, I shared with him what I had been learning."
"I told Don that I knew that we were divorced, but I was making a commitment to submit to him. I didn't when we were married, but I did from that time forward."
"That's fine," he told me. "But you need to know I'm moving on with my life."
"You can move on," I said, "But I'm staying right here."
Jona continued to encourage Don and give him her BEST.
"BEST stands for bless, edify, share, and touch," she explained. "I began to touch him when he came by the house. I'd pat his back or give him a quick hug. When I knew he was coming, I'd put on a nice dress and fix my hair. I'd tell him I was proud of how he was handling the boys and share with him what God was teaching me. Some people told him I was trying to trick him and that he should ignore me. But it wasn't a trick. God had changed my heart and I was committed, no matter what happened between us in the future, to never go back to being that bitter woman I had been before."
"Sharon, I hate to tell you this," she said, "but for the first time, I prayed for Don. I had never prayed for him before, but now I pray for him all the time."
Jona lost the added pounds and gained a beautiful glowing countenance. It was amazing. More than the change in her physical appearance, the glow of Jesus Christ shone through her radiant face.
Don was confused at times and a bit leery of the change. "Why do you think I'm wonderful, all of a sudden?" he asked her.
"Because now I see you through God's eyes," she explained. "I see that you are a wonderful man."
Don fell in love with Jona all over again. No, it wasn't a trick – it was a miracle. God has given them a second chance. They were remarried on August 24, 2003. Oh how I love God ... He is the God of second chances.
Dear friends, Jona has so graciously allowed me to tell you her story because she has decided that she will do anything to help one woman not make the same mistakes she has made. She cried and cried all through the recounting of the story, and relived the pain...for you. "God allowed me to go to a terrible place," Jona explained. "My prayer is that others will not have to go to that place before they wake up and realize what they are doing to their men."
And that...is what Dr. Phil did not tell you.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage? Is there something you need to do differently in other important relationships in your life?
You know, Jona did not destroy her marriage by herself. Don made his fair share of mistakes too. But here's the thing – we cannot change another person. We can only change ourselves. And sometimes...that is enough.
Consider giving your BEST to others. Write out the acronym and keep it in a prominent place.
BLESS
EDIFY
SHARE
TOUCH
What has this two-part devotion stirred in your heart? I'd love to know. Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you.
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A Balanced Life Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
She (Martha) had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to what he was saying (Luke 10:39).
Friend to Friend
A balanced life is focused on right things. Focus is always found at the feet of Jesus. Mary lived out this truth. In fact, Mary, more than any other person in the New Testament is associated with sitting at the feet of Jesus.
What does it mean to "sit at the feet of Jesus"? We must first stop. Now that is a novel idea for most women. Mary stopped what she was doing - helping Martha in the kitchen - and came to sit at the feet of Jesus. Of course, Martha immediately began complaining that she had been left to do all the work while her sister wasted time sitting at the feet of Jesus. I have discovered there will always be someone who will misunderstand or complain when you choose to do what Jesus told Martha was "the better part."
Luke 10: 40-42 "But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to him and asked, 'Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.' But the Lord answered her, 'Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.'"
Mary made a choice and so must we. Choosing to sit at the feet of Jesus requires decisive planning, purposeful scheduling and a willful determination. Every day, God wants relationship building time with us, which means that time at His feet, in His presence must be our highest priority. Jesus gently rebuked Martha because she had forgotten what was really important.
It is amazing to me how I can squander away the best part of my day, leaving Him with the leftover scraps of time and then have the audacity to complain that my life is void of power and purpose. Distractions come from every side. Some of those distractions are good and wonderful things, but they are all still wrong things if they keep us from stopping to spend time with God.
Every day, we choose where to invest our time. We plan everything from committee meetings and church activities to lunch appointments and choir practice - but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God. Are you desperate for the peace and balance only He can bring? Then it's time to stop, take inventory of the demands upon your time and begin investing the best part of everyday sitting at His feet. Being wrapped up in God's work can easily become a shabby substitute for being wrapped up in His presence. And we can only be wrapped up in God's presence when we learn to wait on Him.
I absolutely hate to wait, on anyone or for anything. Waiting robs me of control and forces me to face the unknown. But waiting on God brings priorities into a right focus and releases the catalyst that may very well change my life course. Waiting is not a passive use of time. Waiting is active spiritual obedience. In each waiting room of life, He is at work preparing me for the circumstance and the circumstance for me. Psalm 5:3 (NLT) "Listen to my voice in the morning, LORD. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly." From those still, quiet moments of waiting and seeking comes a balance and focus that takes root and grows. It is through the choice to wait on God that the seeking heart – the expectant heart finds every need met.
We not only must stop and be still in order to sit at the feet of Jesus, we must learn to listen. Time spent seeking God and listening for His voice is vital. Deuteronomy 30:19-20 (NIV) "Now choose life...listen to his voice, and hold fast to him."
Countless voices clamor for our attention. The key to a balanced life is training our hearts toward God and teaching our spiritual ears to listen for His voice above all others. I taught third grade for several years while my husband attended seminary. My class was one of seven third grade classes, which meant that the first few days of school were chaotic. The PE teacher was a welcome sight when she appeared at my door to take the students outside. It was the responsibility of each teacher to pick up her students when PE was over. Seven teachers trying to get the attention of over two hundred students was especially interesting on the first or second day of school when the teachers didn't know their students and the third graders didn't know their teacher. However, after only a few days, an amazing thing happened every year. When the teachers lined up, it took only a word or two for the students to come running. They quickly learned to recognize the voice of their new teacher above all the rest because they listened to her voice all day long.
The voice of God comes to us in many ways but every voice must be held up and measured against His main voice, the Word of God. To sit at the feet of Jesus, we must learn to stop, be still, and listen for His voice and then rest. Rest will not come until we have heard His truth. However, when we have learned and applied the truth of God we can then rest in Him and our world falls into perfect balance. Resting in Him requires trust.
When our son, Jered, was seven years old, he fell while skateboarding, cut his chin and needed stitches. We raced to the nearest emergency clinic where we met a young doctor, who at first glance, seemed friendly enough. Jered, however, took one look at the strange doctor and panicked. It was his first experience with stitches. After several attempts to gain Jered's trust and cooperation, the doctor grew impatient and said, "Son, this won't hurt. If you cannot be still we will have to put you in restraints." Now I had two major problems with those statements. First of all, there were not going to be any restraints placed on my son. And secondly, of course it would hurt. Glaring at the doctor I explained, "If you will just tell Jered the truth and explain what you are doing he will be still for you." The doctor looked at me as if I had just arrived from another planet and said, "Right!" Before I could rip off his head, Dan told the doctor we had a plan. I knew what my plan was but thought it wise to consider Dan's. Holding Jered's head still, Dan softly explained what the doctor would do and told him to fix his eyes on me while I told a story. It worked. Jered calmed down and the stitches were done in a matter of minutes. Even though he did not fully understand or trust the process, Jered did fully understand and trust us.
Truth is always the basis for trust and trust is always the basis for rest. We rarely take time to stop, be still and listen, allowing His truth to soak into our hearts and minds where trust and faith grow strong on a steady diet of truth. As a result, our faith is weak and rest is hard to find. When we learn to sit at the feet of Jesus, we will know Him better, trust Him more and find the rest we so desperately crave. Clarity of purpose and a right focus will come. And that, my friend, is the cornerstone in a life of balance.
Now It's Your Turn
Oswald Chambers writes, "We can choke God's Word with a yawn; we can hinder the time that should be spent with God by remembering we have other things to do. 'I haven't time!' Of course you have time! Take time, strangle some other interests, and make time to realize that the center of power in your life is the Lord Jesus Christ." What is the main focus of your life? For the real answer, take a long, hard look at where you spend your time, money and energy. What changes do you need to make to bring your life into a right balance with God?
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Is your life balanced?If you are like me, you need all the help you can get in maintaining a balanced life. My E-Bible Study, Time: Friend or Foe,offers three important steps you can take in learning how to balance your time and your life.
Be sure to check out the FREE MP3son Mary's website.Need help getting the Word of God into your life?Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, When I Am Afraid, to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God.
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February 10, 2012
Red Hot Romance: Take T.I.M.E. for Love
Pam Farrel
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions.
We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends.
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Pam Farrel.
Today's Truth
My love calls to me: Arise, my darling. Come away, my beautiful one (Song of Solomon 2:10, HCSV).
Friend to Friend
We live in a relationally time starved world with many of us feeling pressed to find quality moments for our spouse, children, friends and family. Today's verse is from Song of Solomon, and it brings up one of the questions we asked when researching our book Red Hot Monogamy. Just how much time does it take to stay in love for a life time? In our life, and from those we have advised over our 32 years together, we have concluded the minimum time commitment to maintain the connectedness for a healthy strong marriage can be summarized with the word T.I.M.E.
Ten – twenty minutes to talk together alone everyday. It is amazing how just making time to talk about things more important than who is going to pick up the milk will reconnect and rekindle your hearts. This is the reason that we place couple communication questions in all of the books we author. Many of the most happily married couples we know, those with a spark in their eyes even after 30, 40, 50 years together, have found the magic in the small things: a cup of coffee and conversation in the morning or a walk around the block in the evening.
Invest in a weekly date night (or date breakfast or lunch) together for at least 4 hours. We believe in the weekly date time so much that we actually schedule two of these a week because sometimes life interrupts the best laid plans so having twice as much time as we actually feel we need each week for a date ensures that even on the busiest weeks we get at least the minimum. (And this same principle can also help you achieve the time you want with your children or a friend).
A weekly date doesn't have to cost much either. In Red Hot Monogamy we give over 200 red hot romantic ideas and many of them you can pull off for pennies. Here are a few:
If you hear "your song" on the radio, simply call his/her cell phone and hold your phone up to the speaker and let the song do the romancing.
Create a photo postcard of the two of you and on the backside, write a thank you for that special memory and an invitation out to another romantic activity (or send it via email).
Recreate your first date. If you can still fit into it, wear the same clothes. If not, at least go to the same places.
Check a book out of the library or buy a book of love poems. Sit in front of the fire place in each other's arms and take turns reading poems to each other. Or write one yourself and read aloud.
Create a series of thank you notes. Send one a day for as many days as you can think of things to thank your mate for. (Or send a daily text message sharing your appreciation).
Each of you should take a blank set of sticky notes (each can choose your own color) and write short affirmations. Place them on the mirror, the rear view mirror in the car; on his golf clubs, in her briefcase, inside his shoe, etc . . . try to find the most outrageous spot to place the love note. (This is fun to do with children too.)
Use everyday items to send a unique set of messages, for example, use the title of a candy bar with a note that says, "You are a "Big Hunk" or a note on a box of cereal reading, "You are my "Life."
Have dinner someplace different in your home: in front of the fire place, on the rooftop, on the patio or balcony out back, in the attic, under the tree in the back yard, etc.
Use inexpensive dime store Valentines to create a trail of clues that lead to a romantic destination. You can also make this into a fun car rally by taping the Valentines around town, around the mall or leave taped to your friend's front doors.
Make a monthly day away policy. At least once a month spend 6 - 10 uninterrupted hours together. This can be anything you both enjoy. Try a new sport or hobby to create some common bonds.
Escape! Try to get away from it all for a 24- 48 hours twice a year—or at minimum once a year for your anniversary! We recommend twice a year with one being a marriage conference to learn new tools and skills, and the other just for rest, relaxation and romance!
Let's Pray
Lord, help me MAKE TIME for my most vital relationships so those I love sense YOUR love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Plan to succeed! Which letter in T.I.M.E. do you need more of? If you are married, get out your calendar and mark off time for your relationship before other things fill your days. If you are single, make a list of your most vital friendships and mark off blocks of time to enjoy fellowship.
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Time is a gift to your marriage, your children, and your friendships. (If you want to check out how God view's time, see Ephesians 5:15-16) Today plan a time to pull away from the hectic pace of life and enjoying the simple pleasure of a good conversation. Enjoy your T.I.M.E.!
Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of over 35 books including best selling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.Free relationship articles (like Recession Romance: Free or Nearly Free Dates) and other books and resources like Red Hot Monogamyand Pam's newest 52 Ways to Wow Your Husbandcan be found at www.Love-Wise.com. You can connect to Pam by a "Like" to Pam and Bill on Facebookor follow Pam on Twitter.
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February 13, 2012
Prayer Can Change A Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you" (Matthew 17:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am always stunned when I hear someone say, "Well, I guess the only thing left to do is pray." My goodness, I've even been shocked to hear the words come out of my own mouth. Prayer should never be seen as a last resort but as a first line of defense. No matter what condition your marriage is in today, prayer will make it better. God can make a bad marriage good and a good marriage great. God's answers to prayer healed the sick, fed the hungry, stopped the rain, kept the earth from revolving on its axis for an hour, divided the Red Sea, poured forth water from a rock, opened wombs, confused enemies, opened jail doors, made leprous skin brand new, caused the lame to dance, gave courage to the fearful, and raised the dead. Jesus said, "if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you," (Matthew 17:20 NIV).
Have you noticed that it's hard to stay mad at someone when you're praying for him or her? Somehow walking into the throne room of God with a pack of anger and resentment strapped on your back doesn't feel very comfortable. I've noticed when I'm angry at my husband, and I begin to pray for him (And I'm not talking "God help him when I get a hold of him" type prayers.) God begins to soften my heart. The Bible says that God is love and it is difficult to be in Love's very presence and remain angry. Oh, you can stay mad, but it takes a lot of effort.
Sometimes it is hard to pray for our husbands when we're mad at them. But God tells us to "pray for our enemies." How much more should we pray for our God-given, lifelong mate!
I know there are many of you who are reading this devotion with anger or resentment in your hearts. You may be wondering, how did my marriage drift so far from where I hoped it would be? How did my marriage get to this state of desperation, mediocrity, frigidity, mutual tolerance, and co-existence? Is it too late for me? Is it too late for us?
Friend, the answer is no – it is not too late. I have good news for you. God's specialty is resurrection. He excels at bringing life from death. In the Old Testament, there was a couple you may have heard of, Abraham and Sarah. When Sarah laughed at the angel who said she would have a child at ninety-years-old, the angel said, "Is anything too hard for God?"
The following year, the joke was on her. She had a baby boy and named him Isaac, which means laughter.
Nothing is too hard for God, my friend. Absolutely nothing. Jesus said, "All things are possible to him (or her) who believes" (Mark 9:23). A baby is born to a dried up womb, fingers and toes materialize on nubs on a leper's hands and feet, sight is given to a man blind from birth, a son is raised right in the middle of his own funeral procession, and the Red Sea is parted and thousands walk across on dry land. Now, tell me, is there anything in your life too hard for a God like this?
Let's Pray (Prayer for the married woman)
Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for my marriage today. I pray that you will make me into the woman that You intended all along. Help me to see my husband through your eyes today – as a chosen, dearly loved, child of God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Let's Pray (Prayer for the single woman)
Dear Lord, everywhere I look, I see marriages that are in trouble. I pray for my sisters who have lost hope. I pray that You will restore their marriages. Help me to be the type of friend who encourages strong marriages and prays for those in trouble.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I'm giving you a list of Bible verses to pray for your husband from head to toe. This is your assignment for today...for always.
Lord, I pray for my husband, from head to toe:
His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Psalm 19:14)
His Neck –That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
More From the Girlfriends
There is nothing more important that we can do for our marriages than pray for our husbands. Sharon has these Scripture prayers on a beautiful inexpensive laminated prayer card that fits snuggly in your Bible for quick reference. To order, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. While you're there, make sure and check out her book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.
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February 14, 2012
Chosen
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD spoke his word to me, saying: "Before I made you in your mother's womb, I chose you. Before you were born, I set you apart for a special work (Jeremiah 1:4-5, New Century Version).
Friend to Friend
It had been a wonderful day. We were all tired after hiking Grandfather Mountain and stopping on the way home to picnic beside a pristine North Carolina creek. Bedtime preparation was proceeding amazingly well. All that mountain air and country cooking was a natural sedative for our two pleasantly exhausted children. I looked forward to joining my husband, Dan, in the front porch swing to cuddle, gaze at the stars and dream of what might be.
Danna, our three-year-old daughter, was out like a light - one down and one to go. Jered, our six-year-old son scrambled into bed, ready to recap the hiking adventure and make a plan for tomorrow. We snuggled under the fluffy down comforter, talking and laughing about how much fun the day had been, then settled into a cozy, comfortable silence.
His question ripped through the still, silent night and my heart, exposing every fear and insecurity carefully buried there. "Why didn't she want me?" Jered softly asked. I knew immediately what he meant. After years of trying to have children naturally, Dan and I had discovered God had a wonderfully different plan for us. We adopted both Jered and Danna as infants and marveled daily at the precious gift of our two children. For years, I had known this question was inevitable but I was still caught off guard by Jered's probing words. My uncertain heart cried out to my Father. I needed an answer – for Jered and for me. Instantly, it came. Bruno!
When Jered was four-years-old, we were given a chocolate colored Labrador puppy that quickly outgrew our small yard, our not-so-understanding neighbors and our apprehensive children. We named this gentle giant Bruno. With each passing day, Bruno became an increasingly frustrated dog. Our postage stamp sized back yard offered little freedom or room for him to romp. Our elderly neighbors did not appreciate his early morning barking alarm and our kids soon refused to venture into the back yard because Bruno, who loved them and wanted to play, delighted in pinning them to the ground with his massive paws. It soon became clear to all of us that we were not the right family for Bruno.
After an intensive search, we discovered "Adopt a Pet," a remarkable organization that finds homes for animals whose owners, for one reason or another, cannot keep them. We were promised Bruno would be placed in just the right home where he would be loved, well cared for and have plenty of room to run and play. We talked and explained, struggling our way to the difficult decision that it was time to put Bruno up for adoption. Still, on the day they came to pick up Bruno, weall cried. Yes, we knew it was the best plan for Bruno, for us, and for a very excited family that wanted a Labrador, but it still hurt. Sometimes, doing the right thing - the best thing - the highest thing - is also the most painful thing.
As I looked into the beautiful, blue eyes of the little boy I loved more than life itself, I prayed for just the right words. "Jered, do you remember Bruno?" At the memory of the dog, Jered smiled and sadly whispered, "I still miss him." I nodded in agreement and replied, "I know, Son. I know you loved Bruno and were sad when we had to give him away. But do you remember why we gave Bruno away?" Jered thought for a moment and carefully answered, "Because we loved him so much and we knew we couldn't take care of him right ... and because he wasn't very happy ... and because we wanted the best home in the whole wide world for him."
I paused for a moment, basking in the simple and faithful wisdom of my Father, spoken through the heart of my only son. Now I was ready to answer his unsettling question. "She did want you, honey. And she did love you ... so much, in fact, that she was willing to give you away, just like we gave Bruno away. Just as we wanted what was best for Bruno, your birth mother wanted what was best for you!" I fully recognize that it was an extremely simple illustration for a profoundly complex life circumstance – but it was enough.
I lay there in the darkness, holding this chosen baby in my arms, listening to him breathe as he drifted into a peaceful, trust-filled sleep. My heart filled with wonder and awe at the faultless plan and complete provision of God in our lives. With tears of gratitude spilling down my face I thanked God for two courageous young birth mothers, for the plan of adoption that brought our children to us and for God's perfect work through an unusual servant named Bruno. With a contented smile on his face, Jered sighed, turned over and whispered the precious words, "I love you, Mom."
We are all desperate to be loved and to love. We innately search for significance and are created with the powerful need to belong. We pursue worth in worthless places. We demand validation from invalid sources. In the darkness of that mountain cabin, I caught a new perspective of God's stubborn love and the absolute sacrifice He made by giving up His son, Jesus Christ. It is only through a personal relationship with Him that we experience authentic love; a love that displaces thoughts of rejection and banishes feelings of abandonment. It is in this priceless gift that we comprehend the amazing truth that even if we were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, we were planned and wanted in the heart and mind of God! And that, dear friend, is enough!
"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16
Let's pray
Thank You for loving me, God. Honestly, I don't understand that kind of love; a love that sent Jesus Christ to the cross so that I can live. But today, I celebrate Your love. Help me remember I am chosen and because of Your love, I will never be alone or abandoned. You created me for a personal relationship with You. I am not an accident and I am not a mistake. I was created in response to Your plan. Today, I celebrate the fact that I am a chosen child of the King.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
In your Bible, find seven verses that talk about the love of God. Begin by reading Psalm 139. Write each verse on a 3x5 card. Memorize one verse a day for the next seven days and share the verse with someone you love.
Who or what makes you feel abandoned and unloved?
Journal your thoughts and feelings about your significance. Then determine one step that you can take in order to see yourself through the eyes of God.
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As a pastor's wife, I have talked with so many women who feel as if they were worthless, a freakish accident. Listen, my friend, you were planned and wanted by God. God is crazy about you and wants an intimate relationship with you. I pray that you will see yourself in the eyes of God, a chosen child. Need help? Check out one of Mary's MP3 downloads, Come as You Are to discover how to see yourself through the eyes of God.
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February 15, 2012
Words Can Captivate Your Man
(or any number of people)
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds (Proverbs 31:10, The Message).
Friend to Friend
OK, today is a devo for our married GiGs, but you single gals are not off the hook. Words are so powerful. We can use them to build people up or tear people down, to encourage or discourage, to speak life or to speak death. If you are not married, think of a friend or family member looking at your picture and musing about the impact you've had on their life. What would run through their mind? Now, you can read this devotion and put someone else in this buddy's seat.
Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.
All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman,he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest. All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we're at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives...and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife...well, she surpasses them all.
What a picture! That's the woman I want to be, don't you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say? Let me give you a few from my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.
Words Never to Say to Your Husband
1. I told you so.
2. You just don't think.
3. It's all your fault.
4. What's wrong with you?
5. I can't do anything to please you.
6. All you care about is yourself.
7. You never listen to me.
8. I don't know why I put up with you.
9. What do you want now?
10. How many times do I have to tell you?
Words Your Husband Longs to Hear
I've been thinking about you all day.
What can I do for you today?
How can I pray for you today?
The best part of my day is when you come home.
You are one of God's most precious gifts to me.
You are so wonderful.
You look so handsome today.
I don't feel complete without you.
I will always love you.
I trust your decisions.
Today, be aware of the words you say to your husband. Do they build him up or tear him down? Do they make him glad he came home, or wish he hadn't?
And for the single GiG, consider the words that you speak to your co-workers and friends. They have their own lists too.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please keep watch over my lips today. Help me use my words to speak life to those I come in contact with today. Help me use my words to build up and not tear down. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why not pick out 1 or 2 phrases from the list of words your husband longs to hear and try them out today? You might be surprised just how much his eyes light up! When you love your husband well, God says "Well done, my good and faithful servant!"
Let's hold each other accountable. Pick one of the lines from what your husband longs to hear and tell me which one you are going to say today. And single gals, you pick one too. Tell me at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. And if it's that little muscle called THE TONGUE that you need to reign in, check out The Power of a Woman's Words.
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February 16, 2012
And I love Me!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-38, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love being a grandmother. I absolutely adore our three grandchildren and work hard at finding any and every excuse to spend time with them. The games I played with their parents, I now play with them. I read many of the same stories that I read to their parents and have come up with new renditions of old songs I once sang as a young mother. I am convinced that my grandchildren keep me young. I am also convinced that they are some of my greatest and most profound teachers. Maybe that is because they are so "fresh" from Heaven and the presence of God. Whatever the reason, when I spend time with them, I always come away with new truth.
I recently visited our son and daughter-in-law in Charlotte, North Carolina because two of our three grandchildren live with them. They are twins. As you can imagine, life is anything but dull as Jered and Jodi try to keep up with three-year-old Lelia and Jaydan. It seems like the twins do or say something new every day and I can now testify to the fact that are learning to talk ... a lot! They are also learning how to pray.
As we sat down at the dinner table one night, I watched Lelia and Jaydan bow their heads and begin to sing the blessing. It was one of those life moments I will never forget. But there was more. When the song was finished, Jered prayed, "Thank You, God, for our food and our home. Thank You for Mommy, Daddy, Lelia, Jaydan and for Mimi." I waited for the usual "amen" but instead, heard two sweet voices offer their own thanks. Lelia ended their prayer time by pointing to each person seated at the table and declaring, "I love Mommy and Daddy. I love JayJay. I love Mimi." Then came the "amen" from daddy. However, Lelia was not done. With sparkling eyes and a smile that would melt any heart, she pointed to herself and said, "And I love me!"
And there you have the three-year-old translation of the two most important commandments Jesus ever gave. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself" Matthew 22:37-38 (NIV).
Jesus is responding to a question he was asked by an interpreter of the law. I suspect the motive behind the question was far from pure, but Jesus responded with pure truth when He said that the love of God is the "first and greatest commandment." In other words, our love of God must not only be not sincere but radical. If we love God, we sell out to Him and will naturally serve Him by loving and serving others. Too often, we stop right there and never get to the second most important commandment. Jesus said we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.
Yes, there is a self-love that is corrupt, and the root of the greatest sins we can possibly commit. That kind of self-love must die. However, Jesus teaches that we are to love ourselves enough to take care of and be concerned with the welfare of our own bodies and souls. Our body houses the Holy Spirit. Our soul is eternal. We are responsible for the care of both. And we must love our neighbor as truly and sincerely as we love ourselves. That kind of love often asks us to deny ourselves for the good of others because people could care less how much we know, until they know how much we care. Our choice to obey these two commandments will mold our heart and life into something beautiful that honors and pleases God.
The psalmist writes, "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well" (Psalm 139:13-14). You can judge the value and the worth of a product by looking at the one who made it. You are no accident. You were created by God – for God – and even if you were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, you were planned and wanted by God. So, love your neighbor and while you are at it, love yourself.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate the fact that You created me. You planned my life and chose me to be Your daughter because You love me. Help me to love others, God, and then help me to see and love myself through Your eyes.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10 "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
More from the Girlfriends
Learning to see ourselves through the eyes of God – no more and no less – is fundamental to a life of power and victory. The enemy would love for us to think that we are worthless and of little or no value to God. Do not buy his lies! You are loved and wanted by God, friend. Now live like it!
Need help?Check out these resources that will help you discover your worth and value to God:
Getting Good at Being You(CD)
How to Get Past Your Past (CD)
In His Eyes (MP3)
Join women from across the worldin Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. When I Am Afraid is the current series and will help you discover how to face and deal with the fear in your life.
Need a friend?Connect with me on Facebook or through email. I love hearing what God is doing in your life! Tell me how praising God has made a difference in your life. Let's talk about it, girlfriend!
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February 17, 2012
Buddy Straps
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT)
Friend To Friend
Every family has one... that certain individual who gets injured and banged up more than their fair share. That person who spends the majority of your family's health care budget on their co-pay needs because, for whatever reason, accidents mysteriously, regularly and relentlessly hunt them down and throw a good bit of hurt on them. In our family, this person is my teenaged son, Preston.
We've been up, down and all around when it comes to Preston's breaks, bandages and bruises. So it was a bit old-hat to be sitting in a small examining room a few weeks ago, waiting to see the doctor about yet another injury. This one happened in gym class. Preston climbed up a rope, made it to the top, and then had the bright idea of letting go of the rope instead of scaling down safely. Brilliant. He broke his big toe... in the middle of basketball season. Nice.
The doctor looked over the x-rays and had good news for us: Preston only had a hairline fracture in his toe. It would heal quickly. He would be immobilized in a funky shoe for a week or two, and then he would be able to get back to playing basketball as soon as the pain subsided.
As we prepped to leave, the doctor told Preston that once he was able to put weight on his foot, he would need to use a "buddy strap." The strap would hold his broken toe snugly to the healthy toe right beside it for support. A nurse then handed my son a few black Velcro strips and explained that he should wear them to play basketball as soon as his pain was manageable. The support of the buddy straps would help him get back in the game quickly.
My eyebrows raised and my mind reeled as I pondered the similarities between buddy straps and friendships. There are a million times when my heart or circumstances are fractured. Each wound and challenge threatens to keep me immobilized both emotionally and spiritually. In those times, it always benefits me to first seek refuge in the stable arms of God and to then buddy-strap my heart to a few godly girlfriends. As the psalmist cried out, so I cry out:
For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken(Psalm 62:5-6, ESV).
Then, after seeking God, as I ready myself to put one foot in front of another, my girlfriends rally as my buddy straps and provide prayer support, wisdom and encouragement. When one friend is weak because of life-fractures, it is a blessing for a strong and healthy friend to come along side to help her.
We need each other as Christian women. That's what Girlfriends in God is all about: women encouraging other women in faith and in life. When Sharon, Mary and I co-founded GiG, it was purposed to spur you toward the heart of God through devotions and conferences. In real life, we are buddy straps for each other. Our lives are filled with as many life-fractures as the next person... so we often rally to speak words of encouragement, truth and hope to one another. At times, we even speak correction. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17).
Where does this find you today? Do you have some life-fractures and challenges? Are you the buddy strap to any of your friends who are struggling? Perhaps you've got both going on. If so, then praise God. Praise Him for trials – which can grow you in perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5:4) and for His provision of friends in your life that love you, challenge you and cheer you on through the hard times. And praise Him for the opportunity to be a buddy strap in return.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for giving me access to Your grace and strength through Your Son, Jesus Christ. You are my Strong Tower, my Refuge, my Shelter, my Help and my Hope. I am so grateful that when my days are filled with hurt and struggles that You are right beside me – and that You have blessed me with some buddy straps. Please help me encourage my friends toward your grace, hope and truth today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who are you a buddy strap to? Are you sensitive to the needs around you or do you not "have the time" to worry about other people's problems?
Think of three girlfriends in your life who have been your buddy straps, then pause to pray for each of them. Bless them today. Send a card or an email. Text them or post on their wall. Connect to say thanks.
Got a great buddy strap story? I'd love to hear about it! Swing by my facebook page today and leave a comment or a prayer request: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
More From The Girlfriends
I love my girlfriends. They are total wild flowers in the bouquet of my life. When my children were young, Brad and I moved several times in just a few years. That made it hard for me to connect with other women. If you find yourself in a place where you need some women friends, I encourage you to contact the Women's Ministry Director at your church and let her know your need. Sharon, Mary and I truly love doing life with you and are blessed to encourage you through these devotions and at the conferences where we speak. We'd love to meet you and hug your neck in person! Check our websiteto see when one of the GiGs might be coming to an event near you.
Gwen's most recent CD, Uncluttered, is music that's purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. You can find it on iTunes, or check out the CD SPECIALS going on now at http://gwensmith.net/store/specials.htm.
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February 20, 2012
Lost that Lovin' Feeling?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love" (Revelation 2:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
(If you aren't married, I want you to read this devotion through the lens of this...have you lost that lovin' feeling towards Jesus? Now, read on sister and consider Jesus as your heavenly groom.)
If you're married, what do you do when you've lost that loving' feelin'? Maybe you truly adored your husband in the beginning, but now you can't remember why. Maybe you honestly admired his finer qualities, but now you can't remember what they were. Maybe you appreciated his wonderful attributes, but now take them for granted. What do you do now?
Here's a statistic you might find interesting. According to an analysis of the National Survey of Families and Households, 86 percent of unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier. In fact, nearly 60 percent of those who rated their marriage as unhappy in the late 1980's, and who stayed married, rated their same marriage "very happy" or "quite happy" when re-interviewed five years later ( Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage (New York: Doubleday, 2000) 148). In comparison, those who divorced and remarried, divorced again at a rate of 60 percent (Judith Wallerstein and Julia A. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Hyperion, 2000) p295).
So, starting over may very well be the answer ... as long as it's with the same man.
In the book of Revelation in the Bible, God had this to say to the church at Ephesus. "Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love" (Revelation 2:4). Ephesus was one of the most loving churches in the New Testament and yet, somewhere along the way, they lost that initial thrill of knowing Christ. Their love for each other and for God had grown cold.
As I read God's lament, I whispered a prayer. "Oh Lord, how many of us women have forgotten our first love. We've forgotten the thrill we felt when we first met our husbands: the spine tingling chills when he walked into a room, the heart skipping flutter when he called on the phone, the tender wooing when we opened a letter penned by his hand, the electricity of sexual desire stirred with a kiss. Somewhere between taking out the garbage, paying the bills, running carpool, mowing the lawn, disciplining the kids, folding the laundry...somewhere among the mundane routine of life, we've lost that lovin' feelin'.
How do we get it back? God gave the church two simple steps for the Bride of Christ to renew her passion for her Beloved, and I believe we can apply the same principles to renewing our passion for the man of our dreams.
Remember and Return
Remember what drew you to your husband in the first place? Remember how you tried to please him, capture his heart, and win his affection? That may have been fifty pounds and a full head of hair ago, but that young man who longed to be adored, admired, and appreciated still lives within his heart. He wants to know if he still "has what it takes." Let him know that he does.
Everyone loves a love story. Tell your children the story of how you first met and fell in love. Remember special days such as your first date, your first kiss, or when you first realized he was the man you wanted to marry. Listen to a tape or watch a video of your wedding. Steve and I celebrate not only our wedding anniversary but also the day he asked me to marry him. I'm sure my son has tired of hearing the story time and time again, but he's never doubted that his parents are crazy about each other.
(If you are single, think of the day you first came to Jesus. Tell someone about it. Praise God for it. Each year we celebrate our son's spiritual birthday...July 4th.)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I so want to be a woman that is on fire for You. I want my spiritual passion to be ablaze and never cool. Likewise, I want my marriage to be a passionate example of Christ and the Church. Help me to always remember what drew me to my husband and show me ways to keep that love strong. Help me to remember the day I first came to You, and help me to keep the fire ablaze.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have kids, tell them the story of how you met and fell in love with your husband at the dinner table tonight.
If you aren't married, tell someone how you met Jesus Christ and gave your life to Him.
If you are married, write down what drew you to your husband initially.
If you are not married, write down what you long for in the man of your dreams.
Let's share some ideas. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell one way you keep the love alive in your marriage.
More from the Girlfriends
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams – Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes. And get ready to fan that flame once again!
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February 21, 2012
Sponge Theology
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of (Luke 6:45, NIV)
Friend to Friend
What is really inside will come spilling out for all to see when life puts the squeeze on us. My Mama used to say "What's down in the well comes up in the bucket." In other words, a crisis will usually reveal what is really in our hearts. It is easy to do and say the right things when life is calm and everything is going right, but what we say and do when chaos hits and the pressure is on tends to paint a more accurate picture of who we really are. It is kind of like sponge theology.
Suppose you have five sponges lying on your kitchen counter. Each member of your family has been cleaning different areas of your home, but the sponges all look the same. You are curious about what was cleaned but you can't tell just by looking at the sponges since they all look the same. So what do you do?
You squeeze each sponge to see what happens. As you squeeze the first sponge, brown cola comes pouring out. Someone must have cleaned the kitchen with that sponge. Upon squeezing the second sponge, you see blue tub and tile cleaner oozing out of the sponge which leads you to believe someone used that particular sponge to clean the bathroom. In the third sponge, you find motor oil and conclude your husband was using that sponge to clean the garage. The fourth sponge produces a puff of baby powder when it is squeezed. The baby's nursery was obviously cleaned with that sponge. Finally, the last sponge is dripping with floor wax which tells you someone used that particular sponge to clean the hall floor. As you lay the last sponge down, you look again at their similarity. They all look the same -- until they are squeezed.
We are a lot like sponges when it comes to our faith in God. We look and act as if God is Lord of our lives. We say all the right things to all the right people and do right things in order to prove we are right. But what is really inside? What do our hearts really look like?
When a crisis comes and the pressures of life squeeze us mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually, what comes out? Do we respond to that difficult person in anger or with patience and love? Does revenge spill out in ugly words to that person who has hurt us more times than we can count or do we take a breath and remember that God loves them and that hurt people tend to hurt people? Does the pain of unresolved sin flood our hearts and minds as guilt spills out of our heart with a vengeance?
Just like the sponge, we can only squeeze out what is put in. Fill your heart with the things of God. Stay in the Word each day. Spend time with faith builders who will encourage you in your faith. Seek God and His plan for your life. Pray about everything so that when life puts the squeeze on you – and it will – the very nature of God will come pouring out.
Let's Pray
Father, I want my faith to be more than just talk. I want it to be real and authentic, flowing from a heart set on You. Forgive me when I play religious games and pretend to be someone I am not. I am a sinner saved by Your grace. Teach me how to walk in that grace so that when the hard times come and the pressure is on, You come pouring out of my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back to the last time you were surprised by your reaction to a situation or a person. What does that tell you about the condition of your heart? Set aside time to spend alone with God. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any sin that needs to be faced and confessed. Give Him permission to purify your heart so that no matter what life throws at you, God will be honored by how you respond.
More from the Girlfriends
As a pastor's wife, I have talked with so many women who feel as if they were worthless, a freakish accident. Listen, my friend, you were planned and wanted by God. God is crazy about you and wants an intimate relationship with you. I pray that you will see yourself in the eyes of God, a chosen child. Need help? Check out one of Mary's MP3 downloads, Come as You Are to discover how to see yourself through the eyes of God.
Be sure to check out the FREE MP3son Mary's website.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life?Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, When I Am Afraid, to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God.
Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure?Get a copy of our new book, Trusting God.
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February 22, 2012
How Much of Your Life do You Want God to Change?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus said to the servants, 'Fill the jars with water'; so they fill them to the brim," (John 2:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shortly after Jesus was baptized, he attended a wedding reception in the town of Cana, in Galilee. Apparently Jesus felt very comfortable at such a party, and I imagine Him laughing, mingling, and having a good time with His friends. Near the end of the festivities, the servants let Mary in on a dilemma – they were out of wine. To run out of wine at a Jewish wedding celebration was an embarrassment and disgrace to the hosting family. Mary turned to her son and said, "They have no more wine," (John 2:3 NIV) as if she expected Him to do something about it. I can almost see her raised eyebrow and the mischievous twinkle in her eye.
Jesus said, "Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not yet come" (John 2:4).
Mary turned to the servants and said, "Do what ever He tells you." Mary seemed to understand Jesus' power before anyone else.
Jesus told the servants to fill six large thirty gallon stone pots with water. So they filled them "to the brim." Then He told them to draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.
When they did so, the master tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He then called the bridegroom aside and said, "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
I often wonder what would have happened if the servants had filled the pots half full or three fourths full. I imagine Jesus would have transformed exactly what they put in. Likewise, God will transform just as much of our lives as we give Him. As for me, I want to "fill it to the brim," give Him all of my life – every bit of it. It is the same with my marriage. I want to give Jesus all of my marriage...to the brim. So in our winter years, my husband and I will agree...we have saved the best till now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be like the servants who did exactly what you told them to do. My desire is to obey you fully...to the brim. Help me not to hold back anything but give You all of me so that you can transform me totally.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How much of your life do you want Jesus to transform?
How much of your marriage do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your marriage have you given Him?
How much of your attitude do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your attitude have you given Him?
How much of your __________ do you want Jesus to transform? (You fill in the blank.)
How much have you given Him?
I'd love to know what you filled in that blank. Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If there is one area of our lives that we need to give totally to Christ, it is our marriages. Perhaps that's why Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding. To learn more about how to be the woman your husband longs for, click on the bookstore link above. And while you are on my webpage, check out the articles and past blogs/devotions on marriage. There are even a few free resources.
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February 23, 2012
How to Stay Young
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In April, I will celebrate my 61st birthday! Honestly, I didn't think I would live this long. Seriously! Where have the years gone? It seems every day of life has been jam-packed full of both wonderful and horrible things I wondered if I would survive and yet, here I am, going strong and wondering why there always seems to be some kind of helicopter still landing in my life.
I have some advice for you, girlfriend. If you are a young woman, it really is true that you should cherish every day and every moment with your friends and family because the older you get, the quicker the days fly by. I look at my children who are married and having children of their own and wonder where all of those years went. How did this happen?
If you are an older woman, take a deep breath and celebrate the fact that you are breathing. I believe if you are alive, God has a purpose and plan for your life. Give yourself a pat on the back for your survival skills. Take a few moments to reflect on your life and don't get hung up on what might have been. Celebrate what is and what will be.
I have discovered some wonderful advantages to growing older and have learned some valuable lessons along the way. Each chapter of life seems to grow more exciting and I keep wondering when that "slow down" thing is going to kick in. I am no longer overly concerned with a lot of things that once kept me awake at night. There is great freedom in having paid a lot of "life dues" because I have already been there, done that and don't really care about getting the T-shirt.
I can say with authority that you probably will live through that crisis you think will be the death of you. What defines you today may very well seem ridiculous in ten years or even ten days. Stupidity will give way to wisdom learned the hard way. I now give myself permission to do or not do things I once would have felt compelled to do simply because it was someone's ridiculous expectation ... not God's plan. My audience has certainly changed over the years from the people who love to leer at me through the glass bowl in which I live to running the race of life for an audience of One.
Yes, there are moments when I have made a frenzied and desperate attempt to stay young. But then, why would I want to do that? There are many years of my life I really do not want to revisit and there is so much of my life now that I love. During one of those youth seeking moments, I came across the following list of ways to stay young and found it quite interesting.
How to Stay Young
1. Throw out non-essential numbers such as your age, weight and height.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. If you really need a grouch, there are probably family members to fill that need.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Just never let the brain idle.
4. Enjoy the simple things. When the children are young, that is all you can afford. When they are in college that is all you can afford. When they are grown, and you are on retirement, that is all you can afford.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. Laugh so much that you can be tracked in the store by your distinctive laughter.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person that is with us our entire life is ourselves.
7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies or whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health. If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Go to the mall, the next county, a foreign country - but not guilt.
10. Tell the people you love how much you love them every chance you get. Never assume they know.
11. Don't worry about things you cannot change or do anything about. Accept them and move on.
12. Read more and dust less.
13. Spend more time with your family and friends and less time working.
14. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure. Recognize these moments now and cherish them.
15. Do not "save" anything. Use your good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the next blossom of flowers you see.
16. Wear your best outfit to the market.
17. Don't save your good perfume for only special occasions. Use it even if you are going shopping or just to the bank.
18. "Someday" and "one of these days" should vanish from your vocabulary. If it is worth seeing or hearing or doing, go and see or hear or do it now.
What about you? Are you living each day to the fullest? Jesus is all about living an abundant life in the here and now ... whatever stage of life that may be for you. Jesus came so that we can live abundantly and eternally. Eternity began the moment you accepted Him as your Lord and Savior. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live life to the fullest. I want everything you have for me and don't want to miss a single blessing or trial that is for my good. Please help me keep my eyes on You and celebrate every day and all that it holds. I trust You, Lord, to work all things together for my good and Your glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who or what is stealing the joy from your life?
What circumstance are you facing that you need to see through God's eyes and boldly trust Him for?
Look around. What can you find in your life to celebrate?
Are you living out God's purpose for your life or are you bowing to the wrong audience and listening to the wrong voices?
Today, make the decision to celebrate life and all God has for you.
Read Romans 8:28 and know God is at work to make your life exactly what He wants it to be.
More from the Girlfriends
As a pastor's wife, I have talked with so many women who feel as if they were worthless, a freakish accident. Listen, my friend, you were planned and wanted by God. God is crazy about you and wants an intimate relationship with you. I pray that you will see yourself in the eyes of God, a chosen child. Need help? Check out one of Mary's MP3 downloads, Come as You Are to discover how to see yourself through the eyes of God.
Be sure to check out the FREE MP3son Mary's website.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life?Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, When I Am Afraid, to learn how to face, deal with and surrender your fears to God.
Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure?Get a copy of our new book, Trusting God.
Seeking God?
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February 24, 2012
No More Nagging
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective," (James 5:16 TNIV).
Friend to Friend
There are some verses in the Bible that I wish God had just left out. Here are a few of them:
A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping. (Proverbs 19:13)
A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. (Proverbs 27:15,16)
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife. (Proverbs 21:19)
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24)
OK, that's about all I can take right now. When I wrote the book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, I surveyed and interviewed men about what they longed for in a wife. One thing that men repeatedly mentioned was their aversion to nagging. Drip, drip, drip. Webster defines nagging as to scold or find fault with repeatedly, to cause annoyance by scolding or repetition. Interestingly, a nag is also an inferior or aged horse. The best remedy to cure ourselves from being a nagging wife, or a nagging mother, or a nagging friend, is to become a praying woman. Jesus invites us to stop nagging our husbands (and others) and begin nagging God!
Here's what Jesus had to say:
"Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, `Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.'
"Then the one inside answers, `Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man's boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs.
"So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. (Luke 11:5-9).
In the Greek, the words ask, seek, and knock are present participle verbs. The more correct translation would read, ask and keep on asking, seek and keep on seeking, knock and keep on knocking. God invites us to be persistent in our prayers. We can give our worries and cares to God and leave it up to Him to do the rest. "Cast all your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you," (Psalms 55:22). "Cast all your anxiety on Him for He cares for you," (1 Peter 5:7). If you are married, remember, you don't want to be your husband's mother...you want to be the woman of his dreams.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I confess that sometimes I nag my husband...alright, maybe more than sometimes. But Lord, I am determining in my heart to stop nagging my husband and start being consistent and persistent in prayer. My husband is Your workmanship, not mine. Forgive me when I try to yank the paint brush from Your hand and create brushstrokes of my own. I pray that I can be the woman that he needs in order to become the man that You desire.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think a nag sounds like?
Do you ever nag your husband or other significant people in your life?
If there are things that you tend to nag your husband about, try this - write them down on a piece of paper, turn the list over to God, and then turn off the leaky faucet. Give it a try. You might be surprised!
Visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me 1 leaky faucet comment you are going to turn off for good. Finish this sentence. "I'm not going to nag my husband (or friend, or parent, etc.) about __________ anymore. Instead I'm going to give it to God.
More from the Girlfriends
Nagging just seems to come natural for most of us girls. But God calls us to live super-naturally. If your marriage could use a bit of freshening up, take a look at Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. And if it that little but powerful muscle called the tongue that needs an overhaul, see her book, The Power of a Woman's Words. It is up to us to turn off that leaky faucet for good!
Seeking God?
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February 27, 2012
Service: Love in Action
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing (Ephesians 2:10, NCV).
Friend to Friend
The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water that flows down, clear and cold from the heights of Hermon and the roots of the cedars of Lebanon. The Sea of Galilee is a place of great beauty because it has an outlet. It gathers in its riches and then pours them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. However, the Dead Sea, with the same water creates horror. The Dead Sea has no outlet. It gets to keep.
When we come to God, one of our first "natural" responses is to serve Him. In fact, our service to God should be spontaneous, enthusiastic and tireless. If there is no desire to serve or we find it hard to serve, then there is something wrong in our relationship with God.
One summer, our air conditioner was not working correctly. It only partially cooled the house but seemed to run all day long, doubling our electric bill. When the repairman arrived, the first thing he did was remove the filter from the air conditioning unit. It was filthy. He then removed the coil which was completely covered with layers of dog hair, cat fur and dust. The repairman explained, "This unit was never meant to work under this load. It is working as hard as it can but it is not strong enough to do something it was never intended to do." He then replaced the filter and cleaned the coil. Our electric bill went back down, the house was cooler than it had been in months and the unit ran smoothly.
We were created to serve God and to worship Him – here on earth and for eternity. Worship and service cannot be separated. When we worship God, we will naturally serve Him and when we serve God, we are worshipping Him.
There are many Christians who are doing nothing but there are no Christians who have nothing to do. When we think of a servant, we may think of someone who reports to work for a specific amount of time and is paid a specific wage. That is an employee - not a servant. The word "serve" comes from the Greek word "latreuo" and is often translated as "worship." It is not the picture of a slave serving a master. It is the picture of a love relationship that compels action.
Romans 12:1 (NIV) "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship."
We worship God by pleasing Him in the daily routines of life. In other words, we should consider each day as a worship service to God.
· Cleaning house
· Cooking meals
· Making beds
· Picking up children
· Helping a neighbor
· Buying groceries
· Teaching a bible study
· Listening to a hurting friend
Service begins in the heart where it was conceived in love and then works its way out in every day life as an act of praise and gratitude. Service is love in action.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for sending Your son, Jesus Christ, to die in my place and pay for my sin. I can never thank You enough for Your grace, mercy and love. I want to serve You with my whole heart. Please lead and direct me in the way You have for me to go. I want to be Your servant.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List several talents and gifts that you recognize in your own life.
How are you using those talents and gifts to serve God?
Ask those who know you best to identify your strengths. You may be surprised at their response.
Look for ways to serve in the areas that give you the most joy.
More from the Girlfriends
The most joyful people I know are the ones who serve God whenever and wherever they can. Don't try to serve with the gifts you think you should have. I encourage you to identify your gifts and abilities and then use them to serve others. God created you with a specific plan in mind and will empower you for His service.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies. You can download each lesson on your own computer, print it out and complete it at your own pace. Perfect for both personal and small group study.
Need encouragement? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study Light for the Journey and join women across the world in Bible study and prayer. The current topic is When I Am Afraid. Learn how to face and deal with the fear in your life.
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February 28, 2012
God's Gifts in Dark Times
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all — how will he not also graciously give us all things? (Romans 8:32, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I stood at Steven's bedroom door, watching this now 17-year-old son asleep in a tangle of sheets and limbs. He was six feet tall, needed a shave and sported a mass of shaggy, thick brown hair. I thought about how much I loved this boy.
When Steven was born, we had no idea we would be raising him as an only child. Years of infertility struggles and the loss of our second child left us with a hollow echo of the heart that we feared would never be filled. And yet, when I looked at this sleeping man-child, loved filled every nook and cranny of my heart till I thought it would burst. Still, there was always the wondering what life would have been like had more Jaynes children filled the rooms, scattered their toys, and left handprints on the walls.
"Lord," I prayed, "You know how much I love children and how I always longed to be a mom to a house full of children. I know your ways are higher than our ways, and that You are my heavenly Father who knows what's best for me, but God could you show me a purpose behind the pain of those difficult years of longing? You certainly don't owe me an explanation, but I'd love to have a bit of encouragement today. I'd love a nugget of gold."
Standing in the door frame, watching the rhythmic rise and fall of Steven's steady breathing, God's Word washed over me.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
"Is that You, Lord?" I asked. "Is that my nugget of gold?"
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The words washed over me again like a spring rain on parched ground, and my breath caught. It was if the Holy Spirit illuminated Steven like a lone actor on the stage. Steven ... my one and only son. For the first time in my life I truly grasped the height, the depth and the breadth of those familiar words. Jesus ... God's one and only Son.
Yes, I have a one and only son. I love many people in this world, but none enough to sacrifice my only son. And yet God loved me that much. He loved you that much. He loved us enough to sacrifice His one and only Son in order to make eternal life with Him possible.
All through those years of infertility and loss, Satan, the enemy, taunted me with words of doubt. God doesn't love you, he'd say. If He loved you, He'd give you what you asked for. He doesn't love you. You can't trust Him with your heart.
And yet, at that moment standing in Steven's door frame, I realized just how much God did love me. He had shone the light of His love on the enemy's lie and revealed the truth.
With tears spilling down my cheeks, I thanked God for helping me understand His great love — for giving me a living, breathing daily reminder of that love every time I looked at my boy. If that was the only purpose behind the years of infertility and loss of a child, then that was enough.
The Bible says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28).What does God really mean by "all things?" Most likely He means all things — the good, the bad and the ugly. In every dark circumstance of life, I believe that there is a nugget of gold or a hidden treasure just waiting to be discovered. However, for that to happen, we must look beyond the dirt, push it aside, and search beneath the surface.
Is it easy? No. Is it messy? Usually. It is worth it? Always.
Has there been a trial or loss in your life? If so, I wonder if God has a valuable treasure hidden beneath the surface of the pain, just waiting to be discovered. Do you trust Him enough to push the dirt aside and see?
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me so much that You gave Your only Son so that I could receive eternal life the moment I believed in Him. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
You know, it brings tears to my eyes every time I think of that day standing in Steven's doorframe. How about you? Was there a particular time when you knew that you knew just how much God loves you?
Perhaps it came on the heels of a difficult situation? Perhaps it came during a time of joy? Think about that today. Praise God for that today. Remember.
I'd love to hear about your glory moment. In one sentence, join me on www.facebook.comand share it with your GiGs. Here's how we'll start...One day I was reminded of God's love for me when...
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from the GiGs new book, Trusting God. To download a free excerpt, watch a video, or order, you can visit www.sharonjaynes.comor www.girlfriendsinGod.com.
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February 29, 2012
Take This Job and Love It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be" (Psalm 139:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all want to be successful in our work. Your office may be downtown or just inside your front door. Your work clothes may be an elegant suit or ragged jeans and a stained t-shirt. You may be paid in cash or with crayon drawings and sticky kisses. It doesn't really matter because none of these things alone makes us successful in the work place.
Many people never experience success in their work because they are in the wrong work to begin with. Not me. As a high school student, I knew exactly what I wanted to be – a nurse. My mother was a nurse and I wanted to be just like her so I signed up to be a student volunteer at the hospital where my mother worked. When I told her the good news, she thought for a moment and then simply said, "That's great, honey. You'll make a wonderful nurse."
On my first day, I eagerly donned the required red and white striped uniform and reported for duty. The head nurse welcomed me and explained that I would be checking each patient to make sure they had water to drink, magazines to read and a listening ear. That sounded simple enough. "Oh, and one more thing," she continued. In retrospect, I should have instantly recognized the danger in those words and run for the nearest exit. In my ignorance, I stayed. "Since we are short-handed, I may ask you to do just a few things to help the other nurses on duty," she said. "No problem" I assured her.
At that precise moment, a scream pierced the air! The head nurse calmly looked at me, smiled and said, "Could you check on that, please?" Surely, I had misunderstood her. "Now!" she continued. Taking a deep breath, I headed in the direction of the scream, praying that that it was nothing more than the celebratory cry of someone who had just won a million dollars.
As I neared the room in question, a bedpan flew through the doorway in front of me, landing at my feet. Furthermore, the bedpan was not empty. I decided right then and there that nursing was not for me, turned in my candy cane apron and raced for the nearest exit. Mama was waiting for me as I stepped off the elevator. She smiled, handed me the cars keys and simply said, "See you at home." Fortunately, I had a wise and wonderful mother who knew me well and from that day on encouraged me to be the teacher God created me to be.
I truly believe many people are living stress-filled lives because they have never sought and discovered God's plan and are trapped in jobs and careers that simply do not fit. Every day, they feel like the proverbial round peg being jammed into a square hole – a painful and frustrating process.
What does fit is God's plan. In Psalm 23:3, David writes, "He leads me in paths of righteousness." In this verse "righteousness" simply means "right things." The Shepherd has a plan for His sheep. Unfortunately, so does everyone else. The difference is that God's plan is filled with the "right things" He shaped and created us to do while the agendas of others tend to service their own purposes instead of God's. God empowers His plan, but when we step into our own agenda or a plan created by anyone else, we are stepping into and relying upon our frail, limited strength. Soon, we will be empty and stress will flood in, filling the emptiness with anxiety and tension. Don't waste another day just doing the "next" thing. Take a long, hard look at your work, your job, and your agenda to make sure you are in the right place - doing what you were created to do in this world.
You have probably heard the statement, "I climbed the ladder of success, and when I reached the top, I realized it was leaning against the wrong wall." Not long ago, I came to a crossroads in my life that made me question the path I was taking in ministry. I asked God to either change me and the way I was doing ministry or change my ministry. He did both! Once again, I realized that God wants the highest and best things for my life. That really is His plan. Don't settle for anything less.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to follow Your plan for my life. Help me to walk in daily obedience so that Your unique and perfect plan for my life will naturally unfold before me. And when I am discouraged or stressed because of the work I am doing, give me Your peace and the assurance that I am in the right spot doing the right things You created me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The amazing truth is that more than we want to know God's plan for our life - He wants us to know it and stands ready to guide us. God always reveals His plan to an obedient and seeking heart. Are you willing to do whatever God asks you to do?
Read Jeremiah 29:11 and record it in your journal. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).
Seek God and ask for His direction.
Seek His will by searching His Word.
Pay attention to the passion of your heart.
Realistically evaluate your abilities.
Take into account your natural talents.
Consider the advice of those who know you best.
Then step out in faith, trusting God to help you make the right choice.
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God gives us His truth to learn and then to apply. God has a unique plan or "recipe" for each one of us. Our greatest opportunity for success is to live that plan. I believe God tucks into our very soul a discontentment with anything but His life "recipe." If we approach each day searching for His handprints in every situation, choosing to walk in obedience to His Word, we will surely find ourselves right in the middle of God's purpose and plan.
Mary's Bible Study Take This Job and Love It,offers six principles from the life of the Proverbs 31 woman that will help you be successful in your work, no matter where you work or what your job may be. Study guide included.
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March 1, 2012
What's Your Temperature?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Search Me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139:23-24, ESV)
Friend to Friend
I got a phone call in the middle of the day from my son Preston. He was calling from the nurse's office at the school. Here's how the conversation went:
"Hey, Mom. It's Preston. I'm not feeling well, and I have a temperature of 96.5. Can you come get me?"
"96.5 degrees?" I asked. "Honey, that's below normal! That doesn't sound right."
"I know," he said, "but I don't feel well. Can you please come pick me up?"
"Sure, honey. I'll be right there."
I chuckled the whole way to the school at what he had said. Surely he misread the thermometer! A normal temperature is 98.6. Something was off. I got to the school in a North Carolina minute and headed straight to the nurse's office. While Preston packed his bag to go home, I spoke privately to the school nurse. With a grin on her face, she explained to me that Preston was resistant to putting the thermometer under his tongue as she had instructed him to do. He wasn't comfortable with that. "So," she said, "he held the thermometer between his lips." The nurse and I exchanged amused glances as I thanked her for helping my son.
Although Preston knew something wasn't right with his body, the nurse didn't get an accurate temperature reading because he didn't place the thermometer deep enough into his mouth. He didn't let it probe past the surface of his lips.
Later that night, as I thought back on the day, the Lord spoke to my heart. I realized that I'm often as stubborn as Preston because there are many times when I resist having an accurate reading of my spiritual wellness taken. Times when I won't let Him probe past the surface of my heart, my actions, my attitudes, and my perspective - to allow God to reveal the accurate spiritual temperature of my life. Times when I'm not comfortable with deeper-level stuff... when I won't sit still to listen.
I was disturbed by that thought.
I needed to be disturbed by that thought. By that truth. Just because I've been a Christian for a long time does not mean that I'm always in perfect spiritual health. In fact, the more I learn about God's holiness through the Bible, the more I realize how much I need His grace and strength every minute of every day.
You might not "feel well" today. Perhaps you have spiritual indigestion from your marriage, your children, your friendships, your finances, your singleness, your conversations. You could be "sick" from the shows you watch, the internet relationships you've developed, the gossip or harsh words you allow to pass from your lips, the jealousy you feel in your heart. Maybe you haven't allowed your heart to be probed recently... you've been resistant because you don't like to feel uncomfortable, convicted or exposed.
The Bible tells us that the kindness of God leads us to repentance, and repentance leads us to restoration. To wellness and holiness in Christ. What's your spiritual temperature? Are you hot or cold? Is the flame of faith in your heart fading or raging? Have you sat still long enough lately to ask God to search your heart? It's time for an accurate reading, friend.
"For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him." 2 Chronicles 16:9, NIV
Let's Pray
Holy Father, as the psalmist prayed, I ask that you would, "search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, ESV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a spiritual inventory today. Spend a few moments considering your spiritual wellness. Ask God to probe your heart and reveal areas in your life that need to be made right as you answer the following questions:
· What is your quiet time like?
· Is God a top priority in your life?
· Do you set aside time regularly to read your Bible?
Read John 15:1-11 and then write a prayer response.
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The Bible tells us that God disciplines those He loves. I do realize that this devotion might have stepped on your toes today. Please know that Sharon, Mary and I are on the pruning table right there with you, and though we may not always love the sting of God's pruning, we can trust that it is for our growing and for His glory. Hope you take time for the deeper-level stuff today!
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How did today's devotion connect with your heart? How were you challenged personally? Let's talk about it and pray through it on my Facebook page! Meet me at www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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March 2, 2012
The Aroma of Christ
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ's triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are an aroma that brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life. And who is equal to such a task? ( 2 Corinthians 2:14-16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I tend to be a creature of habit in many ways – a fact that impacts all areas of my life – even when it comes to smells. I know. A little strange but let me explain.
While teaching third grade at an elementary school in Texas, I habitually took the same route to work every morning. The elementary school was only a 15 minute drive from our home, and there were several different and even shorter routes I could have taken. However, the one I normally took went by a bakery at the precise time they were gearing up for the day. The aroma of fresh bread was like a magnet that lured me in to grab a hot cinnamon roll or blueberry muffin to eat on my way to school. Scrumptious! In fact, I eagerly volunteered to provide goodies for the teacher break room because it gave me an excuse to stop at the bakery. And all the other teachers just thought I was being nice! Interestingly enough, if I was dieting, I took a different route in order to avoid that tempting smell.
I am also a creature of habit when it comes to candles. I love candles. In fact, everyone who knows me can testify to the fact I have a "thing" for candles. I burn them continually for any or no reason other than the fact I enjoy their aroma. When I walk in my front door, the fragrance of a burning candle often triggers wonderful memories and instantly draws me in. And the aroma of just-baked cookies or a pot of coffee brewing just makes me feel good. I have to say that fragrances are important to me.
Unfortunately, life is filled with both pleasant and not-so-pleasant fragrances. One of my least favorite smells comes from a litter box. We have had cats on and off for many years. Never just one cat mind you. Oh no. At one point, we had two adult cats that both had kittens within a month of each other for a grand total of nine cats. And did I mention the fact that I hate litter boxes? When I walked in the front door of our home and was greeted by that toxic litter box odor, I flew into high gear lighting candles, emptying the litter box and ... well, you get the idea. An aroma can be appealing and inviting or it can be offensive and unpleasant. That same principle can be applied to our life in Christ.
A life without Jesus Christ is filled with the aroma of death but the fragrance of Jesus Christ at work in a life is pleasing and winsome. The knowledge of Christ is a compelling and magnetic fragrance that draws the broken heart and wounded soul to a place of restoration. When God looks at one of His children, I am convinced His heart beats with love, giving off the beautiful aroma of grace and hope.
2 Corinthians 2:14-16 (NIV) "But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ's triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are an aroma that brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life. And who is equal to such a task?"
How about your life? Do you live in such a way that people are drawn to you and the pleasant aroma of Jesus Christ and His truth at work in you? Does His transforming knowledge compel others to take a second look at your life and want what you have? I so want my life to be one that is winsome like Jesus was. I want others to see Him in me and be drawn to the fragrance of His love and mercy that save me and give my life purpose. I want to be the aroma of Jesus Christ to the broken and wounded people who cross my path every day.
Let's Pray
Father, I want others to see You in my life. I want to live out Your truth and knowledge in such a way that the lost and broken are drawn to Your love and mercy in me. Teach me how to saturate my life with Your truth and then share that truth with those around me. Let me be the sweet aroma of You to my family, friends, and neighbors ... everyone You send my way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your five favorite fragrances.
How do these fragrances make you feel?
Are you saturating your life with the fragrance of God's truth?
Who are the people in your life who need to know Christ?
What step(s) do you need to take to be the aroma of Jesus Christ to the people in your life?
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It has become a family joke that I have an invisible sign on my forehead that says "Dump here." Why? Not because of anything that I have done but simply because of God's presence in me that draws people to Himself.
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March 5, 2012
Like a Child
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it (Mark 10:15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I recently read the story of a young family who went out to eat at a local restaurant. They were the only family with children in the restaurant. The mom sat their little boy, Erik, in a high chair and noticed everyone was quietly sitting and talking. Suddenly, Erik squealed with glee and said, "Hi." He pounded his fat baby hands on the high chair tray. His eyes were crinkled in laughter and his mouth was bared in a toothless grin as he wriggled and giggled with joy.
The mother looked around and saw the source of his merriment. It was a man wearing baggy pants and shoes so worn that his toes poked out. His shirt was dirty and his hair was uncombed and unwashed. His whiskers were too short to be called a beard and his nose was so varicose it looked like a road map. The man sat far away but the mother was sure he smelled bad. His hands waved and flapped on loose wrists in an effort to make Erik laugh.
"Hi there, baby. Hi there, big boy. I see ya, buster," the man said to Erik. Erik's mom and dad exchanged looks and asked, "What do we do?" Erik continued to laugh and answer, "Hi." Everyone in the restaurant noticed the man who was creating a nuisance with the beautiful baby. Their meal came and the man began shouting from across the room, "Do ya patty cake? Do you know peek-a-boo? Hey, look, he knows peek- a-boo." Nobody thought the old man was cute. He was obviously drunk.
Erik's parents were embarrassed and ate in silence. Not Erik. He was running through his repertoire for the admiring skid row bum, who in turn, reciprocated with his cute comments. The parents finally got through the meal and headed for the door. The husband went to pay the check and told his wife to meet him in the parking lot. The old man sat poised between the mother and the door. "Lord, just let me out of here before he speaks to me or Erik," she prayed. As she drew closer to the man, she turned her back trying to sidestep him and avoid any air he might be breathing. As she did, Erik leaned over her arm, reaching with both arms in a baby's "pick-me-up" position. Before the mom could stop him, Erik had propelled himself from her arms to the man's.
Suddenly a very old smelly man and a very young baby consummated their love and kinship. Erik in an act of total trust, love, and submission laid his tiny head on the man's ragged shoulder. The man's eyes closed, and tears hovered beneath his lashes. His aged hands full of grime, pain, and hard labor, cradled the baby and gently stroked his back.
No two beings have ever loved so deeply for so short a time. The mother and every other person in the restaurant were awestruck. The old man rocked and cradled Erik in his arms and his eyes opened and in a firm and even commanding voice said, "You take care of this baby." Somehow the mother managed, "I will" from a throat choked with emotion.
He pried Erik from his chest, lovingly and longingly, as though he were in pain. The mom took her baby and the man said, "God bless you, ma'am, you've given me my Christmas gift." With Erik in her arms, the mom ran for the car. Her husband was wondering why his wife was crying and holding Erik so tightly saying, "My God, my God, forgive me." Everyone had just witnessed Christ's love shown through the innocence of a tiny child who saw no sin, who made no judgment; a child who saw a soul, and a mother who saw a suit of clothes. The mother was a Christian who was blind, holding a child who was not. A ragged old man had unwittingly preached the message found in Scripture, "To enter the Kingdom of God, we must become as little children."
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for the times I have judged others and failed to love them like You wanted me to love them. Help me see others through Your eyes of unconditional love. Give me a heart of love and mercy toward others in need.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of the Good Samaritan found in Luke 10:25-37. Put yourself in the place of the wounded man. How would you have responded to the actions of the Samaritan? Put yourself in the place of the Samaritan. What was he thinking when he saw the wounded Jewish man lying on the road? Put yourself in the place of the inn keeper. What do you imagine he thought when the Samaritan brought the wounded Jewish man in? How does this story apply to your life?
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It is so easy to live each day with tunnel vision. To dismiss people because they don't look like we do or act like we do. Jesus never did that. He always made time for the lonely man, woman and child in need. I want to be more like Him. I want to have His eyes and His heart when it comes to meeting the needs of people He brings into my life. How about you?
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March 6, 2012
Are You Living Below the Bar?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"So Mephibosheth ate at David's table like one of the king's sons" (2 Samuel 9:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Who is the world is Mephibosheth, and what possessed his momma to give him such a name? Well, I can't answer the second question, but I can shed some light on the first. Mephibosheth was a man who was living way below his potential. He was the grandson of King Saul and the son of Prince Jonathan, but he lived like a pauper. When he was a little boy, his nurse dropped him while fleeing from their enemies. As a result, he was crippled in both feet (2 Samuel 9).
When David took over as King of Israel, he wanted to know if there was anyone in Jonathan's household to whom he could show kindness. Jonathan had been David's best friend, and he loved him as a brother. A servant told David about the crippled Mephibosheth, and he was summoned immediately. Mephibosheth lived in a place called Lo-Debar (meaning a pasture-less land).
My own (very unofficial) translation of Lo-Debar is "below the bar." Mephibosheth was living below the bar. He was the grandchild of a king, but he was living in a pasture less land like a pauper. When he came before King David he said, "What is your servant, that you should notice a dead dog like me?"
David didn't even answer him. He simply turned to his servant and commanded that all the land that had been Saul's be given back to his grandson and that Mephibosheth should eat at the king's table everyday.
Perhaps you are walking around like a crippled because of something that has happened to you as a child. Perhaps you feel like a "dead dog." And yet, God is looking for ways to bless you, to restore what has been taken away, and invite you to feast at His table everyday. Mephiboseth was a grandchild of King Saul and potential heir to the throne. However, he saw himself as nothing more than a "dead dog," unworthy to receive even the smallest crumb of kindness from David. David's desire was to restore to Mephibosheth all the land that would have been his inheritance and invite him to feast at his table daily. Mephibosheth didn't see himself as he really was. In reality, he was royalty. "A dead dog?" I think not!
Do you see yourself as you really are? You are a chosen, dearly loved, child of God. You have been blessed with every spiritual blessing, delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of Christ! You, girlfriend, are a child of the King!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, so many times I walk around with an emotional limp like a wounded animal. But the truth is, I am a child of the King and I should act like one! Thank you for inviting me to feast at Your banquet table every morning by feeding my soul from Your Word and drinking in the Holy Spirit's power. Today, I will not limp about, but run, jump, and even dance with the joy!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Be honest. Do you act more like the pitiful Mephibosheth or a powerful princess?
What mind adjustment do you need to make to start acting like a child of the King?
You have been invited to feast at His table and do so every time you open the pages of your Bible. Have you accepted His invitation?
If you are willing to start walking like a child of the King today, simply visit my Facebook page, www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and agree with me with the words...I, (put your name), am a child of the King.
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Unfortunately, many of us limp around like poor old Mephib. We live way below the bar of what God intended. If you would like to learn more about who you are as a child of God and start living the life God intended all along, my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful will help get you there. It's time to start seeing yourself as God sees you...and acting like you are who God says you are!
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March 7, 2012
I Want it All!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever (Psalm 136:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I want it all. I want everything God has for me. However, I don't believe my life really reflects that attitude. I tend to settle for so much less than God's very best for my life.
You may have heard the story of the man who died and went to Heaven. He was met at the Pearly Gates by Saint Peter who welcomed the man and then said, "Let's take a look around Heaven and then I will show you to your new home." The man was stunned by the beauty and grandeur of Heaven and could hardly wait to see what his house looked like. Peter finally stopped in front of a beautiful mansion and said, "Here you are. This is your home in Heaven. How do you like it?" The man stared in awe at the place where he would spend eternity. "I can't wait to see what it looks like on the inside," the man exclaimed. Saint Peter took the man by the arm and said, "Let's take a look."
When Saint Peter opened the front door, the man gasped at the sight before him. Beautiful boxes of all shapes and sizes were stacked from the ceiling to the floor in every room. "I don't understand. What are all of these boxes doing here?" Saint Peter sadly smiled and said, "We will have them removed as soon as possible. These are all of the blessings we had waiting for you on earth – but you never asked for them. Now it's too late."
God longs to pour out His blessings on His children. We have somehow bought into the lie that we will receive good things from God by working harder, trying to be better or doing more good things. Girlfriend, that is from the pit and smells like smoke.
We are saved by God's grace and nothing we do or don't do will ever be good enough to earn the favor of God. In Ephesians the apostle Paul tells us that salvation is a gift – period.
Ephesians 2:8 (NIV) "Forit is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God ... "
If we could earn salvation, it would simply be a salary for works we have done. We are saved through faith in God alone. Salvation and the blessings of God are His gifts to us. We simply receive them. And yet, we try to make the blessings of God seem almost impossible to experience. He is just waiting for us to seek Him ... to listen for His voice ... and then to follow Him.
Just imagine that today is your child's birthday. You have a wonderful party planned and have spent a lot of time picking out the perfect birthday gift. Do you expect your child to earn that gift by cleaning the house, doing the laundry, taking out the trash and completing every job on a very long list of chores you have prepared? Of course not! You simply want to delight in the joy on your child's face when he or she receives and opens that special gift.
I have received the gift of salvation as have many of you. We have surrendered our lives to Him and are seeking to follow Him. But I want everything He has planned for me – don't you? The good news is that God wants us to come to Him with "shameless audacity" and ask for His blessings.
Luke 11:5-10 Then Jesus said to them, "Suppose you have a friend and you go to him at midnight and say, 'Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.' And suppose the one inside answers, 'Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
Did you catch the mind-blowing truth in this passage of Scripture? The words "shameless audacity" jumped out at me for the first time as my husband preached a powerful message on this passage of Scripture. Don't miss this truth, girlfriend! God wants us to pray and live and breathe with the mindset that we want everything He has planned for us now and eternally! And we can come to Him with that shameless audacity – not because of anything we have done – but because of who He is and what He has planned for each one of us. He is God! He is our Lord and Savior and our Father who is just waiting to pour out His amazing blessings on His daughters. Why? Because He loves us! He adores us! We were created by God for God. As Max Lucado says, "If God had a refrigerator our pictures would be on it!"
Today, grab hold of the truth that in the eyes of God you are somebody special. You are planned and wanted. You belong. You are chosen. Come before Him and tell Him you want it all! Yes, you want everything He has planned for you! Now hold out your hands, girlfriend. God's highest and richest blessings for your life are on their way!
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of settling for the meager leftovers this world has to offer. Forgive me for not being willing to step out in faith and seek You and the plan You have for my life. Lord, I really do want everything You have in store for me. Right now, I come to You in shameless audacity and ask that You pour those blessings into my life. I receive them from Your hand of mercy and grace and thank You in advance for what You are going to do in my life as I seek and follow You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Ephesians 2:8 "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God." How would you define "grace" and "faith" as they apply to your life?
Read and memorize 2 Timothy 1:9 "He has saved us and called us to a holy life - not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time." What is God's purpose for your life?
Write out a prayer of commitment thanking God for His blessings in your life and for the blessings He has in store for you.
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March 8, 2012
Turning Aside to See
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus turned and saw her. "Take heart, daughter," he said, "your faith has healed you,"(Matthew 9:22 NIV).
Friend to Friend
All day long God is working in and around us. It is so easy to simply go about the task of living without seeing God's handprints on our circumstances and footprints on our paths. When we see life as a "to do list" to check off, or random acts of fortune to celebrate or misfortune to endure, we miss seeing God and hearing His voice as the scarlet thread that connects the moments and the days of our lives.
Frederick Buechner noted, "All the absurd little meetings, decisions, inner skirmishes that go to make up our days. It all adds up to very little, and yet it all adds up to very much. Our days are full of nonsense, and yet not, because it is precisely into the nonsense of our days that God speaks to us words of great significance..."
When Jesus came to earth in human form, He had a definite plan and purpose. The Bible tells us, "The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil's work,"
(I John 3:8). Another translation says it this way: "The reason the Son of God was made manifest (visible) was to undo (destroy, loosen and dissolve) the works of the devil [has done]" (Amplified).
Even though Jesus' plan and purpose was clearly stated, He welcomed interruptions when His Father placed someone in His path. Jesus turned aside to care for the woman caught in adultery and spoke to the Pharisees about forgiveness. He turned aside to heal a blind man and spoke about the reason the man had been blind from birth. He turned aside to bless children even though the disciples tried to shoo them away.
He turned aside to question who had touched the hem of his garment and spoke words of encouragement and healing to a woman who had been bleeding for twelve years. He turned aside to speak to a curious Zacheaus perched in a tree. He turned aside to woo a frightened insecure fourteen-year-old girl and welcome her with open arms – me.
Jesus paid attention to the circumstances of those around him as he went from one place of ministry to the next. He noticed a woman mourning in a funeral procession for her only son, a woman drawing water by a well, a lame man lying by a pool and a blind man crying out by the side of the road. To those looking on, they may have seen each of these situations as an interruption in Jesus' busy schedule, but Jesus saw them as divine appointments.
Today, as you go through the tasks of daily living, pay attention to those around you. You never know when someone in your path may be your special assignment from God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I have so much to do today, but nothing is as important as what You have for me to do. Help me to pay attention to the lives around me and recognize any special assignments that You may have for me today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, pay close attention to any unusual circumstances that happen your way.
At the end of the day, write down any special assignments that you had from God. Then I'd love to hear about it. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your God-moment!
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God is working all around us and in our lives. If you would like to learn more about how to sense God's presence and leading in your life, see my book, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God. He's got a lot to tell you!
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March 9, 2012
The Trust Fall
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you (Psalm 56:3, ESV).
Friend to Friend
Our arms were braided across each other's and our hands were locked tightly. As the young girl stood on the tall tree stump above us she looked over her shoulder and saw with her eyes that our formation was tight...that we were ready for her. She heard with her ears that we would catch her...that we would not let her get hurt. Yet the fear that screamed in her head told her not to do it. Not to fall backwards.
Her legs shook and lips quivered. Other campers had gone before her and her cabin mates had successfully caught each one. But this camper hesitated – allowing the looming possibilities of failure and pain to paralyze her from action. The risks just seemed too great.
She trembled.
We encouraged.
She cried.
We encouraged.
Then, finally, with determination in her heart, she took the plunge. She fell straight backwards onto the safety net of our arms. We bent low to the ground giving way to her fall and caught her with cheers of excitement. She did it! As her trembling legs regained their confidence, she stood tall and beamed from ear to ear – realizing that she had faced her fear. Joy was felt from heart to heart as each of us rejoiced with her.
Mission accomplished. Early in the day, we had trekked across the campgrounds to the "Trust Fall station" as a group of counselors and campers who didn't have a shared experience among us, an unconnected strand of strangers. Now our wooded team-building time had come to an end and we left the trust fall station having bonded deeply as a group of new girlfriends prepared for a fresh journey of fun and adventure.
Each of us took turns at the Trust Fall that day. We all faced a set of scary circumstances and were forced to work through our doubts, tremblings and fears. As a result, we learned valuable lessons and strengthened our relationships.
Since my days of being a camp counselor, I've faced many scary life Trust Falls: financial trials, relationship strains, relocations, sick loved ones, and difficult family matters. I've trembled and I've cried. I've been paralyzed by "what ifs" and "whys." We all go through difficult seasons and trials; times when we want to see the invisible arms of the One who says He will catch us; times when we are afraid to fall into them.
Wherever we go and whatever we face, God is with us – yesterday, today and forever. He bids us to live by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). He wants us to trust Him. He catches us when we Trust Fall,when we live by faith. And to encourage us along the way He spurs us on by sending a cloud of witnesses who testify of His faithfulness. "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us" (Hebrews 12:1, NIV).
Today, whether you identify with the shaky young camper on the Trust Fall stump or with the cabin mates who were filled with encouragement for another, God wants you to trust Him...right where you are. It might be scary. Tears might be shed. But God is faithful and can be trusted.
Like the Psalmist, let's choose to say, "But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. I praise God for what he has promised. I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?" (Psalm 56:3-4, ESV)
When we Trust Fall from our struggles into the faithful arms of God, we are freed from the fears that paralyze us. Trust Him today, friend. A cloud of Girlfriend in God witnesses are cheering for you!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord,
You are good, loving and faithful – and You know exactly what I'm facing. Please take this burden from me. Help me today to fall into a deeper place of trusting you.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What is God asking you to trust Him in or through? Spend a few moments in prayer over this.
Who has been there for you when you faced scary circumstances? Consider writing her a note or sending her an e-mail of thanks.
Do you have a friend(s) who seems to be struggling to trust God with her tough places? Maybe God wants you to encourage her or him. Perhaps you could write a letter or share a hug – call and pray with her – bless them with a meal or a plate of brownies. Ask the Lord for ideas!
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerlandby permission of Multnomah, division of Random House. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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March 12, 2012
The Lesson of the Missing "B"
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:5 "So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another."
Friend to Friend
Sometimes it is the little things that really get to me. As a writer, I spend a great deal of my time in front of a computer – with which I have a love-hate relationship. I love the convenience a computer offers when it comes to recording the thoughts and truths God gives me to share, but there are times when I would like to throw my laptop into the nearest body of water and be done with it. I can remember the days when I literally wrote out every word of a lesson or devotion because I was terrified of even trying to use a computer. I am anything but a technical guru and could see hundreds – no, make that thousands of hours of work disappearing into some hidden file, going up in virtual flames or being launched into cyberspace, never to be seen again. Why? Just because I hit one wrong key or pressed an incorrect button. However, the day finally came when I realized that the good reasons for using a computer outweigh the bad and decided it was time to take the plunge.
Through trial and error, and the patience of friends who have repeatedly rescued me from more than one cyber disaster, I have evolved into a fairly capable computer operator. I have retrieved lost chapters and lessons, eradicated various viruses, erected firewalls, foiled hackers ... and have come through the fray relatively unscathed.
And then it happened.
I was returning home from a speaking event and decided to use the three hour flight time to work on a writing assignment due the next day. It was one of those unusually sweet and highly productive times when the words come easily and eventually form sentences that actually make sense. I was on a roll – and so was my laptop when the plane suddenly hit an air pocket and dropped what seemed like a mile. I watched in horror as my laptop caught air, crashed to the floor of the plane and slid under the seat in front of me. Fortunately, I had saved my work and desperately hoped the laptop had not been damaged in its fall. When the plane and everyone on board regained their composure, I quickly retrieved the computer and breathed a sigh of relief after a quick inspection that revealed a couple of new, but minor, scratches.
I opened the computer, ready to resume my work. But then I saw it, the now empty space where the "B" key was supposed to be. Evidently, it had popped off in the fall and was nowhere to be found. I wasn't too concerned. I mean, after all, how important is one little key? There are plenty of other keys from which to choose. They all look pretty much the same. A missing letter or symbol here or there can't be that much of a problem, can it?
As I began my work, I soon discovered just how much of a problem one little missing computer key can be. All of a sudden, it seemed like every other word I needed contained a "B." My frustration level rose as my finger instinctively kept hitting the spot where the "B" was supposed to be and found ... nothing. Finally, I decided I really needed that key and went looking for it. The passengers around me joined in the search, and it was only a few minutes before the person seated in front of me shouted "Got it!" I snapped the missing "B" back into place. In a matter of minutes, I was amazed at how much better the whole keyboard seemed to function now that the lost key was back where it should be.
We all lose our way at one time or another. An unexpected life storm knocks us flat. A bad choice causes us to stumble and fall. We snap under the pressure of a difficult relationship, and no one seems to care or even notice the pain we feel. But then, like a Shepherd searching for that one lost sheep, God turns to us and hears our cry. He lifts us out of the darkness, gives us a safe place to stand and fills our heart with a new song of praise. And He uses people to do it all. In fact, God delights in using people to reach out and minister to other people who are wounded and lost.
God created us to need each other. We are daughters of the King, sisters in Christ and Girlfriends in God. When one hurts, all of us should feel the pain. When one of us has fallen, we need to reach out, link arms and hold on until the storm has passed. Who needs your love and encouragement? Remember the lesson of the missing "B" and ask God to love others through you ... today.
Let's Pray
Father, I know You want me to share the love I have found in You. Forgive me for the many times I have been too busy to see the needs around me. Break my heart for those who are in pain and feel hopeless. Encourage them through me, Lord. Fill my heart with Your love so that I can give it away.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Galatians 5:22-23. "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control."
Make a list of the attributes listed in Galatians 5:22-23. Beside each one, write the name of someone who needs you to live out that quality in their life. Here are a few examples to help you get started:
Love: Jane - my neighbor who is struggling with her teenage son
Joy: Sally - my friend who has just discovered she has breast cancer
Peace: Linda - my friend's sister who is going through a divorce
Make a specific plan for meeting each need. (I will take Jane to lunch.)
Put a time limit on it. (I will take Jane to lunch on Thursday.)
Record your experience in your journal.
More from the Girlfriends
Gwen, Sharon and I were recently able to get together for some long overdue girlfriend time. Yes, we had a total blast! But as we talked and shared, we all had the same burden – to tell you that God really does love you! We want you to know that we love you so much, but that God loves you more!
God's truth is for today. Every time we hear the Word of God, we are then responsible for applying its message. I wonder what would happen if we, as Girlfriends in God, put into action the truth we already know. I have a challenge for us all. This week, let's be "God with skin on" to the people who cross our path each day. That includes that nosy neighbor, irritating boss, difficult child ... as well as our best friend.
I would love to hearwhat God does through you this week because you were willing to step out in obedience. Email me at: mary@marysoutherland.com.
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March 13, 2012
You are Who God Says You Are
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV)
Friend to Friend
There's a game I've watched women play at retreats as an icebreaker activity. Each person has the name of a famous or infamous person taped to her back. Then the women walk around giving each other clues about "who they are."
"You always put off worrying until tomorrow." "You had so many children you didn't know what to do." "You were the queen of soul."
The point of the game is to figure out your identity. Once you guess correctly, you sit down.
One night, as I watched the ladies play the game, I was struck with its similarity to real life. Many times we determine our identity, by what others tell us about ourselves. You are so smart. You are a loser. You are so pretty. You can do anything you set your mind to. You are so ugly. You are so fat. After a while, those messages determine how we see ourselves, whether true or false. It is only a mature person who realizes that just because a person says that you are this or that, doesn't make it true.
One of the greatest blessings of becoming a Christian is receiving a new identity. In the Bible, when God touched and changed a person's life, many times He changed his or her name. He said, "You will be called by a new name that the mouth of the Lord will bestow" (Isaiah 62:2). Saul became Paul. Abram became Abraham. Sarai became Sarah. Jacob became Israel. Simon became Peter.
Likewise, when you accepted Christ, God gave you a new identity and a new name. If you want to know who you really are, then you need to look in the Bible and see who God says you are. It may be different from what you've heard others say about you, but which do you think is more accurate? Who do you think has a better perception of who you are, your Creator, or other creatures just like yourself? If you are a Christian today, the following verses describe your new identity.
My Identity in Christ
Matthew 5:13 I am the salt of the earth.
Matthew 5:14 I am the light of the world.
John 1:12 I am a child of God.
John 15:15 I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of Christ's life.
John 15:15 I am Christ's friend.
John 15:16 I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.
Romans 8:14,15 I am a joint-heir with Christ, sharing His inheritance with Him.
I Corinthians 3:16 I am a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in me.
I Corinthians 12:27 I am a member (part) of Christ's body
2 Corinthians 5:17 I am a new creation.
2 Corinthians 5:18,19 I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation...
Ephesians 1:1 I am a saint.
Ephesians 1:3 I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in heavenly places.
Ephesians 1:11 I am sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit who has been given as a pledge of my inheritance.
Ephesians 2:10 I am God's workmanship created in Christ to do His work that He planned beforehand that I should do.
Ephesians 4:24 I am righteous and holy.
That is a lot to put on a nametag, but that is your new identity. Neil Anderson, in his book Victory over the Darkness notes, "The reason so many Christians are not enjoying the maturity and freedom which is their inheritance in Christ is because they hold wrong self-perceptions. They don't see themselves as they really are in Christ. They don't understand the dramatic change which occurred in them the moment they trusted in Him. They don't see themselves the way God sees them, and to that degree they suffer from a poor self-image. They don't grasp their true identity."
In that paragraph, Dr. Anderson described me perfectly. I had no idea who I was, what I had, or where I was in Christ. As God opened my eyes to the truth, I realized that how I saw myself and how God saw me were very different. I decided to start believing God.
How about you? Are you ready to start seeing yourself as God sees you today? After all, it is the truth!
Let's Pray
Dear God, I thank You that I am a new creation in Christ. I admit that sometimes I feel just like the old me and act like the old me, but I believe by faith that I am brand new. Thank You that my identity is based on my position in Christ rather than my performance on earth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do have any labels from your past that are in conflict with what the Bible tells you about who you are as a child of God?
Look at the above verses. Do have a difficult time believing the truth about who you are?
Now here's the big question. Are you going to believe what others have told you in the past or are you going to believe God?
Now, go back up to the list of verses again and read them to yourself a loud.
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Someone once told me that faith is believing that God tells the truth. But many of us don't know the truth about who we are in Christ, what we have in Christ, and where we are in Christ. If you would like to learn more about your true identity as a child of God, and begin seeing yourself as God sees you, check out my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. It is just for you. Also in the site, you can find a handy laminated card filled with verses about your Identity in Christ
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March 14, 2012
How to Avoid Bankruptcy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control" (NIV).
Friend To Friend
It is not enough to acknowledge the presence of negative emotions or even understand why they exist. We must take action. If we don't, negative emotions will take control, a dangerous proposition for any woman. We must not only be able to manage negative emotions in our own lives, we must be able to react correctly to negative emotions produced by the sometimes abrasive behavior of those we call family and friend. The seeker watches carefully, curious to see what happens when the pressure is on.
So many women are imprisoned by feelings of inferiority and the results are always disastrous. Constructive criticism is perceived as an emotional attack. Jealousy burgeons as others receive the accolades we desperately crave. Decisions are made and a course of life is determined so that fragile egos are fed, excluding God's plan and purpose. Comparison reigns as a false idol attempting to validate worth and success. Inferiority crosses over to pride and sin reigns.
On the other hand, we can put negative emotions to work in our lives. Every woman knows that emotions can be like runaway horses. You are trampled by a friend with a hidden agenda, kicked in the gut by a family member, thrown by the lies of a trusted co-worker or crushed by a lack of integrity and character in those in authority over you. Emotions can easily stampede out of control and into sin.
The success of emotional integrity lies in the one who holds the reins. We must constantly choose to surrender every emotion to the supernatural control of God because when we do, the Holy Spirit empowers that choice, produces control and transforms emotional bondage into emotional freedom. Learning to control anger is a crucial life lesson and one that we need to master.
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons or squeezes our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. When Jesus saw money-changers desecrating the temple of God, He was furious! Yet, He modeled the right way to harness emotions and use them for good. I have heard many Bible teachers and preachers attempt to soften the response of Jesus, but the truth is - He was irate! I can almost see His face shrouded in plain old fury as He contemplated His options. If I had been in His place, I can tell you that those wicked men would have been toast! But before Jesus faced the intruders, He stepped aside to braid a whip - not because He had completed "Whip Braiding 101", but because He was taking the time to harness His emotions. Jesus then used that harnessed anger to drive the money-changers out of the temple, correcting a wrong. We choose where to invest every ounce of emotional energy we possess. Like Jesus, we must learn to invest wisely, in order to reap the benefits of healthy emotions, harnessed and trained by godly discipline.
Emotional bankruptcy is too often responsible for the destruction of a life. We must intentionally monitor emotional withdrawals and the impact they will have on our lives. There are certainly emotional withdrawals that are good, right and ordained by God. I will never forget the night we found a broken and defeated young pastor standing at our front door. With tears streaming down his face, John told us that his wife was having an affair and wanted a divorce. Certain that his ministry was doomed, this precious and gifted servant poured out his pain and defeat. For months, Dan and I ministered to this stellar young man, loving him, encouraging him, making him part of our family while he tried desperately to save his marriage.
When it became clear that his wife was determined to leave him, we repeatedly assured John that God would once again use him for Kingdom work. Today, that once broken young man is married to a beautiful, godly woman who adores him and has two incredible children. The church he now pastors is exploding in growth, changing lives and impacting the world for Jesus Christ! The time and energy we poured into David was a worthy emotional investment, to say the least, and one of our greatest blessings in ministry.
However, some emotional deposits are not good, right, healthy or God-ordained! Life is jam-packed with lifeless places in which to invest emotional energy. There are those who look to us to be their faithful savior or always available crisis manager. That job belongs to God alone!
We all know about bounced checks. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why banks don't adopt my obviously superior philosophy about checking accounts. It goes something like this, "As long as there are checks, there is money." Sadly, my current bank is rather narrow-minded in this area, so the reality is that my checks will bounce when our bank account is overdrawn and out of balance. The same is true in life.
We constantly need to check our emotional balance, guarding the emotional withdrawals we allow and diligently making consistent emotional deposits. Prayer, solitude, Bible study, friendships, service, accountability and a guarded thought life are just a few of the deposits that can make the difference between emotional health and emotional bankruptcy. Emotional imbalance occurs when we operate in our own strength, doing our "own thing" instead of wholly depending upon God and living in the parameters of His will. When we abandon all that we are to His strength, purpose and power, the Father deposits everything we need to accomplish every good work He created us to do.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for giving me the gift of emotions. Help me learn how to manage and control those emotions so that they are assets instead of liabilities. I want to become a godly woman of discipline but I can't even start that journey without your power. I choose to spend time in Your Word and in prayer. I submit my emotions to You and ask that You use them in my life for Your glory. And may others see and know You are God.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to make a list of the top five emotional responses common in your life. What one of these emotions do you experience the most?
Beside each emotion, write one habit you can incorporate into your life that will enable you to control that emotion.
Identify the activities, relationships or habits that drain you instead of replenish you. Eliminate those that are negative.
Keep an emotional diary for 5 days. Record any emotional outbursts and the reason behind those outbursts. Surrender each emotion to the power of God.
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Since God created us with the capacity for emotions, He has a plan for those emotions. And since God never guides where He cannot provide, our emotional integrity is dependent on our obedience to God's plan. Sounds simple, doesn't it? Not! The best way to be ready for emotional struggles is to get ready and stay that way. Make the choice before you have to. And know we are right there with you ... walking the same path in pursuit of emotional integrity.
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March 15, 2012
Will You Move Forward or Turn Back?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law goodbye, but Ruth clung to her," (Ruth 1:14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever been reading the Bible and suddenly something grabs hold of you so tightly, you know, oh you know, that God has opened your eyes to a new truth? That He has spoken to you loud and clear? Not through someone else, but directly to you? That happened to me this morning and I am compelled to write about it.
It was in the simply story of Naomi,Ruth and Orpah. How many times have I read this story, taught this story, pondered this passage, and yet, God still opened my eyes to something new.
Stand with me on the road back to Bethlehem as Ruth and Orpah are crying because their mother-in-law, Naomi, is headed back to Bethlehem. They both wanted to go with her, begged to go with her, pled to go with her.
But then Naomi said to the girls: "Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands? Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for me—even if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons— would you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? No, my daughters. It is more bitter for me than for you, because the LORD's hand has turned against me!" (Ruth 1:11-13 NIV).
So Orpah turned around and went home. But Ruth replied: "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her." (Ruth 1 16-18 NIV).
Ruth, a Moabite, told Naomi, "Your God will be my God!" God was enough. She didn't care if there was no husband, no future, no provision. She was not turning her back on Naomi. She was not turning her back on the God of Abraham. She was moving forward and trusting God!
There was nothing for Orpah in Bethlehem but God. There was nothing for Ruth in Bethlehem...but God. How many of us look at the future as Orpah did? We look ahead and it looks bleak, so we give up, turn around and go backwards...tuck our tails and go home?
How many of us look at the future, as Ruth did? She saw only God, and continued moving forward? How many of us, like Ruth, believe that God is enough?
I'm going to have to stop and pray right now: "God, I don't see anything positive in this situation. I don't see any hope. But I do see You and that's enough. I'm moving forward...to Bethlehem...to the city whose name means, "House of Bread!"
(If you were sitting here with me as my fingers are flying over the keys, you would hear me preaching. No sweet little devotion today girls. I'm standing on my chair!)
How many of us are willing to be a Ruth? "God I don't see what the future holds. I know others around me don't see any future for me. I have Naomis in my life who tell me to turn around and go home. But God, you are enough. You are more than enough. You are all I need. I'm moving forward. I'm moving toward You!"
Ruth didn't see anything bright in a future in Bethlehem. No husband, no home, no children. All she saw was God. And what did God give her in Bethlehem? He gave her a husband, a home, and children. All she saw was God...and God blessed her in ways that surprised everyone – including her own self.
And what happened to Orpah, the gal who turned around and went back home because she believed Naomi's prediction of a bleak future? Who knows? We never heard about her again.
Let's Pray
Dear God, no matter what anyone tells me today to try and discourage me from following hard after You, I am pressing forward. I am believing in You. I am trusting in You. I am clinging to You. You are more than enough.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
There will always be Naomi-people who try to tell us to turn around and go home. Who tell us that God is not enough. But listen; sometimes it is not a person, but the devil, Satan himself. He will whisper in your ear. "Don't depend on God to meet your needs, go here, go there, your chances are better getting ____________ on your own." You can fill in that blank with husband, children, financial blessing, health, and just about anything.
If you are willing to be a Ruth today and stand with me and say... "God is enough. He is all I need," then log onto my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand say,
"God is enough!"
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March 16, 2012
Through The Veil
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith" (Hebrews 10:19-22).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, my father was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that changed the course of his life. My family and I watched in agony as his health faded away and his future evaporated. He was just days away from dying when a donated organ provided a way for him to live. Dad received the gift of life as a transplant recipient.
Tragically, in order for my dad to live, someone else had to die. While our family rejoiced at this priceless provision, another family mourned the passing of one they loved. It was a bittersweet exchange... an amazing gift... wonderful and horrible at the very same time.
There is no greater gift than life. With Easter just around the corner, we will once again consider the brokenness that Jesus endured so that we could receive the beautiful gift of eternal life. So that we can know and experience forgiveness, grace, mercy and the presence of God. The Bible sums it up this way, "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21).
God in His sinless perfection is so holy and separated from us that in the Old Testament, only the high priests could enter the Holy of Holies (the Most Holy place where God dwelt) in the temple, and when they did, it was with great trepidation. But some 2000 years ago, Jesus, who lived a perfect life, went to the cross and took on death to mend that separation. Through Him, Scripture tells us that a new and living way was created for us to be reconciled to the holy heart of God.
As Jesus drew His final breath, across the city of Jerusalem – in the temple – the veil that physically separated the Holy of Holies from the Most Holy Place was torn from top to bottom...from God to man. Because Jesus laid down His perfect life for our imperfect lives and then rose from the dead three days later, the barrier between God and man was eliminated. Because of Christ, we can go to God personally, not through a priest in the temple, but through prayer...with confidence of His love for us.
How does this affect you? How does this pivotal moment in history, this "veil renting" influence the way you live? Hebrews 4:16 says, Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Have you taken this to heart? Have you asked God to forgive your sins and wipe away the mistakes of your past? The gift of life, through Jesus Christ, is free. Turn to Him now. God is waiting with open arms. Roman's 10:9 tells us "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." No sin is beyond the scope of God's grace!
If you are ready to turn to Him now, call out to the Lord. Pray from your heart: "Dear God, I know that I need do some serious business with You. Would you please forgive me? I believe in Your son, Jesus – that He lived, died, and rose again – all because of Your love for the world. Thank you, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen."
If you prayed that prayer for the first time, or perhaps re-dedicated your heart to God today, would you please email and let us know. We would love to pray for you.
Girlfriend – let me say this straight: grace deserves a response. Let's go to Him now with worship on our lips... grateful that we are welcome to enter the presence of God. As we do, our hearts are continually renewed, rejuvenated and refreshed.
While studying the book of Hebrews, the Lord inspired me to write this song. Please read the lyric then click the link below to worship along with me:
Through The Veil
by Gwen Smith
(Hebrews 10:19-23)
Through the veil there's a new and living way
Through the curtain, welcome to the Holy Place
Though we once were separated, we are now invited in
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
The Holy Place is open, come and worship
The Lamb for Sinner's slain is King of all
We praise and glorify the Lord before His mighty throne
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
Through the Veil by Gwen Smith from gwensmithmusic on GodTube.com.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are amazing! Thank you for offering forgiveness and mercy through the great exchange of Jesus. It is a miracle that I can come to You with a heart that is pure. Your love is extravagant.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
• Is there an area of your life that needs 'transplanted?'
• Do you really believe that God can forgive anything you have done? Why or why not?
• Write a response to God. Thank Him for his love and mercy, and then read it to Him as an act of worship!
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March 19, 2012
The Beatitudes of Anger Management Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend to Friend
Everyone has to deal with anger. The challenge is to deal with anger in the right way. Anger is powerful - an emotional warning that something is wrong. We have been hurt or rejected. Something has changed and we don't like it!
Anger itself is not sin. We just have to learn to express anger in the right way. Mishandled anger is destructive but anger that is handled correctly can become a tool for good. God's Word is filled with tips for learning to handle anger in a healthy and godly way.
Be still.
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
If we are busy, it is much easier to ignore or refuse to face and deal with the real source of anger. Anger that is not dealt with in the right way accumulates over time, allowing bitterness to take root and rage to simmer just below the surface of everything we do, say, think or feel. In order to manage anger, we need to incorporate frequent and regular "stops" into our schedules; time set aside to simply be still and hear the voice of God.
Be quiet.
James 1:19-20 "Everyone should be slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Our first response to conflict is often not a response at all ... but a reaction. We jump in with a brutal rebuttal or a thoughtless correction – which is like pouring gasoline on a fire. An explosion is bound to happen. Our first action should be to stop and think instead of rushing to respond in a way that could escalate tensions or provoke an offensive response from others. Listen to the other person before responding. Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.
Be wise.
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down, is a man who lacks self-control."
Wisdom is doing the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Anger management comes from wisdom rooted in self-control. I love the story of Jesus driving the money-changers out of His Father's temple. In John 2:15, Scripture says Jesus "made a whip out of cords." Don't miss this picture. At the height of His anger, Jesus gathered several cords and braided a whip. I imagine it took several minutes at least to form a whip substantial enough to drive grown men anywhere. I think Jesus was so angry that He knew He needed to cool off, so He deliberately chose to be still, quiet and wise. When we are close to losing control of anger, we need to be wise.
Be discerning.
Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin ... search your hearts and be silent."
The longer I work with people the more I realize that there is always a reason for their behavior. Hurt people – hurt people. When you are angry at someone, ask yourself why. Think back to what led up to the conflict. Was it something someone said to you? Has a past problem triggered your present anger? Give yourself time to consider why you are upset and what you should do to handle it in a way that pleases God.
God created us with the capacity for emotions. That means He has a right plan and a right place for emotions in our lives. Anger management is a spiritual discipline that God honors, blesses and empowers. Tomorrow, we will look at four more ways God gives us to control anger.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I allow anger to control what I say and do. I want to honor You in the way I manage my emotions – especially the anger in my life. Fill my heart with Your peace. Help me cultivate the spiritual discipline of anger management and learn how to control my emotions instead of allowing them to control me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Evaluate the level of anger in your life. Would people who know you well describe you as an angry person? Identity the source of your anger; then make the commitment to face and deal with whatever is causing your anger. Review each anger management tip. Which one jumps out at you as a starting point for learning to control anger in your life? Read and memorize the verse of Scripture listed with that tip. Pray – asking God to show you the steps you need to take today to manage the anger in your life. Record your thoughts and the truths God gives you in your journal.
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Need help? Check out Mary's MP3, Getting Good at Being Youand learn how to manage emotions, instead of allowing them to manage you.
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March 20, 2012
The Beatitudes of Anger Management Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend to Friend
A minister was making a wooden trellis to support a climbing vine. As he was pounding away, he noticed a little boy watching him. The youngster didn't say a word so the preacher kept on working, thinking the boy would leave – but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admire, the pastor finally asked, "Trying to pick up some pointers on gardening?" The little boy said, "Nope. I'm just waiting to hear what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer."
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons and anger puts the squeeze on our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for strong emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. Yesterday, we looked at four ways to manage anger. Here are four more:
Be focused.
Psalm 37:8 "Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil."
I witnessed the utter strength and beauty of our daughter-in-law as she went through hours of labor during the birth of our twin grandchildren. The pain was excruciating, but Jodi worked through each contraction by doing two things: controlling her breathing and choosing a focus point. We need to do the same when we are angry. Take a deep breath and focus on the peace of God.
Be understanding.
James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen."
We have two ears and one mouth for a reason—to listen twice as much as we speak. When you find yourself getting angry with someone, take time to listen to what the other person has to say. Make sure you understand their viewpoint. In fact, it might be a good idea for you to repeat it back to make sure you do get the real point. Only then, when you have processed that information and reigned in your emotions, should you offer a reply. Listening for the purpose of understanding plays a significant role in anger management.
Be kind.
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
It had been one of "those" mornings and I was behind schedule in preparing to teach the women's Tuesday morning Bible study at our church. I am fairly certain I did not exude peace and joy as I rushed around. Finally, it looked like everything was ready – everything except my heart. I knew I needed to spend some time alone with God before standing to teach His Word, so I found a quiet room where I could escape for a few minutes of solitude. As I began to pray, the door flew open and crashed against the wall behind it as the husband of one of our group leaders burst into the room. I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy and that whatever was wrong was definitely my fault. In a very loud and very angry voice, the man began to explain the problem, ending his tirade with the question, "And just what are you going to do about it?" I knew what I wanted to say to the man. I also knew God didn't want me to say it. In a rare moment of wisdom, I faced my accuser with a smile and whispered, "I'll tell you exactly what I am going to do. I am going to do whatever it takes to make you happy."
I was completely unprepared for the man's reaction. His mouth fell open, his eyes widened in surprise - no, make that shock - and he stumbled backwards as if I had hit him. We stared at each other for what seemed like an hour before he finally whispered back, "Thank you." Without another word, the man turned and literally ran out of the room. The most amazing part of this story is that from that day on, he has been one of my strongest encouragers.
The next time someone makes you angry, put a smile on your face. It is hard to stay upset when you are smiling. Smiling is one of the best anger management tips because you can do it anytime, almost anywhere, and to pretty much anyone. The next time you are angry, choose to give a friendly smile of understanding, appreciation, or patience as you listen to the other side of the story.
Be ready.
1 Peter 5:8 "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour."
The best way to manage anger is to prevent it in the first place. How? Balance your schedule and priorities so that you will not live in a constant state of frustration and exhaustion. Avoid spending time with angry people. Proverbs 22:24 says, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man; do not associate with one easily angered." We really do become like the people with whom we spend the most time. Pray constantly, asking the Holy Spirit to help you cultivate the habits that encourage peace – not anger. Memorize Scripture. The Word of God is a powerful weapon in dealing with and managing our emotions.
Anger is today's emotional epidemic. What does it take to make you angry? Do you have a short fuse or a long one? How many relationships in your life have been damaged by your anger? Remember ... more important than the way you were and more important than the way you are ... is the way you can be. Right now, surrender your anger to God and thank Him for a new beginning.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your power and strength to help me control my anger. Forgive me for the damage and pain my anger has caused the people in my life. I want my emotional health to honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review all of the anger management tips we have explored. How can you plug these tips into your daily life? I encourage you to recruit a girlfriend who will hold you accountable for the way you handle anger. Check in with her once a week. Be honest and open about your anger level. Journal your thoughts ... the truths God gives you ... the progress you make.
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March 21, 2012
Battling the Three Headed Monster of Inferiority, Insecurity, and Inadequacy
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God," (2 Corinthians 3:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The three-headed monster of inferiority, insecurity and inadequacy can paralyze a Christian into inactivity and leave her sitting on the bench during the game of life...afraid to get into the game. God's desire is to destroy the monster with the truth and render him impotent in our lives. Satan's desire is to feed him with lies and train him to control our lives. Whom are we going to believe?
Believing the truth about who you are in Christ destroys feelings of inferiority. Believing the truth about where you are in Christ destroys feelings of insecurity. Believing the truth about what you have in Christ destroys feelings of inadequacy.
I do not want you to think I am always victorious and never struggle with the three-headed monster. He still rears his ugly head every now and then. Let me give you one example of how he does it.
Many years ago, I had my first large speaking engagement to about 450 women. My topic was Unshakable Confidence in Christ. Two weeks before I was to speak to the group, I attended a luncheon. Two ladies, whom I did not know, were sitting at my table. They were talking about a speaker they had recently heard at the church where I would be speaking in a few weeks.
"He was the most powerful speaker I have ever heard," one said.
"I cried all the way through his testimony. Just to think, he had to live with the fact that his son was an arsonist. Oh how God has worked mightily in the family. The pastor was so moved, he asked him to speak at the Sunday night service. That is highly unusual. I don't think we will ever have a speaker that good again."
On and on they sang the praises of this mighty man of God. They used words like dynamic, powerful, electric, and eloquent. I never mentioned that I would be the speaker for their next meeting. At that point, I wasn't so sure I would be.
As I listened to the ladies, my throat constricted, the tea sandwiches clung to the roof of my mouth, and my heart pounded wildly. Then Satan, the gatekeeper for the three-headed monster, let him out.
"Who do you think you are, going to speak at this event?" he seemed to say. "Listen to the caliber of people they bring in. This man came from all the way across the country. You are coming from across town. What could you possibly have to say to help these women? If I were you, I'd bow out now before you embarrass yourself."
You know what? Even though I knew it was the enemy whispering in my ear, I started to believe him. After all, what he was saying made a lot more sense than the "My new Identity in Christ" Bible verses I had taped on my refrigerator door.
After the luncheon, I decided to go by the church and purchase a tape of the previous speaker, just to see what I was going to be compared to. I walked into the church, paid my $5.00, popped the tape in the console, and braced myself for the hour of power.
Nothing happened.
I fast-forwarded the tape.
Nothing happened.
I flipped the tape over.
Nothing happened.
The tape was blank.
At that moment, I did not hear the dynamic speaker on the tape, I heard God.
Sharon, you do not need to hear what my servant said to those people two weeks ago. The tape is blank because I do not want you to compare yourself to anyone else. It doesn't matter what he said. I will give you a message for these ladies. I can speak through a prophet, I can speak through a fisherman, and I can speak through a donkey.
I gave him a message and I have given you one as well. Who are you "performing" for, my child, them or Me? Do not compare yourself to anyone. You are my child and I am asking you to speak to an audience of One.
It was indeed an hour of power. I didn't bother getting my money back for the defective tape. It was exactly what I needed to hear.
So the next time Satan said to me, "Who do you think you are?" let me tell you what I said. "I am the light of the world. I am the salt of the earth. I am a child of God. I am the bride of Christ. I am a joint-heir with Christ. I have the power of the Holy Spirit. I have been delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of Christ. I am chosen of God, holy and dearly loved."
Two weeks later I spoke with confidence, and God blessed us all.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I know that without You I am nothing but an empty vessel. However, because of You, I am filled with the power of the Holy Spirit and have been blessed with every spiritual blessing! I can be confident because of who I am as a child of the King. I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time the three-headed monster attacked you?
Where do you think those feelings of insecurity came from?
Do you believe that the power of God lives in You?
Do you think there is any incident in which God would say "I can't?"
I hope you answered no! Look up these two verses and write them down. Post them in a visible place and look at them every time your confidence begins to wane this week.
Luke 1:37
Genesis 18:14
Next time Satan lets the Three-headed monster out of his cage to attack you, what are you going to tell him? Tell me one sentence at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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This story was taken from my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. If you struggle with confidence, then this book, as well as I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, will give you the confidence you need to do all that God has planned for you to do! Hang on to your hat! God's about to do something amazing in your life!
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March 22, 2012
Running to Win
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.(Philippians 3:12)
Friend To Friend
The year was 2008. The race started out like any other race: runners at the starting line, fans in the stands, excitement and anticipation thick in the air. But this race was a big one. An indoor track and field conference championship for the collegiate women's 600 meter run.
At the sound of the gun, the runners took off – each with a heart longing to win the race – each competing fiercely for the prize. Just three quick laps stood between the four athletes and their destinies. It was clear from the beginning, this race would be tight.
My family and I watched on an internet video as the long and lean runners vied for the lead. In unison, we gasped with horror when, as they began the final lap, one of the competitors caught the slightest edge of another runner's shoe and went crashing down onto the track. My heart sunk when she fell. I didn't know this fallen woman, but I do know what it feels like to fall and to have your hopes dissolve in a split second. I felt the despair of the crash with her.
The fans in the crowd all stood to their feet and rallied cries of encouragement to this young runner. The seconds that followed will be etched into my heart and mind forever. She could've walked off the track and everyone would've understood. She could've thrown in the towel and quit the race in humiliation. But she didn't quit. She got up and kept running. Now a full quarter-lap behind the other runners, this athlete fixed her eyes on the track before her and ran like the wind.
With just half a lap to go, this determined young woman overtook third place. Unbelievable. The crowd swelled with amazement. Then, just a hundred yards before the finish line, she inched up to the other two runners and – at the tape – leaned forward to win the race! No. Stinkin'. Way. The crowd went wild. My family went wild. What a race! What a fall! What a recovery! What a victory!
The next day, as I took my teenaged son to school, he and I had trouble connecting. I was frustrated with him; he was frustrated with me, and what I'd hoped would be a warm send off to a great day became an icy goodbye as he got out of the car. I felt like a loser-mom and lamented to God about it on the drive home. As I poured out my frustrations in prayer, the Lord reminded me of the race.
Like the young runner, I got tripped up on the shoes of another runner and fell down mid-race. Now, I had a choice. I could stew and lick my mama-wounds, allowing my disappointments to keep me from running, or I could call on the grace of the Lord, put one foot in front of another, and get back in the race. The writer of Hebrews talks about a cloud of witnesses that encourages others in faith, and as I prayed I could almost hear them cheering me on.
"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God" (Hebrews 12:1-2).
Game. On.
I got back up. I chose to run again by asking the Lord for the grace and strength to finish the day strong in Him. By the time my son got home from school we had both cooled down. Grace ran before us. I asked him to forgive me for frustrating him and he did the same.
We all run. We all fall. Each day presents us with fresh opportunities to allow the mercy, strength and grace of God to intervene in our lives. When writing to the church of Philippi about the discipline of perseverance, the apostle Paul said this:
I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained. (Philippians 3:10-16)
So whatever you face today, friend, run. Run to win the prize. Run like the wind. And when you fall; don't throw in the towel, don't point fingers, don't stew, and don't quit. Get right back up and run again... in the mercy, strength and grace of God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord,
Thanks for being a God of second chances and eternal grace! Please help me to run in your mercy and strength today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Grab your Bible and read the book of Philippians today. It's only four chapters long. You can do it! It will bless your socks off! If you don't have time to read the whole thing right now, then read a chapter a day for the next four days.
Look up Isaiah 40:28-31 and fill in the following blank spaces:
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the ______________ ______, the _______________ of the ends of the earth. He will not grow ________ or ___________, and his __________________ no one can fathom. He gives ________________ to the _______________and increases the ____________ of the ____________. Even youths grow _____________ and ____________, and young men _____________ and _____; but those who _________ in the LORD will ___________ their _____________. They will _________ on wings like eagles; they will _______ and not grow weary, they will ___________ and not be ______________."
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Are you running to win? I encourage you to fix your eyes on Jesus and run hard in His grace today. Music often helps set my heart and affections on Him. My latest CD, Uncluttered, offers songs that are purposed to center your heart and mind on Christ. You can order a copy from my website or download songs from Unclutteredon iTunes.
Love changes everything. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how God's love can change your life and bring strength and healing to your heart. He really can transform your life into something beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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March 23, 2012
What if Jesus were in the Boat with You?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will never leave you nor forsake you," (Hebrews 13:5 NKJV).
Friend to Friend
She was among an eager group of four-year-old children crowded around my feet as I taught their Sunday school lesson. I was the teacher and they were the students – or at least that's how it started out. The pint-sized audience listened intently as I tried to create a mental image of Jesus and His disciples trapped in a thunderstorm on the Sea of Galilee.
"The winds bleeeeeeew and rocked the little boat back and forth, back and forth. The waves were soooooo big; they splashed over the wooden sides and got the men all wet. Then water started filling up the boat - and do you know what happens when a boat gets full of water?"
"It sinks," they chimed together.
"That's right." I continued with a wrinkled brow and concerned look on my face.
"That's not all. The lightening was sooooo bright; it looked like fire in the sky. And the claps of thunder were sooooo loud; they could feel it vibrate in their chests."
After painting this picture of impending doom and thinking I would have my "congregation" just a little worried about the fate of these men trapped in a storm, I asked the question. "Now if you were in a tiny boat like this, caught in a terrible storm like this, would you be afraid?"
Then one precious little girl, confident and unshaken by the entire scenario, shrugged her shoulders and replied, "Not if Jesus was in the boat with me."
I will never forget that answer. As her words have echoed in my mind, I've come to realize that this is the answer that calms all our worries and fears. Just as the disciples had the storm raging all around them, many times the storms of life rage around us. A friend discovers she has cancer, a husband loses his job, and a child is born with birth defects.
These are storms with waves of emotions so high that our lifeboat fills with tears and appears that it could sink at any moment. Waves of fear rock our boat and threaten to spill us into the depths of despair without even a life jacket to keep us afloat.
"Tell me, would you be afraid?"
"Not if Jesus was in the boat with me."
And guess what? He is. God said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you," (Hebrews 13:5 NKJV). Jesus said, "Surely I am with you always, to the end of the age," (Matthew 26:20). Although the storm may be fierce, you don't need to be afraid, because Jesus is in the boat with you. His power can calm the storm you're in and calm the storm in you. So hang on to Him and He'll pull you through.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so glad that You are always in the boat with me. When I feel like I'm sinking – You're in the boat with me. When the sail is full and I'm gliding along peaceful seas – You are with me. No matter what, no matter where, You are there by my side...and I praise You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back on the most difficult situation in your life. Now close your eyes and picture Jesus standing right beside you. He was, you know.
Is there someone in your life who is experiencing a terrifying storm in her life?
Perhaps today would be a great day to write her a note of encouragement. You might even want to consider sending this devotion to her as a way of reminding her that Jesus is going through this storm with her. She is not alone.
What is your favorite verse that reminds you of God's promises during the storms of life? Let's share at www.facebook.com/SharonJaynes. Your verse might be what someone needs to hang onto today!
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March 26, 2012
Learning to Abide
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:4-5 "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me, and I in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do nothing." (NASB)
Friend to Friend
Every year, when September rolls around, schools begin recruiting parents for classroom duties, sports teams start looking for team moms, and the women's ministry is begging for help ... and the list really does go on and on. How do you react when an opportunity for service presents itself? Yes, God has called us to serve Him. He has a specific plan in mind for each one of us, but we often miss His plan because we are so busy with our own plan or the plan of others.
Do you feel guilty saying "no" and end up saying "yes" for the wrong reasons? Why do women feel as if they have to do it all? Oh, I am certain a woman can do just about anything she sets her mind to do. I'm just not sure she can do it all at the same time.
For years, I tried to earn the love and approval of God by doing everything I could find to do. If a position needed filling, I filled it. If a job needed doing, I did it. If volunteers were called for, mine was the first hand raised. After all, if I was doing all these important things, then I must be important – right? The result was two dark years spent at the bottom of a deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. It was as if God allowed me to run to the end of myself and then shut the door and turned out the lights. I heard Him loud and clear, "That is enough! It is time for you to abide in me." I knew very little about "abiding" but a whole lot about "doing." I soon learned that to abide in God and to rest in Him requires a balanced life with right priorities.
One of the main factors in my battle with clinical depression was that I didn't understand how to live a balanced life. I found it difficult to set boundaries, failed to establish margins of time for the unplanned or unexpected, and unwittingly surrendered my God-ordained priorities to the empty and vain addiction of just "doing the next thing" or pleasing the loudest voice. Balance can easily become a casualty of this ongoing battle. While sitting in the darkness, waiting on God, I discovered that the pit of despair is a common destination for those who refuse to measure and balance the sometimes overwhelming demands of home, family, friends, work and personal growth. I had been running the race for the wrong audience and relying on my own power instead of God's power.
I wish I could tell you that I now lead a perfectly balanced life, but the truth is that I constantly have to evaluate my priorities and goals in order to find the holy balance God intends. Many of you tell me that you have the same struggle. Just like you, I constantly have to make difficult choices between the good things and the best things. When I make the wrong choices, I can sense myself sliding toward the dangerous edge of darkness. I don't want to go there again – so the battle continues. The good news is that I don't have to fight the battle alone and neither do you. God is with us, urging us toward the light and His restoration power that comes from a heart and life that rests and abides in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I desperately need Your guidance in setting the priorities and goals in my life. I want to please You and do what You alone have created me to do. Please help me see and do Your plan.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside 30 minutes this week to spend alone with God.
Examine your life for areas that are out of balance.
Record each area in your journal.
Surrender that imbalance to God and ask Him to show you how to abide in Him instead of relying upon yourself and your own strength.
Set aside one day this month for a silent retreat. Go to the beach – a park – your back yard! Just get alone with God and take a spiritual inventory of your priorities, time management and goals. The results may surprise you.
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I have decided that a perfectly balanced life was lived only once on this earth – by Jesus Christ. My chances of doing so are slim. It would be so easy to just throw my hands in the air or dive back under the covers and pray that the world will just go away and leave me alone. Been there? You are not alone, girlfriend. Gwen, Sharon and I fight the same fight. We are all in different seasons of life, but the struggle is the same – learning to put God first and then allowing Him to set the agenda for each day.
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March 27, 2012
It's Not Over Till It's Over
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord, Jesus Christ," (1 Corinthians 15:57 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It's called "The Final Four" and in the Jaynes' home, it is important...at least to some of us.
It was Friday night and my son, Steven, and husband, Steve, were watching the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill Tar Heels basketball team take on Southern Cal. All three of us had graduated from UNC and we were pulling for the Tar Heels, but it wasn't looking too good for the home team. Part way through the game, we decided to play a game of Scrabble to augment the excitement. By the end of the first half, we were down by 16 points and the Scrabble game was over. (I won, by the way. A rare occurrence.)
"We're going to lose," we agreed.
"It's not worth staying up for," Steve said. "It's late. I'm tired, and they look tired too. I don't want to watch them get creamed. They'll never come back from 16 points."
So we turned off the television and said our goodnights. You can imagine our surprise Saturday morning when we opened the newspaper to read the headlines..."It's a Tar Heel Blitz!" (I'm losing some of you ladies here, but stay with me!)
The coach must have had a powerful pep talk at the half, because the Tar Heels came back "crashing to the offensive boards" coupled with a "suffocating defense." Southern Cal's 16 point lead became 10, became 6, became 3 and suddenly UNC had the lead. Once they had it, they wouldn't let it go. They scored 18 straight points and eventually won, 74 to 64. What an exciting game! And we missed it.
I don't usually get excited about basketball, but I do get excited when God teaches me a life lesson or gives me a practical example of a Biblical principle. See, sometimes we quit too soon. Perhaps we're struggling in the game of life and it appears that we're going to lose. So we quit – turn off the game and go to bed. But here's the thing...just because it looks like we're losing, doesn't mean we are. The game is not over! God is still at work. The celestial team is still on the court.
Many times I give up too soon on a situation that looks bleak. And when I do, I miss the thrill of victory. I miss watching God turn a seemingly hopeless situation into a miraculous win for the home team.
In the Bible, Paul wrote that we are "more than conquerors" in Christ Jesus. Conquerors don't give up when things get tough. They don't quit.
I imagine when Jesus died on the cross and was buried in the tomb, the disciples thought the "game" was over. Imagine if they had newspapers back then. Imagine Peter, John, or Thomas opening the front page and reading the headlines..."The Tomb is Empty! Jesus is Alive!" They gave up too soon.
Are you going through a struggle in your life right now? Do you feel the situation is hopeless? I want to encourage you...do not give up! God is always at work and I don't know about you, but I don't want to miss one second of the miraculous win. I don't want to hear about miracles second hand, but watch them take place before my very eyes.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for giving up too soon. I pray that my faith will remain strong in all situations. Even if I can't see You at work, I know You are.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Imagine how you would have felt if you had been one of the disciples hiding after Jesus' death. Do you think you would have bemoaned the fact that you didn't expect a miracle? That you gave up too soon?
Make a commitment to God that you will not give up or walk away from a difficult situation. Keep playing the game of life! It's not over until it's over!
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March 28, 2012
Service With a Smile
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:10 "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Friend to Friend
The last thing I usually want to do is serve someone who is hard to get along with and rubs me the wrong way. In fact, the way I figure it, they should be the one serving me in order to make up for all of the grief they have caused. Sandpaper people are hard to serve and hard to help because they rarely, if ever, think of themselves as someone in need. The needs of others are not high on their priority list. Control and power are at the top. To manipulate is to succeed. Sandpaper people honestly believe that the world does or should revolve around them. It doesn't seem to matter if the audience is applauding or jeering. Either way, they win.
When we dare to serve a sandpaper person, it rocks their world. They are so accustomed to scratching and clawing their way to a false and shallow acceptance and find it almost impossible to believe that anyone would ever be willing to serve them in any way. That kind of chosen love is foreign to them but it certainly grabs their attention. It is after we have loved and served the sandpaper people in our lives that we begin to see them with different eyes.
"Devotion" indicates commitment and duty and carries the idea of a constant faithfulness that deliberately chooses repeatedly to serve. To "honor" someone means to "prefer" him or her or regard them as more important than ourselves. Most sandpaper people are used to people preferring that they disappear. I am convinced if we learned to look past the irritating antics of sandpaper people and simply love them or "prefer" them, a transformation would begin.
In the book of Philippians, Paul explains when we are serving others we are doing what Jesus did.
Philippians 2:1-5 "Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and sympathetic? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one heart and purpose. Don't be selfish; don't live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don't think only about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too and what they are doing. Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had."
Paul is telling us that when we choose to love and serve others, especially those who are unlovable and difficult, we choose to have the same attitude that Jesus had. I believe the greatest hindrance to serving others is pride.
Someone once told me, "He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals." I once heard a missionary tell how he was trying to do translation work in a particular tribe. He was finding it very difficult to translate the word "pride" or at least the concept. Finally, he came up with the idea to use their words for the ears being too far apart. In other words, he conveyed the idea of an "inflated head" which is probably hard to improve on when we talk about the problem of pride.
When our head is filled with thoughts of self, when our hearts are determined to love ourselves before others or when we serve only for the applause of men, we will become arrogant and our service becomes an offense to God. Micah 6:8 outlines the good things God wants to see in us, "The Lord has told you what is good. He has told you what he wants from you: Do what is right to other people. Love being kind to others and live humbly, trusting your God." Peter Marshall, the great Bible teacher, once prayed, "Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change and when we are right, make us easy to live with."
Corrie Ten Boom, a dynamic Christian and survivor of German prison camps, loved to tell the story about a proud woodpecker who was tapping away at a dead tree when the sky unexpectedly turned black and the thunder began to roll. Undaunted, he went right on working. Suddenly a bolt of lightning struck the old tree, splintering it into hundreds of pieces. Startled but unhurt, the haughty bird flew off, screeching to his feathered friends, "Hey, everyone, look what I did! Look what I did!"
That old woodpecker reminds me of people who think more highly of themselves than they should. Usually they are so busy bragging about their achievements and their greatness that they fail to recognize God as the source of all their abilities or the needs of others. They are suffering from spiritual delusions of grandeur, and I am often right there with them. Without the Lord, no one amounts to anything, and in our own strength, we cannot please Him. "So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good time he will honor you." (1 Peter 5:6) We are never more like our Father than when we lay aside our pride to love the unlovable by serving them.
Let's Pray
Father, when I let pride take up residence in my heart, I can be so blind to the needs of others, especially those who are more difficult to love. I am so thankful that You did not feel that way toward me, one of the most difficult people of all to love. I praise You for the grace and love You have given me. Help me to be an instrument of that love and grace in the lives of those around me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think about the people in your life – family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.
List two people who are easy to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve them. Be specific.
List two people who are difficult to love and serve.
Name one way you can serve these people in the name of Jesus.
Determine how and when you can serve the. Be specific.
Compare the two experiences.
From which one did you learn the most?
Which one forced you to rely upon God's power the most?
What one truth did you gain through these two experiences?
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If I am not careful, I automatically gravitate to those who are easy to love and easy to serve. I have to remind myself that Jesus Christ came for broken people like me. I am not always easy to love and am prone to reject service because "I can do it myself." Sound familiar? Today, choose to love and serve those difficult people in your path. When someone loves and wants to serve you, accept that love and service in Jesus' name, as a gift from God's hand. Be blessed.
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March 29, 2012
The Slippery Slope of Comparison
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He is before all things, and in him all things hold together," (Colossians 1:17 NIV).
Friend to Friend
OK girls, it's time for a little fun today. I hope you can get this picture in your mind. Let me paint it for you.
I am not, and never have been, a very athletic person. If it's round and moves, I can't hit it, catch it or kick it. My husband, on the other hand, is very athletic. He played sports in high school, and even had a partial baseball scholarship to Clemson University.
The one thing I can do athletically, besides walk, is snow ski. For some reason, that just came naturally to me, probably because there is no ball involved. When Steve and I started dating, I offered to teach him how to maneuver down the slippery slopes. He was aware of my athletic deficiencies and decided that if I could do it, he could do it.
We went to Sugar Mountain, N.C. for his first lesson. The key survival skills to learn when skiing are how to slow down, how to stop, and how to get up once you fall. The first thing Steve learned was how to get up, because the first thing he did was fall.
To slow down, I taught Steve to ski across the mountain, weaving back and forth, as he made his way down. He quickly learned to slow down by turning his skis to the left or to the right. However, he had a tendency to turn too far which left him with his skis pointing up the mountain. When this happened, he began sliding downhill backwards. Not good.
Finally, he figured out if he turned too much to the side, he could just continue the turn, making a complete circle. This slowed him down and prevented him from sliding downhill backwards. So here was this big guy making big circles all the way down the mountain like a human slinky on ice. It was a sight to behold, but it worked.
Near the end of the day, a lady skied up beside Steve and said, "I have been admiring your acrobatics all day long. Can you teach me how to make those beautiful circles?"
We burst out laughing! She thought he was an expert skier, but in reality, he was simply going in circles to survive.
Isn't that the way life is sometimes? You may look at someone and think she has it all together. You may want to be organized like her, have a neat home like hers, or have well behaved children like her. But the truth is that whoever you are comparing yourself to is probably going in circles, just like you are and they are doing whatever it takes not to go downhill backwards.
As you move through life today, don't look around to see who appears to be "doing life" better than you. Just keep your eyes on Jesus. He's the only one that has it all together...and I mean ALL.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so glad I don't have to be anyone today except who You created me to be. Help me to avoid comparing myself to other women who seem to "have it all together." Help me live my life for an audience of One – You!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there someone to whom you tend to compare yourself?
If so, why do you compare yourself to her?
What do you think God would say to you about comparing yourself to someone else rather than being exactly who He has created you to be?
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March 30, 2012
What is Normal?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Peter 4:12-13 "Do not be surprised at the painful things you are now suffering. These things are testing your faith" (ICB).
Friend to Friend
The holidays are wonderful but I am always ready for them to be over so life can get back to normal. Hmmm...that word "normal" can definitely mean different things to different people. I have to admit that "normal" is not a word people commonly use to describe me or my life. I have heard more than one person say, "Mary, you are not a normal pastor's wife!" I smile and thank them for the compliment. Ignorance can definitely be bliss. Several of my closest friends are convinced that I could make millions by doing my own television reality show. "Nobody could make this stuff up!" they proclaim.
Author and speaker, Patsy Clairmont says that "normal" is just a setting on the dryer. I am inclined to agree with her. At birth, the world silently hands us a list of do's and don'ts that we must follow in order to "fit in" and qualify as "normal." I believe God's definition of normal is quite different from the one offered by the world.
As I look back over the lives of those who made the biggest difference in the early Kingdom days, they were anything but normal. A bag of mixed nuts is more like it – quirky men and broken women from all walks of life who were radical in their devotion to God to the point of placing their lives on the line every day for the cause of Christ. They were normal in that they celebrated their "sameness" with the pagans who were shunned by religious zealots but stubbornly loved by the Father. Yet, they were profoundly abnormal in the love they showed and the depth of their commitment to God and to His cause.
Last year, as I was putting the Christmas decorations away, I ended up in the study where we have a collection of gifts and souvenirs from the various countries where Dan and I have visited on mission trips. Each one brought back memories of precious people we met – people who are persecuted each day because of their faith in Jesus Christ. As far as material possessions are concerned, these saints have very little, but when it comes to joy, contentment and peace ... they are filthy rich! These men and women have chosen to follow Christ in a radical obedience that may very well cost them their lives one day. Is that normal? It should be.
When an ordinary woman meets an extraordinary God, normal life takes on a whole new meaning. Knowing God changes everything. We cannot encounter the living God and be the same. A personal relationship with Him produces a holy discontent with the status quo and compels us to live in such a way that miracles are a daily occurrence.
Miracles come in all shapes and sizes. A woman chooses not to have an abortion. A pastor in Peru lives another day even though his name is first on a list of Christian pastors to be executed. An alcoholic makes it through one more day without a drink. An underground church in Cuba meets to worship God. A husband who has been unemployed for over a year gets a job. Bibles are smuggled into Mexico and distributed to remote mountain tribes. A couple seeks counseling instead of a divorce. Cancer goes into remission. The sun rises and sets. We have food to eat and water to drink. A life is changed in response to what God has done in ours.
People are desperately looking for ordinary women like you and me whose lives have been changed by an extraordinary God – the One who is calling us to be "God with skin on" to those who don't even believe He exists. I want to love every excuse and doubt right out of their minds. I want them to see a power in me that they cannot explain in human terms and a message that shouts of God's mercy and forgiveness. I want to be hungry and thirsty for God as never before. I want my normal life to be abnormally extraordinary because God is alive and well and at work in and around me.
How about you? Are you ready to step out in faith? Are you willing to live a normal life filled with people and circumstances that can only be explained by the extraordinary power and presence of God? Let's do it, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of playing it safe, of bowing to the wrong crowd and listening to the wrong voices. I lay down my pride and surrender to You and Your plan for my life in this New Year. Stretch my faith. Give me Your eyes to see those in need. Fill me with Your power and strength so that others will be drawn to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In what way have you played it safe when it comes to your faith in God?
Are you willing to be a radical follower of Jesus Christ – no matter the cost?
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. How do these verses apply to an abnormal walk with God?
What first step do you need to take in order to walk by faith - not by sight?
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The first time my husband, Dan and I visited Cuba, my eyes were opened to a whole new level of faith I had never seen or experienced. I watched believers live under the scrutiny of a godless government. Pastors and their families lived in poverty because they chose to worship God alone. Yet, there was no fear – only faith. They celebrated what they had instead of complaining about what they didn't have. We were humbled to be in their presence and challenged to live as they lived – in radical obedience to God. That same challenge is before us all today. Are you ready?
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April 2, 2012
Just Listen!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 4:17 (NIV) "If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them."
Friend to Friend
I was in a hurry. It was Wednesday and I had several errands to run before heading to the church where I teach a monthly Bible study for women. My last stop was the grocery store. I wanted to pick up snacks and drinks for many of the women who came straight from work to the study. It didn't take long to fill my cart with drinks, chips, fruit and a few bags of the oh-so-necessary chocolate treats. Mission accomplished, I headed to the checkout lane.
I suddenly had the thought that I should check out the Christmas decorations. Huh? Where had that thought come from? True, it was only a few weeks until Christmas, but I didn't even know if the grocery store had Christmas decorations. It did. And they just happened to be at the end of the aisle I was on. "Well, why not?" I thought. I had a few minutes to spare.
I selected a few wooden ornaments that would work well on my Christmas tree and tossed them in the cart. And then my eye caught the display just below the rack of tree ornaments. It was a collection of gift books containing inspirational quotes and Scriptures. I spotted one that looked particularly good and, without even checking the price (which is something I always do), added it to my cart and checked out. As I loaded the snacks and drinks into my car, I wondered what had possessed me to buy that book since I already had several similar books at home. I tucked the book in my purse and headed to the church.
The Bible study went well. I was cleaning up and getting ready to head home when a tearful and obviously upset young woman came rushing in. "Did I miss it?" she asked. When I told her we had just finished, she dropped in a chair and burst into tears. "I tried so hard to get here but had a flat tire. It took them an hour to fix it and then the traffic was awful ... and I needed to be here so much!" she wailed. I sat down beside her and said, "I have time. Let's talk."
For an hour, this precious young woman poured out her heart and life story of pain along with her desire to get back in church and find God. We talked and prayed. When I encouraged her to start reading the Bible, her eyes filled with tears as she said, "I don't even have a Bible. I lost mine." And then I heard His voice, "That's why I wanted you to buy the book." I hugged the young woman and said, "I want to show you how much God loves you. He knew you would come here tonight and told me to buy something He wanted you to have." When I handed her the inspirational book and explained why I had bought it, a smile of wonder and relief spread across her lovely face. "He really does love you and has a plan for your life," I explained. That young woman made a profession of faith in Christ and has been attending our church ever since that night.
I really do try to live a life of obedience to Christ. I often fail ... but I wonder what would have happened if I had not listened to His voice that day in the grocery store. How many times do I miss the opportunity to serve Him by serving others because I am too busy or just don't care enough? Oh, I know God is God and certainly big enough to accomplish His perfect will in many ways. But I want to be part of His process. I want my life to matter. I have made a new commitment to be ready and available to be used by God whenever and wherever He wants to use me. I have asked God to help me listen for His voice above all others. I am praying that I will become more sensitive to hurting people around me. I want to be "God with skin on" to the people He puts in my path. How about you?
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am too busy to see the hurting people in my world. Help me slow down and look for ways to share You and Your love. Use me, Lord. Right now, I make myself available to be your instrument of love and mercy.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your day. Was there someone who looked like they could use an encouraging word? Would a smile from you have blessed that young woman in the drive through lane? Did the thought occur to you to pay for the groceries of the young couple in front of you at the grocery store? Look for ways to share Jesus with the people who cross your path today.
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I often wonder how different our world would be if we listened for and acted on the instructions God gives us through the Holy Spirit at work in our lives. Today, listen for His voice and look for ways to share His love.
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April 3, 2012
Knock. Knock. Is Anybody There? Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Indeed, none of those who wait for You will be ashamed;" (Psalm 25:3).
Friend to Friend
Little feet. I heard them clomping across the linoleum kitchen floor and padding up the carpeted stairs...and I knew they were not my son's. I poked my head out of my sewing room and there he stood. Three-and-a-half feet of pure mischief – my neighbor Philip.
"Philip," I scolded, "you can't just walk into our house like that."
"Why not?" he asked with balled fists on his determined hips.
"Because this isn't your house. You have to knock on the door first."
"OK," he said. "But is Steven home?"
Philip lived across the street from us in a bustling family of 7 homeschooled kids and 2 dogs. He was a stocky fellow with close cropped blond hair and a gruff voice that belonged more on a seasoned smoker than a four-year-old kid. He often wandered over to our house to ask my son, Steven, to come out and play. Steven was eight years older than Philip, but occasionally "shot hoops" with his pint-sized admirer.
I adored Philip, but he had to learn not to walk into other people's houses at will. We had our little chat about knocking first, and then I sent him on his way.
The next day, I was working in my sewing room again when I heard a small but determined knock at the backdoor. I was in the middle of a seam and didn't answer it. I knew who it was. Ah, I thought. He learned his lesson well.
No sooner had that thought entered my mind, I heard the door open and close, followed by the familiar squeak of little-boy tennis shoes moving through the kitchen and up the stairs.
"Philip," I called, "I thought I told you to knock."
"I did," he yelled back. "You didn't come so I came on in."
Philip and I had another chat.
Thinking back on this incident with my tow-headed, pint-sized friend reminds me of how some people approach prayer. They knock. It seems we don't have a problem with that part. It is what comes after the knock that trips us up.
God tells us to pray. He tells us to knock. "Ask, and it will be given to you;" Jesus said. "Seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened," (Matthew 7:7-8 NASB). But what comes after the knock?
God also tells us to wait for Him to answer the door...to answer the prayer... before moving forward. Unfortunately, many don't want to wait. If God doesn't answer right way, many take His silence as a "yes," and plow right on ahead.
"Lord, should I date this man?" "Lord, should I marry this man?" "Lord, should I buy this house?" "Lord, should I look for another job?" Knock. Knock.
If God doesn't answer the door right away, is that license to open the door, walk right through it and do what we want? Absolutely not.
David wrote: "Indeed, none of those who wait for You will be ashamed," (Psalm 25:3). Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, For I wait for You," (Psalm 25:21 NASB). Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD," (Psalm 27:14 NIV).
We'll look more at this subject of next time, but you'll just have to waitJ
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I wait patiently for You. Please show me any area of my life where I have not obeyed You fully. Then give me the courage and strength to do so.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever prayed about a decision, not waited on God for the answer, and plowed ahead even though you felt unrest in your spirit?
What were the results?
Have you ever prayed about a decision, waited on God for the answer, and moved forward in total peace?
What were the results?
Regardless of the results of obedience, you can be assured that obedience always pleases God. He is more concerned with the process than the product.
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Do you want to be a woman who listens to God? If you'd like to learn how to tune your ears to the timbre of God's still small voice, then check out Sharon's book Becoming a Woman who Listens to God.While you're on her webpage, stop by the homepage and leave a message in the comment box!
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April 4, 2012
Knock. Knock. Is Anybody There? Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Indeed, none of those who wait for You will be ashamed;" (Psalm 25:3).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday I told you about my little neighbor, Philip, who had a tendency to walk in our house whenever he wanted. I told him that he couldn't walk right in, but had to knock first. So the next day he knocked, and then when I didn't answer the door, he walked right in.
"Philip," I scolded, "I thought I told you to knock."
"I did," he said, "But you didn't come. So I came on in."
Mercy! We looked at how quickly we knock (ask God for direction in prayer), but how reluctant we are to wait for the answer before plowing ahead. Let's look at that again today.
Many problems and messes in our lives come from not waiting on God's answer before we move forward and forge ahead with our own desires without hearing clear direction from God.
Silence from God does not mean "go ahead, do what you want to do." God not saying "no" cannot be interpreted as God saying "yes." I'm not sure if that sentence is even grammatically correct, but it is scripturally accurate.
"God didn't stop me from buying that house, so I did it." "God didn't stop me from marrying that man, so I did it." "God didn't stop me from sleeping with that boy, so I did it." Oh my. "I knocked and you didn't answer, so I came on in."
If you aren't hearing from God in a particular area of your life, here are a few questions to consider.
1. Are you obeying what He already has told you to do?
2. Are you living your life according to the principles He already has mapped out for you?
3. Are you asking for direction in one area of your life, and yet knowingly disobeying Him in another?
Perhaps God is waiting for you to do something He already has told you to do, before He tells you the next thing or gives you further direction.
Now let's go back to Philip. He knocked and I didn't come to the door. So what should he have done? Knock again? Sat by the door and waited for me to come? Come back another day? Ring the doorbell a hundred times until I got tired of hearing it and opened the door? There are many other options, but walking through the door was not one of them. Are you tracking with me here?
I put my arms around this lump of love and tried to explain. "Philip, I just don't want you to get hurt. You might walk into someone's home and scare them? They might think you are a robber? It could be very dangerous. You have to knock and then wait for someone to open the door and invite you in."
"OK," he moaned with a singsongy huff of frustration.
I'm not sure he really understood, but after that day, Philip restrained his urge to walk into our house whenever he wanted.
Join me tomorrow when I share about a time when I knocked, but was met with God's silence.
Let's Pray
LORD, I'm knocking. Help me to wait until you answer to move ahead.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you tend to do when you don't know what to do?
What do you tend to do when you don't hear God's answer or direction right away?
Look up the following passage and note how long Moses waited until God spoke to him on the mountain. Exodus 24:15-18
What happened in the valley below when the people got tired of waiting for God to give them direction through Moses? Exodus 32
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Trusting God. It is something we all need to do. And when life doesn't turn out the way we had hoped, we need to trust that God has a better plan in mind. If you'd like to learn more about trusting God, check out our new GiG book by the same title...Trusting God. You can find it on my website at www.sharonjaynes.comor the GiG website at www.girlfriendsingod.com. While you're there, download a free chapter and watch an intro video!
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April 5, 2012
Knock. Knock. Is Anybody There? Part 3
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But this is what I commanded them, saying, 'Obey My voice, and I will be your God, and you will be My people; and you will walk in all the way which I command you, that it may be well with you,' (Jeremiah 7:23 NASB).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday I wrote about my little neighbor who had a tendency to walk into our house whenever he wanted to. After teaching him to knock first, if no one answered, he'd walk in anyway. It was a fun story. If you missed it, you can read it on my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com.
So what do we do when we knock on God's door and we don't hear an answer right away? We looked at various options, but one thing is for certain, silence from God cannot be interpreted as a "yes." "Well, God didn't tell me 'no,' so I went on ahead." That's not going to work. It could be that God is waiting for us to obey what He already HAS told us, before He gives further direction.
Let me share a story about a time when God was silent in my life. After my sophomore year in college, I decided to take a break and work for a year or so. After the first year, I felt an urge to go back to college, but my prayer for direction was met with silence. So I continued in my job.
When the next spring came around, my desire to return to school resurfaced. The confusion about what to do and where to go resurfaced as well.
I went to visit a man who had been a spiritual mentor to me during my teenage years. I told him about my confusion about college. Mr. Thorp decided that we should read some Scripture about prayer before we prayed for God's direction.
First he turned to Matthew 6:8-15.
"For your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray: `Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
Then he turned to Matthew 18:19.
"'Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.' Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, 'Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?' Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times."
Each time Mr. Thorp turned to a passage about God answering prayer, there was one about forgiveness either before or after it.
"Sharon," he said, "I sense that God is telling you that you have unforgiveness toward your father. Is that true?"
I wanted to say, "Wait a minute. I came here to ask for prayer about my future, not about my past." But God was showing me that unforgiveness in my past was blocking His work in my future.
I had a very tumultuous childhood. My father had become a Christian when I was twenty, but I had yet to forgive him for all the pain he had caused. I knew God had instructed me to forgive, but I had not obeyed.
So that night, I forgave my father for everything he had ever done. Really. When I did, God set me free, and my life moved to a new and deeper level with Him. (That is what God really wants from us most of all.)
Interestingly, the next day, the cloud of confusion lifted. I knew exactly what to do. I applied to college, was accepted a few months later, resigned from my job, and began classes in the fall. I met my husband four weeks later, and soon became his wife.
I am not saying that obedience in one area will make you'll strike it rich, find the man of your dreams, or live happily ever after. However, I do believe that sometimes God's silence is due to the fact that He is waiting for us to obey what we do know before He gives us more direction.
So go ahead and knock! Ask! Pray! But make sure that you are doing what you do know has told you to do first.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that You will show me any areas of my life where I have not obeyed or am not obeying You. I'll admit, there are some areas You don't even need to tell me about. I know I haven't obeyed. There are things in my life that You've told me to let go of and I've held onto them. There are people that You have told me to reach out to whom I've ignored. There are steps of faith that You've called me to take and I've hung back. Show me, Lord. And give me the courage to live in obedience to what I DO KNOW, before asking for direction in areas that I DON"T.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Some of you are mad at me right now. I don't blame you. This is a hard lesson. Philip didn't like it and honestly, sometimes I don't like it either. But I love you too much to tickle your ears with fluff rather than give you meat to chew.
So here we go: Is there any area of your life where you know that you are living in disobedience to God. Are you willing to make a change? If so, log onto my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com and write "yes" in the comment box.
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April 6, 2012
A Willing Heart
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"So we are Christ's ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, 'Come back to God!'" (2 Corinthians 5:20, NLT)
Friend to Friend
My husband Brad went on a missions trip to Guatemala a few years ago. What he saw and experienced changed his life and increased his faith in a dramatic way. He was an eyewitness to the healing power of God. On that trip he prayed harder, believed more, and expected more from God each passing day—and as a result, God used their medical missions team as a conduit for miracles.
Do you ever find yourself doubting that God wants to move in and through your life? Have you ever felt like you've needed a faith-lift? Are there circumstances in your life that have left you feeling "unqualified" to be the voice of life to others? Do you want to experience God's strength and power in your average, ordinary days?
If so, then lean in, girlfriend, because what I'm about to share with you is a key to increasing the power of God in your life!
Hector, the founder of that Guatemalan ministry that Brad teamed up with on the missions trip, visited North Carolina, and my family and I went to hear him speak. When I heard him testify of the provision and power of God, my heart was stirred and my faith was boosted. But what moved me most was the story of the lesson he learned about his call after God led him to be a medical missionary.
Before he began the medical ministry that he devotes his life to now, Hector's main goal in life was to make lots of money. Back then he didn't even apologize for it. He was a Christian and figured that God could use his money to help others.
What happened to change the course of his life? Back in the late eighties, Hector and his wife joined a medical team on a trip to a mountain village. The team was blown away by what God did through them while they were there. On the four-hour drive back to the city, they worshipped and sang praises to God. As he worshipped and drove, Hector heard the Lord speak to his soul. This is what I've made you for: to medically treat my people, to pray for their healing, and to share the hope of Jesus with the hopeless and the lost.
Hector felt so overwhelmed that he pulled the truck over and told the team of his call from God to be a missionary doctor. They prayed over him, whooped it up in celebration, and then continued down the mountain with an even greater sense of purpose and excitement. Hector thought that God had called him to be a missionary because of his skills as a doctor. Later, he would think otherwise.
A few years into his work, while visiting a remote village, a woman with a large mass on her side came into their makeshift clinic. Her terrible pain was curbed only by her excitement that the medical team had come to help her. One glance at her tumor and Hector had a strong suspicion that it was malignant. Upon examining her further, Hector was convinced that she was terminal. He became very frustrated with God, to the extent that he didn't even want to share the gospel with her because he couldn't do anything to help her physically.
Hector sent up a few prayers of frustration, but felt God nudging him to share the gospel with this woman. So he reluctantly shared the good news of Jesus with her; and, to Hector's surprise, she wanted to be forgiven and place her faith in Jesus Christ! And as they sat on the floor of that makeshift med-center, this sweet woman trusted Jesus as her Savior. When they finished praying, the woman had a radiant smile and tears in her eyes. He hugged her and she began to cry.
"What happened?" Hector asked. "Why are you crying?"
"As we were praying," she said, "I felt a warmth that started on my head and spread to the tips of my toes." As she said this, she realized something had changed, and she screamed with delight, "My mass is gone! My pain is gone!"
Hector had her lie back down on his examining table. The tumor that had been there just minutes ago was gone. God had intervened. She was healed, both spiritually and physically!
In the amazing celebration that followed, God spoke clearly to Hector's heart. God told him that He had all the power needed for the work He had called Hector to, and it had nothing to do with his medical training. God impressed on his heart that He didn't need Hector's skills or his knowledge; He had all of that covered. He just wanted him to go in His name.
You and I have that same opportunity every day. We have a chance to be a witness of God's healing love to a world of wounded hearts. Did God need my husband and the other volunteers to heal Guatemalan villagers, treat their physical wounds, and share the hope of Jesus with them? No. Did God move in the lives of the villagers because of their willingness to go in His name? You bet!
One of my favorite sayings is, "God doesn't call the equipped. He equips the called." If you are His, then you are called. Not because of who you are or what you can do, but because God can and will do His work through you.
Did God tell Jonah to go to Nineveh because Jonah was a great leader with amazing vision? No! Jonah proved to be quite wimpy. When Jonah finally made it to Nineveh, did God bring a great wave of repentance and restoration because of Jonah's rhetorical gifts? No! God stirred the hearts and changed the lives of hundreds of Ninevites because Jonah finally had the courage to speak God's words.
God wants to do something similar through you. He wants you to stop fighting Him on this and be willing to speak for Him so others can know the same healing and hope that you know. He wants to bring beauty up from the ashes of brokenness all around you.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I'm so humbled that You would call me to anything. You have all the power needed for every job, yet you ask me to join you. Thank you, Lord. Please make my heart willing to say yes to everything you want me to do.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a willing heart? What is God calling you to do for Him? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to guide you and strengthen you for the task.
Read 2 Corinthians 5:11-21.
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Hey girlfriend! I'm a woman who has hesitated to say yes to God in the past. It took many months of resistance before I conceded to release my testimony into His hands. I just didn't think anything good could come of it. Boy was I wrong! God doesn't waste a hurt, and He has a big plan for your life. Trust His heart... no matter where He's leading you!
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April 9, 2012
Check the Radar
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver" (Proverbs 25:11).
Friend to Friend
Fruit is one of my favorite foods. When I go grocery shopping, it always takes me longer to get through the fruit section than any other area of the store. I spend what some might consider a ridiculously long time picking out what I hope will be the juiciest apples, the plumpest grapes and sweetest bananas. Experience has taught me to quickly discard any piece of fruit that is bruised, mushy or discolored. I shake cantaloupe and thump watermelons. Ripe strawberries have a unique sweet scent and only the reddest cherries will do. Plums and tomatoes must be firm to the touch, bright in color and wrinkle-free while the more wrinkles the better when it comes to choosing passion fruit.
On a recent trip to the grocery store, I was carefully making my fruit selections when the thought occurred to me that I spend more time choosing fruit than I spend choosing my words.
Words are power tools that can build and encourage. Words can also destroy and cause confusion. We have all been hurt and even defeated by words spoken in anger or words rising out of a wounded and bitter heart. I have been guilty of speaking damaging words with the ulterior motive of flaunting power or demonstrating control. It is so easy for my mouth to be in motion before my mind is in gear and the result is rarely good or godly.
The words we speak can clarify or complicate a situation. I have watched my husband diffuse an emotional bomb and avoid a potentially explosive situation with a few carefully chosen and quietly spoken words of wisdom. I have also observed him in the art of confrontation – and with Dan, it really is an art. In fact, one person told me that he was halfway home before he realized that Dan had just confronted and corrected him.
Solomon offers great wisdom concerning the use of words, "Whoever controls his mouth protects his own life. Whoever has a big mouth comes to ruin" (Proverbs 13:3 GWT). If we do not learn to use and control our tongue, it will use and control us. While it is true that we need to choose our words carefully, it is just as true that the tongue is a spiritual thermometer which reflects the condition of the heart.
I am not a good patient and tend to think that most medical rules apply to everyone else in my life – but not to me. After all, I am a woman and I am a Southerland. According to my husband, it doesn't get much tougher than that. Several years ago, I was slammed with a high fever and blinding headache that sent me to bed for days, something highly unusual for me. I called my doctor. When he heard my symptoms, he told me to come in immediately and even though his waiting room was full, he would make room for me in his already crowded schedule. His urgency was not encouraging.
The minute I walked in his office, the receptionist waved me back to the patient area where a nurse promptly escorted me to an examination room, hurriedly recorded my symptoms, took my temperature, glanced briefly at my throat and quickly left the room. Minutes later, the doctor and a nurse walked in and stood on the opposite side of the room, almost smiling at me. At this point, I realized that whatever I had was evidently highly contagious and probably fatal. I felt so awful that the latter was definitely appealing.
"Mary, I am almost certain you have viral meningitis," the doctor said. Seeing the blank look on my face, he explained, "Your abnormally high fever of 104 and severe headache are classic symptoms of meningitis, but we need to run some tests to verify my suspicions. Oh, and by the way, how long have you had the solid white coating on your tongue?" I was stunned. What coating? Why is the color of my tongue even important in determining my illness? The doctor continued, "The health of the tongue is a very strong indicator of the health of the entire body."
The same is true when it comes to the words we speak. "The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things" (Matthew 12:34-35, NCV). If my words are boastful, my heart is insecure. If my words are filthy, my heart is impure and if my words are critical, my heart is filled with pride and anger. In other words, the problem is not really my mouth, it's my heart. The words I speak reflect the true condition of my heart.
Careless words can cause such grief. Unless strained through discipline and holiness, words can convey false perspectives and untruths. However, the right word, spoken at the right time and in the right way can bring order in the midst of confusion and light on a very dark path. I believe God gives us spiritual "radar" so we can assess a situation and speak the right word for that circumstance. We just need to check the "radar screen" before we speak.
Let's Pray
Father, I can be so careless with the words I speak. Forgive me. Please help me learn how to control my tongue. Create in me a clean heart, God, so that I can speak words filled with grace and love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Colossians 4:6. "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone."
How would you describe words that are "gracious?"
How can our words be "effective" in the lives of others?
What do you think Paul means when he says that we can have the "right answer for everyone?"
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The subject of taming the tongue is a hard one. Since communication is a gift from God, He has a plan for the right way to use it. My problem is that I tend to think my plan is better. I know. I can be arrogant ... and stubborn. Someone recently sent me this prayer: "Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth." Amen!
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April 10, 2012
You'll Meet An Old Lady One Day
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control," (Galatians 5:22 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One of my favorite books I have written is The Power of a Woman's Words. One of my favorite sentences in this favorite book is, "Our words become the mirrors in which other people see themselves." That is a huge responsibility and a powerful privilege.
At the very end of the book, I included a piece that someone passed along to me, and I want to pass it along to you today. I think about it often and pray about it frequently. Let me know what you think.
You are going to meet an old lady someday. Down the road, ten, twenty, thirty years; she's waiting for you. You will catch up to her. What kind of old lady are you going to meet?
She may be a seasoned, soft and gracious lady. A lady who has gown old gracefully, surrounded by a host of friends – friends who call her blessed because of what her life has meant to them. She may be a bitter, disillusioned, dried-up cynical old buzzard, without a good word for anyone or anything – soured, friendless, alone. The kind of old lady you will meet will depend entirely upon you.
She will be exactly what you make of her, nothing more, nothing less. It is up to you. You will have no one else to credit or blame. Every day, in every way, you are becoming more and more like that old lady. You are getting to look more like her, think more like her and talk more like her. You are becoming her. If you live only in terms of what you are getting out of life, the old lady gets smaller, drier, harder, crabbier, more self-centered. Open your life to others. Think in terms of what you can give and you contribution to life, and the old lady grows larger, softer, kinder, greater.
These little things, seemingly so unimportant now – attitudes, goals, ambitions, desires – are adding up inside where you cannot see them, crystallizing in your heart and mind. The point is these things don't always show up immediately. But they will – sooner than you think. Some day they will harden into that old lady; nothing will be able to soften or change them then.
The time to take care of that old lady is right now, today. Examine your motives, attitudes, goals. Check up on her. Work her over now while she is still pliable, still in a formative condition. Then you will be much more likely to meet a lovely, gracious old lady at the proper time.
So, tell me what you think.
Let's Pray
Father, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in Your sight today. Help me to be the woman that You created me to be.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and look at today's truth. Which one of the fruits of the Spirit do you need to fertilize with prayer to make it grow in your life?
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I wouldn't call it a "spoiler," but you did get to read the very end of Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. If you'd like to learn more about how to be a woman who speaks life into those around her, and "work over" that woman that you will one day become, then check it out on her website, www.sharonjaynes.com. You can also download a free chapter and watch an introductory video. And don't forget to check out all the free resources!
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April 11, 2012
Strength for the Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth.
Romans 5:3-5 (NLT) "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation."
Friend to Friend
Life is filled with storms of one kind or another. In the midst of those storms, we tend to respond as if God has somehow been caught off guard. The storm makes no sense. We can't explain why terminal illness strikes godly people. We don't understand how our strongest friends can become our fiercest critics. The anguish of a broken marriage or the overwhelming heartbreak of a prodigal child drives us to doubt God's purpose, plan and provision. The fear of financial ruin paralyzes us. God understands.
The Bible is filled with men and women who were storm survivors – people of God who endured great pain and weathered intense life storms because they chose to follow Him. The Apostle Paul, known for persecuting and murdering Christians, was forever changed when he met Jesus Christ. While God gave him a life of great power and eternal impact, it was also a life filled with great storms. Paul learned to "patiently" endure the troubles, hardships and calamities that came his way. (2 Corinthians 6:4 NLT)
Because grain was a precious food source to the Romans, threshing grain was a natural part of every day in ancient Rome. In pictures of early Rome, one man is always seen stirring up the sheaves while another rides over them in a crude cart equipped with rollers instead of wheels. Sharp stones and rough bits of iron were attached to these wheels to help separate the husks from the grain. This simple cart was called a "tribulum" from which we get our word "tribulation."
No Roman ever used his tribulum as a tool of destruction - only refinement. God uses our trials and storms as tools of refinement to build in us endurance. The word "endure" comes from two Greek words that when combined, give the meaning "to remain under." It is the capacity to stay under the load, to remain in the circumstances without running away or looking for the easy way out.
The purpose of every storm is to purify and cultivate endurance. Like Paul, we may sometimes feel as if we are being torn to pieces under the pressure of circumstances. But his challenge to the Romans compels us to re-examine our perspective and response to each storm we face. "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation" (Romans 5:3-5 NLT).
Endurance is never passive. It is the picture of a soldier staying in the heat of the battle under terrible opposition but still pressing forward to gain the victory.
There are few things that we can count on in this unpredictable life - but we can count on storms to come. We can also count on God's continual and unfailing strength for those storms. When the hard times come and when bad things happen, we do not have to wonder where God is. Instead we can hold on to the promise that is found in Jeremiah 16:19, "Lord, you are my strength, and my protection. You are a safe place for me to run in times of trouble" (NLT).
An old seaman once said, "In fierce storms we can do but one thing. There is only one way to survive. We must put the ship in a certain position and keep her there." Richard Fuller commented on the old seaman's words:
"This, Christian, is what you must do. Sometimes, like Paul, you can see neither sun nor stars, and no small tempest lies on you. Reason cannot help you. Past experiences give you no light. Only a single course is left. You must stay upon the Lord; and come what may -- winds, waves, cross seas, thunder, lightning, frowning rocks, roaring breakers -- no matter what, you must lash yourself to the helm and hold fast your confidence in God's faithfulness and his everlasting love in Christ Jesus."
No matter what storm rages in your life today – no matter how fierce the winds or how high the waves may be – where you are is no surprise to God. Heaven is not in a panic. Keep your gaze on Him and your glance on the raging waters. "Lash yourself" to Him and He will supply everything you need to stand firm in the storm.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to weather the storms of life on my own. I need Your power and strength to face each one. Please teach me to turn to you first. Help me learn to patiently endure the hard times and honor You in the midst of them as I walk by faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back at the storms you have come through. Have you learned more about endurance? Are you stronger now than you were then?
Memorize Romans 5:3-5. Examine the storms you are facing today. Choose to rejoice in the midst of each one, knowing it is an opportunity to trust God.
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We lived in South Florida for many years. As hurricane season approached each year, residents of South Florida raced to the grocery stores and nearest lumber yards to stockpile supplies. Batteries, flashlights, canned food, bread, peanut butter and bottled water were the first to go. Weathermen issued constant warnings to get ready and stay ready for a storm. We must do the same. Make no mistake – a storm is on the horizon. Stand firm, knowing God is Lord of every storm you will ever face.
Need help?Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Strength for the Storm, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fearand more.
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April 12, 2012
Choose Joy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:2-3 Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow (NLT).
Friend to Friend
When golf balls were first manufactured, their covers were smooth. Golfers soon discovered that after the balls had been roughed up a bit, they were able to get more distance out of them. Manufacturers then began producing golf balls with dimpled covers.
Life is a lot like that. It takes some rough spots to make us go our farthest. It takes some storms to teach us that God is faithful and will provide the strength to stand firm.
The Apostle Paul knew all about storms. As a fully devoted follower of Christ, Paul was despised, slandered, mistreated, abused and poor. He had every right to be angry and distressed but instead chose joy. "We own nothing, and yet we have everything" (2 Corinthians 6:8-10 NLT).
I never fully understood the amazing truth behind Paul's words because I had never really lived their truth – until 1995 – when I found myself sitting at the bottom of a deep, dark pit. Clinical depression, the psychologist called it. The name was irrelevant to me. All I knew was that it was the most hellish place I had ever been and I had absolutely no idea how to escape. I was paralyzed and totally helpless – the perfect setting for a miracle. Sitting at the feet of Jesus, stripped of my human efforts and impotent plans, I discovered the life changing truth that He did not come to eliminate the storms in my life. No - He came to fill those storms with His presence. I was not delivered from that pit until I was delivered in that pit.
Because joy is a deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control, it only stands to reason that the highest joy will come through the greatest pain. The greater the pain, the more we are forced to search for and cling to the hand of God. But that only happens when we choose the right attitude toward pain.
James 1:2-3 Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. (NLT)
When was the last time you threw a party to celebrate the trials and storms in life? God's ways are higher than our ways and most human reactions are in direct opposition to the paradoxical ways of God. Honestly, there are times when what He has asked me to do simply does not make sense – to me. And there we find the problem. Faith is a matter of blind obedience, not human logic.
At the heart of every storm is victory – waiting to be claimed. The words of James offer the perfect backdrop for every life storm.
My son, Jered, was a beautiful baby. One Easter I took him to Sears for their "Get a million pictures for $2.99" deal. Expecting the studio to be crowed, I was met by one bored photographer thrilled to see his first customers. Jered always loved having his picture made and put on quite a show. After the advertised special pictures were taken, the photographer asked, "Listen, I don't have any appointments today and really need some new pictures for wall displays. Would you mind if I took more pictures of Jered?" What mother is going to say, "I don't want my child's face plastered on every wall of this studio?" Not this proud mama. We went to work.
The photographer handed me a box of clothes, asking me to choose several different outfits for Jered. First was a tuxedo. No, I am not kidding you. The photographer pulled down a silver backdrop, making Jered's curly, black hair stand out and his blue eyes dance. Next was the blue snow suit against a red backdrop. With every backdrop, Jered's appearance changed and an eternal truth lodged in my heart.
We have a different backdrop for every life experience. It is a manger – a cruel cross – an empty tomb – and eternity itself. That backdrop changes everything. It makes our hearts sing and our souls dance with the truth that we can always count on His joy in us to face the storms around us.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, asking for the strength to withstand the storm in my life. Forgive me for giving in to the fear and doubt instead of turning to you in faith. I now turn to You, Lord. I choose to lean on You. Show me the way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What storm is raging in your life today? What step do you need to take in order to experience His strength for that storm? Your Father stands ready to meet you in your darkest hour. He longs to wrap His arms around you until the winds die down and the waves are stilled. Right now – surrender. Yield to His presence and power. Celebrate the storm that dashed your battered life on the shores of His unyielding love.
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April 13, 2012
Constant Cravings
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days"(Psalm 90:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A friend of mine is hypoglycemic. Before he was diagnosed, he had one compelling symptom. He was constantly thirsty. Now the crazy thing was, the more water he drank, the thirstier he became. It defies logic. As you live out your faith, you will have a similar insatiable thirst and hunger for God. The more you ask for His daily help, the more you will want it. But know this, friend, you will not be fully satisfied or quenched until you are in His presence.
In his book, Come Thirsty, Max Lucado writes:
You're acquainted with physical thirst. Stop drinking and see what happens. Coherent thoughts vanish, skin grows clammy, and vital organs shut down. Deprive your body of necessary fluid, and it will tell you.
Deprive your soul of spiritual water, and it will tell you. Dehydrated hearts send desperate messages. Snarling tempers. Waves of worry. Growing guilt and fear. Hopelessness. Resentment. Loneliness. Insecurity.
But you don't have to live with a dehydrated heart. God invites you to treat your thirsty soul as you would treat your physical thirst. Just visit the WELL and drink deeply.
Here on earth, hunger and thirst never end. Just because you ate breakfast this morning doesn't mean you won't have a grumbly tummy at lunchtime. And when you eat lunch, that doesn't cover you for the next three days. You need to eat again and again.
The spiritual parallels here are as rich as a piece of Ghirardelli cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. (Great restaurant, by the way!) A three-course meal of worship, prayer, and a sermon on Sunday morning doesn't nourish your body with the spiritual calories you need for an entire week. Not by a long stretch. We were designed in the image of God, for God. We were made to worship. To respond to the glory of God. To know Him. Continually. Daily. Without ceasing.
I don't know about you, but hunger affects my judgment. If I dare go to the grocery store while I'm hungry, my cart will usually contain extra food items I wouldn't normally purchase. Are you smellin' what I'm cookin' here? If I'm hungry when I arrive at a dinner party, I'll more than likely eat the mother lode of appetizers (especially if there is dip involved).
When we are spiritually hungry, the same truth applies. We have a tendency to compromise our judgment and set aside our convictions. We grumble and complain about our lives. We look to other people and other stuff to meet our needs. Yadda, yadda...
BEING SPIRITUALLY THIN IS SO NOT IN!
Look around! Spiritually hungry people are everywhere. Just turn on your television, pick up a magazine, or go to an online chat-room. People are desperately trying to fill their hunger hole...trying to find happiness and satisfaction in things, status, and people.
Now, if you dare, look even closer to home. Look at your PTA meetings, boardrooms, Little League fields, and malls. And, if you're really brave, look in the mirror. Each one of us sees a hungry woman staring us in the face.
It is really important to turn to the Bread of Life at the first inkling of hunger pains. Go to Him with your needs and give Him your burdens. Jesus said: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). He wants to meet you at the point of your need.
God gave you an open invitation to come to Him when He said through the prophet Isaiah,
"Come, all who are thirsty,
come to the waters;
and you who have no money,
come, buy and eat!"
(Isaiah 55:1a, NIV).
Each time we connect with God throughout the day, our souls are nourished. Sometimes we just need a small spiritual meal. Sometimes our needs are greater. In those moments, we are invited by our compassionate God to sit down to a great big dinner. How are you handling your constant cravings?
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for the invitation to come, eat, drink, and be satisfied in You. You are all that I need, and more than enough. I pray that You will bear the weight of the burdens on my heart today, and ask that You would fill my soul with Your rest. Finally, please increase my cravings for You, Lord – so that you can be glorified in and through my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Spending time with the Lord through His Word is one great way to feed your soul. Read and meditate on Psalm 63:1-8.
Read it silently the first time, then read it again out loud.
When have you witnessed God's power in your life? Thank Him!
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Although your physical cravings might include dark chocolate, coffee, and warm, fresh bread - your soul constantly craves intimacy with God. Spend some time worshiping Him today. Sing to Him!
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful. In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving, holy God who restores their wounded hearts and makes them beautiful in Him. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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April 16, 2012
Feeling Empty?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, poured into your lap. For the measure you use, it will be measured to you," (Luke 6:38 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A sign was posted on a telephone pole by the grocery store: LOST DOG with three legs, blind in left eye, missing right ear, tail broken and recently castrated. Answers to the name of "Lucky!"
Perhaps as you've had times in your life when you've felt about that lucky! You've wondered how you can help someone else or encourage someone else when you feel so empty.
There was a woman in the Bible who knows just how you feel. She also felt that she had nothing left to give, but God showed her how to get filled up. The story is found in 1 Kings Chapter 17.
Elijah was a good prophet who gave some bad news to a king named Ahab: "As the LORD, the God of Israel, lives, whom I serve, there will be neither dew nor rain in the next few years except at my word." God knew that news would not go over very well with the King, so He told Elijah to flee eastward and hide in the Kerith Ravine east of the Jordan. For several months, Elijah drank from the brook and ate bread and meat delivered by ravens that God miraculously provided. (Talk about fast food!) Only Kings could afford to eat meat every day, and God provided the very best for his servant.
Sometime later, the brook dried up. Now if God could supply meat and bread every day, He could have easily provided water. But God had a different idea. He sent Elijah to Zarepath to a Gentile widow who needed a miracle in her life.
Elijah did as the LORD said and traveled to this widow's home. But he didn't find a woman with abundance ready to provide sustenance. No, what he found was a widow who had given up on life and felt as though she had nothing left to give. When he arrived, she was stooping to the ground picking up sticks and placing them in a bundle.
"Excuse me," Elijah called, "could you please bring me a cup of water?"
As she turned to get the traveler a cup to quench his thirst, he continued. "Oh, and can you bring me a piece of bread?"
With this request, I imagine the woman sarcastically grumbled. And would you like a lamb chop to go along with it?
"I don't have any bread – only a handful of flour in a jar and a little oil in a jug," she said. "I am gathering a few sticks to take home and make a meal for myself and my son, that we may eat it – and die" (1 Kings 17:12).
Now that was a discouraged woman! But Elijah had good news for her.
"Don't be afraid," Elijah said. "Go home and do as you have said. But first make a small cake of bread for me from what you have and bring it to me, and then make something for yourself and your son. For this is what the LORD, the God of Israel says: 'The jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the LORD gives rain on the land.'"
She went away and did what Elijah had told her.
Can't you just see this woman taking the last bit of flour and oil to make Elijah a meal? What difference does it make? I'm going to die anyway? So what if it's one day early?
She took the last bit of flour and oil, made and delivered Elijah a little cake, and returned home. As she goes to wash the dirty dishes, she picks up the jar and the jug and her senses are jostled! The jar is full of flour and the jug is to the brim with oil. She was an empty woman, but as she took what little she had to offer encouragement to another, God filled her up.
Jesus said, "Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, poured into your lap. For the measure you use, it will be measured to you," (Luke 6:38). When you give to others, reach out to others, pour into the lives of others, God is standing by ready to fill you up.
So if you are feeling empty today, here's a suggestion: give to someone else. Encourage a co-worker. Help a struggling friend. Minister to a homeless person. Open the door for a stranger.
What happened to the woman from Zarephath? "For the jar of flour was not used up and the jug of oil did not run dry, in keeping with the word of the LORD spoken by Elijah" (1 Kings 17:16).
Let's Pray
LORD, I feel pretty empty today. But I'm going to get my focus off of myself and onto someone else. Show me someone who needs a helping hand or an encouraging word today. Help me to use a big measuring cup as I pour out Your love on others today.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to go back and read 1 Kings 17 today. It is a great story!
Then make a list of 5 ways you can bless someone else today.
I'd love to hear how God filled you up after you poured out. Please visit my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com, look for this blog entry, and tell me what happened!
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One way to get filled up when you're feeling empty is by reading inspiration devotions. That's why we're here. I've compiled a book titled Listening to God Day-by-Daywith 100 of my favorite devotions. You can check it out at www.sharonjaynes.com. Read a sample chapter or watch the introductory video while you're there!
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April 17, 2012
He has risen!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He is not here; he has risen! (Luke 24:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The boys and girls in Mrs. Stephens' fourth grade Sunday school class entered the room and quickly found their seats. The girls were dressed in frills and lace and chatting excitedly about the candy-filled baskets they had received that morning. The boys pulled at the unfamiliar ties around their necks and quickly discarded the sports coats they had obviously been forced to wear. The room was filled with excitement – for good reason. It was Easter Sunday.
Mrs. Stephens wanted to help her students understand that there is so much more to the Easter holiday than new clothes, chocolate bunnies and egg hunts. It is more than family gatherings and tables filled with luscious food. Easter is about life. Easter celebrates the certainty of Jesus' death on the cross, the fact that He was buried, and the reality that He came out of that burial tomb to conquer death – so that we can have life - eternal life with Jesus in Heaven and abundant life with Him here and now.
Mrs. Stephens came up with a plan. After sharing the Bible story of Jesus' resurrection, she gave each one of her students an empty plastic egg and said, "We are going to take a walk outside and I want each one of you to find one sign of life and put it in your plastic egg." As the children filed out of the room, Mrs. Stephens noticed Danny, a little Down syndrome boy who had been coming to her class for some time. His bright smile and sunny disposition had immediately won her heart. In fact, when it came to Danny, she often thought he had taught her so much more about the unconditional love of God and the joy of simply being a child of God than she could ever teach him. When she heard the other children make fun of him, it broke her heart. She always corrected the children and tried to help them see just how special Danny was, but Danny seemed oblivious to their hurtful words and thought of each child as his "buddy."
The children soon returned from their walk, depositing their eggs on the teacher's desk as they made their way to their seats. Inside one student's egg was a butterfly. In another was an ant. Others had collected flowers, twigs, blades of grass and leaves to fill their eggs. But one egg had nothing in it. Everyone knew whose egg it was. Mrs. Stephens silenced the giggles with a look of warning. When she asked Danny why he had not put anything inside his egg to show signs of life, his face broke into a huge grin as he responded, "Because the tomb was empty."
Danny understood the profound truth of Easter. The empty tomb is the ultimate sign of life and a miracle like none other.
Jesus Christ had risen from the dead. The women knew Jesus was dead. Some of them had seen Him die. And they were sure His body was in the tomb; it had been there since Friday. But when they went to anoint the body on that Sunday morning, the tomb was empty! The body could not have been stolen. Nobody was playing tricks on them. They were not merely fooling themselves. The miracle was real! They could see the empty tomb with their own eyes. Jesus Christ really had risen from the dead!
On this Easter weekend, spend some time thanking God for the miracle of life. And then share the good news with someone else: He is risen! He is risen indeed!
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for the miracle of life – abundant life here and eternal life with You in Heaven. Help me to celebrate that life every day as I seek You and follow Your plan for my life. Today, I say with the Apostle Paul, "Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?"
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider this truth: Satan has no answer for the empty tomb. What does the resurrection of Jesus Christ mean to you?
Set aside time today to remember what Christ has done for you through His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Read Luke 24 and celebrate the life only He can give.
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I would love to have been there that morning when the women went to the tomb – expecting to deal with death and instead found life, wouldn't you? You may be dealing with death in your own life – the loss of a loved one – the death of a dream – the pain of a broken body. Just as Jesus Christ rose from the dead, He can breathe new life into your heart and mind. Right now, quietly turn to Jesus. He is waiting for you – healing and restoration and new life are in His hands.
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April 18, 2012
Praise Refreshes the Soul
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name," (Psalm 100:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One day I was mopping the kitchen floor and my words were anything but cheerful. I grumbled to myself...no one even appreciates all that I do around here. All I ever do is clean, clean, clean. Then suddenly, God began to whisper a new thought to my heart. Suppose you were blind and couldn't see the beautiful patterns on the linoleum floor, or the spilled juice by the refrigerator, or the crumbs under the baby's chair? If you were deaf, you couldn't hear the soothing sound of the soap bubbles dissolving in the scrub bucket. You couldn't hear the rhythmic sound of the mop being pushed back and forth across the floor's hard surface. Suppose you were confined to a wheelchair and not strong enough to stand upright and grasp the wooden handle to erase the muddy footprints and make the floor shiny and clean again? Suppose you didn't have a home or a family to clean up after?
These thoughts brought a new perspective to this mundane task and my grumblings turned into a prayer of thanksgiving. I stood up straight, proudly grasped the mop, and began to pray. Thank you, Lord, for the privilege of mopping this dirty floor. Thank you for the health and strength to hold this mop, for the ability to wrap my agile fingers around its handle and feel the wood in my hands. Thank you for the sight to see the crumbs and the dirt, for the sense of smell to enjoy the clean scent of the soap in my bucket. Thank you for the many precious feet that will walk through this room and dirty it again. Those feet are the reason I do this job. And Lord, thank you for the privilege of having a floor to mop and a family to clean up after.
Oh yes, how a Godly perspective can change our attitudes and the words that reflect them. When we begin to praise God in the middle of the mundane, He refreshes us with a new outlook on life! The book of Psalms is a powerful collection of praises to God, and interestingly, many of the beautiful prose were written when David was struggling with depression, desperation, or devastation. Let's take a look at a few.
"O Lord, how many are my foes!
How many rise up against me!
Many are saying of me,
God will not deliver him.'
But you are a shield around me, O LORD;
You bestow glory on me and lift up my head." Psalm 3:1-3
Answer me when I call to you,
O my righteous God.
Give me relief from my distress;
Be merciful to me and hear my prayer...
You have filled my heart with greater joy than when their grain and new wine abound.
I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.
Psalm 4:1,7,8
When you are discouraged try praising God. There is an old hymn that says "Count your many blessings, count them one by one. Count your many blessings, see what God has done."
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for all the many blessings in my life. I come to You today repenting for my complaining and grumbling. Please forgive me. Today I come into Your presence with thanksgiving and into Your courts with praise.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you guess what I'm going to ask you to do today? Yes! You're right!
Make a list of 10 blessings in your life, and thank God for them.
Then visit me on Facebook at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me one of your blessings. Oh, why not. You can tell me all 10!
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. If you'd like to learn more about how to change a grumbling tongue into a grateful tongue, then this is the book for you. Learn how the answer to many of your problems is right under your nose...the words you speak. While you're on her website, check out all the FREE resources just for you!
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April 19, 2012
Accountability: A Hedge of Protection
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 12:5 "...and each member belongs to all the others."
Friend to Friend
A certain expert guide lived in the deserts of Arabia. He was known for his tracking skills and never lost his way. The secret of his success could be found in the fact that he carried with him a homing pigeon with a very fine cord attached to one of its legs. When he had doubts as to which path to take, he threw the bird into the air. The pigeon quickly strained at the cord to fly in the direction of home, leading the guide accurately to his goal. Because of this unique practice, he was known as "the dove man."
We always need connections to those who will point us in the right direction. We will take the wrong path or make a wrong turn and there will be times when we have no idea which way to go or how to get home. We must then turn to God and to those who hold us accountable.
Accountability is often seen as confining, a relationship straight jacket that limits freedom of expression and hinders those who "march to the beat of a different drummer." Actually, the opposite is true. Accountability frees us to grow and change and is an important part of every relationship.
When I married into the Southerland family, I didn't know that tent camping was part of the deal. I might have reconsidered (just kidding). I decided I could learn to camp and maybe even enjoy it! My first trip to Lake Greason in the foothills of the Ozarks was quite an experience. It did not take me long to learn the daily routine. Each morning, Dan's mom would prepare a huge breakfast. The kids then did dishes while mom changed into her swim suit, donned her sun glasses, grabbed a towel and headed for the lake. On the shore, she grabbed an inner tube, positioned her towel in just the right spot over the tube, turned around and sat down. She would then float blissfully for hours.
There was a slight problem with this plan. Lake Greason had a current that carried mom down the lake, around the bend and into the path of ski boats. Several times a day, someone would have to swim after her and pull her back to the safety of the shore, where she would profusely thank them and go right back to floating. Finally, one of the kids came up with a great idea. We grabbed a ski rope, tied one end to mom's inner tube and the other end to a wooden stake driven securely into the ground. She could then float until the rope ran out and someone "reeled her in." What a perfect picture of accountability – giving someone who loves you the permission to "reel you in" when they see you headed in a dangerous direction. When we willingly make ourselves accountable to others, we are creating a hedge of protection that ultimately yields boundaries, parameters or behavioral lines that should not be crossed.
Honestly, most of us have experienced very little accountability in life because at the heart of being accountable to someone is the willingness to be submissive to them. We have abused the concept of submission. It was never intended to be demeaning and does not involve slavery in any form. Submission is protection and an intentional willingness to consider first the desires and wishes of another before our own. God places others in our lives to see things that we cannot see, to encourage and build up, to correct, love and protect, but still, we tend to view accountability as a crutch and submission as a weakness. Submission is harnessed strength, a controlled strength that is born out of obedience to God's command. "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ" (Ephesians 5:21).
Jesus submitted Himself to the will of His father. He willingly laid down His desires and dreams, His plans and hopes in total submission. Out of that total surrender came the most powerful life ever lived. When we willingly submit ourselves to God and choose to make ourselves accountable to others, we will experience a freedom and power we have never known before.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, submitting myself to You. Thank You for the protection, direction and power that comes from that submission. Forgive me when I have stood silent while someone I loved made dangerous decisions. Give me the courage to confront in love. Give me the wisdom to receive correction and to be accountable to others. Thank You for Your love that never condemns but always stands ready to keep me from making mistakes. And when I do fall, thank You for being there to pick me up and walk with me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 27:6 "Faithful are wounds of a friend." What does this verse mean to you? How does this verse relate to accountability?
Name two people in your life to whom you are accountable.
Are they willing to tell you the truth instead of what you want to hear?
Are they godly people who will constantly point you to Christ?
Who is accountable to you?
Are you willing to step between that person and the wrong choices?
Can you confront in love for the sole purpose of restoration?
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God did not create us to live alone. We were created to need each other – for many reasons – one of the most important being accountability. It is much easier to make the wrong choices and to take the wrong turns when no one is watching. I often wonder how many marriages have failed, how many friendships have been destroyed, or how many lives have been wasted because there was no accountability. I praise God every day for a husband and friends who are willing to be a safety net in my life by holding me accountable. If you don't have an accountability partner, don't wait another minute. Ask God to send you a friend who loves you enough to protect you by holding you accountable.
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April 20, 2012
Something Beautiful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"...Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me." (Matthew 26:10, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I am completely crazy about cool jewelry, so when the Lord prompted me to take off my favorite necklace and give it to the woman who had just admired it, I tried to pretend that I didn't hear Him.
"It's mine, God!" I reasoned. "It isn't replaceable! Why would ask me to do that?"
My self-plan didn't like the God-plan that was laid out before me. God was asking me to give up something that meant a lot to me so that another woman could be blessed. It seemed crazy. Unnecessary. But, in this instance, through the strength of Christ, I chose to obey even though I didn't want too. It hurt. It cost me big. I felt the loss.
God softened my childish heart, however, as the woman wept at the Lord's blessing. As I silently confessed my selfish thoughts, God poured a deep joy into my soul. He showed me that my sacrifice was an act of worship to Him. Blessings boomeranged right back to my heart as I humbly thanked Him for allowing me to participate in His moment with her. It was a beautiful thing.
There are just some times I'd rather give gifts that don't cost me too much. But that's probably something that only I wrestle with, right? (Wink! Wink!) It's hard to be open handed with things that we hold dear, isn't it? Some of us struggle with an unwillingness to give away material things or money. Others of us hold tight to our schedules, affections, positions, jobs or our availability. Still more of us hold tightly to our children, grandchildren, spouses, friends, parents or other people in our lives that we want to keep a tight reign on.
The Bible addresses this issue and shows us a beautiful picture of surrendered devotion in Mary of Bethany. The offering she poured out onto the feet of Jesus was worth a year's wages. She lavished her costly perfume, her attention, her affection, her time and her worship on Jesus because she loved Him. He was her Savior. Her Friend. Her Hope. The Healer who had miraculously brought life back to the stench of death that had fallen on her brother Lazarus.
"While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of a man known as Simon the Leper, a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table.
When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. "Why this waste?" they asked. "This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor."
Aware of this, Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me. The poor you will always have with you, but you will not always have me. When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial. I tell you the truth, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her."(Matthew 26:6-13, NIV)
The Message paraphrase says it this way:She has just done something wonderfully significant for me. (Matthew 26:10)
When I read this story, I'm compelled to wonder: when God looks at my life, does He see a beautiful thing? Does He see me do anything that is wonderfully significant for Him?
What do you think He sees when he looks at your life?
Does He see a beautiful thing?
I co-wrote a song that was inspired by this Scripture passage and I'd love to share it with you as we conclude our devotion time. Allow the words of this song, Something Beautiful, to be the prayer on your heart as you listen.
When we open the hands of our lives to His presence, to His service and for His glory, rest assured Godwill see a beautiful thing. When we obey His promptings and listen to His voice that whispers to our soul, He will fill us to overflowing with joy, peace, satisfaction and His beauty.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are worth far more praise than I could ever give. Please help me to rest in Your presence and trust in Your plan. Fill me with Your perspective until I joyfully lay down my will for Yours. Lord, when You look at my life, I want You to see beautiful. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider what you are holding back from God. Spend time in prayer giving it back to God.
Read through Psalm 96. Read through it a second time, but pause after each verse with a personal, prayerful response to God. Journal any verses that you want to remember.
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Every beautiful act of worship begins with the heart. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be transformed into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful.This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration!
Something Beautifulis featured on Gwen's Uncluttered CD. You can download the songs from iTunesor Amazon– or order her CDs on www.GwenSmith.net.
Please come to my Facebook page today and share your heart and your "Something Beautiful" story with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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April 23, 2012
Where Do You Go When You Hit Rock Bottom?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But David strengthened himself in the Lord his God,"(1 Samuel 30:6 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes life doesn't work out the way we thought it would. This was certainly the case for a teenage boy named David who was anointed the next King of Israel.
While King Saul was still on his throne, God chose David to be his successor. This didn't sit too well with the King and he made every attempt to kill David before the crown could be placed on his handsome head. The young David, who earlier had bravely charged the Philistine giant, Goliath, now ran for his life. The one place Saul didn't think David would hide was among the Philistines whom he had previously shamed. So that is exactly where David hid...the briar patch, so to speak.
By this time, David had a six hundred man army gathered round him. Each man brought his wife and children to live in the camp. The rag tag team of outcasts became David's kingdom for a time.
One day while David and his men were off fighting a battle, another group of people, the Amalakites, invaded their camp and took all their wives and children captive. When David and his men returned home, they found empty beds, smoldering fires, and the haunting absence of familiar voices.
The men wept until they had no more tears or energy for recourse. Rather than devise a rescue plan, they turned their anger on their leader and threatened to stone him. Hurting people often hurt people and they were looking for someone to blame.
Can you imagine how David must have felt? His previous employer was trying to kill him (he had worked in Saul's palace), his best friends had turned against him, and his wife and children had been taken captive or possibly killed. Where was he to turn? How could he encourage his men when he had nothing left to give?
There was only one place to turn...to God.
"But David strengthened himself in the Lord his God" (1 Samuel 30:6). Friend, sometimes to God is the only place we have to go. Isn't it a shame that we wait until God is our last resort rather than our first line of defense? Yes, God has called us to live in community with other believers, but sometimes I believe He wants us all to Himself.
Moses was alone with God when he talked to God in the burning bush. Hagar was alone with God when he spoke to her and gave her water in the desert. Elijah was alone with God when God revealed Himself in the still small voice. Hannah was alone with God when she poured out her heart in prayer for a child. Jesus often went away by himself to commune with His Father. Where do we go when we hit rock bottom? When we're feeling empty? When we've lost hope?
Go to God. Strengthen yourself in the Lord your God. It worked for David and He will work for you. David later wrote, "It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure," (Psalm 18:32 NIV).
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Please give me the strength I need to meet each challenge I will face today. Thank You that You promise never to leave me or forsake me. No matter how alone I may feel, or how many turn against me, I know that You are always there. You are always for me.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses and note what you learn about God being your strength.
Deuteronomy 31:6
1 Chronicles 16:11
Isaiah 41:10
Psalm 22:19
Joshua 1:9
Let's do life together. Log on to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand tell me which one of those verses is your favorite.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. Some of the most important words we will ever say are the ones we say in prayer. If you would like to learn more about how to use God's incredible gift to you...words...then check out this book. You have the ability to speak life into those around you! You have the ability to change the course of someone's life.
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April 24, 2012
Storms are for our Good
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 46:1 (NRSV) "God is our refuge and strength, a tested help in times of trouble."
Friend to Friend
While vacationing in the mountains, a man watched as a lumberman occasionally jabbed his sharp hook into a log, separating it from the others floating down the mountain stream. The man asked the lumberman why he was separating some of the logs.
The worker replied, "These logs may all look alike to you but a few of them are very different. The ones I let pass are from trees that grew in the valley. They were always protected from the storms. Their grain is coarse. The ones I have hooked and set apart from the rest came from high up on the mountains. From the time they were small, they were beaten by strong winds. That toughens the trees and gives them a fine and beautiful grain. They are too good to use for plain lumber so we save them for our best work."
I don't like storms. Blue skies and bright sunshine are my personal preference. The same is true in life. I often think boredom is highly underrated and tend to long for a day without problems, a crisis or some kind of disaster. When a storm does hit, my first reaction is to look for a way of escape. I want to avoid pain and sidestep complicated situations if at all possible. However, looking back over my life, the reality is that my greatest growth and the deepest truths God has to offer have been accomplished through the fiercest storms.
The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He feverishly prayed for God's rescue, but with every day that passed, his hope weakened. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood for protection from the elements, and to store his few possessions. One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky. Everything was lost. Stunned with grief and anger, the man cried, "God, how could you do this to me!" The next morning, he woke to the sound of a ship approaching the island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was here?" the weary man asked. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied. Storms are for our good.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for the storms in my life because they make me turn to you. They keep me on my face before You. I am desperate for Your power and presence at work in my life. Anything that makes me cry out to You can be counted as a blessing. I love You, Lord, and trust You with every storm that comes my way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Peter 4:12-13 "Do not be surprised at the painful things you are now suffering. These things are testing your faith." (ICB) In your own words, describe the testing you are going through today in your life. How is it testing and strengthening your faith?
Read 2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit." This verse lists the qualities God wants to create in us through storms that come our way. Which ones are present in your life? Which ones is He trying to produce in you today? Are you willing to let Him do so?
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Your trials are many and you have been battered by some brutal storms. I know. But more importantly, God knows. In Him, you are a storm survivor. And when you are face to face with a storm, you are standing on the edge of discovery. Don't tell God how big your storm is. Tell your storm how big your God is!
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April 25, 2012
To Speak or Not To Speak...that is the Question
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven...a time to be silent and a time to speak,"(Ecclesiastes 3:1,7).
Friend to Friend
When Steven was about seven-years-old, we went snow skiing. For hours I instructed him in how to stand up, ski down, and get up once he fell. Steven fell down, and fell down, and fell down. He was not getting the hang of it at all. What's the problem, I wondered. Then I found out. It was me.
"Mom," Steven cried, "If you just quit telling me what to do, I think I could get it."
"Fine!" I said as I skied away in frustration. "Go ahead and do it your way!"
And you know what? He did. Thirty minutes later Steven was cruising down the slopes with ease. See I was the problem. My continual instruction was hindering Steven from working the maneuvers out on his own. The day started out being a skiing lesson for Steven, but ended up being a parenting lesson for me.
Sometimes the most powerful words are the ones we withhold. "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven...a time to be silent and a time to speak," (Ecclesiastes 3:1,7). A wise woman learns the difference.
In the Bible, Esther is a wonderful example of a very wise woman who knew that timing was crucial. After much prayer, fasting and deliberation, she went before the King to make a petition for her people. It was an important request as the entire Hebrew nation was at stake. Rather than grovel at the King's feet in dismay, she very calmly invited him to dinner. When the King attended the soirée the following evening, once again he invited Esther to make her request. Once again, she invited him to dinner the following evening.
At the second dinner party, the King offered yet a third opportunity for Esther to make her request. Finally, Esther revealed the evil Haman's plot to annihilate the entire Hebrew nation, which included her life as well. It is an amazing story and I encourage you to read the book of Esther for yourself. But here's a lesson among the drama. Esther had a very important request for the King. And yet, it was all about timing. Sure, she could have made the request the first time she approached the King and he extended the golden scepter in approval. Yes, she could have made her request at the first dinner party when he offered her anything she desired, "up to half his kingdom." But there was something in Esther's spirit that caused her to wait. The time wasn't quite right.
Even though the Bible doesn't tell us directly, I believe that Esther was listening to God. I believe the Holy Spirit was telling her to wait. Because she asked herself the question, to speak or not to speak, and then spoke when the time was right, the entire Hebrew nation was saved. That is the power of a woman's words offered at the right time.
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven...a time to be silent and a time to speak," (Ecclesiastes 3:1,7).
Let's Pray
Lord, sometimes I talk too much. Help me know when to speak and when to keep silent. And Lord, give me the self-control and courage to do both.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is a fun verse to ponder. Job said, "I put my hand over my mouth." Give it a try. I bet your hand is a perfect fit!
Think of a time that you did not speak, and later, you were so glad you didn't.
Part of not speaking too quickly is learning how to listen. If you'd like a list of ways to become a better listener, visit my website and click on the Free Living Life Resources for a List of 30 Hints to Becoming a Good Listener.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. This book also has an accompanying Bible Study Guide and an Interactive Teaching DVD that is perfect for women's Bible study groups. You can find it at www.sharonjaynes.com. Click hereto watch the book trailer.
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April 2012
Can we really trust God?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 8:28 (NIV) "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
Friend to Friend
A daughter was telling her mother how everything was going wrong. "I am failing Algebra. My boyfriend just broke up with me, and my best friend is moving away," she wailed. Her mom listened patiently and then asked, "I made a cake for dinner. Would you like a snack?" The girl grinned and said, "Sure, Mom. I love your cake." The mom smiled and asked, "How about some cooking oil?" The daughter looked surprised at the offer and responded with a loud "Yuk!" The mom tried again, "How about a couple of raw eggs?" With a look of confusion, the daughter said, "Gross, Mom!" With a smile, the mother offered, "Would you like some flour or maybe a cup of baking soda?" The daughter responded, "Mom, all of those things are gross!" The mother cut a piece of cake and placed it on a plate with a fork. As she handed the delicious snack to her daughter, she explained, "Honey, all of those things seem bad when you think about eating them alone, but when they are put together in the right way, they make a delicious cake."
God often works the same way. We sometimes wonder why He allows us to go through such difficult times, but when God puts everything in the right order, they work out for our good. We just have to trust Him to do so. I will never forget the day I learned how God really can turn tragedy into triumph. I was sitting at my desk, working on an assignment from the counselor I had been seeing. For months, I had been wrestling with my past - slowly, methodically working through painful issues and buried memories that seemed to be feeding the clinical depression I was battling. As page after page filled with harsh realities, a memory slammed into my heart and mind.
The pain was overwhelming as a vile scene from my childhood slowly took shape. I could hardly breathe as I frantically tried to escape the certainty I had been molested. The perpetrator had been our family doctor and a trusted friend. He had even provided free medical treatment when we couldn't pay for it. I trusted him, counted on him. As a nurse, my mother worked beside this man every day and often babysat his children to earn extra money.
Anger unlike any I had ever known fueled violent thoughts of revenge and retaliation. I was angry with this man – and angry with God. How could He have let this happen? Where was the light in this dark place?
For months, I worked through painful memories and raging emotions until I saw the first glimmer of light. It was wrapped in chosen forgiveness. I began to see that had I never been wounded so badly, I would never have been able to forgive so freely – and in doing so, discover a depth of healing and freedom only the greatest pain can produce. Today, I can honestly thank God for all He has accomplished in me through the sin of that man.
There are no accidents with God, nor is He surprised by anything or anyone in the life of His child. God uses even the most horrendous circumstances for our good. Every circumstance comes to us for a purpose, bound by God's love and plan and faithfully delivered with His permission. While we cannot go back and change our past, we can change the way we respond to our past and determine how much power it has in our lives today.
Only God can take the broken pieces of your life and make something beautiful out of each one. He is waiting for you to let go of your pain and trust Him. And you really can. No one loves you like He does. You may not always understand or even like His process, but you can always trust His heart of love for you.
Let's Pray
Father, I choose to believe You are faithful and will do what You promise to do in Your Word. I believe that when I lay the pain and hurt of my past at Your feet, You can and will transform it all into something beautiful. I choose to believe You will turn the broken places of my life into living illustrations of Your sufficiency and healing power.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses about the good God can bring out of the storms in life.
Isaiah 45:3 (NLT) "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness – secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the Lord, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name."
Hebrews 12:1 (NIV) "Let us lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us."
Psalm 103:12 (NLT) "He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west."
What one new truth has God given you in each verse? Record those truths in your journal.
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April 27, 2012
Healer of the Broken
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
Friend to Friend
I love my girlfriends. I love doing life with friends who "get me." I love having tangles of conversations over hot coffee that are stranded together with light-hearted laughter, rich revelations, loads of love, treasures of time and gobs of grace.
Though sharing beautiful life-moments is always fun, some of the most powerful blessings of friendship for me have been found in broken places. In the trenches. Those places where our troubles and fears scream loudly and long to be quieted by the understanding heart of a friend. Times when we rise up to encourage one another with God's promises, share reminders of His truth, extend challenges to believe, offer prayers for problems and speak hope to a sister who's hurting.
A few years ago, after a long conversation with a girlfriend who was in a painfully broken place, I was burdened. Heavily. Her shared-pain had become my pain. I ached for her to experience the hope of Christ in and through her hurt. Though she knew the Lord, she felt like her prayers were falling on deaf divine ears. She needed me to listen, to cry with her and to take her right back to Jesus. As I prayed for my friend and considered her burdens, I was inspired to write a song of encouragement. I later co-wrote the song below with her in mind.
I'm not sure where this message of hope finds you. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that God cares and that He is compassionate. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that God sees us, knows us, hears us and loves us. That He is faithful, powerful and never wastes a hurt. Perhaps you need a word of encouragement today. Perhaps you know a friend who needs this word. The best thing we can do for our friends is to love them and point them to Jesus.
Allow the words of this song, Healer of the Broken, to be the prayer on your heart as you listen and read:
"Healer Of The Broken"
by Gwen Smith and Sue C. Smith
Oh wounded heart
My hurting friend
Desperate and afraid
You're not invisible
Someone knows the pain you're in
You can run to Him
The Healer of the broken
The friend to every sinner
Who knows the sorrow of each scar
Every time you call on
The Savior who is waiting
He will meet you where you are
And heal your broken heart
He knows your name
Each midnight fear
When you try to hide
Or fight for one more breath
Love will be your safe retreat
He will give you peace
In every valley
In every pain
Jesus is with you
Just call His name
Call His name
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for reminding me that You hear the cries of your children and that You are a God who loves to bring beauty to our broken. Please meet me where I am today and give me the grace to grow through these trials.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Listen to Healer of the Broken on GodTube. Allow the words to be the prayer of your heart. If you were moved by the song please consider sharing it with a friend or post it on your facebook page.
Galatians 6:2 tells us to, "bear one another's burdens." What or who comes to mind as you read this?
Read and contemplate the following Scripture passage: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." (Psalm 34:18) How does this make you feel?
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The song Healer of the Broken is featured on Gwen's Uncluttered CD. You can download the song from iTunesor Amazon– or order her CDs on www.GwenSmith.net.
God delights to heal and transform lives ... including your own. In her book, Broken Into Beautiful, Gwen Smith invites you to experience how the unconditional love of Jesus can change your life and bring strength and healing to your heart. He can transform your life into something beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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April 30, 2012
What Did You Say?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver" (Proverbs 25:11).
Friend to Friend
Fruit is one of my favorite foods. When I go grocery shopping, it always takes me longer to get through the fruit section than any other area of the store. I spend what some might consider a ridiculously long time picking out what I hope will be the juiciest apples, the plumpest grapes and sweetest bananas. Experience has taught me to quickly discard any piece of fruit that is bruised, mushy or discolored. I shake cantaloupe and thump watermelons. Ripe strawberries have a unique sweet scent and only the reddest cherries will do. Plums and tomatoes must be firm to the touch, bright in color and wrinkle-free while the more wrinkles the better when it comes to choosing passion fruit.
On a recent trip to the grocery store, I was carefully making my fruit selections when the thought occurred to me that I spend more time choosing fruit than I spend choosing my words.
Words are power tools that can build and encourage. Words can also destroy and cause confusion. We have all been hurt and even defeated by words spoken in anger or words rising out of a wounded and bitter heart. I have been guilty of speaking damaging words with the ulterior motive of flaunting power or demonstrating control. It is so easy for my mouth to be in motion before my mind is in gear, and the result is rarely good or godly.
The words we speak can clarify or complicate a situation. I have watched my husband diffuse an emotional bomb and avoid a potentially explosive situation with a few carefully chosen and quietly spoken words of wisdom. I have also observed him in the art of confrontation – and with Dan, it really is an art. In fact, one person told me that he was halfway home before he realized that Dan had just confronted and corrected him.
Solomon offers great wisdom concerning the use of words, "Whoever controls his mouth protects his own life. Whoever has a big mouth comes to ruin" (Proverbs 13:3 GWT). If we do not learn to use and control our tongue, it will use and control us. While it is true that we need to choose our words carefully, it is just as true that the tongue is a spiritual thermometer that reflects the condition of the heart.
I am not a good patient and tend to think that most medical rules apply to everyone else in my life – but not to me. After all, I am a woman and I am a Southerland. According to my husband, it doesn't get much tougher than that. Several years ago, I was slammed with a high fever and blinding headache that sent me to bed for days, something highly unusual for me. I called my doctor. When he heard my symptoms, he told me to come in immediately and even though his waiting room was full, he would make room for me in his already crowded schedule. His urgency was not encouraging.
The minute I walked in his office, the receptionist waved me back to the patient area where a nurse promptly escorted me to an examination room, hurriedly recorded my symptoms, took my temperature, glanced briefly at my throat and quickly left the room. Minutes later, the doctor and a nurse walked in and stood on the opposite side of the room, almost smiling at me. At this point, I realized that whatever I had was evidently highly contagious and probably fatal. I felt so awful that the latter was definitely appealing.
"Mary, I am almost certain you have viral meningitis," the doctor said. Seeing the blank look on my face, he explained, "Your abnormally high fever of 104 and severe headache are classic symptoms of meningitis, but we need to run some tests to verify my suspicions. Oh, and by the way, how long have you had the solid white coating on your tongue?" I was stunned! What coating? Why is the color of my tongue even important in determining my illness? The doctor continued, "The health of the tongue is a very strong indicator of the health of the entire body."
The same is true when it comes to the words we speak. "The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things" (Matthew 12:34-35, NCV). If my words are boastful, my heart is insecure. If my words are filthy, my heart is impure and if my words are critical, my heart is filled with pride and anger. In other words, the problem is not really my mouth, it's my heart. The words I speak reflect the true condition of my heart.
Careless words can cause such grief. Unless strained through discipline and holiness, words can convey false perspectives and untruths. However, the right word, spoken at the right time and in the right way can bring order in the midst of confusion and light on a very dark path. I believe God gives us spiritual "radar" so we can assess a situation and speak the right word for that circumstance. We just need to check the "radar screen" before we speak.
Let's Pray
Father, I can be so careless with the words I speak. Forgive me. Please help me learn how to control my tongue. Create in me a clean heart, God, so that I can speak words filled with grace and love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Colossians 4:6. "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone."
How would you describe words that are "gracious?"
How can our words be "effective" in the lives of others?
What do you think Paul means when he says that we can have the "right answer for everyone?"
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The subject of taming the tongue is a hard one. Since communication is a gift from God, He has a plan for the right way to use it. My problem is that I tend to think my plan is better. I know. I can be arrogant ... and stubborn. Someone recently sent me this prayer: "Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth." Amen!
Stressed out? Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trapis based on Psalm 23 and will help you learn how to control the stress in your life instead of allowing stress to control you. Check it out!
Need a good laugh? Mary's MP3, Laugh More – Live Better, is a refreshing message filled with humor and Biblical principles that will help you learn how to celebrate life. (Also available as CD)
Need something for your pain? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Handle Hurtand learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life.
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May 1, 2012
Oil for My Lamp
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Her lamp does not go out at night..." (Proverbs 31:18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Driving along the coast and coming upon a lighthouse is an inspiring sight. Even though the map marks where the landmarks are stationed, it still brings a thrill when each one comes into view. That's how I feel when I see a mother nurturing her child. It is nothing new, this love of a mother for her offspring, but each time I see it, my heart takes a leap. Lighthouses and mothers share some common features, yet each one is beautiful and unique. Her bright light shines, and her foundation is sure. But the most important feature is the oil in her lamp.
Recently, I stood looking at the Bodie Island Lighthouse with its bold black and white horizontal stripes painted on its solid exterior. She is quite a flashy beacon, to say the least. Then I turned to look at the rough seas that were beating against the shore. I thought about the mariners who were dependent on the lighthouse's searching beam to lead them safely to shore. What if she ran out of oil? What if she didn't shine? The ships were relying on her to be prepared and well supplied with oil.
Then I thought about my own life as a mother. Suppose I ran out of oil, my light grew dim, or worse, burned out altogether. What would happen to my little fleet?
The blessed mother in Proverbs 31:18 also had a lamp. Scripture says that "her lamp did not go out at night." I used to read that verse and think, Doesn't this woman ever sleep! But then I realized that it wasn't so much about her staying awake all night, as it was about her lamp. She never let her oil run dry.
A lighthouse has one primary mission: to broadcast light so a mariner can see the shore. Likewise, a mother is a beacon that displays the Light to guide her children through an ocean of choices. A mother's light is Jesus Christ, and she can't shine that light if her lamp runs dry.
Ephesians 5:18 tells us, "Be filled with the Holy Spirit." That "be filled" is a present tense, continuous action verb. It means be filled daily and continually. And interestingly enough, many times in Scripture the Holy Spirit is referred to as...you guessed it...oil!
How does a mother run out of oil? In Max Lucado's book, Just Like Jesus, he tells a story that gives us a clue.
"A lighthouse keeper who worked on a rocky stretch of coastline received oil once a month to keep his light burning bright. Not being far from the village, he had frequent guests. One night a woman needed oil to keep her family warm. Another night a father needed oil for his lamp. Then another needed oil to lubricate a wheel. All the requests seemed legitimate, so the lighthouse keeper tried to meet them all. Toward the end of the month, however, he ran out of oil and his lighthouse went dark, causing several ships to crash on the coastline. The man was reproved by his superiors, 'You were given the oil for one reason,' they said, 'to keep the light burning.'"
As mothers in the twenty-first century, we are tempted to meet every need that comes our way. But our primary job is to love the Lord, love our husbands, and nurture our children. All the other needs that scream for our attention, though they are noble, must wait until we take care of our families first.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for this family that You have given me. I pray that I will be careful to take care of their needs before the needs of others who scream for my attention. Help me to be a woman with a balanced life: God first, husband second, children third.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever run out of oil? Out of strength? Out of energy?
That's a silly question! We all have!
Which statement best describes your life?
I am burning my light like a candle that consumes itself.
I am burning like an oil lamp fueled by an endless supply of the Holy Spirit's power.
Write a prayer asking God to fuel you with the Holy Spirit's power today.
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No one ever said being a parent would be easy. If it were, I don't think it would start with something called "labor!" If you would like to learn more about how to be a great parent, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.Also, Sharon offers a 4x5 laminated prayer cardof Scripture to pray for your children or grandchildren.
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May 2, 2012
Run!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths (Proverbs 4:27, NCV).
Friend to Friend
At the close of the sermon, a church member came forward to speak with the pastor. He was very upset because of the sin in his life and his blatant disobedience to God. With tears streaming down his face, the repentant man took the pastor's hand to confess that his life was full of sin, but what came out was, "My sin is full of life." I can relate.
I don't know about you, but my sin is definitely "full of life." I am always amused but also saddened by people who think that just because I am in full time ministry, I am holier than they are, better than they are or don't have to battle sin like they do. Just ask my husband and children. They will blow that theory right out of the water. I'm just thankful our cats can't talk! The fact is, as long as I live in this fallen world and sport this frail humanity, I will wrestle with sin.
However, I have refined several tactics for dealing with my sinful nature. Rationalization is one of my personal favorites. And there is always the handy comparison ploy – measuring my sin against the sin of another. At times, I subscribe to the popular "bury it and hope it will go away" tactic. The reality is that nothing satisfies the payment sin demands except the blood of Jesus Christ and my response to His sacrifice in true, unadulterated repentance - on my face before my Holy God.
When we turn our lives over to God, He sets our feet on the right path. But to stay on that path requires a continual choice to run from sin. With our flawed choices, we take side trips, create detours and wind up on the wrong road headed in the wrong direction. Solomon warns us to stay away from evil paths. "Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths" (Proverbs 4:27, NLT). "Keep away" literally means "to turn aside or drag from." In other words, when we see sin or even the opportunity to sin, we should turn around and run in the opposite direction. We should "drag ourselves" away from sin. What do we do instead? We flirt with sin. We want to be delivered from temptation but would really like to keep in touch. We pray for God to "lead us not into temptation" and then deliberately place ourselves in its path. In our arrogance, we think we can handle sin and the temptation to sin on our own. That very attitude is an open invitation for the enemy, daring him to take his best shot.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor of Flamingo Road Church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, for many years. A man of great wisdom, Dan was adamant about the fact that neither he nor his staff should ever put themselves in a situation that flirted with sin or made it easier to sin. Solid wooden office doors were replaced with glass doors. No pastor was allowed to meet with a woman for any reason unless one of the other staff members was present. A staff counselor was hired to handle anyone needing more than one counseling session. The staff often went to lunch following their regular Tuesday morning staff meeting and even though the restaurant was literally across the street from the church, no man was allowed to ride alone with a woman. Sound ridiculous? Seem absurd? Not at all! Dan simply refused to provide ammunition for the enemy. The bottom line is that it's foolish and dangerous to flirt with sin.
There is no holding pattern for believers nor can we live in a neutral state. We are either going forward or backward. We are either being renewed or consumed. Girlfriend, do not relinquish any more life territory to the enemy. Run from sin!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the sin in my life. Right now, I choose to turn away from that sin. I turn to You, Lord. I know that I am lost and totally helpless without You. Thank You for the unconditional love and unending forgiveness that I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Corinthians 10:13. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (NIV).
Consider the following promises found in 1 Corinthians 10:13. What do they mean to you and how do they apply to your life?
· No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
· God is faithful.
· He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
· He will provide a way out.
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While it is true that we all face many temptations every single day, it is just as true that God will strengthen us to withstand each one. Need help? Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation, offers five steps you can take to help you resist temptation and live a life of victory.
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May 3, 2012
Giving our Children to God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
"Everything is possible for him who believes," (Mark 9:23 NIV).
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Once a distraught father had an unruly son with multiple physical and emotional problems. Many people even said the boy was possessed by a demon. The dad had tried everything, but the boy continued to demonstrate antisocial behavior by throwing himself in fire and then in water. That sort of behavior, on top of frequent seizures, rolling on the ground, foaming at the mouth, and an inability to talk, made the dad desperate to find a solution. He even took the boy to some faith healers who were traveling through his hometown. But nothing seemed to work.
Finally, the dad realized no human being was going to be able to help his son, so he took him directly to God. The father heard that Jesus was visiting in his community, so he boldly brought the boy to Him. With desperation in his voice the father pleaded, "If You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!"
And Jesus answered, "If You can! All things are possible to him who believes."
Immediately the boy's father cried out, "I do believe: help my unbelief."
With that profession, Jesus healed the man's son.
Oh how this story from Mark 9 stirs my heart. Can't you feel the father's pain? How desperately he must have felt every time the child threw himself into the water or the fire. "Why son? Why do you do these things? I don't understand," he must have asked.
Imagine the humiliation of the whispers as the family walked down the streets. "That's the Jones family. Have you heard about their son? He's....." The stares. The snickers. The off-color comments. Don't you know there were many days when this dad wanted to just give up? Instead, he offers us a beautiful picture of what all parents must do, the ultimate act in parenting - hand our children over to God.
As mothers, aunts, grandmothers, and a host of other caretakers, at times we find ourselves at the end of our mental and emotional resources. We feel we have done everything humanly possible and don't know the best action to take with our children. That's exactly where God wants us every day, not depending on our human capabilities but on His unlimited abilities, not depending on our own impotence but on His potent power, not depending on our limited knowledge but on His unlimited wisdom. When we realize that we do not have and never will have all the child-rearing answers, we can find peace in giving our children to the One who does.
S.D. Gordon, in Quiet Talks on Prayer, said, "You can do more than pray, after you have prayed. But you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed."
Let's Pray
(For those who have children still at home)
Dear God, today, I once again bring my child to you. Please show me how to parent this precious gift that you have given me. Help me to be the best mother (or caregiver) that I can be. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will teach me, Your wisdom will guide me, and Your love will move me. Most of all, Lord, I give this child to You. Please make him (her) a child after Your own heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
(For those with grown children)
Dear God, my child is no longer under my roof or under my wing. He (She) is now out in the world making life decisions of his (her) own. I give this adult child to You, Lord. May he (she) seek You with all his (her) heart. I pray that You will protect him (her), guide him (her), and open his (her) heart to the truth of God's Word every day. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth (3 John 4 NIV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of things about your child over which you have no control.
Now turn that list into a prayer and relinquish each item of concern to God.
Remember Jesus' reply to the father who said, "If you can do anything..." Write today's key verse on an index card and commit it to memory.
More from the Girlfriends
No one ever said being a parent would be easy. If it were, I don't think it would start with something called "labor!" If you would like to learn more about how to be a great parent, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.Also, Sharon offers a 4x5 laminated prayer cardof Scripture to pray for your children or grandchildren.
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May 4, 2012
If You Want Joy ... Real Joy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" (John 10:10, NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus lived and died so that we can experience abundant life, a life exuding joy, a life so full that others crave to know the source of that fullness. Jesus did not come so that we can merely survive life. Pagans can survive life. Jesus came to be our joy.
I came across this quote: "Joy is the flag that flies above the castle of our hearts indicating that the King reigns within." If that is true, then why are so many women living lives with little or no joy? I'm afraid that we have bought the lies of the enemy, allowing him to steal our joy. Discouragement, weariness, disillusionment, shattered dreams and unrealized goals are some of his favorite weapons, but the truth is that the enemy can only use what we allow him to use.
It is time for us to reclaim surrendered ground. Do you sometimes think you are fighting the same old battles you have been fighting for years? I do. Clinging to familiar pain, we find our identity there. Consumed with our own agenda, joy is buried under a mountain of self.
Joy is not the result of outward circumstances. Joy is an inside job, a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. Every trial or loss, every defeat or victory measured against this confidence can be counted as joy.
The Apostle Paul was a man of great joy. By human terms, he had every right to be angry and even bitter. Persecuted, imprisoned and facing His own death, Paul says, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:12-12, NIV).
The expression, "Have a good day" is a common greeting. I heard about one woman who, when told to have a good day, responded, "Thanks, but I have other plans." Sound familiar? We rise to face each day with a perspective of pending doom instead of the certain joy that is ours through Jesus Christ. God created the world in a process of one day at a time. At the end of each day, He examined his work and announced: "It is good!" We, too, can learn to see the good in each day. We can learn to be joyful. How?
Check your heart.
"My heart and my flesh sing for joy to the living God" (Psalm 84:2, NAS).
In this verse, "heart" literally means "body and soul" or "whole being." In other words, what's down in the well comes up in the bucket. Real joy is found in and flows from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. God's very presence in our lives is His eternal reminder that Jesus died on a cross, rose from the grave and is coming again. Have you turned your heart and life over to Jesus?
Choose to rejoice.
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything" (James 1:2, NIV).
We cannot avoid pain but we can avoid joy. The pursuit of joy is a matter of choice. Our inward perspective does not have to reflect our outward circumstances. We can choose joy!
A little boy was overheard talking to himself as he strutted through the backyard, a baseball cap on his head, ball and bat in hand. He was muttering, "I'm the greatest hitter in the world!" Then he tossed the ball in the air, swung at it and missed. "Strike one!" He picked up the ball, threw it into the air and said to himself, "I'm the greatest hitter ever!" He swung at the ball again. "Strike two!" He paused, examined his bat and ball and threw the ball into the air, missing a third time. He cried out, "Wow! I'm the greatest pitcher in the world!"
Yes, the pursuit of joy is a matter of choice and perspective. It is also a matter of obedience. As Christians, one of our spiritual priorities should be joy.
"One ship sails east.
One ship sails west.
Regardless of how the winds blow,
It is the set of the sail
And not the gale
That determines the way we go."
(Author unknown)
Set your sails for joy, girlfriend! Celebrate! Revel in who God is, in what He has done, is doing and will do in your life when you choose joy.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You with praise in my heart and on my lips. Forgive me when I doubt You and what You are doing in my life. Please help me to walk by faith – not by sight. Teach me to see my daily life through Your eyes and show me how to walk in Your joy.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define joy? Would the people who know you best describe you as a woman of joy?
Read Psalm 16:11. "Being with You will fill me with joy." What does this verse say to you about the connection between God's presence and a life of joy?
What is blocking the flow of God's joy in your life? Is it a sin you need to confess? A relationship you need to make right? A step of obedience you need to take? Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what action you need to take to experience the joy of the Lord.
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May 7, 2012
Taking Every Thought Captive Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, my family went on an excursion out West. We flew to Nevada, rented a car, and then proceeded to log in 2500 miles in ten days. One of our stops was Jackson Hole, Wyoming – Cowboy Country.
On Saturday night, we attended the local rodeo. There we sat, three city slickers among whoopin' hollerin' locals. The cowboys' skills entertained and amazed those of us who thought a Bronco was a 4-wheel drive. Cowboys, young and old, rode bucking broncos, raced around barrels, and conquered angry bulls. But the most thrilling event was the lassoing contest.
We all sat on the edge of our seats as the cowboy waited, poised in his saddle, anticipating the calf's release from the chute. The corral door swung open and the calf burst from the gate. The cowboy exploded through a second door with lasso in hand, and pursued the bucking, twisting, galloping animal. He lassoed the calf's neck, threw him to the ground, quickly wrapped the rope around his legs, tied them securely in place, and immediately jumped up and raised his arms in victory. As the victor stood receiving his applause, his trained steed took three steps backward to secure the rope in place.
The timer continued to run for a few seconds to make sure the calf was indeed captive. Then the cowboy's time was posted on the scoreboard. Time and time again, cowhands lassoed little calves, secured their captives, and raised their hands in victory. Only a few times did a calf escape the rope and make his way out the door on the other end of the corral.
I'll admit that I was feeling a bit sorry for the little calves, even though they were released as soon as the time was logged. The first time one escaped the lasso, I applauded wildly. Angry onlookers let me know with a glare that cheering for the calf was not acceptable. As I continued to watch the contest, the Lord prodded my mind and told me to look and learn. Suddenly it hit me. This event was a perfect picture of what Paul described in today's truth.
Those calves reminded me of wild and wooly thoughts that burst forth from the stable of my mind at times: negative, rebellious, fearful, angry, worrisome, jealous, degrading thoughts that are untamed and unruly, bucking, jumping and running wild across pleasant plains. And when my thoughts are ungodly, my reaction should be like the cowboy's: ride up hot on the thought's heels, lasso it with the truth, tie it up securely, and throw it in the dust. My response should be just like the cowboy's trusty trained horse who, automatically, because of practice, takes three steps backward to make sure the deceptive thought "ain't goin' nowhere."
Trained because of practice. Taking every thought captive. Yes siree. Let's lasso those thoughts little sister, tie 'em up, and throw em' back in the dust where they came from in the first place. Then we can raise our arms in victory with all the heavenly hosts applauding in victory. And believe me, the faster we do it, the better.
In my next four devotions, we'll look at four simple steps for taking every thought captive. Mary and Gwen's devotions will be interspersed. I don't want you to miss them. I couldn't go a week without these gal pals. But when I return, I'll pick right back up where we left off in taking every thought captive.
My prayer is that you'll put these steps into practice in your own life and light up the scoreboard with victory in lassoing those runaway thoughts.
See you next time!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes my thoughts run wild. I believe things are true when they aren't and don't believe things are true when they are. Help me to take every thought captive that is not of You. Fill me with Your Truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you had a runaway thought that was not godly?
At what point did you realize the thought was not of God?
Look up Philippians 4:8 and meditate on this litmus test for our thoughts.
Pick one of the guidelines from Philippians 4:8 and tell me which one you are going to focus on today at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind. If you would like to learn more about how to take every thought captive, Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, is the perfect resource. This will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and start believing the truth. While you're there, download a free sample chapter and watch the introductory video.
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May 8, 2012
The Forever People
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the LORD Forever (Psalm 23:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Life is a marathon – not a fifty yard dash. When the psalmist says, "I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever," he is reminding us that we were created for eternity. But instead of focusing on eternal things, we waste precious emotional energy and priceless spiritual power by fixing our gaze on the here and now. I am not saying that we need to ignore what God gives us to do today because the truth is that each step on each day's path is filled with God ordained opportunities. What I am saying is that much of our stress comes when we measure life and hold it up against the wrong backdrop.
When our son was a little boy, he was photogenic and a full-fledged ham in front of just about any camera. I will never forget the day that a simple photo session turned into a holy moment for me.
Christmas was just around the corner which meant that it was time for new pictures. It seemed like everyone was having a special - you know the ones I'm talking about – where you get a ridiculous number of pictures for $2.99. When we arrived for our appointment, I was amazed to find that we were the only ones in the studio. The photographer took one look at the blue outfit Jered was wearing, and began to move props, pull down a different backdrop and rapidly snap pictures. Jered laughed, called out to the audience of shoppers strolling by and in general, put on quite a show. I was so proud!
When the session was done, the photographer asked if he could take some extra shots for his studio walls. Now I ask you, what mother is going to refuse that offer? Certainly not this one! For over an hour, Jered was framed against different colored backdrops as the photographer worked his magic. I began to notice a pattern. The blue backdrop made Jered's bright blue eyes dance while the red backdrop heightened his jet black hair. With every backdrop, Jered's appearance changed slightly. In was then that God quietly unveiled an extraordinary truth in an ordinary moment.
We must be very careful to choose the right backdrop against which we live our lives. Our backdrop is eternity – not the tyranny of urgent demands made by a relentless world. Our backdrop is an old rugged cross and an empty tomb – not the temporary trials or painful circumstances we face in this very fleeting life. We are "forever" people. Like the old song says, "This world is not my home. I'm just passing through."
My favorite words in the Bible are "but God." Those two words create an eternal backdrop that changes everything. Everything looks different when He comes. Everything is made different by His presence. To survive and succeed in life, we must stop and take the long look, refusing to fix our gaze on the "little things" that are meant to divert God's plan. If we want to live a life of victory, our glance must be on the circumstances and ourgaze must be on Him.
A beekeeper once told pastor and evangelist, F.B. Meyer, how young bees are nurtured to ensure their healthy development. The queen lays each egg in a six-sided cell which is filled with enough pollen and honey to nourish the egg until it reaches a certain stage of maturity. The top is then sealed with a capsule of wax. When the food is gone, it is time for the tiny creature to be released. However, the wax is so hard to penetrate that the bee can only make a very narrow opening. In fact, the opening is so narrow that in the agony of exit, the bee rubs off the membrane that encases its wings. When the bee finally does emerge, its wings are strong enough to fly. The beekeeper said that a moth once got into the hive and devoured the wax capsules. The young bees easily escaped the capsule but they could not fly.
Choosing an eternal perspective is a spiritual discipline that makes stress yield to God's peace. Does that mean we will float through each day without facing trials, defeats, enemies or impossibilities? No – but it does mean that the backdrop against which we view those dark moments will be replaced with the truth that there is an eternal purpose in every pain and that is through the struggle out of that darkness that we gain the strength to fly and become all God created us to be – now and forever.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the eternal life I have in You. Forgive me when I get so caught up in the things of this world that I forget who I am and where I am going. I am Your child. I am Your daughter and my home is in Heaven with You. Praise God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Does your life reflect the truth that you were made for Heaven?
Against what backdrop are you living your life?
Read Philippians 3:20. "But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control; will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body" (NIV).
Where is your eternal citizenship?
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If you have surrendered your life to Jesus Christ and made Him the Lord of your life, you can celebrate that fact that your eternal citizenship is in Heaven. But if you don't know Him, today is the day to invite Him into your life. Need help? Click HEREto find out how to make the most important decision of your life.
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May 9, 2012
Taking Every Thought Captive Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does.The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ," (2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, we looked at 2 Corinthians 10:5 and the idea of taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. We compared it to roping a calf in a lassoing contest. Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind; right as the calf comes bursting through the door. Let's look at four simple steps for taking every thought captive and lassoing those runaway thoughts.
STEP ONE
Realize the Enemy's True Identity
On Tuesday morning, September 11, 2001, after I got my son off to school and my husband off to work, I took a long walk through my neighborhood. The sky was crystal clear blue with a gentle breeze. It was a gorgeous cool North Carolina fall day with just a hint of color on the leaves. There was nothing special on my schedule - just the ordinary. However, one hour later, because of a horrendous terrorist attack on our country in New York City and Washington, DC, by evil personified, the day turned into anything but ordinary. I watched in horror as the television played and replayed the airplanes crashing into the World Trade Center towers and the Pentagon.
Amazingly, we never saw it coming. As I thought about that, God reminded me: That's how the enemy always attacks. When you least expect it.
Let's think about another monumental day in our country's history. On December 31, 1999, the country and the world braced for the potentially disastrous effects of Y2K. Families and businesses alike prepared for months for what might occur as the clock ticked past 11:59 PM and into the new millennium. We held our breaths, clasped our hands and braced ourselves. Yes, we were ready. What happened? Nothing. The new millennium came without incident.
Oh dear friends, do you see the correlation? There is an enemy who seeks to kill, steal, and destroy (John 10:10). His name is Satan. He desires to destroy us just as sure as the hijackers drove those airplanes into, and toppled, the twin towers in New York City.
Satan has other names – the devil, the accuser of the brethren, a liar, the father of lies, and the deceiver. A deceiver is someone who presents a lie in such a way, it sounds like the truth. He can make you believe something is not true when it is and make you believe something is true when it isn't. He speaks in your own voice. The thoughts feel like you, because they are the old you that he has memorized so well. He's not very creative, but he is very effective and he uses the same methods with us he's used since the beginning of time.
The first step to changing the way we think is to recognize the enemy's true identity. It's not your mother; it's not your father; it's not the person who abused you as a child. The real enemy is Satan himself and he uses your past hurts and failures as cannon fodder to wound you. If you don't have sufficient ammo in your past, he concocts some of his own.
In my next three devotions, we'll continuing look at the steps for taking every thought captive. Mary and Gwen's devotions will be interspersed. I don't want you to miss them. I couldn't go a week without these gal pals. But when I return, I'll pick right back up where we left off and move on to Step Two of taking every thought captive.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I know that I cannot win a battle if I do not know who I am fighting. Help me to recognize the enemy's true identity. Spiritual warfare is very real. Today, I put on the armor of God and stand firm against the powers of the enemy. I am more than a conqueror through the power of Jesus Christ.
In His Name I pray and stand,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you blamed someone for a difficulty in your life when it might have been an attack of the enemy?
Go back and read John 10:10. What does the enemy desire to do?
What is he called in John 8:44?
Why do you think it is important to know who the real enemy is in order to win the battle?
Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes or my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com and share you answer.
More from the Girlfriends
Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind. If you would like to learn more about how to take every thought captive, Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, is the perfect resource. This will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and replace the lies with the truth. While you're there, download a free sample chapter and watch the introductory video.
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May 10, 2012
The Spiritual Cancer
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble" (James 4:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
C.S. Lewis called pride a "spiritual cancer" that devours love and contentment. Pride is a sign of our own insecurity and feelings of inferiority. Pride and inferiority are actually opposite sides of the same coin and are both sin, a preoccupation with self that leaves little room for God's spirit of humility.
We all struggle with pride and must constantly battle the tendency to measure every circumstance and relationship against the narcissistic viewpoint of "What's in it for me?" Pride has no place in the life of a Christian because pride steps between God and us. To think that God stands in opposition against prideful people is a strong and sobering statement that should send us all running to the place of humility. Because He is a loving Father, God opposes pride, in part, for what it does to His children. "Pride will destroy a person; a proud attitude leads to ruin. It is better to be humble and be with those who suffer than to share stolen property with the proud" (Proverbs 16:18-19). Learning to deal with pride is an important and essential part of spiritual growth.
Pride will prevent us from seeing others as God sees them. Pride will hold us back from laying down our expectations and rights in order to reach out to those who cross our path. Pride will slowly erode the humble spirit God so wants to see in His people and in their relationships. I suspect that a good dose of humility would cure many of our failing marriages, broken family relationships and struggling friendships. Then the question becomes, how can we eliminate pride and prevent it from carving out a destructive stronghold from which relationship problems arise. The answer is found in a passage of scripture written by the apostle Paul and directed to the church in Rome.
Romans 12:3 -6;10 "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
Paul certainly understood what it meant to struggle with pride. Before his encounter with Christ, Paul had been a man of great arrogance. After all, he was a power broker in the Roman government as well as a highly regarded and chief persecutor of anyone following Jesus Christ. Little did Paul know what the road to Damascus held for him that day when God interrupted Paul's life with His blinding love and His unparalleled power. Everything changed. Paul became a humble man, the walking definition of a servant, delighting in his new role of striving to be last among the least. Paul understood that he was a trophy of grace; that his heart had been captured by grace and his life completely transformed in the process. God's grace was Paul's starting place and finish line and the very reason Paul was so humble and so powerful. It is such a paradox in God's economy of life that in order to be strong we must choose weakness and in order to be first we must be content with last.
The amazing truth is that grace is ours for the asking. God stands ready to pour His priceless grace into every heart and soul while watching grace work to generate an unexplainable peace, eternal life, unending joy, and freedom from sin through unconditional love. Grace offers us the riches of God, at the expense of Jesus Christ and His death on the cross.
Pride's goal is to make us independent of God, duping us into believing that we are in control of our own fate and are able to call our own shots. What audacity we possess as humans to think we can live life on our own when, whether we admit it or not, we are totally dependent on God and even our very next breath is a gift from His hand. Pride convinces us that we can play God, worshipping ourselves while erecting false idols shrouded in rebellion and sin. Pride is the universal religion of hell and a deadly poison. It's antidote? Grace.
A friend told me about a new product she found listed online. "Disposable Guilt Bags" first appeared in a few select stores to test the market. I could have told the inventor that guilt exists in abundance and that people will go to any lengths to assuage their guilt. My friend explained that you could buy a set of Disposable Guilt Bags, ten ordinary brown bags on which were printed the following instructions: "Place the bag securely over your mouth then take a deep breath and blow out all of your guilt. Close the bag and dispose of immediately." The amazing part of this story is that the Associated Press reported that over 2500 kits had sold immediately at $2.50 per kit.
Nothing on this earth is powerful enough to erase guilt. We try to "fix" ourselves but fail. The only power that makes it possible to be forgiven is God's grace. "In Christ we are set free by the blood of his death. And so we have forgiveness of sins because of God's rich grace" (Ephesians 1:7). When our lives are lived against the backdrop of grace, pride will die from a lack of attention.
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive my arrogant heart. I am so sorry for the pride I see in my life. Today, I ask You to search my heart and destroy the strongholds of pride and ego. Help me to recognize prideful thoughts and actions in my life. Give me the discernment to be honest and transparent before You and before others. I, too, am a trophy of grace. Help me to live like one.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Read the following verses and answer each question:
Psalm 10:4 "In his pride the wicked does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God" (NIV). How does pride affect our relationship with God? Is this true in your life?
Proverbs 16:5 "The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished" (NIV). What is God's attitude toward those who are proud?
Psalm 40:4 "Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods" (NIV). How does pride encourage idolatry? Do you have any idols in your life? Name them and eliminate them.
What decision do you need to make today in order to choose grace over pride? What would that look like in your daily life?
More from the Girlfriends
Guilt is one of Satan's favorite ways to discourage us. Enough! We are daughters of the King and children of Grace. Learn who you are in God's eyes through Mary's message, In His Eyes. Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, will help you learn how to face and deal with the pain in your life. Need a friend? Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 11, 2012
Taking Every Thought Captive Part 3
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"[Inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One), (2 Corinthians 10:5).
Friend to Friend
My neighbor, Michael, was a stand-in for Samuel, the nine-year-old son of Benjamin Martin (Mel Gibson) in the movie The Patriot. For months, Michael wore his hair long with extensions, donned Italian knickers and knee-high stockings and acted the part of an American colonial boy. He traveled to rural South Carolina where part of the movie was filmed and received an education in the production of the silver screen. Michael saw how producers and makeup artists made something appear as though it were real when it wasn't.
The movie was rated R for violent content, but his parents let nine-year-old Michael watch it upon release. It was a bloody realistic reenactment of the horrors of the Revolutionary War. However, during the guts and gore, little Michael didn't even bat an eye. Why? He knew it wasn't real.
During one scene, Mel Gibson pummeled a British soldier and landed a hatchet square in the middle of his bloody forehead. I covered my eyes. Michael watched nonplussed. His comment?
"That guy walked around the set with that hatchet in his head for three days. We even ate lunch together and he had that hatchet with fake blood glued to his face. It isn't real."
Michael knew what was true and it removed all fear. That's the power of the truth. Yesterday we looked at step one to taking every thought captive. Today let's look at step two:
Step One: Realize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
In 2 Corinthians 2:11 Paul says, "For we are not unaware of his (Satan's) schemes." So let's take a few moments and look at his battle plan.
If Satan came to you in a little red suit with a pitchfork and announced himself as the devil, you wouldn't believe a word he said. But he is cunning and disguises himself as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14). When he deceived Eve, he even quoted Scripture – albeit twisted and distorted. He has a collection of old tapes from your past and pushes rewind and play, rewind and play. Oh yes, he knows just which buttons to push. He also uses personal pronouns like "I" instead of "you." The thoughts sound something like this: "I am a failure. I am a loser. I can't do anything right. I am ugly." The thoughts sound like you, feel like you, and before you know it, you think it is you. He did this all throughout Scripture and he still does it today. (See 1 Chronicles 21:1 as an example.)
Satan knows exactly which lies to whisper in your ear. He has watched you over the years and is well acquainted with your insecurities, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities. Do you tend to get discouraged? He will plant seeds of discouragement in your mind. Do you tend to feel rejection and loneliness? He will put ideas that you are rejected in your mind. But are they true? No they are not. You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength. You are loved and chosen by God. That is the truth.
Here's a simple exercise. If you aren't sure if a thought is of the enemy, attach, "In Jesus Name," to the end of it. For example: "I can't stand that woman, in Jesus' Name." "I don't love my husband, in Jesus' Name." "I am a loser, in Jesus Name." Just doesn't fit, does it? That is not a fail-safe method for detecting the truth versus a lie, but it is a quick litmus test that takes us in the right direction.
Step two in taking every thought captive is Recognizing Satan's Lies.
Join me next time as we look at step three to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. But before we get there, you'll get to visit with another one of the GiGs.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to recognize Satan's lies. I know the only way to recognize a lie is to know the truth. I pray that the Holy Spirit will convict me when I am believing a lie and that He will help me see Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of some of the negative thoughts that have run through your mind this week. Now attach "in Jesus' Name" to the end of that thought. What does that reveal?
What are some lies that you have believed about who you are? For example: I am a loser. I can't do anything right. I am used goods. I can never be forgiven. I am too far gone.
Friend, each one of those statements is a lie of the enemy. Now, who does God say that you are? Not sure? Take a look at the list found on my Free Resource page. Visit my website at www.sharonjaynes.com, go to the Free Resource tab and click on Life Living Resources.
More from the Girlfriends
This series of lessons were originally written in Sharon's book,
Becoming Spiritually Beautiful– Seeing Yourself from God's Perspective. However, these particular lessons had such a great impact, she wrote a follow-up book,I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves that goes into much greater detail on how to overcome the lies of the enemy. If this is an area where you struggle, I'm Not Good Enough is the book for you. You can find both on her website at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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May 14, 2012
Trust God with Your Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ephesians 5:15-16 (ESV) "Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil."
Friend to Friend
Discipline is obedience, a lifetime process that brings us to a state of order by training and controlling our behavior. Discipline is focusing and eliminating, zeroing in on what is important in every area of life. Discipline not only leads to right thinking, pleasing behavior and balanced emotions but also produces a purpose-driven life based on right goals and priorities.
Time management is a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline for many of us. We have either forgotten or failed to realize the truth that our minutes, hours and days are precious commodities -- gifts from God that can be unwrapped only once. Time is wasted unless it is invested in goals and priorities that are rooted in God's plan.
A busy life is not necessarily a productive life, girlfriends. Oh, I can hear it now! "I am very busy, but I am busy doing good things." Those words were the cry of my heart just before I crashed and burned and landed in a pit of clinical depression. The problem with my list of "good things" was that it was just that – my list – which was the wrong list for my life. The result was exhaustion, burnout and disobedience.
One of the most important lessons of my "pit experience" was that my perspective of time was skewed. I had poured years into making my plan successful only to discover the truth that God resources and empowers His plan alone. Outlook determines outcome. It was painfully obvious I needed an outlook adjustment, an eternal perspective. I needed to understand the truth that my time is not really mine to do with as I please. It is a resource on loan to me from God. As a result, every plan, priority and goal should be held against the backdrop of eternity because it is from that backdrop that our priorities are validated, our calling confirmed and our time best invested.
Learning how to trust God with our time is a challenge for us all. I am, by no means, an expert in this area, but I do want to share some simple ideas that have worked for me.
Tithe your time. Just as we tithe our money, we should tithe our time. God blesses and multiplies the time we set aside to spend in Bible study, prayer and service.
Get organized. In 1 Corinthians 14:40, we are challenged to "do all in a fitting and orderly way." In other words, being organized is a spiritual discipline, freeing us from the tyranny of the urgent while making room for the eternal things that matter. Here are some simple organizational tips:
· Buy and keep a calendar. Writing things down keeps me from wasting time and "bunching up" activities. It takes the pressure off to remember everything and allows me to see, at a glance, what is important.My weeks and months are more evenly scheduled and I am forced to prioritize, doing the important things first.
· Choose one day a week to plan. Every Sunday afternoon, I plan the week ahead, recording the main tasks I need to complete and scheduling the appointments I need to make and keep. Pray over your week, asking the Holy Spirit to make clear those things ordained for each day.
· Simplify and eliminate.Experts advise us to approach spring cleaning by dealing with one closet at a time. The same principle works with time management. Break jobs up into manageable steps so that the large tasks seem doable.
· Tackle the dreaded task first.I have discovered that tackling the job I dread the most energizes me for the rest of the tasks. I have also learned to use my best time, the time of the day when my energy is highest, for the most important and the most difficult tasks.
· Stop activity when it becomes unproductive. Sometimes, a 10 minute break will boost energy, refocus attention and get creative juices flowing.
· Begin a task, even if you won't have time to complete it. I hate doing laundry and frequently long for the day of disposable clothing. As a result, I often do the laundry in phases. For example, I will start the wash and go answer email. I then toss the wet clothing into the dryer and work on a writing assignment. You get the idea!
· Delegate.When we delegate work to our children, we are teaching them godly discipline as well as basic life skills they need to learn. The church is filled with people waiting to be pushed out of their comfort zones in service. Look for those potential leaders and delegate.
· Leave margins in your schedule.I tend to fill every time slot during the day. Therefore, when the "unexpected" comes along, I am overwhelmed and unprepared. Building margins of time into our schedules is a step of faith, trusting God to fill them in any way He chooses.
· Yield to the seasons of life.When my children were small, I did not travel and speak as much as I do now. Do not sacrifice your family on the altar of a career or even a ministry. Our greatest mission field is our home, our marriage and our children. It does not matter how much we do or how successful we are, if home and family get the leftovers of our time, energy, emotions and spiritual service, we are walking in sin and disobedience.
Let's face it. If we don't set priorities -- others will. Time thieves will steal our time as we allow them to impose their plans and standards on us. While it is true that different women have different priorities and different seasons of life, it is also true that one priority remains steadfast. Matthew 6:33 "Seek ye first the kingdom of God..." Once that priority is firmly established, the rest of life will surely fall into place, and we will be trusting God with our time.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live a life of power and purpose. I now surrender my time to You, Lord, and choose to invest each moment wisely. I will no longer put off doing what I know You want me to do. I will line up my priorities according to Your Word and will seek to be more disciplined with my time. I will set boundaries that please and honor God. Today, I choose to trust You with my time.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture. Memorize at least one and record it in your journal. What one new truth has God given you about time through today's devotional?
· Psalm 90:12 (ESV) "So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom."
· Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV) "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven."
· Psalm 39:4-5 (ESV) "O Lord, make me know my end and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting I am! Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath!"
More from the Girlfriends
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May 15, 2012
Taking Every Thought Captive Part 4
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ," (2 Corinthians 10:5).
Friend to Friend
In my past three devotions, we looked at two steps for taking every thought captive. Today, let's look at step three: Reject the Lie.
Once I had a door-to-door vacuum salesman come to my house. To my detriment, I let him in. Before I could convince him I did not need a new vacuum cleaner, he had his demonstration trash sprinkled all over my foyer floor. Almost two hours later, I finally got him to leave.
What was my first mistake? You know it! My first mistake was to let him cross the threshold of my doorway and enter my house. Once he was in, it was difficult to get him out. It is the same way with our thoughts. Once we entertain a thought, once we allow the "salesman" to scatter his "trash" in our minds, it is hard to dismiss it or push it back out again. The place of easiest victory is at the threshold; don't even let the trash in the door. It has been said, "Every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind." I think victory is possible once the thought has passed over the threshold, but it sure will save us a lot of heartache and pain if we begin to recognize Satan's lies and reject them from the start.
Let's go back to 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 and dig a little deeper by discovering the rich meaning of some of the key words in the original Greek language of the New Testament.
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
This verse tells us that through Christ, we have the power to demolish strongholds. What is a stronghold? The Greek word for stronghold is echo, meaning, "to hold fast." A derivation of that same word, echuroma means "a stronghold, fortification, fortress." Bible teacher, Beth Moore, describes them as "anything in our lives that we hold on to that ends up holding us." They are formed when thoughts or habit patterns "echo" time and time again in our minds. They are negative thoughts that are burned into our minds through repetition (such as verbal abuse) or a one-time traumatic incident (such as a rape). These thought patterns have the potential to grab hold of a mind and rule a life. Many strongholds are built brick-by-brick for protection, but inevitably they become prisons. Beth goes on to say, "No matter what the stronghold may be, they all have one thing in common: Satan is fueling the mental tank with deception to keep the stronghold running."
The word demolish implies a kind of destruction requiring tremendous power – divine power. One reason many Christians have remained in a yoke of slavery to past sins and lies of the enemy is because they swat at strongholds like they are mosquitoes instead of blasting them with the truth like they are concrete fortresses formed by years of construction.
We cannot destroy demonic strongholds on our own strength even on our best days. The Holy Spirit can destroy strongholds with His power even on our worst days. The power of the Holy Spirit is the Greek word dunamous, which is where we get the word dynamite. "The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds."
The verse goes on to describe another area that needs to be destroyed."We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God." I don't know about you, but on a few occasions, (OK, on more occasions than I can count) I have argued with God and against the knowledge of God. Guess what? God always wins.
The Greek word for arguments is logismos, meaning "a reckoning, calculation, consideration, reflection." A calculated thought might be a conclusion that you are a failure, after you have failed at something. That seems logical. It all adds up. Upon reflection, it seems highly probable. However, that's not what the Truth says. It is against the knowledge of God. Regardless of your calculations, God says you are a saint who has been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, a child of God, and a co-heir with Christ. You are not a failure and you need to reject the lie. When the thought comes into your head, simply say, "I reject that thought. It is a lie of the enemy and not the truth of God. I failed in this instance, but I am not a failure."
So far we've looked at three steps to taking every thought captive:
Step One: Recognize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
Step Three: Reject the Lies
Join me next time as we look at the final step to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I'll admit that I toy with thoughts that I know are not true. I feel sorry for myself, entertain thoughts of rejection, and sometimes even feel like nobody loves me. Those are lies. All of them. Right now, I commit to reject the lies of the enemy as soon as the thought comes into my head. Thank you for the truth that sets us free from feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength – and that's the truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I want you to write down five lies that you tend to believe about yourself and leave some space between them. Now, I want you to write down a truth from the Bible for each one that lets you know it is a lie.
Let me get you started.
Lie: I can't do anything right.
Truth: I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
Lie: Nobody ever prays for me.
Truth: Jesus said: "I pray for ...those you have given me. John 17:9
I'd love to hear your truth to replace a lie. It might be just what one of your GiGs needs to hear. Share the lie and the corresponding truth to replace the lie at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
This series of lessons is taken from Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful– Seeing Yourself from God's Perspective. However, the lessons had such a great impact, she wrote a follow-up book,I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves that goes into much greater detail on how to overcome the lies of the enemy. If this is an area where you struggle, I'm Not Good Enough is the book for you. You can find both on her website. This resource will help you change that stinkin' thinkin' and see yourself as God sees you!
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May 16, 2012
Taking Every Thought Captive Part 5
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ," (2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last 4 devotions, I've looked at steps to taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I'm proud of you for sticking with it! Today's the last of the series. If you've missed any of the series, you can read them all on my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com. Let's review:
Step One: Recognize the Enemy's True Identity
Step Two: Recognize Satan's Lies
Step Three: Reject the Lies
And today we're looking at step four: Replace the lies with the Truth
Just as Satan tempted Eve in the Garden, he tried to tempt Jesus in the wilderness. How did Jesus fight the enemy? He fought him with Scripture – He conquered him with the truth. Each time Satan put an evil thought before Him, Jesus said, "It is written...."
It is not a sin to be tempted. The Bible says that Jesus was tempted and yet did not sin. It becomes a sin when we act on the thought or accept the lie as truth. As Martin Luther once said, "You can't keep the birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hat."
Let me give you this example. I believe that Satan sends us e-mails all day long (evil-mails). If you get a seductive e-mail on the screen of your computer, is it your fault? Not unless you've placed yourself on some bad e-mail lists. When does that e-mail become a sin? The moment you click on it and accept the invitation.
Likewise, when the enemy tempts you to believe a lie, the temptation is not sin. It becomes sin if you accept the thought as your own and act on it. Your responsibility is to delete the lie and replace it with the truth.
When it comes to defeating Satan, Dr. Neil Anderson said it well: "You don't have to out shout him or out muscle him to be free of his influence. You just have to out truth him."
Below are some common lies of the enemy and the truth that "demolishes" them. I have listed each lie in the first person, "I," because that is how the enemy puts them into our thoughts.
Satan's Lie Nobody loves me.
God's Truth For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son. (John 3:16)
Satan's Lie I'm not able to do this job. I don't have the right gifts.
God's Truth Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant. (2 Corinthians 3:5)
Satan's Lie God couldn't love me.
God's Truth How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! (I John 3:1)
Satan's Lie I'm so worried about this. I can't help it.
God's Truth Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving; present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. - (Philippians 4:6)
Satan's Lie I'm a loser.
God's Truth I have been blessed in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. (Ephesians 1:3)
Satan's Lie I can't help myself.
God's Truth Resist the devil and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)
In order to win the battle for our minds, we must refuse the lies and replace them with the truth. The more we think on the truth quicker we will recognize the lies and replace them with truth.
Girlfriend, I'm proud of you for sticking with me these five days. T he Bible says "Wisdom brightens a face and changes its hard appearance" (Ecclesiastes 8:1 NIV). I'd say you are absolutely glowing. Stunning.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, today I am choosing to believe the truth. Help me realize the enemy's true identity, recognize the lies, reject the lies, and replace his lies with Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It's seems the key to this entire process of taking every thought captive is knowing and applying the truth! So let's commit 2 Corinthians 10:5 to memory. In this series, I quoted from several different translations. Chose the translation that is most comfortable for you and write this verse on a card. Put it on your dashboard, by your kitchen sink, or on your bathroom mirror.
See if you can name the four steps to taking every thought captive without looking.
Had to look? That's OK.You might want to write them on the back of your 2 Corinthians 10:5 the index card.
Visit me on Facebook at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me where you're going to put your card!
More From the Girlfriends
Whew! It takes a lot of thinking to think about our thinking. Now that was confusing! If getting a grip on your thoughts and emotions is something that you would like to read more about, see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough..and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. You'll learn how to apply God's transforming power to your life, and you'll find a handy reference guide of 75 common lies women believe and the truths with which to replace them.
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May 17, 2012
Trusting God with My Family
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Proverbs 14:1 (NCV) "A wise woman strengthens her family, but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does."
Friend to Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that a family is no longer simple. Family is complex and has changed to include many different relationships. But the bottom line is that family is a group of persons with whom you are doing life. Family is where we learn about God then live out the very nature and character of God in relationships. Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To trust God with our family demands that we first love and trust God in our own lives then allow that love to spill over into our family.
What a crazy day it had been! It was a day probably like many of yours. I was a young mom with two small children. My husband was the youth pastor at a large church in town. I taught a weekly Bible study for senior high girls and directed a youth choir that practiced one night a week and sang for the early worship service every Sunday. We hosted a youth Bible study in our home every Monday night ... and, well, you get the idea. My schedule was almost to the point of ridiculous, and I was exhausted most of the time. But this particular day had been crazier than most. Both kids had a cold and were grumpy. The house was a mess, the laundry was piled high, and I had a meeting at church that night. I was counting the minutes until my husband came walking through the front door. I needed rescuing. The phone rang. "Honey, I won't be able to make it home before church visitation tonight," Dan said. He sounded so tired that I could not muster up one ounce of anger. Instead, I shifted into overdrive. I snatched both kids off of the backyard swing, plopped them in the bathtub for a quick rinse and impatiently shoved little arms and legs into clean clothes while spooning food into little mouths before firmly depositing both kids in their car seats. Off we went to church for the third night in a row.
At a stop sign, I glanced in the rearview mirror and saw two miserably silent children, tears streaming down their sad little faces. I heard His voice, "Mary, what are you doing and who are you doing it for?" My heart broke. I suddenly realized that I was running the race of life for the wrong audience. Turning the car around, I headed home.
"Hey guys! Would you like to go home, put on your pajamas, make some cookies and watch a movie with me?" Cheers and clapping erupted from the back seat as tears gave way to smiling faces, and laughter and giggles filled the car and my heart. It has been over twenty years and I still remember that precious night of ministry.
Women are so busy. As believers, we delight in finding creative ways to touch hearts and are often passionate about introducing those hearts to God's love, forgiveness and transforming power – and rightly so. However, I wonder how many of us miss the hungry hearts that greet us each morning across the breakfast table or wait for us to come home each night. Do we overlook a child's silent longing for the kind of love that is spelled "t-i-m-e?" Do we miss the opportunity to encourage a weary husband who has, once again, returned home without a job? When was the last time you gave your parents a hug and thanked them for everything they have done for you over the years? Do your grandparents know how valuable their legacy of love and wisdom is to you? We make the erroneous assumption that the people in our lives know how we feel about them. Do they? And even if they do know, wouldn't it be great to tell them again?
It is so easy to lose focus and scramble priorities. We get so busy doing good things and miss one of the highest things God created us to do – family. Our public life is only as valid as our private life. Family is the perfect framing for God's highest work, the litmus test for authentic service and our greatest opportunity to meet needs in His name.
When our daughter, Danna, was a little girl, one of her favorite activities was to color a page in what she called her "special" coloring book. The book had several "special" pages, one in particular being a dull, gray picture of a butterfly. Frankly, I couldn't understand her excitement. When I asked why she liked that picture so much, Danna grinned and said, "Watch, Mommy!" She rubbed her little hands together to create warmth; then laid them on the butterfly drawing. The touch of her hand caused the special inks in the printing to react, and the dull gray was transformed into a vivid rainbow of color.
Everyone is hungry for the warm touch of someone who cares – a kind word, an act of compassion, a hug of encouragement. I believe God created the family to be the first place where that hunger is best satisfied. Yet, I am amazed that we can stand in silence, watching homes, marriages and families disintegrate before our very eyes. Silence is agreement. It is time for us, as women of God, to boldly stand against anyone and anything that undermines our marriage or threatens the solidarity of our family. It is time for us to trust God for and with our families.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to please You by the way I love my family. Today, I choose to see each family member through your eyes of love and mercy. I will wage peace in my family. I will be quick to forgive and slow to condemn. I will encourage my family members with my words, my prayers, my love and my time. I want my home to be a safe place filled with kindness and compassion, a place that illustrates Your presence and power. Today, I choose to trust my family to God.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture. Make a list of the action words in each verse. After completing the list, come up with steps you can take to illustrate the character of God in your family relationships.
· Proverbs 31:26-28 (NCV) "She speaks wise words and teaches others to be kind. She watches over her family and never wastes her time. Her children speak well of her. Her husband also praises her."
· 1 Timothy 5:8 (NCV) "Whoever does not care for his own relatives, especially his own family members, has turned against the faith and is worse than someone who does not believe in God."
· Galatians 6:10 (NIV) "Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers."
· Ephesians 1:5 (NLT) "God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ."
More from the Girlfriends
For more information on learning how to trust God with your family, check out Mary's video download, How to Love Your Family. Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 18, 2012
Stark Contrast
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be" (James 3:9-10 NIV).
Friend To Friend
The summer heat can be unbearable. North Carolina is by no means a place of cool summers. To the contrary, we Tar Heel residents expect to have our air conditioning units running almost round the clock. But the heat we've experienced the past few years has been uncommonly sweltering. At times, it's been so balmy that my sweat drops have had sweat drops! Now, you can call it global warming, or you can call it chance, but I just call it plain old hot!
On one of those crazy-hot summer days, I spent time at our local library. I sat on the lower level, which is the coolest area in the building. The vigilante AC unit worked aggressively to protect us book-reading occupants from the external heat wave. I was on that chilly lower level for the better part of two hours, and gradually turned to a human icicle. My fingers were completely numb as I signed out a Hardy Boys book for my son and turned to exit the building.
As I opened the door to leave, a forceful wave of heat swept over me. In that moment I thought, "Wow! That sure is a stark contrast! What a temperature change!" From one extreme to the other, the heat pendulum had swung. Hot to cold, and then hot again. As I considered the contrast, it occurred to me that the temperature of my life might sometimes look the same. It gave me reason to pray.
Have you ever gotten up early and had a sweet time with the LORD, only to turn into an unreasonable, raging screamer hours later? Have you ever had an argument with your spouse or children on the way to church, only to cross the threshold of the lobby with blessings and kindness on your tongue? Have you ever driven in traffic with worship music on the dash and praise on your lips when suddenly, someone cut you off and the praises on your tongue turned to cursing? If you've answered "yes" to any of these questions, welcome to the Sinner's Club. All humans have an automatic membership that activates at birth and is irrevocable until we accept forgiveness through Jesus Christ, and see His face on the other side of glory.
The Bible calls us to a higher, more consistent temperature of living. We must be careful not to praise and curse with the same tongue. "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be" (James 3:9-10 NIV).
Are you swinging the pendulum of your responses, or are they swinging you? We are accountable for our behavior. We are accountable for the way we respond to circumstances. Our responses reflect the core of who we are. They reflect our faith ... good or bad.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV).
As we go through today, let's center the thermometer of our hearts on Christ so we are less likely to respond in stark contrast to His perfect example of love. Let's live out God's grace and heed the wisdom found in Proverbs 3:3: "Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart."
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive me for the times when my responses are unkind. Please forgive me for the times when I over-react and under-love. I need the power of the Holy Spirit to moderate the temperature of my heart and my responses.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Will you live out deeper grace today? If you're ready to start fresh and declare, "By God's grace I am a new creation," then visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusicand say, "I am a new creation!"
More From The Girlfriends
Okay – this is hard! Trust me, as I was stepping on your toes with this message, I was trampling all over mine, too. Let's go in grace today, and pray that God will be strong in our weakness. We are continually being transformed into a greater likeness of Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit ... one day at a time ... thank You, Jesus!
Every step of transformation begins with the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful.This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration!
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May 21, 2012
Gossip is Deadly
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down," (Proverbs 26:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
A monster was sneaking into my yard in the dark of night and devouring my prize plants. I never saw his beady eyes or heard his pounding footsteps – just the aftermath of his destruction. He left a trail of slim as he moved from plant to plant, leaving large gaping holes in broad leaf Gerber Daisies, gnawing entire velvety trumpet-shaped blossoms on purple petunias and reducing bushy begonias to naked stalks.
I asked a neighbor about my flowerbed's demise and she determined, "You've got slugs."
Slugs!" I exclaimed. "The yard monster is a tiny little slug?"
"You can put out slug bait to catch them and see for yourself," my confident neighbor continued.
I sprinkled slug bait all around the yard and then waited. The next morning I viewed the "monsters" remains. The beasts were about ¼ inch long – about the size of my little toe nail.
How could something so small cause so much damage in such a short amount of time? I mused. Then my mind thought of something else that is very small that can cause enormous damage in a short amount of time... gossip. King Solomon wrote, "The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts." Just as one tiny slug can destroy an entire flower bed, so can one tiny morsel of gossip destroy a person's reputation, mar one's character, and devour a friendship.
In the South we have this knack for making gossips sound...almost nice. All you have to do is add "bless her heart" to the end of the sentence. It goes like this: "Susie gained fifty pounds with that last pregnancy, bless her heart." "Marcy's husband ran off with his secretary, bless her heart." "I heard Clair yelling at the postman yesterday, bless her heart." But all the "bless her hearts" don't make mask what it really is...gossip.
Solomon wrote, "Whoever repeats the matter separates close friends," (Proverbs 17:9 TNIV). Charles Allen, the author of God' Psychiatry observed: "Those of great minds discuss ideas, people of mediocre minds discuss events, and those of small minds discuss other people." Maybe if we are spending our time talking about people, we need to fill our minds with better material such as good books and other reading material (and I don't mean People Magazine or the National Enquirer).
What exactly is gossip? Webster defines gossip as "easy, fluent, trivial talk, talk about people behind their backs." It is repeating information about another person's private affairs. If you have to look around to make sure that no one can hear what you are saying, you are probably gossiping. If you would not say something in front of the person you are talking about, then you're probably gossiping.
We have often heard the phrase, "knowledge is power." Perhaps that is why gossip is so appealing. It suggests a certain amount of power because, "I have the inside scoop." But gossip is not power. On the contrary it shows a lack of power...lack of self-control.
Today, let's make our lives a NO GOSSIP ZONE.
Let's Pray
Lord, please keep a guard over my mouth today. If I even consider gossiping about someone, convict me before a word leaves my mouth. May the words of my mouth be pleasing in Your sight today. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to Webster's definition of gossip. Can you think of anything you have said in the last week that would fit that description?
Let's "say no" to gossip. If you are willing to eliminate gossip from your life, click over to www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand type in the following words: I'm living in a NO GOSSIP ZONE.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words.If you would like to learn about how to control your words and use them to speak life into those in your sphere of influence, then this is the book for you. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com to download a free chapter, watch a video or place an order.
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May 22, 2012
Let's Get it Together Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
Friend to Friend
It is much easier to give in to sin or yield to temptation when we are physically depleted. Discipline begins in the mind and then travels to the body. I can hear you groaning already, but stay with me. Sin and temptation often find their greatest opportunity to work in the body. I have struggled with diet and exercise from childhood. Part of my struggle is rooted in "fluffy" genes lovingly passed down to me through several generations of "fluffy" relatives. The remainder of my struggle is firmly rooted in the fact that I enjoy eating, hate exercise and sometimes use food as an emotional outlet. Consequently, over the years, my weight has fluctuated like a championship yo-yo. Satan rejoiced as I deemed myself "worthy" when I lost the weight and "unworthy" when I gained it back. Guilt and shame attached themselves to every bite of food, while the Battle of the Bulge became the War of Worthiness.
Marriage, motherhood and ministry brought new weapons into the fray. Ridiculously crowded schedules and chronic fatigue seemed to be regarded as holy Medals of Honor, so I signed up and quickly learned the unspoken rules of successful Christian living - rest is for the wicked, exhaustion is for the holy, fast food is for the fully devoted and burnout the ultimate goal. At times, I can almost hear Satan, standing in the wings, laughing at my skewed priorities and lack of discipline, knowing that his opening is just around the corner.
There is simply no way around the truth that discipline is part of trusting God with our health. We cannot give our hearts to God but keep our bodies for ourselves. To do so is sin. It's time for a new plan and a new way of thinking when it comes to disciplining the body.
· Eliminate diets. Replace all "diets" with a "healthy eating plan." Fad diets are quick-fixes and rarely work long-term. A healthy eating plan requires a lifestyle change and is not only a matter of how much we weigh but a matter of what we eat, as well. Many thin people follow diets that are just as unhealthy as the diets of overweight people. Ask yourself, "Is this good for me?" instead of "Is this fattening?" A healthy eating plan honors God.
· Get moving. A friend once told me her favorite exercise was opening and closing the refrigerator door. Hmm ... not good! Set realistic goals in the area of exercise. Start with 15 minutes a day, three times a week. Gradually increase that time. Choose an activity with a dual purpose. For example, while you are walking, you can pray. Walking can be a healthy way of dealing with anger, venting frustration to God instead of others. A walk can also serve as a "mini-retreat" during a chaotic day. Ask God to change your perspective on exercise – then take the first step. He will meet you there.
· Learn to rest. Rest is not an option if we are to function at our best. We sometimes try to feed emotional needs by refusing to rest. We stay busy because we are afraid to face our past or even the future. Guilt keeps us moving, trying to prove our worth.
For most of my adult life, I have wrongly equated being busy with being productive. I am guilty as charged when it comes to living each day in overdrive. My Day Timer has, at times, been my Bible. The result has always been exhaustion, burnout and watered down living. When I fell into the pit of clinical depression, everything looked great on the outside, but God and I both knew that the facade I had so carefully erected was nothing more than a meaningless monument to self. The house built upon the sand seemed like very familiar digs and I was not alone.
We are masters of rationalizing our way to man's approval. I am convinced that when we are willing to surrender our lives to the tyranny of the urgent, the enemy will keep 'em coming – people who need us immediately, those who clamor for our attention above our family and our personal relationship with God or the person who can talk to no one but us. The list of ego strokes is long.
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize my body as Your temple. Forgive me for the times when I do not care for it in a way that honors and pleases You. Give me the strength to eat right, exercise and learn to rest. I have given You my heart. I now give You my body. Glorify Yourself in and through me, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize today's key verse of Scripture in 1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV).
"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
Which one of the following steps do you need to take first in order to honor God with your body?
_____ Eliminate diets
_____ Get moving
_____ Learn to rest
More from the Girlfriends
I know it is hard to deal with temptation when it comes to treating our bodies in a godly way. Need help? Check out my E-Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation. Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 23, 2012
Let's Get it Together Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
Friend to Friend
Through the years, God has grabbed my attention with an illness that drove me to bed or a crisis that drove me to my knees. He is a persistent Father who understands the value of rest. Jesus even modeled the truth that it is in Sabbath moments where we will find Him most precious and hear His voice more clearly. After all, He was in charge of the creation process that included the need for rest. Did God need to rest? Obviously not, but by creating a day of rest, He drove home the fact that our bodies were created in such a way that rest is not an option. Make no mistake – we will rest – one way or another. The psalmist writes, "He makes me rest in green pastures." (Psalm 23:2 ICB) I know from my own experience, that the word "make" holds worlds of possibilities from God's hand. Learning to rest demands an understanding of several basic truths.
Rest is sacred. Sometimes the most spiritual thing we can do is sleep. The human body isprogrammed for a certain amount of rest. We can cheat it short term but not long term. Rest affects the efficiency rating of this frail body in which we dwell.
Rest is replenishing. While we rest, the Father repairs and restores. We run on "batteries" that must be re-charged daily. When I am tired, it is much harder for me to handle stress, and I know you will agree with me when I say that life can be stressful.
Rest reduces stress. Doctors say stress can be good or bad but either way, stress takes its toll. Elijah is a great example of good stress gone bad. One day he was the conquering hero, the next day we find him sitting under a juniper tree begging God to let him die! The poor man was exhausted. It was stress produced by victory, but stress nonetheless.
Rest eliminates fatigue. Fatigue is not a spiritual gift, but we proudly wear dark-circled eyes as badges of honor and sacrificial service. The enemy loves it! If he can keep us exhausted, we are no threat to him. We must learn to rest and when we need to rest. I have discovered an irritating truth with no escape clause – we need to rest most when we have the least amount of time to rest. I don't like it when God calls me from my vicious circle of daily life into His presence. After all, I spent a lot of time getting all of those irons into the fire I built with my own ideas and plans. However, every time I obey His call to "come apart," He transforms ineffective activity into powerful living. We need to stop, be still and rest.
Our bodies house the Holy Spirit. In what condition is your dwelling place for God? Is He pleased with His temple? A lack of physical discipline is a foothold for the enemy, an unlocked door through which disobedience and failure ride on the wings of Satan's best schemes. It is time for us to embrace and apply physical discipline as a gift and commandment from God. We must trust God with our health.
Let's Pray
Lord, today, I recognize my physical body as the temple of God. I commit to taking better care of my body by getting more rest, eating healthier foods and getting more exercise. I will make better choices about how to spend my time in order to make health a higher priority in my daily life. I praise You for the gift of health and celebrate the gift of life each day holds. I trust You with my health as an act of obedience and worship.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following two verses of Scripture carefully. Choose to memorize one of them. How do they apply to honoring God with your body?
Galatians 2:20 (NIV) "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."
Romans 6:13 (NLT) "Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourselves completely to God, for you were dead, but now you have new life. So use your whole body as an instrument to do what is right for the glory of God."
More from the Girlfriends
I know it is hard to deal with temptation when it comes to treating our bodies in a godly way. Need help? Check out my E-Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation. Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 24, 2012
Revisiting The No Gossip Zone
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down: (Proverbs 26:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion I talked about gossip. As a review, Webster defines gossip as "easy, fluent, trivial talk, talk about people behind their backs." It is repeating information about another person's private affairs. If you have to look around to make sure that no one can hear what you are saying, you are probably gossiping. If you would not say something in front of the person you are talking about, then you're probably gossiping.
But it takes two to tango the gossip dance. "Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down: (Proverbs 26:20). The Bible tells us to make every effort to avoid gossipers (Proverbs 21:19, 20:19). A good rule of thumb is if you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, then keep the information to yourself.
Paul warned, "Some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and wasting time meddling in other people's business," (2 Thessalonians 3:11 NLT). Other translations call such people "busybodies," (NAS, NIV). And listen, putting the words, "we need to pray for so-and-so" before the gossip doesn't make the gossip any less gossip.
One day a woman felt overwhelmed with guilt over her years of malicious gossip. She went to the local priest and confessed her sin. The priest was all too aware of her wagging tongue and had experienced the sting of her words first hand....or rather second hand.
What can I do to rectify all the damage I have caused with my gossip?" she asked.
"Gather a bag of feathers," he began. "Then go around to each house and place a feather at their door."
That seemed like a simple enough request, so the woman did just as the priest had instructed. After the task was complete, she returned. "I have done what you requested," she said. "Now what am I to do?"
"Now go back and retrieve each of the feathers," he replied.
"That is impossible," the woman argued. "The wind will have blown them all around town by now."
"Exactly," replied the wise priest. "Once you have spoken an ill word, it drifts through the air on wings of gossip, never to be retrieved. God has forgiven you, as you have asked. But I cannot remove the consequences of your hurtful words or gather them from the places they have landed."
Here's an idea. If a friend approaches you with some "news" or a "concern" about another person, stop and ask, "May I quote you on what you're about to tell me?" That will usually "put a lid" on the conversation before it even begins.
In my last devotion, I asked if you would be willing to make your life a NO GOSSIP ZONE. I just thought we might need to ask that question one more time. (I love you! Don't be made at me!)
If you are willing to take the challenge, click over to my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and type in the words: "I'm living in a NO GOSSIP ZONE.
Let's Pray
OK Lord, I'm coming to You with this request again. Please help me not to gossip. Help me not to repeat a matter that is none of my business. If I'm not part of the problem or part of the solution, help me to keep my lips zipped. May the words of my mouth be pleasing in Your sight!
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Since my last devotion on gossip, have you been more aware of the words coming out of your mouth?
Have you begun a story, only to stop before it actually came out of your mouth? I have! Praise God!
Consider writing this verse on an index card and taping it to your bathroom mirror.
"May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer." Psalm 19:14
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words.If you would like to learn about how to control your words and use them to speak life into those in your sphere of influence, then this is the book for you. Visit www.sharonjaynes.com to download a free chapter, watch a video or place an order.
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May 25, 2012
Counting the Ways of Love
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you." Psalm 63:2-3
Friend to Friend
Several years ago I experienced a memorable God-moment when a flight had been delayed. On that particular warm June morning, I had gotten to the Philadelphia airport crazy-early and was eager to get home to my young family after a beautiful weekend of ministry. No lie - when I saw that my flight was delayed, I was bummed. My initial disappointment, however, quickly dissolved into gratefulness, as the extra airport time became an opportunity for me to have extended personal worship.
As I sat facing the flat runway, a fiery orange ball began to rise over the horizon that was simply breathtaking. I couldn't help but to reflect on God's goodness as He bragged on Himself with the glorious sunrise. I remember sensing His presence and His pleasure deep inside as I considered a few of the reasons that I loved and was amazed by our LORD. In the chaos of the terminal, I felt a peace and serenity that was profound. Have you ever had one of those sweet, personal God-moments?
Then, as I sipped fresh-brewed coffee, my mind wandered to that classic poem "How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count The Ways," written by the talented poet of the Victorian era, Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Her poem seemed the perfect backdrop for my worship. Out of that sweet moment of personal worship was birthed the lyric for a song titled Because that I recorded later that year:
Because
by Gwen Smith and Randy Rothwell
Another flight delayed, sitting here I think of You
Sipping on a dark "Seattle's Best"
As the sun is rising, I pause to give You praise
A solitary moment in a blur of busy days
Where should I begin?
There's so much I could say
Why do I love you?
Let me count the ways...
Because You chased me
And then You caught me
Because You cherish me
Because You bought me
You change me deeply
You set my heart free
Because I'm never satisfied
Without Your presence right here by my side
People all around rushing by, just passing through
Carrying the baggage we all own
Desperate for true love, richer life and perfect peace
A chance for satisfaction with a prayer of belief
In Your presence there is serenity
Father of mercy, I love you endlessly...
Because You chased me
And then You caught me
Because You cherish me
Because You bought me
You change me deeply
You set my heart free
Because I'm never satisfied
Without Your presence right here by my side
Hear my heart in this noisy sanctuary as I sit here all alone
You are worthy of a song that's never ending
I will sing until I'm safely home, safely home
Lord I love You, Oh I love You
Have you really savored our Savior lately? Have you paused to adore Him today? What about yesterday? This week? In the midst of marriage, mothering and ministry, I constantly struggle with freeing up time to 'just sit' with God and worship... to behold Him in His sanctuary... yet this is what God desires most! Our affection. Our adoration. Our love.
So today, I praise Him for missed flights that lead to worship. I praise Him for sunrises that demand a prayerful response. I praise Him for the peace He brings to my frazzled. For the calm His presence brings to my chaos. What do you praise Him for today? Think on that. Make a list. Give Him thanks. Worship!
Before we pray together and tell God some of the endless reasons we love Him, I'd love to lead you to His heart with music. Click here to hear the song "Because" that's featured on my Facebook page: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, There are so many reasons why I love you! You chased me and caught me. You cherish me and bought me with the blood of your Son, Jesus. Please forgive me for the times when the busyness of life crowds out my time to adore You. Hear my heart today as it tenderly and sincerely whispers, "I love You!"
I praise you and pray this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write a love note to God. List at least 10 reasons why you love Him.
Read Psalm 63 and then pray for God's presence, provision and protection in your life.
Write a "love note" to someone special in your life whom you feel led to bless. Pray that God would lead you in this.
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Hey GiGs! Just wanted to let each of you know that Sharon, Mary and I really love pouring into your lives from the Word of God. I am blessed and honored to be doing life with you! Thanks for inviting us into your inbox each day!! With sincere love, Gwen.
LOVE TO WORSHIP? The song that was featured in today's devotion is on Gwen's CD, Because. Order the CD from Gwen's website (www.GwenSmith.net/store) or download it from iTunes.
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May 28, 2012
Tragedy Into Triumph
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Romans 8:28 (NIV) "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
Friend to Friend
I will never forget the day I learned how God really can turn tragedy into triumph. I was sitting at my desk, working on an assignment from the counselor I had been seeing. For months, I had been wrestling with my past - slowly, methodically working through painful issues and buried memories that seemed to be feeding the clinical depression I was battling. As page after page filled with harsh realities, a memory slammed into my heart and mind.
The pain was overwhelming as a vile scene from my childhood slowly took shape. I could hardly breathe as I frantically tried to escape the certainty I had been molested. The perpetrator had been our family doctor and a trusted friend. He had even provided free medical treatment when we couldn't pay for it. I trusted him, counted on him. As a nurse, my mother worked beside this man every day and often babysat his children to earn extra money.
Anger unlike any I had ever known fueled violent thoughts of revenge and retaliation. I was angry with this man – and angry with God. How could He have let this happen? Where was the light in this dark place?
For months, I worked through painful memories and raging emotions until I saw the first glimmer of light. It was wrapped in chosen forgiveness. I began to see that had I never been wounded so badly, I would never have been able to forgive so freely – and in doing so, discover a depth of healing and freedom only the greatest pain can produce. Today, I can honestly thank God for all He has accomplished in me through the sin of that man.
There are no accidents with God, nor is He surprised by anything or anyone in the life of His child. God uses even the most horrendous circumstances for our good. Every circumstance comes to us for a purpose, bound by God's love and plan and faithfully delivered with His permission. While we cannot go back and change our past, we can change the way we respond to our past and determine how much power it has in our lives today.
Only God can take the broken pieces of your life and make something beautiful out of each one. He is waiting for you to let go of your pain and trust Him. And you really can. No one loves you like He does. You may not always understand or even like His process, but you can always trust His heart of love for you!
Let's Pray
Father, I choose to believe You are faithful and will do what You promise to do in Your Word. I believe when I lay the pain and hurt of my past at Your feet, You not only can but will transform it all into something beautiful. I choose to believe You will turn the broken places of my life into living illustrations of Your sufficiency and healing power. I trust You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Isaiah 45:3 is one of my favorite life verses. Read it carefully:
Isaiah 45:3 (NLT) "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness—secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the Lord, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name."
What treasures have you discovered in the dark times of your life? What tragedy has God transformed into a triumph that has changed your life? Praise Him right now for doing so.
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Storms are a reality of life. If you need help facing and dealing with the storms in your life, check out Mary's E-Bible Study and video download, Strength for the Storm.
Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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May 29, 2012
It's Not About Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Let them praise the name of the LORD, for his name alone is exalted; his splendor is above the earth and the heavens" - Psalm 148:13
Friend to Friend
Some of my Girlfriends in God are not going to like this devotion. I'm not even sure I do. But I'm going to put it out there anyhow. During the month of February, I write devotions on marriage. It is the month of love, and marriages certainly are in shambles all around the world. Each February, I am flooded with e-mails: some are appreciative for the reminders on how to love their husbands; some are filled with hurt because they are in their own struggling marriage, and some are broken-hearted because of shattered dreams. These women are so thankful for the balm of God's truth in a very tender area of their lives. But I also receive e-mails from women who are not married, who do not like the attention to marriage at all. They are flat out angry and frustrated because the devotions do not pertain to them. "Don't you know that all of your readers are not married!"
"Oh honey child," as my grandmother would say.
I've seen the same attitude in church. "I didn't like that sermon." "I didn't like the singing today." "I couldn't relate to that teaching." And on and on we go. You know what I've discovered...It's not about me. It is all about God. If the pastor is preaching on a topic that is not my struggle, I pray that God will open my eyes to new truths that I've never seen. If he is talking about losing a loved one, I pray for those who have lost a loved one recently...even though that not might be my struggle at that particular time. Is the teaching on raising young children? I have a grown son, so I pray for those who are raising the next generation.
One Sunday, I was singing in church. Barely singing, I might add. It was a dry old hymn and I just wasn't into it. Then I looked at an older woman a few seats down and she had tears trickling down her wrinkled cheeks. She was moved to tears by that old hymn and was taken to the throne room of grace.
"Oh Father," I prayed. "Please forgive me. This is not about me. It's not about what I like or don't like. It is all about You. Truth is truth. Worship is worship. Help my focus be on You and You alone. It's not about me.
Here's a truth I want you to underline, memorize and ponderize (I know that is not a real word, but it should be.) Say it out loud:As long as I think the world is all about me, the angrier and tired-er I will be. The more I realize it is all about God, the happier and freer I will be. (I know tireder is not a word either. I'm just feeling feisty todayJ).
Listen to how David focused on God during worship:
Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.
He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge.
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.
Psalm 62:5-8
So let's commit to remember together...it's not about me. It's all about God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me when I make everything all about me. It's all about You! I praise You! I thank You! I worship You!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is a fun exercise. Go back and pick out one of your favorite chapters in the Bible. Now, focus on the verses that you DID NOT underline.
Here is a wonderful Psalm to use for your extended prayer time today. Open your Bible to Psalm 136 and pray that prayer of praise with David. Don't skip over the repeated refrains...His love endures forever! He repeats it for a reason. David meant it. God wants you to get it!
More from the Girlfriends
Did you know that God went to great lengths to set women free! When Jesus came to earth, women were hidden in the shadows of society and treated as property rather than people. But Jesus came to change all that! I invite you to take a look at a video about my book, What God Really Thinks about Women, and discover some news truths you may not have ever considered before! And while you're on my webpage, stop by the homepage and leave a comment!
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May 30, 2012
The Treasure of Friendship
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV) "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
Friend to Friend
Friendship is the springboard to every other love and the foundation for every healthy relationship. It is a proven fact that lonely people live shorter lives than those who have healthy friendships. Even Jesus needed friends when He walked this earth as a man. In fact, He placed great value on relationships. The Bible tells us Jesus spent much of His time deepening the relationships with a few – not the crowd.
I love the story of an ingenious teenager who was tired of reading bedtime stories to his little sister. He decided to record several of her favorite stories on tape. When he presented the tape player and tape to his sister, he explained, "Now you can hear your stories any time you want. Isn't that great?" The little girl took one look at the machine, frowned and then replied, "No! It is not great! That thing does not have a lap!"
God created us to need each other. That truth is never more evident than when we are in pain or struggling with some crisis in life. One of the main factors leading to a two-year battle with clinical depression in my life was the absence of replenishing friendships. As I think back to that time, I am sure many women would have counted themselves as my friend when, in reality, they were simply acquaintances because that was all I would allow them to be. My pride kept me from admitting I wasn't Superwoman and that I did need the help of others. My insecurity held me back from reaching out to new friends and cultivating old ones.
To admit my need of a friend seemed like a weakness instead of the precious gift God created it to be. I refused to take the risk of being hurt, rejected or misunderstood. I did not have time to invest in building intimate friendships and was too busy doing the work of God to be a friend. As a result, when the darkness hit, I felt isolated and alone. Friendship took on an entirely different meaning in my life from that point on. In fact, friends are a great source of strength and encouragement in my life today. Friends fast and pray for me, holding me accountable and confronting me when they see my priorities lining up in the wrong way. Friends make me stop and take time for fun. Friends have taught me to be transparent.
Have I been hurt along the way? Yes.
Have I been misunderstood? Yes.
Have the friendships been worth the price? Absolutely!
Roses are beautiful flowers. People who know me are aware of the fact that I can kill any plant known to mankind. I once had a neighbor who grew roses in every shade of pink, yellow and red. I often watched Joan work in her garden and eventually realized she never handled the roses without wearing long sleeves and thick gloves. The roses were beautiful, but their thorns were not and could certainly inflict a lot of pain. In fact, my neighbor always seemed to have cuts and scrapes on her hands and arms even with the long sleeves and gloves she wore. I once asked Joan why she continued to grow roses and jokingly suggested she might want to consider raising a less dangerous kind of flower. I will never forget her answer and the profound truth it held, "The beauty of the rose is worth the occasional wound it gives. I have learned to handle the roses with respect and in such a way that my wounds are few." The same truth can be said of friendships.
The words of Jesus found in John 13:34-35, portray the perfect backdrop for God's love. "And so I am giving a new commandment to you now--love each other just as much as I love you. Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciples." Does the world know we are His disciples by the way we love and relate to each other?
Chad was a shy, quiet little boy. One day he came home and told his mother he'd like to make a valentine for everyone in his class. Her heart sank. "I wish he wouldn't do that!" she thought. She had watched the children when they walked home from school. Her Chad was always behind them. They laughed and hung on to each other and talked to each other, but Chad was never included. Still, she decided to go along with her son's plan. She purchased the paper, glue and crayons, and for three whole weeks, night after night, Chad painstakingly made thirty-five valentines. Valentine's Day dawned, and Chad was frantic with excitement! He carefully placed the valentines in a bag, and bolted out the door.
His mom decided to bake his favorite cookies because she knew he would be disappointed when he came home from school. It hurt her to think he wouldn't get many valentines -- maybe none at all. That afternoon she had the cookies and milk on the table. Finally, when she heard their voices, she looked out the window to see the children laughing and having the best time. As usual, there was Chad in the rear but walking a little faster than usual.
She fully expected him to burst into tears as soon as he got inside. His arms were empty and when the door opened, she choked back tears as she said, "Honey, I have some warm cookies and milk for you" but he hardly heard her words. He just marched right on by, his face glowing, and all he could say was: "Not a one -- not a one." The mother's heart sank. Then he added, "I didn't forget a one, not a single one!" When God is in control of our friendships and when we trust Him with those friendships, we will be a better friend, and we will have more true friends.
Let's Pray
Lord, I praise You for the gift of friendship. Today I commit to investing more time in deepening the friendships You have given me. I want others to see You in the way I relate to my friends. I am willing to risk being hurt in order to be a better friend. I will look for needs that I can meet in the lives of my friends and be transparent in sharing my needs with them. Today, I choose to honor You in every friendship and trust You with each one.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
1 Peter 4:8 (NLT)"Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins."
"A friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love and encourages you with hope." Anonymous
More from the Girlfriends
Check out Mary's E-Bible Study: I Need a Friend for ways to be a better friend and learn how to develop healthy friendships.
Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Success and learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 31, 2012
Someone's Watching... Someone's Listening
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them," (Acts 16:25 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Did you know someone is watching you? Did you know someone is listening to you?
Mary, Gwen and I were speaking at a Girlfriends in God conference in Tulsa, Oklahoma. The night before the event, we sat at a table in the hotel lobby, visiting with a mutual ministry friend. It was getting rather late, but we were enjoying being together and just didn't want to go to bed. After about an hour of chatting, three ladies from the church ministry team came into the lobby with beautiful gift bags in their hands.
"What are you doing here?" we asked.
"We have been watching you through the window and waiting for you to go to bed!" one of the gals exasperatingly announced. "But you just keep sitting here talking! (Surprise, surprise) The plan was for the three of you to go to bed, and then we were going to place gift bags by your doors, knock and run away. (I know. How sweet.) But you just won't go to bed! So here we are. Here are your goodie bags."
After we gave hugs and kisses, and went to our separate rooms, I was struck with this truth. When we thought we were "off-line" so to speak, not in the public eye, not in the act of ministry...we really were. They were watching us through the window...
Girlfriend, there is never a time when we are "off-line." There is never a time when our actions and our words do not matter.
Acts 16 has a wonderful story about Paul and Silas. They were arrested, beaten and thrown in prison for preaching the gospel. The Message says they were beaten within an inch of their lives. The Scripture also tells us that their feet were placed in stocks...a form of restraint reserved for dangerous criminals. So what did they do? Complain? Grumble? Question God? No. They prayed. They sang.
"About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them," (Acts 16:25 NIV). It is amazing that they were singing and praying, but don't miss the last part of that sentence... "the other prisoners were listening to them." Underline that in your Bible. Ponder it. Remember it. "The other prisoners were listening to them."
Someone is always watching. Someone is always listening. What will they see in our actions? What will they hear in our words? Will they hear coarse talk? Will they hear gracious words?
Later Paul wrote: "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving," (Ephesians 5:3-5 NIV). Another translation says it this way: "...and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks," (NASB).
I read this poem years ago, and it has served as a wonderful reminder about my actions and words.
You are writing a gospel, a chapter each day;
By things that you do; By things you say.
Others read that gospel, whether faithless or true!
Say! What is the Gospel According To You?
Someone's watching. Someone's listening. Say! What is the Gospel according to you?
Let's Pray
Lord, I pray that You will "set a guard over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips," (Psalm 141:3). "Let no unwholesome talk come out of my mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen," (Ephesians 4:29). I pray that my words will represent You well today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think Paul includes so many verses in his letters to the churches warning them about the dangers of unwholesome talk?
What do you think happens in a "seeker's" mind when she or he hears a Christian swear or tell a coarse joke?
We live in a culture where coarse words are inescapable. They are on TV, in movies, and everywhere you turn. You don't even have to be watching a bad television program to hear them. The words fill the commercials. I know it is tough not to fall into the world's parade. But God calls us to march to a different drummer...and Jesus is leading the band.
Here's something to ponder: Sometimes what makes you stand out as a Christian is not what you say, but what you don't say. If you prayed the prayer for today, let me know. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesand say, "I asked God to watch over the door of my lips today."
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Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe. They can change the course of a life for good or for bad! If you would like to learn more about how to control your tongue and use your words to speak life into those around you, then see my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.It also has an accompanying Bible Study Guide and a teaching DVD. Perfect for group studies. The solution to many of your problems might just be right under your nose!
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June 1, 2012
Reaching and Teaching
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind..." (Titus 2:3-5,NIV).
Friend to Friend
One day after I'd led worship at church, another worship leader approached me. She is a darling, hip, 'just-turned-30' chick who totally loves Jesus. To my surprise, she asked if I would consider becoming her mentor. 'What?' At first I thought...'I'm way too young to be your mentor!' Then I woke up from my momentary dream and remembered that I am a wise-on-my-good-days, slightly-seasoned '40-something' chick with a decade of life, marriage, and ministry on her. Excitement and trepidation danced together in my heart when I prayerfully agreed.
Mentoring is important. I've been deeply blessed by the women that speak into my life who are slightly more gray and less green than I am! Have you ever longed for advice but didn't know who to talk to? I know I have. We need spiritual mentors to take our hand as we face life. Likewise, we also need to grab hold of a younger spiritual hand for the journey, to bring them along in Christ and strengthen their spiritual muscles, to encourage, teach and admonish.
As runners in a relay race reach forward to grab the baton from their teammate in front of them, they also extend the baton back to a runner about to take off in her own race. We need to be reaching forward and reaching backward. Reaching and teaching! Look at what the apostle Paul told his disciple, Titus, about women doing life with other women:
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God" (Titus 2:3-5, NIV).
The Bible says in Mark chapter 6 that after John the Baptist had died, his disciples came and took his body and laid it in a tomb. I find it interesting that the word 'disciples' is used instead of the word friends or associates. The implication is that John had poured his life into guiding and instructing these men in the truth and hope of Christ.
The Bible also tells us that Jesus revered John the Baptist as one of the greatest men to ever walk the earth. Interestingly, John did not consider himself even worthy to tie the sandals of Jesus. So even a man such as John the Baptist, who was set apart for a special God-mission to prepare the way for the LORD, needed to reach forward to Christ for guidance and wisdom. Though he was not one of the twelve disciples that did life with Jesus during His years of public ministry, John the Baptist was, indeed, a disciple of the Lord. What a beautiful example we see here. John was a disciple and made disciples. With God's help and a little effort, we can do both, too!
Friend, this is what GiG (Girlfriends in God) is all about. Sharon, Mary and I purpose to pour in to you each day through these devotions – to encourage you and spur you on toward the heart of God. But we can't be the only resource you've got in this area. Beyond us e-GiGs, you need flesh-friends in your life for the same purpose.
I challenge you to prayerfully connect with one or two women this week to discuss this mentoring topic. Reach ahead. Reach behind. When you do, deep blessings and growth will be evidenced in your life and in the life of those with whom you connect.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are so good to instruct us toward relationships...both with You and with others. Would you help me to grow in faith? Would you use me to make a difference in the lives of other women as well? Please lead me in Your will and in Your ways.
In the powerful name of Jesus,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have a spiritual mentor?
Have you spoken with her recently?
Why not call or email her to set up a date to meet for coffee or lunch this week?
Are you mentoring anyone right now?
If so, why don't you call or email her to set up a time to meet for coffee or lunch sometime in the next week or two?
If you are not a spiritual mentor yet or don't have a spiritual mentor, take a few moments to seek God's heart about this for your life.
More from the Girlfriends
GiGs - Thanks for joining us on this journey. Sharon, Mary and I love you and pray for you regularly. Beyond the devotions, be sure to visit us on Facebook so we can have a continuous e-connection. Today on my Facebook page, we will be gathering to pray for one another. Got a prayer need? Stop by and connect/pray with GiGs all over the world right now: www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
STORIES, SCRIPTURE and SONGS – These are the three words that embody the ministry of Gwen Smith. She shares both stories and songs in the resources available on her website. Longing to go deeper in your faith? Love a good God-story? Looking for Scripturally-sound inspiration and hope? Grab a few CDs or her book, Broken into Beautiful, today at www.GwenSmith.net.
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June 4, 2012
Whoever said, "Don't Ever Change," Didn't Know You Very Well
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit," - (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Isn't it funny what you think you know in High School? I was looking back through my old High School Yearbook, 1975 to be exact. It was my Senior year. The end of an era. We were the Gryphons, oh yeah...mighty, mighty Gryphons, oh yeah. (The Gryphon was our team mascot, for all those who might not know the cheer).
The skirts were short, the bellbottoms were wide, and the hair...oh the hair. My white friends all had long straight hair parted down the middle like the Red Sea – both the boys and the girls. My African American friends had big afros – really big. (Now don't anybody send me an email saying I've offended you. You know seventy's hair was a sight to behold. Come on. Admit it.)
But what interested me the most were all the farewell notes written throughout the pages by friends, and some folks I barely even knew. Of course people tried to write nice things about each other. "You are so sweet." "You are nice." "You had cool clothes." "You'll go far in life," whatever that meant. Others wrote about favorite memories shared. "I remember when...." "I'll never forget when..." What's funny is I can't remember half of what the "I'll never forget" comments were talking about.
In all the scribbled farewells and best wishes, one line stuck out among all the rest. "Don't ever change." It was repeated time and time again. I wonder how many timesI wrote that same line in someone else's yearbook.
Oh my mercy. I can't imagine what I'd be like if I had followed that astute wisdom from my fellow classmates. "Don't ever change." It's frightening!
I can almost hear Satan giving a big Gryphon cheer. "That's right girl! Don't ever change! Stay the same ole' insecure girl you've always been! Keep feeling like you're not good enough, not smart enough, not talented enough and not pretty enough! Don't ever change! Don't grow in your relationship with Jesus. You know everything you need to know right now. You've got your ticket to heaven. That's enough. You don't need to learn anymore of that Bible stuff. Don't ever change. You're fine just the way you are!"
Well praise God I didn't follow the advice written in my High School yearbook. I did change...a lot. And I've got more changing to do...a lot.
All through the New Testament, Paul wrote letters to Christians encouraging them not to stay the way they were, but to change. Here's just one example in his letter he wrote to the Ephesians church:
So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen... Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
I think if Paul had been a fellow Gryphon, and written in my High School yearbook, he would have penned something like the following: "Please, Sharon, whatever you do, change! Don't stay the same as you are today. Continue to grow and mature in your faith. Make it your goal to become more and more like Jesus with each passing day. And Sharon, please do something about that hair."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for accepting me just the way I am, but loving me too much to let me stay that way. I don't want to stay the same, but to grow more and more into a reflection of your glory with each passing day. Change me, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Paul wrote several similar passages to the one in Ephesians above. Pick one of the following and read today.
Colossians 3:1-17
Galatians 5:16-26
1 Thessalonians 4:1-12
What is one thing about your character or lifestyle that God has changed over the past year. Let's share our answers. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynesto comment.
More From The Girlfriends
If you would like to learn more about how to experience real and lasting change – change from the inside out, then you'll want to read Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful.Discover the beauty that comes only through a personal, ongoing, vibrant relationship with Jesus. While you're on her website, www.sharonjaynes.com, check out the free printable resources and free book sample downloads.
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June 5, 2012
Time for a Change?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 40:28-31 (NIV) Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wanted to "freeze" a moment and make it last a lifetime? I have. I have also lived through certain moments that I wish I could change or even delete and pretend they never happened. But change is a natural part of life. We can embrace it, or we can fight it.
My husband often says that the only people who really like change are wet babies. However, I have discovered that some people thrive and live for change to the point that they are "change junkies" and have little stability in life. Others dig in their heels and refuse to change a thing and ultimately become prisoners of old habits – good and bad. When it comes to change, we have a decision to make – just like the eagle.
The eagle has the longest life-span among birds. It can live up to 70 years, but to reach this age, the eagle has to make a hard decision. In its' 40s, the eagle's long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey, which serves as food. Its long and sharp beak becomes bent and its old and heavy wings, covered with feathers that have grown thick over the years, become stuck to its chest, making it difficult to fly.
The eagle is then left with only two options: die or go through a painful process of change, which lasts 150 days. The difficult process requires the eagle to fly to a mountain top and sit on its nest. There the eagle knocks its beak against a rock until the beak falls off. The eagle will then wait for a new beak to grow back and use the new beak to pluck out its talons. When the new talons grow back, the eagle starts plucking out all of the old feathers. After five months, the eagle takes a famous flight of rebirth and lives 30 more years.
Change is sometimes needed to survive. God may be asking you to step out in faith and make a change in your life. He has already been where He is asking you to go and prepared every step of the way for you. You don't have to be afraid of the unknown. It is unknown only to you. God is well aware of where you are and of every step He is asking you to take. He may be asking you to get rid of old memories, eliminate destructive habits and forsake lifeless traditions. He is waiting for you to take one step. Faith in God does not come all at once. Faith is a step-by-step process that begins with one small step and increases as we go. An Old Testament story found in Joshua 3 illustrates this truth.
The Israelites are camped on the bank of the Jordan River. Forty years earlier, they had escaped from Egypt and have been wandering around in the wilderness ever since. All of their needs have been met by God. They have seen miracle after miracle and now they can see Canaan, the Promised Land. However, there is a problem.
A huge river stands between them and the Promised Land, and there is no way around it. God told His people that He would make a dry path through the river, but the priests had never seen that happen. In fact, they hadn't even been born when the Red Sea was parted and there were no reruns of the Ten Commandments at the local Wilderness Theatre. The Israelites had spent their entire adult lives in the wilderness and finally, they could see a way out. Oh, and one more problem -- the priests couldn't swim. This was probably the first river they had even been close to in their lives. I can imagine their fear and questions. God was asking them to step out in faith as never before.
I don't imagine the Israelites had a great deal of faith in God at that moment, but they had just enough faith to take that first step. And that was enough.
Joshua 3:15-17 (NCV) During harvest the Jordan overflows its banks. When the priests carrying the Ark came to the edge of the river and stepped into the water, the water upstream stopped flowing. It stood up in a heap. So the people crossed over.
Notice that God did nothing until those toes touched the water. That first step was all God needed to see. Many times, we won't take the first step of change because we're afraid we won't be able to make the whole journey.
Don't wait until you believe it all.
Don't wait until you can see it all.
Don't wait until you understand it all.
Trust God and step out in faith. He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You in faith. I will admit that change scares me because it means I have to face the unknown. I know it is a control issue, Lord. Right now, I surrender the control of my life and my journey to You. Give me the strength to step out in faith and make the changes You are asking me to make.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 40:28-31 again.
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Make a list of the reasons we can trust God – even when facing uncertainty.
Are you tired? Is God asking you to make some changes in your life? Record those changes in your journal.
What one thing is keeping you from stepping out in faith? Are you willing to surrender that one thing to God right now?
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Check out Mary's E-Bible Study: What Am I Doing in this Pit for ways to deal with the chains that are holding you prisoner. And if you need help with trusting God, get Mary's MP3 download, Stepping Out in Faith.
Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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June 6, 2012
I Just Called to Say, "I Love You"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Call to me," says the Lord, "and I will answer you and tell you great and mighty things which you do not know," (Jeremiah 33:3 NASB).
Friend to Friend
It was an unusual phone call from my son, Steven. It was the second week of his second semester, his third year in college.
"Hey mom, this is Steven. I just wanted to call and say 'hello'. I haven't talked to you in a while and wanted to see how you were doing."
"Hey bud," I replied. "How are you? How are your classes? Do you like your professors?"
We volleyed questions and answers back and forth. It was a nice intro, and I kept waiting for the request such as, "Could you put an extra $50 in my account for another Philosophy book I had to buy," or a question such as "Does my car insurance go up if I get a parking ticket." But those type questions never came.
"Mom, how are you doing?"
"What have you been up to this week?"
"How's the new book coming?"
After about fifteen minutes into our conversation, I reluctantly asked, "Is everything OK?"
"Yeah," he chuckled. "I just called to talk. Are you surprised?"
"Sort of," I sheepishly admitted. "But it is a wonderful surprise!"
A few minutes later we said our "goodbyes" and "I love yous." Then I sat there and savored the joy of knowing that my son had called...not because he needed anything or had a problem to solve, but just because he loved me. Suddenly I got another call. Only this one was from my Heavenly Father. No, the phone didn't ring, but like a cell phone set on silent mode, God vibrated my heart with that still small voice that I have grown to love so well. Let me paraphrase what He said...
"Sharon, I want you to remember how you feel at this moment. Your son, whom you love more than life itself, has just called to talk to you...not because He wanted anything, not because he had a question about a decision or a detail of life, not because he had a problem to solve. He called just to talk, simply to see what was on your heart - because he loves you. That, my child, whom I love more than life, is the same way I feel when you talk to Me – not because you want something, not because you have a question about a decision you have to make, not because you have a problem to solve. That is how I feel when you talk to Me simply because you want to learn what is on My heart...simply because you love Me."
Steven's call was a poignant reminder that the God of the universe delights when His children call...just to say, "I love You."
"Call to me," says the Lord, "and I will answer you and tell you great and mighty things which you do not know," (Jeremiah 33:3 NASB).
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I love You. That's really all I want to say today. I love you, not because of what You do, but because of Who You are...my Heavenly Dad.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you told God you love Him lately? If not, one of the best ways to praise Him is to use the names of God found in the Bible. Let's look at a few. I'll give you the Hebrew name found in the Old Testament and the English translation.
"God we praise you that you are:
Jehovah – The Self Existent Onewho had no creator and was before all things (Exodus 3:13-16)
Jehovah-Raah – The Lord my Shepherdwho takes care of me (Psalm 23)
Jehovah-Jireh – The Lord my Provider who provides for my every need (Genesis 22:8, 14)
Jehovah-Shalom– The Lord my Peace who gives peace beyond human understanding (Judges 6:24)
Jehovah-Rophe - The Lord Who Heals physically, emotionally, and spiritually (Exodus 15:26)
Jehovah-Tsidkenu – The Lord our Righteousnesswho cleanses us from all our sin (Jeremiah 23:6)
Jehovah-Shammah – The Lord is Thereand Who will never leave us alone (Ezekiel 48:35)
Jehovah-Nissi – The Lord my BannerWho brings victory in all my spiritual battles (Exodus 17:15)
Jehovah-M'Kaddesh – The Lord who Sanctifiesand sets us apart (Leviticus 20:8)
If you would like a "printer friendly" list of 25 names of God in the Old Testament, log onto my website at www.sharonjaynes.com and click on the Living Life Resourses under the Free Resources page.
When looking at these names of God, which one means the most to you today? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them. Make no mistake about it, even if your life has not turned out the way you thought it would, your Heavenly Father has great plans for your life. When you release the broken pieces to Him, He creates a beautiful mosaic more fabulous that anything you could have ever imagined. Let's learn to dream again!
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June 7, 2012
Trusting God with the Future
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 4:18 (NIV) "So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."
Friend to Friend
In an effort to escape the brutal summer heat of South Florida, our family headed to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina. The Blue Ridge Parkway is one of our favorite spots for hiking, so we planned a day trip that included exploring a few hiking trails, a picnic and a visit to the beautiful and historic colonial home of Carl Sandburg. We woke to discover the beautiful weather of the day before had dissolved into a soupy mix of drizzle and fog, but we were not about to let a little fog and rain deter us from our original plan. We had been vacationing in North Carolina for years and knew fog is a common occurrence – even in the summer. We piled into our van and made our way up the mountain. The closer we got to the Sandburg home, the heavier the fog became. In fact, when we arrived, the fog was so thick we could barely see the walkway leading to the gift shop where we needed to purchase tickets for the tour of the home and grounds. We decided we would have to come back another day for the tour, but since we were already at the gift shop, it wouldn't hurt to do a little browsing.
The shop owner greeted us warmly and asked if we would like to purchase tickets for the guided tour scheduled to leave in an hour. Always the diplomat, I responded, "Are you kidding me? Have you looked outside?" The owner smiled and said, "Oh, you mean the fog? It will be gone in a little while. Now – how many tickets do you need?" I don't like pushy salesmen, even when they are sweet and kind – and maybe a little near-sighted. "I think we will just wait and see if the fog actually lifts," I responded, convinced the thick fog would last all day, and resumed my browsing. I lost track of time and was surprised to hear the owner announce, "The tour is leaving in 15 minutes. This is our final call for tickets." I walked out of the gift shop to discover the fog really was lifting and the skies were actually beginning to clear. I couldn't believe my eyes! Within minutes, the sun was shining - as if the fog had never existed.
It sometimes feels as if the fog of doubt and fear of darkness will never lift from our lives. The promises of God seem to get swallowed up by the problems we face. We want to curse our crisis – not praise God in the midst of that crisis. The hurt and pain overwhelm our faith, and we lose sight of the fact that this world is not our home and the troubles we face are only temporary. Lift up your eyes, girlfriend. Fix your heart and mind on God – He is with you – and makes every problem point to a promise.
Promise of direction Proverbs 20:30"Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn't close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. I began to pray, "Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door." The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland.
Promise of correction Psalm 119:71-72 "It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."
God uses problems to correct us. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her ... until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. "Ouch!" she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.
Promise of protection Genesis 50:20"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good."
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. I dreaded taking our children to get their immunization shots. I took a healthy child to the doctor and came home with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, "Mary, think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself."
Promise of perfection Romans 5:3-4"We can rejoice when we run into problems ... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I once spoke for a women's conference with the theme of "Problems into Pearls." The leader welcomed me and said, "We have to get you some pearls!" Digging in her purse, she produced a beautiful pearl necklace for me to wear. I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace, I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, "Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster."
God is at work in and around you. You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to face my problems in my own strength. Today, I choose to fix my gaze on You and praise You for Your presence and power in my life. I will give You praise, knowing You take up residence in the praises of Your people. I will walk through my fear, knowing You are with me. I declare my belief in Your willingness to help me face anything that comes my way. I trust You with my problems, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read each of the following verses. Choose at least one to memorize and record in your journal.
Psalm 121:1-2 (NIV) "I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth."
Psalm 46:1 (NIV) "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."
Psalm 63:7-8 (NIV) "Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me."
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Check out Mary's E-Bible Study How to Find Your Missing Peace for ways to deal with fear and walk in peace. And if you need help with trusting God, get Mary's MP3 download, Stepping Out in Faith. Helpful MP3 downloads, CDs and books are also available in Mary's online storealong with FREE resourceson her site.
Need help learning how to live a life of power and purpose? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, How to Dress for Successand learn how to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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June 8, 2012
Keep Watch!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith... (1 Peter 5:8-9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was really excited that evening because I actually had a fun dinner plan ... which is not always the case. There was some grilled chicken left over from dinner the night before, so I decided to bust out my griddle and whip up some yummy grilled chicken quesadillas – a simple, yet very popular Smith-family delicacy. I know: it's a crazy-easy make, but for some reason my kids think I'm a genius when quesadillas are on the menu. Go figure.
I grabbed a knife, a chopping board, and the leftover chicken from the fridge. Minutes later, the chicken was ready for it's cheese and tortilla companions. While the griddle was heating up, I turned my attention to a few other family matters. I don't even remember what those matters were. It might have been a buzzer noising from laundry room – alerting me of dry clothes that needed hung. I might have turned away to set the table or perhaps I had to intervene between my children who perpetually struggle to keep their hands to themselves. Whatever it was that drew my attention away from dinner prep was innocent – normal stuff – nothing out of the ordinary.
When I turned back to the business of quesadilla making, confusion gripped me as an empty cutting board glared at me. With an eyebrow raised quizzically, I asked my husband if he had moved my chicken.
"No Honey. I haven't touched your chicken." He replied, with a twinkle in his eye.
Hmmmmm. A chicken mystery. How odd.
I grew a bit anxious and quickly began to interview each of my children, "Did you take the chicken off the cutting board?"
"No, Mom. I didn't touch the chicken," they said one after another.
I wondered, "If I didn't move the chicken and my family didn't move the chicken, then where is my chicken?" I looked around the room once more just to be sure that I hadn't simply placed the chicken somewhere else.
Then I saw it ... a look of guilt. A look that screamed and pleaded, "Yes! I took your chicken, but please don't be angry with me. It smelled so good and ... and ... I'm a big dog – I need my nourishment. Was it wrong? Okay. I know it was wrong. Please forgive me. I did it. I ate your chicken. I'm sorry. I'd like to go to my crate now..."
His ears lowered as my eyes met his. My brows furrowed. "Rocky! YOU ate my chicken! Bad dog!" I lamented in frustration as I began to make a new chickenless dinner plan...
Rocky's just a dog. He's not out to get me and he didn't mean to mess up our dinner plans, but he did prey on our family meal that night. He came and took what wasn't his because I had let my guard down. I wasn't watching over my chicken.
As believers in Jesus Christ, you and I must guard our hearts and watch over our homes. The Bible warns Christians to keep watch. Beyond things seen, there are spiritual battles taking place around us continually. If you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, then you have an enemy and his name is Satan. If you live to listen to the voice of Jesus, the Good Shepherd, then strap on your battle gear, girlfriend, because your enemy has a mission to destroy you. Beware!
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 10, Jesus identified himself as the exclusive way to our salvation – as the Gate for the sheep of God – as the One who loves, leads and rescues us. In John 10:10, Jesus warns that though His plan for us is protection, love and help, the enemy ... Satan, "...the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full."
The Bible has a lot to say about this. It tells us time and time again to be alert to the schemes of Satan. To keep watch. "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith..."(1 Peter 5:8-9a, NIV).
Though we have an enemy with a real plan to mess with our emotions, our health, our marriages, our children, our relationships, our jobs and our thoughts, we are not without help or hope. We have both. God's power and protection are readily available to believers. 24/7. "But the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and protect you from the evil one" (2 Thessalonians 3:3, NIV).
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people" (Ephesians 6:10-18, NIV).
I was caught off guard the night that our dog, Rocky, took the chicken off the counter... and there have been times when I've been caught off guard in the midst of spiritual battles. As Christian women, let's remember to keep watch – over our hearts, our minds, and our homes. Let's purpose to proactively pray for protection, power and perseverance. May we always keep watch.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all-powerful and mighty to save. I praise you and delight in your plan for me to have abundant life through Jesus. Please cover me in Your Spirit today and equip me to fend off attacks from the enemy in your power and help.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind/heart as you read this devotion? Can you identify an area where you feel the enemy is attacking you? Grab your journal and write about it. Pray for specific people and relationships that you feel need protection.
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June 11, 2012
A Heavy Dose of Perspective
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it!" (Psalm 188:24 NIV)
Friend to Friend
It was just a quick check-up at the doctor's office...or at least that's what it was supposed to be. My "to-do-list" resembled a mile-long scroll and several deadlines loomed like a thunder cloud ready to burst. But, the appointment would take just a few minutes. Just enough time to catch my breath.
"Good morning Mrs. Jaynes," the cheery receptionist greeted. "May I see your insurance card please?"
We went through the regular check-in procedure and then I settled in a comfy chair with a magazine that I would not have normally read. I knew I wouldn't have time to read a full-length article...since this was just a quick visit. My, oh my, the trouble those Hollywood folks get into.
Ten minutes turned into fifteen turned into twenty turned into thirty. My to-do list began growing heavier and heavier in my mind.
"Excuse me," I interrupted the receptionist. "My appointment was thirty minutes ago. Did they forget me?"
"I'm so sorry," she reassured me. "I'll check on it right away."
In just a few moments, a nurse appeared at the door. "Mrs. Jaynes, come right this way."
My second stop was into a stark treatment room with more magazines. "Oh well, let's see what Brittany did last year," I mumbled to myself. At least I was in the room. That was good.
The clock continued to tick. With each passing minute my frustration grew. "I'm glad he's not checking my blood pressure," I grumbled to no one in particular.
Fifty minutes after I had walked into the office for my quick 5-minute check-up, the doctor himself walked into my room. My to-do list was magnified in my mind. My time was important too, you know. I didn't have time to sit around and read out-dated gossip magazines!
The doctor was actually a friend of mine, but I was feeling less than friendly. Ice Queen is a description that comes to mind when I think of my probable appearance.
"Hi Sharon," he began. "I'm sorry you have had to wait so long. I have been with a patient and had to tell her that she has terminal cancer. It took longer than I thought."
Suddenly, my icy countenance began to melt into a puddle on the shiny tile floor and tears pooled in my eyes.I was upset about not checking insignificant frivolous errands off my to-do list, and the woman in the next room was pondering how she was going to spend her last days on earth. I envisioned her walking to her car and coming up with a brand new to-do list for her day.
#1 Live well
#2 Love well
Yes, I did have a check-up that day. God was the doctor and He looked into my heart to see that my perspective on life needed surgery. What's really important? My silly list of errands? No. What should be at the top of my to-do list today and every day is: #1 Live well. #2 Love well. Celebrate each day as an incredible gift from God.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for another day of life. Sometimes I can get so caught up in my silly little lists that I lose perspective of the true meaning of life. Help me to live my days glorifying You with every breath that I take and step that I make.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What is at the top of your to do list today?
Consider making a new to do list and including what you think God would have you do today.
Wouldn't it be fun to see what your sisters are scheduled to do today? Log onto my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me the first 5 items on your list. Be honest...not that you wouldn't beJI'm not looking for overly spiritual, I'm looking for real girlfriend stuff!
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One of the things that is at the top of my to-do list for today is to love my husband the way he longs to be loved...the way God would have me love him. If you would like to learn more about keeping your marriage in the top 5 of your to-do list, check out my book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams- seven qualities every man longs for.
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June 12, 2012
Do Wrinkles Make You Die?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
James 1:19 (NIV) "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
Friend to Friend
It had been a very long and extremely hard day. My husband's grandmother had died, and we had just returned from her funeral. Trying to establish a sense of normality for our two young children, I unpacked suitcases, started the laundry and spent some time playing with Jered and Danna. After a dinner during which Dan and I tried to lighten the atmosphere with silly bantering, we got the kids ready for bed.
Dan and Danna headed to her room for one last game of "Pretty, Pretty Princess" before bed. (You have not lived until you have seen Dan Southerland in a tiara and pink plastic earrings!) Jered and I settled in his bedroom to read books, play with his Hot Wheels and just talk. We prayed together and Jered climbed into bed. I gave him a kiss and a hug and tucked him into a blanket, a nightly ritual of creating a "Jered-ito." As I turned on his nightlight and started out of the room, Jered's question stopped me in my tracks. "Mama, do wrinkles make you die?" he asked. Ordinarily, I would have dismissed his question as a childish ploy to delay bedtime, but in a rare moment of wisdom as a mom, I sat on the edge of our son's bed, took his hand and asked, "Son, what do you mean?"
Jered smiled and replied, "Well, Grandmother died and she had sooooooo many wrinkles." Dan's grandmother battled pernicious anemia for many years. The illness itself and the medications she had to take for that condition had left her skin damaged and very wrinkled. "Yes, honey, Grandmother was sick and had a lot of wrinkles. I still don't understand your question." After a moment of silence, Jered said, "Well, at dinner tonight you and daddy were joking about who had the most wrinkles, and I just need to know if wrinkles make you die."
Wow! Over the years, I have thanked God so many times for the Holy Spirit who prompted me to stop and really listen to our son. We talked for a long time about the fact that wrinkles don't make you die, but we also talked about the fact that Grandmother Lois was in Heaven and did not have any more wrinkles. And she was well and no longer in pain. It was one of the most meaningful conversations Jered and I have ever had about life and death and the fact that when we know Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we will go to heaven where Grandmother Lois will be waiting for us.
I have had to learn how to listen – really listen. For years, I used the time someone was speaking to formulate a clever response. Oh, I looked into their eyes but did not really see them. I heard their words, but did not really listen. I failed to hear what was behind the words – the hurt and pain or the confusion and questioning heart.
I now work hard to realize that every person God sends my way is really seeking His listening heart at work in and through me. I try to look for the pain hidden in each word. I pray for wisdom to respond in a way that will promote restoration and encourage healing. I have a long way to go, but I want to be "God with skin on" when it comes to learning how to listen.
Listening by definition means "attention, with the intention to understand." James says we should be "quick to listen and slow to speak" (James 1:19). Talking is sharing but listening is caring. Take a tip from creation. Ears aren't made to shut, but the mouth is. Put away your sermon, save your advice and just listen. Sometimes the best gift we can give is a listening ear.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a "date" spending some special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was of her. After he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day, but a little girl's hungry heart was fed because her father was willing to listen.
Are there any hungry hearts in your life who long for nothing more than your listening heart? I am convinced Jesus was an amazing listener. Children loved him and longed to spend time with Him. Hurting people were drawn to Him. He was sought out by people from every walk of life. He always made time to listen. We need to do the same.
Let's Pray
Father, I am sorry for the times when I have failed to really listen to the people in my life who need my love and undivided attention. Help me to be a better listener. Teach me to encourage others by the way I listen to and love them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you rate yourself in the listening department? Do any of the following characteristics apply to you? If so, what steps do you need to take to become a better listener.
_____ Too busy
_____ Preoccupied
_____ Failure to focus
_____ A judgmental attitude
_____ Don't care enough
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June 19, 2012
I'm Just Passing Through
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 14:1-3 "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am."
Friend to Friend
I was flipping through television channels in a futile attempt to find something worth watching for a few minutes when the commercial for an upcoming movie grabbed my attention. A young man was trying to console his obviously upset friend. As he leaned across the table and took her hand, the young man quietly said, "God promised that everything will be okay in the end. So if everything is not okay, then this is not the end." The profound and simple truth stopped me in my tracks.
It had been a hard day – for many reasons. I have to admit that several times during the day I had thought, "God, I don't get it. Why is this happening?" I have been a follower of Jesus Christ for many years, but my faith obviously still has a long way to grow. For a few minutes, I had forgotten that this world is not my eternal home, and its troubles and trials are only temporary. You see, when I came to Christ, my citizenship was automatically and eternally changed from earth to heaven.
I read about an American tourist who paid a visit to a renowned Polish rabbi. The tourist was astonished to see that the rabbi's home was just a simple room filled with books, a table and a cot. "Rabbi, where is your furniture?" the tourist asked. The rabbi simply replied, "Where is yours?" The puzzled American asked, "Mine? But I am only a visitor here. I'm only passing through." The rabbi smiled and replied, "So am I."
The apostle John wrote, "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am." In this passage, Jesus calls heaven "topos." In the Greek, the literal meaning of this word is "place." In other words, heaven is described as a real place. In this same passage, Jesus also calls heaven "oikos" which, in the Greek, literally means "a house or home, a dwelling." Some people say heaven is "a state of mind, a dream or wishful thinking," but the Bible is very clear about the fact that heaven is a real place. It is as real as the home and city in which you live.
· Acts 1:11 "They said, 'Men of Galilee, why are you standing here staring at the sky? Jesus has been taken away from you into heaven. And someday, just as you saw him go, he will return!"'
Jesus did not go up into a state of mind, a dream or wishful thinking. He went to a real place and a real home.
· Acts 10:9-11 "Peter was going up to the roof to pray. He was hungry and wanted to eat, but while the food was being prepared, he had a vision. He saw heaven opened."
· Stephen was martyred for Christ. While he was being stoned, he spoke these words:
"Look, I see the heavens opened and the Son of Man standing in the place of honor at God's right hand" (Acts 7:56).
The Bible repeatedly refers to heaven as a real place ... a very real and very beautiful place. Heaven is the workmanship of God. Think about that for a moment. Jesus was a carpenter, a builder. He announced that He was going away to prepare for us, a beautiful home in heaven. We know what kind of work He does. He created the universe in six days. Jesus loves detail. Look at the wings of a butterfly. He loves color. Look at a rainbow or a sunset. He loves beauty. Look into the face of a newborn baby. Jesus has been working on heaven for over 2,000 years. What a place it must be!
When I hold the troubles and trials of this world against the backdrop of heaven, peace floods my heart, mind and soul. I just need to remember that this world is not really my home. I am just passing through. How about you?
Let's Pray
Father, when I stand at the judgment seat of Christ and He shows me His plan for me
The plan of my life as it might have been if He'd had his way -- and I see
How I blocked Him here and I refused Him there and I would not yield my will –
Will there be grief in my Savior's eyes, grief though He loves me still?
He would have me rich and I stand there poor,
Stripped of all but His grace while memory runs like a hunted thing down the paths I cannot retrace.
Then my desolate heart will nearly break with the tears that I cannot shed;
I will cover my face with my empty hands; I will bow my uncrowned head.
Lord of the years that are left to me, I give them into your hands;
Take me and break me; mold me to the pattern that you have planned.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Heaven is the heart and soul of our faith. It is a reality. Read the following two verses. Record them in your journal. What new truth and hope about heaven does each verse give you?
· Isaiah 63:15 "LORD, look down from the heavens and see; look at us from your wonderful and holy home in heaven."
· Colossians 1:5 "You have this faith and love because of your hope, and what you hope for is kept safe for you in heaven."
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June 20, 2012
Struggling Together in Prayer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I urge you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me," (Romans 15:30 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am so glad that God gave us girlfriends who will struggle with us in prayer. Paul wasn't a Girlfriend in God, but he certainly understood the power of praying for our friends.
He wrote: "I urge you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me" (Romans 15:30 NIV). "Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should" (Ephesians 6:18-20 NIV).
The New Testament was originally written in Greek and sometimes looking at the original definitions of the words can give us great insight. The Greek word Paul uses for struggle in Romans 15:30 is sunagonizomai, which means "to struggle in the company of; i.e., to be a partner (assistant), strive together with." The root word means "to endeavor to accomplish something: fight, labor fervently, strive," for example, to compete for a prize or to contend with an adversary.
Prayer for another person is not simply a nice thing to say or a pat on the back. It is more than a "God bless Suzie." When we tell someone that we will pray for them we are agreeing to put on the armor of God (Ephesians 6) and head to the front lines of battle on her behalf.
Many ancient shields had brackets attached to the sides. These brackets were a type of latch that soldiers could use to lock shields during battle. When the shields were locked together, the soldiers moved as one force, forming a barricade against the enemy. Alone, the shield was a small defense. Together they formed a human wall. Do you see the significance? When we lock arms in prayer with others, we are locking our shields together and forming a powerfully strong fortress of defense.
One night I was in the restroom touching up my makeup before speaking to several hundred women. I was having one of those moments when I looked in the mirror and several thoughts began to swirl in my mind. What am I doing here? What do I possibly have to say to these women that could make any difference in their lives? I am not capable of walking to that podium tonight.
While I was mulling over the lies, the fiery darts Satan was shooting into my mind, my cell phone rang.
"Hello."
Hi Sharon. This is Mary. (My GiG Mary) Where are you?"
"Actually, I'm standing in the restroom at a speaking engagement getting ready to walk out on the stage. I forgot to turn off my cell phone!"
"I want you to know," Mary continued, "God interrupted me while I was cooking dinner and told me to pray for you. Not only that, He told me to call you...now."
I imagined Mary standing in her kitchen with spaghetti sauce simmering on the stove and stopping mid-stir. There might have been a little conversation with God that went something like this:
"Call Sharon and pray for her", God might have said.
"Could you just wait a minute God? The sauce is almost done."
"Call Sharon and pray for her," God repeated.
"Ok, Ok, I'll do it now," she sighed.
There was great power in Mary's instant obedience. If she had waited, I would not have known that she was praying. Not only did God prompt her to pray at that moment, He prompted her to tell me that she was doing so. Why? God knew that there was power in her prayer and He wanted me to know that I was not going into battle alone. He had called Mary to "struggle with me," to "strive together in battle," to lock shields with me and march into victory.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us Girlfriends in God to pray for us and with us. Thank you that you called women to join together as mighty prayer warriors with shields hooked together, marching into battle as one unified force.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there someone God is calling you to pray for today?
If so, why not give him or her a call or send an e-mail to let the person know.
Better yet, e-mail them the prayer or pray for them over the phone!
While you're praying, we'd love for you to pray for the ministry of Girlfriends in God. We love doing life with you and we need prayer! Thank you for allowing us to share life with you and to struggle with you in prayer.
We love praying for you. We love it when you pray for us. If you would like to share your prayer for this ministry with us, log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and pray away! I'll make sure that Mary and Gwen see how you have prayed for them today.
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Do you ever feel like you don't know what to pray? One of the ways I pray for people is to pray Scripture over them. On my website, I have laminated Scripture prayer cards that you can tuck on your Bible. Check them out on the bookstore page.
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June 21, 2012
Whose Voice Do You Hear?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me(John 10:27, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Dan and I had been married one year when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas, so Dan could attend seminary. I desperately wanted a teaching job, but none was available. Instead I was hired as a secretary in an insurance office. It was definitely not my idea of a dream job, but I had a plan. Every day, on my lunch hour, I call the school district's personnel office to ask, "Do you have a job or me yet?" After several weeks, a frustrated voice finally responded with the words I had been longing to hear. "Mary, will you teach anything anywhere?" she asked. Finally! I jumped at the job offer and made an appointment to visit my new classroom that afternoon. The principal escorted me up a flight of stairs, pointed to a door, and said, "That's your classroom. Good luck!" With a knowing smile, he turned and walked away...quickly.
Stepping into the classroom, I froze at the astonishing sight before me. Some children were jumping on desks while others crawled under tables, all screaming and yelling at the top of their lungs. Paper and food littered the floor. In the corner sat an obviously frazzled substitute teacher, who was desperately trying to gain control of her students...uh, make that my students. The classroom was in total chaos. My first thought was, "What have I gotten myself into?" The next few weeks certainly answered that question.
Each classroom was arranged in learning centers instead of desks. The students moved from center to center as they completed assignments, a plan that naturally invited noise. I learned that because of overcrowding, each teacher had been asked to select two children to form a new classroom...my classroom...and of course, each teacher had chosen his or her two most difficult students.
The first few weeks were a nightmarish battle for control. After losing my voice twice, my sister, Betty, a veteran first grade teacher, gave me some great advice. "The louder you are, the louder the children will be. If you want to get their attention, speak softly so they will have to be quiet in order to hear your voice." I put her advice into action the very next day. As the children entered the classroom, I greeted each one with a silent smile. In my hands was a brightly wrapped box. Curious, they asked, "What is that, Mrs. Southerland?" I merely smiled and said nothing until every student was quietly seated. "I have a new plan," I began. "Sometime during the day, I will call your name once. If you hear my voice, you may choose one prize from our new prize box. If you don't hear my voice, you will miss the opportunity to select a prize and I will call another student's name." It worked like a charm! In a matter of days, my students learned to listen for my voice above all others.
Stress comes when we allow the many voices in life to drown out the only voice that really matters, the voice of God. We can't obey every voice we hear. If we try, we will end up in total failure, carrying a heavy load we were never created to carry. Obedience to God is not a heavy load because we don't have to carry it alone. God's strength and power bear the burden of our obedience to Him. The more time we spend in God's Word and in prayer, the easier it will be to recognize His voice.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, wanting and needing to hear Your voice. I am drowning in the expectations of others and am so confused about the next step I need to take. Please give me Your direction and the strength to follow Your plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 32:8 (NLT) "The LORD says, "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you." What comfort does this verse give you about God's plan for your life as opposed to your plans or the plans of others?
Read John 10:4 (NLT) "After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they recognize his voice." Notice that the shepherd walks ahead of his sheep, gently calling them to follow. What change do you need to make in your life so that you can look for God's hand at work and listen for His voice alone?
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the last few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done. Identify the "voices" that you tend to listen to instead of listening for the voice of God.
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June 22, 2012
Masterpiece in the Making
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you (Philippians 1:6, AMP).
Friend to Friend
It took four years of fresco painting for the Italian Renaissance sculptor, painter, architect, and poet Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, to finish the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Commonly known as Michelangelo, his time painting was mostly spent alone, on his back, lying on scaffolding. (How painful!) The painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel is one of the most remarkable in the history of Western art. One thing is for sure: the process that altered a ceiling from plain to fabulous required a lot of time, great discipline, and the hand of a master artist. The same is true for us. The journey from broken into beautiful is a lifelong transformation that requires both discipline and a Master Artist.
As Michelangelo was working, I'm sure that lots of people came through the corridors of the chapel and stood in amazement. As they looked up at the beauty of his work, I bet they said things like, "That is the most fantastic work of art I have ever seen!" or "Extraordinary!" To which he might have said, "It's not done!" But did the unfinished state of the project negate that parts of the ceiling were beautiful? No! The parts that were complete were still extravagant and breathtaking.
Maybe this is the way God and others see our lives. It's common for people to notice the work God has done in us and comment on the beauty. And even though compliments are nice to hear, I've been known to resist them. (Admit it, you probably have too.) It's not so much a humility thing as it is an "I-don't-see-myself-as-beautiful" thing. From my limited perspective, I can see only the unfinished work. But in truth, my vantage point doesn't negate the beauty of the work God has done and is doing in my life.
Real beauty isn't about a finished or flawless product. It can't be. It's not possible on this side of eternity to have completed beauty. Our restoration will be complete in the presence of God when we see Him face to face.
Now, you might be saying, "But Gwen, I can't be beautiful! You don't know what I've done...or what I've been through...or what I'm going through!"
Friend, God knows where you have been, what you have been through, and where you are now. He knows what your flaws are and loves you in spite of your imperfections. His tender love is far-reaching and complete.
Your past sins do not define you.
Your painful scars do not define you.
Your present sufferings do not define you.
They are just shards of brokenness that God will use to lovingly refine your beauty. The transformation from broken into beautiful is neither easy nor instantaneous. It demands a yielded heart and can be quite painful, but it comes with great reward. God will need your broken pieces—your scars, shame, insecurities, disappointments, betrayals, and failures.
Do you have some of those?
Are they tucked away in a safe, do-not-enter part of your heart?
You might find it hard to hand over hurts. I get that. It's hard for me too. But difficult as it may be, it's time to hand them over and let our masterful Lord create a stunning work of beauty in you. And He's going to need all of your broken pieces to complete the restoration.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I am humbled by Your willingness to love and forgive someone like me. Please take the broken pieces of my life and don't allow me to have them back. I surrender to Your healing. Mold me and shape me into a beautiful reflection of Your glory. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 64:8, "Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."
Meditate on this verse. Read it again and personalize it in a prayerful response to God: "Yet, O LORD, you are MY Father. I AM the clay, you are the potter; I AM the work of your hand."
Please come to my Facebook page today and share your heart and your "Masterpiece in the making" story with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be transformed into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful.This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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June 25, 2012
Silent Longings
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"She (Hagar) gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: 'You are the God who sees me,' for she said, 'I have now seen the One who sees me'" (Genesis 16:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Everyone wants to be noticed, to be cared for, to be loved. How my heart breaks with David's words, "No one cares for my soul" (Psalm 142:4). He is crying out during one of the darkest times in his life and felt all alone in his struggle to survive. We might expect to hear those words from the crowded city streets as men and women scurry about in their power suits off to make the next deal. We wouldn't be surprised to hear those words from a vagrant huddled under a bridge with all his worldly possessions stuffed in a plastic grocery bag. But would we expect it from the person sitting beside us in the church pew, the co-worker in the next cubicle, or the mother of three next door?
While flying from the East Coast to the West Coast, I watched an in flight movie, a cleaned up version of What Women Want staringMel Gibson. Mr. Marshal (Mel Gibson) worked at an advertising firm with a host of busy men and women bustling about in their own little self-absorbed worlds. In a strange twist of events, Mr. Marshal is "electrically altered" when he slips in the bathroom and falls into the bathtub, along with a hair dryer. When he regains consciousness after his shocking experience, he has the ability to read women's minds and hear their thoughts. With his new perceptive powers, he lands a huge Nike advertising account and wins the heart of the leading lady...of course. But there is one poignant sideline of the movie that grabbed my heart.
In the movie, one young nondescript woman in his office had thoughts that stopped Marshal in his tracks. What if I just jumped out the window? Would anyone notice? I could be gone for days and no one would notice...until the files started piling up. Then they'd say, 'Where's the geek with the glasses who carries the files?'
No one did notice the errand girl who refused to make eye contact with her fellow employees, except Marshal, who could hear her thoughts.
One day, the young woman (who we learn is named Erin), doesn't show up for work.
"Where's Erin?" Marshal asked as he notices a pile of files sitting on her desk.
"I don't know," someone replies. "She didn't show up for work today."
Fearing the worst, Marshal locates Erin's address and dashes out to stop her from ending her life.
Bursting into her apartment Marshal sees a suicide letter lying on the table and his heart sinks. A startled Erin walks into the room.
"Mr. Marshal, what are you doing here?"
"I'm glad I got here before you hurt yourself?" he replied.
"What makes you think I was going to hurt myself?"
"I just sensed it," he answered.
"Really? You sensed it? That's not good."
Then Marshal brilliantly changes course. "The real reason I'm here is to offer you a job. You know we got the Nike account and we were wondering who would be a real spitfire to work on this project..." Marshal offers Erin a job and rescues her from the despair of feeling unwanted, unloved, and unimportant.
I'm not suggesting that you watch the movie. After all, it was a cleaned up airline version. However, I am suggesting that you ponder the situation. I believe that men and women walk past us every day, just like Erin in this movie, who feel that they have no significant purpose in this world. Like Erin, I know that there are many who feel that their sudden disappearance would cause little fanfare or concern. It might be the woman who passes you in the hall at work, the rebellious looking teen who shuffles by you at the mall, or the businessman dashing to his next appointment. It takes so little to let someone know that they are significant. We have the ability to give someone hope by offering a simple word of acknowledgement.
Dr. David Jeremiah wrote, "We are shaped by those who love us or refuse to love us, and by those whom we love or refuse to love." It is an amazing opportunity given to each of us as we walk through our day to shape and mold those around us with a simple word of encouragement, acknowledgement, or appreciation. The world is crying out for love - a positive word, a tender touch, a morsel of praise. Sometimes a simple "hello" can be a boost to someone starving to be noticed. Many people are so lonely that any token of attention is like a drop of rain on dry parched ground.
Jesus met a woman who felt very insignificant – bone weary and bone dry. As he talked to her by a well, He said, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life" (John 4:13, 14 NIV). Yes, Jesus is the living water that people need. Isn't it amazing that He allows us to hold the cup - to offer the only drink that will satisfy.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that You always see me and notice what I'm going through. You know every hair on my head! Help me to never lose sight of the fact that I am very significant in Your eyes. You loved me so much that You gave Your Son, Jesus, so that I might have eternal life with You. I praise Your Holy Name.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's go back up to today's truth. Hagar was a woman who felt ignored and all alone. But then God showed up. Go back and read her amazing story in Genesis 16.
What do You learn about God from this story?
Hagar was not one of God's chosen people, and yet, He cared for her. The Hebrew name that she gave God was El Roi, the God who Sees. Remember today that God sees you!
How does knowing that God sees you make you feel? Share your answer at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Words-one of the most powerful forces in the universe. If you would like to learn more about how to use your words to speak life into those around you, see my book, The Power of a Woman's Words. While you're there, watch the video or download a free sample chapter. You can change the course of someone's day. You can change the course of someone's life!
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June 26, 2012
Stop! Drop! Roll!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:52 "Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men."
Friend to Friend
A friend recently sent me the following message in an email with a subject line that said, "I immediately thought of you when I read this!"
"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body. But rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming, "Wow, what a ride!"
As I read the words on the computer screen, I wasn't sure if I had just received a sweet compliment or some badly needed correction – or both. The part about arriving at the grave in a pretty and well preserved body was flattering, but the part about being thoroughly used up and totally worn out – well, not so much. My next thought was, "Boredom is highly underrated!" I suspect that the truth lies somewhere in between, maybe around the area of balance.
Contrary to popular belief and the way that I have lived a great deal of my life, "balance" is not a dirty word. In fact, a balanced life is a powerful life. It must be. I wrote those words in one of my books. I also stated that a busy life is not necessarily a productive life. I think it is time for a refresher course on how to find God's balance in life because being out of balance is not a good thing. When our finances are out of balance, we hear from the bank. When the washer is out of balance, it dances across the floor. When the tires on our car are out of balance, the ride is rough. But when our life is out of balance, disaster is just around the corner.
As I was praying about this devotional, the Father brought to mind my elementary school days when the firemen came to our school to teach us what we should do in case we ever caught on fire. I remember the drill clearly. Stop! Drop! Roll! Let's apply that same drill to the area of balance.
Stop! When was the last time you stopped, got off the merry-go-round and out of the fast lane to take a long, hard look at your life? It is so easy to live each day just doing "the next thing" that comes along. The "one size fits all" mentality about life plans is from the pit and smells like smoke, girlfriend. God has a plan for your life that is unique and you are the only person who can be "you." Build on your strengths. Accept your limitations and yield to the seasons of life. Get in the Word and ask God to show you His plan.
Drop! Once you discover your life plan, eliminate anything that does not fit that plan. Learn to invest your time instead of just spending it or allowing others to steal it. Choose to budget your time just like you budget your money and learn to say "no" without feeling guilty. We are all responsible for how we spend the time God has given us. Every morning we are credited with 86,400 seconds. No balance is carried into the next day and every night erases what we fail to use.
Roll! Roll away the burdens you are carrying and learn the value of resting in God. Every opportunity to worry is also an opportunity to trust Him. I heard a story about a man who had to cross a wide river on the ice. He was afraid it might be too thin, so he began to crawl on his hands and knees in fear, thinking he would fall through the icy surface at any time. Just as he neared the opposite shore, exhausted and weak, another man glided past him sitting on a sled loaded with iron. The promises of God will not break under the weight of any problem or trial you will ever face. Take Him at His Word. Let God be God in your life and trust Him.
When Jesus was twelve years old, He traveled to Jerusalem with His parents for the annual Passover Celebration. When Mary and Joseph began the long trip home, they assumed Jesus was traveling with friends. When they realized Jesus was missing, their search found Him at the temple, teaching.
Don't miss this important truth. Jesus returned home with His parents and spent the next twenty years growing and maturing. Luke 2:52 tells us that "Jesus grew in wisdom, in stature, and in favor with God and men." Then in Luke 3, we see Jesus as He began His ministry on earth. Don't miss this important truth! Jesus grew mentally and emotionally, physically, spiritually and socially. His life was balanced – before He began His ministry. You may be waiting for your life to just fall into place, hoping that the things you are doing will achieve balance. The opposite is true. A powerful life comes from a balanced life. Now is the time for you to stop ... drop ... and roll.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired. My life is out of control and I don't know what to do. Please help me examine my priorities by Your standards and expectations and live for Your pleasure and glory. I choose now to trust You, knowing that You are in control whether it looks like it or not. My faith is weak, Lord. Strengthen me to do what You created me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time to come before God, in total surrender and with a willing heart. Ask Him to show you His plan. Choose to follow that plan now.
Stop: Read and memorize Psalm 139:16. Examine your priorities. Do they line up with God's priorities?
Drop: What activity or time consumer do you need to eliminate from your life? For example, how much time do you spend watching television or online? What would your life look like if you invested that time in studying the Bible, praying or serving God?
Roll: Exodus 31:17 says, "For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, and on the seventh day He rested and was refreshed." What does this verse say to you about the importance of rest?
2 Timothy 1:7 says, "God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control." What is your greatest fear? Give it to God today and trust Him.
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I know it is hard to find the right balance in life. Only God can make that happen when we make the choice to let Him. Are you ready to make that choice? Know that we are praying for you and asking God to fill your life with peace and joy as you seek Him. We are with you, girlfriend.
Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
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June 27, 2012
I Want Someone to Love Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely" (Song of Solomon 2:14 NIV) (Today, read this verse as Jesus speaking to you, his bride.)
Friend to Friend
OK, let's talk some girlfriend talk. The subject – old boyfriends. In the eighth grade it was Mike Body who was as cute as he was quiet. I thought our "love" would last forever. It didn't. In the ninth grade it was Bill Pegram. He was two years older than me and his big blue eyes were the reason I joined the church youth choir. The music in my heart grew faint when he moved out of town the next year...but I stayed in the choir. In the tenth grade it was Jimmy Weeks, the football star. Our "romance" lasted from September until June when he broke my heart. I thought I would never recover until I caught a glimpse of Jim Byrd, the surfer boy, who rode a wave into my heart in the eleventh grade. That ended in a wipe out until the twelfth grade when a blind date grabbed my attention for the next three years.
Those teenage years can be quite dramatic and traumatic, but the search to know and be known doesn't end with high school graduation. And while the scenery along that journey changes with the years, the longing remains the same. We all want to know and be known by someone. We long to find that special person who will look deep into our souls and share our lives. And friend, I know just who you're looking for!
It doesn't matter if we're talking about the Samaritan woman at the well or the New York executive on Wall Street, human beings long to know and be known by someone on a personal and passionate level. And there is Someone who is pursuing you. His name is Jesus. He is the only One who can satisfy that inner longing to be completely known and sweetly loved. Could it be that you already have what you've always wanted? Do you know that He is pursuing you?
One of my pastors noted that 75-80% of college students who were actively involved in church in high school, fall away from the faith by their sophomore year of college. Thirty percent never return. Why? He believes one reason is overwhelming shame and guilt.
We only have to look at Adam and Eve who hid from God because of the shame and guilt of disobeying His one command. Then there was Moses who ran away from home and from God because of the shame and guilt of killing the Egyptian. But in each case, God pursued the ones who ran. And the first question recorded in the Bible was when God asked Adam and Eve, "Where are you?"
I don't know where your heart is today. Maybe you are still looking to people, possessions or power to fill that God-shaped void in your life. Maybe you are struggling with guilt and shame and are wondering if God even wants to have a relationship with you. Oh dear friend, as a girlfriend who has done her share of hiding, I can promise you that God is asking right now, "Where are you?"
He loves you. He longs to be in relationship with you. He desires to see your face. Go to Him. No, run to Him. He's waiting with open arms.
Let me ask you the question I asked earlier. Could it be that you already have what you've always wanted? I believe the answer is "yes."
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes I wonder why you even bother with me. I make so many mistakes. How thankful I am that You continue to pursue me even when I mess up. How blessed I am to know that You love me just the way I am, but too much to let me stay that way. I love you so much.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you believe that God is pursuing you?
Do you believe that God longs to have a relationship with you, no matter what you've done in the past?
Are you hiding?
If so, I want you to know that reading this devotion today is no accident. Most of my devotions are directly related to books that I have written, but not today. This one is just for you. If you could sense God speaking to you, then I'd love to know about it. Log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and say, "This one was for me."
More from the Girlfriends
God has great dreams for you. He wants you to come out of hiding and begin the abundant life that He planned all along. If you'd like to learn more about His incredible plans for you, check out my book, The 5 Dreams of Every Women...and How God Wants to Fulfill Them. Your next great adventure is waiting just around the bend!
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June 28, 2012
Don't Quit!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Galatians 6:9 "So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up."
Friend to Friend
A great pianist was scheduled to perform for a small country town. Everyone in the town was excited since they rarely had the opportunity to hear a famous musician. A young mother was especially excited. Her son had been taking piano lessons and showed great promise. However, he hated to practice. His mother was hoping that if her son saw the great pianist perform, he would be motivated to take his music more seriously.
The night of the concert finally arrived, and it seemed as if everyone in town had come. As the young mother settled her son in his seat, her attention turned to the crowd pouring in. Everyone was dressed in their finest, and a buzz of excitement filled the concert hall. No one noticed the little boy as he slipped out of his seat and made his way down the aisle toward the stage. No one noticed the little boy as he walked onto the stage, climbed up on the piano stool and began to play "Chopsticks."
The concert hall fell silent as every eye turned toward the stage. People began to yell, "Where is that child's mother? How did he get on stage? Somebody get him down immediately! This is so embarrassing for our town!" The guest artist was standing in the wings, getting ready to make his entrance when he heard the shouts and saw and heard the little boy. Grabbing his jacket, the great pianist ran onto the stage, came up behind the little boy and placed his masterful hands on the keyboard beside the hands of the small child. The little boy was startled but did not move as the man whispered in the boy's ear, "Don't stop. Don't quit. Keep going." As the little boy began to play again, the great pianist began to play as well, composing a beautiful counter melody to "Chopsticks."
I know some of you are ready to give up and quit. Some mountain is standing between you and the dream you thought was sure to become a reality. You think God has lost track of where you are and what you are going through. He hasn't, girlfriend.
I know you don't understand why a loving God would allow so much pain to saturate this broken world and perpetuate such loss and hurt. I don't either. But God's ways are so much higher than my ways, and His thoughts are for my eternal good – not my temporary comfort. I am banking on eternity. I am counting on the character of God and His heart of unconditional, unmerited and undeserved love. God's forgiveness gives me the strength to get out of bed each morning, and His peace is my comfort in the dark, lonely night. Like you, I sometimes ask God why He has allowed a circumstance to exist. I have questioned His favor and allowed fear and worry to make me doubt His plan. And I have to tell you that I can now look back and see so many of the question marks yanked into exclamation points in my life. I am so thankful that He said "no" to so many of the prayers I desperately wanted Him to answer with "yes." He is God. He is able and He is more than enough.
No matter where you are today, know He is with you and that His heart is for you. Don't quit. He is not angry with you. You are His daughter, the apple of His eye and His cherished child. Don't give up. Right now, surrender all of your pain to Him. Shed your tears, knowing He will collect them all and one day pour them back into your life as a refreshing rain of restoration and healing. Keep going. Ask your questions, knowing Heaven is not in a panic and that your God really is who He says He is and will do what He has promised to do. He simply waits for you to trust Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You like a child. My faith is small and my strength almost gone. I am desperate for You. I don't understand what is happening in my life, and I am ready to give up. I want to quit. Please don't let me, Lord. Give me Your strength and hope for today. Help me to keep going, trusting You every step of the way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lordwith all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take" (NLT).
Record these verses in your journal. Circle each action word and then right out the plan you need to follow to trust God.
What "next step" do you need to take in order to begin again and trust God?
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Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Strength for the Storm, if you need help navigating the storm in your life. MP3 downloads, CDs and books are also available in Mary's online store along with FREE resourceson her site.
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June 29, 2012
Accepting The Call
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus replied, "Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching" (John 14:23, NIV).
Friend To Friend
There is a feature on my cell phone that allows me to decline an incoming call. There are a thousand reasons why I might choose to hit the "decline" button when my phone rings. Sometimes I am writing and have a deadline to make. Decline. Sometimes a call comes in when I'm mid-conversation with a friend or when I'm connecting with my family. Decline. At times, true confessions here, I decline a call simply because I don't want to talk to the person who's calling me at that moment. (C'mon, don't judge me.)
Similarly, there are times in my life when I try to ignore the promptings of the Holy Spirit as if I were declining a cell phone call. Times when I just don't feel like doing what I know God wants me to do. Times when I don't want to hear the still small voice that whispers to my soul: "forgive him" – "release your anger" – "humble yourself and ask for forgiveness" or "focus on my plan for you ... not on my plan for another person."
One such time took place a few years back. It was after the final session at a three-day ministry event, I was focused and fervent, determined to head home to my husband and three children as quickly as possible. I busied myself wrapping microphone chords, loading CDs from my resource table, and prepping to leave. While I was mid-busy, a friendly thirty-something woman I'd chatted with previously that weekend came up to me with her friend. I was courteous to them, but in a "see-you-later, girlfriend" kind of way.
Not getting my subtle clues, this woman inquired excitedly about the book I was in the middle of writing. I lifted my head with surprise as she announced, "I can't wait to read your book! Your enthusiasm for the Lord is so contagious, and I just know you have an amazing testimony!" Then she and her friend stood there expectantly. Decline.
Okay, feel my pain here. It is day three of a three-day event! I was exhausted. I was done. Yet this woman and her friend wanted to hear my testimony. So, I did what any normal fleshy woman would do. I told God, Not now, Lord. I'm going home. I've done what I came to do and now I'm going home to my family. I'm tired, slightly grumpy, definitely hungry, and done. I can't tell these girls about my abortion right now. Nope. Not going to go there. Please don't ask me to!
So I looked up at these two sweet women and, with a forced chuckle, said, "Yeah, I've got a doozy of a story, but don't we all? Thank God for grace."
There! Now they should leave me alone, I thought.
But God kept nudging my heart. Tell them, Gwen.
Before I had a chance to continue my dialog with the Lord, another couple of women came to join our conversation. I was so not amused.
God, are You kidding me? We are done here!
But He kept nudging.
So I finally conceded and shared my testimony with the six women who had gathered to speak to me. Within minutes, two of the six were crying. They'd had abortions as well and for years had lived under the weight of shame. We became a bonded band of blubbering sisters. The story of my redemption from brokenness and the beauty and healing I found in Christ had become a tool in the hands of God that afternoon. What had once been a wound became a weapon ... but only because I accepted the call. (Even if it did take me a while to concede.)
Jesus told his disciples that if they loved Him, they would obey His commands and His teachings (John 14:15-27). A simple if-then statement. If you love me, then you will obey. He also told them that when He returned to the Father in heaven, He would send the Holy Spirit to teach, to guide in truth, to convict of sin and to remind believers of what Jesus taught (John 16:7-14). To help us. To empower us.
The Spirit of God lives within every Christian. He equips us for each task as we yield to His leading. When God prompts us to do something on His behalf, He is faithful to lead the way and to bless our obedience – for His own glory. It's all about His glory. He simply wants our willingness and our obedience. Friend, His plans need to be our plans ... even if His plans sometimes seem to "interrupt" our plans. Let's be women who accept His call. Are you willing today?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I've chosen my plan over Your plan. Align my will to Yours and help me to express my love for You by obeying your Word and by responding to the promptings of Your Spirit.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you sensed that God was leading you to do something? How did you respond?
Is there something He is calling you to do today? Are you withholding forgiveness from someone? Are you aware of a need that God wants you to meet? Does He want you end a toxic relationship? Spend a few minutes in prayer about this.
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God calls each of us to use our lives to point to His hope. Right before He ascended into heaven, Jesus said, "But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth." (Acts 1:8, emphasis added.) That call—that commission—will look different for each of us. GiGs, what does this look like for you today? Let's talk about it on my Facebook page. Leave a comment or thought on my wall at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
Portions of today's devotion are taken from Gwen's book, Broken Into Beautiful. Her full testimony is featured in the book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book online, please visit Gwen's website or grab a copy from Amazon or your favorite Christian bookstore.
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July 2, 2012
The Love of God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
1 John 4:8-10 (NIV) "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love to us: He sent his one and only Son into the world so that we could have life through him. This is what real love is: It is not our love for God; it is God's love for us in sending his Son to be the way to take away our sins."
Friend to Friend
I believe that much of our stress is the result of a constant and innate quest to be loved and to love. The problems come when we look in the wrong places for love. When we know God, we know love. When we experience His unconditional love, we are then freed and empowered to love ourselves and others. I have personally discovered that it is just downright frustrating and completely impossible to live the Christian life when you are not a Christian. I tried.
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words and did all the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It was not until middle school that the spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God. I needed to experience the unconditional love of God.
During a special Saturday evening church service, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I'd been living a lie.
My mind argued that I knew all about God – and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I didn't know Him. His perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children.
That night I met Jesus! I surrendered all that I knew about myself to all that I knew about Him. While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis and still had to face stressful situations. The difference was that God's love preceded me, surrounded and sustained me as I lived each day. Knowing we are loved fosters contentment and peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
We come into this world longing for unconditional love. Our very souls hunger for a love that is authentic, constant, unchanging and with no strings attached. Our hearts dream of love being given freely, eternally and beyond measure. After exhausting every possible source we reason that there is no such love, settling for shallow substitutes that leave us empty and broken.
But God came -- a perfect man into an imperfect world. And because He came, real love not only exists but is available to you right now, just as you are -- through a personal relationship with God. When we know Him – we know love – because God is love.
Just as we cannot earn the love of God or buy it with good works, neither can we lose His love nor can it be stolen from us. All we can do is accept it, allowing it to saturate and transform every part of who we are. It is in that moment of turning everything we know about ourselves over to everything we know about Him that we are bound by His love. And nothing, absolutely nothing can separate us from that stubborn God love.
Let's Pray
Father God, I desperately need You and the power of Your love. Right now I surrender my life to You and invite You to take full control. Thank You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Carefully read the following steps. Are you ready to take each one? God is waiting -- arms open wide – just for you.
Acknowledge your desperate need for the love of God.
Accept His love for you.
Lay down your old way of life.
Invite God to come into your life, surrendering complete control to Him.
Celebrate His love and the new life it brings.
More from the Girlfriends
For more help on your journey to know God, check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, How to Find Your Missing Peace. MP3 downloads, CDs and books are also available in Mary's online store along with FREE resources on her site.
Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible Study. Enroll now and have access to all 2012 lessons. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 3, 2012
The Guestbook
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody," - (2 Corinthians 3:2 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Just before leaving our rented condominium after a week of sun, sand, and surf, at Hilton Head Island, SC, we found a treasure tucked under some old magazines on the coffee table. It was a 6 X 8 inch white guest book, signed by previous vacationers who had also shared a relaxing week away from home.
Feeling somewhat like a "peeping Tom" craning to peer into someone's window, we cracked open the book and stole a glimpse into the personalities of our fellow travelers. With each entry, we visualized what the guests looked like, decided if we would like to invite them over for dinner, and surmised whether they had an enjoyable vacation together.
Have a look for yourself and decide with whom you would like to share a cup of coffee or would like to have as your neighbor:
· "Thank you very much for the use of your condo. We thoroughly enjoyed our first, but not last visit to S.C."
· "Had a great time. Enjoyed your villa very much! However, you need to have the springs in the couch repaired. Very uncomfortable to sit on. Thank you."
· "We have decided that this is where we'd love to live. It's a golfer's dream. Your courses are beautiful. The girls loved the beach, parasailing, bike rides, horseback riding, shopping! I love my tan. We will be back to visit! If you are ever in Arkansas, come to Stuttgart. We are 50 miles east of Little Rock. Stuttgart hosts the World Championship Duck Calling Contest every year during Thanksgiving weekend. We are known as the "Rice and Duck Capital of the World." Riceland Rice comes from our little town and the ducks feed off of the rice fields during the winter after harvest. It is some of the best duck hunting anywhere. Thank you for the use of your condo. We've had a great week here."
· "We really enjoyed your villa, but we won't be staying here again. We just booked another villa at Colonnade for next year a couple of doors down for almost $300 less."
· "Hello. My name is Amanda and I got here yesterday. So far we are having a good time. I'm eleven-years-old and I came here with my mother, grandmother, and my Aunt Loretta. She got here at the same time we did, but she is leaving tomorrow. We came all the way from Lake Wylie, S. C. I love it here and might be back next year.
· "It has been a fabulous time. This villa is bigger than our home! My niece is sure she saw a whale at the Old Oyster Factory, but we are sure she saw a buoy. Greg and Dad played golf together and we all played mini-golf. We went bike riding and "gator chasing." The ocean is breathtaking. I've never seen it before, so I'm still in awe!
"When we first came, the keys wouldn't fit, you forgot to give us a pass, and we almost ran over a biker. Get better service! Two grandmas were with us! Sixth time here - never happened before."
The Bible tells us that we are simply visitors here on earth (1 Chronicles 29:15). The words we speak are also our entries in the Guestbook of Life.
What entries am I writing with my attitudes, actions and words for the world to see? Will they think that I was a crabby old lady who wanted better service? Will they think I savored each day here with my wonderful family? Will they think that I would have preferred another life just a few doors down? Or will they think that I so enjoyed my time here that I wanted to share it with anyone and everyone who was passing through?
Do you want to know what we wrote in the Guestbook before we left?
"Thank you for the use of your beach home. July fourth is a time to celebrate our great country with its many freedoms. Our hope for all who follow us here is that you will know the freedom which comes from knowing the Truth that sets us all free (John 8:32)." Steve, Sharon and Steven Jaynes
Matthews, NC
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, Your Word tells me that I am a letter being read by everyone. I pray that I won't be junk mail today. I pray that I won't be like a bill making people feel like they owe me. I pray that I will be a love letter, a thank you note, and an invitation to celebrate life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are you leaving in the guestbook of life for all to read?
What would youlike to be leaving in the guestbook of life for all to read?
Go ahead, write it down?
Now, live this day as if you were a walking, talking letter from God to everyone you come in contact with!
Here's your chance to start today. Click over to my blog page and leave a comment about one thing you enjoyed about yesterday or this day.
More from the Girlfriends
We are walking, talking letters to the world, telling them and showing them about what Jesus is like. Yikes! The Bible calls us Ambassadors. If you need to improve the quality of your letter, you might want to read The Power of a Woman's Words to learn about the people we impact, the power we possess, and the potential to change. Just click on the link or go to www.sharonjaynes.com.
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July 4, 2012
Making Right Choices
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths (Proverbs 4:27, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I have learned a lot from the people God has put in my life over the years, but some of my greatest teachers have been and are our children and grandchildren.
Our son-in-law was sharing a recent experience he had at dinner with our three-year-old grandson, Justus. Evidently, our daughter had asked Justus to do something during the day. Justus flashed his most charming smile and promptly did the opposite of what his mother asked him to do, proud of his toddler version of defiance. His mother was not as pleased. She corrected him and shared the experience with her husband.
That night, over dinner, Sam said, "Justus, did Momma ask you to do something today?" Justus immediately remembered the incident and lowered his head. "Yes, daddy, she did." Sam gently continued, "Son, we have to do what Momma says, okay? We have to make good choices." Justus thought for a moment. You could almost see the mental wheels turning as he contemplated the words of his dad. With a sigh and fierce conviction Justus responded, "But Daddy, I don't wike making right choices!" And there you have it. The perfect description of the battle between our old nature and the new nature we receive when we surrender our lives to God. It is the beginning of an internal civil war between obedience and disobedience to God. And if you are like Justus ... and his Mimi ... there are times when you don't like making the right choice either.
At the close of the sermon, a church member came forward to speak with the pastor. He was very upset because of the sin in his life and his blatant disobedience to God. With tears streaming down his face, the repentant man took the pastor's hand to confess that his life was full of sin, but what came out was, "My sin is full of life." I can relate.
I don't know about you, but my sin is definitely "full of life." I am always amused but also saddened by people who think that just because I am in full time ministry, I am holier than they are, better than they are or don't have to battle sin like they do. Just ask my husband and children. They will blow that theory right out of the water. The fact is, as long as I live in this fallen world and sport this frail humanity, I will wrestle with sin and making right choices.
However, I have refined several tactics for dealing with my sinful nature. Rationalization is one of my personal favorites. And there is always the handy comparison ploy – measuring my sin against the sin of another. At times, I subscribe to the popular "bury it and hope it will go away" tactic. The reality is that nothing satisfies the payment sin demands except the blood of Jesus Christ, and my response to His sacrifice in true, unadulterated repentance -- on my face before my Holy God.
When we turn our lives over to God, He sets our feet on the right path. But to stay on that path requires a continual choice to run from sin. With our flawed choices, we take side trips, create detours and wind up on the wrong road headed in the wrong direction. Solomon warns us to stay away from evil paths. "Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths" (Proverbs 4:27, NLT). "Keep away" literally means "to turn aside or drag from." In other words, when we see sin or even the opportunity to sin, we should turn around and run in the opposite direction. We should "drag ourselves" away from sin. What do we do instead? We flirt with sin. We want to be delivered from temptation but would really like to keep in touch. We pray for God to "lead us not into temptation" and then deliberately place ourselves in its path. In our arrogance, we think we can handle sin and the temptation to sin on our own. That very attitude is an open invitation for the enemy, daring him to take his best shot.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor of Flamingo Road Church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, for many years. A man of great wisdom, Dan was adamant about the fact that neither he nor his staff should ever put themselves in a situation that flirted with sin or made it easier to sin. Solid wooden office doors were replaced with glass doors. No pastor was allowed to meet with a woman for any reason unless one of the other staff members was present. A staff counselor was hired to handle anyone needing more than one counseling session. The staff often went to lunch following their regular Tuesday morning staff meeting and even though the restaurant was literally across the street from the church, no man was allowed to ride alone with a woman. Sound ridiculous? Seem absurd? Not at all! Dan simply refused to provide ammunition for the enemy. The bottom line is that it's foolish and dangerous to flirt with sin.
There is no holding pattern for believers nor can we live in a neutral state. We are either going forward or backward. We are either being renewed or consumed. Girlfriend, do not relinquish any more life territory to the enemy. Run from sin ... and commit to making right choices.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the sin in my life. Right now, I choose to turn away from that sin. I turn to You, Lord. I know that I am lost and totally helpless without You. Thank You for the unconditional love and unending forgiveness that I find in You. Give me the strength and wisdom to make right choices that please and honor You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Corinthians 10:13. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (NIV).
Consider the following promises found in 1 Corinthians 10:13. What do they mean to you and how do they apply to your life?
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
God is faithful.
He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
He will provide a way out.
More from the Girlfriends
While it is true that we all face many temptations every single day, it is just as true that God will strengthen us to withstand each one. Need help? Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation, offers five steps you can take to help you resist temptation and live a life of victory.
If you need help learning how to understand and apply the truths of God, enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 5, 2012
The Stone Unthrown
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her," (John 8:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"What are we going to do with this Jesus," the chief priest asked the group. "He is going about healing people left and right. Everywhere I go the buzz is about Jesus. It's Jesus this, and Jesus that. And the crowds are calling him the Messiah! Everyone knows that the Messiah will not come from Galilee. If we don't get rid of him, we are going to have an insurrection on our hands."
"And ever since the buzz about him multiplying a few loaves and fish to feed over 5,000 people has circulated, his followers have multiplied as well. He must be stopped."
"I have an idea," Lucius responded with a gleam in his eye. "I happen to know a certain married man who is sleeping with his mistress at this very moment. I happened to see him slink into her house last night."
And as the hard-hearted Pharisees gathered round, a spiteful plan to trick Jesus began to unfold.
The sun was just peeking through the securely locked shutters of Morah's bedroom window. The predawn stillness was broken only by the songs of early rising birds floating on the breeze. Morah was a tangle of sheets, arms and legs as the man she loved lay sleeping beside her.
"Oh, Zachariah," she whispered as her fingertips brushed a stray lock of hair from his closed eyes. "If only you weren't married. I know this is wrong, but I love you so. And I have to believe you when you say you love me as well. We are risking our very lives with these frequent trysts."
Morah's musings were suddenly interrupted by a banging on the door.
"Open up!" the gruff voice demanded.
"Who is there?" Morah cried as she scrambled to find her robe.
"Open up or we'll break the door down."
"What's all the commotion," Zachariah mumbled as he groggily sat up in bed. "What's going on?"
Before Morah could even think to answer, the angry mob of religious men broke through the simple lock and into the lovers' hideaway.
"What is the meaning of this?" Zachariah barked. "What do you think you are doing?"
"What do you think you are doing, my friend," the Pharisee countered. "That is the real question here."
"Morah, daughter of Omar, you are under arrest for adultery under the Law of Moses!" the moral police spat. "Get dressed and come with me."
The Pharisee tossed Morah her night robe, but failed to turn his head as she slipped her trembling frame from the cover of the sheets and into the thin cloak. He grabbed her by the arm and began dragging her to the door.
"Where are you taking me?" she cried.
"You'll find out soon enough," the Pharisee growled.
"What about Zachariah?" the youngest man of the group inquired.
"Just leave him," the Pharisee replied. "We don't need him."
"Why don't you go back to your wife where you belong," the Pharisee called over his shoulder as the group left the room. And with that, the conspiring mob continued their trek to the temple with the half-clad trembling woman in tow. Two men flanked the weeping woman on either side, dragging her through the early morning hustle and bustle of the city. The bait was hooked, and now it was time to reel in the catch.
Like mice following the Pied Piper, a curious stream of townsfolk joined the parade. Jesus was already teaching in the courtyard with a group gathered at his feet. As always, Jesus' message and miracles drew large crowds. A distant rumble interrupted his gentle teaching as the angry mob and curious crowd approached. They marched right into the inner circle of the classroom and thrust the woman at the Master's feet.
Morah's unbound hair fell around her bare shoulders and fluttered in the early morning breeze. Her shame-filled eyes stayed riveted on the earthen floor, refusing to meet Jesus' gaze. Then one of the men pulled her to her feet and displayed her for all to see.
She didn't need to look at the man before her. She recognized his voice. It was Jesus.
"Teacher," the pious Pharisee began, "this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The Law of Moses commands us to stone such a woman. Now what do you say?"
Jesus didn't look at the woman's half-clad body as the others openly gawked. He looked into her soul.
Morah lifted her eyes and looked into the face of love. What do I detect in his gaze? She thought to herself. It wasn't contempt, disgust, or condemnation, but rather compassion, concern, and pure, unadulterated love. Somehow she knew that this was the look she had been searching for her entire life.
As Morah listened to the Pharisee's question, she understood Jesus' dilemma. If he set her free, the Pharisees would accuse him of ignoring the Law of Moses and deem him a heretic. If he sentenced her to death by stoning, then his teachings of grace and forgiveness would be negated.
The religious leaders already held the stones in their clenched fists, anticipating his reply. Their hearts were as hard as the rocks they held in their hands. But rather than give a quick answer, Jesus moved his gaze from the trembling woman and stooped to the ground. With his finger, the very hand of God-made-man, he began writing in the dirt. A frigid chill swept through the Pharisees pious robes. Suddenly they felt the rawness of naked exposure as Jesus' eyes looked up at each of them and without a word, uncloaked their sinful thoughts and desires. With one look from Jesus, they stood soul bare and more exposed than the half-dressed woman before them.
Everyone held their breath. The silence was deafening. The tension was palpable. Finally, Jesus rose and delivered the verdict.
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Then Jesus squatted once again and continued to write.
One-by-one the Pharisees unclenched their fists, dropped the stones, and filtered through the crowd. The older men who had accumulated a longer list of sins turned to leave first, with the younger ones not far behind.
The remaining crowd listened closely as the drama continued to unfold. After the last of the Pharisees cleared the scene, Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she replied.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
The woman turned to leave, but not before picking up a discarded stone to take with her.
"To remember," she whispered.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, this story of Your great mercy and grace takes my breath away. Just to think that the only person qualified to throw the stone was the very One who set her free. Help me to always remember that You have forgiven me of my sins. Help me to drop the stones I so quickly pick up to cast at others and extend to them the same grace You have extended to me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
I hope your heart was stirred with the re-telling of this amazing story. We don't know the woman's name. I have simply called her Morah so we can paint a picture of a real woman with a real problem in our minds. Now let me ask a few questions...
When is the last time you held a rock of condemnation in your hand? Not a real rock, but a judgmental attitude?
When is the last time you acted like the Pharisees who were so quick to condemn?
Who do you want to be like, Jesus who showed grace and forgiveness, or the Pharisees who wanted to give her what she deserved?
If you can remember a time when Jesus showed you the same mercy and grace, click over to my blog page, and tell why you thank Jesus for the stone unthrown. Just leave your comment in the comment box under this devo/blog entry.
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Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours.
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July 6, 2012
The Stinky Sour Sippy Cup
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" - (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As a songwriter and recording artist, I travel back and forth from my home in Charlotte to Nashville, Tennessee when I record a CD project. One summer when I had ventured to Music City to finish up a CD project, my girlfriend, Kerri, and I had spent the last day of my trip in a studio recording background vocals. When we were finished, I had to high-tail it to the airport in order to catch my flight home.
Kerri, a young mom, enthusiastically offered to take me to the airport, and I gladly accepted. I'm all about spending time with my friends and catching up on life! As we made our way out to the car, Kerri apologetically mentioned that her daughter had dropped a sippy cup of milk in her car the day before, and that she hadn't been able to locate it.
"I will be more than happy to take you to the airport, Gwen," she said, "but there's just no telling what my car is going to smell like!"
"No problem!" I said. "I'm a mom! I've dealt with many-a-missing milk sippy cup in my day. How bad can it be?"
Did I mention that it was one of those "you can fry an egg on the sidewalk," dog days of August? Yep. It was! You know where this is going, don't you?
As we opened the car doors, Kerri and I were smacked silly with the stinky smell of sour milk. Not just a subtle smell, mind you – but a dominant, "been sitting in the 100 degree weather all day" smell. It wreaked something fierce! We laughed until we almost cried at how horrible it smelled as we made our way down the expressway to the airport.
Sounds kind of funny, but smells matter. Some smells, like a stinky, sour milk sippy, are offensive. They make you want to escape their presence. While other smells, like fresh baked bread, or a freshly bathed baby, can be greatly pleasurable and inviting. Which type of smell best represents your presence and persona as a woman?
We need to remember that our attitudes and conversations give off a smell as well. The apostle Paul said, "But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him. For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life" (2 Corinthians 2:14-16a, emphasis mine).
Does your life-attitude give off an aroma of Christ? What about your employee-attitude, mom-attitude or your friendship-attitude? Are your children, husband and/or friends drawn to God as a result of the love and peace you display? Do your conversations consistently honor Him, embody the fruit of the Spirit, and expel the fragrance of life ... or are they sometimes laced with harsh tones, anger, complaining, or impatience? It's time to locate and throw away our stinky, sour attitudes, and ask the Lord to renew our minds. Let's run the race before us as women of honor who, through the power of the Holy Spirit, give off an aroma of Christ to everyone around us.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, please forgive me for all of the times I've allowed sinful behavior to creep into my thoughts and conversations. Help me be a sweet aroma. I ask that You will now, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read, write down, and commit to memory the following verse: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law" (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV).
Spend some time in prayer right now. Ask God to reveal to you any areas in your life that might not "smell" as they should. Then talk to a trusted friend about what He brings to your heart, and ask her to pray for you and hold you accountable.
What did today's devotion remind you of? Please come to my Facebook page today and share your heart and your story or thoughts with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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July 9, 2012
Standing Firm in the Storms of Life Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit."
Friend to Friend
Just as storms in life are a certainty, so is the provision of God. Life can be messy and bad things will happen, but every crisis and every storm is also an opportunity to trust God. He calls us to a heavenly perspective when facing challenging times. He calls us to see the storms of life as He sees them -- opportunities for His power and purpose to be illustrated in human terms. How can we face the storms of life in a way that honors God?
First truth: Live a pure life.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
The apostle Paul was certainly no stranger to storms. In his writings to the church at Corinth, Paul lists several actions we can take to survive and even thrive in those storms. Notice that purity is listed first. Paul is sending a clear and certain message. Integrity and power for daily life are the result of a heart committed to purity. A clean heart unleashes the authority of God in us and through us. Impurity corrodes stability while purity generates a supernatural strength. It is that power and stability that keeps us from falling.
Psalm 51:10 (NASB) "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."
The Psalmist links a pure heart with a steadfast spirit. "Steadfast" literally means "fixed or unchanging" and defines the kind of strength that can only be found in a right relationship with God. Stability is essential when those blustery winds of life's storms are raging. Some storms come to uncover that cherished sin we try so hard to bury. But make no mistake, the purpose of the storm is always to purify – then empower. If we refuse to deal with the sin in our life, God will urge us toward obedience by allowing the storms to come.
Second truth: Seek understanding.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
Understanding is only as good as its place of origin. Human understanding is limited and tainted while Godly understanding is infinite and unspoiled. Our greatest lessons are learned in the fiercest storms. I know you have heard that statement many times – but are those words a living reality in your life?
A teacher was asked a question by one of his students who had come across Deuteronomy 6:6 that says, "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts." The student asked, "Why does it say to put God's commandments upon our hearts instead of in our hearts?" The wise teacher responded, "It is not within man's power to deposit truth directly into his heart. All we can do is place truth on the surface of the heart so that when the heart breaks, it will fall in."
Every circumstance that results in brokenness is designed to produce greater self-control and a fresh perspective. We can face every storm with confidence, knowing that God will redeem it for understanding and truth.
Third truth: Learn to be patient.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
I must confess that I am not the epitome of patience. In fact, I hate to wait – on anyone or anything – which may very well explain the presence of certain storms and trials in my life. James had the same problem but a much better attitude.
James 1:2-4 (NIV) "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."
I tend to consider it pure joy when I can escape trials of many kinds, but James tells us that trials can and should be faced with patience and an attitude of joy. Not joy for the trials but joy in the trials. Don't miss this vital truth. Joy is deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control. Joy is a chosen attitude and understands that trials are not punishment.
Take a $5 bar of steel. If you cut that bar into ordinary horseshoes, it is worth about $10. That same $5 bar of steel cut into needles is worth $350 but cut into delicate springs for watches, that same $5 bar of steel is worth $250,000.
Trials are a test, a measurement of growth. Patience gives God permission to work and even expects to be tested.We go to great lengths to avoid trials and shelter ourselves from the storms of life. The result is spiritual immaturity. God will not build our character without our cooperation and He will not work in us without our permission. We must surrender, invite Him to work and then by faith, patiently embrace that work in our life. Warren Wiersbe writes, "When God permits his children to go through the furnace, He keeps his eye on the clock and his hand on the thermostat." Doubt puts our circumstance between us and God while faith puts God between us and our circumstances. Patience comes when we give up the responsibility for the outcome to God.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness in my life. Sometimes my motives are not pure and are so often self-serving. Right now, please cleanse my heart of all sin. Give me eyes to see the treasure buried at the heart of every trial and help me to choose joy -- even when I don't understand what You are doing in my life. Teach me, Lord. Let my life be an illustration of Your strength perfected in my weakness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs."
What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Do you really believe we can experience joy – even in the midst of the fiercest storm? Explain.
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
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I know your trials are many and that you have been battered by some brutal storms. But more importantly, God knows. In Him, you can be a storm survivor! And when you are face to face with a storm, you are standing on the edge of a miracle. Don't tell God how big your storm is. Tell your storm how big your God is! Stand firm!
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in Video download, CD, and MP3. A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. Enroll now and have access to all 2012 lessons. FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
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July 10, 2012
Then Neither do I Condemn You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin"
(John 8:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Remember the story of the woman caught in adultery recorded in John 8:1-11? If you aren't familiar with it, go back and read it in John 8 or visit my blog and read a re-telling of the story titled The Stone Unthrown - www.sharonjaynes.com.
To recap, the Pharisees had brought this half-dressed woman to Jesus right in the middle of his teaching and tried to snare him in a trap. Should she be stoned or set free? As this woman listened to the Pharisee's question Jesus, she understood his dilemma. If he set her free, the Pharisees would accuse him of ignoring the Law of Moses and deem him a heretic. If he sentenced her to death by stoning, then his teachings of grace and forgiveness would be negated.
The religious leaders already held the stones in their clenched fists, anticipating his reply. Their hearts were as hard as the rocks they held in their hands. But rather than give a quick answer, Jesus moved his gaze from the trembling woman and stooped to the ground. With his finger, the very hand of God-made-man, he began writing in the dirt. A frigid chill swept through the Pharisees pious robes. Suddenly they felt the rawness of naked exposure as Jesus' eyes looked up at each of them and without a word, uncloaked their sinful thoughts and desires. With one look from Jesus, they stood soul bare and more exposed than the half-clad woman before them.
Everyone held their breath. The silence was deafening. The tension was palpable. Finally, Jesus rose and delivered the verdict.
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Then Jesus squatted once again and continued to write.
One-by-one the Pharisees unclenched their fists, dropped the stones, and filtered through the crowd. The older men who had accumulated a longer list of sins turned to leave first, with the younger ones not far behind.
After the last of the Pharisees cleared the scene, Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she replied.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
Now, let's bring this story home. Imagine yourself standing before God on your day of judgment. You know all that you have done. Satan is pacing back and forth reading your long list of sins. But then Jesus steps forward and takes the list from the accuser. Looking over the accusations he begins: "I paid for this one, and this one, and this one, and this one...."
Finally, reaching the end of Satan's meticulously penned and amazingly accurate enumeration of all your shortcomings, Jesus begins to tear the paper into shreds. He cups the pieces of the destroyed list of failures in his nail-scarred hands and then, with the breath of grace, blows them as far as the east is from the west. Wiping his hands together as if completing a work, he glances back over to the Judge, "All gone," he says with a smile.
Satan grumbles under his sulfurous breath, and slinks back to his darkened cave - foiled again.
God looks up and asks you, "Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," you reply.
"Then enter my eternal kingdom and find rest."
Friend, if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, and if you are still feeling condemned, know that condemnation is not coming from God. Our enemy, the devil, is called the "accuser of the brothers," and he is the accuser of the sisters too. The Bible tells us that he marches before God accusing believers night and day (Revelation 12:11). "She did this and she did that and this and that and this," he hisses.
And God replies "Really? I don't remember? "
Then He looks at you with a welcoming smile.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for forgiving me of my sins. Thank You for washing me clean. Thank You that when the enemy accuses me before You, Jesus steps forward to announce He's paid my debt and set me free.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Do you truly believe that God has forgiven you of your sins? If you're not sure, read 1 John 1:9.
Notice the last thing Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery. What was it?
Jesus wasn't saying that what she did was OK. He called sin a sin. Could it be that He is saying the same to you in a particular area of your life today? (Sorry. I just had to go and make it personal, didn't I? But that's what girlfriends are for!)
What is the one thing about today's story that speaks to you the most? Share your answer on my blog page. Just click over and leave your thoughts in the comment box under this devo/blog entry.
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Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Click on www.sharonjaynes.com to watch an introductory video that is about the great lengths Jesus went took to set women free.
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July 11, 2012
Standing Firm in the Storms of Life Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit."
Friend to Friend
It would be just fine with me if I never had to go through another storm. However, God is more committed to my character than He is to my comfort. Every storm is an opportunity to grow in Christ and trust Him more.
The Apostle Paul was well acquainted with vicious storms and harsh realities. In his writings to the church at Corinth Paul offers five truths that - when applied - will enable us to stand firm in the storm.
Truth 1: Live a pure life.
Truth 2: Seek understanding.
Truth 3: Learn to be patient.
Truth 4: Practice kindness.
When bad things happen, we cry out in desperation for someone to care. More people come to Christ during a crisis than at any other time. Kindness is simply compassion at work and love in action. We need to constantly refocus our success-targeted eyes, crucify each self-promoting heart motive and look for the needs around us. I often wonder just how amazed we will be when we get to Heaven and find the unlikely, unknown but devoted servants of God exalted above all others – rewarded for their quiet and often unseen acts of kindness.
A preacher once described his mother as a woman of great compassion. One day he came home from school to find her sitting at the table with an elderly, homeless man. Apparently, she had gone shopping, met the man on the way and invited him home for a warm meal. During their conversation the visitor said, "I wish there were more people in the world like you." The woman said quickly, "Oh there are! You just have to look for them!" The old man simply shook his head and smiled, "But lady, I didn't need to look for you. You looked for me!"
Needs constantly parade before us day after day but we don't see them. We are too busy to see the broken lambs the Shepherd sends our way. We view them as intrusions or annoying interruptions in our very important schedule. These uninvited and unscheduled guests may very well be divine appointments sent by God. The warning of Hebrews 13:2 is a haunting one. "Remember to welcome strangers, because some who have done this have welcomed angels without knowing it." How many angels have we missed because we were too busy?
Perhaps we fail to be kind simply because we don't care enough. A little girl was sent by her mother on an errand. She was gone far too long so when the little girl returned, the mother demanded an explanation. The little girl said that on her way she had met a friend who was crying because she had broken her doll. "Oh," said the mother, "then you stopped to help her fix her doll?" "Oh, no!" replied the little girl. "I stopped to help her cry!" We are never more like our Father than when weathering relationship storms with kindness and love. Jesus says that if we really love God we will really love each other. Kindness and compassion are directly related to the health of our personal relationship with Jesus Christ. The truths in 1 John 4:20 are clear, "If people say, 'I love God,' but hate their brothers or sisters, they are liars. Those who do not love their brothers and sisters, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have never seen." We can be very religious and not care enough. Kindness does not look for reasons. Compassion doesn't ask for limitations. It searches for opportunity.
Truth 5: Experience and practice love.
We not only need God in the midst of the storm, we need each other. The essence of love is tested within the context of relationships. Paul writes that we must "prove" ourselves by being patient and kind. How we handle relationships exhibits the depth and validity of God's love at work in and through us.
Ephesians 4: 2-3 (NCV) "Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way."
Learning to build healthy relationships is crucial to a fulfilled life. Someone will always be disappointed, disgruntled, or displeased with us. We have a choice to make – to honor God by waging peace or venerate Satan himself by entertaining conflict in relationships. God is committed to unity. If we don't make "every effort" to eradicate discord, a storm may come to help us do so.
I have a friend who raises and works with horses. She once explained how a group of thoroughbred horses confronts an enemy. They stand in a circle, facing each other and, with their back legs, kick out at the enemy. Donkeys do just the opposite, facing the enemy and kicking each other. Enough said.
When golf balls were first manufactured, their covers were smooth. Golfers soon discovered that after a ball had been roughed up a bit they were able to get more distance out of it. Manufacturers then began producing golf balls with dimpled covers. Life is a lot like that. It takes some rough spots to make us go our farthest. It takes some storms to teach us that God is faithful. When was the last time you threw a party to celebrate a trial or storm in your life?
James 1:2-3 (NLT) "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow."
God's ways are higher than our ways and most human reactions are in direct opposition to the paradoxical ways of God. Honestly, there are times when what He has asked me to do simply does not make sense – to me. And there we find the problem. Faith is a matter of blind obedience, not human logic. At the heart of every storm is victory – waiting to be claimed!
What storm is raging in your life today? What step do you need to take in order to experience His strength for that storm? Your Father stands ready to meet you in your darkest hour. He longs to wrap His arms around you until the winds die down and the waves are stilled. Right now – surrender. Celebrate the storm that dashed your battered life on the shores of His unyielding love and let Him give you the strength to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for being with me every step of the way – especially in the storms of life. I praise You for Your sufficiency in my life and for Your love that never fails. I pray that I will learn how to stand firm in the storms ahead and grasp the lesson each storm holds. I want to please You, Father. Change my comfortable heart to an obedient heart, a heart that is always ready to praise You – no matter what!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When you face a difficult situation, where do you turn first for help?
What is your attitude about the storms in your life? How does that attitude need to change?
Examine your life for any sin that is blocking God's power. How can you eliminate that barrier?
How can you best prepare for the storms ahead?
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I hate storms, but have finally come to terms with the fact that they are certain. So is God's deliverance. Sometimes He delivers us from the storm and other times He delivers us in the storm. Either way, God is with us.
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in Video download, CD, and MP3. A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. Enroll now and have access to all 2012 lessons. FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 12, 2012
Jesus' Celestial Day-Timer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Now he [Jesus] had to go through Samaria," (John 4:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have to tell you, the story of Jesus talking to the Samaritan woman at the well is one of the most exciting passages in the Bible for me. It is filled with hope for all women who feel abused, misused, and forgotten. It is for all women who have tried everything and everyone to fill the void in their hearts, but still hear the echo of emptiness ringing in their hollow souls.
I want you to go back and read the story of the Samaritan five-time divorcee and her encounter with Jesus at the well. It is found in John 4:1-26,39-42. Go ahead...I'll wait....
Now that you're back, let's chat about it. I hope you felt the length and the depth of the words of this story. You see, this is the longest recorded conversation between Jesus and any one single person in the entire New Testament...and it was with a woman.
The shortest route from Judea to Galilee lay on a high road straight through Samarian territory, but the Jews routinely crossed the Jordan River and took the long way around to avoid going through the towns of the despised Samaritans. Jews avoided Samaritans like the plague...literally. Like a quarantined hospital room, the Jews kept their distance.
So it wasn't because of geography that Jesus "had to go through Samaria." Oh no. He had to go through Samaria because His Father told him to. As Jesus reminded the disciples many times, he only did what his Father told him to do (John 5:30; 6:38; 8:26; 9:4; 10:37-38; 12:49-50).
Jesus had to go to Samaria because of divine destiny. Another translation states, "Jesus had a need to go to Samaria" (KJV). He was there on special assignment. It was not a coincidence or causal meeting, but a "deliberate, intentional, and calculated decision on the part of the Savior of the world to go meet with her." You see, there was a woman in Samaria who had been used and abused all her life. And now, God reached down from His throne and chose her for such a time as this. While she felt that she was damaged goods, fit for no one, God chose her as His special spokesperson for an entire town. And He sent His own Son to commission her for ministry.
So Jesus "had" to go, not because of geography, but because of what His Dad wrote in His celestial day-timer. And while the disciples went shopping for groceries, Jesus waited patiently for his assignment to arrive.
While most women went to the well to draw water for their daily use in the cool of the morning or late in the evening, this woman went at high noon. The scorching sun of high noon was a small price to pay in order to avoid being snubbed by the other women in the town. She preferred the heat of the sun to the cold shoulders of the women. So while the women gathered for girlfriend time at the well early in the morning, this particular woman waited until they had returned to their safe havens in order to find safety of her own.
When Jesus asked her for a drink, he didn't demand it of her. He never does. He simply asks. But the fact that he even asked was radical. Men did not talk to women in public in this culture. Jewish men didn't talk to Samaritan women at all. And for a Jew to drink from a Samaritan's cup was unheard of. Jews considered Samaritans unclean, and to drink from a Samaritan's cup would in turn make them unclean. Jesus wasn't concerned in the slightest, for it is only by drinking from his cup that any of us could ever be clean to begin with.
Jesus spoke to her directly and respectfully. This was no doubt radically different from any other Jewish man she had come in contact with. Don't for one minute think that her nationality and gender were happenstance. They were both intentionally chosen by our very intentional God – just another example that God's plan to set the captives free was for all who would believe. And He crossed gender, racial, and religious boundaries to do just that.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father. Thank You that Jesus "had" to go to Samaria to set a woman free. Thank You that Jesus "had to" come to a simple woman like me to set me free as well. Thank You for writing my name in Jesus' celestial day-timer...that He reached down and saved me, redeemed me, and now uses me to share His message of redemption.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt like the Samaritan woman at the well? Like no one wanted to be around you?
Just think about how risky it was for Jesus to have this conversation with her.
What do you think would have happened if the disciples had been there?
Check out the story again and notice when the disciples showed up. (John 4:25-30)
What does that tell you about God's timing?
When did God write your name in Jesus' day-timer? What was the date he set you free? If you remember the date when you accepted Christ as your Savior, click over to my blog page, look for today's entry, and share your spiritual-birth-date in the comment box. Let's celebrate!
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Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Read this book and you'll fall in love with Jesus all over again
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July 13, 2012
Are Happy Endings Really Possible?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him" (Psalm 32:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love a good story. I love stories filled with drama, mystery, action, honesty, hope, grit, tension, release, passion, tenderness, love, restoration, and redemption. My favorite stories, however, combine many of these elements and finish with a happy-ending. My heart beats for happy-ending stories.
There have been days in my life that have been heavy on the tension and light on the release. Moments when I've felt deep pain and longed for deep peace. Weeks when hope evaded my heart because I had chosen to turn from God's way and defiantly chose Gwen's way. Season's when I felt like I had messed up so bad that a happy-ending for my life was simply impossible.
Have you ever felt that way? Like there was a great chasm between your life and a happy-ending? Have you ever felt like you were in a situation, a relationship or a condition that was un-healable, un-helpable, and un-redeemable? I sure have. I think we all have.
Luke 7 introduces us to a woman who endured her shattered, jagged life publicly. I bet she probably felt like there could never be a happy-ending for her life. Like hope and healing were for other people, not for her.
She was guilty of something, though we are never told what. She is simply described as a woman "who had lived a sinful life." Though she is nameless to you and me, the people of her town surely knew her name. The Pharisees knew enough to condemn her with judgmental thoughts.
Her sin was public, not private. Yet the public disgrace of this broken, sinful woman became the perfect canvas for Jesus Christ to paint a beautiful picture of extravagant grace.
"Now one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, so he went to the Pharisee's house and reclined at the table. When a woman who had lived a sinful life in that town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster jar of perfume, and as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them." (Luke 7:36-38, NIV)
Imagine what a scandalous moment this must have been. I'm sure the host was wondering how this uninvited woman managed to get into his home. We know his mind was racing, because the next few verses tell us so:
When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, "If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner."
Jesus answered him, "Simon, I have something to tell you."
"Tell me, teacher," he said.
"Two men owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he canceled the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?"
Simon replied, "I suppose the one who had the bigger debt canceled."
"You have judged correctly," Jesus said.
Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little."
Then Jesus said to her, "Your sins are forgiven" (Luke 7:39-48).
Imagine the freedom that flooded her soul when this woman looked up, through tear-filled eyes, into the face of grace for the very first time. Jesus looked beyond her reputation to her regret. Then He forgave her. Not because she had earned forgiveness, but because Jesus loved her.
She was forgiven much, so she loved Him much. Oh, how I can relate to this sinful woman. The love that resides in my heart is so great because the sins I've been forgiven of are so many.
Jesus still loves to extend grace, and I am so thankful. Grace! What none of us deserves, but each of us longs for. In his book, What's So Amazing about Grace?, Philip Yancey wrote:
Grace does not excuse sin, but it treasures the sinner. True grace is shocking, scandalous. It shakes our conventions with its insistence on getting close to sinners and touching them with mercy and hope. It forgives the unfaithful spouse, the racist, the child abuser. It loves today's AIDS-ridden addict as much as the tax collector of Jesus' day.
In his book 3:16, The Numbers of Hope, Max Lucado writes, "The heart of the human problem is the heart of the human. And God's treatment is prescribed in John 3:16." It's the verse you've more than likely heard since you were a child. The verse that is scribbled on cardboard signs and held up at sporting events. The verse that gives hope to each and every one of us: "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16).
Why would He lay down His life for you, for me, and for all humanity? In one word: love. Perfect, unconditional, doesn't-matter-who-you-are-or-where-you've-been-or-what-you've-done love. God made a new and living way through the blood shed by Jesus Christ so our wounded hearts could be restored...so that everyone of us could experience deep peace, love, forgiveness, and hope. Welcome to your happy-ending story. It's available to each of us who turn our hearts to Him. What does that look like in your life? Confess your sins to God, ask Him for forgiveness, believe in Jesus Christ as your Savior and receive the gift of God's grace. Then "Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always" (Psalm 105:4).
Thus begins your happy ending. The End.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are above all and beyond all! You are mighty to save, gracious to forgive, and merciful to forget all that I've done wrong. I praise You for who You are, and thank You for the grace that is at work in my heart and in my life. Help me to cast aside everything that keeps me from You today, Lord. In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Grab your journal and write about it – or click over to my Facebook pageand post a comment.
Have you experienced the wonder of grace at work in your life? In what ways? Do you extend that same grace to others? Spend a few moments in prayer. Thank God for His grace.
Print or write out this verse: "Those who look on him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame. (Psalm 34:5) Memorize it and allow it to serve as a reminder that in Christ you are a new creation, and viewed as radiant by our holy Lord.
More from the Girlfriends
Hey friend. I thought I would leave today's devotion with this beautiful blessing from scripture..."The amazing grace of the Master, Jesus Christ, the extravagant love of God, the intimate friendship of the Holy Spirit, be with all of you." 2 Corinthians 13:14 (MSG)
A portion of today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen Smith's book, Broken into Beautiful.In Broken into Beautiful, Smith invites you to hear the stories of women with shattered dreams, shameful secrets, and damaged souls...and of the loving, holy God who restores their wounded hearts and makes them beautiful in Him.
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July 16, 2012
The Broken Seed
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 42:11 "Why am I so sad? Why am I so upset? I should put my hope in God. I should keep praising Him, my Savior and my God (ICB)."
Friend to Friend
I am famous for my "brown thumb." Even though we have moved several times over the years, changing climates, states, neighborhoods and soil conditions, nothing has altered the fact that if I touch any living plant, its chances for survival are slim. My husband has fared no better in his numerous attempts to plant trees and flowers. I fear that the "brown thumb" disease is contagious. There is more. I see undeniable evidence that this gardening malady is hereditary. My son, bless his heart, has tried to rescue wilted flower after crispy plant from his mother's clutches. Like his father, every tree or flower planted by Jered has died. But there is hope! My daughter, Danna, is not only able to keep living plants alive for an impressive amount of time, she can plant seeds and green things will actually grow! It is amazing to me!
When Danna was in kindergarten, she had a very creative science teacher, Miss Kay, who constantly planned fun activities and projects for the children. Danna loved her and was always talking about what she learned in science class. One day, as I waited for Danna in the carpool line, I spotted her standing by Miss Kay, grinning from ear to ear, jumping up and down as if she simply could not wait for me to get there. As I pulled up, Danna hopped into the car, gave a huge sigh of satisfaction and stretched out her tiny hand, proudly displaying the amazing reason for her enthusiasm -- a wadded up paper towel.
Now I am normally very good at being excited about the things my kids find important, but for the life of me, I could not fathom why Danna would be so thrilled with a crumpled paper towel. "Honey, what is that?" I asked. She looked up at me with sparkling brown eyes and whispered, "Mom, there are seeds in here. Miss Kay gave them to me and I'm gonna plant them and they are gonna grow. Can you believe it?"
Given my morbid experience with seeds, I declined to answer that question but instead, chose to join my daughter in her excitement – until I saw them. Evidently, Danna had been carrying the seeds around all day because when she carefully unfolded the paper towel all I could see was a big mess of broken, mismatched, crushed and crumbled seeds. Looking into the eager eyes of my daughter I said, "Honey, if these seeds don't grow for some reason, remember that we can go to the store and buy some new ones." Clutching the seeds tightly to her heart and out of my reach, Danna said, "Mama, they have to grow 'cause I prayed and asked God to please make them grow, and He said He would!" I began planning our trip to the gardening center.
Danna was silent all the way home, but when we pulled into our drive way, she jumped out of the car and darted into the house, leaving her doubting mother behind. Moments later Danna ran back outside with a small paper cup in her hand. I watched as she scooped up dirt from the front flower bed and marched confidently back into the house. I followed her, moaning my silent complaint, "Father, do you realize that your reputation is on the line here? Why did she have to pick that particular flower bed, the one we filled with decorative rocks because nothing, not even weeds, would grow there?" Once again, I tried to reason with Danna. "Honey, why don't we just buy some new seeds?" Ignoring my faithless question, Danna stuffed the broken seeds down into the cup, marched to the kitchen sink and, placing the cup under the faucet, turned the water on full blast. Just as fast as the seeds and dirt spilled over the edge of the cup into the sink, Danna scooped them up and poked them back in, all the way to the bottom of the cup so they could not escape. "Miss Kay says that they have to have sunshine to grow." With this announcement, she placed her soggy cup of broken, mismatched seeds on the kitchen window sill that looks out over our screened in porch; a place purposely designed to receive no sunlight at all. By this time, I knew that my words were falling on deaf ears and decided to let God handle this one.
Several days later, I was standing at the kitchen sink preparing dinner when I glanced out on the porch to see my daughter's faith on spectacular display. A small paper cup filled with green sprouts confronted my doubting heart. I could not believe my eyes. Dropping the potatoes in the sink, I literally ran to Danna's room shouting, "Danna! Danna! Your seeds are growing!" I found her calmly playing "Chutes and Ladders" with Danielle, her best friend. "Danna, did you hear me? Your seeds are growing!" A brief glance and knowing smile from Danna said it all. "That is neat, Mom. I knew they would." She and Danielle resumed their game, leaving me to gaze in awe and wonder at the faith of my child who dared to believe in a broken dream.
You may be hopeless, clinging to the broken and mismatched remnants of your life, wondering how you can go on. Whispers of the enemy creep into your heart, soul and mind, taunting you with the lie that you are just too dirty and broken for God to love or use. Nothing you do can change that reality so you might as well give up, throwing your life away.
Nothing could be further from the truth, my friend. Never underestimate the power of one, tiny broken seed. Placed in the right hands, it will surely grow into an expression of His beauty for all to see.
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess that when life is hard, I tend to lose hope. I want my hope to be in you, Father. I want to walk in faith and in your will for my life. I am so tired of being defeated. Please show me how to walk in obedience, and by doing so, walk in hope. Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
In order to live a life filled with hope, we must make several choices:
Choose faith over doubt.
Choose to believe God's word over man's wisdom.
Choose to stand firm when the "storms" come.
Choose to count on God's holiness instead of my effort.
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July 17, 2012
God Has Not Forgotten You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He said to her, 'Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering,'" (Mark 5:34 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Oh how I love the story of Jesus healing the woman with the issue of blood recorded in Mark 5:21-34. I can so relate to this woman. What woman among us hasn't felt the wretchedness of rejection, the shame of suffering, and the humility of hopelessness? What woman hasn't wondered, would God care about the likes of me? And here we have a story of just how much God values and esteems His female image bearers. He singles out one lone woman from a multitude of curious followers, heals her of her affliction with but a touch, and then shines the heavenly spotlight center stage for her to testify about the miraculous transformation.
The woman we meet in Mark, chapter five, has been called, "the woman with the issue of blood." She was defined by what was wrong with her; I've felt that sting as well. For twelve long years, this woman had been bleeding...When we meet her, she is physically, financially, socially and spiritually drained – bankrupt in every way.
In Biblical days, certain situations and conditions rendered a person ceremonially unclean. Leprous people were separated from society and had to shout, "Unclean! Unclean!" when they walked among common folk. Anyone who touched a dead body was considered unclean. And women were considered unclean during their monthly period.
A woman hemorrhaging for twelve years would be considered permanently unclean. If unmarried, she would not be able to marry. If married, her condition would be grounds for divorce. She would be expelled from her home, cut off from her family, and ostracized by her community.
Each doctor's visit brought a surge of hope and expectation, only to be swept away when the red flow of despair reappeared. The joy of tender youth was now a vague memory, crushed by life's hardness and the weight of disappointment. The hammer of rejection drove the nails of isolation into the coffin of her tightly secured heart.
Unlike the lame man who was lowered through the roof by four friends and placed at Jesus' feet, this woman had no one to intercede for her. There was no father pleading for his daughter. There was no husband praying for his wife. There was no master imploring Jesus' help to heal a servant. When we meet this woman, she is fearful and forgotten. She is all alone – or so it seemed to her.
Sometimes we can feel the same: abandoned by friends, deserted by a spouse, forgotten by family, unseen by society. But she was not forgotten. She was not alone. This Daughter of Abraham was close to God's heart and foremost on His mind. So God the Father orchestrated His Son's journey to pass her way.
This woman understood that Jesus was radically different in his approach and appreciation of women. She knew full well that she was overstepping cultural and religious boundaries set out by pious men of her day, but it was a risk she was willing to take.
Two things happened when she touched Jesus. First she was healed. It was measurable. She felt the flow of blood cease. Jesus felt the power of God released.
Secondly, she was revealed. Her courage was cloaked in anonymity trembling in the fear of exposure, but Jesus was not going to allow her to "steal" her healing. He wanted to do more than stop the flow of blood. He wanted to start the flow of ministry. He called her forward to testify, to tell what had just happened to her so that others would believe.
He said to her, "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering. (Mark 5:34).
A Rabbi did not speak to a woman in public, but once again, Jesus, the liberator, broke the man-made rules for the God-made woman. He did not call her out to embarrass or shame her in any way. He called her center stage to honor her honesty, to commend her courage, and to validate her valor. He did not reprimand her for breaking the religious rules, but praised her great faith.
Once again, Jesus called a woman out from the shadows and placed her center stage. No longer was she a woman in need of a healing touch, but now a believer who had received it and was called on to tell about it.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I am so thankful that Jesus didn't let this woman slip away with her healing, but called her out to tell what happened. Help me to speak up about the wonderful things You have done and are doing in my life, so others may hear and believe.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How do you think the crowd responded to her healing?
What does Revelation 12:11 tell us about the power of our personal testimonies?
The Bible doesn't tell us what happened to the woman after her healing. What do you think happened to her? What do you think she did with the rest of her life? Click over to my blog page and share your answer. Look for today's devo/blog and leave your response in the comment box. This will be fun!
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. Check it out at www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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July 18, 2012
Lord, Please Turn Down the Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed" - (Psalm 107:29, NIV).
Friend to Friend
We live in Kansas City where summers normally include some pretty fierce thunder storms. Our three-year-old grandson, Justus, is not a fan. The driving rain, loud thunder and often violent lightning frighten him. We have tried to reassure Justus with such logical explanations as the thunder is nothing more than God rearranging the furniture in heaven and lightning is the angels setting off fireworks. I know. He didn't buy our explanations either.
We normally keep Justus one night a week to give his mom and dad a little break and to get our "Justus" fix. He is a little hunk of joy that lights up the world and makes you feel like you are the most important part of that world. After picking him up for our weekly date, we headed home but got caught in a torrential downpour. As the thunder boomed and the lightning cracked, Justus put both hands over his ears, hoping to shut out the frightening sound of the summer storm. Dan and I kept reassuring Justus that the storm would pass. Dan said, "Mimi and Papa are right here with you, Buddy. It's okay!" It was not okay with Justus. In total frustration, he turned to his Papa and exclaimed, "Papa. Do something! Can't you pwease turn down the stowm?"
I have often prayed basically that same prayer. "God, can You please turn down the storm in my life? Can't You make the thunderous chaos go away? And the flashing pain is so hard to handle, Lord. I am scared."
I have a friend who loves to sail. When I asked him if he had ever been caught in a bad storm, he responded, "Many times!" I shook my head in disbelief concluding that my friend was obviously a glutton for punishment. Of course, I had to ask, "Then why on earth do you keep sailing?" His answer was profound. "Mary, every sailor knows that there will be storms. You just learn what to do when the storm hits. In a severe storm, there is only one thing to do and only one way to survive. You have to put the ship in a certain position and keep her there."
The same is true in our lives. When the fierce storms of life overwhelm us, there is only one thing to do if we want to survive those storms. We must position ourselves in the right place – in the hands of God – and He will keep us there until the storm has passed.
The words of the psalmist are filled with confidence and hope when he writes, "He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed" (Psalm 107:29). We really can trust God to bring peace and to reduce the fiercest storm to a mere whisper. The faithful provision and sustaining comfort of God at work in our life depends on the character and heart of God and our willingness to trust Him.
I love my children with all of my heart. Naturally, there are times when they make me very angry. They make wrong choices and sometimes even disappoint me, but if they are hurt, sick or in trouble, the anger, disappointment and even disobedience is overruled by my love for them and a driving need to comfort them. If my imperfect heart responds to my imperfect children that way, think about how the perfect heart of our heavenly Father responds to us.
Richard Fuller writes: "This, Christian, is what you must do. Sometimes, like Paul, you can see neither sun nor stars, and no small tempest lies on you. Reason cannot help you. Past experiences give you no light. Only a single course is left. You must stay upon the Lord; and come what may -- winds, waves, cross seas, thunder, lightning, frowning rocks, roaring breakers -- no matter what, you must lash yourself to the helm and hold fast your confidence in God's faithfulness and his everlasting love in Christ Jesus."
We can face every storm with confidence, knowing that God will redeem it for good. We can trust few things in this life, but God's faithfulness is one of them. When the hard times come, and the storms roll in, trust God and hold on. He is with you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your faithfulness in my life. Forgive me when I let fear and doubt take over my heart and mind instead of choosing to trust You. Give me eyes to see the treasure buried at the heart of every storm and help me to choose joy -- even when I don't understand what You are doing in my life. Teach me, Lord. Let my life be an illustration of Your strength perfected in my weakness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Do you really believe we can experience joy – even in the midst of the fiercest storm? Explain.
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal. Share your decision to become a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire.
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July 19, 2012
Whose Report are You Going to Believe?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We should go up and take possession of the land, for we can certainly do it." - (Numbers 13:30 NIV).
Friend to Friend
All through the Bible, God gives us great and wonderful promises about who we are in Christ, what we have in Christ, and where we are in Christ. Let me remind you of just a few.
I can do everything through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)
Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed. (Proverbs 16:3)
God...has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. (Ephesians 1:3).
For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. (1 John 5:5)
The Bible is packed full of many promises just like those. However, the enemy, Satan, tells us that we are worthless losers with little to no power to live in victory. He tells us we are but "grasshoppers" in the face of our difficulties and struggles. So, who's reports are we going to believe?
The Israelites faced the same situation. They had been freed from Egyptian slavery and then headed into the desert. Then God signaled it was time to enter the Promised Land flowing with milk and honey. He said, "Send some men to explore the land of Canaan which I am giving the Israelites."
At God's command, Moses sent in twelve men to spy out the land. Ten came back with this report:
We went into the land which you sent us and it does flow with milk and honey! But the people who live there are powerful, and the cities are fortified and very large (Numbers 13:27,28). The men went on to say they were like grasshoppers compared to the giants who lived in Canaan.
However, two of the spies, Caleb and Joshua, believed God. This was their report: We should go up and take possession of the land, for we can certainly do it (13:30).
Guess who the people believed? They believed the ten who said, "we can't," rather than the two who said, "God already has." Why? Lack of faith and an abundance of fear. I have an acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. They saw only the giants, but failed to see Almighty God. God had already given them the land, the people simply needed to walk in and take possession of it. But instead of moving into the Promised Land, they wandered in the desert for forty years because of their unbelief. The entire generation, except for Caleb and Joshua, died in their unbelief. Caleb and Joshua marched in and took possession of what God had already promised and provided.
Oswald Chambers notes, "Human frailty is another thing that gets between God's words of assurance and our own words and thoughts. When we realize how feeble we are in facing difficulties, the difficulties become like giants, we become like grasshoppers, and God seems to be non-existent. But remember God's assurance to us – "I will never...forsake you." Have we learned to sing after hearing God's keynote? Are we continually filled with enough courage to say, 'The Lord is my Helper,' or are we yielding to fear?"
I don't want to be like those Israelites who didn't believe God told the truth. Do you? Let me ask you a few questions: Are you going to move into the land flowing with milk and honey - take the promises found in the Bible and make them yours? Or, are you going to believe the evil report and continue wandering around in the desert – free from slavery, but missing the Promised Land? Who's report are you going to believe?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you that you have called me to walk in victory. Help me to realize when I am listening to Satan's lies, "to the evil report," and not to You. Even if I am the only person who believes in Your promises today, even if everyone around me says I'm crazy for doing so, I'm believing You! In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your life for the past few months. Have you been believing what your eyes see or what God promises in His word? Make a list of promises of God that mean the most to you and practice believing the truth!
Look back over the promises of God listed above in the devotion. How might these verses help you defeat that "grasshopper" feeling in your life?
Can you think of a time where you believed God's report instead of the border bullies, naysayers, and gloom and doomers? What was the result?
Here's a final word. I want you to say it out loud. "I might be a grasshopper in the world's eyes, but I'm a mighty warrior in God's. Woo Hoo! If you'll stand up and say that with me, click over to my blog page, look for today's devo/blog, and write in the comment box...I'm no grasshopper!
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Girlfriend, let's start taking our own personal Promised Land. If you'd like to learn more about claiming what is already yours, check out my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. Don't let the title fool you, this is no fluff. Victory is only a belief away!
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July 20, 2012
Don't Say No
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father (John 14:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was on my way home from running errands. As I approached our neighborhood, my cell phone rang. The call was from my tween-aged daughter. The conversation went like this:
"Hi Mom. It's Kennedy. Where are you?"
"Hey baby! I ran some errands and will be home in just a few minutes. What's up?"
"Well, I wanted to see if you and I could go shopping for a new bathing suit this afternoon, and – don't say no – I'd like to get a feather in my hair. Can we, Mom?"
Oh. No. She. Didn't!
"Honey, we are several weeks away from swim season. I'm not sure that today is a good day for all of this. And by the way, you're free to share your heart with me and tell me your desires, but you do not get to tell me what I can and can't say no to. I'm pulling into the neighborhood now and will see you in a minute."
Wow. I was a bit taken back by the bold expectations of my daughter.
Don't say 'no'?I thought. Really? C'mon girl. I'm the parent. You're the child. Get a grip.
As I considered her angle – the way she positioned her request - my heart leapt with conviction. How often do I approach God with a request and stubbornly tell Him not to tell me no?
Jesus told his disciples that they could ask for anything. He even said that when we ask in His name that what we ask for would be given to us. Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me; or at least believe on the evidence of the miracles themselves. I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it (John 14:11-14).
Let's consider the context here. When Jesus said this, it wasn't an open invitation for the will of man to reign. It was an invitation for man to participate in the will of God through prayer. It was about us asking for things that will bring glory to God the Father. It's all about the will of God being done on earth as it is in heaven – not the whim of man.
Then what about the "Name-it-and-claim-it" theology? Is God obligated to answer our prayers in the way we want Him to? No. He's Not. Does God want you to have a million-dollar home and drive a Hummer? Does God want you to be healed of that diagnoses, disease or physical challenge? I don't know. What I do know is this: God is a good God. The works of his hands are faithful and just; all his precepts are trustworthy. They are steadfast forever and ever, done in faithfulness and uprightness (Psalm 111:7-8).
If we think that God can't say no to us, then we've put ourselves on the throne and not God. Prayer is not about getting God to do what we want him to do – it is about releasing God's will on earth as it is in heaven (Matthew 6:10). It doesn't change His mind and He's not a genie in a bottle whose wish is our command. God is God.
I love my daughter. I mean... I really, really, really love my daughter. But just because she asks me for something doesn't mean that I'm going to grant her request. I love her too much for that. God is our heavenly Father. Our parent. He wants mature, wise children. Not spoiled children. He loves us too much for that.
He even told his own son "no" for the greater good. While in the garden of Gethsemane on the Mount of Olives, on the night he was betrayed, Jesus was distraught to the point of sweating blood. Crying out to God, He knelt down and prayed, saying, 'Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done' (Luke 22:41-42, ESV).
God said no to Jesus because it wasn't His will... and because God said no, we can experience grace, forgiveness, peace and salvation. In order for God to be glorified in his life, Jesus had to submit to the will of the Father. In order for God to be glorified in our lives, we, too, must submit to the will of the Father - and His will is always what's best for us.
This is a toughy. No doubt. But God knows more than we know and His ways are not like our ways. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts (Isaiah 55:9). So no matter what we pray for or desire, we can trust that whether His answer is "No," or "Yes," His ways are always best.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are my Father and I know that you have a plan for me. Please bind me to Your will and teach me to desire Your heart above all else.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Where does all this find you today?
What have you been praying for?
Have you been praying for the Lord to answer according to His will or yours?
Pause to think on this and then spend some time in prayer and journaling.
More From The Girlfriends
God delights in our worship of Him. He loves when we get past our selves and our schedules... and prioritize adoration, contemplation and exaltation. My most recent CD, Uncluttered, is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. You can download songs on iTunes or Amazon– or order CDs on www.GwenSmith.net.
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July 23, 2012
In His Eyes
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be - (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was my first day of teaching second grade. While standing at the classroom door, greeting parents and children, I felt a tug on my skirt. I looked down into the beautiful blue eyes of Sammy, one of my new students. His mother, who was standing beside Sammy, looked at me and said, "I guess you've heard about Sammy. Good luck!" As she walked away, Sammy said, "She's right. I'm dumb and mean and can't read or write."
Lisa was a tall, blonde and beautiful young woman with zero self-confidence. Lisa was the family joke because she was always dropping things or falling on the stairs. "Klutz" became her nickname at home and quickly caught on in the youth group and church where her father was the pastor.
A young wife and mother sobbed out her confession that she had just ended an affair, "He made me feel important and special." A talented singer and pianist, she vowed to never again sing or play because she was damaged goods.
I often hear and see the same prison described by women living in the grip of failure and defeat for one reason or another. I want to share some good news with you. God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride, and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Be realistic in your opinion of yourself. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created us to be and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
I love a good sale, don't you? In fact, I am tempted to think that a 75% off tag may very well be a sign from God. However, I have learned that you can save money in the long run if you check the label. Let me explain. We needed a new sofa. It had to be a certain color and style and cost a certain amount. I headed for the nearest furniture outlet, where I narrowed my selection down to two sofas. Both were on sale and both would work in our home. I saw the salesman coming. Before he could say a word, I asked, "Which one of these sofas would you tell your wife to buy?" The man immediately pointed to one of the sofas and said, "Definitely that one." When I asked why he had chosen that particular sofa, he replied, "Check the label. The one I chose was made by a company known for its quality work. The other sofa is a cheap imitation."
We can judge a product's potential and value by looking at the one who created it. You are valuable simply because you were created by the hand of God. His design of you and His plan for your life is second to none. To cower or crawl in inferiority is to say to God, "You made a mistake when you made me." God doesn't make mistakes, girlfriend. He never has to say "Oops!" You were created in His likeness. You are valuable to God. God knows your name and loves you. You are His masterpiece and have been validated by God Himself.
Step two: Embrace the plan.
While painting in the city park, an artist spotted a beggar sitting across the path from where he was working. Thinking of God's handiwork in every human being, the artist painted the man as he imagined he could be and then called the beggar to see the painting. "Is that me?' the beggar asked. "That is the way I see you," replied the artist. The beggar stared at the painting. With tears in his eyes he said, "If that's the man you see in me, then that's the man I will be!" God created you in response to a unique plan He has for your life. As you read the Bible and obey His truth, that plan will unfold.
Tomorrow, we will look at four more steps we can take to understand who we are in Christ as we learn to recognize our value in His eyes. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for life and the special plan You have for me. Honestly, it is hard for me to understand and really believe that I am special to You. To think that You know me and love me just as I am really rocks my world, but I do want to see myself through Your eyes – no more and no less. Please help me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10. How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5. How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11. Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
More from the Girlfriends
I have struggled with my identity and value for a big part of my life. Fear of failure once kept me from dreaming new dreams. No more! My dreams seem to get bigger with every year of life that passes, and I really believe it is because my new perspective of who I am is more accurate than it has ever been. I am a daughter of the King. I belong to God and He loves me. No one can take my place in the Father's heart, and I am indispensable to no one but Him. That is my prayer for you, girlfriend, that you will know and live out the truth that in God's eyes, you are special.
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July 24, 2012
Don't Give Up!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith" - (2 Timothy 4:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was the first swim meet of the year for our newly formed Middle School Aquatics team. The atmosphere on the three hour bus ride was electric with anticipation as the band of forty-eight adolescents thought of nothing but victory. However, the electricity turned into shock as our minnows filed off the bus and stared in disbelief at their muscle clad, Neptune-like opponents.
The coach checked the schedule. "Surely there's been a mistake," he thought. But the schedule only confirmed that, yes, this was the right place and the right time.
The two teams formed a line on the side of the pool. Whistles blew, races were begun, and races were lost. Halfway through the meet, Coach Huey realized that he had no participants for one of the events.
"OK team, who wants to swim the 500 yard free style?" the coach asked.
Several hands shot up, including Justin's. "I'll race coach!"
The coach looked down at the freckle faced youth and said, "Justin, this race is twenty lengths of the pool. I've only seen you swim eight."
"Oh, I can do it coach. Let me try. What's twelve more laps."
The coach reluctantly conceded. "After all," he thought, "It's not the winning but the trying that builds character."
The whistle blew and the opponents torpedoed through the water and finished the race in a mere four minutes and fifty seconds. The winners gathered on the sidelines to socialize while our group struggled to finish. After four more long minutes, the last exhausted members of our team emerged from the water. The last except for Justin.
Justin was stealing breaths as his hands slapped against the water and pushed it aside to propel his thin body forward. It appeared that he would go under at any minute, yet something seemed to keep pushing him onward.
"Why doesn't the coach stop this child?" the parents whispered among themselves. "He looks like he's about to drown and the race was won four minutes ago."
But what the parents did not realize was that the real race, the race of a boy becoming a man, was just beginning.
The coach walked over to the young swimmer, knelt down and quietly spoke.
Relieved parents thought, "Oh, he's finally going to pull that boy out before he kills himself."
But to their surprise, the coach rose from the concrete, stepped back from the pool's edge, and the young man continued to swim.
One teammate, inspired by his brave friend, went to the side of the pool and walked the lane as Justin pressed on. "Come on Justin, you can do it! You can do it! Keep going! Don't give up!"
He was joined by another, then another, until the entire team was walking the length of the pool rooting for and encouraging their fellow swimmer to finish the race set before him.
The opposing team saw what was happening and joined the chant. The students' contagious chorus sent a chill through the room and soon the once concerned parents were on their feet cheering, shouting, and praying. The room was pulsating with energy and excitement as teammates and opponents alike pumped courage into one small swimmer.
Twelve long minutes after the starting whistle had blown, an exhausted, but smiling, Justin Rigsbee swam his final lap and struggled to pull himself out of the pool. The crowd had applauded the first swimmer, as he crossed the line, first place. But they gave Justin the greater cheer, for finishing the race.
In 2 Timothy 4:7, Paul writes, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith" (NIV). On some days, when the swimming or running grows difficult – on those days when I want to quit, I long for friends and family who will walk the course with me cheering me on. "Come on Sharon, you can do it!" "Don't give up! You're almost there!"
But there are days when I look around and there seems to be no one there to cheer me on. That's when I need to look a bit closer, listen a bit more intently, and hear the still small voice of my Heavenly Father. He's always there to pick me up when I fall, hold me when I cry, hug me when I'm feeling alone, cheer for me when I'm victorious, and love me when I'm just me. And He's there for you too.
Our Heavenly Parent is cheering for you, my friend. He's saying, "Keep going! Don't give up! You are precious to Me! You're not alone! You can do it!"
Today, feel God's embrace and listen closely as He speaks to your heart. I think I hear Him now...
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes I feel like I'm not going to make it. Thank You for friends that come alongside me and cheer me on when I feel like I'm about to go under. Most of all, thank You for always being with me and cheering me on in the great race of life. I love You!
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you identify with Justin? Have you ever felt like you have bitten off more than you can chew?
What helps you most in times like these?
Can you think of a friend who is struggling today who might need a word of encouragement? You might be just the person God has chosen you to cheer her own. Why not give her a call, shoot her an e-mail, or write her a note of cheer.
Let's honor a person who has been an encourager to you. Click over to my blog page,find today's devo/blog, and leave the name of one person who has encouraged you in the comment box. Then tell her about it!
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. Sometimes listening to Him means simply paying attention to the times He whispers just how much He loves you and is for you. If you would like to sharpen your listening-to-God skills, then check out Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. It is not a matter of whether or not He speaks to us. It is a matter of whether or not we will listen.
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July 25, 2012
In His Eyes Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be - (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride, and it does not exalt self above others. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own and when we give Him permission to make us what He created us to be. Yesterday, we examined the first two steps we can take to understand who we are in His eyes. Today, we will look at four more steps.
Step three: Be yourself.
We should always be looking for something new to learn, an area where we can grow and changes that need to be made. Sit down with your mate or close friend and ask for a realistic evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Constantly search for gifts and abilities on which you can work. Don't be afraid of change. It is a sign of life and growth. Change what needs to be changed, accept what you cannot change and quit whining about it! Don't waste another minute trying to be someone you were never created to be. Stop questioning God's design for your life. When an old man from the mountains of North Carolina was asked how he created such extraordinary wooden carvings of dogs, he replied, "Well, I just take my knife and a piece of wood and carve away everything that doesn't look like a dog." Learning to see your-self through the eyes of God is like "carving away" everything that is not part of the original design – God's plan – and then learning how to accept what remains.
Step four: Guard your mind.
We are bombarded on all sides by the media, family and friends, co-workers and even enemies who have a certain identity they want to assign to us. We have a choice. No one makes us feel inferior without our permission. We will become what we allow our heart and mind to dwell on. An old adage says it well: "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." It is impossible to avoid destructive thinking entirely. We will be tempted. We will have negative thoughts and temptations, but we do not have to allow them to dwell in our minds. God has given us a "garbage disposal" for the mind.
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
We once lived in Miami, Florida, a place where ships come from all over world. However, before a ship is allowed to dock, an inspection team goes aboard with one assignment. Find every bit of contamination on board that ship. If contamination of any kind is found, the ship must be quarantined until it is cleaned up and inspected again. The ship is then allowed to dock. We need to control our thought life in the same way.
Step five: Control your tongue.
Our words either build up or tear down. Scripture tells us not to curse others because they are made in the image of God. So are we. As a mom, I constantly warned our children about the danger of critical words. I wanted them to learn how to encourage others with their words as well as have a healthy picture of who they are. One day, while standing in front my bathroom mirror, I began berating myself for something I had done. I didn't see our son who was quietly standing in our bedroom door where he could hear every word I said. "Mom, who are you talking to?" he asked. I sheepishly replied, "I was talking to myself." He thought for a moment and then offered a convicting observation, "Boy, if I talked like that, I'd be in big trouble!" I was immediately reminded of the words in Psalm 141:3: "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."
Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we sow destructive, critical words, we will reap a life that is negative and critical, but if we sow words of truth, we will reap a life of peace and purpose, knowing who we are in His eyes.
Step six: Be Patient
Weeds spring up overnight but it takes years for a mighty oak to grow. Today, you can take the first step toward gaining a new perspective of who you are in Christ. Our Father says it this way in Philippians 1:6, "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You more and learn to see myself as You see me. Please help me recognize and guard against anything or anyone who would chip away at Your truth working in my life. I believe You love me and cherish me as Your daughter. Help me to walk in that value and worth and then lead others to do the same. I praise You for validating my very existence as part of Your heart's plan. I love You, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is your assignment for the week. Read Psalm 139 at least one time every day. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. At the end of the week, set aside time to celebrate who you are in Christ. Have a praise party – just you and God – or invite a few girlfriends to join you in celebrating how special you are to Him.
More from the Girlfriends
I pray that these devotions have helped you catch a new glimpse of just how precious you are to God. If you were never wanted or planned by human heart and mind, rest assured that you were wanted and planned by God Himself. He is with you and for you, girlfriend. He believes in you and has a plan that will prosper you and give you hope. Turn to Him. Trust Him. You are special in His eyes.
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July 26, 2012
Listening to God in the Little Things
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught. The Sovereign LORD has opened my ears, and I have not been rebellious; I have not drawn back" (Isaiah 50:4-5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One of my favorite devotion books My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers. On October tenth, he wrote, "All God's revelations are sealed until they are opened to us by obedience. You will never get them open them through philosophy or thinking. But once you obey, a flash of light comes immediately. ...Obey God in the thing He shows you, and instantly the next thing is opened up...God will never reveal more truth about himself until you have obeyed what you already know."
We must never fall into the trap of thinking that God will always give us "big" things to do. Jesus...took a towel and ...began to wash the disciples' feet..." (John 13:3-5). Through his act of servant leadership, he demonstrated the obedience we should have on a daily basis in the mundane activities of everyday life. Yes, he raised the dead, but he also washed the feet.
One evening Steve and I were on our way to dinner. Just before we arrived, I saw three teenage girls walking into another restaurant in the same area where we were going to eat. One of the girls had been in a small group I had led for two years. I felt God nudging me to go into the restaurant and pay for their dinners.
"Steve, there's Christine," I said. "I believe God wants me to pay for those girls' dinners."
Steve, being a man who listens to God, whipped the car around and headed toward the door.
"Hi girls," I said as I walked up to them in line.
"Hi Mrs. Jaynes. What are you doing here?"
"May I take your order?" the cashier interrupted.
"Go ahead girls," I urged. "You go first."
Each girl ordered and then the cashier turned to me. "And you ma'am.
"Oh, I'm not having anything. I just came in to pay for these girls' dinners."
The threesome were very surprised and very appreciative. I ran back out to our car, feeling a warm sense of listening and obeying.
The next day, Christine called. "Mrs. Jaynes," she said "thank you so much for paying for our dinners last night. My friends were so touched. No one has ever done anything like that for any of us before. See, last night, they wanted to go out to dinner, but I told them I couldn't afford it. So they were going to pay for mine. Then you came in and well...thanks.
Obeying God only cost me $19.95, but the lesson to Christine, and her two friends was invaluable. Jesus said, "Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" (Luke 6:38).
Obeying God begins with heeding the simply nudges. Don't be afraid! Many people are afraid to obey those nudges because they aren't absolutely sure it is God's voice. I've decided that if the inner prompting lines up with Scripture and is consistent with God's character and ways, then I'd rather err on the side of obedience that the side of caution.
"We all have those times when there are no flashes of light and no apparent thrill to life, where we experience nothing but the daily routine with its common everyday tasks....Don't always expect God to give you His thrilling moments, but learn to live in those common times of the drudgery of life by the power of God....I must realize that my obedience even in the smallest detail of life has all the omnipotent power of the grace of God behind it" (O. Chambers June 15). "If I obey Jesus Christ in the seemingly random circumstances of life, they become pinholes through which I see the face of God" (O. Chambers November 2).
My prayer is that I will be able to say like the prophet Isaiah, "He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught. The Sovereign LORD has opened my ears, and I have not been rebellious; I have not drawn back" (Isaiah 50:4-5).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm listening. Speak to me. Nudge me. I will not be rebellious. I will not draw back.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I encourage you to pay attention to any way that God might be nudging you to be His hands and feet.
Then join me on my blog page, look for this devotion's entry, and tell me what happened. I can hardly wait. Don't feel uncomfortable telling me. Don't feel like you're tooting your own horn. I just want to toot my party horn in celebration of your obedience!
More from the Girlfriends
One of my greatest passions is to become a woman who listens to God. If you would like to sharpen your God-listening skills, check out my book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God.It is not a matter of whether or not God speaks. It is a matter of whether or not we will listen.
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July 27, 2012
Put Your Faith Where Your Action Is!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead - (James 2:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I remember a time, back in 1993, when I was swept up in the whimsical world of wedding planning. Every detail mattered. I was excited to be marrying Brad Smith and I wanted our wedding day to be a magical springboard to a life filled with amazing adventures and deep years of God-centered love. From the cake choices - to the dress choices - to the music choices - to the guest list choices - to the bridal registry choices: I was all about the business of wedding prep!
The bride of Christ is purposed to be all about the Father's business - to prep for eternity by making choices to bring Him glory throughout our days; to intentionally worship the Lord through our service. As daughters of God, we are called to connect our believing to our behaving; our convictions to our conversations; our lip-service to our life-service.
The Biblical mandate for each believer is this: put your faith where your action is. "Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead" (James 2:17).
Hear me out here. Service is not the key to gaining salvation. Salvation comes by faith in Christ alone (Romans 10:9-10). Service is, however, essential for the believer as a response to her salvation. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10).
No matter who you are or what your platform is in life, the truth remains that whatever you do and say is being watched. Everyone emanates something. A radiant Christian woman - a radiant bride of Christ - emanates the saltiness and light of Jesus through her life; displayed through the things she does and doesn't do. Through things she says or doesn't say.
Jesus said, "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.
You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:13-16, NIV).
Today, I pray that you are spurred on to be a woman of action for Christ - no matter what the circumstances of your life or the complexities of your relationships may be. From your word choices - to your tone choices - to your television choices - to your music choices - to your service choices - to your activity choices ... be all about your Father's business. Go in His strength, and put your faith where your action is.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I pray that You will help my actions to line up with Your perfect will. Help me to be Your hands and feet to those around me. Shine through my actions so others might be drawn to Your healing hope.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your life radiate? What are your actions saying about your faith? Are you salty for Christ in what you do and say? Spend a few moments reflecting on this and then spend some time in prayer.
How can you serve someone today? Perhaps God is leading you to bless someone in your household ... or someone in your church ... or someone in your neighborhood.
Could you reach out to a single mom, a family member, a widow, or a hurting friend? Ask God to direct you to opportunities to put your faith into action in the lives of others.
Got some great ideas about this? I would love to hear about them! Visit my Facebook page and tell me all about it: http://www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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Trust me, friend, in no way am I trying to place the burden of "you-must-do-more-things-in-order-to-please-God" on you. I just want to encourage you to make the most of every choice and every action. If you are drained and weary and can't imagine being able to give anyone anything right now, get alone with God. His presence and His Spirit will strengthen you for each moment.
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July 30, 2012
That "Little" Sin
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Matthew 7:3 (NIV) "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"
Friend to Friend
My husband, Dan, was a church pastor in South Florida for several years. One of our favorite traditions at that church was the Thanksgiving Day breakfast. Even our kids got in on the action. We woke while it was still dark and headed to the church to help dozens of volunteers mix and cook mountains of pancakes, stacks of bacon, and, as they say in the south, a heap of eggs and biscuits ... in short, a scrumptious Thanksgiving breakfast. Following the breakfast, we had a time of worship, and Dan shared a brief message after which families headed home to enjoy the rest of their holiday.
Then the cleanup began. We all shifted into high gear, breaking down tables, washing dishes and getting the buildings ready for the weekend services. The kids quickly completed their assigned tasks and promptly disappeared to play until it was time to head home.
I was finishing up in the kitchen when our daughter came running in, crying, holding a paper towel over her eye. "What happened, honey?" I asked. "I don't know, Mom. We were playing and something flew in my eye and it really hurts!" she cried. I looked at our son and his friends for a translation. "We were having a mulch war and Danna got some in her eye." Since I wear contacts, I always carry saline solution and thought that would take care of the problem. I couldn't see anything in Danna's eye, but after washing it out she said it felt better and we headed home. However, as the day wore on, it was obvious that something was in her eye as the pain increased and the eye began to swell. We called a friend who is an optometrist. Since he lived close by, he sweetly agreed to drop by and take a look at Danna's eye. After a quick exam, he said, "She does have something in her eye but I will need to see her in my office to remove it." He applied numbing drops, an eye patch and said he would meet us at his office in the morning. Even though I still couldn't see anything in our daughter's eye, I knew it was there.
When we arrived at the doctor's office, he went to work and within seconds handed me a tiny speck of mulch nestled on a tissue. I could barely see it. But Danna blinked a couple of times and grinned. "It doesn't hurt any more, Mom." I remember wondering how something so small could cause so much pain.
Sin is like that. We may view it as nothing more than a little lie or an insignificant transgression, but it was enough to send Jesus to the cross. If we refuse to deal with sin it will surely cause pain and damage in our lives.1 John 1:9 "But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (NCV).
This verse was written to believers as an encouragement to deal with sin and as a promise that when we do so, God will be faithful to forgive us and clean up the mess that sin has caused. We are not perfect – just forgiven. To experience that forgiveness fully we need to keep short books on sin. That means being sensitive to sin and immediately choosing to do something about it. God is serious about sin. We need to be as well.
1. We must confess sin continually. "Confess" means to agree with and is a present tense verb meaning that we must confess sin frequently, without stopping.
2. We must confess sin completely.We commit sins one at a time. We need to confess them one by one as well.
3. We must confess our sin confidently.Once we confess and repent of our sin, we can put it behind us. God is just and fair – seeking only one payment for sin. Jesus has already made full and complete payment with His death on the cross.
One of Satan's favorite tactics is to resurrect buried sin. Wrapping that confessed transgression in his vain taunts and useless accusations, the enemy hauls it back into focus, hoping that guilt will paralyze and imprison a soul set free. Satan can hold us prisoner if we let him. But how often do we believe his empty lies – and by doing so, grant him access to that which he has no right? To break the hold of sin, we can and must stand against the enemy, trusting not in our feelings but in the facts of God's word. And those facts are unchanging and crystal clear – when we confess sin, God forgives it.
Let's Pray
Father, do not let me ever forget the price You paid for my sin. Thank You for the forgiveness and freedom You purchased with Your death on the cross. Bring swift awareness and conviction when I sin. Give me the strength and power to deal with and turn from the sin in my life.
For Your glory and in Your name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time each day to pray and study His Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to make you aware of every sin that stands between you and God. Confess that sin. Choose against it and walk on in His power and forgiveness. Ask yourself the following questions:
What sin do I need to confess right now?
Why have I held on to this sin?
What effect has this sin had on my life?
What changes do I need to make in order to "turn" from my sin?
Do I really believe that God can and will forgive this sin? Why? Why not?
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July 31, 2012
When the Soul Bleeds
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
[Jesus said] "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering" (Mark 5:31-34 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When we read the story of Jesus healing the woman who had been bleeding for twelve years, it is hard for us twenty-first century women to imagine such a condition lasting for so long. Medical science has progressed far beyond the rudimentary knowledge of Jesus' day. It is simply unthinkable today.
But I suggest there are still many women with chronic bleeding of a different sort. We bleed from the heart.
From the time Sarah was six-years-old, her father crept into her bedroom in the dark of night and violated her little body. Now, as an adult, her heart bleeds.
When Beth was walking to her dorm room from the college library, a lurker jumped from behind the bushes, dragged her to a nearby shed and raped her at knife-point. Now, ten years later, her heart bleeds.
After twenty-years of marriage, Lucy accidentally stumbled upon an in-town hotel receipt in her husband's wallet. Suspecting the worse, she uncovered past e-mails, supposed meetings that never occurred and a trail of deceit. When presented with the evidence, her husband admitted to having a three-year long affair. And her heart bleeds.
Laura was laid off from her job and her mother's words re-emerge like sewage leakage from an underground septic tank. "You're no good. You'll never amount to anything. You're a loser just like your father." And because of the lies, her heart bleeds.
Melissa holds her newborn little girl in her arms and coos her to sleep. Interrupting the sweetness of the wee hours of the morning, she hears her aborted child crying from the grave. Guilt presses down as the ever-present weight deflates her joy. And her heart bleeds.
Women - hoping the pain will go away. Awakening each day with a memory that cuts a fresh wound. Women-longing to hear the words, "Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
The woman with the issue of blood was no different from you and me. While her apparent illness was physical, her inward suffering ruled her life. She had lost her family, all her money, and her standing in the community. She was viewed as an unclean, untouchable outcast. But in one radical moment, one momentous decision, she reached out to Jesus and grabbed hold of her healing.
He wants to set you free from your suffering, but he will not push you out of the jail cell or yank the chains off your neck. He unlocks the door, but you must walk out the door. He unlocks the chain, but you must stop wearing them around your neck.
We can choose to bleed. We can choose to remain in our suffering and pick at the scabs of the past. But hear me dear friend, it is a choice. Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life and have it to the full" (John 10:10). That's what he wants for each of us. But we have to embrace the truth and, like the woman with the twelve-year-bleeding, reach for our healing.
In John, chapter five, Jesus encounters a lame man sitting by a pool of water where the paralyzed, blind, and afflicted gathered. Then Jesus walked up to him and asked a strange question, "Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6b).
Perhaps it wasn't such a strange question. Many times we get used to being emotionally sick, and we wear the sickness like a shroud. We become walking wounded, picking at emotional scabs – not allowing them to heal.
Jesus said to the woman, "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering." That is the same healing he offers to you and to me. What will you do?
Let's Pray
Dear God, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I reach forward today, touch the hem of Your garment, and receive my healing. Yes, I want to get well. Give me the faith to walk in freedom and victory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there pain in your life that you have refused to let go of?
Do you want to get well?
That is a risky question. It took a lot for the man who had been lying by the pool to get up off that pallet. He had to learn how to walk, get a job, and learn to live like a healthy person. That's a big change after 38 years. But you can do it! You can let go of the past and begin to live in victory and freedom! Let's start today!
If you are ready to reach out to Jesus and grab a hold of your healing, log onto www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and say, "I'm grabbing hold."
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours.
I am so passionate about this book, if you order it this week (the week the devotion is dated), and send me an email, I'll send you the Bible study guide for free. Email me at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com and say, I'm a GiG and I ordered What God Really Thinks about Women this week.
If you are ready to reach out to Jesus and grab a hold of your healing, click over to my blog page and leave a comment that says, "I'm grabbing hold."
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Want to learn more about how to be free from your past suffering and walk in victory? How to stop the bleeding of your soul and use your past pain for present purpose? Then you'll want to read my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding peace and purpose in the hurts of your past.
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August 1, 2012
Always on Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Philippians 4:19 (NIV) "And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
Friend To Friend
I grew up in Texas where we lived in what some might call a "shack" on the edge of a small town. To me, it was just home. My amazing mother often worked three jobs to make ends meet but that "meeting" did not always happen. Looking back, I can honestly say that God always provided what we needed - when we needed it. He still does.
My husband and I knew the finances would be tight last week but we did not expect the brakes to go out on one of our cars or plan a trip to urgent care or expect the electric bill to be so high. The cost of groceries suggested that we fast for awhile and the rent was due. I know you can relate.
After many years of serving God, you would think I would know and walk in the truth that God is our source and provides everything we need - when we need it. Oh, no! I panicked! A frantic search for some solution to our financial problems ensued. In the midst of that panic, I suddenly remembered the mail. Interesting timing wasn't it?
I had not checked our mailbox in three days and knew the box would be crammed full. When I unlocked our mailbox, a pile of newspapers, envelopes, magazines, bills and cards spilled into my hands and onto the ground. The mailman had also left me a key to the larger mailbox below that was usually reserved for packages. It was full of mail as well. I cleared off the kitchen table where I began sorting through the mound of paper, discarding all of the junk mail and organizing the rest.
And then I saw it – an envelope that seemed to stand out from the rest of the mail.
I slowly opened the envelope. The return address told me it was from the Women's Ministry Director of a church where I had spoken several months before. One of my best friends was a member of the church, and I had offered to speak for an event that I hoped would encourage her as well as each woman who attended. I did not ask for or expect an honorarium, but as I slowly opened the envelope, I saw a check written for the exact amount that would meet our financial needs for the week.
I fell into a chair and began to pray, asking God to forgive my lack of faith and my choice to worry instead of trusting Him. I marveled in the knowledge that the check had been written long before the need became evident to me. In other words, God met our need before we even knew we had a need.
By the way, I am a mail freak and have been for most of my life. I check the mail every single day without fail. Not this week! God knew I needed a reminder of His faithfulness and He knew exactly when I needed it. He is always right on time.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for meeting the needs in my life in Your perfect timing. Forgive me when I fail to trust You and allow worry to steal my joy. I want to be patient and learn how to wait on You to work in my life. Your faithfulness sustains me and Your mercy blesses my life. I praise You, God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 104:13-15. How does this passage of Scripture encourage you to trust God in every area of your life?
Read Luke 6:38. What does this verse say to you about the relationship between giving and receiving from God?
What need in your life is a source of fear and uncertainty? Right now, surrender that need to God and praise Him for meeting it.
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August 2, 2012
God said, "It is Very Good"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
"God saw all that he had made, and it was very good," - (Genesis 1:31 NIV).
Friend to Friend:
It's 7:05 AM. I'm sitting on my patio with a cup of steaming coffee in my hand and a well-worn Bible in my lap. A gentle morning breeze ruffles my hair. Quietly, God whispers, Listen.
"What God," I answer, "Are you going to tell me something special?"
Just listen.
I close my eyes and let the sounds of morning paint a picture on the canvas of my mind.
A robin sweetly sings. She's answered by a crow's caw. A red bird chirps and a high pitched staccato tweet interrupts. A dove coos sweet nothings to his lifetime mate and she returns coos in reply. An orchestra of various birds fill the air like instruments tuning before the curtain rises on a new day.
The telephone rings and I am startled back to reality as the modern day task master demands and requests. The day has begun, and I promise to sit with the Lord once again at day's end.
It's 7:05 PM. I am sitting on my patio with a steaming cup of coffee in my hand and a much-loved book in my lap. Once again God says, Listen.
"Are you going to tell me something special?" I asked.
Just listen.
The birds are still singing, but their songs are masked by other noises congesting the air. Cars roar as they speed down the nearby highway. A plane soars overhead leaving a trail of rumble following behind. A violin whines as a child practices her lessons. A little girl squeals with delight as she's chased by her daddy home from work. A rhythmic thump echoes on the concrete as a teenage boy bounces a basketball on the sidewalk. An ambulance siren pierces the evening as it heads to rescue someone in distress. A train whistles in the distance.
The phone rings again, but this time I ignore the interruption. The Lord calls me to sit still and think about the two bookends of my day.
I thought about the beauty of the undisturbed morning with nature awakening to a new day. That must have been a sampling of what God heard in the garden before He created man. But amazingly, He chose to create us anyway. He knew what we would do to His perfect world. He knew the cacophony of sounds we would introduce: yelling, crying, arguing, gun blasts, boom boxes, cars, airplanes, trains, and bombs – all drowning out the sounds of His creation. And knowing what He knew, He looked at man and said, "It is very good."
No matter how much noise we make, no matter how much mess we make, no matter how many times we interrupt, if He had to do it all over again, He wouldn't change a thing.
As you go about your day, stop and thank God for His gentle whispers among the noises of life.
Oh God, You are very good.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I wonder why You bother with us at all. And yet, You love us. You looked at man and woman in the Garden of Eden and said, "It is very good." I am amazed at Your great love for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When is the last time you rose early in the morning to listen to God's creation before the rest of the world began to stir? Give it a try. Set your alarm and join God in your backyard. Take a pad of paper and write down your thoughts. Note the sounds of creation that you hear.
Yes, we do make a lot of noise and make quite a mess, but as one song writer said, "These are the signs of life." Make a list of the signs of life you see around your home today. Perhaps it is a bicycle in the front yard, a toy left on the floor, a dirty sock peeking from under a chair. These are the signs of life in our little part of the world.
Where is your favorite place to meet with God? Share you answer on my blog/devo page. Look for today's post and leave a comment.
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August 3, 2012
The Power of Quiet
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters; he restores my soul - (Psalm 23:1-3a, NIV).
Friend To Friend
There are times when laundry takes over my house. Piles build up, though I try to stay on top of them. Many of the clothes are clean and even folded, but not put away. That tricky put-away-part is always hard for me.
Then there are the socks. Oh, the socks! They burden me so! I'm half tempted to believe that a great sock nation exists,and that sock-soldiers are on a secret mission to destroy my testimony by driving me crazy. Divide and conquer. That's what they do! Why can't socks just behave? Why can't they ever stay in pairs, and where am I supposed to put the socks that remain unmatched? (Insert dramatic sigh here...) Unmatched socks and folded-but-not-put-away-laundry tie me up in knots. I don't like to admit it, but sometimes days go by before I make the time to put them away.
Is it just me?
I've come to realize that my days can be a lot like my laundry situation. At times they get piled up with "busy." Sabbath gets squeezed out. Now, when I say Sabbath, I mean the priority of sitting before the Lord just to sit with Him ... quietly ... expectantly ... to listen. Though I do include God in my days and breathe prayers throughout, when I don't sit before the Lord – and exercise the spiritual discipline of being quiet before God – it seems that both old and new burdens can tie my heart into a frazzled knot.
It had been one of those weeks. Knots. Knots. Knots. Then I finally remembered the power of quiet. As I sat in the cool still of the morning with a hot mug of coffee in my hand and the warming presence of God in my soul, the burdens of my heart began to drift away. Direction came. Joy resounded. Mercy rained. Peace ... deep peace fell.
It was when the companion of God's Spirit had begun to transform my soul, my thoughts, my goals, and my day that I realized, as if I had slumbered half the week away ... this is where they go. This is where my burdens belong. The old ones that I've written about time and time again in my prayer journal and the new ones that are just beginning to unravel from my heart. This is where they go! I just needed to put my continuous stream of life-burdens away like the unending piles of laundry. Then ... order, soul order. Peace, compelling peace. Joy, divine joy. It all comes.
I sat in wonder. Still. In His presence. Convicted of my failure to remember the power of being quiet before the Lord. "Of course this is where they go. I knew that. I knew that. Lord, forgive me. Oh, how I'm thankful for your daily mercy showers."
Jesus tells all who believe that we should go to Him. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30).
When our lives get too busy ... when the laundry piles up in our homes and the burdens pile up in our hearts, we often forget the power of quiet. The power of being still before God. The power of listening, expecting, soul-pouring ... receiving rest. His presence sorts souls and never leaves an unmatched burden. His presence never leaves and un-lifted burden. Hallelujah! What a Savior!
Take some time to power-down and be still before Him right now. Remember the power of quiet as you exchange your burdens for His peace.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Your mercy is fresh each day, and Your grace piles higher than all my laundry and all my heart-woes. Thank You, Lord! I'm here. Please align my heart to Yours. Quiet me with Your love, direction, and peace today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When is the last time you sat and were still before God – with no music playing, no TV on, etc.?
When we spend purposed time with the Lord, beautiful things happen. Look up Zephaniah 3:17 and fill in the blanks below:
"The LORD your God is _______ _________, he is mighty to save.
He will take ___________ ______________in you, he will _____________ you with his ______________, he will _____________ over you with ________________."
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Are you up for a personal GiG challenge? I challenge you to add a ten-minute "Sabbath" to your day for the next week. (I recommend you do it as soon as you wake up, but that's your call.) Simply sit before the Lord and let Him know you are there. You might want to start your time by reading a psalm and responding in prayer. Then be still. Just ten minutes a day for a week. Ready for the challenge? Let me know by telling me on my Facebook wall: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. Hope you will join me!
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August 6, 2012
Masterpiece by the Bay
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free," (John 8:32 NASB).
Friend to Friend
I grew up on the East Coast and was excited when my family decided to visit San Francisco for our vacation. My heart's desire and prayer for each day was that we would see God's handiwork, hear His voice and be reminded of His greatness as we ventured out like three eager explorers to discover new aspects of His creation.
We traveled south along the shoreline and were amazed at the 200 foot regal cliffs that rose from the earth, pushing heavenward with waves splashing at their feet. Then we traveled north and drank in the beauty of acres and acres of vineyards on grassy rolling hills in the Napa Valley wine country. We hiked through the majestic Redwood Forest and stood under 1,000 year old, 260 foot giants - dwarfed by their towering branches.
But the most amazing sight was in a place called Alcatraz. There in the middle of the San Francisco Bay, just a mile and a quarter from the sights and sounds of the beautiful city, sits a rock island, known by some as the "Devils Island of America." From 1934-1963, Alcatraz was a prison where the country's most corrupt, incorrigible criminals were housed. Al Capone and machine Gun Kelly were just two of the more colorful residents.
There is no road to the prison, so we took a ferry across the bay. As we taxied up to "The Rock" and stared at the shell of concrete walls, barbed wire, and iron bars, an eerie feeling crept over my body. Each of us picked up head phones and a cassette recorder and toured the prison while listening to the taped voices of various prisoners recount their days behind bars. I walked in a cell called "the hole," closed my eyes, and tried to imagine what it would be like in solitary confinement with no light, no sound, and no other voice but my own. My heart grew heavy as I thought about the souls that passed those halls, souls full of darkness, depression and despair.
But as I rounded the final corner of the tour, I saw an amazing sight - a white haired eighty year old grandfather, with crystal blue laughing eyes and a radiant smile that spread across his wrinkled face. A line formed as tourists stood waiting for him to sign his name and number on his autobiography, Alcatraz: From the Inside. This precious man before me was Jim Quillen, ex-prisoner #AZ586. He had spent ten years of his life, from 1942-1952, behind bars in this prison built to house the most dangerous criminals of his day. I looked in his eyes as we spoke. This was not the face of a dangerous man. What had happened to change his life?
I didn't have to flip many pages in his book to find the answer. In it he wrote, "It was only through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and His intercession, that my life of hopeless incarceration was averted. His help and forgiveness permitted me to obtain freedom, family, and a useful and productive place in society." I went back over to Mr. Quillen and sat by his side for a minute or so. We chatted for a moment and he autographed my copy of his book. Then God spoke to my heart, "You prayed that you would see My handiwork and be reminded of My greatness. This man is some of my best work."
On my trip to San Francisco, I was reminded of God's unchanging strength in the majestic rock cliffs of the shoreline and of His nurturing care as the Vinedresser in the hills of the wine country. I saw a picture of God's protective canopy over His children in the towering Redwoods of the forest. But when I looked into Jim Quillen's eyes, I saw God's most incredible masterpiece: a changed life.
And that's what you are, dear sister...an incredible masterpiece crafted by God.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for setting me free! You took my pain and turned it into purpose. You took my hurt and turned it into hope. You took my fear and turned it into faith. Thank you, O Lord, for setting my feet to dancing and my voice to singing Your praise! In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who is a person that has shown the most dramatic change since he or she became a Christian?
What has been the most dramatic change in your life since you gave your life to Christ?
This summer, as you head out on vacation, ask God to reveal Himself to you in special ways. And when He does, I'd love to hear about it! Tell me about it at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com or post it on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com.
If you'd like to see a picture of me and Jim Quillen, click over to my blog page and take a peek!
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Have you ever had a God-moment in your life? A time when you saw God's fingerprints on the pages of your day? My devotion book, Listening to God Day-by-Day has 100 of my favorite devotions filled with God-moments right smack dab in the middle of my busy messy days. It makes a great gift for someone who needs a bit of encouragement. That might be you.
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August 7, 2012
Beautiful Irritations
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places so that you may know that I am the LORD, your God (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Life can be so irritating. More often than not, it is the little things that annoy me the most. The lost set of keys. The misplaced cell phone. The ice-maker that refuses to do its job on a hot summer day. The empty tea pitcher stuck back in the refrigerator. But then there are times when people are the problem. They show up uninvited or call when I am running out the door, already late for an appointment that I really don't have time to keep. Been there?
I am convinced that these tiny irritations are a tool in the hand of a loving Father who uses them as "heavenly sandpaper" to rub off some of our rough edges.
I was invited to speak for a women's conference based on the theme, "Pearls of Wisdom." When I arrived at the conference center, I was greeted by women wearing pearl necklaces, pearl bracelets, pearl pins, hats covered in multicolored pearls ... you name it, and they wore it if it had pearls. Each table was beautifully decorated with treasure chests overflowing with strands of pearls. Oyster shells held candy mints that looked like pearls and each name tag was decorated with a single pearl. It was amazing!
I was warmly welcomed and then promptly introduced to the event director and leadership team who were excited and ready to go - except for one problem. I was "pearl-less." I was quickly told that the speaker had to wear pearls of some kind. I did not have any pearls but this creative group of ladies was not easily deterred and before I knew it, I was wearing a stunning pearl necklace - and the pearls were the real deal. I could just see that necklace breaking while I was speaking, but before I could utter one word of protest, the owner of the necklace said, "Don't worry! You can just give it back to me at the end of the conference." And off we went!
I am what you might call an "active" speaker in that I cannot stand still and talk at the same time. I get excited, pace the stage, arms waving and can literally work up quite a sweat. The "Pearls of Wisdom" conference was no exception. In fact, it was a blistering summer day and the air conditioning was having trouble keeping up with the size of the crowd. By the time I finished speaking, I was indeed "glowing." When we were dismissed for the day, women waited in line to talk, ask for prayer or share a new truth God had given them. I forgot all about the pearl necklace until its owner quietly slipped up beside me and said, "I have to leave and need to retrieve my necklace." As she began to undo the necklace clasp, I apologized for perspiring all over her beautiful pearls. She laughed and said, "Actually, it is good for them. Human perspiration helps the pearls keep their luster."
I am constantly amazed at the profound truths God has tucked into the simple things of life. Pearls are formed when a piece of grit, sand or shell is trapped inside an oyster. The oyster protects itself from irritation by secreting a nacreous liquid that surrounds the irritant until it eventually becomes a pearl. In other words, what begins as an annoying irritant eventually becomes a valuable treasure. The same is true in life.
Looking back, I can honestly say that the greatest treasures in my life have been discovered during the darkest times of my life. A battle with clinical depression stripped away years of fear and doubt, leaving me with a new identity in Christ and a ministry I never thought possible. The inability to have biological children made it possible to adopt our son and daughter, Jered and Danna, giving my husband and me a gift beyond measure. Over the years, weaknesses have given way to strengths and failures have led to successes and God has used it all for His glory and my good.
In God's economy, a mess is the perfect setting for a miracle, girlfriend. A sliver of hope and a seed of victory are buried at the center of every problem. God has gone before you. He has already been where you are going and in every trial or difficult moment of life, God has buried a treasure. When the tough times come, just look for the pearls.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so sorry for the way I complain about my circumstances. Please forgive me for my bad attitude when things don't go my way. I want to see Your hand in every part of every day - good or bad. Help me learn how to face every storm with confidence, knowing that You really are in control even though I cannot hear Your voice or see Your hand at work. May others see You in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 1:2-4 and answer the following questions:
· What does the word "consider" suggest as a response to difficult circumstances?
· What should our first response be to trials?
· What does the testing of our faith produce in us?
· What promise does James give us when we are faithful and choose to stand strong when life is hard?
· How do these truths relate to your life today?
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I don't know about you, but I tend to look for the nearest exit when a storm hits. Avoiding difficult people and complicated circumstances tends to be one of my most common goals. Can you relate? What we really need to do is cultivate an attitude of unshakable confidence in God and keep a "but God" promise in our heart.
"My husband has lost his job, but God will provide."
"The doctors have said there is no hope, but God is the Great Physician."
"I don't know what to do, but God will show me the way."
We live in uncertain times which demand a certain hope that can only be found in God. Right now, choose faith over feeling. Don't doubt in the darkness what you learned in the light. God is with you, friend. Look for the pearls!
Need help?Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
Join other women across the worldin Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Stop! Drop! Roll! begins August 6. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2012 studies we have done so far. Check it out!
Going through a tough time?Are your fears and uncertainties rooted in your past? Get past your past! Check out Mary's FREE MP3: Getting Past Your Past. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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August 8, 2012
The Ache for Something More
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing" (Psalm 39:6 NLT).
Friend to Friend
Most of us come to Christ with a certain"inloveness"—a stirring of emotion mixed with an inexplicable knowing that we've discovered our reason for being. But some years into our spiritual journey, the wonder that swelled during the early years ebbs into routine religion laced with busyness. And we secretly question the point of it all. There has to be more than this,we muse. There has to be something more. What am I missing? What's wrong with me? I'm doing all the right things, but God seems so far away. I'm trying as hard as I can, but it never seems to be enough. What does God really want from me anyway?
For decades, as I have had the privilege of ministering to women, I have heard the same heart-cry from those who desire to have a deep, intimate, exuberant relationship with Christ but don't know how to find it.
Here's part of one email:
Here's the crux of my problem. After I gave my life to Christ, I joined a church and began reading the Bible daily. Yet, I never experienced that overwhelming feeling of change that so many others experience. In my quiet times, when I seek to know Him better and wait quietly for answers, I do not get the nudges that others talk about. I know that some people hit rock bottom and then experience a dramatic life change accompanied by an emotional high. I sometimes wonder if I will have to experience some great trial in order to have the wonderful feelings of a true relationship with Christ.
I try to start each day with quiet time, scripture reading and prayer. I try to have a God-focused day. Is something wrong with me? Do other women feel this emptiness too? Should I be feeling something more? What more should I be doing? I know Christ loves me, but something is missing and I don't even know what it is. What should I do?
—Stephanie (Not her real name. Used by permission.)
Perhaps you can relate. You long to feel close to God but sense there's just something lacking, that you've missed the mysterious formula to make it happen. I call this a "glory ache" —a persistent longing to experience God's presence on a daily basis. Perhaps like most women, you've tried desperately to balance the montage of mundane demands and somehow slip God into the white spaces that are few and far between. You long to spend time in the sacred with God, but find the desire crowded out by the responsibilities of the secular—the daily demands—that lay claim to your attention. You yearn to experience God's presence, but feel far away from Him as you reach to click off the bedside lamp and collapse exhausted once again. Maybe tomorrow, you sigh.
The travesty is that we allow the busyness of life to crowd out the Source of life. As the Psalmist wrote, "We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing" (Psalm 39:6 NLT). Ann Voskamp echoes that lament: "In a world addicted to speed, I blur the moments into one unholy smear."
And in that unholy smear, that blur of the world passing quickly by, we know something's not quite right. So we strike out to make it all better. And most of us are quick to think 'something more' means 'doing more.' We ramp it up and gun the engines—sign up for a new committee, volunteer for a new cause, bake one more casserole to feed the sick. We attempt to silence the hunger pains of the heart by feeding it the bread and water of duty. And at the end of the day, while we might feel a self-induced sense of well-being, the hollowness in our soul that can only be satisfied with God echoes with the grumblings of hunger still.
We long for a sense of closeness with God, but we have a hard time putting our finger on exactly what that closeness would look like. It's just something more. Something different. A flavor we have yet to taste. A country we have yet to visit. A sunset we have yet to experience. A lover we have yet to embrace. There has to be something more, we cry! And we are quite right. We are craving the closeness that comes with an intimate relationship with Jesus.
So we try so harder. We go to Bible studies, attend church, say our prayers, and read our devotions. Check, check, check. And yet, we constantly feel that we are somehow letting God down. With the last amen of the day, we sigh, What more does God want from me?
And here's the thing. We're asking the wrong question. It is not what God wants from you. It is what God wants for you. Abundant life (John 10:10). Constant communion with Him. Intimate union with Him.
He's inviting you into intimate union. Right now. Right where you are. Perhaps you need to stop trying to get what you already have and simply grab hold.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, soothe my glory ache with Your presence. Help me to stay in constant communion and union with You. Forgive me when I think the glory ache can be satisfied by anything or anyone besides You, and wander off to other lovers. You, Lord, are my stream of Living Water to quench every thirst.
Now It's Your Turn
What or who have you turned to to satisfy that ache for something more in your life? Food? People? Money? Ministry?
Do you tend to ask God what He wants from you or for you?
How would you describe the abundant life Jesus talked about in John 1010? Click over to my blog page, look for this devo/blog entry, and share your comments.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 9, 2012
Praise God Anyway
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts; whose name is the Lord, and exult before Him (Psalm 68:4).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of the woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today. She did and she had a wonderful day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmm," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." She did and she had a great day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair in a ponytail." So she did and she had a fun day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "Yes!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!" Now that's what I call having a good attitude.
Attitude can transform anything and everything – thoughts, habits, and perspectives. We can literally change our lives by changing the way we think. In Isaiah 26:3 (NLT), we find the promise, "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you." A mind filled with thoughts fixed on God will produce a heart filled with praise – and girlfriend, praise is a powerful tool in our spiritual arsenal. Praise brings healing to our spirit. When we honestly express our trust in God, then choose to give thanks, healing begins. Praise provides a highway upon which the Father conveys deliverance and blessing. Praise invites God to take up residence in the midst of our messy lives and becomes a free-flowing conduit of God's very presence and power at work in us. God funnels infinite blessings into a life that praises Him. Stress and anxiety fade as peace floods the heart that is filled with praise.
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts. (Psalm 68:4, ICB)
But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel. (Psalm 22:3, NKJV)
Don't miss the life changing truth that we can enthrone God in every situation of our lives by praising Him. Praise converts our everyday surroundings into His dwelling place. It is from that throne of praise that God dispenses victory. Praise tunes us into His sovereignty and allows us to experience the reality and power of His presence.
Praise strengthens our prayer life. Prayer is not only a remarkable privilege that we often fail to recognize or understand, it is also part of our worship to God. There is the asking side of prayer when we seek forgiveness, lay needs before God and intercede on behalf of others. Then there is the appreciating side of prayer when we offer praise and thanksgiving to God for who He is and what He has done. Our relationship with God is strengthened through prayer and praise. Now here is my favorite truth about praise. Are you ready? Praise devastates Satan and his forces. Yes! I love it! In fact, Psalm 20:5 (NIV) promises, "We will shout for joy when you are victorious and will lift up our banners in the name of our God." Satan is well aware of just how powerful praise is and I suspect he absolutely hates it ... which absolutely delights me! I can almost sense his fury when I choose to praise God instead of questioning Him. He hates it when I walk by faith, setting aside feelings and emotions while focusing on God's Word and His faithfulness in my life.
No matter where you are or what you are facing, God is with you. Choose to praise Him.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for Your power and presence in my life. Help me remember that You are with me and are more than enough for every need in my life. Please help me learn to give You praise even when I don't feel like it or don't want to. I want to walk by faith and choose to trust You and then illustrate that trust by the way I praise You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you known as a woman who praises God?
As you begin each day, take time to position your mind and heart for praise.
Look for opportunities during the day to praise God – then voice that praise aloud.
Begin keeping a praise journal in which you write your praises to God.
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Need help?Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
Join other women across the worldin Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Stop! Drop! Roll!begins August 6. When you enroll, you also have access to all of the 2012 studies we have done so far. Check it out!
Going through a tough time?Are your fears and uncertainties rooted in your past? Get past your past! Check out Mary's FREE MP3: Getting Past Your Past. Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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August 10, 2012
Cease Striving
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Quiet! Be still!" (Mark 4:39 NIV)
Friend to Friend
One January morning, I asked God, "What do You really want from me?"
I had just finished a big writing project and was ready to tackle the next big thing for God. I snuggled in my favorite den chair with a steamy cup of coffee and my well-worn Bible to spend some alone time with my Heavenly Father. I read a few verses and said my prayer. Check. Check. When I started to get up, I felt God's invisible strong hand holding me back. He wasn't finished. Be still and know that I am God, He seemed to say. Cease striving.
Suddenly, I saw myself with the disciples caught on the stormy Sea of Galilee. As I pondered the past twenty-five years of my life, I saw myself reeling in the waves of ceaseless activity. A squall of busyness raging around me—and in me. Reeling from one foamy crest of work and deadlines to the next and hanging on for dear life. In my mind's eye, the fellow passengers were not the motley crew of the first century disciples, but women from every walk, trying to steady themselves in the turbulent waters of life. Perhaps you were in the boat with me.
"Teacher, don't you care if we drown?" they asked. "Help us!"
Then I sensed Jesus speaking to me just as He had spoken to the raucous wind and waves, "Quiet! Be still! Settle down!"
So I sat.
After a few moments, I realized I didn't really know how to be quiet and settle down. I had never mastered the full idea of "be still and know." I knew that God was God. It was the "be still" part that stumped me. Sitting still was not in my nature, and perhaps it was my nature God was trying to tame. My "nature" or natural bent of working for God was standing in the way of my worship of and communion with God. My daily routine of sanctioned quiet times was getting in the way of the divine romance in which He wanted me to engage.
Does it surprise you that I could say such words? Oh friend, I am nothing if I am not honest. I have that glory ache, the longing to experience God's presence and working in my life, just like you. Sometimes I can get so busy doing, doing, doing, that God's gentle whisper drawing me closer is drowned out by the noises of my own making. How sad to admit, that sometimes when God extends his hand to invite me onto the dance floor of life, my dance card is already full. Many nights I lean over to turn out the bedside lamp, collapse in exhaustion, and sigh, "maybe tomorrow, Lord."
I don't think "be still and know" comes naturally to any of us. Aren't we taught to get moving? "Keep your eye on the ball." "Focus on the target." "If you don't' know where you are going, you probably won't get there." Motivational phrases for sure. But this was God talking, and He had a different message. While the world prods, "Don't just stand there, do something!" God was telling me quite the opposite. "Don't just do something, stand there."
Now He had my attention. So I stayed put.
"OK God," I asked, "What do You really want from me?
He surprised me. He often does, when I take the time to listen. Acts 17:28 came to mind. I believe He put it there. In Him we live and move and have our being. Learn what that means, He seemed to say. I opened my Bible again and read the words, pondering each phrase individually.
In Him.
We live.
And move.
And have our being.
I sensed God speaking to my heart. That's where you will find the secret to satisfy that glory ache. That's the answer you are searching for. That's where you will find what your sisters hunger for. You've been asking the wrong question. It's not what I want fromyou. It's what I want foryou. And in this one little verse, you'll find the key—not just for yourself, but also for others in the boat with you. This will calm the squall of your frantic heart.
God startled me that morning. I was expecting Him to give me a new assignment—something to do for Him. Another project to complete. Another study to devour. Another cause to support. But He surprised me. It was none of the above. It was one verse. In Him we live and move and have our being.
I wondered, could this be the key to unlock the door behind which the salve to satisfy that glory ache was hidden? The door upon which I had been knocking far too long? I was excited to accept God's invitation as He extended His hand for mine. Today, I encourage you to take it too.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Sometimes, I am not just caught in the storm, I am the storm. Help me get quiet, settle down, and listen. Today, I am living in You. I am moving in You.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's your Turn
Go back and read the story of Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4:35-41.
Have you ever said these words to God, or at least thought the words, "Don't you care?"
Jesus cared. Jesus cares. He's just not worried.
Today, here's what I want you to remember. Jesus is in the boat with you. If that gives you comfort, click over to my blog post of today's devotion and leave the comment : Jesus is in the boat with me.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer. Pre-orders are now accepted.
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August 13, 2012
Do You Know How to Sit Down?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 5:3 (NLT) "Listen to my voice in the morning, LORD. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly."
Friend to Friend
I had a list of things to get done. Yes, my back was killing me and I was tired, but that list kept me hurrying around the house like the proverbial Energizer Bunny. When my husband walked in from work, I gave him a quick hug and resumed my almost frantic pace. "What are you doing, honey?" Dan asked. With one of my famous sighs, I responded, "I just need to get a few things done." "How is your back?" Dan persisted. With growing irritation, I answered, "It hurts!" Dan watched me for a few minutes and then calmly stated, "You don't know how to sit down, do you?" My first response was irritation which quickly escalated into anger – until I heard the unmistakable prompting of the Holy Spirit affirming the truth Dan had spoken. I needed to learn how to stop and sit down – and rest. But that list held me captive to unrealistic expectations in a ridiculous effort to prove my worth through what I did. It is an ongoing battle in my life. And I am not alone
We all struggle with balance and the inevitable battle with stress that struggle creates. When we refuse to balance the sometimes overwhelming demands of work, home, family, friends, and personal growth, stress will be the natural result. What we really need is a holy balance only God can bring. The story of Mary and Martha, two very different women, offers valuable truths about balance that we can apply to our lives today.
A balanced life is focused on right things. Focus is always found at the feet of Jesus. Mary lived out this truth. In fact, Mary, more than any other person in the New Testament is associated with sitting at the feet of Jesus.
What does it mean to "sit at the feet of Jesus"? First, we must stop. Now that is a novel idea for most of us, isn't it? Mary stopped what she was doing - helping Martha in the kitchen - and came to sit at the feet of Jesus. Of course, Martha immediately began complaining that she had been left to do all the work while her sister wasted time sitting at Jesus' feet. Listen, girlfriend, there will always be someone who will misunderstand or complain when you choose to obey God and do what Jesus told Martha was "the better part."
Luke 10: 40-42 "But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to Him and asked, 'Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.' But the Lord answered her, 'Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.'''
Mary made a choice and so must we. Choosing to sit at the feet of Jesus requires decisive planning, purposeful scheduling and a willful determination. Every day, God wants relationship building time with us, which means that time at His feet, in His presence must be our highest priority. Jesus gently rebuked Martha because she had forgotten what was most important.
It is amazing to me how I can squander away the best part of my day, leaving God with the leftover scraps of time and then have the audacity to complain that my life is void of power and purpose. Distractions come from every side. Some of those distractions are good and wonderful things, but they are all still wrong things if they keep us from stopping to spend time with God. We make daily choices about where we invest our time as we run errands, plan meals, deal with children, clean house, and do laundry - but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God.
I absolutely hate to wait, on anyone or for anything. I tend to view waiting as a thief that robs me of control and forces me to face the unknown. However, waiting on God brings priorities into a right focus and releases the catalyst that may very well change my life course. Waiting is not a passive lost of time. Waiting is active spiritual obedience. In each waiting room of life, He is at work preparing me for the circumstances ahead. Psalm 5:3 (NLT) "Listen to my voice in the morning, LORD. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly." From those still, quiet moments of waiting and seeking comes a balance and focus that takes root and grows. It is through the choice to wait on God that the seeking heart – the expectant heart finds every need met.
Are you desperate for the peace and a balance only God can provide? Then it's time to stop, take inventory of the demands upon your time, and begin investing the best part of your day sitting at His feet. Being wrapped up in God's work can easily become a shabby substitute for being wrapped up in His presence, and we can only be wrapped up in God's presence when we learn to sit at His feet and wait on Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I am really tired of trying to prove my worth by what I do. I am tired of being responsible for everyone's happiness – a burden you never intended me to carry. I want to let go of everything except the things You have for me to do. Why is it so hard for me to do that, Lord? Help me learn to see my worth in Your eyes alone. Give me the strength to stop and rest in You, knowing Your love is unconditional and does not depend on what I do or don't do. Thank You for loving me, Father. Please help me to live a life that reflects that love.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize the following verses:
Mark 1:35 "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place where He prayed."
Psalm 23:1-3 "The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.He makes me lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside quiet waters; He refreshes my soul."
List three ways you can apply these verses to your life in the area of sitting at the feet of Jesus.
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Need help? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fearand more.
Join other women across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Stop! Drop! Roll!Enroll now and have access to all of the 2012 studies. Check it out!
Going through a tough time? Are your fears and uncertainties rooted in your past? Get past your past! Check out Mary's FREE MP3: Getting Past Your Past. Connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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August 14, 2012
A Sudden Glory when God Makes Himself Known
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Blessed are your eyes because they see," Jesus said, "and your ears because they hear," (Matthew 13:16 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Can you remember a time when you sensed God's presence and you were absolutely sure it was Him? Perhaps it was when you first believed, or maybe it happened just yesterday. You may have felt an overwhelming sense of His love, received an answer to prayer, felt an inexplicable peace, or witnessed a miracle. But when it happened...oh, when it happened...you knew you had encountered the divine. The moment came and went, and you were awestruck. Do you remember it? I call those moments when God makes Himself known to you personally a sudden glory—an intimate moment with your Creator, the Lover of your soul, a glimpse of heaven.
To illustrate what I mean by this, consider how Sheldon Vanauken, author of A Severe Mercy, describes the moment he knew he was in love with his wife Davy:
One who has never been in love might mistake either infatuation or a mixture of affection and sexual attraction for being in love. But when the 'real thing' happens, there is no doubt. A man in the jungle at night, as someone said, may suppose a hyena's growl to be a lion's; but when he hears the lion's growl, he knows [full] well it's a lion. So with the genuine inloveness. So with Davy and me. A sudden glory.
I have been in the jungle and heard the lion's roar. I knew full well it was Him. So with the genuine inloveness. So with Jesus and me. A sudden glory. Time and time again.
All throughout our lives, I dare say, throughout our days, we will experience a sudden glory in unpredictable moments. Or, at least we could.
A friend shared a moment of sudden glory in her life:
"Life was hard after my divorce. With no child support and only a part-time job for income, there were days when I didn't know how I would put dinner on the table for myself and my four children. I often had to choose between buying groceries or paying the electric bill. On one such day, I walked to the mailbox praying I wouldn't find another cut-off notice from the utility company. Thankfully, there was nothing of the sort. Instead, I found an envelope that had no return address, and inside it was a note that read, 'Jesus loves you.' Tucked behind the note was a grocery store gift card for an amount that would buy groceries for at least a week.
In that moment, I felt as if God wrapped His arms around me and whispered to my heart, 'I see you. I love you. I care.' His presence was suddenly so real that all I could do was stand there and cry."
These moments are the salve for the glory ache. They are the manna moments to stay the hunger until we finally reach heaven's home. Do you yearn for those glory moments? Well guess what? God longs to give them to you even more than you yearn for them!
Today, look for the moments. The writing in the sky. The breeze upon your cheek. The flower pushing its way through concrete. Expect the unexpected. Let yourself be romanced by a sudden glory moment from God.
Let's Pray
God, Thank You for the glory moments you scatter about in my life with a generous hand. Please don't let me get so caught up on the busyness of life to miss the Source of Life. Thank You for caring enough about me to make Your presence known in so many ways...for speaking to me first one way and then another.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of 5 examples in the Old Testament where a man or woman was caught off guard by a moment of sudden glory. I'll start: Moses and the burning bush. I know. I took the easiest one. Sorry about that.J
Think of 5 more.
Now, I want you to tell me about one of your own sudden glory moments. You can leave a comment on my blog page. Look for this entry and tell me your story.
Or, I would love for you to visit my Sudden Glory Guest Book and tell me your story. This is a special page I've added to my website just for you. Come often and tell about how God showed up in your life in an unmistakable way.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me in discovering how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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September 15, 2012
Do You Know How to Sit Down? Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Deuteronomy 30:19-20 (NIV) "Now choose life...listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him."
Friend to Friend
We not only must stop and be still in order to sit at the feet of Jesus we must learn to listen for His voice. Time spent seeking God and listening for His voice is vital to our spiritual growth. Countless voices clamor for our attention. The key to a balanced life is training our hearts toward God and teaching our spiritual ears to listen for His voice above all others.
I taught third grade for several years while my husband attended seminary. My class was one of seven third grade classes, which meant that the first few days of school were chaotic. The PE teacher was a welcome sight when she appeared at my door to take the students outside. It was the responsibility of each teacher to pick up her students when PE was over. Seven teachers trying to get the attention of over two hundred students was especially interesting on the first or second day of school when the teachers didn't know their students and the third graders didn't know their teacher. However, after only a few days, an amazing thing happened every year. When the teachers lined up, it took only a word or two for the students to come running. They quickly learned to recognize the voice of their new teacher above all the rest, because they listened to her voice all day long.
The voice of God comes to us in many ways, but every voice must be held up and measured against His main voice, the Word of God. To sit at the feet of Jesus, we must learn to stop, be still, and listen for His voice and then rest in what He has told us. Rest will not come until we have heard His truth. However, when we have learned and applied the truth of God we can then rest in Him and our world falls into balance. Resting in Him requires trust.
When our son, Jered, was seven years old, he fell while skateboarding, cut his chin and needed stitches. We raced to the nearest emergency clinic where we met a young doctor, who at first glance, seemed friendly enough. Jered, however, took one look at the strange doctor and panicked. It was his first experience with stitches. After several attempts to gain Jered's trust and cooperation, the doctor grew impatient and said, "Son, this won't hurt and if you cannot be still we will have to put you in restraints." Now I had two major problems with those statements. First, I knew our son and there were not going to be any restraints placed on him because they were not necessary. Second, of course it would hurt. I looked at the doctor and explained, "If you will just tell Jered the truth and explain what you are doing he will be still for you." The doctor looked at me as if I had just arrived from another planet and said, "Right!" Before I could rip off his head, Dan told the doctor we had a plan. I knew what my plan was but thought it wise to consider Dan's first. Holding Jered's head still, Dan softly explained what the doctor would do and told him to fix his eyes on me while I told a story. It worked. Jered calmed down and the stitches were done in a matter of minutes. Even though he did not fully understand or trust the process, Jered did fully understand and trust us.
Truth is always the basis for trust and trust is always the basis for rest. We rarely take time to stop, be still and listen, allowing His truth to soak into our hearts and minds where trust and faith grow strong on a steady diet of truth. As a result, our faith is weak and rest is hard to find. When we learn to sit at the feet of Jesus, we will know Him better, trust Him more and find the rest we so desperately crave. Clarity of purpose and a right focus will come. And that, my friend, is the cornerstone in a life of balance.
Oswald Chambers writes, "We can choke God's Word with a yawn; we can hinder the time that should be spent with God by remembering we have other things to do. 'I haven't time!' Of course, you have time! Take time, strangle some other interests, and make time to realize that the center of power in your life is the Lord Jesus Christ." Amen!
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today. I want to sit at Your feet and hear Your voice. Please forgive me for allowing other things and other people to have the place in my life that You should have. Right now, I surrender my heart and life to You and choose to sit at Your feet alone. Speak to me, Lord. I will listen and obey.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What activities keep you from tuning in to the voice of God? Are you willing to give up those activities? Write out your commitment in your journal.
The main way God speaks to us is through the Bible. Do you have a consistent time for reading the Bible? If not, choose a time and a place where you will meet with God each day. Write out a prayer making a commitment to God to listen to His voice through the pages of your Bible and the Holy Spirit's prompting.
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Need help? Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fearand more.
Join other women across the worldin Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Stop! Drop! Roll!Enroll now and have access to all of the 2012 studies. Check it out! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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August 16, 2012
I Want to Be Pursued
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Long before he laid down earth's foundations, he us in mind, and had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love," - (Ephesians 1:4 MSG).
Friend to Friend
I was in college when I first eyed my husband. He was sitting on the floor at a friend's Bible study gathering with his back against the wall, dressed in scruffy jeans and a red flannel shirt with the sleeves rolled halfway up his muscular forearms. His thick brown hair and chocolate-brown eyes left me weak in the knees. And the best part was that this handsome hunk of a man had a tattered Bible in his lap. He laughed easily, prayed humbly, and read intently. I was smitten from the first time I laid eyes on Steve.
After a few weeks, he finally asked me out on a date. We continued seeing each other over the next several weeks, but I was still accepting invitations from others as well. One night, Steve asked me to a college football game, and I agreed to go. Then he said, "Can I just ask you? Will you go with me to all of the football games for the rest of the year?"
"I'm not going to answer that question," I replied. "You'll just have to ask me each week."
Looking back on those early days, what I was really saying was that I wanted to be pursued. None of this blanket invitation for the entire Fall business. I wanted to be wooed and won. Even though he had me the moment I saw him sitting on the shag carpet floor, I didn't want him to know that. I wanted him to show me I was worth putting forth the effort to capture my heart. Isn't that the desire of every woman's heart?
And nobody does it better than God.
The entire Bible from Genesis 3 to Revelation 22:21 is a record of God's passionate pursuit of the human heart. Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, Joshua, Samuel, a string of kings, both good and bad, intermingled with prophets wooing and warning God's people. We end the last chapter of the Old Testament with silence. And then 400 years later, God breaks the holy hush with the cry of a babe in a manger as the story picks back up in Bethlehem.
From God's first question, "Where are you?" until Jesus' final words, "It is finished," we see God drawing mankind with cords of kindness that sometimes appear anything but kind—drawing people back to Himself with ties of love (Hosea 11:4). We've wiggled and wrangled trying to break free of those cords, but He continues to lasso us with love and draw us in again.
Passionate pursuit. He's pulled out all the stops to woo and win your heart.
Be on the lookout today. God is pursuing you. Sending you love notes in the sky. Serenading you in the song of a bird. Salting your thirst to know him more. This email is simply one of the many ways he's pursuing you today.
Let's Pray
Jesus, I am almost blushing at the many ways you have pursued me. Love struck, really. Forgive me for not noticing your advances or taking them for granted. My eyes are open to moments of sudden glory today-moments when you make your articulate presence known.
In Your Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read through the Song of Solomon. If your Bible has headings, read the parts with the heading Lover. Read them as Jesus pursuing you.
What are some ways that Jesus has pursued you lately? Click over to my blog/devo pageand leave a comment. Just look for today's post.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 17, 2012
Be Still
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Be still and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10).
Friend to Friend
There was a crisp chill slipping through the window as I headed to the couch to get with God before rushing into my day. I filled up my coffee mug, lit a cinnamon bun scented jar candle and nestled into my corner spot. Before I could get comfortable, however, I realized that the combination of the morning breeze and the ceiling fan were a bit much for my shorts-clad legs. I jumped up from the couch and turned the ceiling fan off ... for possibly the first time in five or six months.
As I got back into my comfy prayer corner, I looked up at the fan, now still, and drew a deep breath of surprise. Dirt! All over the blades of my ceiling fan! And when I say that I saw dirt, let me tell you, it wasn't just a smidgeon ... it was a good amount of dirt. Yuck. When did that happen? How did it get there? Note to self: clean fan today.
I brought my Bible and prayer journal to my lap, ready to talk to God and seek His direction for the day, but before I could even lift my pen and open the Word, I heard a soul whisper, "Be still."
"I'm here, Lord! Ready to talk. Ready to pray," my heart responded.
Again...the whisper, "Be still."
"Like the fan, LORD?" I wondered?
Then it hit me: when I slow my soul to still and listen quietly, God gently shows me the dirt on the blades of my heart. You see, I'm an action girl. I love to move and chat and go, go, go. Dust doesn't settle on my days – but – as God reminded me, dirt sure can settle on my heart.
I nod knowingly. "It's Your kindness that leads me to repentance, oh Lord." (Romans 2:4)
When I slow to still and know that He is God, I am face to face with His holiness. In light of His holiness, my wretchedness is revealed. His love and kindness brings revelation that causes my heart to ache for restoration. So I confess. I confess my mess. My heart dirt. And His mercy runs. Before the confessions leave my tongue, the blades of my heart are sparkling. Wiped clean with the righteousness of Grace. Beautiful, far-reaching grace.
"For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to give strong support to thosewhose heart is blameless toward him" (2 Chronicles 16:9, ESV).
This grace is for every one of us – and it begins and ends with Jesus Christ. It's for me. It's for you. Whether you are at work, at home, at the hospital or in a jail cell. He's whispering, "Be still." Whether you are struggling with life strains or are in a season of reprieve. "Be still." Whether you have a house full of crazy noise or an apartment filled with ordered quiet. "Be still." Whether the diagnosis is cancer, the sting of betrayal is fresh, the Hope you cling to resounds, or you are weary and unsettled. "Be still." Know that He is God. Know that He is good. He is in control. He loves you. He is able. He is holy. He is worthy. Oh, so worthy.
Then, in the stillness ... respond.
O Lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I'm far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you,
and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
(Psalm 139:1-6, 23-24, NLT)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm here. I'm still. Please reveal my heart dirt. (Pause to listen and reflect.) I confess these sins to You ________________ and I ask that you remove them as far as the east is from the west. Thanks for capturing me with Your grace once again. Help me to know and love You more today.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
· Read Psalm 139 in its entirety. Pray responsively or journal about the inescapable presence of God.
· Be still before Him.
· Visit my Facebook pageand leave a comment about where this finds you today.
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The noise of life can be so loud. I'm right there with you trying to hit the mute button each day. Failing on many days. One way I've found to center my heart on God is to hear stories of His grace. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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August 20, 2012
Learning to Abide
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
John 15:4-5 (NASB) "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me, and I in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do nothing."
Friend to Friend
It's that time of year again. Schools are recruiting parents to help with classroom duties, sports teams are looking for team moms, your church is asking for help ... and the list seems to go on and on. How do you react when an opportunity for service presents itself? Do you feel guilty saying "no" and end up saying "yes" because if you don't do it, no one will? Why do women feel as if they have to do it all? Oh, I am certain that a woman can do just about anything she sets her mind to do. I'm just not sure she can or should do it all at the same time.
For years, I tried to earn the love and approval of God by doing everything I could find to do. If a position needed filling, I filled it. If a job needed doing, I did it. If volunteers were called for, mine was the first hand raised. After all, if I was doing all of these important things, I must be important - right? The result was two dark years spent at the bottom of a deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. It was as if God allowed me to run to the end of myself, then shut the door and turned out the lights. I heard Him loud and clear, "That is enough! It is time for you to abide in me." I knew very little about "abiding" but a whole lot about "doing." I soon learned that to abide in God, to rest in Him requires a balanced life with right priorities.
One of the main factors in my battle with clinical depression was that I didn't understand how to live a balanced life. I found it difficult to set boundaries, failed to establish margins of time for the unplanned or unexpected, and unwittingly surrendered my God-ordained priorities to the empty, vain addiction of just "doing the next thing" or pleasing the loudest voice. Balance can easily become a casualty of this ongoing battle. While sitting in the darkness, waiting on God, I discovered that the pit of despair is a very common destination for those who refuse to measure and balance the sometimes overwhelming demands of home, family, friends, work and personal growth. I had been running the race for the wrong audience and was relying on my own very limited power instead of God's power.
I wish I could tell you that I now lead a perfectly balanced life, but the truth is that I constantly have to examine and evaluate my priorities and goals in order to find the holy balance God intends. Many of you tell me that you have the same struggle. Just like you, I have to make difficult choices between the good things and the best things. When I make the wrong choices, I can sense myself sliding toward the dangerous edge of that deep, dark pit. I don't want to go there again – so the battle continues. The good news is that I don't have to fight this battle alone and neither do you. God is with us, urging us toward the light and His restoration power that comes from a heart and life that rests and abides in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I desperately need Your guidance in setting priorities and goals. I am so tired of trying to please everyone in my life. I want to please You and do what You alone have created me to do. Help me learn how to listen for Your voice. Teach me how to see and do Your perfect plan for my life. I want to live each day abiding in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside 30 minutes this week to spend alone with God.
Examine your life for areas that are out of balance.
Record each area in your journal.
Surrender that unbalanced area to God and ask Him to show you how to abide in Him instead of relying upon yourself and your own strength.
Set aside one day this month for a silent retreat. Go to the beach – a park – or even your back yard! Just get alone with God and take a spiritual inventory of your priorities, time management and goals. The results may surprise you.
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I have decided that a perfectly balanced life was lived only once on this earth – by Jesus Christ. My chances of doing so are slim. It would be so easy to just throw my hands in the air or dive back under the covers and pray that the world will just go away and leave me alone. Been there? You are not alone, girlfriend. Gwen, Sharon and I fight the same battle every single day. We are all in different seasons of life, but the struggle is the same as we learn how to put God first and then allow Him to set our agenda for each day.
Need help?Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is "Stop! Drop! Roll!" Learn how to set goals and priorities that honor God and give you peace and purpose. Join now and have access to all of the topics covered in 2012. And be sure to drop by Mary's online store where you will find MP3 downloads, CDs, Video downloads and E-Book Bible Studies that will equip and empower you to live a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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August 21, 2012
God's Relentless Romance
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"The whole earth is full of his glory," (Isaiah 6:3 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Steve and I were driving home from dinner when I posed a question about romance.
"Steve, I heard someone once say that a woman defines romance as the feeling of being continually pursued. What do you think about that?"
"I don't think that is very realistic, or practical," he replied. "A man can't continually pursue a woman. Why should he? A man pursues a woman, but at some point, she has to make a decision to marry him or not. To let herself be caught or walk away. A decision has to be made. The pursing has to stop at some point."
"And I think that is one of the problems in marriages today," I answered back. "The man stops pursuing the woman's heart after she says 'I do'."
"I don't understand what you mean," he said. "You pursue something to catch it. When you get married, that means you caught her."
"I know it doesn't make sense to a man," I continued. "But a woman wants to continually feel pursued. Maybe that's why married women escape with movies like Pride and Prejudice or get absorbed in Romance novels. They are trying to grasp for, cling to, or stir up that feeling of being pursued. But for a guy, after the ink on the marriage license dries, it seems the man thinks the need for pursuit dries up as well. The bride and groom walk across the moat of singleness, into the castle of marriage, and he pulls the drawbridge up as if it's a done deal. The End."
"But a man can't spend his life pursuing someone he's already captured," Steve argued.
"Why not?" I asked.
Oh, friend, are you getting tired? I know this conversation made no sense to Steve. And listen, he is a very romantic guy. He puts forth more effort than most men I know. But this idea of romance being a continual pursuit was beyond his male ability to comprehend or execute.
Not so with God. He gets it. He does it.
C. S. Lewis, in his work, The Weight of Glory, argued that the most fundamental thing is not how we think of God but rather what God thinks of us. "How God thinks of us is not only more important, but infinitely more important." God thinks that you are worth romancing with glory moments to capture your heart time and time again.
The question is, do we get it? Do we see God's continual wooing of our heart? Daily? Hourly? Do we recognize the romance of God in the routine of life?
Right smack dab in the middle of writing this chapter, God sent me a love note. I stopped writing, turned aside, and paid attention. Then I opened by journal and jotted it down. It may seem out of place here, but I want to show you how God can interrupt and infuse your life with sudden glory moments. Some ridiculously outrageous and others relatively subtle. Here's my journal entry:
It is gray outside. The sky is gray and in turn, the lake beyond my window is gray. The water reflects the sky in a monochromatic palate of gray. The gray trees are bare with a smattering of dead, brown leaves that refuse to release their grip. A naked weeping willow's graceful gray fingers wave with a gentle breeze. And a light drizzle falls from the sky. More gray. I'm writing today. Gray words on a white screen.
And in the middle of my gray world, a vibrant red cardinal is perched on a nearby limb. His face is ringed in black. His Mohawk feathers stand perfectly groomed atop his regal head. His orange beak accents his crimson face. He looks at me and keeps me company for hours. I wonder if he even knows the joy he brings to my pale world today. I wonder if he is God's love note to me. I choose to believe so. In the grayness, God has sent me a splash of color. And I swoon.
When you expect God to make His presence known, you begin to see His hand and hear His voice in moments of sudden glory—as you live and move and have your being in Him. Signs of His presence brighten even the dullest days when you have eyes open to see. When you tune your senses to God's timbre, you begin to hear His song. Receptivity and attentiveness are the frequency of His voice. Hearing God's voice and sensing His presence is not difficult, but it is otherworldly. So pay attention to His advances. He rejoices when you glance His way.
Let's Pray
Jesus, Thank you for never giving up on me, even when I am so think-headed. Thank you for continuing to pursue my heart, even when I miss your love notes time and time again. I am paying attention to your advances today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I hope you got a chuckle from my conversation with Steve about romance. What would you say is a good definition of romance?
Today pay attention to the ways God is romancing you. Don't miss it.
Just for fun, what is the most romantic thing anyone ever did for you? Let's share on my blog/devo page.Click over and leave a comment on today's post.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 22, 2012
Oh, no! She's awake!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.' " (NIV)
Friend to Friend
For many years, I did everything I possibly could to hide or erase any weakness in my life. When that didn't work, I simply pretended that those weak areas didn't exist. Why? Because if I was weak, how could Jesus love me? How could anyone love me? How could I love myself?
When our son, Jered, began to walk, I immediately noticed that his feet turned inward. Our pediatrician recommended a specialist who examined Jered thoroughly, then ordered several x-rays. The more he examined Jered, the more concerned we became. When the specialist finally called us in for a consultation, we braced ourselves for bad news ... just in case. The doctor's stoic face revealed nothing but his diagnosis was a gift. "There is nothing wrong with Jered's feet," he said. "They are simply the feet of a natural athlete and were designed to give him great balance." What we feared as a weakness, an obstacle to overcome, was, in reality, a great strength and part of the Master's plan for Jered who graduated from college with the help of a football and academic scholarship.
The same is true in our lives as children of God. We were created by God, according to His plan, in love and with purpose – weaknesses and all. "God in heaven appoints each person's work." (John 3:27 NLT) We tend to view our weaknesses as liabilities. However, since our worth does not depend upon us in any way, we can and must be honest about our weaknesses, knowing they do not diminish our value in the heart and mind of God but can, in fact, become the areas through which God does His greatest work.
Instead, we try to ignore weaknesses, hoping no one will notice. We live in denial, assigning blame to others when we fail. Eventually, we attempt to bury our weaknesses only to find them resurrecting themselves when we least expect it. A powerful life embraces pain, brokenness and weakness and understands that perfection is for Heaven, not Earth. The words of Paul are profound, "God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong" (1 Corinthians 1:27 NIV).
When we are honest about our weaknesses, we are conceding the fact that only God can accomplish anything good in or through us. God's power is instantly recognizable in obvious weakness. God has always allowed man's weakness to validate the immeasurable need of His redemption and His sufficiency in our lives. He can and will use us if we allow Him to do so – not despite our weaknesses – but through our weaknesses. We are not the message – just the messenger. Our weaknesses are not excuses to escape God's plan but divinely appointed opportunities for that plan to work.
Noah was a drunk.
Abraham was too old.
Isaac was a daydreamer.
Jacob was a liar.
Leah was ugly.
Joseph was abused.
Moses had a stuttering problem.
Gideon was afraid.
Sampson had long hair and was a womanizer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Jeremiah and Timothy were too young.
David had an affair and was a murderer.
Elijah was suicidal.
Isaiah preached naked.
Jonah ran from God.
Naomi was a widow.
Job went bankrupt.
John the Baptist ate bugs.
Peter denied Christ.
The Disciples fell asleep while praying.
Martha worried about everything.
The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once.
Zaccheus was too small.
Paul was too religious and Lazarus was dead!
(Author unknown)
More important than where you have been or even where you are, is where you are headed. Don't wait until you have it all figured out. That won't happen, this side of Heaven. Don't wait until you think you are good enough. You never will be. Step up to the plate and be the imperfect you; allowing God's perfection to shine through each and every weakness. Do not listen to the doubts and lies of Satan. His goal is to render you helpless and defeated, no longer a threat to him or his kingdom. I recently told a friend, "I want to get to the place in my walk with God, that when my feet hit the floor each morning, the devil says, "Oh, no! She's awake!" I know I have a long way to go, but join me in the choice to embrace weakness and pain, allowing God's strength and restoration to shine through each broken place.
Let's Pray
Father, right now, I yield to the truth that I am weak and You are strong. Forgive me for the arrogance and pride that makes me think I can do anything good on my own. Keep me broken, Father, and on my face before You. Please use the broken places in my life to let Your light shine through.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the weaknesses you see in your life.
Read the story of Gideon in Judges 6:1 – 27.
What was Gideon's response to God when God called him to serve? What is your usual response to God's voice?
Whose strength accomplished the task God called Gideon to do? How can you relate that to your own daily life?
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For years, I struggled with not being good enough. Many of my hopes and dreams were lost or paralyzed by doubt and fear ... until I found myself in a clinical pit of depression where God taught me so many life changing lessons. No one can take my place in the Father's heart. I am indispensable to no one but God. I will never be "good enough" but my relationship with God does not exist because of good works, nor will it be sustained by what I do. Instead, He lives through me and I live by His power. Do not let the enemy backhand you with the lie that you are nothing to God. Girlfriend, you are everything to Him. Go for it!
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August 23, 2012
The King and His Maiden
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant," (Philippians 2:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Soren Kierkegaard crafted a parable titled, "The King and His Maiden" to demonstrate the lengths God took to win our hearts. It goes something like this:
Suppose there was a king who loved a humble maiden. The king was like no other king. Every statesman trembled before his power. No one dared breathe a word against him, for he had the strength to crush all opponents.
And yet this mighty king was melted by love for a humble maiden who lived in a poor village in his kingdom. How could he declare his love for her? In an odd sort of way, his kingliness tied his hands. If he brought her to the palace and crowned her head with jewels and clothed her body in royal robes, she would surely not resist-no one dared resist him. But would she love him?
She would say she loved him, of course, but would she truly? Or would she live with him in fear, nursing a private grief for the life she had left behind? Would she be happy at his side? How could he know for sure? If he rode to her forest cottage in his royal carriage, with an armed escort waving bright banners, that too would overwhelm her. He did not want a cringing subject. He wanted a lover, an equal. He wanted her to forget that he was a king and she a humble maiden and to let shared love cross the gulf between them. For it is only in love that the unequal can be made equal.
The king, convinced he could not elevate the maiden without crushing her freedom, resolved to descend to her. Clothed as a beggar, he approached her cottage with a worn cloak fluttering loose about him. This was not just a disguise—the king took on a totally new identity—He had renounced his throne to declare his love and to win hers.
Likewise, the King, your King, lowered himself to a place of putting on human flesh in His pursuit of your heart. Paul described it this way:
[Jesus] who, being in very nature God,
Did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
But made himself nothing,
Taking the very nature of a servant,
Being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
He humbled himself
And became obedient to death –
Even death on a cross!
Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
And gave him the name that is above every name,
That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
In heaven and on earth and under the earth,
And every tongue confess that
Jesus Christ is Lord,
To the glory of God the Father (Philippians 2:6-11)
Why would God do such a thing? Because He loves you and longs to have an intimate, personal relationship with you. It was a high price to pay, but Jesus knew you were worth it.
Oh friend, you are not only chosen, you are pursued to the utmost! Chosen. Pursued. Loved. And when you understand the great lengths God has gone through and continues to go through to win your love, it changes how you view all of life.
Let's Pray
Jesus, sometimes I can barely take it in – all that You gave up for me. For me! Help me to lead a life worthy of the price You paid.
In Your Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has knowing all that Jesus gave up for you changed your life?
How does knowing all that Jesus gave up for you, change the way you see yourself?
Click over to my blog/devo postand share your answers. I'm going to randomly pick two comments and send them a free copy of my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me in discovering how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 24, 2012
Finding Strength in the Fire Swamps
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength." (Isaiah 40:30-31, NIV)
Friend to Friend
There's a scene in the whimsical and quirky film The Princess Bride in which some bad guys were chasing the movie's two main characters, Princess Buttercup and Wesley. In order to escape, Buttercup and Wesley ran into the treacherous Fire Swamp. (Insert scary music and creepy feelings here.) The Fire Swamp has three challenges: fire spurts, quicksand, and the ROUS - rodents of unusual size. (Stay with me...) At one point in the Fire Swamp adventure, Princess Buttercup fell into a pit of dry quicksand, instantly vanishing. Her brave hero, Wesley, quickly grabbed a sturdy vine then plunged in to save his true love. Moments later both characters emerged from the quicksand gasping for breath, stunned by the events that just took place.
Life clutter can sometimes consume us just as fast and leave us gasping for breath, stunned. When we find ourselves in the fire swamps, we ask question after question: How did this happen? How did I get here? How do I get out of this scary place? Does anyone know I'm in this pit? Who will be my hero?
Falling into the quicksand of situational fire swamps becomes a greater risk when we run on empty. Without a doubt, I'm more vulnerable on the days when my schedule is so full that my God-time is minimized. You probably know what it feels like to have a day filled with activity but a heart filled with empty. I imagine you, too, feel at times as if all you do is work, work, work and give, give, give. You feel lonely among crowds of people and wonder if anyone really sees you or if anyone really cares. At times, you have too many obligations, too much stress, and not enough strength.
In order to survive these pitfalls, we must wait upon God – the One who won't grow tired or weary. He has strength readily available for us and knows where to direct our steps. "He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV)
King David said it like this, "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God" (Psalm 40:1-3a).
Fire swamps of life come and go. There's really no avoiding them. We can, however, be spiritually prepared to face their challenges. God equips us – strengthens us – as we wait on Him. As we trust in Him. As we dwell with Him.
Have you refueled in His presence lately? Take time to meet with God one-on-one today. As the psalmist wrote, "Let us go to His dwelling place; let us worship at His footstool – arise, O LORD, and come to Your resting place, You and the ark of Your might" (Psalm 132:7-8).
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are my Strong Tower, my Deliverer, and my Shelter. I'm running to You now. Please renew my strength. Please lead me with Your Holy Spirit and guide my day.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
· Are there obligations in your life that could be eliminated? Take a few moments to consider your schedule and your circumstances. What needs to stay and what needs to go? Make a list and then make an action plan.
· Go to God with your list and lean in to listen to His leading!
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book!
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Gwen Smith's testimony is featured in the book Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who have found themselves trapped in the Fire Swamps of life. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book online, please visit Gwen's website or grab a copy from Amazon or your favorite Christian bookstore.
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August 27, 2012
Saved to Sit and Sour?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing (Ephesians 2:10, NCV).
Friend to Friend
I recently decided it was time to clean house ... I mean really clean house. I gave my husband fair warning and gathered my supplies. I bought a huge box of garbage bags along with just about every kind of cleaning product imaginable. I was serious!
I made my plan. I would attack one room a day and thoroughly clean every square inch of that room. I went through every drawer, cabinet and closet in our home – cleaning and organizing. If it had not been used in the last year, it was either tossed or given away. I put on my favorite praise music and scrubbed and cleaned like a mad woman.
Of course, I had a list. With each passing day, the list grew shorter while my sense of accomplishment and satisfaction increased. At the end of each day, I wearily but happily marked something off of that list.
But when I got to the kitchen and began to work on the cabinet underneath the kitchen sink, a foul odor slapped me in the face and stopped me in my tracks. I could not imagine what was causing such a nasty smell. And then I spotted it. A few weeks earlier, I had cleaned the oven with an old sponge. Evidently, I hadn't squeezed all the water out of the sponge and had just tossed the slightly damp sponge in the back of the cabinet and forgotten about it. The sponge was now slimy, nasty and stank to high heaven.
When we come to Christ, He fills our lives with blessings and then wants us to share those blessings with others. When life puts the "squeeze" on us, what comes out should be a sweet smelling aroma – not a stagnant and rancid odor. We are not saved to sit and sour. Jesus wants us to get up and go – sharing what He has done in our lives – letting His joy and love spill out of our hearts into the hungry and searching souls of others.
God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing (Ephesians 2:10, NCV).
The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water that flows down, clear and cold from the heights of Hermon and the roots of the cedars of Lebanon. The Sea of Galilee is a place of great beauty because it has an outlet. It gathers in its riches and then pours them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. However, the Dead Sea, with the same water creates horror. The Dead Sea has no outlet. It gets to keep.
When we come to God, one of our first "natural" responses is to serve Him. In fact, our service to God should be spontaneous, enthusiastic and tireless. If there is no desire to serve or we find it hard to serve, then there is something wrong in our relationship with God.
We were created to serve God and to worship Him – here on earth and for eternity. Worship and service cannot be separated. When we worship God, we will naturally serve Him and when we serve God, we are worshipping Him.
There are many Christians who are doing nothing, but there are no Christians who have nothing to do. When we think of a servant, we may think of someone who reports to work for a specific amount of time and is paid a specific wage. That is an employee - not a servant. The word "serve" comes from the Greek word "latreuo" and is often translated as "worship." It is not the picture of a slave serving a master. It is the picture of a love relationship that compels action.
Romans 12:1 (NIV) "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship."
We worship God by pleasing Him in the daily routines of life. In other words, we should consider each day as a worship service to God.
· Cleaning house
· Cooking meals
· Making beds
· Taking care of children
· Helping a neighbor
· Buying groceries
· Teaching a bible study
· Listening to a hurting friend
Service begins in the heart where it was conceived in love and then works its way out in daily life as an act of praise and gratitude. No doubt about it, girlfriend. We were saved by God to serve – not sit and sour.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for sending Your son, Jesus Christ, to die in my place and pay for my sin. I can never thank You enough for Your grace, mercy and love. I want to serve You with my whole heart. Please lead and direct me in the way You have for me to go. I want to be Your servant.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List several talents and gifts that you recognize in your own life.
How are you using those talents and gifts to serve God?
Ask those who know you best to identify your strengths. You may be surprised at their response.
Look for ways to serve in the areas that give you the most joy.
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August 28, 2012
Hearing God's Love Song
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with his love, He will rejoice over you with singing," (Zephaniah 3:17 NIV, 1984 ed.).
Friend to Friend
I was riding on a chairlift at Keystone ski resort in Colorado. "Single," I had called out while standing in line—the proper etiquette for those skiing alone. No one took me up on the offer to share the chair...and I breathed a sigh of relief. I was alone. I was glad.
As the gears churned and the cables strained to pull my metal chair up the mountain, I sensed God's presence surrounding me. I wasn't alone after all. Wrapped in the down of His love and zipped up with the security of His grace, I settled in for the brisk morning ride. The great Rockies dressed in winter's garment of glistening snow stood tall all around me. Strong. Powerful. Majestic. Sure. The lapis vault of heaven canopied the earth with wisps of feathery brushstrokes. Delicate. Winsome. Graceful. Changing. It seemed as if the breath of God kissed my cheeks with the tingling crispness of that Colorado morning.
As the braids of metal drew me higher and higher, I heard a mother and her daughter begin to sing. "Shout to the Lord, all the earth let us sing. Power and majesty praise to the king. Mountains bow down and the seas will roar at the sound of Your name."
Like an old couple that warms with remembrance when "their song" comes on the radio, I basked in knowing that God had specifically pushed G-5 on the jukebox just for me. For they were singing our song—God's and mine. It had been our song since I first heard the words in 1994. And it seemed God had just commissioned two of his children to serenade me. He was wooing me once again with music that wafted from behind and embraced my heart.
"He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with his love, He will rejoice over you with singing," (Zephaniah 3:17 NIV, 1984 ed.). God sang His love song and I drank it in.
I closed my eyes, captivated by His evident love for me. A moment of sudden glory in the Rockies. I didn't want to get off the chair lift. I thought of Peter's words to Jesus after he had seen the transfiguration up on another high mountain two thousand years ago: "Lord, it is good for us to be here. If you wish, I will put up three shelters—one for you, one for Moses and one for Elijah" (Matthew 17:4). Like Peter who had seen Jesus' sun-drenched face illuminate and His body clothed in light, I didn't want the moment to end. I wanted to pitch a tent and settle in. But just as Peter had to return to the valley below, I had to return to the flatlands.
Treks down the hill are always part of the mountain peak moments of sudden glory. That moment in the Rockies, when God wooed me with our love song through the timbre of two of his children, He was simply giving me another reminder of His love for me. Remember, He whispered. "I have loved you, with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving kindness," (Jeremiah 31:3).
I slid off the chair lift and onto the snow packed ramp. With a push of the poles and a dig of the skis, I headed back down the mountain once again. And our great love story continued from the peaks of the Rockies to the muddy, slushy, slopes and masses of people below. God had pursued and romanced my heart once again.
God has pulled out all the stops in pursuit of your heart. But many, I dare say most, don't see it, don't hear it, and don't taste it. "Blessed are your eyes because they see," Jesus said, "and your ears because they hear," (Matthew 13:16).
We yearn to be cherished as a rare treasure. We dream of a love that is fresh every morning with anticipation of what the day may hold. We long for a love that will not wane with time or diminish with the doldrums of everyday life. And that is exactly what God wants to give you. I pray that you will hear God's love song and find His love notes lavishly tucked in the moments. That you will recognize the romance of God in the routine of your life. That is exactly what you can expect when in him we live and move and have our being becomes a reality in your life. It is then that you experience a sacred union with God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for relentless romance of my heart. Thank You for love that is fresh every morning – a love that will not wane or diminish with time. Thank You for the moments of sudden glory where You make Your presence known in my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does Psalm 136 tell you about God's love?
What does Jeremiah 31:3 tell you about God's love for you? What picture do the words "drawn you" paint in your mind?
Do you and God have a favorite love song? Click over to my blog/devo post and share your favorite. I've already told you mine. Now, what's yours?
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me in discovering how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 29, 2012
What's the Plan?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. Before you were born I set you apart! (Jeremiah 1:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I want to be successful – don't you? And the awesome news is that God wants us to be successful as well. When we know and seek God's perfect plan for our lives, we will find success. Our immeasurable value rests solely in the fact that God created us, that His stubborn love sets us apart and the amazing fact that He designed and empowers a unique plan for each one of us. Yes, I know that plans are rampant in your life. God loves you and everyone else has a plan for your life, right? But the only plan that matters is the plan made for you by the One who formed you - the One who loves you, knows you and has set you apart to be His own. And it is a great plan!
1.Your life plan is customized. Psalm 139:16 You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!
You were born in response to the determined plan of God, not as an afterthought. Before you took even one breath, every day, every step and every circumstance in your plan was recorded. God's plan uses your strengths as well as your weaknesses. We all have strengths - they are part of the plan. We all have limitations - they are also part of the plan. We all have seasons of life that are essential to the plan as well. True success comes when, instead of constantly fighting against or trying to change the plan, we learn to identify and build on our strengths, accept the limitations as hedges of protection from God, and yield to the seasons in life as God's avenue of perfect timing. God's plan for you is not a "one-size-fits all." It is customized and just your size.
2. Your life plan is good. Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord," plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
For some reason we tend to think that God sat down one day and designed a sinister life plan laced with pain and defeat. Nothing could be farther from the truth. This train of thought contradicts the very nature of God and misunderstands His heart - the heart of a loving Father who wants the absolute highest and best plan for His child. It is a good plan!
3. Your life plan is guaranteed. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.
God always empowers what He calls us to do. With the plan comes every resource that we will need to accomplish that plan. For many years, my life mission was really quite simple. I tried and often succeeded in filling every waking moment with activity. Oh, it was wonderful activity filled with good things - but they were not the best things or the highest things for my life. I did many of those things in order to feel worthy and important, hoping they would bring my life into balance and under control. I hoped that doing good things would provide a purpose and plan for the restlessness in my soul. While sitting at the bottom of a deep, dark pit named "Clinical Depression," I discovered a truth that has redefined who I am and altered my soul perception of God. I now realize that the most powerful life flows from a clear life plan not to it!
How do we discover our life plan?
At first glance, that question may seem complicated and almost impossible to answer, but when we spend time with the Plan Maker, that question is easily answered as we step out in obedience to God. When we begin to saturate daily life with His truth and continually turn our hearts to conversation with God, His plan naturally unfolds as we take every "next step" in obedience. Consider the following questions when praying about and asking God to reveal His plan for your life:
· What are your spiritual gifts?
· What are you passionate about?
· What are your natural abilities?
· What is your personality type?
· What are the spiritual markers in your life?
· What do others see in you?
After a two-year battle with clinical depression, I realized that I had lived a great deal of my life based on the wrong plan. I began to ask these questions, looking for the gifts He has given me instead of the ones I thought I should have or wanted to have. I began to accept my limitations knowing that He had woven them into the seams of my journey for my good. I began yielding to the seasons of life, trusting Him to lead the way through this foreign land called life.
Guess what? I looked around one day to find myself smack-dab in the middle of His life plan for me. It was suddenly so simple and amazingly clear! I am learning to say "no" to those things that do not fit into that life mission. Certainly, I fail and have to begin again. And sometimes I am misunderstood because I have chosen to follow God's plan instead of someone else's. But I would rather be misunderstood than disobedient. I had to choose a new audience for this race of life and so must you. I had to make a decision about the One I wanted to please and so must you. Don't waste another minute on anything but God's very best plan for your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know and live out the plan You have for me. Sometimes my faith is weak but I really do want to please and honor You. Guide my steps, Lord. Give me Your strength to be obedient. Thank You for giving my life purpose and meaning. Today, I choose Your plan above all others and celebrate the joy I find in knowing You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Spend time alone with God in prayer and ask Him to help you answer the following questions:
· What are my spiritual gifts?
· What am I passionate about?
· What are my natural abilities?
· What is my personality type?
· What are the spiritual markers in my life?
· What do others see in me?
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August 30, 2012
The Lure of Lesser Lovers
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Here I am!" Jesus says. "I stand at the door and knock" (Revelation 3:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
If you know Jesus as Savior and Lord, then you are His. He is yours. So why does He continue to woo you, to romance you on a daily basis? Why does he continue to pursue your heart? (He does, you know.) Because our minds forget. Spiritual amnesia runs rampant as we wander off to the wooing of other lovers.
"Step right up!" the barkers of the world's Big Tent call. "Come and see the greatest show on earth!" And even though we know in our heart we're going to be disappointed, we enter the tent flaps, find our way to the seat marked on the ticket stub, and wait to be entertained and amazed with all the world has to offer. In the end, we are always disappointed. This was not the greatest show after all. And even though we don't deserve it, God woos us yet again.
Sometimes I fear we are like Scarlett O'Hara in Gone with the Wind. Throughout the entire story, Rhett Butler tried to win her heart, but Scarlett was smitten by the milquetoast Ashley Wilkes. Finally, as the story comes to a close, Rhett walks away in frustration. "I feel sorry for you, Scarlett," he declares. "You are throwing away love with both hands and grabbing for that which will never love you."
As I watched the movie, I kept thinking, doesn't she see how much Rhett really loves her? He'd move heaven and earth to please her, if she would but let him. Why is she going after someone who would never make her truly happy?
And we are Scarlet, ignoring the only One who can make us truly happy and chasing after figments of our imagination...things that will never make us happy—milquetoast lovers who pale in the shadow of the Lover of our Soul. Of course, in the end, Scarlett realizes her love for Rhett, and runs home to tell him so. But it is too late.
As with most analogies, this one has a fatal flaw...Jesus will never throw up his hands and walk away. "Here I am!" Jesus says. "I stand at the door and knock" (Revelation 3:20).
Let's Pray
Jesus, forgive me for being enticed by other lovers: people, possessions, religion, work, and the list goes on. I know You are the only One who loves me perfectly and completely. I open the door and welcome You. Thank You for continuing to pursue my heart every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are some other lovers that pursue your heart?
Has there ever, ever, ever been any other person or possession that totally satisfied your soul?
Let's make a list of other lovers that pull at a woman's heart. Leave a comment on my blog/devo pageand I'll combine them all to make a list. (Just look for today's post.)
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Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache – a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred and experience a deeper more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer.
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August 31, 2012
Giving and Gaining
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." (Proverbs 11:25, NIV)
Friend To Friend
I pretty much consider myself to have a black thumb. Charcoal, even. I like plants and genuinely try to keep plants healthy and thriving in my home, but fail at it a lot more than I succeed. Seriously. Black thumb. So when my girlfriend brought me a baby aloe plant, my heart was torn between girlfriend-gratitude and feelings of sorrow for the innocent little aloe.
A few weeks after she gave me the plant gift, my friend told me a story. She confessed that she struggles to share things. It's just hard for her. She had two aloe plants for a long time but one day she felt a heart-nudge to give one of them to me. (Bless her heart! She obviously knows nothing of said black thumb!) Though she admittedly isn't naturally inclined to give her things away, she said that she decided in her heart that she would give me the small aloe baby.
For weeks she had meant to act on that heart-nudge and give me the aloe plant, but just never got around to it. She kept forgetting. She'd think about bringing me the aloe plant when she wasn't home or remember late at night when it was too late to run it by my house. In the back of her mind she thought that one of her plants would surely have an aloe baby offspring ... reasoning that she could just give me that one instead of one of her two plants.
Finally, she remembered. She brought me the cute little healing plant and gave it to me with a smile. Yay! We threw down a happy plant-dance that morning as we shared both a cup of coffee and our hearts in friendship.
So as we sat at my kitchen table again, coffee mugs in hands, she finished her story by excitedly saying, "The most amazing thing happened this week, Gwen! When I walked past the aloe plant that I'd kept for myself, I noticed that a baby aloe plant had sprung up in the pot! It was almost like a little present from God reminding me that I can't out-give Him. That when I trust Him and obey His nudges, He will bless me right back."
I nodded and smiled. She's so right. In the Bible God calls us to be generous, and He promises to bless us when we are. God's Word has a lot to say about the tandem between generous giving and blessings.
"Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice" (Psalm 112:5, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed" (Proverbs 11:25, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor" (Proverbs 22:9, NIV, emphasis mine).
"Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work" (2 Corinthians 9:6-8, NIV).
"Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life" (1 Timothy 6:17-19, NIV).
God clearly calls His children to generous living ... no matter what we have, who we are, or where we live. Even the poorest among us are called to live generously. And let's not confuse the matter: it's not about our bank accounts – it's about our hearts. We are to be generous, willing to share, and rich in good deeds for the glory of God. The Scriptural promise we can stand on is this: blessings will follow our generosity. When we give freely in obedience to Christ and live open-handed with all that we've been entrusted with, we reap beautiful life benefits.
Where does this promise and prompting find you today? Have you been nudged lately to be generous? Do you struggle to share things, both tangible and intangible?Is God calling you to serve Him somewhere with your time, treasures, or talents? Maybe the thing you need to give is forgiveness to someone or to yourself – or encouragement – or kindness. Got a family member, neighbor, or friend in need? Do something!
Generous living will look different to each of us, but we are all called to give as we live. I was blessed when my friend gave me that baby aloe plant. She was blessed too. God made sure of it. He always does. Friend, consider this truth and ask the Lord to move you missionally and to direct your giving. Today and every day live to give for the glory of God. Good will come of it. He promises ... and that's a promise you can take to the bank!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are perfectly generous. I am blessed by the abundance of Your grace, mercy, love and truth. Help me to live generously and to give open-handedly just as you have with me.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read this devotion?
What are you going to do about it?
What did today's devotion remind you of? Please come to my Facebook page today and share your heart and your story or thoughts with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. I will be posting a fun aloe picture! Don't miss it. :)
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September 3, 2012
When You Feel There's Just Not Enough Time
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In Him we live and move and have our being," (Acts 17:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"I just never have enough time to spend with the Lord," Amanda cries. "I work forty plus hours a week, commute ninety minutes both ways, oversee elderly parents' affairs, and take care of my five-year-old son. I'm either on the road, at my desk or taking care of someone else's needs. And on top of that, I never feel like I'm doing any of it well. What does God want from me in the middle of all this madness? How can I carve out time for Him? I feel like I'm constantly failing Him!"
Amanda is not alone. I've been right there with her. Haven't you?
We live in a physical realm and our new, born-again spirits will never be completely satisfied here on earth. There will always be tension between the two. Living in union with the Spirit of God is counterintuitive to the ways of this world. What causes that tension and prevents us from experiencing unbroken union with Christ? I believe it is the tendency to compartmentalize life into two hemispheres: the secular and the sacred.
Everyday secular activities vie for our attention, while our times of worship and communion are relegated to Sunday morning worship, early morning Quiet Times, and mid-week Bible studies (if we can fit them in). We spend the majority of our days operating in secular, day-to-day activities and feeling guilty for the lack of time spent in sacred communion with God.
And for most of us, a struggle to find the balance between the secular and the sacred wages war in our hearts. We live in the secular and yet long to be in the sacred. The constant flip-flopping between the two is exhausting, and inevitably we see one as the winner and one as the loser. We see ourselves as failures struggling to get out of Romans 7 and longing to live in Romans 8. We wobble on a spiritual tightrope, fearing the slightest misstep will toss us into the canyon of God's disapproval.
Thankfully, there is a way to wave the white flag of surrender and end the battle's constant conflict. We can experience true union with Christ when we erase the dividing line and meld the two hemispheres.
What would that look like? Let's go back to Amanda.
What if Amanda communed with God while she commuted to work? While she worked at her job? While she took care of her family? Do you see how that would help alleviate the false guilt that adds to her feelings of insufficiency? The physical or secular realm involves cooking, cleaning, ironing, shopping, vacuuming, laundering smelly clothes, washing dirty faces, and wiping messy bottoms. It involves being a wife, a mother, an employee, an employer, a friend, a student, and a host of other roles and responsibilities that merge on any given day. What could be sacred about all that? Everything. But we'll get to that.
The spiritual or sacred realm includes praying, reading the Bible, going to church, memorizing Scripture, serving the poor and meditating on meaningful messages. The spiritual aspects of our lives include worship and practicing spiritual disciplines.
I want to suggest that God never intended for the lines separating the secular and the sacred to exist in the first place. If in Him we live and move and have our being is true in your life, then the sacred also includes cooking, cleaning, ironing shopping, vacuuming, laundering smelly clothes, washing dirty faces, and wiping messy bottoms. When you erase the lines between the secular and the sacred, your entire life can become an act of worship.
How do you put this into practice? By merging the two worlds. Join me next time and we'll look at how to do that together.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Forgive me for compartmentalizing my faith. I want all of my life, all of it, to be an act of worship. No more lines. One wholly holy life.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, as you do your errands, go to work, clean your house, cook your dinner... invite God along. Talk to Him. Acknowledge His presence.
Today's devotion was taken from my new book, A Sudden Glory.If you can relate to Amanda, and really need to learn how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred in your life, leave a comment on my blog post and say, I need this book! Tomorrow I'll randomly pick three gals and send them a free Advanced Reader Copy.
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September 4, 2012
Made to Be Free
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So Christ has really set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don't get tied up again in slavery to the law (Galatians 5:1, NLT).
Friend to Friend
The story is told of an Indian village that held an annual bazaar where villagers came to sell the crafts and wares they made during the year as well as the animals they had raised. One year, a man brought a covey of quail to sell. In order to display the birds, he tied one end of a piece of string to one of their legs and the other end of the string to a stake in the ground.
All day long shoppers passed by - watching the birds walk in a circle around the stake. No one seemed interested in buying them until a religious man approached and asked how much the merchant wanted for them. The merchant named an exorbitant price, which the religious man quickly paid and immediately instructed the merchant to set the birds free. When the merchant asked why he was willing to pay so much for the birds and then let them go, the religious man simply responded, "Because they were created to be free."
The merchant didn't understand but shrugged his shoulders and cut the strings, setting the birds free. The quail continued marching in a circle around the stake. The buyer stepped into the middle of the circle and scattered the birds. They flew a few yards, landed and once again began to march in a circle. The quail were free – but did not know it.
We all seek freedom. With our very first breath, we come into this world kicking and screaming for freedom. The desire to be free was tucked into our very soul by God Himself as He formed us in the womb. God promises to provide a right way to fill our need of freedom.
Freedom comes with truth.
In John 8:32 we find the promise, "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (NIV). To know truth, we must first know God because He is truth. John 14:6 says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me." When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, we will experience true freedom for the first time - freedom from sin - freedom from condemnation and death and freedom to really live. Without truth, there can be no freedom.
Freedom comes with obedience.
Obedience calls us to challenge every priority in our lives and lay aside anything that hinders our walk with God. Instead, we refuse to forsake cherished sin, allowing wrong attitudes to take root and prosper while harmful habits hold us prisoner. The writer of Hebrews offers compelling direction for the captured soul longing to be free. "Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us" (Hebrews 12:1). Obedience brings freedom.
Freedom comes with understanding.
Until we understand who we are in His eyes, we will never truly be free. Our value and worth rest solely in the fact that we were created, chosen and pursued by God – for God. We belong to Him. His unconditional love not only sets us free to become all He created us to be but allows us to be more than we ever dreamed we could be. In Romans 5:8 the words of Paul celebrate our identity in Him, "But God showed His great love for us by sending Jesus to die for us while we were still sinners." Recognizing our worth and value to God sets us free from the chains of human expectations and earthly demands. Understanding brings freedom.
Christ really has set us free. The question is - are we living in that freedom? Don't live another day chained to the old ways in your life. Seek His truth, walk in obedience and celebrate your God-created identity! Free! Free at last!
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, celebrating the freedom that can only be found in You. Lord, I am so sorry for doubting You when life is hard. Forgive me for questioning Your plan when it seems to make no sense. I want to be a woman of faith who trusts You no matter what happens. Help me become a godly woman who walks in faith. Please strengthen me for every trial ahead. Take my heart and mind captive and make them Yours. Today, I choose faith over fear and trust over doubt.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Hebrews 12:1 that says, "Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us."
Examine your life for any weight that is keeping you from experiencing the peace and freedom God offers. Is it a secret sin or habit? Has God asked you to do something you are unwilling to do? Are you ready to lay down that weight? Right now, make the deliberate choice to fully surrender every part of your life to God. Pray and ask God to honor and empower that choice.
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September 5, 2012
Doing Laundry to the Glory of God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God,
(1 Corinthians 10:31, NASB).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion we met Amanda who said, "I just never have enough time to spend with the Lord," Amanda cries. "I work forty plus hours a week, commute ninety minutes both ways, oversee elderly parents' affairs, and take care of my five-year-old son. I'm either on the road, at my desk or taking care of someone else's needs. And on top of that, I never feel like I'm doing any of it well. What does God want from me in the middle of all this madness? How can I carve out time for Him? I feel like I'm constantly failing Him!"
We also looked at how to solve Amanda's dilemma (and mine and yours) by erasing the lines between the secular and the sacred so that in him we live and move and have our being encompasses all of life. Here's what it would look like.
Suppose you acknowledge God's presence as you walk down the grocery store aisle, drive through the car pool line, sit in the hair stylist's chair, stir the spaghetti sauce, shampoo your hair, love your husband, or rake leaves in the yard. Isn't that what in Him we live and move and have our being really looks like? Praying with your eyes wide open at times is the only way to practice prayer without ceasing.
Monday always follows Sunday, but when you erase the lines that separate the secular and the sacred, the world becomes your sanctuary. God's presence one steady stream.
This was true for Jesus. He never hurried. He never panicked. He was never driven by the tyranny of the urgent. If I were in his sandals, I probably would have been wringing my hands with all I had to accomplish in three and a half years. I can hear myself now: "I've got three and a half years to make a difference. How can I cram all the miracles and teaching into this short amount of time?"
Three and a half years translates into 1,278 days. If you go back and count the days recorded in the four gospels, you'd come up considerably short. So what was Jesus doing on the days that were not mentioned by Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John? He lived His life. He worked. He ate. He washed. He partied. He prayed. He studied. He meditated. He listened. The Sacred lived in the midst of the secular.
Paul wrote: "Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God," (1 Corinthians 10:31 NASB). Whatever you do...
Cleaning bathrooms to the glory of God.
Vacuuming the floor to the glory of God.
Reading my Bible to the glory of God.
Singing praises to the glory of God.
Being intimate with my husband to the glory of God.
Cooking dinner to the glory of God.
Helping in the soup kitchen to the glory of God.
Shopping for groceries to the glory of God.
Mailing packages to the glory of God.
Filing my taxes to the glory of God.
All things...to the glory of God.
What does "to the glory of God" mean? The Greek word for glory, doxa, denotes honor or splendor, a reflection of God's character. We are to reflect God's character, His ways, and His splendor in everything we do. Discounting sinful behavior, such as sexual perversions, gossip, drug and alcohol abuse, or any number of immoral acts that contradict the life of a Christian, our entire existence both in the secular and the sacred realm could and should be an act of worship. When that happens, words such as "do everything as unto the Lord" and "pray without ceasing" become clearer and more within our grasp.
Yes, we do need times alone with God. Jesus pulled away to be with the Father often. "Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed" (Mark 1:35). If Jesus, the Son of God, needed to spend extended time alone with his Father, then we certainly do too. However, by acknowledging God's presence in every aspect of our lives, we will experience the blessed union in all things. Moments of sudden glory will appear as manna from God.
God longs for you to experience His presence in the spin of the laundry, the sizzle of the cooking, the buzz of children's chatter, and in the quiet of solitude. From the time God rent the curtain in the Holy of Holies when Jesus took his last breath on the cross, God welcomed you into His presence...not just on so-called holy days, but everyday days.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'm glad You're sticking with me today...and I'm sticking with You. I acknowledge Your presence now and through my entire day. I'm not saying "See you later," with this Amen. We're going into this day together!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This will be fun. I want you to click over to my blog page,find today's devotion, and tell me 5 things you did today...to the glory of God. Just leave your list in the comment box.
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September 6, 2012
Get ready!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be careful! Watch out for attacks from the Devil, your great enemy. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for some victim to devour (1 Peter 5:8, NLT).
Friend to Friend
During the first week of boot camp, the new recruits were taking a written examination. When one of them was asked why he wasn't working, he replied, "Sir, I have neither paper nor pencil." "Well," exclaimed the instructor, "what would you think of a soldier who went into battle with neither rifle nor ammunition?" The recruit thought for a moment, and then answered, "I'd think he was an officer, sir."
Unfortunately, too many Christians today think they are "officers" in God's army and don't really have to prepare for the battle. Not true and very dangerous thinking! The best way to avoid sin is to stay prepared to face temptation. The minute we let our guard down or the minute we are unprepared, the enemy strikes. We must take three actions in order to be on guard against temptation.
· Action One: Be alert.
"Alert" literally means "to stay on guard" or "to keep watch." Our Father wants us to stay alert and always be on guard. Columnist Herb Caen wrote in the San Francisco Chronicle: "Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up knowing that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed. And every morning a lion wakes up knowing that it must outrun the slowest gazelle or it will starve to death. It doesn't matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle; when the sun comes up you'd better be running." It doesn't matter how long we have known God, we must get up each day, prepared to guard against sin, knowing we will face temptation. The best way to stay alert and the greatest deterrent to sin is the word of God.
Psalm 119:11 (NIV) "I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You."
It is important to remember that God's truth came before Satan's lies. When God's truth comes first in our lives, we will be able to recognize the lies of Satan and temptation will be easier to withstand. When we get away from God's word, however, we become an easy target for temptation and sin. Sin will keep us from God's Word or God's Word will keep us from sin.
Eve either did not know God's command very well or she chose to forget God's command when she chose to follow Satan instead of God. When Jesus went into the wilderness and was tempted, He won the battle of temptation by using the Word of God. Every time Satan tempted Him, Jesus responded with Scripture. If it was good enough for Jesus, it is good enough for us. The best way to prepare for temptation is by knowing the Word of God.
· Action Two: Pray continually.
Paul tells us in 1 Thessalonians 5:17 to "never stop praying." But many times, we pray only as a last resort when it should be our first response. I read about a kindergarten class that went to the fire station for a tour. The fireman was explaining what to do in case of a fire. "First go to the door and feel the door to see if it's hot. If it is hot, fall to your knees! Does anyone know why you should fall to your knees?" A little voice spoke up, "Yeah, to start praying and asking God to get us out of this mess!" How true!
The power to withstand temptation comes from a praying heart. The devil will do anything to keep us from praying. He laughs at our religious activities and mocks our human wisdom, but he trembles when we pray.
· Action 3: Practice self-control.
James 1:14-15 "Temptation comes from the lure of our own evil desires. These evil desires lead to evil actions, and evil actions lead to death."
Temptation is the first step on the road to sin. It begins in human desire and can stop there if we learn how to control those desires. I once lived in a place where I often saw cows on the country roads. I even spotted a sign that read "If you hit a cow you pay for the cow." A local farmer explained that cows often escape and get lost. When I asked how a cow could possibly get lost he explained, "Well, the cow starts nibbling on a patch of green grass. When it finishes it looks ahead to the next patch of grass and starts nibbling on that one. Then it nibbles on a clump of grass right next to a hole in the fence. On the other side of the fence is another patch of grass, which the cow nibbles. The next thing you know, the cow has nibbled itself into being lost." Sin is not usually one giant leap, but the result of many small steps. When we choose to give in to, rather than control our natural desires and physical appetites, we will sin.
Genesis 3:6 (NIV) "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it."
Today, we are tempted just like Eve was tempted. When she ate that fruit, it was more than just a rebellious act. It was choosing to value her own desires over God's will. It was choosing to believe the lies of Satan. Adam was just as guilty as Eve - not just because he ate the fruit - but because he said nothing. Silence is agreement. Self-control is the choice to do the right thing in preparation for facing temptation. To win the war with temptation we must be prepared by staying alert, praying continually, and practicing self-control.
Let's Pray
Lord, today I choose to become a student of the Bible. Please strengthen me through Your truth and empower me to stand against temptation and sin. I also choose to make prayer a natural part of my everyday life. I want prayer to become as natural as breathing. Help me to be more aware of Your presence and power, Lord. I want to be a godly woman, a woman of discipline, a woman whose life honors you and draws others to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Recognize the power of prayer against temptation.
· Admit you have allowed the enemy to "sneak" into your life.
· Identify the areas in your life that are out of control.
· Choose to surrender those areas to God.
· Ask God to make you more aware of His presence in your life.
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September 7, 2012
Springs of Living Water
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Even now," declares the LORD, "return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning." Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the LORD your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love..." (Joel 2:12-13)
Friend to Friend
Jeremiah was just a youngster when he came to know God and began to work for Him as a prophet. He endured year after year of hard times, frustrating people and complicated disappointments. His message was one that called the people of Jerusalem - God's chosen people - to turn away from the idols that they had been worshiping and back toward the one, true God.
Let me say it straight: God was miffed at the nation of Israel and He sent Jeremiah to let them know. He had every reason to be angry! He had given the children of Abraham a sacred covenant, a promised future, delivery from oppression, and His tabernacled presence, yet they turned their backs on Him. Continually. They doubted His exclusivity and they set their attentions and affections on things other than God. They worshiped idols made of wood and stone. Powerless and worthless. In Jeremiah 2:13, God said of his people: "They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water."
Pastor Greg Laurie describes it this way: "A cistern is a large well or pool carved in a rock. A broken cistern has sprung a leak and can't hold water. God is saying, "If you go out there to the world and drink from that well, it is not going to satisfy you."
It sets my mind to wonder.
Why would anyone place her trust in the unstable, un-powerful, unfulfilling things of earth when she can place her trust in a stable, powerful, satisfying God? Seems like such a no-brainer – yet, don't you and I do that all the time?
Sure we do.
We dig our own cisterns, broken cisterns, and expect them to satisfy our thirst and bring us contentment. We drink from the broken cisterns of materialism, position, wealth, popularity, stuff, relationships, rules and religion. We have faulty expectations that our kids, spouses and friends are meant to satisfy our heart-needs. The ultimate broken cistern, however, is our pursuit of purpose in life via things of this earth.
We were created to pursue God.
We were created to know God – to be satisfied in Him and Him alone.
To worship Him and Him alone.
Oh, you and I are such a thirsty gaggle of girlfriends, aren't we? Even as believers, we deal with emptiness and bow to idols other than God. We place our faith in the economy, in our financial situations, in our health, in our employment status, politics, marital status, and our relationships. When they fail or fumble we fall apart ... and no wonder! They are all broken cisterns and were never meant to be our source of hope or satisfaction!
Friend, we need to turn away from our broken cisterns and turn toward the springs of living water. From stagnant waters to the Living Water. The Bible tells us that confession is the path to the spring of living water. When we eliminate the things that clutter our faith – the broken things we trust in – and place our faith in the resurrection power of Jesus Christ, God's heart swells with mercy, compassion and grace toward us. He forgives and strengthens us.
Who or what are you trusting in today?
Where are you soul-drinking from: broken cisterns or springs of living water?
When Jeremiah was preparing to take God's message of repentance to Jerusalem, God spoke confidence and promise to his shaking heart. Let these words speak confidence to your heart today, friend. God's promise to Jeremiah is valid to you and me when we turn away from the broken cisterns of this world and place our trust in Him. "I am with you and will rescue you, declares the Lord." (Jeremiah 1:19b).
Jesus Christ is the Living Water our souls are parched for (John 4:13-14). "Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, "Let anyone who is thirsty come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them"(John 7:37-38).
Say with the psalmist: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God." (Psalm 42:1-2a).
Go to Him today. Confess. Believe. Drink. Be satisfied.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'm so thirsty for You! Please forgive me for the times that I have drunk from broken cisterns instead of from Your springs of Living Water! Thank You for Your compassionate grace and ever-flowing love. In a world that is constantly changing, I choose right now – once again – to place my trust in You as my unchanging God. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Today we talked about placing our trust in things other than God. Broken cisterns. We all struggle with this to some degree. How has this affected you in the past?
· How does it affect you in the present?
· And to go Dr. Phil on you, "How's that working for you?" Spend time in prayer about this today. Ask God to reveal the broken cisterns you've been trying to drink from. Repent of this and commit to a deeper trust-level today.
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To be honest, there are a million times that I feel like screaming instead of praising. What a battle! Yet, I know the best response is to trust God and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My new CD, Uncluttered is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. We are running a great CD Special now, so swing by www.GwenSmith.net... or you can download the songs from iTunesor Amazon.
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September 10, 2012
Hanging On for Dear Life
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For in Him we live and move and have our being, (Acts 17:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Steven was just a preschooler when I first taught him to snow ski. The very first day was arduous—for me. I felt like a down-covered workhorse as I lugged two sets of skis in one arm while dragging along Steven with the other. Clunky ski boots, overstuffed mittens, and a hooded snowsuit made it difficult for Steven to maneuver. Add all that to the slippery snow, long lift lines, and a resistant four-year-old, and you have the makings for a windfall of whining in a winter wonderland.
After several failed attempts to teach Steven how to snowplow down the bunny slope with the ski tips pointed inwards, I came up with another idea. I made an A-frame tent with my legs. Then Steven stood in front and between them. He wrapped his arms around my thighs, and off we went! He went where I went. If I moved right, he moved right. If I moved left, he moved left. His only responsibility was to hang on and relinquish control. And even though he thought he was skiing, in reality he was simply along for the ride.
What a picture of how I want my journey with God to be. I cling to Him, wrap my arms around Him, and move where He moves. If He goes left, I go left. If He goes right, I go right. "But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him," (1 Corinthians 8:17 TLB).
King David wrote, "I cling to you; your right hand upholds me" (Psalm 63:8). Peterson's paraphrase says it this way: "I hold onto you for dear life" (MSG). I see Jesus and me. Union. A sudden glory.
So think about how you are going to move about your day? Can you picture yourself clinging to Jesus? I can promise you this...when you cling to Him, He will take you on adventures you never thought possible!
Let's Pray
Lord, I cling to You. I hold on to You for dear life. If You go left, I go left. If You go right, I go right. In You, Lord, I live and move and have my being.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever run a three-legged race?
What happens if the runners don't keep rhythm with each other?
Just for fun, if you have kids, get them to run a three-legged jaunt and teach them the importance of staying connected to Jesus.
(For those who don't know what a three-legged race is, here you go. Get 2 people standing side-by-side. Tie the right leg of person A to the left leg of person B. Now you have a three-legged unit. The race is a bunch of three-legged runners.)
Are you willing to put Acts 17:28 into practice? If so, click over to this blog/devo postand write in the comment box: I'm living an Acts 17:28 life.
More from the Girlfriends
Did you know that I have a special page on my website for you to share your moments of Sudden Glory. Just click over to Share a Glory Momentand share away. And while you're there, see a picture of little Steven (who is now 28 years old) in his snow suit.
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September 11, 2012
Gideon Meets Indiana Jones
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it (Hebrews 11:1, ICB).
Friend to Friend
I have a love-hate relationship with the movie, "The Last Crusader." The hero, Indiana Jones, is constantly hovering above some bottomless pit or dodging bullets, flying knives or hoards of sinister enemies and nasty creatures that are trying to kill him and prevent him from completing his mission. It is exhausting to watch! One part of the movie stands out above the rest as terrifying moments go.
As usual, Indiana is on the run and comes to a chasm he must cross in order to obtain the Holy Grail. No bridge. No net. No ropes or hat tricks - just air, and nothing but air.
At this point in the movie, I am looking for a tangible resolution to Indiana's predicament. Maybe a hidden elevator built into the side of the abyss or an alternate route to the treasure. You know, something you could touch and see and ... well, explain.
Instead, the treasure map dictates a ridiculous solution that makes no sense at all but demands a huge step of faith. If Indiana will just step over the edge of that bottomless pit ... a bridge, a rock wall will appear. Right! How about that bridge appears and then Indiana traipses across it?
Nope. That is not the plan.
Even though I have seen the movie several times, my stomach still lurches as Indiana closes his eyes, takes a deep breath and cautiously steps out into air and the seemingly bottomless abyss. If the treasure map is wrong and the wall does not appear, Indiana Jones will surely plummet to his death. Fortunately, the clue is correct, the wall does appear and Indiana Jones races across to safety, resuming his quest.
Gideon and Indiana Jones have a lot in common when it comes to faith. "Am I not sending you?" God asked Gideon, as if that fact explained it all. Actually, it does explain it all. In order to experience the power of God, we have to be willing to step out in faith, even when it seems there is no way and no solution to the problem at hand and our strength is gone. God will strengthen us as we go. He is the Way Maker and the only thing that really matters is the fact that God sends us.
The Coast Guard has a motto: "You must go out but you don't have to come back." A powerful life is fueled by the kind of faith that steps out in obedience and lets God worry about whether or not we come back. At the center of every challenge is an opportunity for trust in God to work. Every problem contains a concentrated opportunity and offers the option of stepping out in faith.
The highest truths God has to offer are rarely wrapped in a beautifully wrapped or elegantly presented package and handed to us on a silver platter. I am convinced that our Father takes heaven-sent treasures, buries them at the heart of a huge problem, then watches and applauds when we have what it takes to break that problem apart, finding the wealth hidden there in the darkness. The words of Isaiah say it well. "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness - secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name" (Isaiah 45:3 NLT). Some things cannot be learned in the light. The greatest treasures are often buried in the deepest pits and require a step of faith to discover.
We all have faith. We go to a doctor we don't really know and are handed a prescription we cannot read. We then take that prescription to a pharmacist, a total stranger, who presents us with a mysterious bottle filled with pills that we swallow – all in faith. Our problem is not so much a lack of faith but where we place that faith.
Billy Graham said, "Most of us do not understand nuclear fission, but we accept it. I don't understand television, but I accept it. I don't understand radio, but every week my voice goes out around the world, and I accept it. Why is it so easy to accept all these man-made miracles and so difficult to accept the miracles of the Bible?"
Hebrews 11:1(ICB) "Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it."
Faith is built upon trust. God wants us to trust Him - even when we do not understand what is happening or can explain the circumstances. Even when nothing makes sense and everything seems wrong. It is easy to trust Him when the seas are calm and the skies are clear, but the strength of our faith is measured in the midst of a raging storm. A crisis always reveals what is really inside. What life does to us depends on what life finds in us. Faith is a deliberate choice to believe God, to walk through our fear, knowing we can trust Him every step of the way.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of living a life that can be explained and understood in human terms. My heart longs to walk by faith, counting on Your strength instead of my own, knowing that You orchestrate every step to illustrate Your power made perfect in my weakness. Today, I choose to trust You instead of demanding an explanation for what is happening in my life. Right now, I choose to walk through my fear and step out in faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God. Matthew 17:20 also tells us that even a tiny amount of faith pleases Him. "I (Jesus) tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, it grows into a huge tree. Jesus said a little bit of faith can have incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God and our faith depends on Him.
What is the greatest storm in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that trial with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
More from the Girlfriends
We are on this journey of faith with you and pray for God's strength and power where you need it most. He knows. You can trust Him. Just take one step of faith and He will meet you there.
Need faith?Mary's MP3s Stepping Out in Faithand Strength for the Stormwill help you discover how to appropriate God's power so that you can walk by faith ... not by sight. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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September 12, 2012
Am I a Hyphenated Christian?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it - (Matthew 16:24-25).
Friend to Friend
Over the past fifty years or so, I've noticed a trend among married women. Rather than taking their husband's last name, some simply add their husband's name to their own, adjoining the two with a hyphen and keeping theirs intact. Mary Smith becomes Mary Smith-Jones. Betty James becomes Betty James-Riley.
Now I know there are a plethora of reasons for having a hyphenated last name. And I know there may be a multitude of opinions on the subject. I'm not here to voice an opinion about the trend itself, but I do have an opinion about how it mirrors the way many folks view their relationship with Jesus. Hyphenated Christians abound.
I have to ask myself, am I a hyphenated Christian? Have I simply tacked Jesus onto my already busy life? Have I tacked the title "Christian" onto the long list of words that describe who I am and what I believe? Is Jesus just another add-on? Is He an app I've downloaded for easy access? Have I taken on Jesus' name to some extent, but kept my own identity unchanged? Jesus would have thought that preposterous. He said, "I am in my Father, and You are in me, and I am in You," (John 14:20).
Becoming a Christian is serious business. It is an all or nothing proposition, and I fear we have watered it down to simply something we add on to our already busy lives. Jesus is not someone you add to your life. When you come to Him, He becomes your life.
C. S. Lewis notes the following about the Christian life:
Christ says, "Give me All. I don't want so much of your time and so much of your money and so much of your work: I want you. I have not come to torment your natural self, but to kill it. No half-measures are any good. I don't want to cut off a branch here and a branch there. I want to have the whole tree down...Hand over the whole natural self, all the desires which you think innocent as well as the ones you think wicked—the whole outfit. I will give you a new self instead. In fact, I will give you Myself: my own will shall become yours."[C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity, (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1996), 169.]
Jesus warned those who were considering becoming one of His disciples. It was an all or nothing proposition. "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it," (Matthew 16:24-25).
Imagine if your husband proposed marriage to you with the following caveat: "Dear one, I love you and adore you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I promise to be faithful to you 360 days a year. But I do have this thing for blondes, and well, you are a brunette. So five days of the year, I'll keep to myself. But the other 360 days, I'm all yours!"
I don't know which cheek I'd slap first, the right or the left. But I do know that man's ring would not go on my finger.
Making Jesus not only Savior, but also Lord of your life, involves a certain exclusivity that is somewhat similar to marriage, but unmistakably unique to any human relationship. The union involves our entire being and not one molecule goes unaffected. This relationship is all-exclusive, meaning that it excludes every other possible "god" that you could place upon the throne of your life, and it is all-inclusive, meaning there is no part of your life in which Jesus does not rule. When true union takes place, a certain sweetness flavors all of life.
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive me for acting like a hyphenated Christian who has simply tacked You on to my busy life. I want You to have all of me. All of me. All of me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I'm thinking that you're thinking. So I'm not going to give you any extra questions...just one. Ask yourself...Am I a hyphenated Christian?
More from the Girlfriends
When you come to Christ, you are a brand new creation. Hmmm then why don't we act like it? It could be that we don't always understand who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God. If you would like to learn more about your new identity in Christ and how to live in victory as a child of the King, then my book Becoming Spiritually Beautifulis the book for you. Friend, there is no one more beautiful than a woman with a confident heart.
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September 13, 2012
The Plan Came First
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Before I made you in your mother's womb, I chose you (Jeremiah 1:5, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Beginnings are very important. In fact, the place of origin has much to do with the quality of the journey as well as the final destination. My journey - like yours - began in the heart and mind of God. Before I took even one breath, God wanted, loved and planned me. That same truth applies to you, girlfriend. You are no accident! You and I were created in response to the love of God and according to His plans. God did not "accidentally" create us and then step back in alarm and say, "Oops! I created her. Now what am I going to do with her?" The plan came first.
There have been many times in my life when I doubted my worth and value. I filled every waking moment with activity – good things – thinking that if I did enough good things, I would be good enough. It didn't work. I can never be good enough to earn the love and favor of God. The good news is that I don't have to be! My worth and value rest in the fact that I am chosen by God to be His very own child. I am loved, wanted and planned by God Himself. Wow! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created – not to be a puppet – but for an intimate relationship with God.
Psalm 139:14-16 "I praise You because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What You have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, You saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old." (NCV)
When our son, Jered, was four years old, we enrolled him in a daycare for two mornings each week. Jered loved to play with other children and always seemed to get along with everyone in his class. So I was surprised and upset when his teacher asked me to come in for a conference. My husband said, "Honey, how bad can it be? Jered is only four!" Jered's teacher met me with a smile and a good report. "Jered is a wonderful little boy," she began, "but there is one problem. How long has Jered known he was adopted?" I was clueless about that being a problem, but answered, "Since he began talking. We have told him repeatedly how special he is and that he is a chosen baby." She smiled and went on to explain that Jered told the other children that he was special because he was adopted. In fact, Jered informed each child that his mom and dad had chosen him – while their parents "got stuck" with them.
Listen, girlfriend, when you begin to understand and live out the eternal truth that you are loved, planned, wanted and chosen by God, His perfect plan and highest purpose will naturally unfold before you each day. Remember, in His eyes, you are special and His plan for your life is simply for you to get good at being you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know You and find Your plan for my life. I choose to see myself through Your eyes of love, forgiveness and grace. I want to be the woman You created me to be. Thank You for loving me. Help me to walk each day in the knowledge that I am Your child.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really believe God loves you unconditionally?
What proof of that belief is evident in your life?
Do you consider yourself worthy? Why or why not?
Read Psalm 139 each day for one month. Record the new truths that you learn, the changes in your perspective and any fresh insights in your journal.
At the end of the month, write Psalm 139 in your own words and share it with a friend.
More from the Girlfriends
I spent many years trying to earn the favor and love of God. I worked very hard at being the person I thought God wanted me to be instead of seeking Him to discover who He created me to be. Rick Warren once asked, "Mary, who is going to be you if you don't be you?" I had to stop and think about that statement for a minute, but slowly began to realize that God really does have a special plan just for me and that my highest act of obedience is to seek that plan each and every day. Hope in the Midst of Depression is the story of my struggle to see myself as God sees me and in doing so, be set free from the darkness of judgment and condemnation. I encourage you to visit my online store and pick up a copy.
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September 14, 2012
Set Apart Living, Part One
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. (Ephesians 5:15-16)
Friend to Friend
As Christian believers, we are called to live set-apart lives. To be holy as God is holy. To be in the world, but not of the world. God is the source of all holiness, and in order to live a set-apart life, we must spend time with Him so we can be fueled by His Holy Spirit.
I don't know what your days look like, but mine are pretty full. They start early and end late. Once the sun rises, it seems that coffee isn't the only thing brewing in my house. An invisible competition brews daily that vies for my time and attention. The competitors are often "good things" that end up to be "time-robbing things" that keep me from God's best and God's presence.
Today I'd like to put our computer lives under a spiritual microscope. I'm an e-girl. I love my MacBook Pro computer, my iPhone, email, instant messaging, and the World Wide Web. Though I'm admittedly fully immersed in the e-life, I'm also cognizant of the fact that the e-world has become a dangerous addiction and spiritual deterrent to many. I struggle with this personally. These electronic forums host a new and efficient opportunity for us to connect with other people 24/7. While much of the social networking, online surfing, and emailing is innocent, encouraging, and fun, they clearly present us with opportunities to sin and be distracted from set-apart living.
Over the past several years, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, blogs, instant messaging, and texting have replaced many face-to-face conversations and, for some, devotion time. They have become a new source of temptation for us, an opportunity to live a fantasy or a momentary escape from the daily grind.
A friend of mine recently said, "My computer whispers to me." Yikes! Mine does, too! Though it's embarrassing to admit, I sometimes don't manage my time efficiently because I've given in to the lure of e-life by responding to the audio alert that indicates "I've got mail" or the notification that someone has left me a message on a social networking page of mine. As a result, I've robbed myself of productive time. Time I have wasted and spent unwisely.
We are warned against this in Scripture. "Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV).
Now, hear me clearly on this. I'm not saying that electronic forums or computers are bad or evil in and of themselves. (For goodness sakes, you're reading this devotion because of the amazing electronic world!) I'm simply suggesting that it would be wise for each of us to pray about the amount of time and energy we devote to these things.
How can we be set apart in our e-life? How can we establish healthy e-boundaries that will protect our purity and our time with God? Perhaps we could start by taking an honest look at the amount of time we commit to our social e-lives versus the amount of time we commit to spending in God's Word and in His presence each day. (Did that sting? Rest assured it stings me, too.)
The good news is that we can turn to God for direction and wisdom in all of this. "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him" (James 1:5, NIV). Our gracious Lord longs for each of us to choose His best and live each day in His strength.
"God, make a fresh start in me. Shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life. Don't throw me out with the trash, or fail to breathe holiness in me. Bring me back from gray exile; put a fresh wind in my sails!" Psalm 51:10-12, MSG
Let's Pray
Dear God, Please help me to "live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light" (Colossians 1:10-12).
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's get practical today:
· Spend some time in thought and prayer about this subject.
· Ask God to reveal to you any e-habits that are sinful, indulgent, or inappropriate.
· Check your on-line notification settings and consider eliminating unnecessary email alerts.
· Remember that God longs for your time and attention. Be certain that you don't choose mundane activities instead of spending time with Him.
· Read Ephesians 5:1-20.
More from the Girlfriends
Hey, girlfriend! Last year it occurred to me that one of the biggest time-sucking e-temptations for me came from the homepage I had chosen on my internet browser. I used to have my favorite cable news network set as my home page. Every time I logged on to the internet, the headlines begged me to click their links. So I went into the settings of my internet browser and chose a blank page for my homepage. Though it's not overly exciting to have a blank homepage, it has helped me to be wiser with my time. Hope this spurs you on to similar responses!
Ready to Go Deeper? Learn how God wants to bring you beyond your past mistakes and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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September 17, 2012
Set-Apart Living Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29, ESV
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, we began to talk about how to live a set-apart life. We looked at our e-lives, the time we spend on computers, and were challenged to establish healthy boundaries to protect and strengthen our faiths. It was noted that God is the source of all holiness and in order to live set-apart lives, we must spend time with Him and then be fueled by His Holy Spirit. Today, we are going to consider how we can be set-apart (holy) with our words.
When my son, Hunter, was ten-years old, he came to me one night with a humble confession. He said that because he hasn't been spending much time with God lately, he has been grumpier and grumpier. He quietly admitted that he had been mean to his siblings and had said some unkind things. With amazing insight, he connected the amount of time that he spent with God and in God's Word with his behaviors ... recognizing that there was a direct correlation in his life.
Boy, can I relate to that! Tears welled up in my eyes as we spoke about this. I told Hunter that I experience the exact same thing in my life. That when I don't carve out time in my day to spend with the Lord, I often say things I shouldn't. For that matter, even when I do read my Bible and pray, I still say and do sinful things.
There was a time in my life when I really struggled with profanity. My tongue was a loose cannon. My church friends would never have known, but when I was angry, profanity was often present ... even if only under my breath or in my mind. God has delivered me from that ugly habit, but it took over ten years of prayer. In those ten years, I failed repeatedly and struggled to believe that God could change my ways. It was a long-term process for me to be purified in my language, and I can assure you that it is only by the grace and strength of God that I can stub my toe now without needing to wash my mouth out with soap.
The Bible has so much to say on this topic! Here are just a few examples:
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Proverbs 12:18, NIV)
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.(James 1:19-20, NIV)
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.(Proverbs 31:26, NLT)
He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin. (Proverbs 13:3, NIV)
This is hard stuff. Living set-apart with our words is simply beyond us... but be encouraged today, friend, because all things are possible with God! We need to constantly fall before the Lord and ask Him to filter our words through the Holy Spirit. It's important that we keep short accounts with God. When we do, He equips us to disarm the loose cannon of our tongues.
At the end my conversation with Hunter, I told my son that one of the most amazing things about our Heavenly Father is the mercy that He greets us with when we come before Him to confess our behavior. I said to him, and I say to you, God loves us so perfectly, that every time we turn to Him with a repentant heart, He offers us His grace. Go in His grace and live a set-apart life in the power of His Spirit today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." (Psalm 19:14, NLT)
I ask this in Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Meditate on Hebrews 4:14,16: Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Now, grab your journal and throw yourself into this devotion. What are your greatest areas of temptation and weakness regarding your words? Confess those to God and ask Him to grant you the mercy and strength to help you live a set-apart life.
Read Ephesians 4.
Where does today's devotion find you? Let's talk about it – and pray about it – on my facebook page: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
More from the Girlfriends
If you are a Christian woman and you're struggling to tame your tongue, know that you aren't alone. Many believers struggle to honor God with their words. Keep praying and believing. The changes might not happen over night, but as you persist, God will work in and through you.
Ready to Go Deeper with God?Learn how He wants to bring you beyond your past mistakes and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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September 18, 2012
Are You Enjoying God?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones, (Proverbs 17:22, NKJV).
Friend to Friend
C.S. Lewis says that most Christians lack "merriment." I like that word. "Merriment." Just moving the words across my lips is fun. And I think Lewis is right. We lack merriment and we don't expect it. Many Christians look like they've been weaned on a dill pickle. My goodness, if there is anyone who should exude merriment, it is a person who knows Jesus as Savior and Lord. We, above all people, have something to be merry about!
What God desires, not from you but for you, is life to the full (John 10:10). There's nothing ho-hum about that. I read Jesus' words in John 10:10 and I am famished for glory moments of life to the full. I want to see God, to experience His presence as I live and move and have my being in Him.
John wrote, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God" (1 John 3:1). He didn't simply use the word given, but lavished. Webster defines lavish this way: "given or provided with great generosity and abundance, to bestow with large generosity, profusion, a downpour." Ponder those words separately.
Lavished.
Provided with great generosity.
Abundance.
Bestow with large generosity.
Profusion.
Downpour.
Do these words reflect your expectations in your relationship with Jesus? C.S. Lewis said it well in his book, The Weight of Glory:
"We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased."
The first statement in the Shorter Catechism of the Westminster Confession of 1646 states that man's chief end is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Enjoy Him! To enjoy God is to glorify Him. Just as He takes delight in you, He longs for you to take delight in Him. You simply can't separate the two.
Are you enjoying God? As you live and move and have your being in Him, is there a smile on your face and a skip in your step? Do you expect the rich adventurous faith-filled life that you read about in the Bible? Do you expect to experience God's glory today? If not, perhaps you need to raise your expectations of what your relationship with Jesus can be.
Once we've tasted the sweetness of His fruit, to settle for anything less than the bountiful orchard of His blessings will always disappoint. Oh yes, there are heavy-laden branches filled with low hanging fruit just waiting to be picked. If only we would reach up high enough, raise our expectations, and pluck them from the tree.
Today, make it your goal to enjoy God! Be thankful. Sing praise! Notice His love notes in the sky, the morning breeze, the face of a flower upturned.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I just love You. Forgive me for wearing a frown when I, of all people, have so much to be "merry" about. Rather than saving that word for Christmas holidays I'm going to celebrate today. "Merry Today" will be on my lips today.
In Jesus' Name...the One who give me a reason to be merry,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Quick. Stop what you're doing. Look in a mirror. Don't read any further.
Now that you're back, was there a smile on your face or a frown?
If you'd like to celebrate today and enjoy God today, leave a comment on my blog post home that says. "I'm enjoying God today...and He's enjoying me."
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September 19, 2012
From Tears to Triumph
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death (2 Corinthians 1:8-9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Trials and hard times are part of life. In fact, they are an important part of life. Yet, we desperately try to avoid any kind of pain, and when the difficult times come we frantically search for the nearest exit. I have discovered that the most beautiful life is often the most broken life. The ashes of death may very well be the fertile soil from which a new life of victory and promise will grow. God is forever covering each pain with His infinite love and mercy, bringing hope and encouragement where there was once only despair and death. We simply need to remember who God really is – the God of all comfort and compassion.
2 Corinthians 1:3 "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort!"
God stands ready to comfort His broken-hearted child. He longs to wrap His arms of love around us and bring the peace and comfort only He can give. In every trial, God is with us and for us. Some trials come as the result of sin and frail humanity while others come because we are Christians, striving to live a life of obedience to God. However, the reality is that all trials come with God's permission. Paul writes that God "comforts us every time we have trouble." In this verse, "trouble" literally means "narrow, confined or under pressure." Paul paints the picture of being hemmed in to the point that the only place to look for help was up. For the believer, everything is a divine appointment. What we call "dis-appointment" is really "His-appointment." Trials accompany faith and are a test, a measurement of growth given to see if the learner can pass ... not pass out! Faith is always tested for a reason.
James 1:2-3 "My brothers and sisters, when you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience."
Trouble strengthens our faith and builds endurance, the ability to stay under the load. We have a loving Father who is committed to building the character of His Son in us. His love wants what is best for us, not what is easiest.
Our daughter attended our church school from K-3 through fourth grade. We then felt it was time to move her to public school for her fifth grade year in order to prepare her for middle school, a tough transition at best. All summer long, we talked about how wonderful her new school would be. We visited her new classroom, met her new teacher, bought new clothes, searched for just the right lunch box, ordered the latest back pack, accumulated the coolest school supplies and even drove by the school several times a week. As the school year approached, Danna grew more and more excited about her new adventure and seemed totally prepared for the transition...until the first day of school.
I prepared Danna's favorite breakfast, fixed her hair in her favorite style as she dressed in her favorite new outfit and off we went. When we approached the school entrance, Danna's excitement gave way to sheer terror. As we pulled up to the door Danna was to enter, I heard her gasp as she saw a large group of students waiting for the bell to ring. She did not know a single person! "Honey, you can do this," I encouraged, "and remember I will be praying for you all day!" With tear-filled eyes, Danna opened the car door and literally ran into the building. I cried all the way home and all day long. After cleaning the house three times, I was in the car pool line thirty minutes early. When the bell rang, the school door burst open and students spilled out. No Danna. Cars pulled around me as more students ran to meet waiting parents but still no Danna. Just about the time I began to panic, the door burst open and out came my daughter surrounded by a group of kids, laughing and talking, shouting promises to call each other that night. She hopped into the car, faced me with a grin and announced, "Mom, I am soooo popular!" Danna had a great school year and when the first day of middle school rolled around, Danna was the one assuring her friends that it was "no big deal." Looking back, the easiest decision would have been to take Danna back to the church school where everyone knew her and loved her, but the best decision was to allow Danna to work through that trial. It made her stronger.
Shallow love rescues easily and quickly. Real love walks with us through the trial. We don't know exactly what trials Paul endured, but there were bad enough to make Paul think he was going to die. Still, God loved Paul, protected him and controlled the circumstances, using them for His glory and Paul's ultimate good.
1 Peter 1:6 "So be truly glad! There is wonderful joy ahead, even though it is necessary for you to endure many trials for a while. These trials are only to test your faith, to show that it is strong and pure."
God wants us to trust Him in the trials of life, even when we do not understand, even when it makes no sense, even when there seems to be no explanation.
Isaiah 55: 8-9 "The Lord says, "My thoughts are not like your thoughts. Your ways are not like my ways. Just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts."
You see, it is easy to have faith and to trust God when the wind is still, the waters are calm and the nets are full of fish, but the true measure of our faith is in the midst of the howling storm. His comfort is best realized when our pain is strongest. The darker it gets, the brighter His light shines. We may be down, girlfriend, but we are never out because God is the Shepherd of every valley, Lord of every storm and Friend of the wounded heart.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so guilty of looking for the easiest way out of a painful circumstance instead of looking for Your hand at work. I really want to become a woman of faith and learn to trust You enough to keep my gaze on You and my glance on my circumstances. And even when my faith is weak, please help me place that faith in You alone.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses found in James 1:2-3: "My brothers and sisters, when you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience."
Think back over the past month. What trials have you faced? What was your response to those trials? Was your faith tested? Has God strengthened you or taught you a lesson through your trials? In your journal, record what God has accomplished in your life and how He has strengthened your faith through the tough times you have experienced.
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I know every word of today's devotion could have been written by so many of you. You are familiar with the emotions that wreak havoc in your life. Looking back, I wish I had danced in the deepest valleys and embraced my greatest pain as a friend because so much of what I do and who I am today has been accomplished by God at work in the darkest moments of my life. Don't trust your emotions or give credence to your feelings when they tell you to give up. Step out in faith and into His perfect provision...no matter how down you may be. Keep walking through your fear and choose to praise Him.
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September 20, 2012
Lord, I Want to See
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Lord, I want to see, (Luke 18:4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The sun had not pried open the day quite yet. We had been traveling for several days, going from one Pacific Island to another, and I had not been able to sleep the night before. While I had enjoyed seeing God's creation, I had missed our times alone—just the two of us.
Wrapped in a blanket with a hot cup of coffee, I snuck away with my Beloved for a quiet rendezvous before others in the house stirred. As I gazed out through sliding glass doors, I drank in the view of the stilled Pacific Ocean spread before me. All seemed gray in this predawn expanse of sky and sea.
I grabbed my Bible and it fell open to the middle. I didn't bother to turn the pages. I looked down and read familiar words from the well-worn love letter: "May God be gracious to us and bless us and make his face shine upon us," (Psalm 67:1). When I looked up, I noticed the sun struggling to send its rays through two small openings in the early morning clouds...two holes side by side, like headlights on high beam. As I continued watching the morning sun stretch its arms of light, another break in the clouds provided a slit for the rays to escape. An upturned crescent emerged directly under the two circular beams above. And then I saw it—a celestial smiley face beaming through the clouds...divine delight...a holy grin! God's radiant smile welcomed me to another day.
I had a front row seat in God's theater as His glory pierced the darkness and spilled forth grace that filled my heart. Once again, while I rose to pursue Him, He beat me to the punch and reminded me that He was the one pursuing me. I simply showed up. Ah, sometimes we simply need to show up.
God had made His "face to shine upon me," and my smile, be it ever so small and unassuming, mirrored His gift to me. As if the words in His love letter weren't enough, He wrote them in the sky like a love-struck-beau. His passionate pursuit amazed me once again, and I was drawn like a moth to the flame of His love. Me—the bride pursued.
Months later, I told a friend about that precious moment God and I shared on that small Pacific Island so far away from home.
"Things like that never happen to me," she sighed.
"Oh yes they do," I corrected. "You just need to learn how to recognize them."
And I believe that with all my heart. God has pulled out all the stops to reveal glimpses of His glory. But many, I dare say most, don't see it, don't hear it, and don't taste it. "Blessed are your eyes because they see," Jesus said, "and your ears because they hear" (Matthew 13:16).
Today, I sit with the blind beggar- face upturned.
"What do you want me to do for you?" Jesus asked.
"Lord, I want to see." (Luke 18:41 NIV)
Let's Pray
Lord, I don't want to miss a single moment of sudden glory when You make Your presence known in my life. Help me to see. Help me to listen. Help me to not allow the busyness of life block out my view of the Source of Life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Luke 18:41 today. It's very simple. Say it often, and be on the lookout for moments where God makes His presence known.
Click over to my blog page and tell me about a time when God made Himself very real to you. It could be as simple as a sunset, as complex as a physical healing. It's all God.
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Today's devotion was taken from A Sudden Glory. To download a free sample chapter, pick up some inspirational tweets, or watch a video of me telling this very story, visit http://sharonjaynes.com/a-sudden-glory/.
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September 21, 2012
The Living Bible
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Knowledge puffs you up with pride, but love builds up (1 Corinthians 8:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
His name was Bill, a college-student with wild hair who wore a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans, and no shoes for his entire four years of college. Bill was brilliant and what some might describe as quirky. While attending college, Bill became a Christian and began looking for a church to attend.
Across the street from the campus was a very conservative church that wanted to reach the college students but was not sure how to go about it.
One Sunday, Bill decided to visit the church and walked in, dressed in his usual college attire. Since the service had already started, Bill walked down the center aisle, looking for a seat. The church was packed and he couldn't find an empty spot. By now, the well-dressed people are staring uncomfortably at the barefoot young man in his tattered T-shirt and jeans, but no one said a word. As Bill got closer to the pulpit, he realized that there were simply no seats, so he just squatted down on the carpet – a practice perfectly acceptable at college Bible studies but one that had probably never happened at this particular church.
The people began to whisper and the air was thick with tension. As the pastor wondered what to do, he noticed a deacon slowly making his way from the back of the church toward Bill. The deacon was in his eighties, had beautifully combed silver-gray hair and was wearing a three-piece suit. He was a godly man, very elegant, and very dignified. He walked with a cane and, as he started walking toward the boy, everyone was thinking that no one could blame him for what he was about to do. After all, how could anyone expect a man of his age and background to understand the college kid now sitting on the floor?
It took a long time for the man to reach the boy but the only sound that could be heard was the clicking of the man's cane. Every eye was focused on him and it seemed like everyone was holding their breath. The minister felt like there was no point in even trying to begin his sermon until the deacon completed his mission. Everyone simply waited.
When the elderly man reached the young college student, he dropped his cane on the floor and with great difficulty, lowered himself until he was sitting down next to Bill. The two men smiled at each other and then looked at the minister, ready to hear from God. When the pastor gained control of his emotions, he simply said, "What I'm about to preach, you will never remember. What you have just seen, you will never forget."
We need to be careful how we live. We may be the only Bible some people ever read.
Knowledge – for the sake of knowledge – is worthless and can easily lead to pride and arrogance. But knowledge for the sake of love is priceless. In other words, no one really cares how much you know until they know how much you really care.
Knowledge is powerful and should be used in love and love should always be controlled by knowledge. God gives us the ability to understand the Bible and then wants us to use its truths to build each other up and meet the needs of others.
A preacher once said, "Some Christians grow. Others just swell." Arrogance and pride are the result of knowledge that is misused. Knowledge can be a weapon of destruction or a tool of construction. It all depends on how it is used. We can know doctrine and never know God. We can grow in Bible knowledge but not grow in grace. We can attend church every time the doors are open but until we actually apply God's truth to the way we live, something is lost in the way we translate the Good News of Jesus Christ.
I heard the story of four Bible scholars who were arguing over the best translation of the Bible. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its beautiful, eloquent old English. Another said he preferred the American Standard Bible for its literalism and accurate translation from the original text. A third man preferred the newer translations because of their practical application. The fourth scholar listened thoughtfully and then added, "Personally, I prefer my mother's translation." When the other men laughed, he explained, "My mother translates every page of the Bible into her daily life and it is the most convincing translation I have ever seen."
I wonder. Do the people in my life better understand God because of the way I live? Is my life a living illustration of God's love? Is the "Mary Southerland Translation" of the Bible authentic and real and pleasing to God? Lord, help me be Your Living Bible.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed that You love me – no matter what I do or don't do. Lord, I want others to look at my life and see You. Teach me Your ways. Give me Your strength and wisdom to live each day as a beautiful translation of Your unconditional love and grace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray for the people in your life and ask God to show you how to demonstrate His love in a tangible way to each one. Look for a need in each person's life and then make a plan to meet that need.
Read John 3:16. Remember and celebrate the unconditional love of God by reaching out to someone who might live outside your comfort zone. In your journal, record your experience and what you learned and gained from that experience.
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September 24, 2012
Making Time for Beauty
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught, (Isaiah 50:4).
Friend to Friend
If you had been among the 1,097 morning commuters bustling through Washington D.C.'s Metro station at L'Enfant Plaza on January 12, 2007, you could have experienced an extraordinary gift. Tucked among the shoeshine vendors, newspaper kiosks, and lottery ticket dispensers, a young, white man in jeans, a long-sleeved T-shirt, and a Washington Nationals baseball cap positioned himself against the wall beside a trash can. From a small case, he removed a violin. He left the open case at his feet and threw some spare change into it. Then he turned toward the huddled masses of rush hour commuters and began to play. If you had been one of the seven who paused during their mad dash to work, you would have had a front row seat to Joshua Bell playing six of Bach's most difficult and exquisite violin pieces on a 3.5-million dollar, 300-year-old Stradivarius...for free.
It was an experiment by Gene Weingarten of the Washington Post. Joshua Bell, a concert violinist who normally earns $1,000 a minute, agreed to participate. As each commuter passed by, he or she had a decision to make. "Do I have time for beauty? Do I have time to pause, turn aside, and listen?" (Gene Weingarten, "Pearls Before Breakfast," The Washington Post, April, 8, 2007.
The fiddler standing against the bare wall at the top of the escalator was one of the finest classical musicians in the world, playing some of the most elegant music ever written on one of the most valuable violins ever made. And 1,090 busy men and women missed the gift because they were in a hurry.
Every day we have a choice. As we make Acts 17:28 a practical and perpetual reality in our lives, we will have a choice. We can rush through the day and we miss God's magnificent displays of glory and articulate words of love, or we can turn aside and savor the incredible gift.
As we go through life, there comes a whisper, a faint call, a luring pull to a richer life which we sense we're passing by. Outer hurriedness and inner uneasiness are laced with hints that there is something more, something better, or something that we're missing in the blur of life. "What could it be?" we ask.
When we embrace true union and abide in Christ, continual conversation becomes a way of life. All through the Bible we see that God spoke in various ways through various means. He spoke through dreams and vision, though a burning bush and fiery mountain, through a donkey and an angel. He spoke by writing on the wall, a wetting fleece on the ground, and forcing an almond branch into bloom. The important thing is not how God spoke, but that He spoke. Equally as important is for us to remember not how He will speak, but that He will speak. And each one of the gentle whispers or startling shouts from God's heart to your heart carries within it the potential for moments of sudden glory. The key is not to miss it.
I pray Jacob's words will never come from my mouth or from yours: "Surely the LORD is in this place, and I was not aware of it," (Genesis 28:16). Instead, let's listen in expectation with the words of Isaiah on our lips: "He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught," (Isaiah 50:4).
His lavish response to our longing for something more awaits those who anticipate glory moments and awake in expectation.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thank You for loving me, Your daughter, enough to show me glimpses of Your glory in everyday life. Help me not to miss them. Help me not to be so busy in the blur of life, to miss You, the Source of Life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I want to challenge you to notice 5 "beauties." It could be a song, a person, a sunset...whatever catches your attention. But...you have to pay attention. Then log onto my blog page and tell me what 5 things you noticed today. www.sharonjaynes.com. Don't forget to come back and tell me!
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God's articulate presence is in all of life, we just need to learn how to recognize it. Click here to watch a video about A Sudden Glory and get a taste of what God wants, not from you, but for you.
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September 25, 2012
Passing the Test
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Mark really struggled with spelling. Staring at his spelling test, his heart sank. So many of the words seemed difficult and he wasn't sure how to spell most of them. Softly the enemy whispered, "Look at Jane's paper; she's an honor student and always gets them right!"
Mark hesitated but, desperate to make a good grade, finally gave in to the tempter's suggestion and copied several answers from Jane's paper.
The teacher noticed Mark's actions and was really surprised because she had always thought of him as an honest boy. When it came time to collect the completed work, she saw Mark's inner struggle reflected on his face of anguish. Finally, Mark bowed his head for a moment and then suddenly ripped his test paper into pieces and sat back in his chair with a sigh. Even though he had first given in to the temptation to cheat, he finally decided to take a zero on the test rather than be dishonest.
Calling Mark to her desk, the teacher said, "Mark, I was watching you and I want you to know that I am very proud of you for what you did just now. Today, you passed a much more important test than a spelling test."
As followers of Christ, we sometimes focus on developing and presenting the right image while neglecting the spiritual discipline of integrity. Our public lives are only as authentic as our private lives. Image is who and what people think we are while integrity is who and what we really are. Billy Graham once said, "Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact. When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. When character is lost, all is lost."
I have often heard it said that integrity is what you do when no one is watching or that character is best illustrated by how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing for you. Integrity is a heart issue and a spiritual habit that decides beforehand to do the right thing. Character counts. Integrity matters to God.
Matthew 5:8 (NIV) "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."
1 Chronicles 28:9b "For the Lord searches every heart, and understands every desire and every thought."
The word for "pure" means "ready for sacrifice." In other words, the decisions and choices we make should be living sacrifices that are holy and acceptable to God as acts of worship. To have integrity means to live an integrated life. That integration occurs when what we believe, what we think, what we say and what we do are all consistent. In reality, image really is nothing without integrity and character to back it up.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You right now, asking You to examine my heart and show me every impurity hidden there. Search my desires and thoughts and show me the disobedience that breaks your heart and hinders my walk with You. I want to please You with every choice and decision I make, Lord. Forgive me for the hypocrisy in my life. I lay down my pride and my agenda and choose instead to seek and follow You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Psalm 51:10 that says, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." As this verse becomes the consistent prayer of your heart, each choice and decision you make will begin to line up with God's will. He will be honored, and you will experience a new power and purpose in your life. Continually ask yourself, "Will my choice make God smile?"
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September 26, 2012
When You Feel Far From God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said: 'On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you' (John 14:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Do you ever feel far away from God, or that He is far away from you? If you're like most people, then I bet the answer is yes. So let's take a look at those "feelings."
You are a triune being with a body, soul and spirit. Within your soul you have a mind, will, and emotions. That's where those "feelings come from." And if you are like most people, sometimes you feel closer to God than other times. But are you? Really?
Sometimes I feel closer to my husband than others times. But that doesn't mean I'm any less married at some times more than others. I usually feel closer to him after we've enjoyed a fun time together, been especially intimate, or gone through a struggle where we've locked arms and walked through the struggle together.
It's not that much different in my relationship with God. I might feel closer to Him when we've had a good time together (as in worship service), been especially intimate spiritually (as in a morning quiet time), or gone through a struggle where we've locked arms and walked through the difficulty together (as in mourning the death of a loved one).
But just because I feel closer to God in a particular moment doesn't mean that I am. It is just a feeling. We know that we cannot have that giddy feeling about our spouse all the time. Then why do we think we have to have that with God?
Paul prayed for the Ephesians that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ would give them the Spirit of wisdom and revelation so that they could know him better ...that they might know the hope to which he had called them...(Ephesians 1:17-19). He prayed for the Colossians that they would know the mystery of God, namely, Christ in whom are hidden all the treasure of wisdom and knowledge" (Colossians 2:2-3). He did not pray that they would feel like they were close to God or feel the love of God. He prayed that they would know it.
Specifically, Paul prayed:
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. (How? Through faith. In your "knower"). And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know his love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:16-19 emphasis added).
Why do we experience times when we feel far from God? How can we feel far from God if His Holy Spirit lives in us? If you are in Christ and He is in you (John 14:20), why don't you feel Him at all times? Can you feel distant from your liver, from your kidney or from your pancreas? Being near to God, or rather feeling near to God is not a matter of proximity, as if one of us moved closer or further away. It is not a matter of a physical position, but it is a matter of our relational acuity. It is a spiritual receptivity, a spiritual awareness, and a spiritual acknowledgement of His presence.
Charles Spurgeon once said: "It may be that there are saints who are always at their best, and are happy enough never to lose the light of their Father's countenance. I am not sure that there are such persons...and I have not traversed that happy land. Every year of my life has had a winter as well as a summer, and every single day has its night...I confess that though the substance be in us, as in the tell-tree and the oak, yet we do lose our leaves, and the sap within us does not flow with equal vigor at all seasons."
God has promised He will never leave us, but we can feel far from Him when we ignore Him, live independently from Him, grow dissimilar from Him, or rush about expecting Him to tag along rather than move in union with Him.
So here's what I want you to do today, stand on what you know. "On that day," Jesus said, "You will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you" (John 14:20 NIV). And friend, you can't get much closer than that.
And while your humanness falters between spiritual times of plenty and times of want, communion with God is always just a whisper away as you acknowledge His presence with you and in you.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I'll admit, sometimes I feel far from You. But today, I am not going to be a woman who is lead by her feelings. I am going to be a woman who stands on the truth of Your Word. I am in Jesus. He is in me. And we are both in You. Hallelujah.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
One of the best ways I know to reconnect with God when I feel disconnected is to listen to some great praise and worship music. So click over to www.youtube.com/gwensmithmusic and listen to my favorite recording artist!
After listening to Gwen's music, click over to my blog page, www.sharonjaynes.com or my Facebook page www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and tell me your favorite GwenSmith song. (Mine is Broken into Beautiful. And then there's All Generations. Oh, and Uncluttered. I'm having a hard time choosing one. Maybe you'll have an easier time. Good luck!)
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Today's devotion was an excerpt from my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Something More. Check it out on www.sharonjaynes.com/a-sudden-glory/
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September 27, 2012
But I'm Afraid to Be Real
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV) "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God."
Friend to Friend
Okay. It's Sunday morning and you are frantically trying to get ready for church. You somehow managed to set your alarm for PM instead of AM and you are running late. No time for breakfast – which is just as well since you did not have time to go to the grocery store and the only thing in your refrigerator is an almost empty jar of Mayonnaise and a block of molded cheese. Your daughter throws a tantrum because she is not about to wear any of the "dorky" clothes hanging in her closet. Your son is actually wearing his dorky clothes, but he got bored waiting on everyone else to get ready and headed outside to play in the puddles created from last night's storm. It was the perfect opportunity to see if his new shoes really were waterproof like the salesman said. His clothes are now caked in mud, the shoes are definitely not waterproof and he is yelling for help. "Check the dirty clothes basket" you yell back. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
Your husband, oblivious to the chaos around him, is sitting at the kitchen table, reading the newspaper and drinking his coffee. When he announces that it is time for everyone to get in the car or you will be late for church, your last and completely frazzled nerve snaps. "Why do I have to do everything on Sunday morning – and every other morning for that matter?" you demand. "I have one morning a week that I can relax and have a few minutes to myself," he snaps back. Great! One more thing for your ever growing list of "things we need to work on in our marriage." Whatever! You don't have time to process that information because everyone is finally in the car and ready to go.
Your husband decides to drive the speed limit for once in his life which means you are going to be late – and you hate being late. You could cut the tension in the car with a knife, but when you reach the holy asphalt of the church parking lot, you smile and nod as people greet you with, "Good morning! How are you?" But they don't really want to know, and you don't really want them to know. "Great! Everything is just great!" you answer to no one in particular.
Here's my question. Where is the transparency? Why do we feel like we cannot be honest with each other? What is so frightening about saying, "If you really want to know, it has been a lousy morning and I'm ready to explode?"
I think there are several reasons we are afraid to be transparent, but pride is at the root of most of them. We are not willing for others to see us as we really are – a frail human being. I'm not saying that we should launch into a liturgy of complaints every time someone asks how we are, but I am saying that we need to be more transparent. Jesus was.
Jesus wept when His friend, Lazarus, died. When money-changers defiled the temple, Jesus was furious and drove them out with a whip. On the cross, Jesus cried out to God, "Why have You forsaken me?" Jesus was a frequent guest at wedding celebrations and had a sense of humor. He was authentic and real and wants us to live our life with that same emotional integrity and transparency.
In order to understand what transparency is, we need to understand what it is not. Transparency is not a spiritual license to rip someone apart or tell them off. I know what it is like to take an emotional risk only to be blasted under the guise of "just being honest." Transparency is not revenge in disguise nor does it give us permission to unload every problem we have on everyone we meet.
Transparency is being willing to let others see who we really are and what is really going on in our heart and life. In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, the Apostle Paul writes, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." In other words, comfort and encouragement are cyclical.
When I continually choose to be transparent about my struggle with clinical depression, I am positioning myself to receive and give comfort and encouragement to others fighting that same battle. It sounds so simple, doesn't it? It is – if we choose to be transparent.
Let's Pray
Father, please help me to take off the masks I hide behind. I want to be real and authentic in a way that pleases You and encourages others. I am sometimes afraid to be honest about who I am and what I am going through. Give me the strength to walk through that fear and be the transparent woman of God You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone." Now think about the people in your life and answer the following questions:
Who needs motivation (idle)?
Who needs courage (timid)?
Who needs strength (weak)?
Who needs understanding (patient)?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up." How can you apply this verse to the people in your life?
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Encouragement is God's love in action. It is the idea of a "spiritual cheerleader" and we all need a cheerleader. One of the main reasons Girlfriends in God exists is to encourage women. I want to challenge you today to share that encouragement with someone in your life.
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September 28, 2012
Practice Makes Progress
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
In the night, LORD, I remember your name, that I may keep your law. This has been my practice: I obey your precepts. You are my portion, LORD; I have promised to obey your words. - (Psalm 119:55-57)
Friend to Friend
I'm a sporty girl – always have been. I love to power walk and keep fit. I grew up playing lots of different athletic games – from basketball to softball – but volleyball has always been my sport of choice. I just love the game. I love the quick pace, the strength and agility demands, and the team component of the matches.
In college, I had the opportunity to play volleyball, and now that I'm a mom I coach my daughter's team. I've been around this game for more than twenty-five years and I've spent more time on the court, on the sand, and on the grass playing and practicing than most people ever will. You'd think that after all the hours invested I'd have the game perfected by now, right? Not hardly.
There are still times when I shank a pass – when it flies off my arms wildly in the wrong direction. I still have spike attempts that send the ballinto the net instead of over the net. There are still times when I miss a serve. Each mistake frustrates me. Seriously. I'm competitive and I hate to lose. I hate to make mistakes and I almost always think I should've played better than I actually did. No matter how much I've grown as a player since I first picked up a volleyball, I've come to realize that when I step on the court there will always be frustrating shanked passes that fly off my arms and there will always be opportunities for me to grow and progress in my skills. Simple as that.
And you know what? I've found the same to be true in my prayer life.
Do you remember that old saying "practice makes perfect?" Well, I think it's a bunch of beans! I recently heard a phrase that better represents the reality of growth and development: practice makes progress. Whether we're talking about our development as athletes, as students, as a wives, as employees, or simply as women of faith – specifically, as women of prayer – we are all purposed for growth until we die.
The truth that the apostle Paul wrote about in Romans 7 still remains: we don't do what we should do and we do what we shouldn't. Whew! I can so relate. Prayer, I'm afraid, is one of the "don't dos" for many of us. We all seem to know how important it is to trust God with our burdens, but many of us neglect this important discipline.
Do you ever go the phone before you go to the throne? Yeah – me too. There are times when I fail to trust God with my prayers. And though I've been faith-walking with Him a long time, there are still a million ways that I need to grow. There will always be ways for us to grow and there will always be mistakes for us to work through.
Our relationship with God will grow as we continually turn to Him in prayer. Similarly, our trust in God grows as our relationship with Him grows. "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you," (John 15:15). Jesus counts us as his "friends". How many of us would talk to our close friends as infrequently as we talk to Jesus, our Creator and Redeemer?
Of course, it's not like we can ignore the world around us and pray 24/7. Right? We are still going to go to work, have playtime, time with friends and family, but in the midst of it all, Scripture instructs us to: "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you," (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Our practice of this continual praying life will increase our progress in faith and in trusting God. This can translate into prayers of thankfulness and petition during our power walks, our time in the carpool line, while we wash our laundry and our lunch breaks. We can redeem these times to thank God for and pray for our children, our careers, our futures, our marriages, our trials and our challenges. When we "do life" with God – when we exercise this spiritual discipline of continuous prayer – our faith grows. It helps us to trust Him more.
Jesus was the only perfect man and He turned to our Father continually. He gave thanks for food when He prayed over the loaves and fishes that became a miracle (Matthew 14:16-21), He took his sorrows to God in the garden before His massacre (Matthew 26:39), He prayed for His friends (John 17:6-19), for Himself (John 17:1-5) and for future believers (John 17:20-26). Jesus also modeled how we should pray (Luke 11:1-13), and taught about prayer (Matthew 6:5-15). If Jesus, the God of the Universe, saw prayer as such an important part of the Christian life, why do we sometimes overlook the importance of it? We need to make time to turn to Him and trust Him with our daily concerns, big and small.
A strong volleyball team is one that relies on each other in the game. As Christians, we have the advantage. We have God on our team. And with God on our team, we cannot fail. Seriously. If God is for us, who can stand against us? We just need to talk to Him and trust him, rather than trying to play the game of life on our own. We have to remember that practice makes progress! We will learn to trust as we practice trusting the Lord through prayer.
Let's Pray
Dear God, That You would choose to call me friend is simply amazing! Thank you that though I'm not perfect, your grace allows me to progress in faith! Please forgive me for the times when I go about my day and "do life" without You. Help me to continuously pray and to trust You with my burdens.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
How would you rate your prayer life on a scale from 1-10?
Where would you like your prayer life to rank on that same scale?
Are you willing to do anything about it? If so, what? If not, why?
Add 10 GiG Challenge: For one week, I challenge you to add 10 minutes of prayer each day to your normal prayer routine? Will you do it? Yes? Make it public! Leave a comment/commitment on my Facebook page: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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C.S. Lewis said this of prayer, "Prayer in the sense of petition, asking for things, is a small part of it; confession and penitence are its threshold, adoration its sanctuary, the presence and vision and enjoyment of God its bread and wine." As you embark to progress in this prayer discipline, I encourage you to move from confession, to adoration, to thanksgiving and end with your petitions (personal prayer needs).
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October 1, 2012
De-compartmentalize Your Quiet Time
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long, - (Psalm 119:97 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love, absolutely love, studying God's Word. From the time I first said "yes" to Jesus, I have devoured the Scriptures. And yet, I'll admit, extended times of prayer have been a struggle for me. Perhaps that is one reason it is called a discipline. I have to discipline myself to set the time apart—to "be still and know."
But then I began to realize just how compartmentalized my time with God had become. My spiritual life was more like an outlined lesson plan with sub-headings A, B, C, and 1, 2, 3 than a love relationship with Jesus. So I made a change. It was God's suggestion really. Why not pray and read at the same time?
When I read the Bible, I pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal what the words say, what they mean, and how I can apply them to my life. For example, one day while reading Ephesians 1:8, I felt compelled to pray this verse for several people. So I stopped reading and began communing with God in prayer.
Dear Lord, I pray for Steven today. I pray that You will open the eyes of his heart so that he may see the hope to which You have called him and the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints... I prayed that Scripture for several people, until I felt the promptings from the Holy Spirit cease. Then God and I got back to reading again.
Another day, I was reading Matthew 6:9, what we've come to know as The Lord's Prayer. "Our Father," Jesus began. Stop right there and think about that, the Holy Spirit seemed to say. Our Father. As I ruminated and marinated in the words "our" and "father" God spoke to my heart about the sort of father I'd always longed for and the sort of Father I already had in Him. If I had stuck to a schedule for my Bible reading that week, I would have fallen terribly behind. But the continual conversation I had with God about that one little word, "father," was priceless.
Consider the word meditate. This word often conjures up images of Eastern religious practices. But it is a wonderful word that we should not be afraid to use. Meditation simply means to think deeply and continuously about something. For a Christian, meditation and constant communication go hand in hand. As we think deeply and continuously about God's Word, He opens our eyes to see, our ears to hear, and our minds to understand. When you meditate on Scripture, you mull over God's words in your mind until they move from your head to your heart.
So here's my suggestion...pray and read...at the same time. I've decided that when I read God's Word, I'm going to keep the lines of communication open. After all, this is the only book you will ever read where the Author is right there with you every time you open the pages!
Let's Pray
Good morning Lord! I can't wait to experience this day with You. I'm so glad that Jesus is in me and I am in Him. We're in this thing called life together. Help me practice Acts 17:28 today...In him we live and move and have our being – in him we exist.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Ephesians Chapter 1 and pray various Scriptures over the people God brings to mind. Don't stop until God's promptings stop.
If you accepted this challenge, let's celebrate together. Simply leave a comment on my blog post, www.sharonjaynes.com, that says," I did it. It was fun." And if you have time, tell me a little bit about what you experienced as you prayed.
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This whole idea of de-compartmentalizing our lives is found in A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.Learn how to erase the line between your secular daily life and your spiritual live so that you can experience the Divine smack dab in the middle of the Daily busy blur. Check it out! And for all you pinners on Pinterest, I've got a great pin graphic on today's blog post as well.
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October 2, 2012
Is God Really Enough? Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So Abraham called that place The Lord Will Provide. And to this day it is said, "On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided" (Genesis 22:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As I worked through the seemingly endless number of emails, my heart grew heavy and my soul cried out to God - so many women in so much pain. I could feel their fear and confusion in every word. Their circumstances were all very different, but they were all really asking the same question, "Where are you, God?"
I was already tired and overwhelmed, having just returned from speaking at a women's conference in an area of the country where the economy had taken a nosedive. So many of the prayer requests were centered around one deep need – the provision of God. And honestly, I was struggling with the same question in my own life.
I hurt. The doctors said it was fibromyalgia and that the medical world doesn't really understand the disease, so my treatment options were "iffy" at best. I had a lot of questions but no one seemed to have any answers.
I was worried. We didn't have enough money to pay the rent, and we had just learned that both of my husband's parents had cancer. A boatload of unknowns stretched before us.
I was lonely – an emotion that really made no sense – but l felt it just the same. I have great friends and a support group most women would envy, but at that moment, I felt like no one really understood where I was and what I was going through.
Like the women emailing me for comfort and advice, I cried out, "Where are you, God?"
He gently whispered, "I am right here, child. I am your Jehovah Jireh. Remember Abraham?" I did, but I obviously needed a refresher course in faith. I grabbed my Bible and, with a sense of desperation, turned to Genesis 22 to read the familiar faith story. But this time, I saw Abraham through very different eyes.
God asked Abraham to make the unspeakable sacrifice of Isaac, his one and only son, the son of the promise. I am certain Abraham hurt in a way I will never understand. I know he probably felt lonely and afraid. His soul must have wanted to scream the question, "Why, God?" But in total obedience, Abraham walked through his fear, set aside his doubt and pain and prepared to do the very unthinkable thing God asked him to do. He, his servants, and his precious innocent son, Isaac, began the journey to Mount Moriah where the sacrifice was to be made.
I can only imagine the turmoil in Abraham's heart when Isaac asked where the sacrificial lamb was. In faith, Abraham promised Isaac that God would provide. When they reached the place where the servants were to wait, Abraham verbalizes his faith in God when he tells the servants, "Stay here with the donkey. The boy and I will travel a little farther. We will worship there, and then we will come right back." It hit me like a ton of bricks! Abraham said "we" will be back. I don't believe for a moment that Abraham was in denial. Nor do I believe God had already told Abraham what the ultimate plan was. Abraham was simply counting on Jehovah Jireh to provide in a way that would honor God and strengthen Abraham's faith – no matter what the cost might be.
Abraham and Isaac proceeded to the appointed place where Abraham gently laid his son on the altar. Abraham's heart must have shattered at the confusion in Isaac's eyes as he looked up at his father holding the knife. But Isaac had faith, too. He trusted his daddy – even when he had no clue what was about to happen. Isaac was sure of his father's love and care. And that was enough for both Abraham and Isaac. It was also enough for God.
Don't miss Thursday's devotion for the rest of this exciting faith story!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be a woman of faith. I am tired of allowing my fears and doubts to hinder my walk with You. I want to be like Abraham, Lord. Please give me the strength to step out in faith, knowing You will always be there for me. Help me learn how to choose faith over fear and when the darkness comes, help me remember the promises You have given me in the light. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When we think about the provision of God, we automatically think about the way God meets our physical needs. What physical needs has God met in your life today? Have you thanked Him?
If you could have today only the things you thanked God for yesterday, what would you have?
In what other areas of your life have you seen God's provision? How? Record your thoughts in your journal.
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October 3, 2012
What to Do with a Shattered Dream
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose," (Romans 8:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever had a shattered dream? If so, you're not alone.
If ever there was a group of people who lost their dream, it was Jesus' disciples and the women who ministered to and with them. They had such high expectations that Jesus would be the next political leader of Israel (Luke 24:21). They had witnessed his power in feeding 5,000 men plus women and children with two loaves and five fishes; they felt the waves beneath their tiny boat subside at his command; they had watched him breathe life into a lifeless child, open the eyes of a man blind from birth, create new skin from rotting flesh on the limbs of lepers, and command a lame man to take up his pallet and walk. They had seen him walk on water, outwit the Pharisees, and win the lost.
In their narrow scope of hopes for a political leader to save the Jews, they missed the bigger picture of God's plan for a Savior to free mankind from the bondage of sin. While Peter realized Jesus' identity ("You are the Christ."), he did not understand His destiny. Peter was shocked when Jesus explained that He had to go to Jerusalem, suffer, be killed, and on the third day rise from the dead. He even took Jesus aside and said, "Never, Lord. This shall never happen to you!" (Matthew 16:22). This was not part of Peter's dream. Suffering did not fit into his plan.
"Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."
Call me stupid, but don't call me Satan. Yet, that is how Jesus sees it when we try to block God's plans. He sees us as an instrument of darkness, an offense, a hindrance and a snare. It is amazing that one minute Peter could be a building block and the next a stumbling block. But that's the trap we all fall into when we have our minds set on the world instead of on the things of God.
Jesus told His disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life, will lose it, but whoever lose his life for me will find it" (Matthew 16:24-25).
Even though Jesus forewarned the disciples of his death and resurrection, they fled when the soldiers came to arrest him, and they hid when he was hung on a cross to die. When Jesus was sealed in the tomb, their hopes and dreams were sealed in the darkness with him.
Every day I receive emails from women who have had their dreams shattered. A husband has an affair, becomes addicted to pornography, abuses the children, or deserts the family. A child gets caught with drugs, becomes pregnant, or dies in a car accident. Parents divorce, friends betray, careers come to an abrupt halt. The list is endless. So what do we do when our dreams are seemingly destroyed? The answer to that will shape the rest of our lives.
Does that mean we give up our dreams? I can promise you this, whatever dreams you have for your life, God's dreams are greater. The power of the Holy Spirit the disciples received after Jesus' resurrection, and the impact they made on the world thereafter, was beyond their wildest dreams. That's what God does with a heart that is wholly yielded to Him. That's what He does when we give our shattered dreams to Him. I have learned to stop saying, "Why me?" but instead start saying "What now?"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are things about my life that I don't understand, but I do know this. You are good and You are kind. I thank you that nothing happens in my life that is a surprise to You. You have a greater plan than my small vision can imagine. I pray that You will reveal that larger plan for my life to me. Help me to pay attention to Your promptings and obey Your bidding.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back over your life and list two or threedreams that did not turn out like you thought they would.
Is there a prayer request or dream in your life that, in retrospect, you are glad God did respond to affirmatively?
Write down any areas of your life where you have been saying..."Why me?" and are now willing to say..."What now?"
Place yourself in the disciples' sandals for just a moment. How do you think you would have felt the night Jesus died on the cross?
How do you think you would have felt the day you saw Him walk into the room...resurrected from the dead?
How would that have affected the way you viewed trials in your life from that time forward?
Now, how should that affect the way you see trials today?
If you're willing to trust God with your dreams, click over to my blog page and say, "I'm trusting God!"
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Shattered dreams are a part of life. But God has big plans for each of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find all this and more in my book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Longs to Fulfill Them. Click over to my web page to read a sample chapter and watch a short video. Let's learn to dream again! (This book includes a study guide which is great for women's Bible study groups.)
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October 4, 2012
Is God Really Enough? Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So Abraham calledthat place The Lord Will Provide. And to this day it is said, "On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided" (Genesis 22:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all have faith. We go to a doctor we hardly know. He hands us a prescription we cannot read. We take that prescription to a pharmacist we have never met. He gives us a medication we do not recognize or understand and we take it ... all in faith. Faith in God does not come all at once. Faith is a step-by-step process that begins with one small step and increases as we go, a truth that is powerfully illustrated in the life of Abraham.
God told Abraham to sacrifice his son, Isaac. Abraham walked through his fear, set aside his doubt and chose to walk in obedience to his God. Just as Abraham drew back the knife that would end the life of his son, the angel of the Lord called out to him and stilled his arm. Isaac would live! Why? Abraham had proven his obedience to God, even when he did not understand God's plan and even when he could not explain the seemingly appalling command of a loving God. Abraham continued to obey God even though his heart was surely breaking. Abraham must have been terrified and felt completely alone. God gently nudged my heart and I knew. I, too, needed to lay my "Isaac" on the altar of faith, knowing I could trust my Jehovah Jireh.
Abraham suddenly spotted a ram caught in the thicket by his horns and offered the ram as a sacrifice in place of Isaac. Abraham then worshipped God, praising Him for His perfect provision. Abraham's obedience led to God's provision – the provision of Jehovah Jireh.
Genesis 22:14 (NLT) "Abraham named the place Yahweh-Yireh (which means 'the Lord will provide'). To this day, people still use that name as a proverb: 'On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.'"
Wow! Talk about a faith story! Jehovah Jireh indeed!
"But Lord, Abraham is the man when it comes to faith. I don't have the kind of faith Abraham had. What do I do?" I cried out to God. God is so sweet and so kind – and so very patient as His Spirit nudged my heart once again. "Mary think about the Israelites." Now we're talking because I can so relate to the Israelites. I turned to Joshua 3 and found myself in very familiar territory.
The Israelites are camped on the bank of the Jordan River. Forty years earlier, they had escaped from Egypt and have been wandering around in the wilderness ever since. All of their needs have been met by God. They have seen miracle after miracle and now they can see Canaan, the Promised Land. However, there is a problem.
A huge river stands between the Israelites and the Promised Land and there is no way around it. To make things worse, it is flood season and the usual places to cross are covered with deep, rushing water. The Israelites knew God could stop the river right before their eyes or He could throw a bridge across it, but He doesn't. Instead, He gives Joshua some very strange orders.
· First order
The people are to keep an eye on the Ark of the Covenant.
Second order
As soon as they see the priests carrying the Ark, the people are to fall in behind them.
Third order
Joshua tells the people to expect amazing things to happen.
Fourth order
Joshua commands the priests to pick up the Ark and stand in the river.
God told His people that He would make a dry path through the river, but the priests had never seen that happen. In fact, they hadn't even been born when the Red Sea was parted and there were no reruns of the Ten Commandments at the local Wilderness Theatre. The Israelites had spent their entire adult lives in the wilderness and finally, they could see a way out. Oh, and one more problem -- the priests couldn't swim. This was probably the first river they had even been close to in their lives. I can imagine their fear and questions. God was asking them to step out in faith as never before.
I don't imagine the Israelites had a great deal of faith in God at that moment, but they had just enough faith to take that first step. And that was enough.
Joshua 3:15-17 (NCV) During harvest the Jordan overflows its banks. When the priests carrying the Ark came to the edge of the river and stepped into the water, the water upstream stopped flowing. It stood up in a heap. So the people crossed over.
Notice God did nothing until those toes touched the water. That first step was all God needed to see. Many times, we won't take the first step because we're afraid we won't be able to make the whole journey.
Don't wait until you believe it all.
Don't wait until you can see it all.
Don't wait until you understand it all.
Step out in childlike faith and put your trust in God.
He is Jehovah Jireh.
He will provide.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today in faith. I want to know You. I want to follow You for the rest of my life. I am afraid because my faith is small, but I am placing the faith I do have in You, Lord. I trust You to strengthen and grow that faith and help me become a fully devoted follower that pleases and honors You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God. Matthew 17:20 also tells us that even a tiny amount of faith pleases Him. (Jesus) replied, "I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, grows into a large tree. Jesus said a little faith can have incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God, and our faith depends on Him!
What is the greatest problem in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that problem with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
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October 5, 2012
King of Kings
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
God, the blessed and only Ruler, the King of kings and Lord of lords, who alone is immortal and who lives in unapproachable light, whom no one has seen or can see. To him be honor and might forever. Amen. (1 Timothy 6:15-16)
Friend to Friend
It was shockingly early when the alarm clock invaded my dreams, screaming at me to wake up that morning. Even the sun was still sleeping as I rose. With heavy eyelids and a groggy mind, I forced myself to crawl out from beneath the cuddly warmth of my bed and ventured downstairs.
The kids had set their alarm clocks as well. We trickled down, one sleepy Smith at a time, and met in our jammies for the big event. It was April 29, 2011. Prince William and Catherine Middleton were about to be married and we were giddy-excited to watch it live from the cozy comfort of our living room couch.
It was worth the early wake-up just to see the hats that the women were wearing. Major wow! They were so elaborate! Some were even a bit crazy. As the wedding guests filed into the church, the kids and I chatted non-stop about the dresses the women wore, the celestial music that sang throughout the cathedral and the ornate beauty of Westminster Abbey.
As Kate made her way down the aisle, my eyes leaked joy. There's just something undeniably special about a bride's walk down the aisle that messes with my makeup. The ceremony was magic. Brimming with Scripture and promise. Meaningful vows were exchanged and before we knew it, the bride and groom were married.
Regal smiles lit up our living room as the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge emerged as man and wife and made their way to Buckingham Palace for the royal reception hosted by Her Majesty the Queen. They waved jubilantly to the thousands upon thousands of well wishers along the road as the world celebrated with them.
Decades before William and Kate's famed nuptials, the wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer held global attention. Before that, the world was smitten with the storybook romance and marriage between American actress Grace Kelley and Rainer 111, Prince of Monaco.
We have such a fascination with royalty! We love the regal bells and whistles with all of the fairytale happenings. Yet, for all the fanfare that royal families bring to society, many reigning monarchs have very little political power. Most earthly kings and queens don't establish laws or truly rule the people as royalty once did. Even still, these families do influence the culture.
God is a not like our earthly kings. He's got game! He is a King with power. He is the King of kings! Supreme in authority, He rules from a heavenly throne that is illuminated by His glory. When we recognize Him as King of kings, God is positioned in our hearts as the supreme ruler... as the absolute authority... as the powerful leader that we are all desperate for. His reign is eternal and supreme – yet His reign is intimately personal.
Please don't think I'm going all church on you here. This isn't fluffy Christianese about a distant, non-feeling ruler who pats us on the head and graciously allows us to be His humble servants. It is a flesh and blood testimony about a loving God from a woman who knows what it's like to be tangled in the knots of sin and shame. From a woman knows the freedom of forgiveness – a woman who delights to revere her all-compassionate King of mercy. I'm not who I was because my Savior, the King of kings, wore a thorny crown and conquered death. Now that's power, friend! A powerful King who is large and in charge.
I am a woman who now confidently approaches the throne of grace because of the finished work done by Jesus Christ. (Hebrews 4:16) You bet it's personal and you better believe He's powerful. Scripture is filled with rich praise for our King of kings:
The Lord has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all. (Psalm 103:19)
No one is like you, O Lord; you are great, and your name is mighty in power. Who should not revere you, O King of the nations? This is your due.... But the Lord is the true God; he is the living God, the eternal King.(Jeremiah 10:6-7,10)
How awesome is the Lord Most High, the great King over all the earth!(Psalm 47:2)
But you, O Lord, sit enthroned forever; your renown endures through all generations.(Psalm 102:12)
Have you experienced the power of the King of kings in your life? Do you know the freedom of forgiveness? Though it can be fun to watch the royal families among us, they are powerless to save you. God loved you so much that he made a way for you to have a fresh start in life through Jesus. A fresh start, a clean heart and a royal inheritance. That, my friend, should make us all leak with joy.
Now to the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory for ever and ever. Amen.(1 Timothy 1:17)
Let's Pray
Holy God, King of kings, You are more glorious and powerful than I can possibly imagine! Thank you for crowning me with grace through Jesus Christ. Thank you that grace is enough. All glory and honor be to you, Lord!
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Peter 2:9, ESV: But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.
If you are a Christian, who does this verse say you are?
Do you live like that's who you are? Should you?
What does the verse say you are supposed to do because of who you are?
Swing by my facebook page right now to proclaim His excellencies with a comment of public adoration!
More From the Girlfriends
If you are a woman who is struggling to connect the promises of God to your broken life, know that you aren't alone. Many women struggle with this. I sure have! Listen, God delights to transform lives. The changes might not happen over night, but as you persist, God will work in and through you.
Ready to Go Deeper with God? Learn how He wants to bring you beyond your past mistakes and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
October 8, 2012
Shattered Dreams (part 1)
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has born? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands," (Isaiah 49:15-16 NIV).
Friend to Friend
My husband and I were reveling in our time with our good friends from our college days, Larry and Cynthia Price. It had been almost a year since our last visit and I was hungry to hear of the latest family news about their children, Daniel, Julianna, and Laura Beth. While the four adults feasted on grilled teriyaki chicken, steamy baked potatoes, tossed salad with home grown sliced tomatoes, the kids ran out the door to attend the Friday night high school football game. For over an hour conversation and sweet tea flowed like a mountain stream. We were just finishing the last bites of chocolate silk pie when our laughter was interrupted by the ringing phone.
"Hello," Cynthia answered.
I could only hear one side of the conversation, but I could tell something was terribly amiss.
"Daniel, calm down! What's wrong? Talk slower," she urged. "Oh God, no," Cynthia gasped. "OK, Daniel. I'll meet you at the hospital."
An ashen Cynthia turned to her husband and could barely force the words out of her mouth. "Larry, Daniel said that Will took a bad hit at the football game. He went in for a tackle. They hit. Will stood up. Fell on the ground. And he never got back up. They are taking him to the hospital in Clinton."
"Cynthia, you two go on to meet them. Don't even think twice about us," I assured her. "I'll clean up and take any calls that come in."
"Are you sure?" she asked. "I hate to leave you here."
"Absolutely, now scoot!"
Before they left, we held hands and prayed for Will, his mother Luanne, his dad, Bob, and his two brothers and little sister who were all at the game.
Larry and Cynthia drove down their mile long driveway and my mind rushed back to another time fourteen years earlier when I first met Luanne Johnson. She was Cynthia's best friend in the sleepy rural town of Rose Hill, NC, four hours from our home. She had just given birth to her third child, Bailey. Bailey was born with a hole in his heart. When he was seven months old, Luanne kissed his cheek as the doctors and nurses rolled him into the operating room to attempt to correct the defect. The physicians assured the Johnson's that the procedure had a 98% success rate and there was no cause for alarm. While Bailey came through the surgery just fine, he developed complications a few days later and had to go back in for a second procedure. This operation was not successful. Bailey died on the operating table. Bailey died on his brother Will's third birthday. Now this.
I pictured Luanne riding in the ambulance or perhaps following in a car close behind the blaring sirens. I recalled the words I had penned in another book, "There is an inexplicable bond that exists between a mother and her child. Even though the umbilical cord is severed in the delivery room, a cord of love connects them for the rest of their lives." Luanne already had one deposit in heaven. The thought of a second was almost too painful to imagine.
Oh, he'll be OK, I thought. I'd grown up in a small North Carolina town where high school football was a part of life for the entire community. When I was elementary school age, I went to Friday night games and ran around under the bleachers paying very little attention to the pigskin on the field. When I was a teenager, I was a cheerleader and knew just enough to know which cheers to yell when. My father-in-law had been a coach. Boys were constantly, "down on the play." But they always got up. Didn't they?
I'm not sure how much time passed, but Cynthia's phone call startled me back to reality.
"Sharon, this is Cynthia. Will didn't make it."
"What do you mean 'didn't make it?'" I asked.
"Will died before he even got to the hospital," she said.
Somehow the news spread through the quiet little town that Will Johnson had been hurt at the football game. All through the night I fielded calls that came to the Price's home. Cynthia was Luanne's best friend and Daniel had been Will's.
The next day, the news reported the story. Will had gone in to make a tackle and when he hit the boy carrying the ball, his opponent's helmet crashed into Will's chest. On impact, Will's heart had a concussion. He stood up and said, "Coach, I think I need to come out." Then he collapsed and his heart never beat again.
I was just a visitor from 200 miles away. I didn't know most of these people but one thing was clear. What affected one, affected them all. A mother's dreams had been shattered and the entire town felt her pain.
Shattered dreams are a part of life. Children die, husbands leave, jobs are lost, cancer tests come back positive, proposals are rejected, teenagers rebel, houses burn, terrorists attack, and the list goes on. Part of the pain is the feeling that God has forgotten us, grown deaf to our cries, or lost our address. Zion cried, "The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me" (Isaiah 49:14). David lamented, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning? O my God, I cry out by day, but you do not answer, by night, and am not silent" (Psalm 22: 1, 2). Even Jesus called out from the cross, "My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?" (Matthew 27:46) I have cried, "Where are you, God. How could you do this to me? Have you forgotten all about me?" Then He answers, "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15).
Ah, the string around His finger, the brand on his palm, the scar on His heart. No, He doesn't forget. Join me next time as we continue looking at Shattered Dreams and the Restorer of Broken Dreams.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, sometimes I don't understand why things happen. Why would a tsunami take hundreds of lives? Why would a mother bury her child? But this one thing I do know. You are always good and Your ways are always good. Help me to trust Your heart when I don't see Your hand. Help me to trust You in the dark.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time when you felt as though God had deserted you. How did He assure you that He hadn't?
Perhaps you still feel like He has forgotten you? That's OK to admit. I have felt that way at times myself. However, what does the truth of Isaiah 49:15 tell us?
The next time you are wondering where God is, recite His promise to you found in Hebrews 13:5. If you believe that truth today, click over to my blog page and leave a comment that says, "I know God will never leave me." I've also posted a picture of precious Will.
More From the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman – and How God Longs to Fulfill Them. Friend, God wants to restore your broken dreams. Grab hold of His hand and go to a place you thought you'd never find...the dream God had planned all along.
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October 9, 2012
God's Circle of Encouragement Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is the Father who is full of mercy and all comfort. He comforts us every time we have trouble, so when others have trouble, we can comfort them with the same comfort God gives us (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Allan Emery, who served for many years with the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, shared an experience that made a deep impression on him. His father received a call saying a well-known Christian had been found drunk on the sidewalk in front of a local bar. Emery's father immediately sent his chauffeured limousine to pick up the man while his mother prepared the best guest room. Emery watched wide-eyed, as the beautiful coverlets were turned down on the exquisite, old, four poster bed, revealing the monogrammed sheets.
"But, mother," Emery protested, "he's drunk. He might even get sick."
"I know," his mother replied kindly, "but this man has slipped and fallen. When he comes to, he will be so ashamed. He will need all the compassion and loving encouragement we can give him."
We all stumble and fall and, at one time or another, need someone who is willing to show us the love and compassion of God. The apostle Paul had certainly experienced the love and forgiveness of God and wrote a letter to the church at Corinth, encouraging them to share that same compassion with those in need. One of the key words in this letter is "comfort" or "encouragement." In the Greek, it means "called to one's side to help" and is used 29 times in this letter alone. When trouble comes, we tend to look in all the wrong places for comfort when what we should do is run straight into the arms of the source of all comfort – God. The world sees only a hopeless end, but the Christian rejoices in an endless hope. When a child of God is in the furnace, make no mistake, girlfriend. God keeps His hand on the thermostat and His eyes on His child. He monitors the heat and offers the comfort that is needed – just like He did in the life of Elijah.
Elijah is a great example of a man in need of comfort. One day he was the conquering hero, the next we find him sitting under a Juniper tree, wallowing in self-pity – and begging God to let him die. The poor man was exhausted. True, it was an exhaustion produced by victory, but it was still exhaustion.
Elijah called down fire from heaven, proving the existence of the only true God, destroying idols and idol worshippers. Big stuff! In fact, it is my personal opinion that he should have been celebrating. So why was he so discouraged? It was a woman, Jezebel, who was largely responsible for his discouragement.
Jezebel was the evil and influential wife of Ahab, King of Israel, and widely known as the real power behind her husband's throne. Jezebel did not worship the one true God of Israel. Instead, she was fanatical in her worship of the pagan god, Baal, and tried to impose her beliefs on the people of Israel. One man stood in her way – Elijah. When Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal to a showdown on Mount Carmel, God answered Elijah's prayer with a stream of fire from heaven. You would think that a miracle like that would have convinced Ahab and Jezebel to believe in God. It didn't. In fact, Jezebel was furious. When she learned what had happened on Mt. Carmel with the fire and idols, she put a contract out on Elijah. Now stop and think about that for a moment.
Elijah had been in the presence of God. God had heard and answered Elijah's prayer, putting on an impressive fiery display for all to see. Idols had fallen. The prophets of Baal had either fled or been destroyed. And Elijah is worried about one angry woman? Elijah was tired and needed to rest – big time. He desperately needed the comfort of God. He found that rest and comfort while sitting under a Juniper tree, waiting in silence for God to show up. I know. God had already shown up in big ways for Elijah, but this time, Elijah needed a personal, one-on-one encounter with his Father.
I've been there, haven't you? You may be there today – at the point of desperation, wondering if God will show up in your life. You may be exhausted and weary of life itself. Girlfriend, I have great news for you. God knows exactly how you feel, and He is with you. Cry out to Him and ask for His encouragement and peace to fill your heart.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired and really don't know if I can go on. I come to You with a heavy heart filled with fear and uncertainty. I am desperate for You, Lord. Right now, I surrender every burden to You and choose to believe that You are with me and will lift me out of this slimy pit I am in. I don't know how, but I choose Your plan over all others and will listen for Your voice above the rest. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Do you really believe we can experience joy – even in the midst of the fiercest storm? Explain.
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal. Share your decision to become a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire.
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October 10, 20l2
Shattered Dreams Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die," (John 11:25-26 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever had a shattered dream? In my last devotion I told the story of my friend Luanne and her shattered dream when her son died on a football field. I hope you'll go back and read it on my blog archives if you missed it (www.sharonjaynes.com).
In the New Testament, we find a story about two sisters whose dreams were also shattered by a death in the family. Jesus received word that one of His best friends, Lazarus, was sick. In reality, by the time the messenger had made the one day journey to inform Jesus about Lazarus' illness, he had already died. Jesus didn't leave right away, but tarried two days before making the journey to Bethany. When Jesus arrived, Lazarus had been in the tomb for four days. His death shook the entire village and many Jews from surrounding cities went to mourn their loss. For these two women, their dreams for the future were bleak – no husband, no children, no father, and now, no brother to take care of them.
When Martha heard Jesus was coming, her hopes soared and she ran to meet Him.
"Lord," Martha said to Jesus, "if you had been here, my brother would not have died" (John 11:21). Can you relate to Martha? Have you ever felt, Lord, if you had been here, this would not have happened to me. Where were you? Where are you now?
Then it is as if she thought better of the words that had escaped her lips and said, "But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask."
Jesus said to her, "Your brother will rise again."
Martha answered, "I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day."
Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?"
"Yes, Lord," she told him, "I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who has to come into the world."
Martha went back to her home and told Mary that Jesus was on the way. Like Martha, Mary ran to meet him and said, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." Do you see a pattern? Once again – If you had been here this would not have happened to me. Where were you?
Do you think God hurts when we hurt? Oh yes, dear sisters, God hurts. Jesus wept when he saw the pain of those around him. He wept for the two sisters and I suspect He wept for a people who did not understand the power of God.
After four days, Lazarus' body would have already begun to decay. Make no mistake about it: God was about to do something so incredible, no one would refute His power.
Jesus ordered the stone rolled away from the mouth of the cave which served as Lazarus' tomb. Then Jesus said, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?"
So they took away the stone. Then Jesus looked up and said, "Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me."
When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out!"
And he did!
Jesus resurrected Mary and Martha's dream.
Those of us who have lost a loved one may be thinking....yeah, but God didn't bring my brother back. God didn't save my child. God didn't resurrect my dead marriage. And if you read yesterday's devotion, God didn't bring Will back to life. (If you didn't see yesterday's devotion, I encourage you to go back and read part one of this series.)
Let's go back to Will for a moment. Did resurrection power take place after Will's death? His mother would say a resounding "yes."
Luanne shared with me that just days before Will's final football game he had said, "Mom, I'll be glad when this is all over. Now that I'm older, I see just how unimportant all this sports stuff is."
As Lou Ann knelt beside her boy on that football field, she begged him to keep breathing. But then, as she felt him take his last breath, his words echoed in her heart..."I'll be glad when this is all over."
"It's all over, son," Luanne whispered. "Go on home."
At Will's funeral a few days after his death, Luanne stood and shared the gospel message about the Jesus Will loved so much. What was the result? Thirty people attending the service committed their lives to Christ or renewed their passion for serving Him.
"Mrs. Johnson, I gave my life to Christ today."
"Luanne I haven't been following Jesus like I should. I recommitted my life to Him today and I'm going to get serious about my relationship with Him."
"Luanne, our family was in a shambles and I was thinking about leaving my husband. After today, I have decided to make our marriage work. I see how important family is."
"I have been putting my family on the back burner and letting everything and anything come before them. After today, I'm putting my family second only to God."
The Johnson family continues to minister all across the state about the power of Jesus Christ that sustains us when our dreams are shattered. Because of Will's death, hundreds have come to Christ, many family relationships have been restored, and churches have torn down denominational walls as the Presbyterians, Methodists, Baptists and Pentecostals in the tiny little town have made a historical move to worship together. Being from a small North Carolina town myself, believe me, that is a miracle.
The Bible says that before we know Jesus Christ, we are dead in our transgressions. We inherited a dead spirit from our father Adam. However, when we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior, God gives us a new heart and a new spirit that is fully alive. This is resurrection power at its best.
Why did God allow Lazarus to die? He allowed it so His Son could be glorified through it (John 11:4). Why did God allow His own Son to die on the cross? To bring salvation to all who believe? I suspect that is the same for Luanne and Bob's son as well.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are some aspects of my life that have not turned out like I thought they would. There are shattered dreams and many things which I do not understand. However, I do know this. You are a loving God and nothing happens to me that You cannot use for your glory. Help me to be open to see the good in the circumstances that seem at times to be so hard. I choose to believe that You can redeem every situation in my life and use it for good.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there something that you have been praying about and perhaps you feel that God is "late?"
What can we learn about God's timetable from today's devotion?
In today's devotion I quoted Jesus as saying, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?" Could it be that Jesus is saying those same words to you today?
Would you be willing to pray that God would show you the dreams He has for you?
Would you be willing to give up your unfulfilled dreams and reach forward to what lies ahead.
Read the following verse and ponder what God wants you to leave behind and what He is calling you to reach toward. "But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, (Philippians 3:13b NASB).
If you are willing to reach forward and dream again, click over to my blog page and leave a comment on today's blog entry that says, "I'm ready to dream again."
More from the Girlfriends
Shattered dreams are a part of life, but God has big plans for each of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find all this and more in my book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Wants to Fulfill Them. It also has a study guide in the back for further study.
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October 11, 2012
God's Circle of Encouragement Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is the Father who is full of mercy and all comfort. He comforts us every time we have trouble, so when others have trouble, we can comfort them with the same comfort God gives us. (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I went through my first major battle with clinical depression, I was amazed at the compassionate people God sent to encourage and comfort me. One of the most precious groups of encouragers was the elders of our church where my husband served as pastor. With my permission, Dan shared what I was going through and asked the elders to pray, which they did. They then put feet to those prayers and came up with what they called the "Rescue Mary Plan" for me.
Our church had five services each weekend and because I was so emotionally frail, I never knew if I could even attend or which service I would be able to attend until I was literally dressed and headed out the door. I called Dan to let him know I was on the way. Dan then relayed the message that I was coming, and the elders went into action. One would meet me at the car and escort me inside. Another would keep an eye on me during the service in case I needed help. Our church auditorium had three main aisles. An elder would walk those aisles before and after the service, watching and waiting. Many times, the elder would press a note of encouragement into my hand as he passed the offering plate. If he sensed I was in trouble or caught in a draining conversation, he would swoop in, take me by the arm and say, "Excuse us, please. Mary is needed elsewhere." I was then ushered to my car, hugged and told, "We are praying for you. We love you. Go home." I know. It was amazing! It was not only an important factor in my recovery - but an amazing example of comfort and compassion at work in my life.
Looking back, I realize that many of these men who so freely and faithfully encouraged me had endured great pain in their own lives. They had experienced the compassion and comfort of God and were quick to share it with me. Now that I am on the other side of that pit, I am motivated to encourage others in God's circle of encouragement.
You have heard the old saying, "What goes around, comes around." Truer words were never spoken when talking about comfort and encouragement. We all need the love and comfort of God - especially during tough times. Those "tough" times can come in all shapes, sizes and forms and can vary from person to person. We have one child who has been known to run an extremely high fever, walk around on a broken foot, and have a headache that would put me in bed ... all without a word of complaint. The doctors have always been amazed at this child's high level of pain tolerance. We have another child who has been known to dissolve into hysterics at the sight of a splinter embedded in a finger and turn ghastly pale and almost faint at the mere antiseptic smell when we walked through the door of the doctor's office. The doctors have been amazed at this child's low level of pain tolerance. The difference between these two children does not reflect a right or wrong reaction. It is what it is. When each child is in pain, they each need understanding and comfort.
What about you, girlfriend? Do you long for someone who will offer you just a word of encouragement? Does your broken heart cry out for compassion and comfort? Do you need something for your pain? Come to God. He will be your comfort.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed at how You love me through others. Your compassion heals and encourages me and is a gift of love from Your heart to my life. Help me receive that gift and then give it away to someone else in need. I want to be Your hands and feet to those who are hurting around me. Give me eyes to see them, Lord. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· If you need encouragement and compassion, think of two people with whom you can share that need and make a plan to do so.
· Look for people in your life to encourage.
· In your journal, record a recent time when you received and/or gave encouragement. What were the results?
· Write a note of encouragement to someone in need, letting them know you are praying for them. Offer to take care of a specific need such as preparing a meal, dropping by the grocery store to pick up a few items or picking up their cleaning. Many times, people in pain can't or won't ask for help. If you see a need, meet it.
· Write a note of thanks to someone who has encouraged you.
:angel:
October l2, 20l2
Friends That Sharpen
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]" (Proverbs 27:17, AMP).
Friend To Friend
Whether it's over a steaming mug of dark roasted coffee, a frilly lunch served at the local sushi restaurant, or a power walk in the wee hours of the morning, my accountability partner and I meet regularly to speak into each other's lives. We trust each other. We challenge one another. I'm a better woman because she's my friend – because she speaks with honesty and courage – because she is for me – because she turns my heart toward God and His ways.
As much as I love girlfriend time – and I truly do love girlfriend time – there's a depth to this particular friendship that flows to the core of who I am. I often feel uncommonly exposed during our conversations. Vulnerable, yet safe. She gets in my grill about my priorities, marriage, mothering, ministry, and faith matters ... and I welcome it. I need it.
We all need friends. We need people in our lives that will love us where we are and help us get to a place of higher living. We need friends that will hold us accountable to God's standards - friends that sharpen us.
The Bible makes a compelling point about this type of friendship. "Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]." (Proverbs 27:17, AMP)
Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary on the Biblesays of this principle: "We are cautioned to take heed whom we converse with. And directed to have in view, in conversation, to make one another wiser and better."
Take time to consider your friendships today. Do you have any friends who sharpen you and challenge your "worthy purpose"? Who make you wiser and better? Is there anyone in your life who asks you tough questions, shares godly truths, and confronts you when you need confronted? If so, thank God for her. Purpose to connect with her regularly, grant her permission to continue to speak into your life, and ask that she give you permission to do the same.
Are you that friend to anyone? Do you long to have deeper friendships? If you find yourself in a wide pool of shallow friendships, I'd encourage you to pray about it. Pray that God would bring meaningful friendships to your life and that He would teach you what it looks like to be a good friend.
Sharon, Mary and I delight to come along side of you each day as your Girlfriends In God – to spur you on and encourage you towards Christ, but we could never replace the real-life friendships God intends for you to have. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NIV)
When we have a friend that sharpens and we become a friend that sharpens, our lives are enriched. Think about what our churches, our neighborhoods, our marriages, our work places, and our lives would look like if we all had this type of friend in our lives. Helen Keller said it beautifully: "Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thank You for friendships. You know the people in my life and the needs of my heart. Please help me to grow as a woman in my ability to pour into the lives of my friends. Help my heart be open to godly, constructive feedback that a friend might speak to me, and give me the capacity to love my friends as You love them.
In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What friends came to your mind as you read this today? Consider forwarding this email to them.
Send a card, an email, a letter, or a text to a friend today ... just to bless her.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." Are there any friends in your life that are toxic? If so, prayerfully consider how that relationship affects you, your family, and your faith. If a friend encourages you to make bad choices and to live contrary to God's Word, then it's probably time to reconsider the friendship.
Where does today's devotion find you? Let's talk about it – and pray about it – on my facebook page:www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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Need help finding a trustworthy accountability friend? Pray about it first, then connect with the women's ministry director or family pastor at your church and ask if they could introduce you to some women who would be well suited and available for such a friendship.
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October l5, 2012
I'd Be Happy If...
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't be deceived, my dear brothers (and sisters). Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows" (James 1:16, 17 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Adam and Eve lived in a perfect world. All their needs were cared for. They had perfect communion with God and each other. They were "naked and unashamed." The only restriction placed on them was that they were not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil located in the middle of the Garden. God warned them, "If you eat of it, you will surely die."
As they basked in the light of God's love, darkness slithered into the Garden with his plan to kill, steal and destroy the image bearers. And how did he do it? He did it with the most powerful weapon of all...lies.
"Now the serpent..." The great deceiver clothed himself as a serpent and slithered up to Eve with a game plan to destroy God's prized possession. He didn't come with a sword, or a gun, or even a knife for his attack. He simply wielded lies.
The serpent knew Adam and Eve would not buy into a radical flamboyant denial of God, so he slithered into the garden with a twist and a turn of the truth. He began by causing Eve to doubt... "Did God really say you must not eat from any tree in the garden?" (Genesis 3:1).
Satan knew exactly what God had said. He was simply trying to confuse Eve. Perhaps he was evaluating just how well she knew the truth. He found out.
"We may eat fruit from the tress in the garden," Eve replied, "but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die" (Genesis 3:3).
Bingo. She didn't know the truth that well after all. God never mentioned not touching the fruit. That seems like a pretty good idea, but it was not what God said.
Second he denied God and lied about the consequences of disobedience. Satan said, "You will not surely die." (3:4). He didn't even try to disguise the deception. He told a flat-out lie.
And finally, he told her she could be like God: "For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil (Genesis 3:5). In other words, "God doesn't know what He's talking about. He's holding out on you. You don't need Him. You can be your own god."
Eve rejected the truth and believed the lie. She believed that she could be like god...in control of her own life. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her."
And as she sunk her teeth into the forbidden fruit of deception and the lie slid down her delicate throat, the temptation settled in her soul and fermented into shame and condemnation. Her husband, who chose the woman over God, also felt the sickening rot of sin settle in his very soul. Suddenly shame and fear entered the world, and Adam and Eve hid from God like wayward children.
All temptation is an attempt to get us to live our lives independent of God. Satan is not very creative, but he is very affective. And he has been lying to us ever since. Why? Because it works.
Every one of his lies springs from the idea that happiness is just a decision away. Satan wants you to believe God is holding out on you. You can be like God. You can be your own god.
Rather than being thankful for what we do have, he points out what we don't have. Think about it. Eve had at her disposal every tree in the garden except one. Every one! That is a smorgasbord of goodness! But rather than being thankful, she bought the lie that the one thing she couldn't have was the one thing that would make her happy. I would be happy if... Is any of this sounding familiar to you? It should. Satan uses the same tactics with us that he used with Eve. Ingratitude is the infection of Eden, and it is cured with praise.
Eve believed the enemy's lie over God's truth. His plan worked. But what the serpent did not know was that God's amazing plan of forgiveness and grace was about to unfold. Satan did not win the battle for man's soul in the garden. Jesus Christ won the war on Calvary's Cross. When Jesus said, "It is finished," and then breathed his last, He made a way for all mankind to regain all that Adam and Eve had lost.
Let's Pray
Dear God, help me to recognize the lies of the enemy. I am so thankful for all that You have given me. I commit, right now, that I will not entertain thoughts that "I would be happy if..." but rather praise You for all that You have given me: freedom in Christ, eternal life, access to You though prayer, salvation, redemption, purpose. I love You.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you said or thought, "I would be happy if..."?
What does that thought imply?
Where does true joy come from?
The way we fight Satan's lies is with the Truth. What is one lie he has told you and the truth that proved him wrong? Share your answer in the comment section on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com. Look for today's devotion.
Here's one of mine. Lie: You can't do anything right. Truth: I can do everything through Him (Christ) who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13 NIV)
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Are you ready to begin living the abundant life that God planned all along? Well, let's grab hands and begin the journey of walking in the truth together. My book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, will open your eyes to the truth and set you free from the lies. Just visit www.sharonjaynes.com, read a sample chapter or watch the video trailer to begin the amazing journey.
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October 16, 2012
Master Designer
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For he [Abraham] was looking forward to the city with firm foundations, whose architect and builder is God (Hebrews 11:10, New English).
Friend to Friend
Our son was born to be a builder. From the time he could hold a plastic red hammer in his toddler-sized hands, Jered began hammering imaginary nails into the coffee table, fixing everything that was broken in our house, and drawing crayon blueprints of various objects he planned to build. No wooden surface in our home was safe from Jered's scrutiny or design.
Since my husband enjoyed woodworking as a hobby, he decided to build Jered a miniature workbench beside his own in the garage. Several nights each week, Dan and Jered headed out to the garage to pound and hammer and do what they called "man stuff." I thought it was cute – a philosophy that would drastically change in the years to come.
I knew we had a true builder on our hands when Jered built a clubhouse inside our garage. And what a clubhouse it was – complete with four walls, a roof, windows and a door, carpeted flooring and a window air conditioning unit – all of which he scrounged from neighbors, dumpsters and piles of discarded wood at construction sites. He built a jewelry box for my birthday and a toy box that held his prized Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. If we needed storage cabinets in our garage, Jered drew up blueprints and built them. When we moved to a house with small bedrooms, Jered designed and built a queen-sized bunk bed over a built-in desk and book shelves to conserve space in his room. We no longer bought furniture. Jered simply built it. Looking back, I did not realize that those crayon blueprints and plastic tools would pave the way for our son's career. Today, he owns his own construction business and is a master carpenter and builder.
Jered reminds me of another young man who was destined to become a builder – Jesus. Jesus's earthly father, Joseph, was a carpenter by trade and taught Jesus everything he knew about being a master carpenter. It was not uncommon for the son to carry on his father's business in those days. I often wonder if Jesus didn't have a little workbench beside Joseph's. I am sure Jesus must have followed His daddy around, hammering alongside His father's true blows. I imagine Joseph had to remove a few stray nails driven by Jesus and even repair a few of his Son's "jobs." Did Jesus make a jewelry box for His mother or did He build a piece of furniture that Mary treasured like I treasure everything Jered has ever built for our home? Jesus was and is the ultimate Architect and Builder.
Yes, God is the Master Creator, but His greatest creations are not made of wood or stone. Jesus was and is the creator of eternal masterpieces like you and me. His blueprint for our lives is second to none. His plan is the Word of God and is without flaw or error as it molds us into the image of God – a process that is sometimes painful.
I once promised myself that I would never buy a house that could be described as a "fixer-upper." I don't like fixing things. I want everything to be fixed before I move in. But there I was, buying a town house that needed so much work even the realtor couldn't believe my husband and I wanted to buy it. Why didn't someone stop me? No one did, so the sale was made, and we went to work. Actually, my son and husband went to work while I went crazy.
I had no idea how horrible the process of remodeling could be. Layer after layer of dirt, grime, stains and ugliness was stripped away. Rotten kitchen cabinets were torn from the walls, and rusty appliances were replaced. We basically gutted the whole place and rebuilt it – while living in it. I was not happy!
I will never forget the day I woke up to see a toilet sitting at the foot of our bed. It was at that moment I resolved to never set foot in another house that required so much work. I am so thankful God does not feel that way about me.
Honestly, I used to wonder why God didn't just demolish the old me and build a new one. Then He did just that – through a two-year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that deep, dark and slimy pit, the Father lovingly stripped away old fears and insecurities. From the walls of my heart, He tore the rotten attitudes, undisciplined thoughts and unholy desires that had walked me to the edge of my pit - then pushed me in. He replaced rusty old dreams with new ones and basically, gutted my life to build a new one, a better one, and a stronger one.
I know there are days when the plan of God seems completely wrong and we simply do not understand. Every moment is pregnant with darkness, and our hearts are numb, paralyzed by fear and doubt. We are treading water in the storm-tossed sea of life, desperately longing to see Him walking on the treacherous waves toward us, rescue in His hand. It is in those shadowed moments that we must choose to trust the Plan Maker, the Master Designer, even though our faith is small, and we cannot understand the plan. His ways are higher than our ways. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. And one day, every one of our question marks will be yanked into exclamation points as we see that high plan as He sees it – perfect.
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Today, girlfriend, set aside your meager agenda. Lay down your limited life arrangement and look for God to meet you at the point of surrender, power and victory in His hands. Now that is a great plan.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I stubbornly choose to ignore Your plan for my life. Thank You for always being there for me, ready to rescue me from my own selfish desires and decisions. Help me to remember that Your plan is the highest plan for my life and give me the strength to follow that plan. I want to honor and please You, Lord. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 139. What does this passage of Scripture say to you about God's plan for your life? Do you think certain areas of your life reflect the image of God? Which areas? In what way(s)? Now get brutally honest. Which areas of your life do not reflect the image of God? Are you willing to surrender those areas to Him so He can "remodel" them?
Read and memorize 1 Corinthians 3:16: "Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you?" How does this verse impact the way you live, think, act, etc.?
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Strength for the Storm, and discover the sufficiency of God – even in your darkest moments.
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October 17, 20l2
I'm not_______ enough.
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you?" - (1 Corinthians 3:16).
Friend to Friend
I'm not _____________ enough. You can fill that blank in with smart, talented, gifted, spiritual, or any number of positive attributes. But the root source of each one of those lies is "I'm not good enough." It is one of the enemy's favorite weapons and he uses it to keep God's children in bondage to feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. The bottom line is, the enemy wants you to believe that you are "not enough." Period. But you are enough. You are enough and have been equipped by God and empowered by the Holy Spirit to do everything that God has called you to do.
It seems the message of "I'm not good enough to earn my way to heaven on my own," has been transformed into I'm not good enough... period. God created man and woman and said, "It is good." We are so valuable to God that He gave His only Son to restore our brokenness.
To be honest, I could have been the poster child for the lie, "I'm not good enough." If feeling inadequate was an Olympic event, I would have been on the Corn Flakes box. It was the undercurrent of my entire existence until I finally realized who I was in Christ. Bible teacher Beth Moore said, "In the dead of the night when insecurities crawl on us like fleas, all of us have terrifying bouts of insecurity and panics of insignificance. Our human natures pitifully fall to the temptation to pull out the tape measure and gauge ourselves against people who seem more gifted and anointed by God." That was me.
Many women are living in silent defeat, comparing themselves to other women who are living in secret defeat. I'm not a good mother. I'm not a good wife. I'm not a good Christian. I'm not a good witness. I'm not a good housekeeper. I'm not a good decorator. I'm not a good cook. I'm not a good.... Women are caught in a cycle of the "I'm not good enoughs." One by one the petals fall from the beautiful flower God created us to be. Like ticker tape, our fragmented pieces of confidence litter the streets like the Macy's parade passing by.
Unfortunately, I wasted many precious years held captive by the enemy's lies before I held up my chained hands to God and said, "I'm ready for you to set me free."
Consider this:
Jacob was a liar.
Moses was a stutterer.
Gideon was a coward.
David was an adulterer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Esther was an orphan.
Balaam's donkey was...well, a donkey.
And yet God used each one of them to impact His kingdom.
God doesn't call us because we are particularly gifted or talented. He uses us because we are obedient and dependent on Him. He doesn't call the qualified – He qualifies the called.
The truth is, if you have experienced new birth in Christ, when God looks at you, He sees Jesus. And friend, Jesus is good enough.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You today. Because of Jesus Christ and His work of redemption in me, I am deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing and totally accepted by You. Because of Jesus Christ in me, I am equipped and empowered to do all that You have called me to do. Now, LORD, help me act like it.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to that first sentence in today's devotion. What would you put in that blank?
Is that the truth?
What do you think God would say to you about what you have written in that blank?
OK, I want you to tell me one truth about who you are? Need some help picking a truth? Click over to my website, click on the Free Living Life Resources, and open up the list that says "My New Identity in Christ." Print it out! Tell me just one of the truths that you're going to ponder today. Leave a comment at www.sharonjaynes.com on the blog post with the same title as this devotion, or on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to begin walking in the truth rather than stumbling over the lies? Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Then you'll want to read Sharon's new book,I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Visit her website to read an excerpt. But be warned. This book could change your life!
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October 18, 2012
Words: Power Tools
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things - (Matthew 12:34-35, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Words are power tools that, in the right hands and used correctly, can build and encourage. However, in the wrong hands and used incorrectly words can destroy or, at the very least, cause confusion. Life is filled with men and women who have been hurt and even defeated by words spoken in anger or words rising out of a wounded and bitter heart. In fact, many people are guilty of speaking damaging words with the ulterior motive of flaunting power or demonstrating control. It is so easy for my mouth to be in motion before my mind is in gear, and the result is rarely good or godly. The words we speak can clarify or complicate a situation. I have watched my husband, Dan, defuse an emotional bomb and avoid a potentially explosive situation with a few carefully chosen and quietly spoken words of wisdom. I have also observed him in the art of confrontation – and with Dan, it really is an art. In fact, one person told me that she was halfway home before she realized that she had just been corrected by Dan.
Church bulletins are prime examples of the confusion that misused words can cause. Here are a few real and interesting examples:
"This afternoon there will be a meeting in the south and north end of the church. Children will be baptized at both ends."
"Tuesday at 5 p.m. there will be an ice cream social. All the ladies giving milk - please come early."
"Wednesday, the Ladies Literary Society will meet. Mrs. Johnson will sing, 'Put me in My Little Bed' accompanied by the pastor."
"Thursday at 5 p.m. there will be a meeting of the Little Mothers Club. All those wishing to become little mothers will please meet with the minister in the study."
"This being Easter Sunday, we will ask Mrs. Brown to come forward and lay an egg on the altar."
"The ladies of the church have cast off clothing of every kind, and they can be seen in the church basement on Friday afternoon."
Yes, these illustrations are humorous, but there is nothing funny about the grief that careless words can cause. Unless strained through discipline and holiness, words can impart false perspectives and untruths. However, the right word, spoken at the right time and in the right way can bring order in the midst of confusion, light on a very dark path as well as wisdom and insight.
I believe God gives us spiritual "radar" so we can assess a situation and speak the right word for that circumstance. In fact, Paul writes, "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone" (Colossians 4:6). We just need to check the "radar screen" before we speak.
Solomon offers great wisdom concerning the use of words, "Whoever controls his mouth protects his own life. Whoever has a big mouth comes to ruin" (Proverbs 13:3, GWT). If we do not learn to use and control our tongue, it will use and control us. While it is true that we need to choose our words carefully, it is just as true that the tongue is a spiritual thermometer that reflects the condition of the heart.
I am not a good patient and tend to think that most medical rules apply to everyone else in my life – but not to me. After all, I am a woman and I am a Southerland. According to my husband, it doesn't get much tougher than that. Two years ago, I was slammed with a high fever and blinding headache that sent me to bed for days, something highly unusual for me. I called my doctor. When he heard my symptoms, he told me to come in immediately and even though his waiting room was full, he would make room for me in his already crammed schedule. His urgency was not encouraging.
The minute I walked in his office, the receptionist waved me back to the patient area where a nurse promptly escorted me to an examination room, hurriedly recorded my symptoms, took my temperature, glanced briefly at my tongue and quickly left the room. Minutes later, the doctor and a nurse walked in and stood on the opposite side of the room, almost smiling at me. At this point, I realized that whatever I had was evidently highly contagious and probably fatal. I felt so awful that the latter was most appealing.
"Mary, I am almost certain you have viral meningitis," the doctor said. Seeing the blank look on my face, he explained, "Your abnormally high fever of 104 and severe headache are classis symptoms of meningitis, but we need to run some tests to verify my suspicions. Oh, and by the way, how long have you had the solid white coating on your tongue?" I was stunned! What coating? Why is the color of my tongue even important in determining my illness? The doctor continued, "The health of the tongue is a very strong indicator of the health of the entire body."
The same is true when it comes to the words we speak. "The mouth speaks the things that are in the heart. Good people have good things in their hearts, and so they say good things. But evil people have evil in their hearts, so they say evil things" (Matthew 12:34-35 NCV). If my words are boastful, my heart is insecure. If my words are filthy, my heart is impure, and if my words are critical, my heart is filled with pride and anger. In other words, the problem is not really my mouth, it is my heart. As my mama would say, "What's down in the well comes up in the bucket!"
A minister was making a wooden trellis to support a climbing vine. As he was pounding away, he noticed a little boy who had wandered into his yard and was carefully watching him. The youngster didn't say a word, so the preacher kept on working, thinking the boy would eventually get bored and leave, but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admired, the pastor finally said, "Well, son, trying to pick up some pointers on gardening?" The little boy grinned and replied, "Nope, I'm just waiting to hear what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer."
The subject of taming the tongue is a hard one. Since communication is a gift from God, He has a plan for the right way to use it. My problem is that I tend to think my plan is better. I know. I can be arrogant ... and stubborn. Someone recently sent me this prayer: "Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth." Amen!
It has been estimated that most people speak enough words in one week to fill a large 500 page book. In the average lifetime, this would amount to 3,000 volumes or 1,500,000 pages. Let me ask you a question. What kind of book did you write today for your children – your spouse – your friends and co-workers? Did you use words to encourage someone today? Join me in a fresh commitment to carefully choose and lovingly speak words of life.
Let's Pray
Father, I can be so careless with the words I speak. Please forgive me and help me learn how to control my tongue. Create in me a clean heart, God, so that I can speak words filled with grace and love. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Colossians 4:6. "Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone."
How would you describe words that are "gracious?"
How can our words be "effective" in the lives of others?
What do you think Paul means when he says that we can have the "right answer for everyone?"
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress, and discover the peace of God – even in your most chaotic moments.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to deal with the anger in your life. (Join now and have access to all lessons covered in 2012 including a study on the armor of God, how to tame your tongue and how to live a balanced life.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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October l9, 20l2
Lions and Tigers and Bears! Oh, My!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I love you, O Lord, my strength. - (Psalm 18:1, ESV)
Friend to Friend
I will never forget how the movie The Wizard of Oz lingered in my heart for days after I first saw it. I was just a child like the heroine Dorothy who won me over the instant she sang the dreamy lines of Somewhere Over the Rainbow. I was deeply moved by the story of this young girl who had been caught up by a complicated dog matter and a whirling tornado that transported her to a strange land far, far away.
While watching the adventure play out on our humble television set, I joined the story in my imagination. I cheered for Dorothy as she came to the defense of her spirited puppy, Toto, when a mean, witchy woman wanted to have him killed. I sank deep into the couch cushions and trembled with fear when the black and white farmhouse was lifted in a storm then fell crashing down in an unfamiliar place of Technicolor.
Along the yellow brick road, I made friends when Dorothy made friends. Never again would I look at a scarecrow, a lion or a tin can the same way! I shared in her longing for a safe return home to her Auntie Em and their farm in Kansas. My heart-hopes soared with hers as Dorothy was told that there was a powerful man in the Emerald City who could help her: the Wizard of Oz!
As with any good story, there were scary struggles and frustrating setbacks. Flying monkeys captured her... a wicked witch tried to destroy her... but even still, determined Dorothy continued on the yellow brick road toward the Emerald City because her hope was there. Her hopes were placed in the powers possessed by the famed Wizard of Oz.
Sadly, after all the ups and down they went through, Dorothy and her friends found out that the wizard was, in fact, powerless. Powerless! What a stinkin' disappointment!
Dorothy was crushed. Her buddies were crushed. I was crushed. How in the world could this happen? Hope had skipped along side of them the entire journey down the yellow brick road. How could anticipated strength possibly fade to weakness?
Alas, it did.
Hearts were heavy with ache.
All seemed lost as Dorothy and her companions confronted their disappointments. Then a surprising shimmer of hope broke through when it was revealed that Dorothy actually possessed the power that she needed to get home. She had the power all along. Her ruby red slippers were the key!
Woohoo!
Let me just say – at this point – happy dances were thrown down both on the screen and in my living room.
Tears fell as goodbyes and hugs were shared. Then Dorothy grabbed Toto and made her way home by calling on the power that had been with her all along. Within seconds, they found themselves somewhere over the rainbow of a dream: home. Safe and sound.
To this day, that story still moves me.
I can relate to Dorothy on so many levels. She was a girl with a dream and a song in her heart. An average, ordinary girl who had to deal with complicated people and sort through difficult circumstances. A girl who knew what it was to place her hope in other people and be disappointed. A girl who finally came upon the strength she needed to find her way home.
Isn't that all of us?
Aren't we continually looking for the strength we need to bring our hopes into reality?
Moses was a man who faced complicated challenges and whirling storms of circumstances too. Born in a time when he, as a Hebrew baby, was supposed to have been killed, Moses was saved by God's sovereign grace when Pharaoh's daughter pulled him from the Nile and kept him as her own.
A Hebrew among Egyptians, Moses was raised in a land and culture that was far, far removed from his heritage and from the One true God of Israel. As far as black and white is from Technicolor.
You know this story! We saw it on the flannel graph boards in Sunday school as little girls. We watched Charlton Heston acted it out on the movie "The Ten Commandments." Moses had it all in the palace – lost it all when he murdered an Egyptian soldier – then, eventually, risked it all for the holy God who called out to him and commissioned him from a flame. (Need a refresher course on the details? Go read the book of Exodus. It's completely amazing.)
Moses set out to free his people in the power of God. Though the Pharaoh doubted God's strength, the Lord displayed His might, plague after plague, until finally it looked like Pharaoh got the memo. He let God's people go. Moses's yellow brick road of rescue led him and the Israelites out of Egypt and into a dry and dreary desert. (Say that ten times fast!) As they ran away from Pharaoh's army, the Israelites ran smack dab into a seemingly insurmountable obstacle: the Red Sea. Major problem.
Not one to be hindered by impossibility, the LORD took care of business in a huge and powerful way as He parted and held back the Red Sea for Moses and the Israelites so they could escape destruction and experience deliverance. After His people crossed over safely, God made another strength statement by sweeping the Pharaoh and his army into the sea, killing every last one of them. (Exodus 13 and 14)
My goodness. What a story! What. A. God! Girl – if this doesn't get you excited about the strength of God, I'm not quite sure what will!
"Israel saw the great power that the Lord used against the Egyptians, so the people feared the Lord, and they believed in the Lord and in his servant Moses." (Exodus 14:31)
Then a big ole' party went down as Moses and the Israelites sang to the LORD a song that's commonly referred to as the Song of Moses.
The Lord is my strength and my song;
he has become my salvation.
He is my God, and I will praise him,
my father's God, and I will exalt him.(Exodus 15:2)
In Exodus 15, Moses calls God his Strength and celebrates the power that brought salvation to his people. Oz is the Hebrew word for strength. How about that!? El Sali, is a Hebrew name for God of my Strength; God my Rock.
King David also calls God his Strength in Psalm 59:9, O my Strength, I will watch for you, for you, O God, are my fortress. Then again in verse 17, O my Strength, I sing praise to you; you, O God, are my fortress, my loving God. (Psalm 59:17)
You might be struggling with this... wondering where the strength of God is in your story. Maybe things are good for you right now, but you know of others who are in shady places along their yellow brick roads. Each of us is guaranteed life challenges, but God promises to be our strength when we call on Him. He is not a puffed up and powerless wizard of Oz hiding behind a curtain, pulling strings. He is the God of Oz – El Sali –the God of Strength who loves you and longs to move in and through your life.
Will you trust Him deeper today and allow His joy to be your strength?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, my Strength, El Sali, You are powerful and loving. Thank you for allowing me – this average, ordinary girl with complicated relationships and difficult circumstances – to have access to your perfect Strength when I am weak. Help me to trust you when all my heart sees are lions and tigers and bears.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the first half of Psalm 84:5. Blessed are those whose strength is in you. Who is this comment directed to? In what ways has this been true in your life?
Nehemiah 8:10 says, "...the joy of the Lord is your strength." What do you think the joy of the Lord looks like? Have you seen it lately? If so, in whom?
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Don't you just love a good story? I sure do. I'd love to hear your strength story! Stop by my Facebook page right now and leave me a comment about how God has shown himself mighty in your life! The strength-party is here: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
To be honest, there are a million times that I feel more weak than strong. What a battle! Yet, I know the best response is to trust in God's strength and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My new CD, Uncluttered is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. We are running a great CD Special now, so swing by www.GwenSmith.net...or you can download the songs from iTunes or Amazon.
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October 22, 20l2
Set Free
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free," (John 8:32 NIV).
Friend to Friend
For fifteen years, Leeanne was emotionally and verbally abused by her mother. Every day she heard that she was a stupid worthless failure. Her mother told her that she was "ugly" and "fat" and "not good enough." "No man will ever want you," she scorned.
Leeanne grew up afraid of women and hating herself. "Why can't I be different?" she wondered. She believed her mother's estimation of her and lived in defeat. Leeanne grabbed attention any way she could, and by the time she was twenty-three, she had three abortions on her medical record. The guilt and shame of those abortions compounded her feelings of worthlessness.
But something amazing happened to Leeanne when she was twenty-four. She accepted Jesus as her Lord and Savior and became a new creation. She knew that God forgave her the moment she asked – totally and completely. However, Satan continued to remind her of the terrible mistakes of her past. How could I have killed my children? What would my friends think if they knew the truth? I can never let anyone know about my past. Some things are simply unforgivable in human eyes.
Leeanne met and married a wonderful Christian man. They began their life of ministry as he pastored a church in a small community. God blessed them with three wonderful children, but still the shame of her past lingered.
"I felt so unworthy of my husband's love," she said. "I felt I wasn't good enough to be his wife. I never told him about my past. It was a secret that weighed me down."
Leeanne went to a women's retreat and picked up one of my books, Your Scars are Beautiful to God. For the first time, she began to heal from the wounds her mother had inflicted on her little girl heart. She realized that is was Satan who continued to taunt her with those lies and make her feel as if they were true. Then she did something that really made the enemy mad. She forgave her mother. Even though her mother had since died, she forgave her as if she were standing before her that very day.
Leeanne imagined Jesus erasing away all her faults, especially the ones that her mother had so maliciously written on the chalkboard of her mind. "All gone," she said. "I'm set free."
But there was one more step to Leeanne's freedom. See, as long as she kept her past a secret, she would never be totally free. "I prayed all day and night for the courage to tell my husband about the three abortions, and I finally did. No one in the world knew about the abortions but me. I had to tell my husband the secret so Satan could not use it against me any longer."
"Finally, I did it. I told him the truth. But he did not react the way I imagined he would. He held me in his arms and cried. 'I can't believe you have held on to this for so long alone,' he said."
Leeanne went on to say...
"I am no longer shameful. I am pure."
"I am no longer ugly. I am beautiful."
"I am no longer unlovable. I am dearly loved."
Leeanne recognized the lies. Leeanne rejected the lies. Leeanne replaced the lies with truth. She is now walking in the truth as a holy, chosen, dearly loved, child of God.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank You for setting me free from condemnation. Thank you for Your grace – receiving the gift I don't deserve, and for mercy – not receiving the punishment I do deserve. Thank You for making me a new creation in Christ – pure, holy, cleansed.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there some secret in your life that the enemy is holding over you?
Do you want to be free?
Often, an important step to freedom, after receiving God's forgiveness, is telling someone and using what you have been through to help others. Then the enemy can't use it against you any longer. If you don't have a trusted friend with whom to share, I would like to be that friend. You can simply e-mail me and tell me how God has forgiven you. You can write me directly at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com. If you would like to tell your story publically (and I encourage you to do so) click over to my blog page, look for this blog entry, and share your story with your sisters.
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Do you want to experience the freedom that Leeanne experienced in her life? It begins with recognizing the lies and replacing them with the truth. It's time to renew your mind and think God's thoughts rather than being held in bondage by the enemy's deceptions. If you would like help on that journey, check out my book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. Also, if you have wounds in your life that have yet to heal, Your Scars are Beautiful to God will walk you through the steps to freedom, and then show you how to begin sharing your story...turning your pain into purpose.
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October 23, 2012
How to Manage Emotions Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control. (Proverbs 25:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
You have probably discovered the truth that you simply cannot trust your emotions because they are unreliable, misleading and will constantly betray you. A friend verbally blasts you and rage consumes your spirit. Your business is in decline and depression slithers into your heart. Caught in the comparison trap, you find yourself avoiding those who are more successful. Anger is a constant companion, finances are tight and rest is a distant memory. A sense of bone-deep weariness saturates your soul as your own heart ridicules the authenticity of your life. "You might as well give up. It's no use. Just quit!" the enemy taunts.
Each day seems to offer the perfect setting for negative emotions to take hold of and destroy a life, but daily life is also the perfect setting for emotional control to shine. Control puts emotions in their God-shaped place, discarding negative emotions as the spiritual leeches they are while safeguarding and reinforcing positive emotions. I am amazed at the number of people who base eternal decisions on feelings while seeking confirmation and even direction from emotional responses. I almost missed one of the highest plans for my life because it didn't feel right.
My husband, Dan, was Youth Pastor at Sheridan Hills Baptist in Hollywood, Florida, where Bill Billingsley, one of the greatest men I have ever known, was senior pastor. He and his amazing wife, Betty Jean, had an enormous impact on me personally and on the ministry of speaking and writing to which God has now called me. It was in the midst of my God-ordained transformation at Sheridan Hills and the youth program's greatest growth that Dan dropped the bomb – he felt God calling him back to Southwestern Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas. Well, I felt God calling him to stay put!
I loved Sheridan Hills. It was home. Going back to seminary meant I would have to go back to teaching elementary school. Teaching wasn't the problem, but placing our son, Jered, in daycare was. We had waited so long for this chosen baby, and the thought of handing over his care to strangers broke my heart. How could this possibly be God's plan when it felt so wrong?
My favorite worship time at Sheridan Hills was the Wednesday night service -- for two reasons. I enjoyed the contemporary worship and in-depth Bible teaching. I also treasured the fact that, each week, while Dan was in meetings and Jered was in the nursery, I could slip into the empty, darkened auditorium for an hour of solitude. However, the Wednesday night after Dan shared the numbing probability of our return to seminary, my usually refreshing solitude dissolved into a tantrum of crying, praying and pleading with God to let us stay.
When a hand gently patted my shoulder, I looked up into the tear-filled eyes of my pastor. "I have something to tell you," he said. Pastor Billingsley was not only a spiritual mentor in my life, but a loving father figure as well. Expecting a word of wisdom or encouragement, I was shattered by his words, "I have cancer." Speechless, we sat in pain-filled silence, weeping; each flailing in our own sea of emotions and questions. Bill Billingsley then spoke the words that have guided my steps from the moment he gave them life. "Mary, just remember that God's will penalizes no one."
I immediately knew I had a choice to make. I could stubbornly hold on to my emotional comfort or submit to God's will. My choice to obey God plotted the course for an incredible journey filled with purpose, a life of sharing God's hope and healing with women across the world through speaking and writing. Had my emotions ruled, I would have missed God's best and highest plan for my life.
Emotions are a gift from God. While emotions themselves are not sin, the place we give them can be. Since God created us with the capacity for strong emotions, we can rest assured that He has a plan for managing them. It is a step-by-step plan that begins with our commitment to being honest and transparent about every emotion, especially the negative ones.
Step one:Identify the source of negative emotions. Proverbs 23:7 (NIV) reminds us of a simple but powerful truth, "For as a man thinks, so is he." Negative emotions are nourished in many ways – by daily challenges, a painful past, hurt or rejection, an undisciplined thought life or Satan himself. Some people qualify as "carriers" because they not only transmit negative emotions but constantly use others as their personal dumping ground. In managing negative emotions, it is imperative that we identify their source and eliminate it.
Step two: Label negative emotions correctly. We are masters at mislabeling emotions because we fear exposing our true emotions will affect the way others see us. It is time for us to take off and burn the emotional masks we wear because healing and restoration begin at the point of emotional integrity.
Going back to seminary proved to be a spiritual marker for our family. At first, I cried every day and seethed in anger each night. I couldn't blame God so I blamed Dan! I missed being home with Jered, even though he loved the seminary daycare and Miss Nancy, his incredibly gifted and caring teacher. I complained about others raising my son, even though Dan picked him up after lunch each day and kept him every afternoon. I resented having to work, even though my teaching assignment was at one of the best elementary schools in Fort Worth and my principal was a precious Christian man.
Gradually, God broke my hardened heart as I realized that Jered was flourishing in daycare as he made wonderful friends, learned how to adjust to changes, and enjoyed priceless time with his dad. Teaching school became a passion and, in many ways, prepared me for the calling I now live.
Looking back, I now see how I gave negative emotions free reign. The result was wasted emotional energy, health problems, spiritual disobedience, and mental exhaustion. Do not walk that path, girlfriend. Instead, right now, commit to emotional integrity and discipline. God will surely empower that commitment.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, knowing I have allowed emotions to dictate my actions. I no longer want to live at the mercy of my fickle emotions. I want to control and manage them in a way that pleases You and brings emotional discipline to my life. Today, I choose to surrender the control of my emotions to You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to make a list of the top five emotional responses common in your life. What one of these emotions do you experience the most?
Beside each emotion, write one habit you can incorporate into your life that will enable you to control that emotion.
Identify the activities, relationships or habits that drain you instead of replenish you. Eliminate those that are negative.
Keep an emotional diary for 5 days. Record any emotional outbursts and the reason behind those outbursts. Surrender each emotion to the power of God.
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Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress, and discover the peace of God – even in your most chaotic moments.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to deal with the anger in your life. (Join now and have access to all lessons covered in 2012 including a study on the armor of God, how to tame your tongue and how to live a balanced life.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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October 24, 2012
How to Manage Emotions Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control. - (Proverbs 25:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Many people are imprisoned by feelings of inferiority, and the results are always disastrous. Constructive criticism is perceived as an emotional attack. Jealousy burgeons as others receive the accolades we desperately crave. Decisions are made and the course of a life is determined so that fragile egos are fed, excluding God's plan and purpose. Comparison reigns as a false idol attempting to validate worth and success. Inferiority crosses over to pride, and sin reigns. It is time for us to take control of and learn how to manage negative emotions.
Step one:Identify the source of negative emotions. Proverbs 23:7 (NIV) reminds us of a simple but powerful truth, "For as a man thinks, so is he." Negative emotions are nourished in many ways – by daily challenges, a painful past, hurt or rejection, an undisciplined thought life or Satan himself. Some people qualify as "carriers" because they not only transmit negative emotions but constantly use others as their personal dumping ground. In managing negative emotions, it is imperative that we identify their source and eliminate it.
Step two: Label negative emotions correctly. We are masters at mislabeling emotions because we fear exposing our true emotions will affect the way others see us. It is time for us to take off and burn the emotional masks we wear because healing and restoration begin at the point of emotional integrity.
Step three: Learn to manage emotions. It is not enough to acknowledge the presence of negative emotions or even understand why they exist. We must take action because if we don't, negative emotions will. We must not only be able to manage negative emotions, but we must be able to respond correctly to negative emotions produced by the sometimes abrasive behavior of others. The people in our lives watch carefully, curious to see what happens when the pressure is on. Our prayer should be the same as the psalmist, "Create in me a new, clean heart, O God, filled with clean thoughts and right desires" (Psalm 51:10).
On the other hand, we can put negative emotions to work in our lives. Emotions can be like runaway horses. You are trampled by someone with a hidden agenda, kicked in the gut by a friend, thrown by the lies of a family member or crushed by a lack of integrity and character in those in authority over you. Emotions can easily stampede out of control and into sin.
The success of emotional integrity lies in the one who holds the reins. We must constantly choose to surrender every emotion to the supernatural control of God because when we do, the Holy Spirit empowers that choice, produces control and transforms emotional bondage into emotional freedom. Learning to control anger is a crucial life lesson. The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons or squeezes our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us.
When Jesus saw money-changers desecrating the temple of God, He was furious! Yet, He modeled the right way to harness emotions and use them for good. I have heard many Bible teachers and preachers attempt to soften the response of Jesus, but the truth is - He was irate! I can almost see His face shrouded in plain old fury as He contemplated His options. If I had been in His place, I can tell you that those wicked men would have been toast, but before Jesus faced the intruders, He stepped aside to braid a whip, not because He had completed "Whip Braiding 101," but because He was taking the time to harness His emotions. Jesus then used that harnessed anger to drive the money-changers out of the temple, correcting a wrong. We choose where to invest every ounce of emotional energy we possess. Like Jesus, we must learn to invest wisely, in order to reap the benefits of healthy emotions, harnessed and trained by godly discipline.
Emotional bankruptcy is too often responsible for the destruction of our emotional health as well as the health of our relationships. When we value success over obedience or comfort over character, the result is a life without balance and purpose. We must intentionally monitor emotional withdrawals and the impact they will have on the life journey to which God has called us.
Daily life provides the opportunity for countless emotional withdrawals that are good, right and ordained by God. I will never forget the night we found a broken and defeated young pastor standing at our front door. With tears streaming down his face, he told us his wife was having an affair and wanted a divorce. Certain that his ministry was doomed, this precious and gifted servant poured out his pain and defeat. For months, Dan and I ministered to this stellar young man, loving him, encouraging him, making him part of our family while he tried desperately to save his marriage.
When it became clear that his wife was determined to leave, we repeatedly assured him that God would once again use him for Kingdom work. Today, that once broken young man is married to a beautiful, godly woman who adores him and they have three incredible children. The church he now pastors is exploding in growth, changing lives and impacting the world for Jesus Christ! The time and energy we poured into this young man was a worthy emotional investment, to say the least, and one of our greatest blessings in ministry.
However, some emotional deposits are not good, right, healthy or God-ordained. Each day is jam-packed with lifeless places in which we can invest emotional energy. There are those who look to us to be their faithful savior or an always available crisis manager. Those roles belong to God alone.
We all know about bounced checks. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why banks don't adopt my obviously superior philosophy about checking accounts. It goes something like this, "As long as there are checks, there is money." Sadly, my current bank is rather narrow-minded in this area, so the reality is that our checks will bounce when our bank account is overdrawn and out of balance. The same is true in life.
We constantly need to check our emotional balance, guarding the emotional withdrawals we allow and diligently making consistent emotional deposits. Prayer, solitude, Bible study, friendships, service, accountability and a guarded thought life are just a few of the deposits that can make the difference between emotional health and emotional bankruptcy. Paul says it well, "God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing" (Ephesians 2:10, NCV). In other words, we need to do what God has called us to do – period.
Emotional imbalance occurs when we operate in our own strength, doing our "own thing" instead of wholly depending upon God and living in the parameters of His will. When we abandon all that we are to His strength, purpose and power, the Father deposits everything we need to accomplish every good work He created us to do.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for giving me the gift of emotions. Please help me learn how to manage and control those emotions so that they are assets instead of liabilities. I want to become a godly woman of discipline, but I can't even start that journey without your power. I choose to spend time in Your Word and in prayer. I submit my emotions to You and ask that You use them in my life for Your glory. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to consider the following questions:
Who or what pushes your emotional buttons the most?
What are your present emotional management skills? How well do they work?
What factors in your daily schedule make you more prone to lose emotional control?
Read and memorize our key verse for today. Record it in your journal. In your own words, write how this verse can help you manage your emotions. Determine one change you need to make in your life in order to allow God to help you control your emotions in a way that honors Him.
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Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Anger Management 911, and discover the peace of God – even in your most chaotic moments.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to deal with the anger in your life. (Join now and have access to all lessons covered in 2012 including a study on the armor of God, how to tame your tongue and how to live a balanced life.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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October 25, 2012
Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us," - (Romans 8:37 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I can still remember when God first gave me a glimpse of what my future held. Writing, speaking, radio ministry, mentoring. A host of insecurities rose to the surface and the fear of rejection wrapped its fingers around my skinny neck. But God assured me I was not alone, and He was perfectly capable of doing everything He promised. I only needed to be obedient and say "yes" to Him.
We have only to flip through the pages of the Bible to see that overcoming the fear of rejection is a thread that runs through the record of history.
Noah overcame the fear of rejection when he obeyed God and built an Ark on dry land.
Abram overcame the fear of rejection when he left his homeland with no clear direction as to where he would go.
Jacob overcame the fear of rejection when he returned to his homeland and his brother whom he had deceived.
Joseph overcame the fear of rejection when he refused Potiphar's wife's sexual advances.
Moses overcame the fear of rejection when he went before the Pharaoh and demanded the Israelites' release.
Joshua overcame the fear of rejection when he told the army their orders were to march around Jericho in silence for seven days.
Ruth, the Moabite, overcame her fear of rejection when she gleaned wheat in the field of a Jew.
Samuel overcame the fear of rejection when the people decided they wanted a King rather than God to be their ruler.
David overcame the fear of rejection when he offered to slay Goliath.
Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego overcame the fear of rejection when they refused to bow and worship King Nebuchadnezzar.
Esther overcame the fear of rejection when she went before the king to plead for the lives of her people.
Each and every one of the prophets overcame the fear of rejection as they delivered God's message of judgment to the people.
When we turn the final page of the Old Testament and look into the New Testament, we see the same pattern of courage. Jesus, his disciples, Paul, and the expanding body of believers all faced and overcame the fear of rejection. Paul's attitude was "For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:21). It doesn't matter what anyone thinks! "If God is for us, who can be against us? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies" (Romans 8:31, 33).
And then the ultimate rejection occurred when our Lord and Savior hung on the Roman cross. "He was despised and rejected by men" (Isaiah 53:3). But Jesus overcame the fear of rejection and the result was his glorification. He knew crucifixion was imminent. Just before He was arrested Jesus prayed with His disciples: "Father, the time has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify you," (John 17:1). He didn't mention His rejection and death on the cross that was ahead of Him. He prayed that God would be glorified. That was foremost in His mind and on His heart. Likewise, I believe that we overcome the fear of rejection when glorifying God is foremost on our minds and in our hearts.
The apostle Paul faced rejection at every turn. In his letter to the Thessalonians he wrote:
"We had previously suffered and been insulted in Philippi, as you know, but with the help of our God we dared to tell you his gospel in spite of strong opposition. For the appeal we make does not spring from error or impure motives, nor are we trying to trick you. On the contrary, we speak as men approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel. We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts," (1 Thessalonians 2:2-4).
Whether it is sharing the gospel or the scars of our past, there will be some who do not accept us. We certainly are not above the prophets in the Old Testament or the disciples in the New. Not everyone liked what they had to say, but they pressed through the fear and walked in faith. It is because of them we have the gospel at our very finger tips!
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank You that I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. Help me not to give up when times get tough, but to persevere with endurance. I know that not everyone will like me or what I have to say about You, but I pray for the courage and the power of the Holy Spirit to speak when You lead and to keep quiet when You lead. Help me know the difference.
In Jesus' Name
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you gave up too soon?
Is there an area in your life where you might need to pick back up where you left off and get busy?
Has the fear of rejection kept you from obeying God in some area of your life? If so, what are you going to do about it?
If you are ready to say "yes" to whatever God is calling you to do...it's time to say it out loud! Click over to my blog page and leave a comment on today's entry. Tell me what God is calling you to do and I'll pray for you as you begin!
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God– Find peace and purpose in the hurts of your past. Do you feel like God is calling you to tell your story? Are you reluctant to say "yes" to what God is calling you to do in ANY area of your life? This book can give you the courage you need to say "yes" to God. Read a sample chapter or watch a video at http://sharonjaynes.com/store/products/your-scars-are-beautiful-to-god/
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October 26, 20l2
When Love Trumps Anger
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires" - James 1:19-20 (NIV).
Friend To Friend
"I'm a terrible mom!"
Do you ever say these words? I do. I did that day. The day I was working in my office, minding my own business, when my oldest son threw a paper airplane at the back of my head. Not one to normally welcome an air attack, I gave him the stern "mom voice," and asked him to stop messing around. I told him to give me some private time so I could get some work done. He agreed, and turned to leave. Surprisingly, he then jumped around and threw it at me again! Well, let me tell you, my grace-o-meter was reading pretty low at this point! I barked like an angry dog. "What in the world do you think you are doing? I just told you that I needed to be left alone so I can get some work done! Stop it!"
"But Mom, there's a message on the plane," he tenderly replied. "Read it."
As I unfolded the airplane made of orange construction paper, I saw this message written in pink marker: "Mom, I Love You." His affectionate declaration was followed by a few X's and O's. You know: hug, hug, kiss, kiss. Pure precious. Big fail.
"Nice!" I said to myself. "Loser-mom strikes again." I had scolded my son and reacted out of frustration with an unkind tone. All the while, my son was trying to communicate love to me.
I felt horrible. Time seemed to stand still as I started to beat myself up.
Shame began to fill my heart, but as it did the Spirit of God within me gently nudged – reminding me that condemnation is not from Him ... that His conviction was purposed to spur me on toward choosing a godly response. So I chose love - God's love alive in me. As I chose God's better way, the grace way, His love trumped my anger. It's weightier. Praise God!
I called my son back into my office, and apologized for my behavior. I welcomed this tall, lanky teen to sit on my lap and told him that – while I'm not particularly fond of airplane attacks, especially while I'm working, I am fond of love attacks. We held each other and had a very sweet moment.
As Preston and I hugged, God reminded me of this principle: When we allow His love to trump our anger, we are able to experience restoration in relationships.
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires (James 1:19-20 NIV).
The Bible tells us that we are to be slow to anger. It is a lesson that I am still learning. Now, that doesn't mean we should never be angry. Jesus exhibited righteous anger in the Jerusalem temple when he drove out the merchants that were buying and selling there. Righteous anger is permissible. We should be angry about sin and injustice. But when we respond to others in anger, it becomes our sin.
Got any relationships that are in need of restoration? Is there any anger, unforgiveness, or bitterness in your heart that might be gaining a stronghold in your life and keeping you from God's best? The benefits of allowing the love of God to trump the anger in your heart are tremendous, but the application can be very challenging. We can't overcome our natural, sinful tendencies to react, and overreact, in anger alone. We need God's help. His strength will meet us at our need when we call on Him. The Holy Spirit will help us to respond in God's strength, not our own.
Call on His strength today.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Thank you for leading me in Your way of grace today. I need Your help! I confess my anger/bitterness/unforgiveness right now with _______________. Please forgive me. Please bring restoration to the relationships that have been affected by my anger. Help me recognize when I over-react or when I respond in anger that is ungodly. Give me the strength to respond in love – to be slow to speak and quick to listen – so that You can be glorified through my behavior.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to trade anger for love? In what relationships? How?
Spend a few moments in confession and ask God to bring a fresh awareness to your soul each time you react in anger.
Are you in a Bible study? Knowing God's Word is essential to growing in faith. Join a local Bible study today, or begin reading a book of the Bible on your own. Try reading the book of James this week. It's only five chapters.
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Friend – I'm a very passionate person. When my kids were little, I over-reacted far too often. And although God has been working in my heart for years on this issue, I humbly confess that anger still comes much too easy to me. If you struggle with this, you are not alone. Need prayer? Let's meet on my Facebook page – www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic to PRAY for one another today.
To be honest, there are a million times that I feel like screaming instead of praising. What a crazy mess I am! Yet, I know the best response is to trust God and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My new CD, Uncluttered is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. We are running a great CD Special now, so swing by www.GwenSmith.net...or you can download the songs from iTunes or Amazon.
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October 29, 2012
Doubt Your Doubts
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 11:1 - "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see."
Friend To Friend
Billy Graham once said, "Most of us do not understand nuclear fission, but we accept it. I don't understand television, but I accept it. I don't understand radio, but every week my voice goes out around the world, and I accept it. Why is it so easy to accept all these man-made miracles and so difficult to accept the miracles of the Bible?"
Faith is a personal issue and often demands that we give up what we can seefor what we cannot see, but just because we can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there. Let me share some ways to weaken your doubts and strengthen your faith:
Read the Bible consistently.
Romans 10:17 "Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God."
You may have heard the familiar Old Chinese saying, "There is a good dog and a bad dog fighting within each of us. The one that is going to win is the one we feed the most." The same is true when it comes to faith and doubt. We weaken our doubt by strengthening our faith in God. The Word of God feeds the new nature God gives us when we surrender our life to Him. As that new nature grows stronger, the old sinful nature becomes weaker and as that old nature becomes weaker, faith in God grows. A steady diet of the Word produces strong faith. Read the bible each day. Memorize a verse of Scripture each week.
Turn to God constantly.
Mark 9:14-29 tells of the man who brings his demon-possessed son to Jesus Christ and pleads, "If you can do anything, take pity on us and help us." Jesus responds, "If I can! All things are possible to him who believes." The dad exclaimed, "Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief!"
Sounds just like us. We believe but we also doubt. In those moments, we must be honest enough to cry out to God. Jesus didn't punish this man for his doubt. He healed his son. God always responds to honesty.
Focus on God continually.
Psalm 34:6 "This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles."
We focus on the mountain while crying out to God for help, wondering if He really will do anything. We need to remember what God promises and does not promise. God does not promise to remove the mountain or that we will even understand the mountain. However, God does promise to help us climb the mountain and He does promise to climb it with us. We must make the continual choice to fix our gaze on God and our glance on the circumstances. When doubt comes, refuse it.
Seek out faith-builders persistently.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 "And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
We need to look for people who will encourage us to be faithful instead of constantly looking for ways to undermine our faith. Did you hear about the farmer that had a brilliant dog? He also had a neighbor that was negative - no matter what. If it was raining, the farmer would say to his neighbor, "Boy, look at it rain. God's washing everything clean." The neighbor said, "Yeah, but if this rain keeps up, it's going to flood." Then the sun would come out and the neighbor would say, "If it keeps that up, it's going to burn the crops." The farmer thought, "What am I going to do with this guy?" He made a plan. The farmer trained his dog to walk on water. He didn't tell his neighbor - just took him duck hunting. Boom! Boom! They got two ducks. The farmer said to his dog, "Go get 'em." The dog sprinted across the water, picked up the ducks and hopped back in the boat, nothing wet, just his paws. With a confident smile, the farmer asked his doubting neighbor, "What do you think of that?" The neighbor quickly replied, "He can't swim, can he?" Do you know people like the neighbor? Run from the doubters in your life. We struggle enough with doubt on our own and should not compound it by investing time in doubters and cynics. Look for people who walk in faith, who believe God and study His Word. They will encourage and build your faith while weakening your doubts.
Women have so much in common. We have the same problems, the same fears and the same doubts. Don't let fear and doubt wreak havoc in your heart and mind. Stay in God's Word. Don't be afraid or ashamed to cry out to Him when you are afraid. Keep your eyes on Him and look for other women who do the same. Will you join me in a new commitment to becoming a woman of faith? Remember, when doubt knocks on the door, just send faith to answer it - and you will find no one there.
Let's Pray
Father God, I want to become a woman of faith, but I am so weak. I constantly battle fear and my faith seems so small. Please give me a new thirst for Your Word. I choose to focus on You, Father, instead of focusing on my circumstances. Help me find faith and learn to be a faith-builder each day. I now turn to You, Lord.
In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your top five fears.
Choose one verse from today's devotion for each fear.
When that fear comes, cry out to God and pray that verse of Scripture aloud.
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal.
Share your decision to be a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire.
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October 30, 2012
Getting out of God's Way
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns," - (Philippians 1:6 New Living Translation).
Friend to Friend
He ironed. I watched.
I stood in the door frame of my guest room, watching my nephew Jonathan iron the wrinkles out of his crumpled shirt, the rumpled creases out of his crumpled heart. He ironed and talked. I watched and listened.
Jonathan, my twenty-seven-year-old nephew, stopped by for a visit on his way to a wedding in my hometown. I'll take every opportunity to spend time with my two nephews, Stu and Jonathan, and their sister Grace Ann. I've always been convinced that the stork dropped them off at the wrong address, missing my doorstep by 200 miles or so. I'm just crazy about them.
But life hasn't been so easy for this precious nephew, or his siblings. While they have an adoring godly mother, it has been the absence of a father that has left a lingering ache – an oozing wound. Each one has reacted differently to the abandonment, but it has been Jonathan, the youngest, who seems to have struggled the most.
I've always known that God had a special plan for Jonathan. The shaping and molding by God has been fierce, intentional, deliberate. But today he ironed.
"Aunt Sharon, can I borrow your iron to press my shirt for the wedding?"
"Sure, Bud," I replied as I pointed him to the board.
I plugged the iron in the outlet, leaned against the doorframe, and watched.
As Jonathan moved the iron back and forth across the wrinkled fabric, he ironed out much more than a shirt. He ironed out the wrinkles in his heart, pressed out the pain of life without a dad, smoothed out the hurt of abandonment, and steamed out the stubborn creases of years of questions. Why did his dad leave? Why wasn't he worth sticking around for? Why wasn't he worth the effort? Why was he more affected and infected by the virus of abandonment than his siblings?
He ironed.
He pressed.
He talked.
I watched.
I listened.
I prayed.
I loved.
"God has done so much for me and in me," he explained. "It has taken a long time, but He has healed me. He has mended my heart. I'm ready to move on now. More than my dad coming home to me, I pray that he will come home to Jesus. That's what I want more than anything."
Twenty minutes later, Jonathan finished ironing. One shirt. One heart.
You know, I could have said, "Hey, let me just iron that for you." I could have finished the job in two minutes or less. But this was not about ironing a shirt. This was about pressing out the rumpled creases in a young man's heart. I couldn't do that. Only he and God could. Jonathan needed to hold the iron of God's love and move it back-and-forth, back-and-forth, until the rumpled mess was smoothed. My job was to watch. To listen. To pray. To love.
How about you? Is there someone in your life that has a wrinkled wounded heart? Have you yanked the healing tool of God's love out of His hand and tried to iron out his or her problems yourself? Did you ever consider that you might be standing in the way of what God is trying to do? Those are hard questions. Perhaps you have thought that you could solve a problem or heal a heart quicker than waiting on God. Perhaps you've stepped in where you were never meant to step. (Speaking of stepping...I think I'm stepping on some toes. Mine are starting to hurt too.)
It's hard not to step in! Our momma's heart wants to help. We don't like to see our kids, or anyone, hurting. But just as the caterpillar has to struggle to emerge from the cocoon, a soul has to struggle in the dark places of life in order to soar. And we shouldn't mess with that.
It was such a joy to hear how Jonathan had pressed through the pain and let God iron out his questions – how God had smoothed out the bumps in the rocky road of adolescence after abandonment. He wears his mended heart well. That doesn't mean that it won't need a touch up pressing when daily life ruffles-up the fabric of his heart from time to time. But I have every confidence that he and God will iron out the wrinkles together.
And the shirt? It looked pretty good.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for trying to fix other people's problems when they are not mine to fix. Today, I'm committing to watch, to listen, to pray, and to love. Help me not to get in Your way of what You are doing in someone else's life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How are your toes?
Has God convicted you that you might need to step aside and let Him do what only He can do?
Are you ready to watch, to listen, to pray and to love? If so, click over to my blog page and leave a comment.
Isn't it wonderful that we don't have to pray alone? If you'd like for me and your other GiGs to pray for someone in your life, leave the person's name on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes. Let's pray for the woman's name before us and after us.
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October 31, 2012
The Wrestling Match
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. - (Ephesians 6:10-12, NIV)
Friend to Friend
It was the end of the school year. The sun was blazing in the sweltering high 80s with not a hint of shade to be found on the treeless playground. The boys were stinky from their sweaty schoolyard endeavors and the girls were now wilted versions of the fresh flowers they had been that morning. It was almost time for the big wrestling competition. Electric excitement lingered in the air. I was a fifth grader at West Hempfield Elementary School in Irwin, Pennsylvania and I had signed up to participate in the wrestling match.
To this day, I'm somewhat amused and perplexed that I would've thrown myself into the middle of such a barbaric display. Wrestling certainly wasn't my sport of choice, or even a faint interest of mine. So, as we all gathered around the red and white striped gymnasium mats for the annual, end-of-the year wrestling tournament, I was sweating bullets...not just from the relentless, yellow ball of heat in the sky, but also from the nerves that consumed my body.
Before the match even began, I was a captive to the bully in my brain. What do you think you are doing? This is ridiculous! Caroline is not only three inches taller than you, but she's meaner than you, and she's in the sixth grade! You are going down, Gwen. Prepare to be humiliated in front of every fourth, fifth and sixth grader in the school.
At the sound of the whistle, the match was on. Caroline and I danced around like two alley cats with their backs raised high. She had a confidence in her eye that was foreign to me at that moment. A series of unskilled and ungraceful moves followed. (Cringe with me here!) She lunged and I retreated. I lunged and she retreated. Then came contact. Within seconds we were on our hands and knees battling for control. Battling for the win.
The sounds of the crowd were deafening as Caroline moved in to get the better of me. All I could think was, Just DON'T let her get you on your back! Feelings of hopelessness and desperation flooded my heart as she and I exchanged move for move. There were several points allotted and several restarts from Mr. Gordon's whistle. In the midst of this primitive battle, my goal had changed from trying to win to just trying NOT to be pinned...therein lies the defeat.
As the match came to an end and the final whistle blew, it was Caroline's victorious arm that was raised high in the sky. I was defeated in front of half the school. Cheers went up for Caroline as I shrunk back into the sea of students, longing for super powers that would render me invisible. I was exhausted from the match, humiliated from my failure, and defeated by both Caroline and my own mind.
That was a dark day for me as a young girl. But as dark as that day was emotionally, I was able to clearly see my opponent. Ladies, when it comes to spiritual wrestling matches, we do not have the advantage of sight. The Bible says: "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." (Ephesians 6:12, NIV)
Many of the battles we contend with each day are spiritual. We can't see our enemy. And while at first glance this may seem disarming, look again at Ephesians 6. The Bible clearly tells us that we can be equipped to stand firm with the Armor of God!
"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints." (Ephesians 6:13-18, NIV)
Though the wrestling match with Caroline seemed overwhelmingly daunting, the battles that I face now are so much greater. I'm thankful that God's word clearly says the victory is ours if we are in Christ. If God is for us, who can be against us?
What are you wrestling with today? Is the enemy speaking lies to you? Do you feel weak? Strength comes when we call on Jesus! We can stand firm against the schemes of the devil when we put on the armor of God! Suit up girls...a battle is going on all around you. Be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank you for being a mighty God who longs to cover my weakness with Your strength. Please equip me for all that lies ahead today, protect me from attacks and schemes of the enemy, and help me to be strong in Your mighty power. Cover me with Your peace, truth, faith, and salvation so I can stand firm in the battle.
I ask this in the powerful name of Jesus, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Make a list of the top struggles you are currently facing.
· Take each struggle to the LORD and ask that He would equip you for the battle.
· How will putting on the Armor of God will help you trust Him more? Stop by my Facebook page so we can discuss it. www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic
More from the Girlfriends
Hey friend. I hope you're suited up and ready to do battle now. If you are struggling to see how you can get from the wrestling mat to the winner's circle, be sure to get a copy of our GiG book, Trusting God: A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. (Today's devotion is an excerpt from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith and Mary Southerland.)
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November 1, 2012
Raising Your Expectations
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full," (John 10:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was in my early twenties, I did not have great expectations for what my marriage would be like, if I ever walked the aisle at all. My parents had a tumultuous relationship from my earliest remembrance. Cycles of heated arguments and physical violence followed by silence and passive aggression were as predictable as the seasons. The atmosphere in our home was tense. It was as if I lived on an earthquake fault line, never knowing when the "big one" was going to hit. There were many "big ones."
I became a Christian when I was fourteen and resolved that if I ever got married, it would be to a man who loved Jesus with all his heart. Through the years, I dated many Christian young men. In my young mind, most of them were not very much fun.
So I had a conversation with God that went something like this: "OK God, if I ever get married, it will be to a Christian man. I'm committed to that. I won't give a guy a second glance unless he is a man who loves You with all his heart. It is not enough for him to say that he is a Christian. I want to see it in the way he lives his life, the way he uses his words, and the way he relates to other people. I'm going to pay attention to what he laughs at, what he watches on television, and how he handles anger. I know what I'm asking here. I know what I'm getting into. I realize that I most likely won't feel very passionate about this guy. I know that my life will probably be rather dull, boring, and lackluster. But that's OK. I'm holding out for a Christian man, no matter how humdrum and ho-hum he may be. If I like him pretty well, that's enough for me."
Oh my goodness! Talk about low expectations! I'm sure God got a big kick out of my request.
Here's what happened several years after that "prayer." When I was twenty-two, I returned to college to further my education. A young man from my hometown had a Bible study at his apartment and invited me to attend. When I walked in, I saw a young dental student sitting cross-legged on the floor and leaning up against the wall. His dark chocolate eyes looked up at me as he said, "Hi." I melted in a puddle.
After a few weeks, Steve finally asked me out on a date. But the venue of our rendezvous confirmed what I had expected all along.
"There is a missionary from Jackson, Mississippi speaking over at Murphy Hall," he explained. "I'd like to go hear him. Would you like to go with me?"
Well that certainly lined up with my expectations! Steve was handsome; no doubt about that. He was a Christian, that was for sure. But going to hear a missionary on our first date? He was going to be boring after all. But hey, what did I expect? (Now remember, I was young. I love missionaries! I am one! Just keeping it real.)
When he came to pick me up for our date, I wasn't quite ready. My apartment mate welcomed him and directed him to the sofa to wait. While he perused the scattered magazines on the coffee table, some of my favorite music played on the stereo. In the South, we call it beach music. It's a type of 60s R&B Motown music.
When I finally emerged from my primping, Steve looked up and asked, "Do you like that kind of music?"
"Sure do," I replied. (I must say I said it with an attitude of "and you gotta problem with that?")
"I do too," Steve said. "I have an entire collection. Do you know how to Shag (a traditional Southern dance similar to a slow version of the Swing)?
I think I heard God laugh.
"I've been dancing the Shag since I was in the fifth grade," I said.
"Let's see if we do it the same way," he said as he grabbed my hand.
For twenty minutes, we separated and came together as if we had been dancing together all our lives. He held my hand up and I spun under. He pulled me in and then rolled me out like a scroll. His shuffle kick mirrored my own.
You know what? We did go and hear the missionary on that crisp fall night in 1979. And afterwards, we went to a favorite college hangout on the Campus of UNC the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and danced until the doors closed. We had fun, and we haven't stopped having fun yet. We have grown in God's grace, and we've graced the dance floor. Steve is the mostfunnest guy I have ever known, and he loves the Lord with all his heart. And to think I actually was ready to settle for a just a nice Christian guy. God exceeded my expectations beyond all I ever could have asked or imagined.
But this isn't just about my love story with Steve. It is about my love story with Jesus. It is about yours too. And like my silly twenty-something prayer for a mediocre-but-nice husband, I fear we have lowered our expectations in our relationship with God. He longs for an intimacy with us that ushers in a deep abiding joy, but I'm afraid we've settled for simply nice.
Are you ready to raise your expectations in your relationship with Jesus? Oh sister, He got so much to show you, to tell you, to share with you. Don't settle for "just nice." Jesus is much more exciting than that!
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, forgive me for having such low expectations in our relationship. I know that You came to give me abundant life, not a so-so life. Today, I'm raising my expectations of life to line up with Your word. I'm expecting the abundant life that You came to give!
In Your Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Look up Zephaniah 3:17 and enjoy!
God wants you to enjoy Him today! Look for moments of sudden glory where he makes His presence known and then tell me about it. Log onto www.sharonjaynes.com; look for this post on my home page, and tell me how you experienced God TODAY!.
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November 2, 2012
Be My Portion, Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him." - (Lamentations 3:24, ESV)
Friend to Friend
I am a lot of things, but low maintenance is not necessarily one of them. Straight up, I am a girl with some constant cravings. Though I do try to savor life moments with gratitude, I fail all the time. Many days, I find myself looking beyond my now to my next, longing in discontent. I seek God's blessings instead of seeking God. I seek His hand instead of His heart. This frazzles my peace and messes with my joy. It tangles my heart in knots until I begin to dance through my days to the tune of, "I can't get no satisfaction!"
Why do we desire God's presents in our lives more than His presence? Does God need us to tell Him how to be God? Isn't that what we do when we stomp our feet before His throne and whine about all of the things that need fixing instead of praising Him for the strength He graciously gives us to get through? While we're certainly encouraged by Scripture to make our requests known to the Father (Philippians 4:6), the highest calling on our lives is to love God with all of our hearts, souls, bodies and minds (Matthew 22:37). We can do both, but we are commanded to seek God first: to look to Him as our Ultimate. Our Portion.
Asaph wrote Psalm 73 with a lot on his mind. He was flustered about all the bad people around him. He wondered why God wasn't smacking them around for being so wretched and was struggling to keep his eyes on his own life. (Sound familiar?) Then his woes turned to worship as he entered into the sanctuary of God (v17). His heart began to untangle as he remembered God's sovereignty. In Psalm 73:26, he finally landed in a good place. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
He took a deep breath and found his God-confidence.
Oh, how I can relate to that!
The Bible shows us time and time again that when we prioritize God – when we look to Him to be our Portion – we are supernaturally equipped to rest in Him. Do you remember that old hymn His Eye Is On The Sparrow? Girlfriend, God doesn't miss a trick. He knows what's going on.
And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, He will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
"So don't worry about these things, saying, 'what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.
"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today(Matthew 6:30-34, NLT).
If divine eyes rest on tiny sparrows and flowers of the fields, how much more are the needs and desires of God's children known to Him?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Would You be my Portion today? Help me to trust Your plan and rest in Your grace – beyond what I see or feel. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has God met your needs in the past?
Do you trust that He is able to meet them today?
More from the Girlfriends
Friend! If I could grab both of your hands and jump up and down with you I totally would! I am SO excited to tell you that I have a brand NEW website filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that I believe will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Please swing by to visit: www.GwenSmith.net.
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November 5, 2012
Be My Portion, Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in Him" - (Lamentations 3:24, ESV).
Friend to Friend
I sometimes run to God as if He's a celestial Wal-Mart purposed to satisfy my every want. Change my family. Fix my job problem, God. Do it my way! Instead of leaning in to hear the whispered will of the Lord, I selfishly shout my will, my desires and my demands. Lord, give me relief from life-pressures instead of giving me strength to endure them. When I'm desperate to fill my mega-sized heart-cart with things that I want, I rob myself of what really matters: the pursuit of God and the blessings found in Him alone.
The truth is that even those of us who are Jesus-girls, you know... good Christian women who strive each day to live for Christ... continually sin and wallow in the shallow, unsatisfying waters of discontentment. We tell God what we'd like Him to do for us so we can be happy and then expect Him to intervene in ways that suit us. We blur the lines between our wants and our needs – between our plans and God's plans.
In part one of this devotion, we were reminded to rest in God. We looked at His care of the sparrows, considered that God loves us even more than he does the birds of the air, and were challenged not to worry. Today, we focus on prioritizing God above all else. Matthew 6:33 instructs us to seek God first: to look to Him as our Ultimate. Our Portion. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. (Matthew 6:33, ESV)
David modeled this beautifully when he called out to God in the midst of trouble and recognized Him as being enough. I cry to you, O Lord; I say, "You are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living" (Psalm 142:5). In Psalm 119, the psalmist recognizes God as his portion and takes the moment of surrender a step further by tethering his satisfaction with obedience. You are my portion, O Lord; I have promised to obey your words. I have soughtyour face with all my heart; be gracious to meaccording to your promise (Psalm 119:57-58).
Life is unpredictable. There will always be days that we want to yell, C'mon, God! Throw me a bone here! I could use a little help, please! It is not a bad thing to call to God in the midst of our struggles. In fact, we should! We must! The big game changer, however, is not God's presents – but His presence. Refuge from our circumstances and contentment in the midst of them is found in the center of our surrender.
So what's the connection point between our longings and His provision? Perhaps the better question is not what but who? The late pastor and theologian Charles Spurgeon said it this way, "It is not 'The Lord is partly my portion,' nor 'The Lord is in my portion'; but He Himself makes up the sum total of my soul's inheritance. Within the circumference of that circle lies all that we possess or desire. The Lord is my portion. Not His grace merely, nor His love, nor His covenant, but Yahweh himself."
Once again, Spurgeon hits the nail on the head. We are distracted cravers when we expect our people, places and things to fill our hearts as only God can. God loves us so much. Why do we forget this all the time? His plan is perfect and we can trust Him. He knows our needs and desires. When we seek Him as the answer instead of for the answer, God enables us to rest in confidence that He's working on our behalf and in our best interest, to bring glory to Himself through our lives.
Set your list of wants aside today and seek God. Go before Him with a heart of worship and adoration. Get lost in His presence. Remember His mercy. Relish His grace. Love Him. Seek Him. Choose Him as your Portion.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please be my Portion. Forgive me for the times when I seek Your blessings before I seek Your heart. You are all I need. In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and consider these verses: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God" (Psalm 42:1-2a).
Spend a moment in prayer asking the LORD to increase your thirst for Him.
I co-wrote a song called "Center of Surrender" that invites God to be our Portion in a very personal way. Listen to the song on my Facebook page HEREand allow the lyric to become the prayer of your heart today.
More from the Girlfriends
Friend! If I could throw a big celebration party and invite you all to my house for brownies, I totally would! I am SO excited for you to see my brand NEW website! It is filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that I believe will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Go grab yourself a piece of chocolate and swing by to visit: www.GwenSmith.net.
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Spurgeon, C. H. (2006). Morning and evening: Daily readings (Complete and unabridged; New modern edition.). Peabody, MA: Hendrickson Publishers
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November 6, 2012
Are We Having Fun Yet?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I [Jesus] came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows)," (John 10:10 Amplified Bible).
Friend to Friend
C.S. Lewis says that most Christians lack "merriment." I like that word. "Merriment." Just moving the words across my lips is fun. And I think Lewis is right. We lack merriment and we don't expect it. Many Christians look like they've been weaned on a dill pickle. My goodness, if there is anyone who should exude merriment, it is a person who knows Jesus as Savior and Lord. We, above all people, have something to be merry about!
What God desires, not from you but for you, is life to the full (John 10:10). There's nothing ho-hum about that. I read Jesus' words in John 10:10 and I am famished for glory moments of life to the full. I want to see God, to experience His presence as I live and move and have my being in Him.
John wrote, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" (1 John 3:1). He didn't simply use the word given, but lavished. Webster defines lavish this way: "given or provided with great generosity and abundance, to bestow with large generosity, profusion, a downpour." Ponder those words separately.
Lavished.
Provided with great generosity.
Abundance.
Bestow with large generosity.
Profusion.
Downpour.
Do these words reflect your expectations in your relationship with Jesus? C.S. Lewis said it well:
"We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased."(C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory (New York: HarperCollins, 1949,1976,revised 1980), 26.)
The first statement in the Shorter Catechism of Westminster Confession of 1646 states that man's chief end is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Enjoy Him! To enjoy God is to glorify Him. Just as He takes delight in you, He longs for you to take delight in Him. You simply can't separate the two.
Are you enjoying God? As you live and move and have your being in Him, is there a smile on your face and a skip in your step? Do you expect the rich adventurous faith-filled life that you read about in the Bible? Do you expect to experience God's glory today? If not, perhaps you need to raise your expectations of what your relationship with Jesus can be.
Once we've tasted the sweetness of His fruit, to settle for anything less than the bountiful orchard of His blessings will always disappoint. Oh yes, there are heavy-laden branches filled with low hanging fruit just waiting to be picked. If only we would reach up high enough, raise our expectations, and pluck them from the tree.
Let's Pray
Jesus, forgive me for acting like I'm doing You a favor for following You. I know that you came to give me life to the full. Help me to stop walking around like I have life to the half-full. Today, I'm going to laugh, to smile, to enjoy being in Your presence. I am going to keep my eyes open for moments of sudden glory as You make Your presence known to me!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's assignment is going to be fun. As you go through your day, look in the mirror.
Are you smiling? Are you frowning?
I want you to do this at least 10 times today. No cheating. Don't smile and then look. Look first.
Then tell me what you experienced. Did you smile more? Were you more aware of your countenance?
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November 7, 2012
He Took My Place
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever - (Psalm 106:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In a few short weeks, friends and family across America will gather around beautifully decorated tables filled with warm, scrumptious food to give thanks on Thanksgiving Day. However, this day will be nothing like holidays of the past for many people.
Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle will patrol foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home long for word of their safety. The homeless will make their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face as so many celebrate this day of abundance. An empty place at the table will be a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad will sit at the head of the table, wondering how he is going to tell his family that he just lost his job. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised or build the right house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation or when we retire. We keep trying to find joy, contentment and peace in lifeless places and things.
Jesus Christ is life. He is Joy and Love, and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give thanks when it seems as if there is nothing for which to be thankful.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver told him, "I always park there. You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday school, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome but said nothing.
After Sunday school, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment but still said nothing.
During the worship service, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day of thanksgiving and praise because praise and thanksgiving have little to do with the Thanksgiving holiday and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, my friend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs this year in ways that we may or may not have understood at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and your power and we celebrate You. We celebrate the life You give us now and for all eternity. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 68:4 and make it your prayer.
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts; whose name is the Lord, and exult before Him (Psalm 68:4).
What does it mean to you when the psalmist says we are to "cast up a highway" for God to ride through the deserts in our lives?
Consider the following questions:
Are you known as a woman who praises God?
As you begin each day, take time to position your mind and heart for praise.
Look for opportunities during the day to praise God – then voice that praise aloud.
Begin keeping a praise journal in which you write your praises to God.
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November 8, 2012
The Day God Showed Up
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
[Jesus said] "My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I, too, am working"
(John 5:17 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Bob told me about a visit to Vietnam where he met with a leader of an underground Christian church. This leader, who had spent a large part of his life in prison for his faith, told Bob many stories of the growth of Christians as approximately one-million believers met in hidden huddles all around the country. "What everybody wants is to see God move," the pastor explained.
And isn't that the desire of your heart...to see God move in your life and in the lives of those you love? Jesus reminds us, "My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I, too, am working" (John 5:17). Always at His work. Always. And yet, do you expect to see it? Are you willing, along with me, to raise your expectations and anticipate seeing God's glory through His work in your life today? Are you willing to raise your expectations to experience moments of sudden glory where God makes His presence known?
I sat in a Sunday School room with a group of fellow Baby Boomers as Bob shared about his experience with this Vietnamese pastor. And at the close of the lesson, Bob opened up the floor for the class members to tell of a time when they experienced God moving in their lives.
"When I was sixteen..." one began.
"When I was twenty-seven..." another chimed in.
"Several years ago..." still another shared.
I was struck. We should have all been waving our hands and excited to begin with these words... "Yesterday God showed me..." "This morning God revealed to me..."
Why do we have to go so far back into the archives of our lives to look for that one time we recognized God moving in our lives? I dare say that we miss the glory moments that flash before us and even linger around us because we don't expect them to be there.
I want to challenge you to make a list. Get a notebook or a journal and write A Sudden Glory across the top. Then begin chronicling how God makes Himself known to you today...and tomorrow...and the next day. I am sure you will have far more to record than these few pages would allow, but I don't want you to wait another minute to get started!
David wrote:
"I will exalt you, my God the King;
I will praise your name forever and ever.
Every dayI will praise you and extol your name forever and ever.
Great is the LORD and most worthy of praise;
his greatness no one can fathom.
One generation will commend your words to another;
they will tell of your mighty acts.
They will speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty,
and I will meditate on your wonderful works.
They will tell of the power of your awesome works,
and I will proclaim your great deeds.
They will celebrate your abundant goodness
and joyfully sing of your righteousness. (Psalm 145:1-7 TNIV)
That is a party I'd like to attend! David recognized what God was doing in his own life. He listened to what God was doing in other people's lives. And then he invited all to join together and tell about the glory moments in a grand celebration. Merriment at its best. "Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story!" (Psalm 106107:2 TNIV).
And I would love to hear yours!
Let's Pray
Dear Father, open my eyes, my ears, my heart. Help me to see You working in my life today. Please don't let me get so involved with the busyness of life that I miss the Source of Life. I'm looking. I'm listening. I'm paying attention.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I want you to pay attention. Look for God working in your life. Then click over to my blog pageand tell me how you saw God today.
Also, I would love to hear your most fabulous Sudden Glory God moment. There's a special place on my website to share your sudden glory moments. Enter your story on this page, and I'm going to randomly pick 10 entries and send them a butterfly like the one on the cover of A Sudden Glory to stick in your favorite house plant. So share away! You can even go back to one of your past blog comments and post it onto the Share Your Glory Moments page.
More from the Girlfriends
My new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is all about raising your expectations to experience the full, abundant life that Jesus came to give. If you've settled for a ho-hum, so-so, Christian life, it is time to start enjoying the abundant life Jesus came to give. God wants you to experience His presence every day through moments of sudden glory where He makes His presence known. Ready to get started? Download a free sample chapter or watch the videos on my website!
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November 9, 2012
It's Time to Do Something!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another - (1 John 4:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I could not tear my eyes away from the television screen as the 33 miners began to emerge from the depths of what could have been their mass grave. The men had been trapped for more than two months in the collapsed Chilean copper mines nearly half a mile underground. Everything I have read or heard about the tragedy is extraordinary.
The miners survived the early days by rationing food and working together as a team. Each man was assigned a job, one of which was to maintain peace and harmony until they were rescued. The selfless mining supervisor who insisted on being the last to leave his underground prison showed the world what it really means to put others first. I was amazed at the selflessness of the rescue worker who became the initial guinea pig for the rescue capsule and then chose to stay behind – alone - while the world celebrated above.
I wonder how long it will take us to forget. How long will we remember that the world came together to save a group of strangers? Will the powerful lessons of their rescue make any difference in the way we treat each other?
We all know what it is like to be trapped in a pit of some kind. It is probably not a collapsed mine, but pits are all basically the same.
Our world has collapsed under the weight of fear and pain.
No one seems to care. In fact, a lot of people have written us off as a lost cause.
People are too busy to recognize or understand our hopelessness.
Darkness prevails and rescue seems impossible.
We are wounded, sick and tired.
Civil war rages in our soul as we struggle to obey God instead of giving in to sin.
I truly believe that every day is filled with divine appointments – opportunities to rescue people who are trapped in some kind of pit. We miss the emptiness reflected in the eyes of the sales clerk or we simply choose to ignore the homeless man begging for money so he can buy food. After all, we are in a hurry and have more important things to do. The sales clerk would probably be embarrassed if I said anything and that homeless man would probably just use the money I gave him for drugs or alcohol.
The ringing phone is someone in need, but we don't care enough to answer. Our neighbor does not know God, but her life is a mess and we really don't want to get involved. Instead of taking action and doing what we know God wants us to do, we decide it is enough to pray for that neighbor and leave the messy part of God's work to someone else.
I am so guilty of walking away from someone in need instead of running to their rescue. I am in pain, too, and my pain is more important than theirs. I may not actually say those words, but I don't have to. My actions are blatant illustrations of my own egotism and self-absorption.
I do not want to be like the priest who nonchalantly strolled by the wounded and bleeding man lying on the road. I want to be like the Good Samaritan who stopped and saved the wounded man's life. I want to be "God with skin on."
A tired father came home from work, grabbed his newspaper, and settled into his favorite chair with a sigh of relief. All he wanted was a little peace and quiet. All that his young son wanted was his daddy. The little boy raced into the room and asked, "Dad, can I get you something to drink?" The man lowered his newspaper, smiled and replied, "No, thanks. I'm not thirsty. I just want to read the paper." He then raised his newspaper and resumed reading. The little boy thought for a moment and then said a little louder, "Dad, can I get you something to eat?" The slightly exasperated father lowered his paper and said, "No, Son. I just want to read the paper!" As the father resumed his reading, the little boy tried again. "Dad, can I get you ... ", but before the little boy could finish his question, the now irritated father lowered his paper and demanded, "What is it that you want, Son?" The little boy sighed and gazed into his father's eyes as he explained, "I don't want anything, Dad. I just love you so much that I have to do something about it."
One day, just as rescue workers descended into that Chilean mine, Jesus Christ will descend into this broken world and rescue us from the pit of human frailty. Until then, let's be His hands and feet. Let's love Him so much that we just have to do something about it.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart of praise for the way You meet every need in my life and for how You constantly rescue me from the darkness. I want Your heart, Lord. I want to be Your hands and feet to the people You place in my path. Give me eyes to see their need and the courage to do something about it. Please guard my heart against pride and selfishness. I want to please and honor You alone. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is sometimes hard to love someone in need, but God calls us to look beyond their rough exterior and see the pain hidden there.
Read Ephesians 4:2. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Notice the action words. What would your daily life look like if you took action and lived out this verse?
Is there someone in your life who is hurting? How can you ease their pain?
Is there someone in your life who is wounded? How can you help them heal?
Is there someone in your life who has fallen into some kind of pit? How can you help rescue them?
Make a specific plan to meet a specific need in someone's life today. Then do something about it!
More from the Girlfriends
We are living in tough times. It is easy to get so wrapped up in our own problems that we fail to see the needs of others. Today, I am issuing a challenge to all girlfriends! Look around. Find someone in need and take action. We are never more like our Father than when we love and serve someone in His name.
I would love to hear your story! How did God use you to meet a need in the life of someone? How did someone meet your need?
Is there someone in your life who needs a friend? Do you need to learn how to be a better friend? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, I Need a Friend.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to deal with the anger in your life. (Join now and have access to all lessons covered in 2012 including a study on the armor of God, how to tame your tongue and how to live a balanced life.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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Taking a Leap of Faith
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I can do everything through him (Jesus) who gives me strength," (Philippians 4:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, on a trip to Kauai, my husband and our friends, Larry and Cynthia Price, decided to go on a zip line through the jungle. After being jostled and tossed like ragdolls in the back of a retired army jeep, we finally made it to the top of the mountain from which we were going to zip down—risking life and limb I might add.
I hopped out of the jeep and eyed the cable suspended high above the valley below. After watching Cynthia fly through the trees, I climbed up onto a wooden platform and surrendered to Jack, a jovial, burly Hawaiian, who strapped me into a harness and placed a helmet on my head. With a simple click of a metal buckle, he attached my harnessed body onto a seemingly flimsy steel cable. As I stood on the edge of the platform eyeing the disappearing earth below my feet, I had a choice. I could say, "no thanks" and ask to be released from the cable, or I could jump.
I chose to jump. My body flew over the treetops and the stunningly beautiful gorge. I was Tarzan's Jane and this was my jungle. Airborne. Exhilarating. Risky.
Jacob was with us that day. He was a stranger among our little band of adventurers. Jacob was alone. No friends. No spouse. No family.
"Jacob, what brings you up to this mountain today?" I asked.
"I'm afraid of heights," he answered.
I then noticed the thin line of perspiration beading over his upper lip. The slight tremble in his voice. The mechanical one-foot-in-front-of-the-other halted gait up the hill.
"You're afraid of heights?" I asked. "Then why are you here?"
"I'm going to conquer it today," he determinedly answered.
I was struck. We were here to have fun. He was here for a totally different reason. When Jacob stood on that platform, I prayed for my new friend. For Jacob this was not just a joy ride...or just maybe it was.
I'm not saying that God told Jacob to go to the top of a mountain, attach his body to a flimsy cable, and fly over the gorge at the risk of life and limb. But I am saying that obedience often requires a leap of faith. Too often we say yes to God, but live the no because of fear. We stand at the precipice of belief and a decision has to be made. Am I going to trust God or not? Am I going to attach my heart to the cable of His love and take a leap of faith, or am I going to freeze in fear because I don't trust that He has my best interest in mind? Am I going to settle for safety and miss the thrill of seeing God work through me?
As we live and move and have our being in Jesus, God will take us to some amazing places. And there will always be a choice. Will we jump headlong into the adventurous journey of His perfect plan, or will we hang back for lack of faith? Jacob stood on the platform, took a deep breath, and jumped. He flew over the treetops, careened over the river, and landed safely on the other side of his greatest fear.
We clapped and cheered. Jacob took a bow. God smiled.
In Him we live and move and have our being...and sometimes we soar.
Let's Pray
Lord, sometimes I'm just flat out afraid. Afraid I'll fail. Afraid I'll be rejected. Afraid I won't be good enough. Lord, forgive me for all those "I's." Forgive me for focusing on my weaknesses rather than Your strength. Today, I'm believing that I can do all things that You call me to do because I know that You will give me the strength I need.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there anything in your life that God has called you to do that you haven't done?
What's holding you back?
What are you afraid of?
Who are you afraid of?
Do you need to have a little talk with yourself? David did it all the time. He spoke to his soul.
What do you need to tell yourself today? Click over to my blog page or Facebook page and tell me what you're going to tell yourself today. Also, I have a post of me on the zip line. Really. I did do it!
More from the Girlfriends
Do you need to learn how to trust God in a bigger way? If so, our Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure is the book for you! The name? What else...Trusting God. Check it out at www.girlfriendsinGod.com. There is even a free video to watch of me telling this story.
My new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is all about raising your expectations to experience the full, abundant life that Jesus came to give. If you've settled for a ho-hum, so-so, Christian life, it is time to start enjoying the abundant life Jesus came to give. God wants you to experience His presence every day through moments of sudden glory where He makes His presence known. Ready to get started? Download a free sample chapter or watch the videos on my website!
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November 13, 2012
Treasures of Darkness
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name.
Friend to Friend
I love a great movie. To me, a movie is only great -- no matter what any movie critic says or how many stars the film is granted -- when good wins over evil, the right guy gets the right girl, nobody gets hurt and everyone lives happily ever after. A bit naive, I know, but I have decided that there is enough harsh reality traipsing through my daily life without paying to see more on a movie screen. When I sit down in that cushy theatre seat, popcorn and soda in hand, I want happy endings.
With these criteria in mind, I went to see the movie, "Seabiscuit." God has a way of wrapping remarkable truths in unremarkable circumstances. There I was, munching and sipping away, minding my own business and enjoying my brief respite from the real world when his words echoed through the movie theater and slammed into my soul.
"You don't throw a whole life away just because it's a little banged up," he said. I was done. I thoroughly enjoyed the rest of the movie, but those simple words were written just for me and lingered long after the movie's credits scrolled across the movie screen. We are all "banged up a little" by life. I know what it feels like to be broken and in pain. And I do not like it – a fact that seems meaningless when it comes to facing and dealing with tough experiences in my life. The hits just keep coming. I have a choice to make. I can embrace the pain and brokenness in my life and learn from it, or I can surrender to the darkness and hide – and hope it all goes away. Trust me, girlfriend. It doesn't.
Our son, Jered, played football all the way through college. Over the years, he endured several injuries, but as a junior in high school, Jered experienced his first surgery to repair a broken bone in his foot. The orthopedic doctor explained exactly what he would do during surgery. "First of all, I will remove the scar tissue that has formed around the break. I will then insert a metal screw to connect the broken bones." As he spoke, I was comforted by my mind's depiction of a shiny thin and smooth metal screw resting gently in my son's foot. There are times when ignorance is a blessing.
The surgery went well and after two weeks, I took Jered in for a follow-up visit during which his foot was once again X-rayed to make sure it was healing properly. The doctor walked in, smiling and waving an X-ray in his hand. "Your foot is healing beautifully," he announced with great pride. Curious, I asked the doctor if we could see the X-ray. When he slapped it up against the light board, I was horrified to see a thick, long metal bolt. In fact, on closer examination, I was certain the beginnings of rust could be seen on that barbaric screw jammed up into my son's precious bone.
Seeing the look on my face, the doctor assured me that everything was fine. I was far from convinced and had a few questions that needed answering – immediately. "Is that screw supposed to look like that or did you put the wrong screw in my son's foot? Will he be able to play football? Will his foot hurt when it rains? Will that enormous screw set off airport security detectors? Will Jered's foot ever be as strong as it was before the surgery?" I asked. The doctor listened patiently, smiled and said, "Well, now that you mention it, I need to be honest and tell you Jered's foot will not be as strong as it was before." The evil doctor then grinned and said, "It will actually be stronger."
In "A Farewell to Arms," Ernest Hemingway writes, "The world breaks everyone and many are strong at the broken places." Jesus says it this way, "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name" (Isaiah 45:3).
Wow! The truth of this verse rocks my world. Don't miss it! God has gone before us and buried a treasure in every problem and stored rich truths in every minute of darkness we will face. The only way we can discover that treasure is to embrace the problem as an opportunity to trust God and uncover a new seed of victory. Some things cannot be learned in the light – they are treasures of the darkness.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is broken, and it seems very dark. I don't understand what You are doing in my life. The darkness is very real and filled with more questions than answers. And I don't like it! But I love You, Lord, so I choose trust instead of fear and faith instead of doubt. Lord, please fill each broken place in my heart with Your mercy and Your grace. Today, I choose You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
God has changed my life through the truths of Psalm 40:1-3.
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3.
Write it in your journal.
Circle the action words. Which ones apply to you? Which ones apply to God?
Write this verse in your own words as your prayer to God.
Choose to praise God today as you look for the treasures waiting for you in each trial you are facing.
More from the Girlfriends
When our lives are broken, it is easier to fall into the pit of depression. If you or someone you love is dealing with depression, get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and learn how to be set free from the darkness.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to deal with the anger in your life. (Join now and have access to all lessons covered in 2012 including a study on the armor of God, how to tame your tongue and how to live a balanced life.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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Reading Scripture with Fresh Eyes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For the word of God is living and active... (Hebrews 4:12 NASB).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago I went on a mission trip to the West Indies. Part of our mission included distributing reading glasses to the islanders. I'll never forget handing a Bible to a leathery-faced, elderly man.
"Can you read this?" I asked.
In polished Old-English, he began, "The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want..." I listened as he delivered a well-rehearsed Psalm 23 in perfect King James. Interestingly, this was not a King James Version of the Bible; it was The Living Bible. He was not reading the words. He was quoting them from memory.
We tried on various reading glasses, chose a pair suitable for him, and then I handed him the Bible again. "Let's try that again," I smiled. "Read this for me."
He looked at the pages and a grin spread across his crinkled mahogany face. "The Lord is my Shepherd. I have everything I need." This time he read the words.
That's why I read the Bible in different translations. I can grow so accustomed to the words on the page that I miss the meaning in my heart. Various translations keep me from glossing over the words carelessly.
Suppose we, like my island friend, read God's letter to us with fresh eyes, and just suppose we believed Him. What would that do to our not-so-great expectations in our relationship with Jesus?
Brennan Manning, in his book The Furious Longing of God said this: "Because we approach the gospel with preconceived notions of what it should say rather than what it does say, the Word no longer falls like rain on the parched ground of our soul. It no longer sweeps like a wild storm into the corners of our comfortable piety. It no longer vibrates like sharp lightning in the dark recess of our nonhistoric orthodoxy. The gospel becomes, in the words of Gertrude Stein, 'a pattering of pious platitudes spoken by a Jewish carpenter in the distant past.'"
Do you want to raise the bar on your spiritual expectations? Do you dare? Then read the Bible with fresh eyes—and believe it. "Oh, I believe it," most Christians would say. But let me give you just one example. Jesus said: "Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things then these, because I am going to the Father," (John 14:12).
Do you believe that? Do I? It is startling. I even feel uncomfortable reading the words out loud. Why do I have an easier time believing the words are for someone else, rather than for me?
When we base our expectations on God's Word rather than what we see happening in the spiritual lives of others, they grow pregnant with possibilities.
Some argue that God doesn't work today like He did back in biblical times. Who says He doesn't? Don't tell the folks in Nigeria who have seen countless blind receive their sight. Don't tell the folks in the underground church in China that God doesn't rattle jail cells and set captives free. Don't tell that to the little boy who walked out of the hospital cancer-free with no medical explanation for the cure. Don't' tell that to the thousands of people who have not had their great expectations of God civilized and educated right out of them, and who experience miraculous glory moments in the mundane on a regular basis.
So here is my charge to you today. Pick up a new translation of the Bible and read it as if you are reading God's love letter to you for the first time. If you aren't in a position to purchase a new translation, visit www.Biblegateway.com. They have the Bible in many translations right at your fingertips.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I love Your Word. Open my eyes to new truths that I have never seen before. Forgive me for glossing over Scripture as if it were old news. Help me to read Your Word as if it were the very first time.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's challenge is easy. Pick up a different translation of the Bible than you are used to and read a familiar passage. I would suggest The New Living Translation, The Amplified Version, The New King James, or a paraphrase (rather than a translation) called The Message.
Let me know what God showed you in what you read. Log onto www.sharonjaynes.com and let's share our treasures!
More from the Girlfriends
My new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is all about raising your expectations to experience the full, abundant life that Jesus came to give. If you've settled for a ho-hum, so-so, Christian life, it is time to start enjoying the abundant life Jesus came to give. God wants you to experience His presence every day through moments of sudden glory where He makes His presence known. Ready to get started? Download a free sample chapter, watch the free videos or order your copy on my website!
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November 15, 2012
Mistakes or Opportunities?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose - (Romans 8:28, HCSB).
Friend to Friend
I am sure you have heard the story of Ivory soap, the "soap that floats." However, it was not always that way. Years ago, this soap was just another brand among many until a factory foreman made a mistake. He left a fresh batch of soap in the cooking vat and went to lunch. When he was late getting back and the soap had overcooked, the foreman frantically examined the burned soap. It seemed to clean the same. The only difference he could see was in the weight. The burned soap was just lighter. He could either report the mistake and risk being fired, or he could make the best of it and ship the soap out as if nothing had happened. He shipped it out. The results surprised everyone. Instead of complaints, the company was deluged with orders for this new "floating soap," and the foreman was promoted.
God works the same way, taking our mistakes and our sins and bringing good out of them. Paul said it well in Romans 8:28, "We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose" (HCSB). If we let Him, God will use the pain of our sin and the results of our mistakes as the foundation upon which He can build a new life.
God works through our mistakes, knowing there is strength in pain that can be gained no other way. God does not eliminate mistakes, but He does step into the midst of the mistakes we bring to Him. At our invitation, God's very presence fills those mistakes with power and fresh hope, redeeming them for new truth and insight. God is not committed to our comfort, but He is committed to our character, to making us more like Jesus, and He will use every part of our life to make it happen. God does not waste a single experience, and there are no "scraps" of life to be thrown away. He uses even our mistakes for our good.
1. God uses mistakes to direct us.Some of my biggest mistakes have yielded the most powerful lessons in my life, pointing me in a new direction or revealing an area that needs change. As the writer of Proverbs explains, "Sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us change our ways" (Proverbs 20:30, NLT).
2. God uses mistakes to inspect us.People are like tea bags. If you want to know what is really inside a person, just drop them into hot water. How we respond to mistakes, problems and sin tests the strength and reality of our faith. James writes, "Whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow" (James 1:2-3, NLT).
3. God uses mistakes to correct us.Some lessons simply cannot be learned in the light; they are wrapped in the darkness of pain and defeat. I can remember when our daughter, Danna, was a toddler with a fascination for electric outlets. I repeatedly pointed to each outlet in our home and firmly said, "No! No!" It was not until she stuck an object into one of those outlets, burning her little finger, that she learned the lesson and changed her behavior. We would be wise to choose the attitude of the psalmist, "It was good that I had to suffer in order to learn your laws. The teachings [that come] from your mouth are worth more to me than thousands in gold or silver" (Psalm 119:71-72, GNT).
4. God uses mistakes to protect us.A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents us from being harmed by something more serious. Several years ago, a family friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem and seemed like a huge mistake -- but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when his former management's illegal actions were eventually discovered. "You planned evil against me but God used those same plans for my good..." (Genesis 50:20, The Message).
5. God uses mistakes to perfect us.When responded to correctly, mistakes and problems are character builders. The apostle Paul warns, "There's more (trouble) to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we are hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next." Romans 5:3-4 (Message)
God is at work in us -- even in our mistakes – even when we do not recognize Him or understand His process. Someone once said, "Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way."
While living in South Florida, I considered hurricanes to be mistakes of nature. However, I soon discovered hurricanes are necessary to maintain a balance in the environment. We all know the devastation these monstrous storms can cause, yet scientists tell us that hurricanes are also tremendously valuable because they reduce a large percentage of the oppressive heat that builds up at the equator. In fact, hurricanes are indirectly responsible for much of the rainfall in North and South America. Meteorologists no longer use cloud-seeding techniques to prevent hurricanes from being formed because they are convinced that hurricanes actually do more good than harm.
Take a closer look at your mistakes. Have they become an albatross around your neck, constantly reminding you of your failure and inadequacy? Do past mistakes keep you from stepping out in faith today? It is time to strain each failure through a new God-given perspective for the valuable nuggets of truth and the treasures that the darkness holds.
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Let's Pray
Father, I am desperate for You. I have allowed my failures and mistakes to defeat me. Today, I turn each one over to You and ask that You help me find the victory in each one. I trust You, Lord. I believe You can bring something good out of the most difficult circumstances of my life. I step out in faith today, knowing You are with me. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Romans 8:28:We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose (HCSB).
Think back over your life and fill in the blanks below.
God uses my mistakes to direct me: ___________________________________________________________
God uses my mistakes to inspect me:__________________________________________________________
God uses my mistakes to correct me:__________________________________________________________
God uses my mistakes to protect me:__________________________________________________________
God uses my mistakes to perfect me:__________________________________________________________
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November 16, 2012
Ashes to Beauty
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
For I know that my Redeemer lives. (Job 19:25)
Friend to Friend
God's redemptive grace can restore any life.
In the beginning, at the very moment that rebellion collided with perfection and invaded the hearts of humanity, God set in motion a plan of redemption. His plan was Jesus – His only Son – who came to redeem us... to save us... to wash us clean from sin. He is an awesome Redeemer... One who gives beauty for ashes, comfort for mourning, and freedom to the shackled. A Savior who imputes His righteousness on the wretched, shines light in the darkest places, and breathes hope to the weariest of souls.
Scripture introduces us to a guy who experienced God's redemption in beautifully deep ways. His name was Job. Job was a good man. I mean a really good man. No joke – the Bible says so! This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil. (Job 1:1b) He lived life the right way. He honored God, loved his family and was both faithful and patient. Good man.
You'd think that because Job was such a stand out guy that he'd pretty much have a cake life, right? SO not right. Let me just say this: good-guy-Job went through some stuff. Boy did he go through some stuff. We are talking major big-league stuff. He had it all and then lost it all: his children, his wealth and his health. Gone. In a blink.
Don't just skim over that last paragraph.
This man lost his children for goodness sake!
They died.
All ten of them... at the same time.
I can't even fathom the thought of losing one of my children, let alone all of my children. Shiver. Job knew broken on levels that most of us will never come close to knowing. He knew ashes. He knew mourning. He knew darkness. He knew weary.
On the front end of the pain He had faith. Big faith. He gave God the benefit of the doubt. He held on to his integrity, accepted his circumstances and blessed the name of the LORD in spite of the horror he endured. And he worshiped! Can you believe he worshiped?
Then he fell to the ground in worship and said:
"Naked I came from my mother's womb,
and naked I will depart.
The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;
may the name of the Lord be praised."
In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.(Job 1:20b-22)
Job went through loss after loss, test after test and friend-with-bad-advice after friend-with-bad-advice who spoke condemnation instead of comfort. All that and his wife was a total drip. Seriously. She wanted him to "Curse God and die!" (Job 2:9b) Nice. Isn't it amazing how some people can say dumb things and completely misrepresent the heart of God in times of struggle? Oh, friend... let us be women who are quick to comfort and slow to speak advice.
Stepping down from my soap box...
Job was in anguish. (Job 6:2, 7:11) Understandable! He wanted to die because the pain was so unrelenting. (Job 6:9-10) He called out to God and asked Him to reveal where he had gone wrong. Then he repented of the sins that he knew he had committed.
He lamented. Stomped his feet a bit. Got a smidge sassy and frustrated with God. And he wondered if God even cared. Then God answered his complaints, corrected his heart and set the wheels in motion for one of the most amazing shows of redemption the world has ever seen.
God shined light into his darkness – spoke gladness to his mourning – and brought beauty to his ashes. He redeemed Job's life from the dark pit of broken. Then overwhelmed, Job humbly and whole-heartedly worshiped the Lord. But now, he worshiped God as his Redeemer. He was the first in Scripture to ever call God his Redeemer. For I know that my Redeemer lives. (Job 19:25)
God also names Himself our Redeemer in Scripture!
Then you will know that I, the Lord, am your Savior,your Redeemer,
the Mighty One of Jacob. (Isaiah 60:16)
You see? God is all about redemption.
His love for humanity runs deeper than the deepest recesses of our depravity. His love runs farther than your past – higher than your disappointments – wider than your heart wounds and deeper than a cavernous pit of depression. God's plan of redemption is for every person – no matter where you've been, no matter what you've been through, no matter what you've done.
But, alas, there's a catch.
There's always a catch, right?
The catch is: it has to be personal.
His grace is for every one of us, but each of us must accept or reject God's redemption plan by accepting or rejecting his Son, Jesus Christ. Redemption begins and ends with Jesus. For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16, NLT)
Redemption is for me.
Redemption is for you.
Do you believe that? Have you made it personal with God?
Whether you are at work, at home, at the hospital or in a jail cell. He's whispering, "Be still." Whether you are struggling with life strains or are in a season of reprieve. "Be still." Whether you have a house full of crazy-noise or an apartment filled with ordered-quiet. "Be still." Whether the diagnosis is cancer or the sting of betrayal is fresh – whether the hope you cling to resounds or you are weary and unsettled. "Be still." Know that He is God. Know that He is good. Accept that He is able and willing to exchange beauty for your ashes. Call out to Him as your Redeemer.
Confess your mess before Him.
Consider His love.
Then... in the stillness ... respond from your heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, My Redeemer, I'm here. I'm still. Please reveal anything in my heart that needs restoring. (Pause to listen and reflect.) I confess these sins to You: ________________ and I ask that You remove them as far as the east is from the west. Thanks for capturing me with Your grace once again. In Jesus's name I pray,
amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Be still before Him.
The noise of life can be so loud. I'm right there with you trying to hit the mute button each day. Failing on many days. One way I've found to center my heart on God is to hear stories of His grace. Can you think of a way that God has woven redemption into your story? Tell me about it on my Facebook page!
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November 19, 2012
Do You Expect God to Answer Your Prayers?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In the morning, LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. - Psalm 5:3 NIV
Friend to Friend
Have you ever prayed about something, but didn't really expect God to answer...I mean really expect it. That happened to a bunch of Peter's friends.
In the early years of the church, King Herod had many Christians murdered and many more put in prison. James, the brother of John, was put to death with the sword, and Peter was thrown into prison.
The night before Peter was to be taken to trial, a group gathered at Mary's (John's mother's) house to pray for him. While they were praying, there was a knock at the door. A servant girl named Rhoda answered it.
"Who is there?" she asked.
"It is Peter," the freed apostle answered.
She knew it was Peter—she recognized his voice! God had answered their prayers! Rhoda was so excited, she didn't even let Peter in, but ran back to tell the group that he was standing at the door.
"You're out of your mind," they told her. "Maybe it is his angel."
Peter kept knocking. Finally they opened the door and were astonished to see Peter alive and well, standing right in front of them.
Why were they surprised? Why didn't they believe Rhoda? While they were praying for Peter's release, they didn't really expect God to free him. Do you see it? We can pray about a situation and miss the glory moment standing at the door because of unbelief and low expectations that God would actually answer.
Sometimes, I fear we have lowered our spiritual expectations to match the experiences of people we know, rather than what we read in the Bible. We look around and see what has occurred in the lives of other believers, and that's where we set the bar. As a result, we lead mediocre lives, forfeiting the abundant life Jesus came to give.
Here's what I want you to do today. Pray and then expect God to answer! I love what David wrote: In the morning, LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly, (Psalm 5:3, NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am bringing my prayers before you today. Forgive me for praying and not expecting You to answer. Here is my prayer: (Fill in this spot with you own prayer.) I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you don't keep a prayer journal, consider getting one. This could be a simple notebook, or a cute bound blank book. The dollar store is a great place for cute little journals. Write down your prayer requests and then make a note as to how God answered and the date:
Yes. No. Wait.
Let's pray for each other today. Log on to my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com. Share your prayer request and then pray for the sisters' comment entry above and below yours.
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November 20, 2012
Plan for Peace
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When a man's ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.(Proverbs 16:7, ESV).
Friend to Friend
I recently read the story of a young reporter who approached an older gentleman on his 100th birthday.
"I want to wish you a happy birthday, sir. I have just one question for you. What would you say is your greatest accomplishment in life?" the young reporter asked.
"Well," said the man, "I don't have a single enemy in the world."
"Really? That's incredible!" responded the reporter. "What is your secret?"
The centenarian smiled and proudly replied, "I have outlived every single one of them."
Let's be honest. Some people are harder to get along with than others. I call them "sandpaper people" because they are irritating and rub me the wrong way. Tough relationships are a certainty in life. When it comes to handling those difficult relationships, God does not want or expect us to declare war. We are to control our emotions instead of allowing them to control us. The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 12:18, "As much as is possible, live peaceably with all men." In other words, we need to set our mind on peace – not winning.
God's desire is for us to wage peace in every relationship. What is even more amazing to me is the fact that God calls us to wage peace with even the roughest, most abrasive sandpaper people who come our way. Now that is a formidable task -- since sandpaper people seem to come with a set agenda that targets emotional eruptions and creates constant relationship upheavals. They love a good fight, live to evoke angry reactions and are fierce warriors determined to win every battle initiated by their downright irritating personalities. However, combat is impossible when the enemy has laid down his weapons and chosen peace.
Unresolved conflict is the enemy of peace, and peace is often the casualty of unresolved conflict in relationships. I love this little poem about relationship problems:
"To dwell above with saints we love, that will be grace and glory.
To live below with saints we know; that's another story!" (Author unknown)
The world has its own system for working out conflict. That system is retaliation. God has a different plan for working out conflict. That plan is restoration. The apostle Paul was a master at conflict resolution and in 1 Thessalonians 5:13, he offers a simple but powerful command to "live in peace with each other." In Colossians 3:12-14, he paints a clear picture of what living in peace should look like in our lives:
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Sounds like an impossible task, doesn't it? It is ... unless we choose to rely on and surrender to the power of the Holy Spirit working in and through us. When Paul says that we are to "clothe" ourselves with certain characteristics so we will always be prepared for peace, he means we must plan ahead and make deliberate choices before the choice is actually necessary.
For example, the holidays are coming up. (I know. I can't believe it either.) Let's say that your least favorite relatives are coming for a week and you are already dreading their visit. Make the decision right now to practice patience, love and self-control during their stay. Choose today to please God by how you treat them and welcome them into your home. Why?
Proverbs 16:7 (ESV) "When a man's ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."
"He" is the operating word in the verse above. Did you catch that? Our obedience to God invites Him to promote peace in our relationships – even the most difficult ones. All we have to focus on is making sure our ways are pleasing to the Lord and He will do the rest. Now that is a great plan for peace!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live a life of obedience to You. Make me an instrument of Your peace. Teach me to love even my enemies. Give me the strength to wage peace when what I really want to do is wage war. Today, I choose to surrender my stubborn will to You. I lay down my emotional weapons and choose peace. Be glorified in my relationships, Father. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When our daughter, Danna, was a little girl, she loved to shop ... for any reason. One day, when I picked her up from school, she hopped in the car and exclaimed, "Mom, it is going to snow tonight!" I started laughing because I had already checked the weather and snow was nowhere in the forecast. "Danna, it is going to be in the 50s tonight. I hardly think we need to prepare for snow." Danna's immediate response was, "But don't you think we should go shopping - just in case?"
We need to plan for peace. The characteristics that we wear or "bring" to relationships will determine the level of peace in those relationships. Peace makes the decision to resolve conflict before conflict comes. Paul lists the characteristics we need to cultivate personally in order to have right relationships filled with peace. On a scale of one to five, how are you doing in each area when it comes to dealing with the difficult people in your life?
1 = Awful
5 = Awesome
___ Compassionate
___ Kind
___ Humble
___ Gentle
___ Patient
___ Merciful
___ Loving
___ Forgiving
What one change are you willing to make today to promote peace in your relationships? Record your answer in your journal along with a prayer of commitment. Feeling brave? Share your commitment with a girlfriend who will hold you accountable.
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November 21, 2012
The Easy Way to Live the Abundant Life
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from me, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light," - (Matthew 11:28-230 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Here's a question. Do you think obedience to God is easy or hard? Hmmm. Obedience may seem hard at first, but in reality, obedience is the easy way. It is difficult to cope with the messes we get into when we don't obey. The consequences of sin are hard to deal with. Think about the times you have disobeyed or turned your back on God. What were the results? Easy? Hard?
Satan will try and convince you that obedience is much too hard, that it carries too high a price, but he will never tell you the cost of not obeying God. He will never tell you the glory moments you will forfeit by refusing or ignoring God's invitation to join Him.
Practicing Acts 17:28 (In him we live and move and have our being.) will never lead to sin. When we wrangle from God's embrace and set out on our own, that's when we get in trouble. God isn't telling us to obey to make life difficult. God wants us to obey to make life less difficult. The end result of obedience is the blessed way...smooth moves.
Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from me, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light," (Matthew 11:28-30). The yoke is simply a farmer's understanding of the divine dance of obedience. When two oxen are yoked together, they move as one—walking in tandem to the bidding of the master. Usually, an older, more experienced animal is yoked with a young upstart. The apprentice ox learns from the more seasoned ox as they walk along tethered together. If the younger animal tries to surge ahead, the yoke chokes at his neck and slows him down. If he lags behind, the yoke chafes at his neck and prods him to hurry along.
And what does Jesus say about this yoke? It is not hard. It is not difficult. It is not heavy. It is easy. It is light. Being yoked to Jesus actually makes life much simpler...smoother...more peace-filled.
God said to the people of Israel: "If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, your righteousness like the waves of the sea." (Isaiah 48:18). A river flows unhindered over rocks and boulders as it moves from one place to the next. It flows around them, over them, and past them—all the while smoothing rough edges. A river doesn't strive to get from one place to another. It simply flows. That is the glory life of living and moving and having our being in Christ. We simply flow with a sacred inner calmness. Sometimes circumstances will be like tumultuous white-capped rapids, other times like a lazy gentle stream. But the life in union with Jesus keeps flowing. Moving forward. And in the journey, we catch glimpses of sudden glory in the scenery as we move between life's banks.
Obedience is so much more than following a list of do's and don'ts. Practicing religion rather than enjoying a love relationship with Jesus is like trying to plow the field alone. It will exhaust you rather than energize you. You will feel like a martyr and then wonder why others around you seem to be so joyful in their calling. Obedience because of our love relationship energizes our lives. Obedience out of a sense of duty or law drains. Always drains.
Religion operates on a "works of the law" principle: "I obey God, therefore, I am accepted by God." Relationship operates on the gospel of grace principle: "I am accepted by God through the finished work of Jesus, therefore I obey—because I love and trust Him." We're going to talk more about that in the next chapter. This is important to understand because until we grasp the difference, we will never experience the joy of living and moving and having our being in Christ.
Obedience is aresponse to love. Jesus said, "If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. He who does not love me will not obey my teaching," (John 14:23-24).
Sometimes relinquishing control and following Jesus' lead through obedience can feel uncertain or awkward, like when your dance partner leads you into a new move for the very first time. But each time you say yes to God, a new passion and peace flows through your veins until eventually, hopefully, a total transfusion of Christ-centered living replaces self-centered stubbornness. Intimacy becomes sweeter. Passion grows stronger. Glory moments become easier to see. Unique glory moments...selected especially for you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for loving me enough to provide boundaries in which to experience the abundant life. Help me to obey You quickly and fully, so that I can experience all that You have for me. I don't want to miss a single blessing because I've chosen to walk through the wrong door.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of a time you flat out disobeyed God. What was the outcome?
Think of a time you willingly obeyed God. What was the outcome?
Which outcome was the best in the long run?
There's an old saying in the South... "Dance with the one who brung you." (I know that's incorrect English. But it correct "southern.") So here's the question...Are you willing to dance with the One who made you? Remember before you answer...He has to be the leader.
If your answer is yes, click on to my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com and say, "I'm dancing with the One who made me, and I'm following His lead!"
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Do You Believe God?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms..." (Ephesians 1:18-20 NIV, emphasis mine)
Friend to Friend
It doesn't take reading very far into the Bible to see the weighty importance of believing God. Abraham believed God and it was credited to him as righteousness (Genesis 15:5). His wife, Sarah, had a much harder time believing that God could fulfill His promises. When she doubted that God could open her womb at age 89, the angel asked her, "Is anything to too hard for the LORD?" (Genesis 18:14). That is a question each and every one of us will have to answer at one time or another.
In the Greek, the original language of the New Testament, the word pistis is translated as faith, believing, and believe. The noun pistis and the verb form of the same word, pisteuo occur more than 240 times in the New Testament and the adjective pistos is found sixty seven times. That's a lot of believing God!
When the Philippian jailer asked, "Men, what must I do to be saved?" Paul and Silas answered without hesitation, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved," (Acts 16:31). It is whoever believes in him that does not perish, but has everlasting life. (John 3:16). Paul wrote to the Ephesians:
And you also were included in Christ when you heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. When you believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession—to the praise of his glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14, emphasis mine)
When you believed in Jesus, you were signed, sealed, delivered—you're His! It is a decision that every Christian has made in the past. And with that decision comes forgiveness of sins and everlasting life. Hallelujah!
Then there's more. Paul went on to pray:
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms..." (Ephesians 1:18-20, emphasis mine)
The word pistis in the first passage is past tense—believed. However pistis in the second passage is a present active participle, which means we believe and we keep on believing, right now, all the time, continuously. And what happens when we believe God tells the truth? We will have access to His incomparably great power... "the same mighty strength that He exerted when He raised Jesus from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly realms." Now if that doesn't raise our expectations for this faith journey of union and communion with Jesus, I don't know what would!
Theresa believed God...and dared to trust God to answer her child's prayer. Theresa's daughter always wanted to play the flute, but it seemed financially impossible. "Honey, we can't afford a flute," she explained. "Maybe one day."
The following year, her daughter expressed her desire to join the school band and play the flute. Theresa didn't have the heart to tell her no again. "If it is God's will for you to play the flute, then He will provide one before the school year starts. Let's ask Him to take care of it." Theresa prayed and believed God would answer, but she had no idea how He would provide.
A few days before school started, Theresa and her daughter went to a yard sale. And what did they see glistening in the sunlight among all the wares? A flute! But this wasn't just any ol' flute. This was an antique flute that had Theresa's daughter's birthday inscribed on the side. The year was 1918, but the day and month were the same as hers. A sudden glory!
The miracle flute was not a fluke. Theresa dared to ask, dared to believe, and God lavishly gave. Today Theresa's daughter plays the flute beautifully, and every time she brings the instrument to her lips, she remembers that moment of sudden glory glistening in the sunlight.
So, what about you? Are you ready to start practicing some present tense believing...right now? Are you ready to start acting like you believe God tells the truth?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I get so excited when I read about women who have experienced miracles in their lives. I get so excited when I read about women who believe You! Help me to exercise the faith that I have been given so that it will grow stronger each day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Luke 1:5 records this about Mary, the mother of Jesus: Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!"
Can you say that about yourself? If so, get an index card and write the verse with your name in it. Blessed is (your name) who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!
I love what the angel said to Sarai..."Is anything to hard for the LORD?" If you are willing to answer that question, "NO!" then log onto my blog page and leave a comment that says... "Nothing is too hard for the LORD."
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Do you ache for something more in your relationship with God? Here's some good news...something more does not mean doing more. God said, "Cease striving and know that I am God." The real question is not "What does God want from you?" but "What does God want for you?" Abundant life! If you long to experience God's presence on a daily basis, then my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to your Ache for Something More will help you experience God's presence in a more intimate way than ever before. Click on the link to read a sample chapter, watch videos or make a purchase.
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November 27, 2012
God is Jealous for Me
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame (Song of Songs 8:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shakespeare described jealousy as a "green-eyed monster." Mark Twain called it the "trademark of small minds." I once heard it described as "the gangrene of the soul." Not a lovely picture, is it? In fact, in human terms, jealousy is usually thought of as a negative trait we need to carefully guard against. However, when it comes to God, jealousy takes on a whole new meaning.
God is a jealous God. The root idea in the Old Testament word jealous is to become intensely red and refers to the way our face can change color with rising emotion when something or someone very dear to us is threatened. Been there? I have! In fact, both the Old and New Testament words for jealousy are also translated "zeal." In other words, being jealous and being zealous is basically the same thing in the Bible. God is zealous – eager about protecting what is precious to Him. It's the kind of jealousy that compels God to pursue each one of us relentlessly, no matter how we try to evade Him with our indifferent attitude or our propensity for sin. The jealousy of God is comparable to the jealous passion of a parent for their child. As a mother, I know what that kind of love is like.
When our son was only six weeks old, he developed a potentially serious medical condition. When the doctor told us to immediately bring Jered to the hospital for tests, I panicked. Dan rushed home from work, and we raced to the hospital where we were met by caring nurses and our wonderful pediatrician. After an extensive exam, the doctor said, "Okay. Let's get an IV in this little man and get him upstairs for X-rays." Seeing the look on my face, Dr. Schultz wrapped his arm around my shoulders and said, "He is going to be fine. We will take good care of him." Words of comfort, but they were not nearly enough to assuage my anguish as I pictured needles being thrust into my precious baby. And he couldn't eat in case they had to do surgery! Jered was all about eating. After his regular feeding time came and went, he screamed for food until he was hoarse. I cried along with him because I knew he was hungry, but I couldn't feed him or make him understand why I couldn't feed him.
The nurses were obviously accustomed to dealing with almost hysterical mothers like me and reassured me repeatedly that everything was going to be fine. I wanted proof! This was not just any baby they were dealing with. Jered was my baby! I fully expected the claws to pop out of the ends of my fingers at any moment because, for the first time in my life, I understood what a mama bear must feel like when her cub is threatened.
The nurse who was assigned to insert Jered's IV was wonderful. I held him tightly as she expertly and gently inserted the needle and quickly secured it with surgical tape. She then took a Styrofoam cup, cut it in half and taped it over the needle so Jered couldn't accidently kick it out. And let me tell you, he was indeed kicking at this point!
The nurse then left the room so I could rock my baby and try to calm him down. Just as he drifted off to sleep, the door slammed open as an X-ray technician wheeled a gurney into the room and sharply ordered, "Let's go!" He had no idea who he was dealing with. My husband did and quickly took charge, escorting the technician into the hallway and said, "We will carry him up to the X-ray floor and will be glad to follow you, but we will not need that gurney until we get there." The technician started to argue but evidently reconsidered when his eyes found mine and he caught my death glare. "Fine," he said and grabbed the IV pole and told us to follow him.
When we reached the X-ray unit, Dan gently pried Jered out of my arms and laid him on the gurney. The technician said, "We are really backed up today so let's make this quick!" He then jerked the gurney and the IV pole in opposite directions, yanking out the carefully inserted and securely taped IV. Blood spurted out of my son's leg and he began to scream.
I don't exactly remember what happened next, but Dan does. He said I scooped Jered up in my arms, stomped my foot so loudly that nurses came running as I growled at the offending young man. I guess the technician had reached his patience limit, too, because he glared back at me and said, "Lady, do you need to leave this unit?" Dan said he quickly began calculating how he was going to raise my bail money when, out of the corner of his eye, he saw me approach the doomed technician, plant my finger in his chest and whisper through clenched teeth, "Listen carefully to me, young man. I know you have a job to do, but you need to understand something right now! This is my baby! I am not going anywhere! And you need to watch how you treat him!" The young man quickly apologized ... as did I ... sort of ... but I meant every word I had spoken to him. Fortunately, Jered did not have to have surgery. He downed two full bottles in record time and I let the technician live – and we headed home instead of to jail. I was and still am a jealous parent who is passionate and zealous about her children.
Don't doubt for a minute that God is jealous for you, Girlfriend. He is standing right beside you, wrapping His arms of love around your wounded heart. Listen closely as He declares that you are His child. You belong to Him, and He is not going anywhere!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me like no one has ever loved me. I cannot comprehend that kind of love, but I know it is real because it has changed me. Thank You for Your faithfulness and provision in my life. I praise You! In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time today to spend with God. Read and meditate on the promise of John 3:16:
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Record this verse in your journal.
Circle the action words. What do they mean to you personally?
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November 28, 2012
Dancing with Jesus
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In him we live and move and have our being," (Acts 17:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Over the course of several years, my husband and I traveled many times to Sea Island, Georgia and beheld art in motion as seasoned couples graced the dance floor to the sounds of a Big Band Orchestra. Mirrored steps, swirling dresses, and graceful twosomes moved around the parquet in a kaleidoscope of colors. Watching them stirred up a hunger in me to learn how to do the same.
So Steve and I signed up for a six-week introductory Ballroom dance class at a local studio.
"Steve and Sharon," the instructor began, "the first dance we will learn is the Fox Trot. Steve, extend your left arm. Now place your right hand on your wife's left shoulder blade. Cup it firmly in your hand. Let her know it's there." Then she turned to me, "Sharon, you gently rest your left hand on your husband's right shoulder and place your right hand into his left hand. Keep your backs straight. Taut. This is called your frame."
So far, so good.
She then proceeded to teach us to make little boxes with our feet while counting one, two, three, four, one, two, three, four. This was not floating around the dance floor like the couples on Sea Island. This was not what I had in mind.
The instructor continued teaching as we marched in place. "Steve, you have the hardest part because it is up to you to lead. All Sharon has to do is follow your signals. With a gentle press to her back, she will know to move forward. With a slight release, she will know to move backward. When you raise your arm, she will know to turn under."
Sounded easy enough, but it wasn't. More than once, the instructor tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Sharon, you're leading again." The problem was, when I led, Steve wouldn't follow. Imagine that. Now I know a train can't have two engines, but I felt that I was the better dancer and that the lessons would go much quicker if Steve would just let me lead. But my tendency to take control only slowed us down and frustrated the entire process.
After we mastered tiny boxes, it was time for lesson number two. "Okay," the instructor continued, "now you are ready to begin moving around the room. This will be like making small boxes with a flap open."
We learned how to take two steps forward and two steps to the side, two steps forward and two steps to the side. Actually, Steve got to move forward, but I had to move backwards, which seemed very unfair to me. "I understood that we couldn't both move forward, but why am I the one who has to move backward?" I complained. The instructor took a deep breath and assured me that this was the way God planned it. (She didn't explain it exactly that way, but I knew that's what she meant.)
So the three of us marched and counted: "Slow, slow, quick, quick. Slow, slow, quick, quick." I felt more like a shopping buggy being pushed around the room than a dance partner. I was just glad no one was watching.
I had wanted us to be the next Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire, but instead we looked more like Fred Rogers and Mrs. Frog dancing about the neighborhood. And all during our six week lessons, the instructor kept tapping me on the shoulder and saying, "Sharon, you're leading again."
Eventually, I did learn to trust Steve enough to let him lead. Did you catch that? I learned to trust him. As long as I didn't trust him, I would never yield to his promptings. As long as I thought I could do it better, I would never follow his lead. But when I surrendered to his tender tugs and gentle releases, we began to glide. When I began to heed his cues, I knew when to spin, roll out like a casted fishing line and be reeled back in again like a prized catch.
Amazingly, when I relinquished control and followed Steve's lead, I looked good. I was the one spinning, twirling, rolling out, and swirling back in. All Steve got to do was stay in one place and drive the machine.
And that is the joy and beauty of practicing a life of union with Jesus. In Him we live and move and have our being becomes a graceful dance in which we simply learn to follow Jesus' lead. When we learn to yield to Jesus' tender tugs and gentle releases, when we relinquish our tendency to take control, we move as one to the melody of heaven's Big Band and God's creative choreography designed uniquely for each of us.
Let's Pray
Jesus, forgive me for trying to take the lead. I want to be a good dance partner who yields to Your tender tugs and gentle release. Today, I will relinquish control and follow Your lead.
In Your Name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The next time you watch dancers, notice who gets to do all the fancy moves. At the same time, notice who is leading.
Is there an area in your life that you tend to take the lead rather than follow Jesus'?
If you are willing to stop taking the lead away from Jesus, log onto this post on my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com and say, I'm letting Jesus lead!
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was adapted from my newest book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. Do you long for more in your relationship with God and in your life as a whole? Oh sister, God wants to fulfill that longing! He longs to lavish you with moments of SUDDEN GLORY where He makes His presence known. Life becomes a beautiful dance with Jesus when today's truth becomes a reality in your life. Are you ready to join Jesus in the dance of your life?
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November 29, 2012
No Room
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I make room for things that are important to me. I eat two or three meals every day and sleep several hours each night even though my "to do" list is not much shorter today than it was yesterday. I will choose to play with a grandchild over cleaning the house any day of the week. I manage to find a place for that great piece of furniture I don't really need – but really like. After all, it was on sale. I like watches. Don't ask me why because I simply don't know. I only need one watch, but I own several inexpensive ones. I will have lunch with a friend instead of running errands. And there is always room for chocolate! Silly examples – right?
I wonder. I wonder what the innkeeper thought as he turned away the young man and his very pregnant wife that holy night so long ago. He had no room – it was that simple. Do we?
The Christmas season is here. Our calendars are already full, our bank accounts are closing in on empty and our hearts and lives are crowded with things we deem important. But have we made room for Jesus?
I simply cannot imagine a world without the presence of God and yet I often live my life as if He does not exist. A crisis hits, and I try to handle it on my own. I don't understand the trials in my life while those who could care less about God seem to prosper. Instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness. Financial stress fuels worry. Instead of turning to God, I rely on what I can see and understand. I settle.
When I do cry out to God, He lovingly fills each dark corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, Jesus Christ steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything – absolutely everything!
Jesus could have come to us in many ways. The simplicity of His birth is extraordinary and sometimes hard to grasp. Jesus could have been born in a mansion. He was, after all, a King. Instead, He came to a dirty smelly manger and His birth was announced by common shepherds instead of Kings -- the greatest of all miracles in the midst of total simplicity. Today, Jesus still wants to meet us in the midst of our simple daily lives. It seems too easy and too good to be true, doesn't it?
It was Christmas Eve, and the family was preparing to attend the special service of their local church. Everyone was going except Dad, who was an honest man, a man who could not seem to wrap his logical mind around the story of God come to earth as a baby in a manger. He didn't want to be a hypocrite, pretending to worship a Savior he wasn't sure even existed, so he stayed home, built a fire to dispel the bitter cold of that winter night and began to read the paper while waiting for his family's return. Hearing a knock at the window, he turned to see a tiny bird trying to reach the warmth of the fire. The man opened the window, but the bird refused to come in. Grabbing his coat, the man raced out to the barn and opened the barn doors wide – but still, the bird refused to come in. The man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just one minute, I could lead the bird to safety." At that moment, he heard the church bells ring and finally understood why Jesus came to earth as a man - to become one of us - so He could lead us to eternal safety.
The very heart of Christmas is Emanuel, God with us – with me – and withyou. Christmas is not a date on a calendar. Christmas is a way of life that celebrates the presence of God in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do -- the smile we give the harried stranger or the patience we choose in the crowd of impatient shoppers -- the love that prompts the secret gift or the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit. God is with us – if we choose to make room for Him.
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. Thank You for sending Your Son to earth as a tiny baby in a manger. I celebrate the birth of Jesus and the gift of life that He brings. I choose to receive Your gift of love and forgiveness for my sins. I now surrender everything I am or ever hope to be to You. Please take control of my life and direct my paths. I promise to follow. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 3:16 once a day and look for ways to share God's love with the people in your life.
Give a gift to someone you don't know.
Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner.
Offer to take an elderly neighbor shopping.
Put your faith into action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season.
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I pray that your life is filled with God's peace and joy this holiday season. I know it has been a difficult year for many of you. Remember – God is with you.
Already feeling the stress of the approaching holidays? Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, for practical steps to dealing with and managing stress and check out her Christmas MP3 downloads, The Secret of a Merry Christmas and Giving the Perfect Gift.
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Novembe 30, 2012
What's Your Top Priority?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me. (Psalm 57:2, ESV)
Friend to Friend
My heart plays ping-pong. It shifts focus from one affection to another faster than you can say, "Squirrel!" I have never been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD – or any other condition with scary capitol letters – but I've surely been known to major on some minors in my day. Practically every day. I worry about things that don't really matter... at least not eternally.
The other day started out great. In the wee hours of early, I poured some hot coffee, grabbed my prayer journal and my Bible, and headed to the couch to spend time with God. My heart spilled with worship as I fixed my affections on Him. I was prepared to start my day. Fueled and focused.
A while later, my son came downstairs ready for school. We exchanged tender morning greetings and hugs as he grabbed a bowl for cereal. But when he sat down to eat, I realized that he was wearing two different socks. As he ate his breakfast, I tried to lovingly influence him toward a matching pair... to no avail. Hmmph! When he left for the bus stop, I was horrified, so I lamented. Where have I gone wrong with this child? Why does his 13-year old brain not think it is inappropriate to wear un-matching socks? What will people think? Surely the teachers will have a juicy gossip session in the lunchroom about how awful and inadequate I am as a mother because my "it's-all-good" child went to school with two different socks!
AS IF it matters.
Ping. Pong.
My heart can turn on a dime. One moment it is fixed on the Lord and the next it prioritizes drama. Does God care if my son's socks match? I'm thinking No. Is it okay to want my children to wear matching socks? Yes. Surely I can speak into a practical matter, but the way I respond matters more – especially if things don't go my way. Let it go, already.
I really do need to let it go.
I need to let a lot of things go. I need to let go of reactions, emotions, activities or thoughts that don't honor God. He wants to be our top priority! That's why we were created. To love him above all things. He wants the details, activities and decisions of our lives to be prioritized around Him - not just our Sunday mornings and major decisions... but our every morning and our every decision. We must look to Him as our desire – our ultimate – our obsession. Then the rest of life falls into place.
God is El Elyon. This Hebrew term for God can be translated two ways: the Most High God or God Most High. Either way, they mean the same thing: He is to be preeminent in our lives. He is supreme. There is nothing above Him or beyond Him.
In her book Obsessed, author and speaker Hayley DiMarco said it this way, "If you claim two obsessions, then you are not truly obsessed with both. No one is obsessed part time."
God is jealous for us.
He wants us to be obsessed with Him and Him alone.
God becomes El Elyon to us when our affections for Him and His ways are prioritized above all else. The Lord wants us to be focused worshipers. To have hearts that look to Him and His strength; seeking His face always. (Psalm 105:4) One of my favorite things about the Psalms is that they are honest. Refreshingly so. Like the psalmist, we need to allow God to filter our responses.
I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me. - (Psalm 57:2, ESV)
I'm so encouraged by what Scripture says here: when I cry out to God and make Him my ultimate, He fulfills His purpose for me. Yes, please! That's what I want. His purpose – not mine. More of Him – less of me. You see, we don't have to try to find our happiness and purpose in other things. When we prioritize God and put Him as God Most High in our lives, He fulfills us in a way that none of these other things can!
A.W. Tozer wrote, "What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us." He also listed off these telling "Rules for Self Discovery":
1. What we want most;
2. What we think about most;
3. How we use our money;
4. What we do with our leisure time;
5. The company we enjoy;
6. Who and what we admire;
7. What we laugh at.
Tozer summed it up beautifully: all of life needs to be filtered through our constant thoughts and yielding to our Most High God.
How can this be practical in our lives? What does El Elyon mean to your worries? Do you obsess about them? If you compare your fears to El Elyon, the Pinnacle of existence, do they still look so big? What does El Elyon mean to your busy life, your weight loss goals or your desire to please others? Which master leads? Are you more concerned about pleasing man or pleasing God?
This is where the rubber meets the roads.
Where your ping meet your pong.
You must choose what, or who, will be Most High in your life.
The psalmist chose what is best as he sang to El Elyon, "I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart;
I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.I will be glad and exult in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High." (Psalm 9:2)
Will you allow Him to be your El Elyon?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, El Elyon, I really want to get this one! Help me to place You above all and before all. Show me what that looks like in the midst of my drama. Help me to yield to You when I want to take control. Be my Everything. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· How does today's devotion relate to your life?
· Spend a moment in prayer about the things that distract you from prioritizing God above all and before all.
More from the Girlfriends
I love this name of God so much that I co-wrote a song about it called El Elyon with my friend, Dave Clark. Read the lyric below as a prayer. Read it out loud. Reflect on His goodness. Then swing over to my website at www.GwenSmith.net to hear the song:
El Elyon[ii]
Dave Clark, Gwen Smith
Psalm 91:1-2
He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High
He will rest in the shadow of the Lord Almighty
And I will say He is my Fortress
I will say in Him I trust
My Refuge, My Provider
My Righteousness
El Elyon
God Most High
Great and Mighty One
Holy Adonai
Merciful Provider
Sovereign majesty
You are El Elyon
God Most High to me
God, Jehovah, Creator, and the Great I Am
You invite us to join You in Your sanctuary
Even though we stand unworthy
Let our worship speak our heart
As witness of the covenant
And who You are
Obsessed, Breaking Free From the Things That Consume You. ©2012 by Hungry Planet (Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group)
[ii]El Elyon / CCLI # 5260548By Gwen Smith / Dave Clark
© Copyright 2008 New Spring, a division of Brentwood-Benson Music Publishing / Audio 31 Music / Callender Lane Music (ASCAP) (Licensing through Music Services) / Sunday Best Music (ASCAP) (Administered by Sunday Best Music, P.O. Box 2553, Hendersonville, TN 37077). All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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December 3, 2012
Can You Hear Me Now?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me" - John 10:27 (ASV).
Friend To Friend
Dan and I had been married one year when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas so he could attend seminary. I desperately wanted but could not find a school teaching job. Instead, I was hired to work in an insurance office - definitely not my idea of a dream job - but I had a plan. Every day, on my lunch hour, I called the school district's personnel office to ask, "Do you have a job for me yet?"
After several weeks of these annoying phone calls, a frustrated voice finally responded with the words I had been longing to hear, "Mary, will you teach anything anywhere?" Finally! I jumped at the job offer and made an appointment to visit my new classroom that afternoon. The principal escorted me up a flight of stairs, pointed to a door and said, "That's your classroom. Good luck!" With a knowing smile, he turned and walked away ... very quickly. Hmmm, interesting!
Stepping into the classroom, I froze at the astonishing sight before me. Children were jumping on desks while others crawled under tables, all screaming and yelling at the top of their lungs. Paper and food littered the floor. In the corner sat an obviously frazzled substitute teacher who was desperately trying to gain control of her students ... uh, make that my students. The classroom was in total chaos! My first thought was "What have I gotten myself into?" The next few weeks certainly answered that question.
Each classroom was arranged in learning centers instead of desks. The students moved from center to center as they completed assignments, a plan that naturally invited noise. I learned that because of overcrowding, each teacher had been asked to select two children to form a new classroom and, of course, each teacher had chosen her two most difficult students to populate the new class.
The first few weeks were a nightmarish battle for control. After losing my voice twice, my sister, a veteran first grade teacher, gave me some great advice as she explained, "The louder you are, the louder the children will be. If you want to get their attention, speak softly so they will have to be quiet in order to hear your voice." I put her advice into action the next day.
As the children entered the classroom, I greeted each one with a silent smile. In my hands was a brightly wrapped box. Curious, they asked, "What is that, Mrs. Southerland?" I merely smiled and said nothing until every student was quietly seated. "I have a new plan for our classroom," I began. "Sometime during the day, I will call your name once. If you hear my voice, you may choose one prize from our new prize box. If you don't hear my voice, you'll miss the opportunity to select a prize and I will call another student's name." It worked like a charm! In a matter of days, my students learned to listen for my voice above all others.
It occurs to me that listening for the voice of God when I pray is a lot like that classroom. The children had not been trained to listen for a teacher's voice. The result was chaos and stress - with very little learning happening. I could not teach them anything until I had their attention, so when they began to tune out everyone's voice but mine, the atmosphere of that classroom was transformed into a peaceful, quiet place where students could focus and learn.
Is your heart trained to come to God in prayer, listening for His voice above all others? The only voice that matters is His. Come to Him in prayer. Listen as He speaks to you. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, sometimes it seems as if my head and heart are filled with voices and each one is telling me something different. Help me learn to hear Your voice, to stop and listen for You above every other voice clamoring for my attention. I will seek You in the Scripture. will seek You in prayer and in my daily walk. I am listening today for Your voice alone.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· Make a list of three "voices" that are frequently heard in your life.
Examine each voice to see if it lines up with God's plan and purpose for your life.
Strengthen your ability to hear God's voice above the others by reading and memorizing Scripture. Below are a few of my favorites:
Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you."
Exodus 14:13 "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still."
Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."
Isaiah 42:16 "I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them."
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December 4, 2012
The Women of Christmas
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear" (Isaiah 59:1 NIV).
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When the writers of the Old Testament penned the words to the long lists of lineages, the so-and-so begat so-and-so's, they always listed the males. Nary a time do you find a woman's name in the list. But when we turn the page from the Old Testament to the New Testament, we see God honoring women in a brand new way. Even in the lineage of Jesus recorded in Matthew chapter one, we see four women in addition to Mary in the list! For that time in history, that was quite radical!
Now, if you were going to be part of this liberating radical movement to recognize women in the Holy Scriptures, whom would you pick? Oh, I'd probably include Mrs. Noah. She had to be a very patient, submissive wife to be able to put up with all those animals and Noah's wild ideas.
Or perhaps I'd pick Mrs. Moses. Zipporah must have been a very godly woman to allow her husband to travel about in the dessert for all those years. And besides, any woman who has a husband in leadership knows the sacrifices she must have made.
Or perhaps I'd pick Sarah. After all, she did bear a child when she was ninety.
But no. Those are not the women that God chose to be listed in the lineage of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He chose Rahab – a redeemed woman who had been a prostitute before she joined the children of God. He chose Tamar – who had an incestuous relationship with her father-in-law. He chose Bathsheba – who had an affair with King David and bore a son. And He chose Ruth – a woman from a cursed nation.
Oh friend, do you see it? I am so glad that these are the women that God chose. Through these women we see there is no place so far from God that He cannot save us, redeem us, and ultimately use us for His glory. His arm is not too short to save us from the deepest pit imaginable. That was true for those four women, and it is true for you and me. That, dear one, is the story of Christmas.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Redeemer, I am so thankful that you choose the weak things of the world to shame the wise. I am one of those "weak things" and I am constantly amazed that You chose me and use me for Your glory. Praise You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Over the next few days, go back and read the stories of the women listed in Jesus' genealogy and see what you can learn about their lives.
Rahab: Joshua 2
Tamar: Genesis 38:1-30
Bathsheba: 2 Samuel 11
After reading about them, answer these questions. What did God take them from? What did God take them to?
What does this tell you about the people that God can use? Click over to my blog page and tell me your answers. Let's get real and honest.
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This is not your typical fluffy Christmas message – but it is why Jesus came. To save the lost, heal the sick, and use the redeemed. If you would like to learn more about God's transforming power, see Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Pain of your Past. And for more ways to keep Jesus the focus of the holiday season, see Sharon's book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas, Ideas from A-Z.
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December 5, 2012
Ho! Ho! Ho! Help!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:16-20 (NIV) "So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen Him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told."
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues." I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it or we have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing, even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and homeowner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first – until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold, but it was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level – refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay.
Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place or push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sinkhole, waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy, and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. The dark, slimy pit waits for us to fall in. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend!
Make this Christmas season a time of praise. Choose to focus on the victories and joys you have experienced during the year, and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, choose an attitude of joy by focusing your mind on the things of heaven – not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
· What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
· How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
· How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can your choice to
"ponder" on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made. Make a plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Take a few moments to re-visit last year's holiday season. What was the best part of those holidays for you? What changes do you need to make this year so that the way you celebrate Christmas honors God?
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23. Bible Study guide included. Be sure to check out her Christmas MP3 downloads, The Secret of a Merry Christmas and Giving the Perfect Gift.
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December 6,2012
Grumbling Grumbling Grumbling
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Moses also said, 'You will know that it was the LORD when he gives you meat to eat in the evening and all the bread you want in the morning, because he has heard your grumbling agaist him. Who are we? You are not grumbling against us, but against the LORD" (Exodus 16:8 NIV emphasis added).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, we looked at Miriam and how she grumbled against Moses, but Miriam was not the only one who grumbled while heading toward the Promised Land. The Israelites grumbled at every turn. God cared for the Israelites by His own hand - providing water from a rock, manna from heaven, quail from the sky, clothes that never wore out, a fire by night and a cloud by day. And yet...they grumbled. (See Exodus 15:24, 16:2,7,8,9,11, 12, 17:2,3) Do you think they all started grumbling at once? I don't. I think it started with a few murmurs and grew like an approaching train.
Back in the late 50's, there was a movie called "The Blob." The blob looked like a massive pile of silly putty that rolled along swallowing up everything and everyone in its path. That's what grumbling and gossiping can do among believers. It too rolls along swallowing up unsuspecting victims along the way.
God didn't take too kindly to Miriam's grumbling. While she started out whispering about Moses' choice of a wife, that was not really the issue at all. It was jealousy pure and simple. Actually, there was nothing "pure" about it.
"Has the LORD spoken only through Moses? Has he not spoken as well through us?" Her words and attitude of jealousy were just as destructive to the cause of God as infectious leprosy that ate away at her fingers and toes. Why was only Miriam punished and not Aaron? I imagine that she was the principle instigator of the ill-spoken words and Aaron happened to be in the blob's path.
Let's back up to Numbers 12:3: "Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth." Theologians suggest that the word "miserable" is a better translation of the Hebrew word than "humble." "Ever since Numbers 11:1, one thing after another had brought pressure on Moses so that in 11:14 he whimpers to God that he is not able to bear the load any longer. He even asks that he might die to be relieved of the pressures. Now with this assault of his sister and brother, it was simply too much. He was now the most "miserable" man on the earth. He had found his lot so difficult, his task so unmanageable, his pressure so intense that he called out to God saying, "It is too much!" (11:14) "Now the man Moses was exceedingly miserable, more than any man on the face of the earth!"
( Kenneth L. Barker & John R. Kohlenberger III, Zondervan NIV Commentary Volume I: Old Testament (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1994), p. 198.)
When someone is bending under the pressure of trying to please God and the grumblers he or she is trying to serve, what is needed is not more booing and hissing from the crowd but cheers and holy pep talks from the team. "Do all things without grumbling," Paul encourages the church at Philippi (Philippians 2:14 NASB). Timothy writes, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing" (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
So we have a choice. We can be like the prophetess Deborah in the Bible who dispensed encouragement from under the honey tree and walked side-by-side with Christian soldiers into battle. (See Judges 4-5). Or we can be like the prophetess Miriam who stirred up strife and caused the march to the Promised Land to come to a complete stop. The difference lies right under our noses.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me when I grumble. I know that ultimately, when I grumble, I am grumbling against You. Help me to be an encourager and use my words to minister to those around me. Help me to build up and not tear down, to encourage and not discourage, and to fan the flames of hope rather than extinguish the sparks of a dream.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Just try saying the word grumble with a smile on your face. It doesn't work, does it? I'm sitting here trying now. I sure hope no one's looking.
Let's think about this. When we are grumbling about our circumstances, who are we really grumbling against?
Do you see yourself as a person who grumbles or a person who is grateful?
What do you need to do to change?
Make a list of things you are grateful for today! Click over to my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com or my Facebook page and tell me at least 3 things you're thankful for today.
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If you would like to learn more about how to be a Deborah who encourages others to walk into battle rather than a Miriam who stops progress, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words. And to go deeper into God's Word and learn about the incredible gift of words that He has entrusted to us, you'll want to read The Power of a Woman's Words Bible Study Guide. There is also a teaching DVD available. Check it out! It is perfect for individual or group study.
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December 7, 2012
Taming the Evil Yes Monster
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said." (Luke 10:38-39, NIV)
Friend To Friend
Have you ever bitten off more than you could chew? Have you ever said, "Sure, I'll be glad to do that!" when you should have said, "I'm sorry, but I can't commit to that right now"? Has an over-loaded schedule ever added stress to you, your family, or your relationships? I would think you've answered, "yes" to each of the previous questions. I know I did.
I constantly try to make positive life adjustments. Two areas I evaluate regularly are my calendar and commitments. Trust me, I'm not the boundary queen. I won't even pretend to have all the answers about this topic, because I don't. I bow to the evil "yes monster" more than I care to admit. I'm in the trenches with you, constantly struggling to find a healthy balance between faith, family, friends, fashion, and ministry. (Okay, fashion doesn't really belong on that list, though it's terribly fun. I just wanted to see if you were paying attention!)
Jesus had some friends named Mary and Martha. Martha was a busy girl who, at times, allowed her to-do list to keep her from worship. Mary just wanted to be with Jesus.
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"
"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her."(Luke 10:38-42, NIV)
As we face the holiday season and a new year, let's choose what's better! It's so important that we establish healthy boundaries in our lives to keep us from being too busy to sit at the Lord's feet. Over the years, I've been forced to grow in the area of setting boundaries in order to bless and preserve my faith, family, friendships and ministry. In an article called Setting Boundaries, Dr. Richard J. Krejcir wrote, "A boundary is a fence to ward of potential problems and to protect those in its guardianship."
What does that look like in real life? How can we possibly spend time with the Lord, keep our homes clean, run errands, go to meetings, serve on committees, change diapers, shower, get our Bible study assignment finished, find missing teddy bears, take Johnny to little league, run Sally to dance practice, and have a hot, healthy dinner on the table by six o'clock? I'm sure it will look different for each of us, but there's one basic parameter that applies across the board, whether you are married, divorced, single, or widowed, or with or without children: make time for God.
Jesus said that the highest call on your life is to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" (Matthew 22:37). Keep the main thing the main thing! Nothing should replace your personal time with God. Set aside time each day for Bible study, prayer, and worship. Jesus tells us that we must remain in Him. "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).
And one additional thought: protect your passions. What do you love to do? Is there time in your life for it? Make it a priority. Allow yourself time to refuel and relax by scheduling fun time. Whether it's taking a hike in the woods, playing the piano, having lunch with a girlfriend, reading a book, or bargain shopping, keep your heart fed with fun. You'll be a better you for it!
Once you've established faith boundaries that prioritize and protect your time with Jesus, you can freely say, "yes" to the opportunities that are in line with your passion and interests. You can also say "no" to the yes monster that tries to rob you of God's best and to dilute your focus.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me for the times when I clutter my life with busyness and fail to put You first. Help me to discern what is best for my schedule according to Your perfect will, and equip me with the wisdom and courage to make any changes that are needed. I love You and long to know you more with all my heart, mind, and soul.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you relate more with Mary or Martha? Why?
Are you saying yes to too many things? Protect you and your loved ones from the evil yes monster. Take a few moments to consider if any of your activities could be eliminated.
More From The Girlfriends
Friend, don't be discouraged if your calendar seems off-the-charts crazy. I know what that's like. This devotion wasn't written to condemn, only to challenge. Let's choose the best together and clear a space everyday to sit and worship at the feet of Jesus. "Uncluttered" is a CD filled with songs that sweep you away from excess 'life-noise', this music focuses your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. As you ponder today's message, watch the Uncluttered music video here.
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December 10, 2012
Let Peace Rule
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Colossians 3:15 (NIV) "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts."
Friend to Friend
Peace seems to be on everyone's mind, which is nothing new. It seems to me that we have been chasing peace since time began. We want a peaceful world, a peaceful home, and a peaceful workplace – a peaceful life. I know people who would give everything they have for a few minutes of peace. Peace cannot be found in a treaty or negotiation. Peace is an inside job and can only be found in one place – a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. When we know Him, we can experience and know peace.
Peace is the condition of wholeness and the sense of wellbeing that comes from knowing God and being made right in His eyes. Peace is completely dependent upon His presence in us, and His gift of eternal life. We come into this world with an ache in our soul, a longing in our heart and a deep sense of being lost. When we find God, we find home. Peace immediately takes up residence in our hearts, and we are eternally "found."
When our son, Jered, was a little boy, he and his dad often went for a walk after dinner while I put Danna to bed. One night, Dan decided to test Jered's sense of direction. "How far are we from home, Son?" Dan asked. Jered answered, "Dad, I don't know." Dan then asked, "Well, where are you?" Again, Jered answered, "I don't know." Dan laughed, "Sounds to me like you are lost, Son." Jered looked up at his father, grinned and said, "Nope, I can't be lost, Dad. I'm with you." With God, we will never be lost and can experience peace.
However, understanding peace does not always guarantee the presence of peace. I am often guilty of filling my days with so many appointments, tasks, meetings, and activities that peace disintegrates before noon. Paul encourages us to "let the peace of Christ rule" in our hearts. The word, "rule," is an athletic term meaning "to preside at the games and distribute the prizes." Sounds like a typical day to me!
In the Greek games, there were judges who rejected the contestants that were not qualified and disqualified those who broke the rules. Today, we would call them "umpires" and the playing field of peace would be our hearts. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." Peace begins its reign in the center of our being; it then works its way out into every nook and cranny of life - if we allow peace to rule.
Admittedly, there are times when an umpire seems like a good idea because many of us relish a good fight. We say we want peace, but not at the price of giving up control or surrendering personal agendas. We must stand firm in our resolve to pursue harmony and peace, even if it means giving up rights and yielding control.
Relationships must be committed to peace. It is difficult to wage war with someone who has laid down his or her weapons in an act of surrender. Ah, there's that dreaded word again - surrender. Surrender is the heartbeat of peace. The choice to surrender initiates the process of allowing peace to rule. I guess you could say that the peace of God is our "umpire," and in every situation stands ready to make the calls that will lead us to rest in and trust Him, but first comes the choice to "let" peace rule. The work of peace is always unleashed by our choice, our invitation.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today because You are my peace. Your presence in my life ushers in true peace and lets my soul rest. Forgive me when I cram my days with urgent things that are not always the important things. Help me discern Your plan for my life each day so that I can walk in peace.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define the concept of peace in your life? Is your heart and mind filled with chaos and stress instead of peace? Identify the main source of stress in your life and make any adjustments necessary to bring that area under control. Write out your own "Peace Treaty" with God and share it with a friend. When you feel as if your life is spinning out of control, remember to rest in Him.
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How is the peace level in your life? I know that we live in uncertain times and can often fall prey to worry, doubt and fear. We don't understand what is happening or why. Solutions seem scarce while problems multiply. What should we do? Stop! Take a deep breath and remember who you are and whose you are. You are a child of the King, friend, and He is fully aware of your circumstances. Where you are is no surprise to Him. God often allows His children to be cast into a fiery furnace, but His hand is always on the thermostat. Stand firm in your faith and choose peace.
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December 11, 2012
Ignored by Man, Chosen by God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I havechosen you out of the world" (John 15:19 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever felt that you were overlooked or ignored ... like you were a nobody? Well, take heart girlfriend. You are not alone.
In the Bible, we read the story of when the prophet Samuel went to anoint the next king of Israel. By God's instruction, Samuel traveled to Bethlehem, to the house of Jesse. He knew where to go and what family the king would come from. He knew the next king would be one of Jesse's sons ... he just didn't know which son.
Samuel arrived in Bethlehem and asked Jesse to bring all of his sons out for his inspection. Jesse brought out each of his seven sons, one-by-one. As Samuel prayerfully approached each young man, God said, "No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one." Seven times God refused Jesse's sons. Finally, exasperated and confused, Samuel asked, "Are these all the sons you have?"
"Oh yeah, I do have one more son," Jesse said. "I almost forgot all about him. Little David is out taking care of the sheep. I'll send someone to get him."
David was so insignificant to his own father, that when the prophet requested an audience with all of his boys, the dad didn't even think to invite him. However, David was the very one God had selected to be the next ruler of His chosen people. How exciting! You may have felt overlooked, disregarded, and ignored by man, but make no mistake about it, you are chosen by God!
Ponder these verses...
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience" (Colossians 3:12 NIV).
"In him we were alsochosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory" (Ephesians 1:11,12 NIV).
"Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies" (Romans 8:33 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank You that I am chosen and dearly loved. While there have been many times in my life where I was not chosen, I rejoice that You chose me! Help me to be an encourager to others who may feel neglected or discarded by others. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was a time in your life when you felt rejected?
The Bible says that we have a High Priest, Jesus, who has felt all the pain and suffering just as we have. How was Jesus rejected?
At the same time, how was Jesus chosen by God?
Consider writing down the verses in today's devotion and post them somewhere you can see them often.
Click over to my blog page where this devo is posted and tell me what it means to you to know that you are chosen by God. www.sharonjaynes.com
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You are chosen, holy, and dearly loved. And that's just the beginning. If you would like to learn about who you are in Christ, what you have in Christ, and where you are in Christ, then you'll want to read my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You. And for everyone that orders today (the date posted on this devotion only) you'll receive a free makeup mirror that says "See yourself as God sees you...Beautiful!"
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December 12, 2011
Don't Miss Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Christmas rush is on! I know many of you are still looking for the perfect gift, wrapping presents, baking your famous sugar cookies, packing the car for a long trip and wrestling with overly excited children. Ho! Ho! Ho!
Stop right where you are! Take a deep breath and travel back with me to a time when there was no hope and no celebration. I can't imagine a world without Jesus and yet, many times I live my life as if He doesn't even exist. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness floods my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness.
He then interrupts my life and fills each black corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, He steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything – everything!
Jesus could have come to us in many ways, but He chose to interrupt the very ordinary with the most extraordinary. He could have chosen to be born in a palace. After all, He was a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger housed in what amounted to little more than a dirty, smelly barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to me, and one of my most profound life lessons.
I often wish I had been there that holy night when Jesus was born, but then He reminds me that I have my own manger; my own holy moment when God became a reality to me, and I worship Him!
Every year I am reminded of the very heart of Christmas -- Emanuel, God with us. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do, the smile we give the harried stranger and the patience we exhibit in the crowd of impatient shoppers, the love that prompts the secret gift and the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit.
Join me in this quest to celebrate Him and His birth in everything we do. Have a birthday party for Jesus. Bake Him a huge cake and invite neighbors to join in the celebration. Adopt a family in need. Reach out to the lonely. Look for Him in the crowd. Emanuel, God with us! Wow!
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. I celebrate Your birth, Your life, Your death and Your resurrection. And as I celebrate, Lord, help me to be "God with skin on" to those in need around me. Open my eyes and let me see them as You see them! I love You. Happy Birthday, Jesus!
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Put your faith in action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season. Give a gift to someone you don't know. Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner. Go through your closet and give the clothes you don't wear to those who have no clothes.
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I pray that your life is filled with God's peace this Christmas. Don't let anyone or anything steal your joy. Guard your heart and mind and keep your focus on the birth of Jesus as you begin to prepare for the Christmas holidays. No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend.
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December 13, 2012
God Confidence
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Paul said that he "put no confidence in the flesh" (Philippians 3:3). In other words, he didn't think that he was good enough because of any particular talent or ability that he had on his own. But his confidence came from his understanding of who he was as a child of God. Someone once said, "A man wrapped up in himself makes a pretty small package." But a man, or woman, wrapped up in God is an amazing sight to behold.
I believe we can change our inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy into unshakable confidence by understanding who we are, what we have, and where we are as a child of God. I am not advocating confidence in self, but confidence in God - confidence in who you are because of what Jesus has done for you and what the Holy Spirit can do through you. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5,6 TNIV). Connected to the vine you can do everything God calls you to do (Philippians 4:13).
Paul knew what he could accomplish on his own...nothing. Oh, he could be busy. We all can do that. But bearing "fruit that will remain" is another story. This paraphrase shows how he viewed his own personal weaknesses:
I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan's angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty! At first I didn't think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me,
'My grace is enough; it's all you need.
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.'
Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ's strength moving in on my weakness. Now that I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size-abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.
(2 Corinthians 12:7-10 The Message)
Paul had great confidence. The prefix, "con" means "with" and the root "fid" means faith." So a confident person is one who walks in faith. We walk in faith that we are holy, chosen, redeemed, dearly loved children of God who are empowered by the Holy Spirit, equipped by our Maker, and enveloped by Jesus Christ. Now that's real God-confidence.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I know that I can do nothing of any true lasting value apart from You. However, when I abide in Christ and He works through me, I can accomplish anything You have called me to do. Help me to understand the power that is within me and to have unshakable confidence in Christ today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a look at what you have been trying to accomplish in your own life. Are you working in your own strength, or are you depending on Jesus working through you?
What do you think Jesus meant when He said, "Apart from me you can do nothing?"
I'd love to hear your thoughts about that! Click over to my blog pageand tell me what you think Jesus meant by "nothing."
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Today's devotion was taken from Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you need a confidencebooster, then this book is for you! Begin seeing yourself as God sees you and discover the amazing potential you have to live the victorious Christian life!
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December 14, 2012
Holding Fast to the Faithful One
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. - 2 Corinthians 4:7-9
Friend to Friend
My husband and I were in a waiting period. His company had gone through a merger and was collapsing positions and territories, which left his employment in jeopardy. For months we didn't know if Brad would keep his job or if he would need to look for another one. During that time, God bid us to trust Him.
Choosing to trust God is so daily, isn't it? When I only looked at the "what-ifs" of Brad's job situation – the possible unemployment, the grueling process of job-hunting, the financial strain unemployment would bring, and the uncertainty of the economy – my faith and God-confidence shook and waned. Fear and doubt knocked on my heart, suitcases in hand, wanting to move in and take up residence. On the other hand, when I fixed my eyes on God, looked at His character and at the ways He had brought us through hard times in the past, my faith was strengthened. Courage, confidence and joy knocked on my heart! They are much better residents!
The Old Testament book of Ruth features the heart-warming story of Ruth and Naomi: two women who faced difficult circumstances and an uncertain future. Following the death of her husband and sons, Naomi decided to move back to her homeland of Israel. Though she freed her daughters-in-law to stay in their home country of Moab and re-marry, Ruth refused to leave Naomi's side.
Determined and loyal, Ruth held tightly to the mother-in-law she loved deeply and to the God of Israel whom she now called her own. Though our natural tendency in hard times is often to try to go it alone, I've learned from Ruth, and from my own experience, that in turbulent times it's vital that we hold fast to our faithful God and to the ones we love.
"Look," said Naomi, "your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her."
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her" (vv. 15-18).
God breathed hope into the souls of Naomi and Ruth through their kinsman-redeemer, Boaz. The book of Ruth goes on to tell a fascinating account of how God lovingly cared for and blessed Naomi as He used the faithful friendship and kindness of Ruth to "renew her life and sustain her" (4:15). She traveled back to Bethlehem as a broken, depressed and hopeless widow but was comforted and restored by the loving hand of God.
Like Naomi, when I experience difficult times - like the one Brad and I were facing a few years ago - I have to choose to trust God. Some days I choose well. Some days I don't. Choosing to trust is essential.
How can we choose to trust God? I've found that my courage to trust is bolstered by playing praise music, meditating on God's goodness, reading Scripture, and praying. Those things collectively renew my mind and strengthen my faith.
No matter what challenges you face today, take comfort that God knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Hold fast to the faithful One. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God's ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He's powerful, and He's able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior – when you choose to trust Him – you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You know exactly where I am right now and You know the circumstance of my life. Please give me the courage to be gracious in my relationships, and help me to trust You today. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the book of Ruth. (It's only 4 chapters!)
If you struggle with trusting God, know that you are not alone. Need prayer? Let's meet on my Facebook page – www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic to PRAY for one another today.
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To be honest, there are a million times that I feel like screaming instead of praising. What a crazy mess I am! Yet, I know the best response is to trust God and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My new CD, Uncluttered, is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. To get your copy, swing by www.GwenSmith.net ...or you can download the songs from iTunes or Amazon.
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December 17, 2012
Making a List ... Checking it Twice
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope - (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Every year, I make a Christmas list comprised of every person for whom I am buying a gift. Beside each name, I put a dollar amount, a limit of how much money I will spend for that gift, vowing not to spend one penny more than the set limit. (Somehow, the amount I actually spend rarely coincides with the amount I intended to spend. Can you relate?) With every purchase, I then draw a beautiful red line through that name. Done!
I carry that list everywhere I go because sometimes I find a gift during a random shopping trip but mainly because I can't afford to let it out of my sight. There are evil people lurking in my home who will go to any lengths to find that list. You see, I am the Queen of Surprise when it comes to Christmas, so I must guard my list with my life in order to keep my "Queen-ship" status secure. Consequently, the list is hidden in various and unusual places such as a random file on my computer, in my closet, in an old purse, in a sock drawer, in a flower pot – you get the picture. I know where that Christmas list is at all times because it is my gift-giving plan for the holidays.
I wish I were just as concerned about "God's list" for my life; carrying His life plan for me in my heart and mind as I live each day, constantly making choices and decisions in light of that list, guarding it like the treasure map of eternity that it truly is. Just knowing the plan God has for me does not guarantee success. I must do the plan. That is where the choice to obey comes in. An obedient heart is a "fixed" heart and may very well be the gift God wants from us this holiday season.
Psalm 108:1
"O God, my heart is fixed!"
Psalm 40:8
"I take joy in doing your will, my God, for your law is written on my heart."
A "fixed" heart is a determined heart, a steadfast heart that is rightly focused on God and His will, His plan. When we choose to follow God's plan, the desires of our heart will line up in obedience to that plan. We will find our greatest joy in pleasing God, in doing His will because that is what we were created to do.
Maybe today is a good time to stop, go back over the list, review those life lessons we have learned, checking to see where we really are in our walk with God. Maybe today is the perfect time to revisit the manger to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ by giving Him the gift of obedience.
Let's Pray
Father, I love You. Forgive me for the times when I choose to follow my own will instead of Yours. Teach me how to fix my heart on You and give me the strength to do what You created me to do. I know Your plan is the highest and best plan for me and that I was created in response to that plan. Thank You for the purpose that doing Your will brings to my life. Today, I choose to seek You and obey Your Word.
In Jesus's name, amen.
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December 18, 2012
Remembering to Forget
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13, 14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
As humans, we tend to remember what we need to forget and forget what we need to remember. God, on the other hand, forgets what He promises to forget and remembers what He promises to remember. God said, "Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more" (Hebrews 10:17).
Paul tells us one of the secrets to his success as a Christian and in life. "But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13,14).
In the Bible, God tells us that He "forgets" our sins and remembers them no more. But how does an omniscient, all-knowing God forget? Let's look at the antonym to get a better understanding.
There are many events in the Bible that begin with the words "God remembered": "God remembered Noah" (Genesis 8:1), "He (God) remembered Abraham" (Genesis 19:29), "God remembered Rachel" (Genesis 30:22), "God heard their groaning and remembered his covenant with Abraham, with Isaac, and with Jacob" (Exodus 2:24). In each incident, God's remembering meant that He was about to do something - God was about to act.
Therefore, if God's remembering means He is about to act, then God forgetting means that He is not going to act. "For I will forgive their wickedness," He says, "and will remember their sins no more" (Jeremiah 31:34). He forgets our sins – He isnot going to act upon them. Likewise, while we cannot physically forget the details of the wounds of our past, we can choose not to act on them. We can choose to forgive the person who has hurt us and not allow the memory of the offense to control our lives. In that sense, we can forgive and forget.
When Paul talks about forgetting he does not mean that he will or even can wipe an incident from his memory. "Forgetting did not mean obliterating the memory of his past, but was a conscious refusal to let it absorb his attention and impede his progress."(Zondervan NIV Commentary: Volume 2: New Testament (Grand Rapids, Michigan: The Zondervan Corporation, 1994), pg. 806.) Paul refused to allow anything from his past control his present. He could tell about it, but without pain, malice, or a hint of revenge.
But it's too hard,you might say. Friend, God will never tell us to do something that He will not give us the power to do. He has instructed us to forgive...so He will give us the power to do so. He has instructed us to leave the past behind ... so He will give us the power to do so. Paul said, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13). "All things" means all things that God has called us to do.
Isaiah wrote, "When a farmer plows for planting, does he plow continually? Does he keep on breaking up and harrowing the soil? When he has leveled the surface, does he not sow caraway and scatter cumin? Does he not plant wheat in its place, barley in its plot, and spelt in its field?" (Isaiah 28:24).
I think for many of us, we have been plowing and re-plowing the ground far too long. We've been telling and re-telling what was done and how it was done going over the same ground and stirring up the dirt into a giant dustbowl. But there comes a point when it is time to stop plowing up the ground and start planting seeds – until then, we will never see a harvest.
Today, ask God if there is someone you need to forgive, if there is something you need to "forget," or if there is some ground you need to cease plowing. Then give the memory to God and ask Him to plant good seeds for an incredible harvest!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I've been plowing up the soil of past memories for far too long. Today, I'm going to put away the plow and start planting seeds. When You see me reaching for the plow and going back to rehash old grievances and hurts, I pray that the Holy Spirit will convict me quickly. Today, the past is the past and I'm not looking back.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there hurts in your life that you keep stirred up?
Is there a "field" that you continue to plow?
What do you think God wants you to do with those past hurts?
Are you willing to "put the plow away?" If so, click over to my blog page and leave a comment that says, "I'm putting my plow away!"
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Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things we ever do. At the same time, it can be one of the most freeing things we ever do. The holiday season is a time that stirs up past hurts in families. This might be the perfect time for you to be preloaded with the truth...before the families all converge. Want to learn more? My book, Your Scars are Beautiful, Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Pasttakes you through the healing steps or forgiveness, both for forgiving others and forgiving yourself.
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December 19, 2012
Rest in God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1-3 (NLT) "The LORD is my shepherd. I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters. He refreshes my soul."
Friend to Friend
Life is so daily and often filled with uncertainty, a reality that can make me very nervous. I want to know what the plan is and how that plan is going to be implemented. Details! I need details! Instead, God calls me to rest. I don't want to rest. When I rest, I feel guilty. I have places to go, people to see and important things to do. I hear the quiet whisper of the One who knows me best and loves me most, "Mary, it is time to rest." I have tried to ignore that whisper on more than one occasion, but it is only a temporary maneuver on my part. The Lord is my Shepherd. He is used to dealing with stubborn sheep like me. He will lovingly make me lie down in green pastures and firmly lead me beside quiet waters. Why? He wants to refresh my soul and give me the peace that can only be found at His feet. Rest is not really an option. It is a spiritual discipline that needs to become a spiritual habit in our life.
Admit your need for rest. Many of us have bought into the lie that who we are is based on what we do or don't do. We fill every waking moment with something or someone in order to prove our worth. After all, we must be worthy if we are doing worthy things, right? Busyness does not always equal productivity. When we admit our need to rest, we are acknowledging the fact that we are imperfect and that our human power is limited. We need to rest in Him.
Turn to Jesus to find rest. Recreation is anything you enjoy doing while relaxation is any activity that slows you down. Restoration is an inside job and can only be found in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. We once had an Australian cattle dog named Dallas. Australian cattle dogs are extremely loyal to a master of their choice. Dallas chose our son, Jered, to be his master. When Jered came home from school each day, Dallas would greet him at the door and follow him wherever he went. If Jered was doing homework in his room, Dallas would find a spot under the desk. If our son was working in the garage, Dallas was with him. When Jered ran an errand, Dallas went for a ride. Dallas instinctively knew that the only place he would find genuine rest was at the feet of his master. The same is true in our lives.
Lay your stuff at Jesus' feet. The number one stress in our lives is the result of bearing a burden that is not ours to carry. Exhaustion comes when we take on a responsibility God never intended us to have. The twin of exhaustion is emptiness that comes when we fail to take on a responsibility God does intend for us to assume. God empowers His plan and agenda for our life. When we step outside of that plan, we are stepping into our own power and depending on our own strength, both of which will soon be depleted.
Realize you are not alone. For years, our family vacationed in the mountains of North Carolina in order to escape the brutal heat of South Florida where we lived. We all had our favorite thing to do while on vacation. Dan loved to read and take long walks in the cool, green forests. The kids loved wading in creeks, looking for "gold." My favorite activity was shopping for antiques. Now let me define "antiques" and "antique stores" according to Mary. The best stores were nestled in the mountains on some remote dirt road and the "antiques" were what most people would call junk. One year, I walked into a shop and stopped in my tracks when I saw the yoke. Matthew 11:28-30 is one of my husband's favorite passages of Scripture where Jesus says, "Take my yoke upon you and you will find rest for your souls." For years, I searched for just the right yoke to give Dan as a special gift. It seemed that every yoke I found was either too big or too small and in less than stellar condition. The yoke before me was in perfect condition and was just the right size and price. Upon closer inspection, my excitement faded.
Yokes have two loops of leather or wood attached to a sturdy wooden frame. Two working animals wear the loops around their necks in order to bear whatever load they are given. The loops on this particular yoke were not the same size - one larger than the other. When I pointed out the flaw, the shop owner said, "It is supposed to be made like that. The stronger animal is placed in the larger loop to help the weaker animal pull the load. A shared load is a lighter load.
Are you tired and exhausted from trying to live life on your own? Come to Jesus and find rest in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the promise of rest when we come to You. It seems like I am always tired and every step is hard. Please forgive me when I turn to You as a last resort instead of running to You first. Today, I turn to You, Lord, for rest.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now it's Your Turn
• Read Genesis 2:2. How does this verse apply to your life?
• Read Lamentations 5:5. How does rest apply to the difficult people in your life?
• Read Job 33:26. Notice every "action" word in this verse. What does God promise when we choose to apply the steps He outlines in this verse?
• Identify the areas of unrest in your life. Bring them to God in prayer and seek rest in Him.
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Rest has always been a struggle in my life. Seriously? Fatigue is not a spiritual gift. In fact, when I refuse to rest physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am choosing to sin. When I think I have the least amount of time to rest is when I need to rest the most. How about you, friend? Isn't it time to find rest?
My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is the story of my journey out of spiritual bankruptcy into the rest of God and is based on Psalm 23.
One of the most powerful sources of rest is in a daily time alone with God in prayer and in the Word of God. Check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbsand begins January 14, 2013.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression,offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit. You can alsoconnect with me on Facebook or through email.
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December 20, 2012
Long Walk Part of Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, "Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him" (Matthew 2:1-2 NIV).
Friend to Friend
An African boy listened carefully as his teacher explained why Christians give presents to each other on Christmas day. "The gift is an expression of our joy over the birth of Jesus and our friendship for each other," she said.
When Christmas day came, the boy brought to the teacher a seashell of lustrous beauty. "Where did you ever find such a beautiful shell?" the teacher asked as she gently fingered the gift.
The youth told her that there was only one spot where such extraordinary shells could be found. When he named the place, a certain bay several miles away, the teacher was left speechless.
"Why...why, it's gorgeous...wonderful, but you shouldn't have gone all that way to get a gift for me."
His eyes brightening, the boy answered, "Long walk part of gift."
I just love that story. During this holiday season, I watch as people scurry about swiping those plastic cards through the credit card machines faster than a speeding bullet. And yet, God has already shown us that the most precious gifts cannot be bought or sold. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV).
The magi also knew about the joy of giving. While they gave gold, frankincense, and myrrh to the Christ child, they also gave another gift...a long walk. We don't know how far the magi traveled, but we do know that it was a distance that took months, perhaps years. Their long walk was part of the gift.
I wonder how far we are willing to go to worship Jesus...to bring our gifts to him. I wonder how far out of the way we will go to praise him. Do we only give to Him when it is convenient or easy? Or do we give what He wants most – a portion of ourselves, our very lives.
I think the little African boy had the right idea. The real gift wasn't the shell; it was the sacrifice he had to make to give it.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the gift You gave us through Your Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that I will keep gift-giving in perspective this holiday season and give gifts from the heart rather than the pocketbook. Help me to see that a "long walk," or a portion of myself, is the greatest gift of all.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Describe a time when someone's sacrificial gift meant a lot to you?
Describe the feeling you had when you gave a portion of yourself, such as your time, to someone?
Try to imagine the teacher who received the shell. What thoughts do you think came to mind when she looked at it year after year? Do you think it was the shell itself, or the heart of the boy who gave it to her, that meant so much?
Now, imagine how God looks at our gifts we give to Him? Do you think He reflects on the gifts themselves or the heart of the child who gives it?
What is one of the most memorable Christmas gifts you have ever received (other than Jesus). Let's share on my blog page. Just leave a comment in the comment box under this devotion.
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It is easy to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, check out my book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration, and would also make a great Christmas gift. This book is officially out of print and I only have a few more copies left.
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December 21, 2012
Best! Story! Ever!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"...a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord." (Luke 2:11, NIV1984)
Friend To Friend
A few years ago my family and I went to the movie theatre to see a cute children's movie called Tangled. The film is a modern take on the classic story of Rapunzel. One of my favorite scenes of the movie was when young Rapunzel had just escaped from the dreadful tower that she had been locked in her whole life. For the first time she tasted freedom... and it tasted really good! At one point, unable to contain her joy, she raced around a tree and loudly exclaimed that this was her "Best! Day! Ever!"
I loved that movie moment!
A few days after seeing Tangled, I was sitting at my kitchen table preparing to speak and sing for a women's Christmas event for a church in South Carolina. I prayed that the Lord would give me fresh inspiration as I shared the sacred love story of Christmas. I opened up my Bible and read through Luke 1 and 2: that familiar story of the birth of Christ. The words leapt off the page that day and filled my heart with awe all over again. I was reminded of the joyful Tangled movie moment and was fully convinced that I was reading about the best day ever – when Grace came to earth as a snuggly baby. Compelled to respond creatively... I wrote a rap.
A Christmas rap.
Oh, yes I did!
Not my normal genre, but that day my heart responded to the Word in rhyme and rhythm!
Most of us have heard the Christmas story a thousand times. There's an old saying that familiarity breeds contempt. Surely we must guard against this! May we never become bored of the miraculous story of Christmas!
Are you ready to experience a fresh rhyming twist on Luke 1:26-56 and Luke 2:1-20? Then open your mind and ready your heart for the: Best! Story! Ever!
A Christmas Rap (When Sacred Love Came Down)
By Gwen Smith
A long time ago an angel told a girl
That she would have a baby and He would save the world
Now Mary was confused 'cause she hadn't known a man
But her innocence was a part of God's plan
The angel said the Spirit of the Lord would make it happen
"He'll be the Son of God. He will be a man of action!"
"May it be as you have said, I'm a servant of the Lord.
Blessed among women! I can't wait 'til he is born!"
So nine months later on the night the babe would come
A twinkle in the sky brought attention to God's Son
The shepherds, they were chillin' in the fields with their sheep
When the Angel of the Lord came and stirred them from their sleep
"Do not be afraid! I bring good and joyful news
That will be for every man, this will be a sign to you.
For unto you is born, in the town of David
The Christ! The Messiah! And He will be your Savior!"
"Now listen, there is more – and you might find it stranger
You will find this baby, lying in a manger."
Then suddenly the sky was filled with angels singin' praise
Joyful songs to celebrate the One who came to save
The shepherds said, "No way! Let's go and check it out!"
They ran to see the babe that the angels sang about
They came upon the child then ran to spread the word
And people were amazed at the story that they heard
O what a holy night, when sacred Love came down
To wear a suit of skin, to wear a thorny crown
For God so loved the world that He sent His only Son
To reconcile hearts. It is finished! It is done!
CLICK HERE to watch a live performance this Christmas rap!!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are so awesome! Thank You for loving us and for sending Your only Son, Jesus, to reconcile my heart. Surely, Your grace is amazing. In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Share Hope with your friends today! Forward this email and encourage them to remember the reason for the season. (You can share the devotion via Facebook by clicking over to my page and clicking the SHARE button on the devotion post.)
Re-live the best story ever as you read and contemplate the Christmas story found in Luke 1:26-56 and Luke 2:1-20.
More From The Girlfriends
Friend, don't be discouraged if you're the holidays have you running crazy. I know what that's like. Let's choose to have the: Best! Christmas! Ever! as we clear a space in our hearts to sit and worship at the feet of Jesus. Uncluttered is a CD filled with songs that sweep you away from excess 'life-noise', this music focuses your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Order your copy today from iTunes or from www.GwenSmith.net.
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December 24, 2012
The Fiery Furnace
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze" (Isaiah 43:2 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One of the most beautiful pictures of trusting in the sovereignty of God is in the story of three young Jewish men: Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. These three lads refused to bow to King Nebuchadnezzar's idol. The punishment for such rebellion against the king was death in a fiery furnace. When the young men were taken before the king just before facing death, they respectfully explained:
The God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king. But even if he does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up. (Daniel 3:17-18)
That is a faith that's real – truly tried by fire. God can deliver me, but if He chooses not to, I'll serve Him anyway. God can heal me, but if He doesn't, I love Him regardless.
The young men were thrown into the furnace. Their refusal to bow to the King's request infuriated Nebuchadnezzar. He ordered the furnace heated seven times hotter than usual and commanded some of the strongest soldiers in his army to tie the young men up and toss them into the flames. The flames were so hot, the soldiers who took the bound boys to the furnace died in its heat. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego walked into the flames and the King stood by to watch.
"Didn't we throw three men in the furnace," the King asked in amazement.
"Look, I see four men walking around in the fire, unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like a son of the gods" (Daniel 3:25).
That was enough for the king to have a change of heart. He ordered the door opened, and the three young men walked out of that furnace without a singed hair on their heads or a hint of smoke on their clothes!
We can be sure of this, my friend - when walking through the fiery trials of life, we are never alone. Jesus is right there with us all the way. A little smoke and fire doesn't bother Him one little bit.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that I never have to walk through the fiery trials of life alone. You promised that You will never leave me, and I cling to that truth today. Also, thank You for sending friends to walk through the flames with me! They are some of my most treasured gifts. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Describe one of the fiery trials in your life that you have had to walk through?
How was God's presence manifested in the "flames?"
Do you have a friend who needs someone to walk through a fiery trial with her?
Do you desire to have friends like the three young men in this story? If so, ask God to send you one or two friends with a strong faith with whom you can lock arms.
Gwen, Mary and I are so thankful that you have allowed us to walk through life with you. You are a blessing!
Click over to my blog page and tell me the name of one friend who is your fiery furnace friend. I'll randomly pick 2 and send you both a Starbucks gift card.
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Fiery trials come in all shapes and sizes with varying degrees of heat. But no matter what the trial, there is always a lesson to be learned. God can use it for good (Romans 8:28). Let's not waste our sorrows, but turn them around and use them for good! To learn more on how to do just that see Sharon's book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.
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December 25, 2012
Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Luke 2:8-12 "Now there were in the same country shepherds living out in the fields, keeping watch over their flock by night. And behold, an angel of the Lord stood before them, and the glory of the lord shone around them, and they were greatly afraid. Then the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people. For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger" (NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday, dear Jesus!
Happy Birthday to You!
Christmas is the birthday of Jesus Christ. I have always wondered why we typically celebrate His birth by giving gifts to everyone but Him. What gifts does He want from us? What gifts are fit for the King? To answer that question, let's go back to that first Christmas and see what gifts He received that holy night.
The gift of trust
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Mary, the mother of Jesus Christ, was a teenage girl, probably fourteen or fifteen years old, engaged to Joseph when an angel appeared to her with the startling message that she would have a baby, a son named Jesus. Since she was still a virgin, Mary did not understand the message but she knew the One who had sent it – and that was enough. Trust is a gift fit for the King.
The gift of obedience
John 14:15 "If you love me, you will obey what I command."
Joseph's engagement to Mary was legally binding. Imagine his shock and confusion when he learned that Mary was pregnant. Knowing that he could not possibly be the baby's father, Joseph's first reaction was to quietly divorce Mary. An angel from God appeared and told Joseph to "keep her but do not sleep with her!" Now Joseph's response could have been many things - but he chose obedience.
A small child riding in the car wanted to stand in the front seat by his father. The dad explained the importance of a seat belt and told the little boy to sit down. He refused, crossing his little arms in defiance. The father physically sat his son down and buckled him into the seat, bragging on the little boy for his obedience. With a defiant glare, his son said, "I may be sitting down on the outside, but I'm still standing up on the inside." Obedience is an active choice to do what God wants us to do. Obedience is not just an outward motion – it is also an inward attitude – and a gift fit for the King.
The gift of praise
Psalm 50:6 "Let everything that has breath praise the Lord."
When the shepherds heard the angels' news, they went to see Jesus for themselves. After they saw the baby, they left praising God! Anytime we are in the presence of God, praise will result. Praise is also a continual choice that we make again and again until it becomes a habit. Don't let anyone or any circumstance keep you from praising God. Praise keeps us kneeling before the manger and is a gift fit for the King.
The gift of sacrifice
The Wise Men came; bringing gifts that required sacrifice because they knew that true worship always involves sacrifice. Gold, a precious metal, Incense, a rare and expensive product used in worship, and Myrrh, an expensive perfume, were the gifts they brought to Jesus. Sacrifice goes beyond what is required or expected. The best gift - the most expensive and extravagant gift - should go to the one whose birthday we celebrate. Gifts of trust, obedience, praise and sacrifice please God and are gifts fit for the King.
In other words, the best gift that we can give God at Christmas is US! May the words of this children's song be the prayer of our hearts this Christmas season:
"I'm gonna wrap up myself for Christmas
And tie me with a big red bow.
That's what I'm giving to Jesus.
It's a present He'll like I know."
Let's Pray
Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, and everything I hope to be. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have a birthday party for Jesus. Bake a cake, sing "Happy Birthday," and worship Him by surrendering to His plan and provision for your life.
Leave one Christmas decoration out this year as a reminder of His birth and what His presence means every single day.
Consider the following questions:
What is the meaning of Christmas in your life?
How can you lead your family to celebrate the birth of Jesus?
What has been the most meaningful part of this Christmas season so far? Why?
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I pray that this Christmas season is a true celebration of Jesus Christ in your life. Carve out time today to spend alone with Him. Praise and worship Him. He is Friend of the wounded heart and the Great Physician. He is our everything and He is Emmanuel, God with us.
Sharon, Gwen and I want to wish you a merry Christmas and look forward to doing life with you in 2013. During the holidays, you can send your prayer request to our prayer team at gjmeador@comcast.net. We love you!
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December 26, 2012
Be Still and Know
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In him we live and move and have our being, (Acts 17:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
(I posted this devotion a few months ago, but wanted to post it again as you head into the crazy holiday season. Here we go!)
I pressed the send button on my latest manuscript, What God Really Thinks about Women. For twelve months I had spent night and day with Jesus and the women he encountered while he walked the earth. I was going to miss them. Miss walking in their sandals. Miss breathing their air. Miss crying their tears. Miss carrying their water jugs. And while I wasn't going to be in their lives and in their business every day, their imagined faces were etched in my mind and they had become part of me for eternity. But it was time to move on.
I grabbed a cup of coffee, snuggled up in my favorite overstuffed den chair, and opened my Bible in my lap. "OK, God," I began, "that project is finished and tied securely with a bow. So what do you want me to do now?"
I wondered if I should get into a Bible study group, take a class at the local seminary, or finally write those magazine articles I had been putting off. Should I start a small group, volunteer at a charity, or start a new book project? I asked the question and waited.
God surprised me. Acts 17:28 came to my mind. I believed He put it there. In him we live and move and have our being. Learn what that means, He seemed to say. Let's just spend time together. No agenda. No goal. No deadlines. I want to rekindle the romance. Will you let me?
His answer startled me. I hadn't even realized the fire had died down. Wasn't I working for Him? Wasn't I doing God's will? Wasn't I busy about my Father's business? And then I began to see what He meant. He began turning the lens of my mind's camera and the fuzzy image grew clear. I wondered how I had missed it before. In the middle of all my busyness for God, I had neglected my relationship with God.
I was made for goals, or so I thought. Sitting still wasn't in my nature, and perhaps that was what God was trying to tell me. My "nature" or natural bent of work was standing in the way of worship. My natural bent of activity for God was getting in the way of my communion with God. My daily routine of sanctioned quiet times was getting in the way of divine romance in which He wanted me to engage.
Like the men caught on the stormy Sea of Galilee, I felt I had been reeling in the waves for years – never in danger of truly sinking – just reeling from one rolling wave of work and deadlines to the next. But on this particular morning, I began to see the cast of characters in this Galilean scene in a different light. I was definitely in the scene, but I wasn't in the boat at all. I was the storm.
I love how Eugene Peterson describes Jesus' words to the wind and the waves as his friend stirred him from his sleep to calm the squall: "'Quiet! Settle down!'" The wind ran out of breath; the sea became smooth as glass."(Mark 5:39 The Message).
What does God really want from me? I've pondered that question since the day I first came to Christ. It was one of the two questions Saul asked when he met Jesus on the road to Damascus: "Who are you? What shall I do? (Acts 22:8,10).
I think I've made my relationship with Jesus far too difficult. I have spent so much time striving to get closer to the heart of God. And all the while God has been whispering to me, "Cease striving and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10 NASB). "It's not that hard. Settle down. Be quiet."
And that is what Jesus was telling me that frosty January morning. But I realized I didn't really know how to be quiet and settle down. I had never mastered the idea of "be still and know." I knew that God was God. It was the "be still" part that stumped me every time. Now don't get me wrong. I can be still for a few minutes, maybe even an hour if need be. But much longer than that and I'm undone. Restless spirit syndrome begins to shake my soul, and the urge to get up and get moving wrestles me from worship.
So on this January morning, as I share this with you, I'm asking...will you be still and know that He is God with me? For a moment?
God had a lot to show me in the year that followed that frosty morning. I've shared a lot of what I learned as we've gone through the year together. As we head into the next few busy weeks of the holiday, I just wanted to remind you once again...be still.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to learn what it means to live and move and have my being in You. Thank You for a New Year. I am excited to see what You have in store.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How good are you at "be still and know that I am God?"
Have you ever felt God say those words to you?
Easy? Hard? What do you think stands in the way?
Click over to my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com and tell me your favorite place to "be still." I'd even love to see a picture!
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December 27, 2012
God – Our Source
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Psalm 23:1-6 (GWT) "The Lord is my shepherd.I am never in need. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside peaceful waters. He renews my soul. He guides me along the paths of righteousness for the sake of his name. Even though I walk through the dark valley of death, because you are with me, I fear no harm. Your rod and your staff give me courage. You prepare a banquet for me while my enemies watch. You anoint my head with oil. My cup overflows. Certainly, goodness and mercy will stay close to me all the days of my life, and I will remain in the Lord's house for days without end."
Friend to Friend
Christmas is my favorite time of the year! One of my favorite family traditions is the buying of our Christmas tree. It must be purchased on the day after Thanksgiving and it must be purchased from the nice man who runs a tree lot just down the street from our house because he has the best Frasier Firs in town. The whole process is something to see and steeped in Southerland tradition.
We all pile into "Old Blue," my husband's well-worn truck, and head for the tree lot two minutes away from our house. When we arrive, my husband and our children fan out in search of "the tree." Yes, I believe there is one particular tree just waiting for us to claim it. Over the years, many people have tried to change that opinion, but I am standing firm. As tradition demands, my husband, Dan, immediately begins muttering, "Bah, humbug" under his breath, but just loud enough for us all to hear. That is the cue for our daughter, Danna, to begin rolling her eyes and correcting her Scrooge father. Our son, Jered, ignores them both and carries out his steady search in quiet contemplation. He usually spots "the tree" first. "Found it!" he will shout, which is another verbal tree-finding tradition. We all gather to inspect Jered's find, immediately dismiss it as unworthy, and spread out once again in search of our tree.
The owners of the tree lot now recognize us, understand that there is a non-negotiable Southerland step-by-step process and stand back, waiting for the curtain to fall on the tree drama, content in the knowledge that we will eventually buy a tree from them. I consider and dismiss almost every tree on the lot before going back to the first tree Jered picked. Afraid of losing it to another customer, Jered diligently stands guard over his tree until we come to our senses and realize that he, once again, has found the perfect tree. After what we consider a respectable search time, we once again gather at Jered's tree, looking for "holes" in the branches, evaluating each side to make sure it will display well and finally, examining the top of the tree to make sure our angel tree-topper will be comfortable there.
The moment of truth arrives when Dan, Danna and Jered all look at me and ask, "Well, what do you think, Mom? Is this the one?" Savoring the moment, I take my time. My husband and children know that, at this point, their only job is to remain silent. Finally, I turn to them and say, "Let's get it!" I am almost certain I hear applause at this moment, from my family, from other customers and certainly from the tree man. My husband writes the check as Jered loads the tree in Old Blue and we head home where the Christmas tree stand is ready and waiting. Jered, the hulk football player, unloads the tree, cuts off an inch of the trunk, places it in the stand and transports the tree to its new home for the holidays.
The smell is delicious. The needles are green and fresh ... for about a month, and then, every year, the same sad process begins. Although I faithfully water the tree, the needles grow more brittle with each passing day, the smell is less powerful and eventually, the limbs begin to wither, dry out and turn brown. Why? The tree has been separated from its source. The same is true in our lives.
God is our source and there is no life if we are separated from Him. He will meet our every need, and not just material needs. God meets every emotional need, every physical need, and every mental need. A loving Father meets the needs of His kids. He is our source! Our mate is not our source. Our job is not our source. Our children are not our source. God alone is our source.
As you celebrate the Christmas holiday, don't allow anyone or anything divert your heart and mind from the eternal truth that no matter what you did or did not receive this year, no matter what you gave or were unable to give this year – God is your source. And that truth is not seasonal – it is eternal.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart full of thanksgiving and praise. I am in awe of Your perfect plan that sent Your Son to earth for me. He took my sin. He paid the price I was supposed to pay for my imperfection. I don't understand that kind of Love, God, but today I celebrate that love and the fact that You are all I need. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is easy to be wrapped up in serving God instead of being wrapped up in Him. We keep doing "the next thing" until one day we look around to discover that we have built a life on the wrong foundation. We have been depending on the wrong source. Yet, the Father stands waiting, arms open wide, ready to be all that we need. Consider the following questions and record your answers in your journal.
As I examine my life in light of Psalm 23, who or what am I depending on to be my source?
What "wants" have ruled my life?
Am I ready to believe and live out the truth that, as a child of God, I lack nothing?
Revisit the day and time when you surrendered your life to God.
What needs did He meet in your life?
What needs is He meeting in your life today?
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December 28, 2012
"Don't Miss the Beautiful"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A few years ago I went on a trip to minister in Tennessee at a women's event and, to my delight, my daughter Kennedy was able to join me. The two of us are all about "mommy-daughter time" so we were giddy with happy as we started off on the three and a half hour drive.
Prior to the trip, I had given Kennedy permission to use my iPad to watch a movie. So once we hit the highway, she got cozy with her pillow, her headphones went on, and her attention became fixed on the rectangular screen in front of her. Random giggles floated in the air from the movie-watcher as I drove and prayed through the talk that I was to give later that afternoon.
Just off the Northern parts of the Carolina highway – past the congestion of traffic and the hullaballoo of the suburbs – I was freshly smitten by the splendor of God through traces of red, yellow, orange, and brown leaves that were dancing in the breeze under brilliant blue skies. The trees continued to boast of more and more glory as I neared Virginia... and then they were joined by the mountains. Oh, the mountains! They puffed their chests with the majesty of color and power! My heart was captured by the glory of it all, so I tapped Kennedy and pointed out the window, encouraging her to look around... to lift her eyes and soak in the wonder.
"Don't miss the beautiful!" I urged.
"Don't miss the beautiful!"
She paused her movie and joined the beauty moment, agreeing that God was indeed showing off with His creation. Minutes later, she went back to watching her movie as I drove on undone. Wrung out by glory. Overwhelmed by the sacred sanctuary I'd stumbled upon. I stayed in the moment and celebrated the beautiful as the psalmist did in Psalm 96:
1 Sing to the LORD a new song;
sing to the LORD, all the earth.
2 Sing to the LORD, praise his name;
proclaim his salvation day after day.
3 Declare his glory among the nations,
his marvelous deeds among all peoples.
4 For great is the LORD and most worthy of praise;
he is to be feared above all gods.
5 For all the gods of the nations are idols,
but the LORD made the heavens.
6 Splendor and majesty are before him;
strength and glory are in his sanctuary.
7 Ascribe to the LORD, O families of nations,
ascribe to the LORD glory and strength.
8 Ascribe to the LORD the glory due his name;
bring an offering and come into his courts.
9 Worship the LORD in the splendor of his holiness;
tremble before him, all the earth.
10 Say among the nations, "The LORD reigns."
The world is firmly established, it cannot be moved;
he will judge the peoples with equity.
11 Let the heavens rejoice, let the earth be glad;
let the sea resound, and all that is in it;
12 let the fields be jubilant, and everything in them.
Then all the trees of the forest will sing for joy;
13 they will sing before the LORD, for he comes,
he comes to judge the earth.
He will judge the world in righteousness
and the peoples in his truth.
Worship poured from my heart. I thanked God for the beauty show. As praise and adoration continued to rise, a God-thought settled on my heart. Tell them, Gwen.
"Tell them what, Lord?" I wondered.
Tell the women what you told Kennedy. Tell them not to miss the beautiful.
Ahhhh, yes! I would tell them, and I would chew on that challenge for days to come. Convicted by questions like: How often do I drive right through the busyness of my days and miss the beautiful? How many moments of glory do I not even see because my eyes are on the mundane? Do I even look for it?
As we head into this busy holiday season and dance between the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years - as we decorate the doors and the hearths of our homes and communities, let's be intentional to decorate the doors and the hearths of our hearts with ribbons of God's grace. Let's live with eyes lifted to the Gift of gifts, Jesus Christ.
When we face the stresses of our lists, and our tasks, and our activities, and our heart burdens, let's commit to remembering that the best present is His presence. He's our Hope, our Peace, our Joy... our Beautiful.
Don't miss the beautiful.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are glorious and worthy of all praise! Please help me to fix my eyes on You each day so I can walk in your hope, peace, joy and beauty.
In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Additional Scripture reading: Colossians 3:1-17
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December 31, 2012
How to Deal with Stress
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Hebrews 13:5 Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. God has said, "I will never leave you; I will never forget you" (NIV).
Friend to Friend
Here I am, writing about stress. It seems that I always have to re-live a topic before I write about it. (I think my next book will be "How to Become a Millionaire and Lose 20 Pounds in Six Short Weeks." Interestingly enough, I have had several offers to co-author.) Recently, stress has been camping out on my doorstep. Admittedly, it seems that a helicopter is always landing somewhere in my life, but these last several months have exceeded my wildest stress-filled expectations.
We learned that both of my husband's parents have cancer. His mom and dad both had major surgery and his mom had chemotherapy. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and have been having trigger point injections for some lovely muscles spasms in my back. My husband was hospitalized with a massive sinus infection. One of our grandsons has developed a severe allergy to all dairy products, nuts and red dye – which is in 99.9% of everything in the entire world and has had several severe reactions. Gwen, Sharon and I had a manuscript due. I could go on, but you get the picture.
We cannot negotiate the existence of stress. We simply have to learn how to manage it, and one of the most important steps in managing stress is learning how to be still and rest. As parents, how many times have we issued the command to "be still"? Our children have been the recipients of that decree more often than I care to remember. The truth is, they take after their mother when it comes to being still – or should I say not being still. Furthermore, I have inadvertently conveyed the message that to be still is to be useless and unproductive, a truth that was brought home to me by our daughter, Danna.
To say that I spend a great deal of time at my computer is like saying that the sun usually comes up each morning. In my defense, a great deal of my job and ministry responsibilities are done through our home office. Every writing assignment and bible study is done on my computer. Online Bible studies, newsletters, resource orders, prayer requests, responses to emails and website updates make up a great deal of the day-to-day management of Journey Ministry and are all orchestrated from my desk.
One of the things that I love most about Danna is her desire to share the minute details of her life with me. When she hits the door, she always has a story to tell and heads straight to the sofa in my office to find her audience. I am usually there. However, last week, the walls of the office began to close in and I began to whine. "I am never writing another book!" I promised God and myself. "I am sick and tired of putting words together in sentences!" I moaned. "My back hurts from sitting at this ridiculous desk." Enough! I needed a break and headed to the back porch to soak in some sunshine and get some fresh air.
I heard Danna come in and knew exactly where she was going - to the study. Silence – followed by the sound of footsteps across the living room, through the kitchen, through my bedroom and into my bathroom. More silence. I wondered how long it would take her to find me. I then realized just how sad it was that the first two places my daughter thought to look for her mom were the study and the bathroom. As I pondered that pathetic realization, Danna burst through the door, a look of relief on her beautiful face. "Mom, are you OK?" she gasped. The look of concern on her face drove home a fresh realization. My life obviously preached the loud message that rest is sin and that if I am sitting still, something must be wrong. I tried to dress that realization up and make it look and sound better, but the ugly truth blatantly remained. Obviously, I am not an expert when it comes to the subject of rest. In fact, I have met few people who are. It's time for us to surrender, sit at His feet and rest.
A friend recently told me the story of a young mother attending church with her five-year-old daughter. As the congregation stood to sing the chorus, "I exalt thee, oh Lord..." the mother glanced down at her daughter standing beside her to see her little arms up in the air as she sang, "I'm exhausted, oh Lord..." I can relate! I am terrible at this "rest" thing, forever walking the thin line between being productive and my life spiraling out of control. When I asked friends and prayer warriors to pray for me as I worked on a manuscript entitled "Escaping the Stress Trap", they would invariably burst into laughter. I did not appreciate their attitudes!
I have repeatedly tried to defy my God-given need for rest, thinking I am somehow "above" both the occurrence and consequences of exhaustion. Some urgent task will always call my name as will that person whose life will absolutely disintegrate before my eyes if I do not do something right now! Stress seems to shout, "Get busy! There is so much to do!" Stress applauds and dances with delight as I keep on "doing" instead of "being."
Stress can make us sick and, according to medical experts, is deadly. Between 60-90% of all medical patients complain of stress-related symptoms. My doctor tells me that stress can be good or bad, but either way, stress takes its toll. The psalmist writes, "He lets me rest." Do not allow that gentle statement to fool you. The Revised Standard Version of the Bible says it this way, "He makes me lie down in green pastures." I can personally testify to the fact that the word "makes" holds a world of possibilities from God's hand in our lives and have come to the conclusion that, make no mistake, we will rest - one way or another. Through the years, God has gently grabbed my attention with an illness that drove me to bed or a crisis that drove me to my knees. He is a persistent, loving Father and is well aware of just how much we need to rest and how much rest we need.
Rest is part of a Godly character. Interesting truth, isn't it? We sometimes equate rest with weakness when, in reality, rest is spiritual obedience. I pray that as you live out this week, you will do so from a life at rest in Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of constantly running. Please show me how to stop and rest in You. Give me the strength to say "no" to those things that are not part of Your plan for me. Help me remember that You alone are my audience. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Get honest and consider the following questions:
What has been my attitude concerning rest?
How has that attitude affected my work, my family and my own journey?
What is the first step I need to take in the application of the principle that I need to rest?
Set aside time each day to rest. Take "mini-vacations" by carving out time for solitude. Build some "stops" into your daily schedule during which you can focus on God and leave your cares and concerns with Him.
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One of the greatest ways to start the New Year is with a commitment to pray and study the Bible more in 2013. That's why I began my weekly online Bible Study. I want you to be able to get in God's Word, understand it and apply it so you can live the life of victory God wants you to live. So check out my weekly online bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word and learn to pray. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and begins January 14, 2013.
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January 1, 2013
When the Earth Drops Out Beneath Your Feet: Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than our thoughts,(Isaiah 55:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Steve and I got married when we were both still in college. He was entering his fourth year of dental school, and I was just a few hours shy of completing my degree. The last year of school held many important decisions for us, such as where (move the next sentence up) Steve would set up his practice. Dentists don't tend to move about, so this was an important, probably life-long decision for both of us.
All year we prayed, researched, and weighed various opportunities and options. Finally, in April of that year, we felt God calling us to Pineville, North Carolina, right outside of Charlotte. A dentist there was looking for a young associate and the pieces of the puzzle began falling into place. We had prayed. We had fasted. We had listened. We felt that this was God's answer for our lives. It was a big deal.
So after graduation, we packed our meager belongings and moved to Charlotte. After setting up house in our tiny apartment, Steve went to meet with the doctor to finalize the work schedule and management particulars.
"Steve," I've been thinking about it," the doctor began, "and I don't think this is such a good idea after all. I've changed my mind."
He extended his hand to my twenty-five-year-old stunned husband and said, "Good luck to you, son."
I was surprised when Steve came home much earlier than I expected. "What are you doing home?" I asked.
"Sit down," he managed, "You're not going to believe this."
Steve told me the story and I was shocked. I was disappointed. A host of raw emotions collided with questions for God. How could You do this? How could we have been so wrong? Didn't we hear You correctly? We prayed. We fasted. We wanted nothing more than to do what You wanted us to do, where You wanted us to do it. Now here we sit in a big city, with a big student loan, and no job. Now what are we supposed to do?
This was a lover's quarrel between me and God, my friend, and guess whose voice was the loudest? I felt as though I had kept my part of the bargain by following all the right steps and saying all the right words, but God had not kept His.
Somehow, we've come up with the absurd idea that God owes us. That He is obliged to reveal Himself in a way that is acceptable...that fosters belief. If we do A and B, then He is obliged to do C. He's not. One glance at Job chapters 38-41 puts my silly demands in proper perspective. "Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation?" God questioned Job. "Who marked off its dimensions? Who shut up the sea behind doors when it burst forth from the womb, when I made the clouds its garment and wrapped it in thick darkness? Have you ever given orders to the morning or shown the dawn its place? (Job 38:4, 8-9, 12). (If you haven't read those chapters lately, they are a great reminder of God's magnificent glory.)
This career setback seems rather petty now as I hear of the tragic losses from hundreds of women who write to me every day. But I have discovered that the accumulations of petty disappointments tend to undermine our faith like little termites gnawing away at the foundation of our lives. They can leave us doubting whether or not God is really concerned about the everyday details of our lives. A lava flow of doubt covers over our faith and we wonder, why should I pray at all?
Our limited vision doesn't allow us to see how God is working behind the scenes in our lives. But we must believe that He is.
Each and every trial is an opportunity to trust Him more. Jean-Pierre de Caussade said it well: "You would be very ashamed if you knew what experiences you call setbacks, upheavals, pointless disturbances, and tedious annoyances really are. You would realize that your complaints about them are nothing more nor less than blasphemies—though that never occurs to you. Nothing happens to you except by the will of God, and yet beloved children curse it because they do not know it for what it is." His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:9).
Join me tomorrow as I share what happened in the months following what we felt was a setback.
Let's Pray
Lord, help me to remember that You always have a plan. When life takes an unexpected turn, help me to remember that it is not unexpected to You. I'm holding on to Your hand, and going around the next corner with You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, read Job 38-41 and sum up what You learn about God in one word or one sentence.
Let's compare notes. Log onto my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com or my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and share your answer.
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Today's devotion was taken from my newest book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. Disappointments are chock full of miracle moments...or at least they can be. If you need to have your eyes open to glory moments where God makes His presence known, then this book will help open your eyes to see Him, your ears to hear Him, and your heart to experience His love... even in life's most disappointing times. And if you need a boost trusting God during those dark times, see our Girlfriends in God devotion book, Trusting God– a 12-week devotional that will strengthen your faith.
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January 2, 2013
When the Earth Drops Out Beneath Your Feet: Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than our thoughts,(Isaiah 55:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
If it were up to me, I would have written some stories differently. I would have a little girl who would be twenty-one years old this year. Carol's son would not be in prison. Linda's twenty-year-old daughter would not be a quadriplegic because of a car crash at a tollbooth when she was a toddler. Barbara's daughter would not be bipolar. Patty's twenty-one-year-old daughter would not have died in a car accident. Jennifer's husband would not have died of a brain tumor. If I had been writing the story.
But I'm so glad I'm not the author of those stories. Each and every one of these friends have ministries that impact thousands upon thousands of women all over the world. God has turned their pain into purpose, the misery into ministry, and their devastation into anointed messages of hope and restoration. Sudden glories fill and spill from each of these women's lives. Their love journeys of living and moving and having their being in Christ have led them through dark valleys and back out into the light on the other side. They practically glow with radiant wonder.
Difficult times are pregnant with glory moments just waiting to be birthed in the lives of those willing to labor through the pain. The key is to not allow bitterness and anger to make our hearts infertile to God's gifts. One way to avoid the darkening of the soul is by constant communication seasoned with thanksgiving—a continual acknowledgement of His presence.
Glory moments in difficult times are not dependent on our circumstances, but on our focus. Focus on the difficulty and God is difficult to see. Focus on God and glory seeps through the broken places. Difficulties become the bass notes of our life's song, adding a depth and beauty not found in a life that hovers about middle C.
I hope you read my last devotion...part one of this story. If not, you might want to go back and catch up.
Steve and I were terribly disappointed when we felt stranded in a new city with no job and no income. However, after the doctor changed his mind about Steve joining his practice, we never went hungry. I worked six days a week in various dental offices, and Steve filled in where he could. Then three months later, a situation opened up in a very desirable part of town with one of the city's most respected doctors. Steve was offered a wonderful situation in which to begin his career. If we had written out the best-case scenario ourselves, it would not have come close to what God provided. It was Ephesians 3:20 in lab-coat white: "Now to him who is able to do immeasurable more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us..."
After a few years, the part of town in which we originally planned to set up Steve's practice became a rundown thoroughfare, and that doctor faded away. However, Steve's practice continued to grow and grow and grow, until we had to move out on our own to expand. We experienced God's provision and protection through the twists and turns of uncertainty.
Well, why didn't God do that in the first place? Why didn't He lead us to that second opportunity when we did all that praying and seeking? He could have. But He is far more interested in developing our character than doling out a life of comfort and ease. C. S. Lewis notes: "If you think of this world as a place intended simply for our happiness, you find it quite intolerable: think of it as a place of training and correction and it's not so bad." We are ever the students. He is the teacher still. Trials rip away the flimsy fabric of self-sufficiency and become the raw material for God's miracles in our lives. And those miracles are a sudden glory.
A year later, I sat thanking God for His provision, and I was ashamed of myself. Ashamed that I had doubted God. Ashamed that I had fussed at Him. Ashamed that I had thrown a temper tantrum when I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it...and I'm so glad I didn't.
"I'm so sorry God," I prayed. "Please forgive me."
That's O.K, He seemed to say. Happens all the time. Now, I want this to be a lesson for you. You've got to trust me.
Someone once said, "Faith means believing in advance what will only make sense in reverse." Oh that we would trust Him even if the twists and turns never make sense this side of heaven. That's what trusting God is all about. As we live and move and have our being in Him, the dark places are simply opportunities to trust that He knows the way—and the perfect time to hold on tight.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'll admit that sometimes I don't like how the story of my life is going. There are some chapters I would love to go back and edit. But the reality is, You use it all. Even fairy tales have villains, darks forests, and big bad wolves. But I know, oh I know, how my story ends. "And she lived happily in the hereafter with the Prince of Peace." I thank You for the storyline that gets me there.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when it looked like the earth fell out from beneath your feet, and later you realized it was all in God's perfect plan for your better good?
What did Joseph say to his brothers who sold him into slavery and told their father he was dead? Check it out at Genesis 50:19-23.
What does that tell you about Joseph's perspective on the bad things that happened in his life?
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my newest book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. Disappointments are chock full of miracle moments...or at least they can be. If you need to have your eyes open to glory moments where God makes His presence known, then this book will help open your eyes to see Him, your ears to hear Him, and your heart to experience His love... even in life's most disappointing times. And if you need a boost trusting God during those dark times, see our Girlfriends in God devotion book, Trusting God – a 12-week devotional that will strengthen your faith.
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January 3, 2013
Facing the Giants
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
2 Timothy 1:7 (NCV) "God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control."
Friend to Friend
A cloud of terror hung over the Valley of Elah as snarling threats and vile promises spewed from his mouth. The intimidator strutted along grassy slopes, swinging an enormous club, his mammoth, ironclad feet pawing the ground like an irate bull, ready to attack. The huge, ugly monster was Goliath, a nine-foot giant and the pride of Philistia. He wore massive armor; a bronze coat weighing 200 pounds, a solid iron spear, a heavy bronze helmet. The target of his ranting and raving was a frightened, helpless group of Israelites, cowering in their tents. For forty agonizing days, Goliath had come, taunting them, promising certain destruction and doom. The Israelites, paralyzed with fear, had given up all hope of escape, resigned to their tortured fate at the hand of this Philistine monster.
Then came day forty-one! I am certain, as the sun inched its way over the mountains that morning, that neither Goliath nor the Israelites had any idea just how different this day would be. A young handsome teenager stepped into the valley of fear, fresh from the presence of God. David, the youngest in a family of eight boys could not believe his eyes. Tossing the giant's threats and obvious advantage aside, David refused to accept what he saw. Instead, he chose to believe what he knew in his heart; this giant was going down! With simple but certain faith and unreserved confidence in God, David stepped through the fear, ushering in the mighty presence and power of God. Goliath not only met David that day, He met the Lord of Heaven and Earth. And the giant fell! Giants always fall in the presence of God!
We stand on the threshold of a new year – a new beginning. If you are like me, you face 2012 with mixed emotions. Personally, I am thrilled that I survived 2012! There were certainly moments when I wondered if I would survive at all. I am so excited about a fresh start, a brand new set of days overflowing with new dreams and unmarked possibilities. But I also know that this year is crammed full of the unknown as well as a giant or two. And if I am brutally honest, I have to admit that the unknown fashions a pocket of fear in my heart where questions and doubts thrive.
The good news is that what lies ahead is no surprise to God. In fact, He has already been where we are going. That reason alone empowers us to face every tomorrow with hope, knowing that whatever touches us passes through His hands, with His permission. It is not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the defeat and fall of every giant that we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, facing every giant in God's power and with His promises. The Holy Spirit will guide the path of His truth to its destined mark, taking down the giants lurking in each tomorrow.
Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever. Determine right now to face each day with the memory of Goliath's fall and trust in Almighty God, the Giant Killer. So then, my friend, I ask you, what is there to fear? Happy New Year!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your goodness to me this past year. I confess that there were times when I focused on the storm instead of on You. I allowed fear to overpower my faith. Please help me begin this New Year in faith, with my eyes on You and my glance on the circumstances. I want to face every giant in Your power alone, walking straight through my fear in faith. Right now, Father, I surrender to You and the plan You have for me in 2013.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to review the past year and consider the following questions:
What giants have you faced this year?
Was your response to these giants right or wrong?
How do you typically handle fear?
What giants are you facing today?
What has been your natural response to giants of the past?
How do the birth, life and death of Jesus Christ affect those responses?
Read Luke 2:8-14. Examine your life in light of this passage.
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Can you believe that the clean slate of 2013 is just ahead? A new beginning and a fresh start! However, what did we learn in 2012 that will make a difference in the weeks and months ahead? As the holiday season winds down, I pray that your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
Mary's message, Strength for the Storm, is available in DVD, CD, MP3 and E-Bible Study.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and begins January 14.
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January 4, 2013
A Fresh Brewed Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV).
Friend To Friend
Every morning I walk straight to the coffee pot and push the ON button. I'm a total coffee girl. I like a piping-hot, extra dark roast with half and half, and I struggle to function without my first cup of coffee. I crave that first sip and relish the warmth of the mug in my hands. I jokingly call it my "warm, happy friend." My mornings just wouldn't be the same without coffee!
We should have the same attitude about our faith. We should wake up each morning bursting at the seams to be with God, to be in His presence, to listen for His still small voice, to savor Him. A faith that is brewed fresh daily strengthens us, renews us, and enables us to mount up with wings like eagles, to experience the power of God in our lives, to run and not grow weary, to walk and not faint.
This energizing, percolated faith is readily available to all who ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7-8). How can you experience this power in your life? By getting alone with God, reading the Bible, and listening for His voice each day. "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ" (Romans 10:17, ESV).
Like a morning with no coffee, there are times when we are sluggish in our faith. Times when trusting Him doesn't come easily. Times when we need a shot of God-caffeine in our day, a spiritual espresso. What can we do at these times? Are there things in the Scriptures that tell us how can we strengthen our trust-muscles and jump-start our faith? Absolutely!
One practical way to build your faith is by remembrance. When David was just a shepherd boy, he had courage to face a giant partly because he remembered the previous victories the Lord allowed him to experience. He approached King Saul with great confidence, saying: The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine (1 Sam 17:36, NIV). His past victories fueled his faith and helped him to trust God for his present deliverances. Ours do the same. We can face our giants with equal confidence when we pause to remember how God has worked in our past.
Corrie Ten Boom said, "Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible."
What has God brought you through in the past? Think on these things, and choose to trust Him to bring you through all you face today and tomorrow. When you trust God with a fresh brewed faith, He will be your Strength, your Sustainer, and your Hiding Place so you can run and not grow weary, walk and not be faint. Fill up your faith cup right now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You have brought me through so many challenging times. Please remind me of Your faithfulness in the past so that I may have a fresh shot of faith that equips me to live today in Your strength. Help me to trust You, and keep me from leaning on my own understanding. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Samuel 17.
Consider a specific time that God has moved in your life. Grab a journal and write about it, or swing by my Facebook pageand tell me about it!
Pray for God to increase your faith and give you the strength you need for today.
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If you are struggling to see how you can get your faith from sluggish to fresh brewed, be sure to get a copy of our GiG book, Trusting God, A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. (Today's devotion is an excerpt from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith and Mary Southerland.)
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January 7, 2013
Coming Out of the Dark
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Florida is famous for its sinkholes. I personally find them fascinating since I grew up in Texas where most holes are made intentionally. As I studied these overnight wonders, an interesting explanation emerged. Scientists assert that sinkholes occur when the underground resources gradually dry up, causing the surface soil to lose its underlying support. Everything simply caves in - forming an ugly pit.
Depression and sinkholes have a lot in common. Depression seems to overwhelm with a vicious suddenness when it is actually the result of a malignant and constant process. Inner resources are slowly depleted until one day there is nothing left. The world caves in and darkness reigns.
Depression is America's number one health problem. Someone once called it "a dark tunnel without a ray of light" while some cartoonists often describe depression as a "little black cloud hovering overhead." I have a friend who says, "Some days you're the bug. Some days you're the windshield." Many believe depression is simply a spiritual problem while others insist it is an emotional and physical disorder. I think they are all right. Studies indicate that over half of all women and one out of three men struggle with depression on a regular basis. Because no one is immune to the darkness, we must learn to face it honestly, with emotional integrity.
That moment came for me in the spring of 1995 when I realized that something was drastically wrong. I was empty and completely exhausted. It seemed as if I had been living in the fast and furious lane forever. Overwhelmed, I mentally listed the demands on my life:
Serving as pastor's wife in a large and fast-growing church
Raising two young children
Maintaining a hectic speaking schedule
Directing the Women's Ministry of our church
Teaching a weekly and monthly Bible study
Counseling women in crisis
Playing the piano for three worship services
Teaching twenty piano and voice students
No wonder I was struggling. I was just plain tired. Being a perfectionist, I had always been very strong, driven to excel with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. Getting dressed by the time my children returned from school meant it was a good day. The simplest decisions sent me into a panic and the thought of facing crowds was overwhelming. Many times, I walked to the front door of our church building but couldn't go in. I felt guilty missing services but couldn't handle the sympathetic looks and questioning stares as I stood, weeping uncontrollably. I was paralyzed, imprisoned in a bottomless pit where loneliness and despair reigned, wreaking emotional havoc from their throne of darkness. I had no idea how I had gotten there and what was even more frightening was the fact that I had no idea how to escape. I did the only thing I could do. I cried out to God.
"I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand." (Psalm 40:1-2, NIV)
With that single heart cry, my journey from darkness into light began. The first step was to recognize the factors that can trigger depression; a lack of replenishing relationships, various chemical imbalances, and a poor self-image, just to name a few. One of the most common and deadly factors is failure to deal with the past. The "mire" mentioned in Psalm 40:2 means "sediment at the bottom." When our children were small, we frequented the beach. Wading out into the ocean, they took turns pushing a beach ball under the water and counting to see who could hold the ball down for the longest time. Eventually their arms would tire, or the ball would escape their control, popping to the surface. The "mire" in our lives is like that beach ball. The "sediment" or "junk" that we have never dealt with settles at the bottom of our souls, randomly popping up until we run out of energy to keep it submerged. Eventually, this mire works its way to the surface, spilling ugliness and darkness into every part of life.
"Mire" comes in all shapes and sizes -- buried pain, unresolved anger, hidden sin or a devastating loss. I had never really dealt with my mother's death or faced some very painful parts of my past. As I looked back over my life, a startling realization came -- I had painted a picture in my heart and mind of how I wanted my childhood to be, not how it really was. I had spent my whole life running from the past by filling the present with frenzied activity. In the following weeks and months, the Lord and I sifted through the enormous pile of "mire" that had settled into my spirit and life. Together we faced experiences that I had carefully locked away until they slammed into my heart and mind with breathtaking force and fresh pain; an alcoholic father, the trusted family doctor who molested me, times of loneliness and rejection, haunting failures, unreasonable fears that were never spoken. It seemed as if the flood of polluted memories would never end!
But God is good -- providing a defense mechanism for those experiences that are beyond our ability to face. He gently tucks them away until we are ready. When we bury pain alive, it keeps popping up at unexpected moments. Pain must be dealt with and buried ... dead! Freedom from the pit of darkness demands a confrontation of our past, straining every experience through the truth that "all" things work together for our good. The will of God admits no defeat and penalizes no one. We can allow our past to defeat us or empower us. Harnessing the power of the past is a compelling weapon in the war against darkness.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired and so afraid of the darkness in my life. Right now, I cry out to You. Please help me deal with the mud and mire in my past. Heal my heart and soul and mind. I want to trust You, Lord. I am no longer willing to be a prisoner of my past. Show me the sins I need to confess and turn away from. Heal the wounds that have hurt for so long. I lay my past at Your feet and ask You to make it a cornerstone for the new life I can have in You. I choose to believe You will work it all together for Your glory and my good.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few minutes to think back over your life. Make a list of the "mire" that has settled in your heart and soul. Be specific. It may be a sin you need to confess or the pain of a broken relationship that needs to be healed. Ask God to show you the things in your past that have become footholds of darkness in your life today. Face each one. Deal with it and let it go.
Read Romans 8:28 What good things has God brought out of the pain in your past? Is your faith stronger? Have you been able to encourage others who have experienced that same pain?
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Now is a great time to establish the habit of a daily quiet time. Let us help you get started. Get your copy of the Girlfriends in God new 12-week devotion book, Trusting God. You can use it for your personal study or why not form a GiG group and work through the book together?
Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and explore the book of Proverbs in Mary's new study, Power Up With Proverbs beginning January 14. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 8, 2013
Coming Out of the Dark
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Isaiah 45:3 "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Friend to Friend
Children are wonderfully different. When our son, Jered, was nine months old, he began to pull up on every piece of furniture he could find. For weeks, he maneuvered his way around our home until the day he took his first step alone. It was a step of inches, but we celebrated as if he had completed a marathon. On the other hand, our daughter, Danna, had a different plan. She never pulled up on a piece of furniture and never took "a" step. When she was ten months old, Danna stood up, looked around and trotted across the room. Jered and Danna both walk extremely well today as young adults, but they both began with tiny steps and in their own way.
Nobody gets depressed overnight and nobody overcomes depression overnight. The journey out of the pit is a process of steps uniquely planned by your Father. Let's look at some of the steps we must take in order to find our way out of the dark.
1. Wait. The psalmist simply says,"I waited." Waiting is not passive. Waiting is a time of preparation, a time of rest and healing, a time when God covers us with the shadow of His wing.
To wait means to accept the pit.
Isaiah 45:3 is a compelling verse, "I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Any time the word, "LORD" is capitalized, it means "Father" or "Dearest Daddy." This verse indicates that our Father has gone before us and, in every dark moment or painful circumstance, has buried a treasure or stored a secret. The only way we can find the treasure or learn the secret is to pass through that darkness. Some things cannot be learned in the light. The pit of depression has become a hedge of protection in my life, a warning light that something is wrong or out of balance. To wait means to accept the pit, knowing it is for our good.
To wait means to admit there is a problem. Isaiah 40:29 "He gives power to the tired and worn out, and strength to the weak."
We must be willing to admit we are struggling, but pride often prevents us from doing so. Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity, being willing to say, "I need help!" and being honest with ourselves and with others. When clinical depression first overwhelmed my life, my husband, Dan, was the pastor of a large, fast-growing church in South Florida. We could choose to be transparent and real or we could sweep my struggle under the rug. We concluded that to be right, we had to be real. Dan and I shared my battle with the staff, the deacons and then with the entire church. Yes, we took a risk but learned an important lesson in doing so. A shared load is a lighter load because we were created to need each other.
To wait means to be still. "I waited." To wait means to hope in and look for someone or something that will rescue us.
So much about God can never be known on the run. We can get so wrapped up in everyday life that we fail to be wrapped up in Him. The busier we are, the more stillness and rest we need. During those two years in the pit, I not only gave up every role of leadership in church, I could not even attend church at times because of panic attacks. The Father taught me an important truth. He is more concerned with who I am than what I do.
2. Cry out for help. Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry."
People struggling with depression often look for help in the wrong places. Let me share with you some of the rightplaces.
God. Your Fatherstands waiting to hear your voice; and when you cry out to Him, He comes running – through His Word, through prayer and through His people. There was a terrible storm and the little girl was afraid. When she cried out in fear, her father came running down the hall, into the bedroom and scooped her up in his arms as he said, "Honey, God will take care of you." The tearful child replied, "I know God loves me and will take care of me but right now, I need somebody with skin on." If you cry out to God, He will come to you in some way.
Doctors and counselors. Proverbs 15:22 gives us an important truth when it says, "Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success." I encourage anyone experiencing depression to get a physical because depression is often rooted in a physical problem, requiring medication. The medication does not eliminate the depression but simply levels the playing field so whatever is triggering the depression can be addressed. Christian counselors are a gift from God. He knew we would need them.
Others. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 instructs us to "encourage each other and give each other strength." I would never have survived the pit of clinical depression without the help and encouragement of family and friends. Members of our church brought meals, cleaned house and helped take care of our kids. The deacons were guardian angels at church and other women took my place in leadership. I would still be in that pit if it were not for these people who helped rescue me. Has it affected their opinion of me? Yes! It has shown them that I am just like them and has given them permission to face their own weaknesses. You may be thinking, "I have no one in my life that will help me." If you cry out to God, He will bring you help.
3. Count on God to come through. One of the promises I clung to while sitting in the darkness of depression was Psalm 107:13-14 "Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom and broke away their chains." The Psalmist promises that when you cry out to God, He will:
"lift you up out of the slimy pit"
"set your feet on a rock"
"give you a new place to stand"
"put a new song in your heart"
"use your pit so that others will "see and trust God"
God is drawn to broken people. Psalm 40:1 says, "He turned to me." Notice it does not say David turned to God. Honestly, I doubt David had the strength to turn to God – so God turned to him. God heard the cry of David, and He will hear yours. I was angry with God but He never turned away from me. Instead, He surrounded me with His love and compassion and as Psalm 56:8 promises, He knew every tear I cried. "You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book." You can count on God to come through.
4. Be patient. "I waited patiently for the Lord." The word "patiently" means "without tiring and with perseverance." To come out of the darkness takes time and requires patience. It took me many years to hit rock bottom. It took me two years to climb out of that pit and I am still climbing. Yes, I still battle depression from time to time. I have asked God to deliver me, but He has said "no." Do you know what my name, Mary, means -- bitter, but when broken, sweet. Depression keeps me broken and anything that makes me cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. When we come to the end of ourselves, God begins.
The story is told of a little boy who was walking home when he spotted a caterpillar struggling to get out of its cocoon. Feeling sorry for the helpless creature, the little boy ran home, grabbed a pair of scissors and ran back to cut the caterpillar free. He watched it spread its wings and try to fly, only to discover that it couldn't. It is in the struggle out of the darkness of the cocoon that the butterfly's wings gain enough strength to fly. Be patient. I don't know if you are in a pit and need help or if someone you love is in that pit and in need of your help. One thing I do know is that the purpose of the pit is to purify then restore. Right now, surrender the broken pieces of your life to God and watch as he brings you out of the dark. Do not quit! Do not give up! God is at work in your life.
Philippians 1:6 "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Father God, my heart is filled with chaos and confusion. I feel as if I am drowning in my circumstances, my heart filled with fear and confusion. I need the strength and peace that only You can give. Right now, I choose to rest in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Philippians 4:7 (NIV) "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Make a list of the dark places in your life today. Surrender each one to God. Ask Him to bring light into your heart and mind and help you walk in His peace. Now, walk in that peace today. When the waves of darkness come, remember each one now belongs to your Father.
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Can you believe 2013 is here, like a clean slate filled with new beginnings and fresh starts? However, what did we learn in 2012 that will make a difference in 2013? As the holiday season winds down, I pray your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings. For more help and practical ways to deal with depression in your own life or in the life of someone you love, check out Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression.
Need help getting the Word of God into your life? Check out Mary's Weekly Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey to explore the book of Proverbs in her new study, Power Up With Proverbs beginning January 14.
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January 9, 2013
Disappointment with God
Part 1
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful, (Psalm 25:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I sat on the floor playing a card game with my young son. It was shaping up to be one of the best summers ever. Steven was savoring every minute of the long hot days, our Golden Retriever, Ginger, had delivered seven adorable puppies, and after years of negative pregnancy tests and doctor visits, I had a new life growing in my womb.
In the middle of enjoying the moment with Steven, I felt a warm, sticky sensation that made my world stand still. A trip to the bathroom confirmed my greatest fear.
Later that day, as I sat in the doctor's office listening to his condolences for the loss of this much-prayed-for child, all I could think of was God, how could you?
I drove home. Climbed into bed. Pulled the covers over my empty womb and my empty heart and cried. I was mad at God. If this is how You love me, then forget it. I gave God the silent treatment as if I could somehow pay Him back.
God and I had a lover's quarrel that summer. Actually, I was the only one arguing. I was mad. I was hurt. I felt betrayed by the One who was supposed to love me most. But He stayed right by my side, waiting, wooing, and eventually drawing my broken heart back so that He could heal it once again. His passionate pursuit and relentless romance continued.
Even though I was mad at God, I knew in the deepest parts of me, that He did love me and that He was somehow going to use all this pain for good—but I sure didn't like it.
Ann Voskamp, in her book One Thousand Gifts, wrote: "I wonder...if the rent in the canvas of our life's backdrop, the losses that puncture our world, our own emptiness, might actually become places to see. To see through to God." This was a see-through place, but until I opened my eyes, I would not see God.
Could it be that the puncture wounds in the canvas of your life—the losses, the disappointments, the crushing blows—might actually become the rent places of the soul through which you can see God? Through which you can peer beyond your earthly trappings into glory moments beyond? Through which you can see His light bursting through the openings? I believe they could be.
How do we allow life's difficulties to become see-through places? How do we begin to see moments of sudden glory burst through the puncture holes in the black backdrop of our greatest disappointments and pain?
Join me tomorrow as we look at this tough question together. For now, ponder today's truth: "All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful."
Let's Pray
God, I'll admit, sometimes I get mad at You. Sometimes I am disappointed. Please forgive me. I know You always have my best interest in mind. Even in tragedy I trust You. As David said in Psalm 25:10, "All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful," whether I understand them or not.
Trusting You,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today is a toughie. What is one time you were disappointed in God?
What lessons did you learn from the disappointment?
How are you more like Jesus because that particular issue didn't turn out like you thought it would?
Consider writing Psalm 25:10 on a note card and committing it to memory. If you'll commit to memorizing it with me, click over to my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com or my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and leave a comment that says, "I'm in."
More from the Girlfriends
Sometimes the most glorious moments of seeing God occur on the dark backdrop of difficulty. If you long for something more in your relationship with God, it could be that He has a boatload of blessings to show you...if you'll just open your eyes to see. Want to learn more? Check out my book A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. And if you'd like to learn more about how to use what you've gone through in the past to minister to others in your present, then check out Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. You're not alone, girlfriend. God has an amazing plan!
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January 10, 2013
Disappointment with God
Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
So we fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal (2 Corinthians 4:18).
Friend to Friend
As you live and move and have your being in Christ, at some point, difficult days will come. We live in a fallen world, and suffering is simply a part of it. Jesus said, "In this world you will have trouble," (John 16:33). It's a sure thing.
When we experience shattered dreams, broken relationships, tragic losses, or unfulfilled longings, it can be difficult to feel God's presence, to see His hand, and to hear His voice. Glory moments cease when we close our eyes in pain and tune God out in anger. That doesn't mean that God is not there. It only means that the sadness in our own hearts has drawn the shades and locked the doors. We question whether or not we even want to live in union with God if this is where the path leads. We tend to wriggle out of His arms like an angry child or slip out of His embrace like a disgruntled lover, all the while hoping He will pull us back in and tell us that we have simply misunderstood.
Men and women throughout the Bible voiced their disappointment when God didn't act as they had hoped. David cried out, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning?" (Psalm 22:1). Habakkuk cried out: "How long, O Lord, must I call for help, but you do not listen?" (Habakkuk 1:2). Even Jesus, when he hung on that cruel Roman cross, did not call out the comforting words of the Twenty-third Psalm, but the agonizing words of the Twenty-second.
Philip Yancey, in his book, Disappointment with God says, "The words of the prophets sound like the words of a lovers' quarrel drifting through thin apartment walls." I've read the words. I've heard the words. I've said the words.
And while we complain of God's silence or seeming indifference during difficult times, He is always there working behind the scenes in ways we may never understand.
In the Bible, we catch glimpses of God's veiled activity among men. Daniel prayed for three weeks while God appeared to be silent. Finally an angel showed up and explained his delay—a demon, the prince of the Persian kingdom, fought with him and held him back for twenty-one days (Daniel 10).
In another incident, the prophet Elisha and his servant were surrounded by Aramean enemies. Elisha's servant was terrified and thought they were surely doomed. Elisha very calmly reassured him: "Don't be afraid. Those who are with us are more than those who are with them." Then he asked God to lift the curtain of the spiritual realm and reveal the truth of the situation. "Then the LORD opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha" (2 Kings 6:15-18). Talk about sudden glory!
Three months after the loss of my second child, I broke my silence with God and prayed a prayer similar to Elisha's. "Oh God, please open my eyes to see Your glory in this situation. If I could just see her. Please Lord, give me a glimpse.
And then God pulled back the curtain in my mind and I envisioned this child, healthy and whole and playing at the feet of Jesus. She was surrounded by God's glory face-to-face. Radiant resplendent glory. Not an ounce of glory ache to be seen.
Glory moments do not require a physical vision, but a spiritual revelation—an understanding of a greater reality than this physical world in which we live. The unseen world is very real, and while we may not see God's activity with our physical eyes, we can be assured of His provision and protection in ways we may never understand. When He said, "I will never leave you or forsake you," He meant it.
"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen (our circumstances), but on what is unseen (God's presence). For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Corinthians 4:18, parentheses mine). One day, it will all make sense. Until then...we trust. And when we have the faith to keep our eyes open during the dark times, God will scatter moments of sudden glory like stars in the inky sky. We hold fast and continue practicing Acts 17:28—even when we aren't sure where that may lead.
Let's Pray
Lord, sometimes I just don't get it, but that's OK. I don't have to "get it." I don't have to understand. But I trust You. I know Your ways are higher than my ways. So I unfurl my fingers and release the tight grip I have on my circumstances. I give them to You. I am looking for moments of sudden glory...Your presence...in the confusing circumstances of my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ready for a little finger exercises today? Here's what I want you to do:
1. Ball up your fist and think of a worry or concern you're holding onto.
2. Give it a name.
3. Unfurl your fingers, open up your hand, and lift it to God saying, "I give this to You.
4. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
I think that's an exercise we ought to do often.
Did you do it? Let me know how many times you repeated this finger exercise today?
More from the Girlfriends
Sometimes it is hard to let go, isn't it? Truly, it is a matter of trust. Gwen, Mary and I have written a wonderful book titled Trusting God.It's is a 12-week devotion book dedicated to that one single topic. If you enjoy our devotions, you will LOVE our book, Trusting God. And we even have free videos on-line to go with each of the 12 weeks. So gather some girlfriends and learn about how to trust God together.
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January 11, 2013
Measuring Up
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30).
Friend to Friend
My girlfriend Denise is a knockout. She's got the whole beauty package going on. She's tall, slender, athletic, bright, and funny. To know her is to love her. But she is so pretty that if you didn't know her, you might love to hate her. Kind of like the supermodels.
Denise is a former model and gymnast who lived much of her life in the shadow of perfection's impossible measuring stick. She grew up in a small town just outside of Cleveland, Ohio, and made a decision for Christ as a child. Though she was a believer, Denise still struggled with common issues of measuring up.
"It was very important to me to be well-liked and to be very successful in every aspect of my life," she said. "My family strived to be the ideal, all-American family. I worked hard to have great grades, be a great athlete, and wear the right clothes; to overachieve. As a model and gymnast, body type and strength were very important to winning, as well as to my identity."
By nature, Denise is competitive. Most would refer to her personality as type-A. A go-getter. A perfectionist. She's the kind of girl you want on your team: determined, focused, and disciplined. Her quest to be the best, however, left Denise feeling helpless and unsuccessful. Even though she was a fierce competitor as a gymnast, she never felt she was good enough. For years, Denise tried to control the circumstances and the people in her life in an attempt to make things perfect. Eventually, her pursuit of perfection got Denise into a heap of trouble. As Edwin Bliss has said, "The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy. The pursuit of perfection is frustrating, neurotic, and a terrible waste of time."
As a high school gymnast, Denise dealt with the pressures to measure up in a destructive way. She became bulimic. She wanted to be in control of her body and manage her weight but she became enslaved to an addictive and damaging behavior. She was a Christian girl who knew that God loved her. She had been told that she was beautiful to Him, but for a season of her life, Denise didn't consider that enough. At first, to her delight, Denise's bulimia resulted in weight loss. Keeping extra weight off allowed her to be competitive in the gym and to look good. She wasn't alone. Most of her teammates had eating disorders too.
"What I thought was just a phase became my way of life," Denise remembers.
Her destructive behavior followed her to college. Denise thought she was in control of the bulimia, but eventually realized that bulimia was in control of her. It consumed her thoughts. It swung the gates of deception wide open for the enemy to stroll right through. He laughed all the way, because he had her right where he wanted her.
Negative self-talk filled her head. A thought as simple as, "I'm a little bit nervous about teaching this fitness class," would snowball into, "You are so fat. You should never have eaten all that food this afternoon. You're such an idiot! You won't even be able to get through this class." The voice in her head constantly told her she didn't measure up.
"If I heard ninety nine positive comments about myself and one negative comment, I couldn't let the one negative comment go," she said. "I illuminated my failures and shortcomings instead of celebrating my successes."
During that time, she constantly talked about her body...about how awful it was. Denise says it was as if a ticker tape was filling her mind with a steady stream of negative thoughts and beating her down.
She prayed, "Lord, help me find a way to cut that ticker tape. I need a reprieve." God eventually did cut it with truth, but it took a while for Denise to learn to recognize Satan's lies for what they were.
The Lord placed many Christian friends in Denise's path who encouraged her to see a counselor. She went, though she still wanted her way more than God's way. The counselor told her that she must want to be healed of her eating disorder. She needed motivation to change. Denise lacked the motivation until she went home for fall break and finally hit rock bottom.
A Time for Change
Denise was consumed with being fit. Each day of break was another opportunity to strive for physical perfection, and she trained hard. She had been fasting for a few days—something she relished because of the dramatic physical results, not for the spiritual benefits the Bible speaks of—and then ate something. The ticker in her mind told her that she should feel terrible about eating, so Denise went upstairs and made herself throw up. Her body had grown so weak that she fell to the floor before making it to her bed.
Her brother found her on the floor crying and completely out of it.
Denise's brother, who suffers from a mild form of cerebral palsy and has struggled to overcome the challenges of his disability, was alarmed and angry. Once Denise was able to get up from the floor, her brother confronted her with strong words that became a catalyst of change in her life.
"I have worked all my life to overcome my physical deformity," he said. "And here you are intentionally destroying yourself."
It was true and she knew it.
In that moment, Denise felt the weight of truth, and finally crumbled. Her previous casual attempts to allow God to intervene were now replaced with sincere cries for help. She needed to change and she needed God's help for the change to happen. She needed Him to consume her thoughts and transform her mind. She needed Him desperately.
Denise had known the truth from the beginning. She just resisted it. She knew that bulimia was destructive, but the pressures of the world had a greater hold on her.
When she turned to Jesus for help, He began to transform her from the inside out. As a child, Denise gave her heart to Jesus. As an adult, she surrenderedher life to Him. There's a big difference. In the surrendering, Denise found healing for the bulimia and emotional freedom from the need to measure up to the world's standard of perfection.
Her healing took time. It progressed slowly. God used His Word, Christian counseling, and friends to replace lies with His truth. Denise has experienced full healing through the strength of the Lord and now regularly shares her story with women and young girls.
Healing begins when we hold tightly to the truth of God and allow the truth of God to hold tightly to us. God gives each of us the freedom to accept or reject His way. When we lean into His truth, we are less likely to conform to the world. His truth, His Word can be the light for each step we take. It illuminates the path that leads to His heart. God's Word transforms. The apostle Paul said, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2a).
We live in a competitive world. The pressures to be thin, beautiful, fit, smart, sexy, funny, rich, and popular trap us in a relentless vise-grip. Denise's story isn't much different from yours or mine. You don't need to be a model or a gymnast to get trapped in a disorder or an addictive lifestyle. You could be a college student, a businesswoman, a nurse, a mom, a dance instructor, a retail clerk, or a Sunday school teacher. No one is exempt. Feelings of inadequacy and inferiority ravage hearts of Christians and non-Christians alike.
Our attempts to measure up are all-consuming traps. They focus our attention inward verses upward, just as they did with Denise. When we get caught in the trap of striving to measure up, we focus on ourselves. That was never God's plan. We were designed to focus on Him. Shifting our attention from ourselves to God will change our perspective. God longs for our obsession to be Him.
"I am the Lord; that is my name! I will not give my glory to another or my praise to idols" (Isaiah 42:8).
Let's Pray
Dear God, please renew and transform me from the inside out! When feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. I want to be held tightly by your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
There's a line in the song "Broken into Beautiful" that says: "We live with accusations, sometimes heavy expectations that tell us we can never measure up. And yet You repeat with mercy that in Your eyes we are worthy, 'til at last we see how much we're loved."[ii]
How does this speak to you today? Do you really know how much you're loved? Pray about it and journal if you're the journaling type... then let's meet on my Facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together. www.Facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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Did today's message resonate with your heart? Learn how God wants to bring you beyond your past mistakes and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website.
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Tim Hansel, Eating Problems for Breakfast, (Word Publishing, 1988) page 39.
[ii] Featured on Unsearchable, and also on the Because CD by Gwen Smith (www.GwenSmith.net) © Sunday Best Music/ (ASCAP) Newspring, a division of Zomba Enterprises, Inc. (ASCAP)/ CCTB Music (ASCAP). All right OBO CCTB. Music administered by New Spring. Used by permission.
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January 14, 2013
God Sees Your Disappointment
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet without sin, (Hebrews 4:15 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Let's face it. People let us down. They disappoint us. And so does God. Often our experiences fall short of our expectations for God to meet all our needs the way we think He should, and like a lover who has been wronged, we tend to guard our hearts against future disappointment by lowering our expectations and trust. But make no mistake about it, God sees. God understands. He is not aloof.
One day I was sitting on the patio with my friend Beth and her stepfather, Sam, waiting for the grill to heat up before placing steaks on to cook. Beth's mom opened the door and gave Sam his orders—telling him what to do and how to do it. When she went back inside, Sam made a hand signal, pointing in one ear and out the other. We all three laughed. Then he placed his ruddy hand on Beth's arm, a hand worn by years of working under the hood of cars of every make and model.
"She was pretty hard on you growing up, wasn't she?" he asked.
"You have no idea," Beth answered with a sigh.
But Sam did have an idea. He understood. And that one simple gesture let her know that he had peered into her heart and had seen the truth. The weathered, uneducated country mechanic had looked under the hood of her heart with wisdom and seen the damaged engine within. A heart, though healed by Christ, that still felt the phantom pains of a little girl who felt she was never good enough, who was constantly told what to do and how to do it—and who never did it quite right. Sam saw her heart, and for that, Beth loved him. And so did I.
How like God. He places His hand on your shoulders, looks into your eyes, and lets you know that He understands. "I see you," He says. "I see what you are going through." Like Hagar who experienced a sudden glory moment with God in the desert; we too can know God as El Roi, "the God who sees me," (Genesis 16:13).
The book of Hebrews tells us that we have a High Priest, Jesus, who understands what we are going through. He "sympathizes" with our weakness (Hebrews 4:15). The word "sympathizes" comes from two Greek words, smy andpathos, meaning, "suffer with." We are not alone in our suffering and there are glory moments to be found in the dark if we will keep our eyes open to see.
God did not write the story of your life and then sit back to watch it play out. He is in the story with you. As a matter of fact, He has the leading role. Oh, we try to butt in and take the spotlight. We try to push Him out of the way and take over the lead. But when we get to heaven and look at the playbill, we will see that God had the leading role all along, and our names were there in supporting roles as a display of His glory.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so thankful that I have a High Priest, Jesus, who sees me, who prays for me, and who understands exactly what I'm going through. Help me to rest in the assurance that I am not alone, but in Your capable hands.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of Hagar in Genesis 16.
What did she call God after He appeared to her and encouraged her?
How does it make you feel to know that God sees you? Chime in on my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com of this devotion and let me know.
I'll go first: It makes me feel known.
More from the Girlfriends
If this devotion touched your heart, chances are you've got some hurt in your life. So let's don't waste our sorrows! What are you doing with the hurt? Using it for good? Picking at the scab and not letting it heal? Tough questions. If you're ready to heal and use what you've gone through for good, then see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.It's time to turn that pain into purpose!
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January 15, 2013
Doubt Your Doubts
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see (Hebrews 11:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Billy Graham once said, "Most of us do not understand nuclear fission, but we accept it. I don't understand television, but I accept it. I don't understand radio, but every week my voice goes out around the world, and I accept it. Why is it so easy to accept all these man-made miracles and so difficult to accept the miracles of the Bible?"
Faith is a personal issue and often demands that we give up what we can see for what we cannot see, but just because we can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there. Let me share some ways to weaken your doubts and strengthen your faith:
Read the Bible consistently.
Romans 10:17 "Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God."
You may have heard the familiar Old Chinese saying, "There is a good dog and a bad dog fighting within each of us. The one that is going to win is the one we feed the most." The same is true when it comes to faith and doubt. We weaken our doubt by strengthening our faith in God. The Word of God feeds the new nature God gives us when we surrender our life to Him. As that new nature grows stronger, the old sinful nature becomes weaker and as that old nature becomes weaker, faith in God grows. A steady diet of the Word produces strong faith. Read the Bible each day. Memorize a verse of Scripture each week.
Turn to God constantly.
Mark 9:14-29 tells of the man who brings his demon-possessed son to Jesus Christ and pleads, "If you can do anything, take pit on us and help us." Jesus responds, "If I can! All things are possible to him who believes." The dad exclaimed, "Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief!"
Sounds just like us. We believe, but we also doubt. In those moments, we must be honest enough to cry out to God. Jesus didn't punish this man for his doubt. He healed his son. God always responds to honesty.
Focus on God continually.
Psalm 34:6 "This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles."
We focus on the mountain while crying out to God for help, wondering if He really will do anything. We need to remember what God promises and does not promise. God does not promise to remove the mountain or that we will even understand the mountain. However, God does promise to help us climb the mountain and He does promise to climb it with us. We must make the continual choice to fix our gaze on God and our glance on the circumstances. When doubt comes, reject it.
Seek out faith-builders persistently.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 "And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
We need to look for people who will encourage us to be faithful instead of constantly looking for ways to undermine our faith.
Did you hear about the farmer who had a brilliant dog? He also had a neighbor who was negative - no matter what. If it was raining, the farmer would say to his neighbor, "Boy, look at it rain. God's washing everything clean." The neighbor said, "Yeah, but if this rain keeps up, it's going to flood." Then the sun would come out and the neighbor would say, "If it keeps that up, it's going to burn the crops." The farmer thought, "What am I going to do with this guy?" He made a plan. The farmer trained his dog to walk on water. He didn't tell his neighbor - just took him duck hunting. Boom! Boom! They got two ducks. The farmer said to his dog, "Go get 'em." The dog sprinted across the water, picked up the ducks and hopped back in the boat, nothing wet, just his paws. With a confident smile, the farmer asked his doubting neighbor, "What do you think of that?" The neighbor quickly replied, "He can't swim, can he?"
Do you know people like the neighbor? Run from the doubters in your life. We struggle enough with doubt on our own and should not compound it by investing valuable time in doubters and cynics. Look for people who walk in faith, who believe God and study His Word. They will encourage and build your faith while weakening your doubts.
Women have so much in common. We have the same problems, the same fears and the same doubts. Don't let fear and doubt wreak havoc in your heart and mind. Read and saturate your life with God's Word. Don't be afraid or ashamed to cry out to Him when you are afraid. Keep your eyes on Him and look for other women who do the same. Will you join me in a new commitment to becoming a woman of faith? Remember, when doubt knocks on the door, just send faith to answer it - and you will find no one there.
Let's Pray
Father God, I want to become a woman of faith, but I am so weak. I constantly battle fear and my faith seems so small. Please give me a new thirst for Your Word. I choose to focus on You, Father, instead of focusing on my circumstances. Help me find faith and learn to be a faith-builder each day. I now turn to You, Lord.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your top five fears.
Choose one verse from today's devotion for each fear.
When that fear comes, cry out to God and pray that verse of Scripture aloud.
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal.
Share your decision to be a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire. Hold each other accountable and encourage each other to walk by faith.
More from the Girlfriends
What a journey we are on - a journey to the heart of God! Let's make that journey together, friend. We are here to encourage you and to help strengthen your faith. We are your sisters, your girlfriends in God and we would love to hear from you.
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear and discover the peace of God – even in your most chaotic moments.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journeyand explore the book of Proverbs in Mary's first study of 2013, Power Up With Proverbs. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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January 16, 2013
Ingratitude is Contagious...Don't Be a Carrier
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When the Lord heard your complaining, he became very angry. So he solemnly swore, 'Not one of you from this wicked generation will live to see the good land I swore to give your ancestors, except Caleb son of Jephunneh. He will see this land because he has followed the Lord completely. I will give to him and his descendants some of the very land he explored during his scouting mission.'(Deuteronomy 1:35-36 New Living Translation)
Friend to Friend
Ingratitude laced with grumbling, complaining, and murmuring is an easy trap to fall into. And it is so contagious. Someone grumbles and the next thing you know, you fall right in line and start grumbling too. I wonder if that's what happened in the wilderness as the Israelites made one more trek around Mount Sinai. "I'm sick of this manna," one complained. Then another looked at God's sweet provision and said, "Come to think of it, I'm sick of it too." The next thing you know the sea of ingrates becomes a tidal wave of grumblers and God sends them on another lap around the wilderness and places a "Do Not Enter" sign in front of the Promised Land.
When you think about it, ingratitude is a casual despising of God's sovereignty. It's like saying we don't like how He is running things and think we could do it better.
Gratitude and giving thanks in all things opens our eyes to see God's glory in even the smallest things. On the other hand, ingratitude blinds our eyes to God's presence, and we miss His advances all around. It's a choice, not an emotion. However, this choice to give thanks may very well open the way for positive emotions such as joy to emerge and take hold. Paul wrote: "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again (because you probably didn't get it the first time): Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4, parentheses mine).
There is nobody more miserable than an ungrateful person. Margaret and I were chatting about gratitude when she mentioned how she tries to steer clear of those who grumble and complain because their ingratitude is so contagious. "I hate calling my sister," she mused. "I mean, I love her. But talking to her is such a joy drain."
"What do you mean?" I asked.
"All she does is complain. Something is always wrong with her house. She always has a new ailment. She gives me the latest obituary report and tells me who is sick with what. A couple of times I tried to cheer her up. You know, help her see the positive side of things. 'At least you have a house. Think of all those people who lost their homes in the hurricane.' But it only made her mad. She said I was not being sympathetic and that I made little of her problems. So now I just listen."
Another friend told me of sitting with his father discussing the distribution of his "worldly goods," when the time came to do so. "My dad had very little joy in his life," Mike explained. "As we discussed who was going to get what when he died, I saw a pride in him I had never noticed before. 'I did all this,' he said as he waved his hand around the room like Vanna White. 'I worked hard and earned it all.' In his mind, he had earned it; he had done it all. Never once did he give thanks to God for all his blessings or acknowledge God's goodness. He showed no gratitude, no thanksgiving, and certainly no joy".
His things had become shiny shackles that kept joy at bay all his life. His things. How sad.
As Mike told me the story, I thought of Henry Ward Beecher's words: "Pride slays thanksgiving...a proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves." Eyes shut tight to God's glory.
I am reminded of an old saying that stirs and stings: "Gratitude turns what we have into enough." Always enough. Jesus thanked God for the two loaves and five fish... and there was more than enough to go around (John 6:1-13).
Today, make a commitment to turn you grumbling to grateful, your complaining into contentment, and your whining (did I just say that...yes I did) into praising God!
Let's Pray
[Sometimes I open my Bible and simply pray the Psalms. Join me today!]
Praise the Lord, O my soul. I will praise the Lord all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live, (Psalm 146:1). Praise the Lord. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him! (Psalm 147:1). Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens. Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness. (Psalm 150:1-2). Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. (Psalm 136:1).
In Jesus' Name I praise You!
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel far from God today? If so, maybe you're knocking on the wrong door. What does Psalm 100:4 tell us about how we are to enter God's presence?
If complaining were a color, what color would it be?
If being grateful, thankful and appreciative were a color, what color would it be?
Now, what color do you want to be today?
More from the Girlfriends
If you would like 2013 to be the year that you change your grumbling into grateful...that you get a handle on that little muscle with a big impact...your tongue, then check out my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.It also has a Bible Study Guide and a DVD that is perfect for group studies or simply to dig deeper into God's Word on your own.
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January 17, 2013
Just Ask
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us (1 John 3:21-23, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Christmas morning is serious business at the Southerland home and is steeped in tradition that is not to be tampered with. We open stockings first. Then comes breakfast - during which the Christmas story is read - followed by the grand finale of opening the gifts under the Christmas tree. I could hardly wait for our eighteen-month-old grandson to open the presents we had so carefully chosen, purchased and wrapped for him. Justus quickly got the hang of opening gifts as he happily ripped off the brightly colored paper covering his new fire truck. And then it happened. Justus immediately sat down and began to play with the truck – which is the whole point - right? No! There were more gifts for him under the tree. In fact, the fire truck was the smallest and least expensive toy we had purchased. It didn't matter. Justus was happy with one gift. He had no idea what was waiting for him under that tree. In fact, he did not even open all of his gifts on Christmas morning. His very wise mother said, "Let's save a couple of gifts for him to open later this week." What? Was she kidding me? Nope! Those unopened boxes sat under the tree for days. It just about drove me crazy! I knew what was in each box. I also knew Justus was going to love each gift. But he is just a baby. He didn't realize that all he had to do was ask and those gifts would be opened in a flash.
One morning, as I walked by the Christmas tree and saw the unopened gifts, the Father whispered, "Mary, you know I want to bless you. Why won't you ask?" My thoughts immediately went to a story I often tell when I speak at conferences.
A man died and went to heaven and was met at the pearly gates by Saint Peter who offered to show him the home God had prepared for him. The man's excitement grew as he and Saint Peter passed a street lined with beautiful mansions – but they did not stop. The man was still enthusiastic as he and Saint Peter walked by a street lined with smaller but still lovely houses, but they did not stop. The man began to wonder just what kind of home was waiting for him when Saint Peter finally stopped in front of an attractive but tiny house. "This is your home," Peter explained. Even though it was not a spectacular mansion or magnificent house, the man was thrilled. After all, the little house was in Heaven.
The man's excitement faded as he opened the front door of his heavenly home. Instead of beautifully furnished rooms, he saw stacks of unopened boxes. In fact, every room was filled with boxes stacked from the ceiling to the floor. When the man asked Saint Peter what was inside the boxes, Peter smiled sadly and said, "These are the gifts and blessings God had for you on earth." The now very confused man responded, "Why didn't He send them to me?" Saint Peter smiled sadly and said, "Because you never asked."
I want every blessing God has for me. I know you feel the same way. God is not a heavenly vending machine that dispenses blessings simply because we want them. Every promise of God is accompanied by at least one condition we must meet in order to experience the blessing of God. That condition is always rooted in obedience to Him.
1 John 3:21-23 "Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us" (NIV).
When we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and seek to obey His commands, we can come before God in confidence, knowing that He wants to pour out His blessings on our life. He is waiting. We just need to ask.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for loving me. Please help me walk in obedience to Your commands and live my life in a way that pleases You. I really do want to be a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ. Right now, I surrender all that I am to You and ask for Your blessings in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 51:10. How is a clean heart related to the blessings of God?
Focus on the blessings God has already given you and praise Him for each one.
Read Proverbs 21:2. "A person may think their own ways are right, but the LORD weighs the heart."How does this verse apply to the blessings of God in your life?
More from the Girlfriends
One of my problems with asking God to bless my life is that I don't think I deserve His blessings. I really don't ... and neither do you. God's blessings are not based on who we are or what we deserve. I am so glad! God's blessings are unmerited gifts that are backed by the honor of His name. God loves you and wants to bless your life. Just ask.
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression,offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and begins January 14.
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January 18, 2013
The Broken Way
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Moses answered the people, 'Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today ... the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
While at a football game of my son Preston's, I had a moving conversation with another team mom. It was the first time we'd ever dialogued beyond socially expected niceties. Between cheers that went up to our football-playing boys, she stumbled upon the fact that I was a Jesus-loving girl and was excited to share about how God has intimately drawn her heart to his over the past five years. How He met her where she was, ministered to her through the hands of others. How He sparked life into her soul through His Son Jesus Christ. She was radiant and she spoke with excitement, joy in every sentence, praise on her tongue for the God who gives her strength and life. This dear lady opened her heart and told me of her grueling battle with an aggressive form of breast cancer.
She was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 35 – as a wife and mother to three small children. Initially, she was angry with God for allowing a disease to ravage her body, furious that her husband and children might have to live without her. Though she fought to understand the "why" of it all, she confidently testifies that God used the pain-filled journey on the broken road of cancer to lead her to saving Grace. She is now grateful for the broken way that God breathed new life into her soul as she battled death in her body. As she spoke, the troubles of my life faded to a humble corner of my heart. Her words reminded me that God really can and should be glorified through each hard place we find ourselves in. I was freshly reminded to trust God.
Life is filled with challenges. The struggles we endure often leave our hearts breaking and our minds aching for reprieve. I've not battled cancer, but I have experienced my fair share of times when I've been crushed by circumstances that are beyond my control ... just like her. As a wife, mother, daughter, and friend, I've learned that hard times are inevitable and that they hurt.
Toward the end of our conversation about her cancer and faith, my new friend confided that fear still tries to invade her days. She said that she constantly has to choose faith and to trust God instead of dwelling on the possibilities of another future diagnosis. Every one of us doubts at times. We all fail to trust. But Scripture assures us that even when we are faithless, God remains faithful. As we walk broken paths that challenge our faith, the truth remains that God does deliver in and through the pain. Though there are struggles that we might take to the grave with us, God is still good. Each hard place is an opportunity for Jesus to show His power in and through our lives.
When we find ourselves on the broken way, we often feel like we are wandering in the wilderness. In Exodus 13:17-14:31, we see a dreary desert drama of the Israelites. Stop here to read the full account now if you can.
When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter. For God said, "If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt." So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea (Exodus 13:17-18a, NIV).
As God moved through the leadership of Moses to bring His people from captivity to freedom, from poverty to inheritance, the Israelites were not led the easy way. They didn't get to take the "paved" road – even though it was shorter. They had to walk through the desert. God led them the harder way because He knew it was best for them in the long run. Sometimes we are led the harder way too. The broken way. Even though our minds conceive an easier solution, He knows what is unknown to us, He sees what is unseen to us, and His ways are trustworthy and best.
By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night. Neither the pillar of cloud by day nor the pillar of fire by night left its place in front of the people." (Exodus 17:21-22, NIV)
"Then the angel of God, who had been traveling in front of Israel's army, withdrew and went behind them. The pillar of cloud also moved from in front and stood behind them, coming between the armies of Egypt and Israel. Throughout the night the cloud brought darkness to the one side and light to the other side; so neither went near the other all night long.
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left (Exodus 14:19-22, NIV).
God has given us his Holy Spirit to lead us by day and by night, to be our Strength, our Power, and our Direction in the deserts of life. Just as God made a way for the Israelites when they called on Him as they faced a seemingly impossible Red Sea situation, He will make a way for you. Call on His name. Trust His plan. Reach for His hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive me for the times when I try to navigate the broken path of life on my own. When my heart is heavy with burdens, please give me Your strength and remind my soul to trust You. I need Your guidance and power today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel like God has led you through the desert?
Do you trust that He can and will make a way for your broken paths to be made straight when you call on Him?
Grab a journal (if you're a journal girl). Spend a few moments contemplating the circumstances of your harder way. Then lift your eyes from your situation to your Savior. Call on God, and say to your soul: Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today...the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still (Exodus 14:13-14, NIV).
More from the Girlfriends
I've seen it in my own life. God delights to deliver us from our hard places in and through the pain. Hang in there, friend. He knows each tear you've cried and He has never left your side. In the words of a beloved hymn by Helen Lemmel, "Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace."
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book!
WALKING ON THE BROKEN WAY? Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazon, your favorite Christian bookstore, or for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website.
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January 21, 2013
The Danger of Ingratitude
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise (Psalm 100:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise," (Psalm 100:4). Right in the center of my Bible, I find an invitation into God's presence. And while there is nowhere we can go away from God's presence, we can certainly feel distant from Him.
In Genesis chapter 2, we read of Adam and Eve's original sin of disobedience to God's one command not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. But have you ever wondered what whet their appetite for wanting something more than constant communion and union with God? Have you ever considered what stirred the desire for more and made them vulnerable to the serpent's attack? I think it was ingratitude. They were not thankful for all that God had provided. They were not satisfied with the glory life. So when Satan slithered into the Garden and introduced the idea that God was holding out on them, they were ripe for the picking.
"When you eat of it your eyes will be opened," the serpent hissed (Genesis 3:5). But in the beginning, Eve's eyes already were open. Eve saw God in all His goodness, spilling out gifts at every turn. She saw nothing but the glory of God unspoiled. Eve was lured away by the lie that there was something better, something more. "When you eat of it your eyes will be opened"...and they were. Eve's eyes beheld the ugliness of sin and shame that she had never seen before.
We are in the same danger of believing Satan's lie of "you would be happy if..." when we are not grateful to God who "richly blesses all who call on him" (Romans 10:12). We are vulnerable to temptation when we neglect to thank God who "richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment" (1 Timothy 6:17). As we live and move and have our being in Jesus, if the song of gratitude is not playing on our lips, we will be in the same danger of listening to the enemy's lies and thinking our glory ache could be satisfied by something other than God Himself. Gratitude keeps us grounded in the truth and alert to the lies.
Ingratitude is the infection of Eden that closes eyes shut tight to glory moments to experience God and leaves us groping about in the dark for that which will never satisfy the longings of the soul. The cure comes in capsules of praise, thanksgiving, and a grateful heart. Gratitude is the antibiotic of the soul to cure a variety of the world's ills. It cuts the bark of our hard hearts and nourishes the very spot where we are grafted into Jesus Christ Himself, and restores a sense of closeness and intimacy with God.
Today, practice praise. Think of thanks. Go with a grateful heart.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I thank You for all the ways You have blessed my life. For eyes to see, ears to hear and hands to work. I thank You for a home to live in, a free country to worship in and a beautiful world to enjoy. Thank You for giving Your son, Jesus, to save me from my sin so that I can have eternal life when I leave this temporary home on earth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
This will be fun...well, maybe not so much fun...but enlightening.
Put a rubber band on your wrist and wear it like a bracelet. Every time you complain, grumble, or simply talk negatively about anything and anyone, pop the rubber band. That's right, pull it out and let it pop your wrist.
If you really want to see how much you grumble, get a girlfriend or family member to do it with you. Agree to tell each other, "Girlfriend, you need to pop that wrist." Sometimes we all need a little help from our friends. J
If you'll agree to do this, leave a comment on my blog page that says, "I wore a rubber band today." I'd love to actually see the rubber band on your wrist. Take a picture and send it to me! I'll try to figure out how to post it.
More from the Girlfriends
Seeing God through the lens of gratitude and grace is one of the themes of my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It's a great book to help you experience God's presence on a daily basis. But if you have trouble with grumbling, complaining, and controlling your tongue, I'd suggest delving into my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.What a great New Year's Resolution: CONTROL MY TONGUE! You can find them both on my website at www.sharonjaynes.com
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January 22, 2013
Think Right ... Live Right
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected (Philippians 4:8, NCV).
Friend to Friend
I was absolutely pathetic as I moaned and groaned my way up the stairs. My back was killing me! I had just spent four long hours taking down Christmas decorations, packing them in boxes, hauling each box down three flights of stairs to the basement and hoisting every one of those heavy, packed-to-the-brim boxes up on shelves that are taller than I am. Do you get the painful picture?
I was working up a stellar case of self-pity when my husband came home from work and asked what I had been doing all day. "I did two loads of laundry, wrote two devotions, took care of Justus (our grandson), answered email and then it took me four hours to take down all of the Christmas decorations," I declared in my best "poor me" voice. Dan did not seem impressed. "It really took you that long? I didn't think you had that many decorations out this year. Why didn't you wait until I got home so I could help you? " he asked. I didn't want to wait. I was not happy ... and more than a little upset with him for not being more sympathetic. But my sweet husband was not done.
"Your problem is not in your back, honey. Your problem is in your mind," he patiently explained. I could see the conversation going down the tube fast but managed to muster up just enough self-control that kept me from saying what I really wanted to say. Instead, I sweetly asked, "What do you mean?"
Sidebar: Several months ago, I was in a car wreck that caused some fierce muscle spasms in my back and resulted in several visits to the chiropractor. Two months ago I had a stomach virus that lasted a week followed by the Thanksgiving holidays during which we had our kids and grandkids for a week ... which was incredibly wonderful and deliciously chaotic. The day they left, I went to the doctor with a respiratory infection that turned into bronchitis that soon blossomed into walking pneumonia from which I am still recovering. Do you feel my pain?
"Honey, you have been so sick – not to mention being rear-ended by a car going 70 miles an hour. Why did you feel like you had to decorate the entire house in the first place?" Dan asked. I know. I could not believe it either! "It was Christmas!" I sputtered in frustration. And then I saw it. The problem really is in my mind. I had allowed wrong thinking to dictate wrong priorities.
The mind is a great battlefield. The Bible tells us that we have the mind of Christ because we have a personal relationship with Him, but we still have to allow or choose to "let" the mind of Christ be in control. Every day we are at war for the control of the mind. Who wins that war is up to us and the choices that we make.
Proverbs 23:7 tells us, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is" (NASB). In other words, what we think about powerfully influences who and what we will become. Our actions, our attitudes and habits are born in the mind, an offspring of the thought life we entertain.
We can literally change our life by changing how we think – but we cannot do it alone. God's standard and guideline for our thought life is very clear and demanding. In fact, it's completely impossible without God's power at work in our life.
"Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise; think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected" (Philippians 4:8, NCV).
We choose what we watch and read, the conversations we have and the time we spend in the Word. If the mind is not filled with good, trust me, the enemy will fill it with bad. The human mind will always set itself on something. Paul is challenging us to wisely choose that setting, taking charge of our thoughts by inviting the Holy Spirit to empower God's standard for the mind.
My husband often says, "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." Now stay with me. Impure and wrong thoughts will come but we do not have to entertain them and invite them to "come on in and stay awhile." When we choose to surrender the control of our mind to God, He will honor that choice and give us the strength and power to think right. And when we think right – we will live right.
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess to You that I often struggle with the way I think. I desperately need Your help. Please make me aware of the influences that draw my mind away from You and show me how to avoid each one. Teach me how to fix my thoughts on You and give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word. Today, I surrender the control of my mind to You, Father.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The mind is the control center of your life. How have your thoughts affected your decisions or actions this week? I challenge you to fill your mind with God's Word and watch God work in your life. Read the following questions and record your answers in your journal.
What specific steps do I need to take in order to put more of God's word into my mind?
To honor God with my thought life, what changes do I need to make in the following areas?
Movies ___________________________________________
Television_________________________________________
Music ____________________________________________
Books____________________________________________
Magazines ________________________________________
Internet___________________________________________
Conversations______________________________________
More from the Girlfriends
Start the New Year right! A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and begins January 14.
Need help dealing with depression?Get Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, and learn how to find freedom from the darkness. You can also connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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January 23, 2013
Go From Grumbling to Gratitude in the Blink of an Eye
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Do everything without grumbling and arguing, (Philippians 2:14 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Gratitude can change your perspective on the simplest of mundane tasks and transform them into moments of sudden glory where you experience God's presence in an intimate way. One day I was mopping the kitchen floor and my mood was anything but grateful. I grumbled with each push of the mop. Complained with each dip in the bucket. Here I am mopping this floor again and no one even appreciates it. I feel like this housework is never finished. Clean today. Dirty tomorrow. Why do I even bother?
Then right in the middle of the kitchen, God showed up. Actually, He was there all along, but my grumbling blinded the eyes of my heart to recognize His presence. New thoughts began to emerge as I pushed the mop across the linoleum floor. I believe God put them there.
Suppose you were blind and you couldn't see the beautiful patterns on the linoleum floor or the spilled juice by the refrigerator door. Suppose you were deaf and you couldn't hear the soothing sound of the soap bubbles dissolving in the bucket or the rhythmic sound of the mop being pushed back and forth across the floor's hard surface. Suppose you were in a wheel chair and you weren't strong enough to stand upright and grasp the wooden handle in your nimble hands to erase the muddy footprints and make the floor shiny and clean again. Suppose you didn't have a home or a family to clean up after.
Suddenly, my grumbling turned into a song of praise and gratitude. "Thank You, Lord, for the privilege of mopping this dirty floor. Thank You for the health and strength to hold this mop in my strong hands and to wrap my agile fingers around its handle. Thank You for the sight to see the crumbs, the dirt, and the spilled juice. Thank You for the sense of smell to enjoy the clean, fresh scent of the soap in my bucket. Thank You for the many precious feet that will walk through this room and dirty it all up again. And Lord, thank You for the privilege of having a floor to mop and a family to clean up after.
A sudden glory.
Let's Pray
Lord, I thank You for dirty clothes, muddy shoes, messy rooms, a dusty house, tired legs, aching knees, and taxes. I thank You that I have clothes, shoes, a room to make a mess in, a house to get dirty, legs that work, knees that bend and a free country in which I can pay taxes.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Check out the Amplified Bible's translation of Philippians 2:14: "Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining [against God] and questioning and doubting [among yourselves]...
Why do you think the Amplified included [against God]?
What did Moses say to the Israelites about who they were grumbling against? Exodus 16:8
If you are a Pinterest pinner, check out my pin on my Facebook page today. Consider printing it out and making a warning sign for your home!
More from the Girlfriends
Seeing God through the lens of gratitude and grace is one of the themes of my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It's a great book to help you experience God's presence on a daily basis. But if you have trouble with grumbling, complaining, and controlling your tongue, I'd suggest delving into my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.What a great New Year's Resolution: CONTROL MY TONGUE! You can find them both on my website at www.sharonjaynes.com
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January 24, 2013
What is Normal?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do not be surprised at the painful things you are now suffering. These things are testing your faith (1 Peter 4:12-13, ICB).
Friend to Friend
I pray that your New Year is off to a great start. The holidays are wonderful but I am always ready for them to be over so life can get back to normal. Hmmm...that word "normal" can definitely mean different things to different people. I have to admit that "normal" is not a word people commonly use to describe my life or me. I have heard more than one person say, "Mary, you are not a normal pastor's wife!" I smile and thank them for the compliment. Ignorance can definitely be bliss. Several of my closest friends are convinced that I could make millions by doing my own television reality show. "Nobody could make this stuff up!" they proclaim.
Author and speaker, Patsy Clairmont says that "normal" is just a setting on the dryer. I am inclined to agree with her. At birth, the world silently hands us a list of do's and don'ts that we must follow in order to "fit in" and qualify as "normal." I believe God's definition of normal is quite different from the one offered by the world.
As I look back over the lives of those who made the biggest difference in the early Kingdom days, they were anything but normal. A bag of mixed nuts is more like it – quirky men and broken women from all walks of life who were radical in their devotion to God - to the point of placing their lives on the line every day for the cause of Christ. They were normal in that they celebrated their "sameness" with the pagans who were shunned by religious zealots but stubbornly loved by the Father. Yet, they were profoundly abnormal in the love they showed and the depth of their commitment to God and to His cause.
As I was putting the Christmas decorations away for another year, I ended up in the study where we have a collection of gifts and souvenirs from the various countries where Dan and I have visited on mission trips. Each one brought back memories of precious people we met – people who are persecuted each day because of their faith in Jesus Christ. As far as material possessions are concerned, these saints have very little, but when it comes to joy, contentment and peace ... they are filthy rich! These men and women have chosen to follow Christ in a radical obedience that may very well cost them their lives one day. Is that normal? It should be.
When an ordinary woman meets an extraordinary God, normal life takes on a whole new meaning. Knowing God changes everything. We cannot encounter the living God and be the same. A personal relationship with Him produces a holy discontent with the status quo and compels us to live in such a way that miracles are a daily occurrence.
Miracles come in all shapes and sizes. A woman chooses not to have an abortion. A pastor in Peru lives another day even though his name is first on a list of Christian pastors to be executed. An alcoholic makes it through one more day without a drink. An underground church in Cuba meets to worship God. A husband who has been unemployed for over a year gets a job. Bibles are smuggled into Mexico and distributed to remote mountain tribes. A couple seeks counseling instead of a divorce. Cancer goes into remission. The sun rises and sets. We have food to eat and water to drink. A life is changed in response to what God has done in ours.
People are desperately looking for ordinary women like you and me whose lives have been changed by an extraordinary God – the One who is calling us to be "God with skin on" to those who don't even believe He exists. I want to love every excuse and doubt right out of their minds. I want them to see a power in me that they cannot explain in human terms and a message that shouts of God's mercy and forgiveness. I want to be hungry and thirsty for God as never before. I want my normal life to be abnormally extraordinary because God is alive and well and at work in and around me.
How about you? Are you ready to step out in faith? Are you willing to live a normal life filled with people and circumstances that can only be explained by the extraordinary power and presence of God? Let's do it, girlfriend!
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of playing it safe, of bowing to the wrong crowd and listening to the wrong voices. I lay down my pride and surrender to You and Your plan for my life in this New Year. Stretch my faith. Give me Your eyes to see those in need. Fill me with Your power and strength so that others will be drawn to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In what way have you played it safe when it comes to your faith in God?
Are you willing to be a radical follower of Jesus Christ – no matter the cost?
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. How do these verses apply to an abnormal walk with God?
What first step do you need to take in order to walk by faith - not by sight?
More from the Girlfriends
The first time my husband, Dan and I visited Cuba, my eyes were opened to a whole new level of faith I had never seen or experienced. I watched believers live under the scrutiny of a godless government. Pastors and their families lived in poverty because they chose to worship God alone. Yet, there was no fear – only faith. They celebrated what they had instead of complaining about what they didn't have. We were humbled to be in their presence and challenged to live as they lived – in radical obedience to God. That same challenge is before us all today. Are you ready?
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out my weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and begins January 14.
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January 25, 2013
Waiting and Hoping
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior,and my hope is in you all day long (Psalm 25:5, NIV)
Friend to Friend
My girlfriend is caught between faith and a hard place. Even as a committed Christ-follower she struggles to believe God's promises and feels helpless. She prays, but wonders if God hears her. She looks for a light at the end of the trial-tunnel, yet sees nothing but shadows.
I think we've all been there at one time or another. I sure have. Are you, or is someone you love, there now? Without a doubt, God's ways and timing are mysterious, at times even frustrating. And the things He allows into our lives can be painful. Our hurting hearts cry out, Are You even up there? Can You hear me? Do You care? Even in our darkest days, we know that God is still good, but waiting on Him can be such a difficult spiritual discipline.
The Bible features beautiful pictures of God's faithfulness to those who wait on Him. For example, the snapshots of God's might as displayed in the life of Elijah are simply fascinating. (Got a moment? Pause to read chapters 17 and 18 of 1 Kings now.) Elijah was the most dramatic and famous of all Israel's prophets. God worked through him powerfully and miraculously, but Elijah sure did go through some serious seasons of waiting and wondering—just like my girlfriend. Just like each of us.
For years, Ahab (king of Israel) and his wife, Jezebel, had done evil in the eyes of the Lord. They worshiped Baal, an idol, instead of the one true God, which provoked the Lord to anger. God. Was. Mad! So He summoned Elijah to the scene. Elijah told Ahab, "As the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, whom I serve, there will be neither dew nor rain in the next few years except at my word" (1 Kings 17:1). As you can imagine, Ahab wasn't happy about the situation, and in his fury, he wanted Elijah dead. Yikes! But God had other plans. He spoke hope to Elijah's heart as He directed, protected, and provided for him throughout the time of the drought.
Oh, yeah. Did I mention that the drought was three years long?
Three years.
This was not a simple and short situation, y'all.
In the third year, the Lord sent Elijah back to king Ahab, and a showdown of showdowns began on Mount Carmel. A celestial boxing match took place, with Baal and his false prophets in one corner, God and Elijah in the other. The bell rang and the battle began. The prophets of Baal took the first swing. They made a sacrifice to their god and cried out to him for hours, begging him to consume their offering with fire. Baal was silent and unresponsive, because he was not real. Duh.
Elijah knew he served a powerful, living, and responsive God, so he advanced to the center of the ring and took his swings with confidence. He repaired the altar of God, prepared the sacrifice, and then prayed for God to reveal His power. God flexed His divine muscles and answered Elijah's prayers instantly with an all-consuming fire. Knock out!
After the showdown was over, God told Elijah to deliver a new message to King Ahab. "And Elijah said to Ahab, 'Go, eat and drink, for there is the sound of a heavy rain'" (1 Kings 18:41). So Ahab went to eat, and Elijah went up to the top of Mount Carmel to look for evidence of God's rain-miracle.
"Go and look toward the sea," he told his servant. And he went up and looked.
"There is nothing there," he said.
Seven times Elijah said, "Go back."
The seventh time the servant reported, "A cloud as small as a man's hand is rising from the sea." (1 Kings 18:43-44)
What struck me as I studied this passage is that Elijah did not get his miracle right away this time. He had to wait and hope on the Lord. Could God have opened up the sky and poured out a storm immediately? You bet. Did He? No. Elijah had to wait. His servant had to look for the miracle...and look...and look...and look..
Seven times.
No disrespect to Elijah, but doesn't that perk your heart up?
Even God's superstar prophet had to wait on God's timing.
You and I are not the only ones who have to wait and hope, friend! God's will is God's will. It bends for no man. Yet ours can bend to His. When we submit to His perfect plan, we will find the hope we are looking for, even in the waiting—or perhaps especially in the waiting. "Meanwhile, the sky grew black with clouds, the wind rose, a heavy rain came on..." (1 Kings 18:45a)
God moved. Once again, He was faithful. His character requires it.
Now consider this: God used Elijah in really big ways. Elijah spoke on God's behalf, was God's front-line man in raising a dead child back to life in order to bless a widowed mother, and he was the lead character in a miraculous God-show that brought fire from heaven, consuming an offering and connecting the hearts of wandering people back to the heart of God. We're talking big God-stuff! Yet even Elijah experienced difficult situations and was forced to wait on God.
Looking back, I now realize that God has strengthened my hope muscles most in the seasons when I've had to wait on Him. God is the hope of all who trust Him, all who belong to Him.
Do you hope in Him? If you sometimes struggle to nurture hope, you are in good company. In his hard time, the author of Psalm 42 had to remind himself where to place his hope. He had to choose to praise.
Why are you downcast, O my soul?
Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
for I will yet praise him,
my Savior and my God.(Psalm 42:5)
Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that God is our hope. Like the psalmist, we might need to throw down some stubborn and choose to praise. I don't like waiting. I imagine you don't either. I take solace that Jesus gives us hope in the midst of it: "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33b). His promises bring hope.
So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God's inner sanctuary. Jesus has already gone in there for us. He has become our eternal High Priest in the order of Melchizedek.(Hebrews 6:18-20, NLT)
Jesus is our Hope.
When discouragement sets in and you feel unheard, when you are forced to wait on God, when you find yourself caught between faith and a hard place, when there is nothing there—no evidence of God's miracle on the horizon—remember that God is faithful, powerful, and responsive. He has seen you through trials in the past, and He will see you through trials in the future. Even in the challenges you face now, you are seen, you are heard. Choose today to trust the God of your Hope.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace, as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.(Romans 15:13)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, my Hope, I worship You, the One, true God! You are mighty and powerful, full of never-ending compassion and love. Please help me to see You when I face trials and to trust Your heart when circumstances discourage me. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Girlfriend – God placed a burden on my heart to encourage you today. I know this was very personal and timely for some of you. Did you connect with this message? Swing by my Facebook pageand declare it publicly. Leave this comment, "God is my Hope."
Write this verse out: "Look to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always." (Psalm 105:4) Keep it handy. Read it out loud. Memorize it.
More from the Girlfriends
If this devotion resonated with you and if you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, don't miss Gwen's book Broken into Beautiful. Every step of transformation begins with the heart of God. Broken into Beautiful will take you there. To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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January 28, 2013
Practicing Gratitude
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
God inhabits the praises of His people(Psalm 22:3 KJV).
Friend to Friend
Gratitude is the most effective way to deepen your consciousness to the fact that you are the object of God's affection and love. Giving thanks awakens your senses to see God, to hear God, to taste and see that He is good. When you feel far from God, praise will bring you back. When you have strayed from acknowledging God's presence, when you have forgotten in him we live and move and have our being, praise and gratitude will be the ramp to get you back on the right road.
I shudder at the words of Romans chapter one. "They neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened," (Romans 1:21). They did not glorify Him. They did not give thanks to Him. "Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts..." (Romans 1:24). The light of their eyes went dark.
Praise keeps you alert to the glimpses of glory all around. The more you glorify God with praise and thanksgiving, the more your eyes will be opened to the deep well of His love that is but a bowshot away (Genesis 21:19). God inhabits the praises of His people (Psalm 22:3 KJV). He feels right at home in a heart that praises Him. He enjoys being there!
I believe gratitude grows with practice. When you thank God, regardless of your feelings, it primes the pump of your heart until gratitude begins to flow freely.
If this is a language you have not spoken often, you can become fluent...with practice. Paul wrote, "I have learned how to get along happily whether I have much or little. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything" (Philippians 4:11-12 NLT, emphasis mine). "I have learned."
As with any foreign language we attempt to learn, the more we use it, the more fluent we become. Is it too strong to say that the language of gratitude is a "foreign" tongue? I don't think so. We come into the world screaming with our very first breath, "It's all about me and my needs!" With tightly closed fists and squeezed shut eyes we demand attention. A newborn babe can think of nothing more than his wants and his needs: feed me, hold me, change me, nurse me...and do it right now! I would like to think we eventually grow out of that infantile attitude, but I'm sorry to say, many never do.
But we don't have to live like self-centered, self-absorbed ingrates. We can learn God's love language of gratitude that opens our eyes and unfurls the fingers. We can speak words of gratitude that remove the blinders to see glimpses of His glory every day. As we discover and practice the beautiful language of gratitude, our native tongue of self-focused dissatisfaction begins to fade.
And we practice. And we practice. And we practice.
I often ask my Spanish-speaking friends who are also fluent in English, "When you dream, do you dream in Spanish or in English?"
Most of the time they say Spanish. A few say both. But only the ones totally immersed in English, who have lived in the States for a long period of time, actually dream in their learned language rather than their native tongue.
Oh how I long for the tongue of gratitude to become the language of my dreams - my heart language. But that will not happen by putting my Bible under my pillow. It is a result of practice as I live and move and have my being in Him with a grateful heart.
Let's Pray
Lord, my desire is to be a grateful person in 2013. Please convict me when I am ungrateful. Help me to stop the grumbling and start the words of gratitude. Help me make gratitude my native tongue.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I'm grateful that you have taken the time to read these three devotions on gratitude this week. I'm grateful that you've allowed me to speak into your life.
Go back and review Today's Truth. Where does God live? Where does He feel at home?
Do you want to sense God's presence in your life and experience moments of sudden glory? Gratitude could very well be the ticket to get you there.
Now, let's practice some gratitude. Find three people today and tell them why you appreciate them or why you are thankful for them. It could be as simple as telling someone "thank you" for a small or large way they have helped you or encouraged you.
More from the Girlfriends
Seeing God through the lens of gratitude and grace is one of the themes of my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It's a great book to help you experience God's presence on a daily basis. But if you have trouble with grumbling, complaining, and controlling your tongue, I'd suggest delving into my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.What a great New Year's Resolution: CONTROL MY TONGUE! You can find them both on my website at www.sharonjaynes.com
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January 29, 2013
Created by God ... for God
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do (Ephesians 2:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My mother may not have had a degree in psychology, but she certainly could read me like a book. I often wondered if she was secretly going to night school or something because the older
I got, the smarter she got. For the life of me, I could not figure it out.
Oh, Mama was a clever one, hiding all of that steely wisdom and motherhood cunning beneath
her honest-to-goodness kind and gentle exterior. No doubt about it – my Mama was the first
velvet-covered brick in my life. She had to be where I was concerned.
I can be a little stubborn. Okay – I can be a lot stubborn – but I usually have what I consider to be stellar reasons to back up that stubbornness.
I do know stubbornness can be a good thing when it is attached to an important issue. However, my stubbornness was usually attached to nothing more than the issue of who was in control. And I like to be in control, a fact that was highly evident to everyone in my life during my high school and college years.
I wanted my way – period. When my mind was set on something, it would take a boatload of dynamite to loosen my grip on what I perceived to be the perfect plan – my plan. You can see how this attitude might set the stage for fireworks between mother and daughter. But Mama was not big on fireworks. She was, however, big on prayer and quietly watching and patiently waiting, desperately counting on God to help her deal with me.
Yes, my mother knew me all too well. When she saw me headed in the wrong direction, she wisely kept silent, lulling me into a false sense of security and the foolish belief that I had once again outsmarted her. At the same time, I am certain she was on her knees, crying out to God, waiting for just the right moment to say the words that often derailed whatever foolishness I was determined to carry out.
I believe wisdom is knowing what is right and then saying the right thing at the right time
for the right reason. By that definition, my mother was a very wise woman, especially when it
came to the boys and men I dated.
As a sophomore in college, I was in love and had my future planned. Yep! Every detail was covered. I had not really consulted God because I was certain He would agree with me. After all, it was a great plan that was practically handed to me on a silver platter. How could it possibly be the wrong plan?
We belonged to a small country church where my mother made sure we attended every single time the doors were open – and I do mean every single time. Bill Crews, a great man who truly loved God and our family, was our pastor. My mother was a widow raising three children, working the day shift as a nurse and often cleaning houses and babysitting on the side to earn extra money. Bill and his wife, Joanne, took a special interest in our family – and in me – and seemed to think God had created me for some kind of special work. I was clueless and certainly couldn't see it – but they did – and they always encouraged me to seek and serve God.
Good grief! I basically lived at the church. What more could I do? Like Mama, God knew how to handle me.
After graduating from high school, I was devastated to learn that the Crews were leaving. Pastor Bill explained that God was calling him to serve another church in the Pacific Northwest. I didn't really get, like or necessarily agree with that whole "God calling" deal, but my devastation was short-lived when the Crews offered me an opportunity that would ultimately change the direction of my life.
I could live with them and work as a summer missionary for the Pacific Northwest Mission Board. I had never even been outside the state of Texas where I was born and raised. We were as poor as dirt and were often thankful for enough gas to get Mama to work and my brother, sister and I to school. The prospect of travelling anywhere was both exciting and frightening. I also had the feeling that God was up to something. A red flag to my self-centered self! My mother thought it was a great idea. Another red flag to my control-freak self, but the whole thing sounded exciting - so off I went.
Because I sang and played the piano, I was assigned to a team of students who went from town-to-town, leading worship services at night and conducting vacation Bible schools and doing door-to-door witnessing during the day. It was a lot of hard work – but I loved it. And I especially loved getting to hang out with some really awesome guys, one of whom was beyond awesome. In my opinion, Robert (no, it is not his real name) was one tall, lean God machine. With coal-black hair, sparkling blue eyes, colossal dimples and a smile that melted your heart, Robert could preach the stars down. Every girl on the team had a crush on Robert and I was no exception. But I knew I needed to make some changes if I was going to have any kind of chance with Robert. I needed to change the way I wore my hair and find a way to buy better clothes. And I needed to lose weight. Guys like Robert did not date fat girls. It seemed the more weight I lost, the better friends Robert and I became. Yes, indeed, we became good friends and promised to keep in touch after the summer ended.
I came home, ranting and raving about the love of my life – Robert, the man I was going to marry. He would preach. I would sing and play the piano, and we would win the world to Christ. Now I ask you, how could that not be God's plan? Mama just smiled and said, "That's nice." Nice? My plan took nice to the cliff and shoved it right over the edge. My plan was totally and unbelievably awesome! She would see.
Robert and I did indeed keep in touch. I flew to his hometown where I met his parents and friends and immediately fell in love with them all. The following year, he began attending seminary in Fort Worth, Texas where my sister and brother-in-law just happened to live. See? Another sign from God! Mama just smiled when I laid that bit of wisdom on her. I can remember thinking she must be deaf, dumb and blind if she could not see the oh-so obvious plan of God playing out before all of our eyes.
I am sure Mama was on her knees again, praying like crazy, while Robert and I dated and dreamed and planned our future together. When Mama met Robert for the first time, she looked him dead in the eyes and seemed to weigh and measure every inch of his gorgeous self.
Finally, she could see what I was talking about. Robert was perfect! I was certain she had fallen in love with him on the spot.
I could not have been more wrong.
Join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Lord, for the people in my life who are not afraid to confront me when I am wrong. Forgive me for the arrogance that makes me think I know what is best plan for my life. I don't pretend to understand the height and depth of Your love for me, but I choose to accept it and revel in it today. Help me learn to see myself through Your eyes.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really believe God loves you unconditionally?
What proof of that belief is evident in your life?
Do you consider yourself worthy in the eyes of God? Why or why not?
Read John 3:16. Memorize it and record it in your journal. Then write the verse in your own words. Ask God to make it a reality in your daily life.
More from the Girlfriends
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbsand begins January 14.
FREE MP3son Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression,offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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January 30, 2013
Created by God ... for God
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
But Mama did not say a word. And the look in her eyes told me that she was not happy. Evidently, Robert had not measured up to whatever obsolete standard she had in mind. When I asked her what she thought of him, she smiled and said nothing. Nothing? Nothing! How could she not see what was so very obvious to me – that Robert was absolutely flawless and we were going to be so happy. Together we would change the world!
I would show her.
I would pray about it and let God deal with Mama.
I started praying about my relationship with Robert and off-handedly tossed out a prayer asking God to close the door if Robert was not the right one for me. Never in a million years did I expect God to do that. But He did. With a resounding crash, God slammed that door shut, locked it and totally obliterated my perfect life plan. What in the world was going on? It made no sense – to me.
Before that summer mission trip when Robert and I met, he dated a girl for several years. He assured me their relationship was over and I believed him – until she came to town and I never saw him again. No, I am not kidding. Have not laid eyes on the boy since that day.
I was crushed. I had been so sure. I poured out my heart to Mama who listened quietly until I ran out of words and tears. She then took my face in her precious hands and simply said, "The first time I met Robert I knew he was all wrong for you." What in the world was she talking about? I could not believe my ears. I stared at her in stunned silence.
Sensing and seizing a rare teachable moment in her not-so-teachable daughter's heart, she went on. "The truth is that he is not good enough for you." I chalked those words up to one of those things a mama is supposed to say to her daughter who has just been dumped by the most amazing catch of the century. Mama saw the doubt in my eyes and said, "Honey, if I could buy that boy for what he's really worth, and sell him for what he thinks he's worth, I would be a millionaire!"
I can count on both hands – with fingers left over – the number of times I ever heard Mama say an unkind word. But she evidently felt the occasion warranted her brutally honest opinion. With the proficiency of a seasoned lawyer, Mama began to skillfully and accurately lay out her case against Robert. I was in the presence of greatness.
"Honey, he had a spirit of pride about him. He led you on while keeping in touch with an old girlfriend. He lied to you. He took you to a movie that was so raunchy that you got up and walked out while he stayed and watched it (Sad, but true.) And then had the nerve to stand in a pulpit the very next day and preach the Word of God. Yes, he is handsome and charming, but inside – he is not a true man of God right now. He may be some day, but he surely isn't yet. And you deserve better." She was right. I did. I just didn't believe it.
I worked hard at presenting the right image. I wanted people to see me as a confident, spiritually have-it-all-together kind of person, but the truth was that I had spent my whole life struggling to believe God really loved me – just like I was. I could not see myself like He saw me – chosen, loved, planned and wanted. I could not grasp the truth that I was created by God – for God. To think that God wanted an intimate relationship with me outside of my good works was totally beyond my comprehension. So when someone like Robert came into my life, he immediately became the living proof I so desperately craved - proof that I was worth something. Guys like him didn't look at girls like me. I was certainly not beautiful. I was overweight and insecure. I was simply not good enough. I had allowed the sin of inferiority to rule my life.
Pride and inferiority are the opposite sides of the same coin of preoccupation with self. And both are sin. I have spent so many years, so much time and bucket loads of energy trying to be good enough. I followed all of the rules, hoping to please the Ruler. I said and did all he right things in front of all the right people in a desperate attempt to persuade them that I was right. I spent a lot of years accumulating the perfect mask for every situation.
And talk about irons in the fire – had 'em by the dozen - all shapes, sizes and colors. If I did good things, I must be good. Right?
The bottom line is that I was running the race of life for the wrong audience until God shut the door, turned off the lights and said, "Daughter, that is enough." And then I spent two years in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression where I learned what it really means to rest in the Lord. I learned how to simply be instead of frantically doing.
For the first time in my life, I came completely clean with God. I abandoned myself to Him – and He was there – never condemning me - and always loving me. For the first time in my life, I was set free from my own human and very confining expectancies as well as the lifeless expectations of others. They were not my audience. God was. And His heart was for me. I swear I could almost see Him grab those heavenly pom-poms when I quietly turned to Him, leaving a world of hurt behind. And His smile – His smile dried every tear and healed every hurt. I no longer needed a relationship with any human to prove my worth. The only relationship that mattered was with the One who made me worthy – my Father- my God.
I think Mama learned a lot of these truths through the many difficult years of her life. She knew. And she also knew I would have to come to those truths the same way she had – the hard way. It was worth it.
I learned that God loves me – period - just as I am – warts and all.
I learned that absolutely no one could take my place in the Father's heart.
I learned that I am indispensable to no one but God.
I learned that I am not an accident – even though I was not planned by human heart or mind.
I learned that I was created in response to God's special and unique plan for my life.
I learned that God is crazy about me – no matter what I do or don't do.
For so long, I had looked for worth in the eyes of people the world deemed worthy instead of finding my worth in God alone. No more. Mama saw me – just as I was – precious in her eyes and in the eyes of God. And she loved me.
Psalm 139:14-15 (NIV) "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."
There was not an ounce of pride in my Mama's heart and life. I never saw her put her own needs above the needs of others - not once. She was a humble and precious woman who loved God, cherished her family and knew how to be a true friend until the day she died. Maybe that's why she could so easily spot pride. It was a foreign language that she simply could not and would not speak. I want to live my life the same way.
By the way, the first time Mama met my husband, Dan Southerland, she looked him dead in the eyes and measured every inch of his gorgeous self. Mama then smiled and softly said, "Take good care of my daughter."
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You because I am made in Your image. Please help me live my life on the basis of that truth and not on the lies of the world. Thank You for a mother who loved me in such a beautiful way and modeled the very definition of humility. Help me to honor You like she did.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is your assignment for the week. Read Psalm 139 at least one time every day. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. At the end of the week, set aside time to celebrate who you are in Christ. Have a praise party – just you and God – or invite a few girlfriends to join you in celebrating how special you are to Him.
More from the Girlfriends
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbsand begins January 14.
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression,offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
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January 31, 2013
Releasing Secrets, Restoring Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.(Psalm 34:5, NIV)
Friend to Friend
For years my abortion story went untold. It was a secret held tightly by a locked heart - my worst nightmare and darkest memory. Not something I wanted to talk about. Certainly not a story that I thought could be used for good.
Conversationally, it was unapproachable... simply impossible to discuss. On the rare occasion when I allowed my mind to go there, I wished I had a different story: one of life, not death – of joy, not pain. A story of a time when I'd made the best choice, not the worst choice.
But that's not my story.
And because it's not, for years I was convinced that my mistakes demanded silence. That because of what I'd done and where I'd been, I was bound to be quiet whenever the sacred topic of life arose. Certainly, I had no right to speak... or so I believed. Shame buttoned my lips.
Then I came to know a deeper grace. A grace found in the testimony of redemption. God's grace. A grace that testifies of hope, healing and restoration. A grace found in the sharing and releasing of my broken heart-places. Amazing grace that boasts in the truth that all things can work together for good to those who love God and who are bound to His will and purpose (Romans 8:28).
By the grace of Jesus Christ, I now understand that – knowing what I know and having been where I've been – I am actually uniquely qualified to speak and encourage others toward life... forgiveness... and hope.
A few years ago, the Lord led me to participate in a post-abortive Bible study and a weekend retreat that allowed my heart to experience healing in places that I didn't even know were wounded. I was given the opportunity to sift through my grief, to name my child, and to honor her tragic, unlived life in a beautiful memorial service. My story is now one of healing – and I will tell it until I take my last breath and meet my precious baby in heaven.
HEALING
For those of you who share my broken story, I encourage you toward this sacred healing – toward deeper grace. Death's grip is suffocating and scary... but it's not more powerful than the forgiveness and love found in Jesus. Don't allow fear and shame to keep you from the restoration that God longs for you to experience. Call your local pregnancy care center and ask about their post-abortive Bible studies and retreats.
COURAGE
For those of you who are pregnant and afraid, I encourage you to choose life. I know the fears you are facing and the doubts that are screaming relentlessly to your heart. Silence them with the hope found in the center of grace. Whatever this looks like for you – whether it's parenting or adoption – I implore you, from the deepest recesses of my heart, to allow your baby a chance to breathe, love, laugh and live. It will be one of the best choices you will ever make.
SUPPORT
For those of you who don't share my story, but who support the efforts of life-affirming ministries on the front lines of this battle, I encourage you toward generous giving. I applaud you for your participation. Because of you, lives are being saved... and diapers are being changed... and dreams are being dreamed... and God is being honored. Because of your support, sacred hearts are beating. Thank you. A thousand times: thank you.
But where sin increased, grace increased all the more,so that, just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Romans 5:20b-21)
Let's Pray
Dear God, with a trembling heart, I approach Your throne of grace today in reverence and humility, fully aware that You are holy and I am not. Speak, Lord. Show me the plans You have for me. Bind me to Your Word and to Your strength so I will have the courage to obey, to forgive and to accept forgiveness. May my brokenness be restored for the beauty of Your glory. Please help me to trust your plan and grace. In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Okay ... take a deep breath with me! Some of you may feel disturbed that a locked door in your heart has been nudged open. I also know that 30-40% of you that are reading this devotion share my experience of abortion. There is healing and forgiveness for you, too. Through the help of my local Pregnancy Care Center, I went through a post-abortive Bible study that helped me to know complete healing. If you have not taken that step toward healing, I encourage you to contact the Abortion Recovery CARE line at 1-866-4-My-Recovery (1-866-469-7326) visit www.AbortionRecovery.org - or call your local Pregnancy Care Center today to sign up for a post-abortive Bible study or retreat.
Is there someone you know who needs to read this message? Forward this email. Post it on your social media sites. Share the hope of healing.
More from the Girlfriends
Welcome to my personal pulse. This type of transparency is always risky. My pulse races each time I expose the broken places of my past and my present – but GOD is always faithful to use it in some beautiful way. Some of you may feel this devotion was written specifically for you. Don't ignore that. Explore it. Please come to my Facebook page today to listen to a song that I co-wrote and recorded called Broken into Beautiful, and leave a comment sharing your heart with me. www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic. We will pray over each of you!
My full testimony is featured the book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazonor, for a signed copy, visit my website: www.gwensmith.net.
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February 1, 2013
What will the Future Hold for Your Marriage?
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! And while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things,
(1 Corinthians 13:7 NASB).
Friend to Friend
Bruce and Mary Ellen grew up in the mountains of North Carolina in the sleepy little hollow of Waynesville. From Bruce's first remembrance, he recalls the petite beauty with Chestnut hair, coke bottle figure and "plenty of book smarts." Back in the 1940's high school only went through eleventh grade, with an optional twelfth for those who wanted to continue in their studies. Since Mary Ellen was one grade behind, Bruce made the decision to stay one more year...to continue his studies, of course.
Bruce and Mary Ellen were a stunning couple. His muscular build with 32" waist, and 6'4 stature towered over Mary Ellen's 5'3" with curves in all the right places. No one was surprised when Bruce asked Mary Ellen to be his bride just a few days after her graduation. On a beautiful November afternoon in 1943, they became man and wife. When they said those words, "till death do us part," they meant it. It was a vow made to one another and to God, and the thought of anything other than a lifelong commitment to each other was inconceivable...no matter what.
It was war time when Bruce and Mary Ellen tied the knot, and eleven months after they were married, Bruce was shipped off to the Aleutian Islands. For the next eighteen months, the newlyweds corresponded through the US mail. There were no telephones, emails, or texts. The communication of two hearts depended on prayer, pen, and paper. In one of his many letters, Bruce asked Mary Ellen to send him a photograph of her legs...which she did.
Ner' was a man so happy as when Bruce got off the bus, walked to Mary Ellen's grandparents' house, and saw his bride come bounding down the steps in her nightgown to rush into his hungry arms. Never again were they apart for an extended period of time.
Bruce went right to work when he arrived back in the United States, but had a dream to go to college.
Three years later, even though they now had a two-year-old baby girl in tow, Mary Ellen encouraged him to follow his dream. Bruce graduated from college with a Masters in education and then for the next 39 years served as a teacher, a coach, a high school assistant principal and a junior high principal. Through the years, Mary Ellen had various jobs, but retired after being with one company for twenty-five years. Together they raised four wonderful children...one of which became my husband on a beautiful summer day in August of 1980.
In November of 2003, we celebrated Bruce and Mary Ellen Jaynes' 60th wedding anniversary. I was in the throes of writing my book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, and was hit with the realization of the living example of what I hope this book will help others accomplish. Mary Ellen was and is the woman of her man's dreams – and she has been for sixty years. Faces lined with years embrace cheek to cheek, weathered hands and arthritic fingers intertwine, and slow but steady gaits serve as a picture of enduring love in the winter of their lives. Like a rare treasure, their legacy of commitment and enduring love is the inheritance they leave to four grown children and five grown grandchildren. Oh, and that picture of her legs that Mary Ellen mailed Bruce in 1944 when he was off at war? He still carried that photo in his wallet until the day he died just a few years ago.
Imagine with me for a moment. Think ahead 20, 40, 60 years. What do you see? Your marriage is becoming what it is going to be – and so much depends on you. No, building a wonderful marriage cannot be achieved by one party alone. It takes two. I take that back. It takes three: a woman who's committed to becoming the woman of her man's dreams, God Who longs to give her the power and creativity to do so, and a man who clings tightly to both.
I pray that your and your husband's lives will be so intertwined that you will not be able to see where one ends and the other begins, and that your hearts will beat in tandem with each other to the metronome of God's rhythm. And then one day, as your husband reflects on the years you've invested he will say... "Many women do noble things, but you, my dear, surpass them all."
Let's Pray
Lord, I know my marriage is becoming what it is going to be. I pray I will be the wife my husband needs. Help me be the wife he needs to be. I pray the word divorce would not be in our marriage vocabulary, and that we will press through every struggle, endure every trial, and overcome every hurdle through the power of the Holy Spirit working in us and through us.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I'd like you to look ahead for a moment. Write down a description of what you want your marriage to be like 10 years from now. 20 years from now.
Now make a note of what you think YOU need to do to help it get there.
Click over to my blog and tell me the name of one couple that has the kind of marriage you want to have. What makes them worth emulating?
More from the Girlfriends
14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
If you have been married for more than a week, then you know a great marriage takes a lot of hard work! If your marriage could use a boost, then check out my book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. I interviewed hundreds of men to discover seven qualities every man longs for in a wife. Many of their comments are in the book! They were honest. They were vulnerable. They were eye-opening.
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February 4, 2013
Get Serious About Sin
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (1 John 1:9, NCV).
Friend To Friend
As a little girl, I always looked forward to the first day of summer vacation because it meant two things. First, I did not have to sit in a classroom all day wasting precious brain power trying to comprehend and learn what I considered to be useless information. Second, I did not have to wear shoes except when I went to church or when my mother handed down the decree, "If you are going with me, you have to wear shoes." It had to be a really important errand for me to don even a pair of sandals or flip-flops.
Those first few days of my shoeless adventures were always a painful shock to my tender feet since my "playground" was actually nothing more than a gravel road running beside our house on the edge of town. I played for hours, climbing trees and racing friends up and down that rocky street. At the end of each day, my feet were grimy and filthy, often bruised and sometimes slightly bloody. Even now, I can remember the stinging discomfort inflicted by those razor-sharp rocks during the first few weeks of summer. My pain management was firmly rooted in the knowledge that my feet would soon grow callused and tough. I took comfort in the fact that I would soon be running down that gravel road with little or no pain.
Sin works the same way. The first time we commit a sin it is painful. We are filled with remorse and mourn the fact that we have grieved the heart of God, but regret is not enough when it comes to dealing with sin. Unless we confess and turn away from that sin, we are likely to commit it again. If we allow sin to settle into our life and refuse to confess it, that sin eventually hardens our heart and builds spiritual calluses in our soul. When we become comfortable with our sin, we are walking in enemy territory and setting ourselves up for spiritual failure and discouragement.
The good news is that Jesus understands human frailty. He is well acquainted with temptation and the tactics of Satan. Jesus gave His life as a ransom for yours and mine. He paid our sin debt in full.
1 John 1:9 "But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done" (NCV).
This verse was written to believers as an encouragement to deal with sin and a promise that when we do so, God will be faithful to forgive us and clean up the mess that sin has caused. We are not perfect – just forgiven. To experience that forgiveness fully we need to keep short books on sin. That means being sensitive to sin and immediately choosing to do something about it. God is serious about sin. We need to be as well.
1. We must confess sin continually. "Confess" means to agree with and is a present tense verb meaning that we must confess sin frequently and continually.
2. We must confess sin completely.We commit sins one at a time. We need to confess them one-by-one as well.
3. We must confess our sin confidently.Once we confess and repent of our sin, we can put it behind us. God is just and fair – seeking only one payment for sin. Jesus has already made full and complete payment with His death on the cross.
One of Satan's favorite tactics is to resurrect buried sin. Wrapping that confessed transgression in his vain taunts and useless accusations, the enemy hauls it back into focus, hoping that guilt will paralyze and imprison a soul set free. Satan can hold us prisoner if we let him. But how often do we believe his empty lies – and by doing so, grant him access to that which he has no right? To break the hold of sin, we can and must stand against the enemy, trusting not in our feelings but in the facts of God's word. And those facts are unchanging and crystal clear – when we confess sin, God forgives it.
Let's Pray
Father, do not let me ever forget the price You paid for my sin. Thank You for the forgiveness and freedom You purchased with Your death on the cross. Bring swift awareness and conviction when I sin. Give me the strength and power to deal with and turn from the sin in my life. For Your glory and in Your name I pray, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time each day to pray and study His Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to make you aware of every sin that stands between you and God. Confess that sin. Choose against it and walk on in His power and forgiveness. Ask yourself the following questions:
What sin do I need to confess right now?
Why have I held on to this sin?
What effect has this sin had on my life?
What changes do I need to make in order to "turn" from my sin?
Do I really believe that God can and will forgive this sin? Why? Why not?
More from the Girlfriends
The life of Eve is an encouragement to me. Maybe it's because I can relate to a woman who has really made a mess of things. I love the fact that her story is part of Scripture. I believe God uses the life of Eve to remind us that we all make mistakes and are broken and wounded people. But God takes the broken pieces, the wounded hearts and troubled souls, and makes something beautiful out of it all.
Need help? Winning the War with Temptation is one of Mary's E-Download Bible Studies that examines the life of Eve to discover five steps she could have and should have taken to win the war with temptation. The central message of this study is grace, God's unmerited favor, His unconditional love and the complete forgiveness only He can give. Temptation is a certainty of life, but God has a plan that will enable us to stand firm in His strength and through the power of His Word.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs and it's not too late to join!
FREE MP3s on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
Do you or someone you love struggle with depression? Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to get out and stay out of that pit. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T
The One Thing He Can't Do Without
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! And while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
"Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly," (Ephesians 5:33 AMP).
Friend to Friend
"I've been shut up, shut down, shot down, ridiculed, disregarded, over looked, over booked, and overwhelmed...I know I was made for a reason. I know that, in God's eyes, I count. So, I simply want to find someone who believes in me."
No, these are not the lyrics from the latest country song. They are the lament from one of my survey respondents when I asked hundreds of men what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams. It seems Aretha Franklin isn't the only one who wants a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t these days. One area that rated very high in my survey of men describing the wife of their dreams was RESPECT. Webster defines respect as the special esteem or consideration in which one holds another person or thing, the state or quality of being esteemed, to feel or show consideration to. It's the one thing a happy husband can't do without.
God's Command
In the Bible, Paul wrote to both men and women about their various roles in marriage. In the book of Ephesians he wrote, "Each one of you (men) also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (Ephesians 5:33). Now that doesn't mean that husbands don't have to respect their wives or wives don't have tolove their husbands. I believe Paul was summing up what was paramount for both men and women. We want to be loved and cherished just like our husbands want to be honored and respected.
Another reason I believe that Paul admonishes wives to respect their husbands is because he knew that after years of mistakes, poor choices, wrong decisions, and smelly socks, respect may not come naturally for a wife. It may well take an act of obedience empowered by the Holy Spirit within.
But how do you respect someone who vegetates watching TV all the time? How do you respect someone who sits around waiting for the right job to come along when you're working yourself to death trying to keep food on the table? (You may need to stop and quietly put that responsibility back where it belongs.) How do your respect someone who apparently has no respect for himself? It may seem impossible, but as the angel asked Abraham, "Is anything too hard for the LORD?" (Genesis 18:14). The same God who parted the sea for the Israelites to walk across on dry land, who caused the walls of Jericho to fall with a shout, who kept Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego from even having a hint of smoke as they exited the fiery furnace, who caused flesh to reappear on the fingerless hands of lepers, who made a man blind from birth see, and who raised Lazarus from the dead – that same God can give you the power to respect your husband. It all begins with prayer and follows with obedience close behind. "There is incomparable great power available to those who believe," (Ephesians 1:19).
In the Bible power always follows obedience. As soon as the high priests crossing the Jordan placed their feet in the water, the river parted (Joshua 3:15). As soon as the rotting lepers turned toward Jerusalem to tell the priests they were healed, their skin began to heal (Luke 17:14). As soon as Namaan dipped into the river seven times as the prophet Elijah had commanded, his leprosy began to disappear (2 Kings 5:14). The miracle didn't come before they obeyed, but after they obeyed. Do you want to see a miracle unfold before your eyes like a multi-petaled rose unfolding? Obey God. An amazing thing happens when we begin to show respect to our husbands. They begin to act respectable.
Let's go back to Paul's letter to the Ephesians. I love how the amplified version expounds on Ephesians 5:33 "Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly." What a power packed verse!
Respect is one of the most beautiful gifts a wife can give her man.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for my husband. Help me to be the wife that he needs in all areas of my life. Help me to respect, revere, regard, honor, prefer and esteem him greatly. Not only that, but help me to show it in my words and actions so that there is no doubt in his mind just how much I love him.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
During the reign of King David, he brought the once captured Ark of the Covenant back to Israel. It was one of the grandest moments in his life. Read the account recorded in 2 Samuel 6 and answer the following questions:
How did David's wife, Michal, react to David's outward praise of God? (6:16,20).
What was David's response to her? (6:21)
What was the outcome of her disrespect? (6:23)
What can we learn from her lack of respect?
Let's make a list of ways to show respect. I'll compile your answers and send them out in an email. Log onto my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com and tell me one way a woman can show respect to her man. Come on now... you can do this...give me just one.
More from the Girlfriends
14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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February 6, 2013
He is Waiting for You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Now as they went on their way, He entered a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home" (Luke 10:38, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Balance always requires a fierce and ruthless examination of priorities. Our true priorities are not mere lists of activities completed or goals set but candid reflections of our heart desires. What we deem important receives the most time, energy, attention and resources. The importance of right and balanced priorities is illustrated by the life of Martha.
Jesus knew that He was always welcome in the home of Martha. Scripture tells us that Jesus "had no place to lay His head," but He often came to this home when He needed to rest or get away from the demanding crowds. At the age of thirty, the Son of God left His natural home and there is no record of His ever returning to live there. He often went to Bethany, to the house of Martha, Mary and Lazarus, and even spent His final week on earth there. Jesus didn't have to wonder if He was welcome in this home or if Martha was "ready" for His presence. He knew she was. Can He say the same about us? Do we have the heart of a seeker, one who lives each day aware of God's presence, His plan and His priorities?
Seeking God begins with recognizing who He is and then inviting Him into our lives as Lord and Savior. If He is not Lord of all, then He is not Lord at all. For some of us, the problem is not that we lack a personal relationship with God. Our problem is that we are not "making room" for that relationship. Balance comes when we yield to His plan in the everyday moments of life.
One summer, our family went to Pennsylvania where we visited Amish country. I have always been fascinated by the Amish people and enjoyed every minute spent in their beautiful and carefully ordered world. As our visit came to an end, I wanted to buy a souvenir to remind me of the peaceful days we had spent there, but everything I picked up was too expensive. Being a committed shopper, I was not about to let that stop me. We travelled up and down the small hidden back roads of each community, looking for the Amish products known only to a few and to those relentless shoppers who were willing to persevere. I was beginning to lose hope when I spotted the small, white sign posted on the fence of a quaint and absolutely perfect house. "Amish Crafts" it said. This was it!
As we climbed out of the car, a sense of peace settled around us like an old familiar blanket. Our voices immediately dropped to a whisper as we tiptoed up the narrow stone path and gently opened the screen door. When we stepped onto the porch filled with beautiful Amish crafts, a woman came out of the house, welcomed us with a beautiful smile and introduced herself as Mary. She invited us to browse and to let her know if we needed any help. I have to admit that I was almost rude in my pathetic attempts to catch a glimpse of her home through the porch windows. Reading my mind, she graciously offered, "Would you like to come in and look around?" I thought she'd never ask!
Mary's home revealed a world very different from mine and an uncommonly simplistic lifestyle I desperately longed to experience. The house was sparsely furnished with only the necessities, but Mary described her life and daily routine with words like "calm, uncomplicated, peaceful and serene." When I asked why she had chosen such a lifestyle she sweetly responded with words of wisdom I will never forget, "I have discovered that when my life and my heart get too crowded there is not enough room for God." Exactly!
An unbalanced life is too crowded for God. It is so easy to relegate our spirituality to religious activity when all He really wants is to spend time with us. When the tears fall, He wants to wipe them away, collecting each one so that He can pour them back into our lives as a refreshing rain of restoration. God longs for us to forever run into His arms, sharing every hurt and rejoicing in every victory. The Father yearns to wrap His strong arms around us, bringing the peace and balance we so desperately need.
Instead, we often relinquish control of our life to unworthy demands dictated by a world that operates in "urgent" gear. We forget what is really important. The important rarely barges in while the urgent is always an offensive intruder. The important waits patiently while the urgent demands its own way, creating bedlam and imbalance. Certainly, there are times when the important is also urgent – but we must learn to discern between the two. We wrongly conclude that a busy life is automatically a productive life and think that a full schedule will surely produce a full heart.
I have great news! He loves who you are more than He loves what you do. Seek Him today. Make room for Him. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, I am too busy and sometimes I feel like my life is spinning out of control. I'm tired of the imbalance I see in the way I live. Help me learn how to establish priorities that please You and reflect Your plan for me. I commit to spending time with You each day, seeking Your wisdom and direction. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you ready to evaluate your life according to God's priorities? Set aside time today to spend with Him. Grab your journal and record the truths He gives you about how to balance your life.
Ask God to let you see your life through His eyes. Be willing to change what needs to be changed in order to invest your time wisely.
Determine the top five life priorities of your life - right now. Take a deep breath and brutally examine your calendar and checkbook to see where you spend most of your time and resources. We can give lip service to what we think our priorities should be but until our daily schedule reflects those priorities, we are only "playing at life."
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Choose to keep the commitments you have made today for one month. So much of the Christian walk is wrapped up in the word "choice." A choice is a deliberate action and purposeful decision. We can choose where and how we spend our time.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you this year. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and it's not too late to join!
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February 7, 2013
A Marriage Destroyed by Words
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! And while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
"Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word, nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God's favor) to those who hear it," (Ephesians 4:29 Amplified).
Friend to Friend
I talked to a friend of mine about what went so wrong in his marriage that led to divorce. Girlfriend, we need to pay attention to his response.
"When I met Jona at the beach retreat," Don explained, "I was struck by her vivacious, fun attitude. Oh and did I mention, she looked great in her purple bathing suit? (This is 20 years later and he still remembers the color!) She stole my heart and as soon as we got home from the retreat, I called and asked her out."
I had always been a people pleaser. At first I was always trying to please my parents, then I moved to pleasing my friends, and when I met Jona, I always tried to please her as well. We were soon married and I couldn't have been happier. She was so encouraging, loving, and supportive. After a few years of marriage and several poor financial decisions, I began to see her lose her respect for me. That was most evident in the words she spoke."
"In the past everything I touched turned to gold. I was president of the student body, won athletic awards, and succeeded in business. As a result, I over promised to Jona and expected her to trust me. Jona was the one person I wanted approval from and the one person from whom I was not getting it. She grew frustrated, angry and bitter towards me. She also withdrew physically, which was the crowning blow to my manhood."
Jona said things like, "If you cared about us, you wouldn't make all these bad decisions, you're a loser, you're worthless."
"I'm not putting all the blame of our past marriage problems on Jona. I was shooting for the moon instead of a ten yard gain. I was trying to hit a homerun instead of a base hit. But honestly, once I realized Jona had lost respect for me, I felt the marriage was over. Her words cut too deep and no bandage could stop the bleeding."
I asked Don what could have made a difference and prevented the eventual separation and divorce.
"If she had said, 'I'm with you, Don,' or 'Let's work on this together' or 'How can I help?' it would have made all the difference in the world. I didn't feel like we were on the same team. Instead, she said, 'If you don't fix it, I will.' Instead of constantly pointing out my failures, because believe me, I knew what they were, encouraging words would have made all the difference."
"At one point," Don said with tears in his eyes, "I found a list of 80 things that Jona didn't like about me and 3 things she did like. That list broke my heart. She had no intention of me finding the list, but I happened across it one day when I was looking for something. That was the final nail in the coffin. Jona had nothing but disdain for me. A marriage without respect is no marriage. I saw no hope."
After Don and Jona's divorce, he met a woman who gave him all the adoration and encouragement that his wife had not. She was gentle, soft spoken, affectionate, hung on his shoulder, smiled at him, and was very affirming. Her beautiful spirit was a breath of fresh air.
"Don," I asked, "what advice do you have for a woman who is withholding encouraging words or perhaps cutting her husband down with critical jabs?"
"I don't think any single thing takes away a man's strength of character more than the loss of respect," he said. "Don't dwell on his weakness, but dwell on the positives. Men are in a fight for our lives. We are at war mentally. We're out there trying to conquer the world. A man needs to know that home is a safe place to be instead of feeling like you're leaving one battle for another."
Maybe you have not been giving encouraging words to your husband lately? Perhaps it has been so long you've forgotten how? I hope Don's and Jona's story stirs your heart to build up that man of yours and become the woman of his dreams.
Think back to when you were dating. What did you admire about that young man that captured your heart? Look for an opportunity to praise him, but make sure it is genuine. Find one attribute, character trait or task that he does well and begin there. If you are out of practice, this may be difficult at first. But I can promise you, it will become easier with time, especially when you see the results on your husband's face and his attitude towards you.
Let's Pray
Lord, oh how easy it is to see my husband's flaws and ignore my own. Help me to use my words to plant seeds of love and encouragement and not weeds of bitterness and discouragement. I commit this very day to not use my words to tear my man down, but only to build him up. Help me to be like Job and put my hand over my mouth if any negative words attempt to escape my lips (Job 40:4).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you feeling brave? Really brave?
If so, look up the following verses: [Proverbs 11:22; 19:13; 25:24; 21:19; 27:15-16]
Now, if you are willing to not be a dripping faucet this week, click over to my blog page and leave a comment that says, "I'm not going to be a drip today!"
If you read to the end of today's devotion, I'm proud of you! You will have a special surprise. Don and Jona reconciled and were remarried! If you'd like to read about how that happened, click over to my website and read the article God Can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes.
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14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.
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Add Life to Your Years
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. (John 1:4, NIV84)
Friend To Friend
One difficult morning six years ago, I wanted to hurl my screaming alarm clock into an abyss. The warmth of my covers and the safety of sleep beckoned my heart to stay, linger and forget what lay ahead of me that day. On that afternoon, I would sing for the funeral of a precious 18 year-old family friend who had died in a tragic car accident.
Her name was Macie. She was a girl who lived life to enjoy life. She babysat my kids and would often catch a ride home from church with us. She always had a spring in her step, a hug for a child, a kind word on her lips, and a sweet smile on her face. To know Macie was to love Macie. So, as you can imagine, my heart ached intensely when she died.
The sorrow messed with me.
It was heavy. Everything about her death seemed wrong. She was so young. So vibrant. So loved. I longed to turn back the hands of time and alter the course of Macie's demise. I wanted her to magically appear at the service and tell us that it was all just a big misunderstanding. That she was fine! I wanted her to be fine. I wanted her to be alive.
My angst eventually gave way to peace as I remembered that she was fine – because she was alive in the perfect presence of God. The late Barbara Johnson said, "You never know when your time is going to expire, so remember: as you add years to your life, it is more important to add life to your years." Macie only lived on this earth for 18 short years, but she added life to her years when she surrendered her heart to Jesus Christ a year before her death. I imagine that she is now skipping along streets of gold, worshiping God whole-heartedly, and loving on the two babies of mine that are in heaven. She always loved taking care of babies.
The Spirit of God and the knowledge of Macie's salvation consoled me, yet I still had to choose to praise God through my grief. In the sadness, I had to choose to bless the Lord for His perfect plan. Even though His plan didn't line up with my expectations. Even though those plans left many hearts heavy with ache. God's grace enabled me to see rays of light in the dark loss because Macie had professed her faith in Christ and was prepared to meet Him when she breathed her final breath.
Adding life to your years is all about Jesus. In John 10:10 Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full." We can all know hope and peace in Christ. "In Him was life, and that life was the light of men." (John 1:4) Jesus came to give us life, plain and simple. Radical, audacious, full, abundant, joy-filled life that begins with the forgiveness that He offers us freely. Do you know that forgiveness?
Live today in the fullness of Jesus... in response to His grace and goodness. Colossians 2:6-7 says, "So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in Him, rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness." Let's determine to live each day filled with purposed thankfulness as we worship God and point others to Him in love.
It was a sad day when I said goodbye to Macie. After leaving the graveside, I went home, hugged on my children and loved on my husband a bit more than normal. Her death reminded me just how important it is to add life to my years. It's important for you too.
Live in the moment. God has a plan for your now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for offering eternal life through the perfect and complete sacrifice of Jesus. Thank you for replacing my human hopelessness with your divine hope. Please help me look past the distractions and disappointments of this world and to live each day to the fullest – in You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As we are not guaranteed tomorrow, I would like to direct you to add life to your years today...
Is there someone who you have offended, won't forgive, are holding a grudge against or owe an apology to? Contact them today and attempt to make peace before the sun goes down.
Hug your loved ones. Say, "I love you." Focus on what really matters.
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." (Romans 12:15) Reach out to someone that is hurting. Pray for her.
Read John 1.
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February 11, 2013
Step Away from the Shore
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Between three and six o'clock in the morning, Jesus came to them, walking on the water" (Matthew 14:25, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Faith is the ability to trust what we cannot see. John Shedd says, "A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for." Faith is willing to take risks, embrace the unseen and step away from the safety of the shore. We fear the outcome or don't understand the step God has asked us to take. We are afraid to fail and are more concerned about our "reputation" as a Christian than we are about being obedient to God. As long as the enemy can keep us preoccupied with a selfish perspective, our faith is impotent.
Authentic faith naturally produces action, but faith is hindered unless we abandon ourselves to that faith. Did you know that the African impala can jump to a height of over ten feet and cover a distance of greater than thirty feet? Yet these magnificent creatures can be kept in any zoo by a three-foot wall. The animals will not jump if they cannot see where their feet will land.
Many people say they do believe God is who He says He is and that He is able to do what He says he will do but falter at the point of believing that God is willing to work in their lives. If we don't believe He is willing to keep His promises, we are not walking in faith. Oh, we find it easy to agree mentally with the truth that we serve a powerful God who loves us and has a great plan for our life, but that belief is worthless until it settles in our hearts and changes the way we live. If we don't live it, we don't really believe it. If we are not willing to step away from the shore, we will miss so much of what God has for us in life.
The story is told of Will Rogers who came to his friend, Eddie Cantor, for advice. Will wanted to make some important changes in his act but was worried about the danger of such changes, explaining that he wasn't sure if they would work. Eddie Cantor's response was, "Why not go out on a limb? That's where the fruit is!" The same is true of faith.
Faith believes that God is willing. The life of Jesus Christ is the embodiment of God's willingness to work in our lives. The disciples had personally witnessed God's willingness to save His children. Yet, in Matthew 14, we find them in a boat, caught in a storm, afraid and still questioning God's willingness to rescue them. Did they cry out in fear? Yes! Did He come? Yes!
Jesus came to the disciples, walking on the water, between three and six o'clock in the morning, the darkest time of the night. I have often wished I could have been on that boat with the disciples, waiting for Jesus to show up. I imagine the questions and complaints were flying. "Why would Jesus send us out here, knowing the waves were high? Where is He? Why is He waiting so long to rescue us? Can't He just calm the waves like He did before? I ministered all day long and this is my reward? Is He really coming? I don't understand!" Sound familiar? It does to me.
We are quick to believe the lie that God is angry with us and as a result, will not bless our life or meet our needs. The truth is that God is willing and waiting to pour out His favor and blessings on a life of faith. Hebrews tells us that faith always honors God and God always honors faith. "Without faith no one can please God. Anyone who comes to God must believe that he is real and that he rewards those who truly want to find him" (Hebrews 11:6 NCV).
I think part of the problem is that we don't know how to define "blessing." A blessing is not always easy, painless, simple, comfortable or expected. A blessing often comes, wrapped in the mystery of darkness. But I am learning the truth that anything that makes us cry out to God can be counted as a blessing. Why? Because when we are desperate and in pain, when we have no answers and the darkness is closing in, we cry out to God, just as the disciples did, and He comes! Not because we have earned His presence or His mercy, but because we cried out with a tiny seed of faith, as His children, knowing He is not only able but He is willing to come. Step away from that shore, girlfriend. He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a faith that seems so small. I want to believe You, Lord. I want to walk by faith, knowing that You will keep every promise You have ever made. Help my unbelief, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 86:15 (NIV) "But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness."
Record this verse in your journal. Then make a list of the words in this verse that describe God. What do these words tell you about God's willingness to bless your life?
What is the first step of faith you need to take today? Are you willing to take it right now?
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The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Many women deal with paralyzing fear on a daily basis. Fear makes everything seem bigger than it really is, wastes energy and contaminates life itself. Mary's Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear uncovers God's plan for peace and identifies five ways to deal with and be free from fear.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and it's not too late to join!
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What do You do When You've Lost that Lovin' Feeling?
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! And while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
"Yet I hold this against you; You have forsaken your first love," (Revelation 2:4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"We've lost that lovin' feelin'," the guys crones on the radio. And I sit there and think to myself, "Stop whining man! Love's not a feelin' in the first place. That was your problem to being with!"
Now, that sounds a little cynical, I know. But can I be honest? I get so weary of people talking about falling in and out of love, like it is something you can turn off and on like an electric blanket to warm you up on a chilly night. Love is a commitment. I married my husband because I loved him. Now I love him because I married him. If we let our hearts be jerked around because how we're feeling on any given day, then we're headed on a never ending roller coaster ride that will leave us heart sick and soul sore. (I'm feeling feisty today. Can you tell?)
OK, so what do you do if you've "lost that lovin' feelin'"? Maybe you truly adored your husband in the beginning, but now you can't remember why. Maybe you admired his finer qualities, but now you can't remember what they were. Maybe you appreciated his wonderful attributes, but now take them for granted. What do you do now?
Here's a statistic you might find interesting. According to an analysis of the National Survey of Families and Households, 86 percent of unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier. In fact, nearly 60 percent of those who rated their marriage as unhappy in one survey, and who stayed married, rated their same marriage "very happy" or "quite happy" when re-interviewed five years later. In comparison, those who divorced and remarried, divorced again at a rate of 60 percent.
So, starting over may very well be the answer ... as long as it's with the same man.
In the book of Revelation in the Bible, God had this to say to the church at Ephesus. "Yet I hold this against you; You have forsaken your first love" (Revelation 2:4). Ephesus was one of the most loving churches in the New Testament and yet, somewhere along the way, they lost that initial thrill of knowing Christ. Their love for each other and for God had grown cold.
And it is the same way in many marriages. Many men and women have forgotten their first love. Somewhere between taking out the garbage, paying the bills, running carpool, mowing the lawn, disciplining the kids, folding the laundry...somewhere among the mundane routine of life, they've lost that lovin' feelin'.
So how do you get it back? God gave the church two simple steps for the Bride of Christ to renew her passion for her Beloved, and I believe we can apply the same principles to renewing your passion for the man of your dreams.
Remember and Return
Remember what drew you to your husband in the first place? Remember how you tried to please him, capture his heart, and win his affection? That may have been fifty pounds and a full head of hair ago, but that young man who longed to be adored, admired, and appreciated still lives within his heart. He wants to know if he still "has what it takes." Let him know that he does.
Everyone loves a love story. Tell your children the story of how you first met and fell in love. Remember special days such as your first date, your first kiss, or when you first realized he was the man you wanted to marry.
Listen to a tape or watch a video of your wedding. Steve and I celebrate not only our wedding anniversary but also the day he asked me to marry him. I'm sure my son has tired of hearing the story time and time again, but he's never doubted that his parents are crazy about each other.
Listen, if we tried to hang on to that "lovin' feelin'" 24/7, it would be like continually popping a beach ball up in the air to try and keep it from touching the ground. On the other hand, we CAN commit to love 24/7. And while we're at it, we can stir up some of that lovin' feelin' to go along with it.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I so want to be a woman that is on fire for You. I want my spiritual passion to be ablaze and never cool. Likewise, I want my marriage to be a passionate example of Christ and the Church. Help me to always remember what drew me to my husband and show me ways to keep that love strong.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have kids, tell them the story of how you met and fell in love with your husband at the dinner table tonight.
If you aren't married, tell someone how you met Jesus Christ and gave your life to Him.
If you are married, write down what drew you to your husband initially.
If you are not married, write down what you long for in the man of your dreams.
Let's share some ideas. Click over to my blog page and tell one way you keep the love alive in your marriage.
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14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read my book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams – Seven Qualities Every Man LongsFor.
In it I interviewed hundreds of men to find out what they really wanted, and many of their answers are in the book. They were honest. They were vulnerable. You might be surprised.
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Celebrate Jesus!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Then God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins. He canceled the record that contained the charges against us. He took it and destroyed it by nailing it to Christ's cross (Colossians 2:13-14, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of a man who came home from work, picked up the paper and settled into his favorite chair for a few precious and well-deserved moments of solitude after a long day at work. He had just begun to relax when his son burst through the front door. Spotting his dad, the little boy raced across the room, flung himself against his father's knees and said, "Daddy, I love you!" The father gave him a pat on the head and said rather absentmindedly, "Yes, Son, I love you, too." Picking up his paper, the father continued reading, but the boy was not satisfied. He leaned a little further into the newspaper barricade and said, "But Daddy, I really, really love you!" The man took a deep breath, put the paper down and hugging the boy said, "Yes, Son. I love you just as much." Again, he picked the paper up and resumed reading. Finally, the little boy could not stand it any longer! He jumped up on his father's lap, crushing the newspaper and any thoughts of relaxation the dad might have had. "Son, what is it that you want?" the father tiredly asked. In response, the boy threw his arms around his dad and gave him a big squeeze, explaining, "I love you so much, Daddy, and I've just got to do something about it!"
That is exactly what God said to Jesus. "Son, I love them so much that I have to do something about it!" Then He sent His one and only perfect Son to earth where He would live and die for you and for me. God's love is an unconditional love – a love with no strings attached – a love worth celebrating.
In the Bible, we find the story of a sinful woman, a prostitute who had spent her entire life seeking a love with no strings attached. Then Jesus came to town and into her life, and everything changed. When Simon, one of the local Pharisees, invited Jesus to his home for dinner, the sinful woman walked through her shame and fear, and went to meet Jesus. Everyone at the party, including Simon, knew who she was. Simon would never have allowed this kind of woman to enter his home, but when a Rabbi was invited to someone's house, others could stop by and listen to the conversation. She came, knowing that everyone at the party would recognize and judge her, but her desire to meet Jesus was greater than her pride.
Emptiness and sin eating away at her soul, this woman was tired of being used, unwanted and unloved. She came, and Jesus met her there, love and forgiveness in His hands. As the love of Jesus enveloped her very soul, she fell at His feet, weeping tears of worship and praise. Her natural response was to love Him so much that she had to do something about it! In her hands was her most precious possession, a bottle of very expensive perfume she used in her "business." This woman was not wealthy by any means and worked the streets, selling her body in order to live. She could have put a small amount on the feet of Jesus, and it would have been a great financial sacrifice. But she brought it all and gave it all. She came, totally abandoning herself and all she had to Jesus. His response was to love her, unconditionally and completely.
Like this sinful woman, we are spiritually bankrupt, looking for love in all the wrong places. Jesus came, spelling Himself out in a language you and I can understand – a message of love. There is no condemnation with Him, friend. He adores you just as you are. He wants to spend time with you, laugh with you, dry your tears and fill your heart with new dreams. Today, no matter where you are or where you have been, He stands waiting for you. Come to Him. He loves you, no matter how ugly the sin or how great the failure may be. Come to His love. Celebrate Jesus!
Let's Pray
Father, I recognize Your unconditional love for me. I do not understand it or deserve it, but I know that it is available to me. Thank You for loving me. Today, I accept and celebrate Your love, coming to You just as I am. Please forgive my sin and cleanse my heart and soul. I surrender to You, Your love and Your plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Right now– celebrate God's unconditional love. Read and memorize Romans 8:38-39.
Right now – celebrate your spiritual bankruptcy. Read and memorize Romans 3:23.
Right now – celebrate God's payment for your sin. Read and memorize John 3:16.
Right now – celebrate and walk, by faith, in His unconditional love and forgiveness! Read and memorize Romans 5:5.
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I can get so busy that I tend to go through each day, unaware of God's work around me. I take His unconditional love for granted. I forget just how much Jesus paid with His death on the cross so that I can take each step of my day in peace and victory. Join me in making a new commitment to celebrate Jesus every moment...of every day.
A daily time alone with God in prayer and Bible study will strengthen you to face whatever life throws at you. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and it's not too late to join!
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Words can Captivate Your Man
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! And while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
"A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies," (Proverbs 31:10NIV).
Friend to Friend
Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.
All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman, he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest. All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we're at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives...and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife...well, she surpasses them all.
What a picture! That's the woman I want to be, don't you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Let me give you a few from my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.
Words Your Husband Longs to Hear
I've been thinking about you all day.
What can I do for you today?
How can I pray for you today?
The best part of my day is when you come home.
You are one of God's most precious gifts to me.
You are so wonderful.
You look so handsome today.
I don't feel complete without you.
I will always love you.
I trust your decisions.
Today, pick just one of these phrases. Try it out on your husband and watch his eyes light up! When you love your husband well, God says "Well done, my good and faithful servant!"
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, thank you for giving me the gift of my husband. Help me to never forget that one of the greatest places of ministry is in the home, and that You are well pleased when I love my husband well. Help me to love my husband with my words and my actions today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Just as there are words that your husband longs to hear, there are words he doesn't. I don't think God looks at us and says "Well done," when these words come out of our mouths. Here are just a few:
I told you so.
You're always in a bad mood.
You just don't think.
It's all your fault.
What's wrong with you?
All you ever do is complain.
I can't do anything to please you.
You made your bed, now lie in it.
You should have thought about that before.
You never listen to me.
Now, go back up the list in the devotion. Which list more reflects the words that you speak to your husband?
Which list do you want to reflect the words that you speak to your husband?
Is there anything you need to do to change?
Click over to my blog page and tell me which one of those verbal love gifts you said to your husband today. Don't be shy. Fess up!
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14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
I don't know anyone who doesn't want to have a great marriage. However, so much depends on us. Many times the answer is right under our nose...our words. If you would like to learn more about how to use your words wisely, see my book, The Power of a Woman's Words and The Power of a Woman's Words Bible study. Also, if your marriage could use a bit of sprucing up, check out Becoming the Woman of His Dreams – Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For.
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Buddy Straps
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT)
Friend To Friend
Every family has one... that certain individual who gets injured and banged up more than their fair share. That person who spends the majority of your family's health care budget on their co-pay needs because, for whatever reason, accidents mysteriously, regularly and relentlessly hunt them down and throw a good bit of hurt on them. In our family, this person is my teenaged son, Preston.
We've been up, down and all around when it comes to Preston's breaks, bandages and bruises. So it was a bit old-hat to be sitting in a small examining room last winter, waiting to see the doctor about yet another injury. This one happened in gym class at school. Preston climbed up a rope, made it to the top, and then had the bright idea of letting go of the rope instead of scaling down safely. Brilliant. He broke his big toe... in the middle of basketball season.
The doctor looked over the x-rays and, in spite of the break, had good news for us: Preston only had a hairline fracture in his toe. It would heal quickly. He would be immobilized in a funky shoe for a week or two, and then he would be able to get back to playing basketball as soon as the pain subsided.
As we prepped to leave, the doctor instructed Preston that once he was able to put weight on his foot, he would need to use a "buddy strap." The strap would hold his broken toe snugly to the healthy toe right beside it for support. A nurse then handed my son a few black Velcro strips and explained that he should wear them to play basketball as soon as his pain was manageable. The support of the buddy straps would help him get back in the game quickly.
My eyebrows raised and my mind reeled as I pondered the similarities between buddy straps and friendships. There are a million times when my heart or circumstances are fractured. Each wound and challenge threatens to keep me immobilized both emotionally and spiritually. In those times, it always benefits me to first seek refuge in the stable arms of God and to then buddy-strap my heart to a few godly girlfriends. As the psalmist cried out, so I cry out:
For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken (Psalm 62:5-6, ESV).
Then, after seeking God, as I ready myself to put one foot in front of another, my girlfriends rally as my buddy straps and provide prayer support, wisdom and encouragement. When one friend is weak because of life-fractures, it is a blessing for a strong and healthy friend to come along side to help her.
We need each other as Christian women. That's what Girlfriends in God is all about: women encouraging other women in faith and in life. When Sharon, Mary and I co-founded GiG, it was purposed to spur you toward the heart of God through devotions and conferences. In real life, we are buddy straps for each other. Our lives are filled with as many life-fractures as the next person... so we often rally to speak words of encouragement, truth and hope to one another. At times, we even speak correction. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17).
Where does this find you today? Do you have some life-fractures and challenges? Are you the buddy strap to any of your friends who are struggling? Perhaps you've got both going on. If so, then praise God. Praise Him for trials – which can grow you in perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5:4) and for His provision of friends in your life that love you, challenge you and cheer you on through the hard times. And praise Him for the opportunity to be a buddy strap in return.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for giving me access to Your grace and strength through Your Son, Jesus Christ. You are my Strong Tower, my Refuge, my Shelter, my Help and my Hope. I am so grateful that when my days are filled with hurt and struggles that You are right beside me – and that You have blessed me with some buddy straps. Please help me encourage my friends toward your grace, hope and truth today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who are you a buddy strap to? Are you sensitive to the needs around you or do you not "have the time" to worry about other people's problems?
Think of three girlfriends in your life who have been your buddy straps, then pause to pray for each of them. Bless them today. Send a card or an email. Forward this devotion to them! Text them or post on their wall. Connect to say thanks.
Got a great buddy strap story? I'd love to hear about it! Swing by my facebook page today and leave a comment or a prayer request: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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I love my girlfriends. They are total wild flowers in the bouquet of my life. When my children were young, Brad and I moved several times in just a few years. That made it hard for me to connect with other women. If you find yourself in a place where you need some women friends, I encourage you to contact the Women's Ministry Director at your church and let her know your need. Sharon, Mary and I truly love doing life with you and are blessed to encourage you through these devotions and at the conferences where we speak. We'd love to meet you and hug your neck in person! Check our website to see when one of the GiGs might be coming to an event near you.
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The Green-Eyed Monster
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do not worship any other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.
(Exodus 34:14)
Friend to Friend
Shakespeare described jealousy as "the green-eyed monster." I once heard it described as "the gangrene of the soul." Not a lovely picture, is it? In fact, in human terms, jealousy is usually thought of as a negative trait we need to carefully guard against.
The root idea in the Old Testament word jealous is "to become intensely red" and refers to how rising emotion colors our faces when something or someone very dear to us is threatened. Been there? I have! In fact, both the Old and New Testament words for jealousy are also translated "zeal." In other words, being jealous and being zealous are basically the same in the Bible. God is zealous – eager about protecting what is precious to Him. Such jealousy compels God to pursue each one of us relentlessly, no matter how we try to evade Him with our indifferent attitude or our propensity for sin. The jealousy of God is comparable to the jealous, protective passion of a parent for a child. As a mother, I know what that kind of love is like.
When our son was only six weeks old, he developed a potentially serious medical condition. When the doctor told us to immediately bring Jered to the hospital for tests, I panicked. Dan rushed home from work and we raced to the hospital where we were met by caring nurses and our wonderful pediatrician. After an extensive exam, the doctor said, "Okay. Let's get an IV in this little man and get him upstairs for x-rays." Seeing the look on my face, Dr. Schultz wrapped his arm around my shoulders and said, "He is going to be fine. We will take good care of him." Words of comfort, but they were not nearly enough to assuage my anguish as I pictured needles being thrust into my precious baby. And he couldn't eat in case they had to do surgery! Jered was all about eating. After his regular feeding time came and went, he screamed for food until he was hoarse. I cried along with him because I knew he was hungry, but I couldn't feed him or make him understand why I couldn't feed him.
The nurses, obviously accustomed to dealing with almost hysterical mothers like me, reassured me repeatedly that everything was going to be fine. I wanted proof! This was not just any baby they were dealing with. Jered was my baby! I fully expected the claws to pop out of the ends of my fingers at any moment because, for the first time in my life, I understood what a mama bear must feel like when her cub is threatened.
The nurse assigned to insert Jered's IV was wonderful. I held him tightly as she expertly inserted the needle and quickly secured it with surgical tape. She then took a Styrofoam cup, cut it in half and taped it over the needle so Jered couldn't accidently kick it out. And let me tell you, he was indeed kicking at this point!
The nurse then left the room so I could rock my baby and try to calm him down. Just as he drifted off to sleep, the door slammed open. An x-ray technician wheeled a gurney into the room and sharply ordered, "Let's go!" He had no idea who he was dealing with. My husband did and quickly took charge, escorting the technician into the hallway. "We will carry Jeredup to the x-ray floor and will be glad to follow you," he told the man, "but we will not need that gurney until we get there." The technician started to argue but evidently reconsidered when his eyes found mine and he caught my death glare. "Fine," he said and grabbed the IV pole and told us to follow him.
When we reached the x-ray unit, Dan gently pried Jered out of my arms and laid him on the gurney. The technician said, "We are really backed up today so let's make this quick!" He then jerked the gurney and the IV pole in opposite directions, yanking out the carefully inserted and securely taped IV. Blood spurted out of my son's leg, and he began to scream.
I don't exactly remember what happened next, but Dan does. He says I scooped Jered up in my arms and stomped my foot so loudly that nurses came running as I growled at the offending young man. I guess the technician had reached his patience limit, too, because he glared back at me and said, "Lady, do you need to leave this unit?" Dan began calculating how he was going to raise my bail money when, out of the corner of his eye, he saw me approach the doomed technician, plant my finger in his chest, and whisper through clenched teeth, "Listen carefully to me, young man. I know you have a job to do, but you need to understand something right now! This is my baby! I am not going anywhere! And you need to watch how you treat him!" The young man quickly apologized ... as did I ... sort of ... but I meant every word I had spoken. Fortunately, the x-rays confirmed that Jered did not need to have surgery. Afterward, he gulped down twofull bottles in record time, and I let the technician live – and we headed home instead of to jail. I was and still am a jealous parent, passionate and zealous about my children.
Don't doubt for a minute that God is jealous for you, Girlfriend. He is standing right beside you, wrapping His arms of love around your wounded heart. Listen closely as He declares that you are His child. You belong to Him and He is not going anywhere! He is El Kannah, forever with you and pursuing you with all of His love-filled heart.
Let's Pray
Father God, I am just flat-out amazed by the way You love me. To think that You are jealous for me rocks my world! I know me ... and I simply cannot comprehend why You love me so much. But God, by sheer faith, I thank You and praise You for loving me and pursuing me – even when I don't want to be found. Thank You for never letting me go. Help me to love You more and share that love with others.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Deuteronomy 28:14: "You must not turn away from any of the commands I am giving you today, nor follow after other gods and worship them" (NLT).
Notice that God first mentions turning away from His commands before He warns us not to follow or worship other gods. What is the relationship between the two commands?
Examine your life for anything that stands between you and God. Are you willing to lay it down today? Write out a prayer of commitment in your journal.
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Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join.
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February 19, 2013
What's in Your Love Pocket?
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! If you have a heart...then this one is for you tooJAnd while you're reading, pray for your friends that are married. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Also, give a special blessing by passing these devotions along to them! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitternessgrows up to trouble you, corrupting many, (Hebrews 12:15 NLT).
Friend to Friend
One of the most common reasons for a wife to withhold love and affection from her husband is unforgiveness. A seed of resentment can grow into a well established root of bitterness that produces hurtful words and destroys a marriage like kudzu on a beautiful hillside. Maybe you've been hurt. Maybe you feel that your husband doesn't deserve encouraging words or affectionate touches. After all, what's he done to encourage you lately?
A young lady went to my friend, Florence Littaeur, with a tale of hostility toward her husband. As she poured out all his misdeeds, they seemed so trivial that Florence asked her when her feelings of hatred had started. She replied quickly, "I was mad at him before we even got married."
She went on to explain that her fiancé had written a letter instructing her to find a car for their honeymoon trip. She had answered that it was his responsibility to provide transportation and besides, his family had three cars while hers had only one. He made it clear: "If you want to marry me, you had better find a car!" She found a car, but she vowed she would never forget his injustice.
She looked up at Florence with bitterness lining her face and said, "In case you don't believe me, I'll show you the letter he wrote." She reached into her handbag and pulled out a worn and tattered envelope that had moved from bag to bag for ten years. As she handed it to Florence she said, "I always carry it with me so I won't forget."
I doubt that any of us carry around a letter in our purses or our pockets, but I wonder how many of us carry around a letter in our hearts – the real love pocket. The writer of Hebrews warns, "Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many," (Hebrews 12:15 NLT). A bitter root is one that produces bitter fruit. A bitter heart is one that produces a bitter woman with bitter words.
Jesus reminds us: "No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thorn bushes, or grapes from briars. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks" (Luke 6:43). What determines the fruit of a tree? The root – bitter or sweet.
So, what's in your "love pocket?" What's in your heart? Do you have any list of wrongs that need to be destroyed? Any past offense that needs to be tossed? Any sin against you that needs to be tossed into the deepest of seas where God has tossed yours? It's time to clean out your pockets. Are you willing to let it go?
Let's Pray
Lord, my love pocket is full of old messy stuff. That's just the best way to describe it. I'm cleaning it out today. Just like my purse gets full of gum wrappers, receipts, and to-do lists, my heart gets full of bitterness and resentment. So today, I'm cleaning it out. Particularly, I am cleaning out any resentment I've stored up against my husband – great or small. Out it goes. Hallelujah!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Just for fun, clean out your purse today. As you look at all that trash, envision cleaning out your heart.
Look up the following verses and note what you learn about forgiveness and unforgiveness.
Luke 11:4
Colossians 3:13
Matthew 6:14-15
Just for fun, click over to my blog page and tell me what trash you cleaned out of your purse at www.sharonjaynes.com. I'll go first: gum wrappers (I'm a big gum chewer!), old grocery lists, 4 receipts that needed to be filed away.
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February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life. But today's devotion doesn't just pertain to marriage, it pertains to life! For more on the scope of forgiveness, see Your Scars are Beautiful to God to learn more about how to let go of past pain and embrace the present purpose.
And if you want to add a little spark to your marriage, join me for my 14-day Romancing Your Man Challenge. Click here to learn more, sign up, and to start receiving your 14-day challenge!
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February 20, 2013
The Potter and the Clay
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Lord, You are our father. We are like clay, and You are the potter; Your hands made us all (Isaiah 64:8, NCV).
Friend to Friend
When our daughter was in pre-school, one of her favorite activities was playing with clay. Danna often pulled her little step stool over to the closet where the clay was stored and almost ceremoniously hauled out the boxes of brightly colored clay. It was like watching a commissioned artist prepare his canvas for the beauty it was about to receive. With great concentration and effort, Danna's little fingers pried open each box. She then thoughtfully and deliberately chose several lumps of clay and then lined them up on the kitchen table where, with the seriousness of an experienced artist, she began to work.
For hours at a time, I would hear Danna singing while pounding, molding, stretching, and creating her unique clay world. Animals, people, flowers, and aliens emerged from the lumps of clay. When she was satisfied that her work was done, Danna announced it was time to "put them up." Translation: it was time to exhibit her clay masterpieces for her dad and brother to see when they came home. Danna met Dan and Jered at the door, took their hands, and escorted them to see her works of art. Then she waited for Dan and Jered to offer the mandatory "oohs" and "aahs" while applauding the artist who created them.
Danna's designs remained on display until they grew hard and brittle. Together, she and I then broke each creation apart, generously sprinkled every piece with water, and placed them back in their containers, allowing the clay to soften until she had another project in mind.
When it comes to spiritual matters, God is the Potter, the Creator, and we are the clay. Like Danna with her creations, He uses the circumstances of our lives to pound, mold, stretch, and shape us according to His vision alone.
God used the relationship between a potter and his clay to illustrate to the prophet Jeremiah His sovereigntyand how He works in the lives of His children to accomplish His perfect plan:
"So I went down to the potter's house, and I saw him working at the wheel. But the pot he was shaping from the clay was marred in his hands; so the potter formed it into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him. Then the Word of the Lord came to me: 'Can I not do with you as this potter does?' declares the Lord. 'Like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in My hand'"(Jeremiah 18:3-6).
Just as in the days of Jeremiah, God still longs for His children to find and live out His mind-blowing plan for our lives—a plan that is far beyond anything we can possibly imagine or conceive on our own. And just as the children of Israel rebelled against God's plan, we tend to doubt His heart and think our frail human plans are better. We sometimes willingly submit to the gentle pressure of the Potter's hands, and other times, we dig in our heels and refuse to budge. Jeremiah understood that God was the Potter and had total control over the shape of the clay. "Can the pot say of the potter, 'He knows nothing'?" (Isaiah 29:16). Of course not, but we often forget that truth. How foolish it would be for the clay to grumble or rebel, but we do! Still, the Potter is faithful and so patient as He continues to mold the clay. If the clay begins to harden in its unfinished state, the Potter loves the clay enough to let it be crushed by the pressures of life. He then sprinkles it with the replenishing water of His presence and power and begins to mold His creation again. The potter never tires of His work, and He never gives up on the potential that was lovingly tucked into our very being from the moment we were conceived in the heart and mind of God.
Because God is a loving father who is more committed to our character than He is to our comfort, godly discipline must often come into play. Although God has the ability to directly give us understanding, His usual teaching method involves more of a "hands on" approach. We gain wisdom as God teaches us His Word and then follows through with application in our daily lives.
The only way for us to become all God desires us to be is to remain pliable in the Potter's hands. When we try to shape ourselves, we fail miserably and often settle for so much less than God has in mind. The Potter wants to create something eternally beautiful. In fact, He wants to make us more like His Son, Jesus!
If we could only trust that His shaping is so much better than anything we could ever create! But in our pride, we honestly think we can do better. The world says we should never give up our rights because if we do, we will lose everything. God says if we surrender all to Him, we will gain everything that is eternally important.
All of us have rough edges that need to be removed. We may even need to be broken and crushed so the Potter's masterful hands can begin again. I have been there many times and can honestly look back and say that the beauty God eventually brought forth was worth the pain.
Total surrender demands that we place ourselves in the Potter's hands with no agenda, no pre-set conditions—giving Him permission to bend us, break us, and change us. As we give up control to Him, like a Master Craftsman He begins to work patiently and lovingly, with a specific plan and one-of-a-kind design in mind. He works through circumstances as well as people, through joy and pain, victory and defeat. He filters every part of our circumstances through His plan, to create in us a life of worth and meaning and purpose.
When we try to direct our lives according to our own agendas and plans, we experience only discontent and frustration. Our soul longs for more and our heart cries out, "Is this all there is?" The truth is that nothing and no one but God can bring us the peace and joy for which we are searching. Are you ready to become the clay and surrender your broken life to the Potter's loving hands? Today is the day!
Let's Pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to live life in my own power. I come to You as the Potter. I am the clay. Right now, I give up and surrender my life completely to You. I choose Your plan over mine. I give You permission to mold me and make me what You want me to be. I will wait before You and seek Your direction. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What has been the plan – according to you – for your life up to this point?
What kind of results has that plan produced? Are you satisfied with those results?
Write a prayer of surrender to God and record it in your journal. Be sure to include the following steps:
· Recognize that you have been trying to live life according to your plan – your agenda.
· Admit that your refusal to surrender your life to God has brought only frustration and emptiness.
· Right now – surrender to God.
· What one of the following actions do you need to take in order to obey God?
_____Join a local church
_____Get involved in a small group or Bible study
_____Read the Bible daily
_____Pray constantly
_____Seek God in everything I do
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Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join.
Are you stressed out - facing financial problems, health issues, or dealing with difficult relationships? God will be your peace. Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, and learn how to transform the promises of the Twenty-third Psalm into easy-to-implement, practical steps that will hand you the keys to stress management.
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Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When God created man, He stepped back and said: "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him," (Genesis 2:18).
The Hebrew word translated "helper" that is used for woman is ezer. It is derived from the Hebrew word used of God and the Holy Spirit, "azar." Both mean "helper" – one who comes alongside to aid, assist or rescue. Ezer appears twenty-one times in the Old Testament. Two times it is used of the woman in Genesis 2, and sixteen times it is used of God or Yahweh as the helper of His people.
The remaining three references appear in the books of the prophets, who use it in reference to military aid. Interestingly the sixteen times the word, ezer, is used of God, it also carries military connotations. "O LORD, be my helper," David cried (Psalm 30:10 NASB). "My father's God was my helper; he saved me from the sword of the Pharaoh," Moses proclaimed (Exodus 18:4). Clearly, the word "ezer" holds a place of great honor. It is a portrait of great strength.
Theologians William Mounce, in his Complete Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words paints a poignant picture:
With so many references to God as our helper, it is obvious that an ezer is in no way inferior to the one who receives help. This is important because this is the word that God uses in Genesis 2:18 when he says about Adam, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." God then forms Eve as his ezer. According to God's design, therefore, the man and the woman, the husband and the wife, have been designed by God to stand together and help each other fight the battles of life. And God is there as the divine ezer to fight with them."
I was surprised to discover that even the Proverbs 31 woman, this woman who has been showcased as a godly role model for centuries, was referred to in military terms. "An excellent wife, who can find?" the passage begins. "Her worth is far above jewels" (Proverbs 31:10 NASB). The New International Version calls her "a wife of noble character." The Amplified Bible describes her as "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." The Hebrew word that is translated "excellent" or "virtuous" can also mean "wealthy, prosperous, valiant, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior." Did you catch that? "Mighty warrior."
I'm not suggesting you replace your jeans with battle fatigues, brooms with rifles, and stilettos with army boots. But I am suggesting that God has given you an amazing role as a prayer warrior on your husband's behalf.
There is a spiritual battle going on all around us, and Paul urges us to be prepared, armed and alert. Paul wrote to the Corinthians: "Though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds," (2 Corinthians 10:3-4).
In my book, What God Really Thinks about Women, I noted the following:
God did not create woman simply because man was lonely or needed a reproductive partner. He intentionally fashioned woman to complete man-to love with him, work with him, rule with him, live life with him, procreate with him, and to fight alongside him. She was a female image bearer in this mysterious union of marriage. Woman was and is a warrior called to fight alongside man in the greatest battle that was yet to come-a battle not fought on the battlefield with guns, but on our knees in prayer.
Through prayer, the enemy's plans are intercepted. Through prayer, the powers, principalities, and authorities of Satan's realm are defeated. Through prayer, the power and provision of God flows into the lives of His people.
Jesus said he has given you power and authority to "overcome all the power of the enemy,' (Luke 10:19). "The one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world," (1 John 4:4). You are an ezer, uniquely fashioned and supernaturally equipped to pray for your husband.
Let's Pray:
In today's prayer, I'll lead you through how to pray for your husband from head to toe.
Dear Lord, today I pray for my husband, from head to toe.
His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:14)
His Neck –That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5; Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His Ring Finger – That he will be true to our marriage vows and that our love will never wane. (Proverb 3:3; Malachi 2:16)
His Legs – That he will stand firm in his faith and not waver. (Psalm 62:6)
His feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
Now It's Your Turn
Consider asking your husband for some specific ways that you can pray for him today.
Look up each of the Scripture references above and make the prayer for your husband specific to his particular needs.
Find one friend with whom you can pray for your marriage. Commit to pray for each other's marriage on a regular basis.
If you prayed for your husband today, from head to toe, click over to my blog page and say, "I've got him covered!"
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I don't think there is any other role for a wife than to pray for her husband. If you would like a laminated card of verses to pray for your husband from head to toe, click over to my webpage to check it out. It will fit into your Bible for quick reference.
14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button in the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
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February 22, 2013
God With Skin On
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Greater love has no one than this; that one lay down his life for his friends (John 15:13, (NIV).
Friend to Friend
A young man who had been raised as an atheist was training to be an Olympic diver. The only religious influence in his life came from his outspoken Christian friend. The young diver never really paid much attention to his friend's sermons, but he heard them often. One night, the diver went to the indoor pool at the college he attended. The lights were all off, but since the pool had big skylights and the moon was bright, there was plenty of light for practice. The young man climbed up to the highest diving board and turned his back to the pool on the edge of the board, arms extended outward. It was then that he saw his shadow on the wall. The shadow of his body was in the shape of a cross. The man felt as if someone was speaking to him. The words of his Christian friend filled his mind. In his heart, he suddenly realized the truth. Instead of diving, he knelt down and finally asked God to come into his life. As the young transformed diver stood to his feet, a maintenance man walked in and turned on the lights. The pool had been drained for repairs.
I often wonder how many desperate people cross my path each day; people who are one step away from certain destruction; people whose very life direction can be changed by the Light of God in and through my interaction with them.
If you are like me, every day is crammed full of tasks, errands, deadlines, demands and activities. I run headlong through each twenty-four hours from the minute my feet hit the floor until I crawl into bed each night. It is in those quiet moments before sleep that I hear Him ask, "Did you make a difference today? Is someone closer to the Light because you told him or her what I have done in your life? Did you recognize that "intruder" or "interruption" as a divine appointment from me instead of an inconvenience? Does what you did today really matter?"
Sadly, I have to confess that I often miss opportunities to participate in eternal business because I am so focused on earthly business. My agenda becomes my god and time management my idol. I could have been "God with skin on" to the frustrated cashier at the grocery store instead of brushing her aside because I was in a hurry to do something I deemed more important. I could have blessed the friend who called, needing an encouraging word, instead of preaching an unsolicited sermon in the name of compassion. I could have taken a few more minutes to listen when the elderly man struck up a conversation with me at the gas pump instead of walking away, leaving him just as lonely as he was when we met.
Jesus would have done things differently. With every breath, He was aware of the hurting and wounded, pursuing the broken people instead of avoiding them. Jesus carefully and deliberately invested every moment of His time on earth. And there has never been a life that made such a difference or mattered so much.
I want my life to really count, don't you? We are never more like God than when we are reaching out in love to meet a need, comfort a broken heart, encourage a weary soul or challenge the darkness with His Light. On your journey today, look for those desperate ones who need you to be God with skin on.
Let's Pray
Father God, I confess to You that I am often too busy to hear Your voice or determine Your direction for my life. Please forgive me for being self-centered. Help me see those who cross my path as You see them. Help me to love them with Your love, drawing them from the darkness into the Light.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What keeps you from recognizing the need in others and then reaching out to meet that need?
Think back to a time when someone reached out to you. What was your response? How did their action change your life?
What difference can an awareness of hurting people make in your daily walk? Identify one person in need today and look for a specific and timely way to meet that need.
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I know this truth is hard to put into action. It is so much easier to just close our eyes to a need...turn away from hurting people...and grieve the heart of God. I challenge you to step out in faith and allow God to work in and through you. And if a difficult relationship is part of the problem, my book, Sandpaper People offers practical steps for dealing with those who rub you the wrong way.
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How Much of Your Marriage Do You Want God to Change?
Sharon Jaynes
(My devotions will focus on marriage for the month of February. If you're not married, I encourage you to read them anyway! This particular one applies to all areas of your life. Also, consider giving a special blessing by passing these devotions along to a married friend! Here we go...)
Today's Truth
Jesus said to the servants, 'Fill the jars with water'; so they filled them to the brim, (John 2:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shortly after Jesus was baptized, he attended a wedding reception in the town of Cana, in Galilee. Apparently Jesus felt very comfortable at such a party, and I imagine Him laughing, mingling, and having a good time with His friends. After a few days, Jesus' mother, Mary, noticed the host was running low on wine. To run out of wine at a seven day Jewish wedding celebration was an embarrassment and disgrace to the hosting family. Mary turned to her Son and said, "They have no more wine," as if she expected Him to do something about it (John 2:3 NIV). I can almost see her raised eyebrow and the mischievous twinkle in her eye.
Jesus said, "Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not yet come."
Mary turned to the servants and said, "Do what ever He tells you." Mary seemed to understand Jesus' power before anyone else.
Jesus told the servants to fill six large thirty gallon stone pots with water. So they filled them "to the brim." Then He told them to draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.
When they did so, the master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He then called the bridegroom aside and said, "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
I often wonder what would have happened if the servants had filled the stone water jars half full or three fourths full. I imagine Jesus would have transformed exactly what they put in. Likewise, God will transform just as much of our lives as we give Him. As for me, I want to "fill it to the brim," give Him all of my life – every bit of it.
It is the same with my marriage. I want to give Jesus all of my marriage...to the brim. So in our winter years, my husband and I will agree...we have saved the best till now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be like the servants who did exactly what you told them to do. My desire is to obey you fully...to the brim. Help me not to hold back anything, but give You all of me so that You can transform all of me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How much of your life do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your life have you given Him?
How much of your marriage do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your marriage have you given Him?
How much of your attitude do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your attitude have you given Him?
How much of your __________ do you want Jesus to transform? (You fill in the blank.) How much have you given Him?
Click over to my blog page and tell me what you put in the blank.
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14-Day Romancing Your Husband Challenge: How would you like to join your girlfriends in a 14-day Romancing Your Husband Challenge? Click over to www.sharonjaynes.com, click on the challenge sign-up button on the right column of the home page, and your 14-day challenge emails will begin. Come on girlfriend, February is the love month - it's time to spice up your marriage.
Today's devotion was taken from Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If there is one area of our lives that we need to give totally to Christ, it is our marriage. Perhaps that's why Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding. If you'd like to learn more, click over to the book and take a look inside.
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Jesus, Take the Wheel
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7, NASB).
Friend to Friend
My husband, Dan, has battled high blood pressure since we first married over thirty years ago. Hmmm...now that I think about it, there just might be a connection there! Nevertheless, for several years, Dan struggled with an irregular heartbeat, a debilitating condition that drains energy and generally promotes a compelling sense of exhaustion.
Now you need to understand something very important about my husband. Dan Southerland is not accustomed to doing anything short of full speed ahead, so you can imagine his frustration and my concern. Little did I know that the opportunity for fear and worry would escalate to a whole new level when, at 2:30 am on March 15, Dan looked at me and said, "Honey, I think you need to call an ambulance." I already had.
Sweat was dripping from his body like rain, followed by waves of excruciating chest pain, dizziness and nausea. The ambulance arrived six minutes after I called and began to work on my now semi-unconscious husband. I heard one paramedic say, "I can't get a blood pressure reading, pulse or vein." Dan gained consciousness for a few seconds to say, "I love you. Go get Danna." I knew what he was saying and I was not having it! I climbed up on the bed beside my precious husband and in my kindest, most merciful voice said, "Honey, if you die, I will absolutely kill you! You are not going anywhere! You are staying right here! Do you understand me?" That declaration certainly grabbed the attention of the paramedics whose heads snapped up to see the lunatic wife in action. I then called for reinforcements. "Danna, get in here," I yelled to our 20-year-old daughter who was already dressed and standing behind me. If her eyes had not been twice their normal size, I would never have known she was terrified. "What's up, Dad?" she asked. That's my girl! The paramedics finally got an IV going and within minutes, Dan was feeling much better.
A quick sidebar: For weeks, I had been telling Dan how much I loved Carrie Underwood's song, "Jesus Take the Wheel."
The paramedics lifted Dan onto a stretcher and into the ambulance. Danna said, "Mom, you ride with Dad. I'll follow you so we will have a car at the hospital." As I climbed into the passenger side of the ambulance, the radio was on and the first words I heard were "I can't do this on my own. Jesus, take the wheel." God's peace settled around my heart and soul like a familiar friend and I celebrated the love of a God who cares enough about His daughter that He played her favorite song at the precise moment she needed to hear it. You see, when the paramedic climbed into the driver's seat, he said, "I'm sorry, Mrs. Southerland, but we can't have the radio on during a call." I smiled and responded, "I didn't turn it on. It was on when I got in." His eyes said it all. "This woman is nuts!" But I knew the presence of God was in that ambulance, with my husband and whatever we were facing.
Why do we doubt Him? Why do we worry? Yes, He is Lord of the Universe, but He is also Friend of the wounded heart and Shepherd of every valley. He is Love. He is Peace.
Over the next nine days, Dan was in the hospital where I think they ran every possible test that can be run on the human heart. After a defibrillator was inserted in Dan's chest, he left the hospital and has been going full speed ever since. God was with me every step of the way and He will be there for you, my friend. No matter where you are, no matter how hopeless your circumstances may seem, no matter how deep and dark the pit – He is at work in and around you. Just give up and surrender the wheel of your life, trusting Him to make a way where there is no way.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I give in to fear and worry instead of stepping out in faith and believing You. I want to become a woman who trusts You – no matter what. My faith is small, but I now choose to place it in You.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scripture tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God. Matthew 17:20 also tells us that even a tiny amount of faith pleases Him. (Jesus) replied, "I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, it grows into a huge tree. Jesus said a little faith has incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God and our faith depends on Him!
What is the greatest storm in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that trial with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
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Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join.
Are you stressed out - facing financial problems, health issues, or dealing with difficult relationships? God will be your peace. Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, and learn how to transform the promises of the Twenty-third Psalm into easy-to-implement, practical steps that will hand you the keys to stress management.
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February 27, 2013
It's Not About Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Let them praise the name of the LORD, for his name alone is exalted; his splendor is above the earth and the heavens," (Psalm 148:13 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Some of my Girlfriends in God are not going to like this devotion. I'm not even sure I do. But I'm going to put it out there anyhow. During the month of February, I write devotions on marriage. It is the month of love, and marriages certainly are in shambles all around the world. It is a month when I celebrate marriage!
Each February, I am flooded with e-mails: some are appreciative for the reminders on how to love their husbands, some are hurting because they are in their own struggling marriage, and some are broken hearted because of shattered dreams. These women are so thankful for the balm of God's truth in a very tender area of their lives.
But I also receive e-mails from women who are not married, who do not like the attention to marriage at all. They are flat out angry and frustrated because the devotions do not pertain to them. The same type of complaints comes in during the month of May when I write about Motherhood. And girlfriend, some of those e-mails are not pretty.
I've seen the same thing in church. "I didn't like that sermon." "I didn't like the singing today." "I couldn't relate to that teaching."And on and on we go. You know what I've discovered...It's not about me. It is all about God. If the pastor is preaching on a topic that is not my struggle, I pray that God will open my eyes to new truths that I've never seen. If he is talking about losing a loved one, I pray for those who have lost a loved one recently...even though that not might not be my struggle at that particular time. Is the teaching on raising young children? I have a grown son, so I pray for those who are in the throes of raising the next generation.
One Sunday, I was singing in church. Barely singing, I might add. It was a dry old hymn and I just wasn't into it. Then I looked at an older women a few seats down and she had tears trickling down her wrinkled face. She was moved to tears by that old hymn and was taken to the throne room of grace. "Oh Father," I prayed. "Please forgive me. This is not about me. It's not about what I like or dislike. It is all about You. Truth is truth. Worship is worship. Help my focus be on You and You alone. It's not about me.
Listen to how David focused on God during worship:
Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.
He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge.
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.Psalm 62:5-8
Teach me your ways, O LORD, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.
I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever.
Psalm 86:1112
So let's commit to remember together...it's not about me. It's all about God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me when I make worship and Bible study all about me. The purpose of my worship is to give glory to You and You alone, not to make me feel better. The purpose of Bible study is to learn what Your Word has to say about Your character and Your ways and to discover the truths that lead me into the way of righteousness. I praise You! I thank You! I worship You!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Here is a fun exercise. Go back and pick out one of your favorite chapters in the Bible. Now, focus on the verses that you DID NOT underline.
Here is a wonderful Psalm to use for your extended prayer time today. Open your Bible to Psalm 136 and pray that prayer of praise with David. Don't skip over the repeated refrains...His love endures forever! He repeats it for a reason. David meant it. God wants us to get it!
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I will be beginning a new on-line Bible study from my book A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. If you feel like something is missing in your spiritual life, then this study is for you. Here's a little good news: the answer is not found in what God wants from you, but what God wants for you. It's not too late to sign up. I'd love for you to join us. Click here to learn more and sign up. The sign up is on the right hand side of the page.
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February 28, 2013
A Place Called Home
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"For this world is not our permanent home; we are looking forward to a home yet to come" (Hebrews 13:14, NLT).
Friend to Friend
It had been a wonderful evening with our daughter, Danna, and her sixteen-month-old son, Justus. We ate dinner at one of our favorite restaurants to celebrate Danna's graduation and the fact that we all survived the grueling schedule her school had demanded. Since our daughter is basically a party looking for a place to happen and can tell a mean story, we laughed until we cried as Danna described her encounter that day with a teacher who seemed to be preoccupied with blue cornbread. I am not kidding! Justus may not have understood what his mom was saying, but he joined in the family celebration with gusto - laughing and clapping his little hands. After a delicious meal, we climbed into the car and headed home.
When we pulled into our neighborhood, Justus began clapping and pointing ... at something. We were clueless until we pulled into the driveway and our sweet little man laughed and bounced with excitement in his car seat. Justus was glad to be home.
At that precise moment, a line from one of my favorite movies, Apollo 13, popped into my mind. "Houston, we have a problem" may very well be one of the greatest understatements of all time. The astronauts faced seemingly impossible odds of getting back to earth but refused to give up the fight until they splashed down in the waters of home.
We all long for a safe place to call home. When life brutally thrusts us into a world of fear and uncertainty, it is hard to trust God. Shaky circumstances rattle our faith. Relief seems like a remote possibility and that light at the end of the tunnel really is the headlight of another trial headed our way. The hits just keep coming and we wonder if our world will ever be right again.
We all come into this world with a sense of being lost. Tucked into the corner of our souls is a feeling of restlessness ... a longing for home, for something or someone eternal. That longing will never be satisfied outside of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He holds each today and every tomorrow in His hands. Nothing and no one but Jesus Christ can fill that "God-shaped" hole in our heart.
I have come to cherish that desperate cry of my heart that drives me to my knees and into the arms of God, my Father. Each and every time I come to Him, He whispers, "It will be all right. You are not home - yet."
No, this broken world is not my final home because I know God and He knows me. I have surrendered my life to Him and can face tomorrow because Jesus Christ lives. Yes, this world is just the beginning of the eternity for which I was created. I am just passing through, but while I am here, I have a God-sized job to do, an extraordinary mission to complete and a wonderful purpose to fulfill. So do you! It doesn't get any better than that, girlfriend.
As you dive into your hectic schedule, remember that one day, we will be home - with Him - but until then, trust God here and now. Guard your hearts and mind by filling them with God's Word. Hold fast to the true meaning of following God and don't let go! Look for ways to share the message of God's unconditional love. Embrace that longing for home and trust God to get you there.
Let's Pray
Father, I love You and am so thankful for the hope that life holds because I know You. I praise You and celebrate the truth that I am not alone, nor will I ever be. I will lack nothing because You are my Provider. I can sing in the midst of every storm because You are sufficient. I praise You and long for Home, but until then, help me to be all that You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever experienced loneliness or a sense of loss during or after the Christmas season? I encourage you to prepare for it beforehand. The best way to get ready for a difficult time is to stay ready for a difficult time. In other words, now is the time to prepare your heart and mind for the holidays.
Make time each day to be alone with God.
Pour out your dreams and desperation to Him.
Read Psalm 23 once a day.
Invest at least 15 minutes in solitude each day, allowing your soul to "catch up."
Make a list of the top five joy thieves in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Prayerfully choose five verses of Scripture about peace. Write these verses on a 3X5 card and carry it with you. Consider making this idea a family project.
Do this for a month and then evaluate the difference it has made in your ability to trust God in every difficult circumstance.
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Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join.
Are you stressed out - facing financial problems, health issues, or dealing with difficult relationships? God will be your peace. Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, and learn how to transform the promises of the Twenty-third Psalm into easy-to-implement, practical steps that will hand you the keys to stress management.
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March 1, 2013
Becoming More Fruitful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 1:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
On a family visit to the beach, our room had a balcony that overlooked the swimming pool. I sat on the balcony one morning and watched as a maintenance man for the resort approached a palm tree and pulled a brown, life-less branch from under the green leaves. Oddly, before he pulled the dead branch, I hadn't even noticed it was there. After he pulled it, however, I noticed that the palm tree looked fresh and vibrant. Healthy. The pruning made such a difference!
Jesus spoke to His disciples and said, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. This is to my Father's glory, thatyou bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples." John 15:1-8, NIV
The maintenance man at the resort didn't pull the branch off to hurt the palm tree. He pruned it to increase its beauty, health and vibrancy. God does the same for us. He prunes His children to increase our beauty, health and vibrancy for our good and for His glory - to make us more useful to Him and more fruitful.
Are there any dead branches hanging on the tree of you?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for Your perfect love that longs for me to be fruitful and beautiful in You. Please remove any life-less branches in my life. As the psalmist prayed: "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23-24, NIV).
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How fruitful is your life?
Read John 15:1-17 and spend some time reflecting on God's plan for you to become more fruitful.
Click over to my Facebook page and tell me how today's devotion spoke to your heart. What lessons are you learning? I'd love to hear about it. Visit me at www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
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It seems kind of weird that we should want to go through the pain of pruning, doesn't it? It reminds me a bit of the old workout saying, "No pain, no gain." When you allow the Lord to expose dead branches in your life and to strip them away, a simple, radiant beauty remains. You become a more vibrant reflection of Him and become better equipped to bear fruit. Trust Him, friend...no matter what or whom He may call you to give up.
Gwen has a new website filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that we believe will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Please swing by to visit: www.GwenSmith.net. (Get a FREE song download when you sign up for her newsletter!)
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March 4, 2013
Gratitude Changes Things
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Give thanks in all circumstances," (1 Thessalonians 5:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Paul wrote the Thessalonians, "Give thanks in all circumstances," (1 Thessalonians 5:18). We read that verse and think it rather nice. So we slap a sloppy coat of thanksgiving on life and go about our day. In reality, most of us are thankful for very little.
Notice the Bible doesn't command us to feel thankful in all circumstances. Instead it commands us to "give thanks in all circumstances." When I begin to praise God in a difficult situation, even if I don't feel like it, many times the scales fall from my eyes and I begin to see glimpses of His glory sprinkled on the black backdrop of the situation like diamonds on black velvet. Sometimes I don't see glory in tragedy, but I still can praise God because I know He is there.
Gratitude changes the lens through which we see the circumstances in our little slice of time. Thanksgiving changes our perspective despite broken dreams, broken relationships, tumultuous circumstances, and unfulfilled longings. As you praise God for who He is and thank Him for what He's done, your perspective of Him grows larger and your problems grow smaller. As a result, you will experience a deeper sense of intimacy with God as the emotional gap between what you know to be true and how you feel at the moment closes.
On many occasions in the Psalms, David complained about his circumstances (Psalms 42, 57, 62). But more often than not, about midway through David's laments, he begins praising God for who He is and thanking God for what He's done. And you know what happens? All of a sudden David starts feeling better! Life isn't so bad after all! His problems grow smaller as his perspective of God grows larger, and he begins to see God's glory shining through the situation.
Why is that? In the writing of one little Psalm, David shifted from depression to rejoicing. He didn't wait until God changed his situation, solved his problem, or made him feel better before he began thanking Him. Oh friend, when we stop complaining and grumbling and begin speaking God's love language of gratitude, our perspective will change as well. We will begin seeing moments of sudden glory through the lens of praise and thanksgiving—glory moments that were there all along, but hidden from the grumbling eye.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I praise Your name. I exalt Your name forever. Even though I may not understand what is going on in my life, I trust that You are good and Your plans are good. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, read Psalm 145,146, and 147. Take note of all the Psalmist praised God for.
If you're really industrious, read Psalm 148, 149 and 150. How do each one of these Psalms begin.
Make a list of then things you are thankful for and share them on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com.
More from the Girlfriends
Seeing God through the lens of gratitude and grace is one of the themes of my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It's a great book to help you experience God's presence on a daily basis. But if you have trouble with grumbling, complaining, and controlling your tongue, I'd suggest delving into my book, The Power of a Woman's Words. What a great New Year's Resolution: CONTOL MY TONGUE! You can find them both on my website at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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March 5, 2013
The Love of God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever" (Psalm 136:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The story is told of a young boy who carved a small sailboat from a block of wood. When the boat was finished, he couldn't wait to try it out! Racing to a nearby stream, the boy knelt on the shore, gently slid the boat into the water and let it go. With a quiet reverence, the boy watched his precious boat gather speed as it floated away. He did not realize that there was an undercurrent in the stream until the boat was swept away beyond his reach. His precious boat was gone! The little boy frantically searched until there was no light but could not find his boat. With a heavy heart, the young boy headed home.
Several days later, the little boy was walking down the main street of his small town, when he saw a wooden boat in the toy store window. He couldn't believe his eyes! It was his boat! The boy raced inside and came face-to-face with the owner of the store. "Mister, that's my boat!" he cried. The owner frowned in disbelief and said, "Young man, I just bought that boat. If you want it, you'll have to buy it from me!" Near tears, the boy exclaimed, "Please, sir! I worked so hard on that boat, and then I lost it! It really is mine!" The owner shook his head and said, "Nevertheless, I paid good money for it and you will have to buy it back if you want it."
The little boy raced home, emptied his piggy bank and ran back to the store, his savings clutched tightly in his little hands. He dumped all of his money on the counter and asked, "Is it enough?" The owner smiled and handed him the boat. The little boy cradled the precious boat in his arms and said, "Little boat, you are twice mine. Once because I made you and once because I bought you."
God loves you. He created you. The words of Psalm 139 beautifully express the heart of God toward each one of us: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be" (Psalm 139:13-16).
A healthy self-image is not one of pride or arrogance, but rather one that coincides with God's viewpoint. It is learning to accept God's evaluation of who we are, learning to see ourselves as God sees us, no more and no less, learning who we are in His eyes and giving Him permission to make us what He designed us to be. In His eyes, every person is valuable. We are all sinful and broken, wounded and sick, and He loves us still. In fact, Jesus is drawn toward brokenness. Broken people are why He came. With tenacity and stubborn love, He pursues those others may only shun – like the woman at the well.
John 4:5-9 "Eventually he came to the Samaritan village of Sychar, near the parcel of ground that Jacob gave to his son Joseph. Jacob's well was there; and Jesus, tired from the long walk, sat wearily beside the well about noontime. Soon a Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, 'Please give me a drink.' He was alone at the time because his disciples had gone into the village to buy some food. The woman was surprised, for Jews refuse to have anything to do with Samaritans" (NLT).
Little is known about this woman and what we do know is not good. She was immoral and spiritually ignorant, an outcast despised by the Jews and even by her own people. She was very popular with the men of the village who bought her to satisfy their own physical pleasure and then tossed her aside like a broken, damaged and used doll. I am certain this woman had no illusions about the fact that she meant absolutely nothing to these men. In the beginning, she may have convinced herself that they cared for her and perhaps even loved her, but I imagine that illusion was short-lived. In fact, while studying her life, I have many times wondered if there had ever been a man in her life that she could love or trust. I do not know what drove this woman to such an empty and futile existence, but I do know as far as Jesus was concerned, that old life was over. It did not matter to Him. He looked at this woman through eyes of healing and forgiveness and saw His precious child. He just loved her – right where she was and just as she was. He recognized her worth, her value – and He loved her.
God loves you. He paid for your sin. God defined His unconditional and relentless love for you and for me when He sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to earth as a baby. And Jesus said, "Yes!" What an amazing gift! The love of God for us compelled Jesus Christ to willingly exchange a throne for a manger, divinity for humanity and Heaven for Earth.
John 3:16 (NIV) "For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son,that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life."
God's love changes everything and everyone who receives it. God's love protects and breathes life and purpose into every minute of every day. God's love is a gift beyond measure that surrounds us and covers us when the fire of life rains down.
I know many of you are experiencing those fires of life this year. No job and no prospect of one. Someone you love is very ill or maybe you are the one battling to survive each day. A rebellious child has broken your heart. A secret addiction is slowly destroying your life. Your spouse packed his bags and walked out the front door because he no longer wants to be married.
Do not believe the lies of the enemy when he tells you that your God has forsaken you. God is with you – Emmanuel. He endured the cross, completely and absolutely alone because He loves you. No one can take your place in the Father's heart. God knows your pain and He understands. God created you and paid for your sin for one reason alone – He loves you. Not because you are so lovable, but because He is love.
Let's Pray
God, I need Your love. My life is filled with scars and wounds that can be healed by Your love alone. I celebrate the love You so freely offer. I accept the gift of Your love and thank You for its transforming power in my life. I love You, Father.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize John 3:16. Record it in your journal.
John 3:16 (NIV) "For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son,that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life."
Write the verse in your own words.
Write the verse and make it personal by inserting your name. For example, "For God so loved _________, that He gave His one and only Son, that if ___________ believes in Him, ______________ will have eternal life.
More from the Girlfriends
Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. The first study of 2013 is Power Up With Proverbs, and since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join.
Are you stressed out - facing financial problems, health issues, or dealing with difficult relationships? God will be your peace. Get Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, and learn how to transform the promises of the Twenty-third Psalm into easy-to-implement, practical steps that will hand you the keys to stress management.
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March 6, 2013
Getting the Joyless You Unstuck
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them saying, 'This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me. In the same way, after the supper, he took the cup..." (Luke 22:19 emphasis added NIV).
Friend to Friend
When we live a life of intentional gratitude, we begin to frame how we see our circumstances. I put my favorite photos in frames so I can see them often. They bring me joy as I pass through the room. A smiling five-year-old Steven with his brand-new Golden Retriever puppy. A strong man-child dressed in a graduation cap and gown. A passel of sun-kissed nieces and nephews standing on the beach with arms on shoulders, windblown hair, and laughing faces. My husband and son wading in the lake at sunset ready to be baptized together. These are pictures that say...remember.
Gratitude has been called the "memory of the heart." Praise and gratitude bring up pictures in our minds that say, "Remember."
Isn't that what Jesus did in the last twelve hours of His life as He broke the bread and passed the cup? "And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them saying, 'This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me. In the same way, after the supper, he took the cup..." (Luke 22:19). Remember. Give thanks.
Glory moments will come and go, sometimes, most times, rather quickly. We must grab hold, savor the moment in the moment, and then remember.
David invites us, "O magnify the LORD with me, And let us exalt His name together" (Psalm 34:3 NASB). When we praise and thank God, we magnify Him--make Him easier to see. A thankful heart opens the windows of heaven that allow us to peek at glory moments all around. Glimpses. Foretastes of our heavenly home that revive our hope and make us hungry for more of Him.
Why does God want us to give thanks and punctuate all of life with gratitude? He knows that gratitude gives birth to joy. Again, it is not what God wants from us, but what God wants for us. Joy. Thanksgiving in "all things" squeezes difficult circumstances until joy oozes out of us. Fruit, if it had a say in the matter, would not like the squeezing, but it is the only way to get the sweet juice past the tough dimpled skin to the outside. Otherwise it would stay locked away until the fruit shriveled up and died.
Perhaps your relationship with God has come to the plateau of routine, passionless religion—as if your faith is stuck on the sandbar of mediocrity when it is truly meant to sail the seas of the joyful life. So what will lift your boat? What will get the joyless you "unstuck?" I suggest the language of a grateful heart will swell the tide to lift your soul from the sandbar and loosen you from the hold of the sucking muck below. Give it a try. As Jonah showed us, the way out of the belly of the whale is praise.
When I feel distant from God, gratitude and praise is often the ramp to get me back on the right road. When I have strayed from acknowledging His presence, when I have forgotten in him we live and move and have our being, when I have made me big and God small, gratitude leads me back to right relationship with Him. And then I wonder why I ever would be so careless as to drift away in the first place.
In previous devotions, I mentioned starting your own Sudden Glory journal. In that journal, you can list all that you are grateful for on any given day. After all, realizing and recognizing what God has provided are some of the most resplendent moments of sudden glory you'll see. Then, on the gray days, when you find yourself in a grumpy mood (come on, I know it happens), pull out your Sudden Glory journal and review all the reasons you have to be thankful! I guarantee it will change your perspective and brighten your day.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Jesus. Thank you for the many ways You have made Your presence and working know to me. Thank you for waking me up this morning. For legs that stand, feet that walk, eyes that see, a heart that beats, fingers that grasp, eye lids that blink, wrinkly skinned knees that bend, crow's feet that show I've smiled at life, brown spots that prove I've loved the sun, calluses that show I've worked with my hands in delight.
Thank you, Jesus.
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 136 and note the Psalmist's Sudden Glory entry. Use this Psalm as a pattern and write your own entry today!
More from the Girlfriends
Seeing God through the lens of gratitude and grace is one of the themes of my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It's a great book to help you experience God's presence on a daily basis. But if you have trouble with grumbling, complaining, and controlling your tongue, I'd suggest delving into my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.You can find them both on my website at www.sharonjaynes.com.
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March 7, 2013
Check the Label
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"When Jesus saw her, he called her forward and said to her, 'Woman, you are set free from your infirmity' " (Luke 13:12).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wondered if God even knows your name? Have you doubted His awareness or even His concern about what you are going through? Have there been times when you felt totally alone and worthless? I have. I can really relate to the woman described in Luke 13. Oh, our problems may not be exactly the same, but the feelings and emotions are – and so is the answer.
Jesus knew this woman. He knew she had been sick for 18 long years and that she had tried everything to be healed. He knew – but He looked past her pain and saw who she really was, and all she was created to be. He could have called her by name, but instead He said, "Woman." Jesus included her whole identity in that name; everything she was at that moment, everything she had been in the past, everything she hoped to be in the future. He knew every detail of her life, and He loved her. And just as He loved this broken woman, He loves you.
Truth: Your identity was established before the world began, in the heart and mind of God.
This woman had been assigned an identity by the relentless illness that plagued her body. Anyone who knew her identified her by that illness. Her heart must have been filled with feelings of unworthiness. I imagine she felt unwanted and unloved. She must have felt like a nobody. But when Jesus saw her, He looked at her through different eyes and called her to Himself. With one word from Him, everything changed and would never be the same again. All of a sudden, she was somebody.
There she stood, sick and in pain to the point that she was completely doubled over. Imagine what she felt when she realized that Jesus was talking to her. He was calling her - an outcast. And when she heard His voice, she heard something she hadn't heard for a very long time, if ever. She heard the unfamiliar but longed-for voice of love.
Many of us feel unwanted and unloved, but we can be assured that God knows us and loves us just as we are and right where we are, in the midst of our mess and sickness. One of my favorite verses of Scripture is Jeremiah 1:5: "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart." Your identity was established before the world began, in the heart and mind of God. Before you were wanted or not wanted by human hearts, before you were planned or not planned by human minds, you were wanted and planned in the heart and mind of God. Created by God...for God. Wow! That makes you important. You are valuable—and the simple but almost unbelievable reason is that God created you. You can judge a product's worth and value by looking at the one who made it.
Years ago, I had a garage sale to get rid of our old stuff so we could buy some new stuff. We especially needed a new sofa. Our old one was truly pathetic. I made just enough money from the garage sale to buy a new sofa, and headed for the furniture outlet. I walked in with a certain amount of money to spend and a definite idea of what I wanted, so I avoided the salesmen and began my search. I narrowed the choice down to two sofas. Both were in my price range - cheap - and both would work in my living room. I saw a salesman making a beeline for me, sensing a sale in the air. Before he could say a word, I whirled around and asked, "If I were your wife, which one of these would you tell me to buy?" Without the slightest hesitation he pointed to one of the sofas. Curious, I said, "Why did you choose that one?" He shrugged his shoulders and replied, "Easy. That one is a trusted brand name you will recognize and is made with quality. The other one is just a cheap imitation. You should always check the label."
Take a look at your label found in Psalm 139:13-16: For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
Grab hold of the truth that God knows you, loves you and is for you. And that is all you need to face whatever life brings your way.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me just as I am. Right now, I accept Your love as the priceless gift it is. Help me see myself through Your eyes. Teach me to understand the truth that my worth and value rest in You alone – not in the eyes of man. Today, I choose to step out in faith to become the woman You created me to be.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Matthew 10:30 How does this verse help you understand how special you are to God? Record your thoughts in your journal.
Read Psalm 139:13-16. How do these verses prove God planned you, chose you and loves you? Record your thoughts in your journal.
Write a letter to God, giving Him thanks for what He has done in your life and celebrating His love that is your perfect provision.
More from the Girlfriends
Since each lesson stands alone, it is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
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March 8, 2013
Let's Run Away
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And don't let us yield to temptation.(Matthew 6:13, NLT)
Friend to Friend
It was a windy winter day. Our three dogs needed to stretch their legs and get a bit of outside playtime, so I let them out to roam freely in our fenced-in back yard. An hour later, my husband asked me where the dogs were.
"Out back," I replied.
"Honey, the wind blew that gate wide open and only Rocky is on the deck! How long ago did you let them out?" He asked.
"An hour ago!" I exclaimed, as feelings of unease crept into my heart.
Grabbing our jackets and our shoes, Brad and I bolted outside and began to scour the neighborhood looking for our two runaway dogs.
"Roman! Steeler! Come!" We yelled endlessly into the biting wind.
After covering several blocks of our neighborhood, having seen no traces of our dogs, I ran home to get my car. While Brad continued to search on foot, I began to drive around and call out for Roman and Steeler from my car. My stomach was in knots, my heart was gripped with ache, and my mind swirled with longing and prayers for our very-much-loved pets to come home. Please, be safe doggies! Please, Lord, help us find our dogs.
We searched and searched. No dogs.
Our phone number is on their I.D. tags! I thought. Maybe someone saw them wandering and took them into their home to call us.
I drove home quickly to check our voicemail. No voicemail.
I decided to stay by the phone in case someone called. Brad continued to search by driving through our development and the surrounding neighborhoods. After a long while, he returned... without Roman and Steeler. We were crushed. Though we had been praying for the Lord to help us find our dogs the whole time, with heavy hearts we prayed some more.
And we waited.
More than three long hours after the dogs had run away, our phone rang. Hope sprang to my heart as I heard the question from the other end of the line, "Do you have two missing dogs?"
"Yes, ma'am! Their names are Roman and Steeler! We've looked everywhere for them! Are they with you?"
"Yes they are. I saw them playing outside by the street and thought that they must belong to somebody, so I called them over. They ran right to me and I've got them in my house. They are both a good bit dirty and a little bit scared, and the small one is limping slightly... but they are safe," she said.
The skies parted and angels appeared in the clouds singing, "Hallelujah!" as I jumped up to grab a pen to write down her address. They were safe! Thank You, Lord!
Roman and Steeler had wandered over a mile away from our home.
Over a mile!
We scooped them up from the kind woman's house as fast as we could and rejoiced in their homecoming. They needed to be cleaned, cared for, and held. And that's exactly what we did: cleaned them, cared for them and held them. Oh, how we held them! And as I spoke with gentle, reassuring words to my small, limping dog it wasn't lost on me... the parallels between them and me. Between them and all of us wanderers.
God has established boundaries in His Word. They are beautiful boundaries surrounding wide-open spaces of His blessing, purposed to bring Him glory, allowing us to thrive in life and to keep us safe from harm. Yet we wander. Oh, how we wander... through so many different gates of temptation.
What is your open gate of temptation? Is it worry, fear, or doubt? Is it food, alcohol, shopping, money, or a good-looking guy who needs to be off your radar? Everybody faces temptations, and while being tempted isn't a sin, giving into temptation is. Jesus himself faced temptation and He demonstrated that we are to ask God for help. "And don't let us yield to temptation." (Matthew 6:13, NLT)
Promise of Deliverance
What should we do when we face temptation? We should call out to God. He promises to give us a way out of any temptation. No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Because he himself (Jesus) suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.(Hebrews 2:18)
The wind had blown hard on the day of our doggie drama. Our two furry friends had been allured by the temptations of an open gate. They gave in – disregarding the boundaries that had been established for their safety and wellbeing – and ventured out into dangerous territory where cars wisped by and other dangers loomed. Thankfully, they made it home safe. We are fully aware that the outcome of their rebellion could've ended horribly.
Friend, we need to be on high alert. Gates are going to fly open. Temptations are going to come and we need to be ready to run from them. God will give us the strength to resist each one - if we will only ask for His help.
SO... Let's run away today! Not from the fence of God's protection, but rather from the gate of temptation.
Let's run away from any gate that flies open. And let's pray that the Lord will keep us from yielding to temptation.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times that I've wandered from Your plan for me and given into temptation. Teach me Your ways. Lead me to make choices that bring You glory and that allow me to experience the life You intended for me to live. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are your gates of temptation?
What is God's best for you concerning these temptations?
Do you trust that God's boundaries are for your good? Why or why not?
More From the Girlfriends
I've posted a photo of Roman and Steeler on my blog and on my facebook page today. Swing by to put the doggy faces to the names! While you're there, please let me know if the Lord used today's devotion to stir your awareness of a personal temptation.
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March 11, 2013
Forgiving Yourself
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness," (1 John 1:9, NIV)
Friend to Friend
An email comes to me hundreds of times every year. The names are different, the situations are varied, but the underlying theme is the same...I can't forgive myself. Grace just doesn't make sense. I don't deserve to be forgiven.
And these women are right...grace doesn't make earthly sense. We don't deserve it. We keep reliving the Garden story with ingratitude and believing Satan's lie, and then grace shows up with an outstretched hand. "I don't deserve it," we cry. And we're right. Grace, by its very definition, is unmerited favor from God or a gift we don't deserve. But until we accept God's grace and forgiveness, Satan will hold us in the vise grip of guilt, and we will miss moments of sudden glory as we hide in Eden's bushes of shame.
After King David's affair with Bathsheba, he was held in the shackles of guilt, unsure if he could ever be set free. But mercy came with the key of forgiveness and flung the prison door open wide. David then had to take the necessary steps to walk out of the prison and into the kingdom of grace.
No matter what you have done, God has made a way for you to be set free—a very costly toll has been paid for the road to your restoration. Jesus gave His life that you might have not only eternal life after physical death, but life filled with moments of sudden glory beginning at your spiritual birth.
I in no way want to diminish the seriousness of sin. Neither do I want to lessen the truth of grace. Refusal of the Christian to repent and dogged determination to continue a lifestyle of sin spits in the face of what Christ did on the cross. Unconfessed sin draws the shade on God's glory. Confession with repentance raises the curtain once again for God's glory to shine through.
When we say, "I don't feel forgiven," that is like saying that what Jesus did on the cross is not enough. Why should we require more from ourselves than our Creator requires of us? "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus...." (Romans 8:1). None. God's grace river washes away the devil dams of shame and condemnation that block the flow of the glory life.
If you are feeling condemnation for past sins that you have already asked God to forgive, that condemnation is not coming from God. Once you have repented and asked God to forgive you, it is finished, over and done with, wiped away. If feelings of condemnation persist, they are a result of listening to the accusations of the enemy as he tries to keep you behind those bushes and away from union and communion with God. Believe the truth. Walk in the truth, and it will lead you to moments of sudden glory all around. Without accepting God's grace gift, in Him we live and move and have our being will be nigh to impossible to become a reality in your life. A life saturated in grace makes it so.
Satan knows that the slightest whisper of guilt is easily received by a fragile heart plundered by life. Do not let him convince you to remain in hiding. If you have been crouching in Eden's bushes of shame, listen closely. That sound you hear is God walking your way. Whispering your name. Do you hear it? Singing love songs of grace. Inviting you to stroll with Him in the garden of your heart where He has taken up permanent residence.
Where are you? I want to commune with you. I want to show you glimpses of my glory. Where are you?
I hope you will say with me... "Here I am Lord. 'Come, Thou Fount of ev'ry blessing. Tune my heart to sing Thy grace.'"
Let's Pray
If you are having trouble forgiving yourself, then pray this prayer...
Dear Lord, I come before You today, confessing______________. I am truly repentant and sorry for my sin against You. I ask that You forgive me and cleanse me. Right now, I receive Your grace and forgiveness. I believe that You have forgiven me and will no longer hold my sin against me. I accept the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for my sin and thank You that my debt has been paid in full. Thank You God for forgiving me.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now, dear one, I want you to picture your sin nailed to the cross. It is finished. Don't let Satan try to convince you otherwise. And believe me, he will. Satan is called "the accuser" who accuses Christians day and night (Revelations 12:10). I picture him walking back and forth with our mug shots before the throne of God, saying "look at her! She's guilty as sin!" And in response our Heavenly Father says, "I know her. She's my precious child whom I love! Her sentence has already been taken care of. She's forever forgiven and free."
Now It's Your Turn
I don't want to give you any extra work today. You've got a lot to think about. But I do want you to write down Jesus' last words on the cross (John 19:30) and say them often throughout the day.
If you prayed the above prayer for yourself today, I want you to let me know. Click over to my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com or my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes and say, "It is finished."
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion came from my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.God wants to commune with you, but sometimes we hide in shame like Adam and Eve in the bushes. God asks... "Where are you?" He knows what you've done and He still pursues a relationship with you. Are you ready to come out of hiding? Perhaps reading A Sudden Glory is a great place to start.
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March 12, 2013
Promises from the Pit
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"You, O Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light" (Psalm 18:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever received a gift that you wanted to return but couldn't? I certainly felt that way about the pit of depression when I first experienced it. I wanted to take this nasty black hole to the nearest "Pit Store" and exchange it for a tall mountain of victory. But I have come to the place where I thank God for what He has done in my life through the pit of depression. Anything that makes us cry out to God can be counted as a blessing.
We all have a pit of some kind in our lives. Your pit may not be depression. It may be an addiction that you find hard to conquer. Your pit may be a difficult relationship or a life plan gone wrong. It may be a diagnosis of cancer or a chronic physical disease that keeps your broken, wondering if God even cares. He does. I know because I am what you might call a seasoned "pit dweller." Let me share some truths I have learned through my struggle with the pit of depression.
Pits are a certainty. Hard times will come. Darkness will find us. We will, at some point in our lives, find ourselves in a pit. It may be a pit of wrong choices and foolish decisions we have dug with our own hands. It may be a customized pit prepared for us by the enemy himself. But a pit is a pit! And all pits are basically the same—dark, lonely, and filled with the ugliness of life.
Pits have a purpose. Every pit has a purpose and comes to us for a reason. Pits have an amazing way of bringing balance to life: a balance between sorrow and joy, between darkness and light, between faith and doubt, between weakness and strength. Life is like a prescription. The individual ingredients may seem harmful, but when they are blended and balanced, they bring health. Pits are part of the prescription of life.
Pits demand that we change our perspective. They make us stop and scrutinize priorities, eliminating the trivial and focusing on the important. Pits give us new eyes and a heavenly focus.
Pits come to strengthen us. Our struggle to escape the darkness forces us to admit our insufficiency and search for power outside of our own.
You can get out of the pit. If there is one central message of this devotion, it is hope. I made it out of the pit and so can you! The path may seem endless and even cruel at times, but remember that you did not slip into that pit overnight and you will not climb out overnight. The journey out of the pit begins and ends with one small step. Walk straight ahead through your fear. And with each step, moment-by-moment, the darkness will slowly begin to lift.
You can return to the pit. When it comes to pits, there is bad news and good news. The bad news is that those who struggle with depression may struggle with it for a lifetime. The good news is that the things that got you out of the pit will keep you out of the pit. I often step to the edge of that familiar black hole because I want to remember how I got there. Then I throw a party in my soul and rejoice in the journey out of the pit!
You can learn to stay out of the pit. Hedges of protection must be planted around the pit of depression. Priorities must be set. Balance must be kept. Habits must be cultivated. Accountability must be sought. Lessons must be learned. These hedges must be constantly tended in order to provide constant protection. In other words, keep doing what you know to do.
God will use your pit. From the depths of every pit comes a message of hope...a message of power...a message of grace. It is a message for us to share. God does not want us to just endure the pits of life. People without Christ can muster up enough courage—enough human strength—to get through a trial, but God has a better plan. He does not want us to just survive the pain. He wants us to rise above it—to celebrate it and use it!
On the other side of the pit you will find that you can minister to others who are in the grip of darkness. You understand their fear. You know the reality of their despair and the depth of their pain. Hurting people will listen to you when they will listen to no one else. Why? Because you were once like them...a pit dweller.
When you begin to share your journey—when you make the choice to help others find their way to the light—God will strengthen you and keep you out of the pit. The choice to use your pit will unleash God's power in your life as never before.
Life is sweeter on the other side of the pit. We cannot really know just how bright the light is until we have spent time in the darkness. On the other side of the pit, the sun is brighter. The sky is bluer. Every day is filled with the discovery of fresh hope and new joy. Relationships grow deeper and fuller. Peace settles around you like an old familiar friend. The intimate and faithful presence of a loving Father becomes the reality you once dreamed of knowing.
A beekeeper once told F.B. Meyer how some of the young bees are nurtured to ensure their healthy development. The queen lays each egg in a six-sided cell, which is filled with enough pollen and honey to nourish the egg until it reaches a certain stage of maturity. The top is then sealed with a capsule of wax.
When the food is gone, it is time for the tiny creature to be released. The wax is so hard to penetrate that the bee can make only a very narrow opening. It is so narrow that in the agony of exit, the bee rubs off the membrane that encases its wings. When it finally does emerge, it is able to fly!
The man telling the story said that one time a moth got into the hive and devoured the wax capsules. As a result the young bees crawled out without any effort or trouble. But they could not fly.
Remember, my friend, it is through the struggle of the trial—the journey out of the pit that the very best part of us takes flight. One day soon, you will look around to see that you are coming out of the dark.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You – helpless and alone. The darkness is overwhelming and no one seems to understand. I am desperate for You and the healing that I know can only be found in You. Lead me, Lord. Teach me, Father. Right now, I surrender to You and the plan You have for my life. By faith, I thank You for the pit in my life that makes me cry out to You.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 40:1-3 (NIV) "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
· Record Psalm 40:1-3 in your journal. Circle each action word such as "waited."
· What actions does God ask you to take to get out of your pit?
· What does God promise to do in your life when you take those actions?
· Are you ready to step out in faith and trust God to deliver you from the pit of darkness in your life?
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Since each lesson stands alone, it is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
If you or someone you love struggles with depression, Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to experience God's deliverance from that pit and live a life of victory. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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March 13, 2013
Believing God Knows Best
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In all their distress he too was distressed," (Isaiah 63:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When bad things happen we may never understand the why. God tells us, "'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the LORD. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Dr. James Dobson said: "Trying to analyze His omnipotence is like an amoeba attempting to comprehend the behavior of man." It's simply not possible. But there is one thing we can be sure of. "All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful," (Psalm 25:10) whether we understand them or not.
When we encounter difficulties, it is easy to jump to conclusions. We may think God is mad at us or punishing us. We wonder if God is not blessing us because we've disappointed Him in some way. But all through the Bible we see that some of God's closest friends experienced the darkest nights.
Joseph suffered. David suffered. The disciples suffered. Elizabeth suffered. Mary suffered. Martha suffered. Mary (Jesus' mother) suffered. Paul suffered. Jesus suffered. And each one of these men and women were smack dab in the middle of God's will. The ordinary pabulum of popular religion, of health and prosperity, just doesn't line up with the suffering we see among some of the most godly men and women in Scripture. The abundant life that Jesus came to give does not come without struggle any more than a butterfly can soar without a struggle from its cocoon. We would never slice open a cocoon and expect to find a butterfly ready to fly. Without the struggle, the butterfly could not grow strong enough to take flight.
Jesus warned us that we would have struggles in this life, and yet struggles always seem to catch me by surprise. "Consider it all joy," James said, "when you encounter various trials..." (James 1:2, NASB). Notice James said when and not if. Honestly, I wish there were some other way.
Come to think of it, Jesus wished the same. "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will," (Matthew 26:39). The cross. There was no other way.
Take a look at the names given to the Holy Spirit: Intercessor, Helper, Counselor, and Comforter. The very nature of those names lets us know that we are going to have difficulties this side of heaven, and thankfully God did not leave us to struggle alone. Jesus wept. The Holy Spirit groans. And God's heart aches. In one beautiful sentence, we catch a glimpse into the heart of God as we go through tough times: "In all their distress he too was distressed," (Isaiah 63:9). We may not see God's face during the difficult days of pain, but you can be sure He is there, and many times His face is streaked with tears.
Sometimes life is tough. As we practice Acts 17:28, In Him we live and move and have our being, it does not mean that we will walk a down path void of treacherous twists and turns. It does mean that no matter where the road may lead, we are not alone.
So many times I've cried out with King David, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me!" only to discover that He was right there with me all the time. None of us knows what the future holds. Sometimes we just need to put our hand in God's and walk around the next corner with Him—even when we don't understand. In that journey of the unknown, we're apt to experience moments of sudden glory in well-placed nuggets of gold.
Let's Pray
Father, even if I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, which is about the scariest place I could ever walk, I will fear no evil...because You are with me. I am placing my hand in Yours and walking around the next corner with You. I don't know what is around that corner, but You do, and that's enough for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 14:15-27 and 16:5-16 and list everything you learn about the person and the work of Holy Spirit.
From everything you have learned, what one name or characteristic of the Holy Spirit means the most to you? Click over to my blog page and share your answer. www.sharonjaynes.com
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Sometimes it is hard to trust God, isn't it? Gwen, Mary and I have written a wonderful book titled Trusting God.It's is a 12-week devotion book dedicated to that one single topic. If you enjoy our devotions, you will LOVE our book, Trusting God. And we even have free videos on-line to go with each of the 12 weeks. So gather some girlfriends and learn about how to trust God together.
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God's Money-Back Guarantee
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name" (Psalm 138:2, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I love money-back guarantees. We once bought a car to replace a van that had 125,000 miles on it. Our first vacation in the new car was a disaster. We began having trouble the very first day. On our way home, we stopped in four different cities, trying to find a mechanic who could repair the car. No one could explain or even find the problem. Needless to say, we were not happy campers. But when we returned home and contacted the dealership, we were told that because of the guarantee on the car, we could get our money back or trade it in for another one. Loved it!
Did you know that there is a money-back guarantee on every promise of God? Here it is in Psalm 138:2: "I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name" (nlt).Now if those words are true, why do we find it so hard to experience true peace and contentment in our lives?
I know life can be hard. Some of you are in so much pain that it is hard to breathe. But God knows where you are and what you are going through – and you really can trust Him. The apostle Paul had a firm grip on this truth.
"I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want" (Philippians 4:11b-12, NIV).
Paul understood and lived by the truth that God is constantly at work in and around us, monitoring every step we take. Paul examined every circumstance, understanding that it had already passed through His Father's hands with His permission. God came through for Paul, and He will come through for you. To find real security and contentment we must learn to search for the handprints of God in the every day circumstances of life.
Paul had every human right to be angry with God. After all, Paul had been faithful. He had given up much and endured great pain. And yet the undercurrent theme of this passage is gratitude. It is an attitude chosen by Paul. It is a learned perspective. In this verse, "learned" implies that Paul was educated by experience. In other words, Paul is saying that all of his experiences in life, good and bad, have become his tutor in contentment.
The word "content" can best be defined as "contained." Don't miss this. Paul had trained himself to focus on his inner resources, the resources his heart contained rather than the outward circumstances of life. He chose to be grateful. He chose to praise God – period. We hear his determination in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 when he says, "No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus" (nlt).
There is an old poem that captures this idea well:
"I rejoice in knowing that
There is no oil without squeezing the olives,
No wine without pressing the grapes,
No fragrance without crushing the flowers
And no real joy without sorrow." (Author unknown)
Gratitude not only brings contentment, it brings perseverance and produces strength. God entrusts trials to us, giving us the opportunity to choose gratitude. It is easy to practice gratitude when the seas are calm and the skies are clear. The real test of gratitude is in the midst of the greatest storm of our lives.
In Africa there is a fruit called the "taste berry." When eaten it changes a person's taste buds so that everything tastes good and sweet. Gratitude is the "taste berry" in our spiritual lives. When our hearts are filled with gratitude, we will find contentment. Choose to practice gratitude.
Gratitude is wrapped around trust and contains the element of acceptance. Gratitude understands that God is sovereign and that His ways are not our ways. There will be times when we find it impossible to understand His process, but we can always trust His heart. Remember, there is a money-back guarantee on every promise of God.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, confessing that I tend to have a heart that is filled with whining and complaining instead of gratitude. Please forgive me. Help me learn to see Your hand at work in my life. I want to trust You even when I don't understand my circumstances. Right now, I choose to praise You, Lord.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the last few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done.
Identify the people or things in your life that you tend to think of and rely upon as sources of security and contentment.
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. What are the steps listed in this passage that – when taken – will produce contentment?
What hedges of protection can you put in place today that will prepare you to face tomorrow with security and contentment?
More from the Girlfriends
Since each lesson stands alone, it is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
If you or someone you love struggles with depression, Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, offers practical steps you can take to experience God's deliverance from that pit and live a life of victory. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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Through The Veil
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water" (Hebrews 10:19-22).
Friend to Friend
Several years ago, my father was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that changed the course of his life. My family and I watched in agony as his health faded away and his future evaporated. He was just days away from dying when a donated organ provided a way for him to live. Dad received the gift of life as a transplant recipient.
Tragically, in order for my dad to live, someone else had to die. While our family rejoiced at this priceless provision, another family mourned the passing of one they loved. It was a bittersweet exchange... an amazing gift... wonderful and horrible at the very same time.
There's no greater gift than life! Now that Easter is around the corner, we have time to consider and celebrate the beautiful brokenness that Jesus endured so that we could receive the gift of eternal life. Full life. Life filled with forgiveness, grace, mercy and the presence of God. The Bible sums it up this way, "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21).
Some 2000 years ago, Jesus went to the cross and took on death. Through Him, a new and living way was created for us to be reconciled to the holy heart of God. At the very moment of Christ's death, across the city of Jerusalem – in the temple – the veil that separated the Holy of Holies from the Most Holy Place was torn from top to bottom...from God to man. Because Jesus laid down his perfect life for our imperfect lives, the barriers between God's presence and us no longer exist. We can be forgiven.
This was the greatest exchange of all time. He died so we could live. Through the curtain, which is the body of Christ, we now have access to the presence of God. In the Old Testament, only the high priests could enter the Holy of Holies (the Most Holy place), and when they did, it was with great trepidation. Because of Christ,we can go to God personally...with confidence of His love for us.
I've heard it said that, "We are far more sinful than we can possibly imagine and far more loved than we can possibly accept."
How does this affect you? How does this pivotal moment in history, this "veil rending" influence the way you live? Hebrews 4:16 says, "Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
Have you accepted this great exchange personally? Have you asked God to forgive your sins and wipe away the mistakes of your past? The gift of life, through Jesus Christ, is free. Turn to Him now. God is waiting with open arms. Roman's 10:9 tells us "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." Nothing you have ever done is too big for God's forgiveness!
If you are ready to turn to Him now, pray with me: "Dear God, I confess that I have done many things wrong – the Bible calls it sin and I'm guilty. Would you please forgive me? I believe in my heart that Jesus is Your Son and that He lived, died, and rose again. Would you give me your gift of eternal life and teach me what it means to follow you? Thank you, Lord. In Jesus's name, amen."
If you prayed that prayer for the first time, or perhaps re-dedicated your heart to God today, would you please email and let us know. We would love to pray for you.
Grace deserves a response, friend. Let's go to Him now with worship on our lips and thankfulness on our hearts. In the presence of God we are continually renewed, rejuvenated and refreshed.
While studying the book of Hebrews, the Lord inspired me to write this song. Please read the lyric then click the link below to worship along with me:
Through The Veil
by Gwen Smith
(Hebrews 10:19-23)
Through the veil there's a new and living way
Through the curtain, welcome to the Holy Place
Though we once were separated, we are now invited in
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
The Holy Place is open, come and worship
The Lamb for sinners slain is King of all
We praise and glorify the Lord before His mighty throne
Through the veil, through the blood, come to Him
Through the veil, through the blood, enter in
CLICK HERE to hear the song.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are amazing! Thank you for offering forgiveness and mercy through the great exchange of Jesus. It is a miracle that I can come to You with a heart that is pure. Your love is extravagant and I cannot say thank you enough. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there an area of your life that needs 'transplanted?'
Do you know that God can forgive anything you have done?
Write a response to God. Thank Him for his love and mercy, and then read it to Him as an act of worship!
Got a grace story? I'd love to hear about it! Swing by my blog or facebook page today and leave a comment.
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Do You Have the Right Credentials?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"When they saw the courage of Peter and John, and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus," (Acts 4:13, emphasis mine).
Friend to Friend
Do you ever feel like you just don't have the right "stuff" to do great things for God? I know I've felt that way many times. And then God jerks a knot in my head with the truth. He has given me everything I need to do whatever He calls me to do. He's given me the power of the Holy Spirit...just for starters.
Rick Warren, in his book, The Purpose Driven Life reminds us of some very unlikely candidates to do great things for God.
"Abraham was old, Jacob was insecure, Leah was unattractive., Joseph was abused, Moses stuttered, Gideon was poor, Samson was codependent, Rahab was immoral, David had an affair and all kinds of family problems, Elijah was suicidal, Jeremiah was depressed, Jonah was reluctant, Naomi was a widow, John the Baptist was eccentric to say the least, Peter was impulsive and hot-tempered, Martha worried a lot, the Samaritan woman had several failed marriages, Zachaeus was unpopular, Thomas had doubts, Paul had poor health, and Timothy was timid. That's quite a group of misfits, but God used each of them in his service. He will use you too."
I love this scenario. The religious leaders in Acts were listening to Peter and John preach. They were perplexed, astonished really. They wondered where Peter and John acquired such knowledge and wisdom. "When they saw the courage of Peter and John, and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus," (Acts 4:13, emphasis mine).
Ah, they had been with Jesus. That explained everything.
We tend to look at folks who are talented or who have great resources and think, "If we could win that soul for the Lord, then think of all he could accomplish for the kingdom." How silly. As if God needs our meager resources to accomplish anything.
When you say "yes" to God, despite your inabilities, then you become a living, breathing, walking display of His glory as you live and move and have your being in Him. "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him" (1 Corinthians 1:27-29).
You are always one step of obedience away from the next great adventure and moments of sudden glory that follow. Are you willing to abandon that which makes you comfortable to embrace that which makes you fulfilled? Are you ready for the fancy footwork of faith?
As you consider joining Jesus on the dance floor of obedience, remember this: The One who calls you is faithful, and He will do it," (1 Thessalonians 5:24). Don't worry that you don't know all the right moves. He does. You simply need to follow His lead. In Him we live and move and have our being...the dance of obedience is breathtakingly beautiful.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, forgive me for focusing on my inabilities rather than Your abilities. I don't want to sit and watch others in their divine dance of obedience. I want to join You on the dance floor and follow Your lead!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Did you connect the title of this devotion to the body of the devotion?
If you know Jesus as Savior and Lord, then you do have the right credentials!
I want you to write Today's Truth on an index card and memorize it.
Ponder this: When they saw the courage of your name and realized that she was an unschooled, ordinary woman, they were astonished and they took note that she had been with Jesus."
If you want to take the challenge and memorize this verse with me today, click over to my blog page (www.sharonjaynes.com) and leave a comment: "I'm memorizing it with you!"
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In my new book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, I say that obedience is not what God wants FROM you; it is what He wants FOR you. Obedience is the door behind which the abundant life is stored. If you want to learn about how to experience God's presence in all of life and live in unparallel intimacy with Him, then this book will help you get there. It is only a click away.
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March 19, 2013
The Battle for Balance
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Listen to my voice in the morning, Lord. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly" (Psalm 5:3, nlt).
Friend to Friend
The reality for each one of us is that every moment of every day is focused on someone or something. We either set the focus through which we live and view life or we allow it to be set for us. A balanced life is focused on God as a result of sitting at His feet.
What does it mean to "sit at the feet of Jesus"? First of all, we have to stop. Now that is a novel idea for many of us. Mary stopped what she was doing—helping Martha in the kitchen—to come and sit at the feet of Jesus. Of course, Martha immediately began complaining that she had been left to do all of the work while her sister was wasting time. Listen, my friend, there will always be someone who will misunderstand or complain when you choose to do what Jesus told Martha was "the better part" (Luke 10:42).
But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to him and asked, "Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me." But the Lord answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her" (Luke 10:40-42).
Notice the word "chosen" used in this passage. Mary made a choice, and so must we. Making a choice to sit at the feet of Jesus requires decisive planning, purposeful scheduling, and willful determination. God wants relationship-building time with us every day, which means time at His feet, in His presence, must be our highest priority. It is absolutely amazing to me how I can squander away the best part of my day, leaving Him with the leftovers and scraps of time, and then have the audacity to complain that my life is void of power and purpose. Distractions come from every side. Some of those distractions are good and wonderful things, but they are all still wrong things if they keep us from spending time with God.
Jesus gently rebuked Martha because she had forgotten what was really important. Oswald Chambers writes, "We can choke God's Word with a yawn; we can hinder the time that should be spent with God by remembering we have other things to do. 'I haven't time!' Of course you have time! Take time, strangle some other interests, and make time to realize that the center of power in your life is the Lord Jesus Christ."
Every day you and I choose where we will invest our time. We plan and schedule everything from hair appointments to lunch with friends, but we sometimes fail to schedule the most eternal activity in this life, spending time with God. Do you need the power to live your life above your circumstances? Are you desperate for the peace and balance only He can bring? Do you long for a relationship that will energize you to carry the burdens and passions of this life? Then it is time to take inventory of the demands upon your time and begin sitting at His feet.
Being wrapped up in God's work can easily become a shabby substitute for being wrapped up in His presence. The paradox is that we can only be wrapped up in God's presence when we stop and learn how to wait on Him. While I absolutely hate to wait on anyone or for anything, I am learning that there is a divine purpose and sacred power made available to us in every waiting room of life. Waiting robs me of control. I am forced to face the unknown. Waiting on God may well provide the catalyst that will change my very life course. In each waiting room, He is at work preparing me for the circumstance and the circumstance for me. "Listen to my voice in the morning, Lord. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly" (Psalm 5:3 nlt). From those still, quiet moments of waiting and seeking comes a sacred balance that takes root and grows. It is through the choice to wait on God that a seeking heart finds every need met and light in the darkness.
We not only must stop and be still in order to sit at the feet of Jesus, we must learn to listen. Deuteronomy 30:19-20 instructs us with these words: "Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the Lord is your life." I know that many voices clamor for our attention. The key to a balanced life is to train our hearts toward God and teach our spiritual ears to listen for His voice above all the others.
I taught third grade for several years while Dan attended Southwestern Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas. I was fortunate to be assigned to one of the largest and best elementary schools in town. My class was one of seven third-grade classes in the school, which meant that the first few days of school were always chaotic. The PE teacher was a welcome sight when she appeared at my door to take the students out to the playground. After PE, it was the responsibility of each teacher to pick up her students. Seven teachers trying to get the attention of over 200 students was especially interesting on the first or second day of school when the teachers did not know their students and the students did not know their teachers. However, after only a few days, an amazing thing happened every year. When we lined up to gather our children, it took only a word or two for them to come running. They quickly learned to recognize the voice of their new teacher above all the rest because they listened to her voice all day long in the classroom. We must do the same. In every circumstance and situation, we need to listen for His voice.
Sitting at the feet of Jesus resets our life focus. It is in those moments when we have stopped long enough to hear Him speak that the battle for balance is won. It is after we have been still before Him that we are empowered to embrace a life of balance
Let's Pray
Father, help me learn to cherish and make time to simply sit at Your feet and be in Your presence. At the same time, Lord, show me how to live a life of integrity in which I am a woman of my word. Teach me how to discipline my steps and invest my time in a way that pleases You and honors the plan You have for my life. Only You can bring a holy balance to my life as I surrender my agenda and every priority to Your perfect plan. I do that right now.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to set aside time this week to spend in solitude. Examine your life in the light of balance. What priorities are obvious? What areas are out of balance? How has this imbalance affected your life? What changes do you need to make in order to live a balanced life of purpose? Record the answers to these questions in our journal.
More from the Girlfriends
Since each lesson stands alone, it is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
Need help balancing your life? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Time: Friend or Foe.And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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March 20, 2013
Sit Down and Be Quiet
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish," (John 6:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever noticed this pattern in the gospels – the disciples get in a bind and Jesus bails them out. It reminds me of the old fifties program, Father Knows Best. The kids got in trouble, the father solved the problem and then he taught us all an important life lesson at the end. Come to think of it, "Father Knows Best" would be a fabulous subtitle for the gospels!
In John 6:1-15 we find the disciples in a precarious situation. Their lawn party had turned into quite a bash. The guests far exceeded their expectations, the disciples hadn't planned on providing dinner, and it appeared the crowd was expecting refreshments. But the disciples didn't have the funds or the food to feed them. All they could scrounge up were five loaves of bread and two dried fish. The crowd was getting restless, the disciples were getting nervous, and Jesus was getting ready. He took the five loaves and two fish and told the crowd to sit down – he told them to rest.
Then He lifted the food toward heaven, blessed it, and commanded the disciples to hand out the provisions to those who were seated. He didn't feed the people who were running around worrying – but the ones who were at rest. To those He gave "immeasurably more than they could ask or imagine" (see Ephesians 3:20 , with twelve baskets left over.
When we believe God, we will have rest and peace in our lives. I want you to do something for me. Right now, I want you to use your imagination. The Bible tells us in Ephesians that we are "in Christ" and Christ is "in us." It also tells us that we are seated "in heavenly places" and "transferred to the kingdom of Christ." Picture yourself sitting right beside Jesus under a spreading oak tree. Perhaps His arm is around your shoulder and your head is resting on his chest. You can feel the beating of His heart against your cheek and your head moves with the rise and fall of His breathing. With His other hand, He strokes your head and immediately knows how many hairs are on your head. His breath warms your skin as it brushes past your face. Imagine Him looking into your eyes and knowing your innermost being and meeting your gaze with a warm, affirming smile reassuring you of His love and care.
Now tell me, as you imagine yourself in the presence of Jesus, how anxious do you feel? How rejected do you feel? How worried about tomorrow are you?
You may be thinking, "Yes, Sharon. I feel at peace in that scene. But that's not reality." Dear sister, that is the greater reality. No matter what you are going through today, Jesus is right there with you. So maybe you just need to sit down and be quiet for a while.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, I'll admit, sometimes I am so busy running around trying to solve my problems, I miss Your provision. Help me to listen to You more closely and see Your provision more clearly. I don't want to miss what You have for me today. Help me to sit down and be quiet – to rest in You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is it difficult for you to sit down and be quiet with Jesus?
What keeps you from taking time to be still before Him?
Today, take at least ten minutes to be still with Jesus. No multi-tasking. Don't do this while driving the car or washing the dishes. Just you and Jesus. Give Him your full attention.
If you did this today, I want to celebrate with you. Log onto my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com and tell me about it!
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Women love the idea of going to a spa! I'd like to invite you to God's spa to experience the ultimate makeover. In Sharon's book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful, you'll discover beauty secrets to give you the inner glow that only God can give. It also comes with a Bible study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's transforming truths.
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Time to Let Go
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"There is no God like you. You forgive those who are guilty of sin; you don't look at the sins of your people who are left alive. You will not stay angry forever, because you enjoy being kind. You will have mercy on us again; you will conquer our sins. You will throw away all our sins into the deepest part of the sea" (Micah 7:18-19, ncv).
Friend to Friend
A little boy and his mom had gone shopping at the mall. The little boy had acted very badly, whining, wanting everything he saw, and running away from his mother.
As they were driving home he could tell his mom was very angry. He looked over at her and said, "When we are bad and we ask God to forgive us, He does, doesn't He?" His mom glanced at him and replied, "Yes, He does." "And when He forgives us He buries our sins in the deepest sea, doesn't he?" The mom answered, "Yes, that is what the Bible teaches." The little boy sat in silence for a while, and then he said, "I've asked God to forgive me. But I bet when we get home, you're going to go fishing for those sins, aren't you?"
Part of true forgiveness is releasing the hurt, letting go of the pain. When we don't, it becomes a constant spiritual and emotional drain, robbing us of joy, peace...even light. To experience the power of forgiveness, we have to quit fishing in the emotional waters of our past.
I love superglue and use it for just about everything. One day, I was trying to repair a miniature tea set, reached for my trusty superglue and went to work. I glued the broken saucer and held it in place for 30 seconds, only to discover that I had glued my finger to the saucer. After several painful minutes of struggling to work my finger loose, I was free. The experience reminded me of forgiveness. When we refuse to release people from the hurt they have caused us, we are gluing them to their mistakes. When we cling to pain they have caused us, we are refusing to see them as more than something that they have done.
Psalm 103:12 reminds us that "He has removed our rebellious acts as far away from us as the east is from the west"(nlt).When we accept the forgiveness of God, He separates us from our sins. Then He calls us to do the same with the people in our lives. Nowhere does God say that we have to feel like forgiving. He just commands us to forgive. Our feelings are irrelevant. Our obedience is what matters.
Forgiveness is an independent act between God and us. It is totally separate from the response or reaction of the person we are forgiving. We are not responsible for their reaction; that responsibility belongs to them and to God. Our responsibility is to forgive. When we refuse to forgive, we not only harm ourselves, we become a hindrance to God working in their lives. "Now it is time to forgive him and comfort him. Otherwise he may become so discouraged that he won't be able to recover" (2 Corinthians 2:7 nlt).
Anytime that we impede the work of God we are in a dangerous position. It is time to let go of the hurt. It is time to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of holding on to the pain in my life. I want to forgive those who have hurt me and learn how to let go of the pain and walk on. Today, I lay down my pride and my rights. I will not seek revenge or retaliation. Instead, I choose to love my enemies and bless those who have harmed me. Please give me the strength and power to honor you as I step out in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the following verses:
Matthew 5:23-24 (NLT) "So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you ... leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God."
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, be willing to take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration. Consider the following questions and answer them honestly.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in my heart?
What are the things for which I cannot forgive myself?
What does that indicate about my understanding of true forgiveness?
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Since each lesson stands alone, it is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
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I Need Rest!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place" (Mark 6:30-32, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I spin plates. Not real plates. Metaphorical plates. I spin lots of plates at the same time and I multi-task. This is both a blessing and a curse in my life. Sometimes my attention is divided in too many directions, leaving me harried ... while at other times, I'm energized by the amount of things I can get done in a small window of time. Regardless, there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get things done or enough hours in the night to give me complete rest. Can I get a witness?
Being a plate-spinning mom is a challenge. When my kids want me, they don't like to wait for me to spin three more plates before I answer them or give them my attention. When my daughter Kennedy was a toddler, she figured out a way to stop me mid-task, no matter what I was doing. She would place her chubby little hands on my cheeks, look me in the eye, and demand my full attention. Then she would deliver her message or question to me. I became her captive audience.
Just like Kennedy used to seek my attention, the Spirit of the Lord often speaks a similar message to my heart: Don't forget about me, Gwen! I know you have a lot going on, but your attention should be mine. I love you. Come sit with me a while.
Life is busy. Each day we have activities, tasks, relationships, and distractions that vie for our time and attention. If we aren't careful and deliberate, our relationship with God can suffer. The Lord doesn't want to be an after-thought and He doesn't want to be penciled in to our schedules. He wants us to prioritize Him. Focus our hearts on Him. Worship Him. Be with Him. Be still before Him. Rest in Him.
What are your priorities? Where does God fit into your schedule? How vital is it to you that you spend one-on-one time with God each day? Are you experiencing the supernatural rest that's found in His presence?
In Mark 6:30-32 we learn that Jesus and His apostles had been busy working for their heavenly Father. In fact, they had worked with such vigor that they hadn't even gotten a decent meal in their belly. (Boy, do I know what that's like... and I bet you do too!) In response, Jesus invited them to get away with Him so they could find some rest and rejuvenation in His presence. He said, Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest. (Mark 6:31, NIV) That same invitation is extended to you and me.
God wants you to pause the plate spinning and be His captive audience in this very moment. He wants you to go with Him to a quiet place: to be still, to gaze into His eyes, to worship Him in Spirit and in truth, to be lost in His glory, and found by His grace - to find rest.
I'd like you to close your eyes and imagine His strong yet gentle hands reaching for your cheeks, lifting your chin, and drawing your eyes to His. Fix your soul-gaze on His beautiful, blazing, mercy-filled eyes. Give the Lord your full attention. He will be your rest.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, please forgive me for all of the times I fail to give You my attention. I shake my head at the very thought that You want to lock gazes with someone like me, yet Scripture clearly tells me that You desire to be sought after and found by me. I'm here. You have my full attention, please speak to my heart and help me to be Your captive audience throughout today and everyday.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
· I co-wrote a song called "Sacred Place" that is purposed to lead you to His presence. Please take a moment to listen to "Sacred Place" and personally respond to Him. CLICK HERE to listen to the song on my facebook page.
Find a solitary place, grab your Bible and read Psalm 103.
Write down your favorite verses from that chapter and journal about what they teach you.
Where does this find you today? I'd love to hear about it. Swing over to my blog and give me scoop.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you know that rest, the rest that comes from the heart of God and permeates every fiber of who you are...no matter what you are facing? God desires for you to know His rest, for you to experience the fullness of His love and His peace. If your soul is in turmoil, lift your gaze to the Father. Seek His heart. He will meet you at your need and sustain you one day at a time. Spend some sacred quiet time with Him today.
Gwen's song "Sacred Place" is featured on her live worship CD, Unsearchable, which is available on iTunes, Amazon and on Gwen's website.
Portions of today's devotion are found in my book, Broken Into Beautiful. My full testimony is featured the book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought rest and restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit the store on my website: www.gwensmith.net.
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Do You Feel Battered and Bruised?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The speaker came out onto the stage. He pulled out a one-hundred dollar bill.
"Who would like this one-hundred dollar bill?" he asked.
Hands shot up all around the room.
Then he crumpled the paper, threw it on the floor and ground the dirt into it with his foot. Holding up the dirty, crumpled and tattered money, he then asked, "Now, who wants this one-hundred dollar bill?"
The same hands went into the air.
"And that is why God still wants you," he continued. "You may be battered and bruised. You may be tattered and torn. You may be crumpled and creased. But that does not change your value to God any more than what I have done changes the value of this one-hundred dollar bill. You are still precious and valuable to the God who chose you, redeemed you, and loves you as His own."
"He knows how we are formed; he remembers that we are dust" (Psalm 103:14). God understands that we are fatally flawed creatures, yet deems us immeasurably valuable no matter how crumpled and soiled we are.
Paul wrote to the Corinthians, "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us" (2 Corinthians 4:7). In Paul's day, it was customary to store treasure in clay jars. The common container disguised its contents and didn't draw attention to the treasure within. You and I might not look like much on the outside. We may appear as common as jars of clay, but inside are hidden incredible treasures. Inside these old cracked pots reside the most incredible treasure of all...Jesus Christ. And that makes us valuable.
In Louisa May Alcott's book, Little Women, she includes a conversation from Mrs. March to her three girls, Meg, Jo, and Amy. "I only care what you think of yourself. If you feel your value lies in being merely decorative, I fear that someday you might find yourself believing that's all you really are. Time erodes all such beauty. But what it cannot diminish is the wonderful workings of your mind – your humor, your kindness, and your moral courage. These are things I so cherish in you."
Our culture places an ungodly amount of significance on a woman's appearance. Outward trappings of appearance are simply that - trappings. But God sees us as simple jars of clay containing valuable treasure...and that makes us beautiful to Him.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, even though I am battered and bruised, I know that I am still valuable to You. Thank You for loving me so much that You sent Your Son, Jesus, to die for my sins. Thank You for making a way for me to have eternal life through Jesus' sacrifice. Thank You for seeing me as Your priceless treasure.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Don't you love the teacher's illustration of the crumpled dollar bill? Today, consider using that illustration with a friend or a child who feels knocked down by life.
Did the illustration touch you in a particular way? If so, I'd love to hear about it. You can share your thoughts on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com. I'm going to randomly pick 5 commenters and give away a compact mirror with 2 Corinthians 5:17 imprinted on the cover.
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Today's devotion was taken from my book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you feel battered and bruised by life, if you have been believing lies that you are worthless, then join me in learning to see yourself as God sees you – a chosen, valuable, dearly loved child of the King.
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March 26, 2013
Encouragement 101
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"My purpose is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ"(Colossians 2:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Every day we cross paths with hurting people. A word of encouragement, an act of kindness, a caring smile may be enough to keep them on their feet. We want to be encouragers but may not know where to start. Over the next two days, we will explore seven ways you and I can practice encouragement and build each other up in everyday life.
Listen to Those Who Are Hurting
"You hear, O Lord, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry" (Psalm 10:17). Sometimes the best encouragement is simply a listening heart. Listening doesn't require that we fix anything or even that we arrive at a solution. Listening sends the message "I'm here for you. Just for you. I want to understand and share your pain." We often miss opportunities to give encouragement because we are broadcasting when we should be listening.
I once had an elderly neighbor who loved to talk...a lot. I knew when I ran into her it meant my routine would be interrupted. One day I was out walking when I turned the corner and there she was. I knew I could breeze by her with some lame excuse, but in a rare moment of wisdom, I chose to stop and listen.
I am so glad I did. Her 42-year-old son had just died, and she desperately needed my encouragement.
When we listen to people, we validate their feelings. We invite them into our lives by giving them the most precious gift we have—time. Listening is encouragement.
Comfort with Your Words
"But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief" (Job 16:5). The spoken word is powerful, and spoken words of encouragement can bring great comfort. The idea is not to speak many words, but the right words. Consider this:
· The Lord's Prayer contains 71 words.
· The Gettysburg Address contains 272 words.
· The Ten Commandments contains 139 words.
· The Declaration of Independence contains 1323 words.
· A U.S. government order setting the price of cabbage contains 26,911 words.
When it comes to words with impact, being long-winded is not a value. But speaking the right words can be life changing.
Written notes of encouragement often carry even greater impact because they can be kept and read again and again. In the midst of my struggle with depression, I would often slip into a worship service at our church through a side door to escape being noticed. I came in late to worship one day and sat off to the side in order to avoid questioning eyes and concerned stares. My timing was bad because I had managed to get there just in time to welcome the visitors. I simply had no energy or desire to shake hands or smile at anyone, so I sat in my chair hoping everyone would understand and leave me alone. Then I saw him coming. One of our deacons had spotted me and was walking across the auditorium with a big smile on his face. I wanted to run. He put his arm around my shoulder and gently hugged me. He never said a word, but pressed a piece of paper into my hand and left as quickly as he had come. Through tears I read the precious note that said, "I love you and am praying for you. If you or Dan ever need me for anything, I am here." Healing comfort flooded my wounded heart and I found I had the strength to stay.
It's not how long we talk or how many eloquent words we use that matters. It is what we say that is so important. The words we speak are like seeds. What we plant will grow. We can speak words of encouragement that God will take and use to bring hope and give comfort. Comforting with your words is encouragement.
Get Involved
"May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word" (2 Thessalonians 2:16-17). When Jered was in second grade, there was a little boy in his class who no one liked because he was a bully and truly obnoxious. One Monday morning this young man came to school with both arms in casts from his shoulders to his wrists. He had fallen out of a tree and broken both arms. The teacher announced to the class that Johnny would need a "volunteer friend" for the next six weeks while he was in the casts. This "friend" would have to help Johnny do everything, from completing class assignments to feeding him lunch—and would even need to accompany him to the restroom.
After a few painful moments of silence, one hand went up. I have never been prouder of my son, who volunteered to be Johnny's helper. Jered had struggled to like Johnny, but his sensitive heart could not bear to see the look on Johnny's face when there were no volunteers. I wondered what the next few weeks would hold for my son. As it turned out, I was the one who learned a very important lesson. At the end of the six-week period, three amazing things had happened. First, Jered and Johnny became friends. Second, because Jered was well liked by everyone in the class, the other children decided that if Jered liked Johnny, then they could like him as well. But the greatest change was in Johnny himself. His behavior totally changed. It was as if he decided that since Jered liked him and the other kids liked him, he could be likable.
Sometimes we must become actively involved in someone's life to encourage them. Don't miss tomorrow's devotion for more ways to be an encourager.
Let's Pray
Father, I know You want me to share the love I have found in You. Forgive me for the many times I have been too busy to see the needs around me. Break my heart for those who are in pain and feel hopeless. Encourage them through me, Lord. Fill my heart with Your love so that I can give it away.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Galatians 5:22-23 "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control."
Make a list of the attributes listed in Galatians 5:22-23 Beside each one, write the name of someone who needs you to live out that quality in his or her life. Here are a few examples to help you get started:
Love: Jane - my neighbor who is struggling with her teenage son
Joy: Sally - my friend who has just discovered she has breast cancer
Peace: Linda - my friend's sister who is going through a divorce
Make a specific plan for meeting each need. (I will take Jane to lunch.)
Put a time limit on it. (I will take Jane to lunch on Thursday.)
Record your experience in your journal.
More from the Girlfriends
Nope! It is not too late to join Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. When you join, you have access to all of the 2013 lessons. The current study is Power Up With Proverbs.
Today's devotion was taken from Mary's book, Hope in the Midst of Depression. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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March 27, 2013
Encouragement 101
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you, brother, have refreshed the hearts of the saints"(Philemon 1:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Every day we cross paths with hurting people. A word of encouragement, an act of kindness, a caring smile may be enough to keep them on their feet. We want to be encouragers but may not know where to start. In yesterday's devotion, we examined three ways to encourage others by learning to listen, comforting with our words and getting involved. Today, we will explore more ways you and I can practice encouragement and build each other up in everyday life.
Demonstrate Great Patience
"Encourage them with great patience" (2 Timothy 4:2 ncv). Encouragement takes persistence. Persistence takes patience. Just because you have encouraged someone once does not mean that your role of encouragement in their life is over. They did not become discouraged overnight, and they will not often become encouraged overnight.
Dan first began making wooden furniture a few years ago. My job was to stain and finish the pieces after he had completed them. I had never worked with wood or stain and did not know much about how to accomplish the task. But I knew who did. I headed to our local hardware store. I explained to a salesclerk that I wanted to finish some furniture—today. I was in a hurry to place it in just the right spot in the house and wanted to get this staining business over with quickly. He smiled and patiently explained that it takes time to achieve the best finish. He obviously did not understand my timetable, so I tried to explain again. Ignoring my words, he said that a beautiful finish requires repeated layers of stain and lacquer with time to dry in between. There are no short- cuts if you want the final product to be right.
Encouragement is like that. It takes layers of love and great patience to replenish, restore, and put courage back into a heart. Patience is an important part of encouragement.
Offer Sensitive Instruction
Second Timothy 4:2 also says that we are to encourage others with careful instruction, being sensitive to the condition of the learner, to the one who is in need of encouragement. Learning does not begin with the truth. Learning begins with the learner and requires loving flexibility. Instruction that is wrapped with encouragement really works.
When Danna first played softball, her coaches were her dad and Garland Robertson, our youth pastor. Jered was an assistant coach. At one of their practices, one girl was having trouble hitting the ball. Garland was pitching—and that may have been the problem. Dan was giving her instructions—and that may have been the problem. For whatever reason, she was not hitting the ball. Finally, Jered pulled her aside and worked with her for 30 minutes. He was gentle and gave suggestions with great sensitivity. All of a sudden, the girl who was missing every pitch hit five in a row.
Instruction that is wrapped with encouragement really works. No one cares how much you know until they know just how much you care. I have heard it said that advice and instruction are like snow. The softer they fall—the deeper they stick. Sensitive instruction is encouragement.
Stay Close
It is encouraging to know that we are not alone, that someone else is close by, in the rocking boat with us. Remember that one of the definitions of encouragement is "to be beside." Sometimes the best way to encourage someone is to stay close by. Join them in what they are doing. A shared joy is a double joy, but a shared sorrow is half a sorrow. God has given us to each other so that we can share the load. A shared load is always a lighter load. The words of Ecclesiastes 4:12 give us a wonderful promise: "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
I read about an ingenious teenager who grew tired of reading bedtime stories to his little sister. So he decided to record several of her favorite stories on tape. He gave her a tape player and plugged in the tape. "Now you can hear your stories anytime you want. Isn't that great?" he said. She looked at the machine for a moment and then replied, "No. It hasn't got a lap."
Encouragers look for opportunities to work. We all need a lap. We all need the closeness of relationship. We all need to know we are loved. We all need encouragement. Together we will find the encouragement that we need. Staying close to those who need you brings them encouragement.
Practice Encouragement Daily
"Encourage one another daily" (Hebrews 3:13). An encourager is one who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become, and still gently invites you to grow. How often do we need to practice encouragement? Daily. Continually. Constantly.
The key to constant and daily encouragement is to vary our forms of encouragement and whom we encourage. Encouragers look for opportunities to work. Acts 4:36 tells us about a man who came to Christ and his life was changed so dramatically that he sold his land and brought the money to give to God through the early church. That is very impressive. But the most impressive thing about this man called Joseph is that the disciples changed his name. They called him Barnabas, which means "Son of Encouragement."
Are you an encourager? Would your friends suggest changing your name? Would your spouse or your children? What about your neighbors or that person in your life who is struggling to find a ray of light in their darkness?
The message is clear. Just as Christ has come into our lives to encourage us, we are to give that encouragement away. The most amazing truth is that the more encouragement we give, the more we will receive in the circle of encouragement.
Jesus promises, "If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you" (Luke 6:38 nlt).
When Danna was a little girl, one of her favorite things to do was to color in one particular art book. It had several pages that were special. I remember one in particular that had a picture of a butterfly. When I looked at it, I couldn't understand her excitement because it was a dull gray. When I asked her why she liked it so much, she said, "Watch, Mommy." She rubbed her little hands together until they were warm and then laid her hand on the butterfly. The warm touch of her hand caused the special inks in the picture to react and the dull gray was transformed into a stunning rainbow of color.
This cold and dark world is hungry for the touch of someone who cares, for a word of kindness, for an act of compassion. This world—your world—is reaching out to you for encouragement.
Let's be encouragers.
Let's Pray
1. If you need encouragement, think of two people with whom you can share that need and make a plan to do so.
2. Look for people in your life to encourage.
3. In your journal, record a recent time when you received and/or gave encouragement. What were the results?
4. Write a note of encouragement to someone in need, letting them know you are praying for them. Offer to take care of a specific need such as preparing a meal, dropping by the grocery store to pick up a few items or picking up their cleaning. Many times, people in pain can't or won't ask for help. If you see a need, meet it.
5. Write a note of thanks to someone who has encouraged you.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize 1 Thessalonians 5:11. 14. "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up...and we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone."
How do you rate as an encourager? Which of the following areas do you need to work on in order to give encouragement to the people in your life who need it?
___Demonstrate great patience
___Offer sensitive instruction
___Stay close
___Practice encouragement daily
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March 28, 2013
Ignored by Man, Chosen by God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world" (John 15:19 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever felt that you were overlooked or ignored...like you were a nobody? Well, take heart girlfriend. You are not alone. Most of us have felt that way at one time or another. I've been the girl not invited to the party, the kid not chosen for the team, to applicant not chosen by the employer, the writer not chosen by the publisher, and the child not chosen by the parent.
In the Bible, we read the story of when the prophet Samuel went to anoint the next king of Israel. By God's instruction, Samuel traveled to Bethlehem to the house of Jesse. He knew where to go and what family the king would come from. He knew the next king would be one of Jesse's sons...he just didn't know which son.
Samuel arrived in Bethlehem and asked Jesse to bring all of his sons out for his inspection. Jesse brought out each of his seven sons, one-by-one. As Samuel prayerfully approached each young man, God said, "No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one...No, that is not the one." Seven times God refused Jesse's sons. Finally, exasperated and confused, Samuel asked, "Are these all the sons you have?"
"Oh yeah, I do have one more son," Jesse said. "I almost forgot all about him. Little David is out taking care of the sheep. I'll send someone to get him."
David was so insignificant to his own father, that when the prophet requested an audience with all of his boys, the dad didn't even think to invite him. However, he was the very one God had selected to be the next ruler of His chosen people. How exciting! You may have felt overlooked, disregarded, and ignored, but God has chosen you! "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him," (1 Corinthians 2:9 NIV). And that means you.
Ponder these verses...
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience" (Colossians 3:12 NIV).
"In him we were also chosen having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory" (Ephesians 1:11,12 NIV).
"Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies" (Romans 8:33 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Father, thank you that I am chosen and dearly loved. While there have been many times in my life where I was not chosen, I rejoice in the truth that You chose me! Me! Help me to be an encourager to those who feel neglected or discarded by those in their world. Open my eyes to see the lonely, to hear the rejected, to love the forgotten.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was a time in your life when you felt rejected?
The Bible says that we have a High Priest (Jesus) who has felt all the pain and suffering just as we have. How was Jesus rejected?
At the same time, how was Jesus chosen by God?
Consider writing down the verses in today's devotion and post them somewhere you can see them often.
Now, click over to today's blog post and let me hear you shout... "Praise God! I am chosen!"
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Today's devotion was taken from my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You. Nothing is more beautiful than a confident woman who knows she is chosen and dearly loved. If you would like to learn more about how to see yourself as God sees you, this book is for you! It also comes with a Bible study guide for those who want to dig deeper.
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March 29, 2013
What's Mine is Yours
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Act 4:32 (NIV) "All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had."
Friend to Friend
"What's yours is mine, and what's mine is mine." My husband Brad and I used to joke that this was the unspoken motto of our kids when they were little. Toddlers have no qualms about grabbing a toy, snack, or any random item of interest from other people or pets. It's rare to see a child share her cherished possessions generously.
It can be hard for you and me to share too. Today's media bombards us with marketing campaigns that tell us we are the center of the universe. "You, you, you, you, you!" Time and time again we hear that this life is all about us. The more we have, the happier we'll be. The bigger that bank account, the more blessed the life. I sincerely hope that none of us actually buy these lies. They're dangerous deceptions.
We all have a sharing problem to some degree, don't we? Sometimes we don't want to share our time or our space. Sometimes we don't want to share our loved ones or our gifts. Sometimes we don't want to share our resources. Sometimes we just want to be left to ourselves and don't want to share anything!
God calls each of us to share. The early New Testament church shows us that generous living honors God and blesses others. In Acts 4:32-37; we see an amazing snapshot of generous giving in the early church. The believers were one in heart and mind. They were supernaturally unified to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and you could not find a needy person among them. What a model!
Giving wasn't political. It wasn't mandatory. It wasn't done begrudgingly.
"...They shared everything they had."(Acts 4:32)
"The disciples, each according to his ability, decided to provide help for the brothers living in Judea. This they did, sending their gift to the elders by Barnabas and Saul."(Acts 11:29-30)
"But just as you excel in everything – in faith, in speech, in knowledge, in complete earnestness and in your love for us – see that you also excel in this grace of giving...For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what he does not have." (I Corinthians 8:7,12)
The resources of the believers were God's, and they knew it. They placed what they had before the leaders in selfless acts of worship...for the glory of God and the provision of others. This principle is very important, but it's also very counter-cultural.
The Bible clearly reveals that true life, a blessed life, an abundant life, a purposed life, is, in fact, all about God. What we have, have given birth to, or hold onto is really not our own. It's just on loan to us for a breath of a moment by our more-than-generous Creator. Each day brings us new opportunities to be good stewards.
Let's face it; it's just not always easy or natural to be generous. Perhaps we have been taken advantage of or we've been hurt by another's deception. There are risks to giving.
The generous giving of the early church blessed the lives of their people. When we share what we have, God is honored and needs are met. The risks are worth taking.
I'm not suggesting a Robin Hood philosophy of "take from the rich and give to the poor." And I don't believe in the politics of communism or socialism. This principle of generous giving is Biblical. It's an act of worship to God. It matters to God, and it should matter to us.
We need to reject the toddler mentality of "what's mine is mine." God loves a cheerful giver. We are blessed to give. Tell God today: "Lord, what's mine is Yours! Use it for Your glory!"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for this reminder from Your Word. You are amazingly lavish in Your love for me, and You have given me so much. All I have is Yours. Please help me to excel in the grace and worship of giving. Open my eyes to opportunities to bless others for Your glory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
How do you feel about your possessions? Have you shared generously lately?
Got a story about giving? I'd love to hear about it! Swing by my blog or facebook page today and leave a comment.
Is God bringing anyone to your mind that could use your help or generosity?
Read and meditate on 2 Corinthians 8:1-15
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Hey friend. I know that this is a sensitive subject to some of you. Maybe your husband won't tithe. Perhaps you don't even know how you will pay your rent this month. God knows your heart. He loves you greatly. Remember, giving isn't always about money. We can give in many ways; service, an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a dinner to a new mom, or time spent with an elderly friend. Now...go bless someone today!!
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April 1, 2013
Dare to Be Disciplined
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body." (1 Corinthians 6:19 NIV)
Friend to Friend
It is much easier to give in to sin or yield to temptation when we are physically depleted. Discipline begins in the mind and travels to the body. I can hear you groaning already, but stay with me! Sin and temptation often find their greatest opportunity to work in the body.
I have struggled with diet and exercise from childhood. Part of my struggle is rooted in "fluffy" genes lovingly passed down to me through several generations of "fluffy" relatives. The remainder of my struggle is firmly rooted in the fact that I hate exercise, take medications that cause weight gain, enjoy eating, and sometimes use food as an emotional outlet. Maintaining a healthy weight is a constant battle in my life and the area in which I am learning the most about discipline.
Born and raised in Texas, I was a young adult and living on my own before I realized that part of the creation process included green things called vegetables. The motto in our family was, "If it ain't fried, it ain't right." Gravy was a condiment and potatoes a staple at every meal. No bread? How can you have a meal without bread? And dessert was a necessity. Get the picture?
Consequently, over the years, my weight has fluctuated like a championship yo-yo. Satan rejoiced as I deemed myself "worthy" when I lost the weight and "unworthy" when I gained it back. Guilt and shame attached themselves to every bite of food, while the Battle of the Bulge became the War of Worthiness. Fulltime ministry brought new weapons into the fray. Ridiculously crowded schedules and chronic fatigue seemed to be regarded as holy Medals of Honor, so I signed up and quickly learned the unspoken rules of ministry – such as rest is for the wicked, exhaustion is for the holy, fast food is for the fully devoted, and burnout is the unspoken but ultimate goal. At times, I can almost hear Satan standing in the wings, laughing at my skewed priorities and lack of discipline, knowing that his opening is just around the corner.
There is simply no way around the truth that discipline of the body is part of a godly life. We cannot give our hearts to God but keep our bodies for ourselves. To do so is sin. It's time for a new plan and a new way of thinking when it comes to disciplining these frail, human bodies in which we live.
Eliminate diets. Replace all diets with a healthy eating plan. Fad diets are nothing more than a quick fix and rarely work long-term. A healthy eating plan requires a change in lifestyle, and is not only a matter of how much we weigh, but a matter of what we eat as well. Many thin people follow diets that are just as ungodly as the diets of overweight people. I have begun asking myself, "Is this good for me?" instead of "Is this fattening?" A healthy eating plan honors God.
Learn to fast. Consistent fasting produces both physical and spiritual discipline and control. Try fasting one meal this week. Next week, fast two meals on the same day, and during the third week, fast the entire day. Be sure to drink plenty of water and juice. Take the time you would normally spend eating to pray and read the Bible. Fasting leads to physical and spiritual cleansing as it paves the way for godly discipline.
Get moving. A friend once told me that her favorite exercise was opening and closing the refrigerator door. Hmmm ... not good! Set realistic goals in the area of exercise. Start with fifteen minutes a day, three times a week. Gradually increase the time spent exercising. Choose an activity with a dual purpose. For example, while you are walking, you can pray. Walking can be a healthy way of dealing with anger, venting frustration to God instead of others. A walk can also serve as a "mini-retreat" during a chaotic day. Ask God to change your perspective of exercise – then take the first step. He will meet you there.
We need to remember that our bodies house the Holy Spirit. In what condition is your dwelling place for God? Is He pleased with His temple? A lack of physical discipline is a foothold for the enemy, an unlocked door through which disobedience and failure ride on the wings of Satan's best schemes. It is time for us to embrace and apply physical discipline as a gift and commandment from God.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate the amazing truth that You chose to live in me, and that my body is Your temple. Please forgive me when I abuse that temple, Lord. I need Your strength and power to apply Godly discipline in my life.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize 1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
Record this verse in your journal. Then write it in your own words and make it your prayer today.
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Dare to Be Disciplined
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place." (Mark 6:30-32 NIV)
Friend to Friend
Part of living a life of discipline is learning the importance of rest. Rest is not an option if we are to function at our best. Sometimes we try to feed emotional needs by refusing to rest. After all, the world will surely fall apart without our input – or will it? Perhaps we stay busy because we are afraid to face our past or even the future. Guilt keeps us moving, trying to prove our worth.
For most of my adult life, I have wrongly equated being busy with being productive. I am guilty as charged when it comes to living each day in overdrive. My Day Timer has, at times, been my Bible. The result has always, always been exhaustion, burnout and watered down ministry. Everything looked great on the outside, but God and I both knew that the facade I had so carefully erected was nothing more than a meaningless monument to self. The house built upon the sand seemed like very familiar digs, and I was not alone.
We are masters of rationalizing our way to man's approval. I am convinced that when we are willing to surrender our lives to the tyranny of the urgent, the enemy will keep 'em coming – people who need you immediately, those who clamor for your attention above your family and personal relationship with God, or the person who can talk to no one but you. The list of ego strokes goes on.
Through the years, God has grabbed my attention with an illness that drove me to bed or a crisis that drove me to my knees. He is a persistent Father who understands the value of rest. Jesus even modeled the truth that it is in Sabbath moments that we will find Him most precious and hear His voice more clearly. After all, He was in charge of the creation process that included the need for rest. Did God need to rest? Obviously not, but by creating a day of rest, He drove home the fact that our bodies were created in such a way that rest is not an option.
Make no mistake – we will rest – one way or another. The psalmist writes, "He gives me rest in green pastures." (Psalm 23:2, ICB) I know from my own experience, that the word "make" holds worlds of possibilities from God's hand. Learning to rest demands an understanding of several basic truths.
Rest is sacred. Sometimes the most spiritual thing we can do is sleep. The human body is programmed for a certain amount of rest. We can cheat it short term but not long term. Rest affects the efficiency rating of this frail body in which we dwell.
Rest is replenishing. While we rest, the Father repairs and restores. We run on "batteries" that must be re-charged daily. When I am tired, it is much harder for me to handle stress, and I know you will agree with me when I say that life can be stressful.
Rest reduces stress. Doctors say that stress can be good or bad, but either way, stress takes its toll. Elijah is a great example of good stress gone bad. One day he was the conquering hero, the next day we find him sitting under a Juniper tree begging God to let him die! The poor man was exhausted. It was stress produced by victory, but stress nonetheless.
Rest eliminates fatigue. Fatigue is not a spiritual gift, but we proudly wear dark-circled eyes as badges of honor and sacrificial service. The enemy loves it! If he can keep us exhausted, we are little threat to him. We must not only learn to rest, but we must learn when we need to rest as well. I have discovered an irritating truth with no escape clause: we need to rest most when we have the least amount of time to rest. I hate the fact that God calls me from my vicious circle of religious activity into His presence. After all, I spent a lot of time getting all of those irons into the fire I built with my own ideas and plans. However, every time I obey His call to "come apart," He transforms ineffective religious activity into powerful, life- transforming ministry – true ministry. We need to stop, be still and rest.
On the seventh day of creation, God rested; a fact that always amazes me. Did He need to rest? Obviously not, but when God set aside a day for rest, He made a powerful point. Our bodies were created in such a way that rest is not really an option. Rest is a physical reality and a spiritual discipline.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the arrogance that keeps me on the run, trying to prove my worth. Teach me how to rest in You, Lord. Help me learn how to say "no" to those things that keep me from sitting at Your feet. Give me a hunger and thirst for You that can only be satisfied by time alone with You. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, make the commitment to carve out a daily time to spend in rest.Sit at His feet. Allow Him to restore, replenish and refocus your heart and mind. Then rise to serve Him and lead others to the "quiet waters" of rest.
· Define "rest" and examine your life in light of that definition.
· Why do you feel guilty when you rest?
· Do you think of rest as unproductive? Why?
· Does that thought line up with God's plan?
· Find two ways to incorporate rest into your daily schedule this week. At the end of the week, list the benefits that rest has produced in your life.
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Do you want to be a success? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Power Up With Proverbs, for Biblical wisdom and practical steps you can take to live a life of victory. Since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join and still have access to all of the lessons.
Do you have any difficult relationships in your life? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those people who rub you the wrong way.
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God Sees What You Are Going Through
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: 'You are the God who sees me [El Roi],' for she said, 'I have now seen the One who sees me.'" (Genesis 16:13 NIV)
Friend to Friend
One day I was sitting on the patio with a friend, Beth, and her step-father, Sam. We were waiting for the grill to heat up before placing steaks on to cook. Beth's mom opened the door and gave Sam his orders - telling him what to do and how to do it. When she went back inside, Sam made a hand signal, pointing in one ear and out the other. We all three laughed. Then he placed his ruddy hand on my friend's arm, a hand worn by years of working under the hoods of cars of every shape and size.
"She was pretty hard on you growing up wasn't she?" he asked.
"You have no idea," she answered with a sigh.
But he did have an idea. He understood. And that one simple gesture let her know that Sam had peered into her heart and seen the truth. The weathered country mechanic had looked under the hood of her heart with wisdom of the learned and seen the damaged and maimed engine within. A heart, though healed by Christ, that still felt the phantom pain of a little girl who was never good enough, who was constantly told what to do and how to do it – and who never did it quite right. Sam saw her heart, and for that, Beth loved him. And so did I.
One of my favorite names of God is El Roi – the God who Sees Me. He sees what you are going through. .He sees you.
Hagar was the first person to call God by the name El Roi. Hagar. Used. Abused. Tossed away. Driven away. Running away. She was all that and more.
Hagar was a maidservant, a girl-slave to her mistress, Sarai. She had a job to do and we have no indication that it was unpleasant, until a turn of events changed her life forever.
God came to Abram, Sarai's husband, and gave him some amazing news.
"Lift up your eyes from where you are and look north and south, east and west. All the land that you see I will give to you and your offspring forever. I will make your offspring like the dust of the earth, so that if anyone could count the dust, then your offspring could be counted...A son coming from your own body will be your heir."" (Genesis 13:14-17; 15:4)
Abram told Sarai, of God's promises, but as the months tuned into years, Sarai "grew impatient with God and His promises."
"The LORD has kept me from having children," she complained to Abram. "Go sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family though her." (Genesis 16:2)
Oh my, this seems more than strange. But in those days, it was common practice for an infertile wife to offer her maid in order to keep the family name alive. So Abram bowed to his beautiful wife's bidding and bedded her maid. Hagar conceived a child and a bit of pride to go with it. Then in a way only a conniving woman can contrive, Sarai turned around and blamed Abram for the tension this pregnancy birthed. As Hagar's belly began to fill out, Sarai's jealousy began to well up.
"You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me."
"Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." (Genesis 16:5-6)
Sarai mistreated Hagar until she could bear it no more. Cutting remarks. Angry words. Condemning looks. Finally, Hagar ran away to the desert.
As Hagar lay languishing in the wilderness, an angel of the LORD appeared to her and asked the same question God asks all of us. The question akin to the very first question He asked Adam and Eve in the Garden (Genesis 3:9). "Where have you come from and where are you going" (Genesis 16:8). Of course God knew where she had come from and where she was going, but Hagar needed to say the words, just like we need to say the words.
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," the abused Hagar replied. (Genesis 16:8)
"I'm running away from this lifeless marriage," the neglected wife decides.
"I'm running away from the pressures of this job," the man with the bottle responds.
"I'm running away from that coldhearted woman," the man peering at porn justifies.
"I'm running away from these ungrateful children," the shopaholic mother answers.
"I'm running away from the daily grind, endless chores, and piles of laundry," the lonely
housewife sighs as she clicks on an old boyfriend's Facebook page.
"I'm running away...
"Then the angel of the LORD told her, 'Go back to your mistress and submit to her. I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count... the LORD has heard your misery.'"
Hagar was a slave who had been sexually used and verbally abused. Hagar was a woman amazed that God heard her cries and saw her misery...that He took note of her condition and actually spoke to her. I understand her surprise. I am still amazed that the Creator of the Universe sees me, hears me, takes note of me, and speaks to me – and to you.
Let's Pray
El Roi, thank You for seeing me, for hearing me, for rescuing me in my time of need. Help me to remember that there is nothing in my life that You don't see and that You can't fix. I trust You.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think God started His conversation with Hagar with a question?
Describe how Hagar must have been feeling when she ran away.
Has there ever been a circumstance in your life where you felt the same way? Is it today?
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When God Shows Up, Don't Forget It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Then God opened her eyes, and she saw a well of water," (Genesis 21:19 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Yesterday we looked at Hagar and how God spoke to her in her deepest time of need. Let's visit that one more time, because Hagar, like you and me, forgot about her encounter with God.
When Hagar encountered God the first time, she fell on her face and gave God the name El Roi, the God who Sees Me "I have now seen the One who sees me," she cried. She had heard God. She had seen God. More importantly, God had seen Hagar. God had heard Hagar.
Hagar returned to her mistress, gave birth to a son, and placed him into Abram's arms. But sixteen years later, God was true to His word, and Sarai gave birth to a son of her own. (God also changed Abram's name to Abraham and Sarai's to Sarah). When Abraham was ninety-nine years old and Sarah ninety, with a womb that was as good as dead, she birthed a bouncing baby boy whom they named Isaac. But rather than diminish Sarah's angst toward Hagar, the tension between the two boys stoked the fire of jealousy into full blaze.
On the day of Isaac's weaning party, Sarah demanded that Hagar and her son, Ishmael, be sent away for good. After wandering around in the desert, after their water supply had dried up, after giving up all hope, Hagar placed Ishmael under a tree to die. He cried. She cried. God heard.
"What is the matter, Hagar?" the angel said. "Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation."
"Then God opened her eyes, and she saw a well of water" (Genesis 21:19).
This verse catches my breath every time. The water was there all the time, but she didn't see it. Not until God opened her eyes did the life giving drink come into focus.
Sometimes, I feel just like her. Not so much in that I have ever truly been abused, but I have been tossed away, abandoned, and used. And I have run. And God has rescued.
I'm also like Hagar in another way. I forget. God comes to me in my running away. He sees me. He notices me. I know He sees me. I call him El Roi and all is well. But time passes, as sixteen years passed for Hagar, and I forget. I forget what He has done for me, what He has said to me, what He has meant to me. I forget. I close my eyes and wander about thirsty again. I give up. I lay my hopes and dreams under a tree and walk away for them to die.
"What is the matter, Sharon? Do not be afraid; God has heard your crying." And God woes me back once again. He opens my eyes to the well of living water that has been there all along.
Today, remember. Remember who God is. He will do what He said He will do. He is El Roi, the God who sees me. He is the God who sees you. And that is something we should never forget.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so sorry that I have forgotten the many ways you have blessed me, the many times You have rescued me, the many times You have given me moments of Sudden Glory when You've made Your presence known. Open my eyes, Lord. Open my eyes to see Your well of goodness right in front of me.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the story of Hagar in Genesis 21. Zoom in on verse 19 "Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water." The well was there all along. She just didn't see it. Today, pray that God will open your eyes to His provision and protection in your life.
Hagar, "she went and filled the skin with water, and gave the boy a drink," (Genesis 21:19). When I open my eyes to see the well of God's provision, protection, and persistent pursuit of my heart, it is never for me alone. He then calls me to fill my skin, and give others a drink. Is there someone He is calling you to refresh today?
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I don't know about you, but one of the greatest longings of my heart is to experience God's presence and working in my life on a daily basis. I call that experiencing moments of Sudden Glory that soothe the glory ache in my heart. If you long for more in your relationship with Jesus, then check out my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. On my website, you can watch videos, download a free chapter, and even tell about your moments of sudden glory. I hope you'll stop by for a visit.
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Yes and Amen!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"For no matter how many promises God has made, they are "Yes" in Christ. And so through him the "Amen" is spoken by us to the glory of God." (2 Corinthians 1:20, NIV)
Friend to Friend
When my son, Preston, was in sixth grade he chose to plant spinach for his science fair project. He planted seeds in four plastic cups and watered each batch with a fixed daily amount of four different liquids: water, orange juice, cola, and milk. (Yes, you are correct! By day three of his fourteen-day project, the milk cup reeked to high heavens with a stinky-sour smell!) His hypothesis was that he believed that the seeds watered with water would grow faster than the seeds that were watered by orange juice, cola and milk.
Once his hypothesis was determined, he and I (his faithful mommy-research-assistant) diligently went about the task of collecting data, watering the seeds, taking pictures, and documenting his findings. The instructions on the back of the seed envelope indicated that we should see spinach sprouts within 7-10 days. Preston was looking forward to seeing the sprouts and was eager to see if his hypothesis was valid. I was too.
So we watered and we waited. We stayed the course and did the work required with hearts that were eager to witness a green, leafy harvest. Day seven came and went. No sprouts. Day eight came and went. No sprouts. Day nine. No sprouts. Day ten. No sprouts.
When all was said and done, we were disappointed that his faithful efforts did not bear spinach. In fourteen days not one green sprout shot up from any of the cups. In fact, we saw no external evidence of any growth at all ... not even on a root level. And although his data got collected, his project got completed and Preston received a good grade, we were both heart-sad that we didn't get to see any growth.
Sometimes our lives are like that science fair project. We invest in others and are eager to see the harvest. We obey God, trust His plan and walk according to His Word. We plant seeds into the soil of our marriages or dating relationships and water them with love, hope and truth. We plant seeds into the life-soil of our friends and co-workers and water them with loyalty, time and encouragement. As parents and grandparents we "grow" our children and our grandchildren. We water them with love, feed them with the Word. We water and we wait with great expectations in our hearts and a desire to see some growth. We long to see the fruit of our labor.
At times we see fruit. At times we don't.
Jesus gave His disciples a trustworthy promise that if we stick to His side and stay tight to God's will, that our lives and our efforts will bear fruit. He said in John 15:4-5, Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. When we remain in Jesus – when we trust God by turning to the Holy Spirit for guidance and to His Word for truth – you and I will bear fruit ... whether we see it or not.
A person of faith believes God's promises because His promises are connected to His character. God's promises aren't flippant. They're secure! The apostle Paul said it like this: Whatever God has promised gets stamped with the Yes of Jesus. In him, this is what we preach and pray, the great Amen, God's Yes and our Yes together, gloriously evident. God affirms us, making us a sure thing in Christ, putting his Yes within us. By his Spirit he has stamped us with his eternal pledge—a sure beginning of what he is destined to complete (2 Corinthians 1:20-22, MSG).
You see, friend, the yes-and-amen promise here is that we will bear fruit, not that we will necessarily see the fruit in our own timing or even in our own lifetimes. Understanding this promise sure does help me to trust God more. And further, knowing that our faithfulness will directly impact how much fruit will be produced should challenge us to remain faithful!
All of the promises of our Covenant God are "yes" and "amen." We can trust His Word to be true because the character of our God is unblemished. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. When we remain in Him, we will bear fruit. Sometimes we will see it. Sometimes we won't.
Our God-confidence is bolstered when we remember that He is faithful, and that our job is to listen, seek, and obey – to remain in Him – not to try to control the outcome of the seeds that He instructs us to sow. When we grow in our understanding of His character and rest in the knowledge that He is for us, not against us (Jeremiah 29:11), this helps us to trust Him. Let's strive to be women who take God at His Word and believe His "Yes" and "Amen" promise!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for planting a seed of faith in the soil of my heart through Your Son, Jesus Christ. Please grow my faith. Help me to trust You more and remind me to fix my eyes on You, not on the results of my life investments.
In Jesus's name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there promises you doubt God will fulfill?
Write a list of promises you have a hard time trusting God with. Then, write a big YES or AMEN across it and trust in God to answer!
Now, click over to my blog and tell me what you are trusting God for today... or just simply leave a comment saying, "Yes and Amen!"
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April 9, 2013
The Ancient of Days
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I kept looking until thrones were set up, and the Ancient of Days took His seat; His vesture was like white snow and the hair of His head like pure wool." (Daniel 7:9 NASB)
Friend to Friend
Hip huggers. Bellbottoms. Tie dyed t-shirts. Platform shoes. Guitars. Loud Music. Pass it On. Bibles. Teenagers. Long stringy hair parted down the middle on both boys and girls. Put all that together and you have a snapshot of some of the best days of my teen years.
I became a Christian when I was fourteen. It was called the Jesus Movement back in the seventies, and Jesus moved right into my heart to stay. My parents were not Christians at the time, and home was not a happy place. Our home teemed with tension and vacillated between periods of violent bouts of fighting and passive-aggressive weeks of silence.
Soon after my decision to follow Christ, a group of Christian business men in my community had a vision to open a Christian coffeehouse. Their dream was to provide a safe place for the teens to congregate and grow in their faith. Their hope was to bring in college-aged Bible teachers on weeknights and contemporary Christian bands on the weekend.
God was all in favor of loving on our merry band of Jesus lovin', hormone powered, tie-dyed teens, and provided the perfect venue for the dream to materialize. Right smack dab in the middle of our sleepy little downtown, tucked in a side street alcove, sat an abandoned bar that had been shut down for selling alcohol to minors. The name of the bar? The Ancient of Days. Talk about redemption! What the devil meant for evil God meant for good (Genesis 50:20).
They bought the building and kept the name. Sometimes God is so outlandishly obvious you just have to laugh.
At fifteen, I wasn't sure what the Ancient of Days actually meant, but this cubbyhole tucked between a ladies' dress shop and a photography studio became my refuge in an uncertain world. Now, as an adult, I soak in the Name, steep in the Name, marinate in the Name. He is my Ancient of Days who always has been and always will be watching over my life...watching over your life. "Long before he laid down earth's foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love," (Ephesians 1:5 MSG).
The name Ancient of Days was used only by the prophet Daniel. He had a vision of four world empires that rose to great power and prominence, only to eventually fall and crumble into insignificance. When a fifth world power emerged, a power that many theologians believe represents the anti-Christ of the end times, the Ancient of Days took His seat on the throne.
I encourage you to go back and read all of Daniel's vision recorded in chapter 7 And while I will never totally understand what the vision means, I can grab hold of the Name, The Ancient of Days, with both hands. He always has been and always will be. He had no predecessor and He'll have no successor. You can't impeach Him and He's not going to resign. He had no beginning and He'll have no end. He simply IS. While everything around us changes, The Ancient of Days remains the same.
I'm reminded of the words to the old hymn by Chalmers Smith:
Immortal, invisible, God only wise,
In light inaccessible hid from our eyes,
Most blessed, most glorious, the Ancient of Days,
Almighty, victorious, Thy great name we praise.
The Ancient of Days was a safe haven during my tumultuous childhood – an old bar turned sanctuary. The Ancient of Day is a safe haven for all my tomorrows – an unchanging God who defies time.
Whatever you are going through today, know this, God is on His throne. He's in control. I am not on the throne. The President is not on the throne. World powers are not on the throne. The Ancient of Days is on the throne. His rule is right and His reign is sure.
Let's Pray
I praise You, Ancient of Days. When I feel like my life is changing too quickly and too often, I rest in knowing that You never change. You are the Ancient of Days who sits of the throne. You had no beginning and will have no end. Your rule is right and Your reign is sure.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The Name, Ancient of Days, did not point to an elderly ruler in a feeble sense, but to an eternally divine ruler in an all-powerful sense. He is the Eternal God with Sovereign rule. The Ancient of Days points to God as the Divine Judge. That is good news and bad news.
Look up the Romans 8:1 and note the good news.
Look up Romans 10:9-13 and note the bad news.
I can remember saying to my son when he was a teenager, "I was not born yesterday. I know what's going on here." Well girlfriend, God was not born yesterday. He was not born at all! He has seen it all. He sees is it all. How does that make you feel?
If you are so glad that God is on His throne, click over to my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com and say, "I'm not worried about today. God is on His throne!"
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April 10, 2013
Got Faith?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil." (Psalm 23:4 NKJV)
Friend to Friend
The greenest grass is always found in the valley. Shepherds and sheep are well acquainted with the fact that both mountains and valleys are an inevitable part of life. Again, the shepherd is the one who has to figure out a way over the mountain and through the valley. If a sheep is injured, the shepherd must carry his sheep and tend to its wounds until they are healed and the sheep is ready to return to the fold. The shepherd's whole world revolves around the safety and comfort of his sheep, even in the deepest valley.
Valleys are a certainty of life. Your job is eliminated. Your husband is having an affair, or your teenage daughter is pregnant. Financial pressure suffocates dreams, or the betrayal of a trusted friend inflicts a wound so deep and painful that you long for that valley of death. Each day is thick with fear, and your heart is filled with disbelief. The valley may suddenly be before you in a time of loneliness or in the shock of a dire medical diagnosis.
The death of a loved one can derail a life. The death of a long-held hope can plunge us into a slimy pit of despair and darkness. Dreams that have slowly died or relationships that have abruptly ended can leave us stranded and alone in our own personal valley of death. While valleys may come in all shapes and sizes, one thing is certain—valleys will come. That being said, we must ask and answer the question, "How can we deal with the valleys in life? We must respond with faith.
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
It was advertised that the devil was putting his tools up for sale. When the day of the sale came, each tool was priced and laid out for public inspection. And what a collection it was. Hatred, envy, jealousy, deceit or pride...the inventory was treacherous. Off to one side was a harmless-looking tool priced higher than all the rest, even though it was obviously more worn than any other tool the devil owned. "What's the name of this tool?" asked one of the customers. "That," the devil replied, "is discouragement." The customer asked, "But why have you priced it so high?" The devil smiled and explained, "Because discouragement is more useful to me than all the others. I can pry open and get inside a man's heart with that tool when I can't get near him with any other. It's badly worn because I use it on almost everyone, since so few people know it belongs to me."
Valleys are lined with disappointment and discouragement. Some people seem to thrive on adversity, emerging from their valley with greater strength and deeper faith. Others stumble and fall, giving in to discouragement and dropping out of the race. The difference in outcome is determined by the way we choose to handle discouragement.
We must respond to each valley with trust and faith. The word "trust" means "to lie helpless, face down" and is the picture of a servant waiting for his master's command or a soldier yielding himself to a conquering general. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." In other words, to trust God completely means that from the very center of our being, from the very core of our existence, we trust Him, totally abandoning ourselves in childlike faith to Him and His plan. We come, holding nothing in our hands, pushing no agenda, with one word in our heart—"whatever!" "Whatever You want me to do, Lord, I will do. Whatever You want me to say, Lord, I will say. Whatever You want me to think, Lord, I will think. Whatever path You have for me, Lord, I will walk."
If you are like me, you sometimes think you don't have enough faith. The amount of faith is not nearly as important as the right kind of faith—faith in God alone. A mustard seed is small but can still take root and grow—just like faith. Faith is also like a muscle. The more we use it, the stronger it becomes. We must remember that faith doesn't rest on what we have done but on what Christ has done. As Paul says, times of stress accentuate the presence and power of God.
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us—they help us learn to endure. And endurance develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation. And this expectation will not disappoint us. For we know how dearly God loves us because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love (Romans 5:3-5 nlt).
When the valleys come, we are tempted to abandon our faith and strike out in our own strength when what we should do is embrace our faith in God, look for our Shepherd, and follow Him.
The story is told of a shepherd who tried to persuade his sheep to cross a swiftly flowing stream. Since sheep are naturally afraid of rapidly running water, the shepherd couldn't get them to cross. Then he had an idea. Picking up a lamb, he stepped with it into the river and carried it to the opposite shore. When the mother saw that the shepherd had safely led her lamb across the stream, she forgot her fear and stepped out in faith and into the rushing current. Soon, she was safely on the other side. The rest of the flock followed.
Faith rests in what Christ has already done on the cross and in our lives. Faith also hopes for what He will do for us in the future. Faith builds on the victories of yesterday to help us face the valleys of today and the questions about tomorrow. Faith in God is sure and certain, believing that God is who He says He is and that He will do what He says He will do. When we believe that God will fulfill His promises, even though we can't see a single promise materializing, we are exercising faith. Faith does not bypass pain. It does, however, empower us to deal with pain. Faith steps up to the bat and invites the opponent to throw his best pitch. Sometimes faith strengthens us, and other times, surprises us. Great faith is forged in the deepest valleys, beginning where our strength and power end.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for being my Shepherd. Please teach me how to rest in Your care and trust You no matter how high the mountains or how deep the valleys in my life may be.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the past few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done.
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. What are the steps listed in this passage that – when taken – will help you walk by faith?
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April 11, 2013
Whatever You Need, God Is
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I am God Almighty (El Shaddai); walk before me faithfully and be blameless. Then I will make my covenant between me and you and will greatly increase your numbers." (Genesis 17:1-2)
Friend to Friend
I was exhausted. I was drenched in sweat. I was filled with inexplicable joy – a joy I had never known. It was the day Steven Hugh Jaynes, Jr. emerged from the God pocket of my womb and made his grand debut into the world.
When my son was born, I never knew so much love could be wrapped in one tiny package. After twenty-three and a half hours of pushing and pulling, heaving and hoeing, he finally decided to leave his comfy sauna and face the bright lights of the delivery room. As soon as the umbilical cord was severed the nurses whisked him away to make sure ten fingers and toes were accounted for, wrap him in a cozy blanket and place a cap on his fuzzy head.
We got to visit for a little while, this new little person and I, but alas they needed to run a few more test to make sure all was well. A few moments later, a nurse brought my little man to my room, placed the squirmy bundle on my chest, and smiled. Steven's head bobbed about like he was looking for something. He whimpered. He searched. And then he found what he was rooting for. Steven latched onto my body, and the miracle began. Nourishing, life-giving sustenance began to flow. And for the first time I truly understood the name...El Shaddai.
One of the names of God in the Old Testament is El Shaddai. We've already seen that the word El means "mighty" or "strong. El Shaddai is most often translated "God Almighty," "God the powerful one," or God, the mighty one."[1]Shaddai comes from the Hebrew root word shad, meaning "breast." It gives us a wonderful picture of God as "the one who nourishes, supplies, and satisfies." [2]
The word Shaddai describes power, but not in the usual mighty sense. It is the power to nourish, to sustain life, to quiet ones longings. God's name El Shaddai, is used 48 times in the Old Testament, 31 of those occurring in the book of Job.
The Hebrew root word shad may seem a bit odd at first glance. But if you have ever held a hungry, crying, restless or anxious babe in your arms, and then witness the calm that sweeps over him when placed to your breast, you understand. If you haven't experienced that firsthand, but witnessed it, you understand. The crying ceases, the restlessness calms, the hunger is satisfied, and anxiousness melts away. And to that child, the mother from whom life-giving, soul satisfying nourishment flows is all-powerful. What a beautiful image of our God who satisfies our every need, calms our every fear, and soothes our every longing.
When God appeared to Abraham, and introduced the name, El Shaddai, God Almighty, Abraham believed that God was able to accomplish all that He had promised. God's words were the flow of faith that Abraham needed to nourish his doubts that God would do what He said He would do. It didn't matter that Abraham was ninety-nine years old. It didn't matter that Sarah was eighty-nine years old. The laws of nature do not apply to the One who created them. With God, all things are possible. With the revelation of the name, God let Abraham know that He was all-powerful and could do anything He pleased. He was not bound by the laws of nature or fettered by the decisions of man. Nothing could stop His word from coming to pass. Not even a dried up womb or a withered up man.
So what about you? What about your situation? I ask the same question the angel asked Sarah. "Is anything too hard for the Lord?" (Genesis 18:14 NIV)
No matter what you're going through today, you can cling to the truth that God is El Shaddai – The All Sufficient One. Whatever you need God is. He has within Himself the life-giving sustenance you need...the life-giving sustenance your heart longs for.
I encourage you to nuzzle up to El Shaddai and allow Him to calm your fears, soothe your hunger, and nourish your soul.
Let's Pray
El Shaddai, There is nothing too hard for You. You have everything I need. Forgive me when I root about this earth looking for people, possessions and power to satisfy my deepest longings. You, only You, can truly satisfy the longing of my heart. You are El Shaddai. The Nourisher, Sustainer, and Soother of my soul.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What have you looked to for satisfaction other than God? Did it satisfy in the long run?
Think of a time God sustained you? Nourished you?
What do the following verses tell you about how God is able to satisfy your longings? Romans 16:25 2 Corinthians 9:8 Ephesians 3:20-21.
What is God saying to you at this time about your seemingly "impossible situation? Click over to my blog post at www.sharonjaynes.com and leave your response.
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[1] Spiros Zodhiates, The Complete Word Study Old Testament (Chattanooga: AMG, 1004), p2371.
[2] Herbert Lockyer, All the Divine Name and Titles in the Bible (Grand Rapids, MI:Zondervan 1975), p14.
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Today's Truth
"But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you."(John 14:26, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Ever since I was young, I've loved connecting dots. In my childhood it was dots with numbers on paper that stranded together to form an object. As I threw my attention to the page and followed the numbered steps, a picture developed. A new creation appeared that brought joy to my little-girl heart.
My grown-up dot-connecting challenges are far from a kid's fun sheet. There are daily life dots, like: family dots, faith dots, emotion dots, relationship dots, job dots, parenting dots and decision dots. I continually struggle to make sense of situations and circumstances and I long for a simply numbered life sheet to give me guidance and direction.
Do you ever feel that way? Do you ever wonder how to connect the practical instruction of God's Word to your daily choices, challenges and behaviors? Do you struggle to understand how to connect the dots between your questions and God's answers? Between the decisions you need to make and God's wisdom?
If you have a pulse, I'm guessing you deal with this dot-connecting life stuff regularly like I do. The Lord knew we would struggle with this, and He gives each of us the power to connect our life dots. How? Through His Holy Spirit.
In Scripture, we see a beautiful promise. Before His crucifixion and resurrection, Jesus told His disciples that He must die in order to connect the sinful hearts of man to the holy heart of God. He explained that though He was leaving this world, His followers would not be left alone or without power.
If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Counselor to be with you forever – the Spirit of truth. (John 14:15-17a)
Jesus went on to say, All this I have spoken while still with you. But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. (John 14:25-26)
The Holy Spirit works in and through us to connect the life dots between our heart and God's. He's the connector between our problems and God's solutions. When we humbly go to God in prayer and ask Him to help us take the next step, or make the next decision, or choose the next response, He will faithfully lead us to the next dot with wisdom through the power of His Holy Spirit.
Invite the Holy Spirit to lead your decisions and emotions today. Open your heart to His counsel. Call on His wisdom and listen for the whispers of His truth. When you do, He will connect your life dots in order to bring glory to God the Father. Imagine what our lives, families, churches, and communities would look like if we allowed the Spirit of God within us to connect our life dots each day. The world would see a beautiful faith picture.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are all knowing and all-powerful. You know every decision I need to make and every challenge I face. Please forgive me for the times that I try to figure this life out on my own. I need You. I need Your Holy Spirit to give me strength, wisdom, and direction, specifically concerning ______________.
In Jesus's name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
After telling His disciples about the Holy Spirit in John 14, Jesus blessed them with a peace promise: Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. (John 14:27)
Where does this promise find you today? Whatever you are facing, know that the Holy Spirit is ready to guide and comfort you. Journal your thoughts about this and ask God to connect the faith dots for you so you can bring Him glory in your circumstances and experience His peace.
Now, click over to my blog and tell me how God is helping you connect your life dots!
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Hey friend. I know many of you are facing very difficult times. Some of you are trying to sift through the ashes of marriage problems, financial challenges, health issues and emotional torment. God knows right where you are, He loves you and He knows your heart. He has a plan for your life. As you look to Him to connect your life dots, trust His plan and press in to do His will.
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April 15, 2013
My Job ... God's Plan?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"She works with eager hands." (Proverbs 31:13)
Friend to Friend
I have had many jobs over the years. I started babysitting when I was twelve years old. In high school, I worked in a clothing store, as an aid for my choral director, and as a recruiter for an employment agency. In college, I was a secretary for the president of our social science honors program and often gave tours to visiting dignitaries. Some jobs I liked more than others, but working in an insurance office when my husband attended seminary was one of my least favorite jobs. I soon discovered that I was not alone in my lack of enthusiasm as I read the following note posted on the office bulletin board:
"If you don't believe in the resurrection of the dead, you ought to be here five minutes before quitting time!"
Our attitude about our work will determine the success of our work. Scripture tells us that the Proverbs 31 woman literally "pounced upon" her work with "chosen delight." Notice the word "chosen." No job is perfect and no workplace is always wonderful, but we can learn to choose our inner attitude about our work regardless of the outer circumstances of our workplace. Like this woman, we can learn to train our heart and choose our attitude about our work.
The author of Ecclesiastes writes, "My heart took delight in all my work, and this was the reward for all my labor" (Ecclesiastes 2:10). In other words, joy in work can be found when we look for it. The Proverbs 31 woman chose an attitude that guaranteed success in her work. The right attitude in any workplace is to view our work as an act of worship to God. This woman's workplace was an altar upon which she laid her best efforts as an offering of praise.
The story is told of three men who were working on a large building project. "What are you doing?" one of the men was asked. "I am mixing mortar," he responded. The second man said, "I am helping put up this great stone wall." When the third man was asked, he replied, "I'm building a cathedral to the glory of God." We need to understand that what gives work eternal value and makes it successful is not the product or service we offer; it is doing the job faithfully to the glory of God. It doesn't matter if you close a million-dollar deal or do a million loads of laundry. If you do it unto God as part of your life worship of Him, you are a success.
The apostle Paul was a very successful man whose work ethic is made clear in Colossians 3:23 "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving." Every customer you serve or every child you hug, every toilet you clean or every deal you close can be an act of worship when it is done for the glory of God.
A survey by the Families and Work Institute found that 70 percent of people in the United States often dream about doing something different for a living. Books, consultants, and employment agencies offer to help us land our dream job. However, is finding a different occupation always the solution to job satisfaction, or could the key to successful work be discovering a new approach to the work we already do? Twice in Colossians 3, Paul used the phrase "whatever you do" as a call for wholehearted service to the Lord. A wholehearted effort is difficult when working for a critical, ungrateful boss. Minimum effort then becomes a response that certainly seems justified under the circumstances. However, when our work is done for Christ and we view Him as our supervisor, we will strive to do our best all of the time. The boss may sign the paycheck, but the Savior issues our reward. Obviously, it's not wrong to seek work that fits our skills and interests, but it is pointless to move from one job to another without first settling the issue of who it is that we truly are serving in the workplace. Daily work takes on eternal significance when it is done for God.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the job You have given me. Please help me honor You with the work I do and the attitude with which I do it. Help me view my workplace as an opportunity to praise and worship You. Please let me see my co-workers as people You have placed in my path to love with Your love. Today, I surrender my job to You, Lord.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The amazing truth is that more than we want to know God's plan for our life, He wants us to know it and stands ready to guide us. God always reveals His plan to an obedient and seeking heart. Are you willing to do whatever God asks you to do?
Read Jeremiah 29:11 and record it in your journal. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).
Seek God and ask for His direction.
Seek His will by searching His Word.
Pay attention to the passion of your heart.
Realistically evaluate your abilities.
Take into account your natural talents.
Consider the advice of those who know you best.
Then step out in faith, trusting God to help you make the right choice about your job.
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April 16, 2013
Jump Into Abba's Arms
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see," (Hebrews 11:1 NIV).
Friend to Friend
One night a family was startled from sleep by the piercing blare of their smoke detector. The house was on fire and smoke swirled up the wooden staircase. The father bolted from his bed and ran to his children's room. He grabbed his eighteen-month-old baby out of his crib, and dragged his four-year-old son by the hand. They were half-way down the stairs when the little boy remembered his favorite teddy bear in his room and broke away to go back and get it. In the mayhem and confusion, the father didn't realize his son wasn't with him until he reached the front yard.
By the time the little boy found his teddy bear, the flames had filled his room and trapped him inside. Smoke burned his lungs as he coughed and cried out the open window.
"Daddy! Daddy!" he cried. "Help me!
His dad called up to the lad, "I'm right here, son. Jump and I'll catch you."
"But Daddy," the boy cried, "I can't see you!"
"That's OK, son," he called. "I can see you! Now jump!"
The boy blindly jumped from the open window and landed safely in his father's arms.
I love that story. It is my story.
So many times my Heavenly Father calls me to jump. Sometimes He tells me to jump out of a situation, and sometimes he calls me to jump into an opportunity. Either way, I usually baulk at the idea...at least a little.
"But God, I can't see You," I cry.
"That's OK," He replies. "I can see you. Now jump!"
And so I jump. And He is there every time.
What about you? Is God calling you to jump out of a fiery situation? Is God calling you into a new opportunity? Well sister, if He is, jump. You might not be able to see Him, but He can see you. And that is all that matters.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for always being there for me. Help me to have the courage and the faith to jump out of any fiery situation that could singe my character, char my faith, or leave me smelling of smoke. Help me to have the courage and the faith to jump into any blessed opportunity that could increase my faith, build my character, and leave me wearing the fragrance of Christ.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
All through the Bible God called men and women to take a leap of faith. Every time God promised that He would be right there with him or her.
Read Exodus 3:12 and 4:12 and notice what God told Moses.
Read Joshua 1:5 and 1:9 and notice what God told Joshua.
Read Judges 6:16 and notice what God told Gideon.
If you really want to gas up your faith tank, read all of Hebrews 11.
Go back to today's truth. How does it relate to today's story?
If you are ready to take a leap of faith today, click over to my blog post and say, "Ok God, here I come!"
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April 17, 2013
The Circle of Encouragement
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up...and we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone." (1 Thessalonians 5:11,14)
Friend to Friend
Sand hill cranes are not only interesting creatures but also great illustrations of biblical encouragement. These large birds that fly great distances across continents have three remarkable qualities. First, they rotate leadership. No one bird stays out in front all of the time. Second, they choose leaders who can handle turbulence well. Third, all during the time that one bird is leading, the rest of the birds are honking their affirmation. Now that is biblical encouragement! That is encouragement that works.
First Thessalonians 5:11 tells us to "encourage one another and build each other up." That kind of encouragement demands time, energy, and our availability to the one who needs encouraging. Many times when we are in crisis, we do not want someone to say anything or even do anything. We simply need someone to be with us and walk with us through the darkness. If we spell encouragement differently it will be easier to understand. To encourage is to "in-courage" someone, to literally put courage in someone else.This passage of Scripture specifically mentions four groups of people who need encouragement.
Those Who Are Stuck in Neutral Need Encouragement
Those who are idle tend to be undisciplined. This is someone who is motionless, paralyzed, and unable to move. In other words, they are "stuck" in neutral gear and often do not even want to do the right thing. They need motivation and encouragement to get going again.
Those Who Are Afraid Need Encouragement
Timid people are fearful and plagued with doubt. This is someone who knows what to do but is afraid to do it. They want to do the right thing but are bound by fear. They desperately need courage but have none. The key is to get alongside them long enough for them to get past their fear.
When our children were young, we bought a ski boat for our family. Our daughter was both excited and nervous about skiing. On our first outing on the boat, Danna watched her dad ski and then saw her brother pop up out of the water immediately and ski around the entire lake. I quickly pointed out that the skis and the boat were brand-new, that her dad had been driving a ski boat since childhood, and that if the motor could yank her big brother and dad out of the water, pulling her up would be a cinch. She was really nervous. After several failed attempts, Danna was just about ready to call it quits when Dan turned to her brother and said, "Son, get in the water with her and help her get up." Jered jumped in and began to talk to her, giving her pointers, helping her with her skis, and assuring her that this time she would make it. On the first try, she came up grinning. Dan and I were cheering and hollering every minute of her ride. Today Danna is an excellent skier who cannot believe there was ever a time when she could not ski. When Jered "got alongside" his sister, he lessened her fear by getting under the weight of that fear with her. Then she was able to overcome it. There are times when those who are afraid of the water they are in need us to get in the water with them.
Those Who Are Weak Need Encouragement
Someone who is weak has no strength and is unable to function alone. All of their strength has been drained from them by some circumstance or series of circumstances in life. They want to do the right thing but are just too weak to get up and do it. They need strength and encouragement.
Everyone Needs Encouragement
The last phrase of 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says "be patient with everyone."Every person who has ever walked the earth needs encouragement at some point in life. Even Jesus needed encouragement. We all have moments when we are paralyzed emotionally. We all have moments when we are afraid and simply too weak and too tired to keep going. We try to carry those burdens alone while Galatians 6:2 tells us that we need to "carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." It is a spiritual reality that we need each other. We were created to share the burdens of each other.
I read about a pastor who preached a sermon on bearing each other's burdens. The pastor referred to Matthew 11:29-30 where Jesus tells us to "take my yoke upon you...for my yoke is easy and my burden is light." When he had finished his sermon, one of the church members came up to him and said, "I wish I had known what you were going to preach about. I could have told you something." "Well, my friend," the pastor said, "you can tell me now." The church member asked the pastor, "Do you know why His yoke is light?" The pastor thought a moment and then responded, "Well, because the good Lord helps us to carry it, I suppose." "No, sir," he said, shaking his head. "You see, when I was a boy at home, I used to drive the oxen, and the yoke was never made to balance. Father's yokes were always made heavier on one side than the other. Then we would put a weak ox in alongside a strong bullock. The light end would come on the weak ox and the heavier end on the stronger one. That's why the yoke is easy and the burden is light—because the Lord's yoke is made the same way. The heavy end is upon His shoulder."
Life is filled with burdens that are too heavy for us to carry alone. Jesus came to walk with us, sharing the loads we bear. His strength and love pour encouragement into every step. We need to do the same with the people in our lives.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the gift of encouragement You have given me. When I am tired, You give me the strength to go on. When I am discouraged, You give me hope. When I am afraid, You are my peace. Please help me to give away the encouragement You have given me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask God to show you the people in your life who need your encouragement. It may be a friend or a family member who is "stuck in neutral, afraid or weak." Record their names in your journal. Begin praying for them and look for ways to encourage them.
Someone who is stuck in neutral _________________________
Someone who is afraid _________________________
Someone who is weak _________________________
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Encouragement is like a boomerang. When thrown correctly, it will come back to you. Godly encouragement does not wait for an invitation to work. It looks for the opportunity to work. Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, I Need a Friend.
Do you want to be a success? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Power Up With Proverbs, for Biblical wisdom and practical steps you can take to live a life of victory. Since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join and still have access to all of the lessons.
Do you have any difficult relationships in your life? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those people who rub you the wrong way.
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April 18, 2013
The Perfect Wedding
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For your Maker is your husband—
the Lord Almighty is his name—
the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;
he is called the God of all the earth." (Isaiah 54:5 NIV)
Friend to Friend
I was five-years-old, just a wisp of a little girl living in a dream world all my own. On one particular afternoon, I gathered my supplies and prepared for the big day. First, I wrapped a long white sheet around my slender body and draped the excess over my shoulder and down my back. Then I draped a bath-sized towel over the crown of my head like a veil and clutched a bouquet of plastic flowers to my chest. I stood at the end of my home's long hallway and the processional began. I could almost hear the organ playing "Here comes the bride," as I sashayed down the "aisle" with imaginary friends and family looking on.
Little girls and big girls dream about the day they will become a bride. And for many, that dream doesn't always turn out the way they had hoped. But here is some good news...some great news; no matter what your marital status this side of heaven - never married, once married, happily married, widowed or divorced, God is your holy Husband who longs to protect you, provide for you, and cherish you through all the ups and downs of life. His name is Ish – Husband.
We first see God's name as Ish or Husband in the book of Isaiah: "For your Maker is your husband — the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth."
In the New Testament, Jesus is also referred to as the husband for his bride – the Church.
I asked my husband what visual image forms in his mind when he reads that he is part of the "Bride of Christ."
"Nothing really," he replied.
Granted, I can't picture Steve walking down the aisle in a pearl studded wedding gown. But oh sister, I can see myself waltzing down the aisle to meet my Jesus. Can't you? What a blessing God has given His female image-bearers as the Bride of Christ, and He our husband!
In the Old Testament Jewish tradition, the father chose a bride for his son. If the woman accepted the proposal of marriage, the groom paid a "bride price" to her family of a few cows, a couple of sheep, or perhaps some gold trinkets. The couple drank from a cup of wine to seal the marriage covenant between them, and would not drink of it again until the day of the wedding ceremony. Then the groom left his betrothed and went back to his father's house to build a home for her. Once the home was competed to the father's satisfaction, the young man returned to whisk away his bride. Usually this took place in the middle of the night with torch toting groomsmen whooping and hollering to let her know they were on their way. Her responsibility was to be prepared – to be ready at all times.
And so it is with your groom. God has chosen you to be the bride for his Son (Ephesians 1:4). Jesus paid the ultimate bride price for you when He gave His very life on the cross (1 Corinthians 6:20). At the last supper, after Jesus and his disciples had broken the bread and drank the wine, He explained to them, "I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now until that day when I drink it anew with you in my Father's kingdom" (Matthew 26:29).
And where is Jesus right now? He is preparing your home. "My Father's house has many rooms," Jesus said, "if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am" (John 14:2-3). And when his Father says it is time, Jesus will come back like a "thief in the night" to whisk away his bride (1 Thessalonians 5:1-2).
Doesn't that just give you chills!
Whether you are divorced with a heart broken by betrayal, widowed with a bed chilled by loneliness, single with still no promise of a ring on your finger, or happily joined to the man of your dreams, Jesus longs to take you in his arms, not simply "for as long as you both shall live," but for all eternity.
Let's Pray
Yahweh Ish, Thank You for caring for me as a husband cares for his bride. Thank You for Your protection, provision, and never-ending love. I rest in the knowledge that You are my sacred Ish, not simply "til' death do us part," but for all eternity.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses and note how Jesus referred to himself:
Hosea 2:16, 19-20
Matthew 9:15
Revelation 19:6-9
What comes to your mind when you think of Jesus as the groom and you as the Bride? Share your answer on my blog page in the comment box.
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I don't know about you, but for most of us, life doesn't usually turn out the way we had hoped. Broken dreams litter life. But here's the good news! God has a purpose and a plan. HE has a more amazing plan for you than you ever imagined. If you have lost sight of your dreams, grab onto God's hand and travel to a place you thought you'd never find. The dreams God had planned for you all along. I'm offering a special offer to my blog readers for the month of April. Buy 1 copy of Dreams of a Woman: God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams and get one free. When you purchase 1 copy, we'll ship you 2. It won't show up on your receipt, but 2 will show up in your package. This is only for the month of April. Only for my blog readers.
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April 19, 2013
Who Defines Your Worth?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"You are precious and honored in my sight..." (Isaiah 43:4a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Years ago, I bought my daughter a really cute jacket at the mall. It was a hoodie made of a cuddly fabric with cream, lavender, and mint green horizontal stripes. The jacket zipped up in the front and was well crafted, stylish, and simply adorable.
When I bought it, I felt like the price on the tag was a fair one, so I gladly pulled out my wallet and paid the retail amount. I was a kid in a candy store on the way home - fully anticipating a shriek of happiness from my little bag-of-beans when I gave it to her.
Delightfully, I wasn't disappointed. Kennedy loved her new coat, and I was pleased with my purchase. Happy dances all around... until a week later, when I saw the same jacket in the same store at a greatly reduced price. Are you tensing up with me? Suddenly, I felt schnookered! Ripped off. Taken advantage of. As soon as I saw the red line on the price tag of the unsold coats, everything changed in my mind – Kennedy's jacket wasn't worth what I paid for it.
When we speak of the worth of something, we often consider it to be a relative term. One that has shifting factors. For example, the jacket I bought was thirty-nine dollars, and a week later it was nineteen ninety-nine. The jacket didn't change, but its perceived worth did.
Now, consider the worth of a woman. Are the factors that determine her value based upon variable and shifting factors or are they based upon fixed factors? Seems to be a silly question, doesn't it? Fixed, of course! But, if the answer is so glaringly obvious, why do we struggle so much as women with feelings of worthlessness? Why do we walk around feeling like that red lined jacket? I think it's because we often allow variable earthly factors to define our worth.
What kind of variable factors?
There are so many reasons why women feel worthless:
Because they've been abused (raped, molested, physically abused, verbally abused...)
Because they've been told that they're worthless (by a parent, spouse, sibling, teenage child, or another...)
Because of choices they've made or that have been made for them (divorce, infidelity, abortion, promiscuity, eating disorders, addictions, uncontrolled anger...)
Because they've been cheated on (infidelity, internet affair, pornography...)
Because they're co-dependent (conclude their value based upon other people – "If my husband isn't okay, I'm not okay.")
Because they don't collect a paycheck (stay at home moms that have left the work force, laid off employees, displaced employees, those on disability...)
Because they've battled an illness (unable to care for family, perform basic home duties, participate in ministry or Bible study like they once did, can't drive, cook...)
Unfortunately, the variable factors that we use to define our worth are endless. Many of us feel worthless. Why? We've felt ignored, invisible, insignificant, useless, undesired, ugly, unloved, or forgotten. We girls are emotional; broken in many ways. Great portions of our identity and of our personal value are wrapped into combustible packages of emotion - how we feel about this or that. The truth is, our worth has nothing to do with our feelings.
Trust me, I'm not going to try to convince you that I know everything there is to know about feeling like a woman of worth. Or about being a woman of worth. I am in the trenches with you. I struggle with normal feminine emotions and daily challenges. I don't live a fancy schmancy, rose-colored wonder-life. I hit the snooze button several times each morning. I pack lunches for my kids. I spend countless hours of my life each year sitting in the car pool line. It's a never-ending struggle for me to keep the laundry done and my kids often have to fish for a matching pair of socks in the clean-clothes basket. My husband is my soul mate, but is far from perfect. For that matter, Brad should win a lifetime achievement award for enduring the drama of me! Seriously. And my kids bring me both great joy and great frustration on a daily basis.
Is this sounding at all familiar to you?
See – I'm just like you, and I'm walking this faith journey right beside you. In fact, the more I know God, the less inclined I am to pretend to have life or faith figured out. Amen? I'm constantly tempted to define my worth with activities, emotions, and accomplishments. I've come to realize, however, that way of thinking is a spiritual dead end road. Scripture tells us that anything we do in our own strength or of our own goodness is of no value to God. "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags" (Isaiah 64:6a).
What I do know is this: because of Jesus Christ, I'm a woman of highest worth. Not because of anything else. I'm a grace girl. Not perfect by a long stretch. I've been changed by the unconditional love of God and restored to perfect beauty through the shed blood of Jesus. Because of love, we are His daughters, precious in His sight. In light of this, we need to set aside feelings that diminish our value, and embrace our proper identity: Child of the King of Kings.
Hear this, friend: feelings of worthlessness are from Satan himself. It burns me up that the enemy has such a strong grip on God's daughters in this area. We need to associate the word worthless with the word lie. That's exactly what it is, a big, fat lie! I talk to women all the time who bend a knee to negative feelings and live defeated lives because they don't quite know how to overcome their sense of worthlessness. God wants every one of us to experience healing and have an appropriate sense of self-worth.
So let's go back to Kennedy's new coat for just a moment. Imagine walking into God's department store. There on the rack, you spy a coat that is just plain fabulous – I mean stop-you-in-your-tracks fabulous! One-size fits all, the tag reads. Yeah, right, you whisper under your breath. Then you flip over the price tag and it's crazy expensive – way beyond what you could ever dream of paying. Like, if you added up every dollar that ever passed through your hands – then multiplied that by ten thousand – that kind of expensive. Then imagine the storeowner walking over to you, slipping the coat off the rack and onto your shoulders.
"It's a perfect fit," He smiles.
"Sir," you manage with a whisper, "I could never afford such a coat. This is meant for royalty and I'm, well, just an ordinary girl."
"Oh precious woman, this coat is made especially for you, and the price has already been paid in full."
As the owner straightens the sleeves on your arms and adjusts the collar around your neck, you notice his hands - nail pierced hands. And suddenly you realize that this is the covering you were meant to wear all along.
You see, the Bible tells us that because of what Jesus did on the cross, we can be clothed with the "robe of righteousness." The apostle Paul tells us that when we are reconciled to God, we become His righteousness. "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:21). There's no way we could ever afford or earn such a robe but Jesus gave His life for us - He earned it for us. He paid the price and we receive the gift. Why? Because you're worth it. You are precious and highly valuable in the eyes of the One who sees. And you never, never, never have to worry about being on anyone's bargain rack again.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I'm humbled to be viewed as precious in Your eyes. Thank You for taking on my sin so that I could take on your righteousness. Please help me to see myself as You see me. Help me to thrive in Your beauty as a woman of worth!
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read today's devotion? Are you held captive by feelings of worthlessness? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask God to reveal truth to your heart about how He sees you.
Ready to put your emotions in their proper place? Click over to my blog and leave this comment of God-confidence: "I am a woman of worth!"
Print or write out this verse: "I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands" (Isaiah 49:15-16, NASB). Set it to memory and allow it to serve as a reminder that you are precious to God.
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I wish I could reach through my computer screen, grab your hands, and pray with you right now. I don't know what you are going through, but our loving Father is keenly aware of your circumstances, your feelings, and your needs. Please take heart in knowing that Mary, Sharon, and I are praying for you.
Today's devotion is from Gwen's book, Broken into Beautiful. Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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April 22, 2013
First Class Living
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"Jesus said, 'My purpose is to give life in all its fullness.'" (John 10:10 NLT)
Friend to Friend
I will never forget the first time I flew first class. Dan and I were on our way to North Carolina for a few days of much needed vacation. We were both exhausted, having just returned from a wonderful but grueling mission trip to Peru. I couldn't wait to get on that plane, grab a pillow and blanket, and sleep my way to North Carolina.
When I spotted an abnormally long line of people and realized it was the check-in line for our gate, my attitude took a nosedive. I was tired. I was hungry. We had missed both breakfast and lunch in order to make our flight, and that tiny little pouch of honey-roasted peanuts waiting for me on board the plane was just not going to cut it! Oh, and did I mention how much I hate to wait – for anyone or anything? Patience is definitely not one of my strongest qualities.
Suddenly, a man dressed in a pilot's uniform stepped up to the ticket counter. "He looks familiar," I thought to myself, but since Dan was the pastor of a large church in town, we often ran into people who attended one of the five weekend services. My husband is great at remembering names and faces, but me – not so much. The fact that the pilot looked familiar did not register as pertinent information – until he waved in our direction and said, "Please step forward."
Wait! Was he talking to us?
"Pastor Dan and Mary, will you please step up to the counter?" the pilot repeated. Dan immediately recognized him as John Littleton, a new believer who was attending the church.
"I knew you were a pilot, John, but I didn't realize that you worked for this airline," Dan said. Things were definitely looking up. Maybe I could score two pouches of peanuts.
"Where are you headed?" my new best friend asked. When we told him, John promptly moved us from coach to first class and escorted us past all of the other waiting - and now glaring - passengers. I was a little uncomfortable "cutting" in line, but any hesitation on my part quickly faded as John showed us to our seats, and firmly instructed the stewardess to take good care of his "pastors." I love that man!
I soon discovered that I was a real person in first class, assigned to a spacious and extremely comfortable leather recliner where I actually had room to move and breathe without assaulting the person next to me. My meal was not wrapped in paper, and they actually trusted me with real eating utensils. I was presented with cloth napkins, hot food, good movies, current magazines and a stewardess who seemed totally committed to my comfort.
I immediately decided that I was born to fly first class! The only problem with that decision is that I simply cannot afford to purchase a first class airline ticket. Someone will have to buy it for me.
You and I were created to live a full and abundant life – a first class kind of life. In John 10:10, Jesus said, "My purpose is to give life in all its fullness."
The good news is that Jesus has already paid the price, not only for our "ticket" to heaven, but He also gave us with a life of purpose and power here on earth. We cannot begin to understand all that God's "fullness" holds, but I do know that what He wants for me far exceeds anything I could possibly imagine. And I can imagine a lot.
God is calling you to follow Him. He is asking for 100% commitment and, in return, He will fill your life, now and eternally, with the fullness that only comes through knowing and serving the Master. Don't settle for anything less than living life – first class.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart hungers for Your power to flow through my life. I choose to obey You. I will seek You with my whole heart and I will follow You wherever You lead me. I know that Your plan for my life is amazing and I don't want to miss any of it. Today, I choose to set aside my agenda and rest in the abundant life only You can give.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you could choose one word to describe your life journey so far, what would it be? Explain.
Explain the statement that God is your source. What does that really mean in your life? What other "sources" have you counted on? Did they lead to success or failure?
What "wants" have been a hindrance to the abundant and full life God has for you? What steps of obedience are you willing to take in order to control those "wants"?
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It is easy to live an entire life – just doing the next thing on the list. God has so much more for you! Surrender! Give Him permission to capture your heart. Yield to God's abundant plan and experience what it is like to live – first class.
Do you want to be a success? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Power Up With Proverbs, for Biblical wisdom and practical steps you can take to live a life of victory. Since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join and still have access to all of the lessons.
Do you have any difficult relationships in your life? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those people who rub you the wrong way.
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April 23, 2013
A Daddy Who Loves Me
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
[God said] "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a little girl, my father spent most of his waking hours working at his building supply company, observing construction sites, and socializing with his colleagues and associates. Even though his place of business was only a few blocks from our home, his heart was miles away in a place I could not find.
My father didn't drink alcohol every day, but when he did, it consumed him. Dad was filled with a rage that always seemed to be hiding just beneath the surface of his tough skin. And when he drank, that rage spewed out like hot lava onto those around him. Unfortunately, my mother was the most common target. As a child, many nights I crawled into bed, pulled the covers tightly under my chin or even over my head, and prayed that I would quickly fall asleep to shut out the noise of my parents yelling, fighting, and hitting.
I was afraid of my father. Even when he was sober, I kept my distance. At the same time, I observed how other daddies cherished their little girls. I saw them cuddle their daughters in their laps, hold their hands while walking in the park, or kiss their cheeks as they dropped them off at school in the mornings. And while I wasn't fatherless, I felt as though I was. Deep in my heart, I had a dream. I dreamed that one day I would have a daddy who loved me—not because I was pretty or made good grades or could play the piano well, but just because I was his.
Then one day, the dream came true. I discovered that I did have a Father who loved me...and so do you. God is your Heavenly Father who loves you unconditionally, provides for you unreservedly, and protects you unceasingly.
In the New Testament, Jesus called God by the name Father more than any other name. He also invites us to do the same. Think about that for a moment. The God of the universe who created the heavens and the earth; who always has been and always will be; who is all-knowing, all-powerful, and present everywhere at once—that same God invites you to call Him Abba, Father!
When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, He said:
"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. . . ." (Matthew 6:6-9, italics added)
My friend, Gayle has a granddaughter named Carlie. One day Carlie and her best friend were sitting in the back seat of Gayle's car. Carlie and this little friend were born on the same day, and their moms were in hospital rooms right beside each other. Not only that, the two girls lived in the same apartment complex. One difference was that Carlie's friend never knew her father. Her mom had boyfriends that came and went through the years, but never a real dad.
When Gayle kept Carlie on the weekends, sometimes her best friend came along. One day, Gayle had both girls in the back seat when she was running an errand. They were about five-years-old at the time. And just out of the blue, Carlie's little friend said, "I wish I had a daddy like you have a daddy."
And Carlie said, "Oh you do have a daddy."
"No I don't. I want a daddy like you have a daddy. I wish I had a daddy."
"But you do have a daddy," Carlie answered back. "We all have a daddy. God is our daddy. He's everybody's daddy."
Gayle looked in her rearview mirror and saw Carlie's friend hold up her hands in exasperation.
"Why has nobody every told me this!"
How precious! I have a daddy. You have a daddy. God is your Father and He loves you more than you could ever know. You, my friend, are the apple of Your Daddy's eye (Psalm 17:8 NIV).
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for adopting me into Your family. How blessed I am to have a Father who loves me unconditionally, cares for me unceasingly, and provides for me lavishly. I love You.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses and note what you learn about being a child of God.
John 12:1-2
Philippians 2:15
Describe the difference between the actions and emotions of an orphan and a child of a King.
Which reflects your life the most?
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I don't know about you, but for most of us, life doesn't usually turn out the way we had hoped. Broken dreams litter life. But here's the good news! God has a purpose and a plan. HE has a more amazing plan for you than you ever imagined. If you have lost sight of your dreams, grab onto God's hand and travel to a place you thought you'd never find. The dreams God had planned for you all along. I'm offering a special offer to my blog readers for the month of April. Buy 1 copy of Dreams of a Woman: God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams and get one free. When you purchase 1 copy, we'll ship you 2. It won't show up on your receipt, but 2 will show up in your package. This is only for the month of April. Only for my blog readers.
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April 24, 2013
Resource Inventory
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want." (Psalm 23:1 NIV)
Friend to Friend
When it comes to the resources that we need for life, this promise from the 23rd Psalm is staggeringly important to remember because it holds the promise of contentment in our lives. A famous actor was once the guest of honor at a social gathering where he was asked to recite favorite excerpts from various literary works. An old preacher who happened to be there asked the actor to recite the twenty-third Psalm. The actor agreed on the condition that the preacher would also recite it. The actor's recitation was beautifully intoned with great dramatic emphasis for which he received lengthy applause. The preacher's voice was rough and broken from many years of preaching, and his diction was anything but polished. But when he finished, there was not a dry eye in the room. When someone asked the actor what made the difference, he replied, "I know the psalm, but he knows the Shepherd."
When we know Him, we have everything that we need. An amazing strength and unshakable contentment comes from a source that is not our own. It comes from an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Knowing God makes all of His resources available to us – resources like wisdom, guidance, power, peace, love, patience and self-control. In other words, knowing God provides strength for every area of life. Strength is fertile soil for peace and will bring a harvest of contentment. God did not come to give us human strength. He came to give us His strength.
Psalm 29:11 "The LORD gives his people strength. The LORD blesses them with peace."
Isaiah 12: 2 The LORD GOD is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.
When we count on His resources instead of our own, we will experience true contentment. I read a story about a man who had to cross a wide river on the ice. He was afraid it might be too thin, so he began to crawl on his hand and knees, in great fear that he thought might fall through at any moment. Just as he neared the opposite shore, totally exhausted, another man glided past him nonchalantly sitting on a sled loaded with iron weights. How like us! We live each day, crawling through life, settling for our meager strength and our pitifully limited resources, afraid that His promises will break under the weight of our circumstances.
Listen, girlfriend. There is no limit to His power and there is no end to His strength. In fact, our weakness is the perfect showcase for His strength. According to the American Holistic Health Federation, people who are not satisfied with their lives and seem to have no contentment increase their risk of premature death by at least ten percent. Hudson Taylor once noted, "God uses men who are weak and feeble enough to lean on him." Paul writes in another letter to the church at Corinth, "My power works best in your weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:19) Today, right now, exchange your weak resources for His by giving up your rights, your plans and solutions. Lay them at His feet and choose His plan instead. Then you will find contentment.
Let's Pray
Father, it seems that a seed of discontent has taken root in my life. I have tried so many things, hoping they would fill that "hole" in my soul. I have looked to so many people to make me happy. I now realize the only source of contentment is You. Right now, I lay down every lifeless resource and submit to You, Your plan and Your perfect provision in my life. Thank You, Lord, for being everything I need.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What resources have you been counting on for contentment? Have those resources disappointed you? How? What steps do you need to take in order to experience His contentment in your life? Try these:
Admit that you have been counting on your resources instead of God's.
Recognize that those resources have not brought contentment to your life.
Choose to allow the Holy Spirit to create God's resources in you.
Commit to follow His plan and count on His resources for that plan.
Thank Him for the contentment that you know, by faith, will flood your life.
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If you are like me, I find it very easy to get caught up in acquiring "stuff." Several years ago, we moved to a much smaller house, and needed to eliminate a lot of "treasures" we had moved over the course of many years and many moves. At first, it was hard to let go of each item...but it got easier and easier as the days went by. Now, I can't remember most of the things I gave away. Join me in a commitment to loosely hold on to the things of this world.
Do you want to be a success? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Power Up With Proverbs, for Biblical wisdom and practical steps you can take to live a life of victory. Since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join and still have access to all of the lessons.
Do you have any difficult relationships in your life? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those people who rub you the wrong way.
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Her Story, My Story, Your Story
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
[God said ] "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18).
Friend to Friend
Once upon a time, not so very long ago or far away, a baby girl was born to parents who could not keep her. Neither parent was willing to release her for adoption, but neither was able to care for her. So while the legal system shuffled her case back and forth, the baby girl grew into a toddler in a foster home.
Her care was certainly adequate, her physical needs were met, and she never went hungry. Her clothes, though not new, were never dirty. Her toys, though not her own, were always sufficient. This little girl was not mistreated or abused, and yet, in her heart was a hollow space. She desperately wanted what she had never had—a mommy and a daddy of her own.
Only a few doors from the foster home lived a kind couple with a teenage son. The family wanted a little girl, the little girl needed a family, and the details of a trying and lengthy adoption were worked out. And while this little girl received a wonderful mommy and an adoring big brother, her relationship with her daddy was extra special.
Ashley was two-years-old when she entered his life. She was thin, pale, and clingy. By the time the adoption was finally complete, she was almost three. Ashley had never seen the ocean, eaten a Happy Meal, or slept in a bed in a room of her own. A few months after the adoption, Ashley traveled to the beach for her first family reunion. She was overwhelmed with excitement and pride. She had received so much so fast, and it was hard to take it all in. Ashley asked everyone she met if they were part of her family. "Are you my aunt?" "Are you my uncle?" "Are you my cousin?" She ran from person to person showering hugs and kisses on her newly acquired family. "l love you!" she told them. "I love you all!"
When her new daddy took her to McDonald's for the first time, Ashley didn't join the other children on the playground equipment. She was too busy asking important questions: "Do you have a daddy? I have a daddy! See, that's my daddy over there," she exclaimed with excitement and wonder. "Isn't he wonderful?"
"What's your name?" she asked. "My name is Ashley Jordan Ambrose, just like my daddy. I'm named after my daddy!"
Five years later, tanned, transformed, and confident, Ashley returned to the annual family reunion. This time she brought a scrapbook of pictures to share with anyone who would sit still long enough to look and listen.
"This is my story," she would say. "See, this is where I lived before Mommy and Daddy adopted me. They picked me out special. See, this is my room now. It's all my own. And these are my toys and my own clothes, and here's a picture of my kitty and one of my dog and . . ."
Ashley has love overflowing for everyone, but no one is higher on her list than her daddy. He knows how to polish toenails, drip sand castles, tie hair ribbons, hold her in the night—and he calls her his little princess.
I love that story, because you see, I too have been adopted by my Heavenly Father – and He calls me his little princess. And friend, that is also true for you.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, O how I love You. Thank you for adopting me into Your family and making me Your child. Thank You for being my heavenly parent who loves me unconditionally, cares for me unendingly, and provides for all my needs. I am so blessed to be Your child.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up these verses and note what you learn about being a child of God.
Romans 8:15-17
2 Corinthians 6:18
1 John 3:1
Make a list of characteristics of the perfect father. Now put a check by the ones that you have experienced in God.
Click over to my blog post and tell me 5 of your favorite characteristics of God as Your Heavenly Father.
More from the Girlfriends
I don't know about you, but for most of us, life doesn't usually turn out the way we had hoped. Broken dreams litter life. But here's the good news! God has a purpose and a plan. HE has a more amazing plan for you than you ever imagined. If you have lost sight of your dreams, grab onto God's hand and travel to a place you thought you'd never find. The dreams God had planned for you all along. I'm offering a special offer to my blog readers for the month of April. Buy 1 copy of Dreams of a Woman: God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams and get one free. When you purchase 1 copy, we'll ship you 2. It won't show up on your receipt, but 2 will show up in your package. This is only for the month of April. Only for my blog readers.
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April 26, 2013
Who is your Kuleana?
Pam Farrel
From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Pam Farrel. Pam and Bill Farrel are relationship experts and best-selling authors of over 37 books including Men Are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti, and their newest devotional, A Couple's Journey With God. Free resources by the Farrels can be found at www.Love-Wise.com
Today's Truth
"We proclaim to you what we have seen and heard, so that you also may have fellowship with us. And our fellowship is with the Father and with his Son, Jesus Christ." (1 John 1:3)
Friend to Friend
In our newest book, A Couple's Journey with God devotional, we share how, on a ministry trip to the islands, we learned a vital island phrase. In the Hawaiian language there is a term, "Kuleana," which means your "path" or your "posse," those people for whom and to whom you are responsible. It is your accountability system. We like to call it your successnet. Picture walking the tightrope of life - these are the people who are carrying the net under you in case you fall. They include family who really know you, friends who walk beside you, your children and grandchildren and anyone who looks up to you. Also included are any mentors or leaders who have poured into you. And it definitely includes your spouse.
A smart couple will have a large Kuleana, and a Kuleana with whom they can be real, honest and authentic. Some call this kind of honest fellowship an accountability system. While the Bible doesn't use the exact word "accountability," it does use some words that give the strong idea that God thinks accountability is vital. Fellowship or Koinonia means an association based upon a common bond, with willing participation and sharing. True fellowship involves authenticity, which can involve two key words:
Exhortation: "called alongside to bring out the best in another."
Admonish: "to put in mind" and carries the idea of putting the right thoughts into the minds of others
So it seems God wants us all to have a group or a fellowship of people we walk alongside, and who walk alongside us. And while we are journeying together, we are to put the right thoughts into each other's minds.
Many people ask Bill and me what the strength of our relationship is, and we have to say we are Kuleana to each other first. We honestly share when we are struggling with something. Too many people keep hidden sins, negative thoughts, and unresolved feelings from their spouse—sometimes even with good intentions like "I don't want to hurt him or her." While we always think it is wise to talk to God first, then whomever God directs you to get counsel from, often your mate can be one of the best people to use as a sounding board in a struggle because he or she knows you best.
Bill and I are responsible to each other in so many areas: how we spend (or save) money, what we watch on TV or listen to or read, how we raise our children, and all our spiritual disciplines: prayer, Bible study, exercise, using our gifts, worship, and yes, the Koinonia or Kuleana of building a success net together. Because we talk honestly about what God is teaching us, what the Holy Spirit is convicting us to do or say, or how God wants us to better reflect his glory; we are drawn to each other like magnets.
When we were single, our entire Kuleana or Koinonia friendship circle would greet each other with, "Hi! How are you? What's God been teaching you?" Just asking that question was true Kuleana because it meant we were responsible for learning something from God daily in order to have an answer for that question. Bill and I continue this habit in our own private spiritual lives today.
Look for opportunities to have heart-to-heart talks with each person in your Kuleana. Today, take a walk with your mate or best Girlfriend in God, or sit down for some "Kona" coffee and ask, "So what's God been teaching you?" and have some Kuleana.
Let's Pray
Lord, let me be the kind of mom, wife, or friend that is authentic and honest with my Kuleana. Help me be a woman who walks alongside others putting right thoughts into other's hearts and lives.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who are those people that form your Kulenana? Who are your responsible for? Who are you responsible to? What positive steps can you take today to build into your Kuleana??
More from the Girlfriends
Before we can trust others, we must learn to trust God, and that can sometimes be hard. Need help? Order a copy of our GiG book, Trusting God, A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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April 29, 2013
Free at Last
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"So Christ has really set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don't get tied up again in slavery to the law." (Galatians 5:1 NLT)
Friend to Friend
The story is told of an Indian village that held an annual bazaar where villagers came to sell the crafts and wares they had made during the year as well as the animals they raised. One year a man brought a covey of quail to sell. In order to display the birds, he tied one end of a piece of string to one of their legs and the other end to a stake in the ground.
Shoppers passed by all day long, watching the birds walk in a circle around the stake. No one seemed interested in buying them until a religious man approached and asked how much the merchant wanted for them. The merchant named an exorbitant price, which the religious man quickly paid, immediately instructing the merchant to set the birds free. When the merchant asked why he was willing to pay so much for the birds and then let them go, the religious man simply responded, "Because they were created to be free."
The merchant didn't understand, but shrugged his shoulders and cut the strings, setting the birds free. The quail continued marching in a circle around the stake. The buyer stepped into the middle of the circle, scattering the birds, which flew a few yards, landed and once again began to march in a circle. The quail were free – but did not know it.
We all seek freedom. With our very first breath, we come into this world kicking and screaming for freedom. The desire to be free was tucked into our very soul by God Himself as He formed us in the womb. Because freedom is a God-given need our Father promised to provide a right way for that need to be met and the longing for freedom to be filled.
Freedom comes with truth.
In John 8:32 we find the promise, "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." To know truth we must know God, because He is truth. John 14:6 tells us Jesus is "the way, the truth, and the life" and that no one can come to the Father except through Him. When we come to Jesus Christ in a personal relationship, we will experience true freedom for the first time - freedom from sin - freedom from condemnation and death and freedom to really live. Without truth, there can be no freedom.
Freedom comes with obedience.
Obedience calls us to challenge and lay aside anything that hinders our walk with God. Instead, we refuse to forsake cherished sin, allowing wrong attitudes to take root and prosper while harmful habits hold us prisoner. The writer of Hebrews offers compelling direction for the captured soul longing to be free. "Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us." (Hebrews 12:1) Obedience brings freedom.
Freedom comes with understanding.
Until we understand who we are in His eyes, we will never truly be free. Our value and worth rest solely in the fact that we were created, chosen and pursued by God – for God. We belong to Him. His unconditional love sets us free to become all He created us to be which is more than we ever dreamed we could be. In Romans 5:8 the words of Paul celebrate our identity in Him, "But God showed his great love for us by sending Jesus to die for us while we were still sinners." Recognizing our worth and value to God sets us free from the chains of human expectations and earthly demands. Understanding brings freedom.
Christ really has set us free. The question is - are we living in that freedom? Don't live another day chained to the old ways. Seek His truth, walk in obedience and celebrate your God-created identity! Free – free at last!
Let's Pray
Father, I long to be set free in You but I have to admit that total freedom in You frightens me. I am not sure what it will require. I have allowed old habits, sins and attitudes to keep me in bondage. I know that is not Your will or your plan. Right now, I lay down everything that keeps me from being free in You. Help me to walk in that freedom.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there any areas in your life that seem like a deep, dark pit from which there is no escape?
In your journal, write down the first area that came to mind.
Turn in your Bible to Psalm 40:1-3. Read this passage several times, claiming it as God's promise to you - because it is!
Now look at the area of bondage you wrote down. Ask God to show you the steps you must take in order to be free from that bondage.
Write out a prayer of commitment to do what God shows you. Date it and sign it.
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to accept the truth that you were created to live in freedom? Great! But that's not enough. Are you willing to give God permission to work in your life in order to experience His freedom? Sometimes, I think it is easier to stay in the darkness, to be content in a familiar prison. It becomes our identity, and we are not sure if there will be a new identity waiting for us in the light. Do not listen to the lies of the enemy! He wants you to stay where you are, settling for so little when God wants to offer you everything! Don't wait another minute. Cry out to God and take your first step out of bondage into freedom.
Do you want to be a success? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Power Up With Proverbs, for Biblical wisdom and practical steps you can take to live a life of victory. Since each lesson stands alone, it's not too late to join and still have access to all of the lessons.
Do you have any difficult relationships in your life? Get Mary's book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those people who rub you the wrong way. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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April 30, 2013
What's In Your Trash Basket?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus straightened up and asked her, 'Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?'" (John 8:10, NIV)
Friend to Friend
A four-year-old girl was overheard reciting the Lord's Prayer, "and forgive us our trash baskets, as we forgive those who pass trash against us." When I first heard that story, I smiled. Then I thought of a conversation I had had recently with a girlfriend.
She is a Christian friend. But though she has "emptied her trash basket" of sin before the Lord in sincere repentance, she has not emptied the trash basket of self-condemnation. Not completely. She won't allow it. She struggles deeply to let go of mistakes she made in her past. She holds the trash basket lid on tightly. To be free of that waste doesn't seem fair in her mind.
She is haunted by shame. Haunted by mistakes that are no longer remembered by a holy God. Haunted by sins that have been cast as far as the east is from the west.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. (Psalm 103:11-13)
These memories don't live in her past. They live in her now. They haunt her regularly like a spine-chilling horror film monster. And as much as she would like to move forward in forgiveness, she just can't find the courage to scare the monster away.
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 8, we meet a woman caught in the act of adultery. The legalistic teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought her before Jesus. They publicly humiliated her in front of all the town's people, saying to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" (John 8:4-5)
Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger as they continued to question him. Finally, "He straightened up and said to them, '"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.'" Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground" (John 8:7-8).
The crowd eventually thinned to nothing. The older, wiser men cleared first. Then the younger ones trickled away. When the adulterous woman and Jesus were the only ones remaining:
"Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she said.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin" (John 8:10-12).
My sister, do you see that our holy Lord delights to show us mercy? He does not condemn us as we deserve. Time and time again, Scripture reveals merciful pictures of forgiveness. The woman in this story was guilty when she was brought to face Jesus, but as she left His presence, her guilt was forgiven. Her trash basket was empty.
When we turn to face Jesus with repentant hearts, our guilt is forgiven as well.
TOSS YOUR TRASH
This account of the adulterous woman teaches us about forgiveness and it also teaches us a valuable lesson about judging and condemning others. But what does this lesson teach us about judging ourselves? My friend that I spoke of earlier carried around a trash basket filled with junk she threw in herself. Sure, it was accompanied by trash from other people to, but the lingering condemnation came from memories of decisions she had made, things she had done, places she had been, and brokenness she has experienced because of her own choices. In her heart, she accepts the forgiveness of Jesus, but she can't bear to forgive herself. So many women won't forgive themselves.
I've been that woman.
I know that woman.
I know that self-loathing. I've lived it. I'm not going to sit here and try to tell you that forgiving yourself is easy. It's hard—and, in a lot of ways, it should be! But I can testify that it wasn't until I prayerfully allowed the stubborn, strong, and unconditional love of Jesus to pry my fingers off the lid of my trash basket and empty the condemning contents, that I experienced true freedom and complete forgiveness.
Is there something that you have not been able to forgive yourself for?
My friend, we need to stop beating ourselves up for sins of our past. We need to stop allowing guilt and shame to chain us to unproductive living. Jesus humbled Himself by becoming human, endured an excruciating death, and then defied the grave in His resurrection so that we could be restored to a place of complete healing. Complete healing.
Second Corinthians 5:21 states that "God made Him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." If you are in Christ, the Bible says that your guilt was paid for on the cross of Calvary. Jesus carried the sins of the world on His shoulders so that you would not have to carry them on yours.
If you are holding on to un-confessed sin, the time has come for you to release your grip. God's Word promises that, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
ACCEPT HIS FORGIVENESS.
None of us are perfect, just perfectly forgiven in Christ. Take your hand off the lid and allow the Lord to empty your trash basket of every last condemning voice once and for all. Embrace the freedom that Jesus intends for you to live in.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your mercy defies logic. I don't deserve it, and I don't understand how You could possibly forgive me for all that I have done. Please take my trash basket and empty it. Forgive me today and help me to forgive myself, and others, so I can live freely in Your amazing grace.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recite, write, and memorize these verse: "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death." (Romans 8:1-2)
Prayerfully forward this email to a friend (or friends) who might need to read this message.
Journal what God is teaching you. Praise Him for revealing truth to your heart and for His matchless grace.
Join me for prayer and deeper conversation on my blog.
More from the Girlfriends
Every step of forgiveness begins with the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be transformed into a picture of God's beauty, get a copy of Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit my website: www.gwensmith.net.
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. Forgiveness is a core message of faith. I know that many of you might have had to read it through tear-filled eyes. I pray that you will allow God to sift through the clutter in your heart basket and replace your tears of pain with tears of joy. There's a song that I would love for you to hear right now (make sure your volume is turned up)... CLICK HERE TO LISTEN.
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May 1, 2013
Equipped to Handle Life
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work," (2 Timothy 3:16-17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I worked in a medical office several years ago, we had what we called tray setups. On the trays were all the instruments we needed for various procedures. We prepared them ahead of time and stored them in a cabinet for later use. When a patient came in for a certain procedure, we didn't have to scramble around to find what we needed. We simply walked to the cabinet and pulled out the prepared tray. Voila! We were ready to go!
That's how it is with Scripture memorization. When you have Scripture hidden in your heart, you can "pull out" the exact verse you need when you need it. Here are examples of some verses you might need in your "storage cabinet."
When you are afraid: For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV
When you are angry: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 NIV
When you are confused: I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you. Psalm 32:8 NASB
When you are frustrated: Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will be established. Proverbs 16:3 NASB
When someone hurts you: Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32 NASB
When you are lonely: Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. Hebrews 13:5 NIV
When times are hard: For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison. 2 Corinthians 4:17 NASB
When you want to give up: I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 NASB
When you are worried: Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6 NASB
When you mess up big time: One thing I do, forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13-14 NASB
When you have a need: And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 NASB
These are just a smattering of verses that will equip you to handle what life brings your way. Some are from the New American Standard Version and some are from the New International Version.
I encourage you to print out this list, add to this list, and memorize the list. Then when the time comes, you won't have to scramble for what you need. It'll be right on the tip of your tongue and in the storage cabinet of your heart.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You that you have given us every thing we need to live a life of godliness and the truth. Help me to commit Your Word to memory. And remind me of those truths when I need them most.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
More from the Girlfriends
How do you defeat the enemy when he is pestering you with lies – lies that cause you to fear, doubt, and worry? You defeat him with the truth! When it comes to Satan, you don't have to out muscle him, out shoot him, or out smart him. You just have to out truth him. If you would like to learn more about how to win the war over your thought life and stand solidly in the truth, then check out my book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. You'll learn how to realize the enemy's true identity, recognize the lies, reject the lies, and replace the lies with truth.
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May 2, 2013
Idols and Tools
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Jesus said to them, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (Luke 12:15, ICB).
Friend to Friend
We live in a "stuff" driven world where it does not seem to matter how much we have, because it is never enough. We are told the more things we have, the more successful we are. We not only want possessions, we want other people's talents, abilities, circumstances and relationships. Luke warns us to guard against "all kinds of greed." It is easy for us to covet a better job. We want the power that others seem to have. We are driven to have the best and to be the best, unable to relax and celebrate where we are and what we do have. Hebrews 13:5 is a powerful and clear warning to "keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have. God has said, 'I will never leave you; I will never forget you.'" Now that is a fortune!
Be hones. How important are your possessions? How do you view them? Howard Hendricks, a great Bible teacher, was having dinner with a very wealthy and prestigious man. Hendricks was amazed at the humility of his host, knowing the man's impressive credentials and the massive wealth he possessed. At the end of the evening, Hendricks asked his friend, "How did you grow up in such wealth and not be consumed by materialism?" With a smile, the man responded, "My parents taught me that everything in our home was either an idol or a tool. The choice was up to me." The truth is that we want whatever we put first in life. I have discovered the more I have to live for, the less I need to live on. Too often, greed and jealousy encourage wrong decisions and foster unhealthy and ungodly attitudes. The fact is that greed and jealousy are fruits of idolatry. Everything in life is either an idol we choose to worship or a tool we choose to use for good or bad.
Corrie ten Boom was a godly woman who endured great persecution from the Nazis in the World War II concentration camp known as Ravensbruck. During an interview, she once stated she had learned to hold everything "loosely" in her hands. When asked why, Miss ten Boom explained that after being a Christian for many years, she had discovered the truth that when she grasped things tightly, it hurt more when the Lord had to pry her fingers loose. The choice really is ours to make. We need to hold our "stuff" loosely while investing financial resources in eternal things. We need to keep our gaze riveted to God's plan alone instead of entering the all too familiar and ungodly "competition" that seems to plague so many people.
To stay away from idols and avoid greed, we need to change our focus from what we want to what we have, and choose to be satisfied with whatever that is. In Luke 12:15, Jesus issues a warning, "Be careful and guard against all kinds of greed. Life is not measured by how much one owns" (ICB). I believe that attaching importance to "things" is sin and will lead to more sin.
I love the story of a wealthy man who prayed, asking for permission to take his earthly wealth with him when he died and went to heaven. An angel appeared to the man and said, "We heard your prayer, but I am sorry. You simply cannot take it with you." The man pleaded so passionately that the angel said, "Let me see what I can do." When the angel returned, he reported, "Good news! God has made an exception for you. You may bring one suitcase with you when it is your time to go." Delighted, the man packed his one suitcase and went on with life. Several years later, he died and appeared at the Pearly Gates where he was met by St. Peter who took one look at the suitcase and said, "I am sorry, sir, but you cannot bring that in with you." The man protested, "But I received special permission." Just then, the angel appeared and said, "Peter, it is true. He has special permission to bring one suitcase in with him." Curious, Peter said, "Do you mind showing me what is in the bag that is so important to you?" With a smile, the man replied, "Not at all" and proceeded to open the suitcase to reveal stacks of gold bricks. Peter's face said it all, "Pavement? You brought pavement with you?"
Many of us are in a never-ending and futile quest to accumulate "pavement" here that is totally worthless there! Wealth – financial or is all a matter of perspective. We need to understand that our Father wants us to have wealth. We just have to be careful not to settle for earthly money, possessions, human power and prestige instead of the eternal treasures only He can offer.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I value things over people and my relationship with You. Thank You for meeting every need in my life. I now surrender all of my worldly goods to Your control. Help me to become a generous and joyful giver and use me to meet the needs of others so that You will be honored and glorified.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Carefully consider and answer the following questions. Record your answers in your journal.
How important are your possessions to you? Be honest.
Make a list of your ten most important "things." Will they be just as important in a year?
Examine your heart for any jealousy. What steps do you need to take in order to eliminate that jealousy?
Choose to give away a prized possession. What emotions did you have to deal with in making that choice?
Identify and eliminate any "pockets" of jealousy and greed in your heart.
Begin each day with a prayer of thanksgiving. Evaluate the difference this daily prayer has made in a month.
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Many of us have become accustomed to "living on the edge" of financial security. Guard your heart, girlfriend! Keep your gaze on God and the plan to which he has called you. Don't focus on the world and the empty promises of fame and power it offers. Cultivate a grateful heart. Pray for the discernment to embrace those hidden treasures buried in every trial. Praise God for His sufficiency in meeting your every need, even if the way he meets it does not correspond with yours. Trust God – and be thankful.
Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, offers a step-by-step plan for finding contentment in God alone – not in the things of this world. Looking for a practical and powerful Bible study for your daily quiet time or small group study? Check out Mary's weekly Online Bible Study, Power Up With Proverbs. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 3, 2013
Super Mom is a Fairy Tale
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do no grow weary, (Galatians 6:9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Don't you just detest those mothers who seem to have it all together? You know her: super-mom. She is that mythical creature who never yells at her kids. Whose house is always spotless, whose children always obey quickly and quietly, who prepares three meals a day that are nutritious and aesthetically pleasing...the one who is a "successful" mother.
If there is anything that can discourage a hard working mom, it is comparing herself to this creature, which only exists in storybooks. If we think someone is a super-mom, most likely her cape is ripped, her tights are tattered, and her special powers to get her kids to act right got lost in a cluttered closet somewhere. I can assure you that every mother who appears to breeze effortlessly through life has struggles of her own.
When I taught my husband to snow ski, I showed him how to turn his skis toward the side of the mountain to slow down. Inevitably he turned too much to the left or right and ended up with his skis pointing up the mountain. He then proceeded to slide down the mountain backwards. After a few trials and lots of error, he discovered that when he turned, if he just continued turning his skis, making a complete circle, it would slow him down and he wouldn't end up going down hill backwards.
It was a sight to behold, but it worked. At the end of the day, a woman came up to Steve and asked if he could show her how to make those "beautiful circles." Of course he obliged. She thought he was an expert skier who was doing some form of acrobatics. In actuality, he was going in circles, doing whatever it took to keep from going down hill, backwards.
When you look around and see other mothers who appear to be "mothering" better than you, don't be fooled. They are probably doing whatever it takes not to go downhill backwards.
Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.
Calvin Coolidge said, "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan, "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race."
I'd like to add that God is the only One Who is Omnipotent, but persistence and determination while relying on His power brings great results!
Galatians 6:9 reminds us, "Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap if we do no grow weary." That's a promise that we all can cling to.
Let's Pray
Dear God, sometimes I feel like I am going in circles. Help me not compare myself to other moms who seem to be "doing it better," but to keep my eyes on You. I pray that You will help me be the best mom I can be to the children You have given me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Since May is the month of Mother's Day, let's pray for the moms in our GiG Family. Please log onto www.sharonjaynes.com, give your name and state in the comment box (or country if out of the US), and pray for the name ahead and behind yours. I'll pray for the first mom.
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May 6, 2013
How to Avoid Jealousy
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones (Proverbs 14:30, NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all know what it is like to be green with envy. We all struggle with jealousy at some point in life. Let's be honest. How often do we look at another person and covet what we perceive to be their success? How many of us are not content to serve God with the gifts He has given us while whining about the fact that others have the gifts we want. We convince ourselves that our longing for a bigger platform is to further the Kingdom when, in reality, that longing is for self-promotion, fame and recognition. Ugly, isn't it? Jealousy is one of the most dangerous emotions because it is one of the most destructive.
"Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but who can survive the destructiveness of jealousy?" (Proverbs 27:4).
"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice" (James 3:13-16).
James asks, "Who is wise and understanding among you?" The word "wise" describes one with moral insight and/or skill in the practical issues of life. The word "understanding" means "intellectual perception." James asks these pointed questions and then calls for a spiritual "Show and Tell" when he says, "Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom."
James is sending us a strong message that wisdom and understanding are not measured by degrees, but by deeds. In other words, it is not how much we know that counts, but how much we are living that matters. We can talk a great spiritual game, but if we have a jealous heart, if we harbor envy, allowing it to creep into our lives and ministries, taking up residence, then we have no wisdom and are living a lie.
James defines jealousy as "bitter envy and selfish ambition" (James 3:14). "Bitter envy" literally means, "a nasty jealousy" while "selfish ambition" refers to "a contentious selfishness" or "a hostile ego." "Selfish ambition" can also be translated as a "party spirit," and was a term used by the Greeks to describe a dishonest politician who works the crowd, using every opportunity and every possible method to draw attention to himself in an effort to win votes. James is painting an ugly picture of jealousy.
I read about a fisherman who loved to catch crabs. After many years of experience, he learned that he never needed a top for his crab basket. If one of the crabs starts to climb up the sides of the basket, the others will reach up and pull it back down. What a perfect picture of jealousy! A jealous person tears others down in order to promote himself. And isn't our world filled with people who do that?
"You are still not spiritual. You have jealousy and arguing among you. This shows that you are not spiritual. You are acting like people of the world" (1 Corinthians 3:3).
People of the world secretly cheer when their enemy fails.
People of the world are driven by ego.
People of the world want what everyone else has.
People of the world are suspicious of everyone, trusting no one.
People of the world resent the success of others.
People of the world are taught by envy and jealousy to take care of self above all others.
John and Dave were hiking when they spotted a mountain lion staring at them. John froze in his tracks but Dave sat down on a log, tore off his hiking boots, pulled a pair of running shoes from his backpack and quickly put them on. John looked at him in amazement! "You can't outrun a mountain lion!" he said. Dave shrugged and responded, "I don't have to! I just have to outrun you!" I am so glad that God's people are not like that, aren't you? Actually, Paul is writing to God's people, warning them that jealousy is deadly to the unity of the church. Jealousy springs from a heart of insecurity and bubbles out in self-centered actions, arrogant words and divisive attitudes. We must realize that jealousy and envy are in direct opposition to the very nature of Jesus Christ and as a result, produce ungodly results such as:
Pride
Jealousy triggers the release of a false pride. I read the story of a proud woodpecker that was tapping away at a dead tree when the sky unexpectedly turned black and the thunder began to roll. The woodpecker went right on working. Suddenly a bolt of lightning struck the old tree, splintering it into hundreds of pieces. Startled but unhurt, the haughty bird flew off, screeching to his feathered friends, "Hey, everyone, look what I did! Look what I did!" The jealous man must be first in everything. He cannot stand to see anyone except himself in the limelight. Pride is driven to boast. Pride is self-worship.
Denial
Few jealous people realize that they are jealous, and even if they did, would deny it. Jealousy always opposes truth because truth always exposes jealousy. In James 3:13-16 James describes a destructive sequence that is initiated by envy and jealousy. First, selfish ambition leads to a party spirit, a spirit of rivalry. In order to "win the election," we must resort to boasting, which usually involves lies. When jealousy is present in our hearts, we oppose truth and our very life becomes a lie.
Chaos
James 3:16 explains that where there is "envy and selfish ambition," there is disorder. A world dominated by jealousy is a world in chaos. "Disorder" literally means "insurrection" and portrays the idea of an angry mob. In other words, when jealousy fills the heart, the life will be in chaos. Priorities are wrong. Focus is misplaced; contentment vanishes while joy and peace disappear. We become inward and our hearts unhealthy. Jealousy is simply not good for you.
Sinful habits
James 3:16 explains that jealousy not only creates disorder and chaos, it invites "every evil practice" to take up residence in our lives. Jealousy gives the enemy a foothold, a command post from which he oversees the building of sinful habits. "Evil" literally means "worthless" or "of no account." Jealousy consumes our lives with the pursuit of worthless things that do not matter.
Ecclesiastes 4:4 "All labor and all achievement that spring from man's envy of his neighbor...is meaningless, a chasing after the wind."
Jealousy is a spiritual cancer that will invade and destroy whatever it touches. Everything we do from the motive of jealousy is empty and does not count in Kingdom work. We need to brutally and honestly examine every heart motive, and choose against anything or anyone who promotes jealousy and envy.
Let's Pray
Lord, forgive me for allowing jealousy to be present in my life. I confess it to you as sin. Please strengthen me and help me guard my heart against any kind of envy. I love You, Father. You are all I need. Teach me to walk in Your ways and fill my heart with Your love and kindness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are any of the following characteristics or behaviors present in your life? If so, can you identify its source? What steps do you need to take in order to find victory in each area? Record your answers in your journal.
Pride _________________________________________________
Denial ________________________________________________
Chaos ________________________________________________
Sinful habits____________________________________________
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May 7, 2013
Trusting God to Answer Your Prayers
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given you, (John 15:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am blessed with some very special nieces and nephews. One of my favorite people in the world is my niece, Grace Anne. After college, Grace Anne served two years with a mission organization, teaching Physical Education in the Dominican Republic. Those two years were very different and difficult for Gracie. She didn't have the luxury of hot showers, fast food, or texting. Her apartment was sparse, her friends were few, and her trips to the mall were non-existent.
But while Grace Anne didn't have the luxuries and modern conveniences that we so take for granted, she did have the indulgence of a quieter life, a beautiful mountainous vista, and an increased proclivity to hearing God's voice without the carnal clattering of our fast-paced society.
One day, Grace Anne e-mailed me about what God was teaching her. Let me share these wise words from one so young.
Hi Aunt Sharon,
I hope your Monday morning is going well so far! I haven't started having class yet, so I thought that I would share with you something I have been reminded of lately.
I was reading Streams in the Desert the other day and read the scripture from Genesis 24:15 26-27 "Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder...Then the man bowed down and worshiped the Lord, saying, 'Praise be to the Lord ... who has not abandoned his kindness and faithfulness.'"
I couldn't remember the whole story from that scripture so I looked it up and was reminded of the great story of Abraham's servant being obedient and putting his faith in God to provide a wife for Isaac.
Before the servant was even finished praying his request to God, God answered the prayer! I was reminded, "When we ask in faith and in Christ's name--that is, in oneness with Him and His will--it will be given you," (John 15:7). Since God's Word cannot fail, whenever we meet these simple conditions, the answer to our prayer has already been granted and is complete in heaven as we pray, even though it may not be revealed on earth until much later. When we believe God for a blessing, we must have an attitude of faith and begin to act and pray as if the blessing were already ours."
Reading this was such an encouraging reminder for me that when I make a request to God, I shouldn't pray and then say to myself, "I hope that gets taken care of," or "I hope it works out." I should have confidence that "even before I am finished making my request, the Lord has already answered it." I just need to wait patiently!
Well, I guess I needed to be reminded of it again, because this morning was touching on the same subject. The Scripture was, "Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this," (Psalm 37:5). The author of Streams in the Desert says, "The literal meaning of this verse is "Roll your way onto Jehovah and trust upon Him, and He works. This brings to our attention the immediacy of God's action once we commit, or 'roll' any burdens of any kind from our hands to His."
But if we don't commit and trust that when we roll it over to him it will be taken care of, He cannot do this. He goes on to say, "Our expectation that He will work is the very thing enabling the Holy Spirit to accomplish what we have 'rolled' onto Him.' At that point it is out of our grasp, and we are not to try to do it ourselves! HE WORKS! Take comfort from this and do not try to PICK IT UP AGAIN! What a relief it is knowing that He really is at work on our difficulty."
How many times I try to pick up that "thing" again once I have already prayed about it. Why in the world? I have no idea!
Psalm 57:2 says "I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills his purpose for me." Another translation says, "He will perform the cause I hold in my hand." So the very thing "I hold in my hand," my classes today, preparing to come home in the summer, getting this new apartment, worrying about my finances, "this is what I can 'cry out' for Him to do 'for me', with the calm assurance He will perform it."
Oh how I love this girl. And how I love our LORD who is using her to teach the world, and her Aunt Sharon, to have a greater faith in God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to have faith to believe that even as I utter a prayer, You are in the process of answering. Thank you for caring about the smallest details of my life. Fulfill Your purpose in me, and give me the faith to be a willing vessel.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As you read this devotion, did you see areas that you had not completely given to the Lord?
Do you tend to pray for God to take control, and yet continue to attempt to make things move along on your own?
When you pray, do you truly believe that God will answer? If not, what stands in your way of believing God?
Write ten on-going prayer requests that you have in your life. Now, beside each one write today's truth.
Now, click over to my blog page and say, "I rolled my burdens from my hands to His."
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May 8, 2013
Read the Directions
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am an average cook and a below average baker. Consequently, I am of little value in the "cookies from scratch" department. Our daughter, Danna, however, loves to bake and is very good at whipping up three-dozen cookies or her favorite yellow cake with chocolate frosting. I will never forget the day Danna baked her first batch of cookies from scratch.
It was a Saturday morning, and Danna had a "craving" for cookies. Not cookies in a package or from a store, but real cookies she insisted. Watching her gather all of the necessary ingredients, I asked which recipe she was planning to use. With a smug look of disdain, my competent daughter turned to her pitifully incompetent mother and explained that she didn't really need a recipe. After all, she had made hundreds of slice and bake cookies, not to mention the dozens of brownies from a box. How hard could it be? I decided to watch.
The kitchen counters quickly filled with various bowls, a tub of butter, flour, vanilla and milk. Tossing an occasional gracious and confident smile my way, Danna mixed differing amounts of each ingredient and stirred vigorously. Satisfied that it "looked right," she fished a cookie pan out of the cabinet, sprayed it with oil and began carefully spooning out the cookie dough. I was truly impressed. After setting the timer, she cleaned the kitchen, while waiting for the delicious results.
When the timer went off, Danna quickly pulled the cookies out of the oven, sliding them off the pan and onto a plate. They smelled good and looked good to me – but a skeptical frown met my encouraging words, warning of danger just ahead. Pinching off a bite, Danna popped the cookie into her mouth. Now keep in mind that my daughter does have a flair for the dramatic, but I was totally unprepared for the culinary eruption that followed. Bits of cookie sprayed the kitchen counter and appliances as Danna coughed, choked, and strangled her way to the announcement that those cookies were "disgusting." Grabbing the plate, she deposited her project in the garbage, and fished the cookie recipe out of a kitchen drawer, studying the magic formula. When I asked what went wrong, she explained through a sheepish grin, "I thought I knew how to make cookies on my own. So I didn't read the recipe and left out the eggs." One of the qualities I most admire in Danna is her persistence, which compelled her to begin again. The second time around, following the recipe resulted in scrumptious results. God's plan is much the same.
God's has a unique plan or "recipe" for each one of us. God reveals His plan through the Bible. It is the instruction book of life, the blueprint for life construction, and the road map for the journey. When we saturate our lives with God's Word, it will naturally lead us and guide us according to His plan. Our greatest opportunity for success is to live that plan. God tucks into our very soul a discontentment with anything but His life "recipe." If we approach each day searching for His handprints in every situation, choosing to walk in obedience to His Word, we will surely find ourselves smack dab in the middle of God's amazing purpose and plan.
The awesome truth is that more than we want to know His plan for our life, He wants us to know it and stands ready to guide us to and through that plan. The more time we spend with the Plan Maker, and the more we choose to obey His plan, the clearer that plan grows. God always reveals His plan to an obedient heart. Just as surely as Danna left the eggs out of her first effort, we leave Him out of our plans, and go our own foolish way. Still, He waits. When the results are disastrous and we have made a mess of it all, He stands ready to begin again. We could save ourselves a lot of pain and futility if we simply read and follow the right set of directions.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me and for creating me in response to a great plan for my life. Forgive me when I try to do things in my own strength and in my own way. Help me learn to seek and walk in Your ways. I embrace Your plans and lay down my own.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. Record it in your journal.
Look back over your life. Examine the times when you followed God's plan. What were the results? Examine the times when you followed your own agenda. What were the results?
Read the following verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10"For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses. "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
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May 9, 2013
Everything is Possible for Her who Believes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Everything is possible for him who believes, (Mark 9:23 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Once, a distraught father had an unruly son with multiple physical and emotional problems. Many people even said the boy was possessed by a demon. The dad had tried everything, but the boy continued to demonstrate anti-social behavior: throwing himself in the fire and then in water. That sort of behavior, on top of frequent seizures, rolling on the ground, foaming at the mouth, and an inability to talk, made the dad desperate to find a solution. He even took the boy to some faith healers who were traveling through his hometown. But nothing seemed to work.
Finally, the dad realized no human being was going to be able to help his son, so he took him directly to God. The father heard that Jesus was visiting in his community, so he boldly brought the boy to Him. With desperation in his voice the father pleaded, "If You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!"
And Jesus answered, "If You can! All things are possible to him who believes."
Immediately the boy's father cried out, "I do believe: help my unbelief."
With that profession, Jesus healed the man's son.
Oh how this story from Mark 9 stirs my heart. Can't you feel the father's pain? How desperately he must have felt every time the child threw himself into the water or the fire. "Why, Son? Why do you do these things? I don't understand," he must have asked.
Imagine the humiliation of the whispers as the family walked down the streets. "That's the Jones family. Have you heard about their son? He's...." The stares, the snickers, the off-color comments. Don't you know there were many days when this dad wanted to just give up? Instead, he offers us a beautiful picture of what all parents must do, the ultimate act in parenting - hand our children over to God.
As mothers, at time we find ourselves at the end of our mental and emotional resources. We feel we have done everything humanly possible and don't know the best action to take with our children. That's exactly where God wants us every day: not depending on our human wisdom but on His unfathomable omniscience, not depending on our own strength but on His unlimited power. When we realize that we do not and never will have all the child-rearing answers and solutions, we discover the importance of giving our children to God.
S.D. Gordon, inQuiet Talks on Prayer, said, "You can do more than pray, after you have prayed. But you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed."
In my Bible, I keep a 4 x 6 laminated card with prayers for Steven that I have prayed for 29 years. (Yes, he is that old. Mercy!) You, too, can pray that your children will:
Know Christ as Savior early in life. (Psalm 63:1, 2 Timothy 3:15)
Have a hatred for sin. (Psalm 97:10)
Be caught when guilty. (Psalm 119:71)
Be protected from the evil one in each area of their lives: spiritual, emotional, and physical. (John 17:15)
Have a responsible attitude in all their interpersonal relationships. (Daniel 6:3)
Respect those in authority over them. (Romans 13:1)
Desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends. (Proverbs 1:10-11)
Be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17)
Be kept pure until marriage (as well as the one they marry). (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
Learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all things. (James 4:7)
Be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ. (Romans 12:1-2)
Be hedged in so they cannot find their way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to them. (Hosea 2:6)
Let's Pray
(For those who have children still at home)
Dear God, today, I once again bring my child to you. Please show me how to parent this precious gift that you have given me. Help me to be the best mother that I can be. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will teach me, Your wisdom will guide me, and Your love will move me. Most of all, Lord, I give this child to You. Please make him (her) a servant after Your own heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
(For those with grown children)
Dear God,
My child is no longer under my roof or under my wing. He (She) is now out in the world making life decisions of his (her) own. I give this adult child to You, Lord. May he (she) seek You with all his (her) heart. I pray that You will protect him (her), guide him (her), and open his (her) heart to the truth of God's Word every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of things about your child over which you have no control.
Now turn that list into a prayer and relinquish each item of concern to God.
Remember Jesus' reply to the Father when He said, "If you can do anything..." Write today's key verse down and commit it to memory.
Click over to my blog page and tell me the names of your children. Then let's pray for each other's children. Pray for the ones above your entry. If you don't have children, list the name of 1-2 children that you pray for regularly (nieces, nephews, neighbors).
More from the Girlfriends:
Being a parent is the most difficult, rewarding responsibility that God has entrusted to us. I am so glad that He doesn't leave us to figure it out all on our own, but gives us the Bible as the ultimate handbook. If you would like to discover seven key elements of great parenting, see Sharon's book, Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids.
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May 10, 2013
What is Your Pace?
Pam Farrel
Today's Truth
"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win" (1 Corinthians 9:24).
Friend to Friend
Do you ever wonder if you are too busy as a couple, as a family – or if your plate is fuller than God might have intended for you as an individual? We each have our own God given life pace for which God has designed us. One pace is not right or wrong, because everyone has a pace at which he/she functions best. Bicycles have gears on them so you can find the right pace regardless of the terrain you are riding on, and in the verse above the writer references track and field races. A participant in a 100 yard dash will sprint to the finish, and a cross country runner, or marathoner will jog out a consistent, but not frenetic, pace. To win, they need to run their race at their pace. It will be less stressful if each person in your family knows his or her pace or the speed at which they function best at living life. In my husband Bill's newest book, 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make, he shares an easy-to-use way to identify and evaluate your pace by using five categories of vehicles that describe the characteristics for the speed at which each of us can live: The Muscle Car, The Sports Car, The Semi, The Mail Truck and The Tractor. (Take time to do this activity on a date, with your children around a meal, or with friends over coffee. It makes for some interesting conversation! It also leads to greater understanding and fewer arguments as you get to know those you love better.)
The Muscle Car
Muscle cars have big engines and are designed to go in a straight line with an abundance of pull and dramatic speed. These are the people who like to go fast and stay focused forward, charging hard toward goals. They often make quick decisions, and pursue big opportunities. A Biblical example would be Paul, the apostle who became a believer and quickly turned into a prolific church planter.
The Sports Car
Some of you move more like sports cars. These vehicles are fun, agile and quick. They prefer roads that have lots of turns and quick transitions. They live for the surprise around the next corner of life. They tend to be spontaneous in decision-making and can change directions quickly to take advantage of what they see is a great opportunity. A Biblical example is Philip who was on his way to one city when God sent him in a completely different direction so someone could hear about the love of God.
The Semi
Some people operate in life more like a semi truck. These people start and stop slowly because they prefer to plan out life. They maintain a steady and even pace because they often carry a great amount of faithful day in and day out type of responsibility. They do not like quick change; they prefer to take time to navigate course corrections. A Biblical example is Martha, who handled most of the hospitality for a house full of Jesus' followers on a daily basis.
The Mail Truck
These people have a sign on their backs, "Makes Frequent Stops." They are intensely interested in individuals and are peaceful even if life is consistently interrupted by conversations, projects and helping people. Life has a route, but their pace is slower because they are constantly checking on the people in their world and their well-being. A Biblical example would be Barnabas who set aside his agenda to take on John Mark as a mentoring project until John Mark was mature and ready to lead again.
The Tractor
Tractors are incredibly useful but they move slowly. These are people who dig in their heels if pushed to accomplish tasks too fast. These folks also do not enjoy sharp turns and tend to work at a slower, even pace, even if the schedule suggests they should speed up to make a deadline. A Biblical example might be Ruth who daily went to the grain fields to glean (a slow, steady task) in order to provide for her and her mother-in-law.
Which of the five vehicles best represents the pace at which you like to live? In our family, I (Pam) am a speedy, spontaneous sports car; Bill is a faithful, people-oriented mail truck. We have one son who is like me, one who is a muscle car and another who is a semi. Before I recognized that each person's pace is a God-given gift for that person to live out their unique calling in life, I used to be frustrated that my "semi" slowed down our family's ability to get out the door. And Bill, whose natural pace as a mail truck is slower than mine, could get frustrated with me, feeling pulled away from people and dragged through life at a pace where deep meaningful conversations were harder to accomplish. Because two of us are sports cars, the others in the family have learned to trust our instincts for seizing an opportunity because their lives sometimes become much more fun or interesting because of our "Let's try this NOW!" And when a task hits our family, like a broken washing machine, my engineer semi is just the man for the job because it requires a diligent, even, focused pace. On family vacations, we have a family meeting and decide what the family pace will be during our time together. And as our sons have married, knowing my daughter-in-laws' life paces helps avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
Let's Pray
Lord, help me figure out my own pace and live in congruence with the way You wired me. Help me not compare myself in a negative way to others because of the pace I prefer to live life. Also, help me not be frustrated with those in my world when they run at the pace You created them to live their lives. Give us a spirit of appreciation and co-operation.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time this week, or even today, to discuss the pace of life with the people you love. Affirm each of them with a compliment, noting that God's pace inside each person is exactly the way God created him or her. Then dialogue on how to compromise to find a family pace that works when the whole group is gathered together.
More from the Girlfriends
Bill and Pam Farrel are relationship experts, authors of over 38 books includingbest selling Men Are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti, and this new book, 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make(and the accompanying DVD series). Resources (including a free articles page) by the Farrels can be found at www.Love-Wise.com
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May 13, 2013
The Beatitudes of Anger Management
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend to Friend
Everyone has to deal with anger. The challenge is to deal with anger in the right way. Anger is powerful - an emotional warning that something is wrong. We have been hurt or rejected. Something has changed and we don't like it!
Anger itself is not sin. We just have to learn to express anger in the right way. Mishandled anger is destructive but anger that is handled correctly can become a tool for good. God's Word is filled with tips for learning to handle anger in a healthy and godly way.
Be still.
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
If we are busy, it is much easier to ignore or refuse to face and deal with the real source of anger. Anger that is not dealt with in the right way accumulates over time, allowing bitterness to take root and rage to simmer just below the surface of everything we do, say, think or feel. In order to manage anger, we need to incorporate frequent and regular "stops" into our schedules; time set aside to simply be still and hear the voice of God.
Be quiet.
James 1:19-20 "Everyone should be slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Our first response to conflict is often not a response at all ... but a reaction. We jump in with a brutal rebuttal or a thoughtless correction – which is like pouring gasoline on a fire. An explosion is bound to happen. Our first action should be to stop and think instead of rushing to respond in a way that could escalate tensions or provoke an offensive response from others. Listen to the other person before responding. Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address the anger directly, but it can minimize the damage you will do while angry.
Be wise.
Proverbs 25:28 "Like a city whose walls are broken down, is a man who lacks self-control."
Wisdom is doing the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Anger management comes from wisdom rooted in self-control. I love the story of Jesus driving the money-changers out of His Father's temple. In John 2:15 Scripture says Jesus "made a whip out of cords." Don't miss this picture. At the height of His anger, Jesus gathered several cords and braided a whip. I imagine it took several minutes at least to form a whip substantial enough to drive grown men anywhere. I think Jesus was so angry that He knew He needed to cool off, so He deliberately chose to be still, quiet and wise. When we are close to losing control of anger, we need to be wise.
Be discerning.
Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin ... search your hearts and be silent."
The longer I work with people the more I realize that there is always a reason for their behavior. Hurt people – hurt people. When you are angry at someone, ask yourself why. Think back to what led up to the conflict. Was it something someone said to you? Has a past problem triggered your present anger? Give yourself time to consider why you are upset and what you should do to handle it in a way that pleases God.
God created us with the capacity for emotions. That means He has a right plan and a right place for emotions in our lives. Anger management is a spiritual discipline that God honors, blesses and empowers. Tomorrow, we will look at four more ways God gives us to control anger.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I allow anger to control what I say and do. I want to honor You in the way I manage my emotions – especially the anger in my life. Fill my heart with Your peace. Help me cultivate the spiritual discipline of anger management and learn how to control my emotions instead of allowing them to control me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Evaluate the level of anger in your life. Would people who know you well describe you as an angry person? Identity the source of your anger; then make the commitment to face and deal with whatever is causing your anger. Review each anger management tip. Which one jumps out at you as a starting point for learning to control anger in your life? Read and memorize the verse of Scripture listed with that tip. Pray – asking God to show you the steps you need to take today to manage the anger in your life. Record your thoughts and the truths God gives you in your journal.
More from the Girlfriends
Learning how to control our emotions is an important step in our spiritual maturity. If you need help in controlling anger, check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Anger Management 911 and don't miss Mary's weekly Online Bible Study,Power Up With Proverbs. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 14, 2013
The Beatitudes of Anger Management
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"In your anger, do not sin" (Ephesians 4:26).
Friend To Friend
A minister was making a wooden trellis to support a climbing vine. As he was pounding away, he noticed a little boy watching him. The youngster didn't say a word so the preacher kept on working, thinking the boy would leave – but he didn't. Pleased at the thought that his work was being admire, the pastor finally asked, "Trying to pick up some pointers on gardening?" The little boy said, "Nope. I'm just waiting to hear what a preacher says when he hits his thumb with a hammer."
The people around us want to see what happens when life pushes our buttons and anger puts the squeeze on our emotions. While God created us with the capacity for strong emotions, it is our responsibility to control them instead of allowing them to control us. Yesterday, we looked at four ways to manage anger. Here are four more:
Be focused.
Psalm 37:8 "Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil."
I witnessed the utter strength and beauty of our daughter-in-law as she went through hours of labor during the birth of our twin grandchildren. The pain was excruciating, but Jodi worked through each contraction by doing two things: controlling her breathing and choosing a focus point. We need to do the same when we are angry. Take a deep breath and focus on the peace of God.
Be understanding.
James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen."
We have two ears and one mouth for a reason—to listen twice as much as we speak. When you find yourself getting angry with someone, take time to listen to what the other person has to say. Make sure you understand their viewpoint. In fact, it might be a good idea for you to repeat it back to make sure you do get the real point. Only then, when you have processed that information and reigned in your emotions, should you offer a reply. Listening for the purpose of understanding plays a significant role in anger management.
Be kind.
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
It had been one of "those" mornings and I was behind schedule in preparing to teach the women's Tuesday morning Bible study at our church. I am fairly certain I did not exude peace and joy as I rushed around. Finally, it looked like everything was ready – everything except my heart. I knew I needed to spend some time alone with God before standing to teach His Word, so I found a quiet room where I could escape for a few minutes of solitude. As I began to pray, the door flew open and crashed against the wall behind it as the husband of one of our group leaders burst into the room. I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy and that whatever was wrong was definitely my fault. In a very loud and very angry voice, the man began to explain the problem, ending his tirade with the question, "And just what are you going to do about it?" I knew what I wanted to say to the man. I also knew God didn't want me to say it. In a rare moment of wisdom, I faced my accuser with a smile and whispered, "I'll tell you exactly what I am going to do. I am going to do whatever it takes to make you happy."
I was completely unprepared for the man's reaction. His mouth fell open, his eyes widened in surprise - no, make that shock - and he stumbled backwards as if I had hit him. We stared at each other for what seemed like an hour before he finally whispered back, "Thank you." Without another word, the man turned and literally ran out of the room. The most amazing part of this story is that from that day on, he has been one of my strongest encouragers.
The next time someone makes you angry, put a smile on your face. It is hard to stay upset when you are smiling. Smiling is one of the best anger management tips because you can do it anytime, almost anywhere, and to pretty much anyone. The next time you are angry, choose to give a friendly smile of understanding, appreciation, or patience as you listen to the other side of the story.
Be ready.
1 Peter 5:8 "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour."
The best way to manage anger is to prevent it in the first place. How? Balance your schedule and priorities so that you will not live in a constant state of frustration and exhaustion. Avoid spending time with angry people. Proverbs 22:24 says, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man; do not associate with one easily angered." We really do become like the people with whom we spend the most time. Pray constantly, asking the Holy Spirit to help you cultivate the habits that encourage peace – not anger. Memorize Scripture. The Word of God is a powerful weapon in dealing with and managing our emotions.
Anger is today's emotional epidemic. What does it take to make you angry? Do you have a short fuse or a long one? How many relationships in your life have been damaged by your anger? Remember ... more important than the way you were and more important than the way you are ... is the way you can be. Right now, surrender your anger to God and thank Him for a new beginning.
Let's Pray
Father, I need Your power and strength to help me control my anger. Forgive me for the damage and pain my anger has caused the people in my life. I want my emotional health to honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review all of the anger management tips we have explored. How can you plug these tips into your daily life? I encourage you to recruit a girlfriend who will hold you accountable for the way you handle anger. Check in with her once a week. Be honest and open about your anger level. Journal your thoughts ... the truths God gives you ... the progress you make.
More from the Girlfriends
Learning how to control our emotions is an important step in our spiritual maturity. If you need help in controlling anger, check out Mary's E-Bible Study, Anger Management 911 and don't miss Mary's weekly Online Bible Study, Power Up With Proverbs. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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May 15, 2013
No More Stinkin' Thinkin'
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Finally, brothers (and sisters), whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you (Philippians 4:8-9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Martha was so frustrated with her marriage. She had dreams of marrying her knight in shining armor who would leave flower petals on her pillow, be distracted by her beauty, and pledge his undying love on a regular basis. She dreamed of having three doting, obedient, well-mannered children that she could dress-up in cute little outfits and parade down the church aisle on Sundays. Her tidy home would come with a well-manicured lawn, two and a half baths, and perfectly coordinated décor. She would be the happy homemaker who joyfully mopped the beautiful kitchen floor in her size six khaki slacks, shabby chic blouse, and stylish haircut. She could almost picture Mr. Clean winking at her from the corner of the room, giving his hearty approval of the smile on her flawless face.
But life had not turned out like Martha expected. Her knight did come along, but his armor began to tarnish soon after they said, "I do." He left his smelly socks on the floor, had a love affair with the TV remote, and hardly noticed all the work she did to keep the house clean and orderly.
Life sure has not turned out the way I thought it would, she thought.I am bored and unappreciated. Romance: that's what I want. This man wouldn't know romance if it hit him in the face. Why should I care how I look? He sure doesn't care about his appearance. Look at that gut? He complains about me gaining weight? Well, he hasn't seen nothin' yet. I've made a huge mistake. I just want someone who will love me and appreciate me. Is that too much to ask?
And the kids? They never do what I ask. They're disobedient, loud, and messy. I don't know when I've seen a clean floor last. And where is Mr. Clean anyway?
The enemy had slowly crept in while Martha was unaware. Unmet expectations became the breeding ground for the lies to grow. He planted the seeds of discontent one disappointment at a time. Rather than thinking how she could make her marriage better, she began thinking about how she could get out of it. Rather than enjoying her rambunctious children, she loathed their energy. Rather than being thankful that she had a home and family to clean up after, she complained about the dirt.
"Martha just needs to give her life to Jesus," you might say. But she has! She is a Christian. So on top of her disappointment with life, she added guilt to it all. I'm a bad Christian, she thinks. If I was a better Christian, I'd be happy. What's wrong with me?
Girlfriend, the enemy's fingerprints are all over this woman's thought life. He has pointed her down the road of stinkin' thinkin' and she's stumbled into the pit. While she assumes these thoughts are her own concoction, it is the enemy who has made the suggestion. She simply bought into them and made them her own. They became her own version of reality – her own version of the truth.
Paul gave us an effective lie detector through which to filter our thoughts in Philippians 4:8-9.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Now that is a lot to think about, considering that the mind thinks about 130 words per minute. But the good news is – we are not on our own. God has given us the power of the Holy Spirit to enable us to do all that He has called us to do.
Paul doesn't just leave us with the qualifying list; he gives us the means by which to implement it. "Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice."
It takes practice! Practice! Practice! Practice!
But look at the result..."And the God of peace will be with you."
Let's Pray
Dear heavenly Father, help me to realize when my thinking needs adjusting. I know that I cannot act differently than I think. Help me to run my thoughts through the sieve of Philippians 4:8 so that Your peace will rule in my heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the litmus test for right thinking and carry it around with you today.
Ask yourself, is this thought:
True
Noble
Right
Pure
Lovely
Admirable
Excellent
Praiseworthy
If your words or thoughts don't pass the test, then push the delete button and erase that stinkin' thinkin'!
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, I'm Not Good Enough and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. If you need to start speaking the truth to yourself about yourself, then this is the book for you. And if it is the words that you speak to others that need an overhaul, then you'll want to see The Power of a Woman's Words. In this book we look at our words and the power we posses, the people we influence, and the power to change.
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May 16, 2013
Tearing Up the Scorecards
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Love is patient, love is kind...it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs, (1 Corinthians 12:4-5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
She was at it again. Mrs. Barnett was getting out the scorecards and tallying up the points.
I sat with an older woman as she began enumerating her family's shortcomings. "Callie never comes to see me," she began to complain about her granddaughter. "And she never calls me either. I saw her sitting on the other side of the church last week and she didn't even come over and give me a hug."
"Benjamin is just as bad," she continued, talking about her grandson. "He never comes by unless he wants something. I never hear from him, but if he wants money for a mission trip you better believe I get a letter. He's just like his father," she continued. "He never pays any attention to me unless he wants something."
Throughout our time together, Mrs. Barnett mentioned several family members and friends who had disappointed her, who had not lived up to her expectations, and who had not given her the love she "deserved." The more I listened; the clearer a picture began to take shape in my mind. I envisioned Mrs. Barnett with a big stack of scorecards. At the top of each card was a name: a grandchild, a child, a friend, a pastor, and yes, even one with my name printed across the top. If someone telephoned her, they got 1point. If they stopped by for a visit, they got 1 point. If they gave her a hug without being asked, they got 1 point. If they told her she looked pretty, they got 2 points.
However, if they did not show the proper display of affection, they lost 5 points. If they did not come by for a visit within the expected amount of time, they lost 5 points. If they did not send her a card on the appropriate days, they lost 5 points. Birthday cards, Christmas gifts, phone calls, visits, etc, were all tallied on mental scorecards for later retrieval. She was very busy keeping track of all the plusses and minuses for each person.
I shook my head to clear away the movie being played in the theater of my mind and tried to pay attention to our conversation. After all, I didn't want to get a bad mark on my scorecard that day.
Friend, let me tell you a great life lesson. As long as this woman keeps mental scorecards on the people in her life, she is going to be miserable. And if you or I keep scorecards for the people in our lives, we will be miserable as well.
First Corinthians 13 says, "Love is patient, love is kind...it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs," (1 Corinthians 12:4-5). Love is about giving – not necessarily about giving money or gifts, but giving love. Can I say that again? Love is about giving love. Love does not keep a record of wrongs or perceived wrongs. It does not involve an accounting tally sheet of debits and credits or scorecards of plusses and minuses. It does not keep a running list of kindnesses to reward those who come out on top and shun those who do not.
Self-centeredness says, "What has that person done for me lately?" Love says, "What can I do for that person today?"
Self-centeredness makes mental lists of how others have disappointed them. Love makes mental lists of ways they can bless others.
Self-centeredness withholds affection and approval from those who don't deserve it. Love gives affection unconditionally because none of us do deserve it.
Self-centeredness says, "Come here and give me a hug." Love says, "Come here and let me hug you." Can you tell the difference? A ten-year-old certainly can. He or she might not be able to verbalize the difference or even recognize it, but they certainly feel the difference in the pit of their stomachs and in the tenderness of their hearts.
With genuine love, there are no scorecards. I'm certainly glad God tore up mine long ago.
David wrote, "If you, O LORD, kept a record of sin, O Lord, who could stand?" (Psalm 130:3 NIV). Certainly not me! If God doesn't keep a scorecard, making notes of the ways I have offended Him, disappointed Him, or not given Him the attention He deserves, then why do I think I have the right to keep scorecards on the people in my little world? He doesn't give plusses and minuses and then tally up our cards to see whether or not we deserve His love. So why do we do it to others? God gives and gives and gives, and gets very little in return. Why does He do that? Because He loves you and me perfectly, wholly, and unconditionally.
Scorecards. Do you keep them? Do you keep mental lists of what people do and don't do to deserve your love? If so, you'll never be content or at peace in your relationships. No one may see the scorecards sitting on your coffee table, but they'll know they are there. They will see them in your eyes, hear them in your tone, and sense them in your touch. And there may be a few brave souls who refuse to play the game and decide to bow out of your life altogether.
Here is what I would like to suggest. Tear up the scorecards. Here's how:
Get a stack of index cards. Write one person's name at the top of each card. Start with your children, your grandchildren, your parents, your in-laws, your spouse, your siblings, your pastor. Then move on to your circle of friends. Beside each name, write the words, "Scorecard." For example: Beth's Scorecard.
Hold the stack of scorecards in your hand and pray:
"Dear Lord, I am no longer going to keep a scorecard for ____________. Help me love like You love – unconditionally, with no strings attached. Help me to be thankful for the attention I do receive rather than resentful for what I don't. I do not want to become a bitter old woman that people avoid, but a grateful, graceful lady people enjoy. And Lord, whenever I begin to fall into the old habit of making mental notes of how someone did not live up to my expectations, I pray that You will convict me quickly and help me to replace the negative thoughts with a prayer of thanksgiving.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
After you have prayed, take each scorecard in your hands and tear it into tiny pieces. Now, throw them away. Be free. Be blessed. Enjoy life.
Today's devotion didn't follow our normal pattern of Let's Pray and Now It's Your Turn, but it is all there. If you actually did this exercise, I'd love to hear about it. You can email me privately at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com or leave a comment on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com.
More from the Girlfriends
One of the ways we build relationships or destroy relationships is with the words we speak. Words can make or break a marriage, encourage or discourage a child, draw in or push away a friend. If you would like to tame your tongue and learn how to use your words to speak life into those in your sphere of influence, check out my book, The Power of a Woman's Words and accompanying study guide. It is a favorite for Women's Bible studies and small groups.
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May 17, 2013
I'm Exhausted!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly" (Matthew 11:30, MSG).
Friend to Friend
I had just arrived at my favorite coffee shop. As I opened the door, the smell of freshly brewed java greeted me and filled my creative mind with possibilities. I was eager to get to work and excited that my warm, happy coffee-friend would come along with me for the ride. As I grabbed a cup from the counter and paid, I asked the barista how she was doing.
"I'm exhausted!" She lamented with a sigh.
I knew exactly how she felt. I feel that way a lot! I'm famous for trying to put ten pounds of living into a five-pound sack. She was tired. Stressed. Drained. Over-committed. Under-rested. Exhausted. Yep. I totally know that feeling.
Have you been there? Ha! Of course you have! It's so easy for us to rush into our days and get busy with life stuff, attempting to accomplish mountains of tasks and emotional situations in our own strength. We are constantly pulled in a million directions. Trying to juggle the slow, steady drain of complicated relationships, crazy schedules, and weighty challenges.
The simple truth is, our exhaustion problems can't be solved without God. I find it comforting to realize that we aren't the first people to struggle with feelings like this. All throughout Scripture people got worn-out and lamented about their tired souls. David wrote countless Psalms about being weary, and Elijah was so exhausted at one point that he sank into a deep depression and lost his God-courage. Jesus spoke to a crowd of people in Galilee one day about the only sure-fire solution to our exhaustion problem.
He said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30, NIV)
The MESSAGE paraphrase of those same verses reads this way, "Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." (Matthew 11:28-30, MSG)
When you keep company with Jesus you'll learn to live freely and lightly. Does that sound appealing to you? If so, then it's time to respond to His invitation. Whether you have thirty seconds or thirty minutes, pause now to turn to Him. Grab your prayer journal if you have one. Center your heart on His splendor and approach Him with reverence. While you are in His presence, empty your exhaustion out before Him. Tell Him the concerns on your heart and take a soul rest.
That day in the coffee shop, as I filled my cup I gave my exhausted, coffee-serving friend a smile and a knowing look. Then I spoke a word of hope to her heart and encouraged her to refuel in the secret place, the presence of God. She smiled back and thanked me for the reminder. She loves the Lord, but – like all of us – she sometimes forgets that soul rest is available.
Keep company with Him today. All day. When you do, you'll experience His strength for each moment and His hope in each challenge. Live freely and lightly in Jesus, girlfriend.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are mighty to save and all I need. Thank You for reminding me that I can always come to you and trade in my exhaustion for Your rejuvenation. I come to You today and ask that You would restore rest to my soul.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the words that Jesus spoke to His apostles when they were tired and weary one day, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." (Mark 6:31b, NIV) Now read it again and add your name to it.
RESPOND: Allow the music and lyrics of "Sacred Place" to lead you into God's presence right now. Turn up the speakers on your computer and CLICK HERE to listen to the song as you center your heart, mind, and soul on the Holy One.
More from the Girlfriends
I know some of you are carrying heavy loads of exhaustion. Free living might sound like a promise for other people, but not for you. Perhaps you are dealing with a constant strain in your life. God sees you, friend. He knows your struggles. He's able to work out the details. Trust Him for strength and rest...whether He delivers you from the exhaustion or through it. Let's pray for one another and continue the conversation over on my blog.
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May 20, 2013
Prayer Unleashes Faith
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective (James 5:13-16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A small country town was in desperate need of rain. One Sunday morning, the pastor of the local church called for a special prayer meeting to be held that night. "It's time to pray for rain," he said. The people gathered with a sense of purpose and excitement, but when the pastor stood to lead the prayer time, his words stunned the waiting crowd. "Only one of you came in faith," he announced. Looking down at the first row, the pastor pointed at a little girl who sat quietly, a smile on her face and an umbrella in her hand. We can pray for rain, but faith brings an umbrella. Prayer invites and expects God to step in and take charge. Rick Warren, the pastor of Saddleback Church in California and author of "The Purpose Driven Life" was once asked, "Rick, why do you think God blesses your life and this ministry in such powerful ways?" His answer was surprisingly simple, "Because I expect him to." Prayer shuts out fear and fuels faith.
Remember when Jesus came to the disciples, walking on the water, between three and six o'clock in the morning, the darkest time of the night? I have often wished I could have been on that boat with the disciples, waiting for Jesus to show up. I imagine the questions and complaints were flying! "Why would Jesus send us out here, knowing the waves were high? And where is He, by the way? Why is He waiting so long to rescue us? Can't He just calm the waves like He did before? I ministered all day long and this is my reward? Is He really coming? I don't understand!" Sound familiar?
When the winds picked up and the waves grew larger, I am sure that every disciple in that rocking boat was praying like crazy! Unfortunately, it often takes a crisis to drive us to our knees in prayer. I think I know why. Until we are utterly helpless, prayer seems like an option instead of our only hope.
Three ministers were discussing which position produces the most powerful prayer. As they were talking, a telephone repairman was working on the phone system in the background. One minister shared that he felt the key to powerful prayer was in the hands. He always held his hands together and pointed them upward as a form of symbolic worship. The second suggested that real prayer was conducted on the knees while the third minister suggested that they both had it wrong. According to him, the only position worth its salt was to pray while stretched out flat on your face in humility. The phone man couldn't resist offering his opinion, "I have found that the most powerful prayer I ever prayed was while I was dangling upside down by my heels from a power pole suspended forty feet above the ground." Helplessness underlines our need for faith and our total dependence upon God, even when the skies are clear and the water is calm.
Answered prayer should be the norm. Prayer should be as natural and constant as breathing. A mother overheard her daughter-in-law talking on the telephone to a friend who had called, asking for prayer. Five-year-old Amy came bouncing into the room, stood still for a moment to listen, and heard her mother praying. "Is that God on the phone, Mom?" Amy interrupted. "I need to talk to Him, too!"
Samuel Chadwick writes, "The one concern of the devil is to keep Christians from praying. He fears nothing from prayer-less studies, prayer-less work and prayer-less religion. He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom, but he trembles when we pray." The best time for prayer isn't found. It's made. The average Christian spends very little time in prayer – then wonders why they have no faith and experience no power. If we are too busy to pray, we are too busy to experience the power of God. We can be very busy, but not necessarily productive because we lack faith. One of the main reasons we lack faith is because we don't pray. Consistent prayer builds consistent faith.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for the gift of prayer. I am constantly amazed by Your love and the fact that You really want to spend time with me in prayer. Help me to become a mighty prayer warrior for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray! You have probably read many devotions and listened to a few sermons on prayer. However, I believe the main problem with our prayer life is simple – we just do not pray. We think we have to be in a certain place, at a certain time going through specific steps in order to pray. Prayer needs to become a habit that takes second place to nothing. Pray about everything. Start praying in the morning when your eyes open and don't stop until they close in sleep. Create a prayer journal in which you can record prayer requests, prayers and praises. Right now, celebrate the gift of prayer – and pray!
More from the Girlfriends
God's love is not a shallow love that always rescues easily or quickly. God loves us enough to walk us through the fiery times that make us more like His Son, Jesus Christ. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are different from our thoughts. He is Holy God! Join me in a new commitment to trust God to work at the right time and in the right way as we seek Him in prayer.
Need help?Check out one of Mary's E-Bible Studies for practical steps you can take to strengthen your faith and find answers to the problems you face every day. Titles include Anger Management 911, God's Answer to Stress, Getting a Grip on Fear and more.
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May 21, 2013
The Power of Your Prayers
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective, (James 5:16b, NIV).
Friend to Friend
G. Campbell Morgan tells a story about the power of one woman's prayers to stir a revival in her home church.
"There are saints of God who for long, long years have been shut off from all the activities of the Church, and even from the worship of the sanctuary, but who, nevertheless, have continued to labor together in prayer with the whole fellowship of the saints. There comes to me the thought of one woman who, to my knowledge, since 1872 in this great babble of London, has been in perpetual pain, and yet in constant prayer. She is today a woman twisted and distorted by suffering, and yet exhaling the calm and strength of the secret of the Most High.
"In 1872 she was a bed-ridden girl in the North of London, praying that God would send revival to the Church of which she was a member, and yet into which even then she never came. She had read in the little paper called Revival, which subsequently became, The Christian, the story of a work being done in Chicago among ragged children by a man called D.L. Moody. She had never seen Moody, but putting that little paper under her pillow, she began to pray, "O Lord, send this man to our Church." She had no means of reaching him or communicating with him. He had already visited the country in 1867, and in 1872 he started again for a short trip with no intention of doing any work.
" Mr. Lessey, however, the pastor of the church of which this girl was a member, met him and asked him to preach for him. He consented, and after the evening service he asked those who would decide for Christ to rise, and hundreds did so. He was surprised and imagined that his request had been misunderstood. He repeated it more clearly, and again the response was the same.
"Meetings were continued through the following ten days, and four hundred members were taken into the church. In telling me this story Moody said, 'I wanted to know what this meant. I began making inquiries and never rested until I found a bed-ridden girl praying that God would bring me to that Church. He (God) had heard her, and brought me over four thousand miles of land and sea in answer to her request.'"
One little crippled lamb by the name of Marianne Adlard, uttered fervent prayers to Almighty God on behalf of her flock and God sent a shepherd to gather the sheep from all around England. You may not feel that you have the ability to change the world for Christ, but consider this...one crippled girl impacted the world through her prayers. You can do the same. Amazing...the power of a woman's words to God in prayer!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that You allow me to come into Your presence at any time. I confess that I do not pray enough. I confess that I do not take the power of prayer as seriously as I should. Help me to become a prayer warrior who intercedes for others. Teach me how to pray.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As you pray for other people, consider praying Scripture for them. Turn to Philippians 1, Colossians 1, and Ephesians 1 to see how Paul prayed for fellow believers.
Now pick one of those passages and pray for 5 people in your life today.
Let's pray for each other. Click over to my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com and leave a prayer request. Then pray for the request before you and after you.
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I learned some time ago that what God had to say to me was much more important than what I had to say to God. Prayer is both speaking and listening to God. If you're having a difficult time listening to God or want to learn more about hearing His still small voice, check out my book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. You'll learn how God speaks, how to remove obstacles that block our ability to hear, and how to hear him more clearly.
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May 22, 2013
How to Stay Young
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In April, I will celebrate my 61st birthday! Honestly, I didn't think I would live this long. Seriously! Where have the years gone? It seems every day of life has been jam-packed full of both wonderful and horrible things I wondered if I would survive and yet, here I am, going strong and wondering why there always seems to be some kind of helicopter still landing in my life.
I have some advice for you, girlfriend. If you are a young woman, it really is true that you should cherish every day and every moment with your friends and family because the older you get, the quicker the days fly by. I look at my children who are married and having children of their own and wonder where all of those years went. How did this happen?
If you are an older woman, take a deep breath and celebrate the fact that you are breathing. I believe if you are alive, God has a purpose and plan for your life. Give yourself a pat on the back for your survival skills. Take a few moments to reflect on your life and don't get hung up on what might have been. Celebrate what is and what will be.
I have discovered some wonderful advantages to growing older and have learned some valuable lessons along the way. Each chapter of life seems to grow more exciting and I keep wondering when that "slow down" thing is going to kick in. I am no longer overly concerned with a lot of things that once kept me awake at night. There is great freedom in having paid a lot of "life dues" because I have already been there, done that and don't really care about getting the T-shirt.
I can say with authority that you probably will live through that crisis you think will be the death of you. What defines you today may very well seem ridiculous in ten years or even ten days. Stupidity will give way to wisdom learned the hard way. I now give myself permission to do or not do things I once would have felt compelled to do simply because it was someone's ridiculous expectation ... not God's plan. My audience has certainly changed over the years from the people who love to leer at me through the glass bowl in which I live to running the race of life for an audience of One.
Yes, there are moments when I have made a frenzied and desperate attempt to stay young. But then, why would I want to do that? There are many years of my life I really do not want to revisit and there is so much of my life now that I love. During one of those youth seeking moments, I came across the following list of ways to stay young and found it quite interesting.
How to Stay Young
1. Throw out non-essential numbers such as your age, weight and height.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. If you really need a grouch, there are probably family members to fill that need.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Just never let the brain idle.
4. Enjoy the simple things. When the children are young - that is all you can afford. When they are in college that is all you can afford. When they are grown, and you are on retirement, that is all you can afford.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. Laugh so much that you can be tracked in the store by your distinctive laughter.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person that is with us our entire life is ourselves.
7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies or whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health. If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Go to the mall, the next county, a foreign country - but not guilt.
10. Tell the people you love how much you love them every chance you get. Never assume they know.
11. Don't worry about things you cannot change or do anything about. Accept them and move on.
12. Read more and dust less.
13. Spend more time with your family and friends and less time working.
14. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure. Recognize these moments now and cherish them.
15. Do not "save" anything. Use your good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the next blossom of flowers you see.
16. Wear your best outfit to the market.
17. Don't save your good perfume for only special occasions. Use it even if you are going shopping or just to the bank.
18. "Someday" and "one of these days" should vanish from your vocabulary. If something is worth seeing, hearing or doing, go and see, hear or do it now.
What about you? Are you living each day to the fullest? Jesus is all about living an abundant life in the here and now ... whatever stage of life that might be for you. Jesus came so that we can live abundantly and eternally. Eternity began the moment you accepted Him as your Lord and Savior. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live life to the fullest. I want everything you have for me and don't want to miss a single blessing or trial that is for my good. Please help me keep my eyes on You and celebrate every day and all that it holds. I trust You, Lord, to work all things together for my good and Your glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who or what is stealing the joy from your life?
What circumstance are you facing that you need to see through God's eyes and boldly trust Him for?
Look around. What can you find in your life to celebrate?
Are you living out God's purpose for your life or are you bowing to the wrong audience and listening to the wrong voices?
Today, make the decision to celebrate life and all God has for you.
Read Romans 8:28 and know God is at work to make your life exactly what He wants it to be.
More from the Girlfriends
As a pastor's wife, I have talked with so many women who feel as if they were worthless, a freakish accident. Listen, my friend, you were planned and wanted by God. God is crazy about you and wants an intimate relationship with you. I pray that you will see yourself in the eyes of God, a chosen child. Need help? Check out one of Mary's MP3 downloads, Come as You Are to discover how to see yourself through the eyes of God.
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May 23, 2013
Grandma's Inheritance
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Older women...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, (Titus 2:3,5 NASB).
Friend to Friend
As far as I can remember, my Grandma Edwards was always old. She didn't have many material possessions, but she had a sharp mind, a determined spirit, and buckets full of love. She was a small-framed woman who raised a family of five children during the depression by running a country general store and harvesting produce from her garden. Her waist-long, tightly braided hair wound around her head like a crown, and her teeth came out at night.
Another thing that always amazed me as a little girl was Grandma's undergarments. She wore knit baggy underwear that hung down to her knees and an equally attractive T-shirt to match. I never saw these undergarments anywhere except on Grandma's clothesline, so I decided there must be a special "Grandma store" that sold baggy underwear just for grandparents.
Grandma never drove a car, but she would ring up the grocery store and a box of supplies would magically appear on her back stoop. Grandma's house was filled with the aroma of strong coffee and fresh-baked biscuits. There was also the scent of salve, which was the cure-all for any ailment, and of snuff, which she would sneak between her cheek and gum when she thought I wasn't looking.
Each summer I would spend a week at Grandma's house. The highlight of our day was watching Perry Mason on her big black-and-white television. We drank Coca-Cola from cold glass bottles and ate peanut butter crackers. Grandma had a standing date with Perry each day. If someone "came a'callin' " during that time, they knew to pull up a chair, grab a Coke, and wait until the verdict was in before conversation could commence.
During my weeks with Grandma, there were no trips to fast-food restaurants or shopping sprees at the mall. That's just not what grandmas were for. So what did I do for seven days? I did what Grandma did (except dip snuff). I made biscuits, shelled lima beans, canned vegetables for the following winter, and learned how to sew.
When I was six-years-old, Grandma taught me how to turn a square piece of daisy-covered fabric into a gathered apron with a big bow in the back. At seven, we transformed a rectangular piece of floral cloth into a jumper with big ball buttons on the straps. At eight, we conquered the zipper.
Without realizing it, my grandmother was being a Titus 2 woman. "Older women...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home." It was her inheritance to me.
Grandma didn't leave me a sum of money when she passed away, but she left something much more valuable. God used her to show me that leaving an inheritance to our children is so much more than money in the bank, well-invested mutual funds, and valuable heirlooms. It is leaving them memories of simple times together, showing them on how to become men and women of God, and leaving a legacy that causes them to "rise up and call you blessed."
What sort of legacy will you leave behind?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to leave a godly heritage and invest love today that will multiply tomorrow. Help me to always remember what is important—not money in the bank, but God in the heart. Help me to be the type of woman that we read about in Titus 2 who exemplifies what You desire.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 1:36-45, 56 and note ways that Elizabeth encouraged Mary.
What are some ways that you can be an example to younger women in your sphere of influence?
Let's celebrate. Click over to my blog page and tell me the name of one woman who has been an example of a godly woman to you.
More from the Girlfriends
If you are a mother or grandmother, one of the most important things you can do is to pray for your children and grandchildren. I've created a small inexpensive laminated prayer card with Scripture to pray for children in the most important areas of their lives. And if you are a mom who needs a bit of encouragement, check out my book Being a Great Mom-Raising Great Kids. It has been encouraging moms around the world for over ten years!
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May 24, 2013
Running to Win
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.(Philippians 3:12)
Friend To Friend
The year was 2008. The race started out like any other race: runners at the starting line, fans in the stands, excitement and anticipation thick in the air. But this race was a big one. An indoor track and field conference championship for the collegiate women's 600-meter run.
At the sound of the gun, the runners took off – each with a heart longing to win the race – each competing fiercely for the prize. Just three quick laps stood between the four athletes and their destinies. It was clear from the beginning, this race would be tight.
My family and I watched on an Internet video as the long and lean runners vied for the lead. In unison, we gasped with horror when, as they began the final lap, one of the competitors caught the slightest edge of another runner's shoe and went crashing down onto the track. My heart sunk when she fell. I didn't know this fallen woman, but I do know what it feels like to fall and to have your hopes dissolve in a split second. I felt the despair of the crash with her.
The fans in the crowd all stood to their feet and rallied cries of encouragement to this young runner. The seconds that followed will be etched into my heart and mind forever. She could've walked off the track and everyone would've understood. She could've thrown in the towel and quit the race in humiliation and defeat. But she didn't quit. She got up and kept running. Now a full quarter-lap behind the other runners, this athlete fixed her eyes on the track before her and ran like the wind.
With just half a lap to go, this determined young woman overtook third place. Unbelievable. The crowd swelled with amazement. Then, just a hundred yards before the finish line, she inched up to the other two runners and – at the tape – leaned forward to win the race! No. Stinkin.' Way. The crowd went wild. My family went wild. What a race! What a fall! What a recovery! What a victory!
The next day, as I took my teenaged son to school, he and I had trouble connecting. I was frustrated with him; he was frustrated with me, and what I'd hoped would be a warm send off to a great day became an icy goodbye as he got out of the car. I felt like a loser-mom and lamented to God about it on the drive home. As I poured out my frustrations in prayer, the Lord reminded me of the race.
Like the young runner, I got tripped up on the shoes of another and fell down mid-race. Now, I had a choice. I could stew and lick my mama-wounds, allowing the disappointments to keep me from running, or I could call on the grace of the Lord, put one foot in front of another, and get back in the race. The writer of Hebrews talks about a cloud of witnesses that encourages others in faith, and as I prayed I could almost hear them cheering me on.
"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God" (Hebrews 12:1-2).
Game. On.
I got back up. I chose to run again by asking the Lord for the grace and strength to finish the day strong in Him. By the time my son got home from school we had both cooled down. Grace ran before us. I asked him to forgive me for frustrating him and he did the same.
We all run. We all fall. Each day presents us with fresh opportunities to allow the mercy, strength and grace of God to intervene in our lives. When writing to the church of Philippi about the discipline of perseverance, the apostle Paul said this:
I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained. (Philippians 3:10-16)
So whatever you face today, friend, run. Run to win the prize. Run like the wind. And when you fall; don't throw in the towel, don't point fingers, don't stew, and don't quit. Get right back up and run again... in the mercy, strength and grace of God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord,
Thanks for being a God of second chances and eternal grace! Please help me to run in your mercy and strength today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Grab your Bible and read the book of Philippians today. It's only four chapters long. You can do it! It will bless your socks off! If you don't have time to read the whole thing right now, then read a chapter a day for the next four days. Then swing by my blogand let me know what stirred your heart the most.
Look up Isaiah 40:28-31 and fill in the following blank spaces:
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the ______________ ______, the _______________ of the ends of the earth. He will not grow ________ or ___________, and his __________________ no one can fathom. He gives ________________ to the _______________and increases the ____________ of the ____________. Even youths grow _____________ and ____________, and young men _____________ and _____; but those who _________ in the LORD will ___________ their _____________. They will _________ on wings like eagles; they will _______ and not grow weary, they will ___________ and not be ______________."
More From The Girlfriends
Are you running to win? I encourage you to fix your eyes on Jesus and run hard in His grace today. Music often helps set my heart and affections on Him. My latest CD, Uncluttered, offers songs that are purposed to center your heart and mind on Christ. You can order a copy from my website or download songs from Uncluttered on iTunes.
Need help getting back in the race?Watch the music video to Gwen's song, Uncluttered. Here's the link: Uncluttered Music Video
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May 27, 2013
Watch Your Steps
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit, (Galatians 5:16, 25 NKJV).
Friend to Friend
Rachel and I sat on weatherworn steps leading down to a pristine beach. We had a front row seat as the morning sun stretched its arms over the horizon. She was hurting. I was attempting to love her back to health. Salty air. Salty ocean. Salty friend. It is hard to beat that combination when you're soul sick.
Rachel's life had taken some unexpected turns. Let me rephrase that. It wasn't that her life "had taken" some unexpected turns, as if she had nothing to do with it. She had strayed from God's path, and she had taken some unexpected turns. She had given in to sexual temptation, and as a result, had lost her marriage, the trust of her children, and many of her friends. She had lost her true self.
As we sat on the bottom step with our toes buried in the cool sand, we stared out at the glassy ocean and pristine beach. It was if Jesus had spoken, "Peace, be still," and the wind and waves obeyed. The sand, airbrushed smooth by the night breeze, had not yet been disturbed by vacationers' feet, kids' buckets and sunbathers' chairs.
Rachel spotted a set of tire tracks running close to the water's edge. Four shallow ruts. Parallel indentations. Ruts that never deviated in distance one from the other, as far as the eye could see. If one swerved, they all swerved in union
"I wish life were like that," she whispered.
"Like what?" I asked.
"Like those tire tracks," she replied. "Us and God. God and me. Always moving in tandem. Side-by-side. Hooked together. Moving in same direction. Connected. Easy. Perfectly aligned."
We sat in silence, staring at the tracks, both knowing the reason her tracks had deviated from God's. She had detached herself from the Master chassis and made tracks of her own. She had willingly let go of God's hand and walked away.
The Christian life is often referred to our spiritual walk. "Walk by faith and not by sight," Paul encouraged the Corinthian church (2 Corinthians 5:7 NASB). The NIV translates this same verse, "For we live by faith, not by sight."
Paul wrote to the Galatians, "I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit," (Galatians 5:16, 25 NKJV). Again, the NIV translates these same words: "So I say, walk by the Spirit,and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Since we live by the Spirit,let us keep in step with the Spirit." I love the idea of keeping in step with the Holy Spirit. What a wonderful way to live life...walking in step and keeping time with the Holy Spirit's pace.
You face decisions throughout your day that determine whether you walk in tandem with Jesus, or in sync with the world. Steps become a lifestyle; a lifestyle becomes a legacy. So watch your steps and leave a legacy with no regrets.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to walk in tandem with You today. Forgive me for the times I've wandered away and rebelled against You. Thank You for Your mercy and grace that allowed me to return. Help me choose my steps carefully today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I don't know where you are in your walk with God today, but if you are not where you want to be, His hand is extended to draw you back on the right path.
One of my favorite old gospel songs is Just a Closer Walk with Thee. Meditate on these words today, and if you know the tune, sing it right where you are!
Just a closer walk with Thee,
Grant it, Jesus, is my plea,
Daily walking close to Thee,
Let it be, dear Lord, let it be.
I am weak, but Thou art strong,
Jesus, keep me from all wrong,
I'll be satisfied as long
As I walk, let me walk close to Thee.
Through this world of toil and snares,
If I falter, Lord, who cares?
Who with me my burden shares?
None but Thee, dear Lord, none but Thee.
When my feeble life is o'er,
Time for me will be no more,
Guide me gently, safely o'er
To Thy kingdom's shore, to Thy shore.
If the words to this song are your prayer, click over to my blog and say, "Let it be, dear Lord, let it be."
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May 28, 2013
There's a Snag in My Nag
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife (Proverbs 21:19).
Friend to Friend
My nerves were raw because of the faint, repetitive sound in the background of our conversation. As I sat in my parents' kitchen talking to my mom, the faucet behind her was dripping... and dripping... and dripping.
It. Drove. Me. Bananas.
I got up and tightened the handle.
It didn't help.
I wanted to grab the nearest screwdriver and fix it. But, I couldn't. I'm not a sink-fixer. I cannot express to you how severely lacking my sink-fixing skills are. And although I'm sure there is an online instructional video that could teach me how to fix that faucet in five quick steps, I had neither the desire to learn nor the patience to try.
Drip. Drip. Drip.
Isn't it amazing how something so small and seemingly insignificant can bother us? It was torture! I left the room. I had to. I needed to get away from the sound of the drip.
Once I composed myself, I got to thinking. The Bible compares this type of drip to a quarrelsome and nagging woman. The MESSAGE paraphrase of Proverbs 27:15 reads, "A nagging spouse is like
the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can't turn it off,
and you can't get away from it." Likewise, the NIV version of Proverbs 19:13 says, "...a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof."
The word "nag" is defined by Webster's Online dictionary this way:
to find fault incessantly: complain
to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction
to irritate by constant scolding or urging
Zinger!
Obviously, this behavior is not gender specific – men can surely nag and be quarrelsome too. Whether the behavior comes from a man or a woman, a friend or a foe, the impact is universal: nagging is a negative behavior that drives people to frustration, drives others away, and does not bring glory to God. Period.
I wonder how many times we drive our husbands, our co-workers, our children, our friends or even our acquaintances away because of nagging or quarrelsome behavior? Are we even aware of it in our own lives? Do we justify it or brush it off when another person fails to meet our expectations?
Am I stepping on some toes here? I assure you, mine are bearing the weight too. Oh, how we can complain and vie for control. Our expectations of others so stir us up: how we think they should act, communicate, behave, respond, and dress.Blah. Blah. Blah. The truth of the matter is, we cannot choose behavior for others, but we can choose for ourselves.
We can choose to walk worthy of our calling in Christ. (Colossians 1:10) We can choose to call on God so that His Spirit can be evidenced in and through us in the spiritual discipline of self-control. Nagging fuels the fire of contention and frustration. Quarreling does the same. But don't take my word for it... take God's Word for it!
"As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife." (Proverbs 26:21)
"Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people." (Philippians 2:14-15)
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." (Ephesians 4:29)
So you see? There's a snag in our nag! We can try to justify nagging all we want, but when push comes to shove, it is not a behavior that is supported by Scripture. Say it with me, "There's a snag in my nag!"
In light of this, what will your behavior look like next time you are tempted to nag, quarrel, complain, or attempt to control another? Here are a few ideas to help eliminate our drips:
Replace nagging with prayer. (Not with: "Lord, change him or her!" But with: Lord change me. Help me. Strengthen me. Give me Your grace. Give me Your wisdom.")
Leave the room or conversation if possible or appropriate. (Don't even give yourself a chance to get the words out!)
Change what you can control: your response.
Eventually, my parents got their leaky faucet fixed. I'm still working on my leak, but with God's help, I know I can do all things. We all can. Would you join me today in asking God to help us honor Him with our words and responses?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I have attempted to control my circumstances and other people through nagging and quarreling. Forgive me for the times when complaining has been my response. Help me to sift my words and my thoughts through Your grace. Help me grow in You and show You in all I do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Where does this find you today? Spend time journaling and praying about this.
Need prayer? Click over to my blog and leave a prayer request in the comments section. Then pause to pray for some of the other prayer needs on my wall.
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One of the best ways we can avoid ungodly behaviors is to fix our hearts and minds on Jesus. Ready to fix your heart in his strength? I'm living proof that it is possible for anyone. God delights to deliver us from our hard places in and through the pain. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful. To order the book, go to Amazon, your favorite Christian bookstore, or for a signed copy, order from Gwen's store.
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May 29, 2013
Soul Blinders
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
So be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left (Deuteronomy 5:32, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a young girl, I rode horses with my cousin, Beth. When she was prepping her horse for shows, Beth would often add blinders to the bridle of her horse. Horse trainers believe these blinders, also called blinkers or winkers, keep the horse focused on what is in front of him, and encourage him to pay attention to the race rather than other distractions, such as crowds. Now, I'm not a horse, but at times my heart sure does wander and get distracted from what really matters. It makes me think that I could really benefit from some "soul-blinders."
You see, I have this distraction problem. At times I look around at what others are doing, being, and accomplishing and feel ineffective, unproductive, and unnecessary. When I'm distracted it becomes harder for me to trust God. There. I said it. It's not pretty, but it's true.
When do I have this problem? When I look around instead of looking to God. (How bizarre! I even know the answer to my problem ... and I still struggle with it!) Do you ever do that? Do you compare yourself to others and, as a result, determine that there are great deficiencies in your life? Do you ever feel like you don't measure up to those around you? Join the club. I bet we all struggle with this at times.
The good news is that God doesn't leave us without direction or help. He gave us His Word, the Bible, to direct our thoughts, behaviors, hearts, minds and souls - to be our soul-blinders! Scripture reminds us of this in Deuteronomy 5:32-33: So be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess.
God inspired King Solomon to say it this way in Proverbs: Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, "You are my sister," and to insight, "You are my relative" (Proverbs 7:2-4, NIV).
Ahhh ... and the light bulbs turn on! When we look to the LORD – to His plan for us – to the one that is unique to each of us, we will prosper. And when we look to the right and to the left, we lose our focus, we worry about comparison, we become distracted and we fail to trust God and His Word. So, like Paul, let's press on. Forward. With a gaze committed to the path ahead - not to the path that is behind us or on either side. Sister, like the apostle Paul says, ... I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13-14, NIV).
Today, I pray that you will join me in asking God to give us soul-blinders. Because when we turn our eyes upon Jesus and look full in His wonderful face, the things of earth -- the distractions, the comparisons, and stuff that causes us to lose our focus – will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace. Our faith and trust in God will blind us from all these earthly concerns.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thanks for giving us the Bible to direct us in life. I ask that You would put blinders on my heart so that I will be solely focused on living for You. I pray as the psalmist does: "I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. I have taken an oath and confirmed it, that I will follow your righteous laws" (Psalm 119:104-106). Please help me to fully trust in You and follow Your ways.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to evaluate what people or things might be distracting you from God's best and keeping you from fully trusting in Him. Spend some time in prayer about it.
How much time have you been spending in God's Word each day? Each week? Each month? Consider adding ten minutes to your current commitment for one week. Ask God to give you a greater clarity of His plans and direction for your life and the faith to trust in His plans.
Ready to commit? Make a public declaration! Swing over to my blog and leave this comment, "I'm in for the ten minute challenge!" Then add ten minutes of Bible reading to the time that you already spend with the LORD each day for a week. I know it will bless you big!
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to go deeper with God? Ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book!
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May 30, 2013
How to Enjoy Your Family, Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm. A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised (Proverbs 31:11-12; 30, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that it is not what it used to be. Family is no longer simple, but blended and complex. It has changed to include many different relationships of people who live together.
Couples with children
Couples with no children
Single women with children
Single men with children
Grandparents with children
Parents with grown children who have left and then come back home
Close friends living together
Unrelated people living together
And they are all family. Family is a group of persons belonging to or forming a household. We've looked at what a family is, but the more important question is, "What is the purpose of family?" There are no perfect families. There never have been. However, the purpose of family is to illustrate the nature and character of God. In other words, family is the primary place we learn about God.
A Sunday school class of first-graders was asked to draw a picture of God. When the pastor stopped by to inspect their work, the children were happy to show him their drawings. One had drawn God in the form of a brightly colored rainbow. Another had drawn the face of an old man coming out of billowing clouds and there was one drawing that looked a lot like Superman. Perhaps the best drawing was the one proudly displayed by a girl who said, "I didn't know what God looked like exactly, so I drew my daddy!"
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. So the challenge is ... how can we love our family?
I know we all want to be part of a family where we give and receive love. Proverbs 31 is a portrait of a wife and mother, painted by a King as the kind of woman his mother wanted her son to marry. It is a standard of excellence, not only for women but also for every member of every family. In the life of this woman, we find several ways to love our family.
Build trust.
Proverbs 31:11 tells us "her husband has full confidence in her." "Full confidence" literally means to trust, to take refuge in or to lean on. The Proverbs 31 woman spent a lifetime building trust. She trusted God and had a personal relationship with Him. We cannot be trustworthy if we are not trusting – and if we don't trust God, we cannot truly trust others. If we are not "taking refuge" or "leaning on" Jesus Christ, when others take refuge and lean on us, we will crumble and fall. Trust shatters fear.
Psalm 56:3 "But when I am afraid, I will put my confidence in you. Yes, I will trust the promises of God. And since I am trusting him, what can mere man do to me?" (NIV)
Trust is fragile and once broken, very hard to rebuild. When our son was a little boy, he constantly rode on the trusted shoulders of his dad, and loved it. Then, one day, at a church youth activity, one of the youth was playing around and punched Dan in the stomach. Dan was caught off guard and the youth hit him harder than he meant to. Dan doubled over and Jered tumbled to the ground. The next time Dan tried to put Jered on his shoulders, Jered flatly refused. It took months for Dan to earn Jered's trust again. To enjoy our family, we must first trust God, which then enables us to build trust in our family. Our family needs to be able to trust us, no matter what – with no hidden land mines. There will be no joy in our homes if there is not an atmosphere of trust. Family is a "team" idea and nothing is more deadly to the success of a team than a lack of trust. Trust God and then build trust in your family. In tomorrow's devotions, we will explore other ways to enjoy your family. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. I want to love them like they need to be loved. Help me to build trust in them as I learn to trust You more. Lord, help me to be trustworthy and to be the woman You want me to be in my family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of ways your family can trust and depend on you.
Identify any areas where you can build more trust.
Have a family meeting to discuss what it means to be a team.
Constantly look for ways to foster the mindset that your family is a team.
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Everywhere I look, splintered and broken families abound. Why? I believe that somewhere along the way, trust was broken by an affair, a betrayal or a forgotten vow. What is even more frightening is the casual approach to that broken trust. God is calling us to trust Him and then to build that trust in our family. Right now, no matter how many times you have failed, begin again. We are with you!
For more information about how to enjoy family or how to deal with a difficult child, check out the MP3s, How to Enjoy Your Family and Tough Love for Tough Kids in my online store.
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May 31, 2013
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (Proverbs 31:13:15, 20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Yesterday, we saw that the first step to loving our family is to build trust. The second step is to serve our family with joy. We are told by many to serve ourselves - not others. The Proverbs 31 woman had every opportunity to live a life of leisure.
She has a prominent husband.
She had a lot of influence.
She was visible and active in community.
She was in charge of charity events.
But she got up while it was still dark to make breakfast for her family and for those who served her. Proverbs 31:13 tells us she worked with "eager" hands. The literal meaning of "eager" is "in delight or in chosen joy." In other words, she chose to serve with joy, which means we can choose to serve our family with joy as well. Jesus teaches the truth that service is a natural result of love.
Galatians 5:13 "For, dear brothers, you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other."
Yet, many of us find it easier to serve everyone in love except our family. When my husband, Dan, was a youth pastor, we saw a variety of family dynamics. At one church, a young man came to us in tears. I will never forget his words; "My parents are getting a divorce because mom has time for everyone in the world except my dad and me!" Service to those we love and call family should not be a burden. In fact, an attitude of service is contagious. The best way to teach your family to serve is to serve them.
From childhood, making the bed was one of my kid's daily chores. I told them that one-day a week, I would make their bed for them. It could be on a day when they were running late for school, when they were too tired or didn't feel well. Whatever the reason, I would serve them by making their bed one day a week. One morning, I was running behind and in a hurry to visit my husband was recovering from an emergency appendectomy. I had been at the hospital day and night and was exhausted. I got up very early, took one look at my bed and decided I just didn't want to make it. I went to take a shower, hoping it would wake me up. When I came out, Danna, our eleven-year-old daughter had made my bed. To love our family, we must serve with joy!
Plan well.
Proverbs 31:15b, 21, 27 (LB) "She plans the day's work. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them. She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household."
Planning prevents chaos. This woman is in control of her home and her life. The control came from good planning. She mastered the skill of homemaking before she ever set foot in the workplace. She set her priorities; then arranged her life around them. She didn't allow others to set them for her but did what was important, not just urgent. Have you noticed that the urgent things in life barge in demanding attention while the important things wait to be chosen? We can spend a lifetime on the urgent and miss the important. We must set family priorities because if we don't, the world will.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew what needed to be done and made sure that it was done first and in the right way. She didn't fear winter or the hard times because she was prepared. Family should provide the most satisfying earthly relationships. If it doesn't, the problem may be with our planning. Here are some practical tips for planning:
Budget your time.
Choose one day a week to plan.
Eliminate. Have an "elimination" meeting once a month with your family. Eliminate the things that hurt your family.
Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone.
Delegate. Include everyone in the family in the work as well as the playing.
Simplify. Give up on perfection. It's for heaven - not earth.
Plan well. It demonstrates your love for your family.
Work hard.
Proverbs 31:16-18 (LB) "She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard. She is a hard worker. She works far into the night."
There is nothing lazy about this woman! Laziness should not be part of our character as women of God. This is a busy woman, but not too busy ad not busy doing the wrong things. Busyness does not always equal productivity. I believe a woman can have it all - a career, a family. I'm just not sure she can have it all at the same time. This woman has a strong sense of who she is and what God created her to be. She has a clear plan for life. And notice she doesn't do all of the work herself. (By the way, this is your scriptural justification for a maid or as I tell my children,"Why do you think God made kids?") Working together builds a sense of family. In a nationwide survey, thousands of school children were asked, "What makes a happy family?" The most-mentioned key to happiness was "doing things together." Plan "family projects" and family workdays. At the end of day, order a pizza and rent a movie as reward. You can build some of your greatest family traditions and memories around work. When our kids were younger, we bought our Christmas tree and put up our Christmas lights every Thanksgiving weekend. While it is a lot of work, it is also a family tradition. I never had to ask the kids to help. They were eager to join in ... and have carried this tradition into their own families.
A woman who loves her family is willing to work hard for them and with them, planning well and building trust.
Let's Pray
Father, family is so important to You and I want it to be that important to me as well. Thank You for the family You have given me. I love each one of them and want them to be sure of my love. Please help me love them in ways they can understand. I pray that our family will be filled with trust and become a haven for each family member. Be glorified in our home and in our family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Identify areas of your family life that need to be more structured.
Establish a weekly family meeting to plan and connect as a family.
Use the principles in step three to become a better planner.
Establish a new family tradition that invites every family member to participate.
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I once heard the statement, "Home is the place you go where they have to take you in." I love that statement. And it really is true. Tomorrow, we conclude this study on how to enjoy your family. I pray that it is making a difference in your life and in your family. Remember, your home and family is the best place for God to show up and demonstrate Who He really is.
For more information about how to enjoy family or how to deal with a difficult child, check out the MP3s, How to Enjoy Your Family and Tough Love for Tough Kids in my online store.
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June 3, 2013
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 3
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says (Proverbs 31:26).
Friend to Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. Over the last two days, we have examined the first steps to loving your family: to build trust, to serve them with joy, to plan well and to work hard. We can also love and enjoy our family by guarding our words.
Control your tongue.
The power of the spoken word is great. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative and critical words, we will reap a family that is negative and critical. Look for the good in your family and then speak it. Be a cheerleader for your family because everyone needs a cheerleader.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a "date," spending special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was to have her as a daughter. When he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day, but a little girl's hungry heart was fed. Do you have any hearts like that in your family?
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the great singer who rose to stardom singing with her brother, Richard. At the age of 32, she died unexpectedly of heart failure due to many years of abuse caused by Anorexia. What brought on Karen's fatal obsession with weight control? It seems that a reporter once called her "Richard's chubby sister."
Psalm 141:3 "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips."
Before speaking, ask yourself the following questions.
T is it true
H is it helpful
I is it inspiring
N is it necessary
K is it kind
Think before you speak. Use the five to one ratio when correcting - five positive remarks to one negative comment. The harder the truth, the more love we should use in saying it. It is our responsibility to use our words to train and instruct our family about the daily things in life, but more importantly, to instruct them about the eternal things. We are very concerned about providing for our children when we need to be more concerned about caring for our children. To care for our children, we must disciple them by speaking words of truth. Guard your tongue.
Take care of yourself.
The Proverbs 31 woman certainly did. "She is energetic. Her own clothing is beautifully made--a purple gown of pure linen. She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age" (Proverbs 31:17; 22; 25).
Families are hard work. In order to make our family relationships replenishing, we must be replenished. Psalm 46:10 instructs us to "be still and know that I am God." Let'sapply this verse specifically.
Be still, MY MUSCLES, and know God's RELAXATION.
Be still, MY NERVES, and know God's REST.
Be still, MY HEART, and know God's QUIETNESS.
Be still, MY BODY, and know God's RENEWAL.
Be still, MY MIND, and know God's PEACE.
In order to be all that we can be to our families, we must be all that we can be mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. We must be balanced. The Proverbs 31 woman was energetic and hard working for the tasks she was gifted and called to do. Proverbs 31:25 tells us that this woman could laugh "at the days to come." The picture here is of a woman who enjoyed her life. She worked hard, but she knew how to stop and plant a vineyard. She liked to shop and watched for bargains. She liked to look beautiful, dressing in purple fine linen.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body."
We cannot give our hearts to God and keep our bodies for ourselves. When you take care of yourself, you are honoring God and loving your family.
Remember your audience.
The final way to enjoy and love your family is to remember who your audience should be.
Proverbs 31:28-31 "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
It's so easy to run the race of life before the wrong audience. The truth is that our audience determines how we run the race. Our audience should be God, our mate, our children - and then others. One day we will stand before God as keeper of the family He has loaned to us for a short time. Will He be pleased? Will He say, "Well done?" Will our family stand and bless us? Will others say this woman loved and enjoyed her family?
Let's Pray
Lord, you know my inadequacies. You know my weaknesses, not only in parenting, but also in every area of my life. As you broke the fishes and the loaves to feed the five thousand, now take my meager effort and use it to bless my family.
Please make up for the things I did wrong. Satisfy the needs that I have not satisfied. Wrap your great arms around my family and draw them close to you.
And be there when they stand at the great crossroads between right and wrong. All I can give is my best, and I, today, choose to do that. Therefore, I submit to you my family and myself and the job I have done and will do as a wife and mother. The outcome belongs to you. (Author unknown)
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define "family" in your life?
Which one of the steps covered in this series of devotionals do you need to take in order to have the family God wants you to have?
Set aside time to pray for each family member.
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I truly believe our greatest opportunity to impact the world is to love and enjoy our families in a way that honors God. I pray that you have been blessed by these devotions. I encourage you to examine your family in light of these principles. Identify one that needs some work, and get started. It is never too late to start, and it is always too early to give up, girlfriend. And know that Gwen, Sharon and I are right there with you on this journey. Blessings!
For more information about how to enjoy family or how to deal with a difficult child, check out the MP3s, How to Enjoy Your Family and Tough Love for Tough Kids in my online store. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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June 4, 2013
Lessons from a Dirt Clod Fight
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms," (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my early years, I was a rough and rowdy tomboy who climbed trees, skipped rocks, and made skid marks on the asphalt with my glittery pink banana seat bike. My backyard was the envy of every kid in the neighborhood. It came equipped with a drainage ditch across the back border that separated us from a vacant, thickly wooded lot. The ditch tunneled beneath six city blocks through concrete pipes large enough to stand up in and walk through, and culminated in a very large crater we dubbed "The Canyon." How do I know you could stand up in them? You guessed. We did it.
To the kids in the neighborhood, the ditch was a virtual wonderland filled with all kinds of creepy, crawly critters to be discovered. I felt like the luckiest kid around to have such an attraction right in my own backyard.
On the other side of "The Canyon" lived another neighborhood that was a bit rougher than ours. We dubbed the boys who lived there the "Canyon Boys." Great animosity existed between the Canyon Boys and the boys in our neighborhood (of which I thought I was one).
One day the warring factions decided there was going to be a big rumble between the two. The time: 2:00 p.m. The place: the drainage ditch bordering my backyard. The weapon of choice: dirt clods.
We boys gathered in my yard on the east side of the ditch as the enemy gathered in the vacant lot on the west. We piled up our ammo, hunkered down behind mounds of dirt and trees, and waited for the first shot to be fired. Then it began. Clods of hardened mud flew left and right. At some point during this heated battle, I peeked out from behind a tree to throw a grenade, and something hit me square in the forehead. I wasn't sure what it was, but it didn't feel like dirt. As blood poured down my brow, I looked on the ground and saw the culprit. A brick.
"You cheated!" I yelled at the enemy forces.
Fearing I had suffered a fatal blow, the enemies ran for their lives. My buds ran to get my mom, and I was whisked away to the hospital. The doctor shaved a patch of hair from the top of my forehead, sewed my skin back together, and placed a patch over the wound. Oh, it wasn't as nifty as a broken arm or a broken leg, but having your head spit open by a rival was pretty cool.
Some of my hair never grew back in that spot and I have a scar to remind me of a few facts about fighting foes.
1. The enemy cheats.
The enemy slings more than just dirt.
The enemy has great aim.
The enemy's attacks sometimes leave scars.
The enemy is not playing a game.
I don't fight with bullies anymore—at least, not the human kind. But I do have one nemesis that challenges me regularly. The Bible calls him the "great deceiver," "the accuser," "the devil," "the evil one." Interestingly, the same lessons I learned from that dirt clod fight apply to him today.
What about you? Do you know how to fight the spiritual battles in your life? Ephesians 6:10-20 is a great place to start.
If you are ready and willing to take your stand against the enemy today, click over to my blog page and say, "According to Ephesians 6, I'm taking my stand!"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, today I put on the full armor of God to stand against the enemy's schemes: the helmet of salvation, the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, and the sandals of the gospel of peace. I also take up the shield of faith in one hand and the sword of the Spirit in the other. Now I'm ready to take my stand. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to the list of 5 things I learned about the enemy during my dirt clod fight. Now, consider how each one of those principles applies to spiritual warfare.
Read Ephesians 6:10-20 and list the pieces of the armor of God. Envision putting on each piece as you write them down.
Notice there is only 1 offense weapon. What is it? How do you take up the Sword of the Spirit?
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
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June 5, 2013
You Really Don't Have to Worry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Never worry about anything. But in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks (Philippians 4:6, GW).
Friend to Friend
History tells us that some Indian tribes tortured and killed their enemies by staking them to the ground. They then took a wet leather strap and placed it around the neck of their enemy. As the leather strap slowly dried in the blazing desert sun, it would gradually cut off the air supply until their enemy finally choked to death. Worry does the same thing. "Worry" literally means "to be pulled in different directions." The old English root from which we get our word "worry" means "to strangle." Worry literally strangles our peace and weakens our faith.
Worry is a control issue.
Worry is wasted energy.
Worry is consuming and unhealthy.
Worry is a joy thief.
Worry is the interest that we pay today on tomorrow's problems.
Worry is practicing atheism.
Worry makes everything seem bigger than it really is.
When we choose to trust God, we are choosing against worry. In Isaiah 26:3, Isaiah voices a powerful prayer of faith that should be our prayer as well. "You, Lord, give true peace. You give peace to those who depend on you. You give peace to those who trust you." It is simple. God rewards our trust with His peace.
I saw a bumper sticker that read "Worry is the darkroom in which negatives are developed." How true! I can only imagine what it does to the heart of God to see His children caught in the trap of negative attitudes when His plan is a peaceful mind-set. We will never live in freedom and power until we consistently choose against worry and deliberately choose to trust God alone.
It is possible not to worry. It must be. God never asks us to do anything that He doesn't empower us to do. The problem is that we like to play God in our lives. Playing God is the root of worry. When we take life into our own hands, worry will always be the result. The apostle Paul certainly had plenty of reasons to worry. He was in jail, facing a trial and an almost certain execution. Paul's health was failing rapidly and the churches he had spent his whole life building were struggling to survive. Yet, Paul refused to worry and lived a life marked by peace. We can, too.
Paul gives us the formula for eliminating worry and establishing peace when he writes "in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks." In this verse, "prayers" are thoughts spoken to God while "requests" are specific needs presented to God. In other words, if it is big enough to concern us, it is big enough to concern God. Then why do we get serious about prayer only as a last resort instead of making prayer our first response? We have forgotten that aside from God's power, we are helpless and lost. Peace comes while we are on our knees before Him in prayerful dependence. Paul reminds us that we are to pray about everything. Prayer should be a habit instead of a last-ditch effort.
Notice that Paul says if we want to experience peace, we must give thanks while we are praying, the perfect picture of praying in faith. To pray in faith is to believe that God not only can answer or will answer prayer, but that He is answering even as we pray.
The story is told of a small town in west Texas that was experiencing a severe drought. One Sunday morning, a pastor in that town announced there would be a prayer meeting that night and encouraged every member to meet at the church to pray for rain. The pastor challenged them to come in faith, believing that God would hear and answer their prayer. That night, the church was filled with every leader of the church and community. The preacher stood, looked out over the crowd and said "Only one of you has come in faith." He then pointed to a little girl seated in the front row. She was holding an umbrella. Faith eliminates worry and feeds peace.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a sense of helplessness. I am desperate for You, Lord. I need Your strength and power to sustain me because everything seems to be falling apart. I want to be a woman of faith and stand strong when trouble bombards my life but I cannot do it alone. I am afraid and seem to worry about everything. Today, I turn to You and celebrate the truth that You will turn to me and be my refuge.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back over your life. When did God take something bad and bring good out of it? Describe that experience. Remember the truth that God is the same yesterday, today and forever and what He did in your past ... He can do today and tomorrow. He is faithful – even when we are faithless.
Read and memorize Psalm 59:16. Choose to sing a new song of praise – no matter what happens today. Record this verse on an index card and keep it with you. When fear and doubt come, meet them with this powerful promise from God.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help dealing with worry? Get Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear, for practical ways to deal with fear and worry in your life. And be sure to check out Mary's new weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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June 6, 2013
When the Thief Uses Your Key
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, 'I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.' And you forgave the guilt of my sin, (Psalm 32:3 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was a teenager, my high school was just a few miles from my home. My lunch break was a mere 35 minutes, but I enjoyed driving home and taking a respite from the hustle and bustle of the crowded hallways.
Rocky Mount, North Carolina, was a sleepy little town with a railroad track that ran down the middle of downtown, dividing it into two counties. There was a fledgling minor league baseball team that ranked in Sports Illustrated as the worst housing conditions in the league, and a Hardee's fast-food restaurant on every corner, reminding us that the corporate office for the chain was just down the street. We slept with our windows open, left home with our doors unlocked, and as children we rode our bicycles all over town without a hint of reservation.
But times changed in the late sixties and early seventies. We began to keep our windows closed at night and our doors locked even during the day. Kids stayed much closer to home. At our house, we kept an extra key in the mailbox just inside the doorless garage. The only people who knew it was there were our family and the mailman...or so we thought.
During my high school years when I went home for lunch at 12:10 every day, I simply retrieved the key from the mailbox and then placed it back until I came home again at 3:15.
One day I came home after school at the usual time, used the hidden key, and let myself in. Before grabbing a snack, I made a beeline to the television to turn on my favorite program. When I opened the door, I realized the TV was missing.
I didn't know anything was wrong with the TV,I thought. Mom must have taken it into the shop for repairs.
I called Mom at her craft store.
"Hello, Bee N' Beetle. May I help you?"
"Hey, Mom. This is Sharon. Did you take the TV in for repair?"
"No, I didn't. Why?"
"Well, because it isn't here."
"What do you mean, it isn't there?"
"It's not here. The cabinet is empty."
"Is anything else missing?" she asked with a hint of fear in her voice.
"I don't know. Let me check."
I didn't have to look far to see that a few other items were gone. When I came back to the phone to report, my mother said, "Sharon, quick! Get out of there!"
When the police came, we discovered that someone had indeed broken into our house and taken many things. And how did he get in? Why, he used the hidden key!
Apparently, someone had been watching me. He knew I came home at 12:10 and left again at 12:45. He also knew I came home from school around 3:15. So one day between 12:45 and 3:15, he simply took the key from the mailbox, let himself in, and helped himself to our belongings. Then, when he had what he wanted, the thief locked the door behind him and put the key back in the mailbox for "safe keeping."
That's exactly what Satan does in our lives. He watches us and knows exactly where that hidden key to our secret places lies. Then, at the most opportune time, he unlocks the door to steal our peace and joy. The Bible tells us that Satan is a roaring lion seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8). Sometimes the hidden parts of our hearts, the ones that we have not given to God, are where Satan wants to sink his teeth. As long as we have that key hidden, Satan can get to it.
There's only one solution. Don't hide the key. Give the key to every compartment of your heart to God.
Is God prompting you to give Him the key to a hidden room in your heart today?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I give You the key to my heart—my whole heart. I give You the key to every secret closet, every hidden room, every messy nook and cranny of my life. No longer will I keep those keys to myself but hand them over to You totally and completely to do with what You will. In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 32:1-11.
Is there any area of your heart that you have not given to God? A relationship? A past sin that you're clinging to? A present insecurity? A future worry?
If so, I suggest you hand it over. One of the best ways to do that is to tell someone what you've been hanging onto and commit to let it go. (James 5:16a)
If you're willing to give God the key to every part of your heart, click over to my blog page and leave a comment that says, "I'm handing the key over to God."
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
And if you'd like to learn more about how to give every part of your heart to God, check out my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. In it you'll learn how to live fully and free!
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June 7, 2013
The Trust Fall
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you (Psalm 56:3, ESV).
Friend to Friend
Our arms were braided across each other's and our hands were locked tightly. As the young girl stood on the tall tree stump above us she looked over her shoulder and saw with her eyes that our formation was tight...that we were ready for her. She heard with her ears that we would catch her...that we would not let her get hurt. Yet the fear that screamed in her head told her not to do it. Not to fall backwards.
Her legs shook and lips quivered. Other campers had gone before her and her cabin mates had successfully caught each one. But this camper hesitated – allowing the looming possibilities of failure and pain to paralyze her from action. The risks just seemed too great.
She trembled.
We encouraged.
She cried.
We encouraged.
Then, finally, with determination in her heart, she took the plunge. She fell straight backwards onto the safety net of our arms. We bent low to the ground giving way to her fall and caught her with cheers of excitement. She did it! As her trembling legs regained their confidence, she stood tall and beamed from ear to ear – realizing that she had faced her fear. Joy was felt from heart to heart as each of us rejoiced with her.
Mission accomplished. Early in the day, we had trekked across the campgrounds to the "Trust Fall station" as a group of counselors and campers who didn't have a shared experience among us, an unconnected strand of strangers. Now our wooded team-building time had come to an end and we left the trust fall station having bonded deeply as a group of new girlfriends prepared for a fresh journey of fun and adventure.
Each of us took turns at the Trust Fall that day. We all faced a set of scary circumstances and were forced to work through our doubts, tremblings and fears. As a result, we learned valuable lessons and strengthened our relationships.
Since my days of being a camp counselor, I've faced many scary life Trust Falls: financial trials, relationship strains, relocations, sick loved ones, and difficult family matters. I've trembled and I've cried. I've been paralyzed by "what ifs" and "whys." We all go through difficult seasons and trials; times when we want to see the invisible arms of the One who says He will catch us; times when we are afraid to fall into them.
Wherever we go and whatever we face, God is with us – yesterday, today and forever. He bids us to live by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). He wants us to trust Him. He catches us when we Trust Fall,when we live by faith. And to encourage us along the way He spurs us on by sending a cloud of witnesses who testify of His faithfulness. "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us" (Hebrews 12:1, NIV).
Today, whether you identify with the shaky young camper on the Trust Fall stump or with the cabin mates who were filled with encouragement for another, God wants you to trust Him...right where you are. It might be scary. Tears might be shed. But God is faithful and can be trusted.
Like the Psalmist, let's choose to say, "But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. I praise God for what he has promised. I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?" (Psalm 56:3-4, ESV)
When we Trust Fall from our struggles into the faithful arms of God, we are freed from the fears that paralyze us. Trust Him today, friend. A cloud of Girlfriend in God witnesses are cheering for you!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are good, loving and faithful – and You know exactly what I'm facing. Please take this burden from me. Help me today to fall into a deeper place of trusting you.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What is God asking you to trust Him in or through? Spend a few moments in prayer over this. Then click over to my blog so we can take the conversation deeper. Leave a comment about what God is calling you to trust Him with today.
Who has been there for you when you faced scary circumstances? Consider writing her a note or sending her an e-mail of thanks.
Do you have a friend(s) who seems to be struggling to trust God with her tough places? Maybe God wants you to encourage her or him. Perhaps you could write a letter or share a hug – call and pray with her – bless them with a meal or a plate of brownies. Forward this devotion with her! Post it on your Facebook wall. Ask the Lord for ideas!
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book! This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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June 10, 2013
The Gates of God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it (Hebrews 12:9-11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As a grandmother, I can testify to the importance of gates. Our youngest grandson, Hudson, just had his first birthday and is starting to walk – but he has been a champion crawler for several months - and he loves stairs. We just happen to live in a townhouse that has three flights of stairs, much to Hudson's delight. Oh, we buy him toys, but they are nothing more than momentary distractions from his favorite toy – the stairs.
When Hudson first learned to climb up the stairs, we bought a gate to keep him from falling down those same stairs. I wondered how he would react to his new confinement. It didn't take long to find out. When our daughter dropped him off for a visit, Hudson played with the toys I keep for him downstairs in the living room. After a few minutes, his sparkling blue eyes caught mine, and I knew what was about to happen. Yep! He made a mad dash for the stairs. Halfway up, he looked back at me with a mischievous smile as if to ask, "Are you coming, Mimi?" Laughing, I scrambled up the stairs behind him. When we reached the landing, I quickly scooped him up in my arms, put the gate in place, and sat him on the floor to play. Hudson clapped his hands and laughed ... until he saw the gate.
With a look of suspicion and doubt ... definitely doubt ... Hudson reached out to touch the wall now separating him from his beloved stairs. He glanced back at me and seemed to ask, "What have you done, Mimi?" I tried to play the gate up as a good thing that was for his safety and protection, but Hudson was not buying one word of my cheery explanation. His chubby little hands tentatively grasped the gate as he pulled himself to his feet for a closer inspection. I watched as our precious grandson peered through the bars of the gate to the stairs below. He then turned to stare at me in disbelief and promptly burst into tears. He was not done. He pulled and pushed the gate with every ounce of toddler strength he could muster, wailing in anger and frustration as he tried to dislodge his prison wall. Hudson made it crystal clear that he is not a fan of gates.
I tend to react the same way to the gates God places in my life.
I have a plan – one that I think is right. I like my plan and don't really see the need to bother God with the details of that plan. After all, my plan is logical and could even be described as good since it fits within the parameters of Scripture. It must be His will for my life, right? So I scramble through the steps of my plan until I run smack dab into a wall or, as Hudson would call it, a gate. My first reaction is suspicion and doubt – definitely doubt – and I quickly conclude that Satan must have placed the gate there.
I try everything within my human strength to knock down the barrier to my beloved plan. The gate does not move. Frustration and anger fill my heart as I cry out to God, pleading for Him to remove the unwanted obstacle from my path. It is then that He takes me in His arms and gently explains, "Child, the gate is for your good. It is for your protection and safety."
When will I understand that God's plan for my life is higher and better than any plan I can possibly imagine? When will I learn to wholly trust Him? When will I realize just how much He loves me? When I look back over my life, I cannot count the number of times I first considered a closed door to be the work of Satan, only to discover it was really the hand of God protecting me or keeping me from making a terrible mistake.
How about you? Has God closed a door that you thought was the perfect opportunity? Has He placed a gate across the path that you thought was so right? Trust Him. Wait on Him. He is at work in your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, choosing to trust You. Thank You for the perfect and amazing plan You have for my life. Help me learn to trust You more. Teach me how to praise You for the doors You have closed - as well as the ones You have opened. Today, I rest in Your unfailing love for me and lean wholly on You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back over your life. Pinpoint five "gates" God placed in your path that you now see are for your good. Record them in your journal. Thank God for each one.
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight." Record this verse in your journal. Circle all of the action words. Which ones of these actions do you need to take? I would love to hear how God increases your faith. Email me or share your story on my Facebook page.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help finding God's plan for your life? Check out Mary's new E-Book Bible Study, It's Never Too Late to Be Great. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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June 11, 2013
Shabby Chic Refinishing
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
(2 Corinthians 5:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Junk. That's what my family and friends thought of most of my purchases. But to me, they were treasures waiting to be revealed.
When I was in my late teens, I had an unusual fetish for beat-up antique furniture. While most of my friends were at the mall shopping for clothes, I was at estate sales, flea markets, yard sales, and auctions hunting for antiques. Often, when I brought my purchases home, my family would roll their eyes and say, "I can't believe you paid money for that old piece of junk." But I never saw my purchases as junk. They just needed a little work...okay, sometimes a lot of work. But I loved the shabby chic projects!
At one estate sale I spied a little drop leaf kitchen table with three spindle-back chairs. I could just imagine a sweet little older lady spending many years sitting at that very table drinking her morning coffee or perhaps her afternoon tea. I could almost hear the faint whispers of thousands of conversations from generations past. The set was painted a hospital green, but I saw that it had great potential. Obviously the other bidders didn't recognize a treasure when they saw one, because ten minutes and $35 later, the set was mine.
I brought the dinette set home, all excited about my great buy, and couldn't understand why no one else shared my enthusiasm.
"Sharon, do you realize how much time and energy it is going to take to make that old green rickety table look even slightly presentable?" they asked. At that point in my life, I had a lot more time than money, so the time wasn't a problem.
Refinishing furniture is a dirty, grueling task. First, I stripped off the paint with paint remover and discovered that not only had the table been green, it had also been blue, and before that white. But underneath it all was pure walnut.
The paint remover raised the grain of the wood, so I had to go back and sand it smooth. If the sanding isn't done well, the finished product will always be a little rough. A few joints were loose from wear and tear, so I glued them back together. Then I applied a warm walnut stain which deepened its color and made the beautiful pattern of the wood grain stand out. Finally, I applied a polyurethane coat to seal and protect the piece.
As I worked I began to think of the old broken table as a symbol of my own life. I was also on the auction block, and God had purchased me with His Son's precious blood. I had layers and layers of my old self that had to be stripped away to reveal the beauty hidden beneath. This raised my grain, but God sanded me with life experiences and trials to remove the rough edges. He glued my loose joints and mended my broken pieces, for He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Then He put a sealer not only on me but in me – the Holy Spirit who brought out the beauty of who God created me to be.
After I finished refurbishing the old table and chairs, I sat in the garage thinking about all that God had done in my life. My mom opened the door, looked at the old table, and said, "I never thought something so ugly could turn out to be so beautiful."
I said, "Amen."
Where are you in the refinishing process? It's never really over, this side of heaven. But as we listen to God day by day, He will show us what needs to be stripped off, sanded away, and polished smooth to be all that He has created us to be.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I was such a mess before You transformed me. Thank You for restoring my soul, renewing my spirit, and redeeming my life to become Your treasured possession...a true work of art.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 2 Corinthians 5:1-21 to learn more about your refinishing process.
Think back over the past year. What has God used as His sandpaper to refine your rough edges?
What has God used to glue your broken pieces back together?
What has God used to polish your shine?
Click over to my blog page and tell me one thing that God has used to "refinish" you this year.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
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June 12, 2013
Be Kind
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another (John 13:34-35, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When bad things happen, we cry out in desperation for someone to care. More people come to Christ during a crisis than at any other time. Kindness is simply compassion at work and love in action.
We need to constantly refocus our success-targeted eyes, crucify each self-promoting heart motive, and look for the needs around us. I often wonder just how amazed we will be when we get to Heaven and find the unlikely and unknown but devoted servants of God rewarded for their quiet and often unseen acts of kindness.
A preacher once described his mother as a woman of great compassion. One day he came home from school to find her sitting at the table with an elderly, homeless man. Apparently, she had gone shopping, met the man on the way, and invited him home for a warm meal. During their conversation, the visitor said, "I wish there were more people in the world like you." The woman said quickly, "Oh there are! You just have to look for them!" The old man simply shook his head and smiled, "But lady, I didn't need to look for you. You looked for me!"
Needs constantly parade before us day every day, but we don't see them. We are too busy to notice the broken lambs the Good Shepherd sends our way. We view them as intrusions or annoying interruptions in our very important schedule. These uninvited and unscheduled guests may very well be divine appointments sent by God.
The warning of Hebrews 13:2 is a haunting one. "Remember to welcome strangers, because some who have done this have welcomed angels without knowing it." How many angels have we missed because we were too busy? Or maybe the problem is simply that we don't care enough.
A mother sent her young daughter on an errand. The little girl was gone far too long, so when she returned, her mother demanded an explanation. The child said that on her way to the store, she met a friend who was crying because she had broken her doll. "Oh," said the mother, "then you stopped to help her fix her doll?" "Oh, no!" replied the little girl. "I stopped to help her cry!"
Jesus says that if we really love God, we will really love each other. We are never more like our Father than when we choose to weather relationship storms with kindness and love. Kindness and compassion are directly related to the health of our personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
1 John 4:20 "If people say, 'I love God,' but hate their brothers or sisters, they are liars. Those who do not love their brothers and sisters, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have never seen."
We can be very religious and not care enough. Kindness does not look for reasons. Compassion doesn't ask for limitations. It searches for opportunity.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, asking You to break my heart for what breaks Yours. Give me the eyes to see those around me who are in pain. Show me how to encourage them and love them with Your love. Fill my heart with Your compassion, and give me the strength and courage to share that compassion with others.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Galatians 5:14 says, "For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"
How do you share the love you have for yourself with others?
How do you practically love your neighbor as yourself?
How have others shown the love of God to you?
I would love to hear your story ... and you can bless others by sharing what God is doing in your life. Email me or post it on my Facebook page.
More from the Girlfriends
Learn practical steps that will help you learn how to be and find true friendship in Mary's message, I Need a Friend. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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June 13, 2013
Eating Crow
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever, (1 Chronicles 16:34, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes we like what life serves up—and sometimes we don't. But most of the time, it simply depends on the attitude of the person holding the spoon. Such was the case one evening when I went to dinner with friends to the Sanitary Fish Market. I know that is a strange name for a seafood restaurant, but it was a great place that everyone frequented in Atlantic Beach, North Carolina. Because the food was good, I guess it was an added perk to know that it was sanitary as well.
When I was 18, I had dinner at the Sanitary with some friends. Three of us were Christians and usually took a moment to ask a blessing before we ate a meal, but we had not eaten in a restaurant with Larry before. Larry was a macho man who claimed to be in control of his own destiny. He didn't need God. So when we bowed our heads to pray, Larry held his head high as if to say, "I might be at the same table with these people, but I'm not one of them."
We all ordered clam chowder as an appetizer. We had the same waitress and same chowder from the same pot. We three Holy Rollers (the name we acquired because of a ten-second prayer) dipped our spoons into our bowls and tasted chowder full of tender clams and steamy potatoes.
Then proud Larry dipped in his spoon to retrieve only broth. "Why is your chowder full of clams and potatoes," he demanded, "and all I have is broth?"
Larry was about to call the waitress over to complain when I looked up and said, "Well, maybe it's because we asked God to bless ours and you didn't."
Larry didn't complain to the fine people at the Sanitary but ate crow instead.
Just as we listen to God day-by-day, He is listening to us. And nothing warms His heart like a grateful and thankful heart. What is He hearing from you today?
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for everything! Help me to always have a grateful heart that never ceases to be amazed and awed at Your protection and provision in my life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Romans 1 is a sobering chapter. Right smack dab in the middle of the description of the perverse nation (which sounds an aweful lot like ours today), there is one line that strikes my heart. What does 1:21 say that the people refused to do?
Read David's prayer of thanksgiving in 1 Chronicles 16:7-36.
Click over to my blog page and tell me 5 things you are thankful for. You can't say Jesus or your family. I know you are thankful for those two above all else! Tell me 5 more things you are thankful for.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
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June 14, 2013
Prayer Power
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Pray continually. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
Friend To Friend
Over the past few years, my spiritual life has changed dramatically. I've witnessed the LORD move in amazing ways, and have felt His hand guide me like never before. What's the big secret? Why the big change? Simple: prayer. There is unexplainable power in prayer.
No, prayer isn't new to me. I've prayed ever since I was a child. But even though I love God, I often struggled to remain focused during my quiet time ... or to even carve out a daily quiet time, for that matter. My creative mind has a strong tendency to wander. So a few years back, I began keeping a prayer journal and my faith has really grown as a result.
My journal isn't fancy or expensive, just a notebook that can be picked up anywhere, but it has been a power tool for God's movement in and through my life. By keeping my heart focused in prayer, my journal has fanned the flame of my prayers, and has fueled the fire in my soul to connect with our active and living God who longs to be the center of our attention.
It's not rocket science and there aren't any special tricks. A prayer journal can be an effective tool for spiritual growth, but the power is in the praying. How do I put my power tool to work? I start off by writing the date. I then jot down whom I want to pray for and what I want to pray about. I also love to write out Scripture passages that have spoken to my heart. Then I go to my Father- focused and fearless. God is the source of all power, and prayer is essential to experiencing His power in our lives.
Martin Luther said, "As it is the business of tailors to make clothes, and of cobblers to mend shoes, so it is the business of Christians to pray." Prayer moves the hand of God, yet, statistically; most Christians spend less than 5 minutes a day in prayer. That's just crazy! Why would we expect God to show His power in our lives if we don't give Him more time than we spend brushing our teeth each day?
Are you experiencing the power of God in your life? Would you like more strength, peace and direction in your days? God wants you to come to Him in prayer: when you are hurting, when you are angry, when you need direction, when you need answers, when you need hope, when you need healing. He wants you to come to Him for forgiveness, courage, strength, confidence, and perspective. Come with praise, adoration, humility, honor, and worship.
So – grab your Bible, a journal, your iPad, a notebook or a piece of paper and focus your heart and thoughts on God. The main thing is to get alone with God. He just wants you to come.
A GIG PLEDGE: Let's commit together to spend more time on our knees! Raise your right hand and say out loud: "Lord, it is my sincere intention to seek you more fervently from this moment on." God assures us, that when we seek Him, we will find Him!
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Thank You for allowing me to come to You in prayer today. I humbly bow before Your throne of grace and ask that You would forgive me for all of the times I have failed to come. I need You more than I know. Please help me experience the fullness of Your life-changing presence in a fresh and powerful way.
For Your glory and In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider keeping a prayer journal. Grab a pen and a notebook and get started! If you don't know where to start, use this as a template to begin:
Begin reading the Psalms during your quiet time. Journal what you learn and write down the verses that stir your heart. (There are 150 of them and if you meditate on one or two each day, you could be kept busy for a few months!)
Ready to commit? Click over to my blog and write, "I'm in! I will fervently seek God."
More from the Girlfriends
One morning, as I was reading in the Psalms, I came across a Scripture that moved me to respond in worship. It is Psalm 135:13 "Your name, O Lord, endures forever, your renown, Lord, through all generations." As I read it over and over, a song came to my heart. Want to hear it?? It will make you get your praise on, girlfriend! JTurn up your speakers and join me on my YouTube page or my Facebook page to listen to "Through All Generations."
LOVE TO WORSHIP? Worshiping with music is a great way to begin your personal time with God. Download some of Gwen's music from iTunes, or order her CDs from her website.
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June 17, 2013
When I Fall Down
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, 'He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.' (Psalm 91:1-2, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I had forgotten just how amazing the process of learning to walk really is until our youngest grandchild recently reminded me. Justus was a speed crawler who could scoot along the floor almost as fast as I could walk and seemed content to explore the bottom of tables and chairs, play with doorstops or inspect flecks of lint, food crumbs and the floor at close range. For the first twelve months of his life, that was enough.
However, the day came when he was no longer satisfied to explore his world from the vantage point of his two little hands and knees and began pulling up on various pieces of furniture. Evidently he liked what he saw because he soon grew tired of just being upright and quickly graduated to the "One Step" method of walking.
Throughout the day, Justus repeatedly and carefully pulled himself up on the living room sofa. Next came the toddler shuffle as he tentatively positioned his stout and very determined little thirteen-month-old body between the sofa and loveseat. Pausing to catch his breath and gather his courage, Justus longingly stared at his goal, the armrest of the loveseat. His big brown eyes seemed to measure the size of the step he would have to take in order to reach his final destination and thus, master that long-held toddler tradition of cruising the furniture.
Eventually, he would let go of the sofa cushion, take "a step" and quickly grab hold of the loveseat. Most of the time, this brave little man then looked over his shoulder at whoever happened to be watching, a huge grin lighting up his face and the room. That was the cue for applause. And believe me, we always applauded. Yes, the "One Step" method of walking served Justus well - until he decided that what he wanted was not anywhere near the sofa or loveseat - and a new strategy was required.
I can imagine his little heart beating with excitement and fear as he realized the profound ramifications of his next move. He had to completely let go of that sofa and loveseat and walk where he had never been - into thin air - with no safety net.
And then it happened. Justus let go and took a step ... then another and another! We held our breath as we watched this special little boy actually walk for the very first time in his life. When he wobbled and fell to the floor, our daughter instinctively reached out to catch her precious child. He didn't see her at first, but when he looked up ... there she was. She had been nearby, watching the whole time. Justus looked into her eyes. Danna squealed with joy, grabbed Justus in a fierce hug and twirled him around the room, laughing and yelling, "Good job! You did it! You walked, honey!" My husband and I joined in the celebration, clapping and cheering along with our daughter. Justus decided that his accomplishment must be worthy of praise and he began to clap as well. In fact, he was so excited that he fell to the floor, kicking, laughing and clapping. It was both hilarious and profound.
Have you ever felt like you have taken the step God wanted you to take only to find yourself dangling in thin air with no safety net in sight? I have. I don't like it. I want to know what is just ahead and see what is around the next corner of life. It frightens me to take risks. I wonder if God will really be there and come through for me the way He says He will in the Bible. Can I really do what God is asking me to do? Will He be pleased by my seemingly insignificant step of faith? And what happens if I fall? Falling is painful and something I try to avoid whenever possible.
I have great news for you, girlfriend! God is near. His eyes are set on you and His heart delights in your very existence as His daughter. If you listen carefully, you just might hear Him applauding that one tiny step of faith you were willing to take as you walked straight through your fear. God is fully aware of where you are and what you need. Heaven is not in a panic. And when you fall, you can rest assured your Father will be there to hold you in His arms of love and strengthen you for every step of your journey.
Let's Pray
Lord Jesus, I want to see and know You as the loving and caring Father that You are. Thank You for Your faithfulness in my life. I praise You for Your unconditional love that gives me hope when life looks hopeless. Thank You for never leaving me to live in my own strength. Today, I celebrate the truth that I am Your child and when I fall, You will be there.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What step of faith do you need to take today? Create an acrostic using the word, trust. For example:
T tearing down walls of fear and doubt
R remembering God is able
U using His strength
S stepping out in faith
T trusting Him
Email your acrostic to me or post it on my Facebook page as an encouragement to others.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help finding God's plan for your life? Check out Mary's new E-Book Bible Study, It's Never Too Late to Be Great. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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When You Feel Like the Caboose
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"...when I am weak, then I am strong," (2 Corinthians 12:10 NIV).
Friend to Friend
My hands were clammy. Beads of sweat formed on my brow. A familiar knot in the pit of my stomach threatened to push me toward the restroom, and my dry tongue began cleave to the roof of my mouth. It was 10:25 a.m. In just five more minutes the dreaded event would begin.
When I was in the first grade, the one academic exercise I feared more than any other was the spelling train. It was sheer torture—at least for me.
"Okay, students," Mrs. March would say. "Everyone pick up your chairs and move them over to the chalk board. It's time for the spelling train."
Twenty first graders slipped their munchkin-sized chairs from their desks to form a semi-circle around our chief engineer. I always put mine at the end.
"Now remember the rules," she explained. "I am going to hold up a flash card. If you read the word correctly, you get to go to the front of the train. If you miss it, you have to go to the caboose."
She held up the cards one by one, and the class chugged along at a quick pace. Dog. Sally. Bob. Spot. Red. Blue. Mother. Stop. Run. Then it was my turn.
"Sharon, what is this word?"
Pause. Giggles.
Well, more often than not I had no idea. And when that happened, I would either guess wrong or sit in silence. I spent most of my time in the first grade spelling train in the caboose.
As the year progressed, I did move up into the passenger cars a few times, but usually I didn't stay there long enough to keep the seat warm. There was one particular word that kept me from ever visiting the engine: T-h-e. So Mrs. March decided she was going to help me. For two weeks, she made me wear a name tag that read "THE" plastered on my chest like the scarlet letter. I can still remember kids coming up to me on the playground, pointing at THE on my chest, and saying, "Hey, what's that? Why are you wearing that? Is your name The? Are you stupid?"
Eventually I did learn how to spell the word t-h-e, but that's not all I learned. I learned that I was stupid; not as smart as everybody else; and just not good enough. But you know what? That wasn't true. Those were lies from the enemy. And it took many years for God to hold me by the hand and help me see myself as He sees me: a uniquely created, dearly loved, completely forgiven, and totally accepted child of God who is capable of doing everything He has called me to do by the power of the Holy Spirit.
That was more than forty years ago, and now I have found joy in stringing written words together. I've noticed that life has many unusual twists and turns when God is at the helm. He takes our greatest weaknesses and turns them into our grandest strengths. That's what happens when we turn our lives over to Him—we get out of the caboose and get to ride up with the chief engineer to places we never imagined possible. When we are weak, then He is strong.
Where are you in the train of life right now? If you're hiding in the back, listen closely and you just might hear God calling you up front where you belong.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, it's amazing to think of all You have done in my life. You have taken my greatest weaknesses and turned them into my greatest strengths. When I am weak, through the power of the Holy Spirit I am strong. Thank You for working in me and through me. And help me never to believe the lies of the enemy that say I'm not enough again. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you ever feel like you are in life's caboose? Always at the back? f so, click over to my free living life resources and read the list of Your New Identity in Christ.
Now pick three of those and tell me which ones mean the most to you on my blog page.
For extra encouragement on seeing yourself as God sees you, read 2 Corinthians 11:1–12:10.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
And if you're struggling with feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy, check out my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful to learn how I overcame those inhibiting emotions in my own life.
:angel:
June 19, 2013
How to Get Past Your Past
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead (Philippians 3:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When some of us think of the past, we remember the good old days when everything was better, simpler, cheaper and easier. Some people would like to erase their past while others long to revisit it. I believe memory is one of God's best gifts to us. Someone once said, "Memory can be a wonderful treasure chest for those who know how to pack it."
If we want victory today and hope for tomorrow, we must learn how to deal with our past, because it is unchangeable. While we cannot go back and change our past, we can change our response to our past.
When our daughter, Danna, was a little girl, she was very much like me in many ways, particularly in her approach to morning. We both hated it! And that has not changed! I was always coming up with some way to lure her out of bed each morning. It was not an easy task. One of my staple temptations was Peanut Butter Captain Crunch Cereal. It was her favorite.
One morning, Danna was moving very slowly and my patience was quickly growing thin. In my most cheerful voice, I called, "Danna, it's time to eat." I poured the cereal into her favorite bowl and was adding the milk when I heard her call from her bedroom, "Mom, don't pour the milk yet." Too late! Maybe she wouldn't notice.
A minute later, Danna bounced into the kitchen, a smile on her face. She took one look at the cereal, turned around, and announced, "I cannot eat that!" With as much calm as I could muster, I asked, "What is wrong with this cereal?" Danna slowly turned and slowly said, "Mama, when you pour the milk too early, Captain Cwunch gets soggy. And you can't get the cwunch back!"
The past is much the same. We cannot change it - no matter how hard we try to bury, ignore or wish it away. We are left with a choice to make. We can either allow the past to defeat us, or we can learn how to harness it and use it for good in our lives today. How? For the answer to that question, let's take a look at one of my favorite people in the Bible - David.
David was a man with quite a past. David was the golden boy. He was a shepherd boy, a giant killer and a general and a king. He was also a singer, a poet and author, a husband and father, and a very religious man. David was special to God.
At first glance, David doesn't sound like a man who could be guilty of adultery, murder, hypocrisy, or lust ... and the ugly list goes on. A man who is special to God would more likely be described as proper, cautious, discreet and very godly.
David first spotted Bathsheba while she was taking a bath on the roof of her home. David forgot who he was and whose he was ... and slept with Bathsheba. It gets worse. He sent her husband to the front lines where David knew he would be killed, and then David moved in with Bathsheba. They had kids and pretended that everything was wonderful. Inside, David was dying.
David lost weight, groaned in pain and was always exhausted (Psalm 32). Then God told on him. Everyone found out what David had done, and his life fell apart. David's people no longer trusted him. One child died. His son turned against him, pushed him off the throne and took over. Then this son, Absalom, was killed ... and David was done. He cried out to God in total repentance, "Lord, I have sinned." David then confessed his sin to everyone involved and turned away from that sin.
God forgave him, his health returned, and David was given back his throne. While David lost some things forever, restoration came to his life, and after all of this, God says David "is a man after my own heart."
Frankly, the first time I read the story of David, I was amazed. After all David had done, how could he find favor with God?
God is drawn to broken people. God always works best through broken people. He entrusts His deepest truths to the most wounded and desperate people as those truths fall through the broken places, finding a place to rest and grow.
A Bible teacher was teaching through the book of Deuteronomy when she came to Deuteronomy 6:6 "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts." One student asked, "Why does this verse tell us to put God's promises "upon" our hearts instead of "in" our hearts?" The wise teacher responded, "It is not within our own power to place God's truth in our hearts. We must simply place that truth on our heart until it is broken. Then the truths can fall through the broken places, take root and grow."
The desire of God's heart is never condemnation. It is always restoration. David learned how to get past his past. So can we.
Let's Pray
Father, I now surrender my past to You. Please heal the broken places and bring restoration to my life. I now lay down the sin I have cherished for so long and accept Your forgiveness. Help me harness the power of my past to live for You.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Ask God to show you anything in your past that has become a foothold of darkness in your life today. Face it. Deal with it, and let it go.
Read Romans 8:28 What good things has God brought out of the pain in your past? Is your faith stronger? Have you been able to encourage others who have experienced that same pain? I would love to hear your story. E-mail me or connect with me on Facebook.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help dealing with your past? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, How to Get Past Your Past. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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June 20, 2013
If Today Was Your Last Day
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"I will sing to the Lord all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live," (Psalm 104:33 NIV).
Friend to Friend
What would you do today if you knew you only had a few months to live?
When I was newly married, I attended a social club meeting of women whose husbands shared the same profession. There was nothing wrong with the gathering. The food was good. Smiles were warm. Conversations were light. But I walked away feeling as though I'd wasted a precious gift—a morning of my life.
The next month I opted not to attend. Instead, I went to a nursery to pick out some flowers to plant in my garden. While musing among the impatiens and begonias, I spotted Carol, a woman whose husband was also in the same profession as mine. Two little girls followed after her as she carefully chose blue, pink, and yellow perennials that would bloom year after year. Carol had cancer and had been given only a few months to live.
Suddenly God spoke to my heart. Sharon, if you knew you had only a few months to live, would you be at the social club meeting or buying flowers with your children? How would you spend your day?
It was a poignant moment as I was reminded of the brevity of life. We never know how much or how little time we have on this earth. I resolved at that moment to spend each day as if it were my last - to make each day count.
Even today I think of the flowers still blooming in Carol's yard year after year. My hope and prayer is that the seeds I plant along life's journey will continue to bloom years after I'm gone.
So let's go back to my original question: What would you do today if you knew you only had a few months to live?
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the gift of this day. Help me to live today and every day as if it could be my last. Help me to make each moment count.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I wonder how you answered that question. I'm still pondering it myself.
Is there anything that you have longed to do but have been putting off? Writing a friend a letter? Planting a rose garden? Calling an elderly relative? Sharing the gospel with someone? Taking a Bible class.
Click over to my blog page and tell me in one word what this devotion stirred in your heart.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
:angel:
June 21, 2013
A Soul Poured Out
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"I am a woman who is deeply troubled...I was pouring out my soul to the LORD."
(1 Samuel 1:15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Old Testament book of Samuel introduces us to Hannah: a godly woman who had some serious problems. Her problems weren't brief and they weren't simple. They were year after year problems. Challenges that made her feel empty and frustrated. Have you got a few of those in your life? Sure you do. We all do. Each of us go through trials and face pain.
Hannah experienced infertility and she also had a disturbing rival-wife problem that was miserably complicated. Yes, cringe with me, I said rival-wife. She was one of two wives to her husband... a cultural norm at the time... but terribly difficult no matter how you slice it. (Read 1 Samuel 1-2 for the full story of Hannah.) Refreshingly enough, in her pain Hannah didn't pretend to be okay. She openly admitted, "I am a woman who is deeply troubled" (1 Samuel 1:15).
There are many lessons we can learn from Hannah, but today I'd like us to look at her response to the problems that burdened her heart. Hanna took her problems to God. She cried out to the Lord. "In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the LORD." (1 Samuel 1:10). She took her burdens directly to God.
Now, I don't know about you, but all too many times I go to the phone before I go to the throne! Who do you cry to when you are deeply troubled? Do you pour out your soul to the LORD, or just pepper Him with vague prayer requests? Hannah didn't just briefly bend a knee here, she poured out her soul! She poured out her sorrow, her disappointments, her frustrations, her depression, her confusion, her anger, her embarrassments, her anguish and her grief.
She poured out her emptiness!
And guess what happened? God filled her with the fullness of His peace! Before she spent time with the Lord, Hannah had lost her appetite and was filled with despair. After she poured out her soul to God, the Bible shows us that her appetite returned and her countenance had changed. "Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast" (1 Samuel 1:18, emphasis mine). Hannah was "no longer downcast" because she experienced the One and Only life-changing God in the chamber of His presence.
God is faithful. He longs to fill our souls with peace regardless of the circumstances we face. Hannah was changed in the presence of the almighty LORD, but realize this: Hannah didn't just do a "drive thru" prayer time with God. She parked there for a while and did some serious business with Him.
Have you done any serious business with God lately?
Got any problems?
Are you dealing with any difficult people?
Are you faced with any seemingly impossible situations?
"Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens" (Psalm 68:19). When you get serious with God...when you get real honest and pour out your soul to Him, He will faithfully replace your empty with the fullness of His peace, whether he removes your burdens or allows them to remain.
Don't doubt it for a minute, friend.
Jesus himself said, "All things are possible with God" (Mark 10:27). Let's each take courage and approach God with confidence today, knowing that He loves us and is able to do exceedingly and abundantly beyond what we can ask for or imagine. Spend some time pouring out your soul to Him right now.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I come to You today and humbly ask Your forgiveness for all of the times that I've taken my burdens to others instead of bringing them to You. Help me to turn to You first when problems come my way. Please blanket my heart with your peace and give me strength for today.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pause to reflect on the challenges you are currently facing. Make a list of the top concerns on your heart, and then spend time pouring your soul out to the Lord.
Read Psalm 34, then write out your favorite verses and commit them to memory.
Swing by my blog to share a prayer need, a verse that leapt to your heart or to simply state, "I poured my soul out to Him!"
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I know that many of you are in the trenches of seemingly impossible situations, bearing the weight of very heavy burdens. God cares about your struggles. Jesus said, "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). Spend some time quieting your soul beside the Living waters of Jesus today. Turn up your speakers and CLICK HERE to hear my new song "Quiet Me."
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be transformed into a picture of God's beauty, get a copy of Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit: www.gwensmith.net.
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June 24, 2013
May She Rest in Peace
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
You, Lord, give true peace. You give peace to those who depend on you. You give peace to those who trust you. So, trust the Lord always. Trust the Lord because he is our Rock forever (Isaiah 26:3-4, ICB).
Friend to Friend
We often associate the phrase "rest in peace" with death and the loss of a loved one. In fact, these words of comfort are often spoken at some point in most funerals I attend or are included in the inscription on many headstones.
Today, I want us to associate the words "rest in peace" with life instead of death.
Yes, God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sin so that we can rest in peace when we die, but God also gave His one and only Son so that we can rest in peace every minute of every day. Does that sound like your life? Are you quick to trust God instead of worry? Would the people who know you best describe you as a peaceful person? As I ask myself that question, the words "not so much" come to mind.
The Mayo Clinic once stated that the illnesses in 80 to 85% of their caseload were caused by stress. An article in a leading medical journal entitled "Is Stress the Cause of All Disease?" said that until the beginning of the century, bacteria were the leading cause of illness. Not anymore. Stress is.
We all long for an inner calm, especially in the valleys of life. We all want, pray for and pursue peace. At the point of desperation, some people pursue peace by numbing their pain with alcohol, drugs, sex ... food ... success ... the list is endless. Remember the old country song that says we look for love in all the wrong places and on the wrong faces? The same can be said about peace.
Some people tend to believe that peace is simply the absence of problems, valleys and trials. Not so! Peace is a calm confidence that the Lord of the mountains is still on the throne - no matter how deep the valley may be. Peace recognizes Jesus walking on the water as He calms the crashing waves and stills the howling winds in your life. Trials become opportunities to trust God when peace reigns in a heart. That kind of peace can only be found in God.
Notice that I did not say we find peace in church membership, in doing good things, in giving large sums of money to a charity or ministry, or even in being a really good person. Peace is a gift. When we enter into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we enter into true peace.
Romans 5:1 (NCV) "Since we have been made right with God by our faith, we have peace with God. This happened through our Lord Jesus Christ."
We cannot bargain for or earn peace, girlfriend, but we will experience peace when we are willing to move away from our sin and turn to the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ. Then, and only then, will we find rest in Him. Do you long for just one minute of peace? Don't settle. God offers a lifetime of peace if we are willing to trust Him.
I know the list of trials and storms is long. I honestly do not know how some people get out of bed each morning to face the trials and hard times in their life. I understand that the problems we deal with every single day can weigh us down; but I also know that every problem can be given to God. When we surrender the weight of our trials and pain to Him, we will experience peace. As we allow God to carry the weight of our worry, the burden of our anxiety and the penalty of every sin in our life, peace will reign and leave no room for the deadly trap of stress. Today, girlfriend, I pray that you will trust God and rest in Peace.
Let's Pray
Father, this valley seems so deep and so dark but by faith, I choose to trust You as my Shepherd. I am so tired, Father. Please carry me. I cannot see what is ahead. Will You guide me? I am discouraged and ready to quit. Will You be my strength? I love You and want to please You with my life. Empower me to be all You created me to be.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Memorize Hebrews 13:6 and ask the Holy Spirit to let the truths of this verse sink into every corner of your heart and soul:
Hebrews 13:6 (NIV) "So we can say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?"
As you spend time with God today, read and affirm the following commitment in your heart and life:
I recognize God as the only source of true peace.
I now completely surrender my valley to God.
I confess any known sin and turn from it.
I choose to rest in Him.
Let's go a little deeper today.Complete the statements below as you make a new commitment to God. Record it in your journal. Date it and sign it. When the next trial comes – and it will come – go back and read the decision you made today, and while your circumstances may have changed, God is the same.
I have tried to find peace in_____________________________.
The valley I am facing today is __________________________.
Until today, my response to this valley has been to _________________________.
I now turn it all over to God and choose to rest in Him, the Shepherd of my every valley.
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June 25, 2013
When You Can't Breathe, Buddy Breathe
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"All Scripture is God-breathed," (2 Timothy 3:16 NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Let's go scuba diving!" a friend exclaimed one hot summer day.
"That sounds great," I said. "But I don't know how."
"Just leave it to me," he said.
I was 17 when I decided to go scuba diving with some friends. I had no training and should not have been in deep water, but I was young and threw caution to the wind. The friend who took me below the surface of the deep strapped an oxygen tank on his back, a mask on his face, and flippers on his feet. I only had a mask and flippers.
"Where's my oxygen?" I asked.
"I have it," he answered as he patted the tank on his back. "What we're going to do is jump into the water. I'm going to take a breath through the mouthpiece and then pass it to you. You'll take a breath and pass it back to me. It's called buddy breathing."
So into the ocean we jumped. He put his arm around my waist like I was a sack of potatoes and down we went. John drew oxygen from the tank and then passed the breathing apparatus to me. We took turns breathing. It then occurred to me that I was totally dependent on this young friend to keep me alive.
This was not a very smart idea, but it did leave me with a great life lesson. At various times we will all find ourselves in deep waters. We may feel as though we are drowning with no help in sight. And then a friend comes along and hands us the breathing apparatus. We take a breath and rise quickly to the surface.
Words of my friends have been like oxygen when I feel as though I'm drowning. Even today I have a mental scrapbook of encouraging words passed along to me in the ocean of despair. God has sent friends my way who have strapped on the Word of God and passed the life-giving words to me when I've needed them most.
Buddy breathing. That's what we can do for each other when a friend forgets how to draw in the air she needs. That's what God does for us each time we open the pages of His Word and listen to Him. That's what we long to do here at Girlfriends in God.
Today, inhale a deep breath of God's love. Go ahead. Do it right now. Feel His love fill your lungs. Ah. Now that feels good.
Can I just say right now that I am thankful for you? I am thankful that you have allowed us to come into your life for just a moment, to breathe God's word into your life. You, my friend, have breathed life into ours.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for friends who breathe life into me when I feel as though I can't go on. Show me someone who needs a tender touch, a winning word, or a strong shoulder to lean on today. And, Lord, thank You for being that friend for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 2 Timothy 3:1-17 to put today's truth in context.
Think of one friend who has breathed life into you when you felt like you were drowning.
Now click over to my blog page and tell me her name. I am going to randomly pick 3 names and send them a free copy of this month's featured book, Listening to God Day-by-Day.
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Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
And if you want to learn more about how to use your words to speak life into those around you - how to encourage and not discourage - see my book The Power of a Woman's Words.
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June 26, 2013
No Time for Rest
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul... (Psalm 23:1-3, NIV)
Friend to friend
For most of my adult life, I have wrongly equated being busy with being productive. I am guilty as charged when it comes to living each day in overdrive. My Day Timer has, at times, been my Bible. The result has always, always been exhaustion, burnout and watered down living. Everything looked great on the outside, but when I was alone, just God and me, we both knew that the façade I had so carefully erected was a spiritual monument to self promotion and pride-filled goals. The house built upon the sand seemed like very familiar digs - and I was not alone.
We are all masters of rationalizing our way to approval. The problem is that the approval we gain comes from impotent and lifeless sources. I am convinced that if we are willing to surrender our lives to the tyranny of the urgent, the enemy will keep them coming – people who need you immediately, those who clamor for your attention above your family and personal relationship with God, the person who can talk to no one but you, and the list goes on. What ego strokes they offer! And what futility.
I have always loved music and began taking piano lessons at the age of five. I will never forget that first piano lesson with Mrs. McKenzie, a very sweet elderly woman who played the piano beautifully. Her hair was slightly blue, her house smelled like lemon drops, and she had clocks that chimed and rang every fifteen minutes. I was so excited and so ready to play the piano like my sister who played for our church worship services. Betty was amazing and I was desperately hoping that same musical ability ran in our family.
"Let's get started," Mrs. McKenzie said. I climbed up on the piano bench, waiting for her brilliant instruction to begin. She placed a bright, red piano book in front of me and invited me to open it to the first page. I was disappointed to see only little, black pictures.
Where was the music?
Where were the songs?
Mrs. McKenzie smiled as she patiently began to explain the musical symbols pictured in the book before me. I soon grew restless. "What's the matter?" she asked. "I want to play the piano, please," I sweetly responded. With a knowing smile, she said, "We'll get to that." I wasn't happy.
On and on – for what seemed like hours, Mrs. McKenzie pointed to funny-shaped black symbols, named them and explained their meaning. I was not impressed. I just wanted to get my hands on that keyboard.
Sensing my impatience, Mrs. McKenzie pointed to one of the symbols on the page before me and said, "Mary, this small, black box is called a 'rest' and is one of the most important symbols in music." I simply didn't care. It did nothing but sit on a page in useless and unproductive silence. I wanted music.
"Do you know why rests are so important in music?" she persisted. Obviously, I had no clue. She then said something I remember to this day, "The music that comes after the rest is the most beautiful music of all." At the time, I didn't understand the deeper meaning of those words, but life and time have illustrated their importance and their truth.
The best part of life comes after we rest in God. The most beautiful service follows time at His feet. Rest is a powerful part of our life song. Just as the rest in music prepares the listener for what comes next, time spent in rest is an invaluable time of preparation and restoration. Yet, we often buy the enemy's lie that to rest is a waste. The psalmist disagrees when he writes, "He makes me to lie down in green pastures...He restores my soul..." (Psalm 23:2-3) Understand that if we refuse to rest, the Father will "make" us rest. The good news is that time spent in rest is the prelude of God's restoration.
For years, I lived by the principle that busy people are productive people. It was only after I crashed and burned that I learned the eternal value of rest and stillness. This pivotal life lesson is stated in the simple words of a shepherd: Psalm 23:2 "He leads me beside quiet waters." The psalmist writes this soothing promise from the perspective of a shepherd tending his flock of sheep.
A good shepherd understands the truth that sheep are never fully at ease around rushing water because every sheep innately knows that the weight of their wool – when wet – will drown them. A wise shepherd understands that he must lead his sheep beside still waters, to a place of rest. The sheep only has to follow.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, help me to accept and understand the fact that You created me with a need for rest. Help me to be obedient and not feel guilty when I do rest. I want to do what You want me to do, Father. I want to do Your will and follow the plan You have for me. I accept the physical limitations of my body and choose to honor You with it by setting aside time to rest.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Choose a time and place where you can rest.
Give yourself permission to rest, remembering that the choice to rest is a choice to obey God.
Read Psalm 23 every day and journal the benefits of rest in your life.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, How to Find Your Missing Peace. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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June 27, 2013
Potluck Heaven
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus," (Galatians 3:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I recall as a young child time spent rocking on my grandma's front porch and listening to the ladies from the missions society gossip about the heathens whose church was across the street from theirs. It always puzzled me because the heathens seemed like such nice people and their church looked just like Grandma's. As far as I could tell, there was no difference. Both believed in Jesus, wore funny hats on Sundays, and sang the same hymns. And both had great potluck dinners.
How did the church come up with the notion of the infamous potluck supper? As best I can tell, it all began in the fifteenth chapter of Matthew. The first gathering was a great success as Jesus served more than 4000 men, not to mention a few thousand women and children, and had leftovers to boot. All this came from one little covered dish. Actually, it was a covered basket. This was, after all, before the advent of Corning ware.
Later, the Baptists followed His lead, and the next thing you know, all denominations were celebrating a multiplicity of occasions with every variety of casserole known to man. But the twenty-first-century church isn't being caught simply serving up fish-and-chips. We have taken the notion of breaking bread and run with it. Not only do we break bread, but we crunch fried chicken, munch fresh veggies, scoop casseroles, slice pies, cut cakes, and sip coffees. We chew the fat while chewing our food and extend the right hand of fellowship while our left hand extends the serving spoon. I'd say that covered-dish dinners are one of the most cherished rituals in the church today.
One Christmas our Sunday school had a potluck dinner at the McMillians' home. Our class consisted of 150 people in a church of 1600. Because it's a little difficult to be intimate with 150 congregants on a Sunday morning, the Christmas party was a great time to chat with people you didn't normally have a chance to speak to otherwise. And because people tend to sit in the same seats each week, I'd never actually had a good look at about half of the class. The Christmas party was designed to remedy that problem.
Marshall and Denise's home was beautifully decorated with holly, spruce, and magnolia clippings. It was filled with the sights, sounds, and smells of the season as well as the incoming aroma of the many delicious prepared meals. In an effort to provide crowd control and proper traffic flow, our host, Marshall, had posted directional signs around the house. One sign read "COATS," with an arrow pointing up the stairs to their daughter's room. Another read "HOT FOOD," with an arrow pointing toward the kitchen.
Marshall was doing a great job at his post as official greeter and traffic police.
"Hello, how are you?" he said, greeting two ladies and one man as they made their way up the front steps with dishes in hand. "You can take your food into the kitchen and then follow the arrows up the stairs to the coat room."
The obedient threesome followed directions well and then headed to the name tag table. But something didn't seem quite right.
"Marshall," I said, "who are those people? I don't recognize them."
"I don't recognize them either, Sharon. But our class is so big. Maybe they sit on the other side of the room and we just haven't noticed them before."
They looked as though they could have been one of us. They seemed to know the drill. But something still felt strange.
"Just the same, go find out who they are," I urged.
Marshall approached the trio, who were now looking a little bewildered themselves. "Excuse me. Youare here for the Sunday school Christmas party, aren't you?"
"Yes," they answered. However, their yes sounded more like a question than an answer. Then they asked, "This is the Sunday school class for First Baptist Church, isn't it?"
"No, ma'am," Marshall answered. "This is the party for a different church. You folks are at the wrong place."
Quickly the three embarrassed Baptists reclaimed their food, once again followed the arrows to the coat room, and hightailed it out of the McMillians' house to another Sunday school covered-dish gathering a few doors down.
Won't heaven be an interesting place? One big, perpetual, brightly-lit celebration of new birth. No covered dish required because God will sit us down at His banqueting table which He has prepared for us. One great thing about this party will be that when the Methodists stumble into a room full of Presbyterians, no one will feel out of place. The Episcopalians will be chewing the fat with the Primitive Baptists, the Assemblies of God will be singing with the Lutherans, and the Church of God folks will be dancing with the Congregationalists.
And when each new saint arrives, we'll hear, "Welcome! Come on in. Take your coat off and stay a while—an eternity, for that matter. You're definitely in the right place."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, forgive us for how we have separated ourselves as believers. Help us to see each brother and sister in Christ as dearly loved children of God.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Isn't heaven going to be fun? I can hardly wait!
Wikipedia tells me that there are around 41,000 different Christian (or so-called Christian) denominations. That's a lot. Oh my.
Did you know that one of the pillars of Girlfriends in God is to cross generational, racial, and denominational boundaries to join the Body of Christ together as believers?
Today, I want to encourage you to memorize today's truth. It is important.
And while you're at it, here's another one that is from my heart to yours: 1 Corinthians 2:2. Click over to my blog post and tell me what that means to you as a Christian. www.sharonjaynes.com.
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Do you love a good story? I do! Stories tug at the heart and open the eyes to the truths of Scripture in a way only God can do. I have complied 100 of my favorite stories and devotions into one book titled, Listening to God Day-by-Day. It is the perfect book for a quick pick-me-up before you start your busy day or a sweet dreams closure before you turn off the bedside lamp at night. And here's some good news, this book is specially priced for the month of June. Get one for yourself, and we'll include another free for you to share. It won't show up on your receipt, but we'll make sure it is included in your package.
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June 28, 2013
Do You Remember Me?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.(Isaiah 49:15-16, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I'll be the first to admit that I am a woman who is easily distracted. More times than I care to even discuss. Sigh. I would love to say that the detail-oriented-woman in me rocks my days, but that's not always the case. One crazy day, a few years back, the absent-minded-scatter-brain in me dominated big time. Here's what happened...
After I dropped my kids off at school, I swung into the local gas station and ran inside to prepay. I handed the cashier forty dollars in cash and headed out the door to pump my gas. As I left the mini-mart, I held the door for the woman behind me. As she passed in front of me, we recognized each other. She is the secretary for a local church where I had ministered in the past. We chatted for a few minutes and then each went to our cars and went about our days.
My next stop? The coffee shop.
I grabbed a piping hot dark roast, added a happy little splash of half and half, and settled down with my Bible and journal for some one-on-One time with the Lord. In the hour and a half that followed, I read, prayed, and chatted with a few friends that came through. It was a very peaceful, pleasant morning... until a horrible realization hit me full force: I never pumped my forty dollars worth of gasoline!
Oh. My. Glory.
I had pulled up to the gas pump, paid the cashier, and then drove away!! And, to answer the question you're surely asking, "no...I didn't even have a receipt to prove that I had paid." This was not good. The detail-oriented-woman in me hid as the distracted-absent-minded-woman in me snickered.
A cold panic washed over my heart. I felt awful. My husband and I run our household with on a cash budget. We try our best to be good stewards of our money. To make wise financial decisions. This was a possible forty-dollar blunder!!
In a flash I was out the door and on my way back to the gas station. I felt like such a ding-dong! I prayed the whole way there, "Please Lord, let the same cashier still be working. Please let her remember me!" I screeched into the parking lot on two wheels, ran inside, and blurted out, "Do you remember me?" The cashier turned to me with a smile and a receipt in her hand and said, "I know exactly who you are! You are paid in full. Go ahead and fill up!" I thanked her and breathed a big sigh of relief.
As I pumped my gasoline, the panic faded to peace. In that moment, the Lord spoke to my heart as if to say, "My sweet daughter, so many times you pull up a chair to spend time with me and fill up your soul on my daily bread, only to be distracted and leave empty. Rest assured, each time you return to my heart and to my Word, my response is the same to you: "I know exactly who you are! You are paid in full. Go ahead and fill up!"
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Who am I, that You are mindful of me? Thank You for always remembering me, for engraving my name on the palms of your hands. Would you please be my portion today?
Now It's Your Turn
Is there a place of panic in your heart that needs to be handed to the Prince of Peace? Pause to pray about it now.
God knows everything about you and His love is inescapable. Read all about it in Psalm 139. Write down the verse that moves your heart the most today. Commit it to memory and share it with a few friends today!
Got a story about a time when your panic faded to peace? Got a prayer need? Join me on my blog pageor my Facebook page to take the conversation deeper.
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So many times we feel like failures because we don't have a consistent quiet time with God. If this is you, don't be discouraged. Romans 8:1, reminds us that there is no condemnation in Christ. Yes, God wants your attention...but not to scold you...He wants to hold you. You can trust Him.
We really need to learn to trust God, and that can sometimes be hard. Need help? Order a copy of our GiG book, Trusting God, A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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July 1, 2013
He Took My Place
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever (Psalm 106:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It seems like so many people are in pain, facing trials that seem impossible to handle. I hear from them every day.
The biopsy was malignant. A woman discovers that her husband is having an affair. Lonely but committed soldiers covered in the dust of battle patrol foreign borders, fighting for our freedom while their families back home long for word of their safety. The homeless make their way to the nearest soup kitchen, hoping for a warm meal and a smiling face. An empty place at the dinner table is a painful reminder of the loved one lost not long ago. A worried husband and dad sits at the head of the table, wondering how he is going to tell his family that he just lost his job. The list of wounded hearts and unmet needs is endless.
We convince ourselves that life will be better when we have more money, when we find the right mate, when we get the kids raised, or when we build the right house. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we get that promotion, when we are able to go on our dream vacation, or when we retire. We keep trying to find joy, contentment and peace in lifeless places and things.
Jesus Christ is life. He is Joy and Love and He took our place on the cross. That's why we can give thanks when it seems as if there is nothing for which to be thankful.
One day, a man went to visit a church. He arrived early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up near him, and the driver said, "I always park there. You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday school, found an empty seat, and sat down. A young lady from the church approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing.
After Sunday school, the visitor went into the church sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit. You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still said nothing.
Later, as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on his hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, "I took your place."
Yes, we live in a broken world and life is filled with pain, challenges, dark times and trials, but today can still be a day of thanksgiving and praise because praise and thanksgiving have little to do with our circumstances and everything to do with our inner attitude toward God. It really doesn't matter how much we lose here, girlfriend. I have read the Book and we win ... for all of eternity! We just need to take the time to remember ... and give thanks.
Let's Pray
Father, we come to You today, praising You for meeting our needs in ways that we may or may not understand at the time. Looking back, we see Your hand of mercy and love. We recognize Your presence and your power and we celebrate You ...we celebrate life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time for an attitude check. Examine your heart for any traces of discontentment. Change your focus to the good things God has done in and through you. Praise Him for each blessing and celebrate His goodness.
Read and memorize 1 Thessalonians 5:18 that says, "Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." Record this verse in your journal. Circle the word "all" and think about what that means in your life. Make a new commitment to develop an attitude of gratitude that is based on the presence and power of God in your life.
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, How to Find Your Missing Peace. And be sure to check out Mary's NEW weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle, beginning July 8. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons.
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July 2, 2013
The Danger of Pointing Fingers
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" (Matthew 7:3-4 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I couldn't believe it. The announcement of one of the most important days of my life...my dream come true...and there was a misprint! A horrible misprint. My husband and I were married in a small eastern North Carolina town on a beautiful August afternoon. There's not a lot going on in Rocky Mount, so weddings and funerals receive full coverage. My wedding picture, in all its bridal glory, was a 4 x 5 crisp black-and-white photo displayed in the local section of the paper. Under my smiling face read the caption: Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes.
I was mortified! My mother-in-law did not have a lapse in judgment when Steve was born. She did not name him Hush. His middle name is Hugh. Oh my goodness. What were those people thinking? How could they be so careless? Didn't they realize I would cut that picture out and place it in my wedding album for all eternity? Didn't they understand the teasing that would surely follow that misprint? Didn't they understand how important this was? Hush! I was furious.
My only hope was that the even smaller town where I was actually born would also run the wedding announcement. They did. A few days after discovering the "Hush" dilemma, the tiny newspaper from Spring Hope, North Carolina, arrived. I unfolded the page and there, as big as day, was my wedding picture. This one was 5 x 7. And underneath it read...Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes. Oh my glory! Now I was crying.
On the same day I received the newspaper from my husband's hometown of more than 500,000 people. Underneath my itty-bitty wedding picture were the words...you guessed it...Mrs. Steven Hush Jaynes!
Suddenly the truth began to sink in. This was not the error of inept newspapers. It was my fault. When I print, I'm a bit sloppy, and my g seldom closes, looking like an s. I guess it looks a lot like an s. So now it was time for me to hush.
Have you ever been in a situation where you were blaming someone for a mishap and suddenly realized you were the one at fault? Jesus said it this way, "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" (Matthew 7:3-4).
I have since learned that when you point a finger at someone, there are at least three other fingers pointing back at yourself. The best way to avoid that is not to point the finger at someone in the first place.
Jesus went on to say, "First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye" (Matthew 7:5). I don't know about you, but I have plenty of sawdust in my own life to keep me busy.
I still put the newspaper announcements in our wedding album. It is a great reminder of two truths. Number one: August 16, 1980, was one of the happiest days of my life. Number two:
When I start casting blame or pointing fingers, I need to take a good look in the mirror and hush.
How are you in the finger-pointing department? Here's an idea. When feeling the urge to point a finger and place blame on someone, fold your hands together and pray instead. What God reveals might be surprising.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes I am too quick to blame someone else for my mistakes. Help me to always examine my own heart and let You take care of the rest. Thank You for the embarrassing reminders that I am a work in progress and You are not finished with me yet. In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Matthew 7:1-6 to put today's truth into context.
Think of a time when you blamed someone for something and then discovered you were the one to blame?
Ask God to reveal any specks, splinters, or "ginormous" planks in your own eye that you might be overlooking.
I have so many crazy stories, someone asked me if they were all true. Yep. They are. If you want a good laugh, click over to my blog page and see my wedding picture. Mrs. Hush Jaynes in all her glory.
More from the Girlfriends
If you want to learn more about how to use your words to speak life into those around you, how to encourage and not discourage, see my book The Power of a Woman's Words.There is also an accompanying Bible study guide and DVD which is perfect for your next women's Bible study group.
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July 3, 2013
In His Steps
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be careful what you do, and always do what is right (Proverbs 4:26, NCV).
Friend To Friend
When Dan and I first married, I knew almost nothing about football. In fact, I would often ask, "Honey, who has the ball now?" He was so patient, answering every question without bursting into laughter. Dan's favorite team was the Dallas Cowboys and his favorite player was Emmitt Smith, their star running back at the time.
During one particular game, Emmitt was playing on grass instead of the artificial turf he preferred. The grass was wet, and Emmett was not playing his best game, falling down two plays out of three. Frustrated with his performance, Emmett took himself out of the game to change cleats. It didn't help. In fact, it took three cleat changes before he found the ones that gave him the best footing. He then went on to play a phenomenal game and lead his team to victory.
Obedience puts us on solid ground. God is not asking us for a season of obedience. He wants a lifestyle of obedience.
Will Rogers once said, "Live your life in such a way, that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip." In Proverbs 3:6-7 (NCV) Solomon wrote, "Remember the Lord in all you do, and He will give you success. Don't depend on your own wisdom. Respect the LORD and refuse to do wrong." Obedience is remembering and choosing God in everything we do, choosing to walk in His steps and following the path He has set for us.
We are to live like citizens of a future world, guarding each step to make sure it matches the step of God. Not out of fear but out of love. Not because man observes and keeps score, but because God watches and we want to please Him. "Obey God because you are his children. Don't slip back into your old ways of doing evil; you didn't know any better then." (Peter 1:14, NLT). We cannot come to Christ and continue to respond to the world in the same way. Our behavior will change along with our perspective, our standards, our motives – everything. As Paul says, we become "a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV). This holy discipline sounds like an impossible and overwhelming command. It is – outside the power of God.
Our son played football for many years. Different coaches tried to get Jered to play different positions, but they always ended up playing him as a fullback. College recruiters said he was a "throwback" and explained that Jered was built like a true fullback; he ran like a true fullback and thought like a true fullback. Consequently, he rarely fumbled the ball, explaining his success in a way I remember to this day: "Most players who carry the ball either make the mistake of trying to create their own route or end up following the wrong guy. I have blockers assigned to me on every play. Their job is to make a path for me. The minute I get the ball, I put my head down, look for my blockers, watch their feet and follow them - right across the goal line."
God has already been where He wants us to go. All we have to do is look for Him, watch His steps and follow them – right across the finish line. Discipline your steps, making sure that they match His.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to obey You. Forgive me when I let fear keep me from walking in Your steps or when I listen for the voice of others above Yours. Give me a hunger and thirst for Your Word so that I can grow up in You and become a mature believer that honors You with her life. Give me the strength and power to step out in faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 86:11. "Teach me your way, LORD, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name" (NIV).
The psalmist prays for an "undivided heart." Examine your own heart. Is it divided? What does that mean to you and how does it impact your walk with God?
Read Romans 10:17. "Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ" (NIV).
How does the Word of God impact the strength of your faith?
More from the Girlfriends
Mary's MP3 download, Stepping Out in Faith, will help you discover a new confidence in God and the power of obedience to Him. And be sure to check out Mary's new weekly Online Bible StudyFrom a Mess to a Miracle beginning July 8.Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 4, 2013
How are Your Knee Jerk Reactions?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"...train yourself to be godly," (1Timothy 4:7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was hot. The traffic was heavy. I was young and distracted.
I was driving alone in the flow of vacationer traffic traveling to and from the North Carolina coast. I was in the group headed for home. The July traffic was bumper-to-bumper, with everyone going faster than the posted speed limit. I had other things on my mind besides maneuvering in traffic and was paying little attention to the cars around me. (OK, inside scoop. My boyfriend and I had just broken up. Crying my twenty-year-old eyes out.)
Traveling 60 miles per hour in my sporty two-tone Pontiac Sunbird, I felt my front right tire slip off of the asphalt and onto the gravel shoulder of the road. In a flood of panic, I heard the voice of my Driver's Ed teacher from four years before, "If you run off the road, do not, and I repeat, do not jerk your car back on the road. Slow to a stop and then gently guide the car back on the road."
My mind knew the rule. I was even repeating, "Do not jerk the car. Do not jerk the car." Then I promptly jerked the car. I pulled the steering wheel to the left, jerked the car onto the road, and lost control. First the Sunbird flew across two lanes of traffic to the left and then, after over-correcting again, she flew back off the road to the right. As if in slow motion, the car began a descent down an embankment.
The weight of the car became unbalanced and began to roll like a toy tossed by an angry child. As the car somersaulted down the embankment, my body tossed and tumbled like a rag doll, bouncing around the car's interior. The seatbelt law wasn't in effect yet, and I wasn't wearing mine. When the car landed upside down at the bottom of the embankment, I was sitting on the ceiling on the passenger's side.
Travelers watched aghast as the scenario played out before them. You can imagine how amazed they were to see me crawl out of the car's open window without a scratch, holding my Jade plant I had purchased the day before. I knew, without a doubt, that I should not have lived through that accident. It was only by the grace of God that I survived.
Thinking back on that event, I am reminded how powerful reflexes are. When the car veered off the road, I knew what to do, but I did the opposite. I knew not to jerk the steering wheel, but I did it anyway.
Sometimes we know in our heads what we are supposed to do, but the reflexes of old programming overcome reason. The Bible tells us that when we come to Christ, we are a new a creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). However, no one pushes the delete button to erase old habit patterns that have been formed over time. Only through prayer and practice can we retrain our old ways and habits to form new godly reflexes that will reflect the nature of Christ.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, why do I do what I don't want to do and not do what I want to do? Help me train my spiritual reflexes so that my initial reaction and response to every situation is a reflection of Your character and Your ways. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans 7 and discover Paul's struggle with his knee jerk reactions.
What did he say was the answer to his problem of not doing what he knew he should do and doing what he knew he shouldn't do? Hint: It is at the end of the chapter.
What do you learn about changing your default reactions to godly reactions in 1 Timothy 4:7-16?
More from the Girlfriends
How are your knee jerk reactions? What is your emotional default mode? If you would like to learn how to act like the new creation the Bible says you are, then check out my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You. It will help you to learn how to live fully and free!
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July 5, 2013
Learning To Breathe
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness. (1 Timothy 4:7b, NASB)
Friend to Friend
Before our first child was born, my husband and I took a series of classes to prepare us for childbirth. I vividly remember being told by my Lamaze instructor that while in labor, I would need to breathe through each contraction. She would give us instructions like: "Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth" and "When you inhale, allow your belly to expand first, then your chest." She told us that the way we breathe would affect the way we would experience labor.
We spent a lot of time during those week-after-week classes learning how to breathe in a whole new way. We were taught that the breaths we would take during labor would need to be purposed and controlled. They required discipline and were not like natural breathing. So I practiced and I practiced the special breathing techniques in preparation for when the labor pains came a-knocking.
When the day arrived to welcome my firstborn son, Preston Miles Smith, into the world, I learned what a discipline breathing through contractions really is! There were times during labor that I felt like holding my breath instead of breathing. Times when the pain was so intense that my natural response was to scream instead of to breathe. Yes. This type of breathing was surely a learned behavior, a purposed discipline. And on the other side of this purposed discipline, in spite of all the pain endured, I was blessed to experience the wonderful joy of life.
I've labored through many hard life experiences since my child birthing days. I'm sure you have too. There are times when circumstances press us in waves, contractions of life that are seemingly endless. When the waves of trials hit our heart and home, the spiritual discipline of trusting God helps us to breathe through the squeeze of each pressure. I like to call it faith-breathing. When we hunker down and put into practice the act – the discipline – of faith.
But what do we mean by "the discipline of faith?" Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever (1 Corinthians 9:24-25).
Just like I learned to breathe in preparation for going through labor pains, Christians learn to breathe through life pains when we implement spiritual disciplines in our lives like prayer, fasting, journaling and Scripture reading. They are purposed disciplines that bring joy and strength. The more we pray, the more we grow in intimacy with God. The more we read and know the Bible, the more we understand God's will and character. We see over and over again that He is good, faithful, compassionate, loving, gentle, just, holy, righteous and trustworthy in all things. We are encouraged and spurred on by the faith of others. We learn to faith-breathe!
The flames of fire have heated up and refined my faith on many occasions! Life is filled with challenges. God is always with us and will help us breathe through the difficult situations we face. He allows us to go through trials as a part of our refining process. Struggles send us running to God for help, for faith, for strength, for protection and direction. They are often pregnant with pain. Bursting with heartache. If we yield them to God, He uses to rid our lives of trust-barriers like fear and doubt, and to bring glory and honor to him. There are many life contractions that hurt us, but there is no earthly pain that can diminish the hope of our salvation. We must simply breath – continue practicing those spiritual disciplines that bind us to the heart of God.
Trusting God takes discipline. We don't always feel like it. It's not always what we want to do. It's not natural. At times we feel overwhelmed and want to soul-scream. If we always acted on our feelings, our lives would be chaotic messes. As in childbirth, there finally comes the time of deliverance where what is birthed forth to joy is directly the result of the very pain we have gone through.
Let's Pray
Dear Father, please teach me to breath! Strengthen me through life's hard labor experiences and help me to practice the disciplines I have learned through your Scriptures. When I feel like screaming through the pain, help me to breath by reading and memorizing your Word, fasting and praying, and meditating on your Truth. Thank you for the strength you will give me as I trust in You.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read over the verses below and write them on note card and review them until they are committed to memory.
"...all things are possible with God" (Mark 10:27b).
"I can do all things through Him who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).
"I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119:11)
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July 8, 2013
On Our Way Home
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:4-7).
Friend to Friend
Have you noticed how hard "re-entry" is?
One of my favorite movies is "Apollo 13" in which we first heard those famous words, "Houston, we have a problem," an understatement if there ever was one. The astronauts faced seemingly impossible odds of getting back to earth, but they refused to give up the fight until they finally and safely splashed down in the waters of home.
Life is much the same. We are often thrust into a daily life of foreign and often frightening worlds, shaky circumstances, and impossible trials with no obvious way of escape. It seems like we will never get home and our world will never be right again.
I have discovered a truth that surfaces in my heart on a continual basis. We all come into this world with a sense of being lost. Tucked into the corner of our souls is a feeling of restlessness ... a longing for home, for something eternal. That longing will never be satisfied outside of a relationship with God. He holds each today and every tomorrow in His hands. Nobody and nothing can fill the "God-shaped" hole in our heart.
I have come to cherish that desperate heart cry that drives me to my knees and into the arms of my Father. Each and every time I come to Him, He whispers, "It will be all right. You are not home - yet."
I do not want this broken and torn world to be my final home, but merely a place I am passing through. While I am here, I have a God-sized job to do, an extraordinary mission to complete and a wonderful purpose to fulfill. Is that awesome or what? Absolutely! But it is only the beginning of the eternity for which I was created. And the same is true for you. It doesn't get any better than that, girlfriend.
So as you dive into your hectic schedule, remember that one day, we will be home - with Him - but until then, let's celebrate here! Guard your heart and mind by filling them with God's Word. Hold fast to the true meaning of a purpose driven life, and don't let go! Look for ways to share the Good News that Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life. Share the message of the manger, embracing that longing for home as a sweet reminder that one day we will celebrate His birth in Heaven. What a day that will be!
And remember - we are on our way home!
Let's Pray
Oh God, I love You and am so thankful for the hope that eternity holds because I know You. I am not alone, nor will I ever be. I will lack nothing because You are my Provider. I can sing in the midst of the storm because You are sufficient. I praise You and long for Home. But while I'm here, help me to be all that You created me to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever experienced loneliness or a sense of loss for no apparent reason? The best way to get ready for a difficult time is to stay ready for a difficult time. In other words, now is the time to prepare your heart and mind for the circumstance or trial that triggers discouragement.
Make time each day to be alone with God.
Pour out your dreams and desperation to Him.
Read Psalm 23 once a day.
Invest at least 15 minutes in solitude each day, allowing your soul to "catch up."
Make a list of the top five joy thieves in your life and make a plan to eliminate them.
Prayerfully choose five verses of Scripture about peace. Write these verses on a 3X5 card and carry it with you. In fact, this would be a great family project for the summer.
More from the Girlfriends
Do not allow anyone or anything to steal your joy. The choice is in your hands. Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible study, God's Answer to Stress, and let it help you learn to manage stress instead of allowing it to manage you.
And be sure to check out Mary's new weekly Online Bible StudyFrom a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 9, 2013
Put a Lid on It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"... tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark," (James 3:5 NIV).
Friend to Friend
From the time I could hold a crayon in my chubby little hand, I've enjoyed creating various works of art. For my family and friends, my annual endeavors usually found their way under the Christmas tree and into their hands. One year it was macramé hanging plant holders, woven with wooden beads. Another, it was a menagerie of decoupage wooden boxes. Then there were the years of framed cross-stitch, ceramic Nativity sets, and quilted pig and chicken pillows.
When I was 17, it was the year of the candle. Everyone from Grandma Edwards to my best girlfriends received praying hands candles. For weeks I slaved over a hot stove, stirring melted wax, meticulously centering the ten-inch wicks, and then slowly pouring the red, green, or yellow molten material into an inverted mold in the shape of praying hands. When the wax hardened, I burped the rubber mold and plopped the hands onto the counter. My kitchen looked like a prostheses laboratory with hands littering the counters.
I was just cooking up my last batch of wax when the doorbell rang. I was having so much fun that I had forgotten the time. I had a date at 7:30, and here I was in pink curlers and a paraffin-covered sweatshirt. I rushed through the kitchen, leaped over my dad, who had fallen asleep on the den floor in front of the television, and threw open the door.
"Hi, Jim. Come on in," I said, out of breath. "I'm not ready."
"So I noticed," he said with a grin.
"I was cooking candles and lost track of time."
"You were what?"
"Oh, never mind. Just come on in and have a seat on the couch. I'll be ready in a minute."
I dashed to my room to change clothes, take out the curlers and run a brush through my hair, swipe mascara through my lashes, and place a hint of gloss on my lips. Jim sat uncomfortably on the sofa, listening to my dad snore and Jackie Gleason yell at Ralph Kramden.
After about 15 minutes Jim smelled something burning from the kitchen. He didn't want to call me for fear of waking up my dad. (Teenage boys don't like to wake up their date's dad if they can help it.) Instead, he tiptoed into the kitchen and discovered a pot on the stove with flames shooting up about 18 inches in the air.
Sleeping dad or no sleeping dad, Jim yelled, "Sharon! Whatever you were cooking is on fire!"
"Oh my goodness!" I exclaimed. "I forgot to turn off the stove!"
Just as I burst into the kitchen, Jim threw a cup of water into the flaming wax. Rather than extinguish the flames, the fire exploded upward. The flames shot up the wall, across the ceiling, and down the other side of the room. Our screams alerted my father, who woke to see his baby girl standing in a room surrounded by flames. With the agility of Superman, Dad sprang to his feet, ran to the kitchen faster than a speeding bullet, grabbed the lid of the pot, and clamped it down on the source of the flames. Just as quickly as the fire had erupted, it seemed to recede back into the pot like a genie returning to his bottle.
This all happened in a matter of seconds. We stood in the middle of the room like three stunned deer. I never did tell my dad that it was Jim who threw the water on the burning wax. Teenage boys have two strikes against them just by walking through the doors to pick up a man's baby girl.
After the shock of the incident wore off, I had time to reflect on the speed at which the flames blazed around the room, the feeling of fire licking against my skin, the terrifying sound the fire made. It made me think about my words and how easily they can explode and singe those around me. I saw and understood the destructive power of our words and the speed at which that destruction can spread. But you know what else I learned? I learned just how easy it is to stop the blaze...put a lid on it. As soon as my father placed a lid on the pot and removed the flames' source of oxygen, the fire went out.
And so it is with our words. God gave us two ears and one mouth. Therefore, we need to spend more time listening and less time talking. And when we get ready to speak those words that have the potential to start a fire...what do we need to do? Put a lid on it. That's right. Zip the lip.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, set a guard over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips. May nothing escape my mouth today that is not pleasing to You.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 3:1-18 and note what the writer teaches us about the tongue.
What affect does a rudder have on a ship?
What affect does a bridle have on a horse?
What affect does a spark have on a forest?
What affect do your words have on those in your sphere of influence?
Here's an idea. Get a pot lid and place it on the kitchen counter as a reminder to "put a lid" on any destructive words that might try to slip past those pretty lips of your today.
Just for fun, send me a picture of you pot lid on the counter and I'll post it! Or if you're not tech savvy with posting pics, simply send me a note that you did it. Leave a comment on my blog page at www.sharonjaynes.com
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July 10, 2013
Choose to Forgive
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes the hardest thing to say is "I'm sorry," to admit that we have hurt someone. The only thing that can be harder is to forgive those who have hurt us.
The story is told of a father and his teenage son who lived in Spain. Over the years, their relationship became strained. The list of hurts grew so long that the son ran away from home. The father searched for him, but after months of failure, the father made one last desperate effort by putting an ad in the local newspaper of Madrid.
"Dear Paco, meet me in front of the newspaper office at noon. All is forgiven. I love you. Your Father." The next day at noon, in front of the newspaper office, eight hundred Pacos showed up. We all need forgiveness, and we all must learn how to forgive.
I grew up in a small Texas town where we lived in what some would call a "shack" on the edge of town. My mother worked three jobs to support three children, but her main job was as a nurse.
I was frequently sick with colds and ear infections. We had little money, but we did have a family doctor who was a friend and colleague of my mother. In fact, they worked side-by-side each day at the one and only hospital in town. Knowing our financial circumstances, this doctor and his wife often asked my mom to baby-sit to earn extra money. They had five children, so I was often recruited to go along as a backup.
Over the years, this doctor often took care of our medical needs, charging us nothing. He was our friend, a man I respected and trusted – until the day he molested me. The pain and betrayal were so great that I locked it all away in a dark corner of my soul, refusing to admit it had ever happened. I told no one.
Fast-forward twenty years. I was happily married to Dan Southerland and had two wonderful children. I travelled, speaking for women's events and loved being a pastor's wife. Everything on the outside looked great, but inside, the past slowly ate away at my soul until my world collapsed, and I sank into a pit of clinical depression. I was paralyzed. The simple tasks seemed like impossible mountains to climb. Panic attacks became a daily event. I stepped out of ministry and began to uncover the wounds I had desperately tried to ignore most of my life.
I kept insanely busy in a vain attempt to earn God's favor and the approval of others. My worth seemed to rest on the foundation of doing, instead of being. I soon discovered that one of the main reasons I had fallen into that pit was because I refused to face and deal with the pain of my past.
With the help of a loving husband, a Christian psychiatrist and a brilliant family doctor, I began to make slow but steady progress in climbing out of that dark, slimy pit. Then, I remembered.
I remembered that day in the doctor's office. I fell apart. I hated that man. I wanted him to pay for what he had done to me. I wanted him to hurt like I had been hurt. I also knew that somehow, I had to let my pain go and forgive him, or I would be trapped for the rest of my life. God and I began to work through every painful, horrifying moment of that memory.
Months passed, and the day came when Dan asked me to speak for all five worship services of our church. When I asked him what the topic was, he smiled and simply said, "Forgiveness." I knew what God was up to and being the mature and godly woman that I was, I lost it.
"That man does not deserve forgiveness, Lord," I ranted. My Father whispered, "Neither do you, child." I was still angry.
"Lord, he is the one that hurt me," I cried. "Just as you have hurt me," He responded. I wasn't through.
"I think it's only fair for me to wait for him to make the first move. And then he needs to come crawling on his hands and knees, begging for my forgiveness!" In the silence, I heard the words of the Great Physician, a voice I have come to love so much, "Aren't you glad I didn't wait for you to come to me?"
I had a choice to make. I could choose to hang on to my anger and bitterness, making that evil man my jailer, or I could choose to forgive him and set myself free.
But I just couldn't forgive him on my own, so I did what David did.
I cried out to God.
Psalm 40:1-3a (NIV) "I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit; out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
As I wrestled with the choice to forgive,I learned several life-changing truths:
If we make the choice to forgive, God will supply the forgiveness.
There should be no limit to our forgiveness because there is no limit to His.
Forgiveness is not a feeling or an emotion. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice.
We must deal with old pain before we can truly live today and tomorrow. While we cannot change the past, we can change our response to the past and dictate the power it has over us. God sent a Savior, Jesus Christ, who is calling us to forgive. The choice is ours to make. Today, we can choose freedom by choosing to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of holding on to the pain in my life. I want to forgive those who have hurt me and learn how to let go of the pain and walk on. Today, I choose to love my enemies and bless those who have harmed me. Please give me the strength and power to honor you as I step out in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Colossians 2:13-14 "Then God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins. He canceled the record that contained the charges against us. He took it and destroyed it by nailing it to Christ's cross."
How do these verses impact the way you practice forgiveness in your life? Who do you need to forgive? Whose forgiveness do you need?
More from the Girlfriends
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible study, How to Get Past Your Past, and let it help you learn to choose forgiveness. And be sure to check out Mary's new weekly Online Bible StudyFrom a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 11, 2013
Finding What You've Always Wanted
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of, (John 10:10msg).
Friend to Friend
Yard sales. I've never really liked them. But when we were preparing to move from the home we had lived in for 20 years, we decided it was a must. It was a way to clean out the clutter, make a little money, and not haul yesterday's treasures to today's trash.
We displayed our lovely attic decor on makeshift plywood tables and waited for the bargain babes to descend. We were not disappointed. Two hours before the advertised opening time, treasure hunters began congregating outside the closed garage doors. Then, upon the unveiling, the swarm attacked.
Among the valuables from my past sat an electric ceramic Christmas tree with various colored lights...no doubt a gift from the eighties. One particular woman perused the lovely display and came upon this "magnificent work of art."
"I've always wanted one of these!" she declared with excitement in her voice. "How much is it?"
"Three dollars," my husband answered.
"Humph," she grunted and walked on.
Steve and I just looked at each other and stifled our laughter.
Let's rewind the scene for a moment. This woman said she had always wanted a ceramic Christmas tree just like that one. (I'm not here to judge another person's dreams. That's just what she said.) Always. Her whole life. And here it was! For a mere three dollars, her dream could have come true! The search over! Most likely we would have sacrificed this masterpiece for two dollars, but she didn't even ask. She just shrugged and walked away.
Then my mind began to wander through a rummage sale of its own. I thought about the Pharisees in the Bible. For years they waited for the coming of the promised Messiah. Prayed about it. Preached about it. Prepared for it. Then, when Jesus showed up, they turned their backs and walked away. "Humph," they said with a shrug. "No thanks."
How many times do we long for a particular dream to come true in our lives? Long for it. Search for it. Obsess over it. A husband. A child. A job. A home. Then one day, there it is! It can be ours! The search is over! We say our "I do's," bring home the bundle of joy, log in our first eight hours, hang the last curtain. But then a little time passes. The husband is not as romantic as we had hoped, the kids are not as obedient and loving as we had imagined, the job isn't as rewarding as we had envisioned, and the house is a never-ending maze of maintenance. "Humph," we grumble. We think we want something, and then when we get it, we decide we really don't want it after all.
Let me take it one step further. How many times do we long for love, joy, and peace in our lives? We search for it, long for it, and pray about it. Then someone points us to the cross and says, "There is it. It can be yours for the asking. It's not three dollars, two dollars, or even one dollar. It's free!"
"Humph," we shrug. "No thanks." And we walk away to rummage through the yard sales of life looking for treasure among other people's clutter.
Dear friend, God is holding out His holy hand with the most magnificent gift of all time. Love, joy, and peace personified in His Son, Jesus Christ. He is what you have always been longing for, searching for, watching for. Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10). Will we take Him up on the offer or say, "Humph. No thanks," and walk away?
Chances are, you've already taken hold of Jesus' hand at one time or another. So today, examine your heart and make sure you haven't returned to the rummage sales of life to find fulfillment, but have continued to experience the abundant life that only Jesus can give. He IS what your heart has always wanted.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for making all my dreams come true. You have given me everything I have ever longed for in the person of Jesus Christ. Please forgive me for turning my back on Your amazing gift and trying to fill my longings with people and possessions. I know that nothing will ever satisfy my desire for peace, love, and joy except Jesus. In His name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What have you always wanted?
What has Jesus given you?
Why do you think believers continue to rummage around trying to find fulfillment rather than experiencing the abundant life Jesus came to give?
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July 12, 2013
Nothing is Impossible With God
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left (Exodus 14:21-22, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A boy was sitting on a park bench with one hand resting on an open Bible. He was loudly exclaiming his praise to God. "Hallelujah! Hallelujah! God is great!" he yelled without worrying whether anyone heard him or not.
Shortly after, along came a man who had recently completed some studies at a local university. Feeling himself very enlightened in the ways of truth and very eager to show this enlightenment, he asked the boy about the source of his joy.
"Hey" asked the boy in return with a bright laugh, "Don't you have any idea what God is able to do? I just read that God opened up the waves of the Red Sea and led the whole nation of Israel right through the middle."
The enlightened man laughed lightly, sat down next to the boy and began to try to open his eyes to the "realities" of the miracles of the Bible. "That can all be very easily explained. Modern scholars have shown that the Red Sea in that area was only ten inches deep at that time. It was no problem for the Israelites to wade across.
The boy was stumped. His eyes wandered from the man back to the Bible laying open in his lap. The man, content that he had enlightened a poor, naive young person to the finer points of scientific insight, turned to go. He had taken only two steps when the boy began to rejoice and praise louder than before. The man turned to ask the reason for this resumed jubilation.
"Wow!" exclaimed the boy happily, "God is greater than I thought! Not only did He lead the whole nation of Israel through the Red Sea, He topped it off by drowning the whole Egyptian army in ten inches of water!"
The Old Testament book of Exodus shows, over and over again, that nothing is impossible with God. Nothing! Moses was an ordinary man who was chosen by God to do an extraordinary task. On the far side of the desert in Midian, high on the mountain of God, Moses met the LORD face to flame. God appeared to Moses "in flames of fire from within a bush."
I would imagine that Moses was probably dirty, sweaty, and stinky from shepherding as he stood on holy ground before the LORD. I'm sure he was keenly aware of his filth and stench, both physically and spiritually. As he slipped off his shoes, he hid his face in fear. Moses did not feel adequate for the assignment that he had been given. He wasn't confident in his abilities to get the job done. In fact, he even pleaded with God to send someone else! Moses said to God in Exodus 4:10, "O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue."
But God had a plan and Moses was His man. Through ten plagues and many signs and wonders, God flexed his muscles through Moses. Once Pharaoh had finally let God's people go, Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt. No compass was necessary. God led His people through the desert with a pillar of clouds by day and a pillar of fire by night. It must have been an amazing sight. It must have been thrilling...up until the point where Pharaoh's army was closing in on them as they approached the Red Sea. Talk about being faced with a seemingly impossible situation! Moses and around two million of his closest Hebrew friends stood at the edge of the water with nowhere to go. They were trapped. They were terrified and cried out to the LORD (Exodus 14:10). BUT GOD! God was on time for the miracle show. He had a plan. He made a way. Nothing is too difficult for God!
Moses answered the people, "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today...The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still" (Exodus 14:13). God purposed this extravagant rescue for His glory. The Lord will fight for you. When God is on our side, fighting for us, we can certainly be assured of victory!
Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the LORD drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land. The waters were divided, and the Israelites went through the sea on dry ground, with a wall of water on their right and on their left (Exodus 14:21-22).
The Israelites were saved, and Pharaoh's army was destroyed - all under the watchful eyes of the LORD. God wanted to be glorified through a seemingly impossible situation. He wants to be glorified through the difficult situations that you face, too. If God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31) When we stand with Christ, we stand with power. What Red Sea are you facing? Nothing is impossible with God. When you set aside your doubts and call on the name of the LORD, you can face the waters of your circumstances with a strong confidence, knowing that God is able and willing to do great things in and through you. Continue to follow the pillars of cloud and of fire of God's leading. You have a chance to bring God the glory of which He is so deserving!
Let's Pray
Dear God, like Moses, I often feel unequipped to handle the assignments You have given me. You know exactly what overwhelming waters I face today. As I stand at the water's edge, I commit to trusting Your strength. I will not give in to the fears, frustrations, and doubts that mock me. You are far more powerful than the circumstances of my life. Thank you for reminding me that nothing is too difficult for you.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Grab some paper or your journal and list some "pillars of fire and pillars of clouds." God has placed in your life to give you direction on your journey.
What is God asking you to trust Him in or through? Spend a few moments in prayer over this. Then click over to my blog or my Facebook page so we can take the conversation deeper. Leave a comment about what God is calling you to trust Him with today.
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July 15, 2013
Ask and You Will Receive
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you (Matthew 7:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have always loved giving gifts to my children – all kinds of gifts including hugs, kisses, time, and love – as well as material things like toys, books, and clothes. When the kids were young we didn't have much money, so the gifts were small, but the kids didn't seem to mind. I often scrimped and saved in order to buy a certain item for a birthday or for Christmas, and loved every minute of it.
Dan and I now have five grandchildren and I am in so much trouble! I want to give them everything! I know I need to give them the important things such as love, time and training in the ways of God, but I find myself in the same situation I was in when our son and daughter were babies – little money but a big desire to give.
I once took our daughter-in-law shopping for Jaydan and Lelia, our five-year-old twins. I had a list of items I wanted to purchase but was disappointed when I found only half of the items on the list. However, it was getting late, and the babies began to "tell" us that they were ready for dinner and bedtime. We checked out, loaded the babies into the car, and headed home.
When Jodi leaned over to kiss my cheek and thank me for the gifts, I looked at her and said, "You are so welcome, honey, but it's not enough!" Jodi chuckled, but I was serious! "No, you don't understand," I continued. "We have to go shopping again because I haven't given the babies enough and my heart is not excited enough yet!" I know. I am totally ruined, but I am going to try very hard not to ruin Jaydan and Lelia. (The projected success rate does not look good right now, but I promise to work on it.)
On the way home, I began to analyze my words and my heart. I fully realize that material things won't satisfy the deepest needs of our grandchildren. I am also committed to investing time in their lives to help them find Jesus Christ and discover His plan for their lives. Honestly, I don't really know how to explain what I feel for our grandchildren, but it is sort of like watching my heart walk around on the outside of my body. I know I can love them in so many ways...and I do...and I will...but I always want to give them more.
Our Father has the same heart - a giving heart - when it comes to giving His children good things. The problem is that we don't really believe that truth. We tend to measure His love and benevolent heart of giving by how much we have done or accomplished, or even by what we haven't done and promise not to do.
We are missing the truth that God's love simply cannot be measured. God doesn't love us because we are so lovable. God loves us because He is love.
One of the most tragic results of our unbelief is an ineffective prayer life. We pray, not really believing that God wants to or really will answer those prayers. Jesus addresses this issue in Matthew 7:7-11.
Matthew 7:7-11 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him?"
Jesus is teaching about prayer and about the very nature of God. He relates it to something we all can understand, the child-parent relationship. The son has been out in the fields working all day long and by the time he comes home, he is starving. His family is seated at the dinner table as dishes of steaming, delicious food are being passed around. I can almost see that tired and hungry boy's eyes zeroing in on the food, salivating in anticipation of the meal before him. Then imagine that the father, seeing the hunger of his child, picks up a rock, tosses it to his son and says, "Here! Eat this!" Jesus is driving home the truth that good fathers want to give their kids good gifts. Now if this is true of earthly parents (and grandparents), imagine what our Heavenly Parent wants to give us - if only we would ask.
No one's voice sounds sweeter to God than your voice, girlfriend. Nothing in the universe could keep Him from giving you His full attention when you pray. In fact, He longs to hear your prayer. In Psalm 34:8, the psalmist invites us to "taste and see that the LORD is good." In this verse, "Lord" means "Jehovah, Abba Father." In other words, your Abba Father, Dearest Daddy, is inviting you to come to Him in childlike faith, with a hungry heart so He can fill it with the gifts of peace, contentment and a satisfied spirit.
Don't think you have to figure out a way to steal a blessing from God. Don't believe you have to trick Him into giving up what He would rather keep for Himself. It is God's very nature to give to His children. He has made all of His resources available to you. Do not doubt for a moment that He is a giving God with a heart that longs to bless, to encourage, to empower and to love you. God is not only able to answer your prayer, but God wants to answer your prayer. Ask and you will receive.
Let's Pray
Father, I find it so hard to comprehend Your love for me. Help me understand that You love me – no matter what I do or don't do. Teach me to live each day in Your strength and power instead of my own. I want everything You have for me, Lord. Today, I choose to believe that You stand ready to encourage, empower and equip me for whatever comes my way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 51:10. How is a clean heart related to the blessings of God?
Focus on the blessings God has already given you and praise Him for each one.
Read Proverbs 21:2. "A person may think their own ways are right, but the LORD weighs the heart."How does this verse apply to the blessings of God in your life?
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July 16, 2013
Drifting
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it," (Hebrews 2:1 NASB).
Friend to Friend
It was supposed to be a sailing adventure for Pastor Loran and his youth group at Central Church. His friend procured three sailing vessels that resembled the Nina, Piñta, and the Santa Maria. I'm not sure how much they looked like the ships that came across the Atlantic with the pilgrims, but they seemed just about as old.
When they left the dock, the sky was blue, the wind was brisk, and the teenagers were ready to forge the sea. However, by nightfall, a threatening gale blew in and the rolling waves grew to fifteen foot walls of water, tossing the tiny boats like toys in a toddlers tub.
"Loran," the captain said, "This storm could mean big trouble for us. You're going to have to stay up all night and hold the wheel steady to keep the boat on course."
So all-night, Loran fought the storm. He kept alert. He prayed to the One who calms the seas and kept his eyes on the sailboats in front of him - one of which held two of his most prized possessions, his daughters. Hundreds of times, the boat shot straight into the air and then dashed into the inky water. But, Loran held fast. It was a battle he was determined to win.
In the wee hours of the morning, the wind and rains came to a halt. The storm had passed and once again the boats cut a smooth path across the glassy sea. Everyone was exhausted from the rollicking of the night before, so the team decided to look for a lagoon to drop anchor and rest. One was found, and the three sailing vessels stopped for a few hours of rest and relaxation in the safety of the cove.
Loran jumped in the cool crystal blue water and suddenly realized how tired he was from the struggle of the night before. He turned over on his back, closed his burning eyes, and began to float. Slowly the knots in his neck and back began to unwind and tension escaped from his aching muscles. The noises of the teens playing in the water were soon muffled and the only sound he heard was water splashing against his skin and the occasional call of a sea gull. He was so relaxed he almost drifted off to sleep as his body drifted out to sea.
After some time, Loran looked up and noticed that he had drifted a great distance away from the rest of his party. They were playing happily in the water and had no idea Loran was gone.
"OK, Lord. Help me get back," he prayed.
Loran swam and swam, fighting the water with all his might, but the receding tide was stronger that he was. After what seemed like a lifetime, Loran was still a mile or so from his friends and family.
"Help!" he cried. But no one heard his distant cry.
"Oh God! Don't let me die now."
Somehow, Loran finally made it back to the boat alive. As he lay panting on the deck, he realized a great truth. Over the past twenty-four hours, he had been in great danger two times - once battling the storm and the other drifting out to sea. But of the two, he was in more danger when he was carelessly drifting along than he was when he was alert and standing fast.
Paul tells us in Hebrews 2:1 "For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it." Carelessly drifting can be a dangerous business, but storms keep us alert and ready at the helm. We need to stay alert to the enemy's tactics in the storm-times and the calm-times, and be careful not to drift along a current that takes us away from the course of life God has planned. So join me in paying attention today!
Let's Pray
Dear Father, help me to always be alert. I know that the devil roams around like a roaring lion looking for those who are aimlessly drifting through life. He sneaks in when we least expect it. Help me never to get too comfortable with my life that I drift aimless along, but rather keep me alert to the changing winds and tides – holding fast to You in the storms of life and in the calm seasons as well.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when you were caught off guard by a temptation or by the devil?
What do you think could have made the difference in your ability to see the temptation coming?
How would you describe your spiritual life at the time...alert and on course or drifting?
If this post encouraged you to pay attention during both the calm and chaos, click over to my blog and say, "I'm on guard!"
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July 17, 2013
Sigh
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I leave you peace; my peace I give you. I do not give it to you as the world does. So don't let your hearts be troubled or afraid (John 14:27, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My mother had a special way of dealing with her "tired." Mama sighed.
Mama's sighing reminded me of an old steel pressure cooker she pulled out several times a year. You know - the kind that has a release valve on top. Mama cooked chickens, turkeys and various stews and soups in that pressure cooker. I could tell when the pressure was too high. In fact, everybody within a five-mile radius could tell when the pressure was too high. The valve on top started rattling like a volcano ready to blow. Next came a ridiculously loud whistle – the signal unless somebody turned down the fire, the cooker was going to explode.
Life is a lot like that. So many things make me tired. The pressure builds until I am ready to explode.
People break their promises. Why can't people just do what they say they are going to do? And if they never intended to do it in the first place, why didn't they just keep their mouths shut? They make me tired.
Friends don't come through like I think they should. Aren't we supposed to love and encourage each other instead of use each other to advance a personal agenda? Users make me tired.
Children make decisions that I would never in a million years make and I wonder what in the world they were thinking! My children can make me tired.
Our grandchildren never make me tired. They are perfect.
Financial pressures keep me awake at night. I know God will provide all of our needs, but why does He have to keep it a secret for so long? I just need details. I need to know that everything is going to be okay.
And then I remember that is where faith comes in – and it makes me tired.
I know I am supposed to be this big-time woman of faith. My husband pastors this humongous church for crying out loud. I write books and travel across the world speaking for women's conferences, retreats and events – telling them how to handle all of the things that make them tired.
Physical pain wears me down and I get discouraged. When the doctor looked at me and said, "You have a classic case of fibromyalgia" I looked right back at him and said, "No thank you." He looked at me like I had lost my mind. I did not want to have that disease because it hurts – all the stinkin' time – and nobody seems to have the magic pill that will make it all go away.
And let me just tell you that I am all about "magic pills." I thank God every morning for my drugs. I praise Him as I take my pills for depression, acid reflux disease, low thyroid ... I forget the rest. Maybe there is a pill for that, but I can't get that one yet since I don't have any empty spots left in my pillbox.
Yes, I am thankful for each and every little pill that God has provided through the wisdom He has given doctors, counselors and psychiatrists. But I have to tell you that there are days when I cry out to God and remind Him that all of this junk makes me tired.
And I think of Mama. Was she this tired? I think so – and then some.
Physical – emotional – mental – spiritual weariness are all-too-familiar companions in my very stressed out world. Mama faced different kinds of trials. They made her tired just like my trials make me tired.
And trials – well, they come in all sizes, shapes and kinds. Sometimes it is the little things that get to me. I can't find my car keys. My car battery is dead on the one morning I set aside to run every errand I needed to run for the entire month. I get to the cleaners five minutes after they closed. You know the kind of trials I am talking about. They may not necessarily change the course of life, but they are irritating nonetheless.
Then there are honest-to-goodness trials that kick you in the gut and drop you to your knees. A friend or family member calls in tears, needing comfort because their pathology report came back malignant. Another friend's husband of over 30 years decides he is done, gets in his car and drives away. And that pastor we thought was so godly? He has been having an affair for months while his terminally ill wife lies in a bed at home. A friend is dead because his mentally ill brother shot him in the head and then killed himself. I am not making this stuff up.
Life is hard.
Life is daily.
Life makes me tired.
Sometimes people make me tired. Sometimes circumstances make me tired because I either created them with my own wrong choices, or I have to suffer the consequences of the wrong choices made by other people I love - or worse – wrong choices and absurd decisions made by people I don't even like.
The fact is – we all have someone or something in our lives that make us tired.
What to do?
Take a deep, long breath as you count to ten. Pray as you breathe in, asking God to give you something for your pain. Now let that breath out and fill it with everything that is causing your pain.
There is also the quick sigh – when you gasp in air in to the count of 1.5 seconds and immediately let it explode. Mama sighed like that when people made her angry or when she was frustrated. But it seemed to work for her – both as a way of letting off some steam as well as sending a message to the person who caused Mama's anger.
I have come to see the sighing technique perfected by Mama as a stellar way to deal with everything and everyone that makes me tired.
I breathe in the life-giving power and supernatural control of the Holy Spirit and exhale everything that is not of Him.
Next time you are tired, think about Mama and give it a try.
Let' s Pray
Father, I am tired. I need Your power and supernatural control for every step of every day. Help me learn to fully trust You – even when life is hard.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define the concept of peace in your life? Is your heart and mind filled with chaos and stress instead of peace? Identify the source of stress in your life and make any adjustments necessary to bring that area under control. Write out your own "Peace Treaty" with God and share it with a friend. When you feel as if your life is spinning out of control, remember to rest in Him.
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July 18, 2013
Get Real
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness," (Lamentations 3:19-24 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Are we brave enough to be real and honest with God? We might as well be; He knows our hearts inside and out anyway. A. W. Tozer, in his book, The Knowledge of the Holy, wrote:
How unutterably sweet is the knowledge that our Heavenly Father knows us completely. No talebearer can inform on us; or enemy can make an accusation stick; no forgotten skeleton can come tumbling out of some hidden closet to abash us and expose our past; no unsuspected weakness in our characters can come to light to turn God away from us, since He knew us utterly before we knew Him and called us to Himself in the full knowledge of everything that was against us.
God knew the real me before I even knew myself. David wrote, "Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O LORD" (Psalm 139:4 NIV). Knowing what He knew and knows, it is a wonder that He even gives me the time of day. And to think, He gives us the time of our lives!
Jeremiah was a mighty man of God who was not afraid to be real before His maker. He wrote, "I am the man who has seen affliction because of the rod of His wrath. He has driven me and made me walk in darkness and not in light. Surely against me He has turned His hand repeatedly all the day. He has caused my flesh and my skin to waste away. He has broken my bones. He has besieged and encompassed me with bitterness and hardship. In dark places He has made me dwell, like those who have long been dead" (Lamentations 3:1-6 NASB).
Jeremiah was mad and he was mad at God. As far as he was concerned, God was the cause of all his problems. He felt trapped and afraid. He continued, "He has walled me in so that I cannot go out; He has made my chain heavy. Even when I cry out and call for help, He shuts out my prayer. He has blocked my ways with hewn stone; He has made my paths crooked. He is to me like a bear lying in wait like a lion in secret places. He has turned aside my ways and torn me to pieces; He has made me desolate...So I say, 'My strength has perished, and so has my hope from the Lord'" (vv.7-11,18 NASB).
Jeremiah was in a bad situation...mostly because he had a wrong perception of God. God did not make him to walk in darkness, cause his flesh to waste away, or break his bones. God had not encompassed him with bitterness or hardship. But Jeremiah had allowed his perception to be skewed by his circumstances.
Even though what Jeremiah had to say was incorrect and certainly painted a bad picture of God, he was able to be real about what he was feeling. Jeremiah did not feel the need to put on a holy mask before an all-knowing God. And you know what? God didn't strike him dead for being real and saying what was on his heart.
Before we leave poor Jeremiah, let's notice what happens at the end of his lament. He begins to remember all the times that God had been faithful. "This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope. The Lord's loving kindnesses... are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, 'therefore I have hope in Him'" (vv. 21-22 NASB).
Jeremiah cleaned the clutter out of his emotional closet and rediscovered the treasures he had forgotten were there. His circumstances didn't change. God didn't change. But his attitude and perception of God changed and his emotions followed close behind.
We can learn two lessons from Jeremiah in this passage.
Number 1: We don't need to be afraid to be real with God.
Number 2: When we're disappointed with our circumstances, we need to remember all the times God has been faithful, and practice praise, gratitude and thanksgiving to get us out of our hissy fit.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, sometimes I whine and complain and blame You for all sorts of trouble in my life. The truth is, I live in a fallen world where bad things happen and I make poor decisions. Help me to remember that Your ways are always loving and faithful (Psalm 25:10). Help me to recall Your great deeds in my life! Thank you that Your mercies are new every morning! Great is Your faithfulness!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you been complaining to God about your circumstances lately?
Have you been blaming God for the difficult circumstances and forgetting to praise Him for the blessings?
Stop right now and offer up a prayer of praise to God for all the wonderful deeds He has performed in your life. The gift of eternal life would be a great place to start.
As an exercise of gratitude, click over to my blog page and tell me the date (year) you accepted God's gift of salvation and made Jesus Lord of your life.
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Today's devotion was adapted from my book: Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Life. The Bible says, "Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story," (Psalm 107:2). There is unspeakable joy that bubbles up when a child of God takes off her mask and is real with the world about all that God has done in her life. As a matter of fact, it is so powerful the devil will do everything he can to stop you from doing so. How I love Revelation 12:11, "They overcame him (the devil) by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." Let's get real and overcome!
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July 19, 2013
Healer of the Broken
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3
Friend to Friend
I love my girlfriends. I love doing life with friends who "get me." I love having tangles of conversations over hot coffee that are stranded together with light-hearted laughter, rich revelations, loads of love, treasures of time and gobs of grace.
Though sharing beautiful life-moments is always fun, some of the most powerful blessings of friendship for me have been found in broken places. In the trenches. Those places where our troubles and fears scream loudly and long to be quieted by the understanding heart of a friend. Times when we rise up to encourage one another with God's promises, share reminders of His truth, extend challenges to believe, offer prayers for problems and speak hope to a sister who's hurting.
A few years ago, after a long conversation with a girlfriend who was in a painfully broken place, I was burdened. Heavily. Her shared-pain had become my pain. I ached for her to experience the hope of Christ in and through her hurt. Though she knew the Lord, she felt like her prayers were falling on deaf divine ears. She needed me to listen, to cry with her and to take her right back to Jesus. As I prayed for my friend and considered her burdens, I was inspired to write a song of encouragement. I later co-wrote a song with her in mind.
I'm not sure where this message of hope finds you. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that God cares and that He is compassionate. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that God sees us, knows us, hears us and loves us. That He is faithful, powerful and never wastes a hurt. Perhaps you need a word of encouragement today. Perhaps you know a friend who needs this word. The best thing we can do for our friends is to love them and point them to Jesus.
The song I co-wrote is called Healer of the Broken. Read the lyric and then click the link below to listen to the song.
Healer Of The Broken
by Gwen Smith and Sue C. Smith
Oh wounded heart
My hurting friend
Desperate and afraid
You're not invisible
Someone knows the pain you're in
You can run to Him
The Healer of the broken
The friend to every sinner
Who knows the sorrow of each scar
Every time you call on
The Savior who is waiting
He will meet you where you are
And heal your broken heart
He knows your name
Each midnight fear
When you try to hide
Or fight for one more breath
Love will be your safe retreat
He will give you peace
In every valley
In every pain
Jesus is with you
Just call His name
Call His name
Turn on your speakers and CLICK HERE to listen to the song Healer of the Broken.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for reminding me that You hear the cries of your children and that You are a God who loves to bring beauty to our broken. Please meet me where I am today and give me the grace to grow through these trials.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Galatians 6:2 tells us to, "bear one another's burdens." What or who comes to mind as you read this?
Read and contemplate the following Scripture passage: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." (Psalm 34:18) How does this make you feel?
More From The Girlfriends
30 Day Summer Psalm Adventure:How would you like to join your girlfriends and thousands of other women in a FREE interactive Bible study? If you are ready to go deeper with God by searching and savoring His Word, click over to the 30 Day Summer Psalm Adventure sign up page on Gwen's website and register today!
The song Healer of the Broken is featured on Gwen's Uncluttered CD. You can download the song from iTunes or Amazon– or order her CDs on www.GwenSmith.net.
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July 22, 2013
The Cost of Friendship
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her (Ruth 1:16-18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Friendship is the catalyst for every other love and the foundation of every healthy relationship. God created us to need each other. We need friends and we need to be a friend.
The emotional demands on women are vast. One of the ways God replenishes the emotional drains we experience is through friendships. Many women are convinced that the risk of having close friends outweighs the rewards. I disagree. There is no love without risk. Every friendship must contain the element of risk if it is to grow and mature, reaching its full potential.
Ruth was willing to risk her very future for the sake of her friendship with Naomi. John 15:13 says it well: "Greater love has no one than this; that one lay down his life for his friends." When we choose to lay down our lives in friendship, we automatically take a chance on being hurt, rejected, betrayed or misunderstood.
Anyone who knows me also knows that living foliage is doomed to die a premature death if left in my care for any length of time. I have even been known to kill a plant without touching it. In fact, the only hope any plant of mine has to live past its purchase date is for me to ignore its existence and pray for rain. I am certain you can understand why I am in awe of anyone who gardens and is actually capable of growing green things.
I once had a neighbor who was known for her green thumb. In fact, everyone in our small Mississippi town knew that the most beautiful roses were found in Joyce's back yard. It was in that same yard where I learned an important lesson about friendship.
Every afternoon, after taking their naps, I took our two children, Jered and Danna, outside to play in our fenced-in back yard. While the kids enjoyed the fresh air, neighborhood friends, and their swing set, I enjoyed visiting with Joyce. Most of our conversations took place over the vine-covered fence and her dazzling rose garden.
After weeks of watching Joyce plant, prune, water, feed, talk and even sing to her "Rose Babies," I noticed she never handled the roses without wearing thick gloves to protect her hands from thorns. One day, our conversation abruptly halted when she yanked her hand into the air and yelled, "Ouch!" The culprit was a thorn. When I asked why she insisted on growing roses instead of some safer and less prickly foliage, her answer was profound. "The beauty of the roses is worth the occasional wound they inflict," she replied. Joyce had learned to handle the roses with respect and in such a way that her wounds were few. Friendships are much the same.
Friends will hurt you. Friends will wound you. We would be wise to don thick emotional gloves when it comes to handling friendships.
It is a disastrous mistake to assign the responsibility for our happiness to friends. The truth is that depending on a friend to make us happy sets that friend up for failure in the relationship and positions that friendship for inevitable destruction.
I have a friend who simply cannot keep a secret. She would do anything in the world for me – except keep her mouth closed. Because I love her and don't want to write her off as a friend, I have simply chosen to be cautious about what I share with her. Every friendship has a price tag of some kind attached. We just need to get to the place where love covers the cost.
The words of 1 Peter 4:8 say it well, "Love covers a multitude of sins." In this verse, "cover" literally means to "hide" or "overlook" the faults. Friendship knows the weaknesses are there, but chooses to love anyway. Friendship is always costly but it is always well worth the cost.
Let's Pray
Father, You are the most faithful and most precious friend I will ever have. Teach me how to develop friendships that reflect your unconditional love and continual forgiveness. In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What is the greatest hindrance to friendship in your life?
What has been the greatest reward of friendship in your life?
Are you willing to take the risk of cultivating intimate friendships and of being a true friend? Explain.
Make a list of your closest friends and then picture life without them. What would that picture look like?
Make a specific plan this week to invest time in the life of a friend.
More From The Girlfriends
Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study. I Need a Friend is available in Bible Study format.
And be sure to take a look at Mary's new weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 23, 2013
S&H Greenback Stamp Redemption
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.' He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit,"(Galatians 3:13, 14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
If I think about it long enough, I can almost taste the sickly sweet glue on the tip of my tongue. Yes, the childhood ritual of licking and sticking S & H Greenback Stamps into books is forever glued in my memory's scrapbook.
When I was a little girl, my mother did her grocery shopping at White's Supermarket on the corner of Tarboro Street and Pearl. Oh sure, there were other grocery stores around, but White's gave out S & H Greenback Stamps with every purchase. On shopping days, I watched as the cashier rang up my momma's purchases, pulling a lever with each entry. My mom's eyes lit up every time she heard the cha-ching, knowing that meant more stamps. When the total was tallied, the cash register spit out a stream of stamps, both large and small. We never put the stamps in books right away. Mom stuffed them in a brown paper bag and waited until we could make a whole day of it.
About every six months, mom pulled a brown bag swollen with S & H Greenback Stamps down from a shelf. She spilled its contents on a table and announced, "OK Sharon, it's time to paste the stamps."
For hours it was lick, stick, lick, stick, lick, stick. Large stamps represented dollars spent and only three filled a page. Small stamps represented cents spent and 30 filled a page. I liked doing the dollars.
After six months of collecting stamps and six hours of pasting them in the books, my mom and I excitedly drove down to the S & H Greenback Stamp Redemption Center. With arms heavy laden, we plopped our day's work on the clerk's desk.
"Whatcha goina get?" I'd ask as we strolled up and down the aisles of house wares.
"I don't know, honey," my mom would reply. "But it'll be something good."
After much consternation, mom would decide on a treasure such as an electric can opener, or a steam iron, or a shiny set of stainless steel mixing bowls. Oh, it was an exciting day to make a trip to the S & H Greenback Redemption Center and trade in our stamps for a special prize.
Have you ever noticed there are some Christianese words we repeat often, but have difficulty explaining? I think redemption is one of those words. But as a child, because of my visits to the S & H Greenback Redemption Center, I understood "redemption." It meant to trade something in for something else, to take my stamps and trade them in (redeem them) for a prize – for something valuable. And that's exactly what it means.
Jesus Christ traded in His life to redeem mine. Listen to what these two passages have to say:
Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.' Heredeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit, (Galatians 3:13, 14 NIV).
For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect, (I Peter 1:18,19 NIV).
Jesus traded in His life so that you and I could receive ours. To Him, you and I were the prize – the treasure. But that's not all. He's made it possible for me to do a little bit of trading as well. I've traded in my pain for purpose, my hurt for hope, my mess for my message, my worry for trust, my soul sickness for spiritual health, my shame for forgiveness, my captivity for freedom, and the list goes on. What an abundance of treasures – much more valuable than an electric can opener or set of mixing bowls.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for redeeming me! I have traded in my mourning for laughter, my weeping for rejoicing, my sickness for healing, my guilt for freedom, my sin for righteousness, my fear for faith, my weakness for Your strength, my insecurity for Your boldness, my inadequacies for Your supply. What a deal!
In Jesus' Name...the One Who made it all possible,
Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
Do you need to do a little trading of your own? Do you need to make a trip to God's redemption center?
What would you like to trade in today? Click over to my blog page and tell me at least one negative you are trading in today. Feel free to list as many as you like.
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You ready to do a little trading? My book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past, will show you how to use what you've gone through for good. Friend, don't waste your sorrows. God has a perfect plan for you to turn the ashes of past hurts and mistakes into a thing of beauty.
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July 24, 2013
Stress Management 101
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God's peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it (Philippians 4:6-7, ICB).
Friend to Friend
Stress management is a spiritual discipline that begins with diligent preparation in every area of life – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. We must be ready to deal with stress before we are required to deal with stress. Dealing with stress is an ongoing, daily battle that will not end - this side of Heaven. In order to win that battle, we must be prepared.
While there is no single secret to handling stress, God's Word is filled with many truths that can enable and empower us to deal with stress in a healthy, productive and God-honoring way.
Sometimes the most familiar passages of scripture are also the most overlooked. Psalm 23 is one of those passages. I often find myself rushing to this psalm for peace and comfort in the aftermath of a stressful situation or for guidance and shelter from the storm that I see barreling straight for the unprepared shores of my life. However, I have also discovered that Psalm 23 is also a powerful tool for dealing with stress on an everyday basis.
If you are like me, I tend to handle the major calamities in life better than the mundane, ordinary but definitely stress-inducing minutia of daily living. A study of Psalm 23 has led me to believe that it is often the small pebble in my shoe, rather than the massive boulder on my path, that causes the greatest stress in my life. Life is so daily! Fortunately, so is God.
God promises to be my shepherd, to lead and guide me, to provide my every need, to protect me from my enemies, to fill my heart with peace, and to stand between my greatest fears and me.
God delivered a profound message when He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to live among us each and every day. Jesus could have come to us in many ways, but He chose to interrupt the ordinary with the extraordinary!
Jesus could rightfully have been born in a palace. He was, after all, a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger - a smelly, dusty, dirty and definitely common barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to us and is a constant reminder that He really does care about everything that touches our lives. If it is important to us, it is important to Him. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of each day.
While I cannot imagine my world without the presence and power of Jesus Christ, I am often guilty of living as if He does not exist. The result is a stress-filled life. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness empties my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness where stress is waiting to fill that emptiness with anxiety and fear. Still, God is faithful. His peace is a soothing balm that leads me once again to the manger and away from stress. Emmanuel, God with me! He steps into my life and changes everything. When He comes, stress is stripped away, tranquility given in its place.
When I find myself wishing I could have been there that holy night when Jesus was born, He gently reminds me that I had my own manger experience, when God became a personal reality in my life. I have my own holy moments each and every day as I reach out to Him and He is there, right in the middle of my common, ordinary and often smelly circumstance.
Stress has no place in a heart that kneels before the manger. Stress is powerless in a life that continually seeks God and chooses to surrender to His love and care – like the sheep surrender to the love and care of their Shepherd. Psalm 23 describes the intimate, personal and trusting relationship between sheep and shepherd, between child and father, and is not only a beautiful portrait of God's complete and faithful provision, but an arsenal of stress-busting truths and principles that, when embraced and applied, will empower and equip us to live a life of peace and victory.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for your unconditional love and forgiveness. Please help me focus on You and Your presence in my life each day. I pray that any stress in my heart will be swallowed up in the reality that You are faithful and are in control. I know You are not surprised by anything that comes my way and will transform the good into better, the unthinkable into the unstoppable and the unbelievable into fact. I praise You for the amazing way You guide me and lift me up when I fall. I want to focus on You today, and thank You that in doing so, I will experience true peace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think about the way you begin each day. Are you afraid of what the day holds? Do you dread facing whatever comes your way? Or do you focus on God and His promises? Let's encourage one another to walk in faith, peace and victory.
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Stress is one of the enemy's favorite weapons to use against me. Stress has caused physical pain, emotional darkness and spiritual bankruptcy in my life. I constantly have to bring my heart and mind back to God. I know how hard it is to stay balanced and at peace.
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, God's Answer to Stress, for a message that will help you learn to experience God's peace. And be sure to check out Mary's new weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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July 25, 2013
God, Where are You?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"In all their distress he too was distressed," (Isaiah 63:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
When bad things happen we may never understand the why. God tells us, ''For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the LORD. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Dr. James Dobson said: "Trying to analyze His [God's] omnipotence is like an amoeba attempting to comprehend the behavior of man." It's simply not possible. But there is one thing we can be sure of. "All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful," (Psalm 25:10) whether we understand them or not.
When we encounter difficulties, it is easy to jump to conclusions. We may think God is mad at us or He is punishing us. We wonder if God is not blessing us because we've disappointed Him in some way. But all through the Bible we see that some of God's closest friends experienced the darkest nights.
Joseph suffered. David suffered. The disciples suffered. Elizabeth suffered. Mary suffered. Martha suffered. Mary (Jesus' mother) suffered. Paul suffered. Jesus suffered. And each one of these men and women were smack dab in the middle of God's will. The ordinary pabulum of popular religion, of health and prosperity, just doesn't line up with the suffering we see among some of the most godly men and women in Scripture. The abundant life that Jesus came to give does not come without struggle any more than a butterfly can soar without a struggle from its cocoon. We would never slice open a cocoon and expect to find a butterfly ready to fly. Without the struggle, the butterfly could not grow strong enough to take flight.
Jesus warned us that we would have struggles in this life, and yet struggles always seem to catch me by surprise. "Consider it all joy," James said, "when you encounter various trials..." (James 1:2, NASB). Notice James said when and not if. Honestly, I wish there were some other way.
Come to think of it, Jesus wished the same. "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will," (Matthew 26:39). The cross. There was no other way.
Take a look at the names given to the Holy Spirit: Intercessor, Helper, Counselor, and Comforter. The very nature of those names lets us know that we are going to have difficulties this side of heaven, and thankfully God did not leave us to struggle alone. Jesus wept. The Holy Spirit groans. And God's heart aches. In one beautiful sentence, we catch a glimpse into the heart of God as we go through tough times: "In all their distress he too was distressed," (Isaiah 63:9). We may not see God's face during the difficult days of pain, but you can be sure He is there, and many times His face is streaked with tears.
Sometimes life is tough. As we practice Acts 17:28, In Him we live and move and have our being, it does not mean that we will walk down a path void of treacherous twists and turns. It does mean that no matter where the road may lead, we are not alone.
So many times I've cried out with King David, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" only to discover that He was right there with me all the time. None of us knows what the future holds. Sometimes we just need to put our hand in God's and walk around the next corner with Him—even when we don't understand. In that journey of the unknown, we're apt to experience moments of sudden glory in well-placed nuggets of gold.
Let's Pray
Father, even if I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, which is about the scariest place I could ever walk, I will fear no evil...because You are with me. I am placing my hand in Yours and walking around the next corner with You. I don't know what is around that corner, but You do, and that's enough for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 43:1-7. What does God say about His presence when you go through difficult times?
Describe or think of a time when you passed through an emotional fire or river of difficulties.
In light of Isaiah 43:1-7, where was God during that experience? Say it out loud. Click over to my blog and share your answer. It will do your heart good.
More from the Girlfriends
Sometimes the brightest moments of Sudden Glory, moments when God makes his presence known, are seen on the black backdrop of difficult circumstances. We simply need to look for them, expect them, discover them. If you long for more in your relationship with God, if you long to experience His presence on a daily basis, then check out my book A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. Click here to read the first chapter.
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July 26, 2013
Trusting God With Tomorrow
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The LORD said to him, "Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the LORD? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say."
Exodus 4:11-12, NIV
Friend to Friend
On the far side of a desert, high upon the Mountain of God, a voice called out to Moses from within a curious, fiery bush. He had been tending the sheep of his father-in-law's flock – minding his own business – going about his normal day-in-day-out tasks on the day that God spoke to him from the flames. On the day that God called Moses to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a noble prince of Egypt with the world at his feet, he had become a lowly shepherd with dust on his sandals. His crown had been traded in for a staff. The palace days were far behind Moses now. He fled them because of what he had done. Glancing to his left and right to be sure that no one would know what he was about to do, Moses took a horrible situation into his own hands and killed a man. He murdered an Egyptian and covered the death with sand.
Fear and shame bombarded his heart so he fled – away from his dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of humble hiding. The door to his yesterdays was closed. Moses had moved on to a new place. His past was his past and he had no intentions of returning to it. His life was different now. Normal, not noble.
Then God interrupted Moses' new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for Moses were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom – the freedom of His people, the Israelites, who were captives – slaves to Egypt. God called Moses to face the pains of his past so that the Israelites could face a future of freedom. His plans of emancipation required that Moses obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions and trust Him.
Moses quivered and doubted. He made excuses about why he couldn't do it. He felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met Moses at his doubts. He called him to courage and went on to use Moses as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power and freedom. Yes – Moses made mistakes along the way, but God was powerful in, through and in spite of each one. Through it all, God led as only God can. He led with power. He led with purpose. He led with love. And through Moses, God led His people to a new place of promise and freedom.
On the far side of Charlotte, North Carolina, high upon a mountain in a retreat center, a voice called out to me from within a curious and fiery story. I had been tending to my husband and children, to the laundry and the dishes – writing songs and leading worship at women's events – minding my own business – going about my normal day-in-day-out tasks on the day that God spoke to my heart from the testimony of another woman. On the day that God called me to a fresh and fiery mission. A mission of deliverance.
Once a sold-out, dream-filled God-girl, I had become a grace-embracing, yet disqualified-for-anything-big-because-of-what-I-had-done God-girl. My use-me-in-a-big-way-Lord prayers had been traded in for average, can't-have-a-dream-anymore faith-living. My God-dream days were far behind me. I had fled them because of what I had done in my junior year of college. Glancing to my left and right to be sure that no one would know what I was about to do, I took a horrible situation – an unplanned pregnancy – into my own hands and killed a baby. I robbed my baby of life when I had an abortion and covered the death of my precious child with sands of compartmentalizing and reason.
Fear and shame bombarded my heart, so I fled – away from God – away from my dream-filled, royal future to a desert place of heart-hiding. After a season of brokenness, God brought me to a place of beauty, forgiveness and healing. I was restored and redeemed by scandalous, merciful grace. But then the door to my yesterdays was closed. I moved on to a new place in Christ. My past was my past and I had no intentions of returning to it – or to the God-dreams that swelled my heart as a young, sold-out Jesus lover. My life was different now. Normal, not dream-worthy.
Then God interrupted my new normal. He made it undeniably clear that His plans for me were different. Bigger. God's intentions were for freedom – the freedom of His people, the women, who were captives – slaves to their life-wounds. God called me to face the pains of my past so that my Girlfriends in God might face a future of freedom when they hear my testimony. His plans of emancipation required that I obey Him, listen to His voice, follow His instructions and trust Him.
I quivered and doubted. I made excuses about why I couldn't do it. I felt completely unfit and unqualified for such a task. It was risky. But God met me at my doubts. He called me to courage and is using my broken-into-beautiful story as an instrument of deliverance, truth, power and freedom. Yes – I make mistakes along the way, but God is powerful in, through, and in spite of each one. Through each surrendered day, God is leading as only He can. With power – with purpose – with love. And I pray right now that this story – my story – will bring you to a new place of promise and freedom through the grace of Jesus Christ.
What fresh and fiery mission is God calling you to trust Him with, friend? Let me encourage you to stop with the excuses. I'm living proof that God will free anyone from her shame and can use anyone for His purpose. Step up to the burning bush – into God's presence. Listen to His voice. Obey. Follow. Take courage. Trust Him with your past and with your tomorrows. Allow His grace and love to decide what your mission should look like.
But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.
Exodus 9:16, NIV
Let's Pray
Dear God, With a trembling heart, I approach Your throne of grace today in reverence and humility – fully aware that You are holy and I am not. Speak, Lord. Show me the plans you have for me. Bind me to Your Word and to Your strength so I will have the courage to obey. May my brokenness be restored for the beauty of Your glory. Please help me to trust You with my today and tomorrows.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Take a few moments to consider where you've come from and where you feel God is leading you.
Some of you may feel this devotion was written specifically for you. Don't ignore that. Explore it. Let's take the conversation deeper on the wall of my blog or my facebook page. It's time to trust God with your yesterdays, your todays and your tomorrows. Amen?
More From The Girlfriends
30 Day Summer Psalm Adventure:How would you like to join your girlfriends and thousands of other women in a FREE interactive Bible study? If you are ready to go deeper with God by searching and savoring His Word, click over to the 30 Day Summer Psalm Adventure sign up page on Gwen's website and register today!
Gwen's full testimony is featured in her book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. God delights to transform lives ... including your own. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website. Today's devotion is an excerpt from the GiG devotional book Trusting God.
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July 29, 2013
Taming the Tongue
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare (Proverbs 15:1, NLT).
Friend to Friend
It had been one of "those" mornings and I was behind schedule in preparing to teach the women's Tuesday morning Bible study at our church. I am fairly certain I did not exude peace and joy as I rushed around – as my Mama would say - like a chicken with its head cut off. The auditorium was set up correctly. The soundman had my power point ready to go and was waiting to do a sound check. The coffee pot was plugged in and doing its thing. Smiling ladies gathered to greet the Bible study members as they arrived. I paused and breathed a sigh of relief. It looked like everything was ready – everything except my heart.
I knew I needed to spend some time alone with God before standing to teach His Word, so I found a quiet room where I could escape for a few minutes of solitude. As I began to pray, the door flew open and crashed against the wall behind it as the husband of one of our group leaders burst into the room. I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy and that whatever was wrong was definitely my fault. In a very loud and very angry voice, the man began to explain the problem, ending his tirade with the question, "And just what are you going to do about it?"
Sidebar: Guess what lesson I was teaching that particular morning. Remember, God definitely has a sense of humor. The lesson title was "How to Tame Your Tongue."
I knew what I wanted to say to the man. I also knew God didn't want me to say it. In a rare moment of wisdom, I faced my accuser with a smile and whispered, "I'll tell you exactly what I am going to do. I am going to do whatever it takes to make you happy."
I was completely unprepared for the man's reaction. His mouth fell open, his eyes widened in surprise - no, make that shock - and he stumbled backwards as if I had hit him. The silence was deafening. We stared at each other for what seemed like an hour before he finally whispered back, "Thank you!" Without another word, the man turned and literally ran out of the room. The most amazing part of this story is that from that day on, he has been one of my strongest encouragers.
The Bible works, girlfriend! When God says that a gentle answer "deflects" anger, He really means it. In this verse, "deflect" means "to change course" or "to force the alteration of plans." When anger is met with love, it is forced to change its destructive course. The plans of the enemy are altered when they are forced to comply with God's truth. A sweet response yanks the fuse right out of an emotional time bomb that is set and ready to explode. We need to choose our responses instead of allowing our reactions to dictate the words we speak.
Godly responses begin in the mind. I believe that our thought life is the front line of battle for the control of our entire life. Psalm 34:13 warns, "Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies." The word "keep" indicates action on our part. We decide. We choose what is allowed to take up room in our minds. It is literally the idea of a guard standing at the gate of the city, stationed there to keep watch. He is there by invitation only. If we want to live right and speak right – we must think right.
Godly responses come from the heart. If there is something wrong with our words, then there is something wrong with our heart. The truth of Proverbs 16:23 is profound in its simplicity, "A wise man's heart guides his mouth."
A judge utters a few words and a guilty man is taken to death row.
A friend speaks a word of encouragement and a desperate heart finds hope.
A mother lashes out with angry words and the light in her child's eyes is gone.
A wife offers a word of forgiveness and a marriage is restored.
A gossip makes a phone call and a reputation is destroyed.
A teenager says "no" and changes the course of her life.
Words are powerful. Words can destroy or build. We need to make the choice today – to respond in the right way to those angry words that are surely headed our way tomorrow.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to please You and encourage others with the words I speak. Clean my heart, God. Transform my mind and fill my mouth with words that honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine the words you have spoken today in light of the following verses:
Psalm 141:3 "LORD, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say."
Psalm 19:14 "May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer."
How did you do? I encourage you to memorize these two verses. Ask God to let each verse take root in your heart and work its way out in the words you speak.
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I read the following post on Facebook this week: "Lord, please keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth." I really do want to be the kind of woman who pleases God and blesses others with her words. Imagine what your world would look like if your words were filled with encouragement and love.
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July 30, 2013
Something Beautiful
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me" (Matthew 26:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I am completely crazy about cool jewelry, so when the Lord prompted me to take off my favorite necklace and give it to the woman who had just admired it, I tried to pretend I did not hear Him.
"It's mine, God!" I reasoned. "It isn't replaceable! Why would ask me to do that?"
My self-plan did not like the God-plan laid out before me. God was asking me to give up something that meant a lot to me so that another woman could be blessed. It seemed crazy. Unnecessary. However, in this instance, through the strength of Christ, I chose to obey even though I did not want too. It hurt. It cost me big. I felt the loss.
God softened my childish heart, however, as the woman wept at the Lord's blessing. As I silently confessed my selfish thoughts, God poured a deep joy into my soul. He showed me that my sacrifice was an act of worship to Him. Blessings boomeranged right back to my heart as I humbly thanked Him for allowing me to participate in His moment with her. It was a beautiful thing.
There are just times when I would rather give gifts that don't cost me too much. That is probably something that only I wrestle with, right? (Wink! Wink!) It is hard to be open handed with things that we hold dear, isn't it? Some of us struggle with an unwillingness to give away material things or money. Others hold tightly to our schedules, our affections, or our availability while still others try to keep a tight reign on our children, grandchildren, spouses, parents or other people in our life.
God must have known we would struggle with this because His Word addresses this issue and shows us a beautiful picture of surrendered devotion in Mary of Bethany. The offering she poured out onto the feet of Jesus was worth a year's wages. She lavished her costly perfume, her attention, her affection, her time and her worship on Jesus because she loved Him. He was her Savior. Her Friend. Her Hope. The Healer who had miraculously brought life back to the stench of death that had fallen on her brother Lazarus.
"While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of a man known as Simon the Leper, a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table.
When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. "Why this waste?" they asked. "This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor."
Aware of this, Jesus said to them, "Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me. The poor you will always have with you, but you will not always have me. When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial. I tell you the truth, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her."(Matthew 26:6-13, NIV)
The Message version says it this way:"She has just done something wonderfully significant for me." (Matthew 26:10)
When I read this story, I am compelled to wonder if God sees a beautiful thing when He looks at my life. Does He see me do anything that is wonderfully significant for Him?
What do you think He sees when he looks at your life?
Does He see a beautiful thing?
The more time we spend with God and reading His Word, the more beautiful our life will become. Therefore, here is my challenge to you: I challenge you to commit 15 minutes a day to God for one week. Just one week. Can you do that? Read a chapter in the Psalms and spend time in prayer each day for seven days. Make the sacrifice. If you already have a disciplined quiet time, I challenge you to add 15 minutes of prayer time. It will be a beautiful thing to both you and God.
When we open the hands of our lives to His presence, to His service and for His glory, rest assured God will see a beautiful thing. When we obey His promptings and listen to His voice that whispers to our soul, He will fill us to overflowing with joy, peace, satisfaction and His beauty.
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Let's Pray
Dear God, You are worth far more praise than I could ever give. Please help me to rest in Your presence and trust in Your plan. Fill me with Your perspective until I joyfully lay down my will for Yours. Lord, when You look at my life, I want You to see beautiful.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider what you are holding back from God. Spend time in prayer returning it to Him.
Read Psalm 96 Read through it a second time, but pause after each verse with a personal and prayerful response to God. Journal any verses that you want to remember.
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July 31, 2013
The Gideon Complex
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends (Psalm 100:3, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Situational ethics is now being taught in many of our public schools. One teacher, wanting to illustrate that human reasoning is many times wrong, gave the following situation to a class of high school students:
"How would you advise a mother who was pregnant with her fifth child based on the following facts: Her husband had syphilis and she had tuberculosis. Their first child was born blind, the second child died. A third child was born deaf while their fourth child had tuberculosis. The mother is considering an abortion. Would you advise her to have one?"
In view of these facts, most of the students agreed that the mother should have an abortion. The teacher then announced, "If you said 'yes,' you would have just killed the great composer, Ludwig von Beethoven."
You and I were created as a living, fleshed out depiction of God's love. We can celebrate the precious truth of Psalm 139:14-16 (NCV), "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old."
Just think of it! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created in love – for love and with a specific and holy purpose in mind. We can rejoice with the Psalmist who wrote, "Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends" (Psalm 100:3, NCV).
Many women buy into the lie that we are little more than puppets in the hands of God; that He created us as tools for His personal use or slaves to do His bidding and carry out His plan. In this verse, "Lord" literally means "Father" or "dearest Daddy," indicating an intimate relationship between a loving Father and His child.
God undoubtedly has plans for us, but we misunderstand the character and heart of God when we assume those plans serve as a punishment or penalty for not being good enough. Jeremiah understood the heart of God toward His children when he wrote, "I know what I am planning for you," says the Lord. "I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future" (Jeremiah 29:11, NCV). The best plan, the highest plan for our lives rests in the hands of the One who created us.
In the early days of the automobile, a man's Model - T Ford stalled in the middle of the road. No matter what he tried, he couldn't get the care started. A chauffeured limousine pulled up behind the stalled car and a wiry, energetic man stepped from the back seat to offer his assistance. After tinkering with the engine for a few moments, the stranger said, "Now try it!" The engine immediately leaped to life. The well-dressed man then identified himself as Henry Ford. "I designed and built these cars," he said, "So I know what to do when something goes wrong."
When our lives are broken, when the plan falls apart and everything goes wrong, we need to wait on God, knowing He created us and knows us best and loves us most. We are chosen, just like Gideon.
The Bible is filled with men and women who were unlikely servants. Weak, fearful and unwilling, they fought against the call of God, offering excuses and pleading for exemption – just like we do. Gideon was such a man.
Judges 6:11-16 (NIV) "The angel of the Lord came and sat down under the oak in Ophrah that belonged to Joash the Abiezrite, where his son Gideon was threshing wheat in a winepress to keep it from the Midianites. When the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon, he said, "The Lord is with you, mighty warrior." "But sir," Gideon replied, "If the Lord is with us, why has all this happened to us? Where are all his wonders that our fathers told us about when they said, 'Did not the Lord bring us up out of Egypt?' But now the Lord has abandoned us and put us into the hand of Midian." The Lord turned to him and said, "Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian's hand. Am I not sending you?" "But Lord, "Gideon asked, "how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family." The Lord answered, "I will be with you, and you will strike down all the Midianites together."
Like Gideon, we listen to the wrong voices, bow to the wrong audience, and diligently catalog flimsy excuses in hopes of escaping whatever step of faith God asks us to take. In doing so, we miss the highest blessings He has to offer.
I want it all! I want everything God has for me! I don't want to miss a single step on my journey to the heart of God. I want to be the woman God created and now calls me to be. How?
Gideon was a farmer, a family man just trying to earn a living and put food on the table. Like us, he felt inadequate and unworthy of God's choice. But God saw what Gideon would become, not just what he was. The angel called Gideon a "mighty warrior," a title that is almost laughable because Gideon certainly didn't look like a mighty warrior nor did he act like one. Therefore, the only explanation or reason he could possibly become a mighty warrior was because the "Lord would be with him." Gideon surrendered to God. He didn't understand God's plan, but he trusted God and chose to step out in faith.
Just as God chose Gideon, He has chosen you. Just as God equipped and empowered Gideon, he will equip and empower you. Just surrender.
Let's Pray
Father, I now surrender to Your plan for my life. I am afraid and feel unworthy and unprepared. But I trust You to provide the strength and power I need to obey You. In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read James 2:14. Examine your life in light of the faith James describes in this verse. Record your thoughts, identifying the area(s) in your life that are most plagued with doubt. Spend time this week, submitting those areas, in faith, to the power of God.
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August 1, 2013
The Velveteen Woman
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Most of us have read or heard of the childhood classic, The Velveteen Rabbit. Perhaps you first heard the story snuggled in your mother's lap or like me, as an adult with a child snuggled in your lap. Like many children's books, the message carries a profound truth that resonates more with adults than with kids.
The story begins...
"There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid. He was fat and bunchy, as a rabbit should be; his coat was spotted brown and white, he had real thread whiskers, and his ears were lined with pink sateen. On Christmas morning, when he sat wedged in the top of the Boy's stocking, with a spring of holly between his paws, the effect was charming.
"The boy loved the rabbit...for at least two hours, but then he was put on the nursery shelf with all the other toys. Because he was velveteen, some of the more expensive toys snubbed him. Some of the toys boasted about being fashioned as smaller models of real things, such as boats and soldiers. But the rabbit didn't even know that there was such a thing as a real rabbit. He thought all were just as he was, stuffed with sawdust. But one night, the rabbit made a fascinating discovery.
"The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else...
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse "You become real. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
The Velveteen Rabbit wasn't even sure what a rabbit was supposed to do. He just knew there had to be more to life than being filled with sawdust and sitting on a shelf.
Being real. That's what really matters. I don't want to wait until most of my hair has fallen out and I've lost my stuffing. I want to be real right now. So what if I don't look as shiny as the other toys in the nursery.
Yes, sometimes it is painful to become real. It takes courage. But until we do, we'll find that our existence sitting on the shelves is just a dim reflection of the abundant life that Jesus came to give.
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Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know that You want me to be real and honest with those around me. Jesus was. He never pretended to be something that He wasn't and He didn't pretend not to be something that He was. I am Your child with many faults, failures, and foibles. I made mistakes in my past and will make mistakes in my future. I pray that I will always have the courage to be real with those around me and never participate in religious pretending because of concern over what others may think. I'm just me: saved, sealed, and delivered! In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's get into Scripture and see what we can learn about being real.
Read Genesis 25:23-34. Who was Jacob?
How did he trick his brother? (Genesis 25:29-34)
How did he trick his father? (Genesis 27)
Jacob was pretending to be someone he was not. In the end, it caused much heartache.
Read Genesis 32:22-30 What question did God ask Jacob? How did he answer God differently than he answered his dad in Genesis 27?
What did God do once Jacob became real and stopped pretending to be someone he wasn't?
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August 2, 2013
Don't Scratch That Itch
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me.' For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed (James 1:13-14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I once woke up with a spider bite that was the size of a quarter. It may as well have been the size of North Carolina for as much as it itched! I was half-tempted to scratch off my arm. That nasty bite was just begging to be scratched. However, I have learned a thing or two in my forty-plus years, and one thing I know for sure: it is best not to scratch this type of itch.
It would be like opening a bag of chips with the naive intention of eating only one.Yeah, right! I knew that if I started scratching my bug bite, it would be nearly impossible to stop. I would regret having ever started.
Super-itchy bug bites are a lot like temptations. Temptations are itchy! The call to us with urgent voices that scream, "Scratch me! Scratch me!" Yet, in all reality, a little scratch will not satisfy temptation's itch at all... it will just make matters worse. When we scratch the itch of temptation, the itch does not diminish. To the contrary, it increases.
The Bible teaches us that when we resist temptation, our faith is mobilized and our character is strengthened. Joseph is a great example of this. (For the full account, pause here and read Genesis 39.)
Joseph was a man of integrity who did right in the eyes of the Lord. Even so, he faced some serious temptations. His boss's wife, Mrs. Potiphar, seduced him. Yowsa! You see, Mrs. Potiphar wanted her husband's right-hand man to sleep with her, and she pursued him with aggression. Her temptation was a hand-delivered invitation for Joseph to sin that had itchy written all over it. But he flat-out refused. His heart was determined to honor God.
"My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" Though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her (Genesis 39:9-10).
Temptation chased Joseph relentlessly. Day after day. Oh, how he must have longed for the itching to stop! To give in would be sinful. To give in was simply not an option for this young man of character. So on the day that Potiphar's wife caught him by the cloak and begged again for Joseph to sleep with her, Joseph ran out of the house. He ran from that tempting situation as fast as his legs would carry him.
God was honored in Joseph's response.
He ran from temptation.
We would be wise to do the same.
What do you need to run from today? Have you determined in your heart to honor God in everything? Temptation comes in all shapes and sizes. It might be calling your name from your pantry – or from your computer – or in a sale ad – or from a bottle – or from another cubicle in your office. What temptations do you face today? Name them and run the other way! Don't scratch that itch! Determine in your heart that you will choose the path that brings honor to God, and call on Him for strength.
Dealing with temptation is not easy. When that nasty spider bit my arm, I struggled not to scratch the bite. I had to re-direct my thinking to persevere through the temptation. When we come face to face with temptations, God's strength is always available to us. We need God's strength. Ours will fail us. Friend, when you resist temptation: you position yourself in the peace and protection of God, your faith is mobilized and your character is strengthened.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I need You so much. I constantly find myself being dragged away and enticed by temptation. Please strengthen me to run the other way, and give me the wisdom to run to Your arms. I want to be a woman of godly character. Help me be that woman! In Jesus's name,
amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I wish my temptations were always as simple as the itch of a pesky little bug bite! But, of course, they are not. Each of us will encounter some real whoppers in our lives. James chapter one tells us that when we persevere through trials and temptations, one rewards is maturity. That really encourages me! I hope it encourages you as well.
What have you been dragged away and enticed by in the past? How did you respond? How have you grown from those experiences? Tell me about it on my blog or my Facebook page.
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August 5, 2013
Giving Up Control
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But he [God] said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong, (2 Corinthians 12:9-10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The angels were hovering low in our church on this particular Sunday morning. It was a special day for a group of ten "kids" known as the King's Kids. They were leading worship by singing a special song – only many of the kids couldn't carry a tune, walk on their own, or even control their limbs.
We sat in silence as the unlikely band of worship leaders stumbled onto the stage. Each of these children of God had a disability and visible handicap. The King's Kids lined up on the stage, many with adults standing behind them to support them, both physically and emotionally. Kristen, a young lady with Down syndrome appeared to be the leader. She stood out in front of the others with confidence, strength, and passion.
The sound track began and the King's Kids began to "sing" with their hands in sign language. "Press on," their hands proclaimed. With wide sweeping motions and uninhibited praise, Kristen sang with arms and hands to the One who loved her most.
There was one girl in particular who caught my eye. She was not able to do the signs by herself. Her limbs were much too weak and uncontrolled. I watched as this gal leaned into a woman standing behind her and surrendered her arms and hands. While the others signed the words to the song, the woman moved her young charge's hands in tandem with the others. Beth simply leaned into her helper and relinquished control.
Then God spoke to my heart: That is what I want you to do. Lean into Me, relinquish control, and allow Me to move your life in a symphony of worship.
We all have disabilities. While the handicaps vary, God longs for each one of us to do as Beth did on that Sunday morning. Lean into Him. Relinquish control. Allow God to move us to His song.
There was not a dry eye in the 2000-seat sanctuary that morning. These precious Kids had many wounds and scars in their young lives, but they encouraged each of us to "press on" through our own struggles and hardships. Their disabilities were visible, yet those of us who sat in the pews had disabilities that were not visible to the naked eye but just as real.
I wonder what God wants to accomplish through you. I wonder how long He's been waiting for you to lean into Him and let Him take control.
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Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that when I am weak, You are strong. Take my hands and feet and move them to Your rhythm of life. I yield myself totally to You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you describe your willingness to give up control of your life to God? Stubborn as a grease stain, or submissive as a chalk mark?
What are some areas that you tend to hang onto and take control?
What do you think would happen if you gave control of your life totally to God?
If God does not have total control of your life, what's stopping you from turning over the reins?
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August 6, 2013
Let Peace Rule
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts (Colossians 3:15a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Peace seems to be on everyone's mind, which is nothing new. It seems to me that we have been chasing peace since time began. We want a peaceful world, a peaceful home, and a peaceful workplace – a peaceful life. I know people who would give everything they have for a few minutes of peace. Peace cannot be found in a treaty or negotiation or political party. Peace is an inside job and can only be found in one place – a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. When we know Him, we can experience and know peace.
Peace is the condition of wholeness and the sense of well - being that comes from knowing God and being made right in His eyes. Peace is completely dependent upon His presence in us and upon His gift of eternal life. We come into this world with an ache in our soul, a longing in our heart and a deep sense of being lost. When we find God, we find home. Peace immediately takes up residence in our hearts, and we are eternally "found."
When our son, Jered, was a little boy, he and his dad often went for a walk after dinner while I put Danna to bed. One night, Dan decided to test Jered's sense of direction. "How far are we from home, son?" Dan asked. Jered answered, "Dad, I don't know." Dan then asked, "Well, where are you?" Again, Jered answered, "I don't know." Dan laughed, "Sounds to me like you are lost." Jered looked up at his father, grinned and said, "Nope, I can't be lost. I'm with you." With God, we experience peace.
However, understanding peace does not always guarantee the presence of peace. I am often guilty of filling my days with so many appointments, tasks, meetings, and activities that peace disintegrates before noon. Paul encourages us to "let the peace of Christ rule" in our hearts. The word "rule" is an athletic term meaning "to preside at the games and distribute the prizes." Sounds like a day at the office to me!
In the Greek games, there were judges who rejected the contestants that were not qualified, and disqualified those who broke the rules. Today, we would call them "umpires" and the playing field of peace would be our hearts. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." Peace begins its reign in the center of our being; it then works its way out into every nook and cranny of life - if we allow peace to rule.
Admittedly, there are times when an umpire seems like a good idea because many of us relish a good fight. We say we want peace but not at the price of giving up control or surrendering personal agendas. We must stand firm in our resolve to pursue harmony and peace, even if it means giving up rights and yielding control.
Relationships must be committed to peace. It is difficult to wage war with someone who has laid down his or her weapons in an act of surrender. Ah, there's that dreaded word again - surrender.
Surrender is the heartbeat of peace. The choice to surrender initiates the process of allowing peace to rule. I guess you could say that the peace of God is our "umpire" and always stands ready to make the calls that will lead us to rest in and trust Him. But first comes the choice to "let" peace rule. The work of peace is always unleashed by our choice, our invitation.
How is the peace level in your life? I know that we live in uncertain times and can often fall prey to worry, doubt and fear. We don't understand what is happening or why. Solutions seem scarce while problems multiply. What should we do? Stop! Take a deep breath and remember who you are - and whose you are. You are a child of the King, girlfriend. He is fully aware of your circumstances. Where you are is no surprise to Him. God often allows His children to be cast into a fiery furnace, but His hand is always on the thermostat. Stand firm in your faith and choose peace.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You today because You are my peace. Your presence in my life ushers in true peace and lets my soul rest. Forgive me when I cram my days with urgent things that are not always the important things. Help me discern Your plan for my life each day so that I can walk in peace. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you define the concept of peace in your life? Is your heart and mind filled with chaos and stress instead of peace? Identify the source of stress in your life and make any adjustments necessary to bring that area under control. Write out your own "Peace Treaty" with God and share it with a friend. When you feel as if your life is spinning out of control, remember to rest in Him.
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August 7, 2013
You are God's Beautiful Masterpiece
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was sitting in a crowded restaurant with my family when she walked by in her full-length white satin dress delicately trimmed in lace and studded with tiny "jewels," crinoline that swished as she moved across the room, a rhinestone tiara upon her head, and pearl studded slippers on her feet. Golden ringlets framed her rosy cheeks and puckered lips glistened with a hint of gloss. She knew she was beautiful and glanced around at the admiring smiles of onlookers as she walked through the crowd. She was three-years-old.
I'm not sure when the dream to be beautiful enters a little girl's mind, but I do know when the dream ends – when the preacher says, "may she rest in peace."
I remember as a little girl sneaking into my mother's closet and slipping my child-size feet into her size seven high heels. I'd also stand on my tiptoes on a chair, pull a hat off the top shelf, and plop it on my head like an over-sized lampshade. Her satin evening jacket with sleeves that hung eight inches below my finger tips gave a nice elegant touch to my outfit.
A lady going to a party would never be caught without "putting on her face," so I crept into the bathroom, opened the forbidden drawer, and created a clownish work of art on the palette of my face. Red rouge circles on my cheeks, heaps of blue eye shadow on my munchkin lids, and smeared orange lipstick far exceeding the proper border were finished off with a dusting of facial powder with a fluffy applicator.
From the time a little girl stretches on her tiptoes to get a peek in the mirror, she desires to be beautiful – perhaps like her mommy. I believe the dream to be beautiful is not cultural, but at the very core of womanhood.
John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, describes three longings that lie at the heart of every man: a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue, an adventure to live. He also ventures to say that women have three longings of the heart as well: to be fought for, to share in an adventure, and to have her beauty unveiled.
"Not to conjure," Eldredge explains, "but to unveil. Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what I speak of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or 'twirling skirts,' those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She'll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight."
A woman was and is one of God's most magnificent creations. As a matter of fact, she was His grand finale. After He fashioned Eve, creation was complete and He took a rest! God has placed in our hearts a love for beauty and a desire to be beautiful – as He defines it.
In the New Testament, Paul writes, "For we are God's workmanship" (Ephesians 2:10). The Greek word for workmanship means a work of art. Listen to these words as David describes the Creator at work.
For you created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
When I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
Your eyes saw my unformed body. (Psalm 139:13-16)
Like an artist who sees the finished work in his mind's eye, God saw your unformed substance and then began to fashion you from head to toe. He made no mistakes but planned each detail of your being. You do not need to compare yourself to other works of art, but thank the Artist for how He chose to create the masterpiece called...you.
Now, click over to my Facebook page and tell me three aspects of your body that you are thankful for!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank you for making each and every part of my being. For eyes that see, ears that hear, legs that move, fingers that feel, arms that hug, feet that run, a heart that beats, a brain that thinks, a tongue that tastes. Oh Lord, forgive me when I complain about your workmanship and wish for something different. Help me to always remember that I am Your masterpiece. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of all the parts of your body that you are thankful for. This could take quite some time and perhaps you'll need to come back to your list several times before it is complete.
Get out an anatomy book or visit a web page that shows the various body systems (the circulatory system, the nervous system, the skeletal muscles, etc.) and read about the intricacies of the human body.
If you have children, look at the various systems together and marvel at God's incredible creation.
Look up the following verses and note what they say about your beauty:
2 Corinthians 3:18
Psalm 45:11
1 Peter 3:3-5
Proverbs 11:22 (This verse describes a woman who is beautiful on the outside, but unattractive on the inside.)
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All little girls have dreams, but for most of us, life doesn't turn out like we thought. But did you know that God has great dreams for you? Yes, He wants to fulfill your little girl dreams in His own way. And that's not all, He has greater plans for you than you ever imagined. Put your hand in His and dare to dream again! Learn how in my book 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Fulfills Them.
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August 8, 2013
The Perfect Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Lord, you are my strength and my protection, my safe place in times of trouble (Jeremiah 16:19, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The comfort of God is faithful and strong - even during the fiercest storms of life. I enjoy movies that have a happy ending. My family constantly teases me about my surreal perspective of movie entertainment, but honestly, life holds enough reality. Why would I want to pay good money to see even more reality made bigger and more frightening on a gigantic movie screen? When the movie, "The Perfect Storm," was first released, the previews suggested it had a happy ending. I should have known better, but we love the water and really, how bad could it be?
We bought tickets, popcorn and drinks, found the best seats in the theatre and prepared to be entertained. Wrong! Every scene showed tiny boats caught in the grip of frightening waves and fierce winds. I kept waiting for the storm to die down so everyone could go home with a boat full of fish to their anxious families who were confidently waiting for them on dry land. Crash! Another monstrous wave belted the boat and crew. By the end of the movie, I never wanted to set foot on a boat again and was worn out from trying to get everyone home where they would live happily ever after. I was tempted to demand a refund because of false advertising. Believe me, there was definitely no happy ending but I did come away with a new fascination and deep respect for the sea.
I have a friend who loves to sail. When I asked him if he had ever been caught in a bad storm, he responded, "Many times!" I shook my head in disbelief concluding that my friend was obviously a glutton for punishment. Of course, I had to ask, "Then why on earth do you keep sailing?" His answer was profound. "Mary, every sailor knows that there will be storms. You just learn what to do when the storm hits. In a severe storm, there is only one thing to do and only one way to survive. You have to put the ship in a certain position and keep her there."
The same is true in our lives. When the fierce storms of life overwhelm us, there is only one thing to do if we want to survive those storms. We must position ourselves in the right place – in the hands of God – and He will keep us there until the storm has passed.
The words of the psalmist are filled with confidence and hope when he writes, "He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed" (Psalm 107:29). We really can trust God to bring peace and to reduce the fiercest storm to a mere whisper. The faithful provision and sustaining comfort of God at work in our life depends on the character and heart of God and our willingness to trust Him.
I love my children with all of my heart. Naturally, there are times when they make me very angry. They make wrong choices and sometimes even disappoint me, but if they are hurt, sick or in trouble, the anger, disappointment and even disobedience is overruled by my love for them and a driving need to comfort them. If my imperfect heart responds to my imperfect children that way, think about how the perfect heart of our heavenly Father responds to us.
Richard Fuller writes: "This, Christian, is what you must do. Sometimes, like Paul, you can see neither sun nor stars, and no small tempest lies on you. Reason cannot help you. Past experiences give you no light. Only a single course is left. You must stay upon the Lord; and come what may -- winds, waves, cross seas, thunder, lightening, frowning rocks, roaring breakers -- no matter what, you must lash yourself to the helm and hold fast your confidence in God's faithfulness and his everlasting love in Christ Jesus."
We can face every storm with confidence, knowing that God will redeem it for good. We can trust few things in this life, but God's faithfulness is one of them. When the hard times come, and the storms roll in, trust God and hold on. He is with you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for Your faithfulness in my life. Forgive me when I let fear and doubt take over my heart and mind instead of choosing to trust You. Give me eyes to see the treasure buried at the heart of every storm and help me to choose joy - even when I don't understand what You are doing in my life. Teach me, Lord. Let my life be an illustration of Your strength perfected in my weakness. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Do you really believe we can experience joy – even in the midst of the fiercest storm? Explain.
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
Memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 and record it in your journal. Share your decision to become a woman of faith with other women who have the same desire.
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August 9, 2013
The Everlasting God
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The eternal God is your refuge, and his everlasting arms are under you (Deuteronomy 33:27a).
Friend to Friend
My curiosity begs to understand life. My mind longs for logic. I am not overly fond of ungraspable concepts. When I was a child I asked a million questions. Why is the sky blue? Are angels all men? Why do bad things happen? Why can't we send my brussel sprouts to the starving children in Africa? Who created God?
I wanted answers.
I still do.
Give me a story that grabs my attention at the beginning. Fill it with intrigue. Throw in some high conflict and drama in the middle and then catch the bad guys, tie up the loose ends and call it done. Cue the applause. Bring down the curtain. But don't even think about leaving me hanging... and certainly don't ask me to tune in next week for the missing story-pieces.
Now that you are clued in on a bit of my "crazy," you can imagine how I reacted as a youngster when the concept of infinity was introduced in math class. Suit me up for a straight jacket and take me to a rubber room. I thought my math teacher was nuts. You mean I'm supposed to comprehend, work with and accept something that has no beginning and no ending? Really? That's not neat. It's not simple. It makes my brain hurt to even think about it!
Pure frustration, packaged in a sideways figure eight.
A mind-maddening math mystery.
Infinity.
Once I rose above the psychological drama-trauma of this new math concept, I figured out how to solve problems with infinity: even though I couldn't wrap my brain around it. I completed my homework assignments and passed the tests – without so much as running my fingernails down the chalkboard in a defiant, adolescent tantrum of revolt. Miracle.
There are a few characteristics of God that I find difficult to grasp. As you may have guessed, His eternal nature is one. It's not easy to understand. As much as my inner four-year-old would like it to, the Bible does not begin with once upon a time, and it does not end with and they all lived happily ever after. The love saga of God, written in crimson by Christ, is a mystery that began before the dawn of time and goes on forever. God's existence defies space, matter and time. It transcends it!
Let His eternal nature blow your mind for a minute...
Behold, God is great, and we know him not; the number of his years is unsearchable.(Job 36:26)
Have you not known? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.(Isaiah 40:28)
God is God.
He is great.
Unsearchable.
There is no one like Him, not one. Not now. Not ever. He is uniquely and mysteriously eternal. El Olam: The Everlasting God, Olam meaning world, universe, everlasting time or space. His existence cannot be featured on a timeline because it does not come neatly packaged with a clearly defined beginning and ending. In fact, He is the Beginning and the End – the Alpha and Omega – the First and the Last.
Abraham called out to El Olam. In Genesis 21:33, we read, Abraham planted a tamarisk tree in Beersheba and called there on the name of the Lord, the Everlasting God. Moses referred to the eternal nature of God as well. Just before he died, Moses called God Elohei Kedem, the Hebrew name that means Eternal God, when he handed out blessings of strength and security to the people of the tribe of Asher.
There is no one like the God of Israel. He rides across the heavens to help you, across the skies in majestic splendor. The eternal God is your refuge, and his everlasting arms are under you. (Deuteronomy 33:26-27a)
I would guess that, like me, you love the thought of God as your refuge. My heart completely resonates with the concept of His everlasting arms beneath me. Holding me. Protecting me. Guiding me. Do I fully understand it? Not at all... but it sure does help me to accept the concept of God's eternal nature. More than that, it helps me to embrace His infinite nature.
When we allow the One who is beyond space, matter and time into our space, matter and time, we position ourselves to experience El Olam as a refuge for all eternity. You and I run out of energy. We grow weary. We lose heart. God never does. The Everlasting God does not faint or grow weary and when we call out to Him, He renews our strength and revives our hope.
Yeah. I'm the girl who wants life to make sense, but I've been learning that there are some things in life that we just need to accept, rather than understand. Things we need to take at face value... at faith value. For me, this is one of them. I worship El Olam – who was and is and is to come. Infinite Grace. I'm so grateful that on the day my lungs breathe my final earthly breath, and my eyes lift to see Jesus face to face all my questions will be not only satisfied, but also forgotten. Not just for a moment, but for all eternity.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, El Olam, Everlasting God, You surely are great! You are the most amazing mystery I will ever know. Help me to trust You, beyond my understanding. Increase my faith, and help my life to reflect Your infinite grace. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Our problems are finite... they have a beginning and an end. God's ability to meet us at each challenge is not limited by space or time. Are there people or challenges with which you feel God is calling you trust Him deeper with? Let's take this conversation deeper. Leave a comment or response on my blog or on my facebook page.
Music Connection...I'm a worship girl, so I want to be sure to point you to a song that celebrates the ungraspable nature of our awesome God. The song is called "Unsearchable" and it is the title track to my "Unsearchable Live" CD. Hear a sample of the song on the music page of my site.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here! Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new book, Knowing God by Name, is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an ...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Name by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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August 12, 2013
Why Me?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts' (Isaiah 55:8-9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
There is nothing wrong with us trying to understand why the wounds of life occur; however, the Bible clearly tells us not to depend on or lean on our ability to answer the tough question...why. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart," the writer of Proverbs tells us, "and do not lean on your own understanding" (Proverbs 3:5). Don't depend on your own mind to figure life out.
Ultimately, God is in control and His ways are higher than ours. God reminds us, "'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts'" (Isaiah 55:8-9). Dr. James Dobson, in his book, When God Doesn't Make Sense says "trying to analyze His (God's) omnipotence is like an amoeba attempting to comprehend the behavior of man." It is simply not possible.
But one thing we can be sure of, "all the ways of the Lord are loving and faithful," whether we understand them or not (Psalm 25:10).
Paul wrote: "Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known" (1 Corinthians 13:12).
It may not be until we cross over from the temporal to the eternal that we understand the many "whys" of life. Until then, we must trust in the sovereignty of God.
No matter what we have gone through or what we will go through in the future, God promises: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand: " (Isaiah 41:10).
God wants to know if we will trust Him no matter what our outward circumstances may be – even if it means death. Will we say with Job "Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him" (Job 13:15)?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, There are so many times when something happens in my life and I simply just don't understand. It is during those times that I cling to what I do know. You love me. You have a plan for me. All your ways are loving and all your ways are good. Help me to remember that song in my heart when the melody grows dim. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you asked God "Why?"
What one verse in today's devotion speaks the most to you?
Consider writing that verse on an index card and committing it to memory. Then each time the enemy taunts you with doubts, you shoot that verse right back at him.
More from the Girlfriends
Life does not always turn out like we thought it would, but God has a plan for each and every one of us. If you'd like to learn more about those plans and how God fulfills them, check out my book, 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Fulfills Them. In it you read about how God turns your shattered dreams into a beautiful masterpiece...when you let go of the broken pieces and give them to Him.
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August 13, 2013
Learning to Abide
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me, and I in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do nothing (John 15:4-5, NASB).
Friend to Friend
It's that time of year again. Schools are recruiting parents to help with classroom duties, sports teams are looking for team moms, your church is asking for help ... and the list seems to go on and on. How do you react when an opportunity for service presents itself? Do you feel guilty saying "no" and end up saying "yes" because if you don't do it, no one will?
Why do women feel as if they have to do it all? Oh, I am certain that a woman can do just about anything she sets her mind to do. I'm just not sure she can or should do it all at the same time.
For years, I tried to earn the love and approval of God by doing everything I could find to do. If a position needed filling, I filled it. If a job needed doing, I did it. If volunteers were called for, mine was the first hand raised. After all, if I was doing all of these important things, I must be important - right?
The result was two dark years spent at the bottom of a deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. It was as if God allowed me to run to the end of myself, and then shut the door and turned out the lights. I heard Him loud and clear, "That is enough! It is time for you to abide in me." I knew very little about "abiding" but a whole lot about "doing." I soon learned that to abide in God, to rest in Him requires a balanced life with right priorities.
One of the main factors in my battle with clinical depression was that I didn't understand how to live a balanced life. I found it difficult to set boundaries, failed to establish margins of time for the unplanned or unexpected, and unwittingly surrendered my God-ordained priorities to the empty, vain addiction of just "doing the next thing." The loudest voice got my attention and my energy.
Balance can easily become a casualty of the ongoing battle of establishing right priorities. While sitting in the darkness, waiting on God, I discovered that the pit of despair is a very common destination for those who refuse to measure and balance the sometimes overwhelming demands of home, family, friends, work and personal growth. I had been running the race for the wrong audience and was relying on my own very limited power instead of God's power.
I wish I could tell you that I now lead a perfectly balanced life, but the truth is that I constantly have to examine and evaluate my priorities and goals in order to find the holy balance God intends. Many of you tell me that you have the same struggle.
Just like you, I have to make difficult choices between the good things and the best things. When I make the wrong choices, I can sense myself sliding toward the dangerous edge of that deep, dark pit. I don't want to go there again – so the battle continues. The good news is that I don't have to fight this battle alone and neither do you. God is with us, urging us toward the light and His restoration power that comes from a heart and life that rests and abides in Him.
I have decided that a perfectly balanced life was lived only once on this earth – by Jesus Christ. My chances of doing so are slim. It would be so easy to just throw my hands in the air or dive back under the covers and pray that the world will just go away and leave me alone. Been there? You are not alone, girlfriend. Gwen, Sharon and I fight the same battle every single day. We are all in different seasons of life, but the struggle is the same as we learn how to put God first and then allow Him to set our agenda for each day.
Let's Pray
Father, I desperately need Your guidance in setting priorities and goals. I am so tired of trying to please everyone in my life. I want to please You and do what You alone have created me to do. Help me learn how to listen for Your voice. Teach me how to see and do Your perfect plan for my life. I want to live each day abiding in You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside 30 minutes this week to spend alone with God.
Examine your life for areas that are out of balance.
Record each area in your journal.
Surrender that unbalanced area to God and ask Him to show you how to abide in Him instead of relying upon yourself and your own strength.
Set aside one day this month for a silent retreat. Go to the beach – a park – or even your back yard! Just get alone with God and take a spiritual inventory of your priorities, time management and goals. The results may surprise you.
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August 14, 2013
Bitter or Better – The Choice is Yours
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many (Hebrews 12:15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"She's just a bitter old woman!" Have you ever heard someone described in that way? I have. And amazingly, when someone uses the word "bitter," I know exactly what they mean. Webster defines bitter as "galling; exhibiting intense animosity, harshly reproachful, marked by cynicism and rancor." It stems from deep seated anger and unforgiveness that plants itself into a soul and is watered and fertilized by playing and replaying the video of the offense in the theater of the mind.
Paul warns us that having a "root of bitterness" can grow up and "defile many" (Hebrews 12:15). James tell us that bitterness is from the devil (James 3:14-15). And Peter cautions that bitterness can keep us from being effective in ministry (Acts 8:20-23).
The only way to be free of bitterness is to let go of past offenses and refuse to collect them. Collect antiques, Beanie Babies, or even shoes. But don't collect grudges. There's not enough storage space in your heart to bear the load. Grudges just tumble out every time the door to your mouth is opened.
"My mother used to be a bitter woman," Tim explained. "But then she got Alzheimer's disease and forgot what she was so bitter about. She actually became a very pleasant person to be around." Oh that we would forget while we are still well enough to enjoy the freedom!
Rather than growing bitter, choose to be better! Think on the words to this poem found in John Cook's book, The Book of Positive Quotations.
The Hard Way
For every hill I've had to climb,
For every stone that busied my feet,
For all the blood and sweat and grime,
For blinding storms and burning heat,
My heart sings but a grateful song-
These were the things that made me strong.
Those do not sound like the words of a bitter person but a better person.
Hurt is inevitable in relationships. We are sinful creatures living in a fallen world, and it is only by the grace of God that we can be a blessing to anyone. The only way to be better rather than bitter is to extend the same grace to others that God extended to us through Jesus Christ. The key to writing a beautiful life story is to have a pencil with a good eraser.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I choose to let the struggles of life make me better and not bitter. I forgive those who have hurt me, and refuse to hold a grudge. I will look for the good in every difficult situation and think the best of others. I know that a bitter heart produces bitter fruit, and I refuse to allow my heart to get caught in that trap. Now, Lord, help me accomplish what I have just confessed. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Examine your heart and see if there is any bitterness lurking there. If ever there was a person who had the "right" to be bitter, it was Joseph in the Bible. He was thrown into a pit and left for dead, sold into slavery, falsely accused of attempted rape, forgotten by his friends, and unjustly detained in a prison cell for many years. And yet, after his release and subsequent appointment as governor of Egypt, he came face-to-face with the very brothers who caused his demise.
Rather than give them the punishment they deserved, he said, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20). Joseph chose not to be bitter, but to allow his circumstances to make him better. And with God's help, we can do the same.
What are you bitter about today? What do you need to do to turn "bitter" into" better"?
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Forgiveness is tough. It is hard. But it is not impossible. If you would like to learn more about turning your bitterness into betterment, see my book, Your Scars Are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of your Past. You can do it!
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August 15, 2013
A Box of Socks
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer (Matthew 21:22, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My sister loves socks. One day, we were shopping and happened to walk into a department store where neither one of us could afford to buy a single thing. We were just passing through, on our way to find the bargains we could afford. With a sigh and a wistful look on her face, Betty said, "I wish I could afford to shop in this store." When I asked her what she would buy, she immediately replied with a smile, "Socks! I want a big box of socks. I would wear a different pair every day." I could think of several things I would have liked to buy in that store and socks was not one of them. I guess it is a matter of perspective. What was important to her was not important to me.
I sometimes think my prayer requests are insignificant and unimpressive to God. After all, He is God. Does He really have the time or the desire to hear and answer my prayers? Yes! The truth is that if it is important to me, it is important to God.
Each Christmas, Operation Shoebox collects and sends over eight million shoeboxes stuffed with small gifts such as candy, school supplies, small toys, toothbrushes, soap, and shampoo to children across the world. In Mexico, hundreds of boys and girls gathered at the church in a small village, excitedly anticipating the arrival of their precious shoeboxes.
Delightful chaos erupted as bulging shoeboxes wrapped in brightly colored paper and ribbon were passed into the small, eager hands of each child. Wrapping paper was hurriedly ripped into pieces and tossed aside, a smile spreading across the face of each child as the long awaited Christmas treasures were revealed. However, one little boy dissolved into tears as he lifted the lid of his box and peered inside to see what he had received for Christmas this year.
One of the Operation Shoebox volunteers spotted the little boy and hurriedly made his way across the church to see what the problem could possibly be. With the help of an interpreter, the volunteer asked the now sobbing little boy, "What is wrong? What is in your box?" With tears streaming down his face, the little boy said, "Socks!" The worker instantly understood and assured the little boy that he could trade his box of socks for another box that might have crayons or a piece of candy in it.
Alarm spread across the face of the child as he vigorously shook his head and quickly jerked the box away from the now somewhat confused worker. Clutching the shoebox to his chest, the boy began sobbing out an explanation to the interpreter who listened for a few moments and then, with tears spilling out of his own eyes, turned to the volunteer and said, "You won't believe this!"
Taking a deep, steadying breath, the interpreter explained, "This little boy has a rare skin condition with which he was born. It seems to affect his feet more than any other spot on his body. The doctors have tried various medications and treatments but finally told the little boy that nothing will work and his feet will never heal unless he begins wearing cotton socks. His parents cannot even afford food for this boy; much less provide socks for their son. So, all year long, he has been praying for socks."
Socks were at the top of the little boy's prayer list. As a matter of fact, they were his list. The mere sight of ordinary cotton socks brought tears to his eyes as he stared in awe at the priceless gift in his hands – socks. Those socks were more than just a gift. They were the profound answer from our extraordinary God to a child's simple prayer. One unknown and seemingly insignificant boy in Mexico prayed. God heard him and said, "Let me take care of you."
No matter how small or trivial your prayers may seem, remember God's perspective. If it is important to you, it is important to Him.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the privilege of coming before You in prayer. I want prayer to be as natural to me as breathing out and breathing in. I refuse to believe the lie that my prayers are too small or unimportant for You to hear. You are my Father. You are my God, and You long to hear my voice. I will bring every prayer of my heart to You. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have your own "box of socks" for which you are praying? What is it?
Do you really believe that God will hear and answer your prayer?
Read Hebrews 11:6. How does your faith measure up to the faith described in this verse?
Today, pray in faith and see what God does!
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August 16, 2013
Don't Say No
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father (John 14:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was on my way home from running errands. As I approached our neighborhood, my cell phone rang. The call was from my tween-aged daughter.
"Hi, Mom. It's Kennedy. Where are you?"
"Hey, baby! I ran some errands and will be home in just a few minutes. What's up?"
"Well, I wanted to see if you and I could go shopping for a new bathing suit this afternoon, and— don't say no—I'd like to get a feather in my hair. Can we, Mom?"
Oh. No. She. Didn't!
I was taken aback by the bold expectations of my daughter. Don't say 'no'? I thought. Really? C'mon girl. I'm the parent. You're the child. Get a grip.
What I said to her was, "Honey, we are several weeks away from swim season. I'm not sure that today is a good day for all of this. And by the way, you're free to share your heart with me and to tell me your desires, but you do not get to tell me what I can and can't say no to. I'm pulling into the neighborhood now and will see you in a minute."
Later, as I considered her angle—the way she positioned her request—my heart leapt with conviction. How often do I approach God with a request wrapped up in a demand that He not to tell me no?
Jesus told His disciples that they could ask for anything. He even said that when we ask in His name that what we ask for would be given to us.
"I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it" (John 14:12-14).
Let's consider the context here. When Jesus said "You may ask me for anything," it wasn't an open invitation for the will of man to reign. It was an invitation for man to participate in the will of God through prayer. It was about us asking for things that will bring glory to God the Father. Asking "in my name" is all about the will of God being done on earth as it is in heaven – not the whim of mankind.
Then what about the "Name-it-and-claim-it" theology? Is God obligated to answer our prayers in the way we want Him to? No, He's not. Does God want you to have a million-dollar home and drive a Hummer? Not sure. Does God want you to be healed of that diagnoses, disease, or physical challenge? Possibly. I don't know His exact plan for your life. What I do know is this: God is a good and faithful God. "The works of his hands are faithful and just; all his precepts are trustworthy. They are steadfast forever and ever, done in faithfulness and uprightness"(Psalm 111:7-8).
All throughout Scripture we see that God is faithful. When it comes to God's character, faithfulness doesn't mean that He will always come through for us in the way we expect. It means He will see His plans through to completion, that He will keep His promises, that He will continue to work in our lives for our ultimate good – not necessarily our immediate happiness.
If we think that God can't say no to us, then we've put ourselves on the throne and not God. Prayer is not about getting God to do what we want Him to do; it is about releasing God's will on earth as it is in heaven (Matthew 6:10). It doesn't change His mind and He's not a genie in a bottle whose wish is our command. God is God—and He is faithful, no matter which way He moves.
I love my daughter. I mean, I really, really, really love my daughter. But just because she asks me for something doesn't mean that I'm going to grant her request. I love her too much for that. God is our heavenly Father. Our parent. He wants mature, wise children. Not spoiled children. He loves us too much for that.
He even told His own son "no" in order to accomplish His great purposes. On the night He was betrayed, Jesus was distraught to the point of sweating blood in the Garden of Gethsemane. Crying out to God, He "knelt down and prayed, saying, 'Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done'" (Luke 22:41-42, ESV).
God said no to Jesus because the request of His Son did not line up with His will. And because God said no, you and I can experience grace, forgiveness, peace, and salvation. In order for God to be glorified in His life, Jesus had to submit to the will of the Father. In order for God to be glorified in our lives, we, too, must submit to the will of the Father—and His will is always what's best for us because He is faithful.
Coming to terms with this truth is tough, no doubt about that. At times the wounds of life leave us reeling. At times God allows trials and temptations that seem unbearable. Even in those times, God remains the same and He can be trusted. It's a choice we have to make. And that choice is directly linked with the promise of blessing. Psalm 84:12 says, "O Lord Almighty, blessed is the man who trusts in you."
God's names reflect His character and He is our Faithful God. So no matter what you pray for or desire, you can trust Him, whether His answer is "No," or "Yes."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Faithful One, You are my Father and I know that you have a plan for me. Please bind me to Your will and teach me to desire Your heart above all else. Help me to hold unswervingly to the hope that I profess, because You who promised are faithful (Hebrews 10:23). In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Hebrews 10:23 says, "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful." What hope does this verse encourage us to hold unswervingly to as we remember God's faithfulness?
God is faithful even when we are not. We all fail and have selfish tendencies. In spite of our wandering ways, God remains steadfast. Read and consider the following verse: "If we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself" (2 Timothy 2:13).
How does this verse encourage you? Have you been praying for the Lord to answer according to His will or according to yours? Let's take this conversation deeper. Come over to my blogor my Facebook pageand leave a comment.
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Nameby Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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August 19, 2013
Is Anything Too Hard For The Lord?"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Is anything too hard for the Lord? (Genesis18:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Do you need something from God today? That's a silly question. We all do! Every day! All the time. We can't do life on our own. And if we try, we will fail desperately. God is the only One who can meet our needs.
We see the all-sufficiency of God's power on display throughout Scripture. In Genesis 12:1-3 God gave Abram an incredible promise.
The Lord had said to Abram, "Leave your country, your people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you.
I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you;
I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing.
I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse.
And all peoples on earth will be blessed through you.
But time passed, and Abram and his wife Sarai had no children...no heir. When Abram was ninety-nine years old, and Sarai was eighty-nine, God came to him once again and reiterated His promise. In this scene we find the first declaration of His name El Shaddai.
I am God Almighty [El Shaddai]; walk before me faithfully and be blameless. I will confirm my covenant between me and you and will greatly increase your numbers. (Genesis 17:1-2)
God then changed Abram's name to Abraham and Sarai's name to Sarah. But that wasn't the only thing that was about to change. God was about to perform a miracle by the name of Isaac. Sarah, He announced, was going to have a baby.
I will bless her and will surely give you a son by her. I will bless her so that she will be the mother of nations; kings of peoples will come from her (verse 16).
Can you imagine what Abraham must have thought? God, are You kidding? I am ninety-nine years old. My wife is eighty-nine. Her womb is as good as dead. I'm a shriveled-up old man. I know You mean well, but really? A child? From Sarah?
A short time later, two angels came to Abraham with a message from God: "I will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah your wife will have a son" (18:10). This time, the eavesdropping Sarah laughed. When the angel questioned the reason for her laughter, he said, "Is anything too hard for the Lord?" (verse 14).
When God appeared to Abraham and introduced the name El Shaddai, God Almighty, Abraham believed that God was able to accomplish all that He had promised. God's words nourished Abraham's faith that the Almighty would do what He said He would do. It didn't matter that Abraham was ninety-nine years old. It didn't matter that Sarah was eighty-nine years old. The laws of nature do not apply to the One who created them. With God, all things are possible. With the revelation of His name, God let Abraham know that His power was all - sufficient and He could do anything He pleased. He was not bound by the realm of the physical world or fettered by the decisions of man. Nothing—not even a dried-up womb or a withered-up man—could stop His word from coming to pass.
So what about you? What about your situation? I ask the same question the angel asked Sarah: "Is anything too hard for the Lord?" (Genesis 18:14).
No matter what you're going through today, you can cling to the truth that God is El Shaddai, the All-Sufficient One. He has within Himself the life-giving sustenance you need...the life-giving sustenance your heart longs for.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'll admit, sometimes I get tired of waiting for Your promises in my life. I get weary. I grow frustrated. I become doubtful. But today I'm choosing to believe You. I am not going to worry because nothing is too hard for You. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up 2 Corinthians 9:8 and Ephesians 3:20-21.
What do these verses tell you about God's ability to meet your needs?
What in your life that is too hard for God accomplish? I want you to click over to my Facebook page and tell me the answer to that question. It will do your heart good!
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August 20, 2013
Make Up Your Mind
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
You, LORD, give true peace to those who depend on you, because they trust you (Isaiah 26:3, NCV).
Friend to Friend
As I stood on the sideline of the football field where my eighteen-year-old son was practicing for the South Florida All Star Football Game, I was not prepared for the hideous sounds and horrific sights that assaulted every protective sense I have as a mother. My baby - my six-foot, two hundred and thirty pound baby - was knocking padded giants left and right as he bulldozed his way toward the goal line.
Mixed emotions, foreign thoughts skipped through my heart and mind. On one hand, I was so proud of Jered that I felt like shouting to the college scouts and coaches standing beside me, "That's my boy!" On the other hand, I wanted to drag him off of that field, lock him in his nice safe room at home and never let him play the barbaric game of football again. The curious thing is that Jered is a gentle young man who loves every animal he sees, will do anything to help anyone in need, rarely gets angry and is a major hugger. So what happens when he steps on that football field? He turns into a growling, intimidating predator, who will bash heads and bruise any bodies that get in his way.
On the ride home, I shared my thoughts with Jered, describing my astonishment at his metamorphosis from the teddy bear I know to the bulldozing bear opponents fear. He laughed and said, "Mom, ninety per cent of football is mental. If you think tough you will be tough." I could buy that theory, in part, but looking at Jered's size, considerable bulk and bulging muscles, I had to believe that his physical attributes had something to do with his intimidating bruiser mentality on the football field. "Son, you are a hulk. Any player would be afraid of you!" He grinned, loving the compliment and then reminded me of a friend who had graduated two years before.
Chris was a short and lean but deadly running back known for intimidating players twice his size. I did remember Chris, as well as Jered coming home from several practices complaining, "I'd rather get hit by anyone on the team but Chris. He is brutal!" My son then said something I will never forget. "Mom, Chris was a great football player because he thought he was a great football player. I have seen so many guys who are bigger, stronger and better who could not begin to play as well as Chris played. In this game, success is not only in the body but the mind."
What a powerful truth – on the football field – and in the game of life.
The thought processes of a child are very different from those of a mature person. A child thinks only of himself and his desires, his wants and needs making up the heart of his world and completely occupying his focus. Certainly for the sake of survival, every baby comes into this world as a narcissist, thinking only of its own needs. But with healthy growth of the mind comes a natural change in focus from inward to outward. The thought life of a mature believer must be well trained because the greatest battlefield for the Christian is the mind.
Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinks within himself, so he is" (NASB).
What we think about powerfully influences who and what we will become. Our actions, our attitudes and habits are born in the mind, an offspring of the thought life we entertain.
We can literally change our life by changing how we think – but we cannot do it alone. God's standard and guideline for the thought life is very clear and demanding. In fact, it's downright impossible without God's power at work in our life.
Philippians 4:8 "Think about the things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected" (NCV).
We choose what we watch and read, the conversations we have and the time we spend in the Word. If the mind is not filled with good, trust me, the enemy will fill it with bad. The human mind will always set itself on something. In this passage, Paul is challenging us to wisely choose that setting, taking charge of our thoughts by inviting the Holy Spirit to empower God's standard for the mind.
It is time for us to allow the Holy Spirit free reign in training our mind, harnessing our thoughts and measuring them by God's standard. If we don't make up our mind, our unmade mind will unmake us. In order to live right we must think right. How about you? Have you made up your mind?
Let's Pray
Lord, I confess to You that my thoughts are not pure. I have allowed the world and outside influences to pollute the mind that should be set on You. Right now, I choose against my old ways of thinking and invite the Holy Spirit to stand guard over my mind. I commit to fill my heart and mind with Your truth. In Jesus' name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recognize the power of your thought life.
Read Colossians 3:2.
Choose God's worthy standard for your thought life from this day on.
Read Romans 8:6.
In the past, how have your thoughts affected your decisions or actions?
Read Ephesians 4:22-24.
How can you control outside sources of influence?
Read Isaiah 26:3.
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August 21, 2103
The Perfect Groom
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth (Isaiah 54:5).
Friend to Friend
I was five years old; just a wisp of a girl living in a dream world all my own. On one particular afternoon, I gathered my supplies and prepared for the big day. First, I wrapped a long white sheet around my slender body and tossed the excess over my shoulder and down my back. Then I draped a bath-sized towel over the crown of my head like a veil and clutched a bouquet of plastic flowers to my chest. I stood at the end of my home's long hallway, and the processional began. I could almost hear the organ playing "Here Comes the Bride," as I sashayed down the "aisle" with imaginary friends and family looking on.
Little girls and big girls dream about the day they will become brides. And for many, that dream doesn't turn out the way they had hoped. But here is some good news—some great news, actually: no matter what your marital status this side of heaven—never married, once married, happily married, not-so-happily married, widowed, or divorced—God is your holy Husband who longs to protect you, provide for you, and cherish you through all the ups and downs of life.
We first see God's name as Ish, or Husband, in the book of Isaiah: "For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth" (54:5).
We see it again in the book of Hosea, as God speaks about drawing the unfaithful Israel back into His arms: "'In that day,' declares the Lord, 'you will call me "my husband";... I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord'" (Hosea 2:16,19-20).
In the New Testament, Jesus is also referred to as the husband of His bride, the Church. The Greek word is aner, and it is translated "husband" or "bridegroom."
When Jesus was questioned about why His disciples did not fast, He replied, "How can the guests of the bridegroom mourn while he is with them? The time will come when the bridegroom will be taken from them; then they will fast" (Matthew 9:15).
And in the book of Revelation, Jesus' return is referred to as the "wedding of the Lamb" (Revelation 19:6-9).
I asked my husband what visual image forms in his mind when he reads that he is part of the "bride of Christ."
"Nothing really," he replied.
Granted, I can't picture Steve walking down the aisle in a pearl-studded wedding gown. But oh, sister, I can see myself waltzing down the aisle to meet my Jesus. Can't you? What a blessing God has given His female image-bearers as the bride of Christ, our Husband!
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for choosing me to be the bride for Your Son. Help me to always be alert and ready for the day He comes to take me to my heavenly home. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In ancient Jewish tradition, the father chose a bride for his son. If the girl's father accepted the proposal of marriage, the groom paid her family a "bride price" of a few cows, a couple of sheep, or perhaps some gold trinkets. The couple drank from a cup of wine to seal the marriage covenant between them, and would not drink of it again until the day of the wedding ceremony. Then the groom left his betrothed and went back to his father's house to build a home for her. Once the home was completed to the satisfaction of the groom's father, the young man returned to whisk away his bride. Usually this took place in the middle of the night, with torch-toting groomsmen whooping and hollering to let her know they were on their way. The bride's responsibility was to be prepared, to be ready at all times.
And so it is with you and your Groom. Look up the following verses and note the similarities:
Who chose the bride for Jesus? (Ephesians 1:4)
What was the bride price? (1 Corinthians 6:20)
When did Jesus say he would drink of the fruit of the vine again? (Matthew 26:29)
Where is Jesus right now and what is he doing? (John 14:2-3)
When will Jesus come back and get his bride? (1 Thessalonians 5:2)
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Today's devotion was taken from our new GiG book titled Knowing God by Name. The book is an eight-week devotional study of 40 names of God written by Mary, Gwen, and I. To learn more, click over to our Knowing God by Name page to download a free sample chapter and watch free videos. We'll see you there!
Beginning August 1, the content of my blog will be completely different from the Girlfriends in God devotions. So if you are not signed up for my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com, please do it today...and invite all your friends. I'm going to have more give-a-ways, more personal interaction, and more inspiration than ever before!
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August 22, 2013
I Want to Know God
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I want to know Christ (Philippians 3:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When our family moved from Florida to North Carolina, we were all very excited about the move – well, most of us were excited. Our sixteen-year-old daughter, Danna, was leaving behind some very special friends and making the first major move of her life. When I asked what her greatest fear about moving was, her answer surprised me. I thought surely she would say, "I won't know anyone." Instead, she responded with an interesting perspective, "No one will know me."
That may very well be our greatest fear about God. We find it almost impossible to believe that we can really know Him or that He really knows us. That one truth alone changes lives and alters eternity. What does it mean to "know" God? I believe we can know God on different levels.
The first level is the "acquaintance level" where we think to know God means to encounter Him at certain pivotal times in life. It could be during an especially moving worship service or perhaps in a life crisis. In that moment, we really do sense something different and may even go as far as to make a shallow commitment. But in our daily lives, there is very little - if any – change in our behavior, attitudes or habits.
The second level is the "friendship level." Knowing God is not just experiencing a moment of spiritual excitement, but is a commitment to be actively involved with God. Friends spend time together and are involved in each other's lives. At this level, we are involved with God - to a point. We come to church and participate in its activities. We try to have a daily quiet time, and we may even attempt to be disciplined in spiritual habits. In other words, we are really working at this friendship. However, if the friendship level is as deep as we ever go in the pursuit of a relationship with God, sooner or later we will long for something more – because we were created for an intimate relationship with God. No one and nothing can fill that God-shaped hole in our lives.
The third level is the "marriage level" of knowing God. I believe that when Jesus says we can "know" Him, He is talking about a "marriage level" relationship. The first time that the word "know" is used in the Bible is in Genesis 4:1, "Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain." When the Bible talks about "knowing" someone, it is not only referring to a physical knowledge, but to an even deeper level of intimacy. Many of us settle for a nodding acquaintance or a mere surface friendship with the Father, when what He really desires and what we really need is the marriage level relationship. There are many people in the Bible who had a marriage level relationship with God.
David was a man after God's own heart.
Moses spoke with God face-to-face.
Mary, Martha and Lazerus were close personal friends of Jesus.
The disciples served beside Him day in and day out.
The good news is that you and I can have what those people had! In 1 Chronicles 28:9, we discover how to have an intimate relationship with God. "And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you" (NIV).
How can we really know God?
First, there is the simple but profoundly impacting promise that if we seek God - He will be found. We sometimes think that God wants to engage us in some kind of heavenly game of "hide-and-seek." We picture Him doing all of the hiding while we do all of the seeking. Since many of His "hiding places" are not the places we would logically think to look for Him, we give up and are content to be lost. When we look and don't find Him, we assume that He is laughing at our foolish and futile efforts.
Nothing could be further from the truth!
The spiritual reality is that more than you want to find God - He wants you to find Him! In fact, He made a way for us to know Him when He bridged heaven and earth by sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on a cross – for you and for me. If we seek Him we will find Him!
Second, remember who is speaking and who is listening in this passage of scripture. King David, one of God's closest companions, is talking to Solomon, his son. At this point, Solomon is not even seeking God, but David tells Solomon that he can have the same relationship with God that David himself has enjoyed through the years. Solomon never did – but he could have. And so can we – by doing what David told Solomon to do.
Acknowledge God as God. To know God is to admit and recognize Him as the One and only true God, our Savior and the risen Lord.
Surrender everything you are to Him. To know God is to lay down at His feet everything we are, have been or ever hope to be, exchanging our life plan for His, knowing that His plan for our lives is the highest and best plan for our lives.
Serve Him with absolute devotion. To know God is to live every moment of every day every day as a living sacrificial offering of worship to Him.
Seek Him wholeheartedly. To know God is to abandon everything we are to Him, actively searching for Him and His will in every life circumstance.
Inviting Jesus Christ to take over your life is the most important decision you will ever make. He stands, waiting for you to come. Come today, just as you are, and you will know God.
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You personally. I want to see Your face in my everyday life. I want to hear Your voice through Your Word and through prayer. I want to know You, Lord through obedience and through the lives of others. Lead me in paths that will draw me to Your side and mold me into Your fully devoted follower. Right now, I turn away from my old life, and turn to You. I surrender all that I know about me to all that I know about You. Thank you for being my Lord. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Determine the level of your relationship with God. Do you really know Him?
What level of relationship do you really want with God?
Are you willing to pay the price to know Him in a more intimate way?
Seeking God? Click HERE to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here! Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new book, Knowing God by Name, is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
Looking for a Bible Study? Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2013 lessons from Proverbs. Check it out! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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August 23, 2013
My Song
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
For the Lord God is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation" (Isaiah 12:2b, ESV).
Friend to Friend
Just try to keep my daughter from singing. Go ahead and try. You will fail. She must sing. It's just her thing. Some days when I'm writing, or simply trying to piece together a coherent thought, I dream that she could travel to a land far, far away from me and hang out in a sound proof room. Shhhhhhh! Embrace "quiet" already, girl. I know. When it comes to 24/7 musical expressions, mother-of-the-year I am not. And I'm okay with that.
The irony, of course, is that I, too, love to sing—just not all day every day like my daughter, and certainly not when I'm writing. Oh, but I do love music. It's central to who I am as a person. I love writing songs, singing songs, learning songs, and playing songs. If my iTunes library were in book form, it would fill the Library of Congress. In many ways my life is processed through melody and verse. And I can scarcely pick up my Bible and spend time in God's presence without having to run to the piano in responsive worship. When His deep calls out to my deep, I just have to chase it musically!
Why?
What is the big deal about songs?
I could never hope to understand the full scope of the answer, but I know this: music is powerful. It heightens our emotions and allows us to feel our way through a thought. Think back to the first time you heard Judy Garland sing "Over the Rainbow"...or Darlene Zschech singing "Shout to the Lord"...or Ray Charles singing "Georgia on My Mind"...or Gloria and Bill Gaither singing "Because He Lives"...or Aretha Franklin singing "Respect"...or Celine Dion singing "My Heart Will Go On"...or Chris Tomlin singing "How Great Is Our God." Pure melodic magic. Notes strung together in excellence can raise us to our feet or push us to our knees.
Because music touches something at the core of our being, it should come as no surprise that one of the names of God found in Scripture is My Song. First seen in Exodus 15:2, My Song is a name that Moses used to describe God as he celebrated the miraculous deliverance of the Israelites from Egypt. Can you imagine how his heart swelled as he watched God turn a massive body of water into a walking trail for millions of Israelites? So Moses and his people threw down a big ol' God-party on the victory side of the Red Sea!
Then Moses and the people of Israel sang this song to the Lord, saying,
"I will sing to the Lord, for he has triumphed gloriously; the horse and his rider he has thrown into the sea. The Lord is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation; this is my God, and I will praise him, my father's God, and I will exalt him.
Moses had to sing because is heart couldn't contain the gratitude and awe he felt for God. He called the Lord My Song. He felt compelled to worship. I totally get that. God had freed His people through a medley of miracle after miracle. How could they not respond in grateful worship? How could He not be their Song?
How could He not be ours, as well?
The greatest commandment of God to His people is not vague. It is crystal clear. Both the Old and New Testaments tell us that the most vital calling in life—your greatest purpose—is to "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'This is the first and greatest commandment" (Matthew 22:37-38).
Bam! That's it. What better way for us to express love to God than by living out a life that sings His praise and features Him as the ultimate object of our desire? There's a stanza of an inspired old poem called The Life That Counts that speaks to this beautifully.
"The life that counts must hopeful be,
In darkest night make melody,
Must wait the dawn on bended knee –
This is the life that counts"
I really want to live a life that counts. Don't you?
I will be the first to admit that my feeble attempts to live out the greatest commandment fall short every single day. I want to love Him perfectly, but I'm just not able to. I want to love Him with all of my heart, soul, and mind. Sincerely. But the reality is I can't because I am a distracted worshiper.
My life is busy with ordinary. The laundry never ends, the family activities never cease, dust dominates, and dishes fill my kitchen sink, even when I've just cleared it out. To sprinkle special on our ordinary days, we add music. We sing. We dance. We worship.
So, as much as my daughter's constant melodious outbursts may wear me out, maybe she is on to something after all. If God is our song, then how can we not sing? How can we not find a song—our Song, God—in both the mundane and the miraculous of our lives? If He is our song, then let's raise our voices with His praise!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are my Song. Thank You for giving us music! Thank You for inviting me to honor You in praise with instruments, voices, verses, and melodies. Help me to love You with my heart, mind and soul...more today than yesterday...and more the next day than tomorrow. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In Psalm 40:3, King David expressed God's loving deliverance this way, "He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord." Has God given you a new song? Give Him thanks! Praise Him!
If you had to pick a song that captured your feelings for God today, what would it be?
Leave a comment on my blog or on my Facebook page.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Name by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
Love to worship? Add Gwen's Uncluttered CD to your playlist. Download some of her music from iTunes, or order her CDs from her website.
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August 26, 2013
The God of Second Chances
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found' so they began to celebrate," (Luke 15:24 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Perhaps one of the most memorable and heart touching stories of grace and forgiveness is recorded in Luke chapter fifteen. It's what we've come to know as the story of the Prodigal Son. This young man demanded his inheritance while his father was still alive, spent it all on riotous living, and found himself dirty, destitute, and despairing. As despicable as pigs were to Jews, this young man took a job taking care of pigs and eating their food just to stay alive. But then he had an epiphany. He came to his senses.
"How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death. I will set out and go back to my father and say to him? 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.' So he got up and went to his father (Luke 15:17-20)."
And where was his father? He was panning the horizon, hoping for a sign that his boy might return home. While "he was still a long way off," the father spotted his son on the horizon. Filled with compassion, he picked up the edges of his robe and ran. He didn't wait for his son to come to him, grovel at his feet, and beg for forgiveness. No, as soon as the father caught a glimpse of his son, he dashed toward his boy, smothered him with kisses, and welcomed him home.
If you remember, not everyone was happy when the prodigal son returned. His big brother resented the fact that he was given another chance. And you know what? There will be those who resent the fact that we get another chance as well.
Beth Moore states:
"Big brother won't mind if you come back as long as you hang your head and wear your shame. But when God has the audacity to give you a little dignity back and you dare lift your radiant face to heaven in liberated praise, big brother may be appalled! It's pride that can't celebrate with a prodigal-come-home. Folks who won't celebrate are still kidding themselves into thinking they did something right to be loved by their Father."
I say, let him be appalled. Nothing makes some people angrier than grace. Big Brother is invited to the party too, and it's his decision whether or not he wants to join in the celebration. I'm just glad he's not the one in charge.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for welcoming me back home when I go astray. I don't deserve your grace, but then, that's what grace is...undeserved favor. Help me to always remember the log in my own eye before pointing out the speck in someone else's. I pray that I will never, never be like the big brother who did not celebrate in his brother's return. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, I want to focus on Big Brother.
Have you ever been like the big brother?
Have you ever resented someone's being forgiven and restored?
Have you ever felt like some ought to "get what they deserve" rather than receive forgiveness?
These are tough questions and I love you too much not to ask them. After considering the big brother's attitude and how it must have appeared to the father, do you need to readjust your attitude toward any particular person in your life who has repented?
Let's commit to NOT be the prideful big brother, but to celebrate when a sinner repents and comes home. If you've got on your dancing shoes, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I am dancing at the party!"
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book; Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. This is a great resource to learn more about forgiveness. Whether it is forgiving those who have hurt you, or accepting forgiveness for yourself, it is time to let it go!
Beginning August 1, the content of my blog will be completely different from the Girlfriends in God devotions. So if you are not signed up for my blog at www.sharonjaynes.com, please do it today...and invite all your friends. I'm going to have more give-a-ways, more personal interaction, and more inspiration than ever before!
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August 27, 2013
What's in a Name?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The God who made you is like your husband. His name is the LORD All-Powerful (Isaiah 54:5, NCV).
Friend to Friend
When Dan and I were first married, I really struggled with what to call his parents. Mr. and Mrs. Southerland seemed too formal, but Jerry and Norma seemed too familiar and did not address my level of respect for them. On the other hand, "Mom" and "Dad" were just a little too intimate for me at the time. My dad died when I was only four, and my mom was both mother and father to me for most of my life. It almost seemed disloyal to address another woman as "mom."
So I solved my problem by not calling them anything – which was not really a solution at all.
I loved Dan's parents and wanted to convey that love to them. After years of marriage and the death of my own mom, I one day found myself calling them "Mom" and "Dad." It was not a conscious decision on my part. In fact, I did not even realize that I had made that transition until Dan commented on how much it meant to them that I would call his parents "Mom" and "Dad."
Over the years, I not only learned to love and respect Dan's parents more, but my relationship with them had grown to a new level. The same should be true in our spiritual journey.
How can we know God in an intimate way – on a marriage level? We get to know anyone we meet by first exchanging names. We taught our kids that a simple way to meet someone new is to say, "Hi! My name is Jered (or Danna). What's yours?" Names are very important.
God has a first name – Yahweh or Jehovah, a Hebrew word that means, "I am." "LORD" should be translated "Yahweh" meaning that Yahweh Almighty is His name. Translators did a great job with the Bible, but here they took the name of God and substituted a title. When you see "LORD" in all caps, read it as "Jehovah." Yahweh Jehovah is a personal name that reveals the very core of God's being, His sufficiency and His holiness.
God wants to be on a first name basis with us, and He wants us to come to Him just as we are – yes, in our weakness and incompleteness. When we come honestly before Him, sharing who we really are and what we really need, God then shares His last name. God's last name is always based upon the current need of our lives.
God came to Moses and said, "I want you to be on a first name basis with me. My name is Yahweh Jehovah." From that point on, whenever the people had a need, they cried out in their insufficiency saying, "God you are the I Am. Come and meet me!" God would then come, meet them and give them His last name.
In Exodus 16, the people cried, ""God we're out here in the desert with no food or water, literally starving to death! Jehovah Yahweh, where are You?" God says, "I'm right here. My name today is Jehovah Jireh, which means "Provider." All of a sudden, quail are raining down from heaven, manna is found on the desert floor, and new water begins pouring out of a rock!
In Exodus 17, the people come up against a vastly superior military force and cried out to God saying, "We can't do this! This army will wipe us out! Please help us!" God says, "I'll be there. My name today is Jehovah Nissi, which means "Banner." In Biblical times, when tribes went to war, flags and banners were carried out in front. Therefore, God is telling the people that He will go before them and fight the battle for them.
In other passages, people came to God overwhelmed and anxious. God says, "I am Jehovah Shalom, your Peace."
David came to Him in a moment of desolation and said, "God, I am in the wilderness totally alone." God says, "I am Jehovah Shammah. I am here."
Jesus cried out to God saying, "Abba Father" which means "Dearest Daddy." This name paints the picture of a broken-hearted child climbing up into the lap of the loving Father for comfort and safety. The Father wraps His arms around that child and becomes a refuge.
God wants an intimate "marriage level" relationship with you, His child. You can come to Him, calling Him by name, and He will meet the need of your heart.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know You more. I want to see Your face in my daily life and hear Your voice above all others. I long to see You in every circumstance, and sense Your presence with every breath I take. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you want to know God – I mean, really know Him? You can. Consider the following questions:
Understand that we can come to God on a first name basis.
Accept His invitation to meet Him at the point of your deepest need.
Recognize that intimacy requires honesty.
Be willing to come to Him – just like you are.
More from the Girlfriends
It's finally here! Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new book, Knowing God by Name, is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
Looking for a Bible Study? Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2013 lessons from Proverbs. Check it out! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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August 28, 2013
I'm not_______ enough.
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you (1 Corinthians 3:16).
Friend to Friend
I'm not _____________ enough. You can fill that blank in with "smart," " talented," "gifted," "spiritual," or any number of positive attributes. But the root source of each one of those lies is "I'm not good enough." It is one of the enemy's favorite weapons and he uses it to keep God's children in bondage to feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy. The bottom line is, the enemy wants you to believe that you are "not enough." Period. But you are enough. You are enough and have been equipped and empowered to do everything that God has called you to do.
It seems the message of "I'm not good enough to earn my way to heaven on my own," has been transformed into I'm not good enough...period. God created man and woman and said, "It is good." We are so valuable to God that He gave His only Son to restore our brokenness.
To be honest, I could have been the poster child for this lie. If feeling inadequate was an Olympic event, I would have been on the Corn Flakes box. It was the undercurrent of my entire existence until I finally realized who I was in Christ. Bible teacher Beth Moore said, "In the dead of the night when insecurities crawl on us like fleas, all of us have terrifying bouts of insecurity and panics of insignificance. Our human natures pitifully fall to the temptation to pull out the tape measure and gauge ourselves against people who seem more gifted and anointed by God." That was me.
Many women are living in silent defeat, comparing themselves to other women who are living in secret defeat. I'm not a good mother. I'm not a good wife. I'm not a good Christian. I'm not a good witness. I'm not a good housekeeper. I'm not a good decorator. I'm not a good cook. I'm not a good.... Women are caught in a cycle of the "I'm not good enoughs." One by one the petals fall from the beautiful flower God created us to be. Like ticker tape, our fragmented pieces of confidence litter the streets like the Macy's parade passing by.
Unfortunately, I wasted many precious years held captive by the enemy's lies before I held up my chained hands to God and said, "I'm ready for you to set me free."
Consider this:
Jacob was a liar.
Moses was a stutterer.
Gideon was a coward.
David was an adulterer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Esther was an orphan.
Balaam's donkey was...well, a donkey.
And yet God used each one of them to impact His kingdom.
God doesn't call us because we are particularly gifted or talented. He uses us because we are obedient and dependent on Him. He doesn't call the qualified – He qualifies the called.
The truth is, if you have experienced new birth in Christ, you are deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing and totally accepted by God. Because of Jesus Christ in you, you are equipped and empowered to do all that God has called you to do. You are good enough!
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You today. Because of Jesus Christ and His work of redemption in me, I am deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing and totally accepted by You. Because of Jesus Christ in me, I am equipped and empowered to do all that You have called me to do. Now, LORD, help me act like it. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to that first sentence in today's devotion. What would you put in that blank?
Is that the truth?
What do you think God would say to you about what you have written in that blank?
If you are willing to stand on the truth, click over to my Facebook page and leave a comment and say, "I'm good enough because God says so."
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August 29, 2013
A Great Plan
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy" (Psalm 28:7).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of a tourist visiting the Grand Canyon. As he gazed in wonder at the sight before him, the tourist got too close to the edge, lost his footing and fell over the side. Just before he went out of sight, the man grabbed a scrubby bush and held on for dear life. Filled with terror, he called out toward heaven, "Is anyone up there?" A calm powerful voice came out of the sky, "Yes, there is." The tourist pleaded, "Can you help me?" The calm voice replied, "I'm sure I can. What seems to be the problem?" The man explained, "I fell over the edge of the canyon and am now dangling in space, holding onto a bush that's about to come loose. Please help me!" The voice said, "I will. Do you have faith?" The terrified man replied, "Yes! I have strong faith!" The voice said, "Then just let go. Everything will be fine." There was a tense pause. The tourist then yelled, "Is there anyone else up there?"
The first time I heard that story, I laughed and thought, "How ridiculous!" My next thought was that I have more in common with the tourist than I care to admit.
How often do I edge my way toward a dangerous cliff of disobedience and find myself giving in to temptation?
How many times have I cried out to God to rescue me from some self-made pit into which I have fallen, but dictated how I wanted to be rescued?
I can't begin to count the number of times when I have foolishly chosen to follow my plan instead of God's plan for my life.
Now that's ridiculous.
God has a unique plan for each one of us that is beyond human understanding or expectation. It is called His will. God has been making His will known from the very beginning of time.
In the Garden of Eden, God revealed to Adam and Eve His will (or plan) for their lives. It is important to note that with the revealed plan God also gave Adam and Eve the choice to follow that plan because He is a loving Father and a gracious God. Knowing that His way was right, God still allowed Adam and Eve to choose the wrong way. They made the wrong choice, but He still loved them and forgave them. He will do the same for you and for me.
The Bible promises that God's plan is the best plan; the one for which we were created. Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life." God agrees to not only show us the plan, but He also promises to provide all of the strength and resources needed to carry out that plan. His sufficient and constant power is unleashed by our choice to accept and follow Him.
We were created by the One who knows us best and loves us most. There are no accidents with God. He never has to say, "Oops!" Before we were ever conceived in the heart and mind of man we were conceived in the heart and mind of God. Wanted, loved and planned since before the world began. He had a plan in mind and lovingly, purposefully created us in response to that plan.
I know that there are days when the will of God seems completely wrong and we simply do not understand. Every moment is pregnant with darkness and our hearts are numb, paralyzed by fear and doubt. We are treading water in the storm tossed sea of life, desperately longing to see Him walking on the treacherous waves toward us, rescue in His hand.
It is in those shadowed moments that we must choose to trust the Plan Maker even though our faith is small, and we cannot understand the plan. His ways are higher than our ways. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. And one day, every one of our question marks will be yanked into exclamation points as we see that high plan as He sees it – perfect.
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Today, my friend set aside your meager agenda. Lay down your limited life arrangement and look for God to meet you at the point of surrender - power and victory in His hands. Now that is a great plan.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I stubbornly choose to ignore Your plan for my life. Thank You for always being there for me, ready to rescue me from my own selfish desires and decisions. Help me to remember that Your plan is the highest plan for my life and give me the strength to follow that plan. I want to honor and please You, Lord. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What things or people besides Jesus are you tempted to place your trust in during a crisis?
What keeps you from fully trusting the words of Jesus?
How would your life be different if you chose to place your trust in Jesus alone?
Read Matthew 7:24-28. How do these verses relate to your faith in God and the results of trusting Him?
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. Record it in your journal.
More from the Girlfriends
I know that plans are rampant in your life - but the only plan that really matters is the one God has for you. Don't settle for anything less. Need help dealing with temptation? Check out Mary's Bible Study (E-Book download), Winning the War with Temptation.Don't miss Mary's weekly Online Bible Study, From a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebookor through email.
It's finally here! Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new book, Knowing God by Name, is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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August 30, 2013
Take Your Need to God
Jennifer Kennedy Dean
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Jennifer Kennedy Dean.
Today's Truth
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16b, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Prayer is neither complicated nor difficult. It is so simple that any child of God can lay hold of all God's power and provision through His designated strategy we call prayer.
Decades ago God began to redefine prayer for me. I came to understand it as a continual interaction between the spiritual realm and the material realm. An unceasing flow from His heart to mine. I quit thinking about how to say prayers, and began to live a praying life.
The Holy Spirit can make direct deposits from His heart to mine and awaken His desires that define the content of my praying. In these years of learning how to live a praying life, I have come to realize that if God designed prayer to work, not to fail, then He surely designed it to be accessible and simple.
I think we see this pictured clearly in a story John records. He tells the story of a wedding at which Jesus was a guest, and His mother seemed to be in charge behind the scenes.
When the wine ran out, apparently the servants turned to Mary with their problem. I'm imagining the scene when a servant came running to Mary, concern apparent in his demeanor and his inflections. "Mary! They have no wine!" He puts the whole burden on her. Their wine less state has now become her responsibility. She has to come through.
I think she says something like, "Don't worry. I've got it covered."
She turns to Jesus and says, "Jesus, they have no wine." (See John 2:3)
He makes a response to her that our 21st century, perhaps Gentile, ears hear as a rebuke. But let's hear it again: "Woman!" He says. A word of endearment. The same word He used from the cross to say, "Woman, behold your son." Addressing her gently. Then He uses a Hebrew idiom that His contemporaries would have heard as, "[What do we have in common? Leave it to Me.]" John 2:4 (AMP). Finally, He said that His time had not yet come.
Did He violate His sense of timing to please or appease His mother? No. He was warning her that the time to reveal His actions publicly had not come. She had to let someone else get all the credit for what her son had done. The master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He did not realize where it had come from, though the servants who had drawn the water knew. Then he called the bridegroom aside and said, "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
Notice that the response did not deter Mary. She didn't slink away as if scolded. She turned to the servants and said, "Do whatever He tells you" (John 2:5). She knew Jesus, so she knew there would be action. She didn't know what that action would look like, but she had learned that Jesus would know what to do. She didn't know what He would do, but she knew that He would do.
Do you see how simple her request was? She knew that when she took the burden that sat on her shoulders and handed it over to Jesus, He would know what to do and how to do it. She knew that the secret to powerful praying is to take God the need, not the answer.
Sometimes the most powerful prayer sounds something like this: Jesus, they have no wine.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I realize that I often think my prayer needs to tell You the answer and instruct You in how to accomplish it. I embrace the release of knowing that when I bring You the need, You have the answer. I confess that I am empty unless You fill me. I am weak unless You strengthen me. I am helpless unless You come to my rescue. I have no wine. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now Its Your Turn
Are there times when you feel responsible for coming up with the answer for God?
What is burdening your heart right now?
Share your "they have no wine" prayer.
More from the Girlfriends
I find myself on a never-ending adventure as I learn daily how to live a praying life. I was a 20-year-old college student when the Lord first spoke that phrase to my heart. For some forty years I have been learning something new, or something old at a deeper level. The journey never ends.
Recently I had the privilege of releasing Live a Praying Life in an anniversary edition. I added what I had learned about the concepts since losing my husband to brain cancer in 2005. I learned that when the rubber meets the road, truth holds. The truths I've been teaching all these years are road-tested and proven.
It's finally here! Sharon, Gwen and Mary's new book, Knowing God by Name, is now available. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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September 2, 2013
Be Still and Know
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In him we live and move and have our being, (Acts 17:28 NIV).
Friend to Friend
The kids are back in school, the traffic has gone back to normal, and routine is setting in. Yes, it is fall! So I want you to settle down with me and a steamy cup of coffee. Go ahead and get it. I'll wait....
Now that you're back, here's today's devotion:.
I pressed the send button on my latest manuscript, What God Really Thinks About Women. For twelve months I had spent night and day with Jesus and the women He encountered while He walked the earth. I was going to miss them. Miss walking in their sandals. Miss breathing their air. Miss crying their tears. Miss carrying their water jugs. And while I wasn't going to be in their lives and in their business every day, their imagined faces were etched in my mind and they had become part of me for eternity. But it was time to move on.
I grabbed a cup of coffee, snuggled up in my favorite overstuffed den chair, and opened my Bible in my lap. "OK, God," I began, "that project is finished and tied securely with a bow. So what do you want me to do now?"
I wondered if I should get into a Bible study group, take a class at the local seminary, or finally write those magazine articles I had been putting off. Should I start a small group, volunteer at a charity, or start a new book project? I asked the question and waited.
God surprised me. Acts 17:28 came to my mind. I believed He put it there. In him we live and move and have our being.
Learn what that means, He seemed to say. Let's just spend time together. No agenda. No goal. No deadlines. I want to rekindle the romance. Will you let me?
His answer startled me. I hadn't even realized the fire had died down. Wasn't I working for Him? Wasn't I doing God's will? Wasn't I busy about my Father's business? And then I began to see what He meant. He began turning the lens of my mind's camera and the fuzzy image grew clear. I wondered how I had missed it before. In the middle of all my busyness for God, I had neglected my relationship with God.
I was made for goals, or so I thought. Sitting still wasn't in my nature, and perhaps that was what God was trying to tell me. My "nature" or natural bent of work was standing in the way of worship. My natural bent of activity for God was getting in the way of my communion with God. My daily routine of sanctioned quiet times was getting in the way of the divine romance in which He wanted me to engage.
Like the men caught on the stormy Sea of Galilee, I felt I had been reeling in the waves for years - never in danger of truly sinking – just reeling from one rolling wave of work and deadlines to the next. But on this particular morning, I began to see the cast of characters in this Galilean scene in a different light. I was definitely in the scene, but I wasn't in the boat at all. I was the storm.
I love how Eugene Peterson describes Jesus' words to the wind and the waves as his friend stirred him from his sleep to calm the squall: "'Quiet! Settle down!' The wind ran out of breath; the sea became smooth as glass."(Mark 4:39 The Message).
What does God really want from me? I've pondered that question since the day I first came to Christ. It was one of the two questions Saul asked when he met Jesus on the road to Damascus: "Who are you? What shall I do?" (Acts 22:8,10).
I think I've made my relationship with Jesus far too difficult. I have spent so much time striving to get closer to the heart of God. And all the while God has been whispering to me, "Cease striving and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10 NASB). "It's not that hard. Settle down. Be quiet."
And that is what Jesus was telling me that frosty January morning. But I realized I didn't really know how to be quiet and settle down. I had never mastered the idea of "be still and know." I knew that God was God. It was the "be still" part that stumped me every time. Now don't get me wrong. I can be still for a few minutes, maybe even an hour if need be. But much longer than that and I'm undone. Restless spirit syndrome begins to shake my soul, and the urge to get up and get moving wrestles me from worship.
So on this fall morning, as I share this with you, I'm asking...will you be still and know that He is God with me? Even if you'll commit to do it for one minute, click over to my Facebook page and leave a comment that says, "I'm being still with God today."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Help me to learn what it means to live and move and have my being in You. Thank You for a New Year. I am excited to see what You have in store. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How good are you at "be still and know that I am God?"
Have you ever felt God say those words to you?
Easy? Hard? What do you think stands in the way?
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September 3, 2013
Do it Now!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
To one who knows the right thing to do, and does not do it, to him, it is sin (James 4:17, NASB).
Friend to Friend
Procrastination is one of the greatest sources of stress in life. I once heard a preacher tell the old story of three demons who were arguing over the best way to destroy the Christian movement. The first demon had it all figured out. "Let's tell all the Christians that there is no heaven. If we take away the reward incentive, their movement will collapse," he said. The second demon responded with, "No, I have a better idea. Let's tell all the Christians that there really is no hell. If we take away their fear of punishment, their movement will collapse." The third demon offered, "Both of those are great ideas, but there is a better way. Let's tell all the Christians that there is no hurry." The other demons applauded in delight! "That's it!" they said. "Our best weapon of all is procrastination."
Procrastination is understandable and normal – humanly speaking – but procrastination is not part of God's best plan for our lives. We don't often view procrastination as sin, but it is. Sin is not merely doing wrong. It is failing to do what you know you should do – when you know you should do it. Knowledge equals responsibility. Procrastination and disobedience are just opposite sides of the same coin.
Sin usually brings pleasure for at least the moment. If you are on a diet and want to have just one bite of a chocolate candy bar – but end up eating three chocolate candy bars – it is because you wanted more of that chocolate pleasure and simply could not make yourself stop at one bite – right? Or maybe you go shopping with a set amount you can spend on a new pair of shoes and end up buying three pairs of shoes only to realize that you need a dress to go with them, and a new purse to go with the dress, and new jewelry to match the shoes, purse and dress and ... well, you get the idea. It is easy to understand how we get caught up in sins like gluttony, lust and greed because they all bring momentary pleasure.
Procrastination is different in that it helps us avoid doing the things we don't want to do – the tasks that require personal discipline and a commitment to godly goals. Wasting time often creates a restless feeling that produces a sense of failure. When the deadline we were supposed to meet has come and gone, or the dreaded task we keep putting off spirals out of control – guilt sets in. We try to rationalize it away when the simple truth is that we have sinned.
The key to dealing with procrastination begins with a commitment to obey God and exercise His wisdom. Joyce Meyer once said, "Wisdom always chooses to do now what it will be satisfied with later on."
We can choose to be led by wisdom rather than our momentary feelings.
We can choose to make right choices.
We can learn to be good stewards of the time God has given us.
I once attended a leadership conference that changed my life in many ways. The speakers did not talk about money or success. They focused on the fact that God created each one of us in response to His unique plan for our lives. One of the simplest but most powerful mottos I came away from that conference with was: "Do it now!" Do you realize that it takes as much energy to avoid a task as it does to do it? Procrastination drains energy while action produces energy. God empowers us to do what He calls us to do.
Matthew 6:33 (NCV) "The thing you should want most is God's kingdom and doing what God wants. Then all these other things you need will be given to you."
Truth is for now. God is not impressed with good intentions. Obedience today is the greatest preparation for every tomorrow. So do what you know to do today! The Proverbs 31 woman did. In fact, Scripture tells us she could "laugh at the days to come" (Proverbs 31:25). In other words, this woman fully lived in the present but carefully planned and prepared for the future. Proverbs 31:19 indicates that she made thread with her hands and weaved her own cloth: "In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers." Notice she only made thread and cloth – not the finished product of clothes. That was a task for the future. She was simply getting ready today to meet the needs of tomorrow. The result was a life filled with hope and lived out in purpose.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me for putting off what I know You want me to do. Help me learn to be more disciplined with my time. Teach me how to find and live by Your priorities for my life. I want to do what You created me to do, Lord. Show me how to live a life of power and purpose.
In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Procrastination is really about loving self and pleasing self above others. Romans 12:10 tells us that we should love each other deeply and honor others more than ourselves. The moments God give us really do matter now and eternally. We are responsible for how we spend them. Each moment in time represents an eternal opportunity. Evaluate your life in light of these truths. How well do you invest your time? What one change can you make this week to overcome procrastination? Ask a friend or family member to hold you accountable to make that change.
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Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study. Time: Friend or Foe will help you learn how to manage time and set goals.
From a Mess to a Miracle is Mary's Online Bible Study. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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September 5, 2013
I Feel Your Pain
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was Easter Sunday, and I was sitting in the sanctuary waiting for the worship service to begin. Anticipating a large crowd, I arrived early to drop Jered off in the nursery, one of his favorite places to go since every nursery worker doted on him. As the choir filed in, a friend slipped into the pew beside me and said, "I think you need to go to the nursery. Something is wrong with Jered." Jumping up, I leapt over legs, toes, and pews as I raced to the church nursery and my son.
I was not prepared for what I saw. In a far corner, lying on his favorite red mat was Jered, staring at the ceiling, silent and rigid. As I bent over him, searching those beautiful blue eyes, huge tears slid down his chubby cheeks as he flew into my arms, sobbing. You have to understand – as a baby, Jered cried only when he was hungry, wet, or sick. He always seemed to be smiling, happy, and contented. Something was obviously very wrong.
I kissed Jered's forehead. No fever. I checked his diaper. Dry and clean. The snack box I had packed for him earlier that morning was empty. I had no idea what had broken our son's heart, but I certainly intended to find out.
Just then, Mrs. Giles, Jered's favorite nursery worker, drew me aside and said, "Let me tell you what happened. We had a new little girl in the nursery today. It was her first time in a church nursery – ever. When her parents left, she immediately began screaming and wouldn't stop. Jered came running and wrapped his arms around her, but she pushed him away. He then brought her his bottle, but she hurled it across the room and continued screaming. Desperate to help her, Jered then found his diaper bag and fished out Turtle.
Turtle was a small, green-and-blue stuffed turtle we had given Jered during a stay in the hospital when he was seriously ill with the croup. From the moment Jered saw Turtle, he took it everywhere he went. He slept with Turtle clutched tightly in one hand, ate with Turtle sitting in his lap or on the table beside his plate, and carefully tucked Turtle in his diaper bag whenever we left the house. Turtle was his most precious possession and became an invaluable source of comfort to him.
Mrs. Giles continued, "I couldn't believe Jered was willing to give Turtle to a stranger, but he tried." The crying child took one look at Turtle and threw it in Jered's face. Stunned, he picked up Turtle, brushed it off, and lay down on the mat, refusing to move, the stuffed animal clutched tightly in his arms. Then I knew. I knew Jered couldn't stand to see the little girl in pain and was determined to help. When he couldn't, he retreated, waiting for someone else to help. That's compassion.
Compassion is not just sympathy. It is empathy. When it comes to dealing with difficult people, we mistakenly equate compassion with "fixing" them. Genuine compassion is first able to feel their pain. I believe one of the reasons we encounter and are commanded to deal with sandpaper people is because the more pain we experience, the more compassionate we will be.
We must learn to use our pain in the right way, not lashing out, but looking within to share the pain of others. There is a choice in every pain, an opportunity in every trial. Pain makes us focus inward or outward. It makes us martyrs or merciful. The choice is ours.
I have a love-hate relationship with the Good Samaritan in the Bible. The Samaritan chose to use his pain and help an injured man. He understood the man's pain because of the pain in his own life. The Jews hated all Samaritans. The man lying on the road was a Jew. There was no logical reason for this Samaritan to rearrange his plans and spend his money to help this "enemy" or "sandpaper person" in need. But compassion doesn't look for reasons or search out limitations. It searches for opportunity.
The Samaritan had a choice, just as we have a choice every time we are confronted with a need. We must adjust our thinking to understand that sandpaper people are needy people. We can either ignore the need, or we can meet the need by giving away part of the comfort God has given us when we have been in pain.
Galatians 6:2 (NLT) "Share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ."
If we can't prevent pain, we can at least lighten the load with compassion. Alan Redpath wrote, "You can never lighten the load unless you have first felt the pressure in your own soul." Compassion makes us willing to feel the pain of others, responding as if it were our own.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me when I respond in anger to the difficult people in my life. I really want Your love to flow through me to each sandpaper person with whom I come in contact. Give me Your heart of compassion to feel their pain and then teach me how to look for ways to help ease that pain. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of the Good Samaritan found in Luke 10:31-37. How can you apply the same truths in your life that the Samaritan applied when taking care of the wounded man?
Wherever today finds you, look around for someone in need – someone who needs a touch of compassion. Are you willing to let God use you to be "God with skin on" to that person?
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Today's devotion is taken from Mary's book, Sandpaper People. Looking for a Bible Study that is both practical and powerful? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
From a Mess to a Miracle is Mary's Online Bible Study. Enroll nowand have access to all 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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September 6, 2013
Giving and Gaining
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." (Proverbs 11:25, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I pretty much consider myself to have a black thumb. Charcoal, even. I like plants and genuinely try to keep plants healthy and thriving in my home, but fail at it a lot more than I succeed. Seriously. Black thumb. So when my girlfriend brought me a baby aloe plant, my heart was torn between girlfriend-gratitude and feelings of sorrow for the innocent little aloe.
A few weeks after she gave me the plant gift, my friend told me a story. She confessed that she struggles to share things. It's just hard for her. She had two aloe plants for a long time but one day she felt a heart-nudge to give one of them to me. (Bless her heart! She obviously knows nothing of said black thumb!) Though she admittedly isn't naturally inclined to give her things away, she said that she decided in her heart that she would give me the small aloe baby.
For weeks she had meant to act on that heart-nudge and give me the aloe plant, but just never got around to it. She kept forgetting. She'd think about bringing me the aloe plant when she wasn't home or remember late at night when it was too late to run it by my house. In the back of her mind she thought that one of her plants would surely have an aloe baby offspring ... reasoning that she could just give me that one instead of one of her two plants.
Finally, she remembered. She brought me the cute little healing plant and gave it to me with a smile. Yay! We threw down a happy plant-dance that morning as we shared both a cup of coffee and our hearts in friendship.
So as we sat at my kitchen table again, coffee mugs in hands, she finished her story by excitedly saying, "The most amazing thing happened this week, Gwen! When I walked past the aloe plant that I'd kept for myself, I noticed that a baby aloe plant had sprung up in the pot! It was almost like a little present from God reminding me that I can't out-give Him. That when I trust Him and obey His nudges, He will bless me right back."
I nodded and smiled. She's so right. In the Bible God calls us to be generous, and He promises to bless us when we are. God's Word has a lot to say about the tandem between generous giving and blessings.
"Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice" (Psalm 112:5, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed" (Proverbs 11:25, NIV, emphasis mine).
"A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor" (Proverbs 22:9, NIV, emphasis mine).
"Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work" (2 Corinthians 9:6-8, NIV).
"Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life" (1 Timothy 6:17-19, NIV).
God clearly calls His children to generous living ... no matter what we have, who we are, or where we live. Even the poorest among us are called to live generously. And let's not confuse the matter: it's not about our bank accounts – it's about our hearts. We are to be generous, willing to share, and rich in good deeds for the glory of God. The Scriptural promise we can stand on is this: blessings will follow our generosity. When we give freely in obedience to Christ and live open-handed with all that we've been entrusted with, we reap beautiful life benefits.
Where does this promise and prompting find you today? Have you been nudged lately to be generous? Do you struggle to share things, both tangible and intangible? Is God calling you to serve Him somewhere with your time, treasures, or talents? Maybe the thing you need to give is forgiveness to someone or to yourself – or encouragement – or kindness. Got a family member, neighbor, or friend in need? Do something!
Generous living will look different to each of us, but we are all called to give as we live. I was blessed when my friend gave me that baby aloe plant. She was blessed too. God made sure of it. He always does. Friend, consider this truth and ask the Lord to move you missionally and to direct your giving. Today and every day live to give for the glory of God. Good will come of it. He promises ... and that's a promise you can take to the bank!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are perfectly generous. I am blessed by the abundance of Your grace, mercy, love and truth. Help me to live generously and to give open-handedly just as you have with me.
In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
What came to your mind as you read this devotion? What are you going to do about it? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page today and share your heart and let's take the conversation deeper. I will be posting a fun aloe picture! Don't miss it.
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September 9, 2013
You are a Reflection of God's Glory
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Bring my sons from afar and my daughters from the ends of the earth - everyone who is called by my name whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made, (Isaiah 43:6-7 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wondered why you were created? You were created for God's glory and to glorify God (Isaiah 43:7), because it pleased Him to do so (Ephesians 1:5). The concept of glory can be a difficult concept to wrap our human minds around. It seems so otherworldly. We can catch glimpses of its meaning throughout Scripture, but then like a shooting star that appears for a just a moment, it quickly slips away into the vast expanse of God's infinite wisdom. But let's see what we can know about this bigger-than-life word.
In the Old Testament, the most common Hebrew word for glory is kabod meaning "weight, honor, esteem." The Bible associates God's glory with how He manifests Himself or makes His presence known. Some theologians refer to these as theophanies. He made His presence known in a devouring fire (Exodus 24:16-17), a moving cloud (Exodus 13:21) and a still small voice (Exodus 33:18). His glory is reflected in creation (Psalm 19:1) and in His sovereign control of history (Psalm 135:10-12). His glory is made known through the life of simple human beings like you and me.
The same concept of God's glory is in the New Testament in the Greek word doxa, which meansglory, honor, and splendor.John wrote, "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only who came from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14). After Jesus' first miracle, turning the water into wine, John wrote: "This, the first of his miraculous signs, Jesus performed at Cana in Galilee. He thus revealed his glory, and his disciples put their faith in him" (John 2:11). In Hebrews 1:3, the writer reveals this about Jesus: "The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word."
The verb form of glory, to glorify, is doxazo, and primarily denotes "to magnify, extol, praise, to ascribe honor to God, acknowledging Him as to His being, attributes, and acts, i.e., His glory. It is the revelation and manifestation of all that He has and is. When we glorify God, we are giving a display or manifestation—or a reflection—of His character. To magnify God is to make Him easy to see. Jesus said that the disciples would glorify God when they bore fruit (John 15:8). Through their actions, they would point others to God and make Him easy to see.
God's glory is how He makes Himself known. It is almost incomprehensible to think that He would choose mere human beings to accomplish such a task. But as Scripture tells us, we were created in His image (Genesis 1:26) and as a display of His glory (Isaiah 43:7). You were created to make God recognizable to others—to show others what God is like. He makes Himself recognizable to us and through us. The glory of any created thing is seen when it is fully fulfilling the purpose for which it was created...and that includes you and me.
Glory. It's a big word—a weighty word.
Today, look for ways that God makes Himself known to you and through you.
Let's Pray
Lord, I pray that I will glorify You today. I pray that my actions and words will make You easier to see. I pray that You will open my eyes to see Your glory as I live and move and have my being in You today. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up all the verses mentioned in today's devotion and write down what you learn about the word glory.
If someone were to ask you to define "glory," what would say?
What are some ways that you can glorify God today? Let's share our answers at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
One way that we glorify God is in the words we speak. If you would like to learn more about how to control your tongue and use your words to speak life to those around you, then check out Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. On her website you can watch a video and download a free chapter of this life-changing book. It also has a Bible study guide and DVD for group or individual study. Today's devotion was taken from my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.You can check that out on my website as well.
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September 10, 2013
Passing the Test
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds,because you know that the testing of your faithproduces perseverance.Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be matureand complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Mark really struggled with spelling. Staring at his spelling test, his heart sank. So many of the words seemed difficult, and he wasn't really sure how to spell most of them. Softly the enemy whispered, "Look at Jane's paper; she's an honor student and always gets them right!"
Mark hesitated, but desperate to make a good grade, he finally gave in to the tempter's suggestion and copied several answers from Jane's paper.
The teacher noticed Mark's actions and was really surprised because she had always thought of him as an honest boy. When it came time to collect the completed work, she saw Mark's inner struggle reflected on his face of anguish. Finally, Mark bowed his head for a moment and then suddenly ripped his test paper into pieces and sat back in his chair with a sigh. Even though he had first given in to the temptation to cheat, he finally decided to take a zero on the test rather than be dishonest.
Calling Mark to her desk, the teacher said, "Mark, I was watching you, and I want you to know that I am very proud of you for what you did just now. Today, you passed a much more important test than a spelling test."
As followers of Christ, we sometimes focus on developing and presenting the right image while neglecting the spiritual discipline of integrity. Our public lives are only as authentic as our private lives. Image is who and what people think we are while integrity is who and what we really are. Billy Graham once said, "Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact. When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. When character is lost, all is lost."
I have often heard it said that integrity is what you do when no one is watching and that character is best illustrated by how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing for you. Integrity is a heart issue and a spiritual habit that decides beforehand to do the right thing. Character counts. Integrity matters to God.
Matthew 5:8 (NIV) "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."
1 Chronicles 28:9b "For the Lord searches every heart, and understands every desire and every thought."
The word for "pure" means "ready for sacrifice." In other words, the decisions and choices we make should be living sacrifices that are holy and acceptable to God as acts of worship. To have integrity means to live an integrated life. That integration occurs when what we believe, what we think, what we say, and what we do are all consistent. In reality, image really is nothing without integrity and character to back it up.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You right now, asking You to examine my heart and show me every impurity hidden there. Search my desires and thoughts and show me the disobedience that breaks your heart and hinders my walk with You. I want to please You with every choice and decision I make, Lord. Forgive me for the hypocrisy in my life. I lay down my pride and my agenda and choose instead to seek and follow You. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Memorize Psalm 51:10 that says, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." As this verse becomes the consistent prayer of your heart, each choice and decision you make will begin to line up with God's will. He will be honored, and you will experience a new power and purpose in your life. Continually ask yourself, "Will my choice make God smile?"
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Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Winning the War with Temptation, and learn how to stand firm in the face of temptation.
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September 11, 2013
God, What do You Want From Me?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Cease striving and know that I am God, (Psalm 46:10 NASB).
Friend to Friend
Could it be that we have made our relationship with God far too difficult? We strive so hard to draw closer to the heart of God. And all the while, God's outstretched hand is reaching to draw us in. Psalm 46:10 reads, "cease striving and know that I am God" (NASB).
Cease striving.
For over a half of a century, I had been striving, pursuing, and seeking God. And like a cat chasing her tail, I had been going in circles. Circling in the wilderness with the Israelites, if you will. Saved from slavery, for sure. Headed to my own personal Promised Land, hopefully. But somehow stuck in the Wilderness wandering ever circling but not quite reaching Jordan's shore.
And I am not alone. Statistics show that one of the top desires of Christians is to grow closer to God. During a recent poll, sixty-five percent said they were declining or on a plateau in their spiritual growth. On the other hand, Peter wrote: "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness" (2 Peter 1:3). We have everything we need to experience the ever growing, continually maturing, abundant life; so why aren't we? Why are most of us languishing on the desert plateaus of mediocrity and complacency? Why are most of us satisfied munching on the predigested truths of teachers rather than pulling up to the banquet table and feasting with God at a table set for two?
"God, what do you really want from me?"
I've pondered that question since the genesis of my relationship with Christ. Perhaps you have too. When you boil down all the water from the diluted soup of questions men and women have simmered in their heart through the centuries, this is the one question left in the pot. And somehow, we feel that if we could answer that one question, we would discover why that glory ache persists and how to satisfy our yearning.
I had asked the question a thousand times, but one frosty January morning, I got quiet enough to listen. And then, in the stillness, He showed me that I and my busy sisters have been asking the wrong question.
Rather than ask God what He wants from us, we need to ask Him what He wants for us.
I meditated on Acts 17:28 throughout the following year after the day God whetted my appetite with the possibilities wrapped up in those eight little words. I came to realize that what He wants for us is to sense His presence, experience His love, and delight in intimate relationship as we live and move and have our being in sacred union with Him. And when we do, He opens our eyes to His glory all around and the ache for something more is soothed.
Let's Pray
God, what do you want for me today? Open my eyes to see and ears to hear. Show me glimpses of Your presence as I live and move and have my being in you. And help me not to miss it! In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever asked God what He wantsfrom you?
Have you ever asked God what He wants for you?
Now, I want you to do just that. Ask God what He wants for you and then pay attention.
At day's end, tell me what you learned. What did He show you? Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Do you need a tune-up when it comes to tuning-in to God? Do you want to know how to hear that still small voice? If so, check out Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God and sharpen your spiritual listening skills! And don't forget to check out our new Girlfriends in God devotion book, Knowing God by Name.
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September 12, 2013
The Lesson of the Missing "B"
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another (Romans 12:5).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes it is the little things that really get to me. As a writer, I spend a great deal of my time in front of a computer – with which I have a love-hate relationship. I love the convenience a computer offers when it comes to recording the thoughts and truths God gives me to share, but there are times when I would like to throw my laptop into the nearest body of water and be done with it. I can remember the days when I literally wrote out every word of a lesson or devotion because I was terrified of even trying to use a computer. I am anything but a technical guru and could see hundreds – no, make that thousands of hours of work disappearing into some hidden file, going up in virtual flames or being launched into cyberspace, never to be seen again. Why? Just because I hit one wrong key or pressed an incorrect button. However, the day finally came when I realized that the good reasons for using a computer outweigh the bad and decided it was time to take the plunge.
Through trial and error, and the patience of friends who have repeatedly rescued me from more than one cyber disaster, I have evolved into a fairly capable computer operator. I have retrieved lost chapters and lessons, eradicated various viruses, erected firewalls, foiled hackers ... and have come through the fray relatively unscathed.
And then it happened.
I was returning home from a speaking event and decided to use the three-hour flight time to work on a writing assignment due the next day. It was one of those unusually sweet and highly productive times when the words come easily and eventually form sentences that actually make sense. I was on a roll – and so was my laptop when the plane suddenly hit an air pocket and dropped what seemed like a mile. I watched in horror as my laptop caught air, crashed to the floor of the plane and slid under the seat in front of me. Fortunately, I had saved my work and desperately hoped the laptop had not been damaged in its fall. When the plane and everyone on board regained their composure, I quickly retrieved the computer and breathed a sigh of relief after a quick inspection that revealed a couple of new, but minor, scratches.
I opened the computer, ready to resume my work. But then I saw it, the now empty space where the "B" key was supposed to be. Evidently, it had popped off in the fall and was nowhere to be found. I wasn't too concerned. I mean, after all, how important is one little key? There are plenty of other keys from which to choose. They all look pretty much the same. A missing letter or symbol here or there can't be that much of a problem, can it?
As I began my work, I soon discovered just how much of a problem one little missing computer key could be. All of a sudden, it seemed like every other word I needed contained a "B." My frustration level rose as my finger instinctively kept hitting the spot where the "B" was supposed to be and found ... nothing. Finally, I decided I really needed that key and went looking for it. The passengers around me joined in the search, and it was only a few minutes before the person seated in front of me shouted, "Got it!" I snapped the missing "B" back into place. In a matter of minutes, I was amazed at how much better the whole keyboard seemed to function now that the lost key was back where it should be.
We all lose our way at one time or another. An unexpected life storm knocks us flat. A bad choice causes us to stumble and fall. We snap under the pressure of a difficult relationship, and no one seems to care or even notice the pain we feel. But then, like a Shepherd searching for that one lost sheep, God turns to us and hears our cry. He lifts us out of the darkness, gives us a safe place to stand and fills our heart with a new song of praise. And He uses people to do it all. In fact, God delights in using people to reach out and minister to other people who are wounded and lost.
God created us to need each other. We are daughters of the King, sisters in Christ and Girlfriends in God. When one hurts, all of us should feel the pain. When one of us has fallen, we need to reach out, link arms and hold on until the storm has passed. Who needs your love and encouragement? Remember the lesson of the missing "B" and ask God to love others through you ... today.
Let's Pray
Father, I know You want me to share the love I have found in You. Forgive me for the many times I have been too busy to see the needs around me. Break my heart for those who are in pain and feel hopeless. Encourage them through me, Lord. Fill my heart with Your love so that I can give it away. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Galatians 5:22-23 "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control."
Make a list of the attributes listed in Galatians 5:22-23. Beside each one, write the name of someone who needs you to live out that quality in his or her life. Here are a few examples to help you get started:
Love: Jane - my neighbor who is struggling with her teenage son
Joy: Sally - my friend who has just discovered she has breast cancer
Peace: Linda - my friend's sister who is going through a divorce
Make a specific plan for meeting each need. (I will take Jane to lunch.)
Put a time limit on it. (I will take Jane to lunch on Thursday.)
Record your experience in your journal.
More from the Girlfriends
Gwen, Sharon and I were recently able to get together for some long overdue girlfriend time. Yes, we had a total blast! But as we talked and shared, we all had the same burden – to tell you that God really does love you! We want you to know that we love you so much, but that God loves you more!
God's truth is for today. Every time we hear the Word of God, we are then responsible for applying its message. I wonder what would happen if we, as Girlfriends in God, put into action the truth we already know. I have a challenge for us all. This week, let's be "God with skin on" to the people who cross our path each day. That includes that nosy neighbor, irritating boss, difficult child ... as well as our best friend.
I would love to hear what God does through you this week because you were willing to step out in obedience. Email me at: mary@marysoutherland.com.
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September 13, 2013
Take a Step Back
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes (Psalm 119:59).
Friend to Friend
I gave her instructions for the job. "Clear the furniture from the room, vacuum thoroughly, and then I will show you how to mop the wood floor." Once my daughter got through the first two of three steps, I joined the cleaning party to teach the age-old-mom-class, "Mopping 101." Awesome.
Class began with a few mopping fundamentals. "Shake the bottle of the polish before you use it. Do one small section at a time. Mop along the grain of the wood. Put some arm strength into it and always - always step back to see if you missed any spots." I gave a quick demonstration then Kennedy took the mop and got busy on her weekend wood-floor polishing project.
As I walked away, it hit me.
The lesson.
In order to see where the polish had been applied on the floor - in order to see if there were any mistakes or overlooked places - a mopper needs to step back and look at things from a different angle. From a fresh perspective.
To gain perspective in life, we often need to step back too: away from our emotions, our plans and our expectations - in order to consider the big picture. The God-picture.
It is so easy to get lost in the drama-filled challenges of life and become overwhelmed by our circumstances. Can I hear an Amen? I do this all the time! I get sucked into the drama of a moment and see only what my emotions allow me to see: a dim, slim and flesh-led view.
Let's be honest, we all have some level of drama, dreams and expectations. And that's not a bad thing. But if our emotions lead our responses, it can be difficult to see beyond our moments and mountains. When our hearts are consumed by the emotions of a moment, we can lose sight of what honors God and what really matters.
So what's a woman to do?
Step back. Pray. Ask God for vision and perspective. Consider His Word. Remember His power, provision and plan. Move beyond self-led reactions to Spirit-led responses. The late pastor and theologian A.W. Tozer wrote, "Sometimes when we get overwhelmed we forget how big God is."
Our perspectives change in God's presence. We gain clarity and peace when we adapt God's perspective instead of our own. His sight is pure, full of grace and eternal – while our sight is often imperfect, narrow and worried about the now. Proverbs 16:3 says, "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans."
David stepped back in awe of God's love. "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?" (Psalm 8:3-4)
He reflected on his own ways verses God's ways. "I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways." (Psalm 119:15) "I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes." (Psalm 119:59)
Jesus also encourages us to step back from worries and fears. ""Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?" (Luke 12:24-26) When we consider the ways that God has provided in the past, it helps us to trust Him in the present.
Kennedy rocked the mop that day in our kitchen because she heeded my directions and consistently drew back to gain perspective on her polishing. Step back today and position yourself in His grace. Consider the big picture. Lay your day, your plans, your thankfulness, your people, your problems, your wins and your losses before God. Trust His ability to work in and through it all. Relish the perspective and peace that rises and then be prepared for those around you to be drawn to the able, faithful God who is at work within you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I know I need to step away from my emotions, expectations and plans. I want Your perspective, Your dreams and Your responses to be mine. Cover me again with grace, order my steps and equip me fresh with Your Spirit. In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Are you ready to step back? What will that look like for you? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page today and share your heart and let's take the conversation deeper.
More from the Girlfriends
The new book by GiG co-founders Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith and Mary Southerland is now available! Knowing God by Name is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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September 16, 2013
Your Story is Not Over Yet
Sharon Jaynes
Several years ago, the epic drama, Gone with the Wind, was re-released in theaters all across America. This digitally enhanced, chromatically improved icon, took us back to a time in history when America was experiencing a paradigm shift. My husband and I thought it would be important for our teenage son, Steven, to have the Gone with the Wind experience on the big screen, so we purchased three tickets and settled in for what we knew would be a long evening.
After about two hours, we got to the scene where a sullied Miss Scarlet, deserted by Rhett, stood on a hilltop with Atlanta burning the background. She collapsed to the ground, and slowly pulled herself into an upright position. With fist held high, she declared that she would make it through this trial.
"As God is my witness," she proclaimed, "I will never be hungry again." Then the curtain fell. "That was a strange way to end," Steven sighed.
"Oh, but look," I replied pointing back to the stage.
The words "intermission" appeared on the vacant screen.
"You've got to be kidding," Steven said.
"Nope," I assured him, "we're only halfway done."
You know, I've identified with Miss Scarlett on several occasions. Sometimes life just gets so complicated. Dreams lay unfulfilled. Plans go up in flames. People walk away. My man doesn't understand, and my friends run for cover. What will I do? Where will I go? Is this the end?
Then as the curtain falls, I think to myself, this is a strange way to end. But I look again and see God pointing to the story of my life as if to say, This, my child, is not the end, but an intermission. Get up. Take a break. Stretch if you must. But your story is not over yet.
Looking back in the Bible, there were many men and women who came to a point in their lives where they thought life was over, only later to discover it was merely an intermission. Elijah hid in a cave thinking his ministry was over; Moses herded sheep in the desert believing his dream to rescue the Hebrews was dashed; Jonah camped out under a shade plant and waited to die. Each of these men thought it was the end, but in reality, it was only an intermission. God wasn't finished with the story of their lives quite yet.
I don't know what you're facing today. Perhaps your life has taken you to an unexpected place. Perhaps, like Moses, you've made a poor decision that resulted in you running from God and from man. Perhaps like Elijah, you've allowed someone's threats to put fear in your heart, and you're in hiding. Perhaps like Jonah, you've obeyed God, but feel duped because your obedience didn't bring the results you'd hoped for. With your dreams burning in the background, perhaps you've stood on the hillside with fist raised in the air making declarations to God.
If you see yourself on the screen, can I encourage you sit down, take a deep breath, stretch, and regroup? The story's not over yet. Perhaps you're just at an intermission. As someone once said, we shouldn't put a period where God put a comma.
My husband, son, and I finally finished watching Gone with the Wind. I don't think it ended the way Miss Scarlet would have liked. But I'll just think about that tomorrow...
If you have been feeling like perhaps your life is taking an intermission, join me in the following prayer. Then click over to my Facebook page and say, I'm pressing on!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes I feel like there is no hope, like the story of my life is running amuck on the sandbar of disappointment. Thank you, Lord, that you never see a situation as hopeless...that what you have begun in me will be completed. Lord, when I make a poor decision, help me to repent and go on with life; when I want to go into hiding, help me to have the courage to come back out of the cave of despair; when I am disappointed, help me to look to You alone, the author and finisher of life. Help me to obey You, no matter what the cost. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What would have happened if Joshua got tired of walking around Jericho on day six and stopped?
Is there something in your life you've given up on?
Has God stirred you to pick up the cause and continue on?
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September 17, 2013
The Living Bible
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Knowledge puffs you up with pride, but love builds up (1 Corinthians 8:1b, NIV).
Friend to Friend
His name was Bill, a college-student with wild hair who wore a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans, and no shoes for his entire four years of college. Bill was brilliant and what some might describe as quirky. While attending college, Bill became a Christian and began looking for a church to attend.
Across the street from the campus was a very conservative church that wanted to reach the college students, but was not sure how to go about it.
One Sunday, Bill decided to visit the church and walked in, dressed in his usual college attire. Since the service had already started, Bill walked down the center aisle, looking for a seat. The church was packed, and he couldn't find an empty spot. By now, the well-dressed people are staring uncomfortably at the barefoot young man in his tattered T-shirt and jeans, but no one said a word. As Bill got closer to the pulpit, he realized that there were simply no seats, so he just squatted down on the carpet – a practice perfectly acceptable at college Bible studies, but one that had probably never happened at this particular church.
The people began to whisper and the air was thick with tension. As the pastor wondered what to do, he noticed a deacon slowly making his way from the back of the church toward Bill. The deacon was in his eighties, had beautifully combed silver-gray hair and was wearing a three-piece suit. He was a godly man, very elegant, and very dignified. He walked with a cane. As he started walking toward the boy, everyone was thinking that no one could blame him for what he was about to do. After all, how could anyone expect a man of his age and background to understand the college kid now sitting on the floor?
It took a long time for the man to reach the boy, but the only sound that could be heard was the clicking of the man's cane. Every eye was focused on him and it seemed like everyone was holding their breath. The minister felt like there was no point in even trying to begin his sermon until the deacon completed his mission. Everyone simply waited.
When the elderly man reached the young college student, he dropped his cane on the floor and with great difficulty, lowered himself until he was sitting down next to Bill. The two men smiled at one another and then looked at the minister, ready to hear from God. When the pastor gained control of his emotions, he simply said, "What I'm about to preach, you will never remember. What you have just seen, you will never forget."
We need to be careful how we live. We may very well be the only Bible some people ever read.
Knowledge – for the sake of knowledge – is worthless and can easily lead to pride and arrogance. But knowledge for the sake of love is priceless. In other words, no one really cares how much you know until they know how much you really care.
Knowledge is powerful and should be used in love and love should always be controlled by knowledge. God gives us the ability to understand the Bible, and then wants us to use its truths to build each other up and meet the needs of others.
A preacher once said, "Some Christians grow. Others just swell." Arrogance and pride are the result of knowledge that is misused. Knowledge can be a weapon of destruction or a tool of construction. It all depends on how it is used. We can know doctrine and never know God. We can grow in Bible knowledge, but not grow in grace. We can attend church every time the doors are open but until we actually apply God's truth to the way we live, something is lost in the way we translate the Good News of Jesus Christ.
I heard the story of four Bible scholars who were arguing over the best translation of the Bible. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its beautiful, eloquent old English. Another said he preferred the American Standard Bible for its literalism and accurate translation from the original text. A third man preferred the newer translations because of their practical application. The fourth scholar listened thoughtfully, and then added, "Personally, I prefer my mother's translation." When the other men laughed, he explained, "My mother translates every page of the Bible into her daily life, and it is the most convincing translation I have ever seen."
I wonder. Do the people in my life better understand God because of the way I live? Is my life a living illustration of God's love? Is the "Mary Southerland Translation" of the Bible authentic and real and pleasing to God? Lord, help me be Your Living Bible.
Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed that You love me – no matter what I do or don't do. Lord, I want others to look at my life and see You. Teach me Your ways. Give me Your strength and wisdom to live each day as a beautiful translation of Your unconditional love and grace. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pray for the people in your life and ask God to show you how to demonstrate His love in a tangible way to each one. Look for a need in each person's life and then make a plan to meet that need.
Read John 3:16. Remember and celebrate the unconditional love of God by reaching out to someone who might live outside your comfort zone. In your journal, record your experience and what you learned and gained from that experience.
More from the Girlfriends
We should be more purposeful in sharing the love of God with people in need. The need may be financial or physical. Others just need a friend and a listening heart. Maybe a family member needs some of your time this week. I encourage you to be a living Bible to someone today.
Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Come As You Are and celebrate the unconditional love and unending mercy and grace of God.
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September 18, 2013
Where Will You Be Spending Eternity?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world, that Hegave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. (John3:16, NASB).
Friend to Friend
I was traveling to Canada to speak at a women's conference. As I approached the passport checker, I held out my little book like a seasoned traveler.
"Are you here for business or pleasure?" the guard asked.
"Well, I'm not sure what to call it. I'm here for ministry. I'm speaking at a women's event and it is my pleasure to be here."
"Where are you going?"
"I'm not sure where the event is," I answered. "They have someone picking me up."
"Where are you staying?" she continued.
"You know, I have no idea," I answered with a smile.
"Excuse me ma'am. Will you please step aside and follow me?"
"Of course."
I followed what looked like a police officer and she led me to a little room. All of a sudden, a twinge of fear rose up in my throat and I realized I might not have answered her questions with the best answers. I was entering a foreign country and I couldn't tell them where I was going or where I was staying. I sat in the plastic chair and noticed a security camera in the corner.
In quick order, another man came in the room with an official-looking note pad. He asked me a battery of questions. I quickly learned that when those border patrol people ask you where you are going and where you are staying, you'd better have a ready answer. You do not want to be ushered into the little white room with the camera recording your every move.
Thankfully, they let me into the country and I spoke at the women's retreat. And I can assure you, every other time I've crossed the border, whether north, south, east or west, I've had a ready answer to the questions that I know will be coming my way.
That brings me to a couple of questions we're all going to have to answer one day. Do you know where you are going? Do you know where you are staying? Not tomorrow or the next day, but for eternity? If you were to die today, do you know where you're headed? If you're not sure, click here to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the assurance of heaven as your final destination.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, thank You for giving Your life for me so that I can have eternal life in heaven. I know that I could never earn my salvation...that I could never be good enough. But You were good enough for me. Because of Your finished work on the cross, God has made a way for everyone to believe on You, confess your Name, and be saved. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Picture yourself at the customs counter trying to get into heaven.
What about your passport would make the agent let you in?
Do you know where you're going when you leave this life?
Do you know where you're staying for all eternity?
If you know that you are going to heaven when you leave this place, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'll see you there!"
More from the Girlfriends
Once I became a Christian, I knew I was going to heaven, but I wasn't sure what I was supposed to do until I got there. I had no idea who I was as a child of God, and so I lived in continual defeat. It wasn't until I learned who I was and what I had as a child of God that I began living the victorious life. I want that for you! To learn more about how to live in victory because of who you are, what you have, and where you are in Christ, see my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful and get ready to put on your holy glow!
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September 19, 2013
Under the Juniper Tree
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My soul, wait thou in silence for God only; for my expectation is from Him (Psalm 62:5, ASB).
Friend to Friend
Elijah is a great example of a man in need of rest. One day he was the conquering hero, the next we find him sitting under a Juniper tree, wallowing in self-pity – and begging God to let him die. The poor man was simply exhausted. True, it was an exhaustion produced by victory, but it was still exhaustion.
Elijah called down fire from heaven, proving the existence of the only true God, destroying idols and idol worshippers. Big stuff! In fact, it is my personal opinion that he should have been celebrating. So why was he so discouraged? It was a woman, Jezebel, who was largely responsible for his discouragement.
Jezebel was the evil and influential wife of Ahab, King of Israel, and widely known as the real power behind her husband's throne. Jezebel did not worship the one true God of Israel. Instead, she was fanatical in her worship of the pagan god, Baal, and tried to impose her beliefs on the people of Israel. One man stood in her way – Elijah. When Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal to a showdown on Mount Carmel, God answered Elijah's prayer with a stream of fire from heaven. You would think that a miracle like that would have convinced Ahab and Jezebel to believe in God. It didn't. In fact, Jezebel was furious. When she learned what had happened on Mt. Carmel with the fire and idols, she put a contract out on Elijah. Now stop and think about that for a moment.
Elijah had been in the presence of God. God had heard and answered Elijah's prayer, putting on an impressive fiery display for all to see. Idols had fallen. The prophets of Baal had either fled or been destroyed. And Elijah is worried about one angry woman? Elijah was tired and needed to rest – big time. He found that rest while sitting under a Juniper tree, waiting in silence for God to show up. I know. God had showed up in big ways for Elijah, but this time, Elijah needed a personal, one-on-one encounter with his Father. I've been there, haven't you?
I'm not very good at waiting. I don't like to wait on anyone or anything and often view the waiting rooms of life as missed opportunities and unproductive circumstances to be avoided whenever possible. And as far as silence goes, if there is a word to be spoken, I will gladly speak it. In fact, for much of my life, I have tried my best to avoid silence and solitude. However, I am learning that while the seasons of silence and the waiting rooms of life are different in nature and purpose, they are always for my ultimate good.
Silence sometimes falls like a sweet, gentle and refreshing rain. I don't have to do anything, be anything or seek anything. I am just with Him and He is with me. I crawl up into my Father's lap and wrap my arms around Him and find healing and restoration. I fall in love with Him all over again as He reminds me that His love for me is unchanging and unconditional. The Father gently reassures my frightened heart that He is not going anywhere and that I can count on Him to be with me – no matter what!
But there are also times when waiting in silence feels more like a bottomless pit from which there is no escape. The darkness is filled with fear and unanswered questions threaten my peace. I am lonely and don't understand what God is doing. I am tired of being hurt and disappointed and quitting seems like the easiest way out. My energy is gone and no one seems to understand.
It doesn't really matter what compels us to crave time under the Juniper tree. It only matters that we come. Clinical depression brought me to my knees and drove me to seek God as never before. It was there that His truth pierced my heart and changed the course of my life with the promise found in Psalm 40:1-3:
I waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Oh, I had read the book of Psalms many times, but in the silence under my personal Juniper tree, it settled into my soul and really took root. I began to learn how to wait on God. I came to the precious place of desperation and cried out to Him. I made the deliberate choice to trust Him like the helpless child that I am. During those precious moments, we laughed, cried, and talked about the trials that brought me to the pit of darkness. For the first time in my life, I began to realize that anyone or anything that makes me cry out to God can be counted as a blessing.
I am learning to embrace the silent times of waiting as gifts from His hand to my life. So time under the Juniper tree is good. Sometimes I just need to be reminded. How about you?
Let's Pray
Thank You, Lord, for arranging the circumstances of my life so that I must stop and rest and sit at Your feet in quiet solitude. Thank You for the healing I find there. Thank You for the new truth and redefined purpose for my life. Help me apply the truths I find under the Juniper tree and then give me the strength and determination to share Your plan of deliverance with those who need your restoration. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you long for times of silence or avoid them whenever possible? Why? I encourage you to find a few minutes each day this week to spend in silence before God. Establish the habit of a silent retreat when possible. Read the Psalms daily and keep your gaze on God.
More from the Girlfriends
We will never be free from stress this side of heaven – so we had better figure out how to deal with it. That's why I wrote the book, Escaping the Stress Trap, a verse-by-verse study of Psalm 23. If you read Psalm 23 every day for a month, I promise you will see a difference in your stress level.
From a Mess to a Miracle is Mary's current Online Bible Study. Enroll now and have access to all 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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September 20, 2013
The Power of Quiet
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul (Psalm 23:1-3a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
There are times when laundry takes over my house. Piles build up, though I try to stay on top of them. Many of the clothes are clean and even folded, but not put away. That tricky put-away-part is always hard for me.
Then there are the socks. Oh, the socks! They burden me so! It causes me to wonder. Does an unseen sock nation exist? Are sock-soldiers are on a secret mission to destroy my testimony and drive me crazy? Divide and conquer. That's what they do! Why can't socks just behave? Why can't they ever stay in pairs, and where am I supposed to put the socks that remain unmatched? Sigh.
Unmatched socks and folded-but-not-put-away-laundry tie me up in knots. Sometimes days go by before I make the time to put them away. Shameful. I know.
Is it just me?
I've come to realize that my days can be a lot like my laundry situation. At times they get piled up with busy. Sabbath gets squeezed out. Now, when I say Sabbath, I mean the priority of sitting before the Lord just to sit with Him... quietly... expectantly... to listen... to be restored. Though I do include God in my days and breathe prayers throughout, when I don't sit before the Lord and exercise the spiritual discipline of being quiet before God it seems that both old and new burdens can tie my heart into a big frazzled knot.
It had been one of those weeks. Knots. Knots. Knots. Then I finally remembered the power of quiet. I remembered My Restorer. As I sat in the cool still of the morning with a hot mug of coffee in my hand and the warming presence of God in my soul, the burdens of my heart began to drift away. Direction came. Joy resounded. Mercy rained. Peace... deep peace fell.
The Spirit of God transformed my soul, my thoughts, my goals, and my day. It was as if I had slumbered half the week away. This is where they go. This is where my burdens belong. The old ones that I've written about time and time again in my prayer journal and the new ones that are just beginning to unravel from my heart. This is where they go! I just needed to put my continuous stream of life-burdens away like the unending piles of laundry. Then: order, soul order... peace, compelling peace... joy, divine joy and restoration... it all came.
I sat in wonder.
Still.
In His presence.
Convicted of my failure to remember the power of being quiet before the Lord. Of course this is where they go. I knew that. I knew that. Lord, forgive me. Oh, how I'm thankful for your daily mercy showers. I was met in my mess by the Lord my Restorer.
Each of us is invited to experience God as our Restorer. To know the renewal we long for each day. Jesus invited us personally when he said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30).
When our lives get too busy – when the laundry piles up in our homes and the burdens pile up in our hearts – we often forget the power of quiet. The power of being still before God. The power of listening, expecting, soul-pouring ... receiving rest from our Restorer. His presence sorts souls and never leaves an unmatched burden.
His presence never leaves an un-lifted burden.
How great is our God?
Take some time to power-down and be still before Him right now. Remember the power of quiet as you accept the renewal invitation of Jesus and exchange your burdens and knots for His peace and restoration.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Your mercy is fresh each day, and Your grace piles higher than all my laundry and all my heart-woes. Thank You, Lord! I'm here. Please align my heart to Yours. Quiet me with Your love, direction, and peace today. In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
When is the last time you sat and were still before God – with no music playing, no TV on, etc.?
When we spend purposed time with the Lord, beautiful things happen. Look up Zephaniah 3:17 and fill in the blanks below:
"The LORD your God is _______ _________, he is mighty to save.
He will take ___________ ______________in you, he will _____________ you with his ______________, he will _____________ over you with ________________."
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Are you up for a personal GiG challenge? I challenge you to add a ten-minute "Sabbath" to your day for the next week. (I recommend you do it as soon as you wake up, but that's your call.) Simply sit before the Lord and let Him know you are there. You might want to start your time by reading a psalm and responding in prayer. Then be still. Just ten minutes a day for a week. Ready for the challenge? Make a public commitment on my blog or Facebook wall. Simply post, "I'm in for the Sabbath Challenge!"
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Name by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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September 23, 2013
God's Calling Out to You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But the Lord God called to the man, "Where are you?" (Genesis 3:9 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Eden was full of God's glory—breathtaking beauty with unbroken union and constant communion with God. But as we know, something went terribly wrong, and Adam and Eve found themselves naked and ashamed. And what was the first thing they did when that happened?
They hid.
They hid from God.
"Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man, "'Where are you?'" (Genesis 3:8-9). God called out.
God.
Called.
Out.
"Where are you?" God asked. It was the very first question in the Bible, and it was asked by an all-knowing God. He still asks that very question today. Perhaps you've heard it as well. I have.
The real tragedy of Adam and Eve's disobedience was that union between God and man was broken. Shattered. Destroyed. But as soon as Eve sank her teeth into the forbidden fruit, the shadow of the cross rose on the horizon and God's redemptive plan to restore all that we had lost was set in motion. All through the rest of the Old Testament, from Genesis 3:9 to Malachi 4:6, we read of God calling humanity back to Himself.
We read of cycles of humanity's fellowship with God, followed by humanity's rebellion against God, followed by God's wooing humanity back in the midst of difficult circumstances, followed by humanity's repentance, followed by humanity's fellowship with God, followed by humanity's rebellion against God, followed by God's wooing humanity back in the midst of difficult situations, followed by humanity's repentance, followed by humanity's fellowship with God, followed by....
And all along God continues His passionate pursuit of the human heart as He relentlessly romances us, His image bearers, and calls out to us first one way, then another.
Interestingly, the Hebrew word for Bible is mikra, and means the calling out of God. And isn't that what the Bible really is? It is the calling out of God to draw mankind back to Himself? To restore our original glory through the finished work of Jesus Christ? He begins with calling out that very first question: "Where are you?" He ends it the same "I stand at the door and knock," (Revelation 3:20).
The Bible tells us, "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23).There is not one of us who is completely and perfectly living the life that God had intended in the Garden. But the good news is that Christ in us is the hope of glory (Colossians 1:24-27).It is through that union that glory moments occur. Without Christ in us, we are not even able to detect or reflect God's glory at all. And yet, that was God's original intent for us "in the beginning."
Most people would agree that we are born with an inherent inner nagging that there has to be something more than what we see. Solomon wrote: "He has also set eternity in the hearts of men" (Ecclesiastes 3:11). No matter how humanity has tried to satisfy the hunger, quench the thirst, or mask the reality of God's existence, eternity still pulls at the heart. A longing to experience God persists. The glory ache is a chronic throb.
But here is the good news! Aren't you ready for some good news? This is not our final home! We are merely passing through this thing called life. And until those who know Christ leave this earth and enter God's glory once and for all, until we inhale eternity, He gives us glimpses of glory right here on earth! Moments of sudden glory abound, if we will but take the time to recognize them, to embrace them, to enjoy them ... to taste and see that the Lord is good!
Let's Pray
Here I am, Lord. I'm right here in Your presence. Thank You for not leaving me hiding in shame, but calling me out of hiding to join You in relationship. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever felt like you were hiding from God?
Have you ever felt that He was calling out to you?
God still calls out. Jesus still knocks. Look for Him. Listen for Him.
I'd love to hear how God showed Himself to you today! Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
Do you long to experience God on a daily basis? Do you hunger to feel closer to Him? Do you want something more in your relationship with Him? The good news is, "something more" does not mean "doing more." God is not waiting for you to get your spiritual life "right." He wants to be with you right where you are. To learn more about how to experience God's presence in all of life, see my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It also includes a study guide in the back.
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September 24, 2013
I want to love you – my way!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another (John 13:35, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Grandchildren often remind me how to find joy in the simple things of life. Not long ago, I took Lelia and Jaydan, our two-year-old twin grandchildren, on a little shopping trip. When Mimi comes for a visit, there is always a shopping trip on the agenda. Lelia and Jaydan piled into the car and we headed to the store. I think I was more excited than they were. That's how grandmothers are.
Once we were inside the store, we grabbed a shopping cart and off we went in search of treasures. In other words, we needed toys! As we headed to the toy section of the store, we passed the pharmacy - which reminded me that I needed to pick up some vitamins. The twins were very patient as I searched the pharmacy shelves and found what I needed. I tossed the box of vitamins in the cart and said, "Let's go! The toys are just ahead!"
When we reached the first aisle of the toy section, I reminded Lelia and Jaydan that they could each pick one very special toy for Mimi to buy. Jaydan headed straight for the "crucks" and cars. No surprise there! But Lelia didn't seem very interested in looking at much of anything. Now that was surprising!
As I tried to figure out what the problem could possibly be, I spotted something pink out of the corner of my eye. A closer look revealed a small pink box of Hello Kitty Band-Aids clutched tightly in Lelia's little hands. Judging from the slightly crumpled box, I knew she had been holding her treasure for quite some time. The vitamin aisle! Evidently, Lelia had done a little looking on her own while I was searching for my vitamins; and had come up with a box of Band-Aids. But Mimi did not travel all the way from Kansas to North Carolina to buy her precious little granddaughter a paltry box of Band-Aids!
When I tried to persuade Lelia to pick something else - something a little more exciting than Band-Aids - she politely refused. Lelia was happy, but Mimi was not. I wanted to buy her a "real" toy, but what Lelia really wanted was a box of Hello Kitty Band-Aids.
We often treat irritating people the same way. Have you noticed that sandpaper people are usually needy people? I have discovered that irritating behavior is often nothing more than a plea for help in disguise. True love - God's love - looks beyond abrasive behavior to see and meet the real needs of a difficult person.
Meeting a need in the life of a sandpaper person can be messy and usually demands a sacrifice of some kind on our part. It is easier to simply placate or avoid difficult people than it is to love them the way they need to be loved. It makes our life easier. For example, when we see that sandpaper person coming, we turn around and head in the opposite direction. When the caller ID indentifies our sandpaper person as the caller, we do not answer. Hurried conversations replace a listening heart. We offer tolerance instead of acceptance. And God is not pleased. He is committed to our character - not to our comfort.
God wants us to love each other in the same way that He loves – unconditionally. In fact, God wants us to love in such a way that the people around us will know we are fully devoted followers of Christ. I wonder what our relationships would look like if we did. Who knows? That sandpaper person may very well turn into a velvet person.
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for looking beyond my faults and for loving me unconditionally. Forgive me when I fail to love others in the same way. Give me eyes to see the needs in my sandpaper person's life and show me how to meet those needs in a way that pleases You. I pray that others will see Your love working in and through my life. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Nowhere in the Bible will you find the words, "When you feel like it, love others." Nope! It is not in there. The Bible tells us to practice love. Love is a choice – not an emotion or a feeling. Loving sandpaper people usually requires a deliberate choice on our part. I challenge you to step out in faith today and choose to love that difficult person in your life. Read the following commitment and fill in the blanks with the name of your sandpaper person. Be sure to sign and date your commitment.
Father, I choose to love _____________________ as a step of obedience to You.
I will show Your love to _____________________ by sending her a note of encouragement. I will pray for _____________________, remembering that she is made in Your image, and that You love her just as much as You love me.
Sign____________________________ Date _____________________________
More from the Girlfriends
I know it is hard to love someone who is constantly on your nerves. In fact, it is impossible without the power of God in your life. Sharon, Gwen and I understand how hard it is to love difficult people, so we hold each other accountable. I encourage you to recruit a girlfriend who is willing to do the same for you.
Need help understanding the Bible?Check out Mary's online Bible study, Light for the Journey, and join women across the world in learning how to apply God's truths to your daily life in her current study, From a Mess to a Miracle. Enroll today and have access to all of the 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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September 25, 2013
Do You Want to Be Pursued?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
My lover spoke and said to me, 'Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me'(Song of Songs 2:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was in college when I first eyed my husband. He was sitting on the floor at a friend's Bible study gathering with his back against the wall, dressed in scruffy jeans and a red flannel shirt with the sleeves rolled halfway up his muscular forearms. His thick brown hair and chocolate-brown eyes left me weak in the knees. And the best part was that this handsome hunk of a man had a tattered Bible in his lap. He laughed easily, prayed humbly, and read intently. I was smitten from the first time I laid eyes on Steve.
After a few weeks, he finally asked me out on a date. We continued seeing each other over the next several weeks, but I was still accepting invitations from others as well. One night, Steve asked me to a college football game, and I agreed to go. Then he said, "Can I just ask you? Will you go with me to all of the football games for the rest of the year?"
"I'm not going to answer that question," I replied. "You'll just have to ask me each week."
Looking back on those early days, what I was really saying was that I wanted to be pursued. None of this blanket invitation for the entire fall business. I wanted to be wooed and won. Even though he had me the moment I saw him sitting on the shag carpet floor, I didn't want him to know that. I wanted him to show me I was worth putting forth the effort to capture my heart. Isn't that the desire of every woman's heart?
And nobody does it better than God.
I love what Simon Tugwell once said: "So long as we imagine it is we who have to look for God, we must often lose heart. But it is the other way about. He is looking for us."
Oh friend, God has pursued and continues to pursue you every day. A sunset. A dandelion growing through a crack in a concrete sidewalk. A favorite song on the radio. He is pursuing you like a love-struck beau. Pay attention and enjoy His advances as He pursues you today.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I swoon thinking of how you pursue me. Me, one so unworthy of Your advances. Help me to recognize Your love notes throughout the day. I am my beloved's and He is mine.
In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today, consider reading the story of the Samaritan woman that Jesus met at the well (John 4:1-26, 39-42). Look at the great lengths He went to pursue her heart.
Remember, this was a time in history when men did not speak to women in public. Jews did not enter Samaria. Women were not allowed to study under a rabbi's teaching. And here's another tidbit. This was the first person that Jesus told that He was the Messiah.
How has Jesus pursued you? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
More from the Girlfriends
We tend to read the gospels with our twenty-first century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture into which Jesus stepped was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. My book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encounteredis an insightful look at every encounter Jesus had with women while here on earth. Visit my website to order this life-changing book, download a free sample chapter, or watch a free video. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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September 26, 2013
Patience Pays Off
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him (James 1:12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Patience is not one of my greatest strengths. In fact, I tend to live each day with a schedule in mind, an agenda by which to live that day, and several goals I need to meet before the day's end. God does have a sense of humor. I can't tell you how many times my schedule falls apart, the agenda is completely forgotten, and I have to move today's goals to tomorrow. I am learning that when God wants to build a certain quality in my life, He puts me in the opposite circumstance. For example, if God wants me to be more patient, He arranges the hours and minutes of my day in ways that demand patience.
What is patience? To be patient is to have the ability to endure, but it doesn't stop there. Patience must also have the capacity to be wronged and not retaliate. In other words, patience is love persevering and love waiting. We are not only to be patient in the way we face difficult situations, but in our relationships as well. That just about covers life, doesn't it?
One of the most powerful Bible passages on patience and perseverance is found in the book of James. "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him."
Do you want to be blessed? Stand firm in your trial. Do you want to be rewarded? Stand firm in that tough circumstance. Be patient – because patience really does pay off. God promises blessings and rewards to those who persevere and stand firm in hard times. We can stand firm because God loves us unconditionally and promises to walk with us through every dark moment life will bring. Nothing touches us that does not pass through God's hand, with His permission.
Remember the Bible story of the man named Job? Job was a faithful servant of God, strong in his faith and unwavering in his obedience to God. Satan didn't like it. In fact, he went to God and asked permission to test Job. I love it! The devil had to go to God like an errand boy in order to get permission to touch His child, Job. Satan was convinced that if Job lost everything God had given him, his health, his family, and his possessions, Job would curse God and follow Satan. God told the serpent to give it his best shot, convinced that Job would persevere. Satan stripped Job of his health, his possessions, his wealth and his family – everything Job held dear. Job stood firm.
Every trial must come through God's love, but every trial has a purpose. Every pain has a purpose, every ordeal contains a seed of victory, and there is a promise for every problem you and I will ever face. The psalmist writes, "The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy" (Psalm 28:7).
Patience pays off in many ways, but one of the greatest rewards of patience is joy, a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. Warren Wiersbe writes, "When God permits his children to go through the furnace, He keeps his eye on the clock and his hand on the thermostat!"
God will never let us face more than we can handle with His help. Hebrews 12:12 says, "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." I have been there, done that and can relate to a weary heart and shaky legs.
An evangelist told the story of his friend who, during the depression, lost a job, a fortune, a wife and a home, but he held onto his faith. One day, the friend stopped to watch some men building a stone church. One of the workers was chiseling a triangular piece of rock. "What are you going to do with that?" asked the friend. The workman said, "Do you see that little opening way up there near the spire? Well, I'm shaping this down here so that it will fit up there." Tears filled the eyes of the broken man as he walked away. It seemed that God had spoken through the workman to explain the trials of his life." God is using the trials here on earth to refine and purify us. In Colossians 1:11, the apostle Paul writes, "God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient!"
No matter where you are today, where you have been, or what you are facing tomorrow, be patient, knowing your God will strengthen you to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am impatient. Help me to see You at work in the trial and choose to depend on Your strength instead of my own. Help me to see Your purpose and plan, but even if I can't understand it all, help me to stand firm in faith. Lord, make me more patient so that others will see You in me. In Jesus's name, Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
Read Romans 12:12 "Be patient when trouble comes." What trouble in your life today requires patience? Are you willing to choose faith and obedience by trusting God with that trouble?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "Be patient with everyone." What relationship in your life demands patience from you? What one thing do you need to change in order to choose obedience to God as you relate to this person?
Read Ephesians 4:2 "Always be humble, gentle and patient." Notice that patience is listed along with two other important qualities God wants to see in us. How do you think patience relates to humility and gentleness?
More from the Girlfriends
The only thing worse than learning from experience is not learning from experience. I am with you, friend. I encourage you to check out my book, Sandpaper People, as a resource for those difficult relationships in your life. You can also download an MP3 file of "Patience Pays Off" by visiting the online store of my website.
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September 27, 2013
When God Does a New Thing
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! (2 Corinthians 5:17).
Friend to Friend
I admit, I'm a sucker for the makeover shows. It doesn't matter what kind... home makeovers, fashion makeovers... or even the shows that take a person from drab or flab to fab. I just love to see an amazing transformation! Don't you?
Last summer we "transformed" our family a bit when we added a bouncy little puppy to the mix. Fun, right? Mostly, yes, but there is a bit more to the story...
Let's just say that it took a good while for our precious new addition to get the hang of potty training and healthy chewing patterns. Our little, little dog caused us big, big problems when he chewed up and stained our family room carpet.
It. Looked. Awful.
For months!
Eventually, when he grew into his bladder and better doggy habits, I was ready for a makeover of a carpet-kind in my munched-on, stained-up family room. So we went to the home improvement store, ordered new carpet and waited with excitement for installation day.
When the day finally came around, I watched the installers painstakingly remove the old flooring layer by layer. First they pulled back and removed the stained, chewed up carpet. Then they tore out the worn down old pad and put all the nasty, soiled carpet and padding in their van to take to the dump.
Next they cleared away the remaining debris – cleaned the entire area – and installed the fresh flooring. A fluffy new foundation of padding and carpet! Hallelujah! It was a beautiful transformation!
God is all about beautiful transformations. He is an active, deeply personal, infinitely caring God who restores us on a heart level with a makeover of a masterful kind. When we turn to Him in repentance, He takes the broken, stained areas of our lives away and replaces our mess with a beauty that is far beyond ourselves – the beauty of Christ.
The Bible has a great deal to say about what happens when we turn to God:
"Those who look to him are radiant; they are never covered in shame." Psalm 34:5
"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." Isaiah 43:18-19
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" 2 Corinthians 5:17
Listen, friend, I am living proof of the scandalous nature of God's grace... of His willingness to forgive and restore ugly, tattered heart places. I don't write from a platform of perfection, but from a foundation of grace that was finished and established by the blood of Jesus Christ.
He came so that you and I could live beyond our pasts – beyond our disappointments – beyond our biggest mistakes and our deepest pains. He came so we could be forgiven and made new. So we could have abundant life.
Full. Life.
I don't know where this finds you right now, but God surely does. He knows and sees everything – and still His love remains.
We all have brokenness that needs fixingand stains that need to be cleaned. We all need a makeover! The good news of the Gospel is simple: when we call out to God and seek His heart and forgiveness through Jesus Christ, He does a new thing! He meets us with mercy, forgives us completely, blesses us with grace and does a masterful, life-changing work of transformation.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I'm so grateful that You love makeovers as much as I do! You know my heart and You know my messes, failures and wounds. Please create a clean heart in me today, Lord. Would You do a new and beautiful thing? In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Are you ready to move forward in God's fresh grace today? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page and leave a comment that says, "I'm ready for a new thing!" While you're there, check out the photo of my precious problematic puppy and take a moment to listen to the song Broken into Beautiful.
Is there someone you know who needs to read this message? Forward this email. Post it on your social media sites. Share the hope of healing.
More from the Girlfriends
My full testimony is featured the book, Broken into Beautiful, along with Scriptural truths and stories of how God has brought restoration the hearts of many other women who had painful life wounds. Experience God's healing and hope in your life today as you read Broken Into Beautiful! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit my website.
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September 30, 2013
When God Romances You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet and your face is lovely, (Song of Songs 2:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Aren't you glad that God refers to the Church as the Bride of Christ? I asked my husband what pictures come into his mind when he reads God's description of the Church as the Bride of Christ. He gave me a strange look and said, "None, really." I'll admit, I can't picture Steve walking down the aisle in a flowing wedding gown, but oh sister, I can see myself dressed in a satin and lace, pearl-studded gown with a flowing veil, and walking down the aisle of heaven to meet Jesus—my heavenly Bridegroom. Can't you? What glorious imagery God has given to His female image bearers.
Perhaps one of the most romantic books in the Bible is the Song of Songs, or as some translations title it, The Song of Solomon. While it can be read as King Solomon's wooing the Shulammite woman working in the fields, many theologians, including Augustine, Matthew Henry, Charles Spurgeon, Hudson Taylor, and at least one gal from the South, see it as an allegory of Jesus wooing the heart of His Bride.
I have been like the Shulammite woman who questioned God's pursuit. She felt unworthy of her suitor's advances. "Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun," she cried (Song of Songs 1:6). Her hands were stained from tending her brothers' vineyard. Her skin was burnt by the blazing sun. Her feet were calloused from walking bare on hardened ground. But the king looked past all the outward signs of a hard-lived life, and saw only her beauty.
When I first read those words through the lens of Jesus pursuing me, tears filled my eyes. And yet, the tears were not for the Shulammite woman. The tears were for myself.
I grew up in a home riddled with cyclical bursts of physical violence and constant emotional turmoil. My father drank very heavily and my parents fought, both verbally and physically, in front of me. Many nights I went to bed, pulled the covers up around my chin, and prayed that I would hurry up and go to sleep to shut out the noise of the yelling, screaming, and arguing in the next room. My parents were so wrapped up in their own problems, they were unsure how to show love to their children. I lived in a beautiful house and all my physical needs were cared for. But my heart was hungry for something I couldn't define. An undercurrent of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy ran through my entire existence and became the window through which I viewed my little world.
From my earliest remembrance, I felt that I wasn't good enough, smart enough, or pretty enough. Looking back through my scrapbook of photos, I was actually a cute little girl. However, when someone feels ugly, the mirror on the wall somehow bypasses the reflection in the glass and goes right to the heart. No wonder my daddy doesn't love me, I thought on many occasions.
And yet, the King spied me in the fields and wooed me. Through a two-year courtship, Jesus pursued my adolescent heart until I finally stopped shunning His advances and allowed myself to be caught."I am my Beloved's and His desire is for me." Every girl's dream.
There are many different types of love: motherly love, friendship love, patriotic love, and a host of other shades and varieties. But romantic love brings with it colors and hues that are specific and unique to every other on the spectrum of emotions. Lovers are consumed with ways to make each other happy. They long for together times and feel a sense of loss when apart. Lovers are willing to sacrifice just about anything to be together. They lie awake at night dreaming up ways to make the other happy. An embrace. A kiss. A word. A look. Each of these ordinary movements between friends or acquaintances becomes rapturous between lovers.
How lovely that God has chosen romantic love to describe how He feels about you. And what He really desires is for you to express that love in return in an intimate relationship.
Let's Pray
Jesus, I honestly don't know what you saw in me, but I'm so glad You thought I was worth pursuing. I do love You so. Thank You for pursuing me and catching me in your love net. I am captivated by Your love. In Jesus's Name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up the following verses in the Song of Songs and envision Jesus saying the words to you!
Song of Songs 1:9,15; 2:2,14; 4:1-7
More than the love story between a woman who felt unworthy of attention and a man captivated by her beauty—the Song of Songs is a beautiful picture of Jesus wooing and winning His Bride...you.
You have captured Jesus' attention just as surely as the Shulammite maiden captured the young king's who eyed her in the fields.
Click over to my Facebook page and let me know how it makes you feel to know that God has pursued you.
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Have you ever felt like you weren't smart enough, pretty enough, or just not good enough? Well, God thinks differently. If you would like to learn how to have the confidence of a woman who knows she is deeply loved, completely forgiven and powerfully equipped to do all God has called her to do, then my book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, is the book for you. Begin seeing yourself as God sees you and leave those lies behind.
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October 1, 2013
Indiana Jones' School of Faith
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it" (Hebrews 11:1, ICB).
Friend to Friend
I have a love-hate relationship with the movie, "The Last Crusader." The hero, Indiana Jones, is constantly hovering above some bottomless pit, or frantically dodging bullets, flying knives, hoards of sinister enemies, and nasty creatures that are trying to kill him and prevent him from completing his mission. It is exhausting to watch! One part of the movie stands out above the rest as terrifying moments go.
As usual, Indiana is on the run and comes to a chasm he must cross in order to obtain the Holy Grail. No bridge. No net. No ropes or hat tricks - just air, and nothing but air.
At this point in the movie, I am looking for a tangible resolution to Indiana's predicament. Maybe a hidden elevator built into the side of the abyss or an alternate route to the treasure. You know, something you could touch and see and ... well, explain.
Instead, the treasure map dictates a ridiculous solution that makes no sense at all, but demands a huge step of faith. If Indiana will just step over the edge of that bottomless pit ... a bridge, a rock wall will appear. Right! How about that bridge appears and then Indiana traipses across it?
Nope. That is not the plan.
Even though I have seen the movie several times, my stomach still lurches as Indiana closes his eyes, takes a deep breath and cautiously steps out into air and the seemingly bottomless abyss. If the treasure map is wrong and the wall does not appear, Indiana Jones will surely plummet to his death. Fortunately, the clue is correct, the wall does appear, and Indiana Jones races across to safety, resuming his quest, and leaving several powerful lessons of faith for us to consider.
In order to experience the power of God, we have to be willing to step out in faith, even when it seems there is no way and no solution to the problem at hand, and our strength is gone. God will strengthen us as we go.
At the center of every challenge is an opportunity for trust in God to work. Every problem contains a concentrated opportunity and offers the option of stepping out in faith.
The highest truths God has to offer are rarely enclosed in a beautifully wrapped or elegantly presented package and handed to us on a silver platter. I am convinced that our Father takes heaven-sent treasures, buries them at the heart of a huge problem, then watches and applauds when we have what it takes to break that problem apart, finding the wealth hidden there in the darkness. The words of Isaiah say it well. "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness - secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name" (Isaiah 45:3,NLT).
Some things cannot be learned in the light. The greatest treasures are often buried in the deepest pits and require a step of faith to discover.
We all have faith. We go to a doctor we don't really know and are handed a prescription we cannot read. We then take that prescription to a pharmacist, a total stranger, who presents us with a mysterious bottle filled with pills that we swallow – all in faith. Our problem is not so much a lack of faith, but rather where we place that faith.
Hebrews 11:1 (ICB) "Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it."
Faith is built upon trust. God wants us to trust Him - even when we do not understand what is happening and cannot explain the circumstances. Even when nothing makes sense and everything seems wrong. It is easy to trust God when the seas are calm and the skies are clear, but the strength of our faith is measured in the midst of a raging storm. A crisis always reveals what is really inside.
What life does to us depends on what life finds in us. Faith is a deliberate choice to believe God, to walk through our fear, knowing we really can trust Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of living a life that can be explained and understood in human terms. My heart longs to walk by faith, counting on Your strength instead of my own, knowing You orchestrate every step to illustrate Your power made perfect in my weakness. Today, I choose to trust You instead of demanding an explanation for what is happening in my life. Right now, I choose to walk through my fear and step out in faith.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Matthew 17:20 says even a tiny amount of faith pleases God. "I (Jesus) tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."
A mustard seed is tiny, but once planted, it grows into a huge tree. Jesus said a little bit of faith can have incredible results. We don't need a lot of faith - just as much as a mustard seed to produce great results. Why? Because our God is an awesome God and our faith depends on Him.
What is the greatest storm in your life today?
What step do you need to take to face that trial with faith instead of fear?
What is keeping you from trusting God and stepping out in faith?
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October 2, 2013
Establishing Boundaries – Setting Priorities
Part One
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
And God said, 'I will make rivers flow on barren heights, and springs within the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water, and the parched ground into springs' (Isaiah 41:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
To celebrate our twentieth wedding anniversary, my husband and I traveled to the enchanting island of Maui, where we decided to explore the rugged terrain and tropical beauty along an infamous road called the Hana Highway. The brochures promised black sandy beaches, a view of Hawaii's largest volcano wreathed in clouds, African tulip trees with orange-red blossoms, exotic plants tucked among bamboo forests, and breath-taking vistas of raucous waves crashing against rocky cliffs.
Instead of being carted up the mountain in the comfort of a cushy air-conditioned tour bus, we decided to rent a car and travel at our own pace. After all, the tour guide from the hotel lobby informed us that it would take three to four hours to travel fifty-two miles to the road's end. Being city dwellers who move at a fairly rapid pace, we surmised that the laid-back Hawaiian was simply planning to take his time puttering up the mountainside. We were sure we could make the trip in one-fourth his time.
Mr. Tour Guide warned us, "The road is very windy and difficult to maneuver."
"It's just a sales ploy," I whispered to Steve. "We don't need a guide. Besides, if he can drive that big bus up the road, surely we can maneuver this little Buick."
I should have had second thoughts as I passed by a T-shirt in the gift shop that read, "I survived the Road to Hana."
The fifty-two mile stretch of highway was anything but a stretch. It was as if a two-year-old had held a fat crayon in his chubby hand and scribble-scrabbled circles on a piece of paper. Then a surveyor, mistaking the twists and turns for a map, designed the road accordingly. One writer noted that calling it a highway was like calling a Volkswagen a limousine.
Yes, there were many spectacular views, but I missed many of them because my motion-sick eyes were closed.
Well, three and one-half nerve wrecking hours, 54 bridges (many which were one lane) and 617 hairpin-turns later, we made it to the crest of the mountain and the end of the Hana Highway. Was it worth the twists and turn, cliff hanging maneuvers, and near head on collisions? Yes.
The sight that I beheld when we reached the top will forever be etched in my mind. A series of seven interconnected pools spilled into one another down the mountain and formed the spectacular Wiamoku Falls. The rains from heaven pour into the first pool at the top. When it is filled, it spills into a majestic waterfall that ends in the second pool several yards down the mountain. The second pool overflows to a third pool, then a fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh. Eventually, the seven waterfalls flow into the Pacific Ocean.
Those seven cascades are much like our relationship with God and all the other areas of our lives. When we come to Christ, God pours His blessings into us, filling us with His love, power, and grace. The more time we spend with Him, the more we become full of His love, which spills over to those around us.
The seven pools reminded me of the boundaries and priorities I should have in my life. In our fast-paced, upside-down society, boundaries are blurred, roles are reversed, and priorities perplex us. Looking at the falls, I saw the flow of my priorities, with my relationship with God being at the top, followed by my relationship with my husband, my role as a mom, my ministry to the world, etc.
If I put my child first, and start at pool number three, everything else suffers. If I start at pool number four, where my ministry would be, everything else suffers. I have to start at the top with my relationship with God for the flow to be the most beautiful.
Let me go back to the Wiamoku Falls for just a moment. On some days, the seven falls are more spectacular than others. When there are heavy rains and frequent storms, God fills the pools to bursting and water rushes grandly from one step to the next. The results are spectacular; however, no one likes to get caught in the downpour.
How like our Christian walk. No one enjoys the storms of life. But it seems that it is during those times that God fills us to overflowing and onlookers are inspired and refreshed by the splashes of His grace displayed in our lives.
But dry periods sometime come when the falls are reduced to a mere trickle and appear inconsequential and insignificant. We feel we aren't much to look at, and those watching aren't "oohing" and "aahing." That's when we need to pray that He will shower us with His presence and fill us anew.
No matter how your waterfall looks today, I'm praying that God will fill your pool with mercy, grace, and love so that you will spill over to all those around you.
If you are ready to make God your number one priority, click over to my facebook page and say, "I'm ready to get my life in order!"
Let's Pray
Lord, fill me to the brim so that I can spill your love, mercy, and grace onto those around me. Forgive me for putting other people and priorities ahead of You. Help me to live and move and have my being in You today. Thank You for being with me at all times.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
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Draw a picture of those seven waterfalls on a piece of paper. They should look like seven stair steps. Now write what you want your priorities to look like by writing one on each step.
How does what you desire actually match up with your reality?
Need to make any changes?
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October 3, 2013
It's Time to Do Something!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another (1 John 4:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I could not tear my eyes away from the television screen as the 33 miners began to emerge from the depths of what could have been their mass grave. The men had been trapped for more than two months in the collapsed Chilean copper mines nearly half a mile underground. Everything I have read or heard about the tragedy is extraordinary.
The miners survived the early days by rationing food and working together as a team. Each man was assigned a job, one of which was to maintain peace and harmony until they were rescued. The selfless mining supervisor who insisted on being the last to leave his underground prison showed the world what it really means to put others first. I was amazed at the selflessness of the rescue worker who became the initial guinea pig for the rescue capsule and then chose to stay behind – alone - while the world celebrated above.
We all know what it is like to be trapped in a pit of some kind. It is probably not a collapsed mine, but pits are all basically the same.
Our world has collapsed under the weight of fear and pain.
No one seems to care. In fact, a lot of people have written us off as a lost cause.
People are too busy to recognize or understand our hopelessness.
Darkness prevails and rescue seems impossible.
We are wounded, sick and tired.
We withdraw from the very people we love and need the most.
Civil war rages in our soul as we struggle to obey God instead of giving in to sin.
I truly believe that every day is filled with divine appointments – opportunities to rescue people who are trapped in some kind of pit. We miss the emptiness reflected in the eyes of the sales clerk, or we simply choose to ignore the homeless man begging for money so he can buy food. After all, we are in a hurry and have more important things to do. The sales clerk would probably be embarrassed if I said anything, and that homeless man would probably just use the money for drugs or alcohol.
The ringing phone is someone in need, but we don't care enough to answer. Our neighbor does not know God. But her life is a mess and we really don't want to get involved. Instead of taking action and doing what we know God wants us to do, we decide that it is enough to pray for that neighbor and leave the messy part of God's work to someone else.
I am so guilty of walking away from someone in need instead of running to them. I am in pain, too, and my pain is more important than theirs. I may not actually say those words, but I don't have to. My actions are blatant illustrations of my own egotism and self-absorption.
I do not want to be like the priest who nonchalantly strolled by the wounded and bleeding man lying on the road. I want to be like the Good Samaritan who stopped and saved the wounded man's life. I want to be "God with skin on."
One day, just as rescue workers descended into that Chilean mine, Jesus Christ will descend into this broken world and rescue us from the pit of human frailty. Until then, let's be His hands and feet. Let's love Him so much that we just have to do something about it.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart of praise for the way You meet every need in my life and how You constantly rescue me from the darkness. I want Your heart, Lord. I want to be Your hands and feet to the people You place in my path. Give me eyes to see their need and the courage to do something about it. Please guard my heart against pride and selfishness. I want to please and honor You alone.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
It is sometimes hard to love someone in need, but God calls us to look beyond the rough exterior and see the pain hidden there.
Read Ephesians 4:2 "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Notice the action words. What would your daily life look like if you took action and lived out this verse?
Is there someone in your life who is hurting? How can you ease their pain?
Is there someone in your life who is wounded? How can you help them heal?
Is there someone in your life who has fallen into some kind of pit? How can you help rescue them?
Make a specific plan to meet a specific need in someone's life today. Then do something about it!
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We are living in tough times. It is easy to get so wrapped up in our own problems that we fail to see the needs of others. Today, I am issuing a challenge to all of us, girlfriends! Look around. Find someone in need and then take action. We are never more like our Father than when we love and serve someone in His name.
I would love to hear your story! How did God use you to meet a need in the life of someone? How did someone meet your need? Just shoot me an email.
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October 4, 2013
The Trumpet Game
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The LORD your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing." (Zephaniah 3:17, NIV)
Friend to Friend
My friend Brad has a little girl named Elizabeth. When Elizabeth was one year old, Brad and his wife taught her some sign language. For the word please, they chose to have her rub her chest. So, as Brad and Jamie taught Elizabeth to say please, they rubbed their own chests and said "please." Simple enough.
Elizabeth had a favorite toy. It's a plastic knobby toy that holds colorful rings. You know the one with the yellow pole and white base that, without the rings, loosely resembles a trumpet. (C'mon, use your imagination!) So, being the fun, creative parents that Brad and Jamie are, they would dump off the rings and playfully hold up Elizabeth's toy and make a trumpet sound.
Elizabeth loved her parent's silliness. She laughed and clapped with delight. It became a favorite game in their household.
One day, when Brad and Elizabeth were playing the trumpet game, Elizabeth excitedly grabbed the toy and handed it back to him to do it again. Brad encouraged her to say "please" and reinforced the instruction by rubbing his chest. To his surprise, Elizabeth made her way over to him and started to rub his chest instead of her own.
Did this please her daddy? You bet it did!
Even though Elizabeth mixed up the signals, she communicated with her daddy. Brad was filled with love and joy by her effort. He was pleased that she came to him. Not because she did or didn't do something right, but just because she is his daughter and he loves her. He adores her.
God adores you too. Just because you are His child. His sweet daughter. "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" (1 John 3:1a).
Have you considered that perhaps God isn't longing for you to come to Him with perfect, polished prayers that have fifty-cent words and flowery language? Have you thought about the pleasure God experiences when you simply approach him just as you are, warts and all, because He loves you? He delights in your attention. He takes pleasure when you go to Him simply because you are His.
I love how the psalmist responded to God's love:
Praise the Lord, O my soul;
all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the Lord, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
(Psalm 103:1-5)
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, Thanks for this reminder of Your love for me. Thanks for seeing me as precious and special. I'm amazed by Your love. I'm overwhelmed with thankfulness that You made a way for me to know You through Jesus Christ. Help me to come to You as I am each day...without pretenses, pride, or perfection, but simply with Your permission to just be me...because You love me.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Zephaniah 3:17 again silently
Now read it again aloud
Now read it aloud three more times and insert your name after each 'you' –
"The LORD your God is with you (insert name here), He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you (name), He will quiet you (name) with His love, He will rejoice over you (name) with singing."Zephaniah 3:17(NIV)
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When Brad shared this story with me, it melted my heart and blessed my soul. I hope you were moved, too. That's really what being a GiG is all about...sharing things that move us and spur us on toward our extravagant Lord! Glad we are doing life together! I'd love to hear what has moved you lately...come to my blog or my facebook page to take the conversation deeper – or to simply say, "I love being loved!"
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken Into Beautiful. Love is a core message of faith. I know that many of you might have had to read this through tear-filled eyes because you long for this type of pure love. I pray that you will allow God to sift through the disappointments of your heart and replace your tears of pain with tears of joy because of His perfect love. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration! To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website: www.gwensmith.net.
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October 7, 2013
Establishing Boundaries – Setting Priorities, Part 2
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33, ESV).
Friend to Friend
In my last GiG devotion, I invited you to sit by the seven pools at Wiamoku Falls in Maui. I mentioned that the seven waterfalls reminded me of my priorities and how I need to start at the top with my relationship with God for all the other areas to flow properly.
When I start at the top and allow God to fill me to the brim, His love flows down to my second priority – my husband. When that pool is full and in order, God's love spills over to my third priority, then my fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh – just like seven waterfalls that spill from one to the other all the way down a mountain of tasks I have to do every day.
Interestingly, the first seven chapters in the book of John all mentioned water. Let's look at the first chapter. John actually takes us back to another first chapter – Genesis chapter one. "In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God" (John 1:1).
When we look at Genesis 1, where do we find Jesus? We find him "moving over the surface of the waters" (verse 2). Even in the beginning of time, Jesus had a strong connection with water.
Just as we have established the need to know Jesus Christ before we can flow in the other areas of our lives, John also establishes that we need to know Him as well. Verses 1-18 are like an overture to a symphony of Scripture. An overture in a symphony acts as a teaser, making the listener eager to hear more of the theme music as it's played throughout the presentation. John's explanation of who Jesus is sets the tone for the entire book. The first eighteen verses of John 1 stir my heart to want to know him more.
Later in the opening chapter of the Gospel of John, we come face-to-face with Jesus at the Jordan River in Bethany. His cousin, John the Baptist, was a remarkable young preacher who drew great crowds with a message of repentance of sin and preparation for the coming of the Messiah. He baptized believers as an outward symbol of their inward confession and repentance. Even though Jesus needed neither, because He is the sinless Son of God, John baptized Him in the Jordan as an act of obedience - Jesus obeying His Father and John the Baptist obeying His Messiah. Jesus' emergence from the water signaled the beginning of His public ministry.
Baptism symbolizes identification with someone or something. Baptizing a person "in the name of" someone (Acts 8:16) indicates that the baptized person is closely bound to or has become the property of the one in whose name he was baptized.
As we sit by the first pool, considering our number one priority in life, we have to ask ourselves a few questions.
Have I identified myself with Jesus Christ?
Is my heart bound to His?
Have I given myself over to His Lordship in my life?
Oh, my precious sister, if you haven't, I pray that you will get up from the water's edge and stand under the first waterfall. Ask Jesus to save you, fill you, and use you. Let His love rain down on you, cleanse you, and make you new.
If you have not accepted Jesus as Your Lord and Savior, and would like to do that today, please pray the following:
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I confess that I'm a sinner and that sin has separated me from You. I think You for sending Your Son, Jesus Christ, as a sacrifice for my sin. I'm asking now that Jesus Christ reside in my heart and become the Lord of my life. Your Word promises that if I confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord and believe in my heart that You raised Him from the dead, I will be saved. Thank You, God, for saving me and making me Your child.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you prayed that prayer for the first time today, I'd love to know! Please click over to my facebook page, or email me privately at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com
I hope your relationship with God is your number one priority. If not, what do you need to do to change that and make it so?
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October 8, 2013
Touching the Untouchables
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Go to the lost, confused people ... touch the untouchables. You have been treated generously, so live generously (Matthew 10:5, The Message).
Friend to Friend
The heat was brutal. My back was killing me. I was exhausted from a nearly sleepless night, and I had a pounding headache. Every muscle rebelled against the long flights and relentless van rides it had taken to arrive at this rural village in India. I longed for a relaxing, hot bath, but what I had was a bucket of cold water and a plastic cup with which to bathe.
My outer appearance certainly denied my inner attitude. I plastered what I thought must surely be a spiritual kind of smile on my face in an effort to portray the mercy and love I wanted to share. My husband and I were on a 19-day whirlwind trip to South Africa, India and Thailand to see the work our church is doing in those areas. I really wanted to think and feel the right things, but I could not seem to get past myself – a familiar struggle for me. Honestly, all I wanted to do was head back inside and take a nap. Instead, I was sitting before a crowd of over 200 people who had come to hear a message of hope.
Lepers came. Men, women and children of all ages with AIDS came, staring up at me from haunting eyes that mirrored more pain and heartache than I will ever know. A young mother who had just buried her baby wept quietly, comforted by another woman with no fingers and toes, a victim of leprosy. An older man with no feet made his way through the crowd in a crudely built cart pulled by another leper and friend.
Oh, I have been on many mission trips over the years and seen a great deal of poverty, but I had never seen more destitute and broken people or worse living conditions. Cows, chickens, sheep and goats roamed the dirty, rugged roads in front of thatched roof shacks these people called home. No water. No electricity. Sickness and hunger a natural part of their day. I cried out to the Father, "What in the world am I doing here, Lord? How can I possibly help these people?" Then I saw him.
Slowly he made his way through the crowd. The man could not walk because he had no legs. Only stubs remained where his hands had once been, but still he came, swinging his mangled body forward on arms and elbows scarred by what must have been a long battle with leprosy.
I thought surely he would stop at the edge of the crowd and rest, satisfied to have simply made it in time for the meeting, but still he came. I could not take my eyes off him as he inched his way toward me as if I had called his name. Brilliant blue eyes met mine and seemed to ask, "Will you touch me? Will you love me?" In that moment, my heart shattered, and I promptly fell in love. I saw him as he really was - one of God's precious broken lambs - loved, cherished, planned and wanted; created by God for God - just like me.
I suddenly reached out and enveloped his mangled body in a fierce hug.
I just had to.
I loved him and I had to do something about it.
As his blue eyes flashed in surprise, a childlike smile captured his face, and he hugged me right back. In that moment, my life changed.
I have been in ministry forever. I have traveled across the United States and the world, speaking for various conferences, retreats, women's events – you name it. I have directed various women's ministries and been part of many mission trips to dangerous countries. I have written books, articles and devotions about loving the unlovable and touching the untouchable, but in a moment, in the course of one hug, God dissected and scrutinized my spiritual authenticity and integrity – and found it lacking. It was not only lacking in India, but in my every day life and the ministry God has given me in the place I call home.
I had come to give hope and joy. I had come to love. I had come to love the unlovable and touch the untouchables. Instead, I had come face-to-face with my own desperate need of God's love, mercy and forgiveness in my own life. And I am not alone.
Untouchables are everywhere – crippled by sin, broken and lonely, spiritually destitute and emotionally desperate, facing a death sentence of eternal separation from God. Others are men and women in ministry who have crashed and burned in a sea of moral failure or human indictment. Friends and family members stumble along in crudely made carts of greed and discontent. Instead of reaching out to those who so desperately need to be reminded of and to experience God's grace and mercy, we have relegated them to a place of judgment with no hope of restoration. I can assure you that no such place exists in the Kingdom or God. God is all about restoration and healing.
If we are brutally honest, there are times when we do not want to see the untouchables. We do not want to touch them or get involved in their nasty lives. We are weary and exhausted. After all, it takes a lot of energy to wear the right mask for the right audience in the right place and at the right time. Our hearts are scarred and callused from fighting the wrong enemy. All we really want to do is slip into a numbing but deadly sleep, hoping that when we wake, someone will have cleaned up the mess so we won't have to. I have been clearly reminded that the old saying really is true. If there is no mess, there is no ministry, and if there is no ministry, there is no mess.
I pray God uses us all to look for and reach out to those who seem to be unlovable, and then ask God to use us to touch those broken people who wait, longing for hope and healing.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so guilty of looking away when I see someone in need. Please forgive me when I am too busy or just don't care enough to reach out and care. Give me Your heart of mercy and compassion. Use me to love others in Your name.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:31-37. What two truths did God give you about touching the untouchables in your life? What one step can you take today to respond to those truths?
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October 9, 2013
Setting Priorities, Part 3
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed, (Mark 1:35, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I've been pondering my priorities this month, so I thought I'd stop and make some very practical applications. (If you missed parts one and two, please visit our archives at www.girlfriendsinGod.com). These are things that God and I had a pow-wow about over 15 years ago, and He's asking me to think about them again.
Dr. Kevin Leman, in his book, Bonders, noted, "Getting your priorities straight and sticking to them is one of the most difficult tasks in life." I heartily agree. It is difficult.
And here's something else to consider when setting priorities...they change. My priorities today are different than they were 15 years ago. My son is now a grown man. And while I love him to smacking pieces, mothering him is not in the same priority slot that it was 15 years ago. (I'm sure he would like for me to move it a little further down the list.)
So how do we do it? How do we set priorities and stick to them? Back in the 1990s there was an anti-drug campaign with the slogan, "Just say no"? I think that's a great place to start.
Sometimes it's hard to say "no." People get mad at you. They may even say they are "disappointed" in you. (That's always a ticket to a guilt trip. I'd suggest you not go there.) Setting priorities and sticking to them requires much time in prayer, asking God exactly what He wants you to do and when He wants you to do it.
One day I was talking to an overwhelmed friend via email. She told me about how her life was spinning out of control as she served on several different committees at her children's school (the bazaar, the wrapping paper fund raiser, homecoming etc.), sang in the choir, taught Sunday school, participated on the pastor search committee, carted three children from one extracurricular event to the other, etc. The previous week, she had been out of the house every single night.
"Cynthia," I wrote, "I want you to write down everything you've done over the past two months. Then take that list and go into your prayer closet and pray. Ask God to show you what items on your list someone else could have done. Yes, I know, another person may not have done it as well as you, but that's okay. Place a mark on the list by things that only you could have done."
She told me she would do this, as soon as she found the time.
Women today are too busy being busy. And much of what we do has no eternal value.
One of my dear friends, Liz Curtis Higgs, taught me to ask the following questions before saying "yes" to a new task. These were particularly helpful when I was raising my son.
Will this activity matter one week from today? One month? One year?
Is there someone who does this task better than I do, to whom I might delegate?
Does it satisfy a heart need for me or someone I love very much?
What are the ramifications if I don't do it?
What are the outcomes if I do?
Let me give you an example of how I used those questions in my life. One day a church called and asked me to speak to their women's group on "Giving the Gift of Encouragement." It was a dinner meeting, scheduled on February 4, my son's birthday. So I had to ask myself the questions.
Will celebrating Steven's birthday at dinner matter one week from today? One month? One year? Yes, it would.
Is there someone who could plan the celebration and make him feel special and loved better than I could? No, there's not.
Does it satisfy a heart need for me to say no to the speaking engagement and celebrate his birthday instead? Yes, it does.
What are the ramifications if I don't do it? If I don't speak to the women, they will get another speaker and be blessed by her. If I don't stay home and celebrate Steven's birthday, he may think ministry is more important to me than he is.
What is the outcome if I do it? If I stay home, Steven will feel special and dearly loved.
After evaluating my priorities, I stayed home and gave the gift of encouragement to my son instead of to the women at the church. When turning down opportunities, sometimes they will swing back around at a later time. Sometimes they won't. The church didn't call back. But guess what? My son did.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to get my priorities straight. Show me when to say "yes" and when to say "no." Help me to remember that "the need is not the call." Help me not feel guilty when I say "no," and confident when I say "yes."
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Jesus had priorities! Read Mark 1:35-40 to discover the following:
How did Jesus determine his priorities for the day? What was he doing in v.35?
What did his friends want Him to do? Note where He had been the day before.
What was Jesus' answer? What was His priority?
How did He know how to answer the disciples' request?
Would it have been a "good" thing for Jesus to go back and heal more people?
Why didn't He do that?
This was a real eye-opener for me. I hope you'll ponder these verses today.
Hey, let's ponder them together. Click over to my facebook page and join me by praying for our priorities. Simply leave a comment that says, "I'm praying for my priorities today!"
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If you need a little help in the priorities department, Lysa TerKeurst and I wrote a book that might be just what you need. This is a toughie. That's why it took two of us to write it! Check out A Woman's Secret to a Balanced Life on my site, and while you're there, sign up for my blog for more inspiration and encouragement.
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October 10, 2013
Mary Had a Little Lamb
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young (Isaiah 40:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
As a little girl, I really did have a little lamb whose fleece was white as snow. I can remember the day my mother showed me the lamb and explained that she did not have a bottle with which to feed the stray lamb. I did. I agreed to let the lamb have my bottle if I could have the lamb. I have been fascinated by the unique relationship between sheep and their shepherd ever since.
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times...or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins which cause sudden death. This problem was even more complicated for the shepherds of the Bible.
The type of shepherding referred to in the Bible is not the farming of fenced pasturelands. It is nomadic grazing. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so that the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat which means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass. Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so that shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy, and even from themselves.
Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone, and often stray, requiring the shepherd to find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger. The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they will not last long.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently! Remember, I am a sheep.
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD" (NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness...until He rescues me. I try to satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul remains ravenous for what is good while stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don't like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep. When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that they can make it on their own or that the rules, the commandments of God, do not necessarily apply to them...just those other sheep. The longer I serve God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
A good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me. I am so glad He was willing to lay down His life for every single sheep – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs like me. Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan, and remember that we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so thankful that You are my Shepherd and that no matter how deep the valley or dark the pit, You have gone before me and made a way. Help me understand that Your ways are higher than mine. Forgive me when I complain that the way You have made for me is harder than I want it to be. I surrender my life to you, Lord, my God and my Shepherd.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is a challenge for every Girlfriend in God. Read Psalm 23 once a day for one month. Record it in your journal. Let every word soak into your heart, mind and soul. When fear comes, turn to God. When you are in need, trust the Shepherd. When confusion surrounds you, trust God to make the crooked paths straight. Rejoice daily in the fact that you are His lamb and He is your Shepherd.
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I truly believe that most of our stress in life is rooted in our refusal to trust God as our Shepherd. Escaping the Stress Trap is not just a book I wrote. It is based on Psalm 23 and is my story of learning to understand that I am His sheep and He is my Shepherd. Check it out! And join women from across the world by enrolling in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, A Balanced Life: the Impossible Dream. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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October 11, 2013
Practice Makes Progress
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
In the night, LORD, I remember your name, that I may keep your law. This has been my practice: I obey your precepts. You are my portion, LORD; I have promised to obey your words.
(Psalm 119:55-57)
Friend to Friend
I'm a sporty girl – always have been. I love to power walk and keep fit. I grew up playing lots of different athletic games – from basketball to softball – but volleyball has always been my sport of choice. I just love the game. I love the quick pace, the strength and agility demands, and the team component of the matches.
In college, I had the opportunity to play volleyball, and now that I'm a mom I coach my daughter's team. I've been around this game for more than twenty-five years and I've spent more time on the court, on the sand, and on the grass playing and practicing than most people ever will. You'd think that after all the hours invested I'd have the game perfected by now, right? Not hardly.
There are still times when I shank a pass – when it flies off my arms wildly in the wrong direction. I still have spike attempts that send the ballinto the net instead of over the net. There are still times when I miss a serve. Each mistake frustrates me. Seriously. I'm competitive and I hate to lose. I hate to make mistakes and I almost always think I should've played better than I actually did. No matter how much I've grown as a player since I first picked up a volleyball, I've come to realize that when I step on the court there will always be frustrating shanked passes that fly off my arms and there will always be opportunities for me to grow and progress in my skills. Simple as that.
And you know what? I've found the same to be true in my prayer life.
Do you remember that old saying "practice makes perfect?" Well, I think it's a bunch of beans! I recently heard a phrase that better represents the reality of growth and development: practice makes progress. Whether we're talking about our development as athletes, as students, as a wives, as employees, or simply as women of faith – specifically, as women of prayer – we are all purposed for growth until we die.
The truth that the apostle Paul wrote about in Romans 7 still remains: we don't do what we should do and we do what we shouldn't. Whew! I can so relate. Prayer, I'm afraid, is one of the "don't dos" for many of us. We all seem to know how important it is to trust God with our burdens, but many of us neglect this important discipline.
Do you ever go the phone before you go to the throne? Yeah – me too. There are times when I fail to trust God with my prayers. And though I've been faith-walking with Him a long time, there are still a million ways that I need to grow. There will always be ways for us to grow and there will always be mistakes for us to work through.
Our relationship with God will grow as we continually turn to Him in prayer. Similarly, our trust in God grows as our relationship with Him grows. "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you," (John 15:15). Jesus counts us as his "friends". How many of us would talk to our close friends as infrequently as we talk to Jesus, our Creator and Redeemer?
Of course, it's not like we can ignore the world around us and pray 24/7. Right? We are still going to go to work, have playtime, time with friends and family, but in the midst of it all, Scripture instructs us to: "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you," (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Our practice of this continual praying life will increase our progress in faith and in trusting God. This can translate into prayers of thankfulness and petition during our power walks, our time in the carpool line, while we wash our laundry and our lunch breaks. We can redeem these times to thank God for and pray for our children, our careers, our futures, our marriages, our trials and our challenges. When we "do life" with God – when we exercise this spiritual discipline of continuous prayer – our faith grows. It helps us to trust Him more.
Jesus was the only perfect man and He turned to our Father continually. He gave thanks for food when He prayed over the loaves and fishes that became a miracle (Matthew 14:16-21), He took his sorrows to God in the garden before His massacre (Matthew 26:39), He prayed for His friends (John 17:6-19), for Himself (John 17:1-5) and for future believers (John 17:20-26). Jesus also modeled how we should pray (Luke 11:1-13), and taught about prayer (Matthew 6:5-15). If Jesus, the God of the Universe, saw prayer as such an important part of the Christian life, why do we sometimes overlook the importance of it? We need to make time to turn to Him and trust Him with our daily concerns, big and small.
A strong volleyball team is one that relies on each other in the game. As Christians, we have the advantage. We have God on our team. And with God on our team, we cannot fail. Seriously. If God is for us, who can stand against us? We just need to talk to Him and trust him, rather than trying to play the game of life on our own. We have to remember that practice makes progress! We will learn to trust as we practice trusting the Lord through prayer.
Let's Pray
Dear God, That You would choose to call me friend is simply amazing! Thank you that though I'm not perfect, your grace allows me to progress in faith! Please forgive me for the times when I go about my day and "do life" without You. Help me to continuously pray and to trust You with my burdens.
In Jesus's Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you rate your prayer life on a scale from 1-10?
Where would you like your prayer life to rank on that same scale?
Are you willing to do anything about it? If so, what? If not, why?
Add 10 GiG Challenge: For one week, I challenge you to add 10 minutes of prayer each day to your normal prayer routine? Will you do it? Yes? Make it public! Leave a comment/commitment on my blog or my Facebook page saying, "I'm in for plus ten!"
More from the Girlfriends
C.S. Lewis said this of prayer, "Prayer in the sense of petition, asking for things, is a small part of it; confession and penitence are its threshold, adoration its sanctuary, the presence and vision and enjoyment of God its bread and wine." As you embark to progress in this prayer discipline, I encourage you to move from confession, to adoration, to thanksgiving and end with your petitions (personal prayer needs).
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October 14, 2013
How Much is Enough?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
And Hezekiah prayed to the Lord: "Lord, the God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth. Give ear, Lord, and hear; open your eyes, Lord, and see; listen to the words Sennacherib has sent to ridicule the living God." (2 Kings 19:15-16, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Howard was rich...very rich. His father made a fortune by designing a drill bit that could drill through hard rock, allowing oil drillers to reach large pockets of oil never before accessible. His tool company held the patent for the new drill bit, manufactured the bit, and leased it to oil companies who used it.
All through his childhood, Howard didn't do well in conventional schools, but preferred learning by tinkering with mechanical things. When his mother forbade him to buy a motorcycle, he built a motor and attached it to his bicycle. Problem solved.
When Howard was just a teenager, both parents passed away, leaving him the million dollar estate. The teen was a loner and had very few friends. At age 19, Howard married Ella Rice and moved to Hollywood where he tried his hand at movie making with great success. Then in the mid-1930's he gave up his obsession for film and delved into aviation. He bought several airplanes, hired numerous engineers and designers, and was determined to make faster, quicker, better planes. In 1944, Howard's company designed a large flying boat that could carry both people and supplies to the war in Europe. The "Spruce Goose," the largest plane ever constructed, was flown once in 1947 and then never flew again.
Howard was a billionaire when the idea of a millionaire was beyond the comprehension of ordinary people. While he was very successful in the world's eyes, it was the "world's eye" that he wanted to avoid. He withdrew from human contact, moved into Las Vegas' Desert Inn Hotel, and rarely left his suite. When the hotel threatened to evict him, he bought the entire establishment, and then proceeded to buy up multiple Las Vegas establishments to extend his perimeter of control. For the next several years, not a single person laid eyes on the billionaire hermit.
Howard spent the rest of his life trying to avoid germs. His obsessive-compulsive behavior caused him lie naked in bed in darkened hotel rooms in what he considered a germ-free zone. He wore tissue boxes on his feet to protect them and never touched anything unless he was holding a paper towel.
In 1970, Howard left the hotel and travelled from one country to another. He ended up neglecting his own hygiene and living in squalid filth. He believed that germs came from the outside, but not from him self. He died in 1976 from heart failure. His 6'4" ninety-pound frame was covered in filth, his hair and beard were tangled and rancid, and his fingernails looked like claws. He had become such a hermit in his last years, no one was really sure it was him. The Treasury Department had to use fingerprints to confirm that the deceased man was indeed the billionaire, Howard Hughes.
Howard Hughes' life screams a warning to us all. The golden calves man creates; the idols man worships; the false gods of a materialistic culture, will not lead to true happiness and joy in this life. They are mere "things." It is only through a personal relationship with the Living God that you or I will experience abundant life on earth and eternal life thereafter.
Howard Hughes discovered just how ineffective the gods of people, possessions and power can be. He was one of the wealthiest men in history. He was one of the most miserable men in history. His 2.5 billion dollar estate was powerless to win the battle he faced every day.
Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10 NIV).
Abundant life. Overflowing life. He said, "I am the way, the truth and the life" (John 14:6 NIV).
And He is enough.
Let's Pray
O Living God, please forgive me for the false gods I have tucked in the recesses of my heart. I know that You are the only One who can fill my empty spaces and mend my broken places. You are El Chay, The Living God who always has been and always will be. You are the God Who hears, Who sees and Who stand ready to work Your wonders in my life.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have any idols in your life?
Let me ask that a different way. Is there anything or any person that you tend to place ahead of God in your life? (I did have to go and make this practical, didn't I?)
My toes are hurting too! Leave me a comment on my facebook page and let me know what people in general tend to put above God in their lives.
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Today's devotion was adapted from our new Girlfriends in God book, Knowing God by Name. Throughout Scripture, God reveals His complex character by identifying Himself by different names—names that shed light on Who He is and how we should relate to Him. We invite you to join us in Knowing God by Name as we take an in-depth look at 40 different names that shed light on 40 different reasons you can trust Him, depend on Him, and know that He loves you. Click here to learn more and download a free sample chapter.
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October 15, 2013
When You Praise Him
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts; whose name is the Lord, and exult before Him (Psalm 68:4).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of the woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today. She did and she had a wonderful day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmm," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." She did and she had a great day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail." So she did and she had a fun day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "Yes!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!" Now that's what I call having a good attitude.
Attitude can transform anything and everything – thoughts, habits, and perspectives. We can literally change our lives by changing the way we think. In Isaiah 26:3 (NLT), we find the promise, "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, whose thoughts are fixed on You." A mind filled with thoughts fixed on God will produce a heart filled with praise – and praise is a powerful tool in our spiritual arsenal.
Praise brings healing to our spirit. When we honestly express our trust in God and then choose to give thanks, healing begins. Praise provides a highway upon which the Father conveys deliverance and blessing. Praise invites God to take up residence in the midst of our messy lives and becomes a free-flowing conduit of God's very presence and power at work in us. God funnels infinite blessings into a life that praises Him. Stress and anxiety fade as peace floods the heart that is filled with praise.
Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts. (Psalm 68:4, ICB)
But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel. (Psalm 22:3, NKJV)
Don't miss the life changing truth that we can enthrone God in every situation of our lives by praising Him. Praise converts our everyday surroundings into His dwelling place. It is from that throne of praise that God dispenses victory. Praise tunes us into His sovereignty and allows us to experience the reality and power of His presence.
Praise strengthens our prayer life. Prayer is not only a remarkable privilege that we often fail to recognize or understand, it is also part of our worship to God. There is the asking side of prayer when we seek forgiveness, lay needs before God, and intercede on behalf of others. Then there is the appreciating side of prayer when we offer praise and thanksgiving to God for who He is and what He has done. Our relationship with God is strengthened through prayer and praise.
Now here is my favorite truth about praise. Are you ready? Praise devastates Satan and his forces. Yes! I love it! In fact, Psalm 20:5 (NIV) promises, "We will shout for joy when you are victorious and will lift up our banners in the name of our God." Satan is well aware of just how powerful praise is, and I suspect he absolutely hates it ... and that absolutely delights me! I can almost sense his fury when I choose to praise God instead of questioning Him. Satan hates it when I walk by faith, setting aside feelings and emotions while focusing on God's Word and His faithfulness in my life.
Through continual prayer, through the power of God's Word, and through faithful praise, we declare our trust in God to deliver us. Praise lifts up the shield of faith in spiritual warfare. Praise makes a frontal attack on doubt and fear. Even in the midst of Satan's best efforts, we can find victory when we praise Him.
Let's Pray
When you can't seem to find the right words to pray – go to the Word of God and pray Scripture. Join me in a prayer of praise found in Psalm 150.
Praise the LORD. Praise God in his sanctuary; praise Him in His mighty heavens. Praise Him for His acts of power; praise Him for His surpassing greatness. Praise Him with the sounding of the trumpet, praise Him with the harp and lyre, praise Him with timbrel and dancing, praise Him with the strings and pipe, praise Him with the clash of cymbals, praise Him with resounding cymbals. Let everything that has breath praise the LORD. Praise the LORD.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you known as a woman who praises God?
As you begin each day, take time to position your mind and heart for praise.
Look for opportunities during the day to praise God – then voice that praise aloud.
Begin keeping a praise journal in which you write your praises to God.
More from the Girlfriends
Nowhere in God's Word will you find the directive to praise God when you feel like it. I know. I have looked. Praise that is based on emotions is a shallow excuse for the praise that flows from a desperate heart. Don't wait until you understand it all to praise God. Simply give Him praise, knowing that He inhabits the praises of His children.
Need help?Praise is one of the most powerful ways to manage stress. Mary's book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is based on Psalm 23 and offers a step-by-step plan for stress management.
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October 16, 2013
Do You Have any Idols in Your Life?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For he is the living God and he endures forever, (Daniel 6:26, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In our new book, Knowing God by Name, I loved learning about the various names of God. One that tugged at my heart was the name El Chay. Let's delve into God's word and learn about this name today.
King Hezekiah introduces us to the name, El Chay in 2 Kings 19. One day he received a bad piece of mail. You know the kind. The biopsy is positive. The power bill is past due. The application is denied. The kind of mail you want to scribble "Return to Sender" across the top and pretend never came.
The letter was from Sennacherib, the King of Assyria who had crushed forty-six towns in Judah and carried off tens of thousands captive. And now, Sennacherib was coming after Jerusalem and King Hezekiah's people. And even though Hezekiah had rebuilt and fortified the city walls, produced a massive battery of weapons, and tunneled under the city to ensure their water supply would not be cut off; even though he was prepared for war, he was not foolish enough to depend on man's strength and ingenuity for victory. He called out to El Chay, the Living God, for their defense.
Hezekiah received the letter from the messengers and read it.Then he went up to the temple of the Lord and spread it out before the Lord. And Hezekiah prayed to the Lord: "Lord, the God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth. Give ear, Lord, and hear; open your eyes, Lord, and see; listen to the words Sennacherib has sent to ridicule the living God.
"It is true, Lord, that the Assyrian kings have laid waste these nations and their lands. They have thrown their gods into the fire and destroyed them, for they were not gods but only wood and stone, fashioned by human hands. Now, Lord our God, deliver us from his hand, so that all the kingdoms of the earth may know that you alone, Lord, are God." (2 Kings 19:14-19 NIV)
Hezekiah knew the powerlessness of the lifeless pagan gods made of wood, stone, and precious metal. And he knew the unstoppable powerfulness of the Living God who created all three. So he prayed and he trusted.
That night the angel of the Lord went out and put to death a hundred and eighty-five thousand in the Assyrian camp. When the people got up the next morning—there were all the dead bodies! So Sennacherib king of Assyria broke camp and withdrew. He returned to Nineveh and stayed there. (2 Kings 19:35-36 NIV)
I bet he did. He stayed put and never threatened the Living God or His people again.
When God gave the Ten Commandments, He began with "You shall have no other gods before me." And yet, all through history we see men and women worshipping false gods...depending on false gods. How silly to think that a golden calf, a wooden pole, or a stone studded ornament could be a god that protects, prospers and provides. Silly, right?
And yet, the false gods of our world are really no different than the ones of King Hezekiah's day. We are living in an idol infested world where false gods offer false security to misguided souls.
Emotional enemies such as anger, depression, worry, fear, anxiety, addictions, jealousy are just a few of the Sennacheribs that threaten to take the battering ram and charge the door of our hearts. And what are the idols or false gods that many turn to for comfort?
People. Possessions. Position. A fleet of airplanes. A bulging bank account. A prime piece of real-estate. We eat. We shop. We place children on the throne. We depend on relationships for love and security. Oh yes, idols abound in our culture.
As I mentioned in my last devotion, How Much is Enough (please see our archives if you missed it), Howard Hughes discovered just how ineffective the gods of people, possessions and power can be. He was one of the wealthiest men in history. He was one of the most miserable men in history. His 2.5 billion dollar estate was powerless to win the battle he faced every day.
Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10 NIV).
Abundant life. Overflowing life. He said, "I am the way, the truth and the life" (John 14:6 NIV).
Let me encourage you today, whatever enemies you face, be they physical, emotional, relational, or spiritual, call out to the Living God. Ask Him to drive them out and fill you up. "For he is the living God and he endures forever," (Daniel 6:26 NIV).
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Let's Pray
O Living God, I pray what I have prayed before: please forgive me for the false gods I have tucked in the recesses of my heart. I know that You are the only One who can fill my empty spaces and mend my broken places. You are El Chay, The Living God who always has been and always will be. You are the God who hears, who sees, and who stands ready to work Your wonders in my life.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read King Hezekiah's prayer in 2 Kings 19:15-19. What does his prayer reveal about his understanding of the "living God"?
Hezekiah prayed for deliverance, but what was his ultimate hoped-for outcome?
How can his prayer be a model for your prayers?
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Today's devotion was adapted from our new Girlfriends in God book, Knowing God by Name.Throughout Scripture, God reveals His complex character by identifying Himself by different names—names that shed light on Who He is and how we should relate to Him. We invite you to join us in Knowing God by Name as we take an in-depth look at 40 different names that shed light on 40 different reasons you can trust Him, depend on Him, and know that He loves you. Click here to learn more and download a free sample chapter.
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October 17, 2013
Resource Inventory
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want (Psalm 23:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When it comes to the resources that we need for life, this promise from the 23rd Psalm is staggeringly important to remember, because it holds the promise of contentment in our lives. The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want. Wow!
A famous actor was once the guest of honor at a social gathering where he was asked to recite favorite excerpts from various literary works. An old preacher who happened to be there asked the actor to recite the twenty-third Psalm. The actor agreed - on the condition that the preacher would also recite it. The actor's recitation was beautifully intoned with great dramatic emphasis for which he received lengthy applause. The preacher's voice was rough and broken from many years of preaching, and his diction was anything but polished. But when he finished, there was not a dry eye in the room. When someone asked the actor what made the difference, he replied, "I know the psalm, but he knows the Shepherd.
When we know God, we have everything we need. An amazing strength and unshakable contentment comes from a source that is not our own. It comes from an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Knowing God makes all of His resources available to us. Resources like:
wisdom
guidance
power
peace
love
patience
self-control
In other words, God provides strength for every area of life. Strength is fertile soil for peace, and will produce a harvest of contentment.
Psalm 29:11 "The LORD gives His people strength. The LORD blesses them with peace."
God did not come to give us human strength. He came to give us His strength!
Isaiah 12: 2 "The LORD GOD is my strength and my song; He has become my salvation."
When we count on His resources instead of our own, we will experience true contentment. I read a story about a man who had to cross a wide river on the ice. He was afraid the ice might be too thin to hold him, so he began to crawl on his hand and knees, fearing that he thought might fall through at any moment. Just as he neared the opposite shore, totally exhausted, another man glided past him nonchalantly sitting on a sled loaded with iron weights.
Aren't we just like that man? We live each day, crawling through life, settling for our meager strength and our pitifully limited resources, afraid that His promises will break under the weight of our circumstances.
When will we learn that there is no limit to His power and no end to His strength? In fact, our weakness is the perfect showcase for God's strength.
According to the American Holistic Health Federation, people who are not satisfied with their lives increase their risk of premature death by at least ten percent. Hudson Taylor once noted that, "God uses men who are weak and feeble enough to lean on Him." Paul writes in another letter to the church at Corinth, "My power works best in your weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:19).
How about you? Are you ready to exchange your weak resources for His by giving up your rights, your plans and solutions? Do it! Lay them at His feet and choose His plan instead. Contentment will be yours.
Let's Pray
Father, it seems that a seed of discontent has taken root in my life. I have tried so many things, hoping they would fill that "hole" in my soul. I have expected others to make me happy. I now realize the only source of contentment is You. Right now, I lay down every lifeless resource and submit to You. I choose Your plan and Your perfect provision in my life. Thank You, Lord, for being everything I need.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What resources have you been counting on for contentment? Have those resources disappointed you? How? What steps do you need to take in order to experience His contentment in your life? Try these:
Admit that you have been counting on your resources instead of God's.
Recognize that those resources have not produced contentment in your life.
Choose to allow the Holy Spirit to create God's resources in you.
Commit to follow His plan, and count on His resources for that plan.
Thank Him for the contentment that you know, by faith, will flood your life.
More from the Girlfriends
If you are like me, I find it very easy to get caught up in acquiring "stuff." We recently moved to a smaller house and had to get rid of a lot of "treasures" we had acquired over the years. At first, it was hard to let go of each item ... but it got easier and easier as the days went by. Now, I can't even remember most of the things I gave away and it is easier to focus on the things that are important. I love this new sense of balance in my life.
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October 18, 2013
Springs of Living Water
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
'Even now,' declares the LORD, 'return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning." Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the LORD your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love...' (Joel 2:12-13)
Friend to Friend
Jeremiah was just a youngster when he came to know God and began to work for Him as a prophet. He endured year after year of hard times, frustrating people and complicated disappointments. His message was one that called the people of Jerusalem - God's chosen people - to turn away from the idols that they had been worshiping and back toward the one, true God.
Let me say it straight: God was miffed at the nation of Israel and He sent Jeremiah to let them know. He had every reason to be angry! He had given the children of Abraham a sacred covenant, a promised future, delivery from oppression, and His tabernacled presence, yet they turned their backs on Him. Continually. They doubted His exclusivity and they set their attentions and affections on things other than God. They worshiped idols made of wood and stone. Powerless and worthless. In Jeremiah 2:13 God said of his people: "They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water."
Pastor Greg Laurie describes it this way: "A cistern is a large well or pool carved in a rock. A broken cistern has sprung a leak and can't hold water. God is saying, "If you go out there to the world and drink from that well, it is not going to satisfy you."
It sets my mind to wonder.
Why would anyone place her trust in the unstable, un-powerful, unfulfilling things of earth when she can place her trust in a stable, powerful, satisfying God? Seems like such a no-brainer – yet, don't you and I do that all the time?
Sure we do.
We dig our own cisterns, broken cisterns, and expect them to satisfy our thirst and bring us contentment. We drink from the broken cisterns of materialism, position, wealth, popularity, stuff, relationships, rules and religion. We have faulty expectations that our kids, spouses and friends are meant to satisfy our heart-needs. The ultimate broken cistern, however, is our pursuit of purpose in life via things of this earth.
We were created to pursue God.
We were created to know God – to be satisfied in Him and Him alone.
To worship Him and Him alone.
Oh, you and I are such a thirsty gaggle of girlfriends, aren't we? Even as believers, we deal with emptiness and bow to idols other than God. We place our faith in the economy, in our financial situations, in our health, in our employment status, politics, marital status, and our relationships. When they fail or fumble we fall apart ... and no wonder! They are all broken cisterns and were never meant to be our source of hope or satisfaction!
Friend, we need to turn away from our broken cisterns and turn toward the springs of living water. From stagnant waters to the Living Water. The Bible tells us that confession is the path to the spring of living water. When we eliminate the things that clutter our faith – the broken things we trust in – and place our faith in the resurrection power of Jesus Christ, God's heart swells with mercy, compassion and grace toward us. He forgives and strengthens us.
Who or what are you trusting in today?
Where are you soul drinking from: broken cisterns or springs of living water?
When Jeremiah was preparing to take God's message of repentance to Jerusalem, God spoke confidence and promise to his shaking heart. Let these words speak confidence to your heart today, friend. God's promise to Jeremiah is valid to you and me when we turn away from the broken cisterns of this world and place our trust in Him. "I am with you and will rescue you, declares the Lord." (Jeremiah 1:19b).
Jesus Christ is the Living Water our souls are parched for (John 4:13-14). "Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, "Let anyone who is thirsty come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them"(John 7:37-38).
Say with the psalmist: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God." (Psalm 42:1-2a).
Go to Him today. Confess. Believe. Drink. Be satisfied.
Let's Pray
Lord, I'm so thirsty for You! Please forgive me for the times that I have drunk from broken cisterns instead of from Your springs of Living Water! Thank You for Your compassionate grace and ever-flowing love. In a world that is constantly changing, I choose right now – once again – to place my trust in You as my unchanging God.
In Jesus's name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today we talked about placing our trust in things other than God. Broken cisterns. We all struggle with this to some degree. How has this affected you in the past?
How does it affect you in the present?
And to go Dr. Phil on you, "How's that working for you?" Spend time in prayer about this today. Ask God to reveal the broken cisterns you've been trying to drink from. Repent of this and commit to a deeper trust-level today.
LET'S PRAY TOGETHER: Swing by my blog or my Facebook pageto share a prayer need and to pray for the needs of others.
More from the Girlfriends
To be honest, there are a million times that I feel like screaming instead of praising. What a battle! Yet, I know the best response is to trust God and choose to praise Him...in and through it all. Music really helps me. My CD, Uncluttered is purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Swing by www.GwenSmith.net...or you can download the songs from iTunesor Amazon.
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book! This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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October 22, 2013
Standing Firm in the Storms of Life
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, our sincere love, and the power of the Holy Spirit (2 Corinthians 6:6, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Just as storms in life are certain, so is the provision of God. Life can be messy, and bad things will happen. But every crisis and every storm is also an opportunity to trust God. He calls us to a heavenly perspective when facing challenging times. He calls us to see the storms of life as He sees them - opportunities for His power to be illustrated in human terms. What steps can we take to face the storms of life in a way that honors God?
Step one: Live a pure life.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
The apostle Paul was certainly no stranger to storms. In his writings to the church at Corinth, Paul lists several actions we can take to survive and even thrive in those storms. Notice that purity is listed first. Paul is sending a clear message. Integrity and power for daily life are the result of a heart committed to purity. A clean heart unleashes the authority of God in us and through us. Impurity corrodes stability while purity generates a supernatural strength. It is that power and stability that keeps us from falling.
Psalm 51:10 (NASB) "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."
The Psalmist links a pure heart with a steadfast spirit. "Steadfast" literally means "fixed or unchanging" and defines the kind of strength that can only be found in a right relationship with God. Stability is essential when those blustery winds of life storms are raging. Some storms come to uncover that cherished sin we try so hard to bury. If we refuse to deal with sin in our life, God will urge us toward obedience by allowing the storms to come. But make no mistake - the purpose of the storm is always to purify – and then empower.
Second truth: Seek understanding.
2 Corinthians 6:6 NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
Understanding is only as good as its place of origin. Human understanding is limited and tainted while Godly understanding is infinite and unspoiled. Our greatest lessons are learned in the fiercest storms. I know you have heard those words many times – but are they a living reality in your life?
A teacher was asked a question by one of his students who had come across Deuteronomy 6:6 that says, "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts." The student asked, "Why does it say to put God's commandments upon our hearts instead of in our hearts?" The wise teacher responded, "It is not within man's power to deposit truth directly into his heart. All we can do is place truth on the surface of the heart so that when the heart breaks, it will fall in."
Every circumstance that results in brokenness is designed to produce greater self-control and a fresh perspective. We can face every storm with confidence, knowing that God will redeem it for understanding.
Third truth: Learn to be patient.
2 Corinthians 6:6 (NLT) "We have proved ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience."
I must confess that I am not the epitome of patience. I hate to wait – on anyone or anything – which may very well explain certain storms and trials in my life. James had the same problem, but a much better attitude.
James 1:2 (NIV) "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
I tend to consider it pure joy when I can escape trials of many kinds, but James tells us that trials can and should be faced with patience and an attitude of joy. Not joy for the trials but joy in the trials. Don't miss this vital truth. Joy is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. Joy is a chosen attitude, and understands that trials are not punishment.
Take a $5.00 bar of steel. If you cut that bar into ordinary horseshoes, it is worth about $10.00. That same $5.00 bar of steel cut into needles is worth $350, but when cut into delicate springs for watches, that same $5.00 bar of steel is worth $250,000.
Trials are a test, a measurement of growth. Patience gives God permission to work. We go to great lengths to avoid trials and shelter ourselves from the storms of life. The result is spiritual immaturity.
God will not build our character without our cooperation, and He will not work in us without our permission. We must surrender, invite Him to work, and then, by faith, patiently embrace that work. Warren Wiersbe writes, "When God permits his children to go through the furnace, He keeps His eye on the clock and His hand on the thermostat."
Let's Pray
Thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness in my life. Sometimes my motives are not pure and are so often self-serving. Right now, please cleanse my heart of all sin. Give me eyes to see the treasure buried at the heart of every trial and help me to choose joy - even when I don't understand what You are doing in my life. Lord, let my life be an illustration of Your strength perfected in my weakness.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Hebrews 12:12 (The Message) "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs."
What does it mean in your life to "take a new grip" and "stand firm" even on shaky legs?
Looking back at the storms in your life, how would you rate your response to those storms? What changes do you need to make in order to experience victory?
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October 23, 2013
God is Your Victory
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Moses built an altar and called it The Lord is my Banner [Yahweh Nissi] (Exodus 17:15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I'm going to be honest with you. If there was an Olympic event for feelings of insecurity, inferiority, and inadequacy, at some point my picture would have been on the Corn Flakes cereal box...the gold medal winner.
Now, you probably think I'm going to tell you, "But then I became a Christian and all that insecurity just went away!" But it didn't. I did become a Christian when I was fourteen. That part is correct. However, I carried that insecurity into my Christian life like a ball and chain wrapped around my skinny ankle. Don't get me wrong, I could sing "Victory in Jesus" with the best of them. I knew without a shadow of a doubt that when I left this earth and crossed over the threshold into my heavenly home, I was going to be with Jesus forever. It was what I was supposed to do until I got there that had me stumped. It was victory in this life that left me confused.
Did you know that you can be a bona-fied born-again Christian and still live a life of defeat? Yes, you can. But if you do, ifI do, it's not God's fault. He has given us everything we need for a life of godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by his own glory and goodness (2 Peter 1:3). He has equipped us with the power of the Holy Spirit (John 14:20), the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16), and the precious promises that never fail (2 Peter 1:4). But it's up to us to walk in the truth of who He is and who we are in Him. It is up to us to walk in victory as "more than conquerors" in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:37).
Moses had to deal with the same insecurities that you and I have to grapple with. He was a former Prince of Egypt who became a run-away felon. For the next forty years, Moses took care of his father-in-law's sheep in the Midian desert. When he was eighty-years-old, God spoke to Moses through the burning bush.
The Lord said, "I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. SoI have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey—the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites." (Exodus 3:7-8 NIV)
This was all sounding good to Moses...until God mentioned how He was going to bring all that about.
"So now, go. I am sending youto Pharaoh to bring my people the Israelites out of Egypt," (Exodus 3:10).
Hold the phone! You're sending whom?
Deliverance for his people! This was what Moses had always wanted! But when God said, "I am sending you," Moses began backing up. The monster of inferiority, insecurity, and inadequacy wrapped its talons around Moses' scruffy neck and began to squeeze.
Four times Moses told God why He had the wrong man for the job, and four times God reassured Moses that He was the Almighty God Who was sufficient to do the job through him. It was a hard lesson for Moses. It has been a hard lesson for me. I wonder if it has been a hard lesson for you.
Of course, we know how the story goes. After several weeks of very convincing plagues, the Pharaoh did let God's people go. They crossed the Red Sea on dry land, ate manna that fell from heaven, drank water that sprang from a rock, and roasted quail that rained from the sky.
It wasn't too long into their journey to the Promised Land, that they were attacked by the Amalekites, a godless people who had taunted God's chosen people for centuries. But because of God's intervention, the Israelites won the battle and Moses built an altar and called it "The Lord is my Banner [Yahweh Nissi]" (Exodus 17:10-13, 15).
The banner was a symbol of victory! It still is today. This is the only time in Scripture that God is referred to as God our Banner, but it was not the only time God won the victory for His people. Time and time again, God fought for His people and they waved the flag of victory in the face of apparent defeat (Joshua 10:10, 20, 33, 11:8, Judges 11:21, 20:35. He made the waters rise, the walls fall, and the earth stand still. Yes, God fought for His people, and friend, He will do the same for me and for you.
So raise high the banner! The victory is yours.
Let's Pray
Lord, forgive me for feeling like I have to conquer the battles of life on my own. I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. There is victory in Jesus! Help me to live, not as a cowering fugitive, but as a confident saint.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Exodus 14:13-14.
How will you let these verses shape your perspective today?
Have you ever tried to talk tried to talk God out of using you? I bet you have. Why do you think we do that? Leave me a comment on my facebook page and let's compare notes.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was adapted from our new Girlfriends in God book, Knowing God by Name.Throughout Scripture, God reveals His complex character by identifying Himself by different names—names that shed light on who He is and how we should relate to Him. We invite you to join us in Knowing God by Name as we take an in-depth look at 40 different names that shed light on 40 different reasons you can trust Him, depend on Him, and know that He loves you. Click here to learn more and download a free sample chapter.
Also, if you haven't already, I'd love for you to sign up for my blog for more inspiration, encouragement, and fun give-aways. (Content does not duplicate GiG devotions.)
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October 28, 2013
Three Answers You Need to Know
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In the beginning God [Elohim] created the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Who are you?
Where did you come from?
Why are you here?
These are three very important questions to which you need to know the answer to.
When I was writing my chapter for our new GiG book, Knowing God by Name, I discovered that the very first name for God in the Bible is Elohim, and it is found in the very first sentence of God's Word. "In the beginning God [Elohim] created the heavens and the earth" (Genesis 1:1 NIV).
Before the creation of the world, there was nothing. Our human minds can't even conceive or imagine nothing. But into the nothing God spoke, and what was not became what is.
When God hung the sun in the morning sky and the moon in the inky expanse; when He sprinkled the stars to dance in the night; when He separated the waters of heaven from the waters of the earth; when He shaped the dry land, scattered seed for vegetation, stocked the seas with marine life and filled skies with winged foul; He did so with words. "And God said, 'Let there be'... And it was so." "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth" (Psalm 33:6 NIV).
But on the sixth day, God did a little something different. "Then God said, 'Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness...'" (Genesis 1:26 NASB).
So the holy hand of God bent low, gathered dust of the ground, and with sacred fingertips formed man. Godthen leaned over the lifeless form, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being (Genesis 2:7).
After each of the first five days of creation, as the sun set over the horizon, God said, "It is good." Six times, at the end of each phase of His handiwork, He reiterated his approval. We ride the rhythm of repetition only to be brought to a sudden halt by the Creator's words when He looked at the lone man with no suitable companion. "It is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18).
"So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.The Lord Godfashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man" (Genesis 2:21-22 NIV).
Eve was the "crowning touch of God's creative masterpiece and the inspiration of man's first poetry." She was not an afterthought, but God's grand finale – His magnificent masterpiece. God concluded the first week of the world's existence and the curtain fell with the words: "God saw all that he had made, and it wasvery good" (Genesis 1:31 NIV).
Knowing God as Elohim answers three big questions for all of us. Who am I? Where did I come from? Why am I here?
Who are you? You are an image bearer of God. Elohim said, "Let Us make man in Our own image."
Where did you come from? God fashioned you, formed you,and created your inmost being.
Why are you here? You were created for God and to glorify God (Isaiah 43:7), because it pleased Him to do so (Ephesians 1:5). The concept of glory can be a difficult concept to wrap our human minds around. Simply put, God's glory is how He makes His presence known. You, my friend, are a platform from which God displays His magnificence and makes His presence easy to see.
Knowing you were created by God and for God, answers a thousand questions. You have great value and great purpose, regardless of how you feel about yourself, regardless of how you came into this world, regardless of what others have said about you in the past. Every human life is sacred, no matter how it began.
Now let me go a little deeper. As you ponder God speaking the universe into existence with but a word, is there anything in your life that is too difficult for Him to take care of?
Any problem too complex to solve?
Any illnesses too severe to heal?
Any child too rebellious to tame?
Any marriage too far gone to restore?
Oh sister, nothing is impossible for Elohim, The Mighty Creator. He can breathe life into any seemingly hopeless situation that comes your way. "For nothing is impossible with God" (Luke 1:37 NIV). You can depend on Elohim to weave a design out of the tangled circumstances of your life, even when they may seem as shapeless and void as the earth was prior to His first utterance of "Let there be."
Let's Pray
Elohim, Mighty Creator, I praise You for all that You have made. Thank You for the way You have fashioned my body. Tiny eyelashes that keep dust from my eyes. Flexible fingers that grasp and hold. Legs that stand and bend. Feet that walk and run. A heart that beats. A mind that thinks. Skin that protects. A soul that loves. I pray that I will represent You well today - that I will glorify You in all that I do.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think it means to be created in the image of God?
Read Genesis 1:31 How did God feel about what He had made?
Based upon God's response to His creation, what conclusion can you draw about your value as a woman created in the image of God?
Does knowing that you are created to reflect God (to glorify God) affect how you live?
Is there any change you need to make to better reflect Him?
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Today's devotion was adapted from our new Girlfriends in God book, Knowing God by Name.Throughout Scripture, God reveals His complex character by identifying Himself by different names—names that shed light on who He is and how we should relate to Him. We invite you to join us in Knowing God by Name as we take an in-depth look at 40 different names that shed light on 40 different reasons you can trust Him, depend on Him, and know that He loves you. Click hereto learn more and download a free sample chapter.
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October 30, 2013
Chasing Beauty
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30).
Friend to Friend
From the time I was a young girl I wanted to be beautiful. In the fifth grade, I resorted to desperate measures in a very "eleven-year-old, clueless-adolescent" kind of way. I distinctly remember some bright blue eye shadow being involved. I can even picture in my mind what said unauthorized makeup looked like in its case – like a pallet that would normally hold watercolor paint. Five fabulous, or not so fabulous, color options ranging from pale green to bright blue were available to this pre-adolescent. Mercy!
Please keep in mind, we are talking about the early eighties here. Blue eye shadow was all the rage and a very accepted beauty solution. It was everywhere! On magazine covers, commercials, and on every older woman in church. I think even Marsha Brady was wearing it on TV. Trust me when I say that, back then, most of the girls my age took beauty cues from Marsha Brady.
I know... scary.
I rode the bus to elementary school, which gave me a brief, unsupervised window of opportunity in the mornings to misbehave and sneak around between exiting the big yellow taxi and entering the classroom. My neighbors Brenda and Sally sometimes adventured with me to the West Hempfield Elementary School beauty salon: the girls' bathroom. As long as we made it to our classrooms before the bell rang, we were golden.
Enter the blue eye shadow.
I'm not sure where my eye shadow kit came from. It could've been a hand-me-down from an aunt or a family friend. It could have been a garage sale find. I don't remember. I am certain, however, that at that point in my life, eye shadow was supposed to be for play, not for school. Not being one to get tripped up over details, I ran to the girls' room and generously smudged the bright blue cream on my eyelids. Then, feeling I had reached a higher level of beauty, I proceeded to Miss Lewis's boring fifth grade class.
As I remember it, several days of eye-colored bliss passed. In my mind, I was cool and hip. In reality, not so much. During some quiet work time one morning, Miss Lewis called me up to her desk. With a hushed teacher-tone, she asked me, "Does your mother know you're wearing that eye shadow to school?"
"Yes, Miss Lewis," I said. "My mom lets me wear this."
"Well, Gwen, I might just need to call your mother and ask her about that." Then she sent me back to my seat.
I sat in fear as I entertained dreadful thoughts of being found out. Miss Lewis never did call my mom, but the day I was called up to her desk was the last day I wore bright blue eye shadow at school. (At least in the fifth grade.)
The truth of the matter is, I just wanted feel beautiful. I thought that if I were beautiful, people would like me better. They would accept me more. I cared about what other people thought about me. I wanted to measure up. To some degree, I still do.
Can you relate?
We all want to be beautiful. And that's okay! It's fine to want be beautiful. To take care of yourself. To gloss your lips and throw Spanks on your hips. But what we need to be cautious of is blurring the lines between physical beauty, spiritual beauty, and personal worth.
True beauty begins when we hold tightly to the truth of God and allow the truth of God to hold tightly to us. Measuring up to Hollywood's version of beautiful has never been, nor ever will be, what God desires for us. God cares much more about our internal beauty, our reverence and love for Him, than our external beauty. The Bible says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Proverbs 31:30)
Join me in chasing His beauty today.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You are the true source of all that is good and beautiful! When feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. I want to be held tightly by your truth.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
How does this speak to you today? Do you really know how much you're loved? Pray about it and journal if you're the journaling type... then let's meet on my blog or my Facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together.
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October 31, 2013
Everything Will Be Okay
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you" (Isaiah 43:2, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I am an avid reader. In fact, reading is one of my favorite ways to escape the chaotic pace of daily life. I also enjoy browsing through bookstores, especially the ones that provide cushy chairs where customers can sit quietly and read without being disturbed.
It is easy to tune out your surroundings and lose yourself in the pages of a good book. I was doing just that when I heard a familiar voice. Looking up, I spotted one of my friends, Carol, who was asking an employee where she could find a new suspense novel that had just been released. The young man quickly handed Carol the book from his personal stash behind the counter and went back to work. I watched a smile spread across Carol's face as she examined her new treasure while gently turning the book over in her hands and flipping through pages. Carol then did something I absolutely could not believe. She turned to the last several pages of the book and began reading.
It was time for an intervention. I was ready for the task.
I quickly put the book I had been reading back on the shelf. I needed to focus on the obvious needs of my friend. With a quick wave, I got Carol's attention and made my approach. After a quick hug, I said, "It is so good to see you. How have you been?" We spent a few minutes catching up on what was happening in our lives.
I could not help myself. "Are you buying that book?" I asked. It was an honest question because, for the life of me, I could not understand why anyone would want to buy a suspense novel when they already knew how it ended. Excitement danced in her eyes as she responded, "Yes, I am. I can't wait to read it. The ending is awesome!"
Now I can understand reading the first few pages or scanning the table of contents before buying a book. I can even comprehend reading a few paragraphs here and there to get an idea of the story line. That makes sense to me. Carol's perspective did not. "Okay. I have to confess that I saw you reading the last few pages of the book. Why in the world did you read the ending? Won't that spoil the story for you?" I asked.
"Not at all," Carol quickly responded. "Before I buy a book, I always read the ending to make sure I really want that particular book," she explained. It was worse than I thought. Seeing the look of disbelief on my face, she laughed and admitted, "I know. It sounds crazy, but I have to know that everything turns out okay before I commit to reading the book."
The more I thought about Carol's words, the more I realize that, as followers of God, we need to do the same. Billy Graham once said, "I've read the last page of the Bible. It's all going to turn out all right."
When we focus only on what we can see and understand or explain, we will worry. Fear and doubt will become familiar companions if we live each day against the backdrop of this broken world. Our only hope is God. And it is not enough to just know about Him. We must know Him. A personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ assures us that no matter what the world throws our way, it's all going to be okay.
Let's Pray
Father, I am tempted to worry about so many things. Our world is a mess! Forgive me for focusing on anything or anyone but You. Thank You for the Bible that equips and empowers me to live each day. Right now, I declare that You are my only Hope. Please help me to remember that You really are in control.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:2: "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you."
Make a list of your fears. Surrender each one to the loving control of God as you pray through Psalm 23. Then destroy the list as an offering of praise and thanksgiving to God's perfect peace enthroned in your life.
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November 1, 2013
God Sees You
Lori Fairchild
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee, and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Lori Fairchild.
Today's Truth
She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me" (Genesis 16:13).
Friend to Friend
Sometimes I feel invisible. Oh, it's not that people don't see me. They do. My girls see their mom. My husband sees his wife. My friends see someone they can have fun with and rely on. My Bible study sees its leader. My blog readers see a writer.
But sometimes I feel like no one sees me, the person underneath all those different hats. Sometimes, I fear I have become the roles I play and lost myself. Some days, I think that although I'm seen, no one really sees me.
No one sees the fears and insecurities that lie hidden away under those hats. No one sees the dreams and desires of my heart. No one sees the adventuresome spirit that longs to try something new, to strike out on some new adventure. No one sees me.
It's amazing how we can fill our days with people, with activity, with things and yet get to the end of the day and feel as if we're all alone. We show a smiling façade to the rest of the world, never letting them get past the surface to see to the heart of the person underneath. We let others see us, but we are never truly seen.
Yet one of the greatest needs we have is to be known by others. We want to live out the words of the theme song from Cheers, "You wanna go where everybody knows your name." We want to be known.
The great news is that on those days when we feel as if no one sees us, on those days when we feel like our dreams are buried so deep that they will never see the light of day, God sees us. Even in our deepest, darkest moments, God sees us. He sees you.
He sees past every hat on your head, every mask you wear. He sees straight into your heart. He knows your biggest fears, your deepest needs, and your heart's desire. He sees you.
In Genesis 16, Hagar calls God "The God Who Sees Me." Hagar was in the midst of her darkest moment. She had been mistreated and cast out from her home. She was pregnant and alone. Yet in the midst of that darkness, of that aloneness, God spoke to her. He looked at her and said, "Hagar, I see you." He not only saw Hagar but He promised that she would have a future, that her as-yet-unborn son would have a future. He saw her.
In the same way, God sees you. He doesn't see the façade you present to the world. He doesn't see the role you play. He sees the masterpiece He made. He sees a precious child of His. He sees all that you are and all that you will be. When no one else sees you, God does.
So, the next time you're feeling invisible, the next time you feel all alone, remember that God sees you. He sees you as the beautiful creation He made, and He will give you everything you need. No matter how dark the day, how deep the pit, how dire the situation, God sees you.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You that You see me. Thank You that You see past every hat I wear, every mask I put on. Remind me in the lonely moments - in the moments when I feel like I can't take another step - that You are there, that You see me as an amazing creation of Yours. Remind me that I am Your child, and I am seen.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Not only do we want to be seen, other people in our lives need to be seen for who they are – an amazing creation of God. Take time today to really see the people who cross your path, and look for ways to minister to them, to be the hands and feet of Jesus in their lives. Ask God to show you how to look at others with His eyes. Write down in your journal one person that you know you will come into contact with today. Pray for that person and that you will see them as God sees them.
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Lori Fairchild is a mom, wife, blogger and editor. She blogs about grabbing the teachable moments with our kids at Everyday Truth. She has written a Christmas e-book devotional called Everyday Christmas that offers simple suggestions for helping your family find Christ during the hustle and bustle of the holidays. When she's not writing, you can find Lori reading a book, hanging out with her family or running the carpool to her girls' hockey and soccer practices.
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November 4, 2013
Ingratitude is Contagious...Don't Be a Carrier
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When the Lord heard your complaining, he became very angry. So he solemnly swore, 'Not one of you from this wicked generation will live to see the good land I swore to give your ancestors, except Caleb son of Jephunneh. He will see this land because he has followed the Lord completely. I will give to him and his descendants some of the very land he explored during his scouting mission'(Deuteronomy 1:35-36, New Living Translation).
Friend to Friend
Ingratitude laced with grumbling, complaining, and murmuring is an easy trap to fall into. And it is so contagious. Someone grumbles and the next thing you know, you fall right in line and start grumbling too. I wonder if that's what happened in the wilderness as the Israelites made one more trek around Mount Sinai. "I'm sick of this manna," one complained. Then another looked at God's sweet provision and said, "Come to think of it, I'm sick of it too." The next thing you know the sea of ingrates becomes a tidal wave of grumblers and God sends them on another lap around the wilderness and places a "Do Not Enter" sign in front of the Promised Land.
When you think about it, ingratitude is a casual despising of God's sovereignty. It's like saying we don't like how He is running things and think we could do it better.
Gratitude and giving thanks in all things open our eyes to see God's glory in even the smallest things. On the other hand, ingratitude blinds our eyes to God's presence, and we miss His advances all around. It's a choice, not an emotion. However, this choice to give thanks may very well open the way for positive emotions such as joy to emerge and take hold. Paul wrote: "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again [because you probably didn't get it the first time]: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4).
There is nobody more miserable than an ungrateful person. Margaret and I were chatting about gratitude when she mentioned how she tries to steer clear of those who grumble and complain because their ingratitude is so contagious. "I hate calling my sister," she mused. "I mean, I love her. But talking to her is such a joy drain."
"What do you mean?" I asked.
"All she does is complain. Something is always wrong with her house. She always has a new ailment. She gives me the latest obituary report and tells me who is sick with what. A couple of times I tried to cheer her up. You know, help her see the positive side of things. 'At least you have a house. Think of all those people who lost their homes in the hurricane.' But it only made her mad. She said I was not being sympathetic and that I made little of her problems. So now I just listen."
Another friend told me of sitting with his father discussing the distribution of his "worldly goods," when the time came to do so. "My dad had very little joy in his life," Mike explained. "As we discussed who was going to get what when he died, I saw a pride in him I had never noticed before. 'I did all this,' he said as he waved his hand around the room like Vanna White. 'I worked hard and earned it all.' In his mind, he had earned it; he had done it all. Never once did he give thanks to God for all his blessings or acknowledge God's goodness. He showed no gratitude, no thanksgiving, and certainly no joy."
His things had become shiny shackles that kept joy at bay all his life. His things. How sad.
As Mike told me the story, I thought of Henry Ward Beecher's words: "Pride slays thanksgiving...a proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves." Eyes shut tight to God's glory.
I am reminded of an old saying that stirs and stings: "Gratitude turns what we have into enough." Always enough. Jesus thanked God for the two loaves and five fish... and there was more than enough to go around (John 6:1-13).
Today, make a commitment to turn your grumbling to gratitude, your complaining into contentment, and your whining (did I just say that...yes I did) into praising God!
Click over to my Facebook page and tell me one thing you are thankful for today. I know you are thankful for Jesus and for your family. So tell me one other thing besides those two at the top of your list.
Let's Pray
[Sometimes I open my Bible and simply pray the Psalms. Join me today!]
Praise the Lord, O my soul. I will praise the Lord all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live (Psalm 146:1). Praise the Lord. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him! (Psalm 147:1). Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens. Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness (Psalm 150:1-2). Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever (Psalm 136:1).
In Jesus' name, I praise You!
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you feel far from God today? If so, maybe you're knocking on the wrong door. What does Psalm 100:4 tell us about how we are to enter God's presence?
If complaining were a color, what color would it be?
If being grateful, thankful, and appreciative were a color, what color would it be?
Now, what color do you want to be today?
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November 5, 2013
Living in Forgiveness Gear
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ (Ephesians 4:32, NCV).
Friend to Friend
A little boy went to see the Washington Monument in Washington, D.C. When he arrived, he pointed up at the monument and announced to the guard on duty, "I want to buy it." The guard asked, "How much do you have?"
The boy reached into his pocket and pulled out a quarter. The guard said, "That is not enough." The little boy replied, "I thought that you would say that," and pulled out nine more cents.
The guard looked down at the small boy and said, "You need to understand three things. First, thirty-four cents is not enough. Second, the Washington Monument has never been, nor will it ever be for sale. Third, if you are an American citizen, then the Washington Monument already belongs to you."
We need to understand three things about forgiveness. First, we can never be good enough or do enough to purchase it. Second, forgiveness is not for sale, nor can we earn it. Third, if we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, then all of the forgiveness we will ever need already belongs to us. But we must choose to experience that forgiveness by accepting it as a free gift of God.
Our pride is often the biggest obstacle to experiencing forgiveness. It is hard to admit that we are sinners in need of a Savior. We like being in control of our lives ... until that control lands us in some ditch or pit, and we need saving. In desperation, we lay down our pride and cry out to God ... and He hears us.
Psalm 77:1 (NCV) "I cry out to God; I call to God, and He will hear me."
God does not respond to our cries for help with condemnation and guilt. That's the standard operating procedure of Satan. God offers unconditional love and eternal forgiveness.
Our pride is often the biggest obstacle to forgiving others. True forgiveness always requires sacrifice on our part – a truth that may often seem unfair in human terms. After all, we are the ones who have been hurt. Why should we have to sacrifice anything? Shouldn't the people who hurt us be the ones who have to make the first move and offer the biggest sacrifice? True forgiveness – God's forgiveness – defies human logic and cannot be explained in human terms. Human forgiveness is easier but a shallow substitute and cheap imitation for the amazing power of God's forgiveness.
We need to be willing to take the first step in the process of forgiveness. Jesus was. Romans 5:8 tells us that "God shows His great love for us in this way: Christ died for us while we were still sinners" (ncv).
He did not wait until we shaped up.
He did not wait until we cleaned up our act.
He did not even wait until we asked for forgiveness or even knew we needed to be forgiven.
Jesus stepped out of heaven onto a cross, purchasing true forgiveness for us. He died for people who do not deserve forgiveness, people who refuse to ask for forgiveness, people who ignore their own faults, people who sit in judgment of others, people who insist on others taking the first step.
We need to love and forgive in the same way – in "forgiveness gear."
Matthew 5:23 (NLT) "If you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God."
God is very serious about forgiveness. He wants us to understand that it doesn't matter how much we do or don't do. If we have not forgiven someone, if we know that someone has not forgiven us, we should drop everything, put life on hold, and make things right.
If we want to experience the power of forgiveness, we must be willing to nail our pride to the cross, experience the love and forgiveness of God, and choose to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, asking first for Your forgiveness for the sin in my life. I choose to turn from that sin and obey you. Thank You for your grace and mercy. Give me the strength and power to extend that same mercy and grace to those in my life who have hurt me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What hurt or pain are your holding in your heart and life? Realize it is holding you prisoner and make the choice to let it go today. Forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is a choice that leads to a step of obedience. Forgiveness is not an emotion or feeling. If you make the choice to forgive, God will supply the forgiveness.
Let's go a little deeper. Read the whole story of Hosea and Gomer found in the book of Hosea. First put yourself in the place of Gomer. How do you think she reacted to Hosea's decision to forgive her and bring her home? Then put yourself in the place of Hosea. Think about the thoughts and feelings running through Hosea's heart and mind. Record your thoughts and insights in your journal.
What one person do you need to forgive right now? Pray for that person. Ask God to let you see them through His eyes and make the deliberate choice to forgive them.
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Need help? Get Mary's MP3, The Power of Forgiveness for practical ways to practice true forgiveness in your life. Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, for practical ways to tap into the power of God's Word. Enroll now and have access to all of the 2013 lessons. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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November 6, 2013
God's Power Follows Your Obedience
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him (1 Corinthians 1:27-29, NIV).
Friend to Friend
If God said, "I'm looking for a woman to help accomplish My plans and fulfill My purposes," would you feel qualified? Not many of us would raise our hands shouting, "Pick me, pick me!"
But here's something we must always remember: God doesn't necessarily call the qualified, but He always qualifies the called.
When the angel of the LORD came to call Gideon to be the leader of the Israelite army, Gideon was hiding in a winepress threshing wheat (Judges 6:11-14 NIV). Now you don't thresh wheat in a winepress. You thresh wheat by throwing it up into the open air and letting the chaff blow away and the heavier grain fall to the ground.
So why was Gideon in the winepress? He was hiding. That's right. He was so terrified of his encroaching enemies, he was hiding. And yet, when the angel of the LORD addressed Gideon, he called him a "mighty warrior" (Judges 6:12 NIV). That just tickles me. I imagine Gideon looked to the left and the right and asked, "Are you talking to me?"
God doesn't see as we see. We tend to look at what we can accomplish in our own strength, but God looks at what we can accomplish in His.
Consider this:
Jacob was a deceiver.
Joseph was a brat.
Moses was a stutterer. Sarai was barren.
David was a shepherd.
Rahab was a harlot.
Peter was a fisherman.
Paul was a murderer,.
Mary Magdalene was a transformed demoniac.
The Samaritan woman was a five-time divorcee.
Timothy was timid.
Priscilla was a tent maker.
Even though they might not be who the world would choose to lead a great nation or movement, these were a few of the men and women God chose to fulfill His purposes in their lifetime through His power.
"But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him" (1 Corinthians 1:27-29).
I don't know about you, but that fits me to a T. And here's even better news, "I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13). And so can you!
Let's Pray
Lord, I don't know why you have chosen me to do mighty works for You, but I do know this: I am not qualified, but You are. Give me strength in my weakness. Give me faith in my fear. Give me power in my powerlessness. I'm trusting You.
In Jesus' name.
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Judges chapter 6 and note how God spoke to Gideon's fear. Especially note verses 14 and 16.
What is God saying to you today about what He will do for you? Click over to my Facebook page and join the conversation. Just leaving a comment and typing the words is a step of faith in itself! I'll see you there.
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Sometimes life doesn't turn out like we expected, and sometimes those twists and turns can leave scars in our lives. So what are we going to do about it? I suggest turning that pain into purpose, that hurt into hope, and that mess into a ministry opportunity. Are you ready to do that? Is so, my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past Can Help. Click on the title to read a sample chapter. And while you are on my site, make sure and sign up for my blog packed with more encouragement and inspiration.
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November 7, 2013
Weeds and Worry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Always give thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ (Ephesians 5:20, NCV).
Friend to Friend
When we lived in South Florida, the grass in our yard grew year round. We learned over the years that the best way to deal with weeds was simply to take care of the grass. When grass is healthy, weeds have no space to grow.
When our hearts and lives are filled with praise and thanksgiving, worry is a weed that will die from lack of attention. Why? Because praise acknowledges the very character of God, while thanksgiving recognizes the work of His hand. Together, praise and thanksgiving are powerful weapons against worry and important tools to help us grow.
Many times we feel we have nothing to celebrate. We do not understand the true meaning of praise. Praise comes from a Latin word that means "value" or "worth." So to praise God means to celebrate His worth, His value...His presence. "Sing to God, sing praise to His name, extol Him who rides on the clouds—His name is the Lord—and rejoice before Him" (Psalm 68:4).
Praise and thanksgiving pleases God. Psalm 147:1 "How good it is to sing praise to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him!"
Praise and thanksgiving encourage obedience. First Thessalonians 5:16-18 "Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." It is His will for us to praise Him. Obedience to Him always promotes peace and eliminates worry.
Praise and thanksgiving enhance our awareness of His presence. Psalm 22:3 "But You are holy, enthroned in the praises of Israel" (nkjv). When we praise God, we are enthroning Him in our lives. We are making that fearful circumstance His dwelling place.
Praise and thanksgiving produce trust. Psalm 42:11 asks, "Why am I so sad? Why am I so upset? I should put my hope in God and keep praising Him, my Savior and my God" (ncv).
Thanksgiving is a deposit on the future. Praise is trusting Him for what He will do and then expecting Him to do it, understanding that today's stumbling blocks are tomorrow's stepping-stones. Praise frees God to work because when we praise Him, we are choosing to trust Him totally, despite the circumstances.
The story is told of a young man who was sitting on a park bench reading his Bible. Suddenly he began to shout. "Praise the Lord! What a miracle!" An older, very distinguished man walking by stopped and asked what he was so excited about. The young man replied, "I was just reading how God parted the Red Sea and the whole nation of Israel walked across on dry ground." The older man sneered, "Don't you know? That wasn't a real sea at all. It was just a few inches of water." He then turned in irritation and walked away, leaving the young man confused and discouraged. But in a few minutes he began to shout again. The unbeliever returned asking, "What are you shouting about now?" "Well, sir, I just read how God drowned the whole Egyptian army in just a few inches of water!"
Don't let anyone keep you from praising God.
Don't let any circumstance deny you the joy of giving thanks.
"I will thank the Lord at all times. My mouth will always praise Him" (Psalm 34:1).
"Because of theLord's great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness" (Lamentation 3:22-23).
Praise is not optional in a life that wins over worry and doubt. Praise is essential in a journey of faith. It is a demonstration of trust and the acceptance of a circumstance without insisting that God change it. When we choose to praise God, we choose to trust Him. And when we choose to trust God, we will win over worry.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a sense of helplessness. I am desperate for You, Lord. I need Your strength and power to sustain me because everything seems to be falling apart. I want to be a woman of faith and stand strong when trouble bombards my life but I cannot do it alone. I am afraid and seem to worry about everything. Today, I turn to You and celebrate the truth that You will turn to me and be my refuge.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When did God take something bad in your life and bring good out of it? Describe that experience. Remember the truth that God is the same yesterday, today and forever and what He did in your past ... He can do today and tomorrow. He is faithful – even when we are faithless.
Read and memorize Psalm 59:16 Choose to sing a new song of praise – no matter what happens today. Record this verse on an index card and keep it with you. When fear and doubt come, meet them with this powerful promise from God.
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November 8, 2013
Ashes to Beauty
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
For I know that my Redeemer lives. (Job 19:25a)
Friend to Friend
God's redemptive grace can restore any life.
In the beginning, at the very moment that rebellion collided with perfection and invaded the hearts of humanity, God set in motion a plan of redemption. His plan was Jesus, His only Son, who came to redeem us, to save us, to wash us clean from sin. He is an awesome Redeemer, One who gives beauty for ashes, comfort for mourning, and freedom to the shackled. A Savior who imputes His righteousness to the wretched, shines light in the darkest places, and breathes hope into the weariest of souls.
Scripture introduces us to a guy who experienced God's redemption in beautifully deep ways. Job was a good man. I mean a really good man. The Bible says, "This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil" (Job 1:1). He lived life the right way. He honored God, loved his family, and was both faithful and patient. Good man.
You'd think that such a standout guy would pretty much have a cake life, right? So not right. Let me just say this: good-guy Job went through some stuff. Boy, did he go through some stuff. We're talking major big-league stuff. He had it all and then lost it all: his children, his wealth, and his health. Gone. In a blink.
Don't just skim over that last paragraph.
This man lost his children, for goodness' sake!
They died.
All ten of them. At the same time.
I can't even fathom the thought of losing one of my children, let alone all of my children. Shiver. Job knew brokenness on levels that few of us will ever come close to experiencing. He knew ashes. He knew mourning. He knew darkness. He knew weary.
On the front end of the pain, he demonstrated faith. Big faith. He held on to his integrity, accepted his circumstances, and blessed the name of the Lord in spite of the horror he endured. And he worshiped! Can you believe he worshiped?
Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: Naked I came from my mother's womb,
and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised. In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.(Job 1:20–22)
Job went through loss after loss, test after test, and friend-with-bad-advice after friend-with-bad-advice who spoke condemnation instead of comfort. All that and his wife wanted him to "curse God and die!" (2:9) Nice. Isn't it amazing how some people can say dumb things that completely misrepresent the heart of God in times of struggle? Oh, friend, let us be women who are quick to comfort and slow to speak advice.
Stepping down from my soapbox...
Job was in anguish (6:2; 7:11). Understandable! He wanted to die because the pain was so unrelenting (6:8–10). He called out to God and asked Him to reveal where he had gone wrong. Then he repented of the sins that he knew he had committed.
Job lamented. Stomped his feet a bit. Got a smidge sassy and frustrated with God. And he wondered if God even cared. Then God answered his complaints, corrected his heart, and set the wheels in motion for one of the most amazing shows of redemption the world has ever seen.
In time God shined light into Job's darkness, spoke gladness to his mourning, and brought beauty to his ashes. He redeemed Job's life from the dark pit of brokenness. Through it all, Job humbly and wholeheartedly worshiped the Lord. Not perfectly, but persistently. Job, who was the first in Scripture to ever call God his Redeemer, did not wait until his suffering had passed. He worshiped God as his Redeemer in the midst of his trials—by faith. Faith that proved well placed. Even though he longed for evidence that God cared, Job clung to the certainty that God was his Redeemer when, in a time of prolonged agony, he confidently said of Him, "For I know that my Redeemer lives" (19:25, ESV).
God also names Himself our Redeemer in Scripture: "Then you will know that I, the Lord, am your Savior, your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob" (Isaiah 60:16).
You see? God is all about redemption.
His love for humanity runs deeper than the deepest recesses of our depravity. His love extends farther than your past, higher than your disappointments, wider than your heart wounds, and deeper than a cavernous pit of depression. God's plan of redemption is for every person, no matter where you've been, no matter what you've been through, no matter what you've done.
But, alas, there's a catch.
There's always a catch, right?
The catch is, your redemption has to be personal.
His grace is for every one of us, but each of us must accept or reject God's redemption plan by accepting or rejecting his Son, Jesus Christ. Redemption begins and ends with Jesus. For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16, NLT)
Redemption is for me.
Redemption is for you.
Do you believe that? Have you made it personal with God?
Whether you are at work, at home, at the hospital or in a jail cell. He's whispering, "Be still." Whether you are struggling with life strains or are in a season of reprieve. "Be still." Whether you have a house full of crazy-noise or an apartment filled with ordered-quiet. "Be still." Whether the diagnosis is cancer or the sting of betrayal is fresh – whether the hope you cling to resounds or you are weary and unsettled. "Be still." Know that He is God. Know that He is good. Accept that He is able and willing to exchange beauty for your ashes. Call out to Him as your Redeemer.
Confess your mess before Him.
Consider His love.
Then in the stillness, respond from your heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, My Redeemer, I'm here. I'm still. Please reveal anything in my heart that needs restoring. (Pause to listen and reflect.) I confess these sins to You: ________________ and I ask that You remove them as far as the east is from the west. Thanks for capturing me with Your grace once again.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Be still before Him
The noise of life can be so loud. I'm right there with you trying to hit the mute button each day. Failing on many days. One way I've found to center my heart on God is to drown out the world with worship. I just posted a lyric video for my new song, "My Strength, My Song" on my YouTube channel. (CLICK HEREto see the video!) I hope that you will be encouraged by the song – and please share it with someone who can use the encouragement also.
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Name by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc.
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November 11, 2013
Better or Bitter? You Get to Choose
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"Don't call me Naomi [which means pleasant]," she told them. "Call me Mara [which means bitter], because the Almighty has made my life very bitter" (Ruth 1:20 NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of Ruth and Naomi. The name Ruth means "woman friend," and we can learn about how to be a great friend by her example. And we can also learn a lot from Naomi, but not necessarily in a good way.
In a ten-year period, Naomi lost her husband and her two sons. She blamed God for her afflictions, and in one sense, she was correct. God is sovereign and in control of every aspect of our lives.
However, He was not "out to get her." His hand was not "against her" as she claimed. Naomi became very bitter about what had happened to her, so much so that she changed her name to Mara, which means bitter. God never desires for us to become bitter, but longs to use the difficulties of our lives to make us better.
In Jesus' last words to His disciples, He compared their relationship to Him to that of a vine and its branches. He said, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off [lifts up out of the dust] every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful" (John 15:1-2 NIV).
When we experience a loss, it can feel like God's giant gardening shears have lopped off part of our lives that seems vital to our existence. However, His desire is for us to bear as much fruit as possible, not become stunted by bitterness. Bruce Wilkerson, in his book Secrets of the Vine, notes, "God isn't trying to just take away; He's faithfully at work to make room to add strength, productivity, and spiritual power in your life. His goal is to bring you closer to the 'perfect and complete' image of Christ."
He goes on to say, "Not every painful experience is the result of pruning. Is your heart breaking because your teenager is experimenting with drugs and sex? God did not cause your son to do these things in order to prune you. Are you suddenly facing a future with diabetes or cancer? God isn't purposefully constraining your life just to see how you'll react. Yet every trial you face is an opportunity to let Him work in your life for abundance. If you invite Him into your circumstances, He will keep His promise to work everything together for your good (Romans 8:28)."
Have you noticed the only difference between the words bitter and better is the letter i? When we stop focusing on the not-so-mighty "me, myself, and I," and start focusing on the almighty God, then we will begin to see our difficulties through the lens of God's perfect and perfecting plan. If He prunes away a dream, it is only because He has a greater dream in store that will produce more and better fruit.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, please forgive me for allowing bitterness to creep into my heart when life hasn't turned out like I thought it would. I pray You will use every disappointment in my life for good. Show me how to use my struggles to make me better, and not allow my difficulties to make me bitter. I know I have a choice. Help me choose the right one.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the book of Ruth and discover how God turned Naomi's bitterness into joy. It's only four chapters and I can promise you will be blessed!
What do you find amazing in Ruth 2:3. Some translations say, "It just so happened." Another says, "As it turned out." Oh friend, "It just so happened," never happens in God's sovereignty. God so happened!
If you will determine to not allow your circumstances to make you bitter, but pray that God will use them to make you better, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I refuse to be bitter. I am determined to be better!"
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November 12, 2013
Are You an Encourager?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Encourage them with great patience (2 Timothy 4:2, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Encouragement takes persistence. Persistence takes patience. Just because you have encouraged someone once does not mean that your role of encouragement in his or her life is over. They did not become discouraged overnight, and they will not often become re-encouraged overnight.
My husband Dan began making wooden furniture many years ago. My job was to stain and finish the pieces after he had completed them. I had never worked with wood or stain and did not know much about how to accomplish the task. But I knew who did. I headed to our local hardware store. I explained to a salesclerk that I wanted to finish some furniture - today. I was in a hurry to place it in just the right spot in the house and wanted to get this staining business over with quickly. He smiled and patiently explained that it takes time to achieve the best finish. He obviously did not understand my timetable, so I tried to explain again. Ignoring my words, he said that a beautiful finish requires repeated layers of stain and lacquer with time to dry in between. "There are no short- cuts if you want the final product to be right," he said.
Encouragement is like that. It takes layers of love and great patience to replenish, restore, and put courage back into a heart. Patience is an important part of encouragement.
2 Timothy 4:2 also says that we are to encourage others with careful instruction, being sensitive to the condition of the learner, to the one who is in need of encouragement. Learning does not begin with the truth. Learning begins with the learner and requires loving flexibility.
When our daughter Danna first played softball, her coaches were her dad and Garland Robertson, our youth pastor. Our son Jered was an assistant coach. At one of their practices, one girl was having trouble hitting the ball. Garland was pitching - and that may have been the problem. Dan was giving her instructions - and that may have been the problem. For whatever reason, she was not hitting the ball. Finally, Jered pulled her aside and worked with her for 30 minutes. He was gentle and gave suggestions with great sensitivity. All of a sudden, the girl who was missing every pitch hit five in a row.
Instruction that is wrapped with encouragement really works. No one cares how much you know until they know just how much you care. I have heard it said that advice and instruction are like snow. The softer they fall - the deeper they stick. Sensitive instruction is encouragement.
Encouragement stays close. It is encouraging to know that we are not alone, that someone else is close by, in the rocking boat with us. Remember that one of the definitions of encouragement is "to be beside." A shared joy is a double joy, but a shared sorrow is half a sorrow. God has given us to each other so that we can share the load. A shared load is always a lighter load. Ecclesiastes 4:12 is a wonderful promise, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
I read about an ingenious teenager who grew tired of reading bedtime stories to his little sister. So he decided to record several of her favorite stories on tape. He gave her a tape player and plugged in the tape. "Now you can hear your stories anytime you want. Isn't that great?" he said. She looked at the machine for a moment and then replied, "No. It hasn't got a lap."
We all need the closeness of relationship. We all need to know we are loved. We all need encouragement. Staying close to those who need you brings them encouragement.
Encouragement is a daily thing. "Encourage one another daily" (Hebrews 3:13). An encourager is one who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become, and still gently invites you to grow. How often do we need to practice encouragement? Daily. Continually. Constantly.
Encouragers look for opportunities to work. Acts 4:36 tells us about a man who came to Christ and his life was changed so dramatically that he sold his land and brought the money to give to God through the early church. That is very impressive. But the most impressive thing about this man called Joseph is that the disciples changed his name. They called him Barnabas, which means "Son of Encouragement."
Are you an encourager? Would your friends suggest changing your name? Would your spouse or your children? What about your neighbors or that person in your life who is struggling to find a ray of light in their darkness?
When Danna was a little girl, she loved to color in one particular art book. It had several pages that were special, but one had a picture of a butterfly. When I looked at it, I couldn't understand her excitement because it was a dull gray. When I asked Danna why she liked it so much, she said, "Watch, Mommy." She rubbed her little hands together until they were warm and then laid her hand on the butterfly. The warm touch of her hand caused the special inks in the picture to react and the dull gray was transformed into a stunning rainbow of color.
This cold and dark world is hungry for the touch of someone who cares, for a word of kindness, for an act of compassion. This world - your world - is reaching out to you for encouragement. Be an encourager.
Let's Pray
Father, I come, asking You to teach me how to be an encouragement to those around me. Help me to see those who are hurting. Don't let me miss the broken hearts that cross my path. Give me the wisdom and love to be "God with skin on" to the people in my world.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who is coming to your house for Thanksgiving? I'm sure they will all leave with full stomachs, but what about their hearts? Will their hungry hearts be fed by your love and encouragement? Today, begin praying for ways to encourage each one – especially the ones who are hard to love.
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November 13, 2013
God is not in the Coincidence Business
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I've already mentioned this week how much I love the book of Ruth. Divine providence is behind every twist and turn in the story of Ruth—the famine that led the family to Moab, the marriages to Moabite women, the deaths of Elimelech and Naomi's two sons, the lifting of the famine in Bethlehem, Naomi's return to her homeland, Ruth's gleaning in Boaz's field, Boaz's notice of Ruth, the refusal of the next in line to be Ruth's kinsmen-redeemer, and Boaz and Ruth's subsequent marriage. The string of events are strung like pearls on the thread of God's providence and secured in place with the knot of His love.
Have you ever noticed such a stringing of events in your own life? My friend, Gayle, experienced one particular series of events that were most definitely orchestrated by God. She started having trouble with her knees in her early thirties. Chronic pain in her right knee sent her to the doctor's office on a regular basis for cortisone injections. Because Gayle's mother had joint pain in her knees for most of her adult life, Gayle resolved herself to the same fate—arthritis. The doctors never X-rayed or performed an MRI to diagnose the problem but prescribed treatment according to symptoms and a family history of joint pain.
One night, after five years of cortisone injections, Gayle, her husband Joe, and another couple attended their college alma mater basketball game. On the way home, Gayle twisted around in her front seat to face the couple in the back. As they chatted, she noticed an 18-wheel semi-trailer truck's headlights rapidly approaching their car. Surely he's going to stop, she thought. But before she could even warn the other passengers, the truck plowed into the back of their car at 55 miles per hour. Because of Gayle's position, her knees were smashed into the dashboard.
The driver of the truck had fallen asleep at the wheel and never even applied the brakes before impact. Gayle and Joe's car, a heavy Lincoln Continental, was totaled, but no one in the car was hurt except Gayle. Her knees were black, blue, and swollen within a couple of hours.
When Gayle went to the doctor the next day, he decided to take an x-ray to make sure there were no broken bones. "Gayle," he said, "I don't know how to tell you this, but you have a slow growing tumor in your right knee."
"A tumor? How long has it been there?" she asked.
"Well, this is a very slow growing type of tumor which has probably been there for several years. The pain that you've been experiencing in the past has most likely not been due to arthritis, but due to the tumor causing the bone to expand as it grows. We're going to have to remove it right away."
"I can't do it right away," she answered. "I have a two-week counseling course that I'm going to next week. I've been on the waiting list for two years, so this tumor is going to have to wait. You did say it was slow-growing, correct?"
"Yes," he answered, "but I wouldn't wait a day longer than necessary. You are a very lucky, young lady. If you had not been in that car accident, we may have not found the tumor until it was too late."
Gayle smiled. Luck had nothing to do with it. God was in control.
Gayle did go on the counseling seminar. On the last night, 750 committed Christians gathered around her and prayed for her knee. The next day, when the doctor went in to remove the tumor, he was amazed to find that this slow-growing tumor had rapidly begun to shrink.
"Once again," the doctor said as he showed Gayle the new pre-op X-ray of a much smaller tumor, "you are a lucky girl. The tumor was smaller today than it was two weeks ago."
Once again, Gayle knew luck had nothing to do with it. She then shared with the doctor about the 750 people who had prayed for her the night before.
Many times when something seemingly bad happens in our lives, we need to remember that God is the director of the drama.
We may not understand the "whys" or the "what-fors" but we can trust in the God who controls it all.
Kathy Collard Miller said it so well: "Nothing that happens to the child of God is a coincidence, and when we look at every situation and encounter as God-directed, we will more easily fulfill His plan. This knowledge should also make each of us feel needed, valuable, and important: We are fulfilling God's purposes for His kingdom."
Just when it looks life has spun out of control, God stops the spin, picks up the broken pieces, and creates a beautiful mosaic—a work of art which He had planned all along.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so thankful that there are no coincidences in my life, but only God-incidences. Open my eyes to see You at work. Don't let me miss Your fingerprints on the pages of my days.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Scan Ruth chapter 2 and see how many God-incidences you can find.
Can you think of a time when what seemed like a coincidence turned out to be God working in your life?
Can you think of a time when something that seemed bad at the time turned out to be something good?
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November 14, 2013
I Can't Wike It
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Friend to Friend
I love being a grandmother. I absolutely adore our five grandchildren and work hard at finding any excuse to spend time with them. I am convinced that our grandkids keep me young and are some of my greatest teachers. Maybe that is because they are so "fresh" from Heaven and the presence of God. Whatever the reason, when I spend time with them, I always come away with new truth.
I visited our son and daughter-in-law in Charlotte, North Carolina because three of our five grandchildren live with them. Two of the three are twins. As you can imagine, life is anything but dull as Jered and Jodi try to keep up with five-year-old Lelia, a vivacious little bundle of energy with bouncy blonde curls, blue eyes, and a killer smile, and her twin brother, Jaydan, whose blue eyes and dimples could charm the warts right off a frog. Some of the things they say are not only hilarious, but wonderfully profound as well.
It was late. Jered was getting the kids ready for bed while Jodi and I enjoyed some uninterrupted "girl time" together. We met at the kitchen island and decided that a snack was in order. Jodi grabbed the crackers out of the pantry while I fished the pimento cheese and grapes out of the refrigerator. So it began - the ritualistic gab session of two women simply catching up on life.
As we talked and laughed, Jaydan wandered in for bedtime hugs and kisses and a reason to delay going to bed. Spotting our food, he quickly pleaded, "Mimi, I need a snicky-snack." Being the wonderful mother-in-law that I am, I quickly looked at Jodi who nodded her approval before asking Jaydan what he would like to eat. Pointing at the pimento cheese and crackers on the kitchen island, he said, "I want that!" Jaydan had never eaten Triscuits or pimento cheese, but obviously thought it was high time that he did.
Jodi lifted Jaydan into a chair, pulled it up to the island and handed him a cracker. Jaydan took a small bite, and with a grin and an appreciative smack, gave his serious five-year-old approval. "Mmm...good!" he said. Next on his late-night menu was the pimento cheese. He tentatively dipped one corner of his cracker into the cheese, raised the cracker to his mouth and inspected it closely. He then bravely took his very first bite ever of pimento cheese. It was a momentous occasion indeed.
Jodi and I watched carefully for any reaction. None came. Jaydan once again eyed the cracker, dipped it into the pimento cheese, and this time, he came up with an impressive lump of cheese clinging to the now soggy and slightly limp cracker. Turning the concoction over in his little hand, my brave grandson closely inspected the gooey, yellow substance one more time before slowly easing the cracker into his mouth, taking a big bite. Jaydan's eyes widened and promptly filled with tears. He quickly spit out the obviously disgusting mixture and vigorously shook his head. A pair of beautiful but now accusing blue eyes met ours. Jodi and I were really trying not to laugh - which only made things worse.
Jaydan was obviously disappointed in both his grandmother and mother, who were supposed to protect him from things like pimento cheese. Jaydan sent the silent but crystal clear message that the very existence of pimento cheese was somehow our fault. He then ceremoniously wiped the back of his little hand across his mouth and firmly announced, "No! I can't wike it!" Translation: Jaydan Scott Southerland does not like pimento cheese at all! And judging from the look he leveled at us as he sauntered out of the room, that was definitely his final answer!
I sometimes feel that way about life. I don't like it when things aren't going my way and I am faced with a problem I cannot solve or a person I find hard to love.
When I was molested, I didn't like it.
When my mother died after years of battling cancer, I didn't like it.
When my husband went into cardiac arrest and almost died, I didn't like it.
When I found myself battling clinical depression, I didn't like it!
I could go on, but you get the idea.
Sometimes, life just stinks!
What then?
For years, I simply plastered a fake but very religious smile on my face and pretended that I was strong enough to withstand whatever storm I was facing at the time. That strategy seemed to work for a while, but then the pain and helplessness would suddenly wash over me like a tidal wave, bringing me to my knees. I was afraid to share my pain and fear with anyone because then they would see me for what I really am – mortal.
Over the years, I have learned some important truths about pain and its purpose in my life. God is not committed to my comfort, but He is committed to my character. I need to let God be God in my life and choose to trust Him – no matter what. I need to put my feelings in their place and choose to believe God's Word instead. Even when I can't see the end of the journey, I need to be willing to take the first step in faith. I may not always understand or even like God's plan, but I can trust His heart and know it is for my good.
So the next time you have more questions than answers, more fears than faith, or more darkness than light, remember the truth that God really is in control. No matter what you are facing, God's got it!
Let's Pray
Father, I love You! I may not always understand or like how You work in my life, but I want to grow to the place where I trust You anyway. Please help me learn how to walk by faith ... not by sight. When the hard times come, teach me to trust You fully.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pour out your heart to your God, asking Him to uncover the dark places in your life. As He does, record them in your journal in simple, honest words. Each day this week, read aloud Psalm 40:1-3 and claim it as a certain hope from God's heart to yours.
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November 15, 2013
What's Your Ultimate?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me. (Psalm 57:2, ESV)
Friend to Friend
My heart plays ping-pong. It shifts focus from one affection to another faster than you can say, "Squirrel!" I have never been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD – or any other condition with scary capitol letters – but I've surely been known to major on some minors in my day. Practically every day. I worry about things that don't really matter... at least not eternally.
The other day started out great. In the wee hours of early, I poured some hot coffee, grabbed my prayer journal and my Bible, and headed to the couch to spend time with God. My heart spilled with worship as I fixed my affections on Him. I was prepared to start my day. Fueled and focused.
A while later, my son came downstairs ready for school. We exchanged tender morning greetings and hugs as he grabbed a bowl for cereal. But when he sat down to eat, I realized that he was wearing two different socks. As he ate his breakfast, I tried to lovingly influence him toward a matching pair... to no avail. Hmmph! When he left for the bus stop, I was horrified, so I lamented. Where have I gone wrong with this child? Why does his 13-year old brain not think it is inappropriate to wear un-matching socks? What will people think? Surely the teachers will have a juicy gossip session in the lunchroom about how awful and inadequate I am as a mother because my "it's-all-good" child went to school with two different socks!
AS IF it matters.
Ping. Pong.
My heart can turn on a dime. One moment it is fixed on the Lord and the next it prioritizes drama. Does God care if my son's socks match? I'm thinking No. Is it okay to want my children to wear matching socks? Yes. Surely I can speak into a practical matter, but the way I respond matters more – especially if things don't go my way. Let it go, already.
I really do need to let it go.
I need to let a lot of things go. I need to let go of reactions, emotions, activities or thoughts that don't honor God. He wants to be our top priority! That's why we were created. To love him above all things. He wants the details, activities and decisions of our lives to be prioritized around Him - not just our Sunday mornings and major decisions... but our every morning and our every decision. We must look to Him as our desire – our ultimate – our obsession. Then the rest of life falls into place.
God is El Elyon. This Hebrew term for God can be translated two ways: the Most High God or God Most High. Either way, they mean the same thing: He is to be preeminent in our lives. He is supreme. There is nothing above Him or beyond Him.
In her book Obsessed, author and speaker Hayley DiMarco said it this way, "If you claim two obsessions, then you are not truly obsessed with both. No one is obsessed part time."
God is jealous for us.
He wants us to be obsessed with Him and Him alone.
God becomes El Elyon to us when our affections for Him and His ways are prioritized above all else. The Lord wants us to be focused worshipers. To have hearts that look to Him and His strength; seeking His face always. (Psalm 105:4) One of my favorite things about the Psalms is that they are honest. Refreshingly so. Like the psalmist, we need to allow God to filter our responses.
I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.
(Psalm 57:2, ESV)
I'm so encouraged by what Scripture says here: when I cry out to God and make Him my ultimate, He fulfills His purpose for me. Yes, please! That's what I want. His purpose – not mine. More of Him – less of me. You see, we don't have to try to find our happiness and purpose in other things. When we prioritize God and put Him as God Most High in our lives, He fulfills us in a way that none of these other things can!
A.W. Tozer wrote, "What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us." He also listed off these telling "Rules for Self Discovery":
1. What we want most;
2. What we think about most;
3. How we use our money;
4. What we do with our leisure time;
5. The company we enjoy;
6. Who and what we admire;
7. What we laugh at.
Tozer summed it up beautifully: all of life needs to be filtered through our constant thoughts and yielding to our Most High God.
How can this be practical in our lives? What does El Elyon mean to your worries? Do you obsess about them? If you compare your fears to El Elyon, the Pinnacle of existence, do they still look so big? What does El Elyon mean to your busy life, your weight loss goals or your desire to please others? Which master leads? Are you more concerned about pleasing man or pleasing God?
This is where the rubber meets the roads.
Where your ping meet your pong.
You must choose what, or who, will be Most High in your life.
The psalmist chose what is best as he sang to El Elyon, "I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart;
I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.I will be glad and exult in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High." (Psalm 9:2)
Will you allow Him to be your El Elyon?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, El Elyon, I really want to get this one! Help me to place You above all and before all. Show me what that looks like in the midst of my drama. Help me to yield to You when I want to take control. Be my Everything.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Spend a moment in prayer about the things that distract you from prioritizing God above all and before all.
Let's take the conversation deeper: swing by my blog or my Facebook page and tell me how today's devotion relates to your life?
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I love this name of God so much that I co-wrote a song about it called El Elyon with my friend, Dave Clark. Click here to hear the song!
Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Knowing God by Name by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, and free on-line video intros, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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Obsessed, Breaking Free From the Things That Consume You. ©2012 by Hungry Planet(Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group)
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November 18, 2013
God Has Big Dreams For You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
"No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived, what God has prepared for those who love Him" (1 Corinthians 2:9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love the story of Esther in the Bible. She is definitely one of my girlfriends in God! I can't wait to give her a big hug. Let's think about her a moment today.
Can you imagine what young Esther, a girl without mother or father, would have thought if someone had come up to her at the market while gathering produce for her cousin and told her that she was going to be the next queen of Persia? That she would save her people from annihilation? I imagine she would have laughed or run for cover from the lunatic making such a prediction. But God had a plan. He took a lonely orphan girl and used her to rescue the Jewish nation.
If someone had come to me in my teen years and told me that I would be spreading the gospel through an international radio program, speaking at women's conferences, and authoring several books, I would have quickly informed them that they had a serious case of mistaken identity.
My voice is too Southern, my confidence was too shattered, and my brain is wired for math and science. As a matter of fact, when God did begin opening doors for ministry, I reminded Him of all my shortcomings and why He had the wrong girl for the job. But as I began to take those first baby steps of obedience, He began to show me glimpses of His great plan.
Our dreams are always too small when compared to the magnificent dreams God has planned for His girls. While God has probably not called you to save an entire nation from destruction, He has called you to be a woman He can use. Missionary Amy Carmichael wrote, "Often his call is to follow in paths we would not have chosen."
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Whether God is calling you to be a catalyst for saving someone from physical death or being a catalyst for saving someone from spiritual separation from God, when you move forward in obedience, empowered by His strength, bolstered by His power, and confident in His provision, you will see Him accomplish great and mighty works through you.
How marvelous that He allows us to participate and be the hands and feet through which He works.
"For we are God's workmanship," Paul reminds us, "created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10). God created Esther for a purpose, just as He has created you and me for a purpose..."for such a time as this" (Esther 4:14 NIV).
Let's Pray
Lord, I am wide open to receive Your instruction. I know that You have created me with a purpose and a plan in mind. My greatest purpose is to glorify You in all that I do. Help me to pay attention when You send me on assignment, and help me not miss it. I know I was born for such a time as this.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take some time and read the first four chapters of the book of Esther this week. God's name isn't mentioned, but sleuth for His fingerprints all throughout the story.
If you are willing to be an Esther and believe that YOU were born for such a time as this, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'm ready to do whatever God has for me to do." And if you haven't done so, click "like" and join the fun!
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November 19, 2013
The Sandpaper People are Coming!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you" (Luke 6:27-28).
Friend to Friend
I sometimes think that the holiday season should somehow come with a warning label that reads, "The Sandpaper People are coming!" Holidays usher in many things – one of which is the opportunity to deal with the difficult people in our lives. The relative that irritated you last Thanksgiving may very well do the same exasperating things this year. The people waiting in line with you will most likely be impatient and grumpy, and the person checking you out will probably be exhausted and running on fumes. Now is the time to get ready to deal with your sandpaper people – the people who rub you the wrong way.
God created us with the capacity for strong emotions. Like any gift from God, our emotions can be used for good or they can be misused for bad. Sandpaper people not only have an uncanny knack for knowing where emotional buttons are located, they honestly think it is their purpose in life to push every single one of them. Our first reaction to the incessant and calculated button pushing of a sandpaper person is usually angry retaliation, a response that neither honors nor pleases God. God calls us to a peaceful resolution. When it comes to difficult relationships, God does not want or expect us to declare war. We are to control our emotions instead of allowing them to control us. The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 12:18, "As much as is possible, live peaceably with all men." In other words, we need to set our mind on peace – not winning.
God's wants us to wage peace in every relationship – including the roughest, most abrasive, anger producing sandpaper people who come our way. A formidable task, since every sandpaper person I have ever known comes complete with a set agenda that targets emotional eruptions and creates constant relationships upheavals. Have you noticed how sandpaper people seem to love drama and create it everywhere they go? They also love a good fight, live to evoke angry reactions and are fierce warriors who are determined to win every battle initiated by their downright irritating personalities.
I have learned an important maneuver for dealing with difficult people. Combat is impossible when one of the parties involved has laid down his or her weapons and chosen peace.
As I headed to the grocery store for my dreaded weekly shopping trip, I wrestled with my attitude. You have to understand that I absolutely hate grocery shopping, but on this particular morning, I vowed to choose joy, and turned my focus to the balmy Florida day before me. I had it all under control – until I pulled into the grocery store parking lot.
It seemed like every South Florida resident was in that parking lot frantically searching for a parking space – and they were not happy. After circling several times, I spotted an empty spot right by the entrance. God does answer prayer.
I made a beeline for "my" parking space. Just as I turned to pull in, an older lady boldly stepped into that prized space and with great ceremony, held up her left hand, signaling me to stop right where I was. With her right hand, this self-imposed traffic director began motioning to a man I assumed was her husband as he circled the parking lot in his very large car.
I suddenly realized that she was saving "my" spot for him. Of all the nerve! What incredible gall!
Parking spaces are a serious matter to me. Evidently, I was not the only one who felt that way. In the midst of my simmering, soon-to-explode anger, this still small voice reminded me that I had a choice to make. I really hated surrendering my anger to God, but the thought of apologizing to that woman for running over her with my car was more than my mind could conceive or my stomach could handle. I quickly decided that if she was willing to risk her life for a grocery store parking space, she deserved to have it.
Unfortunately, the driver behind me did not agree, and whipped her car into the prized space just in front of the man in his large car, barely missing the woman who was saving the space. I decided to watch the scene unfold – or explode. Crude gestures and loud, repulsive words filled the air. Some I understood. Some I had never heard and did not care to define. Threats were exchanged along with promises of retribution.
The whole experience was an ugly reminder that we live in a world filled with angry people who are constantly rubbing each other the wrong way. Sandpaper people. And while it is true that everyone gets angry from time to time, it is just as true that everyone can learn to effectively control and manage his or her anger.
When dealing with a sandpaper person, we must not allow ourselves to become the enemy. As you get ready for Thanksgiving Day, remember to prepare your heart as well to love the hard-to-love people that come your way.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so thankful that You love me – rough edges and all. Please help me to love others in the same way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Who are the difficult people in your life?
In what way(s) do they irritate you?
What can you do to avoid a difficult situation with the sandpaper people in your life?
Ask God to let you see those difficult people as He sees them – through eyes of love.
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I can almost hear you saying "What? I'm supposed to ask God to bless this person who is so hard to love?" Yes. Luke 6:28 tells us that we are to bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us. God always honors obedience.
If you are like me, you need a lot of help loving the sandpaper people in your life. That is why I wrote the book, Sandpaper People. It is filled with practical ways to love those difficult people and help you develop healthier relationships. Check it out in my online store. It is also available on CD and as MP3 download.
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November 20, 2013
Transforming a Painful Childhood into a Purposeful Adulthood
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to...bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair (Isaiah 61:1,3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Last Monday, my Girlfriends in God devotion was about Queen Esther. But I'm not quite ready to leave this little orphan girl turned beautiful powerful queen just yet. Reading her story gives me so much hope!While we don't know much about Esther's parents, we do know that she was an orphan who was raised by her cousin, Mordecai. As far as we can tell, she had no feminine influence in her life, and yet she grew to be a gracious lovely woman who won the favor of everyone she encountered.
Perhaps your childhood was less than ideal. Perhaps you had an alcoholic father, an absent father, an abusive mother, or an aloof mother. Perhaps you lived in poverty, grew up in an orphanage, a foster home, or with parents who felt you were a bother instead of a blessing. Even if you had a wonderful childhood, I bet you know someone who didn't.
Let me assure you of this, no matter what your childhood memories hold, God can and will use every bit of it for His purposes and for His glory...if we let Him. It doesn't matter how you started; what matters is how you finish.
Paul said, "This one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13-14). Paul had to put his past behind him to accomplish what God had called him to do in the present.
Likewise, when we put our painful pasts behind us and obey what God is calling us to do in the present. we will experience a fruitful, fulfilling, fascinating adulthood. He can take those miseries of the past and turn them into ministries in the present. He can take our messes in life and turn them into messages of hope. God took a frightened orphan girl and used her to accomplish a great mission. He did it for Queen Esther. He wants to do it for you.
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to be like Esther. Not that I want to be a queen, but that I want to be your servant for such a time as this. Help me to not dwell on what went wrong in my past, but to look forward to what You want me to do right in my present and my future. Choose me. Send me. Use me.
In Jesus's Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you read Esther 1–4 on Monday, I encourage you to read Esther 5–0 today.
It's a fun story for all of us girls! No wonder the Jews still celebrate her today.
I'd love to know your favorite part of Esther's story. Click over to my Facebook page and tell me your favorite part, and I'll tell you mine.
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(Sharon, you used the following paragraph in your "Big Dreams" blog, S848)
Looking to discover God's plan for your life? Then check out my book The 5 Dreams of Every Woman...and How God Longs to Fulfill Them. You'll read about Sarah who interferedwith God's dream, Naomi who forgot God dreams, and Esther who accomplished God's dreams. If you are ready to place your hand in God's and go to the exciting place He has for you, then this book is for you! Come on! Let's dream again!
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November 21, 2013
The Taste Berry
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I will give thanks to Your name for Your unfailing love and faithfulness, because Your promises are backed by all the honor of Your name (Psalm 138:2).
Friend to Friend
Alexander Whyte, the Scottish preacher, always began every prayer with praise. One brutally cold Sunday, his people filed into the church, wondering what the preacher could possibly find to praise God for on such a miserable day. Alexander Whyte stood, bowed his head and prayed, "O Lord, we thank Thee that it is not always like this."
Are there times when you don't feel like praising God? Honestly, our feelings are irrelevant when it comes to praising God. Praise is not about us. Praise is all about God. Praise is a deliberate choice and a learned habit that produces contentment and an attitude of gratitude.
In Philippians 4:11, the Apostle Paul writes, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances." In this verse, "learned" means to be "educated by experience" and the word "content" means, "contained." Paul's contentment was the result of the resources contained in his heart. In other words, Paul used his circumstances as tutors in the school of praise.
Paul learned how to give God praise even when he was beaten, ridiculed, in prison, and facing his own death. Paul's attitude did not reflect his circumstances. Paul made a deliberate choice to praise God – no matter what. Why? Because Paul knew that even when he did not understand God's process, he could trust God's heart.
Let's pretend for just a moment. Suppose I went to my local bank and tried to cash a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that when I presented that check to the teller, she would have burst out laughing. She knows what I have in my bank account. Now suppose Bill Gates walked into his bank and presented the teller with a personal check for a thousand dollars. I can assure you that the teller would not burst out laughing. In fact, she would promptly cash that check because she knows what Bill Gates has in his bank account.
When we come to Jesus Christ, all of His promises are credited to our spiritual account. And there is a money-back guarantee on every promise of God. That is why we can praise Him – no matter what.
Praise invites God to take up residence in the middle of whatever mess we are in.
Psalm 22:3 "But You are holy, Enthroned in the praises of Israel."
Praise produces trust in God and strengthens our faith.
Psalm 42:11 "But, O my soul, don't be discouraged. Don't be upset. Expect God to act! For I know that I shall again have plenty of reason to praise him for all that he will do. He is my help! He is my God!"
In Africa, there is a fruit called the "taste berry" that literally changes a person's taste buds so that everything tastes sweet and pleasant. Sour fruit, even if eaten several hours after the taste berry, becomes sweet and delicious.
Praise is the "taste berry" for every Christian. Praise is more than emotions or spoken words. Praise is more than singing songs or lifting up hands in worship. True praise is the celebration of God, His power, His works, and His greatness. Praise is the fruit of a committed heart and the tool of a life completely surrendered to God.
When we are discouraged, praise reminds us that there is hope in God.
When we are afraid, praise reminds us that no matter what happens, God is with us.
When we are lost, praise reminds us that God has already been where He is leading us.
When we are confused, praise reminds us that heaven is not in a panic.
Right now, girlfriend, lift up your head, and praise your God. He is with you and He is more than enough.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for Your love and Your mercy. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I praise You for sending Jesus to die in my place, to pay for my sins. I praise You for the family and friends You have given me. I praise You for this ministry of Girlfriends in God and for every woman who reads each word. Please bless them all and fill their hearts with Your presence and Your power as they praise You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Not it's Your Turn
Read the following verses of Scripture and fill in each blank.
I will praise God with ________________.
Psalm 34:1 "I will praise the Lord no matter what happens. I will constantly speak of His glories and grace."
I will praise God with ________________.
Ephesians 5:19 "Speak to one another with psalms."
I will praise God with _____________.
Psalm 69:30 "Then I will praise God with my singing!"
I will praise God with my ____________.
2 Corinthians 5:15 "He died for all so that all who live--having received eternal life from Him--might live no longer for themselves, to please themselves, but to spend their lives pleasing Christ who died and rose again for them."
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I wish I could reach through the computer screen and give you a hug, girlfriend! No matter what you are facing, God is with you - and so are we. You are not alone. I pray God will become more real to you as you praise Him. We would love to pray for you and with you. E-mail your prayer requests to our team of prayer warriors.
Need help facing the trials in your life? Check out Mary's Bible study, Strength for the Storm.
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November 22, 2013
Red Lipstick
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God (2 Corinthians 7:1).
Friend to Friend
When my three children were young, it was a challenge to keep track of where they were at all times. My husband and I baby proofed the house as best we could, used gates and did our best. I'll never forget the day that Preston and Kennedy were accounted for in the playroom, but Hunter had wandered off. I called for him, but got no response.
Curious, I headed for the front staircase and listened for his little two-year-old voice. I checked his bedroom – no Hunter. I checked Preston's room – no Hunter. I checked Kennedy's room – no Hunter. By now, my heart was racing and I was growing concerned. As I headed into my bedroom, I began to hear faint noises from the master bathroom. Our bathroom mirror gave me all the information that I needed... Hunter had gotten into my red lipstick.
It. Was. Everywhere!
I wanted to laugh. I wanted to cry! He was unaware of my presence as he continued his creative red-lipstick artwork on my walls and on the linen closet door. I quickly crossed the threshold of the bathroom door and confronted my little chubby-cheeked 'red lipstick-all-over-his-face' boy. He immediately hid his scandalous red tool behind his back...thinking I was none the wiser. I asked him what he was doing, to which he replied "Nothing." In my best trying-not-to-laugh mommy voice, I continued to ask him a series of questions and he continually denied any wrongdoing.
This makes me wonder; how many times have I gone before the Lord in prayer holding a tube of red lipstick behind my back. How many times have I – and do I – think I'm pulling one over on Him? Just as simply as I saw the tangible evidence of Hunter's red face, God sees our hearts and knows what we've been up to. He sees pride, anger, gossip and bitterness. He sees un-forgiveness, un-confessed sins, the habits we cling to, the shows we watch, the private texts and conversations that are happening and the books we read that don't honor Him. He sees our failures and lovingly longs for us to allow Him to clean up the mess we've made.
The Bible calls us to a higher level of living. A higher level of holiness: in Christ. "Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God." 2 Corinthians 7:1
A few years back, after praying about my constant need for restoration and forgiveness, I was inspired to write a song called "Restore." CLICK here for a moment of reflection as you listen to the song.
Before the messes and secrets in our lives can be cleaned up, our red lipsticks need to be tossed. What is your red lipstick today? We all have them. Are you ready to hand it over to God?
Let's Pray
Dear God, please forgive me for the things in my life that I've kept from You or tried to hide from You. You deserve better from me. Help me eliminate everything in my life and in my heart that "contaminates my body and spirit." I want my life to be a reflection of Your holiness.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider the red lipstick(s) that God may be calling you to toss aside. Seek Him in prayer and toss away! Ask God to strengthen your faith and to purify your heart, then swing by my blog or my Facebook page and say, "I tossed my lipsticks!"
Do you trust that God's plan for your life is better that your plan for your life?
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I have some exciting news to share with you! Many of you know that I don't just write devotions, I also write and sing songs. After many months of writing and recording, my new single has just been released! It is called "My Strength, My Song." Download it from iTunes, or click here to watch the lyric video on my YouTube page.
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November 25, 2013
When We Interfere with God's Plan
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord (Psalm 27:14 NIV).
Friend to Friend
There are some parts of the story of Abraham and Sarah that just leave me biting my nails. I mean, Sarah, what were you thinking? Telling your husband to sleep with your maid? Really?
God had an incredible plan for Abraham and Sarah. While His plan was still accomplished despite Sarah's scheming, her interference caused much heartache and strife. Many times we have a tendency to run ahead of God when we feel He is not acting quickly enough. We connive, cajole, coax, and conspire. We hamper, hinder, hassle and hurry.
Jeremiah 29:11 promises that God has a plan for each and every one of us. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." He does not need our interference to accomplish that plan. He does require our obedience and cooperation.
I asked my Facebook friends to tell about a time when they interfered with God's plan. Here's what a few had to say:
-I prayed that God would change my husband. I got tired of waiting, so I decided to take matters in my own hands and do it myself. I made a terrible mess of our marriage and the situation only got worse.
-I prayed for a husband, but got tired of waiting on God to bring him. I ended up dating a non-Christian, getting pregnant with twins, and ultimately left all alone to raise them by myself.
-When I was 24, I got pregnant and had an abortion. I didn't trust God with the situation and took matters in my own hands. Years of nightmares, anxiety, guilt, and fear followed. I finally allowed God to walk me through to full repentance and redemption. I knew Christ at the time of the abortion, but didn't believe He could help me get through the pregnancy. While I've dealt with the abortion physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and even share my testimony about God's forgiveness, I will never have the joy of raising that child.
-I lived with a man for 10 years. He partied all the time and didn't want to get married. I prayed that God would change him. Finally I prayed that God would change me and moved out. I cried out to God, "Why am I not enough for my boyfriend?" He answered, "Why am I not enough for you?" Wow! I can honestly say that life with God in control is amazing. His ways have been by far the most exciting and fulfilling time of my life. Listen to his nudges, friends, and most of all, wait for his green light.
-I pushed my husband to take a job that moved us thousands of miles away from family and friends. Everything that could go wrong did go wrong. I know I interfered with God's plan by not waiting on Him to guide us. We are still suffering the consequences.
God has given us a free will and allows us to storm ahead, but He also allows the consequences of our interference to affect our lives. Because of Sarah's interference, Hagar's son, Ishmael, was born. Muhammad, the founder of the Muslim people and Islamic faith, came from Ishmael's family tree. God predicted tension between the offspring of Ishmael and Isaac and we see that conflict raging even today with strife between the Muslims and Jews.
So here's my challenge to you today...let's not interfere with God's plan. Let's wait for Him to act and not take the reins if we feel He's not acting quickly enough. Deal? Deal.
Let's Pray
Oh Lord, forgive me for my impatience. Forgive me for running ahead of You. Forgive me for interfering in Your plans and messing things up. Today, I commit to wait on You. I will not run ahead of You. I will not come up with a plan that suits my wants, my desires, or my fancies. I'll wait on Your perfect plan to be enacted in Your perfect time.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In one of Sarah's not-so-finest hours, she blamed the mess THAT SHE CREATED on her husband. Check out Genesis 16:1-5.
Have you ever made a mess of things, and then blamed someone else.
Ouch. My toes are hurting.
You know what God's job is? He runs things. If you are willing to let God do His job today, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'm not going to interfere with God's job today." And if you haven't "liked" my page yet, be sure to click on that little thumbs up!
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I think one reason we jump in and try to "help" God do His job is because we don't really trust Him. Hard to admit that, isn't it? Would you like to join Gwen, Mary and me on a faith adventure to learn to trust Him more? Then check out our book, Trusting God. We even have free videos for you to use with each of the 12 chapters. You'll love it. More importantly, you'll love God more!
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November 26, 2013
Are You Ready for the Holidays?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told (Luke 2:16-20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed. According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle the holiday blues. I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds. In fact, I must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. It may be a chemical imbalance, or we may have buried some pain instead of confronting it. Perhaps we have misplaced our trust, and sought help from impotent sources. The facts that can trigger depression are many. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing – even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and homeowner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home.
"First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first – until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold but was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness, and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it. Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level – refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay. Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding, and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays - or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place. The darkness of the pit often pushes the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sinkhole waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy, and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. Before we realize it, the dark, slimy pit swallows us up. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend! Now is the time to do something about it!
Thanksgiving can be a time of praise if we choose to focus on the victories and joys we have experienced during the year, and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others.
Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings, if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life.
The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds. Right now, get ready for the holidays by choosing an attitude of joy, by focusing your mind on the things of heaven – not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take a few moments to re-visit the holiday season of 2012.
What was the best part of those holidays for you? Why?
List three changes you would like to make this year.
What is the first step you need to take to make those changes happen?
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary? How can meditating on the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made concerning this holiday season. Make a step-by-step plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan, and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
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Can you believe the holidays are already here – again? I have been on a diligent search this year – to discover the secrets of having the best and most Christ-centered holidays of my life. I am excited about my NEW MP3, How to Have a Joy-Filled Christmas, and believe it will help you learn how to prevent and control holiday stress, how to give God the gifts He wants to receive from us, and how to give ten wonderful gifts without spending a dime. Download it today!
Join women from across the world in Mary's Online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. If you enroll now, you will also have access to all of the 2013 studies. But hurry! This offer ends December 1. And be sure to connect with Maryon Facebook or through email.
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November 27, 2013
God's Gifts in Dark Times
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also graciously give us all things? (Romans 8:32, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I stood at Steven's bedroom door, watching this now 17-year-old son asleep in a tangle of sheets and limbs. He was six feet tall, needed a shave, and sported a mass of shaggy, thick brown hair. I thought about how much I loved this boy.
When Steven was born, we had no idea we would be raising him as an only child. Years of infertility struggles and the loss of our second child left us with a hollow echo of the heart that we feared would never be filled. And yet, when I looked at this sleeping man-child, love filled every nook and cranny of my heart till I thought it would burst. Still, there was always the wondering what life would have been like had more Jaynes children filled the rooms, scattered their toys, and left handprints on the walls.
"Lord," I prayed, "You know how much I love children and how I always longed to be a mom to a house full of children. I know Your ways are higher than our ways, and that You are my heavenly Father who knows what's best for me, but God, could You show me a purpose behind the pain of those difficult years of longing? You certainly don't owe me an explanation, but I'd love to have a bit of encouragement today. I'd love a nugget of gold."
Standing in the door frame, watching the rhythmic rise and fall of Steven's steady breathing, God's Word washed over me.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).
"Is that You, Lord?" I asked. "Is that my nugget of gold?"
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The words washed over me again like a spring rain on parched ground, and my breath caught. It was as if the Holy Spirit illuminated Steven like a lone actor on the stage. Steven...my one and only son. For the first time in my life I truly grasped the height, the depth and the breadth of those familiar words. Jesus...God's one and only Son.
Yes, I have a one and only son. I love many people in this world, but none enough to sacrifice my only son. And yet God loved me that much. He loved you that much. He loved us enough to sacrifice His one and only Son in order to make eternal life with Him possible.
All through those years of infertility and loss, Satan, the enemy, taunted me with words of doubt. God doesn't love you, he'd say. If He loved you, He'd give you what you asked for. He doesn't love you. You can't trust Him with your heart.
And yet, at that moment standing in Steven's door frame, I realized just how much God did love me. He had shone the light of His love on the enemy's lie and revealed the truth.
With tears spilling down my cheeks, I thanked God for helping me understand His great love—for giving me a living, breathing daily reminder of that love every time I looked at my boy. If that was the only purpose behind the years of infertility and loss of a child, then that was enough.
The Bible says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28). What does God really mean by "all things"? Most likely He means all things—the good, the bad and the ugly. In every dark circumstance of life, I believe that there is a nugget of gold or a hidden treasure just waiting to be discovered. However, for that to happen, we must look beyond the dirt, push it aside, and search beneath the surface.
Is it easy? No. Is it messy? Usually. Is it worth it? Always.
Has there been a trial or loss in your life? If so, I wonder if God has a valuable treasure hidden beneath the surface of the pain, just waiting to be discovered. Do you trust Him enough to push the dirt aside and see?
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me so much that You gave Your only Son so that I could receive eternal life the moment I believed in Him.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
You know, it brings tears to my eyes every time I think of that day standing in Steven's door frame. How about you? Was there a particular time when you knew that you knew just how much God loves you?
Perhaps it came on the heels of a difficult situation? Perhaps it came during a time of joy? Think about that today. Praise God for that today. Remember.
I'd love to hear about your glory moment. In one sentence, join me on www.facebook.com and share it with your GiGs. Here's how we'll start...One day I was reminded of God's love for me when...
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Today's devotion was taken from our GiGs book, Trusting God. To download a free excerpt, watch a video, or order, you can visit www.sharonjaynes.com or www.girlfriendsinGod.com.
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November 28, 2013
God is Jealous for Me
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame (Song of Songs 8:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shakespeare described jealousy as a "green-eyed monster." Mark Twain called it the "trademark of small minds." I once heard it described as "the gangrene of the soul." Not a lovely picture, is it? In fact, in human terms, jealousy is usually thought of as a negative trait we need to carefully guard against. However, when it comes to God, jealousy takes on a whole new meaning.
God is a jealous God. The root idea in the Old Testament word jealous is to become intensely red and refers to the way our face can change color with rising emotion when something or someone very dear to us is threatened. Been there? I have! In fact, both the Old and New Testament words for jealousy are also translated "zeal." In other words, being jealous and being zealous is basically the same thing in the Bible. God is zealous – eager about protecting what is precious to Him. It's the kind of jealousy that compels God to pursue each one of us relentlessly, no matter how we try to evade Him with our indifferent attitude or our propensity for sin. The jealousy of God is comparable to the jealous passion of a parent for their child. As a mother, I know what that kind of love is like.
When our son was only six weeks old, he developed a potentially serious medical condition. When the doctor told us to immediately bring Jered to the hospital for tests, I panicked. Dan rushed home from work, and we raced to the hospital where we were met by caring nurses and our wonderful pediatrician. After an extensive exam, the doctor said, "Okay. Let's get an IV in this little man and get him upstairs for X-rays." Seeing the look on my face, Dr. Schultz wrapped his arm around my shoulders and said, "He is going to be fine. We will take good care of him." Words of comfort, but they were not nearly enough to assuage my anguish as I pictured needles being thrust into my precious baby. And he couldn't eat in case they had to do surgery! Jered was all about eating. After his regular feeding time came and went, he screamed for food until he was hoarse. I cried along with him because I knew he was hungry, but I couldn't feed him or make him understand why I couldn't feed him.
The nurses were obviously accustomed to dealing with almost hysterical mothers like me and reassured me repeatedly that everything was going to be fine. I wanted proof! This was not just any baby they were dealing with. Jered was my baby! I fully expected the claws to pop out of the ends of my fingers at any moment because, for the first time in my life, I understood what a mama bear must feel like when her cub is threatened.
The nurse who was assigned to insert Jered's IV was wonderful. I held him tightly as she expertly and gently inserted the needle, and quickly secured it with surgical tape. She then took a Styrofoam cup, cut it in half, and taped it over the needle so Jered couldn't accidently kick it out. And let me tell you, he was indeed kicking at this point!
The nurse then left the room so I could rock my baby and try to calm him down. Just as he drifted off to sleep, the door slammed open as an X-ray technician wheeled a gurney into the room and sharply ordered, "Let's go!" He had no idea who he was dealing with. My husband did and quickly took charge, escorting the technician into the hallway and said, "We will carry him up to the X-ray floor and will be glad to follow you, but we will not need that gurney until we get there." The technician started to argue, but evidently reconsidered when his eyes found mine and he caught my death glare. "Fine," he said and grabbed the IV pole, and told us to follow him.
When we reached the X-ray unit, Dan gently pried Jered out of my arms, and laid him on the gurney. The technician said, "We are really backed up today so let's make this quick!" He then jerked the gurney and the IV pole in opposite directions, yanking out the carefully inserted and securely taped IV. Blood spurted out of my son's leg, and he began to scream.
I don't exactly remember what happened next, but Dan does. He said I scooped Jered up in my arms, stomped my foot so loudly that nurses came running as I growled at the offending young man. I guess the technician had reached his patience limit, too, because he glared back at me and said, "Lady, do you need to leave this unit?" Dan said he quickly began calculating how he was going to raise my bail money when, out of the corner of his eye, he saw me approach the doomed technician, plant my finger in his chest and whisper through clenched teeth, "Listen carefully to me, young man. I know you have a job to do, but you need to understand something right now! This is my baby! I am not going anywhere! And you need to watch how you treat him!" The young man quickly apologized ... as did I ... sort of ... but I meant every word I had spoken to him. Fortunately, Jered did not have to have surgery. He downed two full bottles in record time, and I let the technician live. Thankfully, we headed home instead of to jail. I was and still am a jealous parent who is passionate and zealous about her children.
Don't doubt for a minute that God is jealous for you, Girlfriend. He is standing right beside you, wrapping His arms of love around your wounded heart. Listen closely as He declares that you are His child. You belong to Him, and He is not going anywhere!
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for loving me like no one has ever loved me. I cannot comprehend that kind of love, but I know it is real because it has changed me. Thank You for Your faithfulness and provision in my life. I praise You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time today to spend with God. Read and meditate on the promise of John 3:16:
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Record this verse in your journal.
Circle the action words. What do they mean to you personally?
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The love of God is like no other love. Mary's MP3 download, Love That Never Fails, is a powerful message that will help you understand and celebrate the amazing love of God. Check it out.
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November 29, 2013
Unsearchable Greatness
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I will extol You, my God, O King, and I will bless Your name forever and ever. Every day I will bless You, and I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable (Psalm 145:1-3, NASB).
Friend to Friend
I fell in love with my husband half-my-life ago, yet with twenty years of marriage under my belt, there are still moments that I shake my head and wonder, "who is that man?" And while I may not have every mystery about him solved, I DO know my husband. I know his voice, his touch, and his quirks. I'm can bear witness to his character, his personality, and his ways.
The same is true about my relationship with God. Over the years, I have gotten to know God intimately. I talk with Him regularly in prayer. I have learned to hear His voice, to recognize His touch, and to understand many basic truths of who He is.
There are so many revelations of God in His Word. The Bible boasts of His greatness, glory, honor, and character. We know that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8), that God's grace is sufficient for every repentant heart, and that His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We know that His name is above all other names (Philippians 2:9), that there is no other like Him (Jeremiah 10:6), and that His wisdom holds secrets that are hidden from before time began (I Corinthians 2:7). And for as much as we know and know about the LORD, our knowledge of Him is but a fraction of a grain of sand as held up to all the beaches on earth.
He is the mysterious master Creator who hung each star in the sky and calls them by name, yet He wants us to love Him, to trust Him, to know Him, and to worship Him. That thought alone blows my mind and sets it to wonder! God invites us to participate with Him in a vibrant dance of abundant life through His Son, Jesus Christ. Our amazing Heavenly Father bids each and every one of us to come to Him with questions, to be held by His love, to find peace, hope, and healing in His Son. He wants us to seek Him through prayer and to experience new revelations of Him through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
The voices of all of creation shout His praise! I encourage you to pause in this moment to consider Him... to respond to Him... to meditate on His glorious splendor. As you do, He will increasingly become the all-satisfying desire of your heart. Even more than that, as you worship He will stir up a hunger in your soul to know Him even more.
Let's say with the psalmist, "I will extol You, my God, O King, and I will bless Your name forever and ever. Every day I will bless You, and I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and highly to be praised, and His greatness is unsearchable." (Psalm 145:1-3, NASB)
Surely our God is clothed in majestic, unsearchable greatness! Amen?
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Your greatness truly is unsearchable! I pray that you will continue to stir up a hunger in my soul to know all the mystery of You that remains. Please cause me to think bigger thoughts of You, and to acknowledge You in all my ways.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Jeremiah 33:3. "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." What does this verse mean to you? What does this verse tell you about the rewards of calling on our Lord? Thank Him for hearing your prayers and for healing your pains. Be lost in the wonder of Him.
This devotion was inspired by a worship song that I co-wrote called, UNSEARCHABLE. Take a moment to read through the lyric below – then CLICK here to listen to the song.
UNSEARCHABLE
By Sue Smith and Gwen Smith
Lord, I know that your grace is sufficient for me
I know I am held by your love
And You're there when I call
You are strong when I'm weak
You delight over me from above
And You stir up a hunger that I can't explain
To know all the mystery of You that remains
Unsearchable greatness
Unsearchable wisdom
Unsearchable mercy to me
I am lost in the wonder of all that I know
Knowing there's much more to see
Cause you are unsearchable
You are unsearchable
Lord, I boast in Your glory that humbles the stars
Your name has such power and might
And Your goodness and kindness
Have captured my heart
Your Word keeps giving me life
And you stir up a hunger that I can't explain
to know all the mystery of You that remains...
Hear the voice of all creation crying out
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I have posted the song on both my blog and my Facebook page. Come by to hear "Unsearchable" and let me know how today's devotion is resonating with your heart.
I have some exciting news to share with you! Many of you know that I don't just write devotions, I also write and sing songs. After many months of writing and recording, my new songs have just been released! The project is called "My Strength, My Song." Download it from iTunes, or click here to watch the lyric videos on my YouTube page.
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December 2, 2013
Don't Miss Your Divine Appointment
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd (Mark 6:34, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus was a very busy man. And yet, He was never too busy to offer a kind word to the men and women who crossed His path on a daily basis.
He stopped and spoke to the diminutive Zacchaeus who was perched in a tree to get a better look at the parade of followers.
He took a break from His travels to engage in one of His longest recorded conversations with a weary woman who was at a well.
He interrupted His schedule to comfort a mother who was in the funeral procession of her only son.
He took time to deliver a demon-possessed man who stood in His way on the shore.
He noticed a lame man by the pool of Bethesda who waited for the healing waters to stir.
He comforted His crying mother as she stood at the foot of the cross.
He instructed the frustrated fishermen as He stood watching from the shore.
Jesus noticed...and then He offered words and deeds of comfort and concern.
It appears that each of these incidents in Jesus' life was an interruption in His packed schedule, but they were not interruptions at all. Each encounter was a divine appointment from His heavenly Father who controlled the moments of Jesus' days.
Could it be that God is sending you out on a special assignment each time you cross the threshold of your home? I wonder who will God put in your path today?
As we go throughout our busy days this holiday season, we are continually met with opportunities to impact others with the words we speak. The man in front of us in line at the grocery store, the woman at the checkout counter, the waiter in the restaurant, the fellow passenger on the airplane, or the neighbor across the street might be your special assignment for the day.
If you'll join me by being on the lookout for our special assignment from God today, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'm on the lookout."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, open my eyes to see people who need a word of encouragement, a word of acknowledgement, or a word of thanks. Help me to slow down enough to see the needs standing right in front of me. Thank you for giving Jesus as our example of how to care for a hurting world.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a time when someone, perhaps even a stranger, said a kind word that brightened your day?
Make it a point today to encourage five people that you do not know. Perhaps it will be in the workplace, the grocery store, or the bank. Make your errands a ministry opportunity.
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Words are one of the most powerful gifts that God has given us. He didn't entrust them to zebras, cows, or cats. He gave words to man! Wow! What a responsibility. To learn more about how to tame your tongue and speak words of life to those around you, check out my book The Power of a Woman's Words. It also has an accompanying study guide and DVD. It's a perfect study for your women's Bible study group.
And if you need a little help keeping Jesus the focus of the holiday season, check out my book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas: Ideas from A-Z.And what better gift to give than the gift of prayer. My newest book, Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayeris now available. Click on the title to watch a video or read a sample chapter.
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December 3, 2013
Gifts That Matter
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you (Luke 6:38, NLT).
Friend to Friend
The world would like us to believe that the success of Christmas depends upon how much we spend, how many presents we give, or how many presents we receive. Yes, Christmas is about giving, but price tags do not determine the success of our giving. Giving is not dependent on the condition of our checkbooks. Giving is dependent on the condition of our hearts. I am so glad! Like many of you, 2013 has been a year filled with unexpected expenses. We are going to have to be creative gift-givers this year ... and that is not a bad thing. We can find creative ways to give gifts from the heart, meaningful gifts that cost very little. Let me share some ideas with you.
A homemade gift
Giving a homemade gift represents time, thought, and is a part of you. When our children were small, one of our favorite Christmas traditions was to create and deliver a homemade hot chocolate mix in decorated mason jars to our neighbors. We placed the jars just to the left of each neighbor's front door, rang their doorbell and ran like crazy! I am not certain who enjoyed it the most ... our neighbors or us. (By the way, the recipe posted on my website if you want to carry on this tradition.)
A possession gift
Giving something we already own can be a wonderful Christmas gift if it is something of special value to us. In other words, it is not the idea of getting rid of junk, but of sharing our treasure. Don't ask the question, "What can I buy for Sally?" Instead, ask, "What do I have that would mean a lot to Sally?" My husband is a pastor. During a message, Dan mentioned that he collects old Bibles. The next Christmas, one of our church members gave him a family Bible that had been passed down through several generations of family members. It was and still is one of Dan's most prized possessions.
A gift of time
Time is a valuable gift. When we give someone 30 minutes of our time, we are giving them 30 minutes of our lives. While Dan was in seminary, we rarely had a spare minute or extra dollar between school, jobs and babies. A close friend who knew our schedule gave us a precious gift of time. "I have no money but wanted to give you a gift for Christmas," he said, handing us a card. Inside was a coupon for free childcare one afternoon each week for the spring semester. That was over twenty-five years ago, and I still remember that wonderful gift of time.
A gift of prayer
The greatest gift we can give someone is the commitment to pray. Following our traditional Christmas Eve service, an elderly lady approached Dan and said, "I don't have anything to give you, Pastor. But I want you to know that I will pray for you, Mary and the kids every morning this year at 6:00 a.m." And she did! What a priceless gift! Every time she saw us, this sweet lady asked what we needed and how she should pray. Only Heaven knows all that God accomplished in our lives through the prayers of this godly woman.
A gift of encouragement
We assume that the people in our lives know how much they mean to us. They rarely do. This Christmas, write a letter to someone you love and appreciate, telling them how important they are to you. Be specific. A written note or letter requires time, careful thought, and allows that person to read your words of encouragement again and again. One of my most prized possessions is a blue wooden box our son built and gave me one year for Christmas. In that box, I store notes, letters and cards of affirmation so on my "blue" days, I can pull out a dose of encouragement.
In my next devotion, I will share with you six more gifts from the heart. I pray this holiday season will lead us once again to the manger, where we will worship the Christ child and experience a Christmas holiday filled with love, peace and joy.
Let's Pray
Father, teach us to celebrate Your birth in the way we give to others. Lord, I don't want to get caught up in buying gifts that make me feel good. I want to give gifts that honor God, encourage others and point them to the real reason for this season – Jesus. Be glorified in every gift I give this year.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Luke 6:38 that says, "If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you.
What does this verse tell you about how important it is to give?
What does this verse say about the importance of the attitude behind the gift?
What does God promise to do in our lives when we give generously?
More from the Girlfriends
No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you!
Looking for a Bible Study to start the New Year? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue, beginning January 20, 2014. Enroll before December 15 and have access to all 2013 lessons.
Do you want to revolutionize your prayer life? Check out Chair Time, a new E-Book written by Mary's husband, Dan. It not only will teach you how to hear from God – it will change your life! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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December 4, 2013
Long Walk Part of Gift
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, 'Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him' (Matthew 2:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
An African boy listened carefully as his teacher explained why Christians give presents to each other on Christmas day.
"The gift is an expression of our joy over the birth of Jesus and our friendship for each other," she said.
When Christmas day came, the boy brought to the teacher a seashell of lustrous beauty.
"Where did you ever find such a beautiful shell?" the teacher asked as she gently fingered the gift.
The youth told her that there was only one spot where such extraordinary shells could be found. When he named the place, a certain bay several miles away, the teacher was left speechless.
"Why...why, it's gorgeous...wonderful, but you shouldn't have gone all that way to get a gift for me."
His eyes brightening, the boy answered, "Long walk part of gift."
I just love that story. During this holiday season, I watch as people scurry about swiping those plastic cards through the credit card machines faster than a speeding bullet. And yet, God has already shown us that the most precious gifts cannot be bought or sold.
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 niv).
The magi also knew about the joy of giving. While they gave gold, frankincense, and myrrh to the Christ Child, they also gave another gift...a long walk. We don't know how far the magi traveled, but we do know that it was a distance that took months, perhaps years. Their long walk was part of the gift.
I wonder how far we are willing to go to worship Jesus...to bring our gifts to Him. I wonder how far out of the way we would go to praise Him...to honor Him. Do we give to Him only when it is convenient or easy? Or do we give what He wants most—our very lives.
I think the little African boy had the right idea. The real gift wasn't the shell; it was the sacrifice he had to make to give it.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for the gift You gave us through Your Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that I will keep gift giving in perspective this holiday season and give gifts from the heart rather than the pocketbook. Help me to see that a "long walk," or a portion of myself, is the greatest gift of all.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's your turn
Describe a time when someone's sacrificial gift meant a lot to you.
Describe the feeling you had when you gave a portion of yourself, such as your time, to someone?
Try to imagine the teacher who received the shell. What thoughts do you think came to her mind when she looked at it year after year? Do you think it was the shell itself, or the heart of the boy who gave it to her, that meant so much?
Now, imagine how God looks at our gifts we give to Him? Do you think He reflects on the gifts themselves or the heart of the child who gives it?
More from the Girlfriends:
It is easy to get caught up in the pre-Christmas swirl of activity and lose focus on what's important. If you would like ways to keep Jesus the focus of your holiday season, you'll love my book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas: Ideas from A-Z. It's packed with helpful ideas and inspiration. Also, I'm giving out lots of helpful and inspirational ideas over at my blog page, www.sharonjaynes.com. Come on by for a visit!
And what better to give your hubby that the gift of prayer. My book Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer is now available. Click on the title to watch a video or read a sample chapter.
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December 5, 2013
Gifts That Matter
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving—large or small—it will be used to measure what is given back to you (Luke 6:38, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Have you discovered the truth that we simply cannot "out-give" God? The more we give, the more we receive. And that truth does not just apply to financial giving. It is really all about the attitude behind the gift. Do you remember the Christmas gifts you received last year? How about the Christmas gifts you gave? What about the gift you gave Jesus? In my last devotions, we talked about several meaningful gifts you can give. Here are a few more for you to consider.
A gift of care
Christmas is a painful time of empty hopes and fierce loneliness for many people. Every loss is magnified. Every wound is deepened. Pray that the Father will give you His eyes to see the broken lambs, crying out for help. This year, do something real for someone who is hurting:
· Invite them over for a meal.
· Meet one need in their life.
· Include them in your family celebration.
· Take them shopping with you.
Christmas is always hard for me because it is a time when I especially miss my mother who died many years ago. I don't openly broadcast that fact, but one Christmas, a precious older lady at our church somehow sensed that I was struggling and decided to meet a need in my life. Cards filled my mailbox. Every time I saw her, Miss Marion would hug me and tell me how much she loved me. She invited our children over to bake Christmas cookies and in doing so, became their adopted grandmother. Miss Marion died a few years ago, but her loving care and investment in my life lives on.
A secret gift
Give a gift to someone you know in secret. Dan and I had been married for three years when we first discovered the joy that a "secret gift" can bring. Dan was in seminary, I was teaching elementary school, and we were both serving at a local church. It seemed as if we were always running, always tired, and always broke. At one point, the financial picture was especially bleak. We had ten days of life to go before the next payday - and not a cent to our name. We told no one but God -- and waited. One Sunday night, we pulled up to the mobile home where we were living. In front of the door to our home was a small but heavy package wrapped in brown paper. It was a brick. Taped to each side of the brick was a hundred dollar bill. God had provided for our needs through a truly generous heart, someone who had chosen to give a secret gift. To this day, we still have no idea who "bricked" us, but we often think of them and ask God to bless them for their secret gift.
A gift of forgiveness
The Christmas holidays have a way of resurrecting past hurts. The greatest gift we can give ourselves for Christmas is the gift of forgiveness, because in choosing to forgive someone else, we set ourselves free. Every 60 seconds of anger displaces 60 seconds of joy. Let go of the hurts. Forgive the wrongs and find healing.
Dan sold one of our old cars to a man who worked in the church maintenance department. A payment plan was created, the title was transferred, and the man drove away, never to pay a cent. For months, I was furious, thinking of the man who had stolen our car. To make matters worse, the man then left the church to work at the grocery store -- my grocery store. Every time I bought groceries, he was there and he was smiling. Just the sight of him drove my blood pressure higher as my stomach knotted up with anger. Dan finally decided to give him the car. I decided not to give him the car until I realized that I was the only person being hurt in the deal. The next time I bought groceries, I walked up to the man and said, "I hope you like the car. Dan and I have decided to just give it to you as a gift." I walked away, a free woman, while he stood, open-mouthed and in shock, now holding his own guilt in his hands.
A gift of teaching
What skill, ability or talent has God given you? Each one is from His hand - to be given away in service to others. Is there a young believer in your life you can mentor? What better time to share your gifts and abilities than at Christmas? You may be able to sew or play the piano, cook gourmet meals or beautifully decorate your home. Each talent and ability is a potential gift. In high school, my choral director gave me a free voice lesson each week. Consequently, I attended college on an academic and music scholarship because one woman chose to share her gift with me.
Get creative! Give a gift from the heart this year. And may this be a Christmas filled with the joy of the Lord as you celebrate His birth and life.
Let's Pray
May God grant you the light in Christmas which is faith; the warmth of Christmas, which is love; the radiance of Christmas, which is purity; the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice; the belief in Christmas, which is truth and the all of Christmas, which is Christ.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Grab your Christmas list and set aside some time to pray for each person on that list this week. Do you need to rethink some of the gifts you are giving this year? It is not too late! Ask God how you can best honor His birth by the gifts you give to others.
More from the Girlfriends
No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you, girlfriend.
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December 6, 2013
A Love That Breathes, Bridges, and Brings Beauty
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. (Luke 2:19, NIV)
Friend to Friend
The story of Christmas is familiar. Many of us can recite verses and sing choruses that recap the holy day without so much as a second thought. It is said that familiarity breeds contempt – so I wonder. I wonder and I search my heart.
When I sit and search, long enough to listen to God's still small voice, I grapple with the familiar and I groan for the fresh... and I wonder. Have I shopped, cleaned and baked away the season without being consumed by a fresh and compelling awe of my Savior? Have I decorated my home, but failed to focus my heart that is overflowing with arrogant, commercialized earthly distractions?
The story of Christmas – the story of the birth of Jesus – is the story of life, of hope, of freedom. The beautiful and mysterious intersection of humanity's depravity and Divinity's provision. A complex invasion of darkness by light. By love. By a love that breathes and bridges and brings beauty.
A LOVE THAT BREATHES
In the beginning, Love breathed life into the made-from-dust lungs of Adam. Life-giving love. The perfect and complete love of a holy, triune, eternal God who spoke words and created new galaxies – new wonders – new worshipers. All was made so that He might be glorified. We, however, made in His image, are different from all other creation in that we are made to know Him. Personally. To know Love. True, pure, white-as-snow love.
Then, stains of rebellion brought separation. Rebellion of God's plan – of His spoken word, of His will. Our wants and desires rose to rule – our own wills were done instead of God's: in the Garden... in my life... in yours.
Rebellion demands death (Romans 3:23); an eternal chasm separating man from God. Dark. Painful. Full of sting.
But God.
His love pursues with purifying power. This Love that came from heaven to earth, purposed to speak life to death through the incarnate Grace that was wrapped in swaddling clothes in a humble manger – in spite of our rebellion.
A LOVE THAT BRIDGES
This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 1 John 4:9-10
We love because he first loved us. 1 John 4:19
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God's one and only Son. John 3:16-18
A LOVE THAT BRINGS BEAUTY
Jesus came upon the no-vacancy scene in Bethlehem to annihilate death – so that we, who are hopeless without Him, could experience love, forgiveness and freedom. Full life. Abundant life. Beauty-from-ashes life.
Childhood gave way to manhood, and at the age of thirty, Jesus Christ made his love mission known.
Jesus returned to Galilee in the power of the Spirit, and news about him spread through the whole countryside. He was teaching in their synagogues, and everyone praised him. He went to Nazareth, where he had been brought up, and on the Sabbath day he went into the synagogue, as was his custom. He stood up to read, and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:
"The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind,
to set the oppressed free,to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor."
Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. He began by saying to them, "Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing." Luke 4:14-21
The story of Christmas is the story of Jesus. The story of captives being set free, of the blind gaining sight and of our stains of rebellion being washed white in his blood. The story of Christmas is the story of life.
Today, as we move and meander in the mundane, I pray that you would join me in being gripped by a fresh and compelling awe for this perfect Love that breathes, bridges and brings beauty to our brokenness.
Let's Pray
Holy LORD, incarnate Grace, You are beyond amazing! My heart is overwhelmed with gratitude for Your love. Help me to live in responsive awareness of Your grace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
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December 9, 2013
The Women of Christmas
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Surely the arm of the Lord is not to short to save, nor his ear to dull to hear" (Isaiah 59:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When the writers of the Old Testament penned the words to the long lists of lineages, the so-and-so begat so-and-so's, they usually listened men's names. It was very uncommon to see a woman's name, even though there were a few.
But when we turn the page from the Old Testament to the New Testament, we see God honoring women in a brand-new way. Even in the lineage of Jesus recorded in Matthew chapter one we see four women in addition to Mary in the list! For that time in history, that was quite radical!
Now, if you were going to be part of this liberating radical movement to recognize women in the Holy Scriptures, whom would you pick? I'd probably include Mrs. Noah. She had to be a very patient, submissive wife to be able to put up with all those animals and Noah's wild ideas.
Or perhaps I'd pick Mrs. Moses. Zipporah must have been a very godly woman to allow her husband to travel about in the desert for all those years. And besides, any woman who has a husband in leadership knows the sacrifices she must have made.
Or perhaps I'd pick Sarah. After all, she did bear a child when she was ninety.
But no. Those are not the women God chose to be listed in the lineage of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
He chose Rahab, who had been a prostitute before she was embraced into the Israelites' fold.
He chose Tamar, who had an incestuous relationship with her father-in-law.
He chose Bathsheba, who had an adulterous affair with King David.
And He chose Ruth, who was a woman from a cursed nation.
Oh friend, do you see it? I am so glad that these are the women God chose to be listed in the genealogy of Jesus. Through these women we see that there is no place so far from God that He cannot save us, redeem us, and ultimately use us for His glory.
His arm is not too short to save us from the deepest pit imaginable. That was true for those four women, and it is true for you and me. That, dear one, is the story of Christmas.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Redeemer, I am so thankful that You choose the weak things of the world to shame the wise. I am one of those "weak things" and I am constantly amazed that You chose me and use me for Your glory. Praise You, Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Over the next few days, go back and read the stories of the women listed in Jesus' genealogy and see what you can learn about their lives.
Rahab: Joshua 2
Tamar: Genesis 38:1-30
Bathsheba: 2 Samuel 11
Ruth: The entire book.
What do their stories tell you about the people that God can use for His glory?
More from the Girlfriends
This is not your typical fluffy Christmas message—but it is why Jesus came: to save the lost, heal the sick, and use the redeemed. If you would like to learn more about God's transforming power, check out my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Pain of your Past. And for more ways to keep Jesus the focus of the holiday season, see my book, Celebrating a Christ Centered Christmas: Ideas from A- And just in time to start the New Year off right, my book Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer is now available. Click on the title to watch a video or read a sample chapter.
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December 10, 2013
Ho! Ho! Ho! Help!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen Him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen which were just as they had been told (Luke 2:16-20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Are you ready for the holidays? For some people, that question spurs exciting thoughts of beautifully decorated tables filled with scrumptious meals, festive shopping trips, extended family time, brightly wrapped gifts under a tree ... the "Walton" kind of holiday. For others, the holiday season is a very difficult and dark time that is to be endured rather than enjoyed.
According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. During the holiday season, another one million people battle what experts refer to as the "holiday blues." I am very familiar with depression and the pain it holds and must constantly battle to stay out of that pit.
Depression is an emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disorder. Something is out of balance. We have buried some pain instead of confronting it or we have misplaced our trust and sought help from impotent sources. In order to deal with depression, we must first come to a place of total and complete surrender to God and His plan of healing, even if we cannot see or do not understand that plan. The bottom line of God's heart toward His children is always restoration and healing.
While I am not a big fan of television, I do enjoy watching a few select home improvement shows. On a recent program, an interior decorator and homeowner were discussing a list of changes that needed to be made in order to update the home. "First, we have to do something about those windows," the decorator announced. I was surprised that she had listed this task first – until I saw the house. The existing glass was not only an ugly shade of gold, but it was thick and chunky as well. The windows let in no light and made it virtually impossible to see in or out. The result was a dark, isolated home. The distressed homeowner protested, "But I like my privacy. And if I thought anyone could see in, I would feel totally exposed." When it comes to dealing with depression, many people feel the same way.
We construct walls over which no one can climb because the cost of friendship is too high. We fill the windows of our soul with emotional excuses in order to avoid dealing with pain. The result is darkness, loneliness and missed opportunities for restoration. We don't want to understand depression or find the treasures of that darkness; we simply want to be rid of it.
Many people try to understand and deal with depression on a surface level – refusing to face painful experiences, difficult relationships and, in general, the broken places where darkness lives. We look for the nearest exit, hoping to bypass transparency because the price is just too much to pay.
Emotional integrity is an essential step to recognizing, understanding and dealing with depression. We must be real before we can be right, and until we are willing to risk being transparent, we can neither understand nor effectively deal with depression during the holidays or any other time of the year.
The holidays seem to tug at the masks we carefully hold in place or push the emotional buttons we desperately try to hide. The arrival of certain family members can resurrect painful issues that have never really been resolved. Financial pressure opens up like a sinkhole, waiting to steal our joy and destroy our peace. Schedules demand every ounce of energy, and false expectations leave us empty and hollow. The dark, slimy pit waits for us to fall in. It is not supposed to be that way, girlfriend!
Make this Christmas season a time of praise. Choose to focus on the victories and joys you have experienced during the year, and then find ways to share that victory and joy with others. Christmas can be a true celebration of fresh starts and new beginnings if we choose to focus on a tiny baby born in a manger, come to save us and give us true life. The darkness can be destroyed if we choose to face and deal with whatever it holds.
Right now, choose an attitude of joy by focusing your mind on the things of heaven – not earth, and by fixing your heart on Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, I want this holiday season to one that is filled with light instead of darkness. Please help me discard my emotional masks and be real before You as well as with my family and friends. Give me the courage to be obedient to You in every holiday setting. Give me eyes to see those You bring into my life that need my encouragement because they are on the same journey. Father, prepare and enable me to make this holiday season an offering of praise to You.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 2:1-16. Answer the following questions after reading the Christmas story.
What was the attitude of Mary and Joseph as they traveled to Bethlehem?
How did the shepherds react to the news of Jesus' birth? What did they do?
How would you describe the emotions and thoughts of Mary?
How can your choice to "ponder" the miracles of Jesus' birth change your perspective of the holidays?
Write a letter of commitment to Jesus, asking Him to empower the choices you have made. Make a plan or a list of "dos" and "don'ts" that will help you experience the best holiday season of your life. Include your family in making this plan, and make the commitment to hold each other accountable.
More from the Girlfriends
Take a few moments to re-visit last year's holiday season. What was the best part of those holidays for you? What changes do you need to make this year so that the way you celebrate Christmas honors God?
Looking for a Bible Study to start the New Year? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue, beginning January 20, 2014. Enroll before December 15 and have access to all 2013 lessons.
Do you want to revolutionize your prayer life? Check out Chair Time, a new E-Book written by Mary's husband, Dan. It not only will teach you how to hear from God – it will change your life! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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December 11, 2013
Blessed is She Who...
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
'I am the Lord's servant,' Mary answered. 'May it be to me as you have said' (Luke 1:38, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Sometimes it is easy to read the Bible and forget that the women in the stories are just like you and me. Of course, they lived during a different time in history, practiced different customs, and ate different foods. But they had the same heart struggles, same soul longings, and same emotional ups and downs as you and me.
Today, I want you to use your imagination just a bit. Sit back and let me tell you a story. A story about a young girl named Mary, and the amazing news she received. Let's join her on her way to Bethlehem...
Traveling down the dusty road to Bethlehem on the lumpy corrugated backbone of a donkey was hard enough. But being jostled along nine months pregnant was an arduous task accompanied by troublesome shoots of pain. The two blankets Joseph had placed over the hairy beast did little to cushion the jarring rough ride for his young bride and mother-to-be.
"How are you faring," a concerned Joseph asked.
"I just hope this baby is more comfortable than I am," Mary breathed. "I don't think he's going to wait much longer to make his grand debut."
Mary's eyes smiled as she thought about the child nestled in her womb. Who would have ever thought the Savior of the World would spend his last few moments before entering the world riding on the back of a donkey? Who would have ever thought the Messiah would be born to such as me?
Mary's thoughts went back to the day the angel Gabriel appeared to her and announced God's redemptive plan.
"Mary," her mother called. "Are you finished with kneading? Don't forget to milk the goat. And then there's the spindle with the robe half finished. It's seems our work is never done!"
At fifteen, Mary had a full schedule of daily activities simply keeping the home running smoothly. But soon enough, it would no longer be her father's house she served, but her husband's. The marriage had been arranged since she was a child, but that did not diminish the romantic notions of being swept away in the middle of the night by her handsome groom. Their engagement was a legally binding contract and all that remained were the technicalities—the actual wedding celebration.
If all goes well,she mused, I will be married to Joseph, the carpenter, within a year's time. But then, what could go wrong? The contract has been signed, the bride price has been paid, and the huppah, the room connected to his father's house, is almost complete.
As the young maiden continued daydreaming about her new life to come, a golden presence filled the room. The hair on the back of her neck prickled as a gentle breeze brushed past her cheek. The window remained fastened while indescribable stirring filled the room. Looking up from her work, she was startled by the glowing figure standing before her.
A single gasp filled her lungs as Mary clasped her hand over her mouth. Wide eyes tried to make sense of the vision before her. Was it a man? A ghost? An angel? Was she dreaming?
"Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you."
Seeing her pale before him, the angel Gabriel continued, "Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end."
Mary's fear did not subside with this confusing proclamation. Yet there was something comforting in the tone of this being's voice. While her soul began a calm descent, her mind began to race ahead.
A son? Pregnant? Jesus? Son of the Most High? A jumble of thoughts spilled out all at once as she tried to piece together the information lying like scattered puzzle pieces before her.
"How can this be," Mary asked the angel, "since I am a virgin?"
Gabriel leaned in and held Mary's gaze. "The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God."
Sensing her bewildered and troubled heart, the messenger knew she needed a bit more assurance. Perhaps she needed a friend. He leaned back and casually remarked, "Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. For nothing is impossible with God."
With that reminder of God's omnipotent power, Mary embraced her calling. "May it be to me as you have said."
Then, just as quickly and quietly as he had appeared, the angel was gone.
Mary stood alone in the room trying to take in all that had happened. Questions buzzed in her mind like a swarm of bees. I've got to get to Elizabeth, Mary whispered.
Right away, Mary packed her things and began her sixty-mile journey from Nazareth to Judea. After several days, she arrived.
As soon as Mary entered the room, Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit and began prophesying. In a loud voice she proclaimed: "Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!"
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, when I think about how little Mary must have felt, my heart swells. Her willingness to be Your servant, her faith to believe the angel, and her trust that You would accomplish what You had planned stirs me to do the same. Lord, I am willing to do whatever You have for me to do. I have faith that nothing is impossible for You. I trust that You will always do what is best for me. May it be said of me, "Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As you read this retelling of Mary receiving the news from Gabriel, did God stir something new in your heart?
Did you notice that Elizabeth prophesied over Mary? Yes, she was the first to prophesy in the New Testament. Amazing! A woman!
Here's what I would love for you today. Put your name in the blank. "Blessed is _______ who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished." Write it. Say it. Believe it. Then click over to my Facebook page and copy the sentence with YOUR name in it. I can hardly wait to read it!
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance Through the Women Jesus Encountered. This book goes through every encounter Jesus had with a woman in the New Testament, and shows how he broke a rule every time, just to show them they mattered...to show you that you matter. He risked his reputation to save theirs. Read their encounters and see yourself through Jesus' eyes.
And just in time to start the New Year off right, my book Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer is now available. Click on the title to watch a video or read a sample chapter.
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December 12, 2013
Making a List... Checking it Twice
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Every year, I make a Christmas list comprised of every person for whom I am buying a gift. Beside each name, I put a dollar amount, a limit of how much money I will spend for that gift, vowing not to spend one penny more than the set limit. (Somehow, the amount I actually spend rarely coincides with the amount I intended to spend. Can you relate?) With every purchase, I then draw a beautiful red line through that name. Done!
I carry that list everywhere I go because sometimes I find a gift during a random shopping trip but mainly because I can't afford to let it out of my sight. There are evil people lurking in my home who will go to any lengths to find that list. You see, I am the Queen of Surprise when it comes to Christmas, so I must guard my list with my life in order to keep my "Queen-ship" status secure. Consequently, the list is hidden in various and unusual places such as a random file on my computer, in my closet, in an old purse, in a sock drawer, in a flower pot – you get the picture. I know where that Christmas list is at all times because it is my gift-giving plan for the holidays.
I wish I were just as concerned about "God's list" for my life; carrying His life plan for me in my heart and mind as I live each day, constantly making choices and decisions in light of that list, guarding it like the treasure map of eternity that it truly is.
Just knowing the plan God has for me does not guarantee success.
I must actually do the plan. That is where the choice to obey comes in.
An obedient heart is a "fixed" heart and is the gift God wants from us this holiday season.
Psalm 108:1
"O God, my heart is fixed!"
Psalm 40:8
"I take joy in doing your will, my God, for your law is written on my heart."
A "fixed" heart is a determined heart, a steadfast heart that is rightly focused on God and His will, His plan. When we choose to follow God's plan, the desires of our heart will line up in obedience to that plan. We will find our greatest joy in pleasing God, in doing His will because that is what we were created to do.
Maybe today is a good time to stop, go back over the list, and review those life lessons we have learned, checking to see where we really are in our walk with God.
Maybe today is the perfect time to revisit the manger to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ by giving Him the gift of obedience.
Let's Pray
Father, I love You. Forgive me for the times when I choose to follow my own will instead of Yours. Teach me how to fix my heart on You and give me the strength to do what You created me to do. I know Your plan is the highest and best plan for me and that I was created in response to that plan. Thank You for the purpose that doing Your will brings to my life. Today, I choose to seek You and obey Your Word.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you believe that 2014 is just around the corner? If one of your resolutions for the New Year is to have a daily quiet time, and you need help getting started, Mary has some great resources to help you get started.
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December 13, 2013
Don't Miss Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (John 3:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Christmas rush is on! I know many of you are still looking for the perfect gift, wrapping presents, baking your famous sugar cookies, packing the car for a long trip and wrestling with overly excited children. Ho! Ho! Ho!
Stop right where you are! Take a deep breath and travel back with me to a time when there was no hope and no celebration. I can't imagine a world without Jesus and yet, many times I live my life as if He doesn't even exist. A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own. Loneliness floods my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness.
He then interrupts my life and fills each black corner with Light. His love flows over the pain like a soothing balm and once again, I experience the manger. Once again, He steps into the smelly, unlikely and very ordinary existence that is mine to change everything – everything!
Jesus could have come to us in many ways, but He chose to interrupt the very ordinary with the most extraordinary. He could have chosen to be born in a palace. After all, He was a King. But His life on earth began in a manger housed in what amounted to little more than a dirty, smelly barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to me, and one of my most profound life lessons.
I often wish I had been there that holy night when Jesus was born, but then He reminds me that I have my own manger; my own holy moment when God became a reality to me, and I worship Him!
Every year I am reminded of the very heart of Christmas -- Emanuel, God with us. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of daily life: where we go and what we do, the smile we give the harried stranger and the patience we exhibit in the crowd of impatient shoppers, the love that prompts the secret gift and the heart that constantly celebrates His birth through every sparkling light, every beautifully wrapped gift, each special meal, every card, phone call and visit.
Join me in this quest to celebrate Him and His birth in everything we do. Have a birthday party for Jesus. Bake Him a huge cake and invite neighbors to join in the celebration. Adopt a family in need. Reach out to the lonely. Look for Him in the crowd. Emanuel, God with us! Wow!
Let's Pray
Father, today I celebrate the reality of Your presence in my life. I celebrate Your birth, Your life, Your death and Your resurrection. And as I celebrate, Lord, help me to be "God with skin on" to those in need around me. Open my eyes and let me see them as You see them! I love You. Happy Birthday, Jesus!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Put your faith in action by making a step-by-step plan to keep Jesus at the heart of your Christmas season. Give a gift to someone you don't know. Invite a needy family into your home for a special "Friends" dinner. Go through your closet and give the clothes you don't wear to those who have no clothes.
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I pray that your life is filled with God's peace this Christmas. Don't let anyone or anything steal your joy. Guard your heart and mind, and keep your focus on the birth of Jesus as you begin to prepare for the Christmas holidays. No matter what your circumstances may be, you can celebrate the Christmas holidays because God is with you.
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December 16, 2013
You are Highly Favored
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Greetings, you who are highly favored! (Luke 1:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I hope you enjoyed my retelling of Mary's encounter with the angel Gabriel in my last devotion. I want to continue looking at Mary over the next couple of weeks. We can learn so much what to do when God calls us center stage from this woman who said "yes" to Him.
Gabriel and Mary. What an amazing encounter for a girl so young. God's plan of redemption was held by the thread of a teenage girl from Nazareth. Who knew it would be so strong.
We don't know exactly how old Mary was at the time of Gabriel's proclamation. Commentaries have suggested anywhere between thirteen and sixteen—marrying age during those days.
Nazareth was considered an insignificant town, yet God chose it for a significant role. Likewise, Mary was a seemingly insignificant girl, yet God used her in significant ways. Her selfless surrender serves as an example of the impact obedience to God's call can have on our lives and on the lives of others as well.
Just after Adam and Eve sinned and ate the forbidden fruit, God announced that the offspring of a woman would eventually crush the serpent's head (Satan). All along, it was God's redemptive plan for the Savior of the world to be born of a woman. He certainly didn't have to do it that way, but He chose to use a woman in the unfolding of salvation's plan.
But why Mary? Why that particular girl? What was it about her that caused God to choose her?
We will never know all the answers to those questions, but we can get a glimpse into God's heart by looking closely at the word "favored."
Gabriel greeted Mary by saying she was "highly favored." When we look at this word, we realize that the choice had little to do with Mary and everything to do with God. The word "favor" is the Greek word charis which is where we get the word "grace." Grace is unmerited, undeserved, unearned favor from God. It is a gift we don't earn or deserve, but are given simply because God wants to give it.
The Bible says that we are chosen by grace (Romans 11:5-6), saved by grace (Romans 3:24), and given spiritual gifts by grace (Romans 12:6). Paul says that God "lavishes" his grace on us (Ephesians 1:7-8). Don't you just love that! He doesn't dole out a teaspoon here and there, but He pours out his favor on us—bathes us in His grace.
Why was Mary chosen? The same reason you and I were chosen to be His children. Because of His grace. We are not saved because we deserve it. She was not chosen because she deserved it. She was chosen because God's grace was with her.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, amazing grace, how sweet the sound. Thank You for Your grace that gives me blessings I don't deserve, and Your mercy that doesn't give me the punishment I do deserve. Lord, thank You for working through ordinary men and women like me. Help me not to deify mere humans, but always give You the glory for working through them.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How have you seen God do mighty work through ordinary people? Think of 5 ordinary people in the Bible who were called to extraordinary tasks.
Now think of 5 ordinary people in your life who have been called to extraordinary tasks.
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December 17, 2013
Can You Hear Me Now?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me (John 10:27, ASV).
Friend to Friend
Dan and I had been married one year when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas so he could attend seminary. I desperately wanted to find a school teaching job, but they were scarce. Instead, I was hired to work in an insurance office - definitely not my idea of a dream job - but I had a plan. Every day, on my lunch hour, I called the school district's personnel office to ask, "Do you have a job for me yet?"
After several weeks of these annoying phone calls, a frustrated voice finally responded with the words I had been longing to hear, "Mary, will you teach anything anywhere?" Finally! I jumped at the job offer and made an appointment to visit my new classroom that afternoon. The principal escorted me up a flight of stairs, pointed to a door and said, "That's your classroom. Good luck!" With a knowing smile, he turned and walked away ... very quickly. Hmmm, interesting!
Stepping into the classroom, I froze at the astonishing sight before me. Children were jumping on desks while others crawled under tables, all screaming and yelling at the top of their lungs. Paper and food littered the floor. In the corner sat an obviously frazzled substitute teacher who was desperately trying to gain control of her students ... uh, make that my students. The classroom was in total chaos! My first thought was "What have I gotten myself into?" The next few weeks certainly answered that question.
Each classroom was arranged in learning centers instead of desks. The students moved from center to center as they completed assignments, a plan that naturally invited noise. I learned that because of overcrowding, each teacher had been asked to select two children to form a new classroom and, of course, each teacher had chosen her two most difficult students to populate the new class.
The first few weeks were a nightmarish battle for control. After losing my voice twice, my sister, a veteran first grade teacher, gave me some great advice as she explained, "The louder you are, the louder the children will be. If you want to get their attention, speak softly so they will have to be quiet in order to hear your voice." I put her advice into action the next day.
As the children entered the classroom, I greeted each one with a silent smile. In my hands was a brightly wrapped box. Curious, they asked, "What is that, Mrs. Southerland?" I merely smiled and said nothing until every student was quietly seated. "I have a new plan for our classroom," I began. "Sometime during the day, I will call your name once. If you hear my voice, you may choose one prize from our new prize box. If you don't hear my voice, you'll miss the opportunity to select a prize and I will call another student's name." It worked like a charm! In a matter of days, my students learned to listen for my voice above all others.
It occurs to me that listening for the voice of God when I pray is a lot like that classroom. The children had not been trained to listen for a teacher's voice. The result was chaos and stress - with very little learning happening. I could not teach them anything until I had their attention, so when they began to tune out everyone's voice but mine, the atmosphere of that classroom was transformed into a peaceful, quiet place where students could focus and learn.
The holiday season should be centered on listening for His voice and celebrating His birth. Instead, we often give our time, energy and attention to the very things that distract us from honoring Him in the way we celebrate Christmas.
Is your heart trained to listen for His voice above all others? The only voice that matters is His. Come to Him in prayer. Listen as He speaks to you. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, sometimes it seems as if my head and heart are filled with voices, and each one is telling me something different. Help me learn to hear Your voice, to stop and listen for You above every other voice clamoring for my attention. I will seek You in the Scripture. I will seek You in prayer and in my daily walk. I am listening today for Your voice alone.
In Jesus's name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of three "voices" that are frequently heard in your life.
Examine each voice to see if it lines up with God's plan and purpose for your life.
Strengthen your ability to hear God's voice above the others by reading and memorizing Scripture. Below are a few of my favorites:
Psalm 32:8 "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you."
Exodus 14:13 "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still."
Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."
Isaiah 42:16 "I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them."
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December 18, 2013
The Lord Is with You—And that's a Promise.
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The Lord is with you (Luke 1:28).
Friend to Friend
For many years I would begin each day praying for my son, "God, please be with Steven today."
Then one day God stopped me mid-prayer. "Sharon, I am with Steven...every day," He seemed to say. "Why do you continue asking for something Steven already has?"
God was right! (Imagine that.) God was with Steven at all times, just as He is with you and me. He promised each of His children, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5).
After God's gentle nudge, I changed my prayer for Steven: "God, I pray that Steven will sense Your presence in his life today. Thank You for being with him."
When Gabriel suddenly appeared to Mary, she needed that same reassurance. "The Lord is with you," he said. The reminder of God's presence in her life would be crucial for the news that Gabriel was about to deliver.
Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. But the angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. You will be with child and give birth to a Son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. He will be great and be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end." (Luke 1:29-33)
If Gabriel showed up at my door, I think "Do not be afraid" would be an appropriate greeting. As a matter-of-fact, it seems like these are some of the first words God and His messengers spoke to many called on for special assignment.
"Do not be afraid," God said to Abram (Genesis 15:1).
"Do not be afraid," God said to Joshua (Joshua 8:1).
"Do not be afraid," the angel said to Zechariah (Luke 1:13).
"Do not be afraid," the angel said to the shepherds (Luke 2:10).
And now, when God is calling an ordinary girl out of the shadows to stand center stage, He reassures her with the same courage-bolstering words that have echoed through the ages. "Do not be afraid...God is with you." And if anyone was going to need reassurance of God's presence in her life, it was Mary.
Gabriel then proceeded to tell Mary about her God-ordained assignment. She would conceive a son by the power of the Holy Spirit and give him the name Jesus.
"Jesus" is the Greek form of the name Joshua, which means "the Lord saves."
Mary was part of this fallen world, and like all of mankind, she needed a Savior.
When Paul wrote, "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23), that included Mary.
In Mary's own song of praise she cried out, "My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior." She knew she needed a Savior, just like you and me. Regardless of what artists have painted through the centuries, Mary did not have a halo over her head. She was a sinner, just like you and me. She was chosen because of God's grace, just like you and me. She was just an ordinary girl with an extraordinary calling.
God set the stage and called His first leading lady to take her position front and center. Who would have ever imagined she would take her place with such courage.
"How will this be," Mary asked the angel, "since I am a virgin?" (Luke 1:34)
Mary's question didn't mean she doubted what the angel said was true. She simply questioned the logistics and sought clarity and direction. Her wonderment did not mean she was reluctant. She was just confused about the physiology of the process. She had never slept with a man, so how was this possible?
The angel answered:
"The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. For nothing is impossible with God." (Luke 1:35-3)
The angel saw the purity of her heart and went on to explain exactly how this would occur. In a day when women were not formally taught the Scriptures, when they were not allowed to sit under a rabbi's teaching, Mary had a front row seat with one of God's personal messengers for private tutoring.
She believed by faith. She obeyed by choice. And she remembered that God was with her every step of the way.
During this hectic time of year, filled with long to-do lists and stressful family dynamics, remember this: God is with you!
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, thank You for the promise that You will never leave me. Even when I can't feel Your presence, I trust by faith that You are here. Help me to be a woman who believes You, and not a woman who is tossed to and fro by her feelings.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back up to the "do not fear" verses in this devotion and read the context in which they were said.
How can you apply that to your own life?
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More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance Through the Women Jesus Encountered.This book goes through every encounter Jesus had with a woman in the New Testament, and shows how He broke a rule every time, just to show them they mattered...to show you that you matter. He risked his reputation to save theirs. Read their encounters and see yourself through Jesus' eyes.
And just in time to start the New Year off right, my book Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer is now available. Click on the title to watch a video or read a sample chapter.
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December 19, 2013
God - The Giver of Good Gifts
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows (James 1:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Our grandchildren are not only a source of great joy in my life but also some of my most capable teachers. Our three-year-old grandson, Justus, recently reminded me of the profound truth that God is the ultimate Gift-Giver.
Justus loves dirt. If he is not truly dirty – he is not truly happy. One of his favorite toys to play with in his beloved dirt is what he calls a "digger." Justus has quite a collection of diggers. We, along with other family members, his parents and friends, have happily provided this little hunk of joy with an assortment of plastic dump trucks, bulldozers, backhoes and excavators. Justus knows the name of each construction vehicle but prefers to call them "diggers," so diggers it is.
Our daughter and son-in-law have wisely allocated a section of their backyard where Justus can happily dig and work and play with all of his diggers. He spends hours transferring dirt from one part of his work site to another, creating mounds of dirt while building what he calls "massive" cities and then tearing them down to begin again.
One day, our daughter was enjoying a beautiful, sunny afternoon in their back yard with Justus and his baby brother, Hudson. Danna was reading and Hudson was contentedly snoozing in his bouncy seat while Justus was happily playing and hard at work with – you guessed it - his diggers. Justus suddenly stopped, sprung to his feet, and thrust both arms in the air as high as he possibly could. With his smiling little face turned toward heaven, Justus shouted at the top of his lungs, "God, thank You for my dirt!" Time stood still for a moment. I am almost certain heaven paused as God smiled and replied, "You are so welcome, Justus." Satisfied, our grandson went back to his digger and dirt project. And God spoke to my heart.
I tend to forget that God is the ultimate gift-giver. How often do I dismiss His gifts, both great and small, as something to which I am somehow entitled? More often I simply take His gifts for granted. I know better. I just allow my busy schedule to crowd out the wonder of God at work in my life every single day. God used our three-year-old grandson to remind me that God has literally fills every minute of every day with gifts from His hand. Why? God wants me to celebrate life – to live a life saturated with His joy.
In Biblical times – much like today – times of great joy were often accompanied by the giving of gifts.
Matthew 2:10-11 "When they saw the star, they were overjoyed.On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him.Then they opened their treasures and presented him with giftsof gold, frankincense and myrrh."
God gave the greatest gift of all – His love wrapped up in His Son, Jesus. God's love changes everything and everyone it touches. It protects and breathes life and purpose into every minute of every day. God's love is a gift beyond measure that surrounds us and covers us when the fires of life rain down.
Colossians 2:13-14 (NLT) "Then God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins. He canceled the record that contained the charges against us. He took it and destroyed it by nailing it to Christ's cross."
God's love is an unconditional love – a love with no strings attached and a gift that breathes life and joy and celebration into every moment of every day. Jesus came, at the request of God, spelling Himself out in a language you and I can understand – a message of love that exists to give.
There is no condemnation with Him, Girlfriend. He adores you just as you are. He wants to spend time with you, laugh with you, dry your tears and fill your heart with new dreams. Today, no matter where you are or where you have been, He stands - just waiting for you. Come to Him. Accept Him. No matter how ugly the sin may be or how great the failure in your life, He loves you. Come to His love. Receive His gift of life and celebrate God, the Giver of every good and perfect gift!
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I often fail to recognize the truth that every good gift comes from Your hand. I pray Your Holy Spirit would give me a fresh awareness and a thankful heart for the very life you freely give me each day, and for the gift of eternal life You so freely offer. Help me see Your hand in the smallest details of my world, and teach me to celebrate life each and every day. Thank You for Your faithfulness to me and for Your unfailing love that sustains every step I take. I want to live a life that truly celebrates You!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside one day to be a day of celebration. Grab your journal and keep it with you all day. Count every blessing and every gift – big and small - that comes your way. Here are a few examples to get you started:
A comfortable bed in which to sleep
Food for the day
Clothes to wear – even if they are worn and not the latest style
A friend who called just to check on you
The doctor's report that the cyst was benign
An unexpected check that covers your rent
You get the idea. At the end of the day, review your list and thank God for each item on it. Remember – every good and perfect gift is from God. And if we belong to Him, everything and everyone that touches our lives today came through His hands – with His permission – for a purpose. So celebrate!
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Tomorrow, your home may be filled with family and friends or you may be celebrating the birth of Jesus alone. Christmas is not a date on a calendar. It is a way of life. No matter where this Christmas finds you, know that you are loved and that God is with you.
Looking for a Bible Study to start the New Year? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue, beginning January 20, 2014.
Do you want to revolutionize your prayer life? Check out Chair Time, a new E-Book written by Mary's husband, Dan. It not only will teach you how to hear from God – it will change your life! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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December 20, 2013
Held by Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. (Luke 2:19, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wanted to travel back in time to be an eyewitness of the celestial celebration that took place in Bethlehem the night that Jesus was born? Now, I'm a bit fussy about fashion, but I'd even consider donning shepherd garb and hanging out with a few sheep for that opportunity! To see angels fill the sky, to hear the voice of God through the cries of a baby. To catch a glimpse of the brilliant Star of David, and to satisfy my curiosity as to what exactly a host of heavenly angels sounds like.
Oh, and to talk to Mary! Wouldn't that be amazing to hear what she was thinking as she witnessed, and took part in the greatest miracle ever known to man? This baby she gave birth to was God-in-flesh, a true bundle of perfect love. What do you think she treasured in her heart as she took it all in? I'm struck by this thought: As she held the Hope of the world, the Hope of the world was also holding her. Ponder that!
The baby born in a barn that holy night long ago is the Hope of the world - the Grace that saves us - the Love that heals us. Jesus is the Hope that changes our worthless into precious, our guilty to forgiven, our hungry into satisfied, and our empty into full. His presence is inescapable. Once we believe on Christ for salvation, we cannot flee from His stubborn love-grip. The psalmist, David said: "If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast" (Psalm 139:8-10).
The Bible tells us in the New Testament that Jesus Christ sits at the right hand of God, the Father in heaven and that He "holds us fast." Relish that thought. The Hope that holds us is Jesus Christ. You and I are held by Hope.
In the Old Testament, God told Joshua that He would "never leave or forsake" him (Joshua 1:5). God says the same to us. He will never leave us or forsake us; no matter the circumstances, not matter the diagnoses, no matter the financial struggle. Our faithful LORD is the same yesterday, today, and forever. We can rest assured that in everything we are held by Hope.
After His resurrection and before His ascension into heaven, Jesus said, "Surely, I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). My girlfriend Mary Southerland often reminds people that the word "always" actually means ... drum roll please ... "always!" He is always with us. Always loving us. Always wanting us to find comfort, refuge, joy and satisfaction in Him.
As Christmas approaches and the New Year dawns, let's be mindful of God's promise that we are never alone. Just like the shepherds received the headline news of Jesus' birth from singing angels so long ago, receive this glad tiding of great joy today: If you are in Christ, then you are held by Hope.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, Thank You for sending Jesus, my Hope, to forgive me, to love me, and to restore me to Your heart. I join the psalmist today in praying, "Sustain me according to Your promise, and I will live; do not let my hopes be dashed. Uphold me, and I will be delivered" (Psalm 119:116-117a). I'm leaning into Your heavenly hug today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you held by Hope? Have you received the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ? Are you seeking God? He's waiting with His arms open wide. CLICK HERE to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
More from the Girlfriends
Friend, I know that as sweet as Christmas is, it will be hard for many of you this year. Pain is no respecter of persons, and loneliness can find us in a crowded room. I pray that you will find comfort in knowing that – whether you feel it or not – you are being held by the loving God of the universe.
My Facebook page will be a page of prayer today. We'd love to pray for you. Please join us there: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
Struggling to trust His hope?Sharon, Gwen and Mary's 12-week devotion book, Trusting God, is a great book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures...this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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December 23, 2013
Even Mary Needed a Friend
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Yes, I see it all now: I'm the Lord's maid, ready to serve. Let it be with me just as you say (Luke 1:38, The Message).
Friend to Friend
Has God ever asked you to do something that seemed illogical in your pretty head? Has He ever called you to a task that seemed nigh to impossible? Can you imagine how Mary, the mother of Jesus, must have felt when Gabriel gave her the news of her impending pregnancy?
This heavenly decision caused an earthly dilemma. An unwed pregnancy could lead to her parents disowning her, her fiancée divorcing her, and her accusers stoning her to death. She had to know that she was called. God sent an angel to explain her calling and sent her to Elizabeth for confirmation.
When God called Moses to lead the Israelites out of Egyptian captivity, Moses tried to convince Him to send someone else (Exodus 4:13). When God called Gideon to lead the Israelites into battle, Gideon reminded Him of his lack of credentials and asked for a sign (Judges 6:17). When God called Jeremiah to be the next great prophet, Jeremiah argued that he was far too young for the job (Jeremiah 1:6). When God appointed Jonah to preach repentance to the people of Nineveh, he hopped on the next boat out of town (Jonah 1:3). But when God called Mary to bear His only Son, she accepted the assignment with beauty and grace.
"I am the Lord's servant," Mary answered. "May it be to me as you have said."
In Peterson's paraphrase, The Message, Mary said, "Yes, I see it all now: I'm the Lord's maid, ready to serve. Let it be with me just as you say."
Another translation puts it this way: "Behold, the bondslave of the Lord; may it be done to me according to your word" (nasb).
The Greek word for "bondslave" is doulos or doule (feminine form) and means "one who gives himself up to the will of another, without any idea of bondage." In the Old Testament it referred to a slave set free who chose to stay with his master for the rest of his life. In the New Testament, it was used figuratively of a Christian set free from the slavery of sin who chose to serve his master, Jesus, for the rest of his life.
Here's what happened next:
At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, where she entered Zechariah's home and greeted Elizabeth. When Elizabeth heard Mary's greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. In a loud voice she exclaimed: "Blessed are you among women and blessed is the child you will bear! But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy." (Luke 1:39-44)
At God's prompting, Elizabeth joined Mary on the stage, grabbed her by the hand, and joined her on the journey to fulfill an extraordinary purpose. But this was not simply a supporting role. She was a leading lady in her own right.
Elizabeth was more than an incubator for the forerunner of Jesus, John the Baptist. She was a prophet who God chose to mentor the mother of His child. Elizabeth's grasp of the situation was remarkable! She understood that Mary was carrying the Messiah when even those closest to Jesus in future years would not.
And why was that? It is simple, really. It was not because Elizabeth was especially smart. It is because the illuminating power of the Holy Spirit revealed it to her. And that is the same with you and with me. We understand spiritual truth only when the Holy Spirit opens our eyes to see.
Isn't it wonderful that God created women for relationship? He knew that Mary was going to need a friend—a girlfriend. God is always with us, but sometimes He gives us like-minded friends with whom to walk the journey.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for girlfriends. I am so thankful that You have not called us to walk through life alone, but arm-in-arm with friends. Show me someone who needs an extra hug, a word of encouragement, or a helping hand today. May I be as free with my words of praise as Elizabeth was with hers.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think God sent Mary to Elizabeth?
What do you think Mary did during her time with Elizabeth?
What did she get to experience before she returned home?
How would this have been helpful during her time of delivery in the stable?
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December 24, 2013
"Let's Adore Him!"
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold and of incense and of myrrh (Matthew 2:11, NIV)
Friend to Friend
O come, all ye faithful,
Come everyone! Come sinners! Come saints!
Come if you're tired, hungry, lonely, or faint!
"Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint" (Isaiah 40:28-31).
Joyful and triumphant;
Come with rejoicing! Come celebrate!
We worship the One who is mighty and great!
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4).
O come ye, O come ye to Bethlehem!
Come home-school mom! Come business pro! Come friend, wife, sister, and daughter!
Let's bow down low and worship Him. Praise Son, Holy Spirit, and Father!
"Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father" (Philippians 2:9-11).
Come and behold Him – born the King of Angels!
Behold His majesty! Behold the matchless King!
Behold the holy One! Behold the saving Son!
He is the One deserving praise.
He is the Lord of night and day.
He is the God who reigns on high.
He is our holy Adonai.
"The next day he saw Jesus coming to him and said, "Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!" (John 1:29 NASB).
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him
O come, let us adore Him – Christ the Lord!
Let's Pray
Lord Jesus, Words can't begin to express the gratefulness in my heart as I pause to adore You! Thank you for putting on a garment of humanity to come rescue me from my sin. You are holy and righteous and worthy of all praise. I bow before you today in humble adoration.
I love You, Jesus.
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Sing to the King! Pause to sing this song of worship (either out loud or in your soul) to our deserving Lord and connect with Him in spirit and in truth. I'll start: "O come, all ye faithful..."
Make a list of 12 reasons that Jesus is worthy of your adoration.
Listen to this new song by Gwen, Lost In Praise, as a final heart-focused portion of our time together. Adore Him!
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We were made to praise. Purposed to respond to the glory of God. Yet sometimes life's challenges and choices keep us from His presence and His peace. Maybe you felt unable or unworthy of adoring Him as you read this. Turn to Him now, friend. His love is unconditional and His mercies know no end. He loves you. He's waiting.
Gwen's new worship EP, "My Strength, My Song," would make a great addition to your praise playlist. Find it on iTunes, Amazon or her website today.
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December 25, 2013
Merry Christmas!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (NIV, John 3:16).
Friend to Friend
It was Christmas Eve and the family was preparing to attend the church service. Everyone was going, everyone except Dad. He was an honest man, a good man, but he simply could neither understand nor accept the seemingly complex story of the baby in a manger born to save the world. It was just too far-fetched for the human mind to conceive.
How could God allow His Son to give up Heaven for Earth?
Why would Jesus want to die for any man?
The questions lingered and, not wanting to be a hypocrite, the man chose to stay home rather than sit in a church pew one time a year with an unbelieving heart.
As his family went out into the cold wintry night, the man added a log to the fire and settled into his favorite chair to read the paper and wait for his family's return. A knock at the window pulled him away from his peaceful reverie. Glancing outside, he was stunned to see that the knocking sound was actually a small bird desperately trying to reach the warmth of the fire.
The man thought for a moment, contemplating a solution to the bird's predicament. He opened the window, but the bird ignored him. He tried opening the front door, but the bird again refused his offer and continued to slam into the windowpane. The kind-hearted man finally grabbed his coat and stepped into the Christmas night ... and into God's perfect plan. He trudged through the deepening snow, determined to save the tiny bird by opening the barn doors, convincing the little bird that the barn was safe and warm. Still, the bird rejected his plan.
Frustrated, the man thought, "If only I could be a bird, for just a moment, I could lead the doomed bird to safety." The sound of church bells suddenly rang through the cold, dark night – and he knew. He finally understood the reason Jesus came - to be one of us – to lead us into the safety of His will and the certainty of eternal life.
"And it was necessary for Jesus to be like us so that he could be our merciful and faithful High Priest before God. For since He himself has now been through suffering and temptation, He knows what it is like when we suffer and are tempted, and He is wonderfully able to help us." - Hebrews 2: 17-18
Wherever you are today, Jesus has been there and He understands. God has tucked a longing into Christmas, a longing for home. That longing can never be satisfied outside of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. That's why He came.
Christmas is not a date on the calendar. Christmas is a way of life. Like the innkeeper, we are often guilty of posting a sign across the entrance of our hearts and lives that reads, "No room!" We can participate in every festivity of the Christmas season, but until we receive the gift of Jesus Christ, we will never truly experience Christmas.
Jesus is the heart of Christmas. By human standards, Jesus could and should have been born in a palace, a mansion fit for the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Jesus was born in a manger. Shepherds announced His birth - the greatest of all miracles - in the midst of total simplicity.
Even today, this extraordinary Jesus comes to us in the midst of our ordinary lives for one simple reason. Love. God loved us so much that He had to do something about it. He sent His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, to earth – for you and for me.
You really can celebrate Jesus. Do not believe the lies of the enemy when he tells you that your God has forsaken you. God is with you – Emmanuel. God understands your fear and loneliness. He endured the cross because He loves you, and because no one can take your place in the Father's heart. No matter where this Christmas finds you – you can celebrate Jesus. Know you are loved.
Let's Pray
Father, I celebrate You and the love You so freely offer. I may not understand some of the things happening in my life right now, but I choose to trust You with each one. My faith is small, Lord. Give me Your strength for each step and help me remember that You are with me. Lord, today I celebrate Your birth. Thank You for the gift of life and love I find in knowing You. My Christmas gift to You is everything I am, everything I have, everything I hope to be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Find some time today to spend alone with God. Praise and worship Him for who He is, Lord, King, Father and Shepherd. Celebrate the perfect plan and design of God for your life.
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Sharon, Gwen and I pray that this Christmas is a true celebration of Jesus Christ at work in your life. We wish each one of you a very merry Christmas. We love doing life with you ... when life is good and when it is bad. Please know that we are praying for you and asking God to fill your hearts with His peace and joy.
May God grant you the light in Christmas, which is faith;
The warmth of Christmas, which is love;
The radiance of Christmas, which is purity;
The righteousness of Christmas, which is justice;
The belief in Christmas, which is truth;
The all of Christmas, which is Christ.
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December 26, 2013
Are You Bear-ly Thankful?
Bobi Ann Allen
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend", Bobi Ann Allen.
Today's Truth
Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe (Hebrews 12:28).
Friend to Friend
My 6 year-old-daughter, Kati Ann, loves the store, Build-A-Bear Workshop. At Build-A-Bear, customers have the opportunity of creating their own stuffed animal. Kati Ann bought her first Build-A-Bear with her own money. At the time, they signed her up to be in their Build-A-Bear "club" (or whatever they call it). Basically, she got signed up to be on their mailing list.
About a month or so later, Kati Ann went to the mailbox and there it was, the Build-A-Bear Newsletter! It's more like a mini-catalog, but, regardless, Kati Ann was beside herself. For days she poured over that little catalog. She dreamed of her next Build-A-Bear and which outfit she would dress it in.
And then she said something that struck me. My daughter asked, "Mom, can we go to Build-A-Bear Workshop so I can thank them for sending me this newsletter?" My first thought was, "What? You want to thank them for sending you this junky mail? Are you kidding? Build-A-Bear Workshop was more than happy to send it. They'll be getting more of our money because of that silly catalog." Yet, I refrained and did not say any of what I was thinking. Instead, I scooped her up, smiled at her, and assured her we could.
And then God used Kati Ann's words to whisper to my heart. Kati Ann saw reason for gratitude while my eyes saw junk. How often I carry on, going about my routine, believing I'm entitled to more than I have. So easily, I forget to acknowledge the abundance of God's gifts in my life.
How can we make a lifestyle of Thanks-giving? Here are two thoughts:
1. Make a habit of giving God thanks for the intangible. Thank Him for a cloudless sky or the unintelligible chatter of a child. Make a practice of recognizing Him as the giver of the fragrance of fall or a phone call with a loved one. Learning to thank God for the seemingly little things trains us to make a lifestyle of giving thanks.
2. Acknowledging His provision for your life also acknowledges His presence in your life. His presence is what produces peace, joy, and contentment. Augustine claimed, "Without exception...all try their hardest to reach the same goal, that is, joy." Could it be that your level of joy is dependent most on your ability to give thanks for all that God has given? Instead of slowing to give thanks, we push ahead hoping to alleviate the disappointment in our lives, lives lacking joy and peace. Continual thanks leads to constant peace.
Thanks ——————–> Presence———————> Peace
God's heart is good, and He is generous toward His children. Make a choice to be thankful.
Now It's Your Turn
What can you thank God for today? Make a list of 5 things (without repeating any) every day this week that help you recognize God's provision and favor in your life.
Question: When was the last time you were truly grateful? What sparked that moment? What reminds you to be thankful?
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Texas native, Bobi Ann Allen's first and most fun job is wife to her husband, Jared & mom to their delightfully silly kids, Kati Ann & Kie. Bobi Ann is privileged to serve as Women's Ministry Director at Willowbrook Church in Huntsville, AL. She loves to laugh, spend time with her family and wear comfortable clothes. Her favorite moments are date nights with her husband and loving on her kids. You can read more from Bobi Ann on her blog bobiann.com and following her on Twitter @bobiann.
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December 30, 2013
Struggling Together in Prayer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I urge you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me (Romans 15:30).
Friend to Friend
I am so glad that God gave us girlfriends who will struggle with us in prayer. Paul wasn't a Girlfriend in God, but he certainly understood the power of our words to God in prayer.
He wrote: "I urge you, brothers, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me" (Romans 15:30).
"Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should" (Ephesians 6:18-20).
The New Testament was originally written in Greek and sometimes looking at the original definitions of the Greek words can give us great insight. The Greek word Paul uses for struggle in Romans 15:30 is sunagonizomai, which means "to struggle in company of; i.e., to be a partner (assistant), strive together with." The root word means "to endeavor to accomplish something: fight, labor fervently, strive," for example, to compete for a prize or to contend with an adversary.
Prayer for another person is not simply a nice platitude or a pat on the back. When we tell someone that we will pray for him or her, we are agreeing to put on the armor and head to the front lines of battle on their behalf.
Many ancient shields had brackets attached to the sides. These brackets were a type of latch that soldiers could use to lock their shields together during battle. When the armors were locked together, the soldiers moved as one force, forming a barricade against the enemy.
Alone, the shield was a small defense. Together they formed a human barricade.
Do you see the significance? When we lock arms in prayer with others, we are locking our shields together and forming a powerfully strong wall of defense.
One night I was in the restroom touching up my makeup before speaking to several hundred women. I was having one of those moments when I looked in the mirror and negative thoughts began swirling in my mind. What am I doing here? What do I possibly have to say to these women that could make any difference in their lives? I am not capable of walking to that podium tonight.
While I was mulling over the lies (the fiery darts that Satan was shooting into my mind), my cell phone rang.
"Hello."
"Hi, Sharon. This is Mary. [My GiG Mary.] Where are you?"
"Actually, I'm standing in the restroom at a speaking engagement getting ready to walk out on the stage. I forgot to turn off my cell phone!"
"I want you to know," Mary continued, "God interrupted me while I was cooking dinner and told me to pray for you. Not only that, He told me to call you...now."
I imagined Mary standing in her kitchen with spaghetti sauce simmering on the stove and stopping mid-stir.There might have been a little conversation with God that went something like this: Call Sharon and pray for her, God might have said.
Could you just wait a minute, God? The sauce is almost done.
Call Sharon and pray for her, God repeated.
Ok, Ok, I'll do it now.
There was great power in Mary's instant obedience. If she had waited, I would not have known that she was praying. Not only did God prompt her to pray at that moment, He wanted her to tell me that she was doing so. Why? God knew that there was power in her prayer, and He wanted me to know that I was not going into battle alone.
He had called Mary to "struggle with me," to "strive together in battle," to lock shields with me and march into victory.
Let's practice locking shields today and pray for each other. Click over to my Facebook pageand share a prayer request. Then pray for the request above you.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us Girlfriends in God to pray for us and with us. Thank You that You called women to join together as mighty prayer warriors with shields hooked together, marching into battle as one unified force.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there someone God is calling you to pray for today?
If so, why not give him or her a call or send an e-mail to let them know.
Better yet, e-mail them the prayer or pray for them over the phone!
And don't forget to leave your prayer request on my Facebook page so I can pray for you today.
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December 31, 2013
Hope for Tomorrow
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7).
Friend to Friend
A cloud of terror hung over the Valley of Elah as snarling threats and vile promises spewed from his mouth. The intimidator strutted along grassy slopes, swinging an enormous club, his mammoth, ironclad feet pawing the ground like an irate bull, ready to attack.
The huge, ugly monster was Goliath, a nine-foot giant who was the pride of Philistia.
Goliath wore massive armor; a bronze coat weighing 200 pounds, a solid iron spear, a heavy bronze helmet. The target of his ranting and raving was a frightened, helpless group of Israelites, cowering in their tents. For forty agonizing days, Goliath had come, taunting them, promising certain destruction and doom. The Israelites, paralyzed with fear, had given up all hope of escape, resigned to their tortured fate at the hand of this Philistine monster.
Then came day forty-one!
I am certain, as the sun inched its way over the mountains that morning, that neither Goliath nor the Israelites had any idea that this day would be different. A young handsome teenager stepped into the valley of fear, fresh from the presence of God.
David, the youngest in a family of eight boys could not believe the scene before him. Tossing the giant's threats and obvious advantage aside, David refused to accept what he saw. Instead, he chose to believe what he knew in his heart; this giant was going down. With simple but certain faith and unreserved confidence in God, David stepped through the fear, ushering in the mighty presence and power of God. Goliath not only met David that day, He met the Lord of Heaven and earth. And the giant fell! Giants always fall in the presence of God.
We stand on the threshold of a new year – a new beginning! If you are like me, you face 2014 with mixed emotions. Personally, I am thrilled that I survived 2013! There were certainly moments when I wondered if I would.
My husband had his second heart ablation.
I had back surgery.
We moved ... and oh, how I hate moving!
I experienced the worst battle I have ever had with clinical depression.
Financial surprises seemed constant.
Yep! I am glad to see 2013 go, but I am so thankful for God's faithfulness and provision every day of that year. I learned so much. I didn't always like God's plan for teaching me His truths, and honestly, I often failed to understand why things had to happen the way they did. But I can also say with assurance that God was with me every step of the way – and His presence was more than enough to get me through it all.
Still, I am excited about a fresh start, a brand new set of days overflowing with new dreams and unmarked possibilities, but I also know this year is crammed full of the unknown as well as a giant or two.
I am not a fan of giants, and if I am brutally honest, I have to admit that the unknown fashions a pocket of fear in my heart where questions and doubts thrive. I don't know what tomorrow holds but I do know that I have to face that fear and refuse to let it take up residence in my heart and mind.
The good news is what lies ahead is no surprise to God. In fact, He has already been where you and I are going. That reason alone empowers us to face every tomorrow with hope, knowing that whatever touches us passes through His hands, with His permission.
It is not God's plan for us to dwell in fear or for fear to rule our lives. He has already set in motion the defeat and fall of every giant we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, facing every giant in God's power and with His promises. The Holy Spirit will guide the path of His truth to its destined mark, taking down the giants lurking in the shadows of every tomorrow.
He is the same yesterday, today and forever! The days ahead are saturated with the memory of Goliath's fall when one very unlikely shepherd boy chose to put his trust in Almighty God, the Giant Killer. We can make that same choice.
So then, girlfriend, I ask you, what is there to fear?
Happy New Year!
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You by faith, laying every fear and worry at Your feet. I am not sure what this year holds for me, but I do know You are with me every step of the way. When I am tempted to worry, please remind me to trust You. When fear attacks, help me choose to pray instead of panic, knowing You are my Lord and my Shepherd. I praise You for Your faithfulness in my life, even when I don't understand and can't see the next step. I praise You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take time to review the past year. What giants have you faced? Was your response to these giants right or wrong? What changes do you need to make as you approach a new year? Ask yourself the following questions:
How do I typically handle fear?
What has been my natural response to giants of the past?
How do the birth, life and death of Jesus Christ affect those responses?
Read Luke 2:8-14. Examine your life in light of this passage. Record your thoughts in your journal.
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Can you believe 2014 is just ahead, like a clean slate filled with new beginnings and fresh starts? What did we learn in 2013 that will make a difference in 2014? As the holiday season winds down, I pray your heart and mind will look ahead to all that this year holds. Guard your heart and mind against darkness. Stand firm in God's power and presence. He is faithful and He is sufficient for whatever tomorrow brings.
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January 1, 2014
Changing the World Through Prayer
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16b, TNIV).
Friend to Friend
G. Campbell Morgan tells a story about the power of one woman's prayers to stir a revival in her home church.
"There are saints of God who for long, long years have been shut off from all the activities of the Church, and even from the worship of the sanctuary, but who, nevertheless, have continued to labor together in prayer with the whole fellowship of the saints. There comes to me the thought of one woman who, to my knowledge, since 1872 in this great babble of London, has been in perpetual pain, and yet in constant prayer. She is today a woman twisted and distorted by suffering, and yet exhaling the calm and strength of the secret of the Most High.
"In 1872 she was a bedridden girl in the North of London, praying that God would send revival to the church of which she was a member, and yet into which even then she never came. She had read in the little paper called Revival, which subsequently became The Christian, the story of a work being done in Chicago among ragged children by a man called Moody.
"She had never seen Moody, but putting that little paper under her pillow, she began to pray, 'O Lord, send this man to our Church.'
"She had no means of reaching him or communicating with him. He had already visited the country in 1867, and in 1872 he started again for a short trip with no intention of doing any work.
"Mr. Lessey, however, the pastor of the church of which this girl was a member, met him and asked him to preach for him. He consented, and after the evening service he asked those who would decide for Christ to rise, and hundreds did so. He was surprised and imagined that his request had been misunderstood. He repeated it more clearly, and again the response was the same.
"Meetings were continued through the following ten days, and four hundred members were taken into the church. In telling me this story Moody said, 'I wanted to know what this meant. I began making inquiries and never rested until I found a bedridden girl praying that God would bring me to that church.
"He (God) had heard her, and brought me over four thousand miles of land and sea in answer to her request.'"
One little crippled lamb by the name of Marianne Adlard, uttered fervent prayers to Almighty God on behalf of her flock and God sent a shepherd to gather the sheep from all around England.
You may not feel that you have the ability to change the world for Christ, but consider this...one crippled girl impacted the world through her prayers. You can do the same.
Amazing...the power of a woman's words to God in prayer!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that You allow me to come into Your presence at any time. I confess that I do not pray enough. I confess that I do not take the power of prayer as seriously as I should. Help me to become a prayer warrior that goes to battle on the front lines of spiritual warfare that rages around us. Teach me how to pray.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Often Jesus went away by Himself and prayed. Many times He prayed all night. Do you think God is calling you to spend more time in prayer?
As you pray for other people, consider praying Scripture for them. Turn to Philippians 1, Colossians 1, and Ephesians 1 to see how Paul prayed for fellow believers.
Consider writing a prayer for someone based on those verses.
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January 2, 2014
I Feel Your Pain
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was Easter Sunday, and I was sitting in the sanctuary waiting for the worship service to begin. Anticipating a large crowd, I arrived early to drop Jered off in the nursery, one of his favorite places to go since every nursery worker doted on him. As the choir filed in, a friend slipped into the pew beside me and said, "I think you need to go to the nursery. Something is wrong with Jered." Jumping up, I leapt over legs, toes, and pews as I raced to the church nursery and my son.
I was not prepared for what I saw. In a far corner, lying on his favorite red mat was Jered, staring at the ceiling, silent and rigid. As I bent over him, searching his beautiful blue eyes, huge tears slid down his chubby cheeks as he flew into my arms, sobbing. You have to understand – as a baby, Jered cried only when he was hungry, wet, or sick. He always seemed to be smiling, happy, and contented. Something was obviously very wrong. I kissed his forehead. No fever. I checked his diaper. Dry and clean. The snack box I had packed for him earlier that morning was empty. I had no idea what had broken my son's heart, but I certainly intended to find out.
Just then, Mrs. Giles, Jered's favorite nursery worker, drew me aside and said, "Let me tell you what happened. We had a new little girl in the nursery today. It was her first time in a church nursery – ever. When her parents left, she immediately began screaming and wouldn't stop. Jered came running and wrapped his arms around her, but she pushed him away. He then brought her his bottle, but she hurled it across the room and continued screaming. Desperate to help her, Jered then found his diaper bag and fished out Turtle.
Turtle was a small, green-and-blue stuffed turtle we had given Jered during a stay in the hospital when he was seriously ill with the croup. From the moment Jered saw Turtle, they were inseparable. He slept with Turtle clutched tightly in one hand, ate with Turtle sitting in his lap or on the table beside his plate, and carefully tucked Turtle in his diaper bag whenever we left the house. Turtle was his most precious possession and an invaluable source of comfort to him.
Mrs. Giles continued, "I couldn't believe Jered was willing to give Turtle to a stranger, but he tried." The crying child took one look at Turtle and threw it in Jered's face. Stunned, he picked up Turtle, dusted it off, and lay down on the mat, refusing to move, the stuffed animal clutched tightly in his arms. Then I knew. I knew Jered couldn't stand to see the little girl in pain and was determined to comfort her. When he couldn't, he retreated, waiting for someone else to help. That's compassion.
Compassion is not just sympathy; it is empathy. When it comes to dealing with difficult people, we mistakenly equate compassion with "fixing" them. Genuine compassion is first able to feel their pain.
I believe one of the reasons we encounter and are commanded to deal with sandpaper people, the difficult people in life, is because the more pain we experience, the more compassionate we will be. We must learn to use our pain in the right way, not lashing out, but looking within to share the pain of others.
There is a choice in every pain, an opportunity in every trial.
Pain makes us focus inward or outward. It makes us martyrs or merciful. The choice is ours.
I have a love-hate relationship with the Good Samaritan in the Bible. The Samaritan chose to use his pain and help an injured man. He understood the man's pain because of the pain in his own life. The Jews hated all Samaritans. The man lying on the road was a Jew. There was no logical reason for this Samaritan to rearrange his plans and spend his money to help this "enemy" or "sandpaper person" in need. But compassion doesn't look for reasons or search out limitations. It searches for opportunity. The Samaritan had a choice, just as we have a choice every time we are confronted with a need. We must adjust our thinking to understand that sandpaper people are needy people. We can either ignore the need, or we can meet the need by giving away part of the comfort God has given us when we have been in pain.
Galatians 6:2 (NLT) "Share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ."
If we can't prevent pain, we can at least lighten the load with compassion. Alan Redpath wrote, "You can never lighten the load unless you have first felt the pressure in your own soul." Compassion makes us willing to feel the pain of others, responding as if it were our own.
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me when I respond in anger to the difficult people in my life. I really want Your love to flow through me to each sandpaper person I meet. Please give me Your heart of compassion to feel their pain, and then teach me how to look for ways to help ease that pain.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the story of the Good Samaritan found in Luke 10:31-37. How can you apply the same truths in your life that the Samaritan applied when taking care of the wounded man?
Wherever today finds you, look around for someone in need – someone who needs a touch of compassion in their life. Are you willing to let God use you to be "God with skin on" to that person?
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Do you have a sandpaper person in your life – someone who is abrasive and rubs you the wrong way? They are not there by accident. God will use them to cultivate patience, love, forgiveness and a whole slew of Godly traits in your life – if you let Him. Need help? We all do. Check out my book, Sandpaper People, for practical steps you can take to deal with the difficult people in your life.
Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue, beginning January 20, 2014.
And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 3, 2014
Life is a Tug of War
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. (Hebrews 6:19a, NLT)
Friend to Friend
I grew up in a small town in a big family just outside of Pittsburgh, PA. When I was a little girl, one of the highlights of every summer was going to our family reunion at White Oak Park. Now, some people dread family reunions, but as a kid – I loved them – and here's why: we had some really fun games...and I love to play games!
My brothers and my sisters and my cousins (and my second cousins) played all types of games against each other and got to take home some fun prizes and penny candy. We had sack races, where we'd jump across a long, grassy field in burlap sacks. We had three-legged races, eating competitions, and a big treasure hunt that was so much fun! Then after the kid games were all done, the adults would join us for a final competition: the tug of war.
I don't remember if there was any rhyme or reason as to how the teams were formed, but I do remember this – everyone always wanted my dad to be on their team. He was really strong! So when it came to tug-of-war, wherever my Dad went, I went. He would position himself at the far end of the rope as our anchor. Though there may have been 20 people on each side of the rope, and though the advantage would often volley from one team to another, it was usually the strength of my dad that would help our team gain traction and, ultimately, win the game.
Every day we live out a faith adventure that takes us to a different type of tug-of-war: a battle that we fight against the invisible. On the enemy's side of the rope, the opponents are lined up, ready to take you down and pull you into a pit: fear, doubt, guilt, insecurity, comparison, inadequacy and lies. On the faith side of the rope, standing firm and ready to fight are: confidence, identity in Christ, compassion, forgiveness, competence and truth.
RECOGNIZE that the battle is real and PREPARE for the fight:
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication." (Ephesians 6:10-18)
WAGE WAR with the WORD:
"So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God's inner sanctuary. Jesus has already gone in there for us. He has become our eternal High Priest in the order of Melchizedek." (Hebrews 6:18-20, NLT)
Jesus said, "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."(John 16:33b)
Say to yourself, "Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God." (Psalm 42:5)
Pray with the psalmist, "Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior,and my hope is in you all day long." (Psalm 25:5, NIV)
Yes... life is a tug of war – but we are not without hope or help. As we move into a fresh year, be sure to decide which end of the rope you'd like to pick up. If you're anything like me, you'll want to pick the faith side – because our Dad (our Abba Father) is the anchor of strength and hope that helps us gain traction in every battle of life.
Let's Pray
Lord, Surely there is a battle raging around me! At times it knocks me down and hits me hard. Please be the anchor of hope and strength that I need right now. Hold me secure and pull me through each trial I am facing. Help me to remember who I am in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider these questions: What pit is the devil trying to pull you in? Who can pull you up from the pit or keep you from the edge to begin with? (Read Psalm 40:1-3) What are you going to do in light of this?
Swing by my BLOG and tell me what your tug of war looks like today. Let's PRAY together. I really love to hear from you and to watch the wall light up when we encourage one another!
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Are you struggling to trust that God's got the anchor position of your life rope?Learn how He wants to bring you beyond your past heart-wounds and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit Gwen's website.
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January 6, 2014
Prayer Changes Everything
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16b, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Prayer...it changes everything.
If you've been married for more than a few days, then you have most likely figured out that the blessed union doesn't stay so blessed without a lot of work. If you're not married, you've no doubt seen the difference prayer can make in any number of relationships.
I dare say, the most important "work" we can do as wives, mothers, friends or coworkers is on our knees. The psalmist wrote, "Unless theLord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain" (Psalm 127:1).
Only God can truly protect your marriage and your man. Only God can protect your children and your home. And He invites you to participate in the unleashing of His power by praying for your husband, your children, and your family and turning the key to the storehouse of heaven's door for blessings outpoured.
Louise saw this happen with her husband, Allan, in a miraculous way.
Allan was a tough man. Raised by a single mom with five siblings during the Depression in the early 1930s, Allan learned how to scrap his way through life and climb to the top of humanity's heap through sheer determination and grit. He married at nineteen, had his first son at twenty, and a baby girl at twenty-five. Over the next two decades he advanced from driving a delivery truck at a lumberyard to becoming part owner and president of a building supply company in eastern North Carolina.
Allan drank heavily, fought with his wife physically, and terrorized his children emotionally. He gambled, dabbled in pornography, and had questionable relationships laced with a host of unsavory vices. But when his teenage daughter became a Christian and began praying for her family, God grabbed the chisel of grace and began chipping away at Allan's proud heart of stone. Three years after his daughter's decision to follow Christ, his wife, Louise, became a believer as well. His wife, his daughter, and a host of other prayer warriors began interceding with God on Allan's behalf.
When Allan was forty-six years old, his life took several hairpin twists and troublesome turns. Because of a business deal gone terribly wrong, he was sued for breach of contract for breaking a noncompeting clausewith a former employer. Fearing exposure in court and, more important, in his small community, Allan teetered on the brink of a nervous breakdown. From man's perspective, it appeared he was on the verge of losing it all. From God's perspective, Allan was right where he needed to be.
One day, in a surge of panic, Allan drove home from work, only to remember his wife was at a meeting in Pennsylvania. He got back in his car and drove five hundred miles to try and find her. As he drove into the town where he expected to find his wife, he passed a church. Immediately, Allan made a U-turn, parked his car, and ran inside the ornate building.
"Excuse me, ma'am," he said with tears in his eyes. "I need someone to pray for me. Is the preacher available? I need help."
"I'm sorry, sir," the church receptionist said. "He's not in, but I know a man who can help you. Here," she said as she sketched out directions on a scrap of paper. "The pastor of the Baptist church down the street is out doing some construction work on their new church building. Why don't you drive on over there? I bet he can help you."
So Allan got back in his car, followed the receptionist's crude map, and found the country preacher out in the woods working on his church. With a hammer in his hand and Jesus in his heart, the pastor turned to Allan and asked, "What can I do for you?'
"I need you to pray for me," Allan explained as tears ran down his weathered cheeks.
"Let's sit down on this log while you tell me what's going on."
For several hours Allan sat with a fellow builder and told him all he had ever done. When he had finished his confession, the pastor put his arm around this broken man and said, "Now, Allan, let me tell you what I've done."
The way Allan later explained it, "I told this man everything I had ever done. Then he told me he had done the very same things. And I knew if God could forgive him, and he could be a preacher, then God could forgive me too."
Allan knelt in the woods of Pennsylvania with angels hovering low. Heaven's host celebrated as he gave his heart to Christ and made Jesus the Lord of his life. "Amazing grace, how sweet the sound..." But for me, this is more than asweet story. It is a miraculous memory. Allan was my dad.
From my earliest years as a Christian, I experienced the power of prayer to change a man's life—to strengthen a man's resolve, to protect a man's heart, and to mature a man's faith. My firsthand encounter with God's faithfulness to hear our pleas began with my father and continues today as I witness it in the lives of my husband, my son, and a host of husbands whose wives call out to God in prayer.
On this, the first week of 2014, I hope you will join me in making this a year of prayer. Let's start right now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so thankful for another year. Thank You for the people You have brought in my life. Stir my heart to pray often. Prompt my soul to pray fervently. Speak to my heart to pray powerfully. Thank You for allowing me to be an intercessor for those You have brought across my path and into my life.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Write down 5 people that you will commit to pray for in 2014. You don't need to note any specific prayers for these people, just commit to pray. I truly believe that God will prompt your heart about when and what to pray throughout the year.
Turn to Colossians 1:1-14 and pray those verses over those 5 people. Simply put their names in the verses.
Now, click over to my Facebook page and leave a comment with one of those names so I can pray for them today. Then pray for the name that is listed above your comment.
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I am so excited about my latest book that is hot off the press: Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer. In it I map out sixteen landmarks to help wives consistently and effectively cover their husbands in prayer from his mind and the thoughts he thinks, to his eyes and the images he sees, all the way down to his feet and the path he takes. The 30-day prayer guide shows women how to pray in ways that are powerful, practical, and life-changing. Not married? This book is a great resource to use to pray for any man in your life...including adult sons, nephews, and that special someone.
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January 7, 2014
Go for the Gold
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Our conscience testifies that we have conducted ourselves in the world, and especially in our relations with you, in the holiness and sincerity that are from God. We have done so not according to worldly wisdom but according to God's grace (2 Corinthians 1:12).
Friend to Friend
I look forward to watching the Winter Olympics, and am always amazed by the amount of training the athletes are willing to invest in order to win a gold, silver, or bronze medal. If Christians were willing to make the same kind of investment in running the race of life, I believe the world would be a very different place.
How important you consider a race to be influences how hard you will run that race and determines the goals you set in order to win. I believe every follower of Christ should have clear life goals based on clear spiritual goals. There is a close connection between reaching spiritual goals and living a life of victory and contentment. If you want your relationship with God to flourish, it needs to be accomplishing something, and steadily growing - which involves learning to set meaningful life goals.
In order to set life goals that honor and please God, it is important to remember that because we are children of God, we walk by faith - not by sight. The world's wisdom is often in direct opposition to the grace of God. In 2 Corinthians 1:12 the apostle Paul reminds us to keep our gaze on God, our glance on our circumstances, and our steps in His will.
One of the most comforting thoughts about setting goals is that God is more concerned about my future than I am. When I stop to think about the fact that God has planned every day of my life, setting goals becomes the daily quest of discovering that plan and choosing to follow it. I find great hope in the knowledge that even though I do not know every detail concerning my future, God does, and He has already made every provision for that plan. In other words, where God guides - He provides. He has already been where He is asking us to go. And that is why I can face each day with a confident expectation that God is sufficient and will bless my life as I seek His plan and set my life goals accordingly. Setting goals is the mark of a seeking heart that longs to please God and experience every blessing He has for us.
A friend once shared with me the idea of making life goals "S.M.A.R.T." Over the years, this idea has become a practical and powerful tool in learning how to set meaningful life goals. I hope it is helpful to you.
Specific. Psalm 139:16 "All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."
Life goals must be specific. Determine precisely what your goals are. What have you always wanted to do but have never had the time or money to do? What would you do if money and time were not an issue? What do you want to accomplish in the next five years? What do you wish you had done in the last five years? What do you think God wants you to do now that you are not doing?
Break each goal down into a series of smaller accomplishments that will result in achieving your primary goal. When you break your goals into bite-sized pieces, they don't seem to be quite as daunting.
By the way, celebrate each time you achieve one of your goals. Sharon Jaynes is a good friend and awesome partner in ministry. I will never forget the day Sharon walked into the office where we both worked, holding what looked like a new baby wrapped in a blanket. Since Sharon's son was in college at the time, you can say I was a little surprised - until she unfolded the blanket and said, "I just gave birth." Her "bundle" was actually the first copy of her new book, and she was celebrating. I joined her in praising God for the goal she had set and met! Praise and celebration can help motivate you to achieve the next goal on your list.
Measurable. Luke 11:28 "Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it."
Can you tangibly show that you met your goal? Goals must be measurable to have life-changing value, and you must be able to tell whether or not you have reached each goal. What specifically do you want to accomplish, and within what time frame? It is so easy to set ambiguous life goals. "I want to get more involved in my church" instead of "I will attend the 10:30 worship service each week." I once set the goal of improving my prayer life, but the first question that popped into my mind was, "How?" A better goal would have been to pray each morning for 10 minutes or recruit a prayer partner to pray with once a week.
Once a goal has been met, review the process of meeting that goal. What mistakes could you have avoided? What changes should you have made along the way? Ask God for wisdom as you plan and set specific goals. Involve Him in every step and be sure to chart your progress. Don't be afraid to make mid-course corrections as needed. We sometimes allow sin to influence the goals we set, but if we submit each goal to God, He will guide us back onto the right path and lead us to re-evaluate each goal
Join me Thursday for the "rest of the story" on setting goals.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today with a heart full of praise and wonder. To think that You created me in response to Your plan is an amazing thought, Lord. But I choose to believe it and celebrate the awesome plan You have for my life. Help me learn how to set life goals that will lead me in Your ways and help me fulfill the purpose for which I was created. Thank You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. With that promise in your heart, begin to evaluate your life goals. Are they specific? Are they measurable? What changes do you need to make in order to set and meet the goals God has for your life? Record those changes below.
Specific goals. Psalm 139:16 "All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." _______________________________________________________
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Measurable goals. Luke 11:28 "Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it."
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One of the most important parts of setting goals is bathing each goal in prayer. When we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and seek to obey His commands, we can come before God in confidence, knowing that He wants to pour out His blessings on our life. He is waiting. We just need to ask. If you struggle with understanding how to pray and how to hear the voice of God, I encourage you to get Chair Time, an E-Book written by Mary's husband, Dan. It will absolutely change your life!
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January 8, 2014
A Warrior in Cute Shoes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him' (Genesis 2:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"In the beginning..."
Those three little words are pregnant with anticipation, and God does not disappoint. Genesis 1:1 tells us, "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth." God said, "Let there be," and there was.
"By the word of the Lord the heavens were made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth" (Psalm 33:6). God decorated the sky with the sun, moon, and stars, separated the seas from the land, scattered seed of every kind in the soil, and released flocks of birds into the sky, swarms of insects into the air, and schools of fish into the sea. On the sixth day, God created all the creeping animals. And He wrapped up His work with a masterful flourish.
"Then God said, 'Let us make man in our image, in our likeness....So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them" (Genesis 1:26-27).
Then, as if the writer really wanted us to fully grasp what transpired during the first week of the earth's existence, he picked up his pen and told the story again. In Genesis 2:4, he starts over: "This is the account of the heavens and the earth when they were created."
This time when the writer got to the part about God creating man, he interjected God's musing after He formed Adam and breathed the breath of life into his lungs. God sat back, considered the lone male, and decided, "It is not good for the man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18).
This is where you come in.
"I will make a helper suitable for him," God declared.
So God set out to fashion His final masterpiece. The crowning touch of His creation. Woman.
Up to this point in the creation account, we have no recorded words from Adam. However, when he laid eyes on the fair Eve, I imagine he said, "Now this is good!" His exact words were, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man" (Genesis 2:23). Woman—the inspiration of man's first poetry and the grand finale of God's creative genius.
Let's back up, replay the scene, and take a look at one particular word God used in the creation account. God said, "I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18). The Hebrew word translated here as "helper" in reference to the woman is ezer. This term is derived from a Hebrew word used of God and the Holy Spirit: azar. Both mean "helper"—one who comes alongside to aid, assist, or rescue. The ESV Study Bible notes that the"helper" is one who supplies strength in the area that is lacking in "the helped."
Ezer appears twenty-one times in the Old Testament. Two times it is used of the woman in Genesis 2, and sixteen times it is used to describe God or Yahweh as the helper of His people. The remaining three references appear in the books of the prophets, referring to military aid. Interestingly the sixteen times the word ezer is used of God, it also carries military connotations.
"O Lord, be my helper," David cried (Psalm 30:10 nasb). "My father's God was my helper; he saved me from the sword of the Pharaoh," Moses proclaimed (Exodus 18:4). Clearly, the word ezer suggests a role of great honor. It is a portrait of great strength.
Theologian William Mounce painted a poignant picture:
With so many references to God as our helper, it is obvious that an ezer is in no way inferior to the one who receives help. This is important because this is the word that God uses in Gen. 2:18, when he says about Adam, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." God then forms Eve as his ezer. According to God's design, therefore, the man and the woman, the husband and the wife, have been designed by God to stand together and help each other fight the battles of life. And God is there as the divine ezer to fight with them.
I was surprised to discover that even the Proverbs 31 woman, this woman who has been showcased as a godly role model for centuries, was referred to in military terms. "An excellent wife, who can find?" the passage begins. "Her worth is far above jewels" (Proverbs 31:10, nasb).
The New International Version calls her "a wife of noble character." The Amplified Bible describes her as "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman." The Hebrew word that is translated "excellent" or "virtuous" can also mean "wealthy, prosperous, valiant, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior."
Did you catch that? Mighty warrior.
And here's some more good news. You can be an ezer whether you are married or single. You are called to be an intercessor, or one who battles on your knees in prayer. You don't even have to wear army boots, but can be a warrior in cute shoes.
So suit up! Power up! You are a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman—a valiant, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior. And I'm so glad to be doing life alongside someone like you!
Let's Pray
Lord, I pray the Holy Spirit will empower me to be a valiant warrior today. Show me who I need to pray for. Whether it is the person in my office, the woman I pass on the street, or the man in the grocery store, show me what to pray and when to pray. I'm suited up and ready.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Open your Bible and read Ephesians 6:10-18 and be reminded about the armor we are to wear each and every day.
It you're suited up and ready for battle, click over to my Facebook page and leave a message that says "I'm suited up and ready!"
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I am so excited about my latest book that is hot off the press: Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer.In it I map out sixteen landmarks to help wives consistently and effectively cover their husbands in prayer from his mind and the thoughts he thinks, to his eyes and the images he sees, all the way down to his feet and the path he takes. The 30-day prayer guide shows women how to pray in ways that are powerful, practical, and life-changing. Not married? This book is a great resource to use to pray for any man in your life...including adult sons, nephews, and that special someone.
Join me and women all around the world in a 30-Day Prayer Dare. Click here to learn more.
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January 9, 2014
Go for the Gold
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take (Proverbs 3:5-6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Someone once said that if God showed us every detail of our lives - all at one time - we would sit down and refuse to face another day. We were not created to be omniscient like God. He reveals our future to us in portions we can digest - like loving parents feeding their child the only type and amount of food the child can handle.
Watching our daughter introduce solid foods to our grandson, Justus, was an intriguing process to watch. I'm not sure if it was the texture or taste that surprised Justus, but the faces he made when that new food was first placed in his little mouth were hilarious. When he liked the new food, his eyes got big and he grinned and made a big smacking sound as if to say, "Where have you been keeping this stuff?" However, a few foods elicited a very different reaction. He scrunched up his face, turned his head away, and promptly spat out the offending food. Danna quickly learned the art of mixing foods in a single bite. She also learned that the food Justus refused to eat on Thursday was often eagerly consumed the next time she tried. God only reveals what we can understand, perceive, apply, and digest at the time.
Attainable. Proverbs 16:3 "Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."
If you have seen the movie, "Miss Congeniality," you will remember when each contestant was asked about life goals. "I want to achieve world peace" was the popular answer. World peace is a great goal, but not attainable by one person. Perhaps a better individual goal would be to make peace with your neighbor. I sometimes think we set life goals that are lofty and unattainable so we can rationalize our way out of even trying to attain it. Reaching a life goal requires action. We are called by God to not only hear His Word, but to put it into practice - to do something about it through setting goals.
A goal should not be set to authenticate what you have already been doing or want to do. God created us to mature, to grow, and to change, not to stand on the sidelines of life. God wants us in the game and on the field of life. Godly goals will push us beyond where we are and what we are capable of. If no effort is required to reach the desired outcome, then it really isn't a goal.
When I was in college, I sensed God leading me to take organ lessons. I had played the piano for years, but suddenly had the desire to play the organ as well. After a few months of lessons, I was asked to play the organ for a countywide crusade to be held at the convention center of the small town where I grew up. Hundreds of people would attend the crusade, and the guest speakers were well-known across the state. I was terrified, but began to practice the organ every spare minute of every day. By the time the crusade came, I was able to play each song that was handed to me. It was definitely "a God-thing."
Sidebar: Ask a trusted friend to hold you accountable in each area where you want to improve, grow, or achieve. Choose a friend from whom you can easily take criticism – a friend who will lovingly push you a little when you aren't following through on your goals. When we involve others, we tend to feel a greater sense of responsibility and accountability. Run your plans and goals past other people. You don't want to do this with every goal or at every step along the way, but involving others with big and important plans is a great idea, especially if those plans impact other people.
Realistic. Hebrews 11:6 "And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him."
It is easy to establish a goal that is totally unrealistic. In doing so, we are setting ourselves up to fail. I once set a goal to read and memorize at least two chapters of the Bible each week. Yes, it was a great goal, but it was also an unrealistic goal for that season of my life. I had two small children and was directing the women's ministry of the church where my husband was the lead pastor. In my spare time, I taught a community Bible study, had 20 voice and piano students each week, and was traveling and speaking for women's events. When I did not reach that goal of memorizing two chapters of Scripture each week, I beat myself up with guilt. A more realistic goal would have been to memorize a few verses each week.
At this point, it is good to brutally examine motives. Are the goals I am setting from God, or are they from our own selfish desires? Do I want my relationship with God to grow, or do I want others to think I am Godly? Consciously decide in light of Scripture which goals you will prioritize, or you will most likely end up surrendering to the "tyranny of the urgent" or just doing the next and easiest thing.
Timely. Ephesians 5:15-16"Be very careful, then, how you live, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."
Deadlines help me achieve my goals. When someone books me to speak for an event, I always ask them to give me a deadline for submitting handouts and slides, shipping resources, etc. I then record those deadlines on my personal calendar. If I don't, I often find myself scrambling to get books shipped in time for the event and end up paying extra postage or I have to download slides onto a memory stick to take with me to the event. If you give yourself a deadline, you will get more done.
Write out a list of things that would need to change in your life in order to reach your goals. The only reason we sometimes don't accomplish our goals is that we don't have a written plan of what needs to be done. Without having the ability to review goals regularly, we tend to lose our focus. Before we know it, a month or two has gone by, there is no progress, and we are frustrated that we are no closer to the realization of our goals.
Pray! Ask God to give you direction to create goals and help you to reach them. He has plans and purposes for our lives. Success and purpose come when we find out what they are and go after them wholeheartedly. Bathe your goals and plans with prayer, and ask the Lord to bless you as you work toward each one.
We need to order our lives in a more conscious way. Set forward-focused, spiritually sound goals, and be delivered from the futility and defeat of a life without purpose.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to follow Your plan for my life. Please lead me and guide me in Your ways. Give me Your wisdom and truth and show me the purpose for which I was created. I will seek You first in my life. I will trust You with my whole heart and do whatever You ask me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take."
Record these verses in your journal.
Circle each action word.
In your own words, define the action words you circled.
How can you apply each directive to your daily life?
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One of the most important parts of setting goals is bathing each goal in prayer. When we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and seek to obey His commands, we can come before God in confidence, knowing that He wants to pour out His blessings on our life. He is waiting. We just need to ask. If you struggle with understanding how to pray and how to hear the voice of God, I encourage you to get Chair Time, an E-Book written by Mary's husband, Dan. It will absolutely change your life!
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January 10, 2014
Climbing to High Places
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
How Awesome is the Lord Most High, the great King over all the earth." (Psalm 47:2)
Friend to Friend
My husband, Brad, and I celebrated 20 years of marriage last summer by taking a trip to several cities, far away. We planned our days and painstakingly plotted touring strategies in order to see the sites, view the views, eat the foods, experience the local charms and soak in the unfamiliar cultures as best we could. Each city boasted different personalities and attractions, but one thing was consistent about our approach in every location: we climbed to high places.
And we climbed.
We climbed and we climbed... thousands of steps. I kid you not! We climbed up creaky, dusty, windy staircases of old cathedrals and up small steps in tall buildings. We climbed fancy-schmancy staircases in opulent castles, up ancient stone staircases in an arena, up earthen lava trails on the sides of a dormant volcano and up steep, grassy paths on scenic hills.
Every ascent was both an adventure and a challenge. The rewards of each strenuous climb, however, were breath-taking views that gave us a bigger picture of the locations we were visiting. We saw beauty and grandeur. We gained clarity and focus. We got fresh perspectives. It was awesome.
Have you ever looked out an airplane window and seen the world from above the clouds? Have you ever taken in mountain hike views or climbed to the top of a lighthouse? High places are incredible. High places can also be humbling as they show how small we are in light of this massive earth and galaxy in which we live.
God is El Elyon, the Lord Most High. The highest of highs! The psalmist said it this way, "How awesome is the Lord Most High, the great King over all the earth." (Psalm 47:2) God is all-knowing, all-powerful, glorious and full of splendor. He. Is. Awesome!
So, how can and should who He is affect our day-to-day views? Our perspectives change when we look up and climb to the sacred chambers of the Most High God. Think about how your mindset changes when you get a fresh perspective.
Maybe you have a few heart burdens or disappointments that are keeping you from high views. We all find our place discouraged at times. Psalm 123:1-2 says, "To you I lift up my eyes, O you who are enthroned in the heavens!Behold, as the eyes of servants
look to the hand of their master, as the eyes of a maidservant to the hand of her mistress,
so our eyes look to the Lord our God, till he has mercy upon us." (ESV) The Hebrew word for "lift" is nasa' meaning, "to lift, bear up, carry, take." So when we look up, bear up, carry up and take up our concerns to God His mercy meets with us. He meets us with mercy because He loves us.
But... we still have challenges and they weigh us down. Our burdens shouldn't keep us from climbing to high places – from the highest place – but often they do. They keep us from experiencing the mercy and help of God and they consume our mind with low and discouraging thoughts.
How can we connect our low or average life places to God's highest place... to the place of His grace... His power... His provision... His love... His forgiveness... His rest? We can ask God for help. We can be still before Him, confess our sins, remember that He is God and we are not. We can ask Him for the courage we need to move forward in His strength.
When Brad and I wanted to get better views we climbed. It took intentional effort. We took step after step until we reached the top and each climb met us with a beautiful reward. The distance between our low, dim-viewed living and the high places we are invited to experience in Christ will only change if we climb. When we look up, God lifts us up... and the view from the top is always incredible.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank you for reminding me that You are the Most High God! Help me to climb beyond my discouragements and challenges toward Your provision and help.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I'm a music girl. As you reflect on today's devotion, click here to listen to a song that will lead you to God's heart in responsive worship.
Read Psalm 47 and journal a prayer response.
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January 13, 2014
God's Looking for a Gap Girl
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
God said, 'I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none,'(Ezekiel 22:30, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Well, I guess the only thing left to do is pray about it."
How many times have I heard those words? How many times have they slipped past my lips? But what if we looked at prayer from a different perspective... God's perspective? What if we viewed prayer as our first course of action rather than a last resort?
The vast majority of the e-mails I receive through my ministry center around marriage problems. Women struggle with husbands who aren't living up to their expectations: men who work too much and love too little, men who withdraw emotionally and advance sexually, men who initially appear to be Prince Charming but later reveal the villain within.
The second most common request is in regard to children—both school-age children, and adult children out on their own. Listen, I get that. Been there. Still there on many days.
Regardless of where your marriage, your children, or your family fall on the continuum of terrific to tolerable to terrible, there is always room for improvement. Prayer can make a bad situation good and a good situation great.
One thing we have to remember: Prayer is not a means of gaining control over your husband, to whip him into shape and make him the man you want him to be. Prayer is a means of relinquishing control of your husband and asking God to shape him into the man that He wants him to be. Prayer involves turning the finger that points out your man's faults and folding it along with the others in prayer.
Prayer is not a not a means of getting your children to be exactly what you want them to be, but for them to be exactly what God wants them to be.
Prayer is not a means to gain control over any situation in your life, but to relinquish control so that God can do what God needs to do.
The Bible tells us in Isaiah 29:16, "You turn things upside down, as if the potter were thought to be like the clay! Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, 'He did not make me?' Can the pot say of the potter, 'He knows nothing'?"
God is the Master Potter, and He certainly doesn't need you or me to tell Him how to shape and mold the people that we are praying for. Oh, we'd like to. That's for sure.
But God's ultimate goal is for each lump of clay to be fashioned according to His design and for His purposes, not ours. "We are the clay, you are the potter," Isaiah writes, "we are all the work of your hand" (Isaiah 64:8). I am. You are. Whoever you are praying for today is.
God shapes and molds. You pray and intercede.
James warns about the danger of praying with wrong motives (James 4:3). Check your desire to control at the door of the prayer closet and don't let it in.
God is not hoarding His blessings, waiting for us to say the right words to pry those blessings out of His stingy hand. He longs to lavish us with His goodness! (Ephesians 1:7-8) And yet He often waits for us to ask. I am not saying I understand it. Prayer is simply how He chose to engineer the flow of His power and activity from the spiritual realm into the physical realm. Prayer is the conduit through which God's power is released and His will is brought to earth as it is in heaven.
It is not that God cannot act without the prayers of His people. He can do anything He pleases (Psalm 115:3). However, He has established prayer as the gate through which His blessings flow. James reminds us: "You do not have, because you do not ask" (James 4:2).
Ezekiel gives us a glimpse into the heart of God regarding prayer. Israel had sinned in every possible way, and her people were doomed for destruction. God said, "I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none" (Ezekiel 22:30). God looked for someone to pray, to intercede, to stand in the gap for Israel, but there was no one.
Today God is looking for wives who will stand in the gap for their husbands, moms who will stand in the gap for their children, and women who will stand in the gap for their friends. I'm so glad He has found such a woman in you.
If you're standing in the gap for someone today, click over to my Facebook pageand say, "I'm a Gap Girl!"
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, today I stand in the gap for __________. I pray for _________'s mind, that You would keep wrong thinking out and usher truthful thinking in. I pray for ________'s eyes, that he/she would turn his/her eyes toward what is good, and away from what is evil. I pray for _______'s ears, that he/she will listen to words and music that glorifies You, and turn his/her ears away from words and music that would do his/her soul harm.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Has God called you to stand in the gap for someone today?
Here are the sixteen landmarks of prayer that I cover in Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe. You can use these same landmarks to pray for anyone.
His mind: What he thinks about
His eyes: What he looks at
His ears: What he listens to
His mouth: The words he speaks
His neck: His decisions that turn his head
His shoulders: His burdens and worries
His heart: Who and What he loves
His back: His protection
His arms: His strength
His hands: His work
His ring finger: His marriage
His side: His relationships
His sexuality: His need for physical intimacy
His legs: His stand for the truth
His knees: His relationship with God
His feet: His walk
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I am so excited about my latest book that is hot off the press: Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer. In it I map out sixteen landmarks to help wives consistently and effectively cover their husbands in prayer from his mind and the thoughts he thinks, to his eyes and the images he sees, all the way down to his feet and the path he takes. The 30-day prayer guide shows women how to pray in ways that are powerful, practical, and life changing. Not married? This book is a great resource to use to pray for any man in your life...including adult sons, nephews, and that special someone.
Join me and women all around the world in a 30-Day Prayer Dare. Click here to learn more.
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January 14, 2014
Escaping the Pit of Depression
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was the spring of 1995, and I was empty. My energy was gone. I was exhausted in every way, but honestly, I had the right to feel that way. It had been a nonstop year for me.
My husband was the pastor/teacher of Flamingo Road Church, a contemporary, seeker-sensitive ministry in Fort Lauderdale that had exploded in growth and begun meeting in multiple services. I attended every service, going early to welcome newcomers, and staying late to smooth the ruffled feathers of disgruntled church members. We were in the process of transitioning from a traditional church to a contemporary one. Change is always hard, but this experience had been a nightmare.
I had never encountered such opposition or been the target of such criticism, and I had never known such rejection as people I thought were friends attacked my husband's integrity, heart, and vision. I felt like a wounded soldier and wasn't sure I would survive the war. I knew we were being obedient to what God had called us to do, but some people in our church disagreed. I was hurt and angry, and didn't know what to do with those emotions.
My ministry as the church pianist had become more of a pain than a joy. Singing was no longer the overflow of a daughter's full heart, but the hollow performance of a spiritual chore. I loved being a mom, but, lately, even that role felt more like an unwelcome burden.
I was usually the one who gave help – the one other people came to for advice. People who knew me well would describe me as a strong woman. I was driven to excel in everything, and if I couldn't do it perfectly, I didn't do it at all. I was legalistically disciplined ... with little sympathy for weak people. Now I, the strong one, couldn't get out of bed. The simplest decision often sent me into a full-blown panic attack. The great wisdom-giver couldn't compile a grocery list. The woman who taught hundreds of women couldn't bring herself to face crowds of any size. The large tasks of life were out of the question, and even the simplest tasks seemed like huge mountains.
Meals, housework, and shopping were all left undone. If I somehow managed to get out of bed and get dressed by the time our kids got home from school, it was a good day. All I wanted to do was sleep. I wanted the world to go away and leave me alone.
I was paralyzed.
I had fallen into a deep, dark, nameless pit.
I had no idea how I got there. And even more frightening was the stark reality that I had no idea how to get out.
I decided I was just tired and needed to rest, so my family and I escaped the hot, humid flatlands of Florida to enjoy three weeks in the cool mountains of North Carolina, my favorite vacation spot. That vacation is a complete blur. Our children knew something was terribly wrong. They had never seen their mom so quiet ... so still ... and so sad. Dan listened patiently as I poured out my fear and confusion each night. There seemed to be no answers ... only questions. In his eyes, I could see the growing fear that I felt in my own heart.
We had never been here before. It was a foreign land. We had no idea how to navigate these unfamiliar waters. I was in serious trouble, and I needed help.
As each day grew darker, Dan and I both realized we had to come up with a plan – quickly! We decided I would see a Christian counselor Dan often referred people to and in whom he had great confidence. My first appointment with Betty was uneventful as far as I could tell - and a total waste of time. I was furious! She was supposed to "fix" me in those few hours and had failed miserably. She did, however, accomplish one thing. She named my pit.
Clinical depression was a problem I knew little about. Evidently, strong, committed Christians were not supposed to get depressed, because I had never heard anyone in the church even talk about depression, much less admit they struggled with it. I recoiled at the thought of such blatant weakness in my life. I felt ashamed of what was obviously a great failure on my part, but I was desperate and willing to do whatever it took to climb out of that pit.
I also knew I could not make this journey alone. Over the next year, Dan and Betty, along with many others, climbed down into that dark, slimy pit with me and became God with skin on. God really did work through them to bring me out of that pit.
I believe one reason God allows me to struggle with depression is to help others.
You do not have to be a prisoner of the darkness.
You do not have to stand helplessly by while a friend or family member drowns in the darkness of depression.
We were created to dwell in the light.
Lift up your head, open your heart, and listen for the voice of the One who knows you best and loves you most. He is with you and He will deliver you.
Let's Pray
Lord, it seems as if my world has collapsed, hurling me into a deep, dark pit. I come to you in complete surrender. I am desperate for you, helpless and afraid. Please lift me out of this pit and show me the way, Lord. In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pour out your heart to your God, asking Him to uncover the dark places in your life. As He does, record them in your journal. Be honest with yourself and with God. Read Psalm 40:1-3 each day and claim it as God's promise to you.
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Statistics show that more people struggle with depression during the months of January and February than at any other time of the year. I know. Depression is a constant thorn in my side. Over the next few weeks, some of my devotions will address the topic of depression. I pray they will be helpful to you.
My book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, is my story of desperation, brokenness and restoration. It is also the story of God's power to help you overcome depression in your own life, and offers practical ways you can help someone you love deal with depression. Check it out.
Looking for a Bible Study?Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue, beginning January 20, 2014.
And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 15, 2014
Coming Out of the Dark
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
"I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry" (Psalm 40:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Patience is not my greatest virtue. I do not like to wait – for anyone or anything - which is precisely why you should never get in line behind me at the grocery store. It doesn't matter if there are two people or ten people in front of me, my line will invariably be the slowest line. I do not like to wait on God either ... but was forced to do so when I found myself sitting at the bottom of a pit called clinical depression. I was empty and more tired than I had ever been in my life. I kept asking, "How did I get here?"
Depression is not an overnight phenomenon. I can honestly say that I don't know a single person who has climbed out of bed in the morning and said, "Hmmm ... I think I will jump into the pit of depression today." Deliverance from that pit is usually not an overnight process either. It takes time and patience.
1. Wait. The psalmist simply says,"I waited." Waiting is not passive. Waiting is meant to be a time of preparation, a time of rest and healing,
To wait means to accept the pit. Isaiah 45:3 (NIV) "I will give you hidden treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name."
Any time "LORD" is capitalized in Scripture, it means "Abba Father." This verse indicates that our Father has gone before us and buried a treasure or stored a secret in every dark moment or painful circumstance. The only way we can find the treasure or learn the secret is to pass through that darkness. Some things cannot be learned in the light. To wait means to accept the pit, knowing it is for our good.
To wait means to admit there is a problem. Isaiah 40:29 (NLT) "He gives power to those who are tired and worn out; he offers strength to the weak."
Emotional health begins at the point of emotional integrity with a willingness to say, "I need help!" As I shared in yesterday's devotion, my husband was the pastor of a large church in South Florida when clinical depression overwhelmed my life. We could choose to be transparent and real, or we could sweep my struggle under the rug. We concluded that in order to be right, we had to be real. Dan and I shared my battle with the staff, the deacons, and then with the entire church. Yes, we took a risk, but we learned an important lesson in doing so. A shared load is a lighter load. We were created to need each other.
To wait means to be still. Psalm 40:1 "I waited ..." To wait means to hope in and look for someone or something who will rescue us.
So much about God can never be known on the run. I was so wrapped up in serving God that I had failed to be wrapped up in Him. During those two years in the pit, I not only gave up every role of leadership, there were many times when I could not even attend church because of panic attacks. God taught me an important truth. He is more concerned with who I am than what I do. No one can take my place in His heart.
2. Be patient. It took twenty-two years for the McDonald's hamburger chain to make its first billion dollars. It took IBM forty-six years and Xerox sixty-three years to make their first billion. Harvey Mackay, in his book Swim with the Sharks, tells of an interview with the 88-year-old President of Japan's largest and most successful electrical enterprise. The interview went as follows:
Question: Mr. President, does your company have long-range goals?
Answer: "Yes."
Question: "How long are your long-range goals?"
Answer: "Two hundred and fifty years."
Question: "What do you need to carry them out?"
Answer: "Patience."
David said, "I waited patiently for the Lord." The word "patiently" means "without tiring and with perseverance." It took me many years to hit rock bottom. It took me two years to climb out of that pit, and I am still climbing. Yes, I still battle depression from time to time. Depression keeps me broken and on my face before God – and that is a good thing.
Depression may not be the problem you are facing, but at some point in life, we will all face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. But a pit is a pit – a place of paralyzing fear and numbing doubt that is constantly fed by our human frailty and desperate attempts to escape the darkness.
The good news is that God is drawn to broken people. Psalm 40:1 says, "He turned to me." Notice it does not say that David turned to God. Honestly, I doubt David had the strength to turn to God ... so God turned to him. God heard the cry of David and he will hear yours. I don't know if you are in a pit and need help or if someone you love is in that pit and needs your help, but one thing I do know is that the purpose of the pit is to purify and then to restore. Right now, surrender the broken pieces of your life to God. He can and will bring you out of the dark.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired. I can't hear Your voice or sense Your presence in my life. My faith is weak and I need Your strength to go on. Right now, I am laying the broken pieces of my life at Your feet and counting on You to come through for me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 40:1-3. "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God."
Circle all of the "action" words in these verses. What does God ask you to do? What does God say He will do? Do you believe Him? Are you willing to let Him be God in your life?
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If you or someone you love is dealing with depression, I encourage you to check out these FREE resources on my website. My book, Hope in the Midst of Depression, is a practical guide for anyone dealing with depression and will help you learn how to:
Change a negative thought life into positive, healthy thought patterns.
Control and use the power of emotions to avoid erratic mood swings.
Enjoy better relationships by establishing replenishing friendships and managing draining ones.
Re-set priorities to have a more balanced life
Looking for a Bible Study? Enroll in Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. We will experience pain and hurt but we can learn how to handle the hurt in a way that honors God and assures a life of victory. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 16, 2014
Be My Portion, Part 1
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him." (Lamentations 3:24, ESV)
Friend to Friend
I am a lot of things, but low maintenance is not necessarily one of them. Straight up, I am a girl with some constant cravings. Though I do try to savor life moments with gratitude, I fail all the time. Many days, I find myself looking beyond my now to my next, longing in discontent. I seek God's blessings instead of seeking God. I seek His hand instead of His heart. This frazzles my peace and messes with my joy. It tangles my heart in knots until I begin to dance through my days to the tune of, "I can't get no satisfaction!"
Why do we desire God's presents in our lives more than His presence? Does God need us to tell Him how to be God? Isn't that what we do when we stomp our feet before His throne and whine about all of the things that need fixing instead of praising Him for the strength He graciously gives us to get through? While we're certainly encouraged by Scripture to make our requests known to the Father (Philippians 4:6), the highest calling on our lives is to love God with all of our hearts, souls, bodies and minds (Matthew 22:37). We can do both, but we are commanded to seek God first: to look to Him as our Ultimate. Our Portion.
Asaph wrote Psalm 73 with a lot on his mind. He was flustered about all the bad people around him. He wondered why God wasn't smacking them around for being so wretched and was struggling to keep his eyes on his own life. Sound familiar?
Then his woes turned to worship as he entered into the sanctuary of God (v17). His heart began to untangle as he remembered God's sovereignty. In Psalm 73:26, he finally landed in a good place. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
He took a deep breath and found his God-confidence.
Oh, how I can relate to that!
The Bible shows us time and time again that when we prioritize God – when we look to Him to be our Portion – we are supernaturally equipped to rest in Him. Do you remember that old hymn His Eye Is On The Sparrow? Girlfriend, God doesn't miss a trick. He knows what's going on.
"And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, He will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
"So don't worry about these things, saying, 'what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.
"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today(Matthew 6:30-34, NLT).
If divine eyes rest on tiny sparrows and flowers of the fields, how much more are the needs and desires of God's children known to Him?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Would You be my Portion today? Help me to trust Your plan and rest in Your grace – beyond what I see or feel. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How has God met your needs in the past? Do you trust that He is able to meet them today? Let's take the conversation deeper. Click here to tell me what that might look like for you.
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Are you struggling to trust that God can actually be your Portion? Think His promises are for everyone but you? Learn how God wants to bring you beyond your past heart-wounds and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy click here.
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January 17, 2014
Be My Portion, Part 2
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in Him" (Lamentations 3:24, ESV).
Friend to Friend
I sometimes run to God as if He's a celestial Wal-Mart purposed to satisfy my every want. Change my family. Fix my job problem, God. Do it my way! Instead of leaning in to hear the whispered will of the Lord, I selfishly shout my will, my desires and my demands. Lord, give me relief from life-pressures instead of giving me strength to endure them. When I'm desperate to fill my mega-sized heart-cart with things that I want, I rob myself of what really matters: the pursuit of God and the blessings found in Him alone.
The truth is that even those of us who are Jesus-girls, you know... good Christian women who strive each day to live for Christ... continually sin and wallow in the shallow, unsatisfying waters of discontentment. We tell God what we'd like Him to do for us so we can be happy and then expect Him to intervene in ways that suit us. We blur the lines between our wants and our needs – between our plans and God's plans.
In part one of this devotion, we were reminded to rest in God. We looked at His care of the sparrows, considered that God loves us even more than he does the birds of the air, and were challenged not to worry. Today, we focus on prioritizing God above all else. Matthew 6:33 instructs us to seek God first: to look to Him as our Ultimate. Our Portion. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. (Matthew 6:33, ESV)
David modeled this beautifully when he called out to God in the midst of trouble and recognized Him as being enough. I cry to you, O Lord; I say, "You are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living" (Psalm 142:5). In Psalm 119, the psalmist recognizes God as his portion and takes the moment of surrender a step further by tethering his satisfaction with obedience. You are my portion, O Lord; I have promised to obey your words. I have soughtyour face with all my heart; be gracious to meaccording to your promise (Psalm 119:57-58).
Life is unpredictable. There will always be days that we want to yell, C'mon, God! Throw me a bone here! I could use a little help, please! It is not a bad thing to call to God in the midst of our struggles. In fact, we should! We must! The big game changer, however, is not God's presents – but His presence. Refuge from our circumstances and contentment in the midst of them is found in the center of our surrender.
So what's the connection point between our longings and His provision? Perhaps the better question is not what but who? The late pastor and theologian Charles Spurgeon said it this way, "It is not 'The Lord is partly my portion,' nor 'The Lord is in my portion'; but He Himself makes up the sum total of my soul's inheritance. Within the circumference of that circle lies all that we possess or desire. The Lord is my portion. Not His grace merely, nor His love, nor His covenant, but Yahweh himself."
Once again, Spurgeon hits the nail on the head. We are distracted cravers when we expect our people, places and things to fill our hearts as only God can. God loves us so much. Why do we forget this all the time? His plan is perfect and we can trust Him. He knows our needs and desires. When we seek Him as the answer instead of for the answer, God enables us to rest in confidence that He's working on our behalf and in our best interest, to bring glory to Himself through our lives.
Set your list of wants aside today and seek God. Go before Him with a heart of worship and adoration. Get lost in His presence. Remember His mercy. Relish His grace. Love Him. Seek Him. Choose Him as your Portion.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please be my Portion. Forgive me for the times when I seek Your blessings before I seek Your heart. You are all I need. In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and consider these verses: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God." (Psalm 42:1-2a)
Spend a moment in prayer asking the LORD to increase your thirst for Him.
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Today's Truth
Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering (Mark 5:34, NIV).
Friend to Friend
"Gone. All gone."
For twelve long years, she had been bleeding. Over 4,380 days. Lydia had gone from doctor to doctor to try and stop the flow, but as the years progressed she only worsened. Each day was a reminder of the emptiness she felt as her very life ebbed from her body.
"I've lost my family, my friends, my energy and now all my money. My very womanhood, the ability to conceive and suckle a child at my breast flows out of my body and leaves me a barren wasteland. And the pain? The constant cramping feels as though my womb is being squeezed by an invisible hand.
"'Unclean.' That's what the priests say I am. No one is supposed to even touch me unless they are willing to go through a cleansing process afterwards. The house I live in, the chair I sit in, the utensils I cook with—all ceremonially unclean. Oh how I long for a human touch. A hug. A kiss. A pat on the back. A baby's cheek against my own.
"Oh, God," Lydia prayed. "There is nothing else for me to do. I've tried everything. Only a miracle will set me free from this life of isolation."
God smiled down at his daughter of Abraham and noticed her name on Jesus' celestial day-timer. Today was the day.
Sitting all alone in a darkened room, she heard a ruckus outside her window.
"It's Jesus!" someone shouted. "Jesus is coming!"
"Jesus,"she whispered to herself. "Maybe he could heal me. I know I'm not supposed to go out in public. Certainly I cannot speak to this man or any man on the street. What can I do?"
Quickly, she devised a plan. She wrapped a veil around her face with only enough of an opening for her eyes to peer out. She snuck out of her home and merged with the throng of people trying to catch a glimpse of the much-acclaimed healer and teacher. Gathering all the courage she could muster, she pushed her way through the crowd in hopes of getting close enough just to touch the hem of his robe.
"Jesus!" a man called from the crowd. Like the parting of the sea, the multitude gave way for the synagogue ruler to pass. Everyone knew Jarius. He was important.
Jesus turned as Jarius fell at his feet and begged. "My little daughter is dying," he began. "Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live."
The woman looked on as Jesus extended his hand to this distraught father, compassionately helped him to his feet, and apparently changed course to go with him. It was then she made her move.
Shoring up courage and confidence, Lydia began muttering to herself, "If I can just touch his clothes, I will be healed. I know it. I just know it. I can't let this opportunity slip away." While unsure of herself, she was confident in Him. Her faith overcame her fear and she pressed forward.
Like a runner stretching for the finish line, the woman reached through the crowd and brushed her fingers against the hem of his garment. Just as her faith reached out to touch Jesus, God's healing power reached down to touch her. Immediately, she felt a surge of power flow through her body and the flow of blood come to a halt.
She knew it. She felt it. The flow stopped...and then Jesus stopped.
"Who just touched my clothes?" he asked.
The woman kept her eyes fixed to the ground as a jumble of thoughts scrambled through her mind. I'm unclean and not supposed to be out in public. I'm not supposed to touch anyone. What am I going to do? If I remove my veil people wil recognize me. I'm not supposed to talk to a man in public. She wanted to run, but her feet were suddenly rooted to the ground.
"You see the people crowding against you," his disciples answered, "and yet you can ask, 'Who touched me?'"
Jesus ignored the disciples' comments and continued to pan the crowd in search of the person who had purposely touched his robe. He felt the power flow from his body like a current. He knew what had happened. Jesus can always sense the difference between the press of the curious and the touch of the faithful.
Silence hung like a cloud. No one said a word.
Finally, Lydia couldn't hold it in any longer. She turned to Jesus and fell at his feet. With trembling voice, a geyser of gratitude and confession gushed forth.
"Master, I have had an issue of blood for over twelve years. I have gone from doctor to doctor and no one has been able to help me. I've lost my family, my friends and my finances. But when I heard that you were passing through, I just knew that you, O Lord, you could heal me. I know I'm not supposed to touch anyone. I know that I am unclean in all regards. Please forgive me for the intrusion. But Jesus, what I have to tell you is this! I am healed! As soon as I touched the hem of your robe, the blood ceased to flow! Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus."
While others began to back away from her "uncleanness," Jesus reached forward and embraced her faith.
"Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that when I feel alone and forgotten, You see me. Thank you for sending Jesus my way. Even though others may desert me, You always draw me near.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's devotion is a retelling of Jesus healing the woman with the twelve year bleeding in Mark 5:21-34. I encourage you to go back and read it from the Bible.
How do you think you would you feel if you had been bleeding for twelve years?
Have you ever felt forgotten?
How would you feel if Jesus stopped right in the middle of what He was doing to speak to you and take care of your needs?
Sister...He has. Do you believe it? If so, click over to my Facebook page and say, Jesus has stopped for me.
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the Gospels with our twenty-first-century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours. To order this life-changing book, visit www.sharonjaynes.com. You'll fall in love with Jesus all over again.
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January 21, 2014
Do Wrinkles Make You Die?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My dear brothers and sisters take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It had been a very long and extremely hard day. My husband's grandmother had died, and we had just returned from her funeral. Trying to establish a sense of normality for our two young children, I unpacked suitcases, started the laundry, and spent some time playing with Jered and Danna. After a dinner during which Dan and I tried to lighten the atmosphere with silly bantering, we got the kids ready for bed.
Dan and Danna headed to her room for one last game of "Pretty, Pretty Princess" before bed. (And let me just say that you have not lived until you have seen Dan Southerland in a tiara and pink plastic earrings!) Jered and I settled in his bedroom to read books, play with his Hot Wheels, and just talk. We prayed together and Jered climbed into bed. I gave him a kiss and a hug and tucked him into a blanket, a nightly ritual of creating a "Jered-ito."
As I turned on his nightlight and started out of the room, Jered's question stopped me in my tracks. "Mama, do wrinkles make you die?" he asked. Ordinarily, I would have dismissed his question as a childish ploy to delay bedtime, but in a rare moment of wisdom as a mom, I sat on the edge of our son's bed, took his hand and asked, "Son, what do you mean?"
Jered smiled and replied, "Well, Grandmother died and she had sooooooo many wrinkles." Dan's grandmother battled pernicious anemia for many years. The illness itself and the medications she had to take for that condition had left her skin damaged and very wrinkled. "Yes, honey, Grandmother was sick and had a lot of wrinkles. I still don't understand your question." After a moment of silence, Jered said, "Well, at dinner tonight you and daddy were joking about who had the most wrinkles, and I just need to know if wrinkles make you die."
Wow! Over the years, I have thanked God so many times for the Holy Spirit who prompted me to stop and really listen to our son. We talked for a long time about the fact that wrinkles don't make you die, but we also talked about the fact that Grandmother Lois was in Heaven and did not have any more wrinkles. And that she was well and no longer in pain. It was one of the most meaningful conversations Jered and I have ever had about life and death and the fact that when we know Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we will go to heaven where Grandmother Lois will be waiting for us.
I have had to learn how to listen – really listen. For years, I used the time someone was speaking to formulate a clever response. Oh, I looked into their eyes but I didn't really see them. I heard their words, but I did not really listen. I failed to hear what was behind the words – the hurt and pain or the confusion and questioning heart.
I now work hard to realize that every person God sends my way is really seeking His listening heart at work in and through me.
I try to look for the pain hidden in each word.
I pray for wisdom to respond in a way that will promote restoration and encourage healing.
I have a long way to go, but I want to be "God with skin on" when it comes to learning how to listen.
Listeningby definition means "attention, with the intention to understand." James says we should be "quick to listen and slow to speak" (James 1:19). Talking is sharing, but listening is caring.
Take a tip from creation. Ears aren't made to shut, but the mouth is. Put away your sermon, save your advice, and just listen. Sometimes the best gift we can give is a listening ear.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a date - spending some special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was of her. After he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, "Longer, Daddy, longer." He didn't eat much food that day, but a little girl's hungry heart was fed because her father was willing to listen.
Are there any hungry hearts in your life that long for nothing more than your listening heart?
I am convinced Jesus was an amazing listener. Children loved him and longed to spend time with Him. Hurting people were drawn to Him. People from every walk of life sought Him out. He always made time to listen to those in need. We need to do the same.
Let's Pray
Father, I am sorry for the times when I have failed to really listen to the people in my life who need my love and undivided attention. Help me to become a better listener. Teach me to encourage others by the way I listen to them.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How would you rate yourself in the listening department? Do any of the following characteristics apply to you? If so, what steps do you need to take to become a better listener?
_____ Too busy
_____ Preoccupied
_____ Failure to focus
_____ A judgmental attitude
_____ Don't care enough
More from the Girlfriends
Friendship can often be complicated and always requires hard work on our part. We can learn to be a better friend and have more genuine friendships when we apply God's relationship principles in our lives. Mary's CD, I Need a Friend, will help you discover those principles and teach you how to apply them. Check it out.
Freebies! Don't miss the FREE RESOURCES on Mary's website! Book excerpts, articles, MP3s ... and more are waiting for you.
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January 23, 2014
That "Little" Sin
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? (Matthew 7:3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My husband, Dan, was a church pastor in South Florida for several years. One of our favorite traditions at that church was the Thanksgiving Day breakfast. Even our kids got in on the action. We woke while it was still dark and headed to the church to help dozens of volunteers mix and cook mountains of pancakes, stacks of bacon, and, as they say in the south, a heap of eggs and biscuits ... in short, a scrumptious Thanksgiving breakfast. Following the breakfast, we had a time of worship, and Dan shared a brief message after which families headed home to enjoy the rest of their holiday.
Then the cleanup began. We all shifted into high gear, breaking down tables, washing dishes and getting the buildings ready for the weekend services. The kids quickly completed their assigned tasks and promptly disappeared to play until it was time to head home.
I was finishing up in the kitchen when our daughter came running in, crying and holding a paper towel over her eye. "What happened, honey?" I asked. "I don't know, Mom. We were playing and something flew in my eye and it really hurts!" she cried. I looked at our son and his friends for a translation. "We were having a mulch war and Danna got some in her eye." Since I wear contacts, I always carry saline solution and thought that would take care of the problem. I couldn't see anything in Danna's eye, but after washing it out she said it felt better and we headed home. However, as the day wore on, it was obvious that something was in her eye as the pain increased and the eye began to swell. We called a friend who is an optometrist. Since he lived close by, he sweetly agreed to drop by and take a look at Danna's eye. After a quick exam, he said, "She does have something in her eye but I will need to see her in my office to remove it." He applied numbing drops, an eye patch, and said he would meet us at his office in the morning. Even though I still couldn't see anything in our daughter's eye, I knew it was there.
When we arrived at the doctor's office, he went to work and within seconds handed me a tiny speck of mulch nestled on a tissue. I could barely see it. But Danna blinked a couple of times and grinned. "It doesn't hurt any more, Mom." I remember wondering how something so small could cause so much pain.
Sin is like that. We may view it as nothing more than a little lie or an insignificant transgression, but it was enough to send Jesus to the cross. If we refuse to deal with sin, it will surely cause pain and damage in our lives.1 John 1:9 says: "If we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done." This verse was written to believers as an encouragement to deal with sin and as a promise that when we do so, God is faithful to forgive us and to clean up the mess that sin has caused.
We are not perfect – just forgiven. To experience that forgiveness fully, we need to keep short books on sin. That means being sensitive to sin and immediately choosing to do something about it. God is serious about sin. We need to be as well.
1. We must confess sin continually. "Confess" means to agree with and is a present tense verb meaning that we must confess sin frequently, without stopping.
2. We must confess sin completely.We commit sins one at a time. We need to confess them one-by-one as well.
3. We must confess our sin confidently.Once we confess and repent of our sin, we can put it behind us. God is just and fair – seeking only one payment for sin. Jesus has already made full and complete payment with His death on the cross.
One of Satan's favorite tactics is to resurrect buried sin. Wrapping that confessed transgression in his vain taunts and useless accusations, the enemy hauls it back into focus, hoping that guilt will paralyze and imprison a soul set free. Satan can hold us prisoner if we let him. But how often do we believe his empty lies – and by doing so, grant him access to that which he has no right? To break the hold of sin, we can and must stand against the enemy. We cannot trust our feelings, but we can trust God's Word, which is unchanging and crystal clear – when we confess sin, God forgives it.
Let's Pray
Father, do not let me ever forget the price You paid for my sin. Thank You for the forgiveness and freedom You purchased with Your death on the cross. Bring swift awareness and conviction when I sin. Give me the strength and power to deal with and turn from the sin in my life.
For Your glory and in Your name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Set aside time each day to pray and study His Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to make you aware of every sin that stands between you and God. Confess that sin. Choose against it and walk on in His power and forgiveness. Ask yourself the following questions:
What sin do I need to confess right now?
Why have I held on to this sin?
What effect has this sin had on my life?
What changes do I need to make in order to "turn" from my sin?
Do I really believe that God can and will forgive this sin? Why? Why not?
More from the Girlfriends
Learning to deal with sin is an important spiritual discipline. Mary's CD set, Getting Past Your Past/The Power of Forgiveness, will help you learn how to cultivate that habit and experience victory over sin.
Freebies! Don't miss the FREE RESOURCES on Mary's website! Book excerpts, articles, MP3s, and more are waiting for you.
Looking for a Bible Study?Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey. Don't miss the new study, How to Tame the Tongue. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 24, 2014
Releasing Secrets, Restoring Hope
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.(Psalm 34:5, NIV)
Friend to Friend
For years my abortion story went untold. It was a secret held tightly by a locked heart - my worst nightmare and darkest memory. Not something I wanted to talk about. Certainly not a story that I thought could be used for good.
Conversationally, it was unapproachable... simply impossible to discuss. On the rare occasion when I allowed my mind to go there, I wished I had a different story: one of life, not death – of joy, not pain. A story of a time when I'd made the best choice, not the worst choice.
But that's not my story.
And because it's not, for years I was convinced that my mistakes demanded silence. That because of what I'd done and where I'd been, I was bound to be quiet whenever the sacred topic of life arose. Certainly, I had no right to speak... or so I believed. Shame buttoned my lips.
Then I came to know a deeper grace. A grace found in the testimony of redemption. God's grace. A grace that testifies of hope, healing and restoration. A grace found in the sharing and releasing of my broken heart-places. Amazing grace that boasts in the truth that all things can work together for good to those who love God and who are bound to His will and purpose (Romans 8:28).
By the grace of Jesus Christ, I now understand that – knowing what I know and having been where I've been – I am actually uniquely qualified to speak and encourage others toward life... forgiveness... and hope.
A few years ago, the Lord led me to participate in a post-abortive Bible study and a weekend retreat that allowed my heart to experience healing in places that I didn't even know were wounded. I was given the opportunity to sift through my grief, to name my child, and to honor her tragic, unlived life in a beautiful memorial service. My story is now one of healing – and I will tell it until I take my last breath and meet my precious baby in heaven.
HEALING
For those of you who share my broken story, I encourage you toward this sacred healing – toward deeper grace. Death's grip is suffocating and scary... but it's not more powerful than the forgiveness and love found in Jesus. Don't allow fear and shame to keep you from the restoration that God longs for you to experience. Call your local pregnancy care center and ask about their post-abortive Bible studies and retreats.
COURAGE
For those of you who are pregnant and afraid, I encourage you to choose life. I know the fears you are facing and the doubts that are screaming relentlessly to your heart. Silence them with the hope found in the center of grace. Whatever this looks like for you – whether it's parenting or adoption – I implore you, from the deepest recesses of my heart, to allow your baby a chance to breathe, love, laugh and live. It will be one of the best choices you will ever make.
SUPPORT
For those of you who don't share my story, but who support the efforts of life-affirming ministries on the front lines of this battle, I encourage you toward generous giving. I applaud you for your participation. Because of you, lives are being saved... and diapers are being changed... and dreams are being dreamed... and God is being honored. Because of your support, sacred hearts are beating. Thank you. A thousand times: thank you.
But where sin increased, grace increased all the more,so that, just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Romans 5:20b-21)
Let's Pray
Dear God, with a trembling heart, I approach Your throne of grace today in reverence and humility, fully aware that You are holy and I am not. Speak, Lord. Show me the plans You have for me. Bind me to Your Word and to Your strength so I will have the courage to obey, to forgive and to accept forgiveness. May my brokenness be restored for the beauty of Your glory. Please help me to trust your plan and grace. In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Okay ... take a deep breath with me! Some of you may feel disturbed that a locked door in your heart has been nudged open. I also know that 30-40% of you that are reading this devotion share my experience of abortion. There is healing and forgiveness for you, too. Through the help of my local Pregnancy Care Center, I went through a post-abortive Bible study that helped me to know complete healing. If you have not taken that step toward healing, I encourage you to contact the Abortion Recovery CARE line at 1-866-4-My-Recovery (1-866-469-7326) visit www.AbortionRecovery.org - or call your local Pregnancy Care Center today to sign up for a post-abortive Bible study or retreat.
Is there someone you know who needs to read this message? Forward this email. Post it on your social media sites. Share the hope of healing.
More from the Girlfriends
Welcome to my personal pulse. This type of transparency is always risky. My pulse races each time I expose the broken places of my past and my present – but GOD is always faithful to use it in some beautiful way. Some of you may feel this devotion was written specifically for you. Don't ignore that. Explore it. Click here to listen to a song that I co-wrote and recorded called Broken into Beautiful, and leave a comment sharing your heart with me. We will pray over each of you!
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January 27, 2014
When the Soul Bleeds
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Do you want to get well? (John 5:6b NIV).
Friend to Friend
I just can't leave this woman with the issue of blood quite yet. My last two devotions have been about her, but let's visit her one more time. She deserves it, don't you think?
When we read the story of Jesus healing the woman who had been bleeding for twelve years, it is hard for us twenty-first-century women to imagine such a condition lasting for so long. Medical science has progressed far beyond the rudimentary knowledge of Jesus' day. It is simply unthinkable today.
But I suggest there are still many women with chronic bleeding of a different sort. We bleed from the heart.
From the time Sarah was six-years-old, her father crept into her bedroom in the dark of night and violated her little body. Now, as an adult, her heart bleeds.
When Beth was walking to her dorm room from the college library, a lurker jumped from behind the bushes, drug her to a nearby shed and raped her at knife-point. Now, ten years later, her heart bleeds.
After twenty years of marriage, Lucy accidentally stumbled upon an in-town hotel receipt in her husband's wallet. Suspecting the worse, she uncovered past e-mails, supposed meetings that never occurred and a trail of deceit. When presented with the evidence, her husband admitted having a three-year-long affair. And her heart bleeds.
Margaret's routine physical reveals that she has AIDS. She had been with only one man her entire life...her husband. And her heart bleeds.
Laura was laid off from her job and her mother's words re-emerge like sewage leakage from an underground septic tank. "You're no good. You'll never amount to anything. You're a loser just like your father." And because of the lies, her heart bleeds.
Melissa holds her newborn little girl in her arms and coos her to sleep. Interrupting the sweetness of the wee hours of the morning, she hears her aborted child crying from the grave. Guilt presses down as the ever-present weight deflates her joy. And her heart bleeds.
Women—hoping the pain will go away. Awakening each day with a memory that cuts a fresh wound. Women—longing to hear the words "Go in peace and be freed from your suffering."
The woman with the issue of blood was no different from you and me. While her apparent illness was physical, her inward suffering ruled her life. But in one radical moment, one momentous decision, she reached out to Jesus and grabbed hold of her healing.
He wants to set us free from our suffering, but he will not push us out of the cell. He unlocks the jail cell, but we must walk out the door. We can choose to bleed. We can choose to remain in our suffering and pick at the scabs of the past. But hear me dear friend, it is a choice. Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life and have it to the full" (John 10:10). That's what he wants for each of us. But we have to embrace the truth and, like the woman with the twelve-year bleeding, reach for our healing.
In John, chapter five, Jesus encounters a lame man sitting by a pool of water where the paralyzed, blind, and afflicted gathered. They believed that when the waters were stirred by supposed angels, the first one in the pool would be healed. For thirty-eight years this man sat in his sickness.
Then Jesus walked up to him and asked a strange question, "Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6b).
Perhaps it was not such a strange question after all. Many times we get used to being sick and wear it like a shroud. Emotionally we are the walking wounded—victims who pick at scabs—not allowing them to heal.
Jesus said to the woman, "Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering." That is the same healing he offers to you and to me.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I reach forward today, touch the hem of Your garment, and receive my healing. Yes, I want to get well. Give me the faith to walk in freedom and victory.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there pain in your life that you have refused to let go of?
Do you want to get well?
That is a risky question. It took a lot for the man to get up off of that pallet. He had to learn how to walk, get a job, and learn to live like a healthy person. That's a big change after thirty-eight years. But you can do it! You can let go of the past and begin to live in victory and freedom! Let's start today!
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Want to learn more about how to be free from your past suffering and walk in victory? How to stop the bleeding of your soul and use your past pain for present purpose? Then you'll want to read my book Your Scars are Beautiful to God.
Also, today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the Gospels with our twenty-first-century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free. He risked His reputation to save theirs...and yours.
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January 28, 2014
Fresh Hope for the Journey
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God (Psalm 40:1-3).
Friend to Friend
I had almost forgotten what it felt like to wake up at the bottom of that deep, ugly pit called clinical depression. The darkness has been an all too familiar companion for most of my life. Over the years, I tried just about everything to soothe the pain in my heart and mind – things like success in ministry, the approval of others, perfectionism, doing good things, and food – to name a few.
In 1995, the bottom fell out of my life, and I spent two long years climbing out of that pit of darkness. I even wrote a book entitled "Hope in the Midst of Depression" that describes the painful but healing journey that totally and completely changed who I was and what I would become in the years ahead. God absolutely re-defined me and gave me a new song to sing as He opened doors for me speak to women across the world about how to find hope in the midst of depression. I have often said, "I would go through that pit experience again tomorrow because of what God has done in my life through it." I really meant those words. I just didn't think that "tomorrow" would really come. But it did. What was I supposed to do then?
I went back to the place where it all began – to the place of complete brokenness - and remembered. Evidently, the Father had some new truths for me to learn. And I had forgotten some of truths God taught me in the darkness. I had somehow begun to follow the wrong plan and allowed my heart to seek man's approval instead of God's favor.
Depression may not be the problem you are facing, but the hard times will come, and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices, or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. But a pit is a pit – a place of paralyzing fear and numbing doubt that is constantly fed by our human frailty and desperate attempts to escape the darkness.
Over the next two days, we will explore four steps we can take in order to find fresh hope and new freedom from the darkness. Let's get started!
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
I recently underwent what I thought was going to be a simple medical procedure, but when I woke up in recovery, I knew I was in trouble. According to the doctor, the surgery went great, but she had not expected to find so much scar tissue and repair work to do, and I certainly had not expected to experience the level of pain, soreness and inability to function that overwhelmed me. I was basically helpless. And I do not like to be helpless. I had given myself a whole ten days to recuperate, but it was brutally obvious that recuperation was going to be a long time coming. In fact, those ten days I had so generously carved out of my schedule turned into ten months of extremely painful and slow recovery. I could feel myself sliding into that familiar pit of darkness. Honestly, I just wanted to stay in that darkness. It seemed easier than trying to climb out of that pit again. I remembered how hard it had been the first time. I wasn't sure I could do it again. I wasn't sure I wanted to do it again.
I have a problem with pride. It has always been extremely hard for me to accept help. I was raised to be strong and independent. When anyone asked what he or she could do to help out during my recovery, I automatically responded with, "I am fine. I will let you know if I need anything." Fortunately, my family and friends ignored that absurd assertion and stepped right over my pride as they brought meals, cleaned house, did laundry, assumed my teaching and speaking responsibilities, and kept our infant grandson while our daughter attended school three days a week. I could not even get out of bed or go downstairs without help – and I did not like it one bit! In fact, I was absolutely furious – with the doctor, with my own human frailty, and I was definitely angry with God!
Just like a tiny flame can turn into a raging fire, unresolved anger can turn into depression. As I began to work through my own anger and frustration, one purpose of this particular pit quickly emerged as God reminded me of a truth I often share but fail to practice. We were created to need God and to need each other. It is so easy to slide into a pattern of thinking much like the prideful toddler who announces, "I do it myself!"
We can't! And the good news is that we don't have to! Lay down your pride, girlfriend, and let fresh hope fill your life.
Let's Pray
Father, I cannot deal with the darkness and climb out of this pit in my own strength. I recognize my human frailty. I am desperate without You and I choose to trust You and rest in Your sufficiency. Make me more like Jesus and teach me the truths You have for me in this pit.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Pits can bring life to a screeching halt, demanding that we change our perspective of living and examine our priorities in light of that new perspective. Read 1 Peter 1:6. Compare your perspective to the one described in this verse.
Pits make us face and admit our weaknesses and come to the conclusion that we cannot live life in our own strength. Read 2 Corinthians 12:10. Make a list of your weaknesses and struggles, and thank God for each one. Celebrate the power of God's grace in your life.
Pits can strengthen our faith if we allow them to. Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. How has God's power helped you face and deal with the darkness?
More from the Girlfriends
One of the reasons that "Girlfriends in God" exists is because Sharon, Gwen and I recognize our desperate need for God and for the friendships of other women who are seeking Him as well. We really do want to be "God with skin on" in your life.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Studies that you can download for your personal use and/or for a small group study.
Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey, is a great Bible study tool as well. Check it out! The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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January 29, 2014
Then Neither do I Condemn You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
'Then neither do I condemn you,' Jesus declared. 'Go now and leave your life of sin'(John 8:11 NIV).
Friend to Friend
Remember the story of the woman caught in adultery recorded in John 8:1-11? If you aren't familiar with it, stop right now and read it for yourself. The Pharisees had brought this half-dressed woman to Jesus right in the middle of his teaching and tried to snare him in a trap. Should she be stoned or set free?
As this woman listened to the Pharisees question Jesus, she understood his dilemma. If he set her free, the Pharisees would accuse him of ignoring the Law of Moses and deem him a heretic. If he sentenced her to death by stoning, then his teachings of grace and forgiveness would be negated.
The religious leaders already held the stones in their clenched fists, anticipating his reply. Their hearts were as hard as the rocks they held in their hands. But rather than give a quick answer, Jesus moved his gaze from the trembling woman and stooped to the ground. With his finger, the very hand of God-made-man, he began writing in the dirt.
A frigid chill swept through the Pharisees pious robes. Suddenly they felt the rawness of naked exposure as Jesus' eyes looked up at each of them and without a word, uncloaked their sinful thoughts and desires. With one look from Jesus, they stood soul bare and more exposed than the half-clad woman before them.
Everyone held their breath The silence was deafening. The tension was palpable. Finally, Jesus rose and delivered the verdict.
"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Then Jesus squatted once again and continued to write.
One by one the Pharisees unclenched their fists, dropped the stones, and filtered through the crowd. The older men who had accumulated a longer list of sins turned to leave first, with the younger ones not far behind.
After the last of the Pharisees cleared the scene, Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," she replied.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
Now, let's bring this story home. Imagine yourself standing before God on your day of judgment. You know all that you have done. Satan is pacing back and forth reading your long list of sins. But then Jesus steps forward and takes the list from the accuser. Looking over the accusations he begins: "I paid for this one, and this one, and this one, and this one...."
Finally, reaching the end of Satan's meticulously penned and amazingly accurate enumeration of all your shortcomings, Jesus begins to tear the paper into shreds. He cups the pieces of the destroyed list of failures in his nail-scarred hands and then, with the breath of grace, blows them as far as the east is from the west. Wiping his hands together as if completing a work, he glances back over to the Judge. "All gone," he says with a smile.
Satan grumbles under his sulfurous breath, and slinks back to his darkened cave—foiled again.
God looks up and asks you, "Has no one condemned you?"
"No one, sir," you reply.
"Then enter my eternal kingdom and find rest."
Friend, if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, and if you are still feeling condemned, know this—the condemnation is not coming from God. Our enemy, the devil or Satan, is called the "accuser of the brothers," and he is the accuser of the sisters too. The Bible tells us that he marches before God accusing believers night and day (Revelation 12:11). "She did this and that and that and this and that," he hisses.
And God' replies "Really? I don't remember. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
Then He looks at you with a welcoming smile.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You for forgiving me of my sins. Thank You for washing me clean. Thank You that when the enemy accuses me before You, Jesus steps forward to announce He's paid my debt and set me free.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you truly believe that God has forgiven you of your sins? If you're not sure, read 1 John 1:9.
Notice the last thing Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery. What was it?
Jesus wasn't saying that what she did was OK. He called sin a sin. Could it be that He is saying the same to you in a particular area of your life today? (Sorry. I just had to go and make it personal, didn't I? But that's what girlfriends are for!)
Did God speak to you in today's devotion? Do you know without a shadow of doubt that ALL your sins are forgiven? If so, click over to my Facebook page and say, "Praise God ALL my sins are forgiven!"
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion was taken from my book, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. We tend to read the Gospels with our twenty-first-century eyes. But when we understand how oppressive the culture Jesus stepped into was against women, we begin to understand just how radical Jesus' ministry, messages, and miracles were at setting women free.
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January 30, 2014
Fresh Hope for the Journey
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. What can we do to find hope in the midst of the darkness?
Step 1: Identify the purpose of the pit.
Step 2: Choose a response to the pit.
We have several choices about how to deal with the pain and darkness in life. We can become bitter and blame God or someone else for the pain, or we can give up and wallow in the mire and mud of that slimy pit. I am guilty of plastering a smile on my face, gritting my teeth and denying that the pit even exists. However, the choice we should make is to trust God, knowing He will deliver us. He may deliver us from the pit or He may deliver us in it. We have to come to the place of being willing to accept His plan for deliverance – not ours. The Apostle Paul was an expert when it came to squeezing a seed of victory and truth out of every tough circumstance.
2 Corinthians 12:7-9 "So that I would not become too proud of the wonderful things that were shown to me, a painful physical problem was given to me. I begged the Lord three times to take this problem away from me.But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you.'"
Paul was not sinning by asking God to remove his affliction. Paul may not have understood what God was doing, but he chose to accept it because he knew God's heart. Paul may not have understood or even liked God's process, but he trusted God.
Step 3: Embrace the power of the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is enough for you. When you are weak, my power is made perfect in you.' So I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
God was sending Paul a message of hope. It is important to note the tense of the verb in this verse. "But he said to me" can be translated "He (God) has once-for-all said to me." It is an eternal promise.
The story is told of a businessman who was selling warehouse property that had been empty for months. Since vandals had damaged the doors, smashed the windows, and left garbage, the building needed expensive repairs. As the owner showed a prospective buyer the property, he was quick to explain that he would make any repairs needed. The buyer said, "Forget the repairs. When I buy this place, I'm going to build something completely different. I don't want the building – just the site."
God's grace turns defeat into victory, tragedy into triumph, and weakness into strength by providing real power over circumstances. People without Christ can muster up enough courage and human strength to get through a trial. God will not only enable us to survive the hard times, He wants us to thrive in and because of each trial we will ever face. Paul used his pain and chose to make that pit work for him – and God's power was unleashed in Paul's life.
Step 4: Find joy in the pit.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses. Then Christ's power can live in me."
Joy is not an earthly treasure. Joy is a heavenly gift from our loving Father. God created us to be vessels that contain His joy. I am convinced God entrusts the greatest trials to those who will respond to them in the right way. Some of the most joyful people I know have suffered the most because they have learned to live by sheer faith in the promises of God instead of demanding that God explain the reason for the pain.
I love the story of the little girl who misquoted her favorite Bible verse, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son so that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have ever-laughing life." Jesus wants to give us a life of joy, pits and all. Part of the problem is that we do not understand what real joy is. Joy is the deeply rooted confidence that God is in control – no matter what the circumstances may be – no matter what our feelings are – no matter what! Our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outer circumstances. We can find joy - even in the pit.
The Nazis in World War II imprisoned Dr. Viktor Frankl because he was a Jew. His wife, children and parents were killed in the Holocaust. As the Gestapo stripped away his clothes and cut off his wedding band, Victor said to himself, "You can take away my family and destroy everything I possess, but there is one thing that no person can ever take from me - my freedom to choose how I react to what happens to me."
The longer I walk with Christ, the more I realize just how important the word "choice" is when it comes to finding victory over the darkness. I don't know what you are facing today, but God does. And you can choose joy and hope because God is with you.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You that You are my strength and my joy at a time when I feel so weak and so trapped in a pit of despair. By faith, I turn to You and seek Your forgiveness for the pride that blinds me to the hope I can find in You. Please help me see Your hand at work in my life, and even when I can't, give me the power to walk by faith and not by sight.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Psalm 40:1-3.
Record these verses in your journal.
When the darkness comes, remember each promise and count on God's grace.
More from the Girlfriends
I really hope and pray that these devotions have met a need in your life. We are living in difficult and dark times for so many people. If you are one of them, we want you to realize that you are not alone. Maybe God wants to use you to encourage someone else battling the darkness. Know that we are praying for you and walking with you – over every mountain – through every valley – girlfriends in God. Blessings.
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January 31, 2014
Getting Good at Being You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Before I made you in your mother's womb, I chose you(Jeremiah 1:5, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Beginnings are very important. In fact, the place of origin has much to do with the quality of the journey as well as the final destination. My journey - like yours - began in the heart and mind of God. Before I took even one breath, God wanted, loved and planned me. That same truth applies to you, my friend. You are no accident. You and I were created in response to the love of God and according to His plans. God did not "accidentally" create us and then step back in alarm and say, "Oops! I created her. Now what am I going to do with her?" The plan came first.
There have been many times in my life when I doubted my worth and value. I filled every waking moment with activity – good things – thinking that if I did enough good things, I would be good enough. It didn't work. I can never be good enough to earn the love and favor of God. The good news is that I don't have to be. My worth and value rest in the fact that I am chosen by God to be His very own child. I am loved, wanted and planned by God Himself. Wow! God Himself supervised our formation. We were created – not to be a puppet – but for an intimate relationship with God.
Psalm 139:14-16 (NCV) "I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well. You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old."
When our son, Jered, was four-years-old, we enrolled him in a daycare for two mornings each week. Jered loved to play with other children and always seemed to get along with everyone. I was surprised and upset when his teacher asked me to come in for a conference. My husband said, "Honey, how bad can it be? Jered is only four!" Jered's teacher met us with a smile and a good report. "Jered is a wonderful little boy," she began, "but there is one problem. How long has Jered known he was adopted?" I was still clueless about that being a problem, but answered, "Since he began talking. We have told him repeatedly how special he is and that he is a chosen baby." She smiled and went on to explain that Jered told the other children how he was special because he was adopted. In fact, Jered informed each child that his mom and dad had chosen him – while their parents "got stuck" with them.
Listen, my friend, when you begin to understand and live out the eternal truth that you are loved, planned, wanted and chosen by God, His perfect plan and highest purpose will naturally unfold before you each day. Remember, in His eyes, you are special, and His plan for your life is simply for you to get good at being you.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to know You and find Your plan for my life. I choose to see myself through Your eyes of love, forgiveness and grace. I want to be the woman You created me to be. Thank You for loving me. Help me walk each day in the knowledge that I am Your child.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you really believe God loves you unconditionally?
What proof of that belief is evident in your life?
Do you consider yourself worthy? Why or why not?
Read Psalm 139 each day for one month. Record the new truths that you learn, the changes in your perspective and any fresh insights in your journal.
At the end of the month, write Psalm 139 in your own words and share it with a friend.
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February 4, 2014
The Lord is My Shepherd
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Know that the Lord is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, the sheep he tends (Psalm 100:3, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Shepherding was one of the oldest callings in Israel, even before farming. Shepherds traveled from place to place, living in tents while driving their flocks from one pasture to another. The sheep and their shepherd lived together every minute of every day. In fact, they were so intimately bound together that individual sheep, even when mixed with other flocks, could recognize the voice of their own shepherd and would come immediately when called by name.
A shepherd owned and marked his sheep. In some cases, the sheep were even branded, although branding is no longer an accepted method of identification because of the damage it does to the wool. Today, the ears of sheep are pierced with identification tags but for thousands of years, shepherds around the world marked their sheep by notching their ears with a sharp knife. Each shepherd had his own distinctive notch that indicated identity and ownership.
When we come to Jesus Christ in complete surrender and begin the journey of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ, we are redeemed by His forgiveness, made whole by his grace, and marked with His love through the presence and power of the Holy Spirit.
Ephesians 1:13 "You were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in Him with a seal; the promised Holy Spirit."
For years, I desperately struggled to be a Christian with only head knowledge of who God was and wanted to be in my life. The result was a pitifully shallow existence with stress and frustration as my constant companions.
I grew up in a Christian home, attending church just about every time the doors were open. I sang all of the right songs, spoke all of the right words, and did all of the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler.
It was not until middle school that the authentic life and spiritual integrity of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God – not only as my Lord and King, but I wanted to know Him as my Shepherd, the one who would lead me, provide for me, and love me like no other.
During a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church, I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie.
I clung to that church pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer, and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I? (Don't miss the answer to that question in my next devotion.)
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I have allowed fear and anxiety to fill my mind and heart. I want to trust You above all else. Please give me the faith to believe the promises in Your Word and the strength to take the first step of obedience. Help me remember that I am a sheep, totally dependent upon You, my Shepherd. Thank You for Your perfect provision for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23.
List three ways that sheep are dependent on the shepherd.
List three ways that shepherds care for their sheep.
Compare the two lists. What similarities do you find in your own life?
More from the Girlfriends
I am such a sheep! My Shepherd is constantly providing my needs while I wander around, looking for ways I can take care of myself. I take the wrong path and end up trapped in a dangerous place only to have the Shepherd rescue me. Today, I am reminded to rest in the care of Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, instead of frantically trying to "fix" my world. He is God. He is Lord. He is my Shepherd. I encourage you to do the same. Choose trust over worry. Choose faith over fear. Blessings!
Don't let fear consume your heart and mind. Get Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear, and learn how to experience God's peace in your daily life.
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February 5, 2014
Man's Best Friend
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage. If you are not married, these devotions will apply to you in other areas of your life. Keep reading!)
Today's Truth
The LORD God said, 'It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him' (Genesis 2:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
For thirteen years, our family was blessed with a golden retriever named Ginger. We gave her to our son, Steven, for Christmas when he was five-years-old, and she still holds the blue ribbon as the best present ever. I can still remember the look of surprise on Steven's cherub face when the "stuffed" animal began to move.
"It's a puppy!" he exclaimed. "It's not a toy!"
And while Ginger was officially Steven's dog, and I was unofficially her primary caretaker, it was my husband who held a special place in her heart. From the very beginning, Ginger loved my husband the best.
Ginger lollygagged her days away by sleeping in the driveway or lounging by the back stoop steps. However, when my husband's car entered the neighborhood and turned the corner onto our shady Stratfordshire Drive, Ginger's ears perked up and her eyes began to beam. Suddenly infused with a burst of anticipatory energy, she would jump to her feet and run in circles.
"He's home! He's home!" she seemed to say.
When Steve pulled into the garage and opened his car door, Ginger whined, ran to greet him and rested her head on his left leg while he cooed and rubbed her ears. Steve's homecoming was the highlight of her day.
No wonder dog is called "man's best friend." Ginger was loyal, didn't nag, and loved Steve no matter how much or how little attention he paid to her on any given day. She was very forgiving and almost immediately forgot any injustice such as not giving her table scraps or being left behind when we traveled on vacation.
Often at the mere sight of Steve, Ginger rolled over on her back and beckoned him to rub her tummy. She always responded to his touch like it was heaven on earth. What man wouldn't love such a response from "his girl"?
And yet, when God created Adam and placed him in the Garden, only to determine that "It is not good for man to be alone," He did not create a dog to be his loyal companion. God created a woman to fill the void in his life. She was called a "helper." The Hebrew word that is translated "helper" is "ezer." And while you may have one definition in mind when you read the word "helper," "ezer" is packed with so much more.
Ezer appears twenty-one times in the Old Testament. Twice in Genesis it describes the woman (Genesis 2:18, 20). But the majority of references (sixteen to be exact) refer to God, or Yahweh, as the helper of His people. The remaining three references appear in the books of the prophets, who use it to refer to military aid. So friend, married or not, being an ezer is quite an honor. It is a word denoting great strength.
We would be very remiss if we looked at the word ezer or helper only in domestic terms. Adam didn't need someone to cook for him, clean up after him, or care for him. That was not the problem. The void in Adam's life was that he did not have a companion to work with him, rule the earth with him, love with him, procreate with him, and after the fall—struggle with him. A dog might have been an easier adjustment for Adam, but God decided Adam needed someone with words.
As an ezer or a strong helper, how will we use our words? Will we use them to fortify or flatten, defend or defeat, complete or compete? The choice begins in our minds, runs through our hearts, and responds with our lips. And one of the best ways we can use our words is in prayer.
Let's Pray
For the married woman:
Dear LORD, I so want to be a good ezer–a good companion that is my husband's completer. I want to be a helper and not a hindrance. Help me to use my words in such a way that help him to be all that You have created him to be as we work together in life. In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
For the unmarried woman:
Dear LORD, thank You for creating me to be a helper—a strong women who comes along to assist where needed. Give me the right words to say to help others to be all You have created them to be. Help me not to tear down others with my words, but build them up. Help me to speak life into those around me today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What do you think of when you think of the word "helper"?
Why do you think Adam needed a helper?
How have you been an ezer to your husband over the past week? (Not geezer, mind you, but ezer.)
You might want to ask him some ways that you could help him in the coming days?
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February 6, 2014
The Lord is My Shepherd, Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, He restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely, goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever (Psalm 23, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion, I described a special Saturday evening revival service at our small country church. I sat in my usual spot, desperately clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. After all, I was a very active church member, a soloist and pianist for our worship services, and even directed a children's choir. I never missed a service unless I was deathly ill. I was a leader in our youth group, rarely failed to attend a youth activity and often brought friends who were lost, unlike me, of course, and needed to know God. How embarrassing to walk down that aisle, admitting to everyone that I had been living a lie. I clung to that pew in sheer arrogance and argued that I was a Christian. I must be. Look at all of the good things I had done. I looked liked a believer, talked like a believer and even acted like I was fully devoted to God ... but was I really a follower of God?
As I contemplated the answer to that question, a startling certainty hit me like a ton of bricks! I knew all about God – and then the deeper truth of that reality followed closely behind. Yes, I had certainly accumulated a lot of knowledge about God, but I did not know Him. It wasn't enough for me or for God.
I have come to realize that God's perfect love settles for nothing less than an intimate and loving relationship with his children. That night, I stood in the darkness, gazing at the star-filled heavens and cried out, "God, if you are who you really say you are, I give everything I know about me to everything I know about you. I surrender." I met Jesus Christ that night.
While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still had to deal with life on a daily basis, and I still had to face stressful situations. However, I also discovered who I really was - a sheep - and being a sheep is awesome!
When I am afraid, Jesus Christ is there to bring peace.
When my heart is broken, the Holy Spirit comforts and restores me.
Even when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of clinical depression, Jesus Christ, my Shepherd, led me from the darkness into the light.
I began to understand the incredible truth that Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, had planned my very existence, prepared a plan in response to his love for me, and even made provision for the payment of my past, present and future sin.
I was wanted, chosen and marked for God.
I no longer had to live life on my own because I now had a Shepherd.
God's love precedes me, goes before me and surrounds me as I live each day. Knowing that we are loved fosters peace in our hearts, and when our hearts are filled with peace, there is little room for stress.
Actually, when you think about it, sheep don't come across as stressed-out creatures. In fact, they seem almost oblivious to the dangers of being a sheep. Sheep don't seem to worry about where their next meal is coming from, if they will have a place to sleep each night, when the next enemy or thief will attack, or even what the next day holds. When sheep are sick, they simply turn to their Shepherd, instinctively knowing that He will take care of them and comfort them until healing comes.
We need to remember and even revisit the fact that we are all sheep; that Jesus Christ really is our Shepherd and that nothing else really matters.
Let's Pray
I am so needy, Lord. Everywhere I turn, I am inadequate in my own strength, power and abilities. I waste so much time and energy trying to be everything You already are. Help me remember that I don't have to depend upon my sufficiency. I can always and forever depend on Yours alone. I am Your sheep. And You are my Shepherd. Praise God!
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to read Psalm 23 every day for one week. At the end of that week, examine your stress level. Has it changed? How has your stress level changed?
Write Psalm 23 in your journal, on a card or a piece of paper. Tuck a copy in your purse or your Bible. In fact, make several copies and place them in prominent places around your house.
Memorize Psalm 23 – one verse at a time. Meditate on each word, each phrase and each truth in each verse.
More from the Girlfriends
Peace is not an emotion or feeling. Peace is a person. When we have a personal relationship with God, we will experience true peace. Mary's E-Bible Study, How to Find Your Missing Peace, will help you discover the steps you need to take in order to experience God's peace.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. And be sure to connect with Mary on Face book or through email.
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February 7, 2014
A Fresh Brewed Faith
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint (Isaiah 40:29-31, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Every morning I walk straight to the coffee pot and push the ON button. I'm a total coffee girl. I like a piping-hot, extra dark roast with half and half, and I struggle to function without my first cup of coffee. I crave that first sip and relish the warmth of the mug in my hands. I jokingly call it my "warm, happy friend." My mornings just wouldn't be the same without coffee!
We should have the same attitude about our faith. We should wake up each morning bursting at the seams to be with God, to be in His presence, to listen for His still small voice, to savor Him. A faith that is brewed fresh daily strengthens us, renews us, and enables us to mount up with wings like eagles, to experience the power of God in our lives, to run and not grow weary, to walk and not faint.
This energizing, percolated faith is readily available to all who ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7-8). How can you experience this power in your life? By getting alone with God, reading the Bible, and listening for His voice each day. "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ" (Romans 10:17, ESV).
Like a morning with no coffee, there are times when we are sluggish in our faith. Times when trusting Him doesn't come easily. Times when we need a shot of God-caffeine in our day, a spiritual espresso. What can we do at these times? Are there things in the Scriptures that tell us how can we strengthen our trust-muscles and jump-start our faith? Absolutely!
One practical way to build your faith is by remembrance. When David was just a shepherd boy, he had courage to face a giant partly because he remembered the previous victories the Lord allowed him to experience. He approached King Saul with great confidence, saying: The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine (1Sam 17:36, NIV). His past victories fueled his faith and helped him to trust God for his present deliverances. Ours do the same. We can face our giants with equal confidence when we pause to remember how God has worked in our past.
Corrie Ten Boom said, "Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible."
What has God brought you through in the past? Think on these things, and choose to trust Him to bring you through all you face today and tomorrow. When you trust God with a fresh brewed faith, He will be your Strength, your Sustainer, and your Hiding Place so you can run and not grow weary, walk and not be faint. Fill up your faith cup right now.
Let's Pray
Dear God, You have brought me through so many challenging times. Please remind me of Your faithfulness in the past so that I may have a fresh shot of faith that equips me to live today in Your strength. Help me to trust You, and keep me from leaning on my own understanding. In Jesus's name, amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Samuel 17.
Consider a specific time that God has moved in your life. Grab a journal and write about it, or swing by my blog or my Facebook page and tell me about it!
Pray for God to increase your faith and give you the strength you need for today.
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February 10, 2014
Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage. If you are not married, these devotions will apply to you in other areas of life. Keep reading!)
Today's Truth
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil inthe heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Of all the roles and responsibilities that God has given wives, the position of a prayer warrior or intercessor is perhaps the greatest of all. An intercessor is a person who intervenes or prays for another person. It was derived from the Greek word enteuxis, which means to go before a king with a petition or plea on behalf of someone else. In essence, it means the same thing today. We go before the King of Kings with a petition or plea on someone's behalf. What we accomplish on our knees in the invisible realm will ultimately affect the strength of our marriage in the visible realm. There is no other person who is more called or more qualified to pray for your man than you.
In the Bible, God describes the marriage of a man and a woman as a visual example of the spiritual union between Jesus Christ and the church (all Christians). Believers are called "the bride of Christ" (Revelation 19:7). A marriage is a walking, talking, earthly example of the heavenly relationship between God's Son and those who believe on His name. God instructs men, "Love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25).
There is someone who wants to destroy that living example, and his name is Satan. Jesus said, "The thief [Satan] comes to steal, kill, and destroy" (John 10:10). He desires to destroy the God-ordained and designed institution of marriage. He began with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and continues his destructive tactics even today. Satan is not very creative, but he's very effective, and he uses the same temptations and tactics today that he used in the first marriage on earth. Satan has proclaimed an all-out assault on the family and he begins at the top—with the husband and wife.
So many times we fail to see the real enemy in our marital struggles. The writer of Ephesians explains, "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" (Ephesians 6:12).
When having a conflict with my husband, I need to stop, take a deep breath, and think...who is the real enemy here? There is a spiritual battle raging all around us that we can't even see, but is very real. It is the greater reality. It is a battle that is not to be feared, but one that is to be recognized and fought in the only place where it can be won—in prayer.
Let's Pray:
Dear Lord, I pray for my husband from head to toe.
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes -That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13; Mark 9:47)
His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth -That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:14)
His Neck - That the decisions that turn his head will honor You in all regards. (1 Kings 3:9)
His Shoulders - That he will not carry burdens and worries on his own shoulders, but trust that nothing is too hard for You. (Genesis 18:14; Jeremiah 32:17)
His Heart -That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Back - That You will protect him from harm in the spiritual and physical realms. (Deuteronomy 23:14 NLT)
His Arms - That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands - That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His Ring Finger – That he will love me as Christ loved the Church. (Ephesians 5:25-27)
His Side - That he will have godly friends who hold him up and spur him on. (Proverbs 27:17; Proverbs 12:26).
His Sexuality – That he will not be tempted by sexual sin, but satisfied and fulfilled in our marriage bed. (Matthew 6:13; Proverbs 5:18-19)
His Legs - That he will stand firm on the truth, knowing that if he does not stand firm in his faith, he will not stand at all. (Psalm 62:6; Isaiah 7:9)
His Knees - That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10; Joshua 1:8-9)
His feet - That You will order his steps, and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25; Psalm 26:3)
Now It's Your Turn
Consider asking your husband for some specific ways that you can pray for him today.
Look up each of the Scripture references above and make the prayer for your husband specific to his particular needs.
Find one friend with whom you can pray for your marriage. Commit to pray for each other's marriage on a regular basis.
Click over to my Facebook page and share your husband, son, or boyfriend's name. Let's pray for our men today.
More from the Girlfriends
As a wife, you have been given the privilege of serving as a mighty prayer warrior for your husband. Today's devotion is just a sample of the power of praying Scripture over your man. My latest book, Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe teaches about the importance of each of the 16 landmarks in your man's life, and gives a comprehensive thirty-day prayer guide to cover him from head to toe. You'll be equipped and empowered to establish the habit of purposeful prayer in just 5-7 minutes a day! Check it out at www.prayingforyourhusband.com. I'd also encourage your to join me in the 30-Day Prayer Dare!
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February 11, 2014
Got Faith?
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil(Psalm 23:4, NKJV).
Friend to Friend
The greenest grass is always found in the valley. Shepherds and sheep are well acquainted with the fact that both mountains and valleys are an inevitable part of life.
Remember – the shepherd has to figure out a way over the mountain and through the valley. If a sheep is injured, the shepherd must carry his sheep and tend to its wounds until they are healed and the sheep is ready to return to the fold. The shepherd's whole world revolves around the safety and comfort of his sheep, even in the deepest valley.
Valleys are a certainty of life. Your job is eliminated. Your husband is having an affair, or your teenage daughter is pregnant. Financial pressure suffocates dreams, or the betrayal of a trusted friend inflicts a wound so deep and painful that you long for that valley of death. Each day is thick with fear, and your heart is filled with disbelief. The valley may suddenly be before you in a time of loneliness or in the shock of a dire medical diagnosis.
The death of a loved one can derail a life. The death of a long-held hope can plunge us into a slimy pit of despair and darkness. Dreams that have slowly died or relationships that have abruptly ended can leave us stranded and alone in our own personal valley of death.
While valleys may come in all shapes and sizes, one thing is certain—valleys will come. That being said, we must ask and answer the question, "How can we deal with the valleys in life?" We must respond with faith.
Don't let that word – faith – frighten you. You have faith. You walk into a dark room and flip a switch, knowing that the light will come on. You sit in a chair, knowing it will support your weight. You buy a ticket and board a plane, trusting that aircraft to get you to your desired destination. Yes, you have faith. It is just a matter of where you place that faith that makes all the difference in the world. When you place your faith in God, a world of possibilities and impossibilities opens up.
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
It was advertised that the devil was putting his tools up for sale. When the day of the sale came, each tool was priced and laid out for public inspection. And what a collection it was. Hatred, envy, jealousy, deceit or pride...the inventory was treacherous. Off to one side was a harmless-looking tool priced higher than all the rest, even though it was obviously more worn than any other tool the devil owned. "What's the name of this tool?" asked one of the customers. "That," the devil replied, "is discouragement." The customer asked, "But why have you priced it so high?" The devil smiled and explained, "Because discouragement is more useful to me than all the others. I can pry open and get inside a man's heart with that tool when I can't get near him with any other. It's badly worn because I use it on almost everyone, since so few people know it belongs to me."
Are you discouraged...afraid...desperately trying to find enough energy to simply breathe? God knows. And He really is your shepherd. He understands that you may only be able to take one tiny, almost imperceptible step of faith. But He sees you, and just like a parent applauding their child's first stumbling step, God will applaud will honor your choice to take it.
(And be sure to join me on Thursday for the rest of the story on faith!)
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for being my Shepherd. Please teach me how to rest in Your care and trust You no matter how high the mountains or how deep the valleys in my life may be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the past few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done.
Read Proverbs 3:5-6. What are the steps listed in this passage that – when taken – will help you walk by faith?
More from the Girlfriends
Our faith is tested when the storms of life hit. Are you sitting in a rocking boat that you fear is about to capsize? Mary has a message of hope for you! Check out her CD, Strength for the Storm, and discover how to find strength and the courage to face the trials in your life.
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February 12, 2014
AAA Club of Marriage
Sharon Jaynes
(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage. If you are not married, these devotions will apply to you in other areas of your life. Keep reading!)
Today's Truth
And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband—that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly (Ephesians 5:33, Amplified).
Friend to Friend
Are you a member of the Triple A Club of Marriage? You didn't know there was such a thing? Well, there's not an official one that you can call if your marriage breaks down, but I have one that I keep in the back of my mind. It stands for adoration, admiration, and appreciation. Did you know that big tough man of yours longs to be admired? He desires for someone to think he's brave and brilliant, loving and logical, tough and tender, handsome and humorous, masculine and magical.That's the stuff of your man's dreams.
What does it mean to adore your husband? Basically, it means to love him with all your heart...and let him know about it. Someone once said, "I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved."
Do you want to see your husband's face light up like a full moon? Tell him you are amazed that he knows how to ________, or that you are impressed by his _______, then sit back and watch him glow.
When the TV cameras pan the sidelines of a college football game, my heart always melts in a pool of butter when a young man waves his hand and says those precious two words: "Hi Mom." It's almost like he's saying, "Look at me! Look at me!" The truth is men want to be admired by the woman of their dreams. It starts with Mom, and then continues with the Misses.
Where does your husband go for adoration, admiration and appreciation? He goes somewhere. All men do.
Does he go to work in hopes of hearing "job well done"?
Does he go to the ball field in hopes of hearing "way to go man"?
Does he go back home to his mother to hear "I'm so proud of you son"?
Does he work late in hopes of a few compliments from the gals in the office?
Does he feast on compliments from patients or clients?
Does he hang out at the gym flexing and building his biceps?
Tell me, where does your man go to be admired?
Dr. Willard Harley, in his book, His Needs, Her Needs, says,
When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself as capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. That inspiration helps him prepare for the responsibilities of life. Admiration not only motivates, it also rewards the husband's existing achievements. When she tells him that she appreciates him for what he has done, it gives him more satisfaction than he receives from his paycheck. A woman needs to appreciate her husband for what he already is, not for what he could become, if he lived up to her standards.
For some men–those with fragile self-images–admiration also helps them believe in themselves. Without it these men seem inherently more defensive about their shortcomings....While criticism causes men to become defensive, admiration energizes and motivates them. A man expects–and needs his wife to be his most enthusiastic fan. He draws confidence from her support and can usually achieve far more with her.
One of the most important sentences in my book, The Power of a Woman's Words is this: "Your words become the mirror in which other people see themselves." And that is true for your husband. Your words become the mirror in which he sees himself.
So if he's looking sort of glum lately, maybe you need to renew your membership into the AAA Club of marriage and try a little adoration, admiration and appreciation around your home.
And if you are one of my unmarried GiG friends, think of ways you can polish the mirror that you hold up with your words to your friends, family, and co-workers today.
Let's Pray
Married GiG
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be my husband's biggest fan. Please help me restrain my critical tongue. Help me to see him as You see Him...a child of the King. I do so love my husband; help me to make sure that he knows just how much.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Single GiG
Dear Lord, Help me to use my words to speak life into those around me today. Help me to build others up and point them to the truth that he or she is a co-image-bearer of God who is fearfully and wonderfully made. Show me someone who needs a word of encouragement...a verbal hug.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
If you have been withholding admiring words from your husband, it may feel strange to begin giving them. First and foremost, be authentic–be real. If you contrive admiring words, he will be able to tell. Start with one compliment or word of appreciation. It may be as simple as saying "thank you." Soon the admiration will begin to flow...hopefully both ways. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Place an "I love you" sign in a public place. (I put a sign outside of my husband's office window to surprise him on Valentine's Day. The fact that all his patients saw it was an extra boost!)
Write him a love letter.
Write an acrostic from A-Z of reasons you adore, admire, and appreciate him.
Leave an "I love you" message on his voice mail.
Write him a thank-you note for something specific he did for you.
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to be bold and stoke the flames of love and passion in your marriage? How would you like to make your husband fall in love with you all over again? I've got just the ticket. I have a e-book titled, The 14-Day Romance Challenge. 25,000 women joined me for the challenge last February with amazing stories to tell! Put a smile on your hubby's face! Click here to check it out.
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February 13, 2014
Got Faith?
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see (Hebrews 11:1).
Friend to Friend
Valleys are lined with disappointment and discouragement. Some people seem to thrive on adversity, emerging from their valley with greater strength and deeper faith. Others stumble and fall, giving in to discouragement and dropping out of the race. The difference in outcome is determined by the way we choose to handle discouragement.
We must respond to each valley with trust and faith. The word "trust" means, "to lie helpless, face down" and is the picture of a servant waiting for his master's command or a soldier yielding himself to a conquering general. "Heart" refers to "the center of one's being." In other words, to trust God completely means that from the very center of our being, from the very core of our existence, we trust Him, totally abandoning ourselves in childlike faith to Him and His plan. We come, holding nothing in our hands, pushing no agenda, with one word in our heart—"whatever!" "Whatever You want me to do, Lord, I will do. Whatever You want me to say, Lord, I will say. Whatever You want me to think, Lord, I will think. Whatever path You have for me, Lord, I will walk."
If you are like me, you sometimes think you don't have enough faith. The amount of faith is not nearly as important as the right kind of faith—faith in God alone.
A mustard seed is small but can still take root and grow—just like faith. Faith is also like a muscle. The more we use it, the stronger it becomes.
We must remember that faith doesn't rest on what we have done but on what Christ has done. As Paul says, times of stress accentuate the presence and power of God.
"We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us—they help us learn to endure. And endurance develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation. And this expectation will not disappoint us. For we know how dearly God loves us because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love" (Romans 5:3-5, NLT).
When the valleys come, we are tempted to abandon our faith and strike out in our own strength. What we should do is embrace our faith in God, look for our Shepherd, and follow Him.
The story is told of a shepherd who tried to persuade his sheep to cross a swiftly flowing stream. Since sheep are naturally afraid of rapidly running water, the shepherd couldn't get them to cross. Then he had an idea.
Picking up a lamb, the shepherd stepped into the river and carried it to the opposite shore. When the mother saw that the shepherd had safely led her lamb across the stream, she forgot her fear and stepped out in faith and into the rushing current. Soon, she was safely on the other side. The rest of the flock followed.
Faith rests in what Christ has already done on the cross and in our lives.
Faith hopes for what God will do for us in the future.
Faith builds on the victories of yesterday to help us face the valleys of today and the questions about tomorrow.
Faith in God is sure and certain, believing that God is who He says He is and that He will do what He says He will do. When we believe that God will fulfill His promises, even though we can't see a single promise materializing, we are exercising faith.
Faith does not bypass pain. It does, however, empower us to deal with pain. Faith steps up to the bat and invites the opponent to throw his best pitch. Sometimes faith strengthens us, and other times, surprises us. Great faith is forged in the deepest valleys, beginning where our strength and power end.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be a woman of faith, but I am so weak and so often afraid. Today, I choose against fear. Instead, I choose to believe You and Your Word. Please help me learn how to reject the lies of the enemy and celebrate the absolute truth of Your Word. In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
One of my favorite descriptions of faith is:
F: forsaking
A: all
I: I
T: trust
H: Him
How would you define faith? _______________________________________________
Read Hebrews 11:6 and record it in your journal. Then write the verse in your own words.
Hebrews 11:6 "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."
:angel:
February 14, 2014
Let's Run Away
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
And don't let us yield to temptation (Matthew 6:13, NLT).
Friend to Friend
It was a windy winter day. Our three dogs needed to stretch their legs and get a bit of outside playtime, so I let them out to roam freely in our fenced-in back yard. An hour later, my husband asked me where the dogs were.
"Out back," I replied.
"Honey, the wind blew that gate wide open and only Rocky is on the deck! How long ago did you let them out?" He asked.
"An hour ago!" I exclaimed, as feelings of unease crept into my heart.
Grabbing our jackets and shoes, Brad and I bolted outside and began to scour the neighborhood looking for our two runaway dogs.
"Roman! Steeler! Come!" We yelled endlessly into the biting wind.
After covering several blocks of our neighborhood, having seen no traces of our dogs, I ran home to get my car. While Brad continued to search on foot, I began to drive around and call out for Roman and Steeler from my car. My stomach was in knots, my heart was gripped with ache, and my mind swirled with longing and prayers for our very-much-loved pets to come home. Please, be safe doggies! Please, Lord, help us find our dogs.
We searched and searched. No dogs.
Our phone number is on their I.D. tags! I thought. Maybe someone saw them wandering and took them into their home to call us.
I drove home quickly to check our voicemail. No voicemail.
I decided to stay by the phone in case someone called. Brad continued to search, driving through our development and the surrounding neighborhoods. After a long while, he returned... without Roman and Steeler. We were crushed. Though we had been praying for the Lord to help us find our dogs the whole time, with heavy hearts we prayed some more.
And we waited.
More than three long hours after the dogs had run away, our phone rang. Hope sprang to my heart as I heard the question from the other end of the line, "Do you have two missing dogs?"
"Yes, ma'am! Their names are Roman and Steeler! We've looked everywhere for them! Are they with you?"
"Yes they are. I saw them playing outside by the street and thought that they must belong to somebody, so I called them over. They ran right to me and I've got them in my house. They are both a good bit dirty and a little bit scared, and the small one is limping slightly... but they are safe," she said.
The skies parted and angels appeared in the clouds singing, "Hallelujah!" as I jumped up to grab a pen to write down her address. They were safe! Thank You, Lord!
Roman and Steeler had wandered over a mile away from our home.
Over a mile!
We scooped them up from the kind woman's house as fast as we could and rejoiced in their homecoming. They needed to be cleaned, cared for, and held. And that's exactly what we did: cleaned them, cared for them and held them. Oh, how we held them! And as I spoke with gentle, reassuring words to my small, limping dog it wasn't lost on me... the parallels between them and me. Between them and all of us wanderers.
God has established boundaries in His Word. They are beautiful boundaries surrounding wide-open spaces of His blessing, purposed to bring Him glory, allowing us to thrive in life and to keep us safe from harm. Yet we wander. Oh, how we wander... through so many different gates of temptation.
What is your open gate of temptation? Is it worry, fear, or doubt? Is it food, alcohol, shopping, money, or a good-looking guy who needs to be off your radar? Everybody faces temptations, and while being tempted isn't a sin, giving into temptation is. Jesus himself faced temptation and He demonstrated that we are to ask God for help. And don't let us yield to temptation. (Matthew 6:13, NLT)
Promise of Deliverance
What should we do when we face temptation? We should call out to God. He promises to give us a way out of any temptation. No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Because he himself (Jesus) suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.(Hebrews 2:18)
The wind had blown hard on the day of our doggie drama. Our two furry friends had been allured by the temptations of an open gate. They gave in – disregarding the boundaries that had been established for their safety and wellbeing – and ventured out into dangerous territory where cars wisped by and other dangers loomed. Thankfully, they made it home safe. We are fully aware that the outcome of their rebellion could've ended horribly.
Friend, we need to be on high alert. Gates are going to fly open. Temptations are going to come and we need to be ready to run from them. God will give us the strength to resist each one - if we will only ask for His help.
SO... Let's run away today! Not from the fence of God's protection, but rather from the gate of temptation.
Let's run away from any gate that flies open. And let's pray that the Lord will keep us from yielding to temptation.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times that I've wandered from Your plan for me and given into temptation. Teach me Your ways. Lead me to make choices that bring You glory and that allow me to experience the life You intended for me to live.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What are your gates of temptation?
What is God's best for you concerning these temptations?
Do you trust that God's boundaries are for your good? Why or why not?
More from the Girlfriends
I've posted a photo of Roman and Steeler on my blog and on my facebook page today. Swing by to put the doggy faces to the names! While you're there, please let me know if the Lord used today's devotion to stir your awareness of a personal temptation.
Ready to run away with God on a whole new level? Order a copy of our latest GiG book, Knowing God by Name, A Girlfriends in God Faith Adventure. This is the perfect book for individual study or for gathering a group of friends in what we call GiG Groups. With impactful devotions, study questions, journal pages, free on-line video intros, and an index of trust-building Scriptures, this book is a resource you'll refer to time-and-time again.
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February 17, 2014
I'd Be Happy If...
Part One
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
The thief [Satan] comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I [Jesus] have come that they might have life, and might have it abundantly (John 10:10, NASB).
Friend to Friend
I'd be happy if... If you begin a sentence with those words, then beware. Those little words of discontentment are the very words that Satan uses to draw us into his deceitful traps.
I'd be happy if I were married.
I'd be happy if I were married to a different man.
I'd be happy if I had more money.
I'd be happy if I had children.
I'd be happy if my children acted differently.
All these thoughts take our focus away from the blessings that we do have. And that is exactly where Satan wants them to be.
And it's nothing new. This is the same old story that began in the Garden of Eden with the same antagonist deceiving the leading lady. But I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's start at the very beginning.
Five days after time began, the Creator of the Universe gazed at all He had made and was not completely satisfied. Yes, as the sun set on each of the first five days on God's kingdom calendar, He said, "It is good." But there was something missing. Something more. Someone more.
The stage was set for Act 6. The curtain rose. Everything had to be perfect for God's grand finale. The angels gathered round as God announced the final scene on the grand drama of "In the Beginning."
God began with an announcement..."Let us make man in Our own image." This being will be different from all the rest. With body, soul, and spirit, man will enter into a relationship with the Creator on a personal and intimate level. He will be just a little lower than the angels and rule over the animals that creep on the earth, the fowl that soar in the sky, and the fish that swim in the sea. Man will be God's friend.
So God knelt on the ground and gathered a handful of dirt. He spat on the dust and began forming the most magnificent creation to date. With His very fingertips, God fashioned man's inward parts: capillaries, nerve endings, brain cells, hair follicles, eyelashes, taste buds. Meticulously and deliberately, the Artist created a masterpiece of divine design.
And as the lifeless form lay before the celestial audience, God placed His mouth upon the nostrils of man and breathed life into his waiting lungs. A collective gasp ran through the crowd as man's lungs filled with holy oxygen and he took his first breath. As if God flipped the breaker switch of life, man's heart began beating, the lungs began expanding, and the eyes began fluttering open to see. And the curtain began to fall on this, the sixth day of creation.
"Wait!" the Creator cried. "My work is not done. It is not good for man to be alone! I will create a helper suitable for him. A companion like him, but yet, oh so different."
So, midair, the curtain rises to expose the day, and God—the Us, the three-in-one—began to fashion the grand finale...woman.
Can't you just see it now? Can't you sense the excitement of the angels as they hovered low? From the very beginning of time, man was set apart. He was uniquely designed for a specific purpose as God's image bearer to rule the earth.
But there was one among the onlookers that day who watched with evil intent. Yes, he was among the created angelic beings, one of the most beautiful, in fact. But he wasn't happy with God's creation. Earlier, this angelic being decided he didn't particularly like his position in the heavenly order. He wanted to elevate himself above God. And while he had been created to be a light bearer, his rebellion resulted in being thrown to the earth to become known as the Prince of Darkness.
And now there were these...humans...created in God's image. The enemy was not pleased. As soon as Adam and Eve stood on the stage, the Prince of Darkness began to devise their demise. If he was going down, he was going to take as many of these image bearers with him as possible. And he was going to do it by introducing the thought..."You would be happy if..."
Join me in my next devotion as we continue looking at how the serpent introduced man to the deadly venom of discontent.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know that the enemy wants me to fail and fall. I also know that You want me to have abundant life filled with peace and joy. Help me to listen to Your voice and turn a deaf ear to the enemy's taunting lies. I stand on the truth of who You are and who I am in You...more than a conqueror.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Adam and Eve had it all...and they threw it away for a piece of fruit. Have you ever done the same? Have you ever ignored God's truth for a bite of forbidden fruit?
Is so, what was the outcome? Good? Bad?
I know this is personal, and maybe private. To be honest, February and Valentines Day stirs up lots of "I would be happy ifs" among women. Hallmark stirs the pot of discontentment and amplifies Satan's taunts of unmet expectations.
So let's hold up the shield of faith and say, "NO MORE!" Stand with me today and say, "I will not buy into the lie of 'I will be happy if...'" If you are willing, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I will not buy into the lie of "I would be happy if!"
More from the Girlfriends
Sometimes it is easy to read about Adam and Eve and not see ourselves. But we fight the same enemy with the same tactics. If you would like to learn more about how to recognize the lies, reject the lies, and replace the lies with truth, check out my book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. It will give you the tools you need to defeat the enemy's lies and live victoriously in the truth! It is packed with 72 common lies women believe and the truth that sets us free.
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February 18, 2014
Run!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths (Proverbs 4:27, NCV).
Friend to Friend
At the close of the sermon, a church member came forward to speak with the pastor. He was very upset because of the sin in his life and his blatant disobedience to God. With tears streaming down his face, the repentant man took the pastor's hand to confess that his life was full of sin, but what came out was, "My sin is full of life." I can relate.
I don't know about you, but my sin is definitely "full of life." I am always amused but also saddened by people who think that just because I am in full-time ministry, I am holier than they are, better than they are, or don't have to battle sin like they do. Just ask my husband and children. They will blow that theory right out of the water. I'm just thankful our grandchildren are not old enough to blow the whistle on their Mimi. The fact is, as long as I live in this fallen world and sport this frail humanity, I will wrestle with sin.
However, I have refined several tactics for dealing with my sinful nature. Rationalization is one of my personal favorites. And there is always the handy comparison ploy – measuring my sin against the sin of another. At times, I subscribe to the popular "bury it and hope it will go away" tactic. The reality is that nothing satisfies the payment sin demands except the blood of Jesus Christ and my response to His sacrifice in true unadulterated repentance - on my face before my Holy God.
When we turn our lives over to God, He sets our feet on the right path. But to stay on that path requires a continual choice to run from sin. With our flawed choices, we take side trips, create detours and wind up on the wrong road headed in the wrong direction.
Solomon warns us to stay away from evil paths. "Don't turn off the road of goodness; keep away from evil paths" (Proverbs 4:27, NLT). "Keep away" literally means, "to turn aside or drag from." In other words, when we see sin or even the opportunity to sin, we should turn around and run in the opposite direction. We should "drag ourselves" away from sin. What do we do instead? We flirt with sin. We want to be delivered from temptation but would really like to keep in touch. We pray for God to "lead us not into temptation" and then deliberately place ourselves in its path. In our arrogance, we think we can handle sin and the temptation to sin on our own. That very attitude is an open invitation for the enemy, daring him to take his best shot.
My husband, Dan, was the pastor of Flamingo Road Church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, for many years. A man of great wisdom, Dan was adamant about the fact that neither he nor his staff should ever put themselves in a situation that flirted with sin or made it easier to sin. Solid wooden office doors were replaced with glass doors. No pastor was allowed to meet with a woman for any reason unless one of the other staff members was present. A staff counselor was hired to handle anyone needing more than one counseling session. The staff often went to lunch following their regular Tuesday morning staff meeting, and even though the restaurant was literally across the street from the church, no man was allowed to ride alone with a woman. Sound ridiculous? Seem absurd? Not at all! Dan simply refused to provide extra ammunition for the enemy. The bottom line is that it's foolish and dangerous to flirt with sin.
There is no holding pattern for believers nor can we live in a neutral state. We are either going forward or backward. We are either being renewed or consumed. Do not relinquish any more life territory to the enemy. Run from sin!
Let's Pray
Father, forgive me for the sin in my life. Right now, I choose to turn away from that sin. I turn to You, Lord. I know that I am lost and totally helpless without You. Thank You for the unconditional love and unending forgiveness that I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Corinthians 10:13. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it" (NIV).
Consider the following promises found in 1 Corinthians 10:13. What do they mean to you and how do they apply to your life?
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
God is faithful!
He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear
He will provide a way out.
More from the Girlfriends
Prayer is one of our most powerful weapons against temptation and sin. If you want a powerful prayer life, I encourage you to check out my husband's new E-Book, Chair Time. It is a short read that not only will change the way you view prayer but teach you how to hear the voice of God as well.
Need help learning how to study the Bible?Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. And be sure to connect with Mary on Face book or through email.
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February 19, 2014
I'd Be Happy If...
Part Two
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Don't be deceived, my dear brothers [and sisters). Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows (James 1:16-17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last GiG devotion, we looked at how God created Adam and Eve to live in a perfect world. But then in Genesis chapter 3, we read the daunting words, "Now the serpent..."
Adam and Eve lived in a perfect world. All their needs were cared for. They had perfect communion with God and each other. They were "naked and unashamed." The only restriction placed on them was that they were not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil located in the middle of the Garden. God warned them, "If you eat of it, you will surely die."
As they basked in the light of God's love, darkness slithered into the Garden with his plan to kill, steal and destroy the image bearers. And how did he do it? He did it with the most powerful weapon of all...lies.
"Now the serpent..." The great deceiver clothed himself as a serpent and slithered up to Eve with a game plan to destroy God prized possession. He didn't come with a sword, or a gun, or even a knife for his attack. He simply wielded lies.
The serpent knew Adam and Eve would not buy into a radical flamboyant denial of God, so he slithered into the Garden with a twist and a turn of the truth. He began by causing Eve to DOUBT... "Did God really say you must not eat from any tree in the garden?" (Genesis 3:1).
Satan knew exactly what God had said. He was simply trying to confuse Eve. Perhaps he was evaluating just how well she knew the truth. He found out.
"We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden," Eve replied, "but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die" (Genesis 3:3).
Bingo. She didn't know the truth that well after all. God never mentioned not touching the fruit. That seems like a pretty good idea, but it was not what God said.
Second he DENIED God and lied about the consequences of disobedience. Satan said, "You will not surely die" (3:4). He didn't even try to disguise the deception. He told a flat-out lie.
And finally, he told her she could be like God: "For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil' (3:5). In other words, "God doesn't know what He's talking about. He's holding out on you. You don't need Him. You can be your own god. You'd be happy if..."
Eve rejected the truth and believed the lie. She believed that she could be like God...in control of her own life. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her."
And as she sunk her teeth into the forbidden fruit of deception and the lie slid down her delicate throat, the temptation settled in her soul and fermented into shame and condemnation. Her husband, who chose the woman over God, also felt the sickening rot of sin settle in his very soul. Suddenly shame and fear entered the world, and Adam and Eve hid from God like wayward children.
All temptation is an attempt to get us to live our lives independent of God. Satan is not very creative, but he is very effective. And he has been lying to us ever since. Why? Because it works.
Every one of his lies springs from the idea that happiness is just a decision away. Satan wants you to believe God is holding out on you. You can be like God. You can be your own god.
Listen to me here, sister. This is important. Rather than being thankful for what we do have, he points out what we don't have. Think about it. Eve had at her disposal every tree in the Garden except one. Every one! That is a smorgasbord of goodness! But rather than being thankful, she bought the lie that the one thing she couldn't have was the one thing that would make her happy. I would be happy if...
Is any of this sounding familiar to you? It should. Satan uses the same tactics with us that he used with Eve. Ingratitude is the infection of Eden, and it is cured with praise.
Eve believed the enemy's lie over God's truth. His plan worked. But what the serpent did not know was that God's amazing plan of forgiveness and grace was about to unfold. Satan did not win the battle for man's soul in the Garden. Jesus Christ won the war on Calvary's cross. When Jesus said, "It is finished," and then breathed His last, He made a way for all mankind to regain all that Adam and Eve had lost.
Let's Pray
Dear God, help me to recognize the lies of the enemy. I am so thankful for all that You have given me. I commit, right now, that I will not entertain thoughts that "I would be happy if..." but rather praise You for all that You have given me: freedom in Christ, eternal life, access to You though prayer, salvation, redemption, purpose. I love You, LORD.
In Jesus Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
When was the last time you said or thought, "I would be happy if..."
What does that thought imply?
Where does true joy come from?
The way we fight Satan's lies is with the truth. What is one lie he has told you and the truth that proved him wrong? Click over to my Facebook page and let's compare notes.
Here's one of mine. Lie: You can't do anything right. Truth: I can do everything through Him (Christ) who gives me strength (Philippians 4:13 NIV).
More from the Girlfriends
Are you ready to begin seeing yourself as God sees you? Are you ready to begin living the victoriously abundant life that God planned all along? Well, let's grab hands and begin the journey of walking in the truth together. My book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, will open your eyes to the truth and set you free from the lies. Click on the link to read a sample chapter, watch the video book trailer, and begin the amazing journey of replacing the lies with the truth. And if you are still in Valentine mode, check out my 14-Day Romance Challenge e-book and watch your husband fall in love with you all over again!
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February 20, 2014
I Don't Want to Grow Up!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I grew up, I put away childish things (1 Corinthians 13:11, NLT).
Friend to Friend
I remember the first time I saw the movie, "Peter Pan." I was a little girl, totally mesmerized by the character of Peter. I wanted to be just like him. After the movie was over, I immediately ran into my back yard and jumped out of a tree – trying to fly! Fortunately, nothing was broken, and I quickly decided I could be contented with being like Peter in other ways. I immediately vowed never to grow up. I agreed with Peter that the adult world seemed frightening; it was very large and demanding, completely beyond my control.
However, life goes on and I somehow managed to navigate the treacherous waters of life, finding myself happily married with two children. Once again, I wished time would stop or at least slow down so my children would stay babies. Of course, that wish didn't come true either, but I have to say that my life today is very sweet. Our son, Jered, is married to a beautiful girl, and they have three children. Our daughter, Danna, is married to a wonderful young man and they have two children. Both Jered and Danna have grown into wonderful young adults, not to mention the fact that they have given us beautiful grandchildren. The desire to grow is a healthy desire and a natural process in human development.
The same principle is true when it comes to our spiritual development and growth. If the desire to grow isn't present in our lives, there's something wrong with our spiritual health. Healthy Christians grow and mature. It's natural for the Christian to grow and mature in Christ. God not only wants us to grow, He commands us to do so.
The Apostle Paul wrote a letter to the church at Corinth, correcting them for their childish attitudes about the spiritual gifts of tongues, knowledge and prophecy. He encouraged them to grow up, to put away these less mature gifts, and to seek the more mature gifts such as love, faith and hope.
We can apply this same encouragement to our lives today. It's time for us to become mature believers by putting away immature attitudes and actions. One of the most obvious marks of maturity or immaturity is how we use words.
Mature believers don't speak like children. We never know exactly what a child is going to say, but we naturally expect childish words to come from children. Paul is saying that a great measurement of maturity for us as Christians is how well we use words.
Our words need to be controlled. In the book of James, we find a sobering challenge. "We all make many mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way" (James 3:2, NLT). If we can control our tongues, we can control ourselves. James, a disciple of Jesus, compares the tongue to the rudder on a ship, a bit in the horse's mouth or a spark that starts a huge fire. The tongue is powerful and difficult to control. Our words can give or destroy life. Once a word is spoken, it is eternal.
Our words need to be encouraging. One of the highest responsibilities in the body of Christ is to practice encouragement. A word of encouragement may be a life preserver to someone drowning in a storm of life.
Our words need to be truthful. Mark Twain said, "A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes." Lies hold us in bondage while truth sets us free.
We need to be extremely careful what we say and how we say it because the spoken word is powerful. It can bless or curse, express praise or whisper slander. It can be a tool of blessing or a weapon of destruction. How we use the tongue is a dead give-away of our spiritual maturity. If we don't learn to control our tongue, it will control us.
I know! Maturity is hard work. It would be a lot easier to remain babies in Christ, but in order to live a life of victory and honor God, we need to set our minds and hearts on growing up spiritually.
The words we speak are direct indicators of our maturity level. Ouch! If you are like me, you really do want to use words as a gift of encouragement, but it is so easy to speak before we think.
Let's get into God's Word so we will have good things to speak.
Let's pray diligently so we will be prepared to give a Godly verbal response.
And when we fail, let's confess our frailty, celebrate God's strength...and begin again.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I am still childish and lack maturity in many areas of my life. I now lay those areas before You, and ask that You take control. Teach me Your ways. Lord. Help me control my tongue and speak words that encourage and build others up. Right now, I give myself anew to You and pray that in the days to come, I will grow up so that others will see You in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Take some time to evaluate the maturity level in every area of life – especially in the words you speak.
In what areas have you grown since becoming a Christian?
What are the areas in which you need to mature?
How would others describe the words that you speak?
___ Husband
___ Children
___ Neighbors
___ Co-workers
___ Friends
Who is there in your life that needs a word of encouragement today? How can you meet that need?
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February 21, 2014
What to Expect When You're NOT Expecting
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. (Isaiah 43:2a, NIV)
Friend to Friend
I was not expecting to hear what I heard. "You have a polyp on your right vocal cord and a nodule on your left vocal cord. In addition to that, Mrs. Smith, your esophagus is yellow and inflamed because of acid reflux. I know you sing and speak professionally, so I'm placing you on mandatory vocal rest for 4-6 weeks. You cannot talk at all. You will also need to adjust your diet and take medication in order to calm the acid reflux. If your condition doesn't get better with rest, medication and dietary changes, you may need to have vocal cord surgery."
He was not expecting to hear what he heard. "The biopsy and ultra sounds of your mass indicate that it is highly probable you have papillary thyroid cancer, Mr. Smith. We will need to schedule surgery to have it removed and if the final pathology reports are conclusive for cancer, as we strongly suspect, you will need to have a radioactive iodine treatment to ensure that all of the remaining cancerous cells are destroyed."
Both of these conversations took place over the past several months. Neither my husband nor I were expecting to hear what we heard. And we were not expecting to go through what we are now going through.
"You cannot speak for 4-6 weeks." "You have cancer." "I want a divorce." "Your position has been terminated." "Your electricity has been shut off until you make a payment on your bill." "You have not been accepted into our program." "I'm sorry, there has been an accident..."Sometimes we come face to face with complicated matters that we simply are not expecting. Life can turn us upside down in a moment's notice and leave us gasping for breath, grasping for strength, and searching for answers.
Have you been there? Are you or is someone you love there now?
Through the trials that both my husband and I are going through, the LORD has been teaching us lesson after lesson. So we thank Him for the treasures found in the darkness of this season. The Word of God is rich with treasures because it connects our hearts to God's hope.
When we find ourselves with challenges that we were not expecting, there are a few things that we all can expect.
The Bible tells us that God will never leave us nor forsake us. But this does not mean that bad things won't happen. And it also does not mean that we will never experience pain, disappointment, or devastation. It means that no matter what we face, God – Emmanuel – is always with us and His peace is always available... whether He chooses to deliver us from the trial,through the trial, or in the trial.
Here are a few truths and action points to cling to in difficult times:
GOD IS NEAR: "The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:5b-7)
GOD HEARS YOUR CRIES: "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:17-18)
GOD IS WITH YOU and FOR YOU: "Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior." (Isaiah 43:1-3)
Yes; pain will sting you, bad things will happen, people will hurt you, and your heart will sometimes be burdened with heavy loads. BUT GOD offers to meet you in the messy thick of it. Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." (Matthew 11:28-29)
How will you respond to His invitation? When you call on Jesus, you can expect to experience God's peace even in the times you face challenges that you were not expecting.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I admit that I sometimes fear the unexpected and do not fully trust in your perfect will. I know that you see the end from the beginning and that your thoughts are not my thoughts (Is. 55:8-9). Forgive me for my lack of faith and please teach me to trust in you so that when the unexpected storms of life come, I will expect peace in the midst of those storms (Mark 4:37-40), knowing that you are near, you hear my cries, and you are with me and for me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verse: "You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you." (Isaiah 26:3)
According to this verse, "perfect peace" comes from focusing our minds upon the Lord. What a promise that is! Find some verses about God's nature and His promises to you and write them in a journal or a special place where you can refer to them when life hits you with the unexpected. Use these verses to meditate on God through your trials to experience His peace!
Let's pray for one another today. Click over to my blog or my Facebook page and post a prayer need... or simply say, "I'm expecting God's peace!"
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February 24, 2014
Can You Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too?
Sharon Jaynes
(If you are single, you're not off the hook here. Keep reading.)
Today's Truth
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Sitting in a waiting room, I rummaged through stacks of magazines to pass the time. A magazine for families, I thought as I picked up a popular title. That ought to be safe.
Thumbing through the pages, I went directly to the "Family Matters" column to see what the culture was teaching these days. The title? "Why You Can Love Your Husband and Brad Pitt Too." I turned back to the cover to make sure I had not inadvertently picked up Cosmopolitan or National Enquirer. Nope, it was a magazine for families—targeted at wives and mothers.
This is some of what the author had to say:
Last spring I found myself applying a pretty shade of pink lipstick before heading off to the nursery to buy annuals. Why the fuss? I hoped to run into the handsome gentleman who worked there...According to experts, married crushes are natural and common. As long as you don't let them develop into full-blown fantasies or consider acting upon them, these minor attractions can actually help you appreciate your spouse more...Infatuations offer a safe break from the marital routine. Everyday life is a bit humdrum, making it hard to maintain a passionate connection all the time...
Everything about this article was 50 shades of wrong, and it raise the hackles on my back thinking that women sitting in waiting rooms everywhere were reading it.
Here's what another marriage expert has to say about infatuation with the delivery boy, flirting with the attendant at the nursery, or cattily toying with a coworker in the next cubicle.
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28 NIV).
Looking at another man with a flirtatious eye is such a serious offense that Jesus went on to say, "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away...If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away" (Matthew 5:29-30 NIV).
Now, don't worry, I'm not going to tell you to pluck out your eye if you do have a crush on the buff young man who bags your produce at the grocery store, but I am saying that you might need to pluck it out by shopping elsewhere.
I am saying that if you find yourself adding a bit of lipgloss before heading to the post office where the cute blond with the steel blue eyes always greets you like you've made his day, you need to pluck it out—forget the gloss and go to another post office. And that man in the next cubicle who always showers you with compliments and makes your heart skip a beat? I am saying that you need to pluck it out—change cubicles, or even more drastic, change jobs.
Perhaps you think I've gone just a bit too far. I imagine the folks listening to Jesus' advice about running from temptation thought so too. The truth is, I've never known one woman who had an affair which did not begin with a toying glance or flirtatious "innocent" bantering. Every sin begins with a thought and every spiritual battle is won or lost at the threshold of the mind.
Let's face it, women long to feel beautiful. After being married for a few years and having a baby or two, we begin to wonder if we are still pretty or sexually appealing. Then a man comes along who pays us a compliment and our hearts skip a beat. That is natural. However, if that compliment or attention leads to infatuation, returning for more, or a "crush" as the article implied, Jesus tells us to turn and run in the opposite direction...press the delete button...and avoid reply. "Flee sexual immorality," (1 Corinthians 6:18). This is serious...pluck it out.
It is interesting that when Satan tempted Eve in the Garden, the first step to her downfall was her eyes. "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye." (Genesis 3:6). It all began with her eyes...what she looked at. I wonder what would have happened if she had chosen to look away.
The above article had very little to do with Brad Pitt or Mel Gibson, but more to say about men we come in contact with everyday. Honestly, had it been Brad or Mel, I might have had a chuckle. But this article was encouraging women to play with fire. The author went on to say...
Whether you have a soft spot for Mel Gibson or Mel the mailman, make sure your husband knows that a crush doesn't change the way you feel about him. We all want to know that we are number one in our spouse's life. As for me, I told my husband about the man at the nursery. 'Going to see your boyfriend?' he teased as I headed out the door to buy mulch. Later I assured him that while Garden Guy knew the best cure for aphids, he could never melt my heart.
I read that and tried to imagine my husband, Steve, saying to me..."Honey, I want to tell you that I have a crush on the check-out girl at Home Depot, but I still love you the best." I get a queasy feeling just thinking about such a conversation. And yet, this is what the "family magazine" was suggesting.
But what if you are single? Does this apply to you? Absolutely! The enemy would like nothing better than for you, in your singleness, to fantasize about a man that you come in contact with on a regular basis. He would like for your mind to go where it need not go. He knows that singleness can be a lonely place and he is an equal opportunity tempter.
Bottom line? "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life," (Proverbs 4:23 NIV). The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, help me to guard my heart today and every day. Help me to recognize temptation and flee–run in the opposite direction. I know that temptation is not a toy to be played with, but an evil weapon used against us. Thank You for giving me the power of the Holy Spirit to resist temptation and the power of the Truth in Scripture to fight the lies that "I would be happy if..."
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Is there any area in your life where you are toying with temptation?
If you are single, have you been entertaining a relationship that would not be pleasing to God?
Go back and print off today's devotion. Highlight the various verses and commit them to memory. Make them part of your arsenal to resist temptation.
What are some ways that we can resist temptation? Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was adapted from Sharon's book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If you would like to learn more about how to have a wonderful marriage, this book is for you. And, if you would like to learn more about how to resist the lies of the enemy in every area of life, you'll want to see Sharon's book, I'm Not Good Enough...and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves. When it comes to spiritual warfare, let's be armed and dangerous to the enemy's lies.
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February 25, 2014
I Need a Shepherd
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He tends his flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young (Isaiah 40:11, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins, which cause sudden death. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat, which means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass.
Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they would not last long. Sheep can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to continually find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently. Remember, I am a sheep!
I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD (Psalm 40:1-3, NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness until He rescues me. I satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things from the wrong hands found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul is soon ravenous for what is good because I have been stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don't like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep.
When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that we can make it on our own or that the rules and commandments of God do not necessarily apply to us like they apply to those other sheep. The longer I walk with God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
Let's think about the sheep for which we are responsible as shepherds here on earth. God calls us all in different ways to do different things, but we are all called to be a shepherd to someone. We live in a world filled with people who, like sheep, are lost, confused, hungry, lonely, and in desperate need of a Savior. Family members, friends, co-workers and neighbors are all part of our flock. And sometimes their needs are overwhelming.
You live with your sheep and everywhere you go you run into someone from your flock.
Your phone rings off the wall, e-mails pile up, and you are constantly trying to rescue one of your sheep that is in trouble.
The feeding schedule of your flock is not an easy task either. Since sheep must eat the right amount of the right foods at the right time, you must always be prepared to feed them, according to their needs – not yours.
You must know your sheep so well that you can lead them – not push them – in the right direction. The natural inclination of every sheep in your flock is to run when they sense danger. You may be trying to lead your sheep, but they are either too afraid or too stubborn to let you lead. You may be standing in the middle of their escape route, which may also mean that they will run right over you in their frantic stampede to escape. Remember that they are afraid and in desperate need of rescue. Your job, as their earthly shepherd, is to care for them and to continually point them to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ. Remember, a good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me.
Do you love your flock enough to lay down your life for each one – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs?
Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan, and remember we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for laying down Your life so that I can live now and eternally. I am desperate for You. I am lost without Your love and power at work in my life. I don't know where to go or what to do. I am afraid, Lord. Right now, I surrender every part of my life to You. Please be my Shepherd and my Guide. Help me love and care for the people in my life and point them to You, Lord. Use me to love others and serve them in a way that pleases and honors You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23:1-6 once a day for one month. Let it soak into your heart, mind and soul and become a living reality in your life. As you read Psalm 23, consider the following questions:
In what ways are sheep dependent on their shepherd?
How do shepherds care for their sheep?
Compare the two lists. What similarities do you find in your own life?
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February 26, 2014
How Much of Your Life do You Want God to Change?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said to the servants, 'Fill the jars with water'; so they filled them to the brim(John 2:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Shortly after Jesus was baptized, He attended a wedding reception in the town of Cana, in Galilee. Apparently Jesus felt very comfortable at such a party, and I imagine Him laughing, mingling, and having a good time with His friends. Near the end of the festivities, the servants let Mary in on a dilemma—they were out of wine. To run out of wine at a Jewish wedding celebration was an embarrassment and disgrace to the hosting family. Mary turned to her Son and said, "They have no more wine," (John 2:3 NIV) as if she expected Him to do something about it. I can almost see her raised eyebrow and the mischievous twinkle in her eye.
Jesus said, "Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not yet come" (John 2:4).
Mary turned to the servants and said, "Do whatever He tells you." Mary seemed to understand Jesus' power before anyone else.
Jesus told the servants to fill six large thirty-gallon stone pots with water. So they filled them "to the brim." Then He told them to draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.
When they did so, the master tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He then called the bridegroom aside and said, "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now."
I often wonder what would have happened if the servants had filled the pots half full or three fourths full. I imagine Jesus would have transformed exactly what they put in. Likewise, God will transform just as much of our lives as we give Him. As for me, I want to "fill it to the brim," give Him all of my life—every bit of it.
My ministry. My finances. My relationships. My schedule. My decisions. Filled to the brim.
Reflecting on where Jesus was at the time of this miracle, I want to give Jesus all of my marriage...filled to the brim. So in our winter years, my husband and I will agree...we have saved the best till now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I pray that I will be like the servants who did exactly what You told them to do. My desire is to obey You fully...to the brim. Help me not to hold back anything but give You all of me so that You can transform me totally.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How much of your life do you want Jesus to transform?
If you are married, how much of your marriage do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your marriage have you given Him?
How much of your attitude do you want Jesus to transform? How much of your attitude have you given Him?
How much of your __________ do you want Jesus to transform? (You fill in the blank.)
How much have you given Him?
I'd love to know what you filled in that blank. Let's share at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.
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Today's devotion was taken from my book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. If there is one area of our lives that we need to give totally to Christ, it is our marriages. Perhaps that's why Jesus' first miracle was at a wedding. And where is the best place to start? Prayer. If you would like to learn more about how to prayer for your marriage and your man, see my latest book, Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe. While you're there, check out the free 30-Day Prayer Dare.
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February 27, 2014
Oh, no! She's awake!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me' (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV).
Friend to Friend
For many years, I did everything I possibly could to hide or erase any weakness in my life. When that didn't work, I simply pretended that those weak areas didn't exist. Why? Because if I was weak, how could Jesus love me? How could anyone love me? How could I love myself?
When our son, Jered, began to walk, I immediately noticed that his feet turned inward. Our pediatrician recommended a specialist who examined Jered thoroughly, then ordered several x-rays. The more he examined Jered, the more concerned we became. When the specialist finally called us in for a consultation, we braced ourselves for bad news ... just in case. The doctor's stoic face revealed nothing, but his diagnosis was a gift. "There is nothing wrong with Jered's feet," he said. "They are simply the feet of a natural athlete and were designed to give him great balance." What we feared as a weakness, an obstacle to overcome, was really a great strength and part of the Master's plan for Jered who graduated from college with the help of a football and academic scholarship. .
The same is true in our lives as children of God. God created us according to His plan, in love and with purpose – weaknesses and all. "God in heaven appoints each person's work" (John 3:27,NLT). We tend to view our weaknesses as liabilities. However, since our worth does not depend upon us in any way, we can and must be honest about our weaknesses, knowing they do not diminish our value in the heart and mind of God. In fact, our weaknesses can become the areas through which God does His greatest work.
Instead, we try to ignore weaknesses, hoping no one will notice. We live in denial, assigning blame to others when we fail. Eventually, we attempt to bury our weaknesses only to find them resurrecting themselves when we least expect it.
A powerful life embraces pain, brokenness and weakness, and understands that perfection is for Heaven, not Earth. The words of Paul are profound, "God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong" (1 Corinthians 1:27, NIV).
When we are honest about our weaknesses, we are conceding the fact that only God can accomplish anything good in or through us. God's power is instantly recognizable in obvious weakness. God has always allowed man's weakness to validate the immeasurable need of His redemption and His sufficiency in our lives. He can and will use us if we allow Him to do so – not despite our weaknesses – but through our weaknesses. We are not the message – just the messenger. Our weaknesses are not excuses to escape God's plan. They are divinely appointed opportunities for that plan to work.
Noah was a drunk.
Abraham was too old.
Isaac was a daydreamer.
Jacob was a liar.
Leah was ugly.
Joseph was abused.
Moses had a stuttering problem.
Gideon was afraid.
Sampson had long hair and was a womanizer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Jeremiah and Timothy were too young.
David had an affair and was a murderer.
Elijah was suicidal.
Isaiah preached naked.
Jonah ran from God.
Naomi was a widow.
Job went bankrupt.
John the Baptist ate bugs.
Peter denied Christ.
The Disciples fell asleep while praying.
Martha worried about everything.
The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once.
Zaccheus was too small.
Paul was too religious and Lazarus was dead!
(Author unknown)
More important than where you have been or even where you are, is where you are headed. Don't wait until you have it all figured out. That won't happen this side of Heaven. Don't wait until you think you are good enough. You never will be. Step up to the plate and be the imperfect you; allowing God's perfection to shine through each and every weakness. Do not listen to the doubts and lies of Satan. His goal is to render you helpless and defeated, no longer a threat to him or his kingdom.
I recently told a friend, "I want to get to the place in my walk with God, that when my feet hit the floor each morning, the devil says, "Oh, no! She's awake!" I know I have a long way to go, but join me in the choice to embrace weakness and pain, allowing God's strength and restoration to shine through each broken place.
Let's Pray
Father, right now, I yield to the truth that I am weak and You are strong. Forgive me for the arrogance and pride that makes me think I can do anything good on my own. Keep me broken, Father, and on my face before You. Please use the broken places in my life to let Your light shine through.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of the weaknesses you see in your life.
Read the story of Gideon in Judges 6:1 – 27.
What was Gideon's response to God when God called him to serve? What is your usual response to God's voice?
Whose strength accomplished the task God called Gideon to do? How can you relate that to your own daily life?
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For years, I struggled with not being good enough. Many of my hopes and dreams were lost or paralyzed by doubt and fear ... until I found myself in a clinical pit of depression where God taught me so many life changing lessons. No one can take my place in the Father's heart. I am indispensable to no one but God. I will never be "good enough" but my relationship with God does not exist because of good works, nor will it be sustained by what I do. Instead, He lives through me, and I live by His power. Do not let the enemy backhand you with the lie that you are nothing to God. Girlfriend, you are everything to Him. Go for it!
Need help seeing yourself through the eyes of God? Check out Mary's message, In His Eyes, for a message that will lead you to discover how precious you are to God.
Need help learning how to study the Bible? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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February 28, 2014
Yes and Amen!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
For no matter how many promises God has made, they are 'Yes' in Christ. And so through him the "Amen" is spoken by us to the glory of God (2 Corinthians 1:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When my son, Preston, was in sixth grade he chose to plant spinach for his science fair project. He planted seeds in four plastic cups and watered each batch with a fixed daily amount of four different liquids: water, orange juice, cola, and milk. (Yes, you are correct! By day three of his fourteen-day project, the milk cup reeked to high heavens with a stinky-sour smell!) His hypothesis was that he believed that the seeds watered with water would grow faster than the seeds that were watered by orange juice, cola and milk.
Once his hypothesis was determined, he and I (his faithful mommy-research-assistant) diligently went about the task of collecting data, watering the seeds, taking pictures, and documenting his findings. The instructions on the back of the seed envelope indicated that we should see spinach sprouts within 7-10 days. Preston was looking forward to seeing the sprouts and was eager to see if his hypothesis was valid. I was too.
So we watered and we waited. We stayed the course and did the work required with hearts that were eager to witness a green, leafy harvest. Day seven came and went. No sprouts. Day eight came and went. No sprouts. Day nine. No sprouts. Day ten. No sprouts.
When all was said and done, we were disappointed that his faithful efforts did not bear spinach. In fourteen days not one green sprout shot up from any of the cups. In fact, we saw no external evidence of any growth at all ... not even on a root level. And although his data got collected, his project got completed and Preston received a good grade, we were both heart-sad that we didn't get to see any growth.
Sometimes our lives are like that science fair project. We invest in others and are eager to see the harvest. We obey God, trust His plan and walk according to His Word. We plant seeds into the soil of our marriages or dating relationships and water them with love, hope and truth. We plant seeds into the life-soil of our friends and co-workers and water them with loyalty, time and encouragement. As parents and grandparents we "grow" our children and our grandchildren. We water them with love, feed them with the Word. We water and we wait with great expectations in our hearts and a desire to see some growth. We long to see the fruit of our labor.
At times we see fruit. At times we don't.
Jesus gave His disciples a trustworthy promise that if we stick to His side and stay tight to God's will, that our lives and our efforts will bear fruit. He said in John 15:4-5, Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. When we remain in Jesus – when we trust God by turning to the Holy Spirit for guidance and to His Word for truth – you and I will bear fruit ... whether we see it or not.
A person of faith believes God's promises because His promises are connected to His character. God's promises aren't flippant. They're secure! The apostle Paul said it like this: Whatever God has promised gets stamped with the Yes of Jesus. In him, this is what we preach and pray, the great Amen, God's Yes and our Yes together, gloriously evident. God affirms us, making us a sure thing in Christ, putting his Yes within us. By his Spirit he has stamped us with his eternal pledge—a sure beginning of what he is destined to complete (2 Corinthians 1:20-22, MSG).
You see, friend, the yes-and-amen promise here is that we will bear fruit, not that we will necessarily see the fruit in our own timing or even in our own lifetimes. Understanding this promise sure does help me to trust God more. And further, knowing that our faithfulness will directly impact how much fruit will be produced should challenge us to remain faithful!
All of the promises of our Covenant God are "yes" and "amen." We can trust His Word to be true because the character of our God is unblemished. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. When we remain in Him, we will bear fruit. Sometimes we will see it. Sometimes we won't.
Our God-confidence is bolstered when we remember that He is faithful, and that our job is to listen, seek, and obey – to remain in Him – not to try to control the outcome of the seeds that He instructs us to sow. When we grow in our understanding of His character and rest in the knowledge that He is for us, not against us (Jeremiah 11:29), this helps us to trust Him. Let's strive to be women who take God at His Word and believe His "Yes" and "Amen" promise!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for planting a seed of faith in the soil of my heart through Your Son, Jesus Christ. Please grow my faith. Help me to trust You more and remind me to fix my eyes on You, not on the results of my life investments.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are there promises you doubt God will fulfill?
Write a list of promises you have a hard time trusting God with. Then, write a big YES or AMEN across it and trust in God to answer!
Now, click over to my blog and tell me what you are trusting God for today... or just simply leave a comment saying, "Yes and Amen!"
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Today's GiG devotion is adapted from Trusting God by Sharon Jaynes, Gwen Smith, & Mary Southerland by permission of Multnomah, division of Random House, Inc. Are you ready to begin a new faith adventure? Get a copy of the book!
Gwen Smith wants to help you think big thoughts about God and to inspire you toward His grace and truth. Her website is filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Click here to visit her site. (Get a FREE song download when you sign up for her newsletter!)
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March 3, 2014
Raising Your Expectations
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. (John 10:10, NIV)
Friend to Friend
When I was in my early twenties, I did not have great expectations for what my marriage would be like, if I ever walked the aisle at all. My parents had a tumultuous relationship from my earliest remembrance. Cycles of heated arguments and physical violence followed by silence and passive aggression were as predictable as the seasons. The atmosphere in our home was tense. It was as if I lived on an earthquake fault line, never knowing when the "big one" was going to hit. There were many "big ones."
I became a Christian when I was fourteen and resolved that if I ever got married, it would be to a man who loved Jesus with all his heart. Through the years, I dated many Christian young men. In my young mind, most of them were not very much fun.
So I had a conversation with God that went something like this: "OK God, if I ever get married, it will be to a Christian man. I'm committed to that. I won't give a guy a second glance unless he is a man who loves You with all his heart. It is not enough for him to say that he is a Christian. I want to see it in the way he lives his life, the way he uses his words, and the way he relates to other people. I'm going to pay attention to what he laughs at, what he watches on television, and how he handles anger. I know what I'm asking here. I know what I'm getting into. I realize that I most likely won't feel very passionate about this guy. I know that my life will probably be rather dull, boring, and lackluster. But that's OK. I'm holding out for a Christian man, no matter how humdrum and ho-hum he may be. If I like him pretty well, that's enough for me."
Oh my goodness! Talk about low expectations! I'm sure God got a big kick out of my request.
Here's what happened several years after that "prayer." When I was twenty-two, I returned to college to further my education. A young man from my hometown had a Bible study at his apartment and invited me to attend. When I walked in, I saw a young dental student sitting cross-legged on the floor and leaning up against the wall. His dark chocolate eyes looked up at me as he said, "Hi." I melted in a puddle.
After a few weeks, Steve finally asked me out on a date. But the venue of our rendezvous confirmed what I had expected all along.
"There is a missionary from Jackson, Mississippi speaking over at Murphy Hall," he explained. "I'd like to go hear him. Would you like to go with me?"
Well that certainly lined up with my expectations! Steve was handsome; no doubt about that. He was a Christian: that was for sure. But going to hear a missionary on our first date? He was going to be boring after all. But hey, what did I expect? (Now remember, I was young. I love missionaries! I am one! Just keeping it real.)
When he came to pick me up for our date, I wasn't quite ready. My apartment mate welcomed him and directed him to the sofa to wait. While he perused the scattered magazines on the coffee table, some of my favorite music played on the stereo. In the South, we call it beach music. It's a type of 60s R&B Motown music.
When I finally emerged from my primping, Steve looked up and asked, "Do you like that kind of music?"
"Sure do," I replied. (I must say I said it with an attitude of "and you gotta problem with that?")
"I do too," Steve said. "I have an entire collection. Do you know how to Shag (a traditional Southern dance similar to a slow version of the Swing)?
I think I heard God laugh.
"I've been dancing the Shag since I was in the fifth grade," I said.
"Let's see if we do it the same way," he said as he grabbed my hand.
For twenty minutes, we separated and came together as if we had been dancing together all our lives. He held my hand up and I spun under. He pulled me in and then rolled me out like a scroll. His shuffle kick mirrored my own.
You know what? We did go and hear the missionary on that crisp fall night in 1979. And afterwards, we went to a favorite college hangout and danced until the doors closed. We had fun, and we haven't stopped having fun yet.
We have grown in God's grace, and we've graced the dance floor. Steve is the mostfunnest guy I have ever known, and he loves the Lord with all his heart.
And to think I actually was ready to settle for a just a nice Christian guy. God exceeded my expectations beyond all I ever could have asked or imagined.
But this isn't just about my love story with Steve. It is about my love story with Jesus.It is about yours too. And like my silly twenty-something prayer for a mediocre-but-nice husband, I fear we have lowered our expectations in our relationship with God.
He longs for an intimacy with us that ushers in a deep abiding joy, but I'm afraid we've settled for simply nice.
Are you ready to raise your expectations in your relationship with Jesus? Oh sister, He got so much to show you, to tell you, to share with you. Don't settle for "just nice." Jesus is much more exciting than that!
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, forgive me for having such low expectations in our relationship. I know that You came to give me abundant life, not a so-so life. Today, I'm raising my expectations of life to line up with Your word. I'm expecting the abundant life that You came to give!
In Your Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look up Zephaniah 3:17 and enjoy!
God wants you to enjoy Him today! Look for moments of sudden glory where he makes His presence known and then tell me about it. Click over to my Facebook page and join me by saying, "I'm raising my expectations and looking for God's blessings today!"
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March 4, 2014
Patience Pays Off
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. (James 1:12, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Patience is not one of my greatest strengths. In fact, I tend to live each day with a schedule in mind - an agenda by which to live that day and several goals I need to meet before the day's end.
God does have a sense of humor.
I can't tell you how many times my schedule falls apart, the agenda is completely forgotten, and I have to move today's goals to tomorrow's list of things to do. I am learning that when God wants to build a certain quality in my life, He puts me in the opposite circumstance. For example, if God wants me to be more patient, He arranges the hours and minutes of my day in ways that demand patience.
What is patience? To be patient is to have the ability to endure, but it doesn't stop there. Patience must also have the capacity to be wronged and not retaliate. In other words, patience is love persevering and love waiting. We are not only to be patient in the way we face difficult situations but in our relationships as well. That just about covers life, doesn't it?
One of the most powerful Bible passages on patience and perseverance is found in the book of James. "Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." Do you want to be blessed? Stand firm in your trial. Do you want to be rewarded? Stand firm in that tough circumstance. Be patient – because patience really does pay off.
God promises blessings and rewards to those who persevere and stand firm in hard times, but the reason we can stand firm is because He loves us unconditionally and promises to walk with us through every dark moment life will bring.
Nothing touches our life that does not pass through God's hand, with His permission.
Remember the Bible story of the man named Job? Job was a faithful servant of God, strong in his faith and unwavering in his obedience to God. Satan didn't like it. In fact, he went to God and asked permission to test Job. I love that truth! The devil had to go to God like an errand boy in order to get permission to touch His child, Job. Satan was convinced that if Job lost everything God had given him - his health, his family, and his possessions - if Job lost everything, he would curse God and follow Satan. God told the serpent to give it his best shot, convinced that Job would persevere. Satan stripped Job of his health, his possessions, his wealth and his family – everything Job held dear. Job stood firm.
Every trial must come through His love but every trial has a purpose. Every pain has a purpose, every ordeal contains a seed of victory, and there is a promise for every problem you and I will ever face. The psalmist writes, "The LORD is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy" (Psalm 28:7).
Patience pays off in many ways, but one of the greatest rewards of patience is joy. Joy is a deeply rooted confidence that God is in control. Warren Wiersbe writes, "When God permits His children to go through the furnace, He keeps his eye on the clock and His hand on the thermostat!" God will never let us face more than we can handle with His help. Hebrews 12:12 says it so well: "So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs." I have been there, done that and can relate to a weary heart and shaky legs. Can't you?
An evangelist told the story of his friend who, during the depression, lost a job, a fortune, a wife and a home, but he held onto his faith because it was all he had left. One day, the man stopped to watch some men building a stone church. One of the workers was chiseling a triangular piece of rock. "What are you going to do with that?" asked the friend. The workman said, "Do you see that little opening way up there near the spire? Well, I'm shaping this down here so that it will fit up there." Tears filled the eyes of the broken man as he walked away. It seemed that God had spoken through the workman to explain the trials of his life." God is using the trials here on earth to refine and purify us. In Colossians 1:11, the apostle Paul writes, "God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient!"
No matter where you are today, where you have been, or what you are facing tomorrow, be patient, knowing your God will strengthen you to stand firm.
Let's Pray
Father, please forgive me when I am impatient. Help me see You at work in the trial and choose to depend on Your strength instead of my own. Help me see Your purpose and plan, but even if I can't understand it all, help me to stand firm in faith. Lord, make me more patient so that others will see You in me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It Is Your Turn
Read Romans 12:12 "Be patient when trouble comes." What trouble in your life today requires patience? Are you willing to choose faith and obedience by trusting God with that trouble?
Read 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "Be patient with everyone." What relationship in your life demands patience from you? Evaluate how patient you have been in this relationship. What one thing do you need to change in order to choose obedience to God as you relate to this person?
Read Ephesians 4:2 "Always be humble, gentle and patient." Notice that patience is listed along with two other important qualities that God wants to see in us. How do you think patience relates to humility and gentleness?
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March 5, 2014
When You Feel Far From God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Jesus said: On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. (John 14:20, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Do you ever feel far away from God, or that He is far away from you? If you're like most people, then I bet the answer is yes. So let's take a look at those "feelings."
You are a triune being with a body, soul, and spirit. Within your soul you have a mind, will, and emotions. That's where those "feelings come from." And if you are like most people, sometimes you feel closer to God than other times. But are you? Really?
Sometimes I feel closer to my husband than others times. But that doesn't mean I'm any less married at some times more than others. I usually feel closer to him after we've enjoyed a fun time together, been especially intimate, or gone through a struggle where we've locked arms and walked through the struggle together.
It's not that much different in my relationship with God. I might feel closer to Him when we've had a good time together (as in worship service), been especially intimate spiritually (as in a morning quiet time), or gone through a struggle where we've locked arms and walked through the difficulty together (as in mourning the death of a loved one).
But just because I feel closer to God in a particular moment doesn't mean that I am. It is just a feeling. We know that we cannot have that giddy feeling about our spouse all the time. Then why do we think we have to have that with God?
Paul prayed for the Ephesians that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ would give them the Spirit of wisdom and revelation so that they could know him better ...that they might know the hope to which he had called them...(Ephesians 1:17-19). He prayed for the Colossians that they would know the mystery of God, namely, Christ in whom are hidden all the treasure of wisdom and knowledge" (Colossians 2:2-3). He did not pray that they would feel like they were close to God or feel the love of God. He prayed that they would know it.
Specifically, Paul prayed:
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. (How? Through faith.) And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know his love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:16-19 emphasis added).
Why do we experience times when we feel far from God? How can we feel far from God if His Holy Spirit lives in us? If you are in Christ and He is in you (John 14:20), why don't you feel Him at all times? Can you feel distant from your liver, from your kidney or from your pancreas? Being near to God, or rather feeling near to God is not a matter of proximity, as if one of us moved closer or further away. It is not a matter of a physical position, but it is a matter of our relational acuity. It is a spiritual receptivity, a spiritual awareness, and a spiritual acknowledgement of His presence.
Charles Spurgeon once said: "It may be that there are saints who are always at their best, and are happy enough never to lose the light of their Father's countenance. I am not sure that there are such persons...and I have not traversed that happy land. Every year of my life has had a winter as well as a summer, and every single day has its night...I confess that though the substance be in us, as in the teil-tree and the oak, yet we do lose our leaves, and the sap within us does not flow with equal vigor at all seasons."
God has promised He will never leave us, but we can feel far from Him when we ignore Him, live independently from Him, grow dissimilar from Him, or rush about expecting Him to tag along rather than move in union with Him.
So here's what I want you to do today, stand on what you know. "On that day," Jesus said, "You will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you" (John 14:20 NIV). And friend, you can't get much closer than that.
And while your humanness falters between spiritual times of plenty and times of want, communion with God is always just a whisper away as you acknowledge His presence with you and in you.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I'll admit, sometimes I feel far from You. But today, I am not going to be a woman who is lead by her feelings. I am going to be a woman who stands on the truth of Your Word. I am in Jesus. He is in me. And we are both in You. Hallelujah.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
One of the best ways I know to reconnect with God when I feel disconnected is to listen to some great praise and worship music. So click over to www.youtube.com/gwensmithmusic and listen to my favorite recording artist!
After listening to Gwen's music, click over to my Facebook page and tell me your favorite Gwen Smith song. (Mine is Broken into Beautiful. And then there's All Generations. Oh, and Uncluttered. I'm having a hard time choosing one. Maybe you'll have an easier time. Good luck!)
More from the Girlfriends
Do you long to feel close to God but sense there's something missing? That you've missed that mysterious formula to make it happen? Do have a glory ache–a persistent longing to experience God's presence and working in your life, but not quite sure how to make it happen? If so, my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More, is just for you. Join me and discover how to erase the lines between the secular and the sacred to experience a deeper, more intimate relationship with God than ever before. While you're there, you can download a free chapter or watch a video book trailer. Also, remember, we're making 2014 a year of prayer! Check out Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe and sign up for the 30-Day Prayer Dare on my site as well.
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March 7, 2014
Add Life to Your Years
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. (John 1:4, NIV84)
Friend to Friend
One difficult morning seven years ago, I wanted to hurl my screaming alarm clock into an abyss. The warmth of my covers and the safety of sleep beckoned my heart to stay, linger and forget what lay ahead of me that day. On that afternoon, I would sing for the funeral of a precious 18-year-old family friend who had died in a tragic car accident.
Her name was Macie. She was a girl who lived life to enjoy life. She babysat my kids and would often catch a ride home from church with us. She always had a spring in her step, a hug for a child, a kind word on her lips, and a sweet smile on her face. To know Macie was to love Macie. So, as you can imagine, my heart ached intensely when she died.
The sorrow messed with me.
It was heavy. Everything about her death seemed wrong. She was so young. So vibrant. So loved. I longed to turn back the hands of time and alter the course of Macie's demise. I wanted her to magically appear at the service and tell us that it was all just a big misunderstanding. That she was fine! I wanted her to be fine. I wanted her to be alive.
My angst eventually gave way to peace as I remembered that she was fine – because she was alive in the perfect presence of God. The late Barbara Johnson said, "You never know when your time is going to expire, so remember: as you add years to your life, it is more important to add life to your years." Macie only lived on this earth for 18 short years, but she added life to her years when she surrendered her heart to Jesus Christ a year before her death. I imagine that she is now skipping along streets of gold, worshiping God whole-heartedly, and loving on the two babies of mine that are in heaven. She always loved taking care of babies.
The Spirit of God and the knowledge of Macie's salvation consoled me, yet I still had to choose to praise God through my grief. In the sadness, I had to choose to bless the Lord for His perfect plan. Even though His plan didn't line up with my expectations. Even though those plans left many hearts heavy with ache. God's grace enabled me to see rays of light in the dark loss because Macie had professed her faith in Christ and was prepared to meet Him when she breathed her final breath.
Adding life to your years is all about Jesus. In John 10:10, Jesus said, "I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full." We can all know hope and peace in Christ. "In Him was life, and that life was the light of men." (John 1:4) Jesus came to give us life, plain and simple. Radical, audacious, full, abundant, joy-filled life that begins with the forgiveness that He offers us freely. Do you know that forgiveness?
Live today in the fullness of Jesus... in response to His grace and goodness. Colossians 2:6-7 says, "So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in Him, rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness." Let's determine to live each day filled with purposed thankfulness as we worship God and point others to Him in love.
It was a sad day when I said goodbye to Macie. After leaving the graveside, I went home, hugged on my children and loved on my husband a bit more than normal. Her death reminded me just how important it is to add life to my years. It's important for you too.
Live in the moment. God has a plan for your now.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for offering eternal life through the perfect and complete sacrifice of Jesus. Thank you for replacing my human hopelessness with your divine hope. Please help me look past the distractions and disappointments of this world and to live each day to the fullest – in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
As we are not guaranteed tomorrow, I would like to direct you to add life to your years today...
Is there someone who you have offended, won't forgive, are holding a grudge against or owe an apology to? Contact them today and attempt to make peace before the sun goes down.
Hug your loved ones. Say, "I love you." Focus on what really matters.
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." (Romans 12:15) Reach out to someone that is hurting. Pray for her.
Read John 1.
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March 10, 2014
Look for Moments of Sudden Glory
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Blessed are your eyes because they see, Jesus said, and your ears because they hear. (Matthew 13:16, NIV)
Friend to Friend
Can you remember a time when you sensed God's presence and you were absolutely sure it was Him? Perhaps it was when you first believed, or maybe it happened just yesterday. You may have felt an overwhelming sense of His love, received an answer to prayer, felt an inexplicable peace, or witnessed a miracle. But when it happened...oh, when it happened...you knew you had encountered the divine. The moment came and went, and you were awestruck. Do you remember it? I call those moments when God makes Himself known to you personally a sudden glory—an intimate moment with your Creator, the Lover of your soul, a glimpse of heaven.
To illustrate what I mean by this, consider how Sheldon Vanauken, author of A Severe Mercy, describes the moment he knew he was in love with his wife Davy:
One who has never been in love might mistake either infatuation or a mixture of affection and sexual attraction for being in love. But when the 'real thing' happens, there is no doubt. A man in the jungle at night, as someone said, may suppose a hyena's growl to be a lion's; but when he hears the lion's growl, he knows [full] well it's a lion. So with the genuine inloveness. So with Davy and me. A sudden glory.
I have been in the jungle and heard the lion's roar. I knew full well it was Him. So with the genuine inloveness. So with Jesus and me. A sudden glory. Time and time again.
All throughout our lives, I dare say, throughout our days, we will experience a sudden glory in unpredictable moments. Or, at least we could.
A friend shared a moment of sudden glory in her life:
"Life was hard after my divorce. With no child support and only a part-time job for income, there were days when I didn't know how I would put dinner on the table for myself and my four children. I often had to choose between buying groceries or paying the electric bill. On one such day, I walked to the mailbox praying I wouldn't find another cut-off notice from the utility company. Thankfully, there was nothing of the sort. Instead, I found an envelope that had no return address, and inside it was a note that read, 'Jesus loves you.' Tucked behind the note was a grocery store gift card for an amount that would buy groceries for at least a week.
In that moment, I felt as if God wrapped His arms around me and whispered to my heart, 'I see you. I love you. I care.' His presence was suddenly so real that all I could do was stand there and cry."
These moments are the salve for the glory ache. They are the manna moments to stay the hunger until we finally reach heaven's home. Do you yearn for those glory moments? Well guess what? God longs to give them to you even more than you yearn for them!
Today, look for the moments. The writing in the sky. The breeze upon your cheek. The flower pushing its way through concrete. Expect the unexpected. Let yourself be romanced by a sudden glory moment from God.
Let's Pray
God, Thank You for the glory moments you scatter about in my life with a generous hand. Please don't let me get so caught up on the busyness of life to miss the Source of Life. Thank You for caring enough about me to make Your presence known in so many ways...for speaking to me first one way and then another.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think of 5 examples in the Old Testament where a man or woman was caught off guard by a moment of sudden glory. I'll start: Moses and the burning bush. I know. I took the easiest one. Sorry about that.J
Think of 5 more.
Now, I want you to tell me about one of your own sudden glory moments. I have a special page on my website for just for you to tell your story! Click here and share away! Come often and tell about how God showed up in your life in an unmistakable way.
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March 11, 2014
Time to Let Go
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
There is no God like you. You forgive those who are guilty of sin; you don't look at the sins of your people who are left alive. You will not stay angry forever, because you enjoy being kind. You will have mercy on us again; you will conquer our sins. You will throw away all our sins into the deepest part of the sea. (Micah 7:18-19, NCV)
Friend to Friend
A little boy and his mom went shopping at the mall. The little boy acted very badly, whining, wanting everything he saw, and running away from his mother.
As they were driving home he could tell his mom was very angry. He looked over at her and said, "When we are bad and we ask God to forgive us, He does, doesn't He?" His mom glanced at him and replied, "Yes, He does." "And when He forgives us He buries our sins in the deepest sea, doesn't he?" The mom answered, "Yes, that is what the Bible teaches." The little boy sat in silence for a while, and then he said, "I've asked God to forgive me. But I bet when we get home, you're going to go fishing for those sins, aren't you?"
Part of true forgiveness is releasing the hurt, letting go of the pain. When we don't, it becomes a constant spiritual and emotional drain, robbing us of joy, peace...even light. To experience the power of forgiveness, we have to quit fishing in the emotional waters of our past.
I love superglue and use it for just about everything. One day, I was trying to repair a miniature tea set, reached for my trusty superglue and went to work. I glued the broken saucer and held it in place for 30 seconds, only to discover that I had glued my finger to the saucer. After several painful minutes of struggling to work my finger loose, I was free. The experience reminded me of forgiveness. When we refuse to release people from the hurt they have caused us, we are gluing them to their mistakes. When we cling to pain they have caused us, we are refusing to see them as more than something that they have done.
Psalm 103:12 reminds us that "He has removed our rebellious acts as far away from us as the east is from the west." When we accept the forgiveness of God, He separates us from our sins. Then He calls us to do the same with the people in our lives. Nowhere does God say that we have to feel like forgiving. He just commands us to forgive. Our feelings are irrelevant. Our obedience is what matters.
Forgiveness is an independent act between God and us. It is totally separate from the response or reaction of the person we are forgiving. We are not responsible for their reaction; that responsibility belongs to them and to God. Our responsibility is to forgive. When we refuse to forgive, we not only harm ourselves, we become a hindrance to God working in their lives. "Now it is time to forgive him and comfort him. Otherwise he may become so discouraged that he won't be able to recover." (2 Corinthians 2:7 NLT)
Anytime that we impede the work of God we are in a dangerous position. It is time to let go of the hurt. It is time to forgive.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of holding on to the pain in my life. I want to forgive those who have hurt me and learn how to let go of the pain and walk on. Today, I lay down my pride and my rights. I will not seek revenge or retaliation. Instead, I choose to love my enemies and bless those who have harmed me. Please give me the strength and power to honor you as I step out in obedience.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and meditate on the following verses:
Matthew 5:23-24 (NLT) "So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you ... leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God."
Make a list of the sins in your life that need the forgiveness of God. Ask God to forgive you for each one. If you have sinned against someone else, be willing to take the first step of reconciliation. If someone has sinned against you, forgive them and go to them in love, seeking restoration. Consider the following questions and answer them honestly.
What are the rewards of forgiveness?
What are the barriers to forgiveness in my heart?
What are the things for which I cannot forgive myself?
What does that indicate about my understanding of true forgiveness?
More from the Girlfriends
Need help dealing with the pain of your past? Check out Mary's E-Bible Study, How to Get Past Your Past.
Need help learning how to study the Bible? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible study, Light for the Journey. The current topic is How to Tame Your Tongue. And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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March 12, 2014
Cease Striving
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Quiet! Be still! (Mark 4:39, NIV)
Friend to Friend
One January morning, I asked God, "What do You really want from me?"
I had just finished a big writing project and was ready to tackle the next big thing for God. I snuggled in my favorite den chair with a steamy cup of coffee and my well-worn Bible to spend some alone time with my Heavenly Father. I read a few verses and said my prayer. Check. Check. When I started to get up, I felt God's invisible strong hand holding me back. He wasn't finished. Be still and know that I am God, He seemed to say. Cease striving.
Suddenly, I saw myself with the disciples caught on the stormy Sea of Galilee. As I pondered the past twenty-five years of my life, I saw myself reeling in the waves of ceaseless activity. A squall of busyness raging around me—and in me. Reeling from one foamy crest of work and deadlines to the next and hanging on for dear life. In my mind's eye, the fellow passengers were not the motley crew of the first century disciples, but women from every walk, trying to steady themselves in the turbulent waters of life. Perhaps you were in the boat with me.
"Teacher, don't you care if we drown?" they asked. "Help us!"
Then I sensed Jesus speaking to me just as He had spoken to the raucous wind and waves, "Quiet! Be still! Settle down!"
So I sat.
After a few moments, I realized I didn't really know how to be quiet and settle down. I had never mastered the full idea of "be still and know." I knew that God was God. It was the "be still" part that stumped me.
Sitting still was not in my nature, and perhaps it was my nature God was trying to tame. My "nature" or natural bent of working for God was standing in the way of my worship of and communion with God. My daily routine of sanctioned quiet times was getting in the way of the divine romance in which He wanted me to engage.
Does it surprise you that I could say such words? Oh friend, I am nothing if I am not honest. I have that glory ache, the longing to experience God's presence and working in my life, just like you. Sometimes I can get so busy doing, doing, doing, that God's gentle whisper drawing me closer is drowned out by the noises of my own making.
How sad to admit, that sometimes when God extends his hand to invite me onto the dance floor of life, my dance card is already full. Many nights I lean over to turn out the bedside lamp, collapse in exhaustion, and sigh, "maybe tomorrow, Lord."
I don't think "be still and know" comes naturally to any of us. Aren't we taught to get moving? "Keep your eye on the ball." "Focus on the target." "If you don't' know where you are going, you probably won't get there." Motivational phrases for sure. But this was God talking, and He had a different message. While the world prods, "Don't just stand there, do something!" God was telling me quite the opposite. "Don't just do something, stand there."
Now He had my attention. So I stayed put.
"OK God," I asked, "What do You really want from me?
He surprised me. He often does, when I take the time to listen. Acts 17:28 came to mind. I believe He put it there. In Him we live and move and have our being. Learn what that means, He seemed to say. I opened my Bible again and read the words, pondering each phrase individually.
In Him.
We live.
And move.
And have our being.
I sensed God speaking to my heart. That's where you will find the secret to satisfy that glory ache. That's the answer you are searching for. That's where you will find what your sisters hunger for. You've been asking the wrong question. It's not what I want fromyou. It's what I want foryou. And in this one little verse, you'll find the key—not just for yourself, but also for others in the boat with you. This will calm the squall of your frantic heart.
God startled me that morning. I was expecting Him to give me a new assignment—something to do for Him.
Another project to complete.
Another study to devour.
Another cause to support.
But He surprised me. It was none of the above. It was one verse. In Him we live and move and have our being.
I wondered, could this be the key to unlock the door behind which the salve to satisfy that glory ache was hidden? The door upon which I had been knocking far too long? I was excited to accept God's invitation as He extended His hand for mine.
Today, I encourage you to take it too.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Sometimes, I am not just caught in the storm, I am the storm. Help me get quiet, settle down, and listen. Today, I am living in You. I am moving in You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's your Turn
Go back and read the story of Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4:35-41.
Have you ever said these words to God, or at least thought the words, "Don't you care?"
Jesus cared. Jesus cares. He's just not worried.
Today, here's what I want you to remember. Jesus is in the boat with you. If that gives you comfort, click over to Facebook page and leave a comment that says: Jesus is in the boat with me.
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March 13, 2014
Mary Had a Little Lamb
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young. (Isaiah 40:11, NIV)
Friend to Friend
As a little girl, I really did have a little lamb whose fleece was white as snow. I can remember the day my mother showed me the lamb and explained that she did not have a bottle with which to feed the stray lamb. I did. I agreed to let the lamb have my bottle if I could have the lamb. I have been fascinated by the unique relationship between sheep and their shepherd ever since.
Shepherds live with their sheep, finding places for them to eat and drink, providing shelter from the storms and protection from the heat. Sheep must eat the right amount of the right kinds of grass at the right times...or they will die. If the sheep eat too little one day and too much the next day, some of the bacteria that live in the stomach of the sheep will reproduce abnormal levels, creating toxins that cause sudden death. This problem was even more complicated for the shepherds of the Bible.
The type of shepherding referred to in the Bible is not the farming of fenced pasturelands, but nomadic grazing. The shepherd must carefully plan the path and lead the way so that the sheep have neither too little nor too much grazing and are able to get to the water hole on time. Pastures are often lost to extreme heat that means the shepherd has to scour the countryside in search of green grass. Several flocks of sheep are gathered together at night in a sheltered place so that shepherds can share the watches of the night, protecting the sheep from wild animals and thieves. Good shepherds are always willing to risk their lives to save their flocks from any harm, any enemy and even from themselves.
Sheep are dumb, can never be left alone and often stray, requiring the shepherd to find and rescue them. A shepherd never pushes his sheep but rather leads his sheep, going before them, making sure they are not walking into danger. The needs of sheep, compared to the needs of other animals, are greater because of their instinct to be afraid and when faced with a fearful situation, to run. Without a shepherd to care for the sheep, they will not last long.
Personally, I definitely fit the profile of a sheep. I can't count the number of times I have stubbornly stuck to my plan, foolishly thinking that it was better than His plan, only to end up in some pit somewhere, calling for help. Psalm 40:1-3 has become my life maxim – with one exception. I rarely wait patiently! Remember, I am a sheep!
Psalm 40:1-3 "I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD" (NIV).
I sometimes allow fear to drive me to a place where I am trapped by doubts and darkness...until He rescues me. I try to satisfy my hunger by eating the wrong things found in the wrong places at the wrong times. The result is always the same; my soul remains ravenous for what is good while stuffing my heart and mind with what is bad.
Like every sheep, I don't like to be pushed. Good shepherds do not push, no matter how great the temptation. A good shepherd stands in front of his sheep, gently calling their names, leading them to a place where he has already been, positioning himself between danger and his sheep. When I am tired and ready to give up, I tend to withdraw from the other sheep and even from my Shepherd. Many of us have somehow bought into the lie that they can make it on their own or that the rules, the commandments of God, do not necessarily apply to them...just those other sheep. The longer I serve God, the more I realize just how much we need each other and how much we need Him. When will I learn that I cannot do life on my own – as a sheep or as a shepherd?
A good shepherd is willing to lay down his life for his sheep, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life for you and for me. I am so glad He was willing to lay down His life for every single sheep – the cute, fluffy ones as well as the dirty, broken lambs like me. Maybe it is time for us all to stop, listen for His voice, seek His plan and remember that we are indeed needy sheep who are called to love and lead other needy sheep to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am so thankful that You are my Shepherd and that no matter how deep the valley or dark the pit, You have gone before me and made a way. Help me to understand that Your ways are higher than mine. Forgive me when I complain that the way You have made for me is harder than I want it to be. I surrender my life to you, Lord, my God and my Shepherd.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Here is a challenge for every Girlfriend in God. Read Psalm 23 once a day for one month. Record it in your journal. Let every word soak into your heart, mind and soul. When fear comes, turn to God. When you are in need, trust the Shepherd. When confusion surrounds you, trust God to make the crooked paths straight. Rejoice daily in the fact that you are His lamb and He is your Shepherd.
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March 14, 2014
Counting the Ways of Love
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. (Psalm 63:2-3)
Friend to Friend
Several years ago I experienced a memorable God-moment when my flight had been delayed. On that particular warm June morning, I had gotten to the Philadelphia airport crazy-early and was eager to get home to my young family after a beautiful weekend of ministry. No lie - when I saw that my flight was delayed, I was bummed. My initial disappointment, however, quickly dissolved into gratefulness, as the extra airport time became an opportunity for me to have extended personal worship.
As I sat facing the flat runway, a fiery orange ball began to rise over the horizon that was simply breathtaking. I couldn't help but to reflect on God's goodness as He bragged on Himself with the glorious sunrise. I remember sensing His presence and His pleasure deep inside as I considered a few of the reasons that I loved our amazing LORD. In the chaos of the terminal, I felt a peace and serenity that was profound.
Have you ever had one of those sweet, intensely personal God-moments?
Taking it all in, I sipped fresh-brewed coffee as my mind wandered to that classic poem "How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count The Ways," written by the talented poet of the Victorian era, Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Her poem seemed the perfect backdrop for my worship. Out of that sweet moment of personal worship was birthed the lyric for a song titled Because that I recorded later that year:
Because
by Gwen Smith and Randy Rothwell
Another flight delayed, sitting here I think of You
Sipping on a dark "Seattle's Best"
As the sun is rising, I pause to give You praise
A solitary moment in a blur of busy days
Where should I begin?
There's so much I could say
Why do I love you?
Let me count the ways...
Because You chased me
And then You caught me
Because You cherish me
Because You bought me
You change me deeply
You set my heart free
Because I'm never satisfied
Without Your presence right here by my side
People all around rushing by, just passing through
Carrying the baggage we all own
Desperate for true love, richer life and perfect peace
A chance for satisfaction with a prayer of belief
In Your presence there is serenity
Father of mercy, I love you endlessly...
Because You chased me
And then You caught me
Because You cherish me
Because You bought me
You change me deeply
You set my heart free
Because I'm never satisfied
Without Your presence right here by my side
Hear my heart in this noisy sanctuary as I sit here all alone
You are worthy of a song that's never ending
I will sing until I'm safely home, safely home
Lord I love You, Oh I love You
Have you really savored our Savior lately? Have you paused to adore Him today? What about yesterday? This week? In the midst of marriage, mothering and ministry, I constantly struggle with freeing up time to 'just sit' with God and worship... to behold Him in His sanctuary... yet this is what God desires most! Our affection. Our adoration. Our love.
So today, I praise Him for missed flights that lead to worship. I praise Him for sunrises that demand a prayerful response. I praise Him for the peace He brings to my frazzled. For the calm His presence brings to my chaos.
Before we pray together and tell God some of the endless reasons we love Him, I'd love to lead you to His heart with music. Click here to hear the song "Because" that's featured on my Facebook page: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, There are so many reasons why I love you! You chased me and caught me. You cherish me and bought me with the blood of your Son, Jesus. Please forgive me for the times when the busyness of life crowds out my time to adore You. Hear my heart today as it tenderly and sincerely whispers, "I love You!"
I praise you and pray this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus, Amen.
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March 17, 2014
"Because I Said So"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Sir, we've fished all night and caught nothing. But because you say so, we'll do it. (Luke 5:5, NIV emphasis added)
Friend to Friend
"Because I say so!" I cringe just writing those words! How many times did you hear them as a kid? How many times have you said them as an adult? How many times has God said them to you?
One day Jesus said those words to Peter and John. Not exactly word for word, but that's what He meant.
See, Peter and John had been on the open sea casting their ropes and hauling in empty nets all night. Other than algae, seaweed, and a few bits of trash, their nets had brought in nothing. No fish. No income. No food to feed the hungry mouths that depended on them back at home.
As the sun made its way over the horizon, the discouraged men washed their nets on the shore. Then Jesus, the carpenter and teacher, followed by a hungry crowd, asked to use their boat as a platform.
He got in Peter's boat, pushed away from the shore a bit, and began to teach the crowds sitting along the beach. When He had finished teaching, He turned to Peter. "Put out into deep water, and let down the nets for a catch" (Luke 5:4).
I can just hear Peter now: "Good grief, John. Do you hear that guy? We've been fishing all night and caught nothing. Then here comes this country carpenter telling us how to do our job. He doesn't know the first thing about fishing. Real fishermen don't even fish during the daytime. We fish at night. We're the professionals here. But I'll be polite."
"Sir, we've fished all night and caught nothing. But because you say so, we'll do it" (Luke 5:5).
Good decision.
Peter and John rowed away from the shore and hoisted the freshly cleaned nets one more time. Just then, the God of the universe who created the fish and the seas whistled for the schools of fish to head for the nets. The fish filled the nets like teenagers pouring into a rock concert.
Peter and John must have laughed. I would have. The catch was so large that the nets began to break. They couldn't even contain all the fish.
Exceedingly abundantly more than they could have ever asked or imagined. Abundant. Lavish. Extravagant. A sudden glory!
Can you just imagine the size of their eyes, the drop of their jaws, the strain of their muscles as they pulled in the blessing? Not only were Peter and John blessed because of their obedience, they called their friends in to enjoy their bounty as well.
Oh the moments of sudden glory that fill our nets when we live and move and have our being in obedience to the One who loves us most.
"Because you say so..."
Notice what Peter did after he hauled in the miraculous catch. He left it all behind and followed Jesus to become a fisher of men.
That was the real catch of the day. Oh how silly we are to think that the true riches are simply financial gain. Peter had financial gain with this incredible catch, and yet he left it all behind to follow the God who pursued and caught his heart.
"Put out into the deep water, and let down the nets for a catch." It was a simple request—nothing earthshattering.
Peter had no idea that obeying Jesus would lead to such an all-encompassing life-changing experience. Our little acts of obedience may do the same.
Don't look for the seemingly big showy acts of obedience to get your name in heavenly lights. People might be impressed, but God won't be. Look for, listen for, and watch for the daily responses to His nudges—opportunities for sudden glory all.
Let's Pray
Lord, help me to be quick to obey Your gentle nudges even though I may not understand them. Help me to obey Your Word...because You say so. Thank You for the many opportunities You give me to pull in miraculous catches. I pray I won't miss them because I think I know better.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What would have happened if Peter and John had disregarded Jesus' instruction to throw the nets in one more time?
Is there something in your life that God has asked you to do, that you have been reluctant to do, because it didn't make sense to you?
If so, what do you need to do about it?
If you want to be radically obedient and ridiculously blessed, click over to my Facebook page and leave a comment that says, "I'm going to obey God and do what He calls me to do!"
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March 18, 2014
The Aroma of Christ
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ's triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are an aroma that brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life. And who is equal to such a task? (2 Corinthians 2:14-16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I tend to be a creature of habit in many ways – a fact that impacts all areas of my life – even when it comes to smells. I know. A little strange but let me explain.
While teaching third grade at an elementary school in Texas, I habitually took the same route to work every morning. The elementary school was only a fifteen-minute drive from our home, and there were several different and even shorter routes I could have taken. However, the one I normally took went by a bakery at the precise time they were gearing up for the day. The aroma of fresh bread was like a magnet that lured me in to grab a hot cinnamon roll or blueberry muffin to eat on my way to school. Scrumptious! In fact, I eagerly volunteered to provide goodies for the teacher break room because it gave me an excuse to stop at the bakery. And all the other teachers just thought I was being nice. Interestingly enough, if I was dieting, I took a different route in order to avoid that tempting smell.
I am also a creature of habit when it comes to candles. I love candles. In fact, everyone who knows me can testify to the fact I have a "thing" for candles. I burn them continually for any or no reason other than the fact I enjoy their aroma. When I walk in my front door, the fragrance of a burning candle often triggers wonderful memories and instantly draws me in. And the aroma of just-baked cookies or a pot of coffee brewing just makes me feel good. I have to say that fragrances are important to me.
Unfortunately, life is filled with both pleasant and not-so-pleasant fragrances. One of my least favorite smells comes from a litter box. We have had cats on and off for many years. Never just one cat, mind you. Oh no. At one point, we had two adult cats that both had kittens within a month of each other for a grand total of nine cats. And did I mention the fact that I hate litter boxes? When I walked in the front door of our home, and was greeted by that toxic litter box odor, I flew into high gear - lighting candles, emptying the litter box and ... well, you get the idea. An aroma can be appealing and inviting or it can be offensive and unpleasant. That same principle can be applied to our life in Christ.
A life without Jesus Christ is filled with the aroma of death but the fragrance of Jesus Christ at work in a life is pleasing and winsome. The knowledge of Christ is a compelling and magnetic fragrance that draws the broken heart and wounded soul to a place of restoration. When God looks at one of His children, I am convinced His heart beats with love, giving off the beautiful aroma of grace and hope.
2 Corinthians 2:14-16 (NIV) "But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ's triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. To the one we are an aroma that brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life. And who is equal to such a task?"
How about your life? Do you live in such a way that people are drawn to you, to the pleasant aroma of Jesus Christ and His truth at work in you? Does His transforming knowledge compel others to take a second look at your life and want what you have? I so want my life to be one that is winsome like Jesus was. I want others to see Him in me and be drawn to the fragrance of His love and mercy that save me and give my life purpose. I want to be the aroma of Jesus Christ to the broken and wounded people who cross my path every day.
Let's Pray
Father, I want others to see You in my life. I want to live out Your truth and knowledge in such a way that the lost and broken are drawn to Your love and mercy in me. Teach me how to saturate my life with Your truth and then share that truth with those around me. Let me be the sweet aroma of You to my family, friends, and neighbors ... everyone You send my way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of your five favorite fragrances.
How do these fragrances make you feel?
Are you saturating your life with the fragrance of God's truth?
Who are the people in your life who need to know Christ?
What step(s) do you need to take to be the aroma of Jesus Christ to the people in your life?
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March 19, 2014
Big Assignments begin with Tiny "Yeses"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. (Matthew 5:21, NIV)
Friend to Friend
When people ask me how I got started in ministry, I tell them I started by writing for free publications for free for ten years. This is not what most people want to hear.
When I tell them I started by folding newsletters in the den of my home for several years, they seem crestfallen.
When I tell them I started out by cleaning the bathrooms in our first little ministry office, they seem confused.
"No, I mean how did you get started writing and speaking?" they ask.
"I'm telling you," I reply. "This is how I got started. Being faithful in the little things. By doing what God led me to do on any particular day."
I never had a big ol' dream to be a speaker and a writer, but that's what God had planned for me. I just put one obedient foot in front of the other and that is where the path led.
We don't obey God in the seemingly small assignments in order to get the bigger ones. However, God will never entrust someone with a big assignment who has not proved herself trustworthy in the small.
When God invites you to join Him in His work, what you do next reveals what you truly believe. If you trust Him completely and follow His lead in the great dance of obedience, then you will experience the spins, twirls, and lifts of the glory life Jesus came to give. If you decide to sit this one out because of fear, then the chairs along the wall are positioned just for you to sit and watch the less fearful wow the crowd. But know this: The band is playing your song.
When God extends His invitation to join Him in the divine dance of obedience, the time to accept is at that very moment. We have about ten to thirty seconds before common sense talks us out of obeying God's promptings. The time to act is as soon as you sense the Spirit calling you to move.
When my husband and I took ballroom dance classes (We called it Dancing with the Scars), I remember complaining to the dance instructor, "How many times are we going to have to go over the one-two-three-four of the foxtrot? I'm tired of making these little boxes. I want to move around the room! I want to dip and swirl!"
"As soon as you learn to follow your husband's lead and master the basic steps," she replied. Only then will we move on to fancier moves."
As you live and move and have your being in Him, the places He will lead you will become more and more glorious as you learn to relinquish control and trust Him. Big assignments begin with a thousand tiny "yeses." Small steps of obedience become beautiful sweeping moves of faith.
But first...you have to take the little steps.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, forgive me for wanting the big assignments and not being faithful to do the seemingly smaller ones. Help me to remember that every time I obey You, even when the tasks seem insignificant, You smile and say, "Well done, My good and faithful servant."
I love You,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 1 Samuel 16 and note when David was anointed as king.
What did he do between 1 Samuel 16 and 1 Samuel 17? (Hint: Baa Baa)
What did David do between 1 Samuel 17 and 2 Samuel 2? Just scan the headings.
And as they say, "the rest is history."
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March 20, 2014
Can we really trust God?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A daughter was telling her mother how everything was going wrong. "I am failing Algebra. My boyfriend just broke up with me, and my best friend is moving away," she wailed. Her mom listened patiently, and then asked, "I made a cake for dinner. Would you like a snack?" The girl grinned and said, "Sure, Mom. I love your cake." The mom smiled and asked, "How about some cooking oil?" The daughter looked surprised at the offer and responded with a loud "Yuk!" The mom tried again, "How about a couple of raw eggs?" With a look of confusion, the daughter said, "Gross, Mom!" With a smile, the mother offered, "Would you like some flour or maybe a cup of baking soda?" The daughter responded, "Mom, all of those things are gross!" The mother cut a piece of cake and placed it on a plate with a fork. As she handed the delicious snack to her daughter, she explained, "Honey, all of those things seem bad when you think about eating them alone, but when they are put together in the right way, they make a delicious cake."
God often works the same way. We sometimes wonder why He allows us to go through such difficult times, but when God puts those hard times together as only He can, they work out for our good. We just have to trust Him to do so.
I will never forget the day I learned how God really can turn tragedy into triumph.
I was sitting at my desk, working on an assignment from the counselor I had been seeing. For months, I had been wrestling with my past - slowly, methodically working through painful issues and buried memories that seemed to be feeding the clinical depression I was battling. As page after page filled with harsh realities, a memory slammed into my heart and mind.
The pain was overwhelming as a vile scene from my childhood slowly took shape. I could hardly breathe as I frantically tried to escape the certainty that I had been molested. The perpetrator had been our family doctor and a trusted friend. He had even provided free medical treatment when we couldn't pay for it. I trusted him, counted on him. As a nurse, my mother worked beside this man every day and often babysat his children to earn extra money.
Anger unlike any I had ever known fueled violent thoughts of revenge and retaliation. I was angry with this man – and angry with God. How could He have let this happen? Where was the light in this dark place?
For months, I worked through painful memories and raging emotions until I saw the first glimmer of light. It was wrapped in chosen forgiveness. I began to see that if I had never been wounded so badly, I would never have been able to forgive so freely – and in doing so, discover a depth of healing and freedom only the greatest pain can produce. Today, I can honestly thank God for all He has accomplished in me through the sin of that man.
There are no accidents with God, nor is He surprised by anything or anyone in the life of His child. God uses even the most horrendous circumstances for our good. Every circumstance comes to us for a purpose, bound by God's love and plan, and faithfully delivered with His permission. While we cannot go back and change our past, we can change the way we respond to our past, and determine how much power it has in our lives today.
Only God can take the broken pieces of your life and make something beautiful out of each one. He is waiting for you to let go of your pain and trust Him. And you really can. No one loves you like He does. You may not always understand or even like His process, but you can always trust His heart of love for you.
Let's Pray
Father, I choose to believe You are faithful and will do what You promise to do in Your Word. I believe that when I lay the pain and hurt of my past at Your feet, You can and will transform it all into something beautiful. I choose to believe You will turn the broken places of my life into living illustrations of Your sufficiency and healing power.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following verses about the good God can bring out of the difficult times in life.
Isaiah 45:3 (NLT) "And I will give you treasures hidden in the darkness – secret riches. I will do this so you may know that I am the Lord, the God of Israel, the one who calls you by name."
Hebrews 12:1 (NIV) "Let us lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us."
Psalm 103:12 (NLT) "He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west."
What one new truth has God given you in each verse? Record those truths in your journal.
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March 21, 2014
Eyes on the Prize
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
...Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith... (Hebrews 12:1-2)
Friend to Friend
When my daughter Kennedy was four years old she played on a pee-wee soccer team. We signed her up in hopes that she would have a fun outlet for her overflowing, youthful energy.
On the afternoon of her first practice, I saw great promise! She was all business as she fearlessly ran after the ball and fixed her eyes and efforts on getting the soccer ball into the goal.
I was stoked! A competitive athlete myself, I began to envision Kennedy as Mia Hamm junior. In my mind, she was about to take pee-wee soccer to a whole new level. Surely the Olympic team would be sending me emails about their need for her in just a few short years!
When we got home, she was elated and exhausted, fully in love with her new sporty endeavor. Pride swelled in my mama heart as I gave my husband the run down on practice and assured him that we had a very serious four-year-old competitor on our hands. For a week, I bragged to family and friends about my little soccer girl and told them of her "eye of the tiger" mentality.
Thrilled to see his future-Olympian-soccer-playing daughter in action, my husband Brad took Kennedy to her second practice. As they drove off, I waved like a prom queen swollen with promise – eagerly anticipating an exciting report of her skills and focus upon their return.
When they got home, however, Brad surprised me with his recount of what had gone down on and off the field that day. It seems that during this second practice Kennedy did not have a competitive eye of the tiger. Instead, she had a playful desire to catch the eye of her father. All throughout practice – even in the middle of drills – she continually ran to the sidelines where Brad was watching to get a drink from her water bottle or simply a kiss or a hug from her daddy.
Clearly, her eyes were on the prize of another kind! A better kind.
What a beautiful picture. Kennedy was delighting in the love of her father – constantly running to him with arms open wide. She ran to be refreshed in him. She ran to have her thirst quenched in his presence.
Oh, the lessons we can learn from children! This is how we should run to God and be loved by Him! Jesus taught that we are to approach and accept the kingdom of God as a little child does: simply.
Now they were bringing even infants to him that he might touch them. And when the disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them to him, saying, "Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it." (Luke 18:15-17, ESV)
This causes me to wonder, do I really have a child-like faith? Do I run to God all throughout my days and approach Him with confidence as one who is greatly loved? Do I trust that His gaze is fixed on me or do I believe the lie that He is distant, unseeing and uncaring? Do I focus on the mountains before me or on the Mountain Maker who is able to do exceedingly above and beyond what I can ask or imagine?
It is so easy for us to fix our eyes on the mundane instead of the majestic. So easy to focus on our jobs, our challenges, our failures, our disappointments, our relationships, and our goals! The prize of a better kind awaits each of us who recognizes that the true reward of life is found in Jesus Christ.
Taste and see that the Lord is good;
blessed is the one who takes refuge in him (Psalm 34:8).
God is your reward.
Trust that when you look to Him, He's looking right back at you. The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry... (Psalm 34:15).
Trust that when you run to Him, He's running right back to you. Your love, Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.Your righteousness is like the highest mountains,
your justice like the great deep...How priceless is your unfailing love, O God! (Psalm 36:5-7)
Today, ...let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith... (Hebrews 12:1-2).
Eyes on the Prize, friend.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for Your love and compassion. Forgive me to for the times I run straight ahead in life without so much as glancing your way or considering your ways. Today I run to your wide-open arms and give thanks for the redemption, rest and restoration I find in you.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Complete this sentence and post it as a comment on my blog for the world to see: "Lord, today I will stop fixing my eyes on ______________ and will instead fix my eyes on You."
Read Psalm 34 and note all of the active and responsive ways of God. Journal about them and reflect on the blessings of walking closely with Him.
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March 24, 2014
De-compartmentalize Your Quiet Time
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long (Psalm 119:97, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love, absolutely love, studying God's Word. From the time I first said "yes" to Jesus, I have devoured the Scriptures. And yet, I'll admit, extended times of prayer have been a struggle for me. Perhaps that is one reason it is called a discipline. I have to discipline myself to set the time apart—to "be still and know."
But then I began to realize just how compartmentalized my time with God had become. My spiritual life was more like an outlined lesson plan with sub-headings A, B, C, and 1, 2, 3 than a love relationship with Jesus. So I made a change. It was God's suggestion really. Why not pray and read at the same time?
When I read the Bible, I pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal what the words say, what they mean, and how I can apply them to my life. For example, one day while reading Ephesians 1:8, I felt compelled to pray this verse for several people. So I stopped reading and began communing with God in prayer.
Dear Lord, I pray for Steven today. I pray that You will open the eyes of his heart so that he may see the hope to which You have called him and the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints... I prayed that Scripture for several people, until I felt the promptings from the Holy Spirit cease. Then God and I got back to reading again.
Another day, I was reading Matthew 6:9, what we've come to know as The Lord's Prayer. "Our Father," Jesus began. Stop right there and think about that, the Holy Spirit seemed to say. Our Father. As I ruminated and marinated in the words "our" and "father" God spoke to my heart about the sort of father I'd always longed for and the sort of Father I already had in Him. If I had stuck to a schedule for my Bible reading that week, I would have fallen terribly behind. But the continual conversation I had with God about that one little word, "father," was priceless.
Consider the word meditate. This word often conjures up images of Eastern religious practices. But it is a wonderful word that we should not be afraid to use. Meditation simply means to think deeply and continuously about something. For a Christian, meditation and constant communication go hand in hand. As we think deeply and continuously about God's Word, He opens our eyes to see, our ears to hear, and our minds to understand. When you meditate on Scripture, you mull over God's words in your mind until they move from your head to your heart.
So here's my suggestion...pray and read...at the same time. I've decided that when I read God's Word, I'm going to keep the lines of communication open. After all, this is the only book you will ever read where the Author is right there with you every time you open the pages!
Let's Pray
Good morning Lord! I can't wait to experience this day with You. I'm so glad that Jesus is in me and I am in Him. We're in this thing called life together. Help me practice Acts 17:28 today...In him we live and move and have our being – in him we exist.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Ephesians Chapter 1 and pray various Scriptures over the people God brings to mind. Don't stop until God's promptings stop.
If you accepted this challenge, let's celebrate together. Simply leave a comment on my Facebook page, that says," I accepted your challenge and prayed through Ephesians 1 today." And if you have time, tell me a little bit about what you experienced as you prayed.
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March 25, 2014
I Can Sleep When the Wind Blows
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want (Psalm 23:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Stress is a familiar and faithful companion. It doesn't matter where life takes us, we will encounter stress. Unless we learn to manage and deal with that stress – God's way – we will find ourselves trapped, an easy target for the enemy.
I heard the story of a farmer who, as the owner of a large piece of land along the Atlantic seacoast, constantly advertised for hired hands. Most people were reluctant to work on farms along the Atlantic because of terrible storms known to plague the area. As the farmer interviewed applicants for the job, he received a steady stream of refusals. Finally, a short, thin middle-aged man applied for the job. "Are you a good farm hand?" the farmer asked. "Well, I can sleep when the wind blows," answered the little man. Although puzzled by this answer, the desperate farmer hired him.
The slight man worked hard, to the delight of the farmer. One night, the howling wind blew in from offshore, signaling the approach of a monstrous storm. Jumping out of bed, the farmer grabbed a lantern and rushed to the hired hand's sleeping quarters. "Get up! A storm is coming!" he yelled. The man rolled over in bed and firmly responded, "No sir. I told you. I can sleep when the wind blows." Furious, the farmer was tempted to fire him on the spot. Instead, he hurried outside to prepare for the storm only to discover that all of the haystacks had been covered with tarps. The cows were in the barn, the chickens were in their coops, the doors were barred, and the shutters were tightly secured. Nothing could blow away. The farmer then understood what his hired hand had meant. He, too, returned to his bed to sleep while the wind blew.
Stress management is a spiritual discipline that begins with diligent preparation in every area of life – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. We must be ready to deal with stress before we have to deal with stress.
Know whose you are. I grew up in a Christian home, attending church every time the doors were open. I sang all the right songs, spoke all the right words, and did all the right things in front of all the right people. I fervently prayed that my works would validate my faith, and desperately hoped that by following the rules, I would please the Ruler. It wasn't until middle school that the authentic life of a dynamic youth pastor made me hunger and thirst for something more. I wanted to know God intimately.
During an evening church service, I sat in my usual spot, clutching the back of the pew in front of me while wrestling with God over the condition of my soul and my eternal security. I argued that I knew all about God, and then the deeper truth of that argument hit me. Yes, I knew about Him but I didn't know Him. That night we met. While the course of my life was changed forever, I quickly discovered that I still have to face and deal with stressful circumstances every day. The difference is that I don't have to face and deal with those tough situations alone.
God is with me. His power strengthens me, and His love surrounds me, saturating even the most desperate circumstances with hope. Knowing that we belong to God is the very foundation for a life of peace and the first step in dealing with stress. Join me in my next devotion as we examine four more ways to deal with stress.
Let's Pray
Father, I praise You for being my Peace in the midst of a stressful day. I can't always see Your hand at work or even understand or like Your process. But I do know that I can fully trust Your heart of love for me, Lord. When the stress of life tempts me to worry, help me to trust You instead. When it seems like my life is spinning out of control, give me Your strength to stop and remember that You are God and that heaven is not in a panic! Right now, I choose against the tyranny of stress in my life, and I choose to trust You instead. Thank You for Your faithfulness to me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back to the time when you first met God and surrendered your life to Him.
What changes has that decision made in your life?
How did you feel when you first realized that you belong to God?
What did you do?
Who did you tell?
Now think about your relationship with God today and compare your circumstances, attitudes and habits with those first days of knowing Him.
Read and memorize Jeremiah 29:11. Celebrate God's perfect and unique plan for your life. And when stress shows up in your life today, remember whose you are.
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Whew! Just talking about stress wears me out. It's so daily! At one point in my life, stress literally made me sick. And I know your life is just like mine, friend. But God ... don't you just love those words? But God can give you peace and take away the anxiety of stress-filled circumstances. My book, Escaping the Stress Trap, is my journey from a stress-managed life to a life in which, through God's power, I am learning to manage stress. Check it out!
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March 26, 2014
How to Astonish a Crowd
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
When they saw the courage of Peter and John, and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. (Acts 4:13 NIV, emphasis mine)
Friend to Friends
The religious leaders were listening to Peter and John preach. They were perplexed, astonished really. They wondered where Peter and John acquired such knowledge and wisdom. "When they saw the courage of Peter and John, and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus."
Ah, they had been with Jesus. That explained everything.
We tend to look at folks who are talented or who have great resources and think, "If we could win that soul for the Lord, then think of all he or she could accomplish for the kingdom!"
How silly. As if God needs our meager resources to accomplish anything.
When you say "yes" to God, despite your inabilities, then you become a living, breathing, walking display of His glory as you live and move and have your being in Him.
Listen to this: "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before Him" (1 Corinthians 1:27-29).
You are always one step of obedience away from the next great adventure and moments of sudden glory that follow. Are you willing to abandon that which makes you comfortable to embrace that which makes you fulfilled? Are you ready for the fancy footwork of faith?
As you consider joining Jesus on the dance floor of obedience, remember this: The One who calls you is faithful, and He will do it" (1 Thessalonians 5:24). Don't worry that you don't know all the right moves. He does. You simply need to follow His lead.
In Him we live and move and have our being...the dance of obedience is breathtakingly beautiful.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I pray that others will see You in me. Help me to represent You well today. Help me to be a reflection of You today. I pray others will know that anything good in me is because of You in me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Go back and read the verses mentioned in today's devotion. Consider committing one of them to memory.
Acts 4:13
1 Corinthians 1:27-29
1 Thessalonians 5:24
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March 27, 2014
I Can Sleep When the Wind Blows
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want (Psalm 23:1, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Storms are a reality of life. That's the bad news. The good news is that God is bigger than any storm we will ever face.
When our daughter, Danna, was a toddler, she and her daddy had a favorite game. Dan would place her in some high spot. He would then hold up his arms, and say, "Jump to Daddy!" I hated that game, but Danna loved it. She would always jump into his arms, laughing and giggling. One day, Dan picked a spot that seemed just a little too high for Danna's taste. She did what I do when I get scared. She closed her eyes. When her dad said, "Jump!" she said, "I can't! I can't see you, Daddy!" Dan said, "It doesn't matter, baby. I can see you!" With a smile on her scrunched up face, my daughter bailed off into the strong arms of her Father, secure in the knowledge that he would catch her just as he always had. Talk about a major stress buster! Knowing that we belong to God and that He will always be there to catch us when we fall is the foundation for a life of peace. Today, let's look at four more ways to deal with stress.
Recognize your source. I believe a large part of our stress is the result of misplaced expectations, requiring the people and circumstances in our lives to meet needs that only God can meet. Most people who know me well would describe me as a strong woman. It took a complete physical, emotional, and spiritual breakdown for me to realize I was only as strong as my human personality and abilities would allow me to be. I was, in short, looking in all the wrong places for the deepest needs of my heart to be met. When all was stripped away by a two-year battle with clinical depression, I was left with nothing but broken dreams and unanswered questions. There, in that dark pit, surrounded by the meager remains of a shattered life, I discovered that God is enough. "The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want." Just as the shepherd meets every need of his sheep, God meets our every need. Just as the sheep totally depend upon their shepherd's care, we must depend totally upon God for our care. He is our Source, and in light of that reality, stress flees, leaving only peace.
Learn to rest. I am terrible at this "rest" thing, forever walking the thin line between being productive and my life spiraling out of control. I have repeatedly tried to defy my God-given need for rest, thinking that I'm somehow "above" both the occurrence and consequences of exhaustion. Stress shouts: "Get busy! There's so much to do!" Stress applauds and dances with delight as I keep on "doing" instead of "being." I've discovered that when I'm tired, it's much harder to handle stress. Just as ninety percent of income goes farther when we tithe ten percent of it, so does our energy when we tithe it in rest.
Manage your fears. It's not God's plan for us to dwell in fear. He has already set in motion the fall of every giant we will ever face. Our responsibility is to step through our fear, confronting those giants in God's power instead of our own, while counting on the promise that God really is the same yesterday, today and forever. We have nothing to fear, not because we are clever or self-sufficient, but because we are His sheep. We can learn to manage fear and stress instead of allowing fear and stress to manage us.
Take the long look. We must be very careful to choose the right backdrop against which we live. Our backdrop is eternity – not the daily tyranny of urgent demands. Our backdrop is an old rugged cross - not the condemnation of our own heart or the judgments of others. Our backdrop is an empty tomb – not the stress filled prison of despair. When stress threatens and it seems like you can't go on, rest in God's truth. Take the long look at life, knowing that He will provide your every need and fill your heart with peace.
Stress is tenacious in its quest to derail and destroy us. Marriages and homes teeter on the brink of disaster because we're too busy. Personal and family needs are consigned to the bottom of our priority list. Distractions are rampant because our lives are not rightly focused - and the enemy laughs in the shadows, applauding our foolishness. Stop. Get off of the merry-go-round. Come into God's presence and rest there until stress has gone and peace has come.
Let's Pray
Father, I refuse to surrender my peace to the stress of life. Help me learn how to truly rest in You, knowing that You will never leave me or forsake me. Today, I submit my will to Your plan for my life. You are my Shepherd and my God. I put my trust in You and praise You for Your perfect provision in my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 23 every day for one week. Beside each phrase below, write you own thoughts about how God is at work in your life:
He makes me to lie down in green pastures___________________________.
He leads me beside the still waters__________________________________.
He restores my soul _____________________________________________.
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me_____________________________.
He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name's sake ___________.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life _________.
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March 28, 2014
Living The Dream
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11, ESV)
Friend to Friend
As I walked into the pink and purple bedroom to tuck in my little rosebud, she sat up in bed and began braiding her hair. She had been waiting for me. News was bubbling in her heart that she simply had to share.
Through twists of hair, she began, "Mom! I know what I want to be when I grow up!"
"Well, tell me, Kennedy!" I replied, completely smitten with her 8-year-old enthusiasm.
"I want to be a beautritionist!" She gushed.
"A beautritionist?" I questioned, both amused and enamored.
"Yes, mom! I want to be a beautritionist!"
"That completely rocks, girlfriend! I'm so excited for you! Do you mean that you want to do hair and makeup and help ladies look beautiful?"
"Yes!" She confirmed excitedly.
"Excellent!" I replied. "I think the word you meant to use was beautician, but I love the word you made up! The reason I love it is this: you combined two words, beautician and nutritionist. A beautician helps people to look beautiful on the outside by fixing hair and make up. A nutritionist helps people to be healthy and well on the inside. So, your new word is incredible because a beautritionist would help others to be healthy on the inside and beautiful on the outside! Yay! Fun! I want to be a beautritionist too, Kennedy!"
We giggled as I tucked her in – snug as a bug in a rug – and prayed for the Lord to help us be the women He created us to be... inside and outside.
Later that evening I journaled the exchange so I wouldn't forget it. As I was writing, it occurred to me that what Kennedy was really telling me upstairs was that she had big dreams in her little heart. She was telling me that she wanted to make a positive impact on others and have a life filled with beauty.
She wanted what we all want.
We all want a great life.
And guess what? That's God's plan for us too.
God wants us to have an amazing, beautiful life – in Him, through Him, and for Him. Truly. The Bible tells us so. He offers us joy – but not the world's joy; peace – but not the world's peace; power – but not the world's power; love – but not the world's love. His plan is a good plan... for us, not against us... a plan that is filled with hope and a future.
Just like God spoke hope to the prophet Jeremiah thousands of years ago, His Word speaks hope to us today, and every day, reminding us of the beauty available to all in Christ. A beauty that ultimately brings Him glory.
In Christ, you are saved by grace through faith. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
In Christ, you are forgiven and made righteous. (2 Corinthians 5:21)
In Christ, you are a new creation. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
In Christ, there is no condemnation. (Romans 8:1)
In Christ, you are justified and have peace with God. (Romans 5:1)
In Christ, you are his workmanship - created to do good works. (Ephesians 2:10)
In Christ, you are chosen and made holy to proclaim his excellency. (1 Peter 2:9)
In Christ, you are a child of God. (John 1:12)
In Christ, you are a fruit bearer. (John 15:5)
In Christ, you are sealed with the Holy Spirit. (2 Corinthians 1:22)
In Christ, you are to be his witness to the world. (Acts 1:8)
In Christ, you are given a spirit of power, of love and a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
In Christ, you are equipped to live out his Word. (James 1:22)
In Christ, you can choose peace over anxiety. (Philippians 4:6)
In Christ, you can boldly approach God in prayer knowing He hears. (1 John 5:14-15)
In Christ, you can be content in every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether in plenty or in want – and do all things. (Philippians 4:12-14)
In Christ, you are an overcomer. (1 John 4:4)
Hear me, friend: this isn't some fluffy, rah-rah Christian pep rally. I know many of you are going through difficult and painful challenges. Life throws curve balls that can leave us gasping for breath on any given day – at any given moment. I'm right there with you in the trenches of reality. God's ways do not always make sense, but one thing is always true: the great life He intends for us to live begins and ends with Jesus. And though we remain broken and impacted by an imperfect world, we can rise above and get through anything in the power and hope of God, for His glory. (Yes. I'm talking to you.)
Ready to be a beautritionist?
Ready to live the dream?
Walk today in close communion with Christ. Seek Him. Savor Him. Confess when you transgress. Align your heart to His will. Obey Him. Love Him... then, no matter what you are going through, watch the LORD do a beautiful thing in and through you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I really want to get this! Help me to trust Your ways even when I don't understand them. Help me to believe that Your words of hope are for me, so that You can be glorified in my life. Help me to be radiant and well on both the inside and outside. I'm ready to live the dream.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Journal! Think about and write down your dreams/hopes. Do you even have any? How would your life look differently if you moved in the direction of becoming a beautricianist?
What could you do today to impact the life of a friend with beauty, wellness and hope? (Get on that!)
Finally, are you ready to live the dream? Determine in your heart, pray it through and then tell me all about it on my blog or my Facebook page. I really, really, really love hearing from you! If you don't want to go into details, simply leave a comment saying, "I'm ready to live the dream!"
More from the Girlfriends
Are you struggling to trust that God's love can bring beauty to your life?Learn how God wants to bring you beyond your past heart-wounds and your present challenges to His wholeness, strength and beauty. Broken into Beautiful is a book filled with stories – real stories ... gritty and honest, not cleaned up and phony. It's also filled with Scripture that will inspire you toward the life-changing grace of Jesus. To order the book, go to Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit our webstore.
Gwen's website is filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Visit: www.GwenSmith.net. (Get a FREE song download when you sign up for her newsletter!)
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March 31, 2014
A Shameless Audacity
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever (Psalm 136:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I often settle for so much less than God's very best for my life. I tend to invest time in good things and miss the highest things God has planned for me.
You may have heard the story of the man who died and went to Heaven. He was met at the Pearly Gates by Saint Peter who welcomed the man and then said, "Let's take a look around Heaven and then I will show you to your new home." The man was stunned by the beauty and grandeur of Heaven and could hardly wait to see what his house looked like. Peter finally stopped in front of a beautiful mansion and said, "Here you are. This is your home in Heaven. How do you like it?" The man stared in awe at the place where he would spend eternity. "I can't wait to see what it looks like on the inside," the man exclaimed. Saint Peter took the man by the arm and said, "Let's take a look."
When Saint Peter opened the front door, the man gasped at the sight before him. Beautiful boxes of all shapes and sizes were stacked from the ceiling to the floor in every room. "I don't understand. What are all of these boxes doing here?" Saint Peter sadly smiled and said, "We will have them removed as soon as possible. These are all of the blessings we had waiting for you on earth – but you never asked for them. Now it's too late."
God longs to pour out His blessings on His children. We have somehow bought into the lie that we will receive good things from God by working harder, trying to be better, or doing more good things. Girlfriend, that is a lie from the pit and smells like smoke.
We are saved by God's grace and nothing we do or don't do will ever be good enough to earn the favor of God. In Ephesians the apostle Paul tells us that salvation is a gift – period.
Ephesians 2:8 (NIV) "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God ... "
If we could earn salvation, it would simply be a salary for works we have done. We are saved through faith in God alone. Salvation and the blessings of God are His gifts to us. We just receive them. Sounds too simple, doesn't it? God is just waiting for us to seek Him ... to listen for His voice ... and then to follow Him.
Just imagine that today is your child's birthday. You have a wonderful party planned and have spent a lot of time picking out the perfect birthday gift. Do you expect your child to earn that gift by cleaning the house, doing the laundry, taking out the trash, and completing every job on a very long list of chores you have prepared? Of course not! You simply want to delight in the joy on your child's face when he or she receives and opens that special gift.
I have received the gift of salvation as have many of you. We have surrendered our lives to Him and are seeking to follow Him. But I want every good gift He has planned for me – don't you? The good news is that God wants us to come to Him with "shameless audacity" and ask for His blessings.
Luke 11:5-10 Then Jesus said to them, "Suppose you have a friend and you go to him at midnight and say, 'Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.' And suppose the one inside answers, 'Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
Did you catch the mind-blowing truth in this passage of Scripture? The words "shameless audacity" recently jumped out at me for the first time. Don't miss this truth, girlfriend! God wants us to pray and live and breathe with the mindset that we want everything He has planned for us now and eternally! And we can come to Him with that shameless audacity – not because of anything we have done – but because of who He is and what He has done.
He is God!
He is our Lord and Savior and our Father who is just waiting to pour out His amazing blessings on His daughters.
Why? Because He loves us! He adores us! We were created by God for God. As Max Lucado says, "If God had a refrigerator our pictures would be on it!"
Today, grab hold of the truth that in the eyes of God you are somebody special. You are planned and wanted. You belong. You are chosen. Come before Him and tell Him you want it all! Yes, you want everything He has planned for you! Now hold out your hands, girlfriend. God's highest and richest blessings for your life are on their way!
Let's Pray
Father, I am tired of settling for the meager leftovers this world has to offer. Forgive me for not being willing to step out in faith to seek You and the plan You have for my life. Lord, I really do want everything You have in store for me. Right now, I come to You in shameless audacity and ask that You pour those blessings into my life. I receive them from Your hand of mercy and grace and thank You in advance for what You are going to do in my life as I seek and follow You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
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April 1, 2014
Jesus' Scars
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
After he said this, he showed them his hands and side. The disciples were overjoyed when they saw the Lord (John 20:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was just a few days after Easter, and I was reading about the resurrection of Jesus in the Gospel of John chapter twenty. I had read the story many times prior, but this time God opened my eyes to see something I had never noticed before.
In my mind's eye, I saw the pre-morning mist hovering over the garden surrounding the tomb where Jesus' body had been laid three days earlier. There among the dew stood Mary Magdalene, deep in sorrow and mourning over the death of her beloved Jesus.
But then...Mary hesitates...blinks, trying to readjust her eyes...and discovers the unthinkable. The heavy stone had been rolled away from the entrance to Jesus' grave.
How could this be? Mary thought to herself. Who would have stolen His body?
"I must go and tell the others," She said as she dashed from the empty tomb.
"They took Him!" Mary said as she burst through the door of the room where some of the disciples were hiding. "His body is gone!"
Without asking any questions, Peter jumped up from his sitting position on the floor and bolted out of the room. A much younger and more agile John followed close behind, and eventually passed his older friend.
"He's not here," John whispered as he peered inside the opening of the cave. "His body is gone."
A moment later, Peter arrived—stunned.
"Look," John said to his winded friend, "over there in the corner."
A ray of sunlight pierced the darkness like a spotlight illuminating a lone actor on the stage. At the end of the beam lay Jesus' empty burial cloths. Peter barreled past the timid John and burst into the darkened cave. There was just enough light to see the empty burial cloths and the strips of linen that had once covered Jesus' head.
"What happened here? What does this mean?" they mused.
"Hurry," they agreed, "Let's go tell the others."
Running past Mary, Peter and John ran back to tell the other disciples of their discovery. But Mary stayed in the garden, weeping for her beloved Jesus.
She knelt at the opening of the empty tomb with her hands covering her tearful eyes. Suddenly, a beam of light caught her attention. There, at the spot where Jesus' body had been laid, sat two glistening angels clothed in white – one at the foot and one at the head...just like on the Ark of the Covenant in the Holy of Holies, she might have thought.
"Woman, why are you crying?" the angels asked.
"They have taken my Master," Mary replied through her tears. "I don't know where they have taken Him."
Hearing a rustling in the myrtle bushes behind her, Mary turned her head. There appeared another figure as if in a dream. It was Jesus, but Mary didn't recognize or expect Him.
Jesus echoed the angels. "Woman, why are you weeping?"
Mary thought the man was the Gardener. Oh, she was not mistaken. He was The Master Gardener.
"Sir," she whimpered, "if you know where they have taken Jesus, would you please tell me so that I can take care of Him?"
Then Jesus whispered one simple word: "Mary."
At the sound of her name, Mary recognized the Lord.
After a brief conversation, Mary raced back to the disciples. "I have seen Him!" she proclaimed. "I have seen Him!"
"Who?" they asked in confused unison.
"I have seen Jesus! He is alive!"
Later that day, as the disillusioned band huddled in their hiding place, Jesus appeared in their midst. He didn't knock. He didn't open the door. He simply appeared.
"Peace be with you," Jesus said.
But the disciples didn't recognize Him. He looked like Jesus, talked like Jesus, but how...how could it be?
In order to convince the disciples that He was indeed the risen Christ, Jesus made a simple gesture. He held out His hands and revealed the nail-pierced hands. Then He lifted up his tunic to reveal the scar in His sword-pierced side.
It was then... that they believed.
As I read these verses, God played and replayed the frames in my mind's eye, but it was the final scene that captured my attention.
He showed them His hands and side.
Oh God, I prayed, they didn't recognize Jesus until He showed them His scars.
Yes, my child, He seemed to say, this is what I wanted you to see. They did not recognize Jesus until He showed them His scars, and this is how others still recognize Him today...when men and women who have experienced the healing of past wounds are not ashamed to show their scars to a hurting world.
Jesus did not have to retain the scars of the crucifixion on His resurrected body. He could have returned without them. After all, He is the one who put new flesh on the hands and feet of the lepers. But He chose to keep the scars, I believe, because they were precious to Him...that's how others would recognize who He was.
That is still the way people recognize Jesus today, when we are not ashamed to show the scars in our own lives. When we reveal the wounds that are now healed, and tell others about the Healer who made it possible.
Let's Pray
Dear God, thank You that Jesus kept His scars when He rose from the dead. I pray that I will not be ashamed of my scars, but that people will recognize the Healer in my life through my story.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Why do you think Jesus kept His scars when He returned from the grave?
What do you think of when you look at the scars on your own body? What comes to mind?
How can you use the scars in your own life (the ones that are in your soul) to bring glory to God?
Are you thankful for Jesus' scars? If so, click here to get to my Facebook page and leave a comment that says, "I am thankful for Jesus' scars today!"
More from the Girlfriends
Did you know that your scars are beautiful to God? He longs to turn your hurt into hope, your pain into purpose, and your messes into ministry. Don't waste your sorrows! Allow God to use what you have gone through to be a blessing to others. To learn more, see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. It also includes a study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's Word. And for you married gals, I'd love for you to hop over and join us at the new Praying Wives Club at www.Facebook.com/ThePrayingWivesClub.
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April 2, 2014
He is Waiting for You
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Now as they went on their way, He entered a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home (Luke 10:38, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Balance always requires a fierce and ruthless examination of priorities. Our true priorities are not mere lists of activities completed or goals set, but candid reflections of our heart desires. What we deem important receives the most time, energy, attention and resources. The importance of right and balanced priorities is illustrated by the life of Martha.
Jesus knew that He was always welcome in the home of Martha. Scripture tells us that Jesus "had no place to lay His head" but He often came to this home when He needed to rest or get away from the demanding crowds. At the age of thirty, the Son of God left His natural home and there is no record of His ever returning to live there. He often went to Bethany, to the house of Martha, Mary and Lazarus, and even spent His final week on earth there. Jesus didn't have to wonder if He was welcome in this home or if Martha was "ready" for His presence. He knew she was. Can He say the same about us? Do we have the heart of a seeker, one who lives each day aware of God's presence, His plan and His priorities?
Seeking God begins with recognizing who He is and then inviting Him into our life as Lord and Savior. If He is not Lord of all, then He is not Lord at all. For some of us, the problem is not that we lack a personal relationship with God. Our problem is that we are not "making room" for that relationship. Balance comes when we yield to His plan in the everyday moments of life.
One summer, our family went to Pennsylvania where we visited Amish country. I have always been fascinated by the Amish people and enjoyed every minute spent in their beautiful and carefully ordered world. As our visit came to an end I wanted to buy a souvenir to remind me of the peaceful days we had spent there, but everything I picked up was too expensive. Being a committed shopper, I was not about to let that stop me. We travelled up and down the small hidden back roads of each community, looking for the Amish products known only to a few and to those relentless shoppers who were willing to persevere. I was beginning to lose hope when I spotted the small, white sign posted on the fence of a quaint and absolutely perfect house. "Amish Crafts" it said. This was it!
As we climbed out of the car, a sense of peace settled around us like an old familiar blanket. Our voices immediately dropped to a whisper as we tiptoed up the narrow stone path and gently opened the screen door. When we stepped onto the porch filled with beautiful Amish crafts, a woman came out of the house, welcomed us with a beautiful smile and introduced herself as Mary. She invited us to browse and let her know if we needed any help. I have to admit that I was almost rude in my pathetic attempts to catch a glimpse of her home through the porch windows. Reading my mind, she graciously offered, "Would you like to come in and look around?" I thought she'd never ask!
Mary's home revealed a world very different from mine and an uncommonly simplistic lifestyle I desperately longed to experience. The house was sparsely furnished with only the necessities but Mary described her life and daily routine with words like "calm, uncomplicated, peaceful and serene." When I asked why she had chosen such a lifestyle she sweetly responded with words of wisdom I will never forget, "I have discovered that when my life and my heart get too crowded there is not enough room for God." Exactly!
An unbalanced life is too crowded for God. It is so easy to relegate our spirituality to religious activity when all He really wants is to spend time with us. When the tears fall, He wants to wipe them away, collecting each one so that He can pour them back into our lives as a refreshing rain of restoration. God longs for us to forever run into His arms, sharing every hurt and rejoicing in every victory. The Father yearns to wrap His strong arms around us, bringing the peace and balance we so desperately need.
Instead, we often relinquish control of our life to unworthy demands dictated by a world that operates in "urgent" gear. We forget what is really important. The important rarely barges in while the urgent is always an offensive intruder. The important waits patiently while the urgent demands its own way, creating bedlam and imbalance. Certainly, there are times when the important is also urgent – but we must learn to discern between the two. We wrongly conclude that a busy life is automatically a productive life and think that a full schedule will surely produce a full heart.
I have great news! He loves who you are more than He loves what you do. Seek Him today. Make room for Him. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Father, I am too busy and sometimes I feel like my life is spinning out of control. I'm tired of the imbalance I see in the way I live. Help me learn how to establish priorities that please You and reflect Your plan for me. I commit to spending time with You each day, seeking Your wisdom and direction. I love You, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you ready to evaluate your life according to God's priorities? Set aside time today to spend with Him. Grab your journal and record the truths He gives you about how to balance your life.
Ask God to let you see your life through His eyes. Be willing to change what needs to be changed in order to invest your time wisely.
Determine the top five life priorities of your life - right now. Take a deep breath and brutally examine your calendar and checkbook to see where you spend most of your time and resources. We can give lip service to what we think our priorities should be but until our daily schedule reflects those priorities, we are only "playing at life."
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Choose to keep the commitments you have made today for one month. So much of the Christian walk is wrapped up in the word "choice." A choice is a deliberate action and purposeful decision. We can choose where and how we spend our time. Need help? Check out Mary's MP3, How to Find Your Missing Peace.
Are you discouraged? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Down ... but NOT Out!" And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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April 3, 2014
Your Scars Are Beautiful To God
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story (Psalm 107:2, TNIV).
Friend to Friend
I have several scars on my body. One in the middle of my forehead I acquired during a rock fight when I was eight-years-old, one is on my lip when I fell on a nail after disobeying my mother and crossing a busy street to see a friend. And another is on my shin after disobeying once again and shaving my legs when I was twelve.
But some scars on my body aren't so humorous. For example, there are two crescent- shaped scars just below my belly button. They aren't the result of body piercing, but of two laparoscopic exploratory surgeries to try and discover why I was unable to conceive. They remind me of the years my husband, Steve, and I struggled with infertility and the loss of a child.
Then there's the scar on my right breast that reminds me of the weeks of waiting and wondering whether or not the lump was malignant or benign. No, not all scars are humorous.
Perhaps the most painful scars that I bear are the ones you cannot see. You know the ones I'm talking about. We all have them. They are the scars on our hearts and in our souls.
The scar of rejection from a father that didn't know how to love me.
The scar of growing up in a home riddled with alcohol and physical abuse.
The scar of disappointment at the loss of a child.
The scar of broken dreams.
We receive scars in one of two ways: what has been done to us by other people or what has been done through us by our own mistakes and failures. Either way, I believe that scars are not something that we need to hide or be ashamed of, but rather an invitation to share the healing power of Jesus Christ with a hurting world. For a scar, by its very definition, implies healing.
Perhaps you've never thought of the wounds in your life as potential treasures. I encourage you to dig a little deeper, push aside the dirt, and discover the jewels that lie beneath the surface. The Bible tells us, "Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story" (Psalm 107:2 TNIV). Your story may be one of your greatest treasures. Like sparkling diamonds, glistening rubies, and shimmering emeralds, our scars are beautiful to God.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I have many scars on my body and in my soul. I pray that You will take these scars and use them for Your glory. I pray that You will give me the courage not to hide them, but to show the world the healing power of Jesus Christ in my life. Thank You for healing me and making me whole.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you have some scars on your body that are comical?
Do you have some scars on your body that represent a deep hurt from your past?
Do you have some scars in your soul that represent a story to tell? A story of healing or redemption?
I'm wondering if God is calling you to tell your story. Click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'm ready to use my scars for the glory of God!"
And here's another invitation. I would love to hear your story. You can email me at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com.
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Did you know that your scars are beautiful to God? He longs to turn your hurt into hope, your pain into purpose, and your messes into ministry. Don't waste your sorrows! Allow God to use what you have gone through to be a blessing to others. To learn more, see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. It also includes a study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's Word. And for you married gals, I'd love for you to hop over and join us at the new Praying Wives Club at www.Facebook.com/ThePrayingWivesClub.
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April 4, 2014
An Uncluttered Woman
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33, NIV)
Friend to Friend
When I was a little girl, one of my favorite things to do was to twirl in the grass. With arms out stretched, I'd spin around and around until I was silly-dizzy, and then fall to the ground with a giggly heart. It was thrilling, invigorating and a fun and simple way to spend a lazy summer day in the rolling hills of southwestern Pennsylvania.
Now that I'm older, I can't handle spinning in circles. My body rejects any twisty endeavor. Nausea quickly sets in and reminds me that I'm not a young "spinny-girl" anymore.
A few years ago while my family and I were at an amusement park, in an effort to gain favor in the eyes of my kids and earn imaginary super mom points, I enthusiastically got on a ride that spins in circles. My hero-husband always goes on this type of ride with our children, so I thought, "If Brad can do it, then I can do it, right?"
What a joke!
I walked up the ramp to the wretched "Wheel of Whirl" naively optimistic and walked down the ramp having made a great big fool of myself. The park employee had to stop the ride to let me off. Bad decision. Yucky feelings followed. Instead of becoming super mom, I became super sick mom. My center of balance and my emotions were quickly thrown off leaving my poor family with the disenchanted consequences of my twirling ambitions.
Just like that day in the amusement park, I constantly find myself thrown off balance from the wheeling whirl-of-life clutter. Why? Simply put: I complicate my life.
If we're being honest – and I assure you, I'm all about straight talk – then I'd have to confess that I am one of my own biggest obstacles to living as an uncluttered woman. I know that I should depend solely on God for direction and strength, but the simple fact is I often don't. Most of us would admit that this is the case.
It is hard to sift through all that is thrown at us each day. Clutter happens and it challenges all of us. I'm in the trenches with you and readily admit that navigating this silly-dizzy world is difficult. There are ten bazillion things that compete for our attention and clutter our faith: emotions, materialism, negative thinking, overbooked schedules, doubts, legalism, laziness, self-reliance, our past pains and failures, technology, work, our need to control things, finances, debt, stress, addictions, discontentment and relationships. And I'm just getting started! This list could go on forever.
The Bible instructs us to direct our silly-dizzy days toward God. "Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans." (Proverbs 16:3, NIV)
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." (Matthew 6:33, NIV)
In His presence, God gives order to both our thoughts and our to-do lists. Everything changes when we seek Him first and commit our plans to Him. The journey to becoming an uncluttered woman is all about personal contact with Jesus. You and I will experience greater peace and deeper faith as we determine to respond to His constant invitation to come. But don't worry. Jesus is no stranger to clutter. He walked the same earth we do and dealt with the same struggles and problems we deal with. He loved many a cluttered woman while here on earth and many more before and since His ascension. He knows your clutter – your stuff – and He invites you to come just the same.
When we position ourselves in the presence of the Peace-giver and ask Him to lead and prioritize our heart matters, the uncluttering begins.
Let. It. Begin.
Let's Pray
Dear God, Thanks for reminding me that I can always come to You and trade in my exhaustion for Your rejuvenation. Please bring order to my day and establish my priorities according to Your will. Teach me what it means to live a Spirit-led life and show me how to become an uncluttered woman.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
In Matthew 6:33, Jesus said, "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." What are you seeking first?
Are there activities, emotions, relationships, or thoughts in your life that need to be committed to the Lord? Spend a few moments in prayer and ask the Lord to establish your plans according to His will.
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I think we all struggle with this one. BUT GOD – He loves to give us strength where we struggle. I co-wrote a song called Uncluttered. Since we've gone there devotionally, I'd really like to go deeper by exploring this topic musically. Please join me on my Facebook page right now and watch the music video for Uncluttered. Then write a few thoughts on my wall about your top clutter concerns – or simply declare, "I'm done with the clutter!"
SILLY-DIZZY? Check out Gwen's CD, Uncluttered. The songs of Uncluttered are purposed to sweep you away from life-noise and to focus your heart and mind on the one thing that matters: your relationship with Jesus Christ. If you are a digital buyer, find it here on iTunes and Amazon.
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April 7, 2014
When Hope Is Walking Right Beside You, Don't Miss It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age (Matthew 28:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever faced a tough circumstance and wondered, God, where are You? That was the situation with many of Jesus' followers after He was crucified and buried. Their hopes and dreams were sealed in the darkened tomb, and they didn't know where to turn.
The same day that Peter and John discovered the empty tomb, two other the disciples were walking to the village of Emmaus, seven miles from Jerusalem. While discussing the tragic events of the past weekend, another man appeared and began to walk alongside them.
"What are you talking about?" the man asked.
"Are you the only visitor in Jerusalem who doesn't know about the things that happened over the past few days?
"What things?" the man asked.
Then the two disciples gave the traveler a blow-by-blow account of Jesus' arrest, crucifixion, burial, and disappearance from the tomb. As they talked, their eyes were blinded by despair, and they didn't realize that hope was walking right alongside them. All they saw was the tragedy, but they missed seeing Jesus walking on the dusty road with them.
When they reached the village where they were going, they urged this "stranger" to join them for dinner. When He was at the table, Jesus assumed the role of host. He took the bread, gave thanks, broke the bread, and passed it to the men. At that point, I am sure a flood of memories returned to the men...memories of another meal where Jesus broke bread with His followers.
But perhaps what opened their eyes to this man's true identity were the nail-scarred hands that held the bread. "Their eyes were opened and they recognized him, and he disappeared from their sight" (Luke 24:31 NIV).
Perhaps you've traveled down your own dusty road to Emmaus with circumstances leaving you confused, troubled, and depressed. If so, remember this my friend: just because you cannot see Jesus or sense His presence does not mean that He is not there.
He is walking the path with you. Jesus assured us with these words: "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:3 NIV). "And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age" (Matthew 28:20 NIV).
He gave His word. He gave His life.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I know that You are always with me. Forgive me when I whine about being all alone. Forgive me when I whine that nobody understands my problems. I know that You understand all things, and that You are my hope Who is always walking right along the path with me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
How do you think the men felt when they realized that the man in their presence was Jesus?
What do you think the realization did to their dashed hopes and dreams?
How would the realization that Jesus is always walking along the path with you change your reaction to disappointments and broken dreams?
Now let's get this (Forgive me for sounding like a kindergarten teacher. I am preaching to myself today.) In regard to the path that you are on today, where is Jesus? Leave your answer on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/SharonJaynes.
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Did you know that your scars are beautiful to God? He longs to turn your hurt into hope, your pain into purpose, and your messes into ministry. Don't waste your sorrows! Allow God to use what you have gone through to be a blessing to others. To learn more, see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. It also includes a study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's Word. And for you married gals, I'd love for you to hop over and join us at the new Praying Wives Club at www.Facebook.com/ThePrayingWivesClub.
:angel:
April 8, 2014
Take This Job and Love It!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:16, NIV).
Friend to Friend
We all want to be successful in our work. Your office may be downtown or just inside your front door. Your work clothes may be an elegant suit or ragged jeans and a stained t-shirt. You may be paid in cash or with crayon drawings and sticky kisses. It doesn't really matter because none of these things alone makes us successful in the work place.
Many people never experience success in their work because they are in the wrong work to begin with. Not me. As a high school student, I knew exactly what I wanted to be – a nurse. My mother was a nurse and I wanted to be just like her, so I signed up to be a student volunteer at the hospital where my mother worked. When I told her the good news, she thought for a moment and then simply said, "That's great, honey. You'll make a wonderful nurse."
On my first day, I eagerly donned the required red and white striped uniform and reported for duty. The head nurse welcomed me and explained that I would be checking each patient to make sure they had water to drink, magazines to read, and a listening ear. That sounded simple enough. "Oh, and one more thing," she continued. In retrospect, I should have instantly recognized the danger in those words and run for the nearest exit. In my ignorance, I stayed. "Since we are short-handed, I may ask you to do just a few things to help the other nurses on duty," she said. "No problem" I assured her.
At that precise moment, a scream pierced the air! The head nurse calmly looked at me, smiled and said, "Could you check on that, please?" Surely, I had misunderstood her. "Now!" she continued. Taking a deep breath, I headed in the direction of the scream, praying that that it was nothing more than the celebratory cry of someone who had just won a million dollars.
As I neared the room in question, a bedpan flew through the doorway in front of me, landing at my feet. Furthermore, the bedpan was not empty. I decided right then and there that nursing was not for me, turned in my candy cane apron, and raced for the nearest exit. Mama was waiting for me as I stepped off the elevator. She smiled, handed me the cars keys, and simply said "See you at home." Fortunately, I had a wise and wonderful mother who knew me well, and from that day on encouraged me to be the teacher God created me to be.
I truly believe many people are living stress-filled lives because they have never sought and discovered God's plan and are trapped in jobs and careers that simply do not fit. Every day, they feel like the proverbial round peg being jammed into a square hole – a painful and frustrating process.
What does fit is God's plan. In Psalm 23:3, David writes, "He leads me in paths of righteousness." In this verse "righteousness" simply means "right things." The Shepherd has a plan for His sheep. Unfortunately, so does everyone else. The difference is that God's plan is filled with the "right things" He shaped and created us to do while the agendas of others tend to service their own purposes instead of God's.
God empowers His plan, but when we step into our own agenda or a plan created by anyone else, we are stepping into and relying upon our frail, limited strength. We will soon be empty and stress will flood in, filling the emptiness with anxiety and tension. Don't waste another day just doing the "next" thing. Take a long, hard look at your work, your job, and your agenda to make sure you are in the right place - doing what you were created to do in this world.
You have probably heard the statement, "I climbed the ladder of success, and when I reached the top, I realized it was leaning against the wrong wall." Not long ago, I came to a crossroads in my life that made me question the path I was taking in ministry. I asked God to either change me and the way I was doing ministry or change my ministry. He did both! Once again, I realized God wants the highest and best things for my life. That really is His plan. And He has the same kind of plan for your life. Don't settle for anything less.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to follow Your plan for my life. Help me to walk in daily obedience so that Your unique and perfect plan for my life will naturally unfold before me. And when I am discouraged or stressed because of the work I am doing, give me Your peace and the assurance that I am in the right spot doing the right things You created me to do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
The amazing truth is that more than we want to know God's plan for our life - He wants us to know it and stands ready to guide us. God always reveals His plan to an obedient and seeking heart. Are you willing to do whatever God asks you to do?
Read Jeremiah 29:11 and record it in your journal. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).
Seek God and ask for His direction.
Seek His will by searching His Word.
Pay attention to the passion of your heart.
Realistically evaluate your abilities.
Take into account your natural talents.
Consider the advice of those who know you best.
Then step out in faith, trusting God to help you make the right choice.
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God gives us His truth to learn and then to apply. God has a unique plan or "recipe" for each one of us. Our greatest opportunity for success is to live that plan. I believe God tucks into our very soul a discontentment with anything but His life "recipe." If we approach each day searching for His handprints in every situation, choosing to walk in obedience to His Word, we will surely find ourselves right in the middle of God's purpose and plan.
Mary's E-Bible Study Take This Job and Love It offers six principles from the life of the Proverbs 31 woman that will help you be successful in your work, no matter where you work or what your job may be. Study guide included.
Are you discouraged? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Down ... but NOT Out! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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April 9, 2014
When You Mess Up Big Time
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers (Luke 22:31, NIV emphasis added).
Friend to Friend
I'm so glad Jesus picked Peter to be one of His disciples. Time and time again we see him with his foot in his mouth, his pride in his pocket, and his temper on his sleeve. Satan knew Peter was going to have a big impact on the church at large, and he tried many times to get him off course.
During the last supper Jesus had with His disciples before going to the cross, He warned Peter that he was about to be tested. "Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers" (Luke 22:31 emphasis mine).
Peter puffed out his chest, lifted up his head and said, "I am ready to go with you to prison and to death."
I imagine Jesus thought, Sure you are, buddy.
Just a few hours later, the sifting began. As Peter stood by the fire just outside where Jesus was being beaten and tried, a little servant girl asked if he was one of Jesus' followers.
"Woman, I don't know Him," he said.
Then again to another inquirer...
"Man, I am not (one of His disciples)!" Peter replied.
And again to a third...
"Man, I don't know what you're talking about!"
And just as the third denial slipped past Peter's lips, the rooster crowed to remind him of Jesus' words: "Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times."
Peter went outside and wept bitterly.
Jesus knew that Peter was going to deny Him, and yet, before he even fellfrom grace, Jesus was picking him up with grace. Yes, Peter was absolutely crushed at his weakness in denying Jesus three times. But then, the ray of God's love reminded him of Jesus' words..."When you have turned back, strengthen your brothers."
After Jesus' resurrection, he reminded Peter to invest what he had learned in other people. Three times Jesus asked, "Do you love me?" After each of Peter's affirmations, Jesus said, "Feed my lambs...take care of my sheep...feed my sheep." Peter did exactly what Jesus asked and spent the rest of his life investing in other people
Have you made some mistakes that left you feeling disqualified? Do you feel like you have been sitting on the bench because of too many technical fouls?
Oh dear friend, you are not disqualified. Jesus has not put you on the bench. Just as we have seen with Peter, when we fall, Jesus is waiting for us to get back up on our feet and back in the game to strengthen our brothers and sisters in Christ.
Listen closely. Can you hear it? Jesus is whispering...do you love me...take care of my sheep.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am so thankful that You loved Peter...and that You love me. I don't want to sit on the bench when it comes to the game of life. Thank You for forgiving me and putting me back in the game. Help me to have the courage to get back on my feet when I fall, dust the shame off my face when I mess up, and join the team on the field!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What came to your mind when you read the words: "And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers"?
Do you think Jesus knows when, where, and how you are going to fail?
What did he want Peter to do after he had repented?
What does God want you to do after you have repented?
Can you see yourself sitting with Jesus by the fire? Imagine Him saying this to you today: "Woman, do you love me? Then take care of my sheep."
:angel:
April 10, 2014
He has Risen!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He is not here; he has risen! (Luke 24:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The boys and girls in Mrs. Stephens' fourth grade Sunday school class entered the room and quickly found their seats. The girls were dressed in frills and lace and chatting excitedly about the candy-filled baskets they had received that morning. The boys pulled at the unfamiliar ties around their necks and quickly discarded the sports coats they had obviously been forced to wear. The room was filled with excitement – for good reason. It was Easter Sunday.
Mrs. Stephens wanted to help her students understand that there is so much more to the Easter holiday than new clothes, chocolate bunnies, and egg hunts. Easter is more than family gatherings and tables filled with luscious food. Easter is about life. Easter celebrates the certainty of Jesus' death on the cross, the fact that He was buried, and the reality that He came out of that burial tomb to conquer death so that we can live now and eternally.
Mrs. Stephens came up with a plan. After sharing the Bible story of Jesus' resurrection, she gave each one of her students an empty plastic egg and said, "We are going to take a walk outside, and I want each one of you to find one sign of life and put it in your plastic egg." As the children filed out of the room, Mrs. Stephens noticed Danny, a little boy with Down syndrome who had been coming to her class for some time. His bright smile and sunny disposition had immediately won her heart. In fact, when it came to Danny, she often thought he had taught her so much more about the unconditional love of God and the joy of simply being a child of God than she could ever teach him. When she heard the other children make fun of him, it broke her heart. She always corrected the children and tried to help them see just how special Danny was, but Danny seemed oblivious to their hurtful words, and thought of each child as his "buddy."
The children soon returned from their walk, depositing their eggs on the teacher's desk as they made their way to their seats. Inside one student's egg was a butterfly. In another was an ant. Others had collected flowers, twigs, blades of grass and leaves to fill their eggs. But one egg had nothing in it. Everyone knew whose egg it was. Mrs. Stephens silenced the giggles with a look of warning. When she asked Danny why he had not put anything inside his egg to show signs of life, his face broke into a huge grin as he responded, "Because the tomb was empty."
Danny got it. He truly understood the profound truth of Easter. The empty tomb is the ultimate sign of life and a miracle like none other.
Jesus Christ had risen from the dead. The women knew Jesus was dead. Some of them had seen Him die. And they were sure His body was in the tomb; it had been there since Friday. But when they went to anoint the body on that Sunday morning, the tomb was empty! The body could not have been stolen. Nobody was playing tricks on them. They were not merely fooling themselves. The miracle was real. They could see the empty tomb with their own eyes. Jesus Christ really had risen from the dead!
Spend some time today thanking God for the miracle of life. And then share the good news with someone else: He is risen! He is risen indeed!
Let's Pray
Father, Thank You for the miracle of life – abundant life here, and eternal life with You in Heaven. Help me celebrate that life every day as I seek You and follow Your plan for my life. Today, I say with the Apostle Paul, "Where, O death is your victory? Where, O death is your sting?"
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Consider this truth: Satan has no answer for the empty tomb. What does the resurrection of Jesus Christ really mean to you?
Set aside time today to remember what Christ has done for you through His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Read Luke 24 and celebrate the life only He can give.
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I would love to have been there that morning when the women went to the tomb – expecting to deal with death and instead found life, wouldn't you? You may be dealing with death in your own life – the loss of a loved one – the death of a dream – the pain of a broken body. Just as Jesus Christ rose from the dead, He can breathe new life into your heart and mind. Right now, quietly turn to Jesus. He is waiting for you – healing and restoration and new life are in His hands.
:angel:
Today's Truth
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30).
Friend to Friend
We live in a competitive world. The pressures to be thin, beautiful, fit, smart, sexy, funny, rich, and popular trap us in a relentless vise-grip. Anyone can become gripped by a disorder or an addictive lifestyle. You could be a college student, a businesswoman, a nurse, a mom, a dance instructor, a retail clerk, or a Sunday school teacher. No one is exempt. Feelings of inadequacy and inferiority ravage hearts of Christians and non-Christians alike.
Our attempts to measure up are all-consuming traps. They focus our attention inward verses upward. When we get caught in the trap of striving to measure up, we focus on ourselves. That was never God's plan. We were designed to focus on Him. Shifting our attention from ourselves to God will change our perspective. God longs for our obsession to be Him.
"I am the Lord; that is my name! I will not give my glory to another or my praise to idols" (Isaiah 42:8).
The Dangers of Comparing
A common way we attempt to measure up is through comparison. Comparing is one of the most dangerous and destructive behaviors that we women engage in. We compare everything—our husbands, our children, our churches, and our cars. We compare our homes, our schedules, our finances, our blessings, and our burdens. There is a subtle, internal dialogue that plagues our minds and causes us to pull out our measuring sticks and hold them up to the people around us.
That's not to say that we should isolate ourselves or withdraw from awareness of others. We need to be able to relate to our friends, families, and neighbors. No question. But we shouldn't compare ourselves to them.
Comparing your life, your family, your stuff, your failures, and your accomplishments to that of someone else is dangerous. Very dangerous. It draws the focus of your heart to you instead of to God. The comparing game also brews a bitter cup of jealousy and resentment. I should know. I've tasted more than my fair share of that bitter drink.
No, we in the church are not immune to comparisons by a long stretch! How many times have you looked across the aisle and thought, "She's such a godly woman I wish I was more like her," or "I wish I could pray like her (or sing like her, or speak like her, or bake like her, or be popular like her, or be organized like her)"?
Often the things we compare are completely meaningless, fluffy things.
Do you have a girlfriend with perfect hair? How about a girlfriend with a husband who treats her as a precious jewel? Got a friend whose house is crazy-organized? Do you have a friend who works out faithfully and looks like she belongs on the cover of a fitness magazine? Got one of those?
Sure you do. So do I.
Honestly, my list of shortcomings could go on forever. I'm keenly aware that I fall short in many areas. It's easy to listen to the voices in your head that say, "You're not this, and you're not that. You don't do this well, and you can't do that." Your internal comparison dialogue is a vicious measuring stick that the enemy loves to wave in your face. Your defense in such an attack should be God's truth. You were made to be you, and are called to be uniquely you, for Him.
Yes, we should strive to live lives of excellence. And yes, we should be aware of personal areas that need improvement. But God intends that we should bloom where we are planted and thrive in our gifting's so that His church can function in a healthy way.
In the New Testament book of 1 Corinthians, the apostle Paul shows us clearly that each of us has a divine design and an important role to play in the Body of Christ.
For the body is not one member, but many. If the foot says, "Because I am not a hand, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body. And if the ear says, "Because I am not an eye, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the hearing be? If the whole were hearing, where would the sense of smell be? But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired. If they were all one member, where would the body be? But now there are many members, but one body (1 Corinthians 12:14-20, NASB).
God has a special plan for your life. God's gifts for you are the best gifts for you to possess. He fashioned you in His image and tenderly knit you in your mother's womb. You are purposed to be a God-loving you.
It's time we quit chasing the interests of others and start pursuing the passions that were written on our hearts. Our role in the Body of Christ is essential. God wants us to stop trying to measure up to everybody around us and be content in Him.
Let's Pray
Dear God, please renew and transform me from the inside out! When feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. I want to be held tightly by your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
How does this speak to you today? Do you really know how much you're loved? Pray about it and journal if you're the journaling type... then swing over to my blog or my Facebook page to talk about it and pray through it together. If you are ready to move beyond comparing, leave a comment, "I'm done with the comparing game!"
More from the Girlfriends
Today's devotion is an excerpt from Gwen's book Broken into Beautiful. If the content resonated with you and if you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order the book on Amazon or, for a signed copy, visit her website.
Experience God's deep healing and hope in your life today.
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April 14, 2014
An Easter Bride
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready (Revelation 19:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was a beautiful day for a wedding. The sun shone brightly as the daffodils danced in the gentle breeze, nodding their happy faces in conversation. A choir of robins, cardinals, and finches sang rounds of cheerful melodies, which floated through a clear blue sky that was a reflection of the bride's sparkling eyes. The air had that unusual crisp quality of spring, reminding us of the chill from winter's past and the warmth of summer's promise.
The day was Easter Sunday, the day the groom had chosen to be joined to His beloved. Like the Jewish custom of old, he had proposed to his young maiden, and then promptly gone away to prepare a home for her. On this day, his father had signaled the home was ready and he could go to get his bride
Iris had been waiting for her husband to come and take her to the wonderful home that He had prepared for her. How like him to pick Easter, she thought to herself. My favorite day of the year.
She smiled as she heard Him coming, and her heart fluttered with the anticipation of seeing His face.
She wore a white dress with flecks of blue and carried a bouquet of pink carnations and white mums with a spray of asparagus fern as wispy as her baby-fine hair. A sweet smile spread across her face as she saw her beloved Jesus hold out His strong hand to help her cross the threshold of the temporal and into the hall of eternity. She walked into His loving embrace and drank in the loveliness of her surroundings, which He had perfectly described in His many letters.
On Easter Sunday, in 1997, my husband's dear, sweet, 74-year-old Aunt Iris went home to be with the Lord. As we all gathered around to say our last good-byes, I could not manage to be mournful. Yes, I was going to miss her. But Iris had never been married on this side of eternity and the vision I had in my mind was of her joining the Lord as the Bride of Christ. For me, it was not a funeral. It was a wedding! It was what she had always longed for...a dream come true.
In Isaiah 61:3, the prophet describes what God will do for the Bride of Christ. He will bestow on her a crown of beauty instead of ashes, anoint her with the oil of gladness instead of mourning and place on her shoulders a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
Are you feeling brokenhearted because of broken dreams? Have you been in mourning because your dream of being a bride has not turned out like you had hoped? God desires to blow away the ashes and place the crown of a royal bride on your head. So lift your head dear one, and accept your crown from the King of kings.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for choosing me to be the bride for Your Son. I look forward to the day when I will be joined with my heavenly Bridegroom for all eternity. Until then, I will prepare myself to be the best bride I can be.
In my Bridegroom's Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I asked my husband what picture came into his mind when he thought about himself as being a part of the Bride of Christ. He gave me a strange look and said, "Nothing really."
Oh how precious that we girls can have the picture of walking down the aisle to meet our heavenly Bridegroom. Today, that's what I want you to imagine. Just put that picture in your mind and savor it all day.
How does it make you feel to know that Jesus is your heavenly Bridegroom? Log onto my Facebook page and let's compare notes.
More from the Girlfriends
Has life not turned out the way you thought it would? Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you? Place your hand firmly in His—take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. To find out more, see my book The 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Longs to Fulfill Them. Don't give up! God has a plan for you!
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April 15, 2014
The Art of Confrontation
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6).
Friend to Friend
We are born helpless. As soon as we are fully conscious, we discover loneliness. Because God created us to need each other, it is in relationships that much of who we are is realized and fashioned. Throughout Scripture, God repeatedly emphasizes the value and benefits of healthy relationships. However, to my way of thinking, life would be so much easier at times if no one needed us and we needed no one because, honestly, relationships are hard work, especially relationships with sandpaper people.
Difficult relationships and people who rub us the wrong way are often assigned permanent seats in our world and don't always come with the option of escape. So we must make a choice. We can either learn to get along with people who rub us the wrong way or retreat into a substitute for the relationship God intended. Work fills the hours that should be spent learning to live together in peace. Children fill the void that a difficult spouse refuses to fill. Needs are unmet and desires are numbed in an effort to live peacefully with that sandpaper person.
Marriages are filled with conflict and turmoil because one or both marriage partners are sandpaper people.
Friendships splinter and workplace relationships disintegrate under the constant emotional fire of sandpaper people.
It is almost humorous – almost – that sandpaper people rarely see or accept the fact that they are the coarser of the two in any relationship. The abrasive people in life are masters at dodging blame and skirting responsibility for the emotional upheaval that follows them like their own shadow. One of the treasures found in a healthy relationship is the learned ability to give and take. Friendships are meant to teach us how to love and trust people on many different levels. The workplace is a laboratory for personality experiments and conflict management.
A thread of flexibility runs through the center of every healthy relationship, accepting those who grate on our nerves, accommodating their quirks and flaws. The problem is that sandpaper people avoid flexibility if at all possible, afraid that any change will exclude them, which is the very thing they fear most and the one thing their abrasive behavior always produces. The question then becomes, what part must we play in dealing with these difficult people. How can we come to the table of relationship health and walk away with a solution?
One of the basic needs of every healthy relationship is the art of confrontation. To confront someone is to meet them head-on in the quest for compromise. Confrontation is an emotional tackle for the purpose of resolving conflict while promoting peace. Just as God separates us from our sin, He calls us to do the same with sandpaper people. We must disconnect who they are from what they do, loving the sinner but hating the sin, looking beyond their weaknesses in search of their strengths.
Most people I know hate confrontation and will do anything to avoid it, but in doing so, give the impression that they are content with the status quo. It is important for us to understand that silence is agreement. Confrontation is a gift we bring to every healthy relationship as well as the unhealthy relationships with which we struggle. Confrontation is a spiritual surgery that tends to be painful. But without it, the cancer of contention and discord will remain unfettered, free to grow and spread its deadly relationship poison.
Let's Pray
Father, I want every relationship in my life to honor and please You. Teach me how to love like You love. Help me learn how to confront with a pure heart and the right motives.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Life really is all about the people you do life with. Read the ABC's of friendship below and make a plan to put each one into action this week.
Allow people to get close. Friendship requires taking a risk. Read Proverbs 18:24 (NLT) "There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother."
Become a great friend. Which way do you run in times of trouble? Read Proverbs 17:17a (NIV) "A friend loves at all times ..."
Celebrate your friends. Who do you need to celebrate this week? How will you celebrate their friendship? Read Philippians 1:3 (NLT) "Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God."
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April 16, 2014
A Simple Wooden Cross
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God (1 Corinthians 1:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The sea breeze blew the tangles from my knotted nerves as a choir of various birds sang revelry to greet the day. Myrtle bushes, bursting with fuchsia blossoms added splashes of color to the sandy landscape. Jumping fish performed acrobatic feats for an audience of One.
Perhaps my favorite place in the entire world is the beach. God seems to speak to me through each intricately carved seashell, soaring gull, and majestic wave. On this particular spring morning, I had gotten up before the others stirred from their slumber, to have a cup of coffee with the Lord.
I sat rocking on the cottage porch surrounded by coastal beauty and watching the water of the lazy canal meander by. As I talked to God and thanked Him for all the splendor of His creation, He urged me to look closely at a reflection in the water.
My eyes followed the wavy reflection to the side of the canal where there stood two pieces of weathered wood, forming a simple cross. Upon closer inspection, I realized that this was actually one end of an old forgotten clothesline, but to me it was much much more.
I knew at that moment the beams were there just for me. The owner may have viewed them as merely part of a clothesline in disrepair, but this cross was God's reminder to me that in all the majesty of His creation, it is the cross of two wooden beams that remains the most majestic of all.
Two simple beams display to the entire world for all time the surpassing greatness of His love, the incalculable riches of His grace, and the unfathomable depth of His mercy to all who will believe.
More beautiful than any blooming flower, more melodious than any song of my feathered friends, more powerful than the surf of the sea–the cross.
This Easter season, join me in praising God for the most beautiful gift of all...His Son...the cross.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You so much for the cross. Through the work of Jesus on those two simple beams of wood, You have given me eternal life. I pray I will never forget Jesus' incredible sacrifice. Yes, the world may think the cross is foolish, but the message of the cross is the power of God.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does the cross mean to you?
How would you explain that to someone who doesn't know Christ?
Why does the message of the cross point to the power of God?
Want to be extra blessed, click here to hear one of my favorite songs, Thank You For the Cross Lord.
Then click over to my Facebook page and let me know if it blessed you today.
More from the Girlfriends
I love how God speaks to me through nature. He also speaks through other people, circumstances, prayer and His Word. If you would like to learn more about how to hear His still small voice, see my book, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God. God is speaking to you everyday! Don't miss it. And for all you married GiG's out there, I'd love for you join us over at The Praying Wives Club. We are having some serious prayer for our men.
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April 17, 2014
The Art of Confrontation
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6).
Friend to Friend
The highest goal for every relationship is unity at some level. The apostle Paul was committed to unity and peace, no matter how impossible it might seem. It was a commitment rising out of the love he found in his personal relationship with God. And it is out of this love that he writes a letter to the church at Philippi, a church that he established. His heart and life were there and his closest friends and deepest relationships were with these people. It caused him great pain to discover that there was division among them, and is writing the letter both as an encouragement to confront the ones causing the division and as his own letter of confrontation as well.
In his letter, Paul describes the unity God expects to be exemplified in relationships. "Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose" (Philippians 2:2). Impossible! It is impossible to meet these standards in every relationship. To be like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and in purpose are the characteristics of deep, abiding relationships forged through layers of time, shared experiences and habitual choices. Exactly! God calls us to never be satisfied with anything less than these standards when it comes to the way we love each other. It is a calling that can only be realized through the power of God at work in our hearts, and requires a complete and total surrender of our personal agenda for every relationship we have.
Before Dan and I were married, I noticed several rough edges that needed to be sanded away and felt like I was just the one who could do it. After all, that's what wives are for, right?
I decided to lay low for a few months, giving him a chance to make the changes on his own before I stepped in with my well-thought-out plan for his life. The only problem was that my plan did not line up with his plan. He seemed oblivious to the character flaws that were blatantly obvious to me.
After a few months of marital bliss, during which I was fine-tuning my "Fix Dan Plan," a seed of discontent took root and began to grow.
The strength I had so admired in Dan now looked a whole lot like stubbornness.
His ability to take a complicated issue, dissect it, and boil it down to a three-step-plan now seemed patronizing and sometimes even meddlesome.
What I had once embraced as his devotion to me now seemed like his need to be in control of me.
It was time for the execution of my foolproof plan of transforming my husband into the man God and I thought he should be. It goes without saying that unity was the last thing on my mind or on my list of changes to be made. Looking back, I am certain I fit the bill of a sandpaper person deluxe! The results were painfully disastrous.
Arguments over insignificant issues ensued as we battled each other for control of the relationship. Dan fielded each attack, confused and bewildered by the mysterious change in his wife. Every area of our marriage suffered, and we were both miserable. Thankfully, my husband was committed to me, I was committed to him, and we were both committed God and our marriage.
I will never forget the afternoon he confronted me in love and with amazing patience. I don't remember much of the conversation, but I do remember the words that broke my heart and saved our marriage. "Honey, I'm not sure what is going on between us. But I do know that I want to love you like you need to be loved," he gently explained.
And there you have not only the recipe for a successful marriage, but for unity in relationships as well.
I loved Dan like I thought he should be loved, with my requirements and my human expectations, hoping that he would have to do all of the changing while I did all of the controlling. I had a lot to learn about the art of confrontation and how it brings unity, peace, and joy to any relationship where it is invited to work.
Many people love a good fight and often mistake combat for confrontation. The two are not the same thing. Combat slowly corrodes and splinters while confrontation is an art that - when done correctly - improves and strengthens relationships. It is our responsibility to bring Godly confrontation into every relationship. There is a right way and a wrong way to confront. The success of any confrontation depends upon understanding the difference between the two.
Confrontation is a gift we bring to every relationship, and the truth is, if you love, you level. Being willing and able to confront in love is a mark of maturity and stability in the Christian life.
Let's Pray
Father, I confess that I often fail when it comes to being a true friend. Teach me how to nurture the relationships in my life through healthy confrontation. May the friendships in my life honor and please You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
I encourage you to scrutinize your relationships under the light of Godly love and correction. How do they measure up?
Are you quick to be a vessel through which God can pour out His love through an encouraging word?
Have you been silent, refusing to correct a friend or loved one because it was the easiest thing to do?
I have been guilty of taking the easy way out when it comes to cultivating healthy relationships. Join me in a new commitment to honor God in all of our relationships.
More from the Girlfriends
I truly believe God uses our relationships to illustrate characteristics of His nature – characteristics like love, grace, mercy, and forgiveness. Relationships are hard work and require the power of the Holy Spirit to be what God created them to be. Need help? Mary's CD, I Need a Friend, offers practical steps for building healthy relationships.
Are you discouraged? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Down ... but NOT Out! And be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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April 21, 2014
When Doubts Arise
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Thomas fell to his knees and cried, 'My Lord and my God!' (John 20:29, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When Jesus appeared to the disciples after His resurrection, there was one who was absent from the motley crew–Thomas. When he came back to the group, they were abuzz telling of Jesus' appearance. But Thomas didn't believe a word they said.
"Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it," he declared.
"A week later his disciples were in the house again and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus suddenly appeared and stood among them.
"'Peace be with you!'" he said.
"Then Jesus turned to a stunned Thomas and said, 'Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.'
"Thomas fell to his knees and cried, 'My Lord and my God"
The world is full of "Thomases." I was one and perhaps you were one too. And even though I did not run my fingers over Jesus' nail-scarred hands or thrust my hand into his sword-pierced side, I recognized Jesus through the scars of the men and women who were not afraid to share their stories of healing and redemption...and because of that, I believed.
In Revelations 12:11, John wrote, "They overcame him [Satan] by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." Incredible power is released when we drop the chains of bitterness, fear and shame to tell our stories. Because Satan knows that our stories are instrumental in his ultimate defeat, he will do anything and everything to convince us to keep those stories hidden.
Oh dear one, God is calling us to not be ashamed of our scars, for it is by those very scars that others will recognize the Savior, Jesus Christ.
Do you know a "Thomas" who needs to see your scars? To hear your story? This week, I encourage you to share your story of redemption with one person and watch a miracle take place!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I am overwhelmed today by the great sacrifice that You made for me on Calvary's cross. Please forgive me when I have times of doubting in my life. Help me to be real to my Girlfriends in God and share those times of doubting. Thank You that You did not call us to go through this journey of faith alone, but You have given us friends to walk with side-by-side.
I thank You that there was no hint of condemnation from the other disciples when Thomas doubted, and I pray that I will never condemn a friend who is struggling with her own faith. I want to be one of those people who Jesus mentioned when he said to Thomas, "Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed" (John 20:29 NIV).
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever had times of doubting God? If so, what changed your heart?
Is there a friend who is struggling with her faith in God? If so, how can you help her see God at work?
More from the Girlfriends
Did you know that your scars are beautiful to God? He longs to turn your hurt into hope, your pain into purpose, and your messes into ministry. Don't waste your sorrows! Allow God to use what you have gone through to be a blessing to others. To learn more, see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. It also includes a study guide for those who want to dig deeper into God's Word. And for you married gals, I'd love for you to hop over and join us at the new Praying Wives Club at www.Facebook.com/ThePrayingWivesClub.
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April 22, 2014
In His Eyes
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:14-15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was my first day of teaching second grade. While standing at the classroom door, greeting parents and children, I felt a tug on my skirt. I looked down into the beautiful blue eyes of Sammy, one of my new students. His mother, who was standing beside Sammy, looked at me, and said, "I guess you've heard about Sammy. Good luck!" As she walked away, Sammy said, "She's right. I'm dumb and mean and can't read or write."
Lisa was a tall, blonde and beautiful young woman with zero self-confidence. Lisa was the family joke because she was always dropping things or falling on the stairs. "Klutz" became her nickname at home and quickly caught on in the youth group and church where her father was the pastor. Everyone thought she was clumsy, even Lisa.
A young wife and mother sobbed out her confession that she had just ended an affair, "He made me feel important and special." A talented singer and pianist, she vowed to never again sing or play because she now considered herself damaged goods.
I often hear and see the same prison described by women living in the grip of failure and defeat for one reason or another. I want to share some good news with you.
God can set you free to be all He created you to be.
A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride, and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Be realistic in your opinion of yourself. Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be, and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
I love a good sale, don't you? In fact, a 75% off tag may very well be a sign from God. (I'm still trying to convince my husband.) I have also learned that you can save money in the long run if you check the label. Let me explain.
We needed a new sofa – desperately. It had to be a certain color and style and fit my limited budget. I headed for the nearest furniture outlet, where I narrowed my selection down to two sofas. Both were on sale, and both would work in our home. I saw the salesman coming. Before he could say a word, I asked, "Which one of these sofas would you tell your wife to buy?" The man immediately pointed to one of the sofas and said, "Definitely that one." When I asked why he had chosen that particular sofa, he replied, "Check the label. A company known for its quality work makes it. The other sofa is a cheap imitation."
We can judge a product's potential and value by looking at the one who created it.
God does not make cheap imitations of anything.
You are valuable simply because you were created by the hand of God. His design of you, and His plan for your life is second to none. He paid the highest price that could be paid – for you. To cower or crawl in inferiority is to say to God, "You made a mistake when you made me." God doesn't make mistakes, girlfriend. He never has to say, "Oops!" We were created in His likeness, and we are valuable to God. God knows your name. He loves you. You are His masterpiece and have been validated by God Himself. Wow! That is quite a label!
Step two: Embrace the plan.
While painting in the city park, an artist spotted a beggar sitting across the path from where he was working. Thinking of God's handiwork in every human being, the artist painted the man as he imagined he could be. He then called the beggar to see the painting. "Is that me?' the beggar asked. "That is the way I see you," replied the artist. The beggar stared at the painting. With tears in his eyes he said, "If that's the man you see in me, then that's the man I will be!"
God created you in response to a unique plan He has for your life. You can discover that plan by reading the Bible, God's instruction manual for your life. The Bible is powerful and will allow us to understand who we are in God's eyes - when we consistently read, memorize, and apply it in our daily lives.
In my next devotion, we will look at four more steps we can take to understand who we are in Christ as we learn to recognize our value in His eyes. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for life and the special plan You have for me. Honestly, it is hard for me to understand and really believe that I am special to You. To think that You know me and love me just as I am really rocks my world, but I do want to see myself through Your eyes – no more and no less. Please help me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the verses of Scripture and answer the questions listed below.
Ephesians 2:10 "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
How does this verse of Scripture emphasize the fact that you and I were created in response to God's plan, not as an afterthought or as an accident?
Psalm 8:3-5 "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor."
How do these verses line up with the way you see yourself right now? What one immediate change do you need to make in order to see yourself the way God sees you?
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Are you living a life plan that gives you hope and a future? Is it the right plan?
Read and memorize Isaiah 43:4 and make it one of your life verses: "You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you."
More from the Girlfriends
I have struggled with my identity and value for years. Fear of failure once kept me from dreaming new dreams. No more! My dreams seem to get bigger with every year of life that passes, and I really believe it is because my new perspective of who I am is more accurate than it has ever been. I am a daughter of the King. I belong to God and He loves me. No one can take my place in the Father's heart, and I am indispensable to no one but Him. That is my prayer for you, girlfriend, that you will know and live out the truth that you are special in God's eyes.
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April 23, 2014
Are You Emotionally Crippled?
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Woman, you are released [set free] from your infirmity! (Luke 13:12 Amplified, note added).
Friend to Friend
I was riding down the crowded streets of Mexico City in a cab when I saw her. She measured about four feet high, back curved, bent at the waist at a ninety-degree angle, and fingers gnarled and twisted shut. Like an upside-down chair, her face was parallel to the dirty sidewalk. Feet. Dirt. Trash. That was her view of the world. She shuffled alongside our car as we inched through the congested traffic. I saw her, but she did not see me. She could not see me. She just saw feet.
Sharon, look at my daughter,God seemed to say. When you read about the woman with the crippled back, never again see her as a character in a story. See her as you see this woman now. Flesh and blood. Real and relevant. My daughter. Your sister.
God reminded me once again that the women we read about in the Bible were real people–just like you and me. We must never forget that. Today, let's look again at the woman with the crippled back in Luke 13:10-17. And while we might not be able to relate to being crippled physically, most of us can relate to being crippled emotionally. We see feet...people passing by going about their busy lives. We see dirt...the mistakes we've made through the years. We see trash...the pain inflicted on us by others and many times by our own poor decisions.
Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-29). Rest for our souls. Isn't that what we all want?
Like the woman with the crippled back, we may have "a spirit of infirmity," a sickness of the soul. That is an interesting way to explain her illness. More than just a crippled back, her spirit was crippled as well.
Linda Hollies, in her book, Jesus and Those Bodacious Women brings this point home.
"There are many spirits that can cause you to walk around in a bent-over state. They might be your color, your gender, your age, your marital state, your family, or they could be abuse, injustice, resentment, oppression, despair, loneliness, your economic state, or even a physical challenge. It makes no difference what has hurt you in the past, it makes no difference how old you were when the trauma affected your life, and it makes no difference what your wealth, position, or status is. For the evil one comes to steal, kill, and destroy and each one of us is a candidate for being bent and bowed."
Bent and bowed. The weight of the world on our shoulders. Little by little. Day by day. Heaviness too difficult to bear. A spirit of infirmity. Crippled by shame, fear, pain, disappointment, depression, poverty, insecurity, inferiority, inadequacy, broken dreams. Satan, the one who orchestrates the spirit of infirmity, wants to cripple us into inactivity so that our walk becomes a shuffle. Our voice becomes a whisper. Our vision becomes a blur.
Who put the chains on this woman in the first place? Jesus said Satan had her bound (Luke 13:16). In reality, all sickness was ushered into the world when Adam and Eve believed Satan's lie over God's truth and ate the forbidden fruit. For the thirty-three years that Jesus walked the earth, He was in a life-and-death struggle with evil. John tells us that the reason Jesus came was to destroy the devil's work (1 John 3:8). The battleground is the world and humans are the pawns of the evil one. Note the language, "locked up" and "set free."
This is about much more than physical healing. It is about spiritual freedom. And when Jesus said on the cross, "It is finished," it was. Now, because of Jesus' victory over the enemy through His death and resurrection, we are more than conquerors through faith in Him
Don't miss this. Jesus said, "Woman, you are set free from your infirmity." There are those words again—set free. The words paint a picture of chains and manacles falling from a prisoner's shackled body. Another translation says it this way, "Woman, you are released from your infirmity!"(Luke 12:13 Amplified). The irons of oppression that held her prisoner to this crippled frame gave way and fell at Jesus' feet as He unlocked the chains that had her bound.
Jesus came to set us free and that freedom comes in many forms. Whatever Satan is using to bind you, Jesus came to free you. Free from...and free to. I can't say that enough. For far too long we've looked at freedom only in terms of what we are free from. But freedom encompasses so much more than a shedding of chains. Jesus set us free to live the abundant life by being all that He has created us to be and accomplishing all that He has planned for us to do. Setting her straight (literally) was only the beginning for her.
Let's Pray
Dear Jesus, thank You for setting me free! Today, I choose to walk in that freedom and never be held captive by emotional chains again!
In Your Name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Have you ever been emotionally crippled?
Perhaps you feel that way today. If so, I'd love to pray for you and so would your GiG sisters. Click over to my Facebook page, share a prayer request, and then pray for the woman's request above yours. Let's have a good old-fashioned prayer meeting with a newfangled Internet way of doing it.
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April 24, 2014
In His Eyes
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be(Psalm 139:14=15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
God can set you free to be all He created you to be. A healthy self-image is not rooted in pride and it does not exalt self above others. In Romans 12:3, Paul clearly says, "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you." Success comes when we learn to accept God's evaluation instead of our own, when we give Him permission to make us what He created to be and when we begin to understand who we are in His eyes. How? Let's look at six steps we can take to understand who we are in the eyes of God.
Step one: Check the label.
Step two: Embrace the plan.
Step three: Be yourself.
We should always be looking for something new to learn, an area where we can grow and changes that need to be made. Sit down with your mate or close friend and ask for a realistic evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Constantly search for gifts and abilities and then take one of those abilities and work on it. Don't be afraid of change. It is a sign of life and of growth. Change what needs to be changed, accept what you cannot change and quit whining about it! I know so many women who wasting so much life trying to be something they were never created to be – kind of like a hand trying to be a toe. We need to stop questioning God's design and kicking against the plan. An old man from the mountains of North Carolina, who was known for his extraordinary wooden carvings of dogs, was once asked, "How do you take a block of wood and create such beauty?" The old mountain man replied, "Well, I just take my knife and carve away everything that doesn't look like a dog." Learning to see your self through the eyes of God is like "carving away" everything that is not part of the original design – God's plan – and then learning how to accept what remains.
Step four: Guard your mind.
Scripture is very clear on the point that the mind is the main battlefield in spiritual warfare and is especially important in the battle of discovering who we are in Christ.
Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinks within himself, so he is."
Colossians 3:2 "Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 "For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."
We are bombarded on all sides by the media, family and friends, co-workers and even enemies. They all have a certain identity that they want to assign to us. We have a choice. No one makes us feel inferior without our permission. We will become what we allow our heart and mind to dwell on. An old saying says it well. "You can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you can keep it from building a nest in your hair." In other words, it is impossible to avoid destructive thinking entirely. We will be tempted. We will have negative thoughts and temptations, but we do not have to allow them to dwell in our mind. God has given us a "garbage disposal" for the mind.
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
We once lived in Miami, Florida, a place where ships come from all over world. However, before a ship is allowed to dock, an inspection team goes aboard with one assignment. Find every bit of contamination on board that ship. If contamination of any kind is found, the ship must be quarantined until it is cleaned up and inspected again. Then, and only then, is that ship allowed to dock. We need to control our thought life in the same way.
Step five: Control your tongue.
Our words either build up or tear down. Scripture tells us not to curse others because they are made in the image of God. So are we. We need to apply this truth to our own life. As a mom, I constantly warn our children about the danger of critical words. I want them to learn how to encourage others with their words as well as have a healthy picture of who they are. One day, while standing in front my bathroom mirror, I began talking to myself about something stupid that I had done. I didn't notice that our son, Jered, was quietly standing in our bedroom door where he could hear every word I said. "Mom, who are you talking to?" he asked. Oops! I sheepishly replied, "I was talking to myself." He thought for a moment and then offered a convicting observation, "Boy, if I talked like that, I'd be in big trouble!" I was immediately reminded of the words in Psalm 141:3. "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."
In our own lives, we need to stop putting ourselves down and in the lives of others, we need to encourage and look for reasons to praise God. We must learn to celebrate the good in each other. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we sow destructive, critical words, we will reap a life that is negative and critical but if we sow words of truth, we will reap a life of peace and purpose, knowing who we are in His eyes.
"Dear Father, help me to bridle my tongue, so that on judgment day, I will not be found guilty of assault with a deadly weapon!"
Step six: Be Patient
Weeds spring up overnight but it takes years for a mighty oak to grow. Today, you can take the first step toward gaining a new perspective of who you are in Christ. Our Father says it this way in Philippians 1:6, "And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns."
Let's Pray
Lord, I want to know You more and learn to see myself as You see me. Please help me recognize and guard against anything or anyone who would chip away at Your truth working in my life. I believe You love me and cherish me as Your daughter. Help me to walk in that value and worth and then lead others to do the same. I praise You for validating my very existence as part of Your heart's plan. I love You, Father. I pray all of these things in Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Here is your assignment for the week. Read Psalm 139 at least one time every day. In your journal, write each verse in your own words. At the end of the week, set aside time to celebrate who you are in Christ. Have a praise party – just you and God – or invite a few friends to join you in celebrating your identity in Him.
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April 25, 2014
Who Are You Asking?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Seek the LORD while he may be found; call on him while he is near (Isaiah 55:6).
Friend to Friend
Four years ago we installed a new bathroom sink in our downstairs powder room. While I love the way it looks, I have not loved the way it has worked – because the water pressure has been a dreary drizzle.
I asked my husband Brad if he could fix the water pressure a few times. Let me say this: my man is awesome at a million and one things – he's super smart and awesome around the house – but he has no plumbing experience. Being the great guy he is, he dutifully checked what he knew to check on the faucet, but had no success.
Recently, we had a plumber come to our house to install a new kitchen sink. While he worked, he and my husband chatted away. Eventually Brad casually mentioned that we had an issue with the water pressure in our downstairs powder room.
Once the kitchen sink was fully installed, the plumber asked to see the bathroom sink. Within 30 seconds he not only identified our four-year-old problem, but he fixed it!
In 30 seconds!
It was a simple filter problem. Our filter had been clogged. For four years.
Get. Out. Of. Here.
He unscrewed the tip of our faucet and rinsed out the filter, then put it back in place. Problem solved. The water flows perfectly now.
The sink is the same sink, the faucet is the same faucet, but now it works great because we finally asked the right person about our problem! The plumber knows all about sinks and he knew just what needed to be done.
Hello!
It really doesn't take a genius to figure out where the God-connection to all of this is heading, right? We need to take our problems to the One with the answers. We need to ask God first.
I mess up on this all the time! I look to other people for help with my problems instead of first asking God. Don't we all do this? We go to our friends, we ask our husbands, and often we ask Google! All of which can be good and valid sources for knowledge and direction. It is very easy, however, to go to the phone before we go to the throne, isn't it? We run to people with good intentions who possess limited knowledge and subjective opinions.
If you and I are looking for answers, direction, or wisdom – we need to go to God first. God gives guidance in everything that we inquire of Him. He is the source of all wisdom, all knowledge, all understanding... all that we need.
"For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding." (Proverbs 2:6)
"Seek the LORD while he may be found; call on him while he is near." (Isaiah 55:6)
The plumber had the know-how to fix my sink. He's a sink expert! God is all knowing and is the One we need for the answers we seek. He's a life expert! Imagine what our lives would look like if we always asked God for help first. We could avoid so many troubles and gain great vision, clarity, and direction. It's for a good reason that we are told to "pray continually." (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18)
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please lead me in your wisdom, knowledge and understanding today. Direct my choices, my behaviors, and my heart. Forgive me for the times when I look to others or to myself when I should be looking to You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who else are you calling on first? Consider why.
Read Psalm 63. Respond in prayer.
Let's take the conversation deeper: swing by my blog or my Facebook page and tell me how today's devotion relates to your life. Need prayer? Post a need – then pause to pray for other posts above yours. Make a public commitment by saying, "I'm seeking God first!"
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April 28, 2014
Failure is Not Final
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
At least there is hope for a tree. If it is cut down, it will sprout again, and its new shoots will not fail(Job 14:7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have never met a single person whose goal in life was to fail, but failure is a reality of life. The key to success is not avoiding failure; it is learning how to handle failure.
·Beethoven's music teacher once told him that he was a hopeless composer.
·Abraham Lincoln campaigned for a seat in the Illinois General Assembly and failed. He then opened a general store which failed after only a few months.
·Walt Disney was fired by the editor of a newspaper for lacking creativity.
·The Ford Motor Company was Henry Ford's third business. The first two didn't work out.
·A teacher told Thomas Edison that he was too stupid to learn anything.
·Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times.
I remember the first time I failed a test. I was in first grade, and my teacher, Mrs. Martin, decided to test us on the names of the states and their capitols. We had been studying them for what seemed like an eternity. I did not like Geography and tended to daydream my way through class. Why did I need to know the names of states I would probably never visit? And what was the big deal about state capitols? As far as I could tell from the pictures in my Geography book, they all looked pretty much the same to me – boring.
Even though I did not like Geography, I had to make 100 on the Geography test. Why? I was only six-years-old, but I knew the unspoken rule that failing a test meant I was a failure.
When Mrs. Martin told us to clear our desks except for one pencil, I panicked. A quick glance at the assignment board revealed nothing. The look of confusion on the faces of my classmates told me they were just as clueless as I was.
"We are having a little test to see how you are doing in Geography," Mrs. Martin explained. I had three problems with her statement. First, there is no such thing as a "little" test in my world. Second, no one had said anything about having a test, and third, I did not know the names of the states and their capitols. When I voiced my complaints, Mrs. Martin smiled and said it was a "pop quiz."
Sidebar: That might have been the moment when I decided to become an elementary school teacher, vowing to never subject my students to the terror of "pop quizzes."
My stomach dropped, and I broke out in a cold sweat. My mind raced as I frantically searched for my Geography book. Maybe I could learn the names of a capitol or two while she handed out the tests. "No books allowed," Mrs. Martin warned. I was doomed.
When the blank outline of the United States appeared on my desk, I dissolved into tears. Mrs. Martin immediately dropped to her knees beside my desk and gathered me in her arms. She asked the student teacher to take over as she gently ushered me out of the classroom and in to the nurse's office next door.
When I finally stopped crying, Mrs. Martin said, "Honey, what is wrong?" I could not believe my ears. "I don't know the names of the states or their capitols," I wailed out what seemed to be a ridiculously obvious explanation. "Do you know some of them?" she asked. I thought for a moment. "I know some of them but not all of them and that means I'll fail the test," I responded. "Why don't you just do your best and see what happens," she said. I did my best ... and I still failed the test.
Guess what? The world kept spinning. I passed first grade and elementary school with flying colors, graduated from high school with honors, and attended college on a music and academic scholarship. I graduated from college with honors, was named Student Teacher of the Year, and eventually became an elementary teacher.
And I failed a lot along the way. So did a lot of people in the Bible.
Adam and Eve blatantly disobeyed God and then lied about their sin. David committed adultery with Bathsheba, and then plotted the murder of her husband. Peter bragged about his commitment to Jesus, but denied Him – not once – but three times. In fact, it is hard to find Biblical characters that did not fail at some point, but those who learned from their failure and used it as a tool of growth were often used by God to accomplish great things.
I have come to believe that failure is a necessary part of our growth and maturity as a follower of Jesus Christ. Failure can interpret the unconditional love and forgiveness of God like nothing else can - if we let it.
Desperation can be our friend if it makes us crave God and long to see His power unleashed in our lives. Failure is not final but God's grace is.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You, imperfect and flawed, knowing that I have failed You. Forgive me for the sin in my life. Thank You for Your love and mercy that covers that sin. Help me learn the lesson that each failure holds and teach me how to apply that lesson in my daily life. I celebrate the hope and fresh start I find in You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Romans 8:28. "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, whohave been called according to his purpose" (NIV). How does this verse apply to the way we view and respond to failure?
What failure are you facing today? Filter that failure through Romans 8:28 and look for the lesson and seed of victory it holds.
Read Job 14:7 (NIV) "At least there is hope for a tree: if it is cut down, it will sprout again, and its new shoots will not fail."How can you apply this verse to the failures in your life?
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I love how God transforms tragedy into triumph ... failure into success. When we choose to see our mistakes and failures as opportunities for God to work, success takes on a whole new meaning.
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April 29, 2014
Stark Contrast
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be (James 3:9-10, NIV).
Friend To Friend
It has been a long winter this year and I'm really looking forward to summer. I like it nice and warm, but at times the summer heat can be unbearable – even for a sunshine girl. North Carolina is by no means a place of cool summers. To the contrary, we Tar Heel residents expect to have our air conditioning units running almost round the clock. But the heat we've experienced the past few years has been uncommonly sweltering. At times, it's been so balmy that my sweat drops have had sweat drops! Now, you can call it global warming, or you can call it chance, but I just call it plain old hot!
On one of those crazy-hot summer days, I spent time at our local library. I sat on the lower level, which is the coolest area in the building. The vigilante AC unit worked aggressively to protect us book-reading occupants from the external heat wave. I was on that chilly lower level for the better part of two hours, and gradually turned to a human icicle. My fingers were completely numb as I signed out a Hardy Boys book for my son and turned to exit the building.
As I opened the door to leave, a forceful wave of heat swept over me. In that moment I thought, "Wow! That sure is a stark contrast! What a temperature change!" From one extreme to the other, the heat pendulum had swung. Hot to cold, and then hot again. As I considered the contrast, it occurred to me that the temperature of my life might sometimes look the same. It gave me reason to pray.
Have you ever gotten up early and had a sweet time with the LORD, only to turn into an unreasonable, raging screamer hours later? Have you ever had an argument with your spouse or children on the way to church, only to cross the threshold of the lobby with blessings and kindness on your tongue? Have you ever driven in traffic with worship music on the dash and praise on your lips when suddenly, someone cut you off and the praises on your tongue turned to cursing? If you've answered "yes" to any of these questions, welcome to the Sinner's Club. All humans have an automatic membership that activates at birth and is irrevocable until we accept forgiveness through Jesus Christ, and see His face on the other side of glory.
The Bible calls us to a higher, more consistent temperature of living. We must be careful not to praise and curse with the same tongue. "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be" (James 3:9-10 NIV).
Are you swinging the pendulum of your responses, or are they swinging you? We are accountable for our behavior. We are accountable for the way we respond to circumstances. Our responses reflect the core of who we are. They reflect our faith ... good or bad.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV).
As we go through today, let's center the thermometer of our hearts on Christ so we are less likely to respond in stark contrast to His perfect example of love. Let's live out God's grace and heed the wisdom found in Proverbs 3:3: "Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart."
Let's Pray
Lord, please forgive me for the times when my responses are unkind. Please forgive me for the times when I over-react and under-love. I need the power of the Holy Spirit to moderate the temperature of my heart and my responses.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Will you live out deeper grace today? If you're ready to start fresh and declare, "By God's grace I am a new creation," then visit my blog or my Facebook page and say, "I am a new creation!"
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Okay – this is hard! Trust me, as I was stepping on your toes with this message, I was trampling all over mine, too. Let's go in grace today, and pray that God will be strong in our weakness. We are continually being transformed into a greater likeness of Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit ... one day at a time ... thank You, Jesus!
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April 30, 2014
Thriving or Surviving?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
God will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy (Job 8:21, NCV).
Friend to Friend
One Saturday morning a little boy and his father took a long awaited trip to the local pet store in search of a new puppy. The dad had been promising the trip for weeks, and the day had finally come. The little boy had read several books about dogs, surveying the pets of his friends, asking countless questions, and waiting for this day, ready to make his choice.
When father and son walked into the pet store, the dad immediately realized that this task was going to be much harder than he thought it would be. There were so many adorable puppies from which to choose. But with determination in his heart and confidence in his step, the little boy began his search. He suddenly stopped in his tracks, eyes and heart locked on the perfect dog. Staring at the little boy from the wired confines of a small crate was an undersized and fairly unimpressive black puppy. Following his son's gaze, the dad cringed as he realized that the first puppy he had eliminated as a possibility was the very one his son was watching.
The father attempted to re-direct the interest of his son toward a more suitable dog. It was not to be. Each time the little boy returned to his first choice, the black puppy that was almost grinning at the boy, eagerly pawing at the cage door, and wagging his tail with great enthusiasm. The dad finally asked, "Son, which one do you want?" The little boy pointed at the dog with the furiously wiggling tail and announced with great certainty, "I want that one, Daddy! I want the one with the happy ending."
We all want a life filled with happy endings, but we seem to be living lives that could well be described as "joy-less." Every day is lived at the mercy of the world. We are like Charlie Brown who admits, "I have a new philosophy. I'm only going to dread one day at a time."
God promises that if we know Him, we will know true joy. Joy is not merely happiness. True joy is an unshakable confidence that God is in control.
God is our one and only source of joy, and stands ready and waiting to saturate every circumstance with His presence. As His children, joy is ours to claim. Really? If that is true, then where is it? Why are so many of us facing each day with a sense of dread instead of a confident celebration?
Maybe it is because of the Joy Stealers who lurk in the shadows, waiting to crush joy wherever they find it. I have great news for you, girlfriend. Nothing and no one can take your joy without your permission. So, don't give it! Choose joy instead.
Choosing joy requires us to identify and eliminate the "joy stealers" in life. You may be allowing a person to take your joy. Maybe some painful experience from a shadowed yesterday is an obstacle of joy in your life today. Perhaps a fearful circumstance or a broken dream is the culprit.
I know life can be painful. I know it is often hard and unfair. I also know God is in control. So if God really is God (and He definitely is), then we can and should be people of joy. I have read the final chapter of the Book, and we win!
Let's Pray
Lord, remind me to live each day against the backdrop of eternity. I pray that, in every circumstance, I would choose joy, knowing that You are in control.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Recognize that real joy is found only in God. Make a list of the people or circumstances that you would classify as "joy stealers." Pray for wisdom in dealing with each person and circumstance. Choose now what your response will be when someone tries to steal your joy.
What has been my personal definition of "joy" up until now?
What have I been counting on in my life to produce joy?
How does a personal relationship with God change my perspective of joy?
What are the steps to take in order to eliminate the "joy stealers" in my life?
How do my feelings influence my joy level?
In what way do trials and problems affect my joy level?
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I can still remember the words of the song I often sang as a child:
"If you want joy, real joy, wonderful joy
Let Jesus come into your heart."
Life seemed so simple back then. Today, I have traveled quite a few miles and been through some very tough times. And God's truth remains the same. If we want to experience joy, we must experience God. We look in a lot of wrong places for joy but the only right place is in a personal relationship with God. How about you? Are you thriving or just surviving?
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May 1, 2014
You Are Writing a Gospel
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
We are therefore Christ's ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us(2 Corinthians 5:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Charles Swindoll tells the story of four scholars who were arguing over Bible translations. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its eloquent old English, another preferred the American Standard because of its literalism, and a third preferred the way the Moffatt translation captured the reader's attention.
After giving the issue considerable thought, the fourth scholar admitted, "I have personally preferred my mother's translation." The others scholars chuckled, but as he explained, "Yes, she translated it. She translated each page of the Bible into life. It is the most convincing translation I ever saw."
You have probably heard people say, "My life is an open book." Well, it certainly is with children. They are reading about life from every page you live. They are finding answers to many of life's questions: "How, as a wife, am I supposed to love and honor my husband?" "How am I supposed to spend my money?" "How should a Christian act?"
Not only are children reading the pages of our lives to learn what a Christian looks like, but they also are reading us to draw conclusions about what God is like. Think back to your own childhood. How did you perceive God? In your eyes, was He a harsh taskmaster who sat in the clouds, looking down with disdain every time you made a mistake? Did He carry a big stick, ready to whip you into shape? Did He keep a big score book where He made notations when you did something bad and gave you red check marks when you did something good?
Or did you see Him as a loving Father with children clamoring around His feet and climbing into His welcoming lap? Did you see Him as a Daddy who tucked His children in at night and listened to them talk about anything and everything? Did you see Him as being not mad but hurt when you made a mistake?
As the authors of the Parent Factor say, "Whether they have been loving or aloof, kind or harsh, supportive or neglectful, parents have played a major role with forming your view of God...The result can be wonderful or tragic."
Once a self-righteous, boastful Sunday school teacher was preaching to his class on the importance of exemplary living. With his head held high and chest thrust out, he strutted back and forth across the room. He asked, "Now, children, why do people call me a Christian?"
There was a moment of silence. Then one boy raised his hand.
"Yes?" asked the teacher.
"Probably because they don't know you very well," responded the boy.
They had read the pages of the teacher's life and he had come up wanting. Here's a poem I'd like us to consider:
You are writing a gospel,
A chapter each day.
By deeds that you do,
By words that you say.
Men [children] read what you write,
Whether faithless or true.
Say, what is the gospel,
According to you?'
-Paul Gilbert
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, I know people are watching me to see what a Christian is like. I know that I am an ambassador for You. That really scares me a little. Today, help me to be cognizant that others are watching. Help me to represent You well today. Help me to show the world that You are a loving, caring Father who treasures His children and wants the best for them.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Think back to your childhood. Do you have any preconceived ideas about God that are a result of how you saw your earthly parents?
Whether your parents were wonderful or wanting, they are, or were, still human and have feet of clay. When it comes to our Heavenly Father, we need to take our earthly parents' face off of the Almighty God. He is the only perfect parent.
If you long to be a good ambassador for Christ today, click over to my Facebook page and say, "Lord, help me represent You well today"
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Today's devotion was adapted from my book, Being a Great Mom, Raising Great Kids.
Motherhood isn't easy. If it were, it wouldn't start with something called labor! If you are a mom who could use some encouragement for the most important job you will ever love, then this is the book for you. And if you know a mom who needs some encouragement today, what a great gift!
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May 2, 2014
Are Happy Endings Really Possible?
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him (Psalm 32:2, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I love a good story. I love stories filled with drama, mystery, action, honesty, hope, grit, tension, release, passion, restoration, and redemption. My favorite stories, however, combine many of these elements and finish with a happy-ending. My heart beats big for happy-ending stories.
There have been days in my life that have been heavy on the tension and light on the release. Moments when I've felt deep pain and longed for deep peace. Weeks when hope evaded my heart because I had chosen to turn from God's way and defiantly chose Gwen's way. Season's when I felt like I had messed up so bad that a happy-ending for my life was simply impossible.
Have you ever felt that way? Like there was a great chasm between your life and a happy-ending? Have you ever felt like you were in a situation, a relationship, or a condition that was un-healable, un-helpable, and un-redeemable? I sure have. I think we all have.
Luke 7 introduces us to a woman who endured her shattered, jagged life publicly. I bet she probably felt like there could never be a happy-ending for her life. Like hope and healing were for other people, not for her.
She was guilty of something, though we are never told what. She is simply described as a woman "who had lived a sinful life." Though she is nameless to you and me, the people of her town surely knew her name. The Pharisees knew enough to condemn her with judgmental thoughts.
Her sin was public, not private. Yet the public disgrace of this broken, sinful woman became the perfect canvas for Jesus Christ to paint a beautiful picture of extravagant grace.
"Now one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, so he went to the Pharisee's house and reclined at the table. When a woman who had lived a sinful life in that town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster jar of perfume, and as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them." (Luke 7:36-38, NIV)
Imagine what a scandalous moment this must have been. I'm sure the host was wondering how this uninvited woman managed to get into his home. We know his mind was racing, because the next few verses tell us so:
When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, "If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner."
Jesus answered him, "Simon, I have something to tell you."
"Tell me, teacher," he said.
"Two men owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he canceled the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?"
Simon replied, "I suppose the one who had the bigger debt canceled."
"You have judged correctly," Jesus said.
Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little."
Then Jesus said to her, "Your sins are forgiven"(Luke 7:39-48).
Imagine the freedom that flooded her soul when this woman looked up, through tear-filled eyes, into the face of grace for the very first time. Jesus looked beyond her reputation to her regret. Then He forgave her. Not because she had earned forgiveness, but because Jesus loved her.
She was forgiven much, so she loved Him much. Oh, how I can relate to this sinful woman. The love that resides in my heart is so great because the sins I've been forgiven of are so many.
Jesus still loves to extend grace, and I am so thankful.
Grace! What none of us deserves, but each of us longs for. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16). Why would He lay down His life for you, for me, and for all humanity? In one word: love. Perfect, unconditional, doesn't-matter-who-you-are-or-where-you've-been-or-what-you've-done love.
God made a way, through Jesus, for our wounded hearts to be restored... so that everyone of us could experience deep peace, love, forgiveness, and hope.
Welcome to your happy-ending story. It's available to each of us who turn our hearts to Him. What does that look like in your life? Confess your sins to God, ask Him for forgiveness, believe in Jesus Christ as your Savior and receive the gift of God's grace. Then "Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always" (Psalm 105:4).
Thus begins your happy ending. The End.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, You are above all and beyond all! You are mighty to save, gracious to forgive, and merciful to forget all that I've done wrong. I praise You for who You are, and thank You for the grace that is at work in my heart and in my life. Help me to cast aside everything that keeps me from You today, Lord. In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you experienced the wonder of grace at work in your life? In what ways? Grab your journal and summarize it in one sentence – or click over to my blog or my Facebook page and post your sentence.
Do you extend that same grace to others? Spend a few moments in prayer. Thank God for His grace.
Print or write out this verse: "Those who look on him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame. (Psalm 34:5) Memorize it and allow it to serve as a reminder that in Christ you are a new creation, and viewed as radiant by our holy Lord.
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5, 2014
How a Mom is Like a Lighthouse
Sharon Jaynes
In celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon will have several devotions devoted to moms! If you're not a mom, please pray for one who is!
Today's Truth
She watches over the affairs of her household...(Proverbs 31:27, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I have always seen a mother as a lighthouse, or beacon in a child's life. She is a landmark that her children can always count on. She shines the light of Christ at night and she serves as a landmark by day. She is watching out over the sea of faces to protect her tiny fleet. Like the Proverbs 31 woman she "watches over the ways of her household." She is present. She's available. And she's on guard.
The words "watch over" mean "to hedge about as with thorns," much like a mother bird might do to protect her young. These same words are also used in the Bible as a military term, such as to watch over a city. Can't you just see it now: the lighthouse standing tall, not tossed by the surf, guiding her children safely to shore?
But this beacon watches out for more than the physical safety of her fleet. She watches out for their spiritual and emotional needs as well.
Her gaze is not a casual glance. She doesn't just give her children a "once-over" before they rush out the door to make sure their hair is combed and their socks match. This is a mother who actively guards, protects, saves, guides, and attends to those precious to her.
When children approach adolescence, they desire Mom to be less visible. However they want to know the sentinel is still available. Being available for that teen after school is paramount. They need a refuge, a safe harbor after a day of social combat. Who will they turn to? Whoever is available and willing to listen. If it is not you, it will be someone else. And just who that someone could be is a scary thought.
Being physically present is not the mother's primary goal. Having the greatest possible impact on her home is. You can be physically present and still not make a positive impact. You can be there, but not be all there. You can become so wrapped up in other pursuits, so focused on relational struggles, so preoccupied with keeping the castle clean and checking items off your "to do" list, so engrossed in television or a good book, that you are oblivious to the chubby fingers tugging on your skirt or the teenager who has become withdrawn and sullen. If you are going to be there—then be all there—mind, body and soul.
Being a landmark doesn't end when a child goes off to college. The farther a ship goes out to sea, the more important the landmarks become. One day in the Sunday School class I attend, 150 parents of teenagers sat with an air of foreboding filling the room. It was the Sunday after many students had made their exodus to that wild, frenzied world of academia, experimentation, and freedom—their kids had gone off to college.
Grown men were weepy, sharing their battle wounds of dropping their baby girls off at tiny, stark dorm rooms. Moms were unashamedly crying, and many were speechless for the first time in their lives.
Nancy and Bill Hall were there that day. Their son, Jordan, a rising sophomore, was visiting our class and witnessed these blubbering parents. In an attempt to encourage everyone, our teacher asked, "Jordan, since you haven't gone back to school yet and already have one year under your belt, can you share some words of wisdom with the class about what you feel your parents did right during your first year of college?"
With that, Jordan rose, faced the class, and replied, "I would like to take this time to publicly thank my parents for the strong moral upbringing they gave me. I want to thank them for the way they gave me my freedom when I went off to college. But more importantly for the way they let me come back home. They were always available when I needed someone to talk to, and they've left the lines of communication open. They have been great parents and I would like to publicly thank them for all they've done."
When Jordan sat down, everyone was crying, even those who did not have children leaving for college. He had risen and called his parents blessed. His mother was a beacon. A faithful landmark that keep her light shining, welcoming her son home, but directing the way so he could leave and sail out to new horizons.
Their childhood goes by so quickly yet we can never turn back the clock as this poem expresses.
My hands were busy through the day.
I didn't have much time to play
The little games you asked me to,
I didn't have much time for you.
I'd wash your clothes, I'd sew and cook,
But when you'd bring your picture book
And asked me please to share your fun,
I'd say, "A little later son."
I'd tuck you in all safe at night,
And hear your prayers, turn out the light,
Then tiptoe softly to the door...
I wish I'd stayed a minute more.
For life is short, the years rush past.
A little boy grows up so fast.
No longer is he at your side,
His precious secrets to confide.
The picture books are put away,
There are no longer games to play.
No goodnight kisses, no prayers to hear,
That all belongs to yesteryear.
My hands once busy, now lie still
The days are long and hard to fill.
I wish I might go back and do
The little things you asked me to.
-Alice E. Chase
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for being the light of my life. I pray that You will help me watch over the ways of my household with a wise and understanding eye. Help me not to miss the special moments, but to embrace and enjoy them. Remind me often to stop and pray for those that You have placed within my care.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
List all the functions and characteristics of a lighthouse that you can think of.
How are those similar to a mother and her children?
What are some ways that you watch over the ways of your household?
Place your right hand on your left side and your left hand on your right side. Now give yourself a big hug. That's from me! You're doing a great job!
You know, I am not in the motherhood stage of life any longer. My son is a grown man. But I will always be a mom. And I will always be a praying mom. How about you? Is there a child, or grown child that you would like to pray for today? If so, click over to my Facebook page and leave his or her name, then pray for the name above your entry.
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May 6, 2014
Being a Mom that Matters
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change(Proverbs 22:6, NCV).
Friend to Friend
The world often denies the importance of being a mom. I am not an expert. I simply want to be a successful mom. Well, actually, my credentials are impressive. I am the mother of two beautiful, brilliant children. I want to be the mom they need and deserve, and the good news is that God wants the same thing. Being a parent is a holy calling from God, and God never calls us to do a job without providing the power and the plan to do that job successfully. How can we be the moms that really matter?
1. Love God.
1 John 4:19 "We love, because God first loved us." (NCV)
We are incapable of really loving our children until we first love God. Motherhood at its best demands a thriving partnership with God. We cannot give unconditional love until we have received unconditional love. And God is the only source of that kind of love. We can do everything else right as a parent, but if we don't begin by loving God - we will fail.
2. Pray continually.
I Thessalonians 5:17 "Never stop praying." (ICB)
It is never too late to start praying, and it is always too early to stop.
Pray for God's plan – not yours – when praying for your children.
Pray that you will see your child through the eyes of God.
Pray specific verses of Scripture for your child:
Proverbs 3:5-6 "Lord, I pray that Jered would trust in you with all his heart and will lean not unto his own understanding. I pray that in all his ways Jered will acknowledge you and that you will direct his paths."
1 Peter 5:7 "Lord, I pray that Danna would cast all her care upon you, because you care for her."
Prayer is an eternal gift we can give to our children, teaching them the importance of prayer and teaching them how to pray. I recently heard the story of a mother who had invited several people to dinner. At the table, she turned to their six-year-old daughter and said, "Would you like to say the blessing?" The girl responded, "I don't know what to say." Her mom said, "Just say what you hear Mommy say." The daughter bowed her head and said, "Lord, why on earth did I invite all these people to dinner?"
We prayed with our kids at bedtime. One night, our son Jered began to pray for his grandfather and uncle to stop smoking. Both men had smoked for many years and neither was trying to quit, so I didn't expect much. But our son did. Within the next year, both men suddenly quit smoking. I was amazed, but Jered acted like it was no big deal. When I questioned his response, he simply said, "Mom, you told me God answers prayer." I am convinced that if we pray for our children and with our children, it will change their lives and ours, and give us insight we can gain no other way.
3. Give time.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change."
It takes time to be a mom - to know and to train our children. Every child comes with a set of characteristics already established by God. Our job is to identify those characteristics and then steer the child toward them. The original root word for "train" is the term for "the palate, the roof of the mouth, the gums." In the days of Solomon, a midwife delivered the baby, dipped her finger into the juice of crushed dates, reached into the mouth of the baby, and massaged the gums and palate to create a sense of taste and thirst. She then gave the child to the mother so the baby could nurse. Our job as mothers is to develop a thirst in our children for the right things. And that takes time.
There is a popular philosophy today that it doesn't matter the quantity of time that we spend with our kids as long as it is quality time. It does matter! Time spent with children is never wasted. Every minute invested in your child is an eternal investment. Give your children the best of your time – not the leftovers.
· Make weekly dates with your kids.
· Pull them out of school occasionally for a fun day.
· Have a meal together every day.
· Be involved in the things they enjoy.
In other words, be available. And just your physical presence is not enough. Our normal bedtime routine was to spend a few minutes with each child talking about the day and then praying together. I remember the night I went to Jered's room, completed the routine, and got him to sleep in minutes. But when I went to Danna's room, I was in a hurry. I had a long list of things I still needed to do, but Danna refused to talk. When I asked her why, she cried, "Mama, you're not here!" Confused and a little irritated, I responded, "Yes, I am! I am right here!" Her big brown eyes filled with tears as she drove the truth home, "But you're not really here on the inside." Be a mom who gives your children time.
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth. It brings out both the best and the worst in us. I know it requires great sacrifice and limitless energy, but to invest your time and best efforts into a child, and to watch that child grow and develop is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself. We're half the way there. In my next devotion, we will explore four more ways to be a mom that matters.
Let's Pray
Lord, thank You for giving me children. Help me be the mom they deserve. I commit to constantly pray for each child. I commit to invest the best part of my time and life in them. Forgive me for allowing lesser things to take the place of my role as a mother, and guide me to be a mom that really matters.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you growing in your faith?
Evaluate your schedule. Does the best part of your time goes to being a mom?
What changes do you need to make in your schedule?
What do you need to give up in order to spend more time with your children?
What specific needs are you praying for your children? Make a list and pray through that list daily.
I would love to hear what God is teaching you about becoming a better mom. Connect with me on Facebook or through email.
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May 7, 2014
Hats Off to Moms!
Sharon Jaynes
In celebration of Mother's Day, Sharon will have several devotions devoted to moms!
Today's Truth
Her children arise and call her blessed...(Proverbs 31:28, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Along the coast of North Carolina there are seven stately lighthouses that stand as sentinels on our rugged shoreline. A mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is much like those stately lighthouses. She has a solid foundation in Jesus Christ. Her walls of faith are constructed to withstand the storms of life, and her primary function is to house the light of Christ. This mother is an immovable constant in her child's life, a landmark along life's journey, and a guiding light that points her children to the safe harbor of home and eventually out to sea.
My Grandma Edwards was a constant in my life. From my earliest remembrance, she never seemed to change. She was always old, wore funny baggy underwear and an equally unattractive undershirt to match, and styled her gray hair in a long braid that wound around her head like a crown.
She loved to watch Perry Mason, eat peanut butter crackers, and drink Coca-Cola from chilled glass bottles. She never drove a car or frequented a shopping mall, but spent her days gardening, canning, and sewing.
Mothers and grandmothers no longer spend their days like my Grandma Edwards. They are on the go with schedules that would make the best air traffic controller's head spin.
Recently I attended a barbecue dinner with 500 tourists in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Across from me sat a family of four from Atlanta, Georgia: a dad, mom, and two little girls, ages 8 and 10. We all introduced ourselves and began the friendly banter of "Do you know so-and-so?" and "What do you do?"
At one point in the conversation, someone asked Mary what she "did" in Atlanta? With downcast eyes, she shrugged and said, "Oh, I'm just a mom. I don't have a job."
Immediately the hair bristled on the back of my neck and sirens and lights went off in my head.
"Just" a mom! How could she say such a thing? I assured Mary that she had the most important job in all creation: to create order out of chaos, ensure the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of her two little girls, and shape the individuals who will contribute to what we are as a community and a nation.
I don't think Mary will ever use the words "just" and "mom" in the same sentence again.
Let's unpack that little word "mom." What exactly is her job description?
She's a wife, mother, friend, housekeeper, interior decorator, laundress, gourmet chef, short-order cook, chauffeur, painter, wallpaper hanger, seamstress, nurse, guidance counselor, internal affairs CEO, financial planner, travel agent, administrative assistant, disciplinarian, preacher, teacher, tutor, spiritual advisor, dietician, lecturer, librarian, fashion coordinator, private investigator, cheerleader, manicurist, pedicurist, landscaper, hair stylist, psychologist, plumber, computer programmer, automobile maintenance expert, referee, and gift purchasing agent for both sides of the family. She may not get a salary, but the fringe benefits are invaluable: hugs, kisses, and buckets of love. And hopefully, one day a child who will call her blessed.
Even though a mom changes hats from one minute to the next, she can assure her children that her love never changes, her support never tires, and her commitment to being a beacon remains unmoved. In that way, we can still be like my Grandma Edwards.
This Mother's Day, my hat`s off to moms! Thanks for all you do to raise the next generation for Jesus.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me the privilege of being a mom. I pray that you will help me be a beacon that shines the light of Christ to my children as well as the children that I come in contact with through the course of a day. You are the Light of the World and I pray that I will be a shining reflection of that light today.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you think of a woman who was a shining beacon for Christ in your life? It may or may not be your own mom.
Consider writing a note of thanks to a woman who impacted your life...perhaps a spiritual mother.
What are some ways that you can be a shining beacon in your child's life or the life of a child that you know? Be specific.
Click over to my Facebook page and tell me the name of one older women who impacted your life. It could be your mom, or it could be someone else. I'll start. Mary Marshal Young taught me more about prayer than any woman I know.
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If you are a mom who needs some encouragement today, you'll want to read my book, Being a Great Mom—Raising Great Kids. You'll laugh. You'll cry. And you will know that you have one of the most important jobs on earth! And if you're a wife, come and join us at Facebook.com/ThePrayingWivesClub.
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May 8, 2014
Being a Mom that Matters
Part 2 (to read Part 1 of this devotional, click here)
Mary Southerland
Today's truth
Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him (Psalm 127:3, NLT).
Friend to Friend
So much of who we are as men and women is rooted in the parent/child relationship. I believe that my role as a mother will greatly affect the kind of woman my daughter will become. I also believe moms are the primary teachers in a child's life. God wants us to be moms who love Him, pray for their children, and give them time. He also wants us to encourage our children.
When we encourage our children, we are giving them strength. We need to be careful to keep their emotional deposits in balance. Many kids are in emotional bankruptcy because constant withdrawals of criticism are made with few deposits of encouragement. Our job is to study our kids and discover their strengths and weaknesses. We need to understand that their greatest weakness may very well become their greatest strengths.
As a child, I was very stubborn. That stubbornness often got me into trouble, but it also made me the survivor of some very hard times. We need to look for the good things in our children and draw them into the spotlight. In other words, become their cheerleader. Everyone needs a cheerleader.
When our son, Jered, was in second grade, a boy in his class was obnoxious and irritating. One Monday morning, he came to school with both arms in a cast from wrist to shoulder. The teacher explained he would need a friend for the next six weeks, someone who could help him with homework, eat his lunch...go to the restroom. Get the idea? The classroom fell silent until Jered finally said, "I'll do it." After a few weeks, Jered said, "You know, Mom. He's not that bad." The other children began to include this boy and even volunteered to help him. But the most amazing transformation was in the boy himself. He became sweet and kind. He just needed a cheerleader. Maybe that is all your child needs. Be a cheerleader for your children.
4. Laugh often.
Proverbs 17:22 "A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength."
Moms, we need to lighten up or as my daughter says, "Chill, mom!" Kids are fun. Find ways to bring joy and laughter into your home. Jered is a big hunk of a football player, but I occasionally have to remind him that I can still take him. He will make some irritating comment, tease me, or poke me in the ribs. I warn him, and then I see the gleam in his eye as he takes one more shot. I then begin chasing him around the house. Jered inevitably starts laughing so hard that, when I catch him, he is totally helpless. It is quite a sight to see! Children get most of their first impressions of God from their parents. I want my kids to know that God is a God of joy and laughter. Kids need a mom who laughs.
5. Hug a lot.
Luke 18:15 "One day some parents brought their little children to Jesus so he could touch them and bless them."
Our children need moms who demonstrate healthy physical affection. Children need and crave physical affection. It is a God-given need that should be met in God-given ways. There is healing in a mother's touch. Start early, and never stop. It is a terrible shock for kids to have the hugging stop just at the age when they need it the most.
One day, I grabbed our daughter Danna in a hug, and kissed her cheek. As I walked away, I looked back to see her wiping off that kiss. She caught my hurt look and said, "Don't worry, Mom. I'm just rubbing it in!" I know. She's good...and has become an affectionate young woman. Be a mom who hugs her kids.
6. Dare to discipline.
Proverbs 6:23 "The correction of discipline is the way to life."
Kids want and need discipline. Discipline is a hedge of protection in the life of a child. Part of our job as a parent is to tend that hedge, to keep it strong and securely in place. If we are not careful, every day can dissolve into a never-ending battle for control. As parents, we need to let go of what we can, and hold our ground on what we can't. Pick your battles of discipline and wage them with emotions under control. Whatever you do, don't put the light out in their eyes. Kids need a mom who disciplines.
7. Forgive quickly.
Colossians 3:13 "Get along with each other, and forgive each other..."
We teach children how to forgive others by how we forgive them. Forgiveness is part of every healthy relationship. We also teach our children about God's forgiveness by how we forgive. Be quick to forgive your child, but be quicker to ask your child's forgiveness. My children are very used to hearing me say, "I am so sorry! I blew it. Please forgive me."
One morning, I had to apologize to my daughter before she even got to school. I was tired and grouchy and Danna was not moving fast enough for me. I didn't like the clothes she picked out. I didn't like what she was saying or doing or how she was saying and doing it. I didn't like the fact that she kept her cool while I lost mine. Therefore, I did what any mature parent would do. I threw a tantrum and grounded her for it. Yes, I have provided many opportunities for my children to practice forgiveness. I pray that it has made them more forgiving of themselves and of others. Be a mom who is forgives quickly.
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth. It brings out the best and the worst in us. I know motherhood requires great sacrifice and limitless energy, but to invest your time and best efforts into a child, to watch that child grow and develop, is to be part of the creative majesty of life itself. Today, commit with me to seek God's power, and plan to be a mom who really matters.
Let's Pray
Father, more than ever before, I want to be a great mom. But I often find myself doing just the opposite of what I know is right when it comes to my kids. Please forgive me. Help me apply the truths and principles of your Word as I walk in this high calling of motherhood. Bless my children, Lord, and help them to follow You all the days of their lives.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Review the principles from today's devotion.
Choose one area in your role as a mom to focus on.
What changes do you need to make?
Today, celebrate your children. Give them a call. Prepare a special meal. Write them a special note.
Choose now to be a mom that matters.
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May 9, 2014
Put Your Faith Where Your Action Is!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead(James 2:17, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I remember a time, back in 1993, when I was swept up in the whimsical world of wedding planning. Every detail mattered. I was excited to be marrying Brad Smith and I wanted our wedding day to be a magical springboard to a life filled with amazing adventures and deep years of God-centered love. From the cake choices - to the dress choices - to the music choices - to the guest list choices - to the bridal registry choices: I was all about the business of wedding prep!
The bride of Christ is purposed to be all about the Father's business - to prep for eternity by making choices to bring Him glory throughout our days; to intentionally worship the Lord through our service. As God's children, we are called to connect our believing to our behaving; our convictions to our conversations; our lip-service to our life-service.
The Biblical mandate for each believer is this: put your faith where your action is. "Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead" (James 2:17).
Hear me out here. Service is not the key to gaining salvation. Salvation comes by faith in Christ alone (Romans 10:9-10). Service is, however, essential for the believer as a response to salvation. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10).
No matter who you are or what your platform is in life, the truth remains that whatever you do and say is being watched. Everyone emanates something. A radiant Christian woman - a radiant bride of Christ – should emanate the saltiness and light of Jesus through her life; displayed through the things she does and doesn't do. Through things she says or doesn't say.
Jesus said, "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.
You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:13-16, NIV).
Today, I pray that you are spurred on to be a woman of action for Christ - no matter what the circumstances of your life or the complexities of your relationships may be. From your word choices - to your tone choices - to your television choices - to your music choices - to your service choices - to your activity choices ... be all about your Father's business. Go in His strength, and put your faith where your action is.
Let's Pray
Holy Father, I pray that You will help my actions to line up with Your perfect will. Help me to be Your hands and feet to those around me. Shine through my actions so others might be drawn to Your healing hope.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does your life radiate? What are your actions saying about your faith? Are you salty for Christ in what you do and say? Spend a few moments reflecting on this and then spend some time in prayer.
How can you serve someone today? Perhaps God is leading you to bless someone in your household ... or someone in your church ... or someone in your neighborhood.
Could you reach out to a single mom, a family member, a widow, or a hurting friend? Ask God to direct you to opportunities to put your faith into action in the lives of others.
Got some great ideas about this? I would love to hear about them! Visit my blog or my Facebook page and tell me all about it!
More from the Girlfriends
Trust me, friend, in no way am I trying to place the burden of "you-must-do-more-things-in-order-to-please-God" on you. I just want to encourage you to make the most of every choice and every action. If you are drained and weary and can't imagine being able to give anyone anything right now, get alone with God. His presence and His Spirit will strengthen you for each moment.
:angel:
May 12, 2014
All Things are Possible to Her Who Believes
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
Everything is possible for him who believes(Mark 9:23, NIV).
Friend to Friend
A distraught father once had an unruly son with multiple physical and emotional problems. Many people even said the boy was possessed by a demon. The dad had tried everything, but the boy continued to demonstrate antisocial behavior: throwing himself in the fire and then in water. That sort of behavior, on top of frequent seizures, rolling on the ground, foaming at the mouth, and an inability to talk, made the dad desperate to find a solution. He even took the boy to some faith healers who were traveling through his hometown. But nothing seemed to work.
Finally, the dad realized no human being was going to be able to help his son, so he took him directly to God. The father heard that Jesus was visiting in his community, so he boldly brought the boy to Him. With desperation in his voice the father pleaded, "If You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!"
And Jesus answered, "If You can! All things are possible to him who believes."
Immediately the boy's father cried out, "I do believe: help my unbelief."
With that profession, Jesus healed the man's son.
Oh how this story from Mark 9 stirs my heart. Can't you feel the father's pain? How desperately he must have felt every time the child threw himself into the water or the fire. "Why, son? Why do you do these things?" he must have asked. "I don't understand."
Imagine the humiliation of the whispers as the family walked down the streets. "That's the Jones family. Have you heard about their son? He's..."
The stares, the snickers, the off-color comments. Don't you know there were many days when this dad wanted to just give up? Instead, he offers us a beautiful picture of what all parents must do, the ultimate act in parenting—hand their children over to God.
As mothers, at times we find ourselves at the end of our mental and emotional resources. We feel we have done everything humanly possible and don't know the best action to take with our children. That's exactly where God wants us every day: not depending on our human wisdom but on His unfathomable omniscience, not depending on our own strength but on His unlimited power. When we realize that we do not and never will have all the child-rearing answers and solutions, we discover the importance of giving our children to God.
S.D. Gordon, in Quiet Talks on Prayer, said, "You can do more than pray, after you have prayed. But you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed."
Let's Pray
(For those who have children still at home)
Dear God, today, I once again bring my child to You. Please show me how to parent this precious gift that You have given me. Help me to be the best mother that I can be. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will teach me, Your wisdom will guide me, and Your love will move me. Most of all, Lord, I give this child to You. Please make him (her) a servant after Your own heart.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
(For those with grown children)
Dear God, my child is no longer under my roof or under my wing. He (She) is now out in the world making life decisions of his (her) own. I give this adult child to You, Lord. May he (she) seek You with all his (her) heart. I pray that You will protect him (her), guide him (her), and open his (her) heart to the truth of Your Word every day.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of things about your child over which you have no control.
Now turn that list into a prayer and relinquish each item of concern to God.
Remember Jesus' reply to the Father when He said, "If you can do anything..." Write today's key verse down and commit it to memory.
If you believe Jesus' reply to the distraught father, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I believe everything is possible for God."
:angel:
May 13, 2014
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 1
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm. A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised (Proverbs 31:11-12; 30, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family means different things to different people. What is a family? Well, I can tell you that it is not what it used to be. Family is no longer simple, but blended and complex. It has changed to include many different relationships of people who live together.
· Couples with children
· Couples with no children
· Single women with children
· Single men with children
· Grandparents with children
· Parents with grown children who have left and then come back home
· Close friends living together
· Unrelated people living together
And they are all family. Family is a group of persons belonging to or forming a household. What is the purpose of family? There are no perfect families. There never have been. However, the purpose of family is to illustrate the nature and character of God. In other words, family is the primary place we learn about God.
A Sunday school class of first-graders was asked to draw a picture of God. When the pastor stopped by to inspect their work, the children were happy to show him their drawings. One had drawn God in the form of a brightly colored rainbow. Another had drawn the face of an old man coming out of billowing clouds, and there was one drawing that looked a lot like Superman. Perhaps the best drawing was the one proudly displayed by a girl who said, "I didn't know what God looked like exactly, so I drew my daddy!"
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love. To be part of a family is to be loved. So the challenge is ... how can we love our family?
I know we all want to be part of a family where we give and receive love. Proverbs 31 is a portrait of a wife and mother, painted by a King as the kind of woman his mother wanted her son to marry. It is a standard of excellence, not only for women, but also for every member of every family. In the life of this woman, we find several ways to love our family.
Build trust.
Proverbs 31:11 says "her husband has full confidence in her." "Full confidence" means to trust, to take refuge in, or to lean on. The Proverbs 31 woman spent a lifetime building trust. She trusted God and had a personal relationship with Him. We cannot be trustworthy if we are not trusting – and if we don't trust God, we cannot truly trust others. If we are not "taking refuge" or "leaning on" Jesus Christ, when others take refuge and lean on us, we will crumble and fall. Trust shatters fear.
Psalm 56:3 "But when I am afraid, I will put my confidence in you. Yes, I will trust the promises of God. And since I am trusting him, what can mere man do to me?"
Trust is fragile and very hard to rebuild once it is broken. When our son was a little boy, he constantly rode on the trusted shoulders of his dad, and loved it. Then, one day, at a church youth activity, one of the youth was playing around and punched Dan in the stomach. Dan was caught off guard and the youth hit him harder than he meant to. Dan doubled over and Jered tumbled to the ground. The next time Dan tried to put Jered on his shoulders, Jered flatly refused. It took months for Dan to earn back Jered's trust. To enjoy our family, we must first trust God, which then enables us to build trust in our family. Our family needs to be able to trust us, no matter what – with no hidden land mines. There will be no joy in our homes if there is not an atmosphere of trust. Family is a "team" idea. Nothing is more deadly to the success of a team than a lack of trust. Trust God, and then build trust in your family. In my next devotion, we will explore other ways to enjoy your family. Don't miss it!
Let's Pray
Father, thank You for the family You have given me. I want to love them like they need to be loved. Help me to build trust in them as I learn to trust You more. Lord, help me to be trustworthy and to be the woman You want me to be in my family.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of ways your family can trust and depend on you.
Identify any areas where you can build more trust.
Have a family meeting to discuss what it means to be a team.
Constantly look for ways to foster the mindset that your family is a team.
More from the Girlfriends
Everywhere I look, splintered and broken families abound. Why? I believe that somewhere along the way, trust was broken by an affair, a betrayal or a forgotten vow. What is even more frightening is the casual approach to that broken trust. God is calling us to trust Him and then to build that trust in our family. Right now, no matter how many times you have failed, begin again. We are with you!
:angel:
May 14, 2014
A Praying Mom Who Didn't Give Up
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe(Ephesians 1:18-19, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Is there someone who you are praying for, and honestly, you are questioning whether or not it is doing any good? Oh friend, let me encourage you, don't give up.
Monica saw the fruits of not giving up on her son. From the time he was born, she prayed he would surrender his life to Christ and impact the world for God. However, Augustine's pagan father was just as zealous to lead the young man into sin as his mother was to introduce him to Christ.
Augustine himself said that from the time he was born, he was "sealed with Christ's cross." However, he sidestepped God with the determination of a prizefighter.
In his early heathen years, Augustine attended the University of Carthage and received an excellent education in grammar, logic, literature, language, and oratory. During his years of higher education, he also experienced heavy doses of corruption, brothels, and friends in low places.
He graduated into a lifestyle of immorality, alcohol, and sexual promiscuity, living with one woman for 15 years and fathering a child with her. However, they never married. Eventually, he joined what could be compared to a modern-day cult.
Even though Augustine was living in apparent destitution of the soul, his mother continued to pray for him. Her light burned brightly with rays of hope, forever pointing him back to Christ. Twice a day she went to church and cried out to the Lord on Augustine's behalf.
One day Monica approached a bishop who was bold in confronting others about their relationship to God and their need for salvation. She begged him to talk to Augustine, but he refused, saying that her son was "unteachable." Still, as the bishop walked away, he replied, "It cannot be that the son of these tears should perish."
Shortly afterwards, Monica sensed that Augustine was planning to leave Carthage on a ship to Rome. When she confronted him at the dock, he denied it and said that he was only there to bid a friend farewell. However, the next morning, she discovered that her son had lied. He had set sail for Rome and escaped her influence–or so it seemed. What she did not realize was that as her wayward son turned his eyes toward the shores of home, he pictured in his mind's eye that faithful beacon, pointing him to the safety of Christ's harbor and the one true God.
Monica's prayers followed her son to Rome and God continued to put people in his path to point him to the Savior. One day, while Augustine read one of Paul's letters in the Bible, the Holy Spirit touched his heart and opened his eyes. He knew those letters were written to him, and he committed his life to Jesus Christ.
Augustine went on to write more than 100 books and 1000 sermons. The Encyclopedia Britannica describes him as "the dominant personality of the Western Church of his time...generally recognized as having been the greatest thinker of Christian antiquity." His books, City of God and Confessions are classics still read today. Sixteen hundred years later, the church still reaps the benefits of this praying mother.
Shortly after Augustine became a Christian; his mother said that she felt her work on earth was accomplished. One week later, at the age of 56, she died.
In one of his prayers Augustine wrote the following about his mother: "She poured out her tears and her prayers all the more fervently, begging You [God] to speed Your help and give me light in my darkness."
Another entry reads, "My mother, Your faithful servant, wept to You for me, shedding more tears for my spiritual death than other mothers shed for the bodily death of a son. For in her faith and in the spirit which she had from You she looked down on me as dead. You heard her and did not despise the tears which streamed down and watered the earth in every place where she bowed her head in prayer."
Monica remained a beacon of light, a visible sentinel pointing her son to the safe harbor of Christ's arms. Augustine, indebted to his mother for unceasing intercession,rose up and called her blessed.
The Beacon
Her love is like an island
In life's ocean, vast and wide.
A peaceful quiet shelter
From the wind, and rain, and tide.
'Tis bound on the north by Hope,
By Patience on the west.
By tender Counsel on the south,
And on the east by rest.
Above is like a beacon light,
Shining Faith, and Truth, and Prayer;
And through the changing scenes of life,
I find a haven there.
Author Unknown
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there have been many people who have prayed for me all through my life. I am so glad they never gave up on me. Help me to never tire when it come to praying for those I love, but press on, continue on, pray on. Help me to be persistent and consistent in praying for others to come to know Jesus as Savior and Lord.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What does Monica's story tell you about the importance of persistence in prayer?
Is there someone that you have been praying for many years?
What does Jesus tell us about persistency in prayer in Luke 18:1-8?
Want to join me in being a diligent prayer warrior who does not defeat in battle, but presses forward with resolve? Click on my Facebook page and say, "I will not give up!"
:angel:
May 15, 2014
How to Enjoy Your Family
Part 2
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (Proverbs 31:13, 15, 20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Family is important to God. He created it before He created the church and, as with each of His creations, He made a plan for it to succeed. At the heart of that plan is love! To be part of a family is to be loved. Yesterday, we saw that the first step to loving our family is to build trust. The second is to serve our family with joy. We are told by many to serve ourselves not others. The Proverbs 31 woman had every opportunity to live a life of leisure.
· She has a prominent husband.
· She had a lot of influence.
· She was visible and active in community.
· She was in charge of charity events.
But she got up while it was still dark to make breakfast for her family and for those who served her. Verse 13 tells us she worked with "eager" hands. The literal meaning of "eager" is "in delight or in chosen joy". In other words, she chose to serve with joy, which means we can choose to serve our family with joy as well. Jesus teaches the truth that service is a natural result of love!
Galatians 5:13 For, dear brothers, you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other. (LB)
Yet, many of us find it easier to serve everyone in love except our family. When my husband, Dan, was a youth pastor, we saw a variety of family dynamics. At one church, a young man came to us in tears. I will never forget his words, "My parents are getting a divorce because mom has time for everyone in the world except my dad and me!" Service to those we love and call family should not be a burden! In fact, an attitude of service is contagious! The best way to teach your family to serve is to serve them.
From childhood, making the bed was one of my kid's daily chores. I told them that one day a week I would make their bed for them. It could be on a day when they were running late for school, when they were too tired or didn't feel well. Whatever the reason, I would serve them by making their bed one day a week. One morning, I was running behind. My husband was recovering from an emergency appendectomy. I had been at the hospital day and night and was exhausted. I got up very early, took one look at my bed and decided I just didn't want to make it. I went to take a shower, hoping it would wake me up. When I came out, Danna, our eleven-year-old daughter had made my bed. To love our family, we must serve with joy!
Plan well.
Proverbs 31:15b,21,27 (LB)
15b She plans the day's work
21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.
27 She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household
Planning prevents chaos! This woman is in control of her home and her life! The control came from good planning. She mastered the skill of homemaking before she ever set foot in the workplace. She set her priorities; then arranged her life around them. She didn't allow others to set them for her but did what was important, not just urgent. Have you noticed that the urgent things in life barge in demanding attention while the important things wait to be chosen? We can spend a lifetime on the urgent and miss the important! We must set family priorities because if we don't, the world will.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew what needed to be done and made sure that it was done first and in the right way. She didn't fear winter or the hard times because she was prepared. Family should provide the most satisfying earthly relationships! If it doesn't, the problem may be with our planning. Here are some practical tips for planning:
1. Budget your time.
2. Choose one day a week to plan.
3. Eliminate. Have an "elimination" meeting once a month with your family. Eliminate the things that are
hurting your family.
4. Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone.
5. Delegate. Include everyone in the family in the work as well as the playing.
6. Simplify. Give up on perfection. It's for heaven...not earth!
Plan well! It demonstrates your love for your family!
Work hard.
Proverbs 31: 16-18 (LB)
16 She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She is a hard worker,
18 She works far into the night!
There is nothing lazy about this woman! Laziness should not be part of our character as women of God. This is a busy woman, but not too busy ad not busy doing the wrong things! Busyness does not always equal productivity! I believe a woman can have it all - a career, a family. I'm just not sure she can have it all at the same time. This woman has a strong sense of who she is and what God created her to be. She has a clear plan for life. And notice she doesn't do all of the work herself! (By the way, this is your scriptural justification for a maid or as I tell my children, "Why do you think God made kids?") Working together builds a sense of family. In a nationwide survey, thousands of school children were asked, "What makes a happy family?" The most-mentioned key to happiness was "doing things together". Plan "family projects" and family work days. At the end of day, order a pizza and rent a movie as reward. You can build some of your greatest family traditions and memories around work! Every Thanksgiving week-end, we buy a Christmas tree and put up Christmas lights. While it is a lot of work, it is also a family tradition. I never have to ask the kids to help. They are eager to join in!
A woman who loves her family is willing to work hard for them and with them, planning well and building trust.
Let's Pray
Father, family is so important to me. Thank you for the family You have given me. I love each one of them. Help me to show them that love in ways they can understand. I pray that our family will be filled with trust and become a haven for each person. Be glorified in our home and in our family. In Jesus' name. Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Identify areas of family life that need to be more structured.
Establish a weekly family meeting to plan, to keep up and, in short, connect as a family.
Use the principles in step three to become a better planner.
Establish a new family tradition that requires the work of every family member.
More from the Girlfriends
I once heard the statement, "Home is the place you go where they have to take you in." I love that! And it really is true. Remember, your home and family is the best place for God to show up and show off!
:angel:
May 16, 2014
There's a Snag in My Nag
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife (Proverbs 21:19).
Friend to Friend
My nerves were raw because of the faint, repetitive sound in the background of our conversation. As I sat in my parents' kitchen talking to my mom, the faucet behind her was dripping... and dripping... and dripping.
It. Drove. Me. Bananas.
I got up and tightened the handle.
It didn't help.
I wanted to grab the nearest screwdriver and fix it. But, I couldn't. I'm not a sink-fixer. I cannot express to you how severely lacking my sink-fixing skills are. And although I'm sure there is an online instructional video that could teach me how to fix that faucet in five quick steps, I had neither the desire to learn nor the patience to try.
Drip. Drip. Drip.
Isn't it amazing how something so small and seemingly insignificant can bother us? It was torture! I left the room. I had to. I needed to get away from the sound of the drip.
Once I composed myself, I got to thinking. The Bible compares this type of drip to a quarrelsome and nagging woman. The MESSAGE paraphrase of Proverbs 27:15 reads, "A nagging spouse is like
the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can't turn it off,
and you can't get away from it." Likewise, the NIV version of Proverbs 19:13 says, "...a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof."
The word "nag" is defined by Webster's Online dictionary this way:
· to find fault incessantly: complain
· to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction
· to irritate by constant scolding or urging
Zinger!
Obviously, this behavior is not gender specific – men can surely nag and be quarrelsome too. Whether the behavior comes from a man or a woman, a friend or a foe, the impact is universal: nagging is a negative behavior that drives people to frustration, drives others away, and does not bring glory to God. Period.
I wonder how many times we drive our co-workers, our husbands, our children, our friends or even our acquaintances away because of nagging or quarrelsome behavior? Are we even aware of it in our own lives? Do we justify it or brush it off when another person fails to meet our expectations?
Am I stepping on some toes here? I assure you, mine are bearing the weight too. Oh, how we can complain and vie for control. Our expectations of others can stir us up: how we think they should act, communicate, behave, respond, and dress.Blah. Blah. Blah. The truth of the matter is, we cannot choose behavior for others, but we can choose for ourselves.
We can choose to walk worthy of our calling in Christ. (Colossians 1:10) We can choose to call on God so that His Spirit can be evidenced in and through us in the spiritual discipline of self-control. Nagging fuels the fire of contention and frustration. Quarreling does the same. But don't take my word for it... take God's Word for it!
"As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife." (Proverbs 26:21)
"Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people." (Philippians 2:14-15)
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." (Ephesians 4:29)
So you see? There's a snag in our nag! We can try to justify nagging all we want, but when push comes to shove, it is not a behavior that is supported by Scripture. Say it with me, "There's a snag in my nag!"
In light of this, what will your behavior look like next time you are tempted to nag, quarrel, complain, or attempt to control another? Here are a few ideas to help eliminate our drips:
Replace nagging with prayer. (Not with: "Lord, change him or her!" But with: "Lord change me. Help me. Strengthen me. Give me Your grace. Give me Your wisdom.")
Leave the room or conversation if possible or appropriate. (Don't even give yourself a chance to get the words out!)
Change what you can control: your response.
Eventually, my parents got their leaky faucet fixed. I'm still working on my leak, but with God's help, I know I can do all things. We all can. Would you join me today in asking God to help us honor Him with our words and responses?
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Please forgive me for the times when I have attempted to control my circumstances and other people through nagging and quarreling. Forgive me for the times when complaining has been my response. Help me to sift my words and my thoughts through Your grace. Help me grow in You and show You in all I do.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Where does this find you today? Spend time journaling and praying about this. Confess what needs to be confessed. Restore what needs to be restored.
Need PRAYER? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page and leave a prayer request in the comments section. Then pause to pray for some of the other prayer needs on my wall.
More from the Girlfriends
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:angel:
May 19, 2014
Praying Scripture Over Children
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth (3 John 1:4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Proverbs 31 introduces us to the mother whose children rise up and call her blessed. She is a "wife of noble character" (NIV), "an excellent wife" (NAS) and "a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman" (AMP).
The actual Hebrew word for excellent or virtuous is chayil and is sometimes interpreted as "virtuous, boldly courageous, powerful, mighty warrior." The mother whose children rise up and call her blessed is a warrior who battles in prayer for the hearts, minds, and souls of her children. She prays a hedge of protection around them and stands in the gap for them. She meets the enemy head-on, dressed in the armor of God with the sword of the spirit (the Word of God) drawn and ready for action. We may never know the many times that the enemy's schemes against our children were thwarted by the power of our prayers.
As a mother, grandmother, aunt, or friend, you may feel that your burden for a child seems more than you can bear. Peter tells us to "cast all your cares upon Him, because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).
When my son was young, I created a 4 x 6 laminated card with prayers that were my defense against the enemy's attack. You, too, can pray that your children will:
Know Christ as Savior early in life. (Psalm 63:1, 2 Timothy 3:15)
Have a hatred for sin. (Psalm 97:10)
Be caught when guilty. (Psalm 119:71) (My son really wanted me to remove this one.)
Be protected from the evil one in each area of his life: spiritual, emotional, and physical. (John 17:15)
Have a responsible attitude in all his interpersonal relationships. (Daniel 6:3)
Respect those in authority over him. (Romans 13:1)
Desire the right kind of friends and be protected from the wrong friends. (Proverbs 1:10-11)
Be kept from the wrong mate and saved for the right one. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17)
Be kept pure until marriage (as well as the one he marries). (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
Learn to totally submit to God and actively resist Satan in all things. (James 4:7)
Be single-hearted, willing to be sold out to Jesus Christ.(Romans 12:1-2)
Be hedged in so he cannot find his way to wrong people or wrong places and that the wrong people cannot find their way to him. (Hosea 2:6)
A mother wears many hats during the years of raising her children. And while we take off those hats one-by-one as they grow and mature, there is one that will always remain—the hat of a mother who prays.
Let's Pray
Dear God, I agree with John who wrote, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth." That is my prayer today...that my child will walk in Your truth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Now it is your turn to pray. Go back to the verses listed above and pray them over your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or children of your closest friends.
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May 20, 2013
How to Stay Young
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In April, I will celebrate my 64st birthday! Honestly, I didn't think I would live this long. Seriously! Where have the years gone? It seems every day of life has been jam-packed full of both wonderful and horrible things I wondered if I would survive, and yet here I am, going strong and wondering why there always seems to be some kind of helicopter still landing in my life.
I have some advice for you, girlfriend. If you are a young woman, it really is true that you should cherish every day and every moment with your friends and family, because the older you get, the quicker the days fly by. I look at my children who are married and having children of their own and wonder where all of those years went. How did this happen?
If you are an older woman, take a deep breath and celebrate the fact that you are breathing. I believe if you are alive, God has a purpose and plan for your life. Give yourself a pat on the back for your survival skills. Take a few moments to reflect on your life, and don't get hung up on what might have been. Celebrate what is and what will be.
I have discovered some wonderful advantages to growing older and have learned some valuable lessons along the way. Each chapter of life seems to grow more exciting, and I keep wondering when that "slow down" thing is going to kick in. I am no longer overly concerned with a lot of things that once kept me awake at night. There is great freedom in having paid a lot of "life dues" because I have already been there, done that, and don't really care about getting the T-shirt.
I can say with authority that you probably will live through that crisis you think will be the death of you. What defines you today may very well seem ridiculous in ten years or even ten days. Stupidity will give way to wisdom learned the hard way. I now give myself permission to do or not do things I once would have felt compelled to do simply because it was someone's ridiculous expectation ... not God's plan. My audience has certainly changed over the years. I am no longer desperate to please the people who leer at me through the glass bowl in which I live. Nope! I truly strive to run the race of life for an audience of One.
Yes, there are moments when I have made a frenzied and desperate attempt to stay young. But then, why would I want to do that? There are many years of my life I really do not want to revisit, and there is so much of my life now that I love. During one of those youth seeking moments, I came across the following list of ways to stay young and found it quite interesting.
How to Stay Young
1. Throw out non-essential numbers such as your age, weight and height.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. If you really need a grouch, there are probably family members to fill that need.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Just never let the brain idle.
4. Enjoy the simple things. When the children are young simple is all you can afford. When they are in college simple is still all you can afford. When they are grown, and you are on retirement, that is all you can afford.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. Laugh so much that you can be tracked in the store by your distinctive laughter.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person that is with us our entire life is ourselves.
7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies or whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health. If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Go to the mall, the next county, a foreign country - but not guilt.
10. Tell the people you love how much you love them every chance you get. Never assume they know.
11. Don't worry about things you cannot change or do anything about. Accept them and move on.
12. Read more and dust less.
13. Spend more time with your family and friends and less time working.
14. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure. Recognize these moments now and cherish them.
15. Do not "save" anything. Use your good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the next blossom of flowers you see.
16. Wear your best outfit to the market.
17. Don't save your good perfume for only special occasions. Use it even if you are going shopping or just to the bank.
18. "Someday" and "one of these days" should vanish from your vocabulary. If something is worth seeing, hearing or doing, go and see, hear or do it now.
What about you? Are you living each day to the fullest? Jesus is all about living an abundant life in the here and now ... whatever stage of life that might be for you. Jesus came so that we can live abundantly and eternally. Eternity began the moment you accepted Him as your Lord and Savior. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to live life to the fullest. I want everything you have for me and don't want to miss a single blessing or trial that is for my good. Please help me keep my eyes on You and celebrate every day and all that it holds. I trust You, Lord, to work all things together for my good and Your glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Who or what is stealing the joy from your life?
What circumstance are you facing that you need to see through God's eyes and boldly trust Him for?
Look around. What can you find in your life to celebrate?
Are you living out God's purpose for your life or are you bowing to the wrong audience and listening to the wrong voices?
Today, make the decision to celebrate life and all God has for you.
Read Romans 8:28 and know God is at work to make your life exactly what He wants it to be.
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May 21, 2014
God's Masterpiece called YOU!
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was sitting in a crowded restaurant with my family when she walked by in her full-length white satin dress delicately trimmed in lace and studded with tiny "jewels," crinoline that swished as she moved across the room, a rhinestone tiara upon her head, and pearl-studded slippers on her feet. Golden ringlets framed her rosy cheeks and puckered lips glistened with a hint of gloss. She knew she was beautiful and glanced around at the admiring smiles of onlookers as she walked through the crowd. She was three-years-old.
I'm not sure when the dream to be beautiful enters a little girl's mind, but I do know when the dream ends—when the preacher says, "may she rest in peace."
I remember as a little girl sneaking into my mother's closet and slipping my child-size feet into her size 7 high heels. I'd also stand on my tiptoes on a chair, pull a hat off the top shelf, and plop it on my head like an oversized lampshade. Her satin evening jacket with sleeves that hung eight inches below my fingertips gave a nice elegant touch to my outfit.
A lady going to a party would never be caught without "putting on her face," so I crept into the bathroom, opened the forbidden drawer, and created a clownish work of art on the palette of my face. Red rouge circles on my cheeks, heaps of blue eye shadow on my munchkin lids, and smeared orange lipstick far exceeding the proper border were finished off with a dusting of facial powder with an oversized brush.
From the time a little girl stretches on her tiptoes to get a peek in the mirror, she desires to be beautiful—perhaps like her mommy. As the girl moves into the teen years, she experiments with makeup, delves into fashion, and attempts various hairstyles. Then it's on to makeover ideas in magazines and on talk shows. If one idea doesn't work, well, there's always next month.
I believe the dream to be beautiful is not cultural, but at the very core of womanhood. John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, describes three longings that lie at the heart of every man: a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue, an adventure to live.
He also ventures to say that women have three longings of the heart as well: to be fought for, to share in an adventure, and to have her beauty unveiled. "Not to conjure," Eldredge explains, "but to unveil. Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what I speak of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day, or 'twirling skirts,' those flowing dresses that were perfect for spinning around in. She'll put her pretty dress on, come into the living room and twirl. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight."
A woman was and is one of God's most magnificent creations. As a matter of fact, she was His grand finale. After He fashioned Eve, creation was complete and He took a rest! God has placed in our hearts a love for beauty and a desire to be beautiful—as He defines it.
In the New Testament, Paul writes, "For we are God's workmanship" (Ephesians 2:10). The Greek word for workmanship means a work of art. Listen to these words as David describes the Creator at work.
For you created my inmost being;
You knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
When I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
Your eyes saw my unformed body. (Psalm 139:13-16)
Like an artist who sees the finished work in his mind's eye, God saw your unformed substance and then began to fashion you from head to toe. He made no mistakes but planned each detail of your being. You do not need to compare yourself to other works of art, but thank the Artist for how He chose to create the masterpiece called...YOU!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You for making each and every part of my being. For eyes that see, ears that hear, legs that move, fingers that feel, arms that hug, feet that run, a heart that beats, a brain that thinks, a tongue that tastes. Oh Lord, forgive me when I complain about Your workmanship and wish for something different. Help me to always remember that I am Your workmanship...and you make no mistakes.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make a list of all the parts of your body that you are thankful for. This could take quite some time and perhaps you'll need to come back to your list several times before it is complete.
Get out an anatomy book or visit a web page that shows the various body systems (the circulatory system, the nervous system, the skeletal muscles, etc.) and read about the intricacies of the human body.
Look up the following verses and note what they say about your beauty.
2 Corinthians 3:18
Psalm 45:11
I Peter 3:3-5
Proverbs 11:22 (This verse describes a woman who is beautiful on the outside, but unattractive on the inside.)
What is one feature of your magnificent being that you are most thankful for today. Click on to my Facebook page and let's share. Come on now, don't be modest! Be thankful!
More from the Girlfriends
All little girls have dreams, but for most of us, life doesn't turn out like we thought. But did you know that God has great dreams for you? Yes, He wants to fulfill your little girl dreams in His own way. And that's not all, He has greater plans for you than you ever imagined. Put your hand in His and dare to dream again! To learn how to dream again, see my book, The 5 Dreams of Every Woman and How God Longs to Fulfill Them. You can also download a free chapter and watch a video. Here's what Patsy Clairmont had to say about it: "Tenderly, Sharon Jaynes has pressed her fingers onto the pulse of women. She has heard our heart's cry and understand even our lost dreams."
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May 22, 2104
Get Out of that Boat!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Between three and six o'clock in the morning, Jesus came to them, walking on the water. When his followers saw him walking on the water, they were afraid. They said, 'It's a ghost!' and cried out in fear. But Jesus quickly spoke to them, 'Have courage! It is I. Do not be afraid.' Peter said, 'Lord, if it is really you, then command me to come to you on the water. Jesus said, 'Come.' And Peter left the boat and walked on the water to Jesus. But when Peter saw the wind and the waves, he became afraid and began to sink. He shouted, 'Lord, save me!' Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught Peter(Matthew 14: 25-31, NCV).
Friend to Friend
Jesus and His disciples fed more than five thousand people with only five loaves of bread and two fish. Now that is what I call a miracle! The disciples not only saw the miracle Jesus performed, but were the ones Jesus actually commissioned to distribute the bread and fish. Witnessing the miracles of Jesus was not a new experience for these men. In fact, I am sure they considered themselves mature, devoted and unshakable disciples. But when Jesus sent them out onto the water in a small fishing boat while He went up into the hills to pray – their faith was put to the test.
Everything was fine - the disciples' faith in tact - until the storm hit. It is easy to believe God when the skies are blue and the nets are full of fish. How strong is our faith when we are clinging to the side of a rocking boat in the death grip of a brutal storm? The disciples cried out in fear, and Jesus came – at the right time and in the right way. Like the disciples, we often question God's timing and His ways. When they don't translate into methods we can understand, we surrender our faith to the tyranny of fear. Fully devoted followers of Christ are willing to forsake the known for the unknown. They choose to trust God and walk by faith – not by sight or human logic. The response of Jesus to the disciples' fear was encouragement and a call to step out in faith and obedience. The only taker in the boat was Peter.
Matthew 14:28-29 (NCV) "Peter said, 'Lord, if it is really you, then command me to come to you on the water.' Jesus said, 'Come.' And Peter left the boat and walked on the water to Jesus."
Faith demands a willingness to give up what we can see in exchange for what we cannot see. "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen" (Hebrews 11:1, NKJV). This verse indicates a persuasion or conviction in response to unseen evidence. But just because we can't see it, does not mean it isn't there.
John Paton and his wife were missionaries in the New Hebrides Islands. One night, hostile natives surrounded the mission headquarters, intent on burning the Patons out and killing them both. Paton and his wife prayed all night, asking God to strengthen their faith. At dawn, they were amazed to see their attackers simply turn and leave.
A year later, the chief of that tribe became a Christian. Paton asked him what had kept him and his men from killing them that night. The chief answered with a question, "Who were all those men with you?" Paton answered, "There was no one with us. My wife and I were all alone." The chief said they had seen hundreds of men standing guard, big men in shining garments with drawn swords. God is not only able to answer our prayer of faith, He delights in doing so. The problem is that we don't always like His answers.
As a fisherman, Peter knew all about boats and storms. However, I feel safe in saying that Peter had probably never tried walking on any kind of water, much less tempestuous water. It didn't matter. Jesus said, "Come." Jesus wrapped a world of truth in that one word. Strength for every trial, faith for every storm, courage for every conflict, the promise of His presence and absolutely everything we need to obey is promised to those who are willing to leave the safety of the boat and "come" to Jesus. God never forces us into obedience. He invites us to obey and leaves the choice to us.
Peter chose obedience when he slipped off his sandals, hitched up his robe and climbed over the side of that boat. Peter left the "known" behind and stepped through his fear in a radical faith that pleased God. Peter then did what we all have done at some point in life. He took his eyes off Jesus. And when he began to sink, Peter cried out in fear. I love the fact that Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed the flailing hand of Peter. I would probably have let the doubting disciple sink like a stone to teach him a lesson. Not Jesus. Grace covered it all – the storm, the sin and Peter's plea for rescue. Love heard Peter's cry. Mercy saved him.
What about you, friend? Are you trapped in a storm, clinging to the sides of a rocking boat and wondering where God is and why He is silent? Is your heart in the grip of fear and doubt? Cry out to God. Take one step of faith, and He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, my heart is filled with doubt and I am afraid. I want to believe You, Lord. I want to step out in faith, trusting You to meet me at the point of my greatest need, but I am so weak. Please teach me to listen for Your voice above the crashing waves of fear and the deadly whispers of human logic. Give me the strength to keep my eyes on You – no matter what my sea of circumstances may be.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 56:3 (NIV) "When I am afraid, I put my trust in You." What do you think it means to "put" your trust in God?
Read John 14:27 (NIV) "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." Does peace help us control emotions, or do controlled emotions produce peace? Right now, take a step of faith by making the choice to let peace rule in your heart.
More from the Girlfriends
Peace is not the absence of conflict, a lack of trouble, or scarcity of problems. Peace is not a feeling. Peace is a Person – Jesus – and when we know Him, we can experience true peace.
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May 23, 2014
Keep Watch!
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith... (1 Peter 5:8-9a, NIV).
Friend to Friend
I was really excited that evening because I actually had a fun dinner plan ... which is not always the case. There was some grilled chicken left over from dinner the night before, so I decided to bust out my griddle and whip up some yummy grilled chicken quesadillas – a simple, yet very popular Smith-family delicacy. I know: it's a crazy-easy make, but for some reason my kids think I'm a genius when quesadillas are on the menu. Go figure.
I grabbed a knife, a chopping board, and the leftover chicken from the fridge. Minutes later, the chicken was ready for it's cheese and tortilla companions. While the griddle was heating up, I turned my attention to a few other family matters. I don't even remember what those matters were. It might have been a buzzer noising from laundry room – alerting me of dry clothes that needed hung. I might have turned away to set the table or perhaps I had to intervene between my children who perpetually struggle to keep their hands to themselves. Whatever it was that drew my attention away from dinner prep was innocent – normal stuff – nothing out of the ordinary.
When I turned back to the business of quesadilla making, confusion gripped me as an empty cutting board glared at me. With an eyebrow raised quizzically, I asked my husband if he had moved my chicken.
"No Honey. I haven't touched your chicken." He replied, with a twinkle in his eye.
Hmmmmm. A chicken mystery. How odd.
I grew a bit anxious and quickly began to interview each of my children, "Did you take the chicken off the cutting board?"
"No, Mom. I didn't touch the chicken," they said one after another.
I wondered, "If I didn't move the chicken and my family didn't move the chicken, then where is my chicken?" I looked around the room once more just to be sure that I hadn't simply placed the chicken somewhere else.
Then I saw it ... a look of guilt. A look that screamed and pleaded, "Yes! I took your chicken, but please don't be angry with me. It smelled so good and ... and ... I'm a big dog – I need my nourishment. Was it wrong? Okay. I know it was wrong. Please forgive me. I did it. I ate your chicken. I'm sorry. I'd like to go to my crate now..."
His ears lowered as my eyes met his. My brows furrowed. "Rocky! YOU ate my chicken! Bad dog!" I lamented in frustration as I began to make a new chicken-less dinner plan...
Rocky's just a dog. He's not out to get me and he didn't mean to mess up our dinner plans, but he did prey on our family meal that night. He came and took what wasn't his because I had let my guard down. I wasn't watching over my chicken.
As believers in Jesus Christ, you and I must guard our hearts and watch over our homes. The Bible warns Christians to keep watch. Beyond things seen, there are spiritual battles taking place around us continually. If you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, then you have an enemy and his name is Satan. If you live to listen to the voice of Jesus, the Good Shepherd, then strap on your battle gear, girlfriend, because your enemy has a mission to destroy you.
Beware!
In the New Testament book of John, chapter 10, Jesus identified himself as the exclusive way to our salvation – as the Gate for the sheep of God – as the One who loves, leads and rescues us. In John 10:10, Jesus warns that though His plan for us is protection, love and help, the enemy ... Satan, "...the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they might have life, and have it to the full."
The Bible has a lot to say about this. It tells us time and time again to be alert to the schemes of Satan. To keep watch. "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith..."(1 Peter 5:8-9a, NIV).
Though we have an enemy with a real plan to mess with our emotions, our health, our marriages, our children, our relationships, our jobs and our thoughts, we are not without help or hope. We have both. God's power and protection are readily available to believers. 24/7. "But the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and protect you from the evil one" (2 Thessalonians 3:3, NIV).
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people" (Ephesians 6:10-18, NIV).
I was caught off guard the night that our dog, Rocky, took the chicken off the counter... and there have been times when I've been caught off guard in the midst of spiritual battles. As Christian women, let's remember to keep watch – over our hearts, our minds, and our homes. Let's purpose to proactively pray for protection, power and perseverance. May we always keep watch.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are all-powerful and mighty to save. I praise you and delight in your plan for me to have abundant life through Jesus. Please cover me in Your Spirit today and equip me to fend off attacks from the enemy in your power and help.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Can you identify an area where you feel the enemy is attacking you? Grab your journal and write about it. Pause to pray for specific people and relationships that you feel need protection.
Are you an armed and dangerous Girlfriend in God? Be that woman! Let's PRAY for one another today. If you want to link arms with GiGs from across the globe and stand unified in prayer against the schemes of the devil, click over to my blog. For FUN: I'm posting a picture of our dog Rocky so you can see the cute chicken thief!
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May 26, 2014
When the Problem is YOU
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD Almighty(Zechariah 4:6, NIV).
Friend to Friend
It was the incompetent and the inexperienced being led by the inept—the day our Sunday school class worked on the Habitat for Humanity house for an unsuspecting, extremely grateful Vietnamese family. Among the crew were two dentists, an investment banker, a lawyer, an engineer, two pastors, a receptionist, several homemakers and a marriage counselor. It's always good to have a marriage counselor on hand when a home improvement project is taking place.
A team had already framed the 1,000square-foot, vinyl siding house the week before. Today was Sheetrock, or drywall, day. The site supervisor's name was TA. That's all the information he gave—just TA. TA became a Christian one Easter when he reluctantly agreed to go to church with his praying wife.
"I never went to church," he told my husband. "I was a mean man who worked seven days a week. But one Sunday I put on a suit and told my wife, 'I'm going to church with you today, but don't ask me to do it again. This is a onetime deal.' But Jesus saved my soul that day and I've been livin' for Him ever since."
That was TA. A country carpenter who had hammered more nails for Jesus than Noah and his sons put together. He grabbed his clipboard and began.
"Does anyone here know anything about drywall?" he asked.
Jeff reluctantly raised his hand.
"OK, you'll be a team leader." TA checked the list and moved right along.
"But that was thirty years ago when I was in college," Jeff clarified.
"You'll be fine," TA said as he waved his hand. "Like riding a bike."
I could tell you many stories of the day filled with wacky work and lively laughter laced with caring community, but let me share just one.
Palmer was part of the Sheetrock team. Like Rambo, he wielded his screw gun and popped those babies in the Sheetrock like a hot knife through butter. Piece of cake. After several hours of neck craning, screw popping, dust in your eyes labor, Palmer took a fifteen-minute break.
Re-energized, Rambo picked up his machine gun and once again attacked the ceiling. A lot of forgetting can go on in a fifteen-minute break and, for some reason, the screws forgot how they were supposed to spin out of the gun and magically implant flush with the ceiling.
"That's strange," Palmer thought as he examined the screw protruding one inch from the ceiling.
He moved the gun over a couple of inches and tried again. "Maybe I just need to push harder" he mused. So with all the force of a trained counselor, Palmer pressed the gun into the ceiling and pulled the trigger. Once again the screw hung down one inch from the ceiling.
Like a tennis player who examines his racket after missing an easy lob, or an outfielder who stares at his glove after missing a simple fly ball, Palmer looked at the gun in frustration. "Something is definitely wrong with this gun," he mumbled. "I guess I need to push even harder." Palmer set his jaw, clinched the gun, and firmly pressed the screw gun into the ceiling. "I'm a man. I can do this. I'm going to make this work."
After a third attempt, a frustrated Palmer stared at a neatly placed row of three taunting stalactite screws protruding from the ceiling.
About that time, TA bounced through the room and casually commented to Rambo still holding his gun. "Hey Buddy, you might want to take that gun out of reverse."
A flush of embarrassment rose from the tip of Palmer's dusty shoes to the top of his sandy- blond head. He nonchalantly flipped the switch to forward and proceeded to shoot flush screws efficiently and effectively like nothing had ever happened.
Later, Palmer laughingly said, "Sometimes I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I wonder how many rows of protruding screws I would have shot into that ceiling before I stopped and even considered that the problem might be me?"
OK sisters, stop the cameras.
Suddenly I saw myself staring up at those protruding screws with my baffled friend. "What's wrong with her?" I complain about a friend who's let me down.
"What's wrong with him?" I complain about my husband who's not acting according to my plan.
"What's wrong with them?" I mumble about family members who are not living up to my expectations."
In frustration I continue repeating the same ineffective behavior, never stopping to consider the problem might be me.
Whether it's a string of jobs where you're always treated unfairly, a pileup of relationships that seem to repeatedly end poorly, or a series of marriages with spouses who've let you down...could the problem be...dare I say... you? We push harder. Press more firmly. Repeat the same ineffective behavior again and again.
May I quote TA? "Hey, Buddy. It might help if you take it out of reverse."
May I translate TA the way I heard it? "Hey, Buddy. You are the problem. You've got life in reverse. Turn and go in the opposite direction."
And you know what? That is the definition of repentance. It means to turn around and go in the opposite direction. To change your mind.
Palmer could have pushed that screw gun into the ceiling until its nose broke through the Sheetrock. He could have forced those babies in—even hammered them flush. Then he could have slathered a coat of Sheetrock mud over the holes and applied a nice coat of paint. On the outside, it might have looked like the screws were properly installed. But the truth would come out eventually. The screw threads would have simply cut a hole in the material and the purpose for which they were created lost. There would be no grip of the screw threads into the drywall. No security in the construction. Just a nicely painted ceiling on the verge of collapse.
Oh friend, when it comes to a life that is not working, we can try harder, push harder, and even pound with emotional hammers to try and make it work. With a fresh coat of pretend—a smiling face, spit-shined kids, and a well-marked Bible, we might look OK—even downright good. But underneath, the construction remains shaky at best.
But when trying harder is replaced with repentance, shaky is replaced by secure. If life isn't working for you, consult with the project manager—Jesus Christ. Trying harder is not the answer. Pushing with more force won't get the job done well. Repeating the same ineffective behavior will only leave you frustrated. But relying on the power of the Holy Spirit working in us, God's love flowing through us, and Jesus Christ's redeeming grace surrounding us, well, that is the key to building God's ultimate habitat for all humanity.
Let's Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, sometimes I just don't get it. I try harder, but with the same results. I repeat the same ineffective behavior and then wonder why I don't have more victory in my life. Help me to stop trying harder in my own strength, but start depending more on Your power. Show me when I need to turn and go in the opposite direction, and give me the courage to do so.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Today's assignment is to read Romans 7.
What was Paul's struggle?
Have you ever felt like Paul?
What was Paul's answer to the struggle?
What does "walking in the Spirit" look like to you?
Did today's devotion make you smile? I hope so.
More from the Girlfriends
Have you been trying hard to live the Christian life with little success? Well, here's the bad news and the good news. The bad news is that you can't do it. The good news is that Jesus can do it for you and through you. If you would like to learn more about how to move from being stuck in Romans 7 and moving into the victory of Romans 8, see my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful. It takes you right back to the very beginning of how you got in your fix in the first place, and how God gives you the way out!
:angel:
May 27, 2014
Strength for the Storm
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation (Romans 5:3-5, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Life is filled with storms of one kind or another. In the midst of those storms, we tend to respond as if God has somehow been caught off guard. The storm makes no sense. We can't explain why terminal illness strikes godly people. We don't understand how our strongest friends can become our fiercest critics. The anguish of a broken marriage or the overwhelming heartbreak of a prodigal child drives us to doubt God's purpose, plan and provision. The fear of financial ruin paralyzes us. God understands.
The Bible is filled with men and women who were storm survivors – people of God who endured great pain and weathered intense life storms because they chose to follow Him. The Apostle Paul, known for persecuting and murdering Christians, was forever changed when he met Jesus Christ. While God gave him a life of great power and eternal impact, it was also a life filled with great storms. Paul learned to "patiently" endure the troubles, hardships and calamities that came his way.
Because grain was a precious food source to the Romans, threshing grain was a natural part of every day in ancient Rome. In pictures of early Rome, one man is always seen stirring up the sheaves while another rides over them in a crude cart equipped with rollers instead of wheels. Sharp stones and rough bits of iron were attached to these wheels to help separate the husks from the grain. This simple cart was called a "tribulum" from which we get our word "tribulation."
No Roman ever used his tribulum as a tool of destruction - only refinement. God uses our trials and storms as tools of refinement to build in us endurance. The word "endure" comes from two Greek words that when combined, give the meaning "to remain under." It is the capacity to stay under the load, to remain in the circumstances without running away or looking for the easy way out.
The purpose of every storm is to purify and cultivate endurance. Like Paul, we may sometimes feel as if we are being torn to pieces under the pressure of circumstances. But his challenge to the Romans compels us to re-examine our perspective and response to each storm we face. "We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us--they help us learn to endure. Endurance then develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation" (Romans 5:3-5, NLT).
Endurance is never passive. It is the picture of a soldier staying in the heat of the battle under terrible opposition but still pressing forward to gain the victory.
There are few things that we can count on in this unpredictable life - but we can count on storms to come. We can also count on God's continual and unfailing strength for those storms. When the hard times come and when bad things happen, we do not have to wonder where God is. Instead we can hold on to the promise that is found in Jeremiah 16:19, "Lord, you are my strength, and my protection. You are a safe place for me to run in times of trouble" (NLT).
An old seaman once said, "In fierce storms we can do but one thing. There is only one way to survive. We must put the ship in a certain position and keep her there." Richard Fuller commented on the old seaman's words:
"This, Christian, is what you must do. Sometimes, like Paul, you can see neither sun nor stars, and no small tempest lies on you. Reason cannot help you. Past experiences give you no light. Only a single course is left. You must stay upon the Lord; and come what may -- winds, waves, cross seas, thunder, lightning, frowning rocks, roaring breakers -- no matter what, you must lash yourself to the helm and hold fast your confidence in God's faithfulness and His everlasting love in Christ Jesus."
No matter what storm rages in your life today – no matter how fierce the winds or how high the waves may be – where you are is no surprise to God. Heaven is not in a panic. Keep your gaze on Him and your glance on the raging waters. "Lash yourself" to Him, and He will supply everything you need to stand firm in the storm.
Let's Pray
Father, I am so tired of trying to weather the storms of life on my own. I need Your power and strength to face each one. Please teach me to turn to You first. Help me learn to patiently endure the hard times and honor You in the midst of them as I walk by faith.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Look back at the storms you have come through. Have you learned more about endurance? Are you stronger now than you were then?
Memorize Romans 5:3-5. Examine the storms you are facing today. Choose to rejoice in the midst of each one, knowing it is an opportunity to trust God.
More from the Girlfriends
We lived in South Florida for many years. As hurricane season approached each year, residents of South Florida raced to the grocery stores and nearest lumber yards to stockpile supplies. Batteries, flashlights, canned food, bread, peanut butter and bottled water were the first to go. Weathermen issued constant warnings to get ready and stay ready for a storm. We must do the same. Make no mistake – a storm is on the horizon. Get ready. Stand firm, knowing God is Lord of every storm you will ever face.
:angel:
May 28, 2014
Search Me. Know Me. Show Me.
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
"Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139:23-24)
Friend to Friend
A few years ago my mother in law gave me a 12x magnification hand mirror as a part of a gift. She said that she uses hers all the time and expected that I would love it. Never thinking I would actually need or use it, I thanked her with all the grace I could muster and put the mirror away where I put the gifts that I never plan on needing or using. (C'mon. I know you have a spot in your house for that kind of gift too, right!?)
Fast-forward a few years...
My teenaged son was working on a self-portrait for art class and asked me if I had a hand mirror. Since I remembered that the 12x magnification mirror had a normal-mirror side, I ran and got it for him.
After his art project was completed, Preston returned the hand mirror to the top drawer of my bathroom vanity. (SO not where it had been!) Not long after that, on a grooming day, I reached for my tweezers to pluck what needed plucking, and in doing so my eyes fell upon the 12x magnification mirror.
"What the heck! I'll try it," I thought.
Insert freaky horror sounds here...
I was not at all prepared for the revelation of my up-close and personal reflection. My pores looked like swimming pools and my stray eyebrow hairs looked like tree trunks. Even the super tiny fine ones! It. Was. Crazy.
And I must tell you; eyebrow plucking has never been the same for me since!
Here's why: prior to having this hyper magnified experience, I'd always thought I did a good job plucking my eyebrows. But the clarity and power that came with the 12x magnification mirror has changed the game. Though I used to think I did a good job plucking, now I know that I do – because what is not visible to me in a normal mirror is vibrantly clear in the magnified one. So now every stray that doesn't belong gets gone!
Over the years, I've found it far too easy to go through my days in a way that's similar to how I used to pluck my eyebrows. I've allowed only the easily visible sins to be plucked from my life, leaving me blissfully unaware of the smaller, harder-to-see stray responses, attitudes, thought patterns, and choices that need to be plucked as well. This is still a constant struggle!
God's plans for us are so much greater than this type of living. He tells us that we are to be holy as he is holy (Leviticus 11:44,1 Peter 1:16). How can we? With His help... and only with His help. We can trust that he is ready to be there every time we need Him because He knows and loves us more than we will ever be able to grasp.
God knows us perfectly. He's familiar with all of our ways – good and bad. He knows where we go, what we think, how we feel, what we prioritize and how we respond. He sees us on the mountaintops and He sees us in the pits. The psalmist David proclaimed that before a word was even on his tongue, God knew it completely. (Psalm 139:4)
He loves us perfectly. His love goes before us, behind us, above us and below us. He compassionately protects, provides for, and cherishes us. Psalm 139 blows me away! I just can't wrap my mind around the thought that God, who created space and time, is not constrained by space or time. He loved us and knew us before we even were! All of the days of our lives are ordained and were written in His book before one of them came to be. (Psalm 139:16)
In awe of our all-present, all-seeing, all-powerful, all-knowing, and all-loving God, David deeply desired to live a life of pure, responsive worship. He cried out, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139: 23-24)
That's a 12x magnified prayer, my friend! David prayed for purposed purity to rise. He wanted God to show him the stray sins that he could not see – SO THAT the Lord could then lead him to a better, more holy way.
If you and I can get this... if we will determine to prioritize this type of praying on a heart level and allow God to sift through the stray sins of our lives, the Spirit of God will lead us to new heights, widths, and depths of His love, purity, and power.
Ready for a deeper, 12x magnified adventure with God? JUST ASK... Lord, search me! Know me! Show me! Then, JUST LISTEN... and be prepared to move in the direction of His leading and His love.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Search me. Know me. Show me. Please shine your holy light on any shady areas of my life that need correction or direction. Crush any stubborn ways that keep me from Your will and Your best. Magnify any secret sins or unknown compromises that hinder my holiness. And move me forward in Your grace so that I can be led by Your Spirit and so that others can see Your love through me.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
Now It's Your Turn
Read Psalm 139. Journal a prayer response.
Grab your Bible and a journal or piece of paper and then fill in the blanks of these verses:
"Where can I __ from your _______? Where can I ___ from your __________? If I go up to the __________, you are ________; if I make my bed in the __________, you are _________. If I _________ on the wings of the dawn, if I ________ on the far side of the sea, _______ ___________ your hand will ________ me, your right hand will _______ me fast." (Psalm 139: 7-10, NIV)
NOW, let's make that personal. Fill in the following blanks, inserting your people, places and heart matters.
"Lord, Your loving presence is incredible! Your Word assures me that even if ______________ happens, you are there. When I'm overwhelmed by the circumstances with _______________, you are there. When I find myself filled with fears and doubts about ______________, your right hand will hold me fast. Thank you, Lord. I cherish your presence and love you too."
Let's take this to the next level. Need PRAYER? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page and leave a prayer request in the comments section. Then pause to pray for some of the other prayer needs on my wall.
May 29, 2014
Stress Management 101
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do not worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you need. And when you pray, always give thanks. And God's peace will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is so great that we cannot understand it (Philippians 4:6-7, ICB).
Friend to Friend
Stress management is a spiritual discipline that begins with diligent preparation in every area of life – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. We must be ready to deal with stress before we are required to deal with stress. Dealing with stress is an ongoing, daily battle that will not end this side of Heaven. In order to win that battle, we must be prepared. While there is no single secret to handling stress, God's Word is filled with many truths that can enable and empower us to deal with stress in a healthy, productive, and God-honoring way.
Sometimes the most familiar passages of scripture are also the most overlooked. Psalm 23 is one of those passages. I often find myself rushing to this psalm for peace and comfort in the aftermath of a stressful situation or for guidance and shelter from the storm that I see barreling straight for the unprepared shores of my life. However, I have also discovered that Psalm 23 is a powerful tool for dealing with stress on an everyday basis.
If you are like me, I tend to handle the major calamities in life better than the mundane, ordinary but definitely stress-inducing minutia of daily living. A study of Psalm 23 has led me to believe that it is often the small pebble in my shoe, rather than the massive boulder on my path, that causes the greatest stress in my life. Life is so daily! Fortunately, so is God.
God promises to be my shepherd, to lead and guide me, to provide my every need, to protect me from my enemies, to fill my heart with peace, and to stand between my greatest fears and me.
God delivered a profound message when He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to live among us each and every day. Jesus could have come to us in many ways, but He chose to interrupt the ordinary with the extraordinary. Jesus could rightfully have been born in a palace. He was, after all, a King. Yet His life on earth began in a manger - a smelly, dusty, dirty and common barn. The simplicity of His birth is one of His most precious gifts to us. It is also a constant reminder that He really does care about everything that touches our lives - no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. God wants to be involved in the simple, ordinary happenings of each day.
While I cannot imagine my world without the presence and power of Jesus Christ, I am often guilty of living as if He does not exist. The result is a stress-filled life.
A trial comes and I try to handle it on my own.
Loneliness empties my heart and instead of reaching out to Him, I withdraw into the darkness where stress is waiting to fill that emptiness with anxiety and fear.
Still, God is faithful.
His peace is a soothing balm that leads me once again to the manger and away from stress. Emmanuel, God with me! He steps into my life and changes everything. When He comes, stress is stripped away, tranquility given in its place.
When I find myself wishing I could have been there that holy night when Jesus was born, He gently reminds me that I had my own manger experience, when God became a personal reality in my life. I have my own holy moments each and every day as I reach out to Him and He is there, right in the middle of my common, ordinary and often smelly circumstance.
Stress has no place in a heart that kneels before the manger. Stress is powerless in a life that continually seeks God and chooses to surrender to His love and care – like the sheep surrender to the love and care of their Shepherd. Psalm 23 describes the intimate, personal and trusting relationship between sheep and shepherd, between child and father, and is not only a beautiful portrait of God's complete and faithful provision, but an arsenal of stress-busting truths and principles that, when embraced and applied, will empower and equip us to live a life of peace and victory.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to thank You for your unconditional love and forgiveness. Help me focus on You and Your presence in my life each day. I pray that any stress in my heart will be swallowed up in the reality that You are faithful and in control. I know You are not surprised by anything that comes my way and will transform the good into better, the unthinkable into the unstoppable, and the unbelievable into fact. I praise You for the amazing way You guide me and lift me up when I fall. I want to focus on You today and thank You that in doing so, I will experience true peace.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now it's Your Turn
Think about the way you begin each day. Are you afraid of what the day holds? Do you dread facing whatever comes your way? Or do you focus on God and His promises? Make the choice today to walk in faith, peace, and victory.
More from the Girlfriends
Stress is one of the enemy's favorite weapons to use against me. Stress has caused physical pain, emotional darkness, and spiritual bankruptcy in my life. I constantly have to bring my heart and mind back to God. I know how hard it is to stay balanced and at peace. Need help? Check out my book, Escaping the Stress Trap, to discover nine steps you can take to manage stress...instead of allowing it to manage you.
:angel:
May 30, 2014
Guiltless Living
Ginger Hubbard
We hope you are enjoying the Girlfriends in God daily devotions. We (Mary, Sharon, and Gwen) would like to introduce you to some of our special friends. From time-to-time, the Friday devotions will be written by one of our friends in ministry. We call them our "Friday Friends." So grab your Bible and a fresh cup of coffee and drink in the words from our "Friday Friend," Ginger Hubbard.
Today's Truth
For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him (John 3:17, NIV).
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1).
Friend to Friend
For so long in my life, I struggled with trying to be a good Christian. Inevitably, I would blow it on a daily basis - then proceed to beat myself up spiritually and emotionally.
In setting my standards high for being what I perceived the perfect wife and mom, I chose the woman described in Proverbs 31 as my role model. On one particular morning, I remember reading about her and making unfavorable comparisons. She got up before it was still dark. I had rolled out of bed around 8:30 am. She was well dressed in fine linen and purple. I was in a baggy, terrycloth robe with my hair pulled up in an orange chip clip. She held the distaff while grasping the spindle with her fingers (not sure what those things are, but I'm certain they contributed to her noble character). I held the dust buster to the crumbs on my bed sheets while grasping the empty bag of Doritos. She provided good food for her family and was always on top of things. I offered a choice of Burger King or McDonalds and felt the weight of my unaccomplished to-do list crashing down on me.
In comparison, I didn't measure up. I felt anxious, defeated and disappointed in myself.
I wanted to be the wife who was always cheerful, never irritable, and only said words that edified, encouraged and built up. I wanted to be the mom who never lost it and only spoke with kindness, wisdom and faithful instruction. But, as hard as I tried, I always wound up blowing it in some way.
I just couldn't achieve the "good Christian" status I desired.
Through prayer and studying God's Word, I began to realize that no matter how hard I tried, I would never achieve being the perfect Christian. I learned that the battle of victorious Christian living could not be won by sheer willpower or by teeth-gritting determination, but by tucking myself underneath the full armor of God and trusting that God is not only fighting for me, but He's already won the battle.
In measuring our self-worth in accordance with our own performances, we not only become anxious, but we miss out on experiencing the peace and rest of who we truly are in Christ.
Our worth is not based on what we do or don't do. It's not based on our successes and failures. It's not even based on whether we sin a little or sin a lot.
Our worth is based solely on Christ and the atoning work He has done on our behalf. We are His children, purchased at a price, forgiven and fully redeemed.
Embracing this wonderful truth brings about freedom. It's the freedom to forget about ourselves and lay down our measuring rods of self-worth and ongoing scrutiny. It's the freedom to release the suffocating anxiety our weaknesses cause, and instead take hold of God's grace given to us through the cross.
Join me today in letting go of performance-based worth and self-imposed expectations. May we purpose to rest in the victory Christ has already won and truly experience the rich and satisfying joy of Guiltless Living!
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me to understand and accept that my worth is not based on my own performance or on being a "good Christian," but on You and what You have done for me. You say in Your Word that no one is righteous except You. Thank You, Jesus, for dying on the cross, winning victory over sin on my behalf. Thank You for loving me, forgiving me, cleansing me and clothing me in Your righteousness. Help me to rest in the freedom of guiltless living based on Your atoning work at Calvary.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Does your emotional state vary in accordance with your own performances as a Christian, whether those performances leave you feeling defeated or prideful?
How is feeling defeated when you blow it not relying on Christ for your worth?
How is feeling prideful when you experience spiritual success dishonoring to God?
More from the Girlfriends
Because I have struggled so much with the issue of performance-based self-worth, I have a great compassion for other struggling women. I can relate and understand the mental, spiritual and physical exhaustion that comes from this way of living. If you are one of these women, it is my deep desire that you lay down your measuring rod of self-worth and stop beating yourself up. I desire this so much that I wrote a book (complete with a seven week Bible Study) to help you experience the freedom of Guiltless Living.
:angel:
June 2, 2014
Seeing Yourself as God Sees You
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let's not let it slip through our fingers. We don't have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He's been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help(Hebrews 4:14-16, MSG).
Friend to Friend
For almost forty years, Margaret lived with word-inflicted wounds that nearly destroyed her life. From the first day she attended her one-room schoolhouse, she and her teacher, Ms. Garner, didn't get along. Ms. Garner was harsh, bitter, and cruel, and could not tolerate Margaret's childish idiosyncrasies. For years, the tension between the two built up pressure.
Margaret was nine-years-old when the cataclysmic day occurred—the one that ripped her world apart. It happened after recess when she frantically raced into class, late again. As she burst through the doors, she faced her peers jeering at her maliciously.
"Margaret!" Ms. Garner shouted. "We have been waiting for you! Get up here to the front of the class, right now!"
Margaret walked slowly to the teacher's desk, was told to face the class, and then the nightmare began.
Ms. Garner ranted, "Boys and girls, Margaret has been a bad girl. I have tried to help her to be responsible. But, apparently, she doesn't want to learn. So we must teach her a lesson. We must force her to face what a selfish person she has become.
"I want each of you to come to the front of the room, take a piece of chalk, and write something bad about Margaret on the blackboard. Maybe this experience will motivate her to become a better person!"
Margaret stood frozen next to Ms. Garner. One by one, the students began a silent procession to the blackboard. One by one, the students wrote their life-smothering words, slowly extinguishing the light in Margaret's soul. "Margaret is stupid! Margaret is selfish! Margaret is fat! Margaret is a dummy!" On and on they wrote until twenty-five terrible scribblings of Margaret's "badness" filled the chalkboard.
The venomous accusations taunted Margaret in what felt like the longest day of her life. After walking home with each caustic word indelibly written on her heart, she crawled into her bed, claimed sickness, and tried to cry the pain away. But the pain never left, and forty years later she slumped in the waiting room of a psychologist's office, still cringing in the shadow of those twenty-five sentences.
Jesus understands what it feels like to have people call you names. People called Him a blasphemer (Matthew 9:3), the prince of demons (Matthew 9:34), an evil spirit (Mark 3:30), and a lawbreaker (Mark 2:24). His own family said that He was crazy (Mark 3:21). Yes, He knows what it feels like to have a broken heart—both figuratively and physically.
Jesus understands our hurt because He experienced it for Himself. Eugene Peterson, in his work The Message, wrote: "Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let's not let it slip through our fingers. We don't have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He's been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help" (Hebrews 4:14-16 MSG).
Let's go back to Margaret for a moment. Her story is recorded in Ron Lee Davis' book, Mistreated.
After decades of depression and anxiety, she had finally sought help from a psychologist. Two long years of weekly counseling helped Margaret to finally extricate herself from her past. It had been a long and difficult road, but she smiled at her counselor (how long it had been since she'd smiled!) as they talked about her readiness to move on.
"Well, Margaret," the counselor said softly, "I guess its graduation day for you. How are you feeling?"
After a long silence, Margaret spoke. "I...I'm okay."
The counselor hesitated. "Margaret, I know this will be difficult, but just to make sure you're ready to move on, I am going to ask you to do something. I want you to go back to your schoolroom and detail the events of that day. Take your time. Describe each of the children as they approach the blackboard; remember what they wrote and how you felt—all twenty-five students."
In a way, this would be easy for Margaret. For forty years she had remembered every detail. And yet, to go through the nightmare one more time would take every bit of strength she had. After a long silence, she began the painful description. One by one, she described each of the students vividly, as though she had just seen them, stopping periodically to regain her composure, forcing herself to face each of those students one more time.
Finally, she was finished, and the tears would not stop, could not stop. Margaret cried a long time before she realized someone was whispering her name. "Margaret. Margaret. Margaret." She looked up to see her counselor staring into her eyes, saying her name over and over again. Margaret stopped crying for a moment.
"Margaret. You...you left out one person."
"I certainly did not! I have lived with this story for forty years. I know every student by heart."
"No, Margaret, you did forget someone. See, he's sitting in the back of the classroom. He's standing up, walking toward your teacher, Ms. Garner. She is handing him a piece of chalk and he's taking it, Margaret, he's taking it! Now he's waking over to the blackboard and picking up an eraser. He is erasing every one of the sentences the students wrote. They are gone! Margaret, they are gone! Now he's turning and looking at you, Margaret. Do you recognize him yet? Yes, his name is Jesus. Look, he's writing new sentences on the board. 'Margaret is loved. Margaret is beautiful. Margaret is gentle and kind. Margaret is strong. Margaret has great courage.'"
And Margaret began to weep. But very quickly, the weeping turned into a smile, and then into laughter, and then into tears of joy.
For forty years Margaret had limped through life with the pain of a broken heart. But finally she allowed Jesus, the Healer, the Comforter, the Great Physician, to bind up the broken heart and allow it to heal.
What is Jesus writing on the chalkboard about you?
You are chosen.
You are dearly loved.
You are holy.
You are beautiful.
You are pure.
You are my bride.
I have your name engraved on the palm of my hand.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, thank You that I am a new creation in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:17). I can almost picture You walking to the front of the room and writing my new identity in Christ on the board. Help me to see myself as You see me and never believe the lies that tell me otherwise.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you see yourself as God sees you?
Read Ephesian chapter 1 and list everything you learn about your new identity in Christ.
Are there any names that you need to erase from the chalkboard of your mind?
More from the Girlfriends
Do you know who you are? I'm not talking about who others have said you are in the past. I'm not talking about who you think you are? I'm talking about who God says you are. Click here for a list of Your New Identity In Christ. Print it off. Paste it up. Get it in your heart and soul. This is the truth. And for more on who you are, what you have, and where you are as a child of God, see my book Becoming Spiritually Beautiful: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You. It will set you free!
:angel:
June 3, 2014
Fogged In?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So we do not look at what we can see right now, the troubles all around us, but we look forward to the joys in heaven which we have not yet seen. The troubles will soon be over, but the joys to come will last forever(II Corinthians 4:18).
Friend to Friend
In an effort to escape the brutal summer heat of South Florida, our family headed to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina. We splashed in the icy mountain streams until our hands and feet were almost numb from the cold and spent as much time outside as we possibly could; trying to soak up the cool, crisp mountain air. The Blue Ridge Parkway was one of our favorite spots for hiking, so we planned a day trip that included exploring a few hiking trails, a picnic and a visit to the beautiful and historic colonial home of Carl Sandburg.
We woke to discover the beautiful weather of the day before had dissolved into a soupy mix of drizzle and fog. But we were not about to let a little fog and rain deter us from our original plan. We had been vacationing in North Carolina for years and knew that fog is a common occurrence – even in the summer. We piled into our van and made our way up the mountain.
The closer we got to the Sandburg home, the heavier the fog became. In fact, when we arrived, the fog was so thick that we could barely see the walkway that led to the gift shop where we needed to purchase tickets for the tour of the home and grounds. We decided that we would have to come back another day for the tour, but since we were already at the gift shop, it wouldn't hurt to do a little browsing.
The shop owner greeted us warmly and asked if we would like to purchase tickets for the guided tour that was scheduled to leave in an hour. Always the diplomat, I responded, "Are you kidding me? Have you looked outside?" The owner smiled and said, "Oh, you mean the fog? It will be gone in a little while. Now – how many tickets do you need?" I don't like pushy salesmen, even when they are sweet and kind – and maybe a little near-sighted. "I think we will just wait and see if the fog actually lifts," I responded, convinced that the thick fog would last all day, and resumed my browsing.
I lost track of time and was surprised to hear the owner announce, "The tour is leaving in 15 minutes. This is our final call for tickets." I walked out of the gift shop to discover that the fog really was lifting and the skies were actually beginning to clear. I couldn't believe my eyes! Within minutes, the sun was shining - as if the fog had never existed.
It sometimes feels as if the fog of doubt and fear of darkness will never lift from our lives. The promises of God seem to get swallowed up by the problems we face. We want to curse our crisis – not praise God in the midst of that crisis. The hurt and pain overwhelm our faith and we lose sight of the fact that this world is not our home and the troubles we face are only temporary. Lift up your eyes, Girlfriend. Fix your heart and mind on God – He is with you.
I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth" (Psalm 121:1-2, NIV).
Let's Pray
Lord, I need Your help. I am tired of trying to face my problems in my own strength. Please help me keep my gaze on You and my glance on my circumstances. Help me remember that Your strength and power are more than enough to face anything that comes my way. And when I am afraid, teach me how to put my trust in You alone.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 51:6. "Liftup your eyes to the heavens, look at the earth beneath; the heavens will vanish like smoke, the earth will wear out like a garment and its inhabitants die like flies. But my salvation will last forever, my righteousness will never fail."
What does this verse say about the importance of earthly possessions and values in comparison to the joys waiting for us in Heaven?
What fears are you facing today? What step(s) do you need to take in order to find victory over those fears?
Read and memorize the following verses. When you are afraid, pray and speak these verses aloud.
· Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble" (NIV).
· Psalm 63:7-8 "Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me" (NIV).
· Isaiah 42:16 "I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them" (NIV).
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The "Fear Factor" is not just a television show. Fear is a faithful companion in a world filled with broken people, many of whom live at the mercy of their fears. Need help? Check out my downloadable Bible Study, Getting a Grip on Fear that uncovers God's plan for peace and identifies five ways to deal with and be free from fear.
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June 4, 2014
Turning "Why Me?" into "What Now?"
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed(1 Peter 1:6-7, NIV).
Friend to Friend
My son and I sat on the floor in his room playing Rummy. We had just a few minutes before rushing off to register for his summer swim class and wanted to get in one more round of play. This summer was proving to be the best ever. Our golden retriever, Ginger, had just delivered seven adorable puppies, Steven was enjoying his sixth summer of life, and after four years of the heartache of negative pregnancy tests, God had surprised us with a new life growing inside my womb.
But as Steven and I sat on the floor, I felt a warm sticky sensation run down my leg. A trip to the bathroom confirmed my greatest fear.
Later that afternoon, our baby died, and is now waiting for us in heaven.
What began as a summer full of life and joy, quickly turned into a season of great loss and sadness. I mourned for that child for which I had prayed. I felt the ache of empty arms.
I once heard someone say, "I never knew I could miss someone that I had never met." Now I understood. We never knew for sure, but in my heart, I felt that the baby had been a little girl.
During those summer months, I went through the grieving process step-by-step. I'll admit that I was angry at God for "taunting" me with this gift of a child and then taking her away. But through the months and years that followed, God taught me many lessons about myself, about Him, and about trusting in His unfailing love.
I believe that when we go through a trial that wounds us deeply, God can use it to teach us valuable lessons. Some of those lessons are a deeper understanding of who God is, of who we are, and of what we truly believe. Our faith grows in the petri dish of struggles in the laboratory of life.
One of my most valuable lessons, through all my wounds and scars, was a decision to stop saying "why me?" and to begin saying "what now?" But the lesson that continues reverberating like a gentle thunder is the truth of God's unfailing love.
During the months that followed the loss of our child, I struggled with God. Just as Jacob wrestled with God through his dark night of the soul, I wrestled as well.
How could He love me and allow this to happen? Why would God withhold my dream? Is He able? Is He kind? Is He really there?
It was a dry summer...in my heart and soul. No one could help me, comfort me, or lift me out of my deep pit of sadness. And while I didn't want to talk to God, He never left my side. Patiently, He waited for me to cry out to Him...to say, I will trust you even though I do not understand.
It is easy to trust God when life is skipping happily along. It is a deeper faith that forms when the skipping halts to the slow crawl of despair. Honestly, I never enjoy the struggles, but I do revel in the deeper understanding of God that is forged in the fire.
As Peter wrote, "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed" (1 Peter 1:6-7 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, sometimes things happen in my life that I just don't understand. But I know You hold the box top to the puzzle pieces, and You know how the pieces all fit together. I trust You, Lord. Though Your ways may twist and turn as through a maze, I know that You make no mistakes. You are good...all the time.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
What has been a time in your life when you did not understand God's ways?
What was the final outcome of Job's incredible trial? (Job 42:10,12)
Can you trust God as Job did when his life fell apart?
If you are willing to turn you "why me?" into "what now?" click over to my Facebook page and simply say, "I'm willing, Lord."
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June 9, 2014
When God Intends "IT" for Good
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
'You intended to harm me,' Joseph explained, 'but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives'(Genesis 50:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Joseph was a man who had many bad things happen in his life. His story is recorded in Genesis chapters 37-50. While he was his father's favorite son, he was his brothers' least favorite sibling. Because their dad, Jacob, showed relentless favoritism toward this child of his beloved wife, Rachel, his brothers were jealous, mocking, and spiteful toward him. Naïve Joseph didn't help matters. He flaunted a special ornamented coat that his father had tailor-made just for him, tattled on his brothers for bad behavior, and shared a dream he should have kept to himself.
"Listen to this dream I had," Joseph said to his brothers. "We were binding sheaves of grain out in the field when suddenly my sheaf rose and stood upright, while your sheaves gathered around mine and bowed down to it" (Genesis 37:6-7).
Bad move. That was a dream he should have kept to himself. After this revelation, his brothers hated him even more. But the poor boy didn't catch on and told of yet another dream.
"Listen to this other dream I had," he said. "The sun, moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me."
This dream was the straw that broke the camel's back.
One day his brothers saw an opportunity to get rid of this dreamer once and for all. At first they threw him into a cistern, bloodied his precious coat, and schemed to tell their dad Joseph had been killed by a wild animal. Just as they placed the youngest brother into the cistern, a slave caravan headed to Egypt was passing by. Seeing the opportunity to make a bit of profit, the brothers decided to sell Joseph to the slave trader rather than leave him to die. So off he went to a life of slavery.
But the hard times didn't end there. He was falsely accused of attempted rape, thrown into prison by an angry husband, and betrayed and forgotten by his jail-mates. The first thirty years of Joseph's life were filled with more heartache and trouble than most of us will experience in a dozen lifetimes.
But a few years later, Joseph's life took a different turn. The Pharaoh had a disturbing dream that no one could interpret. The cupbearer, one of Joseph's former inmates, remembered Joseph from his prison days and told the king about his ability to interpret dreams. Joseph interpreted the dream, saved Egypt from an impending famine, and was made second in command to the Pharaoh himself.
Many years passed. During the years of abundance, the Egyptians gathered more grain than they could count. Then when the seven years of famine hit, they had enough grain to sustain their country and the surrounding countries as well. Among those who came to purchase food, was none other than Joseph's deceitful brothers. Joseph forged the path of forgiveness and set a standard unmatched until the cross. He was reunited with his family, including his elderly father and younger brother whom he had never met.
Joseph's brothers were terrified at the punishment they feared would be heaped on their heads. But Joseph saw the hidden treasure in his painful circumstances. "You intended to harm me," Joseph explained, "but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20).
He chose to see the good in the bad. He saw a greater purpose in his seemingly terrible circumstances.
How about you? Are there some seemingly bad circumstances that could perhaps hold treasures yet to be discovered? Has a broken dream been restored to something more wonderful than you could have imagined? Have you gone to a deeper level with God because of a difficult situation? Are you a stronger person today because of pain from your past?
Today, let's look at the trials of our lives through the lens of Joseph's words, "You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good."
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, there are people in my past who have hurt me. Maybe they don't even realize the pain they have caused, and maybe they didn't do it intentionally. I refuse to allow the enemy to use my past to make me bitter! What Satan intends for evil, I know that You will use for good. Help me to see the good in each dark situation and use it for Your glory!
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you had times in your life similar to Joseph's where you were treated unjustly?
What can you learn from the way Joseph handled the offenses?
How important was forgiveness in each one of those offenses?
What does that tell you about how important forgiveness is in your own life?
What was the final outcome of those injustices and subsequent forgiveness in Joseph's life?
Are you ready to allow what the enemy intended to harm you to be used for your good? If so, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'm ready and willing!"
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Joseph certainly had many bad things happen to him. It seems like he always found his purpose whether he was in the pit, the prison or the palace. Wouldn't you like to have that perspective on life? If you would like to learn more about how to find peace and purpose in the hurts of your past, and how to change what the enemy intended to harm you into something amazing for God, see my book my book Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past.
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June 10, 2014
Time for a Change?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint (Isaiah 40:28-31, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Have you ever wanted to "freeze" a moment and make it last a lifetime? I have. I have also lived through certain moments that I wish I could change or even delete and pretend they never happened. But change is a natural part of life. We can embrace it, or we can fight it.
My husband often says that the only people who really like change are wet babies. However, I have discovered that some people thrive and live for change to the point that they are "change junkies," and have little stability in life. Others dig in their heels and refuse to change a thing. The result is that they ultimately become prisoners of old habits – good and bad. When it comes to change, we have a decision to make. Change is a sign of growth and life and is sometimes needed simply to survive.
God may be asking you to step out in faith and make a change in your life. He has already been where He is asking you to go. In fact, He has prepared every step of the way for you. You don't have to be afraid of the unknown. It is unknown only to you.
God is well aware of where you are and of every step He is asking you to take. He may be asking you to get rid of old memories, eliminate destructive habits and forsake lifeless traditions. He is waiting for you to take one step. Faith in God does not come all at once. Faith is a step-by-step process that begins with one small step and increases as we go. An Old Testament story found in Joshua 3 illustrates this truth.
The Israelites are camped on the bank of the Jordan River. Forty years earlier, they had escaped from Egypt and have been wandering around in the wilderness ever since. All of their needs have been met by God. They have seen miracle after miracle and now they can see Canaan, the Promised Land. However, there is a problem.
A huge river stands between them and the Promised Land - and there is no way around it. God told His people that He would make a dry path through the river, but the priests had never seen that happen. In fact, they hadn't even been born when the Red Sea was parted, and there were no reruns of the Ten Commandments at the local Wilderness Theatre. The Israelites had spent their entire adult lives in the wilderness and they could finally see a way out.
Oh, and one more problem -- the priests couldn't swim. This was probably the first river they had even been close to in their lives. I can imagine their fear and questions. God was asking them to step out in a whole new level of faith.
I don't imagine the Israelites had a great deal of faith in God at that moment, but they had just enough faith to take that first step. And that was enough.
Joshua 3:15-17 (NCV) During harvest the Jordan overflows its banks. When the priests carrying the Ark came to the edge of the river and stepped into the water, the water upstream stopped flowing. It stood up in a heap. So the people crossed over.
Notice that God did nothing until those toes touched the water. That first step was all God needed to see. Many times, we won't take the first step of change because we're afraid we won't be able to make the whole journey.
Don't wait until you believe it all.
Don't wait until you can see it all.
Don't wait until you understand it all.
Trust God and step out in faith. He will meet you there.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You in faith. I will admit that change scares me because it means I have to face the unknown. I know it is a control issue, Lord. Right now, I surrender the control of my life and my journey to You. Give me the strength to step out in faith and make the changes You are asking me to make.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Isaiah 40:28-31 again.
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Make a list of the reasons we can trust God – even when facing uncertainty.
Are you tired? Is God asking you to make some changes in your life? Record those changes in your journal.
What one thing is keeping you from stepping out in faith? Are you willing to surrender that one thing to God right now?
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June 11, 2014
When Forgetting Is Not Enough
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten...You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the LORD your God, who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed (Joel 2:25-26, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In my last devotion we looked at the life of Joseph. Today, let's take one more look at his gnarly family tree.
By his thirty-seventh birthday, Joseph had two sons. One he named Manasseh which means "God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father's household."
The second son he named Ephraim, which means "It is because God has made me fruitful in the land of my suffering."
Many years after his sons had been born, Joseph learned that his father, Jacob, was ill. So he took his two sons, Manasseh and Ephraim and traveled for one last visit.
When they arrived, Jacob said, "Bring the boys to me so I may bless them."
Joseph brought his sons to his father's bedside. He placed Ephraim on his right toward Jacob's left hand and Manasseh, his first born, on his left toward Jacob's right hand. But instead of giving the blessing to Joseph's firstborn, Jacob reached out his right hand and put it on Ephraim's head, though he was the younger. Then he crossed his arms and put his left hand on Manasseh's head.
Joseph tried to stop his father from giving the blessing to the second born rather than the firstborn, but his father refused.
"I know, my son, I know. He too will become a people, and he too will become great. Nevertheless, his younger brother will be greater than he, and his descendants will become a group of nations..." So he put Ephraim ahead of Manasseh.
What a beautiful picture. Yes, Joseph had a life of trouble and suffering at the hands of those who abused, neglected and betrayed him. But God didn't want him to merely forget his suffering as the name Manasseh implied; He wanted him to be fruitful in his suffering as the name Ephraim implied.
It is the same with you and with me. God does not want us to simply forget the pain of the past. He wants us to be fruitful in the land of our suffering! Use it for good. Minister to others. Plant seeds of hope.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I thank You that nothing is ever wasted in our life experiences. The world says, "Just forget about it" when it comes to our past struggles. You say, "Just use it! Be fruitful!" Show me ways that I can use what I have gone through to help other people. Lord I pray that You will make me fruitful in the land of my suffering.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you simply tried to just forget about your past? It doesn't work, does it?
What have you gone through in your life that you could now use to help someone else?
Read Romans 8:28. What do you think that means in light of the hurts and pains in your past?
Now read 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. Here's how I summarize that verse: God doesn't comfort me to make me comfortable. He comforts me to make me comfort-able.
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God longs for you to do more than just "forget about it." He wants you to turn those "all things" that Romans 8:28 talks about into ministry opportunities! Sister, when you begin to use your past mistakes and hurts for the glory of God, Satan has no more power over you! He can't use it against you any longer. I don't know about you, but that makes me want to shout! Are you ready to turn your hurt into hope, your pain into purpose, and your messes into ministry? Then see my book, Your Scars are Beautiful to God: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Hurts of Your Past. I'll be cheering you on!
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June 12, 2014
Trusting God with the Future
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal (2 Corinthians 4:18, NIV).
Friend to Friend
In an effort to escape the brutal summer heat of South Florida, our family headed to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina. The Blue Ridge Parkway is one of our favorite spots for hiking, so we planned a day trip that included exploring a few hiking trails, a picnic and a visit to the beautiful and historic colonial home of Carl Sandburg. We woke to discover the beautiful weather of the day before had dissolved into a soupy mix of drizzle and fog, but we were not about to let a little fog and rain deter us from our original plan. We had been vacationing in North Carolina for years and knew fog is a common occurrence – even in the summer. We piled into our van and made our way up the mountain. The closer we got to the Sandburg home, the heavier the fog became. In fact, when we arrived, the fog was so thick we could barely see the walkway leading to the gift shop where we needed to purchase tickets for the tour of the home and grounds. We decided we would have to come back another day for the tour, but since we were already at the gift shop, it wouldn't hurt to do a little browsing.
The shop owner greeted us warmly and asked if we would like to purchase tickets for the guided tour scheduled to leave in an hour. Always the diplomat, I responded, "Are you kidding me? Have you looked outside?" The owner smiled and said, "Oh, you mean the fog? It will be gone in a little while. Now – how many tickets do you need?" I don't like pushy salesmen, even when they are sweet and kind – and maybe a little near-sighted. "I think we will just wait and see if the fog actually lifts," I responded, convinced the thick fog would last all day, and resumed my browsing. I lost track of time and was surprised to hear the owner announce, "The tour is leaving in 15 minutes. This is our final call for tickets." I walked out of the gift shop to discover the fog really was lifting and the skies were actually beginning to clear. I couldn't believe my eyes! Within minutes, the sun was shining - as if the fog had never existed.
It sometimes feels as if the fog of doubt and fear of darkness will never lift from our lives. The promises of God seem to get swallowed up by the problems we face. We want to curse our crisis – not praise God in the midst of that crisis. The hurt and pain overwhelm our faith, and we lose sight of the fact that this world is not our home and the troubles we face are only temporary. Lift up your eyes, girlfriend. Fix your heart and mind on God – He is with you – and makes every problem point to a promise.
Promise of direction Proverbs 20:30 "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn't close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. I began to pray, "Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door." The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland.
Promise of correction Psalm 119:71-72 "It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."
God uses problems to correct us. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her ... until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. "Ouch!" she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.
Promise of protection Genesis 50:20 "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good."
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. I dreaded taking our children to get their immunization shots. I took a healthy child to the doctor and came home with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, "Mary, think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself."
Promise of perfection Romans 5:3-4 "We can rejoice when we run into problems ... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I once spoke for a women's conference with the theme of "Problems into Pearls." The leader welcomed me and said, "We have to get you some pearls!" Digging in her purse, she produced a beautiful pearl necklace for me to wear. I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace, I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, "Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster."
God is at work in and around you. You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise.
Let's Pray
Lord, I am tired of trying to face my problems in my own strength. Today, I choose to fix my gaze on You and praise You for Your presence and power in my life. I will give You praise, knowing You take up residence in the praises of Your people. I will walk through my fear, knowing You are with me. I declare my belief in Your willingness to help me face anything that comes my way. I trust You with my problems, Lord.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read each of the following verses. Choose at least one to memorize and record in your journal.
Psalm 121:1-2 (NIV) "I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth."
Psalm 46:1 (NIV) "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."
Psalm 63:7-8 (NIV) "Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me."
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June 13, 2014
Finding Perfect Love
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing (Zephaniah 3:17).
Friend to Friend
My kidsare both sweet and sour on a regular basis... as are all of us. Depends on the minute. Depends on the day. Every once in a happy while, however, one of my children surprises me with an unexpectedly sweet moment that becomes a heart treasure.
I had one of those special conversations moons ago with my middle child, Hunter, when he was just nine years old. It was bedtime. Teeth were brushed. Jammies were on. Prayers had been prayed. The smell of shampoo lingered from his freshly showered head. As I brushed a stray hair from his eye, the sweet conversation began with an innocent question...
"Mommy, do you know what I love?"
"What do you love, Hunter?" I whispered.
"I love being loved," he said thoughtfully. "Yep. I really love being loved."
Lying beside him in the dark room, I could scarcely process the vastness of his statement. It was the simplest of thoughts, delightfully honest, yet one of the most profound and insightful statements I'd ever heard come from his lips – from his heart.
When he spoke those four little words, "I love being loved," I heard several things:
He had a deep longing to be loved.
He knew he was loved.
His love tank was being re-filled as I tucked him in.
His greatest need is love.
Like Hunter, our greatest longing and need is also to be loved... to feel safe, adored, and content in love.
I don't know where this devotion finds you today, but I sense God nudging me to tell you that He loves you. Completely. Perfectly. Eternally. (Yes, I'm talking to you!) He knows your name, He knows your heart, He knows your circumstances, and He hears your prayers. He loves you and desires for you to rest in His love. God's Word says so.
You. Are. Perfectly. Loved.
God's love is not based on performance or beauty. It's not based on your position or abilities. Many times we mistakenly think that if we could just do this or that better – that God would love us more. That if we just hadn't done this or that – God could love us more. The truth is this: God will never love you more or less...no matter what. His love is complete and you are the object of His heart's affection.
But don't take my word for it – take His! The Bible tells us that God's love for us is unstoppable, unsearchable and unbreakable: ...that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39)
No matter what you've believed in the past, choose by faith to believe this now: you are valued, priceless, and adored by God. "Take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God" (Ephesians 3:18–19, MSG).
The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing. (Zephaniah 3:17)
Let those words sink in. Savor the special sweetness of God's love for you today. Take it very personally. Linger long on thoughts of His affection for you. Let them find and fill your heart in wounded places.
When you embrace the deep love of Christ as a personal reality, you will gain traction for powerful, meaningful living that begins with forgiveness and continues on in truth and grace. Go in His love today. Be assured of it. Share it. Be changed by it. Change others with it.
Let's Pray
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen" (Ephesians 3:16-21).
In Jesus' name,
Amen!
Now It's Your Turn
God loves you and takes pleasure when you go to Him in prayer. Why? Because you are His – made by Him for Him – treasured by and restored to His heart through Jesus Christ. Allow Him to quiet you with His love today. Spend a few moments in prayer right now. Thank Him for His love. Worship at His feet. Be still before Him.
More From the Girlfriends
Most of you know that I'm a worship-songwriter chick from the word go, right? Well, I think that the perfect ending to our time together today would be to worship. CLICK OVER to my blog or my Facebook page to listen to a new worship song I've written and recorded about the love of God called Unbroken.
You can listen to and download the songs from my new worship project My Strength, My Song on iTunesor Amazon– or order CDs on www.GwenSmith.net.
God's love is perfect. He has seen our biggest failures, our greatest places of shame and hurt – and yet, He beckons us to His love, forgiveness, healing, and grace. He has a plan for each life that is far beyond the shattered matters we deal with. Every step of transformation begins with our surrender to the heart of God. If you would like to learn more about how your brokenness can be reworked into a picture of God's beauty, order Gwen's book Broken into Beautiful on Amazon– or for a signed copy, order from Gwen's website. This resource will help you experience the power of hope, healing and restoration!
:angel:
August 5, 2014
I Just Don't Have the Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Conduct yourselves wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time (Colossians 4:5, NRSV).
Friend to Friend
Time management is a dreaded and often ignored spiritual discipline. We choose where to invest our time, carefully planning everything from work-related meetings and lunch appointments to play dates and trips to the grocery store - but fail to schedule the most important activity of all, spending time with God. Discipline carves out time to sit at His feet.
Sin thrives in an out-of-control life, a life without godly discipline. Temptation happily dances across overcrowded schedules. Our minutes, hours, and days are precious commodities, gifts from God that can be unwrapped only once. We can become so busy meeting the needs of others that we destroy ourselves in the process. I cannot tell you how many women I know who have given themselves away for so long that there is nothing left to give. Marriages fail, children rebel, and homes crumble because flawed priorities dictate wrong living.
I know what it is like to rush headlong through pointless days, trying to prove my worth. For many years, I was busy doing good things ... some might even say great things ... but they were not the highest things for my life. I crashed and burned, landing in a pit of clinical depression, a monument to my insecurity.
From the bottom of that pit, it was easy to see just how skewed my perspective of time really was. I had poured years into making my plans successful only to discover that God resources and empowers His plan alone. It was painfully obvious that I needed an attitude adjustment, an eternal perspective kindled by godly discipline. I needed to understand that my time does not belong to me, but is a treasure on loan to me from God. He wanted me to understand that He was calling me to work from His love and acceptance – not to it!
Every plan, priority, and goal must be held against the backdrop of eternity because it is from that backdrop that our priorities are validated, our calling confirmed, and our time best invested.
Godly priorities embrace God's plan.
I am convinced that much of our frustration in life comes from doing things we were never intended to do. We create the plan as we go instead of resting in God's plan. Discipline guides each step and establishes a basis for obedience and success in our walk with God.
I am certainly no expert in the area of discipline, but I do want to share some simple ideas that work for me.
Prepare
Just as we budget our money, we must budget our time. Every day, we are presented with twenty-four hours, and every day we must choose to either spend those hours or invest them. Every Sunday afternoon, I do three things – write devotions, finish my online Bible study, and plan the week ahead. I assign tasks to each day and prioritize those tasks in order of importance. That's the easy part. The hard part is sticking to the plan, but getting a head start offers a greater chance for success. Schedule one day a week to plan. The preparation will pay off.
Prioritize
If we don't set priorities - others will. Time thieves will steal the hours and days as we allow them to impose their plans and demands on us. While it is true that different women have different priorities in different seasons of life, it is also true that one priority remains steadfast. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God" (Matthew 6:33, NIV). Once that priority is firmly established, the rest of life will fall into place.
Eliminate
Learn to leave the "lesser" things undone. This lesson is especially hard for me because I actually believe I can do it all. The key to godly discipline and right priorities is learning what my "all" is, and then doing all of that. My trusty "Superwoman" cape is never far away. It is a constant battle for me to ignore the presence of that cape. Choosing to embrace and employ God's priorities instead of mine is a battle definitely worth fighting. Godly discipline brings a holy scrutiny to priorities and perspectives.
Delegate
Include every family member in the work and include every family member in the play. The concept of "team" is essential to every successful family. A chore is not just a random assignment. It says, "You are an important part of this team. We need you."
Simplify
Give up on perfection. It is meant for heaven ... not earth. I love the Amish saying, "The further we get from simple things, the further we get from God." Jesus was born in sparse simplicity, a manger instead of a mansion. His teachings were simple enough for a child to understand. We often overlook profound simplicity in search of hollow complexity, foolishly thinking that bigger is always better. When it comes to investing time, we need to employ simple godly discipline.
Yield
My greatest mission field is my home, my marriage, and my children and grandchildren - easy words to write, but a hard truth to apply. It does not matter how much I do or how successful I am in ministry. If home and family are left with only the scraps of my time, energy, and emotions, I am walking in sin and disobedience.
Discipline does not come naturally or easily. We will surely fail, but we can always begin again. Join me today in a new commitment to cultivate, apply, and relish godly discipline.
Let's Pray
Father, I want my life to be under Your control – not mine. Help me learn how to wisely invest my time in a way that pleases and honors You. Teach me how to set boundaries and establish priorities that will encourage my obedience to You. Empower me to live for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read the following statements and check the ones that are true in your life.
___I often feel confused and scattered.
___I have too much to do and too little time in which to do it.
___I think of myself as contented.
___I enjoy my family.
___I have a daily quiet time.
___I sometimes take a nap.
___I enjoy regular exercise.
___I spend most of my time on urgent things instead of the important things.
___I often feel guilty for taking time to relax.
___I have prayerfully set life goals.
Evaluate your answers in light of today's devotion. Identify one change you need to make in order to invest your time wisely.
:angel:
August 6, 2014
You are a Powerful Force
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21, NIV 1982 ed.).
Friend to Friend
I've always been amazed at the power restrained in a tiny atom too small to be seen by the naked eye. Fission, (splitting the tiny nucleus of an atom), or fusion, (joining nuclei together), have the potential to generate enough power to provide energy for an entire city or enough destructive potential to level an entire town. It all depends on how and when the joining together or splitting apart takes place.
So it is with our words. Bound in one small group of muscles called the tongue lies an instrument with magnanimous potential for good or evil, to build up or to tear down, to empower or devour, to heal or to hurt. t all depends on how and when the joining together and splitting apart takes place.
Our words can make or break a marriage, paralyze or propel a friend, seam together or tear apart a relationship, build up or bury a dream, curse God or confess Christ. With our tongues we defend or destroy, heal or kill, cheer or churn. And we, as women, seem to be most talented at deciding when and where to wield this tiny sword.
Just as God used words to create physical life, our words can be the spark to generate spiritual life. Paul taught, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved" (Romans 10:9-10 emphasis added).
Wow! It is with your mouth that you confess and are saved! That is radical responsibility. That is potently powerful.
On average, 4.3 million acres of forests are destroyed by wildfires each year in the United States. In 2000, nearly 123,000 separate fires destroyed 8.5 million acres of forest. About half are destroyed by natural causes such as lightening strikes, and the rest are caused by the carelessness of mankind.
While forest fires leave naked trees and barren hillsides that take years to revive, lives singed by fiery words can be laid bare forever. We would never carelessly fling a lit match out of a car window while passing a national forest, and yet, many times we carelessly toss fiery words about as we pass through life. We are often loose-lipped with criticism and tight-lipped with praise.
The writer of Proverbs notes, "Life and death are in the power of the tongue" (Proverbs 18:21 NIV 1982 ed.). Of all the spiritual disciplines, I believe that bringing our tongues under the submission of the Holy Spirit is one of the greatest. Why? Because through our words we bring life and through our words we bring destruction. They lead us into tranquil waters or take us out to the stormy seas.
There is a story told about Xanthus the philosopher. He once told his servant he was going to have some friends for dinner the following evening and instructed him get the best thing he could find in the market.
When the philosopher and his guests sat down the next day at the table, they had nothing but tongue—four or five courses of tongue cooked in various ways. The philosopher finally lost his patience and said to his servant, "Didn't I tell you to get the best thing in the market?
The servant said, "I did get the best thing in the market. Isn't the tongue the organ of sociability, the organ of eloquence, the organ of kindness, the organ of worship?"
Then Xanthus said, "Tomorrow I want you to get the worst thing in the market."
The next day when the philosopher sat at the table, there was nothing but tongue—four or five courses of tongue in various shapes and sizes. The philosopher lost his patience again and said, "Didn't I tell you to get the worst thing in the market?"
The servant replied, "I did; for isn't the tongue the organ of blasphemy, the organ of defamation, the organ of lying?"
I have never eaten tongue before, but I have certainly had to eat my words. I bet you have too.
How are you doing on our memory verse from my last devotion? It's worth mentioning again: "Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips" (Psalms 141:3 NIV).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, help me choose my words wisely, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. Help me speak life into those around me today—to be a source of encouragement rather than discouragement, of hope rather than hurt, and of love rather than pain.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Make it your goal to use your words to encourage at least one person today.
Note his or her reaction to your words.
How did it make you feel about yourself when you encouraged someone else with your words?
:angel:
August 7, 2014
You're Just Like Your Father
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver (Malachi 3:3, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The story is told of a group of women who met each week to study the Bible, hoping to learn more about the nature and character of God and how He works in our lives. The women were puzzled and even a little troubled by the description of God they found in Malachi 3:3, "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver." One of the women offered to do a little research on the subject and report back to the group at their next meeting. The woman found a local silversmith and made an appointment to observe him at work, explaining that she was particularly interested in the process of refining silver. She watched as the craftsman carefully selected a piece of silver for his demonstration. She thought the piece of silver was already beautiful, but the silversmith evidently saw something she could not see. As he held the silver over the furnace, the craftsman explained that in refining silver, the silver had to be placed in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest so all of the impurities would be burned away.
The woman was silent for a moment as her thoughts drifted to the fiery trials she was facing in her own life. Honestly, she did not get it. Why would a loving God allow His children to suffer when He could so easily deliver them? In fact, why does God even allow bad things to happen to people who are seeking Him and really trying to live for Him?
The woman asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined. "Oh, yes!" he replied. "I cannot take my eyes off the silver. If it is left in the furnace even a moment too long, it will be destroyed." The woman suddenly understood the beauty and comfort of Malachi 3:3, "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver."
Yes, there are times when it seems as if we will be swallowed whole by the fires of Hell itself. The pain seems too hard to bear. The fear is paralyzing. The doubt is overwhelming and questions flood our hearts and minds.
Is God really who He says He is?
Will He really do what He says He will do?
Will He really keep His promises?
Our trials are not random persecutions. Heaven is not in a panic, and where we are and what we are going through is no surprise to God. We may be knocked down and kicked around by life, but if we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we will not be destroyed.
Our lives are filled with excess baggage and waste - a cherished sin we refuse to relinquish or an addiction to which we are enslaved. What about the emotional garbage that weighs us down? How do we deal with the past that holds us prisoner? Fiery trials come to burn away the guilt of sin and then purify our hearts. From those ashes of freedom, the Father then creates a work of beauty.
I believe the words I just wrote. I know and accept the truth that trials and hard times make me stronger and strengthen my faith, but there are times when I want it all to stop. I find myself asking, "How much is enough, Lord? How many trials do I have to endure? When will the pain and trouble end?"
"How do you know when the silver is fully refined?" the woman asked. The silversmith smiled and answered, "Oh, that's easy. The refining process is complete when I can see my image reflected in the silver."
God is not committed to our comfort. He is committed to our character and to making us more like Jesus. Only God can exchange the ashes of our sin for the beauty of His forgiveness and grace. God alone can replace our despair with His peace that passes all understanding. Hope can only be found in Him. Our purpose in life is to know and become more like Jesus ... and act just like our Father.
Let's Pray
Father, I want to be more like You. Give me the strength to withstand the trials in my life. Help me love the people who are hard to love and forgive the people who have hurt and even abused me. Burn away the sin in my life, and empower me to live for You. Create a clean heart in me, Lord, and teach me how to live for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Journaling is a powerful spiritual discipline and habit that I encourage you to cultivate this year. A journal can be a spiral notebook or leather bound book. You may write in your journal every day or once a week. Your entry can fill an entire page or one line. How you journal is not nearly as important as the fact that you journal.
Record new truths and insights God gives you as you read and study the Bible. Write your prayers and thoughts. Create a section in your journal where you can record the promises God gives you. Below are two entries from my journal.
God will direct my steps. Isaiah 48:10 "See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction" (NIV).
God will never leave me. Isaiah 43:2 "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze" (NIV).
More from the Girlfriends
I know many of you are facing fiery trials. You may be wondering how you can make it through the day or find the strength to face tomorrow. God is with you. He is working in your life. Choose right now to believe Him and walk by faith ... not by sight.
Need help? Mary has two NEW E-Book Bible Studies: The Secret of Contentment and The Power of Forgiveness. Each one includes a study guide that you can download for your personal use or for a small group study.
Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible Study beginning August 11: A Glimpse of Heaven. Enroll now and have access to all 2014 lessons. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email. FREE MP3s available on Mary's website in the Freebies Section!
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August 8, 2014
Buddy Straps
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT).
Friend to Friend
Every family has one... that certain individual who gets injured and banged up more than their fair share. That person who spends the majority of your family's health care budget on their co-pay needs because, for whatever reason, accidents mysteriously, regularly, and relentlessly hunt them down and throw a good bit of hurt on them. In our family, this person is my teenaged basketball-playing son, Preston.
We've been up, down, and all around when it comes to Preston's breaks, bandages, and bruises. So it was a bit old-hat to be sitting in a small examining room a few winters ago, waiting to see the doctor about yet another injury. This one happened in gym class at school. Preston climbed up a rope, made it to the top, and then had the bright idea to let go of the rope instead of scaling down safely. Brilliant. He broke his big toe... in the middle of basketball season.
The doctor looked over the x-rays and, in spite of the break, had good news for us: Preston only had a hairline fracture in his toe. It would heal quickly. He would be immobilized in a funky shoe for a week or two, and then he would be able to play basketball again as soon as the pain subsided.
As the appointment ended, the doctor told Preston that once he was able to put weight on his foot, he would need to use a "buddy strap." The strap would hold his broken toe snugly to the healthy toe right beside it for support. A nurse then handed my son a few black Velcro strips and explained that he should wear them to play basketball as soon as his pain was manageable. The support of the buddy straps would help him get back in the game quickly.
My eyebrows raised and my mind reeled as I considered the similarities between buddy straps and friendships. There are a million times when my heart or circumstances are fractured. Each wound and challenge threatens to keep me immobilized both emotionally and spiritually. In those times, it always benefits me to first seek refuge in the stable arms of God and to then buddy-strap my heart to a few godly girlfriends. As the psalmist cried out, so I cry out:
For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken (Psalm 62:5-6, ESV).
Then, after seeking God, as I ready myself to put one foot in front of another, my girlfriends rally as my buddy straps and provide prayer support, wisdom and encouragement. When one friend is weak because of life-fractures, it is a blessing for a strong and healthy friend to come along side to help her.
We need each other as Christian women. That's what Girlfriends in God is all about: women encouraging other women in faith and in life. When Sharon, Mary and I co-founded GiG, it was purposed to spur you toward the heart of God through devotions and conferences. In real life, we are buddy straps for each other. Our lives are filled with as many life-fractures as the next person... so we often rally to speak words of encouragement, truth, and hope to one another. At times, we even have to speak hard, honest words. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17).
Where does this find you today? Do you have some life-fractures and challenges? Are you the buddy strap to any of your friends who are struggling? Perhaps you've got both going on. If so, then praise God. Praise Him for trials – which can grow you in perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5:4) and for His provision of friends in your life that love you, challenge you, and cheer you on through the hard times. And praise Him for the opportunity to be a buddy strap in return.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT).
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, Thank You for giving me access to unending grace and strength through Your Son, Jesus Christ. You are my Strong Tower, my Refuge, my Shelter, my Help, and my Hope. I am so grateful that when my days are filled with hurt and struggles that You are right beside me – and that You have blessed me with some buddy straps. Please help me encourage my friends toward your grace, hope and truth today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Are you a buddy strap to anyone? Are you sensitive to the needs around you or do you not "have the time" to worry about other people's problems?
Think of three girlfriends in your life who have been your buddy straps, then pause to pray for each of them. Bless them today. Send a card or an email. Forward this devotion to them! Text them or post on their wall. Connect to say thanks.
BUDDY STRAP SHOUT OUT: Swing by my blog or Facebook page today and tell me who yours are! I posted some fun pictures of a few of my buddy straps!! As always, you are also welcome to leave a prayer request. (I really, really love to hear from you!)
More from the Girlfriends
I love my girlfriends. They are total wild flowers in the bouquet of my life. When my children were young, Brad and I moved several times in just a few years. That made it hard for me to connect with other women. If you find yourself in a place where you need some women friends, I encourage you to contact the Women's Ministry Director at your church and let her know your need. Sharon, Mary and I truly love doing life with you and are blessed to encourage you through these devotions and at the conferences where we speak. We'd love to meet you and hug your neck in person! Check our website to see when one of the GiGs might be coming to an event near you.
:angel:
August 11, 2014
What Women Want
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
She (Hagar) gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: 'You are the God who sees me,' for she said, 'I have now seen the One who sees me' (Genesis 16:13, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Everyone wants to be noticed, to be cared for, to be loved. How my heart breaks with David's words, "No one cares for my soul" (Psalm 142:4). He is cried out during one of the darkest times in his life and felt all alone in his struggle to survive.
We might expect to hear those words from the crowded city streets as men and women scurry about in their power suits off to make the next deal. We wouldn't be surprised to hear those words from a vagrant huddled under a bridge with all his worldly possessions stuffed in a plastic grocery bag. But would we expect it from the person sitting beside us in the church pew, the co-worker in the next cubicle, or the mother of three next door?
While flying from the east coast to the west coast, I watched an in flight movie—a cleaned-up version of What Women Want starring Mel Gibson. Mr. Marshal (Mel Gibson) worked at an advertising firm with a host of busy men and women bustling about in their own little self-absorbed worlds.
In a strange twist of events, Mr. Marshal is "electrically altered" when he slips in the bathroom and falls into the bathtub, along with a hair dryer. When he regains consciousness after his shocking experience, he has the ability to read women's minds and hear their thoughts. With his new perceptive powers, he lands a huge Nike advertising account and wins the heart of the leading lady...of course. But there is one poignant sideline of the movie that grabbed my heart.
In the movie, Marshal heard the thoughts of one young nondescript woman in his office. What if I just jumped out the window? Would anyone notice? I could be gone for days and no one would notice...until the files started piling up. Then they'd say, "Where's the geek with the glasses who carries the files?"
No one did notice the errand girl who refused to make eye contact with her fellow employees, except Marshal, who could hear her thoughts.
One day, the young woman (who we learn is named Erin), doesn't show up for work.
"Where's Erin?" Marshal asked as he notices a pile of files sitting on her desk.
"I don't know," someone replies. "She didn't show up for work today."
Fearing the worst, Marshal finds Erin's address, rushes to her apartment to stop her from ending her life.
Bursting into her apartment Marshal sees a suicide letter lying on the table, and his heart sinks.
Then a startled Erin walks into the room.
"Mr. Marshal, what are you doing here?"
"I'm glad I got here before you hurt yourself." he replied.
"What makes you think I was going to hurt myself?"
"I just sensed it," he answered.
"Really? You sensed it? That's not good."
Then Marshal brilliantly changes course. "The real reason I'm here is to offer you a job. You know we got the Nike account and we were wondering who would be a real spitfire to work on this project..."
Marshal offers Erin a job and rescues her from the despair of feeling unwanted, unloved, and unimportant.
I'm not suggesting that you watch the movie. After all, it was a cleaned up airline version. However, I am suggesting that you ponder the situation. I believe that men and women walk past us every day, just like Erin in this movie, who feel that they have no significant purpose in this world. People who feel that their sudden disappearance would cause little fanfare or concern. It might be the woman who passes you in the hall at work, the rebellious looking teen who shuffles by you at the mall, or the businessman dashing to his next appointment.
It takes so little to let someone know that they are significant—that you see them—that they matter. You have the ability to give someone hope by offering a simple word of acknowledgement or encouragement. You have the capacity, with the words you speak, to change the course of someone's day...to change the course of someone's life.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, help me to be aware of those around me today. Help me to see others through Your eyes. Give me the courage to give a word of encouragement to one of Your children who needs it today. Thank You for always seeing me, loving me, and caring for me.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Let's go back up to today's truth. Hagar was a woman who felt ignored and all alone. But then God showed up.
Go back and read her amazing story in Genesis 16.
What do you learn about God from this story?
Hagar was not one of God's chosen people, the Israelites, and yet, He cared for her. The Hebrew name she called God was El Roi, the God who Sees. Remember today that God sees you!
:angel:
August 13, 2014
Put a Lid on It
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark (James 3:5, NIV).
Friend to Friend
From the time I could hold a crayon in my chubby little hand, I've enjoyed creating various works of art. For my family and friends, my annual endeavors usually found their way under the Christmas tree and into their hands. One year it was macramé hanging plant holders woven with wooden beads. Another it was a menagerie of decoupage wooden boxes. Then there were the years of framed cross-stitch, ceramic Nativity sets, and quilted pig and chicken pillows. (Can I apologize now to any of my friends who received a stuffed pig or chicken pillow?)
When I was 17, it was the year of the candle. Everyone from Grandma Edwards to my best girlfriends received praying hands candles. For weeks I slaved over a hot stove, stirring melted wax, meticulously centering the ten-inch wicks, and then slowly pouring the red, green, or yellow molten material into an inverted mold in the shape of praying hands. When the wax hardened, I burped the rubber mold and plopped the hands onto the counter. My kitchen looked like a prostheses laboratory with hands littering the counters.
I was just cooking up my last batch of wax when the doorbell rang. I was having so much fun in my laboratory, that I forgot the time. I had a date at 7:30, and here I was in pink curlers and a paraffin-covered sweatshirt. I rushed through the kitchen, leaped over my dad, who had fallen asleep on the den floor in front of the television, and threw open the door.
"Hi, Jim. Come on in," I said, out of breath. "I'm not ready."
"So I noticed," he said with a grin.
"I was cooking candles and lost track of time."
"You were what?"
"Oh, never mind. Just come on in and have a seat on the couch. I'll be ready in a minute."
I dashed to my room, change clothes, took the curlers our of my hair, ran a brush through the tangles, swiped mascara through my lashes, and placed a hint of gloss on my lips. Jim sat uncomfortably on the sofa, listening to my dad snore and Jackie Gleason yell at Ralph Kramden. After about 15 minutes Jim smelled something burning from the kitchen. He didn't want to call me for fear of waking up my dad. (Teenage boys don't like to wake up their date's dad if they can help it.) Instead, he tiptoed into the kitchen and discovered a pot on the stove with flames shooting up about 18 inches in the air.
Sleeping dad or no sleeping dad, Jim yelled, "Sharon! Whatever you were cooking is on fire!"
"Oh my goodness!" I exclaimed. "I forgot to turn the stove off!"
Just as I burst into the kitchen, Jim threw a cup of water into the flaming wax. Rather than extinguish the flames, the fire exploded upward. The flames shot up the wall, across the ceiling, and down the other side of the room. Our screams alerted my father, who woke to see his baby girl standing in a room surrounded by flames. With the agility of Superman, Dad sprang to his feet, ran to the kitchen faster than a speeding bullet, grabbed the lid of the pot, and clamped it down on the source of the flames. Just as quickly as the fire had erupted, it seemed to recede back into the pot like a genie returning to his bottle.
This all happened in a matter of seconds. We stood in the middle of the room like three stunned deer. I never did tell my dad that it was Jim who threw the water on the burning wax. Teenage boys already have two strikes against them just by walking through the doors to pick up a man's baby girl.
After the shock of the incident wore off, I had time to reflect on the speed at which the flames blazed around the room, the feeling of fire licking against my skin, the terrifying swooshing sound the fire made. I thought about my words and how easily they can explode and singe those around me. I saw and understood the destructive power of our words and the speed at which that destruction can spread.
But you know what else I learned? I learned just how easy it is to stop the blaze...put a lid on it. As soon as my father placed a lid on the pot and removed the flames' source of oxygen, the fire went out.
Job had the right idea when he said, "I will put my hand over my mouth" (Job 40:4). It is interesting that my hand fits perfectly over my mouth. Give it a try. I bet yours does too. Perhaps God made it that way on purpose.
Here's what I do know: Some of the most powerful words are the ones we don't speak. Sometimes we just need to keep a lid on it.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, set a guard over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips. May nothing escape my mouth today that is not pleasing to You.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 26:20. What do you learn about how to stop gossip? How does this relate to today's devotion?
Has there been a time you wish you had "put a lid on it." (I know that is a silly question. Who hasn't?)
Today, set a pot lid out on your kitchen counter as a reminder to put a lid on your words. You might want to leave it out for more than a few days.
Click on my Facebookhttp://www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes page and leave a comment if you are willing to leave a pot lid on your kitchen counter as a reminder to watch your words. Also, you can send me a picture of your pot lid at Sharon@sharonjaynes.com and I'll post that as well!
More from the Girlfriends
You have a powerful force, right under your nose. To learn more about how to use your words wisely and control your tongue, see my nook, The Power of a Woman's Words. One way you can use your words well is to pray for your husband. Come visit us over at The Praying Wives Club and pay for your man.
On September 8, 2014, I'll begin my on-line fall Bible Study on The Power of a Woman's Words. I have the book and Bible study guide specially priced for the months of August and September. Those who sign up will receive access to free video lessons and a free video viewing guide. Click here to view a sample video lesson. This is perfect for church groups, small groups, or individual study. Click here to sign up and learn more. We're going to learn about the power we possess, the people we impact, and the potential to change. Hope to see you there!
Seeking God
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August 14, 2014
Chair Time
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms with Christ Jesus (Ephesians 2:6).
Friend to Friend
We live crowded lives. It is easy to forget what is really important. We tend to relinquish control of our lives to unworthy demands dictated by a world that operates in "urgent" gear. The important rarely barges in while the urgent is always an offensive intruder. The important waits patiently while the urgent demands its own way, creating bedlam and imbalance. Certainly, there are times when the important is also urgent – but we must learn to discern between the two. We wrongly conclude that a busy life is automatically a productive life and think that a full schedule will surely produce a full heart. It won't.
It's easy to relegate our spirituality to religious activity when all God really wants is to spend time with us. When the tears fall, He wants to wipe them away, collecting each one so that He can pour them back into our lives as a refreshing rain of restoration. God longs for us to forever run into His arms, sharing every hurt and rejoicing in every victory. The Father yearns to wrap His strong arms around us, bringing the peace and balance we so desperately need. We just need to stop ... be still ... and listen for His voice.
We need to embrace and understand the truth that Jesus is seated at the right hand of God ... and so are we! My husband recently wrote an E-Book that beautifully explains the powerful truth in Ephesians 2:6 that says, "And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms with Christ Jesus."
Who is the "us" in this verse? The "us" in Ephesians 2:6 refers to all believers. All who have bowed the knee in surrender to Christ. All who are Christ followers. Past, present and future – everyone that has ever and will ever follow Jesus is included.
What does the verse say we (all the believers) are doing? We are sitting. Sitting! What do you have to possess to be sitting? A chair! You got it! Every believer has a chair.
Now let's get practical. Where are all these believers? The verse says that we are seated with Christ in heaven. Hmmm, if I am still here on earth, serving Jesus on this side of heaven, how can I also be seated with Christ in heaven?
Now it gets fun. Picture this. Picture heaven as having an enormous throne. Picture that throne as 100 miles wide by 100 miles deep by 100 miles high. God the Father sits on that throne, and He faces out in every direction from that throne. Jesus the Son stands beside the throne, praying and interceding for us. Got the picture? Stop reading for a moment, close your eyes, and try to picture this enormous throne in the center of heaven.
Now add an element to the picture. Around that huge throne, start adding a row of chairs. There is one row around that throne. Then add a row above it and below it – but still just one row deep around the throne. Now step back and picture that throne with all of those chairs from a short distance away. Wow! What a picture - this huge throne of God, with a front row chair for every believer that has ever lived.
Now let's get personal. Center your focus on one chair. Zoom in to that one chair. Notice anything? Look on the back of the chair. Yep – you got it! Your name is on that chair. There is a chair in heaven in the front row at the throne of God. It is your chair. It has your name on it. It fits you. No one can sit in that chair except you. And you can go to that chair any time you want.
Why would you go to that chair? To talk to God? No! I may not know much, but I can guarantee you this. When you are seated in the front row before the throne of God, you will not be talking! You may fall on your knees! You may gasp in amazement! You may raise your hands in worship! But you won't be talking! You will be listening to what God has to say to you.
Is your mind running ahead of me? Are you getting the picture? Does that phrase "chair time" now make sense?
The premise is simple. The God of this universe wants to talk with you so much that He has reserved a front row seat for you at His throne in Heaven. You can go there anytime you want. You can sit at His feet, feel His embrace, and hear His voice any time you want. All you need to do is sit in the chair. Wow!
I have great news, girlfriend! He loves who you are more than He loves what you do. Seek Him today. Make room for Him. He is waiting.
Let's Pray
Thank You, Lord, for arranging the circumstances of my life so that I must stop and rest and sit at Your feet in quiet solitude. Thank You for the healing I find there. Thank You for the new truth and redefined purpose for my life. Help me apply the truths I find when sitting at Your feet.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Do you long for times of silence or avoid them whenever possible? Why? I encourage you to find a few minutes each day this week to spend in silence before God. Establish the habit of a silent retreat when possible. Read the Psalms daily and keep your gaze on God.
More from the Girlfriends
If you want to learn how to hear from God, I encourage you to get Dan's book, Chair Time.Chair Time is the story of learning to listen to God. It is a simple story of a simple man learning a life changing truth. God wants to speak to us! He will, if we get in the chair!
Be sure to check out Mary's weekly Online Bible Study, A Glimpse of Heaven. Enroll now and have access to all 2014 lessons. Connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.
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August 15, 2014
Take a Step Back
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes (Psalm 119:59).
Friend to Friend
I gave her instructions for the job. "Clear the furniture from the room, vacuum thoroughly, and then I will show you how to mop the wood floor." Once my daughter got through the first two of three steps, I joined the cleaning party to teach the age-old-mom-class, "Mopping 101."
Awesome.
Class began with a few mopping fundamentals. "Shake the bottle of the polish before you use it. Do one small section at a time. Mop along the grain of the wood. Put some muscle into it and always - always take a step back to see if you missed any spots." I gave a quick demonstration then Kennedy took the mop and got busy on her weekend wood-floor polishing project.
As I walked away, it hit me.
The lesson.
In order to see where the polish had been applied on the floor - in order to see if there were any mistakes or overlooked places - a mopper needs to step back and look at things from a different angle. From a fresh perspective.
To gain perspective in life, we often need to step back too: away from our emotions, our plans and our expectations - in order to consider the big picture. The God-picture.
It is so easy to get lost in the drama-filled challenges of life and become overwhelmed by our circumstances. Can I hear an Amen? I do this all the time! I get sucked into the drama of a moment and see only what my emotions allow me to see: a dim, slim and flesh-led view.
Let's be honest, we all have some level of drama and expectations. And that's not a bad thing. But when our emotions lead our responses, it can be difficult to see beyond our moments and mountains. When our hearts are consumed by the emotions of a moment, we can lose sight of what honors God and what really matters.
So what's a woman to do?
Take a step back. Pray. Ask God for vision and perspective. Consider His Word. Remember His power, provision, and plan. Move beyond self-led reactions to Spirit-led responses. The late pastor and theologian A.W. Tozer wrote, "Sometimes when we get overwhelmed we forget how big God is."
So true.
Our perspectives change in God's presence. We gain clarity and peace when we adapt God's perspective instead of our own. His sight is pure, full of grace and eternal – while our sight is often imperfect, narrow and worried about the now. Proverbs 16:3 says, "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans."
David stepped back in awe of God's love. "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?" (Psalm 8:3-4)
He reflected on his own ways verses God's ways. "I meditate on your precept and consider your ways." (Psalm 119:15) "I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes." (Psalm 119:59)
Jesus also encourages us to step back from worries and fears. ""Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?" (Luke 12:24-26) When we consider the ways that God has provided in the past, it helps us to trust Him in the present.
Kennedy rocked the mop that day in our kitchen because she heeded my directions and consistently drew back to gain perspective on her polishing. Step back today and position yourself in His grace. Consider the big picture. Lay your day, your plans, your thankfulness, your people, your problems, your wins and your losses before God. Trust His ability to work in and through it all. Relish the perspective and peace that rises and then be prepared for those around you to be drawn to the able, faithful God who is at work within you.
Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I know I need to step away from my emotions, expectations, and plans. I want Your perspective and to respond in ways that please You. Please cover me again with grace, order my steps, and equip me fresh with Your Spirit.
In Jesus' Name I pray,
Amen.
:angel:
August 18, 2014
Slugs, Gossip, and Slimy Trails
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth:
Without wood the fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down (Proverbs 26:20, NIV).
Friend to Friend:
A monster was sneaking into my yard in the dark of night and devouring my prize plants. I never saw his beady eyes or heard his pounding footsteps—just the aftermath of his destruction. He left a trail of slime as he moved from plant to plant, leaving large gaping holes in broad leaf gerbera daisies, gnawing entire velvety trumpet-shaped blossoms on purple petunias, and reducing bushy begonias to naked stalks.
I asked a neighbor about my flowerbed's demise, and she said, "You've got slugs."
"Slugs!" I exclaimed. "The yard monster is a tiny little slug?"
"You can put out slug bait to catch them and see for yourself," my confident neighbor continued.
I sprinkled slug bait all around the yard and then waited. The next morning I viewed the "monsters" remains. The beasts were about a quarter-inch long—about the size of my little toe nail.
How could something so small cause so much damage in such a short amount of time? I mused. Then my mind thought of something else very small that can cause enormous damage in a short amount of time... gossip. King Solomon wrote, "The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts"(Proverbs 18:8). Just as one tiny slug can destroy an entire flowerbed, so can one tiny morsel of gossip destroy a person's reputation, mar one's character, and devour a friendship. And they both leave slimy trails.
In the South we have this knack for making gossips sound...almost nice. All you have to do is add "bless her heart" to the end of the sentence. It goes like this: "Susie gained fifty pounds with that last pregnancy, bless her heart." "Marcy's husband ran off with his secretary, bless her heart." "I heard Clair yelling at the postman yesterday, bless her heart." But all the "bless her hearts" don't make mask what it really is...gossip.
Solomon wrote, "Whoever repeats the matter separates close friends" (Proverbs 17:9). Charles Allen, the author of Gods' Psychiatry observed: "Those of great minds discuss ideas, people of mediocre minds discuss events, and those of small minds discuss other people." Maybe if we are spending our time talking about people, we need to fill our minds with better material such as good books, The Bible, or other reading material (and I don't mean People Magazine).
What exactly is gossip? Webster defines gossip as "easy, fluent, trivial talk, talk about people behind their backs." It is repeating information about another person's private affairs. If you have to look around to make sure that no one can hear what you are saying, you are probably gossiping. If you would not say what you're saying in front of the person you are talking about, then you're probably gossiping.
I've often heard the phrase, "knowledge is power." Perhaps that is why gossip is so appealing. It suggests a certain amount of power because "I have the inside scoop." But gossip is not power. On the contrary it shows a lack of power...lack of self-control.
But it takes two to tango the gossip dance. "Without wood the fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down" (Proverbs 26:20). The Bible tells us to make every effort to avoid gossipers (Proverbs 20:19). A good rule of thumb is if you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, then keep the information to yourself.
One day a woman felt overwhelmed with guilt over her years of malicious gossip. She went to the local priest and confessed her sin. The priest was all too aware of her wagging tongue and had experienced the sting of her words first hand...or rather second hand.
"What can I do to rectify all the damage I have caused with my gossip?" she asked.
"Gather a bag of feathers," he began. "Then go around to each house and place a feather at their door."
That seemed like a simple enough request, so the woman did just as the priest had instructed. After the task was complete, she returned. "I have done what you requested," she said. "Now what am I to do?"
"Now go back and retrieve each of the feathers," he replied.
"That is impossible," the woman argued. "The wind will have blown them all around town by now."
"Exactly," replied the wise priest. "Once you have spoken an ill word, it drifts through the air on wings of gossip, never to be retrieved. God has forgiven you, as you have asked. But I cannot remove the consequences of your hurtful words or gather them from the places they have landed."
Here's an idea. If a friend approaches you with some "news" or a "concern" about another person, stop and ask, "May I quote you on what you're about to tell me?" That will usually "put a lid" on the conversation before it even begins.
Let's Pray
Dear LORD, please give me the self-control I need not to gossip. Please forgive me for the times I have repeated a matter that was none of my business. Help me to not be lose-lipped when it comes to talking about other people. Give me courage not to engage in conversation when someone begins to gossip about another person. I make a commitment today to refrain from gossip and not add wood to the fire.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read 2 Corinthians 12:20
What does Paul warn us to stay away from? Are you surprised that gossip is in the list?
1Timothy 5:13 says: "Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to."
What comes to mind when you think of a busybody?
Can you think of a time when you were hurt by gossip?
Can you think of a time when you hurt someone with gossip?
My toes are hurting. How about yours?
More from the Girlfriends
You have a powerful force, right under your nose. To learn more about how to use your words wisely and control your tongue, see my nook, The Power of a Woman's Words. One way you can use your words well is to pray for your husband. Come visit us over at The Praying Wives Club and pray for your man.
On September 8, 2014, I'll begin my on-line fall Bible Study on The Power of a Woman's Words. I have the book and Bible study guide specially priced for the months of August and September. Those who sign up will receive access to free video lessons and a free video viewing guide. Click here to view a sample video lesson. This is perfect for church groups, small groups, or individual study. Click here to sign up and learn more. We're going to learn about the power we possess, the people we impact, and the potential to change. Hope to see you there!
:angel:
August 19, 2014
Don't Quit!
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up (Galatians 6:9).
Friend to Friend
The story is told of a great pianist who was scheduled to perform for a small country town. Everyone in the town was excited since they rarely had the opportunity to hear a famous musician. A young mother was especially excited. Her son had been taking piano lessons and showed great promise ...but he hated to practice. His mother was hoping that if her son saw the great pianist perform, he would be motivated to take his music more seriously.
The night of the concert finally arrived, and it seemed as if everyone in town had come. As the young mother settled her son in his seat, her attention turned to the crowd pouring in. Everyone was dressed in their finest, and a buzz of excitement filled the concert hall. No one noticed the little boy as he slipped out of his seat and made his way down the aisle toward the stage. No one noticed the little boy as he walked onto the stage, climbed up on the piano stool, and began to play "Chopsticks."
The concert hall fell silent as every eye turned toward the stage. People began to yell, "Where is that child's mother? How did he get on stage? Somebody get him down immediately! This is so embarrassing for our town!" The guest artist was standing in the wings, getting ready to make his entrance when he heard the shouts and saw and heard the little boy. Grabbing his jacket, the great pianist ran onto the stage, came up behind the little boy and placed his masterful hands on the keyboard beside the hands of the small child. The little boy was startled but did not move as the man whispered in the boy's ear, "Don't stop. Don't quit. Keep going." As the little boy began to play again, the great pianist began to play as well, composing a beautiful counter melody to "Chopsticks."
I know some of you are ready to give up and quit. Some mountain is standing between you and the dream you thought was sure to become a reality. You think God has lost track of where you are and what you are going through. He hasn't. That is a lie from the pit and smells like smoke. Don't buy it!
I know you don't understand why a loving God would allow so much pain to saturate this broken world and perpetuate such loss and hurt. I don't either. But God's ways are so much higher than my ways, and His thoughts are for my eternal good – not my temporary comfort. I am banking on eternity. I am counting on the character of God and His heart of unconditional, unmerited, and undeserved love.
God's grace, mercy, and forgiveness give me the strength to get out of bed each morning, and His peace is my comfort in the dark, lonely night. Like you, I sometimes ask God why He has allowed a circumstance to exist. I have questioned His favor and allowed fear and worry to make me doubt His plan. And I have to tell you that I can now look back and see so many of the question marks yanked into exclamation points in my life. I am so thankful that He said "no" to so many of the prayers I desperately wanted Him to answer with "yes." He is God. He is able and He is more than enough.
Don't stop! No matter where you are today, know He is with you and that His heart is for you.
Don't quit. He is not angry with you. You are His daughter, the apple of His eye and His cherished child.
Don't give up. Right now, surrender all of your pain to Him. Shed your tears, knowing He will collect them all and one day pour them back into your life as a refreshing rain of restoration and healing.
Keep going. Ask your questions, knowing Heaven is not in a panic and that your God really is who He says He is and will do what He has promised to do. He simply waits for you to trust Him.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You like a child. My faith is small and my strength almost gone. I am desperate for You. I don't understand what is happening in my life, and I am ready to give up. I want to quit. Please don't let me, Lord. Give me Your strength and hope for today. Help me to keep going, trusting You every step of the way.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lordwith all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take" (NLT).
Record these verses in your journal. Circle each action word and then right out the plan you need to follow to trust God.
What "next step" do you need to take in order to begin again and trust God?
:angel:
August 20, 2014
When Words Run Wild
Sharon Jaynes
Today's Truth
I put my hand over my mouth(Job 40:4, NIV).
Friend to Friend
When I was young, I loved reading the story of the stately steed, Black Beauty. In my early teens, I enjoyed visiting my friend Cammie and riding horses on her parents' dairy farm. We often clicked our heels and raced through the fields with reckless abandonment.
A horse is a powerful animal, yet with the tug of the reins or the tap of a heel, he will submit to his master's bidding. On the other hand, a wild stallion that has not been brought under control of a master is of very little use.
In the Bible we are instructed to have a spirit of gentleness which tempers the words we speak (Galatians 5:23). The Greek word for "gentleness" is prautes, and suggests a wild horse that has been tamed. Unfortunately, in our modern society, the word "gentleness" is often associated with weakness. However, the Greek word means anything but weak.
Picture a muscular steed, proudly holding his head high, poised to move with speed and power, nostrils flaring, but at the same time, under his master's control. It is the picture of a warhorse under the control of its master. That is a true picture of prautes—gentleness.
The same word, prautes, is translated "meek" in the King James Version. When Jesus said He was "meek and lowly in heart" (Matthew 11:29), He was saying He was submitted to God—mightily powerful but under God's control. Only when we submit our tongues to God will we have the ability to use our words for good. Meekness isn't weakness; it's power under control. It is taming and training our tongues to be under the submission and control of the Holy Spirit.
Let me give you an example. Oh, I hate to admit this, but I fear many sisters will relate—the dents in my armor attest to it.
Before I became a Christian, I was very "gifted" with a quick sarcastic wit. Have you ever been in an argument and two hours later thought of a great comeback or slam remark? Not me. I could think of them on the spot. I was good—so good. Why, I could have opened up a side business feeding disgruntled wives, employees, and friends quick comebacks through earphones during confrontations.
However, after I accepted Christ as my Savior, it didn't take the Holy Spirit long to convict me that my tongue was not glorifying God. Sure, it brought some laughs, but Jesus wasn't smiling. So I began the arduous task of taming the tongue.
I memorized Job 40:4, "I put my hand over my mouth" and bit my tongue. It was hard letting all those good sarcastic comments go to waste, but I knew they were only fit for the garbage heap.
That was over thirty years ago. On many occasions, when someone is telling me about a confrontation with a family member or a co-worker, those quick-witted remarks still pop up in my mind like a cue card on the stage. When a store clerk offers a snide remark, I can usually think of one snider. So where's the victory? The victory comes when I choose not to let the words out of my mouth. When I lasso the words before they have a chance to run out of the gate. When I offer blessings rather than cursing. When I put on the humility of Christ and take the comments without the retaliation. That, my friend, is choosing to walk in the Spirit instead of choosing to walk in the flesh.
It can only happen by the power of the Holy Spirit, and it becomes easier with practice.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I pray that the fruit of the Spirit will grow in my life today. I pray that the evidence of that fruit in my life will be in the words I speak to others. Help my fruit to be sweet today. Show me where I need to clip off unproductive branches that hinder healthy growth.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read Luke 6:29. How do you think this relates to refusing to retaliate hurtful words with hurtful words?
Read Romans 12:20. How do you think this relates to refusing to retaliate hurtful words for hurtful words?
OK, girlfriend, I was honest with you today. Are you willing to be honest with someone about an area that you need to change? Accountability is a powerful tool for change. If there is an area in your life that God has convicted you needs to change, tell a girlfriend and ask her to hold you accountable. Ask her to pray with you about the desired to change and invite her to ask you about your progress. That's what girlfriends in God are for!
As you go through the day, be aware of any snarly comment that comes to mind. Then pat yourself on the back when you don't say it...because you're not going to...right?
If you refrained, even once today, let's celebrate! Click of to my Facebook page and leave a comment that says, "I held my tongue today!"
More from the Girlfriends
You have a powerful force, right under your nose. To learn more about how to use your words wisely and control your tongue, see my nook, The Power of a Woman's Words. One way you can use your words well is to pray for your husband. Come visit us over at The Praying Wives Club and pray for your man.
On September 8, 2014, I'll begin my on-line fall Bible Study on The Power of a Woman's Words. I have the book and Bible study guide specially priced for the months of August and September. Those who sign up will receive access to free video lessons and a free video viewing guide. Click here to view a sample video lesson. This is perfect for church groups, small groups, or individual study. Click here to sign up and learn more. We're going to learn about the power we possess, the people we impact, and the potential to change. Hope to see you there!
:angel:
August 21, 2014
Whose Voice Do You Hear?
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me (John 10:27, NIV).
Friend to Friend
Dan and I had been married one year when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas, so Dan could attend seminary. I desperately wanted a teaching job, but none was available. Instead I was hired as a secretary in an insurance office. It was definitely not my idea of a dream job, but I had a plan. Every day, on my lunch hour, I call the school district's personnel office to ask, "Do you have a job or me yet?" After several weeks, a frustrated voice finally responded with the words I had been longing to hear. "Mary, will you teach anything anywhere?" she asked. Finally! I jumped at the job offer and made an appointment to visit my new classroom that afternoon. The principal escorted me up a flight of stairs, pointed to a door, and said, "That's your classroom. Good luck!" With a knowing smile, he turned and walked away...quickly.
Stepping into the classroom, I froze at the astonishing sight before me. Some children were jumping on desks while others crawled under tables, all screaming and yelling at the top of their lungs. Paper and food littered the floor. In the corner sat an obviously frazzled substitute teacher, who was desperately trying to gain control of her students...uh, make that my students. The classroom was in total chaos. My first thought was, "What have I gotten myself into?" The next few weeks certainly answered that question.
Each classroom was arranged in learning centers instead of desks. The students moved from center to center as they completed assignments, a plan that naturally invited noise. I learned that because of overcrowding, each teacher had been asked to select two children to form a new classroom...my classroom...and of course, each teacher had chosen his or her two most difficult students.
The first few weeks were a nightmarish battle for control. After losing my voice twice, my sister, Betty, a veteran first grade teacher, gave me some great advice. "The louder you are, the louder the children will be. If you want to get their attention, speak softly so they will have to be quiet in order to hear your voice." I put her advice into action the very next day. As the children entered the classroom, I greeted each one with a silent smile. In my hands was a brightly wrapped box. Curious, they asked, "What is that, Mrs. Southerland?" I merely smiled and said nothing until every student was quietly seated. "I have a new plan," I began. "Sometime during the day, I will call your name once. If you hear my voice, you may choose one prize from our new prize box. If you don't hear my voice, you will miss the opportunity to select a prize and I will call another student's name." It worked like a charm! In a matter of days, my students learned to listen for my voice above all others.
Stress comes when we allow the many voices in life to drown out the only voice that really matters, the voice of God. We can't obey every voice we hear. If we try, we will end up in total failure, carrying a heavy load we were never created to carry. Obedience to God is not a heavy load because we don't have to carry it alone. God's strength and power bear the burden of our obedience to Him. The more time we spend in God's Word and in prayer, the easier it will be to recognize His voice.
Let's Pray
Father, I come to You today, wanting and needing to hear Your voice. I am drowning in the expectations of others and am so confused about the next step I need to take. Please give me Your direction and the strength to follow Your plan for my life.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read John 10:4 (NLT) "After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they recognize his voice." Notice that the shepherd walks ahead of his sheep, gently calling them to follow. What change do you need to make in your life so that you can look for God's hand at work and listen for His voice alone?
By faith, accept the truth that God is always at work in your life and thank Him for His steadfast provision. Look back over the last few days, weeks and months of your life. Now praise Him for the things He has done. Identify the "voices" that you tend to listen to instead of listening for the voice of God.
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August 28, 2014
Confrontation vs. Combat
Mary Southerland
Today's Truth
Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6)
Friend to Friend
Dan and I just celebrated 38 years of marriage. And every single day has been filled with peace, marital bliss, peace ... and I need to stop right there before a bolt of lightning strikes me dead! Dan and I have a great marriage – most of the time. Honestly, there have been days when I have thought about getting in the car and driving away. I am sure there have been more days when Dan has thought the same thing. We have weathered some severe storms in our marriage, and it is only by the grace of God that we still love and respect each other after 38 years. We are best friends – flawed and frail humans who say and do stupid, hurtful things. But we work hard at our marriage and let me tell you one thing – a good marriage requires hard work. We are committed to each other and to making the rest of our marriage the best part of our marriage. It didn't start off that way.
Before Dan and I were married, I noticed several rough edges that needed to be sanded away and felt like I was just the one who could do it. After all, that's what wives are for, right?
I decided to lay low for a few months, lulling Dan into a false sense of security and giving him a chance to make the changes on his own before I stepped in with my well-thought-out plan for his life. The only problem was that my plan did not line up with his plan. Furthermore, he seemed oblivious to the character flaws that were blatantly obvious to me.
After a few months of marital bliss during which I was fine-tuning my "Fix Dan Plan," a seed of discontent took root and began to grow in my heart and in our marriage.
The strength I had once so admired in Dan now looked a whole lot like stubbornness.
Dan's ability to take a complicated issue, dissect it, and boil it down to a three-step-plan now seemed patronizing and at times - meddlesome.
What I had once embraced as his devotion to me now seemed like his need to be in control of me.
I could go on – but you get the picture.
It was obviously time for the execution of my sure-to-succeed plan of transforming my husband into the man that God and I thought he should be. Looking back, my arrogance and ignorance are laughable, but at the time, they were just plain wrong and yielded painful and disastrous results.
I will never forget the afternoon Dan gently confronted me in love and with amazing patience. I don't remember much of the conversation, but I do remember the words that broke my heart and saved our marriage, "Honey, I'm not sure what is going on between us. But I do know that I want to love you like you need to be loved."
Boom!
And there you have the recipe for a successful marriage – confrontation wrapped in love for the purpose of restoration. It is also the formula for cultivating peace and unity in every relationship.
Healthy confrontation is especially important when dealing with those difficult people who rub you the wrong way – the Sandpaper People in in your life.
Sandpaper people love a good fight and often mistake combat for confrontation. The two are not the same thing. Combat slowly corrodes and splinters while confrontation is an art that, when done correctly, improves and strengthens relationships.
To confront someone is to meet them head-on in the quest for compromise. Our heart motive must be love and restoration – not getting even and winning. Confrontation is an emotional tackle for the purpose of resolving conflict while promoting peace. Just as God separates us from our sin, He calls us to do the same with sandpaper people.
Most people I know hate confrontation and will do anything to avoid it. That is not all bad. In fact, if you love confrontation and drama, you are probably confronting for the wrong reason. On the other hand, if you refuse to confront, you are giving the impression that you are content with the status quo.
Silence is agreement.
Confrontation is a spiritual surgery that tends to be painful. But without it, the cancer of contention and discord will remain unfettered, free to grow and spread its deadly relationship poison. Confrontation is a gift we bring to every healthy relationship as well as the unhealthy relationships with which we struggle.
As fully devoted followers of Christ, it is our responsibility to bring confrontation into the picture when dealing with sandpaper people. There is a right way and a wrong way to confront. Confrontation is not combat. The success of any confrontation depends upon understanding the difference between the two.
Let's Pray
Father, please teach me how to nurture the relationships in my life through healthy confrontation. I want every relationship to honor and please You. Teach me how to love like You love. Help me learn how to confront with a pure heart and the right motives.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.
Now It's Your Turn
Read and memorize Proverbs 27:6 that says, Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6). What does this verse mean to you in the context of healthy confrontation?
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August 29, 2014
A Soul Poured Out
Gwen Smith
Today's Truth
I am a woman who is deeply troubled...I was pouring out my soul to the LORD (1 Samuel 1:15, NIV).
Friend to Friend
The Old Testament book of Samuel introduces us to Hannah: a godly woman who had some serious problems. Her problems weren't brief and they weren't simple. They were year after year problems. Challenges that made her feel empty and frustrated. Have you got a few of those in your life? Sure you do. We all do. Each of us goes through trials and face pain.
Hannah experienced infertility and she also had a disturbing rival-wife problem that was miserably complicated. Yes, cringe with me, I said rival-wife. She was one of two wives to her husband...a cultural norm at the time...but terribly difficult no matter how you slice it. (Read 1 Samuel 1-2 for the full story of Hannah.) Refreshingly enough, in her pain Hannah didn't pretend to be okay. She openly admitted, "I am a woman who is deeply troubled" (1 Samuel 1:15).
There are many lessons we can learn from Hannah, but today I'd like us to look at her response to the problems that burdened her heart. Hanna took her problems to God. She cried out to the Lord. "In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the LORD." (1 Samuel 1:10). She took her burdens directly to God.
Now, I don't know about you, but all too many times I go to the phone before I go to the throne! Who do you cry to when you are deeply troubled? Do you pour out your soul to the LORD, or just pepper Him with vague prayer requests? Hannah didn't just briefly bend a knee here, she poured out her soul! She poured out her sorrow, her disappointments, her frustrations, her depression, her confusion, her anger, her embarrassments, her anguish and her grief.
She poured out her emptiness!
And guess what happened? God filled her with the fullness of His peace! Before she spent time with the Lord, Hannah had lost her appetite and was filled with despair. After she poured out her soul to God, the Bible shows us that her appetite returned and her countenance had changed. "Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast" (1 Samuel 1:18, emphasis mine). Hannah was "no longer downcast" because she experienced the One and Only life-changing God in the chamber of His presence.
God is faithful. He longs to fill our souls with peace regardless of the circumstances we face. Hannah was changed in the presence of the almighty LORD, but realize this: Hannah didn't just do a "drive thru" prayer time with God. She parked there for a while and did some serious business with Him.
Have you done any serious business with God lately?
Got any problems?
Are you dealing with any difficult people?
Are you faced with any seemingly impossible situations?
"Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens" (Psalm 68:19). When you get serious with God...when you get real honest and pour out your soul to Him, He will faithfully replace your empty with the fullness of His peace, whether he removes your burdens or allows them to remain.
Don't doubt it for a minute, friend.
Jesus himself said, "All things are possible with God" (Mark 10:27). Let's each take courage and approach God with confidence today, knowing that He loves us and is able to do exceedingly and abundantly beyond what we can ask for or imagine. Spend some time pouring out your soul to Him right now.
Let's Pray
Heavenly Father, I come to You today and humbly ask Your forgiveness for all of the times that I've taken my burdens to others instead of bringing them to You. Help me to turn to You first when problems come my way. Please blanket my heart with your peace and give me strength for today.
In Jesus' name,
Amen.