Girlfriends in God

[Judy Harder]

September 5, 2013
I Feel Your Pain
Mary Southerland

Today's Truth

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV).

Friend to Friend

It was Easter Sunday, and I was sitting in the sanctuary waiting for the worship service to begin. Anticipating a large crowd, I arrived early to drop Jered off in the nursery, one of his favorite places to go since every nursery worker doted on him. As the choir filed in, a friend slipped into the pew beside me and said, "I think you need to go to the nursery. Something is wrong with Jered." Jumping up, I leapt over legs, toes, and pews as I raced to the church nursery and my son.

I was not prepared for what I saw. In a far corner, lying on his favorite red mat was Jered, staring at the ceiling, silent and rigid. As I bent over him, searching those beautiful blue eyes, huge tears slid down his chubby cheeks as he flew into my arms, sobbing. You have to understand – as a baby, Jered cried only when he was hungry, wet, or sick. He always seemed to be smiling, happy, and contented. Something was obviously very wrong.

I kissed Jered's forehead. No fever. I checked his diaper. Dry and clean. The snack box I had packed for him earlier that morning was empty. I had no idea what had broken our son's heart, but I certainly intended to find out.

Just then, Mrs. Giles, Jered's favorite nursery worker, drew me aside and said, "Let me tell you what happened. We had a new little girl in the nursery today. It was her first time in a church nursery – ever. When her parents left, she immediately began screaming and wouldn't stop. Jered came running and wrapped his arms around her, but she pushed him away. He then brought her his bottle, but she hurled it across the room and continued screaming. Desperate to help her, Jered then found his diaper bag and fished out Turtle.

Turtle was a small, green-and-blue stuffed turtle we had given Jered during a stay in the hospital when he was seriously ill with the croup. From the moment Jered saw Turtle, he took it everywhere he went. He slept with Turtle clutched tightly in one hand, ate with Turtle sitting in his lap or on the table beside his plate, and carefully tucked Turtle in his diaper bag whenever we left the house. Turtle was his most precious possession and became an invaluable source of comfort to him.

Mrs. Giles continued, "I couldn't believe Jered was willing to give Turtle to a stranger, but he tried." The crying child took one look at Turtle and threw it in Jered's face. Stunned, he picked up Turtle, brushed it off, and lay down on the mat, refusing to move, the stuffed animal clutched tightly in his arms. Then I knew. I knew Jered couldn't stand to see the little girl in pain and was determined to help. When he couldn't, he retreated, waiting for someone else to help. That's compassion.

Compassion is not just sympathy. It is empathy. When it comes to dealing with difficult people, we mistakenly equate compassion with "fixing" them. Genuine compassion is first able to feel their pain. I believe one of the reasons we encounter and are commanded to deal with sandpaper people is because the more pain we experience, the more compassionate we will be.

We must learn to use our pain in the right way, not lashing out, but looking within to share the pain of others. There is a choice in every pain, an opportunity in every trial. Pain makes us focus inward or outward. It makes us martyrs or merciful. The choice is ours.

I have a love-hate relationship with the Good Samaritan in the Bible. The Samaritan chose to use his pain and help an injured man. He understood the man's pain because of the pain in his own life. The Jews hated all Samaritans. The man lying on the road was a Jew. There was no logical reason for this Samaritan to rearrange his plans and spend his money to help this "enemy" or "sandpaper person" in need. But compassion doesn't look for reasons or search out limitations. It searches for opportunity.

The Samaritan had a choice, just as we have a choice every time we are confronted with a need. We must adjust our thinking to understand that sandpaper people are needy people. We can either ignore the need, or we can meet the need by giving away part of the comfort God has given us when we have been in pain.

Galatians 6:2 (NLT) "Share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ."

If we can't prevent pain, we can at least lighten the load with compassion. Alan Redpath wrote, "You can never lighten the load unless you have first felt the pressure in your own soul." Compassion makes us willing to feel the pain of others, responding as if it were our own.

Let's Pray

Father, forgive me when I respond in anger to the difficult people in my life. I really want Your love to flow through me to each sandpaper person with whom I come in contact. Give me Your heart of compassion to feel their pain and then teach me how to look for ways to help ease that pain. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Read the story of the Good Samaritan found in Luke 10:31-37. How can you apply the same truths in your life that the Samaritan applied when taking care of the wounded man?

Wherever today finds you, look around for someone in need – someone who needs a touch of compassion. Are you willing to let God use you to be "God with skin on" to that person?

More from the Girlfriends

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[Judy Harder]

September 6, 2013
Giving and Gaining
Gwen Smith


Today's Truth
"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." (Proverbs 11:25, NIV)

Friend to Friend
I pretty much consider myself to have a black thumb. Charcoal, even. I like plants and genuinely try to keep plants healthy and thriving in my home, but fail at it a lot more than I succeed. Seriously. Black thumb. So when my girlfriend brought me a baby aloe plant, my heart was torn between girlfriend-gratitude and feelings of sorrow for the innocent little aloe.

A few weeks after she gave me the plant gift, my friend told me a story. She confessed that she struggles to share things. It's just hard for her. She had two aloe plants for a long time but one day she felt a heart-nudge to give one of them to me. (Bless her heart! She obviously knows nothing of said black thumb!) Though she admittedly isn't naturally inclined to give her things away, she said that she decided in her heart that she would give me the small aloe baby.

For weeks she had meant to act on that heart-nudge and give me the aloe plant, but just never got around to it. She kept forgetting. She'd think about bringing me the aloe plant when she wasn't home or remember late at night when it was too late to run it by my house. In the back of her mind she thought that one of her plants would surely have an aloe baby offspring ... reasoning that she could just give me that one instead of one of her two plants.

Finally, she remembered. She brought me the cute little healing plant and gave it to me with a smile. Yay! We threw down a happy plant-dance that morning as we shared both a cup of coffee and our hearts in friendship.

So as we sat at my kitchen table again, coffee mugs in hands, she finished her story by excitedly saying, "The most amazing thing happened this week, Gwen! When I walked past the aloe plant that I'd kept for myself, I noticed that a baby aloe plant had sprung up in the pot! It was almost like a little present from God reminding me that I can't out-give Him. That when I trust Him and obey His nudges, He will bless me right back."

I nodded and smiled. She's so right. In the Bible God calls us to be generous, and He promises to bless us when we are. God's Word has a lot to say about the tandem between generous giving and blessings.

"Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice" (Psalm 112:5, NIV, emphasis mine).

"A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed" (Proverbs 11:25, NIV, emphasis mine).

"A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor" (Proverbs 22:9, NIV, emphasis mine).

"Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work" (2 Corinthians 9:6-8, NIV).

"Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life" (1 Timothy 6:17-19, NIV).

God clearly calls His children to generous living ... no matter what we have, who we are, or where we live. Even the poorest among us are called to live generously. And let's not confuse the matter: it's not about our bank accounts – it's about our hearts. We are to be generous, willing to share, and rich in good deeds for the glory of God. The Scriptural promise we can stand on is this: blessings will follow our generosity. When we give freely in obedience to Christ and live open-handed with all that we've been entrusted with, we reap beautiful life benefits.

Where does this promise and prompting find you today? Have you been nudged lately to be generous? Do you struggle to share things, both tangible and intangible? Is God calling you to serve Him somewhere with your time, treasures, or talents? Maybe the thing you need to give is forgiveness to someone or to yourself – or encouragement – or kindness. Got a family member, neighbor, or friend in need? Do something!

Generous living will look different to each of us, but we are all called to give as we live. I was blessed when my friend gave me that baby aloe plant. She was blessed too. God made sure of it. He always does. Friend, consider this truth and ask the Lord to move you missionally and to direct your giving. Today and every day live to give for the glory of God. Good will come of it. He promises ... and that's a promise you can take to the bank!

Let's Pray
Dear Lord, You are perfectly generous. I am blessed by the abundance of Your grace, mercy, love and truth. Help me to live generously and to give open-handedly just as you have with me.

In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.

Now it's Your Turn

What came to your mind as you read this devotion? What are you going to do about it? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page today and share your heart and let's take the conversation deeper. I will be posting a fun aloe picture! Don't miss it.

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[Judy Harder]

September 9, 2013
You are a Reflection of God's Glory
Sharon Jaynes

Today's Truth

Bring my sons from afar and my daughters from the ends of the earth - everyone who is called by my name whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made, (Isaiah 43:6-7 NIV).

Friend to Friend

Have you ever wondered why you were created? You were created for God's glory and to glorify God (Isaiah 43:7), because it pleased Him to do so (Ephesians 1:5). The concept of glory can be a difficult concept to wrap our human minds around. It seems so otherworldly. We can catch glimpses of its meaning throughout Scripture, but then like a shooting star that appears for a just a moment, it quickly slips away into the vast expanse of God's infinite wisdom. But let's see what we can know about this bigger-than-life word.

In the Old Testament, the most common Hebrew word for glory is kabod meaning "weight, honor, esteem." The Bible associates God's glory with how He manifests Himself or makes His presence known. Some theologians refer to these as theophanies. He made His presence known in a devouring fire (Exodus 24:16-17), a moving cloud (Exodus 13:21) and a still small voice (Exodus 33:18). His glory is reflected in creation (Psalm 19:1) and in His sovereign control of history (Psalm 135:10-12). His glory is made known through the life of simple human beings like you and me.

The same concept of God's glory is in the New Testament in the Greek word doxa, which meansglory, honor, and splendor.John wrote, "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only who came from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14). After Jesus' first miracle, turning the water into wine, John wrote: "This, the first of his miraculous signs, Jesus performed at Cana in Galilee. He thus revealed his glory, and his disciples put their faith in him" (John 2:11). In Hebrews 1:3, the writer reveals this about Jesus: "The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word."

The verb form of glory, to glorify, is doxazo, and primarily denotes "to magnify, extol, praise, to ascribe honor to God, acknowledging Him as to His being, attributes, and acts, i.e., His glory. It is the revelation and manifestation of all that He has and is. When we glorify God, we are giving a display or manifestation—or a reflection—of His character. To magnify God is to make Him easy to see. Jesus said that the disciples would glorify God when they bore fruit (John 15:. Through their actions, they would point others to God and make Him easy to see.

God's glory is how He makes Himself known. It is almost incomprehensible to think that He would choose mere human beings to accomplish such a task. But as Scripture tells us, we were created in His image (Genesis 1:26) and as a display of His glory (Isaiah 43:7). You were created to make God recognizable to others—to show others what God is like. He makes Himself recognizable to us and through us. The glory of any created thing is seen when it is fully fulfilling the purpose for which it was created...and that includes you and me.

Glory. It's a big word—a weighty word.

Today, look for ways that God makes Himself known to you and through you.

Let's Pray

Lord, I pray that I will glorify You today.  I pray that my actions and words will make You easier to see. I pray that You will open my eyes to see Your glory as I live and move and have my being in You today. In Jesus's Name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Look up all the verses mentioned in today's devotion and write down what you learn about the word glory.

If someone were to ask you to define "glory," what would say?

What are some ways that you can glorify God today? Let's share our answers at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.

More from the Girlfriends

One way that we glorify God is in the words we speak. If you would like to learn more about how to control your tongue and use your words to speak life to those around you, then check out Sharon's book, The Power of a Woman's Words. On her website you can watch a video and download a free chapter of this life-changing book. It also has a Bible study guide and DVD for group or individual study. Today's devotion was taken from my book, A Sudden Glory: God's Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More.You can check that out on my website as well.

[Judy Harder]

September 10, 2013
Passing the Test
Mary Southerland

Today's Truth

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds,because you know that the testing of your faithproduces perseverance.Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be matureand complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4, NIV).

Friend to Friend

Mark really struggled with spelling. Staring at his spelling test, his heart sank. So many of the words seemed difficult, and he wasn't really sure how to spell most of them. Softly the enemy whispered, "Look at Jane's paper; she's an honor student and always gets them right!"

Mark hesitated, but desperate to make a good grade, he finally gave in to the tempter's suggestion and copied several answers from Jane's paper.

The teacher noticed Mark's actions and was really surprised because she had always thought of him as an honest boy. When it came time to collect the completed work, she saw Mark's inner struggle reflected on his face of anguish. Finally, Mark bowed his head for a moment and then suddenly ripped his test paper into pieces and sat back in his chair with a sigh. Even though he had first given in to the temptation to cheat, he finally decided to take a zero on the test rather than be dishonest.

Calling Mark to her desk, the teacher said, "Mark, I was watching you, and I want you to know that I am very proud of you for what you did just now. Today, you passed a much more important test than a spelling test."

As followers of Christ, we sometimes focus on developing and presenting the right image while neglecting the spiritual discipline of integrity. Our public lives are only as authentic as our private lives. Image is who and what people think we are while integrity is who and what we really are. Billy Graham once said, "Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact. When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. When character is lost, all is lost."

I have often heard it said that integrity is what you do when no one is watching and that character is best illustrated by how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing for you. Integrity is a heart issue and a spiritual habit that decides beforehand to do the right thing. Character counts. Integrity matters to God.

Matthew 5:8 (NIV) "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."

1 Chronicles 28:9b "For the Lord searches every heart, and understands every desire and every thought."

The word for "pure" means "ready for sacrifice." In other words, the decisions and choices we make should be living sacrifices that are holy and acceptable to God as acts of worship. To have integrity means to live an integrated life. That integration occurs when what we believe, what we think, what we say, and what we do are all consistent. In reality, image really is nothing without integrity and character to back it up.

Let's Pray

Father, I come to You right now, asking You to examine my heart and show me every impurity hidden there. Search my desires and thoughts and show me the disobedience that breaks your heart and hinders my walk with You. I want to please You with every choice and decision I make, Lord. Forgive me for the hypocrisy in my life. I lay down my pride and my agenda and choose instead to seek and follow You. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Memorize Psalm 51:10 that says, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." As this verse becomes the consistent prayer of your heart, each choice and decision you make will begin to line up with God's will. He will be honored, and you will experience a new power and purpose in your life. Continually ask yourself, "Will my choice make God smile?"

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[Judy Harder]

September 11, 2013
God, What do You Want From Me?
Sharon Jaynes

Today's Truth

Cease striving and know that I am God, (Psalm 46:10 NASB).

Friend to Friend

Could it be that we have made our relationship with God far too difficult? We strive so hard to draw closer to the heart of God. And all the while, God's outstretched hand is reaching to draw us in. Psalm 46:10 reads, "cease striving and know that I am God" (NASB).

Cease striving.

For over a half of a century, I had been striving, pursuing, and seeking God. And like a cat chasing her tail, I had been going in circles. Circling in the wilderness with the Israelites, if you will. Saved from slavery, for sure. Headed to my own personal Promised Land, hopefully. But somehow stuck in the Wilderness wandering ever circling but not quite reaching Jordan's shore.

And I am not alone. Statistics show that one of the top desires of Christians is to grow closer to God. During a recent poll, sixty-five percent said they were declining or on a plateau in their spiritual growth. On the other hand, Peter wrote: "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness" (2 Peter 1:3). We have everything we need to experience the ever growing, continually maturing, abundant life; so why aren't we? Why are most of us languishing on the desert plateaus of mediocrity and complacency? Why are most of us satisfied munching on the predigested truths of teachers rather than pulling up to the banquet table and feasting with God at a table set for two?

"God, what do you really want from me?"

I've pondered that question since the genesis of my relationship with Christ. Perhaps you have too. When you boil down all the water from the diluted soup of questions men and women have simmered in their heart through the centuries, this is the one question left in the pot. And somehow, we feel that if we could answer that one question, we would discover why that glory ache persists and how to satisfy our yearning.

I had asked the question a thousand times, but one frosty January morning, I got quiet enough to listen. And then, in the stillness, He showed me that I and my busy sisters have been asking the wrong question.

Rather than ask God what He wants from us, we need to ask Him what He wants for us.

I meditated on Acts 17:28 throughout the following year after the day God whetted my appetite with the possibilities wrapped up in those eight little words. I came to realize that what He wants for us is to sense His presence, experience His love, and delight in intimate relationship as we live and move and have our being in sacred union with Him. And when we do, He opens our eyes to His glory all around and the ache for something more is soothed.

Let's Pray

God, what do you want for me today? Open my eyes to see and ears to hear. Show me glimpses of Your presence as I live and move and have my being in you. And help me not to miss it! In Jesus's Name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Have you ever asked God what He wantsfrom you?

Have you ever asked God what He wants for you?

Now, I want you to do just that. Ask God what He wants for you and then pay attention.

At day's end, tell me what you learned. What did He show you? Let's chat at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.

More from the Girlfriends

Do you need a tune-up when it comes to tuning-in to God? Do you want to know how to hear that still small voice? If so, check out Sharon's book, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God and sharpen your spiritual listening skills! And don't forget to check out our new Girlfriends in God devotion book, Knowing God by Name.

[Judy Harder]

September 12, 2013
The Lesson of the Missing "B"
Mary Southerland

Today's Truth

So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another (Romans 12:5).

Friend to Friend

Sometimes it is the little things that really get to me. As a writer, I spend a great deal of my time in front of a computer – with which I have a love-hate relationship. I love the convenience a computer offers when it comes to recording the thoughts and truths God gives me to share, but there are times when I would like to throw my laptop into the nearest body of water and be done with it. I can remember the days when I literally wrote out every word of a lesson or devotion because I was terrified of even trying to use a computer. I am anything but a technical guru and could see hundreds – no, make that thousands of hours of work disappearing into some hidden file, going up in virtual flames or being launched into cyberspace, never to be seen again. Why? Just because I hit one wrong key or pressed an incorrect button. However, the day finally came when I realized that the good reasons for using a computer outweigh the bad and decided it was time to take the plunge.

Through trial and error, and the patience of friends who have repeatedly rescued me from more than one cyber disaster, I have evolved into a fairly capable computer operator. I have retrieved lost chapters and lessons, eradicated various viruses, erected firewalls, foiled hackers ... and have come through the fray relatively unscathed.

And then it happened.

I was returning home from a speaking event and decided to use the three-hour flight time to work on a writing assignment due the next day. It was one of those unusually sweet and highly productive times when the words come easily and eventually form sentences that actually make sense. I was on a roll – and so was my laptop when the plane suddenly hit an air pocket and dropped what seemed like a mile. I watched in horror as my laptop caught air, crashed to the floor of the plane and slid under the seat in front of me. Fortunately, I had saved my work and desperately hoped the laptop had not been damaged in its fall. When the plane and everyone on board regained their composure, I quickly retrieved the computer and breathed a sigh of relief after a quick inspection that revealed a couple of new, but minor, scratches. 

I opened the computer, ready to resume my work. But then I saw it, the now empty space where the "B" key was supposed to be. Evidently, it had popped off in the fall and was nowhere to be found. I wasn't too concerned. I mean, after all, how important is one little key? There are plenty of other keys from which to choose. They all look pretty much the same. A missing letter or symbol here or there can't be that much of a problem, can it?

As I began my work, I soon discovered just how much of a problem one little missing computer key could be. All of a sudden, it seemed like every other word I needed contained a "B." My frustration level rose as my finger instinctively kept hitting the spot where the "B" was supposed to be and found ... nothing. Finally, I decided I really needed that key and went looking for it. The passengers around me joined in the search, and it was only a few minutes before the person seated in front of me shouted, "Got it!" I snapped the missing "B" back into place. In a matter of minutes, I was amazed at how much better the whole keyboard seemed to function now that the lost key was back where it should be.

We all lose our way at one time or another. An unexpected life storm knocks us flat. A bad choice causes us to stumble and fall. We snap under the pressure of a difficult relationship, and no one seems to care or even notice the pain we feel. But then, like a Shepherd searching for that one lost sheep, God turns to us and hears our cry. He lifts us out of the darkness, gives us a safe place to stand and fills our heart with a new song of praise. And He uses people to do it all. In fact, God delights in using people to reach out and minister to other people who are wounded and lost. 

God created us to need each other. We are daughters of the King, sisters in Christ and Girlfriends in God. When one hurts, all of us should feel the pain. When one of us has fallen, we need to reach out, link arms and hold on until the storm has passed. Who needs your love and encouragement? Remember the lesson of the missing "B" and ask God to love others through you ... today. 

Let's Pray

Father, I know You want me to share the love I have found in You. Forgive me for the many times I have been too busy to see the needs around me. Break my heart for those who are in pain and feel hopeless. Encourage them through me, Lord. Fill my heart with Your love so that I can give it away. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Read Galatians 5:22-23  "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control."

Make a list of the attributes listed in Galatians 5:22-23. Beside each one, write the name of someone who needs you to live out that quality in his or her life. Here are a few examples to help you get started:

Love: Jane - my neighbor who is struggling with her teenage son

Joy: Sally - my friend who has just discovered she has breast cancer

Peace: Linda - my friend's sister who is going through a divorce

Make a specific plan for meeting each need. (I will take Jane to lunch.)

Put a time limit on it. (I will take Jane to lunch on Thursday.)

Record your experience in your journal.

More from the Girlfriends

Gwen, Sharon and I were recently able to get together for some long overdue girlfriend time. Yes, we had a total blast! But as we talked and shared, we all had the same burden – to tell you that God really does love you! We want you to know that we love you so much, but that God loves you more!

God's truth is for today. Every time we hear the Word of God, we are then responsible for applying its message. I wonder what would happen if we, as Girlfriends in God, put into action the truth we already know. I have a challenge for us all. This week, let's be "God with skin on" to the people who cross our path each day. That includes that nosy neighbor, irritating boss, difficult child ... as well as our best friend.

I would love to hear what God does through you this week because you were willing to step out in obedience. Email me at: mary@marysoutherland.com.

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[Judy Harder]

September 13, 2013
Take a Step Back
Gwen Smith


Today's Truth
I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes (Psalm 119:59).

Friend to Friend
I gave her instructions for the job. "Clear the furniture from the room, vacuum thoroughly, and then I will show you how to mop the wood floor." Once my daughter got through the first two of three steps, I joined the cleaning party to teach the age-old-mom-class, "Mopping 101." Awesome.

Class began with a few mopping fundamentals. "Shake the bottle of the polish before you use it. Do one small section at a time. Mop along the grain of the wood. Put some arm strength into it and always - always step back to see if you missed any spots." I gave a quick demonstration then Kennedy took the mop and got busy on her weekend wood-floor polishing project.

As I walked away, it hit me.

The lesson.

In order to see where the polish had been applied on the floor - in order to see if there were any mistakes or overlooked places - a mopper needs to step back and look at things from a different angle. From a fresh perspective.

To gain perspective in life, we often need to step back too: away from our emotions, our plans and our expectations - in order to consider the big picture. The God-picture.

It is so easy to get lost in the drama-filled challenges of life and become overwhelmed by our circumstances. Can I hear an Amen? I do this all the time! I get sucked into the drama of a moment and see only what my emotions allow me to see: a dim, slim and flesh-led view.

Let's be honest, we all have some level of drama, dreams and expectations. And that's not a bad thing. But if our emotions lead our responses, it can be difficult to see beyond our moments and mountains. When our hearts are consumed by the emotions of a moment, we can lose sight of what honors God and what really matters.

So what's a woman to do?

Step back. Pray. Ask God for vision and perspective. Consider His Word. Remember His power, provision and plan. Move beyond self-led reactions to Spirit-led responses. The late pastor and theologian A.W. Tozer wrote, "Sometimes when we get overwhelmed we forget how big God is."

Our perspectives change in God's presence. We gain clarity and peace when we adapt God's perspective instead of our own. His sight is pure, full of grace and eternal – while our sight is often imperfect, narrow and worried about the now. Proverbs 16:3 says, "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans."

David stepped back in awe of God's love. "When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?" (Psalm 8:3-4)

He reflected on his own ways verses God's ways. "I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways." (Psalm 119:15) "I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes." (Psalm 119:59)

Jesus also encourages us to step back from worries and fears. ""Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?" (Luke 12:24-26) When we consider the ways that God has provided in the past, it helps us to trust Him in the present.

Kennedy rocked the mop that day in our kitchen because she heeded my directions and consistently drew back to gain perspective on her polishing. Step back today and position yourself in His grace. Consider the big picture. Lay your day, your plans, your thankfulness, your people, your problems, your wins and your losses before God. Trust His ability to work in and through it all. Relish the perspective and peace that rises and then be prepared for those around you to be drawn to the able, faithful God who is at work within you.

Let's Pray
Dear Lord, I know I need to step away from my emotions, expectations and plans. I want Your perspective, Your dreams and Your responses to be mine. Cover me again with grace, order my steps and equip me fresh with Your Spirit. In Jesus's Name I pray, Amen.

Now it's Your Turn

Are you ready to step back? What will that look like for you? Click over to my blog or my Facebook page today and share your heart and let's take the conversation deeper.

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[Judy Harder]

September 16, 2013
Your Story is Not Over Yet
Sharon Jaynes

Several years ago, the epic drama, Gone with the Wind, was re-released in theaters all across America. This digitally enhanced, chromatically improved icon, took us back to a time in history when America was experiencing a paradigm shift. My husband and I thought it would be important for our teenage son, Steven, to have the Gone with the Wind experience on the big screen, so we purchased three tickets and settled in for what we knew would be a long evening.

After about two hours, we got to the scene where a sullied Miss Scarlet, deserted by Rhett, stood on a hilltop with Atlanta burning the background. She collapsed to the ground, and slowly pulled herself into an upright position. With fist held high, she declared that she would make it through this trial.

"As God is my witness," she proclaimed, "I will never be hungry again." Then the curtain fell. "That was a strange way to end," Steven sighed.

"Oh, but look," I replied pointing back to the stage.

The words "intermission" appeared on the vacant screen.

"You've got to be kidding," Steven said.

"Nope," I assured him, "we're only halfway done."

You know, I've identified with Miss Scarlett on several occasions. Sometimes life just gets so complicated. Dreams lay unfulfilled. Plans go up in flames. People walk away.  My man doesn't understand, and my friends run for cover. What will I do? Where will I go? Is this the end?

Then as the curtain falls, I think to myself, this is a strange way to end. But I look again and see God pointing to the story of my life as if to say, This, my child, is not the end, but an intermission. Get up. Take a break. Stretch if you must. But your story is not over yet.

Looking back in the Bible, there were many men and women who came to a point in their lives where they thought life was over, only later to discover it was merely an intermission. Elijah hid in a cave thinking his ministry was over; Moses herded sheep in the desert believing his dream to rescue the Hebrews was dashed; Jonah camped out under a shade plant and waited to die. Each of these men thought it was the end, but in reality, it was only an intermission. God wasn't finished with the story of their lives quite yet.

I don't know what you're facing today. Perhaps your life has taken you to an unexpected place. Perhaps, like Moses, you've made a poor decision that resulted in you running from God and from man. Perhaps like Elijah, you've allowed someone's threats to put fear in your heart, and you're in hiding.  Perhaps like Jonah, you've obeyed God, but feel duped because your obedience didn't bring the results you'd hoped for. With your dreams burning in the background, perhaps you've stood on the hillside with fist raised in the air making declarations to God.

If you see yourself on the screen, can I encourage you sit down, take a deep breath, stretch, and regroup? The story's not over yet. Perhaps you're just at an intermission. As someone once said, we shouldn't put a period where God put a comma.

My husband, son, and I finally finished watching Gone with the Wind. I don't think it ended the way Miss Scarlet would have liked. But I'll just think about that tomorrow...

If you have been feeling like perhaps your life is taking an intermission, join me in the following prayer. Then click over to my Facebook page and say, I'm pressing on!

Let's Pray

Dear Lord, sometimes I feel like there is no hope, like the story of my life is running amuck on the sandbar of disappointment. Thank you, Lord, that you never see a situation as hopeless...that what you have begun in me will be completed. Lord, when I make a poor decision, help me to repent and go on with life; when I want to go into hiding, help me to have the courage to come back out of the cave of despair; when I am disappointed, help me to look to You alone, the author and finisher of life. Help me to obey You, no matter what the cost. In Jesus's Name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

What would have happened if Joshua got tired of walking around Jericho on day six and stopped?

Is there something in your life you've given up on?

Has God stirred you to pick up the cause and continue on?

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[Judy Harder]

September 17, 2013
The Living Bible
Mary Southerland

Today's Truth

Knowledge puffs you up with pride, but love builds up (1 Corinthians 8:1b, NIV).

Friend to Friend 

His name was Bill, a college-student with wild hair who wore a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans, and no shoes for his entire four years of college. Bill was brilliant and what some might describe as quirky. While attending college, Bill became a Christian and began looking for a church to attend.

Across the street from the campus was a very conservative church that wanted to reach the college students, but was not sure how to go about it. 

One Sunday, Bill decided to visit the church and walked in, dressed in his usual college attire. Since the service had already started, Bill walked down the center aisle, looking for a seat. The church was packed, and he couldn't find an empty spot. By now, the well-dressed people are staring uncomfortably at the barefoot young man in his tattered T-shirt and jeans, but no one said a word. As Bill got closer to the pulpit, he realized that there were simply no seats, so he just squatted down on the carpet – a practice perfectly acceptable at college Bible studies, but one that had probably never happened at this particular church. 

The people began to whisper and the air was thick with tension. As the pastor wondered what to do, he noticed a deacon slowly making his way from the back of the church toward Bill. The deacon was in his eighties, had beautifully combed silver-gray hair and was wearing a three-piece suit. He was a godly man, very elegant, and very dignified. He walked with a cane. As he started walking toward the boy, everyone was thinking that no one could blame him for what he was about to do. After all, how could anyone expect a man of his age and background to understand the college kid now sitting on the floor?

It took a long time for the man to reach the boy, but the only sound that could be heard was the clicking of the man's cane. Every eye was focused on him and it seemed like everyone was holding their breath. The minister felt like there was no point in even trying to begin his sermon until the deacon completed his mission. Everyone simply waited.

When the elderly man reached the young college student, he dropped his cane on the floor and with great difficulty, lowered himself until he was sitting down next to Bill. The two men smiled at one another and then looked at the minister, ready to hear from God. When the pastor gained control of his emotions, he simply said, "What I'm about to preach, you will never remember. What you have just seen, you will never forget."

We need to be careful how we live. We may very well be the only Bible some people ever read.

Knowledge – for the sake of knowledge – is worthless and can easily lead to pride and arrogance. But knowledge for the sake of love is priceless. In other words, no one really cares how much you know until they know how much you really care.

Knowledge is powerful and should be used in love and love should always be controlled by knowledge. God gives us the ability to understand the Bible, and then wants us to use its truths to build each other up and meet the needs of others.

A preacher once said, "Some Christians grow. Others just swell." Arrogance and pride are the result of knowledge that is misused. Knowledge can be a weapon of destruction or a tool of construction. It all depends on how it is used. We can know doctrine and never know God. We can grow in Bible knowledge, but not grow in grace. We can attend church every time the doors are open but until we actually apply God's truth to the way we live, something is lost in the way we translate the Good News of Jesus Christ.

I heard the story of four Bible scholars who were arguing over the best translation of the Bible. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its beautiful, eloquent old English. Another said he preferred the American Standard Bible for its literalism and accurate translation from the original text. A third man preferred the newer translations because of their practical application. The fourth scholar listened thoughtfully, and then added, "Personally, I prefer my mother's translation." When the other men laughed, he explained, "My mother translates every page of the Bible into her daily life, and it is the most convincing translation I have ever seen."

I wonder. Do the people in my life better understand God because of the way I live? Is my life a living illustration of God's love? Is the "Mary Southerland Translation" of the Bible authentic and real and pleasing to God? Lord, help me be Your Living Bible.

Let's Pray
Father, I am amazed that You love me – no matter what I do or don't do. Lord, I want others to look at my life and see You. Teach me Your ways. Give me Your strength and wisdom to live each day as a beautiful translation of Your unconditional love and grace. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn
Pray for the people in your life and ask God to show you how to demonstrate His love in a tangible way to each one. Look for a need in each person's life and then make a plan to meet that need.

Read John 3:16. Remember and celebrate the unconditional love of God by reaching out to someone who might live outside your comfort zone. In your journal, record your experience and what you learned and gained from that experience.

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We should be more purposeful in sharing the love of God with people in need. The need may be financial or physical. Others just need a friend and a listening heart. Maybe a family member needs some of your time this week. I encourage you to be a living Bible to someone today.

Need help? Check out Mary's E-Book Bible Study, Come As You Are and celebrate the unconditional love and unending mercy and grace of God. 

Looking for a Bible Study? Check out Mary's weekly online Bible Study, Light for the Journey and learn how to discover and live out God's plan and purpose for your life. (Join now and have access to all topics covered in 2013.) Be sure to connect with Mary on Facebook or through email.

[Judy Harder]

September 18, 2013
Where Will You Be Spending Eternity?
Sharon Jaynes

Today's Truth
For God so loved the world, that Hegave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. (John3:16, NASB).

Friend to Friend
I was traveling to Canada to speak at a women's conference. As I approached the passport checker, I held out my little book like a seasoned traveler.

"Are you here for business or pleasure?" the guard asked.

"Well, I'm not sure what to call it.  I'm here for ministry. I'm speaking at a women's event and it is my pleasure to be here."

"Where are you going?"

"I'm not sure where the event is," I answered. "They have someone picking me up."

"Where are you staying?" she continued.

"You know, I have no idea," I answered with a smile.

"Excuse me ma'am. Will you please step aside and follow me?"

"Of course."

I followed what looked like a police officer and she led me to a little room. All of a sudden, a twinge of fear rose up in my throat and I realized I might not have answered her questions with the best answers. I was entering a foreign country and I couldn't tell them where I was going or where I was staying. I sat in the plastic chair and noticed a security camera in the corner.

In quick order, another man came in the room with an official-looking note pad. He asked me a battery of questions. I quickly learned that when those border patrol people ask you where you are going and where you are staying, you'd better have a ready answer. You do not want to be ushered into the little white room with the camera recording your every move.

Thankfully, they let me into the country and I spoke at the women's retreat. And I can assure you, every other time I've crossed the border, whether north, south, east or west, I've had a ready answer to the questions that I know will be coming my way.

That brings me to a couple of questions we're all going to have to answer one day. Do you know where you are going?  Do you know where you are staying? Not tomorrow or the next day, but for eternity? If you were to die today, do you know where you're headed? If you're not sure, click here to find out more about how to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the assurance of heaven as your final destination.

Let's Pray

Dear Jesus, thank You for giving Your life for me so that I can have eternal life in heaven. I know that I could never earn my salvation...that I could never be good enough. But You were good enough for me. Because of Your finished work on the cross, God has made a way for everyone to believe on You, confess your Name, and be saved. In Jesus's Name, Amen.

Now It's Your Turn

Picture yourself at the customs counter trying to get into heaven.

What about your passport would make the agent let you in?

Do you know where you're going when you leave this life?

Do you know where you're staying for all eternity?

If you know that you are going to heaven when you leave this place, click over to my Facebook page and say, "I'll see you there!"

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Once I became a Christian, I knew I was going to heaven, but I wasn't sure what I was supposed to do until I got there. I had no idea who I was as a child of God, and so I lived in continual defeat. It wasn't until I learned who I was and what I had as a child of God that I began living the victorious life. I want that for you! To learn more about how to live in victory because of who you are, what you have, and where you are in Christ, see my book, Becoming Spiritually Beautiful and get ready to put on your holy glow!

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